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Mary, a mother of four, shares her family's journey with her son's mental health challenges. Her son, who was adopted at birth, began exhibiting symptoms of bipolar disorder at a young age. Mary and her husband have navigated numerous challenges, including meltdowns, rages, and hospitalizations, while trying to provide a stable and loving environment for their son and other children. Highlights: Early Signs: Mary noticed her son's unusual behavior at 18 months old, which progressed to intense meltdowns and rages as he got older. Diagnosis and Treatment: After trying various therapies and medications, Mary's son was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He has been on lithium, which has helped stabilize his mood. Parenting Challenges: Mary and her husband have had to adapt their parenting style to meet their son's unique needs, including setting boundaries, providing structure, and seeking support from therapists and support groups. Impact on the Family: The family has faced numerous challenges, including feelings of isolation, anxiety, and trauma. However, they have also experienced moments of hope, love, and connection. Self-Care and Support: Mary emphasizes the importance of self-care, seeking support from friends, family, and therapists, and finding ways to manage stress and anxiety. Hope for the Future: Mary hopes that by sharing her family's story, she can help others who may be facing similar challenges. She also hopes to help her son develop coping skills and strategies to manage his mental health. Giving Back: Mary is pursuing a certification in mental health coaching and hopes to help other families navigate their own mental health journeys. Key Takeaways: Mental health challenges can affect anyone, regardless of age or background. Early intervention and diagnosis are crucial in managing mental health conditions. Parenting a child with mental health challenges requires adaptability, patience, and self-care. Seeking support from therapists, support groups, and loved ones is essential for navigating the journey. Hope and resilience can help families cope with the challenges of mental health conditions. Resources: The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene
Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., explains how to use Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) to decrease conflict and defiant behavior and enhance relationships. This special episode is a feature article from the Winter 2024 issue of ADDitude magazine. To listen to the full issue — and receive our Spring 2025 issue hot off the presses — subscribe now at additudemag.com/subscribe. ADHD and Explosive Behavior: More Resources 6 Truths About Child Behavior Problems That Unlock Better Behavior Why Is My Child So Angry?! What Are the Lagging Skills Holding Your Child Back? Self-Test: Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) in Children
Chapter 1:Summary of The Explosive Child"The Explosive Child" by Ross W. Greene offers insights into understanding and managing children who exhibit severe behavioral challenges, often referred to as "explosive" behaviors. Greene proposes a model that emphasizes empathy and collaboration rather than traditional punitive approaches. The book introduces the concept of "Collaborative & Proactive Solutions" (CPS), which focuses on identifying the underlying issues that contribute to a child's explosive behavior. It highlights that these children often lack crucial skills in areas such as problem-solving and emotional regulation rather than being simply defiant.Greene encourages caregivers and educators to understand the specific events and triggers that lead to outbursts and to work collaboratively with the child to develop appropriate solutions. The CPS approach involves three primary steps: identifying the specific problems, brainstorming solutions with the child, and then implementing and reviewing the agreed-upon solutions.Throughout the book, Greene stresses the importance of patience, understanding, and proactive strategies to equip children with the necessary skills to handle frustration and challenges more effectively. The focus remains on building a trusting relationship and fostering a positive environment where children feel safe to express themselves.Overall, "The Explosive Child" serves as a guide for parents and educators to support children in developing emotional and behavioral skills, ultimately helping reduce explosive incidents and improve overall family and school dynamics.Chapter 2:The Theme of The Explosive Child"The Explosive Child" by Ross W. Greene is a book that offers insights into understanding and effectively managing children who exhibit explosive behavior. Here are some key plot points, character development elements, and thematic ideas from the book: Key Plot Points:1. Understanding Explosive Behavior: Greene outlines how traditional discipline methods can be ineffective for children who struggle with emotional regulation. He emphasizes that explosive behavior is often a result of lagging skills rather than defiance.2. Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS): The introduction of the CPS model is a crucial point in the book. Greene advocates working collaboratively with the child to solve problems and identify the underlying issues contributing to the explosive behavior.3. Identifying Lagging Skills: A significant portion of the book is dedicated to identifying the specific skills that children may be lacking, such as flexibility, frustration tolerance, and problem-solving abilities.4. Practical Strategies: Greene provides practical strategies for parents and educators to manage situations involving explosive behavior, focusing on proactive approaches rather than reactive discipline.5. Case Studies: The book includes numerous case studies that illustrate his concepts in action, providing readers with real-life examples of successful CPS implementation. Character Development:- Parents and Caregivers: Greene emphasizes the journey of parents and caregivers as they shift their understanding from viewing their child's behavior as willful defiance to seeing it as a manifestation of unmet needs and skills deficits. This transformation fosters empathy and patience.- The Child: Children depicted in the book may initially seem volatile and unmanageable, but as they engage in the CPS process, they often show growth and development in their emotional regulation, communication skills, and ability to collaborate with adults.- Educators: Teachers and educational professionals also undergo a developmental journey as they adopt Greene's methods, often realizing the importance of creating supportive environments that acknowledge each child's...
I refer to Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) model in just about every talk I give to a parent community. Dr. Greene's quote “Kids do well when they can” changed my life when I first read it about 15 years ago, and it remains as powerful today. So I was especially excited to welcome back to the show child psychologist and author Dr. Ross Greene to talk about how his problem solving model can be effectively used with very young children, even infants. If you are new to CPS, I highly encourage you to go back and listen to our first conversation for the show, where we explored this approach in detail. But in the meantime, in this conversation we delved into why it's crucial to shift from a compliance-focused approach to one of collaboration and understanding, even starting as early as age two. We also talked about how what we often label as a "difficult baby" is actually an infant struggling to meet our expectations, how using CPS can significantly enhance their well-being, and why we want to question the underlying reasons behind adult concerns — all of these are concept explored in the powerful new documentary, It's Never Too Early: CPS with Very Young Kids. Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the originator of the innovative, evidence-based approach called Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS), as described in his influential books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost & Found, and Raising Human Beings. He also developed and executive produced the award-winning documentary film The Kids We Lose, released in 2018. Dr. Greene was on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over 20 years, and is now founding director of the non-profit Lives in the Balance. He is also currently adjunct Professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Tech and adjunct Professor in the Faculty of Science at the University of Technology in Sydney, Australia. Dr. Greene has worked with several thousand kids with concerning behaviors and their caregivers, and he and his colleagues have overseen implementation and evaluation of the CPS model in countless schools, inpatient psychiatric units, and residential and juvenile detention facilities, with dramatic effect: significant reductions in recidivism, discipline referrals, detentions, suspensions, and use of restraint and seclusion. Never Too Early: CPS with Young Kids (documentary) The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Dr. Ross Greene Lives in the Balance (Dr. Greene's website) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mitä ihmettä tarkoittaa traumainformoitu koulu? Kirsi Strohbehn, erityisopettaja ja Resetti-kouluttaja tutustui traumainformoidun koulun malliin työskennellessään haastavasti käyttäytyvien oppilaiden kanssa, joilla usein on runsaasti myös erilaisia tunne-elämän ongelmia. Tosin Kirsi ei haluaisi oppilaitaan hankaliksi nimittää, hän käyttäisi uhmakkaista, manipuloivista ja käyttäytymishäiriöisistä oppilaista nimitystä “erityistä rakkautta tarvitsevat oppilaat”. Kirsi ajattelee, että traumainformoituun kouluun kuuluu oleellisesti kaksi ulottuvuutta. Ensimmäiseksi tarvitaan ymmärrystä trauman vaikutuksista ihmisen neurobiologialle, ja toiseksi tietoisuutta niistä peruspilareista, joiden varaan traumainformoitua koulutyötä voidaan rakentaa. Tästä pääset lukemaan trauman vaikutuksista: https://traumainformoitu.fi/traumalla-voi-olla-pitkakestoiset-seuraukset/ Traumainformoitu koulu-ajattelun mukaisesti monella luokkahuoneen oppilaalla voi olla mukanaan traumataakkaa, kehityksellistä traumaa, joka vaikuttaa kaikkeen koulutyöhön. Emotionaalinen trauma voi vaikuttaa sekä oppilaan käyttäytymiseen että akateemisiin suorituksiin. Traumainformoidun koulun peruspilareita on kolme. Koulussa täytyy olla turvallisuuden lisäksi turvan tunne. Kaikkien aikuisten tulee sitoutua tähän. Toiseksi, oppilaan valinnanvapautta tulee mahdollisuuksien mukaan hyödyntää. Kolmanneksi, oppilaiden ja opettajien välillä täytyy vallita yhteys. Monet oppilaista ovat oppineet, että aikuisiin ei voi luottaa, eikä tästä poisoppiminen ole helppoa eikä aina mahdollistakaan. Lopuksi, kanssasäätely on tärkeää. Koska emotionaalinen traumatisoituminen on vaikuttanut oppilaan kykyyn säädellä tunteitaan ja mielentilojaan, tarvitaan turvallista aikuista tukemaan ja ohjaamaan oppilasta oppimaan säätelyä. Oma rauhallisuus on tässä oleellista, silloin hyödynnetään peilisolujen tuomaa apua kahden ihmisen välisessä vuorovaikutuksessa. Kirsi kuulee usein sanottavan, että “opettajan tehtävä on vain opettaa”. Tämä on totta, mutta jos ymmärretään vahingollisten kokemuksien vaikutukset oppilaan kyvylle oppia, voidaan nimenomaan juuri opettamista tehostaa, jos traumainformoidun orientaation periaatteita hyödynnetään myös koulutyössä. - Jos tiedettäisiin ja ymmärrettäisiin niitä kokemuksia, joita esimerkiksi väkivaltaisesti oirehtivilla lapsilla on, voisimme nähdä hankalat käytösmallit ensisijaisesti selviytymiskeinoina. Lapsi tai nuori on ehkä tarvinnut vahingollisia toimintatapoja jokapäiväisessä arjessaan aikaisemmin. Nämä oppilaat ovat niitä, jotka kaikkein helpoimmin suljetaan ulkopuolelle. Heille sanotaan, että “sinä et saa osallistua tähän ja tähän”, kun juuri he tarvitsivat yhteyttä, turvallisuutta ja kanssasäätelyä turvallisen aikuisen kanssa, Kirsi jatkaa. - Se, miten me valitsemme sanamme puhuttaessa näistä lapsista on äärimmäisen tärkeää, koska käyttämämme kieli luo todellisuutta ja ennen kaikkea sitä tapaa, jolla me oppilaisiin suhtaudumme. Valitsemmeko puhua esimerkiksi omaehtoisista, joustamattomista lapsista, vai ymmärrämmekö, että käyttäytymisen takana on ehkä oppilas, joka on ollut jossakin aikaisemmassa traumaattisessa tilanteessaan täysin voimaton. Näistä kirjoista löydät lisätietoa traumainformoidusta koulusta. Jos olet opettaja, tarkista koulusi opettajanhuoneen kirjahylly, monia näistä teoksista tulisi löytyä sieltä: Tulistuva lapsi by Ross W. Greene, englanniksi "The Explosive Child". Lost at School by Ross W. Greene (suomeksi Koulun hukkaamat lapset) Lost & Found, helping behaviorally challenging students by Ross W. Greene. Creating Trauma-Informed Schools by Eileen A. Dombo ja Christine Anlauf Sabatino Piia Ruudun tekemä materiaali Resetti-toiminnasta: https://www.valteri.fi/tuote/resetti-perheluokista-tukea-kasvatustilanteisiin-kotona-koulussa-ja-varhaiskasvatuksessa-resetti-toiminta-2017-2020/ Myös hakusanoilla trauma informed school löytyy netistä paljon hyvää tietoa.
In today's show, Eric is joined by Liz Angoff! Liz is a licensed educational psychologist with a diplomate in school neuropsychology, providing assessment and consultation services to children and their families in the Bay area. She is the author of the Brain Building Books and is constantly creating new tools to help parents and providers empower children to help them understand their unique brains. Learn more about Liz and her books at brainbuidingbook.com! In this episode, you'll hear about Liz's mission to help neurodiverse kids understand and create their personal narratives, how parents can understand their kids better, how Liz has found purpose through her own anxiety, and using affirming language to communicate. Then, you'll hear about the importance of articulating and communicating intentions, engaging in self-awareness conversations with kids, acknowledging parent-guilt, when hyper-verbalism and auditory processing collide, transitions, screen time, and more! Find more from Liz at Questions/Topics: [00:02.08] Introducing Liz [00:04:10] Having conversations with kids about their diagnoses & [00:06:38] Liz shares her diagnosis story and her experiences with sensory overwhelm [00:10:11] Eric asks Liz about self-disclosure when talking to parents and kids [00:19:24] Exploring the neurodivergent home of Eric Tivers and problem-solving at home [00:22:31] Identifying the problem and how to better understand a child's experiences [00:29:02] Iterating: Experimentation, evaluation, and assessment [00:31:42] Addressing concerns as a parent and needs as an adult [00:33:51] Worrying about our kids growing up into adults; What-ifs, jumping to conclusions, and catastrophizing [00:37:22] Eric opens up about what happens at home [00:39:26] The importance of relearning and reintegrating skills when reaching milestones [00:41:58] Transitions, outings, and screen time [00:48:26] Closing thoughts from Liz Resources & Honorable Mentions: Eric's episode with his son - 483: Neurodivergence Runs in the Family Book: The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene, Ph.D Website: Collaborative & Proactive Solutions - Ross Greene, Ph.D at www.cpsconnection.com
Are you wanting a deeper understanding of your child's concerning behavior and how to help them do better? Listen in to learn a profound process to get them there. It's time to let go of antiquated forms of discipline such as restraining, secluding, or paddling children, and today my guest shares exactly what to do instead. Click here for Show Notes and Additional Resources! What We Talked About: Helping children solve problems that might be causing challenging behavior Advocating for doing away with punitive methods of discipline such as restraining, seclusion, and paddling The 3 step process of Collaborative and Proactive Solutions developed by Dr. Greene A few of the skill deficits that our children need support developing Things to Remember: “When we view kids with an accurate compassionate lens, we are able to create interventions that actually work and work long-term.” “Children do well, if they can.” “Nothing good happens in the heat of the moment.” “Children are not lacking motivation, they already want to do well.” “Fantastic things happen when we work proactively with our children.” ― Kim Hopkins “Power causes conflict...collaboration brings people together.” “Behaviorally challenging kids are challenging because they're lacking the skills to not be challenging.” ― Ross W. Greene, Ph.D. “When we invite children to problem solve, we are teaching them a life skill and nurturing the perception that they are capable.” ― Jane Nelsen “Too often we give our children answers to remember rather than problems to solve.” ― Roger Lewin Click here for Show Notes and more Resources from Jeanne-Marie, Your Parenting Mentor
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Pam Lanhart. She's the Director of the Minnesota based non-profit organization “Thrive Family Recovery Resources” that she started in 2016 to help families with addicted loved ones. She's a certified recovery coach, peer specialist, speaker, author, and advocate for those dealing with substance use disorder - and their families.. She has a book and a FB page called “Praying Our Loved One Home” that our Christian audience members will especially love. She recently lost her young adult son Jake to the disease of addiction, but like our dear friend Heather Ross, she is forging ahead, more determined than ever to help families so they can help their struggling teens and young adults who are battling with addiction. Pam subscribes, as I do, to the CRAFT approach of treating our addicted loved ones with unconditional love and positive regard, no matter where they are in their sobriety. RESOURCES: Pam's information: Thrive Family Recovery Resources: https://thrivefamilyrecoveryresources.org/ Praying Our Loved One Home Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/prayingourlovedonehome Praying Our Loved One Home Blog: https://pamlanhart.com/praying-our-loved-one-home Praying Our Loved One Home Book: https://www.amazon.com/Praying-Our-Loved-One-Home/dp/B07NWZZS16 Pam's coaching website: https://pamlanhart.com/ Wild Hearts Adventures: https://www.wildheartsadventures.org/ Thrive! Family Addiction Support informed by CRAFT and Invitation to Change Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ThriveFamilySupport Other resources mentioned in this episode: The First Day film: https://thefirstdayfilm.com/ Raising Human Beings: Creating a Collaborative Partnership with Your Child by Ross W. Greene, PhD: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Human-Beings-Collaborative-Partnership/dp/1476723761 The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict by The Arbinger Institute: https://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Peace-Resolving-Heart-Conflict/dp/0369343972/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1660195659&sr=1-1 Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brené Brown: https://www.amazon.com/Braving-Wilderness-Quest-Belonging-Courage/dp/0812985818/ref=monarch_sidesheet Motivational Interviewing: https://motivationalinterviewing.org/understanding-motivational-interviewing What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey: https://www.amazon.com/What-Happened-You-Conversations-Resilience/dp/B08PW4Q284 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message
OfSubstance.EventBrite.com - 9/10 In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Pam Lanhart. She's the Director of the Minnesota based non-profit organization “Thrive Family Recovery Resources” that she started in 2016 to help families with addicted loved ones. She's a certified recovery coach, peer specialist, speaker, author, and advocate for those dealing with substance use disorder - and their families.. She has a book and a FB page called “Praying Our Loved One Home” that our Christian audience members will especially love. She recently lost her young adult son Jake to the disease of addiction, but like our dear friend Heather Ross, she is forging ahead, more determined than ever to help families so they can help their struggling teens and young adults who are battling with addiction. Pam subscribes, as I do, to the CRAFT approach of treating our addicted loved ones with unconditional love and positive regard, no matter where they are in their sobriety. RESOURCES: Pam's information: Thrive Family Recovery Resources: https://thrivefamilyrecoveryresources.org/ Praying Our Loved One Home Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/prayingourlovedonehome Praying Our Loved One Home Blog: https://pamlanhart.com/praying-our-loved-one-home Praying Our Loved One Home Book: https://www.amazon.com/Praying-Our-Loved-One-Home/dp/B07NWZZS16 Pam's coaching website: https://pamlanhart.com/ Wild Hearts Adventures: https://www.wildheartsadventures.org/ Thrive! Family Addiction Support informed by CRAFT and Invitation to Change Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ThriveFamilySupport Other resources mentioned in this episode: The First Day film: https://thefirstdayfilm.com/ Raising Human Beings: Creating a Collaborative Partnership with Your Child by Ross W. Greene, PhD: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Human-Beings-Collaborative-Partnership/dp/1476723761 The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict by The Arbinger Institute: https://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Peace-Resolving-Heart-Conflict/dp/0369343972/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1660195659&sr=1-1 Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brené Brown: https://www.amazon.com/Braving-Wilderness-Quest-Belonging-Courage/dp/0812985818/ref=monarch_sidesheet Motivational Interviewing: https://motivationalinterviewing.org/understanding-motivational-interviewing What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey: https://www.amazon.com/What-Happened-You-Conversations-Resilience/dp/B08PW4Q284 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message
To end this season, in case you missed catching this episode from Season 2, here's a rerun episode with Jenny Howe! You might have a vision for what your teenager or child needs in order to thrive. But you're not the only adult in your kids' life: there's her teacher, perhaps his other parent, or their youth leaders at church or a club. Are they resistant to what you know your child needs? Licensed clinical therapist Jenny Howe deals with this all the time. She specializes in helping parents collaborate with the school to figure out a plan that will work for everyone. Listen now to learn how to have a better conversation and what actions you can take to support your kid. --------------- To learn more about helping your child, Jenny suggests reading Lost at School: Why Our Kids with Behavioral Challenges are Falling Through the Cracks and How We Can Help Them by Ross W. Greene. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/everydaystrong/message
In this episode Taylor and Skylar just briefly cover the first steps that author Ross W. Greene lays out in his book Lost at School: Why Our Kids with Behavioral Challenges Are Falling Through the Cracks and How We Can Help Them. Together they disucss a new philosophy: kids will do well if they can, lagging skills students may not have yet, how to uncover those lagging skills through an ALSUP, and the three types of plans on how to approach the unsolved problem. Get ready for part 2!Lost at School: Why Our Kids with Behavioral Challenges Are Falling Through the Cracks and How We Can Help Them: https://lostatschool.orgALSUP: https://livesinthebalance.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/ALSUP-2020.pdfLives in the Balance.org: https://livesinthebalance.org
ADHD is a label, it's a name of a category of behaviors that we want to look at and potentially see how can we change the environment to make a kid the most successful as possible. In today's episode, our guest is Colleen Cullinan, Ph.D., a pediatric psychologist at Nemours/Alfred I. DuPont Hospital for Children in Wilmington Delaware. She specializes in integrated primary care within the Division of Behavioral Health. Dr. Cullinan completed her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at Western Michigan University in 2015. Dr. Cullinan supervises psychology externs and interns, and she directs medical education efforts for Nemours' residency training programs. Her presentation and publication records center around integrated care, family-based interventions, and experiential cultural humility training. If you want to gain a deeper understanding of the strategies for boosting executive function, this episode is for you! Key Highlights: [00:01 - 11:13] Open Segment An overview of ADHA management Having conversations with families about the types of ADHA The executive functioning in kids and adults Why setting families expectations is a critical part of ADHD management [11:14 - 22:42] The Journey of Starting to Manage A Chronic Neuro-Biological Condition Dr. Colleen's outlook on children having trouble at school Why the Vanderbilt can be helpful You need the time to do a good job to gather information [22:43 - 33:47] Kids with ADHD Need a Lot of Practice What happens when the medication therapies are not working How executive function coaching looks like Why internal speech is important and complex Kids need more training in nonverbal cues [33:48 - 45:49] Executive Functions That Are Underdeveloped Incentive systems do work, but sometimes we are trying to incentivize the wrong thing Talk about hindsight, foresight, and insight How the sense of time is perceived by kids vs adults [45:50 - 57:07] Working Memory vs Multitasking The executive function of working memory Dr. Colleen's insights about multitasking being a fantasy Always think about the kid and their family [57:08 - 1:11:44] Final Takeaways Start with conceptualizing the diagnosis when talking to parents Take a good history, a really good history Throw away the label and really look at the executive function Start with psycho-education for families and patients Lay out the deficits of ADHD For kids with ADHD, the impact of those executive functional skills deficits may set them back two to three years Lay out building the parent's skills of expectation, setting realistic goals Let's talk about some of the specific deficits Internal speech Hindsight, foresight, and insight Cents of time Working memory Explain to families that ADHD is highly genetic and that there are often ADHD families Future teaching and predicting setting expectations and what that can look like Set the tone with the families Lay out that intervention and management will be an experiment Resources Mentioned: https://www.amazon.com/Driven-Distraction-Recognizing-Attention-Childhood/dp/0684801280 (Driven To Distraction - Ned Hallowell) https://www.amazon.com/-/es/Ross-W-Greene/dp/0060931027/ref=sr_1_1?__mk_es_US=%C3%85M%C3%85%C5%BD%C3%95%C3%91&crid=37EJWPAT09J3Z&keywords=The+Explosive+Child+by+Ross+Greene&qid=1652203040&s=books&sprefix=the+explosive+child+by+ross+greene%2B%2Cstripbooks-intl-ship%2C849&sr=1-1 (The Explosive Child - Ross Greene) https://www.amazon.com/-/es/Peg-Dawson/dp/1593854455/ref=sr_1_1?__mk_es_US=%C3%85M%C3%85%C5%BD%C3%95%C3%91&crid=1IEJLHZRUPOOM&keywords=smart+but+scattered+by+Peg+Dawson+and&qid=1652203176&s=books&sprefix=smart+but+scattered+by+peg+dawson+and+richard+guard%2Cstripbooks-intl-ship%2C407&sr=1-1 (Smart But Scattered - Peg Dawson and Richard Guard)...
NOTE: Hi, everyone! We've stepped away from the podcast for a short break, but we'll be back soon with great new content. Meantime, please enjoy listening to some of our most popular episodes from the archive! When kids experience challenges meeting certain expectations, that can result in their frustration, which can often lead to concerning behaviors if they're not equipped with the necessary skills to adapt. Our guest today trains parents, educators, and clinicians in an evidence-based treatment called the Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) model. Be sure to tune in to this intriguing and insightful conversation and learn about all the benefits that CPS has to offer! Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist who lives in Freeport, Maine. He is the New York Times bestselling author of the influential books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost and Found, and Raising Human Beings. He is the founding director of the non-profit, Lives in the Balance, which provides a vast array of free resources on the CPS model that is described in his books. Show Highlights: Dr. Greene's non-profit advocates on behalf of kids with concerning behaviors and their caregivers by helping people solve problems with kids, rather than giving them detentions, suspensions, and expulsions. Concerning behaviors are simply the way that a kid is communicating to us that they're having difficulty meeting certain expectations. If we only modify concerning behaviors, then the kid is still having problems meeting those expectations. However, if we solve those problems with kids, and help them better meet expectations, then the concerning behaviors subside. Dr. Greene details the CPS model. According to Dr. Greene, “crisis prevention” is a misnomer. It's actually “crisis management”, and he explains more. The Kids We Lose is an exposé that hopes to raise awareness of how horrible it is for kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, not only because they're struggling, but for what we do to them in the name of helping. Dr. Greene shares what he's working on next. Connect with Dr. Greene! His website Lives in the Balance CPS Connection The Kids We Lose (Documentary) True Crisis Prevention Links/Resources: Thank you for listening! Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to the show to receive every new episode delivered straight to your podcast player every Tuesday. If you enjoyed this episode and believe in our message, then please help us get the word out about this podcast. Rate and Review this show in Apple Podcasts, Stitcher Radio, or Google Play. It helps other listeners find this show. Be sure to connect with us and reach out with any questions/concerns: Facebook Instagram Twitter IEP website This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not to be construed as legal advice specific to your circumstances. If you need help with any legal matters, be sure to consult with an attorney regarding your specific needs.
The students (and staff) at North Star Elementary are greatly impacted by their Principal's unrelenting positivity. Karin Jakubowski has now expanded that impact by introducing the Educational Impact Academy - resources for parents and educators to aid in flipping the behavior of kids and students! This powerful conversation is a must-listen if you have anything to do with students!!Karin on Facebook5:20 I got into education to be the leader I never had8:00 Importance of relationships9:00 Your attitude is your choice11:00 Why do substitutes love our school12:00 Power of the Principal13:00 A school that teachers love to come to13:15 Value people for who they are15:30 Life long learning is challenging16:00 Gleen, Get & Go16:45 Momnicient Podcast18:30 Mental concerns for students19:15 Everyone needs a personal guidance counselor19:30 Mindfulness coach for students20:00 Mindful Schools21:45 Educators are not mental health experts but we deal with it everyday22:15 Mindfulness with Dr J - YouTube23:30 Dr. J. Stuart Ablon - Think:Kids24:00 Lost at School: Why Our Kids with Behavioral Challenges are Falling Through the Cracks and How We Can Help Them by Ross W. Greene PhD24:30 Elevator tone of voice24:30 I believe every kid that does something wrong already feels bad24:45 What's up with that?25:30 Dr. Gloria Gold - Behind every behavior is a story26:15 Happy Kids, Not Perfect Kids26:45 Even prisoners get to eat lunch28:15 Connection before correction29:00 Building trust with kids31:30 A kid's bad behavior does not have to put them on a trajectory to be a bad kid33:30 Treat every person in your building with the same level of respect34:00 Collaborative management style36:00 In our room together - we can do amazing and great things39:00 Three recesses a day in Elementary School40:15 Raising Compassionate and Confident Kids with Author Heather Shumaker40:15 It's OK to Go up the Slide: Renegade Rules for Raising Confident and Creative Kids by Heather Shumaker42:45 Find something that will fuel you because you are only going to output the best when you are at your best43:30 Educational Impact Academy46:00 Best advice for in-person conferences with parentsHere are some additional resources supporting our mission.Episodes, Feeback, Show Notes & more - www.elevateschool.usFacebook Group LinkedIn GroupConnect with Matt on LinkedInConnect with Kevin on LinkedInComments or Questions? - kevin@theSMARTsub.com
Join us for a mind blowing episode in which we talk to the BIGGEST NAME in Psychology. Ross is a clinical psychologist and a New York Times bestselling author of the influential books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost and Found, and Raising Human Beings. He is the originator of the model of care described in those books, now called Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS). Dr. Greene was on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over 20 years, and is now founding director of the non-profit Lives in the Balance, which provides a vast array of free, web-based resources on the CPS model. He has appeared in a wide range of media, including The Oprah Show, Good Morning America, The Washington Post, The Chicago Tribune, and the Boston Globe.
When kids experience challenges meeting certain expectations, that can result in their frustration, which can often lead to concerning behaviors if they’re not equipped with the necessary skills to adapt. Our guest today trains parents, educators, and clinicians in an evidence-based treatment called the Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) model. Be sure to tune in to this intriguing and insightful conversation and learn about all the benefits that CPS has to offer! Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist who lives in Freeport, Maine. He is the New York Times bestselling author of the influential books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost and Found, and Raising Human Beings. He is the founding director of the non-profit, Lives in the Balance, which provides a vast array of free resources on the CPS model that is described in his books. Show Highlights: Dr. Greene’s non-profit advocates on behalf of kids with concerning behaviors and their caregivers by helping people solve problems with kids, rather than giving them detentions, suspensions, and expulsions. Concerning behaviors are simply the way that a kid is communicating to us that they’re having difficulty meeting certain expectations. If we only modify concerning behaviors, then the kid is still having problems meeting those expectations. However, if we solve those problems with kids, and help them better meet expectations, then the concerning behaviors subside. Dr. Greene details the CPS model. According to Dr. Greene, “crisis prevention” is a misnomer. It’s actually “crisis management”, and he explains more. The Kids We Lose is an exposé that hopes to raise awareness of how horrible it is for kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, not only because they’re struggling, but for what we do to them in the name of helping. Dr. Greene shares what he's working on next. Connect with Dr. Greene! His website Lives in the Balance CPS Connection The Kids We Lose (Documentary) True Crisis Prevention Links/Resources: Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to the show to receive every new episode delivered straight to your podcast player every Tuesday. If you enjoyed this episode and believe in our message, then please help us get the word out about this podcast. Rate and Review this show in Apple Podcasts, Stitcher Radio, or Google Play. It helps other listeners find this show. Be sure to connect with us and reach out with any questions/concerns: Facebook Instagram Twitter IEP website This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not to be construed as legal advice specific to your circumstances. If you need help with any legal matters, be sure to consult with an attorney regarding your specific needs.
Mindy Cabrera discusses her family's approach to homeschooling. We discussed assessing options as homeschoolers; classical education; kanban boards and calendars to help keep track of daily/weekly tasks and activities; math resources; helpful parenting books; and the importance of instilling life skills.Classical education resources:Classical Conversations The Well-Trained MindMichael Clay Thompson Story of the World Jim Weiss Organizational tools:Kanban boardsReuasable Sticky NotesWhite boardsMath resources:Khan Academy Saxon Math Singapore Math Institute for Math and Computer Science (IMACS) - Mention this podcast (School: Conversations on Learning) to receive a $50 discount on enrollment. Art of Problem Solving (AoPS) Beast AcademyElements of Mathematics Foundations (EMF)G is for GoogolThe Adventures of Penrose the Mathematical CatSir CumferenceMontessori math beadsCritical Thinking Company Mathematical ReasoningCritical Thinking Company Balance BendersCritical Thinking Company Mind BendersCritical Thinking Company Pattern ExplorerPerplexorsParenting Books:The Collapse of Parenting by Leonard SaxThe Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud, PhD & Ned JohnsonRaising Human Beings by Ross W. Greene, PhDRaising a Secure Child by Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper, & Bert PowellGetting kids involved in cooking:Y shaped peelersLe Creuset skillet - non-toxic pans to replace Teflon (don't skimp on the oil!)Kid-safe knives
We talk about what it was like for Kelli to enter motherhood for the first time and what it's been like since. When first looking into foster care her coordinator had said if it's meant for you it will work out. She had always wanted kids so she found a way to make that possible even though she was single and hadn't had kids of her own yet. Even though it took a bit longer to finally be placed with a child, in less than 3 months she worked hard and made it possible to become eligible to be a foster mom. Kelli needed to prepare for any age and all the potential trauma that that comes with fostering. Like many new moms, she still faced the fears of ‘can I actually do this?" and "I don't know what I'm doing!” and she also took part in getting to share the news with her family. She realized that there was a lot of learning and growing in her journey and that she was now responsible for things like doctors appointments and setting rules, but overall she said she has never felt more purposeful and more fulfilled than when she is a foster mom. She soon realized she needed to put everything she had into someone else day and night and later learned how to find ways to still find time for herself. She suggests that other new foster moms learn to say yes to people that offer to help you and find things that the kids can do that are fun for them so you can have some time for yourself. The transition of sending them back to their family is what you hope for but its still hard and very bitter sweet. Her family has been supportive and her nieces and nephews also love the idea but they also feel the separation when the kids transition back to their family. Some might say it's hard to see them go but Kelli reassures us that It's hard to let them go but these kids need this love and they need people to hold that space for them, the whole point is to care too much. If you're looking into being a foster parent yourself reach out to other foster parents in the area and get to know the steps that are needed specifically for you. If you know a foster mom be sure to take a moment to appreciate them, be empathetic, and support them where you can. After all, we are all mothers coming together on this journey of Entering Motherhood. Recommended Books The Connected Parent by Lisa Qualls and Karyn Purvis PhD The Connected Child by Kryn Purvis PhD The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene Contact Kelli Boyce Instagram @fosteringsolo
A difficult to teach child slows down the learning for others and accentuates the burden of teaching a group of diverse learners that often looms heavily on the teacher. What if disruptive children are actually facing challenges that result from the lack of critical “to not be challenging” skills such as adaptive flexibility, frustration tolerance, and problem solving?On this episode, renowned author, clinical psychologist, documentary producer, and adjunct professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Tech, Dr. Ross Greene, discusses the dilemma of teaching that requires a set of prerequisite learning how to learn skills that facilitate the acquisition of new knowledge but are far less ubiquitous. By prioritizing the building of executive function and self-regulation first, educators are likely to yield greater cooperation from children and far more success in learning engagement.About Ross W. Greene, Ph.DRoss W. Greene, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the originator of the innovative, evidence-based approach called Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS), as described in his influential books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost & Found, and Raising Human Beings. He also developed and executive produced the award-winning documentary film The Kids We Lose, released in 2018. Dr. Greene was on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over 20 years, and founded the non-profit Lives in the Balance in 2009. He is currently adjunct Professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Tech and adjunct Professor in the Faculty of Science at the University of Technology in Sydney, Australia. Dr. Greene has worked with several thousand behaviorally challenging kids and their caregivers, and he and his colleagues have overseen implementation and evaluation of the CPS model in hundreds of schools, inpatient psychiatry units, and residential and juvenile detention facilities, with dramatic effect: significant reductions in recidivism, discipline referrals, detentions, suspensions, and use of restraint and seclusion. Dr. Greene lectures throughout the world and lives in Freeport, Maine.Websites:http://www.LivesInTheBalance.orghttp://www.TrueCrisisPrevention.orghttp://www.TheKidsWeLose.comBooks:The Explosive ChildLost at SchoolLost & FoundRaising Human Beings About Host, Sucheta KamathSucheta Kamath, is an award-winning speech-language pathologist, a TEDx speaker, a celebrated community leader, and the founder and CEO of ExQ®. As an EdTech entrepreneur, Sucheta has designed ExQ's personalized digital learning curriculum/tool that empowers middle and high school students to develop self-awareness and strategic thinking skills through the mastery of Executive Function and social-emotional competence.Support the show (https://mailchi.mp/7c848462e96f/full-prefrontal-sign-up)
Overview: Dr. Greene's keynote at #SENIA2020 was so popular, we wanted to bring him back to learn even more from him. Today Dr. Greene and I discuss systematic change in schools regarding discipline and positive change seems to be moving at a glacial pace. We also learn more about Plan B and how teacher and caregiver assumptions can often hinder a student's growth. When we bring students into our conversation about their behaviors and actions, we get results. Connect Website Twitter Facebook Resources Mentioned in Today's Show Lost at School The Explosive Child Lost and Found https://www.livesinthebalance.org/plan-b-0Plan B Collaborative Problem Solving Bio Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the originator of the innovative, evidence-based approach called Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS), as described in his influential books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost & Found, and Raising Human Beings. He also developed and executive produced the award-winning documentary film The Kids We Lose, released in 2018. Dr. Greene was on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over 20 years, and founded the non-profit Lives in the Balance in 2009. He is also adjunct Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Tech and adjunct Professor in the Faculty of Science at the University of Technology in Sydney, Australia. Dr. Greene has worked with several thousand behaviorally challenging kids and their caregivers, and he and his colleagues have overseen implementation and evaluation of the CPS model in hundreds of schools, inpatient psychiatric units, and residential and juvenile detention facilities, with dramatic effect: significant reductions in recidivism, discipline referrals, detentions, suspensions, and use of restraint and seclusion. Dr. Greene lectures throughout the world and lives in Portland, Maine. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/seniapodcast/message
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Ross W. Greene is an American clinical child psychologist and New Your Times Best selling author of the books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost & Found, and Raising Human Beings. Greene developed the model of intervention called Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS). He has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. Greene is founding director of the non-profit Lives in the Balance, and developed and executive produced the documentary film, The Kids We Lose. Greene's research has been widely published in academic journals, and he and the CPS model have been featured in popular media including The Oprah Show, Dateline NBC, the CBS Morning Show, the Public Broadcasting Service (PBS), National Public Radio, The Washington Post, Mother Jones magazine, and The Atlantic. Greene received his undergraduate degree at the University of Florida and his Ph.D. in clinical psychology at Virginia Tech in 1989. He completed his pre-doctoral internship at Children's National Medical Center in Washington, DC. His academic appointments include the Department of Psychology at Virginia Tech (1989-1991, 2012 to present), the Faculty of Science at University of Technology Sydney, Australia (2016 to present); the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School (1992 to 2013), the Departments of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at University of Massachusetts Medical Center (1991-1992); and the Department of Education at Tufts University (2010 to 2013). Though he originally called his model "Collaborative Problem Solving," he is not affiliated with those now marketing that product and does not endorse what they have done with his work.
Today we’re back as we explore our kids’ FREEDOM TO SPEAK! Does your kid struggle to speak respectfully? To lean into ‘manners’? To respond when questioned? Hang on as we radically grant our kids the right to speak (gasp) in whatever way comes out naturally. So what’s OUR job during this verbal shitstorm? We explore ways to align our values with our day-to-day interactions. To model our asses off. To interact sensitively to avoid power struggles. To give agency, scaffold skills, and trust in the long game. We swear it's easier than censoring or prompting. Each of these difficult interactions can be a chance for us BOTH to build skills, stay connected, and grow as people and family. Join us to explore our expectations and beliefs around wordplay as we unpack three strategies to sensitively support this critical freedom in our kids. We laugh, we cry, we lean in! Mental Mantras we explore: - “This isn’t about me” - “They have every right to disagree” - “They are suffering inside” - “Words are symptoms of a need” - “They will express better with time” - “Focus on the feelings, not the words” - “I can be their safe place” Relevant Links + resources that informed this episode: - Upbringing’s Freedoms Model - Upbringing’s RESIST Approach - Upbringing's Free To Struggle episode - Upbringing’s Free To Feel episode - Upbringing’s The Power of Circling Back episode / video - Upbringing’s We Know Our Influence episode - Originals, by Adam Grant - Bridgewater- Ray Dalio - Raising Human Beings, by Ross W. Greene - Lives in the Balance, Ross W. Greene - “Name it to tame it” - The Whole-Brain Child by Dan Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson - Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Motivation - Audre Lorde - “Patriarchy”, according to The Guardian - The Montessori Toddler by Simone Davies - Simplicity Parenting, by Kim John Payne - Respectful parenting for babies & toddlers the RIE way - Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break The Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage With Life by Stuart Shanker - The Good News About Bad Behavior by Katherine Reynolds-Lewis - Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B Rosenburg - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer - Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor + husband/brother in law Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups. Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing Join us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.
Tym razem bohaterami odcinka są książki wspierające w obszarze edukacji, nauki, szkoły. Dla rodziców i nauczycieli - aby mogły zyskać przede wszystkim dzieci.Mówię o książkach:"Zagubieni w szkole" dr Ross W. Greene, wydawnictwo Mamania 2019"Kiedy szkoła jest problemem" Katarzyna Mitschke, wydawnictwo Natuli 2019"Nowa szkoła" Anna Szulc, wydawnictwo Natuli 2019"Mit pracy domowej" Alfie Kohn, wyd. MiND 2018
Beril Ozay is a dually certified child life specialist and a recreational therapist. Beril told stories about her work as an infant and toddler development specialist and managing behavioural issues with teenagers. She also shared her knowledge on utilizing community and social resources for parents who seek to educate themselves about parenting strategies and engage in self-development activities. Beril is very animated and passionate in imparting her expertise and welcomes anyone to contact her through her facebook page entitled Recreation Therapy RX to ask her questions about child development and behaviour management. Beril recommends the following parenting resources: The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay Thanks for dropping by. For comments/questions/concerns, you may contact the host, James Deas, at james@gettingkidstolisten.com.
Today we’re back with a new season of the Upbringing podcast! Join us this week on the as we explore our kids’ FREEDOM TO STRUGGLE. They do it a lot. It can feel like shit. But it doesn’t have to! Join us as we learn from the best and the brightest organizational psychologists, authors, researchers and brainiacs about things like grit, perseverance, confidence, and curiosity -- and why the WAY we approach our kids as they flip out, cry, worry, whine, misbehave (ie. STRUGGLE) matters a whole heck of a lot. We’ll share our personal tales of hilarious parenting hardship from the week, flip some common beliefs on struggle and explore all the ways we’re endeavoring to parent beyond instinct and conventional wisdom -- with awareness, authenticity and alignment. We laugh, we cry, we lean in. Join us! Mental Mantras we explore: They need help This isn’t forever This isn’t about me This doesn’t mean anything about them as a person Growth mindset over fixed mindset The only way to learn is to struggle Shut up and listen Relevant Links: - Upbringing’s Freedoms Model - Upbringing’s RESIST Approach - Upbringing’s 12 Empowerments - Brené Brown - Originals, by Adam Grant - The Obstacle is the Way, by Ryan Holiday - Mindset for Parents, by Ricci & Lee - Wendy Mogul, author, psychologist & public speaker - Growth Mindset by Carol Dweck - How to Raise an Adult, by Julie Lythcott-Haims - Grit, by Angela Duckworth - Raising Human Beings, by Ross W. Greene - Resilient, by Rick Hansen - Sir Ken Robinson’s TED talks - The Gift of Failure, by Jessica Lahey - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer - Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor and husband/brother in law Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups. Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing
With as many kids as I have, and all the reading I do on the topic, you might think I’m somewhat of an expert on raising kids. Yes, I generally know how to keep them alive, clothed, fed, and sheltered, and I keep the family more or less afloat. But one thing that has surprised me the most about parenting is how many skills are not transferrable from one kid to the next. If they were, we’d only need one parenting book to teach us everything we need to know, instead of the hundreds that are out there. But over the past couple of years, five different people have shifted how I think about this: Malcolm Gladwell, in his podcast, Revisionist History; Mary Reckmeyer, in the book Strengths-Based Parenting; Ross W. Greene, in his book, The Explosive Child; Brittney Smart, in her book, The Five-Minute Time In; and my family’s own behavioral coach, Karly Allen. Links: Full Text of this episode at Howshemoms.com Malcolm Gladwell's Revisionist History A Sick Day for Amos McGee Revisionist History Season 4 (Episodes 6, 7, 8) Strengths-Based Parenting The Blessing of a Skinned Knee The Explosive Child The Five-Minute Time In Monster-Free Mothering
This podcast looks at the real issues for schools supporting children with sensory processing preferences or disorder and why home schooling can help these children. The Out of Sync Child by Carol Kranowitz The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene PhD Raising a Sensory Smart Child by Lindsey Biel, M.A, OTR/L and Nancy Peske www.sensoryprocessing101.com Happy and Joyful Children by Free Music | https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported License https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US Positive Happy by PeriTune | http://peritune.com Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
If you are an educator, school administrator, parent, camp counsellor, or employer, chances are you've had experience with challenging behaviours. So often, we focus on crisis-management and behaviour-modification to attempt to make challenging behaviours "go away," but as we know, sticker charts and reward systems do little to encourage intrinsic motivation and, furthermore, do not address the underlying problems that cause the problematic behaviours. I sat down with Dr. Ross Greene this summer to discuss his Collaborative and Proactive Solutions model in order to learn how we can solve some of the most challenging school behaviours. Here are some things we discuss: The Four Main Philosophies that guide Collaborative Proactive Solutions: Kids do well if they can. Your explanation guides your intervention. Be responsible to the hand you've been dealt. Challenging behaviours occur when certain demands and expectations exceed a kid's ability to respond adaptively to their environment. It's a method of communication. The Three Main "Umbrella" Lagging Skills Flexibility/ Adaptability Frustration Tolerance Problem Solving Inclusion through the lens of teaching lagging skills and taking an empathic approach to adapting to problems integrating 100% of the time within the classroom for 100% of tasks **The Most Important Skill for an educator to lead with ** **A Step-by-Step Framework to Implement CPS ** Empathy Step: Information gathering from the student- "What is hard for you about_? How does that make it hard for you to ?" Define Adult Concerns: Explain and articulate adult expectations Invitation: Collaboration on a solution (having the student come up with some possible solutions to the problem and coming to a realistic, mutually satisfactory solution. "I wonder if there is something we can do about do that you can ? Do you have any ideas?" A Real World Example of CPS in Action: Dr. Greene takes us through a step-by-step example of the process **Dr. Ross Greene answers 2 audience questions related to: ** Teen peer pressure School-Family Partnerships Dr. Ross Greene's book recommendation: Sara Laurence Lightfoot's The Essential Conversation Dr. Ross W. Greene is the author of Raising Human Beings, Lost and Found, Lost at School, and The Explosive Child. Dr. Greene was on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over twenty years, and is now founding director of the nonprofit organization Lives in the Balance (LivesintheBalance.org), through which he disseminates the model of care—now called Collaborative & Proactive Solutions—described in his books. Dr. Greene’s research has been funded by the US Department of Education, the National Institute on Drug Abuse, the Stanley Medical Research Institute, and the Maine Juvenile Justice Advisory Group. He speaks widely throughout the world.
Episode 33 TITLE Parenting Differently Wired Kids GUEST Deborah Reber EPISODE OVERVIEW Podcast host, and parent to a neurodivergent son who is twice exceptional, gifted, has ADHD, and experiences challenges with Executive Functioning and Sensory Issues, Debbie talks about how parents can support their differently wired kids. Is authoritarian parenting effective? What is attachment parenting, and how does our culture view nurturing vs. coddling? What is executive functioning? Are kids really being manipulative or is it due to lagging skills? How can we help our kids have a sense of agency, control and self-direction? What is scaffolding, and how do we teach this to our kids? Debbie gives a special message to kids who are differently wired, and a message to their parents. HIGHLIGHTS Why self-care is imperative as parents Why vulnerability and open communication with our kids is crucial How parents can support their differently wired kids A message for parents who have kids who are differently wired A message for the kids who are differently wired Our expectations before we have a child (children), and the shifts we have an opportunity to make once we have a child who is wired differently than we are. We can choose to be authoritative parents, or parent the way we had planned, or we have an opportunity to really learn from our child and change how we parent Scaffolding—what is it and why is it important Authoritative parenting—is it effective? Our culture typically doesn’t want us to coddle or spoil our children, when in fact, we may be meeting their needs for attachment and learning in really healthy and adaptive ways (but feeling guilty because we’re not being strict or structured enough) Executive functioning and lagging skills—what is it and why is it important to know about this Kids do the best they can—Ross Greene ADHD (and other neurodiversities) are consistently inconsistent. It can look like manipulation or stubbornness or willfulness, but it’s about lagging skills Where compassion comes in to play with parenting neurodivergent kids (for the parents and the child) BIO Deborah Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a website, weekly podcast, and social media community for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in iTunes’ Kids and Family category, with more than 1 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. Prior to launching TiLT, Debbie spent more than fifteen years writing inspiring books for women and teens. Before embarking on her own path as a solopreneur, Debbie worked in TV and video production, producing documentaries and PSAs for CARE and UNICEF, working on Blue’s Clues for Nickelodeon in New York, and developing original series for Cartoon Network in Los Angeles. She has an MA in Media Studies from the New School for Social Research and a BA in Communications from Pennsylvania State University. In December 2018, Debbie and her family relocated back to the NYC area after living in Amsterdam, the Netherlands for the past five years. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS/RESOURCES Debbie Reber Website-- http://www.tiltparenting.com/start-here/ Tilt Parenting Podcast-- http://www.tiltparenting.com/podcast/ Differently Wired—Raising Exceptional Kids in a Conventional World by Deborah Reber TedXAmsterdam--Why the future will be differently wired https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZcrDVruby4 The Explosive Child : A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Ross W. Greene The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives Hardcover by William Stixrud PhD (Author), Ned Johnson (Author) Smart but Scattered: The Revolutionary "Executive Skills" Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential by Peg Dawson EdD, Richard Guare PhD Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/ Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/ HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/ Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
July Episode #5
My guest this week is psychologist and author Dr. Ross Greene. Ross encourages parents to let go of unhelpful efforts to help kids who aren't meeting our expectations, such as punishment and other parent-imposed solutions. His approach focuses instead on solving problems collaboratively with our children, using a straightforward three-step method. Topics we explored together included: The importance of the lens through which we view children The belief that “Kids do well if they wanna” vs. “Kids do well if they can” The danger of missing important information about our kids by jumping to adult-imposed consequences The advantages of asking the child what’s getting in the way of meeting an expectation The messages we inadvertently give kids when we don’t take the time to listen What all kids need from their parents Good parenting as knowing and being responsive to the child’s goals, preferences, and skills “Problem behaviors” vs. “Unsolved problems” The paradox of having less control over kids by trying to impose one’s will Ross's Collaborative and Proactive Solutions approach The advantage of solving problems proactively rather than in the heat of the moment How to address parental concerns with your child Collaborating with your child to develop solutions for unsolved problems The downsides of quickly jumping to a “life lesson” with our kids The cost of being busy on having time to solve problems collaboratively Ross mentioned Tony Wagner’s books, which you can check out on Tony's Amazon page. His most popular books include Most Likely to Succeed and The Global Achievement Gap. The book Ross and I focused on is available here: Raising Human Beings; he's written other books, including The Explosive Child and Lost and Found. (A percentage of each purchase made through these affiliate links will be used to support the podcast, at no additional cost to you.) Ross W. Greene, PhD, is adjunct Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Tech and adjunct Professor in the Faculty of Science at the University of Technology in Sydney, Australia. He served on the Harvard Medical School faculty for over 20 years. He completed his PhD in clinical psychology with Dr. Tom Ollendick, a distinguished professor and director of the Child Study Center at Virginia Tech. Ross founded a not-for-profit organization called Lives in the Balance, which aims to disseminate his Collaborative and Proactive Solutions model through free web-based programming and to support and advocate on behalf of behaviorally challenging kids and their parents, teachers, and other caregivers. He was the executive producer and developer of the film “The Kids We Lose,” which won the Best Feature Documentary Award at the 2018 New Hampshire Film Festival, at the 2019 Women’s Film Festival in Philadelphia, and at the 2019 Los Angeles Women’s International Film Festival. Ross consults extensively to families, general and special education schools, inpatient and residential facilities, and systems of juvenile detention. He lectures widely throughout the world and has received research funding from the Stanley Research Institute, the National Institute on Drug Abuse, the US Department of Education, and the Maine Juvenile Justice Advisory Group. His media appearances include The Oprah Show, Good Morning America, Dateline NBC, the CBS Morning Show, and National Public Radio, and his work has been featured in The Atlantic, Mother Jones Magazine, and The Washington Post. Find Ross online at his Lives in the Balance website.
ADHD + oppositional defiance sound like an explosive combination — but it doesn't have to be, with Ross W. Greene, Ph.D.'s Collaborative & Proactive Solutions parenting model. Learn how to influence, not control, your adolescent's behavior.
Vi satt i bilen 3 timmar för att ta oss från Malmö till Göteborg. Slutdestinationen tog oss till en psykolog från USA som har spenderat 40 år på att studera utmanande beteende. Det är ingen annan än Ross W. Greene som är aktuell med sin fjärde bok som finns på svenska. Han menar att problem uppstår när barn har svårt att möta omgivningens förväntningar. Hans ambition är att hjälpa professionella att hjälpa barnen att lösa dessa problem och komma vidare!
Brea and Mallory talk about reading with children, and interview author and podcaster Theresa Thorn. Use the hashtag #ReadingGlasses to participate in online discussion! Email us at readingglassespodcast at gmail dot com! Reading Glasses Tote Bags Links - iPhone hack - On iPhones, go to settings > general > accessibility > display accommodations > color filters > Grayscale Theresa Thorn - One Bad Mother https://twitter.com/theresathorn Theresa's Book Reading Glasses Transcriptions on Gretta Reading Glasses Facebook Group Reading Glasses Goodreads Group Apex Magazine Page Advice Article Amazon Wish List Books Mentioned - Priestdaddy by Patricia Lockwood The Last Picture Show by Larry McMurtry The Eleventh Hour by Graeme Base Lady Oracle by Margaret Atwood Lost At School by Ross W. Greene Far from the Tree by Andrew Solomon Who Needs Donuts? By Mark Alan Stamaty What Makes a Baby by Corey Silverberg Radiant Child: The Story of Young Artist Jean-Michel Basquiat by Javaka Steptoe And Baby Makes Three by John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman The Blessing of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel
Description: This week’s episode features Child Care Rockstar Radio’s first guest interview — the awesome Summer Picha and Katie Wagoner, Peaceful Valley Montessori! Summer and Katie have been partners together for about eight years and have increased their business by 10x, going from a small but mighty 30-child Montessori to two school locations with almost 300 children. They represent the type of child care rockstar that impact the community from a place of authentic education and intent and are proof positive that you can manifest your dreams. We hear how they went from teachers themselves to business owners, their mission to impact children, families, and teachers and what the future holds for more growth and expansion. Key Takeaways: [2:55] Summer and Katie started the business 8 years ago. They were two teachers and were inspired after attending a conference. They started with 30 students and expanded their business by 10 by expanding into two campuses. [5:09] They hire primarily young women of many different backgrounds and levels of education. They highly encourage their staff to continue with education. [7:49] They looked at other successful leaders in different industries and fields and applied them to their own personal model. [11:02] Summer and Katie share an insight on hustle, and how an accidental email led to a giant opportunity. [14:28] They lean on people in their network who have a positive mindset and prior experiences for support. Honesty is key. [17:01] Joining a mastermind can really help connect you with skills and a mindset of success and friendship. Local experts can help mentor you, or if there is not one locally, check out ones such as the Child Care Success Academy! [20:05] Summer and Katie touch upon their leadership philosophy of attracting the best talent in their teachers, and then encouraging them to grow. They set the tone at the beginning so everyone is aware of their values and expectations in the professional culture. [26:04] The Montessori approach is unique and Summer and Katie both have worked all the positions within the Montessori world, so they can handle all issues with a sense of perspective and experience. [30:13] The ladies discuss the challenges and pressures of expanding into two larger schools, and maintaining personal relationships when they are busy and stretched thin. Mentioned in This Episode: Kris Murray Child Care Marketing Solutions Child Care Success Academy Peaceful Valley Montessori 6 Months to 6 Figures, by Peter Voogd The 10x Rule Children: The Challenge: The Classic Work on Improving Parent-Child Relations — Intelligent, Humane & Eminently Practical, by Rudolf Dreikurs and Vicki Stolz The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children, by Ross W. Greene PhD Positive Discipline: The Classic Guide to Helping Children Develop Self-Discipline, Responsibility, Cooperation, and Problem-Solving Skills, by Jane Nelsen Ed.D. What Got You Here Won't Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful, by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark Reiter Dale Carnegie
A little about our guests. Heather is from Green Bay, WI while Jonathan hails from just outside London, England. Heather and Jonathan met when they were both working at a summer camp. After falling in love and moving back to the US, they started in Colorado before moving back to Wisconsin after their first child was born. Heather was always an entrepreneur of sorts. She would start clubs and groups throughout high school and college. When she couldn’t find her own thing, she just created it. She received her Master’s in Social Work and after working for others decided to go out on her own with husband, Jonathan. Jonathan grew up in England before moving to the states. He received his Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy, specializing in working with couples on the brink of divorce. A big rift is that Jonathan enjoys Indian food while Heather is not a fan at all. A little about their business. Heather and Jonathan have been in business together 8 years. Heather suggested they open a private practice and they have been growing ever since. While there has been a learning curve, they enjoy working together. In addition to couples and family therapy, they created a podcast called, The Fringy Bit. It deals with raising gifted, talented, and special needs children. They base much of their work and their podcast on their own experiences in parenting a higher-needs child. One piece of advice (the nutshell version) Choose joy and appreciate joy. Also, the end is important in all things. So take time to celebrate the ending. Reading Material The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene - http://amzn.to/2fz2CRa The Five Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman - http://amzn.to/2g3FTAz Get in Touch with Our Guests www.BoormanCounseling.com www.TheFringyBit.com
127 | Running Routines and the Drive to Be a Better Dad This week’s guest, Andrew Wilcox is the creator of “Eat Live Dream ADD”, a blog about his experiences living with ADHD. It explores topics such as routine, exercise, running, health & wellness, motivation, fear, acceptance, self-loathing, sex, emotions, adult tantrums, relationships and parenting. Andrew is married and a father of three and the only person in his home diagnosed with ADHD. He was diagnosed at age 5 and took Ritalin on and off for most of his life until he was 28 and made the decision to regulate his ADHD through coffee, exercise and routine. Medication: Having been diagnosed with ADHD at a very young age and having to take medication to manage it left a big impression on Andrew and his views towards medication. He tells the story of how he was shamed by a teacher in front of his whole class for failing to understand a math problem and then thrown out of class when he retaliated. Being singled out for being different from his peers and constantly being judged for it made him make the connection that medication was bad. After suddenly quitting medication at the age of 17, his life began to take a downward spiral until a friend intervened and had an honest conversation with him. His father offered him a place to stay and to get him back on medication. Recognizing this as “fork in the road moment”, he got back on medication and began to piece his life together. Today it has been 7 years since he has given up medication in favor of managing ADHD through exercise, coffee and a routine. He has at this time, made the conscious decision that while medication can be effective for some individuals, he will choose a different path to regulating his ADHD. Regarding medication, Andrew believes that just as it is important to wean yourself off medication when you decide to stop taking it, it is important to get back on it gradually. He also believes that our bodies will take some time to adjust to the dosage and not giving up during this transition period is key to making the medication work for you. Routine: According to Andrew the hardest thing about staying on an exercise routine is (1) allowing yourself to have an “off” day where you choose to do a less intense version of your regular workout (2) stop beating yourself up when you do break the routine and instead channel that frustration into your workout when you get back into it. Coaching: In the coaching segment of the show, Andrew talks about how in the face of a stressful situation he is likely to react poorly and he would like to work on keeping this reaction in check. An example of this situation is when Andrew is trying to get his two daughters to bed. How can he keep himself from letting stress takeover in such a situation? Eric gave him the following strategies to help manage this: Consider that in a scale of 0 – 10, your current stress levels have not gone beyond 6. This is a good time to use logic and reason to bring yourself back. A meditation/mindfulness practice will allow you to put yourself in the observer position and slow down. Have a conversation with your family and come up with a code word that can help you recognize your increasing stress levels in a situation. Channel your physical energy into exercise. Remove yourself from the situation Allow yourself to make mistakes and forgive yourself when you do have a slip-up. Come up with creative solutions to get the children to bed: different schedules for both kids, a 1 minute dance party, collaborating with them to come with a solution that works and reviewing this from time to time. Andrew will follow up with Eric in 2 weeks to talk about how he is using these strategies to manage his stress reaction. Experience the ADHD reWired Study Halls for FREE! 8th August, 2016 and 15th August, 2016 at 12:30 pm CDT More information on our website: ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Group Reserve your registration call for the Fall Session of the group! Registration will be open for 8 days only: August 22nd to 27th and 29th to 31st ADHD reWired Tech eCourses and Mini Workshops Tell us what technology or tool you would like to learn about: Complete our 3 minute survey below and you can win free coaching, a $50 gift card to Amazon or your preferred app store or a productivity mystery box. Reach Andrew Wilcox: Blog: Twitter: @ZillaDrew Facebook: Eat Live Dream ADHD Books mentioned during this episode: The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children – Ross W. Greene PhD Get this title through my Audible.com affiliate link:
Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., helps parents understand the root causes of ADHD children's behavior problems at school, why time-outs and sticker charts don't work, and suggests strategies that will bring real improvement.
Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., author of The Explosive Child, outlines positive parenting techniques that will help oppositional and defiant kids manage frustration and develop greater empathy and reasoning skills.