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Self belief come hand in hand with the ability to trust ourselves.When you lack trust, we lack connection with ourselves and the world. You shirnk, become more fearful and stop taking risks. You become stuckReclaiming your trust is about healing and becoming whole again by removing beliefs, attitudes and behaviours that damage our self belief.Believing in yourself is about reclaiming your inheritance.00:00 - Self belief is your nature00:57 - Intro01:39 - What is self belief?03:09 - Give permission to belief in yourself03:59 - Breaking the trust04:52 - Elements of Trust06:01 - What breaks trust?06:48 - Shame the enemy of trust07:19 - Self Belief is a Belief09:31 - The problem of no self belief12:11 - How do build self belief13:47 - Powerful Question 114:08 - Powerful Question 215:07 - Powerful Question 315:19 - Powerful Question 415:51 - Won't I be arrogant?17:45 - Everything is a skill20:31 - Outro

Changing beliefs can be a difficult thing. I am sharing with you a few processes so that you can work with yourself.The first thing you need for this episode is a bit of time. A lot of honesty and plenty of courage.When working with yourself it will be very easy and tempting to slip away from your own grip. Stay firm and determined in your work and you will succeed in your effort to free yourself from your own limitations.0:08 But I can't2:47 Intro3:05 Recap previous episodes5:52 Why should i work on my beliefs8:55 The self help guide to overcoming limiting beliefs.9:54 A word of warning on changing your beliefs11:50 What to do when you can't spot the belief13:24 Essential elements for creating beliefs16:57 Exercises fro transforming beliefs20:31 Identify the rules in your beliefs23:14 Fill in the belief28:04 Conclusion29:28 Let go, accept and forgive30:35 An invitation34:37 Invite37:07 OutroWorksheet: https://www.insidetreasures.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Changing-Beliefs.pdf

On our path to freedom we stumble upon an invisible limiting force. That force is often an irrational belief. A limiting belief, a negative belief.That is the thing that is keeping you from moving forward. Like the hand break in the car it can keep showing up. It can keep tripping you in ways that leave you feeling baffled. And with zero progress.This invisible force, you feel it, yet so often you are unable to understand what it is.Would you like to uncover what is lurking in the shadows. Which beliefs keep you from being you?0:07 But daddy, I can't1:51 Intro2:08 Recap3:02 Limiting and Irrational beliefs4:17 We all have limiting beliefs within us5:18 Limiting beliefs lurk in the shadows6:29 List of limiting beliefs7:15 Common irrational beliefs8:18 Uncovering irrational beliefs10:41 Uncovering an activating event16:13 Albert Elis Quote on Irrational Beliefs16:24 Conclusion20:13 Outro

This part of the year tends to be one of my favorite. Usually the time that I really enjoy is the yearend and during the summer. Starting now, starting a little bit earlier,this is about being intentional. It's about being ready.What was the thing that happened again and again that really held you back? What was the main challenge that stopped you from creating 2022 to be the year that you wanted it?It's the time that we're turning the page from what happened this year and moving you to the next year.What I want you to do is think about your life. In coaching, we have the wheel of life that has different areas of our lives. Which one do you feel that needs the most workfor you?values are an important aspect of setting our goals along with our purpose and vision. The places that we are out of alignment usually causes pain. The best way to take atemperature gauge of where you're standing is to have a look into your values.Before you set any goals, I want you to think of a theme for your year. Next year my theme is play bigger, create more, be there, more, amplify. For me, goals in the end comeout of a necessity. Choose the ones that are meaningful.This year, celebrate the good things and acknowledge the ones that drag you down. Work on your weaknesses and even progress with your strengths. Keep your goals simple andloose. This is a process that I really enjoy doing for myself and taking other people along.Chapters0:08. Fav part of the year1:22. Intro1:44. Create space3:00. Mini Meditation5:36. Gratitude7:20. Celebrate your wins8:40. Main challenge9:55. What did you learn from this10:20 Goal Setting, Problem solving11:08 Wheel of life14:20 Values15:44 Goals: Setting yourself up to succeed17:51 Theme your year20:14 Power of one goal21:03 Accomplishing your one goal21:50 Why is your goal so important to you?22:56 Breath life into your goals25:16 Who do you need to be?27:20 Next steps29:28 Conclusion33:51 One to One Opportunity35:16 Outro

Rational beliefs are the type of beliefs that enable us to operate in an empowered way. We all have them.Would you like to find out:How you can identify them?How to reawaken them?How you can strengthen them?How to apply them in a different area of your life?Then this episode is definitely for you.0:07 How empowering beliefs help me in life2:27 Intro2:57 Recap4:20 Empowering beliefs exist within you5:12 Your beliefs might be dormant7:43 Examples of empowering beliefs8:23 Creating empowering beliefs12:54 Rational Beliefs brings good results13:02 Conclusion16:40 Outro

Beliefs are part of our operating system. Understanding where they come from, how they are created and how they affect us is a crucial element to our work.In this episode you will find out the difference between Facts and Beliefs. You will get empowered to create change and growth in your life. Where there were obstacles you will now see the way through.This episode will show you how beliefs get in the way of your journey or how they are the wind in your sail. It will help you to navigate the waters of life. with more certainty and understanding of yourself.After awareness, comes ownership. And then choice emerges. With choice there is power!0:07 How beliefs show up0:48 Intro1:08 Facts, vs Beliefs: What are beliefs2:45 Examples of Beliefs3:47 Beliefs are everywhere!5:04 Beliefs shape your life and reality8:03 How are beliefs created?9:03 We adopt the beliefs of others9:38 Strong emotions create beliefs9:54 The ABC Model11:09 Taking ownership of our beliefs and letting go13:23 Positive beliefs (Empowering beliefs), Negative, Limiting (Irrational beliefs)14:36 Self judgement16:30 In Conclusion18:21 Outro

Online Course: https://www.insidetreasures.com/finding-stillness/The importance of stillness can not be underrated.  Stillness can help you to feel more connected with yourself, the world and those around you.Through this episode we will explore together some ways in which I help others to find the stillness within.Show notes:0:07 Story Intro1:50 Story3:20 Stillness is always within your reach4:15 Reaching Stillness through meditation and coaching7:46 Mind-Body Connection9:46 How I help others to find stillness12:26 Create your world from a place of stillness and presence14:37 Outro 

All the theory around our human needs has been amazing to share.  The truth is, if we stay on that level of theory, then it won't be of much use to you.I dedicate this whole episode to you.  To help you find which needs are important to you. To find the needs that light you up.  The ones that make you come alive.  And also the ones that make you feel "dead" inside.  As we discussed before, it is about understanding ourselves, catering for our well being.  Understanding the reason we often behave the way that we do.⬇️ Download PDF: https://www.insidetreasures.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Understanding-your-needs.pdf0:07 Opening0:42 Intro1:03 Which human needs are important for you?1:49 Understand yourself2:31 List of human needs4:13 What are your top 3 needs?5:13 Question 25:13 Prioritise your needs6:35 Why are these needs so important?7:51 How do you usually fulfil these needs?8:34 What happens when your needs go unattended?9:30 Which one of your main needs requires your attention?12:48 What do you need to do specifically to meet your need?13:28 Discovering ourselves in a deeper level14:05 What need does this positive behaviour fulfil?14:21 What need does this unhelpful behaviour fulfil?14:33 Flipping unhelpful behaviours15:59 What did you learn from this?16:41 Find fulfilment in everything that you do17:03 Make the unconscious, conscious17:56 Outro❤️ Donate at: https://www.insidetreasures.com/donate/ 

If there is one thing I want you to take out of this episode, it is that:No one is here to fulfil your own needs apart from your own self. It is your duty to do that. That duty will pay dividends into how good you feel about yourself.0:07 Number one rule1:03 Intro1:23 1 rule when it comes to needs3:01 Your Human Needs in summary5:25 Why it is important to meet your needs?6:18 Why its your responsibility to look after your needs?10:34 Become proactive and aware with your needs14:20 Your ego lurking in the dark – and the law of reciprocation16:18 How to feel fulfilled18:58 Conclusion25:23 Outro

The Human Givens model has been the most thorough model on needs that I have found. It is certainly not the last one. The model has been build upon researching and thoroughly understanding what it is that makes us humans.According to the Human Givens approach we have needs and innate resources that we are constantly utilising in order to adapt in an ever changing world.1:44 Emotional needs and well being3:18 Human Givens Needs3:36 Safety3:56 Attention5:25 Sense of autonomy and control8:51 Emotional Intimacy9:38 Part of wider community10:23 Privacy11:45 Status within a social group12:05 Sense of competence and achievement12:41 Meaning & Purpose14:05 Summary of Human Givens needs14:32 Closing thoughts15:44 Quote16:38 Your chance to create your personal vision for next year19:30 Outro***Claim your free coaching session at: https://www.insidetreasures.com/book-a-call-with-phoebus/Donate at: https://www.insidetreasures.com/donate/

In this episode you will have a different view into our fundamental needs.We don't always fulfill our needs in a positive way but we are always looking for ways to fulfill them.In this episode we will explore different perspective into needs. Notice the similarities into Maslow's Hierarchy of needs and develop a deeper understanding in what makes us tick.0:08 Intro Story1:03 Intro1:21 Perspectives give insights1:55 Our motive to fulfil our needs2:15 6 Human needs2:26 Certainty2:54 Uncertainty/Variety3:23 Significance4:04 Connection and Love4:49 Growth5:25 Contribution6:20 Summary7:39 How can you benefit from this episode?9:11 Quote and ending9:25 Eudaimonia10:22 OutroDonate to support the Inside Treasures Podcast:  https://www.insidetreasures.com/donate/ 

In the next few episode we will be going over a few different models of primary Needs.These episodes will guide you through your own needs and help you to pinpoint which one of these needs are important for you.In this episode we will focus on Abraham Malslow's model, called the Hierarchy of Needs. A triangle representing different variations of needs that lead us to the need to self-actualise.0:08 The first time I saw Abraham Maslow's pyramid of needs0:48 Intro1:00 Welcome to Season 32:05 Why are needs important?3:07 Context into Maslow and the Humanistic Approach3:52 What does it mean to be self-actualised?5:14 A high level view of Maslow's Pyramid of Needs6:20 The Physiological needs7:04 The need for Safety8:38 The need for Love9:58 The need for Esteem11:06 Need to Self-actualize12:18 Summary14:22 Maslow's Quote: What a man can be, he must be.14:30 Apply this episode to your life14:53 Outro

Closing a door is a simple notion, it is about leaving things behind and moving on. Many times in life though, things don't work that way.In this episode we will explore what is it that creates this lack of movement on our part. What is keeping us stuck?Make sure you stick with the episode as I will give you a powerful strategy to make decisions and stick with them.Now, you can listen to this episode and close the doors that you need to in order to be free from the past.When that other door opens you will be ready!0:07 Closing a door0:35 Stuck between worlds3:09 Lucky Luke & the Daltons4:09 Where does indecision stem from?6:02 Connecting with our intuition10:29 A strategy to make decisions15:43 Napoleon Hill Quote16:26 Closing thoughts19:18 What door must you close?20:18 End of season 220:3 OutroShow your support at: https://www.insidetreasures.com/donate/

It's not the thought that counts! It's how we react to the thought that we just had.As humans we have the tendency to attach to certain thoughts more so than others. While our automatic thinking goes about in our day to day we end up with some thoughts that get our attention.After we hear them or see them in our mind, we often create a label for it. We judge it! We add meaning to it. We say, that was a bad thought!That's where the dance begins, but how can you end the dance with grace?To find out, listen to this episode.0:08 Story about Leo Tolstoy0:44 Intro0:57 Proverb: Idle man's mind is the devils workshop1:19 What are intrusive thoughts1:55 How thoughts work2:33 Thoughts are real to us3:28 Where do intrusive thoughts show up?3:58 What matters is how you react to a thought4:31 Controlled vs automatic thinking6:00 How not to deal with intrusive thoughts8:22 How to manage intrusive thoughts9:48 Mindfulness: Learn to observe without judgement10:13 No such thing as a bad thought – let go of labeling10:54 Summarise dealing with intrusive thoughts11:27 Fall in love with Giraffes12:04 Giraffes reflection13:00 Outro

In the “Always On” culture of grinding and making sure things get done, we lose touch with reality. We lose touch with ourselves and the things that our important.We run out of juice and become unable to do even the most basic tasks.Burn out is a real thing and it is affecting you more that you know. Being consistent is a way to move things forward but without the use of breaks we soon start to slow down and become dull.We have been taught to keep a focus mind in order to be able to achieve things in life. But what if there was something more, something different that could actually give our zest back.Join me on this episode and get an insight into the ups and downs of productivity.0:08 Consistency and productivity are great but not the only thing0:35 Intro0:47 A story about finding solutions1:52 Do this to be more productive1:52 Subconscious mind3:05 Mind: Expansive vs Focus3:53 “Always on” culture4:12 Burn out effect4:38 Combat burn out by creating intentional space in your day and as part of your life5:28 Get back your zest5:44 Polarity (Productivity vs Breaks)7:18 Cement your growth by taking breaks7:36 Reflect on your breaks8:07 In Summary9:09 Outro

0:08 Intro2:33 Authority figures & Locus of control3:21 Stop looking for authority figures3:42 You are the authority in your life3:53 Beauty of owning our own decisions4:30 In life there are no guarantees5:02 Why start if there are no guarantees?5:12 Attached to results5:27 Looking for reassurance5:54 Why doesn’t it need to work out?6:09 We grow by experience6:25 Build certainty in yourself7:16 With experience there is challenge7:46 You still succeed in a personal level8:01 Risk creates fear and thrill8:27 Get feedback but also hold ownership8:38 Build character and confidence8:57 Circle of growth9:11 Kill procrastination9:46 The faster you act the sooner you ll learn9:54 How our emotions and thoughts get in the way10:24 Illustrating thoughts descending to materialise in action10:40 Forget why11:41 Leap to the in unknown11:45 Two basic beliefs that will propel you11:53 You can figure it out12:25 I can handle what comes my way13:32 Leap forward into the unknown with these 2 beliefs13:44 Find certainty from within13:52 You are able and capable to do what it is that you want to be doing14:03 Seth Godin Quote14:17 Thank you

In this episode, we are focusing on judging a message vs the messenger who delivered it. There are times that great messages come from people that we don’t think highly off.The reason at times is because this person might have a specific weakness which we don’t agree with. under that light we stigmatise this person and define them to be that bad behaviour.The problem with that is that it reflects backwards in us. It shows that we don’t have much tolerance for others and that means we don’t have much tolerance for ourselves.We define others by a certain behaviour, that means that we define ourselves by certain behaviours as well. That can create great limits on how we perceive ourselves and others.0:06 Story about Alan Watts Interview1:10 Intro1:23 Does this message work for you2:25 Acceptance vs Agreement3:18 Judgement and Self-perception5:05 There are many sides to us that make us complex6:08 Hypocrisy, Honesty, Double standards and Authenticity7:43 Summary8:35 Quote8:41 Outro

Becoming time rich is about creating space intentionally in order to taste life. In this episode we will cover a few basic things that we can all do to be more in control of our life.0:07 Welcome0:20 How can you become time rich0:36 Take breaks0:55 By being present we create time1:13 Choose space, create intentional space1:55 Let go of things2:24 Be assertive with your time3:36 Be mindful, be still, you will be time rich4:25 What’s the point if we never have the time4:34 Here and now boys, Aldous Huxley4:44 Outro

What is our life other than a collection of events in life. Moments stacked up together forming our past, all coming together in the now.Time is a concept that has captured the imagination of many. Discussed to a great length both philosophically and scientifically. How often do we actually though speak about how we experience time.Our perception of time is not static, it is changing throughout the day depending on what we are doing but most importantly on how we are feeling.0:07 Carl Jung Quote0:29 Welcome0:47 My story with time2:50 How I started being better with time3:04 Make it important to be on time3:33 Tip: Rush early4:35 Our perception of time6:49 Mind can compress time7:20 Emotion is linked with time9:10 There is only the now9:56 Our thoughts and emotions move us out of the now10:40 Push your urges aside10:56 The past and the future11:28 The future12:29 Conclusion13:17 Jim Rohn Quote13:27 Stop selling the now in favour of yesterday or tomorrow13:35 Outro

There are three main elements in achieving any goal. Tune into this episode and figure out:How to build belief in yourself and your goals.How to break the spell of procrastinationWhere you need to be spending most of your time in order to succeed with your goalWhy you need to be looking at yourself in the mirror? (metaphorically speaking)0:07 Intro0:29 In the previous episode0:54 In this episode1:00 Belief, Action and feedback1:39 Belief1:45 How do you perceive yourself? Do you believe in yourself and your abilities?2:28 Limiting beliefs will affect your performance2:44 You can’t run with an iron ball chained to your leg3:01 We can cultivate belief3:42 What are some ways that we can build belief3:49 Auto suggestions4:31 What are auto suggestions, the effects in ourselves4:53 Develop affirmations5:37 What’s your belief balance? How many beliefs in your piggy bank?5:48 Visualisation for building beliefs7:00 Visualise the process not just the result7:26 Use the systems in place. How we experience the world7:50 Action8:00 Just start now8:33 Break the spell of avoidance and fear by starting8:58 Action feed into belief9:06 Build belief by acting9:32 Cumulative consistency9:41 Action feeds into belief10:22 Carve time and make things important enough11:14 Create boundaries and deadlines11:54 Make a plan and schedule12:08 What are the key activities that help us with our goal12:37 Building a process and a habit13:56 Feedback15:11 Your torch can only light as far15:48 Feedback with Accountability16:11 What are your obstacles and challenges, resistance, friction16:39 Keeping track of your progress18:01 To summarise18:43 Outro

For many years, I failed at my goals. I kept setting them up but nothing was happening for me.In this episode, I will take you over some of my personal struggles and blind spots. The aim is to help you achieve your goals without having to go through these hardships.These have been blind spots in my progress. Avoid making the same mistakes like I did and move forward with your goals.0:07 Opening0:30 Intro0:46 In this episode0:56 Fallacy #1: Bucket list1:54 Go on a goal diet2:03 Fallacy #2 Goal competition3:27 Fallacy #3: Wishful thinking4:11 Goals have a price to pay4:52 Fallacy #4: Lack of belief5:34 Am I worth to have this, self-sabotage6:14 Power of small action6:48 Fallacy #5 when7:21 Fallacy #6 over planning8:24 Travelling between two cities9:17 Focus on the next step9:30 Fallacy #7 Lack of feedback10:09 Working in silos doesn’t work11:49 Fallacy #8: Comfort12:22 What you don’t want to do is what you do need to do12:59 Fallacy #9: Vagueness13:34 Fallacy #10: Ego13:54 Be satisfied with where you are14:30 I accept and I am very grateful of where I am today14:36 Summary15:06 You have enough in your life15:21 Outro

Have you ever thought why goals matter for your growth?Goals will without a doubt create more clarity in your life. They will help you focus on what you want and lead you to change.Whether we like it or not we are actually always setting goal. Whether we want to travel or whether we are planning our day we are setting goals.This is not what this episode is all about. Join me in this episode and discover how you can better understand yourself with the use of goals.0:08 Intro0:38 Why do goals matter1:26 When can you set your goals?2:09 Goals guide us through life with clarity3:28 Goals reveal your character4:18 Goals will bring up emotions and fears4:42 Growth mindset5:03 What kind of beliefs do I have about my goals?5:23 Two keys to your succeed with your goals: Boundaries and Accountability5:40 Self-worth6:27 Locus of control7:08 Cause and Effect7:20 Create some new causes7:43 Create goals form a space of love, flexibility and acceptance8:17 Deep down we remain the same8:59 Life is a raging bull9:19 Create life or life will create you9:40 Goals homework10:11 Outro

Over the holidays I had the opportunity to spend time with my family. In one of those moments a thought came to my mind that changes how I look at life.Join me in this episode to find out why being present in life is important for you.0:07 Intro1:20 Life will never be the same again2:00 The eternal now2:23 What happens when we are present2:59 Focus3:53 Take hold of your focus4:07 Process of thought and fleeting mind4:32 The mind is like water4:46 Mindfulness5:18 How can I be present?6:03 Vanishing reality6:53 Taking time for gratitude7:11 What are your highlights?8:09 But aren’t I avoid the present>?9:04 Cultivate the will to be present, it’s a skill9:49 Guard your focus and attention10:03 Outro

Have you ever wondered how you look at things? How these things that you look at actually make you behave in a certain way?In this episode we will talk about perspective. What it is and how it affects the way that we live.Perspective is malleable it is a choice, more often than not an unconscious one that drives our life.Listen to this episode and discover the one question that can help shift things around for you.0:06 Intro1:31 Wayne Dyer quote1:37 Windsurfing2:43 What is perspective3:14 We have to change our perspective3:41 Logic in perspective4:57 Skewed and adjusting perspectives5:42 Let go of perspective6:00 How else could I see this?6:36 Allow a new reality to take place7:18 The reason this works8:16 Anais Quote9:04 In conclusion, become more aware of the narratives9:20 Why am I telling you this again?10:09 As Marcus Aurelius said10:28 Outro

Resilience is more than the ability to bounce back. It is also our capacity to adapt in the face of challenging circumstances, whilst having a stable mental well being. Resilience isn't a personality trait – it's something that we can all cultivate.Discover the fundamental belief that can guide your resilience and perseverance. Listen to this episode today.0:06 Intro1:04 Childhood story1:50 Story lesson2:15 Starting over2:35 Be stupid and humble2:50 How kids learn to walk and what you can learn from that3:10 Be careful of your ego3:38 Learn from the process4:25 Notice the feedback and use it to your advantage5:03 Recruit help5:19 Are you stubbing your toe every night?6:00 Develop a thick skin6:11 Cultivate foundational belief for growth7:05 Teach this one thing to your children8:01 All problems have a solution8:12 Self esteem and worth will grow8:25 You can withstand anything that comes your way8:57 Pretend everything is an experiment9:05 Confucius9:16 Post summary conclusion, take away9:45 Cultivate resiliency10:16 Outro

Making plans is part of our human nature, whether we are into productivity skills or not. We make plans. Plans that we hope will work out. When they don’t we get trapped in our ego. We begin to get tormented by our own expectations, by our own thoughts and emotions.The problem arises from our expectations and how we think that everything will work out in our way. This is true even from the most pessimistic people amongst us.When we have this skewed idea that things will either work or not work we enter the black and white thinking. The kind of thinking that keeps our emotional brain engaged and keeps us from moving forward.The process of changing our attitude and perspective starts with understanding what is going on. It starts with noticing the shades of grey.Join me in this episode and learn what you can do to move past the rut and into your power.00:06 Intro00:33 Welcome00:46 Simon Sinek quote01:09 My week and how I came up with this story01:36 Perfectionistic view of the present02:04 Black and white thinking02:11 Start to reflect02:17 Why is reflection so important02:40 Change meaning and attitude02:55 1. Acknowledge it03:52 Is this realistic or Perfectionistic04:25 2. Accept it05:47 3. Learn from it07:05 4. Be grateful07:19 5. How do we get out of this?07:39 Summary08:40 Be understanding and compassionate09:07 Everything in life is an opportunity to learn09:51 Take a step back and see things from afar10:18 Start riding the waves of life10:35 Michael Jordan Quote10:44 Outro

Do you find yourself consuming self-help materials but never getting to achieve any change in your life? Then this episode is for you!In this episode we are going to talk about:Why self-help appears to be useful but most often isn't.When and how self-help can help youThe trap to avoid when consuming self-helpHow the ego tricks you in believing you are progressingThe benefits of getting helpWhat are some solid foundations of healing, changing and growingListen to the episode (10 min)This is the first episode of season 2! The intention for this season it to have short actionable episodes that give more value to you while they take less of your time.0:08 Intro1:32 Self-help appears to be useful1:38 When did self-help books help me2:04 Fallacies of self-help books2:07 Getting lost in the knowledge2:36 How can you apply this knowledge?3:29 Pride of the ego4:02 Most successful have coaches, mentors4:29 What are the benefits of getting help?4:49 3rd Perspective5:44 Accountable6:12 Lean against your weak spots6:54 Through friction and pain we get growth7:06 Going to the dentist7:16 Reddit story7:38 Solid foundations of change, healing and growing7:52 Be responsible8:12 Good old work8:34 Self-help is first aid, getting help is open heart surgery8:54 In this episode we talked about?9:05 Zig Ziglar Quote9:28 Outro

What’s the one thing that is constantly taking place within our mind and is affecting our emotions?Our thoughts…We voice our thoughts through talking to ourselves. That voice has certain qualities, that voice carries certain messages. That conversation, we call it self-talk or inner dialogue.When it comes to our emotions, we need to understand that we have a choice. Yes, emotions and thoughts can pass through our mind very quickly. There is not much we can do about that event. But there is plenty that we can do afterwards.In this episode we are going to talk about:The effects of negative self-talk in your psychologyThe 2 elements that affect the quality of our emotions and thoughtsWhat you need to give to yourself in order to look after your well-beingHow to control your consciousness and direct it towards a more positive dialogueOur inner self at times is like a kid that fell and scraped its knees. Let’s give ourselves the gift of warmth, love and support. Encourage our self to move on, to forget, to smile. And finally to go out and play once again.You can now find the podcast on iTunes, Spotify andGoogle Podcast0:07 How you use your voice and what you tell yourself0:35 Intro1:16 How we experience the world,1:42 NLP and Auditory Sub-modalities (Pace, Tone)3:04 Tone carries meaning3:07 Message and Tone3:19 Change the message or the tone and change your emotions4:17 Spiral of negative self-talk5:10 Cause & Effect5:23 The Kettle analogy5:53 Thoughts and emotions are chains7:01 The Roller Coaster effect7:55 Become more aware of your internal voice8:58 Thank yourself9:15 Give yourself a new direction9:37 Smashing windows11:25 Start somewhere12:20 What is the message this thing is trying to tell me?12:54 Thanking yourself for being aware13:12 What emotions do you rather have?13:24 Give yourself what you need, look after your well-being13:49 How would you speak to someone you are supporting?13:56 Identify what is but focus on what you want15:14 To summarise the process (Awareness, Thanks, New direction)16:18 In conclusion18:15 Confucius Quote18:25 Need help?18:39 End of season 119:07 Outro

Do you find yourself starting and stopping? Does it feel like you are chasing you tail? Do you feel that every time you have some progress you end up where you started?In this episode you will learn:How to break the cycle of starting overWhat to do when you fail in your effort to changeHow to use your failure as fuel to your progressHow your compass of why and where can help you start over fasterYou can now find the podcast on iTunes, Spotify andGoogle Podcast0:25 In this episode0:38 Intro0:52 What it takes to move forward1:20 Stop chasing your tail and moving in circles1:43 Learn to break the cycle by starting2:44 Are you demoralising yourself when you fail?3:01 Learn to be consistent and positive even in failure3:11 Get back on the bike5:28 Break and create consistency6:10 Change comes with resistance6:50 Replace old behaviours with new ones7:16 What is your why? Why are you moving forward and why are you stopping?7:50 Pain and fear can be a motivator or a deterrent8:11 What are your obstacles?10:21 Life isn’t perfect (Perfectionism)11:03 Positive self talk11:24 Avoid focusing on the drawbacks too much11:46 Focus on where you are heading and your progress12:42 Use your self-talk to your advantage and benefit12:48 What do babies and learning how to walk have to do with your growth?13:34 Don’t focus on the falling, focus on the walking!13:43 Admire your progress because without the forward you would have made it through14:13 Learn to be content with where you are14:56 In summary16:15 Keep pushing forward16:45 This too shall pass17:15 Churchill quote17:48 Sign off

Do you remember the last time you were watching a movie? An action movie, or a horror movies. The music leads you into deeper into the scene. Heightening your attention, the scenes begin to change swiftly. You are sitting at the edge of your seat waiting. Your heart begins to race. Your breathing changes, it becomes more rapid. You are tensing your muscles.Then suddenly…Have you ever noticed what happens to your body and your mind when you watch a movie?Our thoughts, emotions and beliefs are affecting our body and our well-being all the time. The mind-body connection a 100% real. We often hear about the mind-body connection in psychosomatic illnesses. But does it all have to be dark and gloomy?Is there any benefit to the mind-body connection? Is there anything you can do to benefit your well-being? Can we actually get better quicker by using the mind?Listen and find out how to use your body and your mind to your benefit.You can now find the podcast on iTunes, Spotify andGoogle Podcast00:10 Intro00:27 Healthy Mind, Healthy Body00:34 The link between the mind and the body00:56 What is the mind body connection?01:10 Mind and body is a two way street01:24 Our thoughts, emotions and beliefs are affecting our body02:09 Why is the mind body connection important?02:16 Increase your awareness in our emotions and thoughts03:03 We can use body to relax the mind and mind to relax the body03:32 How we experience emotions and thoughts in our body04:26 Having awareness of our own tensions05:44 How can the mind-body affect our life in a negative way?07:56 Stress affects our entire body09:33 How can we benefit from the mind-body connection09:49 Learn to relax your body11:24 Breathing affects our heart and cardiovascular activity11:51 When we relax we go to rest and digest, healing takes place12:45 Find the space to call home14:53 In Conclusion15:34 What other healthy ways can you find to change the way you feel - when you need to17:15 Be firm, alert and aware17:41 Doing the things that put us in balance18:03 Don't expect to be in balance to get in balance, do the things and you ll get balance18:48 Nietzsche Quote19:10 Outro

Our body is a complex system. It tries to maintain balance. One of the primary systems is the Automatic Nervous System (ANS).Why talk about the ANS? Our ANS has control over the flight or fight response (The sympathetic system). The way we live, the kind of stimulus we have, activates the fight or flight far more often than any other time in the history. We run our system to the ground by living in a fast pace world full of demands and stressors. As a result our mind and body wear down.We lose our well-being.There is another system in place as a balancing factor to the fight or flight response. We call it the parasympathetic system where we get to rest, digest and heal. The keyword here for us is to heal.If we want to improve our mental and physical health. Improve our well-being we got to find ways to switch off the alarms and allow ourselves to be.What we need is to help ourselves find that space in time. That space to reflect to be calm and peaceful.It's never been more crucial for us to make that time to calm our mind and body down. The healing then takes place automatically in all levels.You can now find the podcast on iTunes, Spotify andGoogle Podcast0:09 Intro0:22 The Emotional Brain0:30 The Automatic Nervous System0:48 Why talk about the Automatic Nervous System (ANS)0:59 We live an unbalanced life1:11 We need to calm and relax more (Entering the parasympathetic system more)1:26 ANS: Primary control Fight or flight and regulating the body2:05 ANS: Sympathetic system and Parasympathetic2:09 Sympathetic: fight or flight2:19 Parasympathetic: Rest, Digest & Heal2:29 Dance and balance of 2 systems3:14 Characteristics of sympathetic system4:03 When we are calm we heal5:06 Both system are there for balance5:10 Running our systems to the ground5:26 There is no difference between real imminent danger vs imaginary danger5:35 Driving the car to the edge5:59 From physical threat to mental threat6:54 Fight or flight is meant to be short lived8:53 Mind body connection9:07 How we experience the world9:36 Allow healing to take place9:45 You are safe10:00 Emotional brain can fire from within10:34 Breathing is key12:12 Allowing ourselves to heal12:42 Outro

Imagine a life without emotions, a cold, dull and logical life. How boring would that be? Now imagine a life where emotions run your every action without any logic. How dangerous could that be?In this episode we will talk about the emotional brain. We will understand the power of emotion. Emotion can help us experience and come in contact with the world. Emotions are a great blessing but they can also prove to be a threat. A threat to whom?To ourselves and others – the ones you deeply love and care so much about.Getting highly emotional inhibits our thinking brain, we stop being rational. We all have seen ourselves and others act with emotion. Doing things they wouldn’t normally do, saying things they never meant. There is a physiological reason behind this.Next time you get too emotional remember to:-Become Aware (yup, awareness shows up here again)Experience your experience, feel it, embrace it, notice it, notice your thoughts. Don’t fight, don’t run, don’t try to figure out why – just be. By experiencing it and being aware you will find a sense of calm. Once you are calm do something that puts you in balance.Now that your brain is fully functioning again, self reflect.When I get too emotional, I rather wait and not react. I rather leave things and think them over when my brain is working. It is not because I am running away from things, it’s a conscious choice. I don’t like damaging myself or others in the process of emotional arousal. I am not always successful by the way…Yes there will be times we need to be assertive and set our boundaries in the moment. There will be times that emotions get the best of us. But don’t allow the heat of the moment carry you away.Remember to use emotion… but don’t let your emotions use you. Use emotion constructively and many doors will open for you.0:08 Intro0:21 The Emotional Brain1:29 Emotion can be a great ally but also an enemy1:43 Simple anatomy of the brain3:04 How we experience the world (link)3:54 Emotion precedes thought4:17 Powers of amygdala5:02 Higher the emotional arousal the more closed the brain gets5:45 Black and White Thinking8:18 Emotions stops us from thinking8:34 Why me, spiral down9:03 Identify emotional brain by the catastrophic thinking9:21 How can I calm myself down10:06 Awareness11:18 Experience it go into it11:38 Remember the things that put you in balance12:31 Post event reflection13:20 Speak to emotion with emotion13:44 Use your senses to achieve peace15:10 Summary15:59 In Conclusion16:45 Avoid acting when emotional17:01 Leave things for a while17:34 We can be spontaneous but not to our expense18:37 Emotions are great19:59 Outro

Change and adaptability are crucial to our survival. Learning how to change on purpose can do wonders in your life.When we talk about change work we often find ourselves getting excited and wanting to change. As our excitement deflates and our motivation gets drained we get the yo-yo effect. Back to square one where it all started.Or you might enter the zone of fear, insecurity and doubt. Finding yourself avoiding the change you crave so badly. These emotions can keep you stuck for years.Sounds familiar?By listening to this episode you will learn about the power of acting small while being consistent.Long lasting change starts a day at a time, by taking small actions that can propel us forward. When we do small changes we build that confidence in ourselves. We feel more supported and safe.Waiting for the perfect moment is another way to avoid change. Only when X happens and only when the planets align then and only then I will be able to change.The fallacy of postponing our happiness to a future event that never comes. It never comes because we haven’t learned to experience it today as a reality.Acting small is about finding something very little that you can do towards the change that you want.Find something small to do, get competent with it and then raise the bar.You can now find the podcast on iTunes, Spotify andGoogle Podcast0:10 Intro0:27 What is acting small0:57 Make small and consistent changes1:31 Long lasting change2:04 Resistance of ego2:17 The ego’s role is to keep the homoeostasis3:08 Mind fear and insecurity5:26 Build confidence and competence by acting small6:04 Doubt creates Fear, Fear creates insecurity9:02 Acting big stops us dead on our tracks9:41 Refreshing your pond13:33 Small changes are achievable today15:44 The size of change is relative to your psychology16:21 Put self in uncomfortable situation16:36 Repetition is key to change17:33 In Summary18:35 Yoyo-effect19:20 Internal Thermostat20:25 Dealing with Addiction a step at a time like Russel Brand21:35 Pick something today taht you want to change in your life22:55 Outro

The growth mindset is a concept that we can fit into many different areas of our lives. Listening to ideas is great but most importantly we need to integrate ideas into our daily life.On this episode we get to use our knowledge from the last episode with an exercise.From the exercise we will get to:Find proof that things in our life have always changedIdentify what are 3 things that you want to changeWrite down 3 small actions that we can do to accomplish the changeYou will also find a Bonus affirmation that you can use daily for your personal growth.By finding references of change, we give birth to the belief that change is possible. Pair belief with Awareness and consistent action you get to experience change. You will feel more in control of your life. From there you can allow your potential to unfold.You can now find the podcast on iTunes, Spotify andGoogle Podcast.0:10 Intro0:32 Last Episode0:55 In this episode0:57 Exercise1:17 Part 1 (3 things that have changed)1:45 Get convinced change is possible1:56 Look at others if you can't2:05 Part 22:32 Things can change3:52 Building Awareness of when4:46 There must be a way4:51 Change to what? Moving to vision and goals5:26 Act small6:06 Is the pain I endure worth it?6:30 Feel the pain, rise up to it and deal with it6:47 Inevitability of change7:07 Use faith7:16 Notice your life change7:36 James Allen Quote7:56 Outro

In this episode we will dive into Carol Dweck's concept from her psychological research at Stanford University. It ties in nicely with the last episode on locus of control (Controlling what we can)Fixed vs Growth MindsetFixed: You are who you are, and there isn’t much you can do about itGrowth: Belief you can cultivate your qualities through effort, everyone can change and grow through application and experienceDepending on the task at hand we favour one mindset over the other. Our work will be about uncovering when we operate from a fixed mindset. How we can challenge that and use the growth mindset to our advantage.Our beliefs and mindset can dictate our life. They are powerful. By challenging them we can build hope and reclaim our control to stir our life to a better direction.Do a change ever so slightly and see how your confidence changes. See yourself grow before your very eyes. Do it once and then repeat it again and again. You build an avalanche of small tiny changes. When you add things up they have power. A grain of sand has tiny weight, but if you keep adding grains of sand you will soon have something very heavy.0:09 Intro0:31 In the last episode0:49 In this episode0:59 Henry ford quote1:07 Growth Mindset1:20 What is the fixed mindset2:01 What is growth mindset3:49 Why Should we care about growth mindset4:54 Excusing our narrative and living by it5:52 Heraclitus & Inevitability of Change7:24 Change reaction and attachment7:34 Post hypnotic suggestions8:42 Being in the back seat9:49 This too shall change10:30 Building hope10:49 It will stop when we die12:23 Identifying and attaching to a fake self13:24 Hate the sin not the sinner16:03 How can I change this idea that I am no good16:19 Mindfulness helps us see emotions and thoughts as events17:00 To Summarise: Attitude, belief and hope18:09 Move to growth mindset with deliberate change19:01 Will it be hard?19:20 Make tiny minute changes20:20 Avalanche effect20:25 Grains of sand21:02 Help your mind grow by the way you use it21:09 Outro

Life comes with its ups and downs. When we begin to notice our day to day life, we see that there are moments that we feel in control and there are moments that we don't feel we have control. Our life can easily spiral down and get out of hand.Controlling your life comes with the understanding of a basic truth. A truth that was taught by Epictetus almost 2000 years ago.Some things are within our control, and some things are not.An easy concept to grasp but harder to practice. The reason is that there are a lot of grey areas that we think we can't control but we actually can. There are also things we are trying to control that are beyond our control.Join me on this episode and discover how you can unmask your ego. Find the truth behind the things you can truly control. Why?To regain control of yourself and your life every single day. Remember to ask yourself, "What can I control?"0:09 Intro0:33 Heart of stoicism0:45 Epictetus Quote1:11 How can you take control of your life1:13 Locus of Control2:27 Perception of control (Grey areas)2:58 Why is locus of control important3:07 Results and Expectations4:02 What can we control?4:52 Our Approach (Meaning & Intention)5:04 Rippling lake6:10 Can we control the way we react?6:38 Attaching meaning7:12 How to reframe a situation9:58 Different angle10:17 Regaining control11:17 Acceptance and non-judgement12:24 Self-Efficacy13:50 Being aware15:18 How is this showing up in your life16:34 Accept what you can't change17:18 Outro

In this episode, we will go over some of the questions that arise when we want to practice being present.We will cover one of the obstacles that we face whenever we want to make any kind of change.  That obstacle is the ego, the rebel inside every single one of us.Instead of picking a fight, we will learn to allow our ego to revolt while we stay grounded.  Notice the rebel come and go.  By allowing ourselves to rebel without rebelling we remove the influence of the ego.The key is to observe what happens within, and to continue acting as we intended.  That way our brain gets mixed messages.  We scramble the rebel while allowing it to express itself but not allowing it to stop us from progressing.Rebellion is not an enemy, it is an ally.  The friction that gets created is a stepping stone to our progress.  Without it we can't move forward.The fact that we think and feel doesn't mean we have to obey.  This is how we slowly begin to understand that we are not our thoughts nor emotions.  A fundamental key to mindfulness.  Emotions and thoughts are transient, they come and go.It's like observing cars passing outside of your window.  We are in the house, watching cars passing by.  Our fallacy is that we tend to believe we are the cars.Next time you want to meditate and you meet the rebel within you, say "Hi" from me, then act as quickly as you can.00:08 Intro01:01 How long should we meditate01:24 Consistency is key03:32 Use a timer04:56 What will you discover by practising mindfulness?05:00 Ego the Rebel06:05 Stop discussing it, get on with meditating07:03 Rebellion while meditating07:41 Drifting mind08:30 Muddy waters metaphor10:03 Build awareness in the present moment11:09 4 steps and awareness12:14 Managing your internal dialogue12:47 Conclusion13:21 Spider web analogy14:41 Allow yourself to rebel freely16:01 Be present16:09 Outro

Practicing mindfulness is one habit that can change your life significantly.  The reason is that it helps us get a clearer and sharper mind. It helps us become more sensitive to our internal and external world.  If meditating has been on your mind for a while, this is definitely the episode to listen to.  Jump on and learn how simple it is to practice mindfulness.0:08 Intro1:08 Happiest man in the world1:53 Forget about special meditations2:41 Why should you meditate?3:20 Seeing what's there3:41 Water meter story5:35 Pressing leg6:41 When to meditate8:08 How to meditate12:55 Passing clouds analogy13:13 Waves Analogy13:54 Conclusion14:56 Moving beyond obstacles15:05 Calling home15:56 Plant the seed16:07 Outro

In the previous two episodes we talked about the model of how we experience the world. The centre of those concentric circles was us. The person which we called the observer. In our experiential bubble of the world that is where everything takes place.In this episode we can learn to use mindfulness and come in contact with the world. Mindfulness is about bringing our attention to the present moment without any judgement.You may wonder, how does that help us come in contact with ourselves?By looking outside we can learn a lot form nature. We shift our attention outside of ourselves. When we do so, all the noise within tends to slow down. All the internal chatter and emotions tend to ease off. Allowing us to be free from any internal interference. Learn to look at the world with curiosity and its wisdom will shine within you.In the last episode, we talked about swapping unpleasant to pleasant experiences. One of my 3-5 things that put me in balance is to be mindful in nature – fully aware and curious.In this episode we explore the importance of a mindfulness practice. You will get to listen a mini meditation. Practising allows us to be in touch with our environment. Despite focusing out there, we get to come in contact with ourselves.The observer (You) begins to see the world more clearly, undistorted from emotions and thoughts. The lens that we view the world becomes clearer.As we reclaim our inner balance, we get beauty, harmony, love. We get to be one with the world out there.Take these learnings and head over to nature. In there find your connection with the world. Observe and notice what happens as you find a connection with yourself.This is the external practice of mindfulness. Focusing outwards. In a different episode we will talk about being mindful of what happens within.Episode Notes00:10 Welcome00:30 Previous episode00:53 In This episode01:02 Mindfulness01:31 Focusing on the outside world01:49 Disco/Club Analogy04:58 Mindfulness exercise09:12 Our inner world reflects on the outer world10:12 Conclusion11:38 Outro

Understanding how we experience the world is not enough for us to be able to navigate it successfully. We have to use the model to our benefit.Can we change how we experience the world? Is there a deliberate way of doing this. A way that doesn’t leave things to chance.Yes, there is. With questions.Questions are powerful. Questions help us shift our attention and direct our mind. We get a compass that we can use to navigate our world.By following the questions we start to be deliberate on how we experience the world. We begin to design pleasurable thoughts and emotions. As an effect how we feel about others and ourselves changes. How we view the world changes.Download the questions pdf before listening to the new episode.It lists the question in a clear way making it easier for you to craft your experience of the world.Outline01:48 Before we start02:12 In short02:37 Why work on the negative04:18 What are 3-5 things put me out of balance05:45 What are 3-5 things put me in balance11:19 Summarise 4 step formula11:27 In conclusion11:47 If you can remember only one thing

Discover the model of reality that we use on our daily life. By understanding the model of how we experience the world we are more able to change. Find out how we experience the world around us and within us.

One of the biggest anchor is life is when we hold a grudge to someone. When someone did something at sometime and we don't seem to be able to rub it off. Follow me in a journey of self discovery and self reflection. Find out today how you can let go of those negative emotions. Then you can fly freely in the present and the future.Love and let go.TopicsWhy would I need to forgive someone?What happens when we're bitter towards others?How did I come to this forgiveness stuff?The Big Great GuardHow does this great guard operate?Ego TripHow do I want to experience my life?Why do we feel stuck and the need to forgive someone?How can I stop blaming other people?Keep your boundariesThings to remember:It's time to move on with your life, don't just listen to this, do the work.How am I feeling now?What would I like to feel instead?How can I change how I am feeling now?If you can't love yourself then whom can you love?Bonus: A free guided meditation that will help you to forgive others.Buy the downloadable version at https://www.insidetreasures.com/the-art-of-forgiveness/