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  Welcome to this transformative guided meditation designed to help you connect with the wisdom of your inner parts and integrate shadow experiences with compassion. In this meditation, you'll gently explore where your distressing emotions reside in your body and invite them into a dialogue with your protective and vulnerable parts.

Today on Sense of Soul I have Adelheid Oesch, she is a counselor, teacher, and writer based in Lausanne, Switzerland. A mother of four, Adelheid spent the first part of her adult life raising her family and developing her career as a partner in the family art and antiques business. She later developed a second career as the founder of 'L'Atelier du Dialogue Intérieur' (Voice Dialogue Workshop), where she has been teaching ‘Voice Dialogue' and guiding people on their path of self-discovery and spiritual growth since 1993. Adel­heid's expertise in ‘Voice Di­a­logue' has been cul­ti­vat­ed through years of ded­i­cat­ed study and collaboration with some of the most influential figures in the field. She has worked close­ly with Dr. Hal Stone and Dr. Sidra Stone, the cre­ators and de­vel­op­ers of ‘Voice Di­a­logue, of the theory and practice of the Psychol­o­gy of selves and of the Aware Self'. Her book The Ark Within is a poetic yet pragmatic book guides you to rediscover yourself as a living Noah's Ark—a three-dimensional volume of conscious presence, stable and vast enough to actively embrace and support each facet of your being. She masterfully weaves together the spiritual wisdom of the world with the ground-breaking insights of 'Voice Dialogue' psychology. Continue Your Initiatory Journey with the Exercise Manual for The Ark Within- This practical companion guide helps you anchor the profound insights of Adelheid Oesch's groundbreaking book, The Ark Within, into tangible, life-changing practices. Both books are available on Amazon! https://www.dialogueinterieur.com www.senseofsoulpodcast.com www.newrealitytv.com

"Faites du dialogue intérieur votre allié pour une réflexion approfondie."Pour ce nouvel épisode du podcast, nous écoutons Christine, coach Chance qui aborde le concept du dialogue intérieur, introduit par Hal et Sidra Stone, comme un outil puissant pour explorer les différentes facettes de soi-même.Elle illustre comment ce dialogue peut être utilisé dans le cadre d'un bilan de compétences. Elle décompose ce processus en 5 étapes clés : le diagnostic, l'introspection, l'exploration, la validation et l'action.Chaque étape est accompagnée d'exemples concrets et de descriptions des personnages intérieurs qui peuvent influencer les décisions et les actions.Enfin, Christine souligne l'importance de prendre conscience de ces différentes voix intérieures pour mieux comprendre ses motivations, surmonter les obstacles et avancer vers ses objectifs professionnels.

"Faites du dialogue intérieur votre allié pour une réflexion approfondie."Pour ce nouvel épisode du podcast, nous écoutons Christine, coach Chance qui aborde le concept du dialogue intérieur, introduit par Hal et Sidra Stone, comme un outil puissant pour explorer les différentes facettes de soi-même.Elle illustre comment ce dialogue peut être utilisé dans le cadre d'un bilan de compétences. Elle décompose ce processus en 5 étapes clés : le diagnostic, l'introspection, l'exploration, la validation et l'action.Chaque étape est accompagnée d'exemples concrets et de descriptions des personnages intérieurs qui peuvent influencer les décisions et les actions.Enfin, Christine souligne l'importance de prendre conscience de ces différentes voix intérieures pour mieux comprendre ses motivations, surmonter les obstacles et avancer vers ses objectifs professionnels.

Using Voice Dialogue and Body Centered Awareness, our guest, Iudita Harlan, has been helping people get into the flow of their lives for over thirty years. We talk about her experiences and then do a live demonstration. Iudita describes Voice Dialogue as a psycho spiritual consciousness process in which various Selves have a chance to talk to each other using the language of dream. Iudita grew up in communist Romania and her parents were holocaust survivors which led her to seek a process which allows us to embrace our shadows. She quotes her mentor. "For every shadow we embrace in ourselves, one less shadow is projected out into the world." After the break, we do two live demonstrations. Iudita works first with Katherine about a dream in which she can't tell is she has to pee or not then with Ray of Santa Cruz about a dream in which a car seems to have a mind of its own. Her next three part workshop called "Right Size Your Inner Critic" starts January 14. Find details at her webpage. BIO: Iudita Harlan is a long time integration specialist in private practice using the Voice Dialogue Psychology of Selves consciousness process created by Drs Hal and Sidra Stone and the Hellerwork Structural Integration process of Joseph Heller. She combines these with Body Centered Awareness and offers extensive workshops as well as private sessions. Find our guest at: Iudita.com Show was broadcast live on December 23, 2023 on KSQD, community radio of Santa Cruz. Intro music is Water over Stones and outro music is Everything both by Mood Science. Ambient music is created new every week by Rick Kleffel. The audio can be found at Pandemiad.com. Many thanks to Rick Kleffel for also engineering the show and to Tony Russomano for answering the phones. Contact Katherine Bell with feedback or suggestions for future shows at katherine@ksqd.org. Follow her on FB and IG @ExperientialDreamwork to find out about upcoming shows. To learn more or to inquire about exploring your own dreams with her go to ExperientialDreamwork.com. The Dream Journal is produced at and airs on KSQD Santa Cruz, 90.7 FM. Catch it streaming LIVE at KSQD.org 10-11am Saturday mornings Pacific Time. Call or text with your dreams or questions at 831-900-5773 or email at onair@ksqd.org. Podcasts are available on all major podcast platforms and are released the Monday following the live show. The complete KSQD Dream Journal podcast page can be found at ksqd.org/the-dream-journal/. Now also available on PRX at Exchange.prx.org/series/45206-the-dream-journal Thanks for being a Dream Journal listener! Available on all major podcast platforms. Rate it, review it, subscribe and tell your friends.

You might've heard of Brené Brown from her viral TED talk. She's a researcher who analyzes how people can live joyful and meaningful lives. After enjoying her TED talk, I had to write a review and summary of her book, The Gifts of Imperfection. How do you live life on your terms and juggle others' expectations? We might be used to sacrificing one for the other. We all worry about what others think and fear being ridiculed. So, how can we stay true to ourselves? Tune in to discover my thoughts on the book and get a brief overview of Brown's 10 guidelines to cultivate a wholehearted life.  Blog article: https://www.hushyourmind.com/book-review-the-gifts-of-imperfection-brene-brown/  Free EFT session / interview: https://www.hushyourmind.com/interview/ Free EFT Meditation & Guide for People-Pleasing: https://hushyourmind.com/newsletter/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hush.yourmind/  EFT Tapping services: https://hushyourmind.com/coaching/ The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown (affiliate link): https://bookshop.org/a/86141/9781616499600  Embracing Your Inner Critic by Hal and Sidra Stone (affiliate link): https://bookshop.org/a/86141/9780062507570

In this episode, I talk with Dr. Phil Ford. Phil is an associate professor of musicology at the Indiana University Jacobs School of Music. He is the author of the book Dig: Sound and Music in Hip Culture (a cultural history of hipness from the 1930s through the 1960s), the long-running blog Dial 'M' for Musicology, and various essays that have appeared in Representations, Journal of Musicology, Musical Quarterly, and elsewhere. With J. F. Martel he is working on a book titled Weirding, to be published by Strange Attractor Press. Phil is a pianist, rabid Wagnerite, crap Buddhist, degenerate fight fan, and avid consulter of the I Ching. He wishes that just for once he had an enthusiasm that he didn't have to apologize for or explain to his academic peers. He is also the co-host of the podcast Weird Studies. In this episode, we discuss Nick Lowe's song "The Beast in Me". Episode Highlights: The UFC and the recent Dana White controversy Carl Jung's notion of the shadow Ursula LeGuin's "A Wizard of Earthsea" Hal and Sidra Stone's Voice Dialogue therapy Zen Buddhism Alchemical transformation The universal religious impulse Much more!

J. Tamar Stone, M.A., C.H.T., is internationally recognized as a psychotherapist, consultant, consciousness teacher, senior Voice Dialogue facilitator, and the originator of The Body Dialogue Process. She is also the creator of Selves in a Box, an interactive card deck and manual for Selves exploration. Tamar is the daughter and stepdaughter of Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, originators of Voice Dialogue. Tamar has taught at Pepperdine University, the Esalen Institute, the Omega Institute, Antioch University, Mile Hi Church of Denver, and Kanzeon Zen Center. She maintains an international client base comprising individuals, couples, and professionals seeking a deeper, more fulfilling sense of self.   https://www.voicedialogueconnection.com/meet-tamar/

The 30 couples' featured in "Happy Marriage" emphasized being able to compromise, overcome selfishness, never give up, and structure in couple time. Those with previous marriages felt they learned from them how to have a more satisfying relationship, often with the help of a counselor. Couples learned to stick to their own feelings rather than blame their partner and many learned from a therapist how to communicate more effectively and felt closer and developed trust after working through disagreements. Dr. David Feinstein and his wife Donna Eden think of themselves as opposites in many ways, who conflicted until they developed a technique to resolve their differences, explained in a chapter in Happy Marriages: 30 Global Couples Tell Their Stories. Therapists Hal and Sidra Stone reported in Partnering that, “Many times in our early years together we both feared our love was dead. It returned even more powerful than before because we had mastered a new experience.” They realized that love alone is not enough to make a marriage work because of the power of our unconscious sub-personalities. They emphasize that “There is nothing more important than realizing we are a group of selves (like an actual person) that regulates our lives. We have to learn who in us is interacting with our partner.”

Marcellus Bear Heart Williams is what I call a living ancestor. A living ancestor is a person whose wisdom has not departed, but instead taken up residence in the hearts of those who loved him, and even perhaps in those that never met him – someone like myself. Living ancestors are not deceased, as in inert or forgotten. Their energy has not been destroyed; their spirit and work in the world is ongoing. Join us as we invite into the conversation the spirit of Bear Heart, his wife, Reginah Waterspirit, and Tim Amsden, the editor of the newly released book on Synergetic Press, The Bear is My Father: The Wisdom of a Muscogee Creek Elder Marcellus Bear Heart Williams, the brilliant companion piece to The Wind is My Mother, that came out in 1996.   Reginah Waterspirit, co-author of The Bear is My Father, and the wife and medicine helper of Bear Heart, is originally from the Bronx, NY. An artist from birth, she sees all of life as art and has owned and operated numerous businesses, all centered around some form of art.  In 1979 she boarded the Queen Elizabeth the 2nd  ship in New York harbor and crossed the Atlantic Ocean bound for Europe.  After traveling from the Netherlands to the Greek Islands, she ended up in Italy painting in a 14th Century structure inhabited by Machiavelli when he wrote The Prince. In the early 1980s she studied Voice Dialogue, helpful in exploring our own personal and transpersonal energies, from the originators of the method: Hal and Sidra Stone. That was the beginning of a life change that led to her meeting Marcellus Bear Heart, of the Muskogee Nation-Creek Tribe, a caretaker of sacred ways. She was 42 years old when she embarked on a brand new, life adventure with Bear Heart,. They worked and travelled together in the United States, Europe, Mexico and Canada for the next 23 years. She went on to become an independent teacher of Voice Dialogue, other psycho-spiritual disciplines, and Art In The Park, a realistic type drawing class for the very young and elderly, that honors our connection with all living things. Regina is a member of an earth based community called The Earth Tribe and committed to the transformational process of humans who experience themselves as one of many species, not higher or lower in stature. A dog and animal lover, she lives in Albuquerque with [dog name Rocky?],  who reinforces her connection to the land.  Tim Amsden was born in Wichita, Kansas, earned a J.D. from the University of Iowa, and worked for the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency in Kansas City for 25 years, primarily on water quality protection issues. He and now lives with his wife, Lucia, in Albuquerque, New Mexico. His writings have appeared in journals and anthologies throughout the US, as well as in Canada, Algeria, Ireland, and Turkey, and his full-length book of poetry, Vanishing Point, was published in 2015. He was editor of and contributor to a book titled The Bear is My Father: Indigenous Wisdom of a Muskogee Creek Medicine Man. that was published in 2021 by Synergetic Press. He is currently finalizing Love Letter to Ghost Land: Living Along an Ancient New Mexico Trail, a portrait of his life with Lucia in Ramah, New Mexico, and the history and deep spirit that permeates that sacred place. Marcellus Bear Heart Williams was born a full-blooded member of the Muskogee Creek Nation in Okemah, Oklahoma, on April 13th, 1918. One of the last traditionally trained medicine persons of his Tribe, he studied for 14 years under two medicine men, then went on to obtain an undergraduate degree, a divinity degree majoring in Biblical Greek, and an honorary Ph.D. in Humanities. He was a roadman in the Native American Church, an ordained American Baptist Minister, and spoke 14 languages, 13 of them native. He prayed with President Truman, put down prayers with police and firemen at Ground Zero, New York City. served on a variety of national and international panels and boards, and authored two books. His first book, The Wind Is My Mother, was published by Random House in 1996 and has been translated into 14 languages. His second book, co-authored by his medicine helper, Reginah WaterSpirit, was just published by Synergetic Press under the title The Bear is My Father. Although he passed on August 4, 2008, Bear Heart's energy and open-hearted unconditional love continues to enrich lives around the globe. With his medicine helper Reginah WaterSpirit, his simple message to the world lives on: Everyone is worthy, we are all one Tribe, and it is our responsibility to honor and support the living earth.

In this episode, we talk to Tamar Stone. Tamar is the daughter and stepdaughter of Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, originators of Voice Dialogue. Tamar is also the originator of Body Dialogue.  Among the topics we cover include:  What voice dialogue technique is How to love all parts of ourselves The difference between repressed and disowned parts. I really hope you enjoy my interview with Tamar.     

J'ai le plaisir de vous retrouver pour partager avec vous des retours d'expérience tirés de mon propre cheminement afin de vous encourager à suivre vos choix de cœur plutôt que vos choix de raison. Aussi, j'aimerais vous encourager à être de plus en plus fidèle à vous-même pour installer une paix intérieure qui se reflète à l'extérieur. Dans cet épisode, j'ai voulu vous parler de nos relations avec les autres et de ce qu'elles peuvent nous apprendre sur nous-même.  En fait, c'est grâce à la lecture du livre, écrit par Hal et Sidra Stone, Les relations, source de croissance. S'accueillir l'un l'autre, paru aux éditions Le Souffle d'Or, que j'ai pu prendre conscience de ce qui pouvait se cacher derrière nos jugements.    Bonne écoute ! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Abonnez-vous dès aujourd'hui au podcast Il y avait une fois sur Apple Podcasts ou sur la plateforme de votre choix et laissez-y votre avis, c'est le meilleur moyen de permettre à d'autres de le découvrir.   Soutenez le podcast Il y avait une fois en vous abonnant à l'une des formules de votre choix : https://www.patreon.com/ilyavaitunefois.    Inscrivez-vous à la newsletter. En cadeau de bienvenue, vous recevrez un Guide en 3 étapes pour se créer une vie en accord avec soi-même.   Podcast indépendant créé et produit par Sophie Deligiannis.  Musique réalisée par Ondrej Bederka.    Hébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

  Join me as we discover explore all the elements of perfectionism, from its root causes to its surface manifestations, through an Internal Family Systems lens, grounded in a Catholic world view.  Through poetry, quotes, research findings, personal examples and the current professional literature, I pull together many strands into a unified whole to help you deeply grasp the internal experience of perfectionism. Intro The Quintessential Persona    Leanna Smith   We are together in this great adventure, this podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics, we are journeying together, and I am honored to be able to spend this time with you.   I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist and passionate Catholic and together, we are taking on the tough topics that matter to you.   We bring the best of psychology and human formation and harmonize it with the perennial truths of the Catholic Faith.    Interior Integration for Catholics is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com Let's get into answering the questions -- the who, what, where, when, why, and how of perfectionism.  This is episode 85 of the Interior Integration for Catholics Podcast it's titled:  Perfectionism:  Who, What, Where, When, Why, and How Perfectionism -- a major, major problem for so many Catholics.   A major, major problem for so many of us.  Thomas Curran and Andrew Hill  2019 Psychological Bulletin Article:  Perfectionism Is Increasing Over Time: A Meta-Analysis of Birth Cohort Differences From 1989 to 2016 reviewed dozens of studies from a 27 year timespan all using the same instrument  the Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale by Hewitt and Flett  164 study samples comprising more than 41,000 college students in the US, Canada and Great Britain between 1989 and 2016  Results:  there is no doubt.  Perfectionism among college students is on the rise.  Between 1989 and 2016,  the scores for socially prescribed perfectionism —  or perceiving that other have excessive expectations of me — increased by 33%.  Other-oriented expectations — putting unrealistic expectations on others — went up 16% and self-oriented perfectionism — our irrational desire to be perfect — increased 10%   The Who of Perfectionism -- the Parts The What of Perfectionism -- What is it?  What are the different kinds of perfectionism, what are the elements? Where Does Perfectionism Come From Within Us When Does Perfectionism Get Activated? Why Does Perfectionism Start and Why Does it Keep Going? How Do We Overcome Perfectionism?  How do we resolve it?  Not just a descriptive diagnosis, but a proscriptive conceptualization that gives a direction for healing, resolving the perfectionism.  Not just symptom management, this is your cross nonsense.  There are real crosses that God gives us. Yes.  But those crosses fit well.  The crosses we impose upon ourselves do not fit well.    What -- What is perfectionism?  You know that I want precise definitions when we dive into deep topics together.  I think it's ironic that there is a lot of unclear, sloppy thinking about perfectionism by perfectionists.  Shining a bright clear light on it.   Definition of Perfectionism Brene Brown:  The Gifts of Imperfection:  Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels the primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize painful feelings or shame, judgment and blame  Marc Foley O.C.D.  Editor of Story of a Soul: Study Edition  There is an unhealthy striving for perfection which psychologists call perfectionism. Perfectionism is the state of being driven to achieve a standard of perfection in an area of life that is fueled by either the fear of failure or the need for approval. This unhealthy striving is not the type of perfection to which God calls us.   So you may have perfectionistic parts that would like to challenge me on this.  Your perfectionistic parts may say to me  So, Dr. Peter, Mr. Catholic Psychologist, you want us to have low standards, huh?  You think that would be better, for us to be lazy, to be weak, to take our ease, to relax, to give up the fight, to be mediocre, to be lukewarm, huh?  Is that what you are saying?  Didn't St. Jerome say:  Good, better, best, never let it rest, 'till your good is better, and your better's best  First off, let's start with your quote.  Often attributed to St. Jerome, but there's no evidence for it in his writings:  Fr. Horton addresses this alleged quote on his blog fauxtations.   September 26, 2016 post.  "Good, better, best: St. Jerome?" Oldest google books attribution is from 2009.   1904 Dictionary of Modern Proverbs  1897 Christian Work: Illustrated Family Newspaper.   Others attribute it to Tim Duncan, NBA all-star player, often considered the greatest power forward of all time.   I want you to pursue excellence.   Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving for excellence or a commitment to self-improvement. There is a critical distinction between striving for excellence and perfectionism.   Let's discuss what perfectionism is not.    Brene Brown:  Perfectionism is not self-improvement./ Perfectionism is, at it's core, about trying to earn approval and acceptance  Most perfectionists were raised being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule-following, people-pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, we adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it. Please. Perform. Perfect. Healthy striving is self-focused – How can I improve? Perfectionism – is other focused – What will they think?” End quote.  What will they think? Brene Brown  Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead:  “Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving for excellence. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth. Perfectionism is a defensive move. It's the belief that if we do things perfectly and look perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame.”  Agnes M. Stairs, Smith, Zapolski, Combs, and Settles:  Clarifying the construct of perfectionism Assessment 2012  732 people 15 different perfectionism measures -- Factor analytic modeling  Found nine different personality traits associated with perfectionism:  Need for Order, Need for Satisfaction of a Job Well Done, Details and Checking, Perfectionism toward Others, High Personal Standards, Black and White Thinking about Tasks, Perceived Pressure from Others, Dissatisfaction with Personal Performance, Reactivity to Mistakes.   9 personality traits  Order  I like things to be neat  Things should always be put away in their place  I like to be orderly in the way I do things   Satisfaction I feel satisfied with my work after I do something well  I get excited when I do a good job  I feel great satisfaction when I feel I have perfected something   Details and Checking I often check my work carefully to make sure there are no mistakes  It takes me a long time to do something because I check my work   many times Perfectionism toward Others I have high standards for the people who are important to me  I expect a lot from my friends   I expect others to excel at whatever they do   High Standards I set extremely high standards for myself  I expect high levels of performance from myself  I have very high goals   Black and White Thinking about Tasks and Activities I will not do something if I cannot do it perfectly  There's no point in doing something if I cannot do it perfectly   Perceived Pressure from Others People expect high levels of performance from me  Others expect me to be perfect  I often feel that people make excessive demands of me   Dissatisfaction It feels like my best is never good enough   I often don't live up to my own standards  I rarely feel that what I have done is good enough   Reactivity to Mistakes When I make a mistake, I feel really bad  If one thing goes wrong, I feel that I cannot do anything right  I feel like a complete failure if I do not do something perfectly   Signs of Being a Perfectionist  GoodTherapy.org article last updated 11-05-2019  Not be able to perform a task unless they know they can do it perfectly.  View the end product as the most important part of any undertaking. As a result, they may focus less on the process of learning or completing a task to the best of their ability.  Not see a task as finished until the result is perfect according to their standards.  Procrastinate. People with perfectionism may not want to begin a task until they know they can do it perfectly.  Take an excessive amount of time to complete a task that does not typically take others long to complete.  Examples of Perfectionistic Behaviors -- GoodTherapy.org article last updated 11-05-2019 Spending 30 minutes writing and rewriting a two-sentence email.  Believing that missing two points on a test is a sign of failure.  Difficulty being happy for others who are successful.  Holding oneself to the standards of others' accomplishments or comparing oneself unfavorably and unrealistically to others.  Skipping class or avoiding a chore because it is pointless to make an effort unless perfection can be achieved.  Focusing on the end product rather than the process of learning.  Avoiding playing a game or trying a new activity with friends for fear of being shown up as less than perfect.   The Who of Perfectionism -- the Parts Definition of Parts:  Separate, independently operating personalities within us, each with own unique prominent needs, roles in our lives, emotions, body sensations, guiding beliefs and assumptions, typical thoughts, intentions, desires, attitudes, impulses, interpersonal style, and world view.  Each part also has an image of God and also its own approach to sexuality.  Robert Falconer calls them insiders.  You can also think of them as separate modes of operating if that is helpful.   Types of perfectionism -- Jay Early IFS therapist Self-Therapy Volume 3.  Four types of perfectionist parts -- Not-enough perfectionist  Creative Block perfectionist  Control perfectionist  Inner Critic   Not-Enough perfectionist Always must do more on your projects -- not good enough yet.   Working right up to deadlines, perfecting.   Afraid to finish project because your perfectionistic parts believe this will expose your shortcomings and led to being judged  and ridiculed -- humiliation.   Creative Block Perfectionist Need to be perfect the first time  Ideas are not good enough  Fear of being judged and rejected.   Mike Litman:  You don't have to get it right.  You just have to get it going.  This podcast is an example.  Didn't know what I was doing.  Early episodes were very different.  Learning curve.  How many people listened?  Not many.   Control perfectionist World must be perfectly in control and in order.   I must always do the right thing.   I must always make the right choice   Rigid control over behavior Saps vitality  Obliterates sponteneity   Need predictability to feel safe   Inner Critic  Enforces the goals of being perfect Judges and shames about your work, your life, your spiritual practices  Labels you stupid, incompetent, sloppy, inadequate or bad.   Good intention:  to help you avoid being judged or shamed for mistakes.   Types of Inner Critic:  Jay Earley Personal-Growth-Programs.com  -- Transforming your Inner Critic.  Freedom from your Inner Critic.   Perfectionist This critic tries to get you to do things perfectly.  It sets high standards for the things your produce, and has difficulty saying something is complete and letting it go out to represent your best work.  It tries to make sure that you fit in and that you will not be judged or rejected.  Its expectations probably reflect those of people who have been important to you in the past.   Guilt-Tripper This critic is stuck in the past. It is unable to forgive you for wrongs you have done or people you have hurt.  It is concerned about relationships and holds you to standards of behavior prescribed by your community, culture and family  It tries to protect you from repeating past mistakes by making sure you never forget or feel free.   Underminer This critic tries to undermine your self-confidence and self-esteem so that you won't take risks.  It makes direct attacks on your self-worth so that you will stay small and not take chances where you could be hurt or rejected.  It is afraid of your being too big or too visible and not being able to tolerate judgment or failure.   Destroyer It makes pervasive attacks on your fundamental self worth.  It shames you and makes you feel inherently flawed and not entitled to basic understanding or respect.  This most debilitating critic, comes from early life deprivation or trauma.  It is motivated by a belief that it is safer not to exist.   Molder This critic tries to get you to fit into a certain mold based on standards held by society, your culture or your family.  It wants you to be liked and admired and to protect you from being abandoned, shamed or rejected.  The Molder fears that the Rebel or the Free Spirit in you would act in ways that are unacceptable. So it keeps you from being in touch with and expressing your true nature.   Taskmaster This critic wants you to work hard and be successful.  It fears that you may be mediocre or lazy and will be judged a failure if it does not push you to keep going.  Its pushing often activates a procrastinator or a rebel that fights against its harsh dictates.   Inner Controller This critic tries to control your impulses: eating, drinking, sexual activity, etc.  It is polarized with an Indulger –addict who it fears can get out of control at any moment.  It tends to be harsh and shaming in an effort to protect you from yourself.  It is motivated to try to make you a good person who is accepted and functions well in society.   Three Main Manager Roles Contribute to Perfectionism in Catholics.   Often in serious Catholics there is a triumvirate of managers who govern the system if there is not sufficient self-energy.   Triumvirate   trium virum, genitive plural of tres viri "three men," from tres "three" (see three) + viri, plural of vir "man"  a group of three men holding power, in particular ( the First Triumvirate ) the unofficial coalition of Julius Caesar, Pompey, and Crassus in 60 BC and ( the Second Triumvirate ) a coalition formed by Antony, Lepidus, and Octavian in 43 BC. Standard Bearer, Primary Manager and the Inner Critic.   Talking only about Catholics here, Catholics who take their faith seriously. I'm going to simplify this down.  Three roles.    Most people are mostly blended most of the time.   Rare for someone to be really recollected at a natural level And most of the time with reasonably well functioning people, the blend is with a manager.   Managers are the parts who run our systems in such a ways as to proactively minimize exiles being activated and breaking through Managers handle the day-to-day activities Some of these managers are very, very competent, very good at what they do.  Efficient, effective.  They work strategically, with forethought and planning to keep in control of situations and relationships to minimize the likelihood of you being hurt.  They work really hard to keep you safe. controlling, striving, planning, caretaking, judging,  Can be pessimistic, self-critical, very demanding.    Three major roles in perfectionism.  The standard bearer, the primary manager, and the internal critic.   Standard Bearer  Definition of a Standard for a military unit -- Wikipedia:  A bright, colorful flag acting as a strong visual beacon to the soldiers of the unit -- -- it doesn't always have to be a flag.  The standard for a Roman Legion was their aquila -- their eagle. The standard of the Roman Legion, the eagle had quasi-religious importance to the Roman soldier, far beyond being merely a symbol of his legion.  To lose a standard was extremely grave, and the Roman military went to great lengths both to protect a standard and to recover it if it were lost   Is the standard the deep and loving relationship with God?  Nope. Is the standard the close, intimate relationship with our Mother Mary?  Nyet.   What is the standard that the standard bearer carries aloft The standard is the unwritten list of rules and expectations that the standard bearer has come up with by his or her own limited vision, about what he or she things Gods wants from us.   The standard is the code of conduct that the standard bearer wishes to impose on all the parts The standard might be quite unreasonable, especially in the extreme cases of perfectionism and scrupulosity  And the standard needs to be interpreted -- other parts are not deemed capable of deciphering the standard.  Oh no.  Who needs to decipher and interpret the standard?  That's right, you've got it -- the standard bearer.  In the tripartite Freudian model of the mind, The standard bearer corresponds to the superego.   The standard bearer wants to act in the role of conscience, giving directives to the system.  Why?  To keep us safe and secure.  That's the goal.  Safe from internal enemies (such as exiles with their burdens -- especially shame -- the exiles with their burdens are Freud's Id) and external enemies.  Satan, demons, villains of all kinds  And also to keep us safe from God's Wrath.  Or God's Apathy.  Or God's disappointment.  Or Something Undesirable from God -- you like, like being smited with a thunderbolt.   Good Boy in my system  IIC 71 -- A New and Better Way of Understanding Myself and Others If blended.  That's key if he blends with me, takes over with other managers, he will lapse into this role of being a standard bearer.  Otherwise, he's not like that.   Primary Manager This is a part that is blended and in charge almost all the time in fairly "well-adjusted people."   When there seems to be a consistent single "personality" you are often seeing what I call the primary manager part.   This part can have a lot of self-energy, and only blend to certain degree.   This part can also believe that it is essentially the self, or that it needs to function in the role of the self  Primary manager parts either Doesn't trust the self  Or forget.  Lapse back into old patterns  Or get caught up when exiles are activated.   Collaborator in my system -- formerly the Competent One Inner Critic Evaluator in my system.  Formerly my Internal Critic.  My internal critic's attitude toward farms growing up in Wisconsin.   If I ever have a farm.   Now I have a farm.  Radical new views.  Never painted my barn.   How my parts work together on this podcast episode When I am blended and have taken over the self, I set the standards.  I speak for God. I am in the role of standard bearer.   When I am blended, I shielded Good Boy from the unreasonableness of his demands.  I goaded Collaborator, pressed him on to ever better performance.  I am the workhorse.  Executing.  Trying to make it all happen   I'm a firefighter.  I get angry and rebel against the triumvirate of managers -- YouTube time.   Other firefighter activity -- Chocolate, video games, masturbation, porn, food, shopping, chocolate.   Backlash exacerbates the polarization.     I work to protect us.   Where Does Perfectionism Come From Perfectionism is a symptom.  It's an effect of a deeper issue. Still a problem in itself.  Curran and Hall:  Our findings suggest that self-oriented perfectionism, socially prescribed perfectionism, and other-oriented perfectionism have increased over the last 27 years. We speculate that this may be because, generally, American, Canadian, and British cultures have become more individualistic, materialistic, and socially antagonistic over this period, with young people now facing more competitive environments, more unrealistic expectations, and more anxious and controlling parents than generations before.  Pete Walker  “Perfectionism is the unparalleled defense for emotionally abandoned children. The existential unattainability of perfection saves the child from giving up, unless or until, scant success forces him to retreat into the depression of a dissociative disorder, or launches him hyperactively into an incipient conduct disorder. Perfectionism also provides a sense of meaning and direction for the powerless and unsupported child. In the guise of self-control, striving to be perfect offers a simulacrum of a sense of control. Self-control is also safer to pursue because abandoning parents typically reserve their severest punishment for children who are vocal about their negligence.”  Jay Earley:  Self-Therapy Vol. 3 chapter on perfectionism.   Fear Need for approval Marie Forleo, Everything is Figureoutable “Perfectionism at its core isn't about high standards. It's about fear. Fear of failure. Fear of looking stupid, fear of making a mistake, fear of being judged, criticized, and ridiculed. It's the fear that one simple fact might be true:  You're just not good enough. Michael Law  “At its root, perfectionism isn't really about a deep love of being meticulous. It's about fear. Fear of making a mistake. Fear of disappointing others. Fear of failure. Fear of success.” Hiding -- driven by shame.  Genesis 3.  Chinonye J. Chidolue  “Perfection is a faux. It's a mask carved by our own poor esteem to hide who we really are and make others see what really isn't us.”  But what's behind those?  Let's go deeper Shame.  Deep sense of fundamental inadequacy.  Not being loved.  Not being lovable.  Essentially flawed.  Being bad.  Unworthy.   Episodes 37-49     When Does Perfectionism Get Activated?   Some are perfectionistic all the time Some are episodic. Some of the time.  Situation factors or internal factors activate Shame.   Fear Anger Shame is:  a primary emotion, a bodily reaction, a signal,  a judgement, and an action.   Why Does it Keep Going?  Self Images Shame -- that is the main driver of perfectionism.  I am unacceptable as I am right now.  I have to engage in a self-improvement program.   That's what he took away from experience.  Not just taught, but construed.   The potential to become good enough to earn the love -- provides hope for the future in the short run.   But hamster on a wheel.   Breeds rebellion, acting out.   Perfectionistic parts always get what they don't want.  Winding up alienated, isolated, alone Glennon Doyle Melton  "We can choose to be perfect and admired or to be real and loved."  Ze Frank -- salty quote:  “Perfectionism may look good in his shiny shoes, but he's a bit of an asshole and no one invites him to their pool parties.”  How Do We Overcome Perfectionism?  Standard Advice -- focused on symtpoms  Oregon Counseling Become more aware of your tendencies toward perfectionism  Focus on the Positives  Allow yourself to make mistakes  Set more reasonable goals  Learn how to receive Criticism  Lower the pressure you put on yourself  Focus on meaning over perfection  Try not to procrastinate  Cut out negative influences  Go to therapy.   Others Sharon Martin, LCSW in California Practice self-compassion  Adopt a growth mindset  Instead of focusing on outcomes, enjoy the process  Be true to yourself rather than trying to please everyone  Be more assertive with your own needs  Love your imperfect self.   Tanya Peterson Choosing Therapy.com Keep track of your thoughts  Practice mindfulness  Focus on your strengths  Stop comparing yourself to others  Find your own meaning and purpose  Rekindle your sense of pleasure and gratitude  Think about your life at age 100  Let yourself experiment.   These are almost all symptom based approaches.  Superficial.  Likely to not get to the root cause.  Sound good.  Hard to accomplish though because of the perfectionism and its roots.   Two major types of approaches  Treat perfectionism as an enemy to be ignored, dismissed, fought against, or overcome.  Byron Brown based on the Diamond Approach 1999 Souls without Shame.   Robert W. Firestone and colleagues in their Voice Therapy approach  Conquer your Inner Critical Voice  Rick Carson in his 1983 book Taming Your Gremlin   By far the approach most serious Catholic favor in dealing with perfectionism and scrupulosity Will power  Suppression  Domination over the undesireable internal experience.  Triumph of the will!  Victory.  Never works.  Not for long.  And when it seems to work, it's unstable, tenuous, shaky.   Revenge of the repressed.   But what if perfectionism and the parts around it have something important to say to you?   Treat perfectionism as an ally to be seen, heard, to be accepted, befriended, understood, and ultimately transformed.   Hal and Sidra Stone based on Voice Dialogue,  1993 Embracing your inner critic: turning self-criticism into a creative asset Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss based on Internal Family Systems therapy 2010 Self-therapy for your inner critic: transforming self-criticism into self-confidence Ann Weiser Cornell based on Inner Relationship Focusing in her 2005 book The Radical Acceptance of Everything Pat Allen also takes this approach in her 1995  book Art Is a Way of Knowing.[14]  These approaches see the inner critic as attempting to help or protect the person—but in a covert, distorted, or maladaptive way. This perspective makes it possible to connect with the critic and transform it over time into a helpful ally.  Earley's approach.    Getting to the root.  Shame IIC 37-49.   Engage with the parts burdened with shame.   Neural Networks -- one neural network Dan Siegel's interpersonal neurobiology.   Lee Health IFS is considered a brain-based psychotherapy designed specifically to access and modify neural networks through intentional interactions via a guided meditative processes.  These brain based interactions are the key to helping create different pathways often referred to as “rewiring” or “remapping”. IEADP Foundation These processes serve to engage the brain stem, limbic system and prefrontal cortex simultaneously in the safe and emotional tolerable setting of the therapist's office. This increase in the individual's ability to stay in the window of tolerance while being present with strong emotional states, body sensations and memories allows the client to engage the “witnessing mind” and increases the response flexibility to the strong emotional states that previously would elicit eating disorder behaviors Experiential Exercise What did you think -- let me know call or text 317.567.9594. Also, if you have found great resources that were helpful for your scrupulosity or perfectionism let me know.   Next episode Episode 86, will come out on November 1, All Saints Day Scrupulosity --  I have such a different take -- Scrupulosity is what happens with perfectionism gets religion.   One more element that we haven't discussed that is so central to scrupulosity, that make scrupulosity much more than a religious spiritual perfectionism.   My own battle with scrupulosity.   Grandpa Roberts:  God helps those who help themselves.   Today we laid a foundation for understanding perfectionism.  Next episode, we get much more into Solutions for scruplosity and perfectionism.   Remember, you as a listener can call me on my cell any Tuesday or Thursday from 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM.  I've set that time aside for you.  317.567.9594.  (repeat) or email me at crisis@soulsandhearts.com.  Resilient Catholics Community.  84 on the waiting list.  Greater discussion of that in the last episode, episode 84.  We have been working through the Individual Results Sheet for dozens of RCC members -- amazed at how our Initial Measures Kit can provoke all kinds of new thinking about their parts and their internal worlds.  Work with Catholic Standard Bearers, Primary Managers and Inner Critics Catholic therapists or therapists in training -- If you are really interested in Internal Family System and you want to be with me and other Catholic therapists, working on your human formation with your colleagues, The Interior Therapist Community is for you.  We have a couple more spots open in the last Foundations Experiential Group for the fall of 2021, so check out all our offerings at soulsandhearts.com/itc.          

Bridgit Dengel Gaspard, LCSW, is a former performer who stumbled upon Voice Dialogue, developed by the Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone. She discovered the healing power of embodying your different Inner Selves or Alter Egos and trained as a Master Facilitator, which inspired her to change her career and become a psychotherapist and coach. She graduated from Columbia University, founded the New York Voice Dialogue Institute, and has led workshops for Omega Institute, NY Open Center and many others. She wrote 'The Final 8th: Enlist Your Inner Selves To Accomplish Your Goals' so those struggling within sight of their finish line would be able to access their different Alter Egos to  empower themselves and access the Alter Egos with the precise superpower they need. Every 3rd Thursday of the month at 8pm Eastern she offers a free Voice Dialogue Learning Lab Zoomshop so anyone can encounter this work for themselves and initiate their journey to reveal and release their hidden inner conflict that's blocking their fruition.   https://www.bridgit-dengel-gaspard.com For more information about Michelle, visit www.michelleoravitz.com Instagram: @thewholesomelotusfertility Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thewholesomelotus/

Life on Purpose returns for a Spring 2021 Season with Episode #97. My guest is writer, therapist, coach, and founder of the New York Voice Dialogue Institute Bridgit Dengel Gaspard, who joins me to talk about her new book, The Final 8th: Enlist Your Inner Selves to Accomplish Your Goals (New World Library) and powerful techniques she’s developed to help readers/listeners recognize and free themselves from hidden internal conflicts that are blocking their ability to achieve their goals. Bridgit coined the term “the final 8th” to describe the phenomenon when talented, energetic, motivated individuals have accomplished many steps toward a goal (7/8 of it) but stall in front of their finish line, for no apparent reason. In our inspirational conversation, Bridgit and I discussed: • The origin story of the term The Final 8th via working with various clients who were getting stuck; • Has she struggled with Final 8ths in her own life, including writing the book? • “Is the reason you’re stuck because you’re not meant to go any further? It’s served it’s purpose.”; • The idea that our healthy personality consists of many aspects, which she calls inner selves; • Voice dialogue, a technique developed by her mentors Dr. Hall and Sidra Stone; • “They each have wisdom and they have concerns. But they don’t have the whole picture.”; • The fact that this is NOT multiple personality disorder or dissociative identity disorder; • The effects of the pandemic on certain selves and what we can do about that; • The fact that for most people, working harder isn’t the problem or the solution; • The power of the questions, “What are the gifts? And what are the stings?”; • A simple technique that allows you to start to identify these inner selves; • How do these selves start? And where do they come from?; • Her chapter on Practice Safe Success: a concept that is silly but real!; • What is the Double Bind and why is it psychologically painful?; • Her Final Takeaway: “Be curious to see what’s there; if in doubt, get rid of the agenda.” • Her upcoming Final 8th 4-Week Masterclass, which runs in May; • Marianne Williamson: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”; • Much more! “My clients were baffled about why they were stuck. They reported feeling frustrated, stressed, sad, and scared. They’d swear to me they yearned for the desired outcome with every fiber of their being,” says Bridgit. “I’d tell them, ‘Believe it or not, some of those fibers just aren’t with the program.’ The truth is, not every part of you wants what you think you want! Some of your inner selves are opposed to your goal.” About Bridgit Dengel Gaspard: Bridgit Dengel Gaspard is a writer, therapist, coach, and master facilitator and trainer of voice dialogue who has led professional workshops for the Omega Institute, the New York Open Center, the International Coach Federation, the Expressive Therapies Summit, Conscious Life Expo, New York University, Columbia University School of Social Work, the National Association of Social Work, the Actors Fund, and other organizations. During her career in acting, improvisation, and comedy, she discovered voice dialogue, a powerful technique of communicating and embodying our inner selves developed by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, who would become her mentors. Bridgit earned a master’s degree in social work from Columbia University, acquiring clinical experience in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT.) She was an inpatient social worker at Bellevue Hospital Center and Creedmoor Psychiatric Center. She also worked as a psychotherapist at the New York University Counseling Center. She founded the New York Voice Dialogue Institute and has been certified by multiple organizations for continuing education credits for social workers, mental health practitioners, nurses, body workers, psychologists, nurses, psychiatrists, psychotherapists, massage therapists, and life coaches. Bridgit maintains a private practice in Manhattan specializing in creativity blocks, life transitions, and being stuck in sight of the finish line. She lives in Brooklyn, New York. To learn more about Bridgit and her work, visit: https://www.bridgit-dengel-gaspard.com.

James Fadiman, Ph.D. is former president of the Institute of Noetic Sciences, a Professor of Psychology, and one of the foremost researchers in microdosing studies. He's cofounder of Sofia University, rooted in transforming the transpersonal, and has been researching healthy multiplicity for more than 20 years. He is the author of many books including The Psychedelic Explorers Guide (Park Street Press 2011) andYour Symphony of Selves: Discover and Understand More of Who We Are (coauthor Jordan Gruber J.D.) (Park Street Press 2020)Jordan Gruber holds a J.D., Juris Doctor degree, and has forged and sculpted authoritative volumes in forensic law, financial services and self development. He founded the enlightenment.com website. He is the author of The Bounce: The Complete SuperBound® Guidebook to 21st-Century Rebound Exercise (coauthor Joy Daniels) (SuperBound 2020) and Your Symphony of Selves: Discover and Understand More of Who We Are (coauthor James Fadiman, Ph.D.) (Park Street Press 2020) Interview Date: 9/14/2020  Tags: Jordan Gruber, James Fadiman, single self assumption, sub-personality, sub-personalities, a multiplicity of selves, angry self, AA, addiction, addicted self, schizophrenia, multiple selves, people are inconsistent, being in the wrong self at the wrong time, partnering with our multiple selves, our angry self, Tsultrim Allione, inner demon, Hal and Sidra Stone, voice dialogue, Virginia Satir, Parts Party, NLP, Neural-linguistic Programming, Psychology, Personal Transformation

Anne Ghesquière reçoit dans Métamorphose Florence Bory, psychologue clinicienne, formée aussi à l’hypnose clinique et transpersonnelle, certifiée en Voice Dialogue (le Dialogue intérieur), en EFT et clinicienne en cohérence cardiaque. Ensemble nous allons explorer comment nous ouvrir à notre vulnérabilité et à l'Ego Conscient à travers la voie du Dialogue Intérieur, initié par les chercheurs américains Sidra et Hal Stone- Épisode #119Dans cet épisode avec Florence Bory, j'aborderai les thèmes suivants :Comment Hal et Sidra Stone, ce couple américains de P.hD en psychologie ont-ils développé cette voie du Voice Dialogue - Dialogue Intérieur ?Chaque subpersonnalité a son rôle à jouer et son propre mode de fonctionnement ?Pourquoi certaines subpersonnalités sont-elles actives et d’autres inactives ?Quelles sont les subpersonnalités les plus jouées : par exemple celui qui fait plaisir, ou le critique intérieur ?Que sont ces fameuses « parties primaires » en nous et comment les développons-nous ?Pourquoi nous identifions-nous ardemment à ces parties primaires et pensons qu’elles sont nous ?Chaque subpersonnalité a un ou plusieurs opposées qui forme une polarité, c’est bien ça ?Comment ces polarités sont-elles agissantes à l’intérieur de nous ? Donnez-nous des exemples de polarités ?Ces polarités peuvent être complémentaires et qu’est-ce qui les oppose (le mental) et qu’est ce qui peut les réunir (le corps et la conscience) ?Quelles sont les autres énergies qui sont agissantes ou présentes en nous : primaires, reniées, non développées ?Que voulez-vous dire et que se passe-t-il quand l’énergie d’un pôle est bloquée ?En quoi les personnes que nous jugeons sont des « maitres » pour nous ?En quoi le dialogue intérieur nous permet-il d’aller vers des relations plus conscientes et notamment des relations sans coupables ?Comment l’égo est-il relié au reste de l’être (groupe de parties primaires qui dirige la personnalité) ?Qu’est-ce alors que l’ego conscient ?Comment pratique-t-on le dialogue intérieur avec toutes ces subpersonnalités, polarités et parties primaires ?En quoi la vulnérabilité est-elle indispensable pour reconnaitre nos schémas ?Et en quoi la vulnérabilité est-elle opposée au mental ? Et quid de l’instinct ?Quelle est la différence entre sensibilité et vulnérabilité ?Comment accéder à sa vulnérabilité ? C’est revenir toujours à cette question : qu’est-ce que je ressens ?Qu’est-ce que la capacité de vision consciente qui développe cet état de témoin des opposés ?Qui est mon invité de la semaine, Florence Bory ?Florence Bory est une psychologue formée à d’autres méthode comme l’hypnose clinique et transpersonnelle, certifiée aussi en Voice Dialogue, le Dialogue intérieur, en EFT et clinicienne en cohérence cardiaque. Elle aime les histoires de vie qui ont été pour elle source de richesse et d’apprentissage.Nous allons explorer comment nous pouvons nous ouvrir à notre vulnérabilité pour aimer les parties de nous qui se cachent et se renient et ainsi nous éveiller à l’ego conscient à travers la voie du dialogue intérieur, initié par les chercheurs américains Sidra et Hal Stone. Merci également à Véronique Brard, psychothérapeute et enseignante sur la psychologie des subpersonnalités pour son livre "La vulnérabilité, clé des relations" aux Ed. du Souffle d’Or qui m’a aidé à préparer cet entretien.Quelques citations du podcast de Florence Bory : "Les co-personnalités s'incarnent sur un plan énergétique""Le mental est très utilisé dans le monde occidental, mais ce n'est qu'un des passagers""L'égo est la somme des JE qui n'ont pas été nourris correctement""Les structures psychiques créent des sous-personalités qui peuvent nous diriger""Dans la tête existe le mental qui peut se couper du corps et ne plus ressentir""La conscience est non-localisée dans le corps""Regardons les jeunes bébés car il y a déjà des comportements qui émergent""L'humain met en place des co-personnalités principalement pour se faire accepter"Suivez Florence Bory sur le site : http://www.florenceb.chRetrouvez Métamorphose, le podcast qui éveille la conscience sur Apple Podcast / Google Podcasts / Spotify / Deezer / YouTube / SoundCloud / CastBox / TuneIn.Suivez les épisodes sur mon Instagram, découvrez l'invité de la semaine et gagnez des surprises ;-)Bonne écoute ! Cet épisode a été réalisé grâce au soutien de LÉA NATURE, engagée de nature et premier fabricant français de produits bio et naturels, partenaire officiel de la #Saison2 de "Métamorphose, le podcast qui éveille la conscience". Merci ! Voir Acast.com/privacy pour les informations sur la vie privée et l'opt-out.

Dr Hal Stone was a contemporary psychologist who was the co-creator of "Voice Dialogue" and the theory Psychology of Selves. A professional in the fields of psychotherapy, counselling, personal coaching, business and organizational consulting. Hal together with his wife Sidra are noted for their contribution to psychology for the theory that an individuals personality is actually composed of several sub-selves. An entrepreneurial perspective makes a case for how Hal and Sidra Stones work can help you on your journey to financial freedom.

Today we’re talking about the voices in your head. Right now, they’re probably speaking to you, saying what on earth is he talking about. Doing work on my inner voices has been transformational for me and after listening to this episode, I want you to at least start to be conscious of yours.Your brain speaks to you through your thoughts. For humans, these thoughts go so many layers deep that sometimes you might not even be aware that they’re there. Do you want to be more in control of your situation and to have the opportunity not to react at the first sign of trouble? As a leader, I want to challenge you to do a better job of listening to those underlying thought streams.In this episode, Matt and I explore our inner voices and thought streams. We talk about the art of hearing yourself, the Voice Dialogue model, where these inner voices come from, how you can respond to them, why this awareness is important as a leader, why you need to figure out your natural energy patterns, the problem with being unaware of your primary selves, and so much more!We’re going to continue talking about listening to the inner voice on our next episode. Until then, let us know what discussions you had with your inner voices while listening to this episode. Will it change how you lead and interact with people on a daily basis? What questions did this raise for you? We look forward to hearing from you.Key Topics:What the voices in Mathew’s head are saying about his personality assessment (2:15)How your brain speaks to you (3:57)Mathew’s thought streams as we’re recording the show (5:27)The changes to Mathew’s thought streams since receiving his personality assessment (6:02)Developing the art of hearing yourself (7:34)Why you might not even be fully aware of all your thoughts (8:33)How I became familiar with the Voice Dialogue model (9:30)The Voice Dialogue methodology (10:24)The role that your primary selves fulfill (12:34)Having a conversation with yourself about external situations (14:02)The connection between selves and energy (15:42)How our selves are developed (16:38)Measuring preferences through a personality profile (18:03)The two primary sets of voices (19:35)Why primary energies can be so tiring (20:16)Figuring out your natural energy patterns (20:39)The problem with being unaware of your natural energy patterns (21:19)Balancing your opposing selves (22:52)And much more! Mentioned in this Episode:Frequently Asked QuestionsVoice Dialogue Models[AS1]Hal and Sidra Stone, founders of Voice Dialogue

Gibt es eine Landkarte unserer Psyche? Wissen wir, wie unsere Psyche wirklich aufgebaut ist und wie man sich ihr nähern kann? Artho Wittemann beschäftigt sich seit über fünfundzwanzig Jahren intensiv mit Fragen der systemischen Selbstorganisation der Psyche. Zehn Jahre lang war er Schüler, dann Mitarbeiter von Dr. Hal und Dr. Sidra Stone, den Begründern der Voice-Dialogue-Methode.   Warum ist es überhaupt wichtig zu wissen, wie unsere Innenwelt beschaffen ist? Woraus setzt sich der Mensch zusammen? Wer waren die Begründer dieser Teile-Psychologie? Was ist IndividualSystemik? Wie sieht die IndividualSystemik die innere Organisation des Menschen? Wie kann man diese Idee praktisch nutzen? Gibt es da einen Teil, mit dem man am besten beginnen kann? Und wie kann man jetzt mit diesem Teil in Kontakt treten und ihn genauer kennen lernen? Kannst Du mir mal ein Beispiel geben für so eine Vordere Person und wie Du mit ihr sprichst? Du hast am Anfang gesagt, dass es verschiedene Schulen der Teile-Psychologie gibt. Gehen die meisten nach diesem Muster vor wie Du es eben beschrieben hast oder gibt es da Unterschiede? Angenommen, wir haben die Vordere Person nun ganz kennen gelernt, wie geht der Prozess nun weiter? Man liest ja immer wieder von der Arbeit mit dem Inneren Kind. Welche Rolle spielt das in der IndividualSystemik? Kann ich mit allen Inneren Personen in Kontakt kommen? Gibt es welche die sich nicht zeigen? Was kann ich von den Inneren Personen lernen? Was sind die 5 Kontinente? Was ist das Ziel? Funktioniert die Arbeit mit den Inneren Personen bei jedem? Wie kann ich selber in Kontakt mit den IP kommen? Kann man das alleine machen?   Hier sind meine persönlichen Empfehlungen für Dich: https://bio360.de/meine-empfehlungen/   Die Shownotes zur Episode findest du hier: http://bio360.de/die-architektur-der-innenwelt/ 

Gibt es eine Landkarte unserer Psyche? Wissen wir, wie unsere Psyche wirklich aufgebaut ist und wie man sich ihr nähern kann? Artho Wittemann beschäftigt sich seit über fünfundzwanzig Jahren intensiv mit Fragen der systemischen Selbstorganisation der Psyche. Zehn Jahre lang war er Schüler, dann Mitarbeiter von Dr. Hal und Dr. Sidra Stone, den Begründern der Voice-Dialogue-Methode.   Warum ist es überhaupt wichtig zu wissen, wie unsere Innenwelt beschaffen ist? Woraus setzt sich der Mensch zusammen? Wer waren die Begründer dieser Teile-Psychologie? Was ist IndividualSystemik? Wie sieht die IndividualSystemik die innere Organisation des Menschen? Wie kann man diese Idee praktisch nutzen? Gibt es da einen Teil, mit dem man am besten beginnen kann? Und wie kann man jetzt mit diesem Teil in Kontakt treten und ihn genauer kennen lernen? Kannst Du mir mal ein Beispiel geben für so eine Vordere Person und wie Du mit ihr sprichst? Du hast am Anfang gesagt, dass es verschiedene Schulen der Teile-Psychologie gibt. Gehen die meisten nach diesem Muster vor wie Du es eben beschrieben hast oder gibt es da Unterschiede? Angenommen, wir haben die Vordere Person nun ganz kennen gelernt, wie geht der Prozess nun weiter? Man liest ja immer wieder von der Arbeit mit dem Inneren Kind. Welche Rolle spielt das in der IndividualSystemik? Kann ich mit allen Inneren Personen in Kontakt kommen? Gibt es welche die sich nicht zeigen? Was kann ich von den Inneren Personen lernen? Was sind die 5 Kontinente? Was ist das Ziel? Funktioniert die Arbeit mit den Inneren Personen bei jedem? Wie kann ich selber in Kontakt mit den IP kommen? Kann man das alleine machen?   Du liebst meinen Podcast und möchtest mich unterstützen? Benutze diesen Amazon Link für all Deine Einkäufe. Es kostet dich nur 2 Mausclicks und mir hilfst du damit wirklich. http://amzn.to/2ssBACp   Die Shownotes zur Episode findest du hier: http://bio360.de/die-architektur-der-innenwelt/ 

Gibt es eine Landkarte unserer Psyche? Wissen wir, wie unsere Psyche wirklich aufgebaut ist und wie man sich ihr nähern kann? Artho Wittemann beschäftigt sich seit über fünfundzwanzig Jahren intensiv mit Fragen der systemischen Selbstorganisation der Psyche. Zehn Jahre lang war er Schüler, dann Mitarbeiter von Dr. Hal und Dr. Sidra Stone, den Begründern der Voice-Dialogue-Methode.   Warum ist es überhaupt wichtig zu wissen, wie unsere Innenwelt beschaffen ist? Woraus setzt sich der Mensch zusammen? Wer waren die Begründer dieser Teile-Psychologie? Was ist IndividualSystemik? Wie sieht die IndividualSystemik die innere Organisation des Menschen? Wie kann man diese Idee praktisch nutzen? Gibt es da einen Teil, mit dem man am besten beginnen kann? Und wie kann man jetzt mit diesem Teil in Kontakt treten und ihn genauer kennen lernen? Kannst Du mir mal ein Beispiel geben für so eine Vordere Person und wie Du mit ihr sprichst? Du hast am Anfang gesagt, dass es verschiedene Schulen der Teile-Psychologie gibt. Gehen die meisten nach diesem Muster vor wie Du es eben beschrieben hast oder gibt es da Unterschiede? Angenommen, wir haben die Vordere Person nun ganz kennen gelernt, wie geht der Prozess nun weiter? Man liest ja immer wieder von der Arbeit mit dem Inneren Kind. Welche Rolle spielt das in der IndividualSystemik? Kann ich mit allen Inneren Personen in Kontakt kommen? Gibt es welche die sich nicht zeigen? Was kann ich von den Inneren Personen lernen? Was sind die 5 Kontinente? Was ist das Ziel? Funktioniert die Arbeit mit den Inneren Personen bei jedem? Wie kann ich selber in Kontakt mit den IP kommen? Kann man das alleine machen?   Du willst entgiften, aber Du weißt nicht wie? Hol Dir jetzt meinen Entgiftungsratgeber: https://bio360.de/richtigentgiften/   Die Shownotes zur Episode findest du hier: http://bio360.de/die-architektur-der-innenwelt/ 

Soul Wanderings Episode 65: Dorothy Guinn March 14th, 2018   Dorothy is trained in several different energy healing modalities, including being a certified Theta Healing instructor with additional training in Intuitive Anatomy, a Usui Reiki Master, and GAMMA techniques. Dorothy is also educated in Hal & Sidra Stone’s Voice Dialogue, Michael Newton’s Soul Journey series, Carol Tuttle’s Energy Profiling System, as well as several other techniques and therapies. She is an avid follower of the teachings of Abraham Hicks, and joyously on the lookout for more tools and skills all the time, earning her the label of “eclectic lightworker and intuitive.” Dorothy’s primary goals are To find Joy in my own Journey To assist others in their quest to do the same. She thinks of herself as “tech support for the soul”™ as she morphs all of the healing techniques together into one practice, creating a menu of sorts that is tailor-fit to each client. You can learn more and contact Dorothy here: Website: http://www.injoy-it.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InJoyIntuitiveTherapies/ Soul Wanderings Broadcasts LIVE every Wednesday starting at 7pm EST. So Join AJ as she interviews the next "soul". You can join us at http://kgraradio.com to tune in. You can also visit us in the chatroom at http://kgraradio.com/chat Find us on: Facebook: SoulWanderings Instagram: soulwanderings111 Twitter: @soulwanderings Online: www.onlinevibez.com Email: soulwanderings111@gmail.com If you are interested in sharing your story, contact us!

We all have an internal dialogue.   That voice that likes to rehearse conversations.   That voice that talks you into the best and worst decisions,   That voice that convincingly ensures you that it is actually you...   What if that voice is actually made up a dozen or so voices that come from deep evolutionary instincts, social conditioning, the people you dislike and the people you want to be like.   That's a lot of stuff to think about. Take a moment to talk to yourselves in your head for a bit...   Just kidding.    Waaaay back in the early 1970's Hal and Sidra Stone (both Ph.Ds) developed a practice called Voice Dialoguing. Voice Dialoguing is a therapeutic and Psycho-Spiritual practice that involves deeply listening to how you talk to yourself, giving the main voices a name, and negotiating for a healthier internal world.   This week, Anthony Sanna and Dr. Michael Smith get into a rip-roaring conversation about, (and with) the most common voices in most peoples heads.    Listen, Learn, Laugh and get to know your inner selves.     Sept. 16 -2017 The following is about Opportunity. Fusion Health Radio is Growing Up. That means more and more people are finding the show. More and more comments, congratulations and questions are coming our way. And thanks for that. No, really, there are no words for how good positive feedback actually feels. Opportunity? Three things. First, we could use an upgrade in our recording equipment and need to get back to a weekly episode. So, we are looking into a crowdfunding opportunity to help support the show. If you are a regular listener to the show, we hope you feel inspired to send a little love our way. Second, if you are reading this and need some help, reach out and ask us to get into whatever you feel could help you. Or, contact Michael and his team for a personal consultation. Third, Michael is a compulsive learn-oholic and teach-oholic and wants to offer you the chance to go even deeper into your journey of healing, inner peace, and self-awareness. Below are links to the online courses that Michael is presently offering. "These courses have helped me and my patients stay or move towards Health, Fitness, Success, and Happiness." - Michael Starting September 27th, 2017 - 10 Weeks to Abundant Health - You can join until Oct. 11 http://integrativehealthsolutions.ca/10-weeks-abundant-health/ Starting October 16th, 2017 - 10 Weeks to Higher Consciousness with Applied Meditation http://integrativehealthsolutions.ca/clinic-services/applied-meditation-training/ Starting October 25th, 2017 - Qi Gong Teacher Training Program (3-5 year, 500 hours of Qi Gong Training) http://integrativehealthsolutions.ca/500-hour-qi-gong-teacher-training/        

This week on Relationships 2.0 my guest is Linda Carroll author of Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love About the book: In Love Cycles, veteran couples therapist Linda Carroll presents a groundbreaking model of the five natural stages of romantic relationships — the Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, Decision, and Wholehearted Love — and a guide for navigating through them toward lasting love. Love Cycles helps readers understand where they are in the cycle of their relationship and provides a clear strategy for how to stay happy and committed, even in difficult times. About the author: Linda Carroll, MS, has worked as a couple’s therapist for more than 30 years. In addition to being a licensed psychotherapist, she is certified in Transpersonal Psychology and Imago Therapy, the highly successful form of couple’s therapy developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. She is also a master teacher in the Pairs Psychoeducation Process, a nationally-recognized relationship education program for couples. Linda has studied many modalities of psychological and spiritual work, including Voice Dialogue with Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, Holotropic Breathwork with Dr. Stan Grof, the Four-Fold With Angeles Arrien, the Diamond Heart Work of A.H. Almaas, and training with The Couples Institute of Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson. She is also certified in the Hot Monogamy program, which helps couples create or re-create a passionate connection between them. Linda works with a limited number of couples regularly in a new style of “concierge therapy,” in which she travels to their home or office for 2-6 days per year for private, all-day sessions, offering ongoing Skype and phone sessions in between. She teaches workshops and delivers keynote addresses throughout the United States and is a frequent speaker at Rancho La Puerta in Tecate, Mexico. Linda lives in Corvallis, Oregon, with her veterinarian husband, Tim Barraud, and their dog, a Jack Russell Terrier. She has five children and nine grandchildren. In 2006, her memoir, Her Mother’s Daughter, was published by Doubleday. In 2008, Remember Who You Are was published by Conari Press in San Francisco Her recent book, Love Cycles:The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love was released in the fall of 2014 by New World Library. Find her on the web at lindaacarroll.com or lovecycles.org

MEET:  Linda Carroll, MS, has worked as a couple's therapist for more than 35 years and for the past five years has been a couples coach throughout the United States, both in person and via long-distance telecommunications. In addition to being a licensed psychotherapist, she is certified in Transpersonal Psychology and Imago Therapy, the highly successful form of couple's therapy developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. She is also a master teacher in the Pairs Psychoeducation Process, a nationally-recognized relationship education program for couples. Linda has studied many modalities of psychological and spiritual work, including Voice Dialogue with Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, Holotropic Breathwork with Dr. Stan Grof, the Four-Fold With Angeles Arrien, the Diamond Heart Work of A.H. Almaas, and training with The Couples Institute of Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson. She is also certified in the Hot Monogamy program, which helps couples create or re-create a passionate connection between them.  Linda works with a limited number of couples regularly in a new style of “concierge therapy,” in which she travels to their home or office for 2-6 days per year for private, all-day sessions, offering ongoing Skype and phone sessions in between. She teaches workshops and delivers keynote addresses throughout the United States and is a frequent speaker at Rancho La Puerta in Tecate, Mexico.  http://www.lindacarroll.com

This week on Relationships 2.0 my guest is Linda Carroll author of Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love. Whether you are in a new relationship or you’ve been partnered for years, you will benefit from Linda’s relationship expertise. About the book: In Love Cycles, veteran couples therapist Linda Carroll presents a groundbreaking model of the five natural stages of romantic relationships — the Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, Decision, and Wholehearted Love — and a guide for navigating through them toward lasting love. Love Cycles helps readers understand where they are in the cycle of their relationship and provides a clear strategy for how to stay happy and committed, even in difficult times. About the author: Linda Carroll, MS, has worked as a couple’s therapist for more than 30 years. In addition to being a licensed psychotherapist, she is certified in Transpersonal Psychology and Imago Therapy, the highly successful form of couple’s therapy developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. She is also a master teacher in the Pairs Psychoeducation Process, a nationally-recognized relationship education program for couples. Linda has studied many modalities of psychological and spiritual work, including Voice Dialogue with Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, Holotropic Breathwork with Dr. Stan Grof, the Four-Fold With Angeles Arrien, the Diamond Heart Work of A.H. Almaas, and training with The Couples Institute of Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson. She is also certified in the Hot Monogamy program, which helps couples create or re-create a passionate connection between them. Linda works with a limited number of couples regularly in a new style of “concierge therapy,” in which she travels to their home or office for 2-6 days per year for private, all-day sessions, offering ongoing Skype and phone sessions in between. She teaches workshops and delivers keynote addresses throughout the United States and is a frequent speaker at Rancho La Puerta in Tecate, Mexico. Find her on the web at lindaacarroll.com or lovecycles.org.

MEET:  Linda Carroll, MS, has worked as a couple's therapist for more than 35 years and for the past five years has been a couples coach throughout the United States, both in person and via long-distance telecommunications. In addition to being a licensed psychotherapist, she is certified in Transpersonal Psychology and Imago Therapy, the highly successful form of couple's therapy developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. She is also a master teacher in the Pairs Psychoeducation Process, a nationally-recognized relationship education program for couples. Linda has studied many modalities of psychological and spiritual work, including Voice Dialogue with Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, Holotropic Breathwork with Dr. Stan Grof, the Four-Fold With Angeles Arrien, the Diamond Heart Work of A.H. Almaas, and training with The Couples Institute of Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson. She is also certified in the Hot Monogamy program, which helps couples create or re-create a passionate connection between them.  Linda works with a limited number of couples regularly in a new style of “concierge therapy,” in which she travels to their home or office for 2-6 days per year for private, all-day sessions, offering ongoing Skype and phone sessions in between. She teaches workshops and delivers keynote addresses throughout the United States and is a frequent speaker at Rancho La Puerta in Tecate, Mexico.  http://www.lindacarroll.com

Meet Linda Carroll, author of Love Cycles: The 5 Essential Stages of Lasting Love. Linda has studied many modalities of psychological and spiritual work, including Voice Dialogue with Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, Holotropic Breathwork with Dr. Stan Grof, the Four-Fold With Angeles Arrien, the Diamond Heart Work of A.H. Almaas. She is also certified in the Hot Monogamy program, which helps couples create or re-create a passionate connection between them. www.lindaacarroll.comThis show is broadcast live on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network (http://www.talk4media.com/)

We’re joined again by Zen Master Diane “Musho” Hamilton, this time to explore the most fundamental duality of masculine and feminine. Diane points out that if you have an objection to looking at it in these terms, you can also think of it as the polarity between receptivity and activity or between personal and impersonal. She describes this polarity, how it’s been helpful for her as a Zen teacher, and also how to look at compassion from this perspective. Finally we talk about an approach that goes beyond these dualities, but doesn’t shy away from them. This approach of “not 2, not 1″ is characteristic of many Zen teachers and is a way of understanding non-duality in a completely different way. This is part 2 of a two-part series. Listen to part 1, Integral Zen. Episode Links: www.dianemushohamilton.com Hal and Sidra Stone ( www.delos-inc.com ) Karl Renz ( http://www.karlrenz.com )

We’re joined by Zen Master, Diane “Musho” Hamilton, to explore an approach to spiritual practice called “Integral Zen.” In our interview we explore several related topics, including the difference between a path of renunciation and one of transmutation. As part of this we also look at the role that the shadow—a term coined by psychologist Carl Jung—plays in our spiritual practice. In addition we examine how different Buddhist traditions have, or have not, incorporated an understanding of the shadow. We also explore the role that community plays in helping wake each other up, and the verticality of the teacher-student relationship. Finally we talk about how she is incorporating, what are called the “3 faces of spirit” into her Zen teaching. This is part 1 of a two-part series. Listen to part 2, The Most Fundamental Duality. Episode Links: www.dianemushohamilton.com Hal and Sidra Stone ( http://www.delos-inc.com )

About the book: Using knowledge and skills honed over a lifetime of teaching and learning, personal development pioneer Shakti Gawain presents a powerful, life-changing work on a subject she has always been passionate about: our relationships. In her popular workshops and in her personal life, she has tested and refined the insights and exercises in this book, which she cowrote with her longtime collaborator Gina Vucci. Their approach reflects the fact that each of us is in relationships not only with romantic partners, family, coworkers, and children, but also with internal core beliefs and a variety of selves, including primary, disowned, and shadow selves. These revelatory teachings incorporate strategies for becoming aware of hidden beliefs, applying the Voice Dialogue process developed by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, and learning to experience every relationship as a path to self-knowledge. Through her gentle guidance, Shakti shows us how every relationship we have at every moment can be seen as a path toward greater consciousness, healing, and growth. There is no other book on relationships like this. Give this powerful book even a short amount of time and prepare yourself for some truly remarkable results! About the co-author: Gina has worked with Shakti Gawain, a pioneer in the field for personal growth, for more than 15 years. Gina co-leads workshops, facilitates groups and has contributed to Shakti’s best selling products including Developing Intuition, and revised editions of Creative Visualization and Living In The Light. Gina has been trained and certified in a number of counseling fields. She brings a deep level of experience, wisdom and joy to her work with others teaching, speaking, and writing. Here is a snapshot of Gina: Gina is a “Soccer Mom.” She is a single mom raising three inspired children, a survivor of domestic violence, a sober alcoholic for over twenty six years, a mentor, a friend, an advocate, a seeker. Her journey has brought her to a place of knowing that life holds something extraordinary for each of us. Her faith and hope has brought insight and inspiration to many. Her passion is to support people in recognizing their true potential for joy, freedom and empowerment.

About the book: In Love Cycles, veteran couples therapist Linda Carroll presents a groundbreaking model of the five natural stages of romantic relationships — the Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, Decision, and Wholehearted Love — and a guide for navigating through them toward lasting love. Love Cycles helps readers understand where they are in the cycle of their relationship and provides a clear strategy for how to stay happy and committed, even in difficult times. About the author: Linda Carroll, MS, has worked as a couple’s therapist for more than 30 years. In addition to being a licensed psychotherapist, she is certified in Transpersonal Psychology and Imago Therapy, the highly successful form of couple’s therapy developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. She is also a master teacher in the Pairs Psychoeducation Process, a nationally-recognized relationship education program for couples. Linda has studied many modalities of psychological and spiritual work, including Voice Dialogue with Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, Holotropic Breathwork with Dr. Stan Grof, the Four-Fold With Angeles Arrien, the Diamond Heart Work of A.H. Almaas, and training with The Couples Institute of Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson. She is also certified in the Hot Monogamy program, which helps couples create or re-create a passionate connection between them. Linda works with a limited number of couples regularly in a new style of “concierge therapy,” in which she travels to their home or office for 2-6 days per year for private, all-day sessions, offering ongoing Skype and phone sessions in between. She teaches workshops and delivers keynote addresses throughout the United States and is a frequent speaker at Rancho La Puerta in Tecate, Mexico. Linda lives in Corvallis, Oregon, with her veterinarian husband, Tim Barraud, and their dog, a Jack Russell Terrier. She has five children and nine grandchildren. In 2006, her memoir, Her Mother’s Daughter, was published by Doubleday. In 2008, Remember Who You Are was published by Conari Press in San Francisco Her recent book, Love Cycles:The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love was released in the fall of 2014 by New World Library. Find her on the web at lindaacarroll.com or lovecycles.org

About the book: In Love Cycles, veteran couples therapist Linda Carroll presents a groundbreaking model of the five natural stages of romantic relationships — the Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, Decision, and Wholehearted Love — and a guide for navigating through them toward lasting love.Love Cycles helps readers understand where they are in the cycle of their relationship and provides a clear strategy for how to stay happy and committed, even in difficult times. About the author: Linda Carroll, MS, has worked as a couple's therapist for more than 30 years. In addition to being a licensed psychotherapist, she is certified in Transpersonal Psychology and Imago Therapy, the highly successful form of couple's therapy developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. She is also a master teacher in the Pairs Psychoeducation Process, a nationally-recognized relationship education program for couples. Linda has studied many modalities of psychological and spiritual work, including Voice Dialogue with Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, Holotropic Breathwork with Dr. Stan Grof, the Four-Fold With Angeles Arrien, the Diamond Heart Work of A.H. Almaas, and training with The Couples Institute of Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson. She is also certified in the Hot Monogamy program, which helps couples create or re-create a passionate connection between them. Linda works with a limited number of couples regularly in a new style of "concierge therapy," in which she travels to their home or office for 2-6 days per year for private, all-day sessions, offering ongoing Skype and phone sessions in between. She teaches workshops and delivers keynote addresses throughout the United States and is a frequent speaker at Rancho La Puerta in Tecate, Mexico. Linda lives in Corvallis, Oregon, with her veterinarian husband, Tim Barraud, and their dog, a Jack Russell Terrier. She has five children and nine grandchildren. In 2006, her memoir, Her Mother's Daughter, was published by Doubleday. In 2008, Remember Who You Are was published by Conari Press in San Francisco Her recent book, Love Cycles:The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love was released in the fall of 2014 by New World Library. Find her on the web at lindaacarroll.com or lovecycles.org

Hal Stone graduated from UCLA with a Ph.D. in psychology in 1953. He served in the Navy for four years as a psychologist, and later trained at the C.G. Jung Institute of Los Angeles. He remained there for 14 years, working as an analyst, and resigned in 1974. He is married to Sidra Stone. She graduated from Barnard with a Bachelor’s degree and received her Ph.D. from the University of Maryland in 1962. different points in her career. Sidra Stone worked in the mental health field in public service, as well as privately as a psychotherapist. She was involved with the Veteran’s Administration and adolescent treatment centers at different points in her career. The Stones developed Voice Dialogue based on their theory of the Psychology of Selves. This theory describes how each self relates to the others in relationships, both external and internal. The Psychology of Selves states that there are three dimensions to consciousness: 1. Awareness 2. Experience of the selves 3. Aware ego