Podcasts about Flett

Alberta (Rural Roots Canada) – Rocky Mountain Equipment (RME) has launched the 2025 Right by You Ag Society Grant, a community initiative that awards $10,000 each to four agricultural societies across Alberta, Saskatchewan, and Manitoba. Cory Flett, Marketing and Communications Manager for RME, says the company is committed to giving back to the communities where employees and customers live and work. “We feel these ag societies are a large part of the fabric in these communities, and often are the social hubs with rodeos and various other events that they host,” says Flett. “We feel it's important to keep those alive.”

In this podcast, I talked with Dr Gordon Flett about the psychology of mattering, a topic in which he has been a leader in the field. Mattering is a core component of one's self concept which refers to a genral sense of being significant, and valued in our relationships. A felt sense of mattering is a strongly protective factor against a variety stressors. Conversely, the absence of mattering has been associated with depression and suicidal ideation. A sense of mattering becomes especially relevant  during the adolescent years as fitting in with peers becomes so important The importance of mattering is an idea that immediately resonates with many people and is the  theme in movies such as It's a Wonderful Life and Mr Holland's Opus. Unfortunately, in keeping with the crisis in youth mental health, survey data suggest that about 30% of adolescents do not feel or are not certain that they matter to anyone. So this is obviously an important topic for us to consider Dr Flett has written two books on the psychology of Mattering: Mattering As A CORE Need in Children and Adolescents  and The Psychology of Mattering: Understanding the Human Need to be Significant In an earlier podcast  on 9/13/22, I also talked to Dr Flett about his book he coauthored with Paul Hewitt Perfectionism in Childhood and Adolescence: A Developmental Approach The Mattering Movement website is an excellent source of information https://www.thematteringmovement.com/ see also https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/27/well/mind/mental-health-mattering-self-esteem.html  

Sports massage therapist and City of Sheffield masters swimmer, Ken Flett and Dom Wooldridge discuss recovery with Helen Gorman.How can masters swimmers optimise recovery? Do we need to rush out and buy an ice bath, order some inflatable compression trousers and block book weekly massages?Ken also discusses his recovery from recent prostate cancer surgery, including a visit from Sheffield's relay rivals, Basingstoke Bluefins to help complete a charity fundraising challenge. 

Want to scale your Business with Content? Go here: https://www.wearelaneymedia.com/podcast-smmUnpacking Viral Content Strategy with Caroline Flett | Social Media Millionaire PodcastIn this comprehensive episode of the Social Media Millionaire podcast, Kenda sits down with the go-to expert in viral content creation, Caroline Flett. Caroline shares her in-depth knowledge and experiences on how to make content that not only attracts but retains and grows a loyal audience on social media platforms like Instagram and TikTok.Caroline delves into the hard lessons learned about consistently going viral, emphasizing the importance of putting oneself out there and leveraging existing content by analyzing what works. She offers invaluable insights into her meticulous research process, which starts on Instagram and sometimes extends to TikTok, revealing the most effective formats and strategies to make content binge-worthy and highly shareable.The discussion covers the significance of having a content series, the psychology of engaging hooks, and the necessity of being clear and specific in delivering value. Caroline also touches on the importance of hook optimization, explaining how she iterates multiple versions to find the most compelling one. She shares her process for editing and scripting reels, focusing on maintaining audience attention and delivering consistent, high-quality content.Furthermore, Caroline breaks down her use of Notion for organizing and managing her content strategy. She highlights the importance of balancing different types of content to meet various goals, such as building authority, driving engagement, or converting followers into customers. Caroline also discusses the role of trial reels and ManyChat in her strategy, debunking myths about their potential negative impacts on engagement and reach.For content creators and business owners looking to navigate the complexities of social media marketing, this episode is a goldmine of strategies, tips, and practical advice. Whether you're just starting out or looking to refine your existing approach, Caroline's expertise offers a roadmap to achieving sustained growth and visibility.Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation that's packed with actionable insights tailored for today's digital landscape.00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview01:49 The Hard Lessons of Going Viral02:35 Research and Strategy for Viral Content03:50 The Power of Content Series07:29 Creating Engaging and Effective Reels10:57 Research Tools and Techniques19:20 Content Management and Planning25:08 Outsourcing Content Creation29:36 Crafting Effective Spoken Reels32:30 The Importance of Hooks in Content Creation33:41 Creating Viral Hooks: Tips and Techniques34:55 The Power of Specificity in Hooks38:56 Experimenting with Trial Reels47:26 Dealing with Negative Comments50:49 Using ManyChat for Engagement53:13 Organic Growth vs. Paid Ads56:03 Final Thoughts and Offers

"Part of the reason I stay super busy is bc if I stop to rest l'll ruminate. And if I ruminate, I start spiraling. And if I spiraling I'm like a nosediving plane" Sound familiar? Discover the ANSWER to WHY you get stuck in your most annoying perfectionist tendencies, like ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking every small mistake etc. Plus the 6 reasons your perfectionist brain holds on to outdated habits,  how chronic stress impacts your brain's ability to change, the role of back and white thinking in reinforcing unhelpful neural pathways, why past experiences trick your brain into seeing danger everywhere and how to stop your worries from becoming self-fulfilling prophecies.  On paper, you've got it together— isn't it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS:00:00–How to finally take charge of ruminating02:16–Missed the last episode? Here's a quick recap04:06–What happens when your brain gets it wrong06:09–Why perfectionist brains resists learning from mistakes07:40–6 sneaky reasons your brain ignores new info08:23–How chronic stress keeps your brain stuck10:20–Why your brain clings to old patterns11:42–The hidden reason you avoid discomfort12:51–When your brain blows things out of proportion13:49–How black-and-white thinking is like wearing blinders15:19–Why past experiences warp your reactions19:34–How to update your brain so you can get unstuck21:09–One small shift to start seeing change today The first step in rewiring Resources Mentioned In Episode 250:Take your first step in rewiring Perfect Start Introductory SessionMagic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 192Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Citations/Sources:Bar, M. (2009). The proactive brain: memory for predictions. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B Biological Sciences, 364(1521), 1235–1243. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2008.0310Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 16(7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950Braem, S., Coenen, E., Klaas Bombeke, Bochove, van, & Wim Notebaert. (2015). Open your eyes for prediction errors. Cognitive Affective & Behavioral Neuroscience, 15(2), 374–380. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-014-0333-4Clark, A. (2013). Whatever next? Predictive brains, situated agents, and the future of cognitive science. Behavioral and Brain Sciences, 36(3), 181–204. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0140525x12000477Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3Lital Yosopov, Saklofske, D. H., Smith, M. M., Flett, G. L., & Hewitt, P. L. (2024). Failure Sensitivity in Perfectionism and Procrastination: Fear of Failure and Overgeneralization of Failure as Mediators of Traits and Cognitions. Journal of Psychoeducational Assessment, 42(6), 705–724. https://doi.org/10.1177/07342829241249784Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2022). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality Neuroscience, 5. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3‌McNally, G. P., Johansen, J. P., & Blair, H. T. (2011). Placing prediction into the fear circuit. *Trends in Neurosciences*, *34*(6), 283–292. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tins.2011.03.005‌Meyer, A., & Wissemann, K. (2020). Controlling parenting and perfectionism is associated with an increased error-related negativity (ERN) in young adults. *Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience*, *15*(1), 87–95. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsaa018‌Roy, M., Shohamy, D., Daw, N., Jepma, M., Wimmer, G. E., & Wager, T. D. (2014). Representation of aversive prediction errors in the human periaqueductal gray. *Nature Neuroscience*, *17*(11), 1607–1612. https://doi.org/10.1038/nn.3832‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"

Trina Flett has a lot to talk about, including her dad - a mostly unsung Manitoba musician - her extraordinary travel adventures and more...

Send us a textIn this episode, Andy Vasily interviews Dr. Gordon Flett, a distinguished psychologist from York University and author of "The Psychology of Mattering." The conversation explores the concept of mattering—feeling valued and significant in others' lives—and how it differs from self-esteem. Dr. Flett draws from his 30 years of research to explain how mattering plays a crucial role in preventing depression, suicide, and antisocial behaviors.Drawing from both personal experiences and academic research, Dr. Flett discusses how parents, teachers, and leaders can create environments where people feel genuinely valued. He emphasizes the strong correlation between mattering and hope, explaining how feeling significant helps combat hopelessness. The episode offers valuable insights for parents, educators, coaches, and leaders on fostering a sense of mattering in their respective settings.We conclude with practical resources on mattering, which listeners can access through the show notes, along with Dr. Flett's contact information for those interested in learning more about his work.Dr. Flett's Bio:Gordon L. Flett, PhD, is a professor in the Department of Psychology at York University in Toronto, Canada, where he has held a Canada Research Chair in Personality & Health. He is also the former Associate Dean of Research and former Director of the LaMarsh Centre for Child and Youth Research in the Faculty of Health at York University. Currently, Dr. Flett is an Associate Editor of the APA journal Canadian Psychology.Dr. Flett is recognized globally for his seminal contributions to research and theory on the role of perfectionism in mental and physical health. This work includes the 2022 APA book on perfectionism in childhood and adolescents. Dr. Flett is also known for his leading role and many journal articles and knowledge mobilization activities on the nature and correlates of mattering. His 2018 book on the psychology of mattering is the first complete book of the mattering construct. Dr. Flett is also a member of the APA and Fellow of the Association for Psychological Science, which has cited him as one of the top 25 most productive authors in psychology.Connect with Dr. Flett: Email: gflett@yorku.ca Twitter "X"Free Access Articles Written by Dr. FlettAging and Feeling Valued Versus Expendable During the COVID-19 Pandemic and BeyondAn Introduction, Review, and Conceptual Analysis of Mattering as an Essential Construct and an Essential Way of LifeThe Anti-Mattering Scale: Development, Psychometric Properties and Associations With Well-Being and Distress Measures in Adolescents and Emerging AdultsIn-Person Versus Online Learning in Relation to Students' Perceptions of Mattering During COVID-19Faculty Perceptions of Mattering in Teaching and Learning: A Qualitative Examination of the Views, Values, and Teaching Practices of Award-Winning ProfessorsAddtional Articles Written About Dr. Flett's Work: Do You ‘Matter' to Others? The Answer Could Predict Your Mental HealthWhy We Need to Feel Like We Matter

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology. In today's episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing Procrastination. They will talk about what it is, the causes, and reasons of why we procrastinate and the many ways you can try to overcome it. [Jan 6, 2025] 00:00 - Intro 00:16 - Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro 00:41 - Intro Links -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/                                 02:47 - The Topic of the Day: Procrastination 03:05 - Defining Procrastination 04:00 - Lack of Motivation 05:20 - Regulating Emotions 06:20 - The Intention Matters 07:55 - Self Sabotage 09:59 - Realistic Expectations 13:40 - A Setback in NOT Failure! 17:09 - Smaller Goals for Larger Achievements 20:39 - Remaining Flexible 23:25 - Dig a Little Deeper 25:03 - Finding Balance From Others 28:10 - Being Held Accountable 33:00 - The Role of Self Compassion 37:30 - Wrap Up 37:40 - Next Month: The Bystander Effect 37:50 - Outro                     -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org   Find us online: -          Twitter: @DrAbbieofficial -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-abbie-maroño-phd -          Instagram: @DoctorAbbieofficial -          Twitter: @humanhacker -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christopherhadnagy     References: Abdi Zarrin, S., & Gracia, E. (2020). Prediction of academic procrastination by fear of failure and self-regulation. Educational Sciences: Theory and Practice, 20(3), 34-43. Beswick, G., Rothblum, E. D., & Mann, L. (1988). Psychological antecedents of student procrastination. Australian psychologist, 23(2), 207-217. Brownlow, S., & Reasinger, R. D. (2000). Putting off until tomorrow what is better done today: academic procrastination as a function of motivation toward college work. Journal of Social Behavior & Personality, 15(5). Cerino, E. S. (2014). Relationships between academic motivation, self-efficacy, and academic procrastination. Psi Chi Journal of Psychological Research, 19(4). Chun Chu, A. H., & Choi, J. N. (2005). Rethinking procrastination: Positive effects of" active" procrastination behavior on attitudes and performance. The Journal of social psychology, 145(3), 245-264. Haghbin, M., McCaffrey, A., & Pychyl, T. A. (2012). The complexity of the relation between fear of failure and procrastination. Journal of Rational-Emotive & Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, 30, 249-263. Jackson, T., Fritch, A., Nagasaka, T., & Pope, L. (2003). Procrastination and Perceptions of Past, Present, and Future. Individual Differences Research, 1(1). Katz, I., Eilot, K., & Nevo, N. (2014). “I'll do it later”: Type of motivation, self-efficacy and homework procrastination. Motivation and Emotion, 38, 111-119. Muñoz-Olano, J. F., & Hurtado-Parrado, C. (2017). Effects of goal clarification on impulsivity and academic procrastination of college students. Revista Latinoamericana de Psicología, 49(3), 173-181. Senécal, C., Koestner, R., & Vallerand, R. J. (1995). Self-regulation and academic procrastination. The journal of social psychology, 135(5), 607-619. Yosopov, L., Saklofske, D. H., Smith, M. M., Flett, G. L., & Hewitt, P. L. (2024). Failure sensitivity in perfectionism and procrastination: Fear of failure and overgeneralization of failure as mediators of traits and cognitions. Journal of Psychoeducational Assessment, 07342829241249784.

Gary hosts a bus outing of members and friends of the Celtic Arts Foundation, Washington State, across the border to Canada. We visit Lee and Sons Bagpipes in the company of Jack and Andrew, and check out Terry and Alastair Lee's Tartantown emporium, where we're treated to some bagpipe music of the highest order.PlaylistJack Lee with Donald MacLean's Farewell to Oban from EYP recording Dec 2024Jack Lee with Echo Lake, Flett from Flotta and  Champion of the Sees from EYP recording Dec 2024Cameron Bonar with Anthem for the Wind and Water from EYP recording Dec 2024Cameron Bonar with Catlodge, The Bob of Fettercairn, Mrs MacPherson of Inveran and Alec C MacGregor from EYP recording Dec 2024Cameron Bonar with Donella Beaton, Lark in the Morning and The Mason's Apron from EYP recording Dec 2024Zephan Knichel with The Knightswood Ceilidh and Southall from EYP recording Dec 2024Zephan Knichel with John Paterson's Mare and Last Tango in Harris from EYP recording Dec 2024Alastair Lee with Hasten and Come with Me, Alan Duncan and Blue Cloud from EYP recording Dec 2024Support the show

Dr. JoAnn Flett is the Executive Director of the Center for Faithful Business at Seattle Pacific University. JoAnn is a frequent speaker, network collaborator and organizational consultant teasing out the intersection of business activities that promote shalom/flourishing. In this episode, she shares how God guided her to fulfill her childhood calling to missions, through the ministry of business.

You DO matter! Exploring the impact of mattering in caregiving.     Dr. Gordon Flett's research on mattering highlights a crucial aspect of psychological well-being, especially for caregivers. Mattering, the sense of feeling significant or valuable to others, can greatly influence one's sense of self-worth and overall mental health. For caregivers, this feeling of mattering can be self-generated, often through acts of giving and supporting others.   Dr. Flett emphasizes that by valuing oneself and acknowledging the efforts of those who provide care, individuals can foster a greater sense of hope. This not only benefits the caregiver but also enhances their resilience and adaptability, which are essential traits for managing the challenges associated with caregiving. The sense of mattering can thus play a pivotal role in sustaining motivation and emotional strength in caregiving roles.  Guest host for this webinar: Ann-Marie Kungl, CEO, Alzheimer Society-Simcoe County.     

Trigger Warning: Mention of Eating Disorders and mental Illness Welcome back pole dancers to this episode of Science of Slink! This week we are touching on how perfection harms people's movement, progress, and mental states. To wrap up the video I'm including recommendations for how to avoid perfectionism influences and how to rework patterns of our internal perfectionism.  Let's start by defining perfectionism, perfectionism is "excessively high personal standards of performance accompanied by tendencies for overly critical evaluations of one's behavior" (Frost, R. 14) perfectionism is different from conscientiousness which exhibits characteristics such as being responsible, organized, hard-working, goal-directed, and adhering to norms and rules.  So why is perfectionism so bad? Perfectionism has been correlated with being a source of chronic stress, it's associated with a much higher risk of a large range of negative mental health outcomes. One of the big reasons these correlations have been found is because perfectionism steals your ability to enjoy your accomplishments and the things you enjoy.  I recommend reframing perfectionism mindsets and here are some ways I recommend reframing your mindset. First, be honest about whether perfectionism is negatively affecting you. Do you enjoy activities less because of it? Are you under more stress than necessary? Working with a mental health professional can be a huge step in the right direction to help us notice where perfectionism is impacting our lives. One really important thing when looking for a place to practice, try to find spaces where failure is treated as a normal part of life--because it is! Lastly, but most importantly, work on reframing in your pole practice:  Have goals around the amount of time spent training a skill or number of attempts as opposed to "nailing it" At the end of each training session, write down one thing that felt really good (no qualifiers!) Change up your social media feed: mute (temporarily as needed) professional performers and seek out dancers at a similar level and with a similar body type as you (and even then, remember: it's a highlight reel!) Take live group classes Sources:  Frost, R. O., Marten, P., Lahart, C., & Rosenblate, R. (1990). The dimensions of perfectionism. Cognitive therapy and research, 14, 449-468. Further reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/conscientiousness "Canadian prima ballerina Karen Kain acknowledged that perfectionism meant that she enjoyed a very small percentage of her more than 10,000 professional performances" Flett et al 2014 Hill, A. P., Mallinson-Howard, S. H., & Jowett, G. E. (2018). Multidimensional perfectionism in sport: A meta-analytical review. Sport, Exercise, and Performance Psychology, 7(3), 235. Hall, H. K., & Hill, A. P. (2012). Perfectionism, dysfunctional achievement striving and burnout in aspiring athletes: The motivational implications for performing artists. Theatre, Dance and Performance Training, 3(2), 216-228. Flett, G. L., & Hewitt, P. L. (2014). The perils of perfectionism in sports” revisited: Toward a broader understanding of the pressure to be perfect and its impact on athletes and dancers. International Journal of Sport Psychology, 45(4), 395-407. Slink Through Strength Email Sign Up:  ⁠http://eepurl.com/iimjnX⁠ Join pole instructor & personal trainer Rosy Boa as she chats with experts about the evidence-based practices you can introduce to your pole journey to improve your pole journey and feel better. The Evidence-Based Pole Podcast aims to help pole dancers feel better on and off the pole by talking with experts and diving into relevant scientific research to find evidence-based insights we can apply to our pole journeys. It's a production of Slink Through Strength, the inclusive, evidence-based online pole studio, which can be found online at slinkthroughstrength.com. Edited by: Simone Rossette  Simone.rossette77@gmail.com

In this episode of Confessions of a Debut Novelist, I'm talking to Jane Flett about her horror novel Freakslaw. We discuss why her inspiration started with bringing together her obsessions and interests, why Stephen King inspired her choice to use an omniscient narrator and how teaching and working alongside other writers helps her get through the writing slog. Confessions of a Debut Novelist Bookshop*Buy Freakslaw: https://uk.bookshop.org/a/10990/9780857529541Follow Jane: @thejanefletthttps://janeflett.comFollow Chloe on Twitter: @clotimmsBuy Chloe's debut novel The Seawomen: https://linktr.ee/chloetimmschloetimms.co.uk *affiliate link - if you buy books linked to the Bookshop.org site, I may earn a commission. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lulonda Flett grew up in the footsteps of her dysfunctional parents. The choices she made led her to commit a horrific mass murder in Winnipeg, Manitoba. Lulonda's victims were living in a rooming house and were trying to make their own lives better. People have mixed feelings about this case, but regardless, Lulonda's dirtbag actions led to the tragic deaths of five innocent people. If you enjoy listening, there are a few ways for you to help us out: Buy us a snack, follow us on social media, click 'follow' where ever you're listening from, and give us a rating and review! Thanks for listening! BUY US A SNACK: https://ko-fi.com/buriedmotives Follow us on FaceBook: https://m.facebook.com/Buried-Motives-107918331555188/ Follow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/buriedmotives Email us: buriedmotives@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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We go over some recent and rarer news in Canada and beyond.  Lot's happening in Canada even today, Bank of Canada reduces rates, will that effect the dollar and our economy? There are some unnamed MP's apparently in trouble for foreign influence. Is Darren racist? What's going on in Canada? They are trying to get 16 years approved for voting. What about the lost decade? How about safer snorting? Look at the brochure on how to use hard drugs from a school. Bonny Henry is grilled about BC, importing heroin etc. Jack Dorsey warns about algo's and suggests new system to match freedom of will. Tucker rants about dummies in power, and the vandalism happening to beauty. Flett investigates the municipalities in Alberta and catches woke plus agenda coming all the way from WEF through UNESCO etc. The new Canadian Medical Association head does not seem to believe people are injured from the jab. Yet, the dam is leaking from many holes. The Jab damage is everywhere being acknowledged and talked about. The ouchi Fauci testimony.... And finally are these some legit solutions from these blogs? Or too much? To gain access to the second half of show and our Plus feed for audio and podcast please clink the link http://www.grimericaoutlawed.ca/support. 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This episode is presented by two Side Dish Dozen members: Edelweiss Restaurant and Red Gravy. Find out more about the Side Dish Dozen here: https://sidedishschnip.substack.com/p/side-dish-dozen In this episode of tap&table, co-hosts Ryan and Matthew sit down with Travis Flett, who's worn a number of different hats for various breweries over the past few decades. The guys chat all things Colorado Springs beer, from Joyride bike rides to hopped water. Follow Travis Flett on Instagram @coloradoflett and see how his Disc Golf tournaments are going here: https://www.pdga.com/player/13179 Follow tap&table on Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/tapandtablepodcast⁠ Follow tap&table on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tapandtablepodcast⁠ About tap&table: tap&table is a comprehensive food and drink podcast for the Pikes Peak region presented by Matthew Schniper (Side Dish) and Ryan Hannigan (Focus on the Beer/Focal Pint). Combined, Matthew and Ryan have 30+ years experience covering food and beer here in Colorado Springs.  Our aim is to elevate voices and ideas directly from the local service industry community with commentary, insight, guests and the TableStakes product-of-the-week segment. By default, each episode will be nomadic by nature, recording via pop-ups in various unique local spaces, to provide texture and ambiance from those environments.

Perfektionismus bedeutet für manche ständiges Scheitern, da Perfektion unerreichbar ist. Für andere ist es ein Wettlauf gegen sich selbst, bei dem jede Gelegenheit genutzt wird und Erholung was für „faule“ ist. Das Problem: Die innere Kritikerstimme. Sie sagt uns: „Ich bin nicht gut genug“, „Ich kann nichts“, „Ich werde meine Ziele nicht erreichen.“ Diese Gedanken lassen uns erst ruhen, wenn etwas nahezu perfekt ist. Um deinem Perfektionismus auf die Schliche zu kommen ist es wie ich schon im ersten Teil der Folge : Welcher Perfektionsimustyp bist du?“ enorm wichtig, Perfektionismus erst mal zu reflektieren um dann herauszufinden, wo in deinem Leben er eigentlich wirkt und seine perfiden Strippen zieht. Und deswegen machen wir jetzt da weiter, wo wir im vorherigen Teil aufgehört haben.Zur Erinnerung, Hewitt und Flett teilen Perfektionismustypen in Selbstorientierten, Fremdorientierten und Sozial vorgeschriebenem Perfektionismus. Wenn ihr mehr dazu hören wollt, dann hört in die vorherige Podcastfolge rein. Kommen wir zum nächsten Modell: Für mich ergänzt das Fünf-Typen-Modell von Katherine Morgan Schafler perfekt das Modell von Paul L. Hewitt und Gordon L. Flett aus dem ersten Teil der Folge. Hier geht es unter anderem um "Chaotische und Pariser Perfektionisten". Wenn du wissen willst, was genau das bedeutet, hör dir diese Folge an. Viel Spaß bei dieser Folge,EileenLet´s connect: https://www.instagram.com/eileenjacobs.coaching/https://www.linkedin.com/in/eileen-jacobs-b69873188/Wenn du Fragen hast, oder Anregungen, schreib mir gerne: jacobs@jacobs-coaching.de Wenn dir mein Podcast gefällt und er für dich hilfreich ist, dann freue ich mich über einen Daumen nach oben, sowie ein Abo.Und wenn du mein Buch "ENDLICH UNPERFEKT. Vom Perfektionismus zur Leichtigkeit." lesen möchtest, kannst du es dir hier bestellen. https://amzn.eu/d/1brpMz4Danke und alles Liebe,Eileen 

In this episode, I'm excited to discuss the latest updates and features on Instagram with Caroline Flett, who has rapidly grown her Instagram following to over 800,000 in under a year. Caroline brings a wealth of knowledge from her experiences on both Instagram and TikTok, making this conversation a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their social media strategy. We dive deep into the implications of Instagram's new features and algorithm changes, focusing on how they impact user engagement and content visibility. Caroline shares her insights on adapting to these changes, offering valuable tips for leveraging Instagram to its fullest potential. Whether you're a seasoned creator or just starting, understanding these updates is crucial for your success. To wrap up, Caroline provides actionable advice for utilizing Instagram's latest tools effectively. She explains the best practices for engaging with your audience and ensuring your content stands out amidst the competition. This episode is packed with practical strategies that will help you navigate through Instagram's evolving landscape and continue growing your presence effectively.

As a corporate lawyer, the idea of moving into a not-for-profit (NFP) role initially didn't appear logical to Elisabeth Flett. However, since making the decision to transition and settling into such work, she has discovered that working as a lawyer in the NFP space has provided her with an elevated sense of personal and vocational purpose. In this episode of The Corporate Counsel Show, host Jerome Doraisamy speaks with Cancer Council NSW general counsel and company secretary Elisabeth Flett about the day-to-day work she does with her organisation, being at the coalface of such important work for Australian communities, how and why she came to transition from a corporate role to work in the NFP space, and the questions one has to ask of one's self in making such vocational decisions. Flett also delves into overcoming self-limiting thought processes about what a legal career can or should look like, looking for NFP opportunities rather than waiting for them to present themselves, and why making this career transition has been so rewarding and purpose-driven for her. If you like this episode, show your support by  rating us or leaving a review on Apple Podcasts (The Lawyers Weekly Show) and by following Lawyers Weekly on social media: Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn. If you have any questions about what you heard today, any topics of interest you have in mind, or if you'd like to lend your voice to the show, email editor@lawyersweekly.com.au for more insights!

About Our Guest: Elisabeth Flett is the General Counsel and Company Secretary of Cancer Council NSW. Elisabeth and Mel discuss finding purpose and passion in your career, including Elisabeth's break from the law to study veterinary science and what drew her back to legal practice. Elisabeth was recently awarded 2023 General Counsel of the Year by the Association of Corporate Counsel. Connect with Elisabeth: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elisabethflett/ Instagram: @the.me.shaped.lawyer Connect with Mel: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/theinhouselawyer/ Counsel Podcast Page on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/67479008/admin/feed/posts/ Instagram & TikTok: @theinhouselawyer

How do you integrate your faith and work, especially when leading in a marketplace setting? Dr. JoAnn Flett, executive director of the Center for Faithful Business at Seattle Pacific University, joins us to discuss the value of living out your faith in your daily work.  Find full show notes here: https://bit.ly/362drjoannflett Share the love. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate it on Apple Podcasts and write a brief review. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-flourishing-culture-podcast/id1060724960?mt=2   By doing so, you will help spread our podcast to more listeners, and thereby help more Christian workplaces learn to build flourishing cultures. Follow our Host, Al Lopus, on X https://twitter.com/allopus  Follow our Host, Al Lopus, on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/allopus/ Email our host at al@workplaces.org

Take a journey into the comedic world of Monty Python with this captivating video. From their iconic sketches and movies to their groundbreaking television series, discover the brilliance behind this legendary comedy group. Get ready for a laughter-filled experience as we delve into their most memorable moments, explore the genius of their writing and acting, and unravel the cultural impact they had on comedy. Whether you're a die-hard fan or new to Monty Python, there's something for everyone in this video that celebrates the enduring legacy of these comedic geniuses. Kyle Curtis Flett AKA KCF will be joining us this Saturday, September 2 at 2 pm CST. You can watch the live stream on youtube.com/@TheGervaisPodcast and Twitch.com/TTVGervais. https://www.youtube.com/@TheGervaisPodcast https://www.twitch.tv/ttvgervais @montypythonofficial, #montypythonandtheholygrail, #montypythonsflyingcircus, #montypythonsketches, #montypythonmovies, #montypythonmeaningoflife, #montypythonspamalot, #montypythonparrotsketch, #MontyPythonFunnyMoments, #MontyPythonSlapstick, #comedy , #britishcomedy , #britishhumorTwitch: ttvgervais - Twitch Instagram: Steven Gervais (@thegervaispodcast) • Instagram photos and videos YouTube: YouTube.com/@TheGervaisPodcast TikTok: Steven Gervais (@thegervaispodcast) | TikTok Facebook: The Gervais Podcast group | Facebook Website: Steven Gervais and Friend's Podcast (stevengervaisandfriendspodcast.com)

When I received an email about this new book, I knew I wanted to talk with its author. The book? The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control. The author? Katherine Morgan Schafler, a psychotherapist and former on-site therapist at Google. She's worked with many high-achieving women who are told they need to find "balance" - as if they're doing something wrong! Katherine tells us instead that what's important is to learn about the five different types of constructive perfectionism so that it can work for you! As she says, "You can dare to want more without feeling greedy or ungrateful!" She's an eloquent writer and speaker and it was wonderful having her on SelfWork as she helps these women exchange superficial control for real power.  Hope you'll listen in and learn! Advertisers' Links: Have you been putting off getting help? BetterHelp, the #1 online therapy provider, has a special offer for you now! Vital Links: The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power My TEDx talk that today has earned 100,000 views! You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, The Selfwork Podcast.  Subscribe to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you'd like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression is available here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it's available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook! And there's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You'll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you're giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I'll look forward to hearing from you! Episode Transcript: Speaker 1: Dr. Margaret This is SelfWork. And I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford At Self-Work. We'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. I'm Dr. Margaret, and Self-Work is a podcast dedicated to you, taking just a few minutes today for your own selfwork. Hello and welcome or welcome back to SelfWork. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I started this podcast now, almost seven years ago, to extend the walls of my practice to many of you who've already been in therapy and very interested in psychological and mental issues, emotional issues, to those of you who might have just been diagnosed with something and you're looking for answers. And also to a third group of you that might be a little skeptical about the whole mental health treatment thing. And even admitting to someone that you need help, that's a step in and of itself. So listening to a podcast, it's a real safe way to do that, right? Welcome to all of you. Y'all all know that I've written a book called Perfectly Hidden Depression, where we need to look at perfectionism as it serves as a camouflage for really a lot of inner struggle, despair, loneliness, and even sometimes suicidal thinking. So I was very interested to see a book that's come out talking more about the positive aspects of perfectionism, what I would term constructive perfectionism rather than destructive perfectionism. So there's a new book by Katherine Morgan Schafler called The Perfectionist Guide to Losing Control. And she says, you know, you don't have to stop being a perfectionist to be healthy. She says, for women who are sick of being given the generic advice that they just need to find balance, her new approach has arrived, and she's categorized these constructive perfectionists in five ways: classic, intense, Parisian, messy or procrastinator. Which one could you be? As you identify your unique perfectionist profile, you'll learn how to manage each form of perfectionism to work for you, not against you. Beyond managing, you'll learn how to embrace and even enjoy your perfectionism. Yes, enjoy. This book is elegantly written. I had to comment at the very beginning of the interview. I think it's one of the best books, at least self-help books that I've ever read, including my own. So Catherine's book is a love letter to the ambitious, high achieving full of life clients who have filled the author's private practice and who changed her life. Ultimately, her book will show you how to make the single greatest trade you'll ever make in your life, which is to exchange superficial control for real power, is what she says. So I was very interested to talk with Katherine, and we talked a few weeks ago, and that's our episode for today, Katherine Morgan Schafler. So this episode is sponsored once again by Better Help, because when you are ready to ask for help, maybe that will be the venue that you turn to because it is so easy, affordable for many, and very, very conducive to whatever lifestyle you are living. So let's hear from Better Help. BetterHelp Ad: I recently heard a fascinating reframe for the idea of asking for help. Maybe you view asking for help as something someone does who's falling apart or who isn't strong. So consider this. What if asking for help means that you won't let anything get in your way of solving an issue, finding out an answer or discovering a better direction? Asking for help is much more about your determination to recognize what needs your attention, or what is getting in your way of having the life you want better help. The number one online therapy provider makes reaching out about as easy as it can get. Within 48 hours, you'll have a professional licensed therapist with whom you can text, email, or talk with to guide you, and you're not having to comb through therapist websites or drive to appointments. It's convenient, inexpensive, and readily available. Now, you can find a therapist that fits your needs with better help. And if you use the code or link Better help.com/selfwork, you get 10% off your first month of sessions. So just do it. You'll be glad you did. That. Link again is better help.com/selfwork to get 10% off your first month of services. And now I want to introduce you to Catherine Morgan Schaeffler, the author of The Perfectionist Guide to Losing Control. Interview: Speaker 1: Dr. Margaret Catherine, I I, I was reading your book and, and I will tell you that I, I think you're one of the most eloquent writers that I've ever interviewed and I've interviewed a bunch. Speaker 2: Katherine Schafler Wow, thank you so much. Speaker 1: The way you use language, the way you approach ideas and the way you get them across is really, it makes the book not only very compelling, but it's it's just a pleasure to read. It's, it's a, it's the, it's very evocative and, and I just so enjoyed the way you think and the way you put things. So the process of the book was really good, I thought. 2: Thank you. That is so flattering. I will take that. Thank you so much. 1: Oh, good. So tell SelfWork listeners a little bit about you, who you are, how you get, you know, how you got to be an author, all that kind of thing. 2: Sure. So my name's Katherine Morgan Schafler. I live in New York City, and I'm a psychotherapist and, and I, I think I always secretly wanted to write, but it was never in the forefront of my mind because I really do love being a therapist and, and my private practice was the soul of my work and still is. But I just noticed so many patterns as, as I know you have, because I've read your book as well, which is also fantastic. It was hooked on that intro story, which is every therapist's worst nightmare of Natalie and everything. Anyway, I digress. So, you know, when it is your job to listen to the most intimate pieces of someone's life, unfiltered, uncut and totally honest, that there's something special and sacred about that. And you kind of have your pulse on the zeitgeist in the way that other professions don't necessarily allow. And for me, recognizing patterns across so many clinical settings, across so many de demographics, culturally, socioeconomically, and in all these kinds of ways, really compelled me to contain it somewhere. Mm-Hmm. , hence the book. Mm-Hmm. . So I wrote The Perfectionist Guide to Losing Control, A Path to Peace and Power, because that's, I noticed, universal. 1: That's my cue to show it. . Yeah. , yes. 2: So I, I really noticed universal plates around perfectionism that we are not talking about in commercial wellness. And not only are we not talking about them, we are talking about perfectionism. Like we fully understand it, like we know what it is, and you know, it's agreed upon in the research world that we're in the infancy of understanding this construct and that we don't even have a, an a formal clinical definition for so much of this stuff. And that really... 1: I noticed you call it an innate natural human tendency mm-hmm.Yeah. I thought that was interesting. 2: Yeah. You know, I think that it is natural and innate, and natural does not mean immediately healthy. Mm-Hmm. mm-hmm. , you know, like anger is also natural. That doesn't mean that anger is always healthy, but it also doesn't mean that it's not that there aren't wonderful expressions of that impulse within us. And that if we can just harness our natural innate human impulses instead of trying to eradicate them and get rid of them, which doesn't work, it will never work. I'm glad it will never work, because perfectionism is so powerful. Anger is such a powerful tool. All these things that we think are bad. Mm-Hmm. , they're not bad. They're powerful. 1: Yes. And they can be used in that way. You know, I, of course, I was thinking about my own writing and, and research and work when I was reading your book, and I really loved the juxtaposition of, of what your focus was and what my focus was. Which your focus is much more to a look at the, the beauty of perfectionism and celebrate it in many ways. And, and yet also look for when it's becoming something that, you know, like you said, all the five different types have their pros and their cons. Right. There are things that are great about them, and then there's things that are a little more vulnerable about them. Whereas my work is more talking about trauma and perfectionism and how that can, how perfectionism can at times, certainly not all the time be a camouflage of some kind, something that someone learns how to do in order to cope with the trauma that they have. So they mm-hmm. Anyway, enough about that. But I, I, I so enjoyed looking at this other side of it. And how did you come up with the five different categories? I mean, is that something just observation, clinical observation? 2: Yes. Well, first, let me say, I really resonate with what you just said, because my first job in this profession was working in residential treatment with kids in LA who had been severely abused and neglected so much so that they were no longer even in foster care because their family of origin had in some way not been fit to parent. And then they were abused and neglected in foster care, and then they became what was called wards of the state. Yes. And I saw so much perfectionism, maladaptive perfectionism of just shape shifting, of being around an adult and immediately trying to assess, "Okay, who do they want me to be?" Speaker 2: Who does this grownup want me to be? How do I, how do I best be whatever they need me to be right in this moment to stay safe. 1: Yeah. It's like a supervisor told me once, if you go into someone's home where you meet a family, always pay attention to the child that is quiet in the corner. . 2: Yeah. I put that in my book too. I had, I had similar advice from my supervisor who said, really specifically, pay attention to the children who are behaving perfectly. And I think that's a common adage in training and therapy, because, you know, kids have natural frenetic energy so often, and they're a little bit all over the place, and, and that's a good thing. But when they are trying to manage so much, they you know, fade themselves out. But to return to your original question, I came up with the five types because I was really trying to understand a phenomenon that I was noticing, which was, you know, I, I worked onsite at Google. I had a private practice on Wall Street. I worked in a rehab in Brooklyn in all these different, you've been , all these different settings. And I was able to take a client from my rehab and a client from my private practice on Wall Street and on, and see that they were both going to respond similarly to a certain situation. And those kinds of things started happening all the time. And I'm like, what is the tie that binds this true? Love it. And I thought for a moment, like, is it attachment theory? Is it this, is it what is happening? And how come I can predict with reasonable reliability, how people are going to respond to certain, you know, stimulus? And that's where the five types came from. I said, oh, it's perfectionism that is manifesting here, and it manifests in a patterned way. 1: So the, just to let the listeners know, the five types are: classic, procrastinator, messy, intense, and Parisian. And having lived in Paris for a little while I thought was, that one was very interesting. Oh, I think the French would love that they were some type of perfectness. 2: Well, you know, I I came up with that title because, you know, the, the beauty aesthetic for French women is so, so understated and simple in the sense that like, simplicity is the greatest form of sophistication. Like, it's very much signaling a a subtext of I'm not trying too hard. And the Parisian perfectionist really is embarrassed about other people knowing how much they care about something. Oh, that's, you know, and so they wanna be a little bit effortlessly cool. I'm not trying too hard. I don't care if you like me or not. Speaker 2: Meanwhile, they care a lot. And as I talk about in the book, that's not a bad thing. It's not a bad thing to prioritize connection and relationships and understand the power of those connections that you have. And that is what Parisian perfectionists do. Every perfectionist is chasing an ideal mm-hmm. . And we think of perfectionism in a one dimensional way, as in behavioral perfectionism. So I want everything to be organized and in its place when actually perfectionism is kaleidoscopic. And so perfectionism can show up interpersonally, I want to be perfectly liked by you, or perfectly understood, or I wanna be the perfect mother, the perfect whatever. And that doesn't look like I wanna act and say the perfect things. It's so much more nuanced. That's why I love this subject, because the person is holding in their mind a pie chart of what the perfect mother, let's say, okay. Speaker 2: Behaves like. Right. It's not that she never screams, it's that when she loses her cool, it's only to a certain amount. And then she's immediately able to make successful repair attempts and she's continually, you know, improving and getting better. And, you know, she's, and so when we think of perfect, we think of happy all the time, or never making a mistake, but perfectionism is actually very individualized. Mm-Hmm. , and it's based on the own person's sense of what is, you know, this shows up another example of emotional perfectionism showing up is like, what is the perfect way to feel when you bump into an X ? Right? So it's like, I wanna feel 5% nostalgic, 20% just indifferent, and I don't care. And like 50% confident, empowered, and, you know, I wanna forget about it 10 minutes later. And so, you know, that's where we get to the nuance of perfectionism is those, those little pie charts that we walk around with our minds. 1: I, I think that's great. And, and I'm not sure what I would do if my heads, I don't think it would be perfect, whatever it was. 2: We don't wanna find out. We don't need to find out. Right. that can remain a mystery for us all. 1: It seems more targeted or focused on women. You talk a lot about misogyny, and I totally agree with you. And, and yet how would men be? 2: You know, you're the first person to ask me that question, and I've done so many podcasts. Thank you for asking that, because this is something I wanna talk more about. Unfortunately, like everything can't fit in a book, but perfectionism in men, typically, and I, you know, this is like a heteronormative version of perfectionism in men, typically shows up in like, the perfect response for a man is to be strong, to not cry, to know what to do, and to be able to pretty immediately execute on those actions. Speaker 2: Right? So there's no allowance for inaction. There's no allowance for more feminine qualities of, you know, I need comfort, I need guidance, I need counsel, I need love, I need all the things that men need, but feel unable to either access or ask for, or even recognizing themselves that they need because we've so polarized what it means to be a man and a woman in this, in this ridiculous way that we all know intellectually. But when we are in that position of, of feeling in need, you know, it's hard to be able to operate with a broadened perspective on all that stuff. 1: I was talking to one of my own clients yesterday about asking for help, and I quoted your quote . Hmm. He said, asking for help is refusal to give up. And that's how I frame it. I loved that. So anyway, again, there are lots of little, no, not so little just very noteworthy and memorable.Is that a word? Memorable, things things, quotes in your book. 2: Well, I'm glad that we're including men 'cause people have asked me that question too. And, and what I've noticed and I, I certainly have men, many men come to mind that I've worked with that Right. Fit into this rubric. So, I mean, I'm sure you've noticed the difference between what happens when men cry in front of you in a session, for example. Right. I mean, it's always vulnerable when clients go there. They're meaning like a very emotionally like live wire place when men do it. There, there is like a palpable sense of shame in the room, you know, of like, oh, I am really out of control right now. I am really losing it. Mm-Hmm. . 1: Yeah. I, I I love to say to folks, I think tears are about intensity, not weakness. 2: Mm. I like that reframe. We believe. 1: So one of the things that I appreciated so much about your book is that you spend several chapters on what you can do about it, is what I say on SelfWork all time. What can you do about it? Yeah. And I wanna get there, but before I do, I think there were really in this kind of sense of celebrating, but also trying to understand what the underbelly of perfectionism is. You, you said there are two guiding questions mm-hmm. , how am I striving and why am I striving? Can you talk about that a little bit? 2: Sure. So, you know, mental health and being healthy is not like a coordinate that you just plant your flag in and say, I've arrived. I'm healthy now. And healthy versions of perfectionism and unhealthy versions, like everybody always wants to know, am I healthy, perfectionist or not? And I'm like, let me kill the suspense. You're both, I'm both, anyone who's a perfectionist is both Exactly. Mm-Hmm. . And so I encourage people to think of it on a spectrum, right? And so in instead of a categorical model of I am or am not, the questions of how and why help you really be a little more thoughtful about your level of awareness. So the how it am it skin, it's that, right? Exactly. Exactly. And so the how is like, how am I striving? Am I striving in a way that is hurting me, that is burning me out, that is exploiting people around me, that is, you know, costing me something that I value my integrity, you know, my health, my relationships with my family, whatever it is that's unhealthy perfectionism, maladaptive perfectionism. Conversely, am I striving in a way that makes me feel like more of myself, that helps me to feel alive, that increases my curiosity, that really energizes me and also, you know, tires me out because this is work, you know, but it tires me out in a way that feels satisfying, right? That's healthy adaptive perfectionism. And the why am I striving is like, why am I trying to pursue the thing that I am in pursuit of? Is it because I think achieving that thing is going to enable me to then feel a certain way that once I, once I get my doctorate, then I can feel smart or know that I'm smart. Or once I get married, then I can feel like a grownup or lovable or legit or, you know, is it gonna certify my belonging in some way? Are you trying to get a ticket of admission into some club mm-hmm. , or that's that's, that's unhealthy perfectionism? Or am I striving because it feels so good in the most, in the deepest way to find a pursuit worthy of a lifetime of striving, right. 1: And it's a process, it's a, yeah, you're enjoying the whole nine yards from A to z I mean, you may be tired when you get to Z but it's something that is, like you say, is feeding you at the same time that you are, that you are putting out that kind of energy and determination. 2: Yes, thank you. That's a great point. There's a level of reciprocation of energy, whereas when it's maladaptive and unhealthy, it feels like just hemorrhaging energy, just like, you know, such a cost. And so this most simple example is when people try to look their best, right? Healthy perfectionists might want to, some perfectionists don't really care about the way that they present, but if you're in a healthy place and you do care about the way that you present, you might decide to present, you know, as your best to look your best because you feel your best on the inside. And you wanna animate that and celebrate that and share that and let people know that. Whereas if you are in a maladaptive space, you do the exact same behavior, right. You're looking your best, but you're doing that because you already feel like you're at such a deficit and you already feel unworthy. So the thinking is, I better look my best because I'm already coming to this meeting, this marriage, this whatever it is from a place of lack. And so I need to compensate for that somehow. So I'm gonna, you know, try to compensate by looking my best. So it's very . Yeah. I mean, it's what you're talking about in your book of it's hidden only, you know? Mm-Hmm. only, you know, whether you are focused on looking your best because you know, you truly feel that inside and you wanna animate that mm-hmm. or because you feel a void inside and you wanna try to fill that. 1: I love that term "animate." I think that is very 'cause it does feel as if you are Disney your life in some ways. 'cause You want to, you're trying to, you know, Gordon Flett says, "The better I do, the better I must do."  2: And so it's just this constant cycle of, of of animating that, you know that way you want to seem Yeah, yeah, yeah. In destructive perfectionism. 1: Right. I love those two questions. Help me understand, because I, I got puzzled a little bit about, you talk about balance in a negative way mm-hmm. and I, I understood it. In many ways, it's, you, you know, you can't have it all. You, you just, you know, that's just not gonna happen. But you, you talk about balance is actually an energetic equilibrium. There's another one of those phrases that I loved, and because you've become, you've become being good at being busy. So can you sure. Yeah. 2: So that a little bit for us, yeah. Balance is a wonderful pursuit in its original definition, which is energetic equilibrium. Mm-Hmm. right. Balance in its, yeah. You know, original form is about how you feel on the inside. Right. Balance as we talk about it in commercial wellness has become a, about being good at being busy mm-hmm. mm-hmm. . And so we've really lost the inside of what balance means and we're operating with a shell casing. Yeah, that's an excellent point. Yeah. And so, you know, the people that are genuinely have found this sweet spot of their energetic equilibrium on the outside, they look like the opposite of balanced. You know, they're not able to juggle any task you throw at them. And, and they're not, you know, perfectly moving through their day with all of the, you know, it's not about that. And so it, that section was about the implicit sort of wild goose chase that we send women on, which is, you know what, you know what your problem is, you are not balanced enough. Yeah. Let me help you to be balanced. Do this, say this mantra in the morning and buy this like Instapot so that you can make quinoa, , and you know get this app that's gonna help you to learn French, because balanced people are really cultured and travel enough and all this stuff. And it's like, just becomes another another achievement. You must, but now I must achieve balance. Yeah. And you know, I talk about it in the book, like when we were all young girls, we were told that the story that a prince was gonna come and rescue us, right? And that if we just make the most out of being trapped or kidnapped or, you know, being an orphan or whatever travesty that we're in and do what is good and virtuous, then one day the prince will come and save us and we will live as this story goes happily ever after. And now as adult women, we are being sold that same exact story. And the prince has been replaced by this idea of balance that is so superficial, it's not real, and it never arrives. It's like, balance is always, oh, after the holidays I'll, I'll find balance. Oh, this is such a stressful week at work. I can't wait till Saturday. I'm gonna, you know, what I'm gonna have, get level set on Saturday. And then it's always in the future. And it never comes. And, and we don't notice that it never comes because as women, we are too busy blaming ourselves for it's delay. And it is not our fault. The reason that we never come, that it never comes is because this fake notion of balance is not real. It's just an idea. It's not real. Mm-Hmm. . 1: Yeah. It's a really intriguing thought. And I, I think it, it certainly I'm glad you said it and brought it up in the conversation in your book. 'Cause I, I think it's, it's something that maybe people, as you say, have swallowed a this com. 2: I used the term commercial a few minutes ago, this commercial version of balance. And, you know, you see people meditating on commercials and you know, making sure they take their, you know, all their medicine 'cause another medicine is going to fix that. Right? So medicine and yoga pants, the right outfit, , and a quick vodka martini perhaps. Oh, that too. Sure. 1: You said there are 10 changes in thinking that you can have and then 10 changes in your behaviors. So I would, I would love for you to just pick one of those maybe that you don't get to talk about very much. Mm-Hmm. , I just wrote a few of them down. Counterfactual thinking Maintenance and is triumph, difficulty versus challenge. And what I can't read my own handwriting, the getting connected Simple isn't easy, which I loved that one. Mm-Hmm. And then some of the behaviors are restoration, reframe, explain, and express. Do less than, do more. Those are just a few that I wrote down. But what do you not get to talk about that you'd like to talk about? 2: Oh, thank you for that. So I think strike when the iron is cold. Like one of my favorite strategies it's a phrase that comes from the Dr. Irvin Yalom who is, you know, a celebrated psychologist and writer. And the idea here is that the best time to address a conflict or something that is really challenging to you is not when the iron is hot. It's not in the moment that you're in the conflict, right? It's when the conflict and you have some distance between themselves. So the strategy that, you know, the way I applied it in the book is like, the best time to work on your maladaptive perfectionism is when it's not showing up. Yes. For you. It's when you're in a great space. Because when you're in a healthy space, that's when you feel most solutions oriented. That's when you feel confident enough to ask for help. That's when you feel, you know, that you have the most energy to maybe set or adjust a routine such that you are able to encounter, you know, your deepest self every day or your goals or whatever it is that you, you know, if you're anything like me can lose sight of really easily, you know, I have to remind myself of like my basic values every day just because otherwise we get so distracted and so striking when the iron is, is cold applied outside of managing perfectionism might look like, let's say you and your partner have a real hot button issue going on. Mm-Hmm. the time to talk about that is when you are feeling very connected to that person. Exactly. And when, when you and that person are laughing, you're having a good time, you feel safe together. And that's when you wanna say, listen, I, I've been thinking about something that I'd like to have a conversation about. It's important to me. Do you have time? Mm-Hmm. And energy to listen to that right now? Or are you up for that right now? Mm-Hmm. and the person will probably be able to receive that versus, you know, let's just say for argument's sake, the, the issue is one, you know, one person comes home late and they don't say that they're coming home late and the other person feels dismissed and disrespected and blah, blah, blah. Okay. So striking when the iron is hot would look like noticing it's seven o'clock. My partner said they would be home at, at 6 45, 0, 15 minutes. You're building resentment, you're, you're, you know, you're just having an argument in your head and then seven 12 rolls by and your partner comes home and you're just like, why didn't you tell me? We have talked about this. I wanna talk about this right now. You either respect me or you don't. And you just engage in this very unproductive back and forth, which creates immediate defensiveness. Nobody feels really safe and nobody feels open. There's, there's such a tiny, if not invisible or, or not even invisible, but just like doesn't exist opportunity for solution in those moments. You're just doing damage control at that point. Sure. Of course. 1: Strike when the iron is cold. That's a great, great way of putting it. And I've never heard it before. So that's that's, that's another one that will stick with me. I have sneaking suspicion. And then again, some of your behavioral suggestions are also really, really good. Which one do you not get to talk about ? Well so I mean, I think that if people understood that asking for help looks like not just asking for emotional help, that's actually a reframe of of perspective. 2: It's not one of the behavioral strategies, but I think it applies to behavioral strategies. Because if we're talking about the behavior of asking for help, being able to understand that, so often we don't ask for help because we think of my, of help in this myopic one dimensional way, which is asking for help means being emotionally vulnerable and having to tell someone something that feels private or scary to acknowledge. And emotional help is one version of help. I identify six in the book. There are many more. And so other versions of help include informational help. Mm-Hmm. , right? So if you, if you just started a business and you are really stressed out with the mechanics of filing your taxes under, you know, this a new P L L C as opposed to the way you've always filed your taxes in life, you are stressed and you need help and understanding, wait a minute, I don't need necessarily a therapy session about this. I need to talk to an accountant and ask them two specific questions. I need informational help. And so just being able to organize the kind of help you need and create buckets in your mind. There's tangible help, there's physical help, there's financial help, there's emotional help, there's informational help and there's community help. And again, that's just the intro class, right? , they're all different kinds of help. And so asking for help doesn't have to look like bearing your soul to somebody. You know, I, I'm thinking laughing to myself about this past weekend. I, I'm short, I'm like five three and I am too. Oh, . And I was at the grocery store and the thing I wanted Creme Fraise was way at the top. And I was standing there and trying to hold on and I thought, I'm just not gonna ask for help. And I knocked the hole, the shelf off, , it all kept rumbling down. Oh God, didn't I just ask for help? So 2: Yeah. I know there are so many moments where we don't ask for help for no good reason. And then there are other moments when we don't ask for help for reasons that we think are good, but other people, you know, they, I was just talking about this to a friend where it's like, you don't ask for help because you think you are burdening someone. Mm-Hmm. when actually asking for help is an invitation to connect and let people show up for you. And it also gives other people license to ask for help from you. Love to ask for help. Yeah. Be asked for help. It's like, oh, you see me as someone that can help you? That's very flattering to me. 1:  Right. A lot of people do. So well the, the book's title is again, the Perfectionist Guide to Losing Control, A Path to Peace and Power by Katherine Morgan Schafler. And I'm also curious, and I saw that one of your certifications was from the Association for Spirituality and Psychotherapy in New York, and, but your afterward is very interesting. Mm-Hmm. . 2: Yeah. I put that in in the last second 'cause I was scared to put it in because I was like, it it, it has God in it. Yeah. It has God, God language, . And I was really raised, not, not religiously and so to me, but I've always believed in God. Mm-Hmm. and it felt like a really intellectual book. And it also felt incomplete without that afterwards. So I just snuck it in there, . 1: I love it. I thought, wow, what, this is really revealing another part of her. Yeah. So it was and the way you feel about that kind of connection, how you feel about connection. Yeah. 2: Well, I'll tell you where that came from. I remember being in my apartment before I even had a book proposal and just having a ton of index cards. 'cause I'm old school and I like to write stuff on index cards and lay them out to organize my thoughts. And I was like, what is this book gonna be about? What is it not gonna be about? How am I going to structure it? And I just had that, you know, I call it in the afterward Waking Dream. I was sitting there and I just saw what I wrote in the afterward and it was just like a ten second thing. And I, and I was like, that is the spine of the book. And at, when I finished the book, something about it didn't feel complete and it was not including that little, you know, half a page afterward. And then I put it in and I felt such a peace in heart and mind, and I really love that part too. So thank you for, for sharing that. 1: Of course. Well, if for SelfWork listeners who are going to actually pick this book up, which I would highly recommend, I'm not gonna spoil it by reading it because I think it's just very, oh gosh, it, it evoked curiosity. It evoked gentleness. I don't know. It was just very, it was very interesting that you would, and I, I, I felt like you were letting us in a little bit to who you are and, and what makes you tick. So that's, that was really a beautiful thing to write. Hmm. Thank you. Anything else that you would like for us to hear about you or about your work? 2. Well the book is a conversation starter, and I could, you know, I think we all could talk about this in so many different directions and ways. And I continue the conversation on my site, which is Katherine Morgan Schafler.com, and you can find me on instagram@Katherinemorganschafler.com. And and I just wanna thank you for having me on. This has been such a thoughtful conversation and I also wanna Thank you. I have your book here. Oh. And I wanna, I wanna thank you for laying the groundwork. You know, you and so many other practitioners, you know, Dr. Brene Brown comes to mind, Flett and Hewitt, obviously, you know, all these people that really cemented how perfectionism can go wrong and how much we need to be mindful of that and understand that we need bumper lanes on this thing mm-hmm. or else we are going to crash. Mm-Hmm. . And, you know, the crash for perfectionism is very serious. And I talk about those serious risks in the book. And the reason that I was able to write a book about a sort of broader perspective was because the, you know, part about how maladaptive perfectionism can go wrong was so clearly laid out. And so I appreciate that and it gave me license to really explore. And I never get a chance to tell the people who wrote books. I mean, isn't that the best part of being an author is that you get to talk to other people who write other authors and about being a podcast host as well, so . Yeah, right. But man, being a podcast host looks so hard to me. It look, I mean, it looks easy on the surface, but just by being on all these podcasts, even just as a guest, I'm like, God, the level of technology, alone, . Well, that's when you, thank God for your team and your audio engineer . Mm-Hmm. . Thank you Catherine. So very, very much. My pleasure. Thank you. Of course. Thanks to Catherine for a wonderful interview. I'm so appreciative of her work and the fact that she also actually in the beginnings of the book does talk about how perfectionism can be destructive. So we're really more on the same page than I initially thought. Thanks for the reviews you're leaving for SelfWork. Wherever you listen, keep 'em coming. Thank you for your support and for being here today. And please take very good care of yourself, your family, and your community. Of course, our hearts are broken by what has happened in Hawaii. And so if you know someone there or if your life is affected by that tragic wildfire, please know that we are helping and we want to help. And I urge everybody listening, give whatever you can to the American Red Cross or the organization of your choice to help out these Hawaiians who have lost everything. I'm Dr. Margaret, and this has been SelfWork.    

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Cecilia is looking forward to a visit to the abandoned Bingamton Airport with Mark. They haven't kissed yet, but there may be something going on between them. Thing is, Cecilia has no idea what it actually is. Mark's plans may not be quite what she expected...In this episode we talk about raising tension, and the difference between horror, terror and gore with very special guest, Jane Flett Jane Flett is a Scottish novelist, poet, and short story author. Her writing has been commissioned for BBC Radio 4, anthologised in the Best British Poetry, and awarded the New Orleans Writing Residency. In 2020, Jane was a recipient of the Arbeitsstipendien für nichtdeutsche Literatur, a €24.000 stipend for the city's best non-German language writers. She's also one of the founders of Queer Stories Berlin and one half of the riot-grrrl band Razor Cunts. Her website is: http://janeflett.com/ Art Work and Theme song by Judy MooreStory music is Enigmatic by Bensound.com

Gordon L. Flett, Ph.D., is a Professor in the Department of Psychology at York University in Toronto, Canada. Dr. Flett is a Fellow of the Association for Psychological Science, which has cited him as one of the top 25 most productive authors in psychology. He is best known for his research on personality and depression, as well as groundbreaking work on perfectionism.   In this episode, expect to learn ways athletes can become adaptable perfectionists. Lewis and Gordon focus on perfectionism among athletes and explore questions such as: How is perfectionism assessed and conceptualized? How does perfectionism develop? What is the role of mindfulness in overcoming perfectionism? Why do the best athletes focus on adaptability and not perfection?  [00:00] Introduction [03:49] Perfectionism Versus Striving For Excellence [07:42] Self-Care Is a Necessity, Not a Luxury [10:58] How Does One Become a Perfectionist? [15:16] The Internal Dialogue of a Perfectionist [17:28] Perfectionism From a Motivational Perspective [20:23] Self-Awareness and Mindfulness [24:20] What is Perfectionistic Reactivity? [27:26] Perfectionism in Adolescents  [33:10] Understanding Rigid Perfectionism [36:12] Adaptability and Perfectionism [42:55] The Best Athletes are Adaptable [49:57] Adaptability Versus Perfectionism  [52:42] The Best Way to Build Resilience as an Athlete [56:40] How to Overcome Perfectionism  [01:00:42] Perfectionism Among Young People [01:02:52] How to Achieve Excellence Without Being Perfect [01:08:16] Where to Find Gordon [01:10:20] Gordon's Go-To Resource Recommendations    Links and Resources:  Gordon's Email address: gflett@yorku.ca Gordon on Twitter: twitter.com/FlettGordon Perfectionism: A Relational Approach to Conceptualization, Assessment, and Treatment by Paul L. Hewitt, Gordon L. Flett, and Samuel F. Mikail  Open: An Autobiography by Andre Agassi Tomorrow I'll Be Perfect by Dave Stieb  Join the MindStrong Academy (14-Day Free Trial): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindstrong.lewishatchett.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get my Free Friday email 'The Game Plan': ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lewishatchett.com/the-game-plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lewis at: TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewis_hatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewishatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠For more on the podcast visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.lewishatchett.com/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Contact the show at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠podcast@lewishatchett.com

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Hvis du har tendens til perfektionisme, så er det nemmere sagt end gjort at ændre. Den gode nyhed er, at du ikke behøver slippe af med din perfektionisme. Og her giver jeg dig 8 strategier til at håndtere perfektionisme, der virker og ikke mindst mindsker stress og dårlig trivsel. I dette indlæg lærer du, hvordan du skal håndtere perfektionismen, så den ikke står i vejen for trivsel, effektivitet og kreativitet. Det handler ikke om at fjerne din perfektionisme men om, at du skal integrere og balancere den med andre vigtige dele af dig. Lyt til podcasten om perfektionisme: Kæmper du med perfektionisme? 8 strategier du har brug for at kende Perfektionisme er et personlighedstræk og ikke en negativ ting i sig selv Lad os lige begynde med at slå fast: Hvad er perfektionisme egentlig for noget, og hvad skyldes perfektionisme? Perfektionisme er et personlighedstræk og ikke en dårlig ting i sig selv. Men som med så mange andre personlighedstræk, så er det et spørgsmål om balance. For megen perfektionisme er ikke godt og kan koste dig dyrt. Perfektionisme kan beskrives ud fra følgende definition: Perfectionism is characterized by setting exceptionally high standards of performance and unrealistic goals, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns over making mistakes. (Kilde: Multidimensional Models of Perfectionism and Procrastination, 2020) Perfektionisme skyldes altså en tendens til at sætte meget høje standarder, en høj grad af selvkritik og frygt for at begå fejl. Hvis du har tendens til perfektionisme vil du typisk gerne kunne gøre noget perfekt og være blændende god til ting – ellers synes du ikke, det er det værd. I forskningen tales der om både adaptiv (sund) perfektionisme og maladaptiv (usund) perfektionisme. Den maladaptive perfektionisme er perfektionisme i en grad, der skaber problemer og ødelægger vores trivsel – og måske også påvirker andre omkring os negativt. Hewitt & Flett har skabt det, de kalder en Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale, der er en skala, der deler perfektionisme op I 3 dimensioner: Selvorienteret perfektionisme – hvor perfektionismen er rettet mod dig selv.Andreorienteret perfektionisme – som rettes mod mennesker omkring dig.Socialt foreskreven perfektionisme – som er drevet af andres og samfundets idealer og forventninger. Perfektionisme er et personlighedstræk og ikke en dårlig ting i sig selv. Perfektionisme er en sniger Perfektionisme er meget ofte usynlig for den, der er ramt af perfektionisme. Du vil ofte synes, at de krav, du stiller til dig selv, er almindelige og helt naturlige. Du føler, at dine standarder for kvalitet, og hvad der kan accepteres som godt nok, er ganske rimelige og nødvendige. Perfektionisme er derfor lidt en sniger. Hvis du er 100% identificeret med din perfektionisme, er det lidt ligesom at have fået blå maling i øjet uden at vide det – du føler dig bare overbevist om, at verden er blå. På samme måde, vil de tanker, der er drevet af perfektionisme, være tanker, du tager for gode varer. Du ser dem som sandheden og ikke som tanker drevet af perfektionisme. Derfor vil det også være gavnligt at begynde at lære at se dine tanker for, hvad de er: Tanker og ikke sandheden. Det vil ofte være første skridt, når du skal gøre op med usund perfektionisme. Perfektionisme er meget ofte usynlig for den, der er ramt af perfektionisme. Du kan ændre din tendens til perfektionisme Man kunne sige meget om perfektionisme og teorien bag – og her lærer du en hel del! Som med alle andre psykologiske begreber virker de enkle på overfladen men bliver hurtigt komplekse, når man forsøger at forstå dem i dybden. Fokus i dette indlæg er dog primært at give dig praktisk anvendelig viden om perfektionisme og praktiske strategier, der virker, så perfektionisme ikke står i vejen for, at du kan trives. Det er vigtigt at vide, at dine personlighedstræk kan ændres til en vis grad.

Hvis du har tendens til perfektionisme, så er det nemmere sagt end gjort at ændre. Den gode nyhed er, at du ikke behøver slippe af med din perfektionisme. Og her giver jeg dig 8 strategier til at håndtere perfektionisme, der virker og ikke mindst mindsker stress og dårlig trivsel. I dette indlæg lærer du, hvordan du skal håndtere perfektionismen, så den ikke står i vejen for trivsel, effektivitet og kreativitet. Det handler ikke om at fjerne din perfektionisme men om, at du skal integrere og balancere den med andre vigtige dele af dig. Lyt til podcasten om perfektionisme: Kæmper du med perfektionisme? 8 strategier du har brug for at kende Perfektionisme er et personlighedstræk og ikke en negativ ting i sig selv Lad os lige begynde med at slå fast: Hvad er perfektionisme egentlig for noget, og hvad skyldes perfektionisme? Perfektionisme er et personlighedstræk og ikke en dårlig ting i sig selv. Men som med så mange andre personlighedstræk, så er det et spørgsmål om balance. For megen perfektionisme er ikke godt og kan koste dig dyrt. Perfektionisme kan beskrives ud fra følgende definition: Perfectionism is characterized by setting exceptionally high standards of performance and unrealistic goals, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns over making mistakes. (Kilde: Multidimensional Models of Perfectionism and Procrastination, 2020) Perfektionisme skyldes altså en tendens til at sætte meget høje standarder, en høj grad af selvkritik og frygt for at begå fejl. Hvis du har tendens til perfektionisme vil du typisk gerne kunne gøre noget perfekt og være blændende god til ting – ellers synes du ikke, det er det værd. I forskningen tales der om både adaptiv (sund) perfektionisme og maladaptiv (usund) perfektionisme. Den maladaptive perfektionisme er perfektionisme i en grad, der skaber problemer og ødelægger vores trivsel – og måske også påvirker andre omkring os negativt. Hewitt & Flett har skabt det, de kalder en Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale, der er en skala, der deler perfektionisme op I 3 dimensioner: Selvorienteret perfektionisme – hvor perfektionismen er rettet mod dig selv.Andreorienteret perfektionisme – som rettes mod mennesker omkring dig.Socialt foreskreven perfektionisme – som er drevet af andres og samfundets idealer og forventninger. Perfektionisme er et personlighedstræk og ikke en dårlig ting i sig selv. Perfektionisme er en sniger Perfektionisme er meget ofte usynlig for den, der er ramt af perfektionisme. Du vil ofte synes, at de krav, du stiller til dig selv, er almindelige og helt naturlige. Du føler, at dine standarder for kvalitet, og hvad der kan accepteres som godt nok, er ganske rimelige og nødvendige. Perfektionisme er derfor lidt en sniger. Hvis du er 100% identificeret med din perfektionisme, er det lidt ligesom at have fået blå maling i øjet uden at vide det – du føler dig bare overbevist om, at verden er blå. På samme måde, vil de tanker, der er drevet af perfektionisme, være tanker, du tager for gode varer. Du ser dem som sandheden og ikke som tanker drevet af perfektionisme. Derfor vil det også være gavnligt at begynde at lære at se dine tanker for, hvad de er: Tanker og ikke sandheden. Det vil ofte være første skridt, når du skal gøre op med usund perfektionisme. Perfektionisme er meget ofte usynlig for den, der er ramt af perfektionisme. Du kan ændre din tendens til perfektionisme Man kunne sige meget om perfektionisme og teorien bag – og her lærer du en hel del! Som med alle andre psykologiske begreber virker de enkle på overfladen men bliver hurtigt komplekse, når man forsøger at forstå dem i dybden. Fokus i dette indlæg er dog primært at give dig praktisk anvendelig viden om perfektionisme og praktiske strategier, der virker, så perfektionisme ikke står i vejen for, at du kan trives. Det er vigtigt at vide, at dine personlighedstræk kan ændres til en vis grad.

Will Gowing speaks to presenter, actor, model and Tova brand ambassador, Debbie Flett. Debbie tells Will about the very first time she met the late Tova Borgnine, her early career appearing on those hit Saturday night TV shows, working with Richard Branson and of course a treasured friendship with Tova Borgnine. 

En este episodio hablamos del miedo a herir a los propios hijos por nuestras faltas, de los errores que cometemos como padres y cómo podemos usar nuestra paternidad imperfecta a nuestro favor. Referencias bibliográficas: Brown, B. (2013). The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting: Raising Children with Courage, Compassion, and Connection. Sounds True. Flett, G. L., Heisel, M. J., & Hewitt, P. L. (2014). The destructiveness of perfectionism revisited: Implications for the assessment of suicide risk and the prevention of suicide. Review of General Psychology, 18(3), 156-172. Rettner, R. (2010, July 11). The dark side of perfectionism revealed. Szymanski, J. (2011, October 3). Perfectionism: Healthy or hurtful?

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Dean Watson is a Sports and Exercise Psychologist with Durham Cricket Club Academy and lectures and researches at York St. John University. Dean has researched extensively and published in the subject area of perfectionism. In this episode of The Mental Wellbeing Show, we discuss what perfectionism is, why we're all perfectionists to some degree and how perfectionism can be both beneficial and detrimental to our wellbeing. Further reading and resources mentioned in this episode: "The dimensions of perfectionism" (1990) by Frost et. al. "Perfectionism in the self and social contexts" (1991) by Hewitt and Flett. "Do Athlete and Coach Perfectionism Predict Athlete Burnout?" (2022) by Olsson et. al. "Multidimensional perfectionism and burnout: A meta-analysis" (2016) by Hill and Curran. "Perfectionism and attitudes towards sport psychology support and mental health support in athletes" (2021) by Watson et. al. "A qualitative study of perfectionism among self-identified perfectionists in sport and the performing arts" (2015) by Hill et. al. 0.00: Why we're all perfectionists to some degree 3.10: What is perfectionism? 7.04: Impact of perfectionism on wellbeing? 11.11: Having high standards vs. perfectionism 16.01: How coaches can create a supportive environment in sport 20.36: When perfectionism is helpful vs. unhelpful 25.16: Nature vs. nurture in perfectionism 29.01: Strategies to reduce perfectionism in yourself 41.36: Further readings on perfectionism

This week we are exploring all things folk music with the incredibly knowledgeable @essaflett Did you know that folk music and esoterica are inextricably linked? Because both are mediums of the people, used for expression, community, education and cultural story telling. Through the Middle Ages the witch trials destroyed this cultural connection for many. We have a rich culture of folk music in our United Kingdom's, but each countries experience is a different, and that echoes down to our experience of folk music now. Essa also shares with us her depth of exploration of music, her lifestyle, identity and standing up for herself to live in the way that she wants. We have nuff respect for this woman

Happy Halloween! Elle and Chris take a deep dive into The Black Phone (2021), a coming-of-age story featuring child abduction, murder, pedophilic undertones, and a strong sibling bond. No Trailer Take or Email from the Spoiled this week. The Deluxe Edition Network Podcast of the Month for October is "Return of the Living Flett," hosted by Kyle Curtis Flett. Flett does reviews, rankings, watch-alongs, live streams, and so much more. You can find his video podcast at youtube.com/c/ReturnOfTheLivingFlettand all DEN podcasts at https://www.deluxeeditionnetwork.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/spoilmymovie/message

Like it or not, we're all getting older. But are we setting our future selves up for joy and agency in our later years? In this episode of Bottomless Coffee Podcast we have a funny and educational conversation with author and clinical psychologist Dr. Mary Flett about aging with finesse and grace. 

Perfectionism in children and adolescence is a growing problem with serious implications. Drs Molnar and Flett are leading investigators on perfectionism and children. In this interview they provide an overview of perfectionism, discuss an intriguing study they did on the effect of the pandemic and provide a cautionary word about perfectionism and suicide.  Danielle Molnar, PhD is an Associate Professor in the Department of Child and Youth Studies at Brock University in Catharines, Ontario, Canada. Her blog/vlog on her most recent research findings can be found at https://brocku.ca/dphwb-lab-blog-the-young-and-the-perfectionistic Gordon Flett, PhD is a professor in the Department of Psychology at York University in Toronto, Canada. His most recent book with Paul Hewitt is Perfectionism in Childhood and Adolescence: A Developmental Approach. 

Inflammation is in 1 out of 3 of us and something we silently battle and comes out in so many different ways within the body. In todays episode we talk about the importance of treating the body in the mind, body and spirit as one and ways to start implementing huge health changes in simplistic ways. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/sweetestlittlelife/message

Are you someone who is caught up in telling yourself what you “should” be doing or achieving? Someone once said, “Perfectionism is a trait that makes life an endless report card on accomplishments or looks.” If you or someone you know struggles with perfectionist behaviors or self-shoulding, this episode is for you. In this episode of “Asking For A Friend," TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor identify three types of perfectionism and the danger of high expectations. They identify practical strategies for combating self-shoulding and forcing perfectionism on our children and those around us.    Music by Epidemic sound.   SHOW NOTES: EP 57 : Perfectionism - How to Stop Self Shoulding Experts :   Hewitt and Flett (1991), Ruggeri (2018), Harvard Business Review (2018), Fry and Debats (2006), Bracket and Stern (2020),  Haimovitz and Dweck (2017) Resources : Book : Mindset: The New Psychology of Success-Carol Dweck AFAF EP 4 : Birthday mindset Tools : Three types of perfectionism : Hewitt and Flett (1991) Self-oriented : adhere to strict standards while maintaining strong motivation to attain perfection and avoid failure; engage in stringent self-evaluation. Other-oriented : set unrealistic standards for significant others (e.g., partners, children, co-workers) coupled with a stringent evaluation of others' performances. Socially-prescribed : believe that others hold unrealistic expectations for their behavior (and that they can't live up to this); experience external pressure to be perfect, believe others evaluate them critically. TC4G :   “It's the idea that you don't have to be perfect to be lovable or to be loved.” Find the root cause – which kind of perfectionism are you? (of the three) Understand that your best self doesn't equal your best outcome or accomplishment. Engage in realistic goal setting to reduce your stress. Reward effort over outcomes and celebrate learning new processes Celebrate goals that you meet. 

Perfectionism might seem like a minor hurdle to overcome – or even a welcome personality trait. But perfectionism is different from simply striving for excellence and perfectionistic people are at higher risk for anxiety, depression and other mental health disorders. Perfectionism researcher Gordon Flett, PhD, and clinical psychologist Bonnie Zucker, PsyD, discuss where perfectionism comes from, why it's an increasing problem, how it affects people's mental and physical health and how to treat it. Links Gordon Flett, PhD Bonnie Zucker, PsyD Speaking of Psychology Home Page

JoAnn Flett, PhD, is the executive director of SPU's Center for Faithful Business, a leading think tank on the integration of faith and business. She's a frequent speaker, collaborator, and organizational consultant, teasing out the intersection of faith and business that promotes human flourishing.

Heidi Weston and Peter Felten discuss how mattering matters on episode 413 of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast. Quotes from the episode Belonging is tied to a lot of things that we value and that students value. -Peter Felten Mattering is not about if you fit or not, it is about being valued. -Peter Felten Different students trust faculty differently than others. -Peter Felten Resources Mentioned Asher, S. R., & Weeks, M. S. (2013). Loneliness and belongingness in the college years Cole, D., Newman, C. B., & Hypolite, L. I. (2020). Sense of belonging and mattering among two cohorts of first-year students participating in a comprehensive college transition program Cook-Sather, Alison; Allard, Samantha; Marcovici, Elena; and Reynolds, Bill (2021) Fostering Agentic Engagement: Working toward Empowerment and Equity through Pedagogical Partnership Elliott, Gregory, Suzanne Kao, and Ann-Marie Grant. Mattering: Empirical validation of a social-psychological concept Flett, G., Khan, A., & Su, C. (2019). Mattering and psychological well-being in college and university students: Review and recommendations for campus-based initiatives Gravett, K., & Ajjawi, R. (2021). Belonging as situated practice. Studies in Higher Education Meehan, C., & Howells, K. (2019). In search of the feeling of ‘belonging'in higher education: undergraduate students transition into higher education Reeve, J. (2013). How students create motivationally supportive learning environments for themselves: The concept of agentic engagement Reeve, J., & Shin, S. H. (2020). How teachers can support students' agentic engagement Reeve, J., & Tseng, C. M. (2011). Agency as a fourth aspect of students' engagement during learning activities Schlossberg, N. K. (1989). Marginality and mattering: Key issues in building community Strayhorn, T.L. (2012). Exploring the Impact of Facebook and Myspace Use on First-Year Students' Sense of Belonging and Persistence Decisions Erin Whitteck (taking improv classes)

Have you ever wondered who will take care of you as you age? It's not always pleasant to think about, but the reality is that we may outlive our partners and family members. The truth is that many of us will be solo agers. So what are the choices we need to start thinking about right now to prepare for that time? Dr. Mary L. Flett is the Executive Director of the Center for Aging & Values and founder of Five Pillars of Aging Seminars. Now retired as a treating psychologist, she has turned to writing and consulting as she creates workshops and seminars to help others age better and age well. Find out more at https://drmaryflett.com/.

Today, Dr. Mary Flett challenges us to not only age better but also age well. Aging with Finesse spurs us to look at new ideas and opportunities as we age- Dr. Mary Flett shares strategies, insights and wisdom from her many years of clinical practice working with aging adults. Recently retired from private practice as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Mary Flett, continues providing service to many aging adults. Through years of conversations, observations and practice she created the Five Pillars of Aging which started out as a weekly lecture at an assisted living community and was given life through a weekly blog and now a series of books- Aging with Finesse, a compilation of three books that navigates valuing ourselves as we grow older, connecting with ourselves and others as we age and essential skills for growing older with grace. This series was specifically designed to dive deeper into strategies for aging better and aging well. This conversation is thought-provoking and lighthearted- Dr. Mary exudes warmth and authenticity that had me extending our conversation and looking forward to many more. Thank you for sharing your time and thoughts with us, Dr. Mary! Dr. Mary Flett shares about: *How her influential relationship with her grandfather shaped her perspective on aging, caregiving, and her life's work *Her unique perspective on aging as a clinical psychologist and many years of practice *What is Aging with Finesse? *The skills needed to adapt and accommodate to the challenges of aging *We talk about the language around aging and societal assumptions *Locating reliable resources *Insights on policy and navigating the medical system *How do we re-enter life after Covid? *The call to all of us to not only age better, but age well For more information visit @fivepillarsofaging The Aging with Finesse series of books are available on Amazon & your local bookstore.    Books mentioned: Being Mortal by Atul Gawande Elderhood by Louise Aronson Dr. Mary L. Flett recently retired from private practice as a clinical psychologist providing services to aging adults. After 20-plus years in private practice, along with working as a crisis-intervention specialist, research assistant, quality improvement specialist, and program manager, in three different counties in California, she has turned her life's work into Five Pillars of Aging, helping all of us to age better and age well.   We are not medical professionals and are not providing any medical advice. If you have any medical questions, we recommend that you talk with a medical professional of your choice. willGather has taken care in selecting its speakers but the opinions of our speakers are theirs alone. Thank you for your continued interest in our podcasts. Please follow for updates, rate & review! For more information about our podcast & sponsorship opportunities, visit www.willgatherpodcast.com Instagram: @willgather Facebook: WillGather Nicole Will is our host and founder of willGather.

Writer, cellist, and horror enthusiast Jane Flett joins the show to tell all about the literal and metaphorical grotesqueness of scurvy, rendering Val awed and sometimes speechless. The Age of Exploration was full of it! Vasco da Gama and Captain Cook get referenced, and we learn about the many cures that were attempted by James Lind, from good ideas to very bad ones. We also play a fun game: what wounds would open on your body if you had advanced scurvy? Your body, your meat sack: you gotta keep putting stuff in it. Bonus body horror: A fun fact about placentas! SHOW NOTES: According to Medical News Today, free radicals in the brain are “are unstable atoms that can damage cells, causing illness and aging.” The other podcast Val was referring to is called The Dream. Season Two interrogates/exposes the wellness industry. S2E3: “Magic Little Pills” tells the story of the history of vitamins. Scurvy gets a mention, and they cover the ensuing panic. AlphaHistory.com has a short but helpful article on James Graham and the practice of earth bathing. Also, as Jane put it, the James Graham wiki is *chefs kiss* An article about the soil study Val was vaguely referring to can be found on EurekAlert! and is called “Healthy fat hidden in dirt may fend off anxiety disorders.” If you'd like to learn more about scurvy and its history, here are some links that Jane recommends: https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/scurvy-disease-discovery-jonathan-lamb https://idlewords.com/2010/03/scott_and_scurvy.htm https://www.sciencehistory.org/distillations/the-age-of-scurvy I got my own anxiety-assuaging info about vitamin C at https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/by-the-way-doctor-whats-the-right-amount-of-vitamin-c-for-me I googled “Why do people eat placentas?” and found a BBC article with just that name. Apparently, many mammals in the animal kingdom consume their afterbirth. Some people think eating the placenta can prevent postpartum depression, increase energy, and give other health benefits, but there hasn't been enough science to confirm the claims or warn of risks. You can read (or listen to) Jane's story “Mermaids” on PANK, and some of their poetry on Hobart. Learn more about them at http://janeflett.com/.

Erin Flett started her design company in her basement before moving into an old textile mill in Biddeford and then her current location in Gorham.  Erin's profile was raised when she garnered the attention of high profile brands like L.L. Bean and Anthropologie who wanted to partner with her and when she won the highly coveted Greenlight Maine competition. Hear from Erin about how those high profile partnerships affected her business.