Sexology

Welcome to episode 288 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Greg Matos to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss erotic love maps, how challenges outside the bedroom can affect your sex life and how you can re-connect with your partner if there's a disconnect.     Dr. Greg Matos is a board-certified Couple and Family Psychologist who served over a decade in the U.S. Marine Corps and Navy, becoming a Lieutenant Commander. Greg was awarded the Bronze Star with Combat Valor and the Department of State's Award for Heroism. He's the author of Shattered Glass: The Story of a Marine Embassy Guard.     After the military, Dr. Greg began specializing in systems work and Gottman-Method Couples Therapy. He founded a charity on TikTok @abetterloveproject to share science-based advice on love and life with his 40,000 audience members. You can join him for a casual chat and mindful breathing every day on TikTok.       In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr Greg became interested in this line of work  The ways in which trauma affects relationships   Why it's so important to be able to connect emotionally  Looking at erotic love maps and how they work   How you can keep improving communication with your partner Analyzing the success of great sex in long term relationships  How challenges outside the bedroom can affect your sex life Ways in which you can devise rituals for initiating sex  The importance of sexual attunement How you can re-connect with your partner if there's a disconnect The importance of curiosity and staying open to new experiences     Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology' for 40% off.  https://cozyearth.com    Find Dr. Greg Matos on TikTok  https://www.tiktok.com/@abetterloveproject     Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 287 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Aditi Paul to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Dr Aditi became interested in hook-up culture, looking at the dating anxiety that exists within Gen Z and ways we can create successful hook-up dates.    Aditi Paul is a professor and mixed-methods researcher based in New York City.     She uses her multidisciplinary background in computer science and communication studies to examine the impact of using human-centered technologies like social networking sites and online dating services.     Aditi's research has been published in top academic journals and has been featured in prominent media outlets such as The Washington Post, Women's Health, The Telegraph UK, Huffington Post, NBCNews.     Her new book, "The Current Collegiate Hookup Culture: Dating Apps, Hookup Scripts, and Sexual Outcomes," is out on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & Walmart.       In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr Aditi became interested in hookup culture How are dating apps changing hookup culture? Do dating apps help cultivate positive sexual experiences? Looking at the dating anxiety that exists within Gen Z The ways in which hookup sex is being re-defined Analyzing the ways dating has evolved over the past 10 years How we can create successful hookup dates How only 19% of straight women are being reciprocated with oral sex The ways in which porn is damaging our sexual expectations  Looking at the use of recreational drugs as a sexual enhancer How Sugar Daddy's and Sugar Babies are very much a thing in 2022    Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology' for 40% off.  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Find Dr. Aditi Paul Online  http://www.draditipaul.com     Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 286 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Gigi Engle to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss swinging, the way in which the media portrays swinging versus the reality and the importance of consent when exploring swinging.    Gigi Engle, ACS, CSE, CSC, is an award-winning feminist author, certified sex  educator, and psychotherapist in training.     As a sex expert with ethical non-monogamy app, 3Fun, she promotes and teaches pleasure-based sex education, GSRD relationships, and safer sex practices.     Gigi's work regularly appears in many publications including Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Elle Magazine, Teen Vogue, Glamour, and Women's Health. Her articles have been shared over 150 million times.     In 2019, Gigi was named Journalist of The Year at the Sexual Freedom Awards.     She is originally from Chicago and currently lives in London, UK.       In this episode, you will hear:     What is swinging?  Looking at how people discover they're swingers  The way in which the media portrays swinging versus the reality  Why you shouldn't open your relationship to save your relationship  The difference between swinging and polyamory   How we receive a lot of sex negative messaging throughout our lives  Where can people go to explore swinging?  Looking at the dynamics of who initiates swinging   The importance of consent when exploring swinging   How single women tend to be better welcomed than single men     Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology' for 40% off.  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Find Gigi Engle Online  https://www.missgigiengle.com     Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 285 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Kate Loree, LMFT to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Kate became involved in the non-monogamous community, looking at why more people are opting for non-monogamy, and how you can manage jealousy in non-monogamous relationships.    Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships.     In addition to her master's in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE certified sex educator and an EMDR certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003.     She cohosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron, has been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has been a guest on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Out Loud. She has written for Good Vibrations and Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker.       In this episode, you will hear:     How Kate became involved in the non-monogamous community  Understanding that non-monogamy is more popular than people realize  Looking at the different categories of people identify as non-monogamous How people can be sexually non-monogamous and emotionally monogamous The way in which the non-monogamous community has become diverse Looking at why more people are opting for non-monogamy Understanding the maturity needed to make non-monogamy work How you can manage jealously in non-monogamous relationships  Learning to communicate effectively with your partners around jealousy    Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology' for 40% off.  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Find Kate Loree Online  https://kateloree.com     Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Welcome to episode 284 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Zhana Vrangalova to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss non-monogamous relationships, ways you can take small steps into non-monogamy and understanding the role of jealousy on this journey.    Dr. Zhana is an NYU adjunct professor of human sexuality and the creator of Open Smarter, an online course that guides couples and individuals through a safer opening up journey. She holds a PhD in Developmental Psychology from Cornell University, and her scholarly work on non-traditional relationship styles has been published in several peer-reviewed journals.      She's also a lifelong non-monogamist with extensive experience in many types of nonmonogamy. In January 2022, Ashley Madison commissioned a YouGov survey on nonmonogamy in consultation with Dr Zhana.     Follow her on Instagram or Twitter @drzhana, and join her FREE online monthly Open Smarter Socials events to discuss all things non/monogamy with non-judgmental people from all over the world.       In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr Zhana became involved in non-monogamy work  Understanding that non-monogamy isn't for everyone  Looking at the limitations of monogamy  How a lot of needs for non-monogamy are biological  Ways you can take small steps into non-monogamy Understanding the role of jealousy How you can start opening conversion about non-monogamy if you have a partner Ways couple can assess if they want to open up the relationship Understanding if you're personality type will lend itself to non-monogamy    Find Dr Zhana Online  https://www.drzhana.com     Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 283 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Kenneth Play to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Kenneth became a Sex Hacker, ways you can achieve multiple orgasms and cultivating energy for amazing foreplay.    Kenneth Play is an international sex expert and sex educator. Named the world's greatest sex hacker by GQ, he has been featured by more than one hundred media outlets, including The New York Times, Men's Health, Cosmopolitan, Huffington Post, and Nightline.      Kenneth has been a guest lecturer on female sexual pleasure at New York University and San Jose State University. His work has helped millions of men gain lasting confidence and competence. AskMen described Kenneth's most recent course as having "at least one nugget of sexual learning you've almost certainly never encountered before, if not several."       In this episode, you will hear:     How Kenneth became a Sex Hacker  Can anyone have multiple orgasms?  Looking at the different types of orgasms  How women can continue having an orgasm when the clit is very sensitive  Ways you can best equip yourself with the tools needed for great orgasms The importance of foreplay for achieving multiple orgasms Cultivating energy for amazing foreplay Understanding a Lady Boner is  The importance of learning skills so you're not shooting in the dark     Find Kenneth Play Online  https://kennethplay.com     Emjoy App (Free 14 Days Trial)  https://links.letsemjoy.com/ref/DRMOALI    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 282 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr Jennifer Lincoln to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss having sex on your period, how you can pay attention to your desire cycle, and how it's normal for many women to feel more turned on during their period.    Jennifer Lincoln, MD, IBCLC, is a board-certified generalist obstetrician/gynecologist and attending physician in Portland, Oregon. She primarily works on labor and delivery as an OB hospitalist and loves the excitement and pace this work brings. Jennifer is also an International Board-Certified Lactation Consultant.     Jennifer received her undergraduate degree from Washington College in Chestertown, Maryland, where she graduated Summa Cum Laude. She received her medical degree from Tulane University in New Orleans, Louisiana, where she was a member of Alpha Omega Alpha, the nation's honor medical society. She completed her residency at Oregon Health and Science University in Portland, Oregon.     Jennifer enjoys educating women about their bodies and their pregnancies. She has particular interests in adolescent medicine, breastfeeding advocacy, and supporting women in labor in an informed, relaxed manner. She currently serves on the Board of Directors for the Northwest Mothers Milk Bank as well as for the Society of OB/GYN Hospitalists.     She is happily married to a pediatrician and has two sons, one in elementary school and the other a preschooler, who teach her more everyday than any textbook could.       In this episode, you will hear:     Can we have sex during our period? What are the benefits of having sex on your period? How having sex on your period can act as a natural lubricant  Can you get pregnant while having sex on your period? How it's normal for many women to feel more turned on during their period Exploring oral sex while on your period  Looking at “Menstrual Masking”  Can you reduce your period flow? How having sex on your period can be great in the shower Ways you can increase novelty into the relationship through period sex Learning to pay attention to your desire cycle    Find Dr Jennifer Lincoln Online  https://www.drjenniferlincoln.com     Emjoy App (Free 14 Days Trial)  https://links.letsemjoy.com/ref/DRMOALI    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 281 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Layla London to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Layla's journey to creating a sexual bucket list, why novelty is important to keep sex exciting and why stepping outside your comfort zone is important to explore sexuality.    Layla London is the girl next door who recently decided to explore her sexuality. After a 3.5-year, self-imposed, dry spell she woke up one day and said "What the heck am I doing to myself? Why have I just shut off that side of my sexuality? I need physical contact badly."     She decided to stop "wasting the pretty" and get out there! Having set out on her "sexual road trip" she is scratching things off her sex bucket list. Layla is getting laid, exploring "kinks" (a word she really didn't know anything about before this), having fun, sifting through the emotions it stirs up in her, blogging and podcasting about it anonymously       In this episode, you will hear:     How Layla dealt with celibacy   Why novelty is important to keep sex fresh and exciting  How celibacy drove Layla to explore her sexuality   Why Layla decided to create a sexual bucket list   The ways in which porn helped Layla explore her sexuality  Understanding the difference between ethical porn and sex education videos  Learning to communicate effectively with your partner about what you want  Looking at what Layla liked and disliked from her sexual exploration  The things that are still on Layla's sexual bucket list   What are the common things on people's sexual bucket list  Why stepping outside your comfort zone is important to explore sexuality   The importance of sexual negotiation and doing it in good faith     Find Layla London Online  https://www.thecuriousgirldiaries.com     Emjoy App (Free 14 Days Trial)  https://links.letsemjoy.com/ref/DRMOALI    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Welcome to episode 280 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where we discuss the best ways to initiate sex.        In this episode, you will hear:     How couples in long term relationships can learn new ways to initiate sex   Ways you can add novelty into your relationship   The importance of reciprocation for a healthy sexual relationship   Understanding the arousal gap between men and women   Analyzing the responsive model of desire   How partners can become resentful of things that happen in a relationship  Using communication to improve your sex life with your partner  How a good sexual plan can be a game changer  Learning to take things slow so you can last longer  Overcoming issues of partners liking other people's Instagram photos, leading to issues of anxiety and insecurity    The importance of having a relationship agreement  Setting realistic goals and expectations that you can both achieve     Find Dr. Nazanin Moali Online  http://sexologypodcast.com     Emjoy App (Free 14 Days Trial)  https://links.letsemjoy.com/ref/DRMOALI     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 279 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Stella Harris to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can have a successful threesome, looking at cuckolding and hotwifing and how you can first bring up with your partner you want a threesome.    Stella Harris is a certified intimacy educator, coach, and mediator, who uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella has appeared at conferences across the US and Canada, and regularly provides workshops and guest lectures to colleges and universities.     Stella's writing has appeared widely, including a weekly sex advice column in her local paper. Highlights of her media appearances include speaking as an expert on Banana Slug sex and appearing on the evening news discussing the importance of sex education in schools.    Stella is the author of two books, Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships, and The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes.        In this episode, you will hear:     What do we mean when we say threesome?  Looking at cuckolding and hot hotwifing  Why it's important to plan your threesome   The importance of clear communication and agreements when negotiating a threesome  Looking at play party spaces   How you can first bring up with your partner you want a threesome  Understanding that a threesome in real life is not what like you see in porn  The importance of aftercare after a threesome   Engaging in other activities after a threesome such as a coffee or meal  Why you should take things very slowly and test the waters before going deeper    Find Stella Harris Online  https://www.stellaharris.net     Survey  Please fill out this brief survey to help us know the content you want to hear: https://help373205.typeform.com/to/PfsEolrp   101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 278 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Alicia Davon back to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss extended massive orgasms, how you can achieve them, tips for the giver and how you can work through anxiety to have an extended massive orgasm.     Alicia Davon holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfilment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 15 years ago and started teaching with him soon after.     Together with her partner Erwan, Alicia developed The Pleasure Course, which has helped thousands achieve their ideal love lives. They provide a safe place to explore psychological inquiry, pleasure, and sexuality.      In this episode, you will hear:     Working through anxiety to have an extended massive orgasm   Looking at the first time Alicia achieved an extended orgasm   Understanding your body to allow involuntary genital contractions   Incorporating your fantasies for extended orgasms   Tips for the giver to help achieve extended orgasms   Practical tips for best movements and touch around the genitals  Knowing when it's best to incorporate lube   Communicating effectively with your partner about what's working and what's not  Understanding the signs of when your close to an extended orgasm     Find Alicia Davon Online  https://pleasurecourse.com     We want your feedback! Please fill out this brief survey to help us know the content you want to hear: https://help373205.typeform.com/to/PfsEolrp   Free Erotica  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 277 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Searah Deysach to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the areas where vulva owners can improve their skills on touch, analyzing the mixed messaging that's out there around the vulva, and how you can tune into your erotic self.      Searah Deysach is a sex educator and the owner of Early to Bed and FtM Essentials. In addition to running her retail store & websites, she lectures to community groups and colleges around the state on topics relating to masturbation, sex toys and positive sexuality.   She is committed to working to create a culture where everyone has access to honest information about sexuality and all folks have access to the services, they need to protect their reproductive rights.      In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at some of the areas Vulva owners can improve their skills on touch   The importance of giving yourself enough time to explore your Vulva  How you can explore other areas of your body alongside your Vulva  Looking at some of the best touches, techniques and strokes you can use  The best way to use lube with your Vulva  Analyzing the mixed messaging that's out there around the Vulva  Ways in which masturbation can help you explore different parts your yourself  How you can practice mindful masturbation  Tuning into your erotic self  Recommendations for good sex toys you can use   We want your feedback! Please fill out this brief survey to help us know the content you want to hear: https://help373205.typeform.com/to/PfsEolrp   Find Searah Deysach Online  https://www.early2bed.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 276 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss why having fantasies is important, analyzing the over-empowerment or “rape” fantasy and understanding the importance of allowing your fantasies to expand.    Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, a certified sex therapist, is the Clinical Director of Maze Women's Sexual Health, the largest independent sexual health center in the country.  She's the author of Sex Points: Reclaim Your Sex Life with the Revolutionary Point System.  She earned her Ph.D. in Human Sexuality and a Master's in public health at the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality; she holds a master's degree in social work from Columbia University and a master's degree in Jewish Studies from the Jewish Theological Seminary.     Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices, and laboratories. She has lectured internationally on women's issues, gives frequent Grand Rounds to medical health providers, as well as lecturing to sex therapists around the world.     She has been a guest on numerous radio and television shows, including CNBC, CBS News, Huffington Post Live, and NPR and been profiled in the New York Times Magazine, Time Magazine, and Westchester Magazine, among others.        In this episode, you will hear:     Why having fantasies is important   How many women fear their whole sex life is broken if one thing isn't working   How fantasies are one of the most powerful tools you can use for great sex  Looking at how the brain functions with sexual fantasies   Understanding how we form sexual fantasies   Analyzing the over-empowerment or “rape” fantasy   Understanding that the over-empowerment fantasy is completely normal   How sexual fantasies can improve sex with your partner  Ways in which you can get inspired for new sexual fantasies   Understanding the importance of allowing your fantasies to expand       We want your feedback!  Please fill out this brief survey to help us know the content you want to hear:  https://help373205.typeform.com/to/PfsEolrp    Find Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus Online  https://drbatsheva.com     101 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life  https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 275 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jeff Abraham back to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can improve your sex life with your partner, the importance of open and honest communication and how you can overcome a lack of creativity in the bedroom.     Jeff Abraham is the CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, whose lead product, Promescent, is addressing a global need for men suffering from Premature Ejaculation and Erectile Dysfunction. He and his team are dedicated to bringing innovative products to market that solve sexual performance issues for both men and women.     With over 10-years' experience in the field of sexual wellness, Jeff has seen and heard from thousands of couples and is a great thought leader in the space.       In this episode, you will hear:     The importance of open and honest communication with your partner  Understanding that we can't be mind readers and anticipate all of our partners needs How you can overcome a lack of creativity in the bedroom  Analyzing the dynamic between male and female characteristics  Why models on TV, social media etc are not a real representation of the human body Ways in which you can reassure your partner when exploring new sexual areas How you can use lube to greatly increase your sex life Understanding that masturbation is healthy and can be a part of your sexual palette     Find Promescent Online  https://www.promescent.com     101 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life  https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 274 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Luna Matatas to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you and your partner can master pegging together, the importance of after-care when pegging and tips for beginners when exploring anal sex for the first time.    Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom.     She teaches a wide range of topics; including threesomes, BDSM and sexual confidence. Luna hosts The Plug Podcast, an anal sex podcast by b-Vibe. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® brands as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Luna became interested in this line of work  Looking at Prostate Play   Understanding that straight men can also enjoy anal sex  Exploring pegging and how you and your partner can master it together  Understanding the importance of after care when pegging   Looking at the best practices before moving into anal penetration   Understanding the difference between pain and discomfort around anal sex  Ways you can master muscle movements with your own anus  Tips for beginners when exploring anal sex for the first time   Why bigger isn't always better when it comes to anal sex  Looking at toys you can use such as butt plugs   Knowing the best ways to stay cleanly when exploring anal sex     Find Luna Matatas Online  https://lunamatatas.com     101 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 273 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Evan Goldstein to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the best ways to explore anal sex, looking at the common mistakes people make when starting out and understanding it takes time to train your anus to make it ready for sex.    Dr. Evan Goldstein is the Founder & CEO of Bespoke Surgical and the Co-Founder of Future Method. As the preeminent expert and thought leader in the field, Dr. Goldstein is com- mitted to education and awareness—not only bringing the important issues sur- rounding gay sexual health to the forefront, but also eliminating the stigmas at- tached to it.     Relating to a wider audience, Dr. Goldstein leaves the medical jargon behind and communicates in a straight-forward, direct manner, breaking down taboos and allowing for more conversational and open discussions with the aim to educate. Dr. Goldstein has extensive experience educating and shedding light on health care issues relating to the gay community, and has been published in several na- tional media outlets including NBC.com, HuffPost, GQ, Men's Health, The Advo- cate, well+good, Shape, and more.     Supporting many LGBTQ-focused non-profits, Dr. Goldstein is dedicated to rais- ing awareness and is involved with GLSEN, ACRIA, HRC, and is a member of Callen- Lorde's exclusive Howard J. Brown Society. Dr. Goldstein is also the founder of the Bespoke Surgical college scholarship grant for LGBTQ students, which launched in December 2017.     Dr. Goldstein received his osteopathic doctorate from the University of Medicine and Dentistry School in 2002. Receiving the highest osteopathic education was pivotal in shaping his integrated whole-life approach towards his practice of pri- vate surgical care. Dr. Goldstein completed his residency in General Surgery at Maimonides Medical Center, exposing him to a high level of surgical acuity and a vast array of pathology.     Dr. Goldstein and his partner Andrew Yu reside on the Upper West Side of Man- hattan with their eight-year-old twin boys, Phoenix and Sebastian. Dr. Goldstein is an avid tennis player and skier, and enjoys attending concerts, collecting art and classic cars, and spending time with his family.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Goldstein became interested in this line of work   The importance of knowing your entitlement to pleasure  Ways in which Dr. Goldstein works with the entire anal community   Why many people get anal sex wrong a lot   Looking at the common mistakes people make when exploring anal sex  Understanding it takes time to train your anus to make it ready for sex  Why starting out with toys is essential for anal sex  The pros and cons of using toys over your fingers   Looking at douching and recommendations for best practices  Knowing the best practices to reduce chances of catching STI's via anal sex  Is it common to bleed after anal sex?  Should you use numbing creams for anal sex?  Looking at medical interventions that can help with better anal sex    Thank You To Our Sponsor Promescent!  https://www.promescent.com     Find Dr. Evan Goldstein Online  https://futuremethod.com     101 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life  https://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 272 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome La' Shae Alexander to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how exploring different positions can improve your sex life, why missionary is an underrated position and incorporating power play into certain positions.    California Native, Renaissance Woman, Momepenuer, Writer, Real Estate Associate and Philanthropist. Shae wears many hats, all of which she like to wear in a nice dress and open toe heels. She is a blend of beauty, brains, and wit.     Her fresh perspectives on life, women and empowerment gives new meaning to what it means to have beauty, class, sensuality and soul. Modern day renaissance woman, Shae is on a journey like no other. Enjoy her raw and authentic take on life and share with her endless soul filling conversations.        In this episode, you will hear:     Why exploring different positions can improve your sex life   How you may prefer different positions as you get older  Looking at good instructions for your partner on the best positions  Why missionary is an underrated position  Looking at the best positions for clitoral stimulation  How you can use good positioning to build tension and excitement  Which positions are best for connecting with the G Spot  How deep breathing can further help your positions  Incorporating power play into certain positions     Thank You to Our Sponsor Promescent!  https://www.promescent.com     Find La' Shae Alexander Online  https://www.shaedaily.com     9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558    Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 271 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Erik Everhard to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the common mistakes people make when trying to last longer, analyzing the importance of conscious choice and what men can do to delay ejaculation.   Erik Everhard is one of the top paid and most recognized performers in adult films of the last two decades. He has won numerous Male performer awards and been enshrined in the hall of fame of the AVN and XRCO organizations.     In 2010 he embarked on a transformational journey studying NLP at one of the top institutions in America. Since then he has dedicated his time and effort to helping high achievers by teaching them elite level sexual skills in order to master the bedroom like they dominate the boardroom.      In this episode, you will hear:     The common mistakes people make when trying to last longer   How you need to train your body to be ready for great sex  Looking at the arousal gap between women and men   Ways you can overcome being nervous in the bedroom   Analyzing the importance of conscious choice   Understanding even top-level athletes struggle with performance anxiety   How you can successfully navigate foreplay   The importance of creating the right mental state for great sex   How you can turn ‘I hope to have great sex' into ‘I know I can have great sex'  What can men do to delay ejaculation?   Ways we can manage and overcome any pain in the bedroom   Why having lots of bad sex is worse than having no sex     Thank You to Our Sponsor, Promescent!  https://www.promescent.com     Find Erik Everhard Online  https://www.erikeverhard.com     Grab 20% off Erik's Course – Use code ‘Sexology20'  https://crushingperformanceanxiety.com     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio    

Welcome to episode 270 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Caitlin V to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss female ejaculation, why ejaculation doesn't always mean orgasm for women, the barriers that stop women from ejaculating and looking at ways women can learn to ejaculate.    Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners. Formerly a sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she was catapulted into internet stardom after a video featuring her went viral.     She works with clients all over the world on ending premature ejaculation, preventing erectile dysfunction, and developing unshakable sexual confidence. Combining personal experience with evidence-based science in her coaching, Caitlin's mission is to create a sex and pleasure-positive world.       In this episode, you will hear:     How Caitlin went viral on YouTube  Is it possible for every woman to be able to ejaculate?  Why ejaculation doesn't always mean orgasm for women  How women can feel a build of pressure over time around the issue of ejaculation  Looking at the barriers that stop women from ejaculating  Analyzing the G Spot and its role in ejaculation  Good fingering techniques you can use  Understanding the importance of communicating what you want to your partner Can women learn to ejaculate by themselves?  Looking at good stroking techniques you can use  Other key factors needed to ejaculate such as high level of arousal     Find Caitlin V Online  https://www.bettersexcoach.com     9 foreplay Tips  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 269 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Searah Deysach to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss using full body exploration to lead to fingering, paying attention to non-verbal cues and ways you can use teasing to really get your partner in the mood.    Searah Deysach is a sex educator and the owner of Early to Bed and FtM Essentials. In addition to running her retail store & websites, she lectures to community groups and colleges around the state on topics relating to masturbation, sex toys and positive sexuality.   She is committed to working to create a culture where everyone has access to honest information about sexuality and all folks have access to the services, they need to protect their reproductive rights.      In this episode, you will hear:     Using full body exploration to lead to fingering   The importance of light touch and strokes   How you can anticipation and excitement before fingering   Why slowing down to build up is important   How long should we be exploring other parts of the body?  The importance of communication with your partner  Building up excitement with your clothes still on   Ways you can use teasing to really get your partner in the mood  Paying attention to non-verbal cues  Engaging in after-care after orgasm   Ways to add excitement without it becoming the main event     Find Searah Deysach Online  https://www.early2bed.com     9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 268 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Ashley Manta to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss ways to build excitement and arousal with handjobs, techniques you can use to stimulate testicles and looking at masturbation techniques such as “The Bottle Rocket”.    Ashley Manta is an award-winning sex educator and coach and has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. She is the author of The CBD Solution: Sex, published in 2020 in conjunction with Merry Jane and Chronicle Books. She completed her certification as a Bodysex® Facilitator after studying with legendary pleasure pioneer Betty Dodson.     She is the host of Elevated Intimacy podcast and her online course portal, Elevated Intimacy Academy, provides self-paced sex education. She facilitates retreats and workshops at resorts and festivals around the world. She also offers an online sex magick, embodiment, and empowerment intensive called Activating Your Cosmic Pussy. She is a brand ambassador for Sybian.      In this episode, you will hear:     Ways to build excitement and arousal with handjobs   How sexting can help in the sexual build up   Why it's important to have lube   Looking at some of the best lubes on the market   The importance of having respect for yourself and your partner   Understanding your partners boundaries   Techniques you can use to play with and stimulate testicles   Ways you can stimulate the foreskin   Looking at masturbation techniques such as “The Bottle Rocket”   How you can build excitement for yourself as a giver   Looking at other male pleasure products to further enhance a handjob    Find Ashley Manta Online  https://www.elevatedintimacypodcast.com     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 267 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Taylor Sparks to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss why impact play is hot for so many people, how impact play can create an extra layer of erotic intimacy and looking at tools you can use such as toys and spanking benches.    Among many things, Taylor Sparks (aka Mariposa) is a passionate erotic educator and sex goddess, certified in both holistic aromatherapy and human behavior.  With over a decade of experience in the natural skin care/cosmetics industry, Ms. Sparks launched OrganicLoven.com, one of the largest BIPOC owned online intimacy shops.  Organic Loven specializes in improving adults' sexual health/wellness and enhancing their sex lives via their organic intimate body products, body-safe sex toy materials, sex-positive books, and erotic educational seminars.     Ms. Sparks' expertise has contributed to articles in Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health, Oprah, Shape, Women's Health magazines and more. Prior to launching Organic Loven she developed a line of 16 head-to-toe organic body care products for elite endurance athletes, called Skin Care for Athletes Tri-Body Products. These products were featured in Muscle & Fitness Hers and the ESPN Magazines, sponsored numerous triathlons, 5ks and marathons as well as 5 Olympic athletes in both the summer and winter Olympics.     Taylor has also become renowned in the adult travel industry and is a powerful public speaker both nationally and internationally. Her flagship seminar entitled,” How To Make Good Pussy, Better”, is extremely popular and focuses on the benefits of organic intimate body products and body safe sex toys.   Taylor is socially and environmentally conscious and a strong supporter in all things organic, natural and eco-friendly...including Love.      In this episode, you will hear:     Why impact play is hot for so many people   The importance of clear communication around spanking   How impact play can create an extra layer of erotic intimacy   Looking at the areas of sensitivity best for impact play   Tools you can use such as toys and spanking benches   Analyzing the differences between giving and receiving impact play   Tips for the best way to use your hand for spanking   The mistakes people often make with impact play   Understanding it's ok to take things slowly and pause if needed    Reignite The Fire Workshop:  If you would like to shake things up this Valentine's Day by creating a perfect Sex-cessful date, sign up for my upcoming 2-hour workshop: https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/optin1640020968176     Find Taylor Sparks Online  http://OrganicLoven.com      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 266 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Fredrick Zal to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the similarities between the kink and punk rock scenes, how you can explore kink to know if you prefer being a submissive or dominant and ways you can step out of your comfort zone to explore kink.    Fredrick's sexuality education work has focused upon erotically marginalized communities, partnerships, and individuals since 2006 by "Teaching the Art within Sexual Acts" in private lessons, semi-public and private events, and workshops in Oregon, Washington, California, British Columbia, and via Zoom worldwide.      They teach mindfulness, ritual, communication, consent, sexual attitudes reassessment, tantra, kink, and other embodied erotic pathways with an ever broadening understanding of power differentials, socio-political impacts over the centuries, and ways to truly dismantle what they feel in their blood and bones to be a corrupt and flawed acculturalized system.      When not teaching or doing sexuality research; Fredrick endeavors to focus life around what they love, which is the arts, getting outside for adventures, sharing quality time and food with friends, practicing 茶道 (Chado, Japanese Tea Ritual), and movement such as yoga and dance.      In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the similarities between the kink and punk rock scenes  Understanding that it's normal to have interest in kink   How kink is centered around a heart and mind connection  Ways in which we can cultivate our emotions to fully embody kink  Looking at the differences between tops and bottoms  How you can explore kink to know if you prefer being a submissive or dominant Understanding the powerplay dynamics and their relationship to kink Looking at ways you can step out of your comfort zone to explore kink  The importance of after care and clear communication     Valentine's Day  If you would like to shake things up this Valentine's Day by creating a perfect Sex-cessful date, sign up for my upcoming 2-hour workshop: https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/optin1640020968176     Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Find Fredrick Zal Online  http://www.tantrickink.com     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 265 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Darshana Avila to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss why is good kissing important for sex, understanding porn is not sex education, and how you can be more thoughtful in your communication.    Darshana Avila is nurturing a culture of Erotic Wholeness. As an internationally recognized speaker, coach and facilitator, Darshana supports women and couples in exploring and reshaping their relationships to intimacy, sex and eroticism. She created the Map of Erotic Wholeness as a path to personal liberation in service to our collective sexual liberation.      Darshana believes “we are erotic by nature,” and is dedicated to helping people feel truly at home in their bodies, at ease with their sexuality and in alignment with their hearts. Her unique style of somatic sex and intimacy coaching weaves together a trauma-informed, nature-based, justice-oriented approach, inviting more presence, pleasure and passion into the lives and relationships of those she guides.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Darshana became interested in this line of work   Understanding that trauma gets healed in the community   Ways in which you can learn to open up your sexual self   Understanding porn is not sex education   Why is good kissing important for sex?  How to communicate to your partner the types of kissing you like   The importance of build-up and foreplay for great sex   Recommendations for whole body experience to build u to great sex  Looking at the different types of kissing and styles   How you can be more thoughtful in your communication   The best ways you can explore touch     Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Find Darshana Avila Online  http://darshanaavila.com     9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558    Follow Us On Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 264 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Alison Ash to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can give a killer blowjob, incorporating play into great oral sex, and understanding that you can still get an STI just through oral sex.    Dr. Alison Ash is at trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences.     She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.      In this episode, you will hear:     How you can give a killer blowjob   The importance of your appreciating your lover and communicating that to them   Incorporating play into great oral sex   How to overcome things like gag reflex when giving a blowjob   When is the best time to also use your hands when giving a blowjob?  How you can also stimulate testicles when giving a blowjob   The importance of being sensitive when stimulating testicles   Overcoming the issue of not liking the taste of semen   Is it possible to change the taste of semen?  Understanding that you can still get an STI just through oral sex       Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Find Dr. Alison Ash Online  https://www.TurnON.love     Dr. Alisons Class  https://www.TurnON.love/intimacy-skills Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills: A 2-month experiential course   Jan 11 - March 8th 2022    9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Welcome to episode 263 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Alison Ash to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the do's and dont's of cunnilingus, recommendations for the receiver to feel comfortable receiving oral sex, and what are some of the best positions for oral sex.   Dr. Alison Ash is at trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences.     She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.      In this episode, you will hear:     The do's and dont's of cunnilingus How you can fine tune your rhythm with your partner   Dispelling the misconceptions around the smell of a vagina   Ways in which you can help put your partner at ease   Recommendations for the receiver to feel comfortable to receive oral sex   Looking at techniques such as “writing the alphabet with your tongue”   When is the right time to move onto penetration?   What are some of the best positions for oral sex?   Looking at experimenting with the 69 position for oral sex       Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Free Foreplay Checklist   Find Dr. Alison Ash Online  https://www.TurnON.love     Dr. Alisons Class  https://www.TurnON.love/intimacy-skills Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills: A 2-month experiential course  Jan 11- March 8th 2022       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 262 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I answer questions from our listeners. In this episode, we touch upon subjects such as tackling anxiety-based issues such as not feeling big enough for your partner, misconceptions about the importance of penis size and what to do if your partner wants to join OnlyFans.      In this episode, you will hear:     Knowing when the right time is to touch your partners clit   Tackling anxiety-based issues such as not feeling big enough for your partner   Overcoming performance anxiety   Looking at spontaneous and responsive desire   What to do if your partner wants to join OnlyFans   Understanding the motivations behind wanting to start an OnlyFans page   The importance of starting slow if your partner does start an OnlyFans page   How you can build up your sexual confidence  Misconceptions about the importance of penis size   Understanding your relationship with your body   Ways in which you can overcome sexual shame    Find Sexology Podcast Online  https://sexologypodcast.com     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 261 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Krista St-Germain to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Krista became interested in becoming a life coach for widows through the tragic passing of her husband, the myths and misconceptions around grief, and ways you can invite pleasure after grief, inside and outside the bedroom.    Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about — now she coaches and teaches other widows so they too, can love life again.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Krista became interested in this work through the tragic passing of her husband   What is grief and how is it defined?   The myths and misconceptions around grief   Understanding that grief is not uniform and different for each person   How people can begin again to lean into pleasure while experiencing grief   The ways in which grief can impact people's sexual health   Resources and places you can go if you want to seek out pleasure after grief   Looking at the term “Widhoe” and Krista's thoughts on it   Other ways you can invite pleasure after grief, inside and outside the bedroom   Recommendations for dating in today's digital world of apps   Learning to be honest and open with people when dating and not be afraid to even talk about things like STI's         Find Krista St-Germain Online  https://www.coachingwithkrista.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 260 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Holly Richmond to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Dr. Holly's new book “Reclaiming Pleasure”, looking at ways to combat shame and guilt and how sexual trauma mis-informs our sexuality.      Dr. Holly is one of North America's leading sex therapists, serving women, men, couples and gender-diverse individuals for relationship and sexuality issues. She counsels a broad range of clients including Hollywood's elite and prominent corporate clientele and offers consultation services with psychotherapy interns and other therapists.     Dr. Holly works from a sex positive approach, meaning: “all sex is good sex as long as it's consensual and pleasurable.” She is committed to helping her clients feel better—mind and body—not just behave differently.     Her therapeutic relationships are built on strong rapport, trust, non-judgment and acceptance, though she is directive and results oriented, not simply supportive. Her objective is to help clients meet their goals and move through the therapy process as quickly as possible.     Dr. Holly's forthcoming book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life (New Harbinger, Oct. 2021) is a groundbreaking examination of both somatic and psychological factors in survivor's' recovery.      In this episode, you will hear:     Why Dr. Holly decided to write her book “Reclaiming Pleasure”   Looking at ways to connect people easier   Analyzing the issue of trauma re-enactment   Understanding the difference between trauma re-enactment and a healthy sex life   Looking at ways to combat shame and guilt   How many people struggle with performance anxiety   Understanding the fight, flight, freeze and fawn responses and their relationship to trauma   How we can learn to reconnect with ourselves   Looking at exercise couples can take part in together   Learning to schedule sex with your partner for a better sex life  How sexual trauma mis-informs our sexuality     Find Dr. Holly Online  https://drhollyrichmond.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Welcome to episode 259 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT and August McLaughlin to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss triggers and how are they defined, looking at the relationship between sex and trauma and understanding the importance of practicing self-compassion.   Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT is the co-author of the innovative book: With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. A licensed therapist with an expertise in sexuality, trauma, and relationships, Jamila has been a sex educator since 2005 and has practiced psychotherapy since 2015. She is the founder and owner of the psychotherapy practice Fire & Flow Therapy. She has collaborated with Buzzfeed, MEL, Playboy, Harper's BAZAAR and other media outlets and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Girlboner and Sex with Dr. Jess. Jamila uses her Instagram & Facebook accounts to share practices, tools, and reflections on sexuality, relationships, and mental health. She divides her time between Las Vegas and Los Angeles.   August McLaughlin is a nationally recognized journalist and host and producer of the podcast, Girl Boner Radio, a true story-driven podcast where she explores sexual empowerment, relationships and pleasure. Her articles have been featured by Cosmopolitan, the Washington Post, Salon and more. Her 2018 release, Girl Boner, was featured in the New York Times and called “equally fun, risqué, and informative” by Publishers Weekly. She has presented at colleges, recovery centers, and the CDC headquarters, attended the 2016 United State of Women summit as a nominated changemaker and gave a TEDx talk on her experience overcoming an eating disorder she was diagnosed with while working abroad in the fashion industry.   In this episode, you will hear:   What are triggers and how are they defined? How Jamila and August and became interested in this line of work Looking at the relationship between sex and trauma Understanding that issues around trauma are common Looking at how fight, flight and fawning works with trauma What is fawning and how is it related to trauma? The importance of practicing self-compassion Analyzing pleasure traps Understanding that you deserve to have pleasure Finding peace in alternative sexual behaviors Find Jamila M. Dawson Online https://jamiladawson.com   Find August McLaughlin Online https://augustmclaughlin.com   Sex Quiz for Women https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 258 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Robyn Goldberg to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the relationship between food and sexuality, looking at food addiction and the issues it can cause and why Robyn decided to write her new book, The Eating Disorder Trap.    Robyn Goldberg is a registered dietitian nutritionist, certified eating disorder registered dietitian supervisor, certified intuitive eating counselor and a Health at Every Size® (HAES) clinician. Robyn has spent years learning from some of the best in the industry and continues to seek professional mentoring, attends innovative conferences and stays abreast with the most current literature.     Robyn began her career at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles as the in-patient dietitian in the Department of Cardiology. For the last 23 years, Robyn Goldberg has had a private practice in Beverly Hills, CA, where she specializes in medical conditions, eating disorders, disordered eating, dual diagnosis, pre-pregnancy nutrition and women seeking fertility treatment.     Robyn consistently educates professionals, students, and RDNs about how to best incorporate intuitive eating and Health at Every Size® approaches into their work and lives. She teaches nutrition classes on a wide array of topics for the Motion Picture Industry's Wellness Program.     Actively involved in the nutrition and body positive community, Robyn is also a member of organizations including: Association of Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH), Academy of Eating Disorders (AED), International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp) and the International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians (IFEDD). She also serves as a Nutrition Consultant for the Celiac Disease Foundation. Robyn also leads several body image and eating disorder groups in sober living settings in the Los Angeles Area.     Robyn is a nationally renowned contributing author registered dietitian nutritionist. She has been quoted as an expert in various publications including The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Diabetes Forecast, Shape Magazine, Fitness, Oxygen, Life & Style, Natural Solutions, Beverly Hills Weekly and Today's Dietitian. In addition, Robyn has also served as an eating disorder specialist on the nationally televised show “The Insider” and an expert on The Associated Press (AP).     In this episode, you will hear:     How is our relationship between food and sexuality related?   Why it's important to look at the relationship between food and sexuality  How our hormones can change if we restrict them for a long time   Looking at food addiction and the issues it can cause   Who is at risk of developing an eating disorder?   What to do if you don't like your body   Connecting with your partner on this issue to improve your sex life  Looking at how Robyn works with people to feel better within their own bodies   How dieting can have a negative impact on eating disorders   Why Robyn decided to write her book, The Eating Disorder Trap       Find Robyn Goldberg Online  https://theeatingdisordertrap.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 257 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Lucie Fielding, MA (she/they) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Lucie's new book: Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments, looking at erotic privilege and genital curiosity and how we can cultivate erotic embodiment.    Lucie Fielding, MA (she/they) is a white, queer, non-binary femme, and a Resident in Counseling, practicing in Charlottesville, VA. She received her Master's in Counseling Psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute (2018). Lucie also holds a PhD in French from Northwestern University (2008), where she specialized in eighteenth-century literature, histories of sexualities, and erotic literature.     Her background in literature and history attunes her to the many ways that image, metaphor, and cultural scripts shape and inform the narratives we carry with us as we move through the world as well as how these narratives inscribe themselves on our bodies. She is the author of Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments (Routledge, May 2021).      In this episode, you will hear:     How Lucie became inspired to write: Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments  Looking at the politics of desirability   The benefits of trans for trans dating   How biases that exist in society effect who we see as desirable   Looking at erotic privilege and genital curiosity   How we can cultivate erotic embodiment   Overcoming the unrealistic expectation that trans people should disclose upfront  How the frameworks in Lucie's book can also apply to cis people        Find Lucie Fielding Online  https://luciefielding.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 256 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Mimi Hoang (she/her) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the common misconceptions around bisexual people, the pressures bisexual people face when getting into a same-sex relationship and looking at the ways in which Dr. Mimi has helped uplift the bisexual community.    Dr. Mimi Hoang (she/her) is an internationally-recognized psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, and asexual (LGBTQ+) and Asian Pacific Islander (API) communities. Since the 1990s, she has co-founded three organizations in Los Angeles for bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and other nonmonosexual (AKA "bi+") individuals, authored multiple publications, and earned a seat at the landmark 2013 White House Bisexual Community Roundtable.      Dr. Mimi's steadfast leadership has earned her multiple awards, a feature in Jan Dee Gordon's LGBTQ of Steel photography book, and being named “One of the Most Significant Women in the Bisexual Movement.” She currently works as a Staff Psychologist at Loyola Marymount University (LMU), Clinical Supervisor of the LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Therapy Center at Airport Marina Counseling Services, and is the creator of the "Bi on Life" self-empowerment series and Bi+ Women's Space, a virtual support group for bi+ women in Los Angeles.     In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Mimi became interested in this line of work   The ways in which Dr. Mimi has helped uplift the bi community   Overcoming the mental health challenges around coming out as bi-sexual   How many people try to invalidate bisexuality as a pathway to becoming gay or lesbian   How the percentage of people in the US identifying as LGBTQ+ has doubled since 2012  Looking at the common misconceptions around bisexual people   Why it's important to understand that bisexuality is not experimentation  The pressures bisexual people face when getting into a same sex relationship  Recommendations for communities and support groups for bisexual people     Find Dr. Mimi Hoang Online  https://www.drmimihoang.com     Sex Quiz for Women https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 255 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Zachary Zane to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Zachary's journey of coming out as bi-sexual, the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality and recommendations on where to start dating if you're just starting to experiment with bisexuality.    Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture.     He has a weekly sex advice column at Men's Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner," because let's be real, we all know that already.     He also has a monthly column at Queer Majority called “Zach and the City,” which explores romance and sexuality through Zane's fabulous life. Set against the backdrop of New York City, Zane uses his personal experiences as a young and adventurous queer socialite to unpack the current state of cosmopolitan sex, love, and dating.      He currently writes for The Washington Post, Rolling Stone, and Prevention. He was formerly a digital associate editor at OUT Magazine and a contributing editor at Pride.com, Plus Magazine, and The Advocate Magazine. He's been featured in numerous other publications as well, including Playboy, NBC, SELF, Allure, Dazed, AskMen, Slate, Into, Them, Cosmopolitan, Hornet, NewNowNext, LGBTQ Nation, MerryJane, and Bustle.     As a leading bisexual activist, Zane has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He previously had a biweekly column at Bisexual.org that ran for 18 months.      He attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama), and has been featured as an expert on a number of podcasts including Dan Savage's "Savage Lovecast."     In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at Zachary's journey of coming out as bi-sexual   Understanding that being bi-sexual is not just a steppingstone to being gay  How many straight people experiment with bisexuality but are ashamed to talk about it   The misconceptions that exist around bisexual men   How the gay community isn't always welcoming to bisexual men   Looking at the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality  The ways in which coming out as bisexual can affect a person's self-image  Recommendations on where to start dating if you're just starting to experiment with bisexuality   The role that monogamy and non-monogamy plays in bisexual relationships   Looking at the development of the bisexual community in cities like New York and Los Angeles          Find Zachary Zane Online  http://zacharyzane.com     25 Ways To Increase Your Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 254 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where Dr. Nazanin Moali discusses ways in which men can rev up their sex drive, how sexual desire differs between different genders and ways in which you can address and overcome issues of when your partner starts to drift from you sexually.     In this episode, you will hear:     The challenges men face with low libido   Looking at the misconceptions that men always being ready and wanting sex   What is sexual desire?   How sexual desire differs between different genders  Looking at hyperactive sexual desire disorder  The biological factors that can affect men's sexual desire   Ways in which eating disorders can affect sexual desire  Overcoming issues of when your partner starts to drift from you sexually   How to best communicate with your partner when you lose the sexual spark   The ways in which becoming a parent can affect libido   Looking at medications that can lead to low libido through side effects   The relationship of inter-personal factors and how the quality of your relationship relates to the quality of your sex     Find Dr. Nazanin Moali Online  https://sexologypodcast.com     25 Ways To Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in/     Checklist  https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 253 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Brandye Wilson-Manigat, MD to the podcast. In this episode, we talk about the physiological causes of low desire, ways you can support your partner if they suffer from low libido and challenging the myth that your sex drive will decrease as you get older.    Dr. Brandye Wilson-Manigat, MD, aka "Dr. Brandye" is touted by patients and peers alike as one of the best OB/GYN physicians and surgeons. She has been published in respected medical journals and is frequently called upon by local and national TV, print, radio, and online media to give a fresh perspective and new information on women's health trends.     Dr. Brandye is a practicing physician and founder of Brio Virtual Gynecology - a reproductive wellness company focused on helping women to maintain their reproductive health, through workshops, telemedicine consultations, and second-opinion visits.  Dr. Brandye is the chief medical advisor of DrBrandyeMD.com, where she helps women embrace their feminine essence, so they feel good both inside and outside of the bedroom.  She is seen as the leading expert in women's vitality and libido health.     Born and raised in South Central Los Angeles, CA, Dr. Brandye earned her undergraduate degree from the University of California at Riverside, her Doctorate of Medicine degree from the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA/Charles R. Drew University of Medicine and Science, and completed her residency training at Rochester General Hospital in Rochester, NY.  She is currently practicing in Pasadena, CA     In this episode, you will hear:     What are the physiological causes of low desire?   Looking at available FDA approved medication for women suffering from low libido  Analyzing the “Pink Pill” and its effectiveness  Understanding the importance of good sleep and general well-being for increased libido   Learning how to best communicate these issues to your partner   Ways you can support your partner if they suffer from low libido   Knowing when to and not to try and instigate sex with your partner   Challenging the myth that your sex drive will decrease as you get older   Why great sex is for people of all ages not just younger people   How women who have great sex, can become more successful in their careers   Looking at Dr. Brandye's coaching and what she offers         Find Dr. Brandye Online  https://drbrandyemd.com     Free Book - How to Increase Your Libido - For Women  https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     Survey  https://help373205.typeform.com/to/VipD8dnP     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 252 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lindsey Brooks to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Lindsey's journey into sexual empowerment, the importance of giving women space to explore their bodies and looking at masturbation in a new light.      Dr. Lindsey Brooks is a sex therapist turned sex educator. She has her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, is a certified sex therapist, and has been providing therapy since 2005.     She is thrilled to now be bringing her knowledge beyond the therapy room with Sexual Empowerment School where she teaches women how to build their sexual self-knowledge, develop pleasure-positive mindsets, and learn sexual communication skills through her on-line workshops and resources.     In this episode, you will hear:     How Lindsey started her journey into sexual empowerment   Looking at the things Lindsey wished women knew more about when it comes to sex  How many women are ambivalent to sexual pleasure   The importance of giving women space to explore their bodies   Looking at masturbation in a new light and why it's not something to be ashamed of  How masturbation can be a great tool to explore your sexual pleasure   Why masturbation isn't inferior to sex   Challenging the myth that women should orgasm through penetration   What counts as a “normal” libido or sexual desire   The importance of framing conversations correctly to best communicate with your partner  Ways you can avoid getting into a nagging cycle or arguments with your partner   How you can plant your own seeds in the garden of desire         Find Dr. Lindsey Brooks Online  https://www.sexualempowermentschool.com     Sex Quiz  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Survey  https://help373205.typeform.com/to/VipD8dnP     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

  Welcome to episode 251 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Stephanie Estima to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Stephanie shifted her life balance to a better place, the ways in which our diet and sexual health are connected and recommendations to help correct some mistakes you may not realize you're making.    Stephanie is a board-certified Doctor of Chiropractic with a special interest in metabolism, body composition, hormones, and functional neurology. She's the host of an award-winning podcast, and author of an international best-selling book.  She's also the founder of a membership program that discusses nutrition, fasting, exercise, hormones, and the female psyche.      Stephanie is currently building out a certification program for doctors and healthcare providers outlining cell metabolism, exercise physiology, brain aging, and best clinical practices for female patients.       In this episode, you will hear:     How Stephanie shifted her life balance to a better place  The ways in which our diet and sexual health are connected   Why women are inherently sexual beings   Overcoming binge eating   The importance of getting proteins into our body for a good diet   How our sleep and sex life is connected   Recommendations to help correct some mistakes you may not realize you're making       Find Dr Stephanie Estima Online  https://hellobetty.club     Survey  https://help373205.typeform.com/to/VipD8dnP     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Welcome to episode 250 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to have a variety of guests on the show who share their tips on the best practices for effective sexual communication. In this episode you will hear from Guy Blaise, Diane Gleim, Tara Galeano, Maci Daye, Ari Tuckman, Kristopher Lovestone and Martha Kauppi.      In this episode, you will hear:     How effective communication with your partner can lead to great sex  Understanding how to bridge a conversation about certain areas such as anal sex, threesomes etc   Capitalizing on joy and happiness in a relationship for better sex  Learning how to ask your partner what it is they desire   How mindfulness can also help improve your communication and sex life   Ways in which you can be authentic with your partner on exploring new sexual areas  The importance of knowing what it is you want from your partner   How you can bridge the gap with your partner when things are getting in the way of great sex     Bedroom To Fizzle  https://sexologypodcast.com/enroll/    We are closing the enrolment for

Welcome to episode 249 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Christine DeLozier, L.Ac. to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the relationship between diet and sexual health, the best foods to help improve sexual health and recommendations on how to improve your diet.      First and foremost, Christine DeLozier, L.Ac., is a lover of science, of nature and of food. As an acupuncturist and herbalist in private practice, she specializes in sexual health, treating males, females, and all orientations and identities. Acupuncture is great for sexual function, but to address the underlying mechanics of consistently great sex, the key is diet. For this reason, she works with patients to develop dietary habits that support their sexual goals.     Christine attended the University of Rochester, studying Biology and Psychology. As a young single mom, she worked as a waitress and studied full-time. She started in a program which trains students to be research scientists, but ultimately decided against a career in research. The experience, though, gave her an appreciation for the scientific method, which is employed throughout this book. She has exhaustively reviewed epidemiological and clinical research on nutrition and sexual function to shape the advice presented here.     Christine holds Master's degrees in Acupuncture, Traditional Chinese Medicine, and Counseling. During her education, she studied Chinese dietary therapy, and earned a certification as a Holistic Nutritional Counselor.     Early in her practice, she treated numerous men for erectile issues with acupuncture, who ended up having significant improvements in sexual satisfaction. After seeing how meaningful this improvement was to their lives, she specialized in sexual health, expanding her practice to all who seek it. She wanted to do more to help them connect with their partners and bring joy to their relationships. Since then she has treated adults looking to have great sex of all orientations.     Always rather obsessed with diet, nutrition, and natural health, Christine's philosophy is rooted in an evidence-based understanding of the physiological effect of food on the body, while honoring the wisdom of traditional Chinese medicine. She treats every patient holistically, as an individual and wishes to use her unique skill set to help others in a kind, loving way.     In this episode, you will hear:     How Christine became involved in this line of work   Understanding our relationship between diet and sexual health   What are some of the best foods to help improve sexual health?  When do we know we're on the right track with our diet?  Looking at some of the foods athletes eat to keep healthy and how this can be used to improve sexual health   Is there a big difference between the right diet for men and women?  Do foods like oysters really improve sexual health?  Looking at what spices we can integrate into our diet  Recommendations to improve one habit from your diet to improve sexual health     Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10% of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhelp.com/sexologypodcast     Find Christine DeLozier Online  https://christinedelozier.com/    Masterclass  https://sexologypodcast.com/sexologymasterclass/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Welcome to episode 248 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Heather Bartos to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss orgasms and our relationship with them, off-shoot health benefits of orgasms and tips for women who have never experienced an orgasm.    Dr. Heather Bartos is a board-certified OB-GYN, author, speaker, mom and everyday gal, Dr. Heather Bartos is a leading voice in the field of women's health, and particularly women's sexual health. She is also a US Navy Veteran, former Associate Professor of Obstetrics & Gynecology and is currently medical director of her “village for women's health,” Be.     Women's Health & Wellness outside Dallas, Texas.  Featured in publications from Glamour and Huffington Post to Reader's Digest, Women's Health and ABC News, Dr. Bartos loves talking all things women and sex on her podcast, The ME Spot.     In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at orgasms and our relationship with them   How many people skip through foreplay when trying to achieve an orgasm   The importance of allowing your body the time to loosen up for an orgasm   What happens in our brains when we experience an orgasm?  Looking at the other off-shoot health benefits of orgasms  The changes female bodies experience when going through menopause   How your diet is important to experiencing great orgasms   Looking at PRP treatments   Tips for women who have never experienced an orgasm   How our biggest sex organ is our brain    Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10% of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhlep.com/sexologypodcast       Free Masterclass: Live Masterclass for Couples in Long-Term Relationships Tired of Leftover Sex? The Roadmap to Reviving Your Sex Life with Your Partner  In this Masterclass, we will: 1. Identify the main causes of sexual dissatisfaction in your relationship: Together we will assess and discuss common causes of sexual dissatisfaction and how you can uncover the root causes for each. 2. Incorporate specific strategies and tackle the root causes: We will introduce the most effective ways of improving your connection with your partner. 3. Bring excitement back to your relationship with the help of tangible tools: We will talk about the latest research on sexual boredom and how to bring thrill and excitement back into your relationship. https://sexologypodcast.com/masterclass     Find Dr. Heather Bartos Online  http://themespotpodcast.com     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 247 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Marci Liroff (she/her) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Marci transitioned from acting coach to intimacy coordinator, why intimacy coordinators are not the “sex police” and the ways she helps the film crew coordinate sex scenes.    A veteran Casting Director, Marci (she/her) has been casting film and television for the last 40 years. Her extensive credits span more than 50 films. While working at the renowned office of Fenton-Feinberg Casting she, along with Mike Fenton, cast such films as Bob Clark's A Christmas Story and Porky's; the Academy Award-nominated Poltergeist; Steven Spielberg's E.T.– The Extra Terrestrial and Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom; and Ridley Scott's Blade Runner.     After establishing her own casting company in 1983, MARCI LIROFF CASTING, Marci cast many successful films including Footloose, St. Elmo's Fire, Pretty in Pink, The Iron Giant, The Spitfire Grill (which she produced as well), Untamed Heart, Freaky Friday, Mean Girls, Insomnia, Ghosts of Girlfriends Past, Mr. Popper's Penguins, and Vampire Academy. For the last 10 years, Marci has been coaching and teaching actors to prepare for upcoming auditions and jobs.     Her years of work in film and television production, along with her communication skills and keen eye, make Marci a perfect fit in the world of intimacy coordination. She recently intimacy coordinated the feature film The Virgin of Highland Park and served as the IC for the second season of the Starz show Hightown.       In this episode, you will hear:     How Marci transitioned from acting coach to intimacy coordinator   Why intimacy coordinators are not the “sex police”   The ways Marci helps the film crew to coordinate sex scenes   Looking at the relationship between intimacy coordinators and directors   Issues that can arise on set and how Marci deals with them   Analyzing the importance of consent   How consent is being incorporated into specifics in contracts around sex scenes   The importance of reading your contract as an actor  Navigating intimate scenes where minors are involved, E.G Stranger Things   The toughest scenes that Marci has coordinated         Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10% of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhlep.com/sexologypodcast   Free Masterclass: Live Masterclass for Couples in Long-Term Relationships Tired of Leftover Sex? The Roadmap to Reviving Your Sex Life with Your Partner  In this Masterclass, we will: 1. Identify the main causes of sexual dissatisfaction in your relationship: Together we will assess and discuss common causes of sexual dissatisfaction and how you can uncover the root causes for each. 2. Incorporate specific strategies and tackle the root causes: We will introduce the most effective ways of improving your connection with your partner.   3. Bring excitement back to your relationship with the help of tangible tools: We will talk about the latest research on sexual boredom and how to bring thrill and excitement back into your relationship. https://sexologypodcast.com/masterclass     Find Marci Liroff Online  https://www.marciliroff.com       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 246 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Chantal Cousineau (she/her) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Chantal's role as an intimacy coordinator, how sexual assault leads to issues of trauma and looking at new practices that are coming onto sets to help prevent these issues.    Chantal Cousineau (she/her) was born in Canada. Raised in a large and loving French-Canadian family, she spent her childhood training tirelessly to become a Tae Kwon-Do champion. Achieving her first-degree black belt at the age of 15, she quickly dominated competitions, winning gold at the Canadian and North American Championships. She started modelling at the age of 17 and soon landed before the lens of famed photographers shooting for Abercrombie & Fitch, Aveda, Italian Vogue, Elle, Cosmopolitan, Roots, and many more. She moved to Los Angeles twenty years ago and has since carved out a successful career as an actor shooting television commercials.     She has become a grounded voice within the advocacy community, helping 1,300+ survivors of sexual harassment, assault, and abuse share their #MeToo experiences since 2017. A longtime member of SAG-AFTRA, Chantal serves on several union committees to consult on ways the industry can expand its best practices to move closer towards equal treatment, pay parity, representation, and improving safety standards on sets. Chantal has combined her many years of experience as a performer with her survivor advocacy work to pivot to her new career as an intimacy coordinator.  Her most recent intimacy coordinator credits include This Is Us (NBC), The Terminal List (Amazon), and the independent feature film Sharp Stick, which was directed by Lena Dunham.      Chantal is a dual citizen of Canada and the US and speaks both French and English fluently.    In this episode, you will hear:     Looking into Chantal's role as an intimacy coordination and what it entails   How Chantal became intimacy coordinator and the journey that led her to this role  Analyzing the dynamic of an intimacy coordinator has with other people on set  How sexual assault leads to issues of trauma   How Chantal had a Me-Too experience   The importance of self-care   How many victims of sexual assault do not report it to the police   The ways in which Chantal holds stories of sexual assault for victims   Looking at ways in which young actresses are vulnerable to issues of sexual assault  New practices that are coming onto sets to help prevent these issues    Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10%  of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhelp.com/sexologypodcast       Find Chantal Cousineau Online  https://www.intimacyprofessionalsassociation.com   Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 245 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Soum Rakshit to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss sex toys, how Dr. Soum Rakshit transitioned from electrical engineering to co-founding MysteryVibe, what goes into the design of a sex toy and how you can communicate to your partner that you want to incorporate sex toys into your sex life.    Dr. Soum Rakshit is the Co-Founder & CEO of award-winning sexual health company, MysteryVibe. Their mission is to make sexual health accessible to all — across all ages, genders & orientations.     From his research & experiences over the past 2 decades, Soumyadip deeply understands that a major challenge in most people's lives is keeping the ‘mystery' alive in a long term relationship. This is especially the case after major life events like childbirth, menopause, cancer treatment or surgery.     That's why he decided to combine his defence electronics expertise with medical experts to create devices that address major sexual health issues like ED, dryness & pain during intercourse. At the same time, working closely with sexual health experts, his team has been at the forefront of researching & developing content that act as catalysts for people to start much-needed conversations to reignite their sex life.     In his role as CEO of MysteryVibe, he focuses on pushing the boundaries on R&D, customer experience and supporting their long- term goal of making sexual health an integral part of our overall health. Soumyadip passionately believes that by empowering people with actionable knowledge & purposeful innovation is the way to make this happen.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Soum Rakshit transitioned from electrical engineering to co-founding MysteryVibe  Ways to keep sex and mystery in the bedroom after big life events; kids, marriage etc  The public's perception of sexual health companies in 2021   Why more investors are investing in sexual health companies   Looking at what goes into the design of a sex toy   Communicating to your partner you want to incorporate sex toys into your sex life  Using complex technology to create simple solutions for people   Looking at Pleasure Finder and how you can use it   Looking at some of Dr. Soum Rakshit's favourite sex toys     Find Dr. Soum Rakshit Online  https://mysteryvibe.com     Crescendo from MysteryVibe    Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 244 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Paul Yong to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss pain after orgasms, the effects of endometriosis and the relationship between hormones and testosterone around this issue.     Dr. Paul Yong (MD, PhD, FRCSC) is a Gynaecologist at the BC Women's Centre for Pelvic Pain & Endometriosis and directs the Research Program at the BC Women's Centre for Pelvic Pain & Endometriosis. Dr. Yong's clinical practice is focused on pelvic pain, with a particular interest in endometriosis, painful periods, sexual pain, co-existing bladder and bowel problems, and pain related to the musculoskeletal system.     His clinical research interests are in endometriosis and pelvic pain, and his translational research interests include bio-banking of endometriosis, gene sequencing in endometriosis, and investigating nerve formation in the pelvis as a cause of pain. Dr. Yong is also involved in teaching and is Assistant Professor in the UBC Department of Obstetrics & Gynaecology, Division of Gynaecologic Specialties.    In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at pain post orgasm   How common is it to have pain after orgasms?  Is this more prevalent in men or women?  Looking at endometriosis  How long does pain usually last for people experiencing pain post orgasm?  Recommendations for those struggling with this  Looking at treatments for endometriosis  Can endometriosis turn into a chronic pain?  Recommendations for women experiencing pain during intercourse   The relationship between hormones and testosterone around these issues       Find Dr. Paul Yong Online  https://yonglab.med.ubc.ca     Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/erotic-awakening/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Welcome to episode 243 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Kate Balestrieri to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss revenge porn, safety measures we might be able to take to protect ourselves, looking at the psychological profile of people leaking sexual images and the importance of parents to talk to their kids about this issue.    Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., CSAT-S, is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in CA, FL and IL. She is a Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, and PACT II trained couples' therapist. Dr. Balestrieri earned her Doctorate of Clinical Psychology from the Illinois School of Professional Psychology, Chicago, and completed her Post-Doctoral Fellowship though the Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine with a concentration in Forensic Psychology. In over 14 years of clinical experience, she has conducted clinical and forensic evaluations, provided expert witness testimony in court, and been a treatment provider in clinical, forensic, and correctional settings.     The Founder of Modern Intimacy and Co-Founder of Triune Therapy Group, Dr. Balestrieri is a passionate advocate for mental health, relational and sexual health and wellness. In her private practice, Dr. Balestrieri works with adults, individuals and couples, primarily around treating trauma, substance abuse and addiction, intimacy disorders (sex/love addiction and sexual dysfunction), eating disorders and body image issues, bipolar disorder, Posttraumatic Stress disorder, depression, and anxiety. She also conducts comprehensive personality assessments, differential diagnosis evaluations, and screenings for the presence of alcohol/drug addiction, compulsive relationship behavior, and other psychosexual evaluations.     Throughout her work, Dr. Balestrieri focuses on helping people build resilience and recovery from what ails them to move from a position of pain or discomfort to one of thriving, holistically in their lives. In that effort, Dr. Balestrieri works with individuals astutely to help mitigate anger management concerns, establish healthy boundaries, build effective communication strategies, and improve relationship patterns.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Kate became interested in the sexuality field   Looking around the issues that lead to revenge porn   How can we protect ourselves from revenge porn?  Communicating with your partner about what happens to photos, videos etc  Looking at the psychological profile of people leaking sexual images   How many victims of revenge porn don't come forward and report it   Is narcissism a character trait of someone leaking images?  Safety measures we might be able to take, E.G using secure apps  Looking at how authorities around the world are putting in legislation to deal with revenge porn   The importance of parents to talk to their kids about this issue   Understanding the consequences of leaking sexual images     Find Dr. Kate Balestrieri Online  https://www.modernintimacy.com     Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/erotic-awakening/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 242 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Diane Gleim to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss whether it's bad to watch porn, the emergence of ethical porn, how many people fantasize about sex with multiple people, and the relationship between porn and masturbation.    Diane Gleim is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor practicing in northern California. Her clients include anyone with a sexual concern: individuals and couples ages 18-80 and beyond, and the LGBTQ+, kinky, and poly populations. She treats the many diverse issues related to sexual identity, sexual expression, sexual behavior, and sexual relationships.     In addition to her private practice, Diane's work also includes training mental health professionals on a variety of topics related to sex and therapy and writing the blog Underneath the Sheets on Psychology Today's website. She has been voted Sonoma County's Best Sex Therapist for 4 years. Finally, Diane has appeared in various media including podcasts, her local media publications, and in Mel Magazine, The Buzz by Pure Romance, Quartz, and CNN.com.    In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the definition of porn   The ambiguous areas of porn   Analyzing the “suspension of disbelief”   How can we create piece of mind for ourselves when consuming porn?   Looking at the emergence of ethical porn   The contributing factors behind people reacting negatively to porn   Understanding it's ok to like different types of porn   How many people fantasize about sex with multiple people   Communicating your porn consumption to your partner   The relationship between porn and masturbation   Why robust arguments in a relationship can be healthy long term         Find Diane Gleim Online  https://www.dianegleimmft.com     Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/erotic-awakening/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 241 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the relationship between pleasure and pornography, how our erotic template fits into porn and analyzing the negative connotations that usually come with porn.    Alan McKee is a Professor in Digital and Social Media in the Faculty of Arts and Social Sciences at UTS. He is an expert on entertainment and healthy sexual development. He has published on healthy sexual development, and entertainment education for healthy sexuality in journals including the New Media and Society, Archives of Sexual Behavior, the International Journal of Sexual Health, the Journal of Sex Research and Sex Education.    Katerina Litsou is a senior research assistant and a doctoral researcher at the University of Southampton. She has a bachelor of psychology and a master of sexology. Her current research focuses on female sexuality and the use of pornography.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Alan & Katerina became interested in this field  How porn can be a feminist political act   Looking at the data from various studies on porn  How is porn defined in the research?  Analyzing the negative connotations that usually come with porn   The relationship between healthy masturbation and porn   The importance of transparency and consent   Looking at the correlation between pleasure and porn   How many women feel porn isn't politically correct   Looking at how our erotic template fits into porn   Analyzing the pros and cons of amateur porn         Find Alan McKee Online  https://twitter.com/profalanmckee     Find Katerina Litsou Online  https://twitter.com/kleechou     Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 240 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Majo Molfino to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Majo decided to write Break the Good Girl Myth, the most challenging myths for sex and sexuality and learning to understand your past and move forward.    Majo Molfino guides women toward more power and meaning through her unique blend of storytelling, design, psychology, and mindfulness. Her work can be seen through her podcast (which features women such as Sophia Amoruso and Byron Katie and has over one million downloads), her book (which helps women shed the good girl myths the patriarchy has imposed upon them), and her leadership program IGNITE.     She also has a Master's in learning, design, and technology from Stanford University and a bachelor's degree in psychology with a minor in cultural studies from McGill University.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Majo decided to write Break the Good Girl Myth   How these myths get in the way of having the relationships they want   Looking at the five good girl myths   The most challenging myths for sex and sexuality   Analyzing the myth of harmonies and boundaries   The importance of giving our partners sexual feedback   How 50% of women are not talking about the pain they experience during sex  Learning to be comfortable making mistakes and see what shows up   Looking at the short-term benefits of the good girl myths   Learning to understand your past and move forward       Find Majo Molfino Online   https://goodgirlmyth.com     Dating Anxiety Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/dating-anxiety    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 239 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Erica Lemke-Pembroke to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Erica's journey to getting to her place of confidence, the importance of self-love and self-respect and how you can build your confidence to feel sexier.    Erica Lemke-Pembroke, MA, is a certified life coach, licensed, specialty-certified New Life Story ® wellness coach and sexual confidence coach. Erica has a master's degree in community counseling with a concentration in marriage and family therapy. She also holds a bachelor's degree in kinesiology and a certificate in gerontology. Her desire to work with clients from a holistic perspective has been a driving force throughout her life. Guiding others to connect with themselves: body, mind and soul came from a lifetime of creating this within herself.      Erica became certified as a life coach through Coach Training Alliance, and deepened her studies with a license, specialty-certification as a Mentor Coach and New Life Story ® Wellness Coach. This furthered her studies in neuroscience, strategic coaching and positive psychology. Combining these disciplines with her passion for keeping one's sensuality and sexuality integral to the whole person, Erica continues her mission to helping women become their most sexually confident selves.     Erica is a Californian currently living in Utah. She enjoys intimate conversations about sex, everything outdoors, dancing every single day, creating Haiku poetry and spending quality time with friends and family.    In this episode, you will hear:     A look at Erica's journey to getting to her place of confidence   The pressure we feel to look a certain way to be sexy   How sexy is more about how you feel than how you look   How you can build your confidence to feel more sexier  Signs to look for if you're struggling with low confidence   The importance of self-love and self-respect   How does a lack of confidence show up in the bedroom?      Find Erica Lemke-Pembroke Online   https://feelsexyagain.com     Dating Anxiety Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/dating-anxiety    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Welcome to episode 238 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Guy Blaise to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the cultural differences between dating in the US and France, looking at the issue of unsolicited dick picks and why paying more attention to your partner will get you better sex.      Guy Blaise is an author and Frenchman currently living in America. He lived in Eastern France and Paris, where he witnessed the dating experiences of the strong women in his family and listened closely to the advice his grandmother routinely gave them about love.     After two decades of living in America and struck by the differences between two cultures' approaches to romance and sex, Guy started writing books offering his insights and started The French Perspective blog.     In this episode, you will hear:     The biggest differences between dating in the USA and France   Analyzing the cultural differences between dating in the USA and France   How we are living in a “Plenty of Fish / Tinder” culture of dating   The social attitudes of men in the USA compared to France   Looking at the issue of unsolicited dick picks   The difference of how American women deal with dicks compared with women in France  How unsolicited dick picks can be red flags for not being good at consent   Looking at the differences between the way French men make love to women compared with American men   Why paying more attention to your partner will get you better sex   Understanding that sex doesn't start and end in the bedroom   Knowing that no relationship is perfect and requires constant work to keep sex great   The importance of women taking agency of what they want         Find Guy Blaise Online   www.thefrenchperspective.com    Dating Anxiety Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/dating-anxiety    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio