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2 episodes with your iq
2 episodes with your iq
2 episodes with your iq
2 episodes with your iq
Can you change your genetics through diet and discipline? What about your stress level? Your IQ? Your earning potential?
There's a difference between being smart and being wise. Your IQ could be off the charts, or you could build rocket ships for a living, but you can still make unwise choices that negatively impact your life. In a world where information is readily available at our fingertips, it can be difficult to discern how to walk wisely through our days. Through this three-week series, we will explore practical ways to apply God's timeless truths to our daily lives and learn how to make wise decisions in a world filled with uncertainty and challenges.
There's a difference between being smart and being wise. Your IQ could be off the charts, or you could build rocket ships for a living, but you can still make unwise choices that negatively impact your life. In a world where information is readily available at our fingertips, it can be difficult to discern how to walk wisely through our days. Through this three-week series, we will explore practical ways to apply God's timeless truths to our daily lives and learn how to make wise decisions in a world filled with uncertainty and challenges.
There's a difference between being smart and being wise. Your IQ could be off the charts, or you could build rocket ships for a living, but you can still make unwise choices that negatively impact your life. In a world where information is readily available at our fingertips, it can be difficult to discern how to walk wisely through our days. Through this three-week series, we will explore practical ways to apply God's timeless truths to our daily lives and learn how to make wise decisions in a world filled with uncertainty and challenges.
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From the archive: This episode was originally recorded and published in 2020. Our interviews on Entrepreneurs On Fire are meant to be evergreen, and we do our best to confirm that all offers and URL's in these archive episodes are still relevant. Vinnie Tortorich is a best selling author of Fitness Confidential, and his Fitness Confidential podcast gets 1 million downloads per month. He is the owner of PureVitaminClub.com, PureCoffeeClub.com, NSNGfoods.com: home of Ultra Fat products. Top 3 Value Bombs 1. If you want to build a business, go to a bank instead of asking for outside investors' help. Investors will want to have a share in your company. 2. Never think about your IQ. Your IQ does not make you successful. FQ is essential – Failure Quotient: It is the number of times you can fail and come back. 3. Keep failing until you don't fall anymore. Introducing Ultra Fat: The world's first instant energy fuel, powered by healthy fats and balanced electrolytes - NSNG Foods Sponsors HubSpot HubSpot's integrated AI tech is helping teams of all types and sizes automate the more tedious parts of running a business. Learn more and get started today at HubSpot.com Lifeforce Lifeforce is making proactive and personalized healthcare easier than ever. Start your membership today and receive $200 off! Visit MyLifeforce.com/eofire
From the archive: This episode was originally recorded and published in 2020. Our interviews on Entrepreneurs On Fire are meant to be evergreen, and we do our best to confirm that all offers and URL's in these archive episodes are still relevant. Vinnie Tortorich is a best selling author of Fitness Confidential, and his Fitness Confidential podcast gets 1 million downloads per month. He is the owner of PureVitaminClub.com, PureCoffeeClub.com, NSNGfoods.com: home of Ultra Fat products. Top 3 Value Bombs 1. If you want to build a business, go to a bank instead of asking for outside investors' help. Investors will want to have a share in your company. 2. Never think about your IQ. Your IQ does not make you successful. FQ is essential – Failure Quotient: It is the number of times you can fail and come back. 3. Keep failing until you don't fall anymore. Introducing Ultra Fat: The world's first instant energy fuel, powered by healthy fats and balanced electrolytes - NSNG Foods Sponsors HubSpot HubSpot's integrated AI tech is helping teams of all types and sizes automate the more tedious parts of running a business. Learn more and get started today at HubSpot.com Lifeforce Lifeforce is making proactive and personalized healthcare easier than ever. Start your membership today and receive $200 off! Visit MyLifeforce.com/eofire
Do you want to attract and sustain a healthy relationship? On today's episode, you will learn how to overcome the 4 most common problems that rise up in most relationships with some helpful solutions you can implement today. J Dragon also shares about his experience on a dating reality television show “Relation-Shipped” and the unconventional way he met his wife. “The grass is greener where you water it” J Dragon You're going to leave this episode with… How you can improve your chances to attract and sustain a healthy relationship What is toxic positivity and why you don't want it The story of how J Dragon met his wife on a dating reality television show How you can put your best self out there A major factor in living a long, happy, and healthy life The 4 most common issues that cause strain in any relationship Why that special someone is not going to fix your issues Your IQ vs your EQ and why you need to know the difference How you can do the work of getting to know yourself The art of vulnerability and why you need to master it How you can improve your relationship skills Why you need to upkeep physical touch and playfulness in your relationship How you can benefit from hanging around mature men and women The Manhood Experiment of the week that will help you upgrade your relationships ----- Leave a Review: If you enjoyed the show, please leave us an encouraging review and tell us why you loved the show. Remember to click ‘subscribe' so you get all of our latest episodes. https://ratethispodcast.com/man What is the Manhood Experiment? It's a weekly podcast where we give you one experiment to level up your mind, career, business, health, relationships and more! For more tips and behind the scenes, follow us on: - Instagram @ManhoodExperiment - Tiktok @ManhoodExperiment - Threads @ManhoodExperiment Submit your questions @ www.manhoodexperiment.com ----- Resources Mentioned: MHE Episode: 4 Steps on How to Implement a Budget Plan So You Can Be Financially Secure MHE Episode: You Can Improve Your Relationships with These 5 Communication Tips The Relationship Handbook The Four Agreements Relationshipped J Dragon's Proposal to His Wife Alex
In today's episode of Welcome to Cloundlandia, we explore the concept of existing in multiple zones simultaneously, moving beyond the binary and discovering a third space - the Free Zone. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Discover the power of existing in multiple zones simultaneously, such as the Free Zone, where you can mine your thoughts and experiences for the most fulfilling outcomes. Embrace your inner world and learn how dedicating time to your internal realms, like "Deanlandia," can shape and enhance your external experiences. Pursue the perfect life by focusing on your unique abilities and playing life like a game, constantly adapting and exploring new opportunities. Consider the changing ideas of success over the last 28 years and how the most successful individuals have achieved their goals. Explore the fascinating connections between technology and dog ownership, as well as the potential for collaboration between humans and animals. Apply the principles of playing life like a game to create even more collaborations between humans and animals. Claim your internal realms to open up new territories of collaboration, using tools like the 'who finder' and vision capability to reach assets. Reclaim your internal world and use it as a new territory to be explored and mined for the best resources and outcomes, without others having to know. Take inspiration from Shakespeare in creating your own projects and claiming your 'andia' to open up new opportunities and experiences. Remember the importance of taking action to achieve success, rather than just believing in it, and use that mindset to pursue your perfect life. Links: WelcomeToCloudlandia.com StrategicCoach.com DeanJackson.com ListingAgentLifestyle.com TRANSCRIPT Dean Jackson Mr Sullivan. Dan Sullivan Ah, mr Jackson, Welcome to the Cloudlandia. Yes yes, But actually we're movable folks, you and I. Dean Jackson We really are. Dan Sullivan And sometimes we operate focused on the mainland, that's true, and then other times we are involved in and focused on called landia, that's true. But I've discovered a third zone, me too. Yes, it's not binary, it's try bin, try, try bear. Dean Jackson Try banger. Dan Sullivan It's try, try, nery. You know, try, nery, and what's? yeah, because my feeling, feeling is that the that most folks are operating simultaneously, trying to integrate their mainland activities And, at the same time, taking advantage of Cloudlandia capabilities, that's true, and they don't have any space in between, which I call the, which, using coach language, i call the free zone. Dean Jackson Okay, i like this. I like where this is going, because it's very familiar with the stock life and having. Dan Sullivan Isn't that strange. Isn't that strange that we should be thinking along the same lines. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dan Sullivan But not really. No, my, you know. Dean Jackson I've been and I mentioned to the couple of times ago this idea of discovering Deanlandia Thinking about my thinking and that I realized I spend a disproportionate amount of time in Cloudlandia. If you think about the, if you include, like consuming content and watching, you know, netflix, or watching all those things as Cloudlandia activity, right, like taking in digital form, consuming something else, seeking dopamine from external sources, that that I'm lumping under the whole you know Cloudlandia thing, screen sucking, as our friend Ned Hololow would call it, and what I've realized. I've made a conscious effort and shifted the balance over the last couple of weeks here on my. my mantra has been less screen time, more Dean time. And I've been taking time to really think about my thinking And you know I've mentioned it to you Last time we spoke that you, you know, i was all stuck in my mind that when you mentioned, when you turned off, you know, tv and Netflix and all that stuff you, you made, you came to the realization that what's going on in your mind is better than what's coming out of the screen, right, basically? That there's a more fulfilling, enriching game going on inside your head than coming out of the screen right, and that was something that's always stuck with me. But I really get it now kind of on a different level, having really dedicated the last couple of weeks to shifting that balance. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dan Sullivan Well, dean, i'll use your term, dean Landia has some advantages. One is that it's a complete prezone, because no one else knows what's going on? Nobody else knows what's going on, And Dean said until he tells you. Dean Jackson Likewise for Dan Landia. I mean, that's really the great thing, right, Everybody has their own. You've got Dan Landia And that's the inner world that we. I mean it's the dominant thing. When you really think about how much time and how much of our external experience is dependent on what we're you know, what we're doing in in Deanlandia or Danlandia, that's shaping everything. Dan Sullivan Yeah, and one of the things that's really interesting about that, because you're you're the only one who has a unique ability of being Dean in Deanlandia. You know it's pretty. Yeah, it's a complete. We just auditioned and accepted another associate coach, and just last last, this past week in Chicago, and and and Ben Laws, who's a member of the Free Zone. He came up about six, seven months ago and, and you know, usually more because they have to go through an audition. And the way it works is, you know, there's a conversation that develops with someone who indicates that they might be interested in being one of our associate coaches, so he makes number 16 that we have and and we don't. You know, we don't add them at a fast pace, you know, i think the last right maybe three or four years, because we really want to check out first of all. You know we do some due diligence and we talk to referrals that the person gets to us and I said you know and and you know, is this person someone who actually enjoys coaching? you know, seems to be coach, like in their way of operating and you know so we check that out and then we check out you know how the family situation is, the home situation, because it's gonna require, you know, more travel and it's commitment. You know we we're not looking for a one-year associate coach, where I mean, are you know the, the average length of the? if we add the previous the, you know the existing 16 coaches, on average they've got 16 years, 16, 17 years coaching you know and you know some of them are year 28 27 and so you know we wanted to. You know we want it to be timeless, we wanted you know, and and because the program is always developing so there's always new things and they can. You know, with skill and with achievement they can jump from one level you know we just brought up five to the ten times level and, and it's our biggest place yours yeah, yeah, and it's our biggest multiplier in the coach. When you think about it, you know, you know. I mean I coach right now. I coach maybe you know 15% of the clients. The other 85% are coached by the other coaches you know, and they're, they're all coaching. People have written checks to strategic coach right yeah and and the other thing is, i've never seen one of them coach you've never sat in on. Dean Jackson I remember you saying that you don't sit in on the session or you're not and you know I've actually never been. Dan Sullivan I've never been you know I've never been in the room or on a zoom call when they're, when they're coaching, and so what happens? they get to the ultimate moment before you know, before it's yes or no, and and that we have an audition panel of coach, coach clients, who have all trained in the role of being a difficult client, workshop client ah after observation many expert oh no, we're. We're completely familiar with the subject of difficult yeah that's what. I mean after observation yeah, workshop, and each of them sort of masters the role, and they have a series. Usually there are a series of questions or there are series of challenges, and the best way to get them difficult is to turn everybody into an extreme fact finder. I don't, i don't understand what you're saying there. You know? could you, you know? could you give you know? can you, you know? can you explain that a little bit more? I'm not quite getting that chip now and so anyway, and launch ratio, he passed with playing colors, you know, and he's, he's in, but he had auditioned three years ago and we've been turning down we just said, we don't think you're ready yet, okay, we just oh wow yeah, he was only three years, and he was only three years in the program, so right, you know he, you know, i mean he, he just had basic toilet training down, but he didn't have it advanced right now we're now. We're looking for volume and velocity yeah, right, exactly and accuracy well, that's exciting. Dean Jackson I mean, that's a good insight into you know how that that process works. Dan Sullivan But the thing and I want to bring it back to your comment of Dean Landia and because usually you know my role is to go in and say good luck, you know, and everything like- that but. I said that that's stupid. We're not looking for luck, right, right right. We're looking for confidence and capability, you know. And so I went in and I said, ben, be yourself. And I had a huge impact on me afterwards, you know, when the verdict was in and there was a pizza and champagne celebration in the cafe. I went up to him and he said that had a huge impact on me and I said, yeah, but being yourself is is the first free zone, hmm. I like that thought that it's true. There's no competition, no one who can possibly compete at being you yeah, yeah you know, and so, anyway, he and then we, he brought it up, i brought it up and we were in the free zone workshop the next day. This is Wednesday, the free zone was on Thursday. Live, you know, we had actual, live human beings in a physical room and it came up as a topic and it went on for about 45 minutes and you know, and people said, yeah, yeah, be yourself. You know, be yourself. You know Oscar Wilde, you know the sort of the outrageous English British, you know, writer, you know he was a novelist and wrote plays and commentator. Yeah, he had a line which I thought was halfway there. He said be yourself, everyone's taken that's the make of yeah, but that seems like a kind of negative approach to it. My, you know my, my approach, and I'm coming back to the Dean Landia idea and the Dan Landia idea. I'm coming back and I'm saying be yourself, because the territory is entirely you. Dean Jackson You just have to take ownership yes, it's pretty exciting when you start thinking like that, like when I love and then embracing, you know your I'm just thinking this morning in my journal about the, you know the uniqueness of our, both the internal things and the external advantages that we have. Like I was thinking about the element of a perfect life. That was a concept that I've been. You know, 25 years ago we did this exercise of. I know I'm being successful when, when I created this program with Thomas Leonard and you know the, i've been really thinking about these, the elements here of a perfect life, and you know it comes down to, i love, like bedrock things, things that are, you know, universal, contextual rocks that, if you look at, we're all, all the elements that go into creating a perfect life. Our time, where it's, you know that's we're all born into, that it's here, whether we before we were here, it's gonna be here after, but it's one element that we're all working within the construct of the speed of reality 60 minutes we're born and the game is already going you think about it as a? video game. Is we're joining the game in process, right, it's already been yeah going on. Then the next level is what I encompass as me or you. You know you've got everything that is distinctly weird. It's strip you naked, put you on a deserted island. That's the everything that you have right now. Is you so that's? and some of those things are factory settings that you can't really change like your. You're a male. Your IQ, your, your genetic health, your situation, you know all of those you're, you know your brain power, you know, yeah, your brain power, and I think that there is an advantage you can't deny. You say yourself life's not fair. It's not fair that some people are born with super high IQs, super physical strength, super genetic, you know health, makeup, and others are born with, you know, other with challenges, in that sometimes people are born with mental disabilities or physical disabilities or all of the things. But when you do an assessment, if you're kind of pushing the reset button on the game and I love your idea of 25 year framework, so I 25 year terms yeah, that you end up with a you know every thing, if we're joining the game in progress, if you're kind of pushing the reset button now you just turned 79 years old, you had a reset in, you know 75 and you kind of make the, the rules up as you go, because that's the great thing about it everything is made up, like you say, and the. But if you do an assessment at any point, if we just kind of do an inventory of what are my you know me advantages that I have right now, if I were just to say, and I think that's all of your, all of the knowledge, all of your physical situation right now, all of those things are what you're left with. And then the next is the environment, which is all of the settings, all of the external things. Like an environment is where you are in the game. If you're born into rural China, that's a different environment than being born in North America or being born in Canada. You've got a moving sidewalk advantage that you're in the mix. You've got geography on your side, you've got the economy. So all of that stuff is an environmental thing that you can change. This is part of the thing is that anytime we could up and move to rural China if you wanted to or change your environment that's where you are thinking comes in with the immigrant thinking. You're thinking where you're leaving everything behind, and that's kind of this thought is where would be the best environment for what you want for this next 25 years? if you're going to set up the plan there, then the next is people. that there's all the people that are involved and that's distinct from your environment, and who you choose to collaborate with. cooperate with, you know, co-habitate with. Some of them are your family, that you're assigned when you come into the game. Dan Sullivan But then there are other Already pre-assigned. Dean Jackson Actually, that's exactly right, pre-assigned, that's exactly right. And then money is the final element, and I think that the thing becomes taking your imagine. My visual metaphor for it is this continuous runway game like Guitar Hero or something, where it's just constantly coming at you at the speed of 60 minutes per hour and you get to move the joystick into whatever environment where you're going to allocate that time and in what environment, with what people, and those environments are either contributing to money or taking away from you or using money to participate in that part of the environment, or you're in an environment that's making money, and so those five elements of the game are a really fun thing. Dan Sullivan And what you just said is true for everyone. Dean Jackson Yes, that's exact, and that's why the framework. Dan Sullivan The truth. the whole thing is how you play the game. And let's take poker, for example. The best poker players aren't the ones who get an unusual run of good cards. Right, I mean, over the course of, let's say, 50 games, they didn't get any better cards than anybody else did. Dean Jackson No, you're absolutely right. It's so funny. That's really the And those are situations. That's a perfect example that this really is. You're playing it like a game and I wanted to, and that was made the distinction of A perfect life, not D perfect life, because A perfect life acknowledges that there are 8 billion versions of it. Everybody is in possession of one life, that they get to play the game and pursue a perfect for them life. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dean Jackson That's a fun game. Dan Sullivan Yeah, someone one of the FreeZone participants on Thursday just casually was talking, then dropped the line. perfect, i said whoa, whoa whoa, whoa, whoa, perfect, perfect, So right, okay, so I'm going to give you an easy approach to perfection, okay, and this is what I've done. Just declare yourself perfect. Yeah, just say I'm perfect. Now, how am I going to expand that over the next 90 days? Right, yeah. And it takes them right back to unique ability, because that's the only dynamic capability that we have is that we have a unique ability that nobody has, which is a more. Which is a more coach, which is a more coachified way of talking about. You have a unique ability. That's where the perfection is, but you haven't fully explored all the different ways that you can be more conscious of that, and you haven't explored all the ways in which it can move into greater capabilities and impact in the world. Dean Jackson Yeah, and I guess, that's a guess. Dan Sullivan So that's what Dean Landy is. Dean has a unique ability, unique to him, and I think I passed on to you a comment that says a psychologist is doing a study on the ultimate paper on outliers And he was very, very keenly interested in talking to me, because the words gone around about strategic coach and the whole philosophy of strategic coach is based, and the practice of strategic coach is based on a concept called unique ability. And the question to me was what do unique people have in common? And I said, well, nothing, yeah. Dean Jackson What do unique people have in common? Dan Sullivan Nothing. Dean Jackson That's the absolute truth, isn't it? Yeah? Dan Sullivan I mean I said I've looked the term up in the dictionary and it's a thing unto itself and there's no similarity to it with anything else. I mean unique either means what it means or it doesn't mean anything. But you can't have a unique ability cult. Dean Jackson I think you're right. The interesting thing is, there's always this room for improvement. There's always room for progress And I think that if I think about perfection as something being perfect, as an asymptotic curve that continues to prove I never levels out, is I like some of these definitions, like I'm a big entomologist too similar to you in looking at? I look at the definitions of things right, and I think that what's perfect is, as an adjective, having all the required or desirable elements, qualities or characteristics, as good as it is possible to be. My favorite one is highly suitable for someone or something Exactly right. There's always this thing that we always have just like a horizon, we always have an opportunity to move forward, and I think that that, but it's nice to be able to think that. Dan Sullivan Yeah, well, i think, the wildcard. There's a couple of wildcard factors here. One wildcard factor is that we live in the realm of time. Okay, Yeah. And time's always moving on? Yeah, and as it moves on, things change You know, Yeah, at least they change in terms of our awareness. you know that we're aware of. Gee, that's something new, you know and everything. And the thing is that there's a high premium here on adaptability, of saying, well, this is the perfect approach here, but you know, next week it might not be. Dean Jackson And being. This is where being alert, curious, all of those things are. Yeah, i was looking back at the last 25 years and I was actually thinking like I'd like round things. I'm moving to where, you know, i'm three years away from being 60, and that will be a 25-year. You know, from 2000 was when I kind of started that 25-year vision, you know, and I would tell it now that I've got three years to get to 60, and then 25 years from there will take me to 85, right, and But I look at what's happened. You know that's 28 years right now, kind of looking forward there, and I think of them as academic years. So you know, 28 seasons kind of thing or whatever. I think about them starting in September. But the I think I was really thinking this morning, think about all the things that have changed in that 28 years from 1996 to, you know, to now, and the richest people in the world right now none of them were even doing what they're doing to get to that point 28 years ago. Dan Sullivan Yeah, and that wouldn't, there was no. Dean Jackson There was no Google, there was no Facebook there was no YouTube. Dan Sullivan But even if you take Berkshire Hathaway, which is outside of its technological realm, i mean Warren Buffett will tell you that all of his money, you know he's in his, approaching his mid-90s now and all of his money's really been made, you know, recently. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dean Jackson Yeah, and isn't that? I mean you think about that Warren Buffett was? He was the richest guy in the world or among them. Then, you know, 28 years ago, that's just So, it was Bill Gates, and you know, you think about some of those, the OG ones, but you think about how much, like the internet was just a baby in the United States And brand new. Yeah, You know, you see that My favorite is seeing that. You know Brian Gumbel and Katie Couric clip of them discussing what is the internet. Dan Sullivan You know, yeah well, and what's this thing dot com? you know? right, exactly. Yeah, what's a, what's hello, What Yeah well, i mean, do you have a clue? and these are, you know, these are people in the middle of the news media, you know. I mean yeah and yeah I mean and, and you know they're at and they're in New York City. You know they're right in the Center of one of the world's great plugged in cities. You know, and they're wondering there was. So, you know, i mean, it's really interesting. Just a little point about that. I had just been, you know, you know, doing podcasts with Mike Kenix and Peter Diamadas and Both of them said they made a statement similar to Everybody now is paying attention to AI. Okay, yeah, that's the first part. The second part was I was in London for a whole week and I had a whole event all day with, you know, 100 strategic coach clients, and The only reason anybody was talking about the AI was that Evan Ryan happened to be in UK at that time and I invited to come for the day and I had him come in and And everybody wanted to know what this was. You know, and, and I was reading the. You know London is very rich with newspapers and, yeah, i, you know I was reading the tele every day, the telegraph and. Nobody, nobody was talking about AI. And I, you know, and I said, and I said this is London, another globally plugged in city. You know, you know. I mean you know on a par with New York. And I said, you know, i bet, if I, if, if I go to Africa and visit all the capital cities of Africa, i bet they're not talking about AI, you know right and yeah, yeah. So you know, I mean we're very, very biased towards what, what we're involved in. We're very, very biased towards what we're excited about you know, and everything like that, but that's Not being in your own India, you know. Dean Jackson I mean, i find your own private India Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, have you taken ownership of your India yet? Dan Sullivan Yeah, you know you gotta, you gotta register it. There's like the land rush, you know you got. Dean Jackson Your grandfather, did you? nobody's Just got a claim. Dan Sullivan I think I think you're hitting on something very, very fundamental Which I'm suspecting is very Recent in human history. Okay, and by recent I don't mean, you know, the last 10 years, i mean the last 400 years, and the reason I say 400 Is because I was watching a YouTube video. There's a author who's dead now I think he died last year, in his 90s by the name of Harold Bloom, a professor at Yale, and His specialty was Shakespeare. I mean, he was considered the Foremost expert and commentator on Shakespeare in history. No one, no one, has written about, spoken about Shakespeare more. And Shakespeare, for Harold boom, shakespeare is the. He has a book, is a huge book. You know, it's a big, thick book and It's called Shakespeare, the invention, the invention of human. And He, you know he makes his case. He's, you know he's got all sorts of convincing arguments and everything like that. But he said Shakespeare was the first writer of any kind, the first dramatist of any kind Who, on stage and of course in the writing, but on stage has characters talking to themselves. And He said it's the first one. Yeah, we've never seen. He said I've. You know, i've explored all the stories and all the you know The religions and everything, and he's the first. He's the first character, but it's not just one character. He created about 25 different characters who do this and And they talk to themselves, they have conversations with themselves, and he said there's a crossover and That the modern world really exists when people started talking to themselves in the ancient world before they did. Because now you're thinking about your thinking and You're now reflecting on it and sharing it with the audience. Who the character doesn't know is there. You know he thinks he's alone, but there's, yeah you know, there's a thousand people watching this take place, but he says it's also the birth of personality and he says you Prior, prior to Shakespeare. You don't get these really incredible personalities, you know, like Macbeth, hamlet and Yeah yeah, you know, shia I like, and Iago and all these amazing, and they're complete universes in themselves. I mean, there, there, they're not. They're not even in service of the pot. They just have this complete, almost endless depth to them. And And I Was pod raid that. And Freud, the you know, the famous psychiatrist rain around the 1900 was asked Who he thought was the greatest expert on human psychology, thinking that he would talk about someone in his field or someone he you know, and that he was going to be humble and Give credit to some other person. and he said well, you know, every time I think I'm on a completely new insight And it's like walking down a new road. About halfway down the road I see somebody walking back the other way and and And it's Shakespeare, and Shakespeare. Shakespeare says I thought it was promising, but not really. You know, i mean, take it for me. And I found that a very striking comment on Freud's perch. You know, i mean he was, he was, i mean he was totally into himself, i mean he was a character himself and he was a personality. But if you put bloom and Freud together, what he's saying is that this is very, very recent And it actually has to beginning with one thinker, and you know it has that has to begin in. So I think we're living in that That world and what you and I are doing today, we're saying, yeah, we didn't come up with the notion that there's a mainland and a cloud land via. You know, we, we simply put names to something that people were already dealing with. Yeah, but it's like it's binary, you know, it's like when you, when you, you know, reach the border for this border of the mainland, then you're in cloudlandia. Dean Jackson But what you're. Dan Sullivan What you're suggesting is Well. That may be true for most people, But in fact it's possible to create a third zone that lies between Mainland the mainland and cloudlandia. Dean Jackson That's the truth. I look at them as the layers there. You're absolutely right. Yeah, it's the one that. Yeah, it's the thing that puts it all together. Dan Sullivan Yeah, It's interesting, this thing of technology and the book, the quarterly book I'm writing. This is quarter 35, so this is book 35. And it's called Training Technology Like a Good Dog. Dean Jackson Okay. Dan Sullivan And it's really getting interesting and I'm doing some reading on the topic of. has anyone else made this connection between technology and dogs? And a really nice piece, an academic piece, pretty recent, it just sort of came out And it makes the claim that dogs are in fact humanity's first technology. And this is the thinking this is the thinking that it's the first time humans have taken another species. You know, have taken wolves and done a deal with them, you know. Basically, but there was no such thing as a dog until there was a collaboration between some canny wolf and some you know response of human being And together they created a new creature on the planet called dog you know, And so so when you look at, you know all the various shapes and sizes of, you know of dogs. I live in the beaches area of Toronto and there's a boardwalk about a two minutes away from our front door. And I go down and walk and boy, they sure come in a lot of different varieties but it's all a creative, but it's all a created species and did not pre exist before humans and another species did a collaboration And I says therefore how have we done with the technology called dogs? And we've done, we've been very creative. You know, we've been very creative. You know I mean it's, it's hard to you. Don't see them often, but sometimes you see a chihuahua down there. You know which are, you can hold in your hand. And I ran into one I had never seen two weeks ago, called a Leon burger. Okay, never heard of it And it's a German dog. Dean Jackson It's a St. Dan Sullivan Bernardish As a matter of fact, I think it's a it's bred from. it's a combination of putting the St Bernard and several other mountain work dogs together called. Leon burger, and it's arguably the biggest, the biggest of the breeds, and they weigh in at about a hundred and forty, five hundred and fifty pounds. They're a big, big dog and very, very tranquil, you know very tranquil, very, you know, very easy to get along with. And I said well, somebody you know, some back there, series of people says let's get a really, really little dog. You know one you can hold in your hand And you know. And and somebody else said you know what we do, we need a bigger dog. We need a bigger dog. But you have to realize, is you're, you're dealing with a technology that was actually created by human beings in the first place. That's amazing. Dean Jackson It was made. Dan Sullivan they're made up, Dogs are made up. Dean Jackson Yeah, i think you say. then what would be the next collaboration? that paved the way for us to collaborate with donkey and oxen. Dan Sullivan Yeah, Pigs cows, you know yeah yeah, but my feeling is the knowledge of developing dogs then led to you know, led to you know all sorts of you know domestication of animals, just spread very quickly after they cracked the code, after they cracked the code on dogs. Dean Jackson Think about that All the yeah, the golden age of carrier pigeons and falconry, and yeah, parrot, we opened up a whole new yeah. Dean Jackson Yeah, a whole new world. Yeah, yeah, i think you're on the front. Dan Sullivan There's a, there's a, there's a parallel weapon. Well, this is the only topic that Peter Diamandis has ever asked me to share at A360. Dean Jackson And. Dan Sullivan I wasn't asked to come on stage, i just did a little 10 minute riff. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dan Sullivan But I said, you know, i had 10 minute riff there And that was, you know, six, seven years ago And but it's, it's been one of those. It's been like a piece of food that gets caught in your teeth. You know, my tongue's been working away for the last five or six years And I've been saying, you know, i think there was something in that little riff I did there. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dan Sullivan That will be useful now when we talk about the technologies that we have right now, and what I've established in the book is that you don't get a good dog unless you establish completely and take responsibility that you're the owner. Okay, and my sense is the same thing with any technology, but especially the ones that were are you know are the hot numbers in Cloudlandia. Dean Jackson I love it. Dean Jackson I mean this is such great. I can't wait for that one to come out. Dan Sullivan Yeah, and you know the book. The book surprises you, i mean, as you go along. And. but the central thing is, i mean it's it's a bit of a diversion, because I'm talking about dogs and I'm really talking about you know, and I'm talking about technology, but it's actually a diversion. What I'm trying to emphasis is what does ownership mean? Are you a human being who's actually taken ownership of yourself, because it makes a lot easier than to be the owner of a dog and the owner of technology? if you've actually taken ownership of yourself And I think that Dean Lambea is a statement I've taken ownership of this territory. Dean Jackson I think that's right And all that that entails And that's the part of the best thing. If you did inherit a land or took ownership of it, part of the great joy is exploring the territory. That's really what Well, i'm putting yeah. Dan Sullivan And the other thing is putting your mark on it you know, Yeah. I think, that's amazing, Yeah, And the land rush. You know they had the homesteading act. It's an act of Congress. And then the various states would have land rushes, They would be territories and they had goal to be a state. Oklahoma is the very famous, you know the very famous example. And so it didn't have Oklahoma, the Oklahoma territory, which was borrowed from the Native Indians who were there. But they were Yeah, but they were very deficient on property lines, they were. They were very deficient on surveys, you know, and they said it was their land, but there was. They didn't register it, you know they didn't you know they didn't go to the, you know to the Native Territory Registry Office and register it And so got a certain date. You know the financial interests and the political interests in Oklahoma set that up And you have to get in agreement with the federal government that you're doing this. You know it's a teamwork thing but on a particular day you could line up at one border of Oklahoma. You couldn't do it from all four borders. You could do it And there was a gunshot or a cannon was off, and then you would go to claim a hundred, a hundred, i think it was a hundred acres hundred acres And you know, and you had to survey it in, you had to put the survey lines in and you had to put stakes, stakes along the way, and you, they had surveyors who were helpers and they would, you know, give the, you know from their understanding, the, you know the specific latitude and longitude. And then they had a registry office and these were movable registry offices because it was dynamic action for like a six month period And by the end of six months all the land was registered, all the land in the state was registered, and then you know, and then they invited people to move in to the potential new state of Oklahoma and once they got a population that was equal to the state of Rhode Island, they could petition for statehood, and that's how the state got created. Dean Jackson Isn't that interesting? I there was a great movie. There was a great movie called Far and Away and it was Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman and it told the story of them coming from Ireland to Oklahoma, to America, where they're giving away land. They saw flyers in the, you know, in England or in Ireland and decided that they would make the track over and start a new life in America. Yeah, it was a very fascinating thing And it's interesting how the Oklahoma Sooners the Sooners got their name because some of them, as you said, before the gun went off, they went in. Dean Jackson Sooner and already, already. Dan Sullivan Yeah, they yeah, that's why. Yeah, that's why the The name has stuck, you know and I'll go home, Yeah and because they were Too soon. they were too soon, Yeah that's right, Yeah that's they had already. They were already there and then they hit, but and then, if anybody else came, they Suddenly emerged and said no, no, we've staked up this territory, we've already done it, you know, and and Everything else you know, like Italy, i was on a bus in Italy and it was on the Amalfi coast, which is a spectacular, you know, spectacularly beautiful part. But we weren't on the coast, we were in a town and I was sitting the closest a passenger could be to the bus driver, so he was on Left, because they, they, they, they drive on the same way we do in the states, you know, on the same side of the road. And we came in a village where we came down, and then there was a perpendicular road, road we around didn't go through. You had to turn, and, and these client and the sign at the end clearly said Turn right the arrow was pointing right and the bus driver turned left and I said I think that's one way. The other way isn't? he says, mere suggestion. Dean Jackson I'm mere suggestion. That's funny. I love it. Dan Sullivan I love it and that that explains that. That explains Italians approach to all laws merely Yeah. Dean Jackson I thought, by the way, your Go ahead, you're about to talk about you're. Dan Sullivan You're about to talk about me, so I want to hear it fully, of course. Dean Jackson I saw your working genius. Dean Jackson Oh yeah through before. Dean Jackson That'd be a good No surprise, but no is identical. Dean Jackson Yes, we have identical working geniuses. Dean Jackson It's funny, yeah, but Useful. I mean, i've got a. 0:54:16 - Dan Sullivan I found it very useful and we're going to give it to all the free zoners You know we're going to give it you know like we do. We did that with the print, which I find useful in its own way and you know. So you know Strength finder. I find that useful. Cold be very useful. Dean Jackson And you know so. I mean they're like interesting. It would be, or be fascinating For, if everybody in free zone did the working genius and they got a way to combine, to show Like we could show the free zone environment with everybody's strength lit up. As You know, if you need Some particular working genius, these are all the free zone people that are. Dan Sullivan Well, it's really interesting because we just created a tool. Our tech team did the Website on the coach website that's called the who finder, and I like you and you go in and just list who you are. In terms of the kind of kinds of projects you like to work on and where your best abilities are And what your best solutions are and you just listed and anybody else can look at that and contact you. Dean Jackson I like that. I'm just good thinking. Something similar among Looking at the, the VCR assets as well vision capability and reach Assets to be able to be where people have Access, capacity or have need. Yeah, as a framework for collaboration, oh yeah. Dan Sullivan So I mean you could, you could just take the who finder and just expand it to include those categories with credit, with credit given to the originator. Dean Jackson But I think those that would really open up a lot of collaboration. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dan Sullivan Yeah, there's one. I don't know if you've met him because he's a Year into free zone. His name is Chad Jenkins. Have you met Chad Jenkins? I have met Chad. Dean Jackson Yeah, i met Chad and he was in Palm Beach, right. Dan Sullivan Yeah, yeah, and he's a multi-company man and in North Carolina. But he in one year has stripped out all of his Activities except collaborating with other people, mainly in free zone, mainly in free zone And then adding their capabilities to the companies that he owns. I like that. Dean Jackson Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, let's come up. Dan Sullivan Let's just sum up a little bit, three things that emerged and you're thinking, since we started at the Top of the previous hour, what let's come through? that Takes what you were already working on further Well. Dean Jackson I like this idea of You know, claiming your and via. I think It's a really interesting concept, but if you take it like a, a new territory to be explored and mined for all the best resources and outcomes, and I Think there's, i think there's really something to that of thinking of it as Property, you know well, I think the the interesting thing about it It isn't that other people have to know That have to know because they can't They can't right the whole point is do you claim it for yourself? Yeah, I Think that's amazing, like I think there's so much of our. That's really where we spend the most time, you know. I mean, it's there, the It's what shapes everything. You know so much of our life experience is our internal, whether we recognize it as that or not, but where our attention goes well, and I think the other thing that is very crucial about this, and And we didn't really get into that, but since That, i'll just use my own example. Dan Sullivan For a long time in my life I didn't claim my India. I didn't and, but I beat myself up For being there rather than being either in the mainland or in clockland. Dean Jackson Yeah right. Dan Sullivan The meantime I was in Dan Dan landia. I thought it was a waste of time that I you know why are you doing this? Dean Jackson I mean, this is wasted time, this is wasted effort you know why you, why What teachers and authorities kind of beat it out of you. He's always yeah, he's always got his head in the cloud. He's always down. Often, if he's often his own world. It's always beaten out of us as a negative thing. Dan Sullivan Well yeah, or or we tell other, we give other people permission to beat us up Yeah. Dean Jackson Well it's true, right, yeah, i mean. Dan Sullivan I mean it's interesting, I think that It's. It's a new world that we're in, but my, my sense is that it really starts, and I'm I feel good about description. You know that Professor Bloom gives that this really really started with Shakespeare. Shakespeare is the first human being to Open the door That this is available to you know, he's, he's available to you. What's really, really interesting, he comes across as a very tortured soul. So I think he only went halfway with this idea. And that is he says we, we need to worship Shakespeare by this. And I said, no, you got to use Shakespeare as a working example and then, in your own realm, do What he suggested you can do and I get the sense that that he didn't do that. He didn't do that. You know he, you know he turned it, you know he talks about it in almost like religious terms and I said, right, yeah, it's like. It's kind of like you have a retrieval dog and You shoot and you kill the duck. You know the duck fall and then you then you point to the pointer. You know you point to that, and instead of going and getting the duck, he looks your finger. Dean Jackson Oh, right Oh. Dan Sullivan Mighty one, Oh mighty one. I love it when you point you know yeah no, no, there's. There's a project here, You know. Go do what, go do what you're supposed to be doing. Dean Jackson Yeah, and I get it. Dan Sullivan Yeah, i got it feeling with I got a gold mine out of this and Yeah, claiming your andia that's the exactly right. Dean Jackson I got a gold mine out of this, and I got a gold mine out of this, and I did, yeah, claiming your andia. Dan Sullivan That's the exactly right. That's just the t-shirt that we're going to, that's right. I mean coffee cops bumper sticker soon. I mean there's the universe Emerging anyway, Same same time next week. Absolutely, i wouldn't miss it. Dean Jackson Alrighty, thanks, dan, okay. Okay, okay, dean.
Did you know only around 15% of people experience true self-awareness? Even more surprising, in the same study, researchers found that the more self-aware someone thinks they are, the opposite is likely to be true! When Scott Allender shared this info with me in a recent conversation, I was floored! I just had to hear more about how self-awareness relates to our emotional health and how both of those pieces relate to success. In his new book, The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success, Scott uses one of my favorite tools, the Enneagram, to help you move towards emotional health in a way that makes sense for your personality and sets you up for success. Listen in as Scott and I talk about: Why your emotional intelligence (EQ) is more important than your IQ when it comes to success How the tools provided in the enneagram help us get back to who we are made to be What it looks like for each Enneagram type to be functioning at a high level of self-awareness (and what it looks like when we're not self-aware!) The role our spiritual life plays in our emotional intelligence Scott Allender is the co-host of The Evolving Leader podcast and author of The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success. Scott is an expert in global leadership who regularly teaches enneagram workshops and lives in Nashville. Favorite quotes: “Only 13-15% of people are truly self aware and the more self aware somebody thinks they are the opposite is likely to be true.” “Your IQ might get you in the door. Your EQ is going to determine whether or not you stay inside the room or get invited back. Our EQ is our IQ at its testing point” “Until we do the work of cultivating this level of awareness we are often operating on autopilot.” “The studies say that more than 70% of our success is directly attributed to emotional intelligence.” “What is common to all types is really getting connected to the body, heart, and head.” Teaching Series from Remaining You While Raising Them: Habits The Tipping Point (23:47) Links to great things we discussed: Scott Allender Website The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success Scott Allender Instagram Scott Allender Twitter Scott Allender LinkedIn The Evolving Leader Podcast Taylor Swift Chris Stapleton Yellowstone Rocky Creed III Move: How the New Science of Body Movement Can Set Your Mind Free Whiplash God Really Loves Us Clinique Pop Lip Colour + Primer Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli
In today's episode Kehla deep dives into why the IQ, EQ & SQ are incredible tools when it comes to Hypnotherapy and subconscious reprogramming. The IQ (intelligent quotient), EQ (Emotional quotient) and SQ (Spiritual quotient) are three spheres in the Venus sequence of the Gene Keys that are designed to energetically express our journeys between the ages of 14-21 (IQ), 7-14 (EQ) and 0-7 (SQ). Your IQ rules your psychology, your EQ rules your ideology, and your SQ rules your mythology. In this conversation, Kehla will take you on a journey of how you can infuse this into your hypnotherapy with your clients. Check out Hypnotic Keys Check out Kehla's website Grab Kehla's Freebies Follow Kehla on IG Follow Kehla on Insight Timer Thank you for taking a moment to listen, rate & share this podcast!
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Join Pastor Travis Hall in this quick episode as he speaks on the effects of unresolved pain on leadership and the importance of every leader's emotional health. For Pastor Travis, nothing is more weighty in inhibiting your growth and purpose better than unresolved pain. To shine a clearer light on this topic, he brings up the seven symptoms of unresolved pain that most people unknowingly carry. Pastor Travis also acknowledges in this episode that a person's IQ isn't their end-all. Today, people can be highly competent and still lack the emotional fortitude to do the job and be team players—the reason why the balance between IQ and EQ is paramount. Tune in as they put the spot on the Transformational Truth #35 - Nothing will inhibit the pursuit of your purpose like unresolved pain. Ready your notes, as there will be a ton to take away from this episode. In this episode you will learn: · The Symptoms of Unresolved Pain. · Why is it hard for us to address brokenness? · Be an active participant in your healing process! · On why emotional intelligence is vital. · Your IQ vs. EQ. · …and so much more! About Pastor Travis Hall: Pastor Travis believes God created us on purpose for a purpose. As a pastor and leader for more than 20 years, he has a deep burden in his heart to help people fulfill their God-given potential and adopt a paradigm of leadership that will restore joy to their life. He and his wife Tina have the honor of serving as lead pastor of Life Church International, a community-centric church with more than 500 people from 75 nationalities. Through their partnership with Satisfeed, they've fed more than 1,000 families per week and also provide local food distributors with basic need supplies to help their communities. Aside from his beautiful wife and five amazing children, his most thrilling experience is watching God work through their ministry and leadership to bring more than 5,000 souls to faith in Christ. Catch Pastor Travis Hall on: Website: http://cultivatemypurpose.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pastortravishall/ Seven Deadly Thoughts, Book by Travis H. Hall: https://cultivatemypurpose.com/book/
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It’s not just fundamental in business, it’s a skill that is fundamental in your whole life. This is what I'm going to be talking about in depth in this week's SOS! (success over stress) group programme module. It’s HUGELY important to understand our emotions and how it shapes our behaviour and our results. Your emotions create physiological, hormonal and psychological changes. These influence your thoughts and behaviour! Big news! We’re not actually taught how to handle our emotions, or that we can really have any influence at all. We kind of just accept them or learn to suppress them. We only really know what parents and primary caregivers taught us about emotional regulation. But what if THEY weren’t really taught by their primary caregivers. The important thing here is to note the generational differences. We’re essentially being taught emotional regulation of ‘the time’. Taking into account what was and wasn’t acceptable in society at that time. A huge amount of unconscious bias comes into the way we’re taught to be humans. If you want to understand more about unconscious bias I did an episode specifically on that in 2020. So you can see how this cycle continues. We kind of go through life suppressing emotions or letting them take over. We might learn as children that it’s not ‘ok’ to feel or express our emotions. But even if you suppress them. They’re still there. They will come out in other ways. But something that’s also important to know is that you can’t make good, conscious decisions in the midst of an emotional hijack. Making decisions is something we need to do all the time as a business owner. Not ideal. Now, to be abundantly clear, ALL emotions ARE welcome. They are not to be demonised. They are helpful indicators. BUT, if you don’t know how to regulate them, you can get in a pickle. Think about a time in your business when something happened that made you feel anxious, or scared, or frustrated. How did it feel? How did it affect your ability to do things? If it was a sympathetic nervous system response, it might cause you to speed up, make mistakes, go into fight or flight, say something you don’t really mean, make rash decisions. If it’s a parasympathetic nervous system response, it might cause you to freeze, people please or not be able to do much of anything. The Limbic system in the brain is your emotional brain. Home to the amygdala (fear centre), the hippocampus (memory centre) Hypothalamus (regulates the Autonomic Nervous System and controls endocrine, or hormone system. So responsible for releasing Adrenaline and cortisol. And for the fight/flight, rest/digest response.) They’re all talking to each other. There’s something called ‘going limbic’ which is where your limbic system totally overrides your prefrontal cortex which is your higher level, executive functioning. Your IQ literally lowers. How do you think this affects your behaviour in those moments? So, as a business owner, or in a high stress job, where you’re reacting all the time to potentially ‘threatening’ stimuli. What do you think is going to happen? Some common things might be snapping, shouting, crying, lacking focus, taking things personally, blaming. Emotional regulation is self control and the ability to be able to bring yourself back into balance at will. So how do you regulate your emotions? There are a tonne of ways! I put 55 tools and techniques in the members area of the first round of my SOS! (Success over stress) group programme. I know I'll be adding more in as we go along. But think about what calms you down and gets you back on track? There are cognitive tools like reframing, labelling and journaling. There are somatic tools like breathwork, heartmath, movement. My favourites are always singing and dancing. Singing helps tone your vagus nerve and the dancing helps the emotions to move through you too so you don’t get stuck in an incomplete stress cycle. It sounds so counterintuitive to be in the midst of ‘going limbic’ and dancing or singing but trust me it works! This is why that programme even needs to exist. How does it feel to be hijacked by your emotions? You do things you wouldn’t normally. You can feel in a heightened state of panic or anxiety. Everything feels harder! But we don’t have to be ruled by them in this way. Meditation is another amazing emotional regulation tool. Mindfulness. It’s operating that ability to command yourself. So taking you out of the limbic brain and waking up your prefrontal cortex so you can rationally think things through and make better decisions. Sounds much better right? The other thing we need to be aware of is that emotions are contagious. You’ve probably been around someone who’s super stressed, how do you feel? You’ve probably been around someone who’s super calm and patient, how do you feel? It’s emotional intelligence, right? Being able to recognise yours and other people's emotions. Self awareness and self regulation are two huge pieces of the puzzle. Think about it, if you have the ability to regulate your emotions how different would it feel when you have setbacks? When people let you down? When a client doesn’t treat you well? When you have to give a refund? When you feel like you’re trying all the things but not getting the results you want yet? When you get a no? When something happens you were totally unprepared for? Think about what your normal reaction might be in those situations and compare it to what it might be like if you were able to regulate your emotions. Big difference right? I believe the ability to recognise and regulate your emotions is paramount in living a life that you love, especially in running a business. By its very nature it’s stressful because to do it, usually we have to go against so many of societies ‘norms’ about what’s safe and what’s not. We go head to head with our own trauma. Our brain and our nervous system will fight us the whole way if we don’t know how to help create ourselves a new base line of safety. How many times have certain thoughts come up for you and stopped you in your tracks? The comparison, the i’m not good enoughs, the beliefs of it’s for them not for me. Our ego playing hard ball to try and keep us in the familiar. If you don’t know your way around this stuff, how to be present with your emotions. How not to demonise them and see them as messengers and indicators rather than something to be suppressed or denied. How not to blame and shame yourself for your own emotions when it’s part of being human. THIS is the work that’s important in business...and in life. You can have all the strategies in the world and that’s great, but not in isolation. You need to know you can, and learn how to work with your emotions and self regulate. BUT, this IS a skill you can learn. It’s not your fault you haven’t been taught it. It’s absolutely something you can learn. Make that your priority for a while and see the changes unfold! Fx
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Dr. Katrina Burrus, MCC interviews Kathi Kulesza and asks her what is her expertise. Kathi encourages women to take-action to become known in your area of expertise. Kathi Kulesza, is a board member of the National Speaker’s Association (NSA) of Las Vegas and she will explain what it took for her to become a public speaker and known as the person for helping women lead without apologizing. Other intriguing topics discussed are: What strategies did you use to become a public speaker and how did you come to the expertise, “Helping Women Lead Without Apologizing?” How did you benefited from being a member of NSA, Las Vegas and NSA, National? How did you become known as the person for helping women lead without apologizing? How can someone become known for their expertise? Take-action and become known. Start speaking. Join NSA to develop your business as a speaker. Download our new Exercise at Excellent Executive Coaching: How to Add EQ to Your IQ. Who is Kathi Kulesza? Kathi began her career in corporate America in the hospitality industry where she gave 22 years of service to her customers and employees. She spent her early years as a first-time manager waiting for the perfect moment to participate in the conversation, feeling like an imposter not deserving of her position or a seat at the table, and apologizing every time she received accolades. She eventually became a successful and respected leader as a result of a lot of hard work, making valuable mistakes and with the mentorship and coaching of leaders who took her under their wing. Kathi has spent the last decade inspiring her clients and audiences to get out of their own way and become confident, assertive unapologetic leaders. Excellent Executive Coaching Podcast If you have enjoyed this episode, subscribe to iTunes. We would love a review on iTunes or other platform. The EEC podcasts are sponsored by MKB Excellent Executive Coaching that helps you get from where you are to where you want to be with customized leadership and coaching development programs. MKB Excellent Executive Coaching offers leadership development programs to generate action, learning, and change that is aligned with your authentic self and values. Transform your dreams into reality and invest in yourself by scheduling a discovery session with Dr. Katrina Burrus, MCC to reach your goals. Your host is Dr. Katrina Burrus, MCC, founder and general manager of www.mkbconseil.ch a company specialized in leadership development and executive coaching.
In this weeks episode of The Playful Psychologist, I discuss emotional intelligence and why I believe it is SO important to focus more on emotional intelligence over IQ. Emotional Intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. Having emotional intelligence helps you build stronger relationships and achieve your school/career goals, as well as your personal goals. It can also help you to connect with your feelings, turn intention into action, and make informed decisions in situations. While the world has been focused on academic achievement in childhood, emotional self-regulation has been largely ignored. This is concerning, as current research suggests that emotional intelligence is TWICE as strong as a predictor as IQ for success in later life! What this means is, it's not always the smartest person who is the most successful! Your IQ isn't enough on its own to be successful later in life. Yes, your IQ can help you get into a university course, but it's your emotional intelligence that will help you manage the stress and emotions when facing challenges in your degree. IQ and EQ exist together and are most effective when they build off one another.In this episode, I discuss why emotional intelligence is so important and how it differs from IQ. I also discuss the components that make up emotional intelligence (according to psychologist David Goleman). These include self-management, self-awareness, social awareness, and relationship management. Lastly, this episode will discuss ways you can help your child develop their emotional intelligence based on the book ‘Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child' by Dr John Gottman.
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Intro In today's episode, I am going to shed a little light on emotional intelligence. You might think you don't need to listen to this episode because you know all about it, you might have even read Daniel Goleman's book, Emotional Intelligence. Hold tight! I am here to talk about how meditation can improve your emotional intelligence, why we should always enhance emotional intelligence, and how it can make you a better person and a better leader. Increasing your emotional intelligence is just one more magical gift that meditation can offer. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Hey there, Alexa Z here! Before we jump into the topic of mindfulness, meditation, and emotional intelligence, I would like you to take a moment and check-in with yourself. Ask yourself, what are my emotions and feelings right now. When I work with children, I ask, "What's the weather today?" For example, sometimes, I feel stormy and sunny at the same time, as though my weather is a bit oxymoronic. Hold on to your thoughts on what your emotions are right now, and I will talk about them again a little bit later. If you have read Daniel Goleman's book on emotional intelligence, you may have some knowledge about this topic. I personally like to keep it simple. There are excellent reasons why we need emotional intelligence. Usually, you hear about emotional intelligence with leadership. Everyone should be a good leader, whether you are a leader in a company or your family, or merely making your way through life. Imagine if you could not perceive that an employee or a family member, or your friend, is frustrated or upset. Imagine if you could not tune in to what others are feeling, and you are unable to connect with them. Research calls tuning in to another's emotions as emotional intelligence. Research also indicates that emotional intelligence is what differentiates great leaders from average leaders. In Daniel Goleman's book, he includes a study that involved approximately 200 executives. The study found that their emotional intelligence, also known as EQ or emotional quotient, was twice as relevant to performance compared to their IQ. and their technical abilities. Approximately 70% of the time, people with high emotional intelligence can outperform and attain superior leadership positions at a faster pace than those who have a high IQ and technical abilities. I have always been fascinated by emotional intelligence. I am relatively smart, but I do not have a stellar IQ. There are some aspects I can't change about myself. But, I can improve my emotional intelligence. Not only can I develop my emotional intelligence, but I must continuously work on it. Your IQ stays the same, the way you learned in the past is the same way you learn today; it does not change. Your personality doesn't really change. I always say that I am an introvert hiding in an extroverts body. That won't change. Emotional intelligence continually comes up when I teach meditation. One of the first things I ask is, what are your desires to meditate, and what was one thing that brought you here to learn how to meditate? Very often, the response I hear is to stop being so emotional and to stop being reactive. I also understand their to desire to balance their emotions, logic, and reasoning. At the beginning of this episode, I asked how you were feeling. You likely had to pause for a minute and think about it. It's not easy to tune into your own emotions. Those who can tune in to their feelings are excellent leaders because they also can easily tune into the feelings of those around them. For example, if I am in tune with my emotions and feelings, I can easily tune in to the emotions and feelings of perhaps an employee I am meeting. I can use what I have learned about my employee's feelings and emotions to determine my actions; I want my actions to have the most significant outcome and success for myself and my employees. The act of properly using your emotional brain isn't only applicable to your employees; it applies to your family, your friends, and everyone you come in contact with. Tuning in to your feelings and those around isn't as easy as it sounds. Our emotions are coming at us so fast that it seems that they do not travel through our brain in a logical order. We can fix this! What are emotions? Emotions are a neurological response to very strong stimuli. Your rational brain needs to catch up to your feelings. As your emotions are coming through your brainstem and entering your brain, we need to differentiate and discriminate amongst those feelings before they get to our executive prefrontal cortex, before we react. In meditation, we are helping our brain to become more aware of our feelings and emotions; and also our bodies. The more we meditate, the better we are at discriminating and tuning in to our own and others' emotions resulting in more rational thinking and decision making. There will be fewer days where you say to yourself, "I wish I didn't make that decision based on my crappy mood." You will have more control over your reactions when your employee or your spouse is upset. You will be able to identify that your emotions are high because their emotions are high, which will lead to better decisions and successful outcomes. Years ago, I was teaching a woman who had a 5-year-old child. This woman just wanted to be able to deal with her 5-year-old. In her words, her child was cute, adorable, but crazy. She likely would have preferred for me to teach meditation to her child instead, but I believe mom must learn how to meditate first. I taught her about body scanning, and how our bodies are brilliantly intuned with our emotions. If we are in tune with our bodies, we will be in tune with our feelings. The woman began to notice, in real-time, that when she was feeling wound up, her child would also become wound up. The calmer she grew, her child began to respond and become calm. Simple but profound. When you are meditating, you are training yourself to be more aware of sensations. Noticing when things change, noticing what our triggers are. Emotional intelligence requires clear communication between the rational part of your brain and the emotional center. Think of a seesaw. You have a brain on one side and a heart on the other. You might know someone so smart, but you want to smack them because everything they say comes from a high intellectual level but is missing any trace of emotion. Often, they make decisions based on their highly logical brain but fail because no emotions were considered. Logic, reason, and emotion, how do we get all these parts of the brain working together? Meditation helps you become in touch with your self-awareness in real-time. Self-awareness in real-time and emotional awareness helps your brain get one more second to catch up. In that one second, magic can happen. Your anterior cingulate, the part that helps balance your brain; it lights up when you are meditating. The practice and training are helping balance your brain. In 2017, Daniel Goleman wrote a subsequent book called Altered Traits - Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body. Worth reading! While you are meditating, I would like you to notice sensations. I always say, "get out of the thinking mind and enter the feeling mind" and "be a human being and not a human doing." Start your meditation with a body scan, and think to yourself, "How am I feeling right now?", "What am I feeling?" and "Where am I feeling it?" You might start to think about how long have you felt this way; you might even want to name that emotion. Then think, how is this emotion affecting me right now in my performance in my life, home or work. Devote your meditation to getting in touch with the feeling part of you. Sometimes, suddenly that action of I know what to do comes up. In that action, there is action, not reaction. To summarize; you can change your emotional intelligence, and you can be as great as you want to be. I know you want to be great because I know you want to be in a world where you can perceive your emotions and those around you. You don't live under a rock, we have people around us all the time, and I know that you are a caring and compassionate person. If you only take one thing away from this episode it is that meditation does a lot of great stuff, including helping your emotional intelligence. Try some of this stuff in your meditation. See how it feels. Shoot me a text, DM, email, or a smoke signal, tell me how it's going. That's it for today, Tators! Alexa Z Meditates Website
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Summary: Proverbs 13:20 says, "Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm."Wise friends set us on a trajectory of wise living. Foolish friends predict a foolish future. Who are your friends? Are they wise? Are you a good friend? Do you treasure friendship? This week we look to the greatest friend ever, Jesus Christ, to study what made Him such a great friend, and how, thanks to Jesus, we can all grow to become better friends.Audio Transcript: You're listening to audio from Mosaic Boston Church. If you'd like to check out more resources, learn about Mosaic Boston and our neighborhood churches, or donate to this ministry, please visit mosaicboston.com.Heavenly Father, Holy Son, and Holy Spirit, we thank you, Holy God, that you are a perfect community. In the Holy Trinity, there's a perfect friendship and perhaps that sounds a little strange to us in particular because the word friend has been so hallowed in our culture, and I pray today, Lord, that you remind us that you have created us for friendship, friendship with you and friendship with one another, a friendship that once we're reconciled with Christ, the greatest friend whoever lived, since he gave his life for his friends, once we receive Christ's friendship, we are friends with one another and with you for all of eternity in a place called heaven.Show us today that the foretaste of heaven is true friendship with those who love you. I pray, teach us how to be better friends. Each one of us we long to have more friends and some of us we do struggle with loneliness. I pray today, Holy Spirit, come, give us wisdom and also infuse us with your presence so we know that when we are in you, when we have Christ as our greatest friend, we can be truly satisfied, we can be truly completed, we can be truly content, therefore not look for those things from people. Instead, we can be givers. You gave yourself and we can be givers to other people, which, and now the secret to friendship, like the secret to all blessing is to give rather than receive. We pray Holy Spirit, that you prepare our hearts to hear from you and we pray all this in Christ's holy name. Amen.We're in a sermon series that we are calling Tough and Tender, Developing Resilience for Life. And what we're doing is we're looking at the paradoxical nature of Christ, that he is the lion of Judah and the lamb of God at the same time, and the more that we revere Christ, the more that we worship Christ, walk with him in his presence, the more we begin to look like and resemble him, that we can have the confidence of a lion taking on the challenges of life, or we can have the tenderness of a lamb and continue to be intimate with the people around us and tender with them, and we're looking at the greatest spheres of life, the most consequential areas of life, through those lenses. Today we are looking at friendship.When's the last time that you gave significant thought to the topic of friendship? Friendship is one of the most important aspects of life and the least thought about. We all long to be less lonely, we all long to be more intimate, more well known and loved by other people, and we live in a day and age where we are connected with many, the average person on Facebook has 338 friends, connected with many yet connecting with few.The UK actually has appointed a minister of loneliness to address the problem of social isolation. There's companies started in Japan and now they're popping up all over the West, they're called to rent a friend, where you go and you pay money, rent a friend for a day or longer. In 2018, Cigna ran a study of 20,000 US adults and they found that nearly half feel alone, 46%, or left out, 47%. One in four Americans, 27%, rarely if ever, feel that people understand them.Two in five Americans, 43%, sometimes or always feel that their relationships are meaningful, meaning the rest do not. One in five people rarely or never feel close to another person or have another person that feel that they can truly talk to. Generation Z, that's people of ages 18 through 22, are the loneliest. And the group of people 72 and older, were the least lonely. Another study came out that said, one in five millennials, it's 20%, have no friends.The ancients, Christians who went before us, they understood the importance of friendship in a way that we rarely do. J. C. Ryle, a pastor and theologian, he said, "This world is full of sorrow because it is full of sin. It is a dark place. It is a lonely place. It is a disappointing place. The brightest sun beam is a friend. Friendship halves our troubles and doubles our joys." How many friends do you have? I'm talking about true friends through thick and thin. Friends drop everything to help you in a time of need. Friends, "When are you moving? I'm there. Give me the other end of the couch," friends. That's the true test in Boston.Most of us think we know true friendship, a few of us do, and particularly young people because you go through school, you go through high school, your friends are always there, you didn't have to plan to be there, you're just there together all day, proximity. You go to college, you make new friends, and again, proximity. And then you graduate, you move to a city where you don't know anyone and you're like, "Where's my friends?" And particularly because we live in the West in a very hyper individualistic culture, and particularly because we live in Boston where everyone is crazy busy, "Let's hang out. How's your December or January?" And then also the transients. Like you're here, you make friends, and then move away.C.S. Lewis says, "To the ancients, friendship seemed the happiest and most fully human of all loves; the crown of life and the school of virtue. The modern world, in comparison, ignores it." C.S. Lewis wrote to his lifelong friend, Arthur Greeves, and he said, "Friendship is the greatest of worldly goods. Certainly to me it is the chief happiness of life." In The Weight of Glory he wrote that friendship causes perhaps half of the happiness in the world. This is a person who's very specific about his words, very particular.Augustine said, "Two things that are essential in this world, life and friendship both must be prized highly and not undervalued. They are nature's gifts. We are creatured. We are created by God that we might live, but if we are not, then we are not to live solitarily, we must live, we must have friendship."And then Jonathan Edwards, the greatest theologian of the United States, the one United States produced is, "Friendship is the highest happiness of all moral agents." By the way, not just Christians know this, everybody knows this. Atheist, A. C. Grayling, a modern atheist philosopher, he wrote a book called Friendship, he said, "The highest and finest of all human relationships is arguably friendship." He says that marriage is to be the best of friendships and then parent-child relationships are to develop into friendships.Arthur Brooks wrote a book on happiness called Why Happiness Matters for America. He said, "You need four things for happiness, one, faith. Two, family. Three, meaningful work. Four, friends." Think about the happiest moments of your life, happiest moments ever, who's there? Definitely not alone. And if you are alone, most likely that wasn't in the top five. Why? Because joy is consummated. The pinnacle of joy happens when we can share it. Friendship consummates joy. When we experience something amazing, you can't but share it.I was listening to this guy who for the first time ever experienced ESPN television sports all the time, and he experienced it by himself watching a game and he couldn't believe this comeback and he got up and he started yelling, "Did you see this?" And nobody saw it. And he says, "It's gray, but tinged with sadness." Because joy not shared, is joy unfulfilled. And a joy shared, is a joy multiplied.Now, the big idea of this sermon is not how to help you find your best friends. Perhaps that's what you want. Give me a list where my friends at. The point of this sermon is to help you become a better friend, and I know in my own life and I know just watching other people's lives, better friends are also better at making and keeping friends. We're going to look at John 15:12-17 today, to frame up our time.John 15:12-17, the words of Jesus Christ. "This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. These things I command you, so that you will love one another."This is the reading about holy, inerrant, infallible authoritative word. May he write these eternal truths upon our hearts. Three points in Roman numeral format with seven practical points. It worked last week. Let's do it again. I, Jesus the lion lamb friend. II, friends following Jesus. And III, growing as a lion lamb friend, with seven practical sub-points, treasure friendship. Form concentric circles of friends. Choose friends intentionally. Be a giving friend, a wise friend, a loyal friend, and be a fun friend. Come on, that's free.I, Jesus the lion lamb friend. Do you find it fascinating that Jesus, as he talks about the greatest expression of love, he points to friendship? And this is fascinating because I've always been taught that in Greek there's different levels of love. There's agape love, and there's phileo love, there's love of God, and there's love of friendship, and there's eros, et cetera, but one of the things that Jesus does is he conflates agape love and phileo love, love of a friend and the love of God. The true love is sacrificial love and the highest expression of friendship is a sacrificial love in that friendship.Why? Why does Jesus do this? Because he understands that friendship is at the heart of the universe, because the friendship is at the heart of God, that God is a God of friendship. There's perfect friendship in the Trinity. That God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit are in a perfect community of friendship, of love, and then God creates us in that friendship image.Genesis 1:26, "Then God said, "Let us," plural, "Let us make man in our image, after our likeness."" The next verse. "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God, he created him, male and female, he created them." That it takes two in order to understand God more fully. That out of the outflow of his goodness, God creates us out of the outflow of the love. In this friendship, he creates us to image that friendship. So we are created for friendship, friendship with God, friendship with one another, and we can't experience the fullness of God, we can't experience the fullness of a true life, a good life, a Shalom life, universal flourishing, without deep meaningful friendships that God wove it into the fabric of the world.That's why before the fall, God looks to Adam and says, "It is not good for man to be alone." That's the first malediction. Benediction is, it's good, it's good, it's good, it's good, everything's good, except it's not good for man to be alone. This comes prior to the fall. It takes place before sin enters. So the first problem in human history and the first problem in Holy scripture is not sin, it's solitude. Adam was alone, not because Adam was imperfect, Adam was alone because he was perfect, he couldn't fully enjoy paradise without friends, without community. And it's not until Adam and Eve are created together, until God brings them together, that God looks at everything and says, "It is very good."We need another human being. It's an ancient and primal ache. That's why solitary confinement is a punishment. Social isolation leads to increased anxiety, depression, mental illness unravels our humanity. Friendship is the ultimate end of existence with God and with one another. This is what made the fall so tragic. Adam and Eve alienated themselves from God, they isolated themselves from the greatest friend that there is. Now there's hostility, there's enmity, between us and God, and we see glimpses of God beginning to reconcile humanity to himself.He goes to Enoch and says, "Enoch walked with God." It's the Hebrew word, halak. That they walked in a way that friends walk with another. Abraham was explicitly called a friend of God. God calls Abraham explicitly, my friend. Moses says spoke with God face to face as a man speaks with a friend. God pursues Israel, cares for them, provides for them, as he does for a friend. Isaiah 41:8, "But you, Israel, my servant, Jacob, whom I have chosen the offspring of Abraham, my friend." And as the storyline of scripture progresses we see Israel spiraling downward and they fundamentally reject God, his presence, his friendship, and one another as true friends.The Old Testament ends with a cry, a plea, for someone to come and restore humanity's relationship with God. Enter Jesus Christ. Fully God, fully man, lives the perfect life. He's fully God, does he need anyone? He's got Trinity, but he's fully man, and he needs friendship. And the same way the first Adam needed friendship, the second Adam, Jesus Christ, needed friendship as well. He comes and he spends time with people, Matthew 11:19, so much so that Jesus's enemies throws spurns and derogatory term at him.It says, "The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, "Look at him, a glutton and a drunkard," he was never a glutton or a drunkard, "A friend of tax collectors and sinners."" He's a friend, yet wisdom is justified by her deeds. Jesus is a friend. How does that sound to you? How does it sound that Jesus offers his friendship to you? There's two things that come immediately to mind, and this is when I was prepping the sermon. That one is Buddy Jesus, where it's Jesus with the thumbs up, and then there's like '80 song on YouTube, Jesus is a Friend of Mine, I can't get that out of my head, Jesus is my friend. It's so bad.For some of us it's hard to understand that the God of the universe offers his friendship to us that we can call God friend. It seems even irreverent, and I would submit to you partially that's the case because of what we have done in the English language with the word friend. We have hallowed it out probably partially because it's so hard to make friends, so now everyone we meet is a friend. Anyone who's nice to us is a friend. Any acquaintance, any contact we ever made is a friend.We've stretched the words so broadly semantically that it's ambiguous at best, what do we mean? So what does it mean that God is my friend? Is God my best friend? Is God an acquaintance? Is God just someone that I pay homage to once in a while? Well, Jesus comes in and says, "No. Friend is the person with whom your soul is bound. That's who a friend is. Your souls are intertwined." God is giving us this level of intimacy to the Holy Trinity. We can come to him because of the throne of grace. So God wants us to have friendship, friendship with him, friendship with other people. What gets in the way? It's our culture. It's our sin. Sin makes us naturally antisocial. Sin makes us bend in on ourselves, drives to isolation. And God is a God of friendship, so the more that we seek friendship, the more that we become like God. The more that we seek isolation, the less we become like God.And Jesus was a man of friendship. He came, he didn't live alone. He comes to his disciples, the very first thing that he says is, "Follow me." And that imagery he borrows that from the Old Testament, it's the halak imagery. It's Adam walking together with God in the garden. It's Enoch walking with God. It's Noah walking with God. It's Moses, Abraham walking with God. Jesus comes and he tells his disciples, "Follow me." Now he spends three years with his disciples, his best friends, walking dusty roads together, fishing, talking, feasting. There's a meme going on recently where it said the most underrated of all Jesus's miracles was the fact that he had 12 friends in his 30s. Something to it. Why is that even a meme today? Because honestly, you get to your 30s and you're like, "There's nobody here."Jesus had friends. He invested in friendships. He invested in different concentric circles of friends, we'll talk about that. He grieved over the death of Lazarus. The scripture said, "His friend." In his most distressing moment, Jesus in anguish in Garden Gethsemane wants his close friends there and he's disappointed when they're not. So I start here showing you what friendship is in terms of the gospel. Jesus says that the greatest love, the essence of love, is someone giving themselves for their friends. Meaning that the secret to friendship, the same secret as a secret to all blessing, it's more blessed to give than to receive, it's sacrifice. And I say that because we're so busy, "I don't have time for friends. I have schoolwork to do, and then I have a job to go to, and then I need promotion to pay off my loans, and then I have kids. I definitely don't have time for friends," it goes on and on and on. But we always make time for what we treasure, for what we value.Jesus valued friendship, and he offers friendship to us, not just as equals, he doesn't throw off his crown and say, "I'm no longer king," no, this is the king of the universe welcoming you into his presence as our Lord, our King, our truest friend, who knows us fully and loves us completely. That's what makes Jesus such a good friend. That with Christ we are never alone and we are never unknown. Jesus Christ welcomes us into the heart of God through sacrifice.John 15:15, "No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you." By the way, this is what makes Christianity so utterly unique. There's no other faith that comes even close, and Jesus speaks these words on the eve of his death, meaning that the cross is not just the greatest demonstration of love, it's the greatest cosmic act of friendship.John 5:13, "Greater love has no one than this that someone laid down his life for his friends." Friendship is about sacrifice because love is about sacrifice, because you love your friends who are willing to sacrifice. The more time you spend with Christ, the more you understand how much he loves you, the more you find contentment in him, satisfaction in him. He satisfies your soul, he completes you. Therefore, now you are recharged, you are encouraged, you are filled with the Holy Spirit, now you can go and be a blessing to your friends, be an encouragement to your friends, be what Christ is to you.So the cross is a heroic act of friendship because on the cross Jesus gets what we deserve. He gets the opposite of what he deserves so that we don't get what we deserve. What do I mean? I mean that Jesus Christ on the cross bears the penalty for our sin, which is hell. Jesus bears the flames of hell upon himself on the cross. You're like, "I didn't see any flames, that's not in the text," he cries out, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" Meaning he bears abject loneliness, the darkness of abject loneliness on the cross when God the Father and the Holy Spirit turn from God the Son because God the Son took upon himself the sin of the world, the wrath of God upon the sin of the world.When you realize how much Jesus sacrificed in order to welcome you in to friendship with God, that right there makes Jesus your greatest friend, which now begins to give you the resources to be a better friend. Puritan Walter Marshall said, "Justification," we talked about that last week, "Is God's way of taking you into friendship with himself." So seeing the way that Jesus treasured friendship, seeing the way that Jesus sacrificed for friendship, seeing the way that Jesus was perfectly humble and confident at the same time humble, why? Because he doesn't look down on his disciples and say, "You're beneath me, we're not going to be friends." He doesn't say, "Your IQ isn't high enough to be my friend. Your education isn't high enough to be my friend. You don't live in the same neighborhood that I live in, we can't be friends." He doesn't look at the disciples and say, "You can't give me anything. I can't benefit from you." He doesn't do that. He comes and utter humility and he says, "I can serve you," and that's the first step to the friendship and yet he's incredibly confident, humility and confident, he knows who he is.He knows that he's the son of God and he gives us both humility, "You're sinners saved by grace," and he gives us the confidence, "I was willing to save you," and that right there, that formula of humble and confident lion and lamb and now gives us the recipe for being great friends. So vertical friendship with Christ transforms our horizontal friendships, and that brings us to point two, friendship following Jesus.The disciples were such great friends. The early church was an outflow of that love between friends. The church was a community of friends on mission. The New Testament repeatedly portrays the church, not just the place to go to, but a community that you belong to. Acts 4:32, "The full number of those who believed were of one heart and one soul and no one said that any of the things that belonged to him was his own, but they had everything in common." It's the two souls coming together, it's multiple souls coming together, in love and friendship. Practice as normal across ethnic socioeconomic divides.Peter and John are flogged and imprisoned. Once they're let out, scripture doesn't say that they went back to the Christians, says that they went to their friends, Acts 4:23, B. The apostle John refers to the local church as the friends, in third, John 15. Why? What united these people? They had nothing in common prior to Christ. What united them was the love of Christ and the mission that God had given them. What do I mean? What I mean is that friends always have something to do together. If you think of your best friends, like there's always some activity, there's always something.There's so many people in New England today bemoaning the day that Tom Brady is going to retire because then it's like, "What is left? There's nothing else to unite any of us just other than that we live in New England." It's sports, movies, literature, running, working out, friendship is always about something and the more important that something, the deeper those relationships, the more significant those relationships. Well, what is the most consequential thing ever? It's eternity. It's an eternal God and it's eternal souls, things that will never change, and it's Christians who've been united to eternal God, reconciled with him, will spend eternity with him, and now we're on mission for as long as we live to help others who are not yet reconciled with Jesus, who still are at enmity with God, hostility with God, to help them meet Jesus, have their sins forgiven, accept the friendship of God, and be welcomed into eternal life.All of my best friends, I look back in my, all of my best friends, people with whom I've connected on a soul level, they've all loved Jesus, all have followed Jesus, and all care about the mission of God. All of my best friends. And all of the deepest relationships I've ever formed were with people with whom I was on mission together wherever I lived, because those things don't change. If you look at a relationship that's based around sports, based around education, based upon proximity, where you live, your roommates, all of those things change and after those things are removed, you're like, "What do we even have in common?"If your relationship is built on something eternal, that thing will never be removed. I have friends that I've been on mission with in college and after college in D.C. and down North Carolina when I was in seminary, and years go by, and then we see one another it's as if nothing's changed because nothing truly important has changed. We still have Christ, we still have the Holy Spirit, we're still on mission with God.By the way, dating, this is my test when I met my wife. I wanted to know, "Do you love Jesus? Are you a member of a church? Very important. Do you care about the mission of God?" Because I knew like I want to marry a true Christian, and true Christians really care about the mission of God. Because when you've been found by Jesus, you want to give your life to help those who are lost find Jesus. In Matthew 4:19, Jesus says, "Follow me," to the disciples, "And I will make you fishers of men."I love that he uses that analogy because one of the greatest bonding activities is fishing. You're together, throwing the rod and whatever, I don't really fish very often. This is all hypothetical. I live in Boston. I want to get into fishing, but apparently it's one of the greatest thing to bond people, and Jesus uses that imagery to talk about the mission of God, "Follow me, I'll make you fishers of men." What is it? Catching them, releasing people from the entanglement of sin.Matthew 28:18-20, the Great Commission, "Jesus said to them, "All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go therefore and make disciples, go together make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you, and behold I am with you always to the end of the age."" This is the mission that God's... This is really important. At Mosaic, we care about community, not community for community's sake, not unity for unity's sake. The greatest unity, the greatest community, is always a byproduct of serving the Lord together, being on mission with the Lord.Just a word here about being on mission in a place like Boston where it's so transient, where people come and people go. I've been here for a decade, hundreds of people, thousands of people, come and go. What really allows me to keep my heart open to people is the fact that eternity is real, and if I form a relationship with another believer with another Christian here on earth, that eternity is for ever. We're going to be friends for ever. And by the way, that love, that friendship, is one of the greatest apologetics to an unbelieving world.John 13:34-35, "A new command I give you, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples if you have love for one another." It's really shocking to people when they walk in and they experience love in the community, they experience love amongst friends who are together because of Jesus. Like what unites you guys? It's Jesus Christ, and that's apologetic.And point three is, III, growing as a lion lamb friend, Jesus was incredibly loyal, tenaciously loyal. Gave everything for his friends as a lion, but incredibly intimate. You see him with the disciples in the Last Supper, they're embracing one another, both lion and lamb. We can grow in this paradoxical nature of friendship through the following seven points.First is, treasure friendship. Why did Jesus treasure friendship? Is friendship a luxury or a necessity? And I would argue, it's a necessity, and Jesus knew that as a human he knew that he needed friends. Imagine life without friends. It's not just depressing, it's also dangerous. When we come unglued socially, we begin to unravel emotionally, psychologically, and physically. US Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, he says the most common illness that he came across in his medical practice wasn't cancer or heart disease, it was loneliness.A Judith Shulevitz says loneliness poses a particular threat to the very old, quickening the rate at which their faculties decline, cutting their lives shorter. We need friends. Do you treasure friendship? Proverbs 18:24, "A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." Companions meaning many acquaintances, many people with whom you're connected but don't really know you. There's no one really in the circle of intimacy. And some of us, I like this, we have a lot of companions. We keep them at arms length, "I'm too busy for friends. I don't have time to cultivate friendship between work, family, and just living in the city. I don't even have time for sleep, not even mentioning friendship." Extroverts make fast friends really quick, but usually they stay at the surface. And this vision of treasuring friendship, pushes us deeper, introverts, like we need to recharge, us, introverts, together. I too am one. Sunday is really difficult for me. It is. This just shows you how much I love you guys.We need time to recharge, but some batteries if left plugged into the side like the wall too long, they lose their capacity to hold a charge. So we get recharged in order to re-engage. Do we treasure friendship? We always make time for what we value. John 15:12-13 Jesus said, "This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this that someone laid down his life for his friends." According to Jesus, no one exceeds... No love exceeds friendship love, and we need to make time for that.Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse and she serve in hospices and she wrote down people's epiphanies at the end of their life and what they talked about, what they asked for, in this book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, which is often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks, and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years and there were many deep regrets about not having friendships the time, not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.Saint Paul at the end of his life writes his last epistle, 2 Timothy, and he says in verse nine of chapter four, "Do your best to come to me soon," talking to Timothy, and he's not a writer that repeats himself. In verse 21 he says again, "Do your best to come to me before winter." If this were your final week, who are the three friends you would like to see? Specific names. Now, what are the concrete steps that you want to take to deepen those relations? Do they even know that? Do they even know that they're in that circle?Two is, form concentric circles of friends. By concentric circles, I mean like small circle and then a widening circle and then a widening... You understand concentric circles? Yeah, you're all wicked smart. You know, I should've showed an image. Just imagine the line in the land, it's one circle, and then... Okay. Here's what I mean by concentric circles. The closer you are to the middle, the greater level of intimacy, but it's also smaller. The more it widens, less intimacy, wider, broader, more people included.So at the very center for every believer, it's got to be you and Christ, you and God, nobody knows you like Christ knows you, nobody loves you like Christ knows... He knows all of your thoughts before you even think. He knows everything, so that's Christ. Then that's your closest friends. And for the believer, for the Christian, those people have to be Christians. If you are truly going to be intimate with someone, if you're going to be best friends, lifelong friends, covenant friends, it's got to be a person who understands your greatest relationship, your deepest relationship, which is with the God of the universe. They will never get you. They will never understand you in the same way that Christians will understand you.And by the way, this is just practically in this Bible verse where practically this is why Christians shouldn't date unbelievers and Christians shouldn't seek to pursue marriage with unbelievers. Because either that person will draw you out of the most intimate circle or they'll be on the outside looking in and you'll never have the same intimacy with them. So for marriage, from a Christian perspective, you're best friends with someone else who knows your soul in the same way that Christ does or similarly like begins to understand you in the same way that Christ does.A Song of Solomon 5:16, "His mouth is most sweet and he is altogether desirable. This is my beloved, this is my friend." Scripture talks about marriage as the union of two souls and they're best friends. My wife and I, we are best friends, and I said that in the first sermon and I have all these stories. I can actually start sharing now. We connect on a level. We don't even have to talk. This is one of my favorite things about my wife. I come home, I'm worded out, she looks at me, there's like no words, zero words. We just connect just like two friends, two best friends, and what really connects us is our love for the Lord and our mission together.But we also need to make space in our lives and time for friends that enrich our lives, and then when we come together, there's a greater enrichment. So Jesus had these concentric circles. So Luke 6:12-16, there's a list of his disciples, I won't read it, but it's right there. He's got 12 disciples. These are his 12 best friends. And Luke 10:1, it says that there's 72 others that he sends out. So he's got another concentric circle that's a lot broader, a lot wider. Later on in the book of Acts, it says, "120 gathered together." So he had another concentric circle. 1 Corinthians 15, "A broader circle yet of those who saw the resurrected Christ."However, he had a circle within the 12. This is in Matthew 17:1-2, "After six days, Jesus took with him Peter and James and John his brother, and led them up a high mountain by themselves, and he was transfigured before them, and his face shone like the sun and his clothes became white as light." So he had three closer friends to whom he revealed more of himself because of this intimacy. So he had the disciples friends. Then he had his best friends, Peter, James and John. How do we know that they were his best friends? Partially from this text, partially because he gave them nicknames. You don't just give random people nicknames, you've got to feel close enough to look at a guy and be like, "Your name is Simon? No, Simon. We'll start calling you the rock. Why are you going to start calling me the rock? Because you're dumb as a rock, Peter. I love you, but you're the rock. You're Peter."And then he looks at James and John and he's like, "You guys have anger issues. I'm going to start calling you sons of thunder. Stop trying to call down fire from heaven. I can do that, but am I going to do that because I love those people too." But those are his best what brings these people in with whom he shares more of his life. Therefore, do not feel bad that you're not at the same level of intimacy with everybody, Jesus wasn't. So don't feel bad about having a limited number of deep relationships. You've got your best friends then you've got your close friends, your casual friends, your acquaintances, fewer people, as you move to the center.One great example is King David. King David had lots of relationships. He had relationship with his brothers, he had relationships in the Saul's Court, but his greatest friends, best friend, was Jonathan, the son of Saul. In 1 Samuel 18:1 says, "The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David." So friendships, sometimes you don't even choose your friends, it's as if like your souls are just bonded, you weren't looking for one another. It's like C. S. Lewis says, "I thought I was the only one in the world." Oh, you too. Like you connect on the soul level that you didn't even know could exist. It says in 1 Samuel 19:1, that David delighted much in Jonathan and vice versa.A crucial moment of testing, Jonathan made David swear again by his love for him, for he loved him as he loved his own soul. So when Saul forces David away, Jonathan, it says, they embraced, they cried, and they kissed on the cheek. When Jonathan dies in battle, David was so crushed in spirit. He says this in 2 Samuel 1:26, "I am distressed for you, my brother Jonathan. Very pleasant have you been to me. Your love to me was extraordinary surpassing the love of women." Seemingly strange. You read that and you're like, "What is going on?" But then you read the scripture talking about how intimate of friendship that Christians had with one another.In Acts 20:37, Saint Paul, the great Saint Paul, the most cerebral person who have ever... He wrote the book of Romans. It says that there was weeping on the part of all, they embraced Paul and kissed him. Incredible affection. To respond to why this seems so strange to us, why it makes us feel so uncomfortable, C. S. Lewis in The Four Loves, he says, "On a broad historical view, it is of course not the demonstrative gestures of friendship among our ancestors, but the absence of such gestures in our own society, that calls for some special explanation." He's saying, don't ask why they're so expressive with their love, ask why we aren't and why it makes us feel so uncomfortable. And I'll tell why.Because we live in a culture where we understand lust without love. It's very difficult for us to understand expressive affectionate love without lust, and that should not be. It should not make us squirm that two friends actually express their love for one another. Jesus did.Point three is choose friends intentionally. First we make friends and then friends begin to make us. They shape our characters, they shape our personalities. They reveal the hidden parts of us. That's why when you have a friend who passes, it's as if you lose a part of yourself. Proverbs 13:20, talks about walking with the wise, "Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, the companion of fools suffers harm." Interesting. It's not just reading wisdom literature that makes us wise, is living to the walking together that sets the trajectory of our lives. Why? It's because of the power of affection informing us that we do what we love and we begin to emulate or copy those whom we love.Proverbs 22:24-25, says, "Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and untangle yourself in a snare." It's the power of affection. So be careful whom you let into the inner circle of intimacy. We can have like lots of people in the circle of care, we have to care for one another and care for our neighbors, not as many in the circle of influence, be careful who we... But in the circle of intimacy, be careful who we let in there, and make sure it's a person that you want to resemble.Here just a word about friendship with unbelievers. Can we have as Christians friendship with unbelievers? Yes, of course. Not in the inner circle of intimacy, but definitely in the circle of influence and care. Jesus was called a friend of sinners. He influenced them more with his love than they influenced him with was sin and sinful past. James 4:4-5, says, "Be careful you adulterous people. Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God?" Meaning friendship with the sinful worldview, the sinful systems of the world. "Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the scripture says, "He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us?"" So we can be friends with unbelievers without being friends with the world just like Jesus was.Four is be a giving friend. We've mentioned this already, but great friends give. They give of themselves, they give of their affection, they give of their attention, they give of their worth, they give of their finances. Luke 15, talks about make friends with unrighteous. Means talking about finances, and the secrets of friendship is the secret to blessing, to give is more blessed than to receive. To share time together. 2 John 12, "Ihough I have much to write to you, I would rather not use paper and ink. Instead, I hope to come to you and talk face to face that our joy may be complete."The people who are closest in your life, spend time together in one another's presence. Not just group chats, not just memes and gifs, all wonderful, spend time together. Block off time together, eat together. Great friendships are... Friends and food they just go together. There's something about it, something Biblical there. Be generous. The best friends that I ever had have always been generous friends. Strengthen long-time friendships. You make friendships, keep in touch with one another. Make friends where you live. Don't just move to a new place and say, "Oh, I miss all my friend," make friends where you live. Invest in new friendships.When you move to that place, it hurt to leave your friends. Invest so deeply here that while you're here, you're invested, and when you do move, you feel the same way, but you might not have to move. You might want to stay here forever because you actually factor in how enriching your friends are, and I know like family pulls away and finances and jobs and things like that, but shouldn't friends at least be a factor in the decision of should I move? But parents do this all the time. "I'm not going to move my kids out of a school because why? They're going to miss their friends." If this is important, why isn't as important to us? What do we value more? What do we treasure more? And I say that just out of a place of my own personal bitterness, all my friends moved away, but we've got new friends, and you're here. Let's be friends. Okay, move on.C. S. Lewis, Collected Letters, "If I had to give a piece of advice to a young man about a place to live, I think I should say, sacrifice almost everything to live where you can, be near your friends." I know I'm very fortunate in that respect. Practically in terms of giving, be a radiator, not a drain, and this is very important categories. There's some people that you hang out with and they're radiators. They just radiate heat and encouragement and affirmation, you love spending time with them and you feel so good after spending time with them. And some people, they just drain the life out of you and you're like, "I need a vacation after meeting with this person." Don't be that person.And it works itself out in all kinds of ways like keep an eye, like be attentive to how much you say when you meet and how much the other person says. Be a good listener. Interact with what they say. Be attentive to their needs. Saint Paul talked about friends who refreshes soul. Proverbs 12:25, talks about anxiety in a man's heart weighs them down, but a good word makes him glad. Be generous with words of affirmation and encouragement. Proverbs 18:21, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue and those who love it will eat its fruits." Saint Paul at the end of Romans, he greets 28 people by name and just encourages them. Encourages them for their service to the Lord. Romans 12:10, "Love one another, brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor."Five, be a wise friend. Be a friend that speaks truth and love, tough and tender, with others. Proverbs 27:5-6, "Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend, profuse are the kisses of an enemy." Open rebuke is better than hidden love, what does he mean? When you see a friend on a path of holy folly doing something that's going to lead to their pain and you hide a rebuke, why are you doing that? Because you are treasuring something more than the best for that person. You're actually potentially being selfish. "Oh, it's just uncomfortable to... I shouldn't meddle." Or you're afraid of losing this person's affection or friendship, therefore you don't want to bring up a hard conversation. But true friends are willing to have that hard conversation, because you want to do what's best for your friend. It takes courage, it takes candor, and it takes love.Proverbs 27:17, "Iron sharpens iron as one man sharpens another," so learn to go deep where you are sharpening one another. Proverbs 27:9, "Oil and perfume make the heart glad and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel." When you need counsel, where do you go? Sometimes we do need therapy and sometimes we do need counseling, but in my experience, the best counsel I've ever received from anyone, it's a person that loves me, knows me, has been through the highs and lows of joy and sorrow of my life, is actually invested in this decision that I'm making because they will be with me and seeing this decision come to fruition. Rejoice with the rejoicing, weep with the weeping, this takes emotional intelligence. Friends ease our sorrows through presence and words.Empathy. True friends feel our pain. They're there when we need them, attentive to our needs to our emotions. Provers 27:14, "Whoever blesses his neighbor," I'm talking about... This is just emotional intelligence, this is being a wise friend. "Whoever," one of my favorite verses I love, "Whoever blesses his neighbor with a loud voice rising early in the morning, will be counted as cursing." "God bless you," at 5:00 AM. No, no. By the way, if you want to go into business with me, we're going to start coffee cups with this Bible verse on it. No talking before coffee. But what this verse gets at is just common sense when it comes to friendship. That's what I mean by a wise friend. Common sense. You know the right time, the right place to come to visit. You know about just timing. You know about closeness. You know how to engage a person in a way that you connect. You know how to have a conversation where you look a person in the eyes and you listen, you respond, you're not a close-talker, nobody likes that in the United States.There's an aroma of the gospel around you, about you, scripture says, but there are also aroma of like, "You smell nice. We'd like to be around people that smell nice." This is important. It's really important. Hygiene is important. Like being a person that smells nice is crucial. Crucial, write that down. It's in the Bible. Careful of friendship fatigue, important. Friendship fatigue. Provers 25:17, "Let your foot be seldom in your neighbor's house, lest he have his fill of you and hate you." Friendship fatigue. Like no, don't overstay your welcome. Max, maximum, two hours. Maximum. That's like we love each other and we're hanging out, max two hours. Hour and a half, hour, an hour and a half, that's the sweet spot.Don't go to someone's house, if they invite you, don't go with empty hands. Just don't do it. Just stop somewhere, grab something, a little something, makes everything better. Proverbs 12:18, "There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." So don't provoke people, know what to say, when to say, how to say. Be a loyal friend.Point six, openness, trust, transparency. Talking openly about how you feel, openly about things that matter, is more important than talking often, and true friends walk in the light together. So if you sin against a friend, go and ask for forgiveness. If your friend sins against you, tell them, "You hurt me. What you're doing like your reaction, actually cause me a lot of pain." And this is what it means to walk in the light. John 1:7, "But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanseth us from all sin," and trust of course. A friendship is built on trust. Distrust always erodes friendship. And what leads to distress, gossip. When what you share with a friend, you start hearing from other people.Proverbs 16:28, "A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends." Proverbs 17:9, "Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends." And then constancy, like you're together through thick and thin. Proverbs 17:17, "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity." Don't be a consumer friend, be a covenantal friend. Here's what I mean. There's people in our lives where you view them in terms of using instead of loving. It's a very consumeristic mentality. Provers 19:4, "Wealth brings many friends, but a poor man is deserted by his friend." Many seek the favor of a generous man and everyone's a friend to a man who gives gifts. Obviously that's not true friendship, it's consumeristic, it's, "What can I get from this person?" Therefore, I'll invest in true friend. Like you're together through thick and thin, useful or not. I'm going to love you, serve you, and give.And finally, this is really important, be a fun friend. Be someone people want to hang out with. People, "Should we invite that person?" "Yeah, definitely. That person's always fun." Jesus did not get invited to party after party after party because he was boring. No, the Pharisees were like, "You're always at a party," and they call him a glutton and a drunkard. Was he a glutton and a drunkard? No, of course not, but every time they saw him, he's with his posse rolling in with his entourage to a party, and he's got a lamb chop in one hand and a glass of wine in the other.Jesus was a lot of fun to be around. How do I know? Because Jesus was the wisest man who ever lived. Here's my basic theology of Jesus was a lot of fun. Wisest man that ever lived, Solomon, the second wisest person to have ever lived, said that there are appropriate emotions for appropriate times and he says, "There's a time to plant, a time to reap, a time to build, a time to tear down, a time to dance, a time to sing, and a time to laugh." Jesus was the wisest person ever, and he knew this is a time to dance. He goes to a wedding at Canaan in Galilee, you cannot have 180 gallons of wine with no dancing, you just can't do that. It's impossible. A time to dance, a time to sing, and a time to laugh.I'll close with this. C. S. Lewis knew about friendship, about deep friendship, and in The Four Loves he describes just spending time with some of his best friends like this. "Those are the golden sessions, when our slippers are on, our feet spread out toward the blaze of the fireplace, and our drinks are at our elbows. When the whole world, and something beyond the world, opens itself to our minds as we talk, the same time an affection has mellowed by the years enfolds us. Life, natural life, has no better gift to give."Let's pray, and the last points are up just in case you missed them. Lord, we thank you that you are the greatest friend, and I pray, Lord, continue to make us better friends to one another. And as our friendship and our love deepens, I pray, Lord, that many who are not yet Christians see that and are just blown away by this gospel-centered love that you have given us and they too become Christians, and I pray all this in Jesus' name. Amen.
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Your IQ, your intellect and your hard skills get you in the door with clients and prospects. Keeping in tune with your clients over time is another task in itself, requiring you to leverage your emotional acumen to maintain success. We’re joined by Colleen Stanley, President of SalesLeadership, Inc. and author of Emotional Intelligence For Sales Success, to discuss how you can bolster your soft skills, build your emotional intelligence and translate it into real results for your practice. For full show notes and links mentioned in this episode, visit https://www.bmogam.com/us-en/advisors/news-and-insights/how-a-high-eq-can-lead-to-sales-success/.
Your IQ doesn't matter as much as your EQ does. My guest Brandon Burho shares the top ingredients to relationships and how authenticity is at the core and why emotional intelligence is the new way to succeed. For more information on Brandon follow him at https://www.instagram.com/brandon.burho/.
Topic - Teen's Fluctuating IQ Your IQ was thought to be stable throughout your life, but this isn't true. IQ test results change in response to brain growth, emotional health, education and experiences. Changes in the grey matter areas of the brain that are related to muscle control, seeing and hearing, memory, emotions, speech, decision making, and self-control are responsible for the rise and fall of IQs in teenagers. The teen brain undergoes many changes just like the more observable physical changes. It actually kills off parts of itself to stream line performance. Because the changes occur from the back of the brain to the front, the regulating part is the last to mature resulting in impulsivity. Teenagers rely heavily on the emotional part of the brain, to make decisions…uh oh. There's a lot going on in there, no wonder IQ test results change! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/drclaudia/message
Do you know your IQ (your real IQ, not one you got from a Facebook quiz). Well, even if you have a high IQ, in and of itself, that isn’t a key to success. Your IQ might matter but your EQ (Emotional Quotient) definitely does. How you manage your emotions matters. Your ability to correctly read the emotions of others matters.Joie Seldon helps professional and accomplished women rid themselves of limiting beliefs and past trauma. Listen in and find out how she does that, and what exactly is your EQ all about.Joie is also a great example of what a Get It Together Girl is all about. She knows a bit about making her second act having got married, gotten both her Bachelors and Masters degrees and starting a coaching career … all after the age of 40!Website: http://joieseldon.com/Keep listening after the interview with Joie to hear why love is more than a feeling, love is an action word. Karyn discusses a video she found on Facebook that is the embodiment of love in action. Several boys come to the aid of an befriend a fellow classmate who had been bullied because of this learning disability. What they did for this boy was an incredible act of compassion and love. However, it only takes one look at the smiles on the faces of the boys that offered their help to see that they gained as much, if not more than they gave.Check it out here: http://www.dailyliked.net/special-needs-child-bullied/
Do you know your IQ (your real IQ, not one you got from a Facebook quiz). Well, even if you have a high IQ, in and of itself, that isn’t a key to success. Your IQ might matter but your EQ (Emotional Quotient) definitely does. How you manage your emotions matters. Your ability to correctly read the emotions of others matters.Joie Seldon helps professional and accomplished women rid themselves of limiting beliefs and past trauma. Listen in and find out how she does that, and what exactly is your EQ all about.Joie is also a great example of what a Get It Together Girl is all about. She knows a bit about making her second act having got married, gotten both her Bachelors and Masters degrees and starting a coaching career … all after the age of 40!Website: http://joieseldon.com/Keep listening after the interview with Joie to hear why love is more than a feeling, love is an action word. Karyn discusses a video she found on Facebook that is the embodiment of love in action. Several boys come to the aid of an befriend a fellow classmate who had been bullied because of this learning disability. What they did for this boy was an incredible act of compassion and love. However, it only takes one look at the smiles on the faces of the boys that offered their help to see that they gained as much, if not more than they gave.Check it out here: http://www.dailyliked.net/special-needs-child-bullied/
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Your EQ, or emotional quotient is very different from your IQ. It’s a way to measure your level emotional intelligence. Think about all of the characteristics of a phenomenal friend, leader, or confidant, then think about the traits of a horrible one. What you’ll probably realize is none of their characteristics has anything to do with the person’s intelligence, but rather their emotional intelligence. Your IQ is important because it’s the reason we get into school, finish school, get a job, etc. But it’s your emotional intelligence that is more likely to dictate your success than any other factor. Your EQ is your ability to understand your strengths, weaknesses, triggers, and blind spots, and be able to empathize with others and understand their emotional state. More importantly, it’s the ability to use that information to guide the way you act and behave.
Do you know your EQ score? EQ stands for emotional intelligence quotient. Your EQ score tells us about your ability to deal effectively with others. Your EQ can predict your success on the job, your success in interpersonal relationships and your overall success in life. Your IQ may get you there but your EQ can keep you there. Dr. Cook will interview Ms. Patricia Rose who has a long career in the mental health field where she works with individuals, families and groups teaching them interpersonal skills. Listen in and assess your EQ. Dial 646-929-0630. Hit "1" on your phone to comment or ask a question.
Get smarter at any age! If you've ever wanted to have a sharper mind with greater focus, better memory, more patient, creativity and resilience, then this interview with Dr. Michael Merzenich, the “father of brain plasticity” is for you! Learn how to exercise your mind and get it sharper than ever. Learn how to keep your mind strong into your golden years, and for seniors, how you can roll back the clock, and get a smarter brain at any age. And for parents, key tips to help your kids grow up smarter, and more engaged than ever! Dr. Michael Merzenich is the pioneer in brain plasticity, or the ability to change the brain. According to him, the brain is not fixed as we've been taught, but can work better if we work on it. And not just a little, but huge changes. This means you could change careers, become an entrepreneur, or a singer, or do something completely outside your comfort zone and brain-power if you want. You can change your mind to be able to do anything. Your IQ is not fixed. Your memory is not fixed. And you do not need to lose brain cells or get fuzzy-brained as you age. As he says “The brain is plastic till you die. You cannot kill it until you die. It is the greatest trick. We all have the capacity to be greater and get stronger.” In this interview he suggests ways to make your brain stronger. It's an especially important interview for seniors, for parents, kids, and for returning veterans. For parents he discusses ways to increase children's intelligence, and the dangers, and benefits of their technology. For seniors, he discusses ways to prevent trips, falls, hip fractures, and other potentially life-threatening injuries, through specific brain strategies. And for all of us, he shows how we can enrich our lives by having sharper, more resilient, and smarter minds. Deepak Chopra often talks about strengthening your brain. Wayne Dyer's discussed it. Tony Robbins talks about NLP. And Dr. Michael Merzenich helps you life muscles with the mind, simply and easily, to give you the super-powered brain you always wished you had! Lastly, as someone who has met the Dalai Lama several times, Dr. Merzenich discusses ways we can use our minds to increase compassion, kindness, happiness, and joy. These are things we could all use more of!!! Dr. Michael Merzenich – Father of Brain Plasticity Shares How to Get Smarter, More Focused, Boost Our Kids IQ's & Heal the Brain! Important lessons for children, parents, seniors, veterans, entrepreneurs & all of us! Health | Self-Help | Inspire For More Info Visit: www.InspireNationShow.com
The Handsome One answers a question posed on social media, Do Raw’s dropping TV ratings matter? And in the process it kicks off a discussion that reveals Vince McMahon to not be quite as out of touch as he’s so often accused of being by today’s “smart” fans. Your IQ will DEFINITELY be raised as … Continue reading Handsome Dan’s Final Say Ep. 21 “Do Raw’s Ratings Matter?” →
The Handsome One answers a question posed on social media, Do Raw’s dropping TV ratings matter? And in the process it kicks off a discussion that reveals Vince McMahon to not be quite as out of touch as he’s so often accused of being by today’s “smart” fans. Your IQ will DEFINITELY be raised as … Continue reading Handsome Dan’s Final Say Ep. 21 “Do Raw’s Ratings Matter?” →
Get smarter at any age! If you've ever wanted to have a sharper mind with greater focus, better memory, more patient, creativity and resilience, then this interview with Dr. Michael Merzenich, the “father of brain plasticity” is for you! Learn how to exercise your mind and get it sharper than ever. Learn how to keep your mind strong into your golden years, and for seniors, how you can roll back the clock, and get a smarter brain at any age. And for parents, key tips to help your kids grow up smarter, and more engaged than ever! Dr. Michael Merzenich is the pioneer in brain plasticity, or the ability to change the brain. According to him, the brain is not fixed as we've been taught, but can work better if we work on it. And not just a little, but huge changes. This means you could change careers, become an entrepreneur, or a singer, or do something completely outside your comfort zone and brain-power if you want. You can change your mind to be able to do anything. Your IQ is not fixed. Your memory is not fixed. And you do not need to lose brain cells or get fuzzy-brained as you age. As he says “The brain is plastic till you die. You cannot kill it until you die. It is the greatest trick. We all have the capacity to be greater and get stronger.” In this interview he suggests ways to make your brain stronger. It's an especially important interview for seniors, for parents, kids, and for returning veterans. For parents he discusses ways to increase children's intelligence, and the dangers, and benefits of their technology. For seniors, he discusses ways to prevent trips, falls, hip fractures, and other potentially life-threatening injuries, through specific brain strategies. And for all of us, he shows how we can enrich our lives by having sharper, more resilient, and smarter minds. Deepak Chopra often talks about strengthening your brain. Wayne Dyer's discussed it. Tony Robbins talks about NLP. And Dr. Michael Merzenich helps you life muscles with the mind, simply and easily, to give you the super-powered brain you always wished you had! Lastly, as someone who has met the Dalai Lama several times, Dr. Merzenich discusses ways we can use our minds to increase compassion, kindness, happiness, and joy. These are things we could all use more of!!! Inspiration | Motivation | Self-Help | Health | Business | Careers
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Episode One Hundred Seventy: "Quit butting in please. Your IQ is a mere 155 while mine is a muscular 170." This week, some kid thinks it's a good idea to complain about having a job and having to work on the busiest day of the year, we hear from what I can only hope is an internet troll, Ricky Gervaise is back for the Golden Globes, as if there was any doubt, and what do the proposed "Protect IP" and "Stop Internet Piracy Act" have to do with stifiling freedoms? Take a listen and find out. All this and more on this week's Are You Serious! Music this week is from: The Art of War - Intro and outro themes The Beastie Boys - "Pass the Mic" Cyndi Lauper - "Good Enough" Run DMC - "You Be 'Illin" Call us at 206-338-3094 or write areyouseriouspodcast@gmail.com
Episode One Hundred Fifty Five: "Quit butting in please. Your IQ is a mere 155 while mine is a muscular 170." This week, we start the show talking about Harry Potter and Green Lantern. This leads nicely into our first story, Glenn Beck is OUTRAGAGED with the new mixed-race Spider-Man! OUTRAGED! Now, never mind that it in the Ultimate series and Peter Parker is still around in other books. Also, never mind that in 1992, there was a series called Spider-Man 2099 that featured a future web slinger by the name of Miguel O'Hara. This is apparently Michelle Obama's fault. Also, Glenn asserts that the new Spidey is probably gay too. How that matters, I have no idea, but consider the source. Links for other stories covered are below. There is ANOTHER Snow White movie in the works. Pat Buchanan calls President Obama "Your boy" while speaking to Al Sharpton. Michelle Bachmann and the crazy "Marriage vow" she signed. A carjacker tries to steal a police car and uses "The Dark Knight Rises" as an excuse. Morrissey, the tactful compassionate person we know him as, compares the Norway massacre to the slaughter of animals for fast food. Stay classy, douche. Ann Coulter, the tactful compassionate intelligent person we know her as, want gays to hide in the closet, forever. Stay classy, douche. Here are some awesome reviews for the King James version of the Bible on Amazon. Frank's favorite story of the week, owner of killer bear chokes to death on sex toy. Want to text in a theater, make sure you freak out appropriately when asked to stop. Then, after you press charges on the woman that tapped you on the shoulder, make sure you give a crazy threat filled interview. And, our top story: Rep Steve King calls covering birth control pills "Orwellian." Fox News compares covering birth control pills and abuse counseling to covering manicures. Our "Are You Still There?" audio clip can be found here. Music the week is from: The Art of War - intro and outro themes The Bloodhound Gang - "Pennsylvania" Danzig - "Her Black Wings" Anthrax - "Got the Time" Don't forget our "Abstinence only doesn't work" campaign. We here at the Are You Serious Podcast suggest that if you can't resist your urges, engage orally. We are looking for campaign slogans in the vein of "Wear a pearl necklace, not a maternity dress." Submit your slogans today! Contact us at 206-338-3094 or areyouseriouspodcast@gmail.com on the boards at palavr.com on twitter @OTCChris and @frankhauser and check out our facebook group
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