Hva betyr det å følge magefølelsen, lytte til hjertet og leve i tråd med egne verdier? Å bare være seg selv. Å gjøre det man egentlig vil. Å drite i hva andre tenker og mener. Å være ærlig om hvem man er og hva man står for. Å ha troen på at man er bra, selv om man ikke jatter med og mener akkurat det samme som alle andre. Å føle seg engasjert. Å slippe maska og slutte å late som. Å bry seg mindre om hva alle andre tenker om dine avgjørelser og følge drømmene. Og mye mye mer! I podkasten snakker jeg med inspirerende damer som virkelig har vært modige, åpne, ærlige, engasjerte, sårbare og innovative på veien. De forteller om veien som tidvis har vært humpete og preget av både utfordringer, muligheter, oppturer og nedturer. Det blir mange spennende samtaler med kule damer som tør å være åpne om ting som er litt utfordrende i livet og som virkelig brenner for det de driver med. Vi snakker lidenskap og gutsing for mental helse, helse, bærekraft, klima, miljø, likestilling, bistandsarbeid, folkehelse, ernæring og lignende fagfelt som utfordrer det eksisterende. De har alle et mål om å bidra til en positiv utvikling i samfunnet. Jeg har også som mål å ta opp mange skambelagte tema. Ikke fordi det er behagelig, men fordi det er så utrolig nødvendig. Vi begrenses så inderlig av skammen vår. Selv skam fra barndommen som alle utenom deg har glemt og virkelig ikke bryr seg om. Ved å snakke om skambelagte tema kvitter vi oss med skammen og skaper ro og trygghet i stedet. Hvor fint er vel ikke det? Hjelp meg gjerne ved å dele dine skamfulle historier! Forhåpentligvis kan historiene inspirere flere til å tørre å gjøre sin egen greie. Det handler om å finne sin vei. For noen vil det være karriere, for andre vil det være å prioritere familie, fritid eller noe annet som er viktig for dem. Vi mener mennesker har det best og gjør det best når valgene vi tar får inspirasjon fra lidenskap og verdier - heller enn press, forventninger, og å skulle passe inn. Følg og abonner på podkasten, skriv en kommentar, del med andre som trenger rollemodeller og inspirasjon, og les mer om min ville historie og alle gjestene på www.Magefolelsen.com og/ eller magefoelelsen.podcast på Instagram. Woop woop! God lytt, vær dæ sjæl og lag deg den dagen du virkelig fortjener i dag! Ingen andre vil dessverre gjøre det for deg. Stor klem fra meg - Therese -
Rick Smith is an internationally recognized educator, facilitator, and author specializing in Authentic Relating and Awakened Leadership. With over two decades of experience, he has engaged more than 100,000 individuals across fifteen countries, focusing on cultivating presence, vulnerability, and inner authority in leadership contexts. Rick's journey began in education, where he authored the best-selling book Conscious Classroom Management, which has sold over 250,000 copies worldwide. Transitioning from classroom teaching to personal development, he now facilitates workshops and retreats that blend practical tools with deep presence, guiding participants toward unconditional self-love and integration. Awakened Leadership & Authentic Relating Retreats: https://www.thetenderedge.com/?utm_source=chatgpt.com This episode: In this conversation, Therese and Rick explore the themes of personal growth, vulnerability, and the journey of awakening. They discuss the importance of compassion, both towards oneself and others, and how embracing our inner voices can lead to deeper self-acceptance. The dialogue touches on the challenges of navigating nervousness and self-judgment, the power of vulnerability, and the significance of assuming the best in ourselves and others. They also delve into the complexities of trauma, relationships, and the beauty of authentic conversations, ultimately highlighting the transformative power of presence and connection. "Love is unconditional." "Vulnerability is power." "Assume the best in people." Youtube format: https://youtu.be/3y9TcPOLP8Q Takeaways - The awakening process is often painful and challenging. - Nervousness is a common human experience that can be embraced. - Vulnerability is a source of strength and connection. - Compassion towards ourselves and others is essential for healing. - Inner authority allows us to stand up for ourselves without apology. - Assuming the best in others can foster understanding and compassion. - Trauma can be a pathway to personal growth and empowerment. - Authentic conversations can deepen relationships and understanding. - Letting go of control can lead to greater presence and peace. - Embracing uncertainty is a part of the human experience. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Journey 02:56 From Teaching to Awakening 05:54 Befriending Our Inner Voices 08:49 Navigating Nervousness and Duality 11:44 Compassion in a Polarized World 15:02 Inner Authority vs. Inner Apology 17:52 Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Validation 20:40 The Power of Presence in Challenging Times 23:53 Scarcity Mindset and Comparison 32:14 Embracing Vulnerability and Family Dynamics 34:57 The Bamboo Analogy: Growth and Patience 38:47 The Power of Vulnerability 43:03 Healing Through Trauma and Connection 47:45 Compassionate Encounters with Men 51:50 Navigating Vulnerability in Business 55:44 Letting Go of Control and Trusting the Process Host Therese Fallentin; coach, facilitator and business hippie. https://youtu.be/3y9TcPOLP8Q https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ https://magefolelsen.com/hjem Music by my roommate, Hansine Killingmoe Såstad Keywords personal growth, awakening, compassion, vulnerability, self-acceptance, inner authority, trauma, relationships, healing, mindfulness
In this episode, I delve into the profound concept of presence and its role in uncovering life's true meaning. Join me as I explore how embracing the present moment enhances our experiences of being, doing, creating, feeling, and sensing. I discuss practical approaches to mindfulness, share insights from thought leaders, and offer guidance on integrating presence into daily life. Whether you're seeking deeper connections, heightened creativity, or a more fulfilling existence, this episode will inspire you to live fully in the here and now. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at @TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ Make yourself a glorious day ya all.
I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at @TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ Make yourself a glorious day ya all.
Me and Miwa Line Løtveit digs into the levels of self expression and there, straight on, we fuck up our audio and I am sent into a trigger of fear of failure. So, on live podcast, we dive into the rhelm of the triggered landscape. How is that, how to meet ourselves and the world in that situation and how to move past what is keeping us from doing what we want and showing up as we truly are. Miwa has herself gone deep into the world of self expression and facilitate dance, breathwork, drawing, tantric and similar kinds of workshops. She, as me, comes from a totally normal job, education and life. Which she figured made her unhappy and unfulfilled. Check out some of her work; https://www.authentic-expression.com/ Regular Morning Beats in Oslo: https://www.morningbeat.no/ www.youtube.com/@miwa.intuitive.living Music: The beautiful song "Holy Hubris" by my talented friend Lennart Hansen: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=9TJZ_-miTa61jwplSCKKeQ I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at @TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ Make yourself a glorious day ya all.
In part one of our conversation me and Miwa Line Løtveit digs into the levels of self expression. Aliveness. Being true to yourself. Being aligned in truth. How to engage with people we are attracted to. Grounded in our truth. Magnetize the people who are attracted by us. Ressonating energy. Our intuition knows. Not performing and pretending to be something we are not. What is really honest. What is going on on the inside. The feeling of losing control. Getting paralyzed by failure. Feeling blank in situations where we really want to perform. Taking up space. Going after what we want. Feeling into the triggers and fears and cutting the bullshit, doing even when it¨s scary. Standing in our power when we put someone on a pedestal. Talking to and relaxing around people we are intimidated by. RBDSM-AT talks. Cutting the mystery. Taking away the drama and fun. Changing how we look at sexuality. How is that, how to meet ourselves and the world in that situation and how to move past what is keeping us from doing what we want and showing up as we truly are. Miwa has herself gone deep into the world of self expression and facilitate dance, breathwork, drawing, tantric and similar kinds of workshops. She, as me, comes from a totally normal job, education and life. Which she figured made her unhappy and unfulfilled. Check out some of her work; https://www.authentic-expression.com/ Regular Morning Beats in Oslo: https://www.morningbeat.no/ www.youtube.com/@miwa.intuitive.living Music: The beautiful song "Holy Hubris" by my talented friend Lennart Hansen: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=9TJZ_-miTa61jwplSCKKeQ I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at @TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ Make yourself a glorious day ya all.
Lytt inn til to episoder stappfulle av tull og tøys rundt menn, kvinner, relasjoner, følelser, sex, dynamikker, mannsarbeid, sårbarhet og andre overfladiske, lette tema. Mammarollen, papparollen, lille gutten og jenta i relasjoner. Anders Wilmann driver mannfolk.org og er engasjert i hvordan menn kan bli mer menneskelige. Musikk av Lennart Hansen; Holy Hubris https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=9TJZ_-miTa61jwplSCKKeQ Om Meg: Jeg er Therese Fallentin, du kan lese mer om meg og tjenestene mine her; https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ og om podcasten her https://magefolelsen.com/hjem Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling er også på Youtube @TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC og på Instagram https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ Lag deg selv en god dag. Om Anders Da jeg ble plassert i en workshop med menn på en Tantra festival for godt over en håndfull år siden, innså jeg at mine mellommenneskelige ferdigheter, spesielt med menn, ikke var så gode som jeg hadde trodd. Blant de andre deltakerne så jeg ikke brødre, men heller konkurrenter. På grunn av min avvisning av mine egne skyggesider, bar jeg mange dommer mot menn og generell maskulinitet, og brukte stigmatiserende merkelapper som «offermentalitet,» «kvinnebedårer,» «player,» «egoistisk nihilist,» «usikker mobber,» osv mot alle menn rundt meg. Og alt dette levde jo egentlig i meg selv og mitt syn på mine medbrødre ble selvfølgelig preget av disse fordømmende etikettene. Jeg selv, selvfølgelig, betraktet meg som «helgenen.» Denne erkjennelsen markerte begynnelsen på min reise inn i arbeidet med menn. Målet var å lege forholdet mitt til menn, maskulinitet, og ikke minst, til meg selv. Dette var veien mot mannsarbeidet. Selv om reisen ikke er fullført, har jeg kommet langt. Det er likevel dager hvor jeg føler meg som et spedbarn, dager hvor jeg knapt kan «gå» i det hele tatt. Likevel har jeg nådd et punkt hvor jeg tydelig ser at jeg har utviklet meg på mange områder. Les mer om Anders på hjemmesiden hans: https://www.mannfolk.org/anders-wilmann
Lytt inn til to episoder stappfulle av tull og tøys rundt menn, kvinner, relasjoner, følelser, sex, dynamikker, mannsarbeid, sårbarhet og andre overfladiske, lette tema. Mammarollen, papparollen, lille gutten og jenta i relasjoner. Anders Wilmann driver mannfolk.org og er engasjert i hvordan menn kan bli mer menneskelige. Musikk av Lennart Hansen; Holy Hubris https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=9TJZ_-miTa61jwplSCKKeQ Om Meg: Jeg er Therese Fallentin, du kan lese mer om meg og tjenestene mine her; https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ og om podcasten her https://magefolelsen.com/hjem Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling er også på Youtube @TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC og på Instagram https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ Lag deg selv en god dag. Om Anders Da jeg ble plassert i en workshop med menn på en Tantra festival for godt over en håndfull år siden, innså jeg at mine mellommenneskelige ferdigheter, spesielt med menn, ikke var så gode som jeg hadde trodd. Blant de andre deltakerne så jeg ikke brødre, men heller konkurrenter. På grunn av min avvisning av mine egne skyggesider, bar jeg mange dommer mot menn og generell maskulinitet, og brukte stigmatiserende merkelapper som «offermentalitet,» «kvinnebedårer,» «player,» «egoistisk nihilist,» «usikker mobber,» osv mot alle menn rundt meg. Og alt dette levde jo egentlig i meg selv og mitt syn på mine medbrødre ble selvfølgelig preget av disse fordømmende etikettene. Jeg selv, selvfølgelig, betraktet meg som «helgenen.» Denne erkjennelsen markerte begynnelsen på min reise inn i arbeidet med menn. Målet var å lege forholdet mitt til menn, maskulinitet, og ikke minst, til meg selv. Dette var veien mot mannsarbeidet. Selv om reisen ikke er fullført, har jeg kommet langt. Det er likevel dager hvor jeg føler meg som et spedbarn, dager hvor jeg knapt kan «gå» i det hele tatt. Likevel har jeg nådd et punkt hvor jeg tydelig ser at jeg har utviklet meg på mange områder. Les mer om Anders på hjemmesiden hans: https://www.mannfolk.org/anders-wilmann
Part two of the conversation with Levi is about asking for what we want and giving what we want, without pushing others into something they do not want to be part of. Have you ever said “yes” when you really meant “no”? Or felt unclear about what you actually wanted? In this episode, we dive into Betty Martin's "The Wheel of Consent", a powerful framework that transforms how we navigate touch, relationships, and power dynamics. Whether in business, love, or everyday interactions, understanding the difference between giving, receiving, taking, and allowing can be life-changing. Join us as we explore how to reclaim agency, communicate desires with clarity, and step into true consent—without guilt, pressure, or confusion.
Me and Levi discuss the dynamics of the Drama Triangle, Empowerment Dynamics and Wheel of Consent in this two part episode of breaking cycles by seeing the roles we play in conflict and creation, and taking action to show up as we actually want to. Check out our workshop on March 30th 2025 https://fb.me/e/4AQoBGGSl Through guided exercises, discussion, and interactive experiences, you will: Identify the roles you unconsciously take on in conflict and decision-making. Learn how to shift from reaction to response, breaking the cycle of drama. Develop tools to foster clarity, confidence, and constructive communication. Explore how to step into conscious leadership, whether in your personal life or business. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at @TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ Make yourself a glorious day ya all.
Have you ever felt like different parts of you are at odds—one part wants to take risks while another is terrified of failure? Or maybe you notice a critical inner voice that keeps you small? In this episode, we explore Parts Work, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Inner Child Healing, powerful approaches to self-awareness and transformation. Me and Internal Family Systems Expert Cem Stone dive into: ✨ What Parts Work is and how it helps us understand the different aspects of our psyche ✨ The Internal Family Systems (IFS) Model and how our “inner family” of parts can work together ✨ How inner child healing can support self-compassion, emotional resilience, and deep transformation ✨ Practical exercises to begin connecting with your inner world and fostering harmony within Whether you struggle with self-doubt, inner conflict, or emotional wounds from the past, this episode offers insights and tools to help you integrate all parts of yourself with greater understanding and care. Tune in and start your journey toward deeper self-connection and healing.
Feel alive. Express what is real. Show up as you are. Create true connection. Feel like you belong, instead of just fitting in. Dare be you and show up as who you truly are. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at @TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/vZQbeNOsOmc?si=a2SmyXk_OQYAhYRQ Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #introvert #extrovert #confidence #selflove #rest #mindfulness #slowdown #innerpeace #meditation #breath #quiet #reserved #shy
Find love for all of you, especially your nerdy, quiet, slow, reserved, calm, introspective self. We don't talk about it enough, but the introverted, nerdy, quiet and unsocial is SO important. AND so amazingly enjoyable, when we learn to enjoy our own company. 1-1 conversations, intimacy, feelings, sensations, mindfulness, yoga, meditation, birds, quiet, cuddles, candles, fireplaces, the sky, clouds floating in the wind, sunsets, trees, drawing, painting, singing, laying in the grass, being quiet together, reading a book, classical music, mindful movement, thai chi, chi gong, mountains, hiking, nature, petting an animal, board games, roleplay, 1-1 sports, creativity, creation, writing, listening, observing, research, analysis, planning, tidying, cleaning, floating in water, sauna, baths, showers, sleep, rest, cooking, a deserted beach... You name it. There are so many amazing things that are introverted. And so many great minds that are introverted. Many of them that we too rarely listen to. Shut up long enough for them to open their mouths. In a load world, the magic of the introverted is often overlooked. Even deserted beaches are filling up with bars and music. If we pay attention to the actions of the introvert, we might actually want to follow them. Let them lead. Help us get in contact with ourselves, this moment and our bodies. SLOW DOWN... Take a breath. Listen. Give space to others. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/dVvljWnerfo Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #introvert #extrovert #confidence #selflove #rest #mindfulness #slowdown #innerpeace #meditation #breath #quiet #reserved #shy
Are you good enough? Are others good enough? What is good enough? Who decides that? Are you constantly seeking to be the best, in everything you do? Having the highest standards, for yourself and others? Exhausted very much? Pushing people away? Judging yourself and others? Always seeking better? Quality is great. I absolutely LOVE quality. But can it still be good enough with some flaws? Can we still be good enough while we practice? Or when we just want to do something, without really being the best or any good at all? Can we accept that practicing means being shit at things? Listen into an episode about the inner critic, our judgemental minds and how it reflects into our perception of life. Our relationship dynamics and our ability to let people into who we are. Wanna let down your guard and show people who you truly are? You have def come to the right place. This podcast is full of it. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/dVvljWnerfo Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #anxious #avoident #attachment #money #dating #peoplepleasing #codependency #innercritic #shame #guilt #judgementalmind #judging #notgoodenough #goodenough #selflove
Are you aware of your attachment style? Anxious, avoidant, anxious avoidant or secure. 67% of the population is anxious, avoidant or anxiously avoidant... That is the majority. This subconsciously impact all aspects of our lives. Our relationship to everything from relationships, dating, work, money, hobbies, exercise or making things happen. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/dVvljWnerfo Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #anxious #avoident #attachment #money #dating #peoplepleasing #codependency
Calm your mind and body with a calming body scan meditation with zen music. Feel into where you are right now, observere and let yourself ground into a calm nervous system. I am Therese Fallentin and this is the gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #meditation #mindfulness #bodyscan #grounding #calming #somaticwork
Do you allow yourself to practice, play, look stupid, let go of control, show vulnerability, surrender, feel, ask for help, loooooooose control? Perfectionism creates avoidance. It's control. It's trying to be perfect so that noone can reject you, critique you, control you. Well, being perfect is also not perfect, it's quite exhausting for yourself and everyone else. Breath, let go and let people in. Let yourself have a break. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/vZQbeNOsOmc Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #anxious #avoident #attachment #money #perfectionism #avoidance #control #goals #surrender
Have you ever gossiped, judged, criticized, blamed, shamed, pointed fingers, hit, punched, pushed or bullied someone else? If you answer no, I don't believe you! We ALL HAVE! If you claim you haven't, I am quite sure you have more than most. Start digging, get real! Even if you think you are an angel, you probably aren't. So why and how do we ALL turn into perpetrators? How does it look like? Perpetrators come alongside victims and rescuers. And within this dynamics WE SWOP ROLES WITHIN A SINGLE CONVERSATION. We start out as the victim, move into to perpetrator and end up as the rescuer. And so it rolls. We believe we are angels, but really! We are not. No one is. I explain how toxic these dynamics are and how to get out of them. How to take accountability for your own life, words and actions. Why? Because you are hurting yourself. You are creating your own drama. You are getting yourself into dynamics you don't want to be in. Watch/ listen into my podcast to learn how you can become the challenger, coach and creator - instead of the perpetrator, rescuer and victim… These are the Drama Triangle and Empowerment Dynamics. Someone focusing on everyone else's problems and never your own. Not trusting in anyone else to do a good enough job. Watch/ listen into the episode to learn how to stop burning out. How to get help, how to cut back on responsibilities. how to find time for the things YOU wanna do. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/0D6dnrOfYWU Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship #goals #prioritze #focus #discipline #victimhoodrole #confidence #attract #magnetic #accountability #dopaminaddiction #perpetrator #challenger #coach #rescuer #victimrole #hero
Burned out? Tired? Empty? Exhausted? Anxious? Worried? Never time, energy, focus and money left to yourself? Always someone else who needs you more than you? No one else manage to help you. Everyone else does a poor job. You are always stuck with the work. Sounds like you are a rescuer, a fixer. Someone focusing on everyone else's problems and never your own. Not trusting in anyone else to do a good enough job. Watch/ listen into the episode to learn how to stop burning out. How to get help, how to cut back on responsibilities. how to find time for the things YOU wanna do. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/enug_nvLcyk Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship #goals #prioritze #focus #discipline #victimhoodrole #confidence #attract #magnetic #accountability #dopaminaddiction #rescuer #victimrole #hero
Do you want something in your life? Well, then go make it happen. Get up, get out, start making a plan, doing research, taking accountability for your non-doing, your own actions, your own choices.. HOW YOU SHOW UP IN THE WORLD. You want something, well, then start MAKING SOME ACTION. Get of your phone, your screen, your couch. Stop distracting yourself with shiny unicorns. Get real. Be honest with yourself. WHAT IS WITHIN YOUR POWER TO CHANGE IS YOU AND YOUR OWN THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS. You don't want to attract and get from "poor me" attitude. It's not poor you. You are capable, YOU ARE! Just freaking start. DOING SOMETHING.... AnYtHiNg that will take you closer to where you want to be. Probably more confident in one way or the other. Well, how do you build that confidence within YOU? Find a coach, take a class, go dancing, read a book on the topic, go for a walk, write, ask people for their insights and knowledge (not for them to do the work and rescue you... Again, not very sexy...) I know you can. We all can. And now is the time. The best time of them all. Cut the crap. The excuses and bullshit. YOU CAN, if you really want to. That is. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at https://youtu.be/ymvzNOQDSFU Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship #goals #prioritze #focus #discipline #victimhoodrole #confidence #attract #magnetic #accountability #dopaminaddiction
What is your excuse for not creating your life? For not taking accountability for yourself? Feel hopeless, powerless, not able, incapable, that nothing works, that it's not possible for you? Just cannot? Not enough money, time, energy, IQ, EQ. Not good enough body, looks, brains... Nobody gets you. Nobody wants you. You need someone to come fix you, rescue you. Preferably someone successful, pretty, amazing.... Whatever. Well, sounds like you indulge yourself inside the victimhood role and I am here to tell you how you throw away your potential, your inner strength and possibilities. Change your mindset and set yourself free. From "I cannot" to "I can".. You freaking can. You have it all inside of you. Find it. Digg it out. Stop waiting to be rescued. Stop putting people on pedestals. Stop looking down on yourself. IT'S NOT SEXY! IT'S NOT ATTRACTIVE. Find ways to start believing in yourself. I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at https://youtu.be/ymvzNOQDSFU Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship #goals #prioritze #focus #discipline #victimhoodrole #confidence #attract #magnetic
When did you last work towards YOUR own goal? Something you want to do, that other people might not understand. Not to get approval, attention, likes, compliments. Simply because it feels like what YOU want to do. When did you last say no, and prioritized your time, money and energy towards your own yes. Where is your focus? What do you prioritize? Be honest with yourself. I am Therese Fallentin and this is the gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship #goals #prioritze #focus #discipline
Are you ready to step into your power? To stop complaining, blaming, saying it's not possible... It is, but you gotta put your energy towards it, prioritize it. This is what the podcast will be about going forward. Let's start creating. About me and the podcast: https://magefolelsen.com/hjem About me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D): https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese https://youtu.be/EVJQssR6zTw?si=XJxMAku5vQQQegy0 Make yourself a glorious day ya all. #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship
How does shame from the past keep you back in life? What about fears around re-doing something which was shameful? Singing. Dancing. Standing on a stage. Sexual expression. Playing. Creating something. Writing. Drawing. Painting. Innovation.. What if whatever you did doesn't really matter? What if it wasn't that bad? Can you forgive yourself? Can you look at it with another lense? Can you challenge your shames and fears? What if people would find it funny and not irresponsible, out of control, stupid.. What if they would and you actually don't. Can you let it go? Move forward? Find freedom? Breathe....... This is Magefølelsen Podcast, The Gutfeeling in English. I am Therese Fallentin. I am a previous People Pleaser, with a master of management science who has taken a deep journey into my right brain after becoming a grown up stuck in left brain control, fear and rigid plans. Now I am finding my way back into balance between mindfulness, flow, creativity, play, trust, hope, faith and creation, logic and making things happen. I am a hard core Burner. I live and breathe the burn principles, not just at burns around the globe, but also in regular life. https://burningman.org/about/10-principles/ Believing that the right and left go hand in hand and complement each other perfectly. When in balance and used with mindfulness and not force. You find me on Instagram and LinkedIn here: https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ Make yourself a good day, ya all.
Really, fuck janteloven and any other norm telling us that its not ok to like ourselves. The only person who needs to like us, is us. It's the most important relationship we have and at the core of any other relationship. When we do not like parts of ourselves we will also push away people who does like these parts. Partners who like sides of ourselves we are ashamed of showing the world. What we don't like about ourselves will stand in the way of our happiness. So, please! Dare to like yourself, even though others might not agree. Even though others don't find you beautiful, smart, funny, you can still. This is Magefølelsen Podcast, The Gutfeeling in English. I am Therese Fallentin. I am a previous People Pleaser, with a master of management science who has taken a deep journey into my right brain after becoming a grown up stuck in left brain control, fear and rigid plans. Now I am finding my way back into balance between mindfulness, flow, creativity, play, trust, hope, faith and creation, logic and making things happen. I am a hard core Burner. I live and breathe the burn principles, not just at burns around the globe, but also in regular life. https://burningman.org/about/10-principles/ Believing that the right and left go hand in hand and complement each other perfectly. When in balance and used with mindfulness and not force. You find me on Instagram and LinkedIn here: https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ Make yourself a good day, ya all.
What creates good sex? Co- creation. Most women have some kind of sexual trauma! Feeling safe to be with whatever happens. Ok to say no! No pressure to have sex even though there is sexual energy and he gets a boner. Confidence work, Holding a rejection, Accepting a sexual rejection, Being with the inner child who cannot handle sexual rejection. Being with discomfort of a no. Rejection sucks, can we handle a no? Vulnerable and scary initiating. Meeting all vulnerability with love and compassion, also sexual interest, instead off fear. Dealing with rejection. Daring to reject and handling their reaction. Don't want to do something with someone who don't want to do it with us. Communication and being clear about what we ask for. Stop assuming and start asking questions, specify, be curios, what do you want? Nothing or could you want something. Exploring how to be me with you. Dare asking questions, being vulnerable and sharing impact. Being ok with other people's feelings. Your feelings aren't my responsibility. Community - a place where you can explore being more of you and evolve. People we trust and who are there for us. Feeling safe. Support system outside our partnerships and families. How to find the community for you? Practice and show instead of explaining theories. Sofia Su: https://www.instagram.com/___sofiasu___/ Magefølelsen & Therese Fallentin https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/
Spirits or stuck energies? Spirituality. Understanding energy, what is it? Meditation. Finding time to get contact with our intuition. Closed off or connected in surrendering? Spirituality meeting business. Trusting instincts without facts and understanding. Magic happening from following intuition and Instinkts. Believing in the flow of life. Is Sofia a witch and what does that mean? How to be a modern witch? Power over our own lives. Healing powers. Co-regulation. Connection to nature and darkness. What feels right to me? Finding our own truths. What's the worst thing that could happen by leaning into our own paths? Allowing dislikes as a part of life. Endemetriose - emotional causes? Placebo or not, does it matter if it it works? Helping people feel loved and worthy. Manifestation. Trauma triggers - not knowing what we want. Trauma creating new trauma. Tantric Tempels. Sexual healing. Being around sexual energy without engaging in it. Feeling safe around and in sexual energy. Learning to set boundaries and feeling the sadness, anger and fear from all off those times I didn't say no. Opening up to our boundaries in all aspects of life. The world is scary when we don't dare setting boundaries. Having our own backs. No it's ok, I had worse. Being scared off sexual energy from men. Trust issues towards men. Allowing others to do things with us that we don't want. Holding space for and supporting the feminine, instead of controlling and pushing to much on the feminine. Healing trust issues with men. Somatic therapy. Ancestral trauma. Creating our own fears. Crossing our own boundaries and letting people step on my boundaries. How to create safety for intimacy. Trust created by asking questions. Asking for consent for every step is sexy when you are confident and can handle a no. Healing our trust issues. It's ok to go slow and for a man to prove that he is trustworthy. The more you like someone the slower you need to move. Having sex too early leads to bad sex because we aren't ready to be vulnerable. Sofia Su: https://www.instagram.com/___sofiasu___/ Magefølelsen Podkast: https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/
Performance anxiety. How does it show up and how to break free. How does performance anxiety stand in your way from being you and living the life you want to live? Relationship between performance anxiety, trauma, ADHD, fawn and freeze.
Just do it. I can bet you that you won't regret the times you tried something new, something a bit outside the comfort zone. The times you stood in fear and discomfort because you were super excited to get somewhere.
Sharing passions and dreams, and everything else close to our hearts, can bring enormous discomfort and resistance. It's where we are most afraid of rejection, judgement and criticism. So oftentimes we keep it for ourselves. Well hidden from the outside world. Sometimes even more from our closest, because we couldn't bear hearing that they don't like or accept this side of us. So we hold back. Keep our babies safe. We hide our softness and love. What if we can find love for ourselves in every moment. Who I we are here and now. And bring the heart into our conversations. Start pulling people in, instead of pushing them away. Seeing cooperation instead of competition. Seeing invitations, warmth, curiosity, love and connection by assuming the best about other people. Assuming that people can handle us and like us. And that we can handle when they don't. Because let's be honest. Everyone dislikes and judges something about us. No one likes it all and wants to be with us 24/7 for the rest of their lives.. Even though they love us, likes us and wants to be our friends, partners and colleagues. And still when they dislike us, they still want to have us in their lives. And if they can't handle our inner truths, who we are underneath all of the walls and protection mechanisms, well, then maybe it's not people we wanna have in our lives.
Let's dare be soft and squishy. Let's see each other and find inspiration in each other. Co-create and find heartfelt connections where we often see competition, jealousy, criticism and judgement. Let's have trust and faith in ourselves and others. Let's learn to listen and invite people in. Be curious and create conversations. Let's build connection where we often create disconnection and push people away. Everyone is just a person, probably doing the best with what they know. Let's be compassionate, assume the best, give people the befit of the doubt, believe people are soft and squishy inside their hearts and try and understand where their love goes. Let's have the uncomfortable conversations and listen to what we disagree with. Let's create conversations where we now have monologues.
After burnout and healing people pleasing, codependency and trauma comes a journey into a new kind of living. A life doing what is right for me, because I want it, like it, find joy in it. A life where I let people in, where I believe I belong, where I trust people's intentions, love and attention. Where I believe in my ability to create the life I long for. That everything I need to feel safe is available to me, as long as I lean into it.
We are whole beings, still when we are healing and in need of support we are all of those other things we have always been. When healing it's easy to feel disempowered though. To feel stuck, needy, helpless, misunderstood, lonely, insecure. Often because people start feeling sorry for us, sympathize, look down on us, try to fix us. Our need for support, empathy and compassion makes people uncomfortable. They don't know how to handle our feelings, our situation and so they become rescuers, trying to fix us. Bring us out of our situation by telling us what to do and not. Instead of listening, people tell and push their knowledge and truths on you. You become the victim. The helpless person in need of help. People stop believing you are capable of taking care of yourself, or doing stuff, so they are annoyed. Find you needy. They become the perpetrator critiquing you. Both the rescuer and perpetrator enabling/ creating exactly what they dislike in you; your helplessness. You stop believing in your abilities, become insecure and think that you truly need others. That you are helpless. That you cannot trust yourself. When needing help this truly happened to me. I totally lost my abilities while convincing NAV that I needed support healing trauma. Suddently I didn't believe in myself. I went from being a person really capable of making things happen, into not trusting myself at all. What if we can get support and believe in ourselves at the same time? The difference between sympathy (looking down at people) and empathy (still believing in people's capability of taking care of themselves) is crucial in a healing journey. I am ready to share my story. Xoxo Therese Fallentin
En guidet kroppsskanningsmeditasjon (body scan). Jeg tar deg gjennom kroppen og hjelper deg med å spenne av, legge bort stress og lande i ro, aksept og tilstedeværelse. Sammen øver vi på mindfulness (tilstedeværelse) med det som er. Musikken: Artist: Alan Frijns Låtnavn: Meditation at the river yoga zen relaxation positive sleep music Lastet ned fra: Pixabay (spor 140641) Meg finner du her: https://magefolelsen.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ Stor klem fra meg Therese Fallentin & Magefølelsen Podkast
Ærlighet vs å tilpasse seg (people pleasing). Tilhørighet vs å passe inn. Kindness vs niceness. Autentisitet vs å late som. Være meg selv vs å være noe jeg ikke er. Connection vs disconnection. En del av vs ensom og utenfor. Inkludering vs ekskludering. Å bli hørt vs ikke bli hørt. Skaper av eget liv vs offer av omgivelsene. Hvor mye av dette handler om vårt indre selv snakk? Hva om vi kan (internt) snakke oss til bedre relasjoner med oss selv og andre? At det som står i veien for tilhørighet og tilknytning er oss selv og våre egne tanker. Klem fra meg, Moder Mot Therese Fallentin Meg finner du her: https://magefolelsen.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063836841693
En episode om growth mindset i praksis. At å endre seg selv steg for steg er det som endrer verden. Lederprogrammer som går innover for å skape ytre endring, ved å starte med seg selv. Vi snakker om Burn miljøet, burner kultur og de ti prinsippene: https://burningman.org/about/10-principles/ Mannesirkler. Menn og følelser. Å gråte, bare fordi det er deilig. Nysgjerrighet på en kapitalisme som tar vare på mennesker og natur. Hvorfor må kapitalisme og det å ta vare på mennesker og natur være motsetninger? Om pinecone leadership: https://www.pinecone.as/ Om Snorre: https://www.linkedin.com/in/snorrep/?originalSubdomain=no Meg finner du her: https://magefolelsen.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ Episoden er redigert av Simon Lynau og meg selv. Sanger: "Once in Paris" av Ohanezoz, Pumpupthemind. "Cinematic Documentary" av Lexin Music. "Forest Lullaby" av Lesfm. "Glossy Come" av Media. "Morning garden acoustic chill" av Olexy. "Summer adventures" av Serge, PavkinMusic. Lag deg en god dag Klem fra meg, Therese Fallentin
Jeg og Oda snakker om verdien av samhold, det å ha et nettverk av mennesker rundt seg og hvordan hun er med på å skape et community på Opaker gård. Vi spilte inn samtalen etter en community samling i vinter og neste samling er allerede 4-7.juli. Sjekk ut eventet på fb eller hele programmet på Opaker via linkene under. https://www.facebook.com/share/NUhGUZU4YY7hmfDR/ https://www.opaker.no/arrangement/ Klem fra meg, Therese Fallentin Meg finner du her: https://magefolelsen.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063836841693
People pleasing, fawning, co-dependency og redder rollen. Hvorfor føler du/ andre at de må ofre seg selv for andre? Hvorfor klarer ikke andre å ta vare på seg selv? Hvorfor er det ikke rom for meg å slappe av og lene meg på andre. Hvorfor føler jeg meg så ensom, selv om jeg har mange rundt. Mange venner, mange nære. Fordi people pleasere ikke viser sitt sanne selv. Ikke slipper noen inn. Ikke opplever at det er trygt å vise hva de føler, tenker, vil, ønsker, liker, drømmer om. I stedet er de enige med noen rundt. Venter på tillatelse til å snakke om enkelte tema og kjenner på en enorm lettelse når noen andre tar opp noe som opptar dem. For det å snakke først om noe, uten først å få bekreftet at det er greit - kjennes ikke trygt ut for people pleaseren. Som helst ikke vil skape ubehagelige følelser i noen andre. Som er redd for å ikke bli likt, på en eller annen måte, for det betyr at de ikke er elskbare. Ikke bra nok. Gradvis utsletter people pleaseren seg selv. Mister kontakten med seg selv og sin evne til å uttrykke hvem de er. Lytt inn, les deg opp og finn din måte ut av people pleasing på. Ut av fawn responsen, som 100% er en traumerespons. Det er trygt å være deg. Det er trygt å vise dine preferanser. Det er greit å ville omgås mennesker som takler at du ikke utsletter deg selv for dem. Klem fra meg, Therese Fallentin Meg finner du her: https://magefolelsen.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063836841693
Hvis du skal sette deg inn i et verktøy, så sett deg inn i dramatriangelet og kom deg over i TED (The Empowerment Dynamic). Gå fra å være et offer til å bli en skaper. Gå fra å være en redder til å bli en coach. Gå fra å være en angriper til å bli en utfordrer. Er du en av dem, så er du alle. For ila en samtale, så bytter vi rolle og er i alle 3. Du vil ha en hovedrolle som du føler deg mest komfortabel i, men du vil være i alle. Er du klar for å se din egen påvirkning på egne omgivelser? Da er dramatriangelet en fin plass å starte. Det er litt autch, men autch er bedre enn å bli i det som er autch. Det er også paralleller fra Drama Triangelet og inn i tilknytningsstil, traumeresponser (frys, kamp, flykt, fawn respons), og co-dependency (og narsissisme..). https://theempowermentdynamic.com/about/ Klem fra meg, Therese Fallentin Meg finner du her: https://magefolelsen.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063836841693
Ugreie seksuelle tanker, følelser, drømmer som vi aldri snakker om. Som vi sitter alene med og aldri deler med noen. Undertrykkelse og enorm skam for hvor upassende og fæle vi er som tenker, føler og drømmer om dette. Hva om det å holde det inne er det som får begeret til å renne over. Som får oss til å gå fra ugrei tanke til å plutselig ha gjort noe vi ikke egentlig ville gjøre. Noe vi skammer oss enda mer over og fordømmer og nekter og holder skjult. Som sårer dem vi er glade i. Kanskje dypest av alt - oss selv. Jeg ønsker meg flere trygge plasser hvor vi kan snakke om tabubelagte seksuelle tanker og energi. Normalisere tankene nettopp for å unngå at det spiller seg ut. Dette er kanskje et kontroversielt tema og jeg påstår på ingen måte at jeg har noen fasit her, men la oss snakke om det. La ballen rulle og sammen finne sunne rom for å snakke om vanskelige og tabubelagte tema. Ingenting endrer seg i det skjulte og hemmelige rom. La oss stå sammen i det som er vanskelig og utfordrende. La oss være modige og gå inn i det som er ubehagelig, sammen. Klem fra meg, Therese Fallentin Meg finner du her: https://magefolelsen.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063836841693
En episode om seksuell energi og all forvirringen og misforståelsene som oppstår pga at vi forbinder seksuell energi utelukkende med å ha sex. Flørting, fysisk berøring, spandering, å føle seg tiltrukket, sett og kåt.. SEX! Hva om seksuell energi er vår kreative energi og at vi går glipp av VELDIG MYE vakkert ved å kun tenke sex. Jeg er på en reise inn å utforske seksuell energi og dette er bare starten, første episode av et stort dypdykk. Nyt, lek og ha det gøy. Klem fra meg, Therese Fallentin Meg finner du her: https://magefolelsen.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063836841693
De kan, jeg kan og DU KAN. I denne episoden deler jeg om min reise til min drøm. Om verdien av å starte med å kartlegge egne verdier (Brene Brown) https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/ og sitt eget WHY (Simon Sinek). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e1iQjFMiLuE for å finne klarhet i hva som er viktig for akkurat deg. Denne episoden er sårbarhet i praksis. Et steg om gangen :)
En åpen og sårbar og ærlig samtale med Astrig Rønning Skaugseth, sjef for SHE konferansen, om inkludering og hva det innebærer i praksis. At inkludering handler om at hver og en av oss tar ansvar for oss selv og det å være nysgjerrige på andre, heller enn å anta eller bekymre oss eller være redde. At inkludering starter med å se folk i øynene, stille spørsmål og være der med dem. Å prioritiere kommunikasjon, selv når vi er redde for å gjøre eller si noe feil. Å øve. Og at vi må ha kjent på ekskludering selv for å forstå viktigheten og verdien i å bli inkludert og å inkludere andre. Uten at vi skal inkludere fordi vi synes synd på folk. Men fordi vi bryr oss og ser deres verdi. Vær alltid nysgjerrig på verdien av å lære av mennesker du tidligere har sett ned på eller synes synd på. Vi kan alltid lære noe av andre, selv dem som provoserer oss. Et pust i bakken er noen ganger alt som står i veien for inkludering. Les mer om Astrid og SHE konferansen - som arrangeres 11.april 2024 her: https://www.sheconference.no/ Om sosial bærekraft eller indre bærekraft: https://www.ntnu.no/ipl/livskvalitet-og-sosial-baerekraft https://kampanje.com/pr/2022/05/--na-loftes-indre-barekraft-opp-pa-et--globalt-niva/ Lytt gjerne til episoden med Marte, Anna, Maya og Anne Gry som handler om indre bærekraft. Om meg kan du lese mer om her: https://magefolelsen.com/ Episoden er redigert av Simon Lynau og meg selv. Sanger: "Once in Paris" av Ohanezoz, Pumpupthemind. "Cinematic Documentary" av Lexin Music. "Forest Lullaby" av Lesfm. "Glossy Come" av Media. "Morning garden acoustic chill" av Olexy. "Summer adventures" av Serge, PavkinMusic. Lag deg en god dag
What a liberating conversation on patterns of co-dependency and narcissism. What it is, what it isn't and how to break free from trauma bonds and victimhood. In any relationship we so easily point our fingers at everyone else. They are at blame, not us. They are bad people and we haven't done anything wrong. Or? It turns out that codependency and narcissism isn't so far apart. That codependency in fact is a covert narcissism, people pleasing in order to be liked by everyone. Calling themselves empathetic, when in fact they claim they know what people think, feel and need, instead of asking. Often trying to fix peoples feeling, instead of letting them feel whatever they are feeling. Empathy on the other hand is asking questions and allowing people to feel and be in whatever they are in. A codependent cannot stand anyone feeling bad and feel responsible of fixing them. Taking on their feelings as their own, because they are not in contact with their own feelings. Codependency and narcissism are two reactions to the same wounding. Also a codependent person will be the narcissist in every other relationship, meaning, the codependent is also the narcissist and opposite. Codependents are people pleasers, giving up who they are to be accepted, liked and loved. They unconsciously expect others to do the same and expect love, appraisal and acceptance in return for their behaviour. They often feel taken for granted when they do not get what they seek from their surroundings. Narcissists have a more grandiose behaviour. It seems they are high on themselves, when in fact their self esteem is just as poor as the codependents. They brag about themselves to get approval and attention, while really they are very judgemental of themselves. Both are results of the same childhood wounding of not being see. Two different strategies to get attention. What is named bad behaviour is really learned mechanisms to keep oneself safe. Attempt to palliate anxiety. When you understand the mechanism behind peoples behaviour, you get out of the pattern of feeling like a victim to it. Relationships between codependents and narcissists activate two core triggers; the wounding of fear of abandonment and fear of consumption or feeling overwhelmed. In order to create secure relationships, we need to rapture and repair and get into healthy feminine and masculine where dominance/ leadership and submission comes from a place of meeting oneself and the other person. Nima shares his knowledge of how to use somatic work and polyvagal theory to break free from trauma bonds. You can read more about Nima here: https://drnima.com/ This episode is edited by Simon Lynau. You can read more about me here: https://magefolelsen.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ Make yourself a good day.
Lowan H. Stewart shares his research results and personal professional experience with therapeutic use of psychedelics (ketamine, psylocibin, LSD, MDMA) in treating depression, PTSD, anxiety, addiction, pain, OCD etc. His research is financed by the Norwegian state. This isn't a hippie thing anymore. It is hard core facts and research done at Harvard and Yale. He was demotivated working with the symptoms of his patients and started seeking ways to deal with the root cause of peoples mental health conditions. Depression in the leading cause of disability in the world. 1 million kill themselves every year. And that is just the people going through with it and succeeding. That is more than the amount of people dying from war and natural disasters combined. 10 times more (10.millon) tried to kill themselves. 10 times more (100.millon) want to kill themselves, bit didn't try. That's just depression. Lowan want to prevent these numbers. Deal with the burden and river of suffering which just keep on pouring, because we treat it with a bucket instead of fixing the leakage, the cause of the running water. The leakage of the sinking boat. What does the research of Harvard and Yale say about the use of psychedelics in therapy? More effective than electro shots. Long lasting effects. Immediate effects. Less side-effects. None addictive. No need for continues medication. How this treatment helps your body heal itself, at the core. The body is doing the work, the medicine (psychedelics) are just there to help you find the answers you need. You find Lowan and more information about his Ketamine clinic in Oslo here: https://www.axon.no/ If you want to read more about the research: https://www.sykehuset-ostfold.no/nyheter/vitalt-bruk-av-psykedelika-i-behandling-av-depresjon/ https://www.psykedeliskvitenskap.no/blank https://www.sykehuset-innlandet.no/fag-og-forskning/kurs-for-helsepersonell/ketaminkonferansen-2024/ https://www.forskning.no/medisin-og-helse-psykiske-lidelser/hvorfor-far-ikke-alvorlig-deprimerte-pasienter-denne-behandlingen-som-forskning-viser-at-har-god-effekt/2205502 https://independent.academia.edu/LowanStewart https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7311646/ https://magazine.hms.harvard.edu/articles/altering-perceptions-psychedelics https://news.yale.edu/2021/07/05/psychedelic-spurs-growth-neural-connections-lost-depression https://medicine.yale.edu/psychiatry/research/programs/clinical_people/psychedelic/research/ https://petrieflom.law.harvard.edu/resources/article/petrie-flom-center-launches-POPLAR
Åh, for en deilig episode. Jeg følte meg varm om hjertet etter samtalen med Anna Svanberg, medgrunder av Brave Leadership. Dette er en nydelig samtale om modig (selv-) ledelse. Om å tillate følelser, også dem som kjennes ubehagelige. Om empati vs sympati. Om Brene Brown, drama triangelet. Om det å være fanget i en rolle, offer rollen, angriper rollen eller redder rollen heller enn å fokusere på seg selv og se mulighetene tilgjengelig. Om håpet og troen. Troen om at "Uansett hva som skjer, så lander jeg på beina". At vi hver dag kan øve oss på å stå i ubehaget og at vi slik gradvis gjør ubehag om til noe behagelig. Les gjerne mer om Anna her: https://braveleadership.no/ Om Indre Bærekraft her: https://braveleadership.no/idgoslobravehub/ https://www.innerdevelopmentgoals.org/ Om Drama Triangelet: https://www.forbes.com/sites/remyblumenfeld/2018/12/07/how-to-transform-your-relationships-by-getting-creative/ Vår store heltinne og forsker på følelser som sårbarhet og skam, Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ Og om meg og podkasten og alt annet jeg driver med her: https://magefolelsen.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/ Episoden er redigert av Simon Lynau og meg selv. Lag deg en god dag
Hvem bedre enn Anders til å dele om regnskogens magi? Anders som kjøpte en enveis billett til Amazonas, for å bo sammen med urbefolkning. I dag jobber Anders for Regnskogsfondet her i Norge. I denne fantastiske episoden deler Anders om verdiene vi går glipp av ved å kutte ned regnskog og hva vi her hjemme kan gjøre for å bidra til å redusere avskogning av regnskog. En episode om alt fra fantastisk historiefortelling, bioøkonomi, økosorg, skattepolitikk, naturverdier, hverdagslige valg til en av de morsomste historiene jeg har hørt. Det er ingen som tjener mer på å rasere natur enn å bevare naturens naturlige ressurser. Smak på den... Du kan lese mer om Anders her: den fantastiske boka hans: https://www.jaguarenskraft.no/ regnskogsfondet: www.regnskog.no Meg og podkasten kan du lese mer om her: https://magefolelsen.com/ Lag deg en god dag da. Husk alltid at dine valg har alt å si. Du kan skape deg akkurat det livet du ønsker å leve. Reisen starter i dag.
En episode om hvordan strukturer, samfunnet, arbeidsplassen og omgivelsene våre påvirker oss. At det ikke er noe galt med deg og at du ikke bare må tåle alt mulig, finne deg i å slite deg ut. Sara Skilbred Fjeld og Erika Ribu har skrevet bok om det de kaller det "nådeløse arbeidslivet" og hvorfor det er så mange som brenner seg ut og mistrives i A4 arbeidsplassen. Hva om vi kunne tilrettelegge slik at flere mestret livet på arbeidsplassen, i skolen, i livet. At det kanskje ikke er noe galt med meg, deg, han, hun, hen... Kanskje er det måten vi har tilrettelagt på? Vi snakker om hvordan å få flere personlighet til å skinne. Introverte, ekstroverte, høysensitive, og folk med alt fra ADHD, prestasjonsangst, depresjon og angst. Hva om vi kunne sett på ulike personligheters styrker og tilrettelagt deretter? At det som tilsynelatende er det mest attraktive, kanskje ikke egentlig er det - og i mange tilfeller er det motsatte av hva vi trenger. Her er boka til Erika og Sara: https://www.norli.no/boker/dokumentar-og-fakta/historie-og-dokumentar/det-nadelose-arbeidslivet-1 Du kan lese mer om meg og podkasten her: www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin https://magefolelsen.com/ Episoden er hovedsakelig redigert av Simon Lynau. Musikk: "Once in Paris" av Ohanezoz, Pumpupthemind. "Cinematic Documentary" av Lexin Music. "Forest Lullaby" av Lesfm. "Glossy Come" av Media. "Morning garden acoustic chill" av Olexy. "Summer adventures" av Serge, PavkinMusic. Lag deg en god dag Klem fra meg, Therese Fallentin og Magefølelsen Podkast
Tør vi å være ærlige? Og hva skal til for å skape et klima hvor vi føler oss trygge nok til å si det som det er. Å snakke om elefanter. Å ta plass. Å gi ærlige tilbakemeldinger. Å faktisk ønske tilbakemeldinger og ærlighet. Hva er verdien av et åpent og ærlig klima? Og hva er konsekvensene av å ikke ha det? Både Anne Gry og Ståle's liv har vært avhengige av ytringsklima. Manglende kommunikasjon kunne hatt fatale følger for dem begge. Ståle i cockpiten av jagerflyet og Anne-Gry på hesteryggen i 70 km i timen. Kanskje har det ikke umiddelbare fatale følger for oss å være en del av klima med dårlig ytringsfrihet, men over tid tærer det absolutt på mental og fysisk helse, samt på resultatene våre. For ikke å glemme inspirasjon, motivasjon og evnen til å gjøre en god jobb. Dette er del 2 av samtalen med Anne Gry og Ståle, hvor vi snakker om ytringsklima, ytringsfrihet og hvordan det påvirker våre prestasjoner. Ikke bare våre egne, men bedrifters og samfunnets. En aldeles viktig samtale med tanke på alt som skjer i verden om dagen. For vi trenger å ha de ukomfortable samtalene og å klare å være uenige for å drive frem både innovasjon, samarbeid og fred. Du kan lese mer om Anne Gry via linkene under. Ståle er ikke like PR kåt.. https://www.codepink.no/prosjekter/ https://arnekampanjen.no/styret/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-gry-reitan-ringen-47731a149/?originalSubdomain=no Meg finner du her: www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin https://magefolelsen.com/ Lag deg en god dag Klem fra meg, Therese Fallentin og Magefølelsen Podkast
I en tid som preges av polarisering, "canceling" av personer som sier og ting vi ikke liker, globale konflikter, krig og store spørsmål som må svares på med samarbeid, er ytringsklima og prestasjonskultur mer aktuelt enn noen gang. Ståle er senior jagerflyger og Anne Gry tidligere toppidrettsutøver, leder og konsulent. Begge to har praktisk erfaring med hvor viktig et ytringsklima er for å unngå fatale følger. I folk flest sin hverdag har mangel på ytringsklima kanskje ikke fatale følger, men store følger kan det absolutt ha. Tenk bare hvordan det å ikke tørre å være ærlig om sin egen mentale tilstand og behov for støtte og hjelp kan ha fatale følger for vedkommende. En høyst aktuell samtale også med tanke på Israel- Palestina konflikten og vår evne til å være uenige og fremdeles evne å snakke om utrolig store og vanskelige tema. Tatt tilbake til hverdagen. Vår evne til å gi tilbakemeldinger om noe som ikke fungerer, egne behov og at andres oppførsel overtramper egne grenser. Det er utallige eksempler å komme med. Vi snakker om viktigheten av gode samtaler på jobb, og hvordan de påvirker nasjonal sikkerhet og prestasjon både i en F-35 cockpit, på en idrettsareana og i en bedrift. Du kan lese mer om Anne Gry via linkene under. Ståle er ikke like PR kåt.. https://www.codepink.no/prosjekter/ https://arnekampanjen.no/styret/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-gry-reitan-ringen-47731a149/?originalSubdomain=no Meg finner du her: www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin https://magefolelsen.com/ Lag deg en god dag Klem fra meg, Therese Fallentin og Magefølelsen Podkast