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Here are the songs in this broadcast. Baby I'm Gonna Love You - Phyllis Hyman - R&B - 1976 Betcha By Golly Wow - Phyllis Hyman - R&B/Jazz - 1976 Don't Tell Me Tell Her - Phyllis Hyman - R&B - 1981 Gonna Make Changes - Phyllis Hyman - R&B - 1979 I Don't Want to Lose You - Phyllis Hyman - R&B - 1977 If You Want Me - Phyllis Hyman - R&B - 1986 You Just Don't Know - Phyllis Hyman - R&B - 1986 The Answer Is You - Phyllis Hyman - R&B - 1978 Under Your Spell - Phyllis Hyman - R&B - 1979 You Know How to Love Me - Phyllis Hyman - R&B - 1979

Wellness and Nature pairs as perfectly as peanut butter and jelly. Getting into Nature is often an all-natural remedy for many of life's ills, but the Great Outdoors has not always been nice to Black People. On today's episode, we are tackling the stereotype of why Black people don't camp (and other similar stereotypes) to see where they came from, why they persist, and how we can fight to dead them. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is 1. Alana- Serius Innovation- Black Owned Performance Gear Brand with a commitment to innovation and excellence (www.serius.com) 2. Jac- No Tox Life (@notoxlife)- Mother & Daughter team making vegan body + home products(notoxlife.com)Keep Up With Latria Grahamwww.latriagraham.com@LatriaGraham Read We're Here. You Just Don't See Us (& the follow up article, Out There, Nobody Can Here You Scream)https://www.outsideonline.com/2296351/were-here-you-just-dont-see-ushttps://www.outsideonline.com/2416929/out-there-nobody-can-hear-you-screamFind us on Instagram: @blackandyellowpodcastAlana J. Webster: @renegadeoffunJacklyn Chung Young: @jacklynchungyoungEmail us: podcastblackandyellow@gmail.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Indie Blues Double Shot Show!This is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. An Indie Blues double shot of artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!DexterAllen,Can't Live Without You,Keep Moving OnDexterAllen,F.A.B.U.L.I.S.T. Woman,Keep Moving OnDeb Ryder,Standing At The Edge,Memphis MoonlightDeb Ryder,Most Of All,Memphis MoonlightMr. Sipp,F 2020,SippnotizedMr. Sipp,Can You Feel Me Now,SippnotizedAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,AJ Crawdaddy,That's What Love Will Do,Steppin' Out!Tia Carroll,Ain't Nobody Worryin',You Gotta Have ItTia Carroll,I Need Someone,You Gotta Have ItMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueMisty Blues,Nothing To Lose,None More BlueRob Stone,What Am I Living For?,Trio In TokyoRob Stone,Come Back Baby,Trio In TokyoKyle Culkin,So Damn Old,Pork Chops & BluesKyle Culkin,By The Blues,Pork Chops & BluesPopa Chubby,Tinfoil Hat,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,Can I Call You My Friends,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Maria Muldaur with Tuba Skinny,Delta Bound,Let's Get Happy TogetherMaria Muldaur with Tuba Skinny,Road of Stone,Let's Get Happy TogetherThe Halley DeVestern Band,Boil,Money Ain't TimeThe Halley DeVestern Band,Muscle Memory,Money Ain't TimeKat Danser,"Get Right, Church",Kat Danser,Bring It With You When You Come,West Side Joe & The Men of Soul,Man Down,Keep On Climbin'West Side Joe & The Men of Soul,Easier Than You Think,Keep On Climbin'Chris Gill,You Never Know,"Chris Gill "" Between Midnight And Louise"""Chris Gill,Song For Honeyboy,"Chris Gill "" Between Midnight And Louise"""Tommy Z,Please Come Back To Me,Plug in and PlayTommy Z,Tommy Guns,Plug in and PlayClint Morgan,Echoes,TroublemakerClint Morgan,I'll Love You If I Want To,TroublemakerJohn Mclean and Charles Barkatz,02_Brooklyn Blues Cafe,Unknown Album (10/23/2020 3:17:59 PM)John Mclean and Charles Barkatz,09_Black Train,Unknown Album (10/23/2020 3:17:59 PM)Rob_Lutes,08 Shediac Bridge_,Rob_Lutes,04 Come Around_,Steve Hill,Gotta Be Strong,Desert TripSteve Hill,Tail Lights,Desert TripEG Kight,You're Drivin' Me Crazy,The Trio SessionEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionThe Reverend Shawn Amos,Serves Me Right To Suffer,The Cause Of It AllThe Reverend Shawn Amos,Still A Fool,The Cause Of It AllClarence Spady,Good Conversation,SurrenderClarence Spady,Addiction Game,SurrenderTom Craig,My Turn To Cry,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,It's All My Fault,Good Man Gone BadMICHELE BIONDI,Angel of the city,DOWN BY THE RIVERMICHELE BIONDI,Down by the river,DOWN BY THE RIVERDonna Herula,Not Lookin' Back,Bang At The DoorDonna Herula,Movin' Back Home,Bang At The DoorAlex Lopez,Even Up The Score,Rising UpAlex Lopez,Rising Up,Rising UpCarole Sylvan,09 The Only One Around,LoveCarole Sylvan,01 What Do You Want To Call It (I Call It Love),LoveRandy McAllister,1 I'M DOING ALL THE HEAVY LIFTING,Paperbag SalvationRandy McAllister,10 BEST PATCH OF GRASS,PAPERBAG SALVATIONThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,Ways And Means,Dance Songs For Hard TimesThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,No Tellin',Dance Songs For Hard Times 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Featuring Halley DeVesternThis is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. Artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Mr. Sipp,F 2020,SippnotizedMr. Sipp,Can You Feel Me Now,SippnotizedPopa Chubby,Tinfoil Hat,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,Can I Call You My Friends,"""Tinfoil Hat"""EG Kight,Tell Me,The Trio SessionEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,No Tellin',Dance Songs For Hard TimesThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,Ways And Means,Dance Songs For Hard TimesTommy Z,Tommy Guns,Plug In & PlayTommy Z,Please Come Back To Me,Plug In & PlayRandy McAllister,10 BEST PATCH OF GRASS,PAPERBAG SALVATIONRandy McAllister,1 I'M DOING ALL THE HEAVY LIFTING,Paperbag SalvationCarole Sylvan,01 What Do You Want To Call It (I Call It Love),LoveCarole Sylvan,09 The Only One Around,LoveClarence Spady,Addiction Game,SurrenderThe Halley DeVestern Band,Try,Money Ain't TimeThe Halley DeVestern Band,American Pain,Money Ain't Timemakingascene,Halley Devestern,The Halley DeVestern Band,Dancing In The Streets,Money Ain't TimeThe Halley DeVestern Band,Muscle Memory,Money Ain't TimeLeRoux,The Song Goes On,One Of Those DaysLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysDexterAllen,F.A.B.U.L.I.S.T. Woman,Keep Moving OnDexterAllen,Can't Live Without You,Keep Moving OnSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Nowhere To Go But Up,Nowhere To Go But UpKyle Culkin,Wouldn't Change A Thing,Pork Chops & BluesMary Hott,The Spot,Devil in the HillsRob Lutes,Work of Art,Come AroundAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,Alex Lopez,Rising Up,Rising UpAlex Lopez,Even Up The Score,Rising UpMICHELE BIONDI,Down by the river,DOWN BY THE RIVERMICHELE BIONDI,Angel of the city,DOWN BY THE RIVERTom Craig,It's All My Fault,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,My Turn To Cry,Good Man Gone BadMary Karlzen,Something That I Missed,ShineNeil Barnes,Funny But I Still  Love You,Bald GuyEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEARTRob Stone,Money Hustlin' Woman,Trio In TokyoTia Carroll,Never Let Me Go,You Gotta Have ItHilary Scott,"Almost Home (2020 Remix, Remaster)",KaleidoscopeHustle Souls,Built to Change,Daydream MotelGrandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More Blue 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Featuring Michele BiondiThis is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. Artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Mr. Sipp,F 2020,SippnotizedMr. Sipp,Can You Feel Me Now,SippnotizedPopa Chubby,Tinfoil Hat,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,Can I Call You My Friends,"""Tinfoil Hat"""EG Kight,Tell Me,The Trio SessionEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,No Tellin',Dance Songs For Hard TimesThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,Ways And Means,Dance Songs For Hard TimesTommy Z,Tommy Guns,Plug In & PlayTommy Z,Please Come Back To Me,Plug In & PlayRandy McAllister,10 BEST PATCH OF GRASS,PAPERBAG SALVATIONRandy McAllister,1 I'M DOING ALL THE HEAVY LIFTING,Paperbag SalvationCarole Sylvan,01 What Do You Want To Call It (I Call It Love),LoveCarole Sylvan,09 The Only One Around,LoveClarence Spady,Addiction Game,SurrenderMICHELE BIONDI,Crosseyed blues,DOWN BY THE RIVERMICHELE BIONDI,Brotherhood,DOWN BY THE RIVERmakingascene,Micheli Biondi,MICHELE BIONDI,Angel of the city,DOWN BY THE RIVERMICHELE BIONDI,Down by the river,DOWN BY THE RIVERLeRoux,The Song Goes On,One Of Those DaysLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysDexterAllen,F.A.B.U.L.I.S.T. Woman,Keep Moving OnDexterAllen,Can't Live Without You,Keep Moving OnSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Nowhere To Go But Up,Nowhere To Go But UpKyle Culkin,Wouldn't Change A Thing,Pork Chops & BluesMary Hott,The Spot,Devil in the HillsRob Lutes,Work of Art,Come AroundAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,Alex Lopez,Rising Up,Rising UpAlex Lopez,Even Up The Score,Rising UpTom Craig,It's All My Fault,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,My Turn To Cry,Good Man Gone BadThe Halley DeVestern Band,Dancing In The Streets,Money Ain't TimeThe Halley DeVestern Band,Muscle Memory,Money Ain't TimeMary Karlzen,Something That I Missed,ShineNeil Barnes,Funny But I Still  Love You,Bald GuyEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEARTRob Stone,Money Hustlin' Woman,Trio In TokyoTia Carroll,Never Let Me Go,You Gotta Have ItHilary Scott,"Almost Home (2020 Remix, Remaster)",KaleidoscopeHustle Souls,Built to Change,Daydream MotelGrandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More Blue 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Indie Blues Double Shot Show!This is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. An Indie Blues double shot of artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Mr. Sipp,F 2020,SippnotizedMr. Sipp,Can You Feel Me Now,SippnotizedPopa Chubby,Tinfoil Hat,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,Can I Call You My Friends,"""Tinfoil Hat"""EG Kight,Tell Me,The Trio SessionEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,No Tellin',Dance Songs For Hard TimesThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,Ways And Means,Dance Songs For Hard TimesTommy Z,Tommy Guns,Plug In & PlayTommy Z,Please Come Back To Me,Plug In & PlayRandy McAllister,10 BEST PATCH OF GRASS,PAPERBAG SALVATIONRandy McAllister,1 I'M DOING ALL THE HEAVY LIFTING,Paperbag SalvationCarole Sylvan,01 What Do You Want To Call It (I Call It Love),LoveCarole Sylvan,09 The Only One Around,LoveClarence Spady,Pick Me Up,SurrenderClarence Spady,Addiction Game,SurrenderLeRoux,The Song Goes On,One Of Those DaysLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysDexterAllen,F.A.B.U.L.I.S.T. Woman,Keep Moving OnDexterAllen,Can't Live Without You,Keep Moving OnSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Nowhere To Go But Up,Nowhere To Go But UpSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Random Walk Start All Over Aga,Nowhere To Go But UpKyle Culkin,Wouldn't Change A Thing,Pork Chops & BluesKyle Culkin,So Damn Old,Pork Chops & BluesMary Hott,The Spot,Devil in the HillsMary Hott,Room of Lost Souls,Devil in the HillsRob Lutes,Work of Art,Come AroundRob Lutes,Knives,Come AroundRed's Blues,Hands Off,Broke Down in the Fast LaneRed's Blues,Broke Down in the Fast Lane,Broke Down in the Fast LaneAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,AJ Crawdaddy feat. Baxter Robertson,You'll Need Another Favor,Steppin' Out!Alex Lopez,Rising Up,Rising UpAlex Lopez,Even Up The Score,Rising UpMICHELE BIONDI,Down by the river,DOWN BY THE RIVERMICHELE BIONDI,Angel of the city,DOWN BY THE RIVERThe Halley DeVestern Band,Dancing In The Streets,Money Ain't TimeThe Halley DeVestern Band,Muscle Memory,Money Ain't TimeTom Craig,It's All My Fault,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,My Turn To Cry,Good Man Gone BadMary Karlzen,Something That I Missed,ShineMary Karlzen,Say You'll Never Go Away Again,ShineNeil Barnes,Funny But I Still  Love You,Bald GuyNeil Barnes,I Don't Hurt Anymore,Bald GuyEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEARTEMMA WILSON,SUNDAY KIND OF LOVE,FEELGOODRob Stone,Money Hustlin' Woman,Trio In TokyoRob Stone,Jack You're Dead,Trio In TokyoTia Carroll,Never Let Me Go,You Gotta Have ItTia Carroll,Even When I'm Not Alone,You Gotta Have ItHilary Scott,"Almost Home (2020 Remix, Remaster)",KaleidoscopeHilary Scott,Just A Shame (2020 Remaster),KaleidoscopeHustle Souls,Built to Change,Daydream MotelHustle Souls,Montana,Daydream MotelGrandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIGrandaddy Short Leg,Hard To Come By,Firewater Sessions VOL IIMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueMisty Blues,These Two Veils,None More Blue 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Featuring Popa ChubbyThis is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. Artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Mr. Sipp,F 2020,SippnotizedMr. Sipp,Can You Feel Me Now,SippnotizedTia Carroll,Even When I'm Not Alone,You Gotta Have ItLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Random Walk Start All Over Aga,Nowhere To Go But UpClarence Spady,Addiction Game,SurrenderRed's Blues,Hands Off,Broke Down in the Fast LaneSam Morrow,Heartbreak Man,Concrete And MudValerie June,Why The Bright Stars Glow,Maria Muldaur with Tuba Skinny,Swing You Sinners,Let's Get Happy TogetherRandy McAllister,1 I'M DOING ALL THE HEAVY LIFTING,Paperbag SalvationEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionHilary Scott,"Free Country (2020 Remix, Remaster)",KaleidoscopeSteve Cropper,The Go-Getter Is Gone,Popa Chubby,Baby Put On Your Mask,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,You Aint Said Shit,"""Tinfoil Hat"""makingascene,Popa Chubby,Popa Chubby,No Justice No Peace,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,Another Day In Hell,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Alex Lopez,Light It Up,Rising UpKyle Culkin,Why Me,Pork Chops & BluesMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueTom Craig,I Like Soul In My Blues,Good Man Gone BadTOKYO TRAMPS,I'll Stay And Take Care Of You,I'm A TigerDexterAllen,F.A.B.U.L.I.S.T. Woman,Keep Moving OnDexterAllen,Can't Live Without You,Keep Moving OnThe Halley DeVestern Band,Boil,Money Ain't TimeNeil Barnes,I Don't Hurt Anymore,Bald GuyRob Stone,Jack You're Dead,Trio In TokyoDamon Fowler,Alafia Moon,Alafia MoonJohn-Paul Jones Group,Blue Ruin ( Right Now ),Broke In Bridge CityThe Hungry Williams,Get Your Hat,Brand New ThingAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,Grandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIHustle Souls,Which Way,Daydream MotelEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEART 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Featuring Dexter Allen This is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. Artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Mr. Sipp,F 2020,SippnotizedMr. Sipp,Can You Feel Me Now,SippnotizedTia Carroll,Even When I'm Not Alone,You Gotta Have ItLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysThe Halley DeVestern Band,Boil,Money Ain't TimeEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEARTDamon Fowler,Alafia Moon,Alafia MoonClarence Spady,Addiction Game,SurrenderGrandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IINeil Barnes,I Don't Hurt Anymore,Bald GuyRob Stone,Jack You're Dead,Trio In TokyoRandy McAllister,1 I'M DOING ALL THE HEAVY LIFTING,Paperbag SalvationEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionSteve Cropper,The Go-Getter Is Gone,DexterAllen,Pack Up My Bags,Keep Moving OnDexterAllen,Love Talk,Keep Moving Onmakingascene,Dexter Allen,DexterAllen,Can't Live Without You,Keep Moving OnDexterAllen,F.A.B.U.L.I.S.T. Woman,Keep Moving OnAlex Lopez,Light It Up,Rising UpKyle Culkin,Why Me,Pork Chops & BluesMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueTom Craig,I Like Soul In My Blues,Good Man Gone BadValerie June,Why The Bright Stars Glow,Smiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Random Walk Start All Over Aga,Nowhere To Go But UpTOKYO TRAMPS,I'll Stay And Take Care Of You,I'm A TigerPopa Chubby,Another Day In Hell,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,No Justice No Peace,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Hilary Scott,"Free Country (2020 Remix, Remaster)",KaleidoscopeMaria Muldaur with Tuba Skinny,Swing You Sinners,Let's Get Happy TogetherRed's Blues,Hands Off,Broke Down in the Fast LaneJohn-Paul Jones Group,Blue Ruin ( Right Now ),Broke In Bridge CityThe Hungry Williams,Get Your Hat,Brand New ThingAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,Sam Morrow,Heartbreak Man,Concrete And MudHustle Souls,Which Way,Daydream Motel 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Featuring The Tokyo TrampsThis is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. Artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Mr. Sipp,F 2020,SippnotizedMr. Sipp,Can You Feel Me Now,SippnotizedTia Carroll,Even When I'm Not Alone,You Gotta Have ItTia Carroll,Never Let Me Go,You Gotta Have ItLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysLeRoux,The Song Goes On,One Of Those DaysClarence Spady,Addiction Game,SurrenderClarence Spady,Pick Me Up,SurrenderRandy McAllister,1 I'M DOING ALL THE HEAVY LIFTING,Paperbag SalvationRandy McAllister,10 BEST PATCH OF GRASS,PAPERBAG SALVATIONEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionEG Kight,Tell Me,The Trio SessionSteve Cropper,Heartbreak Street,Steve Cropper,The Go-Getter Is Gone,TOKYO TRAMPS,Lovin' Man (Instrumental),I'm A TigerTOKYO TRAMPS,Jeffrey Jive,I'm A Tigermakingascene,Tokyo Tramps,TOKYO TRAMPS,I'll Stay And Take Care Of You,I'm A TigerTOKYO TRAMPS,Long Day,I'm A TigerAlex Lopez,Rising Up,Rising UpAlex Lopez,Light It Up,Rising UpKyle Culkin,Why Me,Pork Chops & BluesMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueTom Craig,I Like Soul In My Blues,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,You Made A Good Man Go Bad,Good Man Gone BadValerie June,Why The Bright Stars Glow,DexterAllen,Can't Live Without You,Keep Moving OnDexterAllen,F.A.B.U.L.I.S.T. Woman,Keep Moving OnSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Nowhere To Go But Up,Nowhere To Go But UpSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Random Walk Start All Over Aga,Nowhere To Go But UpPopa Chubby,Another Day In Hell,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,No Justice No Peace,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Hilary Scott,"Free Country (2020 Remix, Remaster)",KaleidoscopeMaria Muldaur with Tuba Skinny,Swing You Sinners,Let's Get Happy TogetherThe Halley DeVestern Band,Boil,Money Ain't TimeNeil Barnes,I Don't Hurt Anymore,Bald GuyRob Stone,Jack You're Dead,Trio In TokyoRed's Blues,Hands Off,Broke Down in the Fast LaneDamon Fowler,Alafia Moon,Alafia MoonJohn-Paul Jones Group,Blue Ruin ( Right Now ),Broke In Bridge CityThe Hungry Williams,Get Your Hat,Brand New ThingAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,Sam Morrow,Heartbreak Man,Concrete And MudGrandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIHustle Souls,Which Way,Daydream MotelEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEART 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Featuring Smiling Jack SmithThis is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. Artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Mr. Sipp,F 2020,SippnotizedMr. Sipp,Can You Feel Me Now,SippnotizedTia Carroll,Even When I'm Not Alone,You Gotta Have ItTia Carroll,Never Let Me Go,You Gotta Have ItLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysLeRoux,The Song Goes On,One Of Those DaysClarence Spady,Addiction Game,SurrenderClarence Spady,Pick Me Up,SurrenderRandy McAllister,1 I'M DOING ALL THE HEAVY LIFTING,Paperbag SalvationRandy McAllister,10 BEST PATCH OF GRASS,PAPERBAG SALVATIONEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionEG Kight,Tell Me,The Trio SessionSteve Cropper,Heartbreak Street,Steve Cropper,The Go-Getter Is Gone,Smiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Don't Pray Me No Prayers When I'm Gone,Nowhere To Go But UpSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Southbound Train,Nowhere To Go But Upmakingascene,Smilin Jack,Smiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Nowhere To Go But Up,Nowhere To Go But UpSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Random Walk Start All Over Aga,Nowhere To Go But UpAlex Lopez,Rising Up,Rising UpAlex Lopez,Light It Up,Rising UpKyle Culkin,Why Me,Pork Chops & BluesMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueTom Craig,I Like Soul In My Blues,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,You Made A Good Man Go Bad,Good Man Gone BadValerie June,Why The Bright Stars Glow,DexterAllen,Can't Live Without You,Keep Moving OnDexterAllen,F.A.B.U.L.I.S.T. Woman,Keep Moving OnTOKYO TRAMPS,Long Day,I'm A TigerTOKYO TRAMPS,I'll Stay And Take Care Of You,I'm A TigerPopa Chubby,Another Day In Hell,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,No Justice No Peace,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Hilary Scott,"Free Country (2020 Remix, Remaster)",KaleidoscopeMaria Muldaur with Tuba Skinny,Swing You Sinners,Let's Get Happy TogetherThe Halley DeVestern Band,Boil,Money Ain't TimeNeil Barnes,I Don't Hurt Anymore,Bald GuyRob Stone,Jack You're Dead,Trio In TokyoRed's Blues,Hands Off,Broke Down in the Fast LaneDamon Fowler,Alafia Moon,Alafia MoonJohn-Paul Jones Group,Blue Ruin ( Right Now ),Broke In Bridge CityThe Hungry Williams,Get Your Hat,Brand New ThingAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,Sam Morrow,Heartbreak Man,Concrete And MudGrandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIHustle Souls,Which Way,Daydream MotelEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEART 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Indie Blues Double Shot Show!This is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. An Indie Blues double shot of artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Mr. Sipp,F 2020,SippnotizedMr. Sipp,Can You Feel Me Now,SippnotizedTia Carroll,Even When I'm Not Alone,You Gotta Have ItTia Carroll,Never Let Me Go,You Gotta Have ItLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysLeRoux,The Song Goes On,One Of Those DaysClarence Spady,Addiction Game,SurrenderClarence Spady,Pick Me Up,SurrenderRandy McAllister,1 I'M DOING ALL THE HEAVY LIFTING,Paperbag SalvationRandy McAllister,10 BEST PATCH OF GRASS,PAPERBAG SALVATIONEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionEG Kight,Tell Me,The Trio SessionSteve Cropper,Heartbreak Street,Steve Cropper,The Go-Getter Is Gone,Alex Lopez,Rising Up,Rising UpAlex Lopez,Light It Up,Rising UpKyle Culkin,Why Me,Pork Chops & BluesKyle Culkin,By The Blues,Pork Chops & BluesMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueMisty Blues,Listen,None More BlueTom Craig,I Like Soul In My Blues,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,You Made A Good Man Go Bad,Good Man Gone BadValerie June ft. Carla Thomas,Call Me A Fool,Valerie June,Why The Bright Stars Glow,DexterAllen,Can't Live Without You,Keep Moving OnDexterAllen,F.A.B.U.L.I.S.T. Woman,Keep Moving OnTOKYO TRAMPS,I'll Stay And Take Care Of You,I'm A TigerTOKYO TRAMPS,Long Day,I'm A TigerSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Nowhere To Go But Up,Nowhere To Go But UpSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Random Walk Start All Over Aga,Nowhere To Go But UpPopa Chubby,Another Day In Hell,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,No Justice No Peace,"""Tinfoil Hat"""Hilary Scott,"Free Country (2020 Remix, Remaster)",KaleidoscopeHilary Scott,And Just (2020 Remaster),KaleidoscopeMaria Muldaur with Tuba Skinny,I Go For That,Let's Get Happy TogetherMaria Muldaur with Tuba Skinny,Swing You Sinners,Let's Get Happy TogetherThe Halley DeVestern Band,Boil,Money Ain't TimeThe Halley DeVestern Band,Mighty Love,Money Ain't TimeNeil Barnes,I Don't Hurt Anymore,Bald GuyNeil Barnes,Funny But I Still  Love You,Bald GuyRob Stone,Jack You're Dead,Trio In TokyoRob Stone,What Am I Living For?,Trio In TokyoRed's Blues,Hands Off,Broke Down in the Fast LaneRed's Blues,Howlin' Winds,Broke Down in the Fast LaneDamon Fowler,Wanda,Damon Fowler,Alafia Moon,Alafia MoonJohn-Paul Jones Group,Blue Ruin ( Right Now ),Broke In Bridge CityJohn-Paul Jones Group,Ballad of the Nine,Broke In Bridge CityThe Hungry Williams,Get Your Hat,Brand New ThingThe Hungry Williams,Where's My Baby?,Brand New ThingAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,AJ Crawdaddy,Mean Man,Steppin' Out!Sam Morrow,Heartbreak Man,Concrete And MudSam Morrow,Paid by the Mile,Concrete And MudGrandaddy Short Leg,Take Me Down,Firewater Sessions VOL IIGrandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIHustle Souls,Montana,Daydream MotelHustle Souls,Which Way,Daydream MotelEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEARTEMMA WILSON,WONT BE LONG,LOVEHEART 

This is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. Artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Steve Cropper,The Go-Getter Is Gone,Steve Cropper,Heartbreak Street,Rebecca Downes,Night Train,Stripped BackLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionTom Craig,My Turn To Cry,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,You Made A Good Man Go Bad,Good Man Gone BadDamon Fowler,Alafia Moon,Alafia MoonAJ Fullerton,The Forgiver & The Runaway,The Forgiver and The RunawayThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,Ways And Means,Dance Songs For Hard TimesSwift Silver,Ain't Wrecked Yet,Swift SilverMary Karlzen,Something That I Missed,ShineRandy McAllister,8 RELAX WATCH THE CRASH,PAPERBAG SALVATIONHustle Souls,Which Way,Daydream MotelSam Morrow,Quick Fix,Concrete And MudSam Morrow,Rosarita,Gettin' By On Gettin' Downmakingascene,Sam Morrow - Americana - E Corn,Sam Morrow,Heartbreak Man,Concrete And MudSam Morrow,Paid by the Mile,Concrete And MudAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,Valerie June ft. Carla Thomas,Call Me A Fool,Valerie June,Why The Bright Stars Glow,Grandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIKatarina Pejak,Weeping Wind,Joe Lewis Band,Broken Angel Of The Delta,Up NextMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueMICHELE BIONDI,Down by the river,DOWN BY THE RIVERThe Hungry Williams,Get Your Hat,Brand New ThingThe Hungry Williams,Where's My Baby?,Brand New ThingJohn-Paul Jones Group,Ballad of the Nine,Broke In Bridge CityJohn-Paul Jones Group,Blue Ruin ( Right Now ),Broke In Bridge CityEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEARTSunday Wilde,Wondering If He Might (Featuring Harpdog Brown),Peace In TroubleSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Don't Pray Me No Prayers When I'm Gone,Nowhere To Go But UpThe Hitman Blues Band,You Cant Say No,"Not My Circus, Not My Monkey"Neil Barnes,I Don't Hurt Anymore,Bald GuyPopa Chubby,No Justice No Peace,"""Tinfoil Hat""" 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Featuring The Hungry Williams This is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. Artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Steve Cropper,The Go-Getter Is Gone,Steve Cropper,Heartbreak Street,Rebecca Downes,Night Train,Stripped BackLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionTom Craig,My Turn To Cry,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,One Way Love Affair,Good Man Gone BadDamon Fowler,Alafia Moon,Alafia MoonDamon Fowler,Wanda,AJ Fullerton,The Forgiver & The Runaway,The Forgiver and The RunawayThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,Ways And Means,Dance Songs For Hard TimesSwift Silver,Ain't Wrecked Yet,Swift SilverMary Karlzen,Something That I Missed,ShineRandy McAllister,8 RELAX WATCH THE CRASH,PAPERBAG SALVATIONHustle Souls,Which Way,Daydream MotelThe Hungry Williams,Stick a Pin in the Voodoo Doll,Brand New ThingThe Hungry Williams,It's Raining Outside,Brand New Thingmakingascene,The Hungry Williams,The Hungry Williams,Get Your Hat,Brand New ThingThe Hungry Williams,Where's My Baby?,Brand New ThingAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,Valerie June ft. Carla Thomas,Call Me A Fool,Valerie June,Why The Bright Stars Glow,Grandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIKatarina Pejak,Weeping Wind,Joe Lewis Band,Broken Angel Of The Delta,Up NextMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueMICHELE BIONDI,Down by the river,DOWN BY THE RIVERSam Morrow,Paid by the Mile,Concrete And MudSam Morrow,Heartbreak Man,Concrete And MudJohn-Paul Jones Group,Ballad of the Nine,Broke In Bridge CityJohn-Paul Jones Group,Blue Ruin ( Right Now ),Broke In Bridge CityEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEARTSunday Wilde,Wondering If He Might (Featuring Harpdog Brown),Peace In TroubleSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Don't Pray Me No Prayers When I'm Gone,Nowhere To Go But UpThe Hitman Blues Band,You Cant Say No,"Not My Circus, Not My Monkey"Neil Barnes,I Don't Hurt Anymore,Bald GuyPopa Chubby,No Justice No Peace,"""Tinfoil Hat""" 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Featuring The John Paul Jones GroupThis is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. Artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Steve Cropper,The Go-Getter Is Gone,Steve Cropper,Heartbreak Street,Rebecca Downes,Night Train,Stripped BackRebecca Downes,Wave Them Goodbye,Stripped BackLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionEG Kight,Burned,The Trio SessionThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,Ways And Means,Dance Songs For Hard TimesThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,Crime To Be Poor,Dance Songs For Hard TimesSwift Silver,Ain't Wrecked Yet,Swift SilverSwift Silver,Belleville Blues,Swift SilverRandy McAllister,8 RELAX WATCH THE CRASH,PAPERBAG SALVATIONRandy McAllister,9 WAITING BONES,PAPERBAG SALVATIONHustle Souls,Which Way,Daydream MotelHustle Souls,Montana,Daydream MotelJohn-Paul Jones Group,Better Be Yourself,Broke In Bridge CityJohn-Paul Jones Group,Youth Is Wasted ( On The Young ),Broke In Bridge Citymakingascene,jp jones,John-Paul Jones Group,Ballad of the Nine,Broke In Bridge CityJohn-Paul Jones Group,Blue Ruin ( Right Now ),Broke In Bridge CityAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,Valerie June ft. Carla Thomas,Call Me A Fool,Valerie June,Why The Bright Stars Glow,Grandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIGrandaddy Short Leg,Take Me Down,Firewater Sessions VOL IIKatarina Pejak,Weeping Wind,Joe Lewis Band,Broken Angel Of The Delta,Up NextMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueMICHELE BIONDI,Down by the river,DOWN BY THE RIVERTom Craig,One Way Love Affair,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,My Turn To Cry,Good Man Gone BadMary Karlzen,Something That I Missed,ShineAJ Fullerton,The Forgiver & The Runaway,The Forgiver and The RunawaySam Morrow,Paid by the Mile,Concrete And MudSam Morrow,Heartbreak Man,Concrete And MudThe Hungry Williams,Where's My Baby?,Brand New ThingThe Hungry Williams,Get Your Hat,Brand New ThingEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEARTSunday Wilde,Wondering If He Might (Featuring Harpdog Brown),Peace In TroubleSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Don't Pray Me No Prayers When I'm Gone,Nowhere To Go But UpDamon Fowler,Alafia Moon,Alafia MoonDamon Fowler,Wanda,The Hitman Blues Band,You Cant Say No,"Not My Circus, Not My Monkey"Neil Barnes,I Don't Hurt Anymore,Bald GuyPopa Chubby,No Justice No Peace,"""Tinfoil Hat""" 

Making a Scene Presents the PODCAST of LIVE from the Midnight Circus Indie Blues Double Shot Show!This is the Voice of Indie Blues, the future of the blues. An Indie Blues double shot of artists who embrace the diversity of the blues that always has and still is being created from it's roots. These artists understand the blues is a living art form that is driven by innovation and creativity. These are the Indie Blues Artists!Steve Cropper,The Go-Getter Is Gone,Steve Cropper,Heartbreak Street,Rebecca Downes,Night Train,Stripped BackRebecca Downes,Wave Them Goodbye,Stripped BackLeRoux,Lifeline Redux,One Of Those DaysLeRoux,Don't Rescue Me,One Of Those DaysEG Kight,You Just Don't Get It,The Trio SessionEG Kight,Burned,The Trio SessionThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,Ways And Means,Dance Songs For Hard TimesThe Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band,Crime To Be Poor,Dance Songs For Hard TimesSwift Silver,Ain't Wrecked Yet,Swift SilverSwift Silver,Belleville Blues,Swift SilverRandy McAllister,8 RELAX WATCH THE CRASH,PAPERBAG SALVATIONRandy McAllister,9 WAITING BONES,PAPERBAG SALVATIONHustle Souls,Which Way,Daydream MotelHustle Souls,Montana,Daydream MotelAJ Crawdaddy,Love & War,AJ Crawdaddy,That's What Love Will Do,Steppin' Out!Valerie June ft. Carla Thomas,Call Me A Fool,Valerie June,Why The Bright Stars Glow,Grandaddy Short Leg,Chicken Fingers,Firewater Sessions VOL IIGrandaddy Short Leg,Take Me Down,Firewater Sessions VOL IIKatarina Pejak,Weeping Wind,Katarina Pejak,Shoot Me Baby,Joe Lewis Band,Broken Angel Of The Delta,Up NextJoe Lewis Band,Do Drop Inn,Up NextMisty Blues,Down In Lenox Town,None More BlueMisty Blues,Listen,None More BlueMICHELE BIONDI,Down by the river,DOWN BY THE RIVERMICHELE BIONDI,Right now,DOWN BY THE RIVERTom Craig,One Way Love Affair,Good Man Gone BadTom Craig,My Turn To Cry,Good Man Gone BadMary Karlzen,Something That I Missed,ShineMary Karlzen,Try To Find,ShineAJ Fullerton,Cherry Red,The Forgiver and The RunawayAJ Fullerton,The Forgiver & The Runaway,The Forgiver and The RunawaySam Morrow,Paid by the Mile,Concrete And MudSam Morrow,Heartbreak Man,Concrete And MudThe Hungry Williams,Where's My Baby?,Brand New ThingThe Hungry Williams,Get Your Hat,Brand New ThingJohn-Paul Jones Group,Ballad of the Nine,Broke In Bridge CityJohn-Paul Jones Group,Blue Ruin ( Right Now ),Broke In Bridge CityEMMA WILSON,BORDER SONG,LOVEHEARTEMMA WILSON,I NEEDED SOMEBODY,LOVEHEARTSunday Wilde,Wondering If He Might (Featuring Harpdog Brown),Peace In TroubleSunday Wilde,One Day We Will (Featuring Harpdog Brown),Peace In TroubleSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Don't Pray Me No Prayers When I'm Gone,Nowhere To Go But UpSmiling Jack Smith & The New Panama Limited,Random Walk Start All Over Aga,Nowhere To Go But UpDamon Fowler,Alafia Moon,Alafia MoonDamon Fowler,Wanda,The Hitman Blues Band,You Cant Say No,"Not My Circus, Not My Monkey"The Hitman Blues Band,Everybody But Me,"Not My Circus, Not My Monkey"Neil Barnes,I Don't Hurt Anymore,Bald GuyNeil Barnes,Funny But I Still  Love You,Bald GuyPopa Chubby,Someday Soon (A Change Is Gonna Come),"""Tinfoil Hat"""Popa Chubby,No Justice No Peace,"""Tinfoil Hat"""  

Deborah Tannen, author of the hugely influential best seller, You Just Don’t Understand, swaps stories with Alan about conversations that went wrong; and talks about her new book, Finding My Father: His Century-Long Journey from World War I Warsaw and My Quest to Follow Support the show: https://www.aldacommunicationtraining.com/podcasts/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Krystal and Paul the comedians are back talking about 'Thanksgiving 91' Episode 10 of Roseanne Season 4. We also talk about the otters of Edinburgh, televisions in pubs and reflect  on most used lines in movies.  You Just Don't Get It, Do You?: https://youtu.be/4KoKWf6pLs8 We're Not So Different, You and I: https://youtu.be/GH0YPXb49 Subscribe and Review on iTunes! CreamedCornPod on Facebook! CreamedCornPod on Twitter! CreamedCornPod on Instagram! Krystal's Twitter! Krystal's Instagram! Krystal Evans Comedy! Paul's Twitter! Paul McDaniel Comedy!  Our theme song is by Tom Urie. Follow him on Twitter! Tom Urie's Twitter 

Wellness and Nature pairs as perfectly as peanut butter and jelly. Getting into Nature is often an all-natural remedy for many of life’s ills, but the Great Outdoors has not always been nice to Black People. On today’s episode, we are tackling the stereotype of why Black people don’t camp (and other similar stereotypes) to see where they came from, why they persist, and how we can fight to dead them. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is 1. Alana- Serius Innovation- Black Owned Performance Gear Brand with a commitment to innovation and excellence (www.serius.com) 2. Jac- No Tox Life (@notoxlife)- Mother & Daughter team making vegan body + home products(notoxlife.com)Keep Up With Latria Grahamwww.latriagraham.com@LatriaGraham Read We’re Here. You Just Don’t See Us (& the follow up article, Out There, Nobody Can Here You Scream)https://www.outsideonline.com/2296351/were-here-you-just-dont-see-ushttps://www.outsideonline.com/2416929/out-there-nobody-can-hear-you-screamFind us on Instagram: @blackandyellowpodcastAlana J. Webster: @renegadeoffunJacklyn Chung Young: @jacklynchungyoungEmail us: podcastblackandyellow@gmail.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Latria Graham is a writer living in South Carolina. Her work has appeared in Outside, Garden & Gun, The Guardian, and The New York Times. Her latest essay is "Out There, Nobody Can Hear You Scream." “My goal as a person—not just as a writer—is to be the adult that I needed when I was younger. That’s why I go and talk to college classes. That’s why I write some of these vulnerable things, to let people that are struggling know that they’re not on their own. … I have to be unmerciful to myself, I think, in order to do it. I really do try to dissect myself and my mistakes. And just kind of say, Here’s the full deck of my life. Take from it what you need. But I’m not holding out on you.” Thanks to Mailchimp for sponsoring this week's episode. Show Notes: @LatriaGraham latriagraham.com 10:00 Going Hungry (Kate M. Taylor • Anchor • 2008) 32:00 "The Dark Knight Unmasked" (SB Nation • Jan 2016) 37:00 "We're Here. You Just Don't See Us." (Outside • May 2018) 37:00 "Out There, Nobody Can Hear You Scream" (Outside • Sept 2020) 48:00 "How an E-Bike Got Me Riding Again After 20 Years" (Bicycling • Jul 2018) 1:03:00 "A Dream Uprooted" (Garden & Gun • Apr/May 2020) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Deborah Tannen, a world-renowned professor in linguistics and known for her best selling book "You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation", joins Navin to discuss how sometimes just listening isn't enough.

Long before Deborah Tannen became a bestselling author and internationally renowned linguist at Georgetown University, she was a young girl who adored her father—profoundly influenced by his gift for writing and storytelling. In her riveting memoir, FINDING MY FATHER—her most personal and revealing work yet—Tannen embarks on the poignant, yet perilous, quest to piece together the puzzle of her father’s life. Reading journals he kept as a young man, she uncovers secrets not even she could’ve expected—secrets that force Tannen to rethink her assumptions about her father’s life, her parents’ marriage, and the story she for decades told herself about her parents’ love story. Beginning with his astonishingly vivid memories of the Hasidic community in Warsaw, where he was born in 1908, Tannen traces her father’s journey: arriving in New York City in 1920 at 12; quitting high school at 14 to support his mother and sister by working in a factory; through a vast array of jobs, including prison guard and gun-toting alcohol tax inspector; to eventually establishing a thriving law practice and running for Congress. Tannen follows her father through the trials of immigration, the Depression, the American Communist and Labor Movements—and the thicket of relations among men, women and sex, so different in his time than in her own. FINDING MY FATHER is a daughter’s stunning labor of love: a tribute to her father and the near century that he lived. But even more, it’s an unflinching account of a daughter’s struggle to see her father more clearly, to know him more deeply, and to unearth a more truthful story about her family—and herself. DEBORAH TANNEN is the acclaimed author of You Just Don’t Understand, which was on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly four years; the New York Times bestsellers You’re Wearing THAT? about mothers and daughters and You Were Always Mom’s Favorite!, about sisters; and many other books. A professor of linguistics at Georgetown University, she is a frequent guest on national television and radio, including 20/20, The Oprah Winfrey Show, NBC’s Today, and NPR’s Fresh Air and 1A. She has written for and been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, USA Today, Newsweek, Time, and Harvard Business Review, among many others. She lives with her husband in the Washington, D.C., area. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/steve-richards/support

What happens when you combine A.I. with human intelligence? One answer is that you get Unbabel, a machine translation service on a mission to solve one of humanity’s most vexing challenges: language barriers. At Unbabel, the ultimate goal is to be able  to communicate with anyone, anywhere in the world regardless of their native language. But to achieve that lofty goal we need data, we need translators and we need them to work together. João Graca is the Co-founder and CTO of Unbabel and on this episode of IT Visionaries, he discusses how his company is working to bring those two sides together to get closer to a future when we can rely on machine translation. Key Takeaways A Long Way to Go: While there has been a lot of progress with machine translation, there still is a long way to go. Translation services, like Google Translate, have the ability to comprehend words and sentences, but understanding full phrases and rare words remains a struggle. Unbabel works in real-time with machine translation and in-house translators to efficiently translate emails and marketing materials We Need Data and Need it Now: One of the biggest challenges when it comes to machine translation is the lack of data, especially in uncommon languages. Data from popular languages are used to help decipher sentences and phrases. When we don’t constantly have an influx of data, that challenge becomes greater. You Just Don’t Understand: if we don’t utilize both data and translators to grow machine translation, the intelligence will continue to be stagnant. The biggest issue right now is companies hiring in-house translators, which is not efficient, doesn’t increase the amount of open source data, and is incredibly expensive for companies. --- IT Visionaries is brought to you by the Salesforce Customer 360 Platform - the #1 cloud platform for digital transformation of every experience. Build connected experiences, empower every employee, and deliver continuous innovation - with the customer at the center of everything you do. Learn more at salesforce.com/platform

Are You Struggling To Write Content Sometimes? You Just Don't Know What It Should Be About? Don't Worry I've Got You Covered...Here's A Simple Strategy For Endless Content Creation So You Never Have To Crack Your Head On Writing Content!

I read the Us Court of Appeals case Thomas v. Chicago Park District on https://caselaw.findlaw.com/us-7th-circuit/1193655 html. I reference the books of author Debbie Ford (see "Why Good People Do Bad Things: How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy" and the book of Deborah Tannen (see "You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation". --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/FreePressMediaPressInc./support

It’s only two letters long, but the word “no” can be one of the hardest words to say out loud. In this episode, we talk about why no is every bit as important a word for a creative as yes. We’ll talk about earthworms, the trifecta of yes, how to strengthen your no muscle and Christmas candles. Then we interview the international bestselling “anti-guru” Sarah Knight, author of the No F*cks Given guides and ask her these two questions: 1) How do you decide when to say no? And 2) What’s the best way to say no? We’re interested in your answers to these questions, too. Episode Notes:  The Craft of Science Writing: Selections from The Open NotebookPoetry of Presence: An Anthology of Mindfulness PoemsRosemerry’s book Charity: True Stories of Giving and ReceivingRosemerry’s book Celebration: The Christmas Candle Book with Poems of LightVeronica Dewey, costume designer extraordinaire David Plotz’s trick for saying no (which he admits he stole from his wife, Hanna Rosin, and her friend, the writer Margaret Talbot)Sarah Knight (photo of Sarah by Alfredo Esteban)Sarah’s article Just Say F*ck No!Sarah’s F*ck No page To buy her most recent book, F*ck No: How to Stop Saying Yes When You Can’t, You Shouldn’t or You Just Don’t Want To: visit Amazon, Barnes & Noble or Indiebound. This is a public episode. Get access to private episodes at emergingform.substack.com/subscribe

12/31 Episode: Just in time for the New Year, “anti-guru” Sarah Knight shows how saying “yes” a little less might vastly improve your life. She joins us to discuss her latest book, F*ck No! How to Stop Saying Yes When You Can’t, You Shouldn’t, or You Just Don’t Want To, the fifth in her internationally bestselling self-help series of “No F*cks Given Guides.” Then our editors offer up their reading recommendations for the week, with books by Kaya Doi, Andrew Fukuda, and the Washington Post.

“It doesn't matter where we are today. What matters is the decisions we make right now to make a better tomorrow.” –Justin Schenk   We often get caught up in others successes and end up forgetting who we are and what we set out to become. Sometimes we think that because others are successful at being themselves, we should mimic that. True success comes from us being our best selves. Today’s episode is the story of a man whose definition of success may not be what you have in mind but certainly, what you want to have. Justin and Shirley talk about how important failure and being YOU, is to building success. It’s a conversation you won’t soon forget!     Let’s Go Create! with Shirley:  Website  Email  Facebook Twitter  Instagram  LinkedIn  Telephone:  480-570-5720 Book:  Get What You Want From Your Man: A Guide to Creating the Relationship You Deserve    Highlights: 01:59 Something Fun to Do Turns Into A Big Journey 09:11 Don’t Apologize For Who You Are 13:34 You Already Have It, You Just Don’t Realize It 20:56 Self-Serving and Unconditional Giving 26:00 3 Success Creators 31:49 The Why’s in a Positive Light 35:04 How to Truly Impact Other People 36:01 You Are Where You’re Supposed to Be

You Just Don't Get It in Tisha B'av by Rabbi Daniel Kalish

A video of “Red: A Crayon’s Story” can be found HERE. “5 So he came to a Samaritan city called Sychar, near the plot of ground that Jacob had given to his son Joseph. 6 Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired out by his journey, was sitting by the well. It was about noon.7 A Samaritan woman came to draw water, and Jesus said to her, “Give me a drink.” 8 (His disciples had gone to the city to buy food.) 9 The Samaritan woman said to him, “How is it that you, a Jew, ask a drink of me, a woman of Samaria?” (Jews do not share things in common with Samaritans.)[a] 10 Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God, and who it is that is saying to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.” 11 The woman said to him, “Sir, you have no bucket, and the well is deep. Where do you get that living water? 12 Are you greater than our ancestor Jacob, who gave us the well, and with his sons and his flocks drank from it?” 13 Jesus said to her, “Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again, 14 but those who drink of the water that I will give them will never be thirsty. The water that I will give will become in them a spring of water gushing up to eternal life.” 15 The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I may never be thirsty or have to keep coming here to draw water.”16 Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come back.” 17 The woman answered him, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You are right in saying, ‘I have no husband’; 18 for you have had five husbands, and the one you have now is not your husband. What you have said is true!” 19 The woman said to him, “Sir, I see that you are a prophet. 20 Our ancestors worshiped on this mountain, but you[b] say that the place where people must worship is in Jerusalem.” 21 Jesus said to her, “Woman, believe me, the hour is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. 22 You worship what you do not know; we worship what we know, for salvation is from the Jews. 23 But the hour is coming, and is now here, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for the Father seeks such as these to worship him. 24 God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in spirit and truth.” 25 The woman said to him, “I know that Messiah is coming” (who is called Christ). “When he comes, he will proclaim all things to us.” 26 Jesus said to her, “I am he,[c] the one who is speaking to you.”27 Just then his disciples came. They were astonished that he was speaking with a woman, but no one said, “What do you want?” or, “Why are you speaking with her?” 28 Then the woman left her water jar and went back to the city. She said to the people, 29 “Come and see a man who told me everything I have ever done! He cannot be the Messiah,[d] can he?” 30 They left the city and were on their way to him.” — John 4:5-30 NRSV Open our hearts and our minds,so that we can understand the fullness of your Word.Fill us with the light of the Holy Spirit,and bless the servant you have chosen,to share the Word proclaimed today.In the name of Christ, the Word revealed. Amen. When I was studying in seminary – grad school training for ministers – one of my professors always used to say that each reading has at least 70 faces – a truth she had inherited from a wise Rabbi who had taught her. I think of that like facets in a diamond – every time we sit down to read and study Scripture, the Holy Spirit has something different to teach us, a new side or facet or face to a multi-dimensional story. And this story from John of the woman at the well is no different: I have done an entire Lenten series – 6 weeks - on this one passage of Scripture, because of its richness. So today I could preach on how this passage legitimizes women in ministry, preaching and proclaiming the Gospel of Jesus…but I won’t. I could reflect on how this scripture is about building community by crossing gender, racial, and social boundaries to share the love of God with everyone…but that isn’t quite for today. Today I want to spend some time leaning into the story of the unnamed woman of Samaria. In the story told in John’s gospel, Jesus has just had his secret night meeting with Nicodemus (wealthy educated Jew who could not understand) and he and his disciples have left Jerusalem, travelling on their way to Galilee. In the verse right before this, most translations read, he had to travel through Samaria. You see, but the Greek reads, it was necessary. This is not a semantic detail – Samaria is not exactly on the way to Galilee. Yet, it was necessary for Jesus to travel into Samaria, though perhaps not for a geographical purpose.[1] Now, what of Samaria? Not a Jewish place – Jesus and his disciples are foreigners here, both religiously and racially. Not only that, these are rival people – that is why the story of the good Samaritan is such a scandal – to Jews, people of Samaria were on the wrong side of everything, they were outcast, despised.[2] And this anonymous woman? She is likely unnamed to focus our attention on the fact that she is Samaritan, not Jew – the women who are named in this Gospel are all Jewish (Mary, Jesus’ mother, Mary Magdalene). And we know that she has had five husbands plus the partner she is currently living with. For many years, mostly beginning with the Puritans, this has been understood to mean that she has a scandalous past – and maybe she does. But this five-husbands business is likely not pointing to a sexually provocative past. What is more socially probable is that she was barren.[3] Women who didn’t bear children were divorced, cast aside, abandoned. Maybe she is a widow as well. We don’t know exactly, but what we do know, is that never in this story does Jesus give her a lesson in morality or even offer her his forgiveness for her past – she does not need it. He does see her need, and that need is belonging. The truth of her situation is that she is marginalized, ostracised, holding deeply the pain of abandonment and barrenness. She is isolated. Disconnected. And likely not because of anything she had control over. This woman could not make herself into what society told her she should be. She was alone. -- Remember that story I told to the children? “Red” was alone. Red was marginalized, ostracized. Red could not fit into the expectations of his parents, his teachers, family, friends, peers. They saw what he should be. He was red, he just wasn’t trying hard enough. And we know this story from our own lives don’t we? We wear labels, each one of us. Labels of how we should be as a man or a woman, as a Mom or a Dad, as a teacher, a carpenter, a grandparent, a preacher, an adult, a spouse, a professional, an elder; we could go on and on. There are a lot of “shoulds,” weighing heavily on each one of us. Pushing us further away from one another, further away from the healing that comes through connection, relationship, community. We feel the weight of the should – you should eat less chocolate; you should save more money; you should get off your phone you should spend more time with your family; you should get more exercise; you should yell less; you should should shouldAnd when we aren’t living up to the shoulds? We pull away – or are pushed away – and we either put on a perfect outside or we lose our connection with community. Red could not make himself into what those around him told him he should be. Red was alone. Until. Red was alone until he met a new friend who asked a different question. The purple crayon didn’t try to fix or change him, she just invited him into relationship and saw Red as he was. Not trying to change but giving him the space to express himself as he was made – which, ironically, made space for a new identity to emerge: from a place of shame and brokenness to purpose-filled and free. The Samaritan woman was alone.Until. She was alone until she met a new friend who asked a different question.Jesus didn’t try to fix or change her, but invited her into relationship. They engage in this back and forth about living water: is she naïve, or playing along with him as a part of her wit? She is perceptive, bright – the conversation moves quickly from the mundane, step-by-step, over the barriers with which she erected to protect her inner self, until she is in a rather intimate conversation with Jesus. As it turns out, Jesus is not some stranger who knows his theology accosting her at Jacob’s well, he knows her intimately, and accepts her as a worthy discussant.[4] The woman is a quick study, and we see Jesus bring her to a new level of understanding of who he is: from thirsty Jew to strange water purveyor to prophet…[5] From there, she presses forward into this theological dialogue with Jesus regarding the acceptable place for worship – something Jews and Samaritans had disagreed over for centuries. This back and forth bringing her to yet another level of understanding…could he be, Messiah? And Jesus makes himself fully known to her with the words, “I am.” He reveals that the presence of God is before her. It is the first “I am” statement in this Gospel. Jesus makes God known to this woman at the well and, as a result, makes her a co-witness to his work in the world. -- Jesus sees and validates her, and what happens? She drops her pot – leaves behind her water jar to run off, in joy, to share this revelation. She leaves behind a key piece of her old identity. This new-found relationship with Jesus makes room for her identity to evolve. She sheds the labels of marginalization and abandonment and assumes a new identity as preacher and centre-point of a brand-new movement in the Samaritan community. In John’s Gospel, salvation means restored relationship, it means belonging. When Jesus meets and shares with people, when Jesus heals them, it is so they can get back to their place of belonging in the community. And because of this unnamed woman of Samaria, we know that we too have a place to belong. Because of her we know that no matter who we are, no matter our place in society, not matter the boxes we have been put into or the corners we have been assigned to, God, as revealed in Jesus, is for us too. No more ‘shoulds,’ no more labels. Except the one that matters the most: beloved child of God. -- Red was alone. The Samaritan woman was alone. There are times when we too feel alone – isolated by others or by our own shame or fear of what we have done or not done or by who we are. But Jesus sees us. Jesus calls us into relationship, stripping off the false or harmful tags that we ourselves and others put on us. Jesus claims us as his own, making room for us to put down the pots of our old selves. Neither Red nor the Woman at the Well could’ve done it on their own. This is not a pull yourself up by your bootstraps situation. It isn’t redefine your identity and begin again. Jesus, as Christ or crayon, goes out of his way in his travels, to sit down at the well and wait for us. He knows us. He wants us. And he is ready to engage in creating an intimacy with us to unbind us from the threads or wrappers that constrict who we think we are and make wide the path to freedom for the person he knows we are. Are we ready to recognize his invitation? To engage in that witty dialogue? Are we ready to have our minds opened to a new understanding? Are we ready to put down our pots and venture into the world with the label beloved child of God? I pray that we might move from this place today, leaving behind our water jugs and into the newness of life in Christ.Can I get an Amen?[1] As per Karoline Lewis via the “Sermon Brainwave” podcast on workingpreacher.org [2] Kysar, 180 and Sloyan, 52-53.[3] More from Karoline Lewis.[4] Spencer, “You Just Don’t Understand (or Do You?)” from A Feminist Companion to John Vol. 1 (Cleveland: Pilgrim Press, 2003), 35.[5] From Ian Ramsey via Culpepper, The Anatomy of the Fourth Gospel, 139.

NOTE: This post originally appeared in Techcrunch. Reading Leena Rao’s recent article on Techcrunch about the personalization revolution, you get the sense that the tech world is waiting for a bus that isn’t coming. Rao quotes well-known industry experts and luminaries describing what needs to happen for e-commerce to finally realize the promise of personalized shopping, a future where online retailers predict what you’ll want to buy before you know yourself. You can read the Nir and Far blog post on: Personalized eCommerce Is Already Here, You Just Don't Recognize It https://www.nirandfar.com/personalized-ecommerce-is-already-here/ Nir & Far, a podcast about business, behaviour and the brain by Nir Eyal. If you enjoy this podcast, please subscribe on iTunes and leave an iTunes review. It will greatly help new listeners discover the show. Please visit my website Nir and Far for other info about my writing, books and teaching: http://www.nirandfar.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/nirandfar/support

The way friends talk to one another can either bring them closer or create distance. When it comes to women’s friendships, author Deborah Tannen says women talk more often (than men), at greater length, and about more personal topics. Men’s friendships tend to be more focused around activity. Either way, friendships between women, men, and women and men can be gratifying…and complicated. Tannen talks about the patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships at different stages of our lives. She’s the author of "You’re the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Women’s Friendships", "You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation", and many other books. Tannen is also a linguistics professor at Georgetown University. Show Notes: Email your comments to aspenideastogo@gmail.com. The views and opinions of the speakers in the podcast do not necessarily reflect those of the Aspen Institute.

Behind the Scenes of China Music Industry with Kenny Bloom, 40-year Music Guru and “Zero-man” for Warner in China许多人猜测下一次中国企业赴美IPO将是腾讯音乐，其估值已经奖金200亿。中国的音乐市场发生了什么？今天我们邀请了带华纳兄弟进入中国的第一人并有着40多年在全球娱乐媒体领域工作经验的Kenny Bloom作为演讲嘉宾。Kenny曾在20世纪80/90年代一手打造了摇滚明星崔健，联合发行了湖南卫视最早也是最流行的音乐比赛“超级女声”。在本期播客中，Kenny带我们回顾了20世纪80年代至今中国音乐产业的发展历程，并分享了他对市场各个方面的观察。下一个机会在哪里？Kenny认为是技术。Tencent Music, China's answer to Spotify, is expected to be the next big U.S. IPO from China with its soaring valuation at approximately $20 billion. What is happening in China music and entertainment industry? Today we have Kenny Bloom who has 40-year experience in the global entertainment media space as the “Zero-man” for Warner in China to walk us through the history of China music industry from 1980s until now and share his observations from every angle of the market. Once controlling 85% of the international music market in China and producing the #1 Chinese rock star Cuijian, Kenny is telling us the next big opportunities to succeed in this competitive market.“If you think you can come to China and become a concert promoter, don't come; if you want to start a record label, don't come; but if you get innovative technology, this is a really great place to use as a launchpad to test.”Show notes:[2:53] Introduction of Kenny Bloom[4:42] Reception and Censorship[7:12] What were the Unique Opportunities that Kenny Saw?[11:22] Having a Simple Business Model that Actually Works[15:25] Evolution and Valuation of Baidu and other Big Boys [21:05] Is there Room for Creativity and Ideas in Today's Music Market? [24:08] You Just Don't Make Money off the Content [28:06] Getting Visibility in a Massive Chinese Market[29:14] Consumer is the Biggest Winner[31:40] What are the Opportunities in this Industry Now?[34:07] Chinese Bands and Music Outside of ChinaMany thanks to our host Ryan Shuken and Oscar Ramos, guest Kenny Bloom, editor David and Geep, producer Eva Shi, organizer Chinaccelerator and sponsor People Squared. Be sure to check out our website www.chinaccelerator.comIf you like us, please give us a 5-star review and share with your friends!Follow us on Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/company/the-china-startup-pulse/Email us: team@chinastartuppulse.com

Tencent Music, China's answer to Spotify, filed for U.S. IPO with its soaring valuation at approximately $20 billion in 2018. What is happening in China music and entertainment industry? Today we have Kenny Bloom who has 40 years experience in the global entertainment media space as the “Zero-man” for Warner in China to walk us through the history of China music industry from the 1980s until now and share his observations from every angle of the market. Once controlling 85% of the international music market in China and producing the #1 Chinese rock star Cuijian, Kenny is telling us the next big opportunities to succeed in this competitive market. “If you think you can come to China and become a concert promoter, don't come; if you want to start a record label, don't come; but if you get innovative technology, this is a really great place to use as a launchpad to test.” Show notes: [2:53] Introduction of Kenny Bloom [4:42] Reception and Censorship [7:12] What were the Unique Opportunities that Kenny Saw? [11:22] Having a Simple Business Model that Actually Works [15:25] Evolution and Valuation of Baidu and other Big Boys [21:05] Is there Room for Creativity and Ideas in Today's Music Market? [24:08] You Just Don't Make Money off the Content [28:06] Getting Visibility in a Massive Chinese Market [29:14] Consumer is the Biggest Winner [31:40] What are the Opportunities in this Industry Now? [34:07] Chinese Bands and Music Outside of China Many thanks to our host Ryan Shuken and Oscar Ramos, guest Kenny Bloom, editor David and Geep, producer Eva Shi, organizer Chinaccelerator and sponsor People Squared. Be sure to check out our website www.chinaccelerator.com If you like us, please give us a 5-star review and share with your friends! Follow us on Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/company/the-china-startup-pulse/ Email us: team@chinastartuppulse.com

Celebrate – Earth Wind & Fire. 2. A Woman’s Worth – Alicia Keys. 3. Beautiful Woman – Boyz to Men. 4. Twenty Sixty Four – Avery*Sunshine. 5. It’s Ok – Dave Hollister. 6. I Don’t Wanna – Carol Riddick with Black Thought. 7. Secrets – Az Yet. 8. Luv U – BOSCO. 9. Skies Wide Open – Brian Culbertson & Avant. 10. When We Love – Jhene Aiko. 11. Crazy – Darien Brockington. 12. Wi-Fi – Conya Doss. 13. You Just Don’t Know – Case

Dystopian Relating to or denoting an imagined place or state in which everything is unpleasant or bad, typically a totalitarian or environmentally degraded one. On this week's podcast, we discuss how we would survive in a dystopian universe. What would your plan be? Are there any films that present this scenario in a completely plausible way? We also take a look at this genre in detail, as in: why do so many people enjoy films about the collapse of society as we know it? Also this week: Lego movie possibilities, gender flipping in remakes, a round of Movie Innuendo that will turn you Inside Out, new releases including Deadpool 2, and much more. Join in as Aaron and John take the week off while Amanda Sink, Angela Wallock, can Courtney Davenport take over The HO on this latest episode of The Hollywood Outsider! Discussed on this episode of The Hollywood Outsider Movie and TV Podcast: (0:00 – 55:40) Film and TV Discussion: Movie trailers with false advertising, gender flipping in remakes, LEGO possibilities, and more } You Just Don't Get It (55:41 – 1:10:29) Movie Innuendo | What's This Movie | Upcoming Releases: Book Club, Deadpool 2, Show Dogs, Cargo (1:10:30 – 2:04:37) From the Outside In: Surviving In A Dystopian Universe (2:04:38 – 2:18:00) Recommendations | Closing | Outtakes Email topic suggestions or episode reactions to feedback@thehollywoodoutsider.com Please support The Hollywood Outsider and gain immediate access to exclusive bonus content, including a BONUS monthly episode and Bad Movie Night, by visiting com/ TheHollywoodOutsider Be sure to join our Facebook Group Join our Fantasy Movie League! Find our league, then use the password ‘buypopcorn’ Do your shopping via our Amazon Link!

With two festivals in three weeks, we have watched a LOT of movies recently. So much that something dawned on us: in all of these journeys of the human spirit, why does the hero never walk away? Think about it, does it make a hero less heroic if they reach a point where it’s just too much for them? Were there moments in a movie or TV show where a hero going forward seemed to be the absolutely wrong choice? Our topic this episode revolves around this very concept of when is it OK for a hero to walk away? Also this week: Lord of the Rings TV is going to be very expensive, Steven Spielberg doesn’t believe Netflix should be eligible for Oscars, reviews of Pacific Rim: Uprising and Unsane, upcoming releases, and another wrong of You Just Don’t Get It. Join in on our conversation and listen to the latest episode of The Hollywood Outsider. Discussed on this episode of The Hollywood Outsider Movie and TV Podcast: (0:00 – 24:25)Film and TV Discussion: Is a Lord of the Rings TV series really worth 500 million dollars, does it matter if Deadpool 2 test screenings are great, and Steven Spielberg causes an uproar over his comment that Netflix should not qualify for Oscars (24:26 – 46:14) You Just Don’t Get It | Spoiler-free reviews of Pacific Rim: Uprising and Unsane | Upcoming Releases: Ready Player One, Acrimony, God’s Not Dead: A Light in Darkness, Outside In, and Beast of Burden | What’s This Movie (46:15 – 1:13:01) From the Outside In: When is it time for the hero to walk away? (1:13:02 – 1:22:56) Recommendations | Closing Email topic suggestions or episode reactions to feedback@thehollywoodoutsider.com Please support The Hollywood Outsider and gain immediate access to exclusive bonus content, including a BONUS monthly episode and Bad Movie Night, by visiting com/ TheHollywoodOutsider Be sure to join our Facebook Group Join our Fantasy Movie League! Find our league, then use the password ‘buypopcorn’ Do your shopping via our Amazon Link!   Listen and Subscribe for FREE to a new episode every week of The Hollywood Outsider Movie and TV Podcast at: You can now listen on Spotify and I Heart Radio! Apple App: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/the-hollywood-outsider/id1013174753?mt=8 Google App: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.thehollywoodoutsider.android.thehollywoodoutsider iTunes: http://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hollywood-outsider/id454075057 Stitcher: http://app.stitcher.com/browse/feed/17997/episodes RSS Podcast Feed: http://thehollywoodoutsider.libsyn.com/rss TuneIn Radio: http://tunein.com/radio/The-Hollywood-Outsider-p638432/

How does the way that you communicate affect your ability to connect, and be understood? Can you change your communication style to become a more effective communicator? We don’t all use language the same way, and in today’s episode, we’re going to see exactly how those differences play out in our interactions with the people we care about most. And by the end of the conversation, you’ll have some strategies for bridging the communication gap in any situation when things aren’t going quite as you had planned. Our guest is Deborah Tannen, Georgetown Professor and author of You Just Don’t Understand, the classic book on gender differences in communication. Her latest book, You’re the Only One I Can Tell, is about the language of friendships between women. Deborah Tannen’s specialty is how we use language - and identifying exactly where differences in the way that we communicate connect us, and get in our way. And, as always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Join us in the Relationship Alive Community on Facebook to chat about it! During the course of my conversation with Deborah Tannen, we also mention a few other Relationship Alive episodes that will help you with your communication: Episode 59: How to Make Difficult Conversations So Much Easier - with Sheila Heen Episode 22: Essential Skills for Conscious Relationship - with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt Episode 69: How to Be Completely Alive in Your Relationship - with Hedy Schleifer Resources: Check out Deborah Tannen's website Read Deborah Tannen’s Book - You Just Don’t Understand and her latest book You’re the Only One I Can Tell You can also visit Deborah Tannen’s author page on Amazon FREE Relationship Communication Secrets Guide www.neilsattin.com/language Visit to download the transcript, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the transcript to this episode with Deborah Tannen Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out Transcript: Neil Sattin: Hello and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive. This is your host, Neil Sattin. We’ve spoken a lot about communication on this show - and in today’s episode we’re going to cover how the specific language that you use affects your relationships. The words that you choose matter - and today you’re going to find out why. Neil Sattin: This podcast was actually born, in some ways, more than 20 years ago, when I was in a class in college called the Psychology of Interpersonal Relationships. In this class, I gathered with a bunch of students there, in a circle, and we basically dealt with the shit that came up between us, right then and there. If you’ve ever heard of an encounter group - well, that’s what it was. One of the books that was on the required reading list was called “You Just Don’t Understand”  by Deborah Tannen - about the different ways that Men and Women communicate. This book, after it came out, spent 4 YEARS on the NYT bestseller list. So you can imagine the effect that it’s had on our culture, and what we’ve come to know about language, and gender, how we create meaning and understanding with each other. When I started Relationship Alive, one of the people I knew I had to interview was Deborah Tannen, and it took us two years to coordinate this time together. She’s here on the heels of releasing her new book, “You’re the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Women’s Friendships” - and I’m so excited to have her here with us today to discuss how language impacts our connections - and what you can do to improve the way you communicate with the people who matter to you most. Neil Sattin: If you’d like to download a complete transcript for today’s episode, please visit neilsattin.com/language, or you can always text the word “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions. Deborah Tannen, thank you so much for joining us today on Relationship Alive. Deborah Tannen: Hi. What a pleasure and privilege to speak with you. Neil Sattin: Thank you so much. The feeling, as you can tell, is mutual. Let's start with You Just Don't Understand. We were talking for a few moments before we officially got started, and, as you mentioned, it's a classic. It's something that has defined how we look at gender dynamics in communication. I'm wondering for you what you've noticed about how that book as impacted people in the world around you, and also how you've seen it affect culture? Neil Sattin: I know that for me, personally, not only did it give me a much deeper understanding of what was happening and how I communicated, but it made me want to change. It made me want to shift so that I could find more common ground, whether I was talking to men in my life, women in my life, and at this point, people all over the spectrum of gender. So, how have you seen that book shift what is actually happening in our culture? Deborah Tannen: It has been overwhelming to notice how much of what I wrote about in that book has become part of the landscape, I would say, of how people think about relationships and conversation. I guess the most striking one is, "Why don't men ask directions?" When I put that in the book, I don't think anyone had talked about it, but a number of the interviews that I had very early on had picked up on that. Then it became so much a part of the culture people were sending me cocktail napkins, "Real men don't ask directions"; jokes going around, "Why did Moses wander in the desert for 40 years?"; maybe one of my favorites, "Why does it take so many sperm to find just one egg?" Deborah Tannen: You hear a little bit less about that now that we all have GPS devices, but it really doesn't change things that much. Just recently, this is really funny ... My research method is asking people about their own lives, listening to people. More and more for the current book I actually interviewed people, but in the beginning I didn't do what. The idea of them not asking directions, which is one example that a friend of mine gave me, I just asked her, "What do you and your husband argue about?" Deborah Tannen: She mentioned, "He won't stop and ask directions. We get lost and it frustrates me." Deborah Tannen: I was talking to just that friend not long ago and asked her, "Well, now there's a GPS that doesn't happen, right?" Deborah Tannen: She said, "It still happens. He doesn't want to use the GPS. He says, 'I don't need her to tell me where to go. I know how to go.'" Deborah Tannen: So, that's a long answer. I think just the idea that women and men might have different ways of speaking has become almost like it's just accepted for many people, clearly not everybody. Several of the scenarios I talked about are now very much a part of the public knowledge-base, or something like that. Neil Sattin: Yeah. Do you want to touch for a moment on ... Because there, of course, have been critiques of your work. What have you seen in terms of when people stand up and say, "Nah, this isn't really how it is?" Where are they typically coming from? Deborah Tannen: Oh, yes. Absolutely. I should say, I guess for maybe about a year after the book came out, my book was very frequently criticized, especially in the academic world. It was criticized for generalizing, for saying all women and men are alike, for downplaying, or some people thought I was ignoring power differences. Deborah Tannen: By the way, that led me to write the book The Argument Culture, because it was so surprising and shocking to me that people in the world of academia ... which had been my intellectual home for so many years at that point and really my oasis, you might say, in this wild world. I loved my academic job, my academic colleagues. So, it was shocking to me that what I saw a search for truth was leading people to accuse me of saying things I had never said. Led me to ask, "Why would they do that?" Deborah Tannen: I ended up writing the book The Argument Culture in which I just dissected a bit our tendency to approach everything as a fight, a debate, an argument. Then, you're motivated to look for arguments to make the other person look bad, ignore things the other person actually wrote or said that would make them look good. So that's the background. Deborah Tannen: To answer those complaints, obviously I know that there are power differentials in our culture between women and men. In fact, I do write about how the style differences that we often have -- and I never say all women all men; I always say tend to, many, often, most -- how these very style differences can lead to reinforcing the power of those who use the styles that I associate with men. I actually wrote a whole book about the workplace, that was the next book after You Just Don't Understand. That book was called Talking From 9 to 5, and I showed there how styles that are common among women when used in the workplace lead them to be underestimated, to be seen as less confident than they often are, to be overlooked, to not receive credit that they deserve. Clearly, there's also just sexism, so I would never say that all discrimination is simply based on style, obviously; that's not the case, just that this is one thing that has a role to play there. Deborah Tannen: As for generalizing, there's almost an irony there. I did not start out as an expert on gender; my field was cross-cultural difference. My dissertation and my first book were about New York as compared to California conversational style. I grew up in New York City, Eastern European Jewish background -- I think that's relevant -- and was getting my PhD at Berkeley in California, and my dissertation was an analysis of a conversation involving three New York Jewish speakers and I was one of them, and two Californians who are not Jewish, and one British woman, who actually was half-Jewish but I don't think that affected her style much. Deborah Tannen: I had so much to say about how cultural influence had an effect on the ways people were using language in conversation, and therefore the effects of their ways of speaking on the conversation. I had written much about Greek compared to American conversational styles. I had lived in Greece and I speak Greek. So, clearly I knew that gender was only one of many influence on our styles. Deborah Tannen: The first book that I wrote for general audiences, and, maybe kind of interestingly, the one I really had ambitions for, the one that I thought, "This is going to change the world; people are going to see they're thinking psychology and sometimes it's linguistics, it's use of language," that book was called That's Not What I Meant. It was about all of the ways that our conversational styles, our ways of speaking, our ways of using language, are influenced by ethnic background, regional background, class background, age. How all these influences on style affected our ways of speaking, having conversations, and of course the way people see us, the way we see them. Clearly I knew that gender was not the whole story. Neil Sattin: Yeah. I think why we're here is to get more of the meat around the ways that we use language, how that has an impact. When I read You Just Don't Understand, I identified a lot with some of the more feminine speaking styles. Probably had to do with how I was raised and interacting with my mom. I don't know exactly, my dad was a psychologist so he encouraged me to talk about my feelings. There you have it. It probably doesn't take much more than that. Deborah Tannen: Yes- Neil Sattin: And- Deborah Tannen: Sorry. Neil Sattin: Go ahead. Deborah Tannen: Absolutely, yeah. I never actually would say feminine style, masculine style. I tend to say, "Ways of speaking associated with women, ways of speaking common among women, or men." As I said, although I would say something like, "Tend to, maybe, may, most." But, I think it seems to be the way our minds work, that people walk away thinking, "Women do this, men do that. This is feminine, that's masculine." But I would never put it that way, and you are so right, no two women and men are alike. Think of all the people you know. We've all got so many other influences on our style. Deborah Tannen: I'll give you an example right up front. One of the things that I wrote about in that book, and it traces back to my work in That's Not What I Meant, when I wasn't focusing only on gender, was the use of indirectness. So there was a conversation I discussed there, a couple are riding in a car and the woman turns to the man and says, "Are you thirsty dear? Would you like to stop for a drink?" Deborah Tannen: He's not, so he says, "No." Then later, when they get home, it turns out she's kind of frustrated. She had wanted to stop. It was the man who told me this anecdote and he said, "Why does she play games with me? Why didn't she just tell me she wanted to stop?" Deborah Tannen: My response was, "Well she probably didn't expect a yes/no answer. So if she said, 'Are you thirsty? Would you like to stop for a drink?' She probably expected you to say something like, 'I don't know, how do you feel about it?' Then she could say, 'I don't know, how do you feel about it?'" Then they could talk about how they both feel about it. If he ended up saying, "I'm kind of tired, do you mind if we don't?" that would have been fine. Or if he said, "Well, I'm not thirsty, but if you want to we could," that would have been fine, that would have been great. Deborah Tannen: That's where I began talking about message and meta-message. The meaning of the words, the message, was an information question, "Do you want to stop for a drink?" But the meta-message, what it means that she asks him in that way is, "I don't want to make a demand. I want to know how you feel about it before we make a decision." It's starting a negotiation, and then after you find out how everybody feels about it, you make a decision taking everybody's preferences into account. Deborah Tannen: When she gets an answer, "No," she hears a meta-message, "I don't care what you want, we're only going to do what I want." Of course, he didn't mean it that way; he had a different idea about how a conversation could go. He assumed he could say no and if she wants to she could say, "Yeah, well I'm thirsty. Do you mind if we stop?" That would have been fine with him too. It was these different ways of going about that. Deborah Tannen: Now, it's kind of interesting, I included that example in the book That's Not What I Meant. I repeated it in the introduction to You Just Don't Understand, in the context of saying, I think it was in the introduction, I had said, "Here's an example I had given. Both styles are equally valid." It had been included in a review of the book, it was actually a Canadian newspaper, I think, where they said, "So women have to understand how men mean it," and they didn't put the second part, "Men have to understand how women mean it." I use that to say it's very easy for people to hear my examples as one is right and the other's wrong, and I never take that position. I always take the position: Styles work well when they're shared and don't work well when they're not. Deborah Tannen: This is the long way of leading up to what I was going to say in answer to your question about generalizing. The conclusion of that whole discussion is that women tend to be more indirect when it comes to getting their way. That is, you have something you want, but you don't want to impose it so you open a negotiation. I have lots more examples of that in this new book about women friends, You're the Only One I Can Tell. I have lots of examples of how that creates problems between women and men, and just among women friends. So we can give examples of that if you're interested. Deborah Tannen: But, the very first paper I ever wrote and ever published in linguistics was based on conversations that I had been part of where I was the one who was direct, talking to a man who was indirect. My explanation was cultural differences. I thought of it at the time as American versus Greek, Greeks tend to be more indirect than Americans. Looking back, I would say the fact that it's a New York Jewish style, probably partially explaining my tendency to be more direct. All of this is by way of saying that not only are these generalizations not applying to everybody, but that even in my own experience something that is associated with women and is more typical of women in this country when it comes to getting your way ... I know because even the first paper I ever wrote, I instantiated the opposite style. Neil Sattin: Yeah, I'm just struck in this moment by how I think it would be common to assume that that means just kind of like what you were saying, that the direct style is more effective. So, when you're having communication issues in your marriage, let's say, try to be more direct. What I'm hearing in this moment is this question of how do we develop an appreciation for different styles of communication so that we're able to bridge the gap in styles more effectively. Deborah Tannen: I think the most important thing is to be aware of style differences. Being more direct might help, but being more indirect or attuned to indirectness might also help. I'll give you this example that came up in a class I was teaching at Georgetown, it was a graduate seminar and it was about workplace communication. Deborah Tannen: It came up that papers had been written -- Charlotte Linde is someone who wrote one -- analyzing interaction that is conversation in the cockpit of airplanes that led to accidents. These were studied in order to find out whether there were ways that the pilot and co-pilot were using language that could improve to prevent future accidents. There was one in which this was real. The pilot had not suspected a problem, the co-pilot had suspected the problem; he called attention to it but didn't say it in a direct way. He said it in a kind of indirect way, and so the pilot overlooked it and the plane crashed. This is the most extreme example of a negative result from indirectness. Deborah Tannen: In the class we were discussing that co-pilots were now being trained to be more direct. There was a Japanese grad student in the class and he said, "Well, why don't they just train the pilots to be more attuned to listen for indirect meaning?" It was not surprising to me that this came from a Japanese speaker. Much has been written about how indirectness plays a very significant role in Japanese communication, and there is lots written about the purpose that it serves, that people feel that they understand each other. You could say, maybe, a meta-message of understanding, of closeness, comes from the indirect communication. We understand each other so well, we can get meaning without having to say it outright. Deborah Tannen: In fact, someone named Haru Yamada, she was a student of mine who's written a book about Japanese compared to American communication, she says that the most highly valued communication would be translated into English as belly talk. That is silent communication, where you get your meaning across without having to put it into words at all. Deborah Tannen: So, I'm suspecting the people listening, depending on their own styles, and how they've been raised, and how they've come to view language, some are going to be thinking, "Yes! Yes! Yes! Indirectness is great." Others are thinking, "No, no, no! This is would be a better world if everybody just said what they mean." Deborah Tannen: I think it's really tricky because the ways we tend to communicate are self-evident. Can I give you an example of this? Neil Sattin: Yeah, please. Deborah Tannen: So, I showed up for a conference where I was going to be a primary speaker. Another friend of mine, her name was Judy, was also going to be a primary speaker. That conference organizer, when I arrived, said, "Judy is not going to give her paper. She called me this morning and she said, 'I'm coming down with something. I feel horrible. If you really need me I'll come, but I'm feeling very bad today.'" Deborah Tannen: The organizer said to me, "I told her, 'I need you to stay home and take care of yourself.'" Now, that's indirect, right? Deborah Tannen: I thought, "This is terrific. What a great example of indirect communication and how well it worked." I said to the organizer, "Hey, can I use that in my talk today?" Deborah Tannen: She said, "Yes. Yes, you should. It was excellent, perfect, direct communication." Deborah Tannen: Now, why did she think it was direct? Because the meaning was clear, and it worked. Judy felt better that she didn't have to make a demand, didn't have to let her friend down. The organizer felt better because she could feel that she made the choice to accommodate her friend. I have so many examples like that, where it just works so well. Deborah Tannen: But then, I also have examples (again, in my book about women friends) where it can lead to confusion if you have different styles. So here's an example. This was two women, they had gone to college together so they knew each other. A third person who had gone to college with them was in town visiting the one. When he was with her he said, "Hey, are you in touch with so-and-so? I understand that she lives here." Deborah Tannen: She said, "Yeah, I'm in touch with her." Deborah Tannen: "Hey, I'd like to see her, too." Deborah Tannen: "Okay," she said. "I'll find out if she's free." She called the friend, said, "So-and-so's in town. He'd like to see you. If you're free I can bring him over, would you like that?" Deborah Tannen: She said, "Yeah, sure. Bring him over." And she did. She thought everything was fine. The next day, she got a call from that friend and the friend was livid, "Why did you bring him over? I hate him. You know I hate him." Deborah Tannen: She was so puzzled. She said, "But you said I should bring him." Deborah Tannen: She said, "You should have known by the way I said it I didn't mean it." Now, that sounds insane for people who don't share the style, but it would have been self-evident to people who do. Deborah Tannen: I have one more example that's a self-example. I was talking to a friend- Neil Sattin: This is the I don't know much about that person? Deborah Tannen: Yes. Neil Sattin: I love this. Deborah Tannen: Yes. So, I was talking to a friend from South Carolina. I asked her about a guy that we had some slight dealings with but wasn't a close friend, and I asked her what she thought of him. She said, "I don't really know him." Deborah Tannen: I said, "I think he's a jerk." Deborah Tannen: She said, "That's what I just said." Deborah Tannen: I said, "Huh?" Deborah Tannen: So she explained, "In South Carolina, you cannot say someone is a jerk. You have to proceed on the assumption that if you knew him long enough you would find something to like. So, 'I don't really know him,' means, 'I haven't found anything to like about him.'" Deborah Tannen: Now, this made sense to me, and I believed her, but I was a little bit incredulous. But, luckily, before too long I had met someone who at a gathering for a first time, and he said he was from South Carolina. So I asked him, this is research opportunity now, I asked him, "What would it mean if you asked someone what they thought of someone, and the person said, 'I don't really know him'?" Deborah Tannen: He said, "That means he's a no good, no account." Deborah Tannen: The meaning was completely clear to him, would have been to someone else from South Carolina, was opaque to me. So I could complain, "That's no way to communicate, she should have been more direct." But think about it for a moment, being more direct would have made her come across to other people in South Carolina as an unacceptable person. I cringe to think what she would have thought of me if she didn't know me. When I say about somebody, "I think he's a jerk," I'm saying something that you simply cannot say in that culture. Deborah Tannen: There are ramifications of saying things directly and outright. The thought that you can reduce meaning to the message level and ignore the meta-message level, it's a fantasy. That's not how language works. We're judging people as people by the way they use language. Neil Sattin: That brings me to, I think, a really important question. Though, I have to, just as an aside, say that I'm not sure that there was anything more traumatizing to me as a three-year-old than coming to Maine, where I grew up but I was born in Tennessee. I learned how to talk in Tennessee and when I got to Maine there was a lot about how I communicated that people didn't seem to understand. Neil Sattin: I have very vivid memories of having to shift my language patterns, and also hearing things that people said, particularly the word "wicked" which people from New England will maybe laugh about. But, the first time I heard someone saying something was wicked something-or-other, I got freaked out because my only association with wicked was some horrible witch. It turns out that in Maine, anyway, wicked means more or less like "very". So if something's wicked awesome, then it's really, really awesome. So, just kind of a funny cross-cultural experience that I had. Neil Sattin: Anyway, so the important question, apart from my silly anecdote is: How do we tune in more to the meta-message, particularly in the moment when it's crucial to be understood? Deborah Tannen: It's a great question. I believe awareness of style differences is probably the best thing and the only thing that we can hope for. We are going to respond automatically, "You must mean what I would mean if I spoke in that way in this context." Now when styles are relatively similar, that's going to be okay, and probably most of the time. We're doing it every minute, every time we talk to someone and they say something, we have some automatic way that we think we know what they mean and draw conclusion about their intentions. Deborah Tannen: But, when something goes awry, when you have a negative response when you think they're reacting in a way that's kind of weird, the hope is that you could step back and ask yourself, "What's going on?" But it's tough to do, and then sometimes you can do what I call meta-communication, talk about the communication. Deborah Tannen: An example where I had to do this myself, and again, it's almost embarrassing because it's something I had written about for decades. But I had this op-ed in the New York Times about a month ago where I had a friend over for dinner and she kept offering to help, and then kept getting up and helping. I really didn't want her to and I kept telling her not to, and she kept doing it anyway. I was really frustrated. I was really rattled by it. Deborah Tannen: Normally, I wouldn't had said anything, but since I was writing this book about friends I felt like I needed to know her perspective. So, I meta-communicated; I talked to her about it. I told her how I had responded, how it bothered me that she was ignoring my telling her that I really didn't want her to help. She was astonished and explained to me that in her family were expected to help, and when people say, "I don't want you to help," they don't mean it. They mean something like, "You're a guest and you shouldn't help, therefore I appreciate it all the more when you do." Deborah Tannen: Now, I'd written extensively about indirectness, it still never crossed my mind that she thought I was being indirect, that she thought I didn't mean it. And, it never crossed her mind that I did mean it. But we solved it by meta-communicating, by talking about it. Deborah Tannen: I think many of us, maybe women especially, but probably all of us, don't like to introduce a contentious note into a relationship or a conversation. So, my impulse was not to tell her that what she was doing was bugging me, but I think it served both of us really well to have that conversation. I feel like my consciousness was raised. Any resentment I might have felt because I thought she was behaving in a way that made no sense, that dissipated. She tells me that it's a huge relief to her to know she doesn't have to do all the work when she goes to somebody's house for dinner. Neil Sattin: Yeah, yeah. I feel like there's this frame of reminding yourself not to take everything personally, especially when it's perplexing. To recognize, "Oh, this might not mean what I think it means. This person might not mean what I think they mean when they're making this request, or when they're saying something that I'm finding to be incredibly offensive, or hurtful, or scary even." Deborah Tannen: Well, realizing what the parameters are is helpful. For example, are you a good person by asking questions to show interest? Or are you a good person by not asking questions because they would be intrusive? So, again, coming from my book about women friends, a woman told her friend that her mother was in the hospital and then was hurt that the friend never asked. But they did meta-communicate and the friend said, "Well in my family that would be considered intrusive. People will tell you if they want to talk about something personal, but you shouldn't ask." Deborah Tannen: Or friends that were taking a walk, one was telling the other about a problem. She was listening, but when they passed something really pretty like a gorgeous flower, she said, "Oh, look at that." To her, that didn't mean, "I'm not listening. I'm not interrupting the story." It's kind of like you're at the dinner table and you're telling a story, and somebody needs the salt. They can murmur, "Pass the salt," they're not interrupting your story. Deborah Tannen: But the friend was hurt. She thought, "You're not listening to me." But the other friend was hurt because she so clearly was. If they could talk about that, realize for some people you can throw in interjections and it doesn't mean you're not listening; for other people you really can't, the listener should be quiet. So just knowing that these differences are common makes it possible to give a friend a benefit of the doubt, whereas beforehand it would be self-evident to you that your way of thinking about it is the only way to think about it. Neil Sattin: I have to say, in reading your latest book, You're the Only One I Can Tell, I had several moments where I was confused, actually. I think it was that I would read something and I'd be like, "Okay, that's the way it is." Then in the very next paragraph I'd be like, "Oh! Now this is how that thing completely malfunctions." It's interesting that there are really no hard, fast rules around how to communicate. What seems to be a hard and fast rule is "assume that there's more than meets the eyes". Neil Sattin: I'm curious about having those meta-conversations. Do you have hints about ways to invite people into it, particularly as, as so often happens when you're having that conversation, you're almost undoubtedly having it with someone who couldn't imagine how anything could be other than how they see the world? So, do you have hints on how to invite people into that level of conversation? Deborah Tannen: It's a good question. I guess I feel like the first thing is be aware that there are these differences, so that you can talk about it as a style and not as right and wrong. Then you have to be open to a compromise that might not be the one you would have chosen. People often ask me, this goes way back to You Just Don't Understand and the book before that, "Can people change their conversational styles?" Usually what they have in mind is sending their partner in for repair. They're not thinking, "How can I change my style?" Of course, they could if they wanted to. But they're thinking, "Can I get the other one to change their style?" Neil Sattin: Right. Deborah Tannen: So I think really, you can start by saying, "I want to talk to you about this because I think I might not completely understand your perspective." So, if you frame it as trying to listen and understand, I think that will be better. But you do have to realize, and this came up in my book about mothers and daughters called You're Wearing That?, and my book about sisters, which is called You Were Always Mom's Favorite, as well as friends. There were some women who felt you've got to talk about any kind of a problem or point of contention and work it out. There were others who felt talking about it is a problem in itself, "A friend who wants to constantly process is oppressive, and I don't want to be that person's friend." Deborah Tannen: Now, of course with sisters you can't say, "I don't want to be your sister," but you might distance yourself. But I definitely, in both contexts, talked to people who were frustrated because the friend or the sister didn't want to process, to talk about it. They felt you have to or you can't get past it. So in that context, I would try to raise awareness that it's quite legitimate. Other people feel talking about it only makes it worse, it brings up all the conflict that I felt in the first place, we're both going to end up stating our perspectives that makes the other one angry. Let's just let it lie, move on, and once the emotions have receded in some way, they may never go away, but receded into the background, then we'll just pretend it never happened. I think it often comes down to respecting others differences, and respecting that there could be more than one way of approaching both a problem or the interaction about it. Neil Sattin: Yeah, yeah. A classic relationship problem is one person being conflict avoidant and the other person being someone who engages. That's a set-up for so many problems that people have in relationship. I could see that both people getting to a point where they feel understood and feel resolution, how it would help to have acknowledgement that either one is okay, in both directions. We talked about this in an episode with Sheila Heen, who wrote the book Difficult Conversations as part of the Harvard Negotiation Project. We talked about how so much of getting past any sort of disagreement is really about the other person, so if you put yourself in your own shoes, it's your ability to help the other person feel like you understand them and like you want to understand them. Deborah Tannen: Yes, absolutely. I guess it's kind of like what I said earlier. I know many others are saying something similar, that often our idea of working something out is to convince the other person of our perspective. We want to talk, get them to understand us; but they want to talk and get us to understand them. So I think if we both come in with, "I want to understand your perspective. I want to listen to your perspective," the chances of coming out more happy on the other end are increased. Deborah Tannen: I know that psychologists have many methods for this that can be very effective, like actually articulate the other person's perspective. Because if you keep saying yours they're going to want to keep saying theirs and so you're going to want to say yours again. But if you each articulate the other's perspective, then you're starting with that mutual understanding and you won't have to waste your breath, trying to say your perspective over and over again. Neil Sattin: Right, right. Yes, and we actually, we had a great episode with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, talking about the Imago approach to that kind of dialogue. Hedy Schleifer was on talking about a different flavor of that. I'm curious, that idea that we could be trapped in this cycle of wanting to be understood, and how that drives people apart reminded me of the topic that you bring up in your book that is called complimentary schismogenesis. I'm not sure if I said that right. Deborah Tannen: You did. Neil Sattin: This idea that you can find yourself in a dynamic where you're driven further and further apart from the other person in the way that you're communicating. Deborah Tannen: Yes. That term comes from the anthropologist Gregory Bateson, but he used it for a cultures in contact. I've adapted it to everyday conversation. The idea is: If something is not going well, your impulse is try harder and do more of whatever you're doing. That can drive the other person into more and more extreme examples of the other style. Deborah Tannen: So, very quick examples. To start with, what we were doing with indirectness. Say you asked somebody, "Do you want to have lunch?" Deborah Tannen: They say, "Oh, I'm really busy this week." So you ask them again, and they say, "I'm not feeling very well this week." Deborah Tannen: You start to wonder, "Are they being indirect?" So you're going to try to solve it by making them be direct and say, "First you were busy, and then you didn't feel well, do you just not want to have lunch with me ever?" Deborah Tannen: Well, a person who started by being indirect probably cannot bring themselves to say, "I don't want to have lunch with you, ever." They will probably become more indirect. "Oh, gee, I don't know. It's just been a tough time now." Deborah Tannen: So you say, "Well, what is it?" They're going to get even more indirect. Deborah Tannen: Just a couple of other things that we haven't brought up before that are very prone to this complimentary schismogenesis. Let's say you're talking to someone, you tend to talk a bit more loudly than the other does, and they tend to talk a lot more softly. You might raise your voice to set a good example to let them know they should speak up. Well, you're now offending them even more so they're going to talk even lower because they want to set a good example for you. You're going to end up with one shouting and one whispering. You're talking more loudly than you normally would, they're talking more at a lower volume than they normally would in response to what the other is doing. Deborah Tannen: Something that turned out to be very important in a conversation with regard to cultural differences, not gender differences, is how long a pause is normal between turns? When this normal length of pause, when you're approaching it, you'll start to think, "Gee, I guess I should take the floor, the other one has nothing to say." But if your sense of pause is somewhat shorter, you're going to be interrupting. You're going to think the other person is done when they're not and they're going to start thinking you don't want to hear them talk, you only want to hear yourself talk, you're interrupting. Deborah Tannen: You're thinking, "What's wrong with this person? Do they not have anything to say? Do they not like me?" You're coming from Maine, speaking to me, who grew up in Brooklyn. I've got to be really careful and wait, perhaps, a longer length of time than would normally feel right to me, to make sure that you have nothing to say. You might have to push yourself to start speaking before feels completely comfortable. Otherwise, by complimentary schismogenesis, we end up in a situation where I'm doing all the talking and you never get a word in edgewise. Neil Sattin: I was going to ask you why you keep interrupting me? Deborah Tannen: Believe me, I've been holding it back. Neil Sattin: What are some other ... I like how we're flavoring this soup with possibilities in terms of what kind of meta-messages could be operating, what kind of styles could be operating. I'm wondering if there are others, in particular, that come to mind around how people talk to each other. Perhaps, the difference between rapport and reporting, that's one thing that comes to me. But I'm sure you have lots that have been like, "These are the things that we've got to be aware of, because they're most likely happening in your dynamics." Deborah Tannen: Yes, so a difference that I wrote about in You Just Don't Understand was rapport talk and report talk. So report talk is a conversation where really it's the message level meaning of the words that's most important and it's focused on information, impersonal information. Rapport talk is where a lot of what you're saying is to create social connection. It really doesn't matter that much what the specific answer is. I did, there, find that women probably tended to be more likely to do rapport talk in a situation where a man might do report talk. But this can happen between friends of the same sex, even at work. Deborah Tannen: I'll give you an example where, because I have a book about the workplace, it's called Talking From 9 to 5, where one person felt when you have a business meeting you should start with personal talk. The other ones feels, in a business meeting get right down to business that's report talk. Well, the one who is starting with general talk might give the impression, and I had examples where this happened, "Well, there really isn't anything important to talk about. There's nothing I have to pay that much attention to. This is just a social meeting." So then, when that person, the rapport talk person gets to the report talk, the other one has switched off, figures this isn't all that important because it's coming as an afterthought, would be an extreme example from the workplace. Deborah Tannen: I'll give you another example, too. It's kind of like rapport talk and report talk. One of the scenarios from the book You Just Don't Understand that really got a lot of attention, and I think has kind of become part of the culture, a conversation where a woman tells a man about a problem and he tells her how to fix it, and then she's frustrated. What I said about it in that book and what is often said about it is, "She didn't want a solution. She wanted to talk about it." Deborah Tannen: He's frustrated because he's thinking, "Why do you want to talk about it if you don't want to do anything about it?" Both are frustrated because someone they're close to, who should understand how they mean what they say, seems to be misjudging them. Deborah Tannen: I would actually say something somewhat different now, and in the book about women friends I do. I really wish for us to go back and think about that some more. How might the conversation go if it were women friends? Well, I tell you about a problem, you might say, "Gee, why do you think he said that?" And then, "Well, what did you say after he said that? What do you think you might do?" "Yeah, I would probably feel the same thing. I'd probably feel the same way, but what do you think of doing this?" Deborah Tannen: In the end, you do give advice. So when I say, "She didn't want a solution," that's probably not accurate. It's just that we don't want the solution right off the bat, because the very act of talking about it has a meta-message of caring. The fact that you're willing to spend time talking to me about my problem means you care about me. It's a kind of rapport talk. Deborah Tannen: Taking it as, "Here's a problem, I want a solution," that's approaching it as report talk. Perhaps the frustration is not so much that she didn't want a solution as that she didn't want it right off the bat, because the solution shuts down the conversation. Starting that kind of conversation was probably her motivation in the first place. Neil Sattin: Yeah. I'm getting the sense, and this comes up with another strategy that we don't really have time to talk about today called The Ways That We Energize Our Partners. But one element of this strategy, I think gets at helps us clarify meta-messages, which is for you to reflect how what someone is ... Let's see if I can say this well. Neil Sattin: Let's say you say something to me, for me to reflect back to you, "You just said this to me, and what that means to me is ... blank". I think it would be so interesting to use that to flavor a conversation, especially when you sense it going awry. So if you were in that typical scenario where let's say someone just wants to be heard first, before the fixing happens, if you were able to say in that moment, "Wow, you're offering me these solutions. What that means to me is you don't actually really want to hear about what's going on with me, you just want to get past it," it becomes an opportunity for the other person to say, "Well that's not what I meant at all." And at least gives you a window into that dialogue around meaning and how meanings can be misconstrued, and getting at what's important. Like you were just establishing that what's important is setting the stage of caring to help frame a conversation where then someone can actually contribute a solution to it. Deborah Tannen: Yes. That's why I feel that understanding these parameters, understanding that they can be different and often are different among speakers of the same language, that's what I see as essential. Then, once you have that understanding, you, and maybe you with a particular friend or partner, can come up with a way to handle it. Deborah Tannen: A quick example: There are many ways that my husband is not typical and I am not, and there are many ways that we are. For example, he's the one who likes to ask directions and I'd rather use waze or a map. But, this is one where he and I often get frustrated. He once said to me, "I know you don't want a solution, but it's too frustrating for me to listen to you go on and on when I know the solution. So, how about I tell you the solution and you listen. Then if you want to keep talking about it you can." Deborah Tannen: I think that's just as good a compromise as my teaching him to not give me the solution right off the bat. The key is, he and I both understand that this is a difference. Then, we can come up with all different ways of accommodating that difference. Neil Sattin: Yeah, I like that. I really like that. Because your latest book really focuses on friendship, and friendship is such an important part of feeling balance in our lives, feeling fed and supported by the community, I'm wondering if you can touch for a moment on the interplay of how we communicate with our friends versus how we communicate with our spouses, our beloveds? Deborah Tannen: Many of the patterns that I observed in considering conversations among friends were quite parallel to the kinds of things that happen in family relationships and romantic relationships. Some of the things that were different had to do with the level of choice that goes on with friends. This can be both good and bad. Deborah Tannen: As I said earlier, you can decide not to be a friend, you can't decide not to be a sister. You can decide to separate from a romantic partner, but that's quite a big deal, although cutting off a friendship with a same sex friend or other sex friend is also a very big deal. I have a lot to say about that because so many of the women that I interviewed, I interviewed 80 girls and women from this book, so many of them told me about cut-offs, or what we now call ghosting. A friend suddenly disappears, or they decided, "This friendship is really not good for me, I'm just going to cut it off." Deborah Tannen: Somebody pointed out to me, "With a romantic relationship, you kind of have to have that closing conversation, 'I don't think we should see each other anymore because ...'" Certainly if it's a marriage, or living together situation like that, you would have to say, "This isn't working." You would have to have that conversation. But it's so common among friends to just cut it off with no closing conversation, no, "I decided this isn't working for me because ..." So I think that's a huge difference. Deborah Tannen: I guess there's two ways to look at it. One is it was so hurtful when people told me that others had cut them off and they didn't know why. The not knowing why was really, really hurtful. On the other hand, you could say that it's one of the gifts of friendship that you have more volition, that you can decide, "This is causing me more pain than it's giving me pleasure and I want out." I guess you could think of it as a positive or negative thing, but that certainly is a big difference. Neil Sattin: Yeah, and I will say too that some of the more poignant moments in your latest book for me were when the circle did get completed, when people were able to follow up and tell those stories of what they discovered about why cut-offs happen. Deborah Tannen: Yes, and since it is such a common thing and the cause of so much hurt, I do have a bit about it. It could be ... Maybe this is something, in a way, about the whole book, or maybe about all my books, it's a great relief to know that something you've experienced has also been experienced by many other people. You're not alone, nobody's crazy, but these are inherent in human relationships. These cut-offs, yeah, sometimes someone would come back years later and say, "I was just going through a tough time then," or "I was cutting everybody off at that time." Deborah Tannen: I have an example of my own from high school. Very exciting when half a century later I actually found the person who had cut me off, and discovered that it actually wasn't anything I had done or anything she really was going through. It was her older brother who insisted that she end our friendship. Neil Sattin: Wow, yeah, I remember that- Deborah Tannen: I had actually written about that, that yeah, if you're a young person living at home, older people living with you who have that kind of power over you, sometimes they're the ones that make the decision. Often they're right; they may well see that a certain friend is not good for you. But on the other hand, sometimes they're just jealous. Neil Sattin: Yeah, plus I think it's worth highlighting in this moment that I think you might have the title for your next book: You're Not Alone and Nobody's Crazy. Deborah Tannen: Maybe that should be the title of every book. Neil Sattin: Deborah, before we go I'm wondering if we can just touch for a moment on the influence of digital communication on how we communicate? In particular, how much gets sacrificed through texting and Snapchatting? Maybe if you have some ideas on strategies other than, "Don't try to have any meaningful communication that way," which is often what I would just say, but strategies for people to help them sift through the possibility for missing the meta-message when it's just a few characters on your iMessage that's doing the communicating. Deborah Tannen: Yes, I do have a chapter on social media, so I'll just say a little bit from that chapter. I believe that all these social media ramp up both the positive and the negative of friendships. On the positive side, you can stay in much more constant touch. There's this sense of absent presence, so that you feel you're together even though you're not. You send these pictures, it's a way of saying, "Hey, look at that," and you feel as if you're together. Deborah Tannen: One of the big risks is fear of being left out. We all can be hurt if we discover that our friends are doing things without us. Women seem particularly sensitive to that kind of hurt. Well, with social media, your chances not only of knowing what they were doing, but of seeing pictures of what they were doing without you goes way up. It could be you missed it because maybe you were invited but you couldn't make it; maybe you missed it because you didn't check your phone in time; maybe you weren't invited. But the changes of being exposed to this and hurt by it are ratcheted up. Deborah Tannen: As you say, the risks of missing the meta-message, or mistaking the meta-message because you don't have tone of voice, facial expression, although we're extremely creative at using emojis, emoticons, memes, and pictures. There's more and more use of that. My students look at all the creative uses of ha, ha-ha, ha-ha-ha, lol, all these ways that we say, "Don't take what I just said literally." So, I think that people can be very creative about it. Deborah Tannen: Maybe one of the biggest risks is the sense that ... Again, it's a kind of conversational style difference. One friend thinks texting is a good way to talk about problems, the other thinks it's not so she gives minimal responses. The one who's talking about the problem that way thinks, "Where's my supportive, caring friend?" Deborah Tannen: Of course, I think you kind of implied this in your question, just the sense of overload. So many different platforms that you have to check, the fragmentation of attention, the temptation to be looking at your phone rather than the person that you're with. All of these are challenges that we have to be aware and find ways to overcome. Neil Sattin: Yeah, my hope is that as people become more sensitized to how it's affecting them, that it actually spawns even more authenticity and integrity. It's really calling people to the table to be more aligned in terms of how they communicate, because the consequences are so easily seen or experienced, of not being clear. Deborah Tannen: You know, I often find myself defending the use of social media, because I think it has a lot of positive things that we can lose track of. There are many people who can be more authentic when they're typing on a screen than if they're facing a person. Many people find it easier to reveal their real feelings, something personal, some emotion, when they don't have a person staring them down. Many close friendships have evolved, some who never meet, just by talking on the screen, Facebook or some other such medium, and reveal things they wouldn't reveal to somebody that's in the same room with them. Deborah Tannen: I think it's just a matter of awareness and finding what works, and tempering if you feel that things are becoming out of hand. But often those people who are looking at their screen rather than talking to you are really, importantly, avoiding being rude to the person who texted them and need that answer right away. So, a bit of it might be being more tolerant of that. But then, I know there are groups of people who when they get together they all put their phones in the middle, and then the first one who grabs his phone pays the bill. Neil Sattin: I love that. That's a great solution. I can already imagine the meta-meaning conversations. Like, "So, honey, when you're texting on your phone and we're in bed together, what that means to me is ... " Then you get to get more clear about it. Deborah Tannen: You certainly can have parameters that you agree on for your relationship. Neil Sattin: That's what we hope, that's what we hope. Well, Deborah, thank you so much for being here with us today. I'm just so appreciative of your time and your wisdom. For me it's just such a treat, considering how much of an impact your work had on me oh so long ago. It was really fun to revisit today, 20 something years later, and just see how your work has permeated the way that I think, the way that I communicate and interact, and the way that I hope to help others, both as a coach and through this podcast. So, just thank you so much for  being here with us today, and for such a vast contribution to our knowledge about how we communicate with each other. Deborah Tannen: Thank you so much, it's really been a great pleasure to talk to you. Resources: Check out Deborah Tannen's website Read Deborah Tannen’s Book - You Just Don’t Understand and her latest book You’re the Only One I Can Tell You can also visit Deborah Tannen’s author page on Amazon FREE Relationship Communication Secrets Guide www.neilsattin.com/language Visit to download the transcript, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the transcript to this episode with Deborah Tannen Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out  

If someone close to you is going through a divorce, you may not know what to say. Do they want to talk about it? You want to be helpful, but it can be tough to intuit what they need. For some, opening up about their divorce is healing. Others would rather talk about something else—or do something active. So, what is the best way to communicate with friends and family members about how you can best support them? Deborah Tannen is a New York Times bestselling author and Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University. Her work focuses on how the language of everyday conversation impacts relationships, and she is best known for You Just Don’t Understand, the book that brought gender differences in communication style to the forefront of public awareness. Deborah is a frequent guest on national media, including The Today Show, PBS New Hour, Oprah and NPR. Her work has been featured in Newsweek, TIME and The Harvard Business Review, among many other publications. Deborah’s latest book, You’re the Only One I Can Tell, explores the language of women’s friendships. Today, Deborah joins Katherine to discuss the positive and negative aspects of communicating with friends and family around the divorce process. She explains the concept of metacommunication, describing how you can best support friends who are going through difficult circumstances. Deborah also shares a gentle way to deal with someone whose talk is unhelpful and addresses the dynamics between mothers and daughters around divorce. Listen in for Deborah’s insight on why some value talk while others are cautious of it—and learn how to accept differences in communication to best serve the people you love. Topics Covered How talk serves as the basis for women’s friendships How unhelpful talk plays into our fears about divorce Why some value talk more while others are cautious The value of metacommunication in difficult contexts Why a specific offer is better than ‘anything I can do’ How to gain an awareness of conversational styles Why activities can be just as healing as talk How to deal with a friend whose talk is unhelpful The dynamics between mothers and daughters around divorce How the opportunity to divorce recognizes women’s humanity Why friends feel rejected when crises are kept secret The healing power of talk in difficult circumstances The differences among male and female best friends The role of talk in making people feel understood Connect with Deborah Tannen Deborah’s Website: deborahtannen.com Resources Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate by Gabrielle Hartley and Elena Brower: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Apart-Radically-Positive-Separate/dp/006268938X Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765

For our first Movie Battle Royale of 2018, we decided to climb aboard the Oscar train and look at some of the Best Picture winners of decades past. If you took a single decade, and looked at all 10 winners, which film would stand the test of time to be crowned the greatest film of that respective decade? So, this week, we’re discussion the Best Picture winners of the 1990s. A decade ripe with classics, but only 10 verified winners of The Academy Award’s top prize. Amanda Sink from SMIRK joins us to debate and decide on which one film rises above the others to win the title! Will it be Dances with Wolves, Silence of the Lambs, Unforgiven, Schindler’s List, Forrest Gump, Braveheart, The English Patient, Titanic, Shakespeare in Love, or American Beauty? You’re about to find out. Also this week: fans can now have a Friday the 13th vacation, The Dark Tower and Blair Witch head to TV, another round of You Just Don’t Get It, and spoiler-free reviews of Mute, Game Night, and Annihilation. Join in on our conversation and listen to the latest episode of The Hollywood Outsider.   Discussed on this episode of The Hollywood Outsider Movie and TV Podcast: (0:00 – 17:48)Film and TV Discussion: Friday the 13th offers fans a vacation at Camp Crystal Lake, The Dark Tower and Blair Witch are coming to TV screens. (17:49 – 40:57) You Just Don’t Get It | Spoiler-free reviews of Mute, Game Night, and Annihilation (40:58 – 45:55) Upcoming Releases: Death Wish, Red Sparrow, Midnighters, B: The Beginning, Ladies First (45:56 – 1:45:49) From the Outside In Topic: The Best Picture Movie Battle Royale – 90s Edition (1:45:50 – 1:57:41) Recommendations | Closing Join in our Annual Oscar Contest HERE! Email topic suggestions or episode reactions to feedback@thehollywoodoutsider.com Please support The Hollywood Outsider and gain immediate access to exclusive bonus content, including a BONUS monthly episode and Bad Movie Night, by visiting com/ TheHollywoodOutsider Be sure to join our Facebook Group Join our Fantasy Movie League! Find our league, then use the password ‘buypopcorn’ Do your shopping via our Amazon Link!   Listen and Subscribe for FREE to a new episode every week of The Hollywood Outsider Movie and TV Podcast at: You can now listen on Spotify and I Heart Radio! Apple App: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/the-hollywood-outsider/id1013174753?mt=8 Google App: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.thehollywoodoutsider.android.thehollywoodoutsider iTunes: http://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hollywood-outsider/id454075057 Stitcher: http://app.stitcher.com/browse/feed/17997/episodes RSS Podcast Feed: http://thehollywoodoutsider.libsyn.com/rss TuneIn Radio: http://tunein.com/radio/The-Hollywood-Outsider-p638432/

It’s February. The month of love and heartache. And we’re a podcast focused on entertainment. Put those together and what do you get? An episode focused on the most emotional relationships in television, of course! We discuss some of those relationships in TV that either broke or healed our aching hearts. Perhaps they filled our cups with joy, or maybe their angst flowed over into our own realities. It’s an intriguing conversation and there is no better time to discuss it. Also this week: Star Wars gets another trilogy, Deadpool once again leads the charge in marketing strategy, reviews of Entanglement, The Ritual, and 15:17 to Paris, and much more. Join in on our conversation and listen to the latest episode of The Hollywood Outsider. Discussed on this episode of The Hollywood Outsider Movie and TV Podcast: (0:00 – 29:24)Film and TV Discussion: The Game of Thrones showrunners take on Star Wars, Fifty Shades of Grey’s trilogy is complete, and Deadpool 2 teaches studios how to market (29:25 – 47:41) You Just Don’t Get It | Spoiler-free Reviews of Entanglement, The Ritual, and The 15:17 to Paris (47:42 – 54:29) Upcoming Releases: Black Panther, Mad to Be Normal, The Housemaid, Mom and Dad | What’s This Movie (54:30 – 1:30:49) From the Outside In Topic: The Most Emotional Relationships on Television (1:30:50 – 1:46:15) Recommendations | Closing Email topic suggestions or episode reactions to feedback@thehollywoodoutsider.com Please support The Hollywood Outsider and gain immediate access to exclusive bonus content, including a BONUS monthly episode and Bad Movie Night, by visiting com/ TheHollywoodOutsider Be sure to join our Facebook Group Join our Fantasy Movie League! Find our league, then use the password ‘buypopcorn’ Do your shopping via our Amazon Link!

In this episode Dr. Carmen interviews Dr. D’vorah Grenn. Dr. D’vorah served as a Chair and Executive Co Faculty in the Women and Spirituality Masters Program at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, now called Sofia University. She is also the cofounder of the Spiritual Guidance Network, and on the founding advisory board of the Kohenet Priestesses Training Institute. She is here to share her experiences of women in spirituality, sacred space and laughing together. Dr D’vorah has a strong commitment to help women be joyful about being women. The interview will start with chanting and a minute of silence. Enjoy! What you will Learn: • Dr. D’vorah’s story: how she started to understand that there is more to life than work and an artificial set of values, and moved towards a sense and awareness of spirituality. • The difference between religion and spirituality and why people are searching for wholeness and peace in their lives. • The goddess movement and how Dr. D’vorah became passionate on the subject in the liminal space between leaving corporate and going to this other life. • How we can repress our spirit, through work, drugs, social commitments and expectations • The importance and truth of finding out who you are, your true self and inner wisdom and your own power, voice and intuition • Dr. D’vorah’s advice for somebody who struggles with emotions. “Fall down seven times, get up eight.” Buddhist proverb “No beginning is too small.” Leonard Bernstein “To achieve great things, 2 things are needed: a plan and not quite enough time.” • Why women feel overwhelmed by having to be taking care of others as well as doing full time jobs, despite being raised to take care of others. • How finding time, even 10 minutes, for ourselves in a ritual practice can sustain us. • The common fears of not being enough, perfectionism, speaking up, making a mistake that is caused by the social and cultural conditioning of being a woman. • Where to start to start the healing process by overcoming this fear • How the media profits from making us feel not enough • Why you sometimes can’t confide in your family and why you need to have a supportive women’s community and find a place that is healing. • The importance of knowing the background of the person you are going to talk to and why you should check them out first so you know they’re trustworthy • What the tree of life practice is • What to do if you don’t have space or safety for an alter or place to create some meaning • Daily habits that contribute to our emotional success and spiritual practices to get mind, body and spirit aligned. • Why you have to go out of your way to look for independent media so that you get the news of what’s happening that isn’t being reported on by the mainstream media • The importance of sitting and going within, and of consuming art that inspires you, taking concrete action to volunteer to help others for a cause you are passionate about. • The value of phone calls and face-to-face meetings and starting conversations when advocating for something and being a political and spiritual activist You can contact D’vorah at dvorahgrenn@me.com or call 650 863 1986 Her website is also: http://spiritualguidancenetwork.org/dvorah-grenn/ Mentioned Resources: “Lilith’s Fire” by D’vorah Grenn http://amzn.to/2r0eMd1 “Women who run with the Wolves” by Clarissa Pinkola Estes http://amzn.to/2q4AU5B “Shakti Woman” by Vicki Noble http://amzn.to/2qpt7Cs “Goddesses in Everywoman” by Jean Shinoda Bolen http://amzn.to/2q1Xn5t  “Journey through the Wilderness” Rabbi Yael Levy http://amzn.to/2piiy42  “The Dance of Anger” by Harriet Lerner http://amzn.to/2qQ8tLN  “You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation” by Deborah Tannen http://amzn.to/2qpx6ii  “Sister Outsider” by Audre Lorde http://amzn.to/2qPNclu  “Stepping into Ourselves” by Anne Key and Candace Kant, eds http://amzn.to/2qY0Wa3  “The Myth of Women’s Masochism” by Paula Caplan http://amzn.to/2q20Jpg  Yoga Nidra meditations on YouTube  

The guys notice the TOTAL mistake at their photo shoot... Robin's hilari-ASS Lionel Richie gags... Lovely Mawlid about her husband... cancelling plans chatter... Bella's water bottle... Engineer Jish and his new sign... the guys pretend to be receptionists... George's amazing laugh... George is a maths geni-ASS... RB and George have a breathing competition... chat about revenge on an ex... a nutter calls... Robin's embarrassing "I thought it was a child but it was a dwarf" story... the competition sends the guys a picture... Engineer Jish' is a criminal... ARE YOU READING THIS??... I NEED HELP... HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!.. SEND HELP I'VE BEEN KIDNAPPED... 5 random facts... YOU JUST DON'T CARE... Robin and the rhyming game with his 5 year old... SERIOUSLY SEND HHHEEEELLLLPPP... Bella can't read capital letters... and a load more BUT YOU DON'T CARE... You're heartless if you haven't sent HELP!!!

This episode is all about being inspired by other people and their achievements. We decided to invite a guest, well-known language learning hero Benny Lewis from Fluent in 3 Months.Benny has done a lot for the promotion of language learning, and these days he gets hundreds of emails from his fans. In our interview, you'll find out:How does it feel to be the big language author and influencer man?Who is the mystery man that got Benny excited about language learning?Does "Benny the Irish Polyglot" want people to say that he is impressive?How can we share the love of language and stop people from asking us how many languages we speak?What is the most important difference Benny thinks he's made in the lives of language learners?Which polyglots and community members have made an impact to Benny?What did Barbie, Shakira and Beyoncé do to get us where we are today?You also get to find out a lot about how Benny is keen to be promoting many others in the community, and how even a speaker of over 10 languages can be thrown when they're "hit with another language"."The people around us are the ones that can inspire us even more than those YouTube superstars."And what about being someone who runs their own business and travels the whole world learning languages? Benny is a pioneer, but knowing the real situation is a different story.We hope you enjoy this awesome interview with Benny. Tell us what you think as well! Hashtag #cllp on Twitter, or simply comment below and let's chat about our heroes!GREAT LANGUAGE-LOVING PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS SHOWWhy not see them all at once in the fun Skype Me Maybe video!Richard SimcottLuca LamparielloMoses McCormickSusanna ZarayskyEllen JovinJudith MeyerKris BroholmTOP LINKS FROM THIS EPISODELindsay cheats on Creative Language Learning Podcast with the Actual Fluency PodcastYou Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in ConversationCarl Sagan, passionate astronomerNotes on "Turn that envy into inspiration" from Lindsay and KerstinLean In by Sheryl Sandberg Special Guest: Benny Lewis.