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In this heartfelt and insightful episode of Doing Divorce Different, host Lesa Koski reconnects with renowned family therapist and author Dr. Becky Whetstone to unpack the inner work that supports thriving marriages. Together, they explore why personal healing is essential—not just helpful—for relationship success.From the lingering effects of childhood trauma to the power of daily habits, Dr. Becky shares practical tools for self-awareness, boundary-setting, and boosting emotional resilience. You'll hear about therapeutic techniques like neurolinguistic programming and core wound healing, as well as simple but powerful strategies like community engagement and physical activity.Whether you're trying to repair a strained relationship or want to prevent divorce before it's even on the radar, this episode delivers a powerful message: your marriage is only as healthy as you are.Key Topics:Why self-care is relationship careHow trauma affects love and attachmentThe importance of emotional boundariesBuilding self-esteem through self-awarenessDaily habits that support emotional stabilityTools for ongoing personal development

In this episode of Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski sits down with Kimberly Miller—an attorney and licensed marriage and family therapist—who is changing the way divorce is approached. With a dual background in law and therapy, Kimberly shares how her work bridges legal strategy with emotional intelligence to support families through respectful, amicable transitions.We explore her journey from courtroom advocate to holistic practitioner, the power of mediation, and the inspiration behind Part Wise—an educational platform designed to demystify divorce and empower those navigating it.What You'll Learn:How Kimberly integrates legal and therapeutic practicesWhy collaborative divorce leads to better outcomesWhat Part Wise offers and how it's changing divorce educationTips for finding peace and clarity in the midst of legal transitionsTwin Cities divorce professional Kimberly Miller, JD, LMFT, CFP®, CDFA®, is known for her ability to resolve challenging family issues without resort to aggressive legal strategies that are damaging to vital family relationships. After years of litigating business and family disputes at a prominent national firm, she recognized the devastating psychological and financial impact that litigation can have on individuals, couples, and other loved ones. She decided to establish her own practice to promote alternative forms of dispute resolution, such as collaborative law and mediation, to reach consensus.Resources:

In this episode, Lesa welcomes Tami Wollensak, known as the voice of reason for homeowners navigating divorce. They discuss Tami's inspirational story of personal growth and resilience after divorce, specifically her decision to downsize her home for financial and emotional stability. Tami shares the challenges she faced in maintaining a large home post-divorce and how she and her ex-husband remained focused on their children's well-being. The conversation emphasizes the importance of realistic budgeting and adjusting to new financial circumstances post-divorce. The episode concludes with Tami's take on the current volatile housing market and practical advice for those making housing decisions amid fluctuating interest rates.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:24 Tami's Journey Through Divorce01:53 Challenges of Keeping the House05:58 Financial Realities and Downsizing12:10 Co-Parenting and Maintaining Focus on Kids23:16 Reflections and Personal Growth25:58 Current Housing Market Insights31:15 Conclusion and Additional ResourcesDIY Parenting Plan CourseFind More From Lesa Here!https://www.newamericanfunding.com/mortgage-loans/tamiwollensakMentioned in this episode:Saddle Up Live Podcast AdDo you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. Saddle Up Live Podcast

In this episode, Lesa Koski is joined by Dr. Becky, a family and marriage therapist with personal experience in divorce and co-parenting. They discuss the adversarial nature of the family law process and the importance of pursuing amicable divorces for the well-being of children. Becky shares insights on how to manage co-parenting post-divorce, the psychological effects of divorce on children, and the complexities of blended families. The conversation emphasizes putting children's needs first and avoiding negative influences from friends and family. Dr. Becky also presents her approach of therapists managing amicable divorce processes to help families navigate this challenging time more smoothly.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:38 Discussing Divorce and Parenting01:19 Challenges in the Family Law Process02:24 The Importance of Amicable Divorce03:36 Personal Experiences and Advice14:39 Impact of Divorce on Children16:12 Blended Families and Stepparent Dynamics21:16 Concluding Thoughts and AdviceMentioned in this episode:Saddle Up Live Podcast AdDo you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. Saddle Up Live Podcast

✨ Episode Summary:In this insightful two-part episode of Doing Divorce Different, I sit down with the incredible Dr. Becky Whetstone—a licensed marriage and family therapist with both professional expertise and personal experience in navigating the emotional terrain of marriage, divorce, and everything in between.Together, we explore the often-unspoken stages of a dying marriage, what those red flags look and feel like, and how to move from heartbreak to healing through intentional self-growth.Whether you're working to rebuild your marriage or learning to let go with grace, this conversation will leave you with practical wisdom, hope, and a fresh perspective on your journey.

Divorce after 50—often called gray divorce—comes with its own unique challenges and hidden truths. In this eye-opening episode of Doing Divorce Different, I sit down with seasoned attorney Michelle to dive deep into the emotional, financial, and relational complexities of gray divorce.Whether you're an empty nester questioning your future, someone who's felt controlled or stuck in a long-term marriage, or a woman wondering if there's still time to rebuild her life—this episode is for you.We're talking real talk:

Join Paulette and Lesa for this conversation about 7 Dilemmas of Divorce. About Lesa: Lesa Koski is an Attorney turned Mediator. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:23 The Seven Divorce Dilemmas 02:33 Dilemma 1: Finances 03:25 Dilemma 2: Co-Parenting and Children 04:32 Dilemma 3: Emotions 05:23 Dilemma 4: Judgment and Stigma 06:19 Dilemma 5: Legal Aspects of Divorce 07:47 Conclusion 36:27 The Benefits of Mediation and Divorce Coaching 37:23 Housing Dilemmas in Divorce 39:00 The Importance of Making Informed Decisions about Keeping or Selling the Family Home 40:50 Navigating Real Estate and Mortgage Considerations in Divorce 43:22 Addressing Loneliness and Emotional Challenges in Divorce 53:01 Finding Fulfillment and Purpose After Divorce

In this special Saturday episode, recorded at the barn, Lesa Koski discusses the importance of mindset, especially through challenging times like divorce, cancer, or general difficulties. Lesa shares her journey of using mindset-shifting tools to manage anxiety, and her commitment to relying on God to improve her emotional wellbeing. She introduces JJ Flizanes, an expert whose courses on emotions and core childhood experiences have profoundly impacted her. Lesa emphasizes the need to understand and fulfill personal needs, identifying feelings and practicing self-responsibility. She also introduces the Hawaiian practice of Ho'oponopono for emotional healing. Tune in to learn how you can navigate your feelings, meet your needs, and cultivate more joy in life.00:00 Welcome and Introduction00:24 Mindset Shifting Tools01:35 Personal Journey and Expert Insights04:34 Morning Routine and Emotional Awareness06:02 Identifying and Meeting Basic Human Needs11:49 Finding Peace and Surrendering to God12:24 Ho'oponopono and Present Moment Practices16:11 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this podcast episode, Lesa Koski interviews Laurie Gerber, a renowned relationship coach who has appeared on shows like Dr. Phil and MTV. Laurie shares her personal journey overcoming marital challenges using the Handel Method, which she now teaches. The discussion delves into vital topics such as dating after divorce, the importance of self-work, and maintaining a healthy relationship. Laurie outlines a detailed 'Divorce Detox' with six crucial steps to regain emotional and spiritual health post-divorce before diving back into the dating scene. She also introduces her Head-Heart-Hoo Ha (3H) framework for finding the right partner and emphasizes the importance of mindful and efficient dating practices. Laurie offers resources and strategies for those eager to start their journey toward a fulfilling and healthy love life. For more insights, listeners are encouraged to join Lori on the Saddle Up Live podcast for a deeper dive into maintaining long-term relationships.00:00 Welcome and Introduction01:10 Meet Lori Gerber: A Journey in Coaching03:52 The Importance of Self-Work Before Dating08:19 The Divorce Detox: Steps to Emotional Healing14:04 Phases of Post-Divorce Dating17:11 Determining and Changing Your Type18:50 Efficient and Purposeful Dating20:37 Conclusion and Next StepsFor more of Laurie's dating resources check out her FREE webinar: "3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments"Learn:✓How to be Ready to Date Like You Mean It in 30 Days or Less✓The #1 Ingredient to Finding A Suitable Companion without Repeated Disappointment✓Essential Elements to Effective Communication even about the Most Awkward Topics✓PLUS: The Key to Finding Your Soulmate in Way Less Dates!REGISTER HERE: www.lauriegerber.com/webinarlauriegerbercoach@gmail.com www.lauriegerber.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber/https://www.facebook.com/groups/loveasaverbhttps://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/?hl=enFind Lesa at Lesakoski.com@lesakoski

In this episode, Lesa Koski interviews Ron Deal, a world-renowned expert on blending families. The discussion covers Ron's background and the journey that led him to his current role, including his professional experiences and personal challenges. Ron shares practical advice for single parents considering dating, the role of a stepparent, and handling complex family dynamics. He emphasizes the importance of managing fears to build successful blended families and touches on crucial topics such as co-parenting and involving children in the dating process. The episode also highlights Ron's various resources, including books, podcasts, and online courses, aimed at supporting blended families.00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement01:37 Ron's Journey to Becoming a Blended Family Expert04:57 Personal Challenges and Triumphs07:15 Dating and the Single Parent10:26 Red Flags and Yellow Lights in Relationships15:29 The Role of a Stepparent20:54 Navigating Grief in Blended Families22:40 The Importance of Intentionality in Blended Families24:01 Single Parenting vs. Blended Families26:17 Co-Parenting and Conflict Resolution28:13 Managing Fear in New Relationships31:30 Involving Kids in the Dating Process34:57 Guidelines for Introducing a New Partner37:11 Resources for Blended Families Resources by Ron Deal ----------------------------------- Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC President, As For Me and My House MinistriesDirector, FamilyLife Blended®, a ministry of FamilyLife®10201 W. Markham, Ste 105, Little Rock, AR 72205www.RonDeal.org | SmartStepfamilies.com www.FamilyLife.com/blended Listen or Subscribe to my FamilyLife Blended podcast hereSample media interviews and presentations Facebook: @SmartStepfamiliesFacebook: @FamilyLifeBlendedTwitter: @RonLDealInstagram: @FamilyLifeBlended

Across all the mediation meetings I have had, there seem to be seven common dilemmas that come up. I have teamed up with my coach, Tracy Pleschourt, to put together a half-day workshop to empower women to suffer less while going through divorce. During this episode, Tracy and I give a sneak peak into the seven dilemmas, and what we will cover regarding each one during the workshop. If you are local to the Minnesota area and looking for support, tune in to hear about this wonderful opportunity to not only work through common roadblocks, but also meet other incredible women who are on the same journey as you. In this episode:[3:58] What is one of the top stories that Lesa's clients face?[7:28] Lesa discusses working through parenting concerns.[9:44] Lesa shares about emotional impact and how it can impact your divorce journey.[12:09] How can people handle the social stigma or the judgment around divorce?[14:10] Lesa talks about how she will give legal information in the upcoming workshop. [15:08] A huge dilemma that comes up is loneliness in divorce, how do you manage it? [18:52] Tracy describes her program, Self Made U.Key Takeaways: [10:18] When you leave your feelings in the dark, you can't heal. Acknowledging those feelings and bringing them to the light is the first step to being able to heal and find clarity and opportunities for what you are experiencing.[11:00] When you are operating from your prodigy brain, you are more likely to be able to look through the lens or find the perspective around gifts and opportunities. [17:00] Join Lesa and Tracy's master class on April 25th from 9am-1pm in Minnesota to learn how to navigate the 7 most common dilemmas that Lesa has seen while being a divorce mediator. Learn strategies from both Lesa's experience and Tracy's coaching so you can better navigate the circumstances you are going through. Quotes: [10:13] “Teaching the people at the workshop how to really feel them (feelings), because coach Tracy, you taught me that anything in the dark can't heal. So when we try to fight those feelings or pretend we don't have them or ignore them, they're in the dark when we go “hello there fear, or anxiety, or whatever you are,” it comes to the light and that's the first step in being able to heal.” - Lesa Koski[12:52] “I think when you find yourself swimming in judgment, you have to decide to prioritize your well-being over societal opinions and stigma. You have to challenge the stigma by refusing to internalize those judgements. You have to be able to separate the fact from the fiction of how society views divorce, like leveraging empathy for yourself.” - Tracy Pleschourt[15:42] “If loneliness is getting in the way of you being able to get through your day, then therapy is definitely the path that you want to pursue. If it's just something that you're starting to recognize, but you're still able to get through your day, you're still able to manage your day, then coaching is probably the right path for you to take.” - Tracy Pleschourt Guest Bio: Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes.Just a few years ago, Tracy was a successful, advertising executive. Stifled by the rigorous, time-consuming demands of the corporate world, she traded in her 20 years of advertising to pursue her real passion: life & weight loss coaching.Tracy is a student of her own work and has stopped overeating, overdrinking, and created a

Doing Divorce Different: A Candid Conversation with Laila Aitken In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', host Lesa Koski, a family law attorney turned mediator, engages in a conversational interview with guest Laila Aitken Ali, a divorce coach and founder of Split FYI. They discuss overcoming the fear and emotional challenges of divorce, the importance of self-empowerment and self-care, and ways to effectively compartmentalize problems during difficult times. Laila shares her personal journey of divorce and how it led her to mentor and help others going through similar experiences. She emphasizes on viewing divorce as a journey of self-discovery and clarity, and offers advice on maintaining a positive mindset and seeking support through community-based resources like Split FYI.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:25 Meet the Guest: Laila Aitken Ali01:57 The Journey to Becoming a Divorce Coach02:46 The Impact of Divorce on Self-Trust03:46 The Role of a Divorce Coach04:20 The Importance of Self-Care During Divorce05:40 The Power of Mindset in Navigating Divorce06:12 Steps to Alleviate Overwhelm During Divorce07:17 The Power of Compartmentalizing During Divorce09:51 The Importance of Self-Talk and Embracing Feelings12:09 The Power of Positive Mindset and Self-Acknowledgement22:04 The Role of a Love Book in Nurturing Self-Love26:40 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsBio. Struck by her own 10-year-long experience with divorce, Laila was exhausted and thrown by the complexities and lack of consolidated information to help her close that chapter. She longed for a safe place to access emotional and organizational help, with professionals, resources, tools, and a warm community of those who already understand the situation. Over time, this sparked Laila to create Split.fyi to propel more people in her situation forward. Laila focuses on being a positive thinking partner to help educate and support others to create their own personal roadmap, navigate the tides, and reclaim their confidence and inner balance.Laila is a mom, accredited mediator, certified CDC Certified Divorce Coach® and in the Better Apart Method, a global citizen, and hopes to inspire everyone to take agency over their lives by educating and supporting as many people as she can to rest, reclaim and rebirth before, during and after divorce, breakup or a major transition in their life.For Divorce Support go to Lesakoski.comFind Laila: https://splitfyi.com/about-us/https://www.instagram.com/splitfyi/?hl=enhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/splitfyi

In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', host Lesa Koski shares insights from her recent conversation with Jennifer Lee on how to manage finances amidst life transitions such as divorce. Lisa emphasizes the importance of understanding what really matters when it comes to spending and saving. Jennifer Lee provided important tools and posed thought-provoking scenarios to help listeners identify what they truly value and what they desire to achieve financially. This episode aims to alleviate anxieties surrounding financial issues and encourage listeners to envision their lives beyond monetary constraints.00:01 Introduction to the Show00:38 A Candid Conversation with Jennifer Lee00:51 Understanding Your Finances01:52 The Lottery Scenario02:40 Three Deep Questions to Understand Your Values04:27 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

This 'Doing Divorce Different' podcast episode features Jennifer Lee, the founder of modern wealth, who joins host Lesa Koski, family law attorney turned mediator, for an enlightening discussion about financial management and empowerment during transitions such as divorce. Jennifer shares her experiences of helping clients manage finances, focusing importantly on what clients value and helping them understand their needs, wants and discretionary amounts. Much time is spent discussing the 'non-money' spouse, particularly in the context of divorce, along with ways to alleviate financial fear and improve personal comfort with financial planning. Jennifer also discusses her book, 'Squeeze the Juice', which aims at helping readers get the best out their experiences and fulfilling their financial goals.00:01 Introduction to Doing Divorce Different00:29 Meet the Guest: Jennifer Lee, Founder of Modern Wealth00:57 Understanding Finances and the Non-Money Spouse01:55 The Importance of Reading and Learning02:17 Jennifer's Approach to Finances and Money Management03:15 The Concept of Financial Planning and Its Simplicity04:05 Jennifer's Personal Journey with Money04:38 Understanding Your Money Story and Its Impact06:21 The Fear of Finances and How to Overcome It07:19 The Importance of Knowing What You Value08:46 The Concept of Discretionary Spending13:18 The Reality of Living Above Your Means18:34 Taking Control of Your Finances27:03 Understanding the Title of Jennifer's Book: Squeeze the Juice29:12 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsBio: Jennifer Lee is the founder of Modern-Wealth (www.Modern-Wealth.com); and has been in the financial services industry for 26 years; 44 years if you count going to the office with her father as a child. She has a relationship with money that is familiar, and she loves engaging people on the subject. Aside from travel, cooking, and hanging out with her family, she is most happy working. She is passionate about educating her clients, the divorcee wanting to get her future lined up, a business client desiring to expand or sell his operation, or a couple wanting to make sure they have provided for their kids and grandkids, about the nuances of planning for their financial future; hoping to change their perspective of the process. For her, it is fulfilling, and fun. Book Website: SqueezeTheJuiceBook.com Facebook: Facebook.com/ModernWealthInvest LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/In/Jennifer-Lee-awma®-aif®-1b5aa56/ Instagram: Instagram.com/modernwealthloveletter/

In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski revisits an enlightening conversation with well-known author and expert, Sharon Pope. Sharon shared significant tools for helping children cope during a divorce, including creating a list of changes and a larger list of things that will stay the same to alleviate fear of the unknown. Lesa expanded on Sharon's insights about the unforeseen lessons children might learn from divorce, such as self-advocacy and setting boundaries. Lesa also highlighted the importance of maintaining a cordial relationship with the co-parent for the sake of children. This episode serves as a resource for those seeking tactful ways to approach their children about divorce.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:21 Recap of Tuesday's Episode with Sharon Pope00:48 Tools for Helping Children Through Divorce01:05 The Importance of a Parenting Plan01:30 How to Communicate Changes to Children02:24 Unexpected Lessons Children Learn from Divorce04:10 The Power of Kindness in Co-Parenting04:36 Conclusion and Invitation to ConnectLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online Courses

This episode of the 'Doing Divorce Different' podcast features an enlightening conversation between the show's host, Lesa Koski, and guest, Sharon Pope, a master life coach and relationship expert. They discuss the various ways to manage the process of divorce and how to make the experience less traumatic through self-empowerment. Sharon offers a unique perspective, given her personal experience with divorce and subsequent transformation into a relationship and life coach. The episode provides helpful advice and tools for listeners who may be contemplating divorce, notably the importance of self-work and setting boundaries. Special attention is given to the impact of divorce on children and how it can be managed positively.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:21 Guest Introduction: Sharon Pope01:45 Sharon's Personal Journey and Expertise12:21 The Importance of Self-Work in Relationships18:52 The Impact of Divorce on Children27:46 Final Thoughts and TakeawaysThis episode of the 'Doing Divorce Different' podcast features an enlightening conversation between the show's host, Lesa Koski, and guest, Sharon Pope, a master life coach and relationship expert. They discuss the various ways to manage the process of divorce and how to make the experience less traumatic through self-empowerment. Sharon offers a unique perspective, given her personal experience with divorce and subsequent transformation into a relationship and life coach. The episode provides helpful advice and tools for listeners who may be contemplating divorce, notably the importance of self-work and setting boundaries. Special attention is given to the impact of divorce on children and how it can be managed positively.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:21 Guest Introduction: Sharon Pope01:45 Sharon's Personal Journey and Expertise12:21 The Importance of Self-Work in Relationships18:52 The Impact of Divorce on Children27:46 Final Thoughts and TakeawaysBio: Sharon Pope is a certified Master Life Coach, relationship expert, and seven-time best-selling author on love and relationships, including "Stay or Go: How to Find the Confidence & Clarity You Need to Either Fix the Struggles in Your Marriage or Move Forward without Regret," which has sold more than 300,000 copies worldwide, and host of the podcast, "The Loving Truth." Sharon's been a guest on many podcasts and is committed to helping women and men get the tools they need to improve, heal, or release their struggling marriages.https://sharonpope.com/Lesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online Courses

Navigating Divorce and Personal GrowthIn this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', Lesa Koski, a family law attorney and mediator, talks about grappling with the idea of ending a marriage. Koski emphasizes the importance of introspection, highlighting her own experience of maintaining a marriage through self-growth. She encourages her listeners to confront their feelings about their marriage and shares strategies for self-improvement. She notes the potential benefits these changes can have on their spouses or their own perception of themselves. Koski also discusses how personal growth can equip individuals to be independent, should they decide to end their marriage. Drawing from her own experience, she underscores that neither decision is easy, and that marriage requires work. She ends by providing support and positivity for those contemplating divorce after Valentine's Day.00:01 Introduction to Doing Divorce Different00:21 Saddle Up Segment: Post-Valentine's Day Reflections01:12 Contemplating the End of Marriage02:48 The Power of Self-Improvement in Marriage03:22 The Impact of Personal Growth on Your Relationship04:41 Making the Tough Decision: Stay or Leave?04:49 The Importance of Communication and Boundaries05:16 Sending Love to Those Contemplating Divorce05:40 Conclusion and Invitation to Connect

In this episode of Doing Divorce Different, host Lesa Koski holds a candid conversation with divorce attorney-turned-mediator Karen Covy. They discuss entrepreneurship, their roles as recovering lawyers, the importance of divorce coaches, and how to navigate the divorce process. Covy shares her journey from being a lawyer to becoming a divorce coach, her commitment to changing the people going into the divorce system, and the importance of self-work in the decision-making process. She also talks about her book, 'When Happily Ever After Ends', which offers resources for people to handle divorce better.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:18 Getting to Know Karen Covey01:09 The Importance of Divorce Coaches01:56 Karen's Journey to Becoming a Divorce Coach04:59 The Role of a Divorce Coach06:34 The Starfish Story07:32 Karen's Book: When Happily Ever After Ends09:14 How to Know When It's Time to Divorce12:49 The Importance of Self-Work in Decision Making16:48 The Role of Honesty in Decision Making17:53 Making the Decision to Divorce26:16 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationBio: A DIVORCE COACH AND CONSULTANT, MEDIATOR, AUTHOR, SPEAKER, COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE PROFESSIONAL, AND A RECOVERING DIVORCE ATTORNEY.https://karencovy.com/podcast/https://www.facebook.com/KarenCovyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/karencovy/

Join Paulette and Lesa for this conversation about 7 Dilemmas of Divorce. About Lesa: Lesa Koski is an Attorney turned Mediator. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:23 The Seven Divorce Dilemmas 02:33 Dilemma 1: Finances 03:25 Dilemma 2: Co-Parenting and Children 04:32 Dilemma 3: Emotions 05:23 Dilemma 4: Judgment and Stigma 06:19 Dilemma 5: Legal Aspects of Divorce 07:47 Conclusion 36:27 The Benefits of Mediation and Divorce Coaching 37:23 Housing Dilemmas in Divorce 39:00 The Importance of Making Informed Decisions about Keeping or Selling the Family Home 40:50 Navigating Real Estate and Mortgage Considerations in Divorce 43:22 Addressing Loneliness and Emotional Challenges in Divorce 53:01 Finding Fulfillment and Purpose After Divorce --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thebetterdivorcepodcast/message

In this episode, Lesa Koski, a family law attorney and mediator, hosts a conversation about managing divorce effectively. She emphasizes the importance of education about divorce laws and procedures, recommending divorce mediation and collaborative law as potential paths. Lesa warns about situations involving power imbalances or abuse, advising such individuals to consult an attorney. She also highlights the importance of being well-informed and less naive in navigating divorce, especially considering the legal binding nature of marriage. Guest Paulette Rigaud, founder of Better Divorce Academy, shares her challenging divorce experience that lasted eight years. Lisa finishes by encouraging listeners to consider consulting a divorce coach to gain insights into navigating a divorce efficiently.00:01 Introduction to the Show00:24 Saddle Up Segment: Discussing Divorce01:32 Understanding Divorce Laws02:09 Considering Collaborative Divorce03:03 The Importance of Agreement in Divorce03:49 Learning from Past Divorce Experiences04:34 The Legal Implications of Marriage05:24 The Role of a Divorce Coach06:00 Conclusion and FarewellLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online Courses

Lesa Koski and guest Paulette Rigo, founder of Better Divorce Academy, dive deep into the topic of handling divorce in a better way. Paulette explains her personal experience, which led her to the creation of her academy. She emphasizes the importance of being prepared, understanding the daunting divorce process, and breaking it down into manageable steps. Paulette also discusses the impact of divorce on productivity in the workplace, leading her to also work with companies through Divorce Right Inc. to proactively manage this. The conversation concludes with the encouragement to approach problems by looking at the big picture and breaking it down into bite-sized pieces. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation00:19 Getting to Know Paulette Rigo01:36 Paulette's Journey to Divorce Coaching02:23 Paulette's Personal Divorce Story04:47 The Impact of Divorce on Personal Life05:56 The Importance of Divorce Coaching21:10 The Role of Divorce Coaches in the Corporate World24:59 Final Thoughts and Advicehttps://www.facebook.com/betterdivorceacademyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/betterdivorceacademy/https://www.instagram.com/paulettegloriarigo/https://betterdivorceacademy.com/https://betterdivorceacademy.com/podcasts/

In this episode of "Doing Divorce Different," Attorney turned Mediator, Lesa Koski, shares her insights and advice on how to alleviate the fear of divorce and heal through empowerment. She emphasizes the importance of working on oneself before making the decision to divorce, and how this can positively impact the relationship dynamics. Lesa also shares personal anecdotes and lessons learned from her own marriage, highlighting the transformative power of self-love and setting boundaries. Tune in to discover valuable tips and resources for navigating the divorce process in a better way.- Episode Highlights: - Introduction to "Doing Divorce Different" and the host, Lisa Kosky. - The significance of working on oneself before contemplating divorce. - How personal growth and self-love can positively impact the marriage. - Personal experiences and lessons learned from Lisa's own marriage. - The transformative power of changing one's mindset and embracing self-care. - Exploring resources like books, podcasts, and coaches to support personal growth. - Practical tips for changing negative thought patterns and beliefs. - Invitation to a workshop on the seven dilemmas women face in divorce, taking place on April 25th and emphasizing self-care and community. - Encouragement to connect with Lesa Koski for further support and sign up for the newsletter.Lesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's Masterclass

Navigating Loneliness in RelationshipsIn this podcast episode, host Lesa Koski takes on the topic of navigating loneliness with the help of guest and family therapist, Brian Burns. They discuss how loneliness can be a fundamental issue in marriage and relationships, often motivating individuals to avoid divorce out of fear of isolation. Brian offers insights on tackling loneliness by practicing outward-focused interactions, self-awareness, and open communication, emphasizing that individuals should focus on their feelings when attempting to communicate their loneliness to a partner. Brian also advocates for couples to seek therapy and emphasizes that the process is about working on oneself in front of their partner.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction00:20 Discussing Loneliness and Its Impact00:55 Guest's Podcast and Its Themes01:35 Exploring the Topic of Sex and Communication03:00 Diving into the Feelings of Loneliness03:43 The Fear of Loneliness in Divorce04:39 Loneliness as a State of Mind05:24 The Societal Impact of Loneliness06:14 Strategies to Combat Loneliness07:02 The Role of Communication in Addressing Loneliness07:33 The Power of Small Interactions01:34 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Understanding Loneliness11:25 The Role of Alcohol in Social Interactions11:51 The Power of Texting in Building Connections13:54 The Role of Mindset in Addressing Loneliness18:43 The Importance of Honesty in Relationships24:30 The Role of Marriage Counseling in Addressing Loneliness28:36 Conclusion and Guest's Contact InformationFind Lesa at:Lesakoski.comhttps://linktr.ee/lesakoskiFind Brian at:MN Relationship Repair: HomeMN Relationship Repairhttps://www.mnrelationshiprepair.com

Across all the mediation meetings I have had, there seem to be seven common dilemmas that come up. I have teamed up with my coach, Tracy Pleschourt, to put together a half-day workshop to empower women to suffer less while going through divorce. During this episode, Tracy and I give a sneak peak into the seven dilemmas, and what we will cover regarding each one during the workshop. If you are local to the Minnesota area and looking for support, tune in to hear about this wonderful opportunity to not only work through common roadblocks, but also meet other incredible women who are on the same journey as you. In this episode:[3:58] What is one of the top stories that Lesa's clients face?[7:28] Lesa discusses working through parenting concerns.[9:44] Lesa shares about emotional impact and how it can impact your divorce journey.[12:09] How can people handle the social stigma or the judgment around divorce?[14:10] Lesa talks about how she will give legal information in the upcoming workshop. [15:08] A huge dilemma that comes up is loneliness in divorce, how do you manage it? [18:52] Tracy describes her program, Self Made U.Key Takeaways: [10:18] When you leave your feelings in the dark, you can't heal. Acknowledging those feelings and bringing them to the light is the first step to being able to heal and find clarity and opportunities for what you are experiencing.[11:00] When you are operating from your prodigy brain, you are more likely to be able to look through the lens or find the perspective around gifts and opportunities. [17:00] Join Lesa and Tracy's master class on April 25th from 9am-1pm in Minnesota to learn how to navigate the 7 most common dilemmas that Lesa has seen while being a divorce mediator. Learn strategies from both Lesa's experience and Tracy's coaching so you can better navigate the circumstances you are going through. Quotes: [10:13] “Teaching the people at the workshop how to really feel them (feelings), because coach Tracy, you taught me that anything in the dark can't heal. So when we try to fight those feelings or pretend we don't have them or ignore them, they're in the dark when we go “hello there fear, or anxiety, or whatever you are,” it comes to the light and that's the first step in being able to heal.” - Lesa Koski[12:52] “I think when you find yourself swimming in judgment, you have to decide to prioritize your well-being over societal opinions and stigma. You have to challenge the stigma by refusing to internalize those judgements. You have to be able to separate the fact from the fiction of how society views divorce, like leveraging empathy for yourself.” - Tracy Pleschourt[15:42] “If loneliness is getting in the way of you being able to get through your day, then therapy is definitely the path that you want to pursue. If it's just something that you're starting to recognize, but you're still able to get through your day, you're still able to manage your day, then coaching is probably the right path for you to take.” - Tracy Pleschourt Guest Bio: Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes.Just a few years ago, Tracy was a successful, advertising executive. Stifled by the rigorous, time-consuming demands of the corporate world, she traded in her 20 years of advertising to pursue her real passion: life & weight loss coaching.Tracy is a student of her own work and has stopped overeating, overdrinking, and created a

Lesa Koski, a seasoned attorney turned mediator, joins me in this week's podcast episode. We delve into the seven common dilemmas women often encounter during divorce. Gain valuable insights and practical advice on overcoming these challenges, arming yourself with knowledge for the journey ahead.  Lesa is an accomplished attorney turned mediator with a passion for empowering individuals through the often turbulent waters of divorce. She has spent years helping individuals find amicable solutions, emphasizing communication, collaboration, and empowerment throughout the divorce process. She has helped hundreds of divorce mediation clients create a peaceful agreement that works for them and that they're proud of, without all the stress, fear, time, and money involved with fighting it out in court.  Tune in to discover solutions, engage in crucial conversations, and empower yourself. Featured topics and divorce dilemmas discussed include: Understanding finances and financial obligations (10:00) Exploring fear around parenting and co-parenting during and after divorce (12:26) The emotional impact of divorce (19:02) Overcoming the social stigma of divorce and addressing the question, “How do we tell our parents about our divorce?” (28:49) Divorce doesn't necessarily mean you are divorcing your in-laws (unless that's what you desire). (30:35) Understanding and navigating the legal complexities of divorce, including child support, spousal maintenance, and the types of divorce options available (collaborative, mediation, etc.) (32:54) Division of marital assets, including the marital home (40:57) Overcoming loneliness and isolation (44:00) Learn more about Lesa Koski: Lesa Koski is an accomplished attorney turned mediator with a passion for empowering individuals through the often turbulent waters of divorce. Lesa has spent years helping individuals find amicable solutions, emphasizing communication, collaboration, and empowerment throughout the divorce process. She has helped hundreds of divorce mediation clients create a peaceful agreement that works for them and that they're proud of, without all the stress, fear, time and money involved with fighting it out in court. Lesa's legal background allows her to share legal information which assists in drafting a plan that works for them and holds up in Court. Her background combined with her recent certification as a Self-Made U life Coach brings a unique perspective to the table. Today, she'll be unraveling what she calls the "7 Dilemmas of Divorce" - those critical challenges that women commonly face when navigating the legal and emotional terrain of separation. Resources & Links: Kate's book “The D WordPhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveVisit Lesa's website to download free resource: The Ultimate Guide to a Successful SplitConnect with LesaTake or Leave the House? With Tami Wollensak Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-249-the-seven-divorce-dilemmas-with-lesa-koski/   TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

GETTING READY FOR DIVORCE. EP 116HOST: Beverly Price, Divorce & Empowerment CoachGUEST: Lesa Koski, Attorney Turned Mediator President and Founder of Koski Law & Mediation SUMMARY: Getting ready for divorce is a significant and emotionally charged process that requires careful consideration and preparation. It involves not only the legal aspects but also the emotional and financial ones. Before taking this life-altering step, you should seek guidance from a divorce coach to process your feelings, work on your self and understand your reasons for divorce. Working with a professional will help you prepare adequately, gather the right information, and get the right divorce professionals into your team for the best possible outcome. Preparing for divorce is about safeguarding your future while navigating the process with as much grace and resilience as possible. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to Lesa Koski, Attorney Turned Mediator President and Founder of Koski Law & Mediation. Together, they discuss how to make the decision to divorce and what the most important steps are. KEY TAKEAWAYS:● How do you know that it's time to divorce? Knowing when it's time to divorce is personal. Start by working on yourself to grow and work on your marriage, check in with your spouse, too, and get a divorce coach to walk with you. When you have done everything you could, follow your gut and be comfortable with the decision.● Divorce should not be taken lightly. If you have made the choice to do it, you should work on yourself and your communication skills to do it in a better way and ensure you don't go through it again.● What is the most important first step to maximize the divorce process? Having a divorce coach is one of the first steps that can save you money in the long run. Knowing your goals, understanding your finances, doing your budget, and looking at your home options will help you get things aligned and do it differently. ● How do I share your decision for divorce with family and friends? Be a united front and come added together. That will change the positioning of your divorce outward. ● Whether you are getting along or are contentious, having a parenting plan in place can really help. Parenting plans are so important because when you have kids, they are the number one concern when you are getting a divorce. NOTABLE QUOTES: ● It can be hard to feel good about something like divorce, but you can feel confident about your decision and know you made the right one by being courageous to look at what you are feeling, getting curious about the feeling, looking at the thought process behind them and being capable and consistent in doing that. (Lesa)● To clarify your decision about divorce and move forward, evaluate yourself and your spouse; compare that to your ideal partner, and then consider if you are the kind of person they would be attracted to and work on yourself to get there. Don't be fixated on what you want, but also on becoming the person someone would want to be in a relationship with. (Beverly)● So many parents think they want to keep the home for their children after divorce; however, if you are stressed out and can't afford it, that is not helping your children. Having a home that you can afford is more important than staying in that home that will have you working all the time and feeling stressed....

Co-parenting in after the standard, ‘garden variety' divorce can be difficult. When you add high conflict divorce where communicating, collaborating, showing respect, kindness and grace is often absent, co-parenting takes on a new level of complexity. Today my friend, Lesa Koski, and I explore those challenges and the solutions available for parents who are willing to always put the kids first…even when it requires you to bite your tongue until it's bloody…something I have had a lot of experience doing!!We're going to look at the little annoying stuff and the big really important things that can cause conflict and upset to all involved and strategies and tools for mastering the high conflict coparenting challenges you are facing.Just a bit about Lesa before we begin… Lesa Koski is an attorney based in Woodbury, MN with over 20 years of experience. Lesa has a strong desire to help people through difficult situations so being a divorce mediator is the best fit for her and her clients. Lesa is passionate about mediation because of the children. She even has an online parenting plan course to help you navigate co-parenting and creating a parenting plan!More ways to connect with Lesa: The Ultimate Guide to a Successful Split - Divorce Essentials - https://www.lesakoski.com/resources Free Co-Parenting Masterclass - https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Parenting Plan Course - https://www.lesakoski.com/online-parenting-courseJourney Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in his episode: Book a Free Rapid Relief Call - http://rapidreliefcall.com Join the Ultimate High Conflict Divorce Summit: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/summit2023

Are you dating a liar? Are you in a relationship with a liar? Are you divorcing a liar? In this episode, my guest, Divorce Mediator, Lesa Koski and I talk about liars--in dating, relationships and divorce. Includes: signs you might be dating a liar, lies told in relationships, and tips on divorcing a liar. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/dating-liar-11-signs-might/

In today's episode, Gary interviews Lesa Koski, an attorney turned mediator who handles family law in a unique way. Lesa shares her passion for doing divorces differently and helping couples fashion their own solutions using skilled empathetic mediation. She discusses the challenges she faces as a mediator, particularly when one party is not willing to participate. Lesa emphasizes the importance of taking care of oneself as a legal professional and suggests simple tactics such as breathing exercises, moving one's body, and talking to a trusted friend or therapist. The episode highlights the importance of doing divorce differently and the role of skilled mediators like Lisa in achieving that goal. Lesa is a wife, a mama, a grandma and an animal lover.  She is blessed to be serving people from her barn office.  She is obsessed with learning and communication.  She loves sharing what she has learned with all of you!  There is nothing more gratifying for her than holding people's hands through difficult conversations.   Lesa is an attorney based in Woodbury, MN with over 20 years of experience with a strong desire to help people through difficult situations.  That's why becoming a divorce mediator was the best fit for both herself and my clients. All of her links are here:  https://linktr.ee/lesakoski Would you like to learn how to create greater personal freedom by being more efficient? If so, I can help. You can schedule a courtesy call here: https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call

Divorce is a fight, it's hard, it's going to take up all of my time, energy and money… This is what so many think of when they think about a traditional divorce. Today we are talking about another way… a different way… a better way. In this episode, Lesa Koski, Divorce Attorney turned mediator, shares with you her method and some of the tools that help you do divorce differently and that will help you create a plan that works for you and your family. Lesa Koski Koski Law & Mediation, PLLC Website: https://www.lesakoski.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lesa-koski If you want in on the small group experience starting June 11th, contact Mikki today at hello@mikkigardner.com or apply here. Get the full show notes and more information here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! © 2021 - 2023 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Attorney and Mediator, Lesa Koski joins Rhonda for an in-depth conversation around Mediation. Mediation is a great option and can provide a safe place for both parties to be heard and understood. Lisa and Rhonda cover:   What mediation is and what it is not Mediation CAN work, even in difficult circumstances How to find the right Mediator for you Assembling the right team is crucial to the outcome About today's guest:    Lesa Koski   I am an attorney based in Woodbury, MN with over 20 years of experience and have a strong desire to help people through difficult situations. That's why becoming a divorce mediator was the best fit for both myself and my clients. I am here to help you and I know all about what you're going through.   In case we've never met before, let me tell you a little bit about me...   I help you throughout the process of a divorce through mediation. Together we will create your divorce paperwork or mediated agreement. I love sharing my knowledge and coaching people through the process.   Connect with Lesa:   Website   Social Media Links Your host is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA®, CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center   Rhonda has dedicated her career to being an advocate for women and educating them on how financial strategies can impact their personal and professional success. Her work has shown women going through a divorce how to have a voice, be assertive, get results, be driven, and move forward with confidence.    For Rhonda and her company, the Women's Financial Wellness Center, helping women isn't just about running the numbers. It's about asking the right questions, demystifying myths and biases around finances, and helping women walk in their power. Rhonda is passionate about helping her clients navigate a broken system and level the playing field so they can achieve success—pre, during, and post-divorce.    Grab our National Resource Guide HERE!   Interested in our Bridge Program? Apply HERE!   We love putting out great content for you!  Do us a favor?   Be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Download and share with a friend who might need to hear these conversations. Leave a positive podcast review - ratings and reviews help others find the show!

Tracy was a guest on Doing Divorce Different (hosted by Lesa Koski) to discuss the importance of forgiveness. Tracy walks us through the Four N's of forgiveness and how to work through each step. Holding on to resentment can cause a lot of turmoil in life, affecting your friendships and relationships. Forgiving someone doesn't mean that the person is correct; it just means that you are letting go of the emotions impacting your life and setting yourself free. Tune in today to learn how to find thankfulness and positive intentions out of the things in life that feel heavy. In this episode: [2:40] Lesa's story of what she needs to forgive from her teenage years. [5:53] Lesa and Tracy walk through the Four N's to work through forgiveness. [16:00] How to write a letter of forgiveness. [17:05] Why are the Four N's necessary? [19:05] Next month's topic: Worthiness. Key Takeaways: Your brain is either your worst enemy or your best friend. It will either work for us or against us. Quiet down the negative thoughts and turn up the strength within us. Forgiveness is a gift that you are giving yourself. There is much that can be learned from these situations and why forgiveness is needed. Find the things you can be thankful for, and make forgiveness about the lessons learned. When people avoid forgiveness, they will hold on to the situations causing a grudge or grief, which will continue to impact their life. Quotes: “It doesn't excuse what somebody did, you understand what happened, and you are moving forward. It doesn't mean that you don't feel bad again or you don't have thoughts pop up that hurt you. Still, when old stories pop up, you let yourself know you are safe.” - Tracy Pleschourt “Part of neutralizing it was to have empathy for her and to think maybe what she went through, I can't know exactly.” - Lesa Koski Check out and subscribe to Doing Divorce Different Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doing-divorce-different-a-podcast-guide-to-doing/id1573644826

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Lesa Koski, the host of Doing Divorce Different and the Founder of Koski Law, gets coached on a difficult topic. We discuss focusing on ourselves and our image, taking away the opportunity to impact others' lives. Tracy coaches how people can become aware of their thoughts and work to change them. Tune in today to learn how to avoid spending your life chasing circumstances. In this episode: [4:20] Tracy coaches Lesa on focusing on how to leave people feeling a certain way. [8:26] What does it mean to have a self-made mind? [13:28] How do we neutralize and normalize our thoughts? [18:14] How can people push themselves through their difficult thoughts? [22:35] Do you want to spend your life chasing a circumstance? Key Takeaways: If you are so focused on yourself and your looks/image, you lose the opportunity to leave your true mark on others. Creating awareness is the first step to making changes. Without awareness, you can't change; you must first become a master of your mind. Check-in daily and decide how you'll optimize your day. You can't control circumstances for the most part, but you can manage your thoughts. Quotes: “I want to be a person who focuses on how I touch people, how I make them feel warm and loved, and I don't want to focus on my shortcomings.” - Lesa Koski “You have to take care of yourself and be your best self to be a good parent.” - Lesa Koski “When you can share the vulnerable imperfect side of yourself with your loved ones, holy cow, that changes everything. You're modeling so many things on so many levels when you can do that. And they learn so much from just witnessing that.” - Tracy Pleschourt

Tracy was invited back to Doing Divorce Different, hosted by Lesa Koski. Lesa and Tracy talk about the effects of menopause on women and the correlation between menopause and divorce. We all know divorce is growing fast in this age category. You hear my personal struggles in the journey through menopause while Tracy talks about the importance of loving yourself through the process of menopause and taking the time to learn about yourself while going through this transition. Tune in today for some great tips for handling menopause and managing your thoughts through divorce. In this episode: [1:54] How to look at menopause and how it compares to divorce. [5:33] Tracy discusses natural hormones and testing hormone levels. [7:50] Look at how your body is reacting as you go through menopause to find the best resources to help and learn more about yourself. [9:05] Signs of being peri-menopausal. Thoughts behind the anxiety. [11:18] Fighting anxiety in the middle of the night. [16:10] The real problem is how you are thinking about menopause - that creates action or in-action. Check out Doing Divorce Different at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doing-divorce-different-a-podcast-guide-to-doing/id1573644826

Divorce can be quite difficult for us and our children. Coming up with a plan is essential to keeping the divorce focused on the kids and not our conflict. Lesa Koski joins me as a mediator and attorney who gives us some ways to help ease tensions between us and our soon-to-be exes.    I was recently a guest on Lesa's podcast Doing Divorce Different, check out the episode here.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It's a transformational paradigm shift each and every time. I have seen families undergo huge changes that forever impact their relationships. My One on One programs have limited space, so if you're interested click here to find out more. I look forward to working with you.   Enjoy today's episode? Please share it with a friend or leave a rating and a review.   Working on our own inner hurts and childhood triggers can unravel many of our parenting issues. I do this with journaling and it has helped me work through some icky places in my own past. If you want to try, download my FREE guide: Healing Ourselves Through Journaling.  Are you a coach, or online course creator? Have an email list you communicate with often? Do you have a website? Kajabi can be your home for all of these and so much more click here and explore all Kajabi has to offer while supporting the Peace and Parenting Podcast with no extra cost to you.  Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla LinkedIn @Michelle Kenney M.Ed Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Music

Are you ready to hear MORE of the most memorable moments and juicy stories from today's top divorce professionals on the Divorce & Beyond podcast?  — We are back with Part Two of the Most Memorable Cases from our favorite Divorce & Beyond expert guests.  In this episode, guests such as Evan Schein, Michelle Dempsey Multack, and Debra Doak discuss their most memorable divorce cases and experiences. Plus, Susan Guthrie shares her most memorable case too! Guests share tips and insights learned from these interesting and sometimes outrageous situations. If you haven't listened to Part One of this special series, listen to Monday's episode to get caught up! Some of the most memorable cases and topics in this episode include: Pet custody and dog grooming, oh my! Divorce Coach Debra Doak shares her memory about a months-long stall of a divorce case over the grooming of a shared pet.  Rock-star family attorney Evan Schein reflects on a case that has stayed with him his entire career which involved heartbreak and infidelity. He talks about how it taught him the emotional impact of divorce. Divorce and Transformational Coach Karen Millon remembers working with a client who was stalled by indecision, guilt, blame, and grief over her divorce. Karen walks us through how her client learned to embrace her worthiness.  “Everything she said was a lie!” Uswah Khan, family law attorney, shares about her first divorce case in which she represented a dream client who then exploded the first time he stepped onto the witness stand! You will also hear insightful and astounding experiences from Lesa Koski, Michelle Dempsey-Multack, Olivia Summerhill, Kate Anthony, and Susan Guthrie!    Listen in to hear the intriguing case details, insights, and knowledge from today's leading divorce professionals!  ***************************************** This episode featured knowledge and wisdom from these special guests:  Debra Doak  Evan Schein  Karen Millon  Uswah Khan  Lesa Koski Michelle Dempsey Olivia Summerhill Kate Anthony  Susan Guthrie  Episodes mentioned: How to Find the Coach You NEED to Succeed in Your Divorce with the Founders of the Divorce Coaches Academy, Tracy Callahan, and Debra Doak The Ultimate Guide to Depositions in Divorce Cases with Leading Family Law Litigator, Evan Schein It's Never Too Early to Start Healing with Karen Millon Everything You Need to Know to Get a Restraining Order with Uswah Khan Doing Divorce Different Because There Isn‘t Just One Way with Attorney Lesa Koski  Moving On From Your Divorce with Michelle Dempsey-Multack What Impact Does Your ”Standard of Living” REALLY Have On Your Divorce with Top Divorce Financial Expert, Olivia Summerhill Is it Over?  Should You Stay?  Should You Go?  Find out with Kate Anthony  The Great Escape: Planning Your Exit From an Abusive Relationship with a Narcissist with Transformation Coach with Victoria McCooey Also mentioned: Schein On with Evan Schein Healin with Karen Millon Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski The Moms Moving On Divorce & Co-Parenting Podcast with Michelle Dempsey-Multack Michelle's book Moms Moving On  The Divorce Survival Guide with Kate Anthony ************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR: SOBERLINK Back-to-School season is coming up which can be difficult for those going through a divorce.  This is especially true when alcohol and child safety is a concern.  On Divorce & Beyond, my mission includes bringing you the latest insider knowledge and information from top experts with regard to your divorce, especially during these changing times.  That's why I've partnered with Soberlink to help create and offer resources to help you navigate the upcoming back-to-school season.  Soberlink is a remote alcohol monitoring technology created to help prove sobriety in custody cases. 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On today's episode of Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski is sharing how she helps her clients navigate difficult conversations throughout the divorce process. Throughout her experience as a divorce attorney and mediator, Lesa has learned six impactful steps to help her clients feel heard, feel understood, and to find common ground. Whether you're experiencing divorce or want to learn how to co-parent, tune in for insight into how Lesa helps her clients move successfully through the divorce process. In this episode: [01:45] Listen with the intention of understanding rather than reacting. [03:18] Build rapport and find common ground. [05:15] Invite explanation. [06:35] Invite collaboration. [08:20] Try to understand the other party's reasoning. [09:09] Four tools that can be helpful when having difficult conversations. [11:25] How to access more tools and resources to do divorce differently. [13:30] Saddle Up Segment. Key Takeaways: Collaborative communication is when both parties have the space to share their thoughts and feelings and listen to each other. You can still have rapport with someone, even if they have different opinions than you. It feels good to be heard. If you are trying to persuade someone that is not driven by evidence, ask questions. You can even ask, “What will it take to change your mind?” and then work from there. Quotes: “Playing nice works much better than spewing your beliefs at someone.” Lesa Koski “How do you criticize someone and still play nice? Sometimes you're going to be critical and not like their idea.” Lesa Koski “Some people are persuaded by evidence, and some by peer pressure.” Lesa Koski Resources: Lesa Koski Website Lesa Koski Blog Lesa Koski's Online Courses

Listen to the entire episode at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doing-divorce-different-a-podcast-guide-to-doing/id1573644826?i=1000564663115 Key Takeaways: • Now in 2022, there are so many communities, support systems, and resources for families going through divorce. • We all have a part of our brain that is very primitive. It's very reactive because it's meant to keep us safe. We also have a more evolved section of our brain called the prodigy section. It actively analyzes data to help us make decisions and ask questions. • Identifying your negative root beliefs is the first step to unlearning them.

This episode is for children of divorce and their parent's. Bella Duncan is a delightful 23 year old who comes to us all the way from Australia. Her parents divorced when she was just 3 years old. She now shares her insights through blogging on her webiste: A Kid with Two Homes. Today we focus on one specific blog about Decision-making. Think about all the decisions kids of divorce must make. We can view it as an opportunity to better prepare them for their futures by doing it right. Here are Bella's tips from her blog: Decision Making Tips 1. Determine what you want To make a good decision, you need to be aware of what you want. This is irrespective of what others may want. 2. Find a balance Identifying what you want is step number one, now it's time to find a balance between what you want and what you need. What does this mean? Well, from previous blogs, we know that it is important to maintain a relationship with your parents, however, not at the cost of your own happiness. 3. Communicate your decision-making process As with everything, Communication! Is! Key! Why? Because you are not alone, and people want to help you with challenging decisions! Motivated by putting her words into actions, Bella is an empowered kid of divorce who is determined to make change for the better. Currently 23, Bella has recently completed a Bachelor of Laws and a Bachelor of Psychology. Bella has gone between two homes since her parents divorced at age 3. Growing up in two homes, she experienced firsthand many of the issues children of divorce face. As a young adult she was inspired to provide a helpful resource to help kids of divorce feel seen, heard and less alone. Find Bella here: Website Instagram Meet our Host: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. Koski Law & Mediation offers: 1. A simple streamlined approach to Divorce with a peaceful outcome. 2. Attorney turned Mediator with a modest flat fee and unlimited communication. 3. At your side from start to finish and beyond. Website: Instagram: Linkedin: Facebook:

Marital Mediation is on the rise and todays guest is an expert in this field. As you know Court does not have to be the answer. Marriage Mediation like divorce mediation has conflict resolution at its core. Most divorcing clients are arguing about: 1. Finances. 2. Parenting. 3. Communication. 4. Division of labor. As Attorneys turned Mediators we help you understand your positions, interests, needs and a resolution. We are not therapists. They are important too. Rather than looking in the rearview mirror Attorney Mediators help you look straight ahead and find conflict resolution for your future; whether you stay married or divorce. Dawn Clement is a Pennsylvania Family Law Mediator & Attorney, Conflict Resolution Specialist, and Adjunct Professor at West Chester University. Dawn has been practicing for almost 18 years and is focused on helping couples resolve conflict. As a former litigator, it became clear to Dawn that families do not belong in court! Soon after starting a family of her own, she began to explore better ways to guide couples through the family law process without going to war. She now helps couples avoid costly court battles by resolving cases amicably using the mediation process. Find Dawn: website instagram linkedin After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. Koski Law & Mediation offers: 1. A simple streamlined approach to Divorce with a peaceful outcome. 2. Attorney turned Mediator with a modest flat fee and unlimited communication. 3. At your side from start to finish and beyond. Website: Instagram: Linkedin: Facebook:

Betrayal is a different type of trauma for two reasons: 1. It feels intentional, it is rejection which is different than if you lose someone you love. 2. There are a collection of symptoms (physical and mental) and time does not heal them. Today Dr Debi Silber the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute a holistic psychologist and author shares her insight into betrayal. And there is a lot. During her recent PHD study she learned the 5 stages of betrayal. 1. Set up stage where you ignore your feelings. 2. Shock and trauma-your world view is shattered. 3. Survival instincts emerge. This is the place where most people get stuck. In this stage people do not trust anyone, or they think maybe they deserved it. This stage can last for years and often people can call more distrustful relationships into their lives. 4. Finding and adjusting to a new normal. If friends and loved ones don't rise they don't come with you. 5. This is where the healing is with a re-birth, self love, mind healing and a new world view. The questions you can ask yourself if you are feeling stuck in number 3 are: am I numbing or avoiding feelings if so how? What am I pretending to see, what will my life look like in 5 years if I do nothing? What can life look like if I change? If you have been betrayed you need to rebuild self trust in your truth. If you chose to trust the betrayer again It is up to the betrayer to build that trust brick by brick. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Find Dr. Debi here: Website Facebook Instagram Linkedin After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. Koski Law & Mediation offers: 1. A simple streamlined approach to Divorce with a peaceful outcome. 2. Attorney turned Mediator with a modest flat fee and unlimited communication. 3. At your side from start to finish and beyond. Website: Instagram: Linkedin: Facebook:

Survive and thrive through your divorce. Today's guest, Ilyssa Panitz the red carpet journalist who became the only Divorce Journalist/Columnist committed to helping others navigate this major life transition: covering every angle and exploring every topic when it comes to a divorce. Today's episode contains a wealth of information available to you as you walk through the divorce process. “Let me be your waze…I will get you there.” Ilyssa Panitz. The first and most important step is to do your homework. Learn what you have, what you owe and make a list. Sometimes you can learn a lot just by checking your mail. As you know, knowledge is power. This power can bring you some peace when you are going through a difficult divorce. You can find all things divorce in Ilyssa's articles. Ilyssa writes a daily column entitled “5 Things You Need to Know How to Survive and Thrive During & After A Divorce” for Authority Magazine on Medium. She also serves as the Content/Editorial Producer for The National Association of Divorce Professionals, as well as a Co-Host of “All Things Divorce” on Clubhouse. In July 2021, Ilyssa began reaching an even wider audience through her role as creator and host of a national radio show called, “The Divorce Hour with Ilyssa Panitz” that airs weekly on CRN Digital Talk Radio. Ilyssa's prior experience as a Reporter/Producer for leading media outlets has afforded her a seamless segue into the world of divorce reporting. Over the course of her extensive career, Ilyssa has worked at such communications icons as CNN, MSNBC, 1010 WINS Radio (NY), WCBS-AM, New York-1 News, Westwood One, Star Magazine, Closer Magazine, and Meredith Publishing. Among the major news events that she has covered are The Tony Awards, The MTV Movie Awards, the Television Network Upfronts, the 2012 Summer Olympic Games in London, The September 11th Terrorist Attacks, The NBA Finals, and the 1994/1995 Major League Baseball Strike. Find Ilysa here: Website Facebook Linkedin Instagram MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. Koski Law & Mediation offers: 1. A simple streamlined approach to Divorce with a peaceful outcome. 2. Attorney turned Mediator with a modest flat fee and unlimited communication. 3. At your side from start to finish and beyond. Website: Instagram: Linkedin: Facebook:

Are you Divorced, over 40 and thinking about dating. Daniel Herrold the Divorced Dad walks us through how he navigated dating and divorce with teens. Daniel shares his authentic story and some feelings of shame about how he handled dating when his marriage ended. In this episode he shares what he would have done different and what he did right. This delightful conversation begins with answering when should I start dating? Daniels heartfelt response is not before the decree is signed. He urges people to heal themselves first, hire a therapist, get comfortable with your new parenting situation; and when you feel complete on your own you are ready to begin dating. He feels very positive about how he introduced his girlfriend to his children. He never talked to his kids about dating or introduced them to anyone until they were ready. How did he know he was ready? His kids initiated it. They were curious and Daniel was always honest. When they asked to meet her and Daniel felt it was a committed relationship everyone was prepared. He adds that each situation is different. Some kids may be extremely upset and you may need a different plan in place. Daniel has strong feelings about dating apps. He brought a new perspective to me. You know how above we talked about wait to date until you feel complete. Well a lot of the people over 40 on dating apps are not healed yet. They jump into dating as a wounded individual and that is not going to lead to any successful connections. Daniel says when you are ready, put all your lines in. Network with good friends. Remember the hobbies you love and do them. "Put yourself out there!" Daniel began Divorced Over 40 with conversations among a few new friends. Over small dinners and happy hours during the summer of 2020, six 40-somethings in Tulsa realized one striking common denominator: their midlife, post-divorce status. Messy, raw, friendly, acrimonious, you name it – our experiences with divorce and our ex were varied, but all of them sang from the same sheet of music: divorce midlife is not for the faint of heart. Themes began to emerge such as the importance of friendship, managing a new set of finances, self care and healing, successful co-parenting and, of course, dating. Find Daniel here: Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. Koski Law & Mediation offers: 1. A simple streamlined approach to Divorce with a peaceful outcome. 2. Attorney turned Mediator with a modest flat fee and unlimited communication. 3. At your side from start to finish and beyond. Website: Instagram: Linkedin: Facebook:

Happiness is an inside job. In this episode Jen Medwin coaches us to empowerment through divorce and beyond. Jen uses mnemonics (easy to remember words and phrases/I am sharing because I had to look it up) in her new book Strategies and Tips from a Divorce Coach. It is like having a divorce coach in your back pocket. She urges people going through divorce to pause and be aware or how you are feeling. Here is just one example of her mnemonics: E + R= O. The Event + how you React = the Outcome. You have control over how you react. Make sure to take a breath, pause and become aware of how you manage conflict. Jen is a huge proponent of moving forward and she has a lot of teaching on empowerment. Jen schooled me on how some of my words could be more empowering. And when I used words like I chose to believe rather than I have to believe my whole mindset changed. Meet our guest: Jennifer Warren Medwin, MS is a CDC Certified Divorce Coach. Supreme Court of Florida Family Mediator. Her private practice is called Seeking Empowerment. Jennifer works alongside couples who are contemplating divorce and are fearful of high conflict and with those who have hope to save their marriages. Find her at: Website Instagram Facebook Linkedin MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. Koski Law & Mediation offers: 1. A simple streamlined approach to Divorce with a peaceful outcome. 2. Attorney turned Mediator with a modest flat fee and unlimited communication. 3. At your side from start to finish and beyond. Website: Instagram: Linkedin: Facebook:

Helping your kids through divorce is paramount to divorcing parents. Author Despina Mavridou knows first hand. Growing up in Greece, she was the child of a tumultuous divorce. She shares her story of being alienated from her father for almost 29 years. Despina's book, Mum, Dad Can you Hear Me? Addresses all the feelings she had going through divorce as a child. She is passionate about sharing this information because she was afraid to speak her feelings as a child of divorce. Her book is a way to give children going through a divorce a voice. The book is an amazing resource for parents and children. Find Despina Mavridou at: Facebook All Despina's Books Instagram MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. Koski Law & Mediation offers: 1. A simple streamlined approach to Divorce with a peaceful outcome. 2. Attorney turned Mediator with a modest flat fee and unlimited communication. 3. At your side from start to finish and beyond. Website: Instagram: Linkedin: Facebook:

Feeling blessed to have this breath of fresh air on Doing Divorce Different today. You know how much I love supporting people who have been through difficult times and want to help others through them. Meghan Wick is doing just this and in such a unique way. Listen up to learn how she can, "help single moms/dads get on their feet again and give them something that could remind them of their resilience and courage." How you make ask? Through styling and photography. Find Meghan at: website instagram linkedin MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. Koski Law & Mediation offers: 1. A simple streamlined approach to Divorce with a peaceful outcome. 2. Attorney turned Mediator with a modest flat fee and unlimited communication. 3. At your side from start to finish and beyond. Website: Instagram: Linkedin: Facebook:

This is the nuts and bolts of what you need to begin your Divorce Mediation process. Yes, the paperwork. Here it is in a nutshell: Taxes Pay stubs Retirement Plan Statements Health and Dental coverage information Stock information and values Property deeds Life Insurance Paperwork Bank Account information Debts Budgets If you begin pulling all of this information together you are off to a good start. Budgets are difficult; they are so important. It gives you a leg up to know how much you need to survive and thrive after the divorce. It will also better prepare you in your negotiations. And don't forget to outline what your values are. Mediation is a bit of a compromise so if you know what you are willing to bend on (and what you are not)- before you actually sit down to mediate - you are better able to leverage your true needs. If you need Divorce Support, or know someone who does, please contact me. I am here and I want to help.

Emotionally preparing for divorce is essential to a successful mediation. Host Lesa Koski is on a mission to help people prepare emotionally as well as logistically. Todays episode shares an amazing Yoga inspired body connection with Coach Tracy Pleschourt (Founder of Self Made U and Lesa Koski's personal coach). Feelings run rampant during divorce. That being said, You still need an amazing divorce plan that will set you in the right direction for the rest of your life. By utilizing this process you will be in control of your mind even during these volatile moments. Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes. Tracy's website instagram facebook linkedin MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: lesakoski.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

Don't let finances keep you in a bad marriage. Learn how to become Financially independent from Millen Livis. You may just want to listen to hear Millen's beautiful french accents. Millen escaped from Lithuania 30 years ago, while it was under Soviet rule, with her young daughter and husband. Finding herself in a strange country, not knowing the language and divorced was terrifying for Millen. She pulled herself up from the depths of despair and now wants to help others through difficult financial situations. She is living a life she loves by: helping people through difficult times, re-married to a wonderful frenchman (sharing her time between Florida and the South of France) and turning her mess into a message. Millen explains that financial freedom means different things to different people and you need to discover your own core values. Millen also talks about how to have a wealth mindset. My favorite quote from this episode, "Whatever dream you have; there is a better life after divorce." MILLEN LIVIS is International Holistic Financial Independence mentor, best-selling author, investor, and entrepreneur. Graduate of the acclaimed Wharton Business School, holder of a Master's Degree in Physics, certified NLP practitioner, and certified Instant Miracle energy healer, Millen combines her traditional and holistic education to help women elevate their financial intelligence so that they become Financially Independent (or retire early) faster, and enjoy more freedom in their lives without having to worry about money. Millen's Website Facebook Instagram Youtube MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: Instagram: Linkedin: Facebook:

There is no perfect way to divorce but there is a better way. Attorney Lesa Koski joins today with her 5 steps to get you to a better mindset for a successful mediation session. Tune in as we discuss the realm of possibilities on how to do divorce differently and better. After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation.  In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up.  She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies.Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while making her life such that it blesses humankind.  This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand.  Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable.  Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none.Mediation offers many potential benefits in family law cases. But before you even schedule it, you need to know the answers to these questions:What do you want?What are you willing to settle for?What is your bottom line?What is most important to you? Prioritize your list! Lesa provides her clients with her “unintentional vs intentional model” :C - CircumstanceT - Thought F - Feeling A - Action R - Result You can change the way you feel by changing your thoughts, as long as they're believable. Having a good mindset before attending mediation is so important. You can find more information about her model by visiting her website: https://www.lesakoski.com/While both of our approaches are different, neither are wrong! Don't go into mediation without a plan.  We're not pro divorce, but we are divorce pros. Save yourself time, money, and energy by following these tips! 

How do you survive and even thrive through a tumultuous divorce? You will be surprised to learn that sometimes when you mend yourself you won't actually need to end your marriage. The guest on Doing Divorce Different this week was special; Karen McMahon Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. Her insight comes first hand. When you hear her unique story, you will be amazed that she picked up from the ashes and created a beautiful life. Now she helps other people through the process. One of my favorite moments was when Karen talked about mending yourself first and then making the decision if you should end the marriage or not. As we listen in this episode, we learn how sometimes if you heal yourself your marriage actually does not need to end. Karen's marriage did end and she emerged transforming her beautiful life. Karen talks about sitting in your feelings even if they are hard to feel. As you know feelings will not kill us: and to heal we need to feel, process the feelings and then release them. She talks about staying present. People often circle back to the past or fear of the future; this sucks the energy better spent dealing with the moment. When you are dealing with a high conflict person divorce can be extremely difficult. This is where Karen talks about mending yourself. You have no power over the other persons action; however you don't need to take the bait. You can train yourself to maintain awareness rather than defend yourself. She talks about stopping and asking yourself, “how important is this to me?” and then create space for yourself. Sometimes even just counting to 10, other times you table the conversation, take a walk etc. It is always important to keep your kids out of the chaos (no matter what age). Karen's situation was very difficult because her soon to be ex was bad talking her to the kiddos. Karen talked about how she had to deal with the angry kids without throwing her husband under the bus; or dragging the kids into the issues surrounding the divorce. In the end she was able to establish compassion for her ex husband and that has made all the difference. I truly want all my clients to begin the healing journey, heal yourself: because I don't want you to be in this position again. Karen founded Journey Beyond Divorce in 2010, after discovering that the pain of dissolving her marriage had been the very stimulus for her personal transformation. "I'm the person I wish I had by my side throughout my divorce journey and I look forward to helping you along yours." You can find Karen at: Website Listen here The book she mentioned was: Getting the Love you Want MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.lesakoski.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

If you are wondering if divorce mediation is right for you and you want to learn how to prepare for a divorce mediation, tune into this episode. Attorney Jill Coil, a high profile divorce litigator and Lesa Koski, a divorce mediator; sit down and discuss the realm of possibilities on how to do divorce different and better. Lesa coaches you through her 5 steps to get you to a better mindset for a successful mediation session. Jill gives you the nuts and bolts of what you need to know before you head into a divorce mediations session. First list your priorities in order. She prompts her clients to understand their finances and budget. Go into the session with an understanding of what you want, what you would settle for and what is your bottom line. She reiterates that if you come to an agreement and nobody feels like they won; you have had a successful divorce mediation session. The conversation gets inspiring when the two discuss that there is no perfect way to divorce but there is a better way. Lesa Koski and Jill Coil are passionate about taking the shame out of divorce by doing divorce different. There is a palpable movement changing how couples uncouple. Lesa and Jill are on a mission to empower clients to have a better life after divorce. Jill L. Coil, Esq., is a divorce attorney licensed in both Texas and Utah. She has created and grown one of the largest family law firms in the state of Utah. She is also a motivational speaker and is on a mission to ensure that people feel empowered in their own lives to understand their self-worth and then be able to empower others. Last year, she released her first book, No One Dies from Divorce: How to Survive and Thrive When Your Marriage Ends, and hosts a podcast with the same title. Follow Jill on instagram at @JillCoil MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.lesakoski.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

What if I suspect my spouse is cheating. Sadly you are probably right, according to marriage and family therapist Brian Burns. Brain urges you to trust your gut and be particularly attentive if your spouse is putting up a good defense. If he or she is this demonstrates lack of empathy for your feelings and should be a warning sign. No one gets to tell you how to feel. And remember it is scary to face the truth; but is is the path to finding meaning in your life. Brian urges to be brave and courageous. Love yourself enough to be respected by the other person - Expect your spouse to value how you are feeling and bring your concerns to the table. Brian loves marriage and helps us examine why don't you have an affair. Brian helps adults who are at a crisis point in their marriage gain clarity and confidence and move forward in planning for their family's future in a way that is healthy and happy for the couple and their children. Find him here! MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.lesakoski.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

What constitutes an affair? This weeks guest on Doing Divorce Different Brian Burns defines it like this: "Behaviors or actions a reasonable spouse would feel uncomfortable with." Brian goes on to share that whether the affair is physical or emotional; both are equally difficult to heal from. In order to heal from an affair you need: 1. Both parties need to be willing to work to heal the marriage. 2. The offending party must take full accountability. 3. The hurt party needs to be open to forgive. Brian also explains how the offending party can work to build trust again. This party has shook the foundation of the marriage and the old reality of a trusting relationship no longer exists. The offending party needs to be prepared to tell the hurt party what they are going to do to build trust again. Answering the hurt parties questions is a must. Brian explains what the right and wrong questions are. Another step the offending party can make is utilizing reassuring behavior, not forever but for a time. Maybe let the hurt spouse have access to your phone etc. Often marriages can heal from affairs. Brian reminds us that transformation happens through crisis. If you are feeling alone and are trying to heal through this Brian recommends having at least 2 people you trust that you can talk to about it. Not people that help you spinout on victim mentality. But 2 strong souls to help you heal through this. He also states if you are having trouble eating or sleeping call your doctor. Let them help you through this difficult phase. It is part of the self care I always talk about...it is basic self care. Books Brian mentioned are: New Rules of Marriage by Terrence Real State of Affairs by Esther Perel Brian helps adults who are at a crisis point in their marriage gain clarity and confidence and move forward in planning for their family's future in a way that is healthy and happy for the couple and their children. Find him here! MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.lesakoski.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

Will I survive Divorce? The Divorce REHABs Wendy Sterling did and she is sharing her secrets in this episode! "I believe divorce can be the most empowering thing we go through to find our true identity and voice to start designing a life we chose instead of a feeling of being stuck on auto pilot." Wendy share's her REHAB acronym: R Re-discover yourself. E End the victim mentality. H Healing all the wounds. B build your life. Listen in for her 3 tips on how to recover from divorce quicker. You can find Wendy at: webiste instagram facebook podcast MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.lesakoski.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

Co-Parenting your children mitigates the damage of divorce. Today Mary Jeppsen teaches us some of her tried and true tools to co-parent well. Mary has been a counselor for 15 years, primarily working with children, couples and families. Prior to becoming a licensed professional counselor, and earning a PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision, she raised 11 children, so she has lots of family experience. We begin by working through how do you address the fact that you are getting divorced with your kids. Mary advises to be specific with limited details. First approach your children together as a united front. We know this isn't easy but it is imperative that your kids hear the details from both of you together. Kids want to know they will have both of you in their lives after divorce. Most important make sure your kids feel safe. Tell your children how it is going work so they understand that you have everything under control. Mary is licensed in the States of Arkansas and Alabama, and is a Certified Daring Way™ facilitator ( with the work of Brene' Brown). She has worked with two non-profits with children and teens and owned a successful private counseling practice in Rogers, Arkansas for 7 years. In 2020, she and her husband started a new private counseling practice, Jeppsen Counseling, and they have been doing virtual counseling since. She now resides at Dauphin Island, Alabama with her husband, Mike , who is a counselor, and their youngest child, Serah , who has Down Syndrome. Mike and Mary offer private Marital Enrichment weekends now on Dauphin Island. In 2018 Mary published , "Working With Co-parents, a Manual for Therapists through Routledge Press" .

Have you heard the Buzz? Tracy was interviewed by Lesa Koski, ESQ & Founder of Doing Divorce Different. Divorce-Hardship-Holidays and FOOD. Tracy teaches listeners of the podcast how taking control of what you put in your body can be the best self care while going through a divorce. Lesa Koski, ESQ and podcast host of Doing Divorce Different, shares her journey through a difficult holiday season and how coach Tracy's mind math has helped her see abundance even in the hard things. Solving the mind math is the first step in Tracy's S.E.L.F approach. You can learn the 5 steps in episode 5 of Doing Divorce Different. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doing-divorce-different/id1573644826?i=1000530205916 Learn more about Lesa, her mediation practice, and her programs on Instagram @koskilaw

You can be happy through your divorce! Or at the very least balanced! Join us as the Happy Hustler (Cary Jack) walks us through the 10 alignments and how you can get his book free! (when you pay for shipping). Doing Divorce Different was honored to welcome this top .5% podcaster to share his secret to blissful balance. Cary Jack was moved be a part of Doing Divorce Different. He is totally in to adding value to peoples lives; even those going through a rough spot. He also experienced a gut-wrenching divorce as a child. He hopes this episode can help even one parent make divorce a better experience for kids. Cary Jack walks host Lesa Koski through the 10 alignments and has her rank her own blissful balance. Get a piece of paper and join along to get the most out of this episode. The 10 alignments or soul mappin are listed below: 1. Selfless Service 2. Optimize health 3. Unplug 4. Loving Relationship 5. Mindful spirituality (gratitude) 6. Abundance Financially 7. Personal Development 8. Passion/hobbies 9. Impactful work 10. Nature Connection Cary Jack recommends that you focus on one at a time to achieve your blissful balance. Balancing our own selves can help us grow through divorce and help our kids have a better experience in the end. Cary Jack adds, when kids are involved keep your ego out and do what is best for them. You can find Cary Jack and get his book on his website. Listen to the Happy Hustle podcast on most platforms! Cary Jack Website Happy Hustle Podcast Cary Jack instagram Cary Jack linkedin MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.lesakoski.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

This episode makes sense of all the noise we have heard about how you know it is time to divorce. No one can help us more that guest Kim Geiken; who was a divorce mediation client and became a mediator. Join us as we discuss the three A's. Addiction, Abuse and Adultery, some say they lead to a sure fire path to divorce. Others say they are the only reason to divorce. We re-examine Brian Burns 4 step process: 1. Know yourself-Are you willing to change and grow to make the marriage work? 2. Check-in with your spouse, are they willing to change and grow to make the marriage work? 3. If it's new give yourself time (maybe 6 months) being your best self; taking care of your own lane - to re-evaluate. 4. Know you have done your best and follow your gut. We discuss that knowing you did your best and that you tried everything not only makes you feel good about your decision; it also helps you have tools that assist you in divorcing together better. Kim shares her story of growth and connection. And how this is fundamental to any partnership. MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

It is divorce month and everyone is wondering is it time to go...or do I want to stay? This episode is so so good. Brian shares all the information that can help you make the right decision. Brian helps listeners with a couple easy steps to a very difficult decision. 1. Know yourself. Work on yourself and look at whether or not you are willing to change and grow to make the marriage work. 2. Check in with your spouse, are they willing to work with you on the marriage. 3. If this is new give yourself 6 months being your best self, or taking care of your own lane and then re-evaluate. 4. Know you have done your best and follow your gut. I always tell my clients, family and friends failure is not negative. It is neutral and it is the greatest learning tool we have. So go easy on yourself. Brian helps adults who are at a crisis point in their marriage gain clarity and confidence and move forward in planning for their family's future in a way that is healthy and happy for the couple and their children. Find him here! MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

Divorce-Hardship-Holidays and You heard me food. Coach Tracy gives you a free coaching session. On todays special New Years episode Tracy teaches how taking control of what you put in your body can be the best self care ever. Lesa Koski shares her journey through a difficult holiday season and how coach Tracy's mind math has helped her see abundance even in the hard things. Solving the mind math is the first step in Tracy's S.E.L.F approach. You can learn the 5 steps in episode 5. E represents eating food that fuels. There is no better time to remember this than when you are going through hard things. Learn how taking out sugar, flour and adding good fats can take away anxiety, depression and leave you feeling in control and satisfied. (L for learning to collect data and F is for fasting.) Tracy Pleschourt is offering Project New You January 3-7th! Sign up on her website because now is the time to begin the work on the New You! Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes. Tracy's website instagram facebook linkedin MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

In this episode attorney and mediator Lesa Koski shares why she choses Mediation over adversity and why working collaboratively is a better way. We all know Divorce Mediation saves time and money; but did you know you can mitigate the damage divorce does to your children when you are a united front in your parenting? If you are thinking about divorce you need this episode. You will understand divorce mediation and the steps involved after listening. Please contact Lesa Koski. MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

Friends you will feel comforted about your divorce after listening to life coach Jenn Krusinski. You can put even the messiest divorces behind you and create a much richer, truer life. Jen explains how she had her own dark night of the soul. She grieved. A lot. And, then she made a decision. She stood in her truth and everything changed. It's why she wants to work with you. So you can have this too. Do you feel isolated? Broken? Empty? Are you keeping your life small? Still blaming your ex? Holding onto anger? Do you long for more meaning, more aliveness, more fun? Are you afraid? Are you feeling like you don't even know who you are anymore? YOU CAN START OVER. Find Jenn at: website instagram facebook MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

Sheletta Brundidge is a broadcaster and Emmy award-winning comedian who loves Jesus, bacon and brown liquor. She joins us on Doing Divorce Different to share her divorce story and how she is maneuvering through the hard stuff with 4 kids in tow. (All 4 kids are homeschooling with her as she records this episode-yes, you can hear them in the background at times- real life). Learn more about Sheletta and find her podcasts at website. Sheletta makes me laugh is a podcast network with shows to tickle your funny bone, make you think and cause you to cry. MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

Learn the science behind dating with author Dr. Duana Welch. In this fun episode we learn what men are looking for and how it is different than what women are looking for in a mate. Duana coaches clients on how to write their dating profile and she unveils some unique tips that will help you find love again. We also delve into dating and kids, how to handle it and what to watch out for. Dr. Duana Welch is the original Love Factually author and coach, known for using social science to solve real-life relationship issues. She has been a professor at universities in Florida, California, and Texas across 20 years, and has contributed to NPR, PBS, Psychology Today, and numerous other outlets, podcasts and videos. Check out her books and resources on her website below and contact Lesa Koski to help you feel relief through a difficult divorce. Duana's Website MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

Wondering about divorce, dating and step-parenting and how it all affects your children. Today's episode will help you learn how to have a successful step family; how this will help your kids and what to stay away from even in the beginning stages of dating. There is so much good learning going on in this episode. I was delighted by Ron's advice when you have kids date with both eyes open wide. (He also stated when your married keep one eye shut :)-Great idea!). First, Ron walks us through some red and yellow lights when dating with kids. Because you are a package deal you want to be extra careful on how dating can impact kids. Next he discusses how being a blended family is hard work and worth it. When children are part of a high functioning step family it can mitigate the negative effects of divorce. This being said, never date someone to try to find a parent for you child; you would be marrying a step dad. Having a safe loving health home is what benefits kids the most; whether they have two parents or one. A thought that really hit home with me was this, "When you live in fear of being hurt you tend to do things that lead you to being hurt." Ron asked, "are you going to be a victim of pain or feel it and push through it?" This is completely in line with my coaching through the divorce process. I will definitely share the insight with future clients that the presence of fear of another break up predicts whether people will have a good or bad marriage 93% of the time. Find Ron Deal and all his amazing books and more information on blending families at: Website Instagram Facebook Twitter Podcast MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

In this weeks episode Attorney and Mediator Lesa Koski is joined by Attorney Angela Heart who is sharing information on the non-profit Daisy Camp. This resource is available to all of our listeners whether they are just beginning the divorce process, in the middle of a divorce or recovering from a divorce. Angela share's how Daisy Camp empowers people with resources and tools on the divorce process. Daisy Camp never turns anyone away. Go to Daisycamp.org and see what's coming. These webinars allow you to be in community with others; while remaining anonymous if you like! MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up. She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies. Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind. This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand. Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable. Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none. Website: https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

In this week's episode, Susan Guthrie is joined by Attorney and Mediator, Lesa Koski, who is helping people to do divorce in different ways that include, group coaching, mediation, and other innovative approaches so that your divorce is a perfect fit for your family! So often when people are facing divorce they assume that the process unfolds in the same, unpleasant and adversarial way for all couples.  You know, the "Kramer vs. Kramer" and "War of the Roses" kind of way but that is anything but true!  Attorney and Mediator, Lesa Koski is a leading innovator in the field of divorce and with her many years of experience in the field, she is creating new and innovative ways for people to move through the process so that people can curate the divorce that will will best for them and for their family.   She discusses her brand new group coaching and mediation course as well as other though-provoking insights into how YOU can DO DIVORCE DIFFERENT! 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Finding relief in your divorce journey can actually begin with science. You will learn the science behind relationships, the importance of forgiveness and how to keep your kids out of the middle of your divorce on today's episode. Dr. Duana Welch is the original Love Factually author and coach, known for using social science to solve real-life relationship issues. She has been a professor at universities in Florida, California, and Texas across 20 years, and has contributed to NPR, PBS, Psychology Today, and numerous other outlets, podcasts and videos. Check out her books and resources on her website below and contact Lesa Koski to help you feel relief through a difficult divorce. Duana's Website Lesa Koski's Website Instagram Facebook linkedin

Lesa Koski, attorney and mediator shares how she utilized her gifts in the most counterintuitive way when working with clients who want to divorce. Founder and SheEO of Self-MadeU, Tracy Pleschourt, teaches people how to self coach so that they can create any result from their life. Join The Student Union, our free private facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/smustudentunion for lots of free coaching.

You will have fun today on Doing Divorce Different. Thank you so much for tuning in. This is my birthday episode and I get to chat with my good friend and apprentice, Kim Geiken. She has all the fun stories about how she is thriving through her divorce journey. We even delve into the world of dating a bit. Enjoy! website facebook linkedin instagram

You will learn how to connect with your kids from Peace and Parenting's Michelle Kenney. Michelle's tools on connecting with kids rather than discipling them has changed my parent child relationship first hand. I am feeling blessed to be able to share her insights with you. When you see behavior in your child that you know isn't helpful you can connect with them and help them think well. Michelle teaches that empathy, play and one on one connection are the ways you can connect and then model behavior that will serve them through life. I was struck by her comment that kids really don't learn from our verbal instruction. 80% of learning comes from modeling. So if we can model good behavior life will teach them the rest! Michelle also share's some of the biggest road blocks kids face during divorce. You can find Michelle at: Michelle's website Michelle's instagram Michelle's facebook Peace and Parenting Podcast Lesa Koski's website Lesa's instagram Lesa's facebook

You will find peace in this episode. If you are going through a Divorce you need: Tosh Brittan AKA The Divorce Goddess. She teaches that Kindness is the power. Listen to how she maneuvered through her own divorce using the courage of kindness. Tosh's mission is, "to empower and support those going through divorce to change their mindset. From victim and blame and anger to acceptance and forgiveness, compassion and self kindness, to thrive rather than survive so that you can live a wonderful life beyond!" Find the Divorce Goddess at: website Instagram Facebook

You will enjoy a new perspective from a well rounded fitness, mind and body instructor. In this episode JJ Flizanes teaches that you are the creator of your own reality. She shares three steps to overcoming a victim mentality and creating effective communication. JJ walks you through her own divorce journey and how she healed her core wounds through the process. JJ Flizanes is an Empowerment Strategist and Host of The Fit 2 Love Podcast Show. She is the Director of Invisible Fitness, an Amazon best-selling author of Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life, and author of Knack Absolute Abs: Routines for a Fit and Firm Core, and was named Best Personal Trainer in Los Angeles by Elite Traveler Magazine. Her newest book, The Invisible Fitness Formula: 5 Secrets to Release Weight & End Body Shame debuted at #2 on Amazon's Best Seller List and New Hot Release for Women's Health. JJ vividly reminds us that the word ‘fitness' is not just about the state of one's physical body, but also the factors which determine a person's overall well being. And, for JJ, the key components in all these areas are ‘invisible' — balanced support structures of nutrition, emotional centeredness and health. JJ Flizanes instagram facebook website feelings list How to Love Yourself Podcast Lesa Koski instagram facebook website

You will love this story! Learning how to have a happy divorce is easy and enjoyable with Nikki and Ben. As they share their story you will discover how you too can divorce a better way; a different way. Join attorney and mediator Lesa Koski as she has a fun conversation about their book and their happy life after divorce. Find Our Happy Divorce How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Together here! The greatest lesson learned on todays episode is that there is another way to divorce. There is hope to work together as a family even when you are not together anymore. This couples first steps in the right direction were the following: 1. worked on themselves, 2. apologized for their wrongs, 3. agreed they wanted what was best for their son. And so began their healing journey through divorce. Our Happy Divorce Instagram Our Happy Divorce Facebook Our Happy Divorce Website Lesa Koski instagram Lesa Koski Facebook Lesa Koski Linkedin Lesa Koski website

You will learn how divorce affects your children in this insightful episode. Lesa Koski interviews award-winning filmmaker Ellen Bruno on her documentary film Split (see trailer here). Learn the lessons taught by the children themselves. Bruno shares her personal journey through divorce and what she learned creating this film. A sequel is on the way, and we could not be more pleased. There are many lessons that can help you help your kids through divorce. Here are the four main ones: 1. Children want to know what is happening. (without all the hurtful details). 2. Children need to know it is not their fault. 3. Children need to know that the parents have this and everything is going to be ok. 4. Children need to hear positive things about each parent. They are 1/2 of each and hearing bad information about one makes a child feel 1/2 bad. If you want help your kids and co-parent well check out my online course. Check out Ellen and her other amazing documentaries here. Split documentary here.

Financial discussions can be fun. Really! Wealth advisor Will Berigan joins host Lesa Koski as they tap into all the tools to keep you feeling calm when dealing with your finances. When you are beginning your divorce journey it is extremely important to get your financial paperwork in order. Gathering information on all your assets will make the process smoother. In addition to your assets, budgeting is a big deal. It is the number one thing Divorce Mediation clients need when discussing some form of support. Finances can be easy when you understand what you have, what is coming in and what you spend. Koski Law will hold your hand through your financial divorce issues with easy to use forms to assist in your divorce preparation. When finances get complicated we call Will Berigan. (Will's website) Lesa Koski website instagram facebook linkedin

In this episode I share my self help and coaching tips. You will learn how to coach yourself and take responsibility for your outcome. A 5 step process will prepare you for a difficult conversation or mediation session. Dealing with anger in the moment is real, learn some tricks to handle this and other difficult feelings. Finally find out how a peaceful mindset is available to you. website instagram facebook linkedin

This episode will ease your mind about how the divorce process is affecting your kids. Join Kim and I as Marriage and Family Therapist Brian Burns gives you multiple tips on how to help your kids be ok through divorce. Also learn how you can find out if you are ready for divorce. Reach out to Brian at https://www.mnrelationshiprepair.com. Share your healing divorce stories with us at https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/. The name of the netflix movie is The Marriage Story! Website Facebook Instagram Linkedin Twitter

This Podcast is a Business Talk Radio interview of host Lesa Koski. You will learn all things mediation!