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Two of Lindsay Clancy's own expert witnesses looked at the same woman and walked away with different diagnoses, and that disagreement might matter more than anything the prosecution said in fourteen days at Plymouth Superior Court. The courtroom conduct alone has raised eyebrows. The prosecution opened by calling Lindsay "controlling, meticulous, and manipulative" and telling the jury she faked a suicide attempt, even though she's paralyzed from the waist down after cutting her own wrists and neck and jumping from a second-story window. On cross-examination, the prosecutor asked Lindsay's former mother-in-law, who described her as a wonderful and nurturing mother, whether she knew murder was a mortal sin. The judge struck the question. When Lindsay's mother testified that her daughter said the medication was destroying her mind, the prosecutor asked why she was never committed. During autopsy testimony for eight-month-old Callan, Lindsay sobbed hard enough that the judge called a recess, and the next morning brought accusations of a hot mic catching someone on the prosecution's side saying "shut her up," which the DA's office denies. But the diagnosis fight is the one that actually decides what happens next. If the jury returns a not guilty by reason of insanity verdict, Massachusetts law allows the state to keep refiling commitment petitions every six months, indefinitely, and release requires convincing a judge she's no longer mentally ill or dangerous. Andrea Yates, acquitted the same way in 2006, is still institutionalized today. Getting out isn't just about proving her innocence anymore. It means proving, to a judge, over and over, that a diagnosis her own defense says she'll carry for life no longer makes her dangerous. Defense attorney Eric Faddis and psychotherapist Shavaun Scott join Tony Brueski to separate the theater from what actually determines Lindsay Clancy's future. Links & Legal Footer: Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/ Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePod This publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice. Hashtags: #LindsayClancy #EricFaddis #TrueCrimeToday #LindsayClancyTrial #InsanityDefense #AndreaYates #PlymouthSuperiorCourt #MentalHealth #TrueCrime #ShavaunScott
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Lindsay Clancy's own defense doesn't dispute what happened to her three children. The trial is about what was happening inside her mind, and the prosecution just spent fourteen days at Plymouth Superior Court trying to convince a jury it was less than it looks. The prosecutor opened by calling Lindsay "controlling, meticulous, and manipulative" and told the jury she faked a suicide attempt. Lindsay is paralyzed from the waist down. She cut her own wrists and neck before jumping from a second-story window, and the jury has watched her sit in a wheelchair through every day of testimony since. On cross-examination, the prosecutor asked Lindsay's former mother-in-law, who called her a wonderful and nurturing mother, whether she knew murder was a mortal sin. The judge struck the question before it could sit with the jury. When Lindsay's own mother testified that her daughter had said the medication was destroying her mind, the prosecutor asked why she never had Lindsay committed. Then came the recess. During autopsy testimony for eight-month-old Callan, Lindsay sobbed hard enough that the judge stopped the proceedings. The next morning, defense attorney Kevin Reddington accused someone on the prosecution's side of being caught on a hot mic saying "shut her up." The DA's office insists the words were "shut it off." None of this changes what a not guilty by reason of insanity verdict would actually cost Lindsay. Massachusetts law allows the state to keep refiling commitment petitions every six months, indefinitely, and Andrea Yates, acquitted the same way back in 2006, is still institutionalized today. Eric Faddis and Shavaun Scott join Tony Brueski to weigh a prosecution strategy that could be alienating the jury it needs, against a verdict that might not free her at all. Links & Legal Footer: Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/ Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePod This publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice. Hashtags: #LindsayClancy #PlymouthDA #HiddenKillers #LindsayClancyTrial #PlymouthSuperiorCourt #KevinReddington #InsanityDefense #AndreaYates #MentalHealth #TrueCrime
Meredith Cook grew up in Charlotte, North Carolina, one of four kids in a small house with two working parents. She was later diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia, which made traditional school a struggle, so she skipped college and trained as an esthetician instead — working odd jobs on the side, including driving medical specimens between cities at night for quick cash. She spent nearly a decade working under a Charlotte dermatologist after literally walking office to office asking to work for free just to learn. After her second son was born, she felt a disconnect she couldn't explain — not herself, foggy, disconnected from her kids and the people around her. She pushed through it quietly for years, assuming it was just what motherhood felt like. The turning point came when her brother, training for an Ironman in Wilmington, started experimenting with hemp and CBD for his own recovery and encouraged her to try it. Her husband bought everything on the shelf at the local health food store. The fog lifted — but so did her trust in what she was actually putting in her body, once she realized the hemp industry at the time had zero transparency or testing standards. Her husband's connections in agriculture led her to a friend growing USDA organic hemp through a pilot program. She started taking their clean product, felt like herself again, and started sharing it with her mom, her mother-in-law, and friends — watching a business snowball entirely from word of mouth. In 2019, she officially launched Green Compass with her brother and husband, built on a referral-based model where the people sharing the product were the same people who'd felt it change their lives. It grew to $50 million in revenue in two years, almost entirely without paid marketing or PR. When that channel began to shift industry-wide, Meredith resisted changing course longer than she probably should have — she was emotionally invested in the community that built the brand. Eventually, alongside customer surveys and community input, Green Compass transitioned to a DTC model, now generating roughly 80% of revenue from recurring subscriptions, with a growing lineup that includes Core Bloom, a broccoli sprout and mushroom blend, and more product innovation on the way. Make sure to check out Green Compass at: https://greencompassglobal.com Check out my new book on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4kRKGTX Watch our mini-doc - Starting Small: The Raw Truth Behind Entrepreneurship and the American Dream: https://youtu.be/eHuq93wIxs0?si=eDB-ycngvWNapRLO Visit Starting Small Media: https://startingsmallmedia.org/ Subscribe to exclusive Starting Small emails: https://startingsmallmedia.org/newsletter-signup Follow Starting Small: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startingsmallpod/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Startingsmallpod/?modal=admin_todo_tour LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/cameronnagle
https://teachhoops.com/teachhoops-memberships/2000/ https://www.thechampionshipcoach.com/ When Your Tank Is Only 80% Full, Is It Time to Walk Away? Episode 2000: Coach Bill turns the microphone on Steve Collins for a conversation about 37 years on the sideline, three state titles, one 7 and 14 season, and what the game actually owes the kids who never become stars. For the 2000th episode of Coach Unplugged, the format flips. Coach Bill takes over the questions and Steve sits in the guest chair for the first time, fresh off a state finals run and the first fall in nearly four decades with no season to plan. They talk about what it felt like the moment it ended, the bus ride from La Crosse that turned a losing program around, and the price his family paid along the way. Stay to the end for a 2000th episode offer that only lives here in the show notes. IN THIS EPISODE 01:17 A milestone inside a milestone. First fall in 37 years with no season and no lesson plans. 02:13 How Coach Unplugged started. A YouTube idea with a friend, back when podcasting was actually hard. 04:33 "I felt full." The feeling after the final game, and why you want to leave the amusement park while you still want to ride. 06:35 The storybook ending. Up two at halftime on the eighth ranked team in the country, 27 and 3, and why a great taste makes walking away both easier and harder. 08:13 What retirement actually looks like. Family, travel, and four clinic dates this fall including Wisconsin, Minnesota, and Brooklyn. 09:32 Why start another basketball podcast? Nobody was talking to the coach in the trenches. The parent problems, the bus that never shows, the missing official 30 minutes before tip. 11:37 The 7 and 14 season. Sitting in a locker room in La Crosse saying "I don't think I can do this," as the only applicant for the job. 13:03 The roadmap from that bus ride. How two hours back to Madison became the plan for one of the best programs in the Midwest. 14:32 Find your circle and keep it close. The advice from his high school coach that produced two staffs in 30 years. 16:18 The resume. Three state championships, five runner up finishes, eleven state appearances, fourteen straight conference titles, twenty six consecutive winning seasons, and why none of it sounds real to him. 17:08 Micro goals. Don't get fired. Then have a winning season. Then beat the perennial power. Then contend. Then win it. 18:40 Out scouting everybody. Sending his mom to a game with a camera, VCRs in the basement until 2 a.m., and why that edge is gone now. 19:43 What does coaching owe the kids who never play in college? Roles, camaraderie, failing together, and the life lessons kids remember long after the Pythagorean theorem. 22:23 The two kinds of coaches who ask for help. The young ones who know they don't know, and the veterans still hunting for an edge. It's the middle group that stalls out. 23:35 The price. What the wins cost his wife, his parents, and his mother in law, and why both of his kids will tell you he never missed anything. 26:15 Rapid fire for the first year coach. Worry less about parents and more about players. Communicate, then over communicate. After a bad loss go exercise and do not watch film. Stop drilling for the sake of drilling. 28:37 How do you know you were successful? Strip away the banners and the wins and what's left is the connection with the players. 29:21 One sentence, if that's all a coach remembers. People first. 29:44 The second act. The Championship Coach fellowship, one on one calls, group calls, and coaches who have his actual cell number. 30:02 Building Hey Sammy. Bill on the app overload problem in youth sports, and a text based assistant that pulls in schedules, calendars, drive time, and weather with nothing to install. 32:04 The golden nugget, buried at the end on purpose. THE 2000TH EPISODE OFFER 20% off teachhoops.com for the lifetime of the membership, for the first 20 coaches only. Use code FIRSTTWENTY at checkout. This is not being announced anywhere else. If you made it to the end of the episode, it's yours. LINKS https://teachhoops.com/ The coaching library, drills, and community.https://championshipcoach.com/ The fellowship Steve runs with a small group of coaches each spring and fall.https://heysami.com/ The text based family sports assistant Steve and Bill are building.Email Steve directly at steve@teachhoops.com. He is speaking at four clinics this fall and will happily grab a soda and talk hoops. QUOTABLE "I felt full. I felt complete. You want to leave the amusement park when you still want to go on rides." "It's about the Jills and Joes, not the X's and O's." "When I was 27, I knew everything. I feel like I know less now than I did 30 years ago." "People first. You're going to win if you put people first." 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Full Text of Readings Memorial of Saint Monica Lectionary: 428 The Saint of the day is Saint Monica Saint Monica's Story The circumstances of Saint Monica's life could have made her a nagging wife, a bitter daughter-in-law, and a despairing parent, yet she did not give way to any of these temptations. Although she was a Christian, her parents gave her in marriage to a pagan, Patricius, who lived in her hometown of Tagaste in North Africa. Patricius had some redeeming features, but he had a violent temper and was licentious. Monica also had to bear with a cantankerous mother-in-law who lived in her home. Patricius criticized his wife because of her charity and piety, but always respected her. Monica's prayers and example finally won her husband and mother-in-law to Christianity. Her husband died in 371, one year after his baptism. Monica had at least three children who survived infancy. The oldest, Augustine, is the most famous. At the time of his father's death, Augustine was 17 and a rhetoric student in Carthage. Saint Monica was distressed to learn that her son had accepted the Manichean heresy—”all flesh is evil”—and was living an immoral life. For a while, she refused to let him eat or sleep in her house. Then one night she had a vision that assured her Augustine would return to the faith. From that time on, she stayed close to her son, praying and fasting for him. In fact she often stayed much closer than Augustine wanted. When he was 29, Augustine decided to go to Rome to teach rhetoric. Saint Monica was determined to go along. One night he told his mother that he was going to the dock to say goodbye to a friend. Instead he set sail for Rome. Monica was heartbroken when she learned of Augustine's trick, but she still followed him. She arrived in Rome only to find that he had left for Milan. Although travel was difficult, Monica pursued him to Milan. In Milan, Augustine came under the influence of the bishop, Saint Ambrose, who also became Monica's spiritual director. She accepted his advice in everything and had the humility to give up some practices that had become second nature to her. Saint Monica became a leader of the devout women in Milan as she had been in Tagaste. She continued her prayers for Augustine during his years of instruction. At Easter 387, Saint Ambrose baptized Augustine and several of his friends. Soon after, his party left for Africa. Although no one else was aware of it, Saint Monica knew her life was near the end. She told Augustine, “Son, nothing in this world now affords me delight. I do not know what there is now left for me to do or why I am still here, all my hopes in this world being now fulfilled.” She became ill shortly after and suffered severely for nine days before her death. Almost all we know about Saint Monica is in the writings of Saint Augustine, especially his Confessions. Reflection Today, with Google searches, online shopping, text messages, tweets, and instant credit, we have little patience for things that take time. Likewise, we want instant answers to our prayers. Monica is a model of patience. Her long years of prayer, coupled with a strong, well-disciplined character, finally led to the conversion of her hot-tempered husband, her cantankerous mother-in-law and her brilliant but wayward son, Augustine.Saint of the Day, Copyright Franciscan Media
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Nolan Wells' DA and the family agreed to a joint forensic examination of the phone that left Horn Island with his friends. A month passed. The DA sent a 48-hour letter. The deal collapsed. That phone has been sitting in a drawer for six weeks while Snapchat and WhatsApp servers purge data.Lindsay Clancy's prosecution spent three weeks proving premeditation against a defendant who had already admitted to the killings. Their own witnesses called her a wonderful mother. Their own psychiatrist never met her in person. They asked her mother-in-law about mortal sin. They told the jury she faked a suicide attempt while she sat in front of them in a wheelchair.Two cases where the prosecution's own conduct may be doing more harm to their case than anything the defense has put on. Eric Faddis, defense attorney and former prosecutor, breaks down the mistakes and where both cases go from here.Listen Anywhere You Get Podcasts: https://pod.link/1655749292Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod?sub_confirmation=1Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#NolanWells #LindsayClancy #HiddenKillersPodcast #EricFaddis #ProsecutionBlunders #PostpartumPsychosis #HornIsland #PlymouthSuperiorCourt #TrueCrime #InsanityDefense
Two different states. Two different cases. The same pattern: prosecutors making decisions that may cost them the outcome.In Mississippi, the DA agreed to examine Nolan Wells' phone, then sent a 48-hour ultimatum that blew up the deal. The phone remains unexamined after six weeks. In Massachusetts, the prosecution spent fourteen days on a case the defense had already conceded — then alienated the jury by asking a mother-in-law about mortal sin, challenging a mother for not committing her daughter, and calling a paralyzed woman's injuries faked.Eric Faddis, defense attorney and former prosecutor, evaluates the prosecution's missteps in both cases and whether either side can recover.Listen Anywhere You Get Podcasts: https://pod.link/1655749292Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod?sub_confirmation=1Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#NolanWells #LindsayClancy #HiddenKillersLive #EricFaddis #ProsecutionBlunders #PostpartumPsychosis #HornIsland #PlymouthSuperiorCourt #TrueCrime #InsanityDefense
https://teachhoops.com/teachhoops-memberships/2000/ https://www.thechampionshipcoach.com/ When Your Tank Is Only 80% Full, Is It Time to Walk Away? Episode 2000: Coach Bill turns the microphone on Steve Collins for a conversation about 37 years on the sideline, three state titles, one 7 and 14 season, and what the game actually owes the kids who never become stars. For the 2000th episode of Coach Unplugged, the format flips. Coach Bill takes over the questions and Steve sits in the guest chair for the first time, fresh off a state finals run and the first fall in nearly four decades with no season to plan. They talk about what it felt like the moment it ended, the bus ride from La Crosse that turned a losing program around, and the price his family paid along the way. Stay to the end for a 2000th episode offer that only lives here in the show notes. IN THIS EPISODE 01:17 A milestone inside a milestone. First fall in 37 years with no season and no lesson plans. 02:13 How Coach Unplugged started. A YouTube idea with a friend, back when podcasting was actually hard. 04:33 "I felt full." The feeling after the final game, and why you want to leave the amusement park while you still want to ride. 06:35 The storybook ending. Up two at halftime on the eighth ranked team in the country, 27 and 3, and why a great taste makes walking away both easier and harder. 08:13 What retirement actually looks like. Family, travel, and four clinic dates this fall including Wisconsin, Minnesota, and Brooklyn. 09:32 Why start another basketball podcast? Nobody was talking to the coach in the trenches. The parent problems, the bus that never shows, the missing official 30 minutes before tip. 11:37 The 7 and 14 season. Sitting in a locker room in La Crosse saying "I don't think I can do this," as the only applicant for the job. 13:03 The roadmap from that bus ride. How two hours back to Madison became the plan for one of the best programs in the Midwest. 14:32 Find your circle and keep it close. The advice from his high school coach that produced two staffs in 30 years. 16:18 The resume. Three state championships, five runner up finishes, eleven state appearances, fourteen straight conference titles, twenty six consecutive winning seasons, and why none of it sounds real to him. 17:08 Micro goals. Don't get fired. Then have a winning season. Then beat the perennial power. Then contend. Then win it. 18:40 Out scouting everybody. Sending his mom to a game with a camera, VCRs in the basement until 2 a.m., and why that edge is gone now. 19:43 What does coaching owe the kids who never play in college? Roles, camaraderie, failing together, and the life lessons kids remember long after the Pythagorean theorem. 22:23 The two kinds of coaches who ask for help. The young ones who know they don't know, and the veterans still hunting for an edge. It's the middle group that stalls out. 23:35 The price. What the wins cost his wife, his parents, and his mother in law, and why both of his kids will tell you he never missed anything. 26:15 Rapid fire for the first year coach. Worry less about parents and more about players. Communicate, then over communicate. After a bad loss go exercise and do not watch film. Stop drilling for the sake of drilling. 28:37 How do you know you were successful? Strip away the banners and the wins and what's left is the connection with the players. 29:21 One sentence, if that's all a coach remembers. People first. 29:44 The second act. The Championship Coach fellowship, one on one calls, group calls, and coaches who have his actual cell number. 30:02 Building Hey Sammy. Bill on the app overload problem in youth sports, and a text based assistant that pulls in schedules, calendars, drive time, and weather with nothing to install. 32:04 The golden nugget, buried at the end on purpose. THE 2000TH EPISODE OFFER 20% off teachhoops.com for the lifetime of the membership, for the first 20 coaches only. Use code FIRSTTWENTY at checkout. This is not being announced anywhere else. If you made it to the end of the episode, it's yours. LINKS https://teachhoops.com/ The coaching library, drills, and community.https://championshipcoach.com/ The fellowship Steve runs with a small group of coaches each spring and fall.https://heysami.com/ The text based family sports assistant Steve and Bill are building.Email Steve directly at steve@teachhoops.com. He is speaking at four clinics this fall and will happily grab a soda and talk hoops. QUOTABLE "I felt full. I felt complete. You want to leave the amusement park when you still want to go on rides." "It's about the Jills and Joes, not the X's and O's." "When I was 27, I knew everything. I feel like I know less now than I did 30 years ago." "People first. You're going to win if you put people first." HELP THE SHOW If 2000 episodes have helped you survive a season, leave a five star review, share the show with a coach who needs it, and send in your questions. Here's to the next 2000. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
The prosecution rested its case against Lindsay Clancy after fourteen days and more than seventy witnesses at Plymouth Superior Court. During those three weeks, the Plymouth County DA's office directed some of its sharpest cross-examination at Lindsay's own family members.The prosecutor asked Lindsay's former mother-in-law whether she was aware that murder is a mortal sin in the Catholic faith. The judge struck the question. The prosecutor asked Lindsay's mother why she never had her daughter committed after Lindsay disclosed intrusive thoughts about harming the children. The prosecution floated a theory that a defense psychologist coached Lindsay to claim she heard command voices — the investigator on the stand acknowledged no evidence supported it.Opening statements described Lindsay as “controlling, meticulous, and manipulative” and accused her of faking the suicide attempt that left her paralyzed. The prosecution's own treating psychiatrist saw Lindsay fourteen times without meeting her in person.Eric Faddis, defense attorney and former prosecutor, evaluates whether the prosecution's tactics are costing them credibility with the jury.Listen Anywhere You Get Podcasts: https://pod.link/1655749292Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod?sub_confirmation=1Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#LindsayClancy #LindsayClancyTrial #TrueCrimeToday #PostpartumPsychosis #PlymouthSuperiorCourt #KevinReddington #InsanityDefense #TrueCrime #Duxbury #MortalSin
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The prosecution has rested its case against Lindsay Clancy. After three weeks and more than seventy witnesses, some of the prosecution's most damaging moments came from their own conduct in the courtroom.On cross-examination of Lindsay's former mother-in-law, the prosecutor asked whether she was an active Catholic, then asked if she was aware that murder is considered a mortal sin. The judge called a sidebar and instructed the jury to disregard the question. Lindsay's mother took the stand and testified that her daughter said the medication was destroying her mind. The prosecution's cross: why didn't you have her committed? During autopsy testimony, Lindsay sobbed until the judge halted proceedings. The next morning brought a hot-mic dispute — the defense alleging someone said “shut her up,” the DA's office claiming the words were “shut it off.”The prosecution opened the trial by calling a paralyzed woman's jump from a second-story window a faked suicide attempt. Their own psychiatrist treated Lindsay exclusively by telehealth and admitted she never met her patient face to face.Eric Faddis, defense attorney and former prosecutor, breaks down the prosecution's courtroom conduct and how a jury processes these moments.Listen Anywhere You Get Podcasts: https://pod.link/1655749292Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod?sub_confirmation=1Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#LindsayClancy #LindsayClancyTrial #HiddenKillersPodcast #PostpartumPsychosis #PlymouthSuperiorCourt #KevinReddington #MortalSin #InsanityDefense #TrueCrime #Duxbury
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The prosecution rested after fourteen days and more than seventy witnesses. Before trial, the defense conceded that Lindsay Clancy killed her children. The prosecution's job was to prove she was sane and acting with premeditation when she did it. After three weeks, what they may have proven instead is how badly her medical providers failed her.Patrick Clancy, their first witness, testified he was never told not to leave Lindsay alone with the children and that he didn't know what psychosis was until after January 24th. The prosecution's own psychiatrist admitted under cross that she never met Lindsay in person across fourteen appointments.The defense psychologist has met with Lindsay more than sixty times and diagnosed her with bipolar disorder with postpartum psychosis. He testified she had no appreciation for the wrongfulness of her act. Lindsay's mother and mother-in-law both took the stand and described a woman begging for help that never came in the form she needed.Eric Faddis, defense attorney and former prosecutor, evaluates whether the prosecution accomplished what it needed to and where this jury is likely to land.Listen Anywhere You Get Podcasts: https://pod.link/1655749292Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod?sub_confirmation=1Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#LindsayClancy #LindsayClancyTrial #HiddenKillersPodcast #PostpartumPsychosis #InsanityDefense #PlymouthSuperiorCourt #KevinReddington #DrPaulZeizel #TrueCrime #Duxbury
Melissa's daughter Emma spent her summer working as an assistant organizer for her good friend (and frequent pod guest!) Cori McDougald at Meat & Potatoes Organizing. Emma, Cori, and Melissa swap stories from a summer that included a professional athlete's move, a creepy client's storage unit, disappearing spatulas, and a whole lot of sweaty garages. It's a fun, heartfelt look at what it's really like to bring young talent onto an organizing team. Don't forget to hit up proorganizerstudio.com/links for some special events we have going on with our programs! Timestamps [00:00] Kicking off Pro Organizer Studio's 10th anniversary [02:39] Introducing Emma — trial by fire on day one [08:51] First job: a pro athlete's house, duvet covers, and total chaos [12:31] Favorite (and least favorite) parts of the job [15:38] What clients let go of without blinking 17:13] When clients won't let go of control [19:00] Kitchens that were never designed with organizing in mind [22:35] The physical reality of organizing in the summer heat [26:19] Turning the tables: Emma organizes Mom's house [27:43] Emma's own organizing origin story [29:20] The "not Meat and Potatoes approved" running joke [35:54] The mother-in-law project that wouldn't end [41:42] The creepy client and the storage unit story [46:31] Why this is a great summer job for a college student [50:27] Team favorites, client questions, and background checks [53:18] Funny mishaps: tequila, "ask Emma what she found today" text, and more [54:36] Final thoughts on hiring young talent [56:58] Bonus: Hazel the organizing dog
Three weeks of prosecution testimony in the Lindsay Clancy murder trial ended with more questions about the DA's courtroom conduct than about the defendant's guilt. A prosecutor asked Lindsay's former mother-in-law about mortal sin. The judge struck it. A prosecutor asked Lindsay's mother why she didn't have her daughter committed. A State Police investigator acknowledged the prosecution floated a theory that the defense psychologist coached Lindsay to claim she heard voices.The prosecution told this jury Lindsay faked a suicide attempt. She's paralyzed from the waist down. Their own psychiatrist saw her fourteen times by telehealth and never met her in person.Eric Faddis, defense attorney and former prosecutor, evaluates the prosecution's conduct and where this case goes next.Listen Anywhere You Get Podcasts: https://pod.link/1655749292Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod?sub_confirmation=1Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#LindsayClancy #LindsayClancyTrial #HiddenKillersLive #PostpartumPsychosis #PlymouthSuperiorCourt #KevinReddington #InsanityDefense #TrueCrime #Duxbury #MortalSin
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On this episode of Ask KT & Suze Anything, Suze answers questions about Social Security, layoffs and trusts. Plus, the importance of taking care of your elders. Learn more about the Ultimate Scam Protection here: SuzeOrman.com Watch Suze’s YouTube Channel Jumpstart financial wellness for your employees: https://bit.ly/SecureSave Protect your financial future with the Must Have Docs: https://bit.ly/3Vq1V3G Help with the Must Have Docs: Email:support@musthavedocuments.zendesk.com Phone: 888-510-0510 Get your savings going with Alliant Credit Union: https://bit.ly/3rg0Yio Get Suze’s special offers for podcast listeners at suzeorman.com/offer Join Suze’s Women & Money Community for FREE and ASK SUZE your questions which may just end up on the podcast. Download the app by following one of these links: CLICK HERE FOR APPLE: https://apple.co/2KcAHbH CLICK HERE FOR GOOGLE PLAY: https://bit.ly/3curfMISee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Surviving 9/11: A Story of Providence, Courage & RemembranceIn this week's Team Never Quit Podcast, Marcus and Melanie meet with Daniel Geraghty, who shares his deeply personal and harrowing account of surviving the terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001.Daniel was a newlywed, transitioning from military life into the corporate world, and working near the World Trade Center. On that September morning, he was preparing to make his way to Tower 2 for business. A seemingly insignificant series of delays—including an unexpected breakfast with his mother-in-law and spilled coffee on his shirt and tie—changed the course of his life. Those few extra minutes meant Daniel was not inside the South Tower when it was struck at 9:03 a.m.When Daniel emerged from the subway near the World Trade Center, he encountered chaos unlike anything he had ever experienced. Sirens filled the streets. Paper rained through lower Manhattan. Looking toward the Towers, Daniel witnessed the North Tower engulfed in fire and people desperately signaling from above.Then the second plane struck.Daniel recalls the tremendous fireball, the concussion, flying debris, and thousands of people running for their lives. Believing he might die, he still found himself unable to ignore a woman who had fallen in the stampede—until another stranger appeared, lifted her from the street, and carried her to safety. It is an image of humanity and courage that has remained with Daniel ever since.Daniel's story is more than an eyewitness account of one of America's darkest days. It is a powerful reflection on survival, providence, service, courage, and the weight of being given another day. For thousands, September 11 remains a story preserved only in remembrance. Daniel knows how close he came to becoming one of them—and why he remains profoundly grateful that his own story continued.In This Episode, You'll Hear: The seemingly ordinary delay Daniel believes saved his life. His transition from the Army into corporate life in New York City. What Daniel witnessed as he emerged from the subway near the World Trade Center. His firsthand account of the moments before and after the second plane struck. The internal struggle between his military instinct to run toward danger and the realization that he needed to get away. The unforgettable acts of courage and humanity Daniel witnessed in the streets. The emotional burden carried by those who survived. Daniel's reflections on gratitude, remembrance, and why September 11 must never be forgotten. This is an intense, moving conversation about a day that changed America forever—and one man's extraordinary experience of being just minutes away from a very different fate.Listen in as Daniel Geraghty takes Marcus and Melanie back to September 11, 2001, sharing what he saw, what he survived, and the moments that continue to live with him more than two decades later.Support Dan:- IG: https://www.instagram.com/dan_getready?igsi=c2R3MjlhN2p0OWg3- Order his book here —> https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09MJTCQKD?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_4245V5E8YA3SXW7RTZG4&bestFormat=trueSupport TNQ - IG: team_neverquit , marcusluttrell , melanieluttrell , huntero13 - https://www.patreon.com/teamneverquitSponsors: - Navyfederal.org - Dripdrop.com/TNQ- vinted.com/TNQ - davidprotein.com/TNQ- quo.com/TNQ - mengotomars.com [Team Never Quit] - bubsnaturals.com [Promo code TNQ] - mizzenandmain.com [Promo code: TNQ20] - masterclass.com/TNQ - ShopMando.com [Promo code: TNQ] - Tractorsupply.com/hometownheroes - meetfabiric.com/TNQ - Prizepicks (TNQ) - armslist.com/TNQ - PXGapparel.com/TNQ - bruntworkwear.com/TNQ - shipsticks.com/TNQ - stopboxusa.com {TNQ} - Tonal.com [TNQ] - greenlight.com/TNQ - drinkAG1.com/TNQ - Hims.com/TNQ
In today's r/BestOf, OP and his Wife allow the mother-in-law to move in with them after her husband passes away but then she removes her from the inheritance. 00:00 Intro00:19 Story 1 u/Old-Memory160305:52 Comments07:32 Update14:24 Comments16:49 Story 2 u/commonbimbo19:40 Comments23:42 Update26:35 Comments28:16 Outro Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Are they guilty of terrible crimes or are they victims themselves? "48 Hours" examines two separate reports: Gloria Killian, who was arrested for a robbery-homicide she claimed she did not commit, and Clarence Elkins, who was incarcerated for the murder of his mother-in-law but maintained his innocence. "48 Hours" correspondents Peter Van Sant and Susan Spencer report.This classic "48 Hours" episode last aired on 9/13/2003. Watch all-new episodes of “48 Hours” on Saturdays and stream on demand on Paramount+.
Part 9 - Trial Day 15 & 16 Lindsay Clancy, a labor and delivery nurse, murdered her three young children on January, 24th, 2023. In this episode, Nurse Erica breaks down days fifteen and sixteen of the trial, which includes courtroom testimony from Lindsay's mother-in-law, clinical psychologists and forensic pathologist Dr. Elizabeth Laposata. This episode also addresses the Voir dire legal motion for late witness, Emily Thorndike from Tiktok and analysis of legal strategies and courtroom dynamics. The defense focuses on Lindsay Clancy's mental health, post partum depression, psychosis, and psychiatric medication history. The prosecution contends Clancy deliberately and meticulously planned this. This true crime trial series explores systemic issues in maternal mental health, the healthcare system and legal proceedings. Nurse Erica offers insights from a nurse's perspective to help listeners understand the complexities of the medical evidence and legal case. *Trigger Warning: this case discusses suicide and child death. Advertise on the show! Email with the subject NURSES UNCORKED SPONSOR to: nursesuncorked@gmail.com Become a Patron! Gain early access to episodes, ad-free episodes, exclusive bonus content, giveaways, Zoom parties, shout-outs, and much more. https://patron.podbean.com/nursesuncorkedpodcast ETSY Shop: Stop Healthcare Worker Violence! https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheNurseErica Chapters: 00:00 Intro to the Lindsay Clancy Trial and episode overview 03:57 Testimony: Sue Clancy, Lindsay's Mother-in-law 15:10 Testimony: Dr. Donald Condi 24:55 Nurses don't report mental health issues to protect their licenses 27:55 Testimony: Dr. Elizabeth Laposata 40:30 Day 16: Testimony: Dr. Paul Zeizel 50:05 Wish vase 51:57 Voir dire motion for Emily Thorndike 1:01:13 Viewer questions Go Fund Me: https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-for-lindsay-clancys-parents National Suicide Hotline: Call / Text 988 Send viewer questions to: thenurseericarn@gmail.com Help the podcast grow by giving episodes a like, download, follow and a 5 ️ star rating! Please follow Nurses Uncorked at: tiktok.com/nurses-uncorked https://youtube.com/@NursesUncorkedL You can listen to the podcast at: podcasts.apple/nursesuncorked spotify.com/nursesuncorked podbean.com/nursesuncorked iheart.com/nurses-uncorked Follow Nurse Erica: @TheNurseErica on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@thenurseerica9094 https://www.instagram.com/the.nurse.erica/ DISCLAIMER: This Podcast and all related content published or distributed by or on behalf of Nurse Erica or Nurses Uncorked Podcast is for informational, educational and entertainment purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions expressed or contained herein are not intended to serve as legal advice, or replace medical advice, nor to diagnose, prescribe or treat any disease, condition, illness or injury, and you should consult your health care professional regarding all matters concerning your health, including before beginning any exercise, weight loss, or health care program. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care emergency, please contact a qualified health care professional for treatment. The views and opinions expressed on Nurses Uncorked do not reflect the views of our employers, professional organizations or affiliates. Any information or opinions provided by guests, experts or hosts featured within website or on Nurses Uncorked Podcast are their own; not those of Nurse Erica or Nurses Uncorked LLC. Accordingly, Nurse Erica and Nurses Uncorked cannot be responsible for any results or consequences or actions you may take based on such information or opinions. All content is the sole property of Nurses Uncorked, LLC. All copyrights are reserved and the exclusive property of Nurses Uncorked, LLC.
It was another emotional, and at times contentious day as the defense continues to call witnesses to the stand to prove Lindsay Clancy was suffering from postpartum psychosis when she killed her three young children. Clancy’s former mother-in-law took the stand and described what she witnessed from Lindsay in the months leading up to the murders, testifying she was begging for help and desperately wanted to get better. The prosecution pushed back, and at one point after asking Susan Clancy about her Catholic faith, asked if she realized that murder is considered a mortal sin. The judge told jurors to disregard the question, but the prosecution continued its argumentative questioning of several defense medical experts throughout the day.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It was another emotional, and at times contentious day as the defense continues to call witnesses to the stand to prove Lindsay Clancy was suffering from postpartum psychosis when she killed her three young children. Clancy’s former mother-in-law took the stand and described what she witnessed from Lindsay in the months leading up to the murders, testifying she was begging for help and desperately wanted to get better. The prosecution pushed back, and at one point after asking Susan Clancy about her Catholic faith, asked if she realized that murder is considered a mortal sin. The judge told jurors to disregard the question, but the prosecution continued its argumentative questioning of several defense medical experts throughout the day.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It was another emotional, and at times contentious day as the defense continues to call witnesses to the stand to prove Lindsay Clancy was suffering from postpartum psychosis when she killed her three young children. Clancy’s former mother-in-law took the stand and described what she witnessed from Lindsay in the months leading up to the murders, testifying she was begging for help and desperately wanted to get better. The prosecution pushed back, and at one point after asking Susan Clancy about her Catholic faith, asked if she realized that murder is considered a mortal sin. The judge told jurors to disregard the question, but the prosecution continued its argumentative questioning of several defense medical experts throughout the day.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The defense in the Lindsay Clancy murder trial called its first four witnesses on Tuesday in Plymouth Superior Court. After the prosecution rested with seventy-two witnesses across fourteen days, the defense began building its insanity case in a single afternoon.Lindsay Clancy is charged with three counts of murder for the deaths of her three children on January 24, 2023. She has pleaded not guilty by reason of insanity.Susan Clancy, Lindsay's mother-in-law and a labor-and-delivery nurse practitioner for thirty-eight years, told the jury Lindsay was a wonderful mother who was begging for help. On cross-examination, the prosecutor revealed that Lindsay told her therapists she was not close with her in-laws and did not generally allow them to watch the children.Forensic psychiatrist Donald Condie testified that Lindsay went through more than thirteen medication changes in four months after her youngest son was born. He called her medical records somewhat sparse and said one doctor who cleared her for outpatient treatment twenty-three days before the deaths had never treated a single patient with postpartum psychosis.Psychologist Paul Zeizel has visited Lindsay forty-five times at the hospital where she remains paralyzed from a fall through a second-story window. He testified that Lindsay told her husband Patrick she heard a male voice telling her she had no choice. If the jury believes the voice was real, the insanity defense stands. The prosecution asked whether Zeizel suggested she fabricate the claim.The prosecutor held up an exercise band in front of the jury to demonstrate the force required in the deaths of the three children.Court resumes Wednesday with the cross-examination of Paul Zeizel. Over two hundred witnesses are expected before the trial concludes.END LINKSListen Anywhere You Get Podcasts: https://pod.link/1655749292Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod?sub_confirmation=1Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.HASHTAGS#LindsayClancy #LindsayClancyTrial #HiddenKillers #TrueCrime #PostpartumPsychosis #InsanityDefense #PlymouthCourt #DuxburyMA #MentalHealth #PatrickClancy
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The defense in the Lindsay Clancy murder trial called its first four witnesses on Tuesday in Plymouth Superior Court. After the prosecution rested with seventy-two witnesses across fourteen days, the defense began building its insanity case in a single afternoon.Lindsay Clancy is charged with three counts of murder for the deaths of her three children on January 24, 2023. She has pleaded not guilty by reason of insanity.Susan Clancy, Lindsay's mother-in-law and a labor-and-delivery nurse practitioner for thirty-eight years, told the jury Lindsay was a wonderful mother who was begging for help. On cross-examination, the prosecutor revealed that Lindsay told her therapists she was not close with her in-laws and did not generally allow them to watch the children.Forensic psychiatrist Donald Condie testified that Lindsay went through more than thirteen medication changes in four months after her youngest son was born. He called her medical records somewhat sparse and said one doctor who cleared her for outpatient treatment twenty-three days before the deaths had never treated a single patient with postpartum psychosis.Psychologist Paul Zeizel has visited Lindsay forty-five times at the hospital where she remains paralyzed from a fall through a second-story window. He testified that Lindsay told her husband Patrick she heard a male voice telling her she had no choice. If the jury believes the voice was real, the insanity defense stands. The prosecution asked whether Zeizel suggested she fabricate the claim.The prosecutor held up an exercise band in front of the jury to demonstrate the force required in the deaths of the three children.Court resumes Wednesday with the cross-examination of Paul Zeizel. Over two hundred witnesses are expected before the trial concludes.END LINKSListen Anywhere You Get Podcasts: https://pod.link/1655749292Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod?sub_confirmation=1Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.HASHTAGS#LindsayClancy #LindsayClancyTrial #HiddenKillers #TrueCrime #PostpartumPsychosis #InsanityDefense #PlymouthCourt #DuxburyMA #MentalHealth #PatrickClancy
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Florida state legislator Angie Nixon, a democratic socialist, talks with "CBS Mornings" about her upset victory in the state's Democratic Senate primary. She addresses major issues facing Americans, her views on aid to Israel and if the democratic socialist message will resonate in a general election.Pennsylvania Gov. Josh Shapiro speaks with "CBS Mornings" about his decision to sign an executive order to implement widespread restrictions on data center development in his state and what prompted it. The governor, who is up for reelection, also addressed recent democratic socialist wins in primary races across the country and the future of the Democratic Party.Police are searching for a man accused of wearing a Chucky-style mask and chasing people in Philadelphia. Lilia Luciano spoke with a woman who said she fought back against him.CBS News legal contributor Caroline Polisi breaks down the testimony from Lindsay Clancy's former mother-in-law and mental health professionals as the defense continues to call witnesses. Clancy is accused of murdering her three children. Her defense says she was suffering from postpartum psychosis.CBS News business analyst Jill Schlesinger joins "CBS Mornings" to give advice on how to create strong financial foundations and habits for your kids.Julian Shapiro-Barnum is known for his conversations with kids on his series "Recess Therapy." He tells "CBS Mornings" why he thinks adults need to act more childish and embrace some behaviors of children.Isla Fisher gives an inside look at the new film, "Spa Weekend," how it highlights the importance of female friendships and how the star-studded cast connected.
It was another emotional, and at times contentious day as the defense continues to call witnesses to the stand to prove Lindsay Clancy was suffering from postpartum psychosis when she killed her three young children. Clancy’s former mother-in-law took the stand and described what she witnessed from Lindsay in the months leading up to the murders, testifying she was begging for help and desperately wanted to get better. The prosecution pushed back, and at one point after asking Susan Clancy about her Catholic faith, asked if she realized that murder is considered a mortal sin. The judge told jurors to disregard the question, but the prosecution continued its argumentative questioning of several defense medical experts throughout the day.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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This week Jordana and Dr. Naomi are asking an important question: when everyone online claims to know the “right” way to do things, how do you learn to trust yourself? They unpack how social media thrives on activating our anxieties and why the most confident advice isn't always the best advice. Then, an Oversharer gets an unexpected pre-wedding reality check when her parents remind her that it's never too late to back out, but was there something they weren't telling her? A Betchisist catches her friend in an elaborate lie involving a family emergency, a secret beach trip, and an AI-generated photo excuse that absolutely does not hold up under questioning. Dr. Naomi offers an intention for anyone stuck in the uncomfortable in-between after leaving something that wasn't working but before finding what comes next. In Triggered, a mother-in-law learns that “all good” might not be the best response when you've completely ignored the baby's nap schedule. And why an unsolicited financial advisor introduction may be one of the rare occasions when ghosting is fully encouraged. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Susan Clancy, Patrick Clancy's mother, took the stand today in the murder trial of Lindsay Clancy, the Duxbury, Massachusetts mother accused of strangling her three children — 5-year-old Cora, 3-year-old Dawson, and 7-month-old Callan — with exercise bands inside the family's Summer Street home on January 24, 2023. Clancy faces three counts of murder and three counts of strangulation. She has pleaded not guilty and is mounting an insanity defense, with attorney Kevin Reddington arguing she was in the grip of severe postpartum psychosis and psychiatric overmedication at the time of the killings.Susan Clancy testified that her daughter-in-law came to her struggling with anxiety, depression, and sleeplessness, and asked for help finding a doctor — not the picture of a woman hiding what was happening to her. She described Lindsay as a mother who loved and adored her kids. Under cross-examination, prosecutors pressed on an ER visit for anxiety and insomnia, and on medications Susan Clancy admitted even she found confusing to manage. Then came a question that never should have made it out of the prosecutor's mouth — asking whether Susan Clancy knew murder is considered a mortal sin under Catholic doctrine. Judge William Sullivan called an immediate sidebar and struck it from the record. On redirect, jurors heard that Lindsay had been turned away from a treatment program for being overmedicated, and that she'd called a suicide hotline twice before January 24.Prosecutors are expected to argue Clancy understood the nature of her actions despite the defense's mental-health claims. She allegedly attempted suicide afterward by jumping from a second-story window, leaving her paralyzed from the waist down. Her husband, Patrick Clancy, was out running errands at the time and has since relocated to Manhattan. The trial continues in Plymouth Superior Court.Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspodX Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#LindsayClancy #DuxburyTragedy #PostpartumPsychosis #TrueCrime #PlymouthCounty #CoraDawsonCallan #InsanityDefense #KevinReddington #HiddenKillers #Breaking
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Susan Clancy, Patrick Clancy's mother, took the stand today in the murder trial of Lindsay Clancy, the Duxbury, Massachusetts mother accused of strangling her three children — 5-year-old Cora, 3-year-old Dawson, and 7-month-old Callan — with exercise bands inside the family's Summer Street home on January 24, 2023. Clancy faces three counts of murder and three counts of strangulation. She has pleaded not guilty and is mounting an insanity defense, with attorney Kevin Reddington arguing she was in the grip of severe postpartum psychosis and psychiatric overmedication at the time of the killings.Susan Clancy testified that her daughter-in-law came to her struggling with anxiety, depression, and sleeplessness, and asked for help finding a doctor — not the picture of a woman hiding what was happening to her. She described Lindsay as a mother who loved and adored her kids. Under cross-examination, prosecutors pressed on an ER visit for anxiety and insomnia, and on medications Susan Clancy admitted even she found confusing to manage. Then came a question that never should have made it out of the prosecutor's mouth — asking whether Susan Clancy knew murder is considered a mortal sin under Catholic doctrine. Judge William Sullivan called an immediate sidebar and struck it from the record. On redirect, jurors heard that Lindsay had been turned away from a treatment program for being overmedicated, and that she'd called a suicide hotline twice before January 24.Prosecutors are expected to argue Clancy understood the nature of her actions despite the defense's mental-health claims. She allegedly attempted suicide afterward by jumping from a second-story window, leaving her paralyzed from the waist down. Her husband, Patrick Clancy, was out running errands at the time and has since relocated to Manhattan. The trial continues in Plymouth Superior Court.Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspodX Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#LindsayClancy #DuxburyTragedy #PostpartumPsychosis #TrueCrime #PlymouthCounty #CoraDawsonCallan #InsanityDefense #KevinReddington #HiddenKillers #Breaking
Carol Kent joins Stephanie again to explore the themes of delight, lament, and defiance as we walk with God during life's hardest seasons. Drawing from personal tragedy and grief, Carol models a Christian posture of joy and hope rooted in God's character and presence rather than in circumstances. Holding on to God's presence in both sorrow and joy allows lament, defiant delight, and community to become pathways to deeper intimacy with Him—trusting always that “He is close to the brokenhearted.”Carol Kent begins by recounting profound personal loss: her son's incarceration for life after a tragic shooting, her sister's recent passing from cancer, and the death of a beloved mother-in-law. As Carol says, “If I were the author of my own life, I would not have written all of these chapters into it.” Deep sorrow, grief, and questions are inevitable in this life and unavoidable for the Christian as well. But delight in God can still exist, and even thrive, in the midst of this.Psalm 37:4 promises, "Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart." It's the foundation for Stephanie's book, Awaken Delight, which Carol generously endorsed. Carol clarifies that delight, unlike happiness, is not circumstantial or fleeting. Instead, it is the ongoing choice to “be at home” in God's presence, trusting that He is still good even when life falls apart. The Hebrew root of “delight” includes ideas of softness and pliability “being shaped by something”. This allows the believer to rest in God's love, even wordlessly, when strength or words run out.Lament is communal as well as personal. She describes the beauty of grieving with her siblings—sharing scripture, encouragement, and family memories during her sister Paula's dying days. Lament is rarely a single event, but a process that comes in waves. Honest lament involves asking hard questions of God and laying out our pain before Him, just as the Psalmists do.Stephanie, in her book and through this conversation, speaks of defiant delight: a courageous, deliberate act of standing in God's love and goodness even while fully acknowledging pain. It does not deny reality but declares that God's love, His delight in us, and His purposes are the final word.Practices for Cultivating DelightDaily Immersion in God's Word: Carol emphasizes reading Scripture before anything else. Breathing in God's truth enables us to breathe out hope to others.Community in Grief and Joy: Reaching out to others, sharing both joys and sorrows, strengthens communal faith.Hands-on Ministry: Serving others, especially “the least of these”—as when Carol brings hope to women inmates—multiplies joy, even in places of loss or pain.Prayer and Intercession: Praying for and with others, and inviting others to partner in God's work, turns both lament and delight into a shared experience.Delight and lament are communal, just as worship in heaven will be—our delight in God amplified through the delight of others. We experience this now, in part, as we partner together in prayer, service, and celebration, looking forward to perfect joy in God's presence.Application:Delighting in God is a daily, sometimes moment-by-moment discipline.It means allowing God's presence—not our circumstances—to define our identity and our peace.Defiant delight is chosen daily, sometimes breath by breath.It is strengthened by God's Word, community, and serving others.DISCOVER “AWAKEN DELIGHT” BY STEPHANIE ROUSSELLEWhat you will (re)discover as you journey with God through Awaken Delight:Delight in God is identity-shaping, not emotion-driven. Delight in God is not fleeting emotion but resilient identity.Delight in God is altogether trust, satisfaction in God, relational intimacy with Him.Delight in God is often expressed and grown through resilient joy under suffering.Delight in God is the missing engine behind resilience. It's the antidote to burnout. It's even the foundation for sustainable ministry.God's delight in you is secure, not performance-dependent. God's delight in you frees you from striving! That's the beginning of delight.Jesus is the center of every endeavor to delight in God.You can build a delight-centered spiritual life. Awaken Delight invites you to follow Scriptural truths and spiritual practices that cultivate daily joy in God.Purchase here: https://a.co/d/04Nyzr93 Discover more about the book at https://www.gospelspice.com/awakendelight MORE ABOUT “HE HOLDS MY HAND” BY CAROL KENTHe Holds My Hand is a page-per-day 365-day devotional. Based on Scripture, this devotional is written as if God the Father is speaking His words of comfort and protection directly over you, based on the Scripture for the day..When Carol Kent's son was sentenced to life in prison without parole, Carol was consumed with grief, sadness, and despair. She was distraught wondering why God permitted this to happen. She had prayed for her son since he was a small child. He had been raised with biblical principles and daily prayer. As Carol tried to make sense of everything, she couldn't help asking, Where's God when it hurts so much?In the middle of her sorrow, Carol turned to the place where she had always gone for comfort―the Bible. She was desperate to hear God's voice. She soon discovered that the best way for her to “listen” to His voice was to meditate on Scripture and then write out what she believed He was saying. She wrote it as if it was His prayer over her life, and it comforted her. It was as if He took her by the hand, as a father would guide a child, and He gently led her in the direction of unconditional love, renewed hope, and fresh faith.Know without a doubt that God is with you and stands ready to protect and guide you. He holds your hand, and He won't let go. Listen to God's voice and put your hand in His. He is your Comforter, your Healer, your Teacher, and your Joy. Remember He holds your hand, and He won't let go.More at https://carolkent.org/books-by-carol-kent/ DISCOVER THE BOOK BEHIND THE PODCAST | "Awaken Delight" by Stephanie Rousselle"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart." Psalm 37:4 isn't a poetic suggestion — it's a promise. But many believers quietly assume it doesn't really work, or it's not really possible here on earth.In Awaken Delight, Stephanie Rousselle invites you to rediscover what Scripture actually means by delight — not emotional hype, not religious performance, but a steady satisfaction rooted in who God is.Delight in God isn't a mood to manufacture; it's a relationship to receive.Through biblical theology and practical rhythms, you'll learn how communion with God reshapes suffering, quiets restless striving, and anchors your identity in something unshakable.Delighting in God isn't sentimental optimism. It's deeply rooted in Christ, Jesus.It's the quiet revolution that reshapes how we endure pain, love others, and understand our own heart.Awaken Delight is a theologically grounded spiritual formation book for thoughtful believers who feel spiritually fatigued and are ready to embrace the reality of Psalm 37:4.More at https://www.gospelspice.com/awakendelight Purchase the book, "Awaken Delight" by Stephanie Rousselle: https://a.co/d/0bqhUb5JKind words from Jennifer Rothschild, Bible teacher, Author, Speaker, Podcast Host, Founder, Fresh Grounded Faith: “Stephanie helps us awaken to and experience true delight. It is a rich mix of God's delight in you and your delight in him. This is the life you were made for, the life your soul deeply longs for. So, the table is set. Pull up a chair and let your heart sit alongside Stephanie. As your delight in God wakes up and becomes fully realized, you'll find a satisfaction in Christ that makes you want more and more.”Kind words from Amanda Jenkins, Lead creator of THE CHOSEN's literary content: "I have yet to meet another person quite as eager to intimately know Jesus as Stephanie is. Her enthusiasm for the beauty found inside a thriving relationship with her Savior is downright contagious. Indeed, Stephanie's joy and faith and commitment to growth—along with her love for really good food!—will implant themselves in the hearts of readers. Lucky readers."Kind words from Os Guinness, Theologian, Social critic, Author, The Call: "Stephanie addresses one of the greatest needs of Christians today. Knowing God is not knowing about God, but knowing Him genuinely and with desire and delight. She does so practically and helpfully, and in a style that sparkles with a verve and joy that is distinctively French."Kind words from Pippa Gumbel, Pioneer, The Alpha Course; Author, The Bible in one year with husband Nicky: "Stephanie's love of God is inspiring and infectious. Her book is an invitation to share in that delight and to come to know God in new and wonderful ways."More at https://www.gospelspice.com/awakendelight Purchase the book, "Awaken Delight" by Stephanie Rousselle: https://a.co/d/0bqhUb5JSupport us on Gospel Spice, PayPal and Venmo!
We're kicking off the season with BESTIE DILEMMAS! This week's dilemmas are a lot — from a girl who fell for a guy in Dubai only for him to confess he's got a wife and three kids
In this episode, Edward struggles to fit in with Marissa's friends; Catie's mum is concerned about her recent behaviour; Debby asks Mido for a decision; Anabelle offends Shea's daughter; Ashia seeks her mother-in-law's approval; Rasit makes an unlikely bond.If you like the show Consider supporting us Click the links below! Join our livestreams on Twitch https://www.twitch.tv/420dayfiance Join our Discord server https://discord.gg/pr6wE9sK64 Gain access to The Vault and more https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/6354533 Buy our merch! https://www.420dayfiance.com/merch Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Why does compliance paperwork fall behind the systems it describes? Because the systems change faster than the documents. Travis Howerton points to cloud native technologies that spin up and down on demand, which makes describing infrastructure in paperwork something that goes out of date instantly. Add new regulation for third party risk, supply chain, zero trust, and privacy, and an approach that was already expensive and frustrating stops being fit for purpose. RegScale answers that with compliance as code. The company went to NIST and helped write the standard that became OSCAL, the Open Security Controls Assessment Language, then built the capability for machines to attest to their own state using it. Paperwork starts writing itself, and CISOs get risk and compliance outcomes as a byproduct of operational excellence rather than as a separate project. Is automating the evidence trail a shortcut? Travis Howerton argues the opposite. It prevents corner cutting, because the alternative is what he calls compliance theater. An old general he worked for described that as a mother-in-law visit, where you clean the house to a ridiculous standard, everybody goes through the dance, and the moment the visit ends the kids destroy the house again. Where should a security team start automating? Start with what hurts. He tells people to think like a surgeon, who opens by asking the patient what is wrong, then work backwards from the pain. There is no easy button, and the honest starting point is the truth about how fast teams will need to react. That pain usually maps to one of three business drivers. Cut cost, or shift the share of budget going to checklist compliance toward tools that buy down risk. Get real-time assurance. Or earn the reps and certs needed to sell into a market, whether that is FedRAMP for government work or PCI for card data. Compressing those timelines by 70 to 80 percent lets a company get to market faster and grow revenue. The results Travis Howerton cites are specific. One large government agency is touting over $100 million in labor savings, and a Department of War customer with a 52-week end-to-end cycle has compressed it by 36 weeks using RegScale technology alongside other integrated tools. Having tripled, doubled, and doubled again over the last three years, RegScale stays focused on the largest and most complex organizations, with international markets and the energy sector on the horizon. This is a Brand Briefing. A Brand Briefing is an on-location conversation recorded on site at Black Hat USA 2026, putting a spotlight on the guest and their company and pairing it with the editorial reach of ITSPmagazine. Learn more: https://www.studioc60.com/performance/#briefing GUEST Travis Howerton, Co-Founder and CEO at RegScale LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/travishowerton/ RESOURCES Black Hat USA 2026 event coverage: https://www.itspmagazine.com/black-hat-usa-2026-cybersecurity-event-coverage-in-las-vegas RegScale: https://regscale.com OSCAL, the Open Security Controls Assessment Language: https://pages.nist.gov/OSCAL/ Are you interested in telling your story? ▶︎ Full Length Brand Story: https://www.studioc60.com/content-creation#full ▶︎ Brand Spotlight Story: https://www.studioc60.com/content-creation#spotlight ▶︎ Brand Highlight Story: https://www.studioc60.com/content-creation#highlight ▶︎ Get your own Brand Briefing at an upcoming event: https://www.studioc60.com/buy-brand-briefings KEYWORDS travis howerton, regscale, sean martin, brand briefing, brand story, brand marketing, marketing podcast, black hat usa 2026, compliance as code, continuous controls monitoring, oscal, grc engineering, fedramp, fisma, authority to operate, ai agents, risk management, cybersecurity compliance Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Ruling out a condition you have never encountered is a different act than ruling out one you know. That question runs through the medical testimony in Lindsay Clancy's murder trial.Clancy stands charged with three counts of first-degree murder, all pleaded not guilty, in the January 24, 2023 deaths of her three children. She has not contested causing their deaths. The defense claims postpartum psychosis and bipolar disorder are why she is not criminally responsible. The state's argument is that she acted knowingly and should be held accountable.Dr. Alia Goodheart of McLean Hospital testified her caseload had never included one, and could not say how many postpartum depression patients she had treated in twenty years. Dr. Jennifer Tufts testified she was not certain how rare the condition is, and that she had not treated any such patients in the period before Clancy came to her.Psychotherapist Shavaun Scott joins Tony Brueski for part two of three. Shavaun has practiced for more than thirty years across trauma, anxiety, depression, and the psychology of violence.The conversation covers the records that were never requested, the releases that were never signed, and fourteen video appointments with a psychiatrist who was never in the same room with her. It covers what it means that Clancy spent her career as a labor and delivery nurse and was treated as a reliable reporter by everyone who saw her.It also covers the care that held up. A psychiatric nurse practitioner gave Clancy her personal cell number and called her on a day off.Neither has admitted liability.Julie Paul launched South Shore Hospital's Perinatal Behavioral Health Program in 2018 and met Clancy through Clancy's then-mother-in-law, a nurse at the same hospital. Their contact lasted about ten days because Paul was leaving for another job. Tufts finished her residency in July 2022, the month before Clancy's first appointment.END LINKSJoin Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/ Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePodDISCLAIMERThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.HASHTAGS#LindsayClancy #JenniferTufts #HiddenKillers #McLeanHospital #ClancyTrial #TrueCrime #AliaGoodheart #PostpartumCare #MedicalMalpractice #PlymouthSuperiorCourt
Marc Brackett (Dealing with Feeling, Permission to Feel, RULER) is a psychologist, professor, and founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. Marc joins Armchair Expert to discuss the childhood trauma that shaped his life's work, the fallout from disclosing it on national television at 12, and the inspiring uncle whose simple compassion finally made him feel safe. Marc and Dax talk about turning ideas into a program reaching 10 million children, being called out by his mother-in-law for failing to regulate during lockdown, and discovering Yale students often mistake envy for stress. Marc explains why avoiding emotion is bad, how precisely naming a feeling changes what you can do with it, and why the best emotional allies listen instead of trying to fix.Check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds: https://www.allstate.com/Take printer ink off your back to school list with HP Smart Tank | https://hp.com/SmartTank See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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This is a Wednesday Wins Q&A, with Larry joined by his longtime co-host Joe Bailey to tackle a question that lands for almost every married dad. Mike from Washington State wrote in about a marriage that isn't broken, no fighting, no affairs, but feels more like two coworkers running a small company called the family. He and his wife talk schedules, kids, and bills, physical intimacy has slowed, and as he puts it, he misses her even though she's only six feet away. Larry breaks down the four pillars of marriage from Lance and Brandi's work, individual, partnership, friends, and intimacy, and explains how couples get stuck in the partnership loop and skip straight to intimacy, which backfires. Joe follows with the idea of getting used to the light again after emotional disconnection, releasing resentment, and making small pursuits without attaching expectations. If your marriage feels more like a business partnership than a romance, this one is a practical roadmap back. Timeline Summary [1:02] – Setting up Mike's question about a marriage that feels like a business partnership [2:12] – Mike's full letter: coworkers running a company called our family [3:46] – Larry on his own first decade feeling exactly the same way [4:05] – The four pillars of marriage from Lance and Brandi's book [4:46] – Pillar one, individual: self-care and emotional check-ins by percentage [5:42] – Pillar two, partnership: the bills, roles, and chores, aka the partnership loop [5:59] – Pillar three, friends: shared interests and real alignment [6:21] – Pillar four, intimacy, and why it collapses when the others are neglected [6:47] – How couples skip friendship and self and jump straight to intimacy [7:26] – Disrupting the partnership loop by cultivating friendship first [7:49] – The walk-and-date boundary: be Larry and Jessica, not Mom and Dad [8:13] – Bookending conversations with appreciation so your partner feels seen [8:30] – Adventuring together and asking bucket-list questions [9:34] – Why men eradicate their own self-care and isolate [12:12] – Joe on living this exact dynamic in his own marriage [12:32] – The dark-theater analogy: getting used to the light again [13:35] – Step one, release resentment when reconnection feels uncomfortable [14:02] – Be persistent and stop attaching sex to every act of connection [14:27] – Small pursuits: flowers and a coffee dropped off at Ivy's work, just because [15:46] – Small investments compound like a financial portfolio [16:40] – Stop keeping score and get in the habit of just investing [16:59] – The car story: we love the things we invest in [20:07] – Loving your wife publicly and without agenda [20:44] – Loving her in front of the kids and her mother [21:48] – The Hitch analogy and winning over the people around her [22:14] – The marriage hack: your mother in law as your greatest ally 5 Key Takeaways Marriage Has Four Pillars — Individual, partnership, friends, and intimacy. When you neglect self-care, friendship, and quality time and jump straight to intimacy, it falls flat. Intimacy is the natural result of the other three working. Escape the Partnership Loop — If every conversation is about schedules, bills, and who needs to be where, you're stuck in the partnership loop. Break out by rebuilding the friendship: dates, walks, adventures, and conversations where you're a couple, not just co-parents. Get Used to the Light Again — After emotional disconnection, reconnecting feels awkward and uncomfortable for both people. Expect that, release resentment about it, and don't attach worst-case scenarios to the discomfort. Make Small Pursuits Without Agenda — Drop off flowers just because, and don't attach any expectation of sex, because she'll sniff that out instantly. Stop keeping score and keep making small investments, and the connection compounds over time. We Love What We Invest In — Don't wait to feel the love before you invest. As the car story shows, investment creates love, not the other way around. Love your wife publicly and without agenda, and let her people, especially her mother, become your allies. Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1516 Legendary Couple with Larry and Jessica: https://thedadedge.com/legendary-couple/ Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl Enjoyed This Episode? If Mike's letter read like a page out of your own marriage, pick one small pursuit and do it this week with zero agenda. Drop off her favorite coffee, take a walk where you're just the two of you again, and stop waiting to feel connected before you invest. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.
Robby & Rexrode hour two continues with more discussion on the Titans offensive line. Its looking like there will be struggles and gaps in the o-line. Kevin O'Connell declared Kyler Murray will be the starting quarterback for the Vikings come week one of this NFL season. Joe talks gives a "Pre Rant" on the college football media. They need to back off about the preseason polls. The Rex Rant: memories and stories of my mother-in-law.
Peter's mother-in-law was sick, and Jesus came and healed her.Healing is God's will - so why do we not always see healing when we pray?Tune in this week as Pastor Westley Henry continues our series through Matthew, focusing on chapter 8, verses 14-17.If you would like to partner with BLVD Church and what we are doing in the community, you can make an investment of support at https://blvd.church/give
Long-Game Parenting with Elizabeth Pehrson (Episode 295) Exodus 23:20 NLT “See, I am sending an angel before you to protect you on your journey and lead you safely to the place I have prepared for you.” *Transcription Below* Elizabeth Pehrson is a speaker, podcaster and founder of The Exchange. She's a yellow sanguine, who is full of energy and lives life wide-open! She loves Jesus and meaningful connections. Elizabeth is married to David and mother of EIGHT children, who range from high school to graduated from college. Follow her online: Instagram: @long_game_parenting or @octomama or @theexchangeus Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elizabeth.m.pehrson Thank you to our sponsor: Sam Leman Eureka Questions and Topics We Cover: What is our role, as parents, in making an effort to help our children have a positive relationship with their siblings? What are ways we can positively shape our children to have strong and healthy relationships with friends? How can we help our children uncover, articulate, and pursue their purpose in life? Other Savvy Sauce Episodes Mentioned: 74 Effective Parenting for Toddlers Through College with Wife, Mother to 8, and The Exchange Founder, Elizabeth Pehrson Part 1 75 Responding to God's Stirring with Elizabeth Pehrson, Founder of The Exchange, Part Two God-honoring Relationship Between a Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law with Author of The Mother-in-Law Dance, Annie Chapman Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.” Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.” Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“ Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“ Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” *Transcription* Music: (0:00 – 0:10) Laura Dugger: (0:11 - 1:54) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here. The principles of honesty and integrity that Sam Leman founded his business on continue today, over 55 years later, at Sam Leman Chevrolet Eureka. Owned and operated by the Bertschi family, Sam Leman and Eureka appreciates the support they've received from their customers all over central Illinois and beyond. Visit them today at lemangm.com. My returning guest for today is the very energetic, married mother of eight, and founder of The Exchange, Elizabeth Pearson. I highly recommend that, first of all, you find the link in the show notes to start with our first two episodes together that we did a while back. They focus primarily on raising younger children, but today we're going to focus on parenting teens and beyond in hopes of launching faithful and healthy adults someday. So, with that goal in mind, we're going to begin by discussing relationship-building strategies to foster a life of rightly ordered affections, where we're all loving God and loving others as ourselves. Then we're going to move into some more actionable ways to ensure our family delights in the abundant life in Christ. Here's our chat. Welcome back to The Savvy Sauce, Elizabeth. Elizabeth Pehrson: (1:55 - 1:57) Well, thank you so much for having me. What a joy. Laura Dugger: (1:58 - 2:23) Well, I'm just going to start with something that's a little tricky because we obviously cannot control the outcome, but we can be faithful to our calling as parents. So, Elizabeth, do you have any practical tips for helping our children rightly order their affections so that they'll hopefully grow up to love God? Elizabeth Pehrson: (2:23 - 4:52) Yes. I appreciate you asking with the disclaimers because I do think that that's an important thing because, first of all, I just want to say that I hope that every single woman listening can understand, believe, and trust that God loves our children way more than we do. And as much as we want to control the outcome or guarantee the outcome with our children, we can't. All we can do is just be faithful to the children that God's entrusted to us. And when it comes to ordering our children's affections, I would basically just say it can't be forced. It can't be image-driven. And I say that because, unfortunately, I see that a lot in Christian homes today, a lot. And I think one of the most helpful shifts for me in realizing that I cannot control anything when it comes to my children is that I can shape the environment where their loves are formed. That's one thing that is in my control. That is something that I can do. And a few practical ways that you can do this, and first I'm going to say this a lot, the most important things that we can offer our children are caught, they're not taught. And we have to model it more than we preach it because our children are incredible observers. And they notice what we prioritize. They notice what interrupts us. They notice what doesn't interrupt us. And if God's something we only talk about on Sundays, then they feel that. But if they see us turning to Him when we're anxious, when we're grateful, when we're confused, they start to associate God with real life, not just rules. And second, I would just say, I think it's super important to help our kids understand what's worthy of love, right? I mean, I think we should talk openly with our kids about sports, friends, achievements, you know, how those can be gifts, but they are terrible gods. And also, that they're very, very, very short-sighted. It's not typically, I would say, not typically the so-called bad things that are stealing our affections. It's usually the good things that are just not often the best things. And so that I would say, like when I watch my children, oftentimes it would be them loving a good thing too much, you know. Most importantly, I would just say that if our kids or your kids or the listeners' kids grow up knowing the heart of God rather than the rules of God, I think their affections will know where to turn. Laura Dugger: (4:53 - 5:04) Oh, that's so well said. And do you have any ideas for characteristics that will help foster a healthy parent-child relationship? Elizabeth Pehrson: (5:05 - 8:07) Oh, goodness. I would say, you know, so many things. I think children thrive when they feel safe, when the home feels predictable, when it feels secure, and especially when we listen more than we lecture. You know, when we can do that, they will feel understood and they won't feel constantly corrected. You know, I grew up in a home that I'm very grateful for, but in my home, love often felt transactional. If I did this, then that. But, you know, we all know that love isn't something that is earned. You know, it's freely given. And so, our love and affection should never be tied to performance or behavior. But again, unfortunately, what I see on a regular daily basis is that moms are more codependent on their children than ever before. And because of that, they see their children's behavior as a reflection of themselves. And so that love can become a little bit transactional. But I would say, practically speaking, I think there's lots of things that encourage a healthy parent-child relationship. And, you know, we could go through a whole list of these things. But the first thing I would say is not being their friend yet. Down the road, but not yet. You know, we'll have time for that later. But if we treat them as peers right now while they're in the home, authority isn't a value at all that is taught to be respected. It isn't. And, you know, another thing would be just basic consistent boundaries because structure is actually what creates freedom, right? Open communication, you know, where hard conversations can be had. And I'm going to tell you, this is something that we were not the best at, but we found ourselves consistently apologizing for, you know, avoiding that hard conversation and then having come back to it. That was a big one. You know, repair after conflict. That's huge because it is so important for our kids to see us model, you know, owning our mistakes, apologizing for it, you know, when we mess up because that teaches the kids that our relationships can bend without breaking. And the last thing I thought of when I thought about this question was respect for autonomy. And I say that because healthy relationships are ones where we allow our kids to grow and evolve. But a lot of times we want to keep them stuck in whatever that age, whatever that stage is. And children need to be allowed age-appropriate independence. They need to be allowed age-appropriate freedom, you know, constantly just letting that rope out little by little by little and, you know, knowing that parents eventually will just get to the place where they can guide mentor without instructing, you know, our, our goal for them is their own autonomy and their own independence. Laura Dugger: (8:09 - 8:28) That's so good. It makes me even think recently I was reading something about leave and cleave and leaving is breaking all dependencies. And I thought that's kind of the kindness of the Lord that we do that a little by little. Every year, probably of parenting. Elizabeth Pehrson: (8:29 - 9:51) Oh, it's, it's the truth. And it's interesting that you say that because one, we have an 18-year-old boy that's graduating. And my husband and I were just talking, we think it's the goodness of the Lord because what we've noticed, not disrespect, but just this pulling away as he's, you know, nearing graduation, really wanting more independence, not necessarily telling us where he's going to be just, you know, he's not going to be able to go to college. And then we're like, “Oh, I went to so-and-so's house.” And after the fact, and in, in a way when our first son started doing that, I was like, “You know what? He's not, he still lives in this, you know, in this home under this roof.” But it's like my husband said, “You know, it's almost like God's goodness that allows him to pull away a little bit, a little bit, a little bit. So that when he does leave in August, end of July, It makes it a little bit easier. You know?” And then that leave and cleave thing, you said, “I have a son that lives in Houston and he's the lead part just fine, independent, separate, but now he's cleaving to someone else as he's met a girl and that part has been hard for me.” It's like, whoa, like that's a whole, that's like next level, you know, where they no longer, you're no longer the one they call for advice. You're no longer the woman in their life, so to speak. And so, it's been a lot of growing pains, but it's all, again, it's exactly what God designed when we raise our kids. Laura Dugger:: (9:51 - 10:28) But you're right, it's both and it's beautiful, but it's hard and very difficult to go through. It makes me think one of my top 10 of all-time favorite episodes was with Annie Chapman and she wrote the mother-in-law dance. And so, I'll link to that episode as well in the show notes, but I think it was very helpful for even preparing now what that's going to look like someday. Yep. But as we come back to focusing on today, Elizabeth, what is our role as parents in making an effort to help our children have a positive relationship with their siblings? Elizabeth Pehrson: (10:29 - 14:01) Oh, goodness. Having eight children, you know, they have a lot of siblings and ever since our kids were little, David and I just have prayed over and over and over again, one, that they would know, love, and serve God, two, that they would stay close to each other, and then three, that they would seek joy in everything they do. And so, because one of our prayers is that they would stay close to each other, we did everything we could to shape environments that fostered connection with their siblings, with each other. And that could look like we moved their rooms a lot of times, like who they shared with at different seasons of their life. We mixed them up with different brothers or different sisters, outings or trips where we would take just a couple of them, not all of them, but we mixed that up. You know, we never, ever, ever put up with disrespect or mistreatment of each other. That one is a huge one, or their belongings for that matter. But that's so important not to allow your children to offer disrespect or display disrespect to their siblings. A lot of people think, oh, it's just their kid, you know, their siblings, they feel most comfortable with him. That's totally normal, but it really does start at home. Another thing I think of is that we talked as a whole, our family as a team, as a unit. You know, we were a family unit. It's not like one pitted against the other. We were on the same team. And although if my children were here, I am certain that one or more of them would say that they felt compared to at times, but we really did our best not to compare our children because comparison breeds rivalry faster than anything. It really, really does. And we also tried to think about each individual child, you know, like, hey, this is your unique gift. This is your strength. This is an asset, you know, an asset to the team, not just to you individually, but as a family as a whole. And the last thing I would say is everyone laughs because we had family A and then we had family B. And that's the first four kids and the second four kids. And we taught them to serve each other. You know, the older kids were paired with the younger child, a younger sibling, and they had to help them. Sometimes it wasn't even help serving them, but it was doing a chore together. We'll get to this later, I think. But chores are huge in our home. And when they turn nine, they have to mow the yard. And we had we lived on three and a half acres. And so, we had a riding lawnmower. And when my nine-year-old son, my third son turned nine, he wasn't quite heavy enough to keep the mower going, you know, because you have to be heavy enough. Otherwise, it shuts it off. And when he would lean to put his foot on the gas, it would shut it off. So, my three-year-old boy, his chore was to sit behind him and just hold on, you know, for the hour and a half it took him to mow the yard. And, you know, we paired them together a lot. But at the end of the day, we can require respect, but we just can't force friendship. I have two daughters that are only 15 months apart. When they were little, they were attached at the hip. I mean, where one went, the other one went. But now that they're older and they're both in college at the same college, their personalities are very different. Their interests are very different. And they aren't as close as they once were, but they love each other. They respect each other. And, you know, we just have to be OK with that, you know. Laura Dugger: (14:02 - 14:40) That makes sense because there's different seasons to everything. I think you can see that with siblings who pair up with each other. And I'm sure that changes throughout their whole life. Yeah, I want to go back. There's a few things that I want to follow up on. One of them was codependency with mothers and their children. And the other one is already escaping me now. So, I'll try and recall that one. But can you share a little bit more of either why you think it is that way more today or what that might look like if we're codependent with our children and maybe unaware of that? Elizabeth Pehrson: (14:41 - 16:35) All I can say is that I meet with women on a regular basis and 9.9 times out of ten there, they see their children as a reflection of themselves. So, when they make wise choices, they tend to tend to get puffed up. When they don't, they kind of bow back in shame or regret. Or I can't believe this. But the truth of the matter is they are independent, you know, separate from you. And most moms don't know where they end and where the child begins. We're entering graduation season. And I cannot tell you the number of moms that are like, “Oh, oh, this is so hard, this graduation thing.” And I'm like, but you're not graduating. Like, you know, the kids have the responsibility of all the different things they have to do. But you don't. They've already you know, you've already graduated. Let them enjoy this separate from you. But they can't do it. They're a part of every single aspect of their daughter or their son's life. And when that happens, you know, every home run is so important. Every grade they make is so important. And I am all about long, long term, you know, long term parenting. And it is not that it has nothing to do with a long-term person of character that they will become. So, if moms can see where they are separate, it is so beneficial for the child as well as the mom. You know, I met with a mom the other day and she's like, well, I'm not codependent, but my daughter is. And I said, “Well, tell me more about this.” And she said, “Well, she calls me. She's in college and she calls me 10 times a day.” And I said, “OK, well, let me ask you, how many times do you answer?” And she's kind of looked at me and she goes, “Well, she might need something.” And I said, “She can call back.” She can text 911. But when you're so readily available to your child, it just fosters that dependency, you know, of your child on you. And it's so unhealthy. Laura Dugger: (16:36 - 16:51) And I did hear a mom tell me one time when we, I think, had very little children. She said, “You want to ultimately work that dependency off of you and onto the Lord where they are first going to him, which is a lifelong job.” Elizabeth Pehrson: (16:51 - 18:23) It is a lifelong job. There's a funeral service. It's going to sound morbid, but I watched it because it was so impactful to me. I didn't even know this lady, but I watched it four times, this service that was online out of Florida. And the daughters were speaking and they said, “The best thing that they did, the very best thing that she did for them was to teach them their complete dependence on the Lord.” And she said, “She had cancer and she knew she was passing away.” And she said, “Girls, don't be sad for me. I am going to be with my heavenly father rejoicing, singing his praises.” And she said, “If I have taught you to rely solely on me, then I've done a really bad job.” I want your sole dependence to be on your heavenly father. But unfortunately, what I see again is just meeting with these women. We teach them that our presence is what keeps them safe or are, you know, being close proximity, especially with the cell phone. You know, there's a lot of researchers that call it the longest umbilical cord because it keeps us in contact with him 24 seven. It's so sad. I mean, I interviewed some teachers at a middle school because they don't no longer allow cell phones. You have to put it in the basket. Now there are some schools that are making you just not even bring it in. But I'm not even exaggerating when I tell you. They would tell me that the children have two cell phones. The parents would give them two; one so they could put it in the basket and two so that the parents could be able to reach them at a moment's notice. Wow. It's a real thing. I'm not making this up. Laura Dugger: (18:24 - 18:26) That is crazy. Elizabeth Pehrson: (18:26 - 18:59) Just to think in not that many years, how different that is from, you know, I ask moms all the time, would you have loved it if your mom had a low jack on you, like tracking your every move? I mean, because what happens is when you do that in middle school, high school, then they go off to college. I meet with moms every single day. They're like, oh, my goodness, I'm so tired. I didn't go to bed till three o'clock last night. And I'm like, why? Well, because I have like 360 on my child in college and she didn't get home till three, so I couldn't go to sleep. That's a normal everyday thing. Laura Dugger: (19:01 - 19:38) Wow. And OK, for those situations, what would you recommend instead of that? And I guess if I could throw this in, I just was at a reunion with some graduate school friends, and we are all therapists or that's what we studied. And we were just sharing how truly we've seen this play out. What we learned back in grad school was that if there's anxiety about something, avoidance never works. You have to even if it's micro dosing, you have to go through it rather than around it or avoid it. Elizabeth Pehrson: (19:38 - 20:32) Oh, yes. And I mean, I'm sure you've read the book, The Most Anxious Generation of All Time. I mean, that's where we are. And it stems, in my opinion, my humble opinion from the parents who are so anxious because they are codependent, because they are over involved in their children's life. And, you know, quite honestly, it's like the moms are so involved in their children's lives that when the last child leaves, you see the highest divorce rate is after the last emancipation of the last child. Once that child leaves, it's like, I have no life. I have no identity. I have no purpose. And I certainly don't have relationship with my husband because my focus has been with my children. And so, the moms that are anxious, the moms that are just so overbearing, over controlling are the ones that, in my opinion, are fostering those types of relationships with their children, the anxious ones. They can't do anything without their parents. Laura Dugger: (20:33 - 22:06) And now a brief message from our sponsor, Sam Leman Chevrolet Eureka has been owned and operated by the Bertschi family for over 25 years. A lot has changed in the car business since Sam and Stephen's grandfather, Sam Leman, opened his first Chevrolet dealership over 55 years ago. If you visit their dealership today, though, you'll find that not everything has changed. They still operate their dealership like their grandfather did with honesty and integrity. Sam and Stephen understand that you have many different choices in where you buy or service your vehicle. This is why they do everything they can to make the car buying process as easy and hassle free as possible. 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Most women that I meet with will recognize that they are. And then they're like, but you don't understand. Or but I just can't go to sleep or there's a, but you know why I can't. But I would say whatever that is, that has a hold on you, that you're still holding on to your 18, 19, 20, 21, 26-year-old child, whatever it is, they're adults. I mean, legally, they are adults at 18. But yet whatever that is, that's holding you, keeping you attached to them, whether it's causing you to lose sleep, whether it's causing anxiety. You absolutely have to make that separation in that area. And so, you know, for the one that's got the Life360, 24 seven. Hey, give it to your husband. You take it off your phone and they will be able to know how to figure out where your child is, should there be a need, you know, but you're hyper fixating on it, take that away. If it is a cell phone and you're calling your child every single day about everything, all that's doing is teaching your child that they can't do it on their own without you. And they have Google, you know, they have the Internet. I didn't have that when I went away and I didn't have a cell phone, but I figured it out. So, it's like whatever it is that has a hold on you. I would encourage the mom just to make that separation in that one area and then start there. Laura Dugger: (23:30 - 23:34) Love it. And I did think of the other thing that I wanted to circle back with. Elizabeth Pehrson: (23:35 - 23:35) What is this? Laura Dugger: (23:35 - 23:49) So, you had mentioned, yes, you taught your children respect one another in the home, but also respecting their belongings or property. Can you just share a little bit more of how you did that in your philosophy of why that was important? Elizabeth Pehrson: (23:50 - 25:40) Oh, absolutely. I would tell you that David, my husband, and I firmly believe that respect for siblings, for coaches, for teachers, for peers, for their parents is hands down the foundation of every other principle that you can instill in your children, because if you respect them, you know, I mean, there are certain cultures and generations that respect their elderly. We're not a culture that does that. And it's like if you respect them, you hold the door for them. You'll get up and give them your seat. You would never, you know, misuse their things, their belongings. So, with the second that we saw any amount of disrespect, whether it was to us, like, say, if one of my children said something to me that was disrespectful, whether it was a tone, it might not have been the words. It could be a tone. It could be the volume of his voice, whatever it might be. My husband would step in and say, “Hey, son. That's my wife. I don't allow anyone to speak like that to her.” And then therefore, there would be like a consequence for it. And so, I mean, it might be that or at the risk of being too TMI or too vulgar. I had one son that had the urge to go to the bathroom, pee wherever he wanted to. And one time he peed on his sister's blanket, her blankie, because he was mad at her. Let me tell you something. He will never forget it. I don't remember what the punishment was at the time, but he got one. He never went to the bathroom anywhere again other than the toilet. You know, it's like, no, no, no, you cannot do that. I mean, it's the foundation of the golden rule. You know, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. But children think they can get away with it. And then parents justify it by saying, “Oh, but they're only three. Oh, but they're only six. Oh, they didn't really mean it.” Well, you know what? That's where you've set the foundation right there. Three, five, six, whatever the age, so that when they grow up, they will respect their coaches, their employers, their teachers. Laura Dugger: (25:40 - 25:55) You know, so good. OK, so another relational question, then what are ways that we can help or support positively shaping our children to have strong and healthy relationships with their friends? Elizabeth Pehrson: (25:56 - 29:02) Yeah, I think that is such an important question. It was the very first verse we had our children memorize when they were itty bitty, you know, he who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm because research shows that we are the sum of the five people that we hang out with the most. So, who those five are in their circle, it is so important. You know, it in our opinion, it is essential to model for our children what healthy friendships look like, because, again, they learn that by watching us. It goes back to what's caught, you know, not the top principle. And I think it's essential to have them around other children their own age as often as possible, because I think we can use friendship with their peers, not their parents, not their grandparents, but with peers. Then we can use those examples and those situations to teach them to include others, to take turns, to read body language, to notice when something's wrong with one of your friends, right? To apologize. Ask for forgiveness too, hey, this one's doing something completely different than I would do, but let's celebrate that. And a big one is navigating disappointment and hurt. You know, I mean, that's going to inevitably happen with our children and their friendships. So those roles are so important because we can use those experiences to help train and equip them. You know, for us, our goal was never, ever, ever about popularity. Matter of fact, I don't even like the word. I don't like the you know what it stands for. But for us, it was really just to focus on their character and the heart issues. So, because of that, we would ask them, you know, not who are you friends with and who do you know, but things like who did you include at lunch today? Did you notice anyone sitting alone? Did you say anything to them? What kind friend or what kind of thing did you do for a friend today? And, you know, as far as like how we model that for our children and try to encourage that with them, it's going to cause a sacrifice on our end, right? I mean, when we're allowing and I mean, we might have to take time driving them to, you know, a good friend's house that lives far away or it might be hosting events. It might be goodness. I mean, every mom knows that we've had to wait on our children and wait and wait and wait and whatever that looks like. But, you know, just modeling that for our children and setting that environment and that groundwork so that they can have these friendships. It's going to be a sacrifice for every single mom. We can and we'll have to sacrifice our comfort. We'll have to sacrifice our convenience. Right. A louder house, extra groceries, wet towels, muddy shoes like the list could go on and on and on. But, you know, I know that there have been times when I would hope I would host things in my home, but I would rather be resting, you know, but I can't because I have a house full of 30 kids or staying home because there needs to be a parent there when I'd rather be out on a date with my husband. You know, there's lots of sacrifices that we're going to have to make. But I just think it's super, super important. That we do. Laura Dugger: (29:03 - 29:25) Well, and I love hearing that side of it. I'm assuming you're such a both and person, too. What did you make sure that you didn't sacrifice? Because I never hear you saying I only sacrificed for my kids so it could be better for them. But you were healthy all throughout raising them. So, does that make sense? How did you balance your own? Elizabeth Pehrson: (29:25 - 30:36) No, and I appreciate you saying that, but I'm certain that there were times when I was tired, when I was selfish and that I didn't do the wise thing. But I will say that that it is so important not to sacrifice yourself because, you know, you can hear it in the analogies of, you know, you can't you can't give what you don't have. You got to fill yourself up first. And it's all true. You know, the oxygen mask on the airplane before you give it to your children, it's so important. But I equally think it's important for your children to see. I'm not going to be at home at dinner tonight because you know what? I'm with my besties. I'm with my girlfriends tonight. That is important to me. Loving one another and being with one another is spoken of more in scripture than parenting, more than marriage. I mean, it is spoken of over and over and over again. So, I want them to see that, “Hey, tonight I'm going to sacrifice time at home and I'm going to go out, be with my girlfriends”. So, there's definitely some things you have to sacrifice. But I don't want a woman to be so depleted because she's constantly giving, giving, giving, giving, giving that again, when she when their children graduate and leave home, they don't even know who they are. They've lost sight of who God created them to be. Laura Dugger: (30:36 - 30:39) I appreciate your balance in that. Elizabeth Pehrson: (30:39 - 30:41) It's always and in both. Laura Dugger: (30:41 - 30:43) Yes, it really is. Elizabeth Pehrson: (30:43 - 30:43) It is. Laura Dugger: (30:44 - 30:53) How do you think we can help our kids uncover and articulate and pursue their purpose in life? Elizabeth Pehrson: (30:54 - 32:55) Purpose is huge for me. I'm sure you know that. It's the name of my podcast. It's why I started the exchange. But I have to tell you, I meet with women every single day, grown women, 40s, 50s, 60s, even 70s that still do not know their purpose. They don't know who they are. So realistically, for our children, I don't want to have anyone, you know, mom beat themselves up because it does take time to help them understand, you know, who they are, why God put them here, what their purpose is. And I will say some of my kids will grasp it before others. You know, I have a son that just graduated UGA, and he still is contemplating, you know, what does God have for my life? But as far as purpose goes, whether it's your young children, whether it's your high school children trying to figure out, do I go to college? Do I not go to college? You know, what do I major in? All of those things. But for anyone, I want to say that it's important that they know their purpose is not what they do. But the why behind what they do. And if someone is unsure of what that is or, you know, why they do something, I would encourage them to ask questions. That's my biggest thing. When I meet with women, when I talk with them, just ask questions, ask questions. I mean, we don't have the answers, but to ask questions. And so, I'll ask my children, you know, when they're contemplating some of these things, “Hey, what makes you come alive? What lights you up?” You know, who do you love to serve? What could you do for hours, hours, and hours and lose track of time? For an older woman, I would say, what did you love to do as a child? You know, maybe what do other people say to you? Man, you make that look effortless. You are so good at fill in the blank. What keeps you up at night? What breaks your heart? I think the answer to all of those questions lead us ultimately to what God uniquely put in our hearts to do and how he created us. You know, when he created each one of us, he gave us something that he wants us to offer to the world. And whatever that is, I would say will lead you to your purpose. Laura Dugger: (32:56 - 33:00) And do you have yours articulated that you want to share with us? Elizabeth Pehrson: (33:00 - 34:41) Oh, it took me a long time to go, God, who did you create me to be? And asking some of those questions, it's so interesting. So, you know, I speak, I speak, you know, at the exchange and in the last 10 years, I've started speaking more at churches and other places, and it's my absolute favorite thing to do. It lights me up. I find great joy in it. It comes natural to me. And one day when I was asking this woman, I'm like, let me ask you, what did you love to do as a child? Like, what could you just do for hours and hours? And she's like, well, I don't know. Can you give me some examples? And she said, what did you love to do? And it was like this light bulb went off. And my mom was very, very, very girly. And I had three older brothers. I was not. And my mom wanted me to be very girly. So, she would give me for every birthday, Christmas, Easter, Flag Day. It didn't matter what the holiday. I got a Madame Alexander doll. It's this doll that has it's like on a stand and it just sits there like you don't play with it. You don't you just look at it. I don't know the purpose of these dolls. I don't know why anyone would want one. But when I tell you I had 100 of them, I literally had 100 of them. And so, when I was thinking back to what did I love to do as a child instinctively, no one told me to do it. I would get home after school, and I would pull out all of these dolls and I would put them on my bed and I would line them up and I would talk to them. I would tell them all about my day, what I learned, what someone taught me, the injustices of being the only girl in the family, what I'm going to do when I'm older. And I literally that's what I did for hours. And it was like this light bulb went off. It's like God put that in me. I was encouraging my dolls. I was talking to them. I was, you know, hopefully motivating them, inspiring them. Obviously, they couldn't move. But that's what I do now. And encouraging women is my purpose. Laura Dugger: (34:42 - 35:27) I love that story so much. That's amazing. Do you love The Savvy Sauce? Do you gain anything when you listen? Did you know that the two ways we earn money to keep this podcast live is through generous contributions from listeners and from our paying sponsors? That means we can promote your business and you're still supporting The Savvy Sauce. It's a win-win. Please email us today at info@theSavvySauce.com to inquire about pricing for sponsoring each episode. Thank you for your consideration. Elizabeth, do you have any tips for how we can influence our children to become lifelong learners? Elizabeth Pehrson: (35:28 - 39:29) Yes, I think it's super important to encourage that in your children. But I also don't think there's a formula for it because some children are naturally more curious. Some are naturally more inquisitive. I do think it's super important to recognize that, you know, what it is that they want to learn. They want to study because it's going to be different for your children. So, you might not think that they're a learner or someone that's curious, but they're just not curious about what you're curious about. Right. My oldest son reads a biography of presidents and historical figures all the time. He tries to get through one a week. I couldn't think of more boring reading, but he loves, loves it. He just takes it all in. He knows all the facts and stats on presidents. But what's funny is when he was two years old, he could name all of the presidents in order at two years old. I couldn't even do it. I had to hold up the placemat to make sure, you know, that he was right. I have another son that studies history, loves it, just absolutely loves it. And I have a daughter who probably the one that's most like me. But I will tell you that she will be a lifelong learner of people the rest of her life. That is her passion. She's curious. She's inquisitive. She's always asking questions of people. And as long as we know that ultimately, it's just going to be up to them. Some are going to be great learners. Naturally, others won't be. But I would say if you wanted me to point to something again, it just comes back to modeling it, you know, for our children, because children copy what we love, not what we lecture. They copy what we love, not what we lecture every single time. And I remember when one time when my kids were little, they wanted me to plant a garden. And I don't know what the opposite of a green thumb is, but that's what I have. I'm like the opposite of that. And I had no idea. Like, you dig up the grass, you till the soil. Like, when do you plant? How do you even grow a vegetable? I had no idea. But I said, “You know what? I don't know how to do this, but let's figure it out together.” We'll figure it out together. And, you know, I suggest that moms would say things to their kids like, I just listened to this podcast, and it really challenged my thinking. I had never thought of it this way before. Or I don't know anything about that topic you want to talk about, but let's find out, let's dive in and look, go to the library or, you know, whatever it might be. And lastly, I would just say that it really comes down to praising effort, not performance, because if you're saying you're so smart, you know so much about that or you're so wise in that area. It really is. It doesn't do them anything other than teach them a performance based. Right. So, it's like I want to say the things the things to them. Like, I am so proud of you when you didn't know what you were doing. You stuck with it. You figured it out because I think that is a growth mindset instead of like instead of driving in performance anxiety. Like, I don't know how to do this. I didn't figure it out. I can't. You know, we really want them like, hey, I don't know what it is, but I'll figure it out. You know, and I just think when learning really becomes about grades, achievement, success, whatever it is, curiosity dies, does. So, it's like at the dinner table. I remember David and I would ask questions of the kids, and we would ask them things like, what did you fail at today? Like, what did you mess up today? Like, what surprised you today that you didn't know yesterday? And then David and I would share as well. Like, let me tell you what I learned. Let me tell you where I messed up at work. And it's just important to normalize not having all the answers. You know, one of our big parenting mantras is don't bail, let them fail. And I think it is so important because we don't want to rescue our children. You know, we want them to not know how to do something so that they can figure it out and then just learn as they go. You know, because that's really where confidence grows. It grows through problem solving and learning things the hard way. Laura Dugger: (39:30 - 40:01) Wow, there's so much there. I love I'll kind of summarize a few things. So being curious ourselves, modeling it, having our own interests and sharing those ideas, but I hear this theme of questions, asking our kids questions. I think that develops critical thinking. But then you helped identify with them what their interests were. And I think that will naturally lead to being a lifelong learner if we find what we're interested in. You said all of your kids might be different once they found that. They'll probably be lifelong learners in those areas. Elizabeth Pehrson: (40:01 - 40:32) For sure. And I guess what I meant by some or more so than others like my first born, he is a five on the Enneagram. And so, his he wants to know how everything works and studies it and researches it for hours before he makes a decision where I have some other children that are like, you know, instead of ready, set, go, it's more like go, set, ready, you know, and I'll figure it out later. I don't care. But he's just naturally more inquisitive to want to know how things work. What makes things tick? Why does the world work the way it works? You know, that kind of thing. Laura Dugger: (40:33 - 40:44) Well, I don't know if this goes together or if you would share something different. But do you think there are any ways that we can help our children recognize and utilize their spiritual gifts? Elizabeth Pehrson: (40:46 - 44:02) Yeah, when I think about spiritual gifts, I kind of think it goes back to the purpose question that we talked about earlier. You know, again, I know a lot of adults that don't know their spiritual gifts yet. They're still questioning. They're still I'm not really sure is it this or this or I don't know where to lean in. And it's hard for parents to help their children find their spiritual gifts when they don't know theirs, you know, or they don't know how God wired them or what he placed deep inside of them. But one thing that I would offer when you're trying to help your children with that is just as parents just notice things about your children, but notice them out loud. What God's already doing in your children, notice them out loud, speak them out loud, like pay attention. Which child comforts the crying sibling who organizes the game so that everybody feels included? Who asks deep questions about faith or which child senses when someone, you know, is left out? You know, those are all clues as to how God wired them and what's deep inside of them. And, you know, you can say things as simple as you know, you know, I noticed you have a gift for encouragement. You really are so good at that. Or, hey, you know what? You notice what other people miss. That's amazing. How do you do that? God is always giving you courage. You know, I have a son named Josh, and he's got this big Joshua one nine frame in his, you know, Bible verse in his room. It's like God has given you a spirit of fear and but of courage and of sound mind, you know, and it's like we try to speak that courage into him or, you know, I have one son that always keeps us organized and on track. And we used to call him the traffic cop because he was always like this. But then I was like, no, that doesn't really speak life into him. It's more of a judge. So, we were like, you know what? You are so organized. You keep us on track. And I think when kids hear out loud like their strengths name, they begin to see them as gifts rather than just like, oh, that's just how I am. That's a person that, you know, personality court. And as you're trying to speak those things out loud and let them see and notice things about themselves that maybe they didn't see. You can also give them opportunities to practice things like, hey, at the dinner table, you're going to pray out loud tonight for the family, for our meal, or, hey, I'd like you to help lead with our family dinner devotions or hey, you know what? I'm going to go serve this weekend at this project. And I really want you to come alongside me and go with me. Maybe, hey, you know what? I noticed this younger sibling really needs encouragement today. Could you just go and speak some encouragement to her? You know, handwritten notes. That's a big one in our family. You know, literally handwritten notes, not just by a card and signing it. Love, Josh, you know, but to write out. And I think that's something that we can instill in our kids because that's a lost art. But, you know, most importantly, more than any of that, I would say to remind your kids this gift, this spiritual gift that God has given you isn't for you. It's for someone else. Right. A person of purpose, a hero, whatever you want to call it, is a person who takes who they are with what they have for the benefit of someone else. That's it. It's just like who they are with what they have for the benefit of someone else. And when you do that, there's always a gift that you can offer somebody else. Laura Dugger: (44:04 - 44:15) Well, in another biblical topic, we know that it's a biblical command to be hospitable. So, were there any specific ways that you trained your children in hospitality? Elizabeth Pehrson: (44:16 - 46:33) Yeah. Hospitality was my mom's ultimate gift. It was probably the thing that she modeled the best for my brothers and for me. We hosted foreign exchange students for months at a time. Every single Sunday. People don't believe me when I tell them this, but it's true. Every single Sunday, we would invite a family home from church to have lunch with us that we did not know. It was never somebody that we knew. And so, on Saturday, we would prepare the house. We would prepare the yard. We would cook the food as a family. Everybody had a role in it. And then my dad would literally find a family that we did not know. And he would invite them home. And my parents always had their home open for Bible studies, for parties, for small groups, whatever, and whomever needed a space. They made our home available. And I've just tried to do that for my children in my own ways because it looks very differently than, you know, the way my mom did it. But I basically think hospitality is simply just making room. That's it. It's just making room, whether it's making room at your table, whether it's making room in your home. You know, a lot of moms are perfectionists, and they associate perfection with it. My home's not clean enough. My home's not pretty enough. It's not perfect enough. And so, then they don't want to do it. But I can just tell you honestly, with eight children, perfect wasn't an option, you know, anyway, but we did. We had an open-door policy for dinner. We even had a sign on our garage door. It said dinner's at 6:30. All are welcome. And so, anybody could come and show up to dinner any night of the week at 6:30. And all of our children, when we invited people over, everybody had to participate, not just those that were excited about it, but like the whole family, you know, whether it was setting the table, greeting the guests at the door, making eye contact and then asking them questions, clearing plates. I mean, just whatever it is. We wanted every single person to be a part of it. And really, we just tried to say, hey, you know, this is going to cost you something, because sometimes generosity does. You might have to squeeze in at the dinner table and sit like this because we're all squeezed in and that's OK. Or you might have three air mattresses on your floor tonight and you have to share your room. And I know you don't want to, but that's OK. I mean, it's like generosity is going to cost you something. And we wanted our kids to know that. Laura Dugger: (46:34 - 46:47) Oh, such great examples. And do you have any other additional tips for ways that all of our family can actually delight in the abundant life that Christ has, that he's offered each one of us? Elizabeth Pehrson: (46:49 - 48:59) Yeah, I mean, again, I certainly do not have all the answers, and we could have made service projects and serving others more of a priority in our home, for sure. But I just I think that the abundant life in Jesus it is about serving others. It is about offering others what he's given you. And, you know, we don't serve to earn love like we serve because we're already loved. I mean, that's really the bottom line. And that changes everything. And so, I would just encourage families to start serving together, not as a punishment, you know, not as a obligation, but just as a way of life. It's what we do. It's who we are. And so, because of that, the abundant life for us offering it to others looked like making meals, making cupcakes, making a cake and delivering it to people. We had elderly neighbors all in our street and we mowed their yards. We picked up pinecones. We went to the grocery store and picked up their medicine for them. You know, we made, again, handwritten notes and cards, just very small, easy, tangible, ordinary things that we could do to love on others. And I would say, let them see your joy in what you're doing, because they children do not like drudgery. They're just going to resist it. Right. It's like but if they see you delighting and feeling full, full after serving and then giving, they appreciate you know, they appreciate that they see the joy. And so, it's just it's important. I just think all the way around just there's Andy Stanley always says, you know, following God's principles will make your life better and it will make your life make you better at life. And so, when we follow these principles, when we serve, when we celebrate the kids serving other people with a joyful heart, you know, we celebrate their impact, not their performance, not how grand it was, not how big it was. But hey, you made someone feel loved today. That's a really big deal. That's a really big thing. You're eight years old. Not everybody can do that. And I am so grateful that you love Jesus so much that you would be willing to do that. So, I just think the abundant life comes from following God's principles. You know, it's not having more. It's just loving more. Laura Dugger: (49:00 - 49:14) Oh, love it. You have so much wisdom to share. So, before we press pause on this conversation, because we get to continue again next week, will you just let us know where we can go in the meantime to learn more from you? Elizabeth Pehrson: (49:15 - 49:38) Oh, sure. If someone would like to follow me, it's on Instagram. I have my own personal one. It's called @octomama. My kids made that long time ago. I also have the @theexchangeus. That is that's my Instagram handle there. And then a long game parenting, writing a parenting book. And so, I do have a handle for that where I post things. But it's called @long_game_parenting. So, yeah, wonderful. Laura Dugger: (49:38 - 49:56) We'll link to all of that in the show notes for today's episode. And Elizabeth, this is your third time on The Savvy Sauce. So, you already know we're called The Savvy Sauce because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge. And so is my final question for you today. What is your Savvy Sauce? Elizabeth Pehrson: (49:56 - 50:36) I would say in light of our conversation today and in light of what I talked about and shared, it's so simple. It's just 12 words. I say it all the time. Think what you want your kids to be and then be it. Think what you want your kids to be and then be it. And I don't mean this in terms of your career or your profession, you know, but I mean in terms of modeling for our children what we want to impress upon their heart, things of character, because the truth is, it goes back to that. We can only take our children as far as we've gone ourselves, or we can only help our children as far as we've done the work ourselves emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. So, think what you want your kids to be and then be it. Laura Dugger: (50:37 - 50:46) What a beautiful way to close out our time together today. As always, Elizabeth, you are just effervescent and time flies by when we're having conversations together. Elizabeth Pehrson: (50:47 - 50:49) I talk fast, so thanks for saying that. Laura Dugger: (50:50 - 50:52) Well, thank you for being my guest. Elizabeth Pehrson: (50:52 - 50:55) Absolutely. I thoroughly enjoyed it. Thanks, Laura. Laura Dugger: (50:56 - 54:10) One more thing before you go. Have you heard the term gospel before? It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you. But it starts with the bad news. Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there's absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved. We need a savior. But God loved us so much. He made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him. That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life we could never live and died in our place for our sin. This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus. We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished if we choose to receive what he has done for us. Romans 10:9 says, that if you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. So, would you pray with me now? Heavenly Father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you. Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life? We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus name we pray. Amen. If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me, so me for him. You get the opportunity to live your life for him. And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason. We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you ready to get started? First, tell someone. Say it out loud. Get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes & Noble and let me choose my own Bible. I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it. You can start by reading the book of John. Also, get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ. I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you. We want to celebrate with you too, so feel free to leave a comment for us here if you did make a decision to follow Christ. We also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process. And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, in the same way I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents. The heavens are praising with you for your decision today. And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.
Wait! What?! Now?! Serve now? I love Simon's mother-in-law's serving heart and serving timing. One minute she is sick in bed, the next she is serving dinner to Jesus and the guys. If you have been waiting for the time to get involved, now's the time! We get to serve God and our neighbors right now.Recorded live at Word of Life Church in Le Sueur, Minnesota, on Sunday, August 9, 2026, with Pastor Jason Lang preaching.
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Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of suicidal ideation, child abuse and neglect, childhood sexual abuse, and abortion.Whitney answers two questions about accepting a family situation you never chose and never asked for. First, a mother whose family just lost a three year grandparent visitation case. She is being mandated by family court to send her children on unsupervised monthly visits with a grandmother she doesn't believe is safe. Second, a listener who has been 15 years no contact asking the question: should the adult child be apologizing for how they behaved as a kid?In this episode, you'll learn:- How to separate what the court controls from what you actually control as a parent- How to prepare a child for time with someone you don't trust, without making them afraid- Why a child's behavior during abuse is never something to apologize for- When accountability between an adult child and a parent is genuinely useful, and who has to go firstWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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So many offices out there think growth has to come from new patients. Tiff and Kristy share specific areas in your practice where you can increase what you're pulling in. This includes fee analyses, unscheduled patients, a finely tuned schedule, and more. Episode resources: Subscribe to The Dental A-Team podcast Schedule a Practice Assessment Leave us a review Transcript: Tiffanie (00:01) Hello, Dental A Team listeners. We are so excited to be here with you today. We love podcasting. We love giving out so much great information. And more than anything, we really love sharing our journeys with you guys, us consultants here on the team. We get to be in office with you, a lot of you. we get to be on the road, we get to go to CE courses, we take a ton of CE courses. The gal who's podcasting with me today is a CE maniac. she's always just looking things up and And learning and growing. So we get to learn and grow. We get to boots on the ground, test things out, and then we get to deliver those ideas and those thoughts here to everyone on this platform. So thank you for being a valued listener. We hope that you enjoy today's content and please, please, please share with a friend something that we're very passionate about is reaching as many people as we possibly can on this platform and others. So whether you are a current client, a future client, or a forever podcast listener alone. We just ask that you share this information, you pass it along to a friend, so that they can get some great nuggets as well. And Kristy, I have Kristy here with me today. And like I said, Kristy, you are just like a learning magnet. I love it because you just have this broad spectrum, this range of things that you love consuming, and you bring so much knowledge to the Dental A Team consulting team. So, Kristy. Thank you for being here with us today. I am excited for today's topic. and before we dive in, how are you? How has your podcasting been? You listen to, you consume a lot. And then you you're DAT- Kristy (01:37) Yeah. Tiffanie (01:38) someone that consumes but also utilizes what you consume, which I think is a special skill. So how are you? How's your world? How's your learning? What's new for you? DAT- Kristy (01:47) Yeah, it's going good, Tiff. it's beginning of the week, so it's always fun to dive in and hear the things. I think lately it's really been around insurance and getting payments on time. They're doing some sneaky stuff with payments, so keeping clients apprised to that and making sure the revenue's coming in. But beyond that, like you're right. I I do like to to listen and stay up on things so that we can share with our not just our clients, but even like you said, future clients or people listening to the podcast. Tiffanie (02:22) Yeah, I agree. I know you're gonna say insurance. That has been a bug this year. Insurance DAT- Kristy (02:27) Mm-hmm. Tiffanie (02:27) the insurance bug is what we will call it. and DAT- Kristy (02:30) Yeah. Tiffanie (02:30) I love it because I know I can I can pick your brain for so many things and you do stay up on so many forums and you're always reading. but then on the opposite end of that spectrum, like I know I I know you will what does Kiera call you? A truffle, a truffle hunter, right? Like you're gonna find those truffles in the forest. within the insurance and the billing world, but also you love leadership, like growth and development and this the non-dental leadership podcast of the world and books and we're always talking about that stuff. So I think it's really cool and very valuable for everybody and and gives you just a ton of credibility as we speak to a lot of the things we're gonna talk about. DAT- Kristy (03:15) thank you, Teff. Tiffanie (03:16) Of course. and yes, it is early in the week starting my Starting my Monday podcasting is really fun. And starting my Monday podcasting with Kristy brings it down. It's only 10 a.m. and I feel like it has been a whirlwind this morning. So knowing DAT- Kristy (03:31) Yeah. Tiffanie (03:31) that I'm here, I'm like, okay, actually we're gonna breathe. So I hope all of our listeners feel that. Kristy brings a sense of calm to every every space that you enter. so thank you for doing that for me today. I need it. DAT- Kristy (03:44) Absolutely, my pleasure. Tiffanie (03:46) So, Kristy, this is something I think you're really great at. I do go through and and this was the first podcast on our list, and I was like, Yeah, this is Kristy's podcast. If we do no more DAT- Kristy (03:56) Mm-hmm. Tiffanie (03:56) today, it's at least this one. And we really wanted to speak to the podcasting world here and and dental listeners about how to find growth within a practice without physically growing the practice. And this is something that has come up a lot. And I think Kristy. I've at least had a lot of I've been experiencing this. I've had a lot of practices that are like tapped out on space, right? Like physical space. And after 2020, right? The year of 2020, March to December, this massive boom, right? We had this tank of like, what are we gonna do? And then we just had this massive boom and this influx. And so I think what I saw happen is a ton of practices remodeled or they did expansions, they added as much as they physically could. And they're kind of tapped out. I know I have you know some that are like if I build anymore, I don't have parking where my patients gonna park. And so DAT- Kristy (04:50) That's seven. Tiffanie (04:51) they're finding themselves in this space or they're finding themselves in this space where maybe they don't have the finances right now to physically build or the capability and it doesn't make sense to. So we push growth. We're always saying, you know, seven to ten percent, ten percent is our goal, at seven percent is a minimum, a bare minimum to keep up with inflation. And my Clients, you know, a lot of my practices are looking at me like, okay, Tiff, like that's crazy. So I wanted to chat today through some ideas that we utilize and Kristy that you bring to the table specifically to increase that like dollar per hour, that bottom line, that production collection space without physically increasing maybe even our patient base. Cause Kristy also have got a ton of practices. that are struggling for new patients. We're like scraping the bottom of the braille all trying to find new patients. So yeah, that's where we're at. We're just like, how do you grow without pouring water on a plant and growing it, you know? DAT- Kristy (05:52) Mm-hmm. Absolutely. Tip, I love this subject because so many offices think that it all has to come from new patients, you know? And sometimes new patients can be expensive if we're looking for outside marketing, right? And we have so much to tap into within our practices already. And first and foremost, I always like to say when's the last time you did a fee evaluation? a lot of people after COVID. really didn't tap into this. And I speak to doctors almost every day who think they were at the 80th percentile. And when we look at it, they're down in the 40th or 50th percentile, you know? And I also say tip with that, a lot of docs are hesitant to to look at this because they're like, I'm so high PPO. And I always say, hey, if you don't raise your fees, they're never going to raise theirs either. So Tiffanie (06:47) Yeah. DAT- Kristy (06:48) Taking a look at that first and foremost is huge. Tiffanie (06:51) I totally agree with that. It's something that's overlooked. I love what you said about the PPO space because so many doctors are like, what difference does it make? I'm tied to these fee schedules or nobody ever sees my UCR. Well, they do. The insurance companies see it. And I actually have a practice, I don't remember who I was podcasting with, but we spoke about them a couple weeks ago that they do their fee analysis and updates in during the summer. It's their slow time and so DAT- Kristy (07:16) Mm. Tiffanie (07:18) they do it during the summer. when there's space and there's time because January, you know, that's an influx of just DAT- Kristy (07:24) Basically. Tiffanie (07:25) yeah, is it crazy. And so they move that task to the summer, which I think is really smart. And we actually just went through and did a fee analysis and found that they're they have a couple of insurances that are paying in network almost to their UCR fees. And their UCR fees are not low, right? They're getting like a thousand to eleven hundred dollars for a crown. So when we requested a fee increase, right, they're like, hey, we're already paying 90% or 95% of your UCR, so we're denying it right now. And to your point, Kristy, they need to change their UCR because their insurances are following those UCR fees, right? DAT- Kristy (08:06) Yeah. Tiffanie (08:07) And so many practices overlook that and just go with the flow, and they just like muscle memory, they just keep. you just keep doing it, right? You're like Dory, just keep swimming and you just don't think about what's behind you. And increasing DAT- Kristy (08:20) Yeah. Tiffanie (08:21) those UCRs makes a massive difference, especially when you're a PPO dentist in the area that's at that 50th percentile. You need to be way higher. And if no one's seeing those UCR fees, great. Then guess what? You don't have to have that conversation with your with your patients. that their fees are increasing because you increased fees. Like no now your insurances see those fee increases and then you can request fee increases from them for your fee schedules. DAT- Kristy (08:49) Yeah, exactly. I think it's a it's a huge missed opportunity if if you haven't looked at them in a while. And and I like to say look at once a year. I mean, it it really is worth it and it fluctuates. And don't forget your products if you're selling products. Like make Tiffanie (09:05) Yes. DAT- Kristy (09:05) sure you're updating those and looking at invoices. Make sure you're you're charging the correct, you know, a lot of offices don't add on for like toothbrushes and that sort of stuff, you could actually be going in the hole if you haven't looked at it in a while. So Tiffanie (09:20) Absolutely. I have had so many practices that were that look back, you know, they haven't done it in three, four years and they look at it and they're like, my gosh, I'm literally losing money on fluoride. Like, we haven't updated our fees, so my fluoride costs more than what I'm charging my patients. And I'm like, Yeah, and that's an easy DAT- Kristy (09:37) Crazy. Tiffanie (09:38) one. And even like to your point the oral bee and crest and all of them, they increase inflation, right, is everywhere. So if your goodie bags are, you know, costing a certain amount Add that in too. Take that into consideration because you've got to pay for those somehow, and we forget that those freebies are coming out of our overhead somewhere. We've got to make DAT- Kristy (09:59) Yeah, agree with you, Tiff. you know, the other area that I like is looking at your unscheduled patients. I mean, Tiffanie (10:07) Right. DAT- Kristy (10:08) so many of my practices have a whole practice within a practice and and we get busy and we think we we don't have time to call on those. And I like to say it's a proactive and a reactive approach and making sure we're touching it every single day is huge. Tiffanie (10:25) Yeah. Yeah, and to your point, that's a like a reactivation campaign. This is not just it's also including, but it's not just patients who were due last month that didn't come in. Those are very top of mind. We're hitting those. 90% of our our our practices are hitting those recare due. Recare coming up, recare six months past due, one year past due. This is patients who haven't been seen in 18, 24, 36 months because To your point, there's a practice practice within a practice. I have practices, I know we both do. The physical practice has been around for 30 plus years. You may have been the newest dentist, the newest owner. So maybe you've only been there for two, three, five years, and you're thinking active patient count, but you've got 30 years of this physical space being there of patients who per perhaps haven't seen a dentist or been touched by your recare efforts. DAT- Kristy (11:21) Yeah, absolutely. And I love those ones because you already have a relationship with them. So Tiffanie (11:25) Yeah. DAT- Kristy (11:26) you even if you've physically inactivated them, you can run an inactivated campaign and and systematically touch these people to remind them, Hey, I'm still here. We'd love to see ya, you know. Tiffanie (11:39) Yeah. Yeah. I have a lot of clients that do that reactivation campaign and they're like, okay, but what if they've moved? What if they decided not to come? He's like, great, then you get to clean up your system as well and remind those patients, no matter where they live, they need to see a dentist. So if our goal is to ensure that our patients are healthy, you're still handling that because you're still reminding them to find a dentist and To me, those are new patients, right? And you said earlier, like a lot of a lot of practices will put all their eggs in a basket of a new patient. And I think that comes from the early 2000s of everything was new patients. There were so many consulting companies and I just everything we heard in dentistry was new patients. You heard nothing else, new patients in production. And that's evolved a ton because I think people got tired of being new patient mills, right? Where it was like, We see so many patients, but we're not worried about what's happening to them after they leave that first appointment. And that has dramatically shifted. And that's where this comes into play. So even if you haven't physically, maybe you've been there for a year or three years, you haven't met that patient yet, that's okay. That patient DAT- Kristy (12:49) Sure. Tiffanie (12:50) has a relationship with the practice, with the building, it's memory, it's driving up to the place that you've gone. three, four, five times for your dental care. That's my dentist, right? That's my dental practice. So then you have that opportunity now to build the relationship one-on-one with that person as they enter. DAT- Kristy (13:10) Yeah, agree with you, Tiff. it it's look at the number because I bet you would be surprised at how many patients you have sitting out there. And if truly you are at a capacity, you guys can go through those and look at them strategically. If they have outstanding treatment, those patients potentially could be could be coming back in not just hygiene, but in the doctor's chair too. So Tiffanie (13:32) Yes. Yes. DAT- Kristy (13:34) yeah, there's a gold mine sitting out there most of the time, and it just takes tapping Tiffanie (13:36) Yeah. Yeah. DAT- Kristy (13:38) into it. Tiffanie (13:39) I have a practice that had nineteen thousand patients had touched this physical building at one point or another. Nineteen thousand people in this small town. And I was like, Yeah, stop paying for new patients. Just just physically hit those patients with emails. You just automated emails that go out once a month and you're gonna get you're gonna get patients back because I've seen it and you're gonna get patients that call and say, Hey, actually I moved out of town. Great. clean up our system. So I love those. DAT- Kristy (14:06) Yeah. You know, Tiff, even to that point, how many offices look at how many new patients they get, but take it one step further and see, okay, we had thirty new patients this month, but only twenty rescheduled for another appointment. So making Tiffanie (14:21) Right. Mm-hmm. DAT- Kristy (14:22) sure when we have them or having those conversations to keep them and capture them as they're coming in as well. Tiffanie (14:29) Yeah, I have I had that conversation last week with a client and they asked the great question of okay, is that that they scheduled for their treatment or they scheduled their six month recare? And I said, Great question because I love definitions and both DAT- Kristy (14:41) Yeah. Tiffanie (14:43) because so many patients, Kristy, so many people are like, yeah, sure, we'll schedule. And then they cancel in two weeks DAT- Kristy (14:49) Mm-hmm. Tiffanie (14:50) or six months right before their visit, right? And you never see them again. So if they had treatment diagnosed and didn't schedule that, but they scheduled their six month visit. That's a little fishy to me. So I said both. And that DAT- Kristy (15:01) Yeah. Tiffanie (15:02) leads into that case acceptance space too. We're only watching we're only watching case acceptance of an overall and we're not differentiating to are the new patients accepting versus just maybe recare's accepting that we've already had this relationship because then you're seeing what's that relationship we're building with the new patients? Are they sticking or are they canceling? DAT- Kristy (15:23) Yeah, 100%, Tiff. I think there's a couple other areas too that come to mind for me when it comes to the growth. And it goes back to what you were saying in the case acceptance realm. Like what I found lately is people really have to have some strategic resources for patients to accept treatment, you know? Tiffanie (15:43) Mm. DAT- Kristy (15:44) So from the realm of finances, making sure we have ways that patients can say yes. Tiffanie (15:50) Yeah. DAT- Kristy (15:50) You know, and really measuring when they don't, what what stood Tiffanie (15:54) Yeah. DAT- Kristy (15:55) in the way. Tiffanie (15:56) Yeah, I love that. And that seems to be I think in for my client base, what I've seen is scheduling hurdles and finances, making sure DAT- Kristy (16:05) Yep. Tiffanie (16:06) that there's an easy way to say yes to the price. and making sure that blocked scheduling or whatever it is that you choose to use for your scheduling that it that it works. I've got a lot of patient or a lot of clients that their patient appointments, like they're just throwing things on the schedule to try to fill it. Like especially the ones that are struggling to fill a schedule, they're just grabbing whatever they can. And DAT- Kristy (16:31) Mm-hmm. Tiffanie (16:33) without utilizing a blocked scheduling method and filling it in that way, we do a really big disservice because I think Kristy, what I've seen at least, is sometimes those patients that are in, those appointments that are in that should be an hour, are now taking an hour and a half, two hours because there's other stuff mixed in. And so then we are making our days longer and like, okay, if we're scheduling that, now I need two hours in the future. You probably didn't. You probably just didn't schedule correctly around it. And so you're actually losing a ton of time throughout your day to be more productive. And to your point, Kristy, that's the growth. If we can condense our schedule and do things more effectively and more efficiently, we can add more production onto the schedule. DAT- Kristy (17:20) Agree with you. again, too, in this day and age, a lot of people don't like taking a lot of time off work. So consider Tiffanie (17:27) Yeah. DAT- Kristy (17:27) doing more on your patient while they're there. Give them give them the choice, you know, let them decide. Are you the type of patient that likes to do what more in one treatment, you know, or do you Tiffanie (17:39) Yeah. DAT- Kristy (17:39) want to come more frequently? Tiffanie (17:41) Yeah, and that goes into your being able to say yes to the treatment. I think that's a that's a space as well because if you come at me with like two, three, four appointments, I might be like overwhelmed by the idea and not want to start anything because I can't finish it. And if DAT- Kristy (17:57) Yeah. Tiffanie (17:58) my schedule is too difficult to envision being able to finish all of these appointments in a timely manner, I might just back away and say, you know what, I'm not ready to start anything because I can't figure out how to do it all. DAT- Kristy (18:09) Yep, agree with you, Tiff. And lastly, I think I hear a lot of doctors say, All my patients are so healthy. All my patients Tiffanie (18:16) Yes. DAT- Kristy (18:17) are so healthy. And I I truly think that that's a huge missed opportunity too. It's a great time to take a step back and just say, Hey, what are your long-term goals for your teeth? And maybe now that you've repaired damage in my mouth or gotten rid of infection, this is a perfect time to talk about the cosmetic things that a lot of doctors Tiffanie (18:37) Wonderful thing. DAT- Kristy (18:37) love doing, right? Tiffanie (18:39) Yep, I had that conversation with two or three doctors just last week that I do we hear that constantly, right? Well, I need new patients because my patients are healthy. That's fantastic because what if you could do really fun work on healthy patients? There's ortho, right? And ortho, I love when when practitioners look at ortho as a way to prevent future issues, right? So if you're misaligned, especially the lower anterior. Always right. There's always something there. So it's perio, it's chip teeth in the future, it's losing teeth. Like, how can we help how can ortho become a preventative measurement? And then to your point, cosmetics, whitening. My fiance just asked me the other night. Like he hasn't talked to his dentist at all about it, but he's got two, he's got an implant with a crown and he's got a crown. And they're discoloring. They're they're years old. They're probably like six years old at this point, right? And so they're discoloring. And he's like, What do I even do? Right? Thank goodness. I'm here and I I'm like, well, let me give you your options. You can do four, DAT- Kristy (19:46) Yeah. Tiffanie (19:46) six, eight. Let me tell you what I would do. Let me tell you who I would like all of these things. But he isn't talking to them about it. He's talking to me about it. So how many patients do we have that don't even have someone to talk to about it? They're just sitting there wondering. Could this be better and afraid to say something because it's an embarrassing or confusing or an unknown? Like so many things hold us back. DAT- Kristy (20:13) Yeah, it's crazy. A lot of my clients have heard this story, but the same thing happened with my mother-in-law. Like literally Tiffanie (20:19) Yeah. DAT- Kristy (20:20) when I was in practice, you know, family would come, but she went somewhere with her friends and she saw somebody with a beautiful smile. And next thing you know, she's going to their dentist. Yeah, she came back. Tiffanie (20:30) Yeah. DAT- Kristy (20:32) But my doctors were like, What the heck? And I'm like, But you never asked or showed the possibilities, you know. So don't Tiffanie (20:36) Yeah. Yeah. DAT- Kristy (20:39) forget about your healthy patients. Like, take that step back. And this is a perfect time to discover is there anything you don't like about your smile, you know. Tiffanie (20:47) Yeah. I love that you gave that a story because my fiance literally asked me, Who would I need to go to? Is that something that insert his dentist name can do? And I was like, Wow, this is wild. This is wild. And DAT- Kristy (21:03) Yeah. Tiffanie (21:04) so I've had so many people, I'm in Phoenix, right? We're both in Phoenix, right? So Scottsdale DAT- Kristy (21:08) Yeah. Tiffanie (21:09) is right around the corner, right? Just DAT- Kristy (21:11) Mm-hmm. Tiffanie (21:11) a little a little twenty-five to forty-five minute drive, depending on where you are in the valley. Everyone thinks you have to go to Scottsdale for cosmetic treatment, right? I DAT- Kristy (21:21) Yeah. Tiffanie (21:22) can't get whitening, I can't get veneers. If I'm going to get veneers, right? We have people and legitimately there are a lot of dentists there, a lot of dentists everywhere who do great work. Scottsdale and LA. People fly in from other states to get dentistry done in Scottsdale and LA because they think that's where they have to go. His people don't know. He's worked with he's been a patient at this practice since he had the emergency situation with his front teeth. DAT- Kristy (21:51) Well. Tiffanie (21:52) And he's like, should I go to him? And I'm like, I can't speak to his work, but I can say he he does them. You know, DAT- Kristy (21:58) Yeah. Tiffanie (21:59) so it's like you just don't know what you don't know. And so if we're not having those conversations, I think that's a massive space of growth. And if you're not someone who loves to do that, fine. What do you love to do? You know, how many missing teeth are there? Do you like bridges? Do you like implants? Do you like how many missing teeth are within your recare? How many missing teeth are coming down the pipeline of patients that are in your database? DAT- Kristy (22:25) One hundred percent. And or even maybe you've added new services to your service mix that even your existing patients don't know you're doing. Tiffanie (22:33) Yeah, yeah. I agree. And it doesn't have to be Botox, fillers, threads. Like you don't have to be DAT- Kristy (22:37) Right. Yeah. Tiffanie (22:40) like, okay, well, I've tapped out my crowns and my fillings. Like I've gotta offer these other things. If you want to offer it, great, do it. But if it's not like a desire that you have to be this aesthetic dentist in that capacity, don't do it. You don't have to do all on force. Find something that you love. that you can add to your service mix or something that's within your service mix to Kristy's point that your patients just don't even know that's there. DAT- Kristy (23:09) Yeah. And lastly to wrap it, Tiff, I think so many people don't realize tapping into their own patients to earn that growth, like through social media and that sort of reviews, referrals, you know what I mean? Like give your patients a reason to refer and and even talk about you. Like bring that presence around so your existing patients can share why they love you and others will follow them. Tiffanie (23:38) Yeah. Yeah. Don't be the dentist that your patients are like, I don't know if they're accepting new patients or not. Let me call and find out. Like, no, just let them call and find out. So I agree. DAT- Kristy (23:46) Yeah. Tiffanie (23:47) I agree. I think fee schedule increases. So if you haven't done them recently within the last year, do it. I do love the idea of moving that to the summer or whatever your slow period is. If you're a pediatric dentist, don't do it in the summer. and then looking at service mixes, so what can you do more of? And looking at your schedule and making sure that you're utilizing as much time as you possibly can and that this that the schedule makes sense. I love that. DAT- Kristy (24:14) Agree with you and don't forget that reactivation. Tiffanie (24:17) Activation, that was the other one. Yeah. Don't forget those 19,000 patients that are sitting in your database somewhere. So, yes, I love DAT- Kristy (24:21) Yeah. Tiffanie (24:23) that. Kristy, these were phenomenal ideas. Thank you so much. thank you for DAT- Kristy (24:27) Absolutely. Tiffanie (24:28) making it easy. Thank you for helping so many clients. And for our listeners, if you need some Kristy wisdom, you need some Dental A Team help, please reach out. We're always here. Hello@TheDentalATeam.com or TheDentalATeam.com website. You can sign up for a quick free consultation as well to see if what ideas we have. It doesn't mean you're signing up. It just means hey, tell me, tell me what are some ideas that you guys have. 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