Calm the Chaos

In this episode of "Calm the Chaos," we explore the importance of transitioning mindfully from work to personal time and how it contributes to our overall well-being. We discuss practical strategies for creating a sacred transition and share insights on the benefits of reflection, gratitude, and aligning with personal values during this process. This episode features a ten-minute guided meditation to help listeners unwind from the day's stresses and ease into their personal time with a sense of peace and purpose. Key Points Understanding the significance of transitioning from work to personal time for mental health and work-life balance. Exploring practical strategies for creating a peaceful transition, including reflection, gratitude, and alignment with personal values. Highlighting the benefits of mindfulness practices and guided meditation in promoting relaxation and inner peace. Providing listeners with actionable steps to incorporate mindfulness into their daily routines and enhance their transition from work to personal time. Featured Meditation: Title: Peaceful Transition Meditation Duration: 10 minutes Description: A guided meditation to help listeners unwind from the stresses of the day, release tension, and transition mindfully into their personal time. The meditation encourages reflection, gratitude, and aligning with personal values to create a sense of peace and purpose. Conclusion: As we navigate the complexities of modern life, the way we transition from work to personal time plays a crucial role in our overall well-being. By incorporating mindfulness practices and guided meditation into our daily routines, we can cultivate inner peace, reduce stress, and create a more balanced and fulfilling life. Links and Resources Let's connect for your free 60-minute 1:1  Discovery session please click on the link below!   Discovery Session with Deborah  My website   Free Worksheets!   Read this blog post on Sixty and ME!   I look forward to connecting with you!    

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it's easy to lose sight of our true passion and purpose. For women in midlife, this can be a particularly challenging time as we navigate transitions and reflect on where our journey has led us. If you find yourself yearning to reconnect with what truly sets your soul on fire, this guided meditation is for you. The Journey Within Close your eyes and imagine yourself in a serene garden, surrounded by vibrant blooms and the soothing sounds of nature. This garden represents the landscape of your inner world – a place where your deepest desires and aspirations reside. As you wander through this metaphorical garden, allow yourself to explore the essence of each flower. What stirs your soul? What ignites a spark of joy within you? Trusting Your Intuition During your exploration, remember that the journey is not a race. It's essential to take your time and trust your intuition and guidance. Allow yourself the space to delve deep into your innermost desires and dreams. Embrace the process of self-discovery with patience and compassion, knowing that each step you take brings you closer to your authentic self. Cultivating Clarity and Purpose As you connect with the flowers that resonate most deeply with your soul, envision yourself fully embracing your passion and purpose. Feel the excitement and fulfillment that comes from living in alignment with your true self. Know that it is never too late to pursue your dreams and create the life you desire. Closing Thoughts As you emerge from this guided meditation, carry with you a sense of empowerment and inspiration. Trust in the journey ahead, knowing that your passion and purpose are always within reach. Remember, you are a radiant being with infinite potential. Embrace the beauty of your uniqueness and allow it to shine brightly in the world. Take a moment to honor yourself for embarking on this journey of self-discovery. Know that by nurturing your passions and embracing your purpose, you are not only enriching your own life but also inspiring those around you to do the same. In the gentle whispers of the wind and the fragrant blooms of the garden, may you find solace, clarity, and the courage to pursue your dreams with unwavering determination. Embrace your passion. Embody your purpose. The journey begins within. If you are interested in connecting for your free 60-minute 1:1  Discovery session please click on the link below!   Discovery Session with Deborah  My website   Free Worksheets!   I look forward to connecting with you!  

Edwige Gilbert is a transformational  Guide and Founder of New Life Directions.  She helps others to reinvent their lives and creates fresh starts driven by a purposeful vision. As an international speaker and author of "The Fresh Start Promise" and" Victim to Victorious", Edwige turns stress into success by clearing unwanted habits and behaviors, creating self-confidence and exuberant enjoyment of life, or as she calls it in French, "Joie de Vivre" Growing up in Cannes, France Edwige grew up being raised by her grandmother who was preoccupied with her well-being and stopped her by not allowing her to take chances. She interpreted that as being incapable and having a low level of confidence.   Later, she joined her parents in New York City.  In addition to this message and the stress of moving, she turned to emotional eating.  As a result, she gained 30 lbs so during this time she moved to work on her internal journey.  Through her exploration, she acquired many certifications including life coach and hypnotherapist.  During this time, she lost weight.  It was a result of finding a safe place within herself.   Edwige walks us through what she has learned including her stress exercises which can be done driving or in a meeting.  This exercise gives you the space to be neutral instead of going into a reactionary state We discuss both of her books:  Transform Stress into Success and Victim to Victorious!    We start by coming from a place of awareness.   What do I think? What is my awareness?  How am I talking to myself? Besides positive affirmations to ourselves, Edwige stresses the importance of using positive imagery as well when tackling your goal.   It's time to shift from hurt to heart, should choose, can to can, and have to desire!  You can then feel the softness of the words and the emotions it creates.   At the end of the day, count your victory instead of your defeat!   Our journey starts with self-awareness!  Where am I? How do I feel? What's going on in my life?  Take the time for self-reflection without judgment.     Links and Resources  Connect with Edwige Gilbert   Watch  and try the Dexxtra Technique  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Need a new resume? Connect with me for your Resume Audit here  Leave the work to me! Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Priscilla Long is a Seattle Based writer, poet, and longtime independent teacher of writing. She is the author of seven books to date and numerous publications in literary journals. She grew up on a dairy farm on the eastern shores of Maryland attending Moravian Seminary for Girls and Antioch College in Yellow Springs, Ohio.   She writes science, poetry, history, creative nonfiction, essays, and fiction. Priscilla lives in the Seattle area and serves as the founding and consulting editor of Historylink.org which is a free online encyclopedia for Washington State History  Today we are discussing her book:  Dancing with The Muse in Old Age.   What you'll learn in our conversation  Priscilla wrote this book not only for herself but for everyone over the age of forty! Shy of turning 80, she wanted to approach this new era proactively with information and knowledge of science.  Priscilla wanted to draw from people who were thriving, creating, and connecting in their communities. In writing this book, Priscilla learned a lot about the science of aging gracefully which involved cognitive development v ( which works the same in children as in older individuals ) and movement. As a result, she now bonds with her fit bit and makes sure to get regular exercise.   Throughout the book, there are many people cited who are in the 70,80, 90's who are continuing to put to use their creativity and/or learning something new in the arts!  Helping with cognitive creative development.  Priscilla gives us several inspiring examples from the book of some famous and not-so-famous people who are active, learning, and creative!  You can also express your creativity in different ways by gardening, cooking, social justice, and community involvement.   The models that Priscilla shares in the book are inspiring and follow their dreams right up to the end of their life.  Even when they run into limitations they continue to find a way to contribute in the best way possible. We discussed Angela Glendening who didn't feel that she had any “creativity” in her body but knew she was good at supporting the underdog. She picked a mission to support and that became her passion and purpose.  A great story!   When you do choose what to do, there will be a community around it and you will make connections and start meeting like-minded people.  This will help your overall health and wisdom.  Is it possible to be more proactive in composing one's life towards flourishing? Links and Resources Connect with Priscilla Long  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Need a new resume? Connect with me for your Resume Audit here  Leave the work to me! Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook  

Kamini Wood is a certified professional coach who helps people take the courageous steps to identify their limiting beliefs, the reasons for their stagnation, or feelings of not-enoughness, so they can have what they want professionally and personally to live a fulfilled life. She is the creator of AuthenticMe® and CEO of Live Joy Your Way, a coaching company helping individuals shake free of their fears, unhelpful mindsets and behaviors in order to have healthy relationships and move forward on the professional path they choose. Kamini herself has gone from a people-pleasing, perfectionist, holding herself back by playing small into someone who recognizes her worth and sees that by embracing it she can create room for others to do the same. She is a best-selling author, and holds specialty certifications in various modalities including life, wellness, teen life, conscious uncoupling, calling in the one, new money story, breathwork, meditation and diversity, equity inclusion and belonging. She is also trained in conscious parenting and coaching for children. Here is what you will learn from my conversation with Kamini  Kamini went through her own self-transformation. She realized that she could take her personal experiences with her business acumen and service people from a coaching perspective.   With formal training, she is now servicing her clients and living her true authentic life!  The importance of relational self-awareness  The Concept of self-compassion and self-forgiveness  We don't need to be carbon copies of one another! We can come into our true selves and then beautiful things will start to happen!  How to deal with imposter syndrome which we all face from time to time!   We have the ability to control our narrative and challenge our beliefs about ourselves.   Resources and Links   Connect with Kamini Wood  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Need a new resume? Connect with me for your Resume Audit here  Leave the work to me! Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Alice Inoue is an award-winning author and life expert who has dedicated her life to helping others find answers to life challenges. Alice has created a great number of books on self-love and happiness and allowed herself to grow more through her long-running column in Hawaii's largest publication, Midweek. Alice's multiple exposure living in places such as San Francisco, Taiwan, Japan, and now Hawaii definitely led her to this wonderful path in guiding others through their journey of life and now has established Happiness U – a business with a heartwarming purpose for organizations and individuals who are seeking unprecedented clarity. Her capability of translating languages in English, Chinese and Japanese do not only resonate in linguistics itself. It potentially connects one energy to another being and allows us to answer our purpose in the progress of self-transformation, may it be personal or professional. This episode will surely allow our growth to cross-pollinate with other aspects in life — starting a business, building a relationship with other people, touching base with our clients or even just loving ourselves.   Let's take a look at what Alice shared on this episode! Her journey from living an unhappy life to finding happiness  Finding aspects such as strengths and purpose in people's lives that they didn't know they had Establishing the curriculum of Happiness U by defining ‘purpose' and ‘happiness' that originally didn't exist in the life of Alice Acknowledging the challenges that one faces but still learning one's purpose and serving values that are beneficial towards our growth Series of questions that Alice asks to clarify one's purpose: Where do you nurture others in your life on a daily basis? Where do you provide structured discipline? Where are you a connector, an ambassador, a cross-pollinator? Where do you connect people to people, places, and services? Where are you a catalyst for change in others? While we fuel ourselves up in finding our purpose with endless opportunities, we also have the ability to make these with the greatest love, heartfelt love, and powerful principles of life.  Alice challenges us to consistently use one minute of our morning. Sit, close our eyes, take three deep breaths and ask ourselves: what do we need today? As we ask ourselves this question, answers in finding ourselves will follow through with enough desire and attention – indeed Happiness. How about U? Find out more about how Happiness U leaves an indelible mark in the lives of people by having numerous training, classes, sessions, and programs. May it be mastering many facets of change, increasing energy for greater productivity, using the power of body language, or thriving during shifting times, allowing Happiness U to become part of your life.  LINKS AND RESOURCES: Connect with Alice Grab Alice's Destination to Happiness here Alice's Special gift to listeners  here  Attend classes in Happiness U Connect with Deborah Voll Take the Midlife Quiz Need a new resume? Connect with me for your Resume Audit here  Leave the work to me! Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook  

In November, Cassie Christopher and I presented a live workshop titled, How to set intentions for the holidays and into 2023!   We had wonderful participation during the event and thought it would be helpful to play you a recording of the workshop AND give you access to the accompanying worksheet! Just in case you missed it live, you haven't missed the content!  Cassie Christopher has been on the podcast before and is a registered dietitian nutritionist who supports her community to break free from the all-or-nothing diet mentality! Who couldn't use that when entering the holidays?  She has helped over 100 women eat with joy in her Courage to Trust Method where you create a supportive relationship with food, your body, and your health.   Since we are both coaches we wanted to bring to you during this season an opportunity to create some self-care for yourself around the holidays!   This was the perfect partnership and I  hope you enjoy the training and take a moment to click the link to access the worksheet!  In this training, you will  Brainstorm   what's important for you this holiday season  Identify your top three intentions  List the steps for your top intention to create movement and confidence! Ask yourself, Why is this intention important to you?  Who will hold you accountable?  How will you create space in your day/week to focus on your intention?    Links and Resources  Connect with Cassie Christopher Grab the Worksheet for you to complete!   Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Need a new resume? Connect with me for your Resume Audit here  Leave the work to me! Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Meghan is a Doctor of Physical Therapy with over 19 years of experience treating patients with a multitude of diagnoses, injuries, surgeries, and medical complications to help them achieve their optimal mobility and functional ability. She's worked with all sorts of people - whether it be kids with a sprained ankle, or their moms with lingering post partum pains. Meghan also likes to think of herself as one of her patients. She acknowledges that everyone has flare ups and pains once in a while, but the long term solution to that is not giving your body more rest, rather engaging it in more movements. Of course, almost everyone has busy lives, but Meghan encourages making little adjustments in your life to combat your joint and pain issues - like multitasking when you're on a walk, or fixing your computer alignment while you're sitting at your desk, or carving out just an hour in the day for active movement.  Meghan is extremely passionate about moving the body and working the muscles. With that, she's found another passion: Yoga. She managed to find the right community and instructor that made her feel empowered, push her limits, and also quiet her to-do lost brain.  Now, she is on a mission to teach people about their joint pain so they can live the active, pain-free life they want. Meghan has developed How to Move Without Pain to reach more people who want to live, work, and be active without joint pain and strain holding them back. She's even in the process of developing a program - Bone Boost - to help people with osteoporosis engage in the right types of movement and work all parts of their body!  What we discussed:  As we age, it's important to be consistent with movements instead of just doing them abruptly for a couple of months and then stopping. As our muscles, fibers, and overall flexibility changes, Our bodies need to get used to the movement, it has to feel lived in, instead of just a binge of movement.    General movements like walking, stretching, or swimming is key to loosening up the tightness in your body and soothing those irritated muscles.  The difference between hurt and harm - what are the short-term and long-term pains and irritations? What is the pain threshold like for each of them, and what can we do to identify and curb these sorts of issues? It may be counterintuitive, but the way to get your body to get over soreness and pain is not to sit down and rest more, but to move!  Osteoporosis is something that you cannot feel, and you aren't aware of when it's happening. So, it's important to ask yourself: What's my balance like? How strong am I?. Although you may not be able to identify your degrading bones, you can control the types of movements you do and make adjustments to your lifestyle to counteract those issues.  Strength training coupled with mobility exercises are key to controlling osteoporosis. Meghan is developing a program for people to follow, which incorporates a diverse basket of exercises for controlling osteoporosis!  Using your muscles will work wonders for you! Staying still is detrimental. We talked about her online community. Meghan publishes an informative article every week about things that her patients normally ask her, like “what's a rotator cuff?”. She aims to make it informative, but also relatable! She also publishes an email newsletter on Tuesdays and Fridays. Meghan's Timed Loaded Standing Test measures the time a person can stand while holding their arms straight out in front of them, holding 2lb dumbbells. Set Timer for 30 seconds!  How many can you do?  How to do the test: Stand tall with feet hip-width apart while holding 2lb weights Hold weights out in front of you, elbows straight with thumbs up and hands at shoulder height. As soon as the arms are out straight, the timer starts. When the weights can no longer be held out, the timer stops. This test is a great way to know your back and upper body strength and endurance. This test can be very helpful as a starting place and then work to increase the time, especially in the years when osteoporosis is a concern. Meghan's community is growing day by day, with more and more people getting empowered to be consistent with moving their bodies!  Links and Resources: Connect with Meghan Griech Follow Meghan Griech  on Instagram Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Need a new resume? Connect with me for your Resume Audit here  Leave the work to me! Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

  Ann Richardson is a writer who believes that life is full of serendipity, which makes it more fun. Ann Richardson's recent book, The Granny who Stands on Her Head, comprises a series of reflections on growing older but also includes some stories from her life. She has written numerous other books, including one about the people who provide hospice care and one about being a grandmother. Ann was born in Washington, D.C., USA, grew up in New York City and has lived with her husband in London, England since 1968. Ann and her husband have two grown-up children and two grandsons. When she needed to find part-time work when her first child was a baby, Ann discovered a love of qualitative social research. Although she has loved writing ever since childhood, she never thought of trying to become a writer when she was young, because she felt she did not have enough to say. She also needed to support her husband, while he was doing a PhD. Much later, she gained a PhD herself. Her career in research involved interviews and focus groups with a wide spectrum of situations and people, including people with learning difficulties and carers for the elderly but also many others. She wrote numerous books and articles from her research and was always recognized as a good writer. Since retiring, she has chosen to write books on new topics as set out below.  This episode is definitely one for the books, especially for those people in the latter years of their lives, beginning to reflect both on their current lives and the coming of the end of life.  Ann likes to think about the what-ifs in life. Ann shared these amazing points in this episode! The story behind the three books she created before The Granny who Stands on Her Head Wise Before Their Time: Ann became close friends with a man with AIDS who was organizing a conference of people with AIDS; she carried out interviews there and put these together into this book. Life in a Hospice: Ann worked in a hospice as a volunteer and realized how strange it was to look after people who were dying. She carried out a series of interviews with people working in hospice care about the nature of their work and its impact on their lives. Celebrating Grandmothers: After she became a grandmother herself, Ann thought it was so interesting that she decided to undertake a series of interviews with grandmothers about the positive and negative aspects of their lives. Ann was asked to write a series of blogs about grandmothers and other matters for an online women's magazine. While doing these, she started her journey in writing The Granny who Stands on Her Head.  This is about the nature of being old:  LINKS AND RESOURCES: Connect with Ann Richardson Buy Ann's The Granny who Stands on Her Head here Connect with Deborah Voll Take the Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Dami Roelse is a certified life coach, writer, and retired mental health provider. Born in Holland, Dami has traveled the world extensively, lived on different continents, and has learned to use her travel as inspiration for living. As she entered the 3rd phase of life Dami lost her life partner. She went for a long walk in the Himalayas to escape the reality of life without her life partner. This trek in a desolate wilderness at a high altitude gave her back her sense of belonging. You can read about Dami's spiritual quest and trek in the Himalayas in her book: “Fly Free, a memoir of love, loss, and walking the path”. Since then Dami uses long-distance hiking and backpacking as a means to deepen her connection with nature and the universe. Her book, "Walking Gone Wild, How to lose your age on the trail”, explores and explains walking, hiking, and backpacking as a means of re-invigorating life for women as they age. Interlaced with stories of real women who have built confidence through walking, it presents a new model of aging with vitality, grace, and a deepened connection to life. Aside from trekking in the Himalayas and Morocco, walking and hiking in Europe, Dami has hiked more than 2500 miles of the Pacific Crest Trail in the last 9 years. Dami writes about the benefits of walking, hiking, and backpacking for women50plus.  Dami shares the following Dami didn't start walking serious distances until the age of 65!  For her 65th birthday, Dami decided to “do something big”  like walk a length of the Pacific Crest Trail in Oregon which is the state she lived in at the time.  This summer  2022, Dami finished the last piece of the Pacific Crest Trail, 2,650 miles!  The entire journey took ten years and in the last stretch this summer she completed 180 miles at 75 years young! At the beginning of her journey, Dami had lost her husband and felt a bit disoriented and was wondering “who am I” and “what am I doing with my life”.  She was close to retirement. The trail gave her time to think and it was out on the trail that she discovered who she was.  She felt connected when she was out in nature.  For Dami, she found her place amongst the old-growth trees.   Dami says that her purpose is not to hike long distances but to really know herself and increase her awareness.  It's also to share the possibility of how to do that with other people, especially women. She enjoys coaching women on their “third phase of life”.  Through posting her travels within her Facebook group and website Dami has been an inspiration for women of all ages to do the same! When we get older we get set in our ways and it often becomes difficult to get out of our comfort zone and try new things.  Dami encourages us to go where we fear to live.  She shares how she was afraid of the desert and how a walk helped her to conquer that fear.  Break what you are fearful of and try it in smaller bite-size pieces to get a sense of what to expect and build your self-confidence!   Dami's book,  Walking Gone Wild,  shared stories about women who started walking and what it did for them in their journey.  She shares their stories and their “why” for walking.   Walking Women Fifty Plus Facebook group has over 3000 followers who are sharing their stories and offering encouragement and tips!   Dami shares some of her favorite hikes and the advantages of using walking poles. We leave you with a great challenge! Tune in for details.   Links and Resources Connect with Dami  Roelse  Connect with Walking Women 50 Plus Facebook Group Dami's Books  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Tracy McCubbin is the author of Making Space, Clutter Free: The Last Book On Decluttering You'll Ever Need (June 4th, 2019). She has always referred to herself as "Obsessive Compulsive Delightful," but who knew she could turn that trait into a booming business? While working for a major television director in Los Angeles, Tracy discovered she had the ability to see through any mess and clearly envision a clutter-free space. Coupled with keen time-management and organizational skills, Tracy soon found more and more people were asking her for help. Before she knew it, dClutterfly was born. Ten years and thousands of clients later, dClutterfly is Los Angeles' premier organizing and decluttering company. Tracy is a regularly featured expert on Hallmark's Home & Family, has a column on MindBodyGreen, and has regular declutter segments on Fox 5 and ABC Eyewitness News, KTLA Morning Show, KCAL9, and Good Day Sacramento. She and her company have also been featured in Real Simple, Women's Day, and ShopSmart. When not decluttering, she is the proud Co-Executive Director of OneKid OneWorld, a non-profit building strong educational foundations for children in impoverished communities throughout Kenya and Central America. She lives in Los Angeles and knows where her keys are.   In my discussion with Tracy, we discuss the following  Tracy didn't start dClutterfly until she was in her forties! It's never too late to discover your passion!   The Book, Making Space, Clutter Free:  The Last Decluttering book you'll ever need focuses on the seven emotional clutter blocks and why we feel stuck with our stuff!  Tracy shares ways to break free from these emotional clutter blocks!   After her first book, Tracy noticed that even after getting a space organized people were still bringing in “stuff” to their spaces.  There is this hole that is inside of us, something missing that we are needing to fill and unfortunately for most, we fill with things.  She then wrote the book, Make Space for Happiness which focuses on our clutter magnets!   The shopping and the stuff are not making us happier.  How can we make space for happiness?  We discuss that first step!   Tracy shares the first steps in working with a client in organizing and decluttering their space!  Words of wisdom that you too can incorporate when you are taking those first steps!  Decluttering is an emotional process and Tracy shares how to move past the emotion so you can feel the lift of having a clutter-free space. For items you have been gifted from a relative it's important to realize that someone else's history is not your history. Do you use it? Love it?  If not then it's time to pass it on to someone who will use and appreciate it!  We discuss inspirational stories to get you motivated to tackle your space!   Tracy shares her Senior Downsizing checklist and shares some of her top tips!   Are you ready for Tracy's challenge? Give a listen!    Resources and Links Connect with Tracy McCubbin Purchase Tracy's Books here  Grab the Senior Downsizing Checklist  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook  

Kurt Leichty is an Air Force combat veteran and former Police Officer. He has taken his training and experience from both of those worlds to create a fitness program for military members, cops, and firefighters. His certification is from the National Strength and Conditioning Association and is specifically designed for him to focus on these special populations of tactical athletes. He uses the same training for our heroes that he does for the public. This year, or early in 2023, Kurt will be opening a non-profit gym called MetaFit where the public can come train side by side with the heroes and learn to train like the heroes. I personally work with Kurt and he was able to help me build my confidence in the gym to lift free weights and tackle those intimidating machines!  Kurt is the real deal and works with clients both in person and virtually.  If you are on the fence about strength training, I encourage you to reach out to Kurt for support and motivation! I have definitely noticed a difference in my overall strength when in the garden, swimming, or riding my bike!   Here is what Kurt has to share in this episode!  It's important to lift heavy and be consistent to get results Women lifting heavy is the most efficient way to lose weight, burn more calories, and tone your body!  Lifting heavy can help with muscle strength and bone density.  As we age, this is a big concern because if we were to fall later in life we need bone density to heal!  Building muscle will cushion your bones so if you do fall, your bones are better protected from a potential break.   Kurt shares his journey and what inspired him to begin working with people and how he feels he is promoting goodness in the world.  When people focus on fitness and health then they are more positive, happier, and feel that they can accomplish more and go after their dreams! Kurt shares that in your strength training journey, by month two you will start to feel the difference in your strength, by month three you will see the difference in your body, and by month four, people will start noticing that something is different about you!  Why it's important to lift every day and how to rotate your strength training to accomplish this goal.  Why it's important for Kurt to have a nonprofit organization where the general public, police officers, and military members can work out together.    How to spice up your lifting program so it doesn't become dull How you can get your feet wet with your own routine by following Kurt on Instagram where he encourages and shares exercises for you to try!  All Kurt's links are in the show notes.    Why it's important to overestimate the amount of support you will need to accomplish your fitness goal and rally those around you to help, including your personal trainer.  Any of the money you pay for personal training with Kurt goes back into the programs and the building for the community in Utah.   Resources and Links Follow Kurt Liechty on Instagram Check out MetaFit Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Tania Vasallo is the founder of The Courage To Be Happy, a global community of high-achieving women entrepreneurs working to become financially empowered and independent. She also hosts Increase Your Income and Impact, her signature live event to help women expand their businesses and mindsets. Born to a Spanish father and an American mother and raised in Spain, Tania was constantly in search of freedom from a patriarchal society. She now specializes in transforming a mindset of lack to a mindset of abundance and prosperity so that her clients discover their own autonomy in their personal and financial choices. With her guidance, her last Money Magic Miracles cohort of 28 women made over one million dollars collectively in just eight weeks. Tania lives in Santa Fe, New Mexico, with her husband, daughter, and multiple pets. Tania shares her journey with money and how learning from her mistakes, she helps to empower women and work through their money mindset!  You will learn how to Take the first step in tackling  your money mindset Why it's important to get curious about how you handle money and how things happen What are our thoughts about money and how to shift the paradigm  What are your money “blocks” How to advocate your power with money Examine your beliefs surrounding money Steps to learning more about your money! Common mistakes that women make with money! What is a wealth account and how can it provide you freedom with money Grab Tania's free guide:  Women's Top Money Mistakes!  Link in the show notes.  Links and Resources  Connect with Tania Vasallo Grab Tania's Free Guide:  Women's Top Money Mistakes here   Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook  

Over the past five years, Mike and Kim Barnes found themselves navigating problems they never saw coming from their parents: Alzheimer's, pacemakers, COVID pneumonia, and the tough decision to move parents into retirement communities. They've learned to balance the many facets of parenting aging parents, including medical, financial, and everyday-life decisions, emotional rollercoasters, protecting their parents from scams, and more, all while parenting their college-age kids, and building their careers. Mike & Kim each spent 30 years on TV. Kim's TV career includes 15 years as an award-winning reporter and news anchor and Mike's includes 29 years as an award-winning sportscaster. They've realized that so many adult children go through the same trials with their parents, yet hardly anyone talks about it. Most struggle in silence. That's why they created a community to provide information, resources, and support. We are all aging gracefully including our parents! Now is the perfect time to get ahead of the game and start having conversations with our parents and children about not only the legal aspects of our estate but all the other pieces of our lives that we need to know in order to transition to being an advocate for our parents!   This information doesn't need to be a mystery!  If everything is summarized in one spot then it will make the journey smoother for everyone!   Mike and Kim have created a community,  Parenting Aging Parents where you can access information, resources, and a Facebook community so you are never alone.  Here is what we explore in this episode!   Mike and Kim share their journey as they navigate these waters with their parents!  You don't know what you don't know!   How to balance Kids, careers, and aging parents Navigating these waters with their parents has ensured that they have their “ducks in a row”  for their children.  We can be better prepared for our children! What are those practical questions everyone 40+ needs to ask their aging parents? Make sure you are on the same page with your siblings about expectations for your parents' well-being.  This can solve a lot of miscommunication and hurt feelings going down the road.   Besides the financial aspects do you know the passwords for the computer and bill paying sites?  If you had to step in on a moment's notice, would you be able to pay their bills for them? How to protect your parents from internet scams!  How to communicate to your parents how you are trying to help and give them a gift in helping.   How Mike and Kim are working towards making this community to the workplace.  As employees with aging parents, it's important to be informed and be prepared so employees are not worried about “what if”. It makes for a more productive employee!  Can you introduce Mike and Kim to your organization?   Where is the best place to go if you are wanting more information on helping your parents?  Go to their website:  https://parentingagingparents.com/   from there you can access the interviews, resources, and their handbook:  The Caregiver's Key   This information will help you to deal with the crisis at hand with your loved one and you won't be needing to scramble with all the other details of their lives as you'll have their booklet.  Resources and Links Connect with Parenting Aging Parents  Grab The Caregiver's Key Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Deb Johnstone is a professional speaker, writer, transformational coach, stylist, midlife transition mentor, and yoga teacher. She is the founder of  Women Reinventing MidLife and Transformational Pathways Australia. Deb is the creator of her signature program HER Rediscovery and the Women Reinventing MidLife Club. She's the host of the YouTube channel, WRM TV, and host of the WRM Summit Series where she supports women in the middle phase and beyond to rediscover themselves, build confidence and find new exciting directions. Deb shares the following  Her journey and how she hit a turning point in her life with the loss of her father.  For Deb, she lost her foundation, sense of identity, confidence, and motivation. Working through the grief process she experienced some “aha moments”  and shares those with the listeners.   Deb then shares her exploration process and how she rediscovered herself.  It was then that she created her Facebook community and then the summits were born!  As women in midlife, we have wisdom we have gained over the years. How do we utilize that wisdom to grow and possibly help others!   What was Deb's biggest lesson from the loss of her father and how that has impacted her life? As we nurture others do we run the risk of losing ourselves?   What is Women Reinventing Midlife?  It's Deb's group platform where she helps women rediscover who they are now and enable them to gain clarity of direction.   Deb shares details about the Women Reinventing Midlife Summit and how you can sign up for this free event that starts on July 25th, 2022!   Links and Resources Connect with Deb Johnstone  Sign up for the Women Reinventing Midlife Summit!  Link here  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook  

Emee Estacio is the Founder of The PAME Code. She is a chartered psychologist with over 20 years of experience in health, community, and positive psychology. Her passion is to help people embrace their true worth, so they can live happy and fulfilling lives. Throughout her academic, coaching, and research career, she has worked closely with individuals and communities to unlock their full potential using simple and easy to apply methods for limitless success in life. She is the #1 best-selling author of the "Psychology in Your Life" book series, including titles such as "The Imposter Syndrome Remedy", "Change Your Life for Good", and "Fear is Not My Enemy". She is also now helping aspiring authors fulfill their lifelong ambition to write and publish their own books with her flagship course, "Self-Publishing Made Simple". Emee shares with us the following How she made a major career pivot after the arrival of her son!  How that decision was in alignment with what she wanted to prioritize for not only herself but her child.  Great words of wisdom for anyone at a crossroads in life!   How she started to question her identity and went into a crisis where she was in a cyclone of feeling down, lethargic, and stuck in a cyclone of imposter syndrome and her own identity crisis.   Emme shares how with the support of people around her she was able to get the help she needed and shares how you can too!   How one friend reached out during this period of time threw her a lifeline and helped to get Emme the appropriate help.   It's OK to accept help when you need it!   How important it is to make a conscious decision and set the intention that you are going to take the steps to move forward.   It's not only important for ourselves but to be a role model to our children that it's ok to stop and take time for self-care It is normal to experience self-doubt when you are trying something new!   Emee's Tips for Dealing with Imposter Syndrome!   Ask yourself the following questions:  Is that true?  Is it logical?  Is it constructive? Do you have any evidence to support what you are thinking about yourself?   Emee gives a lot of great examples with some specific thoughts one may have while experiencing imposter syndrome!  Emee shares her business,  Self Publishing Made Simple!  She combines her expertise in psychology and self-publishing to help entrepreneurs to write and self-publish their stories!  She has created a community for coaching, community, and support.   The doors will be opening in the first part of July for her group program and you can connect with Emee in the show notes below!  Links and Resources Connect with Emee Estacio Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook  

Linda Ward is a Writer and Life Coach living in Minnesota. She specializes in helping mature women find everyday happiness and satisfying life. She zeroes in on life after divorce, retirement transitions, and finding courage no matter what the circumstances. Her inspiring new eBook is called, "Crazy Simple Steps to Feeling Happier. " Linda's Professional background is Social Work and Counseling. Linda shares how she came to write her book: Crazy Simple Steps to Feeling Happier and shares some of her favorites during our discussion!  Steps you can implement right now! No purchase necessary ( wink, wink)   During our conversation, Linda shared that it was through her own life circumstances that she found her inner courage. A difficult time where she had to dig deep to find and even surprised herself with how much courage she had in those times and still holds on to today!  Now Linda is passionate about helping others to find their inner courage!  Here is what else you will learn from our discussion We can often make finding happiness too complicated. It's really simple!  There are simple things you can do each day to lift your mood. Parenting adult kids can be agony and the first step is to let go and how you can transition into parenting adult children!  Courage is needed in everyday life!   Linda shares how she found her inner courage and how you can too!     Throughout Linda's experiences she has learned that even if life feels out of control, you can have the inner peace and courage to deal with it!   Resources and Links Connect with Linda Ward Linda's Book:  Crazy Simple Steps to Feeling Happier   Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

Jean Atman is a Consciousness Coach and Quantum Healer. Her greatest joy is to spark awakening and facilitate deep level healing in the collective. She has been called to reach beyond her beloved practice and is on a mission to assist in the ascension process on a grander scale.  Jean is passionate about sharing her wisdom, tips, and tools that have proven to be the most effective in influencing her journey as well as for her clients!  What You will learn in our conversation!  How to stop living on the basement floor and rise to a higher level of vibration!  You don't need to sit and suffer!  Rise from the basement to the PENTHOUSE!   The first step towards raising your vibration!  Things in the universe are happening FOR us!  Who are you surrounding yourself with each day? Are you surrounding yourself with others that can help you rise to the next floor?   You are more powerful than you think! What you are resisting is the exact thing you need to sit with right now! 2022 is a powerful year for purging and letting go! How do we “uplevel”  and drop things off?  Letting go of old belief systems, pain, and hurt How does our subconscious mind hold all the old belief systems? Jean shares her group coaching program Limitless she will be launching on June 21st you are pop over to her website and check out!   Links and Resources  Connect with Jean Atman  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Cassie Christopher is a Registered Dietitian, Emotional Eating Expert, and owner of Cassie Christopher Health Coaching. She has a Master's degree in Nutrition and specializes in helping women in midlife and beyond find the Courage to Trust themselves around food. She helps women stop the cycle of all-or-nothing dieting that leads to numbing emotions with food so they can develop a supportive relationship with food, their body, and their health, so they can eat with joy instead of eating to seek joy. Cassie shares why an “all or nothing”  dieting causes women to struggle and that compassion for ourselves is the answer!  She has definitely turned her pain and life experiences toward helping others and has created a program to support her community!  In my conversation with Cassie, we explore the following Food is not the problem (  and neither are you )  It's time to start listening to your body. It will provide you the clues so you can make choices that support you instead of numbing out and restricting your foods!  How to learn to have courage and trust surrounding food. How to “debrief”  after a situation where we have lost control or sense of “will power”.  What you can do instead of stress eating and how to calm your cravings! How to jump off the dopamine wagon with certain foods!   The Four Pillars of the Courage and Trust Method Calming the Nervous System Self Compassion Listening to Ourselves  Cassie shares her free resource:  You're Done with Dieting but still want to heal emotional eating”  with the Calm the Chaos community!  The link to this resource is in the show notes!   Resources and Links  Connect with Cassie Christopher Debbie photo: https://cassiechristopher.net/about-me/#deb "You're Done Dieting but Still Want to Heal Emotional Eating": cassiechristopher.net/free Courage to Trust Method: https://cassiechristopher.net/courage-to-trust-method/ Book a free Compassionate Clarity Call with me: https://cassiechristopher.as.me/compassionate-clarity  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook  

My guest this week is Sheree Clark, a Midlife Courage Coach who calls her practice Fork in the Road. Sheree says she became a courage coach because she believes “it takes guts to live the second half of your life for you when you've lived the first half for everyone else.” Sheree has written and presented on topics ranging from managing regrets and finding your passion to overcoming career burnout. A serial entrepreneur, Sheree owned a successful advertising agency for over 25 years before pivoting to become a life coach when she was in her 50s. But Sheree didn't abandon the creativity of the advertising world when she started her coaching practice. She's well-known for her fun talks and presentations as well as the unique exercises she's developed to help clients in achieving their goals. In her personal time, Sheree enjoys spending time in her art deco home which has been featured in a variety of publications. Sheree and her Maine Coon cat Lotus also work on their yoga poses. Here are some things that Sheree shares with the listeners!  If you want something different for yourself you can absolutely have it! No matter what anyone else says, including the voice in your head!  Unhappiness or unmet potential is one area of your life that steals the joy from other areas of your life.  One thing you need to have in to be able to make changes or shifts in what you really want is courage. Courage can be created, renewed, and even borrowed.  At any given moment we are all at a Fork in the Road.  Sometimes it's a big decision or smaller choices that are just as important.  It takes guts to live the second have of your life! Especially when you've lived the first half for everyone else.   Trust the messages you get. They come through to you at any time.  Tune in and be present to yourself.   Links and Resources  Connect with Sheree Clark Link to Sheree Clark Summit:  Why Midlife is a Time for Action! Link here Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

  Juggling life for years led Daniela Sulek to hit a wall. Her entire way of life and being changed when what she now calls “humaning” led to her developing serious illnesses while pregnant with her third child, and almost cost her her life. With her “play your way through life” philosophy, she now helps renowned yet unfulfilled leaders move into a permanent state of ease, joy, and passion. By transcending from the conditioned human to the consciousness of their true self, they shift into effortlessly creating by being, instead of creating by doing.    Daniela has been on the show before and is returning to share more wisdom about how to function at a higher level of consciousness! In our conversation, here is what you will learn How you can get off the bus of doing and start being in life!  How you can find a deeper sense of joy, peace, and passion in your days When you let go of the controlling and planning then you can find the joy in life! Anxiety and stress are a result of human conditioning Life is happening FOR YOU, not to you.   Tips on how you can begin to get into a state of being and some challenges for you to accept!     Maybe you are missing the joy and passion in your life and need to get off the bus and start BEING!  I invite you to reach out to me and schedule your free clarity call to discuss what's holding you back!   Resources and Links Connect with Daniela Sulek Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Julie Morgenstern is one of the leading experts on organization, business productivity, and time management. The author of six best-selling books, a consultant to large corporations, and a sought-after speaker, Morgenstern has appeared on Oprah, The Today Show, and NPR's Fresh Air and helped thousands of people transform their homes, businesses, and attitudes about every kind of clutter. The New York City-based Julie Morgenstern Enterprises has been successfully in business for over 30 years. What  You'll Learn This book will help you clear the clutter for good!  Julie takes a different approach by using the SHED process. Moving beyond throwing things out and walks you thru the pitfalls of decluttering Declutter is identifying what's obsolete and no longer serves you Organizing is designing systems that make  you more efficient where you are right now SHED stands for  Separate the Treasures Heave the Trash Embrace your Identity Drive yourself Forward Finding your Theme:  What is your big picture?  What do you want to express or experience in the future?  What do you need to let go of and where are you heading? Points of Entry!   Clutter is not junk!  Clutter is an attachment to something you are struggling to release. Ask yourself what does it represent?  Go in with love and tenderness for yourself.   Being in the present moment!   You can also use this process to evaluate your commitments,  schedule, and habits!   Resources Julie Morgenstern's Website here Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

I recently had the opportunity to join Dr. Melissa Bordogna in her weekend event the Epic Self Project for Midlife!  This was a wonderful opportunity to connect with those that were looking for inspiration in a variety of topics from experts in their field.   With my expertise being in career and life coaching, I guided the participants into the importance of identifying your theme when moving into your next chapter!  We had a great discussion and wanted to give you the opportunity to hear it on the podcast!   For this discussion, I created a worksheet that you can access on my website:  https://www.deborahvoll.com.   Go to the Work with Me tab and click on the workbook.  You will see it offered mid-page!  Here are some of the reasons you will want to tune in this week for our discussion!  How creating an overarching theme for your next chapter is so important and how it will help you to stay focused on your “end goal” for your life!  I share my Theme for this next chapter and give examples on how I hold myself accountable towards that theme and how you can too!  What is the first step in this process?  What stories have we been telling ourselves what type of excuses have we been giving ourselves in moving forward? The tool for unlocking your inner desires Ideas on how you can hold yourself accountable towards your vision and theme How to step into the action and the doing!   How to show more compassion towards yourself in this process. I hope you will take the time to download your worksheet and complete it for yourself! If you begin working on the worksheet and feel that you need to be gently challenged to move forward, please reach out to me. I would love to be able to help you start this journey!  Resources and Links Connect with Deborah Voll Identifying Your Theme for Your Next Chapter Worksheet Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Grab Your Free Clarity Session today!  

 Diana Raab, Ph.D. is a memoirist, poet, blogger, thought-provoker, and award-winning author of ten books, including four poetry collections, including her latest, Lust. She blogs for Psychology Today, The Wisdom Daily, Thrive Global, Sixty and Me, and many others. Her most recent nonfiction book is Writing for Bliss. She teaches workshops on writing for healing and transformation. Her poetry chapbook, “An Imaginary Affair,” is forthcoming by Finishing Line Press Diana begins our discussion by sharing how she began her journey of journaling at a young age and that a tragic loss prompted the gift of a journal.   During our interview, we talk about the writing process and how to use writing to express our thoughts, gain insight into our emotions, and use it to heal to move forward.  We dive into these other discussions and Diana shares her insight on How to create rituals prior to writing and how that helps  you to get focused and grounded for the work you are yet to begin We dive into why storytelling unites us as humans How storytelling can be presented in your story to capture all the senses of the reader. How to find your true voice as a writer Why you would want to write a LOVE Letter to yourself!   How you can write for your emotional truth What if you want to write about others? What's the best way to handle those types of situations.  How being fearful of writing something will dappen your creative process! Just go for it and write that first draft! At the end of the interview, Diana leaves us with a fun challenge so get out your pen and paper!   Resources and Links Connect with Diana Raab  Writing for Bliss the Book   Conversation Card here Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Stephanie Raffelock is the author of Creatrix Rising, Unlocking the Power of Midlife Women. She also penned the award-winning book, A Delightful Little Book of Aging A graduate of Naropa University's program in writing and poetics, Stephanie was a contributor to the Rogue Valley Messenger in Oregon. She has blogged for Nexus Magazine, Omaha Lifestyles, Care2.com, as well as SixtyandMe.com  A recent transplant to Austin, Texas Stephanie enjoys an active life with her husband, Dean, and their Labrador retriever Mickey Mantle Raffelock.  For Stephanie, writing is an encore career!   Stephanie is passionate about her work and sees midlife as a bridge from one part of your life to another.  What we have seen in society over the years is the message that when you hit midlife, you're done!  Stephanie is here to say that this messaging is not true!  Not only are women finding their voices, but they are also raising them!  This has become her work, to write about women and aging. How we see ourselves as we age and how we get stuck in the stereotypes of aging and how to break free from those stories!  We begin by discussing her book, Creatrix Rising!  Creatrix comes from the three Greek fates.  There was the spinner, the weaver, and the cutter. The weaver was the creatrix.  The word means a woman who makes things.  Stephanie felt that was a great word for what happens to us in midlife as we move out of the motherhood phase ( whether or not we've had children) We can then move into a phase of creativity.  We become women who make things, whether that's leadership, gardening, or cooking.  Creatrix is a positive archetype that gives power and empowerment to women at midlife.   Stephanie shares one-story in her book about a woman named Austin. Austin lived life to the fullest until the very end.  She knew what it was to be a woman who makes things and never stopped.  She goes on to share that women need to reassure themselves in life that they grow psychologically and spiritually until the day they die. There is no endpoint!  We just need to change the way we talk to ourselves and how we perceive ourselves moving forward.   Our discussion continues to focus on the importance of staying curious and having gratitude in our life.  Stephanie feels that you grow old the day you stop feeling impassioned by the things you love and what you stand for in life.  We discuss a lot about how important mindset is moving forward into this next chapter and how we need to treat ourselves kindly and be careful on how we speak to ourselves! Perhaps look in the mirror each day and tell yourself, “hello gorgeous!  You got this! “.  What a beautiful way to start the morning!   Resources and Links Connect with Stephanie Raffelock Blog Article: We Matter at Every Age   Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

 You are listening to Episode 112 of Calm the Chaos! In this episode, I am sharing an interview where I was the invited guest with  Nicole Christina from the Zestful Aging podcast!   It was a lot of fun!  Nicole has been a psychotherapist for over 30 years and has her own podcast: The Zestful Aging Podcast.  In her interview with me on Calm the Chaos, we talked about what is Zestful Aging, why are we here, and what type of legacy we will leave behind.   Today on her show, I am sharing my journey with my book, The Tell-All Guide to Airbnb Hosting, and the lessons I have learned about myself and others!  If you are considering ways to make some extra money and you've been thinking about short-term renting in your home or on the site then this is a great episode as I share my experiences!   If you are not interested in hosting then perhaps you use the Airbnb site as a guest?  This interview will also give you some insight on how to be the perfect guest on this type of platform.    Either way, fasten your seat belt because we take you on a journey!  In this interview, you will also get to know me better and how I continue to reinvent myself after the age of forty and continue to expand my horizons!   It's important to stay curious and take a step if you are interested in learning more about something. You never know where the path will lead once you put yourself in motion!   Resources and Links Connect with Nicole Christina Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here  My Author Page to learn more about my Book 

Daniel Mangena is an International Speaker, Best-Selling Author, Broadcaster, and Coach. He is best known for his highly successful Micro2Millions program, being the author of Stepping Beyond Intention and his Do it With Dan and Beyond Success podcasts. He is completely self-made and has spent decades perfecting his world-class coaching methodology. His mission statement: “To spearhead an evolutionary uplift in universal consciousness, by awakening people to the importance of their unique role and enabling them to manifest their dream life.” Daniel has learned his lesson's later in life through losing his fortunes not once but twice.  What he learned through this process is the importance of your energetic relationship with something and the importance of developing that relationship with something to allow it to stay. He focuses now on conscious deliberate creating. We discuss how to break free of emotional blocks to get that desired dream life that so many of us are seeking!  Daniel shares that our desires within ourselves are ready to be birthed and most of the time, we are not allowing it to be part of our world.  Daniel reminds us that everything we experience is a result of where we are in our environment. The actions we are taking, the habits, behaviors, and choices we make, and the people, places, and things that surround ourselves. We go on to discuss the conflict between our conscious and unconscious thoughts and how 97% of our behaviors are run by unconscious programs.  For the most part, the actions we take are not conscious choices. That's why for many, we are misaligned with our thoughts and outcomes.  You may be ready to go out and achieve something new but most often our habits and behaviors are not matching the desired outcome.  The reason why is that our unconscious thoughts don't match the desired outcome.  One way to get into alignment with our unconscious thoughts is to create an environment that supports us in getting in alignment with our thoughts and desires.  Our thoughts, fears, and desires are built from our environment from our journey from infant to today!  We need to understand that our environment can support us and if we curated it appropriately then the change will come easier and have the desired snowball effect.   Begin to ask yourself:  What do we want to manifest or create for ourselves and then how does my environment right now support the emotional state and outcome that I want to achieve? Ask yourself: Are your existing habits and emotions supporting my emotional desire or are these habits and emotions disrupting those desires and allowing me to step into something different. Changing your emotional state will change the quality of your thoughts!   We continue to discuss more opportunities to get in alignment with your unconscious and conscious thoughts and emotions by looking at how our environment and habits can support us I ask Daniel about a blog article he wrote about Rejecting the Cookie-Cutter Approach to a Life of Intention.  He encourages us to seize the day uniquely our own and not get lost in waiting for some big magical moment to show up for us!  Instead, listen to the small whispers that lead you to your big vision.  Play in those seemingly insignificant synchronicities that lead you to the outcome that you desire!     Daniel's Challenge for you!   Ask Yourself How will you feel, what emotions will you experience when you have achieved your goal?  Write down those emotions! Does my environment support those emotions?  You may need to start to clean up your environment or start to create an environment that supports you in having the goal that you desire!  Resources and Links Connect with Daniel Mangena Special Link for Calm the Chaos Listeners Do It With Dan Podcast   Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

A descendant of Afghan nobles, Tareq Azim's family was forced to flee their homeland in 1979. He assimilated in the United States through his love of sports, excelling in wrestling, boxing, and football. In 2004, Azim decided to visit his home country, and upon arriving, he discovered countless children living on the streets, waiting for the inevitable recruitment into terrorist networks and anti-peace militias. Azim's close encounter with the ravages of a war-torn society taught him how pain can generate the most intense forms of fear, anxiety, and depression. He had found his salvation through sports and physical activity, and he knew these children could, too. Growing up with the fear of not having and not belonging.  Tareq was desperate to belong and asked himself, How do I belong?, how can I become a part of this American Society? For Tareq, it was the power of sport and physical activity. It was through organized sports in High School that he learned what embracing the discomfort meant and what it meant and how to challenge yourself and face your truth.  It was then that Tareq recognized what was preventing the rest of his community to feel this same way of belonging.  It was while playing football in high school that he experienced that feeling of acceptance from himself and others.   Once Tareq's confidence was raised through sports, he pushed himself to do other things like running for ASB President. He continued to push through to do things even when it felt out of his comfort zone and scared.   He then came to the realization at age 17, what prevents the optimization of human capacity and capability is fear.  Now when he feels fearful he recognizes that this is where his opportunity lies within himself.   It was then that he started to hold himself accountable publicly and started using the fear of being judged by not completing his goal as fuel to pull the trigger on things that he felt were right for himself vs. falling victim to judgment.  He was using it!   Tareq believes that we have the freedom to define our own narratives and definitions of behaviors. He helps individuals to recognize the value of fear vs. fear being something you should avoid and allowing it to be a disease that decimates everything else in your life.  We use fear as an excuse on why we don't move forward and we see individuals running away from the responsibility of being aware of what you're fearful of. Once you are conscious of what it is and what's preventing you from being strong, you can then embrace the fear and define what it is for you at that moment. Tareq shares with us how to conquer the fear once we recognize it and call it out.  It's when you identify it and make the decision to embrace it that you can move forward.  Give it a responsibility and give it permission to do what it is there to do for you.   Links and Resources   Grab Your Copy of Empower  by Tareq Azim  Tareq Azim on Instagram Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

Juggling life for years led Daniela Sulek to hit a wall. Her entire way of life and being changed when what she now calls “humaning” led to her developing serious illnesses while pregnant with her third child, and almost cost her her life. With her “play your way through life” philosophy, she now helps renowned yet unfulfilled leaders move into a permanent state of ease, joy, and passion. By transcending from the conditioned human to the consciousness of their true self, they shift into effortlessly creating by being, instead of creating by doing. My conversation with Daniela begins by her sharing her journey and how in the beginning her life and health escalated to a point where she became very ill and realized that she wanted to know the truth and things needed to change. For her she wanted Freedom. To her Freedom is to be who she wants to be whenever she wants to be!  And to do whenever she wants to do!   Daniela takes the pain she experienced and turned it into her passion so that others can know their true selves and let go of the human conditioning and be free!   Daniela shares her motto:  Learn From Everyone, Follow No One.  You are unique and have a unique blueprint. There is no need to follow anyone.  You learn and take what you want and discard what you don't like.  Think of life as an all-you-can-eat buffet!   We discuss that fear is a product of the mind.  When we live in fear, guilt, and anxiety we are living of the mind and not living in the true higher consciousness of self.  In order to have a higher consciousness of self, we need to hold absolute trust in life and know that we are good and all is amazing.  That everything is happening for me  We then go on to discuss how to let go of the “doing” and “going”  so that we can step back and “be”.  How do we surrender to that in our life?  It's really a shift in consciousness.  A shift in your thought and emotional patterns in your state of being.   Our discussion journeys on to discussing how to be present and with others and show up with no expectations or bringing any of the past “humaning” into the moment and how that will have a powerful impact on your relationships. Daniela encourages us to be and not get hung up in expectations on how things need to turn out or what needs to get done. Just be open to having what needs to transpire at that moment.   Daniela challenges us to do this with the next person we encounter:  Don't look at them as to how they should be but just be with them.  Look at them as to how they are.  Let go of what you need from them or how they should behave. Be with them as they are and be you as you are and see the change.   Links and Resources Connect with Daniela Sulek Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Jackie Parsons was born and raised in England. SheI studied languages from an early age and developed a passion for Latin cultures. She speaks French, Spanish, and fluent Italian. Jackie has led tours in Europe since 1992, specializing in walking tours in Italy since 2007 Her first degree in Spanish took her to the mountains of Mexico and to the South American Andes, where she took part in a Raleigh International expedition to Chile. Her enthusiasm for Italy developed alongside my love of its art, history, culture, food, wine, and people. She has also studied Italian art and culture with the Open University. As a Teacher of Modern Languages in the UK, she was a fully qualified expedition leader for the Duke of Edinburgh Award. Jackie and her husband own and operate Hedonistic Hiking which are group walking tours led in Australia and Italy!   Jackie joins us today from Italy and their home in Tuscany where it's been their base for the last three months!  This is where they live while they are running their Italian Tours.   We chat about how she started Hedonistic Hiking Tours and her inspiration started at a very young age with her love for languages.  She had a very inspirational teacher that encouraged her students to go one step further and to look for the adventure! Don't be afraid of where you are and what you want to do in life. Not wanting to do what was “expected of her”, Jackie focused on her passion for traveling and shared how that journey evolved into what it looks like today.  Hedonistic Hiking Tours gives Jackie and her husband the opportunity to explore the things she loves the most:  Sharing her love of food, wine, and walking!  Sounds good to me!  She enjoys sharing what she loves about Italy and seeing the joy on their faces when they are on their experience!  Jackie shares with us the different levels of intensity in their walking tours and there is something available for anyone's physical ability.  They meet you in your comfort zone or you can push yourself with something a bit more challenging.  On the lower level hikes, there is a support vehicle so if you are feeling that after lunch you would like to return to your hotel to relax by the pool you have that option! The tours are designed for the older generations which helps a lot to manage your expectations! We may not be elite athletes but we are looking for a fun and memorable tour experience!  For Jackie one of the most rewarding aspects of her job is seeing each day the increased confidence in their faces and the joy in their face!  I ask Jackie to share her favorite walking tour and she immediately says that it's the one she is currently on at that moment! However, she does come around and share one of her favorite tours in Italy! You'll need to tune in to hear her describe this tour as it sounds amazing and dont want to give it away! Jackie shares about what she's learned about herself through this process and how starting their business they took a risk and stepped out of their comfort zone. They let the business evolve without a 20-page business plan. They did have focus and a direction but they trusted that things were going to progress as they should.  She shares that You don't know what you can achieve until you do it!  Don't get caught up in the weeds and spend your life in the planning process! Start with one foot in front of the other.   Maybe 2022 or 2023 might be the year for you to do some exploration in Italy or Australia?  Check it out!   Resources and Links Connect with Jackie Parsons Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Judi Jacobs is a former plaintiff's tort trial lawyer.  She began her journey into teaching and learning about technology in the early part of my legal career. Like many of us,  she did not grow up with a computer and is not a computer engineer. She is not  a so-called “digital native.” (i.e., I am not under 35!) Her first experiences with computers came through work in my law firm as she had to struggle to learn how to do things by trying and failing. When something went wrong with a colleague or my computer, she would watch how the “tech guys” (never women in those days) fixed the problem. Then, the next time I experienced a similar issue, I would resolve it by trying to retrace the steps of the tech guys. As a mother of five children, she had no choice but to stay on top of technology. Each one had different skills and unique needs and abilities on the computer. One was an expert at getting around the Netscape Nanny software I installed. She had to stay one step ahead of him to recognize when he was hacking it to try again or use another piece of software. Through the necessities of life, I discovered a love of computers and mobile devices. In 2005 Judi started Tech Wizard where she supports her community with online classes and 1:1  support as it pertains to working with your computer or phone!   Even though Judi was thrust into learning the technology for both home and at work, she realized that she enjoyed it, was good at it as well as had the patience to teach others. It brings her a lot of joy and gratification in seeing people get more comfortable with the technology and learn how to do things!  Judi shares that it's the fear and hesitation from people not wanting to look “dumb”  that often gets in the way of them seeking help.  We have to remember that for a lot of us we did not grow up with a computer or smartphone. These tools were thrust in front of us later in life so our learning curve will be different.   It's best to work on the foundational skills as that is what you'll be using every day and it will give you the opportunity to use them consistently so you can raise your confidence level.   The most popular thing that people request help on right now is their phones.  We are using them 24/7 and they are mini computers. In the palm of your hand, you have the ability to access and use so many different features. You may not even realize you are not using them.  You don't know what you don't know! We discuss things that we should be doing at the start of every year on our computers to ensure that things are running smoothly and keeping our technology safe and up to date.   Judi also encourages us not to use our email “inbox”  as a storage box.  You should be managing your email on a daily basis. You either file or get rid of it after it's been read.  She gives some great analogies that will help you to see your inbox in a new light which may spur you on to dealing with those emails with a specific action.   The Tech Wizard offers online classes and specific 1:1  help so if you are thinking to start working independently and then reach out for some specific help then that option is available to you.   Resources and Links   Connect with Judi Jacobs at The Tech Wizard  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Welcome back to Calm the Chaos! You are listening to Episode 106 and today my guest is ME!  Yes, that's right today I'll be doing all the talking!  And….  it's a big day as today marks the 2nd year anniversary of producing the podcast Calm the Chaos!   I decided to do this episode solo because for most of you listening you may just see me as a podcast interviewer of other subject matter experts! But.. I am first and foremost a coach for women over forty and I guide them on a journey to transform their lives!    What does that mean exactly?   Many women first reach out to me when they need some career guidance.  Maybe they are wanting a job change or re-entering the job market after having been absent for some time while raising a family.   When we get into working on this area a lot comes up for clients surrounding mindset and how they feel about themselves.  I challenge them on how they are thinking about themselves and some of the beliefs that are holding them back from moving forward in all areas of their lives!   Today, I wanted to talk to you about celebrating!  How are you celebrating YOU?  If you are listening to this podcast, I am assuming that you are a woman over 40!   When you take a look back at your past self over the years, what have you done where you can now say Thank you! What moments would you like to thank that person that sculpted you into who you are today?  Perhaps it's thanking your past self for taking that certification, entering a partnership with someone you love, helping someone else with their challenges, getting that diploma, raising children, trips you went on, the courage to get out of your comfort zone and join an organization,  the opportunity to care for my parents,  putting up with that annoying boss so you could finally get the position of your dreams!  What do you want to say to your former self? Today I would like for you to write a letter to your past self and say thank you!  What will you say to yourself?  It doesn't need to be a long letter. Take a couple of minutes to write down your first thoughts. We call this a brain download. There is no right or wrong way to write this letter! Pour your favorite beverage, get cozy in your chair and have some fun with this exercise! Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you have. How you treat and talk to yourself, and think about yourself is key to having a healthy relationship mentally, emotionally, and physically.   If we only focus on everything and everyone but ourselves, we drain the cup which leaves us little to pour to the rest of the world.  Is that really fair to you and everyone else? I want you to be gracious with your past self in how you are doing today.  Don't beat yourself up for the past or the realization that things haven't worked out the way you hoped back then. Take the opportunity now to be present and start building a better relationship with yourself. One way to cultivate a better relationship with ourselves is through acknowledging the gifts and moments in our past.   For me, I am thankful that I had the opportunity to raise two beautiful children.  And, that I am staying focused on serving my clients and grateful for all those who are helping me!   Now.. let's turn our attention to the Celebration!  I want you to take a look at the letter you wrote to yourself!   What are you most proud of?  Was there a moment where your energy flowed and you said to yourself “job well done”.  Perhaps it was how you made an impact or how you handled a challenging season.   Now I want you to stop and go to a special place for you. It could be in your home or outside at a park.  I call it your “happy place”. Take the opportunity to step out of your routine for just a few minutes. This is time for you to disengage from your routine!   Now we are going to commemorate the moment!  Make a toast, say a prayer, treat yourself to a favorite beverage, light a candle or have that slice of cake!     In life, we need to have a moment where we fill up the gas tank! By taking a moment to acknowledge a moment or moments that were significant and special to us, it breeds positive energy and motivation to continue.  We then will feel more self-confident in tackling new goals and areas of our lives when we feel unsure.  Many women I work with have a hard time with this exercise because we often don't take the time to stop, look back and pat ourselves on the back.  Until we sit down and write that letter we may hold onto that sticking thinking that we haven't  “done much”.  And that's nonsense!  We are all unique with many experiences that shape us into who we are today! It's time to recognize those moments, acknowledge and celebrate!     I hope this episode today will help you to get a perspective on your past self and all the many circumstances that have shaped you into who you are today!  I would love to hear what resonated for you and how you took a moment to celebrate!  Today, I will be lighting a candle and remembering all the weekend mornings where I was in my office either interviewing, editing this podcast, putting the show notes together, or updating the website!  It's a journey that requires a lot of discipline but in the end, has been worth it! I have been meeting wonderful people from all over the world who are helping my listeners to calm the chaos!   I continue to do this podcast because I truly believe that if we can calm the chaos in our lives then we are better able to hear our inner desires! I am going to celebrate and thank you all for being here each week to learn and grow!   If you feel that this podcast is a weekly gift to your life then I would ask that you take a moment today and rate, review and subscribe to the podcast! Then take a screenshot and share it with three of your closest friends!  Would you like to see more coaching like this on the podcast? Let me know! Drop me a note from my website www.deborahvoll.com using the contact me form! I would love to hear!  I am constantly growing and evolving with my coaching and the podcast! This show each week is for YOU and I would love to hear what type of support you need!  Just as a reminder there are multiple resources on my website that you can access if you are looking for some support in your journey! Jump over and subscribe to my email list, take the Quiz and see if you are ready for your next chapter!  Resources and Links Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

Lisbeth “Lis” McKinley, is a Certified Professional Organizer, move manager, public speaker, and owner of LET'S MAKE ROOM, LLC based in Oakland, California, now in its 12th year of operation. Lis, along with her team at LET'S MAKE ROOM, helps clients achieve their unique vision of the organization, before or after moving, remodeling, or refreshing and unclutter their living, work, and storage areas. Lis speaks to both professional and community groups about downsizing, organizing, productivity, and paper management. Her talks have inspired hundreds of people to enjoy their lives with less and get more done.  Lis is from New York City, holds a Master's degree in Clinical Psychology, and lives in Oakland with her husband, three cats, and a Chihuahua. Lis is a returning guest to the podcast who today shares how she is helping her community. Today we talk about downsizing and how to let go of years of stuff without the tears! At the start of the year many people have decluttering and organizing in mind so this is a timely interview to get you focused if this is your intention!  She shares that often we accumulate the stuff of no fault of our own.  For many it can be the circumstances of losing a spouse or caretaking for someone and things got worse.  It's a challenge facing a lot of people in this country and she is happy she can be there in person or virtually to help them through the process.   Acknowledging that you will need to make a lot of decisions when going through this process is an understatement!  I recently took some time to go through some rooms with the theme of downsizing and had to make some difficult decisions. Lis shares that clutter is nothing more than delayed decision-making! The decisions are often delayed because we don't know what to ask ourselves.  Her role is to ask those important questions which support their end goal.   Lis walks us through some important questions to ask ourselves and shares a poem  that one of her clients wrote that may help you get a different perspective Questions Do You Love It?  If I saw it again in a store would I buy it? Does it suit who I am now?  (  Are there things associated with a past life? )  Poem Yearning Yearning for a new way will not produce it. Only ending the old way can do that.  You cannot hold onto the old, all the while declaring that you want something new. The old will defy the new, the old will deny the new, the old will decry the new.  There is only one way to bring in the new, you must make room for it.   Lis shares the process of how she helps her clients to downsize by doing all of the sortings of the items by category and then having them go on a “reverse” shopping trip! This makes the process easier for what they do want to keep and move forward in their next chapter! The client is only involved in the “editing” process.   During our conversation Lis shares a personal experience of making a difficult decision about how to let go of a record collection and how she worked through that process.  This helps us to see that everyone has this challenge and it can take time and asking the right questions.  It's a beautiful story and a great teaching moment about letting go of the hard things in our home!  We also talk about how when we let go of things in our home it makes room for many other opportunities and we do feel lighter and better prepared to spend time doing other things rather than managing our “stuff”.  Lis encourages us to imagine what our life will feel like when your project is all done.  What are you doing this for?  How will that make you feel? What are the values that you relate to and how do they align with your organizing goals.   Lis shares with us some fun and creative ways to get rid of the stuff once you've managed to go through your personal items.  These are great ways to contribute and support your community!    Resources and Links Connect with LIs McKinley  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

Theresa Levine lives in Davidsonville, Maryland with her husband Jeff and their four boys. As an entrepreneur with a background in psychology, nutrition, and fitness, she has been helping women work on various aspects of their mental and physical health for over 25 years. Her struggles with ADHD, trauma, and the chaos and overwhelm of being a mompreneur with big goals and responsibilities led her to learn how to cultivate the success, clarity, and inner peace that used to feel so elusive to her. Using a unique blend of Energy, Psychology, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping, and Strategy, Theresa empowers other mompreneurs to overcome anxiety, distractions, and limiting patterns so they can feel happy, present, and fulfilled as they align their beliefs, actions, values and vision for the business and daily life! In my conversation with Theresa, we start by discussing her journey and how she raised her boys and recognized through their lives that they had ADHD. It was then that she noticed some patterns and had herself tested and diagnosed.  So for her, it's been a process of understanding and finding ways to manage their diagnosis.  Theresa looks at ADHD as a gift!  She feels that is where all of her creativity and curiosity come from throughout the day as her mind takes these little journeys.  What a great way to flip something that can seem overwhelming into something positive and empowering!  Theresa shares how she discovered EFT and how she uses its principles to help with focus and shifting thoughts and energy within our mind and body! While working in her networking marketing business, she attended a seminar where they had someone come in for the day and teach EFT tapping, The day focused on teaching the basics and how to use it to relieve stress and anxiety.  It was that day that she realized that she could be using these techniques for so many more areas of her life and this modality could be the answer for her! It was then that Theresa knew that she had to explore it further and enrolled in getting certified as an EFT Practioner.  Attending that seminar with curiosity and an open mind was truly transformational!  How she felt after the seminar was amazing and didn't need to understand how it worked but just knew it worked!   During our discussion, Theresa walks us through how to do EFT Tapping by explaining that by tapping certain meridian points on our body we can release pain and negativity in the body.  She explains each tapping point on our body and how easy it can be and can be done almost anywhere! Even without people noticing which is amazing as we can do this in a public setting when we may feel anxious, nervous, or angry about a specific situation.  Theresa also shared how she used EFT tapping prior to getting on the podcast interview today to help her feel grounded, focused, and positive about how she would be showing up and contributing to the interview.   Theresa shares that tapping for just ten minutes a day can lower your stress hormone cortisol by up to 43%!  Cortisol can have a tremendous impact on our mind and body so why not try something that can lower those levels?   With tapping comes incorporating a mantra and we discuss how to decide what mantra you need to use in combination with your tapping.  Theresa advised starting with the problem you are experiencing.   For Example:  Even though I feel anxious about ______________, I deeply love, accept, and forgive myself.  She repeats this mantra three times with a nice deep inhale through the nose and exhales through the mouth. It's important to keep your mantra simple.  It's also important to be specific because it helps to hunt down those blockages and specifically remove them. It's important that we honor the feeling and accept ourselves! It's also important to access at the beginning of your tapping how you feel on a scale of 1-10 and then how you feel after the tapping.  This will help you to gauge your success.  We discuss that tapping can be used anywhere and for a lot of different reasons! Fear of flying, heights, spiders, venting to others about your day!  Just by tapping different points of the body, you can release the fear and negativity you are feeling and be able to move forward!  Theresa feels that when setting goals and reaching forward it's important to reach backward and learn from the lessons.   We need to honor where we've come from and how much we have already accomplished.  Sometimes we may experience goal trauma in setting goals which makes us fearful of trying again or setting too aggressive of a goal.  We walk through the seven Chakras in our body and how when we declare a goal, it moves from the of our head ( crown chakra )  to the root chakra and working that goal through all of the different chakra systems so you can internalize it.  Theresa starts with the root chakra because that's where all of our feeling of unsafety are hiking and need to be released in order for us to move forward.  If we don't have a safe place for each of these stages for the goal to manifest then it cannot become physical.   Our lives can be busy and crazy at times and it's important to have a good coping mechanism to deal with these circumstances and triggers.  It's also important to deal with our feeling and work through them because if we don't then we will end up creating more chaos for ourselves and could possibly make ourselves physically ill.   Perhaps now is a good time for you to discover EFT tapping? 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Sheena  Nancy Sarles is a lifelong student of well-being in body, mind, and spirit. She is a certified Yoga instructor, a Holistic Life Coach, a Reiki practitioner., and has been called, a serial entrepreneur! From her life experiences, she has followed an organic path. As she became aware of her own aging, she created Growing Younger Gracefully™ workshops, classes, and newsletters to address how we can age and enjoy the process. From there, she curated her studies and practice of well-being in her book, “Growing Younger Gracefully: Your Guide to Aging with Vitality, Resilience, and Pizzazz”.  We start at the very beginning of her journey since she has such a long list of accomplishments! Sheena started out in a career in public relations and fundraising but became interested in yoga. She thought that in her late forties that perhaps dancing was a little hard on her body!  So, she got into Yoga and from there started to think about aging. As an anti-aging person, she thought of this process as a gift.  How can she approach aging differently for herself and others? Sheena continued to study and do research to explore how to look at aging in a positive and healthy way. It's not a disease that needs to be fixed or something to remedy.  It's something we have and we want to enjoy it as long as we can!  It was then that her friends encouraged her to give a class so she jumped right in and then asked herself, “what have I done!”.  She started teaching and her classes began to grow in popularity.  For Sheena, she reminds us that when we are in our youth we are growing, learning, and curious and that doesn't need to stop as we are aging.  She asks,  “how can we do this with some elegance?” From there Sheena created Growing Younger Gracefully and it became workshops.  The Three Pillars Nutrition  Movement Attitude Through this journey, Sheena continued to look for healthy organic products and soon realized that many products include chemicals and high costs. She then started to do more research and experimenting and created her own facial serum which she began using and sharing with family and friends.  From her facial serum, she then launched a body serum As Sheena continued to go through this process she began to be curious and confident and would then say,  “you know what? Let's put it out there and see what happens!”  She wasn't intimidated by failure but motivated by success!  We then discuss how Yoga helped Sheena when she suffered the loss of her mom and dad and that breathing through Yoga poses could help her grieve but still be present. It didn't take the pain and grief away but it helped her find a “place to be”.  Sheena incurred more loss in her life and it was then that she was in a grief writing workshop at the local hospital wherein a response to a question about her grief, she invited everyone to open up to healing through a pose, and from there she started to teach yoga for healing loss.   It's wonderful to see how Sheena has turned a tremendous amount of pain into something purposeful. Not only to help herself but to serve others.   Sheena shares about her Tuesday evening Free Zoom Group that she makes available to her community where you can drop into her group and experience one of her sessions.   She reminds up to keep alive and active and not be fearful but to really enjoy our aging.   During our conversation, we discuss some of Sheena's blog articles and talked about rituals and the importance of having rituals in our lives.  It helps us to create meaning in our lives.   It's a wonderful discussion and will prompt you to think about rituals perhaps you have each day without realizing it.   Resources and Links Connect with Sheena Nancy Sarles Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

For more than four years, Pam Lamp has explored one new thing every single day!  On her website, Who I met today, she writes about these discoveries and the wonderful people she's met along the way.  Pam loves a good book, the beach, and is an animal person.  Pam lives in Nashville with her husband.   Pam shares that her journey began back when her kids were grown and she and her husband moved from Houston, Texas after twenty years to Nashville.   This happened in her late fifties and she found the move a difficult adjustment.   It was one morning where she thought that she would get up every morning and do one new thing every single day!  She hoped that by doing this that she would meet new people and create a sense of community.  At the time, she didn't know where this would take her but she thought that she needed to get out there and get involved!  For Pam, a new job was not in the cards as she wanted to be available to her elderly parents and her kids were in different cities so she wanted flexibility in her life!   She started by reading local magazines and Googling different things to do and she created her list!  The items to do each day didn't have to be big events!  Some days she would go take a walk in the park or check out a bookstore.  What Pam found is that it gave her something to talk about at the dinner table with her husband and her world expanded!   One day, Pam's husband asked, “if you could do anything, what would you want to do?” Pam replied that she wanted to meet people and write up their stories!  He then said, “why don't you do it?”  So in 2017, she started her website and began telling her story!  For Pam, this has been the biggest gift of her life.   Pam shares how she didn't have a plan and was scared to death!  She shares about her first interview where she faced her fear and not only had a great conversation but had the time of her life!  She shares how she tackled those limiting beliefs that can come up for us when we are trying something new.  For Pam, she focused on taking that next step.  She has also developed a “thicker skin” for putting herself out there to ask for interviews but she still gets a bit fearful but the more interviews she completes she is getting more comfortable and confident!   How does Pam decide who she interviews? It's all about being curious!  If she is curious about a topic or someone then that's the direction she heads and Pam shares a couple of examples in our interview.  She does focus on positive stories as she feels there is enough negativity in the world.  Pam also shares some of her stories on her blog and people she has on her list to ask in the future!  Pam has created a series called the Orchid Series which are articles about women who are over 75 years young!  The common thread that Pam has found in writing their stories is that finding your purpose is so important and keeping engaged with something as you get older is key.  She also shares what is was like at the beginning of her journey when she created her website and was vulnerable in the process of sharing her writing and stories.   For a lot of women, they have a book or stories to share and this can be a hurdle that needs to be overcome by looking at the mindset, and Pam shares what worked for her.  She also shares overcoming the technical hurdle in creating a website.   Pam shares what she has learned about herself through her journey, “ You need to make yourself happy. You can't rely on other people to make you happy.” She is also less anxious having a passion and something she can not wait to get up and do in the morning.  Pam finds that if she focuses on doing the next right thing then you don't have to worry so much about the outcome and the “what if's”.   Resources and Links Connect with Pam Lamp  Katie and Greg's  December ADEVNTure  Betty Nelson  Age Will Not Define ME   I Miss You When I Blink  Mary Laura Philpott Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

Rachel Arbuckle is a Navy Veteran, wife, mom, and founder of 2000 Paces Photo Organizing. After a series of fires forced her family to evacuate and leave behind photo memories that were scattered throughout their home, Rachel was motivated to help others spend less time worrying about organizing and protecting their memories and more time making them. In 2014, a series of fierce fires roared through San Diego County, the largest of which started on the mountain just behind Rachel's home. She had only minutes to grab a few items. Her instinct was to gather all of our photos, but she panicked when she realized her precious memories were all over the home in boxes, picture frames, and albums. She ended up grabbing what she could as her family headed to safety. After many days of worry, she was able to return home to the memories we had to leave behind. Thankfully, her home was spared, but others in our community were not as fortunate. This experience not only solidified her commitment to protecting her family's collection of photos but prompted her to found 2000 Paces Photo Organizing, encouraging people to organize and protect important memories. After the fire, Rachel came back home and followed through on her commitment to getting her family's photo memories organized and then ultimately left corporate America to start her own business. This was an unexpected turn of events and for her at some point was terrifying.  She continued to focus on what she could accomplish for other people!  What are their needs, what solutions do we need to make sure that we care about servicing them the way they need to be.  Then one day after a lot of hard work, she realized that she was creating a successful business!  It was from there that her business began to develop and she needed to learn more about the managing of the business.     We dive into the process of what to do with all these photos that are either in albums or boxes!  Rachel recommends starting by putting everything in one place and taking an inventory of what you have on hand.  Pull everything out of every nook and cranny!  She reminds us that it took years to create all these memories and they are not going to get organized overnight! Take a look and weed out the duplicates and then the photos where you don't know who the people are in the photo! Then ask yourself, What are your goals with your photos? What do I want to accomplish? Rachel shares with us the unique approach her team takes with every client to ensure that your photos are handled with care and they are meeting your goals.  How they may organize your photos may be different from how mine would be organized.  There is a consult and interview process to make sure that you are creating a relationship with the person who will be handling your job.   We discuss some stories about work she has done for other clients over the years and share that a lot of her clients will say, “I wish I had asked my mom about these pictures sooner”  We always think there is more time.  More time to ask, more time to organize, and more time to share.   Rachel gives us permission to throw out those photos where we don't remember who the people are or the event was not significant to us.  ( That's why it's so important to ask questions now while those that are still with us can share about those memories )  All of Rachel's employees are trained through a specific process and handle a mock project prior to taking on a  client.   When you go to engage with them you are assigned a photo manager so there is one person who is rocking on your project through the entire process.   I ask Rachel how leaving corporate America and forming this business has changed her life!  She says it's hard to remember what her life was like before she started her company.   It's something she and her team have created and that she is proud of their accomplishments! For her, it's exciting to be a business owner but at the same time, there is a huge responsibility as people are counting on you. Not only the employees but their families.   Rachel loves mentoring and providing feedback to her team. At some point, we all need to work so why not be working at something we love? She is now working harder than she did in her corporate job but it's something she is passionate about and she is having fun while making an impact!  Resources and Links Connect with Rachel Arbuckle  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Samantha Coffin is a wellness and mindset coach focused on helping women go from a life full of symptoms to a life full of living. As a child, Samantha personally struggles with health and wellness.  She reminds us that if you don't prioritize your wellness now then you'll be forced to prioritize your illness later!  Samantha's website is called the Wellness Rewind where she offers 1:1 Wellness supports, offers great articles, recipes, and your personal guide to wellness.  Samantha is returning guests to the show and we dive into her story about her health journey and how she turned her pain of being sick to seeking the solutions for herself into providing to support for others so they would not need to go through her same pain.  She started to learn to heal her own body at the age of eighteen.  Instead of surviving, she wanted to thrive and took matters into her own hands! She then began to reach out to help friends and family with their own health issues and gain the confidence to help others. But it didn't come with tackling a lot of mindset issues and the dreaded imposter syndrome!  It's been a rewarding journey and now she sees not only how her coaching helps her client but how it impacts their families and carries through to other people they touch!  We discuss the commonly known story of when the flight attendant says that you need to put your oxygen mask on first so that you can be there to help others.  If we don't put on our mask first we can't help others and then we all suffer.  We also need to fill our cup so it will overflow and help others!  That's why it's so important and not selfish to focus on ourselves.  We also need to realize that our children and grandchildren are watching our moves so when we begin to take care of our needs and see that we are nourished mentally and physically then they will do the same.   So how do we want to show up in the new year? How do I want to be taking care of my health and nurturing my mind, body, and spirit?  We discuss how this time of year we are bombarded by messages in the media about what we “should” be working on but it's a good time to ask ourselves if we what we are being “expected” to work on algin with our values and do they really matter to you?   The first question to ask is What do you really want and WHY do you want it?  Take the time to sit and answer what can sometimes be a difficult question to answer.   We jump into changing our frame of mind and thinking of not making a RESOLUTION which is a firm decision not to do something which doesn't sound like a very fun way to start the new year to thinking of it as INTENTIONS which is how do I intend to live.  An intention is how I intend to aim or plan.  It helps us to focus more on progressing as a human over a perfection mindset that you might get with a resolution!  We talk about the process of setting goals and discuss SMART Goals.  Goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timebound.  We talk about setting a weight loss goal and how we may want to look at breaking it down so that you have actionable steps that can be measured and attained so you can see your progress and feel empowered!  Our discussion turns to uncover your WHY so that you are clear as to why this goal is so important to you. As you work towards your goal, there will be challenging moments and it's important to have it written down so that you can remind yourself when the going gets tough!   When choosing a goal here's a tip!  When you think about it does it make you feel alive and excited?  Are you feeling excited to do it or are you filled with dread? If you are dreading it, then let's find a different goal!   Perhaps you would prefer not to set a goal but do something a bit more creative?  Here are some ideas we discuss:  A Monthly Theme for the month based on your intention A Word for the Year A Bucket List   22 things to do in 2022.   How can we remind ourselves of our goals or micro-goals?   A-List to check off Putting our micro goals on a sheet of paper in a jar and taking one out to do each month.  Post-it note reminders!  This will help us when we don't feel aligned and need some additional support!   We also talk about ACCOUNTABILITY  Who is going to hold you accountable?  Is it a friend, coach, family member?  Be sure you take the time to pick your accountability partner and have a set time for check-in points to discuss your success and celebrate!   Be sure to revisit your goals!  Take some time mid-year to revisit if these goals you set at the beginning of the year still resonate and are worthy of your attention!  Sometimes our circumstances change and we need to acknowledge that this goal isn't aligned to us anymore and it's ok to let it go!   How do I want to feel this year?  What are the steps that I need to prioritize in my life ( people, places, and things)  so that I can achieve this feeling in my life!   If you are looking for some books to encourage you to help develop good habits, we discuss the following books  Atomic Habits by James Clear  Tiny Habits by BJ FOGG We talk about how to create new habits and discuss how to look at the cue, routine, and reward!  A perfect example is what you may or may not do when you walk through the door at the end of a long day!  What do you first go to out of habit based on the cue of walking at the end of the day through the door? I share an example from my own life and how I changed the routine and the reward!  And you can too!   Are you ready to take that first step and crack the door to new possibilities in the new year?  I hope this episode will help you to pause and take the time to create a goal that is true and resonates with you in the new year!  Happy New Year!   Links and Resources Connect with Samantha Coffin Samantha's Article:  A New Approach to A New Year: Intentions vs Resolutions Book's mentioned in the podcast links above in show notes Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

  Jennifer and I discuss her book, Why Bother! Discover the Desire for What's Next.  Since it's the end of the year, it's the perfect time to stop, notice and celebrate the arising of the desire within yourself!  This desire is what gives us the juice, courage, and inspiration to get over the fears that we often feel when we come to this place in our lives.  Let's take the time today to flip that question, Why bother into something positive!  In my interview, we discuss the six steps of why bother!   JENNIFER LOUDEN is a personal growth pioneer who helped launch the concept of self-care with her first bestseller, The Woman's Comfort Book. Since then, she's written six additional books on wellbeing and whole living, including The Woman's Retreat Book and The Life Organizer, with close to a million copies of her books in print in nine languages. Jennifer has spoken around the U.S., Canada, and Europe, and has written a national magazine column for a Martha Stewart magazine. Plus, she's been profiled or quoted in dozens of major magazines; two of Brené Brown's books, Daring Greatly and Dare to Lead; and has appeared on hundreds of TVprograms, radio shows, and podcasts—even on Oprah. Jennifer has been teaching women's retreats since 1992 and creating vibrant on-line communities and innovative learning experiences since 1999. She writes weekly to her email list of 20,000 and hosts an online paid community of over 600 members. She lives in Boulder, Colorado.   What  You'll Learn How to go from Despair to the Desire for wanting more! Steps to Why Bother Leave Behind- Examine the excuses we make! Ease In-  Get the fire going. You matter and what you want matters! Take the time to turn towards yourself Settle In and Find the Stillness.  At our core is peace and well-being. Unless we sit in the stillness we don't know or hear what we want.   Desire- Life is speaking to you. Allow yourself to feel that desire Become by Doing-  You begin to experiment Be Seen- Be seen as your whole self The Oasis Group with Jennifer Jennifer's Challenge for the listeners! Resources and Links Jennifer Louden Website here Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

Katharine Chestnut is the founder and CCO of Alkaloid Networks, a coworking space she founded in 2015.  Over the past two decades, Katharine has navigated the realm of self-care, studying multiple wellness disciplines to support her own personal growth.  Her new book, Inner Affirmations, is a testament to her practice of personal self-care and the kind of growth that comes from a mindful journaling routine.   Katharine's journey started twenty years ago when she was introduced to her mentor, Sue Meyers who in her own right was a million-dollar realtor turned spiritual guide.  Sue was teaching weekend workshops in the area and Katharine decided to attend. The focus at the workshop was on non-dominant handwriting.   When Katharine was introduced to this practice in the workshop, she was asked to write down her answers to a series of questions and you would write the answers with your dominant hand.  Then 30 minutes later you would answer the same question but with your non-dominant hand and get a completely different answer!  After the workshop, Katharine did her research and found that using your non-dominant hand, helps you to slow down and be more mindful in your writing.  You have to be very thoughtful about creating what you are writing as it's not coming that easy! Because you are being more mindful and you have to slow down, your ego gets out of the way.   This may sound a bit strange, but when you're using your dominant hand, you are writing what you should be feeling and thinking. This makes sense because your ego and logic are driving you.  When you switch to the other side, your ego short-circuits a bit and quiets down so it can become authentic and what is true for you at your core.  When Katharine would analyze the answers to her questions with both hands, she was stunned.  It really did resonate with her and the differences and similarities in her journaling.  But the differences that she journaled were far more of the essence of what was true at her core.  Since that day, Katharine has been practicing non-dominant journaling as her main focus of practice! Katharine offers every Monday morning at 9:30 am EASTERN on Insight Timer a weekly practice where you can participate.  Check it out! Years later while Katharine was journaling, she wrote down a word/ phrase that she wanted to continue to think about throughout the day so she wrote it on a piece of paper and stuck it in her pocket so she could look at it throughout the day.  She wanted to refer back to it so she could come back to a place of calm and grounded throughout the day.  Katharine would pull it out throughout the day, take a deep breath, and be able to go back into that space of calm that she desired. It was then that she started doing it more and after time she would be pulling out of her pocket these little affirmations! It was those little slips of paper, often referred to Katharine as her “love notes to self”  that became her book!  Even to this day, she still writes down an affirmation and puts it in her pocket because it helps her to heal and focus on what's true in her life.  If you go to Katherine's website you can see her daily inner affirmation which you can write down for yourself and stick in your pocket!  Katharine began to put her marketing skills to work and began creating a brand for herself and her work so that she could begin to reach more people with teachings!  We discuss how to make daily affirmations a part of your daily routine and how to write affirmations that resonate with us which are true to our inner beliefs and desires! Katharine shares that it doesn't need to be hard to access that place of calm and knowing and if you have a pen and piece of paper, you can do it from anywhere!  Katharine shares about her Sunday evening routine which helps her to stay focused. She asks the questions  How did my week go? What did I plan to do?  What could have gone better?  How do I want to feed my spirit and soul this week? From there she is more mindful about heading into the next week with an intention for herself  Katharine will be creating some new content that will be available to her community in 2022 so I invite you to go over and check out her website at the link below!   Links and Resources Connect with Katharine Chestnut Order the Book: Inner Affirmations Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

Melissa Houston is a CPA and Financial strategist for CEO's. Melissa helps successful business owners increase their profit margins so they can keep more money in their pocket and increase their net worth!  Melissa is a columnist at Forbes.com and the host of The Business Society Podcast Melissa started her journey as a social worker and worked in that sector for five years and realized that long-term it may not be the best fit for her.  She then went back to school and chose to account as it was the “responsible, reliable choice” but then realized that something was missing and that was her interaction with people!  It was at that time that she decided to go out on her own and combine her social working skills with her in-depth knowledge of money!  For Melissa, it's wonderful to be able to help women entrepreneurs in every aspect of their business to ensure that they are setting their business up for financial success!  There was a period of about a decade where Melissa suppressed her feelings of wanting to go into business for herself.  Suppressing and not dealing with her feelings meant they came out in other ways and self-sabotage ensued.  She ended up being in a situation where she was spending money recklessly to make herself feel better about what was lacking in her life.  She continues to share this season with us and the impact that it had on herself and her marriage.  At that point she stopped and took a look at herself and that she was not being true to herself.  Melissa learned a lot about herself during this experience which helps her assist other women in a non-judgemental approach.  She's been there and done that!  Messing up and feeling shame doesn't define who you are, it's just part of the experience!  Melissa was in her late forties when she made this pivot in her career so it's never too late!   In our conversation we dive into, How do I even know if I need a money coach?  A lot of that surrounds knowing if your business is profitable or not.   So often business owners will only evaluate their business on how much money they have coming in the door. So if you don't know if you are profitable or if you don't have a financial plan for your business moving forward then you are a business without a direction.   The purpose of being in business is to make a profit and if you are not operating at a profit eventually you will go bankrupt.  Sadly 82% of businesses fail due to being financially mismanaged. If you can understand how to manage your finances you can eliminate so much of that problem!  Let's say you are ready to hire a financial business coach!  You may be wondering what it is you need to think about?  How do you know if you are picking the right team member?  We dive into all those things that you will want to consider moving forward.   Melissa also shares some of the limiting beliefs she hears from her clients and how your mindset around money and your business is so important!  This is a big part of her offering to be a financial expert and coach. We dive into discussing some of these beliefs and new ways of looking at yourself and your business!  We discuss so many other topics as it relates to running a business!  There are lots of valuable nuggets in this podcast!  Melissa also shares advice on how she works with an entrepreneur who has been in business but never paid herself!  She reminds the listeners that what you are doing is not a hobby and that you need to have in your budget to pay yourself!  Melissa also shares the number one mistake that women entrepreneurs make and that is not understanding your numbers.   What is the secret equation to running a successful business? Bringing in those sales and knowing how to manage your money!   Melissa offers both 1:1 Coaching and her Confident Cash Method on her website.  The Confident Cash Method is a five-step framework that she takes her clients through. This process gives you a high level of understanding of your business so you can make smart and informed decisions that are going to make your business profitable.  Resources and Links Connect with Melissa Houston  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Fran Braga Mininger is a writer, author, content provider, and creator of The Years Beyond Youth.com. She writes about an era in a woman's life that can be exciting, engaging, and vibrant despite or perhaps because of, what comes with age. Her work has been featured on Sixty and Me, Ruminate Magazine, KQED Radio, She Rose Revolution, Changing Aging, and other online and printed publications.   Fran retired around 59 years young and for the first few months, it was fun to have all the freedom and to be able to do what you wanted. She started to feel restless and wondered, what comes next?  It was at that time that Fran went into therapy as she found it was a bigger transition than what she could manage on her own.  Her therapist told her, “ this is the next stage in your life, and it's up to you to create it! “  Fran took that message to heart and began the process of waking up every morning at  5 am and sat at her computer to write!  She found that writing was very fulfilling and she was finding interest in the things it was being revealed.  Most of what was being written was coming from a place that she hadn't processed in her mind.   During encounters with friends, Fran began to share her writing and they encourage her to share her important messages with others.  She then started a writer's Facebook page where women came and enjoyed her writings.  This then progressed to submitting her writings to other publications for women. Fran also has her blog and feels that she is on a great journey!  Fran shares that a helpful piece of advice she received from her therapist was, slow down, don't be so hard on yourself, what you want will come!  Say YES to a lot more things! I know when I am working with clients in the self-exploration process, I encourage them to say YES and be open to new experiences as you never know where they will lead and who you may meet!   I ask Fran about what it was like to be so vulnerable in putting her writing out in public as a lot of time, she was writing about herself!  She shares how she participated in a writers group and that experience in sharing and what an impact that had on her life.  The feedback she received from the group, helped her to keep moving on to the next thing!  Every time she would release something it would be more personal than it was the last time.  The comments that she gets back through her work are so rewarding and fulfilling and she knows from those comments that she is making a difference.   The reason why Fran gets up at 4 am to write is because she wants to share!  And the number one message she wants to share with the woman over 40 is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.  There is a whole tribe of us out there doing the same.  You just need to take one step at a time!  While we are discussing Fran's work, I ask her about a recent article:  Living Deeply, and ask her what living deeply in your life means to her.  She shares that she noticed at one point, she was having a lot of superficial conversations and that her writing was deep but she wasn't having conversations on that level.  During that year, she started to be more vulnerable and have more truthful conversations with the people she trusted.  When she found that people were resistant or didn't want her to change then she let go of those relationships. For Fran, it's part of the growing process.  It's reflection, introspection, and spending time with yourself.  I invite you all to visit Fran's blog and become a part of her community!  Her writings will inspire you and cause you to reflect on your own journey.    Resources and Links Connect with Fran Braga Meininger  Fran's Article  Living Deeply  Fran's Article  Wooden Spoons of Comfort  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

Danielle Collins is THE Face Yoga Expert!  With over 17 years of experience teaching to millions worldwide!  Danielle believes in combining traditional techniques that have been used for thousands of years with modern scientifically proven research.  Believe it or not, Face Yoga has been proven to make you look three years younger in 20 weeks as these results were conducted by dermatologists at Northwestern University!  Not only does she provide the tools to her community to do this in their home but she supports her community with a blog, podcast, YouTube channel, shop, and teacher training!  Danielle makes herself accessible and is a wealth of information on how to nurture your mind and body!  Danielle's journey started 19 years ago when she had just completed university and was starting her career but began to feel very unwell and went to see a doctor. She was diagnosed with a virus called glandular fever.  At that point, she was housebound and bedridden for a good part of a year.  It was during that time that a doctor told her that there was nothing they could do for her.   Basically, this is how you'll live for the balance of your life!  It was during this time that someone recommended yoga.  This gentle method of taking care of herself kick-started her journey to a path of healing herself from the inside out.  During this period of discovering yoga and seeing the results on how she felt within her body, she called on other experts to learn meditation, positive thinking, visualization, massage therapy, and acupuncture.  It was by combining a lot of these techniques together that she was able to feel healthy and strong within 18 months!  Coming through to the other side of her illness, Danielle knew that she had suffered in this so that she could share her experiences with other people.  She knew that there were other people perhaps going through a similar illness or may just want to learn some simple and effective techniques to help them feel healthier and happier.   It was then that she took some training in relaxation therapy, yoga teacher training, nutrition, and face massage.  Initially, she started out by teaching a lot of relaxation and yoga classes.  It was then that she wanted to do something that was natural for the face.  Danielle explains that at the time, there wasn't a lot available and all the focus was strengthening our bodies from the neck down.  There are 57 muscles in our face! With her knowledge about facial massage, she wanted to develop a protocol where people could do these techniques at home.   Danielle goes on to share how we can strengthen and relax certain muscles.  We do have control over how we can naturally keep our skin vibrant and healthy!  This is when she developed the Danielle Collins Face Yoga Method.  Not only is she teaching these principles to students but she has written two books on her methods which have been translated into 12 different languages.   Danielle shares some of the feedback she has received from people who have used her face yoga method and some pretty incredible before and after pictures!  But most of all their face looks vibrant and healthy. They also notice a release in the stress and tension in their face as well as a reduction of headaches and sinus issues. We jump into how to get started and it really depends on how much time you have in your day and the type of results that you want to achieve.  A great starting point is her ten-day course. On her website, you'll be able to see the opportunity to connect and subscribe to her podcast and her products.  We do discuss her newest product: The Fusion Mask.  This product is natural, vegan, and organic.  It won't be harsh or react to the skin.  You can use this product a couple of times per week.  It's designed to draw out impurities in the skin, hydrate, and encourage cell renewal and natural cell turnover.  It helps to stimulate the natural production of collagen.   In our conversation, we discuss how face yoga can help to produce more collagen and elastin in our skin.   We naturally tend to lose about 1% of collagen each year from around the age of 18. Massage is very helpful with cell turnover and renewal as it gets into the middle layer of the skin. Boosting circulation and help get fresh blood and nutrients into the areas where collagen and elastin lie.  By strengthening and toning those muscles under the skin you will be providing that structure and everything will look more lifted! Maybe today is the day for you to get curious and connect with Danielle!  Perhaps give Face Yoga a try?  Links and Resources Connect with Danielle Collins Danielle's  10 day Face Yoga Course Fusion Mask and Serum   Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

This podcast episode is the journey of my client Sky who recently completed her 8-week coaching program with me to gain the clarity and confidence she needed regarding her next career move! Sky came to me recently unemployed and feeling confused about what to do next.  She wasn't sure if staying in her early childhood education was the best move for her and she was needing some guidance to help make that decision and gain the skills she needed to show up with confidence to be able to discuss her experience and skills during the interview process Sky wrestled with the how-to effectively seek employment and those beliefs that “nobody was going to want me as a woman in midlife”. She also felt that she was “too old to change what she was doing”.  She had a lot of negative mindset going on at the time of our first meeting! Sometimes making that initial call to a coach can feel scary and be vulnerable with someone you don't know very well.  Sky shares how she felt after that first free sixty-minute introductory call with me.  “It felt good like I was connecting with somebody who understood my situation and help tease out what I wanted and what would make me happy and fulfilled”.   It was clear after our initial conversation that Sky didn't feel that great about herself or her situation.  For her, it was like a lifeboat came along and she was going to jump on!   Sky shares what it was like to show up for the coaching each week and do the homework which combined self-exploration and career coaching.  Sky loved the exercises because they showed her that what she was looking for in the future and it whatever she chose would need to be meaningful and purposeful.  She also learned that she had a lot of knowledge about families and wanted to a be service to her community! During this process, Sky created some big dreams and big goals for herself, and for her, it was helpful to have someone help break those down into small steps that she could follow so that each week she accomplished those goals!  Sky shares how she enjoyed working through the worksheets in the Passion and Purpose Workbook.   She shares her favorite worksheet during the eight weeks and that the exercise made her feel like she was an investment and does have a value to provide and there are things that she wants for herself and her future!  She loves going back and reading what she wrote on the exercises during the coaching process as it helps her to see how far she has come during this period! We discuss that time in the coaching process where Sky felt that turn in her mindset and how she saw herself. That process evolved from the very first session where we tackled some of her ongoing nightmares and how to work through that process. Then she had her mirror work assignments which in the beginning she was whispering her mantra and now she is comfortable looking at herself in the mirror and believing what she is saying to herself!  Even now she is continuing to remind herself in the mirror that she deserves her ideal life!  This helped her keep her goals and focus while making ongoing progress.  There are many coaches out there on the internet and Sky shares why she decided to work with me through the eight-week coaching process and how she felt about our initial introduction.  ( I'll let you listen to her own words! )  So important to hear if you are looking to reach out to a coach!   It became apparent through the coaching that Sky was someone who values creativity, autonomy, and independence.  She also wants to give back to her community!  She wants to be someone who helps people! Sky decided to take her certification to become a life coach and will be opening her coaching business which focuses on helping families. Her business… is Clarity Parenting and her focus will be helping families with young children. A lot of what she will be offering is providing behavior guidance to families! She will also help families find the right type of childcare for their children and offer a unique perspective coming from her professional background.  Sky is confident now that she can do this and she can create her ideal lifestyle and dream career!  She shares that having someone to help guide you to overcome the mindset that is holding you back is very helpful in the process. Also having a coach that can help you take a look at yourself and help you see the value in who you are for yourself and the world is helpful.  What are you waiting for? If you are feeling confused, overwhelmed or stuck in what to do next for your career journey let's connect for your free sixty-minute session so we can get to know each other!  Go grab your favorite beverage and fill out your application!   Links and Resources Connect with Sky Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

Cindy Burnett is the host of the Thoughts from a Page Podcast where she interviews authors about their latest works. An avid reader and book reviewer, Cindy loves to talk about books everywhere she can. In addition to hosting her podcast, she actively promotes books she loves on social media including Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, and LinkedIn. Cindy writes two book columns for The Buzz Magazines, Buzz Reads, and Page Turners, and reviews books monthly for Bookreporter.com. She is also a co-creator of Conversations from a Page, a Houston author event series that brings authors and readers together in a relaxed and welcoming setting; the group recently added an online book club as well. As a SheReads.com contributor, she writes "best of" book articles in the genres of historical fiction, non-fiction, and mysteries. In addition to reading, Cindy loves theatre, art, movies, National parks, travel, and hiking in Colorado during the summer.   Cindy shares her journey on going from lawyer to retirement to take care of children and then ultimately finding her passion and purpose!  She shares how it was seven years ago while working on a volunteer project for her kid's school that someone recognized her love for reading and invited her to be a part of their Facebook book group!  It was by being in the group, meeting, and interviewing authors that it snowballed to where she is today!  (  You just never know when saying yes to something will turn into something more! )    She shares that going through this process was exciting because she always loved reading books and loves to talk so it was fun to see that it could turn into a career! The path wasn't easy nor a straight line! It took a lot of exploring and correcting to form the circle she feels that she has created today!   Cindy's journey continued by hosting a book event in the home for her friend's book that was published.  The response was fantastic and many people showed up and loved the event.  Soon everyone was asking about the next event!  From there Cindy continued to invite authors to the home for these in-person events.  It's during these events that Cindy and her co-host would interview the authors in a very intimate atmosphere!  Sounds like a lot of fun!     Then in 2021 the pandemic hit and in-home author hosting events were not realistic and people suggested that she host a podcast and take her interviews to the airwaves!  So began the journey of researching what it would take to produce a podcast and before she knew it she was recording up to three podcasts a week!     Cindy shares about her journey in learning the art of podcasting and all that goes into producing a show and how she conquered the learning curve!   For Cindy, Google became her friend!     We talk about how to overcome the self-doubt in taking on a new project and overcoming that learning curve!  There are so many resources out there to lend a hand:  A Coach who's walked in your shoes, Google, and YouTube! I've watched a lot of YouTube videos myself when I started my podcast!  Such a great resource for learning how to do something new! Also, ask for feedback! People are willing to share and provide help if you reach out and ask.     Cindy shares that with her podcast business, she picks something new to focus on each month which is great advice when starting out. Don't try to do everything all at once. Take it slowly, learn and get a good grasp of one aspect of the business or customer before moving on to something new!    We talk a bit about the book industry through the pandemic how right now they are seeing supply chain issues and what are the consequences of those shortages.  If you have a specific book that you would like to give for the holiday season then now would be the time to make that purchase!     Cindy shares a book that she is reading right now and one that she is listening to as well!   The print book she is reading now is called: Woodrow on the Bench, Life Lessons from a Wise Old Dog   The book she is listening to is called: Taste, My Life Through Food     Our conversation turns to Cindy giving some advice to women over forty who are on the fence about going after their dream. She encourages you to find that something that you love to do!  When she was an attorney, she like being a lawyer just fine but she loves what she does now!  Can you turn that something that you love to do into something that can move forward into a career? Resources and Links Connect with Cindy Burnett  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Terry Tucker has been an NCAA Division I college basketball player, a Citadel cadet, a marketing executive, a hospital administrator, an undercover narcotics investigator, a SWAT Team Hostage Negotiator, a high school basketball coach, a business owner, a motivational speaker, an author, and most recently, a cancer warrior. He is the author of, Sustainable Excellence, Ten Principles To Living Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life. Terry and his wife have lived all over the United States and currently reside in Colorado with their daughter and Wheaten Terrier, Maggie. In 2019, Terry started the website, Motivational Check to help others find and lead their uncommon and extraordinary lives Terry shares that your life should be about your purpose and finding the reason why you were put on this earth, and then living for that reason! Terry had the opportunity to mentor a young man who asked him how to be successful.  Not just in his job but in life! He didn't want to give him a general answer but provide him with something deeper so he created ten principles and then sent them to him. From there, Terry thought that he had a life story to contribute under each principle and that's how his book Sustainable Excellence was born.  During Terry's cancer treatment which began in April of 2020, he sat down during that period when he was healing to build the stories underneath each of the principles.   We start by discussing the four truths which are a part of Terry now which he  learned during his nine-year cancer journey  Terry's Four Truth's   Control your mind or it will control you Embrace the pain and suffering we all experience in life and use it to make you stronger and a more determined individual What you leave behind is what you weave in the hearts of other people As long as you don't quit - you can never be defeated.  Terry's Three F's  Faith  Family  Friends  This is what's helped Terry through his cancer journey and we spend a good deal of time talking about the four truths and how to make those a part of your life.   Terry shares that the only way you're going to live is if you are growing and if you are not growing, then you are dying.  He encourages us to take the pain we are feeling and flip it inside so that it's burned as fuel and use it as energy to make us stronger people.  Instead of running from pain, Terry has learned how to use it to make him stronger.   I love this portion of the interview!   We are reminded to surround ourselves with people who are going to be positive and uplift us to be successful.  Get the negative people out of your life!  You don't have to reach your goal alone. There are people out there who want to be available to help you be successful!   Something to think about is, what are people going to say about you at your funeral?   ( don't get that confused with living your life based on what people think ).  If you don't like what people are saying about you then you have time to change it now!  We get so focused on today that we lose sight of the big picture. Take a look at the end of your life!  Be happy that you found your purpose in life and that you lived it!   Terry shares a Native American Black Foot Proverb:  When you were born, You Cried and the world Rejoiced.  Live your life in such a way so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice!   Terry reminds us that you can never be defeated!  All of us have goals and they often take longer than we anticipate but if you get discouraged don't give up!  As long as you don't give up, then you can not be defeated!   We discuss that your purpose doesn't need to be your job! Your job can be that “something” that is there to pay the bills.  Your purpose is whatever you feel in your heart.  Terry shares that if there is something you think you should do but scares you then go ahead and do it!  At the end of your life, the things you are going to regret are not the things that you did, but the things that you didn't do and by then it will be too late.  Our discussion moves into Terry sharing his process for writing his book and how he disciplined himself to write every day ( except Sunday). Even if the content was not good, he sat down to put something on paper.  We even chat about the editing process and what's that like for an author and how he would listen to their advice, sleep on it and then realize that they were the experts and end up making the changes!  Terry also learned that his job was not to sell books but his job was to help people. If you help people, then the book will take care of itself.  Terry wrote his book to make a difference and he is impacting so many lives.   We also talk about how to show up for a friend and family member with cancer. Terry's words of wisdom are so helpful.  Hearing firsthand what Terry has experienced going through his treatment was very helpful and he shares those moments and opportunities.  Don't be a friend who sits on the sidelines!  If you want to get involved in someone's life then get involved!  Make a meal, walk the dog, cut the grass! Terry shares his advice for a woman over forty who is at a crossroads in life and is wanting to find her passion and purpose! You have things to give!  Just keep going and move forward one day at a time.  Keep looking for it and look for it with an open heart.  Your purpose will energize you!   Resources and Links Connect with Terry Tucker Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Jean Atman is a Consciousness Coach and Quantum Healer. Her greatest joy is to spark awakening and facilitate deep level healing in the collective. She has been called to reach beyond her beloved practice and is on a mission to assist in the ascension process at a grander scale.  Jean is passionate about sharing her wisdom, tips, and tools that have proven to be the most effective in influencing her journey as well as for her clients!  We begin by discussing Jean's journey towards her practice and how she was born into a tumultuous life with a lot of toxicity.  When you are dealing with that and a lot of this type of energy you develop a particular belief system about how the world works and how you are loved.  As she was growing up, she realized that life didn't feel good and found herself having a lot of struggles. At this point, she felt that there should be more to life and it didn't need to contain so much darkness! Jean feels that she was meant to walk through the darkness and find the light! She then took a deep dive into herself and what she was creating and how she was taking responsibility for the creation of her life around her.  Jean has spent decades unearthing and unpacking all the old belief systems that she grew up around and began shifting them into something she preferred instead.  Her process was working with the mental and emotional aspects of these beliefs and their triggers.   In the old paradigm, we often believe that our shadow parts are scary and that we should be afraid of going into that place.  Jean says that once we recognize that the fear inside of ourselves are pieces that need nurturing, love and compassion then it's easier to make that transition and go inside. Jean shares that she began to go on retreats and take time to be with herself and create a sacred space to rest and listen.  For Jean, her meditation practice was what helped her to learn about herself. She shares that when you can be present within yourself that you can gain access to all sorts of places that are typically hidden or ignored because of the busyness of life.  We talk more about Jean's meditation practice and how that's such an important part of her life and through the years she has learned that she's not alone when mediating.  We discuss her practice of energy healing and how when you start to clear your field and decongest, you allow something else to come in which can be transformational. At this point, we can choose something better in a higher vibrational aspect for ourselves.   Jean shares with us how she helps her community to be a consciousness creator!  She shares how she dives into limiting beliefs and triggers as information.  It's important that as this information comes in and creates a discomfort that we do not stuff it down or deflect it but learn to be comfortable with the discomfort and ask ”what is that within you” and what's being triggered right now.  All those uncomfortable feelings are a wound that's being poked and prodded to say “I'm here and I am needing something from you” When we take that deep dive to see what that is we can unearth it, nurture, and start to clear those feelings. Once you no longer carry that around within you then it's a healed space.   Jean believes that we can become conscious of how we are creating our worlds and once you start to heal those things and start choosing something different for yourself you are in a healed place.   We discuss what it really means to rest and restore the body which is so important to have this transformation.  Jean shares that it's not just the typical “go to bed” rest. That's just the basics!  We get so busy with all the external moving parts of the world that we need to give ourselves permission to “pause”.  Be in the stillness.  We need to stop the momentum and check in with ourselves.  At that point, we can ask ourselves how we are feeling about ourselves or a situation and feel the discomfort. Then perhaps if we need to shift our path we, can feel that and make those slight changes.  Jean shares her insight on how to begin and nurture a mediation practice which is very helpful for those beginning or needing to understand how to acknowledge those thoughts that may creep in while taking that pause. She shares that there is no failing or succeeding in meditation that it's just practice!  Be kind to yourself!  Jean offers a course to her community: Limitless which is a foundational shift for people!  The first portion of the course work is to challenge the foundation of what's not working in your world. You talk about limiting beliefs, triggers, the inner critic, and all those pieces that are working against you. Once you recognize what is not working then you can begin to make the shift.  Jean also includes mindfulness practices, journaling exercises, and prompts so you can get into your inner world. She also offers community-guided healings. By moving that energy out then you can feel lighter and choose something different and better for yourself. The second part of the course is focusing on the aspects of money, relationships, health, vitality, and the gift of receiving.  After you've had the opportunity to build a new foundation then you can align the other aspects of your life!  Resources and Links Connect with Jean Atman Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Dyna Vink is a certified health and nutrition coach who refused to give in after her doctor, dietician, and trainer gave ineffective advice on how to navigate perimenopause.  She now coaches women through her site Holistic Nutrition Lifestyle   Dyna started her journey as a director of marketing with several high-tech companies over the years.  She had what some may consider a dream job.  But in her thirties started to stumble which affected her confidence and belief in herself.   Different symptoms starting coming up and she didn't know what to make of them and hadn't connected the dots to the “change in life”.  Dyna shares with us those symptoms that she was experiencing and how she was working on her own towards trying to find a “magic pill”.   Even at her annual check-up, the doctor proceeded to fat-shame her and prescribed a crazy diet of processed foods.  She knew that this was not the path to gaining back her overall health.   It was after consulting her doctor, trainer, and dietician that she started to dive into reading women's aging literature so that she could understand what was going on with her mind and body.  She started to make some small changes and focused on a lifestyle approach after all the other exhaustive options.   It was after her journey, research, and education that Dyna felt that she would like to become a health and nutrition coach so that she could help other women through this challenge.  Dyna feels that we should be talking more about perimenopause and menopause in our daily lives.  It's nothing to be shameful about.  She makes herself available through coaching and education.   We discuss how Dyna intakes a new client and how every client's situation is handled uniquely and there is no “cookie-cutter”  approach.  Dyan's focus is a lifestyle approach and to think of food as medicine.   Food is one of Dyna's first pillars that she focuses on because it's so important to our overall well-being and the good news is that this is something that we can control.   If we can control the way we eat and resolve some symptoms and problems like inflammation, bloating, joint pain, brain fog, and sleep then it's a big win for our overall health and well-being.   Another pillar that Dyna focuses on with her clients is quality sleep.  Many women come to her stating that they are having issues with weight gain and one of the first questions is, are you getting enough sleep?  Sleep is not only vital to your physical health but to your overall weight loss.  If you don't get enough sleep then your cortisol levels go up and that's a stress hormone that over time can be very toxic to the body.  If you can't get proper sleep then your body can't perform the general maintenance of removing dead cells and rebuilding tissues.   Dyna makes available on her website an article:  Eleven Foods  Ladies in Peri-menopause should never eat.  I will go ahead and put a link to this article in the show notes!  We discuss exercising for health and exercising for weight loss and how that affects women in perimenopause and menopause.  Dyna also shares a client success story which is a great reminder of how we treat our overall health and wellbeing.   So what about the women who are listening that have already gone through the menopause journey and are on the other side?  What should we be concerned about moving forward?  Dyna shares that a focus on bone and muscle strengthening is very important as we get older and we should not let this area of our practice slide.  And please don't forget to work on your balance!  There are many practices and exercises she shares that can help us to stay focused on keeping this an area for commitment.   Dyna closes by leaving the listeners with a challenge and tips on being successful. Are you ready to take her up on this for a short period of time? I know that I have been focusing on her challenge and already seeing some changes in my overall health and well-being.   Resources and Links Connect with Dyna Vink   Get the Article:  11 Foods that ladies in perimenopause should never eat.   Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Lesleigh Tolin is an advanced Grief Recovery Specialist.  She has twelve years of professional hospice experience and it has been a dream to help others with end-of-life challenges having experienced an inordinate amount of loss on her own.  It's now her personal mission to work with adults internationally who have been impacted by emotional loss either current or past to transform their pain into power.  Her Grief Recovery Method is the only evidence and action-based program for healing grief in our nation.   Lesleigh shares that at the start of her journey, she was dealing with her grief by seeking out different coping skills but it was after being introduced to the method that she uses today with her clients that her life was changed.  She was able to process the pain.  It was then that she wanted to give back and began teaching this method to others.  Lesleigh now serves her community internationally!     We discuss that as women in midlife we have walked quite a journey and perhaps when first reaching out to a grief specialist, they may be coming for one instance but in the end, there may be a discovery of more underlying grief that has not yet been acknowledged. Lesleigh shares a great analogy of wearing a backpack when you are born and through the years accumulating more grief and putting it away until finally you are unable to deal with the amount of grief and need to seek help.   Lesleigh walks us through the definitions of grief:   Grief is the natural and reaction to loss.   Grief is the conflicting mass of emotions that we each feel when anything familiar changes  Grief is reaching out to someone who has always been there for us and they are no longer there for us (  either physically or emotionally )  When grieving, it doesn't always need to be about something sad.  It can also be about something good.   Lesleigh makes sure that each of her clients they feel that they feel safe, seen, and secure in their heart-to-heart discussions each week. It's a place where they can communicate about those lost expectations, hopes, or dreams.  We discuss the six common myths in our culture surrounding grief and our conversation highlights all six of the myths.  One common myth is “give it time”. Lesleigh gives a wonderful explanation as to how time does not heal grief and that action within time heals. Not just time it's action within time.  Lesleigh goes on to share how to comfort someone when you don't know what to say at the moment when someone you love is grieving.  It's simple but effective and will speak from your heart.   Lesleigh's introductory program is an eight-week program in which she leads 1:1 support and a book from John James:     The Greif Recovery Handbook.  The client would receive the book, worksheets and then meet weekly with Lesliegh to begin walking together on this journey.  This is a structured, compassionate and experiential process that has therapeutic effects.  At the end of eight weeks, you have an emotional toolbox so they can process any future loss.   We discuss the importance of doing this work with a guide because it can be stressful, exciting, and challenging.  Lesleigh is there for you each week and in-between sessions so if something comes up and you need support she will be there for you to process your thoughts and emotions.   Lesleigh goes on to share a client's story and how they were able to transform their life by going through this process. It's a beautiful story and it's her purpose to her work with others.   Lesleigh found this calling at the age of seventy! She believes in youth- ing and not aging and we continue to discuss those stories that women may tell themselves in midlife that they are “too old” to try something new and find their passion and purpose in life!   It's never too late to begin a journey that's expressive of your heart!  There is only this moment and life is short!    Resources and Links  Connect with Lesleigh Tolin Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Today be prepared to be inspired! My conversation this week is with my client: Julia Schmidt who this year completed her eight-week coaching experience.   Julia came to me needing some help in a career search but what she gained were a new career, increased self-confidence, and a completely new mindset!  In our interview, she shares with the listeners  Where she was at in the beginning of her career search and how that felt and the stories she told herself about her work/life experience and capabilities.  Her thoughts on what she felt she was qualified for in a search and how she was limiting herself and her full potential.   What the coaching process looked like for her and how she worked through the Passion and Purpose Workbook while working towards her career search. She shares how the combination of self-exploration with career coaching homework proved to be a valuable exercise for her journey.  This is not just a career coaching journey! You are stepping into the opportunity to learn more about yourself and how your thoughts and emotions drive your actions and create your results! Why she picked a coach to work with and how this experience was different from other 1:1 experiences   How her mindset has shifted in her ability to take on new challenges   Where she is at right now in her new job and how she is showing up differently each day!   Her advice to any woman over forty who is on the fence about working with a coach   What the process looked like for her when reaching out for coaching and why she would recommend it to others.  Julia is living her dream life and you can as well!  I believe that we are the author of our next chapter and that in less than eight weeks, you can transform your life!     If you are on the fence on your next steps and lack the confidence to move forward, I invite you to reach out to me for your free 60 minutes Clarity Session so you can discover what is holding you back from your dream career!   This is an exciting process and you will be coached during this sixty-minute call and know in the end if you are ready to move forward!  You can apply for a Clarity Session through the link in the show notes!   Resources and Links Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Sharon Valenti's thirst for knowledge led her to spend time in various places around the U.S., as well as a journey throughout India and the shores and villages of Indonesia.   Consistently pursuing her own awakening, she is motivated to help others do the “work” and seek a shift within themselves.  In this podcast, we are talking about mastering your thoughts and emotions!   Sharon shares that in her past growing up she experienced a lot of physical, mental, emotional, and sexual abuse.  But through her work, she has acknowledged that each of these moments of trauma in her life served a purpose.  She feels it makes her more empathetic to others who have walked that same road.  Sharon considers herself a success story because she chooses not to stay in a victim mindset.   Now she can offer that same help to others.   During our discussion, Sharon shares that what moved her forward to finding the peace and joy in her life was when she recognized that she was blaming everybody else for what was going on in herself and not taking responsibility.  She then learned how to question the stories that she was creating.  Each time she was triggered by someone she taught herself to “get still”  and find out what was the belief she had going on about herself that triggered those feelings. Sharon gives some great examples about how when we are younger some experiences can lead us to believe things are really not true about ourselves.  Sharon found that when she stopped arguing with reality, then the peacefulness in her life began to take root.   Sharon goes on to share that there are three types of Business My Business Your Business The Divine's Business When we are in our “own business”  then we are showing confidence in ourselves.  We ultimately raise our energy. In our conversation, Sharon gives some great examples on this scenario.  It's up to us to train our minds and body to stay in our business.   It's important that we seek validation within ourselves and not look to other people to give us that reinforcement and raise our energy vibration.   Sharon also shares how she stays in the present moment so she is aware of the true reality of the situation. She gives some great tips on how to train your mind to do that very thing!  We are told to stay in the present moment but we are never taught.   We discuss staying in our own business and Sharon shares a great mantra:  How do I know it should have happened? Because it did.  When you embrace that you realize that the past has already happened and you don't keep revisiting it in your mind.  It only causes pain to keep arguing with reality.   Sharon encourages us all to show up and question what people say about us and if it's true.  We don't need to prove anything to anybody. Just simply being alive is enough.  How are you uplifting yourself with positive information and people? When you start to surround yourself with positivity in your life, the negative people will drop off.   Remember to question those underlying beliefs.  Are they really true and whose beliefs are they anyway?  Be careful, you may be carrying around someone else's belief.   Resources and Links Connect with Sharon Valenti   BluePrint for Stress Release Course  here  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook