I'm a compulsive hoarder who is trying desperately to change. But it is so hard. This weekly podcast follows me through my decluttering journey with hoarding disorder. Listen for dehoarding tips, advice, experiences and interviews. Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder is a deep dive into this highly stigmatised disorder, so whether you are a person who hoards, you know or work with someone who has hoarding disorder, listen in to gain insights and understanding.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Decision-making can be a huge stumbling block when you're trying to tackle hoarding, from cognitive overload to perfectionism and decision fatigue. In this episode, I unpack why making choices about our belongings feels so overwhelming, what can go wrong if we avoid it, and I share practical strategies to make the process more manageable. If you find yourself stuck in analysis paralysis or endlessly putting off decisions, this one's for you. Buy your copy of Everything You Need to Know About Hoarding by Dr Lynne Drummond at cambridge.org/EverythingHoarding, and get 20% off with the discount code HOARDING20. #ad Introduction to Decision Making and Hoarding Decision making as a common issue among hoarders Overwhelm and avoidance connected to belongings and acquiring new items Episode aims: understanding why decision making is hard, consequences of indecision, and strategies to help Why Decision Making is Difficult for People Who Hoard Cognitive Overload Too many items to process, making each choice feel monumental Resulting in avoidance and deferral of decisions Accumulation due to unresolved decisions Analysis Paralysis Being stuck analysing endless options and outcomes Difficulty prioritising and overthinking decisions Exhaustion from mental effort Information Processing Challenges Trouble prioritising urgency and importance Struggling to filter necessary versus unnecessary information Being trapped in unresolvable decision loops Emotional Barriers Perfectionism and fear of making the wrong decision Catastrophising possible negative outcomes All-or-nothing thinking relating to perfectionism Sentimental Attachment Struggles with emotional connection to items (gifts, memories) Difficulty discerning genuine sentimental value Fear of the Future Anxiety about future need or regret causing paralysis Preference for clinging to items over risking discomfort Executive Function Challenges Difficulties with planning, organising, prioritising, and initiating tasks Impact of poor working memory on decision making Consequences of Avoiding Decisions Vicious Cycle of Procrastination Accumulation of clutter, increased overwhelm and fatigue Practical Implications Safety hazards and restricted home usage Social isolation and relationship strain due to inability to host Emotional Impact Stress, depression, guilt, and shame Financial Consequences Extra spending, buying duplicates, damage or loss of items, missed bills and penalties Building Negative Self-Perceptions Belief in inability to decide reinforces avoidance Declining self-trust and self-esteem Strategies and Techniques for Improving Decision Making Identify Resistance and Mental Blocks Questioning internal "nope" responses Understanding fears or overwhelming factors behind avoidance Treat Decisions as Experiments Lowering pressure by seeing outcomes as learning experiences Avoiding a pass/fail mindset Make Micro-Decisions Starting with low-stakes, emotionally neutral items Building decision-making confidence ("decision muscle") Utilise Support Systems Seeking feedback or accountability from friends, family, organisers, or therapists Sense-checking and encouragement from others Clarify Values and Priorities Aligning decisions with personal goals (e.g., hospitality, functionality, beauty) Using values as a decision compass Set Time Limits Imposing limits per decision to prevent overthinking Adjusting duration as confidence improves Accept “Good Enough” Decisions Allowing for adequacy over perfection Challenging double standards around self-expectations versus others Reduce Number of Choices Limiting possible options (e.g., keep/throw/donate) Pre-determining criteria to streamline choices Reality Checks Probing feelings of “I might need it” with practical questions Reviewing usage frequency and functionality Increase Awareness of Avoidance Noticing procrastination and avoidance behaviours Evaluating the significance of indecision as a barrier Build Tolerance for Uncertainty and Discomfort Accepting that discomfort is part of life, and not deciding brings other difficulties Gradually practicing sitting with uncertainty Practice Consistency in Decision Making Incorporating daily decision-making habits Gently challenging avoidance and celebrating each choice made Decision-making is a learnable, improvable skill The importance of starting small and practicing imperfect decisions Building self-trust and confidence through repeated practice Encouragement to challenge avoidance and recognise growth with each decision Links Buy your copy of Everything You Need to Know About Hoarding by Dr Lynne Drummond at cambridge.org/EverythingHoarding, and get 20% off with the discount code HOARDING20. Podcast ep 172: Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents' very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live Podcast ep 186: 10 executive dysfunction tips and tricks to help people who hoard, whether we have ADHD or are neurodivergent or not – Hoarding Awareness Week 2025 Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt Podcast ep 162: From Fibble to Focus: Defibble your executive dysfunction with Jo Cavalot Podcast ep 112: Executive function, executive dysfunction and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall Podcast ep 149: ADHD, hoarding and clutter with Susie Boutal, ADHD and Declutter Coach Podcast ep 107: Things that look like hoarding but aren't: ADHD, depression, autism, OCD, OCPD and more Podcast ep 40: ADHD and hoarding with Dr Sharon Morein Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall Podcast ep 28: Avoid analysis paralysis by having ‘systems' Podcast ep 49: Sitting with discomfort: distress tolerance and hoarding – How unconscious distress avoidance might be worsening your problems Reasons to be Cheerful with Ed Miliband Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding Become a Dehoarding Darling Submit a topic for the podcast to cover Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderpodcast Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Pinterest: That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder subreddit Help out: Support this project Sponsor the podcast Subscribe to the podcast Subscribe to the podcast here
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Self-care gets a lot of airtime these days, but I've started rethinking what it actually means, especially when you're struggling with hoarding disorder. In this episode, I talk about why marketed, consumer-driven “self-care” just adds more pressure, and why nurturing yourself with compassion, connection, and practical routines is far more effective. Plus, I share some genuinely helpful, low-cost ways to support yourself without adding to the clutter - or your to-do list. Self-Care in Modern Times Evolution of the meaning of “self-care”: The older, practical definition (basic hygiene, nourishment) Current consumer-driven, extravagant interpretations Critique of modern self-care commercialisation Challenges of Hoarding and Mental Health Struggles Emotional toll of hoarding disorder Stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, grief The exhausting process of trying to “fix” things Daily stressors of living in a hoard Feelings of failure, constant reminders, adrenaline spikes from unexpected visitors, tripping over items The Real Purpose of Self-Care Balancing negative emotions (stress, grief, trauma) with activities that nurture the soul Evaluating popular self-care advice The problem with universal, commercialised recommendations Importance of individualised, inward-looking approaches Introducing the Concept of "Self-Nurture" How self-nurture differs from self-care Greater compassion, sustainability, and personalisation Emphasis on looking inwards for individual needs Practical examples of self-nurturing activities The Pitfalls of Commercialised Self-Care The “shoulds” culture and guilt surrounding unmet self-care standards Surface-level versus meaningful acts of care How marketed solutions often do not address real needs Guilt and shame when unable to practice recommended self-care (especially for those who hoard) Consumer Culture and Self-Care Self-care as a commodified experience: Encouragement to buy unnecessary products How this affects people who hoard Risk of exacerbating clutter by acquiring more as “self-care” Focus on external fixes rather than internal wellbeing The Benefits of Self-Nurture Self-nurture as inexpensive or free Focus on activities rather than acquisitions Finding joy or restoration in simple practices (e.g., using what you have, accessing the library, running without specialised gear) Compassionate Self-Nurture in Practice Asking internal questions about core needs (physical, emotional, psychological) Treating oneself as one would treat a person they love Emphasis on gentle, non-critical, incremental progress Drinking water for wellbeing rather than obligation Time in nature, connecting with friends, creativity, self-acceptance Building Emotional Security and Gentleness Establishing emotional security as a core need Managing self-criticism and reaching out for connection despite anxiety Celebration of small wins and progress Validating and acknowledging difficult feelings with compassion Evaluating and Choosing Nurturing Activities Key questions to ask: “Will this nurture me emotionally, psychologically, or physically?” Differentiating between genuine needs and justifying unnecessary purchases Avoidance of reinforcing negative patterns through acquisition Developing a Personal Toolbox for Self-Nurture Gathering and customising strategies that work Routines and coping mechanisms Taking stock of helpful techniques, personalising approaches Recognising and valuing unique sources of restoration Top Tip DIY, low-cost tip for cleaning the dishwasher with household items Encouragement to take any step, however small, towards self-nurture Links The "feeling your feelings" episode Episodes talking about the inner critic: with Steve Chapman; about the song that changed everything for me; and about making mistakes Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding Become a Dehoarding Darling Submit a topic for the podcast to cover Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderpodcast Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Pinterest: That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder subreddit Help out: Support this project Sponsor the podcast
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ For Hoarding Awareness Week 2025, I'm focusing on executive function - the brain's control centre for planning, starting, and finishing tasks - and the small, practical hacks that can make a genuine difference for people who hoard, whether or not we have ADHD or are neurodivergent. I talk about real-life tips for breaking the overwhelm, managing perfectionism, building momentum, and overcoming shame, all with the aim of making progress sustainable and achievable in your day-to-day life. This episode is all about honest advice that actually works, whether you're in the thick of it or just looking for a few smarter ways to approach this. Hoarding Awareness Week 2025 and its theme: Hoarding & Executive Function Recognition that executive function challenges impact both neurodivergent and neurotypical people Executive Function and Hoarding Previous podcast episodes relating to executive function, ADHD, and hoarding Importance of using effective hacks and techniques, regardless of neurotype Emphasis on finding what works personally for each listener The Realities and Challenges of Tackling Hoarding Overwhelm and daunting feelings about dehoarding Breaking tasks into small, manageable parts Focus on actionable, day-to-day strategies rather than long-term, rigid planning Understanding Executive Function Explanation of what executive function is (control centre for planning, focus, and impulse control) Factors that can impair executive function (neurodivergence, mental health, stress, lack of sleep, etc.) Universality of executive dysfunction - everyone struggles at times Emotional Barriers: Perfectionism and Shame The cycle of shame and self-blame in executive dysfunction and hoarding Societal judgment around hoarding, and its paralysing effects Strategies for stepping back, naming emotions, and cultivating self-compassion Core Executive Dysfunction Tips and Hacks Breaking Tasks Down Setting realistic micro-goals The concept of “towards” vs. “away” moves in progress Tracking Progress Counting bags/items leaving the house Caution against tracking becoming burdensome for some Using Timers Setting short (e.g., 5-minute) timers to help with task initiation Use of voice assistants to avoid distraction Reverse-timer technique to use end of music/podcast as a cue for action The Two-Minute Rule Limitations and personal adaptations of rule Identifying Motivations Creating visual or written reminders of why you want to dehoard Acceptance of some tools working only temporarily, and switching when necessary Reward Systems Small, non-material rewards for completing tasks Linking listening to desired media (like the podcast) with decluttering activities Non-Negotiable Rules Creating routines to reduce decision fatigue (e.g., charity bags leave home immediately) Body Doubling Doing tasks alongside others (physically or virtually, like in the host's Zoom sessions) Emotional/moral support of parallel accountability Alternative ways to body double if group support isn't accessible Time Blocking and Scheduling Using calendars and reminders to schedule decluttering sessions Flexibly adapting this strategy based on personal response Habit Stacking Linking a new task to an established routine (e.g., unloading dishwasher while kettle boils) Using “add-ons” for frequently-visited spaces (e.g., clearing five things each time you enter the bathroom) Links Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt Podcast ep 162: From Fibble to Focus: Defibble your executive dysfunction with Jo Cavalot Podcast ep 112: Executive function, executive dysfunction and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall Podcast ep 149: ADHD, hoarding and clutter with Susie Boutal, ADHD and Declutter Coach Podcast ep 107: Things that look like hoarding but aren't: ADHD, depression, autism, OCD, OCPD and more Podcast ep 40: ADHD and hoarding with Dr Sharon Morein Podcast ep 82: Dehoarding when you're drowning with KC Davis of Struggle Care Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall Podcast ep 184: What if we actually felt the feelings? An honest conversation about trauma, hoarding, and allowing yourself to feel Podcast ep 28: Avoid analysis paralysis by having ‘systems' Arielle and Ned's Daily Tips That May or May Not Help You Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding Become a Dehoarding Darling Submit a topic for the podcast to cover Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderpodcast Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Pinterest: That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder subreddit Help out: Support this project Sponsor the podcast Subscribe to the podcast Subscribe to the podcast here
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm with Dr Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor and hoarding expert extraordinaire. We unpack the concept of engaging with our belongings - actually seeing, touching, and using the things we tend to accumulate, rather than letting them fade into the background. Jan shares insights from her work, explains why we often feel safer just owning stuff instead of interacting with it, and offers practical ways to build a healthier, more intentional relationship with what we own. There are some genuinely enlightening moments, and plenty of ideas for anyone looking to break free from an excess of stuff. Defining "Engaging with Our Stuff" What it means to actually engage with possessions (seeing, touching, using) Comparison to possessions fading into the background The idea of using versus just possessing objects Patterns of Engagement Among People Who Hoard Sense of safety from being surrounded by possessions without interaction Only the "top layer" of possessions typically being used Loss of intention behind keeping sentimental or useful items The psychological comfort of having versus using objects Emotional and Psychological Aspects of Compulsive Hoarding Emotional connection to the potential of objects rather than actual objects Avoidance of decision-making by not engaging/touching items Security and reassurance derived from the mere presence of items Defeatism and pointlessness associated with searching for or using objects Barriers to Engaging with Possessions Overwhelm from the sheer volume of stuff Active resistance and avoidance behaviours Feelings of incompetence and adaptation through purchasing duplicates Guilt associated with over-accumulation Benefits of Actively Engaging with Possessions Rediscovering useful or wanted items when sorting Increased awareness of what is owned and where it is Neurological and psychological benefits of tactile interaction Insights gained from using and trying on items (e.g., clothing) Decision-making as a muscle that strengthens with practice Realisations about unnecessary duplicates (e.g., multiple ladles in the kitchen) Emotional and practical hurdles in finding homes for items Perfectionism and rigidity around item placement and organisation Moving, Arranging, and Re-organising Possessions Resistance to moving items from "their place" due to tradition, attachment, or perfectionism Fear of forgetting where things are if organisational changes are made Multi-step decision fatigue when organising The importance of flexible, evolving systems for item placement Confronting Avoidance and Overwhelm The value of small steps, e.g., simply looking into an avoided bag or space The myth of a “good reason” for keeping certain items, often dispelled when items are revisited Developing Healthier, More Intentional Relationships with Stuff Introducing intention and ritual to everyday interactions with possessions “Rotation stations” and seasonal evaluation/rituals Benefits of conscious handling, organisation, and maintenance Cultural Perspectives and Practices Japanese concepts: Te Ate: hand-care, tactile connection as a ritual Mushiboshi: seasonal airing and assessment of items Ma: meaningful emptiness/space as a source of tranquillity Contrasts between Western consumerism and other cultural approaches to possessions Challenges and Solutions in Organising and Letting Go The impact of spatial processing or organisational difficulties Accepting that resistance to change is sometimes due to overwhelm Personalisation and Flexibility in Managing Possessions Tailoring organisation and engagement to one's own needs, routines, and neurodiversity Maximalism and the need for varying levels of stimulus—distinguishing between maximalism and chaos Allowing spaces to be intentionally clear, embracing the benefits of emptiness The ongoing journey of developing intentionality with possessions The importance of kindness and patience with oneself in making these changes Links Podcast ep 146: Where Dragons Live and what we leave behind Podcast ep 172: Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents' very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live How to watch Where Dragons Live Podcast ep 53: The Endowment Effect and hoarding – How this cognitive bias makes you feel the need to keep everything Podcast ep 124: How the little-known Hummingbird Method can help you to dehoard the areas you've been avoiding Podcast ep 74: Couples and hoarding: An interview with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist Podcast ep 140: How to cope with – or help – a partner who hoards, with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt Elis James and John Robins podcast Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form Dr Jan Eppingstall at Stuffology https://www.facebook.com/stuffologyconsulting/ https://twitter.com/stuff_ology https://www.instagram.com/stuff_ology/ Dr Jan Eppingstall on Pinterest Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding Become a Dehoarding Darling Submit a topic for the podcast to cover Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderpodcast Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Pinterest: That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That 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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ This week, I talk about what happens when I actually let myself feel the tough emotions instead of shutting them down - a pattern that's shaped my life and my struggles with hoarding, self-harm, and eating disorders. After a thought-provoking conversation with Anna Sale on Death, Sex & Money last year, I started questioning whether avoiding feelings has helped or hurt me in the long run and have been trying to process that ever since! I share what it's like to sit with big emotions, experiment with messy ways to cope, and why feeling the feelings might just be a way forward. Avoiding Feelings Realisation that I tend to do anything rather than feel difficult emotions. Recent personal reflection and processing feelings over the past few months. Impact of mental health and a PTSD flare-up on my ability to manage feelings. Connecting Coping Mechanisms to Avoidance Experience with PTSD, self-harm, anorexia, and bulimia as different forms of not feeling or avoiding emotions. Insights from an interview with Anna Sale on Death, Sex & Money that linked these coping together as forms of avoidance. Acknowledgment that these strategies were more than just avoidance - also punitive, protective, and multifaceted. The Cost and Pattern of Emotional Avoidance Compartmentalising as a lifelong coping skill and its negative long-term consequences. Difficulty breaking the habit of not feeling and the impact on my sense of identity. Recognition that suppressing feelings can be as damaging as (or more damaging than) the feelings themselves. Actively Facing and Processing Feelings Engaging in therapy, journaling (both resentful and creative/collage style), and reading poetry to access emotions. Talking more openly with friends as a supportive measure. Forcing myself to do enjoyable activities (like getting outside), which helps counteract avoidance. Community, Connection, and Support Impact of Trauma and Suppression on Daily Life How PTSD and unprocessed sadness began affecting sleep, revealing that suppressing feelings is no longer effective. Discusses the challenge of letting oneself feel emotions, both by choice and when overcome involuntarily. The risks of being overwhelmed and the delicate balance between feeling and avoidance. Learning and Conversations About Emotional Acceptance Revisiting lessons from previous podcast guests about the counterproductivity of suppressing or over-intellectualising feelings. The concept that suppressed emotions may “come out sideways” through other behaviours, like self-harm or hoarding. Nuanced view of coping mechanisms - not labeling them as purely negative since they served protective purposes. Vulnerability, Shame, and Deepening Relationships Gradual willingness to share deeper, more distressing moments with friends. Examining the reasons behind the instinct to hide intense distress. How vulnerability leads to stronger, more meaningful connections. Positive Effects of Feeling the Hard Stuff Discovering that feeling hard emotions increases the capacity to feel positive emotions more deeply. Finding deeper love, joy, and beauty in everyday experiences. Recognising the importance of support systems when exploring difficult emotions. Reflection and Encouragement for Listeners Encourages listeners to be curious about their own patterns of avoidance and coping. Cautions that intentionally feeling emotions is difficult and requires support. The hopeful observation that allowing feelings can be cathartic, gratifying, and healing—even if it's uncomfortable. Links My interview on Death, Sex & Money Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall Podcast ep 169: Compassion-focused therapy for grief and hoarding with Dr Chia-Ying Chou Podcast ep 172: Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents' very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live Declutter Hub podcast Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding Become a Dehoarding Darling Submit a topic for the podcast to cover Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderpodcast Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Pinterest: That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder subreddit Help out: Support this project Sponsor the podcast
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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I chat with Carrie Lagerstedt, a professional home organiser specialising in working with neurodivergent people in New Zealand. Carrie, diagnosed with ADHD herself, shares insights on managing clutter and executive dysfunction by creating home systems that work for us. We challenge the very idea of laziness and explore the potential of “may as well”. Buy your copy at cambridge.org/EverythingHoarding, and get 20% off with the discount code HOARDING20. #ad Carrie's background and transition from teaching to organising Neurodivergence and Clutter Common issues linking neurodivergence with clutter Out of sight, out of mind Sensory overwhelm and its effect on executive functioning Challenges faced by those with executive dysfunction Carrie's Experience with ADHD Benefits of having ADHD when working with clients with similar challenges Building trust through lived experiences and understanding Moral neutrality and Organising KC Davis' influence on Carrie's philosophy Moral neutrality and functionality in organising Debunking the concept of laziness Challenges of living up to capitalist expectations Systems for Neurodivergent Individuals Making the home work for individuals Difference between aspirational thinking and functional changes Importance of practical systems over willpower Executive Functioning and Organisational Strategies Tools used to aid working memory and organisation (e.g., Post-its) Cognitive flexibility and overcoming 'all or nothing' thinking Understanding blocks and identifying actionable solutions Personal Experiences and Adjustments Personal stories and realisations regarding household tasks Impact of habituation and changing perspectives on tasks Tools and Hacks for Developing Systems Categorising as key to organisation Using visual reminders and structured systems
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to unpack "towards moves" and "away moves" in the context of hoarding. These terms might sound unusual, but they're crucial for understanding behaviour in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and how they relate to our values. It's all about recognising whether our actions are leading us closer to what matters or pulling us further away, and we'll be exploring how to identify and pivot those choices. Introduction to Towards Moves and Away Moves Definition and explanation of the concept. The relevance of these moves in dealing with hoarding disorder. Initial thoughts on the impact of small actions. Examples in a Hoarding Context Away moves (e.g., keeping craft supplies, avoiding recognising chaos). Towards moves (e.g., donating supplies, acknowledging home environment issues). Explanation of how values influence these moves. Role of Values in Decision Making Importance of determining personal values. How values affect choices and provide motivation. Impact of materialism and societal pressures on values. Cognitive Fusion Explanation and examples of cognitive fusion. The effect of tightly held beliefs on reality and actions. Discussion of accuracy vs. helpfulness of thoughts. Flexibility vs. Rigidity and Perfectionism Psychological inflexibility and societal expectations. The struggle between personal values and societal pressures. The concept of emotional flexibility and its importance. Recognising Towards and Away Moves Strategies for acknowledging and reflecting on these moves. Importance of awareness in decision-making processes. Dopamine and Pleasure vs. Meaning The role of dopamine in pleasure and motivation. Discussion on short-term pleasure vs. long-term meaning. How these insights influence approach and avoidance behaviours. Making Changes and Addressing Moves Creating “if-then” plans to anticipate moves. Reflecting on decisions and their outcomes. Recognising patterns and using past experiences to guide future actions. Role of Helpers in Towards and Away Moves Identification and importance of helpers like goal setting and values clarification. Challenges faced by individuals with attentional deficits. Votes for the Person You Want to Be Connection between choices and self-identity. Concept of actions as votes for future selves. First Steps to Take More Towards Moves Starting with value clarification exercises. Questions to help determine what's important personally. Encouragement to explore inner motivations and experiences.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Podcasthon Mind, the mental health charity Support Mind During a recent drive with a perfectly curated playlist, I had a revelation about cause and effect, particularly how our past behaviours and experiences contribute to both our challenges and our successes. I talk about having a compassionate understanding of how we've arrived at our current situation and how small, mindful actions today can shape a more positive future. The episode also features a discussion on Podcasthon and highlights the UK mental health charity Mind. Explanation of Podcasthon: A week where podcasts highlight a charity. Mind Charity: Focus on the mental health charity Mind in the UK. Audio Clip: Sharing a video of Mind's work, with a translation of a Welsh sentence. Cause and Effect Discussion Insight through Music: Personal anecdote about creating a playlist for a long drive. The role of personal actions in positive outcomes. Life and Hoarding: Exploring causes of both positive and negative outcomes in life. Factors influencing hoarding: Trauma, scarcity, and mental health challenges. Behaviour evolution: Hoarding behaviours becoming normal over time. Impact of Life Experiences Examining past experiences and their contributions to current behaviours. Considering past without judgment as a way to understand hoarding. Facing Reality Objective Assessment: Evaluating the current state of living conditions. Navigating feelings like anger, sadness, and bitterness. Future Implications Positive Actions: How they can shape a better future. Accountability and Responsibility: Recognising the impact of present actions.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to explore a fascinating angle on hoarding: its artistic side. We'll tackle the connection between creativity and hoarding, including why so many people who hoard are into arts and crafts, and diving into how people who hoard might view their possessions in an unusually aesthetic light. Jan shares insights from both clinical experience and research, offering a fresh perspective on the parallels between art and accumulation. Whether you're a creative type or just curious about the psychology behind collecting, this conversation will give you plenty to think about. Curiosity: Example of using curiosity to cope with pain. Gratitude: Using the Finch app to practice gratitude daily. Journaling: Imperfect journaling as a new approach to managing emotions. Arty, Crafty Side of Hoarding Trends seen in clients regarding art and hoarding The challenge of managing craft supplies in people who hoard Analysing Creativity and Hoarding Comparison to detectives and acute perception Consideration of feeling overlooked Struggles with Crafting and Perfectionism Challenges in starting and completing craft projects Study on Artists and Hoarding Traits shared by studio artists and people who hoard ADHD and executive dysfunction parallels Art and Beauty in Hoarding Tendency to keep beautiful things Struggles with displaying or appreciating collected items Analysis of Andy Warhol's Accumulation Discussion of Warhol's collection as art vs. hoarding Socioeconomic and behavioural aspects of collecting vs. hoarding Aesthetics and Inclusion in Hoarding Discussion of under-inclusiveness in categorising objects Exploration of seeing beauty in ordinary objects Potential Neurodevelopmental Aspects of Hoarding Insights from MRI study Brain regions potentially linked to hoarding behaviours Using Art to Represent Hoarding Space Artists using clutter and hoarding as themes in art Questioning the nature of representing hoarding through art Fear of Sterile and Soulless Homes Addressing the fear that tidiness equals lack of personality Discussing clutter core and maximising aesthetic displays
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm chatting with Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger, a psychologist at De Montfort University who has researched how hoarding behaviours develop and the potential for early intervention. We explore the importance of looking beyond physical clutter to understand what possessions mean for those with hoarding tendencies and discuss the role of trauma, loss and life transitions. Plus, we touch on the challenges and potential pathways for early intervention in children and young people. Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger's Path to Studying Hoarding Influence of TV programmes about hoarding. Curiosity about the development of hoarding behaviours. Research on Hoarding Behaviours and Childhood Discussion on hoarding behaviours beginning in childhood or adolescence. Experiences shared by research participants. Understanding 'Struggling to Manage' Explanation of the concept derived from research. Methods used by Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger in her research. Qualitative study and grounded theory methodology. Patterns of Hoarding Development Managing possessions and life. Emotional attachments and meanings of possessions. Impact of life transitions on hoarding behaviour. Overcoming Hoarding Challenges Importance of support beyond possessions Identity and functioning challenges for individuals with hoarding disorder. Early Intervention in Hoarding Difficulty in identifying people who need early intervention. Importance of awareness and understanding childhood behaviours. Diagnostic Criteria and Support Challenges Discussion on current diagnostic criteria for hoarding disorder. Difficulties in accessing support without a diagnosis. Potential Patterns and Findings in Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger's Research Emotional attachments and decision-making reluctance. Preferences for discarding possessions through certain methods. Advice for Parents about children showing hoarding behaviours Recommendations for parents of children displaying hoarding-related behaviours. Importance of communication and understanding the emotional meanings attached to items. Emphasis on trauma and loss in hoarding behaviours. Importance of understanding personal experiences in hoarding
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode I chat with Sam, who speaks movingly about growing up with a mother who hoards. Now 28, Sam reflects on the claustrophobic environment, the impact on their self-esteem and organisation, and the ongoing journey to rebuild a relationship with food, space, and self-worth. Whether you're a hoarder, the child of somebody who hoards, or you know someone who is, Sam's story offers a vital perspective on living through - and beyond - the hoard. Sam's experience growing up in a hoarded home Importance of understanding perspectives of those affected by hoarding Sam's Childhood Experience Description of upbringing in a hoarded home Emotional impact and feelings of claustrophobia and anxiety Lack of emotional and physical space Experiences of shame and comparison with peers Coping Mechanisms and Effects on Daily Life Sam's view of their home as an obstacle course Impact of hoarding on family relationships Lack of privacy and its influence on personal development Impact on Self-Esteem and Mental Health Struggle with self-esteem and self-care Connection between environment and depression Feelings of negativity and isolation School and Social Interactions Effect on academic performance and organisational skills Challenges in completing schoolwork Experiences with friends visiting the home and related anxieties Adolescence and Growing Awareness Anger and frustration during teenage years Lack of external intervention and support Missed opportunities for professional help External Perception and Professional Insight Outside family and societal perceptions of hoarding Drip-feeding experiences to others and feeling of overwhelming others Relationship with Food and Nutrition Negative perceptions of food due to spoiling and smells Ongoing struggle with eating certain foods, particularly fruit Rebuilding a relationship with food as an adult Leaving the Home and Independence Sam's experience and decision to move out at 20 Challenges and processes involved in leaving the parental hoarded home Continued responsibilities in a second hoarded home Long-term Effects on Sam's Adult Life Influence on career choice and support work with young carers Ongoing challenges with personal organisation and self-care Struggles with mental health and burnout Sam's Relationship with Family Complex relationship dynamics with parents Lack of understanding from parents regarding Sam's struggles and decisions Reflection on parental insight into hoarding and its effects on family Current Relationship with Hoarding and Cleaning Sam's approach to possessions Emotional responses to cleaning and organising tasks Developing the skillset for maintaining an organised living space Message for Others Experiencing Similar Situations Encouragement for other young carers and children of hoarders Importance of self-worth and identity outside of hoarding stigmas Strategies for mental health and personal growth Final Thoughts and Reflections Reflections on how sharing and exploration helps understanding Hope for the interview to be beneficial to listeners with similar experiences
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I'm reflecting on 11 unexpected lessons I've picked up since starting this podcast, which go beyond just understanding hoarding disorder. From learning the power of showing progress rather than perfection, to discovering the benefits of stepping out of my comfort zone, I'll share insights that have influenced not just my journey with hoarding, but life as a whole. Let's see how the themes of mistakes, progress, and learning can apply to anyone seeking positive change. Importance of showing progress instead of aiming for perfection Personal struggle with early episodes and progression over time Decision to keep early episodes live as a reflection of journey and growth Examining Contradictions Realisation of contradictions in personal life versus podcasting Applying podcast editing philosophy to home tidying Capabilities and Achievements Realisation of being able to do things previously thought impossible Learning from incremental progress and its application to life Comfort Zones Exploring stepping outside of comfort zones The rewards of nudging the edges and expanding comfort zones slowly Learning and Growth Starting from minimal knowledge and continuously learning Academic engagement and gaining comprehensive understanding Sticking to a Routine Maintaining a consistent schedule and routine with the podcast Role of accountability and motivation in sticking to a routine Adaptability and Change Ability to learn, adapt, and tweak processes over time Application of flexibility learned from podcasting to personal life Community and Accountability Impact of accountability and community support on podcasting and life Building mutual support through interactions and feedback Facing Mistakes and Reality Embracing mistakes and authenticity rather than striving for flawlessness Shifting perspective on self-perceived failures Respect and Compassion from Others Receiving respect from guests and listeners despite personal doubts Impact on self-compassion and self-respect Transferability of Learning Applying lessons learned in podcasting to other areas of life Recognising that growth in one area can benefit others Reflections on the transformative impact of the podcast on life Encouragement to pursue growth and new experiences beyond direct goals
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I talk about the practical challenges of handling clothes when losing or gaining weight, without promoting or criticising body size changes – this is a diet-culture free zone! I look at the emotional, nostalgic, and practical hurdles in letting go of clothes that no longer fit and offer advice on maintaining a well-balanced wardrobe while managing current size transitions. Like, what do we buy in our new size?! Plus, I'll provide practical tips on selling or donating old clothes and how to avoid over-accumulating in your new size. Handling Clothes When Gaining or Losing Weight Experience with Weight Fluctuation Emotional and Practical Challenges of Clothes That No Longer Fit Challenges of Discarding Clothes Emotional Attachment to Clothes Difficulty in Letting Go of Clothes with Memories or Associations Factors Influencing the Decision to Keep or Discard Clothes Potential Future Weight Fluctuations Emotional Attachments The Sunk Cost Fallacy Guilt About Waste Strategies for Managing Clothes When Weight Changes Building the Dehoarding Muscle Selling vs. Donating Clothes Setting Parameters for Clothing Storage Practical Solutions for Current Clothing Needs Shopping Your Own Stuff Gradual Replacement Strategy Mindful Purchasing Decisions The Liberating Aspects of Letting Go of Clothes
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm joined by Jasmine Sleigh, professional declutterer, as we discuss the daunting first steps of reaching out for professional help in tackling hoarding. Jasmine shares insights into what prompts individuals to make that initial call and the courage it takes, alongside practical strategies for working with organisers. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on overcoming fears and building trust for positive change in managing clutter. Inviting Professional Help Jasmine explains common motivators for people to seek help Specific incidents or realisations prompting action Example scenarios like misplaced items or repairs The Initial Call to a Professional Organiser What typically prompts the call for professional help Jasmine's perspective on admiration for those who reach out The importance of taking calls seriously and with empathy Engaging with Potential Clients Approach to initial conversations with potential clients Building trust and understanding the client's situation Establishing client needs and potential outcomes Assessing the Client's Home How Jasmine gathers information about the client's home Importance of assessing without judgment Considering client interaction with their items and living space Professional Organiser-Client Dynamics Respecting clients' preferences and leading decisions Balancing professional insight with client autonomy Working towards the client's goals and priorities Process from Inquiry to Working Together Steps from initial inquiry to in-home visit Managing client expectations and realities Ensuring client comfort and readiness In-Home Visit Experience Jasmine's mindset and approach during a home visit Avoiding overwhelm and maintaining professionalism Logistical and emotional assessments of the client's environment Judgment and Perception in the Decluttering Process Being conscious of non-verbal cues and judgments perceived by clients Strategies for maintaining client comfort and trust Determining Fit and Referrals Assessing fit between client and professional organiser Referring clients to other professionals when appropriate Dealing with Client Motivations and External Pressures Addressing clients seeking help due to external pressures Finding a balance between urgency and client readiness Ensuring Positive Outcomes and Encouraging Future Engagement Creating a sense of achievement for the client Fostering positive experiences to encourage future self-help Challenges and Responsibilities of Professional Organisers Ethical responsibilities and managing client expectations Building trust for effective collaboration Personal Reflections and Habits for Mental Health Jasmine shares personal habits that support her mental health Reflection on the importance of reading and self-care activities
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, Dr Jan Eppingstall and I explore how to create a ventral vagal space or touchstone to help us regulate our emotions, drawing inspiration from the work of Deb Dana and polyvagal theory. We look at how we can find or create areas within our home, and objects we can use on the go, that provide safety and connection, allowing us to feel grounded and manage overwhelming moments. We'll look at the emotional significance of objects, avoiding those that glower at us, and instead creating spaces filled with comfort and warmth. Creating Your Own Ventral Vagal Space Permission Slip segment Discussion about photographic portraits Emotions associated with the portraits Objects as Memories Significant memories vs. happy memories Harriet Impey's notion of "glowering" objects Emotional Impact of Objects Portraits as a reminder of insecurity Ventral Vagal Space Concept Use of Deb Dana's work in polyvagal theory Connection between emotional safety and physical space Explanation of Polyvagal Theory Breakdown of the nervous system's stages: ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal vagal Relevance of Polyvagal Theory to Hoarding Trauma and its relation to object attachment Challenges of decision-making in a cluttered environment Deb Dana's Home Analogy - Comparison of home systems to body's autonomic systems Integration needed for a "full life" and connection Practical Application of Ventral Vagal Spaces Creating nourishing home spaces Abundance Importance of Touchstones Explanation and significance of touchstones Examples of personal or portable calming items Creating a Ventral Vagal Space or Touchstone Starting small by identifying objects that bring safety and contentment Using childhood memories to influence current safe spaces Applications and Benefits Using the space for emotional regulation Touchstones as portable reminders of safety Recognising objects that already serve as touchstones Importance of awareness and observation in identifying touchstones Utilising Resources for Grounding Examples of resources: lava lamps, messages, certain sounds Strategies for implementing these resources in daily life
Sign up for the newsletter: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/newsletter Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I'm sharing nine strategies that are making a real difference in managing my hoarding behaviour and curbing over-acquiring right now. From tricks to overcome perfectionism and opening a daunting pile of letters to finding support in unexpected places and even leveraging a cute app, these tactics are moving me forward. Join me as I lay out what's working, in the hope it sparks a few ideas for you too. Opening 100 unopened letters Overcoming fear and procrastination Sorting coins and dealing with obsolete items Decision-making process in letting go Recognising dehoarding as self-kindness, not punishment Benefits of having a friend who knows the hoarding situation Managing perfectionism and doing things imperfectly Using the "hummingbird method" for tasks Introduction and use of the Finch app for self-care Using virtual assistants for task reminders Success with excessive mug collection and food cupboards Impact of the documentary "Buy Now" on purchasing habits Changing relationship with the inner critic Overcoming Mail Anxiety Milestone Kindness, Not Chore Embrace Imperfection for Future Growth Hands-Free Task Management Best-before dates at the start of the year Consumerism Documentary Curbing Instant Gratification
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I chat with Harriet Impey about the complex process of clearing out her parents' cluttered house after their deaths. From unusual family rules to emotional ties with objects, we cover how Harriet navigated the challenges of sorting belongings, her family dynamics, and the personal growth she experienced along the way navigating emotional landscapes. We also talk about whether her parents hoarded and how their relationship with their stuff has affected her relationship with her stuff. Plus, we discuss the importance of letting go, embracing mindfulness, and the transformative power of therapy. Trailer: Where Dragons Live: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ARgzYZei8 Growing up in a cluttered house and realisation later in life Harriet's mother's attachment to objects and possible hoarding Influence of family habits on personal behaviour Relationships and Emotional Awareness Harriet's journey towards emotional awareness and accepting imperfections Importance of recognising complex feelings Managing fear of arguments and expressing anger Using Objects Instead of Saving Them Harriet's family preference for keeping items "too special to use" Transition to using these items with joy Family Dynamics and Emotional Suppression Differences in attitudes towards possessions among Harriet and her siblings Parents' contrasting approaches to objects Impact of her mother's anxiety on household rules and behavior Clearing Out Parents' Home Harriet's responsibility in sorting through parental belongings Emotional impact of dealing with deceased person's possessions Reference to "Swedish Death Cleaning" Importance of considerate item management Therapy and Self-Reflection Harriet's 20 years of therapy and its impact The influence of therapy on personal happiness and self-awareness Learning to be less rigid in life Managing and Letting Go of Belongings Evaluating the necessity of keeping certain belongings Mindfulness and Mental Health Mindful self-compassion and ACT The filming of "Where Dragons Live" The dual charm and burden of the family home Personal Experiences and Family Impact
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-171-hi-ren-the-song-that-dramatically-changed-my-approach-to-my-inner-critic/ In this episode, I discuss Ren's song "Hi Ren," a mind-blowing exploration of inner conflict that blows apart ideas about the balance between darkness and light within us all. We'll unpack Ren's introspective lyrics, which explore themes like mental illness and creativity, and consider his take on life and what we can learn from it. I share how this song's impact has resonated with my own journey in dealing with grief and the inner critic. Watch the original song by Ren here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_nc1IVoMxc&pp=ygUGaGkgcmVu Impact of "Hi Ren" by Ren Gill on my life Relation to grief and managing the inner critic Themes of Strength and Hope Inner strength and resilience amidst challenges Inner Conflict Illness and psychological battles The pendulum metaphor, advocating acceptance Universal evil and inner conflict Dark side as defensive rather than malevolent Chaos and division as intrinsic parts of self Identification with 'hope' indicating a shift towards optimism Life as a Dance Complexity and humanity over supernatural perfection Episode contains sensitive topics including swearing, suicide, and mental distress Song Analysis Exploration of mental illness and creativity struggles Connection to personal inner critic experiences Dialogue between Ren's dark and light personas Discussion of inner conflict and personal growth Internal struggle about personal achievements Dark side's criticism of Ren's insecurities Ren's music achieving 43 million YouTube views Dark side as a symbol of temptation and negativity Host's parallel with personal inner critics Steve Chapman's TED talk on inner critics Emotional impact of "Hi Ren" song on the host Dark Ren attacks out of fear and insecurity. Inner critic misconstrues protection as help. Inner critic always undermines self-confidence, futile. Ren's song conveys hope's profound impact. Embrace change; it's an evolving balance. Struggling makes us human, imperfect, and relatable.
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Get your 2025 decluttering inspiration calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I ask Dr Chia-Ying Chou about the complex interplay between grief and hoarding. We'll explore how emotions like grief can trigger hoarding behaviour, the role an inner critic plays, and learn all about compassion-focused therapy – including why it's so much easier to offer compassion than to receive it. The timing is perfect, coinciding with National Grief Awareness Week in the UK. Grief and Hoarding Discussion Chia-Ying Chou discusses the non-direct link between grief and hoarding based on clinical experience. Factors such as resistance to grieving and avoiding vulnerability exacerbate hoarding. Grief can trigger hoarding behaviour to maintain a sense of control and avoid confronting loss. Host shares personal experiences of how grief intensified their hoarding behaviour. Grief and Possessions People keep deceased loved ones' belongings as a way to preserve their existence. Chou mentions the ambiguous preservation of loved ones through items. Anxiety and resistance to facing grief make organising or discarding possessions difficult. Complex Emotions in Grief Host reflects on the unexpected emotions in grief, like anger or impatience. Therapeutic Strategies for Grief and Hoarding Chou compares addressing resistance to grief to preparing for a challenging hike. Emphasis on resourcing, preparing mentally, and gathering support. Suggestions for a "baby-step" approach to facing fears and emotions. Inner Critic and Grief Host discusses journey with their inner critic and finding new approaches to handle it. Chou highlights how internal criticism is often related to grief and missed opportunities. Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) Integration of Western psychotherapy and Buddhist philosophy for addressing psychological challenges. Difficulty in receiving or directing compassion towards oneself. Connections Between Hoarding, Trauma, and Grief Patterns of loss, either tangible or intangible, among those who hoard. Episode ties with National Grief Awareness Week in the UK. Cultivating Compassionate Companions Idea of cultivating an imaginary compassionate companion for emotional support. Emphasis on emotions being a part of persona, not the true self. Emotions and Grief Management Pacing yourself. Chou recommends creating space for emotions to surface naturally. Encouragement to welcome emotions as a creative process in internal space. Examine fears and take small steps to engage with feelings.
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Get your 2025 decluttering inspiration calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I propose ten experiments to help customise your decluttering journey, focusing on individual preferences to uncover what strategies work best in your home. These experiments encourage a flexible approach to dehoarding. It's all about tailoring your methods to fit your style and your personality, ensuring that decluttering becomes a more intuitive and effective process. Approaching Tasks as Experiments Tasks viewed as experiments inspired by CBT Reduction of perfectionist pressure Emphasis on personal differences and no right or wrong answers Testing different time slots for tasks Effectiveness of beginning the day with decluttering "Swallowing the frog" concept Long-term goals vs. short-term goals for motivation Experimentation and Adjusting Over Time Periodic repetition of experiments to adapt to changes Use of structured time frames and spontaneous urges to declutter Experimenting with personal preferences for initiating action Options such as music, TV, silence, social interaction, or media consumption Use of podcast as motivational tool Upbeat music playlist Group accountability sessions via Zoom for shared motivation Productivity based on to-do list specificity Decluttering strategies: by space, type of item, or item within a space Handling Difficult Categories Approach to emotionally challenging items Tailoring strategy based on personal readiness Consistency in Dehoarding Short daily durations vs. longer weekly sessions Finding the best fit based on routine Time Constraints Setting strict vs. flexible schedules Combination of structured and spontaneous efforts Personalising Decluttering and Productivity Methods Focus on individual preferences and method effectiveness
Get your 2025 decluttering inspiration calendar http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I talk about the strategies I've been trying to address over-acquisition and manage my finances, from savings pots to practising 'just-in-time' shopping. I explain how these methods, alongside mindfully resisting impulse buys and more, are helping me reduce clutter. Personal Financial Management Dedicated accounts with savings pots for various expenses like glasses, car repairs, and gifts. Spending limits. Evaluating the necessity of purchases. Reflecting on past financial struggles. The tendency to overprepare due to fear of scarcity. The impact of hoarding on life, such as emotional pain from bereavements. The challenge of trusting that resources will be available when needed. Shopping Habits and Strategies Emphasising rationality in shopping. The "just in time" shopping approach to combat over-acquiring. Mindful shopping techniques Checking existing supplies before shopping. Using shopping lists with flexible categories. Resisting urge-driven purchases like discounts. Mindful Financial Practices Exploring alternative uses for money beyond impulse buys. Prioritising spending on quality experiences. Past Financial Hardship and Emotional Impact Past experiences of financial hardship leading to anxiety and hoarding. Reflecting on the emotional impact from periods like the COVID-19 pandemic. Personal Growth and Overcoming Beliefs Encouragement to try despite potential failures.
Get your 2025 decluttering calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Avoiding the chaos of complex idea capture systems is vital for preventing distraction and overwhelm. Today, I'm sharing practical strategies for transitioning from idea capture to action, breaking down large tasks into manageable subtasks and exploring tools like Google Tasks and voice assistants for prioritisation and organisation. Plus, I reflect on my own long-term struggle with to-do lists and how to experiment with different approaches to find a system that suits your needs. Simplifying Idea Capture Avoid complex systems to prevent distraction and overwhelm. Focus on simple, streamlined methods for capturing ideas. Set dedicated idea capture times to minimise distractions. Organising Idea Capture Materials Ensure materials and tools are easily accessible. Utilise technology for effortless idea capture using voice assistants. Transitioning from Idea Capture to Action Prioritise tasks based on urgency, impact, or personal goals. Structure and prioritise tasks. Break down large tasks into smaller, manageable subtasks. Combining Digital and Non-Digital Methods Use written to-do lists to complement digital systems for immediate tasks. Essential Elements for an Effective System Thinker's Notebook's five elements: omnipresence, efficiency, organisation, security, and offline thinking. Exploring Digital and Non-Digital Tools Popular digital tools: Evernote, OneNote, ToodleDo, Todoist, Trello, Taiga.io, Google Calendar, Outlook Calendar, Google Tasks. Non-digital methods: scraps of paper, notebooks, preprinted planners, bullet journals, mind maps. Personalising the Capture Method Importance of selecting a method suited to personal preferences and technical comfort level. Experimentation with different approaches. Two-Step Strategy for Idea Capture Combine digital or portable capture methods with comprehensive home organisation tools. Mind Mapping for Subtasks Use mind maps to break down tasks, providing a visual representation. Realistic Time Management Decide on timings based on deadlines and personal flexibility. Visual Task Management Track progress and prioritise tasks using visual tools like checklists or kanban boards. Prioritisation and Breaking Down Tasks Organise tasks by priority for easier management. Divide large tasks into smaller parts for simplification. Timely Task Execution Be realistic about time required for tasks and accommodate flexibility. Psychological Boost from Completion Mark tasks as completed for a dopamine boost and visual progress tracking. Adapting Idea Capture Systems Experiment with various methods to find an effective system that suits personal needs and goals.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall, a counsellor with a PhD in hoarding, to discuss the phenomenon of digital hoarding, where people accumulate excessive digital items. We'll explore the emotional responses to losing digital content, the organisational and environmental implications of digital clutter, and strategies for managing our ever-growing digital lives. From the nostalgic pull of old photos to the overwhelming influx of emails, this conversation reveals the surprising similarities between physical and digital hoarding. Introduction to Digital Hoarding Definition of digital hoarding Comparison with physical hoarding, highlighting similar stress, anxiety, and attachment. Emotional Responses to Digital Loss Non-hoarders experiencing emotions like anger and anxiety over losing digital items. Technological Advancements and Digital Storage The proliferation of digital content creation, especially digital photos. Impact of technology on creating and storing digital content. Historical context of storage limitations versus current capabilities. Broader Implications of Digital Hoarding Extending beyond photos and videos to emails, subscriptions, and digital accounts. Cybersecurity risks and financial costs associated with digital hoarding. Reasons we retain digital content. Emotional Attachment and Digital Data Emotional ties to digital items like photos and documents. Reflecting identity and memory triggers in digital possessions. Digital Organisation Strategies Host's impeccably organised digital life contrasted with a cluttered home. Tiago Forte's PARA method for prioritising digital items. Inbox Zero and maintaining an organised email setup. Challenges of Digital Clutter Volume over efficiency: issues accessing necessary information despite organised files. Parallels between digital and physical hoarding behaviours. Digital Inefficiency and Environmental Impact Wasted time, reduced focus, and productivity issues due to digital clutter. Significant carbon footprint of data centres and environmental concerns. Strategies for Managing Digital Clutter Reducing digital intake by unsubscribing from unnecessary emails and content. Advice on stopping excessive bookmarking and managing browser tabs. Importance of setting up email filters to streamline email management. Creating physical keepsakes from special digital photos for meaningful interaction. Permission Slip Segment Discussion on evaluating difficult-to-discard items for sentimental or practical reasons.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode of That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding podcast, I'm joined by Kendra Adachi, author of "The Plan, Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius," as we explore self-compassion and realistic productivity. We'll discuss cultural differences in self-trust, the pitfalls of traditional planning, and how small, manageable steps can lead to meaningful progress. Kendra's insights challenge societal expectations and underscore the importance of kindness and contentment in our daily lives. Self-Trust and Societal Influences Cultural differences in self-trust between men and women Women's challenges with self-trust Understanding systemic influences Encouragement of kindness and acceptance towards oneself Societal Expectations and Productivity Pressure Critique of the "hustle" culture and pressure for excellence Contentment as opposed to constant optimisation Kindness to oneself as an alternative to relentless improvement Resistance to the idea of contentment Contentment and Self-Compassion Contentment not the same as giving up Defining contentment as awareness and appreciation of the present Self-compassion as a holistic life perspective Contentment and making mistakes Hoarding and Mindset Shifts Problem with future-focused thinking Importance of prioritising what matters to us Shifting mindset towards valuing fewer things and creating space Kinder approach to oneself and questioning what we have lose by trying contentment Integration vs. Greatness Embracing integration over achieving greatness Honouring emotions and practicing self-kindness Goal setting challenges and adopting flexible approaches Shrinking priorities to manage overwhelm Planning and Productivity Challenges Discussion on why many struggle with planning and productivity Unrealistic expectations from productivity experts Internalisation of failure for unmet expectations Disparity in authorship vs. readership of time management books The Lazy Genius Way and Practical Strategies Introduction to concepts from "The Lazy Genius Way" Principles of "going in the right order" (naming what matters, calming the chaos, trusting oneself) Encouragement of smaller, manageable steps Potential for meaningful change despite societal pressures
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I chat with Jo Cavalot, a compassionate inquiry practitioner and coach, about tackling executive dysfunction through a unique concept called "fibble", designed to help those struggling with focus and organisation. Jo shares her insights into treating internal parts with kindness, her own journey of recovery, and how she co-created Fibble as a tool to understand and manage executive function challenges. We explore the importance of personalised support in overcoming obstacles, and Jo offers a special discount for listeners interested in her work. Importance of a compassionate approach Internal family systems and parts work. Viewing internal parts as friends with individual needs. Differentiating exploratory sessions from physical organisation tasks. Executive Dysfunction and 'Fibble' Concept Challenges of executive dysfunction, specifically among people who hoard. Use of the 'fibble' acronym: Frustrated, Inadequate, Baffled, Befuddled, Lacking, and Exhausted. Fibble as a practical tool Jo Cavalot's experience with alcoholism Parallel between Jo's alcohol experience and hoarding. Emotional challenges and non-linear nature of recovery. Emphasis on self-awareness and self-compassion. Jo's significant life changes, like moving to Spain and involvement in the Camino de Santiago. Motivation through personal recovery and organisational skills. Involvement and motivation in Hoarding Disorders UK. Compassionate Inquiry, Based on Dr. Gabor Mate's work, focusing on trauma's impact. Positive impacts on clients with hoarding behaviours and related trauma. Key Challenges and Strengths in Addressing Organisation Common challenges: sustained attention, organisation, self-activation, planning, and prioritising. Creative problem-solving as a strength. Flexible thinking and stress tolerance. Use of a questionnaire assessing executive functioning across environments. Understanding and leveraging diverse personal strengths. Varying self-activation for personal vs. others' tasks. Goal Setting and Personalisation Personalised tools over generic advice. Introduction of the Ikigai concept in goal setting. Use of the fibble questionnaire for personal assessment and support. Understanding and Addressing Underlying Causes Identifying trauma responses and underlying causes. Adjusting expectations based on life circumstances. Holistic and trauma-informed support for personal challenges.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm joined by Steve Chapman, an artist and coach, to talk about working creatively with your inner critic. We talk about understanding this inner voice as a misguided protector rather than an enemy and explore creative approaches like drawing or dancing with your critic to better engage with it. However sceptical you may be about it, listen to us talk about finding compassion for that voice in your head and how art can be a therapeutic ally in your journey. Even if, like me, you cannot draw! Steve Chapman: artist, writer, speaker, coach, with a background in Gestalt psychology, improv theatre, coaching, and art therapy. Discussion on creativity, imperfection, being stuck, shame, and the inner critic. Struggles with a harsh inner critic for years. Perspective shift influenced by the song "Hi Ren" Insights on the Inner Critic Inner critics act as misguided protectors from early childhood. An approach to understand inner critics rather than fight them. Creative Approach to the Inner Critic Drawing or creative engagement to externalise and personify the inner critic. Small creative experiments to better understand the inner critic. The therapeutic nature of experimenting with art. Inner Critic & Self-Compassion Developing a compassionate relationship with the inner critic. Thich Nhat Hanh on nurturing inner energy. Dealing with worry through acceptance and self-compassion. Art as a method to engage with emotions and inner critic Resonates with others and serves as a therapeutic tool. Shame & Vulnerability Shame thrives in secrecy; exposing it diminishes its power. Importance of bringing shame to light as discussed by Brene Brown. Comfort and Discomfort Finding a balance between comfort and distress. Advocates for taking small steps toward addressing discomfort. Discussing mental health openly demonstrates personal growth and reduced stigma. Working with different materials for creative exploration. Workshops begin without set goals to allow creativity to flourish. Dealing with Inner Critics Awareness of inner critics as part of being human and lifelong process. Engaging with the inner critic in a playful rather than adversarial way. Therapeutic Work and Community Support Value of in-depth therapeutic work and community support in managing inner critique. Artistic Abilities and Perceptions Societal pressures influence perception of artistic ability. Chapman aims to inspire and counter feelings of inadequacy. Role of Continuous Exploration in Art Art viewed as an ongoing process rather than a definitive product. Tuning into emotions and body sensations beyond verbal communication.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I explore how the change of seasons can inspire and motivate dehoarding efforts, with autumn in the northern hemisphere and spring in the southern hemisphere being upon us. Drawing on traditions like harvest festivals and spring cleaning, we'll discuss how nature's rhythms can support our journey toward a more organised home. Plus, personal insights on managing the emotional challenges of letting go and tips for embracing seasonal transitions as opportunities for growth. Seasonal Influence on Dehoarding Autumn Motivation Mixed feelings: beauty vs. precursor to winter Harvest festivals: gratitude and inspiration for giving and decluttering Nesting instincts as a motivational tool for organizing Spring Motivation Symbolism of renewal and hope Growth and change as motivators for overcoming hoarding disorder Spring cleaning tradition as an opportunity for new beginnings Emotional Aspects of Decluttering Acknowledge and understand feelings like overwhelm, anxiety, confusion, and fear Use emotions to gain self-insight and understand attachment to items Seek support from therapists, friends, family, or professional organisers Practical Steps for Dehoarding Assess possessions when transitioning between seasons Evaluate practical use of items like blankets and coats Decluttering inspired by seasonal changes Focus on small areas to avoid overwhelm Small, consistent changes over dramatic ones Set realistic goals for home improvements by New Year Community and Support Engage in dehoarding accountability sessions for communal support Donating items to reduce unnecessary storage Assess what you want for your home as the year end approaches Aiming for improvement, maintenance, or worsened state? Set intentions Walking, observing nature, and journaling Creating Rituals and Redefining Comfort Suggest creating rituals in tune with seasonal changes to aid decluttering Redefine comfort by reducing clutter rather than accumulating more Highlight the importance of a comfortable, decluttered space for winter
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ On this episode, I share my experience from being a guest on Death, Sex & Money with Anna Sale. Then I dig into the idea of wanting things but still choosing not to have them and how it applies to various aspects of life, especially for those of us dealing with hoarding disorder. I'll discuss how the disorder can distort our perception of items, leading to irrational attachments. I look at how desires often change over time, the unhealthy attachments formed for identity, comfort, or security, and how fear of regret can hinder the decluttering process. Choosing Not to Have Desired Items Distortion of item perception in hoarding disorder Temporary nature of desires Safety and clutter concerns Emotional and Irrational Attachments Understanding and challenging emotional attachments Exploring reasons for keeping or acquiring items Addressing “irrational” beliefs Dealing with fear of regret Joy from finding things often surpasses regret (Jasmine Sleigh's insight) Managing regret is possible Decision-making with clutter in mind Not Retaining Items for Others It's not our responsibility to keep items for others Prioritising personal and familial well-being Setting boundaries regarding others' potential desires Feeling loss, fear, sadness, and nostalgia Acknowledgment and validation of these feelings Communicating fears and emotions Recognising and challenging irrational thoughts and feelings Celebrating small victories without adding more clutter Liberation and freedom from letting go Misinterpreting laziness as anxiety Anxious sloth and decreased productivity
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I'm chatting with Dr. Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor, about what it means to take a trauma-informed approach to hoarding disorder. Stick around as we break down why understanding trauma is crucial for effective support and treatment. Trauma-informed approaches to understanding and treating hoarding Importance of understanding trauma's impact Concerns about wellbeing inquiries without adequate support preparation Collaboration in Trauma-Informed Care Practical Implementation for Non-Therapy Roles** Incorporate trauma-informed principles Sensitivity to potential triggers Misconceptions and Communication Fear factor surrounding trauma and its treatment Detailed trauma disclosure unnecessary for effective support Client Autonomy and Professional Boundaries Respecting clients' communication preferences Retraumatisation in Hoarding Harm of forced clearances and strangers touching possessions Negative impact of language and actions on hoarders Respectful Support Practices Building Trust Importance of building trust before intervening in a hoarder's space Ensuring professionals genuinely practice trauma-informed care Over-explaining as a stress response Broad approach of trauma-informed care Factors influencing trauma perception Trauma Definition Trauma and Hoarding Commonality of trauma in hoarding histories A supportive framework rather than a treatment model Five Pillars of Trauma-Informed Care Assuming trauma backgrounds in hoarding behaviour clients Loss of Control in Trauma Trauma involves loss of control; care pillars help restore it Tracking and managing nervous system responses Importance of recognising client-specific signs Term misuse by minimally trauma-informed trained professionals Dangers of Misleading Trauma Informed Claims Proper understanding of trauma to avoid harm Non-therapists adopting trauma-informed principles Importance of feeling present and calm during therapy Teaching clients to feel safe and grounded Clear Boundaries in Therapy Trauma Types and Responses** Variability of trauma Explanation of retraumatisation Managing Retraumatisation
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I look at two major – and opposing – strategies for dehoarding: "swallow the frog," where you handle the toughest task first, and "save the worst till last," which focuses on building confidence with easier tasks. I'll discuss the benefits and drawbacks of each approach and offer tips for blending them to fit your unique needs. Join to learn how to break down the overwhelming task of dehoarding into manageable steps. Swallowing the Frog Best when preventing access to essential areas (e.g., cooker, bath). Tackling tough tasks first can improve home functionality and reduce stress. Saving the Worst Till the Last Building confidence in dehoarding. Tasks that are emotionally charged but less visibly impactful (e.g., old photos). Utilising both approaches based on emotional resilience and situational needs. Experimentation with both strategies. Reflect on personality and typical approaches to difficult tasks. Planning strategies based on task suitability and personal motivation. Curiosity and trying different methods. Observing outcomes and refining methods. Balancing approaches for optimal dehoarding progress. Embracing flexible planning and adjusting as needed. Breaking Down Tasks Breaking tasks into smaller, manageable steps. Working for shorter, focused periods with breaks to prevent burnout. Building Confidence Addressing easier tasks first to build capability for more challenging tasks. Sorting manageable items before tackling emotionally difficult possessions. Mixing both "Swallow the Frog" and "Save the Worst Till Last" strategies. Examination of the psychological impact of task management. Discussing mental barriers, procrastination, and overwhelm. Emphasis on efficiency and making progress to avoid demoralisation. Strategies to manage overwhelming dehoarding tasks Identifying the "frog." Two opposite strategies for handling hard tasks. Resolve tasks early to minimise stress and discomfort. Breaking tasks into smaller chunks mitigates overwhelming discouragement. Starting with easier tasks provides steady motivation. Procrastination perpetuates stress from avoiding major tasks. Ease into dehoarding with manageable tasks first. Try both approaches, observe, adapt, and refine. Examining two strategies for tackling hard tasks in the context of dehoarding: "swallow the frog" (address tough tasks first) vs. saving the worst for last, focusing on their psychological impact on barriers, procrastination, and efficiency. Completing tasks alleviates stress and builds momentum for future tasks. Swallowing the frog can be discouraging if tasks are tougher than expected. Break tasks into smaller chunks to avoid demoralisation. Identify and prioritise your most challenging tasks, such as urgent issues or emotionally taxing items. Starting with smaller tasks provides steady motivation and achievement, offering quick wins that boost morale and maintain long-term productivity. Procrastination on the most urgent task causes continuous stress and anxiety, overshadowing achievement of smaller tasks. Start with moderately hard tasks, gradually advancing to harder tasks over time. Adapt approaches based on task suitability. Start with easier tasks to build confidence when dehoarding, and save emotionally challenging items for later. Use both approaches as needed based on your situation. Try both approaches and observe which helps you make the most progress. Keep adapting and refining based on your observations.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I'll help you identify the triggers that make us want to acquire stuff and how to use that knowledge to combat the urges to buy impulsively. We'll explore practical strategies like observing urges, delaying reactions, and using distractions to curb impulsive buying. Plus, we'll uncover the deeper emotional and environmental triggers that drive compulsive shopping and how to address them. Emotional Triggers Identifying emotional triggers like stress, sadness, boredom, and anxiety. Understanding the role of dopamine in shopping behaviours. Recognising the temporary distraction of shopping from negative emotions. Environmental Triggers Discussing how shopping environments stimulate purchases through strategic design. Marketing tactics designed to exploit spending prompts. Ecommerce Optimisation Strategies ecommerce websites use to maximise purchases. Seamless and tempting buying experiences. Ease of Access The convenience and immediacy of online shopping. Encouraging impulsive purchases through immediate gratification. Social Triggers The influence of peer pressure, FOMO, and social validation. Buying to fit in or earn social approval. Self-Reflection and Values Evaluating whether purchases align with personal values. Seeking meaningful praise beyond materialistic validation. Journaling as a Tool Identifying and understanding personal triggers through journaling. Noting emotions, activities, and feelings before and after purchases. Pattern Identification Analysing journal entries to identify shopping patterns and triggers. Behaviour Change and Avoidance Adjusting behaviour to avoid known triggers. Implementing stress management techniques to handle stress-induced shopping. Mindfulness for Identifying Triggers Encouraging presence and consciousness in the moment. Observing sensations, thoughts, and feelings without judgment. Enhancing self-awareness for deliberate actions. Observing Urges Acknowledgment of the urge to buy and sitting with it. Comparing urges to waves – they rise and fall. Practicing distress tolerance during unpleasant urges. Delayed Reaction Technique Delaying purchase decisions to avoid impulsive buys. Starting with short delays (e.g. 1 minute) and extending them. Developing longer periods without giving in to urges over time. Distraction as a Tool Engaging in alternative activities. Contacting friends and talking through the urge. Reducing immediate impulses through distraction. Addressing the Root Causes Focusing on underlying issues (anxiety, depression, boredom). Pursuing therapy, self-help resources, lifestyle changes, or medical treatment. Avoiding Triggers Avoiding people or environments that encourage unnecessary shopping. Finding alternatives to shopping activities. Shopping in places that minimise impulse-buying triggers. Complexity and Difficulty Acknowledging the multifaceted nature of combating buying urges. Recognising triggers and managing urges requires effort and practice. Host's personal experiences with guilt and shame from compulsive buying. Discussing the financial strain and relationship stress caused by impulsive purchases. Emphasising the mental and emotional health impacts. Impulsive shopping causes financial and relationship stress. Emotional triggers can lead to impulsive shopping. Awareness of emotions can reduce impulsive shopping. External triggers and dopamine drive impulsive buying. Question purchases' true value. Praise for values is deeper than material praise. Mindfulness helps identify triggers by observing sensations. Address anxiety holistically, considering therapy and lifestyle. Avoid triggers to reduce compulsive buying impulses. September's update for Dehoarding Darlings includes extras and a Q&A with Jan. Sign up at overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling. Bi-monthly dehoarding Zoom sessions: Sunday evenings (UK), Friday mornings (UK). Impulsive shopping causes financial and relationship stress, guilt, and clutter. Today's episode explores triggers to address and mitigate these issues. Emotional triggers like stress, boredom, sadness, and anxiety can lead to impulse shopping as a temporary escape, though this often results in further stress due to added clutter and financial strain. Awareness of evening fatigue helped me stop shopping out of boredom or anxiety. Recognising emotional triggers can prevent impulsive purchases. Marketing and environmental triggers compel people to buy impulsively for dopamine hits, involving extensive research. It feels great to get social validation from buying items, but it's worth questioning if possessions define our identity and relationships. Identify triggers for impulsive buying through self-reflection and journaling to align purchases with personal values. Mindfulness helps identify triggers by being present, aware of feelings, sensations, and thoughts, leading to greater self-awareness and deliberate actions. Address anxiety and depression through therapy, lifestyle changes, and avoiding triggers, rather than impulsive shopping. Avoid environments that trigger unnecessary shopping to break the habit. Find alternatives like meeting friends in different places or shopping online.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, Dr. Jan Eppingstall and I are exploring the impact of self-stigma and societal responsibility in hoarding. We look in depth at stigma and how it affects individuals with mental health conditions, especially hoarding disorder, and how self-stigma can damage us and prevent us from seeking help. Plus, we introduce a new segment — "permission slip". Stay tuned for some outtakes at the end! Impact of Public Stigma and Self-Stigma Dr. Jan Eppingstall explains public stigma, including stereotypes, prejudice, and discrimination Key facets of public stigma: difference, disdain, and blame Understanding Self-Stigma and Public Stigma How stereotypes can affect self-stigma, using people's reactions to TV shows as an example The implications of self-stigma, including low self-esteem, hopelessness, and reluctance to seek treatment The interlinking of public stigma, self-stigma, shame, and self-consciousness, as well as self-blame and the impact of self-stigma on seeking help Variation in mental illness stereotypes by disorder Introduction of the "permission slip" segment Discussion on the compulsion to keep things and the completionist mindset Influence of Socioeconomic Status on Mental Illness Stigma Conversation about the perception of hoarding based on socioeconomic status and the value of items being kept Comparison of hoarding in different contexts: ample space and financial means versus living in a cramped environment Impact of space and wealth on hoarding, highlighted through a documentary about Celine Dion and her extensive costume collection Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) in Addressing Self-Stigma Dr. Eppingstall outlines the ACT approach, focusing on personal values and psychoeducation on relational frame theory to address self-stigma Cognitive behavioural therapy techniques like reframing and peer support groups to combat self-stigma, as well as radical acceptance through a 10-step process Influence of Cultural Beliefs and Social Factors on Stigma Discussion of the influence of cultural beliefs on mental illness stigma, including the impact of social factors on self-stigmatisation Protective factors against self-stigmatisation: quality of life, social relationships, and cultural acceptance of mental illness The impact of societal influences on self-stigma and the importance of understanding one's thought patterns without trying to banish them External stigma's potential influence on self-stigma, with a suggestion that marginalised individuals facing more external stigma might be more susceptible to self-stigmatisation Internalised social stigma leads to negative self-concept. Self-stigma affects help-seeking behaviours negatively. Questioning stigmatisation and hoarding in media. Cultural stigma influences self-stigmatisation of mental illness. Communities' response to mental illness. Self-stigma's impact varies based on individual factors. Internalised stigma is the acceptance of negative societal stereotypes. Self-stigma creates harm, deters seeking help. Reflection on hoarding stigma and societal perceptions. Public stigma in different cultures affects self-stigmatisation and attitudes toward mental illness and treatment. Reflecting on community's approach to mental illness and its impact on self-stigma. Practicing radical acceptance, using self-acceptance talk and behaviour changes to move forward. Self-stigma affects people differently based on various factors such as personality, upbringing, and society. Different societies can influence how people perceive and react to self-stigma.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-154-we-dont-need-to-love-it-we-just-need-to-do-it/ Today, I explore the reality of dehoarding. From the thrilling sense of accomplishment to the mundane, hard, and sometimes emotionally difficult aspects, I cover it all. Join me as I discuss the ups and downs of the journey and why loving the process isn't a requirement - getting it done is what counts. The Importance of Persistence and Commitment in Dehoarding The need to keep going even when it's not thrilling or empowering Embracing the mundane and boring aspects of dehoarding Understanding that progress is more important than loving every moment of the process Recognising that dehoarding can include both rewarding and difficult experiences Using reminders of the end goal to cope with the challenging days Compassion and Self-Care in the Dehoarding Process Embracing self-compassion during difficult dehoarding days Utilising self-care practices as a way to cope with the process Understanding the importance of acknowledging and validating difficult experiences Acknowledging the necessity of perseverance and consistent effort in dehoarding Coping with Mundane and Monotonous Aspects of Dehoarding Recognising the importance of routine in the dehoarding process Strategies and techniques to cope with monotony and boring tasks Understanding the difference between emotional highs and lows, and coping with routine tasks Utilising rewards and mindful strategies to cope with tedious dehoarding tasks Redefining Success in Dehoarding Understanding that success is measured by effort, home improvement, and personal pride Acknowledging that dehoarding progress is not always thrilling or enjoyable Embracing that progress is still progress, regardless of its size or level of excitement Challenging unrealistic expectations set by influencers and social media about dehoarding Action and Commitment Despite Feelings Towards Dehoarding Encouragement to take at least one step in the right direction, regardless of loving the process Embracing the idea that it's okay not to love dehoarding every minute Recognising that commitment to dehoarding is a significant achievement in itself Affirming the capability to create a space one feels at home in, despite the ups and downs of the journey Dehoarding doesn't have to feel thrilling. Difficulties come, but remember your purpose. Feeling overwhelmed is normal during the decluttering process, but progress matters more than celebrating every step. Self-care involves activities like hot baths, TV time, and walks, paired with self-compassion to be effective. Reward self, be mindful, focus on present, seek support, value effort over success. Embrace the journey, take steps forward.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I look at how the Pareto Principle, also known as the 80/20 rule, can revolutionise our approach to decluttering. I discuss how focusing on the 20% of our possessions that cause 80% of our problems can lead to more impactful change with less effort, and how identifying the 20% of tasks that show the biggest results can help us to manage our energy and make visible progress. Join me as I break down this principle and explore how it can transform our mindset and approach to dehoarding. Introduction to the Pareto Principle Explanation of the Pareto Principle or the 80/20 rule Relevance of the Pareto Principle to hoarding and home management Impact of focusing on the 20% causing the most problems Identifying Impactful Tasks and Items The impact of expending energy on low-level tasks Importance of prioritising impactful tasks for noticeable change Making a dent in belongings by focusing on impactful items Brief history of Vilfredo Pareto and his observation Various contexts where the Pareto Principle is seen to apply Validation of the principle in different areas Applying the Pareto Principle to Your Home Strategic thinking in identifying items causing disruption Identifying 20% of belongings used most often Energy expenditure and impact of dehoarding actions Emotional Attachment & Rational Decision Making Emotional connection to belongings Encouraging rational assessment of belongings' value The role of emotions in retaining or discarding items Reassessing and Ongoing Vigilance Need for ongoing reassessment as space is cleared Importance of reassessing the 20% causing problems Frequency of reassessment and calibrating belongings Reflecting on the impact of the 80/20 rule in home management Pareto principle for hoarders. Pareto principle: 20% effort, 80% results. Reframe, prioritise, and declutter for efficient living. Identify essential items, discard unnecessary possessions strategically. Identify unnecessary items to make life easier. Reevaluate possessions and focus energy efficiently. Use the Pareto principle to focus on tasks with high impact. Identify and declutter items for a noticeable ease in daily life; use the 80/20 rule for organising and resolving space issues. Reassess belongings, focus on what matters.
I look at an old fable from when I was little and how I've changed my view on it completely. And, of course, how it relates to hoarding – and dehoarding. Acknowledging reaching 250,000 downloads for the podcast Dehoarding fast vs. slow and steady approach The benefits of dehoarding fast Getting a lot done in a short time Responding to emergency situations Harnessing sudden bursts of motivation The risks of dehoarding fast Burnout Impracticality of sustaining a fast pace in the long term Emphasising the importance of finding a balance between fast and slow dehoarding Acknowledging the benefits and drawbacks of both approaches The significance of Aesop's fable "The Hare and the Tortoise" Initial scepticism about the fable Understanding the importance of perseverance and consistency over speed Drawing parallels between the fable and dehoarding Primary Topic: Slow and steady work for dehoarding Sustained approach for dehoarding the entire home Making habits or new behaviours stick and become habitual Enhancing slow progress with focus and documentation Achieving objective progress through slow and steady work Suitability for long-term planning and sustainable change in behaviours and beliefs Riding the wave when the urge to throw into action arises Recognising when to work fast Potential drawbacks leading to complacency or exhaustion Balancing fast and slow dehoarding approaches Finding a balance for effective and sustainable progress Avoiding the pitfalls of extremes in dehoarding approaches Fast action can be encouraging and valuable. Sustainable pace fosters effective dehoarding. Slow, steady progress towards a liveable home.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Dr Jan Eppingstall has had an idea, and it is as revolutionary as it is terrifying. We talk about it! Shifting focus from individual items to the bigger picture Creating a guilt-free zone for a limited time to honour values and experience more joy and fun in the future Putting aside certain values temporarily to create better conditions for the future Introduction of the concept of "household equilibrium" Understanding the emotional attachment to possessions based on lived experiences Behavioural and Emotional Aspects of Discarding Items Reluctance to discard out-of-date food due to guilt and fear of waste Emotional connection to possessions and the importance of using them Encouraging the usage and enjoyment of possessions Trauma-focused approach to discarding clutter Coping with the guilt and shame around wastefulness Making difficult decisions about discarding items Exposure to letting go and small, less risky decluttering tasks Letting go of controlling outcomes and focusing on wellbeing over perfect disposal Starting with low-risk categories when decluttering, such as wrapping paper Prove that terrible things do not happen when decluttering The importance of proportionality in the decluttering process Children's Belongings and Autonomy in Decluttering Clear guidelines for disposing of belongings that are not yours Contacting owners to collect items, especially for children's belongings Revisiting keepsakes periodically to reassess their importance Respecting children's decisions about their belongings Navigating the decluttering process with understanding and sensitivity Creating a Safe and Comfortable Living Environment Implementing an amnesty on existing rules and guidelines Suspending the acquisition of new items to keep the space in equilibrium Allowing space for new interests and hobbies to enter one's life without guilt Desire for perfection leads to unnecessary clutter. Temporary pause for a more balanced life. Stay safe and open to new experiences. Encouraging use of gorgeous clothes in daily life. Helping people cope with guilt and clutter to prioritise their well-being. Desire for perfection in decision making and finding balance. Some people value frugality but need to let go sometimes. Focus on physical safety, declutter for new hobbies, no guilt. Facing fears leads to growth and relief from guilt. Recommendation to limit exposure to items and practice letting go to avoid regret. Encourage using and enjoying clothes, shoes. Expressing love for a cherished mug.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ It's the 150th episode, and I've got a special one for you. I'm tackling the 13 pieces of hoarding advice that you're really tired of hearing, and I'm hitting them head on! We've all been on the receiving end of well-meaning but utterly unhelpful advice when it comes to hoarding. From "just get rid of it" to "you're being lazy"… the list goes on. They may seem harmless, but they often overlook the emotional complexities and serious mental health challenges faced by people who hoard. Most importantly, I explain why these pieces of advice do more harm than good. Oversimplified solutions just won't cut it when it comes to overcoming hoarding disorder. Terrible Hoarding Advice "Just get rid of it" underestimates the emotional attachment Emotional attachment to possessions Overwhelming nature of such advice "It's just stuff" overlooks the significance of possessions The significance of possessions to hoarders Dismissal of the emotional connection to items "Get rid of things that don't spark joy" oversimplified and doesn't consider complexities Oversimplification of the decluttering process Failure to recognise the complexities of hoarding disorder Blaming hoarders for being lazy, weak, or selfish is not helpful Stress and shame reinforcement The impact of negative reinforcement on mental health Telling hoarders to be embarrassed or ashamed is counterproductive Exacerbation of hoarding tendencies Implications for mental health and stigma "Just get a skip" advice may create time pressure, anxiety, and public display Pressure and anxiety for hoarders Public display of possessions and potential distress Cleaning up a hoarder's space without consent creates mistrust and anxiety Impact on trust and mental well-being Reinforcement of trauma responses Suggesting to sell or have a yard/car boot sale oversimplifies things Complexity of hoarding disorder Dismissal of mental health issues Decluttering advice of doing one room a day or week underestimates the difficulty Emotional challenges of decision-making Complexity of hoarding disorder Three piles for keep, give away, and throw away is not effective as stand-alone advice Emotional attachment and decision-making Complexity of decluttering for hoarders Telling someone to try harder and give 100% effort at all times is unrealistic Unrealistic expectations and burnout Impact on mental health and sustainability Long-term and complex nature of decluttering Understanding the complexity of the process Mental and emotional focus of decluttering Hoarding as a Complex Process Comparison of decluttering to a marathon The endurance required for decluttering Criticism of advice containing the word "just" Casual dismissal of hoarding tendencies Encouragement to reconsider using "hoarder" casually Impact on stigma and understanding Consider emotional attachment in addressing hoarding issues. Hoarding disorder is complex and deeply personal. Blaming hoarders reinforces shame and hinder recovery. Skips can be a stressful solution. Car boot sale: a communal yard sale. Oversimplifying, dismissing mental health issues - not helpful. Avoid burnout by pacing and considering emotions. Simplify, declutter, and be mindful of health. Reconsider comparing mild mess to hoarding. Advice to declutter doesn't consider emotional attachment; drastic approach may cause fear and anxiety. Hoarding disorder is complex, possessions hold deep meaning, and one-size-fits-all approaches don't work. Blaming hoarding on laziness is unhelpful and untrue. Using skips as a solution for decluttering can create anxiety for some as it puts their possessions on public display. Car boot sales are similar to yard sales, with people selling items from their car boots in a car park on Sundays. Sellers might not get much for their cherished items. Avoid burnout by pacing efforts for long-term decluttering, including handling emotionally charged items with care. Casual use of mental health terms. Hoarding is not just about having too much stuff; it affects emotions and living conditions. Avoid comparing mild mess to hoarding.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Susie Boutal is a qualified ADHD coach and decluttering expert. She joins me to talk about the intersection of ADHD, hoarding, and clutter. Susie shares valuable insights for anyone dealing with ADHD and hoarding. We cover the myth of laziness, the importance of open communication in relationships, managing hoarding behaviour, the impact of self-talk, and the influence of past experiences on self-perception and the responsibility to yourself and others in managing living spaces. Join us as we navigate the complexities of decluttering and hoarding with compassion and empathy, and gain valuable advice from Susie on nurturing a kinder inner dialogue. Negotiations and Agreements in Relationships Compassionate Expression of Needs Impact of Self-Talk and Past Experiences on Self-Perception Nurturing a Kinder Inner Dialogue Offering Yourself Compassion and Empathy ADHD and Clutter Impulsivity Compassionate Approach to Motivate Decluttering Guilt and Shame Breaking Tasks into Microtasks Tips for People Dealing with ADHD and Hoarding Self-Compassion Establishing Daily Non-negotiable Routines Breaking Down Tasks into Small Goals Approaching Uncertainty as a Space of Possibilities Overcoming Procrastination Identifying Procrastination Triggers Breaking Tasks into Achievable Goals Maximise Productivity and Time Management Reassessing Productivity in Small Time Periods Using Small Time Intervals for Decluttering Addressing Impulsivity in Acquiring Items Finding Long-Term Purpose Managing Living Spaces in Relationships Open Communication Setting Non-Negotiable Priorities Overcoming decluttering barriers with 5-minute tasks. Find purpose by identifying goals, prioritise passions. Setting rules, responsibility, and personal growth awareness. Establishing boundaries and agreements in relationships. Recognising patterns Impact of words can last a lifetime. Establish routines, question resistance, break tasks down. Embrace uncertainty as a challenge, not a threat. Clutter linked to ADHD, trauma, mental health, impulsivity, and seeking new things. Focusing on microtasks for motivation and habit building. Decluttering seems overwhelming, but starting with small tasks can be motivating Find purpose, set long-term goals, prioritise over short-term impulses. Setting rules and responsibility to overcome impulses and seek long-term goals. Open communication and defining nonnegotiables is crucial in living together respectfully. Negotiating boundaries and agreements in all relationships, including regarding space and activities. Recognising negative patterns, understanding origins, finding benefits in change, and being kinder to yourself. The lasting impact of hurtful words. Routines, self-reflection, and breaking tasks down. Embracing uncertainty leads to growth, while fear of uncertainty causes paralysis.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I talk about a woman who sold every single thing in her wardrobe and explore the lessons that can be learned from this drastic approach, discussing both the positive and less than ideal aspects of the woman's actions. Highlighting the importance of taking small actions and steering away from all-or-nothing thinking, I look at what we who have difficult home surroundings can learn from this Acknowledging annoyance and taking action against it. Overcoming scarcity mindset and emotional attachments to possessions. Liberating to sell clothes, or all-or-nothing thinking? Gradual progress leads to lasting change and adaptation. Exploring actions and habits to address annoyances. Don't have to do extreme decluttering. Small actions are valuable. Incorporate new behaviours consistently. Slow progress is more effective than dramatic change for long-term success. Accepting and embracing feelings as a human reaction. Taking Action on Annoyances Acknowledging ongoing annoyances Taking decisive action to address the problem Decisiveness Being inspired by the woman's decisiveness Overcoming overthinking and indecisiveness Finding fulfillment and reward in making a dramatic change Feeling liberated by having considerably less stuff Living with Considerably Less Realising that living with less is not a threat The protective nature of hoarding behaviour Less Ideal Aspects of Extreme Action All-or-Nothing Thinking Recognising the danger of extremes in decision making Embracing the value of moderation and balanced action Small Actions versus Grand Gestures The importance of small, consistent actions over grand gestures Building lasting change through gradual progress Overcompensating The dangers of drastically clearing out possessions Gradual adaptation and adjustment to change Accepting Feelings and Reactions Understanding that feelings of overwhelm are a normal human experience No Secondary Shame Rejecting the idea that feeling hard emotions is a source of shame Overcoming internalised beliefs about the negativity of emotions
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ With Dr Jan Eppingstall, today I delve into the fascinating world of habituation – which you might be familiar with as clutter blindness, but it's so much more than that! – and its impact on our daily lives. We look at the role of habituation in hoarding, and offer practical techniques to revitalise our perspectives. Join us as we unravel the complexity of habituation and its relationship to hoarding, with valuable insights into improving our quality of life. Habituation and its Impact Definition of habituation Evolutionary and innate nature of habituation Habituation as a form of non-associative learning Role of habituation in daily life Individual experiences with habituation Positive, neutral, and negative aspects of habituation Habituation in hoarding behaviour Habituation and autistic people Effects of habituation on daily tasks and decision-making Habituation in relation to clutter blindness and hoarding Overcoming Habituation Techniques for combatting habituation Changing daily routines and habits Using different modes of transport Performing everyday tasks in different ways Looking at space through a different perspective The need for a variety of approaches to combat habituation Techniques to break habitual patterns The importance of stepping out of your comfort zone The importance of mixing up approaches and embracing what works Habituation in Mental Health and Therapy Deliberate use of habituation in mental health treatment Exposure therapy and fear ladder approach in treating fears and phobias Gradual exposure therapy for specific fears Maintenance of progress in overcoming fears and phobias Implications of habituation for individuals with autism spectrum disorders in relation to hoarding Insight into habituation and its impact on hoarding behaviour Techniques and advice for combating habituation Examples of habituation in daily life Experience of habituation in hoarding behaviour and clutter blindness The impact of habituation on decision-making and compensating for clutter Connection between habituation, working memory, and people-pleasing behaviour Understanding the impact of habituation on decision-making and perceptions Strategies for breaking habitual patterns and experiencing joy Mindfulness and gratitude in daily life Rekindling appreciation for familiar places and seeing them through fresh eyes Encouragement to find joy in life and invest in experiences over material possessions Non-associative learning: Becoming accustomed to stimuli. Habituation serves necessary and neutral purposes. Skipping stages and creating fear ladder for hoarding. Clutter organization leads to joy, not regret. Habituation in hoarding leads to inaction. Removing obstacles can make daily tasks easier. Visual cues and externalising tasks aid memory. Self-sufficiency Observing and changing habits leads to improvement. Experiences linger longer than material possessions. Habituation is normal and can be positive. Habituation is the process of becoming less responsive to repeated stimuli. Habituation serves purposes: prevent overwhelm, allow focus, survival. Good, neutral, negative aspects. Overstimulation and stimming behaviors. Reliance on visuals becomes less effective. Visual reminders and working memory limitations prompt use of external systems to record and remember tasks. Some people have a mindset of overcoming odds and finding resourceful solutions. Changing habits and mindset is key for improvement. Observing and reflecting on how things are done can lead to finding better, more efficient ways. The key is to have a mix of approaches for habit change. Variety is essential and embrace what works, even if just for a bit. The mind values experiences over possessions for lasting impact. Habituation is normal, can be positive, neutral, or negative, and can be used to reduce distress.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Incredible conversation with the ever-insightful KC Davis of Struggle Care. From discussing the impact of accumulating unused items to exploring the mental and emotional barriers people face in decluttering and tidying up, this episode covers a wide range of strategies and insights to help you on your dehoarding journey. We look at the shame and stigma associated with struggling with care tasks, including dehoarding, and the impact on individuals' self-worth and ability to seek help, and replace the shame with an approach rooted in self-compassion and moral neutrality towards care tasks. So if you're looking for practical tips, empathy, and support on your dehoarding journey, you won't want to miss this episode! Understanding Care Tasks and Struggles Definition of "care tasks" Stigma and shame surrounding struggles with care tasks Impact on self-worth and ability to seek help Overcoming Shame and Stigma Fear and self-criticism Importance of self-compassion and supportive community Motivation and the limitations of shame Individualised solutions rooted in self-compassion Thriftiness and environmental concerns Strategies for Task Initiation and Motivation Challenges for hoarders and those with ADHD Differentiating motivation and task initiation Small steps, transitions, and tools for task initiation Starting the Decluttering Process No one right way to start Making small decisions and using timers Involving friends in parting with items Overcoming Emotional Barriers to Decluttering Impact of accumulated items and their eventual outcome "5 things theory" to overcome resistance Adjusting the tidying process and taking small steps consistently Strategies for Organising and Tidying Up Breaking tasks into smaller steps Visual storage ideas and creating rituals Setting priorities and challenging societal norms Judgments based on work, race, and appearance Many people feel therapy isn't addressing their needs. Shame doesn't lead to lasting behaviour change. Self-help methods are not one-size-fits-all. Permission to accommodate leads to lasting change. Challenges of ADHD and executive functioning explained. Declutter by what I need, love, keep. Motivation leads to easier hard work and decluttering. Take small steps and make decisions. Break tasks into small steps. Community support for navigating vulnerability. Many people find online content more helpful than traditional therapy, reflecting societal attitudes towards seeking help. Shame and social pressure don't guarantee change. Self-help space lacks personalised solutions for diverse challenges. Universal methods don't address individual barriers and needs. People give themselves permission to accommodate and it leads to curiosity, not necessarily a finish line. Challenges with executive functioning and organisation due to ADHD, struggling with clutter and distractions. Sort items by frequency of use, happiness, and necessity. Prioritise what to keep, rather than what to discard. Motivation leads to easier wins, declutter by discussing meaningful items with friends. Taking small steps without pressure, performing tasks with enjoyable activities. Breaking tasks into smaller steps and utilising a simple action to initiate it.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ I watched a film, "Where Dragons Live," which struck a chord with themes of belongings, families, the meaning of our stuff, and the complexities of dealing with a loved one's stuff after they pass away. I talk about the deeper implications of what we leave behind. Join me as I reflect on the emotional impact of material possessions and the significance of our connections with others. Film Review: Where Dragons Live Review and discussion of the film "Where Dragons Live" Exploration of themes relevant to hoarding, family dynamics and privilege Reflection on the concept of treasuring and maintaining possessions Analysis of the film's portrayal of mixed, nuanced emotions and reactions Examination of the anxiety surrounding what we leave behind for others Emphasis on the impact of hoarding on one's own life and grieving process Personal reflection on the burden and worry of leaving behind a hoarding home Consideration of the challenges faced by those sorting through a hoarded space Insight into the complexities of emotions and decision-making related to hoarding Impact Beyond Possessions Reflection on the value of relationships and connections beyond physical possessions Examination of the meaningful impact individuals can leave on others Emphasis on the significance of emotional and personal legacies Discussion of minimising physical clutter to alleviate stress for others Personal experiences related to friendships and legacies Reflection on the meaningful contributions individuals can make in others' lives Recommendations for listeners to consider the impact they leave on others Encouragement to prioritise meaningful connections over material possessions Mixed emotions lead to decision-making challenges. Grieving and hoarding Overwhelm Leave behind meaningful and powerful positive impact. Film subjects reflect on sentimental items. Grief and clearing out a hoarded home, finding value in the midst of overwhelming belongings. Leaving meaningful impact beyond material possessions. The film's focus on balancing material possessions with emotional value Minimising belongings for others' sake.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Dr. Jennifer Krafft, director of the Mindfulness and Acceptance Lab at Mississippi State University and her expertise in hoarding disorder, OCD, anxiety, and mindfulness and acceptance processes for treatment brings a fresh perspective to the prevalent issues surrounding hoarding. We're talking particularly about stigma and hoarding disorder, the impact of cultural and societal attitudes, and the potential for self-help interventions to reduce stigma. We look at the roles of psychological flexibility, self-compassion, and the need for societal change in addressing hoarding stigma. Stigma and Misconceptions Surrounding Hoarding Disorder Lack of public awareness and understanding Sensationalism in reality TV shows and its impact on stigmatisation Impact of hoarding stigma on seeking help and social lives Mindfulness and Acceptance in Managing Hoarding Disorder Dr. Jennifer Krafft's personal experiences and curiosity leading to interest in hoarding disorder Lack of effective treatments and trained providers for hoarding disorder Study on self-help interventions reducing stigmatisation for people with hoarding disorder Combating perfectionism through flexibility and managing cognitive reactions Seeking Help and Self-Stigma Dr. Jennifer Krafft's study on individuals' preferences for seeking help for mental health problems Public stigma and self-stigma, leading to shame, embarrassment, and hiding behaviour Psychological inflexibility linked to stigma and rigid behaviour patterns Acceptance and commitment therapy promoting psychological flexibility Addressing Stigma and Shame Impact of intersecting stigmas on individuals, such as hoarding and racism Addressing self-criticism, shame, and seeking support Mindfulness exercises and self-compassion in managing stigma and shame Cultural and Identity Perspectives in Hoarding Disorder Lack of research on culture, identity, and hoarding, particularly in diverse populations Additional challenges faced by individuals with multiple forms of discrimination Acknowledging the impact of intersecting stigmas on individuals Evolutionary Perspective of Hoarding Behaviour Dr. Jennifer Krafft discussing hoarding behaviour in the context of human evolution Mismatch between human adaptation and the current society's abundance of material possessions Promoting Awareness and Education Dr. Jennifer Krafft's advocacy for societal change in addressing hoarding stigma Necessity for professional education and awareness about hoarding disorder Lack of research on culture, identity, and hoarding, particularly in diverse populations Each of these topics delves into the complexities and implications of hoarding disorder, shedding light on the need for compassion, understanding, and effective interventions. Reality TV impacts public perception of hoarding. Insufficient research on hoarding and identity discrimination. Negative thoughts and emotions control behaviour; impacts stigma. Identifying and challenging perfectionism in daily life. Seeking support, not meant to be isolated. Consider the adaptive nature of hoarding behaviour. Dehoarding Zoom sessions help with self-judgment. Acceptance and commitment therapy promotes psychological flexibility to navigate stigma effectively. Insufficient research on hoarding and identity, leading to potential discrimination. Psychological inflexibility leads to stigma. Acceptance and commitment therapy can help. Researcher discusses unexpected study findings, biases Intrinsic motivation in decluttering. Seek support from others, fight hoarding stigma. Evolutionary perspective on hoarding behaviour and the potential benefits of hoarding in certain contexts Zoom accountability sessions for decluttering, self-judgment comparison.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I focus on the dreaded "analysis paralysis" and how it affects individuals with hoarding disorder. I discuss practical strategies for making decisions easier and breaking through the overwhelming feeling of being stuck in the decision-making process. From setting time limits to reframing fear, I will talk you through the steps to overcoming paralysis and perfectionism. Analysis Paralysis and Hoarding Disorder Definition of analysis paralysis Overwhelmed by options and freezing due to overanalysing Negative impact of perfectionism and fear of uncertainty on decision-making Feeling overwhelmed by choices Getting stuck in overanalysing Impact of perfectionism on decision-making Fear of uncertainty hindering progress Strategies to Overcome Analysis Paralysis Using systems or rules to make decisions easier Setting time limits to create focus and reduce overwhelm Practicing with small decisions to build confidence Grounding oneself in the present and breaking tasks into smaller chunks Having a decision-making framework or process to aid in breaking through analysis paralysis Techniques such as pros and cons lists, cost benefit analysis, and setting rules to make decisions easier Importance of setting criteria to aid decision-making Making use of time limits to create focus Building confidence through practicing with small decisions Breaking tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks Prioritising Progress Over Perfection Encouragement to start small, even if something seems impossible or too difficult Strategic questions, setting a timer, joining an accountability group, and focusing on the present moment to overcome paralysis and perfectionism Emphasising the importance of progress over perfection Starting with small, achievable goals Using strategic questions and setting timers for focus Utilising support systems like accountability groups The emphasis on progress over perfection Overcoming analysis paralysis through implementing systems. Overcome perfectionism and fear by taking action. Refocus on positive possibilities to overcome fear. Focus on 20-minute tasks to avoid overwhelm. Start with small decisions to build confidence. Focus on the present, break tasks down. Focusing on first step, making decisions easier. Simplify decision-making process to ease overthinking. Overcome perfectionism and fear of uncertainty by taking action and learning as you go. Changing mindset from fear to possibility, reframing challenges and gaining perspective. Focusing on 20-minute tasks helps with overwhelm and promotes action. Start small, build confidence to overcome hoarding. Focus on the present, break tasks into smaller chunks. Start with first step, use decision making framework to break through analysis paralysis. Tips for overcoming paralysis and overthinking: use pros and cons lists, cost benefit analysis, and practice to build confidence.
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