Podcasts about delight your marriage

Sometimes, God answers your prayers in a way you don't expect. That's how Jennifer's journey began. She and her husband had been married for 30 years, with three beautiful daughters. On the outside, everything seemed steady—but inside, Jennifer was silently struggling. Depression, anxiety, deep wounds from trauma, and the weight of parenting adult children had left her feeling exhausted and emotionally distant from her husband. She was in a dark place. But God. Her husband was the first to find Delight Your Marriage. Quietly, he joined our men's program. At first, he didn't even tell Jennifer. She just started to notice something changing. A peace in him. A gentleness. A stronger connection to God. Moved by what she saw, Jennifer said yes to his invitation to explore the women's program. What followed was a spiritual discipleship journey that would not only transform her marriage—it would transform her heart. How Christian Marriage Coaching Transformed Her Heart One line within the program touched Jennifer's heart: “I needed to love Jesus more than my pain.” It wasn't even directed at her during the call, but something about it resonated so deeply with her. She realized that in her grief and disconnection, she had allowed pain to take a front seat in her heart. But Jesus wanted her whole heart. She confronted lies she had believed about herself, her marriage, and her role as a mother and wife—and let God's truth replace them. She allowed God to break the chains of shame and fear, and instead chose freedom and forgiveness. Emotional and Physical Intimacy in Marriage Restored One of the most beautiful outcomes of Jennifer's story is the transformation in her intimacy with her husband! “It wasn't about frequency,” she said. “It was about connection. And now we're truly connecting—emotionally, spiritually, physically. We're more vulnerable, more united, and more in love.” That emotional and spiritual shift opened a door to true intimacy—something both of them had longed for but never fully accessed. And it all started when she began to let God love her—and let herself believe it. How Christian Marriage Help Can Impact Parenting Jennifer is a mother to three adult daughters. And though parenting adults has its own challenges, her healing began to spill over into her family life. With newfound clarity on how women are designed by God to be loved—safe, known, and whole-heartedly cherished—Jennifer began to understand how to mother her adult daughters in a way that honors their hearts. She started recognizing what they needed emotionally, just like she had discovered in herself. Even though parenting adult children can be complicated and painful, she now walks in hope—not shame. God is restoring what was broken. Handling Conflict in Marriage Without Spiraling Jennifer and her husband also found a new way to approach emotional triggers. They call it “spiraling.” This emotional awareness and God-centered communication brought a new peace to their marriage. They don't fight the way they used to. Now, they support each other through those low moments and move forward with unity. A Message to the Wife Who Feels Hopeless in Her Marriage When I asked Jennifer what she'd say to a woman in the same spot she once was, her answer was so honest and full of faith: “There's hope in Jesus. Be brave. Even if your husband is the problem, you can still change your heart—and it can change your marriage.” She continued: “This program has figured out how to help you out of crisis. Even if you're emotionally shut down, even if you feel like things can't get better—they absolutely can. God is in the business of healing, and He uses this process to restore hearts and homes.” The Power of a Women's Christian Coaching Community Jennifer also found healing through the community of women she met through the program. “It was such a gift to talk about things we never could talk about with friends—especially around sex and intimacy. The support, the prayer, the connection... it's unlike anything I've ever experienced. Women need this.” She felt seen, supported, and strengthened by walking this journey with other women in a safe, faith-filled environment. Christian Marriage Healing: A Beautiful New Chapter Today, Jennifer says her marriage is more joyful, more tender, and more united than ever before. They've always been best friends—but now they're more emotionally connected, spiritually aligned, and fully present for one another. “There's nothing I can't share with him now,” she said. “God gave us a beautiful marriage—but now we're living it with freedom, honesty, and deep love.” Final Thoughts We are so thankful for work that God did in this marriage and the way it not only impacted Jennifer and her spouse, but their children and future generations. He truly is a God of redemption.  With love, The DYM Team PS - If you're ready to take the next step and join a community of like-minded people wanting to build their marriages God's way, we would love to hear from you: delightyourmarriage.com/cc PPS - Here is a quote from (another) recent graduate: "I was on the verge of separating from my husband. Things had taken such a turn for the worse between us that life was not sustainable for me as things were going. My husband joined the program and I noticed some changes in him. Things started improving but we had a lot of healing to do; I had a lot of healing to do...We've been to several counselors before this point and my husband wasn't interested in finding another one. He had asked me to join the Delighted Wife program before but things were too broken and I was not willing to do a program that I thought was only about getting me to have more sex with him...But, after seeing him change some and knowing we needed help, I agreed to the program. While sex was a part of Delighted Wife, there were so many other areas for me to focus on first. It laid the foundation for a better and healthier relationship overall. The intimacy part follows."

When Lust No Longer Rules Your Mind: Patrick's Freedom Story It's a quiet kind of bravery that often goes unseen. The kind that walks through the door not to applause, but to shame—and chooses humility instead of hiding.  That's the kind of courage Patrick brought into this conversation. And today, I want to honor that bravery and invite you into a story that too few are willing to tell, but so many need to hear. How Addiction and Lust Took Root in Patrick's Life This is not just a testimony—it's a mirror for so many men. Maybe even you. Patrick didn't set out to become enslaved. No one does. It started with what seemed like innocent attention, where his lack of parental love likely was at the root. A college-aged ego boost. A swipe here. A message there. A few flirty words on a dating app. But what he didn't know was that the enemy had planted seeds. And what felt like harmless validation from unmet needs, eventually spiraled into addiction, and eventually betrayal. But God— Yes, this is a story of rock-bottom moments. It's a story of a man whose addiction, lust, and even prostitution came to light in the most painful and humiliating way.  But it's also a story of a God who meets us in our darkest, filthiest, most shameful pits—and brings us into the light. And you'll hear how it happened for Patrick. The Heartbreaking Wake-Up Call: What His Daughter Found The real wake-up call came when his wife found the proof. Actually—his daughter did. Yes. Patrick's 6-year-old daughter accidentally discovered the messages. Gut-wrenching. Embarrassing. Devastating.  That moment of exposure was the very thing that broke him enough to seek healing. Now, he calls it a “blessing”. The devil thrives in secrecy. He whispers, "Keep this hidden.” “It'll only hurt people if you share.” and “You can fix it yourself."  But Jesus says, "Bring it into the light. Tell safe people. Confess. I will heal you." Patrick did. And his life changed. Why Hiding Hurts—and Confession Heals But let's rewind for a second. Because this story didn't begin with healing. It began with desperation. After that discovery, Patrick didn't know where to turn. He thought he might lose his wife. And to be honest, she had every reason to walk away. But then, a friend—someone who had been through the program himself—spoke life. This friend had also been in the trenches and knew what it was like.  And he offered Patrick a lifeline: “It's not over. There is hope. You should look into Delight Your Marriage.” Patrick took a Clarity Call. It wasn't a sales pitch. It wasn't about convincing him to join a program. It was a discerning process to see if we could even help. And praise God, we could. The Hard Work of True Freedom: Identity, Humility, and Accountability That's when the real work began. You'll hear in this episode the specifics: how Patrick confronted the dual life he was living, how he wrestled with white-knuckling through sobriety, and how he came to reject the identity of "I'm just always going to be an addict." Because that's not how God sees us. Patrick realized something deep and transformational: When we stay tied to the identity of our past sin, we remain bound by it. But when we accept the truth that we are a new creation in Christ, the chains begin to fall off. That doesn't mean the road is easy. Not at all. Patrick will tell you: it was hard. It took humility. It took accountability. It took honesty. And it took work to discover what were the roots of the addiction.  But today, Patrick is walking in freedom. Freedom from shame. Freedom from the fear of being found out. And his marriage? On it's healing journey. Better than ever.  Not because everything's perfect, but because there is now a foundation of truth, transparency, and most importantly—Jesus. He prays with his wife now. He prays for her. He opens the Bible daily. He's leading his family spiritually. He's serving his wife—not as a passive man trying to survive, but as a man who is reclaiming his God-given masculinity. That's the kind of freedom God offers. Hope for Families: When Betrayal Breaks Your Heart So if you're a husband who's been hiding, hoping no one finds out, let this be your wake-up call. You are not alone. And more importantly, you are not without hope. Or maybe you're a wife who discovered your husband's secret. Maybe your heart is shattered, and you don't know how to put the pieces back together. Let this testimony be your whisper of hope. God is in the business of redemption. Patrick's wife is living proof. And if you're a pastor—or married to one—or you're in leadership and wrestling with the same chains, please don't think you're exempt. You're not. And that's okay. This is for you, too. Free Resources to Help You Heal: Training and Clarity Call That's why I want to invite you into a free training: delightym.com/healthechurch This training is specifically for those who want to understand how deep this issue runs in our churches—and what we can do about it. Whether you're battling lust yourself or you're trying to help others—this is your equipping. You can also take the next step like Patrick did and book a free Clarity Call: delightym.com/cc There is hope. There is healing. And it doesn't come from trying harder or hiding longer. It comes from surrendering and allowing God to rebuild you from the inside out. Patrick's story is not just his own. It's a glimpse of what God can do in any marriage, any man, any home. Let this episode remind you: when lust no longer rules, love begins to lead. Don't miss it. Listen now. And please, if this touches you—share it. You never know who's in the dark, needing to hear there's light. With love, Belah Resources: Free Training: Healing the Church from Sexual Sin delightym.com/healthechurch Free Clarity Call: Find out if one of our programs is right for you delightym.com/cc

How to be a Good Sexual Man: Interview with Sam Jolman Men, have you ever wished someone had sat you down and given you the sex talk you really needed—not the awkward, surface-level version, but a conversation that spoke to your heart, your masculinity, and how all of that relates to your sexuality and how God designed you?  That's exactly what therapist and author Sam Jolman offers in his book The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality. I was deeply honored to have him on the Delight Your Marriage podcast for a conversation I believe every man and every wife needs to hear. Below are some highlights from our conversation—rich truths that stirred awe, healing, and even some tears. We hope you can listen in on the podcast and check out his newest book, available everywhere books are sold. What Does It Mean to Be a “Good Sexual Man”? Sam shared how the term “good sexual man” often sounds like an oxymoron in our culture. If someone says a man is “very sexual,” we usually don't take it as a compliment. But what if masculinity and sexuality are meant to be good—designed by God, filled with honor, love, and even awe? Sam invites men to recover their God-given sexual goodness, not by ignoring the brokenness, but by acknowledging it and moving through it—through experiences of shame, silence, even possible harm into healing, wholeness, and holiness. He said, “The issue isn't too much sexual desire—but too little heart.”  Your heart was meant to be connected to your sexuality, and it is something that many of the men he speaks with have trouble bringing into their sexuality. Masculinity Reclaimed: More Than Behavior Management Too often, conversations around male sexuality in the church revolve around “behavior management”—Am I behaving or not? Am I sinning or not? But Sam urges men to ask deeper, more hopeful questions: What kind of lover am I?Do I pursue my wife emotionally, not just physically?Have I honored the wounds in my story that made me vulnerable?Have I mistaken my brokenness as only sin, when it's also about being wounded? This is not about making excuses—it's about seeking healing and becoming the kind of man who loves deeply and well. Awe, Sensuality & the Glory of a Woman's Body This part of our conversation brought me to tears. Sam quotes author Mike Mason who described his wife's naked body as glory. And Scripture supports this—glory is what is veiled in the Bible, not hidden out of shame, but out of reverence. What if we, as wives, were seen like that? What if our husbands truly beheld us as the masterpiece of God—with awe, wonder, tenderness, and joy? It is what every wife is truly longing for.  And what Sam beautifully points out is—this isn't about trying to say something simply to please your wife. It's about opening your eyes to the beauty God has already placed in front of you, for your pleasure, for your joy, and for your worship. Jesus: The Model of the Sensual and Strong Man Jesus was the manliest of men. He endured the cross, the lashing, the pain, all without complaint. But He also wept over the death of His friend. He was moved with compassion.He made excellent wine for a wedding! And as Sam so beautifully brought up, he received tenderness from a woman washing His feet with tears and perfume. Jesus was both strong and sensual. He didn't run from beauty—He embraced it. And Sam encourages men to do the same. Sex as Play, Not Pressure One of my favorite parts of Sam's book is the idea of sex as play. (As you know, we LOVE playfulness at Delight Your Marriage!) In the story of Isaac and Rebekah, Scripture uses the word “play” to describe their intimate interaction. Not “duty.” Not “obligation.” Not even “intercourse.” Just play. How different would sex feel to wives if it was simply seen as an invitation to play? To connect? To enjoy one another—without pressure or performance? When sex becomes play, there's less fear and more room for freedom and creativity. It becomes mutually joyful and it draws both hearts closer. We also both acknowledged that if sex is the only area right now where you play as a couple, it may not come as naturally or even feel awkward. Make sure to build a culture of play outside of the bedroom- go on playful dates, have playful jokes throughout the day- so that you can bring it into the bedroom more naturally. A Message to Men Carrying Sexual Shame Sam shared that many men, in the privacy of his counseling office, have revealed deep sexual shame—some of it stemming from trauma, abuse, or early exposure to sexuality that felt confusing or violating. The enemy wants men to bury those wounds in silence. But healing comes through truth, and through Jesus, who already knows, already sees, and already loves you.  As Sam reminded us, your brokenness is not just your sin—it's also your wounding. And it was wounding.  If this is you, you're not alone. And you can heal. God makes all things new. Final Thoughts: Why Every Husband (and Wife) Should Read This Book Sam's book isn't just another marriage resource. It's an invitation to men to become whole, godly, good sexual beings—men who integrate their strength with their heart, their sensuality with their faith, and their desire with deep love and awe of glory. And wives—if your husband reads this book, I believe you'll feel more seen, more cherished, and more pursued than ever before.We hope this conversation leaves you feeling inspired to take in the beauty around you, stand in awe of God, experience the sensuality and sexuality that God gave you (that was purposefully designed, not a mistake!), and experience the fullness of God in your relationship with your spouse. You can get The Sex Talk You Never You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality wherever books are sold. (And there's currently a buy one, get one free on the website so go now!) samjolman.com Sam Jolman is a lover, father, therapist, and writer, generally in that order. His newest book, The Sex Talk You Never You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality, has already received rave reviews, including a review and foreword from author John Eldredge (Wild at Heart). Sam also writes regularly on Substack and offers live monthly discussions with subscribers on topics like Christian sexuality, masculinity, healing from shame, and more. With love,   Belah & Team PS - If you're interested in learning more about our Masculinity Reclaimed program, please visit https://delightyourmarriage.com/programs/ or schedule a free Clarity Call at delightym.com/cc PPS - In case you missed it, we launched our social media channels last week! You can now get extra Delight Your Marriage content as you go about your week! Yeah, we're really happy about it too :) Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Youtube, and say hello!

The day has arrived! We are officially on social media! And we can't wait for you to see what we have for you! Follow Us & Subscribe on: Instagram, Facebook, & Youtube Now, on to the podcast! Marital Success is Your Spiritual Responsibility If you've been listening to the Delight Your Marriage podcast or reading these blogs for a while, you know I don't take marriage lightly. And if you're a follower of Jesus, I want to lovingly remind you: your marriage is a spiritual responsibility. This isn't just about your personal happiness or even your kids' well-being—though those matter deeply. No, the success of your marriage speaks volumes to everyone who knows you, especially those who know you're a Christian. Why Your Marriage Is Bigger Than You Think about it: if people know you follow Jesus, but your marriage falls apart, what does that say about the relevance of Jesus in your life? About the Bible? About the power of God? Yes, divorce is painful for the children—but it's also painful spiritually for everyone who witnesses it. We're supposed to be making disciples of all people, right? So when our marriage breaks down, we're tarnishing the very witness we're meant to live out. I say this from personal experience. My first marriage ended in divorce, and I carry that pain and regret. It wasn't a biblical divorce—I had to plead the blood of Jesus over it. But I've repented, I've been forgiven, and now I've made a decision: I will never again allow my marriage to dishonor the name of Jesus. I want the same for you. It's Time to Prioritize Marriage—for the Gospel If you're reading this, there's a good chance your faith is already strong. You want biblical answers, not pop psychology. Thank you. If I can help you have a great marriage, your work for the Kingdom becomes that much easier. But let's be real. Marriage is hard. It's easy to get selfish. It's easy to get frustrated with your spouse being a messy, imperfect human (just like we are!). But we can't stay in that space. We've got to pull ourselves out of our self-centeredness and serve. Husbands, Scripture calls you to die for your wife. Wives, we're called to submit to our husbands. I know—it's not easy. Believe me, I don't like that verse either. I've struggled with being a controlling wife. But control is rooted in fear. And fear means I'm not trusting God. When both spouses choose to obey God, not based on their spouse's actions but based on God's call—that's where transformation begins. We're not left wondering what marriage is supposed to be. God gave us His Word. It's the most printed, most transformative book in human history. You don't have to guess what it means to be a godly husband or wife—it's all there. Marriage: God's Tool for Healing Your spouse can hurt you the most—or they can be the very instrument God uses to heal you the most. I've lived both. And I want to be the kind of wife who makes my husband's meeting with Jesus even better because he was married to me. What if that was your motivation? That your love could heal your spouse. That your encouragement could empower them into God's purpose for their life. That your gentle presence could become their safe space in this tough world. That's the kind of love Jesus shows us—and the kind we're called to give. Love Your Spouse the Way They Receive Love This is one of our core teachings at DYM: love your spouse the way they receive love. The Bible tells us to love our neighbor as ourselves. That means not giving chocolate ice cream if they love vanilla. It means learning what makes them feel safe, respected, cherished. Husbands need to feel safe, known, and cherished. Wives need to feel respected, admired, and pursued in wholehearted sexual intimacy. (If you'd like to learn more, we break this down in our free framework at delightym.com/framework. It's an amazing starting point to grow in loving your spouse practically and biblically.) Growth Is the Goal Friend, you didn't find this blog because you're failing. You're here because you want to grow. And that's beautiful. That matters. Don't give up on the hard days when it feels like no one sees your effort. God does. He sees every unseen act of love, every sacrifice, every decision to forgive. We don't get to skip the suffering. Jesus didn't. Paul didn't. In fact, suffering is often God's tool for growth, purification, and transformation. But you don't have to do this alone. There's help. There's hope. And there is healing.   With love, Belah & Team   PS - If you want to learn more, we recommend you take our Marital Health Assessment. It is a free assessment that gives insight on your Marital Health and what we recommended as next steps based on your Marital Health score.   PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: "I love life and am dreaming again because God has bought healing to my marriage. It's like all the stop buttons that were pushed because I was out of alignment with God's will in my marriage have been pushed to Go/Green again... I feel more aligned, more focused, and things are moving again."

Hi friend, This one's pretty personal. After 10 years of podcasting, coaching, and quietly building Delight Your Marriage—without social media—we're finally stepping into a new chapter. (I'm still kind of holding my breath saying that.) In today's episode, I share the real behind-the-scenes story of: Why I stayed off social all these years (and it's deeper than just “not liking it”) The Gideon moment that confirmed my calling to do this in secret Publishing my book under a pseudonym—and the fears behind that decision How God still grew DYM to a team of 10, hundreds of clients, and millions of downloads And most importantly—why we're trying social media now. But! Before you go hunting down our Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube… wait just one more day. Tomorrow (Friday), we'll be sending you all the links (if you're on our email list -- if not go to delightyourmarriage.com) so you can follow, share, and help us get this message out to the world. For now—would you take a moment to listen to this episode? I poured my heart into it. With love and (slightly trembling?) excitement, Belah P.S. I won't be reading the comments (my team will!)—but if something resonates, share it with a friend. That's how this whole thing started in the first place. :)

Here at Delight Your Marriage, we've seen so many marriages transformed by God's grace—couples who never thought they could feel close again, now thriving in ways they never imagined.  But here's the thing… what if we could help the next generation BEFORE they get married? What if they had the tools and the wisdom now, so they don't have to struggle the way so many of us did? Setting the Example of a Beautiful Marriage Before we can guide the next generation, we need to make sure our own marriages are solid. Let's be real—kids don't just listen to what we say, they watch what we do. If they see love, respect, and joy in our marriages, they'll want that for themselves. But if they see stress, distance, and unhappiness, they're going to wonder if marriage is even worth it. So, if your marriage needs some healing, that's the best place to start. Don't wait. Your marriage is your greatest testimony to your kids. The World Is Confusing—We Need to Speak Up First The world is LOUD when it comes to relationships, identity, and marriage. If we're not having these conversations with our kids early and often, they're going to learn from someone else… and that's usually not going to be a source of truth. Here are a few key things we need to be talking about: 1. Helping Them Know Their Identity in Christ We live in a world that tells kids they need to “find themselves” by looking inward. But that leads to so much confusion! They need to know—without a doubt—that God made them exactly as they are, on purpose. We have to be proactive in these conversations, helping them stand firm in their identity before the world really tries to confuse them. 2. What Marriage Is REALLY About Marriage isn't just about being happy—it's about fulfilling God's purpose for your life together. So many people go into marriage with unrealistic expectations and get hurt because they didn't know what to look for in a spouse. Let's help our kids understand the beauty and purpose of marriage before they start dating, so they can make wise choices! 3. Setting Healthy Boundaries in Dating Our kids are bombarded with messages that say, “Do whatever feels good,” but that's not wisdom! We need to help them understand that sex is a GIFT—but it's meant for marriage. That doesn't just mean telling them, “Don't do this, don't do that.” It means giving them the tools and the why behind making those choices. When they understand the wisdom behind God's design, it makes it so much easier to live it out. Practical Help for Young Adults Navigating Dating One of the hardest things for young people is knowing how to date wisely. That's why we created our Pre-Dating Workbook and Video Course! It's packed with a clear vision for a God-honoring life and marriage, the four stages of pursuing a spouse (and the mistakes to avoid!), practical skills for meeting and discerning a future spouse, guidance on setting healthy emotional and physical boundaries, and more. If you have a son, daughter, niece, nephew, or someone in your life who is dating or thinking about it soon, this resource is for them! Check it out at delightyourmarriage.com/dating Providing Joy and Wisdom in Your Own Home The key to influencing the next generation is NOT about forcing rules on them—it's about showing them something better. Jesus attracted people to Him because He was full of joy and truth. That's how we need to be! If we want our kids to listen to us, we need to be a source of joy, truth, wisdom, and peace in their lives. Equipping the Next Generation for Stronger Marriages We can't sit back and hope our kids figure it out on their own. They need us to guide them, to give them resources, and to speak truth in love. If you feel a stirring in your heart, take action. Strengthen your own marriage as a testimony to them, start having open, honest conversations about love, identity, and marriage, equip them with practical tools like our Pre-Dating Workbook and Course. Let's raise up a generation that is confident in who they are, wise in how they date, and strong in their marriages. And most of all—let's be praying for our kids. This is a battle, but God is greater. Thank you for being part of this. We're in it together!   Love,   Belah & Team  

I recently had the incredible opportunity to be a guest on Gary Thomas' podcast. If you've been around Delight Your Marriage for a while, you know what a dear friend Gary has been to this ministry. Not only is he a best-selling author and speaker, but he's also been so generous in inviting us to share on his platform in the past. And this time? I got to be part of a panel alongside two truly amazing women: Juli Slattery—President and Co-Founder of Authentic Intimacy and author of several life-changing books, including God, Sex, & Your Marriage and Rethinking Sexuality. Debra Fileta—Creator of the #1 faith-based relationship advice blog TrueLoveDates.com and author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life and Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love (among many others). We came together for a powerful discussion about helping wives awaken to intimate pleasure—such an essential and often overlooked topic. The wisdom and insights from these women were just incredible, and I cannot wait for you to hear this conversation. Here were some key takeaways from our panel discussion: The Challenge of Awakening Sexual Fulfillment For so many women, the journey toward enjoying sex in marriage isn't a simple switch—it's a process. If you've spent years saying "no"—whether because of purity culture, past wounds, or just never learning that sex is a gift—it makes sense that "yes" doesn't come easily. And you are not alone in this! How Husbands Can Help Their Wives Awaken to Pleasure Men, you've likely never been discipled in how to help your wife step into her own sexual enjoyment. Many husbands enter marriage assuming their wife will naturally embrace sex, but the reality is, she may feel lost, hesitant, or even afraid. This is where your role as her safe place matters deeply. Here are some questions that Debra suggested as conversation starters on sex: What's something you're looking forward to in our sex life? What's something that makes you nervous or unsure? What beliefs about sex do you want to hold onto, and what do you want to let go of? Overcoming the Weight of Purity Culture Many women who "did everything right" and waited for marriage still find themselves struggling. Why? Because purity culture often framed sex as something to avoid, not as a gift to embrace. As Juli Slattery puts it, "Just because I waited, doesn't mean I know how to start." That's the truth. And if this is you, grace upon grace, my friend. Sexual wholeness isn't about following a list of dos and don'ts. It's about stepping into the fullness of what God has given and allowing Him to reframe any distorted views we carry. The Power of Emotional & Spiritual Connection Debra Fileta says, "What you do above the sheets paves the way for what happens under the sheets." I could not agree more. Emotional and spiritual safety fuels physical intimacy. Husbands, if your wife doesn't feel safe, known, and whole-heartedly cherished, her body won't naturally respond to you with desire. So, before you think about sex, think about: Playfulness in everyday life (it builds intimacy!) How you affirm and admire her body How well she feels known and cherished by you It's Not About You, It's About Her A massive shift for many husbands is realizing that sex in marriage isn't just about "getting my needs met." If your wife doesn't feel safe, it's no wonder intimacy feels like a duty rather than a desire. You have an opportunity to disciple your heart in a new way. Instead of seeing your wife as the "acceptable outlet" for your sexual needs, ask: "How can I be the safest place for her to enjoy intimacy?" When she feels safe, she will want to engage. Not out of obligation, but because she feels free to. How to Move Toward More Desire in Marriage Wives, rather than wondering and praying, "Why am I broken?" for not wanting intimacy, instead ask, "How can I cultivate a desire for intimacy?" Some ideas: Non-sexual sensual touch with no pressure Playfulness in your daily life (This is huge!) Embracing a "turning a dial" rather than "flipping a switch" approach to intimacy    Addressing Past Trauma & Emotional Wounds Even in strong marriages, past sexual trauma or unhealthy conditioning can affect intimacy. And let's be real: just having a great marriage doesn't mean sex will be effortless. For some, the body's response to past wounds will still show up. That's okay. It's part of the journey. Healing takes time, patience, and sometimes outside help. If this is part of your story, give yourself permission to process what's needed. The Role of Faith & Hope in Sexual Fulfillment God is a God of hope. If your marriage has felt disconnected, there is hope. If you've never truly enjoyed sexual pleasure, there is hope. Your story isn't over. Pursue wholeness—emotionally, spiritually, and physically—and trust that intimacy can be more fulfilling than you ever imagined. Final Thoughts Husbands: Emotional and spiritual intimacy first, pleasure follows. Wives: You are not broken. Your pleasure matters. Both: Intimacy is a journey, not a destination. Keep taking steps, and trust that God is working in it all. Friend, you are not alone. Your marriage can grow, your desire can awaken, and your intimacy can thrive. Keep leaning in, keep growing, and keep trusting that God has more for you than you even realize. Be blessed! Love,   Belah & Team  

We are so honored to share Dasha's incredible transformation story with you today! If you're looking for hope for your own relationship, Dasha's journey might be just what you need to hear today. Dasha's Marriage Story Dasha came into her second marriage with a guarded heart, carrying pain from her previous relationship. It wasn't easy; the beginning of this new chapter was rocky. She felt disconnected and had no desire for her husband. At one point, she even told him he could leave if he was unhappy. Her Husband's Transformation But instead of walking away, her husband chose a different path. He joined Masculinity Reclaimed, Delight Your Marriage's program for men, designed to inspire personal growth and transformation. Through this program, he was able to learn the differences between men and women and how to fully love his wife in a way that she would receive love. He began implementing what he had learned in his marriage and Dasha began noticing the changes in their home and in their marriage. At first, Dasha was skeptical. She had seen temporary changes before, and they'd tried other methods, like counseling. But as Dasha put it, those methods “revealed” problems—they didn't heal them. This time, something was different. The changes in her husband weren't just surface-level; they were real, lasting, and kept getting better. For the first time, Dasha began to feel emotionally safe. The walls she had built around her heart started to come down. She felt connected, relaxed, and fully free to be herself with her husband. When she realized these changes weren't going away, Dasha decided to take her own step of faith and bravery. She joined the Delighted Wife program to do her part in their journey. Dasha's Marriage Transformation Through the program, Dasha found the healing she had been longing for. By embracing gratitude, forgiveness, and the biblical principles we teach, she experienced transformation—not just in her marriage but in her own heart. She connected with other women who are on the same journey as her and now has a support system that is cheering her on and encouraging her. She learned how to open up her heart, though she was afraid it might bring hurt, she found that it brought healing. Today, she describes her marriage as not just connected, but fun! And the sweetest part? Her son gets a front-row seat to a joyful, loving, and laughter-filled home. A Marriage (and Home) Full of Fun We are so proud of Dasha for her courage, vulnerability, and willingness to embrace the process. Her story is a beautiful reminder that no matter how your marriage starts, you can change where it's going. It is possible to have a marriage that's stress-free, emotionally safe, deeply connected, and full of fun. We're rooting for you and cheering you on every step of the way! With love, Belah & Team PS - If you are looking for this type of change in your marriage, we invite you to make a Clarity Call and learn more about the programs we have for men and women: delightym.com/cc PPS - Here is a testimonial from (another) recent graduate of the Delighted Wife program: “My husband and I were at the brink of complete and utter separation. There was anger, yelling, and volatile behavior. We were not even sleeping in the same bed or the same room... Through the program, I realized how much healing needed to take place in my own heart. I've learned to see my husband through God's eyes and to love him with all of his strengths and weaknesses. The forgiveness [module] helped me release past hurts, and I now truly feel loved.”

Do you remember what it was like falling in “like” with your spouse?  What was it that originally drew you to them? Maybe it was their humor, kindness, or how they made you feel seen and appreciated. Over time, it's easy for that “like” to fade.  Instead, criticism, judgment, or even indifference creeps in.  But imagine being in your spouse's shoes—everything they say and do, examined under a magnifying glass, critiqued and picked apart. That kind of scrutiny doesn't help them thrive. And nothing wounds deeper than feeling that the person you chose, the one closest to you, doesn't actually like you. What if, instead, you accepted their weaknesses and quirks? After all, they have them, and so do you.  What if you chose to see their strengths instead? What if you noticed what they're doing right and spoke it out loud? I want to encourage you to take that step. Scripture is clear about encouragement and loving our neighbors: “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV) “Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'” Matthew 22:37-39 (NIV) “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves” Philippians 2:3 (NIV) “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” Romans 12:10 (ESV) “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4:2 (NIV) Your spouse needs to know that you see the good in them. That you still like them. That you're rooting for them, not against them. It's amazing what a little grace and encouragement can do to rebuild connection and joy. This Christmas week, I invite you to be gracious with your spouse. Notice the small things—their kindness, their effort, their dedication—and let them know you see it. Accept their weaknesses, support them gently, and call out the good that God has placed in them. God bless you, and from all of us here at Delight Your Marriage, Merry Christmas! Love, Belah & Team PS - If you want to learn more about how to love your closest neighbor well, we would love to chat with you. Click the link to schedule a FREE Clarity Call: delightym.com/cc PPS - The third installment of our Pre-Marriage series, the Pre-Wedding Workbook, is available now! We hope this book blesses you and sets you on the path to a peaceful, playful, passionate, and purposeful marriage! Check it out here: Pre-Wedding Workbook

It's so easy to feel the disconnect in your marriage and wonder if things can ever truly align. Stu's story is a beautiful reminder that transformation is possible. Stu grew up feeling socially awkward and unsure about the purpose of marriage. After marrying his wonderful wife Linda and after 20 years of marriage, he still found himself asking, “How do I understand her?” and “How do I connect with her?” He described their relationship as feeling like “misaligned velcro.” But instead of staying stuck, Stu decided to take a step of faith. Through the Delight Your Marriage program, he learned practical tools like the CIRQUE listening technique, which he called “revolutionary.” He discovered how to be prayerful and playful and he not only deepened his relationship with Linda but also grew closer to Christ. Today, Stu says he and Linda are “perfectly aligned.” Praise God! We hope Stu's story inspires you to believe that change is possible. It's possible to break free from feelings of disconnection. It's possible to learn how to love your spouse in ways that make them feel cherished. And it's possible for God to completely transform your marriage and your life. God bless you! Love,  Belah & Team PS - If you are interested in taking the Marital Health Assessment that Stu mentions in this episode, you can find it here: https://delightyourmarriage.com/health/ PPS - If you want to participate in our FREE Masculinity Reclaimed Foundations Course, please check out this link: delightym.com/mrf  

We're thrilled to share Craig's story with you today. For years, Craig and his wife were stuck in a painful cycle—“You always ____,” “You never _____”—both keeping score, building walls of resentment, and matching hurt with hurt. Things seemed like they'd never change. Then, a friend from church mentioned the transformation he had experienced through Delight Your Marriage. Craig was skeptical at first, but as the months passed, he couldn't deny the remarkable shift in his friend's life. That's when Craig decided to take the first step and schedule a Clarity Call. What surprised him most was that the change didn't come from trying to fix his wife—it started with him. Within the first month, Craig embraced a new way of showing up: becoming “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” Through his own transformation, the marriage began to heal. Today, Craig shares with joy that his children will never have to grow up in a divided home. The family tree will remain unbroken, with a straight and strong trunk—thanks to the tools, community, and growth Craig found through our program. We hope Craig's story reminds you that change is possible. It's possible to break free from arguments. It's possible to experience peace and joy in your marriage. And it's possible for God to rewrite your story in ways you never imagined. We believe in you, and we are cheering you on. Love, Belah & Team PS - If you want a change in your marriage like Craig had, with no more arguing and no more resentment, we would love to talk with you. Check out our free Clarity Call here: delightyourmarriage.com/cc   PPS - Check out this testimonial from (another) recent graduate: “My wife had her mind pretty much set on divorce. She said she had an upcoming meeting with an attorney when I first joined the program. My stress level was up, my appetite was pretty much nothing, and I couldn't sleep. [After MR}, I have grown spiritually, mentally, and feel more whole as a person. My wife and I have come to a place in our marriage where it used to be, like when we first got married. We are happy to be around each other again, can't wait to see each other at the end of the day, and have more connected conversations again.”

We want to share an inspiring story about Karl, a widower who experienced profound loss when his first wife passed away in 2020. Since then, he's rebuilt his life with a new marriage to his lovely wife Rachel and a vibrant blended family of six children.  At first, their new life together seemed to be falling into place beautifully, but just nine months into their marriage, an unexpected challenge arose. Due to circumstances beyond their control, pornography was inadvertently introduced into their home through one of their children's devices. This incident outside of their control ignited a series of conflicts, tension and bitterness.   As a pastor, he realized if he lost his marriage, everything, every thing in his life was at stake. Through a series of unusual events, Karl learned of the success of Delight Your Marriage and decided to give it a try and fight for his marriage.  He took our free Clarity Call and described it as a “breath of fresh air” that gave true clarity. He was able to see how not only the past few months had affected his marriage but how things from his previous marriage and the loss from 2020 were also affecting him even now.  He committed to the men's program, and the transformation was remarkable. Through the tools and guidance he received, he learned to communicate more effectively and approach his relationship with a renewed sense of empathy and understanding. As Karl's approach to their marriage shifted, Rachel's heart began to soften. This newfound healing was put to the test when their luggage, including passports, thousands in cash, work laptop, and IDs, was stolen right before their trip to Rachel's home country.  He said this (and this is what we want for you) they leaned into each other and God during crisis, rather than being torn apart. When they used to have massive discord on something as simple as a family routine, now they have connection and healing amidst what could be described as a significant disappointment.  What they've discovered through it all... they have both said: “I have my best friend back.”  Be encouraged by God's miracle working power, which He can do for you too!  Belah & Team

For the past 30 years, she has tried everything to try and connect with her husband. It left her feeling lonely inside her own marriage. Tanya is a woman who feels deeply. She is wired to feel the world and those around her in a deep, empathetic way. But this is not the way her husband was wired. Since the beginning of their marriage, Tanya has felt a disconnect and a dismissal of her emotions.  Her husband went looking for marriage help and found the Delight Your Marriage podcast. Through the podcast, he was inspired to join the men's program and that is when their marriage really began to change. She was shocked when she noticed he started listening more intently, he became more tender, and they would go on walks in the park holding hands together- something that had been missing since their dating days. This inspired Tanya to do the women's program and "jump in with both feet", willing to let this program change her the way it had changed her husband. Now, their marriage has flourished. Tanya never thought it would be possible, but here they are, more connected than ever before. She said she feels "let out of prison". The depression has lifted and she has hope for the future for the first time in so long. We believe Tanya's story will encourage you and inspires hope in you for your journey! Love,  Belah & Team  PS - If this story resonates with you and you want to see a change in your marriage as well, we would love to talk with you. Contact us at delightyourmarriage.com/cc for a completely free Clarity Call. (A call Tanya says is still impacting her even now.)   PSS - Here is a quote from a (different) recent graduate: Before the Delighted Wife Program: "We were planning on how to keep a family together while breaking our family up - We were at the end of ourselves and decided it was time to give up and go our separate ways." After: "WHERE DO I BEGIN!!! I have grown in patience, perspective, my faith and connection with God, my understanding of my husband, and peace.  I have learned how to build my marriage.  Building it is now a journey and no longer an intense, overwhelming mission impossible...  Biggest take away from this whole course is the GOD FACTOR.  Belah always pointed us to Jesus NOT to a strategy or an idea or concept.  It was directly and purely to JESUS.  He was the main focus, and everything else just fell  into place.  It helped me to re-center everything in my life."

We have all felt the frustration and disappointment of doing our best to do the right thing and life still does not go the way we thought.    For 28 years, Stephen was a faithful husband to his wife. There were no drugs or alcohol or pornography. They raised two kids in a Christian home. From the outside, everything looked like it should be going right. But within their marriage, they were falling apart. Stephen felt emotionally and physically abandoned by his wife and didn't know what to do.   After desperately searching “Sexual Intimacy” on Google in hopes of finding some answers, Stephen stumbled upon Delight Your Marriage. After the first podcast episode, he knew this was what the Lord had for him. He was shocked that after signing up, exactly what he had been praying for came to pass... his wife greeted him with open arms, a smile, and a “How was your day?” followed by a passionate night!   Stephen had to do his work on himself. It wasn't easy and he had to have faith that God could change it all. And He did.   This is the story we want for each person listening: to be desired by their spouse, to be connected, and to be loved in a delight-filled marriage.   We are so thankful to Stephen for sharing his story with us and we hope that his story becomes your story too.   Blessings,   Belah & Team   P.S. - If you want to know more about our Clarity Calls or how to become involved in the same work Stephen did, please reach out to us at delightyourmarriage.com/cc. We would love to talk to you!   P.S.S. - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: Before the men's program: “I often felt disrespected and controlled. To a degree I felt unloved because of the lack of physical intimacy. I often felt I couldn't be myself or express my opinion because of the disapproval I would feel when I did. There was anger and indifference growing in me. We were growing further and further apart…”   After the men's program: “Tension between us is pretty much gone! Our relationship, our discussions have become much more peaceful, easygoing and playful than before. My wife has become more affectionate and has initiated intimacy more! We can now discuss physical intimacy and not argue. She has told me many times how she likes the changes she sees in me, and is expressing more and more desire to grow in intimacy herself!... Other people around us, even strangers, have noticed something different about us. One change that I think is the most telling of how the DYM program has impacted our lives: Prior to the program we had been sleeping in separate rooms for years. I am thankful to say that I am back in our marriage bed, physically, emotionally – for good now!”   P.S.S.S… :)  A few weeks ago, I had the wonderful privilege of being a guest on the 'That's Just What I Needed' podcast with speaker & author Donna Jones, who is a friend of DYM and has actually been on our podcast as well! If you'd like to listen to the episode, we talk about what you can do make your marriage better, regardless of where you're starting. You can find it here: That's Just What I Needed   It was so great getting to chat with her and we hope the episode blesses you immensely! We want to support Donna and the great work she is doing so if you are on social media, please give her a follow on @donnaajones and make sure to check out her new book, Healthy Conflict, Peaceful Life. Thank you again for having me, Donna!

 "Throughout all of history, it is clear that humans naturally are humble, self-sacrificial, and want to be of service to others" ...said no one, ever.    That is the right heart and mindset but it must be chosen and cultivated. When we look back at our lives the things we are most proud of are not what came easily. We are most proud of what was difficult, what took sacrifice and what was in service to something bigger than ourselves.  By nature, we don't want to do "hard". Easy SEEMS better in the short-term, but when we choose the hard, we look back and see a life of meaning and purpose.    As a wife, it's not easy to reject the lies that society feeds us nowadays, here are a few: Lie - "Men and women are the same" The problem is if we're the same then we'll expect to give and receive love the same way. So, if a wife doesn't need sex to feel loved, she'll be bitter that her husband can't live without it. The truth sets us free. And the truth is men and women are designed differently -- equal in value and dignity but different in the ways we receive love (among other things).   In today's episode here are a few other lies we'll go into: Lie - Don't do things for others that you don't want to do... ever (otherwise that's oppression) Lie - Be true to your feelings at all costs (to do otherwise is inauthentic and essentially immoral) Lie - Stay married only if you consistently feel "in love" with your spouse (regardless of kids) Lie - Don't push yourself toward intimacy, if you aren't spontaneously feeling it, otherwise it's oppressive and BAD BAD BAD I'd like to clarify this last point lest you not listen to today's episode. When I push myself towards the gym because of a doctor's wisdom, am I oppressing myself? Is the doctor oppressing me for suggesting such a gruesome and heinous encouragement that could leave me sore and in discomfort for days... No--I'm grateful he told me the truth so I can have the results he knows I want: health and well-being. Ultimately, if I do push myself to go to the gym, I feel a LOT better once I'm there and started. In the same way, if it is true and wise and good to go towards intimacy in marriage -- regardless of how I feel naturally -- I can change my attitude and go towards this gift that God has given. And generally with the right attitude, I'll start to enjoy it in the midst.  The beautiful part about sex is when you sacrifice your feelings and wants for the good of God's plan for your marriage, you can actually start to enjoy, love, and relish in His good gift of intimacy! It all starts with a choice to say "Not my will, but Your will be done in my life". Love,  Belah   PS - If you are wanting to improve your marriage and have deeper intimacy with your spouse, we would love to talk with you. Please feel free to contact us at delightyourmarriage.com/cc to schedule a free Clarity Call. PPS - Here is a quote from one of our recent graduates: "[Before the Delighted Wife Program], My husband and I were at the brink of complete and utter separation.  We were not communicating.  There was anger and yelling and volatile behavior.  We were not even sleeping in the same bed, in the same room. I was feeling absolutely helpless and broken.  I feared for the future and for what would happen to our family. My health was being affected and all of the struggles were really destroying both of us.”   After DW: “Through the program, I realized that first, my husband is different than I am.  Second, I learned that I was not respecting, admiring, or being wholehearted in my approach to intimacy.   Third, I learned that the improvement that God was effecting for our marriage needed to begin with one of us and that it was me who needed to start… I learned to see my husband through God's eyes and am determined to love him with all of his strengths and weaknesses without wanting any change but instead being grateful for all that he is in my life… All of the realizations and truths spoken by Belah and validated Biblically, helped me see the errors of my ways and how I was impacting our marriage and even the past hurts and how our marriage was heading for destruction.  Delight Your Marriage opened my eyes to what the Lord has in store and has filled me with so much hope. Through the tools of the program, I have been able to see the improvements that have been affected almost miraculously.  To God be the Glory!!!”

Tom felt like his marriage was good, but knew it could be better. His wife was his best friend, but he was craving romance and passion in their marriage.   After stumbling upon Delight Your Marriage through a Google Search and taking our free Marital Health Assessment, he realized that the marriage he thought was “good” was actually only just “okay” and ended up scoring a 5 out of 10 in the Marital Health Assessment (delightyourmarriage.com/health).    He knew it was time for a change, so he signed up, hoping his wife would take the course at some point. Because that's what needs to happen… right? ;)    Well, Tom found out, like all of our MR Graduates do, that change begins with ourselves.    And as he took the course and began to implement the principles, he in fact, did see a change in his wife!    She became more flirty and playful and the romance and passion that Tom had been wanting finally happened in their marriage after 4 decades!    All because he decided to take the leap, take the Delight Your Marriage course, and truly implement what he learned.   We know that God is in the business of transformation and He LOVES transforming marriages because the impact goes much further than just an individual couple.  Love,  Belah & team   PS -  If you are like Tom and feel like your marriage is pretty good, but also feel like there could be more, we want to invite you to listen to this episode and to take our free Marital Health Assessment (delightyourmarriage.com/health).  PPS - And just the way Tom started, we would love to chat with you on a free Clarity Call! delightyourmarriage.com/cc  

Have you ever not done something because of fear? Have you ever done something that felt right at the time, but you were riddled with fear and anxiety later?   Have you ever felt you had more potential than you were living into? Welcome to human nature.  But is that what he should do?  Is that living according to our fears or God's will and His way?  I don't think so.  Instead, the Bible says it's impossible to please God without faith. (Heb 11:6) You might wonder:  Is it required to have faith for your marriage to change? YES. Even Jesus could do no mighty miracles in his hometown because of their lack of faith. (Mark 6:6) Does it mean He will most certainly change your marriage and make you not go through suffering because you have faith? Well, we can look at John the Baptist to see that even if you have faith it's not a guarantee that God will pull you out of the hard situation and cause a miracle. However, the woman with the issue of blood had suffered terribly for over a decade.  She could have allowed her heart to grow calloused toward God and assume He doesn't care.  She could have decided things will never change.  She could have resigned herself to a life that would never get better.  But she didn't, she stretched, she pushed through the crowd, she resisted anything that would try to discourage her faith... and by faith, she touched the hem of His garment, believing He could heal her.  And He did.  "Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” (Mtt 9:22)  I want to ask you, when...  When will it matter enough?  When will choosing to notice that God is here wanting to restore, redeem, heal matter enough to you?  When will you see Jesus walking by and reach out in faith?  Resist the enemy's... Fear of being judged.    Fear of loss.    Fear of looking silly.    Fear of being perceived a fool.    Fear of change.    Fear of responsibility.    Fear of taking ownership.    Fear of pain.   I invite you to stand up and choose faith.  Stand up in faith. Reach for His garment. Do not be offended by His response but stay, stay, stay in faith as He might want to do a miracle that you (by your fear) are blocking.  Choose the faith of freedom, hope, joy, love, connection, unity, healing...  Live into the potential life He may be inviting you into. Listen in today: Faith or Fear: When Will It Matter Enough to You? Love,   Belah PS - Marital Health Assessment is a free tool to discover where you are currently in your marriage and to give you a vision of what areas you may be missing and need to gain insight. It also provides free episodes that are uniquely selected for your situation. delightyourmarriage.com/health   PPS - If you're ready to transform your marriage through Christ-centered personal growth... we're here for you: delightyourmarriage.com/cc  We'd love to help.    Quote from a recent graduate heading for divorce: “Delight Your Marriage saved my marriage. It has changed the course of all four of my kids lives. There is now peace in our home and friendship between me and my husband. Without this program I do not think we would have gotten here. I was too stubborn and too hurt.    Belah's teaching were humbling and eye opening to the ways I had repeatedly damaged my husband and the areas I had fallen short as a wife. Both of us have now gone through the program now and I know it was the push we needed to mature and build solid ground for the rest of our marriage.”

Bethany felt like her marriage was a lost cause.  She knew that she and her husband were called to be together, but after years of serving in church ministry, three kids, and infidelity, Bethany and her husband began questioning their promise of “no divorce” and began considering separation.  She knew she needed help. She was desperate. She searched for a Christian answer and found Delight Your Marriage. After listening to the podcast and the testimonies, she felt unsure because the testimonies felt too hard to believe.  “God couldn't do that for me, could he?” But she kept listening until she felt God tugging on her heart telling her it was time. Through Delight Your Marriage, Bethany received encouragement, support, wisdom, and a team of people that was in her corner.    She has seen a transformation in her marriage including surprise flowers and a softness in her husband that she had never seen before. (Not to mention weekly dates! Which was never a thing before!)   We are so thankful to be able to share Bethany's story with you today and know that it is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what God can do in so many marriages.    He is a good, thoughtful, and intentional God.   Blessings,   Belah and team PS - If you'd like help with your marriage, we're here and would love to witness God transform it through the work!  Your next step is a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc As Bethany said, “It truly is a CLARITY call.” PPS - Here is a quote from a (different) recent graduate: BEFORE: “Before DYM, there was a lot of tension and stress in our marriage and disconnect. My husband had affairs and these were replayed constantly in my head… I did not trust him and had not forgiven him. Intimacy felt like something I had to do to keep him somewhat happy.” AFTER: “After going through the program, the stress is gone and replaying the affairs in my head is pretty much gone… I told him I have forgiven him and intimacy is something I desire now and enjoy with my husband. We are both so much happier in our marriage!” Your story can be next, schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc

As we are soon gathering together with loved ones to celebrate the Savior's birth, I would love for you to remember what life is all about.  When we meet Jesus face to face, what do we want to be true of us? In today's episode, I walk you through a meditation I did with our men's graduate group a couple of months ago.  It is really meant to give you a chance to consider eternity. What is Christmas really about?  It's about Jesus. And are we living in light of His life, will and ultimate sacrifice.  I invite you to listen in and gain more insight into what you want that day to be. Because we are Delight Your Marriage we focus a lot on marriage, but we will all stand before Jesus one day and this is good practice :)   Love,  Belah PS - Maybe you're considering launching into a healing season for your marriage in the New Year -- if so, sign up for a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc PPS - A recent lady graduate:  "Years ago I prayed to God for a short life. I didn't want to break my marriage vow, but I didn't see how I could be happy with him and it was getting harder as the children became adults. Death seemed to be the only acceptable answer. I was obviously very unhappy.  Now I enjoy spending time with him, look forward to dates and vacations, and we laugh and work things out together. I believe we are a great team! It's a miracle that we enjoy and like each other again. Physical intimacy is better than ever. He cares about me and I feel secure. When we come together physically, we feel closer and both of us look forward to it! I miss him when he gets busy with work and would be devastated if something happened to him." Maybe you're transformation is next. Learn more in a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Disclaimer: In this episode we discuss some relational things in detail that parents may not want to have to explain the birds and the bees just yet. Dom and Danielle welcome Belah Rose from Delight Your Marriage to talk about relationships. Belah Rose is the author, speaker, and founder of the Delight Your Marriage organization, which runs Christ-centered training programs where decades-old stale marriages become playful, purposeful, and passionate again, even if only one spouse does the work.  She has led marriage conferences (live and online) and hosts the Delight Your Marriage podcast, which is one of the top 1% most popular podcasts in the world. We love to witness God transform marriages from broken to whole and thriving so His people can accomplish God's will better in the earth through loving each other His way. For more information on #OneFear: Connect with us on Instagram here —> https://www.instagram.com/onefear3/ Find our Facebook Page here —> https://www.facebook.com/OneFear-109998298125313 Benj's website: ⁠https://thinkhardthinkwell.com⁠ For questions, comments, (concerns), email us at contact@onefear.net Visit our website, onefear.net for more information about #OneFear and to learn about what else we do! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/onefear5/message

Randy felt lonely, disconnected, and that his wife cared about everything and everyone else more than his wife. He was a strong believer and prayed for change in his marriage. He stumbled upon Delight Your Marriage through podcast searching and found something that seemed right. He and his wife really dug into the material. And it did start to make sense. Sadly, they were again up at 3 am and both very frustrated and hurting. She decided to make the free Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc And ultimately, they both chose to do the work together.  As a natural skeptic and somewhat pessimistic he was concerned whether it was... 1- Going to work for them. 2- Whether it had a cult-like vibe.  I think he was wise to consider this. But he assures you on this episode that it wasn't like that at all.  Our goal is marriage transformed so they can continued doing the work of the Kingdom even better.  Randy shares about how they are adoptive parents. Such important work requires a healthy marriage to love well.  I'm so glad to see what God has done in these two and what He's continuing to do!   Blessings, Belah   PS - Join a free Clarity Call with a Clarity Advisor like Randy did and see how we can help you specifically: delightyourmarriage.com/cc PPS - The holidays are coming. I encourage you to consider who in your life needs Delight Your Marriage. Maybe today is the day to tell them: You say: "Have you heard of DYM?"  They say: "No" You say: "I'll send it to you".  And then send them one or two and write: "Here are some that I got a lot out of". (That way it doesn't make them feel like you think there's something wrong with them.) Who knows, maybe you just changed the trajectory of a family, forever. Just by sending them a podcast.

Today's story is by a wonderful man who needed help to receive the intimacy he was really hoping for.    As a person who believed in Jesus and was serious about the Word of God, the lack of intimacy in his marriage was not something he was willing to find a sinful outlet for. Instead, he had heard of Delight Your Marriage and began listening to the podcast. After listening for several years, he decided to sign up for the men's program when it began to be offered.  The first time he went through the 3-month program, he learned, implemented, and saw results!  He saw some great changes in his marriage. But after a year, he realized it wasn't enough.  So, he did it again...    I invite you to hear what his changes have been this time around, after he had a foundation to build from and really finetune his shifts. He's got some exciting things to share as a result of his second round of the program…an even greater progression of growth in his marriage. If you've done "all the things" but haven't seen your marriage change, I invite you to listen to David's story...    God is still changing hearts and lives, marriages, and families.    God bless you,  Belah    PS - Could your marriage change? What do you have to lose…and potentially gain? We invite you to schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc.    Graduate quote:  Before the program: “Coming in, I knew my wife felt that I was unsafe for her, and that she felt alone and unknown by me. On my end, I felt deeply regretful of marrying her, angry with her, and hopeless to ever have a joyful marriage. I felt totally unattracted to her and trapped. I became very depressed as a result of our unhappy marriage feeling like a life sentence that couldn't improve. The inability I felt to do anything positive in my marriage made me hesitant and unconfident in my vocation as a minister. I felt like I had zero positive influence with my own wife, so how could I have any influence with others that I hoped to point to Christ or build a trusting relationship with. Even more so, my role as a dad and as a friend to others was constricted by how small and worthless I felt.”   After the program:  “I've seen progress in almost every area. I have grown in my own perspective on my wife. This has stunned me, and given me more hope than I've ever felt. The faith-statements, the forgiveness exercises, and the daily gratitudes have made an enormous change inside me. The ways my wife saw me as unsafe and unsatisfied all seemed from my heart of anger and ungratefulness toward her. Forgiveness toward her has softened my heart, and the daily gratitude has accumulated to change my attitude toward her, even in a daily way. I sincerely have a delight toward her that I've not felt in over a decade.”

I just have to apologize ahead of time because this headline is way too sensational. I can hear you saying, "It's frankly not realistic." I get it.  But, hear me out. (Or, hear him out...? :)   So, Hunter had twin 4-year-old girls. His wife was fed up with asking him to change. To pull his fair share. To be proactive in the family responsibilities.  She said she was done. They had talked about divorce in the past, but there was finality this time.  He could tell she was serious. And she was. This is when a lot of people would feel helpless and decide they're going to give up and end the marriage since their spouse wants a divorce.  Not Hunter. He had done a Clarity Call a year earlier and wasn't ready to take that step then. But knew, at this point, he had to dramatically change to save his marriage. He said, "At the beginning of the program, I had trouble getting just a few sentences out before I would bust out in tears..." Week in and week out Hunter plugged along.  But because of the amazing men in our program, he didn't feel he was doing it by himself.  They were texting him, praying for him, encouraging him each time it got hard.  When he had a bad week and felt absolutely worthless and hopeless, they'd be there to brush him off and remind him WHY he was doing this. They'd help him get encouraged and refocused. Hunter did one scary change after another, one step forward and one step back, one awkward skill practiced after another until it became normal, natural, and just who he is...  And his wife started to respond.  She started to end the snarky, mean comments.  And she started even being receptive to his touch. Ever so slowly, she started to trust that he is indeed a new man. And he was indeed able to heal his marriage even though she didn't do the program. Now he feels closer to God and he can see that she is closer to God, as well. Now they are in love again… like when they were first married. Now their 4-year-old girls are 5, and they are in a family with parents that are unified and loving. This is a big deal and worth a giant celebration! And, a sensational headline (because it's true).  Love,  Belah   PS - If you need a transformation like Hunter, please don't let hopelessness overtake you. Focus on WHY it's so important for you to save your marriage, and get help.  We have resources to help you every step of the way (literally, it's step-by-step). You may be so flooded with fear and pain that you can't even think straight. It's okay, we've got a step-by-step process. It's proven, and it works.  Wife or husband, we want to help you. Go to delightyourmarriage.com/cc for a free Clarity Call.    Like Hunter, take the next courageous step. It's worth it. Like Hunter, gain clarity on a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc Like Hunter... it could save and transform your marriage, forever.   From a recent lady graduate:  "Delight Your Marriage has brought a breath of fresh air to our marriage! It helped me to forgive myself and others for wrong that had been done in my life. DYM [Delight Your Marriage] gave me new tools to use to revive my marriage and a renewed focus on God to guide and direct our marriage through the next phases of life! I enjoyed every aspect of this program! From the first podcast I listened to, to the clarity call, accountability calls, modules, and coaching calls! It all has been a joy, challenge, and work that has helped me and my marriage now thrive!" We invite you to learn more! delightyourmarriage.com/cc (If you know someone who needs this... forward this episode to them! Maybe you'll save a family.)

I don't have to tell you that the enemy is out for families. Because the best-case scenario is a mom and dad that love each other raising children that grow up to be the men and women to do God's will in the earth. So, if the enemy can tear at the soul of the marriage. The most sacred part. The intimacy. Then the family crumbles.  But God. Wayne is so courageous to share what God has done because he knows it can help someone, maybe like you to know you're not alone.  This is a story I've heard many times. Wayne made a big error. One that could have changed his family's future to one completely different with so much pain and heartache.  When he was found out, it was the hardest days of their lives. It was devastating. A friend told him about Delight Your Marriage.  When he heard Mick's testimonial (Episode 363) he knew he had to do the program and he went ahead. It wasn't easy for him. It took ownership. It took struggle. It took perseverance. It took time. It took patience.  It took prayer. It took other men rooting him on. Encouraging him. Praying for him.  He didn't give up. And God healed their marriage. God healed their connection. God healed his wife's heart.  There is so much good in that home now. Their many kids feel more relaxed and able to be themselves in the home. Their friendship is stronger. He appreciates all the levels of connection he now enjoys with his wife. She said, "if you told me this [is how it would be] a year ago, I wouldn't have believed it." He agrees "That's not who I was" but now it is. God be praised. I hope you are encouraged by another journey that God is healing families. It's not easy but it is SO worth it.  If you needed this to own your mess and turn your family's future around. It's time. Don't waste any more precious time and join our men's program to transform it all.  Blessings, Belah PS - Have a conversation with Dana at delightyourmarriage.com/cc to see how we can help you.   PPS - A different husband who graduates next week wrote: "I feel very different. A kinder, more gentle, caring human being has emerged.  I feel more confident in myself and in my masculinity. I can safely say that I have learned more in this course than any course I have done in the past, whether secular or religious. More importantly, no course or teaching has effected such a radical change in my character and behavior as this one."   Maybe it's your turn: delightyourmarriage.com/cc   

Back 1.5 years ago, Taylor went through the men's program and witnessed God do some important work. Most important: in his heart.  But as Jesus says: For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.” If the point of Delight Your Marriage is to help men and women get their heart right, then of course the rest would follow. My encouragement to you today, is focus on the heart. Focus on surrendering your heart to the Lord so He can free you of all of that which you hate. He is God and there is freedom with Him. Blessings, Belah PS - If you're looking for changes like this, we would love to help you on a Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc   From another recent graduate:  MR Grad: “GOD is certainly using DYM [Delight Your Marriage] to impact lives.”   Before MR: “Some of the biggest struggles I was facing were that marital intimacy was all but nonexistent. That included emotional intimacy- whether I wanted to see that or not.  I have long struggled with pornography... My self-worth was in the dumps. I was always looking for affirmation from my wife and she from me. Neither of us delivered - neither could deliver enough. After MR: “I'm taking ownership. This is my home. This is my marriage. She is my wife. Ours is a union blessed by God. In taking my roles as husband, father, help mate more seriously, my whole family has begun to benefit. The man's role is not to simply coexist, but to lead the marriage and family. I can make a difference in the family by leading to and with God.” 

My heart goes out to any wife who has experienced sexual abuse. There are so many layers of pain... it's truly horrible.  As a husband, the evil that was done to your wife harmed her immeasurably. The person you love the most. And it impacted your marriage, your intimacy, and your life forever.    Is healing possible? What if she doesn't "DEAL WITH" her abuse? (Sometimes I hear men say that their hands are tied if she doesn't deal with her trauma.) Can a husband do anything?   I believe Bill's story can give you hope.  He would say, "Yes."    From many years of a full life but an empty marriage, he is thrilled to tell you, there is hope even for your marriage.  He has 43 years under his belt.  He was a self-diagnosed "podcast addict." :) Always looking to FIX his wife. He knew there had to be a solution. But nothing moved the needle ...until Delight Your Marriage.   He said after 3 months of the Masculinity Reclaimed program (MR)... from decades of passionless marriage, they feel "like 60-something teenagers ...we're so in love!"   His wife sent me an email after she heard his interview and she confirmed what he said and shared her sentiments as well. I read that on the podcast as well.    May you be encouraged for yourself or others! (I encourage you to share this with someone who may need exactly this hope and encouragement!) Love,  Belah PS - You're ready to witness God's transformation like Bill? It's as easy as a phone call to a friend, her name is Dana, and she's our Clarity Advisor. :) delightyourmarriage.com/cc  Sign up for a free Clarity Call to help you sort through the hard and gain insight on next steps... possibly with us to have a transformation like Bill's! PPS - This episode made my husband cry... that doesn't happen often. I hope it is healing to your heart like it was to his.  Quote from a program grad: "I would recommend this program to any husband who feels trapped like I did when I first reached out to Belah. I came into this program looking for someone to 'straighten out my wife.' Truth be told, I needed more help then she did. Belah challenged the narrative in my head. She pushed me to be vulnerable and soft and patient - all things that run counter to our culture. It was not always easy. In fact, it was often very uncomfortable and felt silly. But once I realized it wasn't about me and I committed wholeheartedly, I saw my wife begin to change before my eyes. The changes I made in MYSELF changed my wife. It wasn't always easy and it required more patience than I sometimes had, but in the end it was worth it. Every aspect of my relationship with my wife has improved and that was more than I bargained for. I have a greater understanding of who my wife is and why she is so special to both God and myself. Belah didn't fix my marriage - she did something better. She gave me the tools and the guidance to fix it myself, with God's help. This allows me to continually work on it, improve it, and cherish it after my time [in Delight Your Marriage] is over and for that I will always be thankful."

I'd like to share Kevin's story, mostly in his own words.  As always, there is a huge message of hope and transformation available in this story, so I hope you'll listen in! After 28 years of marriage, feeling like roommates, Kevin said "I felt helpless" and "very isolated, very alone" in the struggles he experienced.  As a very successful (and busy!) IT exec overseeing teams in India, UK, France, and elsewhere, and really being able to figure out most things on his own... It was confusing to not be able to figure out marriage in the same way. And it was painful to hear his wife caring more about something like Diet Coke than him. Logically, he knew it wasn't true but it sure felt like it at times. He listened to the DYM transformation stories (like this one!). And they sounded too good to be true. But he kept hearing parts of his story over and over again through other people's DYM interviews.  He thoroughly checked into the DYM work and dived into the podcasts. Of the work, he said, "the more and more I listened, the more I found and heard the biblical basis of everything and heard the logic." Then, he took courage and had the Clarity Call which he said "the Clarity Call was exactly what it says: it was very clarifying." Once in, of the program: "It was very incremental, very linear, and based in a way where it clicks, where it makes sense." "The feedback loop, the accountability, the camaraderie of all the other gentlemen going through the program, that environment is an extra dimension of learning that I think is important, if not key to success." "It pours all the ingredients together to make things work." "I talked about things I have never talked about with anybody in my whole life during that part of the program."   Through the Delight Your Marriage program, Kevin experienced an improvement in his marriage and a greater sense of fulfillment and walk with God.   We would love to take the next step with you too. Sign up for a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc and we can witness your transformation as well! (And who knows, maybe just like Kevin, you'll be our next transformation story who initially thought it was "too good to be true"!)   Love & Blessings, Belah   PS -- If you're wondering how healthy your marriage is right now so you can get clear on the aspects to improve, fill out the Marital Health Assessment for a free evaluation of your marriage health so you can take steps to make it even better! delightyourmarriage.com/health   PPS -- Take action now and sign up for the Clarity Call. Sign up for a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc and we can witness your transformation as well!

Oh, the pain of frustration, being consistently misunderstood, and having your needs (legitimate needs) consistently trampled upon. Both Jerry and Joyce felt it. And Jerry desperately looked for answers. Delight Your Marriage wasn't his first program -- but unfortunately, the other one gave advice that almost drove his wife to a nervous breakdown.  Jerry didn't get out of his marriage, though his frustration level (due to his hurt) was through the roof.  The pain was so deep for her, she couldn't even attend the church he pastored. Joyce was considering separation and even talking with lawyers.  But then Jerry decided to give Delight Your Marriage a try.  Now... a year later, Joyce not only loves her husband again, but "likes him," too. ("Liking" your spouse can be way harder than "loving" them.) She's actually looking forward to raising their small children together and is happy even being a pastor's wife now.  The healing that has taken place in just over a year, is now impacting every single person in their ministry and family life.  God is amazing and we give Him all the credit for this transformation!  We are honored He has used the programs of Delight Your Marriage to help bring about these changes for them.  If you're at a similar place (or not quite as extreme), then know there is hope for you, too.  There is a price for change like this -- effort, time, financial investment, energy, courage, humility and even getting uncomfortable -- But take it from Joyce... It is worth it.  Your next step is to get on a Clarity Call ( delightyourmarriage.com/cc ) to discover how to change you that will impact all those around you (and specifically your marriage). Love, Belah   PS - Seriously... It's time to discover how you can be the change agent God wants to use to turn your marriage around, so you love AND like your spouse.  delightyourmarriage.com/cc Have a free Clarity Call to gain insight and discern your next steps: delightyourmarriage.com/cc   PPS - If you know a marriage that needs hope like this, will you take the courage and care to forward this episode on? You may be saving a family and faith community in the process.   Quote from a course graduate: "The things that I've learned are really priceless when it comes to my marriage… When I first started this program it seemed like my wife didn't even want to talk to me, much less make love to me.  Man how things have changed...The changes that I see in my wife are nothing short of a miracle, she has went from being cold and callous, To warm and loving!"

Join us for an inspiring conversation with Jenny, a loving housewife and mother of four from Finland. In this episode, Jenny shares her remarkable transformation journey and the positive impact it had on her marriage. Previously working as a nurse before having kids, Jenny and her husband made a conscious decision to prioritize their family and serve the Lord in a unique way. Through their involvement in a discipleship-making movement, they found Delight Your Marriage, a program that brought significant changes to their lives. Jenny's husband initially joined the men's program and experienced a profound transformation (from her perspective as the wife). Encouraged by his progress, Jenny recognized her own need for growth and decided to embark on her own journey. She realized that she had lost touch with her own needs while prioritizing the needs of her family, often neglecting her spiritual well-being. But she realized she was busy and God spoke to her heart that she was being a "Martha" far more than a "Mary." Through the Delighted Wife program, Jenny discovered the importance of immersing herself in the Word of God, prayer, and worship. These foundational habits reignited her passion for the Lord, restoring her joy for her children, and enabling her to share the Gospel with others. One significant change in Jenny's transformation was her renewed desire for intimacy in her marriage. As she developed a deeper understanding of how women and men were designed, thanks to participation in the program, Jenny felt more comfortable expressing her needs to him.  By cultivating new habits and taking small steps, Jenny found her way back to a more fulfilling and vibrant spiritual life. She shares her story as an example of how investing in one's marriage, time with God, and meditating on the Word of God can lead to profound transformation. If you're longing for a more joyful, intimate, and fulfilling marriage, Jenny's story is sure to inspire you. To hear Jenny's full story and learn more about her transformation journey, listen to the complete interview on this episode. If you're ready to take the next step in your own marriage, sign up for a Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc and discover how Delight Your Marriage can help you experience a delightful and intimate marriage like never before. Remember, your marriage is a precious gift that deserves your investment and attention. Don't miss out on the incredible transformation possible when you prioritize your relationship and embrace personal growth.   Love,  Delight Your Marriage team   PS - Ready to experience a delightful and intimate marriage? Take the next step towards transforming your relationship by signing up for a Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc today. Discover how Delight Your Marriage can empower you to cultivate a deep and fulfilling connection with your spouse. Quote from a program grad:  "If you're committed to the program and make it a priority, you can be truly successful! Bella has changed our marriage in a really special way."

Pastor David had a rocky start with his marriage.    Facing his hurts wasn't what he actually wanted to do. He was nervous to bring it up to his wife -- they share all their finances. So he brought it up to her and said he wants to transform into the man, husband and father he wants to become.   Even only 4 weeks into the program, Pastor David's wife commented, "I have noticed a change. Keep it up. It was worth the money."   And she is not a physical touch kind of person, which was his highest love language. Yet, even in just those 4 weeks of implementing what was taught in the course, this has increased.   It's hard to face our pain, isn't it! It's tough to be vulnerable about the things we struggle with that are closest to our hearts...yes, it takes courage to open those wounds up so that we can get them healed.   Husband... wife... you don't have to struggle alone. Do you desire to grow but don't have a safe space to be open and real with what is going on in your heart and marriage?   We're here for that...we're a safe place to gently open up that really private, hurting space...or that struggle that you don't dare to share with anyone in your life.   We want your heart to be healed. We want to help you break free from the chains that hold you back. We want to breathe life into your weariness, hope into your despair, and help you be the man or woman of God that you long to be in your marriage and family...and ministry.   There is hope! We invite you to fresh faith and to follow even closer to the One who is THE way, THE truth, and THE life.    We'd love to help. Schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc to see if our program would be a good fit for you.   Blessings, Darcy (on Belah's behalf) PS - The Pre-Dating workbook is finally here! If you've been blessed (like David -- who said he already bought 6! and plans to buy more!) by the content from Delight Your Marriage over the years and want to see young people get these tools before they ever get married, get your copy now! https://amzn.to/3NhF8DL

You are teaching them.  Whether consciously or unconsciously, they're observing you and figuring out whether you have something they want.  Do they want the marriage you have? Is marriage worth it? Do you have guidance that would actually give them the result they want?   If you've been around Delight Your Marriage a while, you know we are passionate about helping marriages get better, SO THAT they can do God's will better in the world.    But what if your marriage was set up with the right framework, role modeling, and good habits BEFORE you even started your dating relationship?    Since we started teaching marriage, we have always been told that they WISHED they knew this before ever getting married.      And it's so true.   So many people didn't start out with the tools.    They've never even seen a good marriage! But your son or daughter could get a leg up. They could get started on the spouse pursuit journey by having not only a great example (you!) but also the tools clearly articulated for them. What if your son or daughter knew how to find and attract the right partner to help you fulfill your God-given purposes?   In our climate that may seem like a tall order!   You are teaching your kids whether you like it or not. They learn that you have nothing helpful for them, or they learn that you can give them the tools and insights they need to thrive in their most important human relationship!   With all of our work with men and women, we have seen it done well and done very poorly many times. And it is the right time for us to help this next generation START their marriage pursuit well. Ultimately we want them to find, marry, and sustain a wonderful marriage built upon biblical wisdom SO THAT they can do God's will in the earth.   Today's podcast is about how you can help the next generation. We'd like your help as we're finalizing a pre-dating resource! If you'd like to offer your wisdom and experience and suggestions, we'd really appreciate your input! Partner with us by filling out this survey How to help the next generation get and stay married? delightyourmarriage.com/dating   Blessings, Belah    PS - Seriously, I want to know what you think! We're finalizing pre-dating resources now – get in on this!  Survey: How to help the next generation get and stay married? delightyourmarriage.com/dating   PPS - If you need help on your own marriage for the sake of your kids, go to delightyourmarriage.com/cc A recent grad:  BEFORE: "Prior to doing MR I often felt alone and that my sexual desire was a problem. I felt my wife often intentionally withheld intimacy from me. It was difficult to discuss because my wife felt I was blaming her and she wasn't enough." AFTER:  "Understanding my wife better.  Learning Health ways of responding. More and deeper sexual intimacy.  More freedom and playfulness The learning and growth has meant I can focus on God better which enables me to be a better version of myself. This has enabled me to focus more on others." If you need help on your own marriage for the sake of your kids, go to delightyourmarriage.com/cc

There are so many people I wish I could help when I meet them at the playground, park, at a party... so here it is.    Marriage can be tough. VERY tough. And there is a dearth of helpful insight nowadays.  My content is focused towards people who follow the teachings of Jesus. But I really want to give you help because, from one perspective, we may not even be able to ask the hard philosophical questions about "is there a God?" or "what is Truth?" if we're bogged down with so much emotional pain in our marriage.   So, I tried my best in this episode to give you a roadmap at a very high level of how to rescue your relationship. Whether you follow the teachings of Jesus or not. (Yes, all my training is based on that, but I want to HELP you... so I invite you to listen in because I am very practical.)   Maybe you want to stay married because of the kids (good for you!) or you really can't afford a divorce, or you want to keep the commitment you made however many years ago, or you have the slightest bit of hope that you could get back to what you had at first or... fill in the blank.   So, how do you do that when your partner has hurt you in so many ways?   Well, in this episode, I talk about what husbands need to feel filled up in marriage, and what wives need to feel filled up in marriage.  And when you or your spouse is missing this, it is painful and "hurt people, hurt people". So your spouse reacts by hurting you too. I also talk about the very first step you must take, otherwise, your marriage won't be able to grow.  I also uproot a cliche and very harmful marital habit. EXTREMELY harmful, if you want to stay married. And most of all I want you to have hope that it can change and that it's worth you putting in the work (yet again) to see to it that your kids have a solid and safe family to grow up in. Love & Blessings, Belah PS - To help you determine the current health of your marriage, take this free assessment at delightyourmarriage.com/health PPS - If you want help in your marriage, click here to schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc   A recent graduate of a Delight Your Marriage program said: BEFORE:  "No hope of anything beyond glorified roommates. We were lacking in communication, vulnerability, trust, emotional connectedness and of course physical intimacy." [We had a sexless marriage]. AFTER: That she has initiated love-making multiple occasions. We made love 3 days in a row on our anniversary trip and twice in a row on a recent work trip. I feel like I have a system or structure—a way forward—to a better marriage. Whereas before I felt lost, hopeless and stuck.  I have loved the program! ... I cannot believe its been 13 weeks!!! WHAT?!"   Sign up for a Clarity Call to see if this is right for you! delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Is what you're doing in your marriage right now working for you?    Do you feel hopeless?   Are you lonely in your marriage?    If you believed that your actions alone could make a difference, if you knew the tools to use to make a difference in your marriage, would you be willing to use them?   Tom's story is inspiring and is not unique to graduates of Delight Your Marriage programs.   Praise God, the tools given to married individuals through our programs have moved so many marriages into places of hope, joy, and a much greater degree of the abundant life that God wants for us to live out as His people.   It is not easy. It requires us to have humility, faith in what God can do with a yielded obedient heart, perseverance, and a desire to please our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.   If any of this resonates with you, we invite you to sign up for a free Clarity Call right here.   We hope that Tom's story gives you hope that marriage could be more and motivates you to a willingness to do the work of building a better marriage and family...as much as it depends on you.   Love and prayers, Darcy (on behalf of Belah)   Quote from a Graduate: "The MR [Masculinity Reclaimed] program was the best thing I've ever done for my marriage, hands down! Wish I'd taken it years ago. Just amazing to see the work God can do in a person's heart, if that person is willing to do the work and make the changes needed. I hope everyone who goes through the program tells their friends about it. I for one will be spreading the news about DYM [Delight Your Marriage]!! Why wouldn't I, when it changed my life??"  

Often preparing for Thanksgiving is the real STRESS. So -- guess what!? Make love now, so you have a connected, peaceful, and truly enjoyable Thanksgiving next week. ... Duty sex…this is such a huge challenge for SO many couples - on both sides of the aisle!   Husbands and wives, how does our personal approach to sexual intimacy affect our spouse?    Does sexual intimacy within our marriage lead us toward one another or away from one another?   And if it often or sometimes leads us away from each other, is that our Creator's intention? How do we fix this? Can it be fixed?   The fact of the matter is, the answers to these questions can be hard to come by! There just isn't a lot of guidance out there for couples who want a God-honoring sexual relationship in their marriage!    If sexual intimacy is a gift from our Creator - and we know that ALL of His gifts are good - then why is this area of our lives so often filled with hurt and pain?   Does it really matter whose fault it is? Playing the blame game doesn't fix the problem, does it. Can one spouse change the dynamics in our marriages? YES - a thousand times, YES!! We've seen it! We've experienced it!   Here at Delight Your Marriage, God has blessed Belah with a lot of really good advice and encouragement for couples in this specific arena. Yes! There are principles that we can learn and apply to help us grow in our relationships - not just in the area of sexual intimacy, but in the overall connection within our marriage. This is what Delight Your Marriage is all about!   Okay, now this is THE bonus piece of information here that we hope you don't miss because it can be cliche or common to our ears: THE key of loving others well is to be filled up with Jesus' love and to lean into loving Him well! He IS love! As we grow in His love, the fruit of the Spirit becomes more abundant in OUR lives! I Cor. 14:1 “Pursue love…”   Would you pause right there and snatch that and think on it for a bit? I'm dead serious!    You know, we're similar to a tree. Have you seen a branch on a tree that is partly broken off? What does the branch generally look like? A lot of times the leaves are shriveling up, right? The health of the branch is directly correlated to how well the branch is connected to the trunk of the tree.    Are we feeling shriveled up? Are we feeling unfruitful? Are we struggling to experience the abundant life that Jesus has offered to us? …That's a good gauge that we need to check our attachment to The Vine.    Do you need some guidance, accountability, and encouragement to grow in these areas? We want to help you!  ... We are not currently offering a free men's course, as this is a repost of this episode, but we do invite you to schedule a free Clarity Call with our course advisor. This is an opportunity for you to be heard...to share your story, to evaluate where you are in your marriage and life journey, and whether or not our courses may be the right fit for you or not. We love you and wish you a peaceful and grateful-filled Thanksgiving!!   On behalf of Belah and the rest of our team, Darcy Office Manager   PS From a Masculinity Reclaimed graduate: "Today my wife and I celebrate our … Anniversary, and thanks be to God our marriage is better than it has ever been.  As I sat this morning writing my daily gratitude's and LTP's (going strong), I am overcome with gratitude for how helpful your ministry has been.  Going through the program last fall was truly one of the most transformational hinge times in my life - first drawing myself closer to the Lord, and only from that coming first did we experience some unbelievable changes in our marriage.    By Gods grace, we've always had a "good" marriage - free from major issues or troubles, but since have learned how wonderful God really intends for this union to be.   Ups and downs persist, they always will, but DYM has helped show me the tools & knowledge to navigate them and have a thriving and God honoring marriage.  I am forever thankful for DYM.  Thank you for following your calling and your dedication.   Have a wonderful weekend and God bless!!!"   We share these testimonies because God is SO good and He wants good in your marriage, too! We want to inspire hope and faith in you! Nothing is too difficult for Him!

I used to think I only respected someone if they deserved it. Whether that was my husband or the young adults I worked with. Which meant I didn't treat them with respect. Maybe not blatant disrespect as I saw it. But more neutral. Though I have come to find out "neutral" is generally not good. My natural tendency if I don't have the correct heart (that God created everyone and they should be treated with respect) is being mean. Maybe it's our human nature? Anyway, what I discovered is if I'm trying to tell my husband what's best for him, how he should improve, or what to do... He's busy being mad at me rather than listening to the Holy Spirit and discovering his own journey to growth.    (We want our husbands to be the spiritual leaders right? Then we've gotta stop being their spiritual leader.   ​​And give them the space and support and encouragement to do it for themselves.)   But he was so untrustworthy. Inconsistent. Unhelpful. Unreliable. Irresponsible. And worse...   I was doing everything and unless I would nag, push, correct, complain, teach, criticize... it wouldn't get done.   I was so exhausted.   It wasn't until I decided to   1-​​forgive ​and no longer hold his past over his head---let him be a new man in my eyes, ​ 2-​let God change my heart according to His will, ​ 3-​change my words, and ​ 4-​behave respectfully...   Did I witness my husband transform. And He changed without my "brilliantly helpful" input. I also speak to women who have experienced betrayal in the form of pornography, an affair or something else. My heart breaks for you. I would love to hold you in your legitimate anger and pain. And I want to give some guidance on what I think is helpful next steps. I encourage you to listen with an open heart and see if God has a nugget of wisdom that you need in your life.  Blessings, Belah PS If you need immediate help, please schedule a Clarity Call ($300 value) for free at delightyourmarriage.com/cc A Clarity Advisor will walk through your specific situation with you and help discern if this is the right fit for you to witness God's transformation of your marriage. delightyourmarriage.com/cc PPS From a Delight Your Marriage wife:  “It's been so amazing!  I still call it a rollercoaster, because there are ups and downs, but the ups are way more than the downs now and that's a huge win!  I honestly was at a place where I didn't like my husband a lot of the times...   I now WANT to spend time with him, miss him when we're apart, initiate intimacy, and enjoy intimacy!”

We are SO excited that today is the first day of enrollment into the brand new cohort of the Masculinity Reclaimed 3-month program! If you've hung around Delight Your Marriage for a while you know that God TRANSFORMS marriages, intimacy, families, and peoples' lives through this program!  We'd love for you to check out all the details: delightyourmarriage.com/minvite If you join this first day of enrollment (Saturday, Sept 17, 2022), you'll get a BONUS Kick Start Training call with Belah!  If you need some time to look at all the details and pray it over -- enrollment will be open for about a week. So, click here to learn about everything. That way you can be discerning if now is your time to prioritize the healing of your marriage and intimacy and becoming the man of God you know He's calling you to be. We have new full-time ministry scholarships that you can reach out to us directly to apply! Find out all the details: delightyourmarriage.com/minvite

You'll need to be registered for this training -- Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations It's on-demand training which means you can go through it at your leisure, but it's not available for very long, so I encourage you to sign up asap! It all starts this Monday, Sept 12, 2022! If you know someone who needs this, I invite you to take courage and share it with them -- who knows how it could impact their marriage, family and legacy!  Love & Blessings, The whole Delight Your Marriage team! PS -- It's not available very long, so I encourage you to register now!

(My boys make an audio appearance on today's episode). I thought it was appropriate because Robert and I both got choked up towards the end of this interview -- you'll hear why.  Robert has more kids than me. Not 2, 3, 4 or 5... He has 7. Robert also has about 7 times more energy than I do. Which is why I'd like him to write a book. (Please, Robert, we all need it.)   His wife was actually the one who invited him to Delight Your Marriage. And felt sure he would learn what he needed for her.    And... I have got to hand it to her :) I think she was right! But I also have to hand it to Robert, because he totally humbled himself, did the work. Changed himself -- and God did beautiful things in their marriage! I can't wait for you to listen in to their story!  If you're a husband -- he gives tons of ideas and thoughts about what you can do to change things.    He started his journey with the free training, that we're offering just around the corner -- September 12, 2022. You'll need to be signed up -- you can do so here.  Love and Blessings, Belah   PS -- You might tear up too. PPS -- Gents, grab a tissue while you sign up for the free training! Or if you're a lady or a gent, and you want to get on a call 1:1 to see how we can help you, you can sign up for a Clarity Call here. 

I'm thrilled to announce that we're running our free training -- Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations training in just a couple of weeks!  It will happen September 12, 2022.  If you've heard any of the transformation stories on the podcast or elsewhere you have heard God do amazing things through our (extremely practical) men's training.  And in this free foundations course -- you get those tools -- condensed and released over the week of September 12, 2022 for free!  This is the last time we're giving away this training this year. It's all re-recorded and newly produced videos. And we're really excited to share it.  Sign up at delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining We will be opening the doors to our full 3-month Masculinity Reclaimed program after the free foundations training completes. So, if you're curious, keep an eye out for that.  But either way, you'll get wonderful free value by just going through the free course.  Sign up easily by adding your email here and then there will be an automatic link to add it to your calendar.   We want you to get the most out of this training, so be sure to sign up at delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining   Praying for you!  Belah and the whole Delight Your Marriage team!

Are you hurting in your marriage? Is emotional, physical or spiritual intimacy tough for your relationship? Do you want to grow in your connection with your spouse and your walk with God? You matter...your marriage and family matters...to God and to us at Delight Your Marriage! We want you to know that there is ALWAYS hope!  As long as there is breath in the lungs, there is hope. God is a God of the impossible and still a God of miracles! As a team, we are honored and humbled to see them regularly. As humans, do we always get what we want? No. Do all struggles go away? No.  That's not what we're talking about.  Jesus said that in this world we WILL have trouble but to take heart because He has overcome the world! Here at Delight Your Marriage, we take Jesus' words very seriously and believe in God's transforming power! He has transformed all of us and we have seen Him transform a whole lot of other people as well! In that process, a LOT of times, marriages are healed and/or improved! Families are healed and/or improved!  When our team gets together to celebrate, often we're moved to tears because of the men, women, and children whose lives are impacted because of the marriages that are healed. It's truly His work. God is the ONLY One who can transform ashes and brokenness into beauty and fruitfulness! He can use ANY vessel that will yield to Him and allow Him to mold and shape their heart and mind. You've likely heard the invitation to schedule a free Clarity Call if you want help for your marriage from Delight Your Marriage. What does a Clarity Call look like and what does one expect to gain from the experience? Maybe you feel a little awkward or uncomfortable with the concept. This podcast is a view “under the hood” into how we do Clarity Calls…  You'll meet Dana, a Delight Your Marriage Clarity Advisor, as well as Ray, Fran and James who share with you their specific experience in a Clarity Call. Whatever holds you back, if you're hurting or would like to be even better in your marriage, Delight Your Marriage has been a whole lot of help to a whole lot of people by God's empowering and grace! We don't take credit for it, we're just His servants being obedient to His calling on our lives! We'd love to help you, too! We invite you to "step into the water" by faith and see what God will do!  Click here to schedule a free Clarity Call.    Blessings, Darcy  Office Manager Delight Your Marriage   From a current client:  “I am starting mod [module/lesson] 6 and absolutely amazed at what God is doing in me and my marriage. I listened to several of your podcasts today. Thank you for being so willing to share truth with those who have an ear to hear. Thank you!”

This week, we're excited to be joined by Belah Rose of the Delight Your Marriage podcast! She brings years of experience to the show and we discuss how men can properly respond when their wife doesn't want sex. She works one on one with men and women to coach them on their marriage. If you […] The post When She Doesn't Want Sex – Interview with Belah Rose appeared first on Love Hope Adventure.

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Chelom talks with Belah, a marriage coach and Christian educator from Delight Your Marriage, about how to repair and maintain a healthy marriage based on respect, listening, appreciation, and faith in Christ. Belah also shares an exciting opportunity for men who want to improve their sexual intimacy within marriage. Visit her website to sign up for a free 3 day trial of the Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations Course https://delightyourmarriage.com/

Duty sex…this is such a huge challenge for SO many couples - on both sides of the aisle!   Husbands and wives, how does our personal approach to sexual intimacy affect our spouse?    Does sexual intimacy within our marriage lead us toward one another or away from one another?   And if it often or sometimes leads us away from each other, is that our Creator's intention? How do we fix this? Can it be fixed?   The fact of the matter is, the answers to these questions can be hard to come by! There just isn't a lot of guidance out there for couples who want a God-honoring sexual relationship in their marriage!    If sexual intimacy is a gift from our Creator - and we know that ALL of His gifts are good - then why is this area of our lives so often filled with hurt and pain?   Does it really matter whose fault it is? Playing the blame game doesn't fix the problem, does it. Can one spouse change the dynamics in our marriages? YES - a thousand times, YES!! We've seen it! We've experienced it!   Here at Delight Your Marriage, God has blessed Belah with a lot of really good advice and encouragement for couples in this specific arena. Yes! There are principles that we can learn and apply to help us grow in our relationships - not just in the area of sexual intimacy, but in the overall connection within our marriage. This is what Delight Your Marriage is all about!   Okay, now this is THE bonus piece of information here that we hope you don't miss because it can be cliche or common to our ears: THE key of loving others well is to be filled up with Jesus' love and to lean into loving Him well! He IS love! As we grow in His love, the fruit of the Spirit becomes more abundant in OUR lives! I Cor. 14:1 “Pursue love…”   Would you pause right there and snatch that and think on it for a bit? I'm dead serious!    You know, we're similar to a tree. Have you seen a branch on a tree that is partly broken off? What does the branch generally look like? A lot of times the leaves are shriveling up, right? The health of the branch is directly correlated to how well the branch is connected to the trunk of the tree.    Are we feeling shriveled up? Are we feeling unfruitful? Are we struggling to experience the abundant life that Jesus has offered to us? …That's a good gauge that we need to check our attachment to The Vine.    Do you need some guidance, accountability, and encouragement to grow in these areas? We want to help you!  We're SO excited to announce we are offering a FREE men's course - it will only be available for a very short time! We offer this only a few times/year. March 28th is when the first lesson will be released. Sign up here if you want to join us!

Have you lost hope of your marriage EVER changing? You're not alone! Many who come to Delight Your Marriage (DYM) have all but given up on their marriages. Some who come here, are separated and/or on the verge of divorce. Many others, have good marriages but want an even better one! In regard to the specific challenges that Minister Matt and his wife experienced in their marriage, he shares, "I kind of resigned myself to, 'That's what it is and this is how it's going to be.'" After finding Delight Your Marriage, "It gave me hope for the first time in a long time." Minister Matt found the supportive community within DYM to be a key factor to helping guys to continue moving in the right direction.  For those of you who are in ministry and feel somewhat isolated to get the help you need in your marriage, DYM is the ideal place to come! Your marriages are likely under a higher level of enemy attack because of your position as a leader in your church or ministry. We welcome you and offer a safe and godly environment to get the support and help that you need! We love you and want to pour into you and your marriage to release you to better serve in the critical work that you are doing! Thank you pastors and church leaders for your work! Don't suffer and struggle in silence, don't settle for defeat in your marriage...FIGHT for your marriage, knowing that the battle is with the principalities and powers of the darkness and not a physical battle! DYM will help support you in the battle for your heart, your marriage, and your family! One of the coolest things that I loved about what Pastor Matt shares on this podcast is that He felt God's encouragement in this pursuit to learn to love his wife well and grow in intimacy with her but He also challenged Pastor Matt that he and God were going to grow in intimacy at the same time! God longs for our heart and devotion, just as we long for the heart and devotion of our spouse! This is an earnest pursuit for us here at DYM...the heart of God - as He has already pursued us!! Would you like to join us? We WELCOME you! Schedule a free call with one of our advisors at delightyourmarriage.com/cc.

How would you rate intimacy in your marriage…any type of intimacy?    Do you wonder why intimacy is such a difficult topic in marriage? Do you wish you could understand why husbands and wives see this topic so differently?   How do you know if you're off target in how you relate to your spouse?    Maybe you feel like you're not the one with a problem, it's your spouse… “You don't know what you don't know!”  Listen in as Pastor Luke shares how things that he thought he knew and had a handle on, had a whole new light shone on them in Masculinity Reclaimed. He also discovered that some things that he had once found confusing, now seem so clear!   Pastor Luke explains why he thinks Delight Your Marriage is effective, “It's easy for women to understand how women feel. It's easy for men to understand how men feel, but if you can find a man who understands women or women who understand men, I think they have a responsibility to help bridge that gap. Belah has it and she is living into that responsibility. She is bridging the gap for men and for women to understand each other and understand how they are different and understand sexuality. What a blessing!”   So, you've been hearing about this Masculinity Reclaimed course and wonder just how effective it is. Pastor Luke shares his observation of others in the course with him…   “Twelve weeks is not a lot of time but I think probably every guy was experiencing some change, if not like insane amounts of change over twelve weeks, from just following these simple principles consistently.”   Pastor Luke also says, “The cost was well worth it. I would pay it again…The value was there. The quality was there. The group time with Belah was there…It was worth every single penny. What would you pay to have your marriage filled with intimacy?...I would be really, REALLY surprised if you regretted it after the program.”   We're here because God cares about marriages and He has equipped Belah and the team here at DYM to help marriages! He loves you and wants to heal and redeem your brokenness! All who are weak and heavy laden, come find rest at our Savior's feet!     We invite you to schedule a free call with one of our course advisors to see if we're a good fit for you.

What a fantastic interview with Gary Thomas! If you're not familiar with him yet, I think you'll be glad that you are now! Gary has a new book out: Married Sex -- to add to the other books that have been such a perspective shift for me and many I know. His heart is specifically about God's design for marriage as an opportunity to grow closer to Him. I want to share one specific phrase, the tagline of his bestseller Sacred Marriage, "What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?" That inspires me and encourages me away from secular values and norms, and provokes me to be more aligned with God's will and desires. But know, dear listener, he believes that enjoyable and pleasurable sex is a great part of God's plan! How? Well, we talk about tools and tips and understandings around sex and the differences in men and women that can give you a whole different view of what God intended sex to be.  Gary helps people open their hearts to more. And because you can see so clearly his pursuit for the Lord, it helps to hear him say some things about sex that you might otherwise think are not "appropriate" for a holy person. But the truth is they are and so much more joy can be had in this realm. Do pick up his book Married Sex and check out more of his work at marriedsex.us   It was a true honor to get to speak to Gary in person as I have admired his work from afar. It really has been a huge blessing to me, my understanding of God as well as grace, joy and respect for my own husband. I'm excited for you to get to know him better! Blessings, Belah PS - If you'd like to find out more about Delight Your Marriage accountability-based programs and live coaching, you can go to delightyourmarriage.com and click on Clarity Calls or other free resources.

This is a resource to invite your wife to Delight Your Marriage, and to me, Belah Rose.    I would love for you, husband, to listen first and see if you might use this as a warm introduction to my material.    It's so easy to see words on a page and be repelled by it, but it's far better for us to get to know each other on a personal level and I'm hoping that's what this episode allows for.    (For those who have already gone through MR1 -- or are the recent graduating class -- I especially made this for you!)   If you've done the work on yourself, I think it makes sense to pray and ask God for His timing and see if this might be a tool that He can use for a brief and positive introduction to the work.  The work that is transforming families and marriages around the world -- by God's grace!  Blessings, Belah PS -- If you'd like your marriage to have the passion (even if you're really great friends right now), then you need to chat with one of our Clarity Advisors. Allow them to hear your story and see if a program could truly make the change you're seeking. delightyourmarriage.com/cc

So, this is such a fun story to share. I believe it will inspire hope, excitement and most importantly faith that God can do this for you too! I remember speaking with Timothy on our first call together and the sincere pain and loneliness he felt with his wife which was so visceral and real.  He reached out firstly just to thank me for an encouraging podcast that he stumbled upon after a really tough moment between he and his wife and it encouraged him. My heart went out to him. A big part of him thought the state of his marriage was "just the way it was". How could a class fix that?    Timothy shares what happened to him when he got the tools and training of Masculinity Reclaimed. What happened to his marriage when he implemented it.  What changes he made. Week in and week out he "showed up" and did what I asked -- and what I think you can tell by listening to his story is that he changed.  She didn't know he was doing the program, but she started responding to his change. He was a "Delight Your Marriage binge-listener" before. (I'm super honored for those of you out there! :) But it wasn't until he was actually in the Masculinity Reclaimed program where the principles I teach are ordered in the way that his marriage needed with tweaks particular to his situation to heal and then be on a completely different trajectory. Before he worked so much because he didn't have a reason to be home, before she didn't want to spend time, always on her phone, And guess who cuddles up to him now? And guess who initiates much more often? And asks for new things in intimacy? And has magically dropped life-long the body image concerns and now gives loads of flirty visuals? Timothy has witnessed his wife become a very different woman because of the way he has changed!   Now people comment to them about how much fun they have together.   Timothy just graduated from the MR program this Spring, and if you want to be in the Fall Semester of Masculinity Reclaimed, I have a "sample" free Men's Masterclass which you can sign up for here. delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass The free Men's Masterclass is starting Monday, July 19 - 21.   Enrollment in the Fall Semester of Masculinity Reclaimed opens July 22.  I'm so excited for God's miracles to continue to surprise and encourage us toward faith and glorifying Jesus' work... in more mens' lives, more marriages, and continue the good things only God can do! (Also, keep in mind, Timothy said: "most of the guys" in the course got his kind of results... just wild.) Listen to hear more.   Love & Blessings, Belah

She wanted nothing to do with touch, much less intimacy. For years.  She loved the Lord and it took a journey for Him to bring her to a place where she was ready to receive teaching around the importance of intimacy. When Dana felt like her marriage was all but broken and then God took her on a journey and helped her to see what was missing in their marriage.  They hadn't made love (at all) for years. And when she took the Free Women's Masterclass the Holy Spirit spoke to her and completely transformed her marriage in a week! And this is her story of transfomration. From being repelled by his touch to craving intimacy with her hubby! Blessings, Belah PS - If you'd like to take the Free Women's Masterclass that Dana speaks about it's available here for a limited time! delightyourmarriage.com/sc   PPS - If you're a husband who is hoping and praying for your wife to have this kind of transformation, let's see how we can help you. Fill out a Clarity Call application so you can speak to a DYM Clarity Advisor -- someone who was in your shoes and the Delight Your Marriage programs changed their marriage and life: delightyourmarriage.com/cc 

When she says, "We just don't communicate," or "You never listen,"...she is talking about this learnable skill.    Listen to her heart. Listen to understand. Listen to let her know you understand and care.   Not listening to respond or even defend yourself.    It is to listen to her emotions and sit with her in her pain. To be curious and to give her a safe space to share. When she shares her emotions (her heart) vulnerably, you are witnessing courage.    You are on sacred ground.    Tread carefully and gently.   For Mother's Day, just the other weekend --   Did I get diamonds?    A weekend getaway at a fancy resort?    A stainless steel, 14-quart Instant Pot Duo Mini 7-in-1 Electric Pressure Cooker?   I mean...    Sure those would have been good gifts.   But...   what I got was priceless:    Hours of his full attention.    He got excited about what I shared.    He cared about what matters to me -- how I'm growing,    how I was feeling,   and genuinely wanted to hear more.    He noticed my feelings -- wanted to hold space for them --    and held me emotionally...    And...well...did what I teach you to do in today's episode.   It was far more fulfilling than those other things ever could be.    (Just FYI, when he surprised me with my favorite wine, beautiful glasses, roses, and sitting together in a gorgeous spot in Central Park...that did add to the intimately fulfilling conversation. :)   Blessings,   Belah   PS If you'd like to have a conversation with me or a member of my team about what's going on in your marriage and see if one of my programs can help you, apply for a Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc        Delight Your Marriage has been awarded in the Top 30 Relationship Podcasts for 2018, 2019, 2020 & 2021!   "Through working with Belah, my marriage is saved and thriving, and I am forever changed and grateful."

If you've ever seen a headline (one of mine or someone else's), "They did [this] and got [this]" you may have experienced a "transactional trigger".    My motivation is to attract people who need transformation in their marriages.    What I call "missional marketing", some may call "bait and switch", which is kind of true, too.   You may be someone who came for a certain outcome, but you listened and found out that to get that [thing], you have to change who you are - including your motivations.   For many, it works (by God's grace).    But, initially, it may have triggered transactional thinking for you.    This can lead you to believe that you’re guaranteed a certain result if you do [X] for your spouse.    Here's what I hope for you.    I hope that you'll start your journey with an expectation of an incredible marriage and sex life and end your journey with a completely different set of motivations: to love your spouse the way Jesus loves them. Unconditionally.    Whether they do X or not, you get to love them the way Jesus does.    The cool thing is...   Humans are designed to respond very differently to unconditional love.    Humans heal.    Humans let down their guard.    Humans start to act differently when they know the rug won't be pulled out from under them at any moment.    The desperation ends.    Peace and freedom begin.    And marriage can become pretty amazing.    BUT your motivation should be to love your spouse unconditionally and enjoy--every moment--every smile--every laugh--every miscommunication--every peculiar habit--enjoy life alongside this wonderful God-designed being you get to love.   Blessings,   Belah   PS - Loads of free downloads here: delightyourmarriage.com/free Delight Your Marriage has been awarded in the Top 30 Relationship Podcasts for 2018, 2019, 2020 & 2021!   "Through working with Belah, my marriage is saved and thriving, and I am forever changed and grateful."   We work through recommendations---if you've been impacted by our work, please consider helping another couple by sending them to delightyourmarriage.com

Enrollment for the men’s program and the women’s program just officially opened! The Delight Your Marriage team of mentors and teaching assistants are all graduates of the programs… and they are so excited to have you come on board and witness your marriage transform just like theirs did! You’ll definitely want to watch these video testimonials and see all the details—go to DelightYourMarriage.com/enroll Quick: If you sign up in the first 24hrs you’ll receive a FREE Team Strategy Session with Belah! I am so excited to you on the inside! Belah

Have you ever felt like your intimacy was just a duty that needed to be marked off the “to-do” list? What about that sex was great physically but emotionally it was empty? Or, have you gone to bed wondering why this amazing, God-given thing is causing so much strife in your marriage? Kyle & Ali were both there at one point in their marriage… Ali saw sex as a “thing” that was constantly there pestering her. She was intimate with her husband to please him and only him. Their children noticed that their marriage was suffering. They were not emotionally connected, so they were not acting as a team. They communicated solely to run their family. But then... They took a leap of faith and joined the Delight Your Marriage men’s program and women’s program! Now Ali loves communication and their home is a “peaceful and cozy environment.” The pressure is gone and she feels the freedom to initiate. Intimacy is a priority now and not just another chore to be done. In fact, she shares,s, “I desire sex now! I didn’t think I’d ever say that.” Kye hated that his wife did not seem to desire him or intimacy at all. He spent a lot of time discouraged so he struggled to be fully present as a husband, father, or friend. He did not understand why this God-given thing was causing so much stress in his marriage. He wanted to enjoy intimacy and for Ali to actually desire it. After their Delight Your Marriage programs, they both discovered the missing link to their chain. ​​Kyle described their intimacy as being a 10 out of 10 now! ​ He began loving his wife the way Christ loves the church in practical ways and now intimacy is no longer a duty, but instead, it's full of mutual service and love. To hear the way God is truly using these programs to transform lives is such a testament to His goodness and faithfulness. ​Be sure to join in; you don’t want to miss it!

Anne and Glenn lived in a blissful honeymoon state at the beginning of their relationship, until their relationship quit growing and grew stale. They described it as being stuck in winter.   Anne felt like intimacy was an obligation and sex felt forced. She did not feel emotionally connected and he did not feel physically connected, so the suffering began.... and stayed for over two decades.    The power of a praying wife… God touched Glen and caused him to start a journey to better himself and turn his marriage around. He stumbled upon a Delight Your Marriage podcast and shortly afterward signed up for Masculinity Reclaimed.    In fact, at 3am God prompted him to sign up… and he’s glad he did!   He discovered how to date his wife again, how to connect deeper, how to forgive, and how to be vulnerable in his marriage. Not only did Anne begin to notice the changes, but so did their daughter and son!   The trickle effect continued when Anne decided to take the Delight Your Marriage, Intimate Freedom course. She gained confidence in herself and for the first time in a long time, intimacy was fun! She found her femininity and felt like she could truly be herself because the emotional trust was there.   She challenges us listeners: if you are not going forward, you are going backward. It is your choice.    Tune in to hear this amazing testimonial. It will inspire faith--no matter how long your marriage has been “this way” it can change! Blessings, Belah    PS If you’d like to join the free masterclass coming up March 25 for men or the other one for women, go to delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass (It’ll be free for a limited time)   If you’d like to find other free resources go to delightyourmarriage.com/free

Dan speaks with Belah Rose, internationally acclaimed sexual intimacy expert, coach, author, speaker and founder of Delight Your Marriage.  Belah is the author of "Delight Your Husband". She's also created the Delight Your Husband Video Course, The Seduction Course™, The Delighted Wife Program™ and Masculinity Reclaimed Program™. She sure knows how to keep busy!  In this episode, Belah speaks about how how self confidence leads to confidence in the bedroom. She talks about how her own marriage woes lead her on the path to discover more self confidence which strengthened her marriage and her sex life! If you like this episode, please check out our app, Intimately Us at https://intimately.us!   

As a wife, this is something I really struggled with.   Why would he want me to do such embarrassing things? Does it remind him of sin? I don't want to be associated with his past. Also, it's not my personality.  And in general, I'm not comfortable.    I had SO many more hang-ups around this.    But, one thing kept knawing at me. Why is this all over our society?   Specifically seduction. Yes, the act is in certain movies and x-rated things that I don't watch. But seduction is almost unavoidable (even in PG-13 movies). Whether it's a glance, a teasing, and revealing advertisement...it's everywhere and unavoidable.   It's in every culture all around the world.    Yesterday, I received an email that Delight Your Marriage is ranked as the #1 Podcast in the categories of Sexuality as well as the category of Health & Wellness in several African countries which (is really cool!) means that culture doesn't make a difference.   These philosophies go across cultures and all over the globe.   Why does seduction matter?   This podcast is directed at wives, but if you are a husband I think you'll get a glimpse of what's holding her back.    Get the Seduction Tips here and a free training on this! www.delightyourmarriage.com/tips

If you're new to Delight Your Marriage, this is the first episode you should listen to.   Many people come to my resources with a question on how to make their marriage better but they really don't know where to start.    This is a rundown on the most important philosophical underpinnings of Delight Your Marriage.   This gives the best introduction to the foundational principles that I use with people from all over the world--by God's grace--to transform their marriages and families.   Just a few things included:  What a husband needs and what a wife needs to feel fulfilled in a marriage Why intimacy is so important to a husband and that's reflected in the brain's physiology  Why, I believe, God made men & women's drives so different The underlying reasons emotional and physical intimacy isn't strong in a marriage When people are struggling in their marriage they often get advice which makes it all worse. What's the missing piece? Strategy. Listen in and go to delightyourmarriage.com/resources to find out about all the courses I offer to totally transform your marriage!   There are courses for husbands or wives to receive the love you're craving in your marriage.   Blessings, Belah

Thanks for joining us on the War on Marriage Podcast! In this episode, we talk with Belah Rose, the host of Delight Your Marriage (DYM), on the topic of divorceBelah is an internationally acclaimed author, intimacy coach, and host of the DYM podcast which has been heard in over 155 countries and was awarded 19th of the top 50 relationship podcasts. Most of all, Belah seeks to love Jesus and views marriage as a vehicle in which to do God's will in this world.You can access her podcast on iTunes, Spotify, and almost everywhere that has podcasts by searching "Delight Your Marriage". You can also visit her website by visiting delightyourmarriage.com or sending her an email at belah@delightyourmarriage.comFinally, listeners of this podcast are able to get a free download that sets out the "framework" from which a husband can understand his wife and a wife can understand her husband by visiting delightyourmarriage.com/framework.If you want to continue the conversation or have recommendations for future episodes, head over to our Facebook and Instagram pages or send us an email!Facebook: @waronmarriagepodcastInstagram: @waronmarriagepodcastEmail: womarriage@gmail.com

With so much going on in the world, I think people are making big changes in their lives. Given that people are becoming more aware of their own mortality, I think its making them decide to take action. My encouragement in today's podcast: 256-How to Not Fail at Marriage, comes from a failure at marriage --ehemm --me! When my first marriage failed I blamed him. When my second marriage was on the rocks, I realized I was the common denominator. When I transformed myself, I witnessed this man change before my very eyes. Now, that I work with many men and women from around the world, I wish I understood these truths and the essential Framework a wife and husband needs to not fail at marriage. And in fact thrive. This episode is for you if your marriage isn't what you think it could be. I'd encourage you, if you know someone in that spot, this may be the perfect opportunity to send them insights that very well may transform their marriage. None of us know when it's our time and God calls us home. But right now, God has given us our spouse as the most important human relationship and I hope you honor it as such. On today's show I cover: -The 3 things men need to feel fulfilled in marriage -The 3 things women need to feel fulfilled in marriage -This Framework is what men and women need to understand to love each other the way the other receives love (hint: it's different for each spouse) -What I wish I had known about sexual intimacy in my first marriage -Why we are more respectful to strangers than our own life partner If you are new to the Delight Your Marriage philosophies, this is a really good introduction. If you've been around for a while "repetition is the mother of learning" so I encourage you to take these insights too! Find a deeper understanding of the Framework here! Love & blessings, Belah PS - I'd love to invite you to send this to a friend if they're facing marriage challenges right now, this could save their marriage.  

As a husband, maybe you're wondering where the passionate nights went from your first months or years.  Your wife may be wondering where the romantic DAYS went. But, maybe you're stuck at home and it feels like you're not able to do any kind of romance given the circumstances.  I hear you... I will add that I live in NYC, in a 1 bedroom apartment with two sons (age 5 & 6) during quarantine. Which means we've probably left our physical apartment 5 times in the last 7 weeks...  ...and I'm here to tell you, you can DEFINITELY have a Wild Romance even during this season. (You'll understand more on this show).  I want to gift (for FREE) two valuable resources from a $297 course that I have only offered to my current students... Because it's almost Mother's Day & I think you need to understand the template on How To Be Romantic while at home... And this will help you forever understand what your wife wants when she says she wants to be "wooed".   There's a catch.   I give you a behind-the-scenes-look at how the business of Delight Your Marriage works. And how the podcast is made and why I think it's God's will for me to rely on people like you.   If you jump through some hoops to post an iTunes Review, you'll get the resource for FREE.   Don't worry, I'll guide you step-by-step on how to "jump through the hoops"--we'll do it together! If you still have questions, I have a specific step-by-step guide, here!   THANK YOU, so much. If you've been a listener for a while, I am SO honored that you would take the time to listen all the way through this episode. As you know DYM doesn't have ads because I care more about your impact than the revenue that comes in that way. So THIS is how you can make sure the podcast continues. And if you pray for DYM, please pray that people would listen to this podcast and do the steps so it can grow. The podcast is listened to in 155 countries worldwide and that's because you have spread it--or done what I request in this podcast! So, thank you!   I have included valuable encouragements and insights for you but also an ASK from me. It means A LOT that you would do this for me and for the spread of this work.  I love you. Belah

Your first time having sex, was it just like my experience? A bit awkward, NOT like how the movies portrayed it, and maybe even a BIT uncomfortable?   So now that you've done it a lot more, I bet what was uncomfortable in the beginning has started to feel a lot more comfortable, right? So, would you like to ENJOY it more?   Have you ever asked yourself these questions: Should I initiate?  Should I just go for it and stretch myself and seduce him? Is it okay for me to suddenly change and just go ahead and seduce him and be sexy?   Here's what I talk about in this podcast episode: How to enjoy the process of seduction and lovemaking more Why it's okay to be silly before being sexy What EXACTLY you need to do (practical tips and more!)   A lot of people say that DATING SEX is BETTER than MARRIAGE SEX. Well, that is what Delight Your Marriage wants to change.  It is our mission and we want to change it so that marriage sex is hotter, more enjoyable, and the best sex that anyone will ever have!    Absolutely NOTHING in this life stays the same. If you choose to change and stretch yourself to become more seductive, then it's definitely okay! And you will actually ENJOY sex more.    If that's not where you are in your marriage right now, it's okay to be gentle with yourself. God is a God of new beginnings. We can always start over and change and grow your marriage into something you enjoy and look forward to!    Resources: I’d love to receive your answers to this VERY QUICK survey which will help me give you the kind of content you want to hear! Go to: www.delightyourmarriage.com/seductionquestions    Also! Get 5 fantastic and practical tips to amazing seduction here!: www.delightyourmarriage.com/5tips

Listen to the latest tips, tools, and strategies for Business, Success, and Marketing… on the Cam Roberts Podcast Show. Search for “Cam Roberts Podcast Show” on the web, Itunes Podcasts or Spotify. Episode 162 Expert Podcast Interview With Belah Rose, the founder of Delight Your Marriage. #ondeckwithcam Podcast Time 38.15min in Total. Listen now or Download using the links above. Belah Rose... SourceThe post Ep: 162 Expert Podcast Interview With Belah Rose, the founder of Delight Your Marriage. appeared first on Marketing Consultant and Business Mentor.

Belah Rose is a wife... a mom... an author... an intimacy coach... and the producer of the Delight Your Marriage Podcast! Through the Delight Your Marriage Podcast... Blah interviews guests... and shares information and wisdom on a variety of topics including... relationships... marriage... intimacy... sensuality... sexuality... femininity... self-image... and self-improvement. Belah's heart to help women in the areas that so many women struggle with... was born from the deepest hurt... pain... and failures of her own life.   * A first marriage that included emotional, physical, spiritual, and sexual abuse * A divorce * Doubts and disappointments in God * A period of significant promiscuity * An unexpected pregnancy out of wedlock * A husband who wasn't interested in spiritual things * Guilt * Regret * Loneliness * Shame Belah is an amazing example that reveals God's incredible ability to heal and redeem deeply broken people... and deeply broken marriages! By God’s IMMENSE grace, I transformed my past and started teaching Christian women how they can do the same: I see them feel powerful and sexy and become fully whole in their marriage and honor their divinely feminine essence to witness their husband transform into the man they have wished and prayed that he would become.  Belah Rose In this episode... among other things... Tony and Belah talk about "Masculine Sex" and "Feminine Sex"... and how these two aspects of sex complete God's design for sex within marriage. 

Belah Rose is a wife... a mom... an author... an intimacy coach... and the producer of the Delight Your Marriage Podcast! Through the Delight Your Marriage Podcast... Blah interviews guests... and shares information and wisdom on a variety of topics including... relationships... marriage... intimacy... sensuality... sexuality... femininity... self-image... and self-improvement. Belah's heart to help women in the areas that so many women struggle with... was born from the deepest hurt... pain... and failures of her own life.   * A first marriage that included emotional, physical, spiritual, and sexual abuse * A divorce * Doubts and disappointments in God * A period of significant promiscuity * An unexpected pregnancy out of wedlock * A husband who wasn't interested in spiritual things * Guilt * Regret * Loneliness * Shame Belah is an amazing example that reveals God's incredible ability to heal and redeem deeply broken people... and deeply broken marriages! By God’s IMMENSE grace, I transformed my past and started teaching Christian women how they can do the same: I see them feel powerful and sexy and become fully whole in their marriage and honor their divinely feminine essence to witness their husband transform into the man they have wished and prayed that he would become.  Belah Rose

BELAH Rose, is an author, podcaster and marital intimacy enthusiast. She has dedicated her life to figuring out what makes marriage work. Her passion for Delight Your Marriage was birthed out of a painful marital past. Belah suffered in a marriage that was full of strife, anger, deep hurt, and sexual difficulty. Now, by God’s grace, she is in a wonderfully life-giving, faith-supporting, and mission-enabling marriage. Now, she's on a mission to inspire, empower and motivate women towards living the loving, generous, and Jesus-oriented life in their marriage and beyond. Her book and video course Delight Your Husband give keen insights into being proactive in your half of the relationship and practicalities of "making him wild for you". She's a mother of 2 and husband living the marriage of her dreams. Check the infographic show notes, plus her top tips and advice for entrepreneurs and aspiring entrepreneurs at www.TodaysLeadingWomen.com or by clicking here!

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me J Parker of hotholyhumorous.com. She was one of my very first guests here on the Delight Your Marriage podcast, and I am so glad that she is back for another episode. J emphasizes the importance of sex and tells us why it is something that we should all be enjoying in our marriage. She gives us tips and advice, from prepping your mind to setting the mood for intimacy. It’s a fantastic episode, you’ll definitely learn a lot! So listen in and be inspired.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/064 Get my video series: How To Spice Up The Bedroom!

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Sara. She is a Delight Your Marriage podcast listener, and she reached out to me to share to everyone, to all you listeners, her marital journey. She has gone through ups and downs; she has felt pain and overcome it as well. Sara talks about how she realized that by showing respect to her husband, she ultimately turned their marriage around and saving it. Listen in as Sara tells us what it means to respect your spouse, and how it can greatly affect your relationship.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/62 Through research and study, I've discovered the secrets I wish someone told me years ago! Receive my free gift: "The 4 Stages To His Best Oral Orgasm" by going to delightyourmarriage.com/4stages

OnDeckWithCoachCameron – Podcast Show: Ep:38 Expert Interview with Belah Rose from Delight Your Marriage by Cameron Roberts – 24min Podcast. Belah Rose is an author, podcaster and marital intimacy enthusiast. She has dedicated her life to figuring out what makes marriage work. She interviews intimacy experts and long-time wives about the keys to a real “happily ever after”. She's a mother of 2... SourceThe post Ep:38 Expert Interview with Belah Rose from Delight Your Marriage by Cameron Roberts appeared first on Marketing Consultant and Business Mentor.

Hi there! Belah here. Today it’s just me, sharing my story and what this podcast at Delight Your Marriage is all about!   I founded delightyourmarriage.com to help wives live in wholehearted intimacy with their spouses. What does that mean? I want you and your marriage to be amazing. Why? Because when you have an incredible marriage you can do so much more of what God wants for you and your life.   How do I know? I share of my ignorance of sex growing up and how I was rudely awakened to it’s realities as a young bride. Then how God taught me some significant lessons through the place of pain and what happened.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/   ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed.  If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.