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In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, Christopher Robbins, host and co-founder of Familius Publishing, converses with author Kelly Bennett. They delve into Bennett's book "Out of the Mouth of Babe," which explores the life and legacy of baseball legend Babe Ruth. The discussion covers Ruth's early life challenges and his indelible impact on baseball and popular culture. Bennett shares anecdotes and quotes from Ruth, illustrating how his character and achievements offer valuable lessons in perseverance, teamwork, and positivity. The episode highlights how understanding Ruth's history can inspire both children and adults today. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and Kelly Bennett's background as a writer and her fascination with Babe Ruth's legacy. 00:01:13: Description of Kelly's career and personal interests, including her MFA and lifelong love for storytelling and baseball. 00:02:25: Discussion on Kelly's four grandsons and their baseball activities, emphasizing that baseball is a major part of their lives. 00:04:02: Insight into Babe Ruth's early life, highlighting his upbringing in an orphanage and the challenges he overcame. 00:05:17: Kelly discusses how Ruth's passion for sports and perseverance led him to greatness, despite a difficult start in life. 00:07:03: Introduction of quotes from Babe Ruth reflecting his understanding of teamwork and life lessons. 00:08:07: Discussion of Babe's articulate nature and ability to inspire teammates and the public with his words. 00:10:01: Kelly talks about Ruth's status as the first superstar athlete and how he became a cultural icon. 00:12:18: The story of Babe Ruth's kindness and genuine enjoyment in mingling with fans and children. 00:13:30: Anecdote about Ruth's interaction with a young boy, Ray Kelly, proving his positive influence on kids. 00:16:23: Closing thoughts on Babe Ruth's enduring legacy, the release of Bennett's book, and her blog for further engagement. Key Takeaways Babe Ruth overcame significant childhood adversity, displaying resilience that propelled him to legendary status. Ruth's legacy is celebrated not only for his athletic accomplishments but also for his generosity and connection with fans. Understanding Babe Ruth's approach to life and baseball offers valuable lessons in perseverance and teamwork. The episode provides insight into how storytelling can capture the multifaceted nature of an iconic sports figure. Shareable Quotes "A fellow has to have something besides curly hair about his shoulders. He's gotta know his onions." - Babe Ruth "You've gotta practice and practice and practice some more. That's all it is to baseball." -Babe Ruth "The greatest curveball in the world isn't worth a dime if you don't know what to do with it." - Babe Ruth Show Notes by Barevalue.
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman welcomes Christopher Robbins, the founder of Familius. The discussion primarily revolves around stargazing, encouraging families to look up at the night sky, and immersing themselves in the wonders beyond our world. Christopher shares personal anecdotes and offers suggestions for engaging with space and astronomy. The episode also promotes some of Christopher's published works, including his latest book "Space Train," and provides resources for those keen to start their star-gazing journey. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and welcome to Christopher Robbins. 00:01:40: Christopher discusses the importance and joy of stargazing and putting down phones to experience the universe. 00:02:04: Christopher shares a personal story about watching a meteor shower at Lake Powell. 00:02:57: Advice on putting down phones to enjoy and explore the night sky. 00:03:33: Challenges of disconnecting from phones and the impact of creating family memories while stargazing. 00:04:23: Discussion on what is visible with the naked eye during stargazing. 00:05:19: Reflection on human history and navigation using stars like the North Star. 00:06:36: Explanation of visible planets and celestial bodies such as the Andromeda Galaxy. 00:07:37: The significance of understanding perspectives in the context of space. 00:08:40: Christopher's favorite galaxy and its significance. 00:09:25: Personal family experiences of stargazing and its impact. 00:10:14: Christopher's perspective on conservation in the context of space exploration. 00:10:37: Resources and tools for beginner stargazers, including online sites and apps. 00:13:13: Combining phone apps with naked eye stargazing for a hybrid experience. 00:13:41: Discussion about earthsky.org to check visibility and cloud cover for stargazing. 00:14:20: Christopher shares about visible Northern Lights and local stargazing opportunities. 00:14:41: Closing details about connecting with Christopher and finding his books online. 00:15:28: Promotion of other books related to space offered by Familius. Key Takeaways Encourage family bonding and appreciation for the universe by engaging in stargazing. The importance of reducing screen time to engage with the real world and create lasting memories. Basic astronomical knowledge can be appreciated without fancy equipment; curiosity and initiative are key. Utilize online resources and apps to enhance the stargazing experience and educate further. Respect and conservation of our planet are emphasized through the perspective gained from space exploration. Tweetable Quotes "Put down the phone, go outside and look up." - Christopher Robbins "Looking up at the stars, we're reminded of our place in the universe." - Adina Oberman "Curiosity is contagious, right?" - Christopher Robbins "We are on an island in the middle of the universe." - Christopher Robbins Show Notes by Barevalue.
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Jessica Spear, an award-winning author, about the complexities of relationships, particularly among preteens and teens. They discuss how to handle situations where friendships suddenly turn difficult and offer guidance for parents helping their children navigate these challenging times. Speer emphasizes the importance of empathy, co-regulation in emotional situations and offers valuable advice for maintaining and mending friendships even amidst differences. The episode also offers strategies for adults feeling isolated, highlighting the significance of close friendships and how to nurture them over time. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and guest Jessica Spear, discussing her books and expertise in navigating friendships. 00:01:10: Jessica Spear describes her writing focus and educational background, framing the discussion on relationships. 00:01:51: Dialogue begins with a focus on the complexities and challenges of modern relationships in a divisive world. 00:03:11: Christopher shares a personal story about his daughter's upsetting experience with a friend. 00:04:05: Jessica offers advice on empathizing with children when friendships falter, emphasizing the learning nature of social skills. 00:06:11: Discussion on how stress and anxiety impact decision-making and the importance of calming techniques. 00:06:48: Role of parents in emotionally supporting children through co-regulation and healthy emotional management. 00:09:11: Introduction to another personal scenario about feeling isolated despite being friendly and outgoing. 00:10:24: Jessica explains that feelings of loneliness are common and offers strategies to help children find connections. 00:12:26: Christopher shares his method of maintaining lifelong friendships through regular, simple gestures. 00:14:22: Addressing conflict within close relationships, Jessica discusses strategies for setting boundaries and apologies. 00:18:13: Jessica's final thoughts include the importance of controlling our own actions in improving relationships. 00:19:18: Christopher concludes the podcast, providing information on where to find Jessica Spear's work and advice on nurturing friendships. Key Takeaways Fostering emotional intelligence and empathy in children is crucial when they face friendship challenges. Close friendships are rare and valuable, and they require effort and understanding to maintain. Parents play a crucial role in co-regulating children's emotions and setting a calm example. Boundaries and effective apologies are key in repairing and maintaining strong relationships. Regular, thoughtful gestures can help sustain lifelong friendships. Shareable Quotes "We can only control ourselves, and there's so much we can do in any situation right now." – Jessica Spear "Close friendships are hard to find, and that's perfectly normal." – Jessica Spear "Help children recognize and manage big emotions when hard things happen." – Jessica Spear "Remember, it's not what you said, but how you made them feel that people remember most." – Jessica Spear "Emotional intelligence can help in navigating the messy world of friendships and family dynamics." –Christopher Robbins Show Notes by Barevalue.
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes June Smalls, an author with a keen interest in honeybees. June discusses her fascination with bees, sparked by serendipitous conversations with her dental hygienist, who is also a beekeeper. Through this dialogue, June shares intriguing bee behaviors, such as their unique way of navigating and the multiple roles they undertake throughout their lifetimes. The podcast also touches on how individuals can learn more about bees and their significant role in pollination. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and today's guest, June Smalls. 00:01:37: June expresses her enthusiasm and gratitude for being on the podcast. 00:01:38: Christopher asks June about her initial interest in bees. 00:01:44: June talks about her early fascination with bees and her dental hygienist's influence. 00:02:32: Christopher comments on the correct terminology for beekeepers. 00:02:37: June explains how her dental hygienist uses honeybee products. 00:02:54: Christopher inquires about providing water to bees and how it's done. 00:03:05: June describes how to set up a bee-friendly water source. 00:03:23: Christopher shares his appreciation for bees and how he uses honey. 00:03:37: June and Christopher bond over their shared love for peanut butter and honey. 00:03:45: Christopher shares a tip for making a less messy peanut butter and honey sandwich. 00:04:04: June explains the broader importance of bees beyond honey production. 00:04:47: Christopher reflects on the importance of pollinators in agriculture. 00:05:00: June suggests working with local beekeepers for mutual benefit. 00:05:25: They discuss how honey flavor varies based on what flowers the bees pollinate. 00:05:45: Christopher asks June about what she found most interesting about honeybees. 00:06:08: June shares her new insights into the life and roles of worker bees. 00:07:11: They discuss how bees' developmental roles relate to children's development. 00:07:26: June shares more insights into bee behavior and hive dynamics. 00:07:31: Christopher asks for additional interesting facts about bees. 00:08:33: June describes the architectural and navigational genius of bees. 00:09:07: Christopher marvels at bees' navigational abilities. 00:09:15: Christopher asks for other resources to learn more about bees. 00:09:33: June recommends resources for learning about bees and mentions her educator guide. 00:10:23: Christopher concludes with June's book recommendation and encourages bee exploration. 00:10:44: June shares her website information for further contact. 00:10:59: Podcast conclusion with appreciation for the sponsor and encouragement to subscribe. Key Takeaways Honeybees play a crucial role in the pollination of approximately one-third of the food we eat. Worker bees perform different roles throughout their lives, showing a natural progression similar to human growth. Local beekeepers can be valuable allies for communities, offering knowledge and services that support agriculture and education. Despite their small size, bees display sophisticated engineering and navigational skills, such as creating hexagonal combs and performing precise dances for communication. Shareable Quotes "Bees perform all tasks of the hive throughout their lives, showcasing a natural progression much like human growth." "Without bees, we'd have to manually pollinate our crops, making food more labor-intensive and expensive." "Bees are engineering and navigation geniuses, with their hexagon combs and mathematically precise waggle dances." Show Notes by Barevalue.
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes gardening expert Caleb Warnock to discuss the joys of gardening and how it can foster family and community bonding. Caleb, an experienced author and blogger, shares insights on maximizing the benefits of gardens at any skill level, from utilizing advanced techniques like geothermal greenhouses to making gardening accessible for beginners. They also explore the importance of engaging younger generations in gardening activities and Caleb's upcoming book on creating botanical colors from plants. Listeners are encouraged to harness the therapeutic and unifying power of gardening, fostering connections and self-sufficiency. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast and guest Caleb Warnock, highlighting his expertise in self-sufficiency and gardening. 00:01:32: Caleb expresses his excitement to be on the podcast and introduces his gardening setup with geothermal greenhouses. 00:01:35: Christopher discusses advantages of year-round gardening in California and inquiries about Caleb's gardening activities in Utah. 00:02:08: Caleb explains how he gardens year-round using geothermal greenhouses in Utah. 00:02:37: Discussion on making gardens a place of community, family, and friendship. 00:03:43: Example of a neighbor using her garden to foster community interactions. 00:04:23: Insights into how gardening connects people and provides emotional balance. 00:05:03: Humor and wisdom in embracing edible weeds in gardening. 00:06:09: Tips for beginner gardeners on choosing the right garden location and focusing on crops that matter most to them. 00:08:32: Strategies for maximizing the output of small gardens and ensuring alignment with family consumption habits. 00:10:24: Resources and methods for improving gardening skills across different levels. 00:13:34: Tried and tested tips for maintaining a weed-free garden. 00:14:56: Engaging children in gardening to build long-lasting relationships with nature and healthier eating habits. 00:19:18: Overview of Caleb's new book on using botanical sources for natural dyes and paints, and its significance. 00:22:46: Encouragement to explore gardening literature and community resources for enhancing gardening experience. Key Takeaways Gardening can significantly contribute to family and community bonding by providing a shared, rewarding activity. For beginners, focusing on manageable space and crops that align with family needs can enhance the gardening experience. Advanced gardeners can explore year-round gardening techniques and expand their gardens with perennial foods for increased self-reliance. Teaching children about gardening fosters a connection to nature and introduces them to healthy food choices. Caleb's upcoming book highlights the forgotten art of deriving beautiful, natural colors from plants for creative and safe use. Shareable Quotes "You can't be angry when your hands are in the dirt." – Karen Wood "It's better to have a small weed-free garden than a large garden full of weeds." – Caleb Warnock "Engage with your friends and neighbors by giving things away out of your garden." – Caleb Warnock "If you don't have a community of people who can help you, turn to someone who can give you consultation to design your garden right the first time." – Caleb Warnock "The best way to improve your soil is to put it inside a geothermal greenhouse." – Caleb Warnock Show Notes by Barevalue.
Dads, ever feel like you're on autopilot, where each day is just running through the same motions? You're not alone. Dad of three Chris Robbins joins us to discuss how Soul Degree seeks to help men interrupt the flow, get outside, and take some well-deserved time to focus on bettering ourselves. Chris also shares candidly about being a new "empty nester" along with his wife, legendary podcaster, author, and self-help thought leader, Mel Robbins. Listen to the end to learn about Marc's "bloody good" weekend! Episode 119 of Modern Dadhood opens with Adam & Marc discussing a few exciting podcast updates:1. Adam published an article on Katie Couric Media which references some great child-calming tactics gleaned from Modern Dadhood episodes!2. The guys will be attending Podcast Movement's Evolutions conference in Chicago in early April and would love to connect with any listeners or fellow podcasters there!3. The guys have released a podcast trailer for Modern Dadhood (only 5 years too late!) and the video trailer can be seen here.The guys welcome Chris Robbins into the conversation. Chris is an entrepreneur with a versatile career which took him from the corporate world to owning restaurants, becoming a death doula, opening a world-class podcasting studio in Boston, and founding Soul Degree, a men's personal development program centered around outdoor retreats. Chris shares candidly about this, along with his fatherhood experience, which includes supporting a creative collaboration between his daughter Sawyer and his legendary wife Mel Robbins. Other topics include:• Chris and Mel Robbins becoming new "empty nesters" after dropping their youngest of three off at college recently• The importance of slowing down, reflecting, and engaging in meaningful conversations about our lives, roles, and mental health.• The influence of Chris' father on his own entrepreneurial and fatherhood journeys.• The power of listening versus offering unsolicited advice.• And more!After the interview, Marc shares a recent story of a sibling scuffle that ended in a visit to the local emergency room. (But it didn't stop him from making a great pot of chili!)LINKS:Soul Degree (official)Soul Degree (Instagram)Chris Robbins (Instagram)Mel Robbins "Let Them Theory" (book)Caspar BabypantsSpencer AlbeeModern Dadhood (website)AdamFlaherty.tvStuffed Animal (Marc's kids' music)MD (Instagram)MD (Facebook)MD (YouTube)MD (TikTok) #moderndadhood #fatherhood #parenthood #parenting #parentingpodcast #dadding #dadpodcast
After much anticipation, former New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo officially entered the race for New York City mayor, joining a crowded Democratic primary field. Cuomo resigned in 2021 amid 11 allegations of sexual harassment, though Cuomo has denied wrongdoing. NY1's Errol Louis spoke about Cuomo's legacy and his future, with Christopher Robbins, an editor and co-founder of the news outlet Hell Gate. They also talked about recent polling that shows Mayor Eric Adams' job approval rating dipping to an all-time low. And they discussed the reasons why Robbins started Hell Gate and what he sees in the future for the news outlet. ***Spectrum News NY1 and Roosevelt House will be co-hosting a special panel discussion on the political career and legacy of New York City Mayor John Lindsay. Inspired by the NY1 three-part limited audio series covering Lindsay's political career, the conversation will be held at Roosevelt House on March 13 at 6 p.m. It will be moderated Errol Louis and feature a panel of Lindsay administration alumni and journalists who will discuss Lindsay's eight years in office from 1966 to 1973 — one of the most chaotic and transformative times in New York's recent history. It will explore his accomplishments as mayor, as well as the staggering number of challenges he faced during his two terms. Anyone who wishes to attend the event will need to RSVP. To learn more visit: ny1.com.
In this insightful episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Dr. Alexander Kolevzon, a child and adolescent psychiatrist and co-author of A Parent's Guide to Starting Psychiatric Medications for Kids: Start Low and Go Slow. Dr. Kolevzon provides an in-depth discussion on the role of medications in addressing childhood mental health challenges such as anxiety, ADHD, and autism. The conversation focuses on how parents can approach these decisions thoughtfully, emphasizing collaboration, education, and the importance of a "start low and go slow" approach to treatment. This episode aligns with the Familius habits of "Talk Together," "Heal Together," and "Learn Together." Episode Highlights: [01:10] Introduction to Dr. Alexander Kolevzon Overview of his expertise in child psychiatry and the inspiration behind the book. [04:25] The Mental Health Landscape for Children 20% of American children experience mental health challenges, but only 10% are on medications. Addressing the gap in care and access. [07:45] Medications: Treating Symptoms, Not Labels Medications are symptom-focused rather than diagnosis-driven. The importance of understanding individual symptoms over generalized labels. [12:30] What Does “Start Low and Go Slow” Mean? The philosophy of beginning treatment with the lowest effective dose and adjusting carefully. The importance of thorough evaluations and exploring non-medication alternatives. [17:15] When to Seek Help Guidance on distinguishing normal childhood behaviors from those requiring professional intervention. Signs such as severe distress, school avoidance, or functional impairments. [22:00] The Role of Social Media in Youth Mental Health Discussion on the links between social media, anxiety, and depression. Practical strategies for parents to help children regulate social media use. [28:40] Insights from the Book Accessible, Q&A-style format designed to address common parent concerns. How the book demystifies medication options and their appropriate uses. [34:00] Trust and Collaboration with Medical Professionals Tips for building trust and ensuring a collaborative relationship with your child's doctor. Recognizing parents as experts on their children. Key Takeaways: Medications Are a Tool, Not a Cure-All: They address specific symptoms and should be part of a broader treatment plan that includes therapy and environmental adjustments. Start Low, Go Slow: Introduce medications cautiously, ensuring they are tailored to the child's unique needs and minimizing side effects. Know When to Seek Help: Significant distress, avoidance behaviors, or impaired functioning are indicators to consult a professional. Social Media's Double-Edged Sword: It can exacerbate mental health issues but also provides support networks. Parents should guide responsible use. Collaboration is Key: Trust between parents and medical professionals is crucial for effective treatment and long-term success.
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Christopher Robbins talks with Antonia Squire, a veteran children's bookseller and children's buyer at The King's English Bookshop. Antonia shares expert tips on building a children's library, starting from baby showers to chapter books for older kids. The discussion highlights the importance of reading aloud to children at every stage of development, the role of books in building empathy and curiosity, and specific recommendations for timeless and engaging titles. Whether you're looking to create a starter library or expand an existing collection, this episode offers practical advice to foster a lifelong love of reading in your children. Episode Highlights [02:15] Start Early—Baby Books as Gifts: Antonia suggests building a library as early as baby showers, encouraging parents to replace cards with books inscribed with personal messages. [06:40] The Importance of Reading Aloud at Any Age: Reading aloud fosters connection, emotional bonding, and early literacy skills. Antonia emphasizes that children are never too young—or too old—to enjoy storytime. [10:30] Interactive Books for Toddlers: Recommendations like Tails and Pout-Pout Fish highlight the value of tactile and rhythmic books for engaging young readers. [15:20] Picture Books for Growth and Humor: Titles such as I Eat Poop and The Gruffalo teach humor, resilience, and irony, making them perfect for ages 3 and up. [20:50] Chapter Books That Build Reading Confidence: Antonia highlights Ramona the Pest and Charlotte's Web as must-reads for early readers, blending timeless storytelling with life lessons. [26:30] Building Empathy Through Fiction: Books help children experience life through different perspectives, improving emotional intelligence and decision-making. [30:10] Creating Access with Nonprofits Like Brain Food Books: Antonia introduces Brain Food Books, a nonprofit focused on providing books to children without easy access, and explains how just 10 books in a home can improve a child's success. Key Takeaways Start Early with Books: Build your child's library starting at baby showers to set the foundation for early literacy and bonding. Read Aloud at Every Stage: Continue reading aloud as children grow to keep them engaged and foster imagination and comprehension. Choose Interactive and Fun Books: Books with humor, rhyme, and touch-and-feel elements captivate young readers and keep them coming back. Include Chapter Books for Growth: Introduce longer stories like Ramona the Pest and Charlotte's Web to deepen literacy and emotional connections. Focus on Empathy and Imagination: Fiction helps children understand different perspectives and make thoughtful decisions.
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Christopher Robbins chats with author and former theater teacher Christopher Mannino about how parents can transform their relationships with children through the power of play. Drawing from his upcoming book, Making It Up: A Revolutionary Way to Bond with Kids Through Play, Mannino shares theater-inspired techniques like improv, emotional recall, and role-playing to help parents strengthen emotional connections, manage stress, and make everyday moments magical. This episode is filled with actionable tips for parents, caregivers, and educators who want to boost child development, encourage creativity, and build lasting family bonds—all in just 10 minutes a day. Episode Highlights [02:00] Why Play Matters in Parenting: Manino discusses how intentional play builds emotional connections and creates “core memories” that last a lifetime. [06:45] Using Improv to Spark Imagination and Bonding: Learn how the “Yes, And” technique from improv theater can validate children's ideas, encourage creativity, and deepen parent-child relationships. [12:15] Emotional Anchors: Staying Present with Your Kids: Discover how emotional recall techniques from acting can help parents tune out distractions and focus fully during playtime. [17:30] Managing Tantrums and Stress Through Playfulness: Manino explains how humor, role-playing, and dramatic distractions can quickly defuse tension and improve emotional regulation for both kids and parents. [23:10] Real-Life Scenarios for Play-Based Parenting: Practical examples highlight how parents can turn challenging moments into bonding opportunities by incorporating play. [28:40] Inside Making It Up—A Guide to Playful Parenting: Get a preview of Manino's upcoming book, packed with strategies for making playtime more meaningful, fun, and transformative. Key Takeaways Prioritize Focused Playtime: Spend at least 10 minutes daily in distraction-free, imaginative play to build stronger emotional bonds. Say “Yes, And” to Creativity: Use improv techniques to encourage kids' ideas and boost their confidence. Stay Present with Emotional Anchors: Focus on positive memories to stay grounded and engaged, even during stressful days. Defuse Stress with Humor and Playfulness: Role-playing and humor are effective tools for managing tantrums and shifting moods. Make Play a Habit: Consistent, intentional play can strengthen communication, trust, and joy in parent-child relationships.
Some Republican leaders are squirming to keep Pete Hegseth's name in the hat as president-elect Donald Trump's defense secretary nominee—at all costs, said The New Abnormal co-hosts Andy Levy and Danielle Moodie. Plus! Christopher Robbins, reporter and co-founder of local news outlet Hell Gate, discusses New York City Mayor Eric Adams' big shift on immigration. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this Helping Families Be Happy podcast episode, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Paul Mandelstein, founder of the Father Resource Network and author of The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce. Together, they explore the challenges and joys of celebrating the holidays post-divorce, providing divorced or separated parents with advice on handling co-parenting dynamics and creating meaningful, stress-free holiday traditions for the whole family. Episode Highlights [02:15] Prioritizing Flexibility for Kids: Paul advises parents to adapt holiday plans around their children's needs, even if it means adjusting co-parenting schedules. [06:45] Kindness and Agreement-Keeping: Practicing kindness and sticking to agreements with co-parents helps create a positive holiday experience for the entire family. [12:30] Embracing Personal Growth: Holidays post-divorce offer opportunities for self-reflection and growth, which can contribute to a happier, healthier family dynamic. [16:10] Practicing Forgiveness: Forgiveness isn't just for others but is a healing step for oneself, easing tensions and fostering a peaceful holiday season. [21:00] Building New Traditions: Creating unique family traditions allows everyone, including new family members, to feel included and helps children adjust. [25:30] Avoiding Over-Gifting: Instead of compensating with gifts, Paul encourages parents to focus on quality time, as it creates more meaningful holiday memories for kids. Key Takeaways Prioritize Kids' Needs with Flexibility: Be adaptable to give children the best possible holiday experience. Be Kind and Keep Agreements: Kindness and reliability strengthen co-parenting dynamics and ease holiday tensions. Use Holidays as Growth Opportunities: Embrace self-reflection and personal growth for a fulfilling holiday season. Create New Traditions and Avoid Over-gifting: Develop traditions that honor your new family setup without excessive gifting.
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes leadership expert Barry Relaford. With decades of experience in leadership development and trust-building, Barry shares insights on fostering a positive family environment through authentic leadership, building trust, and creating a lasting legacy. This episode is essential for families wanting to strengthen bonds, instill strong values, and positively impact future generations. [00:00] Host Christopher Robbins introduces Barry Relaford, noting his work with leaders worldwide and his current focus on mentoring emerging talent. They discuss how leadership and trust-building principles apply directly to family relationships. [05:20] Barry defines leadership as positive influence and explains that every family member can lead by setting a good example. This approach fosters trust, strengthens bonds, and encourages growth within the family. [10:30] Reflecting on his family experiences, Barry highlights the powerful role of family legacy, emphasizing how the values we pass down shape future generations. [15:45] Barry shares the quote, “It's a greater compliment to be trusted than to be loved,” underscoring that trust is crucial in family relationships and often outweighs likability. [22:00] Barry explores the process of rebuilding broken trust, emphasizing that it requires trustworthy actions and consistent boundaries to restore family harmony. [30:15] Barry discusses the link between trust and leadership in family dynamics, stressing that parents should model integrity and accountability to foster a secure, supportive home. [35:40] Barry concludes with optimism for future generations, encouraging families to support young leaders, as they are key to creating a more positive society. Key Takeaways: Family leadership is best expressed through positive influence and setting a strong example. Trust is foundational to family relationships and should be prioritized over simply being liked. Rebuilding trust requires consistent, trustworthy actions and clear family boundaries. Family members play a critical role in nurturing future leaders and instilling strong values. Supporting young family members in leadership roles encourages a hopeful future.
In this episode of the Helping Channels Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Leah Day, a former clinical social worker turned cycling enthusiast and shop owner. They delve into Leah's journey from counseling to cycling, her family adventures, and how these experiences culminated in her decision to write a memoir. Listeners will get a glimpse into the transformative power of pursuing one's passions and the unexpected paths life can take. Episode Highlights 00:00:09 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, its goals, and today's guest, Leah Day. Robbins outlines his background and sets the stage for an engaging conversation about the intertwining paths of family, love, relationships, and personal growth through Leah Day's experiences. 00:01:00 - Leah shares her transition from a clinical social worker to opening Lighthouse Bikes, reflecting on how her previous career and passion for cycling merge to create unique experiences for her and others. Her story underscores the theme of finding new avenues for personal and professional fulfillment. 00:01:58 - The discussion turns to Leah's extensive biking journeys, including her acclaimed bicycle ride across the United States with her youngest son, Oakley. She touches on the impact of adventure and challenge in fostering growth and transition, highlighting her contributions to adventure cycling publications and other media. 00:02:38 - Leah opens up about recent biking adventures in Morocco and Spain, bringing to life her experiences in the Riff Mountains and the unique situations she found herself in due to the locales she chose to explore. 00:03:49 - The conversation shifts to Leah's memoir, "Changing Gears," focusing on the motivation behind documenting her and her son's cross-country cycling journey. This segues into a deeper discussion on the therapeutic aspects of writing and journaling. 00:06:04 - Leah and Christopher discuss the process of writing a memoir, including the initial challenges, the role of blogging and journaling, and the importance of making personal stories public for broader impact. 00:08:14 - Leah reflects on the feedback from readers of her memoir and how sharing personal stories can inspire and support others in their own life journeys. 00:11:31 - The episode culminates with Leah sharing her favorite part of her memoir, a profound moment of role reversal with her son, which encapsulates the theme of growth and the deepening of their relationship through their shared adventure. Key Takeaways Transitions in career and life can lead to fulfilling new paths that weave together personal passions and professional experiences. Documenting journeys, whether through blogs, journals, or memoirs, can be therapeutic and offers a reflective insight into personal growth and understanding. Stories hold power, and sharing them can inspire, connect, and impact others in meaningful ways, encouraging everyone to explore their own adventures and challenges. Tweetable Quotes "Part of the journey is becoming the kind of person who could take care of somebody else." - Leah Day "Writing about it really helped me figure out what was exciting to me for the next chapter of my life." - Leah Day "If we tell each other our stories, we're actually helping each other. We're not just talking about ourselves." - Leah Day Show Notes by Barevalue.
In this episode, Host Christopher Robbins and guest Mary Potter Kenyon dive into the art of memoir writing, exploring the importance of honesty and transparency in documenting life stories. They discuss the challenges and rewards of writing memoirs, providing insights on how to share personal stories with truth and courage. Through their conversation, listeners are encouraged to embrace their voice and experiences, whether writing for personal reflection or publication. Episode Highlights 00:00:10 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, himself, and guest Mary Potter Kenyon. The introduction frames the episode's focus on memoir writing, emphasizing the value of recording life's significant moments. Christopher's extensive personal background sets a welcoming and relatable stage for the conversation. 00:01:37 - Mary Potter Kenyon expresses gratitude for joining the podcast. This brief interaction establishes a warm and engaging tone between the host and guest, setting the stage for a deeper exploration of memoir writing and its impacts. 00:01:39 - Christopher queries Mary on her extensive writing experience, leading to a discussion on the volume of words one writes over a lifetime. This segment humorously segues into contemplation on the journey and effort involved in refining writing skills. 00:02:36 - Mary differentiates between memoir and autobiography, highlighting memoir as a space for capturing specific life episodes with emotional depth. This segment illuminates the memoir's purpose in storytelling, underscoring its personal nature. 00:03:29 - The dialogue evolves into the structure of memoirs, distinguishing between short memoirs and book-length narratives. Mary offers insights into the craft of writing concise yet meaningful narratives, emphasizing the importance of each word in conveying personal stories effectively. 00:06:34 - Transparency in memoir writing is examined, with Mary stressing the necessity of honesty in sharing personal stories. This part deepens the conversation about the ethics and responsibilities of memoir writing, reflecting on how personal truths can connect with and impact readers. 00:09:08 - The discussion shifts to the therapeutic and healing aspects of memoir writing, exploring how writing can serve as a tool for personal reflection and understanding. Mary shares personal anecdotes to illustrate how writing can be a powerful means of processing and expressing experiences. 00:12:23 - Mary provides practical advice for aspiring memoir writers, including the importance of identifying the memoir's purpose and capturing life's pivotal moments. This guidance offers listeners a starting point for their writing journey, encouraging reflection on what stories they wish to tell. 00:17:31 - The topic of finding one's voice in writing is broached, with Mary discussing the authenticity required to make memoirs resonate. This segment demystifies the process of writing in one's voice, encouraging writers to be genuine and unafraid of expressing their true selves. 00:20:49 - Mary concludes with encouragement for potential writers, emphasizing the act of writing itself over the pursuit of publication. This closing message reinforces the episode's theme of memoir writing as a valuable and rewarding practice, regardless of the outcome. Key Takeaways Writing a memoir requires honesty and transparency to truly resonate with readers and provide therapeutic benefits to the writer. Memoir writing is a versatile form allowing for both short-form essays and longer, book-length narratives, each serving to capture and share fragments of life's experiences. The practice of writing memoirs can serve as a powerful tool for personal healing, reflection, and connection with others, highlighting the uniqueness of individual stories. Finding one's voice is essential in memoir writing, emphasizing authenticity and encouraging writers to stay true to their experiences and emotions. Tweetable Quotes "Memoir is a glimpse into a person's life that serves to connect us through shared human experiences." - Mary Potter Kenyon "Be brave and transparent in your writing; it's through vulnerability that we truly resonate with others." - Mary Potter Kenyon "Don't write to publish, write to express, to heal, and to share. The rest will follow." - Mary Potter Kenyon Show Notes by Barevalue.
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins and guest Richard Hill delve into the transformative power of genetic genealogy for adoptees searching for their roots. Hill shares his personal journey of discovering his biological family through DNA testing and discusses the evolution of genealogical research tools. The conversation illuminates the emotional and practical aspects of unearthing one's origins, marking an inspiring intersection of technology and human curiosity. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast episode, highlighting its focus on family, love, and relationships. Robbins details his background and introduces guest Richard Hill, who discusses his experience as an adoptee finding his biological family through DNA tests. 00:01:44: Richard Hill expresses gratitude for being part of the episode and anticipates sharing his story. 00:01:47: Robbins probes into Hill's motivation for exploring his family history. Hill elaborates on his late discovery of being adopted and his subsequent quest to uncover his biological origins, emphasizing how societal norms of the past differed from today. 00:03:26: Hill recounts the process of finding his biological family, underscoring the years of research involved, the eventual identification of his birth parents through DNA analysis, and the expansion of his family tree with newfound relatives. 00:05:13: The conversation shifts to the broader impacts of Hill's journey, discussing the lessons learned, the significance of understanding one's roots, and the legal barriers adoptees face in accessing their original birth records. 00:06:03: Discussing the evolution of research tools over the decades, Hill highlights how advances in technology, especially the internet and DNA testing, have revolutionised genealogical research, making it accessible to a wider audience. 00:07:22: Robbins jokes about the potential for discovering family secrets through DNA testing, illustrating both the intrigue and the cautionary aspects of delving into genetic genealogy. 00:07:31: Hill shares practical advice for individuals interested in exploring their family history, stressing the value of DNA testing and online genealogical resources in piecing together one's heritage. 00:10:15: Hill explains his decision to document his search in a book, aiming to guide and inspire others in similar quests. He reflects on the supportive feedback received from readers and the broader genealogical community. 00:12:16: Robbins highlights the positive reviews of Hill's book and inquires about feedback from readers. Hill shares experiences of connecting with others through his story, emphasizing the transformative power of understanding one's origins. 00:13:20: Offering advice to those new to genealogy, Hill recommends starting with foundational research and embracing DNA testing for its potential to unlock personal histories and connect with biological relatives. 00:15:19: Hill shares resources and ways for listeners to engage with his work and learn more about DNA testing, directing the audience to his website and social media profiles. Key Takeaways Understanding one's origins through DNA testing not only satisfies curiosity but also enriches one's sense of identity and connection to the past. Technological advancements have dramatically increased accessibility to genealogical research, empowering individuals with tools and resources to explore their family history. The legal and societal barriers that once hindered adoptees from accessing their birth records are slowly being dismantled, thanks in large part to the advocacy of individuals like Richard Hill. Embracing one's family history, whether biological or adopted, adds a significant layer of depth to personal narratives, fostering a greater appreciation for the complexities of family and identity. Tweetable Quotes "You just really can't have too much family." - Richard Hill "DNA has led to many surprises." - Richard Hill "90% of the surprises are either good or neutral, but be prepared." - Richard Hill Show Notes by Barevalue.
In this inspiring episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins sits down with Louise Webster, author and founder of BeyondtheSchoolRun.com, to explore revolutionary approaches for mothers to utilize their skills and talents while their children are at school. The conversation delves deep into the potential for parents to maintain their professional growth and personal fulfillment during the parenting years, highlighting the importance of flow, autonomy, and purpose in achieving a balanced life. Episode Highlights: 00:00:10 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast's focus on family, love, relationships, and the day's guest, Louise Webster, discussing her mission with Beyondtheschoolrun.com and her book, "A New Way For Mothers." Robbins ties the discussion back to the Famis habits' theme of learning together, establishing the episode's purpose to explore how mothers can integrate their professional and personal growth during their children's school hours. 00:01:23 - Louise Webster expresses gratitude for the platform to share her work and book, setting the stage for a comprehensive exploration of Beyond the School Run's goals, her inspiration for its creation, and the impact it aims to have on mothers looking for fulfillment beyond traditional parenting roles. 00:01:43 - Webster details the inception of Beyond the School Run, its mission to empower mothers personally and professionally, and her motivation stemmed from personal experience and the observed need for a supportive community for mothers in transition periods. This initiates the discussion on the movement towards flexible, meaningful work aligned with parenting responsibilities. 00:04:33 - The conversation shifts towards the evolving landscape of work opportunities for mothers and parents at home, highlighting the shift in corporate attitudes toward remote work and flexible schedules. Webster underscores the untapped value in the parent workforce, emphasizing efficiency, responsibility, and the unique perspectives parents bring to the professional world. 00:07:48 - Christopher Robbins links the discussion to the broader theme of autonomy, mastery, and purpose in unlocking personal motivation, touching on societal shifts towards accommodating and valuing the parenting role alongside professional aspirations. 00:08:43 - The focus turns to practical advice for parents looking to rediscover or redefine their professional interests and talents during the limited hours when their children are in school. Webster offers strategies for self-exploration, staying present, and testing new paths, illustrating the process of aligning personal growth with parenting. 00:12:27 - Webster shares insights on the diverse skill sets and professions of individuals within the Beyond the School Run community, highlighting the emergence of new business models and career paths catalyzed by parenting experiences. This segment showcases real-world examples of mothers transitioning into fulfilling careers by harnessing their experiences and skills developed through parenting. 00:16:48 - The concept of "the genius of the and" is introduced, celebrating the ability to fulfill parenting roles while pursuing personal dreams and professional goals. This key moment underscores the episode's message of empowering parents to embrace both family life and personal aspirations without compromise. 00:18:22 - As the episode nears its conclusion, Webster encourages parents facing the transition of their children back to school to take proactive steps towards their own personal and professional development. She emphasizes the importance of vocalizing and acting on their desires as a pathway to fulfillment and empowerment. 00:20:17 - Louise Webster shares where listeners can find more information about Beyond the School Run, including her book, "A New Way For Mothers," her platform's growing community, and the resources available to support parents in their journey towards integrating parenting and professional growth. Show Notes By Barevalue Key Takeaways: - The landscape of work and parenthood is evolving, with increasing opportunities for mothers and parents to pursue professional interests and personal growth alongside their parenting responsibilities. - Autonomy, mastery, and purpose are key to unlocking personal motivation and fulfillment, especially for parents navigating the balance between family life and professional ambitions. - Open conversations and community support are vital in helping parents identify and pursue their passions and talents during the parenting years, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life. Tweetable Quotes: - "Empower mothers personally and professionally through Beyond the School Run." - Louise Webster - "Unlock the untapped value in the parent workforce, emphasizing efficiency and responsibility." - Louise Webster - "The genius of the and - fulfilling parenting roles while pursuing personal dreams." - Christopher Robbins Show Notes By Barevalue
In this heartfelt episode of "Helping Families Be Happy," host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familiars Publishing, engages with Lisa Sugarman, a noted author, nationally syndicated columnist, and mental health advocate. They delve into improving relationships and understanding when a loved one comes out as LGBTQ+. Through Lisa's professional and personal insights, the episode illuminates the complexities of family, love, and acceptance within the context of LGBTQ+ experiences. Episode Highlights - **00:00:09:** Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast theme, focusing on family, love, and relationships, and introduces Lisa Sugarman as the guest. He outlines her extensive background as an author, mental health advocate, and her involvement with the Trevor Project, underscoring her commitment to supporting LGBTQ+ youth. - **00:01:18:** Lisa's contributions to mental health awareness and LGBTQ+ advocacy are highlighted, including her writing and her role in supporting individuals facing suicide risk. Their discussion promises to explore navigating family and friend relationships within the LGBTQ+ context. - **00:02:11:** Lisa expresses her excitement about the conversation, setting a positive and engaging tone for the discussion. This moment further establishes the rapport and mutual respect between the host and guest, encouraging open dialogue. - **00:02:16:** The conversation shifts to the Trevor Project, with Lisa explaining its significance as a crisis support hotline for LGBTQ+ youth. She articulates the kinds of support provided, emphasizing the project's vital role in offering a lifeline to at-risk youth. - **00:03:07:** The discussion takes a deeper dive into the necessity of supporting LGBTQ+ individuals, with a particular focus on 'holding space' for those coming out. Lisa clarifies the concept of 'holding space' as a non-judgmental, supportive practice that acknowledges and validates personal experiences. - **00:05:09:** Lisa shares a poignant analogy to underline the importance of simply being present and listening when supporting someone who's grieving or revealing a significant part of their identity. - **00:05:22:** The role of genuine listening and asking open-ended questions when engaging with LGBTQ+ individuals is explored. This approach fosters a safe environment for personal revelations and strengthens support systems. - **00:06:31:** Lisa details how the Trevor Project approaches calls from individuals expressing suicidal thoughts, focusing on de-escalation and empowering callers to seek supportive resources. This segment underscores the critical nature of immediate and empathetic response to mental health crises. - **00:08:43:** Avoiding assumptions and the importance of understanding individual stories without prejudice are discussed. Emphasizing the necessity of keeping personal biases in check to support effectively. - **00:09:21:** Strategies for respectfully addressing and acknowledging people's preferred pronouns and identities are shared, underscoring the value of personal recognition and respect in supporting LGBTQ+ individuals. - **00:10:25:** Lisa reflects on her personal experiences with coming out stories within her family, emphasizing the transformative power of listening and accepting. - **00:12:19:** The significance of language and correct pronoun usage is highlighted as essential for validating and respecting individuals’ identities, fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance. - **00:13:47:** A broader discussion on privilege and advocacy for the underrepresented encapsulates the episode's theme Show Notes By Barevalue of empathy and action. Lisa encourages leveraging privilege to uplift and support marginalized communities. - **00:16:08:** The conversation concludes with an emphasis on love and respect for all individuals, regardless of their background or identity, reflecting on the potential for a more inclusive and compassionate world. - **00:16:34:** Christopher and Lisa encapsulate the core message of the podcast: meeting oneself and others with understanding and acceptance, no matter where they are in their journey. Key Takeaways - The importance of 'holding space' and listening non-judgmentally to support individuals as they share personal aspects of their identity. - Effective communication, including correct pronoun usage, fosters respect and validation for LGBTQ+ individuals, contributing to their sense of safety and belonging. - Leveraging privilege to advocate for and support underrepresented communities is crucial in building a more inclusive society. - The power of empathy and unconditional love in creating supportive environments for individuals navigating their identity and mental health challenges. Tweetable Quotes - "Holding space for someone is not complicated; it is about listening in a non-judgmental way and letting them offload what’s on their heart." - Lisa Sugarman - "The best thing we can do is close our mouth, open our ears, and listen." - Lisa Sugarman - "We all have some kind of privilege; understanding that and leveraging it for the benefit of others is key." - Lisa Sugarman Show Notes By Barevalue
In this heartwarming episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman engages in an insightful and deeply personal conversation with Christopher Robbins, a devoted father of nine and the founder and CEO of Familius. Through their dialogue, they explore the multifaceted experiences of fatherhood, from the pivotal moments that define one's journey as a parent to the broader impacts of fatherhood on personal and professional growth. Christopher shares his unique perspectives on nurturing family relationships, maintaining work-life balance, and cultivating a household centered around love, learning, and laughter. Episode Highlights: - **00:00:10:** Adina warmly introduces the podcast, setting the stage for a discussion that delves into the complexities and joys of family life. She briefly outlines her background and her passion for connecting families with impactful literature, segueing into Christopher Robbins' rich history as a father, publisher, and advocate for family happiness. - **00:01:19:** Christopher recounts his journey from launching an arts magazine in Utah to becoming the CEO of Gibb Smith, highlighting his successes in the publishing industry alongside his growth as a father. This segment illuminates how his personal and professional lives intertwine, shaping his mission to support families through literature. - **00:02:57 -“ 00:03:35:** A lighthearted exchange reveals Christopher's nervous excitement about being on the other side of the mic, setting the tone for a candid and engaging conversation. His humility and openness pave the way for deeper discussions on fatherhood. - **00:03:35:** Christopher shares a transformative moment upon the birth of his first child, encapsulating the profound sense of responsibility and love that defines fatherhood. This anecdote serves as a powerful introduction to the theme of fatherhood as a journey of continuous learning and adaptation. - **00:05:10 -“ 00:06:43:** The discussion shifts to the meaningful shifts that occur once children enter one's life, focusing on the sacrifices and changes in priorities that parenting entails. Christopher's personal anecdotes provide tangible examples of how fatherhood necessitates a reevaluation of one's passions, interests, and daily routines. - **00:07:25 -“ 00:08:07:** Adina and Christopher discuss the challenges today's fathers face, comparing and contrasting them with those of past generations. The conversation highlights the impact of technology, societal expectations, and the changing landscape of parenthood. - **00:08:07 -“ 00:12:02:** Addressing the importance of mentorship and the role of fathers in model resilience, the discussion delves into strategies for navigating fatherhood amidst modern challenges. Christopher emphasizes the value of being present, the role of discipline balanced with understanding, and the long-term impact of imparting wisdom through action and example. - **00:13:32 -“ 00:14:22:** Light-hearted moments intersperse the conversation, underscoring the joy and humor that accompany the trials of parenting. Adina and Christopher share personal experiences that illustrate the unpredictable and rewarding nature of raising children. - **00:14:22:** Christopher offers sage advice to parents, stressing the significance of prioritizing family over career, sharing meals together as a way to foster communication, and setting aside quality time to strengthen family bonds. His reflections on nurturing relationships within the family unit are invaluable for anyone navigating the complexities of parenthood. - **00:22:28 -“ 00:26:20:** The episode concludes with Christopher's reflections on his upbringing and the mentors who shaped his approach to fatherhood. He advocates for the positive influence men can have in their communities and within their families, emphasizing the lasting impact of mentorship and engaged parenting. Show Notes By Barevalue Key Takeaways: **Embrace the Journey:** Fatherhood is a continuous process of learning, growth, and adaptation. Embrace the responsibility, love, and challenges that it brings. **Prioritize Relationships:** The richness of family life comes from prioritizing relationships over material success. Time spent building and nurturing family bonds is invaluable. **Cultivate Open Communication:** Shared meals and dedicated family time are crucial for fostering open communication. These moments are the foundation for a supportive and understanding family environment. **Balance Discipline with Love:** Effective parenting involves a balance between discipline and understanding. By setting boundaries while showing love and support, parents can guide their children through life's challenges. **The Impact of Mentorship:** Fathers and male mentors play a critical role in guiding the next generation. By leading with kindness, responsibility, and wisdom, they can leave a lasting impact on their children and communities. Tweetable Quotes: - "Fatherhood is an adventure in patience, love, and laughter. Embrace every moment." -“ Christopher Robbins - "Prioritize your family, your relationships, and the joy of being together above all else." -“ Christopher Robbins - "In the journey of fatherhood, the best lessons are learned through love, laughter, and sometimes, a little bit of chaos." -“ Adina Oberman Show Notes By Barevalue
In this enriching episode, Christopher Robbins dives into a captivating discussion with Brad Berger, the ingenious mind behind countless family games. They traverse the realm of game creation and its profound impact on forming personal connections, enhancing family bonding, and fostering discoveries through play. This exploration uncovers the essence of games as tools for learning, engagement, and understanding within the dynamics of family and relationships. Episode Highlights: - **00:00:09** - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, setting the stage for an exploration into the significance of games in family bonding and relationships. Robbins, a father of nine and a figure of diverse interests, shares his vision of bringing insightful content on love, family, and life. His introduction lays a foundation for an engaging dialogue that promises to unravel the layers of creating meaningful connections through games. - **00:01:10** - Brad Berger is introduced, offering a glimpse into his lifelong fascination with games and their developmental potential. This segment highlights Berger's journey from inventing games in childhood to using them as tools for education and social bonding. The narrative delves into how Berger's passion for games is not just about entertainment but about fostering personal discovery and connections among people, irrespective of their geographical locations. - **00:01:54** - A warm exchange signals the start of the conversation, with Brad sharing his extensive experience in game creation. Through laughs and anecdotes, Brad reflects on how his unique approach to everyday conversations turning them into games reveals much about his creativity and passion for engaging people. This interaction not only opens up Brad's world of game invention but also sets a lighthearted and curious tone for the discussion. - **00:03:01** to **00:03:37** - Brad discusses the sheer volume of games he has created, emphasizing his dedication and innovative approach to game design. He shares insights into his creative process, showcasing how constant experimentation and feedback have been crucial in refining his ideas. This portion offers listeners a behind-the-scenes look at the mind of a prolific game creator, highlighting both his creative prowess and the impact of his games on fostering connection. - **00:04:05** - The discussion transitions into what games reveal about people, from competitiveness to creative tendencies. Brad's classification of players into quadrants based on their competitive nature provides a framework for understanding diverse personalities. This segment enriches the conversation by bringing to light the nuanced ways games can serve as mirrors to our behaviors and inclinations. - **00:07:01** to **00:07:36** - Brad's observations on how people's competitive spirits evolve with age lend depth to the dialogue, revealing the transformative power of play across different life stages. This reflection on changing dynamics adds a layer of complexity to understanding how games can be adapted to suit varying age groups and competitiveness levels. - **00:08:31** - The narrative explores the fundamental allure of games, touching upon the inherent human love for play, competition, and the journey of the game itself. Brad's insights into why games captivate us beyond mere winning unravel the emotional and psychological dimensions of gaming, making this segment pivotal in understanding games’ universal appeal. - **00:10:04** - With a focus on crafting engaging games, Brad shares his methodology, revealing the diversity in game categories and the thoughtful consideration behind each creation. This detailed breakdown not only sheds light on Brad's creative process but also offers potential game designers valuable insights into crafting compelling gaming experiences. - **00:14:01** - The conversation takes a practical turn, with Brad suggesting games suitable for road trips, illustrating his ability to tailor game experiences to different settings. Here, listeners gain practical tips on incorporating games into family travels, enriching the journey with interactive and fun learning moments. Show Notes By Barevalue - **00:17:37** - As the discussion shifts towards dinner table games, Brad presents easily implementable game ideas that encourage family interaction and bonding during meal times. This advice underscores games' versatility and their power to transform mundane moments into opportunities for connection and discovery. - **00:20:26** - Brad elaborates on adapting game experiences for various environments, including business settings, emphasizing preparation and customization. His approach to creating meaningful engagement across different contexts showcases the universal applicability of games as tools for connection. - **00:22:03** - The episode touches upon resistance to game participation, with Brad recounting instances where individuals were initially reluctant yet ultimately drawn into the game's allure. This anecdote highlights the infectious nature of well-designed games and their ability to captivate even the most hesitant participants. Key Takeaways: - Games serve as powerful tools for education, bonding, and personal discovery, transcending mere entertainment to foster deep connections among participants. - Understanding participants' competitiveness and preferences can enhance the gaming experience, tailoring it to suit diverse personalities and engagement levels. - The journey of the game, rather than the outcome, holds significant appeal, emphasizing the importance of the process and shared experiences over winning. - Creativity and adaptability in game design can turn ordinary moments into opportunities for engagement, learning, and meaningful interactions across a variety of settings. Tweetable Quotes: - "Game creation is not just about entertainment but about fostering personal discovery and connections." - Brad Berger - "The journey of the game, rather than the outcome, holds significant appeal, emphasizing the process over winning." - Brad Berger Show Notes By Barevalue
In this heartwarming episode of *Helping Families Be Happy*, Christopher Robbins engages in a profound conversation with Tal Iyer, exploring the multifaceted role of fatherhood, the impact of authoritative parenting, and the art of creating deep connections with children. Iyer, known for his significant achievements across various spheres, delves into his personal journey of embracing 'dad mode,' sharing insights from his book, "Dad Mode: 25 Ways to Connect With Your Children." Through stories of personal growth, the necessity of intellectual humility, and the power of stories, Robbins and Iyer unfold a guide for fathers striving for meaningful relationships with their offspring. **Episode Highlights:** - **00:00:09:** The episode kicks off with Christopher Robbins warmly welcoming listeners and introducing the podcastâ€TMs mission to explore family, love, and relationships. Robbins introduces Tal Iyer, highlighting his diverse background from athletics to international business, and sets the stage for a discussion on the essence of 'dad mode.' - **00:01:08:** Tal Iyer corrects the pronunciation of his spouse's name, setting a humorous and light-hearted tone for the episode. This moment not only breaks the ice but also humanizes the conversation, inviting listeners into a more intimate dialogue about family and fatherhood. - **00:02:21:** Iyer shares his enchantment with the Swiss Alps, drawing a vivid picture of his idyllic family life, which serves as a foundation for the podcast's exploration of the art and effort involved in creating meaningful connections with children. - **00:03:03:** The concept of 'dad mode' is introduced by Iyer as an art of focused effort toward building a warm emotional connection with children. This insight emphasizes the episode's core message: effective fatherhood transcends perfection to embrace presence and effort. - **00:04:19:** Iyer discusses the applicability of 'dad mode' across various stages of a child's life, highlighting its relevance not only for young children but also for maintaining connections with adult offspring. This part of the conversation brings to light the universality of paternal love and the ongoing nature of fatherhood. - **00:05:53:** The discussion shifts to authoritative parenting, where Iyer shares insights into balancing supportiveness with demands. This approach, as described by Iyer, encapsulates the essence of effective parenting, where expectations are coupled with empathy and encouragement. - **00:07:52:** A practical conversation ensues on managing screen time, a contemporary parental challenge. Iyer shares his strategies, blending authoritative parenting with practical tools like a bamboo box for phones. This segment is particularly relatable for listeners grappling with similar issues. - **00:10:52:** Robbins shares his experience with technology and parenting, emphasizing the value of delayed gratification in the digital age. This reflection prompts a broader conversation on setting expectations and norms within the family structure. - **00:12:27:** Iyer champions the power of observation in parenting, inspiring fathers to engage in the reflective practice of noticing and appreciating the unique characteristics and interests of their children. - **00:16:19:** Intellectual humility in parenting is explored. Iyer makes a compelling case for acknowledging fallibility and demonstrating growth, reshaping the narrative around parental authority and mutual respect. - **00:19:02:** The episode delves into creating family vision and mission statements, a process that strengthens familial bonds and clarifies collective values and aspirations. **Key Takeaways:** Show Notes By Barevalue - 'Dad mode' is more about presence, effort, and consistent engagement with children than aiming for paternal perfection. - The balance of supportiveness and demands encapsulates effective authoritative parenting, fostering resilience and growth in children. - Intellectual humility and the ability to admit when one is wrong are pivotal in nurturing a healthy and respectful family dynamic. - Crafting family vision and mission statements can profoundly unify and guide the family toward shared goals and values. **Tweetable Quotes:** - "Being in 'dad mode' means embracing the artful journey of connecting with your children through a consistent, loving effort." - Tal Iyer - "In parenting, as in life, intellectual humility opens the doors to growth and deeper connections." - Tal Iyer - "Family vision and mission statements not only define our aspirations but also chart the course for achieving them together." - Christopher Robbins
Episode Summary In this heartfelt episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins converses with author Abigail Calkin, exploring the nuanced world of military families, love, relationships, and the challenges of PTSD. Abigail shares her journey as a military spouse and discusses her book, *The Soul of My Soldier*. The discussion also delves into the importance of understanding and supporting veterans with PTSD, and the therapeutic power of writing and poetry in healing and coping with the aftermath of military service. Episode Highlights - **00:00:10 - Introduction**: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, focusing on the complex dynamics of family, love, and relationships. He outlines the episode's objective of understanding and supporting military families through the lens of Abigail Calkin's experiences and literary work. - **00:01:14 - Abigail Calkin's Background**: Robbins details Abigail Calkin's achievements and publications, highlighting her literary contributions that span poetry, fiction, non-fiction, and analyses of behavioral psychology. Calkin's diverse work reflects a deep exploration of human emotion, relationships, and the psychological impacts of military life. - **00:02:32 - Welcome to Abigail Calkin**: Robbins warmly welcomes Abigail Calkin to the podcast. This introduction sets the stage for an intimate and profound discussion about military life, love, and the power of writing. - **00:02:45 - Building a Life in Alaska**: Calkin shares her intriguing journey to Alaska, where she and her family built a life, highlighting her hands-on approach and the significance of community and environment in her writing and personal growth. - **00:03:20 - Inspiration behind *The Soul of My Soldier***: Calkin discusses the emotional triggers and inspirations for writing her book, rooted in her experiences and observations as a military spouse, particularly during her husband's deployment to Desert Storm. - **00:06:30 - A Reading from *The Soul of My Soldier***: Abigail reads a poignant excerpt from her book, conveying the profound emotional and psychological scars left by war, not only on the soldiers but also on their families. - **00:09:17 - Understanding Veterans and PTSD**: Calkin provides insight into living with and supporting veterans with PTSD. She emphasizes patience, understanding, and the importance of communication, sharing personal anecdotes to illuminate the challenges and strategies for coping. - **00:11:28 - Audience Engagement and Reception**: Robbins and Calkin discuss the diverse reactions to *The Soul of My Soldier* from military and civilian readers alike, highlighting the book's impact and the varied perspectives on military service and its aftermath. - **00:16:22 - Honoring and Supporting Veterans**: Calkin articulates thoughtful and meaningful ways to honor, support, and understand veterans. She reflects on both personal gestures and broader societal acknowledgments that contribute to recognizing and appreciating veterans' sacrifices. - **00:20:25 - Closing Remarks and Contact Information**: The episode concludes with Robbins thanking Calkin for her insights and contributions. Calkin shares her contact information, inviting listeners to explore her work further. Key Takeaways - The emotional and psychological challenges faced by military families, particularly those dealing with PTSD, require patience, understanding, and open communication. - Writing and poetry can serve as powerful therapeutic tools for expressing and coping with the complexities of military life and its impacts on soldiers and their families. - Honoring and supporting veterans involves both personal gestures of kindness and societal efforts to recognize and appreciate their sacrifices and service. Show Notes By Barevalue Tweetable Quotes - *"Understanding and supporting our veterans with PTSD requires patience, compassion, and the willingness to listen." - Abigail Calkin* - *"Writing can be a powerful therapy for the soul, helping military families navigate the enduring impacts of service and sacrifice." - Abigail Calkin*
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins, an author, husband, and father of nine, engages in a heartfelt conversation with Heather Hester, founder of Chrysalis Mama and advocate for LGBTQIA+ adolescents. They delve into the complexities and beauties of parenting LGBTQ+ teens, drawing from personal experiences and Heather's recent book, "Parenting with Pride." This discussion offers valuable insights into embracing and supporting LGBTQIA+ children with understanding, love, and empowerment. Episode Highlights: - **00:00:09**: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and its mission to explore family, love, and relationships. He shares his background as a co-founder of Famis Publishing and a father of nine, emphasizing the podcast's commitment to providing real-life insights into nurturing family dynamics and supportive environments for all family members, including LGBTQIA+ teens. - **00:01:17**: Heather Hester is introduced as today’s guest. She talks about her role as the founder of Chrysalis Mama and her efforts to support parents and allies of LGBTQIA+ adolescents through education and empowerment. Heather shares her anticipation for the release of her first book, "Parenting with Pride," which aims to guide parents in embracing, empowering, and loving their LGBTQ+ teens. - **00:02:23**: Heather expresses her gratitude for being a part of the podcast and delves into the origins of her podcast, "Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen." She discusses the importance of sharing personal experiences and hosting guests with diverse expertise to support and educate parents navigating their journey with LGBTQ+ adolescents. - **00:04:29**: The conversation shifts to the core message of Heather's book. They discuss the challenges parents might face when their child comes out as LGBTQ+ and the significance of approaching these challenges with love, understanding, and a willingness to learn and unlearn biases. - **00:05:20**: Heather emphasizes simplicity in dealing with complex emotions and scenarios that arise when a child comes out. She encourages parents to see their child for who they are, reassure them of their unconditional love, and engage in self-reflection and learning to support their child effectively. - **00:06:16**: The discussion underlines the universal needs of children to be seen, heard, and loved. Christopher and Heather talk about the power of genuine curiosity and open communication in strengthening the parent-child relationship, especially when navigating the child's journey of self-discovery and expression. - **00:08:04**: Love as a verb is highlighted, with a focus on demonstrating love through actions and behaviors. This part of the discussion serves as a reminder that showing love and support plays a crucial role in modeling healthy relationships and emotional well-being for children. - **00:09:03**: Heather and Christopher explore the positive impacts of embracing and supporting LGBTQ+ children on family dynamics. They share personal stories that illustrate the strength and closeness that can result from navigating these experiences with compassion and understanding. - **00:09:55**: Educational resources and strategies for unlearning bias are discussed. Heather provides recommendations for organizations and resources that offer valuable information and support for families and communities striving to better understand and embrace LGBTQIA+ individuals. - **00:12:29**: Heather shares her hopes for readers of her book. She wishes for them to recognize the inherent capability within themselves to love their children unconditionally, become strong allies, and find freedom from fear through education and open-heartedness. - **00:14:14**: Closing thoughts emphasize the enduring and evolving journey of acceptance and love within families. Show Notes By Barevalue Heather shares updates on her family and the positive outcomes of embracing the principles discussed in her book and throughout her advocacy work. - **00:14:57**: Contact information for Heather Hester is provided, offering listeners further opportunities to connect with her work and access additional resources through her website, Chrysalis Mama. Key Takeaways: Embracing and supporting LGBTQ+ children begins with unconditional love, open communication, and a willingness to learn and unlearn biases. Genuine curiosity about a child's experiences and perspectives can strengthen the parent-child relationship and foster a supportive environment for self-discovery. Education and resources are available for families seeking to better understand and navigate the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ children, emphasizing the importance of community and expert guidance. The journey of embracing LGBTQ+ children is ongoing, filled with opportunities for growth, understanding, and deeper familial connections. Tweetable Quotes: - "Your child just needs to be seen. They need to know that you love them for who they are right now." - Heather Hester - "Love is a verb; it requires action. In our behavior and actions, we actually show love." - Christopher Robbins - "It's all been in them all along... they can be the ally that their child needs." - Heather Hester Resources Mentioned: Helping Families be Happy Podcast Chrysalis Mama Heather Hester Show Notes By Barevalue
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to author and illustrator Liz Swenson. Liz has written two survival guides for parents: "You Got This, Mama: From boobs to Blowouts, a Survival Guide for New Mothers" and "Raising Tiny Humans: From Potty Training to Prejudice, The Survival Guide for the Wild Toddler Years." The discussion focuses on raising toddlers and includes valuable insights into teaching children about dehumanizing language, separating behavior from the person, and fostering executive function skills. Episode Highlights: 01:30: Christopher extends Valentine's Day wishes and delves into the evolution of Liz's books, "You Got This, Mama" and "Raising Tiny Humans," laying the foundation for the discussion. 03:04: The focus shifts to a critical aspect of parenting toddlers: teaching them about dehumanizing language and its subtle yet impactful nuances. 05:07: Liz emphasizes the significance of distinguishing between a child's behavior and their core identity, encouraging a healthy understanding of hurtful actions. 06:29: Exploring the concept of "hurt people hurting people," Liz sheds light on how understanding this dynamic can help address negative behaviors in toddlers. 08:00: The conversation turns to the development of executive function skills in toddlers, with Liz underlining the importance of explicit teaching in this area. 09:49: Liz discusses the necessity for parents to undergo mental shifts, specifically reframing tantrums as expressions of significant emotions rather than mere misbehavior. 11:42: The podcast delves into the crucial topic of prioritizing parental well-being and self-care, acknowledging the challenges of navigating parenthood. 13:50: Liz shares valuable insights gained from her journey of writing books and raising toddlers, offering a glimpse into the lessons learned along the way. 16:51: Liz share practical tips for "levelling up" parenting emerge, emphasizing the importance of taking intentional breaks and being mindful of language choices. Key Points: The conversation highlights the importance of nurturing executive function skills in toddlers through explicit teaching, breaking down tasks, and promoting resilience, contributing to overall cognitive and emotional development. Recognizing the challenges of parenting, the discussion underscores the significance of parents prioritizing their well-being, taking intentional breaks, and practicing patience to create a supportive environment for both them and their toddlers. By reframing tantrums as expressions of significant emotions rather than mere misbehavior, parents can navigate challenges with patience and empathy. Tweetable Quotes: "Teaching toddlers isn't just about ABCs; it's about nurturing their executive function skills, breaking tasks into steps, and fostering resilience." - Liz Swenson "Parenting is a journey of self-discovery. Prioritize your well-being, take breaks, and grow alongside your child for a more fulfilling experience." - Christopher Robbins "Words matter. Reframing language to separate behavior from identity helps create a positive environment where toddlers learn empathy and understanding." - Liz Swenson Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://lizswenson.org/ Podcast Editing
Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Episode: Laugh Together with Author Gabe Jensen In this engaging episode, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius and an avid author and outdoor enthusiast, invites Gabe Jensen, a renowned author known for his humorous children's books, to delve into the significance of laughter and humor in strengthening family bonds. Through personal anecdotes and shared experiences, they explore how humor can reduce stress, connect family members, and create a rich tapestry of shared memories. Episode Highlights: **00:00:09** - The episode kicks off with Christopher Robbins introducing the podcast's theme and its focus on family, love, and relationships. He outlines his background and the foundation of his interest in promoting family happiness. The introduction establishes the episode's objective of exploring the role of laughter and humor in enhancing family dynamics. **00:01:39** - Gabe Jensen, with a hearty laugh, enthusiastically joins the conversation, setting a lighthearted and engaging tone for the episode. This candid exchange serves as a prelude to the in-depth discussion on laughter as a pivotal element in family cohesion and mental health. **00:01:41** - Robbins humorously states his readiness to laugh, indicating the episodeâ€TMs direction towards examining the elements that contribute to levity and joy in family settings. **00:02:07** - Jensen discusses the importance of shared experiences as a foundation for family humor, suggesting that such experiences are vital for creating a repository of inside jokes and fond memories that foster a sense of belonging and joy among family members. **00:03:59** - Through a personal anecdote involving his son, Robbins illustrates the power of humor to diffuse tension and enhance connections within the family. This story highlights the universality of such moments across families and the role of parents in initiating humorous exchanges. **00:05:12** - The conversation shifts towards favorite funny movies as a source of shared laughter, with both Robbins and Jensen sharing their top picks and how these films have become a part of their family's culture and humor. **00:07:26** - The duo discusses engaging in outdoor activities and expeditions as a means to create humorous and memorable family experiences. Jensenâ€TMs anecdote about searching for a British accent underscores the uniqueness of family bonding moments centered around humor. **00:09:12** - Creative endeavors and the importance of participating in children's play and imagination as an avenue for laughter are discussed. Jensen shares insights on how engaging in activities at the childâ€TMs level, both physically and creatively, can deepen familial bonds through shared joy and silliness. **00:11:38** - The conversation explores the delicate balance of incorporating potty humor in family settings and children's media. Jensen argues for understanding such humor as part of children's developmental process and a gateway to addressing complex topics in a lighthearted manner. **00:14:12** - Gabe Jensen talks about how he incorporates humor into his children's books and the importance of remembering that children appreciate and need laughter. This segment emphasizes the role of authors and parents in ensuring that children's literature serves as a source of joy. **00:15:45** - The role of fathers in injecting humor into the household is examined. The discussion reveals that irrespective of which parent brings humor, its presence is crucial for fostering a joyful and resilient family environment. **00:17:29** - The episode wraps up with Gabe Jensen sharing where listeners can find him online, followed by Christopher Robbins thanking the sponsor FS publishing and highlighting the significance of laughter in creating a happier world. Show Notes By Barevalue Key Takeaways: - Shared experiences and memories are the bedrock of humor in family relationships. - Humor and laughter are not just about amusement; they're vital tools for reducing tension, fostering connections, and facilitating communication within families. - Creativity and silliness, especially when initiated by parents, play a crucial role in building a joyful family environment. - Addressing complex or embarrassing subjects through humor can offer children a palatable means to engage with and understand these topics. - Fathers and mothers both have unique roles in integrating humor into family life, contributing to a balanced and nurturing home. Tweetable Quotes: "In our family, laughter is the bridge between hearts." - Christopher Robbins "Building shared experiences is the foundation for family humor and laughter that lasts for years." - Gabe Jensen "Laughter can be a stress reducer or a friction reducer in family dynamics." - Christopher Robbins "Watching a movie together can be a very social experience, more social than everybody plugged into their individual device." - Gabe Jensen "Engaging in creative endeavors with kids is a prime opportunity for laughter and bonding." - Gabe Jensen "Potty humor is a way for kids to process and understand complex subjects about social constructs." - Gabe Jensen
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Caroline Saunders, a Bleu-trained freelance food writer and recipe developer. Caroline is known for her work in climate-friendly cuisine, discusses sustainability practices that start at the end of the fork, emphasizing the importance of making eco-conscious choices in daily life. The discussion focuses on exploring sustainability in the kitchen and how individuals can become better stewards of the planet through their food choices. Episode Highlights: 01:51: Caroline discusses the significant role of food in the global climate crisis, emphasizing that the food system contributes to about one-third of global carbon emissions annually. 02:39: Caroline talks about food waste and its impact on the environment, mentioning that food waste drives about 80% of global carbon emissions. She provides insights into the challenges of food waste and how individuals can address it. 04:20: The conversation shifts to practical tips for reducing food waste. Caroline introduces strategies like the "first in, first out" method and befriending the freezer to minimize waste. 05:44: Caroline addresses the issue of food waste, pointing out that 80% of global carbon emissions come from food waste. She provides practical tips, like the "first in, first out" method, to reduce food waste at the household level. 09:48: Christopher addresses the issue of increasing meat consumption and its implications and asks Caroline about practical steps and considerations for reducing animal product intake. 10:08: The focus turns to the environmental impact of consuming animal products. Caroline emphasizes the importance of making more sustainable choices, such as opting for chicken over red meat, eggs over chicken, and so on. 11:42: Caroline highlights the connection between biodiversity, health, and longevity. She mentions the "Blue Zones" concept, where regions with centenarians share commonalities like plant-forward diets. 12:08: Christopher shifts the conversation towards healthier eating and asks Caroline for guidance on starting a journey towards a more sustainable and healthy diet. 14:30: Caroline introduces the concept of climate-friendly desserts. She explains her passion for sustainable dessert recipes, emphasizing plant-forward desserts and using leftovers creatively for desserts. 17:32: Caroline delves into the role of dessert in sustainability, discussing plant-forward desserts and the versatility of desserts in utilizing leftover ingredients. Key Points: Food contributes significantly to global carbon emissions, prompting the need for sustainable eating practices. Reducing food waste and shifting towards plant-based diets are pivotal in combating climate change. Lowering meat consumption, especially red meat, is essential for both personal health and environmental sustainability. Tweetable Quotes: "Health and sustainability go hand in hand. A plant-forward diet not only benefits us but also nurtures the biodiversity crucial for a resilient food system." - Caroline "Every meal is an opportunity to make a positive impact on our planet. Small changes in our food choices today lead to a healthier and more sustainable future tomorrow." - Christopher "Desserts aren't just sweet treats; they're solutions. Embrace climate-friendly ingredients and turn leftovers into a delightful part of your sustainability journey." - Caroline Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://www.caroline-saunders.com/ https://palebluetart.substack.com/ Podcast Editing
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Kathryn Thompson. Kathryn is a web designer and consultant for small businesses and non-profits, with a passion for knitting and a penchant for Taylor Swift songs. Kathryn is also the author of three books: "Drops of Awesome," "Buckets of Awesome," and "532 Ways to Be Awesome." The focus of today's episode is on the significance of laughter and play in family dynamics. Episode Highlights: 02:00: Kathryn shares the origin of the awesome concept during a challenging period of postpartum depression. She explains how the concept emerged as a way to shift her perspective and find humor in difficult situations. 03:16: Kathryn discusses the visualization of "drops of awesome" and how it became a tool for building momentum in her daily life. The metaphorical bucket of awesome is introduced as a way to celebrate small victories. 04:52: Kathryn shares her experience with overcoming the negative voice in her head and how the concept of drops of awesome helped her focus on the positive aspects of her life. The discussion touches on the motivation that comes from celebrating small victories. 05:16: Positive reader feedback is highlighted, with Kathryn sharing a specific story of a reader who found inspiration and permission to recognize their own drops of awesome. The transformative effect of the concept on people's lives is discussed. 07:03: Christopher discusses challenges in Kathryn's life, such as postpartum depression, her husband's layoff, and health issues. He prompts Kathryn to share stories illustrating how humor and laughter helped during these difficult times. 08:01: Reflecting on the job loss, Kathryn stresses the importance of finding ways to connect and solidify family relationships through humor. She shares how they turned a challenging situation into a memorable play day. 10:12: Kathryn recalls the laughter and joy she and her husband experienced while creating the humorous LinkedIn profile. She shares the positive outcome of the job search, emphasizing that their attitude and approach shifted the entire tone of the experience. 11:43: Christopher addresses how humor can be used to emotionally strengthen during serious health issues, referring to Kathryn's experience with her daughter's thyroid cancer diagnosis. 13:20: Kathryn details their humorous approach to her daughter's surgery, including a knitted stocking for the thyroid and a playful sword to "fight" cancer. The family continued finding humor in the post-surgery period, creating jokes around the scar and even displaying a stuffed thyroid in a jar. 14:38: Kathryn emphasizes that their humor was never at the expense of her daughter, Claire, and it always followed Claire's lead and sense of humor. The family's approach helped them find joy during challenging times. 15:36: Kathryn advises not to take oneself too seriously during challenging times. She suggests stopping and asking, "What is funny about this situation?" as a way to shift perspective and find humor even in the darkest moments. Key Points: Kathryn introduces the "drops of awesome" concept as a coping mechanism during postpartum depression, celebrating small positive actions to shift perspective. The conversation explores using humor and play during challenging times, including a layoff turned into a playful family day and finding humor in a daughter's thyroid cancer journey. Kathryn advises to ask, "What is funny about this situation?" as a practical way to use humor during tough times, emphasizing the importance of not taking oneself too seriously. Tweetable Quotes: "In the midst of challenges, celebrate the small victories as drops of awesome to shift your perspective and build momentum." - Christopher "Humor is a powerful tool to navigate adversity; finding light in dark situations strengthens family bonds and fosters resilience." - Kathryn "Amidst life's challenges, let humor be your ally. Laughter not only lightens the load but strengthens bonds, making even the darkest moments brighter." - Kathryn Resources Mentioned: Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://kathrynthompson.net/ https://dropsofawesome.com/ Podcast Editing
In this insightful episode of "Helping Families Be Happy," host Christopher Robbins engages with Christopher Mannino, a former theater teacher turned author, to explore how the principles of play and theater can significantly enhance parent-child relationships. The discussion delves into practical techniques and personal anecdotes that highlight the transformative power of play, offering listeners a blend of theory, actionable advice, and inspiring examples to foster deeper connections within their families. Episode Highlights: 00:00:09: Christopher Robbins introduces the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, setting the stage for a dialogue on using play to strengthen parent-child relationships. Robbins, a father of nine with a diverse background, shares his passion for bringing real-life, nurturing information about love, family, relationships, and life to listeners. 00:01:39: Guest Christopher Mannino expresses gratitude for being part of the podcast and sets the tone for a conversation focused on the art of playful interaction and its role in family dynamics. 00:01:43: The concept of transforming parent-child relationships through play is introduced. Mannino provides context by reflecting on his experiences as a theater teacher and a stay-at-home dad, emphasizing the natural yet overlooked importance of play in building strong familial bonds. 00:02:54: Mannino advocates for dedicated playtime, suggesting a minimum of ten minutes daily to deeply engage with children. He shares how meaningful these moments can become, transforming ordinary play into cherished memories that bolster the child-parent connection. 00:04:11: The conversation shifts to specific theater techniques that can enhance play, with Mannino offering practical advice on engaging children and entering their imaginative worlds through the principle of "Yes, and." 00:07:34: Another theater technique, emotional recall or using an "anchor," is discussed. Mannino explains how drawing on vivid, positive memories can help parents become more present and emotionally available during playtime. 00:11:46: Strategies for changing negative dynamics, especially after a child has had a tough day, are explored. The significance of maintaining a playful and affirmative approach to diffuse tension and shift the mood is highlighted. 00:14:35: The conversation concludes with insights into Mannino's upcoming book, which aims to provide parents with tools to revolutionize their playtime interactions and deepen familial relationships through simple yet effective theater-inspired methods. 00:17:01: Robbins wraps up the discussion by thanking Mannino for his insights and asking about ways listeners can connect with him online, leading to the sharing of Mannino's contact information. Key Takeaways: 1. Daily, dedicated playtime can significantly enhance the parent-child connection, turning routine interactions into lasting memories. 2. The use of theater techniques like "Yes, and" and emotional recall can deeply enrich play experiences, fostering creativity, acceptance, and emotional bonding. 3. Addressing negative moods and dynamics through playful engagement, rather than confrontation, can effectively transform challenging moments into opportunities for connection and joy. 4. Introducing structured yet flexible play exercises from theater can provide parents with powerful tools to engage and connect with their children on a deeper level. Tweetable Quotes: "The more you play with your kids, the richer the memories and the stronger the bond." - Christopher Mannino "Saying 'Yes, and' to your child's imaginative ideas can open up a world of creativity and connection." - Christopher Mannino "Using positive emotional anchors can help us be more present and engaged during playtime with our kids." - Christopher Mannino Resources Mentioned: Christopher Mannino: https://www.christophermannino.com/
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Antonio Sacre, a bilingual Cuban and Irish American writer. As a writer in television, Antonio focuses on multicultural family dynamics, telling universal stories with authenticity and culturally specific details. He is a featured storyteller at the National Storytelling Festival and other global events, inspiring audiences to embrace their family narratives. Antonio's stories, published in award-winning books like "My Name is Cool," and audio recordings, highlight the power of storytelling in fostering resilience and strengthening family relationships. Episode Highlights: 01:46: Antonio introduces himself as a storyteller, emphasizing curiosity and the art of asking questions. He shares his journey into storytelling, starting with family inquiries and later discovering storytelling as a profession. 03:07: Antonio discusses the value of storytelling in family environments, emphasizing its role in building connections, creating joy, and fostering easier communication between parents and children. 04:20: Antonio suggests incorporating storytelling into daily activities, such as car rides, meal preparations, and walks. He highlights the importance of creating a storytelling space and being present by minimizing distractions like devices. 06:56: Christopher and Antonio delve into the essence of storytelling, touching on the idea that the details of a story may not matter as much as the overall message or connection it conveys. 07:54: Antonio advises parents to realize they have stories to share, even if they don't see themselves as storytellers. He encourages exploring family history, using car rides for storytelling, and finding opportunities to share stories during daily activities. 08:11 Antonio encourages individuals to recognize the abundance of stories in their lives, offering suggestions on where and how to tell them. 11:44: Antonio explains the concept that details don't matter in storytelling unless they are crucial to the point of the story. He shares an example of forgetting the chalk bag during a climbing competition and how a coach's story helped his son in a similar situation. 13:37: Christopher and Antonio discuss the role of reading in storytelling. Antonio recommends starting with family stories and then expanding to collections of folk tales from the library, emphasizing the importance of librarians in this process. 16:54: Antonio emphasizes the power of stories, drawing from personal experiences with his own family's stories, the brain's response to storytelling, and its impact on literacy. He shares Maya Angelou's quote about the lasting emotional impact of storytelling. 18:23 Christopher interjects with a remark about the significance of libraries, citing David McCullough's comment that there are more libraries than McDonald's, which Antonio appreciates. 23:10 Antonio highlights the impact of stories on brain activity, language acquisition, empathy, and reading skills. Key Points: Storytelling is crucial for creating strong bonds within families by sharing personal experiences and traditions. Rather than getting every detail right, prioritize the core message of a story to deepen the emotional connection and understanding. Research suggests that storytelling activates specific brain circuits, contributing to improved language acquisition, prevention of conditions like Alzheimer's, and enhanced literacy skills in children. Tweetable Quotes: "Family stories weave the fabric of connection, creating a tapestry of shared experiences and traditions”. - Antonio "Immerse your family in the power of shared narratives; it's the secret sauce that fosters resilience in tough times.” - Antonio Storytelling is the universal language that binds generations – a timeless gift passed down like a cherished heirloom.” - Antonio Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://www.antoniosacre.com/ Podcast Editing
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Laura Carter, about influential women who have influenced science, technology, engineering, and math, and even art. Laura Carter is an Oxford, AL native with a Bachelor of History and a Master of Education from the University of Montevallo. Laura, a high school history teacher since 2013, is also certified in English language arts. She is an accomplished author in children's literature, starting with "The Elect and Restoration" in 2013. Episode Highlights: 02:15: Laura shares the inspiration behind her exploration of women in STEM, referencing the term "feminist" and her experience teaching at a STEM magnet high school in Huntsville, AL. 04:09: The discussion delves into the various STEM disciplines covered in Laura's book, highlighting mathematicians, programmers, astronauts, physicists, therapists, physicians, and more. 05:19: The conversation introduces notable women, starting with Dorothy Vaughn, known for her role as NASA's human calculator, featured in the film and book "Hidden Figures." 07:13: Laura advocates for increased recognition of women in STEM fields, expressing the importance of acknowledging the accomplishments of female professionals in various STEM disciplines. Laura also shares surprising statistics about the representation of women in professional STEM fields, revealing that around 30-34% of professionals in STEM are women. 08:18: Laura reflects on Mary Shelley's ground breaking role in science fiction, noting her significance as a woman in a male-dominated field. 09:35: Laura emphasizes the significant involvement of women in education, citing Maria Montessori's student-led approach and the prevalence of women majoring in education in college. 10:44: Christopher acknowledges the holistic nature of STEM education, incorporating STEM-related fields into a comprehensive educational experience. 11:29: Laura discusses the changing landscape of computer science, noting the increasing participation of women in tech companies and the start-up scene. She highlights the evolving opportunities in the field. 12:05: Laura emphasizes the changing dynamics in computer science and expresses awe at the remarkable programming skills demonstrated by her students, reflecting on missed opportunities in her own educational choices. 14:06 Laura mentions Phyllis Wheatley, the first published African American woman, known for her support of George Washington. Also, Rachel Carson, an environmentalist who authored "Silent Spring" and initiated the environmental movement. 15:34 Laura expresses the desire for families and kids to recognize that entering STEM fields is achievable, emphasizing the integration of STEM with humanities and arts. Encourages children not to be afraid and to realize the world is open to them. 17:05 Laura encourages young women to believe that STEM is possible for them, emphasizing that the only barrier is oneself. She urges them to read, discuss with teachers, parents, or friends, and find an area of interest to explore, promoting the idea of being a lifelong learner. Key Points: Laura Carter, author of "STEMinist Force," discussed her book on a podcast, emphasizing the importance of showcasing diverse women in STEM. The book aims to inspire girls to explore STEM fields, particularly addressing the underrepresentation in computer science. Laura encourages a lifelong learning mindset and highlights the diverse range of STEM fields beyond the commonly associated ones, such as mathematicians, programmers, astronauts, physicists, therapists, teachers, and more. Tweetable Quotes: "Laura Carter highlights the fascinating blend of feminism and STEM, encouraging young minds to explore the world of science, technology, engineering, and math.” - Laura Carter "STEM is a quiet but powerful force shaping our world, extending beyond computer desks and laboratories. Laura Carter emphasizes the importance of recognizing STEM in our everyday lives.” - Laura Carter "Aspiring to be a lifelong learner is the key takeaway from Laura Carter's insights. She encourages young minds to find their interests, dive into STEM, and realize the potential to make a difference.” - Laura Carter Resources Mentioned: Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://laurawcarter.com/author/laurawcarter/ Podcast Editing
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Manuela Bernardi and Kathy MacMillan. Manuela is an author and screenwriter from Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, has contributed to award-winning films and written for various TV channels, including TV Global, TBS, The History Channel, and Amazon Prime Video. Kathy MacMillan, a writer and nationally certified American Sign Language interpreter based in Baltimore, MD, is known for her picture books, children's nonfiction, and young adult fantasy novels. They will discuss their books, "She Spoke" and "She Spoke Too," highlighting the stories of 28 remarkable women who raised their voices and changed the world. Episode Highlights: 03:29: Kathy shares the origin of the project, initiated by David Miles at Families Press, and the unique concept of combining a nonfiction picture book with an audio panel featuring the voices of women. 05:10: Manuela discusses the modification of the book's title to emphasize the challenges women face in being heard, changing it to "She Spoke: Supporting Women Who Raised Their Voices and Changed the World." 06:53: The duo discusses the evolution of the project and introduces the upcoming release, "She Spoke Too," featuring 28 inspiring women. 06:57: Christopher appreciates the diverse representation of women in the books, spanning artists, professional athletes, environmentalists, scientists, and social changers. 07:18: Manuela expresses her admiration for Shirley Chisholm, a woman she initially knew little about. Manuela details Chisholm's ground breaking run for president, where she garnered 10% of the votes in the primaries, breaking barriers for black women in politics. Chisholm's fiery spirit and her famous quote, "When they don't give you a place at the table, bring your chair," resonate with Manuela. 09:43: Kathy reflects on Patsy Takemoto Mink's role in the second book, "She Spoke Too," and her significant contributions, including being a driving force behind Title IX. Kathy emphasizes Mink's lifelong commitment to fighting for equality, from her high school days to her impactful career in Congress. 11:12: Manuela interjects, emphasizing that Shirley Chisholm and Patsy Takemoto Mink inspired them to include a crucial question in the book: Why do women do what they do? They point out that not all actions are driven solely by the desire to win; often, women strive for change and empowerment, even without securing victory. 14:57: Christopher highlights the powerful aspect of the books—being able to hear a 20 to 30-second clip of these women sharing inspiring words that moved nations, influenced laws, and made a positive impact on the world. He then asks for examples of more visible figures included in the books. 15:27: Kathy mentions well-known figures such as Malala Yousafzai, Hillary Clinton, Maya Angelou, Kamala Harris, Linda Ardern, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Greta Thunberg, and Dr. Mae Jemison. Manuela adds Maria Ressa, a journalist from the Philippines who recently won a Nobel Prize for fighting against misinformation. 16:51: Manuela shares her enjoyment in learning that many of these women, while intellectual and outspoken, embrace their feminine side without shame. She highlights examples like Mae Jemison's passion for dance and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's love for fashion. 18:42: Manuela mentions Leymah Gbowee from the first book, who used community and organization to bring women together to pray and stop a war. The importance of having a community and organization to amplify one's voice is emphasized in the book's prologue. 19:41: Kathy expresses the hope that the voices of these women become as familiar as those of well-known men. She shares the joy of seeing children reciting the clips and hopes the books appeal not only to the intended age range but to a broader audience, including younger children and older individuals. 22:29: Kathy mentions the "Your Turn to Speak Up" section with discussion questions designed for reflection. She is proud of these questions, as they encourage readers of all ages to relate the women's stories to their own experiences and consider their reactions in similar situations. 23:34: Christopher addresses the issue of women not being heard in patriarchal societies and asks what men can do to better appreciate women's contributions. Kathy suggests men should listen more, emphasizing that women's voices should be as familiar as men's. 26:20: Manuela emphasizes the importance of men recognizing women's experiences as valuable for their own enrichment and knowledge. She adds that men should see women as complete individuals and recognize their value beyond a relationship context. Key Points: Kathy and Manuela discuss the inspiration behind their books, "She Spoke" and "She Spoke Too," emphasizing the diverse backgrounds of the 28 women featured, spanning various fields, from politics to science. The authors express their hope that the books will empower both girls and boys, encouraging them to speak out and make positive changes. Kathy and Manuela suggest that men should listen more attentively, recognize women as complete individuals, and strive to understand and appreciate their experiences beyond predefined roles. Tweetable Quotes: "Discover the hidden stories of extraordinary women, from astronauts to activists, in 'She Spoke' and 'She Spoke Too.' Let their stories shape a more inclusive narrative.” "Empowerment knows no gender. Kathy and Manuela encourage all, young and old, to listen, learn, and amplify diverse voices.” "In the symphony of life, let's amplify the voices of women, as loud and clear as the familiar tunes. These books make history resonate for every generation.” Resources Mentioned: Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://www.instagram.com/just.add.glitter/ Podcast Editing https://kathymacmillan.com/ https://brlab.com.br/en/participante/manuela-bernardi/
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Dr. Carla Marie Manly about love and the important relationships in our lives, including ourselves. Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing clinical psychologist and author based in Santa Rosa, CA. She focuses on a mindfulness-based holistic approach to help individuals achieve joy and balance from the inside out. She is the author of several books, including "Aging Joyfully," "Joy from Fear," "Date Smart," and an upcoming book on imperfect love and healthy relationships. Episode Highlights: 02:26: Christopher reads excerpts from the book "The Joy of Imperfect Love" introduction, highlighting societal pressure for perfect love and the false promises of quick fixes, leading to unconscious stress. 04:45: Christopher poses a question to Dr. Manly about why she wrote the book and the significance of its message, inviting her insights into the societal emphasis on perfectionism. 06:45: Carla responds, sharing the inspiration behind the book from her experiences as a clinician, wife, and family member, addressing the negative impact of perfectionism on relationships. 08:23: Carla explains the stepwise approach in the book, emphasizing self-love and the potential for individuals to earn secure attachment, leading to reduced anxiety, decreased depression, and increased joy in interpersonal relationships. 09:10: Carla defines love as a divine quality, replete with unselfishness, kindness, and goodness. She emphasizes the ideal of love as a guiding force across various spiritual beliefs. 10:13: Carla elaborates on imperfect love, describing it as a human attempt to reach the state of pure love. It involves a continuous quest to improve, learn from mistakes, and take actions guided by awareness and intention. 13:36: Carla introduces false love, often mistaken for pure love. She notes its prevalence in new relationships where initial projections fade, and individuals realize the love was not genuine. 14:45: Carla delves into self-love, emphasizing the need for self-awareness. She contrasts self-love with selfishness and explains that loving oneself requires understanding strengths, weaknesses, and boundaries. 18:01: Carla provides a personal example of self-love, encouraging acceptance of perceived weaknesses, emphasizing the importance of making friends with one's vulnerabilities and strengths. 20:28: Carla emphasizes the importance of humility and awareness in personal growth, stating that the willingness to learn, accept coaching, and seek therapy contributes to creating self-wealth rather than hindering progress with defensiveness. 23:25: Christopher transitions to discussing the subtitle of Carla's book, focusing on the term "attachment." He seeks clarification on the concept of secure attachment in relationships. 25:20: Carla delves into the challenges of interpersonal relationships for those with insecure attachment styles, highlighting the difficulties faced by individuals with disorganized attachment due to the absence of a secure and consistent caregiving environment. 26:49: Carla discusses her training as a Jungian psychologist and her journey into attachment theory, expressing her fascination with observing attachment dynamics in her clients' lives. She notes how healing attachment styles can transform relationships, even when partners have different attachment styles. 28:46: Carla expresses optimism by highlighting the brain's neuroplasticity, explaining that with effort and a desire for change, individuals can absolutely transform. She appreciates the privilege of working with people who want to evolve and become better versions of themselves. 29:29: Carla underscores the importance of the desire to evolve, labelling it as the foundation of joy and perfect love. She notes that the journey involves continuous self-improvement and the willingness to work on various aspects of oneself. 31:35: Christopher shares his interpretation of the metaphor, comparing individuals to rough stones that accumulate nicks and scratches through life experiences. 32:03: Carla emphasizes the power of choice, highlighting that individuals can choose how to channel the energy inherited from their parents. encourages acknowledging the lack of control over past events but emphasizes the power of choosing wisely each day to shape a different future. Key Points: The conversation revolves around imperfect love, self-awareness, and the power of choice in fostering personal growth and positive relationships. Carla explains attachment theory, emphasizing the impact of childhood attachment on adult relationships and the potential for earning secure attachment through self-awareness and self-work. Dr. Carla stresses that acknowledging imperfections, embracing self-awareness, and choosing to evolve contribute to becoming a better individual, partner, parent, and community member. Tweetable Quotes: "Embrace the privilege of continuous self-improvement in the realm of imperfect love." - Dr. Carla Manly "Acknowledge imperfections, embrace self-awareness, and choose to evolve every day in the journey of imperfect love." - Dr. Carla Manly "Love is a learnable skill. The transformative journey of self-discovery fosters resilience and emotional well-being." - Dr. Carla Manly Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://drcarlamanly.com/ Podcast Editing
The Two Minute Secret To Staying in Love, 12/08/2023 On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Heidi Poelman. Heidi is an author of books such as "Women in Science Who Changed the World.” She holds degrees in communication from Brigham Young University and Wake Forest University, and has dedicated her time to writing, serving with a non-profit in Africa, and managing vacation rentals. Episode Highlights: 02:00: Christopher introduces Heidi's book, "The Two-Minute Secret for Staying in Love," and discusses the honeymoon stage in relationships. Heidi elaborates on the initial chemistry in relationships, mentioning that researchers suggest this phase lasts about two years. 03:24: Christopher addresses the challenges in marriages and divorces, leading to a discussion on researcher John Gottman's insights. Heidi talks about bids for attention and their significance in predicting the success of a relationship. 06:02: Heidi introduces the concept of a "space between" in relationships, where actions either create connections or remove them. 7:20: Heidi outlines three areas for intentional skills and habits for building strong relationships: thoughts, words, and deeds. She emphasizes the power of positive thoughts about one's spouse, providing an example of giving the benefit of the doubt in thoughts. 8:50: Heidi discusses the impact of words in relationships, emphasizing the need for positivity. Christopher and Heidi explore the importance of balancing necessary dialogues with positive affirmations in words. 10:05: Christopher and Heidi discuss the positive impact of kind thoughts leading to kind words and actions. They emphasize the ease and effectiveness of expressing affection through simple acts like sending a text. 12:11: Christopher connects the concept of the two-minute secret to building a strong foundation in a relationship over time through repeated, conscious efforts. 13:38: Heidi highlights the importance of validation, quick forgiveness, and timely apologies in managing conflicts. She shares a personal experience of using the technique of summarizing each other's perspectives during an argument to enhance understanding and problem-solving. 14:51: Christopher and Heidi discuss the misconception of trying to "win" in a relationship and emphasize the importance of prioritizing the relationship over individual victories. 16:19: Heidi talks about not sweating the small stuff in relationships and shares the importance of finding humour in minor inconveniences. She suggests embracing imperfections, laughing about them, and creating a culture of kindness and service. 18:17: Heidi suggests asking your partner, "How do you feel loved?" as a powerful way to understand their unique needs and preferences. Key Points: Two-Minute secret for staying in love concept involves small, intentional actions in thoughts, words, and deeds, emphasizing the importance of conscious effort in relationships. Acknowledging and engaging with your partner's attempts to connect can contribute to a healthier relationship. Focusing on positive thoughts about your partner, using kind words, and performing thoughtful actions are foundational elements for maintaining a strong and lasting connection. Tweetable Quotes: "In marriage, if you win, you lose. We shouldn't be trying to make our point to prove why we're right. We should be saying I'm going to let the relationship win." - Heidi Pullman "A powerful thing we can do is ask our spouse, 'How do you feel loved?' Having a culture of asking questions and seeking to understand each other is pretty powerful." - Heidi Pullman "Conscious, repeated effort over time makes a difference. It's not meant to say that being in love is easy, but that conscious effort over time can create a positive impact." - Heidi Pullman Resources Mentioned: https://www.heidipoelman.com/
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Rachel Grahan about mindfulness for the new Year. Rachel is an author and personal growth facilitator and through her brand, Rachel provides unique self-discovery tools, offering guided journals, meditations, online courses, and in-person workshops. Her approach helps individuals find clarity and inner answers. Rachel is also the author of "Nine Months of Wonder," a guide for expectant mothers. Episode Highlights: 02:00 Rachel simplifies mindfulness as an "observant pause", emphasizing waking up to the present moment to fully appreciate it. She talks about her brand, tools for self-awareness, and mentions her free email course called "attuned". 03:03 Rachel dives deeper into self-awareness, discussing the significance of recognizing feelings, judgments, and emotions. She highlights the importance of understanding the underlying message of every emotion. 04:33 Mindfulness is about pausing to reflect on experiences and emotions to derive learnings from them, says Christopher. He emphasizes that it's about understanding what can be learned from current experiences. 05:09 Rachel introduces her four guiding words: Pause, Listen, Act, Become and describes how pausing allows for listening and understanding, leading to informed actions and eventually becoming a truer version of oneself. 06:23 Rachel asks reflective questions about addressing feelings of resentment and disappointment, urging one to understand their roots and find ways to feel better. She also talks about different emotions like frustration, annoyance, happiness, and excitement as pieces of information that guide our actions. 08:00 Christopher reflects on the broader context on a conflict in the car where his one daughter reacts strongly, and he reprimands her and asks Rachel for advice on how he could have better connected and responded in the situation. 09:35 Rachel touches on the influence of our upbringing and the need to reassess whether certain beliefs still hold true in the present day. 10:50 Christopher discusses the connection between mindfulness and gratitude, asking Rachel for her perspective on how the two concepts relate to each other. 11:28 Rachel reflects on her early 20s when she was more focused on the negatives and the things she didn't have and talks about the framework she created to identify which parts of her life needed improvement for her to be happier. 12:54 Rachel emphasizes the importance of being mindful of the present and finding gratitude in current moments. She shares personal examples of things she's grateful for, from pomegranate season to a new shampoo she loves. 14:19 Rachel describes the guided questions in her journal that help identify what her soul is craving and elaborates on how the journal informs her of areas in her life that need attention. 15:45 In the current societal context, with prevailing negativity, Christopher emphasizes the importance of practicing gratitude daily. He believes that gratitude can make a positive impact not only on an individual but also on the family, society, and the world. 16:13 Rachel introduces the tagline of "vessel," emphasizing the concept of a gratitude journal to "fill your own cup." She also stresses the importance of individuals recognizing and appreciating the abundance in their lives without waiting for external events or circumstances. 17:16 Rachel discusses her books: "Beauty Collected" which offers a means to connect with children through mindfulness, and "Nine Months of Wonder" centred around mindfulness during pregnancy. 18:05 Rachel suggests that even a single moment of pause and deep breath during the day can lead to a significant increase in awareness. Key Points: Rachel promotes mindfulness as an "observant pause" and provides tools for self-discovery. The discussion highlights the link between mindfulness and gratitude, with Rachel introducing her gratitude journal, "vessel." Rachel's books emphasize mindfulness with children and during pregnancy, underscoring the power of momentary awareness. Tweetable Quotes "Mindfulness is simply an 'observant pause', waking up to fully appreciate the present." - Rachel "Gratitude is about recognizing the abundance in our lives without waiting for external events." - Rachel "Pause, Listen, Act, Become - four guiding words to lead us to our true selves." - Rachel "Even a single moment of pause can be a quantum leap in awareness." – Rachel Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachelgarahan/ Podcast Editing
On this episode of the "Helping Families be Happy Podcast," host, Christopher Robbins husband and father of nine, residing in the Central Valley of California talks to Mary Potter Kenyon. She holds a BA in psychology from the University of Northern Iowa and is a therapeutic art coach and certified grief counselor trained under renowned grief expert David Kessler. Mary is also an author of six books, including "Expressive Writing for Healing," "Refined by Fire," and "Called to Be Creative." She conducts workshops on creativity, finding hope and healing in grief, and expressive writing. Episode Highlights 01:56: Mary started journaling after her first husband passed away in March 2012 and has filled over 20 journals since then. 02:31: Christopher expresses curiosity about the significance of journaling, especially for those who may have started journaling as children with entries like "Dear Diary." He asks Mary to share the science behind journaling, its importance for personal development, and ways to develop the habit. 02:43: Mary reminisces about having a little diary with a lock and key when she was 12 but mentions that she got rid of it as she grew up. 02:58: Mary mentions the concept of expressive writing for healing, which is not about passing something down but rather a tool for personal healing. 04:42: The discussion highlights the therapeutic benefits of journaling and how it has been found to be effective in numerous studies and scenarios, making it a valuable tool for individuals facing a range of challenges and emotions. 06:05: Mary addresses common hurdles that people face when starting a journaling practice and she advices on how to begin and what to write about. 08:59: Journaling might not be a daily practice for everyone. It's okay to journal on weekends, once a week, or even less frequently, as long as it fits into your routine and serves as a beneficial outlet for your thoughts and emotions. 10:45: Christopher discusses the various journaling methods he has tried, from hardcover lined journals to leather-bound art paper journals to simple composition notebooks. 11:41: Christopher and Mary discusses whether using technology for journaling is a good or bad thing and explores the convenience and potential drawbacks of digital journaling apps. 13:19: Some people may prefer typing due to comfort or practical reasons, such as arthritis or illegible handwriting. Mary acknowledges that digital journaling can be a valid and accessible option. 15:02: Mary discusses the therapeutic and reflective benefits of journaling, even during periods of joy and contentment in life. 17:22: Mary discusses the value of reading and preserving personal journals for future generations. 18:06: Mary shares her own experience of reading her mother's letters from the 1960s, which offer a glimpse into her mother's life as a mother raising ten children. She highlights how journals and letters can reveal a person's growth, struggles, and the different facets of their life beyond their roles as parents. 19:36: Mary and encourages listeners to consider starting their own journaling practice in the coming year, emphasizing that journaling is a low-cost and accessible way to document their experiences and emotions. 3 Key Points Mary encourages the idea that journaling should be a freeing and expressive practice that suits your unique style and preferences. The key is to make it a personal space where you can process your thoughts, emotions, and experiences without worrying about judgment or rules. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to journaling. It's about finding the time and style that work best for you and making it a meaningful and consistent practice in your life. Mary and Christopher underscores the therapeutic and historical significance of journaling as a tool for personal growth and self-reflection. Tweetable Quotes “Journaling is not a new practice it is historical documents that often exist because people kept journals or diaries. It's a way of preserving history.” – Mary “There are no rules in journaling. You don't have to worry about neat handwriting, perfect spelling, or adhering to specific guidelines. It's a personal space for your thoughts and feelings, and it's okay if it's messy.” – Mary Journaling can help individuals process their thoughts and emotions, whether they are going through difficult times or experiencing moments of gratitude and growth.” - Mary Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple Podcast Editing
Christopher Robbins shares his profound journey of awakening, having navigated a lifetime filled with unconscious suffering, self-inflicted pain and the inevitable twists of fate. Raised in a family that embraced ontological thinking and outdoor adventures, Chris's early years taught him the art of mindful listening. Despite a fortunate upbringing, he encountered personal detours and destructive paths, accumulating both failures and successes over his 25+ years of professional experience across Europe and America. Chris's rock bottom in his forties became a turning point, leading him to founding Soul Degree. Through this venture, he discovered joy in slowing down and building honest connections with spirited individuals in remote, natural settings. In this episode, we get Chris's thoughts on life, marriage and family as well delving into topics of honest self-reflection, the pursuit of deeper meaning and the why and what of Soul Degree, exploring the precious moments that shape our existence and discover the transformative power of true human connection and interaction. Connect with Chris Instagram Connect with Soul Degree Instagram Website Disclaimer: Important Notice The information provided in Share Podcast is for general informational purposes only. We are not experts in the discussed subjects, and our opinions are personal. While we aim for accuracy, we don't guarantee the completeness or reliability of the information. This podcast should not be considered a substitute for professional advice. Always consult qualified experts for specific advice. We are not liable for any decisions made based on the podcast content. The opinions expressed are those of individuals and not representative of any affiliated entities. The content is protected by copyright and unauthorized use is prohibited.
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Emily Lauren Dick to discuss about body positivity for the new year. Emily is a dynamic creative marketer and author of "Body Positive: A Guide to Loving Your Body." An ardent speaker and activist, Emily is deeply passionate about body image, women's issues, and dismantling shame. She's an advocate for ethical marketing and empowers individuals to fully embrace their authentic selves. Her insightful work has graced platforms like Glamour, Today's Parent, and Scary Mommy. Episode Highlights 01:25 Christopher opens the discussion with Emily on her extensive work in the field of body positivity, especially as we enter a new year. They touch upon the common trend of setting physical goals like losing weight, seeking health and strength, and asks for her recommendation on the topic and ponders on the reasons behind society's obsession with physical goals. 01:50 Emily discusses the importance of shifting from the "new year, new you" mentality to focusing on a happy, balanced life. Highlights the significance of joyful movement and a balanced diet that's both enjoyable and nourishing. 02:28 Emily introduces the concept of "fat phobia" prevalent in society and defines "fat phobic" as the fear, hatred, or discrimination against fat bodies. 03:34 Emily recognizes that not everyone has the privilege of being in good health due to various reasons, including illnesses that might be out of one's control. 04:12 Christopher expands the query by seeking insight into the media's intentions and tactics regarding the portrayal and perception of body images. 06:16 Emily emphasis on the importance of brands not only promoting body inclusivity but also ensuring that their products cater to diverse body types. She notes that while Aerie showcases diverse body types in marketing, they do not have a vast size range in their products. 07:06 Christopher asks Emily for her recommendation to focus on positive ideas and practices concerning body image and awareness for the upcoming year. 08:59 Emily recommends engaging with communities that offer support, reading inspirational books, and consuming media (movies, podcasts) that have a positive impact on one's mental well-being. 09:42 Christopher notes the phrase "comparison is often the thief of happiness." He acknowledges the challenge that media and advertising present, as they often promote comparison between individuals. 10:20 Emily recommends comparing oneself only to previous versions of oneself to gauge personal progress. She says we are not the same as we were in the past, and it's essential to recognize our growth. 10:45 Emily suggests practical techniques, like starting a gratitude list, to help individuals reflect on their progress and accomplishments. 3 Key Points Emily discusses how some products marketed under the pretence of promoting health can be harmful. Emphasizes the importance of promoting inclusivity and reducing societal pressures to fit a certain body type. Emily encourages people to pursue both physical and non-physical activities that they are passionate about. She suggests engaging in activities that are enjoyable and make one feel good, emphasizing "joyful movement. The conversation addresses the media's role in promoting thin ideals and inducing comparisons. Tweetable Quotes “The promotion of thin ideals continues because it's a successful strategy.” - Emily "Shift from the 'new year, new you' mentality to focusing on a happy, balanced life." - Emily Lauren Dick "Joyful movement and a balanced diet are key to loving your body." - Emily Lauren Dick "Comparison is often the thief of happiness." - Christopher Robbins "Compare only to previous versions of oneself to recognize personal growth." - Emily Lauren Dick Resources Mentioned Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple Emily Lauren Dick Podcast Editing
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Denise Marek about managing goals and expectations for the New Year, especially tailored for the ever-busy, overworked mothers. Denise is internationally recognized worry management expert. Creator of the "Calm Methodology," Denise imparts strategies globally to combat stress and worry. She's penned the book "Calm for Moms Worry Less in Four Simple Steps" and runs an online program titled "Calm Online". Residing in Ontario, Canada, Denise is a mother to two and a grandmother to four. Episode Highlights: 02:12 Denise emphasizes the importance of reflecting on the past year, listing down successes, challenges, and stressors. Advocates for jotting down everything without filtering. 03:02 Denise describes the first step in goal setting as identifying the problem one wishes to address or solve in the upcoming year. She introduces the concept of "mining the gold" which means digging deep to find one's true goals amidst doubts and frustrations. 03:37 Denise discusses two types of goals: those that free us from problems or challenges, and those that pull us towards something desirable. 04:20 Denise distinguishes between goals that move one away from problems versus goals that move one towards specific aspirations. She points out the weight loss industry as a prevalent example and how many set weight loss goals during New Year's. 05:22 Christopher introduces the topic of setting realistic and achievable goals and emphasises the challenges faced when enthusiasm meets setbacks, leading many to abandon their goals. He seeks guidance on setting goals that are both realistic and achievable. 07:05 Denise addresses the misconception of being "too late" to pursue certain goals, sharing her own experience of going back to college. She references a book called "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker, drawing an analogy between circus elephants' training and human self-limiting beliefs. 08:23 Denise emphasizes the importance of challenging the self-fulfilling prophecy of "I can't" and encourages revisiting past unachieved goals and trying again. 09:50 Denise shares four questions to navigate around self-imposed roadblocks, aimed at transforming a negative mindset to a solution-driven one. 10:41 Christopher brings up two memorable quotes that have influenced his perspective on determination and taking action and underscores the importance of determination in achieving our goals. He enquiries about methods to reduce stress, especially considering the challenges of the upcoming year. 12:08 Denise mentions the correlation between physical disorganization and mental disorganization. She suggests a principle: "I'm only going to keep what I need, use, or love." She discusses the common worries that hinder decluttering. People often hesitate because of the "I might need it someday" thought. 13:45 Instead of pondering on "what if I need it someday," Denise recommends asking "when is the last time I actually used it?" Experts believe if you haven't used an item in 12-18 months, it's likely not essential. 15:17 Christopher discusses the importance of accountability in reaching goals and asks for guidance on how to maintain self-accountability and reach one's objectives. 17:09 Denise stresses the importance of careful selection when choosing accountability partners and for those without immediate support systems, Denise suggests looking into apps, Facebook groups, and other communities of like-minded individuals to find support and encouragement. 18:51 Christopher reflects on the significance of acknowledging small achievements and milestones during the journey towards reaching a larger goal. Encourages focusing on small wins for motivation. 19:46 Denise emphasizes the significance of celebrating small victories. Encourages self-recognition and taking before-and-after photos to visualize progress. She advises on creating a structured plan for organization. 20:05 Denise suggests aligning celebrations with self-care and proposes the idea of getting a massage as a reward instead of indulging in alcohol, explaining that even small amounts of alcohol can affect sleep and overall well-being the following day. Key Points: Denise advises on the significance of reflecting on past successes, challenges, and stressors. Writing everything down candidly is beneficial. Denise introduces two categories of goals: those that help individuals escape challenges and those that draw them towards something desirable. Christopher and Denise discuss the crucial role of accountability in achieving goals and the significance of acknowledging and celebrating small achievements. Tweetable Quotes "Reflecting on the past year is crucial; jot down every success, challenge, and stressor without filtering." - Denise Marek "In goal setting, 'mine the gold': dig deep to find true goals amidst doubts and frustrations." - Denise Marek "Don't be hindered by the 'I might need it someday' mindset. If you haven't used it in 12-18 months, it's likely not essential." - Denise Marek Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://www.denisemarek.com/ Podcast Editing
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Sarah Smith; a distinguished district librarian from California's Central Valley about books and the current book banning trend within the United States. Having served as a high school librarian and English teacher, Sarah's passion now extends to professionally reviewing manga and graphic novels for esteemed publications like Booklist and School Library Journal. she has penned articles for California English and Diamond Bookshelf, enhancing our understanding of the written word. Her voice has enriched podcasts such as School Librarians United and The Literacy Advocate, and her expertise has been showcased at conferences hosted by the American Library Association and the School Library Journal Summit. Episode Highlights: 01:58 Christopher opens the dialogue with a reflection on the current state of book banning and censorship in the United States, emphasizing its unprecedented scale and acknowledges the need to balance the protection of our right to read with parental concerns over potentially objectionable content. 02:34 Statistics reveal a significant rise in challenged titles in libraries, with a shift towards collective challenges on multiple books rather than individual titles. 04:22 Sarah describes the issue of book banning as a significant element in a wider cultural conflict, particularly as a means to challenge public education. She notes that the pandemic, by bringing school into the home, gave some parents a closer look at educational content, which has spurred a pushback against certain materials. 05:27 Sarah reveals a startling statistic from a recent study showing that a majority of the book challenges can be traced back to a relatively small number of individuals, suggesting the influence of a vocal minority rather than a widespread movement. 07:38 Christopher seeks Sarah's insight on how parents can address concerns about content their children are exposed to in school libraries. 09:06 Sarah touches on regional differences in content appropriateness, particularly within California's diverse political landscape. She discusses the challenges librarians face in ensuring age-appropriate content and the reliance on various tools and resources to assist in book selection. 10:49 The goal of reconsiderations process is to approach concerns objectively and fairly, without succumbing to emotional or biased judgments, says Sarah. 11:56 Christopher clarifies the objective criteria in place for parents to submit concerns about content and the inclusive review process involving various community members. 13:19 Christopher discusses the variability of policies across districts and states, and the importance for parents to be informed about their school's specific policies. 13:35 Sarah advises parents to check school board policies on their school's website, typically found under the instruction section, to understand the policy regarding book challenges. 14:26 Sarah emphasizes the importance of civility when parents address concerns with schools, suggesting that a polite approach is more effective. 16:34 Sarah introduces the idea of parents discussing content limitations directly with libraries, potentially preventing the need for book removals. She shares a personal anecdote about respecting a parent's request to restrict specific genres for their child and notes that this is a right parents have. 18:51 Christopher also discusses cultural literacy, encouraging exposure to a broad range of literature, music, and film to enrich children's understanding of the human experience. 20:10 On constitutional aspect, Christopher questions how current cultural conflicts and legislation align with the freedom of speech and the freedom to read as guaranteed by the First Amendment. 21:27 Sara mentions guidance issued by the California District Attorney in June, reminding schools of their obligation to follow due process when considering the removal of books, underlining potential consequences for failing to do so. 22:46 Christopher inquiries about historical precedents for comic censorship, leading to a discussion on the Comics Code Authority established in response to accusations that comics were contributing to juvenile delinquency. 23:40 Sara explains the self-regulatory measures of the comics industry to avoid Congressional censorship and how the 1980s saw a shift with publishers choosing to ignore the Comics Code to produce content for mature audiences. 25:54 Sarah stresses the diligence that goes into selecting books for libraries, pointing out that professional reviews are a resource for librarians and can be a tool for parents as well. She mentions that professional reviews are available for parents to check if a book is age-appropriate and suggests that these resources can also guide parental choices. 28:16 Christopher discusses the importance of trade publications in the library collection development process and their availability on platforms like Amazon. Key Points: Christopher and Sarah explore the concerning trend of book banning in the U.S., discussing the need to find a balance between protecting the freedom to read and addressing parental concerns over certain educational content. Sarah offers insights on the book selection process in libraries, emphasizing the role of professional reviews and trade publications to ensure age-appropriateness, and suggests that direct communication between parents and libraries can pre-emptively address content concerns. The conversation also addresses the constitutional implications of book banning, historical censorship in comics, and the importance of cultural literacy, underscoring the significance of due process and civility in the discourse around library content and book challenges. Tweetable Quotes: "Unprecedented scale of book banning in the U.S. calls for a balance between our right to read and addressing parental content concerns." - Christopher Robbins "A vocal minority, not a widespread movement, often drives the rise in book challenges." - Sarah Smith "Civility and direct communication with libraries can address content concerns more effectively than book removals." - Sarah Smith "Cultural literacy is enriched by exposure to a broad range of literature, music, and film." - Christopher Robbins Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://www.graphiclibrary.org/about-me.html Podcast Editing
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Bri DeRosa about books, particularly what to do for holiday meals and those recipes that we want to make and how to have that be a wonderful experience. DeRosa is a freelance writer and communications consultant with expertise in creative and dramatic writing, arts education, and service learning. Bri has over a decade of experience in program development for non-profits and small businesses and has been the content manager at the Family Dinner Project since 2014. Additionally, Bri has contributed to three cookbooks and actively engages in family dinner practices with her husband and two teenage sons. Episode Highlights: 02:02 DeRosa explains that the Family Dinner Project is a non-profit program under Massachusetts General Hospital Psychiatry, highlighting the benefits of family meals and noting the gap between potential benefits and actual family meal practices. 03:07 As the holidays approach, Christopher discusses the stress associated with traditional family gatherings and queries about alternatives to meeting at a grandparent's house. 05:37 DeRosa points out that research suggests the quality of interaction at family meals is more important than frequency and shares tips on how to make holiday gatherings more meaningful and stress-free. 06:58 DeRosa encourages sharing the stories behind traditional dishes to create a richer family experience and suggests activities like a family photo caption contest and storytelling prompts to engage everyone and make the holiday special. 07:51 Christopher introduces the concept of an heirloom dinner, encouraging the exploration of family stories and histories related to traditional foods. He also introduces the topic of handling difficult conversations at dinner, such as politics or religion, that can create division. 09:08 DeRosa continues to offer creative ideas for family engagement, like drawing family trees on paper tablecloths and playing trivia games to learn about each other in a fun setting. 10:52 DeRosa mentions the idea of a 'politics jar' where individuals can contribute a quarter each time they mention a hot-button topic, encouraging redirection to other conversations. 11:27 DeRosa provides solutions for surprise tensions at the dinner table, such as taking breaks, focusing on gratitude, and steering conversations towards positive subjects. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining boundaries and redirecting negative discussions. 13:28 DeRosa advises coordinating with hosts to create a quiet, safe space for neurodivergent children and to establish clear expectations for both the child and other family members regarding food and seating arrangements. 15:10 Setting expectations with the neurodivergent child is also stressed, says DeRosa. She suggests bringing familiar foods for the neurodivergent child to avoid pressure and make them feel at ease during meals. 15:57 Christopher talks about the challenges of having children with soy allergies and the importance of being aware of dietary restrictions during family gatherings. 16:22 DeRosa shares that she may host a varying number of guests and talks about the family tradition of making a New York-style crumb cake and stuffing with a special ingredient from her mother and grandmother. 17:53 Christopher describes his Thanksgiving routine of brining a turkey and making garlic raspberry mashed potatoes with parmesan, a fresh garden salad with avocados and blue cheese, and fresh rolls with homemade jam. 18:55 DeRosa discusses her Thanksgiving menu, noting adaptations for a neurodivergent family member, like garlic mashed potatoes without Parmesan and a kale salad with dates and pumpkin seeds. Key Points: DeRosa underlines the value of family meals for various aspects of well-being and identifies the disconnect between the potential benefits and the reality of family dining habits. Strategies for inclusive and stress-free holiday gatherings are discussed, including managing sensitive topics and enhancing the experience through storytelling and family history exploration. Practical advice is offered on how to accommodate neurodivergent family members at gatherings, such as setting clear expectations, providing safe spaces, and respecting dietary restrictions. Tweetable quotes: "Bridging the gap between the benefits of family meals and actual practices is key for healthier, happier families." - DeRosa "Holiday meals are about stories, not just recipes. Share the history behind the dishes to enrich your family experience." - DeRosa "For neurodivergent family members, comfort during meals comes from clear expectations and familiar foods." - DeRosa "Garlic mashed potatoes and a fresh garden salad with avocados and blue cheese - holiday cooking is as much about tradition as it is about taste." - Christopher Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://thefamilydinnerproject.org/ Podcast Editing
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Maria Sansone. She is a well-known broadcaster with a genuine and authentic approach to her work. She is currently the host of NBC 10 Boston's premier lifestyle show, "The Hub," and is also the host of the Edward R. Murrow award-winning "Mom to Mom with Maria Sansone" TV show and podcast. Episode Highlights 02.16: Christopher, expresses curiosity about Maria Sansone's Slam Dunk contest, sparking a conversation about her early achievements and broadcasting career. 2.30: Maria describes how she was a basketball enthusiast but was always the shortest person in the league. She also explains that the Slam Dunk contest she participated in wasn't standard because they lowered the rim to accommodate her 5-foot-1 height. 03.14: Maria describes her unique dunk, putting the ball between her legs, around her back, hanging on the rim, and running around the gym with her tongue out, which garnered a wild response from the crowd. 03.44: Maria explains that a local reporter from her hometown (Erie, PA) interviewed her after the event and was surprised at her knowledge of basketball, leading to her appearances on local news segments. 06.42: Maria expresses her satisfaction in knowing that her book is helping people simplify their dinner preparation and make it an enjoyable experience. 07.10: Christopher then transitions to discussing hosting for the holidays and asks Maria how to approach creating a simple menu for holiday gatherings without feeling stressed about the cooking. 08.06: Maria mentions that for Thanksgiving, the menu doesn't have to change dramatically each year. She recommends focusing on a few well-prepared sides so that everyone can enjoy all elements of the meal, including the turkey. 08.51: Maria encourages hosts to have a plan, write it down, and do their shopping ahead of time to alleviate the overwhelming aspects of hosting, allowing them to enjoy the holiday with their guests. 09.55: Christopher introduces the topic of involving guests in holiday preparations and questions whether it's acceptable to ask them for help. 11.02: Maria shares examples of tasks she delegates, such as dessert, children's activities, paper plates and napkins, and setting up cocktails. She believes that guests often want to help, so when they ask what they can bring, it's a great opportunity to give them specific tasks. 13.54: Maria agrees and reinforces that being present and enjoying the company of one's guests is the primary goal of hosting. 14.06: Christopher appreciates Maria bringing up the topic of paper plates. He discusses how some people may feel concerned about not having the finest China and reassures that it's perfectly okay to use paper plates. 15.07: Maria concludes by noting that guests primarily focus on the quality of the food and the enjoyment of the event, rather than the type of tableware used. She notes the environmental concerns with paper plates but highlights their convenience for large events where having enough traditional plates may not be feasible. 16.19: Maria shares that her family enjoys talent shows as a post-dinner activity, where family members showcase their talents, making for memorable and entertaining moments. 17.58: Maria encourages the listeners not to be too hard on themselves and not to strive for perfection, as the moments that deviate from the script often lead to cherished memories. 19.45: Maria adds that after the event, she strings up the notes as part of her fall decor, serving as a reminder of the things they are thankful for throughout the season. 20.04: Christopher expresses gratitude for Maria's wonderful ideas and emphasizes the significance of gratitude in enhancing the holiday experience. 3 Key Points Maria announces her new book titled "Ohh, What's for Dinner? No Fuss Weeknight Recipes," a compilation of her favorite entrees. The book offers efficient recipes suitable for busy weeknights, making it easier for people to put a satisfying meal on the table. Maria encourages putting family and friends to work, whether it's making cocktails, overseeing shoe removal, or handling other tasks. Delegating responsibilities and strategically arranging food and drinks can make hosting a more enjoyable experience for both the host and guests. Maria highlights a special Thanksgiving tradition to make people feel comfortable and encourage gratitude. She provides small sheets of paper for guests to anonymously write down something they're thankful for during appetizers. Tweetable Quotes “Delegating not only eases the burden on the host but also makes guests feel good about contributing.” - Maria “If the hosts are having fun and are relaxed, it tends to make the entire gathering more enjoyable.” - Maria Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://www.instagram.com/mariasansone/?hl=en Podcast Editing
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Michael Hempseed, Director of Frontiers of Hope, a specialist mental health service about how to help our children deal with anxiety and stress during the holidays. He is the co-author of the book “Calming Your Child: De-escalating Tantrums, Anxiety, Aggression, and Other Challenging Behaviors.” Michael is also the author of “Being a True Hero: Understanding and Preventing Suicide in Your Community”. He has spoken to Frontera, New Zealand, Post fire and Emergency New Zealand and many others. Michael gained an honors degree in psychology from the University of Canterbury in 2008 and he has had the opportunity to speak at a TED event in 2016. Episode Highlights 01:53: Michael discusses the increasing trend of very young children displaying heightened anxiety. Many are so anxious they cannot attend school. 02:37: Michael highlights the ripple effect of a child's anxiety on their family. He shares an anecdote of parents needing to take six months off work to care for their severely anxious child, underlining the significant impact on the entire family. 03:18: Christopher inquiries about the topic of sensory issues in children, as mentioned in the book "Calming Your Child". He seeks clarity on what sensory issues entail and emphasizes the importance of understanding and recognizing them in children. 04:10: Michael emphasizes that sensory issues aren't limited to just sounds but affect all senses. He shares statistics from his mental health service, noting a significant number of individuals with moderate to severe sensory issues, especially among young children. 05:02: Christopher emphasizes the intensity of her daughter's discomfort, using the word "excruciating" to describe her experience. He notes the challenge it poses for her to stay calm given her heightened perception of sound. 06:42: Michael stresses that children don't act out without a reason, but rather are dealing with overwhelming emotions they can't express properly and this overwhelming feeling in children can manifest as aggressive behaviours like punching or yelling. 07:51: Christopher introduces the idea of perspective and how individuals perceive the world differently. He emphasizes that when people, especially children, act out, it's a form of communication. 08:28: Michael discusses the challenge of sensory issues. Many who experience them believe it's a normal part of life since they've always felt that way. He stresses the importance of patience and effort in understanding and working through these challenges. 08:55: Christopher queries why upcoming holiday season time of the year can be particularly stressful for families, especially those with children. 09:21: Michael addresses interpersonal stress, particularly when families gather, mentioning scenarios where certain relatives may not get along. 10:10: Christopher discusses the importance of finding ways to make the holidays less stressful and seeks professional advice and tips on managing holiday stress. 11:20: Michael talks about how volunteering can help young people gain perspective and feel a sense of purpose. He suggests taking children to visit the elderly. He also provides guidance on how to initiate conversation, emphasizing the mutual benefits. 12:26: Michael discusses the importance of sleep, mentioning it is a long chapter in his book. He talks about the negative effects of sleep deprivation. He relates sleep deprivation to mood and behaviour in both adults and children. 14:10: Michael highlights that not every sign of stress or behavioural issue necessitates counselling. Encourages trying alternative solutions like volunteering before resorting to counselling. 15:39: Michael notes that if a child's behaviour is affecting the family's lifestyle, like avoiding social events, it might be time to seek help. He emphasizes the importance of observing not just the intensity but the recurrence of problematic behaviours. 16:05: Christopher poses a question about when to consider professional help and seeks advice for parents to help their children in the upcoming year. 17:15: Michael discusses the benefits of free play for children. He mentions that it helps children develop problem-solving skills and improve social interaction. 18:42: Michael differentiates between forcing someone to practice an instrument and allowing them to enjoy it. He shares a study about Nobel Prize winners in the sciences having artistic and musical hobbies. Points out the value of art and music in enhancing cognitive abilities. 19:07: Christopher shares his belief that adults are usually grateful for having learned an instrument and often regret if they quit playing. 19:24: Michael discusses studies that indicate a surge in the amount of homework kids have today. He mentions the overburdening of young children and the need to reintroduce the concept of fun in learning. 20:10: Christopher shares a possibly apocryphal story from World War 2 about Winston Churchill emphasizing the importance of art even in dire times. 3 Key Points Michael discusses the increasing trend of very young children displaying heightened anxiety, with many being so anxious they cannot attend school. Christopher speaks about the intensity of his daughter's discomfort due to sensory issues, highlighting that many behavioral problems are reactions from individuals feeling overwhelmed by sensory stimuli rather than intentional acts of rebellion. Michael emphasizes the significance of sleep, discussing its impact on mood and behavior in both adults and children, and relates sleep deprivation to various negative effects. Tweetable Quotes “Merely living in the era of COVID has deeply impacted individuals regardless of personal sentiments.” - Michael “Many behavioral problems aren't intentional acts of rebellion but are reactions from individuals feeling overwhelmed and distressed by sensory stimuli.” - Michael "Children don't act out without a reason, but rather are dealing with overwhelming emotions they can't express properly." - Michael "Not every sign of stress or behavioral issue necessitates counseling. Encourages trying alternative solutions like volunteering before resorting to counseling." - Michael Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple Podcast Editing
On this episode of the "Helping Families be Happy Podcast," host, Christopher Robbins husband and father of nine, residing in the Central Valley of California talks to Adina Oberman. She is a former preschool teacher and over 15 years, she has helped families through the ups and downs of early childhood. Adina is the creator of “Big Books for Little Hands”, a valuable resource for parents and educators seeking the best books to navigate the challenges of life with kids to the best books for navigating the challenges of life with kids. Episode Highlights 01.40: Adina mentions the importance of food in Jewish holidays, emphasizing that eating together is a significant part of the celebration. 03.40: Sukkot is a holiday during which people build temporary huts outside their homes. This holiday is a celebration, often associated with the harvest season, where communal meals are held in these temporary huts. 04:15: Simchat holiday is a celebration of reading the Torah, the Old Testament, from beginning to end over the course of a year. Simchat Torah is a joyful holiday filled with festivities, including lots of eating and family fun. 05.52: Christopher notes that Yom Kippur is a solemn holiday and it's a specific time when people can reflect on any offenses they may have committed against their family, friends, God, and the world around them. 07.15: Adina emphasizes that seeking forgiveness tradition is beautiful because it helps prevent small transgressions from accumulating within family relationships. It allows people to come full circle, make amends, and start fresh, fostering reconciliation and positive relationships. 09:25: Christopher asks Adina to describe the foods and recipes that are typically included in celebratory Jewish meals. 10.21: In Jewish celebrations food varies from house to house and my family but during Rosh Hashanah, there are several symbolic foods like apples dipped in honey, braided bread, and Matzo ball soup and brisket. 11.52: Adina suggests that food is an excellent way to engage children in cultural traditions. Parents can involve their kids by either preparing food together or sitting down to eat and explaining the significance of the dishes being served to help children feel connected to their heritage and understand the reasons behind the holiday customs. 12.16: Adina recommends reading books about Jewish holidays to children. These books can be a valuable resource in making abstract concepts more understandable and relatable to young minds. 16.06: Adina suggests seeking out a local Jewish Community Centre, which can be found in many states across the United States. JCCs typically offer a wide range of programming for all ages and levels of observance which allows families to participate in meaningful ways within the Jewish community and helps build a strong Jewish identity for their children. 3 Key Points There are several Jewish holidays during this season, starting with Rosh Hashanah, which is the Jewish New Year, says Adina. She explains that Rosh Hashanah is a time for celebration, renewal, reflection, and a focus on making the upcoming year better. Adina explains that Rosh Hashanah is a joyful holiday and is a time of renewal and rebirth, similar to the way January 1st is celebrated as the New Year in the secular calendar. During Rosh Hashanah, people often engage in the custom of dipping apples into honey, symbolizing the desire for a sweet and prosperous year ahead. PJ Library serves as a practical and accessible way for parents and caregivers to introduce their children to Jewish traditions and strengthen their connection to their cultural heritage, says Adina. Tweetable Quotes “Simchat holiday follows Sukkot in the Jewish calendar and is marked by lively and spirited celebrations within the Jewish community.” - Adina Oberman “You can say "Happy New Year" to anyone celebrating Rosh Hashanah but in general for any Jewish holiday, you can use the phrase "Chag Sameach," which means "Happy Holiday." This is a versatile greeting suitable for various Jewish celebrations.” - Adina Oberman Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://www.bigbooksforlittlehands.com/ Podcast Editing
This is a re-air of episode 177 with Christopher Robbins, originally released on March 6th, 2022. Christopher Robbins is a husband, father, and the founder of Soul Degree, a coaching and personal development program for men that offers monthly meditations and runs restorative wilderness retreats. After twenty years of chasing the conventional version of success, Christopher has found his calling as a coach, meditation guide, and yoga instructor. He has also rekindled his love of the outdoors, and his Soul Degree retreats give men the opportunity to step out of their everyday lives and experience adventure, freedom, and inner growth.
D. J. Taylor, literary critic, novelist and Whitbread Prize-winning author of the definitive Orwell: The Life and its highly acclaimed sequel The New Life, and Masha Karp, Orwell scholar, former Russian features editor at the BBC World Service and author of George Orwell and Russia, join the Slightly Foxed team at the kitchen table in Hoxton Square to take a fresh and deeply personal look at the life and work of George Orwell. The man who wrote Animal Farm and Nineteen Eighty-Four defies categorization. In this quarter's literary podcast David and Masha sift through newly discovered stashes of letters written by Orwell in the 1930s, and share personal recollections from his adopted son Richard and other living members of his inner circle to tease out fact from fiction and explore the legacy of Orwell's life and work. We start with the chance discovery by a Bonham's auctioneer of nineteen letters from Orwell to a girlfriend, found in a tatty old handbag on the floor of a mouse-ridden woodshed (thrillingly packaged in a nondescript envelope labelled ‘Burn after my death'). Then we're off on a journey through the many-faceted romantic, literary, social and political aspects of Orwell's short life, from the years when he was flitting between jobs and relationships in the small coastal town of Southwold and living down and out in Paris, to his death from tuberculosis in 1950 via his life-altering experience in Spain as a Republican volunteer against Franco. David and Masha draw us deep into Orwell's world – a place of gangsters with gramophones, banned books, vanishing documents, encounters with KGB spies and yet more old girlfriends appearing out of the shadows with revelatory letters – and discuss the long reach of his influence on contemporary literature and political thinking. Books mentioned We may be able to get hold of second-hand copies of the out-of-print titles listed below. Please get in touch with Jess in the Slightly Foxed office for more information. Subscribe to Slightly Foxed magazine D. J. Taylor, Orwell: A New Life (0:30) George Orwell, A Homage to Catalonia (7:27) Masha Karp, George Orwell and Russia (15:10) George Orwell, Burmese Days (31:46) George Orwell, Animal Farm (31:47) George Orwell, Nineteen Eighty-Four (31:48) George Orwell, A Clergyman's Daughter (34:04) George Orwell, Why I Write (38:22) George Orwell, ‘Confessions of a Book Reviewer', Essays (39:56) George Orwell, ‘Dickens', Essays (43:45) George Orwell, ‘Lear, Tolstoy and the Fool', Essays (44:28) Nicholas Fisk, Pig Ignorant (45:25) Joanna Rakoff, My Salinger Year (45:42) James Aldred, Goshawk Summer (49:10) Edward Chisholm, A Waiter in Paris (51:38) George Orwell, Down and Out in Paris and London (51:50) Emilé Zola, The Drinking Den (53:18) Claire Wilcox, Patch Work (55:11) Related Slightly Foxed articles The Nightmare of Room 101, Christopher Rush on George Orwell, Nineteen Eighty-Four, Issue 69 Betrayals, Christopher Rush on George Orwell, Animal Farm, Issue 65 An Extraordinary Ordinary Bloke, Brandon Robshaw on George Orwell, Essays, Issue 56 Pox Britanica, Sue Gee on George Orwell, Burmese Days, Issue 40 All Washed Up, Christopher Robbins on George Orwell, Down and Out in Paris and London, Issue 21 The Road to Room 101, Gordon Bowker on George Orwell, Keep the Aspidistra Flying, Issue 11 Other links The Slightly Foxed Calendar 2024 Readers' Day 2023 The George Orwell Foundation Opening music: Preludio from Violin Partita No. 3 in E Major by Bach Produced by Podcastable
Linda is on an outing with her four daughters and daughters in law this week, so Richard takes the opportunity to interview his good friend and publisher Christopher Robbins and the two of them talk about trends, changes, and the future both of families and of publishing. Christopher's book company is called Familius, and it exclusively publishes books that seek to help parents and families. See Familius.com.
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Dr. Lauren Cook, a therapist who specializes in helping millennials and Gen Z clients deal with anxiety. Christopher shares that Dr. Cook not only professionally understands these generations' struggles with anxiety but also personally relates to them as a millennial who experiences anxiety herself. The episode discusses Dr. Cook's book, "Generation Anxiety," which provides actionable steps to help young adults navigate anxiety. The book draws on psychological research and diverse client experiences to illustrate various manifestations of anxiety. It aims to help readers gain insight into their own stressors and effectively manage anxiety. Episode Highlights 02:00: The episode features Dr. Cook, who specializes in addressing anxiety among millennials and Gen Z, and it acknowledges the widespread issue of anxiety, with over 40 million Americans currently experiencing some form of anxiety. 02:51: Dr. Cook explains that there is indeed a rise in both the number of people experiencing anxiety and the intensity of their symptoms. She attributes this to several factors, including the constant inundation of social media, which is a relatively new phenomenon, and the increasing sense of isolation, often referred to as the "loneliness epidemic." 03:37: Dr. Cook also highlights an interesting aspect of anxiety, where the more one seeks to control it, the more out of control it can become. She mentions that avoidance is another common aspect of anxiety, where individuals may start avoiding certain aspects of their life or situations due to their anxiety. 04:14: Christopher shares a valuable perspective from their teachings, emphasizing that we don't have control over everything but rather have influence. This perspective encourages finding ways to influence the situation positively. 06:20: When people isolate themselves and only interact with a small circle of family and friends, they can become more distrustful and disconnected from others. 07:18: Dr. Cook also mentions the common stereotype about Gen Z struggling with voicemails, which she believes is a reflection of a larger issue related to social skills and interaction. She advocates for building social skills to enhance communication and connection among all generations. 08:14: Dr. Cook explains the concept of choosing values induction over pain reduction in the context of anxiety. She notes that anxiety often stems from the desire to avoid discomfort and pain, and this avoidance can lead to people missing out on important aspects of life. 10:35; Dr. Cook expresses her enthusiasm for discussing the power of gratitude, citing years of research in positive psychology that highlights the positive impact of gratitude on both brain health and overall physical health. 10:42: The concept of "5 daily gratitude" likely refers to a practice of identifying and expressing gratitude for five things each day. This practice is often recommended as a way to shift focus away from negative thinking and promote a more positive and optimistic outlook on life. 12:29: Christopher shares his personal experience with practicing gratitude during yoga and meditation. He mentions how he expresses gratitude for simple things like trees, breath, and the sounds of birds during his practice. 13:37: Dr. Cook explains that these two generations have grown up in an era where there is a significant focus on appearance. She points out that millennials experienced a period when plastic surgery and brands like Abercrombie and Fitch were popular, which had a substantial impact on young adults' self-image. 14:09: "What if your appearance was the least interesting thing about you?" Dr. Cook suggests that this question can be a powerful way to prompt self-reflection and encourage individuals to reconsider where they invest their time, energy, and focus. 16:26: Dr. Cook introduces the concept of "empowered acceptance." This practice involves accepting yourself and your current situation while taking active steps to improve your well-being. 17:25: Dr. Cook also highlights that it's okay to experience anxiety and that the goal isn't necessarily to make anxiety disappear but to learn how to live with it while still leading fulfilling lives. 3 Key Points Dr. Cook talks about the importance of teaching children to interact with people outside of their immediate family and encourages parents to expose their children to a broader community. Dr. Cook encourages practicing mindfulness and taking moments to reflect on what has gone well in the past 24 hours, even in small ways. She suggests that this practice can have a significant impact on shifting the energy within a family unit. Alongside acceptance, Dr. Cook encourages individuals to take empowered action to address the problems and challenges they face. Being proactive and engaged in finding solutions, both on a personal and societal level, can help alleviate anxiety. Tweetable Quotes “Anxiety, is like a wave that spikes when we reach its peak, and my goal is to help people ride through the wave and realize that they can endure and survive through moments of discomfort.” - Dr. Cook “By understanding one's values, individuals can become more willing to endure the discomfort that may come with pursuing a meaningful life.” - Dr. Cook “Many young adults she works with often rate their stress about body image at a 7 or 8 on a scale of 1 to 10, indicating that body image occupies a significant amount of their mental energy and attention.” - Dr. Cook Resources Mentioned Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple doctorlaurencook.com Podcast Editing
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Erika Sargent. She is the founder of Multicultural Parenting, an organization that helps parents raise their children with a better understanding and appreciation of their cultural heritage. She graduated from Brigham Young University to BA in communications. Today they are discussing specific ways that parents can incorporate more culture into their homes and family's upbringing. Episode Highlights 01:51: Multicultural parenting is an online community that works to help families raise their children with a better understanding and appreciation of their cultural heritage. It includes a blend of interviews, resources, actionable item steps and personal experiences from multicultural parents. 04:41: When Erika was looking for resources to help with multicultural parenting, she found a lack of general multicultural parenting resources. While there were options for specific cultural backgrounds, she wanted to create a broader platform that would provide support and resources for families with diverse cultural backgrounds, hence the creation of multicultural parenting. 05:04: Erika highlights that there are abundant resources for raising bilingual children but limited guidance for families seeking to incorporate multiple cultural backgrounds into their parenting approach. 06:24: Erika emphasizes the importance of providing parents with simple and actionable steps to connect their children with their cultural backgrounds. 07:01: Christopher acknowledges the significance of multicultural parenting and Erika's work and ask about practical steps that parents can take to celebrate their culture with their children. 08:23: Incorporating everyday living like music, TV programs or games and cooking like preparing recipes with cultural backgrounds or family cookbooks in everyday activities into family life can help parents celebrate their culture with their children in a natural and meaningful way says Erika. 10:25: Erika recommends using public libraries as a valuable resource. They offer a wide range of books, including picture books and nonfiction books, that can help parents teach their children about their cultural history. 11:34: Christopher mentions that many children in their area speak Spanish, and Erika confirms that dual immersion programs, where children are taught in bilingual classrooms, are growing in popularity across the United States. 13:13: Erika highlights the joy of being a multicultural parent, as it provides an opportunity not only to pass on cultural traditions but also to continually learn new things and deepen one's own cultural understanding. 13:54: Erika introduces the concept of "participate" as the last pillar in their discussion. This pillar encourages people to step out of their comfort zones and become actively involved in their community's cultural aspects. 15:05: Christopher summarizes the three pillars of their discussion: "Educate, celebrate, participate." These pillars provide a comprehensive framework for parents and families to enrich their understanding and appreciation of their multicultural backgrounds and the broader cultural diversity within their communities. 15:41: Erika emphasizes that parents can expand their horizons without necessarily having to travel to different countries. Many events, such as festivals and museum exhibits, provide opportunities to experience diverse cultures without the need for expensive travel. 17:17: Erika highlights the importance of utilizing family members as valuable resources. 3 Key Points Erika's talks about the importance of utilizing resources like libraries and culturally diverse books to make learning about one's cultural heritage an enjoyable and engaging experience for children. Erika and Christopher underscores the significance of both formal education programs and cultural traditions in helping children appreciate and understand their multicultural heritage. Erika and Christopher provides valuable insights and practical tips for parents to engage with their children's multicultural backgrounds and foster a deeper appreciation for diversity through celebration, education, and active participation in their communities. Tweetable Quotes “Multicultural parenting is built on three pillars, celebrate, educate, participate. These three pillars form the foundation of multicultural parenting, making it a valuable resource for families looking to embrace and pass on their cultural heritage to the next generation.” – Erika “Familius Publishing offers multicultural picture books, such as "My Name Is Cool" and "The Proudest Color." They have recently released a book that explores a diverse family dynamic called "My House and My Family." These books provide an engaging way for children to learn about different cultures and family dynamics.” – Erika “Multicultural parenting is not about rigidly following a checklist but rather providing options and ideas that parents can adapt to their family's needs. It's about incorporating what works best for your family, considering your time constraints and personal circumstances.” - Erika Resources Mentioned Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple multiculturalparenting.com Podcast Editing
On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, is going to talk to Hillary Waller, Director of Education and Programming and a psychotherapist at the Postpartum Stress Center. She offers individual and group therapy services, manages training and education programs, and leads educational in-services at the center. Episode Highlights 01:21: Hillary Waller's interest in parent-child relationships led her to pursue a Master's degree in counseling psychology with a specialization in marriage and family therapy. She now conducts specialized training sessions for organizations seeking expertise in the treatment of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders. 02:07: Christopher and Hillary's discussion topic revolves around the increasing prevalence of anxiety and depression among today's children, which is described as almost reaching epidemic proportions. 03:55: Hillary encourages parents to reach out to therapists and professionals who can offer insights into what is normal behavior and what may be a cause for concern. She suggests that when a parent's instinct tells them something isn't right, that should be considered a red flag, prompting them to seek help and guidance from qualified professionals. 05:00: Being closely connected with their child allows parents to recognize when something deviates from the norm and may require further attention or investigation. 05:27: Christopher emphasizes the importance of being present with our children and getting to know them well enough to recognize when something is an outlier or deviates from their usual behavior. 06:30: Hillary acknowledges the developmental stage of teenagers, who simultaneously desire their parents' involvement and support while also seeking independence and privacy. She emphasizes the need to strike a balance between respecting their independence and understanding when to intervene when necessary. 08:11: Christopher shares a personal experience of seeking therapy with their young son and realizing that therapy was not just for the child but also for the parents. They then ask if using phrases like "well-being" might be more appropriate than saying "mental health." 10:25: Hillary highlights the significance of parents learning self-regulation strategies so they can effectively communicate with their children about their feelings. By providing children with language to express their emotions, parents help them develop emotional intelligence. 13:19: Hillary suggests that if a parent already has their own therapist, they can initiate a conversation about their child's mental health with them. 14:30: In response to the host's question about common denominators or triggers for children's mental health issues, Hillary Waller acknowledges that it's a complex question because there are numerous factors that contribute to children experiencing anxiety and depression. 16:32: Hillary Waller emphasizes the importance of physical presence and eye contact when sitting with children and teenagers to discuss their feelings and challenges. She mentions that when people are overwhelmed and stressed, their bodies often feel tense, which is closely related to anxiety. 17:20: Being present and making eye contact with your child, regardless of their age, can have a positive and calming effect. 18:21: The love parents have for their child is the most important and powerful tool they have in helping their child through difficult times. 3 Key Points Christopher and Hillary discuss the issue of the stigma associated with mental illness, anxiety, and depression. They acknowledge that there might be generational factors or societal influences contributing to this stigma. Hillary suggests that using the terminology of "emotional health" can be less stigmatized than "mental health." She encourages open conversations about feelings and emotional well-being from a very young age, regardless of the child's age, to create a more accepting and supportive environment for discussing these issues. Hillary Waller suggests that using books can be a great way to initiate conversations about mental well-being with children. Tweetable Quotes “Parents particularly new mothers, should trust their instincts and learn how to find answers about their children's well-being.” - Hillary Waller “While there is a wealth of content available, it's important to limit the number of resources to avoid feeling overwhelmed.” - Hillary Waller “Life can be challenging, and it's essential to help children and teens learn how to navigate and work through these challenges.” - Hillary Waller Resources Mentioned Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple postpartumstress.com Podcast Editing
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