The Manspace

Send us a textSpacemen, unite against the Manosphere. On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob correct some harmful thinking that is perpetuated by the manosphere (men online who buy into the 'Red Pill' philosophy--to be honest, it's pretty sexist). We challenge the sexist ideas as damaging to women, men, and relationships. And we propose a rallying call to be a better man to help raise a generation of better men. Mount up!Keywordsband reunion, graduation, Manosphere, red pill philosophy, relationships, differentiation, mentoring, young men, emotional health, self-awarenessTakeawaysThe Manosphere promotes a controversial view of masculinity.Red Pill philosophy emphasizes detachment and control in relationships.Healthy relationships require empathy and understanding, not manipulation.Differentiation is key to maintaining self-identity in relationships.Men often seek validation through power dynamics in relationships.Mentoring young men involves addressing their insecurities and emotional needs.Building connections with young men can help counteract toxic ideologies.Sound Bites"It was freaking awesome.""You guys missed out.""How do we mentor young men?"Chapters00:00Band Reunion and Musical Nostalgia09:43Graduation Anticipation and Reflections11:59Exploring the Manosphere and Its Influence15:54Misrepresentation and the Manosphere17:20Red Pill Philosophy: Power and Detachment20:11Differentiation vs. Detachment in Relationships24:11The Toxicity of Power Dynamics30:24Finding Peace Within: The True Path39:21Engaging with Insecurity and Pain46:25Mentoring Young Men: A New ApproachSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textHairy Spacemen, come forth from your cages and find your golden ball. If you don't know what I'm talking about, shame on you for not reading the book. On today's episode, we talk about Iron John and how to find our inner man. I mean, that sounds deeper than it is, but we do have some good conversations about finding what we've lost. Don't believe me? Listen in. And look what AI has to say about it: In this conversation, the hosts delve into the themes presented in the book 'Iron John,' exploring masculinity, personal growth, and the importance of embracing one's wild and untamed aspects. They discuss their mixed feelings about the book, the archetypes of masculinity, and the role of mythology in understanding oneself. The conversation also touches on the dynamics of relationships, the necessity of boundaries, and the cultural reflections on masculinity in modern society. Through humor and personal anecdotes, they navigate the complexities of becoming a whole man in today's world.KeywordsIron John, masculinity, archetypes, personal growth, mythology, emotional intelligence, relationships, self-discovery, boundaries, humorTakeawaysMixed feelings about 'Iron John' highlight its complexity.The warrior archetype resonates with personal growth.Mythology plays a crucial role in understanding masculinity.Embracing the wild man aspect is essential for growth.Navigating emotions requires learning to shutter.Iron men maintain boundaries in relationships.Cultural reflections reveal the challenges of modern masculinity.Confronting fears is part of the self-discovery journey.Finding balance between emotional vulnerability and strength is key.Sound Bites"I don't really do fantasy.""I want to embrace the pain of that.""Men need help."Chapters00:00Introduction and Audiobook Speed Adjustments00:40Humor and Kelsey Grammar's Influence03:36Book Club Discussion: Iron John06:41Mixed Feelings About Iron John09:32Mythology and Its Relevance12:37The Journey of Masculinity15:41Confronting the Wild Man Within18:34The Descent into Self-Discovery22:09Reconnecting with the Soul25:29Embracing Pain and Transformation26:54Exploring Masculinity and Father Figures30:00Intuition and Instinct in Modern Society32:50The Hero's Journey and Personal Growth36:37Navigating Relationships and Boundaries43:42Iron John: Redefining Masculinity47:46The Importance of Emotional AwarenessSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpaceEmployees! Gather for a space-wide mandatory meeting as we discuss office politics and how you are balancing your work life with your personal life. Keep in mind, balance doesn't always mean equal time. So, you should probably be giving MORE time to The Manspace. I might be off about that. I can't remember what I said in the episode, but it was probably something like that. But, I do know that Mike and Rob break down the sometimes messed up ways we view work and the balance we strike with it. So if you feel like you are being controlled by your work, then blow it off for an hour and venture into The Manspace. Keywordsidentity, work-life balance, cultural perspectives, success, personal fulfillment, mental health, productivity, self-care, societal expectations, relationshipsTakeawaysMen find their identity through work, but so do women.Work-life balance is often seen as a personal responsibility.Cultural perspectives on work vary significantly, especially between the U.S. and Europe.The four-day work week has shown positive results in productivity.Many people neglect relationships in favor of work or hobbies.Success is often measured by income and job title, leading to burnout.Comparison can undermine personal enjoyment and fulfillment.Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining work-life balance.Phases of life affect how we manage our time and responsibilities.Reassessing priorities can help improve work-life balance.Sound Bites"Men find their identity through work.""Work-life balance is your problem.""Most of us will never be the owner or CEO."Chapters00:00Introduction to Work and Identity01:59The Role of Work-Life Balance04:55Cultural Perspectives on Work-Life Balance07:57The Impact of Work on Personal Life11:00The Responsibility of Work-Life Balance13:57Concluding Thoughts on Work and Life16:05Navigating Work-Life Balance18:07Cultural Expectations and Work Identity20:23The Pressure of Productivity22:59Defining Success and Work Ethic27:09The Role of Employers in Work-Life Balance31:37Redefining Personal Success38:26Finding Balance in Life's PhasesSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, go light some candles. Maybe put on some soft Sade and then sit down and listen in as Matt, Mike, and Rob walk you through how to talk about sex with your lady. It's not that there's a perfect way to do this, but there are ways to make sure it's healthy and effective. We've got lots of tips. The biggest one, you ask? Don't have the conversation with your lady expecting to have sex immediately afterwards. Just good, healthy, verbal intercourse. Buckle up!Keywordsauthority, protection, vulnerability, relationships, AI, sexual desire, communication, intimacy, expectations, honesty TakeawaysVulnerability is essential in relationships.AI can help facilitate difficult conversations.Sexual desire is often a complex issue.Open communication is key to intimacy.Expectations about sex change over time.Honesty about feelings fosters connection.Resistance in conversations is not rejection.Understanding each other's perspectives is crucial.Sound Bites"I've been missing our physical connection.""How do I talk to my wife about sex?""You always bring this up."Chapters00:00The Importance of Communication in Relationships02:10AI and Modern Conversations05:10Sexual Desire and Stoic Principles07:11AI vs. Human Therapists: A New Era11:05Navigating Awkward Conversations in Relationships13:16Discussing Sexual Desire: Breaking the Silence19:01Creating a Safe Space for Sexual Conversations25:20Understanding and Accepting Each Other's Needs28:56Navigating Sexual Communication in Relationships31:14Understanding the Evolution of Sexual Dynamics33:09The Impact of Life Stages on Sexual Relationships36:07Addressing Sexual Health and Vulnerability41:12Strategies for Honest Conversations about Sex48:08Normalizing Sexual Struggles in RelationshipsSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSup SpaceDistracted men. Today on the Space, Mike and Matt answer your questions about ADHD-Anxious couples. We get a little more specific and give a little more direction. Just like SpaceAdmirals should. Listen in. We'll steer you right. KeywordsADHD, anxiety, relationships, mindfulness, coping strategies, mental health, personal growth, communication, societal expectations, emotional intelligenceTakeawaysUnderstanding and change are crucial in relationships.Viewing partners as growth opportunities fosters better dynamics.Anxiety often leads to miscommunication and misunderstandings.Recognizing strengths in each other can enhance relationships.Mindfulness practices can significantly alleviate anxiety.It's important to challenge societal expectations of masculinity.Seeking help and using tools is a sign of strength, not weakness.Communication about mental health is essential for growth.Accepting where you are is the first step to change.Relationships highlight our rough edges, prompting personal growth.Sound Bites"Happy me, happy we!""It's okay to seek help and tools.""Anxiety can feel catastrophic."Chapters00:00Understanding Anxiety and ADHD in Relationships09:54The Role of Growth in Relationships12:36Navigating Strengths and Weaknesses16:31The Impact of Sensitivity and Feedback17:56Understanding ADHD and Anxiety: The Positive Side20:40Communication and Vulnerability in Relationships24:34Shifting Perspectives: Anxiety and ADHD Dynamics29:54Mindfulness and Self-Acceptance35:21The Role of Gender in Anxiety and ADHD40:58Sharing Stories: The Importance of CommunitySpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpaceImposters! Don't worry. We know you're real. Remember that game your kids played for a second? Among us? Well that's what we're doing today--discovering the imposter. Today, Mike and Rob talk about imposter syndrome: how it affects us and some tips to combat it. So, believe in yourself and listen in. Keywordsimposter syndrome, mental health, self-doubt, anxiety, personal growth, confidence, men's issues, podcasting, self-acceptance, personal developmentTakeawaysImposter syndrome is a common experience for many individuals.Self-doubt often stems from anxiety and societal expectations.Recognizing that no one truly knows everything can alleviate pressure.Focusing on personal growth rather than performance can help combat imposter feelings.It's important to acknowledge one's strengths and contributions.People often underestimate their abilities and overestimate others'.Sharing experiences of imposter syndrome can foster connection and understanding.Confidence can be built through external validation and internal recognition.Accepting that it's okay to not know everything is crucial for personal development.Everyone has their unique journey, and it's important to embrace it.Sound Bites"No one actually cares.""I can see that I'm funny.""I know how to simplify things."Chapters00:00Imposter Syndrome in Podcasting11:46Fashion Choices and Personal Style13:04Comfort in Style: The Shoe Debate14:18Understanding Imposter Syndrome21:03The Roots of Imposter Syndrome25:39The Desire to Be Known30:07Strategies to Overcome Imposter SyndromeSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, it's time to read a book. That's right. Today, we talk about the book The Eden Project. But really, we're talking about how to confront your own insecurities. According to AI, we talk about the importance of self-reflection, the role of insecurities in relationships, and the need for personal accountability. And if AI says it, it must be good. So grab a blanket and your insecurities and listen in. Keywordstherapy, personal growth, relationships, insecurities, couples therapy, self-reflection, emotional health, accountability, communication, individual workTakeawaysTherapy often requires a shift in perspective and approach.People desire change but may resist the actual process of changing.Individual work is crucial for effective couples therapy.Insecurities can significantly impact relationship dynamics.Self-reflection is essential for personal growth and accountability.Understanding one's own dependencies is key to healthier relationships.Fear often drives defensive behaviors in relationships.The concept of the 'magical other' can lead to unrealistic expectations.It's important to confront and embrace insecurities rather than project them onto others.Personal growth is a continuous journey that requires ongoing effort and self-awareness.Sound Bites"I need to change the way I do this.""You need to explore that.""You have to confront your own stuff."Chapters00:00Cultural References and Humor02:17Reflections on Personal Growth and Change07:15Understanding Individual Contributions in Relationships10:18The Importance of Individual Therapy in Couples Counseling12:47Shifting Perspectives on Empathy and Emotional Experience16:09Exploring Personal Responsibility and Growth in Therapy20:29Connecting Deeply with Oneself for Relationship Success25:47The Role of Relationships in Personal Development28:32The Search for the 'Magical Other' in Relationships32:11Navigating Insecurities and Ego35:08The Observer Role in Personal Growth38:20Relational Dynamics and Personal Responsibility41:31Confronting Insecurities in Relationships46:52The Impact of Projections on Relationships51:43Managing Dependencies and Personal Growth56:47The Journey of Self-Discovery and AcceptanceSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSup Spacelosers. Just kidding. I could never tease you guys. Or could I? Maybe it's good for our relationship. Matt, Mike, and Rob will break it down for you. People have been talking about it on the interwebs, so you know it must be good. Of course, your space admirals will let you know what you should believe. Listen in. Keywordsteasing, humor, friendships, male bonding, social dynamics, self-deprecation, trust, communication, relationships, laughterTakeawaysTeasing can strengthen friendships when done in a good-natured way.Trust is essential for humor to be effective in relationships.Self-deprecating humor can be a safer way to connect with others.Reading the room is crucial to avoid crossing the line with humor.Not everyone is comfortable with teasing; it's important to know your audience.Humor can help alleviate anxiety in difficult situations.The intent behind teasing matters; it should not be malicious.Friendship dynamics can shift based on how humor is shared and received.It's okay to acknowledge when humor goes too far and to apologize.Laughter can create a more open atmosphere for communication.Sound Bites"Screw you, dill hole!""I rage quit!""I don't want to be right!"Chapters00:00Standardized Testing and Its Relevance01:14Reflections on Academic Performance and Identity09:34The Impact of AI on Education13:13The Role of Humor in Friendships26:01Teasing as a Form of Bonding33:08Trust and Vulnerability in Relationships33:35The Dynamics of Teasing in Relationships36:15Navigating Humor and Sensitivity39:12The Impact of Family Humor42:19Self-Deprecation vs. Teasing Others46:09Understanding Boundaries in Humor52:20Authenticity in Humor and ConnectionSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, own your stuff. Don't do this martyr thing where everything is your fault. Totally ineffective and the emotional equivalent of making someone else's pain about you. Matt and Rob break down why men sometimes take too much repsonsbility and why that ineffective. And we'll tell you how to stop doing it. So...you're gonna want to listen. Keywordsfarts, humor, emotional intimacy, relationships, male emotional responses, self-awareness, stoicism, emotional mastery, connection, vulnerabilityTakeawaysHumor can be a bonding experience, even with topics like farts.Emotional intimacy is crucial for healthy relationships.Men often struggle with taking responsibility in emotional discussions.It's important to articulate feelings clearly in relationships.Men may retreat into shame when faced with emotional issues.Mastering emotions involves understanding and embracing them.Vulnerability is key to deeper connections.Women also need to manage their expectations in relationships.Avoiding emotional discomfort can lead to unhealthy patterns.True intimacy requires both partners to be open and self-aware.Sound Bites"Everything's my fault, you're right.""Men struggle with intimacy with women.""You have to learn to master the emotion."Chapters00:00The Struggles of Emotional Connection09:04Navigating Responsibility in Relationships17:23The Illusion of Change in Relationships20:33Understanding Emotional Responsibility23:51Navigating Intimacy and Connection27:48Facing Fears and Emotional Isolation31:44Mastering Emotional ExperiencesSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, you vain men. On today's episode, we talk about what drives your behavior. Specifically, we talk about Dr. Arthur Brooks and his concepts of what drives us toward happiness. Matt, Mike, and Rob talk about Money, Honor, Pleasure, or Power--Dr. Brooks' concepts--and which one drives them. Guess which one Rob's is...I may have just let it slip. But listen in and find out. KeywordsManspace, motivations, power, money, pleasure, honor, personal identity, mental healthTakeawaysThe concept of 'manspace' serves as a metaphor for personal space and identity.Power, money, pleasure, and honor are key motivators in people's lives.Honor and fame can drive individuals to seek validation from others.The need for external validation can lead to unhealthy behaviors and choices.Balancing personal desires with the needs of others is crucial for mental health.Therapists often struggle with the perception of their effectiveness and the impact of burnout on their clients.Understanding one's motivations can lead to greater self-awareness and personal growth.The conversation highlights the importance of community and support in overcoming personal challenges.Acknowledging weaknesses and working on them is essential for personal development.Sound Bites"Let the man space be your God.""This is the weirdest job.""I can see how I'm driven by that."Chapters00:00The Man Space: A Unique Perspective02:21Burnout in Therapy: A Candid Discussion04:28Support and Sustainability in Podcasting05:47Pop Culture References and Their Impact07:43Celebrating Birthdays: A Unique Tradition09:24The Scary Movie Tradition10:56Reflections on Aging and Life Expectancy12:48Understanding Pilates and Fitness15:22Exploring Motivations: Power, Money, Pleasure, and Honor26:36Exploring Indulgence and Pleasure28:54The Balance of Pleasure and Effort32:57The Four Principles of Happiness33:51The Role of Money in Happiness36:56The Influence of Socioeconomic Status37:59Honor and Its Impact on Identity40:17The Need for External Validation43:00The Struggle for Recognition45:37Challenging Personal Idols59:35Finding Weaknesses and Working on ThemSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textMga kosmonawt! That's Tagalog for spacemen...maybe. I don't actually know that word. But I don't need to. I just went with my gut. Just like today's episode. Matt, Mike, and Rob talk about the difference between following emotions, anxiety, and your gut. Turns out, there's a difference. We'll show you the way. THEN, listen to your gut. Keywordssoda, leadership, discomfort, instincts, emotions, gut feelings, mental health, anxiety, decision making, self-trustTakeawaysDiscomfort often drives motivation and decision-making.Leadership can create pressure and anxiety.Instincts and emotions can be difficult to distinguish.Trusting your gut can lead to better outcomes.Anxiety can cloud judgment and decision-making.Gut health is linked to mental well-being.Self-trust is essential for personal growth.Listening to your instincts can foster connection.Fear can indicate the direction you should take.Making choices aligned with values is crucial.Sound Bites"I'm drinking his soda.""Just driven by discomfort.""Train your gut. Eat better."Chapters00:00Client Conversations and Ethical Dilemmas01:39Leadership and Taking Charge04:37Discomfort and Personal Growth08:37Instinct vs. Emotion: Understanding the Difference16:24The Role of Anxiety in Decision Making25:35Trusting Your Gut: When to Follow Instincts34:40Gut Health and Mental Well-being: A Holistic ApproachSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacenerds. Gather your fellow spacenerds and retire to the spacenerdery for some book club. Today, we talk about Lesson for Living by Phil Stutz. We get real deep on important ideas the book brings up. Like connecting with something bigger than you, creating, and discipline. It's like we just dish out lessons for living. See what I did there? Man. Is there anything I can't do? Listen in and find out. Keywordspodcast, conversation, Stutz, Lessons for Living, manhood, fatherhood, wisdom, mental health, self-improvement, book club, truth, archetypes, creativity, higher power, belonging, action, mindfulness, shadow self, active love, meaningTakeawaysThe book 'Lessons for Living' offers valuable insights for men and fathers.Facing challenges is essential for personal growth.Experience is more valuable than theoretical knowledge.Wisdom can come from unexpected sources.Scarcity mindset can hinder personal growth.Creativity and action are essential for personal growth.Everyone has a desire to belong to something bigger.Life's struggles are purposeful and meaningful.Embracing discomfort is part of the growth process.Mindfulness helps in recognizing and accepting our shadow selves.Active love is crucial for personal integration.Finding meaning in life's challenges enhances our purpose.It's important to pursue ideas without fear of failure.Personal growth often requires facing uncomfortable truths.Sound Bites"You just ended it?""There is truth out there.""You have to accept it."Chapters00:00Humor and Light Banter01:20Pop Culture References and Music Discussion04:27City Council and Local Politics07:32Waffle Stomper and Urban Dictionary Insights08:01Humor and Lightheartedness in Serious Discussions09:22Exploring the Book: Lessons for Living by Stutz11:31Therapeutic Insights and Common Misconceptions15:04The Role of Action and Experience in Personal Growth18:09Personal Reflections on the Book's Impact22:52The Importance of Creativity and Facing Discomfort27:13Belonging and Connection to a Higher Purpose31:56Navigating Emotions and Growth33:28Parenting Principles and Life Lessons35:08The Pendulum of Change and Growth36:34Motivation and the Role of Deadlines38:49Embracing the Shadow Self42:11Integration of Self and Active Love45:20The Importance of Spiritual Connection48:09Personal Growth and Life Lessons53:08Mindfulness and Present EngagementSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, FOCUS! Or calm down. But probably, focus. Is your relationship a mix of an anxious person and an ADHD person? Or one who is high strung and one who is free-wheeling? Well then listen in. We'll take care of everything. Today, Matt, Mike, and Rob break down, reframe, and rework the dynamics of an anxious "productive" partner with an ADHD "dreamer" partner. It's actually pretty common, and not really what you might think. But I don't want to spoil it. You'll just have to listen in. Keywordspodcast, relationships, anxiety, ADHD, communication, couples therapy, mental health, dynamics, focus, attentionTakeawaysAnxiety and ADHD can create unique challenges in relationships.Communication breakdowns often stem from differing focuses between partners.It's important to depersonalize issues related to anxiety and ADHD.Both anxiety and ADHD can have positive and negative impacts on relationships.Couples should work together to create a supportive dynamic.Understanding each other's perspectives is crucial for relationship success.Labels like anxiety and ADHD can sometimes oversimplify complex relational dynamics.Finding a balance between focus and flexibility is key in relationships.Sound Bites"This is a jam podcast!""It's a relational issue.""Anxiety can be productive."Chapters00:00Couples Dynamics: Anxiety and ADHD02:11Weather and Personal Anecdotes08:13Humor in Therapy and Professional Training14:30Understanding Relationship Dynamics: Anxiety and Control16:18Impulsivity and Trust Issues in Relationships19:04The Complexity of ADHD and Anxiety Diagnoses20:59Reframing Relationship Challenges: Beyond Diagnoses22:55Attention and Focus: The Core of Relationship Conflicts28:04Depersonalizing Relationship Issues: A New Perspective32:29The Impact of Anxiety on Relationships38:16Finding Balance: ADHD as a Superpower45:18Engagement and Focus: Strategies for Couples51:43Restructuring Dynamics: A Collaborative ApproachSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, go run a lap. Get your discipline on. Today's episode is about discipline. But, like usual, Matt and Rob meander their way there and cover all the topics. We actually cover a listener request of the relationship between food, exercise, and mental health. Sorta. So buckle up. Keywordsbattle ready, discipline, mental health, exercise, masculinity, overthinking, food, sports, self-mastery, mindfulnesstakeawaysDiscipline is essential for achieving personal goals.Mental health is not just about feeling happy; it's about understanding and accepting your emotions.Overthinking can hinder progress and lead to stress.Being present in the moment can enhance mental well-being.Small wins and habits contribute to a sense of control and purpose.Discomfort is a necessary part of growth and should not be avoided.The relationship between exercise, food, and mental health is complex and interconnected.Simplifying life can lead to greater peace and fulfillment.Enjoyment in life should not be sacrificed for discipline.Mastery over self is more important than external validation.Sound Bites"Discipline is the same kind of thing.""I want to feel powerful.""Discomfort is not a thing to be avoided."Chapters00:00Introduction to Battle Readiness02:16The Connection Between Sports and Masculinity05:09Mental Health and Discipline08:13Overthinking and Its Impact11:08Grounding Techniques and Mindfulness14:03Therapeutic Conversations and Anticipation17:19The Art of Succinct Communication22:00The Role of Discipline in Therapy26:10Understanding Emotional Responses29:42Mastery and Control in Therapy35:08Building Habits and Discipline38:23Exploring Food and Exercise Habits41:01The All-or-Nothing Mentality44:20Breaking Addictive Patterns46:25Discomfort and Growth47:52Redefining Mental Health49:10Simplicity and Mastery50:47Finding Balance in Life52:51Mindfulness in Eating55:42The Relationship Between Mental Health and DisciplineSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textListen up Spacies. You're not bad at empathy, Women, you're not as good as you think you are. Turns our many men want to be more open, but are afraid it will be rejected by their female partners. So ladies, get better. I mean, it's not really a competition. We just do stuff differently. So if you're interested in getting a little better at empathy and getting annoyed at Rob, listen in.Keywordsempathy, relationships, communication, vulnerability, toxic masculinity, emotional intelligence, gender dynamics, podcast, personal growth, connectionTakeawaysEmpathy is a skill that can be developed by both men and women.Communication dynamics often lead to misunderstandings in relationships.Vulnerability is essential for meaningful conversations.Toxic masculinity can hinder emotional expression in men.Women may feel they have a monopoly on empathy, but men can also be empathetic.It's important to recognize and validate each other's feelings.Humor can serve as a bridge in emotional connections.Both partners need to take responsibility for their emotional health.Listening is a crucial part of empathy and understanding.Relationships thrive when both partners are willing to improve.Sound Bites"Get better.""You're an idiot, relationally.""Nobody's better than anybody."Chapters00:00The Complexity of Emotional Expression02:14Concluding Thoughts on Gender and Empathy10:10Navigating Emotional Vulnerability11:15Understanding Communication Dynamics12:28The Role of Anxiety in Relationships15:26Empathy and Its Challenges18:00The Impact of Personal Accountability19:57Disempowerment in Relationships20:34Exploring Gender Stereotypes23:39The Complexity of Empathy26:54The Interplay of Communication and Empathy29:22Toxic Masculinity and Its Effects31:24Shared Human Experiences34:47The Importance of Listening37:18Balancing Logic and EmotionSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textDudes, get to the store. You've got two days left to get some flowers for your bros. And also maybe the special lady in your life. On today's episode, Matt and Mike talk about valentines traditions, but more importantly how men can show love for each other. So listen in. Don't forget. We heart you. Keywordsrelationships, social dynamics, pop culture, family, Valentine's Day, male friendships, vulnerability, emotional expression, community, connectionTakeawaysRelationships require effort and understanding.Pop culture can influence our perceptions of love and friendship.Family dynamics can complicate celebrations like Valentine's Day.Valentine's Day often emphasizes economic pressures over genuine connection.Men often struggle with expressing emotions and vulnerability.Friendships among men are crucial for emotional support.Creating community is essential for mental well-being.It's important to recognize and address feelings of loneliness.Celebrating connections can take many forms, not just romantic.Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.Sound Bites"I think the reboot was really lame.""You wouldn't let your dream car rust.""Take your loneliness as a serious sign."Chapters00:00Valentine's Day Perspectives and Traditions11:41Valentine's Day Perspectives14:26Navigating Expectations in Relationships18:22The Value of Male Friendships21:34Expressions of Love Among Men27:22Understanding Emotional Connections33:30Finding Meaning in Male Relationships39:58The Importance of Male Friendships45:37Overcoming Barriers to Connection51:33Vulnerability and Openness in Relationships57:42Reconnecting with Oneself and Others01:04:34Taking Action Against LonelinessSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpaceBruhs! Sup. Go get your readers and other nerd glass-type accessories and come get your club on. But the book club kind, not the cool kind of club. On today's episode, we're discussing The Coddling of the American Mind. To be honest, this book might be controversial for some. But it shouldn't be. There's some very helpful stuff in this book. Like, slowing down to listen to other points of view, encouraging resilience in your kids, and challenging your own beliefs. So, get your nerd on. Next book is Lessons for Living by Phil Stutz. KeywordsCoddling of the American Mind, safetyism, resilience, emotional development, cognitive distortions, book club, TV shows, mental health, parenting, emotional intelligenceTakeawaysThe importance of preparing children for real-world challenges.Excessive safetyism can hinder emotional and intellectual development.Labels can create a false sense of identity and limit personal growth.Resilience is about adapting and growing through adversity.Open dialogue is essential for understanding differing perspectives.Concept creep can lead to misunderstandings and mislabeling of experiences.It's crucial to challenge our own beliefs and be open to new ideas.The role of trusted voices in navigating emotional challenges is vital.Humor and personal anecdotes can make complex topics relatable.The next book will focus on lessons learned from adversity.Sound Bites"Words aren't violence.""Stop labeling things so fast.""What if you're wrong?"Chapters00:27Television Shows and Cultural Commentary06:23Book Club Discussion: The Coddling of the American Mind08:48The Coddling of the American Mind12:55Cognitive Distortions and Safety-ism16:24The Impact of Labels and Concept Creep23:37Resilience and Growth in Men35:17The Importance of Open Dialogue44:29Understanding Labels and Their ImpactSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, once again, we answer your most burny questions. This week, we tackle the dilemma that plagued Lucy and Ricky Ricardo--sleeping in separate beds. Believe it or not, there is some debate around this idea. Luckily, the Admirals of the Space-i-verse put it to...bed? Today, we clarify the context around different sleeping arrangements. Turns out, it's less about the arrangement and more about the communication around the arrangement. Weird. We suggest a conversation. It's almost like all problems in life can be solved with a simple conversation. But before you get to that, listen in. AI promises "Each topic is discussed with humor and personal anecdotes, creating a relatable and engaging dialogue." So you know it's good. Keywordsupholstery, nostalgia, Disneyland, sleep, aging, generational differences, media critique, gift giving, comfort, conversation, sleeping arrangements, couples, relationship dynamics, communication, intimacy, separate beds, marriage, connection, emotional health, family dynamicsTakeawaysA great sofa is essential for home comfort.Nostalgia can enhance the enjoyment of childhood memories.Experiences at Disneyland can be immersive and memorable.Temperature can significantly affect sleep quality.Aging brings about various health concerns and changes.Generational identity can influence perspectives and experiences.Critiques of media often highlight acting quality and authenticity.Gift-giving fosters community and connection among friends.Humor plays a vital role in navigating life's challenges.Comfort in relationships can be reflected in sleeping arrangements. Couples may choose separate sleeping arrangements for various reasons, including comfort and personal preferences.Communication is key in understanding the dynamics of a relationship, especially regarding sleeping arrangements.It's important to maintain intimacy and connection, even when couples sleep apart.The decision to sleep separately should be intentional and discussed openly between partners.Many couples experience challenges in their relationship due to unaddressed issues related to sleeping arrangements.The pressure to connect during limited time together can lead to conflicts in relationships.Understanding each partner's needs and preferences is crucial for a healthy relationship.Couples should be aware of the potential long-term effects of sleeping separately on their relationship.It's essential to create a safe space for discussing sensitive topics in a relationship.Navigating the complexities of relationships requires intentionality and open communication.Spread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, did you miss us? Apparently so. Some of you reached out, concerned about our recent hiatus. I'm not sure you can call it a hiatus--more just a whoopsie. Matt and Mike forgot to record when Rob was gone and then SOMEONE forgot to post this episode on time. Sheesh. Don't worry. We're back. And today, we tackle how to handle relationship dynamics when one partner struggles with mental illness. This is another listener request, so you know it's good. According to AI, we explore the importance of understanding mental health diagnoses, effective communication strategies, and the necessity of self-care for both partners. We also emphasize the need for personal growth and the ability to navigate difficult conversations while maintaining a supportive relationship. Man, AI makes us sound like champs. Keywordsmental health, relationships, self-care, anxiety, depression, communication, diagnosis, coping strategies, personal growth, supportTakeawaysChurros can be a delightful distraction.Living with a partner's mental health issues requires understanding and patience.It's essential to differentiate between a partner's mood and their mental health condition.Education about mental health can empower partners to support each other better.Self-care is crucial for partners of those with mental health challenges.Communication is key in navigating mental health discussions.Externalizing the problem can help in understanding the partner's struggles.It's important to recognize that you can't manage your partner's mental health for them.Building personal resilience can improve relationship dynamics.Modeling healthy coping strategies is vital for future generations.Sound Bites--These are generated by AI...and hilarious. "Where's my next churro coming from?""What do you do if you are married to someone?" (REALLY AI?)"You can't manage their stuff for them."Chapters00:00Living with Mental Health Challenges03:39Creative Outlets and Personal Projects07:56Navigating Personal Projects and Self-Promotion09:11Book Discussion: The Coddling of the American Mind10:52Understanding Relationships with Mental Health Challenges14:40Educating Yourself About Mental Health17:08The Importance of Communication in Relationships20:10Externalizing Mental Health Issues24:54Building Self-Confidence in Relationships38:14Modeling Resilience for Future GenerationsSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, EVOLVE! But before you do that, let me just lay down some gems from the AI show note suggestions...words like "light banter", "light-hearted", and "insightful". It's like AI is trying to put us in a 2024 box. Well this is 2025 and we will not be contained. This episode is ridden with "deep insults", "hard-hitting truth bombs", and dare I say "mind-blowing". Okay so maybe it's not that different from 2024, but does it need to be? Do we need to reinvent ourselves every year, or are we all just on a path of ongoing growth and improvement. Sure, fresh starts can be important times to reflect and shift our course, but maybe focusing on larger themes and attributes vs. specific targets is a better way to look at ongoing change. Shoot us a text and share your New Year's Evolutions! KeywordsNew Year's resolutions, personal growth, self-improvement, personal growth, health, lifestyle changes, mindfulness, wholeness, simplicity, meditation, self-improvement, integrityTakeawaysReflecting on the past year can provide valuable insights for the futureSelf-improvement should focus on adding positive habits rather than just eliminating negativesThe idea of 'New Year's evolutions' encourages ongoing growthMindfulness and calmness can enhance creativity and clarityPersonal growth is a continuous journey, not a destinationIt's never too late to start making positive changesLiving deliberately can lead to a more meaningful lifeSound Bites"I like the idea of doing them in March.""Just take off the R.""I like the idea of evolving that way.""It's never too late to start."Spread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textHappy Holidays Space-suckas! On today's episode, we talk about traditions. What's good about them, what's not good. Mike sounds like a real dreamboat because he's so deliberate about his traditions. But, the gist is traditions are important. They help us understand ourselves and create meaning. So make the Manspace a tradition. Listen in. KeywordsChristmas traditions, holiday rituals, family values, significance of traditions, client relationships, holiday greetings, new traditions, cultural significanceTakeawaysChristmas traditions can be both meaningful and burdensome.The significance of holiday greetings varies across cultures.Client gifts can strengthen professional relationships but may feel obligatory.Family traditions evolve and can be adapted to fit current values.Creating new traditions can be just as important as maintaining old ones.Traditions provide a sense of belonging and comfort.Understanding the significance behind traditions enhances their value.Rigid adherence to traditions can lead to negative experiences.It's important to question the relevance of traditions over time.Traditions can serve as a way to reinforce family values and create memories.Sound Bites"What are your Christmas traditions?""I brought my balls.""I want to reinforce this value."Chapters00:00The Dynamics of Therapy and Client Relationships05:07Christmas Gifts and Client Interactions10:07Nutrition and Dietary Choices15:09The Significance of Traditions in Holidays20:34Family Traditions and Their Evolution27:04Favorite Holiday Memories33:08The Importance of Meaningful Traditions42:02Navigating the Dangers of TraditionSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textLook spacemen, Imma be real honest. We let you down with this book. Let's just say it leaves you wanting more? Or maybe, not wanting more? I don't know which of those is bad. Luckily, we the supreme commanders of Manspace Control still managed to pull out some real gems for you. Specifically, we talk about the importance of connecting to something higher or bigger than yourself. And we talk about the power of connecting with people around you. So, settle in and prepare to not read the book. But the next one, you're gonna want to read. Listen in to find out.KeywordsCelestine Prophecy, insights, love, energy, personal growthTakeawaysCultural differences can shape perceptions of gender roles and expectations.The insights from 'The Celestine Prophecy' encourage self-reflection and personal growth.Love and energy are powerful forces in human interactions.Being open to new experiences can lead to meaningful connections.The narrative structure of 'The Celestine Prophecy' may detract from its insights.Understanding the principles behind the insights can be more valuable than the book itself.Engaging with nature and spirituality can enhance personal well-being.Sound Bites"I want to build my own house.""I'm going to make a pie a month.""Get ready to be mad."Chapters00:00Cultural Perspectives on Gender Roles00:58Traffic and Urban Living Frustrations04:12Reflections on Reality TV and Lifestyle Choices06:55Culinary Adventures and Baking Aspirations10:08Discussing the Celestine Prophecy and Its Insights16:17Exploring Interpersonal Ethics and Spirituality19:04The Role of Spirituality in Human Connection22:35Literary Critique: The Storytelling of Insights26:10The Power of Coincidence and Synchronicity30:46Differentiation of Self and Energy Dynamics34:34The Transformative Power of Love41:09Cynicism vs. Openness in Human Interaction47:50Embracing the Unseen Connections56:31Final Thoughts on the Book and Next StepsSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen! Did you ever consider that it's really hard to see something from someone else's point of view? Like, maybe you can't even see how your own perspective changes how you view things. On today's episode, we talk about blind spots we have--how things we've always assumed are correct--might impact how we approach situations. Also, full disclosure, I'm watching a terrible Christmas movie right now. But maybe it's not terrible? Maybe my blind spot is assuming that good acting makes a good movie. Shame on me. But it doesn't have to be shame on you. Listen to the episode. Consider your blindspots. Be a better person. Keywordstherapy, relationships, intimacy, cultural expectations, communication, emotional intelligence, open-mindedness, personal beliefs, acceptanceTakeawaysCultural expectations shape our perceptions.Blind spots in relationships can hinder understanding.Emotional temperatures influence relationship dynamics.Confrontation often stems from a desire to be understood.Judgment can create barriers in communication.Preferences in music and food can lead to conflict.Dietary choices can affect how we perceive ourselves and others.Open-mindedness fosters healthier relationships.Sound Bites"Your way of seeing things is stupid.""I always like to mess with clients.""Kiss me on my hot mouth."Chapters00:28The Weirdness of Physical Intimacy03:33Cultural Expectations of Christmas06:23Blind Spots in Relationships09:25Understanding Different Perspectives12:33Temperature of Emotions in Relationships21:40The Music Debate: Preferences and Judgments23:08Emotional Temperatures in Relationships24:24Electric Vehicles and Environmental Perspectives25:56Diet Choices: Meat, Cheese, and Environmental Impact28:22Persuasion in Relationships: Soft Skills Matter30:27Blind Spots in Dietary Choices31:30Cultural Preferences: Music and Food36:03Navigating Relationships: Preferences and Acceptance38:06Political Views and Blind SpotsSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textLook spacemen, it takes a true spaceman to admit when they're wrong and an even truer one to admit when their wife is wrong. On today's episode, we do just that. We don't actually admit to being wrong, but Mike and Rob talk about how men are the problem in relationships. We're not saying women are, but we are saying we need to stop blaming men for everything. You're doing a good job. Could you do better? Sure! That's why you listen to The Manspace (which, coincidentally, is how I know you are doing a good job). So keep your chin up. Listen in and be not the problem. Keywordsrelationships, men's roles, communication, societal expectations, sexual desires, self-improvement, emotional connection, therapy, understanding, feedback loopsTakeawaysMen need to learn a different relationship with sex.It's important for men to express their feelings.Women often perceive men as the problem in relationships.Men are doing better than they think they are.Communication is key in understanding each other.Societal expectations can distort perceptions of men.Feedback loops in relationships are crucial to understand.Men should not feel like they are the only ones at fault.It's essential to focus on the couple you want to be.Self-improvement is a shared responsibility in relationships.Sound Bites"I'm just glad to be here.""Don't screw this up.""Men are not the problem."Chapters00:00Rant on Gender Roles in Relationships00:32Exploring Emotional Regulation03:37Cultural References and Music Discussions07:35Introduction and Anticipation for Upcoming Events10:32Understanding Men's Role in Relationships12:35The Perception of Men in Society14:46Expectations and Criticism in Relationships16:39The Importance of Communication and Understanding18:33Men's Emotional Needs and Societal Pressures20:32The Distortion of Relationships and Control22:40The Impact of Societal Norms on Relationships24:35Men's Responsibility in Relationships26:45The Role of Sex in Relationships28:37The Need for Emotional Connection30:44Challenging Gender Stereotypes32:33The Importance of Mutual Understanding34:44Final Thoughts on Relationship DynamicsSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textDudes. You should laugh at stuff more. Honestly, when was the last time you laughed your crack off? I mean, besides the Manspace, obviously. Turns out humor is extremely helpful. On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob break down how humor can enhance our relationships, increase connection, and improve creativity. You should listen to the episode and then make a fart joke during your next fight. It'll totally work. Maybe. keywordshumor, sarcasm, relationships, communication, therapy, pop culture, emotional intelligence, self-deprecating humor, interpersonal dynamics, coping mechanismstakeawaysHumor can be a powerful tool in relationships.Sarcasm can sometimes be misunderstood and may hurt feelings.Reading the room is essential when using humor.Humor should enhance connections, not diminish them.Self-deprecating humor can be a safe target.Using humor can help diffuse tension in difficult conversations.It's important to know when humor is appropriate.Pop culture references can enrich discussions about humor.Humor can provide a new perspective on serious topics.Navigating humor requires emotional intelligence.Sound Bites"I have to see humor.""Humor can diffuse tension.""Read the room."Chapters00:00Exploring Humor Types and Their Impact11:23Understanding Self-Defeating Humor20:35The Role of Humor in Relationships26:38Navigating Humor and Seriousness38:54The Impact of Humor on CommunicationSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textNo fear bro. Grip it and rip it. Live free or die hard. Come and take it. And other such sundry fearless phrases. That's what's happening today. We're facing our fears. Well, more just talking about how to live without fear. Today, we review the book The Fearless Mind by Craig Manning. Matt, Mike, and Rob talk about how to have more focus on process, being more task oriented, and worrying less about the outcomes. I bet you thought AI generated that last sentence. Well it didn't. I'm just that good...or bad? Either way, listen in and lose your fear!KeywordsNo Fear, 90s nostalgia, self-regulation, ego, task-mindedness, deliberate practice, feedback, personal development, relationships, The Fearless MindTakeawaysNostalgia can evoke strong memories and connections.Self-regulation is key to personal growth and focus.Ego-mindedness can hinder performance and growth.Deliberate practice is essential for mastery in any field.Feedback should be direct but not sugarcoated.The role of a coach is to guide and sometimes gatekeep.Improvement is a process that requires self-reflection.Focus on what you can control in relationships.Personal development is a lifelong journey.Engaging in the process can lead to fulfillment and happiness.Chapters00:00Exploring the Fearless Mind Book05:07Key Insights from The Fearless Mind10:57Deliberate Practice and Ego Mindset17:02Externalizing Problems in Therapy24:41Taking Responsibility in Clinical Practice25:17Gatekeeping in Education and Therapy26:23The Role of Emotion in Therapy28:21The Challenge of High Performance Coaching30:00Critiques of Coaching Styles33:18The Importance of Self-Reflection35:16Journaling for Improvement36:40Shifting Focus from Negativity to Growth40:14The Process of Continuous Improvement43:35Encouraging Client Growth and Self-Discovery47:52Key Takeaways from the ConversationSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSPACEMEN!!!! I think we've solved it for good this time. I know I've said that before, but this time, we really nailed it. And by we, I mean Rob. It's the Rob show today. Finally, Or unfortunately. Just Rob rambling on about who knows what. I know what. Rob talks about looking at yourself in the relationship and taking responsibility to change things. Far too many people get stuck looking at and blaming the other person. Well guess what? You're the problem. Listen in as Rob lists off your flaws.TakeawaysTherapy can feel like an uphill battle for couples.Cultural narratives often portray men as the problem in relationships.Self-reflection is crucial for improving relationship dynamics.Both partners need to take responsibility for their actions.Men often feel afraid of their wives due to judgmental tones.Women may react harshly due to feeling overwhelmed.Communication styles can significantly impact relationship health.It's important to ask, 'What is my part in this?'Therapists can help couples see beyond surface-level issues.Sound Bites"Hi, it's me. I'm the problem. It's me.""It's a little bit like doing a video journal.""I've noticed this thing recently..."Chapters00:00Introduction to the Solo Journey01:24Reflections on Therapy and Relationships05:14Understanding 'Walk Away Wife Syndrome'09:00The Dynamics of Fear in Relationships19:17Cultural Narratives and Relationship Dynamics23:42The Importance of Self-Reflection in RelationshipsSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, you're remarkable. You're doing a great job. Probably. I mean, you're listening to the show, so clearly you're trying to improve yourself. So nice work. On today's episode, we talk about the effectiveness of positive feedback and how, unfortunately, we're not so great at it. Research shows over and over that we get better results from positive feedback, but we're often afraid that if we don't highlight what was wrong, it won't get fixed. We'll that's just stupid. Stop thinking that. Listen to the episode. We'll get you fixed. TakeawaysSpecific feedback is crucial for both praise and correction.Positive reinforcement can lead to better outcomes than negative feedback.Generational differences affect how feedback is received and interpreted.Building trust in relationships allows for more effective communication.Focusing on what to add rather than what to eliminate can be more motivating.Nostalgia and humor can create a comfortable space for serious discussions.Understanding the motivations behind feedback can improve relationships.Encouragement should be genuine and specific to be effective.Recognizing individual strengths can help in personal development.The way we communicate feedback can shape our relationships significantly.Sound Bites"Quit playing with your dinghy!""I would take 50 Chris Farley movies!"Chapters00:00The Role of Encouragement in Parenting06:49The Impact of Feedback on Generations09:50The Balance of Positive and Negative Feedback11:37Cultural Influences on Motivation15:46The Power of Positive Reinforcement18:28The Importance of Genuine Feedback24:58Understanding Motivation and Support24:59The Power of Hope and Expectancy25:20The Importance of Specific Feedback26:18Understanding Motivation Behind Actions27:26Balancing Positive and Negative Feedback28:38The Impact of Harsh Feedback29:41Recognizing Internal Struggles30:55The Challenge of Improvement31:49Communication in Relationships33:21The Role of Specificity in Feedback36:27Defining by Negatives vs. Positives40:28The Importance of Adding Positives43:50Healthy Relational Ethics46:27The Value of Genuine Praise49:43Building Trust Through Feedback51:20The Power of Positive Reinforcement54:09Focusing on Desired OutcomesSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textLook spacemen, probably the only thing you need to know about this episode is that Matt does not like Ryan Reynolds. You should probably let Ryan know on social media. If I know him like I think I do, he'll want to come on our show and rectify that. I should also make a formal clarification--this episode is NOT brought to you by Ryan Reynolds or any of his affiliate companies. We do talk about other things on this episode too. Specifically what to do if you lost that liking feeling for your spouse. We've all had some level of that feeling. But it turns out, there are some things you can do about it. I know you want me to tell you what, but I want you to do your own work. I gotta watch Monday Night Football. Spread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, pull up a chair. Take a load off. Just relax and be in the Space. You got nothing better to do. On today's episode, we talk about the massive impact of slowing down your life--from your thoughts to your intentions and actions inside your relationship. If you're lucky, we'll even quote Miley Cyrus. But you gotta slow down to hear it. takeawaysSlow living prioritizes mindfulness and intentionality.Engaging in the process can lead to greater satisfaction.Technology often distracts us from meaningful experiences.Quality over quantity is essential for a fulfilling life.Finding balance is crucial in a fast-paced world.The journey is often more rewarding than the destination.Simplifying tasks can enhance our overall well-being.Being present in the moment fosters deeper connections.Slow living can counteract societal pressures to be busy.Engaging in hobbies can provide a sense of purpose.Sound Bites"Slow down, slow the crap down.""Engage in a slow mindful process.""The process is the thing that's engaging."Chapters00:00The Essence of Slow Living01:37Engaging in Meaningful Activities04:38The Process vs. The Outcome07:40Finding Joy in the Journey10:36Mindfulness and Intentionality13:43The Dangers of Hustle Culture16:45Quality Over Quantity19:37The Importance of Relationships22:38Practical Tips for Slow Living25:47The Value of Engaging in the Process28:52The Second Screen Test and Media Consumption31:45The Need for Simplicity34:33Final Thoughts on Slow LivingSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen, at this point, you should really start to look at us like AI; you ask a question and we answer it. And just like AI, we have the answers. If you ask, I can even draw you a picture with a hand and 7 fingers that mesh into one. Look out Gemini. On today's episode, Mike and Rob discuss meeting needs in relationships. Whose responsibility is it to meet needs? What expectations should have have? Don't worry. We'll tell you. keywordsrelationships, personal needs, self-sufficiency, emotional intimacy, communication, implied agreements, balance, support, expectations, connectiontakeawaysNo one will advocate for you in your relationship except for you.It's essential to understand what your needs are before asking others to meet them.The balance between self-sufficiency and support is crucial in relationships.Implied agreements in relationships can lead to misunderstandings if not clearly communicated.Meeting needs is a shared responsibility, but individuals must also fulfill their own.Expectations can lead to disappointment if not openly discussed.Communication is key to understanding and fulfilling each other's needs.Self-awareness is necessary to articulate what you truly need from your partner.Relationships require ongoing effort and commitment from both parties.It's important to recognize when a partner cannot meet certain needs and to adjust accordinglySound Bites"Just two bald dudes with a beard.""No one's going to advocate for you in your relationship except for you."Chapters00:00The Balance of Self-Sufficiency and Support01:31Navigating Seasonal Changes and Personal Reflections04:36The Dynamics of Expectations in Relationships07:35Understanding Implied Agreements in Relationships10:44The Role of Communication in Meeting Needs13:37The Importance of Self-Validation16:51The Complexity of Relationship Needs19:37The Challenge of Meeting Emotional Needs22:42The Role of Vulnerability in Relationships25:56The Impact of Expectations on Relationships28:43Finding Balance in Relationship Dynamics31:44The Importance of Mutual Understanding34:48Navigating the Challenges of Relationship Needs37:43The Journey of Self-Discovery in Relationships40:47Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textHey guys. This week is multimedia. Well...sorta. I mean, if you were a loyal spaceman, you would have read the book already. The book, meaning The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter. If you haven't, it's okay. You can still read it. Pretend you had a book report and read the back cover. Here's all you need to know. It's important for us to challenge ourselves. There's actually a lot of value in being uncomfortable. Listen in and find out. TakeawaysThe importance of being uncomfortable for personal growth.Engaging with nature can significantly improve mental health.Implementing small changes can lead to significant improvements.The Comfort Crisis emphasizes the need for discomfort in life.Personal experiences shape our understanding of mental health.Contemplating death can lead to a deeper appreciation of life.Experiencing discomfort is essential for unlocking potential.Deliberate choices can combat the hurry sickness prevalent in modern life.Greatness often comes at a significant personal cost.Pushing boundaries is necessary for personal development.Choosing the right resources can influence our growth journey.Sound Bites"I could stop doing that.""You should contemplate your death.""Death can come at any time.""We are totally missing our potential."Chapters00:00Introduction and Setting the Scene01:58The Comfort Crisis and Its Impact05:14Personal Experiences with Mental Health08:26The Role of Medication and Self-Help11:29Exploring the Book: The Comfort Crisis14:26Finding Motivation and Implementing Change17:19Nature and Its Benefits20:19The Importance of Discomfort23:28Reflections on Personal Growth26:25Conclusion and Final Thoughts34:59Confronting Mortality: Lessons from Bhutan37:38The Impact of Death on Life Perspectives41:41The Role of AI in Human Potential48:16The Importance of Physical Engagement50:52Finding Balance in Life's Challenges54:17Mental Benefits of Physical Activity59:33The Sacrifices Behind Greatness01:01:28Deliberate Discomfort: A Path to Growth01:09:34Choosing the Next Book: Fearless MindSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacePeeps. Let's get our casting on. On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob talk about emotional dynamics in relationships and why men are sometimes willing to put up with or may not know they are experiencing emotional abuse. It's a complex term and problem, and today we're just beginning the conversation. But there are many men who accept treatment they shouldn't. We talk about why that happens and how to change that in a healthy way. So, head to the drink store and get your manspace on. It's spacecasting time. keywordstherapy, personal growth, relationships, emotional health, communication, abuse dynamics, gender roles, self-awareness, mental health, pickleballtakeawaysTherapy can lead to significant personal growth.Men often struggle to express their emotions due to societal expectations.The origins of pickleball are often misunderstood.Women may react defensively when confronted about their behavior.Emotional abuse can be harder to identify than physical abuse.Men may feel inadequate when their partners express dissatisfaction.There is a societal narrative that often portrays men as the primary abusers.Communication barriers exist in relationships due to gender dynamics.Understanding and empathy are crucial in addressing relationship issues.Both men and women can experience emotional pain in relationships.Sound Bites"I just felt angry the whole time.""Steve Jobs invented pickleball?"Chapters00:00The Truth About Pickleball and Steve Jobs02:11Recognizing Abuse in Men06:35The Power of Witty Banter07:02Introduction07:39Matt's Story08:59Depiction of Women in Sin10:56Accountability for Both Genders12:44Equality in Relationships15:57Difficult Conversations19:34Understanding Emotions22:02Societal Expectations23:53Perceptions of Women and Men31:52Barriers in Recognizing Emotions39:02Fear of Abandonment42:56Importance of Open Communication46:22ConclusionSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSup Sigmas. Get your skibbity toilets ready and put on that sweet Ohio rizz. Go get your middle-schooler and they'll tell you how cool I am. Or that I don't know what I'm talking about. Fanum Tax. On today's episode, we talk about mental health trends and how they lead us to believe in quick fixes. Look, Rob doesn't believe in them, but he's trying to stay open to the possibility that maybe there are some? Or maybe we just have to be cool with work and taking a quick hit, then using that to fuel the work. I don't know. You listen. Especially to Matt, cause it sounds like he falls down a well at some point. Technology, am I right? keywordsannual checkup, colonoscopy, therapy trends, quick fixes, TV shows, survival, skepticism, hypnosis, psychedelics, lasting change, doing the work, integration, temper expectations, holistic perspectivetakeawaysTrends in therapy modalities, such as EMDR and IFS, can create unrealistic expectations for clients seeking quick fixes.Personal growth and change are necessary for overcoming challenges and improving mental health.Doing the work and integrating insights are crucial for sustainable transformation.Change is a multifaceted process that requires ongoing effort and exploration.Tempering expectations and taking a holistic perspective can help navigate the complexities of personal growth.Sound Bites"What did I pay for?""Hypnosis can be very effective for treating tobacco use and cessation.""I don't believe in a fix that is so quick that it required no effort out of me.""People are having life-changing experiences with psychedelics and ketamine-assisted therapy."Chapters00:00Favorite TV Shows14:51The Illusion of Quick Fixes22:14The Importance of Doing the Work30:43Integration and Lasting Change41:02The Complexity of Change50:46Tempering Expectations for Sustainable TransformationSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a textSpacemen! Tune in for a very special episode. Sort of like an after-school special on the importance of getting your colon checked. I know. You were like, "Hey, how come we're not talking more about colonoscopies." Well put your wonder to rest. Today, we talk about Rob getting a colonoscopy. I mean, really only for a minute. Then we talk about why men don't want to go to doctors. Should we go? Yes. Are the reasons we don't go legitimate? Sometimes. But really, go to the doctor. And listen to this episode on the way. It'll give you courage. Get out there!keywordshealth, colonoscopy, dental visits, physical check-ups, men's health, women's health, doctor, medical advice, reluctance, resistance to change, fear, lifestyle changestakeawaysRegular check-ups and screenings are important for maintaining good health.Men may be less likely than women to seek medical care or undergo certain procedures.Humor can be a coping mechanism when discussing uncomfortable or embarrassing health topics.Men often have a reluctance to go to the doctor and receive medical advice, especially if they feel like they already know what the doctor will tell them.There is a resistance to change and a fear of being told that lifestyle changes are necessary for better health.Men may have a tendency to downplay the importance of their health and prioritize other aspects of their lives.It is important for men to take care of their health and seek medical help when needed, even if it means facing uncomfortable truths.Sound Bites"I'm getting a colonoscopy tomorrow""Let me tell you about this one time I heard a dude pooping at QT""When was the last time you guys went to a dentist?""Something dumb like that.""Why did I just pay for this? He's not helping me lose weight."Chapters05:09Taking Care of Dental Health08:47The Need for Physical Exams13:12Gender Differences in Seeking Medical Care16:05Using Humor to Discuss Uncomfortable Procedures32:46Living in Blissful Ignorance41:08Taking Proactive Steps Towards Health46:05The Role of Doctors in Providing GuidanceSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Sup Spacemen. It's me, the spaciverse. Welcome to another episode. Today, Mike and Rob talk about hobbies and all the benefits that come with them. If you're wondering, you'll feel more confident, and have more joy and fulfillment in your life. So get down to the hobby shop and pick up a pinewood derby car, pop a squat and whittle that bad-boy down while you engage in your other hobby: The Manspace!keywordshobbies, benefits of hobbies, social connection, hobbies, challenge, development, fulfillment, joy, interests, accomplishmenttakeawaysHobbies can provide social connections and benefitsHaving hobbies can bring joy and fulfillment to life Hobbies should challenge and develop youConsider your budget and find affordable optionsDon't worry about what others think of your hobbyHobbies can help you feel like yourself and provide a sense of accomplishmentSound Bites"Spacemen, get off your hobby horse and then get back on.""Part of me wants to not, just to, so I can draw attention to the fact that you're not participating in this podcast right now.""A hobby is something that can pull you out and kind of get you in the zone or the flow of something that feels like, man, I just enjoy doing this. It feels really fun."Chapters00:00Excitement of Starting School22:25The Benefits of Hobbies25:23Connecting with Others Through Hobbies26:36Hobbies as a Source of Joy and Fulfillment27:55Personal Growth and Skill Development28:47Creativity and Self-Expression Through Hobbies29:50Creating a Work-Life Balance30:44Hobbies that Make You Feel Like Yourself31:05Reflecting on Hobbies and Life Satisfaction31:35The Importance of Hobbies36:41What Makes a Good Hobby?45:24Fulfillment and Feeling Like a Kid Again52:50Accomplishment and Sense of Achievement57:10Exploring Interests and Goals01:01:13Hobbies and Personal IdentitySpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Spacemen, gather your fellow nerds and prepare to discuss Dave Grohl's The Storyteller. On today's inaugural book club episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob break down what we can take from the book. Things like the importance of connecting with oneself and pursuing passions, the power of parental support and the impact it can have on a person's life. Some of the themes we pull out are deep relationships and seeing adventure and opportunity in life. If you haven't read it, pick up a copy and be inspired to be a drummer? Or whatever else gets you going. Don't forget, next months book will be The Comfort Crisis by Micheal Easter on 9/18/24. Read, nerds!keywordsdeep relationships, being true to oneself, overcoming fears, parental support, pursuing passions, Dave Grohl, The Storyteller, authenticity, self-discovery, connection, music, self-expressiontakeawaysDeep relationships with people, places, values, and interests are important for personal growth and fulfillment.Being true to oneself and pursuing passions can lead to a fulfilling life.Parental support and the ability to overcome fears can have a significant impact on a person's success and happiness.Open yourself up to new experiences and be willing to learn and growConnect with people from different backgrounds and find your tribeValue authenticity, self-discovery, and connectionSound Bites"You really do have to just deeply connect with yourself and be yourself.""The power of a parent who can get over their own fear and get out of the way so you can be you.""This is just another dude""A path without knowing where I'm going next""Just do what you do"Chapters00:00Dave Grohl's Musical References and Drumming03:27Musical Talents and Band Experiences04:15Starting the Book Discussion05:18Expanded Edition and Missing Topics06:07Nirvana's Influence and Kurt Cobain07:25Nirvana vs. Foo Fighters09:29Dave Grohl's Relationships and Connections10:21Deep Relationships and Impactful People12:36The Importance of Being Yourself17:04Themes and Takeaways from the Book21:10Embracing Authenticity and Relationships28:01Finding Your Own Path35:38Expanding Horizons and Embracing Different Styles40:48The Value of Self-Discovery and Understanding45:51Lessons for Fatherhood51:32Living the Life You Want to LiveSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Spacemen, sometimes (read often) on the show, we like to go ahead and speak for all women. Today's episode is no exception. Today, Mike and Rob reveal what attracts women. Is it the big car? Or maybe money? Muscles? I don't want to spoil the surprise, but maybe? Turns out confidence is a key ingredient to attraction. We don't actually speak for women, but more humans in general. Confidence is attractive. So we'll tell you how to develop it. Have we ever steered you wrong? Spread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Bruhs. I'm getting sigma on this skibidi ohio. That way, my social media platform will take off. On today's episode, Mike and Rob talk about how to understand 'truth' we find on the internet and social media. And when I say 'talk about,' I really mean Rob rants for a while.Basically, it matters to be careful about what you consume and trust on the internet. Make sure you do your own research before you run off and start sharing your wisdom. Only listen to The Manspace. We'll never lead you astray. takeawaysStarting a social media platform exclusively for men could provide a space for discussions and resources related to men's issues.Information on social media should be critically evaluated and fact-checked before accepting it as true.The controversy surrounding sleep training highlights the importance of considering scientific research and expert opinions when making parenting decisions. Be skeptical of diagnoses and understand their limitationsQuestion the information you consume on social mediaConsider the potential negative effects of sleep training on family dynamicsConduct your own research and consider multiple perspectivesSound Bites"Welcome to becoming the first.""Can anybody just start a social media company?""You should know that what you're throwing around is not a diagnosis.""The only thing that qualifies someone to be an expert on social media is good looks usually.""We get to craft these narratives that relieve us of all responsibility. It's now somebody else's problem."Chapters00:00Authenticity in Social Media01:29The Lack of Resources for Men06:05The Impact of Social Media on Society08:27The Importance of Trustworthy Information18:39Conflicting Information on Sleep Training27:14The Limitations of Social Media Diagnoses33:53Recognizing the Impact on Relationships37:14The Importance of Healthy Skepticism45:44Recognizing Personal Biases and Emotions54:57Approaching Parenting and Mental Health with HumilitySpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Spacemen, have you ever given much thought to how you smell? Or wondered if others have given much thought about the way you smell? Do you wear cologne? Too much? Wrong scent? Is your lady friend impressed? Does it matter? Today, Matt, Mike, and Rob tackle smell. Matt got all smelled up for the show and really impressed us. Does he ever not? But maybe, we're just impressed with Matt and he just feels more confident when he smells of musk and manliness. So spritz on the ol' Drakkar Noir and listen in. keywordsmen's scents, fragrances, cologne, lotions, body sprays, book club, scent, masculinity, success, memories, preferences, personal confidence, attraction, emotions, moods, individual, hygiene, groomingtakeawaysMen's scents can have an impact on attractionPopular fragrances from the past include Obsession, Drakkar Noir, and Cool WaterSome men use lotions and body sprays as an alternative to cologneThe hosts announce an upcoming book club discussion on Dave Grohl's 'The Storyteller' Finding the right balance with cologne is important, as overdoing it can be overpowering and off-putting.Scent preferences are subjective and can vary between individuals.Certain scents, such as wood or leather, can be associated with masculinity and success.Women may have a higher sensitivity to musk scents, which are commonly found in colognes. Wearing certain scents can make individuals feel more confident and attractive.Scents can be more for the individual wearing them rather than for attracting others.Personal hygiene and grooming play a significant role in self-confidence.Sound Bites"Cannibals functioning on pheromones, rational thought lost to instinctual""It just smelled like something good was happening in there.""It just smells like power and confidence in this place.""Smells like Papa.""Like they're almost kind of like getting in the mood themselves""I feel confident, I feel like a million bucks""Maybe the scent is much more for you"Chapters00:00Nostalgia for Popular Fragrances03:10Discussion on Smells and Fragrances06:51Using Colognes and Lotions09:47Importance of Hygiene and Pleasant Smells14:49Men and Scents: What Attracts Your Wife?23:48The Power of Scents: Memories and Aspirations31:02Wood Shop Smells and Positive Associations34:33Introduction to the topic of wearing cologne36:23The allure of a good cologne applied in the right amounts38:36The perception of cologne as a lack of confidence41:27The personal nature of wearing cologne47:19The science behind attraction and body odor52:28Generational differences in wearing scents57:51Embracing personal preference and confidence in wearing cologneSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Spacemen, did you know you can send us texts? Even request topics? We'll happily cover them for you. Seriously, look up a little. It says send text. So do. Cause today, we talk about a question we were asked. Specifically as it relates to couple dynamics and long-distance relationships. We'll talk about effective communication, setting boundaries, and clarifying expectations. We'll fill you with hope and clear understanding on how to make things work. Listen in.  Also, don't forget, we're starting a monthly book club. We're starting with Dave Grohl's book, The Storyteller. Read it and come prepared to share with the group!Keywordsanxious-avoidant attachment, pursuer-distancer dynamic, long-distance relationship, effective communication, setting boundaries, connection, trust, understanding, scheduling, broadening definition of sexual experience, attachment styles, secure bondTakeawaysIn a pursuer-distancer dynamic, one person pursues while the other distances themselves. To break this pattern, one person needs to stop their behavior, which will cause the other person to stop as well.Managing an anxious-avoidant attachment pattern in a long-distance relationship can be challenging, but effective communication and setting boundaries can help.Tips for managing long-distance relationships include finding ways to connect despite the distance, setting realistic expectations, and prioritizing quality time together.Understanding each other's attachment styles and working together to create a secure and supportive relationship is crucial in overcoming challenges in a long-distance relationship. It is important to be deliberate and overt in communication and expectations in a long-distance relationship.Trust and understanding are key in managing anxiously attached and avoidant patterns.Scheduling consistent times to connect and broadening the definition of a sexual experience can help maintain intimacy in a long-distance relationship.Attachment styles can be worked through and a secure bond can be created in a long-distance relationship.Sound Bites"Like, charge the fortress!""If I stop running, then she'll stop pursuing me so much because she's no longer as worried that I'm running.""It can feel like if I stop, the distancer, the avoidant one, will never reengage.""This is why you don't let Mike do his own shows."Chapters00:00Challenges and Stories from Working with Clients16:32Navigating Long-Distance Relationships17:09Understanding Anxious-Avoidant Attachment17:19Book Club Suggestions: Dave Grohl and 'The Comfort Crisis'17:39Understanding the Dynamics of Long-Distance Relationships18:29Exploring Attachment Styles in Long-Distance Relationships21:34The Challenges of Long-Distance Relationships25:21The Importance of Communication and Understanding27:16Practical Tips for Managing a Long-Distance RelationshipSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Have you ever felt so alone you could cry? Me neither. But Mike sure has. He did this episode all by himself. And man, did he nail it. He talks about the stories that define us and the stories that others use to define us. He shares the story of Emma Carey, a skydiver who survived a 14,000-foot fall, and how she struggles with being defined by that one event. Take home is you don't have to be defined by moments. Listen in. Define yourself.TakeawaysThe stories we choose to define ourselves and the stories others use to define us can have a significant impact on our identity.We have the power to change the narratives that define us and actively work towards creating a more positive and fulfilling story.Happiness is not a fixed state, but a mission statement that requires active effort and a willingness to redefine it for ourselves.It's important to not let external factors or past experiences solely define our happiness and to work towards finding happiness in the present moment.Taking control of our own narratives and actively working towards happiness can lead to a more fulfilling and empowered life.Sound Bites"The stories we choose to define ourselves and the stories others use to define us can have a significant impact on our identity.""Happiness is not a feeling for her. It is a mission statement.""You can make all the changes you want, but it's a long shot that'll make the story go away."Chapters00:00Introduction and Solo Session02:54Emma Carey's Story09:03Defining Ourselves and Others15:25Assigned Stories and Personal Change25:05Working Towards Happiness31:22Taking Control of Our Narratives34:28ConclusionSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Spacemen! Heed my warning! Not really. Today, we debunk some common ideas about divorce. Matt's gone, but Mike and Rob get into it about problems one researcher stated are signs of impending divorce. Don't worry, they're not really. But don't just take our word for it, listen in. As a special bonus, you can go watch Rob's final show with his really cool punk-ska band from 20 years ago. Keywordsinfidelity, causes of divorce, communication, intimacy, divorce, intimacy, financial disagreements, excessive drinking, drug use, jealousy, irritating habits, communication, responsibilityTakeawaysCheating and infidelity are often symptoms of deeper issues in a relationship rather than the primary cause of divorce.The percentage of marriages affected by infidelity is estimated to be between 20% and 45%, but the likelihood of divorce due to infidelity varies.It is important to address the underlying issues that lead to infidelity, such as lack of communication and intimacy.Deal breakers in a marriage, such as infidelity and violence, are often more complex and nuanced than they appear.Open and honest communication, along with a strong emotional connection, are key factors in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Infidelity, lack of intimacy, and financial disagreements are common issues in relationships, but they can be worked through with effort and communication.Excessive drinking or drug use can be extremely damaging to a relationship and may be difficult to recover from.Jealousy and irritating habits can cause conflicts in a relationship, but it's important to consider one's own role and reactions in these situations.Divorce is a personal choice, and there are no guarantees in relationships. It's important to weigh the pros and cons and make a decision that aligns with one's values and goals.Seeking therapy or counseling can be helpful in navigating relationship challenges and finding solutions.Taking responsibility for one's own actions and choices is crucial in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.Sound Bites"Cheating and infidelity are often symptoms of deeper issues in a relationship.""The likelihood of divorce due to infidelity varies.""You can bounce back from infidelity... It takes a lot of work.""Money is a big deal because it represents safety and security.""You're never going back to how things were before... Your relationship will be different going forward."Chapters00:00Podcast Plans and Soda Consumption09:14Exploring Signs of Divorce12:20Skepticism Towards Divorce Predictors14:59Introduction23:18Financial Issues in a Relationship31:56Substance Abuse and its Impact on Marriage37:40Moodiness and its Effect on Relationships42:43Dealing with Irritating Habits in a Marriage46:41Jealousy and Building Trust in a Relationship49:57ConclusionSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Spacemen, we've let you down. I mean, not really, but sort of. We weren't there for you last week when you needed us most. But we, like many people, have limits and have to take vacations from time to time. We're back though, and everything will once again be aligned in the spaceiverse. As you will hear, Rob was absent on this episode. But it's a good one anyway. Today, we talk about how we can learn to love. Matt and Mike talk about the book 'The Art of Loving' by Eric Fromm and the four main components of love: care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge.  More specifically, they talk about respect, care, self-growth, and vulnerability. I mean, did you really think we'd have an episode in which we didn't talk about vulnerability? So, get ready to learn...to love...and to laugh. Put that on your wall. You're welcome. Keywordslove, relationships, care, responsibility, respect, knowledge, effort, understanding, self-growth, vulnerability, relationships, tolerance, sacrifice, well-being, love, acceptance, personal growthTakeawaysLove requires active concern for the well-being and growth of the person we love.Responsibility in love means being willing to respond and take action in service of the other person's well-being.Respect involves fully seeing and understanding the other person, allowing them space to develop on their own terms.Knowledge in love means deeply understanding the other person's inner workings and being able to interpret their actions and emotions.Love is both an art and a science, requiring effort and understanding.The component of love that is often missing or misunderstood is subjective and can vary depending on the individual and the relationship. Respect and tolerance for vulnerability are crucial in relationships.Men often sacrifice their own well-being for the sake of others.Self-care and personal growth are important for maintaining a healthy relationship.Love involves accepting and seeing each other for who they truly are.TitlesThe Art of Loving: Exploring the Components of LoveMissing and Misunderstood: Reflecting on the Components of Love Accepting and Seeing Each Other for Who We Truly AreThe Challenges of Sacrificing One's Well-Being for OthersSound Bites"Care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge""To really love somebody it takes these different things""Love as both an art and a science""There's just not enough toleration of the vulnerability that goes along with allowing yourself to be fully seen so that your partner can respect you.""My job is to be kind of at your service, right. And there's no room for me to be tired or spent or need space and just communicate that to you in a way that indicates that it's fine for me to feel that way and we'll still be okay.""Knowing yourself well enough to let yourself be seen and choosing to see your partner for who they are."Chapters00:00The Joy of Homemade Creations00:25Planning for Future Episodes07:26The Four Components of Love: Care, Responsibility, Respect, and Knowledge13:06The Challenges Men Face in Understanding and Practicing Love18:22The Importance of Self-Care in Love and Relationships24:31Seeing and Accepting Your Partner for Who They Truly Are29:28The Potential for Deep Connection and Fulfillment in Love37:41Closing Thoughts and ReflectionSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Wanna arm wrestle? I'd probably win. I was recently diagnosed 100% manly. I know. You're probably like, 'Obvi Rob.' Well, I wasn't so sure. Luckily, the internet never let's me down. On today's episode, Rob quizzes Matt and Mike to find out how manly they are. And, because we believe ALL men must meet a certain level of manliness to remain in the manliness club, we've provided the link to our quiz here.  Quiz it and tell us how manly you are. Keywordstherapy, manliness, masculinity, leadership, manly movies, asking for help, sense of style, societal expectations, manliness quiz, self-acceptance, individualityTakeawaysThe concept of masculinity is explored through a manliness quiz and discussions about personal preferences. Masculinity is subjective and can vary depending on the individual and the situation.Personal preferences and hobbies do not define one's masculinity.Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to personal style.Gender stereotypes and societal expectations should not dictate one's choices and preferences. Masculinity is a concept that is often defined by societal expectations and stereotypes.Quizzes and labels can limit our understanding of ourselves and others.It is important to be confident in one's true self and not conform to societal norms.Self-acceptance and embracing individuality are key to personal growth and happiness.Sound Bites"You guys are both gonna come out as 100% manliness""One of you got 75% manly. And the other one got 100% manly.""You're always willing to take risks and nothing seems to scare you. And like a real man, you approach your problems and obstacles directly.""I'm confident in my masculinity, even if I barely rate 60% masculine."Chapters00:49Vacation Plans and Work Commitments05:49Navigating Therapy Experiences12:16Exploring the Concept of Manliness21:04Embracing Vulnerability and Asking for Help23:14The Joy of Pets: Cats vs. Dogs25:04Discovering New Hobbies and Interests32:21Subjectivity of Alcoholic Beverage Preferences36:17Exploring the Concept of Masculinity41:55The Results: 75% Manly vs. 100% Manly51:45The Fun of Quizzes and Competing53:12Questioning the Definition of Masculinity56:55The Desire for Acceptance and Belonging59:24Embracing Authenticity and Rejecting Societal NormsSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Come on now, space-cyborg! You're not so bad! In fact, I dare say you might even be a real stand-up guy. Probably doing better than you think. And we'll talk about that today on The Manspace. Matt, Mike, and Rob explore how we beat ourselves up and hold ourselves to unrealistic standards that usually do us no good. We'll talk about self-compassion and will say it in the most cheesy, unsettling of ways.  So, pull up a chair. Be nice to yourself. Listen to The Manspace. Keywordsself-demanding behavior, beating oneself up, nice guy syndrome, internal struggle, negative self-talk, self-compassion, grace, unconditional love, external criticism, projection, defense mechanism, self-doubt, acceptance, kindness, limitations, comparative language, integrityTakeawaysSelf-demanding behavior and beating oneself up can be overlapping and interconnected.Self-compassion and grace are important in counteracting negative self-talk and high self-demands.External criticism can confirm and amplify negative self-perception.Projection of buried grievances onto others is a defense mechanism.Understanding and addressing these patterns can lead to healthier self-perception and relationships. Avoid self-blame and negative self-talk when facing challenges or setbacks.Practice self-compassion by accepting and acknowledging your struggles.Talk to yourself with kindness and understanding, as you would to a good friend.Recognize your limitations and focus on your strengths.Avoid comparing yourself to others and prioritize your own values and beliefs.Maintain integrity by aligning your actions with your personal values.Sound Bites"That self-demanding part of myself pushes me to go over the top and over function for them too.""Treating myself like a human being and being kind to myself feels really calming.""I hate when clients say stuff like, 'I know, I suck at everything.' Don't do that, man.""The markers we have that we are doing a good job... They're not usually quantifiable.""What's the limits of self-compassion? What's the limits of self-care? There has to be limits."Chapters00:00Navigating the Internal Struggle: Self-Criticism and Mental Health09:53The 'Nice Guy' Syndrome: Impact of Societal Standards20:56Navigating Self-Compassion and Integrity28:17The Struggle with Negative Self-Talk43:25Balancing Inner Dialogue and Recognizing Limitations01:03:08Aligning Actions with Core ValuesSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.Shhhh. The Manspace is on. On today's episode, we record dead air for you to *not* listen to. Fine. Not really. But we DO talk about it. I know what you're thinking. "Hey Rob, didn't you guys just barely talk about silence?" Yes, Spaceman, we did. But before, we talked about knowing the times it's good to be quiet in relationships and conversations. This time, it's more using silence as a meditative state. We talk about why it's helpful and how to make it a more deliberate focus. So gather your friends around and tell them to shut up. Then sit in silence. Then turn on the episode and learn why that was good for you. Keywordssilence, solitude, audible silence, emotional silence, thought silence, responsibility silence, nature, intentional silence, men, fear, discomfort, alone time, benefits, concentration, creativity, self-awareness, learning, productivity, calm,  restorative power, meaning, value, present moment, personal values, joy, relaxation, TakeawaysThere may be a biological and evolutionary need for silence and solitude.Being deliberate and intentional in silence can help manage our thoughts and emotions.Spending time in nature can enhance the benefits of silence.Finding time for silence in our busy lives can be a challenge, but it is important for our well-being. Men often fear and feel uncomfortable taking time for themselves and embracing silence and solitude.Wives are often supportive of their husbands needing alone time and would encourage it.The fear of silence leads to filling every moment with noise and distractions.Silence and solitude have numerous benefits, including increased concentration, creativity, self-awareness, learning, productivity, and a sense of calm.Shift your focus from constantly striving for more to finding meaning and value in the present moment.Prioritize activities that align with your personal values and bring joy and relaxation.Incorporate solitude and silence into your daily life, such as by getting up early or avoiding distractions.Be deliberate and intentional in creating meaningful experiences.Sound Bites"Silence is a source of great strength""Matt yesterday almost picked up a hooker""Silence for silence sake is probably meaningless""How do I actually get the most out of the time that I'm in now?""I don't value making more money. I value spending time doing the things I want to do."Spread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Remember in The Little Mermaid when Ursula was like, "and don't underestimate the importance of..BODY LANGUAGE!" in a way that is a little too much for kids to handle? And adults for that matter? I do. Don't act like you don't remember. Own your love of Disney. It's okay. Today, spacebirds, Matt, Mike, and Rob talk about body language. Not in an Ursula kind of way, just in a difference between men and women kind of way. We talk about men finding ways to connect that are sometimes mislabeled avoidant or even homophobic. Really, we are trying to connect through body language just like everyone else. Don't believe me? Listen in and find out. Even AI called the episode "light-hearted and filled with humor." You can't miss. KeywordsCommunication styles, men, women, face-to-face, shoulder-to-shoulder, confrontational, emotional connection, men, women, connection, intimacy, playfulness, physical touch, comfort zoneTakeawaysThe hosts have a playful banter throughout the conversation. Men and women have different communication styles and preferences.Men often prefer standing or sitting at right angles to each other, while women often prefer face-to-face interaction.Men may perceive face-to-face as confrontational, while women view it as fostering emotional connection and honesty.Communication styles vary widely among individuals and there are no one-size-fits-all rules. Men and women have different ways of connecting and expressing intimacyRecognize and accept these differences to foster connection and intimacy in relationshipsBalance playfulness and lightheartedness with deep emotional intimacyPhysical touch and play can be powerful ways for men to connect with their childrenPushing oneself out of their comfort zone can foster growth and connectionSound Bites"Welcome to the Man Space.""I gotta start making sweatshirts.""Maximizing profits with a downline.""If you're talking to a guy, we stand at right angles to each other, not face to face.""Men perceive face to face as confrontational, while women view it as more honest and intimate.""Men and women have different communication styles and preferences.""Men are saying, this is how I feel comfortable being intimate with you.""Men can connect through play and physical touch without needing eye contact."Chapters00:00Introduction and Discussion on Discomfort01:58Planning and Experiencing a Vacation in Punta Cana09:28Geography and Location of Punta Cana12:18Seaweed Troubles at the Beach30:03Intimacy and Protection in Men's Communication Styles36:28The Role of Play in Father-Child Bonding43:08Balancing Deep Emotional Intimacy and Lighthearted Playfulness48:21Accepting Different Forms of Intimacy52:59Maintaining Closeness Through Physical Touch and PlaySpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Spaceabichuelos! I don't know how to spell that and it doesn't even matter. I just called you spacebeans, which is one of many insight you will gain listening to today's episode. Today, we're talking about being alone with your partner. We'll give you some hot tips and cool riffs, just like Ross Cowan in high school. Top-hat wearin' Ross. We talk about the 1/1/1 and the 7/7/7 ratio of spending time with your spouse. Don't know what those are? Don't worry my little beans--we'll tell you. So grab your spouse, both metaphorically and literally, and listen in. Keywordsvacations, quality time, one-one-one rule, seven-seven-seven rule, fashion trends,  dates, relationships, reconnect, responsibilities, distractions, intentional, mindfulTakeawaysTaking vacations as a couple is important for maintaining a strong relationshipThe one-one-one rule (one date per week, one day together per month, one vacation per year) is a helpful guideline for spending quality time togetherSetting aside time for each other away from responsibilities and distractions is importantVacations and dates can help couples reconnect and remember why they love each otherTransitioning into vacation mode can be challenging, but being intentional and mindful can helpIncorporating elements of vacation and date mindset into regular routines can keep the relationship strongSound Bites"Welcome space beans""Who eats this for breakfast?""The untouched didn't happen""Before we get into this massively transformational.""Almost everybody I've asked, I can't think of anybody who hasn't answered me this way.""There's a mistake in believing if you do these things, your relationship will be repaired."Chapters00:00Nostalgia for 90s Fashion Trends and Music02:45Exploring Regional Accents and Concert Experiences08:44The Fascination with Texas Accents13:37Introduction to the importance of vacations22:09Rules and guidelines for planning vacations27:34The transformative nature of vacations29:42Incorporating vacation elements into everyday life31:59The Importance of Making Time for Vacations and Dates32:47Transitioning into Vacation Mode: The Need for Intentional Effort33:51Exploring New Places and Activities Together44:29The Role of Planning and Responsibility in a Relationship47:07Trying New Things to Keep the Spark AliveSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Calm down spacemen. Today, Matt, Mike, and Rob rationally delve into the wide world of logic. I know what you're thinking, "Hey Rob, didn't guys do a previous episode on the necessity of emotions over logic?" Yes, you have a point there. But what sort of men of space would we be if we could not confidently state, "We were wrong!" And by 'wrong' we mean, we have more to say on the subject that will clarify things. Spoiler alert, it involves balancing logic and emotion. We are nothing if not balanced. Keywordslogic, emotion, relationships, perception, couples therapy, communication, understanding, problem-solving, relationships, societal expectations, validation, trustTakeawaysDifferent people interpret and perceive emotions differently, and context plays a significant role.Logic and emotion both have a place in relationships, and it's important to find a balance.In couples therapy, it is common to ask men to connect with their emotions and women to engage their logical thinking.Balancing logic and emotion is crucial in relationships, as both perspectives are valuable and necessary.Effective communication involves understanding and respecting each other's ways of thinking and processing information.Both partners should be able to move between the logical and emotional realmsTherapists play a role in helping clients navigate these dynamicsValidating emotions while encouraging logical thinking is importantTrust and recognizing each other's capacities are key to successful conversationsSound Bites"This podcast is the raddest of them all""Your salad's not really cutting it""I liked it, actually""Women, Logic Up.""Get out of my dreams, get into my car.""I know it feels like I'm being dismissive, but right now you're getting so flooded.""Our society has decided logic is more better""At some point we have to learn how to separate what we're hearing emotionally and applying some amount of logic to it""How often do we ask women what they think?"Spread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Bruhs, let's play the quiet game. You start, cause I have a lot to say. But fair warning, the audio of what I say will be horrible today. I don't know why. It's unknowable. On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob explore the importance of silence in various situations. We also touch on the moments in life where it is best to stay silent, according to psychology. And, AND, we extend a call to (in)action. Try it out, you'll thank us. Keywordssilence, teaching, teenagers, psychology, moments in life, staying silent, support, empathy, listeningTakeawaysSilence can be an effective teaching tool, especially with teenagers.There are moments in life where it is best to stay silent, according to psychology.Silence allows others to be the expert and can boost their confidence.Listening and being present in the moment can be powerful forms of support and empathy.Sound Bites"That was my cue to ask the question again. So I would, and I usually ask it in a more playful joking way.""Silent but violent.""They just needed to be together."Spread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!