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Ever found your mood shift instantly because of something small—like someone cutting you off in traffic, your partner’s mess, or the physical discomfort of anxiety? In this episode, Carly explores a powerful concept from Japanese Psychology called shiso-no-mujun—the internal tension between how things are and how we wish they were. Using a very real (and very relatable) moment from her morning, she talks about how recognising this tension can help us respond to life’s little irritations with more clarity and less reactivity. This one’s for anyone who’s had their mood hijacked by the everyday—and wants take control of how they respond to those everyday challenges.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode of Mojo Monday, Carly Taylor explores the quiet wisdom of a Zen koan—a simple phrase that invites reflection on our human tendency to resist what is, and a gentler path toward clarity and purpose. If you're going through a struggle right no, this episode might offer another way to meet what’s here. Carly Taylor is a Mental Fitness Coach and speaker passionate about helping people tame their mind so they can live a rich, meaningful and fulfilled life. She is trained in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Japanese Psychology, is an IIN qualified Health Coach and is currently undergoing a Masters of Counselling. Connect with Carly: Website: www.carlytaylorcoaching.com.auInstagram: carly_taylor_coachingLinkedin: linkedin.com/in/carly-taylor-61134bb9/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Have you ever felt the urge to step away from the daily grind to rediscover your purpose? Perhaps a major life transition has left you questioning your path.In today's fast-paced world, the concept of taking time off, or taking a sabbatical, can seem daunting and even impossible. Yet, many find that a deliberate and guided sabbatical can serve as a transformative experience, leading to personal growth and a renewed sense of purpose. Meet Monika Lewicka, an adventurer and transformational tourism leader who is passionate about empowering women to navigate significant life changes through travel.Monika's philosophy is rooted in the belief that travel is more than an escape; it's a tool for transformation. In this episode, Monika shares her journey of self-discovery achieved through visits to over 70 countries. Her immersive travels have been a catalyst for her own empowerment and now serve as the foundation of her work in guided sabbatical programs for women.Whether you're facing a life transition, seeking to overcome burnout, or simply looking to rediscover your purpose, a guided sabbatical could be the key to transformation. Monika's journey is proof that embracing travel with intentionality, respect, and an open heart can lead to profound personal growth and fulfill the deepest human desire to connect and be of service to others.We talk about:00:00 Rediscovering Your Purpose Through Sabbaticals02:44 Two Truths and a Lie: Travel Edition06:19 Monika's Transformational Travel Journey10:05 Empowering Women Through Intentional Travel15:02 The Role of Japanese Psychology in Personal Growth27:23 Common Life Transitions and the Need for Sabbaticals31:09 Reflecting on Personal Relationships32:28 The Power of Sabbaticals36:25 Choosing the Right Destination39:54 Stages of the Sabbatical Journey48:21 Embracing Discomfort and Transformation56:01 Rapid Fire Questions and Closing ThoughtsConnect with MonikaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowered.travel LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/empowered-travel/ https://www.empowered.travel/ Thanks To Our Sponsors:AndBeyond: Check out their collection of sustainable & luxurious lodges, camps and itineraries at here: https://transform-with-travel.captivate.fm/andbeyond Connect with KellyFollow the Podcast on IG: http://www.instagram.com/transformwithtravel Follow Kelly Tolliday on IG: http://www.instagram.com/kelly.tolliday Transform With Travel Website: https://www.transformwithtravel.co More Episodes Like This? Episode 59: How To Create a Vision Board For Travel
Low self-worth can be debilitating, leading to avoiding doing the things that really matter. Today, Carly approaches self-worth with a bit of a different perspective. Using a framework she calls the 4A's, this unique approach may change the way you respond to low self-worth. Carly Taylor is a Mental Fitness Coach and speaker passionate about helping people tame their mind so they can live a rich, meaningful and fulfilled life. She is trained in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Japanese Psychology, is an IIN qualified Health Coach and is currently undergoing a Masters of Counselling. Connect with Carly: Website: www.carlytaylorcoaching.com.auInstagram: carly_taylor_coachingLinkedin: linkedin.com/in/carly-taylor-61134bb9/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Mindful eating has been shown to profoundly improve our relationship with food, influence how much we eat, and even enhance digestion. This week, Carly shares practical strategies to help you eat mindfully, so you can fully enjoy your meals and experience the many benefits that come with this simple yet effective practice. Carly Taylor is a Mental Fitness Coach and speaker passionate about helping people tame their mind so they can live a rich, meaningful and fulfilled life. She is trained in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Japanese Psychology, is an IIN qualified Health Coach and is currently undergoing a Masters of Counselling. For more information, go to carlytaylorcoaching.com.auFollow her on LinkedIn or Instagram: carly_taylor_coaching. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It's hard being human. We feel a landscape of emotions and many of them we struggle with. This week, Carly talks through 3 approaches that have changed how she responds to her uncomfortable and highly inconvenient emotions so they don't get in the way of life. Carly Taylor is a Mental Fitness Coach and speaker passionate about helping people tame their mind so they can live a rich, meaningful and fulfilled life. She is trained in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Japanese Psychology, is an IIN qualified Health Coach and is currently undergoing a Masters of Counselling. For more information, go to carlytaylorcoaching.com.auFollow her on LinkedIn or Instagram: carly_taylor_coaching. For further reading and resources, check out the following: Books by Japanese Psychology expert, Gregg Krech Audio script for Dropping Anchor by Russ Harris Little Book of StoicismSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
On this week's Mojo Monday, Carly dives into a powerful skill we can all cultivate to help us persevere when life gets tough and our minds tell us to give up. Discover how to build inner resilience and keep moving forward, no matter the challenges. Carly Taylor is a Mental Fitness Coach and speaker passionate about helping people tame their mind so they can live a rich, meaningful and fulfilled life. She is trained in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Japanese Psychology, is an IIN qualified Health Coach and is currently undergoing a Masters of Counselling. For more information, go to carlytaylorcoaching.com.au or follow her on Instagram: carly_taylor_coaching. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode of Mojo Monday, Carly shares how you can move through the fear and build that confidence that is holding you back. Loving the podcast? Consider leaving a review as it helps us keep the podcast going. Carly Taylor is a Mental Fitness Coach passionate about helping people tame their mind so they can live a rich, meaningful and fulfilled life. She is trained in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Japanese Psychology, is an IIN qualified Health Coach and is currently undergoing a Masters of Counselling. For more information, go to carlytaylorcoaching.com.au or follow her on Instagram: carly_taylor_coaching.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Waking up feeling anxious or feeling a sense of dread can lead to overthinking and rumination and stop you getting out of bed while you figure out what to do. In this episode, Carly shares some effective actions to try, so anxiety doesn't dictate the rest of the day. Loving the podcast? Consider leaving a review as it helps us keep the podcast going. Carly Taylor is a Mental Fitness Coach passionate about helping people tame their mind so they can live a rich, meaningful and fulfilled life. She is trained in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Japanese Psychology, is an IIN qualified Health Coach and is currently undergoing a Masters of Counselling. For more information, go to carlytaylorcoaching.com.au or follow her on Instagram: carly_taylor_coaching. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
All of us have an inner critic. Eckhart Tolle calls that part of us the Tormentor, we call it our inner Gremlin. Whatever you want to call it, you have a choice whether this voice dictates your life. In this episode, Carly dives into some strategies so you can get unstuck and live your life well. Loving the podcast? Consider leaving a review as it helps us keep the podcast going. Carly Taylor is a Mental Fitness Coach passionate about helping people tame their mind so they can live a rich, meaningful and fulfilled life. She is trained in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Japanese Psychology, is an IIN qualified Health Coach and is currently undergoing a Maters of Counselling. For more information, go to carlytaylorcoaching.com.au or follow her on Instagram: carly_taylor_coaching.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this special Thanksgiving episode of Grounded and Soaring, Sam Shapiro speaks with Gregg Krech, author and expert on Japanese psychology, about creating a family culture of gratitude. Explore how Naikan reflection—a method of structured self-reflection—can help families counteract negativity bias and develop meaningful habits of appreciation. Episode Highlights: The Naikan Reflection Practice: Three powerful questions to operationalize gratitude. The Impact of Gratitude: How shifting focus from complaints to appreciation transforms relationships and family dynamics. Cultural Differences in Gratitude: Why Japanese practices like Naikan emphasize facts over fleeting feelings. Practical Tips for Parents: Daily routines and holiday traditions to inspire gratitude in children. Overcoming Complaints: Strategies to honor children's emotions while guiding them toward problem-solving and noticing support. This conversation is packed with actionable insights for parents and educators. Discover how gratitude can be a life-changing practice for your family. Visit groundedandsoaring.org for more resources, including holiday reflection exercises to try with your family.
In this episode, Carly explores the power of embracing life as it truely is. We often get stuck on how things 'should' be, but that mindset can lead to frustration, stress and disappointment. Whether it's family gatherings, challenging situations, or unexpected turns in life, learning to accept reality helps us find peace and live more fully in the present. Carly will dive into practical ways to release the struggle and focus on what truely matters. Carly Taylor is a Mental Fitness Coach passionate about helping people tame their mind so they can live a rich, meaningful and fulfilled life. She is trained in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Japanese Psychology, is an IIN qualified Health Coach and is currently undergoing a Maters of Counselling. For more information, go to carlytaylorcoaching.com.au or follow her on Instagram: carly_taylor_coaching.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode of Mojo Monday, Carly offers skills and strategies to manage the inner chatter that can lead to a fear of failure, drawing on her own experience. Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Japanese Psychology, Carly explains how to build psychological flexibility to manage that relentless inner voice, make room for fear, move forward with purpose, and achieve your goals.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Morita Therapy is an approach from Japanese Psychology that is now being used in the West. It's a natural approach to Mental Health that everyone can apply to their daily lives. On today's Mojo Monday, Coach Carly explains what Morita Therapy is and how it's positively impacted her own wellbeing. If you would learn more about Morita Therapy, you can get in touch with Carly at www.carlytaylorcoaching.com.au.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
If you're a regular listener to the podcast, you will have heard Carly talk about Gregg Krech - today, we have the great man himself on the podcast and we have a wide-ranging conversation about the myriad of applications of Japanese Psychology to modern life. If you're interested in learning more about the course on attention, here is the link. Use the code Taylor10 to get a $10 discount. You can also check out Gregg's courses, books and lots of free resources at https://www.thirtythousanddays.org/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This week's Mojo Monday with Coach Carly is the final of a 4-part series on Japanese Psychology and it's all about taking action. Not just any action, but purposeful action. We chat about the difference between mindless action and action that has purpose, meaning and value and provide you will a tool we both use to help with consistency.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Many of you know that I'm kind of in love with Japan. I lived there in my 20's for nearly three years, I studied the language intensely, and because it offered such a different point of view from what I grew up with, it informed how I think. This episode is dedicated to Japanese psychology and—procrastinators, listen up—it is also dedicated to taking action. As you'll hear from my guest, we have, on average, around 30,000 days of life. To deal with this reality, there have been some great contributions to the field coming from Japan—and you'll get to hear and learn about therapies you may never have heard of, specifically, Morita and Naikan Therapies. And many people have been loving Marie Kondo's work and have seen her Netflix special and have rid their homes of anything that didn't bring them a spark of joy, as she so brilliantly puts it. Her thinking, too, is in line with this way of thinking as I see it. To make the concepts super accessible to my listeners, I found a man who has been studying and teaching Japanese psychology for over three decades and has presented on the topic internationally multiple times. Gregg Krech (https://www.thirtythousanddays.org/) is the founder and executive director of the Todo Institute, a non-profit organization in Vermont dedicated to the study of Japanese psychology. Gregg is the author of multiple books on this topic including one on Naikan which Publishers Weekly described as “illuminating and instructive." In addition, he wrote a book that has been read with overwhelmingly positive reviews by a very wide audience, The Art of Taking Action: Lessons from Japanese Psychology. So, listen in as Gregg and I get into the art of taking action and lessons from Japanese psychology.
“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you're not going to stay where you are now” - JP Morgan In this episode of the Plan B CRNA podcast, the host, Bobby Jones, discusses how taking action can lead to positive outcomes and how to get started with achieving goals. He emphasizes the importance of setting realistic goals, breaking them down into smaller, more manageable tasks, making a plan, and getting support from others. Bobby also explains how taking action can have a positive impact on mental health, leading to a sense of accomplishment, increased self-esteem, confidence, and momentum. He encourages listeners to start small with exercising and build up from there, and to remember that taking the first step is the hardest part.Nothing Happens Until You Take Action! by Robert Ringer.The Art of Taking Action: Lessons from Japanese Psychology by Gregg Krech.Just Start: Take Action, Embrace Uncertainty, Create the Future by Paul B. Brown, Leonard A. Schlesinger, and Charles F. Kiefer The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson (Podcast Editor's suggestion)Links for more information on how YOU can take action and get started today!! https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2474765/https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40279-013-0090-5https://www.sweetbutfearless.com/blog/6-ways-to-motivate-yourself-to-take-actionhttps://www.nytimes.com/2017/01/25/well/move/get-up-and-move-it-may-make-you-happier.htmlTo find out more about investing in multifamily real estate schedule a call at https://www.oncallinvestments.com/Are you a healthcare provider exploring options outside of your traditional career path? Be a guest on The Plan B CRNA podcast! Email me at: Bobby@oncallinvestments.com for more information
We've heard a lot of first meeting stories here in the bathroom, but Paul & Carly Taylor's certainly takes the cake for the wildest! They also chat to Cam and Ali about how we can build resilience in parents and kids, the positive influence religion can have, and how values can be the north star for families. LINKS Follow Paul on Instagram @mindbodybrainpi. Follow Carly on Instagram @carly_taylor_coaching. Learn more about Paul and Carly on their website https://www.mindbodybrain.com.au/. Listen to Paul's podcast The MindBodyBrain Project. Follow Cam on Instagram @camerondaddo. Follow Ali on Instagram @alidaddo. Follow Nova Podcasts @novapodcastsofficial. Got a question for Cam & Ali? You can email them at separatebathrooms@novapodcasts.com.au. CREDITS Hosts: Cameron Daddo and Alison Brahe-Daddo. Guest: Paul Taylor & Carly Taylor.Managing Producer: Elle Beattie. Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball. Find more great podcasts like this at novapodcasts.com.au. Nova Entertainment acknowledges the traditional custodians of the land on which we recorded this podcast, the Gadigal People of the Eora Nation. We pay our respect to Elders past and present. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Explore What Jane Has To Offer!!! In this episode….ACU-O49 Today I'm talking with Henry McCann, and we originally recorded this episode to share a case study with you, but what has been happening with my case studies is that they get really, really long, so I'm breaking this one up into two parts.Be sure to tune in and subscribe so you don't miss the juicy case presentation in Episode 50. But for now, here is wht you'll learn:Well, first we get to know Henry and his background.Next we talk about Master Tung. Who he was and how it came to pass that we are now able to learn this style of AcupunctureWe touch on the basics of Tung style acupuncture, the type of needling involved as well as the fundamentals of the practice.We spend some time talking about challenges that beginners experience and how to progressively work thru learning new systems while practicing the medicine.Lastly, Henry share with us a simple marketing tip that works wonders in his clinic.today's guestHenry McCann, DAOM, LAc, Dipl OM (馬爾博 中醫博士)Dr. McCann is a licensed acupuncturist and doctor of East Asian (Chinese) Medicine with a private practice in Madison, NJ. Dr. McCann finished a BA and BM at Oberlin College following which he studied at the University of the Ryukyus in Okinawa, Japan as a Fulbright fellow. He then attended the oldest college of East Asian Medicine in the United States, the New England School of Acupuncture. In an effort to further his own clinical training he completed his advanced practice doctoral degree at the Oregon College of Oriental Medicine; as part of that degree he interned in the gynecology department of the Chengdu University of Chinese Medicine (Sichuan, China). He completed a certificate in Japanese Psychology with the ToDo Institute in Vermont, and coursework at the PhD level through Nanjing University of Chinese Medicine in China.In addition to his clinical practice Dr. McCann is committed to bringing East Asian Medicine to a higher level by educating professionals in advanced concepts in acupuncture and Chinese herbal medicine. He is an experienced teacher and is a core faculty member for the doctoral degree program at the Oregon College of Oriental Medicine where he teaches clinical case study writing, geriatric medicine, and Tung's acupuncture. He is also on the faculty of the Pacific College of Health and Science in Manhattan teaching the medical classics (Huang Di Nei Jing and Nan Jing), and the Academy of Chinese Culture and Health Sciences where he teaches Tung's acupuncture. Dr. McCann has taught widely throughout the United States, as well as in Germany, Ireland, Holland, Austria, Indonesia, and Australia. He is a 12th generation lineage holding disciple of Chen Style Taijiquan, a 3rd generation lineage disciple of Hunyuan Chen Style Taijiquan, and a disciple of a Qigong lineage transmitted by Hu Yaozhen that originated with the Daoist Immortal Chen Tuan. Dr. McCann is also ranked as a 5th Duan in Taijiquan by the Chinese Wushu Association (with the rank being awarded in China). The Duan ranking system is similar to the "Dan" black belt ranking of Japanese martial arts (the Chinese system has 9 ranks, with 6th Duan being the highest technical proficiency level awarded).Join the 3,2,1 Newsletter! Every month 3 business ideas, 2 Clinic Tips and 1 Burst Of Inspiration. I also include more in depth information that I can't cover on the podcast. Don't miss it!Join The Monthly Newsletter resourcesCheck out Henry's
Carly Taylor is trained and experienced in Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Japanese psychology (Morita Therapy and Naikan); she is a University qualified nutritionist, personal trainer, and a health coach with over 10 years experience in the area of behaviour change. Her coaching covers all domains of life: mindset, nutrition, movement, and sleep; it is centred around living a life based on values and purpose as opposed to a life dictated by thoughts and emotions.In this episode of the Ikigai Podcast, Nick speaks with Carly Taylor about the positive results of applying Japanese psychology in our lives.
In this episode, I share my journey into baldness caused by Alopecia Areata. September is Alopecia Awareness month, so I'm happy to share this episode now. No matter what our hair looks like or changes to, we are never satisfied. Hair seems one of the most prominent marks of our self. We seem uniquely attached to our hair as self. My hair loss first started in mid-December 2021, then paused and seemed to start growing back, then in April it was on a steady downward trend. And by July, I began to make peace with the fact that I was losing so much hair there wasn't much of a point in trying to hide it, so I shaved it all off. This was a process of working to accept things as they are, called Arugamama, from Morita Therapy in Japanese Psychology. Listen to this episode to see how I've come to accept my new bald self. ***************** Book, Diamond Sutra by Red Pine, mentioned in this podcast: The Diamond Sutra - Translation & Commentary by Red Pine My book, mentioned in this podcast: Everyday Buddhism: Real-Life Buddhist Teachings & Practices For Real Change
Carly Taylor is a Mindset Coach and accredited health Coach with qualifications in Japanese Psychology and ACT (Acceptance-Commitment Therapy). In today's session, we delve into overthinking and how to overcome it.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
We look back on last episode's dive into the field of Japanese psychoanalysis, and discuss what we missed. In particular, we tackle the concepts of Lacanian's Lalangue, the Big Other, and dreams! We also discuss the castration tale of Sada, and Luke Ogasawara hypothesis that Japanese people are either paranoid or pervert. Quite a lot of risque topics :)We end by casually talking about Yoann's recurring nightmares about Japanese arcade games...Join us on:notdailypodcast.com@NotDailyPodcastnotdailypodcast@gmail.com
Gregg Krech is an author, poet, and one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology in North America. His work has been featured in THE SUN magazine, Tricycle, SELF, Utne Reader, Counseling Today, Cosmopolitan and Experience Life. His books include "Naikan: Gratitude, Grace, and the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection," "A Natural Approach to Mental Wellness," "The Art of Taking Action" and "A Finger Pointing to the Moon." Gregg and his wife, Linda, founded the ToDo Institute (http://www.todoinstitute.org), a non-profit center in Vermont that uses Japanese Psychology as an alternative to traditional Western approaches to psychology. Over the past 25 years, Gregg has introduced Japanese Psychology, particularly Naikan Therapy, Morita Therapy and Kaizen, to thousands of people through his workshops and online courses. His work supports a blend of the psychological, the spiritual and the practical, and helps individuals to clarify purpose, cultivate gratitude, develop compassion and engage in meaningful action.
Today's episode is with my (much) better half, Carly Taylor, as we explore a very powerful self-reflection tool from Japanese Psychology that I like to describe as 'Gratitude on Steroids', and as you'll see, it's a great method for enhancing or repairing relationships in your life.To find out more about Naikan, check out the book titled 'Naikan' by Greg Krech's, Carly's mentor in Japanese Psychology.For coaching with Carly, check out her website.
My guest today is definitely a thought leader and PracAdemic on resilience. Dr. Lucy Hone's is much in demand as a public speaker, with her TED talk, 3 Secrets of Resilient People, viewed over 6 million times. Adjunct senior fellow at the University of Canterbury, her research is published internationally, and her PhD was acknowledged for its outstanding contribution at the World Congress of Positive Psychology in 2019. She is the author of the best-selling book, Resilient Grieving, co-author of Educators' Guide to Whole-school Wellbeing, and co-convenor of the Wellbeing in Education NZ conferences.Check out Lucy's website for talks, books and online courses. Here is the link to the facebook page for the podcast - jump on there and comment on episodes and share your ideas for future podcasts. Finally, if anyone wants some Mindset coaching, based on ACT and Japanese Psychology - and if you're prepared to do the work - go to carlytaylorcoaching.com.au
This episode beautifully sets the tone for Well, hello anxiety. For those of us who know anxiety well, too well; we know it has a way of getting in the way of what's important. In this episode, Mindset Coach Carly Taylor shares powerful insights from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Japanese Psychology that support anyone struggling with anxiety to find a way forward, even if anxiety has to come along for the ride.Carly's website: carlytaylorcoaching.com.auCarly's Instagram: @carly_taylor_coachingThanks for listening to this episode of “Well, hello anxiety with Dr Jodi Richardson.”How you can help: If you enjoyed this episode, or gained some useful insight from it, please share it with a friend or family member. Also, please consider rating or reviewing “Well, hello anxiety” on your favourite podcast platform. Thank-you!Jodi is an anxiety and well-being speaker, educator, and bestselling author. Learn more: https://drjodirichardson.com.Order Jodi's book, “Anxious Mums: How mums can turn their anxiety into strength”: https://drjodirichardson.com/product/anxious-mums/ or https://amzn.to/2YtA3ks.Order Jodi's book, coauthored with Michael Grose, “Anxious Kids: How children can turn their anxiety into resilience”: https://drjodirichardson.com/books/#order or https://amzn.to/3Bzxn3v.Connect with Jodi on LinkedInFollow Jodi on InstagramLike Jodi's Facebook pageThe information provided on this Podcast is for general educational purposes only, and is to be used at your sole risk. We are not liable for any reliance on this information, and it is not a substitute for professional medical advice. We recommend you seek a medical or healthcare professional if you are seeking advice, diagnosis or treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
GREGG KRECH is an author, poet, and one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology in North America. His work has been featured in THE SUN magazine, Tricycle, SELF, Utne Reader, Counseling Today, Cosmopolitan and Experience Life. His books include "Naikan: Gratitude, Grace, and the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection," "A Natural Approach to Mental Wellness," "The Art of Taking Action" and "A Finger Pointing to the Moon."Gregg and his wife, Linda, founded the ToDo Institute (http://www.todoinstitute.org), a non-profit center in Vermont that uses Japanese Psychology as an alternative to traditional Western approaches to psychology. Over the past 25 years, Gregg has introduced Japanese Psychology, particularly Naikan Therapy, Morita Therapy and Kaizen, to thousands of people through his workshops and online courses. His work supports a blend of the psychological, the spiritual and the practical, and helps individuals to clarify purpose, cultivate gratitude, develop compassion and engage in meaningful action. He is a member of the North American Naikan Counsel and Editor in Chief for the quarterly journal "Thirty Thousand Days: A Journal for Purposeful Living. https://www.thirtythousanddays.org/
My guest today is Trudy Boyle, an expert in Japanese Psychology, who specialises in running courses for people with chronic illness. Trudy formerly had cancer and used the techniques from Japanese Psychology to help her get through that period and for the last 11 years, Trudy has run programs on Living well with Cancer at Wellspring Calgary and has now published a book on thesubject. In the podcast, we discuss the practical application of Japanese Psychology concepts, including ikigai, arugamama and kaizen. Check out her book, Ikigai and Illness: A Guide to Living Fully with Purpose, Meaning and Joyful Moments. Although the title suggests that it's for people with illness, I think all of us would benefit from the principles and teachings of this book. Also check out Trudy's website for more information and some excellent resources and if you are living with an illness, check out Trudy's online course in conjunction with the ToDo institute. For those interested in The Better You program, click here to find out more and access early-bird pricing until July 12th.
So many things seem to be beyond our control in this fast-paced world. As a result, we've developed anxieties and worries that we carry every day. With their weight, we may find it more challenging to achieve even the most minor goals. So, how do you get through these thoughts and feelings? How can you reach success and improve your well-being? Carly Taylor joins us today in this episode to teach us how to deal with things outside of our control. Through her discussion, you'll hopefully learn about how to recognise and optimise your thoughts and emotions for your greater good. Carly also shares about helpful tools she's discovered and practised, including Morita therapy and Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT). If you want to deal with the daily pressures of your life healthily, you'll learn helpful things from this episode. 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Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn how to manage your thoughts and feelings to live a fuller life. Gain some insights on how to recognise and manage seemingly uncontrollable situations. Discover what ‘being present' means to you. Resources Gain exclusive access and bonuses to Pushing the Limits Podcast by becoming a patron! Harness the power of NAD and NMN for anti-ageing and longevity with NMN Bio. More Pushing the Limits Episodes: 183: Sirtuins and NAD Supplements for Longevity with Elena Seranova 189: Increasing Your Longevity with Elena Seranova Connect with Carly: Instagram | Carly Taylor Coaching Visit the Mind, Body, Brain and start optimising your psychological capital for productivity, resilience, and peak performance with the 8-week programme. Episode Highlights [04:32] Carly's Background Carly is a mindset coach who follows multiple Japanese ideologies. There are three Japanese ideologies she knows about: Morita, Kaizen, and Naikan. However, she only mainly practices the Psychology of Action of Morita Therapy. She also includes Stoicism and commitment therapy. Kaizen therapy is making changes incrementally yet continuously. It involves encouraging yourself to become better. On the other hand, Naikan therapy exercises the art of self-reflection. Both can improve your well-being. She had backgrounds in music and advertising. These supplied her with the skills to help other people. Her husband learned about a 10-day course. The next thing she knew, she was on the way to Vermont to attend it. [10:27] The Reason for Automatic and Anxiety-Inducing Thoughts Assess which things in your life are within your control. You cannot control automatic thoughts and emotions. They pop out when you encounter a situation. However, you can manage them and improve your well-being. You have to monitor and observe your thoughts. Assess whether or not they are helpful. Some negative automatic thoughts used to be beneficial for survival during ancient times, but not anymore. The amygdala is responsible for these emergency responses and automatic thoughts. The amygdala can also help when you need to make now-or-never decisions. To balance it out, the prefrontal cortex lets you analyse whether these automatic thoughts are logically sound. [18:50] How to Approach Things Out of Your Control Most people worry about what other people think about them. Back then, we had to empathise with other people's needs to thrive within a tribe or community. Nowadays, we have too many connections through social media. We get pressured because of the appearances our friends and acquaintances share online. Assess whether your thoughts and feelings are helpful. Redirect your energy and be productive to improve your well-being. Make room for your thoughts and feelings. Tools like breathing and exercise can help you improve your well-being. Listen to the episode to learn more helpful tools. [21:09] The Use of Comforts and Discomforts of Life Morita therapy uses two opposing thoughts: the desire to live fully and the desire to be secure and comfortable. Even successful events give you a level of discomfort and anxiety. We seek comfort all the time. Sometimes we may not even want to go through the emotional, physical, and financial challenges. But you can take the discomfort with you. You can coexist with it while still achieving great things. [24:39] Teaching Yourself to Improve Your Well-Being Suppressing your fears or intense emotions will get you stuck. Practice getting uncomfortable or harvesting discomfort. Start with minor and straightforward tasks so you can have more control. Do it incrementally so you can train yourself to become more resilient. Do this to improve your well-being. You'll learn how to improve your well-being in more complicated situations. Daily rituals are essential. It can be as simple as having a cold shower, much like Carly does. [28:02] Know Your Limits Pushing the limits can be a great thing. However, psychology and biology set a limit. You have to work within this limit. You may get burnout instead of crossing this line. You can't always go through hard times. It defeats the purpose of life, which needs to be a dynamic journey. You can still prevent adverse outcomes from happening by staying healthy. You can improve your well-being. [31:13] Reflection Exercises A simple yet powerful question is, ‘What would you do differently?' Spending more time with the family is usually the top 1 thing people want to do. Think about the regrets you may have when you are on your deathbed and act on them. Aligning with your most significant priorities will let you live a fuller life. Take every opportunity to be with someone before it's too late. [34:54] Helpful Routines Carly follows a waking-up-early challenge. She tries to avoid phones and computers and instead enjoys silence in her mornings. Carly also journals about minor things. She remembers the little things she appreciated from yesterday. You should be able to pay to enjoy good things more to improve your well-being, or at least in the same way as you linger on with painful thoughts. The simple silence helps. It can help instead redirect your attention from stressful thoughts and improve your well-being. You can calm down and find what you're in control of instead of what you can't. Then, you can achieve calmness and peace of mind. [44:33] Being Present Makes All the Difference A study found how people were happier when they were living in the moment. A wandering mind achieves the opposite of this. It matters to focus your full attention on what you are doing. Finish your inherent task at first, even if they're boring. Sometimes your brain will tell you you're not fit for the task at hand. But know that these thoughts are often your excuses preventing you from improving your well-being. Prioritise the most urgent and important tasks first before moving to the following systems and processes. Don't feel guilty about giving time to the people who matter in your lifetime. They are also important. [52:35] Final Thoughts Having a purpose-driven life instead of an emotionally-driven life can improve your well-being. Your purpose can be minor things in the moment, like cleaning the kitchen or learning new technology. [54:02] Carly and Paul's 8-Week Program Carly and Paul do weekly sessions every Tuesday and reflect on the significant aspects of their lives. They use an app where you can check on your daily rituals. 7 Powerful Quotes from the Episode 'I use the modalities of Japanese psychology and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and I also throw in a bit of Stoicism as well. Because all three of those modalities are just so intertwined. And it's just what I find incredible is what's relevant today is what was relevant back 2000 years ago.' ‘I then looked at life coaching, and it kind of didn't really resonate with me, then by the time I kind of was, you know, trying to figure out what direction I was going to go that my background is completely different.' 'I mean, we're all individuals. And we're productive, you know, from when we are born right up to our experiences, right up until this present moment.' 'But what makes us unique is that we're able to observe our thoughts. And if we can create that space between us and our thoughts, we can look at that thought more in an analytical way rather than in an emotional way.' 'So that's sort of the acceptance part of what's in our control, what's not in our control, and the big one is those thoughts and emotions.' 'Well, I mean, what other people think is a huge one for the majority of my clients, it is the number one fear if you want to call it or or anxiety or worry is what others think of them.' 'But it's that sort of everyday anxiety that we feel. And it's this, sort of focus on the discomfort and wanting to get rid of it. And when that's intense, this is not easy.' About Carly Carly Taylor is a certified nutritionist, health trainer and personal coach. She is also a qualified Japanese Psychology therapist who applies Morita therapy and Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT). She shares her tools and learnings through her Mindset Coaching. As a guarantee to her clients, Carly also uses the tools she teaches in her coaching sessions. Through her coaching, she helps people change their mindset and break barriers that used to hold them back. As a result, her clients develop skills and achieve success despite their situations. With her passionate approach towards research, she continues to learn about new practices and tools to navigate life. Along with her husband, Paul, Carly also helps groups of people achieve peak performance through the Mind, Body, Brain Performance Institute. If you want to learn more about Carly and her coaching approach, you can visit her website or Instagram. Enjoyed This Podcast? If you did, be sure to subscribe and share it with your friends! Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning in, then leave us a review. You can also share this with your family and friends so they can learn new tools to improve their well-being. Have any questions? You can contact me through email (support@lisatamati.com) or find me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and YouTube. For more episode updates, visit my website. You may also tune in on Apple Podcasts. To pushing the limits, Lisa Full Transcript Of The Podcast Welcome to Pushing the Limits, the show that helps you reach your full potential. With your host, Lisa Tamati. Brought to you by lisatamati.com. Lisa Tamati: Welcome back, everybody to Pushing the Limits. And this week, I have the lovely Carly Taylor to guest. Carly is the wife of Paul Taylor, who was also recently on this program, and who I absolutely loved. The amazing woman who is with Paul is Carly Taylor. Now Carly is an ACT therapist and a Morita psychology therapist. So what the heck is that all about, you might be thinking. Well, she's somebody that helps you if you have problems with anxiety, with depression, with overthinking, all of those things that many of us really deal with. So today's episode is all around giving you the tools to help with all those from the point of view of ACT therapy or Acceptance Commitment Therapy, as well as the Japanese psychology, Morita therapy. Now, Carly is also a qualified nutritionist, a certified personal trainer, and a certified health coach. She brings over 10 years' experience in the area of behavior change. 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I don't want people to think that it's just for ultra-marathon runners or just for people that are doing crazy adventures. This is for you. If you're just getting off the couch, if you're doing your first K. It's also for you if you are doing your hundredth marathon, ultra-marathon or marathon. So find out all about that at runninghotcoaching.com. Right now, over to the show with the lovely Carly Taylor. Hi, everyone, and welcome to Pushing the Limits. It's fantastic to have you back with me again. Today, I have the lovely Carly Taylor with me. Welcome to the show, Carly, it's fantastic to have you. Carly Taylor: Oh, thanks for having me. It's good to be here. Lisa: Super excited. Carly is the famous wife of Paul Taylor, who I've had recently on my podcast too, and who I really connected with. I think he's an absolute legend, your husband. What he's doing is absolutely—I think he's probably as crazy as me, if not worse. Carly: And he's passionate, I think. Lisa: And is passionate, and silly, and crazy. So I thought, ‘Who is this amazing woman that is with Paul Taylor? Because she'd have to be probably something special.' I started researching into what you do. And I thought, ‘Oh, I have to have you on the show as well.' So welcome, Carly. It's really exciting to have you. Today, we're going to talk about Morita therapy, and ACT therapy. I'll let you explain what all that is and give us a bit of your background. But can you just tell us who you are, where you're from, and all that sort of jazz? Carly: I do one-on-one coaching. I'm a mindset coach, but with a bit of a twist because I use the modalities of Japanese psychology, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and I also throw in a bit of Stoicism as well. Because all three of those modalities are just so intertwined. It's just—what I find incredible is what's relevant today is what was relevant back 2,000 years ago, and also in the Eastern, in the Japanese psychology as well. So with Morita—so the Japanese psychology there were three components to it. So it's Morita therapy, which is also known as the Psychology of Action. Which is kind of unusual because you kind of think of Eastern philosophy and what you think of meditation and contemplation and all that sort of stuff. But Morita therapy is very much about purpose and action. Then there's Naikan, which is the self-reflection exercise that you can do, and then Kaizen as well, which is that sort of incremental things that you can do to improve over time. But my main focus is Morita therapy. Lisa: So, how did you get into this? What was your background before you got into? How did you get into mindset coaching? What's your personal story? Carly: It's really evolved. I've always been someone who likes helping people. Over the years, I was kind of the go-to whenever friends had problems, and I looked at— Lisa: The shoulder to cry on. Carly: Yeah, exactly. I was always the shoulder. But, I started off looking into life coaching. I did when we're in Scotland, I did voluntary work with ChildLine Scotland. That was such a brilliant organisation, and they have really good training. So I kind of started my training with that, and counseling over the phone with young people. I really got a lot out of it. I then looked at life coaching and it kind of didn't really resonate with me. Then by the time I was trying to figure out what direction I was going to go - my background is completely different; my background is music and advertising - so I kind of did it and adapted then and tried to sort of play to my strengths, I guess. Had kids, and so, my focus was on the kids. Paul was building his business and doing a lot of traveling, doing a lot of extra educational stuff, just continually learning. And I was doing that, sort of in the background as well, but not with the intensity that he was doing because I was with the kids. And then he was listening to the Art of Manliness podcast. Greg Krech, who is a Morita therapy expert, was on and talking about the Psychology of Action. Paul was just like ‘Oh, my God, this guy is amazing and so aligned with the stuff that we're doing,' and looked into it a bit further. We worked out that he did this certification course over in the States. And Paul just said to me, ‘Right, it's your turn.' It's like, ‘This is all you. If you don't do it, I'll do it, then it's your turn.' So I was way out of my comfort zone. First time I left the kids, and that traveled over to Vermont, in the States. Did a 10-day residential component of the certification, and then came back, and then studied for a year and a half. That's how I got into it. It really, that 10 days at the ToDo Institute really completely changed my life. It was the first thing. Jumping to one of the components of Morita therapy is around attention and where your attention is. One of the first things Greg said in the course was, ‘Your life is not based on your life. Your life is based on what you pay attention to'. And I was just like, ‘Well, that's an—,' and it kind of just took it from there. And then when I got back, I started just slowly getting clients with the Japanese psychology, and then I discovered ACT, which is Acceptance Commitment Therapy, which was started by Steven Hayes in the 1980s. It is more of a modern approach, but same principles. It's Japanese psychology. So I combined both of them, and I just loved them, and I use the tools myself every day. Lisa: And you've turned it into the Carly therapy. Carly: Yes, Carly therapy. Lisa: Yeah. Because you do—you take, I do this too. Like bits of this, and a bit of that, and a bit of like your own recipe or what resonates with you. What you find is working and so— Carly: Yeah, and what I actually love about it is it's not just about, it was started by Shoma Morita who was the Japanese psychiatrist in 1920. He started it for patients with anxiety, a form of neurosis. It started as an in-patient program. He had quite a strict protocol that they went through. But what I love is that you can apply these principles into just your daily life. So it's not just about emotional well-being. it's about living fully every day using these principles. Lisa: So let's dive into it a little bit then. If someone comes to you with anxiety, depression, something like that, where would you start with them? So like we can—what I want to get to is how do we pull out some of the tools and some of the learnings that some people can take some value away from this conversation today? So where would you start? What's this type of thing that you're looking at? What sort of tools and processes do you go through? Carly: One of the first exercises that I will do with them is to look at their life and identify what's in their control, and not what is not within their control. It's a really interesting exercise, because it gets the thinking process going. Because that list of what's not in your control becomes very, very long. And the things that are within your control is actually quite short. So you look at the things that aren't in your control, the obvious ones, like the weather, COVID, a lot of political decisions, that sort of stuff. But you drill it down, and you can't control what other people think. You can't control what other people think of you. You can certainly influence it, but you can't control it - what they do, what they say, how they behave. And you cannot control what you think, or the thoughts that come into your head. Lisa: The automatic sort of thoughts that jump out of your head. Carly: Yeah, the automatic thoughts and the automatic emotion that comes up. Of course, once those thoughts pop up, you can reframe and do all that sort of stuff, or positive affirmations, all that, all those sorts of things. But as soon as that thought pops up into your head, that's beyond your control. We have between 70 and 80 thousand thoughts per day. Lisa: Yeah apparently. This is crazy! We're just thought machines! We are just churning these things out all the time. Dr. Daniel Amen, who I follow, he talks about ANTs, automatic negative thoughts. And where do you think there's this, you're saying that we're not in control of those, they're just coming through. Are they coming through from our programming or, subconsciously, or what? Carly: Yeah, I mean, we're all individuals. And we're productive from when we are born right up to our experiences, right up until this present moment. But it's also good to have an understanding of how the mind works because those automatic negative thoughts, if we didn't, as humans, have a negative bias, we wouldn't see the human race today. So, back in caveman days, you probably heard this before, it's like, we had to have anxiety. We had to have that negative skew because otherwise we were going to get eaten by a saber toothed tiger. But in our modern world, it's those negative thoughts. It's like, ‘What's our boss thinking of us? So why do we get that many likes on our Instagram posts?' It's not helpful. A lot of the stuff right now that's causing those negative thoughts. It's not helpful for us to live fully. So in Morita therapy, the first step is the acceptance. First of all, it's awareness of thoughts. And that's where it's good to use that metacognition of observing your thoughts and something. So I love that I'm constantly observing my thoughts and I'm like, ‘Oh, there it is again'. Lisa: Because I first heard that from Craig Harper, our mutual friend at the You Project. I've been using that a heck of a lot since I heard that. When you step outside your house, when you watch yourself, as if you were above, as if I was above looking down my spirit self or whatever you want to call it. Looking at my brain. Just tuning out this shit, basically. Bringing forth this. And then looking at it and go, ‘Hang on. Is it good? Is it serving me right now?' Carly: Exactly. And that's the question to ask. It's like, if you can create space, because then Craig would have talked about the different cells and we are not our thoughts, and we're not our anxiety. So there's a part of us, as humans, animals can't do this, but what makes us unique is that we're able to observe our thoughts. And if we can create that space between us and our thoughts, we can look at that thought more in an analytical way, rather than in an emotional way. It's not about whether that thought is right or wrong. It's whether it's helpful. Lisa: Yeah. And something right now. Carly: Yeah, exactly. That's sort of the acceptance part of what's in our control, what's not in our control. The big one is those thoughts and emotions. And then have been aware of creating that space and observing them, that's kind of the first step. Any act, we call that diffusion or unhooking. When we get hooked by our thoughts, it's almost like they're pushing us around, and then they start dictating what we do without necessarily taking us towards the person that we really want to be. So if we can observe them and unhook from them, then that gives us that space to choose our behavior, and choose it aligned with our values or our purpose and takes us towards the person that we want to be. Lisa: That's brilliant. So it's really getting the executive functioning part of our brain, our prefrontal cortex talking to our amygdala more or being more connected to them. This frontal area of the brain that only humans have really developed, and in some primates have to a certain degree. But because a lot of us go around being hijacked by our amygdala, all the time. So that's the reptilian part of the brain that's sort of a more primitive part of the brain, that is responding very, very quickly, quicker than the prefrontal cortex, to dangers in your environment, or negative things happening in the environment. Was it here as a survival mechanism? Talking about this the other day, and I said, how fast my amygdala switches on when something in my environment happens? Say, someone cuts me off in traffic. Those automatic thoughts that come out from the amygdala before I switched my logical adult brain on, ‘I'm going to punch that dude in the face'. Carly: Thank goodness, your prefrontal cortex switches in then and says, ‘Don't do that!' Lisa: But when I was younger, I was less able to do that. And I was very fiery, very angry. Now as I've gotten older and understand that sort of process, I can go, ‘Okay, come on, take a couple of deep exhales here, and we're going to calm ourselves down and get a grip of it'. But it's also a very protective thing. Sometimes I catch a glass that's falling off the table before I've even registered it with my prefrontal cortex. And that's also your reaction speed. Your amygdala is working at, I don't know what it is, thousands of a second faster than this. And so you're catching things. It can be a very positive thing, but it can also be - our jails and our justice system are full of people whose amygdala is more dominant and more able to control. And so they've done things in the spur of the moment without getting political on it, but it is something that we need to practice and work on. And it's something that you as a parent would know that the younger the child is, the less control that they have up there. So they just do whatever their emotional brain tells them to do - scream, yell, kick, whatever. As we get older, we learn to handle a bit more. But there's still this disconnect going on. Carly: Yeah, our brains aren't fully developed until the age of 25. But, you look at that, and there's decisions being made by young people that are going to affect them for the rest of their life, and that their brains aren't fully developed to be able to make those long-term decisions. So, it's really interesting. Lisa: So that's the awareness and stepping out and unhooking as you said, or diffusion, and looking at yourself. So that's the first thing that you can do. And looking at what is in your control and what is not in your control. So how do you approach the stuff that's not in your control, that makes you fearful, for example? Carly: What other people think is a huge one. To the majority of my clients, it is the number one fear, if you want to call it anxiety or worry. It is what others think of them. Even that is a very normal thing. So the next step is about acceptance. It's not acceptance in a passive way, but it's an acceptance of what is a natural part of the human experience. Wiring what people think is actually quite normal because back when we were in a tribal setting, we had to care what others thought. We had to know that we were adding value to the tribe, and the survival of the tribe. Otherwise, we'd get kicked out. So it's just that now, there's too many people. We have so many connections. Not only our physical connection with people, but also through social media. So it's almost like this connection overdrive that we have, and this worry about what others think, this worry about the posts that young people post on social media, their appearance, and all that sort of stuff. So I guess I approach that, first of all, with my clients that this is just a natural part of being human. That looking at that thought of if they're worried about what somebody is thinking of them. Looking at that is not right or wrong. But is it helpful? If it's not helpful, then do that by observing self. Defuse or unhook from it. Create that space, and then redirect attention into what needs to be done in that moment. Acceptance isn't about that passive, “I've got to put up with it.” It's not about tolerating anything, but it's about making room for it, and making room for those thoughts and those emotions that come up. And using tools like the breath and exercise that manage it. But I think the main thing is about discomfort tolerance levels, because we don't, and I know you would talk about comfort zones a lot. So Morita, he believed that in radiotherapy there were two sets of opposing forces. One was a desire to live fully, and the other one was this desire to be secure and comfortable. So they're opposing each other. But as you would know, any success, like all my achievements in my life has involved some level of discomfort. And sometimes we're willing to feel that discomfort. Even on your wedding day, you feel nervous and everything, but you still get married. But it's that everyday anxiety that we feel. It's this focus on the discomfort and wanting to get rid of it. And when that's intense, this is not easy. I don't want to lighten this because I know that these intense feelings can be quite debilitating to people. But using these tools, you make room for it, make space around it, and be able to do what's important to you, coexisting, bringing that discomfort with you, in the hope that it's going to turn down like the intensity. It's a bit like a radio playing in the background. If the radio is really loud, it's taking your attention, it's hard to focus. But using these tools of diffusing or unhooking, it's, slowly the radio just starts to turn down. And it might just be a little murmur in the background. Lisa: And hanging with that tension long enough, so stepping, being brave enough to take something on. Say a challenge - you're going to America to learn this thing a bit. You're leaving your kids behind, and your husband behind, you're off to this new place. And you're like, ‘What the hell am I doing?' All that sort of stuff. Me and my life going off to run like in the Himalayas, or the Sahara, and absolutely shitting myself. And it sounded good while he was signing up, and you'd had a glass of wine. And now, you're like, ‘What am I doing? I'm in this so deep, there's no way out now, so I have to go through'. So I know that tension very, very well. And I know that those are the times when the growth happens, isn't it? When you're pushing, but you are also risking failure, you are risking being, and this is the sort of dichotomy, or how it's contradictory. We, as human beings, seek comfort. We seek safe because that is our DNA programming. But because we live in such comfortable societies with comfortable couches and comfortable Netflix's to watch in houses that we live in and cars that we drive, we don't ever get out of that comfort zone if we don't want to. We can have our food delivered to our door and order our clothes online. And we can be very, very insular if that's the way that we decide to live, but we are never going to grow in that state. We are never going to challenge, we're never going to fulfill our potential. And so when you talk to people, they all want to change. They all want to be epic. They all want to do like, ‘I wish I could be like you and run ultra-marathons, or run a business, or whatever the case may be.' But nobody's wrong. But a lot of people just are not willing to put up with the pain, the discomfort, the fear, the financial investment, the time investment, the hard yards, in order to reap those rewards. So how do you teach yourself to be a little bit tougher? A little bit of, ‘I'm going to do this. I'm scared anyway. But I'm doing it.' How do you teach yourself that sort of toughness or resilience? Carly: Because if you try and avoid or suppress those strong, intense emotions, it's going to affect your life. You're not going to be able to live fully by staying in that comfort zone. And I love what I want to do. It just reminded me of the cold shower thing, I have my current shower this morning. So we're running this eight-week course with Jonah. We might talk about it later. But part of that is this ritual of the cold shower. Now I don't particularly like the cold. And I like being comfortable as well. It's like being anxious or nervous, it's not a nice feeling to have. But what you can do is practice getting uncomfortable. So deliberate practice. And I think Paul called it discomfort harvesting or harvesting discomfort. Lisa: That's what I should do, a PhD in the weekend. Carly: There you go, we've got your PhD. Cold shower is such a good tool to get out of your comfort zone. Because you have total control at the end of your nice warm shower, which is nice and comfortable. You have control whether you turn that to cold and spend a minimum of 30 seconds under that cold water, being uncomfortable. And if you can't do that, then the likelihood of when something goes wrong, and these intense emotions come up, then the likelihood of you being able to handle that could be low if you can't even handle having a cold shower. Cold showers, as you know, they have huge benefits on the immune system, and even emotional well-being. Everything that comes from me and my experience of them. It is about getting out of my comfort zone. Because I need to practice that as well. Lisa: We all do, all the time. This is the misconception, too, that you've done it. In my case, I had done one ultramarathon, therefore you're tough for the rest of your life. Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that. This is something you need to use it or lose it. So that's why that daily ritual stuff is very important. Carly: Absolutely. And you were never exonerated, we'll count until the day we die, we'll keep doing this stuff. Because we're human. And that's the acceptance part of it, it's that life is hard. I loved Matthew McConaughey. That speech that he did for the students who are graduating. But one of the things he just said, ‘Life is hard'. There's nothing original in that, but it's just the way he said it. It's like you need to get used to it, you need to prepare for it. Because life as humans, we will not stay in this comfortable environment, something will happen, somebody will get sick, jobs will be lost. Just like COVID happened and businesses, it's like stuff happens to us. So what we can do, while things are going well, is put ourselves out of our comfort zone on just small things on a daily basis. And then when the shit hits the fan, we can really cope with it. Lisa Tamati: And this just summed up my entire books, really, in a mouthful, because it is about scaring the crap out of yourself, pushing the limits, and finding what you can do. Not all the time. We've spoken about this before about rest and recovery times and coming back so that you can recover from that big thing you just took on. You can't just go back to back to back, scary big, awesome, huge things all the time, because that leads to burnout and PTSD and goodness knows what else. So it is about everything that I study in biology and psychology and all the areas that I study, it seems to be this flow, life loves this even flow, right from our nutrition. So eating the same thing all the time, always being on keto is not good. It's about this up and down. With biology, you want to have a little bit of this, and then you want to pull back, you want a little bit of cold. And when it comes to hermetic stressors, doing things like saunas, like cold showers, like training and exercise. If you do too much, you're going to—if you look at those four phases of stress, where you've got the alert phase, and then the resistance phase, and then the recovery or exhaustion phase. If you're going overtraining, you're not going to get there. You're not going to get that response, that compensation. It's the same thing here. You want to be going flowing in and out of tough times, come back, recover, see how that went, then have another crack at something else in a different area of your life perhaps. And that this even flow of life is, if we just stay in the static, then we're actually going backwards. What really matters for me and the stuff that I do is when it comes to health. Because if you're not in this willingness to put up with things like cold showers and going training when you don't feel like it, and eating good food and trying to have these stable fundamental health habits and working on them, I'm not perfect and no one's perfect, but working on these things, you are going to pay the price with your life, your health. Yes, we're all going to die one day, but I hope that I will live a healthy long lifespan, a very long one. I want to have health for as long as I possibly can. And so by studying all this, by learning all this, you can actually, hopefully hinder the worst things happening. I mean, a lot of things, you can't prevent everything because like I said, some things are outside of our control. And we have to acknowledge that. But what can I do to up the odds, then I'm going to live long. Up the odds that I'm going to be healthy until the end. All of those types of things because the price, and I've seen this in my own life and in my own family, unfortunately, when they didn't acknowledge all those things along the way and then the big freight train came in, and then you're pushing the proverbial uphill. Carly: There's a reflection exercise that I do with my clients. And it's, imagine that you're 80, and you're reflecting back on your life, but it but it's your life today. So you don't go back in the past. It's like you're reflecting back on your life today. And one of the questions is, what would you do differently? And it's a really powerful question, because it gets you to look at your life in a more analytical way and go, ‘Well, actually things like I'd exercise more, or I'd drink less'. Spending more time with your family is a huge one, that's usually the number one thing I would spend more time with my kids or it's more time with my family. And once you've got that list, you can look at that, and then you have the power today to choose those things moving forward. So if you project yourself into the future, reflect back, you then are able to almost design your life how you want to live from this point onwards. Lisa: I've heard what people that are on their deathbed are thinking, what are the greatest regrets that they wish they had done. And it is things like that, it's not, I wish I'd worked more. I wish I'd earned more money. We need a certain amount of work. And we need a certain amount of money, all of these sorts of things. But what are your highest priorities, and then aligning your values and what you're doing to those priorities. And there really isn't a dynamic thing, it changes a little bit and your values and all the things change over time. But being in alignment with your greatest priorities now is something that we need to keep reevaluating, and are we on track for that? I'm talking to myself here, because I'm definitely a workaholic. And I want to, ‘Oh, that sounds like a great idea'. Write another book, do a PhD and whatever dreams and things that you've got. And then you're like, ‘Hmm, that's going to take me away from my family'. Early in my life, I wouldn't even have thought that I would have just been so excited about the thing. And now I've got to stop and think about those things. Because you realise now, I'm 52 and I'm running out of time to do the things that I want. And when you lose a loved one, like I recently lost my dad, that's a real rough. Because otherwise, when there's no major thing like that has happened to you yet, you're just bumbling along and everything's okay. When I talk to my family members and stuff about my father, it's like, ‘I wish I'd taken him fishing more. I wish he had more time. I wish I'd learned from him'. And we're all wishing we had done this together. So it is that wake-up call that is like, how do you want to be thinking in the next 20 years then? Carly: And that's kind of a silver lining thing as well, isn't it? Even though something as sad, and the loss of a loved one, that silver lining is that you can learn from that and go, ‘Well, I wish I'd done that.' And then is there an opportunity now to do that with somebody who's here and with you? Do you know, I was thinking, one of the things that I've started doing consistently now— with life, the modern world, the way it is, and its rush, rush, rush, rush. And we're getting out there almost, a lot of us are on autopilot. And I know I was. Even with it's like, ‘Right, I'll do my exercise. I'll go to my CrossFit class or my exercise class, and then I'm going to work. And I'm doing this'. It's like, go, go, go, go, go. For me inputs, like emails and text messages and social media, everything's kind of input. It's overwhelming. So what I started doing, and it's actually Craig Harper was on his podcast last year, and right at the end of it was before Christmas, I totally walked into this. He was like, ‘So what's something that you want to achieve in 2021?' And I said, ‘I want to get up earlier', because I thought I was funny, even though I was still getting up at 6:30. But I was just fine. I was just going straight into it. And so he sent me his 100-day challenge to get up at 5:30 each day. And what I did was I started this pre-input routine, I don't know, do you do this. So I get up, and there's no phone. Do not touch my phone. I don't have my phone in my room. It's uncharged in the kitchen. So don't go near it. Don't go near a computer. What I started doing is the first thing I do is, I journal. It's not a journal where I'm writing paragraphs of stuff. It's all dot points. But the first thing I do a metric. So I just say, the alarm went off at 5:30, got up at 5:45. Or maybe I did get up at 5:30. Or maybe I got up at 6:00, but I measure it. Over time, I've kind of been able to say: well, what influenced me whether I didn't get up or whether I did get up. Most of it is what I did the night before. The morning starts the night before. So you can see patterns there. But the big thing that I found is that it gives me silence. And I think silence is something that we're missing in today's world, because of all these inputs. If you can sit with silence, that's when you can really think about things, you can observe your thoughts. You can start being creative when ideas come up. So before any inputs or journal, I look at what my wins were yesterday, and really celebrate those. Have you heard BJ Fogg? Lisa: Yeah, Tiny Habits. Carly: Tiny Habits. So, he says to celebrate the small things, and you get that little dopamine hit. And dopamine is also the neurotransmitter of motivation. I will journal even micro moments that I've had with people outside in the community that I thought that was really, just like my barista. She makes me a great coffee, and she has a chat and tells me my hair looks nice. It's those sort of little things that I think we need to have more focus on, and to celebrate those sort of moments in our life, because otherwise, they just pass up. They're just fleeting, and we're onto the next thing. Lisa: And when we tend to just be looking at the big picture all the time, like the big goals - the program we are writing, or the book we're doing or the project at work, or whatever the case is. We don't celebrate those. I've started to, because I'm running three companies, I've got a disabled mom that I still look after 24/7, 7 days a week. It's full on. And a lot of the time, some days, I'm just like, ‘How the hell does any human brain do this?' I'm just like, ‘I've got a pretty good brain, but I am not keeping up.' When you drop the ball and you're like, ‘Oh.' Like I said to my husband, ‘I dropped the ball on this appointment the other day and I'm such an idiot,' and he said, ‘Stop, stop. You're not an idiot. You're telling yourself that.' And of course I am. Thanks for pointing that out to me. And yet you're doing the best you bloody will can and in this very difficult situation. Give yourself a break. And we're all doing that, we are all trying to keep up because things seem to get faster and more. And so taking moments out, like an appointment fell through this morning, ‘Oh, an opportunity.' Now I can either get into some work, which has plenty to do. Or my husband comes out and he looks at he's looking all down on the dumps and exhausted, and I'm like, ‘Let's go for a walk, darling. It's a beautiful day. Let's go and just walk for 20 minutes. Get some sunshine on our eyes, wake ourselves up, have a talk about the day before,' then come back and then ‘Wow, it's a different start to the day'. Because usually it's just back, back, back. And then you find yourself at 10 o'clock at night when you finally sit down for the first time. Turn the telly on or something to just zone out, to compensate for this whirlwind. Building into your day, those little micro times we say, ‘Oh it's a beautiful flower'. Being in the, ‘Oh, what beautiful sunshine,' and all this, ‘Someone's smiling at me.' ‘Hi, how you doing?' Just those little wee things that can help you get enough energy to get through to the next— Carly: And that's where attention comes in too, which is part of Morita therapy, is that we can pay attention internally to our problems and our thoughts or feelings or our pain. Or even with all that going on, we can still pay attention to a beautiful flower. It's about one of the most simple, and it sounds crazy, but using your senses can get you out of your head and into the present moment. And we were talking about, I think Paul may have mentioned this, I don't know. One of the exercises is looking for the color blue. So if you find you're ruminating in thoughts, or if you're driving in the car, I find that that's when I started, all the thoughts come up when I'm driving, because it's such an automatic thing that you do. So I really try and redirect my attention. There's a metaphor of a torch. So the beam of light is your attention. And you have control over where you shine that. It's so effective. So am I shining that torch in my internal world? Or can I redirect it with all this going on, redirect it to the outside world? And I'll just look for things for color blue. Look for tiny things for color blue look for, obviously, the sky hopefully will be blue. Look, they're different shades of blue. And what that does, it doesn't get rid of what's going on internally, but it just redirects your attention. Lisa: Distracts you from the internal looping that goes on in your brain, when you start to just, those thoughts just keep going around in circles. And there's actually no solution coming out of it. And this is the sort of thinking that goes on at two o'clock in the morning when you wake up. Cortisol has gone up and you've got some project that you're struggling with or something and it's just a loop, loop, loop, loop. And you've got to break that loop. Carly: That's the hardest time, because at two o'clock in the morning, you can't really look for the color blue. You can ask yourself a question, ‘Is this happening now? Oh, no, this is not it's a statement. This isn't happening now'. Because you're thinking about the future or you're thinking about the past. But it's not happening now. And what's happening now is that you need to sleep. Lisa: I focus on my breath doing breath work. And apart from that, it doesn't happen so much to me. Now that does on occasion. But do some breath work where you're concentrating on the exhale. And there's lots of different breaths - box breathing or 4-7-8 breathing. I like to do what you're doing this massively long exhale. And that really slows down the parasympathetic nervous system, and can actually help you fall back to sleep. And I find that very, very powerful. But it's just breaking that cycling in your head, when you find yourself with a specific problem, that you're just not getting the answers to, going round and round, that's when you need to go either meditate, breathe, go for a walk, go for a run, do something that actually changes your mood. You're allowing space, because a lot of the time people think, ‘I have to stay here and not solve this problem right now. Otherwise, it's going to get worse'. Actually, when you let go, and you let it have time and space, that's when the answers come to you. Carly: Yeah, that's right. And looking at what's within your control at that moment. It's not within your control that those ruminating thoughts keep coming up. But what is within your control is how you respond to them. So what you do in that moment, and a really good question to ask is, what needs to be done now? We're only at a series of moments. It's that we only have the present moment. And most of the time, the anxiety or the ruminating thoughts are not related to the present moment. They're about the future or the past. So getting back. Actually, that reminds me, there was a study done. I don't know if you've heard of it by Matt Killingsworth. He's done this study on the wandering mind, and how it relates to happiness. He created this app, and there were 35,000 people involved in this study. And what he did is throughout the day, people just getting on with their day and throughout the day, these questions that pop up like ‘What are you doing now?' I had that list of 50 things I might be doing. Like, I'm on the train, or I'm at work or whatever. And then it was, ‘What are you—are you thinking about what you're doing? Or are you thinking about something else?' So it was measuring their wandering mind, and then measuring their happiness levels. And it showed that even if you are stuck in traffic, which is a very frustrating thing, especially if you're running late, if your mind was wandering, you were less happy than if you were in the present moment, just observing your surroundings. You are even happier being in the present moment stuck in traffic than if you were in a pleasant moment but having a wandering mind, if that makes sense. So being in the present moment, and I think we need to practice it. It is a skill. Attention is a skill. And being aware that our attention is constantly being robbed, just like advertising, and social media. It's just constant attention. So if we can take control of our attention and get into the present moment, then that can have such a huge impact on our well-being. Lisa: Yeah, absolutely. And this is one of the things that I love about a podcast like this. I am fully focused on you in this conversation. Nothing is pulling at me right now. Whereas when I'm working on the computer, and there's a hundred windows open, and I'm back and like, ‘I'm just going to jump on messenger so that I can do this task, send a message to so and so'. I get on to messenger, this is an example. And then, ‘Oh, there's another message coming. Oh, who was it from? Oh, I'll answer that'. And then you're off, and you're over here, and you're over there. And that original thing that you were actually meant to be doing in that moment is gone. And this is the difficulty. Even though I know that this happens, and I'm trying to control it. Shutting those windows down is not always an option, because you have to have the windows open, otherwise, re-find the bloody websites every time. But having the control to go, ‘No, I'll work on that later'. I'm working with a guy at the moment who I'm sure I'm driving insane on systems and processes, because this is a thing that my brain does not do well. And it's driving my business partner mental, because I am constantly like chasing shiny objects, super excited about science, running here and there, learning everything, wanting to do a hundred courses, not focusing on the things that need, the systems and the processes, and they're boring. And so this poor guy is trying to help me. Shout out to Mike Drone. Get my calendar sorted, get my scheduling sorted, get my inbox under control, get these basic systems. It was an interesting, the Calendly thing, that you have to have, all professional people have. I have, ‘I can't do it, I can't work it out. All I have is a fare overseas. And I don't get it.' And then there was this resistance to it because I didn't want to waste my time learning something that I'm not interested in, or the outside take care of that. I tried to get my assistant to take care of it, and tried to get my husband to take care of it, and nobody would take care of it. They kick me back on my lap. And then Mike said, ‘You have to do it'. And so I actually spent yesterday, a good two three hours setting it up. And I was so proud of myself. Stuff I hate, but I did it. Carly: Did you do this? Did you just focus on that task that you did anything else come in? Lisa: Yeah, I had things coming in. But I keep bringing my focus back and I actually managed it for the first time in history. On a thing that I'm not interested in. Because if it's a thing that I'm interested in, if it's science, man, I know, I kind of watch or listen to stuff and learn stuff and read stuff for Africa hours every day. That's what I love. That's my happy place. But when it comes to doing the admin, the text, the accounting, the learner, and learning that software, oh God. But it's not because I thought, ‘Oh, I've always thought, are you just too dumb for that. You just don't get it. Your brain doesn't work'. That was an excuse really. Because I can, I know I have a good brain that can cope with it. It's just that I never gave it the attention because I didn't want to be there. And it is still going to be a battle. Carly: It reminds me too, that this morning, the sort of pre-input routine that a lot of people do is deep work at that time. So if there's something really important that you need to work on. Like if you're writing a book or like whatever it is that you want to spend two hours on or however many hours on without any inputs. Do that first thing in the morning. And don't have your email open or don't have those. But if you can, turn off your notifications, but have that as your deep work and get that done. And then you get on with the day with all the other stuff that you need to do. There's a lot of... Lisa: [50:42 unintelligible] Carly: Yeah, exactly. And it's that Stephen Covey thing that, the important not urgent stuff, do that first. Lisa: That's really hard to do. In prioritising those lists, and having, and this is where the systems and processes coming in, as I'm finding out now, as I'm working on this, as this is urgent and important, you have to do that right away. And if it's just urgent, but not important that can wait, I've forgotten all the whole list of things that you sort of - but doing that in an automatic fashion, so that you actually know what then. If a free space comes into your life, like a cancellation or something, “Okay, what is the thing that I can grab out of my to-do list?” That should be filling that space. And I'm still working on that one, instead of getting dragged any which way, which I still tend to do, which is easier to do. And there's a billion things when you got your own company, and you're working, there is a billion hits you have to wear every day. And that becomes just, you can work 24/7 and still be behind. Carly: Yeah, it's crazy. And that's why, what you were saying before, when you had that opportunity, when you had that space because you missed an appointment. You had that supposed to choose where you were going to go, and you chose a walk with your husband, which is just such a good recovery thing today and a time to be present, and a time to spend time with somebody that you love and grasp those opportunities. Lisa: Yeah, and not feel guilty, which is what I do. I really should have picked that other project up. I really should have given my husband the time when he needed it, or my mum, or whatever the case may be. In that moment, and take those little opportunities that come up. Carly: Yeah, so important. Lisa: Carly, this has been such an interesting conversation, I feel like we could go for another couple of hours. And maybe I'll get you back on. Because we get into the rest of the ACT therapy and the different areas. But is there anything, as we start to wrap up now, anything else that you think that we haven't covered that we should that would really help people out there listening? Carly: I think the sort of the overarching thing with this approach is having a purpose-driven life rather than an emotional-driven life. And what I mean by purpose is that it's not the sort of big goal, what's my purpose of life, but the purpose of the moment. So even with worry, or anxiety, or ruminating thoughts, just looking at what is my purpose in this moment. It could be as simple as “I need to clean up the kitchen.” Because that's having your house in order, it's something as important to me. And so it's those sort of small things that we do every day, that kind of creates purpose in our lives. I think that's an important thing to— because it's so easy to have our emotions drive us and respond depending on how we're feeling. But if we can look at the purpose of the moment, then we can make those choices that are going to help us live more fully. Lisa: And not relying on motivation all the time, but taking action and doing the things that are on your highest priority. You and Paul have an eight-week program. So you're doing an eight-week program, which is all around. Will you tell us a little bit about that, what you're doing at the moment? Carly: So we're running an eight-week program. We've got about 93 on it, which, it's our first one. So we're really, really pleased. So we do a weekly zoom session, every Tuesday night for about an hour and a half. It's basically, we go through all the different domains of our lives and the different areas - nutrition, mindset is a big one, exercise. So each week, we have sort of a different topic. And then there's an app that goes with that. So there's like a ritual board, everybody has daily rituals that they can tick off. Culture is one of them. And they get points to that. So it's a bit of healthy competition going on. There's a leaderboard on who's doing what. We've had such good response from people. It's been amazing. So yeah, we're hoping to do another one soon after this one's finished. We're halfway through now. Lisa: Brilliant, brilliant. I think this is the sort of stuff I love and I eat for breakfast. Love the stuff. I think it's so important that we're working on this sort of thing. So where can people find you and reach out to you and to Paul and what you're doing? What's your website and your social media handles and so on? Carly: Yeah, so mine is carlytaylorcoaching.com.au and Instagram is Carly Taylor Coaching. And then mindbodybrain.com.au, which you'll find more about the Better You course, which is the behaviour change course. So that's the eight-week program. Lisa: Put all those notes in the show notes. Carly: And then Instagram is Mind Body Brain, which was right. Lisa: Look, Carly, you've been fantastic today. Thank you so much for your time and your input and your passion that you bring to the stuff. Carly: Thank you so much for having me. It's been great to meet you. Lisa: It's just been epic. I've really, really enjoyed a conversation and I think a lot of people will have got a lot of practical tips to take away from this conversation as well. Carly: Yeah, they'll be looking for the color blue today. Lisa: Exactly. Outro: That's it this week for pushing the limits. Be sure to rate, review, and share with your friends. And head over and visit Lisa and her team at lisatamati.com.
Today's guest was born with a severe facial deformity and diagnosed with Tourette syndrome at the age of nine, and suffered abuse & misery in and out of his home until he became a personal trainer. He discovered that by redirecting his focus, he could affect positive change in not only in the lives of the people he trained, but his own life as well. Bobby Cappuccio is now a world-renowned speaker, author and behaviour change coach.In today's episode, we discuss how to change your own behaviour and achieve your goals, both with and without a coach, and explore the elements of good coaching and overall relationship-building. You can find out more about Bobby and his coaching and consulting services at https://www.robertcappuccio.com/Bobby also has a podcast called The Self Help Antidote, so check it out on your preferred podcast player.Here is the link to the Decisional Balance Sheet that we discuss.If you're interested in a coach who uses Japanese Psychology, ACT (Acceptance-Commitment Therapy) and Motivational Interviewing, check out carlytaylorcoaching.com.auHighlights of today's show:1:59: Coaching overview4:29: Coaching is the facilitation of neuroplasticity6:12: Good and bad coaches9:55: How to build rapport with people13:04: The importance of the mirror neuron system in human relationships14:36: Motivational interviewing – critical skills for coaches, parents & leaders19:54: Take-home tips for changing your own behaviour (resolving ambivalence)33:39: Things to look for in a good coach36:20: The “10X your life” and “Anything is possible” bullshit to steer clear of41:55: A neuroscience-based model of behaviour change (the DESIRE model)46:37: Scaffolding your goals51:00: Negativity bias in the brain and negative self-talk58:30: Imagery – process vs outcome-based imagery1:03:50: A Ritual Board to create habits1:09:06: Setting up your environment for success1:11:06: Cookies radishes and the neuroscience of discipline1:21:53: Summing up
Paul does a deep dive into Japanese Psychology with Gregg Krech, Executive Director of the ToDo Institute, and a leading expert on Japanese Psychology. They discuss how Morita Therapy can be beneficial for overthinking, anxiety and depression, how Naikan reflections are so much more powerful than gratitude rituals and how a Kaizen approach can help you achieve your goals and become a better version of yourself.There's also a dive into living on purpose and how that can be a powerful approach to getting things done and achieving your goals.Find out more about Gregg at thirtythousanddays.org or if you would like some mindset coaching using Japanese Psychology in Australia, go to mindbodybrain.com.au/coaching
Carly Taylor is an Educator, Nutritionist and Coach who uses a combination of Acceptance-Commitment Therapy, Stoic Philosophy, Japanese Psychology and Neuroscience to help people do stuff, change stuff, learn stuff and unlearn stuff (it has a lot to do with stuff) and to improve the quality of their lives (mindset, energy, choices, performance, outcomes) along the way. Oh, she's also married to that shy little wallflower, Paul Taylor.carlytaylorcoaching.com.au
Join me for a short episode check-in and sharing of how I am taking personal action despite living in our current reality of uncertainty. Awakening to the fact that I was spending too much time anxiously looking "out there" at what was or could be coming ... or focusing on the horrible feelings inside me, I decided to turn my personal boat around. As Gregg Krech of the ToDo Institute reminds us "Everyone is dealing with losses but ultimately it's an individual thing.... It's not a mass issue. It's your personal situation and attachment." How are you doing as the navigator and pilot of your own boat? Listen for some questions for reflection. And if you have questions about how to cope with these uncertain times email them to wendyshinyo@everyday-buddhism.com with the subject line "Question for Gregg" and Gregg Krech, one of the leading authorities of Japanese Psychology will do his best to answer them in an upcoming podcast episode.
I spoke with Cathy Coleman on April 15, 2020 during the start of our Covid 19 shutdown and she shared some wonderful insights into how intuitively she has found a wonderful tool that has changed her world. Japanese Psychology is a tool that combines two mindsets and practices that helps people shift their world from feeling out of control into control. Bio Cathy left the corporate world where she worked in HR and as a trainer and facilitator of programs around the world to start her own company Triple L Training. Cathy’s focus is to help corporations, non profit organization learn about how they can reach their potential as teams, in leadership roles or in customer services or helping adults and students learn how live their best lives. She is certified in Gallup Strengths Finder, Builder Profile and is currently working on getting certified in Japanese Psychology. She works with corporations and with individuals as well as facilitation of programs supporting people transitioning back into the workplace. You can find Cathy on Facebook and LinkedIn www.cathycoleman.ca
Gregg Krech, an expert in a form of Japanese psychology called Morita Therapy, discusses how to think differently about the role of emotions in mental health and the surprising power of taking action to improve things like anxiety, procrastination, and depression.
In this episode of the Ikigai Podcast podcast, I speak with author, poet, and one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology, Gregg Krech.Gregg Krech is the author of several books including the award-winning book Naikan: Gratitude, Grace and The Japanese Art of Self Reflection, The Art of Taking Action - Lesson From Japanese Psychology and Tunneling for Sunlight: Twenty-One Maxims of Living Wisdom from Buddhism and Japanese Psychology to Cope with Difficult Times.Along with his wife Linda, Gregg is the founder of The ToDoInstitute.org, a non-profit centre in Vermont that uses Japanese Psychology as an alternative to traditional Western approaches to psychology. These methods include Naikan Therapy, Morita Therapy and Kaizen.Gregg's work supports a blend of the psychological, the spiritual and the practical based on values such as purpose, gratitude, mindfulness, compassion and constructive action. Over the past 30 years, Gregg has introduced Japanese Psychology to more than 10,000 people through his workshops and online courses.
Cathy Coleman was my guest on March 20, 2019. She left the corporate world where she worked in HR and as a trainer and facilitator of programs around the world to start her own company Triple L Training. Cathy’s focus is to help corporations, non profit organization learn about how they can reach their potential as teams, in leadership roles or in customer services or helping adults and students learn how live their best lives. She is certified in Gallup Strengths Finder, Builder Profile and is currently working on getting certified in Japanese Psychology. Cathy loves books. One that she has spoken about often to me is Finding your North Star by Martha Beck Copy and paste this Amazon link to see this book https://amzn.to/2M9X2XW(As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases)You can also find Strengths Finder 2.0 by Tom RathCopy and paste this Amazon link to see this book https://amzn.to/31E1SDf(As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases)You can find Cathy at www.tripleltraining.comInformation on Strengths Finder https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/254033/strengthsfinder.aspx
My guest this week is Gregg Krech, who specializes in Japanese psychology. We focused on the principles of Morita therapy, which emphasizes taking action that brings meaning to one's life. This approach contrasts with our tendency to dwell on how we feel and what we feel like doing, and to get lost in self-focused attention. By asking instead, "What needs to be done?" we can build a life defined by meaning and usefulness. Topics we discussed in this episode include: Valuing action over words, and purpose over feelings The distinctions between Morita therapy and action-oriented Western therapies like CBT The power in realizing we can accomplish things that are important to us even if we’re feeling anxious, down, or other uncomfortable feeling states Overlap between Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Morita therapy Feeling better as a “fringe benefit” of Morita therapy Co-existing with one’s feeling state while doing what one wants to do The suffering that comes from self-focused attention The benefits of shifting our attention from our internal experiences to the world around us How to know which action is the right one to take at a given time The contemplative Japanese practice of Naikan Figuring out what to do by starting with action The problem with trying to figure out life in your mind The crucial role of momentum to combat paralysis The effects of technology on our attention span, and our experience of life The joy and pleasure we can find by being in the present moment of our lives The compatibility of fun with Morita therapy Feelings as one actor or actress, and not the director of the play Acceptance as a common precursor to action The Rule of 3 for setting priorities The power of helping others to put our own problems in perspective The history and mission of the Tōdō Institute in Monkton, Vermont The concept of having, on average, 30,000 days in a lifetime Early in the episode I mentioned the book that introduced me to Morita therapy, Constructive Living by David Reynolds, who offered Gregg his first introduction to Japanese psychology. (A percentage of each purchase made through this affiliate link will be used to support the podcast, at no additional cost to you.) Here's the fascinating book Gregg mentioned called The Un-TV and the 10 mph Car. We focused our discussion around concepts from Gregg's book The Art of Taking Action: Lessons from Japanese Psychology. Some of Gregg's other books include (these are affiliate links): A Natural Approach to Mental Wellness: Japanese Psychology and the Skills We Need for Psychological and Spiritual Health Naikan: Gratitude, Grace, and the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection Question Your Life: Naikan Self-Reflection and the Transformation of our Stories Tunneling for Sunlight: Twenty-One Maxims of Living Wisdom from Buddhism and Japanese Psychology to Cope with Difficult Times Gregg Krech is an author, poet, and one of the leading authorities on Japanese psychology in North America. His work has been featured in The Sun magazine, Tricycle, SELF, Utne Reader, Counseling Today, Cosmopolitan, and Experience Life. Gregg and his wife, Linda Anderson Krech, founded the TōDō Institute, a non-profit center in Vermont that uses Japanese psychology as an alternative to traditional Western approaches to psychology. Over the past 25 years, Gregg has introduced Japanese Psychology—particularly Naikan Therapy, Morita Therapy, and Kaizen—to thousands of people through his books, workshops, retreats, and online courses. His work supports a blend of the psychological, the spiritual and the practical, and helps individuals to clarify purpose, cultivate gratitude, develop compassion and engage in meaningful action. Gregg is a member of the North American Naikan Counsel and Editor-in-Chief for the quarterly journal Thirty Thousand Days: A Journal for Purposeful Living.
This is something that you need to try! Japanese Psychology! I hope you can sit down and do this with me. Here are the questions: Write ten things you did this past week? What do you love? What does the world need? What are you good at? What can you get paid for? And the last three: What have I received from? What have I given to? What troubles and difficulties have I caused? Support this podcast: http://www.patreon.com/JoeyKidney Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-happy-times/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
The "Eastern Way" of psychology offers a profoundly different paradigm than Western psychology. Join me as a talk with Gregg Krech, one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology in North America, about this difference. Using the Buddhist concept of "skillful means", Japanese psychology offers methods to master the skills of acceptance, attention, co-existing with unpleasant feelings, and self-reflection. Rather than talking it out, we can develop skills to cope more effectively with anxiety, depression, anger, shyness, procrastination ... you name it! Ultimately based on the practical, we can learn how to focus on our purpose and an appropriate response to the needs of each situation, rather than a reaction to our feelings—removing our feelings from the position of "Director" in the play of life.
While we often associate Eastern spiritual and philosophical traditions with meditation and contemplation, there's another side to this wisdom that centers on action and can help us move through depression, anxiety, fear, and just general malaise. My guest today is the author of a book about this action-oriented philosophy. His name is Gregg Krech, he's the co-founder of the ToDo Institute, and his book is The Art of Taking Action: Lessons from Japanese Psychology. Today on the show, Gregg and I discuss a Japanese psychological technique called Morita therapy, which concentrates on accepting instead of fixing one's thoughts and feelings, and acting in spite of them. We discuss how action can be a powerful antidote to depression, anxiety, and interpersonal conflicts, how to act when you don't feel like it, how to stay motivated when the initial rush of a new project or relationship has worn off, and why it's better to have a purpose-driven rather than a feelings-driven life. We end our conversation unpacking the idea that busyness is not the same thing as purposeful action, and why we need self-reflection to tell the difference between the two. Get the show notes at aom.is/artoftakingaction.
On this episode of the podcast, I welcome Gregg Krech to the program. Gregg is one of the leading experts on Japanese Psychology in the U.S. He is the author of 5 books including The Art of Taking Action: Lessons from Japanese Psychology, which has become an Amazon bestseller and offers practical strategies for integrating ideas from Eastern philosophy with contemporary Western living. Gregg and I spend time discussing how he got into Japanese psychology, why Eastern ways are appealing to Western cultures, perfectionism and being obsessed with the unfinished, and even look deeper into Kaizen. I had an incredible time chatting with Gregg and I trust you'll find this to be a rather compelling conversation. Relevant Links http://todoinstitute.org/ (The ToDo Institute) http://todoinstitute.org/library/public/facing_the_demons_of_inaction_morita_therapy_as_a_resource_for_moving_forward.php (Facing the Demons of Inaction: Morita Therapy as a Resource for Moving Forward) https://productivityist.com/podcast-jon-acuff/ (Jon Acuff episode of The Productivityist Podcast) http://www.artoftakingaction.com/ (Art of Taking Action) http://www.distancelearningpsychology.org/ (ToDo Institute Courses) https://www.facebook.com/ToDo.Institute/ (ToDo Institute | Facebook) Thanks so much for listening. Enjoy the show!
Gregg Krech is an author, poet, and one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology in North America. His work has been featured in THE SUN magazine, Tricycle, SELF, Utne Reader, Counseling Today, Cosmopolitan and Experience Life. Krech and his wife Linda are the founders of The ToDo Institute, a non-profit center in Vermont that uses Japanese Psychology as an alternative to traditional Western approaches to psychology. Over the past 25 years, Krech has introduced Japanese Psychology, particularly Naikan Therapy, Morita Therapy and Kaizen, to thousands of people through his workshops and online courses. Mentioned in this episode: Upside.com – Use code TO DO to get an Amazon gift card! The Art of Taking Action Please connect with me Subscribe, rate, and review in iTunes Follow @ErikJFisher Check out more Noodle.mx Network showsThe Audacity to Podcast: "How-to" podcast about podcastingBeyond the To-Do List: Personal and professional productivityThe Productive Woman: Productivity for busy womenONCE: Once Upon a Time podcastWelcome to Level Seven: Agents of SHIELD and Marvel’s cinematic universe podcastAre You Just Watching?: Movie reviews with Christian critical thinkingthe Ramen Noodle: Family-friendly clean comedy
This week we talk to Gregg Krech GREGG KRECH is an author, poet, and one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology in North America. His work has been featured in THE SUN magazine, Tricycle, SELF, Utne Reader, Counseling Today, Cosmopolitan and Experience Life. His books include Naikan: Gratitude, Grace, and the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection, A Natural Approach to Mental Wellness, and The Art of Taking Action. His newest book, Question Your Life, will be available soon. Gregg and his wife, Linda, founded the ToDo Institute (http://www.todoinstitute.org), a non-profit center in Vermont that uses Japanese Psychology as an alternative to traditional Western approaches to psychology. Over the past 25 years, Gregg has introduced Japanese Psychology, particularly Naikan Therapy, Morita Therapy and Kaizen, to thousands of people through his workshops and online courses. His work supports a blend of the psychological, the spiritual and the practical, and helps individuals to clarify purpose, cultivate gratitude, develop compassion and engage in meaningful action. He is a member of the North American Naikan Counsel and Editor in Chief for the quarterly journal "Thirty Thousand Days: A Journal for Purposeful Living. In This Interview, Gregg Krech and I Discuss... The Wolf Parable His book, The Art of Taking Actions: Lessons from Japanese Psychology How Eastern wisdom is directed towards taking action, as well as contemplation Taking your practice off your cushion The misguided premise that we have to figure things out in our life before we can act The power of momentum in action when small steps are taken Cultivating gratitude Avoidance, resignation, complaining How accepting things as they are isn't necessarily passive That complaining keeps us stuck in focusing on the trouble in our lives The overlap between ACT and Japenese Therapy Feelings and thoughts are uncontrollable by our will Allowing feelings to be what they are but not letting them inhibit our ability to move forward and take action Taking action based on the needs of the situation rather than just on the feelings we have How essential it is to step back from our lives and reflect and then make choices on how you need to move forward How most of the time we do not feel like doing the things that need to be done Exercise being an example! The maxim: Lead with the body How if you don't feel like something now, you're probably never really going to want to do it so get it done now That the anticipation is often worse than the consummation His next book that focuses on self-reflection Please Support The Show with a Donation
Finding Your Purpose and Living on Purpose Do you have a clear vision of what you should be doing with your life? Are you taking the necessary risks to live according to your purpose, or playing it safe? Are you clear on what you need to be doing, but putting it off until some point in the future, like retirement or when the kids go to college? If you’re not sure what you true purpose is, how do you discover it? These are the kinds of questions we will explore with author Gregg Krech, a leading authority on Japanese Psychology whose work is centered on self-reflection and purposeful living. Walker Percy said "The search is what anyone would undertake if he were not sunk in the everydayness of his own life . . . To become aware of the possibility of the search is to be onto something. Not to be onto something is to be in despair." Take a few minutes to step back from the everydayness of your life to consider your own personal search, your calling, and how you can create a life of living on purpose. Find Gregg Krech here: http://www.todoinstitute.org For more information about TalkBoxRadio podcasts or to be featured as a guest please visit: http://www.talkboxradio.com
Gregg Krech has served as the Executive Director of the ToDo Institute since 1992. Gregg is one of the leading authorities on Japanese psychology in the United States and the author of several books including the award-winning book, Naikan: Gratitude, Grace and the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection (Stone Bridge Press). His work has been featured on public TV and radio, and in books, professional journals, and magazines such as Body & Soul, Utne Reader, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Tricycle, and Counseling Today. He is the Editor of Thirty Thousand Days: A Journal of Purposeful Living and frequently conducts programs for audiences ranging from Zen Center students to mental health professionals. "The Art of Taking Action" Gregg Krech opened new doors to self-reflection in his book, Naikan: Gratitude, Grace and the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection. Now he draws on Eastern philosophy, Buddhism, Japanese Psychology, Zen, and Martial Arts to offer an approach to ACTION that goes beyond productivity and time management. Find out more about Gregg Krech here http://www.todoinstitute.org Read Gregg Krech's fantastic blog: http://www.thirtythousanddays.org Purchase "The Art of Taking Action" here: http://www.Amazon.com/ Follow this podcast for future updates and visit http://www.TalkBoxRadio.com/ for more information. Music provided for this episode courtesy of Steve Vousden
For Life on Purpose Episode #42, author, speaker, and teacher Gregg Krech, one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology in North America returns to the show. Gregg joins me for a very timely and inspirational conversation about New Year's Resolutions and why they often don't work; using dreams as a motivator instead; identifying your purpose vs. using feelings to guide your life; taking action as a way of figuring things out; the urgency of 30,000 — the amount of days the average person has in their lives; the Japanese psychology of Naikan; and much more! About: Gregg Krech is an author, speaker, teacher, and one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology in North America. He's also the founding Director of the TohDoh Institute, an educational center for purposeful living, based in Vermont. Gregg is the author of the award-winning book: Naikan: Gratitude, Grace & the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection, which has been translated into five languages, and he's the editor of Thirty Thousand Days: A Journal for Purposeful Living. His work has been featured in a wide range of publications including THE SUN magazine, Utne Reader, Fitness, Counseling Today, Cosmopolitan, and Experience Life. His most recent book, The Art of Taking Action: Lessons from Japanese Psychology brings an eastern perspective to the issue of purpose is currently an Amazon best-seller in the Zen category. It offers an empowering approach to meeting our own personal goals, but also focuses on the impact on our actions (and inactions) on the world.. To learn more about Gregg and his work, visit: http://www.artoftakingaction.com or http://www.todoinstitute.org.
For Life on Purpose Episode #20, my guest is author, speaker, and teacher Gregg Krech, one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology in North America. Gregg joins me to discuss the importance of taking informed action, how maintaining awareness of our finite reality can infuse your life with passion and urgency, the Japanese philosophies of Naikan and Morita Therapy, and some of the tools he uses to live a meaningful and purposeful life. About: Gregg Krech is an author, speaker, teacher, and one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology in North America. He's also the founding Director of the TohDoh Institute, an educational center for purposeful living, based in Vermont. He is the author of the award-winning book: Naikan: Gratitude, Grace & the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection, which has been translated into five languages, and he's the editor of Thirty Thousand Days: A Journal for Purposeful Living. His work has been featured in a wide range of publications including THE SUN magazine, Utne Reader, Fitness, Counseling Today, Cosmopolitan, and Experience Life. His most recent book, The Art of Taking Action: Lessons from Japanese Psychology brings an eastern perspective to the issue of purpose is currently an Amazon best-seller in the Zen category. It offers an empowering approach to meeting our own personal goals, but also focuses on the impact on our actions (and inactions) on the world.. To learn more about Gregg and his work, visit: http://www.artoftakingaction.com or http://www.todoinstitute.org.
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