The Dating Advice Girl Podcast

On this episode, Erin chats with Polyamory Educator Kevin A. Patterson, Sex Therapist & Sexuality Professor Dr. Hernando Chaves, and Associate Professor & Psychologist Manijeh Badiee about using positive masculinity to create safe and supportive spaces, friendships, and partnerships. This convo was conducted on Instagram Live after our workshop entitled, 'The New Masculine: Shifting from Toxic Masculinity to Positive Masculinity,' part of Erin's 2021 Dating Panel Series. More info at https://thedatingadvicegirl.com/2021-dating-panel-series/ About Kevin: Kevin is the creator of the interview series, Poly Role Models, focused on changing how poly communities are viewed. Kevin is the author of the book ‘Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities.’ Check out Kevin’s educational series with Dr. Liz Powell, ‘Unf*ck Your Polyamory’ designed to help people navigate the world of consensual non-monogamy while avoiding a lot of the common mistakes. KevinAPatterson.com About Hernando: Dr. Hernando Chaves is a licensed MFT sex therapist, Pepperdine University MFT Sexuality Professor, Western Region past president and past board of directors member for the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, written or consulted for 14 instructional media sex education projects, and a contributing author to the International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality. DrHernandoChaves.com (IG/T): @hernando_chaves About Manijeh: Manijeh Badiee, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Psychology at California State University, San Bernardino. She provides therapy as a licensed counseling psychologist (License# PSY 30484) at Collaborative Psychology Group in Riverside. Dr. Badiee specializes in clients who are LGBTQ+, people of color, and/or practice ethical non-monogamy. http://psychology.csusb.edu/facultyStaff/manijeh_badiee.htm About Erin: Erin Tillman, The Dating Advice Girl is an inclusive Sex Educator, Dating & Consent Empowerment Coach, Author, Speaker, and Media Personality based in LA. For over 10 years, she has helped empower singles through workshops, matchmaking, podcasting and her book, The Consent Guidebook. She has contributed to Lifetime, Buzzfeed, Elle Magazine, Men’s Health, Washington Post, and more. TheDatingAdviceGirl.com

Ep.193-On this episode, Erin chats with Sexologist & Educator Bianca I Laureano and Associate Professor & Psychologist Manijeh Badiee about being queer and sometimes feeling like you don't fit in, blocking out societal noise, feeling social pressure to ‘choose a team,' and learning to embrace our journey around identity. This convo serves as preview for our workshop entitled, 'Queerness and Embracing Your Own Personal Orientation Evolution,' part of Erin's 2021 Dating Panel Series. More info at https://thedatingadvicegirl.com/2021-dating-panel-series/ About Bianca: Bianca I Laureano, PhD, MA2, CSES is an award-winning educator and sexologist. She is a founding member of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN) and her most recent project is ANTE UP! a virtual freedom school offering professional development and certification. She has written several curricula and is the lead writer for the Netflix film Crip Camp’s curriculum rooted in Disability Justice principles. She is an AASECT certified sexuality educator and supervisor, and in May 2020 was awarded an honorary doctorate from the California Institute for Integral Studies for her work in expanding the US sexuality field. Find out more about Bianca at her website BiancaLaureano.com and about ANTE UP! at www.AnteUpPD.com About Manijeh: Manijeh Badiee, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Psychology at California State University, San Bernardino. She provides therapy as a licensed counseling psychologist (License# PSY 30484) at Collaborative Psychology Group in Riverside. Dr. Badiee specializes in clients who are LGBTQ+, people of color, and/or practice ethical non-monogamy. http://psychology.csusb.edu/facultyStaff/manijeh_badiee.htm About Erin: Erin Tillman, The Dating Advice Girl is an inclusive Sex Educator, Dating & Consent Empowerment Coach, Author, Speaker, and Media Personality based in LA. In 2018, Erin was awarded the Gender Equity Award presented by the California National Organization for Women (NOW). For over 10 years, she has helped empower singles through workshops, matchmaking, podcasting and her book, The Consent Guidebook. She has contributed to Lifetime, Buzzfeed, Elle Magazine, Men’s Health, Washington Post, and more. TheDatingAdviceGirl.com

Ep.192-On this episode, Host of the Girl Boner podcast and Certified Sex Educator, August McLaughlin and I chat about the importance of setting boundaries for 2021, lessons learned from 2020, and being intentional about who is in our social circles. About August: August McLaughlin is a journalist, certified sex educator, author and host of the podcast, Girl Boner Radio, which reviewers have called "Sex in the City meets NPR.” Her articles and expertise have been featured in Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post, DAME Magazine, O: The Oprah Magazine, Forbes, Shape and more. augustmclaughlin.com

Ep.191-On this episode, my partner Jett Garrison (www.JettGarrison.com) & I talk other interracial couples about they are supporting their Black partners, what allyship looks like, and conversations with their children during this time of great change and racial justice. Backstory: I’ve been receiving messages from interracial couples saying that for the first time in their relationship, they’ve been having some hard conversations about race, that their partner is struggling to understand the emotions their partner is dealing with, or that their partner doesn’t fully understand the importance of this current movement. My intention in putting together this panel was to help couples, whether in a new #relationship or a long-term partnership, gain a better understanding about what their Black partners are experiencing, and therefore create more empathy and support. A big THANK YOU to our panel participants (Jett Garrison, Rikesha Lane, Rachel Rae Lane, Shawn Richardz, Cary Millman, Chad Davis, Carl Hampton Jr, Jeremy Holmes & Erika Holmes) for sharing their experiences and taking the time educate the listener.

Ep.190-On this episode, my partner Jett Garrison & I talk about interracial relationships in this time of Black Lives Matter protests, social justice, civil rights for Black people, and the importance of having supportive conversations with your partner regardless of gender or orientation. Jett talks about his experience as a transgender man dating me and having other Black people in his life during this time.

Ep.189-On this episode, Pickup Artist and Dating Coach for minority men, JT Tran discusses how he coaches and empowers his single clients through his company the ABCs of Attraction. We have a wide-ranging conversation about the specific challenges facing cis-hetero Asian men, standards of beauty and masculinity in American culture, the mental/physical/verbal elements he teaches to boost confidence, the gender imbalance in some Asian countries, consent and digital dating. This episode's Consent Corner focuses on interpreting nonverbal cues and signs of disinterest from Chapter 4 of my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com). About JT: The Asian Playboy, JT Tran, is the founder of the world-renowned ABCs of Attraction, one of the world’s first and most successful indie pick up companies focusing on helping minority men meet, attract and connect with the women of their dreams and reach new levels of success in all areas of their lives. Known as the World’s Greatest Asian Pick Up Artist, he is the creator of the revolutionary Holistic approach to pickup and has transformed the lives of thousands of men with his groundbreaking products and programs and the help of his dynamic coaching staff. He is the founder of one of the longest running and most widely read seduction arts blogs in history, which recently surpassed more than two million site visits. JT has several e-books, DVDs and CDs, and other multi-media personal coaching resources and has provided thousands of hours of training and coached students in 20 cities on five continents. www.ABCsOfAttraction.com

Ep.188-Licensed Therapist and Sex Educator Jamila Dawson and I have a wide-ranging convo about bringing more pleasure into our lives, repressed trauma, dealing with major shifts in relationships, consent within kink/power dynamics, and more! This episode’s Consent Corner from my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com), focuses on enthusiastic consent.  About Jamila: Jamila Dawson, licensed marriage and family therapist, holds a master’s in clinical psychology and is a sex therapist, pleasure activist, and speaker. Her focus: break down sexual stigma in order to design relationships that center imagination, connection, and liberation. She sees clients in her private practice, presents nationally on sexuality, neurobiology and wellness to mental health professionals and teaches classes on kink/BDSM and sexual enhancement to individuals, partners, and groups. www.JamilaDawson.com

Ep.187-Licenced Marriage and Family Therapist James Guay and I chat about specific dating and consent challenges that LGBTQ singles face, LGBTQ sexual violence stats, the importance of self-love, and how his upbringing brought him to where he is today personally and professionally. About James: James Guay is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (#lmft39252) in private practice since 1999 and has used various platforms to promote greater compassion and advocacy for human rights. He’s the Co-Chair of the #BornPerfect Advisory Committee for the National Center for Lesbian Rights — providing expert testimony against the use of conversion therapy at California’s State Capital. He’s taught several classes & workshops related to LGBTQ topics at Esalen Institute, JFK University and UC Berkeley’s School of Law. James has produced digital content on Friendships, Mindfulness, Perfectionism and other LGBTQ topics of interest. www.livingmorefully.com ... Instagram: @jamesguaylmft

Ep.186-This episode features a compilation of my holiday dating tips for singles and those in new relationships, situationships, and flirtationships from past episodes! Topics include surviving the holiday season while single, asking someone new out during the holidays, gift giving basics, inviting your potential love-interest home for the holidays, keeping in touch if you are traveling solo, and being honest about your feelings before making seasonal decisions that could unexpectedly accelerate your situationship. Plus, this episode's Consent Corner comes from Chapter 7 of my book The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) and focuses on positive reinforcement with someone you like after an encounter that possibly didn't go so well.

Ep.185-Sex & Cannabis Expert Ashley Manta tells us about the benefits of integrating cannabis into our sex lives, consent when using substances, the importance of exploring your own body, and more! We are also joined by colleagues Halcyone (www.relationshiprejuvenation.com) and Courtney (www.intimatehealthyoga.com) for this lively conversation. This episode's Consent Corner from my book The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) focuses on respecting and validating the boundaries of others. About Ashley: Ashley Manta has become known as "the CannaSexual" as a result of her passion and her expert knowledge about sex and cannabis. She offers premium Skype coaching for individuals or couples who are interested in creating more intimacy and pleasure in their lives! Ashley was dubbed "America's High Priestess of Pleasure" when she appeared on the January 2019 cover of Sexual Health Magazine. She documents her hedonistic lifestyle on her Instagram account. Her CannaSexual work landed her on the cover of Sexual Health Magazine in January 2019 and she has been referenced in Forbes, The London Times, Newsweek, Rolling Stone, Globe and Mail, LA Weekly, and more! She was also the featured expert in the "Stoned Sex" episode of Slutever on VICELAND TV. www.CannaSexual.com

Ep.184-Dr. Hernando Chaves and I talk about the sexual shame, importance of Sex Ed and consent education at all ages, choosing partners who are a good fit, and the sometimes difficult evolution of an individual within a relationship. This week's Consent Corner focuses on Emotional Intelligence & Consent Comprehension from my book The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com). About Dr. Hernando: Dr. Hernando Chaves holds a B.A. in psychology from University of California Santa Barbara, a M.A. in marital and family therapy from University of San Diego, and a D.H.S. doctorate in human sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist in CA specializing in intimacy/relational difficulties, sexual concerns/dysfunctions, and with sexual minority communities (LGBTQ, BDSM, fetish, sex work, nonmonogamy), Dr. Chaves is a psychology and sexuality professor at East Los Angeles College and Pepperdine University, presented at various academic institutions including Alliant, Cal Lutheran, CSULB, NYU, Pepperdine, USC, USD and conferences/shows such as AASECT, AVN/AEE, Catalystcon, SSSS, SHE and a Western Region past president and board of directors member for the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. He has written/consulted for 14 instructional media sex education projects, co-host for Penthouse's Sex Academy instructional series, and BaDoinkVR virtual reality sex therapy instructional video. Dr. Chaves has written for AskMen.com, Sexpert.com, a contributing author to the International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality, contributed/featured in publications such as Rolling Stone, The Guardian, Marie Claire, Bustle, Vice, Maxim, Mens Health, The Daily Star, Esquire, and Alternet, as well as radio and podcast appearances on Sirius XM, 96.3FM, Playboy radio, Sex Nerd Sandra, Sex Out Loud, and Sex with Emily. www.DrHernandoChaves.com

Ep.183-Marriage and Family Therapist Kate Loree and I discuss how she came to focus her practice to help non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ and sex worker communities, how she helps her clients, and advice for couples who want to explore non-monogamy. This week's Consent Corner from my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) focuses on boundaries and positive reinforcement around boundaries. About Kate: Kate Loree, LMFT is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ and sex worker communities. In addition to her Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy, she is also a registered art therapist (ATR) and has a second Masters in Business Administration (MBA). She has been practicing psychotherapy for sixteen years and has additional training in EMDR and the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma, such as sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She has been featured in Buzzfeed videos and been a guest on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, such as, American Sex and Sex Nerd Sandra. She has written for Good Vibrations and Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker. She is currently writing her first book due to be published at the end of 2020. Privately, she has been connected to non-monogamous and kink communities since 2003 and understands the hurdles, massive emotional growth, and amazing joy these worlds can provide. Her private practice resides in Encino, CA. For more information, please visit her on the web at www.KateLoree.com

Ep.182-Comedian Lianna Carrera and I examine the argument that it's hard for comedians to do stand-up in a politically correct world, how a comedian's dating life can work its way into their comedy, the importance of diversity in the entertainment industry both in front of and behind the camera, and her new show 'The Q Agenda'. This episode's Consent Corner is from Chapter 5 of my book, The Consent Guidebook ( www.TheConsentGuidebook.com ) and gives examples on how to hold others accountable. About Lianna: Lianna grew up as the gay kid of a Southern Baptist Minister and her mother and brothers are Deaf. This background propels her to authentically maneuver, create, and connect with a wide array of audiences that have two things in common: the belief that we are more alike than we aren't and the desire to laugh. The result is a rare find both as a comedian and as a human being. Lianna has toured as a professional stand-up comedian for a decade. She has developed original concepts (www.boyishontv.com) and just sold her first film to a production company. She recently recorded a stand-up comedy special with Seed&Spark as one of comedy’s six rising stars in Los Angeles, and landed her first interview on NPR’s The Frame. She is currently one of the hosts of ‘The Q Agenda’ on LATV. www.LiannaCarrera.com

Ep.181-On this episode, Sex Educator, Speaker, and Event Host Dirty Lola and I talk about her Sex Ed variety show 'Sex Ed A Go-Go', the importance of making Sex Ed more accessible, a recent 80 year-old client, and the healing that happens when helping clients work though a range of experiences. In the Consent Corner, we focus on the the basics of respecting boundaries from Chapter 1 of The Consent Guidebook www.TheConsentGuidebook.com About Dirty Lola: Dirty Lola started her journey into sex education by sharing her personal discoveries in the kink and polyamory worlds through the internet. From there, she became interested in the stigma, shame, and lack of accurate and accessible sex education available, and started sharing her exploits with her friends in her living room after parties. Once she amassed a following, she was encouraged to do something with her popularity, and started Sex Ed A Go Go. Lola has spent over 10 years kicking ass and using her platform to encourage a warm, no holds barred approach to body and sex positivity. She has presented her brand of sex education and positivity at a variety of events and venues, including Catalyst Con, SHE, GKE, Baruch College, and UNM. When she isn’t on the road and spreading the sex positive gospel, you can find her peddling chic sex toys and running workshops at Shag Brooklyn.

Dating Coach & Media Personality Damona Hoffman and I discuss vintage dating advice from an issue of McCall's magazine from 1958! How much has dating advice changed since the 50's? How hilarious is the advice? Listen in as we go through some of the 129 tips from the throwback article! In this episode's Consent Corner (from www.TheConsentGuidebook.com ), we talk about why 'No Means No' can be problematic. About Damona: Damona Hoffman is a certified dating coach, radio host, and TV personality. Damona starred in the TV series #BlackLove and A Question of Love on FYI TV (A & E Networks), she hosts the Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman Radio Show & Podcast, she is the Love Expert for BET.com, and she writes for The Washington Post’s long-running column, Date Lab. Damona was a finalist for iDate’s Best Dating Coach of 2014 and 2016, has been named one of the top dating experts in LA by DatingAdvice.com, and she’s made hundreds of media appearances on NBC, Fox, Animal Planet, SiriusXM, Woman’s Day Magazine, Essence Magazine, People Magazine and more. www.DamonaHoffman.com

Ep.179-On this episode, we explore the connection between bullying, consent, boundaries and coping skills in connection to the new celeb anti-bullying doc #NoJoke. In #NoJoke, singer Andrew Cole sets out to convince his musical idols to help him make a song for victims of bullying. He’s joined by Jeff Goldblum, Slash, Patrick Stewart, Lemmy, Chad Smith, Charlie Sheen, Jane Lynch, Cedric The Entertainer, Sharon Osborne and more, who share their talents and their sometimes painful experiences. Andrew’s journey to understand bullying leads him to Conflict Resolution Author & Speaker Barbara Coloroso, School Psychologist Izzy Kalman and to the ghosts of his own past—going beyond the tropes of today’s anti-bullying campaigns to the heart of the issue. #NoJoke is available October 22 On Demand and Digital from Indiecan Entertainment, and written & directed by Manfred Becker. We also feature another installment of The Consent Corner, highlighting consent tips, insights, and advice from my book, www.TheConsentGuidebook.com This episode is sponsored by dating app www.HashtagOpen.com ...Check it out for free in the app store avail for iPhone and android. www.nojokefilm.com proceeds go to www.AbuseHurts.com

Ep.178-On this episode, Legendary Founder/Curator/Host of Bawdy Storytelling Dixie De La Tour and I discuss how her sexual storytelling show has brought people together and has been healing to both the storyteller and the audience for 10+ years. For more Bawdy Storytelling, visit www.BawdyStorytelling.com ...we also introduce a new segment called The Consent Corner, featuring consent tips, insights, and advice from my book, www.TheConsentGuidebook.com This episode is sponsored by dating app www.HashtagOpen.com ...Check it out for free in the app store avail for iPhone and android.

Ep.177-On this episode, Intimacy Architect and Speaker Christi Anne Bela and I talk about enthusiastic consent, the importance of knowing your own boundaries when getting intimate, tips for talking about consent with potential partners, and how the action of throwing and catching a ball relates to consent. About Christi Anne: It was 2007 when Christi Anne began the first of many Yoga Teacher Trainings that lead her to work with Autistic people and begin Practical Happiness Living. Since moving to Nashville, Christi Anne has been on the leadership committee for Sex Positive World. As an Intimacy Architect, she educates people on consent, boundaries and how having a healthy sex life makes for a healthier life. In May of 2017, Christi Anne spoke at the Mega Conference for Disabilities on “Self Care, Consent and Boundaries."

Ep.176-Here are my interviews at nonprofit WriteGirl’s annual Lights Camera WriteGirl event (Apr 6, 2019) where famous actors perform the scripts written by Los Angeles teen girls who are part of the nonprofit’s writing program and monthly writing workshops. This year’s participating actors included Seth Rogen (Superbad, Knocked Up), Lauren Graham (Gilmore Girls), Wayne Brady (Let's Make A Deal, Whose Line Is It Anyway), Wendy McClendon-Covey (The Goldbergs), Keiko Agena (Gilmore Girls, Dirty John), and Kirby Howell Baptiste (The Good Place, Barry, Killing Eve). Listen to them share why they were passionate about being a part of this event and beyond. You’ll also hear from two WriteGirl mentees and how the program impacted their lives. Learn more about nonprofit WriteGirl at www.WriteGirl.org

Ep.175-Consent Guidebook Contributor, Sexuality Writer, and Speaker August McLaughlin and I talk about the release of her new book Girl Boner Journal, the followup to Girl Boner, the importance of talking openly about sexuality, how consent/sexuality/pleasure are linked and so much more! About August: August McLaughlin is a health and sexuality writer and host and creator of Girl Boner® and Girl Boner Radio. Her work appears in Cosmopolitan, DAME Magazine, the Huff Post, LIVESTRONG.com and more. Kirkus Reviews called her first novel, In Her Shadow, “an engaging story with an inventive structure and an intriguing focus on body-image issues.” Each week on Girl Boner Radio, she interviews sex and relationship experts, celebrity entertainers, sex workers, entrepreneurs, survivors and more. In 2016, she attended the United State of Women conference convened by the White House as a nominated change maker and spoke about surviving an eating disorder at a TEDx Women event in Beverly Hills. Known for melding personal passion, artistry and activism, August uses her skills as a public speaker and journalist to encourage women and people in the LGBTQIA+ community to embrace their bodies and selves, making way for fuller, more authentic lives. Publishers Weekly called her book, Girl Boner: The Good Girl’s Guide to Sexual Empowerment “equally fun, risqué, and informative” and “a welcome addition to sexual health literature.” The companion book, Girl Boner Journal: A Guided Journal to Sexual Joy and Empowerment, is now available for pre-order. @AugustMcLaughlin

Ep.174-Consent Guidebook Contributor, Therapist, Social Worker, and Speaker Dr. Donna Oriowo and I discuss the entitlement culture around consent, the repression of past consent violations and how they come up unexpectedly, enthusiastic consent and practicing expressing boundaries to get more comfortable. About Dr. Donna: Dr. Donna Oriowo (Oreo-Whoa!) is an international speaker, clinical social worker, sex and relationship educator and therapist located in the Washington D.C. metro area. Dr. Donna is the owner and lead therapist of AnnodRight, whose mission it is to help others reclaim their sexuality, identity, and self love by being their most wise, free, and authentic selves in addressing intersectionality, culture, and race in educational and therapeutic settings with a focus on developing healthy Black female sexuality. She can be found on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @Annodright. OR you can visit her (day or night) at www.AnnodRight.com

Ep.173-Consent Guidebook Contributor and Dominatrix, Mistress Justine Cross and I talk BDSM 101 basics, why consent is the first step of intimacy exploration, the importance of consent not only in her work, but also in everyday life. About Mistress Justine Cross: Mistress Justine Cross is a professional BDSM consultant and lifestyle Dominatrix based in Los Angeles with over 10 years’ experience. She is the owner of both Dungeon East and Dungeon West, Los Angeles’s premiere dungeon studios, which have been used for high-profile photo and video shoots including Janelle Monae’s 2018 “Make Me Feel” video, the 2014 film Bound, various podcasts including “Savage Love,” and for a number of campaigns and projects for major brands. With the mainstream growing more aware of BDSM, Mistress Justine’s opportunities to educate and correct the kink curious have expanded, and she’s been invited to be a guest speaker or teach classes on BDSM, safer sex practices, consent, and more at spaces and events like UCLA and the Los Angeles LGBT Center’s Women’s Health 360 Conference. She has donated her time and talents in the service of organizations like the LA Sex Workers Outreach Program, and participates yearly in events benefiting LA Pride and The Keep a Breast Foundation, for which she has raised over $5,000 to date. Extensively interviewed and profiled, Mistress Justine has appeared in Los Angeles Magazine and Playboy, and been featured in Nylon, LA Weekly, Time Out Los Angeles and on Buzzfeed and Salon.com.

Ep.172-On this episode, Writer, Columnist, and Consent Guidebook contributor Beth Cone Kramer talks about dating and consent for women over 40, celebs and the #MeToo movement, and possible reasons for the generational divide when it comes to consent. About Beth: Beth Cone Kramer is a Los Angeles-based writer and columnist. She covers a range of topics, including politics, health, and women in transition. Her mission is to empower women to value themselves, regardless of relationship status or age.

Ep.171-On this episode, we talk to Therapist, Speaker, and Author Shadeen Francis about the hierarchy of consent, heteronormativity and consent, pop culture, and awareness of our boundaires and the boundaries of others. About Shadeen: Shadeen Francis, MFT is a marriage and family therapist, professor, and author specializing in sex therapy and social justice. Shadeen trains and collaborates with non-profit organizations, medical schools, homeless shelters, and university counseling centres to help them create safe, justice-oriented policies and practices. She has been featured on platforms like 6-ABC and Huffington Post to share her expertise, and she speaks internationally on topics such as self-esteem, sexual intimacy, and pleasure. Shadeen’s belief is that the world is built on the strengths of communities. This worldview has propelled her to focus on underserved populations: ethnic and cultural minorities, the kinky/poly/queer communities, and victims of economic hardship. Her work allows people of all backgrounds to improve their relationships and live in peace and pleasure.

On this episode, Speaker and Activist Cassie Brighter and I chat about ways to help people fully grasp the concept of consent, consent and power balance, and how consent can improve our intimate connections. About Cassie: Cassie Brighter is your typical suburban mom. Well, your typical transgender, pansexual, polyamorous, sexpositive suburban mom. She runs an annual digital conference for trans women called Empowered Trans Woman Summit, and gives classes on gender diversity and sexual consent. She’s just launched a YouTube channel, and she’s ALWAYS on Facebook. Cassie is a top writer on Medium.com, on Feminism, Diversity and LGBTQ issues. Her website is CassieBrighter.com

Ep.169-Here's my interview with one of the contributors in my consent book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com), Sex Educator Leigh Montavon. On this episode, we chat about enthusiastic consent, the nuances of consent, how to make asking for consent fun and sexy, and why boundaries and important in the consent conversation. About Sex Coach Leigh: Leigh Montavon is a Sex Coach and Clinical Sexologist, as well as a writer, presenter, and educator. She specializes in working with, and is strongly connected to, the LGBTQIA+, kink, and non-monogamous communities. Leigh offers sex and relationship coaching to individuals in the Los Angeles area and via Skype from anywhere in the world. She writes a twice monthly column, “Ask Sex Coach Leigh,” for the Take Back Your Sex blog. She also hosts and facilitates a monthly women’s/genderqueer/non-binary polyamory discussion group. Leigh believes that a healthy sexuality is key to a happy life, and she deeply values body positivity, sex positivity, comprehensive sex education, intersectional feminism, and social justice.

Ep.168-Part 3-Consent Guidebook illustrator and artist Seth Wade and I discuss our collaboration process designing my consent book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) with attendees at Ohayocon 2019. We also talk about Seth's interesting journey as an artist, educator, and why he wanted to be a part of this book. Our workshop attendees also started a lively discussion about dating in the MeToo era as well as dating in a small town environment. www.Seth-Wade.com

Ep.167-Part 2-On this episode, I'm leading a discussion with attendees at my consent townhall discussion at Ohayocon 2019. We’re talking about how social awkwardness can lead to consent violations, ways convention organizers can make cons safer for cosplayers, and the impact that the MeToo movement has had at conventions. Shout out to Trickssi from the Cosplayer Survivor Support Network for suggesting various resources and solutions during our discussion. Cosplayer Survivor Support Network http://www.cosplyer-ssn.org @cosplayerssn Facebook & Twitter http://www.Trickssi.com

Part 1-On this episode, Actor/Producer Jason Marsden, Drag Performer Oriana Perón, Actor/Producer Michael Sinterniklaas and I have an honest and lively conversation about consent, cosplay, and Hollywood in my Cosplay & Consent session at Ohayocon 2019. We share personal stories and revelations around respecting the boundaries of others and ways we’ve all dealt with boundary-crossers. Actor/Producer Jason Marsden - Twitter & Instagram @JasonMarsden @MarsPresents Actor/Producer Michael Sinterniklaas - Twitter @MSinter & Instagram @MSWord Drag Performer/Producer Oriana Peron - Twitter & Instagram @OrianaPeron

Ep.165- Here's my interview with one of the contributors in my consent book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com), Trauma and Sexuality Coach Jimanekia Eborn. We chat about how the conversation around consent has a generational element, how caring about consent will set you up to win in relationships, and more! About Jimanekia: Jimanekia Eborn is a Sex Educator with a decade of experience in mental health work. Her focus within sexual education is teaching adolescents sexual education via More Than Sex-ED and though private classes, consultations, media appearances, and more. She's also the Director of Education for a nonprofit called More Than 'NO.' She is based in Los Angeles, California. SEWJim is expanding to all offer consulting for television, books, and film on the context & representation of sexual trauma, as well as sexual education. After years of watching cringe-worthy representations of survivors & sexuality in television, she wants to push forth a true narrative through this avenue and support the creative process.

Ep.164-Here’s my interview with one of the contributors in my consent book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com), Sex Educator and Speaker Dr. Yoni Alkan. We chat about his role as a cuddle party professional, cisgender men's role in the consent conversation, and more! Yoni Alkan is a Sexual Educator with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Masters in Conflict Resolution and Mediation, he is also a professional cuddler with Cuddlist.com and a Certified Cuddle Party Facilitator in San Francisco. Dr. Yoni Alkan is the creator of www.elementsofsexuality.com, he has been writing about sex, sexuality and relationships since 2011, and he is a global speaker on various Human Sexuality issues. His expertise are in alternative relationships and in improving our dating landscape through consent.

On this episode, answering your questions in a full episode of Dear Dating Advice Girl. This episode's questions include How Do I Deal With No One Being Interested In Me, How Do I Ask For A Kiss, Sometimes I Feel Bad Saying No To Sex, How Do I Tell My Partner That I Feel Disrespected, and How Do I Apologize For Insulting My Girlfriend's Appearance. Send your dating questions to info@TheDatingAdviceGirl.com or private message me on Twitter or Instagram @DatingAdviceGrl

Ep.162-Here’s my interview with one of the contributors in my consent book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com), Sex-Positive and Consent-Positive Speaker Jean Franzblau. We chat about her role as a cuddle party professional and she and her colleagues teach consent at their events. We also discuss ways to express our boundaries to others. About Consent Guidebook Contributor Jean: Jean Franzblau is a sex-positive and consent-positive speaker who walks her talk. When she discovered the importance of her own sexual empowerment, she wrote a play about it and performed it in ten cities. When she realized how important hugs and affection were to her emotional and physical health, she founded Cuddle Sanctuary – which has already offered 300 events and served over 500 clients in Los Angeles. Jean has presented at sexuality conferences on both coasts and for audiences around the country and abroad. She created the presentation “Sex After #MeToo” to share the message of consent to college campuses. Jean has been featured on BuzzFeed, Good Mythical Morning and Rolling Stone. Visit Jean at http://CuddleSanctuary.com

On this episode, I'm answering your dating questions! 'Dear Dating Advice Girl' questions include 'How Do I Tell My Friend That I'd Like To Date Them', 'How Do I Say No To A Second Date', 'Should I Shave For Him' and more! Email your dating questions to info@TheDatingAdviceGirl.com or PM me on instagram @DatingAdviceGrl

Here's my interview with one of the contributors in my consent book, The Consent Guidebook, Sexual Health Educator Nicole Holmes. We chat about the difference between Yes Means Yes and No Means No, enthusiastic consent, safe words, and more. About Consent Guidebook Contributor Nicole Holmes: Nicole is a sexual health educator with a focus on HIV/STI prevention among youth and Black women in addition to LGBTQ sexual health education. She contributes commentary to sexual health news using the Facebook page Nicky Hearts Public Health in addition to the hashtag #SafeSexSaturday. Nicole has taught sexual health education to students in juvenile detention centers in addition to sexual health education in rehab facilities as well. Nicole believes in utilizing a health model of de-stigmatizing sexuality and making sexual health accessible for all. Check out more about The Consent Guidebook and it's contributors at www.TheConsentGuidebook.com.

Here's my interview with one of the contributors in my consent book, The Consent Guidebook, Health Educator Molly Wray. We chat about the importance of consent in health classes, teaching boundaries and consent to children, modeling respectful behavior, and more. About Consent Guidebook Contributor Molly Wray: Molly Wray retired from teaching high school health education in 2015. As a health educator she had a deep commitment to teaching students about various aspects of mental and social health, two areas she feels are often neglected in health education curricula. Following her retirement, she took a job with the prevention division of the Abuse and Rape Crisis Shelter of Warren Couny, the Warren County Violence Free Coalition, and served for two years as a grant-funded social media coordinator. Check out more about The Consent Guidebook and it's contributors at www.TheConsentGuidebook.com

Topic: After listening, reflecting, and writing, The Dating Advice Girl podcast is back! This min episode is my official end of my hiatus...I describe what the upcoming episodes will involve and why I felt like I needed to take a break! I've missed you....we've got a lot to talk about!

I was invited to interview veterans and celebs at Producer Suzanne DeLaurentiis' annual Oscar viewing party! On this episode of The Dating Advice Girl Radio Show, you will hear interviews from male and female veteran honorees and celebs about everything from their thoughts about #MeToo and #TimesUp and lighter subjects like which movies they were rooting for this Oscar season. Interviews include Don Most (Happy Days), Major Lynette Jones (Veteran Honoree), George Lines (Veteran Honoree), Alice Amter (The Big Bang Theory), Gregg Christie, Lanett Tachel, David Douglas, Gabrielle Miller, Dushawn Moses (Scandal, Hand of God), Christopher Dukes, David 'Shark' Fralick, Robert Milar, Shannon Jackson, and Dani Iwakoshi.

Topic: This is the 5th episode of my dating panel interview series for 2017 where I’m interviewing singles and couples about their dating experiences in regards to their race, age, religion, sexual orientation, gender, and lifestyle. The intention of these interviews is to start a productive conversation about dating and hear directly from different groups of people to get a better understanding of their unique experiences. The participants in this panel are very candid, honest, and open and shared some very personal, heartfelt and emotional experiences including digital dating, sex, double standards, and stereotypes. Please listen with compassion. Thank you to this episode’s participants, Thibault, Tatiana, Seri and Daniel for sharing your personal stories with us and being a part of this series of interviews.

Topic: This is the 4th episode of my dating panel interview series for 2017 where I’m interviewing singles and couples about their dating experiences in regards to their race, age, religion, sexual orientation, gender, and lifestyle. The intention of these interviews is to start a productive conversation about dating and hear directly from different groups of people to get a better understanding of their unique experiences. The participants in this panel are very candid, honest, and open and shared some very personal, heartfelt and emotional experiences including digital dating, having a 'type', double standards between genders, and stereotypes. Please listen with compassion. Thank you to this episode’s participants, Ben, Brielle, Jimeneka, and Daniel for sharing your personal stories with us and being a part of this series of interviews.

Topic: The Dating Panel Interviews are back! This is the 3rd episode of my dating panel interview series for 2017 where I’m interviewing singles and couples about their dating experiences in regards to their race, age, religion, sexual orientation, gender, and lifestyle. The intention of these interviews is to start a productive conversation about dating and hear directly from different groups of people to get a better understanding of their unique experiences. The participants in this panel are very candid, honest, and open and shared some very personal, heartfelt and emotional experiences including soulmates, polyamory, and marriage. Please listen with compassion. Thank you to this episode’s participants, Thibault, Tatiana, Ben, and Seri for sharing your personal stories with us and being a part of this series of interviews.

Topic: The Dating Panel Interviews are back! This is the 1st episode of my dating panel interview series for 2017 where I’m interviewing singles and couples about their dating experiences in regards to their race, age, religion, sexual orientation, gender, and lifestyle. The intention of these interviews is to start a productive conversation about dating and hear directly from different groups of people to get a better understanding of their unique experiences. The participants in this panel are very candid, honest, and open and shared some very personal, heartfelt and emotional experiences including online dating, marriage and divorce, challenges of dating over 50 and more. Please listen with compassion. Thank you to this episode’s participants, John, Barry, and Glen for sharing your personal stories with us and being a part of this series of interviews.

Topic: The Dating Panel Interviews are back! This is the 1st episode of my dating panel interview series for 2017 where I’m interviewing singles and couples about their dating experiences in regards to their race, age, religion, sexual orientation, gender, and lifestyle. The intention of these interviews is to start a productive conversation about dating and hear directly from different groups of people to get a better understanding of their unique experiences. The participants in this panel are very candid, honest, and open and shared some very personal, heartfelt and emotional experiences including online dating, porn, what makes someone commit and more. Please listen with compassion. Thank you to this episode’s participants, Thibault, Rajiv, Ben, Juliette, and Harsha for sharing your personal stories with us and being a part of this series of interviews.

Topic: On this episode, I bring you sound bites from legendary Sex Therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer's presentation from the 2017 Sexual Health Expo in Los Angeles this February. Dr. Ruth gives her take on dating and sex when it comes to online dating, technology, masturbation, premature ejaculation, porn and the 'myth of the G spot'.

Topic: It's our annual Valentine's Day gift list for 2017! These items because they are unique, fun, mostly from small businesses, use organic ingredients, and/or help a good cause. The 20 products featured in this episode are listed in no particular order. The companies/products on our list include the following: Kisses 4 Us, Globein, To Whom It May Chocolates, Ninja, McCreas Caramels, Spank The Yeti, Petal Fresh, Farmacy Beauty, Raaka Chocolates, Umie, Beer Gifts, Thoughtfully, Godiva, Chatbooks, Original Grain Watches, BV and Co Jewelry, Jelly Belly, Wet Nuru Massage Kit, Datebox, Lego, Grip 6 Belts, and Kammok.

Topic: You're hustling to make a living and trying to make the world a better place. Dating can be hard for a woman that does it all. Here are some tips for all the lady hustlers who might be struggling to find compatible potential partners.

Topic: On this 1st episode of 2017, I'm giving you 10 tips for a happy and empowered dating and social life which might actually include not dating!

Topic: Hear my entire Buzzfeed 'Is It Okay?' panel segment with Buzzfeed talent discussing the topic of cheating. Then check out Part 4 of my interview with Molly Wray of the Warren Country ARCS Rape Crisis Center where we discuss Emotional Intelligence, the importance of love, touch and connecting with others, and growing up in Southern Ohio.

Topic: On this episode, I'm chatting with Molly Wray, Social Media Coordinator of the Warren County ARCS Rape Crisis Center (www.arcshelter.com) in Lebanon, Ohio about sexual assault prevention, establishing boundaries and the importance of consent, the Stanford swimmer rape case, and the controversy surrounding 'locker room talk'

Topic: A full episode of lively interviews with Dr. Chris Donoghue (Co-host of Loveline with Amber Rose) from the 2016 Sexual Health Expo (@SexHealthExpo) in NYC and the 2nd Annual SlutWalk (@SlutWalk_LA) in Los Angeles. First Dr. Donoghue and I chat about men's self pleasure product brand Tenga (@Tenga_Global) and the shame around talking about masturbation at the Sexual Health Expo. Then Dr. Donoghue and I cross paths at Amber Rose's Slutwalk in Los Angeles to chat about sexual shame, body shaming, and victim shaming. Find Dr. Chris Donoghue at @ChrisDonoghue and www.DrChrisDonoghue.com The Sexual Health Expo is an upscale event that puts a stylish touch on sex-ed, anchored by workshops hosted by top "sexperts" and exhibition halls featuring cutting-edge pleasure products. SHE empowers its diverse attendee base to immerse themselves in all the benefits of a healthy sex life. The mission of Amber Rose's SlutWalk is to deliver a flawlessly executed event geared toward raising awareness about sexual injustice and gender inequality. The Amber Rose SlutWalk aims to impact and uplift while shifting the paradigm of rape culture. The event provides a safe, all-inclusive space to entertain, educate and empower.

Topic: This is the 7th episode of my dating panel interview series where I’m interviewing groups of singles about their dating experiences in regards to their race, age, religion, sexual orientation, gender, and lifestyle. The participants in this episode are men in their 30's. The intention of these interviews is to start a productive conversation about dating and hear directly from different groups of people to get a better understanding of their unique experiences. The participants in this panel are very candid, honest, and open and shared some very personal, heartfelt and emotional experiences with us. Please listen with compassion. Thank you to this episode’s participants, Rob, Ben, Rajiv and Shawn for sharing your personal stories with us and being a part of this series of interviews.