Podcasts about empathic listening

Today, I interview Randall Alifano who grew up in a loud, talkative Italian family where everyone spoke, but no one really listened. Like many of us, Randall often felt unheard and disconnected, surrounded by people but without real understanding. This early experience of being silenced planted the seed for his deep curiosity about human connection and the power of listening.As he grew older, Randall began asking deeper questions, eager to understand the emotions behind people's words. His breakthrough came when he started working with individuals who had experienced profound trauma. He quickly realized that what people needed most wasn't advice or diagnosis, but someone to truly hear them. His ability to listen with full presence became the foundation of his healing work.Randall's approach to listening goes beyond the surface, allowing others to face their fears, feel understood, and reclaim their voice. He now teaches people how to connect with themselves and others through deep, compassionate listening, transforming their relationships and personal growth. His work has helped countless individuals move through their struggles by creating a safe space where they can be fully heard.__________________Randall Alifano, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and ordained minister with over 40 years of experience integrating psychology and spirituality into his private practice. He has dedicated his career to listening deeply to the dreams, traumas, and inner struggles of his clients, guiding them toward living in greater alignment with their inner wisdom.His work spans a wide range of experiences, including counseling battered women, running groups for violent men, and designing a domestic violence program. He has also studied and applied various psychological and spiritual methodologies, enriching his holistic approach to healing.In addition to his clinical work, Dr. Alifano has co-led seminars on intuitive listening and apprenticed with renowned figures in Gestalt Therapy and Encounter Groups at Esalen Institute. His teachings emphasize the power of presence, empathy, and curiosity in fostering deep connections with both others and ourselves. Through his guidance, he has witnessed the transformative impact of being truly heard, helping people enhance their relationships and personal growth.Outside his practice, Dr. Alifano enjoys drumming, meditation, and cooking his grandmother's famous Bolognese sauce.__________________Find Randall here:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/randall.alifanoInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/randallalifano/ Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Listening-Raw-Coming-Home-Receptivity/dp/B0C7JFWYZCWebsite: https://randallalifanophd.com/book/Support the showI'm Dr. Doreen Downing and I help people find their voice so they can speak without fear. Get the Free 7-Step Guide to Fearless Speaking https://www.doreen7steps.com​.

Watch this episode to hear how a Jewish man and a Muslim woman engage in "radical empathy" when discussing the war in Gaza. David Sauvage is the Founder of Culture of Healing, the designer of an online course called “The Way of the Empath,” and a performance artist best known for his “empathic readings.” In this episode, he shares what he learned about implicit bias and perspective-taking by attending a Trump rally, his personal journey of healing intergenerational trauma, and describes the powerful work he is doing with Kawtar El Alaoui called: "How We Make Peace: A Muslim and a Jew Demonstrate Radical Empathy.” 00:00 Preview 00:33 Introduction 00:52 About David Sauvage 06:51 Anita and David reflect on excerpts from the book Regenerative Leadership 11:26 Metta meditation: Why would we extend loving-kindness to people who have hurt us? 16:27 David's experience at a Trump rally and how empathy can bridge the divide in American politics 21:09 Davis acknowledges how his biases about MAGA followers were upended 23:15 David leans into empathy for a MAGA supporter 27:07 David explains who should go first 30:12 Anita shares her fears about discussing the war in Gaza 32:36 David's work on healing his Jewish trauma 38:54 David describes the “radical empathy” work he has done with Kawtar El-Alaoui 44:25 How We Make Peace: A Muslim and a Jew Demonstrate Radical Empathy 54:54 Anita asks David about the courage it takes to engage in “radical empathy" 57:50 The invitation to become more spiritual and present 1:1:13 David's Purposeful Empathy Story CONNECT WITH ANITA ✩ Email purposefulempathy@gmail.com ✩ Website https://www.anitanowak.com/ ✩ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/anitanowak/ ✩ Instagram https://tinyurl.com/anitanowakinstagram ✩ Facebook Page https://tinyurl.com/PurposefulEmpathyFacebook ✩ Facebook Group https://tinyurl.com/PurposefulEmpathyCommunity ✩ Podcast Audio https://tinyurl.com/PurposefulEmpathyPodcast CONNECT WITH DAVID ✩ Personal Website www.davidsauvage.com ✩ Company Website www.acultureofhealing.org ✩ YouTube @EMPATHNYC ✩ Instagram @empathnyc Show Notes ✩ The Way of the Empath Ft. David Sauvage - Part 1 https://youtu.be/n_aylnODOu8 ✩ How To End War In Two Generations https://www.intwogenerations.com/ ✩ Regenerative Leadership https://a.co/d/3G4q4kM

Coping Activities Diversions – any hobby or activity that engages your attention.        Writing, drawing, painting, crafts        Listening to music, playing an instrument, singing, dancing, acting        Gardening        Taking a walk, or going for a drive        Watching television or a movie        Guided Imagery Meditations        Playing a game        Shopping        Reading       Taking a break or vacation Tension Releasers         Going on a walk        Exercising        Breathing Exercises        Playing sports        Systematic Muscle Relaxation        Playing a musical instrument        Taking a hot shower or bath        Eating a little chocolate        Crying        Laughing        Singing   Organizing Tasks – any activity that involves ordering things.        Cleaning        Organizing your environment        Putting things away        Sudoku, Crossword puzzles, Jigsaw puzzles        Update your calendar       Outline the steps in a project Cognitive Coping Skills        Making lists (Pro-Con, Goals, Ideas)        Brainstorming solutions        Managing your expectations        Considering an inspirational quote        Being flexible        Consciously changing your attitude        Rewarding yourself for successes        Analyzing a situation       Reframing a problem to be an opportunity Social or Interpersonal Coping Strategies         Talking to someone you trust        Writing a note to someone you care about        Spending time with friends or family        Serving someone in need        Caring for or play with a pet        Role-playing challenging situations with others       Encouraging others Physical Maintenance Strategies        Getting enough sleep        Eating healthy foods        Getting into a good routine        Limiting caffeine and alcohol        Taking medication as prescribed        Deep / slow breathing   Limit Setting        Dropping some activities if you're over-extended        Setting boundaries and saying "no"        Prioritizing important tasks        Scheduling time for yourself       Being assertive to the demands of others Spiritually Fulfilling Activities         Praying        Meditating        Enjoying nature        Getting involved in a worthy cause       Experiencing appreciation or gratitude   Negative Coping Actions Diversions        Procrastination – putting off important tasks        Misusing drugs or alcohol as self-medicating       Wasting time on unimportant tasks Tension Releasers        Tantrums        Throwing things at people        Hitting people        Yelling at others        Destroying property       Speeding or driving recklessly Social or Interpersonal Strategies        Blaming others        Isolating or withdrawing        Mean or hostile joking        Putting down others behind their back        Criticizing others to their face        Manipulating others        Refusing help from others        Lying to other people        Sabotaging other people's plans        Being late to appointments        Provoking violence from others       Enabling others to take advantage of you Physical        Suicidal Gestures        Self-harm        Excessive exercise        Developing illnesses       Abusing drugs or alcohol Over-Indulging        Spending too much        Gambling        Eating too much       Continually crying Cognitive Strategies        Denying any problem        Stubbornness or inflexibility        All or nothing, black or white, thinking        Blaming yourself and others        Catastrophizing        Unproductive Repetitive Thoughts        Hiding or Burying Your Feelings        Withdrawing or Isolating       Name-Calling Self-Diminishing        Making excessive fun of yourself        Self-sabotaging behaviors        Blaming yourself        Thoughts and behaviors that suggest that you deserve to feel bad or overwhelmed  

The Aspect Compass, part of the Meta-Compass Model, divides areas of the brain and aspects of the psyche into four parts called:  The Artist, The Scout, The Warrior, and The Chief. The Artist represents those parts of the brain and psyche that understand the world in terms of emotions.  The Artist communicates, in terms of feelings and moods, to the rest of the brain.  Helping The Artist feel centered involves making The Artist feel heard and seen.  Creative arts activities can be emotionally centering activities.  Co-Regulating with others and Experiencing empathy from others is especially centering.  Empathic Listening is a great technique for helping clients to experience empathy. The Scout represents those parts of the brain and psyche that are tasked with exploring the world, trying to make sense of it, and reporting back to the rest of the brain.  The Scout tends to over-analyze and can become very disorganized (in other words, thinking becomes disorganized).  Having clients exercise the Scout skills of Accurate Listening and Accurate Reporting are centering for this part of the psyche.  Listening Checks are an effective tool for teaching Accurate Listening.   Teaching Accurate Reporting often times involves using Clarifying Questions to help them describe a full sequence of events in the proper chronological order.  It includes encouraging kids to report whatever happened in a calm tone of voice (exercising Reaction Inhibition and Stress Tolerance).  Having kids Identify More Than One Possible Explanation for why something has occurred or someone has done something helps them exercise the executive skill of Flexibility. The Warrior represents those parts of the brain and psyche that are in charge of both external behaviors and internal physiological actions.  If The Warrior is heightened, it is very difficult for the Scout to function (in other words, if a kid is still agitated they're not going to be able to access their best thinking).  The Warrior tends to automatically react (especially internally) to whatever The Artist is communicating.  So to help The Scout improve at processing events, The Warrior and The Artist need to first be relatively calm. The Chief represents those parts of the brain and psyche that are in charge of regulating The Artist, The Scout, and The Warrior.  The Chief uses Executive Skills (and some other abilities such as Beliefs and Values) to influence a person's feelings, thinking, and behaviors.  Processing is a technique designed to strengthen a kid's inner Chief and inner Scout.  It can be done throughout the residential day, but especially makes sense to use after an incident involving problem behaviors.  Once a kid has been separated from the group and has generally calmed down, Processing provides a structured way to turn what happened into a learning experience.  Processing is customized to the developmental level of the client.  Some clients may only do the first step of processing, while other clients are capable of doing much more. 1.      The first step in Processing an incident is to get the client to own up to their own behaviors.  That's literally admitting to having done what problem behaviors resulted in their being separated from the group.  This is best done without evoking feelings of shame and guilt.  Those feelings get in the way of cognitive processing.  In other words, those feelings make it harder to the kid to think about what happened and to learn from it. 2.      The second step in Processing is done with clients who developmentally are able to identify some feelings and/or thoughts that were part of the problem behavior incident.  The goal is the same as step 1 – to get the kid's inner Chief to accept Responsibility for their own behaviors, feelings, and thoughts. 3.      The third step in Processing, to the extent the client is developmentally able, is to help them identify what they could have done differently and what they could do next time a similar situation arises. 4.      The fourth step switches from a focus on personal responsibility to looking at Social Responsibility.  This step involves having the kid identify what impact they think their behaviors had on people around them. 5.      The fifth step moves beyond verbally accepting Responsibility to performing some action related to Relationship Repair.  That might be a simple verbal apology, an apology card, or might be a Restitution such as beautifying a space, doing an extra chore that benefits others, or any other symbolic gesture showing that they want to be a positive member of the group.  Restitution systems can be a powerful structure within a residential treatment program but need to be designed for a general level of consistency.  The basic rationale behind Restitution is that you did something that made it more unpleasant for other people to live and work here; so now do something that makes it more pleasant for others.  This is largely a symbolic action and shouldn't take more than 10 to 15 minutes (in general).  It provides kids with a great sense of closure that an incident has been resolved and that they can get a fresh start. 6.      The sixth step goes even further in holding kids accountable to their living group, by having them review their processing with a group of peers and staff in a Group Explanation.  The main purpose of the group is for the client to publicly accept responsibility for their own problem behaviors and to check the accuracy of their thoughts on how they impacted others.  Two to five peers, who've been coached in some boundaries on giving feedback, then share how they were actually impacted and potentially give some constructive advice.  It takes a certain level of skill to facilitate a Group Explanation group; however, this skill can be learned by any residential staff.  Setting  up a Group Explanation system requires programmatic support so that this extremely powerful intervention is run in a consistent and productive fashion.  If a physical Processing Form is used, that paper can serve as a helpful guide for a client to present at a Group Explanation.  It can work well to have some restriction on privileges in place until a client completes any Relationship Repair / Restitution or Group Explanation expectations.

Posture:  The parts of the brain that control the physical body (the inner Warrior) and the parts of the brain that operate in terms of emotions (the inner Artist) are tightly linked in the brain.  Changes in one automatically trigger changes in the other.  So, getting kids to become more aware of their posture, and to habitually adopt good posture, supports being in a positive emotionally state-of-mind.  The art is being able to frequently help kids improve their posture without it becoming obnoxious.   Co-Regulation:  When you synchronize your nervous system and a client's nervous system.  This is most easily done through high energy activities such as playing an active game together; however, it can also happen in quieter moments such as watching something engaging together.  When kids co-regulate with a relatively organized adult, they are exercising the same parts of their brain that are involved in self-regulating.  If they get skilled enough at self-regulation, they still may require treatment, but would no longer need to receive that treatment in an institutional setting. Empathic Listening:  The goals of Empathic Listening are two-fold.  The first is to create a co-regulating experience for the client.  The second is to leave the client feeling like their feelings are understood by you.  That's the heart of empathy – being able to feel what another person is feelings.  There's seven steps to Empathic Listening: 1. Mirroring – match the client's general body language and speech (speed and tonality).  Slightly lead the client toward lower and slower physiology and speech. 2. Intense listening – use body language, gestures, and small verbal cues to convey that you are intensely listening.  One “trick” you can use to help yourself slip into conveying intense listening is to speak and carry yourself as if you were trying to memorize what the client is saying. 3. Ask clarifying questions in a non-judgmental fashion – convey that your interest is in understanding the client.  Do not just repeat what the kid has said; rephrase the highlights or key points, taking care to not distort the meaning.      a.       Can I just clarify?  You're saying that …      b.      Am I understanding you correctly; you're saying…      c.       Let me make sure I've got this right; you're saying …      d.      A lot of times people use the same word a little differently.  What do you mean by… 4. Focusing on emotions – ask clarifying questions to inspire the client to share the emotional content of what they're saying.  Take care to not tell kids how they are feeling.  Often times, adopting an air of curious confusion can be helpful for getting kids to elaborate on their emotions.  Adopting a non-judgmental tone is again crucial.  Remember, feelings don't have to be logical, they just are.  You're trying to get the client to talk about their feelings.      a.       When you said that made you “angry”… what do you mean by that?  Is that something you feel in your body?      b.      When you say you're “upset”… I'm not sure I really know quite what you mean?  Help me understand better….      c.       When you say “it's unfair,” I could kind of guess at what exactly you mean, but I don't really want to guess.  Could you explain that? 5. Avoid problem-solving – it can be incredibly tempting to steer the conversation into problem-solving.  Don't do that.  That shifts the kid from speaking from an emotional place to using the more analytical parts of the brain.  That's a key point of Processing, which is a separate tool, from Empathic Listening.  The goal of Empathic Listening is to create a sense of connection and a therapeutic alliance.  It's much more powerful, and in most situations more therapeutic, to simply leave the client with a feeling of being understood, and sitting together with the feelings, than thinking that your role is to help them solve some problems. 6. Avoid the “empathizing equals agreeing with” trap – sometimes an Empathic Listening session can include a kid complaining about other adults.  It is wise to be explicit that while you think you understand what they're saying, that doesn't necessarily mean that you agree with their characterizations of others.  Done skillfully, if you've established a rapport, this distinction will be accepted by kids without breaking the rapport you've established. 7. Plug the client back into program structures – while it's not necessarily “wrong” to end an Empathic Listening session with Problem Solving, that can take away from the power of the Empathic Listening.  Instead, it is often times preferable to end the session by acknowledging that the emotional issues that were shared are not something that can be solved, and then directing / assisting them to engage in whatever scheduled structures are currently the group's focus (e.g. “I really appreciate you sharing some really difficult feelings with me; I hope on some level you also found that helpful.  I think the best thing to do now is to switch gears to the schedule, which right now would be bed prep.”).  

Tune in to hear:What life experiences put Jane on a path to become a listening coach?What is generative listening and how does it differ from other forms of listening?In what ways did becoming familiar with generative listening transform Jane's life?What does Jane mean when she says “listening to ignite thinking in others?”What role does empathy play in the process of being a generative listener?What are the five levels of listening that Jane delineates?How should responses be crafted to encourage or deepen generative listening?What does Jane's mnemonic “EARS” stand for?Why do speaking skills get so much attention, in books and coaching, while listening often goes ignored?Some tips on how to listen to those who you don't necessarily share values with.How can we be better about remembering names after meeting others?How might we carve out more time to just think deeply in our work lives?LinksJane Adshead GrantJane's BooksJane Adshead Grant on LinkedInTime to ThinkConnect with UsMeet Dr. Daniel CrosbyCheck Out All of Orion's PodcastsPower Your Growth with OrionCompliance Code: 0625-OAS-3/11/2024

Tune in to hear:What lead Dr. Griner to focus his work and research around compassion specifically?When clinicians like Dr. Griner talk about compassion, what are they talking about exactly and how might this differ from the popular conception of compassion?How do we balance our desire to want to end someone's suffering without falling into the trap of just wanting to fix everything or go directly to solutions?What are some examples where compassion might look assertive, firm or even defiant?How can we strike a balance between being service-driven and compassionate with meeting our own needs and self-compassion?In his book Dr. Griner lays out six principles of compassion – what are a few of these and how did he arrive at them?How might we apply the thought that “it's not my fault, but it is my responsibility” in our daily lives?What are the 3 emotional systems Dr. Griner lays out in his book and how do they interact?Why is our “soothing system” typically the least developed of our 3 emotional systems?For those who have particularly large red (anxiety system) or blue (motivation system) circles but malnourished green (soothing system) circles, how can they begin to cultivate this within themselves a bit more?What is the relationship between self-compassion and compassion for others, and why is it often so hard to cut ourselves some slack?LinksDr. Derek GrinerCompassion Focused Therapy WorkbookThe Compassionate Mind FoundationConnect with UsMeet Dr. Daniel CrosbyCheck Out All of Orion's PodcastsPower Your Growth with OrionCompliance Code: 0385-OAS-2/21/2024

Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3OJ4V7200:01:46 Principle 1: Listen To Understand, Not To Respond00:03:20 Principle 2: Listen To Everything 00:04:01 Principle 3: Don't Conflate Your Experience With Theirs00:05:37 Principle 4: Empathic Listening Takes Effort00:07:02 The Four Types of Empathic Responses00:07:42 Type 1: Acknowledging Their Courage00:08:53 Type 2: Clarifying The Message00:09:57 Type 3: Conveying That You Care00:11:23 Type 4: Checking InWe live in a noisy, distracted world where everyone is trying to make themselves heard. Empathic listening is sadly underdeveloped. This is the kind of listening that puts total, genuine attention on the other person and the message they are trying to convey. If we're honest, many of us try to merely give the impression of paying attention to someone, or play the role of a good listener without really being one. Can you think of the last time you sat in someone's presence and gave them your full attention?It takes effort not to constantly think of what you'll say next, not to interrupt, not to rush in with your own opinions, experiences, arguments, perceptions . . . Not only does it take effort, but it comes with a certain degree of risk. It may seem counterintuitive, but authentic listening opens up a space of vulnerability—for the listener, too! #Clarifying #Communication #Conveying #Correcting #Empathic #StudsTerkel #Terkel #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #ThePowerofE.Q. #PrinciplesOfEmpathicListeningAndResponding#Clarifying #Communication #Conveying #Correcting #Empathic #StudsTerkel #Terkel #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #ThePowerofE.Q. #PrinciplesOfEmpathicListeningAndResponding #

This episode focuses on how to help child-clients become physiologically centered.  Previous episodes have focused on helping children become emotionally and  cognitively centered. Emotional centering involves regulating extremes of emotions, and developing reaction inhibition and stress tolerance. Various tools, such as the Check-in and Empathic Listening can be really useful for helping kids become emotionally centered.  Cognitive centering techniques include the use of tools like the Feelings Thermometer and Feelings Maps to help kids describe their feelings.  A complimentary approach focuses on leveraging clients' physiology to help them become centered.  Afterall, every emotion is expressed in various ways throughout a person's body.  Co-regulation, achieved through shared activities and physical engagement, is a basic way in which a counselor can help a client become centered on a physiological level.  Changing a child's physiology is a powerful way to influence regulate their emotions and thoughts.  Techniques such as sitting down, drinking water, engaging in physical activities, and going on walks are explored. Food also powerfully impacts physiology but in many ways it's too powerful and overusing it as a way to change a kids mood or attitude can cause unwanted negative consequences. Likewise, touch, hugs, and hand-holding can be very physiological centering, but again there's a need for judgment and clear program guidelines. Various techniques, including sensory meditation, breathing exercises, and mindfulness, are recommended to help children become physiologically centered. The challenges of implementing these techniques are explored, including the need for months of daily practice and potential boredom of some exercises. This episode concludes by introducing the Owl Eyes technique, a form of sensory walking meditation involving maintaining peripheral vision.

This episode explores various techniques for helping children process their feelings and develop emotional regulation skills. The episode begins with a recap of previous discussions on physiological coregulation and processing aimed at helping kids become cognitively centered. The focus then shifts to processing feelings, which can be more difficult, because emotions are challenging for children to articulate. Check-in's are a basic tool for helping kids express their emotions. These check-in's involve asking children about their current emotional state. It often times is a good practice to focus on basic needs like hunger, thirst, and fatigue as potential sources of emotional distress.  Helping children monitor these needs is also developing their executive skill of self-monitoring.   The episode also introduces two valuable tools: the Emotional Intensity Thermometer and the Feelings Map. The Emotional Intensity Thermometer is used to assess and rate the strength of different emotions, allowing children to better understand and express their feelings. The Feelings Map helps children identify and separate complex, simultaneous emotions, providing a visual aid for discussing their feelings. Empathic Listening is presented as a powerful technique for counselors to connect with children on an emotional level. The importance of mirroring body language and tone, asking clarifying questions, and avoiding problem-solving during empathic listening sessions is emphasized. Some cautions include anticipating the potential for disclosures of abuse or trauma during empathic listening and the importance of communicating such disclosures to the child's therapist.  There is also a risk that Empathic Listening will lead a child to assume that you agree with all of their framing, including negative views of other people.  Ways to address that possibility are addressed. The episode concludes with guidance on transitioning from Empathic Listening back to structured activities and routines, highlighting the role of the counselor in providing emotional support and fostering a sense of belonging in children. Throughout the episode, there's a focus on the development of executive skills, self-monitoring, and stress tolerance as crucial components of helping children process their feelings and achieve emotional centeredness.

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Ever wondered why your conversations, while well-intentioned, often end with the other person feeling unheard? It's time to turn the tables. On today's episode, we peel back the layers of empathic listening - the silent superhero of effective communication. I'll take you on a journey through my personal experiences and the lessons learned, revealing the power of lending an ear over a voice. We delve into the nuances of why listening is an overlooked yet crucial skill with potential to significantly enrich your relationships.Brace yourselves, because we're going to pull back the veil on empathic listening: its transformative power, and the practical tips to master it. We discuss the importance of demonstrating understanding, how to resist that itch to offer solutions, and the sheer power of simply making the other person feel heard.  Join me in this journey to discover how effective communication can be a catalyst for personal and professional growth. Remember, the art of listening is one that everyone can learn, and this episode could be your first step towards mastering it.Thank you to our sponsors:ASKE ConsultingEmail: hello@askeconsulting.co.ukAquilae Email: cvm@aquilae.co.ukEpisode Directory on Instagram @careerviewmirror  If you enjoy listening to our guests career stories, please follow CAREER-VIEW MIRROR in your podcast app.Episode recorded on 27 July 2023.

Tune in to hear:- What makes up Brendan's list of the 10 guiding principles of financial psychology?- Brendan says that “goals shift, but values persist.” What does he mean by this and how do we move from illuminating values to tying those back to specific goals?- Brendan recently interviewed a “question expert” on his own podcast. What was the biggest takeaway from their conversation and how can we craft better questions?- Brendan's third tenant is that “the more vivid your future, the more likely the behavior change.” How can we make our future selves more salient and vivid?- Reflective listening, where you hear your words spoken back to you, has a lot of benefits. How can advisors take advantage of this phenomenon without merely parroting back what their client's are expressing?- Why are discovery meeting recap emails so important and what should they look like?- How can advisors “move from being an advice giver to being a thinking partner?”- In an industry so focused on the present day and the future, why is looking back on the past so important? What impact might this have on individual investor behavior?- What does Brendan consider to be the most important skill in financial advice?https://www.wiredplanning.comhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-human-side-of-moneyCompliance Code: 1112-OAS-4/19/2023

Tune in to hear:- Why does discussing money remain such a persistent taboo in our culture?- Why is financial intimacy so critical and how can we work towards achieving it in our lives?- How does financial intimacy, or intimacy more generally, relate to “feeling seen?”- How can financial intimacy allow us to better see ourselves and unearth our personal money stories that have gone under our radar?- We have a cognitive understanding that we can't take our wealth with us when we die, but why is this so hard to understand in practice?https://www.linkedin.com/in/MoneyandWellnesshttps://www.instagram.com/modomsolutionsCompliance Code: 0879-OAS-3/27/2023

Blaine Anderson, men's dating coach, breaks down the fascinating findings from her Single Male Loneliness study and shares her tips for upleveling your textationship. The Dating Dish this week is: How Drew Barrymore gave us all a master class on empathic listening. The Dear Damona question is: I swipe left on profiles that mention the importance of chemistry. Am I making a mistake? Follow Blaine on Instagram @DatingByBlaine and learn more about her program by visiting DatingByBlaine.com Get Damona's free profile starter kit at DatesandMates.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 The secret is to listen to the emotions, not the words, he says.Recent discoveries in brain science have revealed the underlying processes of how we regulate our emotions. Armed with these secrets, you can calm anyone down in seconds without losing your composure.He says Learning how to listen and reflect emotions is easy to learn. Most people develop mastery in 4-6 weeks. By modeling this skill to adults and children, the contagion of empathic listening will spread. We will all benefit, he says. https://dougnoll.comhttp://www.yourlotandparcel.org

The Nonviolent Communication process describes empathy as a quality of presence in how one listens to another. This episodes explores the subject of empathy through some of Marshall Rosenberg's earlier writing. "I can testify then when you are in psychological distress and someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good. It is astonishing how elements which seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens." —Carl Rogers If you have comments about this episode or topics you'd like me to explore in future episodes, please submit them here: https://www.rachellelamb.com/contact-rachelle

Welcome to August Hot Takes! To celebrate the podcast's 2nd anniversary, we're shaking things up with some solo episodes from yours truly. I'm answering common questions attendees ask during my keynotes and trainings.This week: Why is active listening so hard? Thanks for being here and enjoying the podcast. Would love to know what you think of this Hot Takes format. Key Takeaways:Active listening is not a natural skill to master. It is more complicated than basic listening. As much as you are able, taking notes during a conversation will allow you to better listen to what is being said, not allowing your mind to wander afar. Repeat back and validate what the other person is saying. This doesn't mean you agree with what they are saying.  "If you find it difficult to actively listen, just know you're not alone. And know, it is an exercise, it is a muscle you can isolate and strengthen just like empathy." —  Maria Ross Resources Mentioned:Empathy Circles: https://www.empathycircles.com/Institute of Organization Development: Active Listening: Why is it so difficult?Empathic Listening: 9 Strategies for Empathic Communication Don't forget to download your free guide! Discover The 5 Business Benefits of Empathy: http://red-slice.com/business-benefits-empathy  Connect with Maria: Get the podcast and book: TheEmpathyEdge.comLearn more about Maria's brand strategy work and books: Red-Slice.comHire Maria to speak at your next event: Red-Slice.com/Speaker-Maria-RossTake my LinkedIn Learning Course! Leading with EmpathyLinkedIn: Maria RossInstagram: @redslicemariaTwitter: @redsliceFacebook: Red Slice

Welcome to August Hot Takes! To celebrate the podcast's 2nd anniversary, we're shaking things up with some solo episodes from yours truly. I'm answering common questions attendees ask during my keynotes and trainings.This week: Why is active listening so hard? Thanks for being here and enjoying the podcast. Would love to know what you think of this Hot Takes format. Key Takeaways:Active listening is not a natural skill to master. It is more complicated than basic listening. As much as you are able, taking notes during a conversation will allow you to better listen to what is being said, not allowing your mind to wander afar. Repeat back and validate what the other person is saying. This doesn't mean you agree with what they are saying.  "If you find it difficult to actively listen, just know you're not alone. And know, it is an exercise, it is a muscle you can isolate and strengthen just like empathy." —  Maria Ross Resources Mentioned:Empathy Circles: https://www.empathycircles.com/Institute of Organization Development: Active Listening: Why is it so difficult?Empathic Listening: 9 Strategies for Empathic Communication Don't forget to download your free guide! Discover The 5 Business Benefits of Empathy: http://red-slice.com/business-benefits-empathy  Connect with Maria: Get the podcast and book: TheEmpathyEdge.comLearn more about Maria's brand strategy work and books: Red-Slice.comHire Maria to speak at your next event: Red-Slice.com/Speaker-Maria-RossTake my LinkedIn Learning Course! Leading with EmpathyLinkedIn: Maria RossInstagram: @redslicemariaTwitter: @redsliceFacebook: Red Slice

Tune in to hear:- When we narrow down the financial advisors to those who we would trust to manage our spouse's or parent's finances, Steve thinks that we do so largely on behavioral factors alone. Which behavioral considerations make someone a trusted advisor?- From the outside looking in (i.e. if you don't personally know an advisor beforehand), how can one make a determination about whether an advisor is going to be one of the handful of advisors that another advisor might entrust with their family's finances?- Where does Steve think we are headed as an industry? How might we communicate the broader value we can offer to the investing public when they still largely think of us as “stock pickers?”- What has Steve seen that really knits clients and advisors together?- What is one thing, from a productivity standpoint, that Steve sees advisors failing to do or a place where they're leaving value on the table?- What's an example of a common high effort, low impact advisor behavior?- How can we begin to combat inflation at a time like this?https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-admired-advisor-podcast/id1519857134https://books.google.com/books/about/27_Principles_Every_Investor_Should_Know.html?id=C6yGxgEACAAJCompliance Code:  0994-OAS-6/8/2022

We kick off our Throwback Summer series with a re-release of our conversation with Indi Young,  a qualitative data scientist.  Indi helps organizations better understand human behavior for product design strategy and innovation.  Find Indi Young Online:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/indiyoung/Website: https://indiyoung.com/Referenced:Dr. Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com Inside Out by Pixar:https://www.amazon.com/Inside-Out-Plus-Bonus-Features/dp/B00ZZMEBFSPractical Empathy: For Creativity and Collaboration in Your Work by Indi Young:https://rosenfeldmedia.com/books/practical-empathy/Mental Models: Aligning Design Strategy with Human Behavior by Indi Young: https://rosenfeldmedia.com/books/mental-models/Future Ethics by Cennydd Bowles:https://www.amazon.com/Future-Ethics-Cennydd-Bowles/dp/1999601912  We Get Real AF Podcast Credits:Producers & Hosts: Vanessa Alava & Sue RobinsonVanessa AlavaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessahalava/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessahalava/Twitter: https://twitter.com/vanessahalava Sue RobinsonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sue-robinson-29025623/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/memyselfandfinds/Twitter: https://twitter.com/sociallysue_Audio Producer/Editor: Sam McleanInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mcleansounds/Website: www.inphase.bizAudio Music Track Title: Beatles UniteArtist: Rachel K. CollierYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiHnYgtOn8u9YovYplMeXcwInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelkcollier/Website: https://www.rachelkcollier.com Intro Voice-Over Artist: Veronica HortaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/veronicahorta/Cover Artwork Photo Credit: https://unsplash.com/@alicemoore We Get Real AF Podcast OnlineInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/wegetrealaf/Twitter: https://twitter.com/wegetrealafFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/wegetrealaf/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/wegetrealafWebsite: https://wegetrealaf.cThis episode is part of the Summer Throwback series - a re-release of favorite WeGRAF episodes. The We Get Real AF podcast is a production of MicDrop Creative, telling inclusive stories through film and media.Support the show

Tune in to hear:- What are some of the primary drivers of asset flows from a behavioral perspective?- Soft factors account for a lot more of clients' decision-making process about their assets - what is the takeaway, for asset managers and financial advisors, from this revelation?- What are the three different types of trust that Herman breaks down in his book?- Interpersonal trust might be the most important pillar of trust, as well as being the most within an advisor's sphere of control. What can one do to build and fortify this with our client base?- What is the number one most trusted profession in both the US and nearly globally? Why might this be the case?- Why are financial professionals rated so low on the Edelman Trust Barometer? Could they ever be trusted at the same level as those in a medical profession?- What are the “Big 5” personality traits and how can they be applied to deepen the understanding between clients and advisors?https://www.thetrustmandate.comhttps://www.prospectabriefings.comCompliance Code: 0919-OAS-5/24/2022

In this episode, I talk about empathetic listening.

It seems like everyone is at everyone else's throats these days, whether over politics or what we're having for dinner. How do we repair what is going wrong in American life and within the democratic process specifically? Boyd looked at a new piece in Newsweek that argues that empathic listening will go a long way toward healing divides. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

English Podcast Les Millionnaires des Diamants November 19th: Empathic Listening  #podcast #lesmillionnairesdesdiamants  #leadership #selfdevelopment  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lesmillionnairesdesdiamants/ Get your ticket for the next conference: https://les-millionnaires-des-diamants.square.site/ English version conditionning Program: https://les-millionnaires-des-diamants.square.site/ Follow us live on Podbean at 8am monday-friday or join us on the Zoom 855-142-156 https://lesmillionnairesdesdiamants.podbean.com/

Welcome to Season 2 of Skilling It! In this episode we talk about elements of good relationships including trust, being non-judgmental, showing compassion and more. We discuss benefits of good relationships and the difference between active listening and empathic listening. Finally, we review very specific empathic listening skills. Links: How to Improve Your Empathic Listening Skills: 7 Techniques https://positivepsychology.com/empathic-listening/ Bible verse: Luke 8: 43-48

Will Osmun, Ph.D., VP of Programming at Kids Food Basket in Grand Rapids, Michigan is passionate about addressing racism and hunger in the US. His professional work has focused on social equity issues through the lens of personal, community, and organizational change. Will has facilitated local, national, and international conversations, coached, and trained CEOs, executive teams, government agencies, nonprofit leaders, and community organizations on issues of poverty, hunger, racism, othering, bias, hiring, retention, inclusion, collaboration, and leadership. Will is trained in Empathic Listening and Motivational Interviewing and is certified in Compassionate Listening, Mediation, and Immunity to Change. Through coaching, speaking engagements, group facilitation, training, and panel discussions, he takes clients through a meaningful process of self-reflection, history, research, conflict repair, and authentic relationship building. Coaching and training sessions are customized to meet the specific needs, language, and frameworks necessary to create understanding and promote change. Will's primary focus is on the factors that create resistance to equity and entrench cultural dehumanization. He provides clients with practical methods to address and overcome internal and structural frameworks. Will is currently the VP of Programming: Expert in Residence at Kids' Food Basket, where he leads the programming team across four counties, including a 10-acre chemical-free farm. Before this role, he was the Chief Strategist for the Urban League of West Michigan, where he headed their programming team and led their Racial Equity, Diversity, and Inclusion work. He previously served as executive director of The SOURCE, an equity and employment-focused nonprofit, and as the State Director for United Healthcare's myCommunity Connect program in Detroit, Mi. Additionally, he spent 30 years working in for-profit industries, where he gained experience in manufacturing, management, and national sales and marketing. Will earned a MM from Aquinas College, an MS in Supply Chain Logistics from Michigan State University, and a MA and a Ph.D. in Leadership and Change from Antioch University. He is a 2011 graduate of Leadership Grand Rapids and a Marano Fellow of the Aspen Institutes Sector Skills Academy 2011. His dissertation is entitled: Hiring the “Other”—A Biographical Narrative Inquiry of Progressive Human Resource Professionals. Links Kids Food Basket Wicked Bridges --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mursalata-muhammad/message

Arthur of The Art of Living teaches us about empathic listening and why we shouldn't immediately try to fix others' problems. Episode 1032: Empathic Listening: How And Why To Stop Trying To Fix Your Friend's Problems by Arthur of The Art of Living Arthur believes that everyone deserves a chance at a long, happy, prosperous life. Of course, that's easier said than done. Some levers to get there are hard to pull. Others may always be impossible. But one thing we can do; one lever we can pull to equalize opportunities, no matter who or where people are, is education. It's to make sure we all get the training we need to play the best hand we can with the cards we've been dealt. Even if those cards are unfair. The Art of Living is the ultimate source of book recommendations, book summaries, tools, interviews and articles to help you live long and prosper. The original post is located here: https://theartofliving.com/empathic-listening/ Calm is offering a special limited time promotion of 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at Calm.com/ORD Please Rate & Review the Show! Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in The O.L.D. Facebook Group Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts and join our online community: OLDPodcast.com/group Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting

Arthur of The Art of Living teaches us about empathic listening and why we shouldn't immediately try to fix others' problems. Episode 1032: Empathic Listening: How And Why To Stop Trying To Fix Your Friend's Problems by Arthur of The Art of Living Arthur believes that everyone deserves a chance at a long, happy, prosperous life. Of course, that's easier said than done. Some levers to get there are hard to pull. Others may always be impossible. But one thing we can do; one lever we can pull to equalize opportunities, no matter who or where people are, is education. It's to make sure we all get the training we need to play the best hand we can with the cards we've been dealt. Even if those cards are unfair. The Art of Living is the ultimate source of book recommendations, book summaries, tools, interviews and articles to help you live long and prosper. The original post is located here: https://theartofliving.com/empathic-listening/  Calm is offering a special limited time promotion of 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at Calm.com/ORD Please Rate & Review the Show!  Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in The O.L.D. Facebook Group  Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts and join our online community: OLDPodcast.com/group   Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me and Robert McArthur as we discuss passion-driven goals and empathic listening from an architectural standpoint. Robert resides in Bountiful, Utah, USA. He has been practicing architecture since he was 15. His passion is home architectural design. Robert has a master's degree in architecture and a degree in interior design and housing. He has done continued education in Japan, Switzerland, and the University of Harvard. “If you will advance confidently in the direction of your dreams and endeavor to live the life that you have imagined, you will meet with a success unexpected in common hours,” PASSION: sometimes we may be drawn to something, and to me, it is about evaluating those feelings and seeing how they relate to the consistency of how often they occur to you. So, if it's something that occurs often, it is most likely something that could be developed into a passion. So it is those things that you are constantly drawn to on a constant basis. Maintain your passion, evaluate it, develop it, nurture it, and stick to it. If that nurturing causes it to grow and increase and you improve – it becomes better and better, that is my definition of passion. If you don't have the language to describe your passion, you will, in due course, find language to describe/define it. EMPATHIC LISTENING: listening is an important part of anyone's profession. In every profession, even if your client or customer doesn't have the proper language to articulate what they want you to do for them, truly listening can help us understand and know what they want. This will happen when we listen with the heart. In this process, you keep an open mind. The projects I'm working on are diverse as my clients are diverse. Use your knowledge to help them exemplify what they stylistically need or want. You allow the client to lead you by the hand to the production of what they want, or what they have pictured in their minds. This empowers them to feel like they were part of the solution, and they were listened to. The great opportunity to gain the confidence that they are getting what they want is achieved. Robert learned the value of empathic listening from his client Stephen R. Covey, writer of the bestseller, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/mpilo-nkambule/support

Disturbed by the increasingly bitter polarization within American society, Nisha works to establish dialog and find common ground among those who may be firm opponents – in order to open pathways to justice and dignity for all. She has been at the heart of a successful bipartisan campaign for criminal justice reform legislation in the US Congress.

Listening unites and connects us. Taking time to stop and listen to others, despite culture, race, sexual orientation, views, can create a deep human connection even when we have strong differences of opinions.  The powerful transformation brought by listening is one of the simple changes the world never knew we actually needed. No limitations, no differences, just human connection and acceptance through listening. Juliana Tafur is the creator of Listen Courageously, award-winning filmmaker of “List(e)n”, board member of the International Listening Association, and former Discovery networks content executive. She is convinced that listening to stories has the ability to change us.  She has been on a listening journey since producing “List(e)n”, a documentary that brings together people on opposite ends of the spectrum to connect at a human level and transcend their differences.  She's the CEO of Story Powerhouse, and via award-winning films creates safe spaces for employees at organizations and academic institutions to share, listen to each other and learn skills to cope with today's challenges.   “Listening is transformative. It's the most powerful thing that anyone can engage in. And it's so simple, but we don't know enough about it. And we are not given opportunities where we can engage in pure, deep, and sincere present empathetic listening.” - Juliana Tafur   Listen IN Notes:   00:33 - Julianna shares the first time she realized the importance and impact of listening   03:13 - What did Juliana do after noticing the undeniable power of listening?   04:21 - All about Juliana's Listening Courageously Workshops and how it has influenced people   12:54 - Where does the feeling of satisfying relief come from after taking Juliana's workshop?   14:57 - Juliana talks about communication boundaries and listening problems at an organizational level   17:24 - What do organizations and NGOs ask and what do they receive afterward?   22:22 - Juliana shares what drives her forward in pursuing listening and helping people to understand its powerful value   26:12 - Words to describe Juliana is bringing her whole self to her work   27:55 - The realizations and learnings of Juliana after creating a micro-universe that beautifully shares the power of listening    30:23 - Juliana shares what she would love to understand more about listening   32:14 - Juliana talks about the common questions she's been asked in workshops   36:29 - Juliana's ideas and thoughts on how listening can be implemented or happen more in organizations Key Takeaways:   “We connect at a human level with people, regardless of who we are, where we come from, and who they are, or what their story is.” - Juliana Tafur   “When we listen courageously, when we step out of our comfort zones and understand that at the end of that discomfort of, "You believe this. I believe that. We're never going to agree.” ...there might be a sense of relief when we stop to get to know each other.” - Juliana Tafur   “A lot of people don't think it's possible to connect across our divides and across our differences as people. And they are relieved, because we're all so tired of it, whether we want to recognize it, acknowledge it or not. We're just exhausted.” - Juliana Tafur   “(Listening) is more about creating spaces for people to voice concerns, to voice what they have gone through.” - Juliana Tafur   “We are all recognizing that we are not separate from what is happening around us.”  - Juliana Tafur   “By creating spaces where people are sharing what has impacted them, we are opening the door for them to do the same when they go back to work. We are opening the door for people to acknowledge..."This has happened to me...because of the color of my skin or my race or cultural background." - Juliana Tafur   “We are actually suggesting that...those things that have shaped us and matter to us also inform what we bring to the workplace, the way that we see things, decisions, creativity. We bring solutions that we might contribute with passion, especially things that we care deeply about, because of what we have gone through or experienced in life.” - Juliana Tafur   Connect with Juliana Tafur: Website: https://listencourageously.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/listen.courageously/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/listen.courageously/  Linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julianatafur/  Connect with Raquel Ark: www.listeningalchemy.com Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn

Imagine software that can be used to cultivate meaningful connections online. According to Lorenz Sell, this is possible by creating a container where small groups can deeply “listen” to each other, both sync and async.   95% of people who engage in online learning are likely to drop out. In this episode, Lorenz Sell shares how it is possible to create impactful learning experiences online through deep listening in ways that may surprise you and in turn gain 100% engagement.  He shares his story when he first recognized the importance of integrating listening into small groups, and how this inspires him when he writes code. He talks about his insights on the importance and effectiveness of tracking how you listen over time, and the unique force small groups bring in engaging individuals so that they experience a deep and genuine sense of connection.    Lorenz describes his entrepreneurial journey and how deep listening has played a role. Not only has he learned a lot about himself and his internal landscape, he has also learned about what happens with others when you listen in various ways, what happens when people listen to you, and how this has inspired his drive to make possible generative listening in the online environment. His participation with the ulab program of the Presencing Institute back in 2015 gave him his first encounter with strangers online where he felt a deep sense of connection. Since then, he strives to provide people the life-changing power of a heartfelt relationship in small groups.   Lorenz Sell is the co-founder of Sutra – an all in one course and community solution for heart centered educators. His interest in community dynamics began after attending the Burning Man Festival in 2007. He has spent almost two decades building technology companies and has a deep interest in online.  Sutra has supported programs at the Harvard Program in Refugee Trauma, leadership programs at the UN and the Presencing Institute, as well as many other organizations and individuals.  Together with his partner and co-founder, Lorenz has helped hundreds of people create impactful learning experiences online.  He is a certified yoga teacher and received a degree in Computer Engineering from Tufts University. “In my world view, the path to peace was to keep listening. The path to peace was cultivating a capacity to truly receive one another – to truly listen at a much deeper level.” – Lorenz Sell Grow Your Listening Superpower for Lasting Impact! Coming Soon in May 2021! Learn and practice 7 Listening Superpowers that really work. Sign-up to the mailing list and get a chance for a 30% discount if you mention that you heard the details of the workshop from the Listen IN podcast: Go to https://www.listeningalchemy.com/ Now. Valuable Resource:   Transformational Teaching Online at https://transformation.sutra.co  https://www.presencing.org Listen IN Notes:   0:27 – The first time Lorenz noticed the real essence of listening: His experience with the Presencing Institute’s u.lab program where the four levels of listening was emphasized.   02:24 – The four levels of listening discussed by the Presencing Institute: (1) Downloading, (2) Factual Listening, (3) Empathic Listening, and the (4) Generative Listening.   03:20 – The moment he first heard of these four levels of listening and when he experienced what those levels meant for him.   08:28 – The back story of all these: the experience that really brought his awareness to the possibility of peace.   15:05 – What is different with online connection and what he learned about creating experiences for deep levels of communication.   19:32 – Lorenz talks about his company Sutra and what it does: how to bring more relevant human connections around the world and connect people in communities to share knowledge.   22:45 – How unique Sutra is from other platforms: The heart of all their work revolves in creating spaces where there is a deep level of presence and connection between participants as they share in small groups.   29:49 – The similarity of visual drawings to the tagging feature of Sutra: allowing people to see what just happened in the conversation.   32:04 – The complexity of online communities. There’s no magic formula to do everything.   35:04 – Lorenz’s advice for younger engineers in relation to creating code that can have impact on deep connection.   39:21 – The mentorship program: Transformational Teaching Online.  Key Takeaways:  “If you don’t know listening as a thing, then you can’t really practice it.”  – Lorenz Sell   “One of the ways that people can feel deeply connected is when they create something together.” – Lorenz Sell   “Conversations can be unstructured and in a chaotic space, and that’s the beauty of it. It’s the unpredictability of it that gives the magic to it. It allows for something to be spoken or phrased in a new way that is just perfect and really captures something.” – Lorenz Sell   “Not every person needs to have an aspiration to have an impact on the world...but if there is an aspiration for a person to do so, really find what’s meaningful to them and engage in that inquiry very earnestly, because that inquiry can be an adventure.” – Lorenz Sell Notes/Mentions:   Transformational Teaching Online at https://transformation.sutra.co  https://www.presencing.org  Connect with Lorenz Sell:   Website: https://sutra.co  Email address: Lorenz@sutra.co  LinkedIn   Connect with Raquel Ark:   www.listeningalchemy.com  Mobile: +491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com  LinkedIn

In this episode, Esmie and Mark discuss: Challenges Mark faced growing up, such as a perforated abdomen that almost killed him, growing up with a depressing background and suffering from depression. Mark's most significant accomplishment in life (dropping out of medical school twice and finishing and preventing others from committing suicide). How to know when someone is depressed (Their behaviour changes, they want to be alone, and most of the time, they seem sad.) Why standing up for a friend could help them to stop being suicidal? How Mark, a suicide specialist, saves lives by listening, showing love, believing in people that feel very low in life and need to know that everything is going to be okay eventually. Mark teaches why calling upon someone who believes in you and having a conversation with them can help you when you're feeling down. Key Takeaways: Life is hard, and we will miss the good days if we give up on them. Never give up on life because there is always someone that's going to need you. You can know when someone is depressed when there is a drastic change in behaviour for the worst. You can save a life by listening and showing kindness along with empathy. You can overcome sadness by talking with someone that believes in you."I asked her what she was thinking and she looked at me then said. 'If you can really understand why I might have to kill myself to get out of this pain. Maybe I won't need to.'" – Mark Goulston Dr. Mark Goulston's mission is to make the world safe for humanity, one conversation at a time. He does that through speaking, coaching and training as one of the world's foremost experts on empathic listening with his book, "Just Listen," becoming the top book on listening in the world. Contact Dr. Mark Goulston: Website TwitterLinkedin Instagram Contact Esmie: Linkedin Facebook Instagram Youtube Subscribe & Review in iTunes Did you subscribe to my podcast? If you're not, I want to encourage you to do that today. It would help if you didn't miss an episode. https://apple.co/2Xk75Or              Listen on I heart radio  PS. It's important to disclose that many of the links on the esmielawrence.com website are affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I will earn a small commission, which allows me to continue hosting the blog and website. This commission comes at no additional cost to you. Rest assured that the commission does not affect which items are listed on my website. Thank you for your support. Show notes by Esmie Lawrence.  Audio production by Brian Calkins Podcast Mechanic #lifecoachtraining #womensnetwork #livebydesign #betterbusiness #businesswisdom #thinkbigger #businessleader #coachingforwomen

What Is Empathetic Listening? Active empathic listening is the process of engaging in a dialogue with another individual to gain an insight into their thoughts and feelings, as well as to help them understand what you are saying. Empathy refers to the ability to put yourself into another person's shoes and listen to what they have to say. An example of empathy can be illustrated by a doctor asking a patient, "What's your problem?" The patient will answer, "I am tired of being sick"I am angry that I have to go through this." What Is Empathetic Listening?× Empathic listening is a learnable skill and method of listening which helps improve mutual understanding, positive emotions, and respect. It is an important skill for disputants and third party negotiators alike, because it allows the listener to receive, interpret tone of voice and give an appropriate response without having to give a direct response. Is Empathic Listening A Skill? As an example, if someone is arguing with you about a current position that they feel strongly about, you can ask them to elaborate on their thoughts and emotions so you can understand what they are really saying, as well as the implications behind those words. Mindful listening skills will improve when you learn how to become aware of the listening process and what your body is telling you. You may use body language such as your hands, gestures, facial expressions and posture, to express your own thoughts and emotions to the other person, while listening to them talk. This powerful tool will build interpersonal affection, rapport and help build understanding. When you are listening to someone else's conversation, pay attention to how they move their head and mouth, as this is a way for you to read their thoughts and feelings. In this way, you will be able to understand what they are saying and how they are saying it, which is the basis for empathy. What Are the Elements of Active Listening? Active listening is perhaps the simplest and most important element of social communication skills. Active listening takes the listener's attention away from the other people being discussed, thus allowing the receiver to listen to themselves. You attempt to listen intently, know, recall and then respond to the full message being presented. This creates an atmosphere of trust in which the receiver can respond with their own thoughts and feelings about what is going on in the conversation. Listening becomes an art. Your goal is not to listen but instead to know. Learn more: https://empathicmastery.com/ https://www.intrinsicmotivation.life/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/intrinsic-motivation/support

What are the keys to effective communication? What is empathic listening? How can couples who find themselves arguing a lot move toward more effective communication? Find out in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews author and educator Bento Leal on The Power of Empathic Listening. Learn more about your guest below: Bento Leal is a Relationships Skills Trainer and Author who has taught marriage and relationship skills classes and parenting skills classes to more than 2500 couples and singles at family resource centers, community organizations, churches, schools, substance abuse recovery programs, county jails, and federal prison in California. In 2017, he published his first book “4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work—Anywhere!” It continues to be an Amazon Best Seller in several categories and has sold more than 75,000 copies to date. Based in the San Francisco Bay Area, Bento has been happily married for 41 years with three adult children. Learn more at * www.bentoleal.com * https://www.facebook.com/groups/1644832475545286 Learn more about your host and the show at: www.zachbeach.com www.the-heart-center.com Like us on Facebook: facebook.com/learntolovenow Join the Community group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1428012130828678/

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I recently read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and Habit 5 fundamentally changed my life: Seek first to understand then to be understood. Specifically, the principle within this chapter, Empathic Listening, is what rocked me. I've often lamented that most people in conversations are not listening but instead waiting to talk. They're not listeners, they're wait-to-talkers. Two people take turns talking at each other and later say they had a conversation. Whether this constitutes a conversation is up for debate, but no actual communication took place. Communication is the sending and receipt of a message. If you're broadcasting and no one is receiving, are you communicating? I make it no secret that I value effective communication. While I knew I wasn't perfect, I certainly thought I was doing at least a decent job of listening. I was wrong. I couldn't have been more wrong. What I learned, and will share with you today regarding the principle of Empathic Listening, showed me that I was not listening at all. Even my well-intentioned questions were ill-timed such that they come across as probing! I had no idea until I read this book. Here I was, thinking I was doing a good job listening, and I was guilty of not just one but ALL FOUR autobiographical responses. In other words, I was actually approaching listening from a selfish frame of reference and feeding my ego—even when I thought I was doing the right things (such as asking questions and repeating what people said). I did not understand even the basics of Empathic Listening. I've since gone through this material many times and applied Empathic Listening in many scenarios to astounding results. It is absolutely incredible—and that's why I refer to it in the title of this episode as a "superpower". But Empathic Listening is hard. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done. It's on par with the difficulty of writing a book. If you ever left an interaction feeling good about the advice you gave and how well you listened, you're certainly not practicing Empathic Listening. Empathic Listening is extremely challenging and likely one of the most difficult things you'll ever do, but it will change your life, make friends, save marriages, close deals, and increase your influence dramatically.

英语美文-移情聆听Empathic Listening 今天继续和大家分享《高效能人士的七个习惯》中的经典篇章。今天要学习的文字讲述的是高效能人士的第五个习惯-知彼解己。这个篇章中，摘选了我们生活中最常见的一个对话场景-一对母子的对话。这段对话真实还原了我们与人交流的时最常见的一种沟通思维和误区，不少人在没有认真聆听后，草率甚至的粗鲁的给出自己认为对的解决方案。甚至以各种理由强形要求诉说者接受自己的想法。而这篇文章列举出了我们聆听别人的层次以及应该如何真正的聆听他人，从而做到真正了解他人的方法。 New Words:incredulously[in'kredjuləsli] adv. 不相信地，怀疑地sacrifice ['sækrɪfaɪs] n. 牺牲；祭品diagnose ['daɪəgnəʊz; -'nəʊz]  vt. 诊断；断定interpersonal [ɪntə'pɜːs(ə)n(ə)l]  adj. 人际的；人与人之间的empathic [em'pæθɪk] adj. 移情作用的；神入的 "Come on, honey, tell me how you feel. I know it's hard, but I'll try to understand."“宝贝，和我说你是怎么想的，我知道这不容易，但是我会尽量理解你。”"Oh, I don't know, Mom. You'd think it was stupid." “可是， 妈妈，我不知道该怎么说。你一定会觉得我很傻。”"Of course I wouldn't! You can tell me. Honey, no one cares for you as much as I do. I'm only interested in your welfare. What's making you so unhappy?"“不会的。告诉我吧，宝贝儿。这个世界还有谁会比妈妈更关心你呢?妈妈就是想让你开心，可你为什么不高兴呢?”"Oh, I don't know."“我不知道该怎么说。”"Come on, honey. What is it?"“快点和我说，宝贝，是什么事情？”"Well, to tell you the truth, I just don't like school anymore."“那好，说实话，我不想上学了。” "What?" you respond incredulously. "What do you mean you don't like school? And after all the sacrifices we've made for your education! Education is the foundation of your future. If you'd apply yourself like your older sister does, you'd do better and then you'd like school. Time and time again, we've told you to settle down. You've got the ability, but you just don't apply yourself. Try harder. Get a positive attitude about it."“什么?”你简直不敢相信自己的耳朵，“你说什么?你不想上学了?为了让你上学，我们做了那么大的牺牲!接受教育是为你的将来打基础。如果你像你姐姐那样用功的话，成绩一定会好起来，那样你就喜欢上学了。我们跟你说过多少次了，一定要安心学习。你有这个能力，可就是不愿意用功。要努力，要积极向上才行啊!” Pause沉默 "Now go ahead. Tell me how you feel."“说吧，跟我说说你到底是怎么想的。” We have such a tendency to rush in, to fix things up with good advice. But we often fail to take the time to diagnose, to really, deeply understand the problem first. If I were to summarize in one sentence the single most important principle I have learned in the field of interpersonal relations, it would be this: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. This principle is the key to effective interpersonal communication.我们总是喜欢这样匆匆忙忙地下结论，以善意的建议快刀斩乱麻地解决问题。不愿意花时间去诊断，深入了解一下问题的症结。如果要让我用一句话总结人际关系中最重要的一个原则，那就是:知彼解己。这是进行有效人际沟通的关键。 When another person speaks, we're usually "listening" at one of four levels. We may be ignoring another person, not really listening at all. We may practice pretending. “Yeah. Uh-huh. Right. "We may practice selective listening, hearing only certain parts of the constant chatter of a preschool child. Or we may even practice attentive listening, paying attention and focusing energy on the words that are being said. But very few of us ever practice the fifth level, the highest form of listening, empathic listening. 事实上，大部分人都是这么自以为是。我们的聆听通常有四个层次。一是充耳不闻，压根就不听别人说话;二是装模作样，“是的!嗯!没错!”;三是选择性接收，只听一部分 ，通常学龄前儿童的喋喋不休会让我们采取这种方式;四是聚精会神，努力听到每一个字。但是，很少有人会达到第五个层次，即最高层次-移情聆听。 Empathic listening involves much more than registering, reflecting, or even understanding the words that are said. Communications experts estimate, in fact, that only 10 percent of our communication is represented by the words we say. Another 30 percent is represented by our sounds, and 60 percent by our body language. In empathic listening, you listen with your ears, but you also, and more importantly, listen with your eyes and with your heart. You listen for feeling, for meaning. You listen for behavior. You use your right brain as well as your left. You sense, you intuit, you feel. 移情聆听不只是理解个别的词句而已。据专家估计，人际沟通仅有10%过语言来进行，30%取决于语调与声音，其余60%则得靠肢体语言。所以在移情聆听的过程中，不仅要耳到，还要眼到、心到;用眼睛去观察，用心灵去体会。

"We evaluate - we either agree or disagree; we probe - we ask questions from our own frame of reference ; we advise - we give counsel based on our own experience;  or we interpret - we try to figure people out, to explain their motives, their behavior, based on our own motives and behavior." - Stephen CoveyThis chapter of Stephen Covey's book is a follow-up from Empathic Listening, which was a widely played podcast. So, this one is going to be long, but it's going to help virtually everyone out there.

Ch- ch- ch- ch- Changes. That single word changes, stuttered at us by David Bowie in his hallmark song Changes piped into my ears and hit me, maybe like a lot of other people hit me, me-directly.  I was one of those people, feeling like the world and everything around me was changing and now, someone else was somehow telling it back to me, letting me know that they were feeling it too. Telling everybody what we were all feeling at the same time. I know you all want to hear the song now but I can only play you seven seconds without infringing copyright, so here is a little refresher. Ah.  Well. Changes were happening before that song was released and it was at the university of Chicago where a group of Dr. Gene Genlin's Psychology students needed a pace to work out some things. They began meeting to discuss the changes going on around them and these early groups, which predate Focusing as a formal practice. A community formed and that community began working with Focusing in group setting.  One of the people who was right there and will describe her experiences is Dr. Kathy McGuire who was a student of Dr. Eugene Genlin at the time. Dr. Kathy McGuire got a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Chicago, working directly with Dr. Eugene Gendlin. She was a Focusing-Oriented Therapist and workshop facilitator for 40 years. Her many articles and manuals can be found at her website for Creative Edge Focusing, www.cefocusing.com. As a cofounder of the original Changes Listening/Focusing Community in 1971, Dr. McGuire sees Empathic Listening and Experiential Focusing as co-equal skills. From her experience, a Changes Community is a training laboratory in how to live in community, how to overcome prejudice and increase tolerance for difference and uniqueness. People can practice, not only Focusing, but interpersonal conflict resolution and group decision making using Listening /Focusing skills.  

There are four levels of listening: ignoring, pretending, selective listening, or attentive listening. Very few of us know of empathic listening, and when I was reading this specific entry in Stephen Covey's book, I just had to bring it up!

The Power Of Empathic Listening | Christine Raine & Sophie Kramhoft by The Happy Startup School

Empathic listening is something I developed with your help as a way to see each other in order to truly hear them. I practiced this on air while I hosted public radio for the past 20 years and it is something that I believe helped build the connection between myself and my listeners - whether they were calling in and sharing their thoughts, or just listening while on their commute. It also goes hand in hand with what I call the Theory of Four Faces. That is, we all have four faces that we show and that others can see in us: our six year old face, the face of wisdom, the face of happiness, and the face of character. Listen to what these faces are and let me know what you think by emailing me at Ben@BenMerens.com.