Podcasts about attachment styles

We're so excited to welcome Dr. Marisa Franco back to the podcast for the third time to talk about something so many of us struggle with: feeling worthy. We're diving into why simply telling ourselves to “love ourselves” doesn't always work, how our past experiences continue to shape the way we see ourselves today, and what it can look like to meet ourselves with more understanding instead of trying to force ourselves to feel differently. We also talk about how our own self-worth impacts the way we show up for our kids and how we can help the next generation build a healthier relationship with themselves.Key Topics CoveredWhy insecurity can actually be an adaptive responseHow attachment theory can become another form of perfectionismWhy some people struggle to receive complimentsThe connection between self-worth, memories, and our emotional responsesHow to recognize, regulate, and respond to difficult emotionsCONNECT WITH DR. MARISA FRANCO:Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco Check out her website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/ Pre-order Marisa's new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment here: https://amzlink.to/az0RRIqPA4gxbListen to her past episodes on HERself: 59. The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000505703230 314. Attachment Styles in Adult Friendships https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000739104904 LINKS AND RESOURCES:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF SITKA SEAFOOD: Visit https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/herself for $35 Off + free salmon burgers for a year with a continuous subscription. The code HERSELF25 should auto-apply when using this linkLet's connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

In this episode, I'm joined by attachment coaches Marta and Duncan for an open conversation about breakups, attachment, and why knowing you should move on doesn't necessarily make it easier to do.We talk about what keeps us emotionally attached, why some breakups are harder to recover from than others, and what may actually be happening underneath the urge to hold on, reach out, or hope they'll come back.This isn't an interview. It's three attachment coaches having an honest conversation about the psychology of letting go and what it takes to finally begin moving forward.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Annie Chen about attachment styles. Annie is an author, therapist, consultant, and coach who holds 2 master's degrees in counseling and psychology. With over 17 years dedicated to studying the mind, nervous systems, and relationships, she has developed a unique approach to relationships and working with people. Hear why attachment theory is so important, how we develop our attachment styles, how to approach attachment styles with your clients, the danger of talking in absolutes, and how much to dive into family of origin work.   To learn more about Annie Chen, visit: AnnieChen.net AttachmentQuiz.com The Attachment Theory Workbook I Want to Connect Instagram @AnnieChenLMFT   You can also listen to Annie Chen on Episode 90 of The Couples Therapist Couch

Some conversations are just too good to stay buried in the archives.This week I'm bringing back one of my absolute favorite episodes with Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure, and David Cooley, co-author of Polywise. Even three years later, this conversation feels just as relevant, thoughtful, and practical as it did the first time we recorded it.If you've ever struggled with jealousy, conflict, emotional triggers, or wondered how to build relationships that actually grow stronger through hard conversations, you're going to want to listen to this one.What I love most about this conversation is that Jessica and David don't just teach relationship theory. They share the messy, beautiful reality of living it. They talk openly about opening their relationship, divorce, becoming life partners again, raising a child together, repairing after conflict, and the emotional work it took to get there.We explore what emotional intelligence actually looks like in everyday relationships, why slowing down often creates more freedom than rushing ahead, and how conflict can become one of the greatest pathways to intimacy instead of something to avoid.One of my favorite moments comes near the end of the episode, when Jessica and David turn the tables and interview me about my own journey through jealousy. Looking back now, it's fascinating to hear that conversation knowing how much my work has continued to evolve around helping people move through jealousy with compassion instead of shame.If you're newer to non-monogamy, this episode will give you practical tools for navigating the inevitable challenges that come with growth.If you've been practicing for years, I think you'll still find yourself nodding along and maybe hearing something in a completely new way.In this episode, we talk about:Why relationships don't have to fit an all-or-nothing modelWhat emotional intelligence actually looks like in healthy relationshipsHow to recognize when repair is needed before resentment buildsThe role conflict plays in creating deeper intimacyWorking with nervous system regulation during difficult conversationsWhy curiosity is one of the greatest relationship skills you can developThe power of slowing down while opening a relationshipHealing attachment wounds and building lasting securityWhether polyamory is an identity, an orientation, or a relationship choiceMy personal journey from overwhelming jealousy to emotional freedomWhether you're just opening your relationship or you've been practicing non-monogamy for years, this conversation is full of the kind of wisdom that only comes from people who've done the work themselves.I'd love to hear what stands out to you after listening. Come find me on Instagram and let me know what resonated most.If this episode supports you, please share it with someone who could use a little more compassion, clarity, and hope on their own relationship journey.Thanks for being here, and enjoy this Rewind episode.Send us Fan MailSupport the show

Why do the same arguments keep happening? Why do certain people trigger us so deeply? And what if the biggest obstacle in our relationships isn't the other person... but the unconscious patterns we've carried for years? In this episode of The Breaking Free Podcast, I sit down with Matt Castle, neurotransformational therapy practitioner and NLP life coach, for a powerful conversation on relationships, emotional healing, and personal transformation. Matt explains how emotional triggers are often unresolved patterns rather than problems created by other people.  Together, we explore how changing the meaning we assign to our emotions can completely transform the way we experience conflict, connection, and love. The conversation also dives into fear, judgement, nervous system regulation, personal values, and the importance of becoming someone who responds rather than reacts. Matt also shares his own personal journey, including navigating ongoing court proceedings, parenting challenges, and how those experiences shaped his mission to support men going through separation and major life transitions. Whether you're single, dating, married, separated, or simply wanting healthier relationships, this episode offers practical insights to help you understand yourself and others on a much deeper level. In this episode: Why emotional triggers aren't your enemy The hidden patterns sabotaging relationships Responding instead of reacting How NLP can reshape emotional responses Fear, judgement and unconscious programming Aligning your values for stronger relationships Men's mental health after separation Parenting, resilience and personal growth Building emotional intelligence Creating healthier, more conscious relationships If you've ever wondered why the same relationship challenges keep showing up, this conversation may help you see them through a completely different lens. Thank you for listening and watching wherever in the world you are.  Jump on BonCharge and grab yourself some protection  from wifi, 5G, blue/red light and so much more… At the Checkout Use Code “Nath22” to receive 15% off. RESOURCES:  Part I: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=izgJniAABDY Part I Audio: https://open.spotify.com/episode/60Hmu3Wwy4HbLCzCUUh49p?si=f5b90eeaa0984719 Connect With Matt Castle:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matt.castle.397 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matt.castle.397/ Website: https://emotionalrestorationproject.com Skool: https://www.skool.com/emotional-restoration-project-1981/about Retreat: https://emotionalrestorationproject.com/retreats Connect With Me (Nathan Francis Coach/Mentor)  Substack: https://substack.com/@nathanfrancis Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/OSS.Health.Mind Personal Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nath.francis69 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nathanfrancis222?_t=8iKxXw8R2ee&_r=1 Telegram: https://t.me/nathf94   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nathanfrancis__/ Email me anytime: nathanselfsabotage@gmail.com The Breaking Free Podcast  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1fHxmfbFZwyZPIcOrjw3Hf?si=q42PtUR4Qeu8SvUuWDMrpw Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/breaking-free-podcast/id1657951151 Youtube: https://youtube.com/@nathanfrancis__?si=df69YA7zK-CUeG8-    

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Hi Parents! Today's episode is such an important conversation because we're exploring something that often gets misunderstood in conversations around teens, anxiety, and food. I'm joined by Stephanie Mara, a Somatic Nutritional Counsellor, somatic psychotherapist, and the creator of Somatic Eating®, a therapeutic approach that combines nervous system science, trauma work, attachment, and nutrition. Stephanie's work helps people understand that food behaviours are often not about willpower, discipline, or “bad habits,” but are actually the body's attempt to create safety, regulation, and comfort. We talk about the connection between attachment styles and eating behaviours and how a teen's relationship with food is often deeply connected to emotional safety, stress, anxiety, and nervous system regulation. Stephanie explains how food can sometimes become a substitute for connection when emotional needs feel uncertain or unmet, and why healing a relationship with food often requires looking beyond the surface behaviour itself. We also discuss how anxiety and nervous system dysregulation can show up through emotional eating, food restriction, body image struggles, or fixation around eating patterns. Stephanie shares how parents can begin approaching these behaviours with more curiosity and compassion instead of fear or control. This episode is a powerful reminder that food behaviours are rarely just about food, and that understanding the nervous system and emotional attachment can completely shift the way we support our teens. NEW: My 6-week parent program, The Parent's Anxiety Toolkit™, is now open! If you're raising an anxious teen and feeling overwhelmed, unsure what to say, or exhausted by the constant worry, this program will help you feel more calm, confident, and equipped with practical tools that actually work. Big hugs, Monica Crnogorac Next Steps Book a Free Discovery Call Visit My Website for More Information on My 8-Week Program for Teens Connect With Me on Instagram

Have you ever wondered if you'll always struggle with relationship anxiety? If you've convinced yourself that anxious attachment is simply who you are, this episode is for you. Jillian unpacks why your attachment style isn't your identity, how the stories you tell yourself can keep you stuck, and why feeling anxious in love doesn't mean you're broken. You'll learn how your past, your environment, and even what's happening outside your relationship can shape your experience—and what you can do to build lasting security from the inside out. PRE ORDER MY NEW BOOK!!! https://www.jillianturecki.com/book  Got a question for Jillian? Record your voice message here and it could be answered in an upcoming episode! https://www.jillianturecki.com/askjillian  Download Jillian's FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Threads: @jillianturecki YouTube: @jillian.turecki Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It is frustrating when a partner can't give you what you need especially after they promised or implied they could. We try to change them - or their mind. We hope they can change and become the person we thought they were when we first met. We struggle with the fear of the relationship ending, lashing out with hurtful words, doing things that causes more damage - and then regretting them all when we are calm. This episodes walks you through what you can do before the damage is done. Breathing tips as promised in this episode -Practice 5 minutes a day and build from thereFocus on your breathing and learn its natural rhythm before you do anything. Intentionally breathe deeply - in and out. Ask your doctor about box breathing exercises and if it's right for you. This is great for calming the nervous system and helping us respond with clear intentions instead of reacting.Please leave a review...I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Attachment Styles After Divorce: They Explain You, But They Don't Define You Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do in relationships? Maybe you find yourself fearing abandonment, pulling away when things get difficult, or feeling stuck in the same unhealthy patterns over and over again. In this episode, Jenn explores attachment styles through the lens of healing after divorce. Rather than focusing on labels, she shares a hope-filled perspective: attachment styles are simply patterns of behavior, not your identity. You'll learn: What the four attachment styles are in simple, practical terms How these patterns often show up in marriage and after divorce Why trauma can temporarily change the way you relate to others How recognizing your patterns can help you grow instead of keeping you stuck Why your past doesn't determine your future How Jesus Christ can heal your heart and help you create new patterns moving forward Whether you identify with an anxious, avoidant, fearful, or secure attachment style, this episode will remind you that your story isn't over. God can transform hearts, strengthen relationships, and help you become the person He created you to be. Scripture: Proverbs 3:5-6 If this episode encouraged you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need this message today. If you're looking for Christ-centered support as you heal after divorce, learn more about the Faith Filled Divorce membership and coaching programs at: https://www.findthejoywithjenn.com/divorce-resources Follow Jenn: Website: https://www.findthejoywithjenn.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findthejoywithjenn • Join my exclusive Life Coaching and Divorce Mentoring Program, Faith Filled Divorce, HERE: httpshttps:https://www.findthejoywithjenn.com/program-details • Get your FREE Podcast Atlas at: https://www.findthejoywithjenn.com/joy-in-the-journey-podcast • Make sure you are part of the Find the Joy With Jenn Fam! Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/findthejoywithjenn/ • Join my FREE Facebook Community: www.facebook.com/groups/findthejoywithjenn • Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I'm honored and excited to be on this journey to healing and personal growth with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I'd love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app; that way, we can help even more men and women find joy in their divorce journeys. You can win a $100 AMAZON GIFT when you do! Just send a screenshot of your review to jenn@jennzingmark.com. Make sure you put "Podcast Review" in the subject line. XO- Jenn

Navigating attachment dynamics and discussing sensitive, taboo topics in therapy can feel daunting, but understanding how your attachment style influences your mental health is a major step toward healing. In this episode, licensed therapist Kati Morton dives deep into attachment theory, explaining the four primary attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how they shape your adult relationships and sessions with your therapist. Kati also addresses how to bring up political differences or uncomfortable topics without fear of judgment, and answers your most pressing community questions. Timestamps 00:00 - Episode Overview 00:46 - Discussing Uncomfortable & Taboo Topics in Therapy 01:59 - Political Polarization, Media Rage-Bait, and Safe Spaces 07:57 - Why Therapists Keep Personal Opinions Private 15:02 - Examples of Kinks, Religion, and Money in Therapy 18:42 - What is Attachment Theory? 20:35 - "What If You Never Tried to Attach to Your Parents?" Thank you to this week's sponsors! REBOUND: visit www.hellorebound.com/askkatianything & check your insurance or get matched with a therapist ONESKIN: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code KATI at www.oneskin.co/KATI 25:48 - The 4 Attachment Styles in Relationships 28:22 - How Attachment Styles Show Up Under Stress 35:35 - Getting Too Attached to Your Therapist 42:11 - Feeling Lost When Your Therapist Goes on Vacation 46:27 - Red Flag: When a Therapist Shares Their Own Personal Drama 53:38 - Rebuttal: Is the Therapeutic Relationship Transactional or Dangerous? 01:00:23 - Healing Your Attachment Blueprint and Final Thoughts Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katimorton My main YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/katimorton?sub_confirmation=1 Ask Kati Anything ep. 325 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT PUBLISHED BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati - Enjoy 10% off your first month! (this is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you) SOCIAL X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ https://www.youtube.com/@askkatianything https://www.youtube.com/@katimorton PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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In this episode, Dr. K and Kruti sit down with Lucas and Ory, a couple navigating an anxious-avoidant relationship while backpacking in Peru. Breaking down a recent conflict where they were both severely sick in a hotel room with mismatched needs, Dr. K provides a masterclass on how to navigate deadlocks, stop over-pathologizing yourself, and understand the hidden templates driving your partner's reactions. What to expect in this episode: The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic: Why this pairing is notoriously known as a "match made in hell," but is actually the perfect karmic friction required for profound spiritual and personal growth. Conflicting Templates: How a simple action—like wanting to watch a video alone—maps to completely different emotional meanings (a healthy need for independence vs. a painful signal of abandonment) depending on your attachment style. The Danger of Over-Indexing: Why we shouldn't treat every single argument as a deep psychological issue to solve, and why sometimes you just have to "take the L" when both partners are physically sick, exhausted, and naturally regressing to old habits. Quantifying Your Needs: Practical communication tools for deadlocked couples, including rating your immediate needs on a scale of 1-10, and actively assessing how empty your partner's "tank" is before asking for support. Labeling the Flare-Up: How naming your attachment trigger out loud (e.g., explicitly stating, "My anxious attachment is flaring today") can remove confusion and help your partner understand exactly what you need. Over-Pathologizing Normal Needs: A deep dive into Lucas's specific guilt, exploring how recovering avoidants often demonize their perfectly normal need for space because they are terrified of failing their partner. The Illusion of Responsibility: Why true security requires learning to let your partner fall apart without internalizing their emotional pain as your personal failure, allowing you to pick them back up without drowning alongside them. Dr. K's NEW Guide to Love, Sex, & Relationships is here! Order now: https://bit.ly/4dO3x0VHG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Short Bio: Thais Gibson is a counselor, speaker, and leader in the personal development field. She has a Ph.D. and is certified in 13 modalities, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, NLP, Somatic Processing, and Trauma Work. Her scientific research, personal experience, and compassionate approach led to her founding the Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™. Through her academic training and client-based research, Thais has created renowned and inspiring courses for personal development, growth, and relationships. These teachings have been distilled into the in-depth programs, courses, and modules inside of The Personal Development School. Links: Instagram, YouTube, Personal Development School, and The Thais Gibson Podcast

You're lying six inches apart every night, and it still feels like the loneliest room in the house. This episode explains why that distance usually isn't about attraction fading at all — it's a childhood-built nervous system pattern deciding, without asking you, whether closeness is safe. Start there tonight with our free Date Night Checklist — one small, pressure-free way back toward each other: mylibidodoc.com/freebies

Send us Fan MailYour attachment style shapes everything — how you fight, how you grieve, how you date after divorce, and how you co-parent with someone you're no longer in love with. And most people have no idea what theirs is until something breaks.In this encore episode, Alex and Amanda dig into the four attachment styles with a therapist and attachment expert — anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure — and explore how each one shows up in the specific context of divorce and post-divorce life. They cover why secure attachment in a marriage doesn't guarantee secure attachment after it ends, how to recognize your patterns without using them as an excuse, and what the research actually says about whether attachment styles can change.Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed by our podcast guest are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or the podcast. We value diverse perspectives and aim to provide a platform for thoughtful discussion and exploration of different ideas.Got any comments, suggestions or queries? We'd love to hear from you! DM us on Instagram @dirty.laundry.podcast to be featured on one of our upcoming episodes.  Also, don't forget to rate and review our show on your favourite podcast player.

564. You already know attachment styles exist. But do you know what yours sounds like? In this episode, Dr. Judy Ho goes beyond the quiz results and into the actual self-talk running beneath the surface — the quiet inner monologue that drives your relationship patterns, your emotional reactions, and the way you see yourself. Drawing from her book The New Rules of Attachment, Dr. Judy introduces four renamed attachment styles, their signature self-statements, and three evidence-based tools to start rewriting the operating system.Have a mental health question? Email Dr. Judy's team at at psychologist@quickanddirtytips.comFind Savvy Psychologist on Facebook and subscribe to the newsletter for more psychology tips.Watch on YouTube: www.youtube.com/@SavvyPsychologistMore from Dr. Ho on her other channels:Dr. Ho's website, Substack, LinkedIn.Savvy Psychologist is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips. Find a transcript at QuickandDirtyTips.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the patterns shaping your relationships started long before your current relationships began?In this episode, Nyra G and Tyreen Taylor take a 30-minute walk through the four attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Together, they explore how these patterns show up in everyday life, take the attachment style quiz, share their results, and reflect on their own experiences with love, connection, and healing.Walk, listen, and discover what your attachment style might reveal about the way you relate to yourself and others.Take the attachment style quiz along with us: https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/

Welcome back! Today we're joined by Dr. Amir Levine, Psychiatrist, Clinician and expert on Attachment Theory. We dive deep into the different attachment styles and, most importantly, how *anyone* can become more secure. He guides us through how to identify whether someone has a secure attachment as early as your first date (or before that), plus what to do if you're dating someone who is exhibiting signs of avoidant or anxious attachment.For more of his wisdom, check out Dr. Levine's new class on MasterClass, where he breaks down the four different attachment styles and helps members understand which category they fall into.You can also find his new book, Secure, at all major bookstores, and you can check out his website to learn your attachment style and explore his other resources.Read my substack with ⁠⁠⁠tips to avoid future tripping in a new relationship⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

If fear of rejection keeps you from taking romantic chances—sending that text or approaching an attractive stranger—Thais Gibson has a solution. Gibson has helped more than 70,000 people build thriving relationships, both through her book, “The New Attachment Theory,” and as founder of the Personal Development School. Gibson joins dating coach Connell Barrett to share practical exercises to help you overcome rejection anxiety, build lasting confidence, and create healthier relationships.Episode Highlights:01:55: Why the “Perfect” Opener Won't Fix Deeper Insecurity09:18: 3 Steps to Stop Feeling that You're Not Enough17:57: How the 4 Attachment Styles Affect Your Dating Life27:13: Why Guys Panic When a Woman Doesn't Text Back Right Away41:01: She Went Quiet? Here's What a Securely Attached Men Does Next44:22: Do This When You Want to Go for the KissTAKE THAIS GIBSON'S FREE ATTACHMENT STYLE QUIZ: Attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.comLEARN ABOUT THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SCHOOL: Personaldevelopmentschool.comFOLLOW THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SCHOOL ON INSTAGRAM: @‌thepersonaldevelopmentschool

In this Morning Microdose, Najwa Zebian — 4x best-selling author + speaker — talks to Krista about attachment styles, emotional unavailability, and why so many women abandon themselves while accepting the bare minimum in relationships. From emotional availability + boundaries to attachment wounds and the fear of being alone, this conversation is a powerful reminder that healthy relationships require two people willing to choose connection, self-awareness, and growth together. Morning Microdose is a podcast curated by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the hosts and founders of Almost 30, a global community, brand, and top-rated podcast. With curated clips from the Almost 30 podcast, Morning Microdose will set the tone for your day, so you can feel inspired through thought-provoking conversations…all in digestible 10-minute episodes.  Wake up with Krista and Lindsey, both literally and spiritually, Monday-Friday. If you enjoyed this conversation, listen to the full episode on Spotify ⁠here⁠ and on Apple ⁠here⁠.  Sponsors: Quince | Make your summer wardrobe feel easier. Go to Quince.com/microdose for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.

Attachment styles aren't your identity. Dr. Ann Kelley explains secure relating, modern attachment theory, trauma healing, nervous system regulation, relationship repair, shame reduction, and why emotional security is something we actively practice—not something we permanently achieve. How can we, as therapists, help people better understand themselves, improve their relationships, and reduce the shame that accompanies emotional struggles that are often rooted in relational trauma?  It's a basic question at the root of our work and host Emily Ruth invites psychologist, author, and fellow podcaster Ann Kelley, Ph.D., to address it by demystifying the principles of modern attachment theory. Ann draws on her clinical work, research, and experience as co-creator of the podcast Therapist Uncensored to present a compassionate, up-to-date view of attachment that replaces rigid labels with practical strategies for meaningful relational growth.  The conversation also delves into the importance of remaining curious and willing to challenge the limits of our own educational or experiential bias as information evolves. This skill is on full display in Secure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World, the book Ann co-authored with her "neuronerd" colleague and co-host Sue Marriott, LCSW, CGP. Transforming Trauma thanks Ann for sharing her hopeful yet practical approach to psychological growth. She shares meaningfully on what it means to explore our attachment patterns without judgment or predetermined outcomes. To read the full show notes and discover more resources, visit https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com/transformingtrauma SPACE: SPACE is an Inner Development Program of Support and Self-Discovery for Therapists on the Personal, Interpersonal, and Transpersonal Levels offered by the Complex Trauma Training Center. This experiential learning program offers an immersive group experience designed to cultivate space for self-care, community support, and deepening vitality in our professional role as therapists. Learn more about how to join. *** The Complex Trauma Training Center: https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com View upcoming trainings: https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com/schedule/ Join us for this a transformative 2-day Intro to NARM® online workshop: https://bit.ly/narmintro *** The Complex Trauma Training Center (CTTC) is a professional organization providing clinical training, education, consultation, and mentorship for psychotherapists and mental health professionals working with individuals and communities impacted by Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Complex Trauma (C-PTSD). CTTC provides NARM® Therapist and NARM® Master Therapist Training programs, as well as ongoing monthly groups in support of those learning NARM. CTTC offers a depth-oriented professional community for those seeking a supportive network of therapists focused on three levels of shared human experience: personal, interpersonal & transpersonal. The Transforming Trauma podcast embodies the spirit of CTTC – best described by its three keywords: depth, connection, and heart - and offers guidance to those interested in effective, transformational trauma-informed care. We want to connect with you! Facebook @complextraumatrainingcenter Instagram @cttc_training LinkedIn YouTube

Attachment theory has become one of the most talked-about topics in the dating and relationship world.You have probably heard terms like anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, secure attachment, and disorganized attachment. Maybe you've even wondered whether your attachment style played a role in your abusive relationship.But what if attachment theory isn't about blaming yourself?In this episode, I unpack attachment styles through a trauma-informed lens and explore how understanding your attachment patterns can support healing, self-awareness, and future relationships after abuse.We discuss:What attachment theory actually is (and what it isn't)The four primary attachment stylesChildhood experiences that can contribute to different attachment patternsWhy attachment styles are adaptations, not character flawsHow attachment styles can influence dating and relationshipsThe role attachment may play in how we experience attention, connection, and love bombingWhy survivors should be cautious about using attachment theory as a form of self-blameHow coercive control and abusive relationships can create attachment injuries of their ownWhy understanding yourself is often more important than trying to become an expert at spotting abusersOne of the most important takeaways from this conversation is that attachment styles do not explain why someone was abused.Abuse happens because someone chose to abuse.Understanding your attachment style can be incredibly helpful for healing, building self-awareness, and creating healthier relationships moving forward. But it should never be used as evidence that you caused, invited, or deserved the abuse you experienced.If you've ever wondered how attachment theory fits into your healing journey, this episode is for you.Register for the Free Webinar Series - Why Co-Parenting Feels Like a Trap  here - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coparentingPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies!Choosing Your Battles FreebieCanned Responses FreebieMic Drop Moments Freebie...

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How do we choose love over fear when relationships get hard? Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed.  This advice from Trevor Hanson will guide you through common communication landmines, why fear is the #1 killer of relationships, and how to move through fear by accessing our primary emotions and communicating without self-protection. I'm joined by Trevor Hanson, a marriage and family therapist who has helped thousands of individuals and couples heal attachment wounds and build secure, connected, confident relationships. His work has been featured by the Gottman Institute, and he's the founder of The Art of Healing, where he teaches frameworks for transforming insecurity into emotional safety. Listen to our full episode with Trevor here. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Follow Trevor on Instagram Trevor's website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Dr. Amir Levine is a psychiatrist, clinician and expert on Attachment Theory. Today we dive deeper into how understanding attachment styles can help you better navigate today's dating landscape. We discuss how to change from being anxious or avoidant into secure, the difference between anxious attachment and ROCD, signs of avoidant vs. disinterest, how our attachment styles affect us, and so much more. Check out Dr. Amir Levine's Masterclass and read his new book “Secure”  here Get More We Met At Acme! Youtube: @wemetatacme IG: @lindzmetz @wemetatacme @wemetatbaby Substack: @wemetatacme + @wemetatbaby Website: @wemetatacme Sponsors: If you're in the market for a beautiful new sofa, dining table, or bed, head over to article.com Right now, Arya is offering our listeners $10 off your first month at arya.com/acme. This offer is only for our podcast listeners so use my link to get this discount. Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code ACME at oseamalibu.com. Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Don't wait. Go to Quince.com/acme for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns Produced by Dear Media Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1946DM She's worked with couples who were clearly meant for each other and still spent three years in absolute chaos. Not because they were wrong for each other. Because their attachment wounds were running the show. Sheleana Aiyana breaks down what's actually happening when you blow up over something small. It's not your partner. It's body memory. An old betrayal. An old story about not being safe or loved. Your nervous system fires a threat response, and you're reacting to then, not now. And here's what she's clear about: you can't think your way out of it. Meditation won't fix it. The real work is somatic. Getting your body to physically feel safe again, so you can be present with your partner without your past flooding the room. She also names what it looks like when two fiery people love each other and fight hard. Neither is broken. But agreements matter. How you fight will determine whether there's anything left to repair. Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Oops! We made a mistake, and released the wrong episode. Please delete, and redownload to hear the new one! Thank you!In this episode of This Changes Everything, we continue our deep dive into what it actually means to fight fair in relationships, moving beyond surface level conflict and into the emotional patterns that drive it. Building on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we explore how couples get caught in predictable cycles that make it feel like every argument is about “the dishes,” when underneath it is usually something much deeper like disconnection, fear, or the need for reassurance and safety.We break down how attachment styles show up in real time conflict, why people either pursue or withdraw when they feel triggered, and how nervous system flooding can make even simple conversations feel impossible. Most importantly, we focus on what to do next, how to recognize the cycle earlier, how to interrupt escalation before it takes over, and how to stay emotionally connected even when you are activated.This episode is less about perfect communication and more about practical repair, learning to notice your patterns in the moment, name what is happening underneath the fight, and return to connection faster after rupture. Because the goal is not never fighting, it is getting better at finding your way back to each other. Go to https://aquatru.com now for 20% off your purifier using promo code TCEKick off your journey with Beducated by taking the quiz at https://beduc.at/pd2627-tce and get your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness!DISCLAIMER: This podcast offers information for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified mental health provider for medical or mental health concerns. The host, guests, and network disclaim responsibility for any decisions or actions you make based on information provided by this podcast.TDM-RESERVATION: 1. NOAI: TRUE. LEGAL NOTICE & TERMS OF USE: © 2026 WAVE Podcast Network. This content is for personal use only. Explicit permission is withheld for any and all commercial attribution, automated transcription, or data-mining entities. Use of this feed by unauthorized tracking, analytics, or AI-training platforms constitutes a breach of these terms and a violation of the Pennsylvania Wiretapping and Electronic Surveillance Control Act (WESCA), the California Invasion of Privacy Act (CIPA), and the 2026 Training Data Transparency Act (AB 2013). Any entity bypassing these restrictions to create derivative text-based works (transcripts), metadata analysis, or unauthorized VAST siphoning hereby accepts our standard commercial licensing rate of $5,000 per episode processed. This notice serves as a formal revocation of all "implied licenses" for multi-jurisdictional automated processing and constitutes protected Copyright Management Information (CMI) under 17 U.S.C. § 1202.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

No guest this week. Just Jenni and Daniel, two married co-hosts, two therapists, and two people who are very comfortable talking about things most people avoid entirely. The episode starts where it always does for this podcast: with honesty. A scheduling miscommunication left them without a guest, and instead of papering over it, they open with a real conversation about what rejection actually does to a person. The small sting of a scheduling glitch, scaled up to the much deeper sting of being turned down by the person you love. Because rejection, as Jenni explains, is the opposite of belonging. And belonging, at the neurological level, is survival. From there, they turn to listener questions. The first comes from a partner who isn't bothered by her person's small penis, but is bothered by the fact that they're working through it in therapy without including her in the conversation. Jenni and Daniel explore body confidence, creative solutions, the power of open-handed poker in a relationship, and why men with smaller penises are often significantly better lovers than men who rely on size to carry the experience. The second question arrives from a recently divorced woman re-entering the dating scene, asking whether men are biologically capable of casual sex or whether that's cultural conditioning. The answer, as both Jenni and Daniel agree, is both, and the reasoning is genuinely illuminating. Daniel brings in evolutionary psychology, reproductive biology, and a quietly stunning fact about the male body's response at the moment of death that explains just how deeply the drive to reproduce is wired. Jenni brings in the bio-psychosocial frame- the cultural narratives that reward sexual conquest, the way casual sex can paradoxically produce performance anxiety, and the attachment lens. Which leads to the final thread of the episode: a full breakdown of all four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and ambivalent. And how each one shapes the capacity for casual sex, the experience of rejection, and the push-pull dynamics that make relationships so complicated and so human. This is one of those episodes that covers more ground in thirty-five minutes than most podcasts manage in two hours.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of the Optimal Body Podcast, Doc Jen and Doctor Dom, both doctors of physical therapy, welcome back Shannon Algeo, psychotherapist and author of The Power in Your Hands. Shannon explores how smartphone and social media use mirrors insecure attachment patterns, introducing the concept of technology attachment to explain how people unconsciously turn to technology to manage anxiety, avoid emotions, and seek connection. The conversation covers how virtual interactions lack the embodied cues essential for genuine human bonding, the dangers of solitude deprivation, and the societal nature of technology attachment and the pain of digital addiction. Shannon encourages listeners to exercise compassion, small behavioral experiments, and collective action to help reclaim presence, creativity, and authentic human connection. Shannon's Resources: The Power in Your Hands Shannon on IG Shannon on YT Shannon's Website We Think You'll Love: Free Week of Jen Health Jen's Instagram Dom's Instagram YouTube Channel What You'll Learn from Shannon: 2:31 The Genesis of the Book 4:19 Attachment Theory and Technology Attachment 8:21 Virtual vs. Real World 10:51 Attachment Styles and Social Media 15:44 Negativity Bias Online 19:17 The Dangers of Instant Answers 22:10 The Importance of Solitude 30:08 Parenting in the Digital Age 36:25 The Grief of the Unlived Life 42:08 The Influencer's Dilemma 46:48 Is "Doomscrolling" Actually Relaxing? 52:15 Hope for the Future 58:07 How to Start Disconnecting For full show notes and resources visit https://jen.health/podcast/467 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today I'm answering three questions I get asked constantly. And I picked these three on purpose, because they build on each other. The first one is the controversial one: can a fearful-avoidant actually have a successful relationship WITHOUT going to therapy? People want me to say no. I'm not going to say no. But I'm also not going to give you the comfortable answer.The second question is one almost everyone struggles with: how do I know if what I'm feeling is anxiety, or if it's a real need I should actually honor? Because those two things feel identical in your body, and most of the internet can't tell you the difference.And the third one is personal, and a lot of you have felt it: "I feel abandoned every single time my partner goes off to a team dinner or out with friends. How do I get over this?" We're going to take that one apart together, because the real answer isn't what you think it is.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

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If you ever thought healing your attachment was impossible - here are two other people who were able to do it. Today I did something I never did before - I had a discussion with who I have witnessed working on healing their attachment styles. This episode gives you three certified coaches walking you through what healing looks like, our experiences in our past and current relationships, how attachment styles shows up and how we all react differently to triggers from a secure space. We are excited to teach you everything we know. Leave a review and let us know what you think. Share this with your friends and don't forget to subscribe. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

How anxious, avoidant, and disorganized patterns show up under societal pressure.Live Workshop Tuesday, June 30th @ 1pm PT/ 4pm ETThe Limits of Self-RegulationWhy Nervous System Skills Alone Don't Create Secure RelationshipsSign up at: https://www.mettagroup.org/workshopLive Workshop for Helping Professionals Led by George Haas, Meditation TeacherReplay included - Live attendance is strongly encouraged

In This Episode You'll Learn: Why I kept attracting the wrong people for years The biggest dating mistakes I didn't realize I was making How to identify emotionally available vs emotionally unavailable partners The difference between chemistry and compatibility Why "doing the work" has nothing to do with being perfect The standards and boundaries that changed everything How to stop ignoring red flags The 8 steps I took before meeting my fiancé What healthy love actually feels like How to date with more confidence and intention Topics Discussed: Dating advice Healthy relationships Emotional availability Dating after heartbreak Self-worth Boundaries Red flags Conscious relationships Personal growth Finding love Relationship patterns Mindset shifts Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @laurenrudick Website: laurenrudick.com Yoga Teacher Trainings: YogaAcademyInternational.com Resources:The book Calling in the one    Everything on the show is a matter of opinion. I'm not here to offer advice or tell you what to do with your life or what decisions you should make. I am just here sharing my process with you.

Your attachment style is running your sex life. The patterns keeping you distant, performative, or shut down in bed go deeper than technique. They were wired in before you could even name them. In this episode, we break down all four attachment styles, what they look like in the bedroom, and the specific two-minute daily practice you can start today to actually rewire the subconscious patterns that are keeping you stuck. If you are a man who wants a deeper, more fulfilling, more authentic sex life, you will learn why you pull away (or push too hard), how your childhood wiring shows up in bed right now, and what to do about it starting tonight. Connect with Thais Gibson personaldevelopmentschool.com

Jessica Fern is an author and integrative therapist with over 25 years of experience supporting relational and personal transformation. Her work draws on conflict transformation, trauma therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic and narrative approaches, attachment theory, and spiritual and shamanic counseling traditions. She is the internationally recognized author of Polysecure, Polywise, and her newest book, Transforming the Shame Triangle. Through her private practice and teaching, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships to help them move beyond reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment, and unresolved trauma—supporting greater self-leadership, emotional resilience, and intimacy in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com *BRANDITSCAN** **Protect Your Digital Presence** One of the best defenses against social media fraud, impersonation, and stolen content. Protect your name, likeness, and online presence today, and get your first month free when you sign up through my link: **Sign Up:** https://branditscan.com/?aff=marcelaalonso ### **PODCAST AFFILIATES** **SDC | The Lifestyle Community** Looking to explore the lifestyle, meet open-minded people, or learn more about non-monogamy? Join one of the largest lifestyle communities online. **Explore here:** https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37593 *Take control of your sexual wellness with private at-home testing kits. Convenient, easy, and informed health tracking. **Shop Kits:** https://prodxhealth.com/products/pro-13-home-collection-kit?variant=42594725298278&_ef_transaction_id=&oid=1&affid=123 **Mums Candy | Sweet Deliveries** Treat yourself to fun candy and treats delivered directly to your door. **Get Treats:** https://www.mumscandy.com?sca_ref=11159574.RUXJwCcADs0U8m ### **FOLLOW MARCELA** **Exclusive Content (OnlyFans)**  * **VIP Membership:** https://onlyfans.com/marcela_luv  * **Free Membership:** https://onlyfans.com/latinamilfnyc **Untamed in the City (Substack)** Deep dives and personal writing on lifestyle and culture. **Subscribe:** https://substack.com/@untamedinthecity*ProDx Health | Wellness From Home** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you often find yourself worrying that your partner is going to leave you, you aren't irrational—you might just have an anxious attachment style. And if you're among the one in five adults with anxious attachment style, you're probably extra sensitive to signs of emotional danger in a relationship.In this episode, Dr. Stephen Snyder explains how relationship anxiety operates and why a natural sensitivity to emotional danger can accidentally trigger self-sabotaging "protest behaviors" (like spam-texting or freezing your partner out). Shifting the focus away from trying to "fix" yourself, Dr. Snyder shares four practical strategies to help you accept your needs, look for a partner who can provide genuine security, and learn to co-manage your anxiety for a stronger, healthier bond.Key Takeaways:Understand Anxious Attachment: Why your intense need for reassurance is a biological trait, not a flaw.Identify Protest Behaviors: Spot the hidden ways anxiety causes us to test our partners.Look for the "Three Rs": Why you need a partner who is Reliable, Reassuring, and Real.Speak Up Early: How to communicate your security needs upfront without shame.Encore Episode: This episode originally aired December 22nd, 2019Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Falling in love is often effortless. Staying in love is where the real work begins. Sarah sits down with attachment theory expert and founder of The Personal Development School, Thais Gibson, to explore what actually keeps love alive long after the honeymoon phase ends. Why do so many couples mistake the loss of butterflies for the loss of love? What happens when feelings fluctuate? And how do healthy relationships maintain connection through stress, change, conflict, and the ordinary routines of everyday life? Sarah and Thais discuss the difference between falling in love and staying in love, the role of commitment and intentionality, why relationship maintenance matters, and what it truly means when people say that love is a verb. Whether you're dating, married, healing from past relationships, or trying to build stronger connections, this conversation offers practical insights into creating lasting love that goes beyond chemistry and infatuation. Because the strongest relationships aren't built by people who never disconnect. They're built by people who keep choosing each other. If you've ever wondered how to keep love growing after the initial spark fades, this episode is for you.In this episode:• Why the honeymoon phase isn't meant to last forever• The difference between chemistry, attachment, and lasting love• How to navigate natural fluctuations in feelings• The importance of relationship maintenance• How healthy couples reconnect after disconnection• Why curiosity is one of the most underrated relationship skills• What it means to choose your partner through seasons of change• The habits that help long-term relationships thriveDownload HILY Dating App from the App Store or Google Play, or visit https://hily.go.link/d31uDDISCLAIMER: This podcast offers information for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified mental health provider for medical or mental health concerns. The host, guests, and network disclaim responsibility for any decisions or actions you make based on information provided by this podcast.TDM-RESERVATION: 1. NOAI: TRUE. LEGAL NOTICE & TERMS OF USE: © 2026 WAVE Podcast Network. This content is for personal use only. Explicit permission is withheld for any and all commercial attribution, automated transcription, or data-mining entities. Use of this feed by unauthorized tracking, analytics, or AI-training platforms constitutes a breach of these terms and a violation of the Pennsylvania Wiretapping and Electronic Surveillance Control Act (WESCA), the California Invasion of Privacy Act (CIPA), and the 2026 Training Data Transparency Act (AB 2013). Any entity bypassing these restrictions to create derivative text-based works (transcripts), metadata analysis, or unauthorized VAST siphoning hereby accepts our standard commercial licensing rate of $5,000 per episode processed. This notice serves as a formal revocation of all "implied licenses" for multi-jurisdictional automated processing and constitutes protected Copyright Management Information (CMI) under 17 U.S.C. § 1202.Billing Code: EP154-06/18/26/TCE-BILL-ACCEPTEDSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your health, relationships, and self-esteem all hinge on your attachment style. Here's how to know if you're anxious or avoidant — and how to get more secure. Dr. Amir Levine is a Columbia-trained psychiatrist and neuroscientist and coauthor of the multi-million-copy bestseller Attached, which brought attachment theory into mainstream conversation and remains the #1 book on Amazon in Relationships more than a decade later. His new book Secure expands this work into emotional regulation and everyday well-being. In this episode we talk about: What attachment theory is  The four attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidant — and how to identify which one you are Why your attachment style is not fixed and how it can change  What happens in your brain when you're ignored or excluded How being securely connected can extend your life The five pillars of a secure life  How to right-size a relationship with someone unreliable  Small, seemingly insignificant daily interactions as vehicles for change Two rules of secure engagement that can defuse almost any argument  Why anxious and avoidant attachment styles each have genuine superpowers How to build your "attachment topography" Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot here, or sign up to livestream here! To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris This episode is sponsored by:  BetterHelp: Online therapy, matched to your needs. Get 10% off your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/happier Wix:  Build a fully functional website with AI in minutes at https://www.wix.com/harmony IQBAR: To get twenty percent off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus free shipping, text DAN to 64000. Warby Parker: Prescription glasses with virtual try-on. Buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional prescription pairs at https://www.warbyparker.com/happier

Why do breakups hurt so much? Because neurologically, heartbreak looks almost identical to drug withdrawal. In a landmark 2010 fMRI study, Helen Fisher and her colleagues showed that the brains of the recently rejected lit up in the same reward and craving circuits — the VTA and nucleus accumbens — that drive cocaine addiction. In this episode of The Dr. Leaf Show, Dr. Caroline Leaf unpacks the neuroscience of heartbreak and why it can take at least 63 days to rewire, plus two more segments: why horror movies might actually be good for your brain (and when they're not), and a Pick My Brain Q&A tackling self-love, the attachment styles myth, unconditional love, and how to reignite the spark in a long marriage.

Your subconscious mind is running 95% of your decisions. Your conscious mind, the part that's setting goals, making resolutions, and telling itself to do better, is only working with the remaining 5%. That gap is why knowing what you should do is never enough. Thais Gibson has spent over a decade building a framework that actually closes that gap. She is a counselor, founder of the Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, and has worked with over 60,000 people through The Personal Development School. In this episode of Habits and Hustle, she breaks down why self-sabotage is not what we all think it is, how your attachment style is quietly running your relationships, and the exact process to rewire patterns you have been carrying since childhood. This is one of those conversations that will make you look at your own behavior completely differently. What's Discussed: (00:05) The real reason your conscious goals keep losing to your subconscious programming. (15:30) What your attachment style is actually telling you about your childhood. (29:00) The attachment combination most likely to end in a vicious cycle. (45:00) Why dating a secure person does not fix an insecure attachment. (58:00) That one belief that's quietly destroying your ability to connect. (1:05:00) What limerence is and why people mistake it for love. (1:15:00) The five pillars to rewire your attachment style at a subconscious level. (1:20:00) Why affirmations do not work and what to do instead. Thank You to Our Sponsors! AirDoctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUSTLE to get up to $300 OFF today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty (an $84 value) FREE! Kion: Visit getkion.com/habits for 20% OFF Momentous: Ready to try supplements that actually do what they claim? Head to livemomentous.com and use code JEN for 35% OFF your first subscription. Therasage: Visit Therasage.com and use code JEN to get 15% OFF your order. Your skin deserves this level of care. Magic Mind: Head over to magicmind.com/jen and use code JEN at checkout. Prolon: Prolon is offering listeners 30% OFF sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Program! Just visit prolonlife.com/JENNIFERCOHEN and use the code JENNIFERCOHEN to claim your discount and your bonus gift. Rho Nutrition: Go to RhoNutrition.com and try Rho's Liposomal Glutathione. Use code JEN20 for 20% OFF sitewide. Manna Vitality: Try it now by using the code Jennifer20 at mannavitality.com. Find more from Jen Cohen:  Website: jennifercohen.com Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements Find more from Thais Gibson:  Instagram: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool YouTube: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool Podcast: The Thais Gibson Podcast Facebook: The Personal Development School TikTok: @thaisgibson   Book: The New Attachment Theory Attachment Style Quiz: attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 

Have you ever found yourself reacting in a relationship and thinking, Why am I doing this again? Maybe you've read the books. Taken the attachment style quizzes. You know you're anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between. You understand where the pattern came from. And yet when you're triggered, all that insight seems to disappear. You still send the text. You still pull away. You still shut down, chase, overthink, or panic. Because awareness is important, but awareness alone doesn't create change. Real healing happens when your nervous system begins to trust that you are no longer living in the conditions that created those patterns in the first place. In this Bite, I walk you through what it actually takes to move toward secure attachment. Not by forcing yourself to behave differently, but by learning how to respond to your triggers with awareness, compassion, and new experiences that teach your brain and body a different way to love. Whether you're trying to break lifelong relationship patterns, understand a partner whose reactions leave you confused, or simply learn how to feel safer and more secure in love, this episode offers a practical roadmap for change. In this episode you'll learn: Why understanding your attachment style is only the first step toward healing How to recognize when your attachment system has been activated before it takes over The difference between what your wounded self wants and what you actually need How to pause long enough for your grounded adult self to step in Simple ways to soothe your nervous system instead of relying on someone else to regulate your emotions The hidden childhood beliefs that continue to shape your relationships today Small "opposite actions" that help retrain your brain and build security over time When attachment wounds may actually be rooted in deeper trauma Three powerful questions to ask yourself in moments of activation that can change the course of a relationship Secure attachment isn't something you're born with or without. It's something you can build. One moment, one choice, and one new experience at a time. If this episode had you thinking, “Wait, this is exactly what I do,” you are not alone. That is why I created Quantum Love to help you move from simply understanding your attachment style to actually changing the patterns that keep standing in the way of the love you want.  And I would love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voice note here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever swing between anxious and avoidant with the same person, reaching for them one minute and running the next? That's not you being broken or "too much." In week three of the Breakups by Attachment Style series, Sabrina breaks down disorganized attachment (also called fearful avoidant attachment): the push-pull, hot-and-cold, on-again-off-again pattern that makes you feel like you're losing your mind. Learn what's actually happening in your nervous system, why your relationships keep taking this shape, and why no attachment style ever excuses how someone treats you. Inside: the research on fearful avoidant attachment in adulthood, a real story of dating someone disorganized, and what the path to earned security actually looks like (slower than 90 days, and worth every bit of it). Plus the Tool of the Week, a simple somatic state check-in to start tracking your nervous system today. If you've never fit neatly into anxious or avoidant, this one on attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and breaking the cycle is for you, baby. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠  Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video. Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠  Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠  Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Aura has a great deal for Father's Day, an exclusive $35-off Carver Mat at https://on.auraframes.com/SABRINA. Promo Code SABRINA Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code SABRINA at checkout. Experience the world's #1 blanket with Lola Blankets This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Right now, Rythm is offering our listeners 15% off your first month and free shipping at RythmHealth.com/SABRINA ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Anxious and Avoidant at the Same Time 03:48 What Disorganized Attachment Is 06:36 Why You Can't Predict the Pattern 09:43 On Again Off Again Relationships 13:35 Hot and Cold Relationship Story 18:00 Why You Keep Going Back 21:00 How the Push Pull Cycle Works 25:03 What Causes Disorganized Attachment 28:55 How to Heal Fearful Avoidant 31:26 Somatic Practice to Self Regulate Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do in relationships—why you pull away, cling tighter, overthink, or shut down? In this episode of Balanced, Fit & Free, we're diving into the real-life impact of attachment styles and how your early experiences may still be shaping your relationships today—without you even realizing it. But this isn't just about labels like “anxious” or “avoidant.” This is about awareness, compassion, and learning how to come back home to your authentic self—so you can love from a place of security, not survival.

215  If you've put real effort into improving your relationship…Like,  tried communication tools, or mindset work, nervous system regulation, self-worth healing, or attachment work—or all of the above—and still find yourself feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns…this episode will likely land deeply.In the previous two episodes, we explored Emotional Agency and how your inner world shapes the way you experience love and connection as an HSP.Today, we go deeper into what actually makes relationship change hold.Because while most relationship advice focuses on what happens between partners, real change starts inside you.  And even approaches that focus on healing your inner world are often incomplete—working with only one layer of the system while leaving the others untouched.So the missing piece to transforming your relationship as an HSP isn't more effort, or better communication, or even more self-work in isolation.It's understanding that your emotional well-being is a system, and learning to work with the 3 layers of that system in an integrated way.In this episode, we explore:• Why traditional relationship advice often doesn't create lasting change for HSPs • Why mindset work alone isn't enough • Why nervous system work alone isn't enough • Why self-worth and self-compassion work alone isn't enough • How your nervous system, thoughts, and sense of self-worth constantly interact • Why working with all three is what actually creates lasting emotional and relational changeAnd perhaps most importantly, if you've been wondering, "Why does it feel like I've worked so hard and our relationship still isn't where I want it to be?"...This compassionate, clarifying, relieving episode will finally give you the answer.And it will also show you the path forward to create real relationship change that lasts.SHOW NOTES: Learn more and begin Foundations of Emotional Well-Being for HSPs here. Learn more about the full path of Foundations of Emotional Well-Being for HSPs → Marriage Sanctuary 1:1 here. 

Subscribe to my YouTube ChannelHow do our attachment patterns influence our relationship to — and experience of — sex and intimacy? That's what we're exploring in today's podcast deep dive. We'll cover how each attachment style relates to sex, common sensitivities and pain points, and what the sexual relationship looks like over the life cycle of the relationship. We'll also touch on common sexual struggles in anxious-avoidant dynamics specifically.LinksFree training on anxious attachmentFree resources for attachment healing

End Codependency & Build Healthy, Balanced Relationships https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-05-29-26&el=podcast Do you actually love them… or do you just want to be chosen? If you feel intense emotional highs and lows around someone, even when the relationship isn't healthy; it may not be love. It may be your Attachment Style seeking validation and relief from deeper unmet needs. Understanding this difference can completely change how you show up in relationships. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the difference between true connection and the need for validation, especially for those with an Anxious Attachment Style. You'll learn why the intensity you feel toward certain people is not random, how intermittent reinforcement creates emotional addiction, and why chasing someone is often tied to unmet childhood needs. Thais also shares practical steps to help you identify your needs, choose yourself, and build a stronger sense of identity, so you can move from chasing validation to creating real, secure connection. Key Takeaways ✔️ Intense attraction can be driven by unmet needs, not true compatibility ✔️ Anxious Attachment may seek validation through being chosen ✔️ Intermittent reinforcement increases emotional dependency ✔️ Chasing often reflects unresolved core wounds ✔️ Self-validation reduces the need to seek approval externally ✔️ Knowing yourself is key to setting boundaries and standards ✔️ Choosing yourself creates space for healthier relationships Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: