Podcasts about attachment styles

#923. Why do you love the way that you love… and why do you keep repeating the same patterns?This week, Kaitlyn sits down with attachment theory expert and best-selling author Thais Gibson to break down the 4 attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized — and how they shape every relationship in your life.Thais shares her own powerful story of trauma and addiction at just 15 years old, and the moment she discovered that your subconscious mind — not your conscious mind — is driving who you're attracted to, why you get triggered, and why certain relationships feel impossible to walk away from.They also talk about how attachment styles are formed, how they can change, and the first step to becoming more secure.If you've ever wondered “Why am I like this in relationships?” — this episode is for you.If you're LOVING this podcast, please follow and leave a rating and review below! PLUS, FOLLOW OUR PODCAST INSTAGRAM HERE!Thank you to our Sponsors! Check out these AMAZING deals!Better Help: If you're ready to take some pressure off this month, therapy is a great place to start. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/VINE.Bombas: Head over to Bombas.com/VINE and use code VINE for 20% off your first purchase.Ka'chava: Stick with your wellness goals. Go to kachava.com and use code VINE for 15% off.Merit Beauty: Right now, Merit Beauty is offering our listeners their Signature Makeup Bag with your first order at MERITbeauty.com.Pura: Pura's Well-Being Collection is thoughtfully crafted to support energy, focus, relaxation, and sleep through scent. Discover what your space needs at pura.com/moods.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: (4:38) — Thais shares her traumatic upbringing and addiction at just 15 years old. (12:21) — The 4 attachment styles explained (and how to identify yours) Secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant — and how each one affects your relationships.(32:29) — How to rewire your core wounds and change subconscious patterns.(58:00) — The first step to healing your attachment style.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Unlocked, I'm sitting down with Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School and an expert on attachment styles, trauma, and subconscious reprogramming… and let's just say, I was not prepared for how seen I was about to feel.We talk about why we are the way we are, how childhood conditioning quietly follows us into adulthood, and the patterns we keep repeating in relationships without even realizing it. Thais breaks down attachment styles in a way that makes so much sense, from anxious to avoidant to fearful avoidant, and how those patterns show up in love, conflict, communication, and even the way we handle success.We get into radical accountability, core wounds, nervous system regulation, and why healing isn't about blaming your parents… but it is about taking responsibility for your own growth. I share personal stories about love, overperforming, shutting down, and what it's like to finally feel safe in a healthy relationship.If you've ever wondered why you push people away, cling too tightly, overreact to small things, or feel like you're waiting for the other shoe to drop… this conversation will open your eyes.Healing is possible. But you have to be willing to do the work.LET'S BE SOCIAL:Follow Savannah Chrisley:Insta: (https://www.instagram.com/SavannahChrisley)TikTok: (https://www.tiktok.com/@SavannahChrisley)X: (https://www.x.com/_itssavannah_)Follow Thais Gibson:Insta: (https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool)TikTok: (https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson)YouTube: (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ)Website: (https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/)Follow The Unlocked Podcast:Insta: (https://www.instagram.com/UnlockedWithSavannah)TikTok: (https://www.tiktok.com/@UnlockedWithSav)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Candice Tamara is a trauma-informed relationship and self-concept coach who helps driven, anxiously attached individuals become secure in love. After healing from a deeply traumatic childhood and years of anxious attachment, Candice transformed their inner world, rewired their identity, and became the secure version of themselves they once thought was impossible. They have now helped hundreds of people break anxious/avoidant patterns, regulate their nervous system, and create deeply secure, emotionally available relationships, without chasing love or abandoning themselves. Candice is the creator of the Candice Tamara Secure Method™, a transformational process that blends attachment healing, subconscious reprogramming, EFT tapping, nervous system work, and the Law of Assumption to create rapid, lasting change. They are also the host of the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast, where they teach listeners how to shift their self-concept, step into secure love, and become the version of themselves who is chosen, supported, and deeply valued.    Key Topics:  ⭐ Anxious vs Avoidant Attachment As The Core Relationship Dynamic ⭐ Why We Attract The Same Person In A Different Body ⭐ Abandonment vs Engulfment: The Two Sides Of The Same Fear ⭐ Nervous System Activation As The Real Trigger Behind Conflict ⭐ Why Pulling Away Feels Like Survival To One And Rejection To The Other ⭐ Commitment Anxiety On Both Sides (Even When You Think You Want It) ⭐ Breakups: Relief, Regret, And The Attachment Cycle ⭐ Outsourcing Safety Instead Of Building Inner Security ⭐ Self-Abandonment As The Hidden Pattern In Anxious Attachment ⭐ Independence As Survival In Avoidant Attachment ⭐ Expanding Emotional Capacity Instead Of Trying To Change Your Partner ⭐ Regulation Before Communication: Why Space Can Save A Relationship ⭐ Personal Responsibility As The Turning Point In Healing ⭐ Retraining Your Version Of Love By Reprogramming Subconscious Beliefs ⭐ Growing From Insecure To Secure Attachment Through Inner Work Connect With David - The Authentic Man:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Candice Tamara:   Instagram: @candicetamara_ YouTube: @candicetamara_ Website: https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com/ Free masterclass, Stop Sabotaging Love: https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com/signuptomasterclass  F*CK Trauma Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5xbXmtF2JZUgMqgmGNhao6?si=RroJ1OMoS-ygiTD4JIXUIQ    Chapters 00:00 – Intro 02:37 – What Love Felt Like Before Healing (Anxious Attachment) 04:12 – Growing Up Without A Healthy Model Of Love 06:28 – Why You Keep Attracting The Same Person 08:54 – Dating Your Parent In A Different Body 11:21 – Anxious vs Avoidant: Breaking The Stereotypes 14:03 – Subconscious Beliefs & Identity Formation 17:12 – Projection: Why It's Not Actually About Your Partner 20:40 – Abandonment vs Engulfment: The Core Fear 24:18 – Pulling Away & Nervous System Triggers 28:05 – Rumination, Overthinking & Internal Shame 31:42 – Commitment Anxiety Explained 35:27 – Breakups: Relief, Regret & Emotional Cycling 39:50 – Boundaries: Healthy vs Protective Withdrawal 43:18 – Communication Breakdown: Reactivity vs Shutdown 47:36 – Emotional Capacity & Nervous System Regulation 51:22 – Can A Relationship Survive If Only One Person Does The Work? 55:48 – Taking Responsibility Instead Of Blame 59:30 – Retraining Your Version Of Love 01:03:12 – Final Reflections & Key Takeaways  

Most people focus only on diet, training, and supplements when it comes to health—but often overlook one of the biggest drivers of stress and burnout: relationships. Chronic emotional stress can quietly dysregulate your nervous system and undermine your health, no matter how disciplined you are with fitness and nutrition.  In this episode, Ted sits down with Thais Gibson to explore how attachment styles shape your relationships, stress response, and overall well-being. Thais explains how early attachment patterns influence adult behavior, why unresolved attachment wounds keep high achievers stuck in reactive cycles, and what it takes to create real nervous system regulation and lasting change beyond surface-level stress management.  Today's Guest  Thais Gibson:  Thais Gibson is an attachment theory expert, author, and founder of the Personal Development School. With a background in psychology and neuroscience-based modalities, she specializes in helping people rewire subconscious attachment patterns, regulate their nervous systems, and build healthier relationships.     Connect to Thais Gibson  Website: University.PersonalDevelopmentSchool.com   Instagram: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool  Podcast: The Thais Gibson Podcast  YouTube: @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool    You'll learn:  Why attachment style is a subconscious "rulebook" that shapes adult relationships  How unresolved attachment wounds dysregulate the nervous system  How relationship stress can sabotage health, recovery, and emotional regulation  Practical strategies for rewiring attachment wounds and improving regulation What Ted and Thais discuss:  (00:00) Introduction  (02:00) Relationships as the Missing Piece in Health & Fitness  (08:36) The 4 Attachment Styles Explained  (25:33) Thais Gibson's Story: Addiction, the Subconscious Mind & Why She Teaches This  (31:14) From Self-Healing to Relationship Skills: Boundaries, Needs & Vulnerability  (35:04) Moving Toward Secure Attachment: Wounds Drive Nervous System Dysregulation  (39:18) Why Affirmations Fail: Rewiring the Subconscious with Emotions & Imagery  (41:58) The 3-Step Rewiring Tool  (49:29) Nervous System 101: Ventral vs Dorsal Vagal + Regulation Practices  (54:07) Real-World Application: Stress, Meditation, and a New Baseline of Peace  (58:32) Final Thoughts 

In this episode, Dr. K provides a deep-dive lecture into Attachment Theory, moving beyond individual psychology to explore how our internal "wiring" creates the specific dynamics of our romantic relationships. He breaks down why we are often attracted to the very people who trigger our deepest insecurities and provides a scientific roadmap for healing your attachment style. What to expect in this episode: • The Three Major Styles: A breakdown of why 50% of people are Secure, while the rest fall into Anxious (fear of abandonment) or Avoidant (fear of closeness) patterns rooted in childhood experiences. • The "Match Made in Hell": An analysis of the magnetic attraction between anxious and avoidant individuals, creating a cycle where one person chases while the other retreats. • The Six Types of Love: How ancient Greek concepts like Ludus (game-playing) and Mania (obsessive) perfectly describe the modern behaviors of avoidant and anxious partners. • Protest Behaviors and Mixed Signals: A look at the "chameleon" effect in anxious individuals and the "devaluing" strategies avoidants use to keep people at arm's length. • The Path to Security: Practical tools for moving toward a Secure Attachment, including the development of mentalization (understanding your partner's mind) and inter-subjectivity (blending lives without losing your identity).HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-02-23-26&el=podcast Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Welcome back! Today we're joined by Thais Gibson, attachment style expert, creator of the Integrated Attachment Theory, and founder of The Personal Development School. Thais breaks down the four attachment styles that explain why we show up the way we do in relationships (romantic, friendships, family, etc.).We chat about:The four attachment styles & how they developWhat traditional attachment theory is missingWhy we chase familiar-feeling loveEach attachment style's core wounds and needsHow to become more secureAt the end of the episode, Thais shares an actionable three-step reprogramming exercise to reframe your limiting beliefs and become a more secure dater. Find Thais on Instagram @thepersonaldevelopmentschool or head to her website to learn more about working with her.Read my most recent Substack: Apps Aren't The Problem — Here's What's Killing Modern DatingAs always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. Learn more about my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mostly Dating Blueprint⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Does it ever feel like you're dating the same person with a different name? If you notice that you're often gravitating toward emotionally unavailable people, this episode is for you.Joining Gretta to discuss attachment is Trevor Hanson, coach and founder of The Art of Healing. Trevor teaches relationship and attachment skills through the Secure Self Club. In this show, Trevor deconstructs common relationship dynamics and shares how to finally break the cycle of insecure attachment. This episode covers:How to move from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.How anxious patterns can amplify avoidance.Why men who have an anxious attachment style may tend to get ghosted more.Insights on why men may be more prone to avoidant attachment.How porn and other addictions are often attempts to soothe unmet attachment needs.If you're ready to make powerful shifts in your life, this episode is for you. Connect with Trevor: Instagram | Trevor's Website | YouTube | TikTok Connect with Gretta:Free Guide: What to Say To A GhostFree and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.comMusic: "Ghosted" by Gustavo ZaiahDisclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals.Support the showNote to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

In this episode of The Modern Muse Diaries, Taylor Carr interviews Elizabeth Scarcella of The Rooted Queen on attachment styles, health, hormones, and feminine radiance.They dive into discussing how through labs, Elizabeth can tell what attachment style a person has.They discuss low iron and ferritin levels.And they discuss feminine radiance as a whole.Click Here to connect with Elizabeth and take the quiz:https://reveal-the-root.scoreapp.comConnect with Elizabeth on social media here:https://www.instagram.com/elizabethscarcella/https://www.youtube.com/@UCEpHCehC3up-VsRBErbkjigThis episode is available on Apple Podcasts & Spotify.Taylor Carr:www.instagram.com/iamtaylorcarrwww.upgradewithtaylor.com

Stella from MAFS sit's down with Caitlin to unpack her relationship and mean girl drama.You saw the dinner party chaos - now hear the psychology behind it.Stella sits down with Caitlin to unpack her relationship, the mean girl drama she was targeted by, and what was really happening beneath the surface.They go deep on:The anxious/avoidant dance Stella used to live in (and what shifted)Why “boring” can be the first sign of secure attachmentThe mean girl hierarchy, projection, and subtle power plays at the tableWhat not reacting actually communicates in high-conflict spacesHow real support looks (spoiler: not your friends yelling “fuck him!” on repeat)Compassion without reconciliation (aka: you can have empathy and still say NO)How to watch reality TV like free therapy instead of a public hangingWhether you're watching MAFS or not, this episode will change how you see relationship drama — on screen and in your own life.If you love this episode please like, share and subscribe. Find us on socials here:Caitlin: https://www.instagram.com/complete_bycaitlin/Stella: https://www.instagram.com/mickstella_/

She schedules her crying every week. She hasn't processed a single painful experience in her entire life. And her body is keeping score. Raina is a brand strategist, agency owner, mother of two, and one of the most high-functioning people you'll ever meet. She's also been running on pure survival mode since childhood; dissociating from every emotion that slowed her down and treating the people around her like objects she navigates around instead of humans she connects with. In this episode, Adam breaks down how quiet disorganized attachment combined with autistic features creates a double-layered wall between someone and every person who's ever tried to love them. He explains why "understanding why someone hurt you" isn't the same as forgiving them; it's actually stripping them of their humanity. And he walks Raina through the exact moment her nervous system learned that love is just a setup for betrayal. his conversation covers: Why high-functioning women with chronic dissociation often develop autoimmune disorders by their mid-30s The difference between short-term dissociation (useful) and lifelong dissociation (destructive) How your brain processes trauma using left brain logic and right brain emotion; and why it gets stuck What happens when you remove someone's agency by excusing everything they do Kohlberg's morality scale and why you should only open up to the top 10% The "resolve and repair" model for confronting people without rupturing the relationship Why the people who confused you in your life were probably the ones who loved you most How 40 collaborative conversations in 90 days can rewire your neural pathways If you've ever been told you're "cold" when you're actually terrified; this one's for you.

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In this episode of Healthy Mind Healthy Self, we explore why love can feel intense, confusing, and emotionally activating, even in relationships you deeply care about. Learn how attraction, dopamine, attachment bonds, and nervous system activation shape your experience of closeness, anxiety, and emotional ups and downs. If you have ever wondered why you feel both deeply connected and emotionally exhausted, or why it can feel so hard to walk away, this episode explains the science behind relationship patterns and shows you how to create steadier connection without losing chemistry.

“Real power is speaking your desire without being attached to the outcome.”What if the real power isn't getting what you want but having the courage to ask for it?In this episode, Dennis Hull joins to talk about sovereignty, desire, boundaries, rejection, and why attachment to outcome quietly runs so many of our lives. We unpack the philosophy behind tantra play spaces, the difference between safety and sovereignty, and why real community can't be built online alone.This is a conversation about pleasure without performance, asking without expectation, and learning how to stay present even when you hear no.Messy. Honest. Deeply human.Connect with DennisInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsdennishull/Website: https://www.dennishull.com/Support the Pod: $$$ Venmo: @hillbilly-healer PayPal: @KristinBirdwellLLC CashApp: $KristinBirdwellConnect with Kristin:Website - https://www.kristinbirdwell.com/Instagram - http://instagram.com/kristinbirdwell_YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@sexdrugssoulFor all the peptide goodies, join me on Ellie MD.https://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwell Kristin's Best-Selling Book:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sex, Drugs, & Soul on Amazon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Audiobook Link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to the Podcast:YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ...

Awareness of attachment styles in relationships is crucial for maintaining healthy, sustainable relationships. Once you are aware of your attachment styles in relationships, you will begin to see areas where you may need healing. Understanding Attachment Styles and Anxiety Understanding how you relate to others is deeply influenced by your attachment style. This concept, rooted in early life, plays a pivotal role in how you experience relationships today. The Root of Attachment Styles Attachment styles begin to form during the first three years of life when the brain and nervous system are most malleable. Types of Attachment Styles There are several types of attachment styles to consider: Secure Attachment: Developed through consistently supportive caregiving, resulting in trusting and balanced relationships. Anxious Attachment: Arises when caregivers are unpredictable, leading to worry about relationships being untrustworthy or unstable. Avoidant Attachment: Occurs when a caregiver is consistently dismissive or unavailable, causing an emotional distance in adult relationships. Disorganized Attachment: Results from trauma or inconsistent caregiving, creating confusion and fear around intimacy. The Impact of Anxiety Attachment styles are not merely theoretical; they are intricately connected to anxiety levels in relationships. Anxious and avoidant tendencies can manifest through fear of abandonment or difficulty with closeness and vulnerability. Pathways to Healing and Establishing Secure Attachment Awareness is the primary step in transforming your attachment style. Here are some methods to guide your journey: Therapy and Professional Support: Engaging in therapy, especially when informed by attachment theory, can provide profound insights and tools for change. Techniques such as Somatic Experiencing or neurofeedback can aid in reconditioning the nervous system. Grief and Story Work: Unprocessed grief from childhood needs acknowledgment. Story work in a supportive group setting can help reframe past narratives, providing healing and a sense of empowerment. Co-Regulation: Finding relationships where co-regulation is possible helps. Whether through therapy, a coach, or a supportive spouse, being with someone who models secure attachment can naturally elevate your own attachment style. Exploring Spiritual and Emotional Growth: Acknowledging Christianity's role can also promote healing. Secure faith and trust in Jesus as your savior can provide stability and comfort. The Crucial Role of Community Healing from attachment-related wounds is not a solitary journey. Awareness, Acknowledgement, and Hard Holy Work Acknowledging and working with your attachment style is a critical component of improving interpersonal relationships and managing anxiety. A Relationship With the Lord God is at our side and ready to help us heal. Read the full show notes and access all links. Website for Kathryn Wessling Additional Attachment Style resources from Kathryn Books How We Love Secure Love Attachment Style Quizzes: How We Love The Attachment Project

Send a textLove feels harder than it should. Why?We swipe. We text. We “talk.” We ghost. We try again.But beneath the surface of modern dating lies something much deeper: attachment wounds, social conditioning, trauma, ego, fear — and the unspoken longing to be truly seen.In this powerful and unfiltered episode of Self Reflection Podcast, host Lira Ndifon sits down with couples therapist Hassan (Chop The Counselor) to unpack the psychology behind why so many relationships struggle today — and what it actually takes to build something healthy.This isn't surface-level dating advice. This is about emotional wiring.Together, they explore:• Why couples say they struggle with “communication” — but what they really mean is “I don't feel seen.” • The hidden psychological impact of infidelity — and why it never fully disappears • How childhood attachment styles quietly dictate adult relationships • Why “settling” might actually be self-awareness in disguise • The dangerous myth of perfection in modern dating • How social conditioning shapes men, sex, vulnerability, and emotional avoidance • Why intentional dating requires inner clarity — not a checklist • Practical rituals couples can use to rebuild connection and intimacyLira brings her signature depth and spiritual grounding, challenging us to reflect inward before blaming outward. Because sometimes the love we're searching for… requires us to meet ourselves first.This episode isn't just about romance.It's about courage. It's about curiosity. It's about slowing down instead of reacting. It's about understanding your patterns before repeating them.If you're single, healing from heartbreak, navigating dating apps, rebuilding trust, or in a relationship that feels stuck — this conversation will hold up a mirror.And in that mirror, you may finally see the truth about how you love.Support the showCall to Action: Engage with the Self-Reflection Podcast community! Like, follow, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube (Self-Reflection Podcast by Lira Ndifon), and all major podcast platforms. Share your insights and feedback—we value your contributions! Suggest topics you'd like us to explore. Your support amplifies our reach, sharing these vital messages of self-love and empowerment. Until our next conversation, prioritize self-care and embrace your journey. Grab your copy of "Awaken Your True Self" on Amazon. Until next time, be kind to yourself and keep reflecting.

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"Feelings are signals, not facts."In this lecture, Christan and Tarrah explore the world of Avoidant Attachment. Learn why you might be "Heisman-ing" the people you love and how to transition from survival mode into true intimacy.In this lecture:Friendship Court: A ruling on "Conflict Avoidance" and the danger of the "I'm Fine" response. The Artist Corner: Why your bedroom environment dictates your mental stability. Lesson: The difference between guarding your heart and barricading it.Class Dismissed! If you're ready to stop hiding and start healing, leave us a 5-star review! Peace!

In this Huberman Lab Essentials episode, I explore the psychology and biology of desire, love and attachment. I explain how childhood attachment styles can shape adult romantic relationships and how the brain and body systems influence emotional bonds. I also discuss supplements that may support a healthy libido and practical, science-based tools for understanding your relationship patterns and building stronger relationships. Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Desire, Love & Attachment (00:00:23) 4 Attachment Styles, Child & Parent (00:04:11) Attachment & Autonomic Arousal, Seesaw Analogy (00:07:26) Sponsor: Eight Sleep (00:08:44) Tool: Self-Awareness of Attachment Style, Autonomic State & Relationship (00:09:51) Brain & Neural Circuits for Desire, Love & Attachment (00:11:19) Empathy, Autonomic Matching (00:13:09) Positive Delusions, Relationship Breakdown & Failure (00:16:00) Sponsor: Function (00:17:39) Universality of Love, Autonomic Coordination (00:21:38) Self-Expansion & Relationships, Shaping Self-Perception (00:27:54) Sponsor: AG1 (00:28:44) Testosterone, Estrogen, Dopamine & Libido (00:31:52) Supplements to Increase Libido: Maca Root, Tongkat Ali (Longjack), Tribulus (00:38:55) Recap Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What are attachment styles and why do they shape so much of your adult relationships?           In this episode of Reset Your Life, Eva breaks down the 4 attachment styles and how they show up in dating, friendships, relationships, conflict, boundaries, and emotional regulation.             You will learn:     – What are the 4 attachment styles     – How attachment styles form in childhood       – How attachment styles and relationships are deeply connected       – Why attachment styles impact emotional safety       – How attachment styles can keep you stuck in survival mode       Understanding attachment styles isn't about labeling yourself. When you understand your attachment style, your reactions start making sense, your relationship patterns feel less confusing and you stop assuming something is wrong with you.         Eva also shares her personal experience discovering her own attachment style, how it changed her boundaries and dating standards, and why emotional safety matters more than intensity.      

If you've ever found yourself thinking, “Why does this keep happening to me?” when it comes to love… this episode is for you. I'm not giving you dating hacks or surface-level advice. We're going deeper. Because the truth is, it's not that you're bad at relationships or that something is “wrong” with you, it's that your attachment style is running the show. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly why love can feel so hard, how anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment patterns keep repeating, and what it actually takes to rewire your brain for secure, healthy love.Inside this episode:Why you're not broken and how anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment create painful relationship cycles (even when you're trying your best).The hidden fears driving each attachment style: from self-abandoning and over-functioning to sabotaging intimacy and pushing love away. What it really takes to become securely attached, beyond “therapy speak” and how to start embodying the version of you who attracts healthy, emotionally available love.I share vulnerably about my own journey, from disorganized attachment and chaotic relationship patterns to building a secure, deeply connected marriage. And I want you to hear this clearly: you can change. Your nervous system can heal. Your patterns can shift. Healthy love that feels safe, consistent, and secure is absolutely available to you.But it requires more than just knowing the language of healing. It requires doing the deep work to rewire your beliefs, regulate your nervous system, and show up differently.If you're ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally become the securely attached version of yourself, I want to personally invite you to explore your next step.

In this episode, Christa continues the February series on Attachment Styles Meets Enneagram by walking through all nine types and exploring two critical questions: How do you attach well to yourself, and how do you attach well to your partner? She opens by acknowledging the need for God and self-regulation (and five fun Valentine's Dates!), and then we breaks down each type's unique attachment challenges and growth narratives together. Christa makes it clear that secure attachment starts internally, but you cannot give your partner what you haven't given yourself. Listen now! ❤️ We also give a final call for your chance to join the E + M Coaching Certification & Masterclass Course starting February 12th (last day for $250 off with code COACH). This episode is practical, compassionate, and grounded in the truth that real intimacy requires showing up fully, with God, with yourself, and with your spouse as we celebrate our love and marriage this month of love ❤️. Watch on YouTube! Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina sits down with dating expert Damona Hoffman to unpack how fairy tales, rom-coms, and modern dating apps fuel obsession, fantasy, and anxious attachment. They break down why texting chemistry, dopamine loops, and “potential” keep people stuck in confusing dating dynamics—and how to shift from chasing sparks to choosing emotional safety, clarity, and real connection. If you're tired of mixed signals, hot-and-cold behavior, situationships, or questioning someone's attachment style, this conversation reframes dating through grounded psychology and nervous system awareness. You'll learn how to stop romanticizing unavailable partners, identify emotional unavailability early, and date with intention instead of fantasy—so you can build a healthy, secure relationship rooted in reality, not wishful thinking. Want to have your submission appear on a future show? Send in your stories, questions, or dating profiles to inthetrenches@sabrinazohar.com Get 'F the Fairy Tale' by Damona! If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! As an exclusive offer, my listeners can get their choice between organic ground beef, chicken breast, or ground turkey in every box for a year, PLUS $20 off when you go to ButcherBox.com/SABRINA Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SABRINA at https://www.oneskin.co/SABRINA #oneskinpod ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Dating Myths & Fairy Tale Fantasy 04:18 – Obsessing Over Potential vs Reality 08:12 – Texting, Dopamine & False Intimacy 13:05 – Good Morning Texts & Anxiety Loops 18:02 – Why Sparks Don't Equal Compatibility 23:11 – Emotional Unavailability Explained 28:07 – Mixed Signals & Hot-Cold Behavior 33:02 – Attachment Styles vs Real Behavior 38:06 – Emotional Intimacy & Secure Love 42:10 – Dating With Clarity, Not Fantasy Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness. The salvation, then, is to be found in the body..."What if trauma isn't something to heal or release but something that formed intelligently in response to life?In this episode, I sit down with Will Rezin of Trauma & Somatics for a deep, grounding conversation on trauma, attachment, procrastination, nervous system regulation, and why so many of us never actually feel completion, only “what's next?”This episode isn't about fixing yourself. It's about understanding how you formed and what becomes possible when survival isn't the only goal anymore.

If you keep having the same argument with your partner, it might not be about the topic at all. Often, it is not about the dishes, the plans for the weekend, or who forgot to call back. How you fight, well, that could be based on your attachment style. In this episode, I'll explore how anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up during conflict and why they can create painful cycles that feel impossible to escape.I'll share what I see as a couples therapist and what you can do about it. Conflict with a partner activates something deep in our nervous system. Suddenly, we are not calm, rational adults. We are reacting to old attachment wounds. One person escalates, the other withdraws, and before long, the original issue is forgotten while the emotional storm takes over.In this episode I'll explain how these patterns form, why they make sense from an attachment perspective, and most importantly, how couples can begin to break the cycle.In this episode you will learn:• Why couples repeat the same arguments over and over• How anxious and avoidant attachment styles trigger each other• What happens in the nervous system during relationship conflict• Why silence can feel dangerous for one partner and safe for the other• The difference between taking a break and stonewalling• How to communicate needs clearly during heated moments• Practical scripts to help repair after conflict• Why repair is more important than getting it rightResources mentioned:Working with conflict course: https://marievakakis.com.au/working-with-conflict-in-couples-therapy/ Download guide: https://marievakakis.com.au/why-couples-keep-arguing-and-what-its-really-aboutand-what-its-really-about/ Couples therapy sessions at The Therapy HubIf this episode resonates, share it with your partner or a friend and start the conversation.ENROL NOW Relationship New Year RESET 2026https://marievakakis.com.au/relationship-new-year-reset-2026/Connect with Mariehttps://thetherapyhub.com.au/https://marievakakis.com.au/https://www.instagram.com/marievakakis/Submit a question to the Podcasthttps://forms.gle/nvNQyw9gJXMNnveY6

Take Our FREE Quiz To Create A Relationship Where You Feel Safe, Chosen & Cherished Without Loneliness, Hot-And-Cold Men Or Ending Up Alone Click: http://MagnetizeYourMan.com/PDSUBSCRIBE FOR GOOD LUCK IN LOVE!Follow Us On Instagram: https://Instagram.com/MagnetizeYourManFollow Us On TikTok: https://TikTok.com/@MagnetizeYourMan Subscribe To Our Podcast: https://MagnetizeYourMan.buzzsprout.com/shareFollow Us On Facebook: https://Facebook.com/MagnetizeYourManFollow Us On X: https://Twitter.com/MagnetizeMenFollow Us On Threads: https://Threads.net/@MagnetizeYourManCheck Out Our Blog: https://MagnetizeYourMan.com/Blog~ Your Expert Love Coaches, Brody & Antia Boyd ~Husband and wife team Antia & Brody Boyd have been helping thousands of successful women all over the world for over 20 years combined to magnetize their man to share their life with & have a loving, long-term & committed relationship ASAP without loneliness, trust-issues or emotionally unavailable men.Antia studied Attachment Styles & Personality Psychology at U.C. Berkeley, Brody has a degree in Communications & Interpersonal Relationships and they have been keynote speakers on hundreds of stages, radio & TV shows all over the world including Google, the Harvard University Faculty Club and Good Morning San Diego.They have also been featured on ABC Radio, Brides Magazine & The Great Love Debate and for over a decade studied EVERYTHING they could get their hands on in the areas of male psychology, feminine communication & creating an incredible relationship fast without low-confidence, anxiety or rejection.They look forward to helping YOU to attract your man for a happy, healthy and supportive relationship the easy way and becoming one of their newest success stories soon as well! Check Out Antia's Full Love Story: https://MagnetizeYourMan.com/AboutAntia~ Incredible Client Love Stories & Reviews! ~“My man and I are very happy as we are exploring and enjoy our new life together. Our coaching together was very helpful in my ability to stay centered in the reality of a true intimate loving relationship unfolding. It has also helped me in nurturing it too. Thanks so much for your support!” -A. G.“One year since the day my fiancé and I met is just around the corner, and we are now married! We are in love and don't want to live life without one another. I have lived with him for 6 months and have been the happiest I have ever been in my life. Thank you so much for the coaching… I will check in very soon. Lots of love!” -L. W."My guy is so easy to love and be with. It's a treat to share time with him. He now makes me feel so special in his ways. He isn't afraid to be himself with me... the best compliment. LOVE the program, and now I'm learning how to be in a healthy relationship!" ~F. W."I just wanted to let you know that I met a really great guy.  He has done a lot of personal work and we are enjoying really good communication. I just wanted to thank you for the help and suggestions that you gave me. I am optimistic!!" -D. K.More Love Stories & Reviews: https://MagnetizeYourMan.com/Reviews#Relationships #Dating #RelationshipAdvice #DatingTips #RelationshipTips #DatingAdviceSupport the show

Send us a textAttachment styles are everywhere online — anxious, avoidant, secure — but what do they actually look like in real life, beyond a 30-second clip?In this episode, we slow the conversation down and unpack attachment theory the way it shows up in real relationships, workspaces, families, and friendships — not just on social media. We talk about why attachment styles aren't personalities or diagnoses, how they're formed in relationship, and why they tend to show up most when we feel emotionally unsafe, unseen, or uncertain.We also gently challenge some common TikTok myths: – Why avoidant people do care (even if it doesn't always look that way) – Why anxious attachment isn't about being “too much” – Why secure attachment doesn't mean you never struggle – And why most people don't fit neatly into one boxThis episode is for anyone who's ever thought, “Why do I keep showing up like this in relationships?” — and wants understanding without shame, labels without rigidity, and hope without oversimplification.Because attachment isn't about what's wrong with you — it's about what you learned, and what can still be healed.Support the showDisclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health care.Want more? Subscribe now and take a seat In Session! https://www.buzzsprout.com/1679131/supportFollow us on Instagram: @insessionthepodcast Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/insessionthepodcast/

Keltie gets deep. Like heal-your-relationships-and-your-inner-child deep. She sits down with attachment theory expert Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, to break down how your subconscious mind has been quietly running the show in your relationships. They unpack how identify your attachment style and why the way you loved (or didn't) as a kid still shows up in your relationships. Thais explains between core wounds vs core needs, the childhood patterns that turn us into people-pleasers, what secure love is actually supposed to feel like, how fear of abandonment sneaks into relationships, and the one question you should ask yourself before starting an argument with your partner.

Opening a relationship can feel empowering… and activating.A lot of people expect ethical non-monogamy or polyamory to feel freeing right away. Instead, it often brings up jealousy, comparison, attachment wounds, and questions about self-worth.If you've ever thought: “Why am I confident everywhere else but spiraling in my relationship?” “Why does non-monogamy trigger my insecurities?” “How do I feel secure and desirable while practicing ENM?”This episode is for you.Relationship coach Ellecia Paine talks with clinical sexologist and therapist Dr. Joy Berkheimer about confidence, desire, body image, attachment, and emotional regulation in ethical non-monogamy.Together they explore how ENM can become a path toward deeper self-trust, sexual empowerment, and real self-love.This conversation blends therapy, lived experience, and practical wisdom for women navigating open relationships, polyamory, and personal growth.

Any takeaways from this episode?Bridgerton is back, and we're kicking off our month-long Bridgerton Central event with a look at the best and not-so-great love lessons from the first half of Season 4.What We LovedFrancesca & John's calm, respectful communicationMore vulnerability and open conversations about intimacyDating without putting “future spouse” pressure on every interactionReminder that real love grows in reality, not fantasyWhat Made Us Side-EyeThe “reformed rake” mythBenedict's power imbalance and lack of clear communicationBare-minimum behavior being treated as heroicEloise's rigid identity and jealousy this seasonBig Takeaway:Healthy relationships are built on honesty, respect, vulnerability, and consent — not grand gestures or fantasy projections.Join the FunNew Bridgerton episodes weekly through FebruaryDaily Instagram content and pollsLive Bridgerton Afternoon Tea in MarchLeave us a voicemail at RomComRescue.com or DM us your hot takes!Come talk with us about your favorite rom-coms on instagram, tiktok, & youtube and Bluesky!Get show notes, transcripts, and more information on at Rom-ComRescue.com

In this episode, I chat with Bryan Power about attachment styles and how our greatest failures—in life and relationships—can lead to our greatest successes.In 2024 Bryan Power and his wife went from having a pretty good relationship to experiencing a complete relationship failure—one that culminated with a restraining order that his wife put against him for her emotional safety. During their time apart Bryan and his wife would work on themselves and that work would ultimately allow them to put their relationship back together. Now Bryan shares his story and teaches others how to use the integrated attachment theory program that helped save his marriage and provides the tools necessary to continue having the healthy, happy relationship today.Connect with Bryan:Website - www.myrelationshipfail.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/myrelationshipfail/Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@myrelationshipfailLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanwpower/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/groups/myrelationshipfailWork with me—schedule a free 30-minute breakthrough consultation today. Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for entertainment and informational purposes only and does not substitute individual psychological advice. No AI—all content and episodes created and written by Ashley Melillo. *This is an affiliate link. Purchasing through affiliate links supports The Soul Horizon at no extra cost to you. Thanks for your support!

Do you know how much your subconscious patterns are quietly shaping your relationships, reactions, and everyday life? Victoria sits down with Thais Gibson, PhD, renowned attachment theory expert, researcher, and founder of the Personal Development School, for a grounded, eye-opening masterclass on attachment, emotional healing, and the subconscious mind. Thais breaks down the four attachment styles and her six practical paths to healing, while Victoria experiences a vulnerable, real-time emotional unlock that brings the science into lived experience. Tune in if you want to understand your triggers, shift long-standing relationship patterns, and learn actionable tools to build more secure attachment in your relationships and daily life.Want to go deeper? Check out the Personal Development School at personaldevelopmentschool.com and use code PDS2026 for 20% off her 90-day Attachment Healing Membership.Follow Thais on Instagram: @thepersonaldevelopmentschoolPlease note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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On today's episode, I'm joined by Thais Gibson for a clear, compassionate conversation about attachment theory and how it shapes the way you love, communicate, and relate in every area of life. We break down what attachment really is — the subconscious “rules” you learned about love and safety — and how it shows up in friendships, romantic relationships, and even family dynamics. Thais explains the four main attachment styles (secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant), what drives each pattern, and how childhood experiences and repeated emotional conditioning shape your nervous system. We also explore how attachment can shift in adulthood, and why your conscious mind alone can't out-will old subconscious habits. Thais shares practical tools for healing, including nervous system regulation, boundary building, and rewiring your beliefs through consistent emotional practice. Whether you relate to anxious attachment, avoidant patterns, or you're seeking a more secure way of relating, this episode offers insightful, actionable guidance for building healthier relationships and deeper self-awareness. Enjoy!To connect with Siff on Instagram, click HERE.To connect with Siff on Tiktok, click HERE.To learn more about Arrae, click HERE. To check out Siff's LTK, click HERE.To check out Siff's Amazon StoreFront, click HERE. To connect with Thais on Instagram, click HERE.To check out The Personal Development School, click HERE.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.PDS2026 for 20% off of the Personal Development School 90 day attachment healing membership.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

JESSICA BAUM, is a licensed mental health counselor, relationship expert, and the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach. Jessica is the author of the new book SAFE: Coming Home to Yourself and Others–An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building Secure Relationships. This book is a timely and grounded new book built on decades of research and therapeutic practice about how to heal the invisible wounds that shape our relational lives. Jessica is a certified addiction specialist and Imago couples therapist with advanced training in EMDR, experiential therapy, CBT, and DBT. Her bestselling book, Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love, established her as a trusted authority on healing attachment wounds and building secure, fulfilling relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode TitleThe Attachment Style Quiz Your Therapist Would Give You (Part 2 of the Secure-Relationship Series)Episode DescriptionMost of what we do in relationships is on autopilot—shaped by how we were cared for (or not) as kids. In this episode, Sharla and Robert unpack the three main attachment styles (Secure, Anxious, and Avoidant), share eye-opening childhood reflection questions, real-life couple stories, and checklists to help you identify yourself. You'll finally understand why you chase, why they pull away, and how to stop using labels as weapons—so you can actually build the safety and closeness you both crave.Key TakeawaysYour attachment style isn't a flaw—it's an adaptation from childhood.Never weaponize labels (“You're so avoidant!”). Use them for compassion only.Secure relationships require: safety first, equal power, and the relationship that come first.The path to more security = Acceptance of who you both are + owning your impact.You can't force change in your partner. You create it through consistent safety.Quick Attachment Style Checklists (from the episode)Secure I enjoy closeness but am also comfortable alone. Disagreements don't shake me. I trust easily.Avoidant I recharge best alone. Closeness can feel smothering. I downplay emotions.Anxious I worry my partner will leave. I need frequent reassurance. Small things feel like big threats.Resources for Deeper LearningMust-Read BooksAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller → The book that brought attachment theory into everyday relationships. Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin → Deep dive into how your partner's brain works and how to create real security together.The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller → Excellent for understanding how early wounds show up now and how to heal them.Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson → Seven conversations that can transform your relationship (Emotionally Focused Therapy classic).Next WeekWe start building that “invisible forcefield” around your relationship—specific tools to create safety and security even when your attachment styles clash.Call to Action!If this episode gave you an “aha!” moment, please leave us a 5-star rating and quick review—it really helps other couples find the show. Share this episode with your partner or a friend who's stuck in the chase-pullaway cycle. And subscribe so you don't miss Part 3!Thanks for listening — and remember: put each other first this week. The small things, done often, really do change everything. ❤️

Why you love the way you do isn't random. In this episode we break down attachment styles and how they shape your relationships.

While new episodes are currently in production, we're revisiting past conversations that remain timely, impactful, and truly worth revisiting. Thank you for continuing to listen as we build what's ahead for But What Do I Know? --- It appears that Attachment Styles are the new Love Languages with everyone asking "what's yours?" and trying to decipher what it all means. Well, on this episode we are breaking it all down and getting you some answers! For Our Clue In Segment, Chid is reminding listeners in the province of Ontario to vote in the upcoming municipal elections, recommending a book that Bookstagram is raving about titled Love Radio and discussing recent music projects from Toronto Artist, Osé and American based Artist, Joyce Wrice. For Our Main Segment, Chid is joined by Registered Social Worker and Founder of The Cognitive Corner, Simone Saunders to discuss Attachment Styles. They get into everything from Attachment Theory to Attachment Styles and hyper-independence in relationships. --- Connect with the "But What Do I Know?" Podcast: Twitter: @BWDIKPodcast Insta: @bwdikpodcast TikTok: @BWDIKPodcast Email: ⁠connect@bwdikpodcast.com⁠ --- Connect with Simone: Simone's Instagram: ⁠@thecognitivecorner ⁠ Simone's Website: ⁠https://thecognitivecorner.ca/⁠ --- Episode Credits: Intro/Outro Song: Remsen- BWDIK Podcast Theme Song Insta: @itsremsen Transition Songs: Take Care - Julian Avila ⁠http://SoundCloud.com/julian_avila Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi lovers, it's officially love month, and leading into Valentine's Day, we're revisiting some of the most powerful relationship advice we've heard on the podcast, from 3 of the internet's top couples therapists and relationship experts.Whether you're single or in a long-term relationship, this episode is for you if you're grappling with an anxious or avoidant attachment, fear around intimacy/relationships, or learning how to regulate and rebuild during conflict.Thankfully, I've had the privilege of talking with the best when it comes to navigating love and partnership, which has helped me immeasurably in building the foundation of my own relationship. So today, I'm bringing you a roundup of the top advice from:❤️ Baya Voce, MSW, Relationship Repair Expert (Supervised by Esther Perez): The art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict. Baya's 4-step relationship repair framework, why curiosity is the antidote to defensiveness, and how to stay regulated during conflict. (Listen to our full episode here.)❤️ Trevor Hanson, Marriage & Family Therapist, Founder of The Art of Healing: Why fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to communicate through it. Plus, how to navigate common communication “landmines” and how anxious & avoidant partners can build safe emotional intimacy. (Listen to our full episode here.)❤️ Jess Baum, Psychotherapist, Couples Counselor, & Author of Anxiously Attached: How our attachment styles are amplified or healed based on your relationship, breaking our anxious attachment patterns and prioritizing consistent love, recognizing red and green flags in chemistry, and moving from codependency to interdependence. (Listen to our full episode here.)Wherever you are in your relationship journey, know that you are loved!  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

** Join the waitlist to get an exclusive 90% OFF Soulmate Program (self-paced), only from February 14-16! Two Days Only! **Today, I bring you an incredible interview with Kirsta, a 41-year old wonderful alumni who finally broke the cycle of of a lifetime of painful, toxic relationships - And finally met her husband! We discuss the specific tools of inner child work, self-regulation, and emotional healing.  Whether you're single or in a relationship, this episode provides valuable insights on overcoming painful relationships and attracting healthy, fulfilling ones.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Exciting Announcement00:39 Soulmate Coming Back With 90% Sale!02:45 Interview with Kirsta Begins08:55 The Power Of Inner Child Work19:41 Kirsta Current Relationship21:50 Adjusting to a Secure Relationship After A Lifetime Of Pain22:14 Tools for Managing Anxiety24:01 Self-Regulation and Emotional Healing24:43 Biggest Takeaways from the Program25:26 All About Attraction26:05 Manifesting and Self-Worth27:38 Embracing the Present and FutureWAS THIS HELPFUL?I'd be so grateful if you could take a moment to follow, leave a 5-star rating, and download a few more episodes. As a gift of gratitude, we'll send you my Inner Child Starter Kit if you leave a 5-star review and share what you love about the show.

In this conversation, Jon Fogel and Thais Gibson delve into the complexities of attachment styles and their impact on relationships and parenting. Thais shares her personal journey from experiencing a fearful avoidant attachment style to understanding and teaching about attachment theory. They discuss the dynamics of different attachment styles, how they manifest in relationships, and the importance of self-awareness and emotional regulation. Thais provides practical tools for rewiring attachment wounds and emphasizes the significance of treating oneself well to foster healthier relationships. The conversation concludes with resources for further exploration and personal development.Send us a textSupport the showLinks to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon's Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon's Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon's Children's Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube

In this deeply touching episode Cath was joined by attachment expert and psychotherapist Anne Power. Anne shared about her own attachment journey, some of her childhood story, boarding school, brief explanations about the different attachment styles, attachment in couple relationships and attachment, grief and repair in the parent child relationship. This episode will help you feel supported and seen.Anne Power first qualified at The Bowlby Centre, and later trained at WPF, Tavistock Relationships and Relate. She has worked in various settings but now works online with couples and parent-with-adult-child pairs. She has written many academic papers and two books; all of these use attachment theory to understand relationships and clinical experience. Her book Contented Couples is based on interviews with eighteen long-term couples from different traditions, including arranged marriage. It explains couple dynamics in an accessible way and describes how partners' complementary attachment patterns can work well together.Anne posts on Instagram @and_attachment with content for people who want to understand attachment in their relationships. Her TEDx talk ‘Attachment theory is the science of love', also addresses this theme and has been watched by over a million people.You can watch the TEDx talk yourself by clicking here.Anne has also recently finished writing a novel about a couple counsellor and the diverse couples who come to see her. Do watch for news and publication of her forthcoming novel on her Instagram page, or on her website where you can also download free PDFs on attachment themes at https://www.contentedcouples.com/If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course Free for Life When You Start Your 7-Day Trial of the All-Access Pass: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-02-02-26&el=podcast   If you resonate with intense emotional highs and lows in relationships, fear both abandonment and commitment, or feel overwhelmed by closeness yet terrified of distance, you may have a Fearful Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment Style. This episode breaks down the signs, clearly, compassionately, and at the subconscious level, so you can finally understand what's happening inside you and how to heal it.   Episode Summary Fearful avoidant attachment is one of the most emotionally complex attachment styles, often shaped by early experiences of inconsistency, chaos, or unpredictability in relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson walks through the top 10 signs of fearful avoidant attachment, explaining why these patterns form and how they show up in adult relationships. You'll learn why fearful avoidants flip-flop between closeness and distance, struggle with emotional regulation and boundaries, jump to worst-case conclusions, and experience deep guilt, shame, and empathy—all while longing for safety and connection. Most importantly, you'll discover how somatic healing and nervous-system regulation can help you feel secure, grounded, and emotionally safe again.   Key Takeaways Why fearful avoidants fear abandonment and commitment How activation–deactivation cycles form in relationships Why you may push people away even when you want closeness The link between empathy, boundary struggles, and emotional overwhelm Why vulnerability can feel unsafe—even when you're sharing How guilt, shame, and emotional dysregulation develop Why somatic healing is essential for lasting attachment repair   Timestamps 00:00:00 – Intro 00:01:47 – Sign #1: Flip-Flopping Between Fear of Abandonment and Commitment 00:04:38 – Sign #2: Actively Pushing Away 00:05:19 – Sign #3: Jump to Worst-Case Conclusions 00:07:24 – Sign #4: Terrified of Feeling Helpless 00:08:49 – Sign #5: Tend to Be Highly Empathetic 00:11:12 – Sign #6: Struggle with Boundaries 00:12:21 – Sign #7: Difficulty Regulating Emotion 00:13:35 – 7-Day Free Trial + Somatic Course 00:15:01 – Sign #8: May Seem Vulnerable without Actually Sharing 00:17:10 – Sign #9: Frequently Experience Guilt and Shame 00:17:50 – Sign #10: Strong Activation-Deactivation   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources:

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Attachment styles are everywhere — but what do they actually mean, and how much do they shape the way we love? This week, Scheana is joined by leading attachment theory expert Thais Gibson (founder of The Personal Development School) to break down the four attachment styles, why our adult relationships mirror our earliest bonds, and how insecurity shows up in communication, conflict, and connection. Scheana opens up about learning she's securely attached, while her husband Brock discovered he has a fearful avoidant attachment style — sparking an honest conversation about what it really takes to make different styles work together. Thais explains why attachment styles aren't fixed, how patterns like people-pleasing, self-sabotage, and emotional withdrawal form, and what actually helps move toward secure attachment. This episode isn't about labels or blame — it's about awareness, responsibility, and doing the work. If you've ever wondered why certain relationship patterns keep repeating, this conversation might explain everything.Visit university.personaldevelopmentschool.com and use code PDS2026 for 20% off of the Personal Development School's 90-Day Attachment Healing membership.Follow us: @scheana @scheananigans Guest: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool Purchase your very own copy of the NYT Best-selling book and audiobook MY GOOD SIDE at www.mygoodsidebook.com!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

These days, Dr. Alexandra talks about discernment when approaching the high volume of content available in the realm of mental wellness, self-help, and relationships, so you can sift through what works for you and what doesn't. And a guiding principle is that insight alone is not sufficient. Engaging with content that helps you go from just knowing some new things to embodying these lessons contributes to your depth of understanding and potential for healing. Today's guest found her way into her work through eagerly reading self-help book after self-help book trying to understand herself but determined that the piece she needed for her own healing was the felt, somatic experience of being safe in relationships. And that's not necessarily a romantic relationship, either - that is any anchoring relationship: friends, family members, mentors, pets. This guest is Jessica Baum, licensed psychotherapist and author of the books Anxiously Attached and more recently, Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships, which is the focus of this conversation. You will hear Dr. Alexandra and Jessica Baum discuss:the science of how relationships offer us these healing anchors, and how to create experiences of safety in our bodies, both from the outside in, and the inside out. the dynamic nature of attachment styles, or patterns as Jessica calls them, which runs counter to the way many folks speak about them these days.The Wheel of Attachment, which brings more nuance to the whole topic of attachment. how to begin this type of somatic work to understand our own dynamic attachment patterns and to engage our right hemisphere of the brain more often to enrich and deepen our connections. healing in romantic relationships, and how that's not always available to us in every pairing - but healing through doing our own work always is! Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships by Jessica Baum https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/safeConscious Relationship Group https://consciousrelationshipgroup.com/Jessica Baum on IG @jessicabaumlmhc https://www.instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc/?hl=enContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's Loving Bravely newsletter: https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why do we want the people who give us the least clarity? Why do situationships feel addictive, and emotionally unavailable partners feel magnetic?In this episode, Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, breaks down attachment styles and how they shape attraction, chemistry, boundaries, and relationship patterns. We discuss anxious attachment, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment, when attachment styles begin, and why they can change throughout life.We also explore the difference between chemistry and trauma bonding, why we're drawn to our repressed traits, the six stages of relationships, and why nervous system work alone isn't enough to create secure relationships. Thais shares the five pillars to change your attachment style, common triggers and boundary patterns for each style, and the practical steps to becoming securely attached.If you're stuck in mixed signals, repeating relationship patterns, or craving clarity in love, this episode will help you understand why, and what to do differently.Visit university.personaldevelopmentschool.com and use code PDS2026 for 20% off of the Personal Development School's 90-Day Attachment Healing membership.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.