Podcast appearances and mentions of keri ford

In this episode of Literally First Class, Keri Ford discusses the concept of upper limits, emphasizing that these limits are often physical rather than merely mental. She explores how the nervous system plays a crucial role in our success and how physical responses can indicate deeper mindset blocks. Keri highlights the importance of rewiring our nervous system to facilitate growth and action, and she encourages listeners to build their capacity to handle both high and low emotional states. The conversation concludes with practical advice on identifying physical symptoms related to mindset issues, reinforcing that awareness alone is not enough for transformation.   Takeaways: The upper limit is a physical barrier, not just a mental one. The nervous system's responses can hinder success. Awareness of mindset blocks is not enough for change. Rewiring the nervous system can facilitate growth. Physical symptoms often indicate deeper emotional issues. Building capacity helps manage emotional highs and lows. Noticing positive experiences is crucial for growth. The brain's negative bias can overshadow achievements. Emotions manifest physically in the body. Identifying physical symptoms can lead to breakthroughs.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Jalena (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

In this episode of Literally First Class, host Keri Ford discusses the duality of strength and softness in entrepreneurship. She emphasizes the importance of knowing when to fight for success and when to rest, highlighting the need for balance in the lives of female founders. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Keri encourages listeners to embrace both hard work and self-care as essential components of their journey.   Takeaways: Mastery involves knowing when to fight and when to rest. Many entrepreneurs struggle with the balance of hard work and relaxation. Hard work is essential, but so is self-care. The fear of failure can drive excessive work habits. It's important to recognize when to take a break. Success requires both grit and the ability to soften. Participation awards have good intentions but may dilute achievement. Women in leadership need support to manage stress effectively. Surrendering can sometimes lead to quicker results. Finding mentors who embody both strength and softness is crucial.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Jalena (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

In this episode of Literally First Class, host Keri Ford discusses the critical role of the nervous system in personal and business success. She emphasizes that true growth comes from understanding and rewiring our internal states rather than just following external strategies. Keri shares insights on overcoming internal barriers, the importance of working with trauma-trained practitioners, and the necessity of consistency in healing. The conversation encourages listeners to explore their own growth paths and consider how their nervous systems influence their success.   Takeaways: The nervous system is a crucial strategy for success. Upgrading your internal state can lead to greater success. Internal barriers often prevent action despite knowing what to do. Nervous system work can help rewire limiting beliefs. Growth can manifest in various forms, not just scaling. Working with a trained professional is essential for nervous system work. Healing takes time and cannot be rushed. Consistency is key in rewiring the nervous system. Understanding your feelings is vital for personal growth. Identifying and addressing trauma can unlock new levels of success.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Jalena (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

In this episode of Literally First Class, host Keri Ford discusses the common pitfalls that high-achieving women face in their entrepreneurial journeys, particularly around the $1 million to $5 million revenue mark. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing 'success leaks'—areas where time, money, and energy are lost due to overcommitment and overthinking. Keri introduces the concept of 'energetic systems' to help listeners maximize their productivity and energy management, advocating for a structured approach to time management that allows for both scaling and sustaining success. The episode concludes with actionable strategies for sustainable growth and the importance of maintaining momentum in business.   Takeaways: High-achieving women often lose time, money, and energy. Success leaks occur around key revenue milestones. Awareness and personal development are crucial for growth. Leaders are readers; continuous learning is essential. Overcommitting and overthinking can hinder progress. Energetic systems can help manage time and energy effectively. Regular calendar audits can identify inefficiencies. Sustainable success requires balancing scaling and stabilizing. Utilizing existing networks can create low-hanging revenue opportunities. Taking breaks is essential to avoid burnout.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Jalena (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Last call to join us this week on May 3rd for an unforgettable Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

In this episode of Literally First Class, host Keri Ford discusses the shame cycle associated with spending money, particularly in the context of female founders and entrepreneurs. She explores how early experiences with money shape behaviors, the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on spending patterns, and the importance of healing one's money mindset. Keri emphasizes the need for flexible investment options and encourages listeners to find a balance between responsible spending and investing in their future.   Takeaways Our experiences with money start very young. Money behaviors are really deep rooted. People were spending lots of money during COVID. Many feel they should have known better about spending. Overcompensation strategies can hinder business growth. Investing in mentorship can save time and money. Creating flexible investment options is crucial. Trusting oneself with money is essential for growth. Spending and shame often go hand in hand. It's important to ask better questions for decision-making.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Jalena (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us this May for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

In this episode of Literally First Class, Keri Ford delves into the concept of somatic work, exploring its significance, methods, and personal impact. She clarifies misconceptions surrounding somatic practices, differentiating between somatic exercises and the deeper work involved in trauma healing. Keri shares her personal journey into somatic work, highlighting its transformative effects on her life and her advocacy for its importance in understanding and regulating the nervous system. The episode emphasizes the need for trained practitioners in this field and the profound impact somatic work can have on individuals and their relationships.   Takeaways Somatic work is often misunderstood and watered down. Somatic exercises can help regulate the nervous system. Not all somatic practices work for every individual. The nervous system plays a crucial role in our responses. Cognitive behavioral therapy may not address deeper issues. Somatic work can help rewire the nervous system. Personal experiences can lead to advocacy for somatic practices. Somatic work is essential for emotional regulation. Understanding the body is key to healing trauma. The impact of somatic work can ripple through generations.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Jalena (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us this May for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

In this episode of Literally First Class, host Keri Ford discusses the inherent stress of business and life, emphasizing that stress is not something to be avoided but rather a powerful tool for growth. She introduces the concepts of distress and eustress, explaining how to leverage stress for resilience and success. Keri also shares strategies for expanding one's window of toleranceto manage stress effectively, encouraging listeners to embrace discomfort as a catalyst for personal and professional development.   Takeaways: Business is inherently stressful and challenges will always arise. Stress can be transformed into a superpower for growth. Understanding the difference between distress and eustress is crucial. Discomfort is necessary for growth and expansion. Expanding your window of tolerance helps manage stress better. High performers must learn to leverage stress without burning out. Breathing techniques can help regulate stress responses. Recognizing symptoms of overwhelm is key to managing stress. Practicing relief and softness is essential for capacity building. Rewiring your relationship with stress can lead to greater resilience.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Jalena (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us this May for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

Are You Being Controlled by TRAUMA? Did you know that over 70% of people experience some form of trauma in their lifetime, and it can have a lasting impact on mental health and behavior? Are you unknowingly letting past traumas dictate your daily life? In this thought-provoking video, we'll explore the often-overlooked ways in which unresolved trauma can secretly control your life, influencing your relationships, habits, and even your mental and physical health. Discover the subtle signs that trauma may be holding you back and learn how to break free from its grip. Get ready to take back control and start living the life you truly deserve. KERI FORD, former Creative Director and ex-corporate leader, now serves as the Holy High Council & Elite Advisor to the world's most influential women in business. As CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri, a global wellness coaching company, she empowers female founders and executives to achieve new heights through her cutting-edge methodologies in nervous system regulation, peak neuroscience performance, and an embodied approach in leadership.  Home - Elevate with Keri   My name is Rebecca Whitman, awarded Life Coach of the Year by International Association of Top Professionals. USA Today rated me Top 5 Entrepreneurs to Watch in 2024. I believe there are SEVEN pillars of abundance; spirituality, fitness, emotions, romance, mental, social, and finally your financial life. When you get all seven areas in alignment, you are Balanced, Beautiful and Abundant!  This show is rated top 1% globally in self-help and won the Positive Change Award by Speak Up Talk Radio.  These life changing interviews with amazing thought leaders will help you go from BURNED OUT to BALANCED, BEAUTIFUL and ABUNDANT! My mission is to support you in achieving work/life BALANCE so you can have more FUN and FREEDOM!  Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaewhitman/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3PaOeXvkhIHue2hreB22Vw https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.whitman https://twitter.com/RebeccaEWhitman https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccaewhitman/ My website is: https://www.rebeccaelizabethwhitman.com/ Click here to book a Breakthrough Call and product Promo Codes: http://pillar.io/rebeccaewhitman  Keri Ford, Spiritual Growth, Life Coaching, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Motivation, Resilience, Trauma, Personal Development, Personal Growth, Wellbeing, Positive Mindset, Empowerment, Healing, Abundance, Balance, Overcoming Trauma, Emotional Healing

Are You Being Controlled by TRAUMA? Did you know that over 70% of people experience some form of trauma in their lifetime, and it can have a lasting impact on mental health and behavior? Are you unknowingly letting past traumas dictate your daily life? In this thought-provoking video, we'll explore the often-overlooked ways in which unresolved trauma can secretly control your life, influencing your relationships, habits, and even your mental and physical health. Discover the subtle signs that trauma may be holding you back and learn how to break free from its grip. Get ready to take back control and start living the life you truly deserve. KERI FORD, former Creative Director and ex-corporate leader, now serves as the Holy High Council & Elite Advisor to the world's most influential women in business. As CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri, a global wellness coaching company, she empowers female founders and executives to achieve new heights through her cutting-edge methodologies in nervous system regulation, peak neuroscience performance, and an embodied approach in leadership.  Home - Elevate with Keri   My name is Rebecca Whitman, awarded Life Coach of the Year by International Association of Top Professionals. USA Today rated me Top 5 Entrepreneurs to Watch in 2024. I believe there are SEVEN pillars of abundance; spirituality, fitness, emotions, romance, mental, social, and finally your financial life. When you get all seven areas in alignment, you are Balanced, Beautiful and Abundant!  This show is rated top 1% globally in self-help and won the Positive Change Award by Speak Up Talk Radio.  These life changing interviews with amazing thought leaders will help you go from BURNED OUT to BALANCED, BEAUTIFUL and ABUNDANT! My mission is to support you in achieving work/life BALANCE so you can have more FUN and FREEDOM!  Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaewhitman/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3PaOeXvkhIHue2hreB22Vw https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.whitman https://twitter.com/RebeccaEWhitman https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccaewhitman/ My website is: https://www.rebeccaelizabethwhitman.com/ Click here to book a Breakthrough Call and product Promo Codes: http://pillar.io/rebeccaewhitman  Keri Ford, Spiritual Growth, Life Coaching, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Motivation, Resilience, Trauma, Personal Development, Personal Growth, Wellbeing, Positive Mindset, Empowerment, Healing, Abundance, Balance, Overcoming Trauma, Emotional Healing

In this episode of Literally First Class, host Keri Ford delves into the concepts of upper limits, the power of belief, and the importance of financial health for female founders. Drawing insights from the book 'Profit First' by Mike Mikalowicz, Keri emphasizes the need to overcome self-imposed limitations and heal from past traumas to create a successful business. She discusses practical strategies for implementing the Profit First model to ensure financial stability and peace of mind, encouraging listeners to take bold actions towards their goals.   Takeaways: The power of belief shapes your reality. Upper limits are self-imposed and can be overcome. Healing old trauma is essential for future success. Profit First can transform your business finances. Financial health is crucial for peace of mind. You can create a healthy company regardless of past mistakes. Understanding your financials leads to better decisions. Investing in your business should not compromise your well-being. Trauma can dictate your future if left unhealed. Taking bold action is necessary for growth.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Jalena (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us this May for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

In this episode of Literally First Class, host Keri Ford discusses the challenges faced by female founders of multi-million dollar businesses, focusing on the concept of monetizing momentum. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining momentum without succumbing to burnout, the need for effective delegation, and the significance of scaling one's nervous system to handle growth. Keri also explores the balance between sustaining momentum and knowing when to accelerate growth, providing insights and strategies for leaders to navigate their entrepreneurial journey successfully.   Takeaways The Somatic Success® Method combines business strategies with trauma healing. Understanding the difference between intuition and fear is crucial for decision-making. Trauma can lead to self-sabotage and confusion in decision-making. Building trust in your intuition takes time and practice. Your nervous system plays a key role in how you experience fear and intuition. A no is still valid, regardless of whether it stems from fear or intuition. Self-awareness is essential for recognizing fear-based behaviors. Empowered decision-making involves listening to your body and mind. Somatic strategies can help clarify your intuition. Engaging in somatic work can enhance your ability to make informed decisions.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Jalena (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us this May for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

KERI FORD, former Creative Director and ex-corporate leader, now serves as the Holy High Council & Elite Advisor to the world's most influential women in business. As CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri, a global wellness coaching company, she empowers female founders and executives to achieve new heights through her cutting-edge methodologies in nervous system regulation, peak neuroscience performance, and an embodied approach in leadership. Elevate with Keri isn't just a global coaching movement; it's a luxury brand that guides women at the top to cultivate elite emotional intelligence, whole-body high performance, and sustainable success. With over 15 years of experience, Keri has shared stages with top neuroscientists, doctors, and thought leaders, while hosting global transformational retreats and working with celebrities like Alison Sweeney, Jennifer Love Hewitt, and Kaley Cuoco. Awarded as one of the Top 100 Global Visionaries and 2024's Most Empowering Women's Transformational Coaching Platform, Keri brings a visionary approach to women's leadership. Through Somatic Success®, she shows driven women how to expand their potential while embracing greater peace, profit, and productivity—equipping them to lead their empires with confidence and purpose. https://elevatewithkeri.com/vault/The Wealth Vault: FREE STUFF TO HELP YOU TAKE YOUR BUSINESS TO THE NEXT LEVEL. https://elevatewithkeri.ticketspice.com/the-champagne-club-by-keri-ford2025 Champagne Club Dinner Events for female founders & investors https://elevatewithkeri.com/made-for-more/Made for More Retreat: October 15 – 19, 2025 | Island of Grenada #PeakPerformance #SomaticSuccess #EliteCoaching #EmotionalIntelligence #HighPerformance Body Transformation System!https://modere.io/NbOyU2 https://calendly.com/rebeccaelizabethwhitman/breakthrough To learn more about Rebecca…https://www.rebeccaelizabethwhitman.com/#home

In this episode of Literally First Class, host Keri Ford discusses the Somatic Success® Method, a unique approach that combines business strategies with trauma healing and somatic practices. The conversation delves into the nuances of distinguishing betweenintuition and fear, theimpact of trauma on decision-making, and the importance of building trust in one's intuition. Keri emphasizes the need for empowered decision-making and understanding the role of the nervous system in processing fear and intuition. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to engage in somatic work to enhance their decision-making abilities.   Takeaways The Somatic Success® Method combines business strategies with trauma healing. Understanding the difference between intuition and fear is crucial for decision-making. Trauma can lead to self-sabotage and confusion in decision-making. Building trust in your intuition takes time and practice. Your nervous system plays a key role in how you experience fear and intuition. A no is still valid, regardless of whether it stems from fear or intuition. Self-awareness is essential for recognizing fear-based behaviors. Empowered decision-making involves listening to your body and mind. Somatic strategies can help clarify your intuition. Engaging in somatic work can enhance your ability to make informed decisions.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Keri (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us this May for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

In this episode of Literally First Class, host Keri Ford discusses the journey of female founders and the stages of success in entrepreneurship. She emphasizes the importance of mentorship, clarity, and vision in achieving business goals. Keri shares insights on how to navigate the various stages of business development, from initial doubts to building confidence and preparing for future growth. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding one's current stage in business and the necessary steps to move forward effectively.   Takeaways: The journey of entrepreneurship involves multiple stages of success. Clarity often comes after experiencing different stages in business. Mentorship can significantly shorten the timeline to success. It's common to feel uncertain in the early stages of business. Building trust in oneself is crucial for entrepreneurial success. Transferring skills from one industry to another can ease the transition. Having a clear vision is essential for long-term success. Understanding your current stage helps in setting realistic goals. The importance of hiring the right mentors cannot be overstated. Success often comes with setbacks, and resilience is key.   Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Keri (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us this May for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

In this episode of Literally First Class, host Keri Ford discusses strategies for female founders to attract high-end clients. She emphasizes the importance of mindful messaging, understanding client consciousness levels, and pre-vetting potential clients to ensure they are ready for coaching. Keri also touches on the significance of money mindset and how it affects client relationships, ultimately guiding listeners to create a more impactful coaching experience. Takeaways: Be aware of your messaging to attract the right clients. High-end clients are action takers who are ready to invest in themselves. Understanding client consciousness levels helps in selecting the right clients. Pre-vetting potential clients can save time and ensure alignment. Money mindset plays a crucial role in client relationships. Clients should have a history of investing in their growth. Ask about previous coaching experiences to gauge readiness. Mindful messaging can attract affluent clients. It's important to embody confidence when presenting to clients. Always aim to work with clients who are growth-minded and resilient. Episode Resources: Book your free 15-minute Somatic Strategy Call with Keri (no sales pitch, just a free nervous system audit)! The Wealth Vault: FREE stuff to take your business to the next level. Explore Keri's programs such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship. Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact. Step into Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook and connect with like-minded individuals on your journey to success! Join us this May for an exclusive Champagne Club Dinner—a special evening for female founders & investors to connect over great food and conversation.

In this episode of IVF Uncovered, Tasha BLasi interviews Keri Ford, an expert in somatic healing and its application to various aspects of life, including business, trauma, and fertility. Keri recounts her journey from a personal trainer for Hollywood celebrities to a trauma-trained somatic practitioner. They discuss the principles of somatic work, how it helps release past traumas, and its profound effects on personal and business growth. Stay tuned to the end as Keri shares a practical 'presencing exercise' designed to help individuals reconnect with their bodies and alleviate anxiety.   About Keri Ford:  Keri Ford is the CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri – a transformational coaching movement and luxury brand dedicated to elevating emotional intelligence and whole-body high performance for the world's top female executives and entrepreneurs. With advanced training as a Behavior Change Specialist and Somatic Practitioner, Keri was awarded by IFAH as one of the Top 100 Global Visionaries and 2023 CEO with the Best Women's Personal Development Platform.   Follow Keri Ford:  Website: https://elevatewithkeri.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamkeriford/ Facebook: http://facebook.com/kerilynn.ford LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/kerifordofficial Free Breast Explant Guide: https://elevatewithkeri.kartra.com/page/ExplantReleaseCeremony  READY FOR SOLUTIONS TO YOUR IVF ISSUES?  ►Sign up for a strategy session WITH TASHA HERSELF!►Get a FREE Personalized Guide for Your Next IVF Protocol NEED SUPPLEMENTS?  Click here for education and discounts on medical grade supplements (don't take supplements unless they are medical grade- it could hurt more than help!) WANT TO WATCH THIS PODCAST ON VIDEO? ► [YouTube link]   ADD US ON: ► YouTube ► Instagram ► Facebook  For more information, email us at support@tashablasi.com About the Host:  Tasha Blasi is an IVF consultant and Founder of IVF Uncovered (formerly the FU Project). Using her background in the sciences, and personally going through ten rounds of IVF for her two children, she has created a life mission to help patients doing IVF know as much as their doctor so they can ask better questions and get better treatment...all while bringing an unfiltered, humorous tone to this often heartbreaking subject. Topics: Fertility Consultant, IVF Consultant, Fertility Coach, IVF Coach, IVF Success, Getting Pregnant, Staying Pregnant, Egg Retrievals, Egg Quality, Embryo Transfers, Holistic Health, Women's Health

In this episode of The Kelly Roach Show, Kelly dives into the transformative power of self-care, somatic healing, and nervous system regulation, offering essential tools for female entrepreneurs and leaders navigating high-pressure business environments and personal responsibilities. Keri Ford, a renowned expert in somatic healing, shares her journey from fitness and nutrition to leadership coaching, revealing how subconscious factors can limit professional success. Kelly and Keri discuss the importance of aligning mental health practices with business strategies for sustainable growth, highlighting how understanding trauma, self-care, stress management, and meditation can unlock new levels of performance.    Book a Call: Get personalized guidance and achieve your goals by booking a call with Kelly Roach: https://kellyroachcoaching.com/book-now/   About Guest Keri Ford, former award-winning Creative Director, is the CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri, a global luxury brand transforming leadership for top female founders. As the Holy High Council for women in business, she uses advanced nervous system regulation, somatic strategies, and peak neuroscience performance to help clients achieve unparalleled success. Recognized as a Top 100 Global Visionary, Keri empowers her clients to expand their potential while cultivating greater peace, profit, and productivity.   Join The Champagne Club by Keri Ford: Elevate your network and connect with powerhouse female founders and investors at exclusive in-person dinner events. Designed for women with $2M+ in annual revenue, personal net worth, or recent exits, these gatherings are the perfect blend of inspiration, collaboration, and celebration. Learn more and reserve your spot here. Unlock Your Next Level of Success: Access the Limitless Leader Playbook, a transformative 3-part video series. Discover how to break through performance blocks and amplify your impact using the Somatic Success® Method. Shift from self-sabotage to legacy-building with proven nervous system strategies. Get your free resource now.   Also in this episode: Somatic healing involves working with the nervous system to manage trauma and improve business success. High-performing leaders must prioritize self-care practices like meditation and stress management to maintain mental health and leadership effectiveness. Avoidance and trauma, many successful leaders unknowingly display avoidance behaviors due to unresolved trauma; addressing these propels business growth.   Stay Connected With Kelly Roach:  Instagram | LinkedIn | Facebook | Youtube

In this episode, Keri Ford talks about the power of being unapologetically yourself and how it can take your success to new heights. She shares how Jeff Goins' quote, “When you write the book you can't not write,” shaped her creative journey. Plus, Keri explores how Martha Stewart's time in prison helped her break free from perfection and embrace her true brand. Episode Resources The Wealth Vault: FREE STUFF TO HELP YOU TAKE YOUR BUSINESS TO THE NEXT LEVEL. Explore Keri's programs: https://elevatewithkeri.com/programs/ such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list https://elevatewithkeri.kartra.com/page/secret-list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact Get your ticket for upcoming 2025 Champagne Club Dinner Events for female founders & investors https://elevatewithkeri.ticketspice.com/the-champagne-club-by-keri-ford Shout out to my friend Jeff Goins! You can buy his best-selling books, like "Real Artists Don't Starve" and "You Are a Writer," on Amazon. Connect with Keri Follow Keri: @iamkeriford Join Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/somaticsuccesssociety Connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerifordofficial/ Subscribe to YouTube  https://www.youtube.com/@ElevatewithKeri   This episode is sponsored by Tao of Po. As a valued listener, you can book here your 15-minute consult call with Po-Hong Yu and receive a $500 credit toward any program, plus a complimentary Root Cause Assessment (valued at more than $800) when you join! Po-Hong offers life-changing mentorship and microdosing guidance for high achieving and high net worth women that are ready to expand to the next level of fulfillment, impact, and intimacy.

Lesley and Brad recap inspiring conversation with boudoir photographer Shayla Pelton, exploring how her unique approach to photography encourages individuals to reclaim their confidence and embrace their true selves. Together, they discuss the powerful role self-care and energy work play in self-empowerment—and why a boudoir photoshoot can be an empowering gift you give to yourself.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:The impact of boudoir photography on self-confidence and self-acceptance.The therapeutic benefits of seeing oneself through a professional lens.How small self-care habits can lead to improved mental well-being.The importance of releasing generational trauma and cultivating personal growth.Highlights of the upcoming OPC tour and its mission to foster community within the Pilates world.Episode References/Links:Cambodia February 2025 Retreat - https://crowsnestretreats.comFlashcards Waitlist - https://opc.me/flashcardwaitlistPilates Studio Growth Accelerator - https://prfit.biz/acceleratorOPC Winter Tour - https://opc.me/tourEp. 5 Amy Ledin - https://beitpod.com/ep5Ep. 421 Dr. Louise Swartswalter - https://beitpod.com/421Ep. 175 Keri Ford - https://beitpod.com/ep175Ep. 388 Lauren Zoeller - https://beitpod.com/ep388Ep. 298 Michael Unbroken - https://beitpod.com/ep298 If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! DEALS! DEALS! DEALS!Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy WebinarResources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramThe Be It Till You See It Podcast YouTube channelFacebookLinkedInThe OPC YouTube Channel Episode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:00  I'm a big fan. And now I think everyone should go do a boudoir photoshoot. I think I should do one. Brad Crowell 0:05  I'm in. Lesley Logan 0:06  I know you are. Brad Crowell 0:08  Sign me up.Lesley Logan 0:10  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 0:51  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to. What are we doing? Brad Crowell 0:57  We're digging into the boldly confident convo that Lesley have with Shayla Pelton in her last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that, go back and listen to it now or don't, but we think you should, because it's a great episode. Lesley Logan 1:10  She's so fun. Brad Crowell 1:11  She's great. Lesley Logan 1:12  She's so sweet. I don't know why all of a sudden I forgot the script. So, thanks, Brad, thanks for having my. Brad Crowell 1:17  Oh, I got you. Lesley Logan 1:18  Okay, guys, Today is November 14th 2024 and it's Loosen Up Lighten Up Day, aka LULU day. Brad Crowell 1:24  LULU. Lesley Logan 1:24  And I chose this because we're recording this before the election. We are after the election, and we have no idea what shenanigans are happening around in some shitty places, so we are loosening it up and lightening up, just in case. Brad Crowell 1:35  We're LULUing. Lesley Logan 1:36  If you've been looking for a break from all of your stress and troubles, Loosen Up Lighten Up (LULU) on November 14 is perfect for you. This day presents an opportunity for you to take a break from your usual busy schedule and all the stressful thoughts and instead focus on just being happy and relaxed and having fun.Brad Crowell 1:36  I mean, I think this is very appropriate, because I have a feeling a lot of shenanigans are happening right now. Lesley Logan 1:59  I know. LULU day is our cure for burnouts and breakdowns. I just love that line. It's like a, it's like a medication. LULU is your cure for burnouts and breakdowns. Brad Crowell 2:11  I'm LULUing. Lesley Logan 2:12  You guys, we don't, we don't know, but we have a feeling that we all need a LULU today. And you know, so at any rate.Brad Crowell 2:19  The only thing I can say that makes me confidently LULU is that one of the two candidates raised a billion dollars in the last quarter and has money to fight legal battles. Because that's the shenanigans that are probably happening right now. Lesley Logan 2:32  No one, no one. Here's the thing. Everyone's like, what is your hobby? And I, we never tell them. And clearly what it is is we are deeply involved. We are ridiculously involved. And if you didn't know that, Brad even more so because he listens to world podcasts that I just don't have the time to take in all of that. But we know the names of too many people in too many places, and the district and the court numbers. We know all the different court levels, district nine, we know too fucking much. And so we are trying to LULU around here. Brad Crowell 3:01  We're LULUing. Lesley Logan 3:01  Yeah. Anyways, our Cambodia retreat we just got back from we were so relaxed. The relaxation is gone, but our lives are changed forever in the best way. And I can tell you, having the memories of Cambodia to reflect on and these weird times is fucking great. It's so great. It's amazing. I have to look back and go, wow, that was fabulous just to be on the other side of the world and not actually be thinking about what is going on back home. It's a way to LULU all the time. It's so wonderful. It's so fabulous. And so we want you to come with us, because you will LULU as well, and you will get to see amazing temples, and we'll do breath work, and we'll have great breakfast and great lunch and great dinner. And then we (inaudible). We find ourselves at a lovely bar sometimes together. We do nightly massages. One night there was 14 of us getting a massage together. So, you know, and not, like, with, like, not in the same room, (inaudible) but yeah. So you should be, you should come, crowsnestretreats.com is where you're gonna get your tickets. Brad Crowell 4:04  Yeah, crowsnestretreats.com. Lesley Logan 4:05  Join us for February. Don't go I'll go next time. Oh, this, you will always have an excuse not to go. I promise you, you'll be so happy you went, and you will change your life. Brad Crowell 4:13  It's true. Lesley Logan 4:14  And now I'm even closer to my little week-long excursion living in LA to get ready and do the accessories photo shoot. The Accessories Deck is our sixth deck in all of the flashcards. If this is your first time listening, you probably have no idea what our flashcards are. We have Pilates flashcards and you, too, can get some. Brad Crowell 4:32  And you, too. Lesley Logan 4:33  The Accessories Deck is the sixth deck in the series. And then from here, Brad gets to design the collector's box. So for those of you who thought you weren't gonna get a discount when you bought all six, I promise you, you're not. I promise you, Brad is going to figure out a Harry Potter like, collector's box. Brad Crowell 4:49  Yeah. The flashcards come with a magic wand. Lesley Logan 4:52  I don't like to be involved in the design of this box. I just would like to say, because I do think it should have a way to, like, pull the card out.Brad Crowell 5:00  Oh no. I think it's gonna, like be a glass display case.Lesley Logan 5:03  But it needs to, so you you will see all the cards, all the boxes, beautifully, but then there needs to be a way for you to have a card of the day, or like this week's exercise. There needs to be a way. Brad Crowell 5:14  To put one card, feature a card? Lesley Logan 5:16  Feature a card. I mean, that could be cool. And then what would also be cool is a little hidden hook. So if someone is doing those little drop pouches, they could hook that on and it could, like, they (inaudible) with their workout on it. Brad Crowell 5:27  Yeah, we're asking a lot of our display case here. We'll see.Lesley Logan 5:30  This is, we're in the design phase. We're in the design phase. Brad Crowell 5:34  LED lights inside. Lesley Logan 5:36  All the different colors?Brad Crowell 5:37  Maybe. We'll see what we can figure out.Lesley Logan 5:39  All the OPC colors? Brad Crowell 5:40  I don't know. I don't know. We'll figure it out. Lesley Logan 5:42  What if it's just, what if it's a disco ball and it is like.Brad Crowell 5:47  All right, well, if you have ideas, we'd love to hear them.Lesley Logan 5:51  Is there a site for, like, display cases? We got to figure this out. Anyways, we will work on that. After the sixth deck is done, I'm doing the photoshoot, go to flashcard waitlist opc.me/flashcardwaitlist and that will get you on the presale waitlist, the secret waitlist, and only the people on the waitlist get the presale invite. That's how it goes. Brad Crowell 6:07  That's true. Lesley Logan 6:08  And our goal is to get the presale out sooner so we beat the hurricane season. Okay, Brad, take it away. Brad Crowell 6:14  Okay, cool. So I want you, if you are a Pilates business owner, what (inaudible) Lesley Logan 6:19  That's the way the bear says only you. Brad Crowell 6:21  I want only you, stand up and serve your country.Lesley Logan 6:26  That was, yeah, very much so.Brad Crowell 6:28  If you are, if you have a Pilates business, if you take clients at all, big, small, medium, long time, short time, not yet time but know you're going to take clients in the future, I want you to come join me for a free webinar called the Pilates Studio Growth Accelerator, where Lesley and I have boiled down three of the the biggest things that we've learned in how do you actually move the needle with your income? Okay? So if you're feeling stuck at all with like, I've been at the same income level, I thought I was going to be able to make more money, or I thought I was going to be able to have the life that I always wanted when I worked for myself. We can get you unstuck. Come join me for this free webinar. Go to prfit.biz/accelerator. That's profit without the O, dot biz slash accelerator, and come check it out. We're gonna be, we're gonna be hanging out. It's only an hour long, and I'll get you a In-N-Out before your class.Lesley Logan 7:22  There's only a couple opportunities before you go on winter tour. Brad Crowell 7:26  That's very true. Lesley Logan 7:27  So take advantage of that while it's happening, because you don't want to wait until the new year and then start the new year late, guys. So opc.me/tour, is where you get your tickets. But we're going to 23 cities. We kick off on December 6th. And we start in Sedona, then Oklahoma City, then we go to Memphis, and then to Huntsville, and then we go to Greensboro. Brad Crowell 7:51  Atlanta and then Greensboro. Lesley Logan 7:52  Oh Atlanta, Greensboro, DC. Brad Crowell 7:55  Hershey, Pennsylvania. Lesley Logan 7:56  Virginia Beach.Brad Crowell 7:58  I think that's on the way south. Lesley Logan 7:59  Oh, it's on the way South? Brad Crowell 8:00  Yeah, because I think it's too close to DC, so I think we go Virginia Beach on the way down. Lesley Logan 8:04  Okay, so then it's Hershey, then it's Portland, Maine, then it is Boston, Cape Cod, Providence, Greenwich, then it's Virginia Beach, then it's Charleston, South Miami, Tampa, Pensacola, New Orleans, Austin, Dallas, Lubbock, Phoenix. I don't think we skipped any this time. Brad Crowell 8:28  I think we got them all. Lesley Logan 8:29  I did Oklahoma City, yeah, okay, we're great. 23 cities, over 40 events. So many are sold out. Brad Crowell 8:34  Almost 50 events, yeah, they're literally already selling all out, y'all. So if you are just hearing about this now, go to opc.me/tour and jump on this, because. Lesley Logan 8:49  Pilates lovers of all levels. If you're brand new and you've just been Pi Curious, come, come, come. Come join us. Brad Crowell 8:55  Well, I'm just excited. I can't believe how. Lesley Logan 8:58  How excited everyone is. Brad Crowell 8:59  How excited, yeah, the vibes are strong, okay? So come, don't sit on this, because there might not be anywhere left.Lesley Logan 9:06  And also, if you're like, oh, I work at this studio and you're having other studio, get your ass over there. It's called community, okay? Brad Crowell 9:11  It's called community, y'all. Come across the road. (inaudible)Lesley Logan 9:14  Yeah. Do it because here's the deal, no one's gonna be like, oh, my God, that's like, working in that studio. They're gonna be focused on I'm there. Okay?Brad Crowell 9:24  Yeah. Well, it is true. Lesley Logan 9:25  They're actually focused on I'm there and we're gonna have fun. And I'm tired of people feeling like, oh, I can't do that. They teach like this. I can't, I don't teach like that. It. Brad Crowell 9:34  Nobody gives a shit. Lesley Logan 9:35  No one does because it's called community and I am on a mission to make sure Pilates lovers meet each other all over the place, and we have so much fun, and it's quite like reunions, and you'll see people you haven't seen in a long time. (inaudible) So come, come, come, bring your friends. All right, that's opc.me/tour to get your ticket. We do have an audience question. Brad Crowell 9:53  We do. Lesley Logan 9:54  It is in your text messages, Brad.Brad Crowell 9:56  It is, it is. The question is actually from @SL4081, how is the MOTR Core Balanced Body equipment for Pilates?Lesley Logan 10:09  I think it's like the MOTR piece of equipment for Pilates. I think that's what they're asking.Brad Crowell 10:13  For Pilates. How is it for Pilates?Lesley Logan 10:16  Like, how is it used for Pilates, maybe?Brad Crowell 10:19  (inaudible) I feel like I'm missing a piece. Lesley Logan 10:20  Well, you know. Brad Crowell 10:21  How is it for Pilates? How does it work for Pilates?Lesley Logan 10:24  I mean, they clearly took a lot of time taking. Brad Crowell 10:25  How is it official for Pilates? Lesley Logan 10:26  They took a lot of time on that YouTube name Brad, the details for this. Okay, so here's the deal. I need to be really honest with you guys. I've been on a MOTR. I am not certified in a MOTR. I am not trained to teach a MOTR, and I don't. So I can't rave about it the way that my friends who are trained on the MOTR rave about it. So I'm gonna give a shout out to SuperKate, Erika Quest, I think even teeny_pilates on Instagram there's one more. Oh my gosh, sweet girl who isn't the OC anyways, so there are tons of people who are truly trained in teaching on the MOTR, and that is who I would really pose this question to. I am a classical Pilates teacher, which means I kind of just play on my classical equipment, and I know a lot about that. What I will say about the MOTR that's really cool is you can do a lot of movements that are in Pilates using the MOTR and it doesn't take up a lot of space. You could not use the MOTR on OPC to take a reformer class. You can't do that. Or you can't do that for a Pilates Anytime class, you can't. Brad Crowell 11:27  Well, it's not a reformer. Lesley Logan 11:28  No, but people do reformer moves on it, just like they do mat moves on it, just like they do bar moves on it. So there's a lot of similarities there. But if you buy a MOTR, you need to take MOTR classes. That's what you just have to do. So if you want a MOTR, my discount works for that MOTR. Brad Crowell 11:43  It does. Lesley Logan 11:44  And then you can reach out to me and I'll connect you with one of those few girls that I just mentioned, and they will teach you. Brad Crowell 11:49  I love that. Lesley Logan 11:49  So I'm so sorry. Clearly, I don't know all the answers, but if you have a question, you want me to take a stab at it, or Brad to take a stab at then you want to send in your questions. You apparently can call us, we say the number somewhere in the credits. So listen to that, or just send it to me on Instagram or YouTube. We get them there, and then we'll answer your questions here.Brad Crowell 12:08  Yeah, you can text us at 310-905-5534. Stick around we'll be right back. Brad Crowell 12:13  Okay, let's talk about Shayla Pelton. Shayla is a passionate boudoir photographer based in Arizona, dedicated to helping individuals and couples cultivate self love and elevate their mindsets. Inspired by her own experiences and the transformative power of photography, she believes that everyone, regardless of age, body changes or life circumstances, is beautiful and deserving of celebrating their unique selves. We had the pleasure of meeting Shayla in person at James Patrick's event, the last event that he hosted for that series. I can't remember what it was called. Lesley Logan 12:49  You guys had to listen to that episode, but he is such a fascinating man. We are at the event. It's a last day. Everyone's having the best time, and he's like, we're never doing this again. And I was like, oh god, okay, that's one way to end a run, but we did get to meet her in person. And she is such a she's like a little firefly, but I mean that in the best way, she lights up wherever she's at, and she's really excited. I just really loved we had a great time talking with her. And I was like, I have to, I want to have her on the Be It Pod. And I told her you have to pitch yourself. Because that was what's it about. That was what the event was about. So I couldn't just invite her on, she has to pitch herself, and she wrote me a great pitch. And what I loved about this.Brad Crowell 13:29  Well, she came from a career in retail, and really wanted to work for herself, and has been a photographer, and was always passionate about it. And we got super fired up for her, because we love entrepreneurialism, and we absolutely believe that you can make money working for yourself, and there's no reason that you can't make money being a photographer, as inspired by James, he does the same thing. And so it was really cool to meet her and be able to encourage her. And then also, well, basically, we were there helping people cultivate their pitches and to figure things out. So it was great to challenge her a little bit, and then she pitched us, and we said, this is really awesome. Great job. Lesley Logan 13:32  Well, we haven't had a boudoir photographer on the show. We've we have brought on Dr. Celeste Holbrook, and we've brought on Nikole Mitchell, and we also just had Dr. Jordin Wiggins, who is a pleasure coach as well. And so we've had people on who talk about, oh and Kelli Adame like pleasure and receiving and all these things. But if you don't feel sexy, like we have a big jump, that's a hard thing. And so I really like what Shayla does, because the boudoir photography used to just be like the gift you gave your future husband, like some weird gift to the wedding, but it can really be for you, and that's what we got to talk about.Brad Crowell 14:32  I think that's my biggest takeaway, is that boudoir photography isn't necessarily about sex. Lesley Logan 14:50  No, I think it's actually about confidence and seeing yourself in the most beautiful way that you exist in and no matter your body type or scars you have. I follow her on Instagram, and I see the different women she photographs, and they're fucking all stunning. I'm like, I want to look like that. Like it's just so fun, because the camera catches you at this, she's so good at catching your true light, and you're showing things, and it's just great. And then you get to see yourself through that lens. I was talking to my client, (inaudible), today, and she's like, I don't see myself every day, so I don't think anything has changed. I think you should take a picture. I don't like to take a picture of myself. Okay, well, I'm looking at you and you have changed. So either I'm going to be the person who tells you that you have to believe me, or you take a picture so that, because we see ourselves every single day, we don't realize the changes that are happening. And so I really love it. Lesley Logan 15:42  Anyways, boudoir photography is about reclaiming your sexuality. Everything about us is different. Everything about us is worthy of love. And so even though it's not about sex, we shouldn't be ashamed of the sexuality that we have, because it's part of who we are, and it's part of that charisma and that charm, and also, ladies, it's fucking awesome and okay to have sexuality and sexual desires and enjoy pleasures and that's why I keep bringing these women on and telling you to do that, because the burnouts and breakdowns you're having, they're having, I bet you maybe a little pleasure and a little enjoyment. But if you don't think that you are sexy or you're not confident in that way, I think a boudoir photoshoot could be a really great gift to yourself. And if you hate it, throw it away. You won't. You just won't. You'll just really think they're cool.Brad Crowell 16:27  Yeah. And I think that that was an interesting thing, where she talked about, you know, I think the questions you asked her were really helpful for people who are, like, boudoir curious, where it's like, I'm not ready for that, or what is it going to be like? Or, I don't know, but what other questions in that way. But what was really great is that the preconceptions that people have about boudoir photography is that you have to be sexy, you have to be hot, you have to be all the things. And Shayla talked about how that is not reality. That is actually not at all what it's about. You don't have to show up performing for the camera. It's actually when you get to know her and the two of you have conversations, she's gonna work with you to bring that element out of you. And no matter what you're wearing or not wearing, or how ready you feel, she's gonna help you get to that place. And she said, I love that she intentionally doesn't doctor up the images all over the place, because she's going to capture the beauty inside of the person that she's photographing, and doesn't have to add all this extra stuff to it. And I just thought that was really cool. Lesley Logan 17:40  Yeah, I mean, I'm a big fan, and now I think everyone should go do a boudoir photoshoot. I think I should do one.Brad Crowell 17:47  I'm in. Lesley Logan 17:48  I know you are. Brad Crowell 17:51  Sign me up. Maybe I should do one. Lesley Logan 17:53  Okay. Brad Crowell 17:54  I'd be down. Lesley Logan 17:59  Okay, let's, we'll figure this out. We'll work on it. It'll be a 20 20, what's next year? 2025. We'll put it on the list. Brad Crowell 18:05  Well, she said on embracing your true self, we never see ourselves in that beautiful vulnerability, because we always have our shields up, right? Only people that we are most intimate with ever see us in those moments. And she explained that when we look at ourselves in the mirror, we don't feel that sexy or that fun or that fire, but we all have it. We all have it. We just don't always let ourselves see it.Lesley Logan 18:07  You're so busy thinking about I got these 17 things to do today. I got these many things to do today, and then your partner comes in and they're like, all they're seeing you all sexy, and you're like, oh my God, my brain is in the wrong journey. But that's the thing.Brad Crowell 18:16  And having a photo like this is an incredible way to remind yourself. Lesley Logan 18:45  That you are. Brad Crowell 18:46  That you have it, right, and it's a moment, but I can't remember who we were talking to, who said they write down their wins on a note card, and when they're feeling down, they pull out the note card. Was that all the way back to Amy Ledin? I think it was.Lesley Logan 19:02  My mom's favorite episode, she, and in the two and a half years I've been doing this podcast, guys, my mom only likes episode five. Brad Crowell 19:10  Now that is not true. Not true. Lesley Logan 19:12  She still quotes it. Brad Crowell 19:13  She still quotes it, but she likes more than episode five. But seriously, this is like that where if you're struggling with confidence, you can pull out this photo, and even if it's only for you, you still have this, this moment where you're like, I am a rock star, and I love that. I think that is, I think that's necessary. Lesley Logan 19:33  Yeah, I agree. I agree. Brad Crowell 19:34  Yeah. All right, stick around. We'll be right back. Brad Crowell 19:37  All right. Finally, let's talk about those, Be It Action Items. Say it with me. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Shayla Pelton? Lesley Logan 19:49  I think you know what I want. Brad Crowell 19:50  Tell me. Lesley Logan 19:50  I want our listeners to record themselves saying that and then we can use their recording. Brad Crowell 19:57  That'd be fun. Lesley Logan 19:57  Just like Keith Olbermann has his friends introduce like and now here's Keith. We can have different listeners, yeah, we can have different listeners send in themselves saying, what bold executable, intrinsic or targeted steps?Brad Crowell 20:11  Okay, I love this, and I really love this, y'all. Call our number and leave us a voicemail of you saying, "What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo?" And we will take those clips and we'll start to put them into the show. Lesley Logan 20:29  I think that'd be so fun. And if that's too long, you could also record yourself saying, "Until next time, Be It Till You See It."Brad Crowell 20:36  Yeah, that too. That too. So 310-905-5534. Hit us up. Okay.Lesley Logan 20:42  (inaudible) was like, what's going on? Why are people emailing us this? Brad Crowell 20:47  No, just call it. We won't answer. Just leave a voicemail, and then we'll get the voicemail. Lesley Logan 20:51  It's probably important to know we'll never answer. Brad Crowell 20:53  Well, that number is intentional that we're, I'm not picking that number up, but it's there for people to leave a voicemail. Lesley Logan 20:59  You could answer it. We just don't, because it's for voicemails. Brad Crowell 21:02  Yeah, my phone fucking rings. I don't answer it. Lesley Logan 21:04  (inaudible) way too much. Okay, well, just so we, call a different number if you want us to answer, but leave a message.Brad Crowell 21:09  Okay, so she said, book yourself a boudoir session. That is the Be It Action Item that you can take. You can do this. All you gotta do is the first step, which is book that session, whether that's with her, with Shayla, or with someone else. Do it for you. She has people fly into Phoenix to work with her,by the way.Lesley Logan 21:27  We definitely have amazing recommendations for where to stay in that area, too, so. Brad Crowell 21:31  We do. There's also an incredible botanical gardens that you should see while you're in town. Anyway, she said you should book this for yourself, because you are worthy. You're worthy today. You're worthy right now. Lesley Logan 21:43  You don't have to send us the picture, but you do have to tell us now if you do this. Brad Crowell 21:46  Yeah, yeah. Also, she said, prioritize yourself by taking small moments every single day just for you. And she had personal experience with this where she said, when I started to work my yoga practice in for myself in the morning, I actually became an incredibly better person, and I performed better at work, and it was just better all around and she's talked about getting her nails done and being intentional about taking care of herself. So prioritizing yourself, and this is something that I'm sure you've heard Lesley talk about, self-care isn't selfish care. And when you prioritize yourself, you are going to show up better in every other aspect of your life, every other element of your life, for the people that you are intentionally taking care of or serving or working with, or your clients or your family or friends, whatever it is, when you prioritize yourself, you are going to be a better you.Lesley Logan 22:39  Yep, I love it. I'm in on that. She also said, put time into energy work and releasing generational trauma and healing in your own family. And I think this is really important, because we can try to, like, I just have therapy, but we don't always release the actual energy of that. And so I'm gonna highlight episode 421, with Dr. Louise Swartswalter, who will release like she's not gonna release my great grandfather shit. And you know what? I think I worry less. So that's really great. And I don't remember Lauren Zoeller's most recent episode, but Lauren Zoeller does somatic releasing work, and that is a great way to get rid of some of that trauma through energy work. We had Keri Ford, who's a somatics coach, who did that. Brad Crowell 23:18  Lauren is episode 388. Keri Ford, 175.Lesley Logan 23:24  Yeah, yeah. So anyways, I'm sure we've had other people, but those ones I remember. So do this because.Brad Crowell 23:31  We have Michael Unbroken.Lesley Logan 23:32  Oh. Don't tell him I didn't. Michael's episodes are really, he's working with mostly men now, though. So that (inaudible) that's kind of why there's lots. Brad Crowell 23:41  He's episode 298. Lesley Logan 23:43  No, I think we're good. I think that's plenty. We don't need to overwhelm them with trauma. They just need to do it. So here's the thing, if you don't, it doesn't, you can't shove this in like a closet and then never look at it again. It's gonna rear its ugly head. So do the work. Brad Crowell 23:57  Do the work.Lesley Logan 23:58  Because it makes a huge difference. And especially if you're a parent, it affects who you are for your kids to see, and it really does make big changes, so. You guys, I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell 24:07  And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 24:08  Thank you so much for being here. Shayla, thank you for being amazing. I can't wait to hear how many people get some boudoir shoots. I really am excited. I think everyone needs a photoshoot. And I think a lot of people don't have pictures of themselves that they like because they don't have a professional take pictures of them. Your friends and family are never gonna take the most amazing picture, like Monica Linda would or Shayla would. You know, you just need a good photographer. I love all the pictures that professionals took of me. I mean, Brad's great too, because he's also a professional but I like theirs too. So go do it. It'll change your life. It'll help you Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 24:08  Bye for now. Lesley Logan 24:41  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. 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Unlock the secrets to sustainable success as a female founder with insights that promise to shift your business from good to extraordinary. Join me, Keri Ford, as I delve into the challenges and triumphs of scaling beyond the seven-figure mark, drawing from my expertise as a three-time award-winning coach. Discover the pillars of certainty, effective communication, and team support essential for thriving at this level, while my Somatic Success Method offers a unique strategy to harmonize business tactics with stress management for a legacy that's both profitable and fulfilling. Explore how aligning team roles with individual strengths can transform your company's dynamic, turning potential into performance. We'll discuss the art of recognizing when team members are misplaced and how adjusting responsibilities can elevate everyone into their zone of genius. Learn why it's crucial to hone your focus amidst distractions, doubling down on existing assets and ensuring any new ventures align with your overarching vision. With practical advice on timing and alignment, this episode offers a roadmap to enhance what already works within your ecosystem. As we close, embrace the transformative power of calmness as a leader's secret weapon. Discover how maintaining a regulated nervous system can prevent burnout and foster resilience, inspiring trust and respect within your team. By prioritizing self-care, you'll navigate high-pressure environments with clarity and steadiness, setting a positive tone for business success. This episode is a testament to leading from a place of peace and strength, ensuring that your achievements are not just sustainable, but also deeply satisfying. Stay tuned for more opportunities to engage, and remember that your ambitions deserve first-class treatment. Episode Resources The Wealth Vault: FREE STUFF TO HELP YOU TAKE YOUR BUSINESS TO THE NEXT LEVEL. Explore Keri's programs: https://elevatewithkeri.com/programs/ such as Power Hour sessions, VIP Days, and Private Mentorship Subscribe to The Newsletter and VIP e-mail list https://elevatewithkeri.kartra.com/page/secret-list for advanced insights, strategies, and exclusive resources to drive growth, inspire peak performance, and elevate your impact Get your ticket for upcoming 2025 Champagne Club Dinner Events for female founders & investors https://elevatewithkeri.ticketspice.com/the-champagne-club-by-keri-ford Connect with Keri Follow Keri: @iamkeriford Join Keri's FREE Somatic Success® community on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/somaticsuccesssociety Connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerifordofficial/ Subscribe to YouTube  https://www.youtube.com/@ElevatewithKeri This episode is sponsored by Tao of Po. As a valued listener, you can book here your 15-minute consult call with Po-Hong Yu and receive a $500 credit toward any program, plus a complimentary Root Cause Assessment (valued at more than $800) when you join! Po-Hong offers life-changing mentorship and microdosing guidance for high achieving and high net worth women that are ready to expand to the next level of fulfillment, impact, and intimacy.

What if you could turn every failure into a stepping stone for success? Join me, Keri Ford, on the Literally First Class podcast as we explore the transformative power of embracing failure and change in business. Listen in as I share my personal journey of navigating the ups and downs of entrepreneurship, from the triumphant launch of the Champagne Club to the disappointing results of the Cravings to Confidence webinar. This episode is a candid look at the realities of experimenting with ideas, especially for those with public-facing brands, and highlights how accepting failure as part of the process is crucial for growth. Whether you're a recovering perfectionist or someone seeking somatic success, you'll discover the importance of adaptability and the role of timing and market need in shaping successful ventures. We'll dive deep into the art of embracing change and making impactful decisions that shape the future. By sharing tales of individuals who thrived through authenticity and bold pivots, we illustrate how aligning with your true self can lead to meaningful connections and significant growth. The episode encourages you to experiment and redefine your path, preparing you for greater achievements with each step you take. As we focus on crafting a life and business that feels alive, you'll be inspired to maintain high standards and seize new opportunities for success. Tune in and learn how to balance the delicate dance of failure and success in your own journey. Episode Resources The Wealth Vault: FREE STUFF TO HELP YOU TAKE YOUR BUSINESS TO THE NEXT LEVEL. This episode is sponsored by Tao of Po. As a valued listener, you can book here your 15-minute consult call with Po-Hong Yu and receive a $500 credit toward any program, plus a complimentary Root Cause Assessment (valued at more than $800) when you join! Po-Hong offers life-changing mentorship and microdosing guidance for high achieving and high net worth women that are ready to expand to the next level of fulfillment, impact, and intimacy. Apply for the APEX Leadership Mastery Academy for visionary female founders & executives ready to amplify their impact and make an additional 6-figures in their company before the end of the year. Other Resources Join our VIP e-mail list HERE for access to exclusive announcements, potent content, events, and global retreats. Our next Champagne Club dinner event is officially sponsored by KONTOUR Med Spa. (hyperlink: https://www.kontourmedspa.com) Join our next event February 22, 2025 by purchasing your ticket here. (hyperlink: https://elevatewithkeri.ticketspice.com/the-champagne-club-by-keri-ford) Connect with Keri Follow Keri: @iamkeriford Follow the podcast: @literallyfirstclass Making First Class moves? Use the hashtag #LiterallyFirstClass  

In this episode, Keri shares her journey with visibility and power, exploring how our childhood experiences shape the way we show up in the world. She dives into growing up with the fear of being seen, driven by her experiences of being bullied, and how this fear led her to become hypervigilant, shrinking herself to avoid attention. We explore the "sisterhood wound" and how it played out in her life—from her youth, through college, and into her corporate career. She opens up about the impact of her looks on her self-perception, her people-pleasing behaviors, and avoiding pedestalization as a coach. Join us for this insightful conversation on the first ingredient of healing—courage—and the inner child work pivotal to personal growth, and how to recognize your own unhelpful patterns around people-pleasing, anger, and expression so you can break free from them.  We dive into: Navigating visibility and success with a fear of being seen Keri's childhood experiences with bullying and becoming hypervigilant The complexities of the sisterhood wound and how we both found healing around this Perception, people-pleasing, and pedestalization Lessons learned from Keri's group program that imploded Anger and assertiveness: recognizing our patterns How to break free from anxiety and hypervigilance when expressing our feelings And more Keri Ford is the CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri – a transformational coaching movement and luxury brand dedicated to elevating emotional intelligence and whole-body high performance for the world's top female executives and entrepreneurs. With advanced training as a Behavior Change Specialist and Somatic Practitioner, Keri was awarded by IFAH as one of the Top 100 Global Visionaries and 2023 CEO with the Best Women's Personal Development Platform. Connect with Keri: IG: https://www.instagram.com/iamkeriford/ FB: http://facebook.com/kerilynn.ford LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/kerifordofficial Champaign Club on October 19 Dinner Event - https://elevatewithkeri.ticketspice.com/the-champagne-club-by-keri-ford  APEX Leadership Mastery Academy for Female Founders and Visionaries - https://elevatewithkeri.com/apex/   Connect with me and let's go deeper: Website: https://www.pohongyu.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/pohong.yu/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/pohong.yu/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pohongyu/  

[3:52] The Power of Somatic and Healing Work "With somatic work and healing work, now that I know that I have leaned into the courage that requires to move through and work on those things." [16:05 ] Embracing Your Calling "When you step into your calling it can be a little bit scary." [24:55] Healing at a Systemic Level "I want to become a trauma-trained practitioner and learn how to actually heal, on a systemic level, a nervous system level." [29:28] Navigating Cognitive Desire and Physical Resistance "There's something here I need to prepare or protect from, and so in that instance, we cognitively want it, but our body and behavior push it away." [34:42] Embracing the Hard Things "We don't need an avoidance strategy if we know how to be with the hard thing." [40:15] Transformational Leadership "It's a leadership retreat... The whole goal is transformation." [45:52] Personal Reflection "I felt like I was giving my power away and wasting time." [1:01:22 ] Role of Divine Partner "I believe that your divine partner really is one of your best spiritual teachers."   Follow Keri Ford on instagram @iamkeriford Follow Made for More™ Retreats on instagram @madeformore.retreats Follow Keri Ford on youtube @ElevatewithKeri Follow Keri Ford on facebook @Keri Ford Follow Keri Ford on LinkedIn @Keri Ford Visit Keri Ford's Website! Get the playbook   Please download, rate & review this episode and share it with friends!  Connect with Kelly here: Follow Me on Instagram at @chaselifewithkelly  Follow Me on TikTok at @iamkellychase Subscribe to My YouTube Channel Join the ChaseLife with Kelly Community! Goddess Magic Program Kelly's Favorites Visit Our Website!  

Kel Cal, author, speaker, and host of the Dear Dumb Bitch podcast shares her personal transformation journey—from feeling lost and unfulfilled to creating a life she loves on her own terms. Kel opens up to Lesley about the importance of listening to your intuition, doing deep inner work to heal from past traumas, and taking aligned action to manifest your dream life. She explains why she left her marriage and moved to Bali, highlighting the power of following one's inner guidance. Learn ways to embody your future self, overcome limiting beliefs, and step into your power.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Kel's bold decision to leave her marriage and move to Bali. Practices to help break free from unhealthy coping mechanisms. How to create a strong foundation for self-love and transformation.Techniques to embody the changes you want to see in your life.Why Kel believes self-love isn't about striving to be someone new.Powerful exercises to help you embody and manifest your future self.Episode References/Links:Kel Cal's InstagramKel Cal's WebsiteKel Cal's TIkTokHow I Cured My Resting Bitch Face BookDear Dumb Bitch PodcastFabxEFT TappingKeri Ford Episode 175Guest Bio:Kel is a life transformation & empowerment mentor, author, speaker, & the host of the Dear Dumb Bitch, podcast. Kel helps people transform their lives by transforming the relationship with themselves, healing trauma, and reconnecting with their personal power. She also helps women navigate the aftermath of toxic relationships and use the experience as a catalyst to unlock your Highest Self. Kel was living what appeared to be her dream life but in reality was secretly miserable in an emotionally abusive marriage so she made the bold decision to leave her life in sunny South Florida and move across the country to restart her life in the rainy city of Seattle. She went broke overnight, didn't have a job, & was technically homeless, but she had a vision of a better future for herself so she committed to her own personal healing journey. Kel now lives in Bali, and her purpose in life is to empower people and share the message that you CAN have anything and everything you desire in life by healing trauma from the past, believing you are worthy of what you desire, developing unconditional love for yourself, and reconnecting with your personal power. She is incredibly passionate about teaching, inspiring others, and sharing tools and resources to help people stop settling, fall in love with themselves, and create a life they're obsessed with!  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar  Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramFacebookLinkedIn  Episode Transcript:Kel Cal 0:00  I feel like so often in life, we're living our life based on what we think we should be doing or based on what our limiting beliefs and self-doubt tells us we should be doing or should not be doing or cannot be doing. And it causes us to live the life that we're not meant to live. And we don't get to become who we are meant to become in this lifetime. Lesley Logan 0:22  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.  Lesley Logan 1:03  Okay, Be It babe, get ready. This is awesome. This interview is just great. You're gonna hear how I met this amazing woman at the intro. So I won't repeat myself here. But also, I know I say I love the Be It Action Items. I fucking love the Be It Action Items on this one. It's just you're gonna love it. I'm so grateful for random acts of kindness and learning from other people. There's something really cool about this gig. And I hope that you enjoy this. I get to meet so many unique people and I meet them oftentimes as you're meeting them in your ears. But I find like,isn't it so cool that we can learn from other people's experiences and then recognize how those experiences are similar to something we went through, not the same but similar, and then we can learn something that they learn in their experience that we might not have learned in our own experience, or we did and we forgot. And so Kel Cal is our guest today. She's brilliant. She's beautiful. She's got a, she's got a great book that you're gonna want to check out. I'm buying it already. And she also has a lovely podcast called Dear Dumb Bitch and I am on that podcast and I just kind of love it. I love the title of it. Because as soon as I heard I was like, yeah, there's that. You know that (inaudible), what would you tell your like 24-year-old self? It's kind of like that. And we can learn from epic women. So go ahead and check that out after this. You can check out the podcast that I was on. If you love it you can go listen to binge out on all the other ones. But here, before, before you go there, here's Kel so you can get to know her and how amazing she is. And get ready for those Be It Action Items. Get ready, get your pen and paper out for those. Have an amazing day. Lesley Logan 2:37  All right, Be It babe. This is so fun. This has been a while in the making. And I just want to say like accept random acts of like connections. We, today's guests and I had a blind, like, Zoom date, which I feel like I haven't had since COVID. And we were introduced by a mutual friend and someone you know and have loved on the pod, Michael Unbroken. So we have this amazing conversation. I feel like if she lived in Vegas, we would probably hang out all the time. But she lives in Bali. Kell Cal will you tell everyone who you are what you rock at and why you live in Bali? Kel Cal 3:11  Yes, well, hello, thank you so much for having me on the show. I'm so excited for this conversation. And I just love the serendipitous introduction that we had, and there are no mistakes and no accidents in the universe like we were meant to connect. So I'm Kel. I am a Life Transformation and Empowerment coach, I am a bestselling author and speaker and podcast host. And yes, I live in Bali because my intuition told me to move to Bali and I have ignored my intuition enough in my life to know that I should never ignore my intuition. So here I am.Lesley Logan 3:46  One of my favorite crystal stores where I buy candles from, which, my listeners, I've tried to get an affiliate link for you. This, they don't want to work with me. But I will just tell you, it's The House of Intuition. They don't sponsor this and they're, all their boxes say your intuition led you here and I just love it. Like every time I buy candles, like, your intuition led you here. I'm like yes, it did, it lead me to buy the candle crystals. But yours led you to Bali. So we'll get into your book and your pod, of course, but I guess, like, you said you ignored your intuition before and then you listened to it to go to Bali. Can you tell us a little bit about that journey? Because I think a lot of us have ignored our intuition. And regretfully did that. It's easy, at hindsight, it's easy in 2020 of course, but what kind of led you to Bali?Kel Cal 4:33  Yeah, so we're actually conditioned to ignore our intuition because we live in a society where we are taught to live in our minds, to exist in our mind, and to disconnect from our heart, from our body which is disconnecting us from our truth and our intuition and the connection to the higher powers that be. So I lived most of my life just checking off all the boxes on the to do list of life. And then I found myself in a situation where, going back to like circa 2018, and I thought I was living my dream life because my life looked really amazing from the outside. I lived in sunny South Florida, I had this beautiful home that I remodeled to perfection. It was paid off. I had a successful business. Lots of money in the bank. I was married. I had four golden doodles, six-pack abs, perfectly styled blonde hair, I drove a Porsche, and I was miserable. And there was a lot of factors contributing to the internal misery that I felt one of which was I was in an emotionally abusive and toxic as fuck marriage. And it reached a place where I just felt like I was drowning every single day of my life. And I was because my soul was being suffocated. So I made the decision to not only leave the marriage, but to move across the country to restart my life in every possible way. And that was the beginning of my journey of self-love and self-discovery, like I literally proclaim to the universe, this is my journey of self-love and self-discovery. This is my second chance in life, this experience and all the trauma I endured is not going to be the worst thing that ever happened to me, it's somehow going to be the best thing that ever happened to me. And I began to realize that I was living my life based on external expectations and what I thought I should be doing. And I was checking off all these boxes on this to-do list of life, graduate college, get a job, get married, buy a house, all the things. And I realized this wasn't even my to-do list. And I feel like so often in life, we're living our life based on what we think we should be doing or based on what our limiting beliefs and self-doubt tells us we should be doing or should not be doing or cannot be doing. And it causes us to live the life that we're not meant to live. And we don't get to become who we are meant to become in this lifetime. So on my own personal journey of healing from the past of stripping away everything that was blocking me from my truth, I began to develop this connection with my intuition. And when we follow our intuition, and we trust our intuition, we are allowed to be guided to live the life that we're meant to live.Lesley Logan 7:07  So interesting, I love how you put like, this won't be the worst thing that ever happen to me, it's gonna be the best. I think that is such an interesting way to look at something. And I completely agree. It's funny when I've told people about like being homeless, or like, oh my god, I'm so sorry. I'm like, you don't have to apologize. Like, first of all, the first two were like outside of my control, the third one, 100% in mind, but I knew I needed to like get out of the situation I was in because like you, we live this perfect on paper, perfect on the outside. Social media wasn't yet huge, then I was like posting the sunsets. I wish I had the pictures because like, they were fucking beautiful sunsets a bit like, but it was. Like, if you came to a party at our house, you're like, oh my god, this is like the most amazing like you've-made-it-life in LA and with the most amazing, incredible views. And I was also so, so unhappy. And so in my head all the time. And I think we talked about this, it took me a fucking year to go, okay, I've been really done with this. We got to figure this out. So I feel like the best everything from that rock bottom because the actual, like, best thing that ever came. And you know what's interesting? You're in Bali. You guys must have lotus flowers, right? Like, you have lotus flowers in Bali? Kel Cal 8:11  Yes, yes. (Inaudible)Lesley Logan 8:14  In Cambodia, we go to a lotus farm, we take our retreaters to a lotus of farm. And the whole idea is that the lotus seed comes from mud. And the seed grows and the plant grows and it finds the top of the water and it actually blooms on top of the water. And the whole story is like it doesn't matter what your roots are, you can always have, you can always become beautiful. And I think that that's what, in air quotes, rock bottoms really are, is like the mud of which the lotus flower will come from? Kel Cal 8:38  Yes, yes, 100%. And actually, that's the reason I got this lotus flower tattoo on my wrist. I got it right when I left, the marriage moved across the country, and it was homeless went broke overnight, like literally every aspect of my life just changed overnight. And again, I was like, This is my mud. This is my rock bottom. But this is not going to be the worst thing. This is going to allow me to bloom and create this beautiful life where I actually love myself and I'm a priority in my own life. And I'm living my life. And I got this lotus flower tattoo when I began my journey as a symbol of my intention. And to remind me because it's so easy to forget when we go through the day-to-day or when we're experiencing the challenges, and we get feel like we're stuck in it. But I got this tattoo right on my wrist to have that visual reminder like no, this is the mud that is leading you to actually blossom and grow into who you're meant to be.Lesley Logan 9:36  Hmm. Oh, I love it. I love it. This is really hilarious and off topic, but we're just gonna do it. Most people don't know I have cherry blossoms on tattoo on my arm. And it's a cover-up I got right after I left my ex because I had this tattoo from when I was younger and I wanted to cover it up and the guy was like, well flowers are easy cover-ups and I was like I don't like any flowers but I think I like a cherry blossom and my friend who's a jewelry designer who designed my engagement ring. And a lot of the jewelry you see me wear, she's, she became very famous for her cherry blossom necklace. And so I said, I'm gonna get cherry blossoms because I love your jewelry. And I love that cherry blossoms like the one flower I think I could look at forever. And she's like cherry blossoms are a symbol of new beginnings. And if you think about when cherry blossoms actually bloom for a very short period of time, but it's at the change of the season from winter to spring. And so it's really just an incredible thing. So you guys, if you need new beginnings cherry blossoms, and if you need to be reminded of like the you're stuck in the mud, remember, you are a lotus. So that's beautiful. So Kel, okay, you have this beautiful life, you, overnight, changed all of it. I feel like it's very easy to kind of go back into some of the habit, I just want to say like for me, you can go okay, I know all the things, I'm gonna change my life. I'm not happy here, I'm going to just do it all differently. But was it? Did you find yourself like fighting with the old habits of the way you lived your life for the new ones that you're wanting to live in? How did you handle that?Kel Cal 10:59  Yeah, so not only did I bring all of the old habits and all of the baggage from the past with me, I actually then developed a shit ton of coping mechanisms. Because I did not have the resources to navigate the trauma I had experienced not just the trauma from the relationship, but also the trauma that led me to that relationship in the first place. And I literally thought it would be as easy as restarting my life in every possible way. Now, I did get support and resources when I first moved out there because I was a shitshow, like captain of the hot mess express. And rightfully so, I experienced tremendous trauma in the marriage and changed every aspect of my life overnight. And I was going to therapy and I was in a domestic violence support group. And I was like doing the things. But then I discovered mindset work. And that's really when I began to recognize that you can make changes in your life. But I also used that as a way to bypass the deep inner work and the deep inner healing that I needed to be doing. So I discovered oh, I can change my beliefs and I could really just think my way out except you can't think your way out because you have to feel in order to heal. So that's really when I began to develop a lot of coping mechanisms in the form of eating disorders, substance abuse, pretty much every kind of addiction, addiction to exercising and working out and productivity and all the things to really distract myself and numb myself from what I was feeling inside. So I reached this place where I realized that I basically recreated my life in Florida, except I recreated it in Washington. And again, I found myself, my life looks really good on the outside, but inside I feel like shit. I feel controlled except this time, it wasn't another person controlling me it was myself. And that's when I had yet another existential crisis where I'm like, oh, fuck, I'm the common denominator, which means I need to do the deep inner work to change. Lesley Logan 13:00  Yeah. So you know, you hear about toxic positivity. And I feel like people like learn words, and then they overuse them in the wrong way. You're like, look, I'm doing all the right things now. I'm doing all these like mindset things and I'm meditating, but you're not still in your head. You're just doing the surface. So it's the pendulum of the other side of the toxic relationship we're in. Now you're gonna send us the other version of it, where you're like, I'm doing, look at me, I did all these things. It's still look at me without the Porsche. It's just not, look at how mindful I am. Kel Cal 13:30  Yeah. Lesley Logan 13:30  When you talk about inner work, I think that's another like, phrase, like, or sentence people can hear. What does that mean? Like, what does that inner, deep inner work mean to you?Kel Cal 13:38  Yeah, I know, when I was, even when I first started my journey of like, self-love and self-discovery, I'm like, cool, but what the fuck does that actually mean? Like, what do you even do? And people talk about doing the work but like, what is the work? Like, what does that mean? So for me, initially, at the beginning of my journey, the journey of self-love and self-discovery, I started journaling, and I started really building the relationship with myself. And when I went deeper on this journey, it looked like inner child healing and looked like healing my nervous system using practices like somatic healing, it looked like actually meditating, it looked like using these other practices and modalities to actually go within and not look for the answer outside of myself, and also to really get honest about the energy that I was bringing to the healing journey, which is really the journey of transformation. And so often, we go on this healing journey viewing ourselves, like we're broken, and we're something that needs to be fixed. And that really is just reinforcing the underlying patterns that are keeping us stuck. So making the shift from I'm not broken, I'm actually this perfectly human that just needs to support myself in deeper ways.Lesley Logan 14:58  Yeah, I think that's, I think that's really, it's really true. And I think I love that you brought up somatics. I think a lot of people don't know about it, you know, they, they go to talk therapy, which is great. I have a couple clients who are excellent talk therapists. But there's also like, as a Pilates instructor, or there's like people who I've tried because I didn't like it, I'm like, well, maybe didn't like the teacher. And people like I tried therapy it didn't work, maybe didn't like the therapist or the therapy style. Like there's so many different ones based on like, what you need. And also like, what you need at the time, you know, like what I needed during COVID is very different than what I need today. And so I think it's important to kind of not just go oh, that didn't work for me. So nothing will work for me. It's there's, there's others who wants to do it. What are you most excited about now in your life that you've done this work? Or where do you find yourself continuing to go back to like, feel yourself and continue to make sure you, I don't want to say continue to heal yourself, but like, also continue to grow?Kel Cal 15:55  Yeah, so this journey does not have a finish line. And when I first found that out, I'm like, what a fucking scam. I'm not gonna, like cross this finish line one day, and someone's gonna hand me a trophy and say, congratulations, you're this fully enlightened and healed human. And that's actually not how it works. But you reach a place where all of these practices that you're doing just become a way of living. And it becomes this really exciting experience of discovering your shadows of discovering new parts of yourself that are holding on to pain and emotions from the past, and getting to understand them and build a relationship with these different parts of yourself, and to just continue to access more and more of yourself. So now, it's just a way of living life for me, and I actually love it to bits. It's like I say, my sole purpose in life is my soul's purpose, to discover more of myself and to expand because the more that we discover ourselves, the more that we get to access our own inner gifts, and then we get to share those gifts with the world. And that's how we get to create impact and support humanity. Lesley Logan 17:01  I think that's true. You remind me of a guest we had on Keri Ford, and she's like, it's like a mountain without a peak. And it's not that you don't ever stop and look around and like, see and take a rest. But there's, as we continue to get to know ourselves and continue to grow. There is another level of which you can take that information, you know, and so it's not like you are repeating kindergarten forever in the wellness place, space, but you are kind of just continuing to go through the next ascension, also relearning the things that worked for you in a new way because now you know more. As I've been doing Pilates for 20 years in my body. I've been teaching for over 15. And the other day, I was doing an exercise and I was telling my teaching mate, like, oh, I finally could straighten my leg in this exercise. it used to always make me feel unsteady to have a straight leg in this exercise, now I can. He goes, yeah, now you can lift the other leg up if you pull it in to your body. And I was like, what? I can't, like, just let me have a moment, sir. And but I did what he said. And I was like, oh, my god, there's a whole nother level. And now, it's changed everything I know about everything. Because I like hit this, you know, you just like have a new appreciation, understanding for something that you already thought you learned, but you're learning on a deeper level because you're ready for it.Kel Cal 18:23  Yes, yes. And that's really what it's about. It's about then taking what we've learned and actually embodying it. So it just becomes who we are. And that's how we actually shift our identity, we have to embody it. It's not enough to just think it, like, you are enough but thinking it doesn't change it because 95% of our life is our subconscious and that's in our body. That's what embodiment is, it's actually taking these lessons and making them truly a part of your being.Lesley Logan 18:52  Yeah, do you, as you were trying to get some of these lessons be part of your of your being, were they're like, did you put Post-it notes everywhere? Did you write? And did you write it over and over again in journal? Do you say it out loud? Like what was your way of embodying these lesson?Kel Cal 19:08  All of the above. All of the above, like at one point in my life, it looked like there was just a Post-it factory that exploded because I have Post-it notes all over. And even now, like, I feel like that's the best purpose of Post-it notes to give yourself reminders to remember who you are, because it's so easy to forget, especially when we just go through the day and we have all of these external triggers that are cueing different emotions and different thoughts and it's keeping us stuck. So the more that we can create reminders to remember who we are and who we are becoming, the more that we get to actually step into that version of ourselves. So affirmations, writing it. But the thing with affirmations is you have to actually feel the affirmations. You have to feel it because the emotion is the embodiment part. If you're just saying it out loud and going through the motions of I am amazing and I am enough like you're thinking it but actually feeling and connecting with the emotions of the affirmation is what allows you to truly connect with it. EFT tapping is another really powerful practice to allow you to access your subconscious and to really embody the version of yourself that you want to become and to reprogram subconscious beliefs. So that's been another powerful practice for me as well.Lesley Logan 20:23  Oh, very cool. Okay. Yes. So, on the pod on Fridays, I do FYF, which is Fuck Yeah Friday. And it's for my overachievers perfectionist to have a day where they actually celebrate something they did do, because there's always things that we didn't get done. But, and I have a million things to do before a trip, and they're not gonna get done. And, and one of the things I say around here, by the way, now we're making pod merch for it, which is like, you're enough, right? One of the things I say at the end of the day is like you've done enough today. That's enough for today. But we, so on those Fuck Yeah Fridays, I actually read off an affirmation. And I used to read it off and repeat it three times so that people could like, say it with me in their car while they're walking. And most recently, I started reading it three different ways. And the reason I did that was like I was like, well, if I read it, just read it straight, then it has no emotion, and people can put their own emotion to it. But then if I emphasize different words, then it can impact someone in a different way. And you guys, it impacts me in a different way. I leave my FYF recordings, like I'm on top of the world. I'm not gonna lie, but like, I do agree, if you actually feel those things, I think it's really true. And by the way, can we all just keep Post-its and, you know, in business with our affirmations? I think that's a really cool thing. So why go into a couple of things? First of all, people are gonna want to know how you got to Bali? Did you fall in love with it? Did you go there and like, this is the place I'm gonna live? Or did you just show up with your bags packed and like, here's when we do? And then how did that lead you to the book you're bestseller for and like, what you're doing now?Kel Cal 21:56  Yeah, so my journey first began in 2018, and that was like the first layer of it. And my journey was not this, like straight line trajectory, it took every possible detour that there was. And by detour, it means I had a lot of lessons I needed to learn to become who I am today. So I don't want listeners to hear this and think, oh, she left the marriage. And then she ended up in Bali. And it was just as (inaudible) transition.Lesley Logan 22:23  You know, she's gonna have a movie about it.Kel Cal 22:25  It was not that and I share all of those detours in the book because so often it's easy to see people on social media who are like living the highlight reel life and think that they've always lived that life and no, my life and my journey had many rock bottoms. And rock bottom is a great place to rebuild your life. Because you got to really look at what's not serving you. And you got to heal the parts of yourself that were using those various coping mechanisms. So I would say, like, my journey took the next level during COVID when I had this crisis of I was forced to be alone with myself as the entire country was because we had to quarantine. And that was my greatest fear of being alone with myself. And I'm like, oh, wait, there's a problem here. So that's really when I began to go deeper within the journey that I'm doing. And it was then that I discovered my true purpose and passion. So I was doing real estate at the time. And again, just kind of going through the motions. And I realized that I was not put here on this earth to sell houses, I could, I could do it really well, I can make a lot of money, but it's not my soul's purpose. And it doesn't give me the sense of expansion and fulfillment that I desire. So fast forward to it was July 2021, I am continuing to pursue my soul's purpose and passion of creating my online business to support other women on their journey. And I made the decision to transition out of my career in real estate to my new business and going full time in that. That same week, I was sitting on my couch in my condo in Washington State, looking at this girl's Instagram, and she's also an online coach from the U.K., but living in Bali. And I'm like, that's cool as shit. She's just living her life creating her dream business pursuing her purpose. And then I heard this voice say, "You could do that." And I'm like, what? Who said that? And I'm like, oh, wait, that's my intuition. And I'm like, I actually, I kind of could do that. There's literally nothing keeping me tied to Washington and I could just go across the world and move to a country I've never been to I had never been to Bali, but. Lesley Logan 24:38  I love this so, I love this so much like I'm just gonna move to Bali. I mean, like, it looks beautiful. So I'm just gonna go figure it out when I get there. Kel Cal 24:45  Yeah, I mean, I didn't even know, I didn't even know where Bali was on the map. Like, it wasn't even in my awareness. But I'm like, all right, I guess I'm moving to Bali. And then I had to really become the version of myself that could move to Bali and could move across the world to a country she's never been to. So that was the real preparation, I moved to Bali. It wasn't figuring out the passport and the visas and making reservations for where I'm going to live. It was becoming that version of me, who could actually pursue that.Lesley Logan 25:15  I love that you brought that up because that's like such a be it till you see it moment, isn't it? Like, I would have thought that you would have moved to Bali and then embodied the person you want it to be. But I love that you're like, I have to become the person who's living in Bali. Now, I have to like, be that person, I have to change that lifestyle. Because otherwise, you could,you probably would have just ended back in Washington, being a real estate agent that you were, or being in real estate because you hadn't made the changes beforehand. It's not easy to change your habits and change how you meet expectations for yourself.Kel Cal 25:50  No, it's not easy at all. But that's, that's how we become that future version of ourself. We become that version of ourself now, because the future doesn't even exist. And the only time we can actually make changes is right now in this moment, because we tell ourselves, we'll do it tomorrow will change tomorrow. But tomorrow, doesn't exist because when it arrives, it's called today. So when we can begin to become that version of who we desire to be to become her now, that's when we actually get to close those timelines and create our future and live that life now. So I really view it as just practice, practice being the future version of yourself now, like, try it on for size? How would the future version of you show up to whatever activity it is that you're doing? How would she progress throughout the day? How does she show up and start practicing showing up as her?Lesley Logan 26:44  Yes, I love that. Okay, so you move to Bali sight unseen. I just fucking love. Ladies, we can do it, we can just move to a place without checking it out first. So first of all, of course, everything we like, how did you like make a living? How did you like Were you already doing your coaching business? And then how does that how you wrote your book. And then also you said, we've talked about the wins other names, so let's make sure we get that.Kel Cal 27:09  Okay, so when I moved to Bali, I was building my online business that oh, which I still am. And I had the vision of writing a book for a long time. And I initially discovered my love for writing throughout my journaling journey, because I had never really written before I never journaled before, I started in 2018. And then I realized I actually love writing. And even at the beginning of my journey, I knew I would share it one day, I can remember I was in a domestic violence support group. And I had discovered TED Talks. And that was like my gateway drug to personal development. So I'm like, whoa, you can actually make all of these changes. So I watched a shit ton of TED Talks, and I was talking about them constantly. And the facilitator on the domestic violence support group called me TED Talk Kelly. And she's like, you're gonna have a TED talk one day. And that's, that feels so far away, because I'm literally just trying to survive. But also, it was so exciting, because I'm like, yes, I am going to share my journey one day, and it's going to empower other women to make these changes for themselves. So that's kind of when the seed was first planted. And then, as I continued to go on this journey of healing and self-love, which it's just to return to who you already are, like, it's not about becoming someone else. It's about becoming who you already are, beneath everything that you're not. So I had this vision of writing a book, and it was always like, now is not the right time. And we tell ourselves now is not the right time for a few reasons. One, because we have fear and limiting beliefs that are talking us out of it. And sometimes it's just truly not aligned for the right time. And for me, it's because I was still living the book that I would be writing. So my book starts with me getting on a flight in 2018 to move across the country to restart my life. And it ends in 2023 with me getting on a flight to move across the world to create my life. So it really just, I was still living the book. So that was really like one of the, one of the main things that I had as far as my vision of Bali. It's like, I'm going to write my book in Bali and that's what I did.Lesley Logan 29:25  Okay, the name of your book. Oh, yes.Kel Cal 29:28  How I Cured My Resting Bitch Face: Your Guide to Stop Settling, Fall in Love with Yourself, and Create a Life You're Obsessed With.Lesley Logan 29:36  Oh my gosh, Thank you, also, for just like saying the dates of these things because, even me, someone who is fully aware that like nothing happens overnight, I'm thinking oh, until, oh, she moved in 2021. You know what I mean? Like I just have, you had the, you had the intuition. You're like okay, I moved. No, it took you a couple more years like it took a, you know, like, everything takes a little bit of time and it's allowed to take time. But I love that you said like we'll say things like, now's not the right time. Another phrase we say is I can't afford, and what I love to reframe those as I'm not, I'm not choosing to do that in this moment, or I'm not choosing to invest that money in that thing right now. So those are, to reframe those phrases allows you to take back control of the idea, and actually make a choice and a decision. That's not a limiting belief. And it's actually something you can explore and make a possibility. So I love, I love the name of your book, I think it's really, I think it's really hilarious. And I think, I hope a lot of our listeners grab it. What are you most excited about right now? Kel Cal 30:43  Oh, so right now I am most excited about continuing to move towards becoming the version of myself that is fully creating the impact that I know I am here to make. So I have the vision of becoming a published author and sharing my journey. And I'm so, so proud of this book. And it's just my first book, because I know that there are future books that I'm currently living. So that was that was like one pillar, becoming an author. And then I have this vision of becoming a speaker. So I actually just invested in public speaking mentorship program. It's an eight-week program. And at the end of the program, I will be speaking at an event. It's called Fab X, which is kind of like Bali's version of TEDx, but with a little bit more soul ads. You know, as a coach, I really believe in the power of working with the coach and investing in yourself. Because, first of all, like, could you do any of this on your own? Could I, I worked with a coach to write my book. Could I've written my book on my own? Absolutely. But why not work with someone who's done what you want to do? So that way, they can guide you and support you. Lesley Logan 31:50  I love that. Kel Cal 31:51  And also, when you invest in yourself, that's like the first step of the transformation. Because the moment you say yes, and you actually put your money where your mouth is, it's kind of forcing you to start showing up in a new way. So by me investing in this program, it's like proclaiming to the universe like, yes, I'm committed to this, I'm showing up to this because my words are my gift, both written and spoken. So now I need to become the version of myself who can really share that gift.Lesley Logan 32:23  I love, I love and I couldn't agree more like, y'all, as a Pilates instructor, I have a Pilates instructor. As a coach, I have a coach. Like, the you, yes, you can get places on your own, but you can go really slow. You have a lot more detours. And it's always nice to have a guide who's you know, been where you want to go and then you'll evolve and you'll find another guide for yourself. So that's beautiful. We're gonna take a brief break, then we're gonna find out where people can find you, follow you, work with you, and your Be It Action Items. Lesley Logan 32:55  All right, Kel, where do you hang out? Where's your book at? How do we, how do we stalk you a little bit in the best way? Kel Cal 33:01  Okay, so I hang out on Instagram a lot. I love Instagram stories. So you can connect with me there @IamKelCal I also have my podcast which you have been a guest on. It's an amazing episode. My podcast is Dear Dumb Bitch. And my book How I Cured My Resting Bitch Face is available on Amazon and other retailers like Barnes and Noble, but Amazon's probably the best way to get it. Lesley Logan 33:29  Love it, we'll have all those links below. Okay. It's been a fun, it's been amazing, you've given us so much already. But bold, executable, intrinsic, target steps people can take away to be it till they see it. What do you have for us?Kel Cal 33:43  Okay, I actually have two and I really want to share both of them. So when we have a vision for ourself and our life, when we make like the vision board, a lot of the times we think it's about the things on the vision board, it's about the vacation, it's about the dream job, it's about the dream partner. And it's not really about any of those things, it's about how we think those things will make us feel. So we don't manifest what we want, we manifest what we are, which means we need to actually embody the emotions of what it is that we desire. so that way we can become an energetic match for them. So, one way you can do this is, it's actually a two-part process. So, identify the emotions that you think you will feel once you have the things on the vision board, and then create opportunities to begin to feel those emotions now. So let's just say you want a six-figure bank accounts. Okay? How is that going to make you feel? It might make me feel like I have stability and security. So start creating opportunities to feel what it's like to have stability and security in your life now. And then also look for ways that you already have stability and security in your life because that's going to start to create the neural pathways to start to recognize where you already have it, and then you can invite more of it in. So creating opportunities to experience more of the emotion, and also looking for ways that it's already present in your life. It might not be through financial means, but it might mean through other aspects of your life. So that's, that's one. And then the other way is, so, music is energy. And energy carries a frequency, which also allows us to calibrate. So pick a song and make it be your theme song that really embodies the energy of how you want to feel in the future. And then play that song every single morning, it's important to do it in the morning, because it's easy to just have the day go on and then you forget to actually do it. But put this song on and actually feel the emotions that the song is allowing you to connect with, that really represents how you desire to feel in the future, and how your life is going to feel in the future. So that way, you can have that energetic connection, because that's really how you're able to become a match for what it is that you desire.Lesley Logan 36:15  I'm obsessed with these. I've never had either of these as I mean, we've had lots of manifestation tips, but that was fucking awesome. Kel, I love them both. And now I'm like what song we want to play tomorrow morning like I (inaudible) music journey. Kel Cal 36:32  Yeah, and allow yourself to like move and actually like move in the way future you moves and embody that energy because that's, it's magical. Lesley Logan 36:44  I used to play level up at my studio, whenever I'd come in to my studio when I first opened it and I would like blast, it'd be like 7:30 in the morning, like just like level up, right? And then and then I would play Now We Are Free in between each client. So I could like wash my hands from the gladiator and like now I'm free of that energy like, not that I hated them. That's not it at all. It's just that people leave their energy around. And that was like my way of staging my studio. But I love the idea of playing the song of the person I want to be and like the energy I want to embody. That's brilliant. Fuck yeah. Love this. Kel, you are so awesome. Thank you so much for sharing your tips. We'll have to have you back, of course. And you guys, how are we going to use these tips in your life? Tag Kel, tag the Be It Pod. Let us know, go get her book, and, you know, give yourself permission to be continually learning. Doesn't mean you failed. I think it's really easy. I hear some of our listeners what, I should have learned that already. It's like you did, you're just at a new level now. So I feel like that's one of the best messages I got from this podcast episode. So thank you Kel, for giving us that. And y'all, until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 37:51  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. 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In this episode of the "Say Yes Anyway" podcast, I had an enlightening conversation with Keri Ford, the CEO and founder of Elevate with Keri . Keri shared her journey of founding a transformational coaching movement dedicated to elevating emotional intelligence and somatic strategies for high-performing individuals. Keri opened up about her personal experiences, including traumatic events like an eating disorder, sexual abuse, divorce, and breast implant illness. Through these challenges, she found a path to growth and self-discovery, leading her to a deeper understanding of somatic work and emotional healing. One of the highlights of the episode was Keri's candid discussion about her divorce and the profound impact it had on her spiritual awakening. She shared how the divorce was a pivotal moment that led her to surrender and find peace within herself. Overall, the episode highlighted the transformative power of healing trauma, embracing vulnerability, and prioritizing mental health in personal and professional relationships. Keri's journey serves as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the potential for growth and healing in the face of adversity. Where you can find Keri: Instagram: @iamkeriford Website: https://elevatewithkeri.com/ If you liked it, share it with a friend or on social media and tag @jessdahl_ and @iamkeriford. Leave a review on ⁠apple podcast⁠, or rate it over on ⁠spotify!⁠ All of it helps =)

In this episode we will dive deep into personal development, self-discovery, and the powerful journey of healing and growth. Join us as we follow the incredible transformation of our guest Keri Ford, a single mom who, after her life fell apart, decided to take a bold step towards change. She explored holistic fitness, hired a coach, and discovered the game-changer: somatic work. In each episode, we explore how this somatic nervous system strategy can impact and empower executive-level women. Get ready for stories of resilience, curiosity, and healing as we unlock the missing puzzle pieces for a different and more fulfilling life. It's time to rewrite your story, and it starts right here.Where can you find our guest?https://www.instagram.com/iamkeriford/https://elevatewithkeri.com/the-somatic-success-academy/Learn more about www.MyCoachAi.comThis is the official partner of The CreateU Experience podcast. The first-ever platform that consolidates what coaches and businesses need to get more customers. By automating the repetitive tasks, leveraging algorithms, and optimizing communication to better deliver courses, memberships, and 1-on-1 coaching - www.MyCoachAi.com is here to support your growth.that consolidates what coaches and businesses need to get more customers. By automating the repetitive tasks, leveraging algorithms, and optimizing communication to better deliver courses, memberships, and 1-on-1 coaching - www.MyCoachAi.com is here to support your growth.

In this episode, Lesley and Brad explore the concept of doubling your goals and how it can transform your life. Discover why challenging yourself is the key to achieving your dreams and learn how to prioritize your goals amid life's demands.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How to challenge your comfort zone by doubling your goals.The importance of understanding the "why" behind your goals.How to set clear intentions and timeline to your goals.Why you should embrace the journey, not just the destination.Episode References/Links:WE & LL Weekend in ChicagoOPC WorkshopsBusiness CoachingReady is a Lie by Angie Lee  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Get your free Athletic Greens 1 year supply of Vitamin D3+K2 and 5 free travel packsGet your discount for some Toe Sox using the code: LESLEYBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:00  Goals should be fucking scary. They should be bigger than what you think you can do because they actually make you become a new person. They make you, they challenge you and they actually they actually make you show up for things that you wouldn't do.Lesley Logan 0:09  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 0:10  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It Interview Recap where my co-host in life, Brad and I are going to dig into the thought-provoking convo I had with Jake Kaufman in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to the interview, feel free to pause this now. Go back and listen to that one and then come back and join us. So fine, we actually, Jake is a friend we know him we get to spend some time together we kind of briefly chatted about him in a previous podcast for my Enneagram and Keri Ford is his partner. So lots of amazing people come into the pod because we have amazing friends Brad's so fun. Today, you all is October 19th 2023, if you're listening to in real time, which means it is Conflict Resolution Day. And according to this day, in the calendar, it says conflicts arise in many areas of our life, such as workplaces, relationships and families. It's unavoidable process of life. What is important, however, is how we resolve it. Conflict Resolution is not happy, nasty, can be resolved through peaceful methods. So do any complex or stressing you out you can actually call or text us and share your conflict. And we can give advice.Brad Crowell 1:14  Yeah, so no, we'll keep it neutral.Lesley Logan 1:16  I love it. Actually, we should give advice I listened to Don't Ask Tig and I listened to Elijah (inaudible) and they give advice on conflicts all the time. All the time. And you know what I love? I love to see if like what they answer I agree with and, you know, typically with Eliza we're on point. Always. I'm gonna tell her that to her face someday. Take a not always no. But I love Tig Notaro. She's so nice. But like this last episode, I listened to them. I didn't agree with any advice they gave out. So that's reallly funny. So you can text we have a number to text us. +1 3-2-3-5-4-6-0 Hold on. +1-3-2-3-5-4-6-6-0-4-2 I would not have chosen that phone number guys. It's too many numbers.Brad Crowell 2:06  We might change it but for now you can text us there. Lesley Logan 2:08  It should be like blah, blah, blah. Be It Pod. Like it should be like it should just spell it out. I know that the kids today are (Brad Crowell: I'll tell the producers to get this shit together.) The kids today don't know how to use a phone number. (inaudible) Oh my gosh, I so Little McKenna, because her favorite word is poop. And I told her I said, Hey, my favorite coffee shop's bathroom is bathroom code is 7667. And I said Do you know what that means? And she's like, No. And I was like, it spells poop. She's like, did like I don't understand how that's possible. And I was like, Okay, let me explain your phone to you. So anyways, if you have conflicts that are stressing you out, you can call or text us at 323-546-6042. And we'll give you some advice. We'll put it in the question section. I think that's really fun. I do want to say something about conflict. That is I'm not good at this yet. But I remember our coaches from a while back saying like, do you want to win? Like, is it important to you that you are right, or that you work it out? And the thing is, is that sometimes in conflicts, we just want the person to go, you're right. And like that's rarely good. Like unless the other person is like also enlightened and like understand is right. Like there are people in your life. Like you can probably pick them out right now that even if you share how somebody makes you feel, they're never gonna go, oh my god, I'm sorry. I'm the asshole. Like, it's just not gonna happen. That's why there's a conflict there. But you have to kind of go okay, like, do I need to be right? Or do I just need to work this out. And it doesn't mean like compromising yourself. But it might mean like, just not bringing up 17 things that are bothering you. And just going like, here's the thing that I really needed to change so that we can like, like, stop being late. As opposed to you're late, and you're overbearing, and you call too much. And you're all these things like what is the one thing that would really if they could change that like could actually make the relationship better?Brad Crowell 4:00  That sounds pretty personal, but just kidding. Lesley Logan 4:05  Oh, it's not about you. But are you feeling guilty about being late all the time? (Brad: Maybe.)Lesley Logan 4:10  Oh, someone's guilty. You guys this is how my dad handles a conflict with Brad. He's like he's like He says, my dad says it, Brad every fucking time he gets in the car. Not five minutes early, you're five minutes late. Brad Crowell 4:22  Right. If you're early you're early. Yeah, you know, you're gonna be on top. We're gonna be on time they'll work. Yeah, well listen, you know, we we would happily give you some advice on how you can be it till you see it while trying to resolve your conflict. So yeah. Text us at +1-3-3-5-4-6-6-4. Okay, (Lesley: See?) 323-546-6042.Lesley Logan 4:52  Well, the way we said it so many times people were like, hold on. repeat that one more time and we did it. But do you see how they don't flow together, they don't flow together. Brad Crowell 5:00  It's not a flow number. Lesley Logan 5:02  No, no, my work phone number is really flowy like I will I looked at 10 numbers and I was like, this is the one. Okay, so this week we are oh my gosh, are we still in Cambodia? (inaudible) Yes, we're still in Cambodia. (Brad: In fact.) We're getting the house ready for next year as well. Because we'll have a retreat in October of next year. And if you are on the waitlist for that retreat, you're gonna get the best price like you'll get the best price. So because our waitlisters, get the early bird price. Right?Brad Crowell 5:35  Yeah. So basically, get yourself on that waitlist by going to Lesleylogan.co/retreat. We will be announcing all that stuff the beginning of next year. Right in early next year. Probably January. Yeah, we'd be looking at so we'll start sending some emails out about that at the end of this year. Lesley Logan 5:55  Actually, if you're on the waitlist, I send you an email every month, let you know what's going on, in fact that people on the waitlist already have the date saved they are like it's really, we really help you out because we know it takes a lot to plan a big trip. And we have people who are already planning on coming. So it's possible that it sells out really quickly. So you're gonna want to make sure on that waitlist. Brad Crowell 6:12  Yeah, things are starting to get busy again with our retreats. So yeah, don't wait on this right now. We're still only running one a year. And there's only room for 20. So you know, don't don't sit on that. Alright, moving on.Lesley Logan 6:25  Moving on November I am you can sign up for Chicago when you hear this if there's any spots left. So each of the classes only have sponsor 12. And the workshops only have space for 24. That might sound like a lot of people. It's not a lot of people because it's Chicago and there's a lot of fucking people in there. So you're gonna want to go to beitpod.com/chicago to snag your spot. That'd be beitpod.com/chicago. Erika Quest and I are teaching team workshop, classical contemporary collides. I'm teaching a workshop on how to build your tower and Springboard class. I have a masterclass there. I'm so excited to be teaching in Chicago, this is going to be a lot of fun. So we'll be back. And it's great. And then in December, I will have details on my workshops in Frisco, Texas, the first week of December with Erika Quest soon. First people get to there's like a group of people get to send it first. Sorry, don't get mad. They're inviting us. So they get first dibs. But then we'll be on tour. So we have already planned this out. By the time you're hearing this, we already have the cities locked down, we order the things and in fact, we probably are already marketing some of those said cities right now. But at the time we're recording this. We're still putting those things in place. But it's our biggest best tour ever. And I'm so fucking excited about it. It's gonna be amazing.)Brad Crowell 7:40  It's gonna be amazing. We're gonna be basically rolling out cities as we confirm them, right? So consistently check back there may be a city near you. We're gonna do 7000 miles on this upcoming tours.Lesley Logan 7:53  We have people who are all like we will we have some members who already know we're not coming to their city. And we're like, oh, we're hoping to go this city and like two hours away. I'm gonna make that happen. What do you think it's going to be? I'm gonna start blocking my day out. So we're driving 7000 miles, you could drive 100? I'm just saying.Brad Crowell 8:08  Yes, we'll be able to answer that. Yes.Lesley Logan 8:10  Yeah. Conflict resolution right there.Brad Crowell 8:14  In the meantime, get yourself on our waitlist for our events go to opc.me/event opc.me/event.Lesley Logan 8:21  Yeah, then you won't have to worry about missing anything with like socials or emails or whatever. Because it is the holidays. It gets crazy. Before getting talking to Jake Kaufman. Do we have an audience question?Brad Crowell 8:32  We totally do. This came from IG. Thanks so much for asking. The question is I started an online platform because my social media has a good following, but I feel like it's turning into a full time job. Does it ever simply become a side hustle?Lesley Logan 8:48  I mean, it's someone's full time job. Whether it's yours or not, is a different story. But this question I really loved and I actually chatted a little bit about it on Instagram, and it got a lot of people going, Oh, my God, I feel so seen because my answer was, yeah, it's it's multiple people's full time jobs. So Brad can pitch Brad Crowell 9:07  I can definitely attest. I mean, the second person in our company that we ever hired, was to begin supporting the online platform. Yeah, it was a video editor. Yeah. And we brought her in and she said, I need five hours of work a week. I said, perfect. I'm offloading the editing of these classes to you. And so she was editing two classes every single week. But that was like the second person that we hired today our team has grown to more than 20. Yeah, not all of them are working on full time on the on the online platform there there are, I don't know but like seven to ten people who are working on our platform all the time. Lesley Logan 9:11  Here's the hat I still wear for OPC I'm still the content creator. I'm still the social media manager and content creator of that content. I am still the marketing head of said things. You're writing the emails, I'm writing the emails I am creating the classes I'm done the person filming the classesBrad Crowell 10:03  Plus you're planning stuff out too. (inaudible) Lesley Logan 10:05  And then I also have things I also brought on other teachers thinking that would actually help me out. But I still have to manage them and approve their classes and approve their stuff and their ideas. And I'm still the person who comes up with all the workshops and all the things. So I still have a heavy workload. And sometimes I'm customer service, because people don't go to customer service, they'll come to me and I'm like, you come to my DMs. And it's, I don't want to I don't go fuck you. But I want to go, I have no idea what your password is like, I don't know. I don't know what you bought that with? Did you put your right email in? So um, sometimes customer service. And then. And then we have Brad who runs the team, we have a project manager who makes sure everything happens on time, we have a full time editor, someone who literally edits so much that he has full fucking time. And we are not even putting out the same amount of content that light plays anytime or any of the other people are. We also have a full time customer service person. And we have Emma she's like total strategist when it comes to ads and things like that, and conversion. And we have somebody who who schedules those said newsletters we likeBrad Crowell 11:13  All of that said, Listen, don't cry for me, Argentina. That's not what we're not putting this out there. You know, we're not trying to make you feel bad for us. But we are definitely saying that what started as what we thought was going to be a side hustle and forever recurring revenue. (Lesley: Oh, yeah.) it was not realistic for us to have those expectations. Because, you know, now we're five years into this project. And the fact is, in order for us to go bigger, to go better, to get better quality stuff, to be more consistent with our deliverables, to make our website easier to use, to make sure that (Lesley: I forgot the developers, I forgot all this) make sure that we're getting, you know, people the support that they need to use the membership. It's turned into a hell of a project. And we're quite proud of it, but not in any way, shape, or form is it a side hustle.Lesley Logan 12:03  Yeah. And I love that you pointed out, it's like, don't cry for me. My friend Erica Hood, she's been on the show before. She actually said, yes, everything you said on this Instagram thing is true. And I still would do it. And so you just have to ask yourself like, like, it's that idea of like, choose your shit sandwich, like life is, is basically some amazing bread, and some sort of like awesome things that you love, you know, like you love a certain sauce, you love a certain salad, you love a certain cheese, some shit in the middle, some more good stuff and some bread, right? So there's always going to be a trade off everything. It's called balance. So you just have like you decided that's what you want. If you're like, I hate technology, or I hate social media, or I don't want to wear all these hats. There's other ways of making an income stream. And, and but don't I wish we had known at the time, it wasn't a side hustle. I wish we would have known like we're stepping into a full time hustle.Brad Crowell 13:01  It's a hungry baby, right? Yes. What we mean by that is it actually never grows up, you're always going to be producing content for it. So if you're looking for something that could become a side hustle, you want something that has a start and a stop to it. So that it's like a course or a webinarBrad Crowell 13:16  or our work or our workout series, you know.Brad Crowell 13:20  Yeah, but it'd be a courser webinar, it's a start and stop, right? So like it could be a sequence of things. The point is that it's not consistently requiring new content. And then what you can do is you can make the most amazing, incredible, fantastic, super over-deliverable content once Yeah, and then you can focus on the marketing aspect of it. That would be far more of a side hustle than a membership. Lesley Logan 13:33  And if you are wanting to dive into this, we do all this inside of agency. So you can go to profitablepilates.com/agency to check that out. If you want to book a call and see if you just do the right thing that's for you, then reach out to the team, you can use that phone number that we repeated 17 times. No, don't use that. Don't use that one. Okay. Lesley Logan 13:46  So on the agency page is a place to book a call with me. Lesley Logan 14:04  Oh, book a call. And that way you can just see because it's important that you know these things, so that you can actually make the right decision for you based on your goals. So thanks, you can send your questions into the Be It pod. You can use well you can't use the phone number for that. And you can use Instagram or, or anything that we find the Be It pod on and send your questions I will answer them.Brad Crowell 15:45  Okay, here we go. Okay, now let's talk about Jacob Kauffman. Mr. Jake Kauffman is an author, International Men's transformation coach and spiritual mentor. He delved deep into the complexities of human motivation and self-worth, specifically his own, to write his new book in order to help men align with their deepest self-truth and authentic self.Lesley Logan 17:30  I loved a lot, it was really fun. I thought, there's some really good stuff in there. And so he talked a lot. My favorite thing I think, was probably like, readiness is not a state of being, readiness is a decision. And I Brad Crowell 17:43  I think that was pretty powerful, too.Lesley Logan 17:45  I'm like, done, interview done. That's enough. Just put that on repeat over and over again. It's a mantra like, because I, we hear this all the time, I'm not ready. I'm not ready. I'll join when I'm ready. I'll do this when I'm ready. And it's like, I just even saying those things out loud, you can clearly hear that readiness is a decision. It's not a state of being and like, Angie Lee is always about, I think she's been writing a book called Ready is a Lie. Because the point that you actually do feel ready for things is when you're almost sort of you're too late to the game. But like, you're feeling ready, because so many people have done what you were thinking of doing that now it feels safe, or you have, like, your goal of that thing is no longer scary to you. And, you know, we've talked to so many people about goals should be fucking scary. They should be bigger than what you think you can do. Because they actually make you become a new person they make they challenge you. And they actually, they actually make you show up for things that you wouldn't do. You know, so I, I'm like, I loved it. Like, that's enough for me to love. But there's a couple other things in here. But I just, I don't know, I just really think that is brilliant.Brad Crowell 18:58  Yeah, I mean, you know, I think even just in relationships and stuff, you know, I remember after my ex right away, I was like, I'm not ready. So I like was 100% unavailable. I didn't go on dates, I didn't talk to people about it nothing, right. And when we met even after we started seeing each other for, you know, on and off again for roughly six months, and even then I didn't feel ready. You know, to make it an official real consistent thing. And that if I had trusted my feelings, I don't think we ever would have gotten together because I would have continued to break up with you.Lesley Logan 19:45  You already broke up with me twice. There was not. There was not going to be a third time. Brad Crowell 19:50  But there was a point where it became had to be a decision and the decision was in direct conflict with the way I felt which was weird because it became this like heart versus head scenario of, you know, the logic, the logical Brad looked at everything written down on paper and was like, yes, but why do I feel afraid? Right? And that, and that was where that was the crux of it for me, because I was like, well, I shouldn't be ready, but I don't feel it. But I know that this is, I know that one plus one equals two here. But why does it feel like one plus one equals three? It feels like one, you know, and that's not that clearly isn't right. So it became this really internal struggle. But that's why I really appreciated what he's talking about what readiness is, it's not a state of being readiness is a decision that you make. And so when we started dating, I was like, I am ready to date even though I don't feel like I'm ready.Lesley Logan 20:47  Yeah, I remember that. Actually. I remember being, I remember being dumped twice.Brad Crowell 20:56  It's confusing for you.Lesley Logan 20:58  The most confusing thing was when you gave me a present, and then you told me not to read into it. I was like, That's so weird. It sounds strange. But it was a decision for you. I think it was also a decision. I remember that being a decision for me as well, because I remember when you decided that you were, like ready to try and I was like, oh, there's dog food at my house for a dog that's not mine. And there's things here for the next time you come am I, am I ready for this? And I was like, well, it's a decision we're making. Here we go. So I think I joke a lot like the reason this podcast even exists, Be It Till You See It is because I don't often feel ready for most of the things we decided to do. I like actually joke that there's a lot of times I feel like, you know, when you're at the top of the roller coaster, and then you get to like, it's like, I don't know, I did six flags a lot. And they had this old, old roller coaster. It's like clink, clink, clink, and like with each one builds up this like? Yeah, but it builds up this like, there's nerves, there's excitement, there's fear, there's likeBrad Crowell 22:03  It's true. The anticipation. Lesley Logan 22:04  The anticipation. Like, when are we at the top?Brad Crowell 22:06  I wonder if that's on purpose? I mean, I know it's the mechanics of the thing. (inaudible)Lesley Logan 22:11  I think the new ones do it just for the fuck of it. I don't think they actually make those noises. But the old ones make those noises. Right. And so, but I find that everything we do, I feel like I am going, my arms up. And I'm just like, here we go. I have no idea where this roller coaster is going and I say all that because I don't ever actually feel ready. But I also know that I can't go back. Like I know too much. You know what I mean? Like I, I have this idea. I have this goal. I have this thing I have to I have to see it out. And so I actually feel uncomfortable trying things like, you know this for me, like, how annoying was I when I was like we needed this podcast and it's fine. And you're like, No, we have to wait another year. And like we need this podcast, like I just could not let it go. Because I had to do it. Because I had this idea I was being I could see how it could work. And I was scared as fuck. But I had to do those things. And so I find like that the simple way of thinking of readiness is a decision versus like a state of being is really, really unique and a great way to summarize things. And I hope that everyone listening to this goes, Okay. Make a fucking decision. Like even if you decide not to do something, that's fine, but the state of like being in between and waffling is really uncomfortable and very stressful. I'm sure you were very stressed out trying to decide if you should date me or not. I know because you called me to talk about it after you broke up with me. Anyways, we should move on to what you liked.Brad Crowell 23:47  Okay, so one thing I thought was really interesting was, Jake was talking about happiness, and the state of happiness and the pursuit of happiness, and how it's kind of a shallow, shallow goal. And I kind of wanted to talk about that a little more, because there's one thing specifically that resonated with me. First off, he's like, he's, he talks about how happiness is is kind of short-lived. It's a moment. And it's, it's not like an ongoing state. You know, and so that's why, when we like we can trick ourselves into feeling happy by achieving a goal. And then we turn into a goal, like, driven. It's a goal-driven society that we live in already. But if you're like, allowing yourself to hit a goal, which is a good thing, not not not a bad thing, but when you hit a goal, we feel good but then what we go like you and I are workaholics. And by nature, it's just how we are. And we never leave ourselves time between what we just did. And the next thing to appreciate what we just did. So we feel happy for like, just a brief moment. And then we're like back to the grindstone because we got another goal we have to hit over the next hill.Lesley Logan 25:18  I don't love workaholic. And I also don't totally agree with all of that. But I do understand that we could celebrate, we could spend more time celebrating more. Yes.Brad Crowell 25:26  Yeah. But But Well, that's not my point. My point is that if we, if our life turns into goal to goal to goal to goal to goal, and you know, then we're constantly driving ourselves, you know, to hit that goal, where, and that and that ultimately, like, you know, ultimately, that's not sustainable. It leads to depression. You know, it leads it leads to you, judging yourself beating yourself up, right. And soLesley Logan 25:54  I definitely feel like in 2020, when we did like three Agency Minis, that's the only time we've ever done three in a year, I felt like, okay, we are not sitting in the moment of celebrating what is happening. And we are putting ourselves through too much. And I think sometimes you have to almost some people might have to do too much to understand where that line is. And like and to really understand like, oh, okay, that's more than I can handle. Now. Let me take a step back. And I agree, like you have to celebrate those moments. Otherwise, you just what are you doing it for?Brad Crowell 26:27  Yeah, yeah. Well, well. You know, I just thought it was interesting, to, you know, I grew up with, I grew up in the church, and they talked a lot about this idea of contentedness. Right. And I always thought it was a little cheesy. And I always thought it was like, you know, it was an opportunity for people to to slack off and, and call that normal, like, oh, I'm being content, but I'm not actually doing anything. Right. And so I think that's like, the wrong way to look at that first off, like today, but I also think that like, let's like a completely other side of the coin, where it's like, you're going from goal to goal to goal to goal to goal, or you're like doing nothing. Those are like the two extremes. I wonder if there's a way that we could marry the two, you know, like, it'd be meet in the middle. AndLesley Logan 27:16  I think you're calling me and I look for balance. And we already know that that's not real. But I also I do I remember the church, I remember like people saying you're never content. And I remember going, why the fuck should I be? This is not good enough. And I think like, I think contentment is something that you get to define what that is, and it's absolutely fucking okay, if what you're in right now is not something you want to be content with. However, if you are not ever taken a moment to give your like, reflect back on what you have fucking done. You are, you are going to burn out. Right. But I do. I do think like, Brad Crowell 27:59  I don't think I have the answer for this. Lesley Logan 28:01  I know. I don't. I don't think it's I think it's individual. But I do understand I hate like, I just want to be happy. Well, yeah, I feel like that's a decision too I feel like just like, I feel like happiness is a decision you can be I have we have when we were in LA, I met many a happy homeless person. I'm, being really honest. Not everyone. But there was some people who were like, truly kind and nice.Brad Crowell 28:25  I wonder, I wonder if we could amend. If we had a further conversation with Jake, maybe we would amend that statement, that happiness is fleeting, maybe its goal, like, say achieving goals is fleeting, right? And the happiness is where you what you can find between the goals? (Lesley: Well, I think I love your bringing this up.) You know, the idea of chasing rainbows. And, you know, not that like rainbows are I mean, I don't know if I agree with that. Because rainbows, you'll never actually catch them. (Lesley: No we try, we catched one, we did.) We did, we actually went under one we're like we did, it's gone. Lesley Logan 28:56  It's gone. We're like I was trying to film it. It was like, I don't know what crazy but I actually, you know, here's the thing. Remember, we had James Patrick on and he was talking about how the goal cannot be I get a magazine cover. The goal has to be the actions that I take that I have control over. And I think most people's goals, including what they define as happiness, have way too much to do with things they have no control over. And that's why it's shallow. Or maybe that's not the best word but fleeting. Brad Crowell 29:34  Well, even if you achieve it, like you know, like, like, you know, I want to get whatever it is in your life, whether it's a business move you're making or a car you need to buy or a school you want to go to or whatever, you know, like you did it you got that, you know, and then the most what we're taught as a society is like (Lesley: What's next?) What's next and that's I think, oh is the issue. That's where it's the quote-unquote chasing rainbows. Just jumping from goal to goal to goal. Lesley Logan 30:01  Every woman listening to this understands this because it's like, oh, you're dating when are you getting married? (Brad: Oh, right. Oh, congratulations when are you having kids? - inaudible - Oh, I need this.) Oh my, you know what I loved so much. When we bought this house, we actually, talk about fleeting. We literally fucking sign way too many papers you guys and then got on a flight at two in the fucking morning. So not even eight hours later, from signing the papers on this house, we got on a plane to go to Korea. And thank God for our amazing co-workers and friends. They're not like they're just colleagues, actually, they all made a point to make sure they celebrated us buying our house, because we weren't at home to celebrate buying our house, you know, (Brad: We were gone for two more weeks.) I really just appreciated them all so much. I don't think that they even know the power of what that was. But just that every single day somebody there was like, oh my god, congratulations on your house like, and I just felt like that was so special. And so maybe we can actually do is it's really hard to like take to like understand yourself and your celebration. But what if the people around you, you help them celebrate their, what they achieved more. And even later, even a week after? Hey, I saw this congratulations so that you can kind of help because if you do that for them, it's reciprocity. They're gonna do it for you, they're gonna realize how good it is. And again, I don't think happiness should ever be the fucking goal. I do go back to like, how can we be the best fucking person that we can ever be so that the people around us lives are better because we're in it. And, and that goes to like this book that he wrote, he wrote this book to help people based on what he experienced in his life and what he learned. So you could pay that forward. And I think that that's like whether you read a book, whether you're a teacher, whether you're a parent, whatever, we're all actually just trying to leave, I hope, I don't know. But I like to think that you're listening this podcast, you're all we're all trying to leave this world a better place than we found it. And that's a fucking great goal, rather than happiness being the goal. Anyways, I guess we like pontificated a little bit. Okay, that's what the recap's for. Brad Crowell 31:11  Stick around. Brad Crowell 31:55  Alright, so finally, let's talk about those Be It Action Items. What bold, executed, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Jacob Kauffman? So okay, so ironically, we talked about goals. But we didn't talk about the the achievement of goals. Instead, we talked about the challenge of the work that you do to achieve the goal, right. So double your goals is what Jake was talking about. So, you know, he said, if you have a goal, write it down, and then double it. So if you if it's monetary or quantitative, you can literally just put times two, if it is time-sensitive, cut the time in half. And challenge yourself because he said we often set safe goals for ourselves, as well. And the safe goal would be like, Oh, I think I'm gonna write a book in five years. Yeah. Right. And he's like, what if you did it in two and a half? Or what if you did it instead of 12 months? You did it in six months? Right? And I thought that was cool. Because, you know, not that it's not that we want to focus on only the achievement of the goal, although we do believe in celebrating your wins and achieving a goal is a win. But in this case, what we're talking about is challenging yourself with the actions that you're taking. And, you know, he said that most people set goals that are you know, we we'd be surprised of what we can do if we actually pushed ourselves.Lesley Logan 35:05  Yeah, yeah, I think I actually really enjoyed like cutting the time in half or, or doubling the goal. You know, I think I talked about this with an episode is coming out soon with Michael and broke and we brought him back. He has a massive goal of having 10 New York Times bestsellers. That's a massive, it's a massive goal. And he definitely has not cut the time in half. But I would say he, that's a fucking huge goal that like really challenges him to be a different person. But it made me think of and her name is escaping me still. And I think you could help me. Remember the woman who we had on the pod and a webinar who wanted to do like the bold like bodacious, like not bodacious, probably the bat like, like the bigger than God goals like that was her whole thing. Do you remember her? Joanna Vargas refer to her and Halina as it's like, it's a beautiful name, and I can't think of her name. But she, she talks about having these goals that are so beyond what you actually could figure out on your own, so that the universe actually has to step in and meet you with your preparation. And I really fucking I think this is what that makes me think of. Because sometimes we work with people all the time. They're like, I want to make $30,000. And look, there's nothing fucking wrong with you if you want to make $30,000. But when you're paying me 10% of that, I want you to make a little bit more because I know what taxes are. I know what costs are. So I think sometimes we play small because we want to actually hit the goal. And if we forget that, like the journey along the way, like if you set a goal for 60,000, and you make 45, it's still fucking amazing. Because what you had to become to do that is way bigger than the person who had it make 30,000.Brad Crowell 36:48  Yeah, it really pushes you and I think one more comment about this. Jake said to write these down, first off, what is your goal than double your goal? And he said, also write down. This is the action that you're going to take. And the reasoning behind it. Why do I want this goal? Answer the question. What will this enable or empower me to do? And then only then how am I going to get done? Yeah. Right. So that's,Lesley Logan 37:18  I do like the how being after the why, and what will those will enable me to do? So. Now,Brad Crowell 37:24  there was one more step and I thought it was Yeah, it's really poignant. Lesley Logan 37:27  Yeah, this is mine. You're going to make a contract with yourself. Yep, you go, you're actually gonna write down I, then your name, am officially unavailable for any other outcome. And then you sign it, and you date it. And then by when you will accomplish it. So that you're solidifying the commitment and ensuring accountability. This clear intention and timeline will help and I think this is actually really cool. Because even, you guys, even if you fucking miss your deadline, if you were actually taking the steps to get there on time, you fucking won anyways, like, deadlines have to get moved all the fucking time. But if you are moving the deadline, because you actually would take any actions, but you just need more time. And you didn't know it or whatever, that's fine. If you're moving if you keep hitting the 10th deadline, because you didn't actually take the actions. That means you didn't really want it anyways. Like that's you're procrastinating for a reason.Brad Crowell 38:21  Yeah. So I think there's something really interesting about the idea of making a commitment to yourself making a contract with yourself. Because it levels it up, it takes it to it puts you in a position where you take it more seriously. And I think it's really easy for us to be like, if I don't tell anybody about it. Or if I don't write it down, (Lesley: If I keep it to myself) then no one will know. If I fail (Lesley: no one will know) it doesn't really matter anyway. Lesley Logan 38:55  And like, it's fine. Because no, you know, it's okay. Like, it's okay, if it doesn't happen, like the stories you fucking tell yourself.Brad Crowell 39:01   Right. Or, you know what, I really needed to take care of my kids. And so they take precedence over me. You know, whatever it is. (Lesley: That could be true.) Well, no, of course it's true. But it becomes it can become like the life can become an excuse. Oh, yeah. You don't look at your, your goals or your thing as as something that actually needs to be done. And so when you make a contract with yourself, or a commitment to yourself that's that's a whole nother level to you know.Lesley Logan 39:34  Yeah, you are so right. I've met many an amazing woman who has children and shit going on, and other shit going on. And they still make their things happen. It's not because they have more money than you. It's not because they had better luck on their side. It's because they literally were like, I'm going to just get up I'm going to write for fucking five minutes like we interviewed somebody who like, literally got up at 4am to write for one hour before everyone started waking up because (inaudible)Brad Crowell 40:04  I don't even like the idea of like, oh, just like, like, you know, just get up, the people get up at 5am. And they only wants to succeed (inaudible) But I think I think thatLesley Logan 40:14  No. My point is that they prioritize their goal, even with all the shit.Brad Crowell 40:18  Yes. And that's, that's I agree, I agree. And that's it.Lesley Logan 40:21  You could also stay up one hour later or you could do it on your lunch break. Or remember we interviewed what's her name Kim, who would go into work and she'd write for 15 minutes on her book before she start her work day. Like, it's just about like, okay, it's, it doesn't have to, it doesn't be perfect. I think that too often, we're waiting for perfect circumstances to work on the goal. And that will never ever happen. The stars are never going to align in this perfect, amazing space. Because what's gonna happen like, Oh, my God, I'm just gonna lay down and take a nap. I'm so tired. So it's just about going okay, I only have five minutes. I'm going to work on this thing that I truly want for myself for five minutes.Brad Crowell 41:01  Yeah, and I think the consistency of it. You know that you'll you'll make the decision to be consistent on it when you level up your commitment. And that contract is really helpful.Lesley Logan 41:13  I'm Lesley Logan and I'm Brad Crowell. Thank you so much for listening to us. We are so grateful for you. I can't believe it. What happened it's (inaudible) holy fucking moly. This is brilliant. We would never be here if it wasn't for your ears and your comments and your views and your awesomeness. So thank you so very much. How are you going to use these tips in your life? Are you gonna write that contract we want to know and send us in your questions or your conflict resolution wonders, and we will answer on the next podcast. Until then be it till you see it. Brad Crowell 41:18  Bye for now.Lesley Logan 41:18  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. 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Lesley and Jake engage in a meaningful conversation about the intricate facets of healing, the evolution of identity, and the profound influence of societal pressures on men's mental well-being. Gain insight into the hidden implications of perfectionism as it frequently conceals deeper underlying issues, hindering the path to genuine healing.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How to navigate the layers of healing from trauma. The importance of unlearning negative patterns.The link between societal pressures in mental health.How to embrace readiness as a conscious decision.How to avoid the trap of constantly chasing happiness as a goal.Episode References/Links:Follow Jake on IG: @iamjakekauffman Follow Jake on X (formerly known as Twitter): @iamjakekauffman Follow Jake on FBCheck out Jake's website Awake With JakeLet Love InThe War of ArtGuest Bio:Jake Kauffman is an International Men's Transformation Coach & Spiritual Mentor to purpose driven, visionary men & entrepreneurs who are seeking to grow in their life & leadership. He has supported hundreds of men to thrive and reach the next-level in all areas of life, business & relationship. His mission is to help men radically heal & transform so that they can achieve their full potential and fulfill their purpose.  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Get your free Athletic Greens 1 year supply of Vitamin D3+K2 and 5 free travel packsGet your discount for some Toe Sox using the code: LESLEYBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Jake Kauffman 0:00  In the process of creating art, we're forced to confront the unhealed, unintegrated, unreconciled parts of ourselves in order to create authentic art because it's really about coming back into a relationship with who we are authentically. And that's what is at the forefront of my work with men so that they can go from this identity that is focused on getting paid and getting laid to, like, their divine purpose, their higher purpose, their mission in life that is always bigger than the individual and is always meant to outlast the individual.Lesley Logan 0:00  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Hi, Be It, babe. All right, we have a really awesome guest today, I'm really excited about it because I just finished talking to him. So we had Keri Ford on earlier this year, and she was a phenomenal somatic coach for women. And she was asking me if I wanted to if I thought that her partner would be a great fit for you guys. And I heard about his book, I heard what he does, and I was like, absolutely, actually need to talk about this. Because I think first of all, even though you will hear him say he's a men's transformational coach, a lot of what we talked about is our perfectionism and why some of us would use perfectionism in our life for procrastination. So please take a listen for the lens of like, what, how am I using that in my life and, and what is that like, and then holy fucking molly, like holy fucking molly, the Be It Action Items at the end. I've already, I wrote them down after the whole interview was over so that I could use them right away. They're very action-oriented, easy to use, and apply right away. And so you definitely want to stick all the way to the end. So I guess Jacob Kauffman, he is the author of Let Love In. And I just wanna say thank you to Jacob for being here. Thank you for sharing his story. And also, thank you, for you listening. We bring in different guests all the time. Because I know that sometimes I can hear something from one person. And it can be like, the thing that I knew that day, and you can hear it and it could be the thing you needed yesterday, next week for a friend. And then we have another person come on, and they say something a little bit differently about the same thing. And it can just start to help peel back the layers that help us eventually be it till we see it because being until you see it is not easy. It is not something that like you just decide. And like it happens, no problem every single day. It is a decision you have to make every single day over and over and over again. Because it's actually kind of easy to not be it until we see it to just wait and like let things happen to us. So anyways, Jacob Kauffman. Thank you for being the guest. Here he is. And please let me know if you use his Be It Action Items. All right, Be It babe, I got a special guest.I mean, they're all special. But this one is actually a very special person to a wonderful friend of mine who's been on the show, and he loved her episode very much. So Keri Ford, it was like you, if you if you like me, you'll probably like this person. And maybe we'll be able to spill some shine some light of love for all of us here. SoWe have Jacob Kauffman in the house. And you are a newly published author, sir, can you tell everyone who you are and what you're rockin' at?Jake Kauffman 2:42  I can absolutely do that. Thanks again for having me. It's a pleasure to be here. So my name is Jacob Kauffman. Like you already mentioned. I'm a men's transformation coach, spiritual mentor, business mentor, and author. And I just recently released my first book, it's called Let love In: the Pain Stops When the Truth Starts. And the focus of my work, especially with men is just that is coming into relationship with their deepest truth, their highest, most authentic self, to bring more of their unique essence forward in the world and their mission.Lesley Logan 3:16  Yeah, I mean, that's a big feat. That's not a small task. So I guess like, where we should start is like, kind of what made you want to start doing this? Like, I mean, is this something you grew up wanting to do? Is it something that kind of found you like, how did you get to doing this? What made you write this book?Jake Kauffman 3:39  Oh, man, that's, that's really good question. The short story is, you know, I very much believe in what Dickens said that our calling is our curse. It's the thing that we can't not do. And so for me, in many respects, that was this book. I never, I always knew that I was going to write a book that I wanted to write a book. I think everybody has a book in them personally speaking. It's just a question of whether or not we actually get around to writing it. But, you know, for me, I didn't seek out this story. This story absolutely found me because, just a backstory, where the book kind of starts is me sharing my story of sexual abuse on social media online. And having this full-body panic attack that resulted in what is clinically referred to as an acute nervous system breakdown. So my nervous system just collapsed. Under the weight of all of the connections, that sharing created, the input was just too much. And it overrided my system. And it created a slew of health problems. I mean, immediately, I started to vomit uncontrollably, cry uncontrollably, nausea, vertigo, all the things. Lesley Logan 5:02  And this is like, hold on. So what did you, when you went to the doctor, is this what they diagnosed you with? Or is this something you had to like figure out? I feel like that could also be like, they'd be like, did you eat something, Jacob? (inaudible)Jake Kauffman 5:17  Yeah, no, absolutely. I didn't actually go to a clinical doctor, I went to a psychotherapist. Because I knew on some intrinsic level that what I was experiencing was mental, emotional. And so I went to that type of clinician and sought that counsel, and they started going through with me, okay. You were abused? How did that impact you? How did that affect you? Not just at the time of the incident, but after the incident as well, as you can probably imagine, so my abuse as is with most of you, it's very multifaceted, right? There's what happened before leading up to it, there's what happened, there's what was going on around you when it happened. And then there's what happened after the fact. You know, did you ever experience any proper mirroring around this incredibly painful experience? And for me, and for a lot of people, the answer was no. And so because of that, as you can probably imagine, one of my primary coping mechanisms was to pretend as if I was fine, as if I was okay and had it all together, when in fact, inside I was shattered. Because of what happened, I was humiliated, I felt so much shame and embarrassment, and all these other things, bitterness, resentment, and I just continued to carry those things around with me. Unfortunately, after that incident, depth of connection, love, intimacy fundamentally felt unsafe. And so when I got around to sharing my story on social media, the amount of connection that I experienced the amount of intimacy, because now everyone on the internet knows my deepest, darkest, most shameful secret. It just was too much too soon, too fast, and was arguably traumatic in and of itself. And it forced me as you can imagine, to do significantly deeper work on myself, because here I am thinking, Oh, I've really worked through this experience. I'm a coach, and I'm coaching a lot of people. And, you know, I've done a ton of work on myself, I've gone through therapy around, you know, this particular incident. And I feel comfortable sharing that with the world to do so, for other people's benefits, so that they can, you know, feel permission to step into their healing journey, learn whatever lessons they can, from my experience, and what I did to work through it, etc, etc. And here I am confronted by the need for significantly deeper healing, it was very humbling. Yeah. And so that's what, that's what prompted the book, because my therapist was like, You should really journal about what's coming up for you, I think that would be very beneficial. And I was like, good idea.Lesley Logan 8:05  So that's what you did. Yeah.Jake Kauffman 8:07  That's what I did. And it became a book. Lesley Logan 8:08  Yeah. I, first of all, like, thank you for sharing that. Because I think a lot of people probably have shared things thinking they are ready to. And then like, there's, you know, social media is such an interesting thing, right? Because I think we can, like learn so much. And I do think it's a great place to share something like I recently had something dramatic happened, and I was so angry about it that I was like, Where can I take this? I'm gonna take it Instagram, and I'm gonna, I'm gonna share it. And he said no, at all levels, I'm measuring my thing to what you said. But I remember then having all the comments coming through. And I was like, Whoa, I actually don't know that I was ready to like, they were all supportive. Everything was really great. But it was almost like, I actually not processed with this thing yet. And now, (Jake Kauffman: Right, right.) And I'm reading all this stuff. And while helpful, it's overwhelming. And so I guess like, because I don't think that the whole stuff we're not saying here is like, don't share, but like, what are some things that maybe you'd wish you'd gone through prior to to just feel a bit more prepared for that? Or what are some takeaways that we could have? Or do? Is that something you have? Or is that like, on a personal level, everyone's got to do their own thing? And then like, know, the signs that you may be you're overloaded and you need a therapist?Jake Kauffman 9:27  Yeah, well, what I experienced is in clinically speaking is called flooding. It's just too much too soon, too fast. And that is in and of itself traumatic. And so it's very difficult to tell because the majority of what holds us back is unconscious. (Lesley: Right.) The primary goal of the ego is to maintain the status quo and what's the best way for it to do that it's to hide the truth from you. So how does that manifest itself, it typically manifests itself as people downplaying what has happened to them, and how it actually impacted them. We now know that trauma is significantly more about what happened inside of you as a result of what happened to you, as opposed to what actually happened. So it's how you internalized it the stories and the beliefs that you made up about yourself as a result. But I think my biggest lesson is that healing happens in layers, as much as I thought I was speaking from the place of perspective. And in many ways I was, over the years, I've gone back, and I've read that post several times, as you can probably imagine, it's been almost five years now. And I still look at that. And I'm like, you can tell, by the way I talked about it that I've done some work on on myself. And I've, I've reconciled it to a degree. But clearly, there was more work left to be done there. And it really just revealed a need for deeper healing. And I think life inherently is three steps forward, two steps back, just like entrepreneurship, which you know full well. And so I don't think there's any one answer with regard to people's overall experience, especially when it comes to their healing journey, because it's inherently messy.Lesley Logan 11:29  Yeah. Which is like for every single person listening to this, they're either a recovery in recoveries perfectionist, or they are one. And so like, messy is not something that feels right.Jake Kauffman 11:43  Right. Yeah. Well, perfectionism is just a coping strategy. It's just a survival strategy. Just like, what I was doing acting, acting as if I was fine acting as if I was successful, even acting as if I was vulnerable, when in reality, it was a way in which I control the level of connection and relationship. All of these different things are just masks, right, different aspects of our personality that are actually born out of pain, or in an attempt to prevent pain, and so, until we work through these things until we fully reconcile the past, what are we going to do, we're going to inevitably end up recycling it in the present moment and projecting it onto other people. So if you're struggling with perfectionism, there's because you're also talking to a recovering perfectionist. Yeah. BecauseLesley Logan 12:42  Well, right. Yeah. Welcome to the meeting. Did you know it was today?  Jake Kauffman 12:45  Right. Totally. Yeah. Because I mean, I don't know about you, but like, I grew up in an emotionally unsafe environment. And so perfectionism, and procrastination kind of became a way by which I coped because no child is safe to feel that they are unsafe. So they need to develop very advanced coping mechanisms in order to avoid feeling that way. And so if you're still dealing with that, and this isn't a judgment on anyone, it's more so just an observation. But if that's still a significant struggle in your life, that's likely a sign that you haven't reconciled some things from the past. Because in my experience, the more you do this work, the less you struggle with those things over time. And obviously, the path is never linear, it is very much, you know, up and down. And, you know, falling down is kind of an inherent part of learning how to walk. Same thing is true for healing, you know, or addiction relapsing is kind of a part of it. You know, any sponsor would tell you that if you've ever been through any type of 12-STEP program, and I think that's true for healing as well, that regressing is just a natural part of it. But if it's really consistent, still, for you, awareness is only going to take you so far. It's one thing to uncover something it's a totally other thing to undo it.Lesley Logan 14:09  Yeah, I know. It's a, it's, it's almost like you have to like hit, you know, you have to hit Publish before it's like, knowing that it's full of mistakes, and just like not like you just have to do the thing, you have to take those actions and it's a little hard. I am I also think that like, you know, with with all those things, it's like, recognizing when it's happening, and then also trying to shorten the timeframe of which that thing is happening. So like, how long are you going to live in in the thing, the forcing something to be perfect? Is it can you get over it faster? And like, also, it's so hard to not judge ourselves along the healing journey. Did you find like, and maybe this is in your book, and you explain this a lot with the people you work with, but like, do you find that like, there was a hard part of like letting yourself be in that process? Because if you'd thought you'd healed and then you went to this one thing, I'm sure that there was some judgment towards yourself or some wondering like, where did I miss this?Jake Kauffman 15:06  Oh, totally, like making up stories about like, Is there something wrong with me? Or, you know, am I actually as far along as I think I am, you know, all of these different things that come up for us whenever we experience something painful or uncomfortable. Or, you know, a tragedy or fail? Yeah, you know, it's only natural that those things come up. I think. I think those things are there to teach us something, though. Because it's not those stories that are the issue, it's typically how we react or respond to those things. Because those stories create an emotional response and that emotional response leads to actions and decisions. So it's not the stories that are the issue, it's acting from the space of those stories. That's the issue. The problem is we get like stuck there. Right? We self identify with those stories. We make it personal. And then we get stuck in the space of whatever emotions come on the back end of it self-judgment, which oftentimes leads to sadness or frustration, right. And then we just kind of get lost in the sauce, right? We don't take inspired action, we have a we have difficulty tapping into creativity, for example, inspiration. And so because of that, we have a really hard time progressing, because there's this inherent amount of internal resistance that's holding us back because of the emotions that are attached to the stories that, you know, we're kind of consistently feeding, rather than, than then seeking to simply understand better.Lesley Logan 17:02  Yeah, I remember about a year ago, I got into a situation on a phone call with family member and I was so angry, and I immediately email my therapist. I was like, I need an emergency meeting this week. Here's what happened. Do you have any time this week and she got on the call with me. And she's like, it's actually okay, you got angry. And I was like, Oh, that is okay, but I got angry. That thing they said, made me angry. I'm allowed to be angry. She said, what's not okay is that you judge yourself for being angry. And I was like, ah, oh, thank you. That's where the work. I still work there. Thank you for that.Jake Kauffman 17:36  Yeah, you're like five minutes. I'm good. I'm relieved for an hour. You can get off now.Lesley Logan 17:40  Thanks. Go to your next client. Thanks for the reminder. But it's just so funny because we can we can get stuck in the like the for me it was like the perfection I shouldn't have somehow been able I should not have reacted is like the thought that I told myself like, I should be so healed with that, that I won't even react when they say something. It's infuriating. No, you're allowed to be infuriated. Say something if your (inaudible).Jake Kauffman 18:04  Totally. Yeah, I mean, but the problem is nobody ever taught us how to be angry. Lesley Logan 18:10  Yeah. So I guess like, let's talk about when you decided to write this book. And you are I'm in transformation coach, like, what? What does that actually even mean? Let's, yeah, if someone's listening, like what does that mean? What do you do? And because we have a lot of listeners who are mostly women, but they obviously have men in their lives, and I'm sure they're they're doing their work, and they're wishing their partners or their friends or family members had done their own. So what is that? Yeah. Well, it's a complete undoing, as you can probably imagine. You know, in the first half of life, we fight the devil, in the second half of life, we fight God.Jake Kauffman 18:56  So let me use a client as an example that I spoke with today. Very driven, very assertive, he's a doctor, very ambitious. But in and through our work together, it became very clear that the unconscious motivation beneath his drive was to prove to himself and to other people that he was not his dad. So his stance his primary stance is to be against, is to be in opposition to something and that's what I mean by that when I say fight the devil. Right, whatever that thing is, right? You're trying to prove to yourself or prove to someone else that you are not this or you are not that. It's called the false self that we all develop when we're kids who we think we need to be in order to be loved, accepted and successful. Which is in response to pain or in order to prevent pain from happening. That has to come undone. In order for us to truly live out our unique purpose it has to, because it's not who we truly are, it's who we think we need to be again, right. And so it puts us at odds within ourselves, because we're not acting from our authentic nature. We're simply playing a role we're playing a part, we have something to prove, we have something to protect. For me, I had something to protect, I never wanted to be abused again, I never wanted to be taken advantage of or humiliated in that way ever again. For my client, he had something to prove that he was not his dad. And so of course, what ends up happening, if that's your stance, it just continues to follow you around. And people create an incredible amount of success from this space. But they don't know peace. They don't know, ease because what's driving in many ways, their behavior. It's ultimately avoidance. And so that becomes the fuel by which people, a lot of people, especially men rely upon in an attempt to succeed. But it's kind of like, gasoline. Gasoline is a great fuel. It burns hot. It's very explosive, but it goes out fast. And so you have more men who are depressed more than ever before? Yeah. More men who report and this is actually true for both men and women. I'm simply saying this from the perspective of being a men's coach, you have more men struggling with anxiety, and on anti-anxiety medication than ever before? Because that's what happens when you live in a society that is bent on performance. And what does that what does that end up doing? It tease you up for a life of performance, which creates a pressure cooker. So what do you do? You suppress the less-than-desirable qualities or characteristics about yourself and you posture and you position, you bolster the more than ideal qualities and characteristics about yourself that but that puts us at odds within ourselves.Lesley Logan 22:43  Yeah, yeah, I just interviewed somebody on like, like, off like true, like masculine and feminine energy and how we all have both. And then, if you have, if you're a couple, there's four energies in there, there's, it's different, how many, how much you lean into one versus the other. And it's fascinating because like, you can see, because our society is like, just so much on performance, which Be It would consider a masculine energy. But there's so much of it, that no one's actually being taught to cherish any of the emotions that they have, or how to handle them or to do them. And so because no one's actually learning that from a childhood perspective, you don't find this out. If you write if you had all cry, if you had all failure feelings, like that's considered less than so no one is doing this. And we find out that like, Hmm, not many people are happy. A lot of men today don't really actually know who they are what they want to do. There's a lot because it you said it, it's like, it's because we're not because we're so much in it, but we're not we don't actually understand how to use it as a tool. For ourselves. We're just using it as a, as a prevention from like, feeling the things we don't want to feel or for for people to not see through and not see the pain or not see the weaknesses there. It's very fascinating to me, so. I went into your book, you just published it recently. So it's out and available. What was that process like? Because obviously, if it is what you're journaling, like, now you're sharing those things again.Jake Kauffman 24:12  Totally. Yeah, it was.Lesley Logan 24:14  What was that process like? And how did you like, do it because we've, you know, writing a book is not no small feat that's really emotional, especially when it's part of your story. It's not like a business book. I feel it'd be really easy, but (inaudible) book is gonna be harder.Jake Kauffman 24:29  Yeah, absolutely. I mean, the common joke in the industry is that I can't wait for this book to make a ton of money so that I can go spend it all on therapy. But yeah, it's The War of Art. You know, that Steven Pressfield wrote a book about which is the fact that in the process of creating art, we're forced to confront the unhealed, unintegrated, unreconciled parts of ourselves in order to create authentic art, because it's really about coming back into a relationship with who we are authentically. And that's what is at the forefront of my work with men so that they can go from this identity that is focused on getting paid and getting laid to, like, their divine purpose, their higher purpose, their mission in life that is always bigger than the individual, and is always meant to outlast the individual. And that's, like the process of what my book was writing it was like, there was a lot of procrastination involved. And so you know, in the spirit of, in the spirit of, you know, see it to believe it, yeah, I had to print off this picture, I'd got the cover designed, and well before the book was finished, and printed it off and put it next to my desk to, like, motivate me. And along with statistics of how many men are abused every year, less than 1% of men actually ever report their abuse, by the way. So these statistics really reminded me that this book is not about me. It's not meant, for me, it's meant for other people. Right? It's about the message. And it's about what it can do for other people. To support them in their healing journey. That's what this book is for.Lesley Logan 26:28  Yeah. Yeah, I thank you for sharing that story, how you got to because I feel like so many people are waiting until this like, perfect moment of when it's gonna feel easy. And they're gonna feel ready to do the thing, and it's like, I feel like ready to lie. And I can't imagine like, if you had waited till you're ready, this book probably still wouldn't be done. I feel like ready comes after the book is done. You're like, Okay, now I'm ready. I've already ended the hard part.Jake Kauffman 26:57  Well, I mean, the big thing in that in what you just said is most people confuse readiness for a state of being. Readiness is not a state of being. Readiness is a decision.Lesley Logan 27:09  Oh, I like that. We're going to rewind that, everyone, listen to that one more time.Jake Kauffman 27:13  Yeah, 100%. I'll say it again. Readiness is not a state of being. Readiness is a decision. And to decide literally means to cut off or cut away all other options. When I decided that I was going to write this book, I hired a book writing coach, I designed the cover well, before the book was finished, I printed it off, put it in a frame, it's up in my bedroom. Right? This was years ago. Like I mentioned well before the book was published. So I had massive skin in the game. Right, I invested thousands of dollars, I had someone holding me accountable, holding my feet to the fire. And even after that, I hired a book writing agency to support me with the rewrites and the editing process, and ultimately, the publication process. And so I had massive amounts of skin in the game, but also accountability, really supporting me in moving forward. Because if I was left to my own devices, there's no way I would have ever done it myself. I'm not saying that that's true for everybody, but it's true for a lot of people.Lesley Logan 28:20  I couldn't agree more like um, if you think about like, if you ever if you subscribe to Gretchen Reubens like, The Four Tendencies, like I am an upholder, I don't actually need a lot of accountability. I'm going to do the thing if I decided to do it. When I wrote my book, I, I almost didn't publish it. The person who helped like ghost write it and just like not go through this one word. She helped me outline it and like make sure it made cohesive sense. And all that stuff. I wrote it. But yeah, our contract is done. I had the whole thing. And like, I just got busy. And she was like two months afterwards. She was like, Hey, I haven't seen any movement on this. Like, what are you doing today? Oh, yeah. And she said, Look, I just really hope that you actually like it's a really good book, you should actually put it out there. And if she had not nudged me, I don't know that I would have put it out when I put it out. I probably would have eventually put it out, I probably would have waited till I was ready. Like I even as someone who can, like do pretty much anything without the accountability or something like that, that we're like, there's so much put into it. And there's a lot on the line. You kind of need some some skin in the game and you need an accountability. You just need someone to remind you that you're doing a great job and get it out there. It's gonna help people because we can tell ourselves a crazy amazing story about how it doesn't need to be out there yet.Jake Kauffman 29:32  Yep, you're a hunter, you're 100% spot on. And so in terms of you know, in the spirit of the podcast, you know, everything manifests first in, where, in our imagination. I always knew that I was going to write a book that positively impacted the lives of people. Now, I'm not taking any responsibility for that necessarily because you in many ways, like, I do feel like your higher purpose is kind of given to you or imparted to you, if you will, by you know, God, life, fate, the universe, whatever you want to call it. Going back to, you know, your your calling is your curse, it's the thing that you can't not do. And I think that's why most people die with regret is because they don't actually bring that or make that manifest. And so you really have to know yourself and know the conditions that are necessary for you in order to, to make that manifest. You know, for me, it was raising the bar on myself and growing into the person that I needed to be in order to reach it. And I think in many respects, that's true for a lot of us. I don't think everyone needs like, incredibly strict accountability necessarily, in some respects, that can actually do more harm than good. It can be counterproductive, you know, what's healthy and beneficial for one person can be detrimental to somebody else. But, you know, if we speak in general terms, I think that's what we kind of really need to do for ourselves in the process of engaging in the War of Art and making manifest our purpose is we're going to have we're going to have a point of no return experiences, and a point of no return experience is, you know, at the least not to get all, I think, not to get at all technical, is actually defined as a financial commitment toward the goal. Because there's your skin in the game. Right? Most people are really good at talking, you know, but more in action taking. And that's by design, because what we say is connected to our conscious mind, but what we actually do is connected to our unconscious. And that's, that's where I support a lot of my clients with is aligning their unconscious beliefs to match their conscious desires, because if they don't, there's going to be a lack of congruence there. And it's going to be a round peg for the whole situation. So when it comes to manifesting the life, the abundance, the relationship that you want, those two things have to be in alignment, you know, otherwise, you're just you're swimming upstream. And it's gonna be very, very difficult to bring into fruition bring into creation that which you deeply desire, whether it's a book or something else. Lesley Logan 32:34  Yeah. So I feel like once the book is out there, and like it's doing its thing. There's, like, are you are you currently working on like something else? Are you excited about the next step of something else? Or where are you enjoying the process of the book being out there and, uh, helping and getting through as many people as possible? Like, where are you at right now?Jake Kauffman 32:57  Sure, sure. Well, as somebody who identifies self identifies as an author, I do believe on some level that every author is always kind of writing their next book. Even if it's even if it's only in their head, yeah, I am doing that. Yes. I am not currently acting on it. I'm actually intentionally consciously restraining myself from doing that, because I really want to give this book its due diligence. Lesley Logan 33:33  I think thank you for sharing that. Because I think it's so easy. I know many people listening as a recovering overachievers, Hello, that's me, too. That's a meeting that's in the next hour. Yeah, it's like you go and you like, you hit the thing, you publish the book, or you, you do the race or you, whatever it is, and then you're like, on to the next goal. Like we don't actually like sit in the moment of like, the celebration of what you just did. It's a really big deal. And also like, you know, really give it its due diligence, to course to get it out there and in many people's because what's what people don't realize is you publish a book, it's not like the Field of Dreams is the biggest lie ever sold to every American on this planet. Anyone thought like, if you build it, they don't come you have to talk about it. 17 times and 18 more times and 17 more times, and then maybe on the 37th time they go, Oh, you wrote a book?Jake Kauffman 34:26  Oh, right. Yeah, totally. Yeah, well, I think you point out something really powerful, which is that in and of itself can actually be its own act of self-sabotage. You know, moving on to the next thing, because you have this high, this significant, pivotal moment, whether it's writing a book or whether it's, you know, accomplishing something significant in your career, and you move on to the next thing because he - Donek Adaptation kicks in, which is that our, we return to our baseline level of happiness which is determined by four primary things, 50% of it is genetics actually. The other 50% is based on attitude, outlook, and environment.Lesley Logan 35:24  That makes so much sense I get that.Jake Kauffman 35:26  Right. So we return to our baseline level of happiness. After the high, we have the come down. Right? Simply put, and oftentimes, people are really uncomfortable with what they find there. Because their life in many respects is the same. Right. Their circumstances might have adjusted slightly, whether it's like more money in the bank or more recognition. But how they feel internally is the same. So it's, it's just the same package, different bow, same song, different dance scenario, and people are forced to confront the reality of who they are and who they become in that moment. And so by moving on to the next thing, what do they get to do? (Lesley Logan: They get about the high end.) They get to avoid being in that space? Yeah. Right, because now they're chasing after the next thing, right? And that's where so many people find themselves nowadays is chasing after rainbows. So yeah, to answer your question, my goal is to absolutely give this book, you know, it's due prudence, it's time in the limelight, I think I said due diligence earlier, there wasn't the right phrase, but get it into the hands of as many people as possible. So that it can take on a life of its own, essentially, because this is going to outlive me. So this is like, this is not connected in many ways to me anymore, although like I wrote it, and my name is on it. But it is taking on a life of its own, I have people buying it in countries all over the world that I've never met, that I've never even spoken to. And whose lives that it's impacting. And I'm very humbled by that. And that's kind of the point, right, is that it takes on a life of its own and the people who read it, get what they need from it.Lesley Logan 37:29  Yeah, well, you said like, there's a there's part of our happiness is genetic. And then there's a three parts of it that like, it seems like if you are aware of them, and you actually sit with the thing that you just created, you can turn those dials in a way that the next time you have an amazing when we don't go back to baseline we go, we can keep growing, and creating the happiness that we want, without avoidance and just working towards the next thing all the time.Jake Kauffman 37:58  You're well, and I think I think happiness is kind of a shallow goal, to be honest with you. In the same way, you know, like, we've been sold this idea that, you know, if you build it, they will come which is like from a marketing perspective, nowadays, we know that like, that doesn't really work, you know, unless you've got like just a ton of cash that enable you to like float the business indefinitely. Well, enough word spreads and word of mouth takes over. You know, I think in many respects, happiness is kind of a shallow goal, I think we should strive for improvement. You know. And I think that's what ultimately creates this, this fulfillment, that we are working towards ever progressing towards a goal. And that's what I love, like the whole premise of this podcast, is because that's what it's all about, you're working towards something you're in pursuit of something that you have yet to accomplish. And it's really all about doing the internal work that you need to be able to bring that thing into reality. Because that's what that's what people struggle with the most. It's never like, the logistics. It's never like the circumstances of like, how do I write a book? Like, you can look up a YouTube video on how to do anything nowadays. You know, yeah, we literally write anything. You know, like, renovate a van. Here you go. Lesley Logan 39:37  Yeah, it's working guys. It's very helpful. Yeah, I think I really liked that you said that towards improvement. And I think like, I mean, it is why we have that we why, I mean, I've been being it till I see it, I just like kind of I didn't even know I was doing until I was like, what am I doing? How am I doing these things? Oh, I'm just doing that as a very interesting thing. I think like and there's a there's a difference between going, going going. And like, as you said, doing the internal work, so that you're improving. It reminds me of one of our guests from the end of the year. And he said every day he asked himself if like, he's 1% better, did he do the work that makes them 1% closer to the person he wants to be? And like, (Jake Kauffman: It's the Kaizen way.) Yeah, just like, and it's like, you know, 1% that's not a lot. So you're not you're not pushing yourself through a seaman while you're, you're actually like, you're doing some internal work to take some action. That's just enough to actually get the improvement but not so much that you're not sitting still and being with yourself at the same time. Jacob, you're so cool. I think this book is really awesome and needed. We're gonna take a brief break and then people can find out where they can follow you, get your book and also your Be It Action Items. Okay, Jacob, where can people get the book? Where can people work with you? Where can any of our male listeners or people who are listening to this to their male friends work with you?Jake Kauffman 41:00  So, the best place to connect with me is on my Instagram, which is I am JKauffman. So that's K-A-U-F-F-M-A-N. You can find the book on Amazon, Let Love In, my full name, Jacob Kauffman, J-A-C-O-B K-A-U-F-F-M-A-N. Otherwise, you can also check out my website. You can sign up for my newsletter, which is awakewithjake.com, awakewithJake. AndLesley Logan 41:28  I like it. I like Midtown.Jake Kauffman 41:30  Yeah, I think I'm gonna I think that might be the name of my podcast, but we'll see. Don't don't know. No, ETA on that yet. But stay tuned. And but yeah, if you're interested in connecting, hear more about my work that I do with my private clients in my mentorship, or the men's groups that I run, the retreats that I hold, by all means, feel free to reach out on Instagram happy to share about that. And what was the last thing? Lesley Logan 42:02  Well, the last thing now, the last thing is bold, executable, intrinsic target steps people can take to Be It Till They See It. What do you have for us?Jake Kauffman 42:09  So good. So I will oftentimes, I mean, in a lot of the work that I do with men, there oftentimes is almost a need to disconnect from their goals because they actually, they wake up to the reality that goals are, in many ways, historically speaking, an unconscious attempt in order to claim victory over a lack of self-worth. It's a way in which they avoid their pain so they become hypervigilant doers. That said.Lesley Logan 42:46  I think it's quite bold to say, to disconnect from those goals.Jake Kauffman 42:51  Yeah, I'm gonna, I'm gonna give people two things, okay. Because there's nothing inherently wrong with having goals in many respects, we need to have them to create more purposeful living, here's what I would do, is if you have a goal, write that goal down on a piece of paper, and then double it. Because in my experience, we seriously underestimate our ability to generate results. So you know, if it's a monetary goal, double it easy. If it's 100,000, make it 200,000. If it's to write a book in the next year, cut it in half. And say, I'm going to write a book in the next I'm going to write a book in the next six months, some something like that, where you're doubling it, or you're shortening the timeframe, in an effort to push yourself or challenge yourself. And then you're going to write down these these following things. You're going to write down. Why do I want the goal? What will this enable me to do? And then how am I going to do it? That's your action plan. And then finally, you simply create a contract with yourself and you write down I and your name, am officially unavailable for any other outcome. And then you sign it and you date it. And then by when will you accomplish it.Lesley Logan 44:34  I love this. I'm saving this. I have a few things am working on on my tour for goals I have for myself that I was going to figure out while we're on on the road and I'm going to half the time or I'm going to double the thing Yeah, love it. I and then I'll write the contract.Jake Kauffman 44:49  There you go. So recap. The goal, by when you'll accomplish it, why do I want it, what am I hoping that this will do for me or allow me to do, how am I going to do it, and then I, your name, am officially unavailable for any other outcome, sign it and date it.Lesley Logan 45:09  Hmm. Oh, Jacob, thank you so much for being here sharing your story. And I'll just like really helping us rethink maybe some of the ways we think about some of the things we're doing in our life. I'm excited for your book. I'm so happy it's out there. I think it's very necessary. And I do believe it to be life-changing for many and also for these action items. I love them so much. I already know some of our listeners who are going to be using them. So y'all, how are you going to use these to make sure you tag Jake on Instagram, the Be It pod, let us know, share it with a friend who needs it. That is how people often get healed. I had a friend recently post something and she was going through and I was like, actually one of the words but I have a podcast and be really good for her. So I just sent it to her and she was so grateful. And so you know that you have no idea how you can help people with doing things like that. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. 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Join me and my incredible guest Keri Ford as we discuss all things archetypes of the anxious achiever & how to experience more peace without compromising on your profitability in the process! Follow Keri on IG @iamkeriford and DM me the word EVENT if you would love to experience her and other industry trailblazers in person Sept 22nd at The Rich Queen live event!

Many of us find ourselves juggling both the kids and work and it can be overwhelming to find the balance between the two of them. If you ever thought "Hmmm it would be great to run a business, make money to support my family, take a dream vacation, but I don't know if I have the time or the ability to do it.” You do. I am so excited for today's episode with Keri Ford. We are talking redefining success as the modern-day working woman and mother, and how we can learn to turn the “on” button “off” with somatic success strategies unique to your nervous system and business. Listen and you'll learn: What somatic work and somatic experience means. What the anxious achievers archetype is and how it shows up in business. What the signs are in high achieving women that their nervous system is stressed out. How do we get to the point of being stuck ‘on'. What resistance looks like and how to understand that turning ‘off' will lead to more success. Ways you can start to turn your brain off. Connect with Keri: Instagram | Made for More Retreat with Keri | Somatic Success Academy If you enjoyed the episode, leave a review - it means the world to me + helps the show reach more people! Let's support each other! Connect with Taylor on Instagram - @_thetaylorlee Transparent Sales: The Membership is here, join us inside! https://www.thetaylorlee.com/membership

In this episode of The Beautiful Bag podcast, host LeeAnne Hayden introduces somatic coach Keri Ford, who specializes in helping women unlock their full potential and reconnect with their authentic selves through somatic work. The discussion explores the concept of somatic healing, nervous system regulation, and the mind-body connection. Listeners are guided through a somatic check-in exercise, emphasizing the importance of slowing down and tuning into their bodies to foster healing and self-discovery. The conversation delves into various types of trauma, the impact of unresolved experiences on the body, and how somatic work can lead to transformation and personal growth. Keri and LeeAnne also explore the balance between contentment and progression, offering insights into aligning mind and body for holistic well-being. The episode concludes with a reminder of the body's resilience and the power of self-healing through the mind-body connection. Key Discussion Points: Introduction to somatic coach Keri Ford and her work in helping women unlock their potential. Explanation of somatic work, nervous system regulation, and the mind-body connection. Guided somatic check-in exercise to help listeners connect with their bodies and become more aware of their sensations. Exploration of different types of trauma and their impact on the body. Discussion of the importance of slowing down, listening to the body, and making new choices for healing. Balancing contentment with personal growth and embracing both acceptance and expansion. Mention of Dr. Joe Dispenza's work on self-healing through the power of the mind. Guest: Keri Ford, Somatic Coach Host: LeeAnne Hayden Links: Elevate with Keri Website Keri on Instagram Keri on Facebook LeeAnne's Website  LeeAnne on Instagram  LeeAnne on Facebook  Note: The information provided in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Listeners are advised to consult with qualified professionals for personalized guidance and support.

Join me for a raw and heartfelt conversation with a deaf friend of mine - Keri Ford - about the transformative power of embracing one's true self.  We delve into the pressures and expectations women face regarding beauty standards and the masks we wear to fit in. Keri shares her personal journey of self-discovery, including a 30-day experiment of giving up makeup and alcohol. We explore the insecurities, fears, and societal conditioning that hold women back from fully accepting and appreciating their unique beauty.  This is a powerful discussion that challenges you to redefine your relationship with beauty and embrace your authenticity! KERI WEBSITE KERI INSTAGRAM MADE FOR MORE RETREATS KERI LINKEDIN KERI YOUTUBE TORI TIKTOK  TORI INSTAGRAM COACHABLE YOUTUBE COACHABLE INSTAGRAM COACHABLE FB COMMUNITY Join My Exclusive Group Coaching Membership - THE HUDDLE Sponsors: For the BEST air purifier go to airdoctorpro.com and use my exclusive promo code “COACHABLE” for up to 39% off or up to $300 off (depending on which model you choose) I have the Air Doctor 3000 and LOVE it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Let's delve into the fascinating world of conscious relationships and self-actualization. In this episode, we are joined by two incredible guests, Keri Ford and Jake Kauffman, who are transformational coaches and spiritual mentors specializing in women's and men's work. Together, they help individuals redefine success to experience a greater sense of fulfillment, happiness, and love in both their business and personal lives. They share their expertise in transformational coaching and spiritual mentoring. With a focus on redefining success and experiencing fulfillment in both business and life, Keri and Jake offer a multidisciplinary approach that integrates business strategy and holistic healing practices.  Keri and Jake encourage listeners to embrace tension and transform through love in their relationships. They emphasize the importance of self-awareness, compassion, and effective communication in creating healthy and fulfilling partnerships. By using tools like the Enneagram and holding space for others without trying to fix or rescue them, individuals can navigate the inherent conflicts of relationships and grow together. Ultimately, embracing tension and transforming through love allows for greater understanding, support, and growth within relationships. This episode will inspire and empower you to embrace your own journey of self-actualization and heart-centered leadership. So, grab your headphones and join us on this transformative ride.   Key Takeaways [00:02:13] Reconnecting after a breakup. [00:05:06] Defining love and beliefs. [00:09:31] Patterns in relationship attachment styles. [00:12:41] The curse of pursuing love. [00:21:45] Taking Responsibility in Relationships. [00:24:19] Letting go of historical adaptive strategies. [00:27:18] Relationships and Enneagram subtypes. [00:34:30] Relationships and problem-solving. [00:36:01] Being molded by problems. [00:40:09] Handling periods of career imbalance. [00:44:23] Communicating needs and growth. [00:46:12] Delegating and supporting each other. [00:50:05] Healing after a breakup. [00:55:08] Couples immersions and retreats. [00:59:23] Collective healing spaces. Where to Find Our Guests: Keri Ford Website: https://elevatewithkeri.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamkeriford/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kerilynn.ford   Jake Kauffman Website: https://www.awakewithjake.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjakekauffman/ Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Let-Love-Stops-Truth-Starts/dp/B0C1J3FDPX Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jake.kauffman.923?mibextid=LQQJ4d Memorable Quotes "I get energized and I flourish within the context of connection and relationships. And so, I need to proactively be making new connections, cultivating existing connections, maintaining existing connections for me to feel passionate and feel alive and to thrive in many ways.” [00:27:30] – Jake Kauffman   "I also think women need exclusively female spaces for our own collective healing. And I think men more than ever need that as well. And for the collective healing, I think it has to be somewhat separate in other ways." [00:59:25] – Keri Ford Download my Spiritual Leadership Workbook for practices & rituals to help you amplify your voice & spiritual purpose: https://www.carissajohnsen.com/leadershipworkbook   Watch the LIVE video broadcast of today's episode: www.youtube.com/@carissajohnsen www.facebook.com/carissajohnseninc   Connect with Carissa: CarissaJohnsen.com www.instagram.com/carissajohnsen   Subscribe to the Transcendent Leadership Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/.../transcendent.../id1475389564 https://open.spotify.com/show/7xWEkjVNdOQwonxk80b2sD  

In This Episode, You Will Learn: How to get unstuck and begin your healing process. The tools to upgrade your identity. Embracing self development to move towards your full potential.   Resources + Links: Connect with Keri | https://elevatewithkeri.com/ Connect with Jake | https://www.jacobkauffman.com/   Get your digital copy of Let Love In for $0.99 until April 28!    A Return to Love with Marianne Williamson   From Wild Man to Wise Man by Richard Rohr and Joseph Martos Join our free Facebook Group, Energy Secrets for Business Owners and Professionals, for more content, live coaching, and a kick ass community HERE: https://fitnessproject.kartra.com/page/energysecrets   WANT TO BUILD A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE WITHOUT HAVING TO WORKOUT FOR 6+ HOURS / WEEK AND BE ON A TEDIOUS DIET? i.e. Want fitness to fit into your life rather than having to become your life?   -- Apply Now to Learn More About How We Can Support You In Your Journey: https://thefitnessproject.us/application/   Check out our client transformations: https://thefitnessproject.us/client-transformations/ Tag us in an Instagram Story with your biggest takeaway  @conquerthedaypodcast   Connect with Lindsey Rago Instagram | @raygobomb Facebook | @lindseyrago   Connect with Brian Pickowicz  Instagram | @brianpickowicz   Connect with The Fitness Project for Inspiring, Healthy Content Facebook | The Fitness Project Co Instagram | @thefitnessprojectco Show Notes: Are you feeling stuck? Do you feel trapped in a state of stress? If you're a high performer looking to reach their full potential, then this episode is for you! Today, we're learning how to peel back the layers to begin healing and usher in new opportunities for self development with power couple, Jake Kauffman and Keri Ford! From restaurant employee to healthcare salesman to successful coach, Jake is now a personal transformation coach, author, and speaker. Keri is a holistic life coach, motivational speaker, and author who helps modern day women overcome anxiety to live the life they love. Our conversation goes deep as we explore the inner work it takes to get to the roots, increase awareness of your body, upgrade your identity, and even more – all so you can reach your full potential. Find out how you can never get stuck again! 01:30 Meet the power couple, Keri Ford and Jake Kauffman, life & transformation coaches, authors, and speakers! 03:00 What led you to coaching? 07:15 What does it mean to acknowledge abuse and trauma? 09:25 Why do we get stuck? 13:15 Feeling safe in your nervous system. 15:00 How do you build awareness in your body? 17:45 How can you reframe your strength to foster growth? 20:15 The issue with overcorrecting. 24:20 What are some unconscious responses to pushing ourselves? 29:15 How do you start healing? 32:05 What would you say to someone who rejects doing the deep work? 36:40 What do you do when you get stuck? 38:55 Psychology over skill. 41:05 How do you upgrade your identity? 46:35 How do you approach self development without falling to procrastination? 50:00 Putting it all on the line. 53:25 What is one book that has impacted your life more than any other? 55:25 What is one question everyone should ask themselves? 55:55 What is your definition of paradise?  

In today's episode I'm introducing you to my amazing friend, mentor, and personal coach, Keri Ford! Keri is the CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri – an elite transformational coaching movement and luxury brand dedicated to serving and elevating women's emotional intelligence and whole-body high performance. She is an international motivational speaker, author, event host and global authority on women's wellness. She has spoken alongside 50 other top industry experts, neuroscientists, doctors and authors in the personal development industry. Let's dive in! Highlights: 00:27 Let's Get Started 01:44 How Keri Got Her Entrepreneurial Start 06:48 Permission to Pivot 08:30 An Introduction to Somatics 13:01 An Exercise for Pricing Your Services 20:03 Millionaire Mindset Meditations 24:49 Connect with Keri on Social Keri is giving away a 5 Minute Abundance Activation Meditation for listeners of this podcast! You can grab that here: https://bit.ly/AbundanceActivationMeditation Connect with Keri on FB: https://www.facebook.com/kerilynn.ford Connect with Keri on IG: https://www.instagram.com/iamkeriford/ If you'd like to check out Keri's Millionaire Mind$et Program, you can grab that here: https://bit.ly/GoalDigger-KeriFord Host Bio: Kimberly Olson is a self-made multi-millionaire and the creator of The Goal Digger Girl, where she serves female entrepreneurs by teaching them simple systems and online strategies in sales and marketing. Through the power of social media, they are equipped to explode their online presence and get real results in their business, genuinely and authentically. She has two PhDs in Natural Health and Holistic Nutrition, has recently been recognized as the #2 recruiter in her current network marketing company globally, is the author of four books including best-sellers, The Goal Digger and Balance is B.S., has a top 25 rated podcast in marketing and travels nationally public speaking. She is a mom of two and teaches others how to follow their dreams, crush their goals and create the life they've always wanted. Check out Project Broadcast: https://bit.ly/ProjectBroadcastTGDG Website: www.thegoaldiggergirl.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/thegoaldiggergirl Facebook: www.facebook.com/thegoaldiggergirl Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thegoaldiggergirl Grab The Goal Digger Girl Journal: https://amzn.to/3BeCMMZ Check out my Facebook groups for those that want to build their business online through social media, in a genuine and authentic way: Goal Digging Boss Babes: http://bit.ly/GoalDiggingBossBabes Goal Digger Creatives: http://bit.ly/GoalDiggerCreatives If you haven't already, be sure to text “PODCAST” to 737-240-3136 to get notified when there is a new episode! Leave a review here: Write a review for The Goal Digger Girl Podcast. Subscribing to The Podcast: If you would like to get updates of new episodes, you can give me a follow on your favorite podcast app. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thegoaldiggergirl/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thegoaldiggergirl/support

Everyone seems to be searching for their “purpose”. Is there really a way to discover what is meant for you? What are the steps that can be taken to truly step into your purpose? Adrian Starks joins the podcast as a man dedicated to helping others achieve their purpose driven lives.  If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How living with purpose changes your lifeThe first step in discovering your purpose The three reasons we are here on this planet How to create space to be curious and be purposeful The bridge to being more purposeful and growing beyond your environment What it means to be in an active state Did we train our mind to accept things that please others?BIO:Adrian Starks is a professional speaker, host of Your Purposeful Life podcast, narrator, writer and entrepreneur. I am an expert in the field of success, purpose, change and challenges.Episode References/Links:Watch Your Purposeful Life on YouTubeYour Purposeful Life Website  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipWaitlist for the flashcards deckUse this link to get your Toe Sox!ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInTranscriptLesley Logan  Hey, Be It babe. How are you? Welcome back. Thank you for being here. I am loving, being back in my podcast room, recording some guests, especially because all of these guests I have been waiting to interview for months. Actually, one of the things that I had, it was intentional about a few years ago was that I wanted to take December's off. And in order to do that, I had to get, you know, a 12 months of work done in 11 and kind of less. And I started that about 2020. And what that allowed me to do was have December off in 2021. And then that allowed me to have it off in 2022. Why am I telling you this? Because if you want to make change, you actually have to make a change ... I know, that's like, duh. But seriously, you actually can't expect things to just happen. So when I wanted to have December's off, I didn't get to have that December off that year, which was when I got to part of it, but I got to actually do the work to be it till I see it to have the next December off and the next December off. And so that meant, meeting amazing people like today's guests, Adrian Starks. Months ago, asked him to gonna be on the podcast months ago, and then going, by the way, you won't see anything open until January because that's all I had. I had to block things off so I could get things done. And so this guest I've been so excited to have on the show, he has an incredible podcast called Your Purposeful Life. I've been on it, you must go listen to that episode and the episodes that came out around it, and all the episodes just binge out actually. Because what Adrian is helping you do is be more purposeful with your life. And there isn't one way to do that. And I'm so excited for you to hear his words. First of all, his voice is gonna blow your mind. Second of all, there's so much honesty and vulnerability in this episode. And I really want you to listen to that. So if you're on a walk, enjoy, if you're driving your car in traffic, I hope that we help you get past any negative nancies that are out there on the road with you. And let us know what out of this podcast helps you live your purposeful life. Lets you be it till you see it. I want to know. And so you will and then make sure you tag the @be_it_pod. And if you have any questions, feel free to send those in. We'll make sure put them in the recaps. And until and you know, help you out in any way we can because we're here to help you be it till you see it to enjoy imperfections in your life and with our guests Adrian to help you live your purposeful life. And so, here is Adrian Starks.Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.All right, Be It babe. I'm so stoked. First of all, I cannot wait for you to hear the voice that's about to appear on the other side of mine. In this moment, but I have an amazing guest here. I got to meet him by being on his incredible podcast. And so when I got to know him more, and got to hear what his story is, I was like, "Oh, my God, you have to be on the Be It pod." Because if Adrian has not been be it till he saw it then I don't really know who has. So Adrian Starks, thank you for being on the Be It Till You See It podcast. Can you tell everyone who you are and what you're rockin at these days?Adrian Starks  Oh, well, I'm happy to be here. First of all, Lesley, thank you. And yes, I'm Adrian Starks. I am a podcast host of Your Purposeful Life. I'm a speaker, narrator, entrepreneur and writer. So I do a lot of things. And right now I'm just hanging out in the purposeful life world and just being it till I see it. You know what I'm saying?Lesley Logan  I do. I do. Was like, was, were you always living your purposeful life? Or like, did you come upon something that was like, "I need to be more purposeful?" How did that come about?Adrian Starks  Hell, no. I have to say, it took some time to get there. I used to be one of those people that would ask the question, What is my purpose? What is my purpose? And the universe never gave me an answer back. And I kept getting myself into constant messes, which I call the human mess. But I never learned for them until eventually, I decided that I was responsible for my own mess. And I had to figure out how to create a better process. And this hit me probably about a couple of years ago. And I realized I said, Oh, wow, it's not what is my purpose? It's what do I want to be purposeful towards? What do I need to do on my end to make some changes happen? What energy do I need to shift out there to create something different that I really want to experience? And it took a lot of mistakes, a lot of challenges, a lot of going through the motions. But eventually, I got to the point where I was like, "This is my sweet spot. I'm going to be here in my lane, and anybody that gets in his lane, they better be rolling with me. If they're not, then I'm gonna roll past them." And that's where I'm at now, with my life of just energetically being purposeful about what I do.Lesley Logan  So there's a few things that I really love there. First of all, the human mess, human mess. I'm like, aren't we all? And I also, thank you for sharing like that whole like, "What is my purpose?" Because I have a lot of people like, "I don't know, my purpose is." And it's like, I think we're expecting it to just like ... you know, like, the world stops and everything glows, and it's like, "Ah, this is it." And you're like, here's what, here's what it is. And it's actually, you know, I think that's a lot of pressure. You know, like, so much pressure, like, we're, we don't all have to cure cancer and become president of something. Like we, you're, you know, but so I love that you're like, "How do I be more purposeful?" What a, what a great way to take action in your life, instead of waiting for your purpose to find you. Or for you to be able to find what that purpose is. How did you start like with one thing at a time, like what how did you start becoming more purposeful? Like, what is that first step?Adrian Starks  The first step is finding out or self discovery. You got to dig in deep in yourself, you got to learn how to start dating yourself again. It's really the truth. You got to start learning how to ask yourself questions. What do I want to do? Where do I want to go next? What do I want to experience? And you have to get crystal clear on that. And I remember this quote from Thomas Carlyle, he is a Scottish philosopher. And he said that 'a person without a purpose, it's like a ship without a rudder. You can't go anywhere.' So at some point, you have to ask yourself, "Okay, what do I want this thing to be?" And you have to know yourself first. I know it's hard for a lot of you to hear that because you're like, "Oh, I know myself." No, you don't. No, you don't. I'm still learning about myself as we speak right now. And there's so many things that you haven't asked yourself about, or even decided to go in and do what we call an interrogation or or questioning of yourself. Sometimes you have to go on your own nerves and say, "What the hell is wrong with me right now? And why am I doing this? Why am I choosing this path? Why am I choosing these people? Why am I choosing this?" When you start asking that question, then you'll dial back and the answer will come in silence. So back to your question. My purpose came in many different forms and fashions. And now I've just learned to take a few of them and blend them in together.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I love that dating yourself. I think so often people, they do things because they've always done that way. This is how I sell. Like, there's a funny story that it will all make a point like my in laws. They, the my mother in law was making the turkey and she like, "Cut the top of the turkey off and put it in the oven." Just every year cut the top of the turkey off, put in the oven? And finally someone goes, "Why did you, why are you cutting the top of the turkey off? What are you doing?" And she goes, "Let me call my mom." And she calls her mom. And she's like, "Hey, Mom, I'm cooking the turkey. The way you cook the turkey? Why do you cut the top of the turkey off?" And she said, "Well, my ovens too small for full size turkeys." So like, I think we don't realize like we've been doing things like we do these things. Because the way our parents did them, because we've always done them that way. Because that's how everyone does it. And we've like until someone goes, "Why don't we go? Why do I do? Why do I like my eggs this way? Why do I get up?" Or like what what are those, you can't really know yourself. And then you just keep like you're walking through life. And it's a, it's this, it's Groundhog Day.Adrian Starks  It's a Groundhog Day. And the greatest journey is to journey inward. And I have to say this to the audience today. The longest and hardest journey is a journey inward and you're not going to figure everything out right away. So don't put that pressure on yourself. You don't need to know everything. There's some people that will say they do. And if they do say that they're very silly humans. Because they don't know everything. And if you did, what else is there to learn? And I always have this this thing too about the best version of yourself. I don't like that term. And I'll tell you why. When we say that I want to be the best version of myself. Then what else is there once you hit that ceiling? (Lesley: Yeah.) Where else you're gonna go. You're here on this planet to do three things. That's to learn. Some of us are hard at learning. We don't want to learn our lessons. I was there many times and I still am at some point. I can be a hard head. Two, we learn and then we have to grow. That means we have to take what we've learned applied into action. You talked about this be it till you see it. You'd learn something, okay, it's not there right now. What do we do? We start acting toward that thing. And then with the growth, yeah.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So okay. So, learning, I love that you said like, well, some of us just don't wanna be wrong. That's why I think that learning is hard. Because you could end up being wrong like you could have been how many Thanksgivings, just to, they cut the best part of turkey. Do you know what I mean? Like ... (Adrian: It's true ...) So, I don't want to be wrong, I think like we're, if we learn, we might be like, "Oh, we might have to like do it differently." And then that's really scary action. By the way, I said in the intro, this podcast, if you keep skipping through, you're skipping through a good stuff. Action is a, is the antidote to fear. So if you're scared of that, like take action, it feels really good. And then growth can come from that because you get clarity. I do love, thank you for saying that I've, because we always say I wanna be the best version of myself, but then it's almost like a period. It's like a p... I got like a peak, you know, and I have an episode that I will already have come out by the time this one does. But the guest was like, Keri Ford. So like, you know, it's a mountain with no peak. Like, like learning about yourself and growing is like, you're just on a mountain with no peak. And that can sound really depressing or could be really exciting. I'm like, what views are up here? What these are up here? And what am I gonna learn up here? So, on this journey, did you ever get frustrated with yourself? Because it's not like you can go from like, trying to, like do everything right? And like, and then going to like looking for your purpose and then getting comfortable with like, I'll never actually like I'll never be done.Adrian Starks  ... I'm glad you asked that question, I want to address two things. When I say purpose is when I say purposeful, because I'm constantly in the action of, of dating myself and getting familiar with my purpose and putting it into the action of energy and serving. So that's why I say purposeful. What I want to get back to is the growth, I mentioned the learning, the growing, the third step is full expression. And this is where the purpose really manifests itself. This full expression is now the truth that you have and the trust you have and honoring yourself to know that I've grown so much and I love myself so much that I am willing to do this now despite the fact that may not be seen as perfect or the best. And that is what I called the cycle, learn, grow and fully express and in that is a human mess. Shit happens. Things come up. People come in, they come out, you make mistakes, but it's like this canvas of paint that you just eventually you're smearing things and eventually start seeing this reality called your life, unfolding. And like, "Oh, I can see why that happened over there? Why spilled that over there? I can see why this happened over here." And then that chaos that we call problem. So we call disasters are basically things unfolding, that we truly don't understand that eventually, at some point when they come together for the purpose of what we're doing, we will understand and be like, "Damn, that's what that was all about."Lesley Logan  Yeah. Yeah, I agree. Like there's a situation I was going through over the holidays and I and I was like noticing myself kind of like being like a victim and like being a victim of it. Like, why is this happening? Like, I can't believe they're doing this to me. Why, like all this stuff. And it's like, then like there's this like part of me that's like, actually been learning so much. It's like, what the fuck are you saying to yourself right now, you're actually doing this right now. Like, you know, you know that this is actually going to be this is actually muscling you up for the next thing. And I don't know, when I will look back and go so so glad I went through that. But I do know that it will work out that way. Because I to this day, it will be 10 years ago, this summer that I became homeless, totaled my car. And the studio, I rented space from close, like it all happened in the same month. And I remember literally when the third thing happened, just like what else do you want to take? Because I don't want to take it with me. Like, I don't want to move into the new place with any of the shit you're going to take. So just take it now do you need a burn a fire? Like, what do you need? Right? And, and I knew in this like I had this like moment of like, this is all gonna be great someday. It really sucks right now. So it does take time to get to that spot where you can go, "Okay, what am I can learn from this? Where is this is going?" Like, and being curious in there. Were you always a curious person, or did this come as a moment? You're like, I gotta be like, I gotta figure this out.Adrian Starks  Oh, get out of my head. That was gonna talk about curiosity today. I've always been a curious person. Since I was a child. I was always that kid that was asking questions. And here's a little bit of my story. When I was in elementary, I had a lot of teachers that were, they didn't know what to do with me. I was very outspoken. I was very just energetic. And, to this day, my parents really were happy that they did not allow the teachers in the school system during that time. I'm 41. So I'm an 80s kid (Lesley: Yeah.) to shut me up, you know, (Lesley: Yeah.) 41 word up. They don't even use that term anymore. But ...Lesley Logan  It's okay. We're bringing it back. There's a lot of ...Adrian Starks  We're bringing it back. We are tired to being in the background. 80s kids are popping up.Lesley Logan  Oh, we're gonna put it on a quote card.Adrian Starks  We're gonna do. We're gonna bring it back. Yeah, remember cassettes, you remember CD. So yeah, during that time, I was very energetic. So the school was trying to put me into what they call medication. They claimed I had ADHD. And they really wanted to put me into a corner. My parents said, "No, he's just, he needs to be taught a different way." So it was little backlash from that. So I was remember getting my desk at this time, they can't do this. But I would have my desk placed all against against the back wall of the room. And I was told not to turn around to talk to any students. And these are the things that trauma wise I grew up with. And I shut down for a very long time as I got into my middle school years because I associated talking with getting in trouble. (Lesley: Yeah.) And then my curiosity dropped. (Lesley: Yeah.) I was no longer interested in conversations with people. I just thought that if I say this in class, I'm gonna be quiet. (Lesley: Right.) But here's the flip side of that. During lunch, I would always go to the library and eat because I became kind of, I wouldn't say antisocial, I got scared of talking to people. (Lesley: Right.) And I started reading a lot. I started dissecting philosophers, poets, I started looking at all these things of the past and I fell in love with the art of poetry, Maya Angelou, I fell in love with people like James Baldwin. I fell in love with people like Ralph Emerson, Henry David Thoreau, I can go on and on and on, Wayne Dyer. I fell in love with Earl Nightingale, all these true voices pioneers. And I realized that, oh, also Louise Hay. And I realize there was a part of me that was missing. And so I got curious again, if I started reading a lot, and that curiosity came out more and more as I got older, I started asking questions, I started poking the bear a little bit, so to speak, I started challenging people's perceptions. And I lost a lot of friends and behind that. A lot of people kind of just ... just went with the wind. And that's okay. I understood that I was speaking a part of me now that needed to. So back to your question of curiosity. That's when it started when I started going to libraries during my middle school years. But at that point, I'm still curious, like, every day I want to know something different. (Lesley: Yeah.) I'm curious to know, why are you having a messed up day right now? I'm curious to know you know, what's going on with this. You seem very happy. I'm curious to know well, why did you just tells me that this information is the only information I need to hear right now. Why is this the most important thing in the world? Why is this scaring you? Why do I feel the way I feel? Curiosity is what allows us to really be perceptive, and to see things like opportunities. And this is one way to get out to. (Lesley: Yeah.) With your purpose, if you really want to create a purpose, you got to be open to things that come up. You gotta be like, I see that door opening right there. I'm gonna go right through that damn thing. Even (Lesley: Yeah.) if it's like close, I'm gonna go through it. I might get my foot caught in it, but at least I got a little bit of it. You got to get curious that way. You got to get curious enough to make a mistake to tell you know, someone that maybe I don't know this. Can you, can you enlighten me on what your what your thought process is on this? That curiosity just never leaves me.Lesley Logan  Yeah. And I just want to highlight here ... Did you hear that rewind, if you're curious enough to be able to make and be okay of making a mistake like that, because that's how we learn like that is if you're listening this and you want to get into business of any kind, I'm gonna tell you right now, you learn more from mistakes you make in your business than the things that go the way you planned. When things go the way you planned, you know, actually idea of like, what of those things that you did worked, but when you have when it doesn't go the way you plan, and you can actually go, "Oh, well, here's where we actually could have done something. Here's we could have done something." Like you can learn from that. So, all of this actually just takes time, though when you open to it, we have to actually create space for this. How how are you able to create space in your life to get curious and to take time to like work on your purpose and like work on being purposeful?Adrian Starks  Being alone. I love my alone time. I'm what I call a hyped up introvert.Lesley Logan  Oh, Brad calls me a high functioning one. My friends think I'm an ambivert. And we might be ambiverts. But I hyped up introvert. Okay, I'm in. Tell me more.Adrian Starks  Okay, so this is what I mean by this. I love my alone time. I love quiet space. But at any point I can, I can gel with people. I can get into a conversation. I can walk into a room. I can really highlight people and really get and have fun. But I need my time to decompress. I need my time to re energize. And that comes from silence. I like to go and just be by myself. I love the ocean. I'm a water sign. So anything with running water soothes me. I go there and times to think ask myself questions. And I do a lot of I would say note taking, people call it journaling. I call it note taking because I take notes on my day and what I've been going through, that's my alone time. That's how I really learn more about myself. And I really find a way to, to re energize so to speak. So I like I like to be alone. But at the same time too much alone time. It's not good enough for me because in my brain starts thinking too many things and I need to get around other people.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I can thrive an alone time. But if I'm alone too much, then I actually can overwhelm myself with all the thoughts. And I ... Yes, yes. Yeah. So um, I want to go back you before you were doing all the things you're doing now, which you know, your podcaster, narrator all these things. Can you explain like, the bridge? Because I think a lot of people listen to this. They're like they're trying to work on the thing, or they have an idea of what it is that they're like way more purposeful. They want to be it till they see it. And it's hard. Like I think some people think it's a light switch. Like I closed the door on this life. And I open the door on this life. And there's actually, there's a whole hallway y'all that you had to go through.Adrian Starks  The hallway is long too. You can be crawling your knees at some point. And other point, you feel like you're Spider Man, you're crawling on the walls trying to avoid this door. It gets crazy. Yes, the answer to your question. Yeah, it was not a light bulb moment. Well, no, it wasn't a light bulb moment for me where everything just happened. I used to work in a call center. So this a little bit of my background here. I have a degree in exercise physiology. So I worked in personal training for quite some time, but I really loved helping people. So then I got involved into the medical field, because I don't know for some reason I thought I could do more. And I ended up in a call center in Seattle for about nine years. And here's the funny thing. The call center was a calling to the centering of my life. I learned a lot of communication skills there on the phone, I learned how to talk to people, how to help people, how to see things from their perspective. And with that, after my seventh year, I got really tired. And I was just not wanting to go in and I don't know if y'all feel this way. But if you ever went to a job and just pulling that door open seems heavy, minute you walk into the room, the atmosphere chokes you, and all you hear is just voices and you're just like, "Damn, I wish I called out today. (Lesley: Right.) I should have called in sick." That's how I felt the last two years and then I had to change something. I started looking at what I wanted to do differently. So I knew that I really wanted to get more into the self improvement world. I was really inspired by the people I've mentioned earlier and one person in particular, Les Brown really inspired me. And I was like, "I want to be a speaker. I didn't want to be a motivational speaker. I wanted to be a person of change agent, a voice." And every time I would answer that phone a call center, they would think I was some automated system, they would say, "Hey, what are you doing here? You should be like doing voiceovers or something like that. Why are you answering the phones here?" And I'm like, "No. Well, thank you for that. Thank you that." I get that all the time. It hit me like, "What the fuck am I doing here (Lesley: Yeah.) right now." Sorry for my language. But I gotta say that to express that emotion. (Lesley: Yeah.) It's like, what am I doing here right now? I've been here for too long. Where else can I go? Then I started looking at options for myself. And what I'm getting at here is that wherever you wherever you are, you must grow beyond your environment, don't have an environment, try to change you, you have to change yourself within the environment and get so big enough in your thought process and how you feel about yourself that that damn environment can even hold you anymore. Things become easier when you do that, when you start focusing on things outside of yourself, like doing things other than work. So what I used to do is during on Fridays, this is my favorite part, I would take the bus to go back home. But Fridays were happy hour. So I would always go down into the lobby on Fridays. And I would sit at the table. And I write out my list of five things. Why I deserve my dream? I write up five statements every Friday, and people will come down the stairs, the elevator, "What are you still doing here? You should go home, have fun, it's the weekend or come with us to happy hour." I would say, "No, this is my productive hour. I'm gonna sit right here. I'm gonna write out these five things. And when I am done, then I will get on my bus." And every time I did that every Friday, and this is what it took for me to grow beyond my environment. And what happened was I started getting opportunities to speak. I started traveling to Canada, right across the street in Vancouver. So I was speaking at schools, I started speaking at events. And next thing I know I'm doing some talks, professional talks. And one thing led into the other because I kept thinking about that vision. And remember y'all I'm gonna go back here, Thomas Carlyle, that Scottish philosopher I mentioned earlier, the quote, 'a person without a purpose, like a ship without a rudder. You're not going to go anywhere.' And if you ask a captain, like, "Hey, what is your next port of destination?" They can tell you because they know what it is, regardless of what kind of weather comes their way. And that environment couldn't hold me anymore. Because I knew my destination at that point. I wanted to get out of there, first of all, but I wanted to get more involved in public speaking and narrations.Lesley Logan  Yeah. I love this because it's like, I like a picture. This is like your happy hour, which is actually, like, the irony is like they're going off to happy hour for that moment. But you spent this purposeful hour to create happiness in your life now. Like you're like do you know what I mean? Like you're not at that call center anymore, you're doing the things that like, really light you up. And I also like I always tell people, you know, paste into the things that people are telling you all the time or asking you all the time because they actually think that you're the expert in that, like the fact that like every time someone's calling in, they're like, "Why are you, why aren't you, why aren't you reading my audible book? (Adrian: Exactly.) Why are the person helping me with my password?" You know, I think, thank goodness, you were listening, though. I think, you know, to go back, like where with that whole? Like, what is my purpose? I was like waiting for a light bulb. It's like, oftentimes, you've been hit over the head with it, y'all. It's the things that people continue to ask you about. Or to, like, share with you like that is, that's what they are seeing you as, and they're a really good mirror for for us. You know, so can you talk about some other things that you've done, that have helped you go from like growing too big for your space from that space? And then and to that got you to where you're doing today? And like what that looks like, because I know our peeps are like really big. They like to take the notes, they want to get the details they want to kind of know, how did you get there?Adrian Starks  Great question. Well, sometimes you have to do things for free. I did a lot of volunteer work. While I was there in the call center. I would drive up to Vancouver every other weekend and volunteer for a workshop for about two hours. And what I did was I was studying under a person who was teaching workshops, they were actually a professional speaker. I just reached out to him and said, "Hey, I really like your style. I'd like to learn from you. But I also understand too that is not for free. Is there anything that we can bargain with? Can I come and volunteer? And while I'm volunteering, I can be a sponge. And whenever you need me to do I will do." Did that for two years, went back and forth. And I was up there so much people thought I live there. So I I put in that time and I didn't get paid for it. I did free talks, didn't get paid for it. I was on social media, didn't get acknowledged for it. And this is what it means when you're in an active state, sometimes the world will not know what you're doing and that's okay. But when you start getting active enough and you start growing, people will begin to watch, they will begin to listen, they will begin to see that you're being good to you see it. And then they start saying, "Oh, this person is not going anywhere. Freakin consistent. What's going on with that? I won't check this person out over here." But there were times where Lesley I lost confidence in myself. I'm gonna say this right now. We, I think people put on this perfectionism mask, this is what you talk about, right? Is they make you like, I made it here. And this is what you got to do? No, it ain't that easy. It's not that one step. And it's like, are you gonna be here? No, you're gonna have to fall on your face a little bit. You got to get, get your elbows dirty a little bit. Is going to happen. If you don't want that to happen, then stay comfortable. But if you really want to get outside that comfort zone, you're gonna have to trip and fall a little bit and try some things out that may not work. There are a lot of things I did that did not work. I was with some people and partner with people, it did not work. So I tried something else. And I cannot say that, that I planned exactly how things are going to be. I had a plan, but I let things unfold. And as they unfolded, I decided, okay, this works. This doesn't. Let me keep this over here. This works. This doesn't. (Lesley: Yeah.) I just kept doing that over and over again until I got it right. I allowed myself to feel. I allowed myself to make mistakes. I allowed myself to, to celebrate ... that's another thing too. When I had small victories, I celebrated myself, I went out and bought myself something I really wanted. Say, good job. (Lesley: Yeah) Patting myself on the back, you know. (Lesley: Yeah.) People are saying, "Yeah, good job." But it feels so good when you tell yourself, good job. It doesn't need to be a grandiose thing, just something minor. And so if you're on a nine to five or anywhere right now, and you're trying to figure out how to get the hell out of there. Don't think about that right now, think about what can you start getting involved with that can change your energetic state, wherever you are. Because what happens is when you change your energetic state, like I did, I walked in that call center, that door wasn't heavy anymore. I walked in, like I owned the freaking place. That was like, what would it be like my own displays? How would I act? How would I be? Who would I talk to? And that and believe it or not, I got offered opportunities to move up in the echelons of command. I didn't want it though. I'm out of here.Lesley Logan  Well cause you change your energy and so people noticed. (Adrian: Right.) I love that you share that you did things for free. And that a lot of things didn't work. Y'all it's a numbers game. More likely than not most of the things aren't gonna go the way you ...Adrian Starks  Lesley you know what? They said Babe Ruth, the home run hitter. Actually, Hank Aaron had more home runs to him. But they said that with both of these two combined, they had more strikeouts, and he did home runs. But no one knows notices that strikeouts, the only notice the home runs and successes like that people (Lesley: Yeah.) only notice the effect, they don't see all the causes that created that effect.Lesley Logan  That thank you for pointing that out. Because that's I mean, it's I, my husband has a course called like 200 rejections to success. He's like, if you go out and you try to get rejected 200 times on same thing, you will have all the clients you want to have because eventually you'll start to learn like what peaks people's interest? What are you saying that actually people like you'll hear all these objections, you'll start to be able to pre like bust those objections before they even come at you. Like, you're going to have more potential clients say no to you than yes to you. Because you couldn't be like, that's just how it goes. Like not everyone's the right person for you, or they don't understand it, or that's not the right time. And I think we think oh, well, five people didn't like what I said, so I'm not good enough. And I'm not going to do it anymore. It's like five people? You know, like, like, out of out of 7.8 billion people on this planet, five people said no, and you're gonna stop. You know. So I think also people don't realize how much you have to do to put yourself out there that is you don't get recognized for or you don't get acknowledged for and you don't win you don't get paid. But that doesn't mean you don't learn something from it. And it doesn't actually change the course of your life and help you with that purposeful life.Adrian Starks  It's true. It's saying that there's over 7 billion people on the planet and out of that 7 billion there's gonna be 5% are not going to like you no matter what you say or do. Think about that 5% converting to now 500 million people that you're trying to tiptoe around. Don't do it. I tried at one point. Don't do it. Then you end up hiding. You end up hiding everywhere you end up holding your words back. As you said, you know, Lesley you and your powerful phrase, self care isn't selfish. You stop taking care of yourself because now you feel like if I do this with this person at this energy in here, that this person then they're going to like me. I stopped that pony ride a long time ago. (Lesley: Yeah.) It's like I come from a heart of intention. If you don't like that, then don't like it. I won't lose any sleep, I promise.Lesley Logan  Yeah, you know, I think well that's where the that's where it's, it's really hard to unlearn that you're supposed to be liked by people. Like you know what I mean? Like all these things. Like don't brag, because that's gonna make people not like you. It's not gonna make people feel good about themselves and don't. And so all these people are doing all these things like for you don't talk in class, because no one's gonna like you because that's, that's different. And like ...Adrian Starks  That messed me up for a long time, Lesley. Let me tell you that that mess with my psych for a very, very long time.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I mean, how could it not like it's like, it's, you know, I mean, the new I don't know if the new kids with all the different ways they can learn are actually in a better state. I hope that they are because but I do recall like my parents, my parents, my mom is probably supposed left handed, but they forced me right handed because we can't be different. Don't be different.Adrian Starks  Same thing would happened to me too. (Lesley: Really?) It is.Lesley Logan  So I wanted to be left handed, but I had to be on a right handed world.Adrian Starks  I'm a lefty. I'm a lefty by nature. So this is the funny thing just to not to hijack what you're (Lesley: No.) saying here. I just have to add to say, my mom did the same thing to me. I come from a family of left handers and my grandmother could not stand my mom did that. But here's the funny thing every time now, I'm around my mom and I'm eating. I use my left hand because I've never slept part of my brain never stopped and she's like, "You're still using your left." Like I do. I open everything with my left hand. I eat with my left hand. I grab with my left hand, but I write with this hand. Well, my right hand.Lesley Logan  Oh, that's so you're like a nice ambidextrous, it's, but it's so like, those are like the first things that actually change us to conform, and really do mess with like how we feel safe expressing ourselves in this world. And it's such a shame that this happens because we have so much unlearning to do and if you're listening to this, and you're like, "Oh my God, that happened to me too." Like, your new journey gets to be curious about using the hand that you actually probably like what will happen if that you know, like what can be what can you learn from that? What can you start to open your eyes to and other things right then that it's not your fault that these were the things that people chose to do to you and your education. But if you continue to live that journey, that is something you choose, you know, like we can actually and we can choose to live a different way we can choose to get curious and try to unlearn. It might take you years, it might take you the rest of your life on this planet. And but I mean, what else were you doing?Adrian Starks  Exactly. Well, be on this planet is powerful thing. What else, what else, what else are we doing here for? Right. Experience.Lesley Logan  Right. So I want to go into because we on your ... Y'all, if you haven't listened to the episode I did on Adrian's podcast, Your Purposeful Life. Please go back and listen to that. It's so good. But you said something to me when we got off the air. You used to call it A Purposeful Life. Am I correct? Is that I get that correct? And then ...Adrian Starks  ... yeah, good question. It was The Purposeful Life Show. And the reason why I changed it was because I realized that it wasn't about someone coming and finding the answer to purpose. Like coming to the show. I'm like, "Oh, that's what the purpose of life is all about." No, it's your purposeful life. And when you come to the show, you're listening to amazing people like Lesley. And Lesley's energy may resonate with you that could turn on the switch for you to be like, whoa, I need to really look at that a little bit deeper for myself. And within that investigation that we talked about earlier, going deep inside y'all, then you start looking at your purpose a little bit differently. And your purpose is different for everyone else's, it's not a one size fits all approach. That's why when I when people say things, especially in self improvement world, I may, I may, I may step on some toes with this, and I'm not calling out any names, but I'm gonna have to go ahead and be wrong and say it. There's a lot of people that will say, "Well, you know, I'm going to help you live your best life. I'm going to tell you what it's like to be successful." Bullshit. There's not a person out there that has the only cure all answer. That's why less ... 7 billion people on the planet. You are designed to resonate with certain people. There's certain people I don't resonate with. I don't want to listen to. I don't care for really. And there's some people that may feel the same way about me and that's okay. That's why it's your purposeful life, because you can decide on the show who you want to listen to, who wants to resonate with you. But not one person has the cure all. I don't have the cure all. (Lesley: Yeah.) I'm still trying to figure stuff out myself. But I hey I'm willing to say it. (Lesley: Yeah.) I'm okay with that. I'm not perfect. And if anyone out there says they're perfect, run. (Lesley: Yeah.) The other direction, like run and don't even look back.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I do love like the most certain person in the room wins. I think that's really important for people to know when you're trying to help people with whatever your thing is. Like you do need to know that. People are not going to trust you if you are not certain about what that is. However, if that person is certainty as they have the actual key to the kingdom for you, and they're giving that same key out to every single person. It's not possible.Adrian Starks  That's what the problem is. And I like how you brought that up, because I didn't clarify that. In this field that we're in we're experts in what we do. There's a thing called professional speaking and I do speak on changes and challenges. I'm an expert in that. It's what I do. You ask me questions. I can I can address, I can show you examples, I can show you action steps. But I will not tell you that this is the only way to do it. (Lesley: Yeah.) I will not do that. I will not say that, don't go to this person over here, or this person, you come to me because you've heard about me through word of mouth. That's where the action expertise comes in. But when people say something, they say that this is the only thing you'll ever need. (Lesley: Yeah.) No.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I mean, and that goes fruit nutrition, y'all. That goes for money management like. So you know, and I, what I why I brought it up is like the intentionality of words. And how it changes, what can what people can come. So you had 'the', and then you change it to 'your', and it really does allow for permission and freedom of people to learn from a different person's purposeful life. Without that person just like making a general statement. This is how I had the purposeful life. This is like, you know, I think I think we, as humans forget, like, you can change a word like this is happening to me, this happening for me, like you change a word, and it can actually open up possibility or can shut things down.Adrian Starks  Absolutely. And I like that you said that too. It's for a reason. That is your because it is your life. I can't live it for you Lesley, can't live it for you. But you can decide how you want to live it. And you need tools. Remember that cycle, learn and grow and fully express. We learned from others. We learn what to do more of. We learn what to do less of. And on that show, it's about the human mess too that we go through. And when we express that human mess, and we laugh at ourselves and say, "Damn, I don't know how I got through it, but I got through it." Someone resonates with that. Because they they're going through that too right now. Right now in the in the market in the world, we have too many people out there that are just being perfect or trying to be perfect. And if you notice that people that you think are perfect, something happens, and all of a sudden you're like, "Whoa, I didn't know they were going through that. (Lesley: Yeah.) I didn't know this was happening. I didn't know, how could that be they got a perfect life." (Lesley: Yeah.) That's not, they don't have a perfect life. They have a life that you deem is perfect, because you've been conditioned to believe that. The other day, we're all human. And we're learning.Lesley Logan  Yeah, at the end of the day, we are all human. And how cool is that? That's, you know, where perfect is boring, as I say all the time. And also like, I did an episode with Alan Stein, Jr. and he said, this is such a like, I like this is just such a, he said in the history of basketball, the history of the NBA, there has never been a perfect game. There's never been a game with all these, the best of the best at what they do where the there's not a player who doesn't make a mistake. There's not a foul. There's not this and so it's like we're not robots. This is not an AI thing. This is like if you when you create things, you can create perfection if you want but that's gonna be contextual, because someone else might be like, "Oh, that that strokes wrong." So, oh my gosh, Adrian, I can keep talking to you forever. I do want to have to just have other hangouts. I gotta get to the Northwest for sure.Adrian Starks  We have a, we have an 80s hangout. We talked about the 80s.Lesley Logan  Oh, (Adrian: 80s movie, 80s music.) 1,000%. On OPC everything is done in the 80s. We use 80s and 90s rap to like title classes. (Adrian: I'm telling you it's the best.) It is the best you know, all y'all elder Millennials are gonna change the world you might think that we're we're different but we're actually the best.Adrian Starks  We are. Just just to say it quickly here. We are the, well here's the thing. Think about the 80s. We were in the middle of everything from tube set TVs to cable to very first started the first internet when it was a dial up we had to wait like 10 minutes to go online to moving into CDs and then all of a sudden we move into the first mp3 ever this is before the iPhone. Yeah, okay, so first mp3 ever and then we moved into DVDs that we experienced a major shift and change of everything, technology wise.Lesley Logan  Yeah, and we all help to get rid of some low rise jeans to stop bringing them back because no one looks good enough. Just say, just say well, if you are an elder millennial listening to this or a millennial and general, celebrate that and that's the first practice and celebrating yourself, and we're gonna take a brief break and we're gonna find out what you can listen to your purposeful life and also, Adrian's BE IT action items for you. Alright, Adrian, where can people find you, follow you, listen to this voice more?Adrian Starks  We're gonna keep it simple. Just go to yourpurposeful.life, the website, yourpurposeful.life. It is still in motion in action. Okay, so we're still building it up. But go there. Listen to the podcast episodes, download into your favorite podcast platform, scroll down that page and join the YPO community, as well have amazing takeaways, questions that I'll be addressing, things coming up from previous guests like Lesley and reaching out to them getting some advice about some questions you may have. Go there, yourpurposeful.life.Lesley Logan  I love it. And also everyone just so you know, your website's never done. So if you just like you're never done learning your website is never done.Adrian Starks  It's true. It's very true. Oh, and go to the Your Purposeful Life with Adrian Stark's YouTube channel. Subscribe, because we have videos out weekly on that channel. But yes, back to what you were saying. Websites are never done.Lesley Logan  Never done. They're never done. Okay, real quick, bold, executable, intrinsic, targeted action items we can give to the be it community, what do you have for us?Adrian Starks  Okay, so I'm pretty sure alot of you've heard a lot of these things. But I'm gonna say somewhere at the top. Stopped believing everything you hear. That's the first step, get curious. Question people, question yourself, but do it in a respectful way. Do it in a respectful way. That's the first sign of self. That's one of the first steps to self maturity. (Lesley: Yeah.) And if you really want to change, you have to be able to change your current paradigm, your current story and how you currently do things. I don't want to make this hard for you. But you have to do. That it starts with you first. And you got to start questioning things, people and your own motives. If you can't call yourself out on your own shit. How can you get mad if people don't hear you, don't respect you? How can you get mad about that? So to create some magic out here, you got to get honest with yourself and start really challenging you. Sit yourself down and get at it. Go to work.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I love that. Y'all, I just want highlight like, not only like don't believe everything you hear include the things you tell yourself. We tell ourselves some woppers that are not true about ourselves. (Adrian: ... talk.) Yeah, yeah. Oh my goodness, Adrian, you're amazing. You're so great. I love that you're doing what you're doing and putting out in this world because you are helping people be more purposeful and that is only going to make this world a better place. So thank you so much. Y'all, how are you going to use these tips in your life? Please let us know, tag the @be_it_pod, tag Adrian Starks. And until next time, Be It Till You See It.That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. 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Your health is not a fad. There is no quick fix for a healthy lifestyle but this episode holds some tricks for meal prepping to success and the way you can create lasting change in your wellness. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Making your health and fitness a priority as part of your lifestyle.How to shift out of fad diet cultureThe benefit of sharing your health journey with others Seven easy ways you can meal prep Episode References/Links:Longtime listener first time callerLet's go to Cambodia!Get on the waitlist for flashcards  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyUse this link to get your Toe Sox!ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life, Brad and I are going to dig into the feeling convo I had with Sara Frenza in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened that episode, feel free to pause this now and go back and listen to that one and then come back and join us. And by the way, if this is the first episode you've ever listened to. Hi, I's me and Lesley Logan. Hello.Brad Crowell  Oh, hey, my name is Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan  I already introduced you. I know. I know. So but I just thought like maybe every once in a while. I'll just say who I am just in case. There's a first timer. Hello. (Brad: Hey.) Welcome to the Be It pod.Brad Crowell  Yeah, we're so glad you're here.Lesley Logan  This is the recap. It is a Cliff's Notes version. And our opinions of what happened on Monday's pod.Brad Crowell  Yeah, we're summarizing, pulling out a couple talking points, expo... expounding on them, all those things. (Lesley: I like inexpoundsion ...) Inexpoundsion? That's not word, 100% not a word. I wouldn't even know how to spell it, expound s i o n. (Lesley: Yeah.) expound... No, no. (Lesley: Maybe ...) Expoundsion. (Lesley: Maybe it's x i o n, expoundxion) Expansion. (Lesley: Ah, that's such a boring word.) It's a boring word. We're making them up ... Well, before we make up more new words. A couple quick announcements here.Lesley Logan  We just drove back from the POT, Balanced Body's Pilates On Tour at Monterrey. And the flashcards went like hotcakes. (Brad: Oh, yeah.) Oh, yeah. You guys, it's just so fun to see how you guys use these flashcards in your life. I love, I love it. I love showing them to you. I love you getting your hot hands on them.Brad Crowell  We're talking about the Pilates flashcards that Lesley made. Just in case you're the first timer we've ever known ...Lesley Logan  Oh, yeah. Just in case you're Tracy from Michigan. Is that what they say? (Brad: Yeah, Tracy.) This is for Tracy.Brad Crowell  I think we're gonna call it Bob. Because Bob is going to be the husband of someone who does Pilates and he just doesn't have a clue. (Lesley: Okay, we can call him Bob.) Where's Bob from? (Lesley: Well, I'm just gonna, like ...) Do we not like Bob?Lesley Logan  ... Hi, males. If you're listening, there's like, it's like we have a lot of amazing women and a few good men. So, I think it could be like Cheryl from Wisconsin.Brad Crowell  Okay, Cheryl from Wisconsin.Lesley Logan  Yeah, she's pi curious.Brad Crowell  She's pi curious.Lesley Logan  And you need our Mat flashcards. Anyways, we, maybe we'll change her every name every week. But anyways, these are my flashcards the links in the show notes. We are about and this brings us to the next exciting news. (Brad: Yeah.) We are literally days away from announcing deck number four. Now, (Brad: days away) Cheryl's if you're pi curious you don't have a Wunda Chair this might not apply to you but it might apply to your teacher. So we I finished the chairs flashcard and when I say chairs plural is because there were multiple, (Brad: three) yeah I'm also there's pural chairs but ... (Brad: If you're a chair curious.) Yeah. There's there's a High Chair also there's an Electric Chair. There is an Arm Chair also known as a Baby Chair. And there is a Wunda Chair which is always called that. SoBrad Crowell  Unless you get the exo chair ...Lesley Logan  Which they people, well that's still a Wunda Chair, (Brad: I know.) but we've call it, I have an exo chair. (Brad: Yeah.) So you can have that chair. You can have ...Brad Crowell  ... like there's 50 names for them all. But we call them the chairs.Lesley Logan  You can have a homemade chair. You can have whatever chair has springs to it. I've seen them all and I did a very thorough job. I like to pat myself on the back and making sure our how to use this deck card has information on how to apply whatever your chair is to whatever chair I have and if you're like, "But Lesley I don't have a High Chair and a Baby Chair." I don't care. If you might have access to them ...Brad Crowell  Right. You might have access to one, at some point you might want to get one and totally okay. (Lesley: Well) It's just consider an extra information.Lesley Logan  Welcome to be it till you see it. (Brad: That's right.) I'm going to help you be the person who knows how to teach equipment until you see that equipment. So, it is and then just in case you are someone who needs to know how many cards, 72% of this deck is for Wunda Chair so that is more than two thirds. So no excuses, get on the waitlist at opc.me/flashcard waitlistBrad Crowell  opc.me/flashcard waitlistLesley Logan  that is hard slash flash.Brad Crowell  I know the slash discussion really messed up me last time, too.Lesley Logan  That's that that was a voice. I went to a sort of speaking, what do you call it speech therapy? (Brad: Yeah.) That was not in my list of things to work on any ... (Brad: No, slash flash.) Anyways, according to last week's episode, Brad said we're only gonna let the waitlist people know. SoBrad Crowell  Yeah, get on the waitlist because well the waitlist people are gonna get the link.Lesley Logan  Yeah, to the presale. (Brad: That's right.) Yeah, so you're gonna get the best deal. (Brad: Yeah.) And if you're not on the waitlist, you are not going to get that link or the best deal you're gonna you're gonna hear about it when it ships and you'll pay full price. (Brad: Love it.) So and then finally, one last exciting news. The doors have opened for our October retreat. And if you know, you know, (Brad: I ykyk.) I wonder how many times we can just say that?Brad Crowell  What retreat? Send us a DM. It's gonna be amazing.Lesley Logan  What retreat? Keep listening to the episodes, Cheryl. (Brad: Yeah.) We talk about the retreat. (Brad: Yeah, we do.)Brad Crowell  Okay, so what was this week's question? You got a listener asking, Are you ever in the Washington area, teaching Workshops? And they mean, like, Seattle, Washington.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Yeah. So I was like, oh, because it was, you know, we, they've been hearing about our tour. And we've been like, talking about maybe doing another tour.Brad Crowell  Right. So every year we do have tour up to out to Philadelphia from the West Coast (Lesley: It's out and up.) Well, yeah, it's out and back. So we do like, sometimes you go South first. Sometimes you go North first. But. it's like an epic saga of a drive.Lesley Logan  I did like the going South first. I mean, I don't know (Brad: Thank you with that.) that we probably can't do it again. No, because that whole weather system was a disaster.Brad Crowell  I know. It would have definitely served us better if we had been South on the way home.Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah. So we'll do that.Brad Crowell  We'll figure it out. We'll figure it out.Lesley Logan  We'll flip it and reverse it.Brad Crowell  Yeah. Anyway, the (Lesley: That's a Missy Elliott) Oh, here you go. (Lesley: lyric)But rumor is that we may be doing a West Coast tour. So it could hypothetically start in Vegas, and go south to San Diego, and go all the way up the west coast of Vancouver before coming back down.Lesley Logan  Don't make too many promises.Brad Crowell  I said, hypothetically, potentially, fingers crossed, all the things. If this is something that would be of interest to you, we need to know. (Lesley: So if you either ...) This is not ... planned yet.Lesley Logan  I want to participate in the West Coast tour as a as a client, or you want to host a spot as a as a host to use the same word in the sentence. You have to hit us up because we are (Brad: Yeah, we need to know.) we will actually be planning it like right now. (Brad: Yeah.) And and so you know, get get in on it. Because people always like, "How did you pick that spot? Why are you going to that place?" Because they asked. (Brad: Yeah.) If you want things in this world. Y'all, you have to ask for them. Like I'm like let this be a lesson to you. People like, "How did you get that spot?" I applied. Like I applied, no one is calling me and offered me random things. They're just not. So everything you ever see that I've ever done I've applied for. (Brad: That's true. Very true.) So if you want in on this tour, and you want us to hit up your town, then you know any which way you want to contact us so it's gonna be fine. (Brad: Yeah, so) How about TikTok? I'm be really honest. I have not ...Brad Crowell  No, just chat to us. Go to opc.me/chatLesley Logan  Oh, that's a good spot. (Brad: Yeah.) Yeah. Yeah. Okay, cool.Brad Crowell  Amazing. Great question. Thanks for asking.Lesley Logan  You know, you guys can ask questions. (Brad: Like any question.) Any question. (Brad: All the time opc.me/chat.) It can be life, fitness, business. We don't really care. We just like to answer your questions. (Brad: Yeah.) We have all this information ...Brad Crowell  We'd love knowing that you listen, we love connecting with you. (Lesley: Yeah.) And it's so fun.Lesley Logan  You know what I want? This is what I want from you guys. This is my ask. I want I want questions like a longtime listener, first time caller like I want them. (Brad: Cool. Yeah.) Longtime listener, first time caller. I want to read those.Brad Crowell  Would that be, would you want to actually call, leave a voicemail?Lesley Logan  Yeah, we need a phone number.Brad Crowell  Tell us about that. If you would if that's something of interest to you, let us know (Lesley: Yeah.) on the chat. (Lesley: Yeah.) And then we'll set up a phone call number because I don't want to set it up unless you want it. (Lesley: Yeah. But ...) opc.me/chatLesley Logan  But if you want to be like don't tell remember like longtime listener, first time caller? (Brad: Yeah.) Like I want that. I want that, that's what I want. You gotta tell me if you want it. (Brad: I want it.) I want it and well it's a two way re... I guess it's a three way since we're like listeners. You and me. I don't know. Brad Crowell  Okay, now let's talk about Sara Frenza. A mom, published fitness model, a writer and a life transformation coach. Sara Frenza is on a mission to help women make their health and their fitness a priority. She's passionate about not taking the quick fix, but working for long term solutions and passing along the information to the next generation.Lesley Logan  Yeah, so I actually really, I really love Sara. She's such a sweetheart. And I hope you all heard her journey, because I think it can be really easy to think, "Oh, must be nice for them. Those people who are on these pods that transform their career." But y'all can have it, you all can have that for yourself. One thing I love that she had talked about was like making your health and fitness a priority. So you're like, simplest way to think about this is because like, "Uh huh, Lesley got it. Nice, Sara, thanks for that. Duh." But it's like your health and fitness is not a fad diet. Like, it's just not. So the more you can think about your health and fitness as your priority as part of your lifestyle, as part of the transformation that's always ongoing. We had Keri Ford on here and she talked with this mountain with no peak, like your health and fitness is a mountain without a peak doesn't mean you just like keep going, going, going without like ever celebrating an achievement. But it isn't like, okay, for the next two weeks, I'm gonna go on a sugar detox, and then I'm gonna be great. It's like, well, then you will have had not had sugar for two weeks. But if you go back to the way you lived, then that's not exactly taking your health fitness and making it a priority. So (Brad: That's true.) Yeah. And I'm not advocating that you ditch sugar or you don't. I'm just saying like, how looking at your health and fitness if you look at like, when I was an ambassador for Lululemon, they made us do goals was like personal, health and fitness, professional. (Brad: interesting) And you had three could not have more than three bullet points under each one of those things. And then you had goals for that those bullet points that are one year, five year and 10 year. Of course, I started with a 10 year. But the point is, is that if we have too many goals, you don't get anything done. And also, if you aren't building upon the achievements that you had, it's kind of like, "I'm doing this today. I'm doing this tomorrow. I'm doing this over here." It's like it's all it comes kind of like a one and done thing and so you just kind of build on it. So maybe maybe you want to do a triathlon. I don't but let's just say that's what your goal is. So then you work backwards until you to one year from now. Well, are you running already? Can you bike? Can you swim? Like one of those things probably you're not doing. So make that a goal. And then (Brad: Sure.) sort of add that in. And then over time you get to like the five year goal and maybe you're doing a mini triathlon and then you're working your way up. So just I just really loved that she brought that up because your health and fitness is not a fad diet.Brad Crowell  Yeah, I also what the fad diets. It's it's called that because you you know it's not gonna last.Lesley Logan  It's like a, it's like It's like fast fashion. Do not make your health and fitness the same as fast fashion. Fast fashion.Brad Crowell  Yeah. Oh, I was gonna talk about the cayan and like lemonade fucking iced tea thing, whatever. (Lesley: Oh.) Do you remember that? Like when was suddenly drinking that. (Lesley: What is that called ... Okay.) I can't remember. But like, that's the kind of like that is not real.Lesley Logan  So, I worked in, so I used to work at Fred Segal. And some of the girls were on the diet coke and iceberg lettuce diet. (Brad: Amazing.) These are not proponent things, do not try them. Some, other people ...Brad Crowell  They are not winners. (Lesley: Other people ...) That's why they're fads.Lesley Logan  cigarettes and coffeeBrad Crowell  That was mine through college.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So um, but you know, I mean, look, everyone, my grandmother and in my entire life, I learned about every single diet there was I know all the diet pills and all the things and I can tell you right now, none of them are sustainable. So instead of looking for a fad diet, look for the life transformation that you can sustain and works with you because it has to work with your life.Brad Crowell  Yeah, exactly. And I think that's, it's a mindset shift, right? There's no quick fix here. This is a long term decision that you're making for yourself. It's as simple as that, which is really hard. But I know it's, it's like,Lesley Logan  I know, you're like easier said than done, guys. We know. We also have bodies. We also understand,Brad Crowell  Hi, I'm a floating entity. I'm not a fishball.Lesley Logan  We hit 40. We got it. We know.Brad Crowell  All right. One thing I really loved was about like she started to talk about the support systems that you make and sharing, not only sharing that you're on a path, but also allowing people to support you in that journey. Right. And, you know, specifically she said, You can't do anything alone, you have to share your journey along the way. Because maybe that's with your spouse, your significant other, your kids, your family, parents, whatever, your co workers, your friends, you know, the reality is that if I think I think when we were doing the Full Body in 15 Pilates challenge, last year, we had a lot of success with the participants who went back to their family and said, "Hey, next week on Monday, Wednesday, Friday at, you know, 5pm, for 30 minutes, I'm busy. I'm going to be taking care of me." And the the family was like, "Hey, cool." And so what happened was, the kids knew already the spouse knew already, you know, mom's busy, she's doing this thing. AndLesley Logan  Or dads busy, or somebody is busy.Brad Crowell  Yeah, I mean, in our case, most of our audience was women for that. (Lesley: Yeah.) Maybe I might have been the only guy in there.Lesley Logan  No, we had two husbands. (Brad: Oh, that's right. That when we had ...) That why, that's why where a lot of women, amazing women and a few good men. Thanks, Cheryl.Brad Crowell  Well, the point is, you know, when they were explicit, and sharing what their intentions were, and what they were doing, and why they were doing it, they got the support that they needed from the people around them. And the same thing goes for you, if you are able to voice that to, I don't know, maybe your coworkers go out to dinner every day after work or something or, you know, you are taking a break from drinking and you live with someone, you know, and you can share that with them, they can encourage you and help you in that path, whatever it is, that is that you're trying to achieve for your health. When you share that with the people around you, then now a) you're not hiding it, and b) they can help actually support you.Lesley Logan  And also, they can also help support you like there's accountability there. And and and you can't resent them for, they can't read your mind. So (Brad: Sure.) if you (Brad: Sure.) if you don't tell people, "I'm taking a break from drinking." Then they, if they go, "Hey, can I get you a beer." You're like, "I'm trying to drink." And then you like have this whole internal conversation with yourself. And the truth is that they didn't know. So they have to on your team actually just wrote about this on, the time recording, so I wrote an Instagram post about my birthday. So obviously, this is way after my birthday. But for my birthday week, I actually wanted to take off several days. I just want to take off Wednesday to Saturday. So I normally take Saturday's off. I normally got two calls on Monday and Tuesday but Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, there's like commitments that I usually have. So I wanted to have those off. Now, I couldn't just block them off without telling people. I mean I could but that would have just worked like people would have been like, "Hey, can I do this? Hey, can I do this?" And like, you know, I would be like, "I'm taking the time off? Don't you understand?" It's like so I actually just months ago, I said, hey to my assistant. I said, "Hey, I want to take this time off for my birthday. So I can just really enjoy, like resting, relaxing, do whatever I want, whatever it is I want." And I told that my assistant, which helped me tell the team, which helped me block things out so that everything is gonna get done on time. No one is gonna be like, "Where's Lesley?" And I actually can take time off without anyone bothering me. It's so exciting. (Brad: Yeah.) So but it does require you communicate these things. And I know that can be like, I want to tell people my goals are in case I like screwed up. If the people around you are going to judge you because you said you weren't going to have a drink that week. And then you did. That's probably a sign that they're not on your team.Brad Crowell  Yeah, they're definitely not supporting you. It's true. It's true. All right. So finally, let's talk about those BE IT action items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Sara Frenza.Lesley Logan  She had seven action items for you guys. And I really love these because some people think that meal prepping is like only somebody who has a really organized schedule can do but ...Brad Crowell  Or like people who are like, trying to be in weight training competitions do.Lesley Logan  Yeah. But like you grew up with some meal prepping, your mom did some stuff. And (Brad: I did. Yeah.) Yeah. And I remember there was a time when my parents had like, planned things out. And then there was a day where it was like leftover day, which is obviously the day that I hated. But then there was the then there was ...Brad Crowell  I love leftovers.Oh, my God. (Brad: That's great.) Your parents must have not had you eat lamb and beans. Anyway, (Brad: No, lamb and beans in my house ...) So I'm gonna, I'm gonna read these out, seven meal prep tips. So step one ...Lesley Logan  Plan out your meals.Brad Crowell  Yeah, this is not very complicated. Just you need to know what meals you're cooking for.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Number two, meal prep in batches. So she talked about making two proteins and then two carbs and just kind of mix and matching. Think of this ladies. I put on my college y'all. But like, I'm thinking like all my magazines, capsule wardrobe. Capsule Wardrobe, right? (Brad: Oh, yeah.) You have like, one you have a pair of pants, two different pairs of pants, two different tops, and like a bold statement something and like the magazine (Brad: couple pair of shoes) shows you seven ways to put these two things together. So that's how (Brad: That's right.) it, right. So literally, if you capsule wardrobe, you can meal prep, you've already done it. You've already figured this out.Brad Crowell  Yeah. And she actually talked about making like chicken and I can't remember what the other protein was and then two types of carbs so she made sweet potato fries and rice. And she said she took the chicken and made a buffalo chicken salad. She you could pull the chicken apart and make like a graded chicken thing.Lesley Logan  If you're watching this on YouTube Brad is mimicking (Brad: Yeah, I'm mimicking ...) like these claws that we have. So you can basically like for non cook, (Brad: shred the chicken) you just take a bunch of chicken breasts, you just cook them all on a on a pan at some temperature and then some of those can be chopped up for a chop salad, some of those key pulled apart for a pulled chicken sandwich buffalo sauce like. Right. (Brad: Yeah.) Yeah.Brad Crowell  And it was crazy. She was like yeah, I use the and she cooked them all at the same time. She had an instant pot going you know the oven going up and going and whatever I don't remember and she's like boom cooked all these things and was able to take the proteins on the carbs and then mix max, mix match and creating these different meals. And then step threeLesley Logan  is freeze the extrasBrad Crowell  Yeah, so she specifically talked about stuffed peppers and brown rice and she said yeah, you know I overcook on the brown rice on purpose. And she made and a couple extra stuffed peppers and then she throws them on the freezer.Lesley Logan  Yeah. (Brad: Yeah.) And so if you're like, "Ah my fridge is really small." Yeah, ours too. (Brad: ... Yeah.) It doesn't fit a pizza box and ... (Brad: No, it literally doesn't.) That's a contention in this house. But what if you just tried like yes she said chicken maybe you're a vegan? What if you just gave, what if like you just beat it till you saw it when it came (Brad: beat it?) yeah, beat it. Just to beat it. Anyways, so what if you just tried it like what if it was possible to whatever your dietary restrictions are? What if you actually just try to plan the meals out and then actually grocery shop for those meals and then try to cook all the stuff and one day so that it was ready to go?Brad Crowell  Yeah, my, the store you were talking about ... (Lesley: We haven't finish the seven steps guys.) The last episode was my mom and her friend used to meal prep, because both families had three kids with crazy soccer field baseball field schedules, and, you know, the spouses were working, and then we'd get together on one weekend, a month, and they would literally make every meal for the entire month.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I mean, this is a house that has two fridges. SoBrad Crowell  No, my mom had an extra freezer in the basement that was like one of those like leftover freezers (Lesley: Two fridges and a freezers?) Two fridges and a freezer.Lesley Logan  Okay, so a month is the month, (Brad: And that's very ambitious, that's very ambitious.) I would go, do one week at a time, or maybe just three days. And then like, go from there. So like, you know, baby step this to badassness. But I love that I think that's great, because actually what it made me just realize, and I didn't even know this until now, you guys, if you are running out of time to work on things that are gonna help you be it till you see it. And it's called cooking that is taking up all the time, meal prep. (Brad: meal prep) If you could gain, if you could spend two hours on a Sunday, or Saturday, and you could gain back 30 minutes every night, five minutes a week, like when what like, you don't need two hours at a time to work on your goal because that is overwhelming. Especially there's so much uncertainty, there's a lot of fear in there things take the time to get it. So if you had 30 minutes every day to dedicate to moving yourself forward, and you just spent one afternoon prepping like a badass on the meals. Like imagine what you could get done.Brad Crowell  Yeah, and my you know, today my parents are empty nesters. Right. And but they still meal meal prep. And it's really well the way they do is really impressive. So if my mom (Lesley: ... are doing this.) if my mom ever has to chop up like a pepper, she'll chop the entire pepper, she'll chop the entire onion. And then what she does is she takes them and puts it on a mini cookie sheet and lays them out so they're not touching each other. And then she puts them in the freezer for like 20 or 30 minutes, and then takes it out of the freezer and puts them in a ziplock and then she throws the whole ziplock into now it's condensed, they're touching each other, but they're partly frozen. So they don't freeze into a big block, basically.Lesley Logan  Oh, that'show you do it. (Brad: Yeah.) Well, that's ...Brad Crowell  And then if she ever needs that ingredient, she's already got pre chop to the right size stuff. And then they do the same thing with chicken, they'll go to the store, they'll get a whole bunch of chicken. And what they'll actually do is they'll take like the bigger chicken breasts, and they'll they'll slice them up into smaller pieces. And then at the beginning of the week, they'll pull out like, you know, six chicken, you know, cutlets that they basically have frozen. And so they know three meals that week, they'll be able to have chicken because it's thought out. (Lesley: Yeah. So ...) So super quick and easy.Lesley Logan  For the for the people who are like, "Hey, you stopped at the third step."Brad Crowell  Yeah. Let's go on to step four.Lesley Logan  Yeah, create multiple meals out of the protein and carbs. So this is where you get to go back to the plan that you had and go oh, like I was able to like this doesn't have to be like I have a chicken breast every night. Like you're prepping for some sort of weight training thing. It can be like, as Brad mentioned, pulled chicken chopped chicken. It could be there's a sauce on this one. This one's in a salad. This one's in a burrito. You know, this one's in a sandwich. So then pre chop all fruits and vegetables, prepackaged for easy grabbing and go. I just skipped ahead all thingsBrad Crowell  Well, that was a little different. So she's actually talking about the full meal. (Lesley: Oh, you're right. You're right.) Like breakfast, lunch, dinner. She so just think about how much time we spent prepping food during the day. And I ...Lesley Logan  This is like definitely if you're about to, (Brad: It's a time stuff.) well, this is like packing lunches. This is all (Brad: Sure.) kind of stuff. So you all might need to go to like the container store or the target section with all the lovely containers and then you pull them out and then go okay, there's lunches, okay, this means a nice things. Okay, this thing is this thing, and then you could put them in a frigerator and put a post it note or, you know, some sort of way of identifying the ...Brad Crowell  Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. (Lesley: Yeah.) Yeah, exactly.Lesley Logan  You know how there was like, labeled underwear. Like Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday underwear. Did you not have that? (Brad: No ...) Every girl listener is nodding their head right now and I thought that was so terrible. (Brad: That's hilarious.) Because here's why. I didn't want to wear the Wednesday underwear on Monday just because it's clean. Because if anyone saw my underwear, they'd be like, You're wearing Wednesday's underwear. Ew." You so like, anyways, sides, right? This is a problem I had in my life. But what if you could buy food containers that had like Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. I'm sure they exists. (Brad: Yeah ... 100%) Not sponsor by the show. Okay. Um, lastly ...Brad Crowell  So that's she also mentioned in this step six prepackaged for easy grab and go, pre making lunches for your kids. So you have to do it in the morning.Lesley Logan  Yeah. And then make breakfast for the full week. And this is like especially like Monday through Friday, you guys, I love overnight oats. So (Brad: Yeah.) easy, so easy to make, you can make a whole week's worth of overnight oats in one setting and I challenge you to make it take longer than seven minutes. I challenge you.Brad Crowell  To do the whole week. Yeah ...Lesley Logan  Because because here's the deal. First of all, here's how it goes. Ready? It's one part oats, one part oat, or almond milk or some milk of choice. So if you do one cup, it's one cup, two cups, two cups, so it's really easy. Then you add in any other flavors or things you want. Probably not that nuts. (Brad: blueberry) I keep the fresh fruits out but dried fruits I'd put in just because they soften up and they flavorize. Is that a word? (Brad: Yeah. We'll take it.) We're just adding words here. To the thing and then I like to add some protein powder to it, some fiber, some flax and chia seeds, because that also makes it nice and filling. Then you put it in your container. So if you know you're gonna have half a cup every day or a cup every day, whatever you need to eat, then you'll go okay, Monday through Friday. That's five, right? So it's it's a big bowl, you need at least seven hours of it to be over it for an overnight oats. So it doesn't actually have to even be like, done the weekend before it can be done the night before. Boom, it's ready. And then you can scoop them out into or New York Times does this they also don't sponsor the show, but they sent me an email every week about overnight oats. And they take mason jars. And they literally make individual overnight oats in mason jars.Brad Crowell  So pull it from the fridge with a spoon. Done. (Lesley: Yes.) Ready to go. That's kinda cool. It's clever.Lesley Logan  Yeah. I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell  And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan  Thank you so much for joining us today. How are you going to use these tips in your life? We want to know, tag us at the @be_it_pod, tag Sara Frenza. Send your questions, your longtime listener first time caller, request to us on Instagram or on email or whatever the things. Then if you want that phone number as he asked earlier, let us know and until next time, Be It Till You See It.Brad Crowell  Bye for now.Lesley Logan  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others BE IT TILL YOU SEE IT. 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Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:When to expect the chair flashcardsFind the mountain with no top that you are willing to climb.Somatics part of the mind-body connection.The body will follow what the mind believesThe continual process of reconnecting your mind and your body The reason you need to pour into yourself first What's in your morning sandbox? Episode References/Links:Sign up for Cambodia Retreat 2023: lesleylogan.co/retreat.Chair Flashcards Waitlist: opc.me/flashcardwaitlist,Agency Mini 8 profitablepilates.com/mini  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyUse this link to get your Toe Sox!ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life, Brad and I are going to dig into the daring convo I have with Keri Ford in our last episode. If you haven't listened to that interview, feel free to pause this now and go back and listen to that one and then come back and join us. Alright, so while this is coming out, there's a lot going on. We're actually halfway through Agency Mini, and this week is just freaking phenomenal and always fires me up. I really love it.Brad Crowell   It's a crazy week.Lesley Logan  I know. But you know what we get, we get Bronze Cafe delivered every day. We have, we have lot, (Brad: I love that.) we have lots of amazing support for our Mini members with our ambassadors and our coaches. And it's also so fun for like the light bulbs to light to come on for them. (Brad: Yeah) And so I'm just like I'm, while it's a crazy week, we put in more hours and this week than we probably do in most of our months. Supporting people, it is so much fun, because whether or not they join us in Agency, they will never unlearn and forget this information and they can take action. And it's just so fun.Brad Crowell  Yeah, I mean, the being in a container, you know, like in a safe space with people asking questions where we get to sew into them, empower them, put them in a place where they feel confident, and they've gained clarity, and they're ready to go, interact with more people in Pilates, that is what furthers our mission. And it's why we love hosting Agency Mini, because we get to work with more people and a shorter amount of time. And then some of those people will actually continue to work with us on an ongoing basis. And it's just so much fun. (Lesley: Yeah) It is really, really amazing. And we've got we always get great questions. And by the end of the week, what's so neat about it is a bunch of strangers come together, all over the world. And they're really like shy and not sure. And then by the end of the week, they're encouraging each other and supporting each other and like cheering each other on. And if everybody wins, it's so fucking cool.Lesley Logan  It's everything that is industry needs. And like, the more we actually support each other, the more people who do Pilates period. (Brad: Yeah.) And like what is like, they'll be people who, you know, are the same cities in that group. And you can see that people like, "Oh, I'm here." But then all of a sudden, everyone realizes, like, you teach different people like you, like literally don't have crossover, (Brad: Yeah.) you're on opposite sides of the city, or one of you is classes and one of you teaches privates. Like there's not ...Brad Crowell  Or one of the focuses on you know, elderly and the other works with moms.Lesley Logan  Yeah, so it's, um, it's really actually so amazing for people to see, "Wow, these people are my partners in success and not necessarily like my competition." SoBrad Crowell  Yeah, community, not competition. (Lesley: Yeah.) What we say over and over again.Lesley Logan  We do. And we and you know what, when people get into Agency that even develops more and more and more, and (Brad: Yeah.) it's just, it's beautiful. So, anyways, the next Agency Mini the dates probably have been determined at this point, but I don't have them for you. So if you are missing out, feeling the FOMO as you should, because we would love to have worked with you this week, go to profitablepilates.com/mini to get on the waitlist for the next one.Brad Crowell  Yes, yeah, add yourself to the waitlist, we always email the waitlist first and tell them about the (Lesley: early bird) early bird pricing. So it's worth being on the waitlist, even if it's not going to come up for another couple months. So go add yourself there profitablepilates.com/mini. (Lesley: Yeah.) And if you are going to be in California, in Monterey for Balanced Bodies Pilates on tour, we will see you there.Lesley Logan  Yeah, we have a booth. So I won't be teaching but that just means I have more time to actually hang out with you. So I'm actually really excited about there's some amazing people a ton of our elevators, OPC members, Agency members, all going to be there's gonna have a big party. Brad's got the booth as well. And so if you haven't yet signed up, definitely sign up. I'm sure they have like day passes, and also whole week long passes. But Monterey, Monterey is beautiful. And there are some epic people, Erika Quest is going to be there. Our Agency member Christine Waterman is actually presenting there. (Brad: Oh good.) Yeah, yeah, yeah. (Brad: That's great.) So it's a whole lot of fun. And we're going to drive out.Brad Crowell  Yeah, we're driving out because we needed to bring our own Reformer.Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah, for eLevate weekend because we agreed (Brad: It overlaps.) to do this. It overlaps. So from 12 to 4 I will be in a hotel room with lights, camera, action teaching our eLevators and Brad will be ...Brad Crowell  And will be smuggling in our own Contrology Reformer into the hotel room, so we're gonna get a big one.Lesley Logan  Yeah, we're working on that details right now and awesome hotspot. But these are like the things you have to do to make sure that you can sip or, you know, people (Brad: Yeah.) in all the ways and we're on a mission, 'More bodies doing Pilates' and Balanced Body is an amazing company. We I've been an ADC, which just means that I am the representative of Contrology. So I love it to be wherever they are gonna have it. (Brad: Yeah.) So it'll be it'll be a lot of fun. That's a great weekend.Brad Crowell  If you're looking at that equipment. We have a referral code for you that saves you 5%. (Lesley: Yeah.) Hit us up, just send us a DM. Happy to share. But first, (I steal your line) we have an audience question, Lesley.Lesley Logan  I know, I know. This is this is a okay, this question I got every day three times a day when I was in Dallas with Erika. I get it actually in my DMs all the time. So I thought you know what, we're just going to, let's just call it out. (Brad: Yeah.) When are the Chairs decks happen coming out? When are they shipping? What are they in existence? And the actual truth at the time of this recording is. We don't know. But our goal has always been to be on presale in February.Brad Crowell  Okay, two things. First off, if you don't know what a Chairs deck is, we have flashcards on onlinepilatesclasses.com. And we've already released the Mat, the Reformer and the Cadillac decks. And that's over the past three years. This year, we're releasing the Chairs deck, which is 90 something cards, 99 cards or something like that. (Lesley: I think it's 96 exercises.) Yeah, and it has been we've been working on it since last summer. And we're really, really close. I think we at this point, we definitely got like a sample of the boxes. And we've started like getting samples of the cards themselves. So I think we're like two or three months away. So what we're going to be doing is the best thing you can do if you want more information about this, go to the wait... get yourself on the waitlist, go to opc.me/flashcardwaitlist. Okay, I'm gonna say that again, opc.me/flashcardwaitlist, we'll put that link in the show notes. (Lesley: Yeah.) But we will be announcing a presale sometime, like probably in the next couple of weeks. And then the decks should be shipping roughly two months after the presale happens. SoLesley Logan  Yeah. so and that's why we have said like a couple months away because so this, and this is what I explained people because you may not understand like the the Cadillac deck was over 300 hours when we stopped counting. And (Brad: Yeah.) definitely went over. And I had just still record a few things that we had recordings for. But we didn't have new recordings for those last week. And I was like, "Oh my gosh, five more hours." Anyways, so these decks do take a lot of time because after I write the first draft, which I am so proud of myself how quickly I wrote the first draft. (Brad: Yeah.) My team gets them on the card so I can see them because I'm a visual person, then I edit them again. Then we actually have someone else who's a teacher come through and read them to make sure that they make sense and we usually pick someone who has on different piece of equipment than I am because I tried to make sure that whatever Chair you're on or whatever Reformer you're on, whatever Cadillac you have information to help you use these cards. Then we have someone who doesn't even know Pilates at all read them to make sure that they make sense. And thenBrad Crowell  Yeah, so it's not just all Pilates language and like you know, your mom can pick it up, pick up a deck and be like, "Oh, maybe I want to do this and I get I get what they're saying here."Lesley Logan  Yeah, and then I get to do it again, get to read them again because I just want to make sure that I don't miss anything. And so then what happens is we go on presale, which means you get the best opportunity, the best deal on the deck (Brad: Yeah.) that will have while it when it for a new deck. And then it is an 8 to 10 week ship like print job. (Brad: Yeah.) So so that's why he said a few months. So if we can go on presale in this month of February. We're looking at end of May. (Brad: Yeah.) Yeah. Which is hear before you know it. So you know time is flying by.Brad Crowell  Yeah. So anyway, get yourself on that waitlist.Lesley Logan  And if you don't have a Chair, get the Mat deck, get the Reformer deck, get the Tower deck. (Brad: Yeah.) Like go get those, you can get those at OPC.Brad Crowell  Yeah, and in the future we've got barrels coming and then accessories and then there will be six total. (Lesley: Yeah.) And we will call that a wrap.Lesley Logan  Yeah, we will call that a wrap.Brad Crowell  Yeah, so we still we're still signed up for another year and a half of production and writing and content creation here. SoLesley Logan  More photo shoots and all this stuff. So yeah, yeah, yeah. But you know what, it's okay because (Brad: It's a lot of fun.) what I'm just gonna show this on the Balanced Body in case they're not listening but just in case Kens listening, what what's been so fun is that as I've been producing these cards, he's come out with the Contrology piece. (Brad: Right.) So I've been able to use where there's a Contrology piece use that and I know that they're in production right now and they're they're trying and so I may have to like swap or doing just so that like I can possibly get what I want. Because you know anyways, we'll see this is just me explaining like, this is like behind the curtain. Here you go because I really like you guys. No, these are not like oh, I should do that. You can. I'm just gonna tell you it's hundreds of hours of work.Brad Crowell  All right. Now let's talk about Keri Ford. Ever figuring it out, Keri is a high performance Holistic Life Coach, who uses somatics to bring healing and help individuals change life patterns. She's the CEO and founder of Elevate with Keri, a transformational coaching movement to raise women's emotional intelligence and their whole body performance.Lesley Logan  Yeah, so she is if you listened to the first interview, she was actually one of those girls that I met on that random, like, let's have a girl's weekend with people that we know on the internet. And so she's one of them. And we're actually at the time of this recording. We're like days away from meeting her and her partner at their place that they like home that they have in California. We'll be up in like the boondocks and like just doing lots of stuff to like, body hack and pour into ourselves and nerd out on business before we drive off to Monterey.Brad Crowell  Yeah, I'm looking forward to that. It's gonna be great.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So one thing that I love that she said was find the mountain with no top that you are willing to climb. I'm going to say that one more time. Find the mountain with no top that you're willing to climb because it's a lifelong journey. And I think it is, I think we're, I think it's really easy to go, "I'm not where I want it to be all right. Like ..." And like we get frustrated, but like, the reality is, is that like, in in bettering yourself, in becoming the person you want to be in change, and like unlearning the habits and, and thoughts that you've had from your childhood, in your life and the partners, you pick it all that stuff, all of that you don't just like, check a box. Okay, won't date the wrong ones again or Okay, won't have like that won't take that job promotion. Again, it's like, it is a lifelong journey. And so she talks about like, being a woman that sees things differently and is willing to go to her edge over and over and over again, because it's in service to herself and the people she serves. So you're on a mountain with no top. And so I hope that that like gives you permission a to like, you know, it's not that you can't like take a pause somewhere. But that where this life is, is, I don't know. I just feel like ...Brad Crowell  Let me give a little bit of clarity to, let me let me quantify this for you because I just realized I should have asked you to go second. Because I she said something that was really revealing. We've heard, I've heard the somatic coaching before. We know somatic relationship coach, coaches, somatic therapy, like all this kind of stuff. And part of your conversation was, what is the difference between somatics and traditional therapy? And she talked about somatics being the mind body connection. Okay. And that is very cliche sounding, mind body connection ... (Lesley: That's what I do.) What does that mean? Okay, awesome, right. But what she's talking about here is well, if you feel like you're you're at war with yourself, right, where you're obviously not connected. Okay. And she said we can use the power of our mind and our nervous system to create a different experience from that, you know, war like state. She said that somatics are they really somatic focuses on it centers around your beliefs. Okay. And the way she was talking about it, it made me realize those beliefs could be conscious, or not just unconscious there, you know, whether you consciously believe something, it doesn't change the fact that you still believing something. (Lesley: Yeah.) Right. And so, for example, how you feel about something is a belief you've adopted, whether you realize it or not. And she said, this is the key here, this is the key to somatics. Belief is the bridge that connects your mind and your body. Okay, so the body will follow what the mind believes. Okay, and so when you're talking, so the question was that I should had you ask at the beginning of the mountain top idea is, tell me about this journey of this bridge of connecting the mind and the body. You know, is that, you know, is that something you do in like, 10 sessions, and you're done? Or, you know, what is that and really, she was talking about that being the mountain that doesn't have a top, you're consis... you're consistently pursuing, analyzing your beliefs and adjusting your beliefs to be reconnecting your mind and your body. So you can optimize, you can optimize your yourself. Right. (Lesley: Yeah.) And the way you approach life, and then your body itself.Lesley Logan  Well, and just to like, reiterate that it's a lifelong journey. And also, you should listen to the interviews too. Because then you'll understand what I'm talking about when I bring out what I love. But I think like, because it's a lifelong journey. The reason I keep saying that is it can feel really overwhelming if you're climbing something that never has an end. But it's not that it is this like frustrating, like exhausting. Like, oh my gosh, like you're being knocked down over and over again, kind of climb. Like when I think of like climbing a mountain, it just sounds like fear and scare. Like, I'm gonna, like lose my grip, and like, it's just a lot, but actually, it's just that you are bettering yourself, you are evaluating, you are looking at how, why you're reacting to things, and you are asking yourself, I mean, we just go back to Alan's like, Am I doing the best that I can with what I have where I am? And if you're, if one day, the answer is no, then that's where you get to do some evaluation. And you're like, keep going up that mountain, you know, so I think it can be really easy for the perfectionist to be like, I like is it happened in seven days. No, you actually, it took you your whole life to get to where you are, it's going to take all those years and more to like, unravel that and change and make those changes.Brad Crowell  I mean, I laugh about this, often, but I was, I remember sitting down for my first voice lesson, and confident that I was very good at singing already. Which I could certainly sing but was I good at singing? No. In fact, I was singing completely wrong. And I was damaging my voice every time I was singing. I didn't know that. But I thought that I was kicking ass. And I said to her like, so like, you know, how long does it take to like, get my voice where I wanted to be like six sessions, you know, like 10 that maybe like 15? And she's like, looks at me like, why don't we just get started? And we can cross that bridge as we go. And it's been 13 years.Lesley Logan  Yeah, well, and like that's the same thing with Pilates. We're like, okay, so like, what are we gonna do like 10 sessions and like, you'll feel better, certainly. But like, if you want to keep feeling better, you have to keep coming. Like Pilates is a practice with no mount... like with no mountain top. (Brad: Yeah. So, mountain with no top.) Yeah, yeah. So like, and if you do Pilates that doesn't overwhelm you. So it shouldn't overwhelm you (Brad: Right) to be someone on a pursuit.Brad Crowell  Well, it's also hilarious, because I didn't realize how much I enjoy my voice lessons. And how good they make me feel. And so I am very happy to continue them. (Lesley: Right, right. And I think ...) Well, Pilates is probably the same way.Lesley Logan  But I also think if you ask that kind of question in a Pilates class or to your voice teacher or to your therapist, or to any of those things like it is certainly human nature to want to know where is the end to this? (Brad: Sure.) Like, I like to know how many times here and make me do a jumping jack. I want to know how long (Brad: Yeah.) is playing ... (Brad: Well, that's for sure.) gonna be like, I do want to know that. Right. So that's totally human nature. What is amazing, though, is that you heard that, that there was no end in sight yet that she was at least going to give you one and you kept going. And I think that that is what puts you on this pursuit of like, okay, I'm willing to trust this person with whatever it is that I'm working on. (Brad: Yeah.) And so I think if you are in pursuit of something, don't get so hung up on the logistics if you don't have all the answers right away. Start going, start moving on.Brad Crowell  One step in front of the other, you know, you're definitely gonna figure that out as as you get along. (Lesley: Yeah.) (Brad claps)All right. So finally, let's talk about those BEI T action items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your conversation with Keri Ford? I am going to jump in and say, she said something that made me laugh because we talked about this all the time.Lesley Logan  Yeah. But I loved it because she's a mom.Brad Crowell  Yeah. She said, pour into yourself first. And then you can pour into others later in the day.Lesley Logan  Yeah. And like, and I love that she said that because she is a mom of two kids. And she runs her own business. And she actually shares partnership of parenting those kids. And so that's an added layer of meaning to organize things. And she said that, and I think it's just important women and ladies, listen to this, no matter who you're caring for. Maybe it's an elderly parent, or it's a child, we really do need to pour into ourselves first. So yeah, I love that she said that.Brad Crowell  Yeah. And when should you pour on yourself?Lesley Logan  So that's mine.Brad Crowell  Yes, it is.Lesley Logan  So she said, carve out your morning sandbox, which I think is so fun, because sandbox means play. (Brad: Yeah.) Right. Pick three items that you want to do for 10 mi... 10 minute each or so and carve out about an hour in your morning and do them in any order that you feel inclined to do them. So I love this because it's specific, but also there's some play, okay. So we've had, I mean, every single person has their morning routine, you'll all like literally there are books on this, like the 5am and I'm not saying have to get up at 5am. But like, like that your morning is what sets you up. So she gave this this choice. And so if you didn't like the other people's morning routine suggestions, here's one for you, pick three items that you want to do for 10 minutes each or so and carve out about an hour in your morning to do them in any order that you feel so inclined. And I love that because you can change up the order. So you don't have to like, "Oh crap, I can't do my yoga first. So I can't do any of them." Nope, you can do whatever order you want. And she also gave you an hour to do it so that life can life in between those 10 minutes (Brad: Yeah.) or you can or if you're really loving your meditation, you can stay in it. So I thought that was fun ...Brad Crowell  Or you get distracted by a thought, you can take a minute to write it down.Lesley Logan  Yeah, you're not so pressed for time. And, and I really liked this also, if you have not started a morning routine, but it's been something you want to do if you've like heard how long line is. Look mine got there over time and got there by picking things for 10 minutes or doing 30 minute runs or whatever. So give yourself permission to go, "Okay, what are three things I want to do in the morning that can make me feel good?" And then set a timer. And you know, what if if you had meditation, but you sat there and thought about your like to do list, that's okay, you still sat sat somewhere for 10 minutes. And you you know, chalk it up to a practice like I've I've talked to many of meditation people that like it's really okay if you if your mind wandered. (Brad: Sure.) Yeah, so anyways, I thought she was super fun. I love what she's doing with women out in the world. She's, she's, she's someone who is like, walking her talk and her and I think that that's also inspiring, and we can all you know, it's not easy like you she's on a moun... she's on the path with no top. So like it (Brad: Yeah.) means consistent reevaluation of what she's doing. And I really enjoyed having her on to share that with everybody. (Brad: Yeah.) All right. I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell  And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan  Thank you so much for joining us today. We are so grateful you're here. How are you going to use these tips in your life? Let us know by sending us a DM or email, beit@bloompods.net. And also, you can put your questions in there and we'll answer in there and we hope to see you in real life somewhere along our next week's journey, but if not, I'm sure we'll see you in the future.Brad Crowell  Bye for now.Lesley Logan  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. 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Create more love, compassion, and confidence. Allow the big emotions into your home and change your life path all with somatics. Listen in to learn how to leap over the mountain, stop dancing on the edge, and become the women you are truly meant to be.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Why somatic coaching is different than therapy Flip the scriptThinking vs feeling mindsetHow you use somatics to become the person you want to beHow can you expand and balance your risk tolerance?Shifting patterns by recognizing mirroring neurons How to nurture and support big emotionsBecoming the 1% woman BIO: Keri Ford is a High Performance Holistic Life Coach.Keri is the CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri – an elite transformational coaching movement and luxury brand dedicated to serving and elevating women's emotional intelligence and whole-body high performance. Her unique online influence and programs have transformed the lives of thousands of women across the globe.She is an international motivational speaker, author, event host and global authority. She has spoken alongside 50 other top industry experts, neuroscientists, doctors and authors in the personal development industry.Keri's high-end clientele includes some of the world's top female CEOs of multi-million dollar companies, self-made millionaires and other influential public figures.She also has advanced training as a Behavior Change Specialist and was awarded by IFAH as one of the Top 100 Global Visionaries.Keri has been featured around the world on Entrepreneur.com, The Huffington Post, SELF.com, NBC, USA Today, Livestrong, and other major publications.She is also the co-creator of a nearly million dollar company, Shift with Sanctuary – the #1 Inner Circle Experience for The 1% Woman. Keri's mission is to help women define success on their terms and lead leaders into a life they love through transformational practices.Episode References/Links:Website: https://elevatewithkeri.com/Podcast: https://elevatewithkeri.com/literallyfirstclass/  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyUse this link to get your Toe Sox!129-139ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  Hey loves. Okay, I am so excited for us to have another conversation around somatics. And also, I love the way that our guests this week really explains how you can actually implement it in your life and how you can actually help others around you. I think there's some really great gems in here that I you're gonna want to write down. There's also some amazing permission in this episode. So Keri Ford is our guest this week, and you're gonna hear how I met her and this life and I'm just so excited after we got off the podcast. We plan our next trips, and I share that with you because y'all life gets really busy. It's actually always busy. And people are always busy. And so those people that mean something to you in your life, you have to actually make the time for it. And if it doesn't have to be every Saturday or something that's super consistent, but you actually do have to be intentional about it. And so I think what you're gonna find in this podcast is how intentionality is really going to support you in your journey of being it till you see it. So without further ado, here is Keri Ford.Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.All right, Be It babes. I am so excited. You might remember a while back when I was doing a recap with Brad and I said, "Yeah, I made a date with a few girls that I have never met. And they're coming out to Vegas, and we're going to hang out and we're gonna go out for dinner. We're gonna spend this weekend together." And people and people are like, "You don't know each other yet?" We're like, "Nope, we don't." And so we became very fast friends. I feel like I've known these women my whole life now even though it's in such a short stint, so Keri Ford is our guest today. She's an incredible woman. Keri, can you tell everyone who you are and what you're rocking?Keri Ford  First of all, I just love how we came into each other's worlds. And it's so true. People are like, "You guys are acting like you've known each other for years." And I feel like on some level, because of our parallel and fitness and our work there we have. (Lesley: Yeah) So my name is Keri Ford, and I'm the CEO of Elevate with Keri, and I'm a transformational coach. I started in fitness as a Certified Personal Trainer. And that was my first experience with coaching. And with the World Wide Web and the world of social media, I realized there was a demand for taking things online. But I was one of the OGs. And it was back before you could even really hire a coach to help you figure out what the fuck you were doing. And so I went back to corporate and then I came back to coaching and I elevated and went through my own transformation. And I just get to share the beautiful world of somatics with women that truly want to change their life from the inside out. So it's still wellness related. But I realized the intuitive eating component I had spent a long time teaching was just part of the work that I was doing and the bigger picture.Lesley Logan  Yeah, so you, I know, it's crazy that we were both in LA doing fitness, like I'm sure we crossed paths at some point, and didn't even know it. But what was that? So you went back to corporate world. Was that that change like for you to go from fitness to coaching and like somatic coaching and being a transformational coach? That I'm sure it has a nice and windy way of getting there. But like, did you notice you're going for as you start on that journey? Or are you kind of figuring it out as you went along?Keri Ford  I've always been ever figuring it out, I feel like it's the longest friggin path. Because when you're the first to do things in the online space, you're trying to figure it out for the first time along with all the other first timers. And I remember like watching other people kind of experience their big break, if you will, and being like, what am I doing wrong here? Like how am I not, how can I have other people besides my mom liking my post, you know. And it was really a whole different way to apply what I knew and and teach, you know, online, but I had no idea that I was headed to really be a somatics professional because I didn't even know what that was. (Lesley: Yeah) I just it's almost like I danced with that concept for a very long time without really even knowing that I was always gathering tools to teach this.Lesley Logan  Yeah, so just in case, we'll just say for Brad, can you explain like what somatics is? And like, how, how that how that makes how that's a special type of coaching?Keri Ford  Yeah, somatics is the mind, body connection, which are actually have never been separate. But most people think they're kind of how do I say and just like layman's terms that they just they feel kind of at war with themselves, right? Like, take diet mentality, for example, it's a really easy way to be like, "My body hates me. It's never doing what I want it to do." And this is where we can use the power of our mind and our nervous system to truly create new experiences like in the physical world. So yeah, it's a really powerful way to teach the mind body connection. And it really gets you back into your body where you have felt disconnected.Lesley Logan  Yeah, like where some people like kind of like walk around us in their head and disconnected from their body, you're like bringing them back into that and then using that to heal themselves and take them where they want to go.Keri Ford  Totally.Lesley Logan  That's cool. So so were you tra... transformational coaching before somatics? Or was that kind of that actually happened after becoming a somatics coach? What was that like?Keri Ford  No, I was trying, I was coaching transformation before, I was just using a lot more mindset and thought rewiring and reframing. So for example, I still use this actually, because I do believe in doing all the different things that I've collected along the way. And one is called flip the script. So this is really fun. And for those that are listening that want to try something like this, it's identifying the belief that you have that seemingly is in opposition to what it is you say you want. So for example, you might say, "I always want to have a coach." Well, all of a sudden, there's this belief that also argues that point. So that's what you want. But then you notice, oh, and I have a thought. And the thought is saying, "Well, that's too expensive." So then you write both of those things down, right. So your goal, or what you want to achieve is I always want to have a coach, then you notice the opposing thoughts. So you write down the opposing thought. And that says, "That's expensive." And then you write down the flip the script. And so what we're doing there is writing down something that might feel like a lie at first, which is, "I can always afford coaching," that might be an example of flipping a script. But we want to, we want to put a book on the shelf of doubt that that belief that's opposing what you want is actually not true. We want to actually start to say, "Well, maybe there's another possibility that's available to me here. Maybe I don't believe it yet." But is it possible? Yes. (Lesley: Yeah) So that's something that I use, for example, and had us before I knew somatic work.Lesley Logan  Yeah, that's really I mean, I think I just interviewed a woman who had a brain tumor and she had all these because of a four day migraine that the range of our cause, like she ended up having this paralysis, and she was doing so much mindset work on like, "I'm healed. I'm healing all the time. Like my body is healing." Like saying those things. And then all of a sudden, like, parts of her body started working again that weren't working before. Like, it's this incredible thing that we have this power. And yes, they're our brain doesn't like to be in dissonance. So of course, if you can't afford something you're like, "I can always afford that." Like, that's, that is not exactly where the brain loves to be. But if you can start to seek out evidence that will prove that that thought is true, at some point, that is what you want your brain to start going to can, you can make that transformation happen.Keri Ford  Totally. So through the somatic work, that might look a little different, we might use the sensations in the body to listen to what it's saying where our current beliefs are. And it's a little less about the words and more about the sensations in the body. So when (Lesley: Interesting) that, like is okay, so, you know, they might be saying, well, I noticed like a tightening in my throat, as you say that belief. Oh, okay, so what is is there's, are there words that want to be spoken? What else can you tell me about that feeling in your throat? If there were a color, what color is it? If there were a smell, and so we really just bring deep awareness to the consciousness of ourselves and the patients in the body. So it's just a different access point. And I love the example you gave, because that really does show you the mind and the body are never separate, the body follows what the mind says. And if we can, in fact, bring them into union, somatics is just a different access point in doing that, and I think it truly accelerates the healing.Lesley Logan  But it, okay, so this is interesting. I've done it because my, my therapist is somatics. And so oftentimes, she's like, "Where do you feel this in your body?" And sometimes I'm like, "I don't know ..." Keri Ford  Totally, but even noticing where when a client for me, they look up, I'll ask them how they feel. And then they look up, that tells me they're in their thinking mind, what they think they feel versus what they feel they feel, or know, they feel.Lesley Logan  Oh, that that is, well that's so interesting. It's like when people look around before they answer the question, it's like, "Oh, are you trying to figure out what you're gonna say?"Keri Ford  We're in the thinking mind, right? Yeah.Lesley Logan  So so can we have some more examples of the somatic thing? Because like, you just mentioned, the throat thing. And what I have, I had a client who, every time she would go on a date, she lose her voice, like she would like, (Keri: Oh my God.) I'm not kidding. Like, she would go on one date, and you lose her voice. And I, and I was like, what it... There's gotta be something going on with that. That is not like one time, okay, two times, where at three times like, either you stop dating, or we go... What's going on?Keri Ford  Yeah, that's a pattern. And that shows that there's likely a trauma imprint and a feedback loop that's present. So I would, you know, ask her if she's able to connect in that moment, right. And so how I would start this, and the way I do this in my millionaire mindset meditations, is I always bring you into stillness in your body. So we might say, Okay, I'm gonna have you take a few deep breaths, and I want you to bring awareness to your back against the chair, the chair against your back, and just feeling how supported you are. And you're going to close off the visual cortex, the eyes, close the eyes, because that's a little bit easier for people to access with him. And I'm gonna have you look down toward the heart space, even though your eyes are closed. So those are a few cues, I might walk somebody through to bring them in. So they can avoid them going into the thinking mind, because the eyes are not open and searching. And so we're, we're just in the experience of where our body is, like where our feet physically are. That's a very grounding thing to do. And then I might say, if you're able to access it in this moment, can you go back to that feeling that you get when you're on the date, or, or maybe when you feel like the throat is, you're almost going to lose your voice or you have lost your voice, wherever she's able to connect, you might be kind of far along in the process, for example. So she might only be able to connect to after it's happened. What we want to do is kind of walk her back to where she notices, "Oh, this is always how I feel in anticipation of the date, perhaps." (Lesley: Oh, interesting.) Continually manifesting this experience. So it says that something's happening in her body that saying, "I don't feel safe here. I'm powerless, voiceless, whatever." And we want to walk her back to that, right. So can you can you connect to that feeling or sensation in your body? And she might say, "Oh, yeah, I noticed. I'm like, salivating a lot. I feel tightness in my chest and my throat." You're like, "Okay, great. And tell me a little bit more about that. Are there any other sensations like if it had a texture," you know? And then you could you could walk her back into, there's a few different ways here, which is why I'm kind of bumbling around words. It depends on the client, right? (Lesley: Yeah) You might say, does that feel familiar? Anywhere else that you've noticed in your life? Where else does that feels familiar. And she's like, Oh, dots connected, where that imprint took place. Or you might say, if you want to feel safe here, are you open to communicating with this energy, this block, this sensation and ask it why it's there? Oh, this is the only part of me that really felt voiceless and unsafe around men. Again, I'm totally riffing.Lesley Logan  Yeah. We're just making this up. Yeah, but I'm following. Keri Ford  Yeah, so that's, that's how that could look.Lesley Logan  So this is, so this is fascinating, because you can use somatics as far as like healing and changing a pattern that you have in your life. Have you used it to become more of the person that you want to be? Like, is it is it only for releasing? Or is it also can also be used for like where you want to go?Keri Ford  Yeah, absolutely for using it to where you want to go. Because we are not where we want to go. Because we don't think we're that woman yet. And that is because of perceived lack, perceived dissonance, perceived separation within ourselves. That's actually what anxiety is. It's perception that we are separate. But the big question here that somatics really answers is, "How do I then become her? How do I change myself? How do I rewire my beliefs?" This is the bridge.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Okay. This is where I want to know, this is why I want to dive in if we can, because, (Keri: Yeah) I believe that, like, we don't like, if you're waiting until things happen to become the person you want to be, you'll never become that person. You'll just wake up (Keri: Right) years later going, "Oh, I'm supposed to just act like that person now." (Keri" Yeah) Right? Like, that's how the stories always go. So I'm wondering, like, for all the people listening, obviously, they're like, "Okay, I'm trying to be it till I see it." Like they're recovering perfectionist, they've got impostor syndrome, these things come up. How how can you use, how can you somatics to like become that person now, so that you don't have that dissonance and you don't create that anxiety.Keri Ford  So fear doesn't go away at any level, we just learn to embrace it more. So going back to your question, the first point I want to make when you asked. When do you somatics? Is it just to release whereas it also to become? It's both. Because as we release, we then expand our capacity in our nervous system, and therefore, what feels safe to have hold, keep, etc. I'm going to give an example here of something physical. So back when I was in Tulum with Jake, my partner, we did cliff jumping, and I jumped four stories off into the cenote, and I had never even I don't even know if I've jumped off the high dive anyway, my body felt wildly unsafe. And yet, there was not I had no physical proof that I was going to be unsafe, Jake had done this jump. But my baseline of fear that I had only ever had to compare it to was like super low, right, maybe I only jumped 10 feet. So my body and my mind is like, you're only going to be safe if you jump back because you've done that before the evidence you have says, you will be safe. And so this is insane. And so I knew that was the reason I needed to do it to free myself from that talk track. So I did take the take the jump and my baseline of fear shifted, because now I was no longer the woman who didn't take the jump. I was the woman who did. (Lesley: Yeah, yeah.) I choose to put my body in new visceral experiences, you can do this at home with free therapies like cold showers, you your mind will tell you, you are going to die and you can't do another second longer and oh my God, I can't do this. And that is the reason you must.Lesley Logan  Oh, I love that. It's also like if you're doing breathwork, you know, there's like that, if you do a bottom hold, I find those to be a little easier than like a top hole. Which is like where you hold the air in because there's like the brain is like, "I need to take a breath in." (Keri: Yeah I'm suffocating.) And if you can just like, you know, obviously don't do unconscious, but like it take an extra second and show that you can. You can like you can't go one more second, you can give your body that next experience. That is really cool. I love that story actually a lot. I like I feel like I've been that person and other experiences like Brad trying to get me to climb like a rock that's like five stories tall. And I'm like, "I want to be the woman that does this." (Keri: Yeah) I'm so scared of that right now.Keri Ford  Totally. And like that fear doesn't really go away if you choose to live your life on the edge, both physically and emotionally, right? That but the edge really I'm talking about is that the nervous system capacity. So we want to dance on the edge, but we don't want to go over it. We don't want to overwhelm the systems that you go into shutdown or a trauma response. But we want to dance on the edge so we can practice stretching and expanding and then create new evidence. I'm safe. I've been here before I'm familiar with this fear. And I know on the other side of it I've been okay. So I can do this again and again and I can do that faster. I see this all the time when I help high achieving women apply this to their decision making. What feels irresponsible often they can say, oh wait a minute, I've been here before in my body maybe I've experienced it was rock climbing, but now I can apply it to business. How can I be a little bit more, how can I expand my risk tolerance here?Lesley Logan  Oh, that's so interesting. Yeah, it's like so transferable in different ways. Yeah. (Keri: Yep. Nothing's ...) Yeah. So, you know, I think I like thinking about people who I know listen to the show, and I think like nodding along. They're all most of them are in movement of some kind, like some sort of movement professional. So I think they're like, "Yep, yep, totally agree." And then, and then there's, like, family, and partners, and all these responsibilities that are on them. And so how I know you're a mom, and you have a partner, how, how do you balance like trying to challenge is the wrong word, but like how to train retrain the body that like, "Okay, I can take this tolerance level. I can take this tolerance level." And also like, the regular life, with all the things that are going like, I feel like, I'd be like, "Okay, I'm doing this. Oh, you want food." Okay. Do you what I mean? How do you actually balance all of that? Or can you?Keri Ford  ... so the question, just so I'm clear is how do you apply it in real life?Lesley Logan  Yeah, like if you if you're, if you're like, "Yes, I believe this. I'm doing all these things." And then there's like life happening. And so it's, you know, like in a vacuum, it can be like, on a retreat, or at a workshop, it can be like, "Yes, I get this." And then you go back into your household, and you go back into your routines, and like, you know, some things you can change. I can change my morning routine a bit. I don't have kids, (Keri: Yeah) but like other people, they have families that they have to support and they can't change their routines too.Keri Ford  Yeah, I mean, I think the deepest, like most masterful level of being the embodiment is also letting this be your walking meditation, if you will, like we don't have to sit in a session with a somatic you know, practitioner to necessarily always access our piece. And I say this when I lead retreats, like let's not make this a going to church experience we're like, "Hallelujah. I'm so fucking inspired." Like, "Yes, sister, like, I love it." And then you go home, and you're fucking right back where you were before the retreat. This is about taking what you learn and applying it in your everyday. So we'll start with small changes. We call this titration and somatics. One of the beautiful, beautiful examples they give of this is if you have two separate chemicals in beakers, and you pour one into the other really fast, it explodes. But if you take these two explosive chemicals that are separate, and you take a dropper, and you titrate, it drop by drop, it's fizzes. And it combines it fizzes. And it combines and slowly over time, they're combined, but they're changed. It's called titration. So we've got to go slow and expand, feel safe, relax, integrate, and we're gonna go slow, expand, relax, integrate, and it's really a dance. So it's small practices throughout the day. It's inviting your partners into those conversations, and being willing to do things differently with your eyes open walking throughout the day. Right. So now it's an example in partnership. I feel triggered, who I know this place in my body. I feel anxious. It's fluttery. This feels like how I am when I'm unsafe. This is a reason for me not to vocalize it where I maybe haven't before, hey, I'm feeling really triggered right now. There's something very activated and alive in my body. And I wanted to share with you. Just simply for sharing just just because you're going to share, you're going to lean into that. So that's how you start to create change in your home. You can't compartmentalize it, especially once you shift your way of being.Lesley Logan  So this is like a total ticket to me. I just see it as like a be it till you see, it's like how do you get the family on board with it, you actually have to be the like, be the conversation you wish was happening around you so that it can happen around you. (Keri: Yeah and ...) So sharing that moment with them.Keri Ford  Totally. And at the end of the day, we can't change the people around us. But especially if you're a mom and the kids are there, they may not have words for the experience or the shift, but they will mirror you because that's what mirror neurons do. And so if you're mirroring anxiety, they'll mirror it back. If you're mirroring peace and calm and groundedness they will mirror it back. So you will just see what is alive in you in two little bodies running around with you two kids like me.Lesley Logan  That is so true. I mean, like we I mean, we don't have actual human children, but our four legged ones. If we are anxious or frustrated or like something just goes wrong, or like we react out loud, the dogs will wake up from their amazing slumber and they're like, (Keri: Yeah) and then they're on edge and they're like walking around, they're barking at things and (Keri: Yeah) we are yelling at them for barking and they're like, "But I'm doing this for you. Like this is the (Keri: Yeah) energy you're putting out there.Keri Ford  Yeah, that's called a tuning to someone else's nervous system. (Lesley: Yeah) So an example would be birds where one bird flies away and the other birds don't even think they just fly (Lesley: Yeah) for the whole flock. They're tuning.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So, um, so I totally understand the tuning because like, Brad and I don't share an office any more we used to and, and we have different times that we work in the day, and we have different ways of working. And so like, I was like, "This tuning is not working for me. I need to be in my own office." But, you know, I think like, even with both partners being on board with like having these conversations and working through these feelings and saying and saying, what's on their mind? Don't do you find like, I find like, sometimes I'm having the conversation, the other person's like, having a great day, and then they're having the conversation in the middle of my great day. And like, do, do you, do you ever, do you ever see like, it's that each person is kind of going on at their own space, where have you and your partner found that you're kind of going at the same pace?Keri Ford  Oh, I think it just depends. There are often times where I'm holding space for him. And there's nothing to say do fix provide other than to listen, and to be still and to be grounded in that I don't join him in his, you know, anxiety, I am grounded enough in myself that I don't need to right. And that is through the practice of somatic work that I've done on myself. Now, a previous more sensitive version of me that didn't know how to harness this empathic superpower would attune to that partner's nervous system, and then we'd both be in the tornado of like chaos and anxiety. So I don't need to join him, because I don't need to fix him. And so then then it'll flip flop. Or sometimes we're both kind of like, this is a yucky day, you know, like, what do we want to do here? What's, how can we create more joy? What experience do we want to have?Lesley Logan  Yeah, I think like asking those questions is really true. And it and I love that you shared like being grounded in yourself, I think, depending on who you're in relationship with, like for us, I know. Like when Brad's like I'm having anxiety around this right now. I'm like, "Okay, have a seat at the red light." Do you, would you like some suggestions on some meditations to do? Or do you have one you want to use, you know, and vice versa? It's like, okay, it's like, (Keri: Yeah) you don't actually have to go there with them, to to support them. And I think a lot of times people feel like, oh, I need to like, meet them where they are, I can't really have the great day that I'm having. If they're having a moment. It's like, no, actually, you can actually be grounded in yourself. I love that you said that and allow them to have their moment feel seen and feel here, (Keri: Yeah) which probably will take a lot of that anxiety away.Keri Ford  And it's actually more loving and more compassionate not to join them. Because what they need is to be with their feelings and know that that's okay. We so often go quickly into clean it up, right? You're crying when we hand you a tissue, hurry up, put yourself back together, messes aren't allowed, big feelings are uncomfortable. The only person they are uncomfortable for, is the person listening. So if you find that you are going into rescuing mode, any listeners out there, or you're the one providing the tissue or you instantly go to console them to try and fix what would happen if you just sat with your discomfort of their big emotions, because that's about you, not them. And then everyone gets to just be okay with their own experience.Lesley Logan  Oh my gosh, would the world be a different place?Keri Ford  Yeah. And women are just, you know, so groomed in this fawn response that it's a slippery slope. You don't even know you're doing it sometimes.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Yeah. I think I definitely think that's an will be a challenge for some people. But it also like, I hope you're if you're listening this like it's a welcoming challenge. Like you don't have to fix anything. Like you don't have to, like just like ...Keri Ford  Feel free in that space. It's just like, oh, I trust that they can have their own experience. And it means nothing about me.Lesley Logan  Right. Oh my God. That is that is phenomenally freeing. You know, I imagine like, with your kids, like, as a parent, that has to be one something, you know, that is the right thing to do. And also so challenging, because I'm sure you don't want to see your children crying, you don't want to see them frustrated and anxious. Like how how do you handle it with the kids is the same as you do with your partner? Is it just like you let them feel their feelings? Or do you talk them through it?Keri Ford  Yeah, it's a little different with the kids. I know so often from guiding my clients through inner child work, where we acknowledge younger parts of ourself that have been waiting for us to come back as the adult self, the mature one, or for my own work that like that, that little one just wants love. Right? And so how can I, how can I provide a safe space just to share and again not send them off to their room because of their big emotions? Or say, "Stop crying. What's wrong with you?" And sometimes, you know, like, we'll notice our parents recording that they like laid over our and recorded into our brain like comes out. We're like, "Whoa, where the hell did that come from?" But as best I can, I often make space for big emotions in the house. We both do. And I will ask, "is there a certain way I can love you right now? Is there some something you would like or need from mommy." So they make a request for support. "Yeah, I just need a hug. Ah, okay, cool. I'm giving you a hug." And then they're like, 'Okay, I'm good." You know, it's there just have a need that's unexpressed, they didn't know how to speak.Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah. I feel like how different the world could be if like, that, parents of our generation, the generation before we're even given that, like, I'm just, you know, I know, for from like, my dad's, my grandparents were from the depression, there was not even, like a luxury to feel your feelings. There was like so, so little that anyone had. So you just just dusted yourself off, and there was no crime, right? And there's no touching, there's no hugging, there's a little loving. And I think that like, each generation has gotten a bit better at at least understanding that but I, I do know that most people are like, don't cry in public, like, children should be seen not heard, like, you know, that kind of a thing. (Keri: Yeah) And so I feel like there's a lot of adults out there who, who are really childlike in their big emotions, because they've never known how to actually express them and deal with them on their own.Keri Ford  It's given me a lot of compassion for my parents who are humans, right. And once you see your parents in their humaneness, you're like, oh, oh, okay. Like you don't have all the answers, like, you don't have to tell me who I need to be. And I don't have to seek your approval anymore. Like, I can find that on my own. And there's a grieving in that, in discovering they're human. And also, I have so much compassion for the parts of them that have come forward as much, much younger, childlike parts in in tantrum, I remember, a very funny Christmas, funny, and that it was interesting, where my dad was basically in a tantrum with my actual child, so his inner child, and if I was my actual child, and I put them both in their room, you know, like, let's everyone just take a reset here. And he did, he went to his room, and he had a cooldown and my son went to his room, and he had a cooldown and they just needed to be with some, you know, thoughts and things, because then it was getting a little bit disrespectful. And I had to chuckle about it, because I'm like, well, I two years ago, I never would have been able to see this for what it was, and just handle it from a place of neutrality. (Lesley: Yeah) And so they came back, we all had a conversation after everyone decided they wanted their own space. And that was it.Lesley Logan  Didn't have to be a thing who did this, like family thing (Keri: No) that now you no longer see them at Christmas? AndKeri Ford  Yeah, that was like really surreal. Because I'm like, wow, my dad's inner child is fighting with my actual child ...Lesley Logan  You know, so thanks, you said two years, like, I guess like, for the for the people who are like trying to check the boxes in their world? What is that, I mean, obviously, it depends on each person. But like, as you went through your somatics and the training and the coaching that you've seen with people, what is what is the length of time for this transformation to happen? Is it something that can happen overnight? Is it a lifelong training, when when can people start to see a bit of of the results.Keri Ford  Most clients work with me for an average of two years, but I've also had clients be with me, and whatever evolution I'm in of coaching for the last decade. So this is a lifelong journey, any personal development, I believe, if you're committed to living on the edge, and you're truly what I call the 1% woman, which is a woman that sees things differently, and she's willing to go to her edge over and over and over again, because it's in service to herself and the people she serves, then it is a mountain with no top. And I mean that in a really exciting way, not from a place of brokenness or lack. I mean, we are all already healed and whole as we are, and so much more peace is available. This isn't a box to check. And that's a really, that's the learning right there. For so many of us that are high achievers, I call this achiever anxiety, right? It's the thing that keeps us locked in to the idea that we need a checkbox at all. So this isn't about meditating on a mountain and having all your good come to you. But it is about finding a balance between what if I just allowed things and attracted things while also marrying that with strategy work in a way that doesn't have me force get or try to control? And so that's really, I'm glad you asked that because that's specifically the niche of women that I work with. (Lesley: Yeah) The sick overachievers that are like, "Just tell me what to do, and I'll do it." And I'm like, "I know. Because motivation is not the issue for you. Fucking relaxing is." So how are we, how can we relax and not burn our business down or like quit our job? How can we do both? How can we have all the success that we want, but feel really good about it in our body, too?Lesley Logan  Yeah. Oh, yeah. You just describe many of people listening. I always say (Keri: Yeah) I'm a recovering perfectionist and overachiever. And someone's like, we can never like, I don't think that's possible. And I was like, oh, it's I don't know that it's possible. You have recovered of those two things. But I think I can always be in recovery. And that means I can make mistakes and I can, I can make, I can make the adjustments as needed and get back on track. So I feel like that is very helpful for those people listening who are like, "Okay, but how long? Okay, but when?"Keri Ford  The minute we ask how long, we've left the present moment. (Lesley: Yeah) And so that in and of itself is why you need this work ...Lesley Logan  Yeah. So I'm wondering, Keri you've done so much, and you like you, you're you've really, you've really had an incredible arc in your career. What is it that you're excited about next? Like, are you, is there something that you're being it till you see it next? What's what's happening next for you?Keri Ford  Yeah, so we launched a podcast not long ago, which was a whole other level of being seen for me just on video and recording and hearing my voice like, oh, that's kind of exposing, isn't it? So that was (Lesley: Oh yeah.) exciting. And now I'm getting ready to literally create, like the best work of my life. And it's called the Somatic Success Academy. And it's the leadership training every woman needs for her nervous system. So whether you're in corporate, or you're CEO of your own company, or somebody else's, like if you are a woman in leadership, we will meet this, this is going to be ideal for you and your teams. And I'm building out something that does not exist in the way that I think it should. And so that's where I'm at right now. That's what we're building. And we're, we're getting ready to do some really massive pre sales and fun master classes around it.Lesley Logan  That's so cool. First of all, what's the name of your podcast so people can listen?Keri Ford  Literally First ClassLesley Logan  I love that. (Keri: Yeah) And so I love where you're going. I love what your ... but you're putting together how have you had to change what you what you do in your day to day to step into that. Like, what is that, what does that look like?Keri Ford  oof. you got to walk with the work? Right, that I said earlier, like, the true testimony to mastery is being the deepest embodiment of the walking meditation, like, you live this and people feel it from you. I mean, when you and I met, I was going through like a 30-day makeup free challenge in myself ...Lesley Logan  Y'all, she did makeup free 30-days, and she had a Las Vegas weekend in there. And we went to dinner and we went to shows. Keri Ford  Yeah, I mean, that's the kind of courage that I require myself to show up with. And so I'm not going to teach it if I haven't walked it. And I know that I wish this work was available to me years ago, how many times I would have saved myself the burnout and the sickness and all the things that came with the high strung anxiety that I thought I masked so well, but my body knew better.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Oh, thank you for sharing that. Because I think I think it's fun to hear where people have come from and where they're at now. And then also like, for like, you know, there's the mountain with no top and not in a depressing way in an exciting way. It's like, okay, it's not that like, I like I can't stop and settle but it's like, there is another level that I have now come become aware of and like to be that person. I can't, what got me here, won't get me there. Like I gotta get to the next. So, so I love hearing that. And I think it's so true. I think where a lot of impostor syndrome can come in is where people are like see where they want to go but then they act the way that they are. And then there's like, yeah, you, yeah, you're not going to feel good enough to be there because you're not changing the steps around yourself to make sure you can be there so yeah.Keri Ford  Everything you're attached to that you that you think defines you, your titles, the fucking logos, the as seen on, the press release. What fuck all that shit. I have all that on my website. I will tell you it's never made me feel like warm enough, right? What's made me feel more enough is finding peace in my body and giving less fucks and playing at the top of every mountain that I then uncover. So yeah, I mean all that just it doesn't even, it doesn't even matter at the end of the day. Um, so it is it is a really exciting place to play when you realize you can truly gamify life.Lesley Logan  Yeah, oh gosh, I can't wait to hear how this goes. You'll have to come back and tell us how everything is (Keri: Yeah. I love to.) and then we'll hear what your next thing is. We're gonna take a brief break and and find out where people can work with you, find you, follow you. Alright, Keri, where do you like to hang out? Where can people learn more about you? Where can they study with you if this is something that's been interesting, intriguing for them?Keri Ford  Yeah, if you guys are looking for a program that you know might sound interesting for you whether it be meditations to add to your daily life or a retreat experience where you want to go deeper into something that's really going to rock your fucking world. You can find me at elevatewithkeri k e r i.com And that has all the socials and things on there we have a bunch, so just go to the website.Lesley Logan  Perfect. Okay, before I let you go, you've given us some amazing tools already. But BE IT action items. Bold, executable, intrinsic, targeted steps people can take to be it till they see it.Keri Ford  Yeah, carve out your morning sandbox. If you don't have a morning practice, it doesn't have to be rising grind, it doesn't have to be 5:30am and it can look however the fuck you want it to look but pick three items that you want to do for 10 minutes each or so and carve out about an hour in your morning and do them in any order that you feel inclined to do them. So couple options could be breathwork, meditation, stretching, do some Lesley's Pilates, or like any of that good juicy stuff that lights you up that's life giving, pour into yourself first so that you can then pour into others later in the day.Lesley Logan  Oh, I could not agree more with all of that. Yes to all, I I love my morning sandbar like I go to the sandbox. I love it, I love like playing in. Some days I do the walk and then the red light and then Pilates sometimes I do it with like but I asked myself like, "What do I want right now?" All of these things that light my fire and fill me up so yes to that. I want to hear y'all how are you going to use these tips in your life? What what is what is Keri said that has really touched you, changed you, inspired you to do something? Make sure you tag @elevatewithkeri, tag the @be_it_pod. Share this with a friend. Right. Like imagine if the people in your life could all see you when you're going through something instead of tried to hand you a tissue and tell you to bury it like I mean, I think we could have a lot of different holiday situations, (Keri: Right. I know.) and the situations if that was the case. Keri, ah girl I love you. (Keri: I love you.) I wish we were seeing each other way more often. We'll have to do another trip soon. And until next time everyone, Be It Till You See It.That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. 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Could you go a month without wearing make-up? Keri Ford, CEO of Elevate With Keri, did exactly that. She stops by the podcast today to share how powerful such a simple challenge can be, and the importance of both stepping out of your comfort zone–and learning to love your body. Keri is an international motivational speaker, author, event host and global authority on women's wellness. She's dedicated to helping women overcome their anxiety and achieve Somatic SuccessTM. We chat about why energetics are integral to success, how embodiment can take your spirituality AND your business further, and what it means to have Big Fucking Faith. Tune in today to learn about Keri's work, her transformational coaching approach, and her upcoming retreat! You'll Learn: What Somatic Success™ is The four possible self-protective responses How to become conscious of your subconscious Why you should love your body as it is How faith can change your life Stay tuned for new episodes every Monday and Thursday, Successful Soul! Follow along with Keri Ford: https://elevatewithkeri.com/ To learn more about the Inner Feminine Beast™ In-Person Event and get our limited time offer to bring yourself and a friend for only $2000, click here! To watch these recordings live or join a community of like minded women, click here! To listen to our featured podcast episodes, click here! Connect with me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest & TikTok Subscribe to my YouTube channel and watch new episodes every week, click here! Reach out to us at info@cynthiastant.com for more information about how we can work together!

Do you find yourself always trying to do everything “by the book”—to stay an inoffensive people-pleaser, and to always go out of your way to be obedient and modest? In other words, have you spent your life trying to be the “good girl”? Your host, Keri Ford, challenges us to shake up that ideal—to ask ourselves,perhaps for the first time in our life: ”Who am I doing it all for?”. According to Keri, we can only be free once we throw away all of these societal pressures telling us to live life as a “good girl”. She invites us to see the world in a new way, beyond the boxes we've created for ourselves, and to give ourselves permission to be naughty, to be rebellious—to be the bad girl. Featured on the Show: Join my Millionaire Mind$et Program, where you'll start using my guided meditations to help you overcome anxiety and experience even more abundance. When you join, you'll have access to my entire audio library with over 25 other meditations, plus new meditations are recorded weekly! Learn More at www.elevatewithkeri.com Connect with Keri Follow Keri @iamkeriford Join Keri's community @elevatewithkeri Follow the podcast @literallyfirstclass Making First Class moves? Use the hashtag #literallyfirstclass

Today I have one of my good and incredible friends, Keri Ford. In this episode, we talk all about what it means to become unmade, the difference between achieving through motivation vs anxiety, and somatic success. Keri shares with us how to redefine what success feels like in our body, what that looks like, and the importance of it.   The Boldly Courageous Podcast is managed by Podcast & Co.   Meet Keri: Keri Ford is a High Performance Holistic Life Coach.   Keri is the CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri – an elite transformational coaching movement and luxury brand dedicated to serving and elevating women's emotional intelligence and whole-body high performance.   Her unique online influence and programs have transformed the lives of thousands of women across the globe.   She is an international motivational speaker, author, event host and global authority. She has spoken alongside 50 other top industry experts, neuroscientists, doctors and authors in the personal development industry.   Keri's high-end clientele includes some of the world's top female CEOs of multi-million dollar companies, self-made millionaires and other influential public figures.   She also has advanced training as a Behavior Change Specialist and was awarded by IFAH as one of the Top 100 Global Visionaries.   Keri has been featured around the world on Entrepreneur.com, The Huffington Post, SELF.com, NBC, USA Today, Livestrong, and other major publications. She is also the co-creator of a nearly million dollar company, Shift with Sanctuary – the #1 Inner Circle Experience for The 1% Woman. Keri's mission is to help women define success on their terms and lead leaders into a life they love through transformational practices.   Free Gift:  Millionaire Mind$et The Meditation Membership Designed to Calibrate Your Mind + Body to Receive MORE. In 25 minutes or less, you will reprogram your mind and body so that you can feel safe in receiving all of the abundance that is already yours.   Connect with Keri:  @iamkeriford |  Facebook | LinkedIn | Website   Let's Connect: Instagram: @themelissamartin   Boldly Courageous Community: Join Now

Practical and down-to-earth, Literally First Class™ with your host, Keri Ford teaches the modern-day female entrepreneur, CEO, and executive self-healing tools for overcoming high functioning anxiety so that they can define success in their terms. Keri is a Somatic Success™ coach, holistic life coach, behavior change specialist, and motivational speaker for women. As a mom of two and a recovering perfectionist, she'll be sharing her (potentially humorous) real-life experiences and somatic spiritual wisdom to help you re-wire what success needs to look like. Together, we get to redefine what deeply embodied success gets to feel like, instead. Keri believes true success is when you get to have it all without compromising anything including yourself. Each week the advice, insight, and heart-centered approach she shares will be the virtual permission slip you've been craving to let your hair down and feel alive in the life you're living every single day. Sit back, relax and put your feet up in first class, because we're going for a ride with episodes weekly. Featured on the Show: Join my Millionaire Mind$et Program, where you'll start using my guided meditations to help you overcome anxiety and experience even more abundance. When you join, you'll have access to my entire audio library with over 25 other meditations, plus new meditations are recorded weekly! Learn More at www.elevatewithkeri.com Connect with Keri Follow Keri @iamkeriford Join Keri's community @elevatewithkeri Follow the podcast @literallyfirstclass Making First Class moves? Use the hashtag #literallyfirstclass

It's easy to waste a lot of time trying to find podcasts that are just fun to listen to, especially if you find yourself falling into the cycle of always having to be serious, proving yourself, getting it right, or if you've always been the “mature one”. Your host, Keri Ford, brings a new episode each week designed to give you a place and a space to be unfiltered, silly, unapologetic, and not always serious. Keri explores the ideas of success and redefines what it looks and feels like for you as an individual. With the uprising of feminine leadership, Keri explores what it looks like to finally relax and calm down and create from that space as well as go to the next level. Each episode contains powerful insight to help you grow your success, have fun, let your hair down, and conduct change in your life without changing who you are! Featured on the Show: Join my Millionaire Mind$et Program, where you'll start using my guided meditations to help you overcome anxiety and experience even more abundance. When you join, you'll have access to my entire audio library with over 25 other meditations, plus new meditations are recorded weekly! Learn More at www.elevatewithkeri.com Connect with Keri Follow Keri @iamkeriford Join Keri's community @elevatewithkeri Follow the podcast @literallyfirstclass Making First Class moves? Use the hashtag #literallyfirstclass

While there is nothing wrong with male mentorship, there are a lot of things men don't experience the same as women trying to grow in empowerment and business. With things like the household often still left to wives, it's important that women know all their options– from other women that have gone through the same things in their lives.   In this episode, I've invited Keri Ford, CEO and Founder of Elevate with Keri, an elite transformational coaching movement and luxury brand dedicated to serving and elevating women's emotional intelligence and whole-body high performance. Keri's high-end clientele includes some of the world's top female CEOs of multi-million dollar companies, self-made millionaires, and other influential public figures. With her unique program, it's no surprise that Keri has transformed thousands of women's lives all across the globe.   If you've ever felt like your back was to the wall with everything you need to do– hop into the conversation and listen in as Keri shares with us priceless advice on how we can expand our options!   Covered in the Episode:‌ ‌ How to be a Mom and an Entrepreneur (5:42) Discomfort Doesn't Mean it Not in Alignment (10:05) Leaning Into Trust (19:45) How Keri Defines Freedom (35:26)   “Let's lean into trust. Not that we're free falling on a raft down the waterfall, but so that we've chosen to get on the raft, and we know that it's taking us to the place we're been meant to go”  - Keri Ford   ------------------------‌ ‌   Are you ready to claim your power and step into your purpose? Be a visionary, be bold. Apply to my Untamed Program and rise into your best self as an entrepreneur here: https://carissajohnsen.mykajabi.com/untamed   Join‌ ‌the‌ ‌‌Freedom‌ ‌Designers‌ ‌Facebook‌ ‌Community‌,‌ ‌where‌ ‌I‌ ‌share‌ ‌business‌ ‌insights‌ ‌and‌ ‌tips‌ ‌that‌ ‌will‌ ‌help‌ ‌you‌ ‌design‌ ‌a‌ ‌rich‌ ‌life‌ ‌and‌ ‌business!   If you have any questions, please contact my team at support@carissajohnsen.com.

Do you have big audacious goals? Discover how to create the unimaginable with our special guest. Keri Ford is the founder and CEO at Elevate with Keri. This elite transformational coaching movement is dedicated to serving and elevating women's emotional intelligence and whole-body wellness. Keri and I discuss how to create the unimaginable. We are both coaches who work with very successful people. Keri works with powerful women to create the unimaginable in every part of their lives.   Get the show notes for Inspire People to Create the Unimaginable with Keri Ford Click to Tweet: Listening to a fantastic episode on Growth Think Tank featuring #KeriFord with your host @GeneHammett https://bit.ly/gttKeriFord   #CreateTheUnimaginable #GeneHammettPodcast #GHepisode863 #elevatingwomensemotionalintelligence Give Growth Think Tank a review on iTunes!

Keri Ford coaches the top 1% of Women in the world in their mind and body and has been featured on NBC, and in both Entrepreneur and USA Today. We have a great conversation about her journey, soul care, and what it takes to be successful in every way. Connect with Kerri. https://www.instagram.com/iamkeriford/ Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaeldavidhuey https://www.hefluence.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/michael-huey/message

Welcome my guest, Keri Ford. She is the CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri – an elite transformational coaching movement. She is an international motivational speaker, author, event host, and leading global authority on whole-body wellness. She has spoken alongside top industry experts, neuroscientists, and doctors. Keri has also been awarded by the International Forum on Advancements in Healthcare (IFAH) as a Top 100 Global Visionary in Wellness for Alternative Medicine.  She is on a mission to empower millions of women to challenge diet culture, educate on the science and psychology of intuitive eating, and master self-love from the inside out. Her unique approach to self-healing, embodiment practices and the unlearning of diet culture has been the gateway to her own personal transformation by harnessing her intuition to create success in every area of her life; in this episode she will be teaching those practices, tools, and mindset shifts to help you accomplish the same. You will learn: How to listen to your body What it means to intuitively eat Cultivate true self love Embodiment practices to reconnect to your body Embracing your feminine essence in leadership and much more For full show notes and episode resources head to: https://ericalippy.com/keri-ford/ Find our guest at: https://elevatewithkeri.com/ @iamkeriford facebook.com/kerilynn.ford Please don't forget to subscribe and leave a review! FIND YOUR HOST: @ericalippy PASSION LOVE PURSUIT INSTAGRAM: @passionlovepursuit PASSION LOVE PURSUIT FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/passionlovepursuit/ PASSION LOVE PURSUIT PODCASTS: https://ericalippy.com/the-podcast/

Keri Ford is a High Performance Holistic Life Coach and the CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri – an elite transformational coaching movement and luxury brand dedicated to serving and elevating women's emotional intelligence and whole-body high performance. Her unique online influence and programs have transformed the lives of thousands of women across the globe. She is an international motivational speaker, author, event host and global authority on women's wellness. She has spoken alongside 50 other top industry experts, neuroscientists, doctors and authors in the personal development industry. Podcast Notes: [0:45] about Keri [2:45] Keri's spiritual awakening, surrender and faith [7:40] purpose [11:30] becoming unshakable [16:04] practice who you be [18:00] reconditioning & bringing awareness to repeated patterns [24:00] emotional intelligence [25:25] conscious partnerships [31:42] not feeling aligned in career/relationship/life [32:20] resisting letting go Quotes: “Ego speaks first and loudly, intuition speaks second and quietly” “When you're operating from a place of authenticity, you are a magnet to everything that is meant for you” “Am I letting fear drive the bus or am I living from a place of truth?” Links: Follow Taylor on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taylortosczak/ One on One Coaching link: https://www.taylorlifecoach.com/privatecoaching Follow Keri on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamkeriford/ Keri's Websites: https://elevatewithkeri.com https://shiftwithsanctuary.com

Empowerment is something that is born from the inside, from the day-to-day actions, internal thoughts, and self-talks. We also need to practice feeling empowered, happy, and joyful without any external event happening to us. It must be an organic and internal state of being. It takes time to train ourselves, but that's an important part of feeling like we are the ones who run our lives, and not anything or anyone. In this episode of The Wellness Revolution, Amber welcomes Keri Ford to discuss empowerment, women leadership, and creating a legacy and a life we're proud of. Keri shares a little bit about her own struggles dealing with eating disorders and how she was able to step out of self-depreciation and step into a wealthy life, full of confidence. Keri believes that all women can be equally fulfilled in all areas of life, including you! Wellness Quote “A rich life is only rich if you're wealthy in all areas of it.” – Keri Ford Key Highlights Keri talks about her past when she would deal with an eating disorder on a consistent basis; How Keri was able to work on herself and shift her mindset to change what wasn't working and start being more intuitive about her eating habits; The true happiness and joy comes (or at least should come) from the inside, not from an outside event; Keri talks about her work on Shift with Sanctuary – a community of women ready to implement leadership, legacy, love, and longevity into life; Amber and Keri discuss daily performance and how to be able to do all things necessary in a day as professional women and mothers; Keri's activities and actions to get out of her comfort zone. Episode Resources #ZeroProcessed: Free 5 Day Satisfaction and Consistency Nutrition Challenge for women who want fast, easy and delicious nutrition solutions. Link: www.ambershaw.com/zeroprocessed About Keri Ford Keri is the CEO and Founder of Elevate with Keri: an elite transformational coaching movement and luxury brand. Keri is also an international motivational speaker and author, event host, and leading global authority on whole body wellness. Keri is on a mission to empower millions of women to change the diet culture, to educate them on intuitive eating, and to help them master self-love from the inside out. Connect with Keri Ford Instagram: @iamkeriford | @shiftwithsanctuary Website: ElevateWithKeri.com Facebook: Keri Ford Facebook Group: Billion Dollar Body with Keri Ford About Amber Shaw Amber is a Body Transformation Expert, Founder of The Wellness Revolution, motivational speaker, and NBC Health and Wellness Coach. Having built a lifestyle that allowed her to embrace work, children, exercise, and well-balanced eating habits, Amber now works with helping and coaching women to achieve the same level of serenity and empowerment through a sustainable way of living. Connect with Amber Instagram: @msambershaw TikTok: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com

How well do you actually know yourself? Keri Ford, CEO and Founder of Elevate with Keri, woke up one day and realized that she didn't love the life she had created. By letting go of who she thought she was and listening to her intuition, she saw her worth and found her path to liberating joy. Through her story of self-love, you'll learn how to build your confidence to see the many miracles that come when you start following your true calling.

Are you ready to elevate today? Keri Ford is electrifying in all of the best ways, and the very first time we were ever in the same room, I sensed that energetic alignment. In today's podcast, we are talking about it in a way that might make you as a woman, a little uncomfortable, but that's not our intent. Our intent is actually to invite you into the comfortability of being home with yourself.   Today's conversation with Keri Ford will literally magnify you. It'll bring you to a new level as a woman, and if you're a man and you're listening, like that's cool too. You're going to empower the women around you by knowing and intuitively allowing yourself to lean in, listen and serve humanity in a way that only we can do when we understand what alignment truly does and the freedom that's unlocked on the other side of ourself in our head.   Ready to walk into 2022 with a new level of knowledge and inspiration? Come join me for one of my coaching opportunities!  https://www.fitinfaithmedia.com/coaching   Grow for God 2022 registration is OPEN! Special ticket prices through 12/31! https://www.fitinfaithmedia.com/grow-for-god-con  

It's easy to get comfortable in a 9 to 5 job that pays the bills and has minimal risks, but if you're in a position where you're living entirely inside your comfort zone, you need to ask yourself if you are truly fulfilled. For Keri Ford, the answer was no. A little less than 3 years ago, Keri took a massive leap of faith and left her 6 figure job in real estate to found her coaching company, Elevate With Keri. Today, Keri works alongside some of the world's most visionary people to nurture and expand their potential in order to make the world a better place. In today's episode, Keri shares what led her to the point where she was able to trust her intuition, work through her limiting beliefs, and follow her heart-centered mission. Not all transformations are pleasant, but as you'll hear from Keri today, our most difficult experiences often end up being our most beautiful ones, we just have to be open to taking the next step! Key Points From This Episode:An introduction to today's guest, Keri Ford, founder of Elevate With Keri. Keri shares what drove her to leave her 6 figure job. How Keri learned to trust her intuition, and why this is so important. Why so many people get stuck in a victim state. What motivated Keri to do the work that she does. Keri's favorite part about coaching visionaries. Why Keri believes in high level investments. Learnings that helped Keri rid herself of her limiting beliefs. When a “burn the ships” mentality is required, and when it is not. How Keri manages fear of failure. Limiting beliefs that Keri holds at her level of success. Advice from Keri about finding the right partner.Keri shares what she wants her next level of growth to look like. Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:Elevate With KeriShift With SanctuaryKeri Ford on InstagramGoodman CoachingChris GoodmanWork with Chris HereChris Goodman Email Address

This Week on the Live Your Light Show:  This week on the Live Your Light Show we are talking about conscious relationships and what really goes on behind closed doors to make a partnership flourish. In this episode Emily is talking to conscious couple, Keri Ford and Jacob Kauffman.   Keri is the CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri, an elite transformational coaching movement and luxury brand and her partner, Jake Kauffman, is a High Performance Coach & Business Mentor.  Since 2018 Jake has coached hundreds of the top online coaches, consultants and entrepreneurs to overcome their subconscious self-sabotage while supporting them in growing their business revenue. ​​Keri and Jake have a unique relationship that has encouraged them to expand into elevated versions of themselves. They are deeply in love but the path hasn't been linear and in this ep. they don't hold back on sharing any details. In this episode, they define what LOVE is and what caused them to question that during their breakup. They vulnerably share what taking radical responsibility looked like in the context of their relationship & what they know now that they wish you knew then. They share how surrendering in a relationship feels and how that played out to support their individual growth. Tag us on IG and let us know your favorite takeaway and what you plan on implementing in your life.    In This Conversation, We Cover: 3:55 They share their story on how they met and how that led to their relationship 13:10 How to create more effective communication with our partners in order to deepen your relationship 17:15 What led to their break up at the beginning of the year & what it activated within each of them. 28:05  Attachment style theory & How attachment styles affect your relationship  36:15 Advice to anyone who is struggling in their relationship and questions you can ask yourself to move through it 45:45 What the inner and outer work has done for their relationship today & how their relationship looks different than it did before.  49:00 How to make your relationship stronger then ever 54:20 We get real and talk about intimacy and letting go of destructive beliefs and patterns in old relationships 1:02:05 Keri and Jake share great resources for creating more conscious relationships and to dive deeper into this work  1:07:45 Advice on how to build a sustainable and conscious relationship    Resources: Learn more about Keri Ford HERE Learn more about Jake Kauffman HERE Get the Attachment Styles book was mentioned in this Episode    Stay Up To Date: Ready to energetically align your business and life? Click here to book your free 15 min session with Emily to get a brief energetic analysis of your business to unlock current blocks in your life & start receiving the flow of abundance in your biz!  Follow @itsemilythomas and @liveyourlightpodcast on Instagram Subscribe to receive light letters & promos to events and courses from Emily HERE Visit EmilykThomas.com for more programs and free resource library Click HERE To Join the Entrepreneurs of Impact FB group to collaborate and network with visionaries like yourself

Back for another week of THE Coachable Podcast. Ladies and gentlemen we have an awesome show for you today! But before you read any further swing over to https://coachable-llc.mykajabi.com/foundations and explore what we are offering at the Coachable U: School of Self Mastery and Conscious Leadership. Also, if you don't already - follow me on Instagram and TikTok @CoachToriGordon, please head over and do so. Share this episode if it resonates with you and encourage others to engage in discussion!Keri Ford is the CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri – an elite transformational coaching movement and luxury brand.She is an international motivational speaker, author, event host and leading global authority on whole-body wellness. She has spoken alongside top industry experts, neuroscientists and doctors.Keri has trained celebrities such as Alison Sweeney from NBC's The Biggest Loser. She also has advanced experience as a Weight Management Expert, Nutritionist and Behavior Change Specialist.She is on a mission to empower millions of women to challenge diet culture, educate on the science and psychology of intuitive eating and master self-love from the inside out.In this conversation with Keri, we dive into so much self-wisdom and self-healing, sharing anecdotal experiences from her own life and how she has used these experiences to help others. I'm so grateful to have Keri on the show, and I hope you are left with some inspiration!http://www.elevatewithkeri.com/@thekeriford on IG or "Billion Dollar Body with Keri Ford" on FBJoin Keri's FREE FB community, Billion Dollar Body with Keri Ford - http://facebook.com/groups/billiondollarbodywithkeriford

Caught up in a binge-restrict cycle? Can't seem to truly practice intuitive eating? Feeling powerless with food choices? If you are struggling with the concept of naturally moderating your portion sizes, this one's for you. Keri ford, holistic health specialist, provides insight into approaching your relationship with food through a perspective of healing with a deeper root cause. Explaining the power of pausing, intuitive eating, and gradient of healing, she walks you through her own disordered eating past and provides tips on how you can begin to start your own journey. As part of the process, she talks about true self-love, distinguishing it from self-care. She touches base with the somatic work and its transformational effects in relation to the nervous system, trauma healing, and weight management. Learn whether or not Keri still struggles with her relationship with food and how to restore and reconnect with yourself on a sanctuary retreat with Keri! Let's dive in! We mention PaleoValley in this episode. We love PalleoVallley because they use whole foods ingredients, found naturally on our earth. Use code 'OPTIMAL' to get 15% off: http://paleovalley.com/optimalbody What You Will Learn In This Interview with Keri Ford: 3:28 – Keri's “Why.” 5:22 – Approaching struggling relationships with food. 6:36 – Power of Pausing. 10:34 – Dropping shame associated with food. 13:32 – Approaching cravings in terms of intuitive eating. 16:30 – How Keri permitted intuitive eating. 19:22 – Shifting from self-care to self-love. 21:08 – Billion dollar body principle. 22:57 – Tips on identifying how to be present & starting your journey. 26:33 – What is Somatic work? 34:29 – Keri's Sanctuary Retreats. 39:03 – Connect further with Keri About Keri Ford: Featured around the world on Entrepreneur, NBC, SELF, Livestrong, and FOX, Keri is the CEO and Founder of Elevate with Keri – an elite transformational coaching movement and luxury brand created for high-performance women ready to be successful in this part of their life. As a previous Celebrity Trainer, Keri is recognized as an international motivational speaker, author, event host, and leading global authority on whole-body wellness. She has spoken alongside top industry experts, neuroscientists, and doctors. Keri has also been nominated as one of the Top 100 Visionaries in Healthcare by IFAH, the International Forum on Advancements in Healthcare. She is on a mission to empower millions of women to challenge diet culture, educate on the science and psychology of intuitive eating, and master self-love from the inside out. Items mentioned in this episode include: Keri's Website: https://elevatewithkeri.com Sign up for Keri's retreat: https://shiftwithsanctuary.com Keri's Instagram: https://instagram.com/thekeriford/ To learn more about Keri and view full show notes, please visit the full website here: https://www.docjenfit.com/podcast/episode119/ Thank you so much for checking out this episode of The Optimal Body Podcast. If you haven't done so already, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a quick rating and review of the show! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tobpodcast/message

"A billion dollar body is a state of mind" - that's what our guest and expert coach Keri Ford believes... And people must agree because she's building an empire by teaching high-performance women how to stop performing with diets so they can achieve Cookie Confidence. She's been on the show before (episode 34) and we wanted to get her back again since her growth has been astounding. Recently being featured Entrepreneur, NBC, HuffPost and has so much knowledge to share about how you can get there too. We discussed all things business, scaling, challenges, delegation, personal growth and beyond. This episode will be extremely helpful for those of you out there who want to learn from someone who has done it, and is doing it. If you wanna reach out to Keri you can find her on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/elevatewithkeri/ P.S If you are an online trainer making between 2.5k and 10k per month JOIN OUR 3 DAY CHALLENGE: https://yourfitstorycompany.clickfunnels.com/3dcoptin

Show Notes: In today's episode, we talk about:   How Keri transitioned to her current career after flip-flopping for a while with feeling of uncertainty and insecurity.  How to deal with self-sabotage so you can identify your triggers and realign yourself to your values and priorities.  Why it is crucial to overcome past traumas so you can let go of emotional baggage which will drag you down.  How to overcome limiting beliefs you have about yourself and your career, which really deters growth.  Why it is important to live on purpose and set intentions so you can transition to a happy life that you truly love.  Learn more about Keri here: Website: https://elevatewithkeri.com/ (https://elevatewithkeri.com/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kerilynn.ford (https://www.facebook.com/kerilynn.ford) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elevatewithkeri (https://www.instagram.com/elevatewithkeri) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerifordofficial/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerifordofficial/) Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMkrlrnbueSnzteYX2I0qpA (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMkrlrnbueSnzteYX2I0qpA)   For more information and to explore podcast episodes, visit themikecroc.com. To drop him an email, use: info@peoplebuildinginc.com   Follow Mike on social media: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-ciorrocco/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-ciorrocco/)  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikeciorrocco (https://www.facebook.com/mikeciorrocco)   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikeycroc (https://www.instagram.com/mikeycroc)  Twitter: https://twitter.com/mikeycroc (https://twitter.com/mikeycroc)    If you haven’t smashed the subscribe button, do it here➡️ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGWHuKojqZfcXmvGCAi_t1Q/ (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGWHuKojqZfcXmvGCAi_t1Q/)   The views and opinions expressed on the "What Are You Made Of?" podcast are solely those of the author and guests and should not be attributed to any other individual or entity. This is an independent production of Mike "C-Roc" Ciorrocco. The podcast production and the book "What Are You Made Of?" are the author's original works. All rights of ownership and reproduction are retained—copyright 2021.

Keri Ford - CEO of Elevate with Keri & Holistic Life Coach joins Alan today as they discuss the journey of healing oneself.  Alan talks about how he is taking care of business but no his body.  They discuss his keto diet, and Alan shares how he is constantly counting carbs and is afraid of eating things now.  This is a no no, says Keri, this will make you want to eat everything if you put yourself in a counting craze.  Keri believes a lot of our bad food habits could have come from being told negative things when we were younger.  She shares that we should use our intuition to eat, that we should listen to our bodies more.  Achieving the cookie confidence, which means, if you are craving a cookie and that is truly what your body is telling you, then have a cookie.  Food currency can be either positive or negative.  Alan shares that he got a somatic healing and was told he carries a lot of negative energy.  Keri shares how carrying around past wants or traumas can lead one to eating disorders.  She says we need to live on purpose with purpose.  Realigning and developing a healthy regiment is needed to make yourself a priority. [00:00:00] Business Good, Body Bad [00:05:25] Counting Carbs [00:11:31] Sticks and Stones [00:18:22] Follow Your Intuition [00:25:43] Negative Energy [00:33:23] I Am Priority

Keri Ford - CEO of Elevate with Keri & Holistic Life Coach joins Alan today as they discuss the journey of healing oneself.  Alan talks about how he is taking care of business but no his body.  They discuss his keto diet, and Alan shares how he is constantly counting carbs and is afraid of eating things now.  This is a no no, says Keri, this will make you want to eat everything if you put yourself in a counting craze.  Keri believes a lot of our bad food habits could have come from being told negative things when we were younger.  She shares that we should use our intuition to eat, that we should listen to our bodies more.  Achieving the cookie confidence, which means, if you are craving a cookie and that is truly what your body is telling you, then have a cookie.  Food currency can be either positive or negative.  Alan shares that he got a somatic healing and was told he carries a lot of negative energy.  Keri shares how carrying around past wants or traumas can lead one to eating disorders.  She says we need to live on purpose with purpose.  Realigning and developing a healthy regiment is needed to make yourself a priority. [00:00:00] Business Good, Body Bad [00:05:25] Counting Carbs [00:11:31] Sticks and Stones [00:18:22] Follow Your Intuition [00:25:43] Negative Energy [00:33:23] I Am Priority

How can you overcome the limiting beliefs you have about yourself and business? What is possible when setting intentions and accepting where you are at now? Join Keri Ford and I as we dive into these topics and learn more about elevating our health and wealth.Join my biz bestie text club. Send PODCAST to 1-315-284-5409 Screenshot todays show and tag me on Instagram stories - @jessieharrisboutonFor the full show notes and links mentioned in this episode visit: https://www.jessieharrisbouton.com/blog/episode-168

My guest this week is Keri Ford, a high performance life coach. What's a high performance life coach, you ask? Keri helps people (mostly women) elevate their life in all regards: health, wealth, relationships, fitness, and overall wellness. Keri feels like she has lived 10 different lives. She got her degree in Advertising & Graphic Design at the University of Delaware, but after joining the workforce, she found herself struggling with her weight and with disordered eating, and feeling purposeless, unfocused, tuned out, and unfulfilled, despite having a cool job. So she quit her job, packed up, and moved to L.A. Her parents, after helping her pay for her college education and watching her work her butt off in a competitive major, were completely dumbfounded.She got her certification in personal training in 2008. She was able to get her foot in a gym and shadowed celebrity trainers. All the pieces fell into place, and after doing nutrition and fitness coaching, she discovered the mindset behind the behaviors and the light bulb went on.So what can we learn from Keri's story?Most people don't understand. Sometimes you need support from other entrepreneurs who also feel like the black sheep in their familiesFind your voice, and find your why. When you find your value and your purpose, you can then share it with others.Hire a coach to call you out on your own BS. Having awareness is one thing, but making changes and creating new habits based on that awareness is another.CONNECT WITH KeriInstagram: @elevatewithkeriwww.elevatewithkeri.com