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In January of 2022, I set out with the word abundance at the forefront of my mind. I didn't know exactly how this word would shape the year, but I patiently kept my eyes open for clues.Well, it has been a wild ride and that is the full story I'm revealing into today's episode. By focusing on and embodying the word abundance, a series of synchronicities and events unfolded that shifted my life in ways I could not have predicted 12 months ago.Along with the full story, you will discover my 5 best tips for choosing and incorporating your very own word into 2023. By following these tips, you will shift into living from a place of energetic alignment. The synchronicities that will occur will give you chills and you will know you are on an exciting new path. Follow on InstagramKristin Zeier @kristinzeierHer One Thing @heronethingEmail: kristin@itsthatonething.com 

You've probably heard all of the advice from personal development gurus who preach about waking up early and following a strict morning routine that will set the tone for a successful day. While this isn't wrong, it is incomplete advice. There is no denying that starting your day with intention creates better outcomes during your day. This is so important. However, this advice only works for a subset of the population. There are certain people who are designed to thrive under this type of rigid routine. Many people do not because they are not designed to thrive in that way. Instead of having a rigid routine, think of your morning book end as beginning your day with intention. Instead of repeating the same things day in and day out, have an entire toolbox of things you can pull out based on what feels aligned for you on that day.Key Takeaways:-Why routine works for some people and not for others-Reframing routines into intentional activities aka book ends-The importance of choosing things that light you up in your own unique way-Following through on your commitments to yourself Click Here to Sign Up for the FREE 4 Class Meditation TrainingFollow on InstagramKristin Zeier @kristinzeierHer One Thing @heronething

Have you ever had a moment in your life where everything seems to crumble around you? Maybe a relationship abruptly ends or you lose your job. Maybe that goal you've been working so hard towards isn't going to work out.Maybe it's that you've been running on empty as a single mom, trying to do it all, without filling your own cup, that you break down in defeat. These moments can be earth shattering. When you're in the middle of a storm, fear, uncertainty, and doubt can take over. When this happens, remember these 9 things. Remember, storms don't last forever. This is a temporary experience that is bringing you into a new chapter. While you might feel uncertain, take comfort in knowing there are infinite possibilities for you and your future. You're doing an amazing job.Click Here to Sign Up for the FREE 4 Class Meditation TrainingFollow on InstagramKristin Zeier @kristinzeierHer One Thing @heronething

Key Takeaways:What is massive action?What is aligned action?How do massive action & aligned action differ?Why you need both for a purpose driven lifeThe Law of Least EffortThe meditation effect on aligned actionClick Here to Sign Up for the FREE 4 Class Meditation TrainingFollow on InstagramKristin Zeier @kristinzeierHer One Thing @heronething

In this episode, I share the emotional experience I had leading up to my son's 17th birthday a few weeks ago. It was as if the past 17 years of our lives together flashed before my eyes. In this moment, I had an epiphany. I realized that even though I am focused on creating my dream life and constantly bringing things to the next level for him and I, the days and years are passing quickly. At the end of the day, what matters most is being present and loving.This episode serves as a nugget of insight for all ambitious single moms who are focused on those goals to also slow down and be present. For the days are long but the years are short. Follow:Her One Thing @heronethingKristin Zeier @kristinzeier

You are rocking being a single mom, yet some days, you feel like you are failing. You feel like you are behind.You feel like you are not enough and that you just can't do it all. You have such a great vision for the future but you can't see a path to make it work. Some days you are on fire, but other days, you struggle to make it through the day before your head hits the sheets at night. You crave rest and relaxation but you feel like you have to keep going or else you'll fall even further behind. Does this sound familiar? As single moms, we definitely experience a wide array of emotions and energy levels. First, stop and acknowledge the fact that you are doing the job of two people solo. Forgive yourself for any imperfections you've had on your journey. Give yourself grace. Appreciate all that you do on a day to day basis to create the best life possible for yourself and your child(ren) – even if it isn't perfect (lets face it, no one's life is perfect regardless of the parental circumstances). Next, I want you to really absorb what I'm going to share with you. When you are feeling busy, overwhelmed and stressed out, you need to stop everything you're doing and find stillness.Practicing being in stillness every day will do more for your well-being, your energy output and the results you create in your life than anything else.  Key Takeaways:-What is stillness-How you will benefit from practicing stillness-Ways to incorporate stillness into your life effortlessly and easily Follow:Her One Thing @heronethingKristin Zeier @kristinzeier

You feel like you're doing all the right things to get ahead but at the end of the day, it feels like you're spinning on a never ending wheel. You're always in motion but don't seem to be going anywhere. It begs the question, “Is it possible for me to create a life of abundance as a single mom?”If this resonates with you, then you'll want to stick around for today's episode. Today, we are diving into the question of whether single moms can really create and live life abundantly. It can feel like abundance is out of reach for you. You're juggling the world in your arms between your child(ren), financially supporting your family, spending time with your family and practicing self-care or finding time for yourself. You might have accepted that this is the way it has to be. You might feel like you're often paralyzed in a state of stress, worry, overwhelm and hopelessness. You might feel like there will never be enough of the things you need to do your job as a single mom. In this episode, we are going to bust through that belief. Key Takeaways:-Abundance is available and accessible to you at all times-How abundance is a mindset and why it's your birthright -Ways to tap into abundance regardless of your external circumstances Follow:Her One Thing @heronethingKristin Zeier @kristinzeier

As a single mom, it seems there is always something coming out of left field to throw a wrench in the day. Becoming immersed in overwhelm, stress, worry & scarcity based thinking can often be the results. When we are constantly in a state of reaction, we don't stop to observe the patterns in our moods, thoughts and actions.Left unchecked, this can lead to months, years or even decades of repeated cycles of behavior that ultimately, don't produce the desired results in life. It can leave you scratching your head and wondering where the years have gone.In this episode, I am share with you seven of the most effective mindfulness practices that I've incorporated into my life over the past 5 years. My hope is that no matter where you are on your journey as a single mom, you can curate a more blissful, fulfilled and intentional experience.Not only for yourself, but your child(ren) as well. Your state of being will influence your child(ren)'s mindset, actions and outcomes for years to come. Key Takeaways:-What is mindfulness?-How mindfulness techniques can improve your life-7 Ways to practice mindfulness as a single mom Free Resource:18 Journal Prompts for Single MomsFollow:Her One Thing @heronethingKristin Zeier @kristinzeier 

Do you ever find yourself wishing you could enter into any situation without fear and show up as an authentic and magnet woman who radiates confidence? Maybe it feels like this is something that is out of reach for you. Perhaps, you feel like confidence is something that some people are born with and some are not. If there is an area of your life that you want to become more confident in, then you'll want to stick around for this episode.Key Takeaways:-The secret to confidence-One thing you can do to increase your confidence now-Why you shouldn't "fake it til you make it"-How to project confidence as a beginner at anythingFree Resource:The Ultimate Goal Setting Guide for Solo MomsFollow:Her One Thing @heronethingKristin Zeier @kristinzeier 

Have you ever heard the quote, “You must believe it in order to see it”? The idea here is that so often, we focus on external results without doing the inner work first. Then, if we do see external progress, we still feel the overwhelm, burnout, mom guilt, worry and scarcity based thinking. When you focus on the internal work first, the external results will follow. What's the point of this?The point is that it's the habits you cultivate and practice regularly that will drive you to be a high achieving solo mom. I encourage you to embrace & embody the connection between personal development, high achievement and creating the best life for yourself and your child(ren). I believe that every single mom has the ability to be a high achiever in her own way. It doesn't matter how old you are right now, what has happened in your past or how many times you might have failed. You are worthy. Tune in to discover what the 9 habits are to practice to set you in motion. Free Resources for Single Moms:18 Journal Prompts for Solo Moms The Ultimate Goal Setting Guide for Solo MomsFollow:Her One Thing @heronethingKristin Zeier @kristinzeier 

Have you ever had a moment of intense clarity where you suddenly realize that your current life is exactly what you once envisioned as your ideal life? The catch here is that oftentimes, we become so wrapped up in our next big life goal or future vision, that we haven't stopped to appreciate, or even acknowledge, that we're currently living our past self's dream life.  When a realization like this happens, it can be one of the most deeply gratifying experiences. This kind of moment can shift everything. While it's important to stop and recognize the progress you've made, it's equally as important to plan for your future. Even if you're not sure how you've ended up on your current life path, know that you can create impactful change at any time.In this episode, I break down key components to focus on while designing your future while also sharing 7 actionable steps that you can take today to build your dream life. For full show notes, visit https://itsthatonething.com/Follow Her One Thing on Instagram @heronething

Loneliness is when you have no one to celebrate your success with and no one to share your pains with. As an ambitious solo mom working toward massive life goals, does this resonate with you?It's important to note that loneliness and solitude are not to be confused. The two are very different. Just because you are alone does not mean you are lonely. In fact, solitude is one of the most beautiful and rewarding things. There are also many different ways that you can intentionally cultivate community & connection in your life. This is incredibly important on your journey as an ambitious solo mom. In this episode, I share 9 of my best tips for creating community and relationships that will nourish your soul while also learning to savor your solitude.Although you can take steps to create more meaningful connections with yourself and with others, you may often still feel lonely in your journey as an ambitious single mom. That is ok. It's ok to allow yourself to fully feel those emotions and let them pass. Know that you are not alone. There are so many other amazing single moms, working toward their goals, just like you. 

How many times per day do you have the thought there isn't enough? As a solo mom, this can be all too familiar. In a world that has limitless options and resources, it's tempting to get caught up in a cycle of never-enougness. Further, we spend so much time peeking into the lives of other people via social media, we compare ourselves to the highlight reel of others. On today's episode, I'm sharing insight around scarcity vs abundance mindset with you. This is some of the most life changing work that a single mom can learn. Let's face it, as single moms, we are often faced with greater barriers and limitations than others. We often do have to make more work with less, at least in the beginning. Learning how to master your mindset and your thoughts will bring you peace, increased energy, more patience with your child(ren), a greater sense of presence, less stress and will take so much further than you could have ever imagined. First, let's examine what the differences are in a scarcity mindset and an abundance mindset and how these differ as a single mom. It's important to note that your mindset is based around the thoughts that you're thinking. Did you know that on average, we humans think roughly 60,000 thoughts per day?Do you have an awareness of the thoughts you're thinking? Many people are living their lives on autopilot without any true awareness. It's important to remember that the thoughts we think are a choice. It's also important to remember that many of the thoughts that are running on autopilot within your mind weren't even created by you in the first place. Many of these thoughts were adopted and recycled from your family environment as a very young child. Oftentimes, if we haven't done this inner work, we are carrying around the thoughts and beliefs of our parents or other relatives, and we don't even realize it. Scarcity MindsetA scarcity mindset is one that is based in lack, or, not enough. When in a scarcity based mindset, resources are limited. You are competing for resources with other people, yourself, or forces that are seemingly beyond your control (such as time and energy). When you are thinking in a scarcity based mindset, it doesn't feel good. You feel anxious, stressed, worried, exhausted and hopeless. When you're thinking in a scarcity based mindset, it doesn't matter how much sleep you got the night before, how authentically you connected with your child(ren) or how much money you're making. It will never be enough. Your brain will be scanning for the next thing on the horizon that indicates another void. Abundance MindsetAn abundance mindset is the opposite of a scarcity mindset. When your mindset and thoughts are based in abundance, you trust that there always has been and always will be enough. You trust that you don't need to compete with others because there is enough for everyone. You trust that everything you have right now is enough. You trust that there is always more on the way. For example, if you feel like you don't have enough, or your ideal amount of money right now, you trust that you have enough for today. You have enough to meet all of your needs and the needs of your children. You also trust that there is a limitless supply of money for you to access. Another example is with time. Many solo moms feel like there isn't enough time in the day to do all of the things they need and want to do. This is super understandable right? Well, when your mindset is based in abundance, you approach time differently. You understand that you have the exact same amount of time in the day as everyone else in the world. You know that you have enough time for everything you want to do. You might need to be a little more strategic about it, but there is enough.Thinking in an abundance mindset feels amazing. Did you notice that I used the word, “trust”, numerous times when describing an abundance mindset? This is because when you're in this state, you learn to trust whatever you believe in. Whether it's religious, spiritual, or downright practical you trust that the perfect amount of resources are available to you at all times. You learn to surrender. You let go of the stress, worry and overwhelm.When you learn to trust and surrender and let go of the stress, worry and overwhelm, you create space for abundance. Abundance always feels good. It's energetic, it's bright and clean, and it's full of hope and optimism. Think about the energy difference behind what I described in scarcity thinking versus mindset. Do you feel that shift?One of the key things to note here is that your external circumstances don't need change to completely take on this new perspective. You can shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset in a matter of seconds or minutes.Now that you have an understanding of the difference between a scarcity and abundance mindset, think about the environment you grew up in? Did you grow up in a household where a scarcity mindset was prevalent or an abundance mindset? If you haven't done inner work to intentionally create your mindset, you're likely still carrying around those same beliefs and thoughts that were ingrained within you as a young child.Tips for Shifting from a Scarcity Mindset to an Abundance MindsetOk, so let's talk about what you can do to shift from being in a scarcity based mindset to an abundance based mindset. 1. The first step with any mindset related work is to first take stock of where you are today. It's time to get introspective. I encourage you to spend some time journaling or riffing on a voice memo within the next two days. Write down or talk about your thoughts as they relate to the following areas:MoneyTimeEnergyRelationshipsResourcesParenting capabilities Be natural and speak from the heart as you are today. After you're done, review what you've written or recorded. Identify whether your thoughts and beliefs are based in scarcity or abundance. They might be different for different areas of your life. It should be easy to determine whether you're in a scarcity versus abundance mindset based on the way you feel. A scarcity mindset feels like resistance and an abundance mindset feels like a flow state. 2. Next, choose one area that you would like to actively create an abundance mindset around. Let's say that it's money. I choose money because it's a common one that people feel scarce around, especially as a single mom. Once you have chosen your topic, I want you to create 3 new intentional thoughts to practice. Here are three examples:-I take comfort in knowing that I have enough money for everything I need today. -I have enough money, and I allow what I already have enough of to flow to me. (DWD)-Money is a renewable resource that is available to everyone. My children and I always have had and always will have enough. Once you choose your 3 new abundance based beliefs, write them down and read them every day. Incorporate them into your daily routine so that they become fully ingrained. When you feel scarcity based thoughts coming back up, pause and close your eyes. Remember your new abundance based thoughts. Don't just think your new thoughts, but allow yourself to truly feel them. Allow yourself the space throughout the day to truly embody these new thoughts. Don't just go through the motions and think them with a sarcastic undertone. These thoughts are going to become your new beliefs and you must approach this with true authenticity. 3. Incorporate meditation (or intentional silence) into your daily routine. I've said this before, I'll say it again and I'll definitely say it in the future. Meditation is one of the most beneficial things you can do to improve your life and the lives of your children. Since the best way to determine whether you're in a scarcity of abundance based mindset is to notice what you're thinking and how you feel, meditation is the perfect accompaniment to practice on this journey. When you meditate, your world of never ending to-do lists slows down. The stress, worry and overwhelm comes to a halt. You become aligned with the present moment and this is where the magic happens. You truly begin to become attuned to how you are feeling and what you're thinking.Use this as an opportunity to feel the abundance around you. Even if you cannot see it in your life yet, allow yourself to acknowledge, feel and appreciate all of the abundance in your life now. Appreciate the endless things you do have and notice that abundance is already all around you.This is transformational work that can be done in a matter of minutes. When you open your eyes, you'll feel more connected to your child(ren) and the stress, worry, anxiety and overwhelm will have subsided - even if it's just for a moment!It's important to note that meditation is a practice. It's like working out for your mind. It needs to be continuously done and some days will be better than others. Be patient and consistent with yourself. 4. When you observe a thought or belief that is based in scarcity coming up, stop and write it down. Examine it. Where did it come from? Why do you believe this? Is this thought or belief serving you?Chances are, this thought or belief is not serving you and it's time to transform it into its abundance based counterpart. Re-write the thought or belief with an abundance based energy behind it. Practice intentionally thinking this new thought or belief. 5. Practice gratitude. The concept of practicing gratitude has been thrown around in personal development and spirituality communities for a long time. It may be tempting to brush this off but please don't. When you're in a low energy state of scarcity and you're feeling stressed and overwhelmed, take a few minutes to express gratitude for three things. This can be any three things, it doesn't matter what. When you're expressing gratitude, make sure that you are truly feeling it in your body. Allow it to consume you. It's impossible to feel like you're in scarcity when your entire body is immersed in a feeling of gratitude.Also, remember that like attracts like. You don't get what you want, you get what you are. That is one of my favorite quotes by Dr. Wayne Dyer. Your energy, whether it's based in scarcity or abundance, is going to attract more of the same. This is why practicing gratitude is so powerful. Another way you can shift your energy quickly is when you're feeling the low energy of a scarcity mindset, stop and acknowledge what you're feeling. Notice that you are thinking thoughts that are based on lack. Now, think of 3 things that are based in gratitude or abundance on that topic. For example, if you are feeling frustrated with your partner based on things they are not doing, stop to acknowledge and appreciate 3 things they are doing. You will be amazed at how quickly your energy elevates to abundance. Honestly, I wonder what my life would have been like if I would have learned about scarcity and abundance mindsets ten or fifteen years ago. My son is almost 16. I didn't learn about this and begin applying it to my own life until 3 years ago. If I would have learned about it 16 years ago, the experience of being a solo mom would have been radically different. However, I don't like to dwell on what could have been. The fact of the matter is that that was not my reality or my experience. I am grateful that I have since learned this transformational mindset work and can share it with you. Before I learned how to shift my mindset from being based in scarcity to being based in abundance, I would go down rabbit holes of stress, worry, anxiety and overwhelm. Honestly, I probably worried myself sick at points.There was often a disconnect between my son and I. My energy was often feeling low. I felt like a failure because I felt like there wasn't enough.Once I began to practice the 5 tips I shared with you today, things improved so much. My son and I share a much deeper and aligned connection. I'm more patient with him. I trust that as a solo mom, I am enough. I trust that things happened this way because they were meant to. I trust that this is our story and it's unfolding perfectly. When feelings of money scarcity come up, and they still do, I practice the steps I shared with you today. I have the self-awareness to recognize it's happening. Instead of spiraling out into worry, stress and anxiety, I flip the script. I create a new empowering thought or belief. I surrender. I trust. I practice gratitude for all of the abundance in my life today. I shift my energy because I remember that like attracts like. When feelings of time scarcity, money scarcity or any other types of scarcity come up, I do the same. I can tell you, it's made my life experience a hell of a lot better. As solo moms, we often feel like our resources are finite. We often feel like the cards are stacked against us. This is not true. Although we may have a few more things to strategically manage, all of the abundance is available to us at all times. Remember, that at any given moment, you can choose a new thought or new belief. You can choose empowerment. You can choose alignment. You can choose happiness and peace. Empowerment and abundance is always just one thought away. 

Justine Moore Sloan is a Transformational Coach, author, and the Co-Founder of Boss Ladies MKE.After healing from disordered eating, crippling anxiety, and low self-worth, Justine is on a mission to help others heal and thrive as well. Through her journey and her work with hundreds of clients, she developed the Empowered Eating Method, a unique approach that helps women break free from food guilt and dieting, so they can fully love and trust their bodies.Justine is a personal growth junkie, and is obsessed with books. Her first book, “Someone I Love Lives Here,” comes out this October!Justine loves to travel, but her home base is Milwaukee, where she lives with her husband and soulmate, Scott.Connect with Justine:Website: Justinesloan.comOn her website, you will find links to her blog, YouTube channel, Facebook and Twitter.Instagram: @thejustinesloanFacebook Group: Self Love ClubBooks Mentioned in Today's Episode:In The Flo by Alissa VittiThe War of Art by Steven Pressfield 

Have you ever looked back on the past year and thought, “Wow. I had such big elaborate goals. Where has the time gone? I thought that I'd be in a different place by now.” If so, you're not alone. This happens to so many of us. More so if you're a solo mom. I mean, it's not like you don't have a lot going on.It's not like you aren't putting in all of the work daily. Let's be honest, you're crushing it. Yet, when you look around, it's not exactly what you planned for this year. The time seems to pass so fast. Today, I want to share with you the one thing that moved from a dabbler to a consistent action taker. It's not time management, it's not planning and it's not some type of goal setting strategy.What changed everything for me in 2020 and beyond is what I am referring to as goal integrity.What is the definition of integrity? You probably know, I mean you learned this growing up right?Well, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, there are two meanings that are relatable here:1.The quality of being honest and fair2.The state of being complete or wholeWhen you set a vision, intentions or goals for your life, it's up to you to see them through. No one else is responsible for your success. Therefore, you need to be honest and fair with yourself. If your goals are tied to what you truly desire from a deep soul level, then you must honor yourself enough to make those goals a reality. That is what contributes to your state of being complete or whole.Taking these definitions of integrity and applying them to your goals means that you must be honest and fair with yourself in your approach. You must honor your desires to align with your complete or whole self.This is what I have come to call goal integrity. To have goal integrity is to stay true to your commitments to yourself when no one is watching. This means that when you could curl up in a blanket, drink wine and watch Netflix, or work on your goal, you choose your goal (if that is what you originally planned during that time slot). If you promised yourself you'd wake up extra early to put in work on your goal, you follow through on that. You don't continuously hit the snooze button and ignore your goal. The concept of goal integrity is truly one of a relationship with self. When you set goals for your life, it is your job and your job only, to follow through on them. So often, this does not happen. At the end of the day, this is due to a disconnect in the relationship you have with yourself. You must respect yourself enough to follow through on your commitments to yourself. Would you break a promise that you made to your partner? What about your child? How about your best friend?Chances are, you would not. So, why is it that we break these promises to ourselves so often?You can set all the goals in the world but if you don't have goal integrity, you likely won't make much progress.Now, don't beat yourself up over not having goal integrity. Don't shame yourself. How would you know this information if it was never taught to you?Unfortunately, these things aren't taught to us and we must either seek this information out from other people through personal development, or learn it on our own.It's so much quicker to learn from someone else than to wait for your own life experience to be the teacher, by the way. You want to learn as much as you can from the experience of others because it will take you where you want to go much faster and with less effort. Another reason why you shouldn't shame yourself for not following through on your commitments to yourself is because you've been so busy following through on your commitments to other people.You know, that little person who calls you, “mom”? You know, that role of “mom” that is the most selfless, giving and challenging mom in the world?It's always important to remember that you are one hundred percent worthy now - whether you're actively making progress on your goals or intentions. However, I know you want to reach that next level of your life. Maybe you want to buy that house for your family, pay off that debt, take your child(ren) on that vacation, quit that soul sucking job and start your own business or finally drop that baby weight and get fit and healthy. Maybe you simply want to be more present with your child(ren). That is an amazing goal by the way. I know first hand how hyper-focused you can become on managing the day to day life as a single mom that you overlook being present and connecting. You've got your goal and now it's time to operate from a place of goal integrity. Ok, so you understand what goal integrity is and how it provides you with the foundation of intentionally creating your future. Now, let's talk about the steps you can take to nurture your relationship with self enough to create goal integrity. 1.Identify your why. You “why” is one of the most impactful things that will motivate you to take action day in and day out, even when it gets tough. In fact, you may have more than one “why”. It's really important to connect emotionally to your “why”. Human beings are driven by emotion and when we can tie deep emotions to our “why”, it will drive you so much more.2. Write out what you have to lose by not following through on your goalNext, spend some time writing out what you have to lose if you don't make this goal a reality. What will your life look like? How will this impact your child(ren)? How will this impact your legacy (if that is important to you)? Where will you be in five years? How about ten years? How will your life veer if this doesn't happen?Write these out in a journal and continuously explore this. This is going to light a fire under you when you just don't feel like doing the thing that will move the needle on your goal. 3.Next, write out what you have to gain by following through on your goal. So, now that you know what you have to lose, it's time to identify what you have to gain. If (when) you make this goal a reality, how will your life change? How will things improve? What will that set in motion so that you can continue to build on that?Will your child(ren) be proud? Will you elevate them and their own future as a result? Will you be happier, more fulfilled and proud? Will you leave a legacy? Will this set in motion an amazing example for your child(ren) to learn from? Setting an example of being a goal crusher is honestly one of the best gifts you can give your child(ren), in my opinion. Just as you want to become very familiar with what you stand to lose, you also want to know the ins and outs of what you stand to gain. This is so important. 4. Don't tell anyone what your goal is. Make this a true pact with yourself and yourself only. As I mentioned earlier, goal integrity is all about your relationship with self. It honestly has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else. Other people's opinions don't matter. In fact, other people's opinions will only begin to cloud your judgement. You will begin to focus on what others think about your vision, your progress and your results (or lack thereof). This will be a massive distraction and energy suck. Now, if you are a part of an uplifting community that supports one another in big goals, then that is a different story. Tell them. But, for the most part, keep it to yourself. Focus on nourishing your relationship with self. 5. Celebrate the little wins along the way.When you have big goals and ambitions, it can be easy to get caught in a pattern of never thinking you're as far along as you “should” be. You are exactly where you are supposed to be - remember that. Make sure you're acknowledging the progress you're making along the way. Each little step that the needle moves, no matter how far, is a small victory. Acknowledge it. Allow yourself to feel good and proud. This will continuously nourish that relationship with self. As a bonus, it will also increase your confidence which in turn, will cause you to continue to take more action. This is what Tony Robbins calls the, “Revisit your why, your wins and your losses often. Keep them front and center. Journal and meditate on them. Get to know them inside and out so that they are so deeply ingrained within your mind. OK, so I want you to know that these are minor shifts but they are massively impactful. Before I developed goal integrity, I procrastinated. Tomorrow turned to next week, which turned to next month, which turned to next year and so on. That procrastination is a vicious cycle. Are you a fellow recovering procrastinator like me? Procrastination is a dream killer. People will procrastinate their whole life away, which is really sad. But not me, and not you either. Now, I sit down and do the work even in the face of fear and resistance. I do the work because I value the importance of following through on my commitments to myself. I honor myself and my dreams. I remember my why. I know what I stand to lose and what I stand to gain. That drives me. If you put these steps into practice, it will drive you too.Connect with MeInstagram: @heronethingWebsite: https://www.itsthatonething.comEmail: Kristin@isthatonething

By now, you've gotten the role of day to day operator of your life as a career woman & solo mom down pat. But do you ever feel like you're running on a hamster wheel? Do you have this inner nudge telling you that there's more? I mean, you're doing all the “right” things. You're taking care of your child(ren), you're crushing it at work or school & you're managing the household - for the most part. I mean we are all human so don't even feel bad for leaving those dirty dishes in the sink tonight. Seriously. You know you're running things and you're doing a damn good job. Things are not perfect, and truth be told, you feel a level of exhaustion more than you'd like to admit, but you're handling it. Ask yourself this: If you continue to do things exactly as you are currently, where will you be in five years? Where will your finances be? Where will your relationships be? Where will your health be? Where will your energy and vitality be? Where will your fulfillment be? Where will your career/business be? Will you be happy?You see, what I'm getting at here is that it's easy to get stuck in the role of the day to day operator of your life. It's not a bad place to be. Things are functional. The child(ren) are taken care of. You're doing well. Yet, you're not really moving the needle on those big strategic goals. There's a big difference between being the day to day operator and the strategic executive. I'm not talking about business. I'm talking about your life. Your role within your own life. You are calling the shots for yourself and your child(ren). In 2015, I got my business degree and went out into the corporate world. I was really proud of this! I mean, this is something that I'd worked so hard for. Going to school and getting your degree is not an easy task as a single mom. However, I worked so hard and the day came where I graduated and went out into the working world. Before i went back to school, I was in my early 20s. I was barely getting by running things day to day as I did not have a career path and was not bringing in much money. However, I had it down. Things were ok. I was going to work, taking my son to daycare, coming home and taking care of him. Wash rinse and repeat. I was doing a good job as a day to day operator right?Yet, I knew this was not a long term viable solution. I knew I had to step up and create a strategic plan to move the needle to uplevel. I chose college and a lot of personal development. When all was said and done, it was a major uplevel. So back to 2015, I'm in my brand spankin' new shiny corporate job, right? Healthcare business analytics. I went to work, sometimes I went to happy hour, I came home and cooked dinner and spent time with my son and did the mom duties, and I was still waitressing one day per week.I'm telling you, it took maybe...9 months before I got really bored. Not just with the job, but with the way of life. I mean, I was rocking the hell out of the day to day operator role. Yet, there was no long-term strategy to take me to the next level.And then I was OK. It's time to reassess. What do I want? What do I want to do with my life? How am I going to create the next level future? It was time to put my strategy cap on.Alas, this is what brought me to developing the Her One Thing brand, coming to the realization that my mission is to empower women (especially solo moms) and to do something extraordinary. The thing is, being the day to day manager or operator of your life is not traditionally looked at as a bad thing. It's really doing those cookie cutter things that you're supposed to do.Yet, when you start to see things through the lens of the strategic executor of your life, everything changes. Priorities shift. You choose things that move the needle over those dirty dishes in the sink. So what are the key differences between the day to day manager and the strategic executive?Day to Day ManagerFocuses on putting out “fires”Reactive to things that come upGoing through the day to day motions - cooking, cleaning, paying bills, working a normal jobMakes sure the appointments are remembered and that the lunches are madePuts the needs of everyone else before her ownStrategic ExecutiveSets goals and implements strategic timelineIdentifies needle movers and prioritizes those tasks over mundane less important tasksTakes a proactive approach to thingsPrioritizes personal development and self-careTakes risks and embraces failureCreates a 3-5 year plan, and acts and adjusts accordinglyUnderstands that by creating her future strategically, she is modeling a priceless example to her child(ren) of what is possible - the most rewarding thing of allInvests in outsourcing the mundane day to day tasks (if possible), OR implements time saving techniques so she can focus on the needle moversThink about these roles as roles in a company. You are the executor of your own life, yet so many times we don't act that way. People get caught up in the day to day. They become distracted. They don't learn how to properly set goals and develop the strategies and mindset to make them a reality. And guess what? Society will support you in that. So many people just live day to day, week by week without any real direction. Now, as a solo mom, you're busy. You have a million things going on.You also have a more compelling "why" to become the strategic executive of your life than anyone else. You are modeling what is possible for your children. You are shaping their mindsets (no pressure).I challenge you to stop putting so much stock in the day to day, and start becoming aligned with a future where anything is possible. So, how do you do this? 1. First, you've gotta get still and really do some soul searching. It's time to dig deep. It's time to decide what you truly want. What is your ideal future? Maybe you know and maybe you don't. You don't need to decide on something massive right now, that's not the point. Think about the major life categories: career and business; finances and wealth; friends and family; fun, recreation and entertainment; health and fitness; love life; personal & spiritual development; and physical environment. Start by choosing one of these, and then identify how you can strategically move the needle.2. Make a list of the day to day things you do. Now, decide what are absolutely musts and what are optional. Example, making dinner for the child(ren) is a must. Vacuuming is optional. OK, I am not saying you should live in filth. I am saying that you can get really caught up in some of these day to day mundane tasks and that is what will keep you from moving the needle in the long run. Side note, when I was a full-time student, waitressing and raising my son, I had to let go of housework sometimes because I also had so much homework to do! Obviously I always cooked the meals for my son but often times, the dishes had to wait. This is just for a season of life sometimes, too. Maybe in the future, you have a cleaner that can help you. Or if your kid is old enough, put them to work to help.3.Prioritize the needle movers.4. Daily personal development. This is really important. Sometimes I just assume everybody does this but they don't! Audiobooks are like a godsend for solo moms because you can listen to them while you're doing those mundane tasks. It's really a great way to be a strategic executive and day to day operator at the same time. You're handling those tasks and upleveling your mindset.5. Get comfortable saying “no”. This is one of the hardest things but it's so important. You have to learn how to say “no” strategically to things that will steal your focus, time and attention. Say “no” to those unnecessary things. You don't have to be rude about it but you do need to be strategic. There are a million things fighting for your time daily. This can be family, friends, bosses, social media, tv, happy hour, or whatever. The only thing you should try not to say no to is your kids spending time with you. Be there for them for sure! That is definitely a strategic move. :)Before I learned how to identify my ideal future, set short-term and long-term goals, focus on needle movers, upgrade my mindset DAILY and say no to distractions, I was running on that hamster wheel. I was just living for the next day. 'm not gonna lie, sometimes it's easier because you're staying in your comfort zone. Comfortable is easy.But what's not easy? I always say this. Looking back on your life when you're 75 or older and saying, “I wish I would have…” I believe that would just be the most tragic thing in this life. Don't let society tell you that “normal” day to day living is the only way to be. If that's what you want, fine. You do you. But if you're here, that's not what you want.You want more. You want to raise those humans to be the best they can possibly be, AND crush your goals AND live out your dreams. Let me tell you, I am the day to day operator right now. I always will be. However, more than that, I am the strategic executor. When I just want to zone out and watch Netflix, the majority of the time, I choose the needle movers instead. What will you choose? Will you be happy 5 years from now if your life looks like it does today?

Picture this: You've recently become energized, excited, and inspired by a new dream or goal. You're enthralled with it. OBSESSED. The energy is buzzing around in your head and so many ideas are coming to you that you can hardly keep up.Then, it happens. It hits you like a ton of bricks. You start to wonder what your family will think. You wonder what your current co-workers and bosses will think. You may wonder what your significant other and friends may think.Suddenly, you start to shrink. You get a pit in your stomach. Self-doubt creeps in and you wonder, “who am I to do this thing, anyway? What will people think?”How many times have you backed down on an endeavor or dream because of what people might think?How many times have you played small because of what other people might think?Guess what? Other people's opinions do not pay your bills. Other people's opinions do not fulfill your soul and your dreams. And as the great Dr. Wayne Dyer always said, “Other people's opinions are none of my business”. Your mom's opinion of your soul's path does not matter. Your boss' opinion doesn't matter. Neither does your friend, your neighbor's or your aunt's. This is all you, sister. This is yours to claim. So, how do you overcome this urge to shrink to make other people feel more comfortable? There are a couple of things at play here:1.Self-confidence Confidence is a huge factor. You have to be the biggest supporter of your goals and dreams. Trust me, if you aren't, no one is going to do this for you. Did you know that the most important factor in achieving your goal is the belief that it's possible? Think about that. If you don't even have belief that you can achieve something, then you won't do it. Period! 2.Trust in yourself & your intuition At some point, the inner knowing to follow your heart will become so strong that you will have no choice but to take action. Trust that everything is working out in your favor.3.How are you spending your time and who are you spending it with? We all know that we become most like the people we spend our time with. Being aware and strategic about how much time and energy we invest into people will massively impact your own energy levels. This is one of the most important things. We can't always control this (like my office-mate example) but to the level that we allow other people's energy to influence our own IS a choice. It's important to be very aware of this. 4 Steps You Can Stop Internalizing Other People's Opinions1. First of all, embody this idea that other people's opinions do not pave the way to your dreams. Write it down. Remember this thought and use it when you are feeling fearful to show up in your life in the most authentic and aligned way. 2. Build your confidence by focusing on just ONE goal. Just pick one. Go back and listen to episode 1 of this podcast because I talk about this strategy in depth. The idea is to build your goal setting & management confidence by choosing one goal, going all in on that one goal, and taking steps day by day, little by little, and gradually building your confidence. Trust me. This works. While we are at it, don't tell anyone about this goal. Nothing kills your goal confidence like telling someone about it and then worrying about what they think. This is natural to do but don't do it. Don't tell people your plans, show them your results. This is really important and effective. 3. Trust yourself. I always talk about the importance of mindfulness and some type of daily activity to become aligned and develop your relationship with self and that inner knowing. Book Recommendation - "The Knowing" by Serena and Saje Dyer4. Audit who you spend your time with and how much time you're spending with them. How are these people impacting your energy, your confidence and your self-belief? Look, at the end of the day, you choose how you will let other people influence you. However, if someone is not matching your energetic vibration, yes, vibration, seriously limit your time with them. You're serious about your one thing or your goal right? Then, don't allow negative energy that doesn't match yours to take up too much space in your life. Grab your free e-book: 18 Empowering Journal Prompts for Solo Moms Free E-bookConnect on Instagram: @heronething

After washing the dinner dishes one night, I laid on the couch for a rest and started to scroll on my phone. You know, how most people do. However, on this night, restlessness was creeping up hard and the inner voice inside of me became so loud and impossible to ignore. It was telling her that despite having just cooked dinner for my son and I, cleaning up, and after working all day at my 9 to 5, despite all of that, it was TIME to get to work on my dreams and goals. That inner voice used to be a whisper. It was easy to push down, to ignore. I could pour a glass of wine, watch Netflix, and even do productive night time things. As time passed though, that inner voice became louder and louder. Then, one day this thought popped in my head: “I don't want to be the woman that quits.”"I don't want to be that woman who quits." That resonated within my mind. Not only do I not want to be that woman who quits, but I don't want to be the one who quits for… a nap? A glass of wine? A tv show? When I'm 70, I will not look back and think, "well, I could have lived that life of my dreams, but I was tired. I really wanted a glass of wine and to watch Netflix. So, I quit."OMFG. HELLLLL NO. So, I rolled up my sleeves, sat down and I faced my work. Not the laundry, or the 9-5. No, I sat down and got to work on my passion. My dreams. My big goals. I took the next step. I continue to do this week after week. You have a dream. We all do. Whether you are ready to admit or not, you have one. How many times have you taken a step or two, stopped and quit? How frustrating is this? Ever person has faced this. This is a universal experience. You can relax and give yourself grace. Let go of the guilt for quitting in the past. You quit because of fear and resistance.How can you persevere, and make progress on your goals and dreams, and create that intentional life in the face of resistance?At the end of the day, what you need to do is to be very strategic about the input you allow into your mind. What books are you listening to? What are you reading? What media are you consuming? Who are you interacting with? How are you evolving?When I first noticed that inner voice inside nudging me to go after something bigger, it was a whisper. It was easy to silence through the endless distractions of every day life. However, I knew I yearned for something more. So, I thought, "how can I train my mind to stay focused?" I began to take walks and listen to audiobooks. Daily. I also read books after work or on breaks throughout the day. I was spending tons of time reading and listening, maybe 1-2 hours per day. This made a massive difference because I became so self-aware of my own thoughts, mindset and development. I truly began to become the observer of my own thoughts. 4 Steps to Take to Move Past Fear & Resistance and Take Consistent Action1. Immediately unfollow all accounts on social media that do not spark joy. These can be people, businesses, brands, news sites, etc. Unfollow them all. 2. Start listening to audiobooks if you don't already. Listen to them while you do other things, such as driving, cooking, cleaning, walking etc. 3. Read The War of Art by Steven Pressfield4. Incorporate a daily mindset practice such as journaling or meditation to become more aware of your thoughts. Bonus if you do both. Truly understand that all of the temptations and distractions that you have to do something other than what your heart TRULY years and desires, to create your dream life, are all forms of resistance and fear. It is your job to understand this, recognize this when it's happening, and move through it. Do your work anyway.You have to! What is the alternative? Netflix and wine and a needle that hasn't moved in 30 years?Download the free e-book: 18 Empowering Journal Prompts for Solo MomsFollow Her One Thing on Instagram

Have you ever been in a situation where you knew you needed to move on and walk away yet you felt conflicted and confused about the best course of action?This could have been a job, a relationship, a sport or hobby, a habit or a lifestyle. Do you remember how that felt? On one hand, it's comfortable to stay with what is familiar. Yet, you know you need to make a change when that subtle voice inside is nudging you day after day. What did you do? How did you handle it?In episode 20 of the Her One Thing podcast, host Kristin Zeier dives into the topic of knowing when to walk away. She shares a recent experience she had with this with a job change she had in spring of 2021. She also shares that this is not a unique dilemma for her. So many women struggle with knowing when to walk away.This quote by Andrew Tew sums it up perfectly, "Respect yourself enough to walk away anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy."When you are faced with something that you aren't sure whether to walk away from, consider these 5 questions:1.Does it serve me?2.Does it help me grow?3.Does it make me happy?4.Does it align with my vision for the future?5.What is my intuition or inner knowing telling me?Kristin goes on to share that through intentional silence or meditation, the answer will come to you if you are patient and consistent. You deserve to live the life of your dreams. Even if you're not grappling with walking away from an external circumstance currently (such as a job or relationship), there is likely a thought pattern or habit that is no longer serving you, growing you or making you happy.The best way to live out your aligned purpose and dream life  is to continuously improve, evolve and grow. Kristin encourages you to identify one thing that you can walk away from that will bring you one step closer to that life you dream of creating. Connect on Instagram: @heronethingWebsite: https://www.itsthatonething.com

In episode 19, host Kristin Zeier shares that she has made the decision to exclusively serve single moms with the Her One Thing brand. The focus of the podcast is now to empower solo moms to crush goals without overwhelm through mindset mastery. It will still be all things goal setting, goal management, mindset, energy and creating your dream life. Kristin has been a solo mom for 15 years and she wants to harness the experiences, growth and insights she has to help other single moms live their best lives. In this episode, she dives into the topic of finding love. Many solo moms desire to find love again and wonder if it will ever happen. Kristin shares her experience of love and relationships throughout her own journey.She goes on to share her best relationship advice: focus on committing to self-love, growth, building your dream life and raising kind humans. With that type of elevated energy and drive, you will inevitably attract someone who matches your caliber. On the contrary, think of someone who wallows in self-pity, binges on Netflix every night, complains to their friends about how single they are, and goes out trying desperately to meet someone. That kind of energy will likely repel people away. Worse yet, it might attract someone who is also operating on a very low energetic frequency. Kristin reminds listeners that the energy you put out into the world will be reflected back to you.Key Takeaway: Write this affirmation down and place it somewhere you will see it often:I am committed to self-love, growth, building my dream life & raising kind humans. Practice developing yourself in each of these categories. Become so focused on this that you're beaming with contagiously abundant energy. 

As we head into the middle of summer in 2021, the pandemic seems to be winding down & companies are bringing employees back into the office at full force. However, it's becoming abundantly clear that the philosophy around how, when and where we work is shifting.There are different schools of thought on this. Not everyone wants to "return to normal". People are seeking new opportunities  that compliment the lifestyle of their choice. More and more people are are resigning from their jobs which is leaving employers scrambling to fill the roles - often to no avail.Host Kristin Zeier speaks on her experience with this topic in her 9-5 job in the employee benefits broker space. She works with clients across all sectors and they are all experiencing a massive shortage of talent. Some are calling the post-pandemic mass exodus, "The Great Resignation". While this is going on, there is another fascinating thing occurring: opportunities for online business are booming. People are trading their traditional jobs in the pursuit of online business, in particular, the self-education industry.  By 2025, Forbes projects that the self-education industry will be a $1Billion dollar per day industry.This is incredibly attractive as online businesses allow people to create the income they want, the freedom they want and the fulfillment they want. People can truly live a life by design. We have more opportunities for how we work, when we work, where we work and how much money we make, more than ever before.Kristin predicts that we are at the tip of the iceberg. She does not think things will ever return to pre-pandemic "normalcy". While there are incredible opportunities for many, this will prove to be extremely challenging for businesses who do not adapt to the changing needs of their employees. If you're feeling unfulfilled with your current job or career, Kristin encourages you to consider all of the options available today. Especially as women, we have more options for living life on our own terms than we ever have before in history. If you're seeking purpose, fulfillment, creativity and abundance, research all of your options - especially online business. The days of the degree to office job track being the only viable option are over. You have options. You have so much opportunity. It's time to claim it and create your life by design. Connect with KristinInstagram: @heronethingEmail: Kristin@itsthatonething.com

In episode 17 of the Her One Thing podcast, host Kristin Zeier first reviews her new approach to goal setting. The point of this is to demonstrate that goal setting, goal management and goal mastery is an art. There isn't a one size fits all approach. It's a good idea to continuously tweak your goal setting and management process. Despite what experts say is the best approach, you have to find what works best for your personality, your energy, your life and your time. What's important is that you find a method that you can stick to, that you find joy in, is effective and that moves the needle on what you are set out to accomplish. Next, Kristin moves into providing a dose of inspiration to remind you that you already have what it takes inside of you to create your dream life. So often, we tell ourselves BS stories and excuses of why we can't do it.This isn't true. These are old limiting beliefs that are replaying throughout your mind. The truth is, you do have what it takes inside of you already. Not only do you have what it takes, but you have an abundance of resources at your fingertips to find the answers to things you do not know. There is free information everywhere. Or, as Kristin recommends, you can invest in yourself by purchasing books, courses, coaching or programs to further deepen your knowledge and skillset. We live in a time where the opportunities are more expansive than any other time in history. We truly have the ability to design our own lives on our own terms. This is incredible. You have what it takes - you know you do.The question is, are you going to answer that calling of your soul?Book Recommendation:-Everything is Figureoutable by Marie ForleoConnect with Kristin:-Instagram: @heronething-Email: Kristin@itsthatonething.com

Tony Robbins is a world renowned business & life strategist and coach. In this episode, host Kristin Zeier focuses on two of her current favorite Tony Robbins lessons she has learned. Tony Robbins Lesson #1:The first Tony Robbins lesson is that life is happening for us and not to us. Kristin provides her interpretation of what this means and shares insight into how this has helped her shift her mindset around some of the biggest obstacles she has ever experienced.By learning how to shift your perspective around events & circumstances in your past & present, you can quickly shift the direction and growth of your life. Instead of thinking that circumstances are happening to you and holding you back, you can flip the narrative & view these things as experiences that are serving you. For example, Kristin provides an example of being rear-ended by someone else who is at fault. If you are thinking of this in terms of something that is happening to you, you may become upset, frustrated, stressed out and angry. You allow it to throw off your entire day. It becomes a pain point in your life. On the flip side, if you are rear ended and someone else is at fault, you can choose to use this opportunity to express compassion towards the other person. Maybe you use this opportunity to become more patient. Or, to learn how to let go of the control of all outcomes and learn to accept things as they come & roll with it. This is the same circumstance but two very different perspectives around it. Lesson #1 Exercise:In the next 2 days, take 20 minutes and identify an experience from your past that you perceive to be something that happened to you (versus for you). Write the story of what happened as it currently stands in your mind.Next, brainstorm a list of ways this experience helped to shape you into who you are today. How did you grow from it? What did you gain and experience? How did that experience perfectly serve & prepare you for where you are today?Tony Robbins Lesson #2:The second Tony Robbins lesson that Kristin shares in this episode is that most people underestimate what they can do in a decade and overestimate what they can do in a year. Instead of thinking of your future in terms of one year goals, Tony says that we should be thinking of our life in terms of the theme for decades at a time. While we can set goals within the decade timeframe, the idea is not to have a ten year detailed plan. Instead, when you have a theme or a destination in mind, you allow things to unfold and evolve around you. Although you keep your focus on the theme or destination, you are open to new opportunities, new paths and new insights. You course correct when needed but allow things to unfold organically along the way. This is a much more enjoyable way to live out your life and enjoy the journey while also reaching your destination. Lesson #2 Exercise:Decide what the theme is going to be for the next 10 years of your life. Don't worry about the details or how you will make it happen. Simply identify the theme and set one goal you can accomplish this year that will align you with that theme. ConclusionTony Robbins is a wonderfully insightful and amazing man that brings so much value to thousands of people all over the world. You can find his teachings on a variety of platforms such as YouTube, podcasts and his website. Connect with the host, Kristin Zeier:Instagram: @heronethingEmail: Kristin@itsthatonething.com  

According to the popular meditation platform's website, Headspace, flow state can be described as, "That sense of fluidity between your body and mind, where you are totally absorbed by and deeply focused on something, beyond the point of distraction. Time feels like it has slowed down. Your senses are heightened. You are at one with the task at hand, as action and awareness sync to create an effortless momentum. Some people describe this feeling as being “in the zone.” This is the flow state and it's accessible to everyone, whether you're engaged in a physical activity, a creative pursuit, or even a simple day-to-day task."Kristin discusses the concept of carrying out your goals & vision for the future from a flow state. While it's true that to create the life of your dreams, you must take massive action, this doesn't mean it needs to be a miserable journey.So many people fail at their goals because they are approaching the tasks from a state of chaotic energy. This makes the experience stressful and overwhelming. People then give up.On the flip side, when the tasks within a goal are approached from a flow state, it's enjoyable. The creative juices are flowing. There is an immersion into the task at hand and you are full of clarity, bliss and focus. Since this flow state is so enjoyable, it allows for longevity in your vision or goal. That is how you make lasting progress and carry it through to the end (or the next step in your journey).In this episode, Kristin also shares the benefits of flow state. This includes increased focus and concentration, a sense of clarity, reduced mental chatter & feelings of bliss.She also shares the best tips for how to achieve flow state. These tips include creating a ritual to do before the task or project, understanding the times of day when you are naturally creative and productive, doing something you love & knowing your why, eliminating distractions in your physical environment and focusing on tasks that will move the needle. By incorporating these tips into your daily life, you can accomplish your goals & love the journey along the way. 

In episode 14, host Kristin Zeier discusses the common thought that people have when they are striving for their next goal: "I'll be happier when I get there."We don't have to wait for the next big destination to be happy or fulfilled. We can fully appreciate each moment along the way while also striving for more. This is not a way to live an intentional life -- it is THE way. You've probably heard the quote, "life is what happens to us when we're busy making other plans." This is so true and it's important to remember that no matter where we are currently, this is part of our journey.This is a chapter in our lives. This is a scene in the movie. This is not a practice run, this is our life and each day that passes is another day in our lives. Not to sound simplistic with this concept but when you're a goal oriented person, it's so easy to be hyper-focused on the future at all times. This is your reminder to stop and appreciate the journey along the way - even when it's challenging & messy.Sign up for the FREE Live 2021 Goal Audit WorkshopWhen: Wednesday, June 30th at 7PM CSTWhat you'll learn:How to audit your current goalsHow to gain clarity on what you truly wantHow to quickly pivot & course correct nowA strategy to achieve more by focusing on lessBONUS: You'll receive my Goal Mastery Toolkit when you sign up for the workshopSign up here: https://www.itsthatonething.com/workshopConnect with me on IG: https://instagram.com/heronething

In episode 13 of the Her One Thing podcast, host Kristin Zeier dives into the topic of empowering vocabulary.When Kristin entered the corporate world in America, she began to notice that women often use limiting words in professional settings. She noticed that women over-apologize, second guess themselves, use qualifying phrases & downplay accomplishments.As Kristin became increasingly fascinated by this topic, she noticed that women also do this in social settings. Then, she started to observe her own vocabulary and that two of the limiting words she uses the most are, "just", and "try". For example, "I'm just going to try & start this online business". She asked herself, "Am I going to try or am I going to do it? And, what's with the word just? It's not just an online business! It's an amazing endeavor that I should be proud of!".To empower her decision, she decided to replace that phrase with, "I'm going to build an online business".  By tweaking the words slightly, the energy massively shifted that Kristin felt toward her big goal. An emphasis is placed not just on eliminating limiting words around goals but also around money. Kristin shares common limiting words and phrases along with alternative options that can be swapped to empower you. Lastly, Kristin shares how you can quickly & easily take an assessment of the natural flow of your vocabulary in its current state. This way, you will know where you're starting from & how to improve.The goal with empowering your vocabulary is shifting the energy that you are creating within yourself and projecting into the world. 

Amanda Boleyn is the founder and CEO of She Did It Her Way. Shortly after two years in Corporate America post-undergrad, Amanda took a leap and moved from West Des Moines, IA to Chicago, IL. She became a full-time freelancer, traveling the globe delivering sales, marketing, leadership development, and employee training with large organizations. Some companies include JP Morgan, att, Weight Watchers, Intel, University of Kansas Medical Center, and others.Amanda first launched She Did It Her Way podcast in January 2015 and has consistently been ranked as one of the top-resources for female entrepreneurs by Inc.com, Forbes, Entrepreneur.com, Huffington Post, and many others. She Did It Her Way's coaching programs and platform help women navigate the transition from corporate cubicle to becoming their own boss.

In May of 2021, host Kristin Zeier joined the worldwide Own Your Future Challenge by Dean Graziosi and Tony Robbins. Within the challenge Facebook group, Kristin asked the question, "What is the biggest obstacle to achieving your goals?"To her surprise, Kristin received over 1,300 responses. Being the analytical person she is, she categorized & analyzed the results in a spreadsheet. In episode 11, Kristin shares what the top 10 reasons are but she really hones in on the top 4 reasons. She identifies trends and how these reasons are universal to the human experience when it comes to goals. What might surprise you is that ~98% of reasons all tie back to just one thing. Kristin discusses this in detail and shares some ways that you can become more self-aware & start taking action. It's time to create the lives of our wildest dreams. 

Episode 10 of the Her One Thing podcast reveals the most common four blocks that people have when it comes to reaching their goals:Self-doubtLack of focusProcrastinationFearHost Kristin Zeier discovered these results when she polled 1,110 people in the Own Your Future Challenge Facebook group in May of 2021. To understand what is holding you back when dreaming bigger in your life, you first must become self-aware of what you're thinking and believing. Kristin recommends that you practice self-awareness exercises such as journaling and meditation. You want to get to a place where you become the observer of your own thoughts. Once you learn to observe your thoughts objectively, you can ask yourself why you believe that. It's then that you can start to reframe your beliefs around what is possible and thus, dream bigger. Kristin also discusses which piece of the puzzle is the most important when reaching a goal or dream: belief that it can be done. If there is too much self-doubt present, then the goal or dream will never come to fruition.In 2021, we have endless possibilities. As women, we have more options and opportunities than ever before in history. Why not dream bigger and go deeper?Book Mention: Everything Is Figureoutable by Marie ForleoConnect with Kristin on Instagram @heronething 

Kate Enriquez is a profit engineer for businesses. To date, she has started multiple businesses that have reached 6-figures in their first year, and taken other businesses from 6 to 7-figures.  Her marketing expertise focuses on cash-flow and simplicity. She helps businesses strategize and get efficient in this digital world.Starting businesses, and helping other entrepreneurs is by far her favorite way to spend her time. Kate says, "Marketing doesn't have to cost $1M and you probably don't need a $50k website." When Katie isn't helping business owners and marketing agency owners succeed, you can find her in the mountains with her husband and two pups.  Connect with Kate here:Website:www.iddmedia.co Kate@kate.marketing406.459.9931IG: @kateemarketingFB: Kate.marketing Book Referenced in Show:The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

In episode 8, host Kristin Zeier unpacks what it means to expand your presence & energy and take up space. When you allow yourself to show up and authentically and confidently take up space, not only do you live a more fulfilling life, you inspire countless others to do the same.

Cake Artist, Entrepreneur and Dreamer, Hira F. Umer, serves as founder, lead cake designer and CEO of Scrumptious by Hira. After stumbling upon cake decorating one fine day, Hira quickly learned that this was her creative outlet. She started out working from her parents' home and soon thereafter decided to take her passion to a whole new level and opened her first retail storefront.  In 2011, Hira took basic cake decorating classes at Hobby Lobby offered by Wilton. After that she is mostly self taught. She spends a lot of time in the kitchen experimenting with techniques both with cake decorating and customized desserts.  In 2016, Hira opened the doors to her first retail storefront where she sells her most popular desserts daily, experiments with new creations and decorates the dozens of custom cakes that go out through her door every weekend. Though well versed in most areas of baking and decorating, Hira realized her true passion is in creating unique and artistic edible works of art. She has also been recognized and has had the opportunity to serve corporate giants such as Microsoft, Macy's, Clinique, Celebrity Cruises and more of the like.  As lead cake designer and CEO of Scrumptious by Hira, Hira is solely responsible for the design and construction of each and every cake that leaves her doors, to ensure each client receives the utmost high quality piece of art that Scrumptious by Hira can offer. All cakes are hand-designed by Hira and unique for each occasion. Hira's edible art pieces are available through private ordering at her boutique bake shop, located at 825 E Roosevelt Road in Lombard, IL.  Connect with Hira:Instagram:  @scrumptiousbyhiraWebsite: https://scrumptiousbyhira.com/

In this episode, Kristin Zeier dissects what a goal is and why goals are a critical part of the human experience. She also reviews various traditional goal setting frameworks and why they fall short for many modern women today.

Welcome to episode five of the one thing podcast. This is the perfect time to talk about spring cleaning. We are not going to be talking about spring cleaning or decluttering your home. That is not a topic that I enjoy talking about. Leave that to the experts out there in that area.   Instead, we are going to be talking about spring cleaning those dusty old habits and thought patterns that you and I and all of us have just running in autopilot within our lives.  According to the University of Scranton, 92% of people who set New Years resolutions fail to achieve them. It's become very clear that a lot of people have a lot of big ideas and goals, but they are not actually achieving them. That is a huge problem. Why are we not able to do this?  A huge part of what goes into accomplishing a goal is around your mindset. Achieving a goal is 80% mindset and 20% tactics.  We have two major key points here at play. Number one, 82% of people who set New Years resolutions fail to achieve them. Number two, by consistently practicing becoming more self aware of thoughts that we are thinking, we can start to identify the limiting beliefs that we have running in the background of our lives, and how that is affecting our energy output, which goes into our goals.  Now, these two key points are very interrelated, because as we just talked about, your goals are 80% mindset. Those thoughts and those habits that you have running in autopilot, are what is either driving you to reach your goals, or is blocking you from reaching your goals.  Did you set New Years resolution this year in 2021? Or, did you set goals in any time in the last three months or quarter one, or whenever you were listening to this?  So, if you did set any goals in the last three months, have you made any progress on achieving them? Are you consistently still working toward them? If the answer is no, you are not making any progress, or you've given up or you have hit a wall, no judgment, because a 92% of the population is in the same boat as you.  So let's take this opportunity, with it being spring, to reassess some of those cobwebs in our minds and in our lives, metaphorically speaking. Let's identify just one and get rid of it.  We're all busy women who have a lot of things going on. As you're listening to this, you might already know what some of those dusty patterns and habits might be for you. Maybe you know, and maybe you don't. If you don't know, that is totally okay.  That is where reflection work will really come in handy for you. If you do have something that comes to mind right away, that you are ready to let go of, maybe it is a just a recurring thought that you have about yourself that is just not productive or helpful, then I encourage you to use this opportunity to let that go.  If you don't know, I encourage you to either spend some time journaling, meditating, or sitting down and intentionally thinking through it. What are some different habits and thought patterns that you have? Once you have identified a dusty old habit or pattern that you are ready to let go of the spring, write it down. This is really important. Don't just think about this, and then forget about it.  It could just be as simple as letting go of a recurring negative thought that you have about yourself every single day. It will take some work, it will take some effort. It's not going to be just the snap of a finger.  The question is, what is your dusty old pattern or habit that you're ready to give up this spring? I would love to know what it is. So please connect with me on Instagram. You can find me @heronething, or you can head on over to my website at https://itsthatonething.com and leave a comment on this episode's show notes.  Until next time, let's get inspired. 

In episode 4 of the Her One Thing podcast, NYC fashion designer and entrepreneur, Nic Hyl, shares insight into the journey that took her from working in the corporate world to starting her own fashion business. She discusses how a  toxic work environment is what ultimately caused her to take the leap into starting her own business.As Nic ventured into the fashion world, and specifically in women's swimwear, she observed that women from all walks of life and all body types had major body insecurities. It became apparent that women are feeling incredibly vulnerable in swimwear, even if they have "perfect" bodies. Nic goes on to share that before the body positivity movement, it wasn't women in most boardrooms who were determining which body types to feature in swimwear marketing. It was men who were promoting a certain body type (which is beautiful but that 95% of us don't look like). This realization ultimately inspired Nic to make body positivity and empowering women to feel beautiful in the skin they're in at the center of her brand ethos. She proudly features women of all body types, races and backgrounds in her swimwear ads.Additionally, Nic reveals how being resourceful contributed to her success in business. She also shares how her mindset has evolved throughout her entrepreneurship journey and her best advice for women who are ready to achieve their one thing. For full show notes, visit https://itsthatonething.comConnect with Nic Hyl here:Website: https://www.nichyl.com/Instagram: @nichylclothingEmail: nic@nichyl.com  

Episode 3 of the Her One Thing podcast is all about learning how to take ownership over your own life story. Host Kristin Zeier reveals that how you approach your life story is a spectrum. At one end, you have being a passive bystander in your life story. At the other end of the spectrum, you have being an active creator. Like many things in life, how you connect to your life story is not black and white. It's not one or the other. You can fall anywhere on that life story participant spectrum. When a person is a passive bystander in her life story, she watches the world unfold around her. Examples of what being a passive bystander could look like include:Watching the events in your life unfold around you and being in reactive modeNot creating an intentional plan & following a path to get thereFeeling like a victim to the things that are happening around youFeeling like you have no control over the futureFeeling like the universe is conspiring against youShifting blame to othersThinking, "Why Me?"Thinking thoughts like, "Having an amazing life would be great but it's just not in the cards for me"It could be as simple as complacencyConversely, when someone is at the other end and is an active creator of their own life story, she is proactive. Below are some examples of what being an active creator might look like:Owning the fact that you cannot always control the circumstances around you but you can control how you reactTaking accountabilityTaking inventory of your strengths and weaknesses and owning themBeing open to "failure"Consistently developing yourself and being in a growth mindsetInvesting in yourself and your futureBecoming self-aware of your thoughts and learning how to choose your thoughts to compliment the life you are creatingIt's important to note that you cannot predict the future or possible know how events will always unfold in the future. Accepting that is part of being an active creator. When you changes your perspective and you start to view things from this creator lens, you take ownership for the story you create around those events and circumstances. You take back the power by choosing the narrative.One of the biggest takeaways of this episode is that you always get to choose the narrative of your own life story. This goes for the past, present and future. The choice is always yours. Your life story is one of the biggest assets you will ever have. It's what makes you unique and no one else can ever compete with your own life story. Lastly, Kristin shares an exercise that you can do to flip the narrative on your own life story. Visit https://itsthatonething.com for full show notes.

Claire has worked in the fertility industry for 5+ years, starting off as a certified andrology and embryology lab scientist at a large New York fertility clinic, where she created thousands of embryos for patients undergoing IVF. She then joined a fertility startup where she guided hundreds of women through the process of getting started with a clinic and what to expect from the experience. She co-founded FertilitySpace in 2020 with the aim of using fertility industry data to help women find the best fertility provider for their unique goals and make informed decisions while navigating the world of fertility treatment.Claire joined the Her One Thing podcast as a special guest to share her insight on how she has shifted from being externally focused to internally focused as she has ventured off to start her own company. She discusses some of the key self-motivation differences in working as an employee versus becoming an entrepreneur. She also discusses the importance of not telling everyone what your goal is when it's brand new. She has some amazing insight to share on acknowledging that working toward a big goal is not always glamorous - and that's ok. Website: https://fertilityspace.io/Email:  Claire@fertilityspace.ioInstagram:  @fertilityspace.ioFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/fertilityspace.io For full show notes, visit the Her One Thing website at itsthatonething.com.  

92% of people who set New Year's resolutions fail at reaching their goals. Why is the majority of the population unable to effectively set and reach new goals? Kristin Zeier explores this in the first episode of the Her One Thing Podcast.Women today are trying to do all of the things. We are working, raising children, trying to lose weight & get fit, manage the household, nourish their relationships, start businesses and keep up on our social lives. It's a lot to manage.On top of that, women are as ambitious as ever in today's modern society. We have so many options and opportunities for creating our lives the way we want. With this, comes the setting of many new goals.However, even with the best of intentions, so many women are spinning their wheels trying to get ahead but never really moving the needle.Focusing on many new goals at once is exhausting. Your brain becomes overwhelmed and tired. You give up. This cycle goes on and on until your self-confidence and self-belief diminishes.It doesn't have to be this way. In this episode, we will uncover why you can do all of the things by focusing on one thing at a time. Your intention of being an ambitious woman is on point but the approach needs some strategic re-tweaking. In this episode, you will learn that it's time to let go of everything and hone in on one thing.