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Understand what fuels and drains your energy with a free energy audit. Download yours: https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Kris Driskill—transformational coach, business consultant, and former opera singer—joins Brenda to explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways self-sabotage shows up, especially for high-achieving, intuitive women. Kris unpacks the ten saboteur archetypes from the Positive Intelligence framework and helps us understand how our need for approval, perfectionism, or control can quietly undermine our joy and success. Together, Brenda and Kris reflect on their own performance-driven pasts, and share what it looks like to move from hyper-achievement to authentic alignment. This episode is packed with real talk, healing insights, and practical shifts that will support you in honoring your energy and reclaiming your intuitive power.

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Tap into your inner wisdom with Christina Deering, a shaman, healer, and intuitive business coach. In this episode, Lesley and Brad break down Christina's insights on aligning with your highest self, overcoming limiting beliefs, and using intuitive tools like pendulums and tapping. Discover how to embrace daydreaming as a manifestation technique and reprogram your mindset for success.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Understanding your highest self as an extension of your soul.Breaking free from limiting beliefs and societal conditioning.Using intuitive tools like pendulums and tapping for clarity.The power of daydreaming as a manifestation tool.Aligning your energy with your goals for greater success.Recognizing and shifting emotional vibrations for better decision-making.Episode References/Links:Cambodia October 2025 Waitlist - https://crowsnestretreats.com Spring Pilates Training - https://opc.me/eventsPilates Studio Growth Accelerator - https://prfit.biz/acceleratorAccessories Flashcards Waitlist - https://opc.me/flashcardwaitlistChristina Deering Website: https://www.christinadeering.comChristina's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamchristinadeeringFree Gift - 5 Min Energy Reset - https://beitpod.com/energyreset If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.DEALS! 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DEALS!Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSoxBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy WebinarResources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramThe Be It Till You See It Podcast YouTube channelFacebookLinkedInThe OPC YouTube Channel Episode Transcript:Brad Crowell 0:00  I think, also, to giving yourself permission to know that that was a possibility.Lesley Logan 0:05  It's not a waste of time. Brad Crowell 0:06  Well, it's not a waste of time to daydream, letting yourself daydream, let yourself visualize, give yourself the spaciousness to connect with the things that feel exciting. But also, I think it's the counterbalance to this internal monolog that we have, that everything's gonna crash around us. It's all coming to an end.Lesley Logan 0:24  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the intuitive convo I have with Christina Deering in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that interview, feel free to pause us now and go back and listen, or stay here and then listen later. You can do both, because she's an intuitive so you're going to want to do both.Today is February 27th 2025 and it's Introduce a Girl to Engineering Day, a significant day. Introduce a Girl to Engineering Day is marked annually at the end of February during engineering week. This year, it takes place on February 27th. This day was founded by the National Society of Professional Engineers (N.S.P.E.) in 1951. According to N.S.P.E., didn't you love that? I like to discover things as we're.Brad Crowell 1:52  That's news to me.Lesley Logan 1:53  I like, learn this as you're learning it, everyone.Brad Crowell 1:56  She clearly previews all the work that goes into these show notes.Lesley Logan 2:03  Oh my God. Engineering Week aims to ensure a diverse and well-educated future engineering workforce by increasing understanding of and interest in engineering and technology careers. I just want to say.Brad Crowell 2:14  That was written by an engineer.Lesley Logan 2:16  Totally wise and you can't say engineering week and describe it as a like a definition, and then use engineering in the definition of what the week is. You gotta, I don't actually think I know what engineering is so. Did you know since the origins of STEM fields in the 18th century (the Age of Enlightenment) have remained predominantly male? Yeah, we knew this. It's a burgeoning issue calling for an urgent redress. One of the main ways that this is being done is through the creation of scholarships for women. So I think that's so cool. There was a model who had like, coder weeks. Is coding engineering?Brad Crowell 2:56  Yeah, we can, it's a form of engineering. Yeah. Lesley Logan 2:58  Is engineering anything to do with computers? Brad Crowell 3:00  Well, there are software engineers. But, yes, engineers could be structural engineers or mechanical engineers or, you know, aviation has engineering.  Lesley Logan 3:11  So this is not a niche week. Brad Crowell 3:13  No, I think it's general. You could have software engineers who are developers. Sure.Lesley Logan 3:17  Here's the thing. Clearly, I wasn't introduced to engineering during Engineering Week when I was a child, even though it was started in 1951 so we have lots of work to do and.Brad Crowell 3:26  I wonder if architects are considered engineers, or how does that work? Do they work together? I mean, you know, they're building. An engineer would build a bridge.Lesley Logan 3:35  Yeah, yeah, right, exactly. So then maybe Meridith's partner is an engineer. So we know engineers.Brad Crowell 3:42  Well, he is, he's a mechanical, no, he's a structural engineer. Can't remember. Yeah, we know engineers.Lesley Logan 3:47  We love you. There's one in our family. We should know.So anyways, I just thought this was a really cool holiday. When Brad was showing me the holidays, I thought it was a cool holiday because, obviously, when we expose people to different jobs that they could do, we actually bring in really cool experiences into those jobs. And engineers are, obviously, have a vast amount of things that they could work in and that are necessary. And so life experiences that are different than others are really important. And so here's to Introduce a Girl to Engineering Day. I too was just introduced. So there we go. All right, so as you listen to this, we are in Cambodia.Brad Crowell 4:26  Right now, as you are listening. We are so excited.Lesley Logan 4:29  Oh my gosh. And also, the people who are coming, I'm just excited for this week that we're having with them. So anyways, you guys have to join us in October. Seriously, I know that you've got a lot on your plate. You got a lot going on. October feels like, a far way away, but we, actually, it's not. And it's the perfect time to just have something in your Q4 to look forward to. So go to crowsnestretreats.com and join us, because we want to spend a week with you. We want to retreat from the chaos of this world and just sweat and do Pilates and breath work and see temples. And Lotus farms and eat good food.Brad Crowell 5:03  Yeah, it's, I mean, elephants, friends, make friends. It's, you know, explore a city.Lesley Logan 5:08  You don't have to come with a friend. You can come by yourself, because we, we'll provide the friends.Brad Crowell 5:13  Yeah, we do. You're guaranteed a friend.Lesley Logan 5:17  You are. You've got a friend in me.Brad Crowell 5:21  Well, in March, a month from now, we will be a P.O.T. in Denver, Colorado. P.O.T is Pilates on Tour, if you're not familiar, although I. Lesley Logan 5:30  It's sold out. Brad Crowell 5:31  I think it's sold out.Lesley Logan 5:32  Yeah, it's sold out. Can't come. Well, last time we checked, we were, I think they had a couple spots on Sunday, which we'll be there for. I'm teaching every single day. I'm keynoting.Brad Crowell 5:42  I know. Keynote speaker, Lesley.Lesley Logan 5:46  Oh my God. So anyways, you'll come if you can, and if there's spots, if not, we'll see you in Chicago. But also in March, Brad doesn't know this yet, March 18th through the 24th is the Accessories Flash Dard presale. See, Meridith and I just scheduled it right now.Brad Crowell 6:04  What?Lesley Logan 6:06  Yes and so the date has been set. Only those on the waitlist are going to get the invite. So you need to go to opc.me/flashcardwaitlist, opc.me/flashcardwaitlist, and that is going to get you the opportunity to get this, the latest and last deck, 30% off. And by the way, the Accessory Deck is for all the bodies, everybody. And we're going to have a lot of fun celebrating who got the cards, Meridith and I have a bunch of tricks and things planned up our sleeve, but you have to be on the waitlist to hear about it. So sorry. So opc.me/flashcardwaitlist.Brad Crowell 6:40  Yeah, but you get the hook up by being on it. So do it. Get yourself over there. All right, next up in April. Guess what, y'all? OPC is gonna be doing a spring training in April. This is gonna be April 27th through May. 3rd. Ten events across a week. You're gonna be able to join us virtually no matter where you are, whether you're watching them live or watching replays.Lesley Logan 7:03  You don't have to have Pilates experience to join us. You don't have to have equipment. There's going to be options for a mat only track, and then equipment plus mat track and Meridith and I did the math. Well, Meridith did the math. I'll just, why am I taking credit? It's like $6 per class if you have the mat ticket or something like that. So, you know, it's such a steal. Anyways, so opc.me/events gets you on to the waitlist, because those on the waitlist will get the early bird price. Those not on the waitlist will get to pay the full price, which is still a good deal, but on the waitlist, it's a great price.Brad Crowell 7:37  Yeah, it's a steal. It's a steal for the early bird. It's still an amazing deal.Lesley Logan 7:41  OPC members. Will get it for free. So if you want it for free, be an OPC member.Brad Crowell 7:46  Yeah, but to get on the waitlist for all that go to opc.me/events or just put it in your calendar right now, April 27th through May 3rd, just mark it off and be like OPC Spring Training. It's going to be super fun. We're doing spring training this year instead of summer camp. Okay? To be honest, people, I, we were getting confused between summer tour and summer camp. So we said this is dumb. Why don't we not make it a summer thing?Lesley Logan 8:11  We have a spring, summer, winter, and then, I guess, retreat in the fall. But it's not fall weather in Cambodia.Brad Crowell 8:19  So technically.Lesley Logan 8:20  But it's in the fall but it's not a fall event, so we're only doing three events.Brad Crowell 8:25  It's going to be amazing. It's going to be amazing. Anyway, go to opc.me/events. Okay, finally, if you are taking money from a client and teaching them Pilates or yoga or whatever, if you are a fitness business owner in that way, I want you to come join me for a free webinar. Lesley and I have been teaching, coaching fitness business owners just like you, for more than seven years now. I can't believe Agency is seven years old. I'm doing a free webinar called Studio Growth Accelerator. So if you want to learn the three biggest secrets that we have learned from coaching more than 2500 people, come join me. Go to prfit.biz/accelerator. That's profit without the O, dot biz slash accelerator and come join me for free.All right, before we move on, here, we have an audience question from Jennifer Carbone. She asks does the Arkantos Pilates chair, Split-pedal stability combo chair with handles, does it work for your workouts?Lesley Logan 9:28  Here's what I appreciate. I appreciate how specific she told me.Brad Crowell 9:32  I think she copied the names off the website.Lesley Logan 9:34  I mean, clearly, I think so too. So I think that for anyone listening who's just like, what did he just say? Do split-pedal combo chairs work for my workout? Brad Crowell 9:44  Is this one or two pieces of equipment?Lesley Logan 9:46  Well, it's, well, it's two. So most.Arkantos Pilates chair is different from the split-pedal stability combo chair?No, no, it's that chair. And then nope, that's not her chair. That's our chair. So it's like that, but it's a combo chair with handles. They're just using all the SEO terms to make the name of the thing. It's just, it's a bunch of marketing. So at any rate, yes.Brad Crowell 10:06  Oh yeah, she copied it straight off from Amazon. Lesley Logan 10:08  So yeah, she did. Okay. So, wow, this is a very cheap price. Okay, guys, you're getting, like, real time. Oh my god, the marketing on it just grosses me out. So here's the deal. Brad Crowell 10:19  Look, it does use springs. Lesley Logan 10:21  No, no, it's fine. So here's the thing, if you have a combo chair, a high chair, Wunda chair combo that has the handles, take the handles off. So I don't really care about the brand, take the handles off. We won't use them on a Wunda chair class. But then you can use the chair as a Wunda chair. And I can tell from this split-pedal that it can be locked. So it's a single pedal, so just lock it in place. And then the thing about Wunda chair exercises is that the spring tensions, like this one has four springs, so I'm imagining it has a light and a heavy. Yeah, that has a little lock, so it has a light and a heavy. So what I'm going to say is I don't know why they call them gears on this guy, someone is copying a reformer and making a Wunda chair. So okay, ignore the gears on this chair, but I'm just gonna talk about Wunda chairs in general. If there's not a classical Wunda chair, if it has a split pedal, if it has handles, ditch the handles. Make sure you don't split the pedal. So it's a single pedal. And then you pick the spring that tension that actually supports your body. So meaning, if I say it's a top bottom spring for me, but your fun size, it might be a middle bottom. Or if you're heavier, it might be a little higher. So you always have to choose the right spring tension for you in a Wunda chair class. But my teachers at OPC and I always give suggestions that you can start moving with. And if you have, you're an OPC member, you can also take a video of you doing an exercise on your chair, and go, am I doing this right? And we can go, oh, you don't look like you have enough spring tension. Oh, it looks like you have too much. Oh, you might need a block to make the floor rise up. So we will give you personalized feedback. But in general, anything that's an actual Wunda chair will work. So if it's combo chair, knock the handles off. That is.Brad Crowell 12:00  Just knock them off. Lesley Logan 12:01  Yeah, if they don't come off.Brad Crowell 12:03  No, they will. I'm sure they'll come off. Lesley Logan 12:05  They look like they remove. Brad Crowell 12:06  Yeah, they remove, yeah, they can just unscrew it to take them out.Lesley Logan 12:09  Yeah. I had someone correct me, not correct me, but give me more information, because I have a video about how I don't like folding reformers. And I said, I don't like them because all these different things. And people go, well, this company has a $900 one that folds, and it has all the things you want. And I looked at it, and it does. It uses springs. It has a foot bar that lowers down. It still has ropes with high I don't like that. And the thing that gets me concerned when things are made folding, that you're actually they will have springs and you're gonna stand on, is I get concerned about weight restrictions. I get concerned of when the person made this, did they actually know all the Pilates exercises are going to go on it? Because sometimes they don't. A lot of people, engineers will just.Brad Crowell 12:51  Engineers Lesley Logan 12:52  Engineers will. Hey.Brad Crowell 12:54  Hey. Lesley Logan 12:55  And this is not an offense to them. But they'll go, oh, we can make this cheaper by using this and this instead, and this instead. And all of a sudden, you take a piece of equipment that is heavy for a reason, because the moves you're going to do are rolling on it and moving on it and lifting your legs. And you need the piece of equipment to be durable enough, heavy enough to support your body moving around on top of it. So I cannot attest to any folding reformer that isn't going to come from a company that I've already worked with. I got to try things on because I don't want to get hurt. I also don't want you to spend $1,000 on something that might not be the thing you need, or might restrict you from exercises you really want to do. Brad Crowell 13:33  Or it just might not be the same quality.Lesley Logan 13:35  Right. If the reformer isn't high enough off the floor, you cannot do pull straps, you know what I mean? So there's just exercise you get limited. If it's too high off the ground, it can affect things. So I get, like, equipment's expensive. We just place an order and we're just like, whoo, okay. But please, please, please, please, please, just consider what you're letting go of and do your research or save up for the thing that you need. That's what I would say. So anyways, I hope you take class with us. That's a great chair. We'll see. Here we go.Brad Crowell 14:01  Awesome. All right. Well, stick around. We'll be right back. We're gonna dig into this amazing conversation you have with Christina Deering.Okay, now let's talk about Christina Deering. A shaman, healer, a business intuitive and the host of You Unlimited podcast, Christina is dedicated to helping spiritual entrepreneurs confidently grow their businesses. A former marketing professional for 15 years, she explores modalities like breath work and Reiki, which led her to discover her true calling in shamanism. Today, she blends deep healing practices with practical strategies, enabling clients to overcome imposter syndrome and step into their full potential. On her podcast, You Unlimited, Christina delves into personal growth and the transformative power of intuitive guidance.Lesley Logan 14:45  Yeah. So I think she was just so sweet. I just really liked her. Yeah. I was on her podcast, and so that was a lot of fun. We had a great conversation there. And I was like, well, I want to hear more about over here. We got to give away one of her masterminds on tour. She's just such a generous person.Brad Crowell 14:58  Oh yes, connecting the dots. Lesley Logan 14:59  So I really love when she talked about turning into your soul's alignment. She said our highest self, based on what we channeled, that's our soul. So we are tapping into our soul. So what does your soul desire most to do? And she shared like, our goal is to live in alignment with our soul. And I actually think that this is so hard.Brad Crowell 15:16  This is the one you were talking about, like, what is the highest self? What does that even mean? And I thought it was good to help define that, because I really appreciated Christina's pragmatic approach to calling herself a shaman. Because I'm like, uh, the hell is a shaman?Lesley Logan 15:31  There are some shamans. And I'm like, are you a shaman? You know.Brad Crowell 15:35  Well, you know she was talking about at the beginning. She was like, yeah. So when I was suggested that I look into becoming a shaman, because I'm being called into being a shaman, she was like, let me Google what is a shaman? And I was laughing because I was like, I was Googling what is a shaman. That was pretty funny. So when she's talking about her, anyway, I appreciated her sincerity there. But you know, she's talking about what is the highest self, and she says, that's like, tapping into your soul.Lesley Logan 16:00  Yeah. So when people say, like, thinking about your higher self, or what would your higher self want to do? What is it you do here? That's what your soul is. And I think that's kind of a cool way to think about it. I never thought of my highest self and my soul being the same thing. And now that I say it out loud, it sounds pretty obvious. So, you know. I don't know. I just, you know, you just think of them as two separate things. I have a higher self. I guess I think of the highest self as my future. I've got my shit together self and my soul is like this deep, like, burning magic.Brad Crowell 16:33  Your higher self is like, who you hope you'll end up being one day? That's kind of how I've always thought of it, too.Lesley Logan 16:38  Yeah. But when she describes it like this, it's, oh, well, if my. It's like, what's happening now.Brad Crowell 16:42  It's like, what's happening now. Lesley Logan 16:42  Yeah, well, if it's my higher self is my soul, then I actually don't have another thing I've got to figure out how to be. I could just actually tap into my soul and then I get to be my highest self.Brad Crowell 16:51  Because I am that right now. Lesley Logan 16:52  Yeah, this is. Brad Crowell 16:55  I think we just broke the world. Lesley Logan 16:57  I think, I think. Brad Crowell 16:58  We just, we just solved the riddle of the meaning of life.  Lesley Logan 17:00  I feel I've, you know, I, It's really great. So anyways, she advised tap into your soul by using tools like pendulums or intuition exercises. And we actually got to talk about like the pendulums and intuitive exercises. And I find just sitting down for me and for my red light can really help me and just breathe, can really help me get myself calm enough to actually go into thinking about a pendulum or an intuitive exercise, like you kind of have to calm down first and then use some tools. But I think that there's a lot of different tools that one can use. I also think I get the best ideas in the shower or on a morning walk, you know, like the sun is rising. So there's, I think maybe the thing that you all can do from this is, like, figure out, like, when do you feel like you're the closest to tapping into your soul or your higher self? And can you practice that so you can always use it as a tool when you need it.Brad Crowell 17:50  Yeah, she was talking a lot about spiritual-led entrepreneurialism, the distinction she talked about with your brain versus your higher self, I thought was interesting in that she said, often our brain starts us down these, what if problems or these I got to figure this out problem, or this problem, problem, problem, we're like creating all this unnecessary stuff that we have to think through. And she said, the mind is meant to serve the heart and soul. It's not there to create unnecessary problems, but we let ourselves go down that path. So I just thought it was interesting and but also she was talking about the pendulum thing, you know, holding the pendulum and asking questions. And I didn't quite follow that entire exercise.Lesley Logan 18:29  Okay, guess what? E-Squared. She has a, in the book E-Squared, we talked about many, many moons ago on this podcast, but she talks about taking a wire hanger and you twist it so it's at an angle, and then you're just supposed to hold it, and you can ask questions, and it will turn one way to answer yes or no. It's kind of crazy. So the pendulum is like that wire hanger. It's like something that is connected to the energy of your body, and it kind of will answer the question over your head. It's like, what you want. It's, okay, I know we just really got somewhere weird. I will pull the book out Brad, and we can look at the chapter.Brad Crowell 19:06  Hey, look, we're like a 1.75 woo here.Lesley Logan 19:09  I know (inaudible), I, but it's a really interesting thing. I even looked this practice up on because I was like, What is she saying? I don't think I'm understanding how to make this wire hanger, and also, who has wire hanger? So I didn't want to screw it up. I had one wire hanger, and I Googled on YouTube, and this woman did it on camera. She's just holding this thing, and then she's holding it away that her fingers cannot manipulate the wire so, like she's holding it, and the wire hanger is just like moving to, yeah, it's really strange. So we'll do it. We'll do it.Brad Crowell 19:39  Okay, I'm in. One thing I really loved was she talked about breaking through self-imposed limitations. Actually, now that I say that, I don't think they're necessarily self-imposed, it could be like societal limitations, parental, you know, limitations or friends or expectations that are just placed on us by our surroundings, environment, like the things that we're doing. And she said, when we are trying to pursue, you know, and connect with our higher self, our soul, it may be that we're bumping into these barriers, that this box that we put ourselves in, that's tough, you know. It's tough because, first off, it's hard to identify that you're bumping into these walls if you don't even realize that they're there. But also, how do we identify them? And how do we change that programming? You know, how do we walk away from something that has been ingrained in us for our whole lives? Whatever that might be, that could be a religious faith, or it could be, I don't know, just something where you're feeling trapped.Lesley Logan 20:37  It's interesting because you had said self-imposed, and you're like, actually, it's all these things. I think we impose things on ourselves based on what we've picked up is the right, in air quotes, the right thing to do, or the expected thing to do. And so you kind of learn like, oh, I get in trouble in class when I make this noise, so I'm not going to make that noise anymore. You tap your foot a lot teachers today, one of the girls we work out with, she has kids who need to dance while they're doing the work, so she has them in the back of the room so they can do their work. And they literally dance and do their work. And as long as they are in the back of the room, not distracting people, it's not a problem. But back when you were in school, they would be like in trouble for tapping. And that means that, first of all, you (inaudible).Brad Crowell 21:19  I bet I would have been considered a dancer, because I was not, I was flipping around in my chair.Lesley Logan 21:24  But the point is, is that when you're a kid, you learn, oh, I get in trouble. It's bad to do these things. And so then you start to change who you are. And then if you don't have anyone who gives you permission to be who you are when you're younger, it becomes this thing you take all the way to your adulthood, and you don't realize, oh, I've been posing all these rules and stories on myself, that didn't come from you in the first place.Brad Crowell 21:45  Brad Crowell 21:45   it's actually, yeah, yeah, or, that's right, or it's a learned behavior. One of the things we talk about all the time, and I just couldn't come up with the example a few minutes ago, was the way we see money.Lesley Logan 21:56  Oh, yeah. Brad Crowell 21:56  Our money mindset is how we like to say, but the money mindset, the way that we are coming into that conversation, we are bringing with us a bunch of baggage that most likely we don't even know where it came from, you know, and we really have to truly sift back through our inner thoughts and childhood to understand, why do we act the way we act around money, or have this relationship with it. So it's interesting and it's challenging to identify these walls. So anyway, I thought that was really great. I think it's really important. When you start to ask yourself, why, I think, actually, that's a great way to start to identify, why do I hold why do I see this, the way that I see this? Why?Lesley Logan 22:34  Gay Hendricks would say, he would go, hmm.Brad Crowell 22:38  Hmm, I like that.Lesley Logan 22:39  I wonder why. And that's what he would always say. He always says, I wonder, I wonder. I don't even think I can see it, I wonder.Brad Crowell 22:46  He's got a tattoo that says it on her hand.Lesley Logan 22:48  But he says, the important thing is the hum, hmm, I wonder why. And he said, the hmm does something to the brain. I forgot. Gay, I'm sorry I forgot what it does, but it does something to the brain that turns on this part of where you think about things, and then the I wonder opens up curiosity versus, why do I do this? It's like, I wonder. You can't be mad, you cannot be angry with the wonder word, you have to, like, go I wonder. Brad Crowell 23:15  I wonder.Lesley Logan 23:15  I wonder. Brad Crowell 23:16  I wonder. All right, well, stick around. We'll be right back. We're gonna talk about those Be It Action Items that we got from your conversation with Christina Deering.All right, so finally, let's talk about those Be It Action Items. Say it with me. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your conversation with Christina Deering? Christina explained that daydreaming is not just idle imagination. It's a way of tapping into future possibilities. She said, hey, when we can visualize it, we're actually tapping into future timelines.Lesley Logan 23:50  She is not wrong. I just learned a little bit about how to manifest in a different time, and so.Brad Crowell 23:58  We're like, multiversing it over here.Lesley Logan 23:59  Yes, she said this and I was like, okay, I get that. And then I heard someone else talk about it, and I'm like, oh, I get it. So when she talks about this, you're, the more specific you get, the more you live in the future with that idea, in that moment of that daydream, then you come back into your regular day life where you are in this time, but you have that in the future, and you've manifested it, and you've made it, and as long as you are taking actions that would be like, yes, that's gonna happen, even when things are saying no, it's not.Brad Crowell 24:29  Well, I think also, to giving yourself permission to know that that is a possibility. Lesley Logan 24:34  It's not a waste of time. Brad Crowell 24:36  Well, it's not a waste of time to daydream, letting yourself daydream, let yourself visualize, give yourself the spaciousness to connect with the things that feel exciting. But also, I think it's the counterbalance to this internal monolog that we have that everything's gonna crash around us. It's all coming to an end. The other shoe is gonna fall. We have the self talk that is like, give it three months and everything's gonna explode, but we can have a counter argument to that, and that's this is the Daydream. I think it's valuable. I think it's super helpful, and it helps you operate from a better place. Instead of operating from fear, you're operating from a place of expectation, hope, joy, excitement. So what about you? Lesley Logan 25:15  So we got more into manifesting, and Christina highlighted the importance of aligning your energy to match your goals.Brad Crowell 25:21  Okay. Lesley Logan 25:22  And she referenced David R. Hawkins' Map of Consciousness.Brad Crowell 25:25  I thought this was really curious. I'm not familiar with David R. Hawkins' Map of Consciousness.Lesley Logan 25:29  No, I feel like I need to put it on my TBR. I also know what a TBR is. So I'm super, I'm super on it. Brad Crowell 25:36  Way to be so hip. Lesley Logan 25:37  I'm on the book talks.Brad Crowell 25:38  What's a TBR, oh, to be read.Lesley Logan 25:41  To be read. I'm not on TikTok though. I'm just on the Instagram of book talks. So I wonder, if they call that the Insta book, what are they? Anyways, we were talking about the energy of the things you're manifesting, and so she asked you for your be it action items, she said, when you think about what you're manifesting, what would you feel when you're manifesting that thing? So she explained if you'll probably feel love or you'll feel peace, and she said that you want to make sure that you are in that vibration of the manifesting that you're wanting, because if you're in a lower vibration, like guilt or shame, it's going to indicate misalignment. And so you can actually make sure you're manifesting things you really do want based on if you feel that love or peace or that high vibration, if you feel low vibration feelings, then you might be manifesting something that it's not right for you based on what you think people think you should have, or what a friend or partner is putting on you. It's really quite cool, just to pay attention to the feelings that you're having in the manifestation of the thing that you want. It should be in a high vibration. Should feel really good to think about it.Brad Crowell 26:40  It's interesting. I was just looking at this map, and it helps you basically associate emotions with a level and an energetic number, like an energetic log. They have it. And so wherever your emotional state is, it connects with a specific number, and then that allows you to start connecting the way you're feeling like, oh, I'm feeling like a 20, or I'm feeling like a 700 or whatever.Lesley Logan 27:05  So a 20, just so you guys know, that's shame, and the predominant emotional state is humiliation. The view of life is miserable. The God view is despising, and the process is elimination. I don't know those last two really well, but I think we can all understand, shame feels really low, and if you're feeling guilt or shame, guilt is only above shame by a little bit. If you're feeling that in your manifestations or around manifesting, there's something misaligned. She also suggested use tools like tapping. We've had tapping come up a few times on this podcast.Brad Crowell 27:35  Many times, EFT, Emotional Freedom Tapping, is that right? Emotional Freedom Technique, Emotional Freedom Technique.Lesley Logan 27:42  And like you can tap along your collarbones. Brad Crowell 27:45  Your forehead. Lesley Logan 27:46  Yes, yes, it's really it's, oh, look here we got Emotional Freedom Techniques. You could tap the top of your head, the side of your eye, the inner edge of your eyebrow, underneath your eye, underneath your nose, under lip, above the chin, sides of the center of the collarbone, under the arm, side of the hand, beneath your pinky, so all these different places you can tap on yourself. And I think, I think it's a great, even if you have no idea what we said about vibrations, you can tap.Brad Crowell 28:12  So, like, yeah, what EFT can do is create a sense of calm, and basically when you're daydreaming and forecasting and allowing yourself to believe what could be for you, and you're associating that with this sense of calm that you're gaining by tapping you're effectively reprogramming yourself, you know.Lesley Logan 28:31  Yeah. How cool. How powerful is that? Brad Crowell 28:33  It's pretty powerful. Lesley Logan 28:34  I loved it. So Christina Deering is really cool. And what she's been doing out there, she's really special. We talked about money mindset. She's really amazing as a coach and a shaman for people who are in the intuitive space, as either a life coach or yoga instructor or things like that. And so if you are struggling to shout out from the rooftops that you're amazing, you should talk with her. She's pretty great. I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell 28:57  And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 28:58  Thank you so much for being here today. We are so grateful to have you as a listener. Holy moly, this podcast has grown so much so quickly. It's compounding because of you.Brad Crowell 29:07  I mean, we're almost at 500 episodes.Lesley Logan 29:09  I know, it's really not and we're in the top 1.5% I checked again yesterday just to make sure it wasn't a fluke, and it's not. Thank you. It's not a fluke. It's pretty amazing. So thank you for being you. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it. Also on Fridays, we celebrate your wins, and we want you to send your wins in. It's like you think that your win isn't good enough for me to shout out to other people, and that makes me sad, because actually, the smaller wins are the best thing. So please send them in. You can DM to us on Instagram on the Be It Pod or to me, and just tell me, this is for the wins, for the FYFs, and we will shout them out because you might need to hear your win on the day it comes out, because you might be having a day that's not so awesome. So anyways, have an amazing day until next time, Be It Till You See It.Brad Crowell 29:51  Bye for now. Lesley Logan 29:53  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Brad Crowell 30:35  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 30:40  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.Brad Crowell 30:45  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 30:52  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.Brad Crowell 30:55  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.Transcribed by https://otter.aiSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Join Powerball winner and podcast host Timothy Schultz as he interviews Ashley, a recent Fantasy Five jackpot winner from Arizona who manifested an incredible $348,000 prize. In this inspiring conversation, Ashley reveals her burning intuition to buy the ticket, her use of manifestation techniques like EFT tapping and quantum jumping, and the life-changing impact of her win. She also discusses key resources, including Pam Grout's book “E-Squared” and Andrew Kap's “The Last Law of Attraction Book You'll Ever Need to Read.” Discover how she transformed her life and hear her advice for anyone hoping to win the lottery. Watch now for insights, tips, and a story that proves anything is possible!*

Pam Grout is a #1 New York Times Bestselling author, with 16 books, three plays, a TV series, and two iPhone apps to her name. Her articles have appeared in major publications like People, Travel & Leisure, and The Washington Post. A hopeless romantic and world traveler, Pam believes in the beauty of the world, the nobility of people, and the limitless possibilities of life.Pam's journey to success began with an affirmation she wrote 20 years ago, long before becoming a mother, author, or travel writer. After writing “E-Squared will become an international bestseller” on a beach in Georgia, her book went on to top the New York Times bestseller list and be translated into 40 languages. She's since published 20 books and written articles for top magazines, all while living in Lawrence, Kansas, with her daughter, Tasman.In addition to her career, Pam enjoys creativity, gardening, playing pickleball, and writing screenplays. She's traveled to every continent, volunteered at a women's prison and health clinic, and even started a luxury travel blog, George Clooney Slept Here. With a heart full of wonder, Pam's life is a testament to the power of affirmations, creativity, and believing in the impossible.https://pamgrout.com/Support the showBecome a Patreon Member today! Get access to podcast bonus segments, ask questions to podcast guests, and even suggest future podcast guests while supporting Warwick: https://www.patreon.com/journeyonpodcastWarwick has over 650 Online Training Videos that are designed to create a relaxed, connected, and skilled equine partner. Start your horse training journey today!https://videos.warwickschiller.com/Check us out on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WarwickschillerfanpageWatch hundreds of free Youtube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/warwickschillerFollow us on Instagram: @warwickschiller

In this powerful episode, I sit down with best-selling author, Pam Grout, to explore the profound journey of healing, love, and loss—and to discuss how, even in the darkest times, we can discover light and meaning. Pam and I share a bond beyond our love for quantum physics and a belief in manifestation. We've both faced unimaginable losses: We both lost both our parents as well as a child. I lost my son Sammy, while Pam lost her daughter to a sudden aneurysm. We've walked through the pain of these losses and emerged with a sense of grace connection that feels almost otherworldly. We both agree that “lost” doesn't feel quite right—our loved ones are gone, yet we still feel their presence, like gentle echoes guiding us forward. Pam shares how completing A Course in Miracles after her daughter's passing became a sanctuary and source of resilience, as writing has been for both of us. Together, we discuss how our work—whether through writing, teaching, or supporting others—has been shaped by these experiences.  Tune in to explore: How our beliefs shape our reality and how to manifest with purpose The healing power of daily gratitude Signs and symbols that connect us with loved ones who've passed Ways to cultivate appreciation in relationships and savor life's precious moments How to embrace difficult emotions to find clarity and peace Make sure to explore the E-Squared experiments on YouTube and dive into Pam's insightful books:, E-Squared, E-Cubed, A Course in Miracles, and God Doesn't Have Bad Hair Days. You can also connect with Pam on her website for more inspiration. And don't forget to check out all my courses and books on my website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Light Watkins Show, Light Watkins welcomes back best-selling author Pam Grout for an inspiring conversation about creativity, spirituality, and manifesting miracles. Pam, known for her popular books like E-Squared and Thank and Grow Rich, shares her journey of following her heart and trusting in the power of possibility.Listeners will learn how Pam's thoughts on manifesting your reality, based on her deep understanding of A Course in Miracles, can inspire them to see life from a fresh perspective. She talks about overcoming self-doubt, finding creative ideas, and how to start a project even when you're feeling unsure. Pam also opens up about the heartbreaking loss of her daughter, Taz, and how that experience deepened her connection to spirituality, leading her to create the 222 Foundation, which supports creative projects.Throughout the episode, Pam and Light dive into the idea that miracles can happen every day—if we're open to seeing them. They explore practical advice for how to shift from focusing on problems to embracing the endless possibilities around us. Whether you're a writer, a creative, or someone looking to add more joy to your life, Pam's wisdom is bound to resonate deeply.Tune in to discover how to tap into your inner power, quiet the voice of doubt, and take action on the ideas that light you up inside.Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!

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Matt and Garrett are fully caffeinated, hyped up, and chomping at the bit to unpack a common roadblock today: getting bogged down by problems and overlooking the solutions hiding in plain sight. Their conversation here today fully equips listeners with tools to cultivate a solution-oriented mindset.Emphasizing the power of stepping back from a problem, they note that, by detaching from the immediate frustration, listeners will gain a broader perspective which will in turn allow them to identify the underlying causes - not just the symptoms - of their challenges. Taking a step back gives you a clearer view of the entire landscape. Our hosts also delve into the importance of questioning assumptions, and how, all too often, we get fixated on a single interpretation of a problem, a mental rut that blinds us to alternative explanations and creative solutions. Throughout the episode, they share real-life examples to illustrate how questioning assumptions – like communication boundaries and time management – can unlock a wellspring of solutions. Ditch the dead ends and join Matt and Garrett today as they unveil the power of perspective shifts and a healthy dose of curiosity – you might be surprised by the solutions hiding just out of sight!Episode Highlights:0:00 Start0:33 Introduction2:26 Dangers of focusing on problems instead of solutions8:52 Focusing on the symptom(s)10:45 Pam Grout's E-Squared and finding solutions14:25 Acknowledging that a solution exists20:33 “Yes, and…”23:23 Every problem has a solutionKey Takeaways:"Sometimes consciously, we get in our way of actively trying to find the solution. Let your subconscious brain run in the background.""We're so focused on the problem that we can't see any solutions in front of us.""If you lean into there being a river in the way, the only thing you're going to see is the river.""Step back and ask, ‘What is my brain not allowing me to see?'""Sometimes the problem is not the problem - it's the symptom that takes our focus.""Every problem we face has symptoms and solutions. We need to go into discovery mode.""We get so focused on the details of how it will work, we forget to dream big.""If you know what you want and let go, your subconscious brain will find the solutions.""Instead of focusing on the problem, focus on where you want to be.""'Yes, and' will get you a lot further than ‘yes'.”Links:Life at Ten Tenths: lifeattentenths.comPam Grout's E-Squared: https://pamgrout.com/books-r-me-my-career-as-an-author/e-squared/

Today, I have the pleasure of sitting down with Pam Grout, author of the #1 New York Times bestselling book, E Squared. Pam is also an accomplished travel writer and director of the 222 Foundation, which she started to honor her daughter. We discuss manifestation and how we're  each doing it all the time to create the reality that we  perceive.  Pam Grout Claire Mooney HealthSparrow For Everyonefollow us on instagram: @gettingpsychic

We often think of film as a visual medium. But a carefully placed sound effect or a well crafted sonic atmosphere can evoke emotion just as profoundly. Can you imagine a movie like “Godzilla” without the monster's signature roar? Or the terrifying silence of “A Quiet Place?” For Erik Aadahl, the Oscar nominated sound designer behind both of those films, sound is the human sense tied closest to our emotions. We talk with Aadahl about what his work entails, how he sources sound for his films and how he creates soundscapes both otherworldly and joyous. What movies stand out to you for their sound? Guest: Erik Aadahl, sound designer; co-founder of the studio, E Squared - credits include "Transformers," "Godzilla," "A Quiet Place," "Argo," "Kung Fu Panda," and "The Creator"

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Author and spiritual teacher Pam Grout shares her journey of grief, joy, loss, miracles, and healing after losing her daughter. Pam talks about her bestselling books like "E Squared," "The Course In Miracles Experiment," her foundation in honor of her daughter, the role of synchronicities & manifestation, and more. A psychic told Pam she'd have a daughter. At age 36 and single, she didn't think it was true. Taz turned out to be a turning point in Pam's life, even though Taz would only remain in the physical for 25 years.We explore the following:* Pam's incredible bond with her late daughter Tasmin and how Tasmin continues to send her miraculous signs* Allowing grief and possibility to coexist through choosing empowering stories* Pam's transformative spiritual journey and lessons after losing TasminInsights from "A Course in Miracles" and practicing forgiveness* Understanding intuition vs intellect and moving from knowledge to wisdom* Thinking quantumly, the invisible forces that shape our reality*Letting go of control and expectations to allow miracles and magicWhether you're navigating loss or seeking to expand your spiritual growth, this interview invites you to open your mind and heart.00:00 - Introduction02:02 - Pam shares about her daughter Tasmin08:40 - Pam's experience of sudden loss10:38 - Was Pam's motherhood pre-destined?17:29 - The ongoing hedgehog miracles from Tasmin20:34 - Did Pam and Tasmin plan this life together?22:25 - Tasmin as an "old soul" who came to spread love24:55 - How losing Tasmin changed Pam's writing and focus27:04 - Overview of Pam's book "E Squared"29:26 - If we create our own reality, would we choose grief?32:31 - Stories of unexpected money manifestations34:57 - The reality of synchronicities and unseen forces40:17 - Skeptics finding validation in Pam's books41:17 Discuss podcast episodesShare resourcesTake courses Have genuine conversations with like-minded peopleTo apply, visit grief2growth.com/community If you'd like to support me financially, it's now super-easy. Visit https://www.grief2growth.com/subscribe You can pledge as little as $3/month. Of course, you can commit more.Premium subscribers will get access to periodic bonus episodes and the regular episodes you've come to expect from me.Thanks to all for listening. Thanks to you who share the podcast. And thanks to the financial contributors. I've been studying Near Death Experiences for many years now. I am 100% convinced they are real. In this short, free ebook, I not only explain why I believe NDEs are real, I share some of the universal secrets brought back by people who have had them.https://www.grief2growth.com/ndelessons Got questions? Comments? Did you like love this or hate it?Join me and other listeners after the show and share your thoughts.grief2growth.circle.soGrief 2 Growth Community CircleSupport the show

Dig into Christian de la Huerta's teachings on the ego mindset and its impact on our lives in today's recap episode. Brad and Lesley discuss how breathwork can be a powerful tool in breaking free from ego-driven limitations and the role of breathwork in achieving a deeper sense of self.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:The possibilities if you are kind to yourself and speak positively about your abilities.Why breathwork and shamanic experiences involve transcending the limited ego mind.Practical steps to overcome and understand how the ego mind works.How breathwork can change your life and help you become more aware of what's going on within us. Why you should reflect on the lessons learned from past failures as valuable experiences.  Episode References/Links:Christian de la Huerta Website - eLevate Mentorship - lesleylogan.co/elevateCambodia Waitlist - lesleylogan.co/retreats Agency Mini 10 - profitablepilates.com/miniThe Wheel of Time - https://a.co/d/7i97mGGBe a Happy Leader - https://a.co/d/0GY4B7dAwakening the Soul of Power - https://a.co/d/0GY4B7dMoney: A Love Story - https://a.co/d/gGBRtuLWe Should All Be Millionaires - https://a.co/d/aYzq8IDThe Four Agreements - https://a.co/d/gnynUQaThe Body Is Not an Apology - https://a.co/d/078hiHOE-Squared - https://a.co/d/1hlorD2The Body Keeps the Score - https://a.co/d/hqPoMERachel White's The Skeptical Shaman - https://www.totemreadings.com/Brene Brown Podcast Episode with Sonya Renee Taylor - https://beitpod.com/brenebrownpodcast  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. Get your free Athletic Greens 1 year supply of Vitamin D3+K2 and 5 free travel packsGet your discount for some Toe Sox using the code: LESLEY Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesFollow Us on Social Media:InstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:00  One of the things that I love that he said which is actually it goes back to what I was talking about with Sonny Renee Taylor is not only are we wasting our potential in terms what we think about but it's worse than that we do such a number on ourselves with our negative self talk. We feed the self doubt.Lesley Logan 0:14  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Brad Crowell 0:56  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life Lesley and I are gonna dig into the restorative convo that she had with Christian de la Huerta in our last episode. If you have not yet listened to that interview, feel free to pause this right now and look at Lesley's face on YouTube because I stole our intro and then go back and listen to Christian and Lesley chit-chatting, which was an amazing episode, like, really funny actually, I literally laughed out loud in the grocery store while I was listening to this, and then come back and listen to this one and join us for this recap. It's worth it y'all it's a good one.Lesley Logan 1:34  Oh my gosh. And you did it so well. It was your first try. Not really irritates me you did it so well. And it's your first try. I practice, I fuck it up all the time and you did it so random. Brad Crowell 1:49  You do amazing, love, you do so well. I love it. Today is JanuaryLesley Logan 1:55  No, it's my turn. It's my turn. My turn. It is National Can Do Day. Talk about it. Be it till you see it day. It encourages us to do things we are capable of doing and that we always dreamt of. It motivates us to concentrate our strengths and turn our dreams into a reality through determination and willpower. Brad Crowell 2:13  Love it. National Can Do Day. Lesley Logan 2:17  Yeah, I love a can-do attitude. Brad Crowell 2:19  Yeah. I mean, you know what else? What is? What is be it till you see it? You know, what else is it? Lesley Logan 2:25  Yeah. I can do it. You can do it. Today, we're in Sedona, Arizona. Love how that sounds. Brad Crowell 2:31  That's the only reason I started remembering Sedona because I kept getting stuck with all the S's we've got Sarasota springs, we've got Saratoga, no Saratoga Springs, Sarasota, Florida. And then Sedona couldn't I just couldn't bring it up. But until they went Sedona, Arizona and Arizona, I was like it's in Arizona and Sedona, Arizona. Lesley Logan 2:53  And also like we had some people were like, I want to have lunch with you. I'm like, I know, but I want to have lunch to this one spot. And they don't even know if it's on the route. But I want to have lunch to this one spot. Brad Crowell 3:02  Sure, we'll figure it out (inaudible). Lesley Logan 3:05  So if you want to drive further up the road, then like we're gonna have lunch in this one spot. Anyways, so excited, it's the last stop.Brad Crowell 3:12  Holy macaroni. We have been on the road for 28 days, y'all. And we will be home tonight.Lesley Logan 3:18  I know. I know. I know. And then I kick off eLevate tomorrow. And so here is the deal y'all. Brad Crowell 3:24  I guess we better make it home. Lesley Logan 3:25  Better make it home. (Inaudible) Here's the deal. If you were like fuck, I was gonna do that eLevate mentorship, I've been really wanting that. The kickoff call is something you could miss because we actually start in February.Brad Crowell 3:38  Yeah, the first weekend workshop is February. Lesley Logan 3:40  My goal and hope is that this is filled with the 12 Amazing people by the time that this comes out, but it's possible that you could still get in because actually in round three, we had a girl, Alexis, who listens to this podcast. And she's like, I wonder if there's a spot and we happen to have someone had a family emergency drop out. And she got their spot. It's true one week before we started. So I'm just saying peeps, that could be you. It could be you and my mentorship is for teachers who are tired of burning out tired of pre-planning tired of feeling insecure, low confidence, imposter syndrome. And also we'd like to understand what Joe supplies why behind the what was. I'm gonna teach you that so lesleylogon.co/elevate is what you want to go to. Brad Crowell 4:21  Do it.Lesley Logan 4:21  And then in a couple of weeksBrad Crowell 4:23  Stay tuned. Lesley Logan 4:24  If you are on the waitlist for the Cambodia retreat. Brad Crowell 4:27  That's right. Key detail there. Those who are on the waitlist. On the waitlist.Lesley Logan 4:34  They get the best deal on the retreat and it will come into your inbox in a couple of weeks, mid-January. And then if there's any spots left we'll go public, but you won't get as good of a deal as it was on the waitlist. You go to lesleylogon.co/retreats plural retreat with an S, if you want to know what plural means, and I don't know sometimes my words don't sound right so I was likeBrad Crowell 5:01  You're nailing it babe. That'll get you on the waitlist and then we will be emailing everyone in a few weeks. In a couple of weeks, sorry. And you will get the details on when we're going to Kampuchea, Cambodia.Lesley Logan 5:04  And then after we celebrate my birthday, it is Agency Mini Number 10. It's six years of Agency, our coaching group for fitness instructors, Pilates instructors and studio owners. And our agency is now six, six years old. And you wanna know something we have still two of the original members. Brad Crowell 5:33  You wanna know something.Lesley Logan 5:34  You wanna know, you wanna know something. We have two, we have two of the original five members. Yes, that's right. Five people. Five people. And two are still with us. Way to go ladies. And then we have dozens who have been with us for five and then Brad Crowell 5:53  Four, three, totally. Lesley Logan 5:54  If you go half our members have been with us for four like four or more. It's like just fucking awesome. Like, it's so fun to see what they're doing. We've got folks launching, we've got people buying extra studios, we've got people, it's just amazing. Brad Crowell 6:05  Yeah, courses. Now they're leading retreats, they're they're doing all the things. It's like, really encouraging and exciting to see them build a solid foundation in their core business and then branch out. It's awesome. Lesley Logan 6:18  But if you want seven days of coaching, getting any questions you ever had on your mind answered, honestly. And you want that for $67 or less? Yeah, you heard me right. $67 or less. You want to go to Agency Mini on the waitlist, its profitablepilates.com/mini.Brad Crowell 6:39  profitablepilates.com/mini. And I I'm not going to spill the beans, but we have a we've been making some changes, some very exciting changes in the program, and what it's going to look like after Mini is over. So I cannot wait to reveal all of that. To the Mini members. Lesley Logan 7:01  All right. Before we get into the amazing interview that had you cracking up. I'm literally like, what, we were funny? I did love him. We have an audience question to answer. Brad Crowell 7:10  Yes. What are the latest books that you are reading? Lesley Logan 7:15  Yeah, I love answering this question. So you can keep saying I answered every several months because it comes through because there's different books. And Brad is like really into his books. But I'mBrad Crowell 7:24  Just super into ebooks. In fact, my books have taken over my podcast time and I have not listened to podcasts now in two months.Lesley Logan 7:32  Wow. I know more than you that's happening in the world. Brad Crowell 7:34  Yeah, yeah. 100%. I'm, like completely disconnected, which is really weird for me, because I'm a political news junkie. And I love to stay up on everything. And I have been sucked into these books that Lesley Logan 7:47  You wanna tell them what the books are?Brad Crowell 7:48  Yeah. Yeah, I started reading this series when I was probably 10. Maybe 12? I don't know. I guess I was in middle school. So, 13, 13 because that's when I got into seventh grade. My friends, we're reading them. It's a it's a series called The Wheel of Time. It's by Robert Jordan. He is he kind of picked up the mantle of the epic saga that was created by you know, the the Lord of the Rings series and Lesley Logan 8:18  The hero's journey. Brad Crowell 8:20  Yeah, this is this is it's it goes on and on and on. But this this one is amazing. Robert Jordan really took it to the next level. It's 15 books in the series. And each book is probably between 500 and 1000 pages pages long. And I've been listening to them on audiobooks. And I can't recommend that enough. It is just an unbelievable journey. And it's awesome. So yeah, for me, that's what I've been really spending my free time with. And the other day I went and I downloaded a whole bunch of business books, and I looked at him and said, I do business all day for my job. And my listening time is me time. And so I've been just enjoying my books.Lesley Logan 9:08  Yeah. Well, I love that. My books are all probably business.Brad Crowell 9:14  That's okay. That's not a bad thing.Lesley Logan 9:18  So I should have wrote this down. It's Tia Graham's book. Something about happy leaders to Graham. What is her book? She's gonna be on the podcast. Brad Crowell 9:28  Be a Happy Leader: Stop Feeling Overwhelmed. Lesley Logan 9:32  Yes. So she I'm reading her book, or by the time you've listened to this I've read her book. I'm really excited about it. Also Awakening the Soul of Power is Christian's latest book and it is also was traveled with me on this tour for me to read into which was already started it before I interviewed him and I'm finishing it. And then I started listening to Money: A Love Swith Kate Northrup, which is an old book but I just heard about it. And it made me think of We Shall be Millionaires. And which I still want. I still want the author of We Shall Be Millionaires on this podcast. My listeners, I need your help. I need her to want to be on my podcast y'all.Brad Crowell 10:17  Rachel Rogers. Lesley Logan 10:18  Rachel Rogers. She's amazing. She's amazing. And then we're actually doing the book list for next year's book club for Agency members, which is completely voluntary, and they're not allowed to be overwhelmed by being in the book club. They are supposed to be a responsible book lover, which is, you won't read the book if you're overwhelmed. And one of the books that we're actually thinking of bringing in is the Four Agreements, which is old easy, you guys. I read it on a flight to Nashville, and I finished it before the fight was over. And I was a little pissed. But it's such a great it's like essential rules to live by. I really love that one. And it makes me think of one more book that I probably mentioned before the holy fucking moly, it's January, let's bring it up. Brad Crowell 11:05  I already know where you're going. Lesley Logan 11:06  Do you?Brad Crowell 11:07  Yeah.Lesley Logan 11:07  The body is not an apology. Brad Crowell 11:09  No, that's not what I thought you're gonna say. Lesley Logan 11:11  Well, then you can bring that up what you thought I was gonna say. Brad Crowell 11:13  I don't know the name of it, but it's the one the Lesley Logan 11:17  The Big Leap. Brad Crowell 11:17  That one where you pour coffee for two preconceivedLesley Logan 11:21  Oh, shit. That's a good one. Okay. Well, let me get to all those in a second. So The Body is not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor. I highly recommend the audible on that. She reads it herself. And then I also recommend you listening to her interview on Brene Browns podcast years ago, I listened to it in 2020 might have been 2021. And y'all have got to stop shaming and judging yourself about your body and punishing yourself. Nothing pissed me off more than two days after Thanksgiving. Watching every fitness thing out there going. All right, here's your workout to burn off that Turkey. We do not work out to punish ourselves for what we did two days ago. We work out to be stronger, to have longevity, to have better posture to have energy, stamina, strength, positivity, confidence, all the things we have to. So anyways, The Body is no an Apology is an amazing book. And I highly recommend that interview with her because it really helps you go whoa, me being distracted by what I think people are staring at, which they're not, is keeping you from being super powerful in this world. And that's put the people in power want because then you're not able to kick their pedestal out. Anyways. You're talking about the, not The Big Leap, but the other one. Oh, E-Squared, E-Squared, Pam Grout. It's a little blue. But I think you should do it. Because I poured coffee for two and I have a husband. I'm justBrad Crowell 12:55  That's the secret y'all. Brad Crowell 12:56  That's the secret. Lesley Logan 12:57  You automatically, you magically get a husband if you pour coffee for two.Lesley Logan 13:00  It was like chapter four. That's actually I don't know that was in the book. But chapter four or five was like Brad Crowell 13:05  Pam Grout is gonna be so excited about hearing (inaudible). Lesley Logan 13:07  Pam Grout, come on the podcast. Brad Crowell 13:08  Come on the podcast. Lesley Logan 13:09  How do we get Pam Grout get oh Google alert about us. Pam Grout let's say it one more time. But she I don't even know where the if the coffee for two came from E-Squared. But what did come from E-Squared was me writing your name down and hoping that you would like not hoping but like you write the name down and then like the universe makes you call me. So anyways, all those books are amazingBrad Crowell 13:32  She has a new one. E-Cubed. Lesley Logan 13:34  It's not that new. And I haven't read it yet. But I will. Maybe I'll read that next.Brad Crowell 13:41  All right, now let's talk about Christian de la Huerta. Christian is a renowned spiritual teacher and transformation coach. He's an award-winning author who has spoken at universities, conferences and TEDx talks. His latest book, Awakening the Soul of Power, explores themes of empowerment, conscious relationships, and spiritual transformation. Listening to him was so peaceful. Lesley Logan 14:10  I know I want him to do a sleep story. Christian, if you're listening, do you have a sleep story? If you don't may recommend that you just read someone else's stories. Like any story, it can be Baa Baa Black Sheep, whatever it is, and put it on Spotify. I need about eight hours of it and I will out you can just be my sleep. Um, this is my request. This is my you know, like, just love him. And so he's just a gentle soul. And when I was talking to him, I was like, Oh, where are you? And he's like, where am I? He was like in Colombia. And he's living the Nomad life. And I just really love that about him. He's just, you know, he's doing his thing and he's so easy to talk to. His book is full of all this amazing stuff. And one of the things that I love that he said, which is actually it goes back to what I was talking about with Sunday morning Taylor is not only are we wasting our potential in terms of what we think about but it's worse than that we do such a number on ourselves with our negative self-talk. We feed the self-doubt. Lesley Logan 15:10  So we are so good at overthinking negative stuff about ourselves. And then it's, you think it's just happening in your brain. But y'all, it is happening to your body. And then it is out also affecting how you show up in this world. You are dimming your fucking light so much, people don't, people don't get to experience what you are the only person in this world who can do what you do, you're it. And like you. I was talking to Jessica Pompano today. And she was, we have a podcast episode come out with her, and we're talking about how she's in clothing and styling and like women who don't like a part of their body, they'll just wear bigger baggier clothes to hide it. And she's like, that actually isn't making you feel good either. Because you just wearing a bigger baggier clothes. And her big thing is about highlighting your biggest asset, and what that does for us. And so I just I say this, because if you are sitting here being hard on yourself at any point, in your day you are taking, you're literally holding yourself back from hitting the goals that you have. Because you're slowing yourself down. Because why on earth if you judge yourself for how you look? Or how you said something, or how you did something? How is that also going to have the energy to like, take on a new challenge? You've killed all your powerful energy. Yeah, you're like, if you think of a video game, it's like when you get hit by like, you get that little warning shot where your power goes down. And then like that you did that that's you talk to you about yourself and like, oh, but I'm going to take on this big powerful like ruler boss, right? You can't do it.Brad Crowell 16:57  I mean, I think about like Mario Kart, you know, when you are going full speed and you you got hit by a shell. You're okay, your momentum is gone and have to work your way back up to that full speed. Lesley Logan 17:09  It's so much harder to do it. It's so much harder. Could you win? Sure. I've won many video games that I play with, like my worst little guys. Because like after hours of playing it going, that's gonna go. But if you if you were actually to be kind yourself, talk yourself up. Imagine what you could do. And I look, if you're a narcissistic asshole, that's probably a dangerous thing. But if you listen to this podcast, it's because you're not. So I don't feel bad. And I'm not worried about this information being in your ears.Brad Crowell 17:41  You know, he talked about the limiting role of our ego. When he was discussing the benefits of breathwork and its healing effects. You guys had a quick super side note here, I thought was really interesting that he was raised in super Catholic family, and then got into, like, the healing nature of breathwork and how much of a problem his parents had with that. And instead of him like, not going to be a doctor, psychologist, I mean, that I thought was really funny. But he said that both breathwork and shamanic experiences involve transcending the limited ego mind and experience a sense of expanding identity. This is a lot too, for me to like, be like, Yeah, I'm excited about that. But Lesley Logan 18:29  You just said shamanic, which is Brad Crowell 18:31  I did say shamanic. It's shamanic.Lesley Logan 18:33  Yeah. But also like, I never like Brad Crowell 18:35  Shaman. Lesley Logan 18:36  Yeah. We just had a shaman on so like, we're, just a skeptical shaman. Brad Crowell 18:41  A skeptical shaman, yeah, skeptical shaman, badass. Breathwork and shamanic experiences evolve, transcending the limited ego mind. And I think that's actually the clutch. The the, that's the crux of it is the the ego is the limiting factor. Right? We all have ego, whether you are like this, you know, verbose, arrogant, like in your face, like ego, or you're diminutive and soft spoken. And whatever. Lesley Logan 19:18  Oh. By the way, being a people pleaser is your ego. Brad Crowell 19:20  That's well, that's, that's what I mean. It's exactly it's the opposite of the, you know, the arrogant fool. But it's still ego. It's actually still ego. It's just the other side of the spectrum of ego. And we all deal with these things. And so he kind of talks about the limited ego mind, which I've never heard it phrased that way before, and how breathwork can help break through and shamanic experiences. You know, I didn't really understand all the things he was talking about with that, but you know, specifically the breathwork part I can can relate to because that is in my life, mostly through you, Lesley, but you know, our ego can dominate everything, it dominates the way that we perceive ourselves the way we perceive others. Brad Crowell 20:14  And, you know, ultimately, his conclusion is that it's an illusion, right? Even if, like, I thought it was interesting, like he'd started talking, go like on another level where he's like, Yeah, you know, you're Lesley, but even Lesley's an illusion. And I was like, okay, I might not be there quite yet. But, you know, I understand where he's going with how the way we perceive ourselves the way we define ourselves, you know, our worldview, like, however you want to call this thing. You know, it's a story we've made up, you know, whether that is a story that we were taught when we were kids, and we adopted and we're holding that on to today? Or, you know, it's something that we've told ourselves the whole time, you know, or or, you know, I just found it really interesting that his focus on breathwork was to battle ego. Brad Crowell 20:26  Yeah, well, because the, the actual thing is that trauma leaves the body through movement and breath. So, I'm not denouncing therapy, I fucking love my therapist, but she's also a somatic therapist. So we did a lot of like, different kinds of things there. But you can talk things out all you want. But if you really want to release some things in your life, it's probably happening through your movement as well. So if you find yourself crying or frustratedLesley Logan 21:08  Well, what's the book, the body never forgets? Lesley Logan 21:40  The Body Keeps the Score.Brad Crowell 21:41  The Body Keeps the Score. Yeah. And that very interesting, because the movement is what release release that the trauma through the like the book that we're talking about in that bookLesley Logan 21:53  Actually, just a little side note, we actually have a course on Profitable Pilates that is from a true therapist, licensed therapist. That is, I was really excited to get on our site, because as teachers, you don't even want to be a teacher, you guys, if you have a friend who just like our family member or something like you're like, what is happening, like, everything was good, and now you're crying? And we're like, It's okay. You're okay. Everything's okay. Like when babies are crying like, you're okay, you're fine. What if you actually said, how long have you been feeling this way? How long have you been feeling this way. And that's what (inaudible) gave us, as teachers to ask people, because I've had clients on myself, like you're just crying. And it's like, and you're embarrassed and other stuff, and what the person says next can make you bottle it back up, or let it go. And if you're someone who's around someone who's like, having some sort of release, and oftentimes don't even know what they're releasing, because we're going back to Dr. Bender's episode, she's like, don't try to reason with what you're feeling. Because logic is probably going to be wrong. If you just say how long you've been feeling this way, it allows the person to just like take a moment and pause and actually kind of be with what they're feeling as opposed to bottling it back in. And as a teacher, it is actually out of my scope to therapize anyone. So the next step, I could say is like, well, you know, if you feel like this is something you are needing to work on, you know, may I suggest a few things, right? So like, and then I can recommend, I actually cannot actually give true, like, go see this person technically. But that is something for those of you it's a really great response and saying it's okay, or I'm sorry, those two phrases, actually are not the best phrases as a response for someone who is releasing something from their body. And as a breathwork professional, when someone is crying in breathwork, actually, do try not to actually acknowledge it all. Because I don't want them to, I don't know what their tendencies are. So if their tendency is to do things for attention, if I were to acknowledge that then I could be going into that. So it is more important that you just release it, and then we don't attach anything to it, that you just get to let it go like a cloud going by. So at any rate, I think it's really important to know it's okay to feel weird things when you're moving.Lesley Logan 22:10  Yeah, yeah. I mean, I, uh, it's been a long time since I've experienced that because I remember the reason that I started going to yoga in the first place, you know, because it just felt like trash. You know, in my mind, my body wasn't like, hurting so much. But my I just felt like a terrible human. And, and it took a long time to work through that. But yoga really helped me in that movement. But just bringing it back to Christian overcoming the ego's limitation is essential for self-awareness and spiritual growth and how do you overcome the ego? You have to understand how the ego mind works. And he has a book about that. And he actually has practical steps in that book. And the book is Awakening the Soul of Power. Brad Crowell 24:34  You guys, Gloria Estefan, she wrote a little quote for him. And I'm sorry, Christian, I'm just gonna say this. I saw her name. And I was like, I love Gloria Estefan, so of course, I read your book. But I love it. It's so good. I'm so glad I'm so grateful for Gloria Estefan.Brad Crowell 25:58  But But in I thought, I thought what was interesting was that he has practical steps to understand the ego.Lesley Logan 26:07  Yeah, which we all need to understand because there's that there's other there's tons of books on ego. But Brad Crowell 26:14  We've talked about ego as the enemy before. Lesley Logan 26:16  Yeah. And also like, I'm sure it's great. I know you've read it. But I also think like, great, it's the enemy. Now what, what do you do about that? And that's where I think Christian book comes in, because it's like, here's what the ego is, and here's how you can work with it. And so you guys, if you are struggling with imposter syndrome, if you are people pleasing, if you're playing small, it's all egoBrad Crowell 26:42  If you're afraid to talk to people to sell them Pilates. Lesley Logan 26:45  Right. Or if you are afraid to put your, ladies we already know this, the science is in, If you have nine out of 10 requirements for a job, you don't apply. That's ego. You think you need that 10th thing before you can apply for something, that's your ego, you know.Brad Crowell 27:03  Or if you feel like you need another certification in order to be qualified that's also ego.  Lesley Logan 27:10  So um, so anyways, Christian is amazing, I really hope we get to run into him. I meanBrad Crowell 27:17  He's like bopping around the wall.Lesley Logan 27:18  Bopping around, but if you have like a retreat or something and like, you know, send your girl a note.Brad Crowell 27:25  I think he does. He did mention retreats. Lesley Logan 27:27  Oh, we should go on one. What a vacation. Brad Crowell 27:29  That'd be amazing. Lesley Logan 27:30  Let's do it. I'm in. Okay, I'm in. Whatever it is, I'm in. Brad Crowell 27:34  All right, so finally, let's talk about those Be It Action Items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items, can we take away from your convo with Christian de la Huerta. He said, deepen your relationship with the breath. Because doing so can change your life. He talked about short, long, breathwork sessions, like could be 30 seconds, it could be 90 minutes. One thing he also mentioned that I thought was interesting was it's the exhale that people don't focus on. Because when you don't exhale enough, you end up taking in you're inhaling really shallow breaths. Lesley Logan 28:16  Yeah. And Joseph Pilates was really big on the exhale. He said if you don't exhale, your lungs are a cemetery for disease and infection. Brad Crowell 28:24  Well, I mean, it affects everything. You know. Lesley Logan 28:28  Also shallow breath just starts causing stress. So.Brad Crowell 28:31  But uh, you know, he said that, it can, if you want, he started talking about putting a timer on your phone, where you can just take a quick evaluation of yourself, like, every hour on the hour, like, use that to be like, how do I feel right now? You know, do I, should I do (inhale-exhale) you know, like, can you how can that like, what happens if you do that? You know, and you also complimented him on how he looks? And he's like, I attribute it to breathwork 100%.Brad Crowell 28:31  Because he's not. He's young, obviously. Brad Crowell 28:39  But he's been doing this for 30 years. Lesley Logan 28:45  He how old is he? Because I think we (inaudible) his age. Brad Crowell 28:58  He didn't say. Lesley Logan 28:59  Oh, okay, well, I feel like I know. And he looks really good.Brad Crowell 29:20  Yes. But he said that it's about becoming more mindful, attentive and more aware of what's going on within us when you notice your breath. What about you?Lesley Logan 29:30  Okay, so he said, we talked about missed opportunities, and the things we don't intend to do because we're fear of failure. But he actually believes there's no such thing as failure. Because if you learn from it, then it's not failure at all. We're actually becoming better human beings from it. And what I I really love about that is like if there's anything you feel you failed at, what if you actually just took a look back what you learned from that? And then can you just change that from failure to experience or achievement even, you know like God I fucking I you know what? I'm so pissed at the A's straight A's and the F's from the great I'm not saying I'm for everyone gets a trophy. I'm not that girl. Don't worry about it. There's a ton of psychology on how that doesn't work. But the fact that we are so obsessed as children at a certain age, it happens around Junior High sixth grade with what letter is on your report card, which is just how you test, it has nothing to do with the journey that got you to the test, pisses me the fuck off because it made me this overachiever just fucking stressed case sometimes. Thank God for breathwork and my (inaudible) mat and my red lights and all the things. But I, what I hope as a recovering perfectionist and overachiever, I have been able to do is like, I am very proud of how we do not harp on the goals we've missed. We really do go, well, we didn't do that. Okay, we didn't do that. We should have done this. Okay, we didn't do that. Okay, well, what can like we do it as a team, which makes it really helpful. So may I suggest, you don't need to have a teammate to do this, but before you start harping on yourself about something you didn't do well, I don't know. Maybe you introduced yourself, weirdly, or you like stumbled into an interview and like you feel like you embarrass yourself. Just take a moment and go what did I learn from that? And what if that isn't a failure? And by the way, if your best friend told you about this, would you go you fucking failed? God, you, like you wouldn't do it. So like, what would you say if your best... jeez, you suck. Like, God, how many times are you gonna fail? Like, what if you treated yourself in that moment, like your best friend went through that and what would you say to that person? Right. So Christian, can we be friends? Okay, sign me up for the next retreat. I'm in. And also, thank you for being here. And this amazing book is just wonderful. And it's the next read y'all so check out the show notes and get your version.Lesley Logan 29:44   All right, loves I'm Lesley Logan. Lesley Logan 32:11  And I'm Brad Crowell and you just missed the hilarious joke. Lesley Logan 32:16  We're amazing. Brad Crowell 32:17  We're amazing. Lesley Logan 32:18  So is Christian. So are you. So how are you going to use these tips in your life? We want to know. Tag the Be It Pod. Tag Christian, he's gonna want to hear from you. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 32:28  Bye for now.Lesley Logan 32:30  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Lesley Logan 32:58  Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. Brad Crowell 33:01  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan and me, Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 33:06  It is produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo. Brad Crowell 33:10  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music, and our branding by designer and artist Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 33:10  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals and Ximena Velazquez for our transcriptions. Brad Crowell 33:16  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all the content to our website. And finally to Meridith Crowell for keeping us all on point and on time.   Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

South African startup Eagle Eye Defence has developed an in-vehicle security system that uses fingerprint verification to start the power train. Cofounder Iviwe Mosana describes Eagle Eye Defence as a "tech-enabled asset security company, which looks at the provision of preventative, detective and corrective measures to ensure ultimate asset protection". "Our current device is a multi-faceted authenticator for assets (mainly vehicles), which provides a complete usage block until a valid biometric measure is presented, in addition to having the correct vehicle key." Mosana is from Mdantsane in the Eastern Cape. He is an accountant by profession, and holds a BCom Financial Accounting (CA Stream) degree, as well as a postgraduate diploma in accounting from UCT. He has more than seven years' experience in the retail and security industry. Eagle Eye's other cofounder, Naadir Vorajee, is from Ladysmith in KwaZulu-Natal. Vorajee is an engineer by profession, and has a BSc degree in mechatronics, as well as a master's degree with a focus on electrical components. Mosana says the spark for what would become Eagle Eye Defence arrived in 2016, as he witnessed his younger brother's heartbreak as he lost two of his friends, both minors, in an accident where they used their parents' vehicle without consent. "This made us aware of the weakened control environment within the asset environment," says Mosana. "When addressing control, Naadir and I came to the understanding that we should not only look at the ability to direct the use of an asset, but that it should also encompass the ability to hinder movement." The system "verifies that the correct, authorised individual is about to make use of the vehicle", says Mosana. "Without an approved biometric, the system does not allow for the use of the key. "We have conducted several tests, in controlled environments, on several vehicles, without limitation, so we can safely say that installation can happen in any vehicle as it stands. "Once available, the tech will be available for installation with our partner companies, which will be announced prior to our intended launch date in June," says Mosana. "We are currently working on the system's cosmetic features and further efficiency improvements, prior to our final approval application with the Independent Communications Authority of South Africa (Icasa)," he adds. "We have a provisional type approval with Icasa, which has allowed us to install our units in a controlled environment for testing, research and demonstration purposes." Eagle Eye's biometric system is an aftermarket installation, and the team aims to secure a spot on the approved list of vehicle manufacturers' aftermarket parts. "The cost is estimated to be anywhere between R400 to R580 a month on a subscription model," says Mosana. "This cost could potentially be absorbed by some key potential partners, such as insurance companies, given the reasonable assurance it provides." Mosana says while the system currently employs fingerprint verification, Eagle Eye is investigating the introduction of other biometric options. "The technology is also linked to a web-app to allow for access to additional functionality, such as remote disabling, the tracking of vehicles and driver allocations." Mosana says he and Vorajee believe their technology will set a new security standard within the insurance, rental and leasing, fleet management, public transportation and e-hailing sectors. "E-Squared has been working closely with us throughout the development of our device and we remain eternally grateful to them," he adds.

South African startup Eagle Eye Defence has developed an in-vehicle security system that uses fingerprint verification to start the power train. Cofounder Iviwe Mosana describes Eagle Eye Defence as a "tech-enabled asset security company, which looks at the provision of preventative, detective and corrective measures to ensure ultimate asset protection". "Our current device is a multi-faceted authenticator for assets (mainly vehicles), which provides a complete usage block until a valid biometric measure is presented, in addition to having the correct vehicle key." Mosana is from Mdantsane in the Eastern Cape. He is an accountant by profession, and holds a BCom Financial Accounting (CA Stream) degree, as well as a postgraduate diploma in accounting from UCT. He has more than seven years' experience in the retail and security industry. Eagle Eye's other cofounder, Naadir Vorajee, is from Ladysmith in KwaZulu-Natal. Vorajee is an engineer by profession, and has a BSc degree in mechatronics, as well as a master's degree with a focus on electrical components. Mosana says the spark for what would become Eagle Eye Defence arrived in 2016, as he witnessed his younger brother's heartbreak as he lost two of his friends, both minors, in an accident where they used their parents' vehicle without consent. "This made us aware of the weakened control environment within the asset environment," says Mosana. "When addressing control, Naadir and I came to the understanding that we should not only look at the ability to direct the use of an asset, but that it should also encompass the ability to hinder movement." The system "verifies that the correct, authorised individual is about to make use of the vehicle", says Mosana. "Without an approved biometric, the system does not allow for the use of the key. "We have conducted several tests, in controlled environments, on several vehicles, without limitation, so we can safely say that installation can happen in any vehicle as it stands. "Once available, the tech will be available for installation with our partner companies, which will be announced prior to our intended launch date in June," says Mosana. "We are currently working on the system's cosmetic features and further efficiency improvements, prior to our final approval application with the Independent Communications Authority of South Africa (Icasa)," he adds. "We have a provisional type approval with Icasa, which has allowed us to install our units in a controlled environment for testing, research and demonstration purposes." Eagle Eye's biometric system is an aftermarket installation, and the team aims to secure a spot on the approved list of vehicle manufacturers' aftermarket parts. "The cost is estimated to be anywhere between R400 to R580 a month on a subscription model," says Mosana. "This cost could potentially be absorbed by some key potential partners, such as insurance companies, given the reasonable assurance it provides." Mosana says while the system currently employs fingerprint verification, Eagle Eye is investigating the introduction of other biometric options. "The technology is also linked to a web-app to allow for access to additional functionality, such as remote disabling, the tracking of vehicles and driver allocations." Mosana says he and Vorajee believe their technology will set a new security standard within the insurance, rental and leasing, fleet management, public transportation and e-hailing sectors. "E-Squared has been working closely with us throughout the development of our device and we remain eternally grateful to them," he adds.

EPISODE #977 THE NSA AND COUNTDOWN TO ARRIVAL Richard welcomes a 21-year old college student who goes by the name E-Squared and his father, Sam Squared, who discuss an Above-Top-Secret NSA document of which they are in possession which points to the arrival on Earth of an ET civilization in our very near future. WEBSITE: https://countdowntoarrival.com BOOK: Countdown to Arrival: A True Prophecy of Upcoming World Events Sent Back from the Future SUPPORT MY SPONSORS!!! UNCOMMON GOODS - "We're All Out of the Ordinary!" Cool, Unique, and Unusual Gifts! To get 15% off your next gift, go to https://www.uncommongoods.com/podcast/strangeplanet BECOME A PREMIUM SUBSCRIBER!!! https://strangeplanet.supportingcast.fm Use the discount code "Planet" to receive one month off the first subscription. We and our partners use cookies to personalize your experience, to show you ads based on your interests, and for measurement and analytics purposes. By using our website and services, you agree to our use of cookies as described in our Cookie Policy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://strangeplanet.supportingcast.fm/

Are you keeping your energy in check to protect yourself or other people? Claire continues to follow the aura camera around. We considered calling this The Plastic Shaming episode, instead we give you some cool plastic-free home, skin and haircare recs! We close with some heart-warming words of wisdom for the Psychics.  Akashic teacher Nia TraceyTurn Your Shine Onlaurdry Detergent referral DroppsAfterworld Organics Hair Glow (shampoo)Oway haircares4e The hair cream Fat and the moon shampoo and condish Oceanly facial cleanserPam Grout manifestation books:eSquared and e cubedJoe Dispenza self healing book  :You Are The Placebo clairemooneyhealth.comsparrowforeveryone.coms4ehair.comsparrowhair.com

When NX-01 tries to take the shortcut on the space county road, they run into themselves in " E Squared"! Space Elf General Brewster and friends thinks it is gonna be one way...but will it be the other?

Are you ready to try Energy Law of Attraction experiments to prove that your thoughts create your Reality? Join Constance and her special guest Pam Grout #1 New York Times Best Selling Author. Pam shares from her new 10-year Anniversary Edition of her book E-Squared. You will learn: whatever you focus on expands, that there is an invisible energy force of infinite possibilities and your thoughts and consciousness impact matter. Pam also gives listeners several energy experiments that you can practice and gives insight into how she has navigated through the transition of her daughter. https://loaradionetwork.com/constance-arnold

Are you ready to try Energy Law of Attraction experiments to prove that your thoughts create your Reality? Join Constance and her special guest Pam Grout #1 New York Times Best Selling Author. Pam shares from her new 10-year Anniversary Edition of her book E-Squared. You will learn: whatever you focus on expands, that there is an invisible energy force of infinite possibilities and your thoughts and consciousness impact matter. Pam also gives listeners several energy experiments that you can practice and gives insight into how she has navigated through the transition of her daughter. https://loaradionetwork.com/constance-arnold

Are you ready to try Energy Law of Attraction experiments to prove that your thoughts create your Reality? Join Constance and her special guest Pam Grout #1 New York Times Best Selling Author. Pam shares from her new 10-year Anniversary Edition of her book E-Squared. You will learn: whatever you focus on expands, that there is an invisible energy force of infinite possibilities and your thoughts and consciousness impact matter. Pam also gives listeners several energy experiments that you can practice and gives insight into how she has navigated through the transition of her daughter. https://loaradionetwork.com/constance-arnold

Are you having a difficult time booking clients? Or maybe you'd just like to book more jobs than you currently are? You're in luck! Emily and Erin from E-Squared Photography are here to share the important steps they've learned for booking clients more effectively! The Bokeh Podcast is brought to you by Photographer's Edit: Custom Editing for the Professional Photographer. You can subscribe to the Bokeh podcast on the Apple podcast app, follow on Spotify, add to your playlist on Stitcher, or listen on Overcast. Show Notes: What is one of the most important principles behind providing a great experience for clients (1:51) What principle or strategy have Erin and Emily implemented to allow them to save time in order to have a life while running their business? (4:42) How do Emily and Erin utilize automation in their business? (7:40) What are your favorite self-help books? (10:55) Favorite piece of camera gear (15:30) The 8 C's for booking more clients Communication (19:25) - clear communication with both potential and current clients Confidence (26:25)  - practice and build your portfolio Consistency (31:15) - be consistent online (post regularly and with brand consistency) Collaboration (36:23) - learn as much about your client as possible to make the session more special for them Commitment (41:20) - committing to learning and growing to become better; commitment to timelines and clients Convincing (46:10) - find a way to convince potential clients to book you Creativity (54:30) - utilize your client's interests to be creative Client Experience (1:01:35) - evaluate each step of the client journey with you and determine what the pain points might be in order to address them proactively Links: https://esquaredphotography.com https://instagram.com/esquared.photography https://www.youtube.com/@esquared.photography

So its here, the episode we knew was coming and wondered how it would impact the rest of Season 3 Enterprise?Does having a long lost temporal cousin in the Expanse make it baffling why we haven't had more of this? Does it only present problems when watched in the Temporal Trek way?Does it have the single most believable Reed scene ever?... well yes that's one answer I can give.For all the other answers welcome to E2, or E Squared, or E Deux.

New York Times bestselling author Pam Grout - author of 20 books including E-Squared and Thank and Grow Rich, talks about calling in the vibrations of joy and gratitude for a prosperous and light-filled journey of possibilities. Her new app - A Course in Miracles for Badasses (ACIM for Badasses) is available now in the App store.

Today I am re-airing one of my earlier episodes with someone who has changed the way that I see the world. Her name is Pam Grout, and for those of you who don't know, Pam is a New York Times bestselling author, a travel blogger who has visited every continent except for Antarctica, and a student of A Course in Miracles.In this episode, Pam talks candidly about the loss of her daughter, the little rituals they shared, and how she coped with the grief of her daughter's passing. She shares the wisdom that she's gleaned from her adventures and from the rocky parts of her journey as well, because, even for those who know full well that we co-create our reality, life is still going to test us.Pam also describes her writing journey, the process of writing her bestseller, E-Squared, and her advice for those looking to write spiritual guidance books. Pam's definition of success, after everything she has been through and after writing 20 books, is to see the face of God in every person she meets, and her whole story is incredibly inspiring, so make sure to tune in today!

For some fall is a refresh but for others, the change can feel overwhelming. Wherever you land on the spectrum, Lesley is sharing her best things that are supporting her in “Being It” until she sees it and the routines that are changing the way that she shows up every day. Maybe there is something to add to your fall routine to run into winter confidently. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Fall catch up with Lesley.The importance of prioritizing yourself.The top books to read for fall 2022.Things and products Lesley is loving.The value in acting "as if" before you are ready. Episode References/Links:Podcast survey!E-squared Pam GoutThe Game of LIfe and How to play it - Florence Scovel ShinnBurnout by Emily and Amelia NagoskiThe SourceSauna Space, Red light therapyHigher Dose, PEMF matContrology Wunda ChairNaboso hand weights  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyUse this link to get your Toe Sox!ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Hey loves, how's it going? It's just me today. It's just me today. So hopefully that's exciting for you. We did solo episodes a little bit earlier in the summer, and we got some great feedback from you guys. So we'll be tossing these in. And every once well, especially when it applies to what kind of timely right now, and that is that this is the, that those last few months of the year and they can feel very, they can feel a little worrying, right? Like it starts to get really busy. I know for me, it's very busy. So at the time I'm recording this, we are getting ready for Agency Mini, by the time you share this, we probably have already finished it. But I'm also before that going to Nashville, coming back doing Mini and going to Chicago, coming back doing something else then going to Cambodia. Oh, I forgot there's new people at my house in between all of that for our business retreat. And then and then it's Thanksgiving, and all of a sudden it's Thanksgiving. And so this is a time of the year that can feel really overwhelming. There's a couple things I want to actually remind you of. You get to do this, like you get to do this. And I really, if you are struggling, if you're feeling overwhelmed, I really want you to reframe a little bit and just go, "I get to do this." Now if you don't want to do what you're doing, that is something to write down. So something I think is really cool about how we feel about things is that they are there, there are signs that you don't want to be doing the thing, or you don't be doing the thing with that person or that time. And you the more you pay attention to these things, the more you make notes, the more you can make conscious decisions. So for example, I actually love to travel, I love to go to Cambodia, there are so many things I love to do about it. So I am this busy season, not at no point am I going, oh my God, I have to do all this stuff, I get to do all this stuff. And I actually plan for all these things to happen when they're happening because this is kind of the time of the year that I really like to do all that. I like to pack it in, I like to make sure that we see all the faces of the people that we love. I really do like to do all of those things. Now, in the summertime, when I like want to be in chill vibes, I am not planning those things. I'm not doing them. In fact, when we did do them this summer, just like as a trial, my body was like, "Why are you doing this? It's summertime, it's summer vibes." So what is cool about journaling, or even just documenting or taking note somewhere about how you feel in your body, about different things as they can give you signs, about what to say yes to and no to in the future. And so there have been people who have been requesting a retreat for us to do in the summertime and we're not doing that. Now, there are a couple reasons I can say I don't do that. And they're very valid, that the weather in Cambodia is not exactly, exactly ideal for doing a retreat. Not only is it hot, but there's monsoons and we can't control them. And it's crazy rain, and I don't want people to fly all the way out there. And then we can't see the temples because the rain is insane. Right. So those are some reasons. And the other big reasons I don't want to. I don't want to I want to use my summers to reflect on the meaning of the year to plan for the fall of the year, to make sure we're all set up to rest, relax, to visit with friends as they come into town. So and those are all things I learned over the last couple of years of testing things. So it's okay that you didn't know about the things that you said yes to that you didn't maybe like the time that they were, the location that they were until you did them. That's okay. You don't have to be a psychic. Most of us are not. And in fact, some people who are aren't. So, so I think it's just really important to be kind to yourself, and acknowledge when things feel really good. Okay, what about that feels really good? What is it that people that you're with? Is the time that it was? Is it how it was planned out? What about that feels really good so that you can a) use those as green lights and green signals to say yes to in the future? What about it, didn't you like so you can use those red flags? And so every time I get asked to speak every time we plan a thing we could to look back at, like what didn't work before, what we liked about it, what people liked about it and then make decisions going on, which is why perfect is boring, which is why that waiting until something's perfect is the wrong thing to do. I wouldn't know 90% of this information until I had gone in there, done a retreat in August, done different things at different times of the year. That said yes to programs that were unorganized, disorganized, you know, that kind of thing. So I wouldn't know that, I wouldn't know what is actually important to me about organization and what isn't had I not experienced it and then felt it in my body. And so all of this is to say if you had a summer or for my southern hemisphere people had a winter where there was things that you loved and things that you didn't love, pay attention to what those things are and then use those things for moving forward. Okay.So that is kind of kind of how I kind of kind of it is exactly how I try to say yes or no to things and plan things on our calendar. And it's just really important to me. The other way is just really listening to you guys. So those of you who fill out the surveys at beitpod.com/tellme. Thank you, those are really great, when you interact with us in any of our other programs, Agency, OPC, we do a lot of surveys, we love surveys. They really help us figure out how we can be better at things, what things actually matter to you, you can be really easy ladies too. And I say ladies, I know there's a few good men listening, hello. But there's it can be really easy to think we need to add more, do more, give more. And truthfully, sometimes that can be overwhelming. Or they can be really overwhelming for some people. We'd ask them their server like, "Would you like more episodes?" And some people said, "Yes." And other people said, "It's enough." And I'm like, "Great. I'm not going to do dailies, if you don't want that." Now, if you all want that, then let me know. But we truly don't I don't want to overwhelm you without your request. And also your acknowledgement that that's what you want, right? So this is really great. Whether you're in business or not. And maybe you're like Lesely I'm not in business. You can survey with the people around you. You can you can ask questions, you can get feedback from people about yourself, you can even say, "Hey, you know, I'm actually trying to figure out what I want to do for the end of the year. Can you think of a time this summer where you notice that I was a little bit more frantic, frenetic, exhausted? And can you remember time this summer that I was excited, jubilated and joyful feeling at ease?" People around you spend time with you will know, they'll know. They'll remember. And that can be really helpful. Okay, so I say all this because in the last solo episode, I told you, I was being it till I see it. And right now, and I really have been working on that. And I noticed that there's an old story, I'll have to tell myself, which is that I'm too busy. Maybe you know that one, maybe you know that story. And sometimes I, in order to feel like I am in control of things that are uncontrollable, I will do more. So then they're not easy. And, and I'm getting stressed out and, and so that doesn't work. So I've been really working on some mantras and daily meditations, I've actually changed my morning routine a ton, and I'm still tweaking it as we speak. And for someone who loves routine that can be overwhelming, and also can be really exciting. It's really all how you reframe it. So one of the things that I am trying to do is a) work on my sleep. I've actually always had struggle with sleep situations, and stress. So I am someone who just because the childhood that I had I and it wasn't bad. Honestly, it wasn't bad. It just that I, as an oldest child of little kids and we're all born around the same time. I definitely took on a lot of stress around me and tried to fix a lot of things and do over the doer. I'm a doer. And I pride of myself on that actually I'm an, it's one of my strengths, I'm really good at. But a strength can be a weakness if you don't know when to use it and when not to use it. Right. So in these last couple of months, I've been really looking at my morning routine and seeing where parts of it can be switched into the afternoon because I do work from home. And what I could add to my morning that would allow me to set myself up to be in the most abundant receiving ease, ease full mode, strength base mode, just totally in tune like I really want the mornings to feel less like, Oh my God, I have all these things to do." And more like, "Okay, I get to do these things," kind of like how I started this episode. And that's something I share with you because something that I have always struggled with like I'm a very positive person like bright side up kind of person, but equally can get a little down about things especially when things are out of my control.So then I start to do more and then when does it happen is I'm not in receiving mode, I'm not actually noticing opportunities around me and I'm too busy to be the person I want to be for those I love. So that is not prioritization of self, that is not putting myself first, that is not taking messy action, that is trying to be perfect in some other way. And so the last couple of months I've really been doing that and I started off with adding in my red light therapy to that routine. I also stopped doing my morning Instagram talks, you guys it's not because I don't love doing them. I just was like I really want to take in the surroundings more, I really want to be at ease more. I don't actually want to have to work right now. Right. So that doesn't mean I won't do them anymore. It just means I need to do them later in my morning and I'm working on putting them back in. So as I be it till I see it, what I am doing is catching myself when I say I'm too busy and doing what I would think a non busy person who is confident and positive and abundant and supportive of their business and their team and their dreams would do? So that's the whole premise of the Be It Till You See It Podcast acting as if before you're ready, right? So if I look at, if I think what a woman who runs a massive company, who takes care of herself, what does she do? How is her morning routine? What is that setup? So I did a lot of research on things you can do to make your body sleep better. As I mentioned, I'm working on my sleep. So your sleep for the night starts in the morning before and we can thank Huberman for his podcasts on that. But and there's a bunch of other studies on that. But really, truly, like, I do already wake up pretty early. So I do get the morning light of the day. And so I was like, "Okay, well, that's helping my sleep out. So what else can help my sleep out?" So I've been working on doing those things. So I've been changing my morning routine up to rabbit symbol, what I imagine a woman who runs a company, who prioritize prioritize their self first but do the morning. And that required some changes in my morning because I was really pushing a lot of things into my morning routine, and feeling the sense of urgency that they had to get done, and they weren't of ease. And of course, that's what we're trying to be until we see is that easefulness on this and running this business. And so I have in the last few weeks shifted that morning routine to my workout. Some of them happen a little later. Sometimes they happen in the same time. So every day is actually now different, which is weird for me. But I'm finding a lot of fun in that and flow in that and a little bit of like rebelliousness that I don't always let myself have in that. So that's super cool. I will when we get to my favorite things list off a lot of the things that I'm doing in the morning that you can borrow, we've got affiliate links or links below that you can enjoy. So as I be it till I see it in that what it is challenging me on is watching my responses to things because no longer do the old responses, the quick responses apply, I actually need to take a step back. And so when I say, "Oh, I don't have time." I actually go right now. When does that need to be done and then I look and see when I can get it done. And it's kind of amazing. I used to also think I didn't have time to meditate every day. Wrong. I have since figured out that I can. So watching the stories I tell myself that are keeping me from being it till I see it is something that I am in constant practice with. And I wonder if I always will be. I don't know, jury's out, I'll keep you posted. So hopefully that is helpful for you just like seeing like, not perfect. We're still working on it. Every day is kind of a challenge based on like the old way of thinking and the stories I told myself that made me feel safe and made me feel secure, that made me you know, not go off and do some crazy things. And now those things are actually holding me back and the growth of what I'm trying to do. And like I am on a mission, more bodies doing Pilates, and I cannot do that if I don't think I have time. Because I need to be able to create time so I can tell you how to create time. Right.So okay, now, some of you always ask us, like, what are some books I'm reading right now. And I am going to let you know, since I talked to Coach Lee, I have been doing my E-Squared book, I'm not doing it as quickly as I did the first time, I'm kind of stopping at different chapters and waiting until I want to do the experiment before I go on to the next chapter. So I it's actually going really cool and it's actually a really good reminder. There are some things that she wrote in there that I want to just like paint on my walls. So E-Squared by Pam Grout, she's still on the list to get on the pod. So if you know her hook a sister up. Okay, um, then I was I had some girls out, you may remember Brad and I the time I had some girls come to visit that I kind of met through friends of friends. And we all like, "Let's do a friend's weekend." And I highly recommend you do that. I know that can sound really scary. And really, it can be even expensive sounding. The truth is you can you can make it whatever it needs to be. But shared experience is really do make a difference in how you feel and who you surround yourself with makes a difference. We have had multiple multiple guests come on, and we have another guest coming up who is going to tell you that it really does make a difference who you invite into your energy, who you invite into your circle and how much time you spend around them. And so it might require some boundaries. So on that girls weekend, they ment... mentioned, Florin Sho... Scholar Shine. Hold on, let's just pull up her book because I just finished it. It's actually really old. Okay, so I listened to it on Audible and I'm going to be super, oh Florence Scovel Shinn, there it is. So, my autocorrect, I got that weird. So I got the complete works on Audible. I don't even think it charged me a credit. And somebody reads it. The words that she uses, like Victrola. And I just imagine people walking around like the old old New York of like, the 1890s As I'm reading it, but the stuff still makes sense. And it does mention God a lot. So you can insert your own word for that there. And she does and occasional spots but I listened to it on a dog walk because I was like, I just need to be around as much positivity as I can. And the first book I will say is the best one of all of them. A great reminder of being very like actually knowing what you need more of, and, and asking for that. And then being aware of that we've talked about that with Dr. Philippe Douyon, where it's like your eyes and ears are seeing what your brain is looking for. So if you're very co... conscious of what it is that you're looking for, you will then look for evidence for that. And there was some really cool stories in that first book. So I really recommend it. The rest of them it was it was good. I think the first one is a good good place to stop. I have Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagos... Nagoski, on my Audible that I'm going to next. It's actually part of the book club that we have for Agency. And I'm really excited about I heard them on Brené Brown, and I've had it on my list for a long time. It is a long book. So it's just been working my way to it. And then I just bought the source that we talked about in Stef Caldwell's episode, there's actually a couple books called The Source. So if you actually look back at Stef's episode, we'll put the link in the show notes. There's a specific the source that we want. But again, it just goes into this. There's science around manifestation. And when you can't just do all the things like we... it is we're telling ourselves a lie if we think that we can control all the parts are going to make anything happen. There are a lot of things, there's always a lot of things going on. In fact, like there's stuff in your personal life that's going on, great and not so great. There's stuff in your professional life that's going on, great and not so great. There's stuff in your health that's going on, great and not so great. Right? It is like a disservice and illusion if you think you can actually control all of those things you can't. So you can do what you can do. And then the next thing you have to do is like think like Hazel Ortega have some miracle goals around it be really specific, and then start looking for evidence for it to be true. So I'm like big on those books, I really think that they're gonna help me as I close up this year. As I plan for what we're gonna do in 2023, it has been an interesting 2022 and just doing a lot of things, testing things, changing things. And so I am trying to spend a lot of time on what do I really want? What are we doing all this for? How do we want to be when we're doing that? That's what I'm working on. So as with those books are going to you'll see there's a theme there. As always, you know, you can ask us any questions, you can DM the pod on Instagram and ask us any questions that you have around business, health, personal goals, and Brad and I will answer them on the recaps. And we want your question. So please do DM us. Okay, now, two of my favorite things. Okay, so I Brad calls me a total consumer. It's true. I am, I I really am and I have a lot of fun trying out new things. I do, I don't do a ton of research but I will oftentimes, like want something, look it up. I say yes to all the cookies, because I'm like, yes, track me down, ratio this to my face, let me know when you're having some Labor Day sale.You know, I'm like a, I'm a big fan of cookies. And you guys, you can all use cookies and ads to like, help you see the things you want to see. So you can hate them. But like that's how small businesses make money. And also big businesses too. But the other thing is, is like you can actually say yeah, actually, I would love it if you show me more of this, you just click on the ad and then that they'll, make sure you see that more often. So anyways, um, couple of these things gonna talk to you about are things that have been on my list for a while. So first thing, we talked about my red light therapy before, I really love the one that I have. I have it on, I actually bought like a tray for it that's on wheels, it's like a little stand on wheels, so that I can wheel it in front of my meditation chair, and then I can wheel it back into the closet. So I'm super excited about that. First I had to just like out on a thing, and I had to move it, move it back. And you know what, let's just be really honest, people, it's hard, we're not going to do it right. So I had to, I had to go buy a tray on wheels to make it a little easier. But it is one of the best purchases I've made to go along with that. And there is a ton of studies on red light therapy for people, especially in the morning. And so I'm a big fan of that. And I will say that I have sat in front of it even in the evening when I haven't been feeling as my positive self. And I feel better when I'm done being there. So it's great. I'll read a book on that. What like I'll read a book on my meditation chair in front of the lamp, I'll do breathwork in front of the lamp. I read some emails the other day in front of the lamp like I that's where going back to my morning routine changing on different days, the red light is either part of my meditation, or it's just part of my morning work day so that I can still get it in which is actually super, super cool. Then to go along with this, my chiropractor now light he had both this red light and something called a PEMF mat and I put the link it's my actual affiliate link below. So it should get you directly to the mat and also some fun little goodies that go along with it. And I am I've been wanting this mat for about six months. Every time we go I lay on I have like an hour, I really, it's hard to explain how amazing it makes me feel. But it really does make me feel great. And so I've been saving it, letting it, show up in my ads all the time. And we finally got one and I have used it everyday since. And I'm, this is where I go back to that story. I told myself, I'm too busy. Well, guess what, folks, I wasn't too busy to find an hour each day to lay on it. Since I've got it. So um, so it's kind of crazy. I think when you say you're too busy, you either don't want to do the thing, or you're avoiding doing the thing. And if you're already doing the thing, you're either avoiding it because there's something that scares you about it or you just don't want to do it. So so let that be testament because I bet you the things you really want to do you make time for. Right. So anyways, that link is below I'm obsessed with it. Last time I did a solo episode I told about my favorite water bottle. I'm still obsessed with it. In fact, I have since had a couple of different facials, I have had seen a doctor and my holistic doctor and like, at no point has anyone said I'm dehydrated. I looked hydrated, everything is normal. Everything is great. And I'm super just stoked about this water bottle like it's one of the my favorite things in life. So that link we actually have the affiliate link now and it's below and a bunch of my friends have already bought theirs. We we now I literally almost bought myself another one. And I decided I have to hold back until it's like actually the color I want. So we're patient, we're patiently waiting. Also, I finally got myself a Contrology Wunda Chair. So as you know, if you're in the Pilates world, listening to this. I'm a big fan of that Contrology equipment for my studies with Jay Grimes, like I just really love the way the old equipment was built. And even classical equipment today is not built the same way it was before. And so Contrology has done a wonderful job, really doing a lot of research going back and seeing those old piece of equipment using the old springs to make these new springs and it's incredible. It's very different. We actually got it because we're making the flashcard deck for the chairs now. So if you need an affiliate link to anything by Balanced Body, you can always hit us up, you can those exist on all of our YouTube tutorials. But also, the Contrology equipment is built by Balanced Body and I have an affiliate link for that. But get the Contrology chair is new, it came at the same time as a Ladder Barrel. And I'm sure I'll end up with that. But I really wanted the chair now because we're doing the decks now. And I got it in a really cool blue. I know you've seen my chair, it's hot pink, that color doesn't exist anymore. So I got a hot blue to go with it. I'm just really excited. It's like Barbie pink and Barbie blue like chairs. And I'm just, I think I'm gonna take pictures with them like going to on a date together.Okay, last couple of my favorite things. Naboso hand weights. So I met this woman at Momentum Fest. And I really liked the way that her hand weights felt in my hands like the texture she put in, there's a bunch of science behind it. And as you know, when you do Pilates, you only want one to two pound hand weights. Unless you're my bigger guys. And of course, I'll let you up to five, but nothing more than that, because it gets really distal, and I don't want you to be in your shoulders prefer three actually for you. But anyways, these hand weights are great. They're super fun, you can use them for anything, not just Pilates, and she's got a bunch of other good stuff for waking up your feet, and things like that. So check that out. And then finally, for my business folks who are thinking that they're just too busy, and like, "Where does she find the time?" Here I'm gonna tell you a little secret. In our household, and in our business, we Loom everything. Oh, actually, I'm gonna just be really honest, I don't log into the Loom account as much as everyone else says I'll use Zoom. But Loom Loom is the best. And so you can actually use my affiliate link below. And what it allows you to do is anything that you're already repeating in your life that you do, that you know, you want to someday hand off so life or work, you can Loom. So for example, let's say I don't want to schedule my newsletters anymore. So the next time I go to schedule one, I'm actually going to log into Loom so use my link below to get your account, you'll log in. And then you'll literally just talk to yourself, scheduling your next newsletter. And it will record your screen, record your clicks, record your voice, and you just label it, put in your Dropbox folder. And then when you do hire someone and go, "Here's how you do that. Go take a look at it. Let me know if you have any questions." And hopefully they're able to do it seems to train them. It's all done. So those are my favorite things. Some of them are well most of them are personal health related, then there is some Pilates related and then the business one related. I hope that these are helpful for you. Let me know if you liked this episode, if this if it's if it's good for you to hear like my thought process. I'm a total verbal processor as you can tell, and then what I'm reading and how that helps me be it till I see it and then what I'm using so I can support myself. Y'all, it takes a village okay, it really really does. I do understand that some of the things I'm talking about do come at a cost. And I understand that. So if right now, money is not something you have access to to support who you want to be in this world, can you please take a note out of Rachel Rodgers book, We Should All Be Millionaires. We've talked about this on the podcast before and use the word 'and' instead of 'but I don't have any money', and I don't have any money. And then I really do want you to then listen to that Flo... Florence Scovel Shinn book which I'm pretty sure it's free on on Audible, and hear how like, you can actually just be very specific on what you want. And then your eyes and ears are gonna see an opportunity. Maybe one of these things I've listed, but I say I love ends up at your neighbor's, like, garage sale, maybe ends up on a Facebook sale. Maybe someone's just like, "Hey, I'm moving. I can't take this with me." Right. Like you'd be surprised. What can come to you when you're in receiving mode and when you're aware of what you want. And I hope that these podcasts really help bring that to light and give you something to think about in your life is you can have everything you want. You can. You just have to a) know you want it and then also believe you deserve it, which you do. You don't have to have an excuse for that. You don't have to reason for that. You don't have to explain it to ... to anybody including me. I love you all so much. It is so fun to record these podcasts for you. The solo ones are unique and new for me, so I really do hope that they're helpful. And please if you have feedback, if you have questions, if there is ... guest you want to hear or if you want more solo episodes, then go to beitpod.com/tellme and then we can get you and give us that information and then we can continue to fine tune everything to help all of you, Be It Till You See It.That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. 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Overcoming the barriers and the stories we are told as girls growing. Women can build wealth. Women can be in finance, women can be in tech, women can have knowledge of investing and stocks. Stop limiting your wealth potential from the lies you grew up to believe. Also ingrained in this episode is a whole list of books and resources around building a positive money mindset!If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How hitting walls helps transform us into the people we are suppose to be What's the significance of 208? How we collapse the gender gap Where you can find resources to increase finance and money knowledgeCheck the data of how far you have come and how you want to feel moving forwardThe reflection of worth in your aspirations Making your worth reflected back in what your doingAnswer the question: i am the type of person who….What's stopping women from building wealth How money is used as energy in your biz BIOStef Caldwell is a Personal Development Author, Angel Investor and VP of Sales for Silicon Valley FinTech company. Passionate about closing the gender gap in half the time, she is an advocate for women's financial literacy and their participation in emerging industries wo we can realize gender equality, leading to more inclusion and profitability for all over time.Episode References/Links:Stef's websiteBOOK RECS: The Third Door by Alex BanayanChoose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full PotentialF* Being HumbleYou Are A Badass at Making MoneyDo the Work: The Official Unrepentant, Ass-Kicking, No-Kidding, Change-Your-Life Sidekick to Unfu*k YourselfAtomic Habits, James ClearThe Source: The Secrets of the Universe, the Science of the Brain  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  Alright, loves. So this episode, I'm really, truly grateful for our guest to be on because I have been wanting to talk more about money, money mindset building wealth. there's so much more I can go into this topic. So if you really love this topic, I do want to hear from you. You can go to the beitpod.com/tellme and fill out the survey and let us know or you can just DM me. But if you really are loving this topic, and if money is keeping you from being it till you see it, then we need to talk about it more. That's what this podcast is for. It's just bringing on experts that can help you be it till you see it. And so besides inspiring stories, I think it's just really important for you to hear information that helps you get out of your own way. And the reality is, is I talk a lot about this a lot with my Agency members, my coaching members, is that money is energy. And as a teacher, you are giving so much energy to your clients. You are pouring into them making sure that they get all the right exercises for their body. And then oftentimes under valuing yourself and under earning. And so therefore, people are paying you what you said, but you're not actually getting the energy back here because it doesn't it's not equal. They can't teach you by the way. I mean, so like they have to pay you for the energy so that you can keep doing what you're doing. And if you are under charging, then of course you're going to reach burnout, and of course exhaustion or just the resentfulness of like, people just not valuing you, but you're not giving them the opportunity to do that. So I'm really hope as you listen through this interview, as Stef and I have what I hope is a conversation that helps you understand not only wealth, why you need it, and how like things you could be doing right now to help you with those thoughts with that, with that mindset, and with the actual action steps to building it. I really hope you get all those. So bring out your notepad, this is gonna be one you want to save. I know I I actually like wrote notes, I you know, I can't read my writing. So I'm gonna have to re listen to see what notes I wrote down. But there's so many great books, you're gonna just like build your book list with this. And you're also gonna get some great quotes that you can remind yourself of just how fucking worthy you are. You are the only person who can do what you do the way that you do it, you're it. And if we do not make sure that you are getting paid the money you need to get paid, then how do we keep you showing up the next day? Like let's just be real, I don't care how amazing of a human you are. If you're not getting the energy repayment back, it's going to be really hard on those tough days to show up and do the thing that you know you're on this planet to do. And when you make money. Right. One of the coaches that I work with Chris Harder. He says "When good people make good money, they do great things." ... Like please remember that because if you are feeling guilty around the money that you're making, we have to shift that because you making good money and then putting it towards the things that matter the most to you. I know for a fact you're going to benefit the people around you. I know not a single person listening to this podcast is a selfish asshole who's just going to hoard it all for themselves. No, you wouldn't listen to this, you would not there's no way you listen to this because I'm all about abundance and that is not being abundant, like hoarding. Right. So, I really hope that this conversation, enlightens you, inspires you, helps you take action. And may we all be part of collapsing this massive gap in women having equal wealth to men. So, Stef Caldwell is our guest this week, take a listen and then please subscribe to her podcast because she's got a really awesome podcast that I'll let her tell you all about in this episode.Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Okay, Be It listeners. So you know how I say, "Perfect is boring." It really, really is and it's also hilarious and embarrassing sometimes when you do it right in front of someone you're so excited to talk about. And I share all this because Stef Caldwell's here, and we got to talking and we got so excited. And then I looked at him as like, "You know, something doesn't feel right. Something's wrong. Oh, I didn't hit record." And I share that with you before I introduce Stef Caldwell. Well, because you're gonna make mistakes, you're gonna make mistakes. And you're gonna be like, "Oh, my God red in the face." And you know what I say just make them more often and it's really les... that's uncomfortable. So Stef Caldwell, is someone I had to have on the show and she's already heard. And now you're hearing. I was listening to her on the Laurie Harders podcast, I was getting in the shower. And I made the podcast stay on just on full blast. And I was agreeing with everything, loving everything, taking notes. And then I DM her. I was like, "You have to be on my show." I have to have you on here. And so Stef Caldwell, you are you are amazing at helping build women, helping women build wealth. And I actually want you to share everyone who you are and why you rock it that.Stef Caldwell  Well, seriously, I'm so excited to be here. And for the listener, I mean like failure, failure of messing up, starting over. That is the point like if you think the point of any of this is anything different than that than the point that you think it is, is wrong. (Lesley: Yeah) So hello, everybody, I'm Stef Caldwell, Personal Development Author, Angel Investor, Tech Startup Operator and I like to say fun-haver because again, like you only live once. What is the point of any of this if it's not a total freakin blast along the way.Lesley Logan  I, you know, you're exactly right. And thank you for also saying that because it's like, I think I know that everyone listening to this and maybe even I don't know about you. But for me, I grew up everything had to be perfect before I could even get started like it just had to be like this. And that is the opposite of having fun. You cannot (Stef: Absolutely.) you cannot perfect having the fun time. So you can't live in both places. So I've just I'm grateful for that. And also, what is your what's your favorite way to have fun?Stef Caldwell  Oh my gosh. I mean, I love a good hike with a girlfriend. I love a good boating day. I love, like last night I went saw Joe Rogan stand up. I like I would see stand up every night if if I could (Lesley:same) laughing like just laughing for the sake of laughing and like scewing around. I was listening to another podcaster or some gal and she's like, "Never lose the art of just screwing off. Just to screw off." And like I that's you know what I typically do on a Sunday when I'm not doing this.Lesley Logan  Well, first of all, I love that. Second, I would also I wanted to be in stand up. I really like thought like, "Oh my God, that's the thing I should be doing." But (Stef: Yeah) I can't stay up past 10 o'clock if like I really can't. I have like really try and there's occasional moments where it happens and like, "Wow, see, I could do it." I can't like I need to be a lunchtime comedian like people who want to be like 2 pm. (Lesley and Stef laughs)Stef Caldwell  Can we normalize lunchtime comedians, (Lesley: Yes) because I will share this. When I was early in my career, I had read that learning improv and stand up can be really good for a sales career. So I went and I we've got in Chicago, this school called Second City, Tina Fey trained there. You know, I think like Bill Murray trained there, right, like notable comics have trained there. And went took lessons and everything was so late at night. I was like, "This crew is not going to be for me. I like bedtime by eight." You know, this is just (Lesley: Yeah) kind of the table this one for future life.Lesley Logan  Yeah. No, same. So like, that's what happened. I was in a comedy class and I literally stopped going because I was like, I am falling asleep driving home like this (Stef: Right, right.) is not working for me. (Stef: Same.) So since we're not actually professional comedians, (Stef: Yeah) because clearly, we weren't born with that, that body clock. So when you're not ha... like the times that you are not having like the fun or hiking with a girlfriend like hopefully your work, it's fun. But what are you doing because you got your prof... your profes... Oh, my God. Hello, Lesley, Personal Development Author, like what made you get into these things and what are you doing on your daily basis?Stef Caldwell  Yeah, yeah. So as in terms of my career, I have always worked in tech startups. And that's been, you know, a multi decade journey doing everything from selling products to marketing products, to working directly with customers to keep them around, to use those products to actually building the products themselves. And about six years ago, I woke up in a tech startup days after I didn't get this promotion that I had raised my hand for. And, of course, you know, like, if you work in tech startups, like they are traditionally run by white men and there's nothing wrong with my white men. I love them. I've got two white men brothers and a white dad. But I was like, "You got to be kidding me." Like the glass ceiling that everybody told me about. I finally ran smack into it and this really, really sucks and so I remember at the time, you know, reading reading some some quote that like, in terms of like, overall gender equality were 208 years away from like, when women will be equal with men. And I was just livid. (Lesley: Yeah) I was like, "What?" And so it really just set me on this journey to be the best that I could be to turn around and help other women, you know, be the best that they could be, and ultimately to, to write a personal development book while still kind of maintaining my career in technology, because I believe that women have a space there and, and that there's a lot we can do if we continue to participate in that environment.Lesley Logan  Okay, so first, what's the book called? So, I can go read it..Stef Caldwell  Yeah. The book is called ManifestHer. And there's a subtitle, which the essence of it is like, helping young women manifest their biggest dreams and lives.Lesley Logan  I love that. I, you know, people hearing the part where you didn't get the promotion could get upset at that. And then there's like, obviously, like the looking back up, like, at least for me, I'm like, thank goodness, you didn't, because it made you go read this thing and go, "What the fuck like, like, I'm here." You know what I mean? Like, the frustration of that is what really put you on the path to where you are right now. And like the things that you're doing today. And so like, while I wish for you to always have the success you want, like, there's something about hitting those walls that really helped us become who we're supposed to be. (Stef: Yeah.) So for the, for the person who's listening to like, like, when you hear that number, 208 years, it feels like, it just it kind of can feel like an overwhelming and a little bit debilitating, like, what are, how are we supposed to get to 208 years to be now. (Stef: Yeah, yeah. I mean ...) I don't want to wait to 208 years. I'm not gonna live that long.Stef Caldwell  Literally, I think every single day, how do we collapse that. And there's so many ways, I think the easiest ways are like looking inside of ourselves, and really getting a sense for our worth. And what that translates to in terms of our hourly rate, or annual salaries, and making sure that the worth that we feel is the worth that's reflected in the paychecks that we are, you know, either getting from our employers or getting, you know, by building building our businesses. I think the second thing that you can do is take that wealth and instead of spending it or giving it away is investing in it, or investing in your future investing in the markets. I joke oftentimes that like we can go and we can blow you know, 200 bucks at Target. But do you own $200 worth of target stock? My guess is that if you put the same amount of money that you're gonna go blow your favorite publicly traded company into their stock, that you would feel, feel and realize gains over time. And that's like a really specific example, don't go invest in target stock. There's definitely better mechanisms for you ...Lesley Logan  Don't take stock advice from a podcast. (Stef: Right, right.) But particular with ones that we don't know what day you're listening to this. But okay, so first of all, like I'm like, yes. Okay, invest and then it's like, right, how, like, what, like, how do you know which, like, how, like, what's the first step to like doing that? Because I think that that's totally wise, because then every time you go and shop at said, Target, you are at least like benefiting your personal interests. But um, for the person who's like, "Yeah, but I don't actually even know how to do that." Like, where do they need to go to learn? Is there a class there supposed to take?Stef Caldwell  Yeah, I mean, there certainly are classes that you can take, I think it just starts by getting curious. Asking, you know, "For every dollar that I'm earning, how can I put this dollar to work for me." And you'll find there's so many different thought leaders in the space that I've like, looked to over the course of my financial journey from I remember, like getting out of college, and like Suze Orman was like, the person that I've admired, recommended. And she's just like a women's kind of like, personal development meets money, money, you know, mindset guru, then there's like the Jen Sincero of the world that will really help you step into mindset, there's the Tony Robbins of the world that will help you, you know, build kind of some structure around how to treat and handle your wealth. And then there's also like people that you can pay that literally for a living can help you maximize your total earning potential over the course of your life.Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah, I mean, I highly recommend it. And also, like, Suze Orman helped me like, actually get out of credit card debt from after college, because like, who was charging her books on credit cards, that'd be me. I was like, "I need this book for this class." And so I like read her a little note about, like, how to pay off your credit cards faster. And it actually worked. Like it was like, take pay off the smallest one and then go on to the biggest one, you'll have more money. And I was like, "Oh." But I, I know that, you know, we're all I was often raised, like, just save the money and don't spend it and I love that you follow that up with like, invest it, because (Stef: Yeah) it's not about not buying the lattes, ladies. It's like, it's like, you know, using that money to go work for you. (Stef: Yeah) It's very different than just like holding on to it and not doing anything with it.Stef Caldwell  Yeah. So I mean, there's, there's stats out there and I might butcher these a little bit, but we'll give you guys the essence. So right now, let's say you got $100 in a bank account inflation's at like 9% so that means you know you're from today. If that $100 is worth $90, you can put that in the markets and the markets, you know, don't don't you know, generate these returns always. But let's say that you generate it that same 9%. Now you have $109, or, you know, whatever the math on (Lesley: Yeah) that is. It's really important to be thinking about, like, by keeping this just as cash in the bank. Am I gaining money or am I losing money? And if you lose money every single year, for a lifetime, you're gonna wake up in a much different spot than if you gain money every single year for a lifetime.Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah. So I want to go back to what you were saying earlier, and there was a couple things you talked about there was investing. There's also your book ManifestHer. (Stef: Yeah) So um, and then there's a 208 years we're trying to collapse. There's a lot of things that you're doing and which I'm really obs... I'm obsessed with. When it comes to when it came to like writing your book and helping women manifest. What was the difference between like, just manifestation? Maybe this is in your book and like act... like the action towards getting the thing that you're manifesting? Is there steps for that? What do you normally do for that?Stef Caldwell  Yeah. When I was graduating from undergrad, I remember waking up and for my entire life, I've been an athlete and being absolutely terrified about life after college, because all of my identity was tied up in like, the environment that is like the academic world. And this is so random, but my then boyfriend now husband bought me a purple Zippy from Lululemon. And I was like, "What is this Lululemon company?" Right. Like, at the time, I'd only wore Nike. And anyway, I went to their website, and I found this goal setting program manifestation program that they had at the time. And what they recommend you do in this program is a few things. First, is take stock of your life as it was 10 years ago, and show yourself, remind yourself how much growth you've experienced over the course of a decade. And it's actually mind blowing when you do that exercise. And then the second is to project out your life 10 years and envision yourself in the environment that you most desire to be in, if you could create everything in your life that you wanted. And again, you're reminding yourself of all the growth you've experienced in the past 10 years can really like an uninhibited you from envisioning where you could be in the next 10 years.Lesley Logan  This is amazing. This is so cool. Because, you know, so many people are like, "Okay, what do I want to be in the next 10 years?" And that's like, I don't know, like, depending on the day, you might be like, I know where exactly where I'll be." (Stef: Right) And they're like, "Everything is against me, I don't trust me right now." But to actually take the data of how far you've come in the last 10 years, you probably wouldn't even have believed that you'd be where you are now 10 years ago. (Stef: Yeah) So that is really cool Stef. I am going to do this homework assignment when we're done.Stef Caldwell  Well, let me let me raise you one. (Lesley: Okay.) So when they talk about the next 10 years, it can be really, really challenging to be like, this will be the job. And this will be the salary. And this will be you know where my house is like your address. But it's a lot easier when you abstract out that specifics, right. This is how I want to feel in my career, this is how I want to feel in my home, these are the types of things that I envision. And so they would recommend, and this is what I recommend in the book is that you kind of break down your life into three component parts, your personal life, so the relationships that you have, your health, you know, like literally your being and like how you're treating your body and your career, which I think you know, translates directly to financial, and then reverse engineer where you want to be when you're envisioning that 10 year you to where you need to be in five years to be on track, or you need to be in one year to be on track. And then my recommendation is like, keep pulling that back. What could you do in the next 30 days? What could you do tomorrow, and then you end up with a roadmap for everything that you need to accomplish in order to manifest that life.Lesley Logan  I love that. I love that a lot. I I have done this. Well, this is how I do all my goals. Everything is a reverse reverse roadmap, something because I used to take a maze and like start at the end and like work my way backwards. I just my dad says is cheating. (Stef: Which is so smart. I love that.) Thank you. And he's like, you're, they're cheating. I'm like, why wouldn't you be ...Stef Caldwell  Right. You're like "No dad. I'm just a manifester. Okay"?Lesley Logan  I know it is preparing me for this. But it is true when you do it like that. It does feel like more tangible. And you can actually you can't, what it does make you do as you can't go, I don't know how to do that. I'm like, I've get to be stuck, you actually do know the next action step you can take and so it helps you like kind of get that ball rolling and get out of your own way. Sometimes, you know, because I think we can be the first person in our own way before other obstacles show up.Stef Caldwell  Yeah. And I think oftentimes, like the first step is a conversation. Or it's like a Google search, right? It's the most simple things.Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah. Thank you for ... because it is it shouldn't be that simple. If your first step is not as simple as a Google search or conversation, you can break it down. Another a little bit, everyone. (Stef: Exactly.) Okay. you mentioned women, their you said 'worth' and making sure that like, if they're working for themselves, or they're working for someone like is their worth reflected in what, they're what they're getting back. I feel like, at least in the communities that I'm running, a lot of women can have a day where they feel like they are definitely worthy. And then they feel guilty of the work that they're demanding of that they make. Right? How do we, I feel like that is a big step that we need to figure out if we want to collapse the 208 year situation that we're in, because if like, when I coach, the male teachers, I coach, they have no problems. Like, I'm like, oh, yeah, that they want to make this much no problem. And they go ask, like, they don't actually ever feel guilty about that. And other people, like when I coach women, they're like, I know about, like, one of my clients gonna say, like, if I can't like that, like, I don't know why we're so concerned. Am I making sense? So like, what is it that you found and what can we do as women to kind of get the guilt and the worth to not be competing against each other?Stef Caldwell  Yeah, I think it's, I mean, it's challenging, it's really challenging to step into the version of you that can demand that, because there's a lot of emotion and complexity tied up with money. So oftentimes, when I feel like emotionally tied to a situation, I try to be more objective, literally take a step back and look at the skills that you have, and how much the market pays for those skills, and how good you are at those skills. And that will show you that you're either on the bottom side of that market, or the top side of the market. And my guess is, if you're listening to this podcast, you really give a crap, you're probably doing a ton of self work, you create tremendous value for the people that you work with the organizations that you work in. And the the work that you do reflects that. And so, why why conflate how you feel about accepting money with the objective reality of your worth being being more and, and then try to expand your container to be able to receive that. And now that's, that's kind of it. I don't know how useful that is for somebody, but that's what's worked for me.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I think like when you said, expand your container, it's almost like I had to like, I'm a visual person. So I like this close, like, think about like closing your eyes and like, like allowing yourself to be big enough to have to receive all of that. And I (Stef: Yeah) think sometimes we are so used to playing small, we've made our container so small that it gets filled up really quick before we've reached our worth.Stef Caldwell   Yeah, yeah. James Clear, wrote a great book, Atomic Habits. And there's something that he says in the book that has really stuck with me, and that I constantly find myself going back to, and it's, I'm the type of person who, and then fill in the blank at the end of that. And I think it's like, I'm the type of person who makes half a million dollars a year or a million dollars a year, or $10 million per year. And then like, again, like envisioning and stepping into, like, who would I have to be to actually be able to receive $10 million a year? Like, what, like, I'd probably have to be a different person. Like, that's not my income level. Um, but again, like just going through those mental exercises, like who would I have to become to be able to receive in that capacity can really help you figure out like, where you need to do the work to be able to receive in that capacity?Lesley Logan  Yeah, that couldn't be more be it till you see it if I you know, if I told you to say that. (Lesley and Stef laughs) But you know, what if so, I was talking to one of my friends who owns a business in town, and I was going to teach a workshop for her. And I just said to her, "I love you, I, I'm saying no, right now. And it's not you. It's just I need some more time to be with myself." And I said, and I ran into her person, I said, "Thank you for understanding most people be like, oh, when can you do it?" And she just was like, "No problem." That's so amazing. And she said, "Lesley, she's like, I am working on something right now. And so you saying that this gave me more time to work on that thing." But what it was, and this is where I'm gonna get your point is writing down like the person you want to be or the thing you want to have, and then making sure that the next thing that you write down or the next thing you think, isn't conflicting with that, so who like I'm the type of person makes half million dollars. The next thing is, like, you said, like, what would I have to do to to be someone who can make a half million dollars to someone who makes a half million dollars? And she says, oftentimes, we write down like, but I don't have that and I have a job that only pays me $115,000. You know, like, we start to like, we erode the manifest that we erode the vision and really what it's mostly is like, okay, if I may make a half million dollars, what is the person what makes a half million dollars do in the morning? Where does a person who makes half a million dollars go to work? Where do they work, right, like, (Stef: Yeah) that kind of thing. And so I I have been working on that, because I stopped doing one of my morning routines of journaling, because I was busy. I convinced myself, we're so good at this, even those of us who have like a really strong morning routine can convince ourselves like, I need that extra 15 minutes. And I remember I was at the bank yesterday. And as it was a little frustrating thing to do at the bank. And I was like, you know, people who don't have problems at the bank, probably also make time for journaling. And they don't feel guilty about it. And they don't like all these things, like as I made up my own version of it, but like, it's, we keep waiting until we have the thing to be the person want to be as opposed to like, who is that person and what are they have to do? And how do we add that in right now. And maybe you only are making $115,000. But if you start taking the steps that a half million dollar person is doing, you can have that life sooner. (Stef: Yeah, yeah.) You can have that million dollar life and working your way towards making it.Stef Caldwell  Yeah, and I think two things to that. First is our de facto response to anything that feels uncomfortable is I can't and I would just encourage your listener every time like that thought comes up in your head like override doop, doop, doop, how can I? Right. And then 'how can I' is just more expansive question ask yourself. The second thing is know that there has been plenty of research executed that would indicate to you that just by having that goal of hitting that, you know, half million dollar per year mark or million dollar per year mark, or whatever it is for you. You are, I think it's like 10 times more likely to achieve it just by having that written. So there was like a Harvard Harvard research study done in the 80s. Look this up, it'll blow your frickin mind. But basically, like 3% of people graduating Harvard that year had both written goals, as well as plans for achieving them. And when they were revisited years later, they were making 10x those of their peers that have either, you know, written goals or no goals at all.Lesley Logan  That is incredible. That, first of all, I love that. It's also so believable. I mean, maybe the listeners remember this story, but maybe not remind you. When Brad and I decided to move to Las Vegas. First, it was December 2019. We're like, "Hey, maybe we should maybe we should actually think about moving to Las Vegas." And Brad said like, "Yeah, like in 2022, or 2023." This is 2019, right? Because we had so many plans for 2020. And we had to like kind of change the life if you're gonna want to move and buy a house like we were living in California without the goal of buying a house. So, you have to make a lot of life decisions that are different everyone, when you're ready to buy a house, and you were living in California before. So fast forward March 2020, our entire count calendars, cancelled everything. Like I'm just like, literally refunding retreats and workshops and all this stuff. And I had a client who said, she worked at Google and she said, "We're going to be home until June of 2021," is what they said. This isn't April of 2020. And I was like, "If Google's going to be at home remote, every tech company is going to a remote and space is going to become a commodity." And so I told Brad, we need to move to Vegas now. And he's like, "Okay, well maybe like this, like later this year." And I'm like, "Nope, June 1st. We're moving June 1st." And so we did this whole thing we wrote down like how many rooms will the house have? How like how much will can we spent? Like, what how much we want to have a square footage, what does it have? We are very specific. And then we put that away, we started doing some stuff did a couple work things. And sure enough, when we found this house, it was all the things we wrote down. It was a better price point than we thought and we moved on June 1. Like it was all these things and so havin not written down having like, "Oh, we're gonna do that whatever." We're not like actually gotten specific about it. I don't I can tell you right now it probably wouldn't be here because I wouldn't have known what I was looking for. I wouldn't know I found it.Stef Caldwell  Yeah,yeah. There's so there's so many things and that one is I have to reference a woman's work who I just adore Dr. Tara Suat Swart. She is like a neural manifestation guru. So she talks about like the brain science behind manifesting and then the second thing so go and read her book The Source (The Source? Yeah, The Source.) So go and read that if you like this conversation. Second thing is the universe loves clarity, the universe does not love wishy washy. Same exact thing happened to me and my husband. It was last Christmas, (unfortunately we didn't get the house which I'm still grieving) but we started asking ourselves if we left the city because we were city people. Then like what would the dream house look like for us? Number of rooms, walkout basement on a lake with a boats with all these things? Can I swear on this? (Lesley: You can totally. Yeah.) I shit you not I get on Zillow the very next day and I'm like, "Oh my God, this is the house in our price range." You know what all these elements it's like, by having that clarity you can attract and find that thing because you're aware that that's what you're looking for.Lesley Logan  100%. So you let I'm gonna put I put the source down because I got a I got a credit on my book thing to read. But I am rereading in paperback Pam, I think her name is Grout, Pam Grout's book E-Squared. And she also did some science behind things and everyone who's like, "Oh my God, these two girls are talking about manifesting and getting clar..." Do that, if you are a doubter. This is the book for you because she (Stef: Yeah) has nine experiments. All, seven of them only take 48 hours to do or less. And it's you have to be specific, but you are she literally has you test the universe to prove that it exists and that it brings you things. And I did this book, gosh, in 2013 20... No 2014, I did this book and I wanted to experiment I wrote Brad's name down and we were not dating and he was not calling me and nor was he texting me, but I wrote his name down as someone who's going to call me. And the rule was it had to be someone who knew your information, but you would not say, "Oh, call me later," like, couldn't be like, we hadn't talked in like three months. So I wrote his name down and within 48 hours, he had texted me and like the rest (Stef: Wow!) is history. So (Stef: Wow!) so like, I, I've been feeling a little bit like, I've been feeling a little unspecific and things and I'm just like, "I, want?" Like, insert generic goal here. And so I'm like," You know what, we have to get back on that book, we have to get back on the specific bandwagon." So so everyone two manifesting books with science behind it. (Stef: Yes) I feel like there's a better house for you, there was a thing, but but as a city person, you have to be specific if you're gonna leave.Stef Caldwell  Yeah. I know. (Stef and Lesley laughs) I'm been checking out Zillow every day. So ...Lesley Logan  My advice, because that was a really weird to leave the city of LA like, like in UCLA to like, Vegas, and I were we are by the Strip. So I'm like, "Oh, look, city skyline." (Stef: Yeah, yeah.) Okay, so back to women and building wealth, (Stef: Yeah) and feeling worthy. What, what do you say to the woman who, who may be like, oh, it will just use me as example because I know, we have a lot of listeners like this. I wasn't raised with money. I was raised with parents who like, well, one parent who would spend the money, lose the game. And I kind of felt like it's because I didn't feel worthy. And that's why the like getting rid of the money. (Stef: Yeah.) You know, sorry, Mom, if you're listening. But just an observation. And then you know, so no money is always gone. The answer to everything was no, we don't have any money. And then to fast forward, where I make way more money than I ever saw an adult member of my family make. What do you say to that person as they are trying to even build more wealth or feel more worthy of things like when around them, they never had that as a model? Is there, is there a mantra, is there something they could think of? Like, what is it because that is also stopping us from bridging that gap.Stef Caldwell  Yeah, I think the first thing is, in any area of your life, when you start doing work, results come, right. And we have been trained in how to have relationships with the people that we work with, in our careers, we have been not trained in how to have a relationship with our money. And so there's tons of money experts out there, there's a woman that I really adore, whose work has really impacted my life, Jocelyn Kelly Reid, who teaches us to look at money, like a resource, just as air is a resource that is abundant that we breathe, and we don't think about, imagine money being the same, it can come into your life, it can exit your life, it's literally just kind of this ebb and flow of how you exist. And for me, you know, similar situation like middle middle class, you know, but but my parents didn't have tons of acculan... affilance, affluence.Lesley Logan  It's okay, Sunday's bring on the worst words.Stef Caldwell  Right, right. And so, um, you know, even just like getting around, getting centered around things like debt, right? Like, I think debt can like be this major shame spiral, especially for women, because we've been told it's bad. But in reality, like debt is just a means to afford a future that we may need to step into more soon than we're ready. My husband, I bought a home, you know, a number of years ago that we invested into as an Airbnb property. And I took on debt to make that investment. But that investment has paid back tenfold, maybe 30 fold at this point. And so while I had shame around the debt at the time, now I look at it and I'm like, "It was the best decision I ever made." And it accelerated the future that we're now living in. And so again, you know, there were you put forth effort results follow, I would encourage anybody listening to this, if you have money, shame issues, if you have a belief system that makes you feel like you're not worthy of accomplishing the financial success that is available to you, if you just simply want it, go and put in the work there.Lesley Logan  Yeah, that is, I like that. I also I like the way you put that together, because it is where you put the effort, it does expand and (Stef: Yeah) you know, so and if that's where you need it, and, and thank you for bringing up the debt thing, because I do think there's a lot of shame around that kind of stuff. And one thing you'll that you don't know is like pretty much everyone has it. (Stef: Yeah) So you're not the only one. (Stef: Right, right.) And also something that I remember, because I would say this to my clients who like didn't like the number on the scale and I'm like, "Well, you're not walking around with your scale number on your shirt like no one actually knows what you weigh." (Stef: Yeah) The same really is for your bank account and you walk around thinking that everyone around you who looks like they have money has more than you, you don't know, they might have tons of debt that goes along (Stef: Right) with the money that they have. And so I think like, I remember, I heard a speaker, and oh my gosh, her name is escaping me. And y'all if I remember, I'll put in the shownotes, or we'll talk about in the recap, but she was very clear, like one, the energy of what you spend the money on your bills matters. So like when you like to have a lot of positivity around paying the taxes and paying the bills, and the word you use and then two like, credit is a good thing. (Stef: Yeah) Like having having that ability to use that to expand the business that you're growing or the the work that you're doing. It's very different than just like going to Target. (Lesley laughs) Again, there's a difference. So I really, really enjoyed that. Okay. So Stef, like with if somebody is wanting to start today to have more of an idea around welcoming wealth and I mean, obviously, we have your manifestation tips, and we can and wanting to get into the investment world, what what other things need to think about when it comes to building wealth? Is there like an obstacle or something we may not have discussed yet that could be like, hindering women from actually making the wealth they want to make?Stef Caldwell  Yeah. So there's a book that I read a couple of years ago, that just the title alone is Epic. It's F word being humble. So being humble. (Stef and Lesley laughs) And I remember, I remember reading it and being like, "Who would I be, if I was the boss's version of me that had no humility whatsoever?" Right. Like, take all the humility that has been like entrained in you from being a woman and playing small and all these things that society kind of like forces on us. And just strip that away for a second. Don't gotta do it for a long time. Maybe just go get in the shower, and be the boss's version of yourself and talk about your accolades, and your accomplishments, and how far you've grown, and how incredible you are. And what a great you know partner you are and the people in your community, like literally go to the most expanded, pompous, like proud version of you. And just let that out. And now the next time you're going into any money related conversation, whether it's raising your rates, working with clients, whether it's raising your rates, you know, going into the next career opportunity, if it's right for you. I want you to remember, every single thing that you stated when you were being the least humble version of you, because that's who you really are. And like when you accept that, you'll realize that in many ways, like you are underpaid or undervalued or undervaluing yourself even. And so, yes, so much of how we are able to receive is based on like, what we are available for, and so just go increase your level of availability, and then you know, money will flow to you.Lesley Logan  Oh, I really love that. I really love that. And I I was thinking as you're saying that, like no one has ever like said, "You know what, go see so and so they're the most humble, aka cheapest place in town." Like no one's saying that. (Lesley and Stef laughs)Stef Caldwell  Yeah. Like, I imagined, like, going to, like work with, you know, fitness provider. And they're like, "You know, I'm like, actually not very good at helping you accomplished your goals. Like, I'm mediocre at best." Like, "No way." Are you gonna, like I want to go to the person to be like, "You're gonna leave your with a six pack, a totally new diet, and be absolutely ripped, just like you want." Like, that's who I'm gonna hire. (Lesley: Yeah) So be their version of you ...Lesley Logan  Well, isn't it isn't it Tony Robbins is like the most certain person that wins. They win all the time. (Stef: Yeah) Like I'm most certain person wins. And I also think like, if you'd follow that up with like, "I'm going to do all this super, super confident. How much do you charge? Oh it's $50?" (Stef: Right) Like, with a question mark. They're be like, "Ah, wait, what? I was about to pay. That sounds like a $200 an hour thing. And now it's like, I'm gonna wonder what's wrong with it, it doesn't match. (Stef: Yeah) Like your most bosses, like badassary, doesn't matter the price you just told me?"Stef Caldwell  Yeah, when people pay, they pay attention. And you're the price that you you request is more about the transformation that you provide your customer than it is about what you're able to receive. So like think about this, when you pay $50 for a service, you show up and you treat that $50 service those same way you treat a $50 service. We pay $5,000 for a service, you show up is a very different person. $20,000 $100,000 Right? Like know that your customers will get more value out of you when you you know demand a price point that forces them to show up as the best versions of themselves.Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah. And you also will like them more. You won't resent them for... (Stef: Yeah) Like because you know when we resent something's because we broke around with ourselves and if you're under charging, of course you're gonna resent that yourself or you're gonna be mad at you because you're, they're blowing off the thing that you think that they should be valuing but you didn't charge them enough for them to value it? And then you're pissed because you're also not making enough to do the thing, but they're not valuing.Stef Caldwell  Yeah, yeah. And there's so much to unpack in our feelings around money too. Like, what revenue do you bring into your business that like, feels like hell yeah, revenue. And what revenue do you bring in that you're like, "Oh, I do not even like this." Then find ways to get more hell yeah revenue and less revenue, and ultimately, you'll grow over time.Lesley Logan  Okay, well, that that is I can't, Brad's gonna love this. But I already know Brad's gonna love that because that is that is also the one of the most simple ways like I think some people can complicate it like, "Oh, this is the thing that I make the most money on, or this is the thing I sell the most." But it's like actually ask yourself like, which one is like hell yeah money, and which ones like uh money. And then how do you make more hell yeah money. (Stef: Yeah) And what do you have to change in your business or in your day or in your schedule or your life? Like that's oh, yes. Oh, I love. (Stef: Yeah) Okay. Well, Stef, I mean, I feel like it can keep talking to you forever. But we're gonna take a brief pause. And and after that, we'll find out where people can just hear more of your words.Alright, Stef, where are you hanging out? Where are you giving this amazing advice? Don't and you have a podcast coming out? Yeah.Stef Caldwell  I do. I do. So because you've been listening, you know that my whole thing is how do we compress time? How can we help women have more wealth more quickly? There is an emerging economy and emerging industry that I'm really excited about. You may have heard the words Web3, you may have heard the words, Crypto. I'm really passionate about this space, as it's opening doors to new wealth creation for women and not enough women are leaning in. So where people can hang out with me. On September 7, my new podcast Allowlist is launching along with my co host shout out Lauren Tierney, you're amazing. It is a podcast focused all around Web3 and Crypto. I know you might be listening, and you're be like, "Oh, this is so weird. This took a left turn." Trust me. This is an incredible industry. And I would love to have you guys come and listen to that podcast.Lesley Logan  Well, I think it could sound a left turn because when people hear Crypto. They think, "Oh, God, that's just like, I don't even understand stock markets. And I have to understand like that." And then also everything that they've heard about Crypto. But can you like in layman's terms describe what Web3 is? Because I think that that's a word that they've heard less.Stef Caldwell  Yes. So if you think about the internet, something we all know and love. In the early 90s, the only thing you could do on the internet was read stuff. That's Web1. If you think about your experience with the internet, right now, you can both read things on the internet, as well as interact with people on the internet. So it's read and write. Web3 is a new iteration of the internet that allows you to read, write and own your experiences in your digital life. If you think about things that we've talked about on this podcast, envisioning where this world is 10 years from today, my guess is that we're spending even more time and digital lives than we have been historically. And Web3 really enables the ownership of our digital lives as opposed to being owned by the public utilities that are available to us. I ...Lesley Logan  Are we talking about the metaverse? Are we talking about like living in a like a like a an like a what does that virtual reality is that what we're talking about?Stef Caldwell  Metaverse is one component of Web3, but certainly not the whole story.Lesley Logan  Thank God, thank God, there's another part of the story because I was like, I just not, I don't want to be part of that world as much. I'm already there. They already have three apps for me. (Lesley and Stef laughs) I thought you know what, first of all, like, I hope you all download it and go and listen, and at least at least listened to all their launch episodes. Because here's the deal, women historically, we've not been able to be part of the first steps of any creation, like this, even in the 90s. Like how many women were in tech companies, right. And now you are part of tech companies. You can tell people how few women are there. And this is like an opportunity for all of us to actually be part of it, be part of what's being curated. And we already know when women are at the top we do way better decisions. (Lesley laughs) (Stef: Which is completely true.) So there's science everyone. But I like I think that this is this is not something we should avoid because this is though an awesome opportunity. We could be part of it at the beginning and we should be. So I'm excited that y'all are doing it. I can't wait to tune in and actually learn about something I know this much about. And Brad is like, "Lesley you know," he he talks about it all the time but like I think I've been like you know, blinders on blah, blah, blah, but we can't do that anymore. We need to be part of it if we want to make the changes and we want to also be in charge of the experience we get to have which we all should want to do that. So thank you for sharing that podcast. It's Allowlist?Stef Caldwell  Yeah, allowlist.vip is the website and @allowlist.vip is the Instagram, Twitter, TikTok you know all the places.Lesley Logan  Wonderful. Okay, so we asked everyone and you've given so many great action steps already. So, I totally understand if you're highlighting the best ones, but Be It Till You It action items. Bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted steps women can do to be until they see it.Stef Caldwell  Yeah, I was really excited about this question when I was preparing. So I wrote down four principles that guide my life. And these are quotes from other people that I've picked up and other personal development books along the way. The first is, there's a statute of limitations on all childhood traumas, I think in many ways we let trauma, hold us back, work, do the work, and then choose to hop, skip, jump past it. I think that that's just a choice we all make. I have my own trauma, you can hear about that on plenty of other podcasts. But that's a guiding principle for me. The second is that you have to say 'no' to what you want to do, in order to do what you really want to do. I think the power of 'no' is so undervalued. But the more you start saying 'no' to the things that you want to do, the more you can start saying 'hell yes' to the things that you really want to do. And sometimes it's harder, but it's better. (Lesley: I love that.) The third is you can have your excuses. You can have success, but you can't have both. So make a decision. Who do you want to be? And then the fourth is ask yourself every single day. Are you willing? Are you willing to be that person that person that takes action, the person that has the hard conversations with themselves and with others, the person that can step into the life that you most desire. And so that's it.Lesley Logan  Oh my gosh, saving all those, saving and putting, I'm like gonna put them where I can read them from my desk. I'm one of those people who needs a little reminders all the time.Stef Caldwell  And I will say this I have to give you the names of the people that said those ... (Lesley: Okay) because those are not my original words and I don't want anybody to think that they are. (Lesley and Stef laughs)Lesley Logan  Let's give the credit and where are they from?Stef Caldwell  Yeah. Statute of limitations is Alex Banayan, Third Door. Saying no to what you want for what you really want, Amber Amber Rae, Choose Wonder Over Worry. You can have your excuses, but you can have or success. That's Jen Sincero. And then are you willing is Gary John Bishop.Lesley Logan  Okay, The Third Door book everyone that's an put that one on your list. That is a phenomenal book. That is such a good book. And it is, I think I can look back at my life and see that every success I've had is from the third door. (Stef: Yeah) Like it's never, it's never been the first door. It's always been this third door. And whenever I try to go the first or second I'm always rejected. I'm always like, "Oh."Stef Caldwell  You're like, "These stupid doors."Lesley Logan  Oh my God, these are, okay, I could have you on forever. You are amazing. You have such great advice. Thank you for being so willing to share it and and also, I hope to have you back. So if you all loved her, and you love what she said. Let us know screenshot this, tag her on Instagram, tag her podcast, go listen to it and say which part of this was your best takeaway? Which one of these things are you journaling about or thinking about or gonna do right now? Not only does it help the @be_it_pod, thank you, but it also helps Stef with her mission, which is really helping women build wealth and collapsing that gap. And I think that we we can do this together. So thank you so much for being here, everyone until next time, Be It Till You See It.That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others BE IT TILL YOU SEE IT. 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How can you finally stop repairing the same negative relationships? Brad and Lesley recap somatic dating coach, Lauren Zoeller, discussing past relationships, red flags, and how to transform your dating life or current relationships. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Upcoming things to note: AGENCY MINI, Cambodia retreat, Las Vegas RetreatThe best Book recommendations for personal growth and bizHow do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in unhealthy relationship patterns?Boredom as a driving factor and running from relationship to relationship to chase the high.The difference between a life coach and a therapist Exploring your past red flag relationships for growthWhy has every relationship ended? Episode References/Links:Follow Lauren on IGLauren's WebsiteProfitable Pilates RetreatAGENCY MINIBooks: We Should All Be Millionaires, Rachel RogersChatter. Ethan KrossRejection Proof. Jia JiangE-Squared Pam GroutGetting the Love You Want, Harville HendricksBrad Crowell PP Course How to be rejected to success with 200 noesTELL US YOUR THOUGHTS  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life, Brad and I are going to dig into the aligning convo I have with Lauren Zoeller in our last episode. If you haven't yet listen to interview, feel free to pause this now. Go back and listen to that one, and then come back and join us. If you don't know about somatic coaching. You should listen to the interview.Brad Crowell  Yeah, if you don't know the definition of somatic, she explained it. (Lesley: Yeah.) Lauren because it was actually great as your very first question. Like, "Hey, cool. I'm all about life coaching. What's the somatic part mean? Can you explain that?" And they dug in pretty deep. So yeah.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I know. Well, it's because I have a somatic therapist, and I didn't really understand what that title was. And she would do her therapy. And it had somatic stuff, but like, I didn't really I just was like, "Oh, we're in the woowoo world. We're just doing this." But it's actually not. It's not woowoo would all it's like totally legit science. You should totally... So go listen to it. But I love Lauren, and ...Brad Crowell  She, she's powerful.Lesley Logan  She's powerful. (Brad: Yeah.) She's super cool. And at the time that we're recording this, I'm on the eve of hanging out with her for the weekend here in Vegas. (Brad: Yeah.) So talk about, do you mind, I just say I want to say this, because it's nothing to do with anything. But if you're trying to make friends, like, do the things that just that people do want to like, share and experience together. She is coming here with a couple other women. Because I was like, "We should all hang out. I live in Las Vegas. It's a great place to come visit."Brad Crowell  Wait, really? (Lesley: Yeah. That was I said.) They came because you, you just invited them to come. (Lesley: Yeah.) That's so cool.Lesley Logan  I know. I said we should, well, I will, I won't take all the credit. They know a mutual friend, they know Tori Gordon, who is a coach because who was a coach, and she was on our podcast earlier. (Brad: Yeah.) And they're like, "Oh, yeah, Tori was talking about how we should all come to Vegas." I said, "Well, now you've two reasons to come because Tori and I live in the same neighborhood. (Brad: Great.) And you should come." And boom, set some dates. And now they're coming.Brad Crowell  That's really cool. I didn't know that. That's fun.Lesley Logan  Take action ... I'm so excited. By the time you've heard this, I've already hang out. We've already had our women's weekend and it's going to be amazing. I'll be talking about it on another episode. Anyways. We are also one month away from the time that you're listening to this. From the PP retreat. The Profitablie Pilates business retreat here in Las Vegas. (Brad: Yeah.) So if you are wanting to hang out in a very intimate, not in like a sexual way, but just like small, that's what I mean it by a small group, private event.Brad Crowell  I don't think anybody took it as sexual but but that's fair to clarify.Yeah, it's it's a, it's an intimate setting, that's a fair way to describe it. It's, it's actually a lot of fun and very transformative when it comes to digging into the customer journey that you may or may not be presenting to your customers. If you run a fitness business, or any kind of service based business, really, the principles do apply, and that we'll be recovering that weekend. And our first one that we ran earlier this year was amazing. It was so amazing. So we're really excited to be hosting a second one this year. (Lesley: It will be amazing.) It's going to be amazing. (Lesley: I'm just gonna put amazing in there one more time.) Also, amazingly, I'm not sure that we haven't set a date yet for next year. So it's not 100% that we're going to do it for next year. So if you're thinking I'll just do the next one. Just talk to us now because (Lesley: Yeah.) because it may not actually be one we want you know like we've got a lot going on next year like a lot.Lesley Logan  A lot. And I'll say I just want to say like putting off the growth of your business for next time. Can we just like talk about like ...Brad Crowell  Why wait nine more months to get started?Lesley Logan  The people who are at our first retreat, several of them made their retreat investment back within a couple of months. Of just using our project management training, of using our launch training of all this stuff. (Brad: Yeah.) They are now working on things this right now, as second rounds of things that will have (Brad: Yeah.) even better outcomes. If they had not come if they waited till next time they would not they would literally be where they were way before March making what they, making what they made before March in a time when you make more money. So I'm just saying don't wait till next time and Brad is right. We have not set dates and it's pretty unclear whether or not we will have another one in the 2023 dates we ...Brad Crowell  Look, we're hoping that we can do but (Lesley: We love it.) but but actually I also love going to Cambodia. So, yeah.Lesley Logan  We love going to Cambodia but we also love vacation.Brad Crowell  Yeah, there's that. I would like to take ... (Lesley: Yeah, so anyway ...) and idea. (Lesley: That's one month away. So ...) That's happening. Yeah, in the month. And then but what's happening is before then.Lesley Logan  Oh, Agency Mini. (Brad: Yeah.) Two, so it's like about two ish weeks away. It starts on the 18th. And ... (Brad: How it was a different than the retreat?) Okay, so Agency Mini, first of all, fold is very different. The retreat is at our house in person curated, very small group, very small group. (Brad: Yeah.) Agency Mini is not to say that it's a big group, but it is a bigger group. And ... (Brad: Yeah, it's a couple hundred people.) It's also online. We do one workshop, and we do one Q&A session, and then we answer your questions throughout the week. Whereas at the retreat, when you're on our house, we have several workshops, several times where you guys are in coaching settings. It's a very curated experience around what you're gonna be learning. Whereas inside of Agency Mini, we have a very curated webinar and homework for you. But then the rest of the week, you can really ask us anything, we'll be really honest with you.Brad Crowell  But bigger, bigger picture, though. The retreat, we're going to dig into, like I said, your customers journey (Lesley: Yeah.) and what you're putting in front of them, when to graduate them from your first product, your second product, your third product, whether that's digitally on your website, you know, or whether that is, you know, in your brick and mortar store. (Lesley:Yeah.) Where Agency Mini is a, it's a seven day taster of our ongoing coaching services, where you can we are going to dig into, we're going to help you clarify, you know exactly what it is that you offer your clients, how to connect to those clients, who those clients actually are. Right. And and then we're going to open it up for questions about anything throughout the week. So you know, and that's going to be virtual.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So profitabliepilates.com/retreat is retreat and profitable, profitablepilates.com/mini is for Agency Mini. (Brad: Yeah.) So you should sign up for that. (Brad: Yeah. Join us.) Also, by the way, if you join Agency for Mini, you get a lots of goodies. So just saying (Brad: True.) you've been thinking, "Oh, I want to coach with them," and you sign up for that. This is the time. So anyways, I'm so excited. September is, September, October are like going to be so ... (Brad: They're very so fun.) We're going to be like we're going to be in several states ... (Brad: It's gonna be a whirlwind.) It's a whirlwind.Brad Crowell  Yeah, it's gonna be crazy.Lesley Logan  Gotta get my sleep on. Anyways, we have an audience question.Brad Crowell  We do. You've answered this before, but it's been a long time. I just inserted that. What are some books that you recommend? Do you have any new ones?Lesley Logan  Yeah, so I don't recall which recap we answered this question. But I would say it's probably 100 episodes ago.Brad Crowell  I was gonna say, I think it's been like a long time.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So of course, I have been reading a lot. And by reading I mean listening. But I actually am reading a couple books like physical books. Currently, as we're doing this. So here's my new top books that I've been talking about a lot. And I've read it. There's they're not in, like, inclusive of all the books that I've read, but like what I think listeners of this show would really love. We Should All Be Millionaires, Rachel Rogers. Rachel Rogers, if you're listening this episode. Hi. Big fan over here. Want to be on the show? If you know Rachel, please do the intro. I'm just putting out there. I'm asking for it. I want I want Rachel Rogers on the show. That book is amazing. It's so good. I and Brad, love reading it.Brad Crowell  Yeah, we're I'm like, I don't know, third of the way through it right now. Halfway, I'm not sure.Lesley Logan  Yeah, it's so good. Chatter. I believe it is by Ethan Kross. I think that's who it's by. Yes. And I have DMed him, he has not responded to me. So I am not, (Brad: Ethan Kross.) I'm not rejected yet. And I will not take no for an answer from that man because he is amazing. That book is so it's so awesome at identifying why you're talking to yourself and the thoughts you say. And then also how to like snap yourself out of it, which I just frickin love. You know, I love action. So, Action Steps so that's a great book and then Rejection Proof. Oh my gosh, he did reject me for right now. Not permanently, he said to come back to him later. He's just not doing podcasts right now. That's okay. Jia Jiang, I got you. My peeps are gonna find you. We're gonna get you on the show. Anyways, Rejection Proof is so good. If you're afraid of being rejected. Brad has a course about being rejected (Brad: I do.) on our Profitable Pilates website.Brad Crowell  Yeah. We'll put the link to that in the show notes. (Lesley: Yeah.) It's called How to be rejected to success with 200 noes.Lesley Logan  Yeah, so and then this book was just like so so good. I'm really into it and then I've talked about it before actually talked about it with Coach Lee a couple weeks ago on that episode, but I started doing E-Squared again, and it's Pam Grout. Hi, Pam. Hi, hey girl hey. (Brad: Hey girl hey.) I tagg you on a post or three. Not a stalker, but just same (Brad: Big fan.) big fan, big fan over here. Anyways, um, I had I read Pam Grout's book, eight years ago, seven years ago, and I actually did one of the experience I put Brad's name now. And then he called me. (Brad: I did.) And then the other woman's name down, I just put the two together. She's the woman from the other company that's been hitting us up. (Brad: Oh, that's crazy.) How crazy is that? But she did also call me while we ran into each other. Anyways, you'll hear that on on Coach Lee's episode. But the point is, I've been doing all the experiments and I did the experiment one. I started on a specific date at 11am. And then I decided to meditate on like receiving abundance. And at 11:03 during the middle of my meditation, the experiment came through. Oh! So you all have to do E-Squared. Okay, those are the books. Do you have anything add to that?Brad Crowell  Those are, those are great. No, I've been reading political books, and also some novels. (Lesley: Yeah.) So yeah, less if you if you if you are looking to find a new world to experience that has nothing to do with reality. There's a lovely, incredible, 20 something books here series (Lesley: Oh, are you doing YA?) No.Lesley Logan  No, young adult, you're listening to a young adult?Brad Crowell  I don't know what that is. (Lesley: Oh.) So no, it's his name is Michael J. Sullivan. And he is a he's like a, he created his own fantasy world where he's got different, different times of the timeline. So like, you know, he started off, (Lesley: Oh) he started off with a thief and a soldier and the two of them get paired together and have to go to that. And he wrote, like, I don't know, 12 books around this. They're still out ...Lesley Logan  So not necessarily like a book for 20 somethings. It's just a 20 year long.Brad Crowell  No, no. He's written 20 novels. (Lesley: Yeah. Okay.) No, (Lesley: Sorry.) 20 books.Lesley Logan  20 books. So not YA at all?Brad Crowell  I don't know what YA is? So, no.Lesley Logan  YA is a ti... is like a section of books. It's called Young Adult. It's like your twilight ...Brad Crowell  Oh, yeah. I never I never got out of that. Yeah. (Lesley: Yeah.) No, it's a ...Lesley Logan  Like not goosebumps. But you know, something like that. Like ...Brad Crowell  I mean, sure, these are these are applicable for all ages, actually. The but but then, in that, in that timeline, he was referencing, you know, the history 3000 years ago. And then the next set of six books he wrote was from 3000 years ago. (Lesley: Oh, my God.) And then now the new books he's writing are in the middle, between these two timelines on a ... (Lesley: I can't handle it.) It's amazing, actually. And you fall in love with the characters and yeah, I mean, he is, he's mind blowingly good at what he does. It is incredible. The books are just fantastic. So (Lesley: Okay.) yeah.Lesley Logan  Let's talk about Lauren. (Brad and Lesley laughs)Brad Crowell  We don't go to the same movies, y'all. Just saying.Lesley Logan  We don't. We also don't go to bed the same time or wake up at the same time. We are an anomaly. If you are like, "I want to be married like Brad and Lesley." I'm just gonna go out right now you have to be very secured ...Brad Crowell  We have so much in common when it comes to being entrepreneurs.Lesley Logan  Yeah. And we ... like, like the things that we love to do for fun. Our so opposite. (Brad: Yeah) We just do them on our own.Brad Crowell  So, Lesley's got a green thumb. No, she doesn't.Lesley Logan  No, no. She doesn't. (Brad: I'm teasing.) But my Mammillaria by not touching it whatsoever is doing great. (Brad: Yeah, yeah.) My plant in the window. It's not doing so good. I don't know what to do about it. Anyway. Hi, let's talk about Lauren.Brad Crowell  Let's talk about Lauren Zoeller.Lesley Logan  All I can say is Lauren ... as like our guests listening to these recaps ...Brad Crowell  I know. They're probably, "What the hell?" (Lesley: When did they talk about me though?) Okay, cool. So, Lauren, helping women and men find conscious partnerships. Lauren Zoeller is a Somatic Relationship Expert, aka Dating Coach who overcame her own patterns of shame to now lead women into aligned lives. Lauren is more than a matchmaker. She's here to guide individuals to keep the relationships they find, and in the process, discover a deeper love for themselves.Lesley Logan  So aka better than a dating coach. (Brad: Yeah. Better than a dating coach.) Just to like, help my new friend out. She's more than a dating coach.Brad Crowell  Well, yeah, well, I think I think that, again, if you go back and listen to her definition of somatic, it will help you understand how different she is from you know, just, you know, she's not Hitch you know, I think you you probably had the best example, I'm just going to pull it back up. You said, people who date the quote on quote, "date the same person over and over and over again, until they learn their lesson." Right? She helps you, like understand why you might be repeating things, but just in a different time and a different with the different people. (Lesley: Yeah.) But you're still repeating the same thing.Lesley Logan  If you're watching us on the YouTube channel, you got the air quotes. If you didn't, Brad, his inflection should hopefully help you understand the air quotes are in there.Brad Crowell  Yeah, Brad is very good.Lesley Logan  It's better than Joey from Friends that air quote. I'm sorry. (Lesley and Brad laughs)Brad Crowell  What was one thing that you love that Lauren said?Lesley Logan  Thank you for asking. One thing I love that she said was "how you receive love as a child shapes how you expect to be loved today. Often those who had a frenetic childhood are chasing the high of chaos". And she went on a little bit like how do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in unhealthy patterns is a question she's having (Brad: Yeah.) she's haveing you ask yourself. So take a moment. How do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in an unhealthy patterns? So, you know, we all know The Five Love Languages and things like that. But like actually think about it like the way you're giving and receiving love. Is it actually helping you? Have loving relationships? Or is it in this chaotic, unhealthy pattern? Like these are important things. And then she also had some other examples like boredom as a driving factor and running from relationship to relationship to chase the high.Brad Crowell  Well, that's good. So so what she was talking about, which I thought was really amazing because I, I don't I never I never thought this way. But she said if you had chaos in your childhood, and actually she specifically was talking about helicopter parents. And she said, if your you know, parents were in, and then out and then in and then out and there was this chaos happening. You often expect that later on in life. So if you end up in a stable, you know, relationship, it doesn't mean stable is good or bad. It just means it's the opposite of what you expected. So more often than not, you're inclined to feel like, this is boring, or this is safe. Or this is kind of ... you know, and ...Lesley Logan  It's like when Carrie broke up with Aidan, everyone. She broke with Aidan because they didn't fight. And ...Brad Crowell  I don't actually know any idea ...Lesley Logan  Sex in the City. Everyone who's listening is knodding their head, we all know, because that was a big deal. There was a whole thing.Brad Crowell  So glad I wasn't there for that one. Okay. Yeah, it's like, guys, it's like, Oh, my God. It's like when Carrie broke up (Lesley: Stop.) with Aidan (Lesley: Okay.) because they didn't fight all the time.Lesley Logan  No, but it's I think people need examples sometimes ...Brad Crowell  I think it's a perfect example. I just was not there with you on that one.Lesley Logan  It's fine. Everyone who's listening is with me. (Brad: Yeah. Oh yeah. Oh yeah.) They're all with me ...Brad Crowell  No, it's a perfect example because, you know, and then conversely, if you had a relatively stable, you know, or quote unquote, "boring", you know, like, like childhood love from your parents, and you find yourself in a chaotic relationship. You may be like, "I can't do this," you know. And anyway, I thought that was really interesting. I never thought about that before ...Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah. And also, so first of all, Lauren has an incredible course. And she has a bunch of services. There was also the book, Getting the Love You Want, which is a very interesting book about explaining the old brain, the new brain, and like, how, when you first get a relationship, you fill all of your own holes. So ... (Brad: Harville Hendricks) Yeah. So you fill all your own holes to so people like look, "I'm this like, perfect, amazing being and there's nothing crazy wrong with me here. Don't like I'm so good. And your partner, by the way, is doing the exact same thing." And then after a few months, it's so exhausting trying to fill those holes. But you don't even realize that you're doing it on a subconscious level. So (Brad: Right.) you think that that person, the person you're with is filled the holes like they've solved the problem. So and then when both of you start filling your own holes, you're like, "You change. They change, blah, blah, blah." Actually no, you both just started to be your fucking selves. (Brad: Interesting) Yeah, and so a lot ...Brad Crowell  Well she does, Lauren talks about that, at the very beginning. She talked about like, you know, being lonely and filling that loneliness with someone who you know, you shouldn't be with.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Oh, totally. Who hasn't done that, (Brad: Yeah) like 17 times not personal. Just, I just know, I'm still I'm watched. But I think it's like, it's ... (Brad: Calling you in behalf of a friend.) Yeah, calling for a friend, actually. Anyways, it's a great book, if you're like, "I don't know, if I'm gonna read the book." He was on Oprah. And you can like get the Cliff's Notes version, or you can just work with Lauren. But the reality is, is like, we have to stop pretending that how we were raised is um not affecting the lives and the choices we have now. And then also we have to understand that like we are making choices. You may think things are happening to you. And this is just the people that are around you. And these are the only options but we all actually have choices and when you start to recognize that like how you are choosing to give and receive love is a choice. (Brad: Sure.) Even if you feel it's subconscious, it can actually be a conscious decision. When you make those changes, you can actually start to change the patterns of the day you have and find the person you want to have and look at Lauren, look where she's at right now.Brad Crowell  Yeah. Interesting. Wow. Yeah. And what she's referencing is having moved through a very tumultuous time in her life to finding a place where she can be herself. (Lesley: Yeah.) With someone that she loves in a business that's functioning and all good things. (Lesley: Yeah.) So again, worth listening to. One thing I loved that she said, was she helped define the difference between a therapist and a life coach. (Lesley: Which I knew you would love.) Yeah, well, she is a life coach, therapist, generally speaking, has degrees in therapy, and they, you know, like help you dig into the past. Right. And so you're really breaking things down and trying to uncover, you know, where you came from. Whereas a life coach is helping you plan and look at your future. And I thought that was such a clear distinction, such an easy way to understand the difference between the two ...Lesley Logan  I knew you love it. (Brad: Yeah, that was great.) I was like, "Oh my gosh, Brad's and I fucking love this definition." And also, by the way, you could have a somatic therapist, (Brad: You can.) life coach, (Brad: Yeah.) and so you, like somatics is really amazing. Again, if you like, "What's somatic?" Listen to the other episode, just gonna make you do it. But you can have both and like, you can also have a therapist and a life coach, because one could be dealing with one thing and one you could be doing. (Brad: 100%) So you know, just that there are different things. But I loved how she explained it. I agree with you on that love.Brad Crowell  Yeah. All right. So finally, let's talk about those BE IT action items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your conversation with Lauren Zoeller? She summed it all up with one, one solid action BE IT action item. She said, look at the patterns that have shown up in your relationships, and write them down. Why has every relationship ended? And is there a common thread?Lesley Logan  Yeah, and I think you can look at friendships, as well as in family relationships, as well as love relationships. Like I think like, you know, we're not, we are different, with different people ish. But we all kind of wrote this thing. So like, if you look at how you how maybe a family member and you had a falling out, or a friend you had falling out, I bet you there's some common threads. And I think that can be worth journaling about. I'm not saying shame and judge all yourself, please. That's not what I'm saying ...Brad Crowell  But it's still a hard thing to dig into and look and review. And, you know, I mean, I think that it's easy to avoid. Let's just say it can be easy to avoid thinking about this stuff. (Lesley: Oh yeah) So when you start to uncover it, it may be a little bit uncomfortable. You know, because if you're honest with yourself, you know, how much a part of the ending of those relationships where you? Obviously, it takes two people to be in a relationship. So you were clearly a part of it. How?Lesley Logan  Yeah, and I think like, it's not like we're saying you should take all the blame, because that's not it at all. (Brad: No) But you should just actually look at like, what was your role in it? And like, if you're like, "Well, listen Brad, my person cheated on me." Okay, that's fine. I do not blame anybody who was cheated on, like as the reason for that, because that's a whole other ball of wax. But you can look at the red flags, that you ignored at the begining of the relationship that (Brad: Yeah) got you in relationship with someone who cheated on you. (Brad: Sure.) And there, and so you looking at those red flags that you ignored, those are choices. And you made those for specific reasons. (Brad: Yeah.) And there's nothing wrong with the choice you made. But then you can actually have this like, red flag marker. So when you're on a date, and you see that red flag and you go, "Oh, here I am with the same pattern of dating this person who is doing this out of spite..." (Brad: Exactly. Yeah.) And one thing, put a stop sign up. But you get to say, "Hey, you know, you said something. I just would like to go back to that. And just kind of explore that a little bit. (Brad: Yeah) Could you mind like, like, just give me a little bit more from that." And if they like dig a hole that's just like, wow, that's red flag just became a frickin fire, run. (Lesley laughs) (Brad: Yeah) Run away.Brad Crowell  Yeah, I mean and it may be, I mean, there's, you know, in a yet last steps, so we were talking about or so in our last recap, we're talking about clients and firing a client. Same thing, I mean does, we're not necessarily talking about love relationships here. We're talking about relationships, right? So it could be you keep taking on clients that you, you know, I don't know, maybe, you know, we teachers, as a teacher, we all feel like we can help someone, but maybe we think we can help them emotionally in addition to physically and maybe that is like consistent issue. Because after a while you're fried, you're ready to move on to the next person, but now they're your client, you know, and it's possible that you've been doing this over and over again. You know, who knows? There's just a It's interesting to go back and take a look. And like what what Lauren said, look at the patterns that have shown up in your relationships and write them down. Why has every relationship ended? And what is that common thread?Lesley Logan  Well, I'll be really honest. Like we would not have dated had I not like looked at the red flags and like been playing that game. And like looking at how all of the people I dated before you ended, I was like, "Oh, wow, there's a common interesting theme." And so when you came on, like, I challenge you a couple of times, like, ... you relate to something I said, "That doesn't, I don't like that doesn't work for me." You know, and like, we had to talk about it. So like, it's not like, if you see it, you're like, "I have to run away right now." No, you can actually have a conversation around it, (Brad: Sure.) and then like, say things and it really does allow you to have an adult relationship where yes, there's vulnerability. But what ...Brad Crowell  I don't even think I asked you like things, you know, in that sense, I, I actually, I don't, I didn't have a plan when I was going through my divorce. But I did write things down. Because I couldn't keep it in my head anymore. I just couldn't juggle it all. Because it's so much as thinking about, you know, it's like replaying every conversation I ever had, ever. And, you know, you know how it is, it is right, and but what it allowed me to clarify, were the things that were important to me. And so when I went when we began to date, I literally had a list. I actually ...Lesley Logan  I had a list. I had a list. I deleted my list after you dumped me because I was so mad at you. Because okay, so he came over with beer, and I'm fucking gluten free.Brad Crowell  Oh, I did that.Lesley Logan  And he came over with beer. This is not the first time I told him I was gluten free. This is the third time I had to tell him I'm just gluten free. And he brings us beer like, "Hey, I brought this beer." I'm like, "I'm gluten free. I can't drink it." And he's like, "Oh, yeah, that's right." And then he proceeded to take two hours of telling me everything he liked about me, and then why we couldn't go on a date. And I had this list and you checked off everything on the list, but I literally had written out remembers I'm gluten and dairy free. And I was like, "Fuck this list. It's not fucking working. I he meant everything and he fucked this up and he fucked that up." And I deleted the list. And then 10 days later, you're like, "Hey, I'm at Trader Joe's. I know you're gluten and dairy free. So I got you some veggies and hummus." I'm like, "Are you fucking kidding me right now?"Brad Crowell  You know what? You know what I did. I actually went home and looked up. What is gluten free? Because I didn't know. You were like, "Yeah, I can't eat bread." I was like, "Oh. Well, okay, I guess she can't eat bread." So I didn't bring bread. But I actually looked it up. I was a dairy was pretty straightforward.Lesley Logan  Yeah. (Brad: But gluten that I didn't know.) and Yeah. But that's if I didn't know you had a list. I have, I have a list anyways, obviously it worked out for us. But it's because you both ... reflected on past relationships and how they ended. (Brad: That's pretty funny.) And hey, I'm so happy we're together. We're celebrating seven years this fall. (Brad: What? That's crazy.) Yeah. Anyways, I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell  I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan  Thank you so much for joining us today. First, I'm grateful you're here. I hope you enjoy these. You can always give us feedback on our podcast at beitpod.com/tellme and we want to know how you're going to use these tips in your life. Give us a tag, tag @laurenzoeller. Let us know and please share this with a friend who is having needs in their relationships that need to be met. (Brad: Yeah.) So we can help them out with Lauren's amazing tips and we'll catch you in the next episode.Brad Crowell  Bye for now.Lesley Logan  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others BE IT TILL YOU SEE IT. Have an awesome day! 'Be It Till You See It' is a production of 'As The Crows Fly Media'.Brad Crowell   It's written produced, filmed and recorded by your host Lesley Logan and me, Brad Crowell. Our Associate Producer is Amanda Frattarelli. Lesley Logan  Kevin Perez at Disenyo handles all of our audio editing. Brad Crowell  Our theme music is by Ali at APEX Production Music. And our branding by designer and artist, Gianranco Cioffi. Lesley Logan  Special thanks to our designer Jaira Mandal for creating all of our visuals (which you can't see because this is a podcast) and our digital producer, Jay Pedroso for editing all videos each week so you can. Brad Crowell  And to Angelina Herico for transcribing each of our episodes so you can find them on our website. 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Hi Friends! Welcome back to this week's episode. We are so happy to have so many of you tuning in! This week we are joined by multi-hyphenate artist, author, keynote speaker, YouTuber, motivational coach, Tiktoker, and entrepreneur Haley Hoffman Smith. In this episode, Haley walks us through how she healed patterns of self-doubt and manifested her dream life using EFT tapping.  Haley's Book Recommendations:  "E-Squared" by Pam Grout: https://www.amazon.com/Squared-Do-Yourself-Experiments-Thoughts/dp/1401938906  "E-Cubed" by Pam Grout: https://www.amazon.com/Cubed-Experiments-Manifesting-Miracles-Full-Time/dp/1401945430/ref=pd_lpo_1?pd_rd_i=1401945430&psc=1  "A Happy pocket full of money" by David Cameron Gikandi: https://www.amazon.com/Happy-Pocket-Full-Money-Abundance/dp/1571746625  "The Holographic Universe" by Michael Talbot: https://www.amazon.com/Holographic-Universe-Revolutionary-Theory-Reality/dp/0062014102  To get a ticket for Haley's Virtual event, click here: https://www.universe.com/events/slingshot-sessions-v-deeper-peace-tickets-9MX8NY  Haley's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haleyhoffmansmith/ EFT DIY Course: https://www.haleyhoffmansmith.com/offers/XoqqZX4E/checkout  Presave Worth the Flight: https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/haleyhoffmansmith/worth-the-flight-acoustic  Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en  Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en  Watch the Show on Alexis' YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA/videos  This episode was produced by Kyle Strong.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806440/advertisementAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Selfish isn't a bad word, selfish could be taking time to discover who you are so that you can show up in other areas of your life, including your friendships. Today's guest joins the conversation to help individuals recognize and change past patterns that are keeping them from forming meaningful connections. Coach Lee Hopkins finally has an answer to help you feel seen and create long-lasting friendships. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Hiding your truth that keeps you stagnant How you allow rejection to grow you The difficulty of finding support if you're hiding 3 steps to be truly seen Law of AttractionLearn & reflect on your history, hobbies, habitsEpisode References/Links:E-Squared bookPATTERNS OF POSSIBILITY WebsiteFollow @patternsofpossibility on IG If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  Hey Be It babe, what's up? Okay, I am on a freakin high, this interview I just got off up with Coach Lee Hopkins is going to change your life. And if you are like saying, yes, yes, yes. If you are talking with us, if you're answering the questions with us, if you feel like you're having a conversation with us, yes, we want to know, because I could have had that whole interview could have lasted hours. It was is way too much fun. So I'm going to tell you right now, you can you can see yourself in the story. And if you can't see yourself in the story, I want you to try. Because I, I think a lot of us think that the things that we are frustrated with in our lives or in our in our experience, what's going on with us that they like the mess that is going on in our lives. We get frustrated. We want it to go away. We want it to be over. We don't want to deal with it. Why are we going through this? Why is this happening to me? And it's happening for you. I, pause on purpose, it is happening for you. I know it sucks. When you're going through it, it blows in fact, and it stings, and it hurts. And as you hear my guest Coach Lee's story, you're gonna be like, "What?" And then you'll be excited like, "What?" Like, that's your life, too. Okay? We have to stop trying to push away the things that are that feel like pain. And we have to really start to see like, how, how is this going? Like, what can I glean from this? What is this trying to teach me? Why, why do I keep having this experience? What can I get from this? And then pay attention to how you want to feel in your life. Because what is going on that you're like, "Oh, this keeps happening." It's happening for you. And then you will use that thing. All those lessons you learn from that and put it together with how you want to feel and be in this world. And you can then manifest, you can take the next steps to it, you can really truly be it till you see it. And so I'm just going to stop because we're going a little long on this interview and you won't even notice time will fly because it flew for us. I really enjoy this person so much. I really can't wait to have them back. And if you have any any questions for us or anything, please tag the @be_it_pod, send it in. Make sure you're following Coach Lee. I think that you're really going to enjoy their energy and have an amazing day. Here's the interview.Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast, where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.All right, Be It babe. I have someone super special for you. Like, I read about this person. And I was like, "Yes, yes." All the things 'yes' have to have this person on because, well, well you'll hear, he just emulates what Be It Till You See It is. And I am really excited for you to hear, not only his story of how he got started, but also some other tips he has to help you be it till you see it. So Coach Lee Hopkins, thank you for being here. Can you tell everyone who you are, what you're rockin at? And let's go also go with how you got started?Coach Lee Hopkins  Wow, I love that energy. Thank you so much, Lesley. That's wonderful. Yeah, my name is Coach Lee Hopkins, and I help people create lasting friendships and meaningful relationships. And I got started by, I feel like there was another question in there. But I'm so excited to share, (Lesley: Go into it.) without me getting started. So I just ...Lesley Logan  No. (Coach Lee: I'm sure we'll get back to it.) You're perfectly on point.Coach Lee Hopkins  We'll get back to that. (Lesley: Yeah) But but yeah, so I'm really excited to be here. And I share with you that I am a coach that helps people make lasting friendships. And I got into that, because I had zero friendships. I suffered from loneliness when a very long time. And I've been chasing that truth or chasing that feeling of connection for years upon years. And I started because I thought that making connections was about being in the right place, you know, finding your tribe. And when I grew up, I was disconnected from people. I saw a lot of people making friends, but I just thought, "Well, I have to find my tribe." So I had an opportunity to move to to college when I turned 18. And I could connect with people who were from different countries, different walks of life and everything, but I still felt lonely. So then again, I thought, "Well, geez, man, I just hadn't found my tribe." That's what it was. And so I moved from Ohio, to California, where ...Lesley Logan  Where everyone finds their tribe. Everyone just saying and I'm kidding ... (Lesley and Coach Lee laughs) California goal, it's the friendships. (Coach Lee: Yes) Sorry, I was ...Coach Lee Hopkins  And it was around the time Katy Perry came out with the, 'California girls were so incredible', you know. So ...Lesley Logan  Yeah, I'm born and raised California girl. So I'm, sorry, I interrupted, but I just had a shout out that's probably not where everyone find the tribe. But you can. (Lesley and Coach Lee laughs)Coach Lee Hopkins  You can, you can, but I did learn a whole lot of things there. So I started to connect with more people and I felt more like I was in the karaoke scene. A lot of people were like high fived me it was like a little mini celebrity but this was in the Central Valley, okay. So it wasn't like in ...Lesley Logan  Where in the Central Valley? Hold on. Where in the Central Valley? (Coach Lee: in the Central Valley.) I'm from Central Valley. (Coach Lee: Modesto) Stop. Okay, I used to cruise McHenry. (Coach Lee: What?) We're just having a little pause moment. (Coach Lee: Oh, get out of here.) Yes. When I the only couple of years in high school where I had like a friend not a tribe, but a friend. (Coach Lee laughs) Like my bestie we had the same name. We had the same middle name, our dads have the same name, our brothers that we like we like (Coach Lee: What?) we met on the cross country chain because hello I was also trying to find a friend. And then I met her and we became besties and we would tell our parents we were gonna go get some Carl's Jr. and we would somehow no one noticed that we drove 30 minutes to Modesto for Krispy Kreme doughnuts when the hot light was on. (Coach Lee and Lesley laughs) (Coach Lee: Oh my God. Wow, it was a small world.) Yeah, I'm from Lodi not Modesto. But anyways ...Coach Lee Hopkins  Lodi? Okay. Okay. Yeah, I know where ...Lesley Logan  So anyway, so back to you. Mini celebrities doing karaoke (Coach Lee: karaoke) in Modesto. No one knows where that is. It's okay everyone's Central Valley is broad enough. (Lesley and Coach Lee laughs)Coach Lee Hopkins  Absolutely. So oh man, so I was like trying to connect with people. But I wasn't able to really make the kind of connection that I wanted. So I thought, well, California is messed up. And I had an opportunity to move to Chicago where I am now. And that's where I transitioned. So as you hear me now, I'm a trans man. I didn't say that in the introduction. But I'm a trans man. And I moved to Chicago and just about as soon as I hit the ground running, I transitioned from female to male, that and I connected with the queer community that helped me through this process. And I thought that we were going to be best friends. And we're gonna be really well connected because we had this shared experience. But that wasn't true. And I still felt disconnected from the people. And it just happened to be because I was hiding something. I was hiding my truth. And I didn't know that I was doing that until I got a new perspective on it. And so when I learned that I was hiding my truth, I learned how to figure that out and fix it up. Then I wanted to share that with everybody because it feels good to make friends. It feels good to share an experience with them. And so I want to help everybody do that.Lesley Logan  This is so ... there's so many things to talk about. Coach Lee there's just so many. (Lesley and Coach Lee laughs) So first of all, what I what I really find interesting is that like, I think you're not alone in this. You kept moving thinking that's going to be the answer. And I and whether or not you're moving and looking for friends, y'all listen to this, like see yourself in the story. How often are you like, "Oh, when I get there that I will have. When this happens, and I will have." And like, that's why the show is Be It Till You See It because like, we have to stop waiting, waiting for or thinking that the thing we the thing that's gonna change our life or make us who we are want to be is over there. It's actually where we are right now. (Coach Lee: Yeah) And it's you said it, it's like you are hiding something. And you are hiding something from you.Coach Lee Hopkins  Yeah. You're the first person to say it like that. That rocks my world.That rocks my world. Yeah.Lesley Logan  This is on recorded, you'll get ... you can re listen. (Lesley and Coach Lee laughs) This is so good. Coach Lee, okay, so, so I think like, what you were looking for, is something that everybody is whether it has it, whether it whatever you subscribe to, or whatever how you identify, we are all looking for connection. We are all looking for friends. And my husband and I moved to Vegas in 2020, during the pandemic, so I moved from California. So we're like, everything should be locked down. And so we were, we stayed inside for a year. And then we went out to make friends. And we were like, "When did you move here? Like a year ago?" Oh, who do you know, no one. We know zero people.(Coach Lee laughs) Because we've been in lockdown. (Coach Lee: Yes) And so so we had to like as adult, find a tri... find a tribe and air quotes or like find our community here. And you know what, I had never had had to do that for 14 years, like, I lived in LA for so long. But like you keep making new friends. But like, you always have like someone or like a group of people or community you could go to and ever had to like start fresh, like fresh, fresh. And so so I resonate with your story when I was reading about what you do, because I think so many people are wanting lasting relationships and friendships and genuine ones and like, so how did you do that? So then you figure this you like, there's all these realizations came, you are stepping into who you are, you're owning what your truth is. And then how did you make the lasting relationships and make that a job?Coach Lee Hopkins  Well, definitely, I had to figure out what I was hiding from myself. And I really liked how you put it. So I'm gonna keep that and share that with people just like that from now on, because I didn't realize I was hiding something for myself. So in order to figure that out, I had someone helped me with therapy. With therapy, I had a little bit of self reflection from another point of view, because it all it is, is that someone else is sharing the perspective on how you are behaving. And you get to consume that perspective, you get to see it as your own. And sure enough, it was like, "Wow, is that how other people are seeing me? I trust this person who's telling me that I'm acting this way. So maybe that's how other people were seeing me? What if I adjust it up and see what happens? And so that's what I did." They essentially talked about a mindset change and going out to meet friends because I was just down the dumps. I was like, maybe two years into being in Chicago. I was like, "Oh, I can't make any friends. I don't know what's going on. It's it's definitely not me." So, I go out, and I learned about this mindset, and I get an idea that I'm going to connect with somebody and I'm going to make a friend, this was me manifesting this whole thing. I'm just like thinking about it. So I go to this club. No, comedy club. This comedy club, it had an opportunity to talk. So I met a cool person, because I said, I'm gonna make a friend. We're having a conversation, having a drink and everything. And I steer the conversation towards LGBT stuff, because I want to see how they're feeling about this. And they mentioned to me that they have never seen a trans person before, don't understand the process. And why anyone would ever want to do that. And so ...Lesley Logan  Oh, my God. Like, that's the first friend that you're trying to make. And it's like, all the opposites of what you're probably hoping they would say.Coach Lee Hopkins  But I didn't even think about that. Actually, this is interesting, because I'd love to hear your take on this because I was thinking that, wow, I'm gonna fill in this knowledge gap for you. And we're gonna be best friends. I'm going to reveal my truth that I had been terrified to share with people, and we're going to be best of friends. And sure enough, I reveal myself. I'm like, "I'm a trans person, trans man," and they just freeze and they stop talking. And they leave. They don't say anything else to me. They're just gone. They're just gone ...Lesley Logan  How brave are you? Cuz like, I love how you handled it way more mature than what I just said. (Coach Lee: Oh, no ...) But like, you know what I mean, but like, because you could have you could have just been like, oh my God, there's like everything I don't want and you could have just been like, oh, and just like move the conversation and like found a way to leave like walk away from this ...Coach Lee Hopkins  ... the thing is that Lesley, I didn't understand that. That wasn't what I wanted until years later. Because if they had said anything else to me, my desperate self would have latched on to that and try to explain why trans people are amazing and why I'm also amazing, and why you should like me and we should be friends. I read ...Lesley Logan  Right you would have put everything in this person, and this person may be your only friend like, like, like ...Coach Lee Hopkins  Yes. (Lesley: Yeah, I speak. Yeah) And the universe will give me what, gives you what you need. All right, gives you what you need.Lesley Logan  Oh they just did. The universe just gave you what you need at that moment. Woo!Coach Lee Hopkins  Boom! And I didn't understand that at that time. But when I reflect back on it, I'm like, "Oh, okay, great." So you get it. Lesley it's like, I didn't need that friendship with him. And they didn't want to be friends with me it was wasted energy and time to go be with people who are interested in who you are and what you really want. And I had to learn that I'm hiding my truth and running around the world, hiding who I am afraid of rejection. But as soon as I show myself, what's going to happen, isn't that I'll die. I will learn from it, I will be okay. And that's what the universe was setting me up for. It felt like very painful in the moment. But man now at this point, I can understand that. This is why I help people go through this process because you are going to get rejected. But what you're going to do is you're going to learn from that, we will learn that this isn't the kind of person that you're going to be connected with. That's how you're going to learn. And you, luckily, are going to learn sooner. Because in the past, I would just grab onto them and be like, "For years hiding who I am. Be my friend, be my friend, my friend." And they don't really know me or they will like me.Lesley Logan  Right. Because your hiding, your hiding. (Coach Lee: Yeah) Yeah, so they can only go so deep in the relationship with you. You know, it's interesting, you said that because um, my husband when I met him, a friend introduced us to like, "You need to date this guy. He's great friend." I'm like, "Oh, his jeans are skinnier than mine." (Coach Lee laughs) But I'm dating, I'm trying on new gene styles. So that was a blog I wrote. I had a dating blog back when I was single. And I like was like dating, you need to date like, you need to go to a jeans bar. And you need to turn all the jeans because you think you look good in high waisted but maybe you look good and boyfriend and like let's and maybe high waisted look good on you then but it doesn't go on you now like that kind of thing, right? So I was like, "Well, I'm trying on different jeans. Let's go try on some skinny ones." And so she like it's a super loose for a long story. This fast story is she thinks he's great for me. He I think I'm on a date with him. He doesn't that he doesn't know he's on. But like we're together. And I'm like, it was like a range thing. It was a little bit of manipulation in his words, but not mine. Anyways, it was a range. We're sitting there on this couch at a bar. And I'm like, "Yes, we're on this date. It's gonna be amazing. He's gonna ask me out for real." And then he goes, "... I'm married." And I was like, (Coach Lee: What?) "What? What? Does our mutual friend know that you're married, because she just set me up on a date with you." And like, my brain is go on other things. He's like, "We'll actually I'm getting divorced." And he had hid that he was going through divorce for over a year from everybody. No one knew what he was going through. I'm telling his story for him and he's gonna listen to us and go, "I can tell the story." But anyway, he did this, because he didn't want people to know, he didn't want people to have a judgment or reject him. Because like, here he is 30 like, he grew up, like, you get married, and you're married to the person forever. And here he is like going through a divorce. And he was embarrassed and all these things. And so he thought by not telling people that no one would reject them. But then, but now he's in a different situation. And (Coach Lee: Yeah) it's just so interesting, because so many people are hiding. What makes what makes them them, right? (Coach Lee: Right) Like, divorce is like his title. But like, it'll it once he shared with me. And then like, all this weight came off, we could connect on a different level, because I was going through my own breakup. And we could actually, like, be real humans having a conversation going through something. And so instead of like, and what do you do? And what do you do? You know, like when we have a meaningful relationship. Like what ...Coach Lee Hopkins  Right, exactly, exactly. And I resonate with that story so much, I'm so glad that you shared it just like that, because I made a friend with a person who I didn't share that I was trans. And so when I was dating people, I was getting rejected, but I couldn't share with them why it was getting rejected. And so they couldn't support me, they didn't even know that there was a problem. And the the advice or information that they would share with me would, just keep trying, it's but you don't understand. That's because I'm not telling you. You don't understand because I'm not telling you and I can't have support and you can't support me because if you want to, and so that just didn't make anything lasting or it doesn't make you feel like you're any less lonely than just being alone.Lesley Logan  Oh, my God. It makes you feel more lonely. I felt lonely for you. I also like this question that came up to those who are listening like what are you not telling like somebody will consider your best friend that like, you know, like, what are we not talking about. I don't know but (Coach Lee: Exactly) anyways, that's for the person listening not for you. Okay, so Coach Lee, so, you you're discovering this and you're going on this journey and like first of all the fact that what you coach on is like the struggle that was the most the beginning majority of your years on this earth so far. I love because like, I find it interesting when like, if somebody has like, so easy at making friends growing up and they're like, "I'm gonna help you make relationships" and they never I had to struggle like I find like, you know, they say 'your mess your message'. And so, so I love that this is your thing. How did you decide like, "Okay, I'm going to coach people on this though." Like, where where was that trans... like, what was that switch thought like?Coach Lee Hopkins  Wow, well the thought process was that it feels so good for me to do it that I want to help other people connected. But if I would be absolutely honest with you, Lesley, I believe in doing things for the very selfish reasons of just being me and everybody who is connected to me operate in the selfish mode of they're doing what's best for them. And what's best for them just happens to also be good for me, because we're friends and we we share a similar vibe. So ...Lesley Logan  How we, how are we just now meeting? You and I like (Lesley and Coach Lee laughs) I feel like I feel like we're best friends. And that be like, you're a stalker.Coach Lee Hopkins  Because you get it, you get it. I'm so glad. But you understand. It's like well, the reason why I want to do this coaching is because I had such a terrible time making friendships and stuff. And I want to go big on this. So I figured if I live my truth, then I can make friends with people. But if I keep running into people who are hiding the truth from themselves, or hiding the truth from other people, and aren't comfortable with it, I'm going to run into those people. And with those people, I'm not going to be able to be friends with them, we're gonna have to work through it with them. And I don't have time for that on a on an Lee level, as far as me being selfish about myself and trying to build intimate connections for me. So I'm just like, instead of trying to just coach people that I meet randomly, why not tell as many people as possible, because this feels good. The more people who feel in tune with themselves, the more people who feel connected to themselves can be easier to connect easier to me, if they so desire. They have the knowledge of themselves to say, "Lee, I'm great hanging out with you." Or "Lee, no, I'm not interested in you." And I appreciate it either way, what I hope not to happen. And what I want to not happen is people to say, "I don't know. I don't know." You know?Lesley Logan  Okay. Also, I know everyone's listening to this. And this is like, oh, super, super self help right now, everyone, but there's a little business thing in here that he's pointing out, I have to just say. You don't want lukewarm fans. You want people who love you or don't love you. You don't want these lukewarm people. It's like a wet blanket. You don't want them. They don't buy from you. They don't support you. And they're just like, "Yeah, that's cool." But you want people who are like, "Yeah, I'm into it. I'm into being a friend with you. And like, let's share on this level." I love it so much anyways, so sorry. I keep interrupting.Coach Lee Hopkins  Absolutely, absolutely well, I feel like I must be doing something here. I must be doing something that's excitable, because hey, I'm feeling it too. I'm feeling it. So, yeah, it's like that. So I started to being the coach, I wanted to coach but on the very, very selfish level reason is that man, it feels good to be connected, it feels good to know yourself to be grounded and connected with yourself. And the more people who can do that for themselves and see themselves as and live their truth. They can decide whether they want to connect with me or not. And I can find my friendships and intimacy quicker than I would if I just kind of be myself work a regular five, nine to five. And that's like a bigger selfish kind of reason. But also, man, it just feels really good to know yourself ...Lesley Logan  I want another word for selfish. I want, I want there to be this a selfish that's a negative. And then a word for selfish, as a positive. Do you know what I mean? Because like, I actually think that selfish, has gotten needs a rebrand.Coach Lee Hopkins  I agree with you there because it's hard to say it too. Because I think that when people hear selfish, they're like, "Lee, you're bad." Like don't qualify it that way. (Lesley: Yeah) I don't know. Yeah.Lesley Logan  Like people who are like selfish negatively, probably qualify, sometimes in the narcissist category. So I don't know, like, I'm just there. I don't know who Webster is or where they were who makes words up, but I felt like I feel like we need another word. That's a positive selfish. (Coach Lee: Yes, absolutely.) Anyways, we'll work on that together. I'm on a mission.Coach Lee Hopkins  I think that's a great idea. We should do that for sure. But that's that's where it came from is to connect with people and to feel more connected. And overall, I think that, I believe that that's all we want to do is to be understood, and to be connected with each other.Lesley Logan  Everybody wants to feel seen and not seen, like I looked at you like seeing like, inside you see me, you get me like that's what everybody wants. And it's and it's and so few people know how to actually make lasting friendships that like, I think a lot of people are surrounded with a lot of friends or a tribe. And they still feel really lonely.Coach Lee Hopkins  Yeah. And to your point, I want to say that being seen, I can give you actionable steps. I guess the way I look at being seen and the way we connect with what I connect to people is that when we're talking, we I search for three things or I make sure to validate to look at three things. Okay. There's the data. There's the information that you're telling me, there's facts of the situation. And then there's the feeling behind what you're saying to me. And then finally, the thing that really makes us feel seen is the validation. And the validation is what you are based on what you were saying to me. So based on the data, and the feeling that you have you are absolutely justified and righteous in feeling the way you do based on everything you've said to me, reflecting that back to them, letting you know that I understand what you just said, how you feel about what you just said, and why you're right about that. It's not my personal belief, but is a reflection of how you feel. And when I do that for people, it lights them up, because we will do it for me. It lights me up too, because I'm like, "Oh, get me. You understand."Lesley Logan  Right. So you're saying because that third part, I think is where people miss it. (Coach Lee: Yeah) You're saying instead of me going, "Oh, Lee, that's not what they meant." You're, you're instead the being seen part is like, "Oh, Lee, I'm, like, you felt like this," like, I'm restating or re affirming (Coach Lee: Yeah) your feelings around the thing, as opposed to like denying your feelings around the thing.Coach Lee Hopkins  Yeah, exactly. So like saying, for example, I had a bad day at work. And I'm angry about that. And I go on and on until you get bad. I had a bad day at work. I'm so angry. And that's what I say. And then if you were reflecting, and you really wanted me to be seen and heard and understood, you would say something like, and yeah, I hear your boss was terrible today. You spill, you spilled coffee on your shirt. And your coworkers are talking about you all the time. Of course you feel angry about that, because that's just a frustrating situation to be in. And you've told me several times that you don't even like your job. So that makes you feel seen, like I understand exactly how you feel in that situation. Just saying something back to you like, "Oh, I hear you had a bad day." Of course, I know what bad days feel like because (Lesley: Yeah) I've had the too ... (Lesley: I had a bad day today, too.) Doesn't make me feel seen. Yeah.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Oh, this is good. Everyone can use that. That's so good. Okay. (Coach Lee: Absolutely) Okay, we can, obviously, you're coming back because I could talk for hours on this, but I want to go to a couple of things. (Coach Lee: Okay) While we have you on this amazing day. Um, so I know that you're pretty, like, I know that you're a pretty good manifester. And I find that a lot of people either think manifestation is like a double woo. It's a woowoo thing. Or they, they have their vision, but they don't know how to take the next steps. And like they're not they're not actually thinking about it. And manifestation to me, like, visualizing over again, there's all these things. But can you tell people maybe a couple or one or two of your favorite manifestation stories from yourself? And then can we get some tips on like, how we can be better manifesters?Coach Lee Hopkins  All right. Sure, absolutely. So the story that I like to tell most is about The Secret. Watching The Secret. When I was in Modesto. I had a girlfriend and she sat me down. And she was like, "Hey, let's watch The Secret together." And that was like, "Okay, blah, blah, blah." And then we broke up. And I was absolutely devastated and I'm so sad. But I remember that The Secret said, "just to try something, just anything, I just just put what it is what you imagine it's going to be." And so at this time was working in the warehouse, and I decided that I would use the Law of Attraction, which is, you know, what I understand the Law of Attraction is visualizing it and then telling everybody about it. Because when you tell people about it, you either get it to come to you or people who is going to help you, come in your life and people who (Lesley: Yeah) aren't going to help you they move out of your life. And so ...Lesley Logan  It's why I kept telling everyone on almost every episode that I can't wait to have a G Wagon. Because I'm every listener is like a compounding, like getting my direction ...Coach Lee Hopkins  We're making that consciously happen for you.Lesley Logan  We are. I believe it. Yeah.Coach Lee Hopkins  But yeah, so I was working in a warehouse. And I decided that I was bored. And I wanted to change and people around me wasn't enough and all this and I thought, well, the Law of Attraction is what's going to do it for me. I found a business card on the ground, and scratched some their name out, scratched their name out, put my name on it. I scratched out their title. And I put a title that I thought I could have on it a specialist/analyst. And then I scratched out some other details and wrote my own and put it on my door, my door for work from. So every day I left and I would see it, I would see it as I leave. And I was looking at it. (Lesley: That's so cool.) Yeah. And I would see it every day. And then I start hearing things about getting better with it like, so I wanted to. I was working in the warehouse, and I wanted to have some kind of corporate job using computers. And that was all the idea that I had. But I had this really specific card, though I had that really specific card. And so I looked at it every day and then things just I started to hear about things I started to talk about things and I got I did some work with Excel. I learned about Excel and I learned about Microsoft Access Programs. And then I learned that I can get a certificate for it. I heard these things on the radio, and I feel like I've never heard them before. But I learned that you could do that on the radio then do it start researching and I started putting more hours into it. And I started asking people, would they give me a mock interview? Because in my company, they were like, sure, we believe in you growing. So I asked supervisors getting mock interview and one day I sat down with the head of HR at the company. And she had looked through it, and by then I'd had some certificates. So it's been about a year, but it has some certificates. And I didn't notice time fla, flew, and she flipped through, and she was like, "Oh, that's interesting. Do you think you would move to Chicago?" And I was like, "Yeah, I guess I have nothing else going on here." And she said, "Yeah, cuz we got a brand new position opening up." And it was, this is what blew me away, I didn't realize that it was Law of Attraction. But when I got there, it's a reporting analyst position. And it was a logistics specialist, situation, logistics specialists, team. And I was like, "Wow," because on my card, my job that I had wrote was analysts/specialists. (Lesley: Yeah) And slash logistics. And I have a picture of that on my website, because I was like, blown away by that. I'm like, "ahhh." It was ...Lesley Logan  You made that happen.Coach Lee Hopkins  I made that happen. I believe that I made that happen because it was a brand new team that they were reorgani... reorganizing.Lesley Logan  Yeah. You didn't even know you, you didn't even know this job could be anything or (Coach: Did even know.) even within the company you're already working for. This is I hope everyone's listening to this because I'm currently in a situation and not manifesting it. But it is like thing dropped in my lap. And it's like, doesn't fit the way it is packaged. And I'm like, the universe doesn't bring you things that like just to like taunt you like there's like it's here to help. There's something about this thing, right that like, it's neither be part of the story or it's gonna teach me something and I want to reject the package the way it is, but it also might well, why are you rejecting it hasn't even like arrived yet. So let's just like, hang on, and to see what we learned from it. But I love your story so much, because I think like, so many people are stopping themselves from because like, oh, my job doesn't have that, that thing, or, or I'd have to move to get that job, or I'd have to like do this, they started to get caught up in all the half twos that are around the logistics that are around it. And instead you're like, "Nope, I'm gonna put this job, I'm gonna look at it." And then because you were like, had it there, you had this Law of Attraction style of manifesting around it, you're hearing things on the radio that were already there. But now your brains like, "Oh, that's the thing that I need for this thing. Go get that thing." (Coach Lee: Yeah) Right. And so and then it just so I think all of us are stopping ourselves too soon or rejecting the thing before it's like, like, we're rejecting things before they even happen, and they're gonna happen where you're supposed to this is really fun. I love it. I love stories like this.Coach Lee Hopkins  Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, it's so amazing. I like the way you package it like that, too. It's like, that's exactly what happened. I feel so proud of that. And if I could tell a super, super, super quick story (Lesley: Yeah, tell them.) about another one, another one (Lesley: Yeah) about how I became a coach now. So I'm in corporate, and I decided that I'm still not making the kind of friendships and connections that I want. And that was like, I guess that was the thing. That was the calling. That was the purpose of my existence. Now, that's what I believe. Because I because the next kind of manifestation happened. It's like, I was at this job. And I tried to do with a record to succeed and be successful, but it ended up leaving the company, hoping to make better connections with people. So I worked downtown, and I was trying to make more connections with people like friendships and stuff like that. But that wasn't working out either. And when the pandemic hit, I wanted to lean into coaching a little more. And somewhere I had wrote that I'm going to start coaching full time in 2022. Somewhere, I had wrote that and I was connecting with people. And I didn't realize that things are going on in the background of the universe, right? I'm, I'm connecting with people, I'm talking to other coaches, thinking that I need their help and support to get me to the next level, because they are certified in some way. And I could learn something from them. But no, I couldn't really learn too much from them. I just kept moving on and trying new things and connecting with other people trying new things. And I have this written down, they used to have a giant board and have it written down coaching and 2022. And sure enough, I had this overwhelming feeling of anxiety at the end of 2021. It was overwhelming that I felt like well, the universe was showing me that my job wasn't as important to me as the idea that I wanted to make connections with people. Because essentially, in my job, I was an analyst and I was pretty siloed. I wasn't really able to talk to people on a day to day basis. And I was like, "I'm lonely." And the universe is like, "Hey, hey, coaching, remember coaching."Lesley Logan  The thing you want to do over here. We got you to Chicago so you can have this thing over here.Coach Lee Hopkins  Yeah, exactly. And so one day I got, I was so siloed that essentially I could work all day and nobody would message me or anything. So one day I got a message from someone saying that it's an emergency, I need you to hurry up and go make this change. And I go to this thing and I'm looking at a ticket and it's supposed to be a high priority ticket and I look at it and it's old stated, and there's no priority on it. So I'm like, "Isn't that the universe telling me that, nobody, I'm not making any kind of difference or impacts here, that I'm doing the thing that's not impactful." And so I ended up quitting my job, ended up quitting my job. And this was a couple of weeks later, but I actually ... (Lesley: You just quit, you just quit.) You know what? That's that's not fair to say. (Lesley: Okay.) Okay, so a couple of weeks, a couple of weeks had gone by, and I thought, well, this is a time for an experiment. Does anybody really care about the work that I do? I was able to automate a lot of my work. I'm just going to move away from my computer and not do anything for a week. Nobody noticed I was gone. (Lesley and Coach Lee laughs)Lesley Logan  That sucks so much. I also, it's, it's also the best gift probably as well. But ...Coach Lee Hopkins  It was like, "hey, hey, hey." And yeah and now I'm all lonely. And so ...Lesley Logan  Isn't it so interesting, like you want to leave? And yet it's like, no, one noticed your gone. Coach Lee Hopkins  Yeah. But I ended up quitting, though, I ended up quitting, because I realized that well, this is was super clear to me that what I'm doing doesn't really sit right with my soul, sit right with my spirit. And so I need to make connections with people, because that's what I said I wanted from the beginning of time, I've been searching for that all this time. They didn't set me up to sit be in Chicago, to sit at home in front of a computer where I'm not talking to anybody, and no one cares if I do the work or not. That's not what I'm here for. (Lesley: Right) So that really was like, "Oh, well, then now I'm going to put all my energy into coaching, because they basically said that this is a distraction for you. (Lesley: Yeah) And we've cleared the way for you." And when I quit my job, I was able to I wasn't actually like super prepared for it either. I liquidated some things. And they were just it was just like, This is what you need to do. Essentially, that's what I felt what was right for me. And it has always been, that always feels right for me. And I keep going, I keep going. And I keep creating, and I keep connecting with people. And that's how I got to talk to you. Otherwise, I'd be at work right now. (Lesley: Yeah, you've be ...) Yeah.Lesley Logan  doing some tickets and you know. I never read The Secret but I read a book called E-Squared. And it it's Pam, something. Anyways, y'all can Google it. It's, I got to get the author on because I love her so much. And I also attribute her to my husband actually texting me, because it was one of the one of the assignments was to write down two people's names, who have your information. You don't have like you haven't seen them where they're like, "Oh, I'll give you a call," like, you're not expecting a call, they have no reason to contact you. But you want them to contact you, it's very specific. So I wrote down my now husband, we hadn't seen each other in three months. And so I wrote his name down. And I wrote down this woman at work, who actually I worked in, in West Hollywood, she actually was out of the New York office at the company I was working for, and I really I worked with her on a shoot and I wanted to be on another shoot with her. But I there's no there's no ... there's nothing to do. There's but I just wanted, I just wanted to have a talk with her. So she wouldn't remember me. So I could be another commercial shoot. And so I wrote those names down. And I like it said like, "In 48 hours or whatever, it's gonna, one of those two names is going to contact you." And I was like, "Okay." So I am at work and I'm about to leave for the day. And my phone has a text message from Brad. And I'm like ... (Coach Lee: Wow) And he's like, he's like, "Dang these back bends. I like I can't get them." He's he was into yoga. And he knows that he knew I taught Pilates but so that was his like, "Hi. How it's going?" Right. And I was like, "Oh my God." And I'm walking down the stairs out what this West Hollywood club. And by the way, when I knew this woman when we actually met it was at a different location. And she lived in New York, and I was in a different location in LA. So she didn't know that I was transferred. So I'm walking down the stairs and who's walking up the stairs, this woman (Coach Lee: Wow.) on the other piece of paper, and she's like, "Oh my God, I've been I was so hoping I'd find it find you when I was in town this week. Do you have time to talk?" And I was like, (Coach Lee: Wow!) Yes. Yes. In fact, I just think I'm gonna reread this book because it was so good. Anyway ... (Coach Lee: E-Squared) E-Squared. You know, if you're if you're someone who is like, like unsure of how to manifest, it really teaches you different ways you can bring in the Law of Attraction. I don't think she uses those words. But like, basically bring in what you're asking for and bring it and let the universe bring you what you're wanting. So anyway, Coach Lee, I could talk to you forever. (Coach Lee: Yes, we could. We have to be careful about that.) There's so many things we need to like dive into it. Maybe we'll start a book club for E-Squared. I don't know. We're gonna take a brief moment and we're gonna come back and find out how people can find you, coach with you and get to know you.All right, Coach Lee, where do you hang out? Where, what socials can people find you, follow you? And how can people work with you if they're like, "Please help me have lasting meaningful relationships."?Coach Lee Hopkins  Or you can find me at patternsofpossibility.com and you can find me on all social media on Patterns of Possibility. Right now, I have a five day challenge to help you make lasting friendships. It's free to sign up for it. So you can find that at patternsofpossibility.com.Lesley Logan  That's so cool. That's so great. I also love alliteration like that. So good job. (Lesley and Coach Lee laughs) It just rolls off the tongue Patterns of Possibility. Okay, we ask everybody and I can't wait to hear yours because you're just awesome. BE IT action items - bold, executable, targeted, intrinsic steps people can take to be it till they see it.Coach Lee Hopkins  Well, definitely, if you're looking for friendships, the best thing you can do is learn about yourself. And so I have three things that I want you to learn to think about when learning about yourself, learning more about your history, your hobbies, and your habits, that alliteration, I love it myself. The day your history, your hobbies and your habits, and rank the top three of each that you have, and make sure that you're able to know what those are. Put yourself in places, see yourself in places with your history and hobbies and habits so you can connect with the right people.Lesley Logan  Oh, I like that. That's so awesome. I've had so many people go, "Oh, yeah, get to know yourself." And like, "How do I do that?" What if someone like recovering perfectionist overachiever over here is really wanting to know the how to do that. And you just explain that. History, habit ...Coach Lee Hopkins  Hobby and ... Yeah, history, hobbies and habits.Lesley Logan  History, hobbies and habits. And then you write those things down. And then now you've got things either talk about or to, like, (Coach Lee: Yes, what ...) ... this person is on my same level with this thing over here.Coach Lee Hopkins  Yes. And you have to the key to this, though, is that you have to have those prioritize like what is most important to you. Don't go and look at, don't go to a thing that's not really a great hobby and expect to find someone you're going to make a genuine connection with over that hobby. Because if you really don't like the run, and they're gung ho about running every day, you're not going to feel better connected with them.Lesley Logan  Yeah, it's like getting on a, it's like a lying about something that you'd like to do with on a beginning of a relationship. And then yeah, like you said, you like hiking, I liked it for the first date ... (Coach Lee laughs) (Coach Lee: Exactly) Yeah okay, I actually, thank you for that extra tip. Because I think, like, if you think about your history, I can think of like a bunch of things that I could resonate with someone on, but I don't actually want to talk about those things all the time, or I want that to be like the thing that we like, connect on. So I would probably want to focus on things in my history that like, I'm like, yeah, this is like, I want to attract more of this more of this kind of understand. Yeah, that kind of thing. Okay. And (Coach Lee: Absolutey) that's hobbies. Yeah, hobbies are things you actually like to do. Which is (Coach Lee: Yes) and then habits. I, you're ...Coach Lee Hopkins  Yeah because habits or I mean habits, we will tell you a whole lot about a person. I know we're not going to talk that much longer. But if you're getting up at 5am, you probably have a different life than somebody who's getting up at noon. And so there's your habits are different. And you are going to find a little bit of disconnect if you try and connect on that.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Oh, that's so good. That's also very helpful for the person going, "Okay, my habit is like, I brush my teeth twice a day." And it's like, no, like, what are your, like, habitual things. Like, again, the morning thing, it's very strange. I wake up at five and my husband does go to bed at two in the morning. And so we really see each other in the middle of the day. (Coach Lee: Wow) It's like, "Oh, hey, you want to have lunch?"Coach Lee Hopkins  But you didn't start out that way? Did you?Lesley Logan  You know, what? We here's this because this is like an anomaly, right? So we those aren't the things that connected us together. So those are like the things that don't matter. Like why we connected was because we're both very entrepreneurial. And and, and we there's like the history like of heartbreak ups was very similar. And it wasn't the negative part. But it was like how we left and how, who we wanted to be when we're outside of that. Dogs, music, a couple other things like so the things that we stayed on, we kind of ignored the fact that he went to bed at two. And I woke up at five, those didn't really matter, because it was like the at the time in between. And then you know, and then yeah ...Coach Lee Hopkins  Yeah, this is kind of validates my point. It's like, if it's not really that important to you, then don't put it on there. Because that's not going to be a thing that connects you but if it's detrimental, that you have to spend all the time together in the world and you're working on different schedules should not gonna be ....Lesley Logan  You, you are 100% correct. Like I don't need in fact, I prefer that he is not up in the morning with me and he's listening, he's gonna listen to this because we do a recap episode. So I do like when he walks the dogs with me in the morning, Brad. But I, but I liked even when he did that for a brief moment I really liked I would get up still earlier than that. Then the dog would always get up before I walked the dog to do my morning pages and my red light therapy. And so I still did that part and then he would join me on the walk. So I actually it wasn't a priority for me to have a person having coffee with me and breakfast with me. It was more like no I actually like the middle the day dinnertime like those are the important meals. Those are, now I've had my time to charge up and now (Coach Lee: Yeah) I actually show up for any conversation.Coach Lee Hopkins  Oh yeah, you were like you were like definitely an anomaly because you're like, "I want my self care. And this is important to me and no matter what it is, I'm gonna get it and make sure that happens." Did you can be that kind of person. (Lesley: Yeah, I'm...) That you want to be.Lesley Logan  I am trying 100% for this podcast to get people to understand that like, you have to take prioritize your self care, otherwise you cannot. This is why selfish needs a different word, because (Coach Lee: Exactly) because you cannot be anybody. I cannot be a best friend and a wife to my husband. I cannot take care of these dogs without yelling at them. I cannot coach people or do this podcast if I didn't take care of me first.Coach Lee Hopkins  That's so true. That's true. That's the truth. Yeah.Lesley Logan  Okay. All right. Well, y'all, I obviously found my new best friend and Coach Lee, I hope you enjoyed this episode. How are you going to use these tips in your life? Let us know, tag at the @be_it_pod, tag Coach Lee @patternsofpossibilities, all the things are in the show notes below if I got any of that wrong. And let us know how you are going to use these. And until next time, Be It Till You See It.That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day! 'Be It Till You See It' is a production of 'As The Crows Fly Media'. Brad Crowell  It's written, produced, filmed and recorded by your host Lesley Logan and me, Brad Crowell. Our Associate Producer is Amanda Frattarelli. Lesley Logan  Kevin Perez at Disenyo handles all of our audio editing. Brad Crowell  Our theme music is by Ali at APEX Production Music. And our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi. Lesley Logan  Special thanks to our designer Jaira Mandal for creating all of our visuals (which you can't see because this is a podcast) and our digital producer, Jay Pedroso for editing all video each week so you can. Brad Crowell  And to Angelina Herico for transcribing each of our episodes so you can find them on our website. 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In this weeks episode, we will discuss some tried and true strategies for building credibility. We all have gained skills in our everyday lives that can be used to build the life we want, we just have to be creative in looking for evidence and see the value of putting in the energy needed. I will be explaining that with formula, Credibility= energy x evidence, and how this can work for everyone.   Keynote Speaker: Are you looking for a keynote speaker to teach you how to advocate for your ideas, for change, for your product and for sales? I would love to come and speak to your team and show them how to advocate to win in their business. Please fill out the form below and I will contact you with more details. https://form.jotform.com/221107324351139   To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at: Website: Advocate to Win Instagram: @imheatherhansen Sign up for your consultation: https://meetheather.heatherhansenpresents.com/#/customer/4318473000000041098 Would you like to ask me a question? Please leave me a message by calling (856) 390-4831. Don't forget to let me know if we can use your call on the show.  

Armand Uno (@thenameisuno) sits down with 2x business owner Jenna Zeng to talk about accidentally becoming an entrepreneur (twice), the right way to fail, and her glory days as a gym membership canvasser. Jenna had a newborn RIGHT as she started her second company, StaffNet. She is a “quitter by nature” but taught herself to have a fighter's mindset. In the show, we talk about how you can stop quitting and develop grit. Listen to find out more! ----- Show Notes: (14:10) - How canvassing builds thick skin (22:10) - “Quitter by nature” (24:00) - Balancing a baby and a company (33:50) - How to take the “L” — learning to lose with grace ----- Links: * staffnet.ca * @staffnet_ * https://www.intelligentchange.com/products/the-five-minute-journal * The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, E-Squared by Pam Grout, and Chasing Excellence by Ben Bergeron ----- Episode Quotes I Enjoyed “If you're not open about what you're selling you're really only holding back on yourself… it only affects you and your paycheck.” “Even though it's a loss, if you learn from something it's a different kind of L.” ----- Subscribe to the podcast if you want to hear more! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/playhardpodcast/support

Honing your intuition is one of the most important parts of getting clear on who you are, what you want, and where you're headed. Without it, you're like a GPS with bad reception — you're not going to get very clear guidance, and you may end up driving in circles.   But that takes time and practice, so sometimes it's nice to piggyback off of another GPS you can trust, even if it's just long enough to check your directions.    In that spirit, we're back with another Message from the Universe episode for you! Tune in if you need a little clarity, guidance, or just a fun pick-me-up.    Today we pulled a few cards from The Enchanted Map deck by Colette Baron-Reid. One or all has a message for you — come find out what it is!    We also started out this episode with some fun stories we've heard lately from clients about how the Universe showed up for them. If you've got a good one to share, we'd love to hear (and maybe share it in a future Message from the Universe episode)! Email us at contact@clarityonfire.com, subject line “Universe,” with your stories. ✨   Check out the cards and written descriptions here. And after you listen, leave a comment to share how this one spoke to you!   LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT   Message from the Universe: Prepare to be amazed (April 2022)   Bonus Book Club! Outrageous Openness by Tosha Silver (November 2018)   A deep dive into manifestation with Chelsea Jewel (March 2022)   Bonus Book Club! It's Not Your Money by Tosha Silver (March 2019)   Bonus Book Club! E-Squared by Pam Grout (January 2020)   LINKS   Leave us a comment on this episode   Take the Passion Profile Quiz   Submit your question for a future episode of Dear Krachel    Join our Patreon community   Check out our YouTube channel

I know a lot of you are already well aboard the “woo woo” train. You booked yourself a ticket on a day when Mercury wasn't in retrograde, and you're chilling in a first-class compartment that you saged before unpacking your crystals.   Some of you probably nervously boarded the train, wanting to believe more in the mysteries of the Universe, but skeptical of where it's going to take you (or if it'll take you anywhere).   And a few of you are shouting at me from the platform like, “Shut up and just do what I came here for! Teach me how to get a job I love, thanks!!” (I can totally do that … but I'd rather teach you how to manifest one. All aboard.

Hello Beautiful Human Beings! I hope you guys enjoyed last week's episode because today's episode is a continuation of that same discussion! My brother wasn't available for this episode so no hilarious, embarrassing story today lol but I'm still discussing the book "E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality" by Pam Grout. I go into the second experiment "The Jetta Rule" or as I called it "The Tesla Rule" ;) I also really dive deeper into the phrase "Your thoughts create your reality." and explain how this is proven on a scientific level. Thanks for always listening, it truly means a lot. Let me know what you manifested! I'd love to hear your stories, I may even include it on a future episode! Follow NNEGFAHB on all platforms  https://www.instagram.com/nnegfahb https://www.facebook.com/nnegfahb https://www.twitter.com/nnegfahb https://www.tiktok.com/@nnegfahb  Peace, Light, and Love! Sources:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uU9Fe-WXew4 - On Sight by Kanye Westhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nPU5bjzLZX0 - What Oprah Learned from Jim Carrey | OWNE-Squared by Pam Grout Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality!NNEGFAHB CashApp- Thank you! I love you! Thank you for the support! Venmo - Thank you for your support! If you would like to support me and my dreams and support the show, you can do that here. Thank youCoinbase - Get started with Crypto TODAY Coinbase is a great, easy to use platform to buy crypto! They even give you free coins for learning!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show

Hello Beautiful Human Beings! Today's episode is a very special episode because it's my very first family member on the podcast :D my older brother Anthony! In this episode, we talk about the the book "E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality" by Pam Grout. This book discusses the Law of Attraction and a simple experiment to test it out yourself. We share what the experiment is and hear Anthony's experience with it. We also share a funny story at the end that I think you'll get a laugh out of hahaha. As always, thanks for listening!Support Anthony's quest for more hot dogs https://cash.app/$lovinlopezhttps://venmo.com/u/lovinlopezOh and don't forget to rate and subscribe :D Steps for Experiment 1:1. Pick a time where you can be alone and focused2. Write down the date and time3. Ask the Universe to make it's presence known and ask for this sign/blessing4. Give it a realistic/believable timeframe5.Let go and observe!Simple as that :) it also helps to focus on the thought and feeling and to visualize it randomly throughout the day. Let me know what you manifested! I'd love to hear your stories, I may even include it on a future episode! Follow NNEGFAHB on all platforms  https://www.instagram.com/nnegfahb https://www.facebook.com/nnegfahb https://www.twitter.com/nnegfahb https://www.tiktok.com/@nnegfahb  Peace, Light, and Love!    E-Squared by Pam Grout Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality!Support Anthony - CashApp Support Antwun so he can buy more hot dogsNNEGFAHB CashApp- Thank you! I love you! Thank you for the support! Venmo - Thank you for your support! If you would like to support me and my dreams and support the show, you can do that here. Thank youCoinbase - Get started with Crypto TODAY Coinbase is a great, easy to use platform to buy crypto! They even give you free coins for learning!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show

How effective and efficient are you in your fellowship and walk with Jesus? E-Squared is a concept that is super easy to understand that will help you see how baby steps can help you grow quickly in any area of your life. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/whengodwhispers/message

NYT's Bestselling Author of E-Squared, Pam Grout, talks with Elizabeth about what we can do to get proof that the Universe is always conspiring to help us.

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CLICK HERE - FREE ONLINE WORKSHOP - DISCOVER HOW TO BANISH MUM GUILT, BURNOUT & SELF-DOUBT & MANIFEST A LIFE BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS! Do you constantly put everyone else's needs before your own? Maybe you feel like no matter what you do it isn't good enough? Do you lack energy throughout the day? Maybe you have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep? If any of the above sound like you then you're like most mums, trying to be a good mum and be everything for everyone! The problem with this is it can leave you feeling not good enough, overwhelmed, lonely, bored, unhappy, judged and guilty, no worries though as we're here to help you Transform yourself from a 'Just Surviving Mumbot' to a 'Thriving Manifesting Mum!' JOIN THE MANIFESTING MUMS FACEBOOK GROUP HERE In this minisode we delve a bit deeper in to the law of attraction and discuss what experiments we have tried that have worked. We talk about The Secret and The Magic by Rhonda Byrne and E-Squared by Pam Grout. Apologies as I got a bit confused over the book title, it is definitely E-Squared. The experiment I tried was writing down ‘For the next 48 hours, I am asking the Energy Field to make its presence known to me in the form of a surprise. I am asking for a clear big sign, something that cannot be a coincidence. Thank you' I tried this twice and it worked both times. We think its a really good idea to experiment with the Law of Attraction as it will prove to you it works and then when you are trying to manifest big things it will only make your belief in it stronger, helping your results. We'd love to hear if the experiment works for you and what results you get. Let us know of any other experiments you've tried too! Lucy talks a lot about Robins and white feathers in this episode and them signifying lost loved ones. UPDATE The day after recording this episode a Robin flew in to her front garden and she was ecstatic, she's lived there 8 years and this has never happened before! We'd love to hear about how your lost loved ones, spirit guides & guardian angels communicate with you. Do you have any stories you can share with us? Our vision is for self-love to go viral, for people to live happier and to make well-being and spirituality understandable for all. If you're looking for inspiration or motivation or want to hear about the silly things we've done over the years on our own quest for happiness, then this podcast is for you! We have conversations with amazing people and find out what happiness means to them and teach you different techniques to help you help yourself live the life you want full of happiness, love and purpose. Get in touch and let us know if you want any topics covered in the podcast or want to share any experiences you've had, we are genuinely interested in getting to know you. Follow or subscribe to Find Your Happy and you'll get notified of new episodes weekly. Connect with us on the below links INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/findyourhappyofficial FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Find-Your-Happy-Official-101599642042323 TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@findyourhappyofficial EMAIL: findyourhappyofficial@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/hey-pluto/making-tracks License code: 9HDCFXXBY2ARJ7XD --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findyourhappy/message

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Welcome to The Modern Alchemist where we merge strategy with human consciousness to help you live your definition of Abundance and Success.  I'm your host, Loren Trlin – the Modern Alchemist.  Joining me on today's episode is Pam Grout, the #1 New York Times bestseller, E-Squared and the author of some of my favorite books, E-Cubed and Thank and Grow ... Read More The post Thank and Grow Rich with Pam Grout appeared first on Loren Trlin.

1. Visit www.thejenmavrosshow.com for more show and guest information on every podcast episode.  2. Grab your free gift on jenmavros.com - A four track divinely guided meditation album. Pam Grout is a hopeless romantic who still believes the world is a beautiful place, that people are noble and that anything is possible.  She writes books and articles for such places as People magazine, Men's Journal, CNN Travel and Huffington Post. She has written 19 books including the #1 New York Times bestseller E-Squared, three books for National Geographic and her newest, Art & Soul Reloaded.