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A common fear in business is the fear of rejection. Many people avoid making sales calls out of a fear of rejection.   Avoidance seems to be a common approach to addressing possible rejection. Author and speaker, Jia Jiang, however, took a different approach.   Jia performed a 100-day rejection experiment where he sought out rejection each ... The post Fear of Rejection appeared first on Unconventional Business Network.

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What if facing rejection head-on could actually transform your life? Most of us shy away from rejection, fearing the discomfort and self-doubt that tag along. But imagine if your greatest personal growth was waiting just past that fear.In this episode, host Paul chats with Jia Jiang, bestselling author and global speaker behind the viral TEDx talk, What I Learned from 100 Days of Rejection. Through his “rejection therapy” journey, where he actively sought rejection for 100 days, Jia reshaped his perspective, turning rejection into an opportunity for growth and discovery. Together, they dive into the power of ambition, discipline, and resilience, encouraging you to step boldly toward your dreams—regardless of potential setbacks.Ready to transform rejection from a roadblock into a stepping stone? Tune in and find out how. Key TakeawaysOvercoming the fear of rejection through a project called "rejection therapy."Personal journey and experiences related to seeking rejection for 100 consecutive days.The impact of rejection on personal and professional aspirations.The importance of asking questions and engaging with others after facing rejection.The role of ambition, discipline, and resilience in achieving personal goals.Transformative experiences that led to unexpected opportunities.The significance of sharing personal stories to inspire others.Practical examples of turning rejection into collaborative problem-solving.Encouragement to take actionable steps toward personal growth and opportunities.Viewing rejection as a stepping stone toward success rather than a failure. In This Episode:[00:03] Introduction to rejection[00:20] Welcoming Jia Jiang[01:14] Jiang's origin story[02:18] The start of rejection therapy[03:03] Creative rejection attempts[03:43] Lessons learned from rejection[04:04] Current feelings about rejection[05:06] Understanding reactions to rejection[06:59] Engaging after rejection[13:45] Toastmasters experience[15:34] Recognition from Toastmasters[16:01] Transition to ambition discussion[16:48] Memorable rejection therapy moments[17:11] Krispy Kreme Olympic rings[19:35] The dream of teaching[20:14] Overcoming barriers to teaching[21:03] Taking initiative to teach[22:04] The impact of guest lecturing[23:20] Ambition and flaws[24:42] The power of ambition[25:21] Three controllable factors for success[26:25] The role of ridiculous ambition[27:11] Ambition as a guiding force[28:25] The journey of ambition[29:37] Encouragement to think bigger[30:16] Finding Jiang online[30:44] Actionable tip for winning Monday Notable Quotes[00:04:04] "Rejection today is like my friend or almost like my other life partner. I still quarrel with it sometimes. I still have fear with it, but it's so much different than my relationship with rejection a long time ago." — Jia Jiang[00:18:27] "How many donut moments have I missed in my life just because I thought there's no way I would get it? We reject ourselves way too many times before we even try because we fear potential embarrassment and impossibility." — Jia Jiang[00:27:11] "When I was in the darkest time, I didn't give up and never lost sight and never lost my faith in myself and in what I was trying to accomplish." — Jia Jiang[00:28:44] "Even for somebody like me that has been called ambitious and has leaned into ambition, you have made me more ambitious. I don't care if it's crazy to everybody else in the world; we're going to attack it." — Paul Our GuestJia Jiang is an entrepreneur, TED speaker, and author known for his transformative journey through "Rejection Therapy," a project he adopted after seeking 100 rejections in 100 days. His experience with rejection has shaped his mission to help others face their fears and embrace rejection as a stepping stone to personal growth. Jia advocates for turning rejection into opportunity, using it to fuel ambition and resilience. His work includes speaking engagements, workshops, and products designed to help people overcome fear and unlock their potential. Resource & LinksMonday Momentum Emails (sign up here)Monday MomentumWin Monday Community (join here)Win Monday CommunityPaul EpsteinConfidence QuizWebsiteLinkedInInstagramJia JiangWebsiteLinkedInMentionedTEDx Talk: What I Learned from 100 Days of RejectionRejection Proof10x Is Easier than 2x: How World-Class Entrepreneurs Achieve More by Doing Less

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage, unsure of how to break free from the patterns that hold you back? Whether it's procrastination, perfectionism, or people-pleasing, many of us struggle with these habits because we haven't learned how to process our emotions effectively. In this podcast episode, I explore how our subconscious behaviors and emotional illiteracy contribute to our challenges, particularly when it comes to weight loss and personal growth. In this episode, I celebrate the milestone of my 150th podcast episode by sharing transformative insights and success stories from my coaching program. I discuss the importance of addressing the root causes of self-sabotage and emotional struggles rather than just the symptoms. Through powerful personal anecdotes and client experiences, I illustrate how understanding and managing our emotions can lead to significant improvements in both mental and physical well-being. I highlight the impact of embracing rejection, fostering resilience, and developing a positive mindset. What you will learn in this episode: Emotional Literacy: How to recognize and process your emotions to overcome subconscious patterns of self-sabotage. Resilience Through Rejection: The benefits of embracing rejection to build confidence and expand your comfort zone, inspired by Jia Jiang's book "Rejection Proof." Holistic Weight Loss: A self-love and respect-centered approach to weight loss that focuses on emotional and mental health, leading to sustainable, long-term results.   Grab your worksheet HERE.

In the first episode, we delve into the universal struggle of overcoming fear. Yes, this is a real estate marketing podcast, but fear often holds us back from succeeding. From acknowledging its presence to practical strategies for moving past it, we explore how embracing fear can lead to personal and professional growth. Tune in for insights on navigating fear and emerging stronger on the other side. Follow me on all socials @RealEstateSingh for more content! BOOOK - "Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection" by Jia Jiang: https://www.amazon.com/Rejection-Proof-Became-Invincible-Through/dp/080414138X Instagram: www.instagram.com/RealEstateSingh  

Easily listen to The Science of Self in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/ScienceOfSelfPodcast00:06:42 Jia Jiang gave a popular TED Talk00:10:15 The Perfectionist.00:11:34 The Intimidated.00:13:00 The Environment Blamer.00:14:12 The Defeatist.00:19:53 Brian Wansink of Cornell University00:22:44 Further ConsiderationsHear it Here - https://bit.ly/PowerOfSelfDiscipline• Aside from knowledge of the cycle and what you tend to fall prey to, there are specific ways to deal with four of the five phases of the cycle. Regarding unhelpful assumptions, instead embody the empowering belief of the forty percent rule. Regarding discomfort, Change your expectations and actively practice discomfort to build your mental toughness. Regarding excuses, learn how to reframe your excuses and stop falling into the common traps and self-lies. Regarding avoidance activities, it's a matter of out of sight, out of mind; if you cannot find distractions, you cannot avoid.• Other general considerations for beating the cycle of lacking self-discipline are creating goals to reduce discomfort and improve time management, and developing skills to stop making excuses so frequently. Beat the cycle!#Defeatist #BrianWansink #Discomfort #JiaJiang #Jiang #LackingSelfDiscipline #Perfectionist #Selfdiscipline #SMART #Wansink #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PeterHollins #TheScienceofSelf #SuperBrain #TheCycleOfLackingSelf-Discipline

Jia Jiang dreamed of being the next Bill Gates... but an entrepreneur needs the courage and confidence to ask for help. Jia was terrified of rejection - so couldn't fulfil his ambitions. That is, until he decided to beat his fear by seeking out rejection after rejection for a full 100 days.  Many of us share Jia's nervousness about appearing vulnerable and needy, but the science suggests that we and the people around us would be happier if we asked them for help more often.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Robert chats with Hala Taha about her journey from a school dropout to a successful full-time podcaster and entrepreneur. Hala Taha is the host of Young and Profiting Podcast, frequently ranked as a #1 Education podcast across all apps. Hala is also the CEO of YAP Media, a full-service social media and podcast marketing agency for top podcasters, celebrities, and CEOs generating over $2M in revenue in its first year. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: 00:00 - Intro01:50 - How to deal with and overcome failure and rejection.29:50 - Why Hala chose to focus on LinkedIn, a business social network, to grow her business.34:52 - How Hala was able to land high-profile guests like Matthew McConaughey and Seth Godin and what specific strategies or tactics she used to do so.43:28 - All the different ways one can monetize a podcast and how a podcast can be an actual revenue-generating business.50:11 - What the most impactful thing Hala has learned from interviewing guests on her podcast.And much, much more!*Disclaimer: Slight timestamp discrepancies may occur due to podcast platform differences.BOOKS AND RESOURCESHala Taha's Young and Profiting Podcast.Jack Schafer's book The Like Switch.Ramit Sethi's book I Will Teach You To Be Rich.Gino Wickman's book Entrepreneurial Leap.Jia Jiang's book Rejection Proof.All of Robert's favorite books.NEW TO THE SHOW?Check out our Millennial Investing Starter Packs.Browse through all our episodes (complete with transcripts) here.Try Robert's favorite tool for picking stock winners and managing our portfolios: TIP Finance.Enjoy exclusive perks from our favorite Apps and Services.Stay up-to-date on financial markets and investing strategies through our daily newsletter, We Study Markets.Learn how to better start, manage, and grow your business with the best business podcasts.P.S The Investor's Podcast Network is excited to launch a subreddit devoted to our fans in discussing financial markets, stock picks, questions for our hosts, and much more! Join our subreddit r/TheInvestorsPodcast today!SPONSORSGet a FREE audiobook from Audible.Learn how Principal Financial can help you find the right benefits and retirement plan for your team today.Your home might be worth more than you think. Earn extra money today with Airbnb.Get a customized solution for all of your KPIs in one efficient system with one source of truth. Download NetSuite's popular KPI Checklist, designed to give you consistently excellent performance for free.Enjoy an all-in-one personal finance app that gives you a comprehensive view of all your accounts, investments, transactions, cash flow, net worth, and more, with Monarch Money. Get an extended thirty-day free trial today.Be confident that you'll be small businessing at your best with support designed to help you reach your goals. Book an appointment with a TD Small Business Specialist today.Shape and flex your home loans how you want with Athena. Join the thousands of Aussies taking control of their mortgage today.Invest in the same paintings available to billionaires, at a more accessible price point with Masterworks.Support our free podcast by supporting our sponsors.Connect with Hala: Website | LinkedIn | InstagramConnect with Robert: Website | Twitter | InstagramSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Imagine standing on a stranger's doorstep, your heart pounding as you work up the courage to knock and ask to jump in their swimming pool. Sounds crazy, right? That's precisely what happened on day four of Gregory Benedikt's 100 days of living body and talking to strangers. We're joined by executive and life coach Gregory Benedikt as we dive into the transformative power of overcoming your fears and how it can lead to the most extraordinary experiences. Gregory shares his journey of 19 of his 100 days of bold requests, offering a glimpse into what it means to live a life of audacious action and captivating stories.This episode explores the essence of challenging our internal status quo to live a life that's more than just ordinary. From chance encounters to a poignant tattoo etched in Japan, Gregory's stories weave together tales of extraordinary boldness. At the heart of it all is the belief that the bolder we are, the more fortune smiles upon us. So, join us in this audacious journey of fearlessness, filled with life-changing insights and unforgettable stories.Gregory's InstagramRejection Proof - Jia JiangSupport the showAdditional Resources: Subscribe/Rate/Review on iTunes ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: >>>HEREEnroll Here

In part 1 of this Rejection double-feature, we talk about Jia Jiang's TED talk, and we ask ourselves; can we really become resilient to rejection.

Today's motivation is all about using rejection as a tool to get better. Audio Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ More about Jia: Jia Jiang is a Chinese-American entrepreneur and author of the book "Start with Why." He is known for his "100 Days of Rejection" experiment, in which he challenged himself to face rejection in different ways. Quote of the Day: “Is your dream bigger than your rejections? If it is, maybe it´s time to keep going, instead of giving up” ― Jia Jiang --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/motiv8/support

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Keynote speaker, author, and bestselling author returns to the show with an important message about overcoming fear and building resiliency. In today's talk, he shares the most important lesson he's learned about rejection after undergoing 100 days of rejection and shares some tips to become rejection-proof.    Source: Jia Jiang, Diversity Keynote Speaker   Connect with Jia Jiang:    Website: Jia Jiang https://www.rejectiontherapy.com   YouTube: Jia Jiang   Book: Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection   Previous Episodes:   032 | Jia Jiang: "People Like Martin Luther King Jr, Like Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela Or Even Jesus Christ, These People Did Not Let Rejection Define Them."   Hosted by Malikee Josephs (Pronounced Muh leek Jo seffs)    Give Me A Shout:   Follow Me On Instagram @DepressionDetoxShow.   Email me: mj@depressiondetoxshow.com   Support The Show: Donate

Joel listened to the book Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang over the weekend and thought it would make a good starter topic for today's show. At Amazon:  https://www.amazon.com/REJECTION-PROOF-Jia-Jiang/dp/1847941451 Follow the LOA Today podcast: https://www.loatoday.net/follow

Rejection is something that affects us all but how can we minimise its effects?The effects can be minor or major and in this episode I look at strategies for recognising that it might be an issue, how we can learn from them and how we can better handle it so that it does not continue to affect our lives negatively.Links:Functional MRI of the brain and rejection and links to pain: https://www.science.org/content/article/rejection-pain-brainLong term effects of bullying: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4552909/Protected characteristics: https://www.equalityhumanrights.com/en/equality-act/protected-characteristicsFeeling rejected? https://psychcentral.com/lib/good-news-if-you-often-feel-rejectedRejection sensitivity: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7424132/100 rejections by Jia Jiang: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Dr. Lauryn is solo today to discuss an integral part of business life that never goes away: networking. Inspired by a recent panel discussion that she took part in, Dr. Lauryn shares her thoughts and experiences on what networking actually means, ways to utilize it at different career points, why we are much more comfortable when educating vs when we are selling, and much more!Video referenced by Dr. Lauryn: What I learned from 100 days of rejection by Jia Jiang– – – – – Joy, Therapy, and Enneagrams (00:00)Listener Highlight (08:50)Opening Prayer (10:50)What is Networking (13:00)Elevator Pitches (22:05)Selling vs Educating (30:45)Being Authentic and Being Selfish (36:40)Final Thoughts and Recap (48:15)– – – – – To learn more about Dr. Tony Ebel's Pediatric Experience head to the PX website!To learn more about CLA and the INSiGHT scanner go to this website and enter code SHESLAYS when prompted.To check out all the great products from Well Aligned, visit here.To hear all the great stuff happening on patreon you can visit here.Rate & subscribe wherever you get your podcasts!Join the Weekly Slay mailing list HEREIf you want to submit a question or have feedback, make sure to tell us:Website | Instagram | Facebook Get bonus content on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Today we are going to talk about chapter 56 of The Retail Leasing Playbook, "Treat Every Rejection as a Reflection of Them and Not You." So I'm sure you've heard this before, but when prospects reject you, it's not that they're rejecting you, they're just rejecting your property. If you're having an emotional reaction to when people reject the idea, this is going be a tough business for you, so you need to get tougher and not take rejection personally. If you are having problems with rejection, read Jia Jiang's book, "Rejection Proof, How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through a Hundred Days of Rejection." It's hilarious what this guy puts himself through to try to get tougher and deal with rejection. The other thing that I did early on in my career, I think this is a Tom Hopkins suggestion, he was the first, self-improvement guru I started following and he changed my life. But he had this thing where he said, evaluate the cost of each rejection. So I listened to Tom and when, and this was early on when I was canvassing for office leasing, very boring, and I would leave each of the offices and in my mind I would go, thanks for the 30 bucks! Because every store that you, that you get a no to is 30 bucks. And when you get a hundred of 'em, you're gonna get your deal and the $3,000. So for every no you get, put a dollar amount to it and then in your head, in your mind, go, thanks for the 30 bucks, thanks for the 50 bucks, thanks for the 10 bucks, whatever it is. If you like this podcast, please share it on any kind of social platform you're on. Let's get a lot more people listening 'cuz the more that we improve and get better as leasing agents, the more rents we can charge and the more commissions we'll all make. And we will be able to provide more value to our tenants, our landlords, and ourselves. Happy Leasing! Music from https://filmmusic.io "Acid Trumpet" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/b...) #retailleasing #commercialrealestateinvesting #retailleasingcoach #bethazor

In this episode I'm offering a few thoughts and suggestions for last minute gifts for the singing/acting/voice-professional people in your life. From voice straws to books on breathing and personal development, here are a few of my favorite things, listen to the episode to find out why I chose them.   1. The Voice Straw Kit 2. Vocal Mist Portable Nebulizer 3. Aromatherapy Diffuser 4. The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks 5. Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang 6. Breath by James Nestor              

Rejection Therapy? What is that? In this episode, I talk about my own journey to fall more in love with my own sense of rejection and fear as I apply the tools I am learning from actively seeking rejection in my own life and in my business. My inspiration comes from Jason Comely and Jia Jiang who shared his own powerful journey with rejection in a TedX that you can watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ. Impressed by Jia, in this episode, I share how I have started to create a closer relationship with rejection by simply asking a question. I am able to collect a no and it doesn't kill me. The fear of what people will think, the fear of a no, the fear of disapproval: it no longer hurts me as it may once have. But these things don't have to be big asks for us to experience big change. Asking for what you will change your life. So where can you ask for what you want? Where can you feel nervous about a rejection but ask it any way? Enjoy this episode about fear and rejection. Resources: Follow Chrissy on Instagram @chrissyconcept. Sign up for a FREE 30 minute coaching call. More About Teacher Talk with Chrissy Nichols: Teacher Talk is the podcast for educators like you who are on the brink of burnout, or are already there. It's your guide to feeling better about being at school and being in your life. Your host, Chrissy Nichols, is a life coach for teachers. In her weekly episodes, she will give you quick tools, tips, and brain hacks to understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. It's time to find the joy in teaching again and get back to feeling like the best version of yourself.

ในรอบสัปดาห์นี้ เรามามองเห็นคุณค่าของการถูกปฏิเสธกันบ้างเถอะ เพื่อให้เห็นว่ามันเป็นเรื่องธรรมดาของชีวิต และไม่ว่าเราจะเก่งแค่ไหน มันต้องมีช่วงเวลาที่เราเกิดอาการตั้งคำถามกับความฉลาดของตัวเอง หรือแม้กระทั่งเริ่มสงสัยในความสามารถที่ตัวเองมี อยากจะย้ำอีกทีว่าทุกคนมีสิทธิ์ที่จะคิดเช่นนี้ เรื่องราวที่นำมาพูดคุยกันในวันนี้มีที่มาจาก: What I learned from 100 days of rejection โดย Jia Jiang ตามไปฟังกันได้ที่: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ SoundCloud: bit.ly/3gFv2JZ Blockdit: bit.ly/2Bi4tuj Podbean: bit.ly/36QsT9V Apple Podcasts: apple.co/2TQtROk Spotify: spoti.fi/2XJqvgX YouTube: bit.ly/3k4uCAJ #InfinityPodcast #TheInfinity #StartYup #Startup #โสภณ #ศุภมั่งมี

ในรอบสัปดาห์นี้ เรามามองเห็นคุณค่าของการถูกปฏิเสธกันบ้างเถอะ เพื่อให้เห็นว่ามันเป็นเรื่องธรรมดาของชีวิต และไม่ว่าเราจะเก่งแค่ไหน มันต้องมีช่วงเวลาที่เราเกิดอาการตั้งคำถามกับความฉลาดของตัวเอง หรือแม้กระทั่งเริ่มสงสัยในความสามารถที่ตัวเองมี อยากจะย้ำอีกทีว่าทุกคนมีสิทธิ์ที่จะคิดเช่นนี้ เรื่องราวที่นำมาพูดคุยกันในวันนี้มีที่มาจาก: What I learned from 100 days of rejection โดย Jia Jiang ตามไปฟังกันได้ที่: www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ SoundCloud: bit.ly/3gFv2JZ Blockdit: bit.ly/2Bi4tuj Podbean: bit.ly/36QsT9V Apple Podcasts: apple.co/2TQtROk Spotify: spoti.fi/2XJqvgX YouTube: bit.ly/3k4uCAJ #InfinityPodcast #TheInfinity #StartYup #Startup #โสภณ #ศุภมั่งมี

How can you finally stop repairing the same negative relationships? Brad and Lesley recap somatic dating coach, Lauren Zoeller, discussing past relationships, red flags, and how to transform your dating life or current relationships. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Upcoming things to note: AGENCY MINI, Cambodia retreat, Las Vegas RetreatThe best Book recommendations for personal growth and bizHow do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in unhealthy relationship patterns?Boredom as a driving factor and running from relationship to relationship to chase the high.The difference between a life coach and a therapist Exploring your past red flag relationships for growthWhy has every relationship ended? Episode References/Links:Follow Lauren on IGLauren's WebsiteProfitable Pilates RetreatAGENCY MINIBooks: We Should All Be Millionaires, Rachel RogersChatter. Ethan KrossRejection Proof. Jia JiangE-Squared Pam GroutGetting the Love You Want, Harville HendricksBrad Crowell PP Course How to be rejected to success with 200 noesTELL US YOUR THOUGHTS  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life, Brad and I are going to dig into the aligning convo I have with Lauren Zoeller in our last episode. If you haven't yet listen to interview, feel free to pause this now. Go back and listen to that one, and then come back and join us. If you don't know about somatic coaching. You should listen to the interview.Brad Crowell  Yeah, if you don't know the definition of somatic, she explained it. (Lesley: Yeah.) Lauren because it was actually great as your very first question. Like, "Hey, cool. I'm all about life coaching. What's the somatic part mean? Can you explain that?" And they dug in pretty deep. So yeah.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I know. Well, it's because I have a somatic therapist, and I didn't really understand what that title was. And she would do her therapy. And it had somatic stuff, but like, I didn't really I just was like, "Oh, we're in the woowoo world. We're just doing this." But it's actually not. It's not woowoo would all it's like totally legit science. You should totally... So go listen to it. But I love Lauren, and ...Brad Crowell  She, she's powerful.Lesley Logan  She's powerful. (Brad: Yeah.) She's super cool. And at the time that we're recording this, I'm on the eve of hanging out with her for the weekend here in Vegas. (Brad: Yeah.) So talk about, do you mind, I just say I want to say this, because it's nothing to do with anything. But if you're trying to make friends, like, do the things that just that people do want to like, share and experience together. She is coming here with a couple other women. Because I was like, "We should all hang out. I live in Las Vegas. It's a great place to come visit."Brad Crowell  Wait, really? (Lesley: Yeah. That was I said.) They came because you, you just invited them to come. (Lesley: Yeah.) That's so cool.Lesley Logan  I know. I said we should, well, I will, I won't take all the credit. They know a mutual friend, they know Tori Gordon, who is a coach because who was a coach, and she was on our podcast earlier. (Brad: Yeah.) And they're like, "Oh, yeah, Tori was talking about how we should all come to Vegas." I said, "Well, now you've two reasons to come because Tori and I live in the same neighborhood. (Brad: Great.) And you should come." And boom, set some dates. And now they're coming.Brad Crowell  That's really cool. I didn't know that. That's fun.Lesley Logan  Take action ... I'm so excited. By the time you've heard this, I've already hang out. We've already had our women's weekend and it's going to be amazing. I'll be talking about it on another episode. Anyways. We are also one month away from the time that you're listening to this. From the PP retreat. The Profitablie Pilates business retreat here in Las Vegas. (Brad: Yeah.) So if you are wanting to hang out in a very intimate, not in like a sexual way, but just like small, that's what I mean it by a small group, private event.Brad Crowell  I don't think anybody took it as sexual but but that's fair to clarify.Yeah, it's it's a, it's an intimate setting, that's a fair way to describe it. It's, it's actually a lot of fun and very transformative when it comes to digging into the customer journey that you may or may not be presenting to your customers. If you run a fitness business, or any kind of service based business, really, the principles do apply, and that we'll be recovering that weekend. And our first one that we ran earlier this year was amazing. It was so amazing. So we're really excited to be hosting a second one this year. (Lesley: It will be amazing.) It's going to be amazing. (Lesley: I'm just gonna put amazing in there one more time.) Also, amazingly, I'm not sure that we haven't set a date yet for next year. So it's not 100% that we're going to do it for next year. So if you're thinking I'll just do the next one. Just talk to us now because (Lesley: Yeah.) because it may not actually be one we want you know like we've got a lot going on next year like a lot.Lesley Logan  A lot. And I'll say I just want to say like putting off the growth of your business for next time. Can we just like talk about like ...Brad Crowell  Why wait nine more months to get started?Lesley Logan  The people who are at our first retreat, several of them made their retreat investment back within a couple of months. Of just using our project management training, of using our launch training of all this stuff. (Brad: Yeah.) They are now working on things this right now, as second rounds of things that will have (Brad: Yeah.) even better outcomes. If they had not come if they waited till next time they would not they would literally be where they were way before March making what they, making what they made before March in a time when you make more money. So I'm just saying don't wait till next time and Brad is right. We have not set dates and it's pretty unclear whether or not we will have another one in the 2023 dates we ...Brad Crowell  Look, we're hoping that we can do but (Lesley: We love it.) but but actually I also love going to Cambodia. So, yeah.Lesley Logan  We love going to Cambodia but we also love vacation.Brad Crowell  Yeah, there's that. I would like to take ... (Lesley: Yeah, so anyway ...) and idea. (Lesley: That's one month away. So ...) That's happening. Yeah, in the month. And then but what's happening is before then.Lesley Logan  Oh, Agency Mini. (Brad: Yeah.) Two, so it's like about two ish weeks away. It starts on the 18th. And ... (Brad: How it was a different than the retreat?) Okay, so Agency Mini, first of all, fold is very different. The retreat is at our house in person curated, very small group, very small group. (Brad: Yeah.) Agency Mini is not to say that it's a big group, but it is a bigger group. And ... (Brad: Yeah, it's a couple hundred people.) It's also online. We do one workshop, and we do one Q&A session, and then we answer your questions throughout the week. Whereas at the retreat, when you're on our house, we have several workshops, several times where you guys are in coaching settings. It's a very curated experience around what you're gonna be learning. Whereas inside of Agency Mini, we have a very curated webinar and homework for you. But then the rest of the week, you can really ask us anything, we'll be really honest with you.Brad Crowell  But bigger, bigger picture, though. The retreat, we're going to dig into, like I said, your customers journey (Lesley: Yeah.) and what you're putting in front of them, when to graduate them from your first product, your second product, your third product, whether that's digitally on your website, you know, or whether that is, you know, in your brick and mortar store. (Lesley:Yeah.) Where Agency Mini is a, it's a seven day taster of our ongoing coaching services, where you can we are going to dig into, we're going to help you clarify, you know exactly what it is that you offer your clients, how to connect to those clients, who those clients actually are. Right. And and then we're going to open it up for questions about anything throughout the week. So you know, and that's going to be virtual.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So profitabliepilates.com/retreat is retreat and profitable, profitablepilates.com/mini is for Agency Mini. (Brad: Yeah.) So you should sign up for that. (Brad: Yeah. Join us.) Also, by the way, if you join Agency for Mini, you get a lots of goodies. So just saying (Brad: True.) you've been thinking, "Oh, I want to coach with them," and you sign up for that. This is the time. So anyways, I'm so excited. September is, September, October are like going to be so ... (Brad: They're very so fun.) We're going to be like we're going to be in several states ... (Brad: It's gonna be a whirlwind.) It's a whirlwind.Brad Crowell  Yeah, it's gonna be crazy.Lesley Logan  Gotta get my sleep on. Anyways, we have an audience question.Brad Crowell  We do. You've answered this before, but it's been a long time. I just inserted that. What are some books that you recommend? Do you have any new ones?Lesley Logan  Yeah, so I don't recall which recap we answered this question. But I would say it's probably 100 episodes ago.Brad Crowell  I was gonna say, I think it's been like a long time.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So of course, I have been reading a lot. And by reading I mean listening. But I actually am reading a couple books like physical books. Currently, as we're doing this. So here's my new top books that I've been talking about a lot. And I've read it. There's they're not in, like, inclusive of all the books that I've read, but like what I think listeners of this show would really love. We Should All Be Millionaires, Rachel Rogers. Rachel Rogers, if you're listening this episode. Hi. Big fan over here. Want to be on the show? If you know Rachel, please do the intro. I'm just putting out there. I'm asking for it. I want I want Rachel Rogers on the show. That book is amazing. It's so good. I and Brad, love reading it.Brad Crowell  Yeah, we're I'm like, I don't know, third of the way through it right now. Halfway, I'm not sure.Lesley Logan  Yeah, it's so good. Chatter. I believe it is by Ethan Kross. I think that's who it's by. Yes. And I have DMed him, he has not responded to me. So I am not, (Brad: Ethan Kross.) I'm not rejected yet. And I will not take no for an answer from that man because he is amazing. That book is so it's so awesome at identifying why you're talking to yourself and the thoughts you say. And then also how to like snap yourself out of it, which I just frickin love. You know, I love action. So, Action Steps so that's a great book and then Rejection Proof. Oh my gosh, he did reject me for right now. Not permanently, he said to come back to him later. He's just not doing podcasts right now. That's okay. Jia Jiang, I got you. My peeps are gonna find you. We're gonna get you on the show. Anyways, Rejection Proof is so good. If you're afraid of being rejected. Brad has a course about being rejected (Brad: I do.) on our Profitable Pilates website.Brad Crowell  Yeah. We'll put the link to that in the show notes. (Lesley: Yeah.) It's called How to be rejected to success with 200 noes.Lesley Logan  Yeah, so and then this book was just like so so good. I'm really into it and then I've talked about it before actually talked about it with Coach Lee a couple weeks ago on that episode, but I started doing E-Squared again, and it's Pam Grout. Hi, Pam. Hi, hey girl hey. (Brad: Hey girl hey.) I tagg you on a post or three. Not a stalker, but just same (Brad: Big fan.) big fan, big fan over here. Anyways, um, I had I read Pam Grout's book, eight years ago, seven years ago, and I actually did one of the experience I put Brad's name now. And then he called me. (Brad: I did.) And then the other woman's name down, I just put the two together. She's the woman from the other company that's been hitting us up. (Brad: Oh, that's crazy.) How crazy is that? But she did also call me while we ran into each other. Anyways, you'll hear that on on Coach Lee's episode. But the point is, I've been doing all the experiments and I did the experiment one. I started on a specific date at 11am. And then I decided to meditate on like receiving abundance. And at 11:03 during the middle of my meditation, the experiment came through. Oh! So you all have to do E-Squared. Okay, those are the books. Do you have anything add to that?Brad Crowell  Those are, those are great. No, I've been reading political books, and also some novels. (Lesley: Yeah.) So yeah, less if you if you if you are looking to find a new world to experience that has nothing to do with reality. There's a lovely, incredible, 20 something books here series (Lesley: Oh, are you doing YA?) No.Lesley Logan  No, young adult, you're listening to a young adult?Brad Crowell  I don't know what that is. (Lesley: Oh.) So no, it's his name is Michael J. Sullivan. And he is a he's like a, he created his own fantasy world where he's got different, different times of the timeline. So like, you know, he started off, (Lesley: Oh) he started off with a thief and a soldier and the two of them get paired together and have to go to that. And he wrote, like, I don't know, 12 books around this. They're still out ...Lesley Logan  So not necessarily like a book for 20 somethings. It's just a 20 year long.Brad Crowell  No, no. He's written 20 novels. (Lesley: Yeah. Okay.) No, (Lesley: Sorry.) 20 books.Lesley Logan  20 books. So not YA at all?Brad Crowell  I don't know what YA is? So, no.Lesley Logan  YA is a ti... is like a section of books. It's called Young Adult. It's like your twilight ...Brad Crowell  Oh, yeah. I never I never got out of that. Yeah. (Lesley: Yeah.) No, it's a ...Lesley Logan  Like not goosebumps. But you know, something like that. Like ...Brad Crowell  I mean, sure, these are these are applicable for all ages, actually. The but but then, in that, in that timeline, he was referencing, you know, the history 3000 years ago. And then the next set of six books he wrote was from 3000 years ago. (Lesley: Oh, my God.) And then now the new books he's writing are in the middle, between these two timelines on a ... (Lesley: I can't handle it.) It's amazing, actually. And you fall in love with the characters and yeah, I mean, he is, he's mind blowingly good at what he does. It is incredible. The books are just fantastic. So (Lesley: Okay.) yeah.Lesley Logan  Let's talk about Lauren. (Brad and Lesley laughs)Brad Crowell  We don't go to the same movies, y'all. Just saying.Lesley Logan  We don't. We also don't go to bed the same time or wake up at the same time. We are an anomaly. If you are like, "I want to be married like Brad and Lesley." I'm just gonna go out right now you have to be very secured ...Brad Crowell  We have so much in common when it comes to being entrepreneurs.Lesley Logan  Yeah. And we ... like, like the things that we love to do for fun. Our so opposite. (Brad: Yeah) We just do them on our own.Brad Crowell  So, Lesley's got a green thumb. No, she doesn't.Lesley Logan  No, no. She doesn't. (Brad: I'm teasing.) But my Mammillaria by not touching it whatsoever is doing great. (Brad: Yeah, yeah.) My plant in the window. It's not doing so good. I don't know what to do about it. Anyway. Hi, let's talk about Lauren.Brad Crowell  Let's talk about Lauren Zoeller.Lesley Logan  All I can say is Lauren ... as like our guests listening to these recaps ...Brad Crowell  I know. They're probably, "What the hell?" (Lesley: When did they talk about me though?) Okay, cool. So, Lauren, helping women and men find conscious partnerships. Lauren Zoeller is a Somatic Relationship Expert, aka Dating Coach who overcame her own patterns of shame to now lead women into aligned lives. Lauren is more than a matchmaker. She's here to guide individuals to keep the relationships they find, and in the process, discover a deeper love for themselves.Lesley Logan  So aka better than a dating coach. (Brad: Yeah. Better than a dating coach.) Just to like, help my new friend out. She's more than a dating coach.Brad Crowell  Well, yeah, well, I think I think that, again, if you go back and listen to her definition of somatic, it will help you understand how different she is from you know, just, you know, she's not Hitch you know, I think you you probably had the best example, I'm just going to pull it back up. You said, people who date the quote on quote, "date the same person over and over and over again, until they learn their lesson." Right? She helps you, like understand why you might be repeating things, but just in a different time and a different with the different people. (Lesley: Yeah.) But you're still repeating the same thing.Lesley Logan  If you're watching us on the YouTube channel, you got the air quotes. If you didn't, Brad, his inflection should hopefully help you understand the air quotes are in there.Brad Crowell  Yeah, Brad is very good.Lesley Logan  It's better than Joey from Friends that air quote. I'm sorry. (Lesley and Brad laughs)Brad Crowell  What was one thing that you love that Lauren said?Lesley Logan  Thank you for asking. One thing I love that she said was "how you receive love as a child shapes how you expect to be loved today. Often those who had a frenetic childhood are chasing the high of chaos". And she went on a little bit like how do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in unhealthy patterns is a question she's having (Brad: Yeah.) she's haveing you ask yourself. So take a moment. How do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in an unhealthy patterns? So, you know, we all know The Five Love Languages and things like that. But like actually think about it like the way you're giving and receiving love. Is it actually helping you? Have loving relationships? Or is it in this chaotic, unhealthy pattern? Like these are important things. And then she also had some other examples like boredom as a driving factor and running from relationship to relationship to chase the high.Brad Crowell  Well, that's good. So so what she was talking about, which I thought was really amazing because I, I don't I never I never thought this way. But she said if you had chaos in your childhood, and actually she specifically was talking about helicopter parents. And she said, if your you know, parents were in, and then out and then in and then out and there was this chaos happening. You often expect that later on in life. So if you end up in a stable, you know, relationship, it doesn't mean stable is good or bad. It just means it's the opposite of what you expected. So more often than not, you're inclined to feel like, this is boring, or this is safe. Or this is kind of ... you know, and ...Lesley Logan  It's like when Carrie broke up with Aidan, everyone. She broke with Aidan because they didn't fight. And ...Brad Crowell  I don't actually know any idea ...Lesley Logan  Sex in the City. Everyone who's listening is knodding their head, we all know, because that was a big deal. There was a whole thing.Brad Crowell  So glad I wasn't there for that one. Okay. Yeah, it's like, guys, it's like, Oh, my God. It's like when Carrie broke up (Lesley: Stop.) with Aidan (Lesley: Okay.) because they didn't fight all the time.Lesley Logan  No, but it's I think people need examples sometimes ...Brad Crowell  I think it's a perfect example. I just was not there with you on that one.Lesley Logan  It's fine. Everyone who's listening is with me. (Brad: Yeah. Oh yeah. Oh yeah.) They're all with me ...Brad Crowell  No, it's a perfect example because, you know, and then conversely, if you had a relatively stable, you know, or quote unquote, "boring", you know, like, like childhood love from your parents, and you find yourself in a chaotic relationship. You may be like, "I can't do this," you know. And anyway, I thought that was really interesting. I never thought about that before ...Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah. And also, so first of all, Lauren has an incredible course. And she has a bunch of services. There was also the book, Getting the Love You Want, which is a very interesting book about explaining the old brain, the new brain, and like, how, when you first get a relationship, you fill all of your own holes. So ... (Brad: Harville Hendricks) Yeah. So you fill all your own holes to so people like look, "I'm this like, perfect, amazing being and there's nothing crazy wrong with me here. Don't like I'm so good. And your partner, by the way, is doing the exact same thing." And then after a few months, it's so exhausting trying to fill those holes. But you don't even realize that you're doing it on a subconscious level. So (Brad: Right.) you think that that person, the person you're with is filled the holes like they've solved the problem. So and then when both of you start filling your own holes, you're like, "You change. They change, blah, blah, blah." Actually no, you both just started to be your fucking selves. (Brad: Interesting) Yeah, and so a lot ...Brad Crowell  Well she does, Lauren talks about that, at the very beginning. She talked about like, you know, being lonely and filling that loneliness with someone who you know, you shouldn't be with.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Oh, totally. Who hasn't done that, (Brad: Yeah) like 17 times not personal. Just, I just know, I'm still I'm watched. But I think it's like, it's ... (Brad: Calling you in behalf of a friend.) Yeah, calling for a friend, actually. Anyways, it's a great book, if you're like, "I don't know, if I'm gonna read the book." He was on Oprah. And you can like get the Cliff's Notes version, or you can just work with Lauren. But the reality is, is like, we have to stop pretending that how we were raised is um not affecting the lives and the choices we have now. And then also we have to understand that like we are making choices. You may think things are happening to you. And this is just the people that are around you. And these are the only options but we all actually have choices and when you start to recognize that like how you are choosing to give and receive love is a choice. (Brad: Sure.) Even if you feel it's subconscious, it can actually be a conscious decision. When you make those changes, you can actually start to change the patterns of the day you have and find the person you want to have and look at Lauren, look where she's at right now.Brad Crowell  Yeah. Interesting. Wow. Yeah. And what she's referencing is having moved through a very tumultuous time in her life to finding a place where she can be herself. (Lesley: Yeah.) With someone that she loves in a business that's functioning and all good things. (Lesley: Yeah.) So again, worth listening to. One thing I loved that she said, was she helped define the difference between a therapist and a life coach. (Lesley: Which I knew you would love.) Yeah, well, she is a life coach, therapist, generally speaking, has degrees in therapy, and they, you know, like help you dig into the past. Right. And so you're really breaking things down and trying to uncover, you know, where you came from. Whereas a life coach is helping you plan and look at your future. And I thought that was such a clear distinction, such an easy way to understand the difference between the two ...Lesley Logan  I knew you love it. (Brad: Yeah, that was great.) I was like, "Oh my gosh, Brad's and I fucking love this definition." And also, by the way, you could have a somatic therapist, (Brad: You can.) life coach, (Brad: Yeah.) and so you, like somatics is really amazing. Again, if you like, "What's somatic?" Listen to the other episode, just gonna make you do it. But you can have both and like, you can also have a therapist and a life coach, because one could be dealing with one thing and one you could be doing. (Brad: 100%) So you know, just that there are different things. But I loved how she explained it. I agree with you on that love.Brad Crowell  Yeah. All right. So finally, let's talk about those BE IT action items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your conversation with Lauren Zoeller? She summed it all up with one, one solid action BE IT action item. She said, look at the patterns that have shown up in your relationships, and write them down. Why has every relationship ended? And is there a common thread?Lesley Logan  Yeah, and I think you can look at friendships, as well as in family relationships, as well as love relationships. Like I think like, you know, we're not, we are different, with different people ish. But we all kind of wrote this thing. So like, if you look at how you how maybe a family member and you had a falling out, or a friend you had falling out, I bet you there's some common threads. And I think that can be worth journaling about. I'm not saying shame and judge all yourself, please. That's not what I'm saying ...Brad Crowell  But it's still a hard thing to dig into and look and review. And, you know, I mean, I think that it's easy to avoid. Let's just say it can be easy to avoid thinking about this stuff. (Lesley: Oh yeah) So when you start to uncover it, it may be a little bit uncomfortable. You know, because if you're honest with yourself, you know, how much a part of the ending of those relationships where you? Obviously, it takes two people to be in a relationship. So you were clearly a part of it. How?Lesley Logan  Yeah, and I think like, it's not like we're saying you should take all the blame, because that's not it at all. (Brad: No) But you should just actually look at like, what was your role in it? And like, if you're like, "Well, listen Brad, my person cheated on me." Okay, that's fine. I do not blame anybody who was cheated on, like as the reason for that, because that's a whole other ball of wax. But you can look at the red flags, that you ignored at the begining of the relationship that (Brad: Yeah) got you in relationship with someone who cheated on you. (Brad: Sure.) And there, and so you looking at those red flags that you ignored, those are choices. And you made those for specific reasons. (Brad: Yeah.) And there's nothing wrong with the choice you made. But then you can actually have this like, red flag marker. So when you're on a date, and you see that red flag and you go, "Oh, here I am with the same pattern of dating this person who is doing this out of spite..." (Brad: Exactly. Yeah.) And one thing, put a stop sign up. But you get to say, "Hey, you know, you said something. I just would like to go back to that. And just kind of explore that a little bit. (Brad: Yeah) Could you mind like, like, just give me a little bit more from that." And if they like dig a hole that's just like, wow, that's red flag just became a frickin fire, run. (Lesley laughs) (Brad: Yeah) Run away.Brad Crowell  Yeah, I mean and it may be, I mean, there's, you know, in a yet last steps, so we were talking about or so in our last recap, we're talking about clients and firing a client. Same thing, I mean does, we're not necessarily talking about love relationships here. We're talking about relationships, right? So it could be you keep taking on clients that you, you know, I don't know, maybe, you know, we teachers, as a teacher, we all feel like we can help someone, but maybe we think we can help them emotionally in addition to physically and maybe that is like consistent issue. Because after a while you're fried, you're ready to move on to the next person, but now they're your client, you know, and it's possible that you've been doing this over and over again. You know, who knows? There's just a It's interesting to go back and take a look. And like what what Lauren said, look at the patterns that have shown up in your relationships and write them down. Why has every relationship ended? And what is that common thread?Lesley Logan  Well, I'll be really honest. Like we would not have dated had I not like looked at the red flags and like been playing that game. And like looking at how all of the people I dated before you ended, I was like, "Oh, wow, there's a common interesting theme." And so when you came on, like, I challenge you a couple of times, like, ... you relate to something I said, "That doesn't, I don't like that doesn't work for me." You know, and like, we had to talk about it. So like, it's not like, if you see it, you're like, "I have to run away right now." No, you can actually have a conversation around it, (Brad: Sure.) and then like, say things and it really does allow you to have an adult relationship where yes, there's vulnerability. But what ...Brad Crowell  I don't even think I asked you like things, you know, in that sense, I, I actually, I don't, I didn't have a plan when I was going through my divorce. But I did write things down. Because I couldn't keep it in my head anymore. I just couldn't juggle it all. Because it's so much as thinking about, you know, it's like replaying every conversation I ever had, ever. And, you know, you know how it is, it is right, and but what it allowed me to clarify, were the things that were important to me. And so when I went when we began to date, I literally had a list. I actually ...Lesley Logan  I had a list. I had a list. I deleted my list after you dumped me because I was so mad at you. Because okay, so he came over with beer, and I'm fucking gluten free.Brad Crowell  Oh, I did that.Lesley Logan  And he came over with beer. This is not the first time I told him I was gluten free. This is the third time I had to tell him I'm just gluten free. And he brings us beer like, "Hey, I brought this beer." I'm like, "I'm gluten free. I can't drink it." And he's like, "Oh, yeah, that's right." And then he proceeded to take two hours of telling me everything he liked about me, and then why we couldn't go on a date. And I had this list and you checked off everything on the list, but I literally had written out remembers I'm gluten and dairy free. And I was like, "Fuck this list. It's not fucking working. I he meant everything and he fucked this up and he fucked that up." And I deleted the list. And then 10 days later, you're like, "Hey, I'm at Trader Joe's. I know you're gluten and dairy free. So I got you some veggies and hummus." I'm like, "Are you fucking kidding me right now?"Brad Crowell  You know what? You know what I did. I actually went home and looked up. What is gluten free? Because I didn't know. You were like, "Yeah, I can't eat bread." I was like, "Oh. Well, okay, I guess she can't eat bread." So I didn't bring bread. But I actually looked it up. I was a dairy was pretty straightforward.Lesley Logan  Yeah. (Brad: But gluten that I didn't know.) and Yeah. But that's if I didn't know you had a list. I have, I have a list anyways, obviously it worked out for us. But it's because you both ... reflected on past relationships and how they ended. (Brad: That's pretty funny.) And hey, I'm so happy we're together. We're celebrating seven years this fall. (Brad: What? That's crazy.) Yeah. Anyways, I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell  I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan  Thank you so much for joining us today. First, I'm grateful you're here. I hope you enjoy these. You can always give us feedback on our podcast at beitpod.com/tellme and we want to know how you're going to use these tips in your life. Give us a tag, tag @laurenzoeller. Let us know and please share this with a friend who is having needs in their relationships that need to be met. (Brad: Yeah.) So we can help them out with Lauren's amazing tips and we'll catch you in the next episode.Brad Crowell  Bye for now.Lesley Logan  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others BE IT TILL YOU SEE IT. 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We experience rejection all the time–in job interviews, while dating, when pitching a story or even trying to join a new club or activity. But if rejection happens so often, why is it so scary? And worse, what if our fear of being rejected is keeping us from going after the things we want? Jia Jiang is kind of a rejection expert–he's gone from a career in the corporate world to the risky world of entrepreneurship. To conquer his fear of rejection, he started the 100 Days of Rejection Therapy blog, where he documented an experiment in which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis. Now he's authored a bestselling book, and owns a company dedicated to helping people overcome their fear of rejection. In this episode, he shares what he's learned over the years on how to turn fear into triumph.

het boek geschreven door Frank Deuring heeft als ondertitel, Creëer radicale openheid over fouten in organisaties. We kregen het boek opgestuurd via Sabine Zurel. Dank je wel. Frank is ondernemer van het bedrijf de FoutenFabriek en in zijn werk helpt hij organisaties om te leren van fouten. Naast Frank noemen we ook graag Pauk Louis Iske die op dit onderwerp actief is. In 2018 publiceerde hij het boek Instituut voor briljante mislukkingen. Kijk ook zijn TED talk over dit onderwerp als Chief Failure Officer. Het boek Superfalen, is dun, leest lekker weg en heeft aandacht voor een interessant onderwerp. Frank beschrijft fouten die hij zelf maakte in het verleden als goed voorbeeld, daarnaast verschillende voorbeelden van anderen. We kunnen als organisatie veel leren van onze fouten, bijzonder dat we het toch lastig vinden om ze te delen. Je leest het boek in twee avonden uit. Frank gebruikt, als voormalig stand up comedy artiest, veel humor in het boek. De kern van het boek hangt aan twee van zijn favoriete boeken van Amy Edmondson en Carol Dweck, De onbevreesde organisatie en Mindset. Het boek is opgedeeld in 7 hoofdstukken Het niet zo grote geheim van positief naar fouten kijkenLeer omgaan met schaamteLeer omgaan met afwijzingLeer omgaan met tegenslagLaat perfectionisme losWerk aan de cultuurWerk aan de structuur De opening van het boek in de inleiding is een bijzondere, hij wil een dikke bestseller van het boek maken. Net het boek van Charlotte en Hanneke gelezen over het schrijven van bestseller gelezen. Het boek Superfalen stond 14 dagen op Nr. 1 bij managementboek en 64 dagen in de Top 100 op het moment van publicatie van dit artikel. Het niet zo grote geheim van positief naar fouten kijken In dit hoofdstuk vertelt Frank over de vast mindset en de groeimindset. De groeimindset is een belangrijke voorwaarde om te leren van je fouten, dit komt uit de theorie van Carol Dweck. In dit hoofdstuk heeft hij het ook over de 10.000 uren regel populair gemaakt door Malcolm Gladwell op basis van onderzoek gedaan door Anders Ericsson. Wat je in het boek The Talent Code van Daniel Coyle ook kunt lezen is dat het belangrijk is hoe je oefent: Deel het leerproces op in aparte vaardigheden die je wilt ontwikkelenGebruik een coach die past bij de fase van je ontwikkelingOefen net buiten je comfortzone Mooi in het voorbeeld van Carol Dweck is dat ze geen onvoldoendes geeft op haar school. Ze gaf een 'nog niet'. Het woordje 'nog' geeft een positief gevoel, je bent er nog niet, maar kunt door oefenen en trainen verder komen. De groeimindset.  Frank noemt KPI's Killing Personal Innovation omdat de focus op presteren ligt en er is weinig ruimte voor experimenteren en innovatie. Focus op leren in plaats van presteren helpt om meer te bereiken. Kies dus voor leerdoelen. Leer omgaan met schaamte Wat houdt je tegen om je fouten te delen? Schaamte. Als oplossing om met schaamte om te gaan noemt Frank de schaamtebuddy. Een persoon waarmee je alles kunt delen zonder consequenties. Je helpt elkaar door te luisteren, begrip en waardering te tonen. Zonder oplossingen te willen bieden. Het delen van schaamte zorgt ervoor dat de schaamte verdwijnt. Hiervoor gebruikt Frank tips van Brené Brown uit bijvoorbeeld haar boek De moed van imperfectie. Kijk bijvoorbeeld haar TED Talk Listening to shame. Leer omgaan met afwijzing Direct gekoppeld aan schaamte en ego is afwijzing. De angst voor afwijzing als we iets niet goed doen, dat we geen lid meer zijn van de groep. Dat we worden afgewezen voor de verbinding. Een diepgeworteld gevoel, erbij willen horen. Het gevoel, dat wanneer je fouten maakt de kans bestaat dat mensen je niet vinden passen in de groep. Als je niet meer past in de groep sta je alleen. Het verhaal van Jia Jiang, opnieuw een TED Talk, waarin hij bewust 100 dagen lang op zoek gaat naar afwijzing. Door bewust de afwijzing op te zoeken ontdek je dat het minder erg is dan je denkt. ...

Surprise! No guest interviews this week because I had to chime in here again, I was too excited and ON FIRE for this topic, and when God puts it on my heart I have to be obedient. Its time for a girlfriend chat, we gotta talk about how negativity could be KILLING your confidence and what to do about it. I give you a great framework I learned years ago and its been life changing. Also we talk 5 ways we can disrupt this pattern that starts with awareness. Get ready for a kick in the pants friends! 100 days of rejection by Jia Jiang:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQJoin the free and fun community of faith led women taking action on their dreams: https://www.facebook.com/groups/275631504657791/?ref=shareWant to feel more confident and sure of yourself? Wanna uncover WHY you haven't been operating in your level 10 confidence. I am so excited to come along 5 of you in the month of April for confidence and courage coaching. Email me the word "confidence" at couragequeenpod@gmail.com and I'll walk you through what I offer to see if its a fit for you! XOXO- J

Saya membahas buku Rejection Proof karya Jia Jiang. Buku ini membahas bagaimana caranya agar kita bisa mengalahkan rasa takut ditolak dan melihat penolakan dari perspektif yang lain. Seringkali kita melihat penolakan sebagai hal yang personal dan melukai hati kita sangat dalam. Namun perlu diingat, ketika kamu ditolak seseorang, itu bukanlah gambaran seutuhnya tentang dirimu. Misalnya, kamu dipecat karena pekerjaan kamu buruk, kamu tidak kompeten, dan sebagainya. Itu bukanlah pandangan seutuhnya kalau kamu adalah karyawan yang payah. Namun itu hanyalah pandangan pribadi orang tersebut. Orang yang berbeda, mungkin saja akan memberikan respons yang berbeda. Inilah yang harus kita pahami apabila kita ingin melihat penolakan dari sudut pandang yang lebih sehat.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. – Charles R. SwindollAre you generally more fearful or fearless? We all have our good days and bad days.  It's got to be partly innate, a trait present from birth. Some people were born fearless. Others have to work hard to build their courage. When it comes to rejection, fearing it is more universal. Really, who loves rejection!?  Get rejected consecutive times and even the most fearless warrior can feel the slump and have to shake off the funk. Why face rejection at all? Often, it's easier not to try. DISCOMFORTWe know it's easier to limit yourself to doing what's comfortable. Staying in your lane feels good. Think back to a real breakthrough or high achievement in your life. I'll bet it required truly pushing yourself beyond what you thought was possible. Growth most often takes place outside of your comfort zone. Welcoming discomfort is easier said than done.  We need to develop a habit to get there. TRAINLast week, I spoke at the https://podcastgym.com/link/interviewmastery/ (Interview Mastery Summit) where my session was, “Getting to Yes: Book Bigger Guests, Get Booked On Bigger Shows.” In it, I touched on the mindset for booking bigger guests and getting booked on bigger shows. Here's a challenge for you. Commit to getting rejected 100 times this year. That's 25 “no's” per quarter.  It's harder to do than you think. When you pitch, a nonresponse does not count. You must get a “no” reply. Celebrating rejection will shift your mindset. Each time will still be disappointing, but you'll quickly celebrate and move on. Ultimately, this gamification will encourage you to pitch more often and reach higher. Don't just take my word for it.  For background, this idea was inspired by Jia Jiang who sought out rejection for 100 days. He's an expert! If you haven't watched his TEDTalk, it's 15 minutes well spent. Out of his video blog came the book, https://amzn.to/3se5qMa?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=pg_45_rejection_proof&utm_term=2022-02-23 (“Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection.”) Here are three highlights from Jia. IN THE PROCESS OF MY REJECTION JOURNEY, HERE IS WHAT I LEARNED ABOUT REJECTION:Rejection is a muscle. If you don't constantly work outside your comfort zone, you'll lose it and you'll become weak and timid. Rejection is a numbers game. Fight through enough no's and you will eventually find a yes. Avoiding rejection is worse than receiving it. Most people believe avoiding rejection is a good thing, by avoiding something bad we've dodged a bullet and we are somehow net positive, but that's not true. When we shy away from rejection we reject ourselves and our ideas before the world ever has a chance to reject them. This is the worst form of rejection and as a result, we are ignored by the world. Let this be your new goal. Put yourself out there. Where three rejections may add up to a slump, one hundred rejections will desensitize you to the fear. Build that muscle! Whether you apply this practice to your podcast, job, or other parts of your life, the magic lies in that you can never forecast where the “yeses” will come from. So ask often and ask big! Want to join me trying to get rejected 100 times? Mentioned in this episode: Join and Subscribe Visit www.podcastgym.com/newsletter to joing our community and subscribe to the Podcast Stronger newsletter.

I Like Art Podcast is so excited to share this incredible interview with Canadian artist Celine Gabrielle.  Hear all about Celine's experiences auditioning for and attending an arts high school, how her career path veered away from the arts and how experiencing injury lead her back to the arts and her becoming a full-time professional artist. Celine's career has taken off and she talks about her journey and mission for transparency in the arts and her passion for taking time to cheer on and encourage fellow artists/creatives. Make sure you check out Celine's artwork through her website and all of her socials. Check out Celine Gabrielle's art and all the things here: Website: https://www.celinegabrielleart.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/celinegabrielleart Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/celinegabrielleart/  Tik Tok: @celinegabrielleart Pinterest: @celinegabrielleart   Shoutouts/Mentions: Art For Your Ear Podcast with Danielle Krysa aka The Jealous Curator- Interview with Celine Gabrielle: https://www.thejealouscurator.com/blog/2021/09/24/fear-is-a-theme/ Instagram Tag for Celine's "The Million Dollar Artist Project" #tmdap Instagram Tag: #100muggies Movie: Magnolia Books: Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang , Mindset by Carol S. Dweck   Find Sara Glupker- Podcast host here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saraglupker Website: https://www.saraglupkerart.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SaraStrongGlupkerArtist YouTube Channel: "Cherry Tree Art Studio - Sara Glupker" https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0wtbrnl7JIj-XtHM85u50w  

I don't know about you, but one of my biggest dreams is to one day have a library in my house. I read all kinds of books because I love getting lost in a great story. Today I'm sharing my top 3 books to tame that inner perfectionist. As a recovering perfectionist myself, perfectionism has served me well in many ways. It helped me make it through university and my grad degree. It helped me get my dream job right out of college. It also helped me start my own business. But sometimes my inner perfectionist holds me back. I've spent the last few years learning to overcome my perfectionism and these three books have helped me build tools and strategies that work. Listen as I share my thoughts on Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang, Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo, and Becoming by Michelle Obama. The three books I recommend most for overcoming perfectionism and finding balance in work and life.Show Highlights[01:55] Welcome to the Bold Life Community for recovering perfectionists.[03:22] How I built my business to leave my hospital job. [04:49] The struggles you face when starting a business. [05:43] My first book to read when overcoming perfectionism is, Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang. [07:34] Book number two is Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo.[09:53] Last but not least is Becoming by Michelle Obama. [13:12] These books have fantastic tips and strategies to help you beat back perfectionism. Subscribe Today!Apple PodcastSpotifyAndroid

Rejections โอบกอดการถูกปฏิเสธ เพื่อสร้างโอกาสใหม่ๆในชีวิต การถูกปฏิเสธเป็นเรื่องปกติที่ต้องเจอในชีวิต ไม่มีใครที่ใช้ชีวิตโดยไม่เคยถูกปฏิเสธมาก่อน แต่ผู้ยิ่งใหญ่ในโลกใบนี้ล้วนแล้วแต่โอบกอดการถูกปฏิเสธ และมุ่งต่อไปข้างหน้าอย่างไม่ย่อท้อ หัวข้อวันนี้มาจาก TED Talk ที่ยอดเยี่ยมที่ Inspire ให้มาเล่าให้ฟังกันครับ เป็นเรื่องราวของคุณ Jia Jiang ที่ออกไปพยายามทำให้คน Reject เขา เป็นเวลา 100 วันเต็มครับ

I'm Brenna Jeanneret, children's lit author, mother, rock climber, and outdoors person, and podcaster joined by Josh Monken, children's lit author, father, science communicator, and podcaster. Josh and I have embarked on this kidlit journey together this year, having become critique partners early in the year, only to find that our powers combined could make captain planet. Maybe not, but at least our powers combined can make a pretty good podcast.  Our guest for this conversation was Matt Forrest Esenwine. You can find him on Twitter @mattforrestVW or his website mattforrest.com If you're interested in hearing more about how to handle rejection. Jia Jiang's Ted Talk, What I Learned From 100 Days of Rejection was incredibly eye-opening.  Find us on Twitter and the whole episode archive at verse.show, and as always, let us know what you think via a rating, review, or comment! Thanks and see ya next time. 

#032 - Join Jennie for the “take messy action” episode, where she discusses adaptive and maladaptive perfectionism. Turns out one of these is good– surprise! Jennie also digs into the fact that comparison is the thief of joy–and comparison goes hand-in-hand with being a perfectionist. The fact is, perfectionist tendencies cause you to either limit your potential or live as a shadow artist, and we'll dive into where this behavior comes from and why it's more prevalent among women.My article about curiosity: Exercising to Make Life More *Titillating*The Confidence Code, by Katty Kay & Claire Shipman. Read the review here. A quote I looooove: “If you're not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you've launched too late.”Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection, by Jia Jiang. If you want the episode freebie, you can get that at: jennieoconnor.com/perfectDon't aim for perfection; aim for better than yesterday.Follow me: Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest@YourCreativeFairyGodmotherCome watch the video version of these podcasts on YouTube!✨✨If you think this content is deserving of a tip, I'd be ever so grateful if you'd leave one here. I plan to use all proceeds for magick supplies and I promise to use my powers for good.

The Ideas and Concepts Mastermind (Facebook Group)SecondMix.netmatt@secondmix.netSummary and review of the book Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang. A little bit of a format change for this episode, here are some stories about times I've been rejected, and the toll it took on my life. 

We go into sales calls with the high hopes that the person we are going to have a conversation with will say yes to our offer at the end. Of course we have high hopes- that's the way it should be. We want all the positive energy going into the conversation. In fact, in the best circumstance, we hope that they come to the call already sold so that we don't have to feel apprehension about getting them to a yes and instead, we can just experience the bliss of connection and excitement of moving forward.If they come to the call already sold or if we are able to bring them to a yes, then that also means we don't have to experience the negative feelings associated with getting no for an answer.But, let's take a pause before we get all caught up in the importance of having positive emotions because getting the answer no is very much a reality. It is part of the sales process when you ask a yes or no question. It's a valid answer. So when you ask your potential client “Would you like to start coaching? Or Would you like to work with me? Sometimes people have the audacity to say the wrong answer! Come on, people, get with it, right?But seriously, it will pay off big time to take a closer look to see where you can find your empowerment even when you get the answer no. That is an option, my friend. Being empowered no matter what.The first step to being empowered no matter what is to normalize getting no as an answer. That's my goal for our time together today. Here's why: There are so many sales experts out there that talk about how to increase your conversions and how to get more sales. They talk about how to overcome objections. I've talked about it. And maybe all the focus on getting sales is why you think it's a failure when you don't get a yes. You make it mean that you aren't good at sales or overcoming objections.Real quick, I do want to say that yes, of course, there are specific skills you can learn that will increase the rate at which you get more sales and get better at turning a no into a yes. In fact, that is exactly what I offer on my free sales training calls. It's a 1:1 Zoom call, that I do a few times every month for coaches like you that are ready to answer the question “I wonder if there's anything I can do to make my sales calls better?” If you've thought that, take action. Find out. If you are ready to figure out what you can do differently than what you are doing now to close more clients, you need to book a call. Did I mention it's free? Yeah, call me crazy, but it is. I love meeting coaches like you and some non-coaches. I've helped people in different industries up their sales game. Real estate agents, mergers and acquisitions investors, and of course, coaches in all kinds of specialties. It's first come, first serve so sign up today. After you click on the link in my shownotes and sign up, I will send you the meeting information. In the sales training, I am going to thoroughly evaluate your current sales process and show you at least three areas that you can improve immediately. We are talking about improvement that gets you clients on your very next sales call. I have seen that happen over and over and it's pretty cool. If you are ready to get on a call with a stranger (hi, it's me. I'm stranger) and learn some amazing tips then grab your spot today. Show up for your business. Grab a spot. The link is in my shownotes and you can also go to my website www.catherinevanwert.com.So, as I was saying, you can get better on your sales calls outcomes but still feel bad when you get the no or not now answers. You won't feel better until you can fully embrace feeling rejection first. If you don't process this you will always carry a sense of impending panic and fear into your calls, even when you convert at a higher rate. You will still feel disempowered when you get the answer no. So if you want to process this so that you aren't being held captive to the actions of another person, you will want to pay special attention to what I am telling you today. You can't skip steps and the first step is to get good with no. You can get “no's” all the time and not be good at getting no. So get good at it because when you are, you can create expansion and not contraction. You can step out more fully rather than shrink back with your offer. I am going to talk more about what this means, but first...You need to know that getting no is a normal answer even for the best of salespeople. What makes them go from good to great is being willing and able to allow the no's to be no's and not make it mean anything about their own skills or value and then, from that place, moving things along. Keep in mind, skills and value are subjective because they are tied with your personal style. You aren't for everyone so the skills and value that you possess are not ideally used to convince clients who are not the best fit for you, but to skillfully articulate and show your best potential clients how your services can help them get what they want. You can decide that your client will get value no matter what, whether they are a yes or a no, and use that as the fuel for your offers.I was in PV recently with my family. We stayed at this amazing resort by the beach and it was so beautiful. We also wanted to check out areas outside the resort so we went to downtown PV. They have a boardwalk that runs all along the ocean and there are so many vendors and cool places to check out. One of the things that my husband was on the lookout for was tacos el pastor. It's a taco that is made with marinated meat that is roasted on a spit. They cut it off, serve it on fresh tortillas with mango or pineapple. Oh my gosh, my mouth is watering. Anyway, we got to try some foods like mangos covered in tahin, and Mexican street corn served in a tortilla chip bag with all kinds of toppings. But no tacos al pastor. We walked by a restaurant that had a greeter outside, who was trying to convince people to give the restaurant a try. My husband asked if they had the tacos, and he said no. He could have stopped there, but he didn't. He heard what we wanted and he wanted to help us get a solution. He told us the two best places to get this specialty and directed us to the one that was in the direction we were going. He was so kind and friendly. He reiterated what they had in their restaurant and encouraged us to come back another time and give them a try while we were in PV. He provided so much value and helped make our experience so much better. He made an offer, got a no and still provided value. I am sure that he is able to get the ideal clients in the door and hearing no does not stop him from continuing to engage with people and make offers. Oh- and the tacos were amazing. So cool to have something off the beaten path.In my opinion, what you don't hear enough about from sales experts is how to process the answer “no” so that you can actually feel empowered and take action despite the initial disappointment. Getting a yes makes you feel like a winner, but getting a no doesn't mean you have to feel like you are losing.When you can master how you think about No and how to take action from rejection, you will feel much better about sales and being willing to make powerful offers because hearing “no” isn't a problem anymore. So no more putting off mentioning your coaching program until the last 5 or 10 minutes of the sales call and rushing through your spiel. Does that sound good? What if you didn't feel rushed or panicked when you go into your pitch but you felt confident and curious? Imagine how that would feel. So good.Chances are excellent, like 99.9%, that when you hear no or not yet, there is a well-worn groove in your brain that makes you think a negative thought about yourself. I'll share a few of what my clients have told me it means when they first started coaching and I am willing to bet you've had the same or similar thoughts at one point. Have you said to yourself that it means you aren't showing enough value or urgency? That one is a booger bear! We do a lot of coaching around value, the idea of value, expressing value, showing value and giving value. I just talked to one of my clients about creating value around a free call today, as a matter of fact. We also talk about urgency. The thing about urgency is that you want to prompt action but you don't want to manipulate it. The desire to create urgency can get slimy if you are not thinking of how this urgency benefits the client. If you believe that you aren't creating enough urgency but the ideas you come up with of how to do it feels repelling, you are in a no-win situation.Another thought you might have come up with is that failing to convert a client into a yes means that no one wants to buy what you have to offer. The funny thing is that even some of my clients that have clients still pick up and play with the thought that no one wants what they have to offer. It's like that thought is just a bad habit and it's not based on facts or even concrete evidence. You know what's more true? Saying “There are some people who want what I have to offer and are willing to pay for it”. It's just a matter of making an offer to the ideal client. This means you need to be willing to be fully invested in the sales call process so that you learn to enjoy it and increase your ability to meet the people who will say yes.So what other thoughts are you having around getting no as an answer? Are they based on real evidence? Are they useful? If you are using rejection as evidence that there is something wrong with you or your offer, you are allowing the circumstances and not you, to determine your worth. Let's go so far as to say that someone specifically and personally rejected you, guess what? You still get to choose how you think about their actions and what you make it mean. That's why I asked you to determine if your thoughts are useful. Our actions are a reflection of who we are and what we think and their actions are a reflection of who they are and what they think. Give them permission to think whatever they want because otherwise, you are going to carry around the mental baggage of personalizing rejection.When you go into a call thinking that no one wants to pay what you are asking, that downward energy will show up in how you offer your coaching. Your mannerisms, your verbiage, your enthusiasm, are all affected by those emotions created with that thought. Your mental and emotional well-being are way too important to allow these unhelpful thoughts to take hold. It is unhelpful and toxic not just for your ability to convert clients, but your ability to believe in yourself and create resiliency. Your identity is everything. How you see yourself is what defines how capable you feel. You get to decide how capable you are and you are right no matter what you decide because you will rise to that level. When you signed up to be a coach, you also signed up to be a business owner and I bet you love owning a business. Part of this means that you will face rejection, so embrace this part of your business.Otherwise, if you really go wild with these thoughts, you will question the viability of your business. You will question if you are good enough or have what it takes to make your business work. There's only one outcome for a person who stays uncertain and is unable to fully put themselves out there, and that is stagnation. Your growth is at stake. The saying “You're either growing or dying. Stagnation does not exist in the universe.” is so true.If you spend time wondering things like why you aren't good at selling or why people don't want what you are offering, it will seem like it's an impossible goal. You will not feel fondly about sales and you will want to shortcut the sales process. What this looks like is spending time wondering if the client you are about to talk to is actually ready to commit to coaching and pay for coaching. What does this create for you? Uncertainty. Doubt. Maybe even anxiety. This is not useful energy for you to have when you are talking to potential clients because it blocks high vibe emotions like certainty and confidence. Calm. It's not hard to guess which will allow you to be more present for your sales call.If you want to feel more empowered about calls, being ok with getting a No is critical. Remember that I said it's expansive when you are open to hearing rejection? I've talked about the Ted Talk 100 Days of Rejection with Jia Jiang. A quick refresher- he did an experiment of making some pretty uncommon requests from strangers for 100 days. He said on Day 1, he asked a security guard if he could borrow $100. The security guard said no, but he also asked “why?” and Jia Jiang ran off without answering. He had all this on video, so when he looked at the video, he realized that the security guard didn't just say no, but had asked him why. He decided that the next day, he would not run away from whomever he made a request. The second day, he ate at a burger place and when he was done, he asked for a “burger refill”. They rejected him but when they asked what that meant, he stuck around and explained what it meant and even followed up with if they gave him another burger as a refill, he would really love that place even more. They declined, but he felt more empowered because he was able to have a conversation with them. On the third day, he went to a donut place and asked them to customize his donuts into the Olympic rings and they did it. He learned that when he wasn't afraid of the answer “no”, he could have better conversations, that people were curious, he could learn more about them and in turn, he could negotiate better. He could sometimes turn the initial answer of no into a yes once he understood the person he was talking to better.I love that so much. What a great illustration of what can happen when you take the sting out of rejection. It's how you think about it that gives you freedom.Let me share some thoughts you can have about getting a no.If you believe there is no personal attachment to getting no, you could think:Getting no's are a natural and expected part of any offer.If a person says no, they are not a good fit right now and that's ok.I only want to work with people who are a hell yes.I want to let the no's be an opportunity for me to get curious and understand my audience even better through meaningful conversations.My ability to accept no as an answer and quickly move on creates resiliency.With thoughts like those, you will feel more empowered. Practice them and feel them. You will move from a place of feeling discouraged to not allowing the actions of others define how you feel about your offer or your business or yourself as a coach.Being unattached to the outcome decreases how much you get in your head about every word you are saying during the call. It gives you freedom from needing validation. While getting sales is a form of validation, I want to distinguish that there is a difference between personal validation and market validation. Personal validation is your worth, your identity, and your ability as a coach and business owner. Market validation is about compelling offers, enticing messaging, and copy that creates buy-in. If you mix the two up and you are using rejection against your personal validation, you will be stuck. You can't begin to decode or strategize what you need to shift in order to gain market validation because you will just think that you suck.Offers that you make that get rejected do not equal a lack of personal validation. Rejected offers are actually neutral and your thoughts about it are what can give you traction or hold you back. Can you see how offers that get rejected are actually a neutral circumstance? It is as neutral as offering a cookie. However, attaching to the outcome and believing it is about you is a formula for self-sabotage. You will get much further with creating a perspective that allows for rejection to be neutral. What you want is to get comfortable with hearing “no” so that you can move onto the next iteration of how you show up and how you market.When you are ok with getting no for an answer, you shift into comfort. You relax into the process. Now you can tap into other emotions instead.Curiosity. You are open to learning more about what makes people say no. When you learn that, you can then understand what makes people say yes and you can create more opportunities for a yes based on what they say.When you don't shut down after hearing no as an answer, you get to use it as an opportunity to connect again. For example, I had a sales call with a client that went really well. She said that she was all in to start coaching by the end of the conversation. I sent her the information over email and I got an email back a few days later stating that she was having second thoughts on starting right away because she thought about it over the weekend and realized she had a big tax bill that was coming due. She said she wanted to hold off and revisit working together later.I didn't make this mean that my offer wasn't powerful enough. I didn't make it mean that I did not show enough value. I emailed her back and reiterated what we went over during our conversation, showing her her thoughts and her desires. I let her know that what she wanted was still very much possible and I alleviated the fears she brought up by offering a different perspective. I made it clear that none of what I said was to get her to a yes, but to expand on the results she really wanted and the pathway to get there.She paid the invoice immediately and we got started with coaching. It could have gone either way, but the point is that when you are unattached, you can fully advocate for the client and freely share your thoughts as a person who wants them to get what they want. Sometimes that means a yes and sometimes that means a no, but most importantly, it means that you are not making it mean that you are lacking something. You get to really step up and serve people in a way that feels amazing because you are not operating from fear of rejection. Getting no as an answer is normal so don't allow it to be the reason for not showing up fully.Do you see the value of intentionally choosing to let no be a valid answer that doesn't reflect on your value or abilities? Choose to show up to calls with clean energy, ready to rock your side of the conversation. You can value our own offer, be sold on your own offer and feel excited that there are people that want what you have to offer.There is so much emotional freedom and resilience in allowing “no” as an answer. Don't use it as a tool to sabotage yourself, use it as a tool to sharpen your messaging and offer.Guess what will happen for you? You will start to love and value the sales process because you will treat it like any other conversation. You will see it as a way to connect and serve unconditionally. You will create a deeper understanding of who your ideal client is, what he or she feels, what their fears are, what hold them back, and what moves them forward. You feel empowered to connect, gain permission to get the objection behind the objection, and give the client clarity. That is a beautiful and valuable way to spend time getting to know your people.Remember, getting no as an answer is totally ok. It's normal. It doesn't mean you failed. And when you truly own that, you will open up your whole self on sales calls and you WILL find your ideal clients. When you aren't afraid of getting no, you have freedom to be the coach you were meant to be. You are an amazing human being with a big heart who wants to serve clients and make the world a better place.Have a wonderful day and I will see you next week. If you got some value from todays episode, please leave a rating and review today. The last one that is on there is one that I left myself because I wanted to say hello. Help me out? Thanks!One last thing- if you want to take your sales call skills to the next level and chat with me on Zoom, grab your spot today. Imagine, in a week or two, we could be chatting about some specific actionable things you can do to get more sales. Only apply if you like having fun while planning for success. It will be fun, I promise.

#016 - Join Jennie for the “vulnerability” episode where she dishes on what she's been afraid of her whole life and how that kept her from showing up in her life and business. She learned the tips she'll reveal in this episode the hard way, and her fingers and toes are crossed that sharing them will help you take action on your big idea sooner rather than later. Courage is contagious, and here's hoping we can all rub off on each other and do the thing.The Artist's Way, by Julia Cameron.The War of Art, by Steven Pressfield.Big Magic, by Elizabeth Gilbert.Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown. Check out these blog posts about core values:Knowing Your Core Values Makes These 5 Things EasierHow to Determine Your Personal Values and Be Better at EverythingGet a handle on shame with the shame monster in Big Mouth.Brene Brown's "Man in the Arena" speech can be found here.Permission to Screw Up, by Kristen Hadeed. Here's the post on resilience. Oh, how I wish everyone in the world would read it:Mark Manson's Potty Mouth, Coronavirus and Other Lessons in ResilienceRejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection, by Jia Jiang. Follow me: Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest @YourCreativeFairyGodmotherWord of the day: Entelechy. The realization of potential.I hope this episode motivates you to get out of your own way and discover your entelechy.Thanks so much for listening. Please be sure to subscribe to the show so you don't miss next week where I talk to Adam Schaeuble about his mad skills at connecting people and how he uses generosity to grow his business. It's gonna be a good one!✨✨If you think this content is deserving of a tip, I'd be ever so grateful if you'd leave one here. I plan to use all proceeds for magick supplies and I promise to use my powers for good.

  Question of the Week by The Brotherhood of Me Why am I not happy in my life? There are a lot of reasons that you are lacking joy and happiness in your life. Since I don't know you from adam I can only guess as to why you are unhappy and restless. The number one reason I would surmise is that you don't have a purpose. What gets you out of bed each morning? People need to have a why a purpose, a passion Whatever you would like to call it, you need one. Something that allows you to struggle and get out of your comfort zone. Sadly many people are just way too damn comfortable for their life. We need struggle and discomfort to have joy in our lives. Much like how we need the valleys of life to celebrate the summits of our achievements. We need dark to appreciate the light. It may sound like a horrible and cruel paradox but look at anybody who is genuinely happy and they will tell about the hard times they had in their life. Why do you think so many poor people appear to be so happy while rich people often appear to be so miserable. That is because of the benefit of the struggle. So how do you wade into something uncomfortable? I would say write down 10 or more things that scare you. Is it speaking in public or possibly joining a group. Start small. You may do what Jia Jiang did and just get people to tell him no. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ There find the things that scare you and start trying to do them. Don't be afraid of failure. That is a part of learning and skill-building. You didn't just hop on to a bicycle and start riding no you fell over and over again until you got it. Be a part of something bigger than you. This could be a charity or maybe a project like starting your own business. Yes, the business can be bigger than you. A business is nothing more than you getting paid for a service you perform. So you can find fulfillment from starting a business. You don't have to worry so much about passion. That will actually grow as you get more and more involved with whatever you are doing. Use a gratitude journal You can't be unhappy when you are truly grateful. You can start to change your mindset and attitude by looking at what you are grateful for. Write down each day 3 things you are grateful for. You might even challenge yourself and say you can't use the same thing more than once every 7 days. So Go out and try it. Keep searching for that why and you will find it. Main Topic So many times we let the opinions of others dictate our decisions. Examples You are going to fail He looks ridiculous That is a fool's errand You cant do that What is an opinion? An opinion 1. a view or judgment formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge. "I'm writing to voice my opinion on an issue of great importance" 2. the beliefs or views of a large number or majority of people about a particular thing. "The changing climate of opinion" 3. An estimation of the quality or worth of someone or something. "I had a higher opinion of myself than I deserved" Definitions from Oxford Languages  Opinions are not facts they are thoughts believed to be true. In other words, opinions are nothing more than thoughts. My wife is being irrational, is an opinion. My kids don't listen, is an opinion. Opinions are also anything with an emotion tied to it. My wife is mad, is an opinion. We often take opinions and apply them to our lives. We were told out being a writer was a dumb idea because you can't make any money from it. You cant be an artist because you will starve. Those are again opinions, they aren't true for you. It may be that Uncle Joe failed as a screenwriter and he is sharing his opinion because of how much it hurt for him to fail. His experience isn't yours. Take the opinions as just that opinions. They may have nuggets of truth in them but that doesn't mean you are not worthy of trying. You never know what you can do till you actually take a swing at your dream. Will you fail? Yeah is it because Uncle Joe said so? Only if you allow it.  

I was rejected - turned down to get my songs published in 1994. In 2017, I was turned down again for newer, different music. With no success,  I decided I just wasn't cut out for this business. Had I reflected at all on what happened in 94, I would have been in a much more solid position in 2017 -but I never analyzed what happened. Here's what I learned. I'm in the process of doing an in-depth book review of Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang. The past couple of weeks is it has me reflecting on some of my past rejections and how they stunted my growth as an entrepreneur, but also some ways that those rejections have helped me 26 years ago, when I was 21 years old, I wrote three Christian songs. My parents bought me a, it was one of those public TV auctions, and somebody was giving away recording studio time. My parents bought it for me and I went and recorded these songs in a professional studio. That was my first studio experience and I loved it. So I got the songs. I brought them home. I had the tape, I made copies of the tape and I went and got the writer's digest for songwriters.I created some nice little folder packages, and I sent the tapes of my recordings to about 10 publishers after doing some research in that guide over the next few weeks, I got three rejection letters in the mail and never heard back from the other seven. The rejection letters went, something like this, sorry, you're not, this is not what we were looking for. And I took that to mean you suck after being rejected. I decided I just wasn't cut out to be a songwriter. I gave up and started looking at other avenues that I could take to make money with my music in his book. Your next five moves. Patrick bet. David said, if you're going to lose, don't lose the lesson. But back then I was 21. I was foolish and I lost the lesson. I should have reflected, but I just didn't know enough.At that young age, I wasn't hanging out with the right people. I was pretty reserved. So I didn't really about my problems or my emotions all that much. And I didn't seek any outside counsel. I didn't ask my parents. I didn't ask my pastor. I didn't ask anybody that I knew how to resolve this. I just decided I must suck as a songwriter. My first three songs that I ever wrote got rejected. So I've got to find something else to do. Had I sought out counsel, I would have hoped that they would have said something similar to what I would tell people today, which is that you continue writing music, continue submitting to publishers, call the publishers and songwriters and other people in the industry to find out how to do this, how to get this done, what skills do you need to learn in order to make it, and then go learn those skills and you keep trying and you keep figuring it out.But back then, it was a lot easier for me just to say, I'm just not cut out to be a songwriter. And I did that after only three rejections. Here's a side note. It's really weird when I'm talking about past regrets and changing the past. Because at this point I love my life. I love where I am and I love where it's life has taken me to this point. So to go back, I wouldn't change anything because it would influence where I am and what I'm doing today, but for good or for bad, the lessons we learn can only be applied forward. It's unhealthy to keep wishing things were different to keep mentally applying the lessons backwards, but it is important to do that analysis and reflect so that in the future, you don't make the same or similar errors in thinking and similar errors in judgment.My mentor, Joe Herbert from the job free economy podcast said that making mistakes is what is holding you back. If we could go through life without making any mistakes, we would constantly just be moving towards success. I believe that in stick to it. And I look for things that are going to help me avoid mistakes. I do that now, but I didn't do it back then. And speaking of making those&

In this episode, I'll talk about a fear that holds so many of us back - the fear of failure. Have you ever held yourself back from trying something new or going after your dream because you were scared of failing? Listen in to learn one action item that you can do today to start training your brain for confidence.It's scary to fail because failure brings up so many negative feelings and thoughts. We are usually scared to take that leap because we don't want to mess up! However, did you know you don't fear failure? What you actually fear is being judged for failing.Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang tells the story of how he goes after his dream of being an entrepreneur, then fails! Then he sets out on a quest for 100 days of rejection, trying to purposefully fail and get rejected 100 times, in order to learn why we are so scared of failure and how to overcome this fear. Find out the science behind the fear of failure and rejection, why your brain works best when on a team, and why your brain is designed to make other people like you.Show Highlights[01:22] Have you held yourself back from trying something new because you were scared of failing?[02:24] What you actually fear is being judged for failing.[04:38] The science behind the fear of failure and rejection.[08:40] What happens when we want everyone to like us.[11:44] The result on your self-confidence when trying to get everyone to like you.[12:39] People are watching you and waiting to judge you - this is your perception.[14:07] Jia Jiang's quest for 100 days of rejection.[16:35] Often the result of your actions isn't as bad as what your brain thinks will happen.[17:42] Confidence is a skill that your brain learns.Subscribe Today!Apple PodcastSpotifyAndroidStitcherRSSLinks | ResourcesIG: @DrNicoleByersFacebook: Dr. Nicole ByersWebsite: Drnicolebyers.comEmail support@drnicolebyers.comDrnicolebyers.com/quizDrnicolebyers.com/habitsRejection Proof by Jia Jiang

  How do you deal with failure? Do you have a bunch of motivational quotes to help you reframe the experience? How do you process the deep shame and anxiety you feel with it? I think we need to RETHINK FAILURE. It's not just feedback. We need to fail with a framework. Give yourself permission to fail How rejection is akin to physical trauma Two frameworks we need for failure: external risks like financials and safety, and one for ego and reputation. #boundlessleadership *** SHOWNOTES: The key frameworks: Ask so you can learn. Try so you can grow. Permission Granted Permission granted to be, indulge yourself, do the unexpected, stop with unrealistic expectations, get started, to not fit in, be alone, stop catastrophising, stop feeling sorry, break tradition, enjoy the weather. Stories of Failure Rejection Therapy Desensitize yourself to failure. Jia Jiang: 100 days of rejection Letitia Gasca: Failure Institute Leticia Gasca is co-founder of the movement Fuckup Nights and Executive Director for the Failure Institute, the first think tank in the world devoted to studying business failure and the reasons behind it. Quotes about Failure Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness. - Oprah Winfrey Sometimes by losing a battle you find a new way to win the war. - Donald Trump Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. - Winston Churchill I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. - Thomas A. Edison I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying. - Michael Jordan Your attitude towards failure determines your altitude after failure. - John C. Maxwell There is no such thing as failure. There are only results. - Tony Robbins Failure saves lives. In the airline industry, every time a plane crashes the probability of the next crash is lowered by that. The Titanic saved lives because we're building bigger and bigger ships. So these people died, but we have effectively improved the safety of the system, and nothing failed in vain. - Nassim Nicholas Taleb *** Related Episodes: E166 - How to Perform Under Extreme Pressure with CEO David Inall E134 - My biggest failure was needing to be right - Marene Allison, CISO Johnson & Johnson E62 - How to Deal with Failure, Real Devastating Failure *** About your podcast host, Zoë Routh:   Zoë Routh is one of Australia's leading experts on people stuff - the stuff that gets in our way of producing results, and the stuff that lights us up. She works with the growers, makers, builders to make people stuff fun and practical. Zoë is the author of four books: Composure - How centered leaders make the biggest impact,  Moments - Leadership when it matters most, Loyalty - Stop unwanted stuff turnover, boost engagement, and build lifelong advocates, and People Stuff - Beyond Personalities: An advanced handbook for leadership. People Stuff was awarded Book of the Year 2020 by the Smart WFM Australian Business Book Awards. Zoë is also the producer of The Zoë Routh Leadership Podcast. www.zoerouth.com

Most entrepreneurs find themselves too busy as they address every urgent issue that pops up. But in doing that, they are unintentionally disregarding the most vital and impactful need they should address. If you can recognise the vital need you should focus on, then you can successfully grow your business to your vision. The key is having a method to identify that need.  Today, we have best-selling author Mike Michalowicz who just released his new book, “Fix This Next.” We chat about the approach he talked about in his book, his take on Maslow's hierarchy of needs, how business owners can make a profit, and the OMEN Method he uses to fix the next problem. Listen now to find out about the vital change you need to make in your business. What We Talked About in This Episode: The Business Hierarchy of Needs Fixing More Than One Thing At A Time Why Entrepreneurs Misunderstand Profit Revisit Your Vision and Take Steps to Manifest It Using the OMEN as the ‘How' Process Building the Capacity for Ongoing Adoption His Concern About Falling For the Money Trap Book Recommendation and Daily Rituals  About Our Guest: Mike Michalowicz is a passionate advocate for the small business owner. A best-selling author, he has written books such as “Clockwork,” and “Profit First,” with his latest one called “Fix This Next” becoming a Wall Street Journal best-seller.  Get access to resources or take the free evaluation of your business or department at Fix This Next's website  Connect with John Murphy: YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbrt7tIPwUhdKrG8BuX6_Rg Facebook https://www.facebook.com/JohnMurphyInternational LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnmurphyinternational/ Twitter https://twitter.com/jmicoaching Email john@johnmurphyinternational.com Other Resources: Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang (https://www.amazon.com/Rejection-Proof-Became-Invincible-Through/dp/080414138X) If you liked this episode, please don't forget to subscribe, tune in, and share this podcast. Thanks for tuning in!

Thursday Book Thoughts (TBT): Rejection Proof - Episode #34 The Heavy Revy Show's NEW SEGMENT! Josue Ibarra and Clay Caldwell are hosting TBT. Check out this book review on “Rejection Proof” by Jia Jiang. What a great way to start your new year 2020 with not being afraid of being rejected. Jia Jiang's Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/DukieAjah Jia Jiang's website: https://www.rejectiontherapy.com/ Follow Josue & Clay on Instagram to see some of the rejection videos: @josue.ibarra7 @adventureclay

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How do you overcome a fear of rejection? By getting rejected over and over again and learning lessons from those experiences. Jia Jiang did just that, and he turned 100 days of rejection into a life-altering experience that culminated in a full blown movement. Hear his story and how rejection completely changed his life.Jia Jang came to the United States with the dream of being the next Bill Gates. But despite early success in the corporate world, his first attempt to pursue his entrepreneurial dream ended in rejection. Jia was crushed, and spiraled into a period of deep self doubt. But he realized that his fear of rejection was a bigger obstacle than any single rejection would ever be, and he needed to find a way to cope with being told no without letting it destroy him. Thus was born his “100 days of rejection” experiment, during which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis–from requesting a lesson in sales from a car salesman (no) to asking a flight attendant if he could make an announcement on the loud speaker (yes) to his famous request to get Krispy Kreme doughnuts in the shape of Olympic rings. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast.

Jia Jiang is an entrepreneur, author and TED speaker who adapted the card game “Rejection Therapy” and created a blog, products and services to further explore rejection. He talks about how the experience of rejection is universal amongst all human beings and discusses the value of rejection in the process of becoming fearless.  He shares his research of actively seeking out rejection for 100 days straight and learning that it can be less painful and destructive than anticipated. The experience helped to desensitize him and diminish his fear of rejection so that it no longer drove his decisions. He has used his ability to turn rejection into something positive to push him to pursue his dreams. Find out more about Jia @: rejectiontherapy.com Follow Jia on Twitter @: www.twitter.com/JiaJiang

How do you overcome a fear of rejection? By getting rejected over and over again and learning lessons from those experiences. Jia Jiang did just that, and he turned 100 days of rejection into a life-altering experience that culminated in a full blown movement. Hear his story and how rejection completely changed his life.Jia Jiang came to the United States with the dream of being the next Bill Gates. But despite early success in the corporate world, his first attempt to pursue his entrepreneurial dream ended in rejection. Jia was crushed, and spiraled into a period of deep self doubt. But he realized that his fear of rejection was a bigger obstacle than any single rejection would ever be, and he needed to find a way to cope with being told no without letting it destroy him. Thus was born his “100 days of rejection” experiment, during which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis–from requesting a lesson in sales from a car salesman (no) to asking a flight attendant if he could make an announcement on the loud speaker (yes) to his famous request to get Krispy Kreme doughnuts in the shape of Olympic rings.How do you overcome a fear of rejection? By getting rejected over and over again and learning lessons from those experiences. Jia Jiang did just that, and he turned 100 days of rejection into a life-altering experience that culminated in a full blown movement. Hear his story and how rejection completely changed his life.Jia Jiang came to the United States with the dream of being the next Bill Gates. But despite early success in the corporate world, his first attempt to pursue his entrepreneurial dream ended in rejection. Jia was crushed, and spiraled into a period of deep self doubt. But he realized that his fear of rejection was a bigger obstacle than any single rejection would ever be, and he needed to find a way to cope with being told no without letting it destroy him. Thus was born his “100 days of rejection” experiment, during which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis–from requesting a lesson in sales from a car salesman (no) to asking a flight attendant if he could make an announcement on the loud speaker (yes) to his famous request to get Krispy Kreme doughnuts in the shape of Olympic rings. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast.

What is the most consistent, if not the biggest, single obstacle to pursuing and achieving the deepest desires of your heart? For many people, it is the fear that when they ask for help in accomplishing something they need or want - whether it's for a raise in pay at work or funding for their start-up venture or even just seeking advice on a vexing situation – that they will be turned away or rejected in some form. If you've ever faced that fear in one form or another, my guest today, Jia Jiang, has experience and helpful advice that can guide you through that process on your creative journey.Jia burst into the public's view within days after he started documenting his ‘100 days of Rejection' project and then posting his efforts on his blog and on YouTube. Each day, Jia would ask someone for a seemingly preposterous request in an attempt to steel himself against rejection and to learn to live more fearlessly. One of his early lessons was that even the most ridiculous request stood a much better chance of being granted if you'll simply ask in the right way. The experience and lessons learned eventually led Jia to writing his bestselling book, “Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection”. I met Jia Jiang at the World Domination Summit in Portland OR in 2015 during a workshop he was leading on dealing with rejection. It wasn't just a lecture. He had the group go out on the streets and practice the process of asking for things from people that would surely cause us to face rejection. He called it our ‘rejection therapy' session. Although the exercises weren't the same ones you might experience in your daily life – for example, walking up to strangers and asking for money – the process still lit up the same parts of the brain and brought on the same response of avoidance that we do face every day.

Today we have a great guest teacher, it is Jia Jiang. He shares with us just how he learned to overcome rejection and how you can too. Don’t let rejection hold you back, click play! SUBSCRIBE ON APPLE PODCASTS Stitcher | Spotify | Podcast Feed | How To Subscribe Give us a Rating & Review Today’s Sponsors: Rerun- Subscription and membership billing […] The post MBA219 Guest Teacher: Jia Jiang – How to Kick Your Fear of Rejection in the Face appeared first on The $100 MBA.