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Every productivity guru will tell you the same thing: set realistic goals, or you're setting yourself up to fail. Jia Jiang did the opposite. He told the internet he'd sell 10,000 copies of his new book in 100 days, sold about 3,000, and is now going around calling it one of the best things he's ever done. He's not being delusional about it either. He'll tell you straight up that part of him wishes he'd hit the number. He just thinks failing loudly beats succeeding quietly, which might explain why only 9% of people who make a New Year's resolution actually stick to it. Most of us are setting goals to feel good for five minutes, not because we've figured out how to actually get there. In this episode, I sit down with Jia Jiang, the entrepreneur and speaker behind 100 Days of Rejection, a YouTube experiment that became a TED Talk with more than 10 million views. We talk about his new book, Easy Discipline, and how he turns huge, terrifying goals into something he can actually control day to day. If you have ever downgraded a goal so you wouldn't have to feel bad about missing it, Jia is about to make you rethink that entirely. Jia and I discuss: Why Jia deliberately sets goals so ambitious he is likely to miss them, and why a public near miss beats a comfortable target The one action goal: how to turn a big, uncontrollable ambition into a daily input you can fully control The inspiration index, the two numbers Jia tracks on every project, and why you need both the outcome and the input The Mover's Manual, and how changing his physical environment lets Jia get three to ten times more done in an afternoon Reverse AI: what happened when Jia started deliberately training himself the way AI models are trained The letter he wrote to Steven Bartlett after being turned down for Diary of a CEO, and why he published it anyway Key quotes "I'd rather fail my ambition publicly than letting it die inside privately." "When you are already rejected, you have nothing to lose. When you have nothing to lose, you have nothing to fear." Connect with Jia Jiang on Instagram, X (Twitter), LinkedIn and his website, read his newsletter on Substack, and check out his latest book Easy Discipline. If you enjoyed this episode, check out my chat with Google's Executive Productivity Advisor, Laura Mae Martin, on the practical strategies she uses to get more done in less time: https://www.amantha.com/podcasts/ruthless-prioritization-with-googles-executive-productivity-advisor-laura-mae-martin My latest book The Energy Game is out now. You can order a copy here: https://amzn.to/48ID29M Connect with me on the socials: Linkedin (https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanthaimber) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/amanthai) If you are looking for more tips to improve the way you work and live, I write a weekly newsletter where I share practical and simple to apply tips to improve your life. You can sign up for that at https://amantha.substack.com/ Visit https://www.amantha.com/podcast for full show notes from all episodes. Get in touch at amantha@inventium.com.au Credits: Host: Amantha Imber Sound Engineer: The Podcast Butler See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Discipline gets a lot easier when you stop treating misery as proof that you're doing it right. AJ and Johnny sit down with author and rejection expert Jia Jiang to challenge the traditional idea that success requires endless willpower, grinding, and suffering. Jia explains his approach to “easy discipline”—reducing friction, making difficult work more enjoyable, and building routines around the things that naturally give you energy. You'll learn how to break the procrastination loop, use “repetition with variation” to avoid burnout, build momentum that makes consistency easier, and rethink failure and rejection as opportunities for creativity. Jia also shares lessons from his 100 Days of Rejection experiment and why lasting success starts with finding what moves you instead of blindly following someone else's blueprint. Episode Resources: https://www.jiajiang.com https://www.amazon.com/Easy-Discipline-Unconventional-Achieve-Ambitious/dp/1668093588 Chapters 00:00 – Why discipline doesn't have to feel hard06:15 – Make difficult goals easier and more enjoyable13:05 – What procrastination is trying to tell you19:15 – Removing friction from habits that don't stick25:30 – Repetition with variation beats boring repetition32:25 – The routine that helped Jia learn English36:35 – How to build a momentum loop42:00 – Finding value when your work isn't fun45:40 – Turning rejection and failure into opportunity49:10 – Stop following the script and find what moves you A Word From Our Sponsors Get $250 off select AirDoctor air purifiers by using promo code CHARM at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AirDoctorPro.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Shopify is where you go to start your business, and everything you need to sell is already there from day one. Start your free trial by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOPIFY.COM/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with top talent ready to help your business grow by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UPWORK.COM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Keywords discipline, procrastination, easy discipline, habits, motivation, consistency, rejection, fear of rejection, fear of failure, personal growth, self discipline, behavior change, momentum, willpower, productivity, goal setting, creativity, routines, mindset, confidence Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know that feeling when you should ask for the raise, have the hard money conversation with your partner, or push back on a bad deal… and you just don't?  On today's episode, Jean Chatzky sits down with Jia Jiang, the guy behind the viral "100 Days of Rejection" experiment, and author of the new book, Easy Discipline: An Unconventional Way to Achieve Ambitious Things.  Jia argues that lasting discipline comes from making hard things feel genuinely enjoyable, a lesson he learned firsthand while navigating undiagnosed ADHD. In this episode, Jean and Jia cover: Whether rejection therapy is actually a healthy way to build resilience What it means to love the process instead of just chasing the result The four principles of Easy Discipline — Enjoyment, Artistry, Systems, and Yourself — and how to apply them to your financial life Jean's new book, The Forever Paycheck, is now available for pre-order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been afraid to ask for something because you were afraid you'd get rejected? Whether you want to invite someone on a date or ask for a raise, the fear of hearing "no" can keep you from trying. But according to my guest today, the sting of rejection probably isn't as painful as you think. But the cost of avoiding rejection might be worse. My guest is Jia Jiang, the founder of 100 Days of Rejection, where he set out to get rejected on purpose every single day for 100 days straight. He's the author of Rejection Proof, and his new book Easy Discipline is coming out soon. Some of the things we discuss are: What Jia learned from asking a stranger for $100, requesting a burger refill, and knocking on random doors to ask if he could play soccer in the yard The Krispy Kreme Olympic donuts story that went viral (and briefly moved the company's stock) The mental script that runs in your head before you ask for something — and why it's almost always wrong The single shift that turns you from someone who mirrors other people's energy into someone whose energy sets the tone Why "no" isn't the end of a conversation — it's the start The one line that lowers the temperature on any high-stakes ask (and gets you more yeses) The story of Mike, whose fear of rejection nearly cost him the ability to advocate for his wife when she was diagnosed with cancer Why "you either get a yes or an epic story" might be the most freeing thing you'll hear all week The Therapist's Take: My top three strategies for becoming more rejection-proof starting today Related Episodes ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠20 — Why Rejection Stings and What to Do About It with Harvard Professor/Author Dr. Ronald Siegel ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠152 — Conquer Any Fear with These Science-Backed Steps Links & Resources ⁠⁠Rejection Proof Easy Discipline Connect with the Show Buy a copy of⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Amy on Instagram —⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AmyMorinAuthor⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign Up for My Newsletter —⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amymorinlcsw.com/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sponsors Lola Blankets - Head to⁠ LolaBlankets.com⁠ and use code STRONGER to get 40% OFF your order. AirDoctor — Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AirDoctorPro.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code STRONGER to get UP TO $300 off today! One Skin — Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneskin.co/STRONGER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code stronger to get up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders Quince — Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/stronger⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns! Boll & Branch — Get 20% off sitewide at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BollAndBranch.com/stronger⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with code stronger. Square — Get up to $200 off Square hardware at ⁠⁠⁠square.com/go/STRONGER⁠⁠⁠. Dupe — Go to⁠⁠⁠ Dupe.com ⁠⁠⁠to finally feel confident about what to buy. Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mentally Stronger Premium⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for exclusive content like weekly bonus episodes, mental strength challenges, and office hours with me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Walk through a crowded airport or packed stadium and something remarkable happens. Thousands of people weave around each other without collisions, almost as if everyone is reading everyone else's mind. Yet no one is directing traffic. So how does your brain constantly predict where complete strangers are about to move—and why does it work so well? (https://www.nature.com/articles/nature08260) Rejection stings. Whether it's being turned down for a job, ignored after asking someone out, or hearing "no" when you were hoping for "yes," most of us spend a lot of energy trying to avoid it. But what if that's exactly backward? What if deliberately seeking rejection could make you more confident, more successful, and surprisingly happier? Jia Jiang decided to test that idea by intentionally getting rejected 100 times in 100 days. What happened changed the course of his life—and it may change the way you think about rejection forever. Jia is an award-winning entrepreneur, speaker, and bestselling author. His TED Talk has been viewed more than 11 million times, and he is author of the book Easy Discipline: An Unconventional Way to Achieve Ambitious Things (https://amzn.to/4feqHOq). Every couple argues. The real challenge is to understand what those fights are actually about. The disagreement over dirty dishes, money, or who's late again is often just the surface of something much deeper. Once you understand what's really driving those recurring arguments, everything changes. Relationship therapist Kim Polinder explains why couples keep having the same fights, how to stop damaging each other in the process, and what healthy conflict really looks like. Kim has helped hundreds of thousands of people through her work online (https://www.youtube.com/@engineeringlovepodcast) and is author of Why We Fight: A Transformative Road Map to Healing Conflict in Any Relationship. (https://amzn.to/45nZ1AF). Your signature probably wasn't always a scribble. When you first learned to sign your name, you likely wrote every letter carefully and neatly. So why do almost everyone's signature eventually become an indecipherable scrawl? It turns out there's an interesting psychological reason behind that evolution—and it says more about you than you might think. https://www.wired.com/story/is-your-wobbly-illegible-touchscreen-signature-still-you/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jia Jiang: Easy Discipline Jia Jiang is an award-winning speaker, entrepreneur, and the bestselling author of Rejection Proof. His TED Talk is among the top 1% most viewed of all time, and he has spoken to over 400,000 people worldwide. He is also the creator of Rejection Therapy, a platform designed to help people overcome fear and build resilience, and is the author of Easy Discipline: An Unconventional Way to Achieve Ambitious Things (Amazon, Bookshop)*. No pain, no gain. We've all heard that before – and it's true that one way to achieve is through a lot of pain. Good news: there are other ways, too. In this conversation, Jia and I explore how to harness the ambition you already have through easy discipline. Key Points Pain tolerance is admired and celebrated. When greatness comes through pain, our society cheers it. When greatness comes through loving work, we are suspicious. Hard discipline and easy discipline both produce results, but easy discipline does so with more joy and sustainability. Ambitious people often suffer from High Eyes, Low Hands Disease. Higher ambitions create higher expectations that make a gap seem harder to transcend. In the game of Catan, it's not the lucky players that win; it's the most active players. Professional learning follows the same pattern. The momentum loop is the practice of early action generating greater fuel for later action. Even wrong movements are almost always superior to standing still. Resources Mentioned Easy Discipline: An Unconventional Way to Achieve Ambitious Things by Jia Jiang (Amazon, Bookshop)* Jia Jiang's speaking Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes How to Change Your Behavior, with BJ Fogg (episode 507) How to Get Out of a Rut, with Anne-Laure Le Cunff (episode 747) How to Help People Flourish, with Marcus Buckingham (episode 778) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

Discipline usually sounds like a punishment: more willpower, more grind, more pushing through. But what if achievement gets easier when you stop obsessing over the finish line and start designing a process you actually enjoy? Today, Jia Jiang shares ideas from Easy Discipline: An Unconventional Way to Achieve Ambitious Things, arguing that lasting success comes from loving the work, choosing better stories, and turning big goals into simple repeatable actions. Then Wendy Leshgold offers big ideas from Fast Forward: 5 Power Principles to Create the Life You Want in Just One Year.

Jia Jiang explains his four-step framework for making discipline and success easier.— YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The problem with hard discipline 2) How to make your goals feel easy and enjoyable 3) Two handy tips to defeat procrastinationSubscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep1170 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT JIA — Jia Jiang is an award-winning speaker, entrepreneur, and the bestselling author of Rejection Proof. As a keynote speaker, Jiang has spoken at corporate and industry events and in front of 400,000+ live audiences. His TED talk has millions of views and is ranked in the top 1% among all TED talks. Jiang is also the owner of Rejection Therapy, which helps people overcome their fear of rejection and develop mental resilience. His work has been featured in Time, CNN, Today, Business Insider, The Guardian, Wired, and more.• Book: Easy Discipline: An Unconventional Way to Achieve Ambitious Things• TED Talk: What I Learned from 100 Days of Rejection | Jia Jiang | TED• Video series: 100 Days of Rejection Therapy• Substack: Easy Ambition— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie• Book: Go for No! Yes is the Destination, No is How You Get There by Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz• Book: Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die by Chip Heath and Dan Heath• YouTube: Caroline Girvan• Game: Slay the Spire II• Past episode: 016: Going for No with Andrea Waltz• Past episode: 1167: Mastering the Three Elements of Charisma with Olivia Fox Cabane— THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Shopify. Sign up for your free trial at Shopify.com/awesomepod• Monarch. Get 50% off your first year with code AWESOME at Monarch.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Kelly leans into the discomfort with Jia Jiang, author of “Easy Discipline: An Unconventional Way to Achieve Ambitious Things.” You may have heard of Jia, as his story has been told in numerous books on how to successfully handle adversity through a concept called “Rejection Therapy.” Over 100 days, Jia put himself in a position to […]

Most people assume that if a goal is hard to achieve, getting there has to feel hard too. We tend to believe that extraordinary results require extraordinary suffering.But my guest says the secret to success isn't gritting your teeth; it's making the path enjoyable. His name is Jia Jiang, and in his new book, Easy Discipline, he argues that consistency comes from designing your work and your life so that doing the right thing becomes something you actually want to do. Today on the show, Jia explains the difference between hard and easy discipline, why "eating bitterness" isn't the best way to go after your ambitions, and how to make your work feel more like play without lowering your standards. Along the way, we discuss Soviet hockey, Japanese tea ceremonies, rejection therapy, one-action goals, and the power of pursuing aims that are an expression of who you are.Resources Related to the PodcastJia's previous book: Rejection TherapyJia's 100 Days of Rejection Therapy videos, including asking for a "burger refill"AoM Article: Motivation Over DisciplineAoM Podcast #954: The Feel-Good Method of ProductivityConnect With Jia JiangJia on SubstackJia's websiteJia on LinkedIn0:00 Introduction to the AOM Podcast0:41 Introducing Jia Jiang and Easy Discipline1:36 Welcome Jia Jiang / The Myth of Sisyphus6:05 Hard Discipline vs. Easy Discipline9:36 Eating Bitterness10:44 Soviet Hockey: Tarasov vs. Tikhonov16:02 The EASY Framework: Enjoyment31:02 Artistry and Ichi-go Ichi-e33:54 Systems and One Action Goals41:22 Repetition with Variation44:18 Why: Being True to Yourself52:33 Where to Find Jia Jiang's WorkSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we explore the creative paradox that sometimes the best work begins when we stop trying to produce our "best work." We revisit the story of Richard Feynman, who rediscovered his passion for physics by indulging in what seemed like trivial curiosity—with world-changing consequences.We're joined first by Ian Bogost, author of The Small Stuff, professor, writer, and game designer, who unpacks the idea of “gratification”—the sensory enchantment of everyday life—and why chasing only the "big stuff" means missing the moments that actually comprise our experience . We examine the relentless march toward efficiency and abstraction, the threat of dematerialization, and practical strategies for reclaiming a more embodied, present approach to work and life.After the break, Jia Jiang, author of Easy Discipline, explains why enduring endless grind isn't the recipe for lasting success—or personal satisfaction. Drawing on his own journey from ambition-driven burnout to a more sustainable, enjoyable approach, Jia Jiang reveals his E.A.S.Y. framework (Enjoyment, Artistry, Systems, Yourself) for building discipline that doesn't feel like drudgery.We unpack why presence—not just productivity—fuels creative brilliance, how seeking “orthogonal” experiences can reawaken genuine engagement, and why you'll go further by learning to love the process rather than trying to force yourself through it.Five Key LearningsGratification Overrides Big Goals: The richest experiences come from moment-to-moment sensory engagement, not from deferred, infrequent milestones (Ian Bogost at 04:42).Dematerialization Is Draining: Our digital conveniences come at a cost: They strip away physicality, leading to a disconnect from what's most enjoyable in the work itself (Ian Bogost at 08:39).Presence Is the Antidote: Simply allowing ourselves to fully experience sensory details—rather than obsessively planning or optimizing—can restore lost gratification (Ian Bogost at 11:02).Enjoyment Enables Sustained Effort: Lasting discipline isn't about brute force; it's about making the journey itself rewarding so that you can do hard things for longer (Jia Jiang at 25:42).Everyone's Discipline Is Individual: Advice from others is often based on their optimization, not yours; embracing your own strengths, rhythms, and sources of enjoyment is critical to building sustainable creative practices (Jia Jiang at 36:16).Get full interviews and bonus content for free! Just join the list at DailyCreativePlus.com.Mentioned in this episode:To listen to the full interviews from today's episode, as well as receive bonus content and deep dive insights from the episode, visit DailyCreativePlus.com and join Daily Creative+.The Brave Habit is available nowMy new book will help you make bravery a habit in your life, your leadership, and your work. Discover how to develop the two qualities that lead to brave action: Optimistic Vision and Agency. Buy The Brave Habit wherever books are sold, or learn more at TheBraveHabit.com.

Hey Team! I've been on a bit of a break this summer, but I wanted to help celebrate International ADHD Awareness Day by dropping a new episode. We often think that achieving big things requires feeling miserable during the process. We buy into the myth that if a task isn't agonizing, it isn't worth the time we put into it. My guest today is Jia Jiang, an expert in rejection resilience, a Duke MBA graduate, and the founder of Wuju Learning. After stepping away from a stable corporate career at Dell and LinkedIn to launch a tech startup, Jia realized his deepest bottleneck wasn't a lack of talent, but a profound fear of rejection. Fueled with this insight, he launched 100 Days of Rejection Therapy and filmed himself requesting absurd things from strangers daily. And this is actually when I first came across Jia 11 years ago, so it was quite the treat to get to talk with him and learn about his new book, Easy Discipline. Jia brings a unique lens to the table because he's battled his own severe, late-understood ADHD and procrastination loops since growing up in Beijing when ADHD just wasn't considered a thing. In this episode, we talk about shifting away from transactional, anxiety-inducing task completion and moving toward what he calls the "Artist Mindset." We also break down how masking and over-indexing on how other people perceive us turns into a form of self-sabotage, where we pre-reject ourselves before we even give our true traits a chance. Jia's Easy Ambition substack- https://substack.com/@jiajiang Jia's New Book- Easy Discipline: An Unconventional Way to Achieve Ambitious Things If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at HackingYourADHD.com/303 YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/y835cnrk Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/HackingYourADHD This Episode's Top Tips Stop declaring war on your own brain by trying to grind through tasks using sheer willpower. Willpower is a finite biological resource that inevitably runs out, and relying on it just triggers a cycle of broken resolutions and self-blame. Instead, shift your strategy to working with your human nature by building environment-based systems that remove structural friction from the start. If your daily routine constantly feels like Sisyphus endlessly pushing a heavy boulder up a mountain, you are fighting psychological gravity. Instead of forcing yourself through tasks with external pressure, anchor the process in intrinsic enjoyment so the activity becomes your default state. When you flip the physics this way, the boulder starts rolling downhill, meaning it actually takes more active energy to stop your momentum than to keep going. Masking and over-analyzing how others perceive you creates an intense cognitive tension that completely paralyzes the ADHD brain. Break out of this by adopting the "Artist Mindset"—reframing stressful interactions or projects not as rigid transactions where you need approval, but as unreplicable opportunities to express your authentic presence. Focusing on full creative expression in the moment completely bypasses the perfectionism trap and lowers social anxiety.  

When was the last time you sparked up a conversation with a stranger and surprised yourself with how good it felt? Behavioral scientist Nicholas Epley, author of A Little More Social, returns to the podcast to discuss with Michael why we systematically underestimate how positively strangers respond, how connection supports happiness, health, and longevity, and the key mechanisms behind our social pessimism (misjudging warmth vs. competence, overlooking reciprocity, and self-fulfilling avoidance). Nicholas shares research on how quickly people update after a conversation and how fast those gains can fade, plus practical “easy choice” experiments like asking someone to take your photo or simply asking, “Can you tell me your story?” Plus, in a special post-interview discussion, listener-turned-friend of Michael's, therapist Dr. Jennifer Kauder, joins Michael to reflect on voice vs. text, comfort-zone challenges, and why real-time connection changes everything.Listen and Learn: The surprising benefits of connecting with people you don't know, and why our minds trick us into fearing these interactions that can lengthen and enrich our livesPsychological traps that make us overly pessimistic about reaching out to others, and why we miss out on deeper, happier connections due to misplaced expectations Research on why trying to push past social awkwardness just once isn't enough, and why our brains quickly forget positive interactions Why our confidence drops right before we approach someone new, the psychology behind why starting a conversation is much easier than anticipating it, and how small mindsets can instantly dissolve social anxiety A simple, foolproof question that skips past awkward small talk, ignites genuine curiosity, and uncovers the fascinating, hidden storiesResources: A Little More Social: How Small Choices Create Unexpected Happiness, Health, and Connection https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593319543 Nicholas' Website: https://www.nicholasepley.com/Nicholas Epley on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicholas-epley/ Michael's Confidence Course: https://herold.coach/courseRejection Proof by Jia Jiang: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780804141383 About Nicholas EpleyNicholas Epley is the John Templeton Keller Distinguished Service Professor of Behavioral Science and Director of the Roman Family Center for Decision Research, at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He studies social cognition—how thinking people think about other thinking people—to understand why smart people so routinely misunderstand each other. He teaches an ethics and happiness course to MBA students called Designing a Good Life. His research has appeared in more than two dozen empirical journals, been featured by the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, CNN, Wired, and National Public Radio, among many others, and has been funded by the National Science Foundation and the Templeton Foundation. He has been awarded the 2008 Theoretical Innovation Award from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, the 2011 Distinguished Scientific Award for Early Career Contribution to Psychology from the American Psychological Association, the 2015 Book Prize for the Promotion of Social and Personality Science, and the 2018 Career Trajectory Award from the Society for Experimental Social Psychology. Epley was named a “professor to watch” by the Financial Times, one of the “World's Best 40 under 40 Business School Professors” by Poets and Quants, and one of the 100 Most Influential in Business Ethics in 2015 by Ethisphere. He is the author of Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want. His new book, A Little More Social: How Small Choices Create Unexpected Happiness, Health, and Connection, was published in May! (Our UK listeners will find the book titled Hello: The Unexpected Power of Choosing To Connect)Related Episodes422. Mindwise with Nicholas Epley454. Remain Calm. Confidence Ahead with Michael Herold313. ACT-Informed Exposure for Anxiety with Brian Pilecki and Brian Thompson393. Supercommunicators with Charles Duhigg360. The Laws of Connection with David RobsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send a textRejection isn't personal.It's an opinion. And it has a number.In this episode, I'm breaking down a powerful idea from Jia Jiang's book Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection.Most of us treat rejection like a verdict on our worth.It isn't.And in this episode, I'll explain why people respond the way they do—what their “no” is actually based on—and the surprising truth behind rejection that most people never realize:It usually has nothing to do with you.So when someone says “no,” the real question becomes: how do you handle it?Do you rush into the ask just to get rejection out of the way? Or do you stay curious, confident, and creative enough to work through it?Because rejection isn't universal.Not everyone will say no.You just have to keep asking until you find the one who says yes.In this episode, you'll learn how to see rejection through a completely different lens—and why understanding this shift can change how you ask, how you sell, and how you pursue what you want in life.Support the show

Ep #96: Bring the Avalanche: How to Turn Rejection Into Motivation — with Maurice Proffitt“Trust yourself. This world will try to tell you otherwise every single day.”- Maurice ProffittThis conversation was recorded live at Lumpen Radio on Saturday November 22, 2025Summary of the episodeIn this episode, we sit down with Chicago creative and producer Maurice Proffitt to talk about creative rejection, the fear of success, and what it really takes to build a career without waiting for permission. Maurice shares the moments that shaped him: the childhood spark that made him a storyteller, the brutal rejection that changed his entire trajectory, and how he learned to turn setbacks into motivation.If you've ever felt overlooked, underestimated, or right on the edge of something big—but scared to leap—this conversation will give you fuel.What we talk aboutA friendly deep-dive into what it really means to grow as an artist.Turning rejection into motivationOvercoming the fear of success and leveling upGrowing up Black in Schaumburg and finding your “B-side” identityWhy you should stop asking for permission and create anywayBuilding B-Side Productions and DreamscapeFriendship, community, and the people who hold you upMaurices first web series “Broke AF,” filmmaking, and learning to editThe moment he said: “Enough is enough — I'm building my own lane.”Things We MentionedRejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection by Jia Jiang (affiliate link)“Broke AF” web series B-Side StudiosDreamscape TheatreBatman Begins — “Why do we fall?” referenceChapters:00:23 - Introduction to Self-Expression01:51 - The Fear of Success12:24 - Navigating the Creative Landscape19:33 - The Heartbreak of Rejection24:33 - The Concept of B-Side Productions31:51 - Identity and Growing Up in Schaumburg36:15 - The Journey of Friendship and Creativity44:11 - Transition to Filmmaking and Editing51:01 - Resilience in the Face of Adversity54:43 - The Journey of a Show: From Preparation to PerformanceAll about... Maurice ProffittYou're gonna love Maurice Proffitt—he's a filmmaker, theatre producer, community-builder, and creative force whose work centers the stories and voices usually overlooked. From theater to film to building his own production companies, Maurice is all about creating space for the hidden gems, the B-sides, and the people who don't fit the mold.Sponsor Shoutout

Hiç reddedilme korkusuyla fırsatları elinin tersiyle ittiğiniz oldu mu? İş görüşmeleri, ilişkiler, dostluklar… Bazen “ya hayır derlerse” düşüncesi bizi adım atmaktan bile alıkoyuyor.Bu bölümde:Reddedilme korkusunun kökenlerini,Kariyer ve ilişkilerde nasıl görünmez engeller yarattığını,Jia Jiang'ın “100 gün reddedilme deneyi”nden en çarpıcı örnekleri,Ve bu korkuyla başa çıkmak için günlük hayatında uygulayabileceğiniz teknikleri bulacaksınız.#reddedilme #reddedilmekorkusu #psikoloji #ilişkiler #kariyer

Guest Bio:Rising to notoriety with his most-viewed TED Talk (top 200 out of 60,000), “What I Learned from 100 Days of Rejection,” which became the basis for his bestselling book and #1 audio book, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection, Jia Jiang has become the world's foremost expert on rejection. A top-booked speaker, Jia is the sought-after authority on empowering confidence and resilience, overcoming one's fear of rejection, and daring to be bolder in both life and career. His upcoming book, The Art of Achieving Ambitious Things (Simon & Schuster, May 2026), expands on his mission to help anyone overcome obstacles and achieve their dreams and goals by adopting his breakthrough One Action Goal system.Takeaways:Jia Jiang's 100 days of rejection therapy helped him overcome fear.Humor plays a crucial role in dealing with rejection.Rejection is a natural part of the speaking industry.It's important to not reject yourself after external rejection.Aim for high goals to elevate your pursuits.Rejection can be turned into a learning opportunity.Creating momentum is key to achieving goals.Persistence and adaptability are both necessary in facing rejection.Life should be open to new experiences, not confined by lists.Building relationships can help turn rejections into future opportunities.Chapters:00:00 - The Journey of Rejection Therapy02:47 - Transforming Fear into Expertise06:09 - The Power of Humor in Rejection08:52 - Navigating Rejection in the Speaking Industry12:06 - Turning Rejection into Learning17:01 - Persistence vs. Adaptability in Rejection21:46 - Creating Momentum in Your Journey28:05 - Living Life Without a Rejection Bucket ListResourcesLearn more about Jia Jiang:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramYouTubeFacebookLearn more about Josh Linkner:WebsiteYouTubeLinkedInInstagramXFacebookABOUT MIC DROP:Hear from the world's top thought leaders and experts, sharing tipping point moments, strategies, and approaches that led to their speaking career success. Throughout each episode, host Josh Linkner, #1 Innovation keynote speaker in the world, deconstructs guests' Mic Drop moments and provides tactical tools and takeaways that can be applied to any speaking business, no matter its starting point. You'll enjoy hearing from some of the top keynote speakers in the industry including: Ryan Estis, Alison Levine, Peter Sheahan, Seth Mattison, Cassandra Worthy, and many more. Mic Drop is sponsored by ImpactEleven.Learn more at: MicDropPodcast.comABOUT THE HOST:Josh Linkner — a New York Times bestselling author — is a rare blend of business, art, and science.On the business front, he's been the founder and CEO of five tech companies, which created over 10,000 jobs and sold for a combined value of over $200 million. He's the co-founder and Managing Partner of Muditā (moo-DEE-tah) Venture Partners - an early-stage venture capital firm investing in groundbreaking technologies. Over the last 30 years, he's helped over 100 startups launch and scale, creating over $1 billion in investor returns. He's twice been named the EY Entrepreneur of The Year and is the recipient of the United States Presidential Champion of Change Award.While proud of his business success, his roots are in the dangerous world of jazz music. Josh has been playing guitar in smoky jazz clubs for 40 years, studied at the prestigious Berklee College of Music, and has performed over 1000 concerts around the world. His experiences in both business and music led him to become one of the world's foremost experts on innovation. Josh is the co-founder and Chairman of Platypus Labs, a global research, training, and consulting firm. Today, he's on a mission to help leaders Find A Way™ through creative problem-solving, inventive thinking, and ingenuity.Learn more about Josh: JoshLinkner.comSPONSORED BY AMPLIFY PUBLISHING GROUP:Partnering with CXOs, keynote speakers, change makers, and other visionary leaders, Amplify Publishing Group (APG) is a leader in the hybrid publishing space with more than twenty years of experience acquiring, producing, marketing, and distributing books. Passionate about ideas and voices that need to be heard, they're known for launching books that start engaging and timely conversations. At each turn, they have been at the forefront of innovation and have spearheaded a critical disruption of the publishing industry.Learn more at: amplifypublishinggroup.comPOWERED BY IMPACTELEVEN:ImpactEleven is a speaker training, development and accelerator Community working tirelessly to develop and serve thousands of voices with infinite influence to transform lives and the world for the better.Learn more at: impacteleven.com

A common fear in business is the fear of rejection. Many people avoid making sales calls out of a fear of rejection.   Avoidance seems to be a common approach to addressing possible rejection. Author and speaker, Jia Jiang, however, took a different approach.   Jia performed a 100-day rejection experiment where he sought out rejection each ... The post Fear of Rejection appeared first on Unconventional Business Network.

In dieser Episode teile ich meine Erfahrungen aus vier Monaten voller mutiger Pitches – und wie ich durch eine Absagen-Liste nicht nur 9 spannende Zusagen erhalten, sondern auch mein Selbstbewusstsein gestärkt habe. Du erfährst, wie du deine Angst vor Ablehnung überwindest, den Fokus auf sinnvolle Projekte setzt und mit nur 3 gezielten Anfragen noch in diesem Jahr neue berufliche Erfolge feiern kannst. Lass uns gemeinsam den Weg ebnen, um 2025 mit Schwung zu starten!

What if facing rejection head-on could actually transform your life? Most of us shy away from rejection, fearing the discomfort and self-doubt that tag along. But imagine if your greatest personal growth was waiting just past that fear.In this episode, host Paul chats with Jia Jiang, bestselling author and global speaker behind the viral TEDx talk, What I Learned from 100 Days of Rejection. Through his “rejection therapy” journey, where he actively sought rejection for 100 days, Jia reshaped his perspective, turning rejection into an opportunity for growth and discovery. Together, they dive into the power of ambition, discipline, and resilience, encouraging you to step boldly toward your dreams—regardless of potential setbacks.Ready to transform rejection from a roadblock into a stepping stone? Tune in and find out how. Key TakeawaysOvercoming the fear of rejection through a project called "rejection therapy."Personal journey and experiences related to seeking rejection for 100 consecutive days.The impact of rejection on personal and professional aspirations.The importance of asking questions and engaging with others after facing rejection.The role of ambition, discipline, and resilience in achieving personal goals.Transformative experiences that led to unexpected opportunities.The significance of sharing personal stories to inspire others.Practical examples of turning rejection into collaborative problem-solving.Encouragement to take actionable steps toward personal growth and opportunities.Viewing rejection as a stepping stone toward success rather than a failure. In This Episode:[00:03] Introduction to rejection[00:20] Welcoming Jia Jiang[01:14] Jiang's origin story[02:18] The start of rejection therapy[03:03] Creative rejection attempts[03:43] Lessons learned from rejection[04:04] Current feelings about rejection[05:06] Understanding reactions to rejection[06:59] Engaging after rejection[13:45] Toastmasters experience[15:34] Recognition from Toastmasters[16:01] Transition to ambition discussion[16:48] Memorable rejection therapy moments[17:11] Krispy Kreme Olympic rings[19:35] The dream of teaching[20:14] Overcoming barriers to teaching[21:03] Taking initiative to teach[22:04] The impact of guest lecturing[23:20] Ambition and flaws[24:42] The power of ambition[25:21] Three controllable factors for success[26:25] The role of ridiculous ambition[27:11] Ambition as a guiding force[28:25] The journey of ambition[29:37] Encouragement to think bigger[30:16] Finding Jiang online[30:44] Actionable tip for winning Monday Notable Quotes[00:04:04] "Rejection today is like my friend or almost like my other life partner. I still quarrel with it sometimes. I still have fear with it, but it's so much different than my relationship with rejection a long time ago." — Jia Jiang[00:18:27] "How many donut moments have I missed in my life just because I thought there's no way I would get it? We reject ourselves way too many times before we even try because we fear potential embarrassment and impossibility." — Jia Jiang[00:27:11] "When I was in the darkest time, I didn't give up and never lost sight and never lost my faith in myself and in what I was trying to accomplish." — Jia Jiang[00:28:44] "Even for somebody like me that has been called ambitious and has leaned into ambition, you have made me more ambitious. I don't care if it's crazy to everybody else in the world; we're going to attack it." — Paul Our GuestJia Jiang is an entrepreneur, TED speaker, and author known for his transformative journey through "Rejection Therapy," a project he adopted after seeking 100 rejections in 100 days. His experience with rejection has shaped his mission to help others face their fears and embrace rejection as a stepping stone to personal growth. Jia advocates for turning rejection into opportunity, using it to fuel ambition and resilience. His work includes speaking engagements, workshops, and products designed to help people overcome fear and unlock their potential. Resource & LinksMonday Momentum Emails (sign up here)Monday MomentumWin Monday Community (join here)Win Monday CommunityPaul EpsteinConfidence QuizWebsiteLinkedInInstagramJia JiangWebsiteLinkedInMentionedTEDx Talk: What I Learned from 100 Days of RejectionRejection Proof10x Is Easier than 2x: How World-Class Entrepreneurs Achieve More by Doing Less

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage, unsure of how to break free from the patterns that hold you back? Whether it's procrastination, perfectionism, or people-pleasing, many of us struggle with these habits because we haven't learned how to process our emotions effectively. In this podcast episode, I explore how our subconscious behaviors and emotional illiteracy contribute to our challenges, particularly when it comes to weight loss and personal growth. In this episode, I celebrate the milestone of my 150th podcast episode by sharing transformative insights and success stories from my coaching program. I discuss the importance of addressing the root causes of self-sabotage and emotional struggles rather than just the symptoms. Through powerful personal anecdotes and client experiences, I illustrate how understanding and managing our emotions can lead to significant improvements in both mental and physical well-being. I highlight the impact of embracing rejection, fostering resilience, and developing a positive mindset. What you will learn in this episode: Emotional Literacy: How to recognize and process your emotions to overcome subconscious patterns of self-sabotage. Resilience Through Rejection: The benefits of embracing rejection to build confidence and expand your comfort zone, inspired by Jia Jiang's book "Rejection Proof." Holistic Weight Loss: A self-love and respect-centered approach to weight loss that focuses on emotional and mental health, leading to sustainable, long-term results.   Grab your worksheet HERE.

In the first episode, we delve into the universal struggle of overcoming fear. Yes, this is a real estate marketing podcast, but fear often holds us back from succeeding. From acknowledging its presence to practical strategies for moving past it, we explore how embracing fear can lead to personal and professional growth. Tune in for insights on navigating fear and emerging stronger on the other side. Follow me on all socials @RealEstateSingh for more content! BOOOK - "Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection" by Jia Jiang: https://www.amazon.com/Rejection-Proof-Became-Invincible-Through/dp/080414138X Instagram: www.instagram.com/RealEstateSingh  

Easily listen to The Science of Self in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/ScienceOfSelfPodcast00:06:42 Jia Jiang gave a popular TED Talk00:10:15 The Perfectionist.00:11:34 The Intimidated.00:13:00 The Environment Blamer.00:14:12 The Defeatist.00:19:53 Brian Wansink of Cornell University00:22:44 Further ConsiderationsHear it Here - https://bit.ly/PowerOfSelfDiscipline• Aside from knowledge of the cycle and what you tend to fall prey to, there are specific ways to deal with four of the five phases of the cycle. Regarding unhelpful assumptions, instead embody the empowering belief of the forty percent rule. Regarding discomfort, Change your expectations and actively practice discomfort to build your mental toughness. Regarding excuses, learn how to reframe your excuses and stop falling into the common traps and self-lies. Regarding avoidance activities, it's a matter of out of sight, out of mind; if you cannot find distractions, you cannot avoid.• Other general considerations for beating the cycle of lacking self-discipline are creating goals to reduce discomfort and improve time management, and developing skills to stop making excuses so frequently. Beat the cycle!#Defeatist #BrianWansink #Discomfort #JiaJiang #Jiang #LackingSelfDiscipline #Perfectionist #Selfdiscipline #SMART #Wansink #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PeterHollins #TheScienceofSelf #SuperBrain #TheCycleOfLackingSelf-Discipline

Jia Jiang dreamed of being the next Bill Gates... but an entrepreneur needs the courage and confidence to ask for help. Jia was terrified of rejection - so couldn't fulfil his ambitions. That is, until he decided to beat his fear by seeking out rejection after rejection for a full 100 days.  Many of us share Jia's nervousness about appearing vulnerable and needy, but the science suggests that we and the people around us would be happier if we asked them for help more often.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Robert chats with Hala Taha about her journey from a school dropout to a successful full-time podcaster and entrepreneur. Hala Taha is the host of Young and Profiting Podcast, frequently ranked as a #1 Education podcast across all apps. Hala is also the CEO of YAP Media, a full-service social media and podcast marketing agency for top podcasters, celebrities, and CEOs generating over $2M in revenue in its first year. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: 00:00 - Intro01:50 - How to deal with and overcome failure and rejection.29:50 - Why Hala chose to focus on LinkedIn, a business social network, to grow her business.34:52 - How Hala was able to land high-profile guests like Matthew McConaughey and Seth Godin and what specific strategies or tactics she used to do so.43:28 - All the different ways one can monetize a podcast and how a podcast can be an actual revenue-generating business.50:11 - What the most impactful thing Hala has learned from interviewing guests on her podcast.And much, much more!*Disclaimer: Slight timestamp discrepancies may occur due to podcast platform differences.BOOKS AND RESOURCESHala Taha's Young and Profiting Podcast.Jack Schafer's book The Like Switch.Ramit Sethi's book I Will Teach You To Be Rich.Gino Wickman's book Entrepreneurial Leap.Jia Jiang's book Rejection Proof.All of Robert's favorite books.NEW TO THE SHOW?Check out our Millennial Investing Starter Packs.Browse through all our episodes (complete with transcripts) here.Try Robert's favorite tool for picking stock winners and managing our portfolios: TIP Finance.Enjoy exclusive perks from our favorite Apps and Services.Stay up-to-date on financial markets and investing strategies through our daily newsletter, We Study Markets.Learn how to better start, manage, and grow your business with the best business podcasts.P.S The Investor's Podcast Network is excited to launch a subreddit devoted to our fans in discussing financial markets, stock picks, questions for our hosts, and much more! Join our subreddit r/TheInvestorsPodcast today!SPONSORSGet a FREE audiobook from Audible.Learn how Principal Financial can help you find the right benefits and retirement plan for your team today.Your home might be worth more than you think. Earn extra money today with Airbnb.Get a customized solution for all of your KPIs in one efficient system with one source of truth. Download NetSuite's popular KPI Checklist, designed to give you consistently excellent performance for free.Enjoy an all-in-one personal finance app that gives you a comprehensive view of all your accounts, investments, transactions, cash flow, net worth, and more, with Monarch Money. Get an extended thirty-day free trial today.Be confident that you'll be small businessing at your best with support designed to help you reach your goals. Book an appointment with a TD Small Business Specialist today.Shape and flex your home loans how you want with Athena. Join the thousands of Aussies taking control of their mortgage today.Invest in the same paintings available to billionaires, at a more accessible price point with Masterworks.Support our free podcast by supporting our sponsors.Connect with Hala: Website | LinkedIn | InstagramConnect with Robert: Website | Twitter | InstagramSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Imagine standing on a stranger's doorstep, your heart pounding as you work up the courage to knock and ask to jump in their swimming pool. Sounds crazy, right? That's precisely what happened on day four of Gregory Benedikt's 100 days of living body and talking to strangers. We're joined by executive and life coach Gregory Benedikt as we dive into the transformative power of overcoming your fears and how it can lead to the most extraordinary experiences. Gregory shares his journey of 19 of his 100 days of bold requests, offering a glimpse into what it means to live a life of audacious action and captivating stories.This episode explores the essence of challenging our internal status quo to live a life that's more than just ordinary. From chance encounters to a poignant tattoo etched in Japan, Gregory's stories weave together tales of extraordinary boldness. At the heart of it all is the belief that the bolder we are, the more fortune smiles upon us. So, join us in this audacious journey of fearlessness, filled with life-changing insights and unforgettable stories.Gregory's InstagramRejection Proof - Jia JiangSupport the showAdditional Resources: Subscribe/Rate/Review on iTunes ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: >>>HEREEnroll Here

In part 1 of this Rejection double-feature, we talk about Jia Jiang's TED talk, and we ask ourselves; can we really become resilient to rejection.

Today's motivation is all about using rejection as a tool to get better. Audio Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ More about Jia: Jia Jiang is a Chinese-American entrepreneur and author of the book "Start with Why." He is known for his "100 Days of Rejection" experiment, in which he challenged himself to face rejection in different ways. Quote of the Day: “Is your dream bigger than your rejections? If it is, maybe it´s time to keep going, instead of giving up” ― Jia Jiang --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/motiv8/support

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Keynote speaker, author, and bestselling author returns to the show with an important message about overcoming fear and building resiliency. In today's talk, he shares the most important lesson he's learned about rejection after undergoing 100 days of rejection and shares some tips to become rejection-proof.    Source: Jia Jiang, Diversity Keynote Speaker   Connect with Jia Jiang:    Website: Jia Jiang https://www.rejectiontherapy.com   YouTube: Jia Jiang   Book: Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection   Previous Episodes:   032 | Jia Jiang: "People Like Martin Luther King Jr, Like Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela Or Even Jesus Christ, These People Did Not Let Rejection Define Them."   Hosted by Malikee Josephs (Pronounced Muh leek Jo seffs)    Give Me A Shout:   Follow Me On Instagram @DepressionDetoxShow.   Email me: mj@depressiondetoxshow.com   Support The Show: Donate

Joel listened to the book Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang over the weekend and thought it would make a good starter topic for today's show. At Amazon:  https://www.amazon.com/REJECTION-PROOF-Jia-Jiang/dp/1847941451 Follow the LOA Today podcast: https://www.loatoday.net/follow

Rejection is something that affects us all but how can we minimise its effects?The effects can be minor or major and in this episode I look at strategies for recognising that it might be an issue, how we can learn from them and how we can better handle it so that it does not continue to affect our lives negatively.Links:Functional MRI of the brain and rejection and links to pain: https://www.science.org/content/article/rejection-pain-brainLong term effects of bullying: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4552909/Protected characteristics: https://www.equalityhumanrights.com/en/equality-act/protected-characteristicsFeeling rejected? https://psychcentral.com/lib/good-news-if-you-often-feel-rejectedRejection sensitivity: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7424132/100 rejections by Jia Jiang: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Dr. Lauryn is solo today to discuss an integral part of business life that never goes away: networking. Inspired by a recent panel discussion that she took part in, Dr. Lauryn shares her thoughts and experiences on what networking actually means, ways to utilize it at different career points, why we are much more comfortable when educating vs when we are selling, and much more!Video referenced by Dr. Lauryn: What I learned from 100 days of rejection by Jia Jiang– – – – – Joy, Therapy, and Enneagrams (00:00)Listener Highlight (08:50)Opening Prayer (10:50)What is Networking (13:00)Elevator Pitches (22:05)Selling vs Educating (30:45)Being Authentic and Being Selfish (36:40)Final Thoughts and Recap (48:15)– – – – – To learn more about Dr. Tony Ebel's Pediatric Experience head to the PX website!To learn more about CLA and the INSiGHT scanner go to this website and enter code SHESLAYS when prompted.To check out all the great products from Well Aligned, visit here.To hear all the great stuff happening on patreon you can visit here.Rate & subscribe wherever you get your podcasts!Join the Weekly Slay mailing list HEREIf you want to submit a question or have feedback, make sure to tell us:Website | Instagram | Facebook Get bonus content on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Today we are going to talk about chapter 56 of The Retail Leasing Playbook, "Treat Every Rejection as a Reflection of Them and Not You." So I'm sure you've heard this before, but when prospects reject you, it's not that they're rejecting you, they're just rejecting your property. If you're having an emotional reaction to when people reject the idea, this is going be a tough business for you, so you need to get tougher and not take rejection personally. If you are having problems with rejection, read Jia Jiang's book, "Rejection Proof, How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through a Hundred Days of Rejection." It's hilarious what this guy puts himself through to try to get tougher and deal with rejection. The other thing that I did early on in my career, I think this is a Tom Hopkins suggestion, he was the first, self-improvement guru I started following and he changed my life. But he had this thing where he said, evaluate the cost of each rejection. So I listened to Tom and when, and this was early on when I was canvassing for office leasing, very boring, and I would leave each of the offices and in my mind I would go, thanks for the 30 bucks! Because every store that you, that you get a no to is 30 bucks. And when you get a hundred of 'em, you're gonna get your deal and the $3,000. So for every no you get, put a dollar amount to it and then in your head, in your mind, go, thanks for the 30 bucks, thanks for the 50 bucks, thanks for the 10 bucks, whatever it is. If you like this podcast, please share it on any kind of social platform you're on. Let's get a lot more people listening 'cuz the more that we improve and get better as leasing agents, the more rents we can charge and the more commissions we'll all make. And we will be able to provide more value to our tenants, our landlords, and ourselves. Happy Leasing! Music from https://filmmusic.io "Acid Trumpet" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/b...) #retailleasing #commercialrealestateinvesting #retailleasingcoach #bethazor

In this episode I'm offering a few thoughts and suggestions for last minute gifts for the singing/acting/voice-professional people in your life. From voice straws to books on breathing and personal development, here are a few of my favorite things, listen to the episode to find out why I chose them.   1. The Voice Straw Kit 2. Vocal Mist Portable Nebulizer 3. Aromatherapy Diffuser 4. The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks 5. Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang 6. Breath by James Nestor              

Rejection Therapy? What is that? In this episode, I talk about my own journey to fall more in love with my own sense of rejection and fear as I apply the tools I am learning from actively seeking rejection in my own life and in my business. My inspiration comes from Jason Comely and Jia Jiang who shared his own powerful journey with rejection in a TedX that you can watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ. Impressed by Jia, in this episode, I share how I have started to create a closer relationship with rejection by simply asking a question. I am able to collect a no and it doesn't kill me. The fear of what people will think, the fear of a no, the fear of disapproval: it no longer hurts me as it may once have. But these things don't have to be big asks for us to experience big change. Asking for what you will change your life. So where can you ask for what you want? Where can you feel nervous about a rejection but ask it any way? Enjoy this episode about fear and rejection. Resources: Follow Chrissy on Instagram @chrissyconcept. Sign up for a FREE 30 minute coaching call. More About Teacher Talk with Chrissy Nichols: Teacher Talk is the podcast for educators like you who are on the brink of burnout, or are already there. It's your guide to feeling better about being at school and being in your life. Your host, Chrissy Nichols, is a life coach for teachers. In her weekly episodes, she will give you quick tools, tips, and brain hacks to understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. It's time to find the joy in teaching again and get back to feeling like the best version of yourself.

ในรอบสัปดาห์นี้ เรามามองเห็นคุณค่าของการถูกปฏิเสธกันบ้างเถอะ เพื่อให้เห็นว่ามันเป็นเรื่องธรรมดาของชีวิต และไม่ว่าเราจะเก่งแค่ไหน มันต้องมีช่วงเวลาที่เราเกิดอาการตั้งคำถามกับความฉลาดของตัวเอง หรือแม้กระทั่งเริ่มสงสัยในความสามารถที่ตัวเองมี อยากจะย้ำอีกทีว่าทุกคนมีสิทธิ์ที่จะคิดเช่นนี้ เรื่องราวที่นำมาพูดคุยกันในวันนี้มีที่มาจาก: What I learned from 100 days of rejection โดย Jia Jiang ตามไปฟังกันได้ที่: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ SoundCloud: bit.ly/3gFv2JZ Blockdit: bit.ly/2Bi4tuj Podbean: bit.ly/36QsT9V Apple Podcasts: apple.co/2TQtROk Spotify: spoti.fi/2XJqvgX YouTube: bit.ly/3k4uCAJ #InfinityPodcast #TheInfinity #StartYup #Startup #โสภณ #ศุภมั่งมี

How can you finally stop repairing the same negative relationships? Brad and Lesley recap somatic dating coach, Lauren Zoeller, discussing past relationships, red flags, and how to transform your dating life or current relationships. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Upcoming things to note: AGENCY MINI, Cambodia retreat, Las Vegas RetreatThe best Book recommendations for personal growth and bizHow do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in unhealthy relationship patterns?Boredom as a driving factor and running from relationship to relationship to chase the high.The difference between a life coach and a therapist Exploring your past red flag relationships for growthWhy has every relationship ended? Episode References/Links:Follow Lauren on IGLauren's WebsiteProfitable Pilates RetreatAGENCY MINIBooks: We Should All Be Millionaires, Rachel RogersChatter. Ethan KrossRejection Proof. Jia JiangE-Squared Pam GroutGetting the Love You Want, Harville HendricksBrad Crowell PP Course How to be rejected to success with 200 noesTELL US YOUR THOUGHTS  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life, Brad and I are going to dig into the aligning convo I have with Lauren Zoeller in our last episode. If you haven't yet listen to interview, feel free to pause this now. Go back and listen to that one, and then come back and join us. If you don't know about somatic coaching. You should listen to the interview.Brad Crowell  Yeah, if you don't know the definition of somatic, she explained it. (Lesley: Yeah.) Lauren because it was actually great as your very first question. Like, "Hey, cool. I'm all about life coaching. What's the somatic part mean? Can you explain that?" And they dug in pretty deep. So yeah.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I know. Well, it's because I have a somatic therapist, and I didn't really understand what that title was. And she would do her therapy. And it had somatic stuff, but like, I didn't really I just was like, "Oh, we're in the woowoo world. We're just doing this." But it's actually not. It's not woowoo would all it's like totally legit science. You should totally... So go listen to it. But I love Lauren, and ...Brad Crowell  She, she's powerful.Lesley Logan  She's powerful. (Brad: Yeah.) She's super cool. And at the time that we're recording this, I'm on the eve of hanging out with her for the weekend here in Vegas. (Brad: Yeah.) So talk about, do you mind, I just say I want to say this, because it's nothing to do with anything. But if you're trying to make friends, like, do the things that just that people do want to like, share and experience together. She is coming here with a couple other women. Because I was like, "We should all hang out. I live in Las Vegas. It's a great place to come visit."Brad Crowell  Wait, really? (Lesley: Yeah. That was I said.) They came because you, you just invited them to come. (Lesley: Yeah.) That's so cool.Lesley Logan  I know. I said we should, well, I will, I won't take all the credit. They know a mutual friend, they know Tori Gordon, who is a coach because who was a coach, and she was on our podcast earlier. (Brad: Yeah.) And they're like, "Oh, yeah, Tori was talking about how we should all come to Vegas." I said, "Well, now you've two reasons to come because Tori and I live in the same neighborhood. (Brad: Great.) And you should come." And boom, set some dates. And now they're coming.Brad Crowell  That's really cool. I didn't know that. That's fun.Lesley Logan  Take action ... I'm so excited. By the time you've heard this, I've already hang out. We've already had our women's weekend and it's going to be amazing. I'll be talking about it on another episode. Anyways. We are also one month away from the time that you're listening to this. From the PP retreat. The Profitablie Pilates business retreat here in Las Vegas. (Brad: Yeah.) So if you are wanting to hang out in a very intimate, not in like a sexual way, but just like small, that's what I mean it by a small group, private event.Brad Crowell  I don't think anybody took it as sexual but but that's fair to clarify.Yeah, it's it's a, it's an intimate setting, that's a fair way to describe it. It's, it's actually a lot of fun and very transformative when it comes to digging into the customer journey that you may or may not be presenting to your customers. If you run a fitness business, or any kind of service based business, really, the principles do apply, and that we'll be recovering that weekend. And our first one that we ran earlier this year was amazing. It was so amazing. So we're really excited to be hosting a second one this year. (Lesley: It will be amazing.) It's going to be amazing. (Lesley: I'm just gonna put amazing in there one more time.) Also, amazingly, I'm not sure that we haven't set a date yet for next year. So it's not 100% that we're going to do it for next year. So if you're thinking I'll just do the next one. Just talk to us now because (Lesley: Yeah.) because it may not actually be one we want you know like we've got a lot going on next year like a lot.Lesley Logan  A lot. And I'll say I just want to say like putting off the growth of your business for next time. Can we just like talk about like ...Brad Crowell  Why wait nine more months to get started?Lesley Logan  The people who are at our first retreat, several of them made their retreat investment back within a couple of months. Of just using our project management training, of using our launch training of all this stuff. (Brad: Yeah.) They are now working on things this right now, as second rounds of things that will have (Brad: Yeah.) even better outcomes. If they had not come if they waited till next time they would not they would literally be where they were way before March making what they, making what they made before March in a time when you make more money. So I'm just saying don't wait till next time and Brad is right. We have not set dates and it's pretty unclear whether or not we will have another one in the 2023 dates we ...Brad Crowell  Look, we're hoping that we can do but (Lesley: We love it.) but but actually I also love going to Cambodia. So, yeah.Lesley Logan  We love going to Cambodia but we also love vacation.Brad Crowell  Yeah, there's that. I would like to take ... (Lesley: Yeah, so anyway ...) and idea. (Lesley: That's one month away. So ...) That's happening. Yeah, in the month. And then but what's happening is before then.Lesley Logan  Oh, Agency Mini. (Brad: Yeah.) Two, so it's like about two ish weeks away. It starts on the 18th. And ... (Brad: How it was a different than the retreat?) Okay, so Agency Mini, first of all, fold is very different. The retreat is at our house in person curated, very small group, very small group. (Brad: Yeah.) Agency Mini is not to say that it's a big group, but it is a bigger group. And ... (Brad: Yeah, it's a couple hundred people.) It's also online. We do one workshop, and we do one Q&A session, and then we answer your questions throughout the week. Whereas at the retreat, when you're on our house, we have several workshops, several times where you guys are in coaching settings. It's a very curated experience around what you're gonna be learning. Whereas inside of Agency Mini, we have a very curated webinar and homework for you. But then the rest of the week, you can really ask us anything, we'll be really honest with you.Brad Crowell  But bigger, bigger picture, though. The retreat, we're going to dig into, like I said, your customers journey (Lesley: Yeah.) and what you're putting in front of them, when to graduate them from your first product, your second product, your third product, whether that's digitally on your website, you know, or whether that is, you know, in your brick and mortar store. (Lesley:Yeah.) Where Agency Mini is a, it's a seven day taster of our ongoing coaching services, where you can we are going to dig into, we're going to help you clarify, you know exactly what it is that you offer your clients, how to connect to those clients, who those clients actually are. Right. And and then we're going to open it up for questions about anything throughout the week. So you know, and that's going to be virtual.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So profitabliepilates.com/retreat is retreat and profitable, profitablepilates.com/mini is for Agency Mini. (Brad: Yeah.) So you should sign up for that. (Brad: Yeah. Join us.) Also, by the way, if you join Agency for Mini, you get a lots of goodies. So just saying (Brad: True.) you've been thinking, "Oh, I want to coach with them," and you sign up for that. This is the time. So anyways, I'm so excited. September is, September, October are like going to be so ... (Brad: They're very so fun.) We're going to be like we're going to be in several states ... (Brad: It's gonna be a whirlwind.) It's a whirlwind.Brad Crowell  Yeah, it's gonna be crazy.Lesley Logan  Gotta get my sleep on. Anyways, we have an audience question.Brad Crowell  We do. You've answered this before, but it's been a long time. I just inserted that. What are some books that you recommend? Do you have any new ones?Lesley Logan  Yeah, so I don't recall which recap we answered this question. But I would say it's probably 100 episodes ago.Brad Crowell  I was gonna say, I think it's been like a long time.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So of course, I have been reading a lot. And by reading I mean listening. But I actually am reading a couple books like physical books. Currently, as we're doing this. So here's my new top books that I've been talking about a lot. And I've read it. There's they're not in, like, inclusive of all the books that I've read, but like what I think listeners of this show would really love. We Should All Be Millionaires, Rachel Rogers. Rachel Rogers, if you're listening this episode. Hi. Big fan over here. Want to be on the show? If you know Rachel, please do the intro. I'm just putting out there. I'm asking for it. I want I want Rachel Rogers on the show. That book is amazing. It's so good. I and Brad, love reading it.Brad Crowell  Yeah, we're I'm like, I don't know, third of the way through it right now. Halfway, I'm not sure.Lesley Logan  Yeah, it's so good. Chatter. I believe it is by Ethan Kross. I think that's who it's by. Yes. And I have DMed him, he has not responded to me. So I am not, (Brad: Ethan Kross.) I'm not rejected yet. And I will not take no for an answer from that man because he is amazing. That book is so it's so awesome at identifying why you're talking to yourself and the thoughts you say. And then also how to like snap yourself out of it, which I just frickin love. You know, I love action. So, Action Steps so that's a great book and then Rejection Proof. Oh my gosh, he did reject me for right now. Not permanently, he said to come back to him later. He's just not doing podcasts right now. That's okay. Jia Jiang, I got you. My peeps are gonna find you. We're gonna get you on the show. Anyways, Rejection Proof is so good. If you're afraid of being rejected. Brad has a course about being rejected (Brad: I do.) on our Profitable Pilates website.Brad Crowell  Yeah. We'll put the link to that in the show notes. (Lesley: Yeah.) It's called How to be rejected to success with 200 noes.Lesley Logan  Yeah, so and then this book was just like so so good. I'm really into it and then I've talked about it before actually talked about it with Coach Lee a couple weeks ago on that episode, but I started doing E-Squared again, and it's Pam Grout. Hi, Pam. Hi, hey girl hey. (Brad: Hey girl hey.) I tagg you on a post or three. Not a stalker, but just same (Brad: Big fan.) big fan, big fan over here. Anyways, um, I had I read Pam Grout's book, eight years ago, seven years ago, and I actually did one of the experience I put Brad's name now. And then he called me. (Brad: I did.) And then the other woman's name down, I just put the two together. She's the woman from the other company that's been hitting us up. (Brad: Oh, that's crazy.) How crazy is that? But she did also call me while we ran into each other. Anyways, you'll hear that on on Coach Lee's episode. But the point is, I've been doing all the experiments and I did the experiment one. I started on a specific date at 11am. And then I decided to meditate on like receiving abundance. And at 11:03 during the middle of my meditation, the experiment came through. Oh! So you all have to do E-Squared. Okay, those are the books. Do you have anything add to that?Brad Crowell  Those are, those are great. No, I've been reading political books, and also some novels. (Lesley: Yeah.) So yeah, less if you if you if you are looking to find a new world to experience that has nothing to do with reality. There's a lovely, incredible, 20 something books here series (Lesley: Oh, are you doing YA?) No.Lesley Logan  No, young adult, you're listening to a young adult?Brad Crowell  I don't know what that is. (Lesley: Oh.) So no, it's his name is Michael J. Sullivan. And he is a he's like a, he created his own fantasy world where he's got different, different times of the timeline. So like, you know, he started off, (Lesley: Oh) he started off with a thief and a soldier and the two of them get paired together and have to go to that. And he wrote, like, I don't know, 12 books around this. They're still out ...Lesley Logan  So not necessarily like a book for 20 somethings. It's just a 20 year long.Brad Crowell  No, no. He's written 20 novels. (Lesley: Yeah. Okay.) No, (Lesley: Sorry.) 20 books.Lesley Logan  20 books. So not YA at all?Brad Crowell  I don't know what YA is? So, no.Lesley Logan  YA is a ti... is like a section of books. It's called Young Adult. It's like your twilight ...Brad Crowell  Oh, yeah. I never I never got out of that. Yeah. (Lesley: Yeah.) No, it's a ...Lesley Logan  Like not goosebumps. But you know, something like that. Like ...Brad Crowell  I mean, sure, these are these are applicable for all ages, actually. The but but then, in that, in that timeline, he was referencing, you know, the history 3000 years ago. And then the next set of six books he wrote was from 3000 years ago. (Lesley: Oh, my God.) And then now the new books he's writing are in the middle, between these two timelines on a ... (Lesley: I can't handle it.) It's amazing, actually. And you fall in love with the characters and yeah, I mean, he is, he's mind blowingly good at what he does. It is incredible. The books are just fantastic. So (Lesley: Okay.) yeah.Lesley Logan  Let's talk about Lauren. (Brad and Lesley laughs)Brad Crowell  We don't go to the same movies, y'all. Just saying.Lesley Logan  We don't. We also don't go to bed the same time or wake up at the same time. We are an anomaly. If you are like, "I want to be married like Brad and Lesley." I'm just gonna go out right now you have to be very secured ...Brad Crowell  We have so much in common when it comes to being entrepreneurs.Lesley Logan  Yeah. And we ... like, like the things that we love to do for fun. Our so opposite. (Brad: Yeah) We just do them on our own.Brad Crowell  So, Lesley's got a green thumb. No, she doesn't.Lesley Logan  No, no. She doesn't. (Brad: I'm teasing.) But my Mammillaria by not touching it whatsoever is doing great. (Brad: Yeah, yeah.) My plant in the window. It's not doing so good. I don't know what to do about it. Anyway. Hi, let's talk about Lauren.Brad Crowell  Let's talk about Lauren Zoeller.Lesley Logan  All I can say is Lauren ... as like our guests listening to these recaps ...Brad Crowell  I know. They're probably, "What the hell?" (Lesley: When did they talk about me though?) Okay, cool. So, Lauren, helping women and men find conscious partnerships. Lauren Zoeller is a Somatic Relationship Expert, aka Dating Coach who overcame her own patterns of shame to now lead women into aligned lives. Lauren is more than a matchmaker. She's here to guide individuals to keep the relationships they find, and in the process, discover a deeper love for themselves.Lesley Logan  So aka better than a dating coach. (Brad: Yeah. Better than a dating coach.) Just to like, help my new friend out. She's more than a dating coach.Brad Crowell  Well, yeah, well, I think I think that, again, if you go back and listen to her definition of somatic, it will help you understand how different she is from you know, just, you know, she's not Hitch you know, I think you you probably had the best example, I'm just going to pull it back up. You said, people who date the quote on quote, "date the same person over and over and over again, until they learn their lesson." Right? She helps you, like understand why you might be repeating things, but just in a different time and a different with the different people. (Lesley: Yeah.) But you're still repeating the same thing.Lesley Logan  If you're watching us on the YouTube channel, you got the air quotes. If you didn't, Brad, his inflection should hopefully help you understand the air quotes are in there.Brad Crowell  Yeah, Brad is very good.Lesley Logan  It's better than Joey from Friends that air quote. I'm sorry. (Lesley and Brad laughs)Brad Crowell  What was one thing that you love that Lauren said?Lesley Logan  Thank you for asking. One thing I love that she said was "how you receive love as a child shapes how you expect to be loved today. Often those who had a frenetic childhood are chasing the high of chaos". And she went on a little bit like how do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in unhealthy patterns is a question she's having (Brad: Yeah.) she's haveing you ask yourself. So take a moment. How do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in an unhealthy patterns? So, you know, we all know The Five Love Languages and things like that. But like actually think about it like the way you're giving and receiving love. Is it actually helping you? Have loving relationships? Or is it in this chaotic, unhealthy pattern? Like these are important things. And then she also had some other examples like boredom as a driving factor and running from relationship to relationship to chase the high.Brad Crowell  Well, that's good. So so what she was talking about, which I thought was really amazing because I, I don't I never I never thought this way. But she said if you had chaos in your childhood, and actually she specifically was talking about helicopter parents. And she said, if your you know, parents were in, and then out and then in and then out and there was this chaos happening. You often expect that later on in life. So if you end up in a stable, you know, relationship, it doesn't mean stable is good or bad. It just means it's the opposite of what you expected. So more often than not, you're inclined to feel like, this is boring, or this is safe. Or this is kind of ... you know, and ...Lesley Logan  It's like when Carrie broke up with Aidan, everyone. She broke with Aidan because they didn't fight. And ...Brad Crowell  I don't actually know any idea ...Lesley Logan  Sex in the City. Everyone who's listening is knodding their head, we all know, because that was a big deal. There was a whole thing.Brad Crowell  So glad I wasn't there for that one. Okay. Yeah, it's like, guys, it's like, Oh, my God. It's like when Carrie broke up (Lesley: Stop.) with Aidan (Lesley: Okay.) because they didn't fight all the time.Lesley Logan  No, but it's I think people need examples sometimes ...Brad Crowell  I think it's a perfect example. I just was not there with you on that one.Lesley Logan  It's fine. Everyone who's listening is with me. (Brad: Yeah. Oh yeah. Oh yeah.) They're all with me ...Brad Crowell  No, it's a perfect example because, you know, and then conversely, if you had a relatively stable, you know, or quote unquote, "boring", you know, like, like childhood love from your parents, and you find yourself in a chaotic relationship. You may be like, "I can't do this," you know. And anyway, I thought that was really interesting. I never thought about that before ...Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah. And also, so first of all, Lauren has an incredible course. And she has a bunch of services. There was also the book, Getting the Love You Want, which is a very interesting book about explaining the old brain, the new brain, and like, how, when you first get a relationship, you fill all of your own holes. So ... (Brad: Harville Hendricks) Yeah. So you fill all your own holes to so people like look, "I'm this like, perfect, amazing being and there's nothing crazy wrong with me here. Don't like I'm so good. And your partner, by the way, is doing the exact same thing." And then after a few months, it's so exhausting trying to fill those holes. But you don't even realize that you're doing it on a subconscious level. So (Brad: Right.) you think that that person, the person you're with is filled the holes like they've solved the problem. So and then when both of you start filling your own holes, you're like, "You change. They change, blah, blah, blah." Actually no, you both just started to be your fucking selves. (Brad: Interesting) Yeah, and so a lot ...Brad Crowell  Well she does, Lauren talks about that, at the very beginning. She talked about like, you know, being lonely and filling that loneliness with someone who you know, you shouldn't be with.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Oh, totally. Who hasn't done that, (Brad: Yeah) like 17 times not personal. Just, I just know, I'm still I'm watched. But I think it's like, it's ... (Brad: Calling you in behalf of a friend.) Yeah, calling for a friend, actually. Anyways, it's a great book, if you're like, "I don't know, if I'm gonna read the book." He was on Oprah. And you can like get the Cliff's Notes version, or you can just work with Lauren. But the reality is, is like, we have to stop pretending that how we were raised is um not affecting the lives and the choices we have now. And then also we have to understand that like we are making choices. You may think things are happening to you. And this is just the people that are around you. And these are the only options but we all actually have choices and when you start to recognize that like how you are choosing to give and receive love is a choice. (Brad: Sure.) Even if you feel it's subconscious, it can actually be a conscious decision. When you make those changes, you can actually start to change the patterns of the day you have and find the person you want to have and look at Lauren, look where she's at right now.Brad Crowell  Yeah. Interesting. Wow. Yeah. And what she's referencing is having moved through a very tumultuous time in her life to finding a place where she can be herself. (Lesley: Yeah.) With someone that she loves in a business that's functioning and all good things. (Lesley: Yeah.) So again, worth listening to. One thing I loved that she said, was she helped define the difference between a therapist and a life coach. (Lesley: Which I knew you would love.) Yeah, well, she is a life coach, therapist, generally speaking, has degrees in therapy, and they, you know, like help you dig into the past. Right. And so you're really breaking things down and trying to uncover, you know, where you came from. Whereas a life coach is helping you plan and look at your future. And I thought that was such a clear distinction, such an easy way to understand the difference between the two ...Lesley Logan  I knew you love it. (Brad: Yeah, that was great.) I was like, "Oh my gosh, Brad's and I fucking love this definition." And also, by the way, you could have a somatic therapist, (Brad: You can.) life coach, (Brad: Yeah.) and so you, like somatics is really amazing. Again, if you like, "What's somatic?" Listen to the other episode, just gonna make you do it. But you can have both and like, you can also have a therapist and a life coach, because one could be dealing with one thing and one you could be doing. (Brad: 100%) So you know, just that there are different things. But I loved how she explained it. I agree with you on that love.Brad Crowell  Yeah. All right. So finally, let's talk about those BE IT action items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your conversation with Lauren Zoeller? She summed it all up with one, one solid action BE IT action item. She said, look at the patterns that have shown up in your relationships, and write them down. Why has every relationship ended? And is there a common thread?Lesley Logan  Yeah, and I think you can look at friendships, as well as in family relationships, as well as love relationships. Like I think like, you know, we're not, we are different, with different people ish. But we all kind of wrote this thing. So like, if you look at how you how maybe a family member and you had a falling out, or a friend you had falling out, I bet you there's some common threads. And I think that can be worth journaling about. I'm not saying shame and judge all yourself, please. That's not what I'm saying ...Brad Crowell  But it's still a hard thing to dig into and look and review. And, you know, I mean, I think that it's easy to avoid. Let's just say it can be easy to avoid thinking about this stuff. (Lesley: Oh yeah) So when you start to uncover it, it may be a little bit uncomfortable. You know, because if you're honest with yourself, you know, how much a part of the ending of those relationships where you? Obviously, it takes two people to be in a relationship. So you were clearly a part of it. How?Lesley Logan  Yeah, and I think like, it's not like we're saying you should take all the blame, because that's not it at all. (Brad: No) But you should just actually look at like, what was your role in it? And like, if you're like, "Well, listen Brad, my person cheated on me." Okay, that's fine. I do not blame anybody who was cheated on, like as the reason for that, because that's a whole other ball of wax. But you can look at the red flags, that you ignored at the begining of the relationship that (Brad: Yeah) got you in relationship with someone who cheated on you. (Brad: Sure.) And there, and so you looking at those red flags that you ignored, those are choices. And you made those for specific reasons. (Brad: Yeah.) And there's nothing wrong with the choice you made. But then you can actually have this like, red flag marker. So when you're on a date, and you see that red flag and you go, "Oh, here I am with the same pattern of dating this person who is doing this out of spite..." (Brad: Exactly. Yeah.) And one thing, put a stop sign up. But you get to say, "Hey, you know, you said something. I just would like to go back to that. And just kind of explore that a little bit. (Brad: Yeah) Could you mind like, like, just give me a little bit more from that." And if they like dig a hole that's just like, wow, that's red flag just became a frickin fire, run. (Lesley laughs) (Brad: Yeah) Run away.Brad Crowell  Yeah, I mean and it may be, I mean, there's, you know, in a yet last steps, so we were talking about or so in our last recap, we're talking about clients and firing a client. Same thing, I mean does, we're not necessarily talking about love relationships here. We're talking about relationships, right? So it could be you keep taking on clients that you, you know, I don't know, maybe, you know, we teachers, as a teacher, we all feel like we can help someone, but maybe we think we can help them emotionally in addition to physically and maybe that is like consistent issue. Because after a while you're fried, you're ready to move on to the next person, but now they're your client, you know, and it's possible that you've been doing this over and over again. You know, who knows? There's just a It's interesting to go back and take a look. And like what what Lauren said, look at the patterns that have shown up in your relationships and write them down. Why has every relationship ended? And what is that common thread?Lesley Logan  Well, I'll be really honest. Like we would not have dated had I not like looked at the red flags and like been playing that game. And like looking at how all of the people I dated before you ended, I was like, "Oh, wow, there's a common interesting theme." And so when you came on, like, I challenge you a couple of times, like, ... you relate to something I said, "That doesn't, I don't like that doesn't work for me." You know, and like, we had to talk about it. So like, it's not like, if you see it, you're like, "I have to run away right now." No, you can actually have a conversation around it, (Brad: Sure.) and then like, say things and it really does allow you to have an adult relationship where yes, there's vulnerability. But what ...Brad Crowell  I don't even think I asked you like things, you know, in that sense, I, I actually, I don't, I didn't have a plan when I was going through my divorce. But I did write things down. Because I couldn't keep it in my head anymore. I just couldn't juggle it all. Because it's so much as thinking about, you know, it's like replaying every conversation I ever had, ever. And, you know, you know how it is, it is right, and but what it allowed me to clarify, were the things that were important to me. And so when I went when we began to date, I literally had a list. I actually ...Lesley Logan  I had a list. I had a list. I deleted my list after you dumped me because I was so mad at you. Because okay, so he came over with beer, and I'm fucking gluten free.Brad Crowell  Oh, I did that.Lesley Logan  And he came over with beer. This is not the first time I told him I was gluten free. This is the third time I had to tell him I'm just gluten free. And he brings us beer like, "Hey, I brought this beer." I'm like, "I'm gluten free. I can't drink it." And he's like, "Oh, yeah, that's right." And then he proceeded to take two hours of telling me everything he liked about me, and then why we couldn't go on a date. And I had this list and you checked off everything on the list, but I literally had written out remembers I'm gluten and dairy free. And I was like, "Fuck this list. It's not fucking working. I he meant everything and he fucked this up and he fucked that up." And I deleted the list. And then 10 days later, you're like, "Hey, I'm at Trader Joe's. I know you're gluten and dairy free. So I got you some veggies and hummus." I'm like, "Are you fucking kidding me right now?"Brad Crowell  You know what? You know what I did. I actually went home and looked up. What is gluten free? Because I didn't know. You were like, "Yeah, I can't eat bread." I was like, "Oh. Well, okay, I guess she can't eat bread." So I didn't bring bread. But I actually looked it up. I was a dairy was pretty straightforward.Lesley Logan  Yeah. (Brad: But gluten that I didn't know.) and Yeah. But that's if I didn't know you had a list. I have, I have a list anyways, obviously it worked out for us. But it's because you both ... reflected on past relationships and how they ended. (Brad: That's pretty funny.) And hey, I'm so happy we're together. We're celebrating seven years this fall. (Brad: What? That's crazy.) Yeah. Anyways, I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell  I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan  Thank you so much for joining us today. First, I'm grateful you're here. I hope you enjoy these. You can always give us feedback on our podcast at beitpod.com/tellme and we want to know how you're going to use these tips in your life. Give us a tag, tag @laurenzoeller. Let us know and please share this with a friend who is having needs in their relationships that need to be met. (Brad: Yeah.) So we can help them out with Lauren's amazing tips and we'll catch you in the next episode.Brad Crowell  Bye for now.Lesley Logan  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others BE IT TILL YOU SEE IT. Have an awesome day! 'Be It Till You See It' is a production of 'As The Crows Fly Media'.Brad Crowell   It's written produced, filmed and recorded by your host Lesley Logan and me, Brad Crowell. Our Associate Producer is Amanda Frattarelli. Lesley Logan  Kevin Perez at Disenyo handles all of our audio editing. Brad Crowell  Our theme music is by Ali at APEX Production Music. And our branding by designer and artist, Gianranco Cioffi. Lesley Logan  Special thanks to our designer Jaira Mandal for creating all of our visuals (which you can't see because this is a podcast) and our digital producer, Jay Pedroso for editing all videos each week so you can. Brad Crowell  And to Angelina Herico for transcribing each of our episodes so you can find them on our website. 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We experience rejection all the time–in job interviews, while dating, when pitching a story or even trying to join a new club or activity. But if rejection happens so often, why is it so scary? And worse, what if our fear of being rejected is keeping us from going after the things we want? Jia Jiang is kind of a rejection expert–he's gone from a career in the corporate world to the risky world of entrepreneurship. To conquer his fear of rejection, he started the 100 Days of Rejection Therapy blog, where he documented an experiment in which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis. Now he's authored a bestselling book, and owns a company dedicated to helping people overcome their fear of rejection. In this episode, he shares what he's learned over the years on how to turn fear into triumph.

Surprise! No guest interviews this week because I had to chime in here again, I was too excited and ON FIRE for this topic, and when God puts it on my heart I have to be obedient. Its time for a girlfriend chat, we gotta talk about how negativity could be KILLING your confidence and what to do about it. I give you a great framework I learned years ago and its been life changing. Also we talk 5 ways we can disrupt this pattern that starts with awareness. Get ready for a kick in the pants friends! 100 days of rejection by Jia Jiang:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQJoin the free and fun community of faith led women taking action on their dreams: https://www.facebook.com/groups/275631504657791/?ref=shareWant to feel more confident and sure of yourself? Wanna uncover WHY you haven't been operating in your level 10 confidence. I am so excited to come along 5 of you in the month of April for confidence and courage coaching. Email me the word "confidence" at couragequeenpod@gmail.com and I'll walk you through what I offer to see if its a fit for you! XOXO- J

I Like Art Podcast is so excited to share this incredible interview with Canadian artist Celine Gabrielle.  Hear all about Celine's experiences auditioning for and attending an arts high school, how her career path veered away from the arts and how experiencing injury lead her back to the arts and her becoming a full-time professional artist. Celine's career has taken off and she talks about her journey and mission for transparency in the arts and her passion for taking time to cheer on and encourage fellow artists/creatives. Make sure you check out Celine's artwork through her website and all of her socials. Check out Celine Gabrielle's art and all the things here: Website: https://www.celinegabrielleart.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/celinegabrielleart Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/celinegabrielleart/  Tik Tok: @celinegabrielleart Pinterest: @celinegabrielleart   Shoutouts/Mentions: Art For Your Ear Podcast with Danielle Krysa aka The Jealous Curator- Interview with Celine Gabrielle: https://www.thejealouscurator.com/blog/2021/09/24/fear-is-a-theme/ Instagram Tag for Celine's "The Million Dollar Artist Project" #tmdap Instagram Tag: #100muggies Movie: Magnolia Books: Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang , Mindset by Carol S. Dweck   Find Sara Glupker- Podcast host here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saraglupker Website: https://www.saraglupkerart.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SaraStrongGlupkerArtist YouTube Channel: "Cherry Tree Art Studio - Sara Glupker" https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0wtbrnl7JIj-XtHM85u50w  

I'm Brenna Jeanneret, children's lit author, mother, rock climber, and outdoors person, and podcaster joined by Josh Monken, children's lit author, father, science communicator, and podcaster. Josh and I have embarked on this kidlit journey together this year, having become critique partners early in the year, only to find that our powers combined could make captain planet. Maybe not, but at least our powers combined can make a pretty good podcast.  Our guest for this conversation was Matt Forrest Esenwine. You can find him on Twitter @mattforrestVW or his website mattforrest.com If you're interested in hearing more about how to handle rejection. Jia Jiang's Ted Talk, What I Learned From 100 Days of Rejection was incredibly eye-opening.  Find us on Twitter and the whole episode archive at verse.show, and as always, let us know what you think via a rating, review, or comment! Thanks and see ya next time. 

#032 - Join Jennie for the “take messy action” episode, where she discusses adaptive and maladaptive perfectionism. Turns out one of these is good– surprise! Jennie also digs into the fact that comparison is the thief of joy–and comparison goes hand-in-hand with being a perfectionist. The fact is, perfectionist tendencies cause you to either limit your potential or live as a shadow artist, and we'll dive into where this behavior comes from and why it's more prevalent among women.My article about curiosity: Exercising to Make Life More *Titillating*The Confidence Code, by Katty Kay & Claire Shipman. Read the review here. A quote I looooove: “If you're not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you've launched too late.”Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection, by Jia Jiang. If you want the episode freebie, you can get that at: jennieoconnor.com/perfectDon't aim for perfection; aim for better than yesterday.Follow me: Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest@YourCreativeFairyGodmotherCome watch the video version of these podcasts on YouTube!✨✨If you think this content is deserving of a tip, I'd be ever so grateful if you'd leave one here. I plan to use all proceeds for magick supplies and I promise to use my powers for good.

The Ideas and Concepts Mastermind (Facebook Group)SecondMix.netmatt@secondmix.netSummary and review of the book Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang. A little bit of a format change for this episode, here are some stories about times I've been rejected, and the toll it took on my life. 

#016 - Join Jennie for the “vulnerability” episode where she dishes on what she's been afraid of her whole life and how that kept her from showing up in her life and business. She learned the tips she'll reveal in this episode the hard way, and her fingers and toes are crossed that sharing them will help you take action on your big idea sooner rather than later. Courage is contagious, and here's hoping we can all rub off on each other and do the thing.The Artist's Way, by Julia Cameron.The War of Art, by Steven Pressfield.Big Magic, by Elizabeth Gilbert.Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown. Check out these blog posts about core values:Knowing Your Core Values Makes These 5 Things EasierHow to Determine Your Personal Values and Be Better at EverythingGet a handle on shame with the shame monster in Big Mouth.Brene Brown's "Man in the Arena" speech can be found here.Permission to Screw Up, by Kristen Hadeed. Here's the post on resilience. Oh, how I wish everyone in the world would read it:Mark Manson's Potty Mouth, Coronavirus and Other Lessons in ResilienceRejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection, by Jia Jiang. Follow me: Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest @YourCreativeFairyGodmotherWord of the day: Entelechy. The realization of potential.I hope this episode motivates you to get out of your own way and discover your entelechy.Thanks so much for listening. Please be sure to subscribe to the show so you don't miss next week where I talk to Adam Schaeuble about his mad skills at connecting people and how he uses generosity to grow his business. It's gonna be a good one!✨✨If you think this content is deserving of a tip, I'd be ever so grateful if you'd leave one here. I plan to use all proceeds for magick supplies and I promise to use my powers for good.

How do you overcome a fear of rejection? By getting rejected over and over again and learning lessons from those experiences. Jia Jiang did just that, and he turned 100 days of rejection into a life-altering experience that culminated in a full blown movement. Hear his story and how rejection completely changed his life.Jia Jang came to the United States with the dream of being the next Bill Gates. But despite early success in the corporate world, his first attempt to pursue his entrepreneurial dream ended in rejection. Jia was crushed, and spiraled into a period of deep self doubt. But he realized that his fear of rejection was a bigger obstacle than any single rejection would ever be, and he needed to find a way to cope with being told no without letting it destroy him. Thus was born his “100 days of rejection” experiment, during which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis–from requesting a lesson in sales from a car salesman (no) to asking a flight attendant if he could make an announcement on the loud speaker (yes) to his famous request to get Krispy Kreme doughnuts in the shape of Olympic rings. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast.