Born to Be a Badass

Alice Alexandrescu is an options facilitator who helps people identify and protect their  mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical boundaries. Currently, she is mentoring under Tony Blauer in his SPEAR System Elite Masterclass. She is an Army veteran, holds a Master of Fine Arts in Behavioral Aesthetics and is a qualified mental health associate skills trainer. In 2020, Alice was awarded third place in the National Veterans' Art Festival for her piece entitled, “888 Paper Cranes”, which she gradually completed while hospitalized for PTSD. Saying, “during my treatment, crushing waves of emotions, thought, and sensation were delicately folded into each crane”. Alice's work can be viewed in her Instagram where she just lays her studio and research methodology as a public living journal in video and photography.   In this episode, Alice and I discuss: Being In tune with your elements - Air, Water, Fire and Earth The Three D's - Detect, Defuse, Defend  Non-violent communication - jackal mindset versus giraffe mindset   Key Takeaways: Everybody deserves to live out their dreams but usually conflict and harm gets in the way of that, either coming from other people or from the bully within. Defending yourself from attacks from both fronts will help you live your life the best that you could.  Have an understanding of what you want to protect and express that with passion. Create a clear system of boundaries. Practice stillness and quietness. Have compassion on your body, be mindful of what you're eating and doing.  Remember D1, D2, and D3. Detect to avoid, be situationally aware to not be in a threatening place in the first place. Defuse to deescalate, when the first D doesn't work, try to defuse the situation, or get to a place where you can be safe. Defend to protect yourself if the other options are unavailable.  Step out of violent communication where somebody wins and somebody loses.. Shift into being able to let both sides win together. Use language to heal each other.    “Language is the first technology - effective, clear, language to represent what's going on in our internal world to coordinate, create, and manifest" —  Alice Alexandrescu   Connect with Alice Alexandrescu: Instagram: https://Instagram.com/alicejoanirene    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

Melissa Soalt is a women's self-defense pioneer, a black belt hall of fame recipient, former trauma psychotherapist, and the creator of Fierce & Female Self Defense. She is a forerunner in full-force padded assailant scenario training, her approach is both practical and transformational. She has taught thousands of women how to safeguard their boundaries, protect themselves from danger and resist attack while reconnecting women with deep-seated, primal and emotional powers to live safer, bolder, and fuller lives and to reverse female fear. Melissa is an outspoken advocate for self-defense as physical feminism, she has been featured in national and international media and has also taught in Europe, India, Nepal, and Kenya. She provides customized online training and corporate consulting and is at work on a manifesto for women.   In this episode, Melissa and I discuss: Pre-assault indicators, the power of fear, and innate awareness. Staying focused and alert for street crimes  Signs that someone is going to physically attack you Seeing the whole person   Key Takeaways: Pre-assault indicators go beyond physical cues, manipulation and terror tactics are part of it. Fear is pervasive, it affects every decision you make in your life. We need to have an innate awareness, attuned fully to our intuition. The feeling of unease, or discomfort are important factors. . When you feel like a person is trying to distract you, do these things: watch their hands, have a neutral face, see as wide as possible, create a bit of distance, and observe scouting.  Watch out for signs of when someone's about to attack you. They will often be anxious, build up adrenaline, and so will be shifting from foot to foot, going into a boxer's stance. You may also notice their jaw clenching forward and an unmistakable tension.  You want to see the whole person if you want to remain safe and prepared from any sudden movements that they may do, watch their shoulders - they'll go back before striking.    “Most of us don't go around punching things, choking people, grabbing people from behind. But we need to learn what that looks like so that if we're out in the street, or a shopping mall, and somebody has this intention, we'll see it faster - if we have that kind of training." —  Cynthia Jolicoeur Rood   Connect with Melissa Soalt: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fierceandfemale/  Website: http://www.fierceandfemale.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-soalt-aka-dr-ruthless-a457456/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTwPfQoC4d7TTj6KPoR1J5w     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

Raven Scott is a survivor of an abusing relationship with a narcissist, she's gone from being a people pleaser to a kick-ass author, podcaster, and mentor and she's a certified meditation teacher and a Destiny Coach. She teaches women how to shed negative patterns one step at a time, to find their power and potential through healing so that they can kick ass in their own life. Raven has a terrific podcast called “Unlock Your Destiny” and she recently published a book that's a memoir combined with an empath's healing guide, that book is called “Empath and The Narcissist: A Healing Guide For People Pleasers”.    In this episode, Raven and I discuss: Spotting a narcissist and examples of manipulation When psychological abuse turns physical Concept of Safety Nets and keeping safe from cyber-stalking Coping with PTSD through breath and EFT   Key Takeaways: Often, low self-esteem caused by experiences in one's childhood can make them a perfect target for narcissists' manipulation - it's important to make peace with your past and focus on building back that self-worth in order to raise your defenses against people with no empathy.  Narcissist don't have any empathy. You'll know one is manipulating you if they're showing no regard or your emotions and are always pinning the blame on you or something you did.  You often will not get any arguments with a narcissist early on because they will be love-bombing you to gain your trust but when you do argue, you'll find yourself questioning your perception of right and wrong and by the end of the argument, you'll find that the whole problem is you, and it's all up to you to fix it and it's not their problem. Psychological abuse often turns physical, pay attention to the signs and escape.  Recognize Safety Nets - there's many ways you can do to be safe from an abuser and keep yourself safe. A few avenues you can take is through the law, by filing for a restraining order or changing your name, you can also contact family and close friends to help you through transition, and you can also turn off your phone's GPS tracking.    "The biggest thing that narcissists want is attention… treat them like a stranger, don't feel empathy for them and disengage from conversation… give yourself time for you." —  Raven Scott   Connect with Raven Scott: Website: https://www.unlockyourdestiny.net/  Podcast: https://www.unlockyourdestiny.net/podcast  Book: https://www.amazon.com/Empath-Narcissist-Healing-People-Pleasers-ebook/dp/B097CP63G5/       CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

M.E. Heald graduated 2006 with a double major in Criminal Justice and Psychology, and in 2010 with a masters in Criminal Justice specific to gangs and youth offenders. She has worked all over the place, including food service, sales, a few years as a promotional and advertising model, a year as a Miller Light Gal, she has also been an advocate at a sexual assault center and has spent the last 7 years as a corrections officer, the last 9 as a case manager. She trains new staff in self-defense, control tactics, crisis intervention, motivational interviewing, scenario-based trainings, conflict management, negotiations and more.    In this episode, M.E. Heald and I discuss: Practicing situational awareness  Understanding the criminal mind Crisis intervention and negotiations Safety tips to use when travelling   Key Takeaways: Be aware and listen to your gut - it will save you from a lot of trouble.  Understanding the criminal mind will help you keep yourself safe and be one step ahead of predators.  People are complicated, there are a lot of things that happen that make people who they are - choices they made and choices that were made upon them.  Give people a way out, if it's an option, when intervening in a crisis and you might get to them more effectively.    "Know your surroundings, know your go-to places, let the people you trust know where you're going, know who you're with" —  M.E. Heald   Connect with M.E. Heald: Website: https://500rising.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mheald10/?hl=en   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Wendy Keir has spent her whole life recovering from the traumatic aftereffects of being institutionalized in the United Kingdom's care system. She believes that healing from emotional and traumatic scars is an inside out job. The path to successful ongoing recovery and to breaking the cycle starts with your relationship with yourself and others, how you perceive the world around you and changing your inner world.     In this episode, Wendy and I discuss: What is trauma and denial?  Recognizing how trauma affects your life  Processing your trauma and rebuilding back your self-esteem Finding your identity as a fighter   Key Takeaways: A trauma is any event that leaves an emotional imprint within your identity that changes your behavior. Trauma completely changes your personality, body and mind. Trauma can be passed on from parent to child.  Recognizing trauma starts from diving within yourself, it's a process of healing and that starts with being self-aware. Take the one thing that's affecting your life the most right now and address that right now. Take things one step at a time.  One of the things that is often lost when going through traumatic events is self-esteem. You can regain your self-esteem by connecting with the part of you that's able to see yourself from a loving, compassionate, forgiving, and more empowering mindset.  Fear isn't real, it's an illusion of the mind that has been created from what we experienced in the past.    "When you start reconnecting with and connecting with the part that is able to acknowledge, to forgive, to comfort the child or the young woman, or young adult that had that experience, you naturally start to see a different side of your personality. You start to recognize that it wasn't not your fault, it was out of your control. You can start to recognize who it is you are, as an individual." —  Wendy Keir   Connect with Wendy Keir: Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/groups/CoachingandMentoringCollective/  Website:  https://www.consciouscoachingandmentoring.com/  Email:  wendy@consciouscoachingandmentoring.com  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendykier/detail/contact-info/    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

About Meredith Gold: She is a scenario-based, full force, self defense instructor. She's been teaching Adrenal Stress Scenario Training, also known as ASST to adults and teens since 1992 and started her empowerment-based assertive communication and self-defense program RAW Power: Real World Self-Defense in 2000. Meredith's primary focus has always been teaching self-defense and verbal empowerment skills to previously untrained women and teens but her focus has expanded to other high risk targeted communities including LGBTQ and AAPI. She has also been instrumental in bringing awareness to this training method to the martial arts community. She and her husband/training partner Michael Belzer have offered training and instructor certifications to martial artists all around the world. A contributing for Black Belt Magazine for five years, Meredith was inducted into their hall of fame in 2003 when they named her their Woman of The Year.    In this episode, Meredith and I discuss: The difference of martial arts and full force self-defense training RAW Power - The three most important components of self-defense How people can deal with threats  Setting and communicating boundaries clearly    Key Takeaways: Fighting in martial arts and fighting in real life have different rules. You might need to learn practical fighting techniques that will help you defend against predators along with martial arts. RAW stands for Ready, Aware, Willing. These are the three most important components of self-defense.  Be aware when you're outside - predators are always looking for someone who's not paying attention.  Remember “elevator” - communicate clearly that you're not comfortable and escalate with every ignored remark, then give a warning that there will be consequences if they don't stop.    "The most important component in these situations is fighting spirit - it's the deep belief that we have the right and ability to live a safe life." —  Meredith Gold   Check out Managing Violence Podcast by Joe Saunders - Episode with Meredith Gold and Michael Belzer: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s1-ep-6-meredith-gold-mike-belzer-from-raw-power-self/id1441934641?i=1000426719954&l    Connect with Meredith Gold: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rawpowersdtraining/  Website: http://rawpowerselfdefense.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rawpowerselfdefense/    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Melissa Soalt is a women's self-defense pioneer, a black belt hall of fame recipient, former trauma psychotherapist, and the creator of Fierce & Female Self Defense. She is a forerunner in full-force padded assailant scenario training, her approach is both practical and transformational. She has taught thousands of women how to safeguard their boundaries, protect themselves from danger and resist attack while reconnecting women with deep-seated, primal and emotional powers to live safer, bolder, and fuller lives and to reverse female fear. Melissa is an outspoken advocate for self-defense as physical feminism, she has been featured in national and international media and has also taught in Europe, India, Nepal, and Kenya. She provides customized online training and corporate consulting and is at work on a manifesto for women.   In this episode, Melissa and I discuss: When submission is necessary Tonic immobility or rape paralysis  Skills and strategies to counteract tonic immobility Self-defense options when being attacked by a rapist   Key Takeaways: Sometimes submission is the best choice against an attack if there is too much at stake.  Tonic immobility is something that happens to anyone, whether animals or humans, who are attacked by a predator. It serves as an automatic biological response - a cushion for the person who's supposedly experiencing imminent death. This happens to rape victims too.  Use your intuition to dissuade and trick the predator, make some type of noise with the objects around you. Coil in to yourself and don't telegraph your thoughts. Bring awareness into the situation but don't let the assailant's words get under your skin.  If you see a space to take action, take it. If they're face is near your head, scream into their ear. Use your body's natural weapon or get a weapon from around you. Go zero to a hundred on them. If you can get your legs and heels planted on their hipbone, you might be able to get up and run - control the hip to control the situation.   "Your goal is to facilitate escape. But often, to enable escape you have to disable or hurt something on the other person. That's what enables our escape. —  Melissa Soalt   Connect with Melissa Soalt: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fierceandfemale/  Website: http://www.fierceandfemale.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-soalt-aka-dr-ruthless-a457456/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTwPfQoC4d7TTj6KPoR1J5w     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Alice Alexandrescu is an options facilitator who helps people identify and protect their  mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical boundaries. Currently, she is mentoring under Tony Blauer in his SPEAR System Elite Masterclass. She is an army veteran, holds a master of fine arts in behavioral aesthetics and is a qualified mental health associate skills trainer. In 2020, Alice was awarded third place in the National Veterans' Art Festival for her piece entitled, “888 Paper Cranes”, which she gradually completed while hospitalized for PTSD. Saying, “during my treatment, crushing waves of emotions, thought, and sensation were delicately folded into each crane”. Alice's work can be viewed in her Instagram where she just lays her studio and research methodology as a public living journal in video and photography.    In this episode, Alice and I discuss: Standing up for injustice and learning the skills to back up that courage Recognizing cycles of abuse - listening to your intuition Non-clinical art therapy and other tools for healing   Key Takeaways: Learning self-defense doesn't only have to be for yourself, you can use it to protect others and take action when you see injustice and abuse.  Just because the current abuse you take is lesser than the previous, doesn't mean that it's better - don't fall into the trap of abusive cycles.  Survivors of abuse often speak of a “bad feeling” that they get before the abuse happened. Learn to listen to your gut and respond to it accordingly.  Creations of art often bring about healing through self-reflection and expression of pain. Similarly, self-defense can be considered a certain kind of art in itself.    “When I start making these choices to advocate for my needs, be self-aware, identify what I need and want, be brave to communicate that, and respond to the response..." —  Alice Alexandrescu   Connect with Alice Alexandrescu: Instagram: https://Instagram.com/alicejoanirene   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Randy is an education-based self-defense coach with over 15 years of experience who has taught thousands of people all over the world to better understand conflict management and violence prevention. In his quest to help people better understand conflict and violence, he has had the privilege to work with a truly diverse group of people including communities such as the first nations in Canada, Women's Shelters as well as professional organizations like law enforcement and private corporations. He also has an absolutely amazing podcast channel called Randy King Live.    In this episode, Randy and I discuss: The most essential skills to defend against alcoholic assailants Avoiding or deescalating social violence  Mixture of skills that supplement self-defense skills The difference between social violence and predatory violence   Key Takeaways: It's easier to choose non-violence if you're already skilled in violence. If you don't have any skills, you don't really have any choice - but if you know self-defense, you have a “fight” to fall back to in situations that need it.  Train yourself to think beyond the situation and to not take things personally in social violence situations so that you can avoid further violence.  Train your communication skills, boundaries and physical skills. If you're able to talk a person out of making a bad decision, you might not even need to fight - but it's always good to have your fighting skill ready.  Social violence is for the ego of the group or the person while predatory violence is more about taking something away from you. One is about status and one is about resources.  Show the predator that they chose the wrong target.    "If your boundaries are strong and you look like you're capable of stopping that person, they're going to choose weaker prey… boundary-setting is the root of self-defense." —  Randy King   Connect with Randy King: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/KPCMartialArts  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Conflictmanagementstrategies  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/randykinglive/  Website: https://www.randykinglive.com/  LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/randy-king-6a2b9b27/    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Aisya Carroll is a certified life-coach, author, mentor, advocate for childhood trauma, a consultant and the CEO of Survivor Not By Chance LLC., whose mission is to help people cope with traumatic experiences by teaching them healthy coping mechanisms. Aisya has clients from across the globe with various backgrounds and experiences. She has mentored teenagers and young adults for over 15 years and is an advocate for children and adults affected by childhood trauma and domestic violence. Aisya volunteers to educate the community about racial injustice and systemic oppression in minority communities. She uses her own experiences with childhood trauma, domestic violence and poverty as a tool to help others heal. Aisya is the author of the book, “The Pressures of Becoming a Diamond”, an autobiographical novel about her challenging life experiences. She has a bachelor's degree in business administration from The New Jersey Institute of Technology   In this episode, Aisya and I discuss: Taking back your voice  Becoming a diamond, embracing the pressure  Coping with trauma by releasing emotions Practicing meditation to cultivate a stronger coping ability    Key Takeaways: People will silence you and will invalidate your story, but you can take your voice back and never let it be taken away from you. Speak up and don't let anyone stop you.  There is an inner healing and an inner peace that only you can give yourself.  Diamonds are beautiful, but they are made beautiful by a process of intense pressure.  Our culture teaches us that crying is weak, but it's the opposite - being able to show emotions is strength.  Meditation can be done anywhere, anytime and in any way that works for you - but it gives many benefits for your mind.    “Diamonds are amazing jewels… very valuable, something that almost everyone wants. Yet people forget the process that diamonds go through to be as beautiful as they are… In my life, I had a lot of pressures that pushed me and forced me into becoming the diamond I am today." —  Aisya Carroll   Connect with Aisya Carroll: Twitter: https://twitter.com/NickiJSurvivor  Facebook: http://facebook.com/1169643786528187  Instagram: http://instagram.com/survivornotbychance  Website: https://survivornotbychance.com/  Email:  Survivornotbychance@gmail.com    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Kinko Hamilton has a mission to heal the world. While she was taking a break from her holistic healing practice due to pregnancy or the delivery of her second son, she started learning martial arts thinking that she's learning self-defense. After several serious injuries, she started redefining what self-defense is and now she teaches Tony Blauer's SPEAR System as an official affiliate trainer. Kinko has also studied DTS which is Dacascos Tactical System, kyusho jitsu which is pressure-point self defense, and trauma-informed self-defense. She created and hosted the Women's Self-Defense Summit in 2020 and will continue to host it every year, gathering the world's top self-defense experts to educate women to live inspired and empowered. She's fluent in Japanese and plans to bring her work to her home country, Japan, in the near future. She's also the host of a great podcast called, “Rise Up Against Violence”    In this episode, Kinko and I discuss: Teaching both compassion and self-respect to children Experiencing violence in school and at home  Changing your expectations  Practical martial arts    Key Takeaways: Teach our kids to fight back when someone hits them and stand up for themselves when they're being victimized, but otherwise be kind and compassionate. Teach them to be a fighter with a good heart.  People in authority in school don't often stand up for targeted children because of fear of dealing with the family of the child - but abuse will continue if nobody takes action.  Accept what's happening - stop holding on to what should be or what should've been and see things for what they are.  Martial arts and self-defense are different from each other. Just because you know one, doesn't mean you'll be good at the other.    "Embrace reality. Embrace the fact rather than holding on to an idea. Face the facts and go from there." —  Kinko Hamilton   Connect with Kinko Hamilton: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hamiltonkinko/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KINKOHamiltonpage/  Podcast: https://goddesssway.com/riseupagainstviolence  Website: https://goddesssway.com/ Email:  alohakinko@gmail.com    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Parmila Armitage is the Chief Impact Officer and Co-Founder of Studyviolence.com, an online resource with free online courses on violence prevention and defense. She is a violence prevention and defense teacher, certified trauma-sensitive yoga teacher, and a trauma-sensitive educator. She has created a Train The Trainer Program which educates self-defense and martial arts teachers how to conduct their classes in a trauma-informed and sensitive ways to better reach and empower her students. She has been working with survivors of abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, and substance abuse disorder since 2016.    In this episode, Pamela and I discuss: Experiencing abuse during childhood Predators and narcississts in the entertainment industry, red flags to watch out for and how to survive Caring for your mental health state, recognizing emotional abuse, and utilizing yoga and marial arts  The difference between trauma-informed and trauma-sensitive    Key Takeaways: Many targets of abuse tend to blame themselves for the crime done to them, but it's important that somebody tells them it's not their fault and the shame is not on the target but the perpetrator.  We must teach people that predatory behavior and inappropriate comments disguised as jokes or comments are not okay, and could become the start of exploitation - it could be a predator testing the waters to see what they could get away with.  Healing from trauma is possible through many paths, one of them being yoga. Preventing trauma can be done through learning self-defense.  Take a step above being trauma-informed into being trauma-sensitive, learn to recognize the symptoms of trauma in your students if you are an educator who values trauma.    "Trauma is the root core of all our societal issues… from mental health struggles, substance abuse disorders, domestic violence… it is the core to all of the pain in our society. Violence causes trauma and trauma causes violence." —  Pamela Armitage   Pamela's Book Recommendations:  Dr. Gabor Maté: https://drgabormate.com/book/ |  Bessel van der Kolk: https://www.amazon.com/Bessel-van-der-Kolk/e/B00OTHN2FA%3F Daniel J. Siegel: https://www.amazon.com/Daniel-J.-Siegel/e/B00459LSPI%3F   Connect with Pamela Armitage: Twitter:  https://twitter.com/palmstrikepam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pamela.sisson.73  Twitter: https://www.instagram.com/pamela.armitage.sv/  Email:  mailto:pamarmitage@hotmail.com  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@studyofviolence  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pamela-armitage-b05692104/       CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Melissa Soalt is a truly badass pioneer in the world of women's self defense, the creator of Fierce and Female Self Defense, and my partner in this special series of Fierce and Female Fridays.   In this episode, Melissa and I discuss: Reconciling Buddha Nature and Killer Instinct.  Acknowledging the violent potential as part of your personal identity.  Women Warriors and Deadly Dames - looking into the history of women and violence Violence as a last resort when diplomacy fails   Key Takeaways: In a perfect world, there wouldn't be a need for violence to defend oneself. Your violent potential is always within you on reserve, ready for access whenever needed.  First, violence is not always evil. And second, the potential for violence is a part of people, even good people.  Get acquainted with your identity as a woman warrior. There have been many in history, in many cultures and nations - you'll find that you're not alone. There have been many women warriors and deadly dames.  Fear is what oppressors and predators count upon.    "Women have always been warriors and deadly dames… When we discourage women from learning self-protection, we inadvertently encourage women to therefore submit to victimization." —  Melissa Soalt    Connect with Melissa Soalt: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fierceandfemale/  Website: http://www.fierceandfemale.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-soalt-aka-dr-ruthless-a457456/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTwPfQoC4d7TTj6KPoR1J5w     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

In this episode, I discuss: The many different meanings of “self-defense” and what it actually is False beliefs on attracting violence, and the feeling of being too weak to protect yourself. Learning how to navigate through fear and other limiting beliefs - the cycle of behavior The truth about violence and how not all of it is bad Relying on tools and weapons to protect yourself and other self-defense myths    Key Takeaways: Self-defense is the act of choosing safety when danger is imminent. You don't have to wait to be struck, when you see imminent danger, you can pre-emptively make decisions that increases your chances to avoid violence or harrassment. Tap into the resources that you have, and be committed to not stop until they're unable to hurt you. Give yourself a chance to learn everything you need: principles, mindset and techniques to not be defenseless.  Fear can never be eliminated. Fearlessness is not possible, but you can grow into someone who's more able to handle fear, someone who's able to navigate through fear.  Think about the image of a momma bear - they would do anything, including using physical force, to protect their loved ones.    "You are your best weapon. Your best tools are your brain and your mindset." —  Cynthia Jolicoeur Rood   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Charlotte is a Communications Consultant for Technology and Cybersecurity Companies that make today's enterprises and governments safer. In her off hours, she is passionate about personal privacy and cybersecurity. She has degrees in Communications and Criminal Justice with a focus on cybercrime and cybersecurity.  She was born and raised in Silicon Valley, earned a Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do at age 10, and was a competitive amateur ballroom dancer for several years.  In this episode, Charlotte Jolicoeur and I discuss: Cybercrime and online harassment How to stay safe online  The best way to manage your passwords  The biggest threats to women in the online world    Key Takeaways: Anonymity in the internet is often seen as an opportunity by predators to commit crime Think about the information you're sharing online. Even if you don't think that there's any reason that anyone would target you, it's still important to keep safe and keep your personal posts private.  Change your passwords, make them complicated. Chances are that you're reusing passwords. Once they crack that, they can get to your other accounts too.  Look at your social media profiles and update all your security settings. What you're looking for is posts which show your location, workplace, schedule, frequent places, home address.  Google yourself. Google your information, your phone number, email and full name to see where your information has been posted. There's so much about us that's available out there that we don't know about.    “Go through your friends group and connections, and make sure that you are connecting with people that you trust with your information. Limit your information to everybody else." —  Charlotte Jolicoeur   Check out this website to know if you're email or contact number has been acquired online: https://haveibeenpwned.com/     Connect with Charlotte Jolicoeur: Twitter: https://twitter.com/cajolicoeur  Website: https://athenacomms.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/athenacomms/    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Mary Stevens is a third degree black belt and martial arts instructor with 18 years experience with Karate, weapons and Jujitsu. She holds a master's degree from Oxford University and a post-graduate certificate in education. She runs her own Martial Arts School called the Athena School of Karate, has written a series of children's books and works with an international charity called Fair Fight which empowers young girls in developing countries, using Karate as a tool to develop confidence and self-determination. Mary is passionate about martial arts as a tool for confidence building and is a strong advocate for personal security education.    In this episode, Mary and I discuss: Tips for women for finding and learning about their strengths and weaknesses Going through an abusive or manipulative relationship and how to get out Educating young men and women about avoiding and defending one's self from abuse  How martial arts lessons translate to other parts of life    Key Takeaways: Attending martial arts classes is not only about self-defense, but self-empowerment. Finding your strength is not only in practical arts, but can also be found in reading good books.  When going through abuse, try to see the bigger picture. Taking action to distance yourself from your abuser might be a tough decision, but it's the only one that's good. To know if you're getting gaslit, write everything down. It's important that we teach the youth today, both young men and women, what it's like to be in a healthy relationship in order that they may not fall into an abusive or manipulative relationship. Martial arts can cultivate confidence, discipline, and self-determination - while also of course, giving one more ability to protect themselves.    “A good martial artist is a good learner on all different environments" —  Mary Stevens   Connect with Mary Stevens: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryffwarrior  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/athenakarate/  Website: https://athenakarate.mymamembers.com/    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, or are a survivor, healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

In this episode, we discuss: The most important technique for being safe, our first line of defense What happens in the absence of boundaries Setting firm boundaries  Defending yourself when somebody crosses your boundaries and knowing when your boundaries are violated   Key Takeaways: Set and defend firm boundaries, it will prevent attacks. Setting boundaries is our right. Our ability to set them is what makes us far less vulnerable to intrusion, manipulation, or attacks.  Predators and abusers see the absence of boundaries as a power vacuum - weak boundaries is what they look for. If somebody intrudes on your boundaries, it's not your fault. But it's your right and your responsibility to set boundaries. Acknowledge your intuition if something doesn't feel right. Assert your feelings to someone who's making you feel uncomfortable, and get ready to back up that assertion because it will be challenged.  Predators are looking for a way to control and get to someone's mind; small acts of denial of their control can save your life. Assert your limits, speak firmly.  Setting boundaries is our first line of defense, if a predator crosses that, you have to take further actions to defend yourself. Yell, tell them to back away. If that doesn't work, prepare to defend yourself physically.    "Setting limits around our mind, our authority, our sense of self, it's what keeps us intact as having the ownership over our own lives and determining what's around us." —  Cynthia Jolicoeur   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

In this episode, I discuss: Common examples of and statistics on street harassment  How street harassment can affect targets What you can do about street harassment if you're a target A larger perspective on street harassment, more solutions for protecting yourself from predators and reasons behind predatory behavior   Key Takeaways: It's not productive to engage harassers. Your number one goal is being safe, not teaching an asshole a lesson.  Most harassers are generally harmless, but some are actually predators - listen to your intuition, pay attention to what your primal survival system is telling you. Be prepared to take action when you need to. When they move from verbal to physical, you absolutely have to act. You may ask a bystander to walk with you, draw attention to people around, or fight. Do whatever it takes to drive them away. There's nothing wrong with you. You have the right to take space in this world, a right to go about your life unimpeded, and fend off unwanted unwelcome comments, gestures and touching. Walk confidently, listen to your intuition and don't let predators take your joy away from you.    “Your body and your life are worth protecting. So be prepared to do whatever it takes to protect yourself." —  Cynthia Jolicoeur Rood   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Mytrae Meliana is a Women's Empowerment and Spiritual Teacher, a Holistic Psychotherapist, Trauma Expert, speaker and author. She leads workshops and programs for women that empower them to heal from trauma, liberate themselves from patriarchy, and connect with the divine feminine so that they can live true, bold, inspired lives. Mytrae is also the founder of Temple of Sound Healing, which teaches Sound Healing to Health and Wellness Practitioners and Social Justice Community Leaders. An immigrant from India, Mytrae shares her story of healing, empowerment, and awakening in her memoir: “Brown Skin Girl: An Indian-American Woman's Magical Journey From Broken To Beautiful”.    In this episode, Mytrae and I discuss: Seeking a way out in an abusive relationship How children are affected by abuse - signs to watch out for and how they may cope Knowing your rights as a human being The clash between individuality and family, culture and religion   Key Takeaways: Acknowledge when you discover that you're living a lie and letting your freedom be limited by other people - you have the capacity to break free and make it on your own, even if it doesn't feel like it.  It's important to explain sexual boundaries to your child; they might be getting abused but don't have the language to express to you what they're going through Own and proclaim your freedom, don't follow the train tracks of control and expectation, and build your own life. Your culture might tell you that God is angry at you or that you are bad, but there's never a moment that you're not loved by the Divine.   "Taking the baby steps when I couldn't chart out anything in my life was a way to crawl forward in my life… we're scared and daunted of what we have to do but take that one step… that's plenty. It's a way to build that muscle and move… you'll be stuck, unless you keep moving " —  Mytrae Meliana   Check out Mytrae's book, “Brown Skin Girl”, here: https://mytraemeliana.com/brown-skin-girl/     Connect with Mytrae Meliana: Twitter: https://twitter.com/mytraemeliana Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mytraemeliana/  Website: https://mytraemeliana.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mytraemeliana/    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Cindy Villanueva is a memoirist and an inspirational writer with a passion for helping women achieve lives of strength and joy. She's the author of a terrific book called “Don't Fight Mad: A Black Belt's Quest To Recapture Joy” and she is the co-author of “Finding Our Wings: Seven Entrepreneurs on Reclaiming Hope and Power”. Cindy is a seventh degree black-belt master instructor and the owner of Ernie Reyes' World Martial Arts. Her love of teaching led her to be an adjunct professor at Concordia University of Texas where she teaches undergraduate marketing and graduate marketing management and leadership. She speaks regularly on leadership and women in business. Cindy has four children and two grand-children and she splits her time between Austin, Texas and New Smyrna Beach, Florida.    In this episode, Cindy and I discuss: Difference between progression in girls and boys when learning self-defense  How to set healthy boundaries and how to communicate effectively Navigating through fear and dealing with it healthily  Warning signs of an unhealthy or a potentially dangerous relationship   Key Takeaways: Don't be afraid to change. Be the person who you're designed to be, that person can change and that's okay. To learn self-defense quicker, be comfortable with getting hurt and be ready to hurt. Sometimes violence is appropriate. Not all kinds of violence are evil.  Think about the upside of embracing that fear vs capitulating to that fear. If you choose the latter, you would be less than who you are designed to be and who you're capable of being.  Don't instantly dismiss yourself when you feel something is wrong. Trust your intuition and make an informed decision.    "As soon as you hear or start saying the word ‘should', run the other direction… there shouldn't be a should, everyone is different. Figure out who you are… and what brings you joy." —  Cindy Villanueva   Connect with Cindy Villanueva: Twitter: https://twitter.com/KnockoutMrktg  Website: http://www.cindyvillanueva.com/ | http://www.komarketingstrategies.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cindyvillanueva/detail/contact-info/    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Melissa Soalt is a women's self-defense pioneer, a Black Belt Hall of Fame recipient, former trauma psychotherapist, and the creator of Fierce & Female Self Defense. She is a forerunner in full-force padded assailant scenario training, her approach is both practical and transformational. She has taught thousands of women how to safeguard their boundaries, protect themselves from danger and resist attack while reconnecting women with deep-seated, primal and emotional powers to live safer, bolder, and fuller lives and to reverse female fear. Melissa is an outspoken advocate for self-defense as physical feminism, she has been featured in national and international media and has also taught in Europe, India, Nepal, and Kenya. She provides customized online training and corporate consulting and is at work on a manifesto for women.    In this episode, Melissa and I discuss: The journey from innocence to awakening into aggression and survival Fighting back against violent attempts from people who won't take no for an answer Our power and potential as part of our original, primordial nature.  The reversal of horrific oppressive culture    Key Takeaways: Don't silence yourself nor let yourself be silenced.  Your body is an instrument of power. Your body, as a tool, can be dangerous to oppressors.  We have to be able to make room in our hearts for the capacity for aggressive force, that's the first step to fighting back. You can still be caring and loving, but at the same time be fierce and indomitable.  The reversal for the oppressor's perceived right to take is our right to take control, to embrace power and defend ourselves.    "Speak up and take action if something doesn't feel right. Free yourself from fears that inhibit you…" —  Melissa Soalt    Connect with Melissa Soalt: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fierceandfemale/  Website: http://www.dr-ruthless.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-soalt-aka-dr-ruthless-a457456/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTwPfQoC4d7TTj6KPoR1J5w     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Alba is an extraordinary woman. She has survived childhood sexual abuse, rape, and domestic violence, and now supports other women who have experienced trauma or abuse. She is courageous and open and willing to talk about subjects and experiences that are often kept hidden. Hearing her share about her journey from trauma to healing is incredibly inspiring.    In this episode, Alba and I discuss: Surviving molestation and rape. Facing traumatic triggers, memories, shame, guilt, and flashbacks. The over-sexualization and exploitation of children. Recognizing red flags or warnings.   Key Takeaways: You don’t have to keep running away from your trauma triggers. When you find someone worthy, surrender, and start living again. Realizing you can take time, regroup, and keep going, you aren’t stuck in one place. Accepting and moving into positive and reciprocal relationships when you are ready for them. Realization of the struggle you are living through and that you have the power to change it.    "Float, catch your breath, then keep swimming." —  Alba Soto   Connect with Alba Soto: Facebook: Alba Cordero Soto Instagram: @albasototlc Website: Alba Soto TLC.com      CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

Sheena has been teaching 20 years, ten of which have been dedicated to self defense. With loads of hands on experience with violence and defending herself and others from violence her expertise is undeniable.  Certified as an Instructor in Krav Maga, Striking and MMA, Firearms, Grappling and more, Sheena owner and Lead Instructor of Krav Maga Salem in Oregon where they also teach Muay Thai, Catch Wrestling, Knife Fighting, Kali and more.      In this episode, Sheena Williams and I discuss: Utilizing martial arts to subdue combative people in a hospital facility.  Learning to engage against violent threats but to meet the people with dignity and respect.  De-escalation in various situations, in yourself and in others. Integrative Defense Strategies by Todd Fossey.   Key Takeaways: When thinking about edged weapons, don’t just think knives, box cutters, or traditional edged weapons, think outside of the box. Adapt your language to de-escalate the situation rather than put the situation/person into crisis mode again. Meet the person at the situation and mental state they are in, not where you feel they should be. Most defense situations while carrying a firearm happen within 6 feet. Utilize the training for that situation.      "I, and I alone, am responsible for my happiness." —  Sheena Williams     Connect with Sheena Williams: Website: kravsalem.com     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

Babita Spinelli is a psychotherapist and certified coach who works with people who are experiencing significant life transitions and couples looking to improve or rebuild their relationships and survivors of trauma and abuse. One of her key areas of focus is on narcissism and how to deal with people who are narcissists. She received the 29 Teen New York psychotherapist award. She's also a lawyer, and she used to work on Wall Street.  In this episode, Babita and I discuss: Setting boundaries so that you can recognize when people are taking space in your life when they shouldn’t be. Setting relationship boundaries by making the space of a sacred couple.  The pressures surrounding getting into and being in a relationship. The narcissism spectrum, the roots of narcissism, and the lack of empathy.   Key Takeaways: If you are in a relationship with a narcissist you need to give yourself permission to leave.  Use an utilize your village to help you leave and to help you stay safe. Use fear as your friend, understand the dangers of breaking up with a narcissist, the cost of taking action, and the cost of not taking action.   Moving forward after a narcissistic relationship, apply what you have learned, realize what you want and need in your next relationship, and ultimately to trust yourself.    "There is an inner voice that is indicating something isn’t right. Notice what you are feeling around the individual you are dating." —  Babita Spinelli   Mentioned: Will I Ever Be Good Enough   Connect with Babita Spinelli:   Instagram: @babitaspinelli   Facebook: Opening the Doors Psychotherapy Website: Opening Doors Psychotherapy   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

Beverly Baker is an amazing badass woman who is a martial artist and self-defense coach. She is the founder of the Metropolitan Finishing School, which is not the place to go if you are looking to learn how to serve tea correctly, it is where you want to go if you want to learn how to keep yourself safe in urban environments.    In this episode, Beverly Baker and I discuss: Distance management: where distance is your best friend.Avoidance, situational proximity, what’s normal for the context of your situation. Circling around behind someone while pretending like you are looking at something else. Tactics for keeping an eye people. Pieing the corner: don’t hug corners, have an open field of vision. Street dodging: utilize the reflections on the windows around you, how are the people around you reacting, turn, and look nonchalantly. Play spot the bad guy, take in your environment and someone who may be standing out When visiting a new city know what you want to do, where you want to go, and what the top crimes for the area are.  Be aware of how people are intersecting with you. They can use charm, discount boundaries, teaming “we”, and/or loan sharking.    Key Takeaways: Preparing for and dealing with the situations that you will encounter. It’s all about what makes sense at the moment you are in and what scenario you are in.  Prepare ahead by knowing what bags you will be carrying and practice how you will carry and store them in the different locations you will be visiting. When visiting a new city decide what do I want to do, where do I want to go, and what are the top crimes for the area.  Feel free to lie and deflect questions back toward the unknown person who is asking about you.    "The largest threats that women face are from people they know."  —  Beverly Baker         Mentioned: Feminist City by Leslie Kern       Widen the Window by Elizabeth A Stanley Ph.D. & Besser van der Kolk M.D.      Visual Intelligence by Amy Herman   Connect with Beverly Baker: Website: https://www.metrofinishschool.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/metropolitanfinishingschool/     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

Danny Burde is the founder of Iron Crew Athletics. He has bachelor's degrees in both psychology and kinesiology. He's a CrossFit level two coach, and was a head coach at NorCal CrossFit (akaNCfit) before he started Iron Crew Athletics. He's been immersed in fitness since he was 12 years old and has an immense passion for helping other people. Danny specializes in helping people find sustainable exercise and nutrition plans and his vision is a world where everyone stays in shape and eats healthy forever. A former police officer who used to respond to domestic violence calls, he’s also waiting to serve his sentence after being convicted of felony domestic violence.   In this episode, Danny and I discuss: Being a police officer and dealing with domestic violence incidents. The cycle of abuse as well as abuse in emotional, psychological, and physical ways. How police officers are trained to handle conflict resolution. Domestic violence: happens to everyone. It doesn’t pick a sex or body type.   Key Takeaways: Danny’s favorite self-care practice is exercising.  Danny’s advice to men in their 20’s is to realize that you are young, don’t give in to the pressure of being in a rush to start your life.   "This incident, this moment in time, does not define who you are."  —  Danny Burde   Connect with Danny Burde: Website: Iron Crew Athletics Instagram: Danny_Burde Youtube: Iron Crew Athletics LinkedIn: Danny Burde Podcast: Iron Crew Podcast Episode on Domestic Violence     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Mila Johansson is a professional director, playwright, and writer. She's the author of 22 plays and musicals that circle the globe, along with two teaching manuals, 101 Theater games, and 50 scenes to go. Mila also teaches social media screenwriting, creative writing, herbology, and Public Speaking at a local Adult Education School. She has just published a book about her famous suffragette grandmother, Jesse Haver Butler, just in time for the hundredth anniversary of women getting the right to vote which is in August of 2020. The book is called From Cowgirl to Congress. Mila lives on her organic citrus ranch in Northern California with her husband, four dogs and a cat. She says that every woman in the United States today owes their voting rights to her grandmother Jessie, and to the others who fought so bravely for women's suffrage. In this episode, Mila and I discuss: Women’s suffrage and the life of women before they had won the right to vote. The fights and lobbying to Washington during the suffrage movement. The variety of issues that Jesse tackled to address the unfair treatment of people.  Jessie, her friends, and her husband’s stories during the fight for equal rights.     Key Takeaways: Mila’s favorite self-care practice is eating organically, eating fresh food, utilizing her skills as a certified herbalist, and walking. Mila’s advice to women in their 20’s is to pay attention more and study history more.  Mila’s best advice for women to develop their own personal power and courage is to recognize that you've always had the power. You have it, assume it today. There's nothing to stop you except yourself.    "Don't wait for the right moment." —  Mila Johanson   Connect with Mila Johanson: Website: MilaJohanson.com YouTube: Mila Johanson   Book: From Cowgirl to Congress   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

Karen Heise is an emergency preparedness coach and firearms instructor. She leads two shooting chapters of The Well-Armed Woman and has multiple instructor certifications. She and her husband have a business where they help individuals and families become better prepared for emergency situations, covering all aspects of emergency preparedness including firearms training and maintenance.    In this episode, Caren and I discuss: Getting exposure to firearms, firearm education, and situational awareness levels. The Well Armed Woman (TWAW) a group of women who meet monthly and practice, learn and grow as shooters. All levels from newbies to experienced competition shooters. Listening to your intuition, recognizing and sensing that something bad is about to happen, and not ignoring it. Conditioning yourself to recognize danger and how to prepare for handling danger when it is imminent.    Key Takeaways: Caren’s advice to women in their 20’s is to just go after what you want. And if you fall down, get back up again. Also know there's a special someone out there for everyone. Get out there, do it and give it your best shot, but be cautious at the same time. Don't be naive, try to educate yourself on how the world works so that you don't follow into some of the common pitfalls that many young women do. Caren’s advice to find your own power and courage is to find your voice, your calm, and learn how to be okay with not reacting.    "These ladies are not only self-protection like-minded and second amendment like-minded, but they're just cool and kind ladies."  —  Caren Heise   Connect with Caren Heise: Website: TWAWshootingchapters.org Email: prepandmakeready@gmail.com     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

#500 Rising is a movement that stands on the strong shoulders of the women who have come before us. Our first mission is to train female instructors in essential self-defense, and to support them as they reach out to their communities and networks to make a difference in the stubborn statistics of violence against women. It was founded by Tammy Yard McCracken. The first instructor training was recently held in Minneapolis, MN, and today’s roundtable discussion features many of those who participated and who were certified as the first officially endorsed #500Rising instructors. Tammy Yard McKracken is owner of Kore Self-Defense & Krav Maga and a globally certified expert level Krav Maga instructor. She is the third woman ever to earn an expert rank with Krav Maga Global (KMG) in North America. She is also one of the instructors for Violence Dynamics. Allison DiRienzo Allison is co-founder of Wolf Dog Marketing, a full service digital design agency, an Executive Team member of the #500Rising and Violence Dynamics organizations, a Board Member on She's Local and the Metrowest Conference for Women, and is a kickboxing instructor. She lives and trains martial arts in the greater Boston area with her husband and two giant wolf dogs. Kasey Keckeisen is a police officer in Minnesota and is an executive officer on the force’s tactical team. He has been training in martial arts for more than 25+ years and holds 6th degree black belts in Judo, Jujitsu, and Aikido and a black belt in Taiho Jutsu. Kasey is one of the founders of Violence Dynamics. Liisa Carter is a civilian follower of Violence Dynamics and a participant of the 500 Rising training. Sheena Williams experience is working in private security working hand in hand with law enforcement in an ER setting. She has since opened her own self-defense school and has been working there for 8+ years where she utilizes her skills in martial arts that she has been practicing for nearly a decade.  Tia Keck along with her husband owns the Rock Hill Martial Arts gym. Tia is also an advocate of training for women to help them be safer not just feel safer.   Kelly Sayre is the owner of Diamond Arrow Group where the training includes situational awareness, pre threat indicators, reading body language, while also making and reinforcing your boundaries.  Amy Stewart Cooper is from Boise, Idaho, and has been training in martial arts for 8-10 years. She has been teaching women’s self-defense for a year and going to self-defense seminars for 3 years. Maggy Rae (Emme) is a self-defense trainer who spent 14 years in the corrections field and was also an officer for 7 years. She believes it is OK to have the fighter mindset and still be feminine. Lisa Abbott  is the owner of Subtle Warrior Self-Defense in northeastern Nevada and she spends her time traveling to teach at self-defense seminars. In this episode, the Guests and I discuss: The #500Rising movement and the recent Foundations Training for the first group of #500Rising instructors What prevents women from attending a self-defense course? Why have Women’s-only as opposed to mixed-gender self-defense and training courses? Benefits and positive challenges within the 500 Rising Training. The advice and corresponding resources to improve self and familial protection abilities.    Key Takeaways: Being understanding and making the training and self-defense environment comfortable for women that have been in negative and triggering past scenarios. Distinguishing between the actions of being responsible for and responsible to a person.   Utilizing teach-backs in training. While intimidating, it is also a useful teaching tool for constructive feedback, and to help you improve as an instructor and coach. Trust your instinct and intuition that you can defend yourself.      "Trust your intuition, always. When you get that feeling that something’s not quite right, listen to it." —  Amy Stewart Cooper   Mentioned: Be your Own Body Guard Training by Coach Blauer   Connect with Tammy Yard McKracken: Email: tym@koreselfdefense.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/tammyyardmccracken/, www.facebook.com/KoreKraveMaga Instagram: www.instagram.com/tammyyardmccracken Connect with Alison DiRienzo: Website:  https://wolfdogmarketing.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wolfdogmarketing/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/wolfdogmktg/    Connect with Kasey Keckeisen: Website: http://violencedynamics.com/   Connect with Sheena Williams: IG: https://www.instagram.com/kravmagasalem/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCN0wzV6Kf5jXVTpvB6iMx-g Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KravMagaSalem Website: https://kravsalem.com/    Connect with Tia Keck: Website:  https://www.facebook.com/rockhillmartialarts/   Connect with Kelly Sayre: Website: https://thediamondarrowgroup.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thediamondarrowgroup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheDiamondArrowGroup/   Connect with Amy Stewart Cooper: Instagram: @streetshieldselfdefense Blogger: streetshieldselfdefense@blogspot.com You Tube: Street Shield Self-Defense   Connect with Maggy (Emme): Instagram:   @mheald10 Facebook: Maggy Rae   Connect with Lisa Abbott: Facebook: www.facebook.com/SubtleWarriorSelfDefense Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/subtlewarriorselfdefense/ Website: https://subtlewarriorselfdefense.com/     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

Caterina Rando is a best selling author, sought after speaker, and an extraordinary women’s business mentor who passionately serves women leaders on a mission. Her over 25 years of educating and empowering audiences and groups makes her truly masterful at providing a ton of value. She shows women how to be loud and proud about the value they bring in order to serve more people and make their businesses thrive. She’s a published author with books including Learn to Think Differently which was released in more than 13 countries and multiple languages. A Women’s Guide to Starting a Giving Circle, and her latest book  The ABC’s of Public Speaking which quickly hit number one in 4 Amazon Best Seller categories. Caterina is an absolute powerhouse and probably one of the most joyous uplifting people you can meet.        In this episode, Caterina and I discuss: Shifting your self-perception mindset, dealing with setbacks, life obstacles, and managing disappointment. Not isolating yourself. Build a community or be a part of a community that supports you. Make an effort to consciously connect and only to take and accept feedback from trusted sources and to trust yourself.  Not letting typical expectations and things hold you back. Embracing the fear, not worryng about what other people think, and letting go of thoughts of perfection. Creating Giving Circles: providing education and support and improving the lives of girls and women around the world.    Key Takeaways: Caterina’s favorite self-care practice is in the power of action. Getting up and making things happen instead of wallowing and making the conscious decision to be positive in life. Caterina’s advice for women in their 20’s is that everything is going to work out, stop worrying so much.  Caterina’s view on developing your own personal power and courage is to feel the fear and do it anyway. Navigate through fear by taking action. Action is the antidote to fear. Be proactive vs reactive when it’s something you want to do but are afraid to.     "I want every woman to know that she matters, she has massive value to bring, that her voice matters." —  Caterina Rando   Book Mentioned: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers    Connect with Caterina Rando: Thriving Women in Business Center San Francisco Podcast: Expand Your Fempire With Caterina Rando Facebook: Caterina Rando               Thriving Women in Business Website: CaterinaRando.com Books: Learn to Power Think           The Women’s Giving Circle Guide              ABC Speaking   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

In this episode, Cynthia discusses: Playing the positive or negative “what if” game. The “what if” game as a useful tool in preparing for unknown and potential dangers. Mental Blueprints: Imagining scenarios and possible solutions to those scenarios Not dwelling on the negative “What ifs.” Key Takeaways: Create a “mental blueprint” or programming for your brain that helps you to react more quickly and work through the fight, flight, or freeze modes. You freeze when you have no blueprint. Work through “What ifs” that you are most likely to encounter or deal with in multiple situations and all the variables that may occur. Playing “what if” is a beneficial way to prepare for things, instead of thinking about all the things that could go wrong. Let the “what if” game guide you and help you address concerns and questions you may have.   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Chris Nichols is the President and Executive Director of The Medicine Horse Project, which is a non-profit organization dedicated to the rescue of abused, abandoned, neglected, or displaced horses. She is certified in horse inspired growth healing and facilitates programs for veterans, women's empowerment, and at risk youth with her method of discovering resiliency through horsemanship. Chris also offers horsemanship workshops and clinics helping equestrians develop deeper connection and partnership with their horses.   In this episode, Chris and I discuss: How humans and horses work together to learn and heal one another in a safe space. Dealing with and moving past fear through acknowledgement, vulnerability and building a network of support. Women’s empowerment and education through horsemanship activities to build trust, confidence, leadership and personal strength.  Fear now as opposed to an anticipated fear. Meeting basic needs of both humans and horses: safety, nourishment, play and sex/ intimacy.    Key Takeaways: Chris’s favorite self care practice being with the horses and getting to spend undemanding time with them. To spend time in their world and become a part of the herd. Chris’s advice for women is to make yourself a priority. To live and plan your life for you. If you don’t take care of yourself you can’t be your best self for you or anyone else. Have the courage to step back – it’s critical for your own self health. Follow 1 WIG (Wildly Important Goal) You can’t do 10 things well – do one in a wildly important way. Chris’s advice to develop their own personal power and courage comes to the basic 4 needs of humans and animals. Safety, nourishment, play and sex/intimacy. Defining what makes you safe and what actions you are taking to fulfill those things to build confidence, power and to chase your passion so all aspects of your life are fulfilling.   "It takes courage to step back, push yourself back from the complicated table and take a moment for yourself." —  Chris Nichols   Organization Mentioned: Lifesavers Wild Horse Rescue Book Mentioned: Move Closer Stay Longer by Dr. Stephanie Burns  Retreat Mentioned: Wild Horse Empowerment Journey For Women   Connect with Chris Nichols: Facebook: The Medicine Horse Project Website: MedicineHorseProject.org Instagram: @themedicinehorseproject  Donate: The Medicine Horse Project   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Jackie is a Triple Certified Coach in Enneagram, life coaching, and neuro linguistic programming. She lives in the greater New York City area and she works with individuals and companies to create sustainability and to reach goals through self awareness and emotional intelligence. Jackie helps people understand the who, what, and why they are at their core. She is the CEO and founder of Table for Nine Coaching and the host of Table for Nine Podcast. Jackie has also healed from her own experience with abuse and has worked with survivors of human trafficking.   In this episode, Jackie and I discuss: The consequences of your mindset. Repressed memories: how the brain can hide memories and bring them to the surface later. Self discovery as part of the healing process. Giving yourself trust and forgiveness. Use of the Enneagram model. Neuro linguistic programming. Develop self awareness, ask yourself “why” repeatedly to get to the core issue.  Tips to recognize sex trafficing. Somatic experiencing: when trauma and abuse take up reside in your body until you deal with the trauma and can heal completely. Self awareness and fear. Why am I afraid? Is it fear or is it an actual risk to my well being?   Key Takeaways: Jackie’s favorite self care tip is to get up and get dressed for the day even while working from home. Now that she is more confident in herself and her business, she likes to get up and get half dressed. Professional on top, sweats on the bottom. Jackie’s advice for women is to develop their concept of boundaries. You don’t need to feel obligated to everyone and everything. Have and set your boundaries, say them out loud, and stick to them. Jackie believes that for women to develop their own personal power and courage they need to start saying no and sticking to their no. Your no has power, keep your power, don’t people please.   "Get yourself in the habit of boundaries as early as you can and in every area of life. Don’t just have them in one area, have them everywhere." —  Jackie Coban   Connect with Jackie Coban: Website: Tablefor9Coaching.com  Instagram: @tablefor9coaching  Podcast: Tablefor9   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin    

Dr. Emee Estacio is the author of the best selling Psychology in Your Life series of books and world renowned expert in community health and applied social psychology.   In this episode, Emee and I discuss: The importance of mindset in setting goals, having grit, powering through and making your goals a reality. Managing our emotions and balancing our feelings. Dealing with imposter syndrome (feelings of self-doubt, incompetence, and hiding imperfections that make you feel like a fraud). Understanding that healing can begin when you acknowledge that you are human and that we all need help sometimes. Fear and its positive role in human existence. Self-publishing your book one step at a time.   Key Takeaways: Emee’s favorite self care practice is using the TLC technique to explore her inner critic message, understand where it is coming from, and move forward. Is it true, is it logical, is it constructive?  Emee’s advice for young women is to not be too hard on yourself and don’t compare yourself to others. Emee’s advice for capturing your own personal power and courage is to embrace yourself. Understand that you are not perfect, and when you embrace yourself warts and all, you can embrace yourself for the badass that you are.   "Your self doubt, this feeling of incompetence, all this fear that you might be experiencing. Always remember that you have a message that’s worth sharing. That there are people out there who’s lives will be transformed because you have written your story." —  Emee Estacio   Connect with Emee Estacio: Facebook: Self Publishing Made Simple Website: Self Publishing Made Simple  Books: Change Your Life for Good Imposter Syndrome Remedy Fear is Not My Enemy   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin    

Joell is the founder of the Square Peg Foundation. She has been an equestrian since childhood and has participated in many different disciplines including racing, polo, hunting, jumping, 3 day eventing, and reining. She has worked professionally in many facets of the equestrian industry, special events, breaking and training of young horses in addition to teaching. She has taught hundreds of students to ride. She is a registered behavioral technician and she has always been passionate about changing the way people teach. She’s an advocate for alternative education and has been published nationally in equestrian publications regarding a gentler and more creative approach to teaching students and training horses. Since she started working with developmentally challenged children, Joell has been developing a unique teaching method which resonates. Her philosophy of Inspire, Guide, Challenge, and her sensitive style of instruction have helped hundreds of students to achieve important goals. In this episode, Joell and I discuss: Introducing Square Peg students to the polo world of discipline and focus, helping them feel confident, empowered, bigger, stronger, and faster.  Advocacy for education: utilizing different learning styles, and learning outside the classroom through exploration and movement.  Square Pegs birth story: A reputation as a riding teacher with patience and teaching tough to teach students, utilizing horses that were seen as “not useful” anymore. Utilizing the “Horse Boy Method.” to cultivate and connect the students with the beautiful parts of themselves and to create a physical environment without as many sensory triggers issues as possible.  Horses respond to sensory responses and have a high level of connection. Horses will communicate with you. You just need to listen and know them.   Key Takeaways: Joell’s favorite self care practice is riding horses because it kindles her passion and brings her satisfaction.  Joell’s best advice for young women is to be open to and be on the lookout for mentors and teachers. Be aware that they don’t always come in the form you think they should. Fail your way to success, don't dwell on screw ups; it's a waste of energy.   Joell believes women can develop their own power and courage by starting with intention. Journal, meditate, create a vision board, and have quiet focused time. Use your own talents and calling to do something with conviction and to bring joy and comfort to the world and others.   "Square Peg is where everybody fits" —  Joell Dunlap   Connect with Joell:   Twitter: @SquarePegRanch Facebook: Square Peg Foundation Website: Square Peg Foundation.Org Email: joell@squarepegfoundation.org  Instagram: @squarepegranch   Book Mentioned: A Damn Fine Hand by Joell Dunlap   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin            Show notes by Podcastologist: Kristen Braun   Audio Production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You’re the expert. Your Podcast will prove it. 

Katie Toliao Hurd is a member of Blauer Tactical Systems’ Mobile Training Team, a first degree Black Belt in Krav Maga and the Program Manager of Krav Maga at Combat Sports Academy (CSA) in Dublin, CA. She held a spot on the 2009 U.S. National Muaythai team that competed at IFMA, the Muaythai World Championships in Bangkok, Thailand. Katie is also a member of the Krav Maga Alliance Training Team, an MTAA Champion, a KMA Force Instructor, and was voted the Krav Maga Alliance 2017 'Instructor of the Year'.   In this episode, Katie and I discuss: The importance of giving yourself grace and not pressuring yourself to be 100% all the time, and how that can open you up to more authentic experiences. Training with impact reduction gear to more closely recreate possible scenarios in order to learn how to respond effectively when there is an actual threat. The importance of marrying your verbal skills with your non-verbal skills and how the right mindset can help you de-escalate a situation, or help you adapt when it doesn’t. Overcoming the negatives narratives women tell themselves to take charge of your own personal safety and find your inner badass.   Key Takeaways: Give yourself permission to have a bad day or not have it all figured out, you may be surprised by what opens up. The right mindset, confidence, and calm in tense situations can go a long way to de-escalating and avoiding violence. If you can de-escalate, you should de-escalate. If you can walk away, you should walk away. You don’t have to be a top athlete – anyone can be a person who can live safer, and protect themselves if they have to.   "There's something on this primal DNA deep level that makes us protectors. Maybe you haven't been able to connect with that part of yourself yet, but that's inside every single woman I've ever met. So (don’t allow) your narrative about who you are and what you're capable of prevent you from seeking out more education and skills and training and let yourself tap into that." —  Katie Toliao Hurd   Connect with Katie Toliao Hurd:   Instagram: Katie Toliao Hurd (@katiesmashhurd)  Email: kt.hurd@outlook.com    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website    

Megan Hamilton is a public speaking coach for women with speaking anxiety. She's a classically trained actor and a professional musician and used her technical understanding and 25+ years of performance to create a public speaking system that works.   In this episode, Megan and I discuss: The unique challenges Women face overcoming learned passive behavior that diminishes the impact of their valuable message. Navigating the battles to hold your boundaries, and discerning what’s worth fighting for.  The ways women physically hold themselves that diminish their voice, and some tips on how to stand tall and firm in stature and voice. The power of controlled breathing to calm your fight, flight or freeze response and bring your rational mind back into control.   Key Takeaways: Trust your instincts and take action to keep yourself safe rather than dismissing it just because somebody else says you're being ridiculous. Acknowledge mistakes, but avoid apologizing for messing up or speaking out. Learning how to stand correctly, using your body’s full potential, makes you more aware and connected to your surroundings. Learn your system and practice it. The more wins you get, the more courageous you feel, and the more comfortable and confident because you can see it working.   "We need to hear from the voices that we haven't heard from. And those are the underrepresented groups. It's women, it's people of color. It's the LGBTQ community. It's the voices that traditionally have been squashed because the current system ain't working." —  Megan Hamilton   Mentioned: Women & Power: A Manifesto: Beard, Mary Free Speaking Guide: ubu skills   Connect with Megan Hamilton: Website: ubu skills version 2 Twitter: ubu skills/ Public Speaking (@ubuskills) Facebook: ubu skills - Consulting Agency Instagram: ubu skills - public speaking (@ubuskills)  LinkedIn: Megan Hamilton - Teacher - St. Lawrence College   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website  

In this episode I explore the impact of the pandemic lockdown using Tony Blauer's 3Ds of Self Defense:  D1: Detect and Avoid D2: Defuse and De-escalate D3: Defend HIGHLIGHTS: Getting ambushed by COVID-19 – what we’ve been dealing with during the pandemic What can we do to weather this strange time and how we can prepare for a second wave Applying concepts of: What we can and can’t control or influence Knowing our WHY and what it can cost us if we’re not prepared Desirable And Less Desirable Possible vs Probable Intimidation and Indignation "...we are resilient, we are strong and we have a lot of power and creativity and courage. We can tap into that and we can learn from it and we can prepare ourselves to do better for the next bizarre thing that comes down the path." Check out Tony Blauer's KNOW FEAR seminar that includes A simple system to identify fear and turn it into courage. The infamous acronym that will snap you out of a fear-loop instantly. Guidance on how to stop procrastination. Tips and strategies to make fear your fuel instead of your enemy. NOTE: Blauer Tactical is offering 50% off enrollment in the KNOW FEAR course during the pandemic; use COVID19 at checkout. CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin, and check out my website.  

An Author, Speaker, and Philanthropist, Shawanda R. Randolph has dedicated her life to helping people live out their God-given purpose.  An Alumna of Wilmington University and Fuller Theological Seminary, Shawanda has authored such books as Fresh Manna: Journey To A New Beginning (2018), and is featured in the Best-Selling Book, 20 Beautiful Women, Vol 6 (2018) where she shares her story of overcoming adversity and learning to live "in purpose and on purpose." Her most recent book, Seeing God: Hope For A New Land (2019), explores the barriers we created and must overcome in order to live in community as God designed to create HOPE for the future generations.   Retired from the U.S. Air Force, Shawanda currently resides in Arizona, with her son, where she has established DeeCilla Comfort Center to support youth and young adult survivors of sexual and domestic violence, and human trafficking. In this episode, Shawanda and I discuss: Resisting decompartmentalizing experiences in your life so you can use the good and bad to find tools for dealing with challenges. Refusing to let other people’s perception of what you should be feeling get in the way of owning your own process and finding your strength. Embracing and leaning on empowering relationships in your life, and learning how to be vulnerable in a healthy way. How Shawanda’s organization fills in the gap to help women who don’t qualify for a shelter and other unmet needs, and how to find similar resources where you are.   Key Takeaways: What happens to you does not define you. You get to decide how to respond and who you want to be. Connect to the connections in your life. Sharing your story can begin to heal you and empower others.  There is power in being vulnerable in healthy ways.    "The greatest strength comes from being vulnerable and realizing that you can't do it all on your own. Allow yourself to be vulnerable enough to have strong people in your life that will help hold you up and will have your back." —  Shawanda Randolph   CONNECT WITH SHAWANDA: Website: DeeCilla Comfort Center Facebook: DeeCilla Comfort Center  Instagram: instagram.com/deecillacenter Twitter: DeeCilla Comfort Center (@DeecillaC) Book: Fresh Manna: Journey To A New Beginning    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website  

Dr. Alice Atalanta is an Ivy League graduate with a Ph.D. and three Master's Degrees. She is also a single mom of 2, USA Boxing athlete, sexual assault survivor, former All-American snowboarder, self-defense and combatives instructor, and sought-after commentator in the fight world on the topic of women's personal defense. Dr. Atalanta's life defies expectations, as she attacks the self-limiting beliefs that can hold women back and provides insight into the struggles and triumphs of being a female player on a male playing field. She devoted years of her life to serving the veteran’s community and now specializes in working closely with writers from high-performance backgrounds, from former Navy SEALs to Corporate powerhouses.     In this episode, Alice and I discuss: Busting the mindset of girls being weaker or in need of rescuing and encouraging the next generation of women to know they can be who they want to be. How going through something traumatic can make you stronger, but processing the emotions that come from trauma can help you heal and find true strength. Embracing the idea of “empowering violence”, having respect for what you are capable of, and understanding the repercussions of your actions.  Manifesting a radical sense of self-acceptance, and letting that inform your path to becoming empowered and stronger.   Key Takeaways: You can't control the world, but you can be as prepared as possible. If you don’t understand that violence is inevitable in this world, you will be unprepared when it finds you.  People who truly understand violence are the last to glorify it. The more you can connect with and appreciate your primal instincts, the more empowered you will be, and your life will be richer.   "When you tune into your awareness of violence, or your awareness of your own capacity for violence, you're also tuning into your own capacity for tenderness and altruism and sensuality and survival." —  Alice Atalanta   CONNECT WITH ALICE: Website: https://www.aliceatalanta.com/ Twitter: Alice Atalanta (@AtalantaAlice) Facebook: Dr. Alice Atalanta Ph.D. - Home Instagram:  Alice Atalanta Self Defense (@aliceatalantaselfdefense) LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/draliceatalantaphd Embrace the Violence article: https://medium.com/@AliceAtalanta/embrace-the-violence-bfe18ff38cd9   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website    

Partner, Owner and Co-Founder of Shaan Saar Krav Maga & Wellness, Reneé is a Wellness / Fitness Author, Certified Fitness Trainer, Sports Nutrition Specialist, Wellness Coach, Krav Maga Self Defense Instructor, elite-level competitive bikini athlete and published fitness model. She founded The Shaan Saar Foundation in 2018 to help provide personal safety and self defense education for every person regardless of their ability to pay Reneé specializes in teaching self defense for violent crime survivors, teen girls and LGBTQ+ In this episode, Renée and I discuss: The creation of Krav Maga for the Jewish population to defend themselves in WWII Advice to young women to pursue things that they love, but also not lose their wits or their plan for the future To develop your own personal power and courage, follow your gut. If a situation feels wrong, get out of that situation   Key Takeaways: People are not always what they seem, don’t be overly trusting It’s a self-defense misconception to think that what you learned last year will help protect you still, you always need to update your skills  Situational Awareness and having a practical skill set are the most important strategies for effective self-defense      “[as a trainer] you have to meet people where they are. You have to be real, and you have to be vulnerable and you have to share because otherwise, there's not that level of trust. And if people don't have that level of trust, they can't start moving into healing." —  Renée Rose     Connect with Renée: Twitter:  https://twitter.com/PDXLuxeMama Website: https://www.shaansaar.com/  https://www.shaansaar.org/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/reneeroseshaansaar/    Song: Silence by Marshmellow   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with Cynthia on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin    

Tracey Kroot is a licensed and insured California private investigator with 30 years of experience in investigations, more than 17 years as a sworn peace officer, and seven years with the Social Services Agency of Santa Clara County. She also has experience in the world of corporate investigations, where she has worked undercover. Tracey was recently selected as one of the Power Women of the Year by Small Business Concierge magazine.   In this episode, Tracey and I discuss: The scope of services Tracey is able to provide as a private investigator, from background checks on potential dates to complex and difficult situations requiring information the average person cannot get on their own. The importance of having a well-thought-out plan before attempting to leave an abusive relationship, and the benefits of having a PI on your side to provide evidence to support the claims you are making. The team approach to helping victims of violence or abuse, involving investigating and gathering evidence, legal advice, and therapeutic help. Stepping into your own personal power as a woman.   Key Takeaways: Private investigators have an arsenal of resources available to uncover information that could be vital to your, or a loved one’s, personal safety. If you find yourself in a vulnerable position legally, there are people who can help you document things and research things to help you make your case. A PI can stalk your stalker, but you must be prepared to handle your self-defense with training and appropriate weapons and techniques. When you think that all is lost, maybe it’s actually time to step into something completely new, give it a try, and see what happens.   "I encourage all women...to make an informed decision...Get the education, the information, so that you can make an informed decision on if you want to leave, or how you want to protect yourself and your children." —  Tracey Kroot   CONNECT WITH TRACEY: Facebook: facebook.com/KrootPI Website: Kroot Private Investigations: Home Email: Tracey@pi-kroot.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kroot-private-investigations   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website  

Amy Stewart Cooper, born and raised in the San Francisco Bay Area, has trained on and off in the martial arts for 25 years. Those arts include Taekwondo, Chinese Kenpo, Kajukenbo (hard and soft style), Tai Chi, Aikido, Okinawan Kempo, Kobudo, and no-gi Jiu-Jitsu.  Since graduating from San Jose State University with a Bachelor of Fine Arts, Amy has worked as a photographer, a receptionist at a veterinary hospital, a behavioral therapist, and an art teacher for developmentally disabled adults. She now owns a restaurant with her husband and a self-defense business with her sensei, and travels across the country to attend Self-Defense Conferences with other self-defense teachers.  Amy’s been married for almost 30 years and has two boys who are now in college.    In this episode, Amy and I discuss: How the areas of martial arts Amy practices and teaches bring different elements together to serve for well-rounded self-defense. The real-life experience of trying to figure out how to defend herself in the middle of an attack, which spurred Amy’s passion for women’s self-defense. The soft skills of avoiding becoming a target, versus the physical hard skills of self-defense.  The essential and empowering practice of respecting boundaries when teaching women’s self-defense.   Key Takeaways: Martial arts and self-defense are complementary, but not equal. Much of self-defense is about avoiding becoming a target and responding to conflict in situationally appropriate ways. Having compassion and curiosity about someone’s reaction, rather than assuming there’s something wrong with them can help diffuse or even avoid conflict. Practicing situational awareness is not about being paranoid, it’s about noticing things that are different around you, which more often than not, enhances your life experience. Embracing who you are, and being happy and confident are the best things you can do to avoid being a target.   "Self defense is life enhancement. The things that we do to protect ourselves, to be a hard target, make our lives better on a daily basis anyway. Know your own boundaries, be able to enforce them. Practice situational awareness, understanding what's around you, in a way that's not paranoid. And then trust your gut. Always trust your gut." —  Amy Stewart Cooper   Connect with Amy:    Facebook: facebook.com/StreetShieldSelfDefense Restaurant: bellaaquilarestaurant.com   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website  

Natasha Gunther has been doing martial arts since she was five years old and she hasn't stopped. She's been training for 18 years and teaching for 10 and she has plans to build her career and open up her own martial arts studio. Having faced a lot of obstacles as a woman in the martial arts community, Natasha iis passionate about addressing the bias and discrimination that many women face as martial artists, instructors, and business owners. Natasha is also the survivor of a sexual assault, and she is here to tell her story.   In this episode, Natasha and I discuss: How the worst parts of her experience teaching martial arts sparked Natasha’s passion to build a safe environment for women in her field.  Natasha’s incredible work with Heroes For Hope as Princess Jasmine, giving kids fighting horrible diseases a bit of hope and joy. The story of Natasha’s assault, the helplessness she felt, and having to be her own advocate. The lack of positive female role models in martial arts, and Natasha’s desire to change that.   Key Takeaways: Martial arts is more than just self-defense, it is life-enhancing and empowering. Knowing self-defense techniques is not a guarantee of safety, you have to trust your instincts. Predators who have assaulted before will have the upper hand. You have to be able to forgive yourself if you are not able to fight them off.  If you can’t find a positive role model, become one!   "You’ve always got to try and build yourself up, even when other people are bringing you down. And I think especially with women it's a lot more common, not only in the personal life but also in the business life. You’ve gotta just keep empowering yourself, find different things that make you confident and unique." —  Natasha Gunther   Connect with Natasha Gunther: Instagram: @princeess_jasmine Facebook: facebook.com/natasha.a.gunther   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website.  

In the first half of this episodeI discuss: Assessing your home environment for potential areas of vulnerability Identifying options and resources to improve your safety How to create a “safe room” What to do if you think someone is trying to get into your home   In the second half of this episode, Ruthven Darlene and I discuss: Addressing concerns of personal safety unique to this time of shelter in place for both single women and those who find themselves in dangerous domestic environments. Adapting your self-defense and preparedness to the new world of shelter-in-place.  The complex layers of danger added to homes under the control of an abuser during this pandemic and some tactics for surviving. Putting language to all forms of abuse to shine the light on it and overcome it.   Ruthven Darlene is the founder of Women SV.  WomenSV helps survivors address the risks and challenges of being trapped in a relationship with an affluent abuser. They also offer professional training that assists providers in delivering more trauma-informed care to their patients, students and clients.    Key Takeaways: Identifying areas of vulnerability allows you to implement safeguards You’re actually not MORE vulnerable during the pandemic, you’re just more aware of risks you are a powerful, badass woman with amazing strength and lots of options and resources. You can keep yourself safe by preparing mentally and physically. The rules have changed for single women, and for those in abusive situations, but you can adapt and stay safe. Self-care, in whatever way you can manage it right now, may be one of your best defenses. Surround yourself with people you trust as much as you can. You are not alone, and you will get through this!   "I would ask you to just to stay the course if you can, to take very good care of yourself, to know that there are other women out there that have made it through this dark time, and you can too. It helps if you gather other people around you who understand, and we are there to help you in any way we can. You deserve to live in peace and safety in your own home...keep your eyes on the prize...this quarantine will end and you will eventually be set free." —  Ruthven Darlene   Mentioned:  Confronting Domestic Violence: How to survive domestic abuse during quarantine   thewirecutter.com: Protect Your Devices Against Domestic Abusers   Signal App:      Android App Store   Connect with Ruthven Darlene: Website: www.WomenSV.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Womensv/ Email: info@womensv.org Phone: 1-833-WOMENSV (1-833-966-3678)     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin, and check out Cynthia’s website.      

Nafsheen Luhar is a photographer, artist, speaker, and self-love advocate who transforms adversity into art. Nafsheen draws from her own experiences with trauma, struggles, and pain to recognize others who have been through unimaginable pain and celebrate that through those struggles we gain victory.     In this episode, Nafsheen and I discuss: Embracing who you uniquely are and resisting the urge to compare yourself to others. Nafsheen’s journey as an inspiration to keep going and find a way through. How she learned to be comfortable in her own skin and make changes for no one but herself. How Nafsheen found herself grateful for all she went through because it's made her want to love more and give more to the world.   Key Takeaways: You are not your circumstances or your situations. You are you and what you take out of those things to become. Be proud of your past self for the way you got through whatever you had to get through. Our purpose in life is to enhance the human experience through our own human experience. Sometimes we're when we're in a dark place, and we feel like we have been buried, we have actually been planted.   "Wake up. Look at yourself in the mirror, see what you've done in your life, how you showed up for all those that you love. And that in itself will empower you to be the best version of yourself and give yourself the love you deserve." —  Nafsheen Luhar   Connect with Nafsheen Luhar:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luharqreative  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nafsheen.luhar Website: http://www.luharqreative.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nafsheen-luhar   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website.      

Lisa Abbott started in the martial arts in 1982 in a traditional system that was rooted in Kyokushin. The dojo that she trained in as a brown belt was in a nearby town and she was encouraged to open up a branch of that school. She and her husband built a school on their property in 1990. After 20 years with that school, she left the traditional program, realizing that it was incomplete as far as self-defense is concerned. She began searching for somebody to learn from and received her first self-defense instructor certification from Phil Messina of Modern Warrior Defensive Tactics in Long Island, New York. He recommended books by Rory Miller, and after reading Meditations On Violence, she started training with Rory in 2010.She has been teaching Self Defense seminars since 2004.   In this episode, Lisa and I discuss: How martial arts gave Lisa a grounding point and an outlet for dealing with pain. The gaps that needed to be filled in between martial arts and self-defense. The importance of trusting your “bad feelings”. Uncovering myths and bad tips about personal self-defense.   Key Takeaways: Women are not attacked in the same way as men, so self-defense needs are different.  Be aware of not only what to look for, but how to see things that are not quite right. It’s about having the skills to de-escalate or to change the dynamics of a situation. There are many helpful tools and tips out there, but the key is to have an arsenal to use when you need them.   "Part of the difference between martial arts and self-defense is absolutely the alpha skills – the listening to your intuition, the training of us females to be able to stand up for ourselves in more than just the physical realm." —  Lisa Abbott   Connect with Lisa Abbott:   Website: https://subtlewarriorselfdefense.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SubtleWarriorSelfDefense/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/subtlewarriorselfdefense    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website for more information and resources.  

Beverly Baker: A student and observer of violence dynamics, Beverly Baker began her education as a girl with wanderlust undeterred by tales of the boogeyman. She has dodged peril and outwitted threats on the streets of major American cities, Europe, the former Eastern Bloc and Southern Africa. She has developed and taught personal safety courses for LAPD's Community Police Academy, corporations, LA's Skid Row, women’s shelters, colleges/universities, public school districts and the general public for 20 years.   Kelly Sayre:  The founder & President of The Diamond Arrow Group, teaching women situational awareness so they can move forward with confidence and live life on their own terms.   In this episode, Beverly, Kelly and I discuss: How understanding the environment of where you are going helps you be prepared, and being prepared makes it easier to enjoy the experience. How to avoid looking like you don’t know what you’re doing, in order to avoid the wrong kind of attention. Various gadgets and tools to use for safety and peace of mind in transit. Being mindful of the information most of us give out freely without thinking about it.   Key Takeaways: Do your research make sure that where you're going is a good fit for you. Use visual tools like Street View and internet photos so you will recognize places you need to find. Do everything you can to blend in and not make yourself a target. Once you’re settled in at your destination, make sure everything is in order, relax, and have fun!   "When you're planning and researching where you're going, think about ‘Does this make sense for me as a single woman to go here? Does this make sense for (my family) to go to this particular neighborhood?’ Given whatever your personal circumstances are, make sure that where you're going is a good fit for you, understand a little bit about the culture" —  Beverly Baker   Connect with Beverly Baker: Website: https://www.metrofinishschool.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/metrofinishing1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/metrofinishingschool/    Connect with Kelly Sayre: Website: https://thediamondarrowgroup.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kellysayre/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/sayre_kelly?lang=en CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

Tracy Bliss Buckley is the CEO and owner of Live Your Bliss Travel and events. She's an extraordinary event producer who loves to help other people create magical moments and memories that last a lifetime. She arranges vacations and events all around the world in all kinds of places, including castles, private yachts, villas, retreat centers, and cruises. She's also the survivor of domestic violence. And she is an amazing, badass, powerful woman who has literally risen from the ashes like a phoenix to create an absolutely amazing life.   In this episode, Traci and I discuss: Traci’s experience with domestic violence and abuse and how she has risen through her journey to the point she is today. Where her idea for travel and business and supporting women got started. Safety on solo and group trips and what to do to prepare for travelling. Tips and tricks for travelling on trips.   Key Takeaways: There are beautiful things everywhere you go – there are different experiences depending on the type of traveler you are, look around and what lights you up and calls to your soul. Travelling with others allows you to connect and link with others, breaking down barriers, in ways that aren’t always possible in traditional settings. Managing the financial aspect of your travel will depend on where you are going and what you plan on doing. If you Google what not to do if travelling on your own, you will find a list of things you need to be aware of.   "If you just smile, people will engage with you and talk to you and you will meet the most incredible and amazing people, because you're open, and you're on your own people will engage with you." —  Traci Buckley   Connect with Traci Buckley:   Phone: 916-595-2046 Email: Info@BlissTravelAndEvents.com Instagram: @liveyourblisstravel   Facebook: Women Who Love to Travel With Traci Bliss Buckley & Bliss Travel, Events & Retreats Club   Website: BlissTravelAndEvents.com & LiveYourBlissTravel.com LinkedIn: Traci Buckley   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website for more information about me, my background, and my services.

Josea has over 18 years of study and experience working in the field of holistic health. Her work is grounded in training in Somatic Therapy, Attachment Theory, Healing Sexual Trauma, Visionary Craniosacral therapy & SER, Shamanic Study, Grief-tending, Holistic Nutrition and Yoga.  She’s an amazing healer, leader, and entrepreneur with experience and specific training in working with healing sexual trauma, developmental & attachment trauma & somatization/chronic pain.   In this episode, Josea and I discuss: How holding on to negative emotions can affect our bodies. Healing from sexual trauma and violence, both as men and as women. Developing the body as a resource. Regulating and rewiring your nervous system.   Key Takeaways: You are the expert in what your body needs. To know that information, you need to tune in to and listen to what the body is telling you. Find somewhere that feels amazing when you go there, both physically and mentally. As humans we are so resilient. When we have safety to come back to, we can integrate almost anything. Find support. We are not meant to deal with this alone. We are not meant to be living alone, trying to do this alone, living alone    "When we choose the path of healing and awakening…that starts to build our courage." —  Josea Tamira Crossley   Connect with Josea Tamira Crossley:   Twitter: @joseatamira Facebook: Josea Tamira Crossley Website: JoseaTamiraCrossley.com Email: Support@JoseaTamiraCrossley.com LinkedIn: Josea Tamira Crossley   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

About AJ Clingerman: AJ Clingerman is a No-Gi World Champion Purple Belt. She is an ambassador for Women’s Jiu Jitsu and has run multiple Women’s Only Grappling Camps and Open Mats. AJ also sits on the board and is an advocate for My Bruises Are From – a women’s domestic violence charity. AJ is very active in teaching and competing. She teaches 4 women’s only classes and 4 co-ed classes each week between Indiana Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Academy and Endurance BJJ. AJ is the author of the Instructional Dare to be Fearless; the Everyday Woman’s Guide to Self Defense. She is very active in spreading Jiu Jitsu and Self Defense, teaching seminars for police departments, private companies, and one-on-one sessions.   In this episode, AJ and I discuss: Transitioning from Dance to Martial Arts and teaching self-defense. How AJ got started in self-defense and how it compares to martial arts. Learning how to breathe, learning to fall, and training in muscle memory. Paying attention to the people around you and reacting accordingly.   Key Takeaways: Play games to develop your sense of awareness of your surroundings. Breathe! Your self-defense skills will not save you if you pass out from lack of oxygen in the meantime. Notice those around you – both good and bad. There are those around you that need help, need a friendly gesture, and may just need a smile. Having the knowledge makes a difference. It’s all about what your body can do, more than the number on the scale and what you see in the mirror.   "I am a huge believer in making eye contact with everyone. People are not getting the wrong idea when I’m making eye contact. People who are doing bad things don’t want to be seen. People who are having a bad day and need to be seen, it can change their whole day." —  AJ Klingerman Connect with AJ Klingerman: Email: aj@ibjja.com Facebook: AJ Clingerman Website: TheFightHub.com & IBJJA.com YouTube: AJ Clingerman Instagram: @ajclingerman Roll Model Women’s Only Grappling Camp Book Recommendation: The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin