Podcasts about Baggage reclaim

Natalie shares a personal update about taking a brief podcast break to recalibrate after a challenging year of surgery, medical menopause, and cancer diagnosis - plus encouragement for anyone wrestling with giving themselves permission to pause.   Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/295 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/        

Natalie challenges the exhausting habit of self-blame when things go wrong, exploring why we make everything about our "unworthiness" rather than recognising systemic issues or others' responsibility. A compassionate reminder that it's not all on you. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/294 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/  

Natalie chats with her friend Karen Arthur about their 16-year "age-gap" friendship and how Karen reinvented herself after 50, becoming a model, designer, podcaster and author after leaving a 28-year teaching career. A joyful reminder that it's never too late to bloom.   Episode show notes:  Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/    

Natalie talks with coach Tiffany Han about why procrastination isn't about laziness but a response to being chronically overextended. Learn how to stop beating yourself up and start working with your natural capacity rather than against it. Episode show notes:  Tiffany Han's website:  Tiffany Han Insta Tiffany Han's procrastination freebie Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/  

Natalie shares her recent diagnosis and how listening to her intuition about needing surgery likely saved her life. A powerful reminder that trusting ourselves - even when it's messy and imperfect - is one of the most important skills we can develop.  Episode show notes:  Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the pod by donating to the tip jar: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/    

Natalie breaks down the five styles of people pleasing (gooding, efforting, avoiding, saving, and suffering) helping you identify your pattern and understand how it's blocking your happiness. Discover why you people-please and how to finally start breaking free from this exhausting cycle. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/290 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/        

Natalie explores why we feel so disappointed in early dating - is it the other person letting us down, or are we falling for our own fantasies? Learn to recognize when you're dating your imagination instead of the real person sitting across from you. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/289 Save 30% on Relationship Fundamentals classes: Readying for Love | Overcoming Dating Anxiety | The Compatibility Factor | Could This Be It? | Know Where You Stand | Co-Piloting Your Relationship Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/      

Natalie talks with author and journalist Anna Goldfarb about why modern friendships feel so complicated, exploring how to navigate relationships in an age where we're more connected yet often feel more isolated than ever. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/288 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/    

Natalie opens up about her decision to break up with her mother, exploring how she arrived at this choice and why sometimes stepping away from relationships - even with parents - is necessary for healing and being able to live your life with love, care, trust and respect.  Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/287 Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast  Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/  

Natalie talks with financial therapist Rachel Duncan about why our relationship with money runs deeper than budgets and bank balances. Together, they explore how our early experiences and emotional patterns shape our money story, and why healing our relationship with money is about so much more than just learning to manage it better. Note: the term 'f-up' is mentioned a few times in the episode.  Rachel Duncan: https://www.moneyhealingclub.com Save 50% on your first month of Money Healing Club membership with the code BAGGAGE: https://www.moneyhealingclub.com/club  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/ Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast   

Natalie takes us on a candid exploration of self-advocacy and what it means to truly have our own back. Drawing from her personal experiences in 2024, she digs into why speaking up for ourselves can feel so challenging, how our people-pleasing tendencies get in the way, and why being "difficult" or causing inconvenience when advocating for ourselves isn't just okay - it's necessary for our wellbeing. Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast  'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/    

This week's episode is about attachment, a topic Natalie's delving into for the first time with integrative coach, Elfreda Manahan-Vaughn because she's never been able to see herself in the popular attachment narrative, and she knew there must be others who felt the same way. Natalie and Elfreda discuss a more expansive, nuanced, inclusive understanding of attachment and how it can liberate, instead of hold you back. They talk about the importance of understanding one's own patterns, and the potential for personal growth and earned security, emphasising the adaptability of attachment styles and the steps individuals can take to foster healthier connections with themselves and others. Elfreda Manahan-Vaugn's Mettamorphics website Elfreda on Instagram and LinkedIn 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/ Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast   

Natalie chats with Lindsay C. Gibson, the author of million-copy selling 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents'. They delve into the characteristics of emotionally immature parents, the impact on their children, and the resulting emotional loneliness. They also discuss the importance of understanding these dynamics, the process of reparenting, and the nuances of emotional expression. The conversation highlights how these experiences shape adult relationships and the tendency towards people pleasing as a coping mechanism. They round out their chat with advice for people who want to break the cycle in their own parenting and for those who've had to distance themselves or become estranged.    Lindsay's book: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents Natalie's book: The Joy of Saying No 'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/ Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast     

Natalie chats with wellness coach (and former Baggage Reclaim student) Jolene Park about gray area drinking and understanding our relationship with alcohol.  How we consume and discuss alcohol has shifted dramatically over the last decade or so and more of us are reflecting on our relationship with alcohol but also sometimes unaware of how much the past - our emotional baggage - influences how and why we drink.  Learn about what gray area drinking is, why our relationship with alcohol, including how it affects us, doesn't fit neatly into the two buckets of 'those who can handle alcohol' and 'those who can't', and discover some first steps for reflecting on your own relationship with alcohol.  For more links and resources related to this episode, check out the shownotes.    'Reclaimed' membership: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimed/ Work with me: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/consultations/ Baggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk  Shop courses and books: https://store.baggagereclaim.com Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/newsletter/ Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim  Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast     

In this episode, Robin sits down with Natalie Lue, author, speaker, podcaster, and the visionary behind one of the world's longest-running self-help blogs, Baggage Reclaim. Together they delve into the transformative power of saying “no” and explore the subtle nuances of five people-pleasing styles. Natalie shares practical steps from her latest book, The Joy of Saying No, guiding us to break free from these habits, reclaim boundaries, and embrace a more authentic life. Tune in for a candid conversation that leaves you inspired and ready to confidently say no, unlocking a more fulfilling yes to the life you want. We want to hear from you! Send us your anonymous questions for the Podcast as well as our weekly IG Live Ask The Experts Q&A. https://realloveready.com/submitaquestionLearn more with Natalie:The Joy of Saying NoCA: https://amzn.to/3R8Csd3US: https://amzn.to/3SVoQTQBaggage Reclaim: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/FOLLOW NATALIE: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | XFOLLOW RLR: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | XWatch the podcast on YouTube: youtube.com/realloveready Credits: the Let's Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

On this episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein interviews Natalie Lue, a boundaries and relationship coach, author, and creator of one of the longest-running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim. They discuss the concept of people pleasing, how to validate a child's feelings, the evolution of parenting, and the importance of learning to say no with confidence. Tune in to gain insight on how to become aware of the roles you play in your relationships! [00:00:06] Joy of saying no: Boundaries, Respect, Self-Love [00:05:04] Socialized into people people-pleasing role. [00:09:17] Empowering children to choose their own identity. [00:13:44] Dialogue, not dictation: 6 words [00:19:54] People please to please others. [00:25:47] People pleasing: suffering, pleasing, avoiding, efforting. [00:31:43] Combat people pleasing: Observe, notice, choose, why. [00:37:16] People-pleasing has a hidden agenda. [00:43:15] Express boundaries authentically. [00:49:27] Dealing with people who don't respect boundaries. Natalie Lue is a boundaries and relationship coach who‘s the creator of one of the longest-running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim, and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. The England-born, Ireland-raised author helps people understand how their emotional baggage is interfering with their ability to live their lives happily and authentically. Topics she's particularly well-known for include emotional unavailability, recognising shady behaviour, people pleasing, and values, needs and boundaries. Natalie's authored five books, including Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl and The Joy of Saying No, the paperback of which just came out in the U.S. Her advice has been featured in the New York Times, Forbes, NPR, USA Today, and the BBC, among many others.  Natalie lives in Caterham, Surrey, on the edge of south London with her husband, two teenage daughters, and cockapoo. Instagram @natlue Substack: natalielue.substack.com Website: www.baggagereclaim.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this special  episode, I'm honored to welcome Natalie Lue, someone who has profoundly influenced the lives of countless individuals, including myself. Natalie Lue, a beacon of inspiration, joins us today. As a podcaster, speaker, artist, and renowned author, her remarkable works, particularly "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl," have left an indelible mark. Natalie's narrative is a testament to the transformative power of self-discovery.Natalie's story is a tale of metamorphosis. In 2005, a debilitating illness and a tumultuous breakup with an emotionally distant partner ignited a spark of self-realization. Her experiences became the cornerstone for her incredible journey, which encompasses five best-selling books, the creation of Baggage Reclaim, an archive of over 16,000 enlightening blog entries, and a podcast that has touched the lives of millions of women across 140 countries. Her unwavering mission is to help others overcome abandonment, rejection, trauma, and the damaging effects of people-pleasing, emotional unavailability, and feelings of inadequacy.Natalie Lue's impact extends far and wide. Her candid, compassionate, and humor-infused approach to relationships has gained her a global following. She's been recognized by esteemed outlets like The New York Times, NPR, and the BBC. Her books, including "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl," "The No Contact Rule," "The Dreamer and Fantasy Relationship," and "Love, Care, Trust & Respect," with over 140,000 copies sold, have been pivotal in reshaping perspectives. Her podcast, "The Baggage Reclaim Sessions," has surpassed 2 million downloads. Furthermore, Harper Horizon published her latest book, "The Joy of Saying No," in October 2022.Natalie's expertise is not confined to the world of self-help and relationships. She's also the founder of the kids' lifestyle blog, Bambino Goodies. For the past 13.5 years, she has dedicated herself to full-time blogging, leaving behind a career in advertising. Natalie has shared her insights on relationships at numerous conferences worldwide, and her current focus encompasses subjects like people-pleasing, boundaries, mindfulness, and creativity.Kerry Brett and Natalie Lue dive into a rich and enlightening conversation. Natalie's remarkable ability to unravel complex relationship dynamics and her skillful articulation in "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl" are highlighted. If you've ever grappled with feelings of unworthiness or questioned your value in the world of dating, this episode is a game-changer.Natalie's unparalleled ability to identify and address relationship issues with unfiltered candor.Unpacking the enigma of "Mr. Unavailable" and the emotional turmoil it entails.The enduring impact of the book "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl."How Natalie's work resonates with women worldwide, illuminating shared pains.The societal conditioning that often leaves women with the short end of the stick in toxic relationships.The imperative of never settling in matters of the heart.A sobering glimpse into relationships with "Mr. Unavailable."The importance of recognizing and navigating "Future Faking."The phenomenon of "Fast Forwarding" and its fleeting intensity.Connect with Natalie:Stay connected with Natalie Lue on Instagram @natlue or visit her website at natalielue.com. You can find all her empowering books on Amazon and access her podcast, "The Baggage Reclaim Sessions," on all major podcast platforms. 

¿Qué hay para mi dentro del libro de lecturas recomendadas del programa conocimiento experto El Placer de Decir No de Natalie Lue? Deja de complacer a la gente y empieza a vivir la vida que quieres, aumentando mi autoestima y seguridad. Adquiere el Libro: https://amzn.to/3PDe1CM Curso - Taller La Estrategia Maestra:https://pay.hotmart.com/E86692728N?checkoutMode=10&bid=1695236708107 Conviértete en miembro de este canal para disfrutar de ventajas: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC80Q7vyU9ZMfePxogSdb8kA/join Forma Parte de Revolución 180: https://conocimientoexperto.com/ols/products/diariorevolucion180 Hazte de mi libro: https://amzn.to/3gCY1mO Mis programas: * Revolución 180: https://impactoexperto.com/diariorev180 * Libro Mentalidad con Proposito: https://amzn.to/2KmHMXa * Podcast Conocimiento Experto: https://open.spotify.com/show/65J8RTsruRXBxeQElVmU0b?si=9f444953f34246ab * Boletin Oficial: https://conocimientoexperto.com/ Mis redes: * Sígueme En Instagram en: https://www.instagram.com/salvadormingo/ * Sígueme en Facebook en: https://www.facebook.com/salvadormingooficial * Sígueme en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/SalvadorMingoConocimientoExperto * Sígueme en Twitter en: https://twitter.com/s_mingo La autora Natalie Lue sólo tenía 28 años cuando recibió la noticia, tras 18 meses de ir de médico en médico, de departamento en departamento, de prueba en prueba. Nadie podía decirle cuál era la causa de su enfermedad inmunológica -la sarcoidosis- ni ofrecerle un camino convincente para curarla. Al mismo tiempo, se había guardado la enfermedad para sí misma, sin querer "agobiar" a su familia, jefe y compañeros con información inconveniente. Durante esos 18 meses, Lue había seguido al pie de la letra todas las sugerencias. Al fin y al cabo, había que obedecer a los expertos y a las figuras de autoridad sin rechistar, ¿no? Pero en agosto de 2005, su cuerpo y su alma le dijeron lo contrario. Totalmente contraria a su carácter, Lue se encontró diciendo no a su último asesor y a sus recomendaciones. Fue un momento crucial, que marcó el inicio del viaje de Lue hacia la recuperación de la sarcoidosis y de otra aflicción más discreta: agradar a la gente. Puede que usted no se considere necesariamente una persona complaciente. Pero tal vez pueda identificarse con años de reprimir sus propios deseos y necesidades por "el bien" de los demás, o de hacer caso sin pensar de la "sabiduría" de los demás mientras ignora la suya propia, y de decir sí cuando realmente, realmente, realmente quiere decir no. Si es así, lo más probable es que sufras de complacencia generalizada. Pero, como veremos, no es culpa tuya y hay una salida. La idea de decir que no o de establecer límites saludables puede parecerte aterradora ahora, y puede que no tengas ni la más mínima idea de quién serías sin tus tendencias subyacentes de agradar a la gente. Pero al otro lado de esos límites saludables está tu libertad; quien eres sin esos hábitos arraigados es tu auténtico yo. Así que si estás harto de contorsionarte en cualquier pretzel humano que se espere de ti -posponiendo tus sueños y sacrificando tu alegría y autenticidad- abróchate el cinturón. Prepárate para un curso intensivo para dejar de lado para siempre tus hábitos de complacer a la gente. Edicion Enero 2023 Natalie Lue es una autora y artista nacida en el Reino Unido y criada en Irlanda, conocida sobre todo por su blog Baggage Reclaim. Antes de The Joy of Saying No, Lue autopublicó cuatro libros, entre ellos Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl y The No Contact Rule. Su trabajo sobre el equipaje emocional ha aparecido en Forbes, el New York Times y el Washington Post. Enfoque Aumentando Mi Autoestima e Inteligencia Emocional Se Firme Salvador Mingo Conocimiento Experto #desarrollopersonal #saludmental #mentalidad

¿Qué hay para mi dentro del libro de lecturas recomendadas del programa conocimiento experto El Placer de Decir No de Natalie Lue? Deja de complacer a la gente y empieza a vivir la vida que quieres, aumentando mi autoestima y seguridad. Adquiere el Libro: https://amzn.to/3PDe1CM Curso - Taller La Estrategia Maestra:https://pay.hotmart.com/E86692728N?checkoutMode=10&bid=1695236708107 Conviértete en miembro de este canal para disfrutar de ventajas: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC80Q7vyU9ZMfePxogSdb8kA/join Forma Parte de Revolución 180: https://conocimientoexperto.com/ols/products/diariorevolucion180 Hazte de mi libro: https://amzn.to/3gCY1mO Mis programas: * Revolución 180: https://impactoexperto.com/diariorev180 * Libro Mentalidad con Proposito: https://amzn.to/2KmHMXa * Podcast Conocimiento Experto: https://open.spotify.com/show/65J8RTsruRXBxeQElVmU0b?si=9f444953f34246ab * Boletin Oficial: https://conocimientoexperto.com/ Mis redes: * Sígueme En Instagram en: https://www.instagram.com/salvadormingo/ * Sígueme en Facebook en: https://www.facebook.com/salvadormingooficial * Sígueme en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/SalvadorMingoConocimientoExperto * Sígueme en Twitter en: https://twitter.com/s_mingo La autora Natalie Lue sólo tenía 28 años cuando recibió la noticia, tras 18 meses de ir de médico en médico, de departamento en departamento, de prueba en prueba. Nadie podía decirle cuál era la causa de su enfermedad inmunológica -la sarcoidosis- ni ofrecerle un camino convincente para curarla. Al mismo tiempo, se había guardado la enfermedad para sí misma, sin querer "agobiar" a su familia, jefe y compañeros con información inconveniente. Durante esos 18 meses, Lue había seguido al pie de la letra todas las sugerencias. Al fin y al cabo, había que obedecer a los expertos y a las figuras de autoridad sin rechistar, ¿no? Pero en agosto de 2005, su cuerpo y su alma le dijeron lo contrario. Totalmente contraria a su carácter, Lue se encontró diciendo no a su último asesor y a sus recomendaciones. Fue un momento crucial, que marcó el inicio del viaje de Lue hacia la recuperación de la sarcoidosis y de otra aflicción más discreta: agradar a la gente. Puede que usted no se considere necesariamente una persona complaciente. Pero tal vez pueda identificarse con años de reprimir sus propios deseos y necesidades por "el bien" de los demás, o de hacer caso sin pensar de la "sabiduría" de los demás mientras ignora la suya propia, y de decir sí cuando realmente, realmente, realmente quiere decir no. Si es así, lo más probable es que sufras de complacencia generalizada. Pero, como veremos, no es culpa tuya y hay una salida. La idea de decir que no o de establecer límites saludables puede parecerte aterradora ahora, y puede que no tengas ni la más mínima idea de quién serías sin tus tendencias subyacentes de agradar a la gente. Pero al otro lado de esos límites saludables está tu libertad; quien eres sin esos hábitos arraigados es tu auténtico yo. Así que si estás harto de contorsionarte en cualquier pretzel humano que se espere de ti -posponiendo tus sueños y sacrificando tu alegría y autenticidad- abróchate el cinturón. Prepárate para un curso intensivo para dejar de lado para siempre tus hábitos de complacer a la gente. Edicion Enero 2023 Natalie Lue es una autora y artista nacida en el Reino Unido y criada en Irlanda, conocida sobre todo por su blog Baggage Reclaim. Antes de The Joy of Saying No, Lue autopublicó cuatro libros, entre ellos Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl y The No Contact Rule. Su trabajo sobre el equipaje emocional ha aparecido en Forbes, el New York Times y el Washington Post. Enfoque Aumentando Mi Autoestima e Inteligencia Emocional Se Firme Salvador Mingo Conocimiento Experto #desarrollopersonal #saludmental #mentalidad

Two Dogs waren bei uns im Studio 2 für ein Studiokonzert zu Gast. Wie Beat Keller (Gitarre) und Joke Lanz (Gesang & Turntables) ihre Songs schreiben, und warum sie lieber für Arsenal anstatt West Ham fanen, erzählen sie uns im Interview mit Musikredaktor Omar Fra. Im Anschluss der Song Baggage Reclaim No. 13 live gespielt und aufgenommen im Studio 2.

We're delighted to present a conversation with Natalie Lue, author of the wildly popular blog Baggage Reclaim (baggagereclaim.com) and five books, including the latest, "The Joy of Saying No," that will help you not only identify your people-pleasing style and habits, but also finally leave them behind. In this episode, Natalie shares her unmatched insights on the importance of boundaries and saying no, and the destructive effects a lack of them can have on your body and mind. By exploring the five different kinds of people-pleasing, we dive deeper into the "why" behind the tendency and reframe our understanding of people-pleasing altogether. A new Simplify episode brimming with actionable wisdom awaits you every fortnight throughout the summer! Get the deluxe experience of Simplify in the Blinkist app with the Guide we made to go with this episode. You'll hear even more of the conversation with Natalie Lue, get extra book recommendations, and hear more of Caitlin and Ben guiding you through tools to overcome people-pleasing. Get the Guide by going to https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/friends [1] and entering the code pleaser. We hope you love it! Let us know what you thought of this episode, or just come say hi on Twitter! Find Caitlin at @caitlinschiller https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller [2], Ben at @bsto https://twitter.com/bsto [3]. You can write us all an email at podcast@blinkist.com [4]. This episode of Simplify was produced by Caitlin Schiller, Ben Schuman-Stoler, Phoebe McIndoe & Ben Jackson at Blinkist

Join me this time as I chat to ‘recovering people pleaser' Natalie Lue - author of The Joy of Saying No, and founder of Baggage Reclaim, one of the longest-running self-help blogs in the world.    Most of us (as with our own parents) will have been raised during The Age of Obedience - socialized (especially if we identify as women) to be good and compliant - little wonder then that so many of us exhibit people-pleasing behaviours.    Perhaps it hasn't been a huge issue for us before, but perimenopause impacts on our ability to ‘multitask' in the way we might have managed before now and for many of us holding up our people-pleasing tendencies can become exhausting, even debilitating.    Natalie talks us through the five different styles of people-pleasing: gooding, efforting, avoiding, saving, and suffering - how these tendencies might have arisen in the first place, and helps us to identify which style we most identify with. The chapters that focus on the five styles also highlight ‘things to watch out for' and some ‘quick shifts' to help the reader start changing their behaviours.    The later parts of the book provide a framework for instituting healthier boundaries and troubleshooting when we might get pushback from others or indeed from ourselves! Natalie also suggests invoking ‘the power of the pause', and explains the difference between a ‘hard no' and a ‘soft no' - and when we might want to use each of them.    Last of all we discuss why saying ‘No' to some things opens up space for us to say ‘Yes' to the things we truly value and find joyful.    I'll leave you with this little nugget of wisdom from the book:  “Every time you do something from a place of guilt, fear, or obligation, it always leads to resentment. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but soon.”   The Joy of Saying No is out now, published by Harper Horizon, and you can find Natalie at www.baggagereclaim.com and https://www.instagram.com/natlue    You can also find us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/ and you can listen to past episodes at www.middlingalong.com   It would mean so much if you'd subscribe, rate, and review us to share the love and help others find the podcast too!  You can also find me at https://www.instagram.com/managingthemenopause  or at www.managingthemenopause.com where we offer 1-1 coaching and workplace training.  Get your free 'Guide to your GP appointment' at https://www.managingthemenopause.com/free-resources 

Natalie Lue is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. She just released a new book, The Joy of Saying No, which highlights her six-step plan to help readers find their “no” so they can create healthier boundaries and reconnect with their values and authentic self.

We will learn: The difference between wanting to do things for others and people-pleasing. The 5 types of people pleasing and how to identify which type you fall into. 6 steps for finding joy in saying no. We all have a desire for approval and validation. We all want to fit in and belong, but the problem is, if we're so focused on pleasing other people, we can lose touch with ourselves. So, as always, the first step is awareness. How do we identify our people-pleasing behaviors so we can start living from the inside out, instead of the other way around? That's what we're talking about today. Our guest is Natalie Lue. She is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest-running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim (www.baggagereclaim.com), and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. She helps people understand how their emotional baggage is interfering with their ability to live their lives happily and authentically. She's also the author of “The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want.” Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/289 Become a Mind Love Member for high-value Masterclasses, Growth Workbooks, Monthly Meditations, and Uninterrupted Listening FREE 5-Days to Purpose Email Course Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey team, this week I'm talking with Natalie Lue about her book, The Joy of Saying No. Natalie is the author of the popular relationship and self-esteem blog Baggage Reclaim, as well as the host of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast.With ADHD, we can often end up as people-pleasers, always putting other people's needs above our own. And while being helpful is a great trait, we also need to make sure that we're taking time for ourselves as well.In our conversation today, Natalie and I discuss how to get out of people pleasing and work on setting up boundaries to help keep us on track with what we really want to be doing.Support me on PatreonFeel free to ask me a question on my Contact PageFind the full show note at HackingYourADHD.com/136This Episode's Top TipsPeople pleasing is about suppressing one's needs, desires, expectations, feelings, and opinions to prioritize others' needs and avoid negative consequences.By people pleasing, we create unspoken contracts, and this can lead to frustration when the other party does not fulfill their end. We are often dropping hints instead of being direct about our needs because of our fear of rejection or negative consequences.While it can be hard to say no, it is vital that we are using our no to help us set boundaries that will help us curtail our people-pleasing and allow to prioritize our own well-being.

In this week's episode, Chad and Kelley talk to Natalie Lue, the author of The Joy of Saying No. Natalie is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist and founder of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, the Baggage Reclaim and the Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. Her mission is to help people understand how their emotional baggage is interfering with their ability to live their happiest life and live authentically. Her advice has been featured in the New York Times, Forbes, NPR, USA Today, and the BBC, among many others. In today's episode we speak with Natalie about why we people please and how it's not really about other people but rather a way to control how we're perceived, how our childhood shapes our understanding of how we should live up to other people's expectations, the five different types of people pleasers and understanding which one you are, and improving self-worth, speaking your mind, making decisions that are aligned and living your most authentic life.To connect with Natalie click HERETo connect with Kelley click HERE

How might your life be different if you'd gotten comfortable saying no in your earliest days? No to other people's opinions about everything from education to careers to relationships. No to someone else telling you what to prioritize and how to spend your time. No to people you've never met offering their opinion on what you should or shouldn't do, then tell you how they think your choice worked out.How would your life be different, if you'd gotten okay with choosing for you, and not just for acceptance or obligation? And, how might you reclaim it, if you started getting clear on when and what to say yes or no to from this moment on? And, rid yourself of the need to please? That's what we're diving into with today's guest, Natalie Lue, as a self-proclaimed recovering people pleaser who's spent the past nearly two decades unwinding the need to please and reclaiming freedom and ease. Natalie is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest-running personal-growth websites in the world, Baggage Reclaim and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast, and author of the new book, The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want. In our conversation, Natalie opens up about her struggles with people-pleasing, something we all know about and have experienced to some degree. We talk about the life events that brought Natalie back to herself, back to reclaiming her boundaries and life, and we get into some of the nitty-gritty of what it looks like to say yes to the life you want and how to embrace the joy of saying no. You can find Natalie at: Website | Instagram | The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcastIf you LOVED this episode you'll also love the conversations we had with Susan Piver about the Enneagram and how it helps us relate to others and also set boundaries.Check out our offerings & partners: My New Book SparkedMy New Podcast SPARKED: We're looking for special guest “wisdom-seekers” to share the moment you're in, then pose questions to Jonathan and the Sparked Braintrust to be answered, “on air.” To submit your “moment & question” for consideration to be on the show go to sparketype.com/submit. Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount CodesPeloton: Access high-energy workouts, instantly. Discover Peloton: streaming fitness classes to you live and on-demand. New Members who choose monthly billing get a 30-day free trial, or choose annual billing and get 12 months of Membership for the price of 10. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you have trouble saying “no”? What could the trees tell you if you stopped to listen? In this episode of Awaken Your Wise Woman, host Elizabeth Cush and author Natalie Lue talk about the liberating power of that two-letter word. “'No' does not have to feel perfect. It doesn't have to feel easy. It just needs to be true.” — Natalie Lue You can find the show notes and resources for this and every episode here.

In this KEEN ON episode, Andrew talks to Natalie Lue, - the author of "THE JOY OF SAYING NO: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries and Say Yes to the Life You Want" - about social media, the gospel of wellness and where we might discover our authentic self ​​ABOUT NATALIE LUE: Natalie Lue is the writer of the popular self-help blog Baggage Reclaim, host of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast, and author of several books. The Joy of Saying No will be published by Harper Horizon, an imprint of HarperCollins, in January 2023. ABOUT ANDREW KEEN: Name as one of the "100 most connected men" by GQ magazine, Andrew Keen is amongst the world's best known broadcasters and commentators. In addition to presenting KEEN ON, he is the host of the long-running How To Fix Democracy show. He is also the author of four prescient books: CULT OF THE AMATEUR, DIGITAL VERTIGO, THE INTERNET IS NOT THE ANSWER and HOW TO FIX THE FUTURE. Andrew lives in San Francisco, is married to Cassandra Knight, Google's VP of Litigation & Discovery, and has two grown children. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's a trap many people discover when they transition to retirement: saying yes to0 soon or too often. The problem? Your hard-earned freedom can be squeezed by commitments to other people's needs, not your true priorities. Natalie Lue discusses her new book The Joy of Saying No and the specific challenges faced by people pleasers. She's found that there are five distinct types, and each one comes with it's own challenges. What boundaries might be wise to set in 2023? Listen in to my conversation with Natalie Lue for sound advice. Natalie Lue joins us from Surrey, England. _________________________ Bio Natalie is the author of  the hugely popular relationship and self-esteem blog, Baggage Reclaim (baggagereclaim.com) along with five books, including The Joy of Saying No (HarperCollins/Harper Horizon) and Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl. She also hosts The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast, which has over 3 million downloads. For nearly two decades, she's shared the journey of her transition from toxic relationships to love, care, trust and respect. Her work has been mentioned and featured in the likes of The New York Times, Washington Post, NPR, BBC, The Sunday Times Magazine, and USA Today. _________________________ For More on Natalie Lue The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want  Website _________________________ Is your bank account better prepared for retirement than you are? Take our free quiz and see how you can balance your retirement planning. _________________________ Podcast Episodes You May Enjoy Chatter & Your Inner Voice – Ethan Kross Everyday Vitality – Dr. Samantha Boardman Plays Well with Others – Eric Barker The Emotional Side of Retiring – Kate Schroeder __________________________ Wise Quotes On Why We Say Yes - When We Really Want to Say No "I think a lot of the time we say yes because we are on some level afraid of what will happen if we say no. And that might be a very conscious thought in that moment, but often it's more of a feeling that we have that we just almost automatically respond to it by saying yes.We like to make people feel good, and that means different things to different people. But in that moment, even though we might already know, I really, really don't want to do that, we make that person feel good by letting them believe that that's what we want to do. We like that. We like being thought of as nice and helpful and as unselfish and good. And these prompt us to say one thing on the outside and have a totally different thing going on internally. I think it is a habit." On Boundaries "I wrote this book because I genuinely had discovered the healing and transformative power of saying no and having boundaries. And I make a point of saying that because I think that people see boundaries as saying no and telling people what to do. And a big thing that I learned about having boundaries was boundaries are about being more of who you really are. Because then we're operating from a place of integrity, authenticity, and honesty." On Your People Pleaser Entourage "What people discover when they start saying no is that they possibly have a people pleaser entourage, certain people in their life who benefit from them not saying no. Celebrities sometimes have that group of hanger-ons. And even though they're blowing all their money none of these hanger-ons point that out because they don't want to stop the gravy train. So a lot of people pleasers discover there are certain people who are really reliant on you just going along with things and that can feel very uncomfortable initially. What they also discover though is that a lot of the things that they were nervous about saying no to aren't really that big of a deal." ___________________________ About Retirement Wisdom Living well is the best revenge. Design a Retirement Your Boss Will Envy.

On today's episode Niki is talking to writer, podcaster, artist and speaker Natalie Lue who is speaking at Adventures in Marketing in February. Natalie has written for her website Baggage Reclaim for 17 years, helping people pleasers, perfectionists and overthinkers to break the unhealthy patterns behind their habits so that they can have better relationships, better sense of self and better work experiences.For more on Adventures in Marketing check www.adventuresinmarketing.uk Find Natalie on https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ and https://www.instagram.com/natlue/Loved the podcast? What to do next:Welcome to the podcast and please feel free to binge on some of the other episodes which are coming up and make sure that you subscribe on your favourite podcast platform, so that you never miss an episode.If you are enjoying the podcast please share it with your friends and leave a review as that makes a huge difference to a small business like mine.If you want to grow your business, first you need to grow your audience. I have some great free resources to help you: https://www.nikihutchison.com/freeTo learn more about me, Niki Hutchison, and to join my Audience Growth Collective click: Website: www.nikihutchison.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/nikihutchisonltd/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/audiencegrowthcollectiveInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/nikihutchison/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nikihutchison/About Niki Hutchison and the Audience Growth PodcastWelcome to the Audience Growth Podcast. I'm Niki Hutchison, a Business and Marketing Expert and passionate supporter of Female Founders. I work with clients large and small to help them understand how to use marketing to grow their audience because a bigger audience means bigger sales. Learning how to market your business really is the difference between success and failure. On the Audience Growth Podcast I will be teaching you how to grow your audience, a community of people interested in what you do and I'll be sharing how to turn them from browsers into buyers, from followers into customers. I'll also be inviting very special guests how to join me so you can learn from their experiences growing brands, businesses and audiences too. I've grown both of my businesses using predominantly organic marketing, that's marketing that costs nothing or very little. I believe getting your organic marketing right first is vital before spending any money on ads. It's the perfect way to grow an engaged audience around your business. As a listener of the Audience Growth podcast you're going to learn how to do it.

This week we chat with author and relationship expert, Natalie Lue. Natalie sparked all kinds of epiphanies during our talk as we explored self-care, or lack there of in relationships — romantic or otherwise. From “nice guys” to “good partners don't fight” — we broke down our favourite and outrageous relationship offenders. Trust us, you're not going to want to miss this one.   Read Natatlie's blog Baggage Reclaim and listen to her podcast The Baggage Reclaim Sessions.   PS. don't forget to save the date for her new book releasing January 3rd 2023!

How can you reclaim your creative and emotional life? How can you create content that impacts your audience deeply? We talk to the influential blogger, Natalie Lue, about how she launched and grew her blog, Baggage Reclaim, and how she created a profitable business around her writing. We dive into her success in both self-publishing and traditional publishing, and what it feels like to be an outsider in the publishing industry. We also talk about how to deal with the inner critic, reclaim our emotional lives and learn to say ‘no'.*ABOUT NATALIE LUENatalie is the author of the hugely popular relationship and self-esteem blog, Baggage Reclaim where for over a decade, she's shared the journey of her transition from toxic relationships to love, care, trust and respect. Her podcast The Baggage Reclaim Sessions have been downloaded over 2 million times. Natalie has sold hundreds of thousands of copies of her books including including Mr Unavailable & The Fallback Girl, and How to Self-Sooth Quick Guide.*SHOW NOTES:[02:03] Finding inspiration and setting boundaries with social media.[04:05] How her mother's advice that she should learn to love herself, led to the start of her blog.[07:03] The story behind Baggage Reclaim and what her early posts looked like[12:35] What's kept her writing consistently over the years[17:42] How she approaches her blogging today versus 18 years ago[19:10] Coming up with new ideas and topics for her blog[20:20]  Natalie explains what “future faking” is[21:43] How she decides what to focus on and how Seth Godin's advice: ‘what is the change you're seeking to make?” helped[23:11] Dealing with imposter syndrome and self-doubt[28:56] Trusting our intuition and how to be more intuitive with creative work[35:04] Allocating time across different projects and mediums[36:44] How her income is distributed[38:17] Why she ventured into self-publishing[41:18] Managing her publishing team, and why she recommends hiring help[43:06] Tips on how to promote and market your own book[46:06] Why Natalie's upcoming book will be published traditionally[51:04] A difficult experience with an agent and how she bounced back[54:56] The importance of saying no*QUOTES FROM NATALIE:“If you can quiet the negative voices down, what do you hear? Because I think that your creativity will show itself. Your intuition, your ideas will show what's out there.”“So I've realized that no, no is just the inverse of yes. So when you say no to certain things, then you're gonna be saying yes to something else. No can release you from stuff that you don't even know that you need to be released from. I've realized that no can actually be the, really the greatest gifts of your life, that those nos, that kind of wounded you in the past.”*RESOURCESConnect with Natalie Lue:Twitter: @baggagereclaimInstagram: @natlueBaggage Reclaim - Natalie's blogBaggage Reclaim Sessions - Natalie's podcastBambino GoodiesBooks by Natalie Lue:Mr Unavailable and the Fallback GirlThe No Contact RuleThe Joy of Saying NoThe Dreamer and the Fantasy RelationshipLove, Care, Trust & RespectOther books mentioned:Disconnected by Emma GannonStill Writing by Dani ShapiroThe Practice: Shipping Creative Work by Seth GodinThis is Marketing: You Can't Be Seen Until You Learn To See by Seth Godin*For show notes, transcripts and to attend our live podcasts visit podcast.londonwriterssalon.comFor free writing sessions, join free Writers' Hours: writershour.com*FOLLOW LONDON WRITERS' SALON:Twitter: twitter.com/​​WritersSalonInstagram: instagram.com/londonwriterssalonFacebook: facebook.com/LondonWritersSalon*CREDITSProduction by Victoria Spooner. Artwork by Emma Winterschladen

I am chatting with the one and only Natalie Lue. Natalie is a thought leader on relationships and human behaviour. Her no-nonsense yet compassionate and humorous take has garnered her a following in over 140 countries, and she's been featured in the likes of The New York Times, NPR and the BBC. A blogger, author, speaker, podcaster and artist, her fifth book, The Joy of Saying No, will be published by HarperCollins in October 2022.In this episode, Natalie will share with us how her blog, Baggage Reclaim, came to be, the feeling of liberation she's experienced since learning to say no, and her thoughts on people-pleasing. Besides this, Natalie and I will discuss the power of boundaries, separating your inner critic from yourself, making authentic decisions, and so much more! Keep listening to hear how Natalie is finding joy in saying no. Connect with me on TikTok (@thejennijohnson), shoot me a message on Instagram (@jennijohnson) or my website and let me know what topics you are excited to dig deeper into.Connect with Natalie on Instagram (@natlue) and on her website (www.baggagereclaim.co.uk).

Welcome! Today Deborah Wastell is joined by actress, writer and podcaster Anola Chase, and together they host a sumptuous soirée where the guest list is packed with women who have given Anola food for thought.  Round the table, you will find:Anola herself.You can find 'Kiki in The Cronx' here. New podcast will be added when available. Madonna  With particular focus on: “In Bed with Madonna” Issa Rae With particular focus on: “The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl” and "Insecure" Rihanna Mentions of: Fenty Beauty, SavageNatalie Lue With particular focus on: "Baggage Reclaim" and “The Baggage Reclaim Sessions” The Queen  Samantha Jones Lupita (ancestor, so no link available)Dr Jennifer Gunter  

Natalie Lue is a writer, artist, and creator of the long-running blog Baggage Reclaim and The Emotional Baggage Sessions podcast. She helps people to get themselves out (and stay out) of dodgy relationships and to release unhealthy habits like people-pleasing and perfectionism so they can create better relationships. If you're in a relationship, situationship, or even a marriage that's hurting your heart, Natalie has gems for you! Visit the show notes to get links to find Natalie's work.

In The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie Lue troubleshoots emotional pitfalls we all run into but don't always see, offering practices and inspiration for living and loving with healthy self-esteem.

The Queens welcome Natalie Lue! Most famous as the creator of the extremely popular Baggage Reclaim blog in addition to being a published author, podcaster & columnist . Over the last 15 years, she's focused on helping women break the cycle of unhealthy relationships and the pattern of unhelpful habits so they enjoy more success in different areas of their life. The blog dives deep on topics including emotional unavailability, people pleasing, perfectionism, shady relationships, healing old wounds, and so much more. https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ https://natalielue.com/   Follow us! Weekly Bonus Content on Patreon: www.patreon.com/TheFemaleDatingStrategy Website: www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com Twitter: @femdatstrat Instagram: @_thefemaledatingstrategy Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/The-Female-Dating-Strategy-109118567480771

Today, we have the MOST special guest—this woman is my HERO, and her books changed my life. Her name is Natalie Lue; she's a podcaster, speaker, artist, and writer of well-known books such as Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, a book that means so much to me I can basically recite it. Like so many women, Natalie had a litany of problems that included bad boundaries, toxic relationships, and a penchant for emotionally unavailable men. Until everything changed in 2005, when a crippling disease and the breakup from a barely-there guy triggered an awakening, igniting the desire to fight back. She wrote down her experiences and documented her journey, which led to self-publishing five best-selling books and creating Baggage Reclaim, including online courses, over 16,000 blog entries, and a podcast that has helped millions of women become "reclaimers" in over 140 countries. Through it all, her mission remains the same: if she can help even one person avoid what she went through and support others who have struggled with abandonment, rejection, trauma, people-pleasing, emotional unavailability, and feeling "not good enough," she's making the world a better place. Natalie Lue is a thought leader in relationships. Her no-nonsense, compassionate, and humorous take has garnered a following in over 140 countries, and she's been featured in The New York Times, NPR, and the BBC, to name a few. She's the author of Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, The No Contact Rule, The Dreamer and Fantasy Relationship and Love, Care, Trust & Respect, which has sold 140K+ copies, and her podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, has over 2 million downloads. Harper Horizon is publishing her next book, The Joy of Saying No, in October 2022. Aside from her self-help blog, Baggage Reclaim, she is also the founder of the kids' lifestyle blog Bambino Goodies. Born in England, raised in Dublin, Ireland, she's based in South East London with her husband, two daughters, and crazy cockerpoo. She left advertising to become a full-time blogger for the past 13.5 years. She's the former relationship columnist for In The Moment Magazine and has spoken at numerous conferences and given talks at companies including Amazon and InTouch in the U.S. Her current work centers around people-pleasing, boundaries, mindfulness, and creativity. Kerry Brett and Natalie Lue cover a lot of ground. In my opinion, Natalie is a brilliant writer who channeled this epic book and had the unique and perfect skill set to put it all together. If you struggle to date or think something is wrong with you, unworthy or not good enough, this episode will be a game-changer. Topics include:Why Natalie has a knack for calling a spade a spade, tune into why she's always 100 percent right when it comes to problems within relationships.You're not crazy or losing your mind, why it's crazy-making dealing with a "Mr. Unavailable".Why Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the the gift that keeps on giving.Why Natalie's books speak to the collective pain women, go through.Why women are socialized and conditioned to get the short end of the stick when it comes to toxic relationships.Why this is not the "Last Chance Saloon" and why we should never settle!What a relationship looks like with a "Mr. Unavailable", spoiler alert it's not pretty and never ends well. EVER!Why "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl" was survival for me because society doesn't talk about these things or these types of men who cause all this distribution, havoc, and pain.The definition of "Future Faking" – when someone fakes a future to get what they want in the present.What "Fast Forwarding" is and why things start intense and moments later end up in smokes.Why "Mr. Unavailable's" use "blowing hot or cold" to manage down expectations and control the narrative.What is an "Overlapper" and why they justified their awful actions to a "slip and fa

On this episode of Love It or Leave it I had a juicy conversation with Natalie Lue who is an author podcaster and speaker, and artist at Baggage Reclaim. She is all about helping people pleasers, perfectionist and over thinkers to really declutter their emotional baggage. We talked about life, or what she calls Professor life, and how we can navigate some of the different experiences and lessons and challenges that we have. She shared so many insights around work; what happens when we find ourselves in unfulfilling work scenarios or working relationships? And if you are a manager or leader, what you can do to really start to take some time to learn your team and to learn them as individuals so that you can support them better? Check out our conversation, take some notes and start implementing to create some changes in your life today.   “The very things we are trying to avoid are the very things that contain our healing” - Natalie   Timestamps:   7.01 - How do we find the humour in the darkness? 15.23 - How to get to that space of surrender 20.31 - Sitting with the storm 29.08 - Resetting the equilibrium between who you are now and what you want moving forwards 35.58 - Our inner critic is not neutral 42.54 - Navigating proving and delivery as a manager   Connect with Natalie Lue   Website link - https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/natlue/   
Resources: (books, products, websites, other podcasts)   >>>Read Samantha Clarke's book - Love It Or Leave It: How to Be Happy at Work - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Leave-How-Happy-Work/dp/1913068080 >>>Listen to Natalie's Podcast - https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-baggage-reclaim-sessions-podcast/   Connect with Samantha Clarke:   >>>Discover Love It or Leave It on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/_loveitleaveit_/?hl=en >>>Connect with Samantha on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/samanthaand_/?hl=en >>>Find out all about Love It or Leave It - http://www.loveitleaveit.co/ >>>Follow Samantha on Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/clarkesl/

Do you sometimes find yourself replying to work emails late at night... from bed? Or maybe taking on another task that, almost as soon as you've agreed, you realize you don't actually have time for? Often, instead of behaving as if we're exchanging our intellect, talent, and skills for money, we feel like whoever pays us owns us. And this is where trouble starts.In today's episode Natalie Lue will help you understand why you might be struggling with boundaries at work, and what you can do to start changing these unhealthy patterns. This episode was recorded with a live audience in April 2021, and in the second part you will hear Natalie answer questions about dealing with anxiety, expectations and re-learning how to socialize in the workplace.Natalie is a speaker, author and podcast host around all things emotional baggage, and you can find the Shortcast of her show The Baggage Reclaim Sessions in the Blinkist App.You can try Blinkist for free for 14 days by going to https://www.blinkist.com/simplify [1], tapping on Try Blinkist at the top right, and entering the code BOUNDARIES.Books recommended by Ben and Caitlin:Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Amelia Nagoski and Emily NagoskiWhen the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress, by Gabor MatéProfessional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual, by Luvvie Ajayi JonesYou can find Natalie's online course Reclaim Your Work Boundaries here: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaim-your-work-boundaries-online-course/ [2]Let us know what you thought of this episode, or just come say hi on Twitter! Find Caitlin at @caitlinschiller https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller [3], Ben at @bsto https://twitter.com/bsto [4]Simplify is produced by Caitlin Schiller, Ben Schuman-Stoler and Marta Medvešek. Big thanks to Luiza S. Carvalho for audio engineering chops, Odysseas Constantinou for music, and a special thanks to Chisanga and Evrim for their great questions![1]: https://www.blinkist.com/simplify[2] https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaim-your-work-boundaries-online-course/[3]: https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller[4]: https://twitter.com/bsto

Kimmy and Liza are joined by NATALIE LUE, author, podcaster, speaker, and the brain behind Baggage Reclaim. They discuss baggage, people pleasing, perfectionism, and being the “good girl” or “good guy” in relationships, and how to know when someone else’s baggage is too much. Check out Natalie's work at www.baggagereclaim.com and follow her on Instagram @natlue. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Check out our bonus episodes and other exclusive content on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/join/51firstdatespod. We're in the top 15 podcasts on Feedspot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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In this episode, Natalie Lue, writer for the website, Baggage Reclaim, one of the most-read dating and relationship websites in the UK, leads a conversation on the future of dating. She is joined by Paul Carrick Brunson, co-host of Married at First Sight UK and Celebs Go Dating; Monica Anderson, associate director of research at the Pew Research Center and Charly Lester, founding chief executive of The Dating Awards. Together they discuss the impact Covid-19 has had and continues to have on the dating landscape, as current relationships are redefined and dating is forced to become predominantly virtual; examine the cultural evolution around online dating - how the once frowned upon approach to meeting people has now become the norm; and delve into the influence of swipe culture, how it has caused people to treat each other like “commodities rather than humans,” and whether personalities are forgotten in favour of looks…  

Relationship expert and veteran podcast host, Natalie Lue of Baggage Reclaim takes us through her peri-menopause experience so far. We talk disappearing coils(!), night sweats and a four month marathon training regime that eventually brought Nat to an abrupt halt. RUDE by neccessary. At times hilarious and never dull, Nat gives us some life affirming advice worth a repeat listen. We hope you find something that resonates. Remember to consult a qualified health professional before trying any of the steps mentioned within this episode. Opinions are speaker own. Thank you for listening. Linkage and references: Nat's website https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/  Books available to buy here https://store.baggagereclaim.co.uk/  Instagram @NatLue Facebook @baggagereclaim Podcast Baggage Reclaim on all platforms. Breath work https://www.shondaland.com/live/body/a28199462/best-tool-for-personal-wellness-breathwork/ Sun salutation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGXic1Kx-Qc  Edited by: Me. Artwork: Kareem Arthur. Music: Garden State by Audiobinger  Follow @Menopausewhilstblack here or on Instagram and dance to our playlist featuring lovely guests favourite tunes on Spotify. Email thekarenarthur@mail.com but not if you can't be nice. Finally, please subscribe, rate and review over on iTunes so that we can reach the people who need to hear us. Ta. Be gentle with yourselves won't you? K x  

In episode 1 I chat with Natalie who is the writer of the really informative Baggage Reclaim blog. If you’re someone who wants to overcome your past so that you can raise your self-worth, break depleting habits like people pleasing, unfulfilling relationships, poor boundaries, being self-critical, or being triggered in certain situations then she could be just the person you need to talk to. After sharing her rather amusing dating story we chat about the specifics of her work as well.

Sometimes the reason we’re stuck is we refuse to deal with our limiting beliefs and bad habits. If you want to put an end to your negative behaviors once and for all, let this Stellar Life Podcast with Natalie Lue of Baggage Reclaim be your light. She is an author, coach, and shining light! Tune in as we talk about how to declutter your emotional baggage so you can live life to the fullest.

Hello and welcome to Season 3 of the Wanna Be Podcast. The podcast that takes you from where you are now to where you wanna be in 30 minutes or less. I am of course your host, Imriel!Thank you for listening to last week’s episode with Mary Otumahan, she was dropping so many gems of wisdom. It’s easily the most practical episode of the season.Before I get to this week’s episode I have updates. So I mentioned last week that we’re building a studio in Peckham, before we go live we’re offering founding member rates at £50 per month for 4 hours. We’ve had so much interest I’m blown away so if you’re starting a podcast or have one and want somewhere cosy and professional to record head on over to contentisqueen.org.2nd quick announcement! Content is Queen Women’s Podcast festival is back on June 6th at Kings Place!This week’s guest is Natalie Lue and if you don’t know about this woman you’re about to know! Natalie is a friend and mentor, she’s the Founder of Baggage Reclaim the ultimate source for banishing your emotional baggage, navigating emotional availability in relationships, and communicating your needs. Natalie has been blogging for 16 years, and has over 1400 blog posts on Baggage Reclaim, Natalie has been featured in Glamour, Broadly, Girlboss. She writes for In The Moment Magazine. She has sold over 100,000 ebooks and is just an all-round boss.In today’s episode, we talk about adapting to social media, taking a step back, finding your purpose, getting rid of activities that no longer add value or serve you. We also tackle people pleasing and whether or not it’s important to be likeable.Natalie is a mind-blowing individual, if you aren’t following her then what are you doing! Head on over to baggagereclaim.com and follow @natlue on Instagram.Just a reminder that I’ll  be opening a members-only recording studio for podcasters in Peckham! If you’re interested head to contentisqueen.org to join the waiting list.For updates on Wanna Be follow Content is Queen on Twitter @ContentisQn and Instagram @contentisqueenhq.If you’re enjoying this podcast, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts and share it with your  friends via your insta-stories. We’ve pulled some amazing quotes from the episodes which you can reshare via Instagram and Twitter.To get extended show notes listing any of the tools and resources we’ve talked about on this episode visit wannabepodcast.com.This podcast is proudly a Content Is Queen Production. It has been lovingly edited and put together by Ellie Clifford.

Join Gwen and her friends on her porch for a Galentine's Party! They talk all things narcissism related from their individual takes on what it is to the different people in their lives who are this type.  The fun really kicks up when they launch into how to survive and thrive during or after a relationship with a narcissist be it a family member or intimate partner (warning: some of the ideas given are not endorsed by the guests on the podcast but they sure give lots of laughs.)  Many thanks to Gwen's fabulous friends for sharing from their hearts. So come on up to the porch with your favorite beverage and snacks and spend the evening with some girlfriends!  Honorable mentions: HD Tudor's Youtube channel Knowing the Narcissist; Natalie Lue with her podcast and blog Baggage Reclaim and her book Mr. Unavailable and the Fall Back Girl --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Sarah shares an easy activity from the book, F*ck off and die, that has saved her during a break up time and time again. Jade says goodbye to the soap scum in one of her ex's hair, and everyone rejoices.Jade delves into what it means when an ex likes your Instagram posts or watches your stories. Sarah assumes it's because he's trying to f*ck with you, but apparently there are other, less menacing reasons.Show notes1. F*ck off and die – activity can be found in the book.2. How to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy Winch, 20183. Music Brings Memory Back to the Injured Brain4. Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue5. Mr Unavailable and The Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue, 20116. Brene Brown's Ted TalkOur theme music is by Naomi Robinson and Josiah Padmanabham. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/fckoffanddie. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome to episode 75!   I am joined by writer, podcaster, speaker and artist Natalie Lue for a super juicy conversation about people pleasing! Hold to your hats and lean all the way in for a very honest conversation on what people pleasing really is (manipulation) how it shows up (immaturity) and how to begin to address is (responsibility).   This is not one for the faint hearted but its contained in love and will be very helpful for many! This conversation got me fired up and inspired so I have decided to host a supportive and nourishing workshop called Freedom fromPeople Pleasing this workshop is included in my Everyday Joy Membership. It will cover what people pleasing is, how it's linked to your inner child how it shows up and practical tips to address it, Sign up to my mailing list here if you would like to hear more.   Full show notes and resources mentioned available here.     About Natalie Lue: Natalie Lue, 42, is a writer, podcaster, speaker and artist who's been blogging for over fifteen years. She founded Baggage Reclaim in 2005 with the mission of using her recovery from abandonment, emotional unavailability and low self-esteem to help at least one person avoid what she had or figure their way out of a toxic relationship. Since then, she's helped many people-pleasers, perfectionists and over-thinkers unpack and reclaim themselves from their emotional baggage affecting everything from forging intimate relationships to their emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing, to their creativity, relationship with money and work, to the health and wealth of their interpersonal relationships.   Natalie's work is also currently expanding into helping kids and parents. Natalie’s self-published four books that have sold 130K+ copies, and is also the host of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast which has enjoyed 1.2m downloads on Apple podcasts and more than 2m listens on other outlets. She runs ecourses, a membership and workshops.   Of Jamaican Chinese in origin, Natalie was born in Wolverhampton and raised primarily in Dublin, Ireland, via stints in Carlisle and Zambia. She lives in Caterham, Surrey, with her husband and two daughters.   You can connect with Natalie here: Instagram Baggage Reclaim

Natalie Lue honours her late grandmother Pinchy Lue.   In today's podcast comes Natalie Lue honours her grandmother who sounds like she was a powerhouse.  Pinchy Lue came to the UK in the Windrush era and quickly used her tenacity to create safe communities for black people facing the hostility of the British public and systems.   Natalie refers to her grandmother taking up space and doing work that was required to do so.  Natalie notes that her grandmother's hard work and the demands of being a mother meant that she did not have much time to herself before she passed away suddenly in her 70's.  For Natalie this was a message for her to make sure she takes care of herself whilst she is alive, fit and well to reap the benefits.   About Natalie Lue: Natalie Lue, 42, is a writer, podcaster, speaker and artist who's been blogging for over fifteen years. She founded Baggage Reclaim in 2005 with the mission of using her recovery from abandonment, emotional unavailability and low self-esteem to help at least one person avoid what she had or figure their way out of a toxic relationship. Since then, she's helped many people-pleasers, perfectionists and overthinkers unpack and reclaim themselves from their emotional baggage affecting everything from forging intimate relationships to their emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing, to their creativity, relationship with money and work, to the health and wealth of their interpersonal relationships. Her work is also currently expanding into helping kids and parents.   Natalie’s self-published four books that have sold 130K+ copies, and is also the host of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast which has enjoyed 1.2m downloads on Apple podcasts and more than 2m listens on other outlets. She runs ecourses, a membership and workshops.    Jamaican Chinese in origin, she was born in Wolverhampton and raised primarily in Dublin, Ireland, via stints in Carlisle and Zambia. She lives in Caterham, Surrey, with her husband and two daughters.    You can connect with Natalie here:   Instagram    Baggage Reclaim 

Want to sell more of your products or services online? Getting more of your ideal customers/clients to follow you on social media can help - a lot.  But how do you increase your social media followers? Do you need to use different strategies for different social media platforms e.g. Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter or Instagram? And how long does it take to grow your following on a particular platform?  That's exactly what I cover in this podcast episode.  {Click on the player above to listen to the podcast episode and/or read on for a detailed overview. Scroll down to the bottom to read the show notes including all the links mentioned in this episode.} 1.Share compelling content  Think about the people you follow on social media. The people whose posts always seem to pop up in your Facebook or Instagram feed. The accounts you actively check out to see what they've been posting lately.  You don't follow them because they post boring updates about their products/services. You follow them because they inspire, entertain or even challenge your thinking. In other words, they make you FEEL something.  Now think about your own account. Are you posting compelling content that makes people feel something? Or are you putting out posts so you can tick social media off your to-do list. If you're posting dull updates about your products/services, whimsical reflections about what you did at the weekend and/or 'must do' tips no one ever comments on, why would anyone want to follow you?  If you're not getting much engagement on your content - amongst the followers you already have - that's a sign you need to change something.  After all, if you can't get the people who already know, like and trust you to comment on your content, why would anyone new want to follow you?  For an example of someone who is publishing excellent social media content that inspires people to follow her, check out  copywriter Jo Watson on LinkedIn. Want to get more engagement on your social media posts? Check out my social media engagement playbook. 2. Don't follow the rules  If you're trying to build your following on a particular platform, don't feel like you have to do what everyone else is doing. In fact, sharing content that challenges the ‘norm' can be a great way to stand out.  For example, Baggage Reclaim founder Natalie Lue's following on Instagram only really took off when she stopped worrying about ‘posting pretty pictures' and starting posting hard-hitting quotes from her blog and podcast. As Instagram is a visual platform, this was a brave move on Natalie's part - but doing the opposite of what everyone else was doing - and doing it consistently - is what helped her reach her first 10k followers. 3. Spend more time on other peoples' accounts than on your own What's the first thing you do when someone new comments on one of your posts - a name you don't recognise? You go and check out their profile of course. And that's exactly what other people do when you comment on their content. They just can't help but check you out.  This is why something as simple as making a list of your ideal customers/clients and committing to spending half an hour a day commenting on their content can be so effective.  Alternatively (or additionally) you can use the Gary Vee $1.80 strategy.  Step one. Find the 10 most relevant hashtags in your niche and follow those hashtags Step two. Reach out and comment on the top nine posts in each of the 10 hashtags Step three. Continue to like and comment on posts each day The $1.80 strategy gets its name because you're giving your two cents on nine posts for 10 hashtags every day. If you add that up, it equals $1.80 per day. 4. Use hashtags on all your posts As Chris Taylor explains in how to grow your Instagram following to 27k - fast, hashtags are like the index in the back of a non-fiction book. People search hashtags to find content on the most relevant topics to them - just like they would if they were looking something up in a non-fiction book. While expert opinion varies, current advice commonly suggests that using up to 30 hashtags on Instagram (which is the maximum), three on LinkedIn, two on Facebook and two on Twitter is the optimum number.  You could even create your own hashtag and awareness day like dog photographer Kerry Jordan did. This helped her go viral on Twitter. 5. Cross-promotion  Running joint competitions can be a great way to get more followers. For example, dog photographer Kerry Jordan hosted a joint competition with Quirky Campers founder Lyndsey Berresford and added 1.5.k new email subscribers, along with tons of new social media followers, to her audience.  6. Collaboration  Creating content for or collaborating with other business owners e.g. guest blogging, podcast interviews, Facebook Lives, Instagram takeoevers can be a great way of getting in front of other peoples' audiences. This will help you grow your social media following. Be smart about who you collaborate with though. It's best to target people with a similar or slightly larger audience than your own - ideally those who have a similar audience to you, but serve them in a different way. That way, there won't be a conflict of interest. If you do want to target the big hitters in your niche, think carefully about how you can add value to them. If they've already built a large online audience, they probably don't need to get in front of your audience, so why would they want to collaborate with you? So before you ask, think carefully about what's in it for them. If your ‘pitch' is all about you - and what you hope to gain from the collaboration - they're far less likely to say ‘yes. 7.Secure press coverage Getting press coverage can be a great way to increase your online following. For example, Baggage Reclaim founder Natalie Lue gained 2k followers after she was featured in Cosmopolitan magazine recently. However, stories like this tend to be the exception rather than the rule. While it's rare to get thousands of followers from a single magazine article or radio/TV appearance, over time, regular press coverage will help you grow your following. Find out: how to get press coverage for your business.  8.Work with bloggers/influencers Asking bloggers/influencers to promote your products/services can be a great way to grow your following. Ideally they need to have a larger audience than your own. But they don't need to have a massive audience for this to be effective. This can either be done on a paid basis or in exchange for free products/services. Find out more about working with bloggers/influencers. 9. Speak at live events Every time you stand up and speak in a room of your ideal customers/clients, you will attract new social media followers. So if you don't mind public speaking, why not give it a go? Find out how to land more speaking opportunities. 10. Post the links to your social media channels everywhere The more places you post the link to your social media profiles, the easier it will be for people to follow you. So make sure they're on your email signature, website, any landing pages you create...and basically anywhere you show up online. Podcast shownotes Why you need to post engaging content that makes people feel something (2:48) How to get followers by posting memorable, inspiring content (7:08) Why your social media bio needs to be compelling and understandable (10:44) Why you should break the ‘rules' of the platform and post your own original content  (11:35) Why you should spend time on other peoples' social media accounts (19:59) Hashtag strategies you can use to increase engagement and followers (25:05) How to grow your followers by collaborating with other social media accounts (28:50) How to use press coverage to get more followers (but it needs to be consistent coverage) (33:30) How to work with influencers that have a bigger audience to reach new followers (37:34) How speaking opportunities can help grow your social media following (40:11) Where to put your social media platform links so that people can find you (40:29) Why follower numbers are a vanity metric and sales and engagement are more important (40:54) Why you need to build an engaged audience before using Facebook ads  (44:08) Resources John Espiran LinkedInJo Watson LinkedIn Natalie Lue InstagramSimon Bourne LinkedInCath Janes FacebookKate Lister LinkedInNeon MarlAriiJourno request Five easy ways to get press coverage (blog) [161] How to work with bloggers and influencers with Kat Molesworth (podcast)[309] How to go viral on Twitter with Kerry Jordan  (podcast)[329] What's working on Facebook right now with Liz Melville (podcast)[348] How to write social media posts that sell (podcast)[358] 13 ideas for engaging social media posts (podcast)[362] How to grow your Instagram to 27K- fast (podcast)[363] Five ways to bust through an audience growth plateau (podcast)[369] Why opinionated content works well for your Facebook page (and how to do it well) (podcast)[370] How sharing personal experiences can boost engagement on your Facebook page (podcast)[372] How to build an engaged online audience (podcast) Preorder your 2020 Media Diary here Buy my book Your press release is breaking my heart Build Your Audience Programme Buy your ticket for Build Your Audience Live Rev.com* Kapwing Social Media Video Engagement Playbook Social Media Engagement Playbook LinkedIn Content Strategy Playbook Connect with me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn  

Sunday 23rd June is International Women in Engineering Day. We hear from three female engineers about their routes into the industry. Why despite various campaigns to attract women is it still such a male-dominated trade? The Resolution Foundation Think Tank studied changes in pay, housing, taxes and benefits to see if it was still true that newer generations are better off than their predecessors were. It found under-30s are spending less than that age group did 18 years ago. Over-65s' spending has risen by 37%. But they also found a huge gender wealth gap for baby boomers. While men and women have similar amounts of individual net wealth until their 50s, a huge divide opens up after that. The report finds that women in their late 60s have just over half the wealth of their male counterparts. Jenni speaks to Laura Gardiner, Research Director for The Resolution Foundation, to find out why.Friendship in modern times: longing for closer ties in the digital age, forging close friends as family, and idealised female friendship in the media – is social media making us lonely, and do we have perhaps ever higher expectations of those real life friends we do have? How important are our friends and what expectations should we realistically have? The author Jessica Francis Kane, whose character in new book, Rules For Visiting, longs for closer ties and has high expectations of her few and distant friends; is joined by Natalie Lue of the Baggage Reclaim blog and podcast; and by friendship expert Kate Leaver, author of The Friendship Cure: Reconnecting in the Modern World and friendship columnist for Metro.As part of Radio 4's Four Seasons poetry we celebrate the summer solstice with the poet and academic Elizabeth-Jane Burnett. She reads ‘Preface' from her poetry collection Swims. Presenter: Jenni Murray Producer: Kirsty StarkeyInterviewed Guest: Laura Gardiner Interviewed Guest: Naomi Climer Interviewed Guest: Michelle Hicks Interviewed Guest: Olivia Sweeney Interviewed Guest: Jessica Francis Kane Interviewed Guest: Natalie Lue Interviewed Guest: Kate Leaver Interviewed Guest: Elizabeth-Jane Burnett

As two former people pleasers, we talk about what we have learned. And discuss what resources we like to use in order to heal and grow away from unhealthy relationships. People and resources we mention are:- Natalie Lue at Baggage Reclaim https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ Ross Rosenberg https://www.selfloverecovery.com/ Julia Cameron, author of the The Artist Way https://juliacameronlive.com/ Esther Hicks https://www.abraham-hicks.com/ Lourdes Viado and her Women In-depth podcast https://lourdesviado.com/womenindepth/

This week the two Mo's talk about Natalie Lue's podcast episode on the topic of Emotionally Unavailability. What are the signs? How do you communicate these bhaviors to your partner? What do you do next? Find out what the Mo's learned about this insightful topic. Also listen to Natalie Lue’s episode on The Baggage Reclaim: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-baggage-reclaim-sessions/id1032835304?mt=2&i=1000428474821 https://soundcloud.com/baggagereclaim/ep-124-is-it-a-bird-is-it-a-plane-nope-its-emotional-unavailability

Today, Zakaryia and Anola talk about people pleasing, boundaries and enmeshment. We draw heavily on the themes of boundaries and people pleasing from the work of Natalie Lue, the author of Baggage Reclaim, and on Jerry Wise's work on enmeshment. Check both of them out at their websites below. https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ http://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/services  This podcast contains strong language and adult themes. It is not suitable for children.

In this episode Natalie shares so much knowledge and wisdom on selling digital products which is something she knows more than just a think or two about. She’s been blogging for 14 years over at Baggage Reclaim and sold numerous digital products from that platform. Natalie’s now also branching out in to helping other creative business owners with figuring out how to harness their secret sauce to build platforms and create digital products. This episode is absolutely packed with tips on selling digital products and we also talk about giving away freebies and using opt-ins to build your email list so this really is a go-to episode for all things digital. Full show notes at: https://www.josephinebrooks.co.uk/podcast/      

In this episode, Natalie talks about what to expect from season 3 of the podcast and touches on some of the core Baggage Reclaim philosophies.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about how to start building your self-esteem, why you shouldn’t get too hung up on your ex moving on before you or with someone you think is ‘better’, and why there’s no need to tell someone you don’t like them. This week’s listener question is about whether we have a right to feel heartbroken over a relationship that never happened, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. 100 Days of Baggage Reclaim book: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/100daysbook Articles on Baggage Reclaim related to ‘Why them and not me?’ When you’re afraid they’ll become a better person in a better relationship, without you http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-keeps-you-up-a-night-pondering-whether-theyre-a-better-person-in-a-better-relationship-without-you/ He’s with someone else – Why her and not me? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/hes-with-someone-else-why-her-and-not-me/ 'Why him/her and not me?' Not everything is about us! http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-himher-and-not-me-not-everything-is-about-us Do you have a Replacement Mentality? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/do-you-have-a-replacement-mentality The Replacement Mentality: But WHY did they go back to their toxic ex when they could have had me? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-replacement-mentality-but-why-did-they-go-back-to-their-toxic-ex-when-they-could-have-had-me Don’t Be The Bridge Between Someone’s Old & New Relationship http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dont-be-the-bridge-between-someones-old-new-relationship Return On Investment in Relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/return-on-investment-in-relationships ‘I Can Change Him’ Syndrome/Fixer-Uppers http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-himher-syndrome-dont-tie-your-worth-to-trying-to-control-the-uncontrollable Betting On Potential – Are You Gambling On a Relationship Capacity That Doesn’t Exist? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-are-you-gambling-on-a-relationship-capacity-that-doesnt-exist Betting On Potential in Relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-in-relationships Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks why it’s a bad idea to be an emotional airbag, the factors that influence how long it will take for you to get over a breakup, how the core theme from challenges can become a personal mantra for success. This week’s listener question is about what to do when you diverge on a core value in a good relationship plus, Natalie shares how her recent trip to San Francisco has reminded her of how thankful she is for the Baggage Reclaim community.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Well, if you have gone through the break up season you need to hear this show. Relationship Adviser and Blogger, Natalie Lue of Baggage Reclaim breaks down the importance of the No Contact Rule and the best way forward after relationship break-ups!