Podcasts about Unsupportive

In this deeply moving and raw interview, Jennie shares her powerful life story—from growing up in a strict Mormon household to breaking free from the expectations that shaped her identity. She opens up about her parents' conversions, her challenging marriage, the emotional toll of purity culture, and her gradual disillusionment with the church.Jennie also recounts the heartbreaking loss of her daughter Izzy, and how grief reshaped her spirituality and perspective on life. Through it all, she finds resilience, healing, and the courage to choose herself.A story of love, loss, faith, and transformation you won't forget.Topics Include:-Childhood in a devout LDS family-Marriage, purity culture, and incompatibilities in marriage -Crisis of faith and discovering church history-Navigating grief after the loss of her daughterSubscribe for more real stories about faith, loss, and rebuilding.Show NotesYouTube00:00:00 Introduction00:04:25 Background on her parents, who were both converts to the church00:14:02 Their early family life00:18:37 How did her baptism affect her00:23:04 Stories about her grandmother, and the passing of her uncle00:25:14 Her mother began looking into her ancestry and finds out she has other family in Texas.00:29:30 Jennie loved theatre as a kid00:38:02 Her dad was very strict with what content they were allowed to watch00:45:45 Confessed to her bishop about sexual sin00:49:33 What is a patriarchal blessing00:54:46 Discussing her marriage01:06:09 Hated sex in their marriage because she was so afraid of it before01:22:39 Jennie's reaction to the new changes for women's garments01:36:48 Who was Fanny Alger?01:40:46 Who was Helen Mar Kimball?01:49:00 Told her husband that she wanted to stop attending church, and he is thrilled01:54:00 They officially separate, and decided to start dating other people02:02:28 They unexpectedly got pregnant02:13:49 What it is like to have a newborn with a health issue02:21:32 Izzy's passing02:52:50 Unsupportive things people have said to her, and what to say instead03:00:25 Discussing the stages of grief and the healing process03:10:23 Pressure to have a Mormon funeral03:19:05 How does she ground herself when things feel uncertain03:27:58 ConclusionMormon Stories Thanks Our Generous Donors!Help us continue to deliver quality content by becoming a donor today:One-time or recurring donation through DonorboxSupport us on PatreonPayPalVenmoOur Platforms:YouTubePatreonSpotifyApple PodcastsContact us:MormonStories@gmail.comPO Box 171085, Salt Lake City, UT 84117Social Media:Insta: @mormstoriesTikTok: @mormonstoriespodcastJoin the Discord

Imagine having a direct report who sobs every time you give them feedback. Or leading a team of people who've told your boss they don't trust you. Or managing people for the first time—43 of them—with no training or guidance. The Amys offer advice for getting through these real situations from listeners–ot just advice, but actual language for asserting your needs, earning trust, setting boundaries, and holding your ground even when emotions run high.

If your desire as a leader is to retain your talented people, then it's time to reflect on how supportive of a leader you are. And if you're noticing people leaving your organization, here are 8 reasons why that might be the case! Join host Steve Wohlenhaus on the ANATOMY OF SUCCESS podcast and dig deep into what actions you can take to find success in health, work, and relationships. Expect transparent candor and challenges that require action, all to help you define success on your own terms. JOIN THE AOS ACADEMY – top-tier, high-impact online courses designed to catalyze your success and satisfaction in life – learn more at https://aos.academy Steve's real-time audio weather company: https://weatherology.com/ More about Steve: https://weatherology.com/steve/ CONNECT ON SOCIAL LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-wohlenhaus/ Instagram: @stevewohlenhaus / https://www.instagram.com/stevewohlenhaus/ Facebook: stevewohlenhaus / https://www.facebook.com/stevewohlenhaus TikTok: @stevewohlenhaus / https://www.tiktok.com/@stevewohlenhaus Catch the latest episodes or binge the podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Amazon.

In this empowering episode of the Balance Boldly Podcast, Naketa Ren Thigpen addresses the complexities of navigating unsupportive partnerships during pivotal life or career transitions. As part of The Alignment Exit Series, she builds on earlier episodes by exploring the crucial concept of creating “air”—space for growth—through auditing, investigating, and recalibrating relationships. Sharing her powerful "3G mindset"—Give, Give, Grow—as a guiding framework for balancing energy, resources, and gratitude without overextending yourself, she focuses on clear communication, self-awareness, and mutual respect. Encouraging listeners to reflect on their relationships and ensure they align with their evolving needs, tune in to discover how to reposition or let go of relationships that no longer serve you. It's time to pave the way for a more balanced and fulfilling life.Time Stamps:00:00 Does clarity spark change in relationships?05:03 How to embrace a "give, give, grow" mindset without overextending.07:11 Awakening to trust and reciprocity.10:53 The key to avoiding personal exhaustion.Personal Note from Naketa:The conversation doesn't stop here, come chat with me over on @naketarenthigpen Substack.I take you deeper with unfiltered reflections, the behind-the-scenes thought process, and the real-world application of everything we unpacked here.Pull up a chair, pour a cup (or glass, no judgement here) and let's talk work, life, love, growth, (and) how to sustain it without losing your mogul-in-the-making mind. More on the BBP:Introducing Balance Boldly for Ambitious Women in Business (and a few brave men) with Naketa Ren Thigpen—a transformative podcast for founders & leaders who believe that building a legacy is as much about WHO you build it with as HOW you build it. Unlike our latest amazing podcast, The Lazy Overachiever Show, which challenges norms around self-care and growth strategies, Balance Boldly, dubbed the BBP, emphasizes the deep connections and intentional work-life balance and relationship management strategies that form the foundation for lasting impact. Amplifying the power of intimacy by demonstrating how success in the boardroom is deeply intertwined with the energy you cultivate in your personal life.On this show (and) in Naketa's everyday life, she's sharing how prioritized mental health with non-negotiable boundaries and strong relationship health help to collapse time, while rippling joy across generations. Your Review Matters! Listen & Leave a review on Apple Podcast: https://rebrand.ly/BalanceBoldly-ApplePodcastsListen & Leave a review on Spotify: https://rebrand.ly/BalanceBoldly-SpotifyCheck out our latest podcast, The Lazy Overachiever Show, your haven away from the hustle. Subscribe on your favorite podcast app to gain insights into the benefits of balancing achievement with well-deserved rest.Follow:LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/naketathigpenInstagram: www.instagram.com/asknaketaThreads:

If you're tired of feeling guilty for your success or afraid to shine too brightly, this conversation will help you navigate the uncomfortable shifts in your relationships as you level up!I'm sitting down with magnetism expert, Leanne Melody, to dive deep into what happens when your success makes people uncomfortable. Because sometimes the most dangerous people in your life are the ones who want to see you succeed – but only until you become competition. We're breaking down how to navigate friendship shifts when you level up without dimming your light.In this episode:Why your closest friends can become your biggest critics when you outshine themHow to recognise when someone is projecting their own fears onto your successWhy auditing your relationships becomes crucial as you scale your businessThe exact practices Leanne uses to heal from friendship betrayalsHow to build resilience to criticism that prepares you for bigger visibilityCONNECT WITH LEANNE:Connect with Leanne on Instagram Watch and subscribe to @Leanne Melody⁠ on Youtube CONNECT WITH ME:Join 12-month UNSTOPPABLE MASTERMIND Download your 30-day Millionaire Mindset audio trainingCheck out my FREE ResourcesOrder my book “Unstoppable Success” on AmazonApply for 1:1 Business CoachingSend me a DM on Instagram

Send us a textEver walked into a support group expecting connection and left feeling… not so supported? You're not alone. This episode is all about navigating support groups that don't quite meet our needs and how to find, or even create, the spaces that truly support us.I share my first (not-so-great) support group experience, the different types of people you might encounter in these spaces, and why mismatched expectations can make things feel off. But don't worry, this isn't just a gripe session—I also give you actionable steps to help you find (or build) the support you need.And if you've ever felt like there has to be a better way, you're right! Let's explore how to create meaningful, truly supportive communities together.Resources Mentioned:

If you are looking for VBAC inspiration, Kelsey's episode is a MUST-LISTEN.Kelsey is a VBA2C mom and speech-language pathologist living in Erie, Pennsylvania. You will feel literal full-body chills as she tells her birth stories on the podcast today. As a first-time mom, Kelsey chose a Cesarean over physiological birth thinking it was the safer, easier route. But after experiencing the reality of two C-sections, she went from fearing vaginal birth to trusting in the labor process even more than her providers did. With her VBA2C, Kelsey got just about every type of pushback in the books. She was coerced, persuaded, questioned, and fear-mongered by multiple providers. Yet Kelsey was able to ground herself by listening to VBAC stories on The VBAC Link Podcast, seeking refuge in her doula and Webster-certified chiropractor, and connecting with other VBAC moms. Kelsey knew her body could do it. She just wanted a chance. Going up against a hospital practice that was saturated with skepticism, Kelsey's labor was beautifully textbook. Her labor progressed quickly, and her biggest baby yet came out in two pushes– “like butter” as described by her doula!VBAC-Certified Doula, Tara Van Dyke's WebsiteHow to VBAC: The Ultimate Prep Course for ParentsFull Transcript under Episode Details Meagan: Hello, Women of Strength. We have another amazing story for you today. And actually, it's stories. We have a VBA2C mama coming your way. And as you know, this is a hot topic because lots of people want to know if vaginal birth after two Cesareans is possible. So Kelsey will be sharing her stories with us today. But guess what, you guys, I have a co-host today and it's Tara. Hello, Tara Van Dyke.Tara: Hello. Hello.Meagan: She is one of our VBAC link doulas. As you probably heard back in 2024, we are going to randomly be having co-hosts from our VBAC Link doulas. I think it's so awesome to have them on. I love hearing the topics and things that they want to suggest to talk to you guys about because again, just like we talked about years ago, we just in Salt Lake City, Utah, can't share enough. And so we want other doulas from all over the world to share as well. So Tara, tell us more about where you're from and then your topic on partners and being prepared.Tara: Yes. So thank you for having me here with you. This is so fun to hear a story live. I'm a doula working in the Chicagoland suburbs. I've been doing that for 20 years and now moving to more of childbirth education as well as like a lower caseload of doula work partly because I just welcomed my first grandchild this week, so I want to be available in a different way in my life. Meagan: Congrats. Very valid. Tara: So I do a lot of childbirth education. But along the way, what's always been really important to me and I feel really passionate about is the partner connection with the person giving birth and their preparation. The research supports it too, that a prepared partner makes a really big difference in outcomes too. I know we talk a lot about doulas and increasing the positive outcomes of birth, and that's been shown over and over in studies, but the actual dream team is a doula and a prepared partner.Meagan: Yeah. I love that.Kelsey: I tell the dads who come to my classes that the doula is important, but we are replaceable in this situation. The partner is so important because of that connection because they bring the oxytocin. They bring the safety. They have that history with you already. And what even bumps that up to being really helpful in the birth room is their preparation and their understanding of what to expect and being completely on board. So theres lots of ways for partners to get prepared, but they get left out a lot. So I feel really strongly that partners are so much better in the birth room when they're not feeling anxious about what's going on, when they know what to expect and they have a few good tools in their pocket for how to help.Meagan: Oh yes, I could not agree more. I always talk about, I make things up, and I call it the doula sandwich. So it's just what I call it in my practice of my doula work. One bun has all the oxytocin and all the knowledge of who you are, and then the other side is the doula who has the education in birth work and the ideas of how to help navigate through the birth space, but also can then support the partner in doing that and educating the partner. So then, we've got two really great sides and then we sandwich the doula. We have great buns. We have really great buns. And we sandwich that mom together and with love and support and education and oxytocin. Like you said, it really creates that dream team. I love that so much. My husband didn't educate himself. He was just, "Okay fine, if you want a VBAC, go do it. You do the research." I did HypnoBirthing with my cousin who luckily was pregnant around the same time, but we did that together, and he just really didn't know. When I told him, "Hey, I want to VBAC after two caesareans out of the hospital," he was like, "Yo, what?" because he was uneducated. I truly feel that it is so powerful. That's why I encourage partners to take the VBAC course with, the mom or an education course in childbirth. Really understand what the mom is going through, but also know how you can help because I do feel like a lot of those dads kind of get shoved aside. They want to help, but they don't know how to help, and they don't really know what's going on. Is that noise good or is that noise bad?Tara: Yes. Yeah. And they're going through the birth, too. This is the birth of their child. So they can also feel, as far as traumatized, hopefully not trauma, but they can feel a lot more dissatisfied or upset by a birth if they didn't know that what was happening was normal. So it's good for them, too, to learn how to take care of themselves as well as their partner.Meagan: Love it so, so much. Everybody, get your partners educated. It is so, so important. Thank you so much for that tip. Meagan: Okay, Ms. Kelsey, it is your turn, my love.Kelsey: Okay, so as you know, I had a VBAC after two C sections which I didn't even know was a thing. You played such a huge part in giving me education and the motivation to pursue this. My story starts in October 2018. My husband and I found out we were pregnant with our first. It was really special because it was actually our two-year wedding anniversary. It was that morning that we found out and we had a special trip plans to Niagara Falls, just up in Canada. It's a special place for us. It was where he proposed to me. It was just a really special time. It was also kind of crazy because up until that point, up until just prior to that, we had been together eight years, and we didn't think we were interested in having kids. I'm so grateful that our mindset had shifted, but it was just kind of a lot at once. We had agreed that we did want to start a family, but it happened really quickly, and it was just a lot to process. I didn't educate myself at all about birth. My husband and I took a class in the hospital, but it was pretty much just how do you take care of a baby. It wasn't how to bring a baby into the world.Meagan: Yeah, yeah. Sometimes those can be a little more what to expect after than really what to expect during.Kelsey: Exactly. And, I don't know what it was. I don't know if I just couldn't really picture myself giving birth just because we had just kind of come into this or if I just was not believing in my body, but I just felt the opposite of a lot of people on this podcast. They say, "I never thought I would have a C section. I never expected that for myself." For me, I just went into it thinking I'm intimidated by all of this. A C-section sounds easier and I cringe saying that now. But, I just thought not having to go through labor and not having to push a baby out, I just always had that in my head. That comes into play with how my first ended up. I was told throughout my pregnancy that my baby was big and specifically it was driven home, "The head is big. The shoulders are big." They were telling me about shoulder dystocia, and I didn't know anything. So I'm thinking, oh my gosh, not only am I already intimidated by the idea of birth. I know nothing about birth, but now you're telling me I have this big baby. My OB was really telling me maybe a C-section should be considered. And then she threw it out there. "Well, we could induce 39 weeks and see how things go." And again, I was just trusting her. She had been my gynecologist since I was a teenager. To me, I thought, okay, that makes sense. Baby's big. And again, I hadn't done any research on my own. So we did what I referred to as a half-hearted induction. I feel like it was just done to humor everyone. Like, "Oh, we tried." But I went in the night before at 39 weeks on the dot. Nothing was going on with my cervix. Surprise, surprise at 39 weeks. They did Cervadil and I just lay in the bed. My husband and I watched the fireworks out the window. It was the fourth of July. We were just completely not prepared for anything. Just going along with this and thinking, oh, we'll just have a C-section tomorrow if this doesn't happen. They came in the morning and nothing had happened. So they were like, "Oh, well, we could start Pitocin. We could do this." I just wasn't interested in any of that. I wasn't motivated to have a vaginal birth. I guess that's okay. That's just where my head was at the time. I've accepted that's just where I was at. So we had the C-section. It was a surgery. Just being there and as baby comes out, just hearing everybody in the OR talk about, "Oh, look at her cheeks and look at the hair." It was minutes before I'm ever able to get a quick flash of her around the curtain before they swoop her off. It was just a weird experience, but it was all I knew. I was grateful that it went okay, but it just makes recovery so hard, so painful. When I think back to it, just think about just crying while my husband's trying to do my abdominal binder, not being able to get in and out of bed, struggling to breastfeed, even getting in a position of breastfeed with that searing surgical pain. We struggled, and I ended up exclusively pumping. So it was tough as a first-time mom just dealing with all of that. But again, I didn't know any different. I think that was a blessing that I didn't know what I was potentially missing. For my second birth, we knew he wanted more than one child. You just never know how things are going to happen. We just weren't trying to not get pregnant, and it happened right away. The babies were 16 months apart, so when I showed up to my appointment, my OB, the same one who had said, "You have this big baby, and you should have a C-section or induce at 39 weeks." Oh, the ARRIVE study was hot off the press at that point too. So he was excited to show me the ARRIVE study back.Meagan: Oh, yeah, but you're not even a first-time. I mean, you were a first-time vaginal mom. So the ARRIVE trial, you know. You've been with us. Hashtag eyeball.Tara: Yeah, yeah, it changes. It's changed everything.Meagan: It really has. And I don't know if it really has changed for the better in my opinion.Kelsey: So sorry, that was for my first birth. I forgot to mention.Meagan: Oh, oh, oh, sorry. Yes, that would make sense. Yes.Kelsey: So with the second, it was the same OB, and she's like, "Okay, since your births are so close together, you'll just be a repeat C-section. You can make appointments with me, and I'll do your surgery. Easy peasy." I'm thinking, oh, okay. That makes sense because she's talking about uterine rupture, and they're so close together and I didn't research on my own. Is there another option? How risky really is this compared to a repeat C-section? I just trusted her so much. I had been with her for so long. I figured she must have my best interests at heart.Meagan: Yeah.Kelsey: I didn't even think to myself, my own mother had a VBAC with a 13-month age gap. I was a C-section, and my brother was a VBAC at 13 months 30 years ago. Meagan: Uh-huh.Kelsey: You only know what you know at the time. And so even though I didn't look into it in the ways that I should have, I did know that I wanted the experience to be a little different. So I found out about gentle C-section which I think is a funny term. Meagan: I was happy to see that you could request a clear drape, and you could request not to be tied down to the table. We did implement a few of those things. I had the clear drape. It was nice to see her coming out just for a quick flash before they swooped her away. It was nice not to be completely-- I had one arm free which is funny these things that we consider luxuries when you're having a C-section. So it was a little bit better in that way, but there were things that were also worse. They couldn't get the needle in, and they had a resident doing things. I was having trouble. I was starting to pass out during. They were having to adjust. It was stressful in its own way. I had some things that were a little better. But also, it's just's a C-section. Also, during, my OB made a comment as she has me completely open, all seven layers of me. She said, "Yeah, who was it the did your last C-section?",I told her and she made no comment. I said, "Why are you asking me this as you're inside my uterus?" She said, "There's just more scar tissue than I would have expected." She said, "Hey, you can have another baby if you want, but just wait more time in between. Just not so close together." So that was something that got in my head too. Anyway, we thought there was no way we would ever have a third. It was really hard having two under two recovering from another C-section. It was November 2020, so it was the first COVID winter. It was cold. It was dark. Everything was closed down. Everybody was in masks. It was so depressing. It's like, postpartum isn't hard enough. As if two under two isn't hard enough, then adding COVID.Meagan: Yeah, adding zero support and zero resources. Yeah.Kelsey: Nowhere to get out and do anything. It was a bummer. So anyway, it was a lot, and we thought, no way are we ever going to have three. It was just a hard season. So I donated everything. I put all my carriers and all my stuff out on the porch and said, "Come get it," to the local moms group. I just couldn't see myself having a third. Well, then the years pass, and things get easier. You come into an easier season. All of a sudden, we're not dealing with diapers and bottles. It's like, we could leave the house. Things are opening back up. My husband and I had talked about a third and toyed around with the thought of it, but it's just hard to pull the trigger once you've come into this easy season. The thought of hitting the reset button is intimidating. But all it really took was watching him take down my youngest's crib with her. And it was like, okay, this is something that we want to do. It was a funny conversation that night. I said, "If we were to get pregnant this cycle, we would have a June baby, and that would be really nice." So that's what happened. I was playing it with my third. That's when I realized. I mean, I had thought about it, obviously, but I realized, oh, my gosh, I have to have another C-section, a third C-section. Talk about being years away from it and thinking about how you're all healed. It's been a few years, and to think about them cutting open again and just knowing what that entails, I was just in a whole different headspace. I was thinking, how is there a way that I can avoid this?Before my first appointments, I did a quick Google search, "vaginal birth after two C-sections" just to see if this was something anybody had done or was doing or was even possible. I was so excited to see that people were doing this. It looked like it was actually potentially a good possibility. So I was thinking, I've got to be the right candidate. I didn't even need those first C-sections. I knew this now, reflecting back. Yeah, I had my first screening where they do your intake, and they were asking a bunch of questions. And I had said at the RN, I said, "Would I be able to maybe have a vaginal delivery after two C sections?" And she was like, "Oh, they consider it after one, but once you've had two, you're a C-section for life."Meagan: Oh, jeez.Kelsey: Something about her saying that and the way that she said it, I went from being a little bit curious and oh, this might be good, to no, this is something I'm going to pursue. It just didn't feel right. She didn't know my history. She didn't know why I have my C-sections. So to tell me, "Oh, no. You need to have a third major surgery for sure. No option." Tara: It was this moment when it brings a fight out in you. Like, I am gonna do this now.Kelsey: I'll never forget how I felt at that moment. So I started to have my appointments with the OBs, and I would bring it up. Everything was perfect. It was going really smoothly. So the appointments would be like two minutes, and then at the end they'd say, "Do you have any questions or concerns?" And I'd say, "Yeah, I wanted to see what my options are for delivery." They were like, "Well, we decided as a practice to support VBAC after one C-section, but we actually have a policy against VBAC after two C sections."Meagan: How did I know that was coming? The policy, I swear, every time it's like, "We decided as a practice or as a practice, we--". It's always like, they created this stupid policy that actually is against evidence based care. But okay.Kelsey: I'm thinking to myself, so then what do you do? Anyway, I was just mind blown by that. I went to a couple of more appointments there. You'd go every month and they'd say, "Any questions?" I'd say, "Yes. I'm just really not feeling good about the idea of a third C-section." I said, "The risks of a third Cesarean intimidate me much more than doing a trial of labor." I've never given my body a chance. It's not like I've been through this before and things went wrong. I've never been given a fair chance. They were very nice, but they just look at me and smile and nod and say, "Well, it's gonna be okay. It's gonna be okay," and not even entertain the idea for a second. So I'm thinking to myself, okay. I've gotta figure something out. So at that point, when I had talked to a couple of providers, and they were all very consistent about, "Nope. Nope, not even going to entertain it," I knew something had to change. I'm reaching out. I'm searching in the local moms group about C-sections. Has anybody had a VBAC after two? It was crickets. Nobody was responding. I was looking back years trying to find anybody who had done this, in the area. Wat I was finding is, "No, it's not going to happen in Erie. You need to go to Pittsburgh or try a home birth." And I'm just really not comfortable with the home birth even though I know that's a perfect option for plenty of people.Meagan: It didn't feel right for you.Kelsey: Yeah. It just wasn't what I was feeling like I wanted to do. So I reached out, and I had not known anything about doulas until your podcast. I hardly even knew what they did before listening. I just searched "doulas in Erie." I called the first one I saw. I left a message that was probably pretty unhinged just like, "Help! What do I do? Is this something I can do?" She called back, and it was the first time that I had any validation at all. Up until then, it was just people telling me no, people telling me policies and not safe. It was the first time that I was heard. I was heard. She said, "There's really no reason why you can't have a chance. We'll figure this out." I kept doing my research. I dug really deep, and I found a few people who had referred to providers being supportive. I was reaching out. I was sending people DMs saying, "Hey, sorry to be huge creep, but can you tell me more about your experience?: I found out that at the other practice there were providers who would consider this. So it wasn't looking super promising, but it was better than where I was at. So I kind of took a chance. I switched practices at 28 weeks. Prior to that, I had an amazing appointment at 24 weeks. I had one last appointment at that office with the policy. He was amazing. If you could have just copied and pasted him, he was just like a midwife. I mean, he was very upset about the policy. He said, "How do you even enforce that?" He said, "What are we going to do? What are we going to do, strap you down and take you to the OR?" I wish that he had a podcast episode because he took so much time. He explained to me  the history of C-sections and how, in his words, the pendulum has swung so far from only doing C-sections when they were needed to they're safe now. Let's do them whenever we can. He talked about the whole policy thing and how they met as a group. He said, "Some of these younger JOBs have only been practicing now that C-sections are so common. They haven't seen the success." He said, "You have just as much of a chance of success as a 20-year-old walking off of the elevator because our C-section rate is so high. You have just as much of a chance." He laughed at the fact that macrosomia was in my chart, which I forgot to mention with my first. She was 9 pounds, 1 ounce. She was big.Meagan: Okay. I wanted to ask you though because they had said, "Oh, big baby, 16 months apart." I wanted to ask, but 9 pounds, 1 ounce is actually not macrosomia. It's a bigger baby, but it's not a huge baby.Kelsey: Exactly. It's not 12 pounds, which also, people have done. But anyway, he put so much wind into my sails, and he fully supported me switching. He said, "Honestly, I think this is great. I think this is the best option for you. You need to go for it." He said, "But if you were to stay here, you would face nothing but doubt and bullying and scary." He said, "If you were my wife, I would tell you to switch over to this other practice." So that's what I did. I also forgot to mention in my anatomy scan, the sonographer is going about doing it and she said, "Were your other babies big?" I'm like, no, we're not gonna start this. It was already with the big baby comments. So they had me do a growth scan to switch practices. It was refreshing to be in a place where they entertained the idea. They said that they decided as a practice to follow what ACOG says, but it was also very clear the difference between support versus tolerance. So although I was grateful that they were entertaining the idea, I still had, "Oh, 90th percentile. Oh, you've never labored before. You don't have a proven pelvis."Meagan: Proven pelvis. Tara: Yeah, proven pelvis.Meagan: There's a lot of eye rolls in this.Kelsey: Thank goodness, again, if it weren't for this podcast, all of those little comments would have swayed me. I would have said, "What am I doing? Listen to all these things they're saying. This isn't right for me." Once you know, it's just so hard to listen to the VBAC calculator. "Oh, let's just type your stuff in and see." I think it gave me, like 50% chance. Like, I don't know. So anyway, I'll get back on track. My low point was at 32 weeks. It was with my provider who was convincing me that a C-section or induction was right, and then telling me, "Oh, you'll just be a repeat. We'll schedule it." I was dreading my appointment with her. I knew that I needed to meet with her because she could possibly be the provider who was on call. I wanted to tell her what my plan was, and assess her thoughts. I thought that I was invincible because now I knew all of these things, and I wasn't going to let anybody bring me down. That appointment was pretty terrible. She came in hot. She said, "You're 32 weeks. Baby is 5 pounds, 4 ounces, and he's off the charts." She actually referred to him as massive. She said, "He's massive. He's huge." She said, "Put him in a room with 100 babies, and he is enormous."Meagan: Enormous. Tara: She's comparing him to other babies already. Meagan: And he's not even born. Tara: Can I just add a little tidbit here because there's so much talk in your story about the fear of big babies, and the research has shown that what leads to more problems or interventions in a birth with a big baby is not the actual size of the baby, but the provider's fear of the big baby. They're already getting themselves stirred up, and nothing has even happened. Kelsey: I was really discouraged by that because I had come across those facts too. And looking at the research and looking at what are the real risks of a big baby, that's actually just the providers. Yeah, se was just disgusted with my plan. She said, "Are you sure?" I said, "Yeah." I really stood my ground. I was so proud of how I stuck to my guns. She pulled out all the stops. She just kind of sighed and she said, "Okay." And then she pulled it out of me as I was  trying to justify. I said, "We're not sure how much we want to grow our family." I said, "If I have three C-sections, I'm not going to want a fourth." I said, "I just think it's worth a try." So she took that and she ran with it. She said, "Well, for what it's worth, I would rather do two more planned C-sections. I would do two more planned C-sections on you, and I wouldn't bat an eye. I'd rather do that than have you TOLAC." I thought, oh, my gosh. So again, I stood my ground. She went out. She was visibly upset. I was so proud of myself. But then I spiraled that whole day. It just chipped away at me all day. I came home.  I had been doing nightly walks religiously. That's when I would listen to The VBAC Link. That night, I didn't do my walk. I cried in my bed. I was just so upset. I spent the night then going through the groups I was in for VBAC after multiple Cesareans and The VBAC Link searching "big baby, big head circumference" and screen-shooting all of the success and all of the comments to fuel back my motivation. That was definitely the low point, but I did have some great meetings with providers. I was grateful that where I was living, I was able to find enough support where they would let me go for it. Once I got toward the end, there kept being the comments about "big baby". I had an OB do my final measurement and not tell me what it was. I said, "How is baby measuring? There is a lot of drama about baby being big." She was like, "Well, how big were your other two?" I said, "They were 9,1 and 8,4". My second was almost a full pound smaller. She said, "Oh, if you pushed those out, no problem. You don't have anything to worry about." I said, "That's where the drama was. I didn't push them out. I had C-sections." It was like she saw a ghost. She was like, "Oh, well that is drama." She was just beside herself. I say that story specifically because spoiler alert, she was the one who ended up delivering my baby.Meagan: Oh, really?Kelsey: To give a preface to that. She actually said, "Well, it is what it is." She just was very nervous and very upset. I said, "Have you never seen a VBAC after two C-sections? Have you seen that?" She said, "Well, yeah, but it's usually with people who have birthed vaginally before, and not with a big baby." That's what she said. Meagan: Oh my gosh. Kelsey: I just wanted to talk about that because she was the one who delivered Anyway, time went on. As I got to 39 weeks, I started to stand my ground a little bit more because they wanted to do cervical checks. They'd say, "Okay, undress for the provider." I just was like, "No, thank you. I'm good." I would have been really discouraged if they had come in and checked me. I know that got in my head with previous appointments with things that I didn't think would affect me. At 39 weeks, one of the providers who had been trying to talk about how big my baby was and persuade me to have an induction, she said, "What if we did a growth scan at 40 weeks, and you were measuring 10 pounds. Would that change your mind?" I was like, "No. I'm not doing a growth scan at 40 weeks. I've already done too many scans." So just right up until the end, they were trying to get me. They were talking about the size. Meagan: They were really trying to get you to cave. Kelsey: Yes. So after that appointment, because of my BMI, after 37 weeks and beyond, you have to have an NST and a BPP (biophysical profile) every week. Meagan: After 37 weeks?Kelsey: Starting at 37 weeks, you have to have both of those tests every week. It was just a new thing. I didn't do it with my last. Again, I'm worried about this. I know how the testing goes. Sure enough, I go. This is 39 weeks. I go for the biophysical profile, and they were like, "There is a lot of fluid. You have too much fluid." They were talking about all of the fluid. "Look, here are little flakes." They were talking about the fluid. I thought, I've made it this far. This is something that is going to make it a C-section.Baby wasn't also taking enough practice breaths for her which was frustrating. She even said, "I think he's sleeping, but I want to be on the safe side." I said, "I just had an appointment. She could hardly get his heart rate because he was moving so much." I had driven to Cleveland an hour and a half away the night before to go to a Noah Con concert. I felt him moving the whole time. I was like, "I'm pretty confident that he's okay. I was just checked by my OB five minutes ago." She wanted to send me. I wasn't going to mess around this far on, so I went to triage. They hooked me up to an NST. They wouldn't just let me do it in the office. I'm sitting there. Everything is perfect. The nurse comes in and said, "They're just going to place an IV." I stopped and said, "What did you say?" She said, "They're just going to place an IV." I said, "Why would they place an IV? Everything is looking good. I have grocery pickup in an hour. I'm not trying to be here for long." She said, "Just for access." I said, "No, thank you. Please let me out." That was weird.She said, "Okay. We're just going to watch you a little longer." Then this OB who I'd never seen before who was apparently just newer to the practice comes in. I'm like, "How are things going?" At this point, it had been 45 minutes. I'm trying to get out. He said, "Things are looking really good." I could see his wheels turning. He said, "But, since you are 39 weeks and you've had two C-sections, we can do a C-section for you today." Meagan: Oh my Santa. Tara: Here you go. How did you manage all of this pressure, Kelsey? It's extraordinary. Meagan: It is. Kelsey: I should mention that I had an amazing doula, so after these appointments, I would text her a paragraph. She was constantly lifting me back up. I was going to Webster chiropractic care. The chiropractor I saw, shout out to Tori, she's amazing. She's a doula also. She was pregnant going for her VBAC, so we would have these appointments, and it was a mini VBAC therapy session. We would talk about what we were up against, and just the different providers because she was going to the same practice as me. It was just so nice to have her. I was doing all of the things. The chiropractic care. I was eating the dates and drinking the tea because I wanted to know that if I was doing this, I was going to try everything and then I couldn't look back and say, "What if I would have done chiropractic?" Anyway, I basically tell him, "Get out of my room. I'm going." He just was awful. He did all of the scare tactics and all of the risks but none of the risks of a third C-section of course. Only the risks of the very low uterine rupture that he was hyping up. Anyway, that was bizarre, but again, I stood my ground. I was so proud, but then I got home, and I spiraled. I was packing my hospital bag. I was crying. I said to my husband, "I let them get in my head. I shouldn't even bother packing any of this stuff." I had the little fairy lights and things to labor. I was like, "I shouldn't even bother packing any of this VBAC stuff. They're just going to find some reason to do a C-section. Look at this. This whole time, they wanted to do the C-section." Again, another night of spiraling. As he left, he said, "They're going to want to see you tomorrow and repeat all of this testing." Meagan: For what? If everything was okay, what was the actual medical reason? Kelsey: Exactly. It was just out of spite because I shut him down. They were like, "They're going to want you to come back tomorrow." I'm like, "Okay. If it gets me out of here and gets you out of access to an IV and a C-section, fine." Meagan: Seriously. Kelsey: The next morning, I'm on my way to my appointment. I was on the phone with my mom and I told her, "I'm having these weird feelings I've never felt before. I don't know if maybe they're contractions." It was very strange. It was something I never felt. I never had a contraction and had never gone into labor. So I go to my appointment and passed the BPP with flying colors. I'm like, "Well, what about the fluid?" She's like, "Yeah, there's a lot of it, but it's fine." I got an 8 out of 8 score.  I go for the NST. Well now, baby's moving too much, so his heart rate, they can't keep it on because he's moving, and she kept having to move it. So again, I'm just very frustrated that I'm even there. I'm so close to the end. This is now 39 weeks and 4 days. And so the tech says, "I'm going to bring this to him. He might not like the drop offs, but I'll explain to him that the baby's moving a lot."I said, "Who's he? What OB is this?" She said the OB who was in triage the day before who tried to have me do the C-section and I was just like, "Oh my god. He's going to see my name and have any reason to send me back." Sure enough, he comes sauntering in the room and he says, "We meet again," as if I'm this problem child, as if I wasn't just having all these normal tests. He says, "I can't be confident that these aren't decals. You need to go back to triage." I was just again, so frustrated. It's like just a constant of all of these things coming up and none of it being real. It'd be different if it was like, oh, this was actually a risky thing. But again, I'm so close to the end. I know what I know. I knew that the OB that I had seen the day before in the office, I wanted to talk to her about the fluid because I had searched, and I saw that the polyhydramnios could actually be a thing. If your water breaks, there's the risk of cord prolapse. So I knew that that wasn't something that was completely to be ignored, so I wanted to talk to her more about that. I humored him, and I went in. Well, all the while, I'm feeling these sensations more and more consistently. They get me hooked up, and I explain the situation. I said that I was just here yesterday not really for a reason, but I'm back now also not really for a reason. They hook me up. Of course, everything looks good. But she's like, "Are you feeling these contractions?" I'm like, "Is that what they are?" I was excited. They were just cracking up because she's like, "These are pretty consistent and big contractions." I just couldn't believe it. I was just so excited my body was doing it. I'd only ever, at 39 weeks, been cut off and then never been given a chance. All I needed, I guess, was a few extra days. I'm just so excited that I'm having contractions. The nurses are laughing. "We've never seen somebody so excited to have contractions." Anyway, at that point, my OB comes in, the one who had been trying to get me to be induced. She's plenty nice, but the one who said about if we did a scan of 40 weeks and 10 pounds, would you reconsider? So she said, "Kelsey, do you know what I'm going to say? This is the second day you've been in here in two days." I'm like, "Yeah, but for nothing."Meagan: And because you asked me to come in here.Kelsey: Yeah, trying to humor everyone and see that yep, everything's fine. See? But again, I was having these contractions, and as I was there, picking up. She wanted to check me. I said, "Okay, I'll let you check me," because I'm having contractions I never have before, and I want to see what's going on. I went to the bathroom, and I had bloody show, which again, I had never had. So things are really happening. I come out and I told her, "There's blood and I'm having contractions." She's like, "Yay, let's check you," and I was 1 centimeter. She was one of the OBs who was comfortable with a balloon. So she said, "I'll tell you what. You've got a lot of fluid. Things are happening. Let's work on moving things along."Meagan: So she induced you?Kelsey: She wanted to.Meagan: She wanted to. Okay.Kelsey: So she's like, "Let's get you in. I'll do the balloon. We can get things going because you've got a lot of fluid. It's time, Kelsey." I'm like, "Okay." I said, "Well, I'm gonna go home."Meagan: Good for you, girl.Kelsey: Get my kids off with my mom and get my dog off. She sunk when I said that. I said, "I promise I'll come back. I'm not gonna run it. I'll come back just in a little while. Like, maybe this evening." But she said, "Okay, I'm here till 4:00, and then it's another OB coming on who won't want to do the balloon." So just come in before then. Of course, I wait until exactly 4:00. But as I was home, it just kept picking up, and I started timing. The app is like, "Go to the hospital. Go to the hospital." But I've also know from listening to this podcast that that happens. My husband's freaking out because he would see me stop and pause, and he's like, "Let's go. Let's get out of here." I was grateful that everything maintained through the car ride. I got there, and contractions were still happening. My doula met us there because I hear about people going too early and the contractions stop, and then there are problems there. Yeah, things just kept happening. We got in a room. My doula was amazing. We were just hanging out and just laughing. I couldn't believe just how happy I felt to feel my body doing it after all these years of just, "Your babies are too big, and you can't do this," and then all of this pregnancy saying that. It was just amazing.  I definitely had my guard up. The nurse was talking about the IV and the monitors, and especially with being overweight, I was worried about a wireless monitor. That happens. They can't get a good reading, and then they think baby's heart rate's dropping. I was just so worried about any reason, because I knew that they would. They would take it and run, so I was so grateful that the wireless monitoring worked perfectly. I was on my feet. Things just kept getting more intense, but I'm just laughing and smiling through it all. My doula was amazing. It was just such a great vibe in the room. My nurses were amazing. Every little thing that went right, I just embraced. I was so happy that this was happening. My water broke while I was on a video call with my friend. Again, it just like, "Oh, my gosh, my water broke. That's never happened." There was meconium in the water. So again, I'm like, oh, no. You know, any little thing. I was quickly reassured. It was very light. It wasn't anything to be worried about. I labored and stayed on my feet. My doula was amazing with suggesting things I never would have thought or never would have thought that I would enjoy. I was in the shower at one point on a ball. They had this little wooden thing with a hole in it so that it keeps the ball from slipping out and keeps the drain from plugging. I'm just listening to my guilty pleasure music while my husband's outside the shower eating a Poptart laughing. It was just such a funny thing. I was just so, so excited about it all. Things were really picking up. My water just kept breaking and breaking. I mean, it was true. I had so much fluid. It just was just coming out and coming out. I couldn't believe how much there was. I got into the bed on my side, my doula said, "Try to take a break," and then I felt a water balloon in me. I could feel it burst. Just when I thought surely I was out of fluid, it just gushed out. And then immediately it was like, "Oh, my gosh, this is really intense." I handled that for a while. I was squeezing the comb. I was working through contractions, but I tapped out at about 1:00 AM I'd say. So we got into the hospital around 4:00, and the time just flew. They came to do the epidural, and he put it in. I just kept waiting for relief because I felt like I just didn't have a break. They were kind of on top of each other. It was one of those things that if I knew I was only going to have to do that for a short amount of time, but just not knowing how long, I just felt like I was suffering through them at that point. I wasn't trying to be a hero. I was just trying to avoid what I know sometimes happens and just trying to avoid interventions as much as I could. I kept waiting for this relief because I'm like, "I think I just need to rest. I feel like I'm close." The last I've been checked, I was 5 centimeters, but that was before the water broke and before struggling through contractions for a while. I had no idea how dilated I was. The relief never came. I was hoping to be able to relax and maybe take a nap like sometimes I hear. I could still feel my legs. I could have walked around the room if I wanted. I kept pushing the button. I don't know if it was in the wrong spot or what happened. I don't know if maybe there was something that was working because instead of feeling crushing and just defeated through the contractions, I was feeling like I can survive that. I can get through them. There was just no resting, it was just still having to work through contractions. And then my doula at one point said, "Maybe we should call him in and have him redo it." But then I was in my head, "Well, what if he redoes it, and then I'm too numb and I can't push?" So I just went through it. I'm so glad that I did, because it wasn't long after that that I was checked, and I was 8 centimeters. My  nurse kept checking and there was a lot going on down there and a lot coming out. Eventually she checked me and she said, "Hi. Hi, buddy. I just couldn't believe it." She said, "Do you want to feel him?" I got to reach down and feel his head. It was just also surreal. She had me do a practice push once I was dilated enough, and she's like, "O, oh, okay, okay, okay." She said, "I'm gonna go make a phone call."Tara: Wow, that's impressive.Kelsey: And the OB came in. I forgot to say that when I got to the hospital, the OB who was gonna do the Foley balloon, I totally left this out. She checked me, and I was already 2 centimeters. She said, "Your body is doing it on its own. We're just going to let you go."Tara: That was my question, Kelsey. I was wondering this whole time if they did anything to augment. There was no Pitocin. This was all you? Kelsey: Yes. Yes. I can't believe it.Tara: That's amazing.Kelsey: I got there, and I got the monitor placed. She came in. She checked, and she said, "You're 2 centimeters. We're just going to let you go. We're going to let you do your thing." That was just music to my ears just knowing how things sometimes go. Also, the OB coming on, I had told you, was really nervous about my plan. My husband and I joked that she did something to calm herself down before she walked in because she was just like, "You know what? I'm going to do something crazy. I'm just going to channel my inner midwife and do something crazy and just let you go and leave you alone." My doula is like, "Good. Please let us go." Yeah, I forgot to mention that is not only did I not need the induction, but then I had the OB surrendering and saying, "Go ahead, just let's do it. It's fine." So she literally did not come in. I think was as far away as she could pretending it wasn't happening, I guess. When the nurse called her, she came in and she got her gloves on. I just kept waiting for something to happen still. I'd been so, so scared by providers this whole time. So I'm like, okay. She instructed me on how to push. We did it through one contraction, and his head came out. I was like, "Oh, my gosh. This is crazy," and then, during the second contraction, I did it again, and the rest of him came out. It was unbelievable. It was five minutes from start to finish. My doula described it like butter. He was 9 pounds, 3 ounces.Meagan: So biggest baby. OkayKelsey: Biggest baby, enormous head. I didn't have any tears. I had what the OB described as grazes, like little spots that were bleeding. She put one or two stitches on the walls from where there were these grazes and I can't even describe it. I was sobbing. I was like, "We did it. We did it." He came right to my chest and to get to see him, it was unbelievable. It all happened so fast. Going from not believing in my body and just going for these C-sections, I'm so glad I didn't know what I was missing because in that moment, I probably could have done this before. Again, I didn't know what I didn't know and who knows would have gone? But it was just unbelievable to be in a normal room to have him come out and just right to me where he belongs and getting to see him with his cord still attached and he's crying. It just was such a beautiful moment and I just couldn't believe that had after all of that, here he was. It was beautiful. They asked about cutting the cord, and we hadn't even discussed that. I was like, "Can I do it? I really want to do it." I wanted all the experiences that I could never have gotten in the OR. I cut his cord. My doula got an awesome picture of that. I was considering having that be my picture for the podcast. It was just unbelievable, and I was just so happy, too, that that OB was the one who was there because seeing how nervous she was, I'm so glad that she got to experience. Look what you almost deterred me from doing just seeing how perfect it was. Now I'm hoping that if somebody comes to her in the future, she'll remember and say, "Hey, we had this baby, and it was just such a great experience." I was just so grateful for every second. I couldn't believe how things ended up.Meagan: I am so happy for you. Like Tara was saying, I'm so impressed. Standing your ground the way that you stood your ground after just constant-- I'm gonna call it nagging. They were just nagging on you and trying so hard to use the power of their knowledge that we know that they hold. We as beings, and it's not even just in the birth world, just as humans, we have this thing where we have providers, and we know that they've gone through extensive amount of schooling and trainings, so it's sometimes easy as you said, you spiraled when you got back to spiral and be like, wow, they're just all pushing this really hard. Maybe I should listen. Tara, have you experienced this within supporting your clients or just your own personal experience?Tara: You mean the pushback from the providers?Meagan: Yeah, the pushback, and then for us, should we doubt our intuition? Should we doubt what we're feeling and go with what they're saying because they know more?Tara: Yeah, I mean, that's the hardest thing, because you hire them. Like you said with your first provider, you trusted her. You'd known her since you were young. You've built this trust. She's gone to school. It's so hard to stand up against that as just a consumer and as a person who cares about the health of your baby and your family. But then the multiple times that you had to stand up for yourself even in small things like not getting the IV, not getting the cervical exam, those are not small things. You were protecting yourself from having more of that pushback. I am amazed. We struggle with that as doulas too, because we're helping advocate for our clients. It sounds like your doula was a rock for you and a place to feel validated and heard. I'm so glad you had her.Kelsey: Me too. I say to my husband, "No offense, you're great, but what would be done without our doula?" I mean, she was unbelievable just bringing the positive energy. My husband and I were so nervous and we were so worked up. We were third-time parents, but it was our first time doing any of this. My husband wouldn't have really known. He's never seen it before. My doula, she's done this so many times. She was right in there with the massaging and the side-lying. She did the, she called it shaking the apples.Tara: Oh, yeah. Yeah, that's a good one. But Kelsey, it's against all odds. I just think it's amazing because we talk about the power of oxytocin and feeling safe and not having stress hormones going on, and you had all of that. You should be so proud of your body coming in in the nick of time and just proving against all of this. I'm just gonna go ahead and birth this baby, and a bigger baby than your other two which is such a triumphant moment.Meagan: Seriously.Kelsey: His head was 15 inches. That was another thing because they had talked about his head circumference being off the chart. That was another thing I had been searching is people who've had the big head circumference. Those groups, this podcast and just groups and having access to so many stories and people overcoming all of these obstacles because every time I came up against something, I had heard it before. I said, "Oh, this is something that I've heard time and time again with these stories. They make you feel like you're the only one with the big baby and, oh, this is a problem. But it's like, no. They're saying this to so many people. It was just amazing going into this being so informed and motivated and having that confidence that I never would have had. I just so grateful for this podcast and for all the information.Meagan: Well, thank you so much. It's one of the coolest things, I think, not only just the VBAC, but to see where you came from at the beginning of, "We're not having kids. Okay. We're having kids. Okay. This is what I'm thinking. I'm kind of scared of this. Let's do this. Okay. Doctor said this. Let's do this." to this. I mean, you came so talking about the pendulum, right? And what that provider was talking about. You came from one side over here to not even wanting kids or wanting a vaginal birth to swinging so far to the other side and advocating so hard for yourself and standing your ground. When we say that you should be proud, I am shouting it. Be proud of yourself. Girl, you are incredible. You are such a great example. Women of Strength, if you are listening right now, I want you to know that you can be just like Kelsey. You do not have to be bullied. You do not have to be nagged on every single time. Know what's right. Know your gut. Know your heart. Do what you need to do, and you can do it. You can do it. It is hard. I know it's hard. It is not easy, but it is possible. Girl, you're amazing. I thank you so much for sharing your story today and empowering all the Women of Strength who are coming after you and needing the same encouragement that you needed not even years ago. How old was your baby?Kelsey: So he is four months old.Meagan: Four months. Yeah, so a year ago when you were listening. I mean, really, so so amazing. Thank you so much. And Tara, it's always a pleasure. Thank you so much for being here. I couldn't agree more with your advice. Get your partners educated. Create that true dream team.Kelsey: Thank you.Tara: Congratulations, Kelsey.ClosingWould you like to be a guest on the podcast? Tell us about your experience at thevbaclink.com/share. For more information on all things VBAC including online and in-person VBAC classes, The VBAC Link blog, and Meagan's bio, head over to thevbaclink.com. Congratulations on starting your journey of learning and discovery with The VBAC Link.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

What do you do when your support system doesn't support your business? In today's episode, I'm sharing how to handle unsupportive loved ones as an entrepreneur.[This episode is a re-run. It originally aired on January 16th, 2023.]In This Episode You'll:Identify how lack of support shows up in others.Learn two mindset shifts to help you handle the lack of support.Explore how to set boundaries with those closest to you. Hear three steps to help you gain support from your spouse. Find it quickly:2:28 - What to do when the people closest to you don't support your business6:39 - Establishing yourself as a business owner to your loved ones9:49 - Mindset shifts for you to handle the lack of support 12:12 - Boundaries to draw with friends and family17:47 - Gaining support from your spouse Mentioned in this Episode:Boundaries In Your Business: joymichelle.co/boundaries-from-your-businessBoundaries With Your Clients: joymichelle.co/client-boundaries-101Episode 24 Master Your Business Finances with Val Duvick: joymichelle.co/master-your-businessMore ways to connect:Joy Michelle Instagram: instagram.com/joyymichelleJoy Michelle Website: joymichelle.coWork with Joy as your coach: joymichelle.co/ways-to-work-togetherIf you're enjoying the content we're creating on the podcast and want to connect with others who are called to both, make sure you come join us in the PhotoBoss® with Joy Michelle Facebook Group! Join Now >>

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How painful it is to not feel supported, especially when that takes us back to our earliest memories. Today I want to talk about getting the help we need, inner child wounds, and how healing can happen. Hit play for more! If you prefer reading, check out my website to read the full transcript: ⁠⁠⁠changeradically.com/podcast.  And, here's your gift, the Keys for Change workbook.  If you want to learn more about the support I offer, check out Rise, my 6-month signature program and my courses.  Could you leave me a review? Open the podcast on your phone and rate Empowered to Thrive! I'd appreciate it! Want to know more about how you can radically change your life? Check my resources at changeradically.com/shop Find me at Instagram: ⁠@corinne_changeradically⁠ Website: ⁠changeradically.com⁠ Facebook: ⁠Change Radically with Corinne⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠@corinneguidopowell⁠ Email me at corinne@changeradically.com

In this episode Nikkiey Stott takes on a challenge that can feel discouraging on any health journey: handling unsupportive partners. She'll explore why your partner may feel hesitant or even resistant to your goals—often due to their own insecurities or fears about how these changes may affect your relationship. Understanding these perspectives can be the first step to approaching these conversations with empathy rather than defensiveness.From setting the right tone to inviting your partner to join your journey (without pressure), you'll learn actionable tips to foster understanding, mutual respect, and find alternative sources of support when needed. Your health goals are about you, and with a little empathy and communication, you can move forward confidently, no matter the response. If you're working toward a healthier lifestyle and want to bring your partner on board—or at least find common ground—this episode is for you.Click To Watch A Free Macro TrainingClick To Apply For Our ProgramsIf you've got a story about how The Macro Hour Podcast has positively impacted your life, we'd love to hear from you! Fill out this short form for a chance to be featured!Wanna collaborate with WarriorBabe? Click HERE! Follow Nikkiey and WarriorBabe's Socials:WarriorBabe - Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | WebsiteNikkiey - Instagram | Facebook | TikTok Welcome to The Macro Hour Podcast, where we talk about mindset, methodology, and tactics that will help you lose body fat, build muscle, be strong, and feel insanely confident. We've got a no-bullshit, no-nonsense approach with a lot of love and heart to help you reach your goals.

Try out the weekly class Today I'm going to talk about what I find a sad subject, and it is about unsupportive friends and unsupportive family members. And I'm gonna give you a few points and things to think about. So that you can have the support, at least from me, and I'll talk about getting more support in a moment, that helps you when you're dealing with this.  Now, the first thing, and I know because, man, I hated this word when I first learned it, was boundaries. Learning to set boundaries, clearly communicate your goals and values to others, and establish boundaries when necessary.  This helps you to protect your energy and stay focused on what matters most to you without having that negativity affect you.  Now, I think that's really important, and I'm going to say something about boundaries in a moment, but I also need to teach you this little phrase. Don't go to the hardware store for lemons.  If you know that a family member or a particular friend is not supportive of your acting career, here's an idea stop talking to them about it.  Stop talking to them about it. You have a choice. Here's another idea. They call, you find them difficult to deal with this particular person. Don't pick up the phone. Let it go to voicemail. And call them back when you feel strong.  When you feel strong.  There's another great phrase. I just thought of it. I learned this in a 12 step program, which is Don't dial pain. Or don't text pain. If that person, if you know that person, is not going to give you the empathy, the love, the support that you need, go to someone else, and if you don't know who to go to, oh, for goodness sakes, please shoot me an email.  Email me The other thing here and it goes right into it, is you want to limit negative interactions. When I go to places where I don't feel that I'm really going to be supportive, I remind myself that all I need to do is be civil and polite.  And sometimes if it's like a party, I can ask questions. And just listen to other people. I don't have to be giving everything of myself. It's not required. It's not my duty to entertain people.  I can ask them how their lives are doing. And I am going to walk away feeling, one, good that I was there for another person, but two, also that I have protected myself.  Limit negative interactions.  If there are certain people consistently undermining your efforts, consider reducing the time you spend with them. I always say there's another phrase that is arrive late and leave early, arrive late and leave early.  And also, the restroom can be a wonderful place to just reconnect yourself, to gather your thoughts, to gather your resolve.  If you're in situations that you can't get out of your family.  For example, I, by the way my parents are the most supportive people in the whole world, so I can't imagine not having supportive family members. But I have had unsupportive friends, so I can relate.  You want to support yourself with positivity whenever possible to keep your motivation strong. That's one of the things that is so freaking wonderful about that weekly adjustment class. We are All supporting each other. It's such a wonderful class on that line. Seek external support. We cannot do this on our own. It takes a village. We want to find like minded individuals who can uplift and encourage you and whether that is through an online community or getting a mentor or having supportive friends.  Those are the people you want to be support surrounding you yourself with as much as possible because their reinforcement can balance out any negativity from other people. I think it does so much more than balance it out. I think it tips the scale.  Also, Remember to stay focused on your vision. Remind yourself of why you are pursuing your goals.  And remind yourself that you are worth it.  And that you were put on this planet for a reason.  And it is worth you standing up for. Focus on your vision. on your long term vision.  When you do that, it helps you to remain steadfast, even when those around you may not.  Support your choices. Don't abandon yourself, and don't abandon your dreams. You are worth it. You are worth it.  Finally, respond with compassion. Oof, this is a toughie. Sometimes, unsupportive friends or families, family, may be acting out because of their own fears or their own misunderstandings.  Try to respond with empathy, but don't let their worries derail your progress.  Focus on your path, knowing that their opinions do not define your self worth. If someone is saying that I'm worried that you're in a risky job, with your goal of being an actor.  Tell them that you can handle it.  Tell them how much you love and appreciate that they're concern, but that you've got this and that all you ask is that they love you.  They don't even have to support you, but just that they love you. Just that they're your friend. And then you can make the mental note of whether they heard that or not, and of whether you go to them again.  Whatever you don't quit five minutes before the miracle. Don't do it. Keep going. Consistence. Persistence. Tenacity.

In this week's episode of Two Personal, Joy Taylor opens up about her anxiety regarding the current political climate and its impact on all of us. She expresses disappointment with the current political discourse, noting the shift from respectful dialogue to emotional reactions and lack of political decorum. Joy is joined by friend Sylvia Obell, who emphasizes the importance of self-care and the need for thorough research to combat misinformation in the media.They share personal experiences of how differing political beliefs can strain relationships and highlight the need for purpose and action in tough times. Later, in the "Never Too Personal" segment, Joy addresses a viewer's question about support for career goals within a relationship and the crucial role of communication in navigating these issues. Catch the latest episode every Wednesday on YouTube or your favorite podcast app, and join the conversation on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook @TwoPersonalShow! #TwoPersonal #JoyTaylor #Election #Trump #Kamala #MentalHealth

It's that time of year again and we totally understand if this season is filled with both excitement and anxiety... There's a lot to look forward to for many people and these events have their positives and negatives. If this is the year you are going to stick to your nutrition goals and you want a blueprint for how to have those potentially awkward conversations with family and friends about it, we've got you! In this episode, we want to breakdown how to set boundaries with others when it comes to food and any other boundary you desire to set around this time of year. Omar recently gave this presentation at our retreat and everyone loved the content so we thought we'd share it here as well. We are going to go through 5 different real life scenarios and while we had fun with the reactions, these are real scenarios we know you might be faced with during this time of year and we want to arm you with strategies and tactics that allow the other person to understand where you are coming from and give you a firm boundary with sticking to your plan.  Time Stamps:  (1:22) Omar's Specialty and Recent Presentation (4:27) Don't Have To Tell Everyone Your Goals (6:29) Sharing Boundaries (8:42) The Conversation With Yourself (10:10) Scenario #1: Company Holiday Party (14:45) Scenario #2: Tracking Macros (17:40) Scenario #3: On Sale Halloween Candy and Leftovers (18:32) Scenario #4: Your Best Friend's Christmas Cookies (24:52) Scenario #5: Family Tension Around The Holidays (29:07) Shoot Us A Message!---------------------Follow @vanessagfitness on Instagram for daily fitness tips & motivation. ---------------------Download Our FREE Metabolism-Boosting Workout Program---------------------Join the Women's Metabolism Secrets Facebook Community for 25+ videos teaching you how to start losing fat without hating your life!---------------------Click here to send me a message on Facebook and we'll see how I can help or what best free resources I can share!---------------------Interested in 1-on-1 Coaching with my team of Metabolism & Hormone Experts? Apply Here!---------------------Check out our Youtube Channel!---------------------Enjoyed the podcast? Let us know what you think and leave a 5⭐️ rating and review on iTunes!

What should you do when the people closest to you don't support your acting dream?If you're facing resistance from family or friends who want you to get a "real job," this episode offers advice on how to communicate with them and still pursue your passion.Learn how to turn doubt into understanding and support:Discover how to have productive conversations with unsupportive loved ones without creating conflict.Learn how to build a successful acting career while managing doubt and skepticism.Get inspired by Martin's personal story of overcoming doubt and making his dream a reality.If you're struggling with unsupportive family or friends, listen to this episode now and gain the tools to handle it while staying true to your passion!Contact Info and ResourcesMartin's Email: martin@cityheadshots.comMartin's Website: https://www.martinbentsen.comHeadshots: https://www.cityheadshots.comShoot Footage for Your Reel: https://www.actorscreenershoot.comEdit Footage Into a Reel: https://www.demoreelsnyc.comThis podcast dives deep into the world of acting in film, exploring the journey of movie acting with stories, building confidence among aspiring actors, navigating auditions and productions, and offering insights from acting agents, coaches, and the challenges of becoming SAG-AFTRA eligible to advance your acting career, skills, and landing roles.

Go to todaysautisticmoment.com for the transcripts. In this episode of Today's Autistic Moment, Nicole LeBlanc will join Philip in the first segment to talk about the challenges of finding adequate and affordable housing as reasons why many Autistics live with unsupportive people. Becca Lory Hector will Philip in segment 3 and 4 to provide you with helpful tips about how to handle difficult people by setting and maintaining good boundaries, by creating safe spaces and routines to help you regulate.  We want to help Autistic Adults to feel safe and happy in your homes.  Join us for this informative show. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/2daysautistic/support

On this week's Listener Series, we welcome Rachel to share her experience with us. Rachel shares with us her experience of a high-risk pregnancy due to gestational diabetes and a vacuum delivery following an induction. She shares what it was like to experience hallucinations related to her IV pain medication and for her experiences and preferences to be dismissed. She also discusses the grief of missing the golden hour because her son required a NICU stay. On this episode, you will hear:- Severe morning sickness- Gestational Diabetes and Anxiety- Failed epidural- Unsupportive nurses - D-MER- Health anxiety related to babyFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.

in today's episode, we dive into listener questions about feeling confident in your clothes, the emotional journey of quitting a competition prep, and dealing with unsupportive family members. we share our advice on navigating these tough situations, from managing internal battles around body image to setting healthy boundaries with loved ones.

Welcome to this week's episode of Fast. Feast. Repeat. Intermittent Fasting for Life, with Gin Stephens and Sheri Bullock.To make a submission for the podcast, go to fastfeastrepeat.com/submit.  We are a community-driven podcast, and we look forward to sharing your questions, success stories, non-scale victories, IF tweaks, motivational quotes (and more!) on each episode of the podcast. Resources used in today's episode:Try Hungryroot Today: https://www.hungryroot.com/r/MQ9J6XIQ Go to fastfeastrepeat.com to see Gin's and Sheri's favorite things, and to shop with us.  Every purchase you make through links on our website help to support this podcast so we can keep bringing you episodes each week. Want to learn more about BiOptimizer's Magnesium Breakthrough? Visit www.bioptimizers.com/fastfeastrepeat and use code FFR10 to save 10% off any order. Are you ready to take your intermittent fasting lifestyle to the next level? There's nothing better than community to help with that.  In the Delay, Don't Deny community we all embrace the clean fast, and there's just the right support for you as you live your intermittent fasting lifestyle. Connect with both Gin and Sheri in the community, as well as thousands of other intermittent fasters who are there to support you along your journey.  If you're new to intermittent fasting or recommitting to the IF lifestyle, join the 28-Day FAST Start group.  After your fast start, join us for support in The 1st Year group.  Need tips for long term maintenance? We have a place for that!  There are many more useful spaces beyond these, and you can interact in as many as you like.Visit ginstephens.com/community to join us. An annual membership costs just over a dollar a week when you do the math.  If you aren't ready to fully commit for a year, join for a month and you can cancel at any time. If you know you'll want to stay forever, we also have a lifetime membership option available.  IF is free. You don't need to join our community to fast. But if you're looking for support from a community of like-minded IFers, we are here for you at  ginstephens.com/community.

 10 Ways in 10 Days Part 2 Grab the PDF guide of all 10 Ways: https://adept-experimenter-3588.ck.page/d58fd6430f Show Description:According to a recent ASCD article synthesizing the recent research on early career teacher retention, 29% of first year teachers will leave the school they are in, to either exit the profession or go to another school. Three common challenges emerged from the research:·      Classroom management·      Insufficient curriculum guidance·      Unsupportive environment Quoting: “More than anything else, novice teachers often appear to yearn for, yet seldom receive, meaningful feedback on their teaching from experienced colleagues and administrators.”   The ten strategic behaviors in this guide are designed to:·      Build trust·      Support teachers' classroom management·      Provide curricular guidance These strategies can be completed in less than 10 minutes a day! Jen Manly's website: https://learningandteachingblog.com  Frederick's Links:Email: frederick@frederickbuskey.comWebsite: https://www.frederickbuskey.com/LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/strategicleadershipconsultingDaily Email subscribe: https://adept-experimenter-3588.ck.page/fdf37cbf3aThe Strategic Leader's Guide to Reclaiming Purpose: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CWRS2F6N?ref_=pe_93986420_774957520  Sponsorship:I want to thank IXL for sponsoring this podcast… Everyone talks about the power of data-driven instruction. But what does that actually look like? Look no further than IXL, the ultimate online learning and teaching platform for K to 12. IXL gives you meaningful insights that drive real progress, and research can prove it. Studies across 45 states show that schools who use IXL outperform other schools on state tests. Educators who use IXL love that they can easily see how their school is performing in real-time to make better instructional decisions.  And IXL doesn't stop at just data. IXL also brings an entire ecosystem of resources for your teachers, with a complete curriculum, personalized learning plans, and so much more. It's no wonder that IXL is used in 95 of the top 100 school districts. Ready to join them? Visit http://ixl.com/assistant to get started.  

10 Ways in 10 Days: Easy Activities for Supporting New Teachers, Part 1 Grab the PDF guide of all 10 Ways: https://adept-experimenter-3588.ck.page/d58fd6430f Show Description:According to a recent ASCD article synthesizing the recent research on early career teacher retention, 29% of first year teachers will leave the school they are in, to either exit the profession or go to another school. Three common challenges emerged from the research:·      Classroom management·      Insufficient curriculum guidance·      Unsupportive environment Quoting: “More than anything else, novice teachers often appear to yearn for, yet seldom receive, meaningful feedback on their teaching from experienced colleagues and administrators.”   The ten strategic behaviors in this guide are designed to:·      Build trust·      Support teachers' classroom management·      Provide curricular guidance These strategies can be completed in less than 10 minutes a day! Frederick's Links:Email: frederick@frederickbuskey.comWebsite: https://www.frederickbuskey.com/LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/strategicleadershipconsultingDaily Email subscribe: https://adept-experimenter-3588.ck.page/fdf37cbf3aThe Strategic Leader's Guide to Reclaiming Purpose: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CWRS2F6N?ref_=pe_93986420_774957520 Sponsorship:I want to thank IXL for sponsoring this podcast… Everyone talks about the power of data-driven instruction. But what does that actually look like? Look no further than IXL, the ultimate online learning and teaching platform for K to 12. IXL gives you meaningful insights that drive real progress, and research can prove it. Studies across 45 states show that schools who use IXL outperform other schools on state tests. Educators who use IXL love that they can easily see how their school is performing in real-time to make better instructional decisions.  And IXL doesn't stop at just data. IXL also brings an entire ecosystem of resources for your teachers, with a complete curriculum, personalized learning plans, and so much more. It's no wonder that IXL is used in 95 of the top 100 school districts. Ready to join them? Visit http://ixl.com/assistant to get started.  

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This episode dives in the problem of people in our lives who might say unsupportive comments about you cutting back or quitting alcohol. I explain WHY they might do this and how to navigate it if the person who is the offender is important to you. I also discuss our culture and the social pressure we experience when we are actively trying to change things. These things can be scary and make us not want to share and tell the truth about our drinking. But remember, this discomfort is temporary and you can get to a place where you aren't bothered by our heavy drinking society and other peoples thoughts and comments. Down the road, you will have established stronger boundaries, you will say no to doing things or being around people who don't feel supportive, you will move past this and have the true freedom you seek. Read my blog here:https://www.angelamascenik.com/blogCheck out Alive AF! here:https://www.angelamascenik.com/aliveafGrab the last few Cancun Retreat Spots here:http://www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoachingApply to work with me privately here:https://form.typeform.com/to/x8tcz6lm Tags:Stop Over-drinking, Angela Mascenik, stop drinking podcast, how to feel, how to overcome addiction, how to drink less wine, change your relationship with alcohol, coach for women who want to drink less alcohol, help to stop over-drinking, stop over-drinking, life coach to help stop over-drinking, self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, mental health, mental health and alcohol use, mental health awareness month, how to stop over-drinking, how to stop drinking so much wine, life coach for women who drink too much, discomfort, current discomfort, easy, shouldn't be easy, challenges, mistakes, unsupportive comments, drinking social pressures

“What you're willing to do to help somebody become the best version of themselves?” Today, Leila (@LeilaHormozi) explores the crucial aspect of balancing personal ambitions with marital goals, emphasizing the importance of mutual goal alignment for a successful and supportive relationship. She underlines how selecting a partner who complements and supports your aspirations can significantly impact personal happiness and professional success.Welcome to Build where we talk about the lessons I have learned in scaling big businesses, gaining millions in sales, and helping our portfolio companies do the same. Buckle up, because we're creating an unshakeable business.Timestamps:(0:40) - Creative solutions for balancing goals in marriage(1:55) - Conflicting goals: when love isn't enough(3:11) - The impact of choosing the wrong partner(10:08) - The importance of picking the right person(11:09) - Redefining love and support in relationshipsFollow Leila Hormozi's Socials:LinkedIn | Instagram | YouTube | Twitter | Acquisition

Ask and you shall receive - it's part two of my Q&A series! I've really loved connecting with you guys on more personal questions and stories about life, so let's dive in deeper.In this episode, I cover:overcoming the fear of sharing personal storiesnoticing signs from the universetransitioning from a corporate job to entrepreneurshipdealing with unsupportive friends and familydeciding between low and high ticket programs as a new coachSupport the Podcast & Get Your Questions Answered: If this episode supports you, it would mean the world to me if you are able to take two minutes to rate it on Spotify and give it a follow/subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, so you get notified when weekly episodes drop! Have a question you'd like to get answered on the podcast or a topic you'd like me to speak on? Let me know here!Ways to Work with Nora:1:1 Coaching: Now Accepting applications for June 2024 (1 spot available). Apply here.Big Vision Mastermind: Currently SOLD OUT. Join the waitlist for when spots open in August 2024 by sending Nora a direct message @iamnoravirginia “waitlist.”Elevate: The best (& maybe even the only) membership on the internet that truly blends the spiritual with the strategy. Get instant access to 1) fast , organic exposure through networking & community 2) real-time coaching from Nora EVERY month 3) proven business strategy training and 4) daily spiritual practices. Access $13k+ of bonus FREE content today for just $98/mo (cancel anytime). Join here & hop into our June Program, summer of abundance.Connect with Nora on IG @iamnoravirginia

How errors are handled in the classroom is an important aspect of teaching and has a variety of consequences for students' own dealing with errors, their learning and their performance. In classrooms with a negative error climate, students are more likely to experience fear of making mistakes and feel alienated from their teachers. Teachers' unsupportive behaviours, such as negative reactions to errors, may increase students' alienation. Unsupportive teacher behaviours may also indirectly contribute to the development of fear of failure by influencing students' self-beliefs and motivation to do well in school. Positive and supportive student–teacher relationships have been shown to alleviate school alienation, suggesting that student–teacher interactions have a strong impact on academic as well as social learning experiences. In this episode we will learn how to ensure we create a positive error climate where students feel safe and that reduces the chances of alienation. Steuer G, Grecu AL, Mori J. Error climate and alienation from teachers: A longitudinal analysis in primary school. Br J Educ Psychol. 2024 Jan 2. doi: 10.1111/bjep.12659.  https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/bjep.12659 If you would like to learn more about alienation please do take a listen to my podcast with Dr Ben Looker (20th June 2022) about student-teacher relationships.

Thais is a best-selling author, counsellor, speaker, and leader in the personal development field.  She founded The Personal Development School to provide a more accessible, authentic way to transform your life. Utilizing the Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, she empowers individuals to overcome their attachment styles and reprogram any limiting thoughts and behaviors, creating long-lasting and enlightening change. She has been recognized by Psychology Today, Time Business News, The New York Post, Yahoo! News, Success Magazine, CEO Weekly, and many other outlets for her cutting-edge research on the subconscious mind and personal transformation.  Thais has a Ph.D. and is certified in over 13 modalities, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, NLP, Somatic Processing, and Trauma Work.  Through her academic training and client-based research, Thais has created renowned and inspiring courses for personal development, growth, and relationships. These teachings have been distilled into the in-depth programs, courses, and modules inside of The Personal Development School. Here are some of things we talked about in today's podcast: Attachment styles are subconscious rules we have for love and connection that are formed in childhood. Our subconscious mind plays a significant role in our beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and actions. Core wounds from childhood are stored in the subconscious mind and can impact our relationships. Reprogramming core wounds can be done through techniques like autosuggestion and meeting our unmet needs.  Coping mechanisms are subconscious strategies to meet our needs or provide relief from negative thoughts and beliefs. Understanding and addressing core wounds is crucial for developing healthier coping mechanisms. Setting boundaries around coping mechanisms can be beneficial for emotional well-being. Practicing vulnerability in small increments through exposure work can help individuals overcome their fear of unpacking uncomfortable emotions and experiences. Self-compassion is essential on the journey of healing, and taking responsibility for personal growth is key to creating positive change. And much more.    Link to her free attachment-style quiz: Quiz Link to her book, LEARNING LOVE: Book Listeners can use brian25off for a discounted rate at The Personal Development School (Website) Personal Development | Attachment Styles | The Personal Development School (Instagram) Thais Gibson (@thaisgibson) • Instagram photos and videos Thais Gibson (@thepersonaldevelopmentschool) • Instagram photos and videos   (Youtube) The Personal Development School - YouTube (Facebook) www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ (Apple Podcast) Personal Development School on Apple Podcasts (Tiktok) Personal Development School (@thaisgibson) | TikTok  

Inside today's episode, we dive into: Unsupportive thoughts that hold you back from taking up space The fears you hold on to that you actually don't even believe in Being the first person who looks like you in the industry Folks investing in you because of who you are, your lived experience, and your unique perspective Feeling less alone in the world because of the stories you choose to share Enjoyed the show? Make sure you rate and review us wherever you get your podcasts WORK WITH STEPH I'm really excited to introduce you to the ULTIMATE SPEAKER EXPERIENCE! This is a series of 3 programs that take you on a journey as you confidently embrace your speaker identity to amplify your impact: Visibility Tour—a challenge where you embrace your speaker identity for 30 days to attract speaking engagements out of the blue. Speaker Identity—a minimind where we curate your speaker portfolio and map out an intentional visibility strategy to attract clients out of the blue. Speaker Experience—a mastermind where we'll amplify your brand, leadership, and speaker identity as you step into your most sustainable and impactful business model yet. Ready to create more reach and revenue than ever before without sacrificing rest? Apply through the link(s) above or DM me the word “SPEAKER” on Instagram to get all the details and join the speaker movement. CONNECT WITH STEPH Instagram: ⁠instagram.com/stephwharton_⁠ Website: ⁠stephwharton.com⁠ Newsletter: ⁠Subscribe

Do women hold each other to such a high standard that lack of support of her fellow females cost Clinton the White House?

In the idea world, the people closest to you will be your biggest supporters, but what if they aren't? Today's episode is all about how to navigate chasing your writing dreams when your family is unsupportive. Happy writing! Related Episodes: #36: Your Circle of Support #58: The Audacity to Chase Your Dreams #119: Be Unreasonable Let's Connect: Instagram Threads Email --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/breaking-writers-block/message

Send me a text message!Have you ever wondered what's sabotaging your fat loss? Could it be one of these common scenarios? Should you start your fat-loss diet now?Today, Philip (@witsandweights) breaks down the roadblocks to achieving your fat loss goals. He explores the top 15 reasons why dieting may not be the best decision right now. He highlights a range of scenarios that can hinder your fat loss efforts, emphasizing the need to address these factors before starting a calorie deficit. From high stress levels and poor sleep quality to inadequate nutrition and inconsistent training, each reason is thoroughly dissected to guide you toward sustainable fat loss. Philip also emphasizes the importance of mental health, supportive environments, and life events that can influence your success in a dieting phase. He discusses considerations such as hormonal imbalances, nutrient deficiencies, and significant life transitions, providing a holistic view of the potential challenges you may encounter on your weight loss journey. He encourages you to assess your current circumstances, manage stressors, and have contingency plans ready to navigate challenges effectively. Today, you'll learn all about:0:00 Intro3:00 High stress levels4:00 Low sleep quality5:03 Poor nutrition8:58 Inconsistent training10:44 Injury or illness12:23 Pregnancy or breastfeeding13:45 Prioritizing mental health15:58 Unsupportive environments17:07 Underlying hormonal imbalances18:13 Nutrient deficiencies19:02 Upcoming major life event21:30 History of eating disorders23:13 Period of intense training25:14 Significant life transition27:20 Medication side effects cause weight gain31:28 OutroEpisode resources:Watch this FREE video on how to setup MacroFactor for body recomp and try MacroFactor FREE with my code WITSANDWEIGHTSRelated episode:Ep 170: How Fast Should You Lose Weight for Fat Loss?Support the Show.

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If your partner or spouse isn't necessarily on board with your business ambitions, you're not alone.Lack of (emotional) support is a topic that comes up often for women business owners. In fact, it came up several times among attendees during my April mastermind retreat and even after everyone went back home.Striking that balance (lacking a better word) between your role as a big-thinking business owner and your role as a relationship partner is challenging to find. But it's not impossible!In this episode of Time to Level Up, you'll learn eight reasons why your significant other can be unsupportive of you pursuing your business dreams. I'll also teach you four things to do to resolve it and make the situation (and the conversation about it) a little easier for you both.6:11 - Eight reasons why your partner might be opposing your business dreams and aspirations18:26 - Four steps to create a balance between your big-thinking business ambition and happiness with your significant other23:58 - What to do and what not to do when speaking with your partner or spouse about their support for your business dreams26:30 - What your level of compromise in this situation will depend on and how to know you're on the right trackMentioned In How to Handle an Unsupportive Spouse or Partner As a Big-Thinking Business WomanShe Thinks Big by Andrea LiebrossVision to Action IntensiveAndrea's Links“My Partner Doesn't Support My Career Dreams” by Kurt Smith | Psych Central“What to Do When Your Spouse Doesn't Support Your Dream” | Laura Noel | Stretch Into Success ConsultingAndrea on LinkedIn, Instagram, and FacebookThis podcast is brought to you by the What's Your Productivity Archetype quiz.Find the best productivity method for you and make getting it done easy.andreaslinks.com

In this episode, Rodric and Nichole are talking about the difficult topic of managing change. In business this can be a difficult area, but what if the person it affects is your life partner? The two discuss how to deal with unsupportive partners as well as how to be more supportive toward your partner in their entrepreneurial journey. As ever, open lines of communication in a relationship help to make these transitions less scary for you and your partner.What You Will Learn In This Episode:The importance of communicating honestly with each other so changes are understood.What may really be going on with an unsupportive partner.How to frame conversations about change, to take account of your partner's concerns and bring them along with you.Quotes:‘Change is scary, and it can be scarier when it's your life partner sitting in front of you, telling you that they want to make a big change. One of my favorite phrases is…”Go ahead and grow. If I have to get to know you again, I will.” And I want that freedom given to me in my life. So I do my best to give that freedom to other people in theirs.' Nichole McCollumResources:Million Dollar Flip FlopsFollow Us on InstaIf you aren't 100% confident what your ‘next right move' is in your business…I may have a tool that can help. Take the Entrepreneurial Journey Quiz and find out which stage you are in and which areas to focus on.Take the quiz now: https://milliondollarflipflops.com/quiz/

In this episode, Cassidy Lynne (@cassidylynne) gives her advice on your submissions, including unsupportive or over-supportive friends, forgetting poses, dealing with crazy children, and more. ---------------- SPONSORS: Use code CASSIDY20 when you try Aftershoot: https://aftershoot.com/cassidy ---------------- WATCH THESE EPISODES ON YOUTUBE! https://www.youtube.com/CassidyLynne ---------------- Want more free education? Check out my website for photography freebies, presets, & courses! https://cassidylynneeducation.com ---------------- Are you apart of our photography Facebook community group? Go to http://facebook.com/groups/cassidylynne/ and join the discussions of thousands of other photographers. ---------------- Where you can find me: Follow me on Instagram!! Follow me on Tik Tok! ---------------- Music by @mattngesa

In episode 153 Steph co-hosts with the one and only Mary Stein of HAR. Sponsored by Outside Agents - thanks Chad and team! Here's a taste of the questions they'll cover: 1. I keep noticing offers from my host agency/consortia/vendors that would provide perks for my clients and bonus commissions for me…after it is too late to claim them. How do other agents manage the flood of consumer and agent incentives so they can make recommendations that are good for their clients and good for them? —Vince K. 2. I am thinking about switching to another host agency because the one I am with really does not reach out to ask me why my sales are low. It is very difficult to find clients. I would like to sign up with a host agency that will reach out to their members to help them to figure out where they are struggling. Sorry for the long intro but my question is do I lose all my credentials that I already have with some vendors. I have completed my Disney Knowledge, Universal's course and some of Norwegian's courses. I appreciate everything you do for us agents. Thank you! —Lourdes P. 3. I'm in the process of getting a business bank account, and I recall something being mentioned in one of the Friday 15s or in the 7-day Setup about potentially setting up a trust account for client deposits. Is this just a secondary business bank account specifically for depositing client deposits, or is it something official that is regulated by the state or another overseeing agency as it is for lawyers? —Ashley R. TODAY'S RESOURCES: https://www.spoiledagent.com/ (Spoiled Agent lists supplier incentives for advisors in an organized way.) https://hostagencyreviews.com/hosts (List of host agencies.) https://hostagencyreviews.com/blog/tips-on-how-to-find-the-best-travel-host-agency (Advice on how to find the best host agency.) https://hostagencyreviews.com/blog/independent-travel-agent-contracts (Things to look for in your contract with your host agency) https://hostagencyreviews.com/blog/5-steps-to-finding-groups (Article series with advice on how travel agents can find group bookings.) https://hostagencyreviews.com/blog/best-disney-travel-agents-booking-secrets (Best Disney travel agents share their booking secrets.) https://hostagencyreviews.com/blog/universal-studios-hollywood-map-pdf (Universal Studios Hollywood map for your clients.) https://hostagencyreviews.com/blog/travel-agents-guide-hars-disney-world-planning-booking-cheatsheet (HAR guide on booking Disney World.) https://hostagencyreviews.com/blog/travel-agent-license-seller-of-travel-license (Information on Seller of Travel registration requirements for California, Florida, Hawaii, and Washington.) https://hostagencyreviews.com/blog/seller-travel-laws-service-fees (How seller of travel laws impact service fees.)

In this episode, I'm talking about a common struggle: dealing with lack of support from family or friends. It's tough when those closest to us don't fully understand or back our endeavors.  But fear not,I've got some tips up my sleeve to help you navigate this sticky situation. Drawing from personal experiences, I'm presenting two perspectives: tips from the healed version of myself and the hood version so you get a well-rounded perspective. Together, we'll explore how to amp up that self-love and resilience meter so you can stay true to yourself and your dreams, regardless of others' opinions. Sound good?  Other episodes you might like:  Ep 153: Are You Trying To Get Recognition From The Wrong People? Ep 151: Other People's Business Isn't Your Business! Ep 149: Ditching Excuses, Embracing Choice: Your Life, Your Call   Let's be friends on Instagram!  

Summary In this episode of The Chasing Health Podcast, Chase and Chris answer questions from their audience. They discuss how to handle unsupportive people when embarking on a health journey, the importance of acting like your future self even if you feel like a fraud, the value of communication between coaches and clients, building muscle in a calorie deficit, the use of continuous glucose monitors, and the effectiveness of sugar-free options for weight loss. How to Connect with Us:  Chase's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/changing_chase/ Chris' Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/conquer_fitness2021/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/665770984678334/ Visit our Website: https://www.conquerfitnessandnutrition.com/  Work with Conquer Fitness and Nutrition for 1:1 Coaching: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/survey/mxJlwpeNyhzQV4WGpbm1

Though Karen did research and took birthing classes before her first baby, she didn't realize how much advocating for herself could change the course of her birth. She wanted to be the “good” patient and told herself she could do without the things her body told her she needed during labor. Karen ended up pushing for over four hours and consenting to what she was told was an emergency C-section, even though the actual surgery didn't happen until hours later.Karen had some serious postpartum symptoms of swelling and difficulty breathing that were dismissed and even laughed at until things came to a point where she knew something was very wrong. She was diagnosed with postpartum cardiomyopathy, admitted to the ICU, and transferred to cardiac care. Doctors told Karen very different things about her condition. She went from being told not to have any more children to hearing that VBAC was absolutely safe. Karen discusses how her gestational hypertension came into play with the different advice as well. Karen found her voice. She advocated for herself. She knew what her body was saying and what it was capable of. Her labor was so smooth and she WAS able to birth vaginally!Informed Pregnancy PlusNeeded WebsiteHow to VBAC: The Ultimate Prep Course for ParentsFull Transcript under Episode Details 3:46 Review of the Week06:27 Karen's stories08:50 First labor10:47 Pushing for four hours15:11 Karen's C-section17:43 Postpartum swelling and difficulty breathing21:03 Fluid in her lungs23:52 Moving to Florida and getting answers25:13 Getting pregnant again29:53 Advocating for a VBAC32:14 A spiritual dream34:34 Gestational hypertension39:36 Signing an AMA41:31 Going to the hospital45:20 Pushing for 20 minutes47:30 White coat syndrome51:59 Symptoms of hypertension and preeclampsia54:52 Tips for hypertension and preeclampsia 56:55 Karen's final tipsMeagan: Hello, hello. We are getting into almost our 300th episode, you guys. Every single time I'm recording and I'm looking at these numbers, I am blown away. I cannot believe that we have almost put out 300 episodes. Oh my goodness. I am so glad that you are here. I have this energy this year. I don't know what it is. You'll have to let me know if you notice it, but I have this energy every time I'm recording this podcast. 2024 is vibing. I'm vibing with it. I'm really liking it. We have our friend Karen and are you from Florida, Karen? Karen: Yep. I'm in Orlando, Florida. Meagan: Florida. That's what I was thinking. So if we have Florida mamas looking for providers, this is definitely an episode. I feel like probably weekly we would get 10 messages asking about providers and Florida is huge so Florida is actually one that is really common where we are getting messages for supportive providers. So Karen, along the way, if you feel to name-drop some providers that are supportive, feel free to do so but we are going to get into sharing her story in just one moment because we do have a Review of the Week. 3:46 Review of the Week Meagan: This is from louuuhuuuu. So louuuhuuuu, thank you for your review. They say that this is “very inspirational.” It says, “I knew I wanted a VBAC with my third pregnancy, but I wasn't sure if it was possible. However, I knew I didn't feel like being flat-out told, ‘No' at the first appointment. Listening to the podcast was definitely the start of me really researching birth and looking into my options. I ended up with a successful HBA2C and I definitely don't think I would have had the courage or believed it was possible without this podcast. Thank you, Meagan, for all of the work that you do to provide this information.” I love that review so much. I think that through time in my own research, I was told no. I wasn't told, “No, no.” I was told, “Sure, probably yeah. You could VBAC,” but I never really got that positive vibe. I feel like this community that we have created with all of the people on the podcast and all of the people in the community on Facebook truly is something that I lacked when I was preparing for my VBAC. I'm so grateful that we have this community for you today. Thank you, louuuuhuuuu, and huge congrats on your HBAC, your home birth after two Cesareans. If you didn't what HBA2C meant, that's home birth after two Cesareans. Just like louuuhuuuu, you can too. Make sure to follow us in our Facebook community. You can find it at The VBAC Link Community on Facebook. Answer all of the questions and we will let you in. You can find out as well that it is possible. VBAC is possible. 06:27 Karen's storiesMeagan: Okay, Karen. Welcome to the show and thank you so much for taking the time to share your story today, well your stories today. Karen: Yeah. Thank you for having me. It's a little wild actually being on your show. I've been thinking about what I was going to say even before you invited me like, “What would I say if I finally get my VBAC? It's crazy to actually be sharing my story now so I'm really excited to be talking to you today.” Meagan: Well I'm so excited that you are here and sharing your inspirational message. You know, going through your submission, it sounds so similar to so many of us. You went in for a totally planned unmedicated birth that switched to the complete opposite where you had a C-section. There are so many of us. When I was reading that, I was like, “I bet I could probably find hundreds of stories not even just in our own community that start out like that.” Karen: Yes. That's why I love listening to your podcast so much because for the first time, I didn't feel alone. But yeah. I can get into my story now if you'd like. Meagan: Yes. I would love it. Karen: Okay. So back in August– or, I'm sorry. My son was due in August 2023. This was our first baby and he was a little bit of a surprise baby, but he was very much welcome and we were excited for him. At the time, we were living in Virginia. My husband had just gotten out of the Navy and he was about to start law school. I did prepare for the birth but I don't think I prepared enough. I took a Hypnobirthing class and the doula who was leading the class was super supportive. She was just like, “You're just going to birth beautifully. I can just tell.” The midwives, the nurses at the practice were like, “Oh, you're going to birth beautifully. I can just tell.” I just kept hearing that over and over again. My ego was a little over-inflated and I was like, “I don't need to do much. I've got this.” I don't think I was prepared enough. I didn't know what I was really getting into. 08:50 First laborKaren: So when I actually started going into labor, I got there way too early. I got to the hospital too early. Like you mentioned, I wanted an unmedicated birth. I got there, I think my contractions were about every seven minutes. Now I know that I definitely should have waited at home longer. But everything seemed to be going well. I arrived. They admitted me. They seemed a little bit hesitant, but they were like, “Oh, well she's in labor. Let's just bring her in.” My water broke on its own that afternoon. Things seemed to be going well until the pain really started kicking in. I had a really hard time working through the pain even with everything I learned in HypnoBirthing. I still hadn't quite found my voice yet, my mama voice. I couldn't tell people, “Hey, you're distracting me. I'm trying to do HypnoBirthing.” I felt embarrassed about putting up the sign outside my door saying, “Hey, HypnoBirthing in progress. Please keep quiet.” I just didn't speak up. I was just trying to be a good girl and just listen to what everyone says. I heard so many times in different episodes being a good girl and just doing what I've been told. Meagan: Right. We are people pleasers. I think a lot of us are people pleasers. We don't want to ruffle feathers. We want to stay in line. We want to follow this path that we are being told we have to stay on. Karen: Yes. I mean, I just didn't realize it was something I needed to form as a mama to be able to stand up for myself because pretty soon there was going to be a baby that needed me to stand up for them. Like I said, during the birth, there were just so many distractions, people coming in and out, nurses, and visitors. It was too much. I did end up getting an epidural because I just couldn't hold out any longer. 10:47 Pushing for four hoursKaren: Around 2:00 AM, the labor and delivery nurse told me, “Oh, you need to start pushing.” I was on my back. I pushed for about two hours. I had some breaks but the baby was just stuck. For part of it, we could see that he was crowning but he just would not come out. During this entire time, no one really looked at me. I just had this one labor and delivery nurse. She was so sweet, but the midwife didn't come by. The OB didn't come by. No one really came by and I wanted to move into different positions. I felt my body telling me, “Hey, try this. Try this,” and they would tell me, “You can't move. You have to stay like that.” I pushed for four hours. Baby was in distress. I felt fine but the midwife came in and told me, “You're going to need a C-section.” This was the first time I had seen her. She told me. Meagan: Wow. Karen: Yeah. So she says, “You need a C-section. He's not going to come out vaginally.” I didn't know. I didn't know what to do. I mean, I felt that was my only option. I got really upset. I started crying. I felt like a failure. I know now that I'm not a failure. That wasn't it. But that's how I felt at the moment and my husband was devastated. He was such an amazing birth partner and he felt like he failed me. I was like, “No. You didn't fail either,” but at that moment, we just felt so let down that one, I had to ask for an epidural, and two that I was going to need a C-section. Karen: They told me. I don't remember if the word “emergency” was used or not, but they made me feel like it was an emergency and it needed to happen immediately. When I look at the paperwork and all of that stuff, I'm like, “Where was the urgency?” Because the C-section didn't happen until 10:00 AM. Meagan: Yeah. That's not an emergency. This is another thing that I'm going to be honest– it irks me because there are so many of us who are told it is an emergency. When we hear “emergency”, what do we think? Panic. Scary. Right? We divert into asking– divert. I don't know if that's the right word. We stop asking questions and we say, “Okay. Okay. Okay,” because it's an emergency and we are told that. Karen: Exactly. Meagan: I think a lot of times, truly that we are told it is an emergency and that offers some sort of– it's weird, but some sort of validation where it's like, “But it's an emergency, so okay.” We just agree and then we are grateful. We look at them in a way because it's an emergency so they are saving. Does this make sense? I don't know. Karen: No, it does. To me, when I think about it now, it feels like manipulation. Meagan: Okay, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It can be. Truly, there are real emergent Cesareans. Karen: Agreed. Meagan: We are so grateful for Cesareans that can help us and those are real, true emergent situations, but so many of us are told it's an emergency and then like you said, it's 10:00 AM or they come in and they're like, “We need to shave you,” and it's like, “Okay, that's not an emergency.” If they have time to shave you, talk with you, and leave you for four hours, no. It's not an emergency. Karen: Exactly. So if I had known what I know now, I would have asked for my options, asked to push and change positions. There are so many things I would have done but like you said, I thought it was an emergency. I was treating my baby in danger. I need to do this now even though there was nothing wrong with the baby. There wasn't. Meagan: Or you. Karen: Mhmm, exactly. His heart was fine. Everything was fine as far as I could see as far as I remember, as far as the paperwork says, so it doesn't make sense anymore to me. But yeah. 15:11 Karen's C-sectionKaren: My husband was told to dress in scrubs while they prepped me and then I asked the nurse to make sure that no one was in the room when I got back. When we came back to surgery, they wheeled me over to the OR and they were just checking to see that the epidural was still good. I could feel them touching my belly. I told them and that's the last thing I remember. The next thing I know, I just hear a baby crying in the distance. I was waking up in a different room and there were just these two nurses chatting about their day. To me, it was traumatizing. I couldn't even process what was going on and what happened. That was just so, so scary. Meagan: I'm so sorry. Karen: Yeah. Sorry. So then they wheeled me out and that's where my husband and our whole family were waiting. I was so frustrated because I told the nurse I didn't want anyone here. I knew I would be upset after the C-section and there was everyone in the room waiting. I also found out that my baby got passed around so I didn't even get to be the first to hold him. That was so extremely upsetting. I told my husband, “I want everyone out.” Everyone left and it was just me and my husband and our baby, Luke. We were there for about 15 minutes before they started to prep me to move the recovery room and I was like, “Wait a minute. I thought I got a golden hour where I would get to be alone with the baby for an hour.” They were like, “Oh yeah, you can do that in the recovery room,” and they just wheeled me over. I get so sad when I look at pictures of that time because my baby is so beautiful. I love him so much, but I felt so drugged up that I couldn't connect with him. You can see it in the pictures. I just look like I don't know where I am. I'm in pain. It's just not what I imagined that experience to be. Meagan: Right. Karen: I definitely felt robbed of an experience. I felt extremely traumatized. That was hard in and of itself, but I was trying to come to terms with what happened. It was just a very rough time in the hospital. We had some family drama as well so that didn't help. Meagan: No. Karen: I was discharged less than 48 hours later which now I know is way too early considering the symptoms I was feeling. 17:43 Postpartum swelling and difficulty breathingKaren: My legs were extremely swollen. My whole body was extremely swollen. It didn't even look like I had given birth because I was just swollen all over. One nurse even made fun of my legs and she was like, “They look like baseball bats.” She was just tapping them.Meagan: That's a warning sign. That's something to think about. Karen: Well, I didn't know that. Meagan: Well, of course, you didn't, but as a professional, she shouldn't be tapping on your legs. She should be like, “Hmm, was this like this?” Karen: I've told other medical professionals that story and they are horrified. They are like, “That was a big warning sign something was wrong,” but they discharged me regardless. I felt so completely unprepared. It was just a very bad experience all around. They didn't have a lactation consultant working over the weekend so my baby was crying and crying and crying. He wasn't getting enough to eat when he was breastfeeding. They were just laughing and saying, “Oh, all moms feel like that. He's getting enough to eat.” Sure enough, my son was jaundiced and his pediatrician was like, “No, he needs formula. He's not getting enough to eat.” He had a significant tongue tie so he was not getting enough to eat. When I got home, like I said, baby was starving. I'm not getting any sleep. When he does fall asleep, I can't sleep. I remember explaining to different people like, “I'm having trouble breathing every time I lay down.” Everyone was just like, “Oh yeah. New mom, new baby. Totally normal.” Meagan: What? It is not normal to not feel like you can't breathe. Karen: You're going to love this then. At one point, I called the nurse hotline at the hospital because they gave it to me when I was discharged. I told the nurse, “When I lay down, I can't breathe. It feels like I can't breathe.” Her response was, “Oh, sometimes new moms don't know how pain feels like.” I was just like, “Okay, I guess this is just me.” She was like, “Technically, we're supposed to tell you to come to the hospital if you are having trouble breathing.” Meagan: Technically. Karen: Technically. So I was trying to be the good girl and trying not to ruffle any feathers and I was just like, “Okay. I'll keep pushing through,” but the moment I realized things were not good, I was extremely depressed. I thought that I was going to die and leave my child alone. I was having horrible thoughts like that. Then I realized, “I'm starting to hallucinate.” So after three days of not sleeping, there was one incident where I heard my baby crying and screaming. I went over to the bassinet to look at him and he's sleeping peacefully, but I can still hear him crying and screaming clearly. I'm like, “That's not normal.” 21:03 Fluid in her lungsKaren: Once he woke up because I was trying to be a good new mom, so once he woke up, I packed myself up and my mom and I went to the ER. I explained to them, “I'm not getting sleep. I can't sleep. Every time I lay down, I can't breathe.” They were like, “Okay. Maybe you have a blood clot.” They took me back. They did an MRI scan and when I was lying down for the scan, I started taking these small quick breaths and the nurse was like, “Are you having a panic attack? What's going on?” I go, “I can't breathe.” She finally was the one that was just like, “There is something deeply wrong here. This is not normal at all.” I loved her. She really pushed to make sure that I got seen quickly. They determined that I was experiencing congestive heart failure. The way they explained it is my heart was not pumping strong enough I guess. It wasn't pumping right so that's why I was having trouble breathing because my lungs were filling up with fluid. They were able to give me medication. It was Lasix to help push out all of the fluid. I was kept at the ICU for two nights then they transferred me to the cardiac wing of the hospital. I was there four nights total because they just wanted to keep an eye on my blood pressure and this obviously wasn't normal what was happening. My blood pressure was through the roof. That was a really, really difficult time because one, I was away from my new baby and then I had three different doctors tell me, “There is something wrong with your heart. You won't be able to have more children. Your heart can't handle it.” That was distressing because my husband and I dreamed of having a big family and we were thinking, “This might be our last child.” But weirdly enough, my OB– the one who performed the C-section– disagreed. I don't like how he said this, but he was like, “Oh, don't be dramatic. It was just a little extra fluid. You're fine.” I was like, “Okay.” He said, “You can have a VBAC. You can have as many children as you want. You're going to be fine.” I wasn't a fan of him but that was interesting that he had told me, “You're going to be a great VBAC candidate.” He kind of put that idea in my head. He said that the only reason my son got stuck was because he was 9 pounds, 15 ounces so basically a 10-pounder. I was like, “Okay.” I didn't know what I know now, but that's the reason they gave me. 23:52 Moving to Florida and getting answersKaren: Eventually, we moved to Florida because I'm from Florida so I felt more comfortable with the medical care there. I just kept finding out different ways that I was failed by the medical system back in Virginia. My primary doctor determined that I had postpartum depression. My son was already two years old when she discovered that. It was just like, “Oh, okay.” Here's some medication. Now I feel like myself again. It made me realize, “Okay, what else do I need to look into?” I got a cardiologist. She was saying, “There is nothing wrong with your heart.” She can't definitively say because she wasn't there, but she was like, “They put too many fluids in your body. You are fine. There is nothing wrong with your heart.” She was just like, “You're good to go. You can have a VBAC. You can have another C-section. You can do whatever you want. You're fine. We can keep an eye on you, but you're okay.” I started seeing an OB and I told her everything that happened and I was just like, “I want a VBAC.” I told her everything the cardiologist said, gave her all of the paperwork and she was like, “Yeah. You can totally have a VBAC.” So with both of their blessings, I was like, “Okay. Let's try for baby number two. I'm okay. I'm healthy. I'm fine.” 25:13 Getting pregnant againKaren: So I got pregnant with baby number two and that was very exciting. I thought everything was going well then at 20 weeks, my OB said, “Unfortunately, I can't be your doctor anymore. This practice cannot deliver you. You are too high of a risk for this office.” Meagan: For the office. Karen: Yes. Yes. They only delivered at these smaller boutique hospitals so they said that I needed to deliver at a high-risk hospital or a hospital that accepts high-risk patients. Meagan: Okay, got you. I got you. Karen: I got a little tongue-tied. They told me I needed to deliver at a different hospital that I didn't want to deliver at. I was like, “If I'm going to deliver at a big hospital, it's going to be Winnie Palmer in Orlando.” I'm a huge fan of theirs. So I was just like, “Okay. I can't deliver with this office even though they've been aware of all my situations for a while. I'll find a different office.” But I was already 20 weeks so it's really hard to find a provider at 20 weeks. Meagan: It can be, yeah. Karen: The other disappointing thing they told me is, “Oh, by the way, you can't have any more children. You really shouldn't because, with everything that is going on with you, your body can't handle it.” It was just like, I don't understand where this is coming from. You've been telling me I've been okay. My cardiologist says I've been okay. I didn't really get what was going on. Karen: I called around and only one clinic would take me when I was that far along with this high-risk label on me. Meagan: I was going to say the label. That's exactly the word I was going to say. Karen: Yeah. I didn't feel like it really fit, but that's what they said I was. I found a big practice that had lots of doctors. It is a very prominent practice here in Orlando and I felt like I just had to settle. The first doctor I met with I was already frustrated because I asked for a female doctor and they gave me a male doctor. I don't have anything against male doctors, I just feel more comfortable with a female doctor but he was just like, “Oh. You can't VBAC at all. You had a vertical incision so you have to have a repeat C-section.” I was like, “I don't– I've never heard anyone say that. Where does it say that in my medical records?” He was just like, “I don't see it in your records, but this other doctor said that you had a vertical incision.” I'm like, “Well, how does she know that?” So I had to go and start pulling all of these records and got the surgical notes for my C-section and everything and finally, I found something that said I did not have a vertical incision so once I showed it to him, he was just like, “Oh, okay. Well, you still can't VBAC. Your hips are too tiny. You can't deliver a baby.” Meagan: Oh my goodness, just pulling them all out. Let me just shift this jar around and pull out the next reason. Karen: Yes. I was just like, “Are you serious? Okay.” Meagan: Goodness. 29:53 Advocating for a VBACKaren: So me and my husband were like, “No. I want to try. We want to try.” I'm so glad my husband was there because he is always so good at being an advocate for me. He was just like, “No. She wants a VBAC. What can we do to make it happen?” So he said, “Well, your weight is one thing because your baby was so big the first time because you gained a lot of weight. We can help you try but if after two hours of pushing you can't get that baby out, we're going to give you a C-section.” It was very frustrating, but I felt like I really had no choice. Meagan: Yeah. Karen: I hadn't discovered you yet so I was just like, “Okay. I guess it is what it is. I will try my best to have a VBAC, but this guy's going to stop me.” So I was very blessed that due to a scheduling issue, I had an appointment with a totally different doctor. She was this young female doctor. She was around my age and I felt like I could relate to her. I just really enjoyed talking to her. I don't know if this has something to do with it, but my background is I am Japanese and Colombian and she was Asian, so it was just like, “Okay. I have someone else who is a person of color who understands at least the cultural differences.” So I don't know if that really had anything to do with anything, but it did make me feel more comfortable with her.Meagan: Which is important. Karen: Yes. After years of different doctors telling me there was something wrong with me, it was so nice to have her say to me, “Oh. You want a VBAC? Yeah. You are super healthy. You are going to be fine.” It was just like, “Oh my gosh. You think I'm healthy? Every doctor had been telling me that I'm overweight. There's something wrong with my heart. There's something wrong,” and she was telling me that I was healthy. That just made me so inspired and I just became a lot more proactive with my health. I didn't feel like things had to happen to me. I felt like I had a lot more control over my situation. 32:14 A spiritual dreamKaren: There was also one other event that happened and this was around Christmas. I'm a Christian, so we've been going to God a lot with prayers and I have been asking for a successful VBAC. So Christmas morning, I woke up to a dream but it didn't feel like a dream. It felt more like a vision and I was giving birth vaginally to a little girl. In the dream, I had the knowledge that this was going to be my third child. I was like, “Wait a second. But I'm pregnant right now with my second child. How did that birth go?” I just was told by God, “Oh, that birth went well too. You're going to be fine. You're going to be happy. You're going to have many children.” So I woke up so happy that Christmas morning. I told my husband with everything I've been battling and all of these negative thoughts, there is no way that this could have been something I produced myself or just dreamed of myself because it was such a positive, happy dream when before that, I had just been having constant nightmares about C-sections.It was just this moment of, “Okay. God really is with us and he's going to make sure everything is okay.” So yeah, between having this great doctor and then having that dream, I just was more motivated to really take control of the situation like, “Okay. I don't have to let things happen to me. What can I do?” Which actually led me to The VBAC Link. I was already 33 weeks pregnant when I found you guys so it was kind of late in the game, but I'm so glad I did. I listened to The VBAC Link obsessively in the car, when I was walking my dog, all the time and I would just hear these different stories and notate, “Okay. This is what she did. This is how she got results. This is what happened to her.” I started taking all of these notes about how I should respond in different situations and I'm so glad I did because I did use some of that later on. 34:34 Gestational hypertensionKaren: Unfortunately, I did develop gestational hypertension but I'm still not completely convinced that I actually had it. They diagnosed me the week I had to put down my dog and I had her since I was 15 so it was just devastating. I was under a lot of stress and I tried to explain that to them. They were like, “No. This is gestational hypertension.” I'm like, “Okay. Here is another label.” But I kept on top of my blood pressure readings. I never had high readings. I ate well. I tried to do exercise as much as you can when you are in your third trimester. Unfortunately, this practice had a policy that patients with gestational hypertension must deliver by 37 weeks. Meagan: Whoa. Karen: Yes. They said that if you are a VBAC patient, they won't induce you. So there's another timeline. I had to deliver by 37 weeks. But yeah, things seemed to be going really well. Once I reached around 36 weeks, I actually started having prodromal labor. I'm like, “Okay, yes. Things are going really well.” Because I had gestational hypertension, I was going 3-4 times a week to the doctor at that point. Meagan: For non-stress tests and stuff? Karen: Yes, exactly. They could see that I was already 3 centimeters dilated so I was like, “Great. Everything is going great.” At the 37-week appointment, there was a scheduling issue and instead of being able to see my regular doctor, they assigned me to a different doctor and that just made me really, really nervous. I was just like, “I don't want to go. I don't feel right. Something is going to go wrong. It's not my doctor. I don't want to go.” My husband was like, “No. It's going to be okay. It's going to be okay. Let's go.” He canceled work so he could go with me. He was like, “Everything is going to be okay.” The other thing that happened that morning was my sister who was going to be in the room with us woke up with strep throat. I was like, “This is not a good week. This is not a good day. I don't want to go in.” So when I went in, my blood pressure was 160/113 which was extremely high. This doctor told me, “You need to get a C-section today.” So I was just like, “Okay. I don't want to hurt my baby. That's fine.” I was really, really upset. I was crying and I told her I was scared and she was like, “Why are you scared?” My husband was pretty blunt and was like, “Because the doctors almost killed her last time.”She was like, “How did they almost kill her?” He was like, “They put too much fluid in her body and they caused heart failure.” She laughed and she said, “That's not a thing.” I was like, “Well, my cardiologist said it was a thing. How could you say it's not a thing?” I went to the hospital. I was really upset but the nurse there was amazing. She was like, “What happened?” I basically told her everything like my life story basically up until that point. She was like, “I checked your blood pressure when you came in. You are fine.” She was like, “This is ridiculous. It just sounds like you are stressed out.” At that point, my blood pressure was–Meagan: Reasonably so.Karen: She checked my blood pressure and it was 117/83 so it was great. It was so funny because she kept the blood pressure cuff on me and the doctor who was working that day was the same doctor who told me I'd never be able to VBAC and kept coming up with excuses. My nurse was just like, “Look, her blood pressure is fine.” Then she took my blood pressure again in front of him and it went back up. She was like, “Can you step out?” She took it again and then it was fine. She started advocating on my behalf. She was like, “You guys are causing her heart pressure to go up. You guys are stressing her out. She does not have high blood pressure because of herself. It's you guys.” The doctor was just like, “Oh, well I guess it's fine, but wouldn't you rather just have a birthday today?” I'm like, “No. I would not like to just have a C-section for no reason.” He's like, “I really don't want to send you home though,” but you really should consider this C-section just in case your blood pressure goes back up. I was like, “Look. I can check it repeatedly and if it goes up, I will come back. I'm not going to be stupid and put my son's life in danger. I will come back.” He just kept trying to convince me and finally, we were like, “No. We're leaving.” I told them, “If I'm going to have a C-section, it's going to be with my regular doctor. I trust her. I'm going to have control over this situation somehow. Even if I have to have a C-section, it's going to be by someone I trust. It's not going to be by you.” 39:36 Signing an AMAKaren: He was not thrilled about hearing that but he said, “Okay fine. You have to fill out this paperwork saying you're leaving against medical advice, but it will be fine.” I was like, “Okay, fine.” I filled out this paperwork. I was scared like, “They're probably going to kick me out afterward, but whatever.” I filled it out and I went home. They did make me schedule a C-section for two days later when my regular doctor was on call. I was like, “You know what? If it has to happen that day, it's fine. I did everything I could. I took control of whatever I could. It's my doctor.” She made me feel seen and heard and she had my best interest at heart, so we are going to pray and just do what we can. The next two days, I walked 10 miles. I drank raspberry leaf tea. We had sex. We did basically everything you can do to get labor going. I was still having prodromal labor so we would get our hopes up and then it would stop and then get our hopes up and then it would stop. Around midnight the night before I was supposed to get my C-section, I was so upset. I was just like, “It's not going to happen. I'm just going to have to get a C-section.” I just gave up completely. My husband was just like, “No. God told you this was going to be fine. You're going to be fine. Let's just get some rest because it's already midnight and we have to leave at 3:00 AM so let's just get a little bit of rest and it will be fine. We will talk to the doctor in the morning.” I was like, “Okay.” So we went to sleep at 1:00. The alarm rang at 3:00 and I was in labor. Meagan: Yay! Karen: I was so excited. 41:31 Going to the hospitalKaren: We went to the hospital. They still prepped me for a C-section. They were like, “Just in case,” but I was having regular contractions. It wasn't going away. My doctor came in. She checked me and she was like, “Okay. If you want to TOLAC, I'll send you over.” I was just like, “Oh my gosh, yes. This is my dream!” We were so happy. They wheeled us over and it just felt so surreal. We just kept waiting for the rug to be pulled out from under us and someone came in and was like, “No, you need a C-section now. You're not allowed to be over here,” or something. We were just waiting. I wanted this to be another unmedicated birth, but our midwife came in and she told me her plan. She said she wanted to try a small bit of Pitocin to see if I could make the contractions a little bit stronger and then she saw my hesitation and told me, “It's only a small amount to help move things along, but you are not on a time limit. You can take however long you need to labor. It's just to help move things along. The max is 10. We won't ever get to that point.” I was just like, “Okay. I'm going to put my trust in you because my doctor trusts you.” She also asked if she could break my water to help move things along and I felt at ease so I was just like, “Okay. That's fine.” My husband was really surprised I was consenting to the Pitocin and to the water breaking. I told him, “I don't know. All this time, I'm always fighting against my gut and my gut is telling me I can trust them fine and this is going to be okay.” I listened to her plan and I said, “Yeah, let's do it.” They also kept a really close eye on my fluid levels– the thing that the other doctor said was not a thing. It felt good to know that they were actually paying attention to me and listening to me. Karen: The other thing that happened was at 10:00 AM, my sister completed 48 hours of antibiotics so she was able to join us and I was like, “Okay. Everything is going to be okay.” My husband and I were finally able to relax. Meagan: Good. Karen: Yeah. Again, I wanted to go unmedicated but I noticed something about my body which was that I could not relax my pelvic floor. I was so tired. I was so exhausted from the last 48 hours, from the walking, from not sleeping, and from everything. I was just like, “I'm trying, but I cannot relax it.” I was just like, “I think I want an epidural. I think that will relax my pelvic floor and just relax in general.” They gave me the epidural so I was finally able to get some rest. Without even having to ask them, the midwife would come in, put me in different positions, and just do different things to help me get the baby down on its own instead of last time where they just left me lying in there with no instructions. Then around 4:00 PM, they told me I was fully dilated and they were like, “Let's do some practice pushes. Let's just make sure you know what you're doing with your body. We can troubleshoot and then when you're ready, you know what to do already.” I was like, “Yeah. That's fine.” They get everything ready, start doing some practice pushes, and the midwife goes, “Oh, these aren't practice pushes.” 45:20 Pushing for 20 minutesKaren: She starts getting suited up and the room starts filling up with people and 20 minutes later, my baby was out. Meagan: 20 minutes! Karen: Yeah, 20 minutes of pushing. He was 9 pounds so he was still a big baby and perfectly healthy and beautiful. It was wonderful. One thing that my husband noticed was that the whole room was all women. It was such a cool girl power moment. They were all cheering and so happy for me getting my VBAC and it was just a total girl power that we were all like, “Yes. We did it. Girl power! The doctor is a woman. The pediatrician is a woman. We did this.” It was such a cool, surreal moment and then they had other nurses coming in and they were like, “We heard your story. That is so cool you got your VBAC.” It was so, so amazing. It was just such a huge difference having this supportive environment. I don't know. In that moment, it was like an instant feeling of relief because I felt like all of this trauma that I had been carrying with me for so long was just lifted. I felt like I was finally healed and I was able to forgive myself for the C-section and realize, “Okay. You didn't fail at anything. Things happen. You didn't know. It's okay.” Finally, I didn't have this label that I was defining myself with for so long which was traumatic birth. I finally just got to have the birth I wanted for it to be pretty smooth after the drama of the earlier morning. Everything just went perfectly and it was so, so beautiful. I was crying. We were all crying. The doctor was just like, “Okay, is this pain crying or is this happiness?” I'm like, “This is happiness!” Meagan: Pure joy.Karen: That's my story. 47:30 White coat syndromeMeagan: That is awesome. I love that you truly got to end that way surrounded with women and somebody that you really like and just having everyone rejoicing and happy and crying together and having that space be such a drastic change in your first birth. That is amazing. Thank you so much. Did you have any blood pressure issues during your labor at all? Karen: No. My blood pressure was fine. They were keeping an eye on it the entire time and I was getting nervous because I thought, maybe if it should up they would wheel me over to a C-section, but no. It was fine the entire time. Meagan: I love that. It's kind of interesting because there have been times where I've had clients where they don't have any signs of hypertension or preeclampsia or anything like that, but then they go to their visit and then they are like, “Oh my gosh. My blood pressure was just through the roof.” They go home and they are checking it at home and they are like, “It's fine.” But then they go and it's through the roof every time they go. We just had a client just the other day. She's 34 weeks and she went and her blood pressure was pretty high. It really was. It was high. The reading was high and they did a couple of readings. They said things like, “Well, we might have to go to an emergency C-section.” This and that. Anyway, she was like, “Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Hold on.” She was like, “I want to go home.” She went home and relaxed and had food. Her blood pressure was fine. White coat syndrome is a real thing and it's something to take into consideration like, “I never have blood pressure issues. I don't have any signs. I don't have protein. I don't have these things. What may be going on?” I love how your nurse was like, “Hey, can you step out? Go out.” She was very able to relate to that. Then sometimes, we have it and we don't know why. With your first pregnancy, did you have any high blood pressure at all? Karen: No. It was just a very uneventful pregnancy. Everything was perfect. It was very strange for these blood pressure problems to happen afterward.Meagan: Yeah. I think it's called peripartum so it could happen before or postpartum cardiomyopathy. Karen: Yes. Yes. Meagan: That's what I was thinking it was going where the heart muscles weaken and can lead to heart failure progressively. The symptoms include fatigue, hard to breathe, and feeling your heart rush. Those are common. Karen: Yeah, so that's actually what is on my medical records is that I had peripartum cardiomyopathy but my cardiologist was just like, “I don't believe that for a second. Your heart is fine.” She kept an eye on my heart the entire pregnancy and after the pregnancy. Nothing else happened. Meagan: I almost wonder if your heart was under stress. You talked about fluids. We get an astronomical amount of fluids during a C-section too. I'm just wondering if your body just went under a lot with a Cesarean. There was a lot of shifting and a lot of things happening and then of course a Cesarean. It just made me curious because sometimes if you have hypertension before, it can be a risk factor in that. Interesting. Karen: Yeah. That's something that the cardiologist said is that sometimes it gets confused with fluid overload. She thinks that's what happened. Part of the labeling that was happening is throughout my second pregnancy, I kept having to tell people that I did not have blood pressure issues with the first because they kept going, “Oh yeah, well you had blood pressure issues with your first pregnancy,” and I'd be like, “No, I didn't. Stop assuming that.” Meagan: I mean, I am no medical professional by any means, but it makes me wonder if it could have been related to the birth itself. 51:59 Symptoms of hypertension and preeclampsiaMeagan: I'd love to talk about hypertension and preeclampsia and things like that because hypertension is something that happens during pregnancy and it can be associated with lots of different reasons, but sometimes hypertension during pregnancy can lead to preeclampsia or HELLP or things like that. I want to give a little educational tidbit here. Talking about just hypertension. High blood pressure or hypertension does not necessarily make us feel unwell all the time. You can have that and not know. So you walking into your visit and them being like, “You have hypertension.” You're like, “Oh.” It's not completely abnormal to just walk in, but sometimes we might have headaches or not feel super great. If you are feeling crummy or especially if you are feeling like you can't breathe when you lay down or have shortness of breath, do not think that those are all just normal pregnancy symptoms that people who told you, “Oh, yeah. It's a new mom.” You're like, “No.” So follow your body. Trust your body. Preeclampsia is a condition that does affect pregnant women and can sometimes come on after that 20-week mark where we are having some of that swelling. We are having the high blood pressure. We have protein in our urine. That's when it turns into that preeclampsia stage. It's really hard. It's still unknown exactly why preeclampsia or hypertension come, but it's believe to be placenta-related so sometimes our placenta doesn't attach in the full-on correct manner and our blood vessels are pumping differently so we can get high blood pressure. I want to note that if you are told that you have high blood pressure or if you have preeclampsia, that doesn't always mean you have to schedule a C-section. It just doesn't. It doesn't mean it's always the best decision to not schedule a C-section if that makes sense, but that doesn't mean you have to have a C-section because you have hypertension or blood pressure. I feel like time and time again, I do. I see these comments in our community where it's like, “I really wanted my VBAC, but I just got preeclampsia. The doctor says I have to have a C-section.” That just isn't necessarily true. They can be induced. I know you mentioned your one hospital was like, “No, we can't induce because you are a VBAC,” which also isn't necessarily true. 54:52 Tips for hypertension and preeclampsia Meagan: Sometimes we also want to be aware of hypertension or preeclampsia getting worse because labor can be stressful on our body and all of the things. I wanted to just give a couple of little tips. If you have high blood pressure, increase your hydration. Go for walks. Cut out a lot of salts so really eating healthy and then you can get good supplements to help. If you are in labor and you are getting induced or something like that, sometimes you may want to shift gears. Maybe an epidural can be a good thing to reduce stress or a provider may suggest that it's not abnormal. But know that if you were told you have hypertension or you have preeclampsia, it doesn't always mean it's a for sure absolutely have to have a C-section. Even your provider was like, “Oh yeah. We've got this high blood pressure stuff. I really wanted to keep you.” You were like, “No.” Then your other doctor was like, “We'll kick you over here to 38 weeks,” because everything really was looking okay. Yay for that doctor for not making you stay and have a C-section that day. Know that you do have options. Time and time we talk about this. Don't hesitate to ask questions. Ask questions. Can I get a second opinion? Can I go home and relax and take a reading there? Is there something I can take to help with my blood pressure? Those types of things and then following your heart. What does your heart say? That's just my little tidbit. Do you have anything to add? I know you didn't have high blood pressure in the first pregnancy and then you kind of did sort of maybe have white coat syndrome or blood pressure with the second but do you have any tips on this situation? You were exactly in that space of they are telling you you have blood pressure. He is telling you he doesn't want you to go home and that type of thing.Do you have any messages to the audience?56:55 Karen's final tipsKaren: One thing I started doing during this pregnancy was meditation and that helped a lot. Whenever I felt like, “Okay. I'm going to go into a stressful situation,” which was most doctor visits, I would meditate before the doctor came in and that would really help a lot. Meagan: Yes. Exercising, eating, hydrating, meditation, and doing something to bring yourself back down can help. It doesn't always help. Sometimes we have high blood pressure and we do not understand it. We cannot control it as much as we are trying to. It just doesn't want to listen to what we are trying to do or receive the things we are trying to do, but all of these things can help. I am just so happy for you that you found good support, that you found the true bubble of love in your hospital room at the very end, and that you were able to have your VBAC. Karen: Thank you. Yeah. I do want to make sure. I'm not trying to send a message of, “Ignore high blood pressure! Do what you want!” It absolutely can be a very scary thing. If you need to have a C-section because of it, totally understandable. It's just that my big message that I tell new moms is to listen to your body and you are allowed to say no. You are allowed to say no to people and ask for options. But the big one is to listen to your body. Listen to your gut. You know what is really, truly going on with your body. Meagan: Of course, right. And typically, birth is actually the full cure for things like preeclampsia. Getting baby earthside is typically the end of that preeclampsia and the stop. That doesn't mean you shouldn't say, “No, I'm not going to do anything,” but just know that you have options. Induction is still okay typically. Ask those providers about your individual needs. Talk about your individual case but yeah, I would agree. I'm not trying to say, “Don't listen to your provider.” I'm just saying that you have options and you often will have options if they say one thing or another. Don't hesitate to ask questions. Karen: Exactly. Exactly. ClosingWould you like to be a guest on the podcast? Tell us about your experience at thevbaclink.com/share. For more information on all things VBAC including online and in-person VBAC classes, The VBAC Link blog, and Meagan's bio, head over to thevbaclink.com. Congratulations on starting your journey of learning and discovery with The VBAC Link.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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You have talked about it enough, its time to take action and Im about to tell you the necessary steps for leaving unsupportive friends, family, and fake love behind. In this episode of Empowering Real Talk, I share the HEAT on: - Understanding the necessity of a plan for transformational shifts - Reviewing patterns that led to unsupportive relationships - Finding alternative means and creating new habits - Identifying and reaching out to supportive individuals - Being unapologetic about putting yourself first In order for us to grow individially and as a whole, these conversations are necessary. Sign up to get notified when new episodes air and share it with a friend! The Upgraded MindsetZ promotes inspiration, motivation, and positivity through clothing, housewares, self-help resources, and more. Check out our growing variety of products at: www.upgradedmindsetz.shop --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/empoweringrealtalk/support

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Most of us have experienced the all-too-familiar gap between wanting to change something in our lives and actually doing it. In today's episode, returning guest Alison Heilig breaks down the most common barriers to behaviour change with host Rachel. Alison shares how behaviour change is not about self-control or lack of, and is instead a set of learnable skills. We discuss the importance of setting realistic expectations and explain why habit initiation is more important than habit completion. Listen in to learn how to turn a fixed mindset into a growth mindset, and how to create systems to support your goals for lasting change. Show Notes: Motivating people with a different approach to change or challenge [2:57] Barrier #1 to follow-through: is it really lack of self-control? [7:19] Recognizing a fixed mindset [11:20] Discerning between fixed mindset and acceptance [14:55] Growth mindset eases perceived time pressure [18:00] Where can yoga teachers intervene with a fixed mindset [20:28] Emphasizing effort over outcome to empower students [25:21] Barrier #2 to follow through: Behaviour change skills [28:32] How your “future self” helps you learn to tolerate discomfort [31:49] Just get started: how habit initiation is more important than completion [38:06] Managing overwhelm with intentional prioritization [41:49] Barrier #3 to follow through: No system [46:44] Barrier #4 to follow through: Unsupportive environment [52:35] Barrier #4 to follow through: Unrealistic expectations [1:02:30] Final takeaways [1:10:04] Links Mentioned: Watch this episode on YouTube Yoga Medicine Podcast Episode 32: Harness Your Potential, Yoga for Athletes Yoga for Athletes Teacher Training Connect with Alison Heilig: Facebook | Instagram | Alison Heilig | Yoga Medicine Online Guest Teacher You can learn more about this episode, and see the full show notes at YogaMedicine.com/podcast-96. And you can find out more about insider tips, online classes or information on our teacher trainings at YogaMedicine.com. To support our work, please leave us a 5 star review with your feedback on iTunes/Apple Podcasts.

In this month's juicy Ask Lily episode, listeners asked allllll kinds of great questions. From being in love to your best friend to dealing with family drama, this episode is filled to the brim with quality conversation and personalized advice. Submit a question to next month's Ask Lily: hello@lilyrakow.com - ⁠⁠Lily's Website⁠⁠ Follow ⁠⁠Lily⁠⁠ on Instagram Follow ⁠⁠80/20⁠⁠ on Instagram Follow ⁠⁠In The Twenty⁠⁠ on Instagram Join the ⁠⁠In The Twenty⁠⁠ waitlist Join the ⁠⁠Group Chat⁠⁠ Sign up for the ⁠⁠Newsletter⁠ - Take ownership over your health try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase. Go to ⁠drinkAG1.com/8020⁠.

Is one way to birth “better” than another? Sometimes there are misconceptions and unhealthy conversations floating about in the birth community around natural vs. medicated birth or hospital vs. home. That one is better than the other or there's a sense of superiority or higher moral code to choose one over the other. And competition comes in as a factor, like there is something to prove or defy. This topic is relevant for the conversation we have today with Lillie Cooke, sharing her birth story with us. Lillie and her husband Josh planned for a home birth with their first child, son Judah. Along the way towards planning for the birth, Lillie noticed little things that indicated she wasn't really connecting deeply with her midwife. There was also a big fear of going to the hospital, seeking to avoid that at all costs. This fear stemmed from, as Lillie put it “hearing terrible hospital stories and only fairy tale home birth stories from the homebirth community.” Labor began at 40 weeks and 6 days. After laboring for 4 days, things started to feel chaotic and the midwife's hands-off approach wasn't very helpful for what Lillie needed. Lillie made the choice to transfer because of pain and exhaustion. What helped make the transfer a less fearful event was the great experience she had with the staff there. They were respectful and she felt empowered, calm and peaceful.  Some words from Lillie: “I ended up having so much better care and such a peaceful birth. The OB was more of a midwife than my own midwife! We ended up with a peaceful vaginal delivery. She also didn't check on me until 3 weeks after my birth. After I just felt abandoned and not welcome in the home birth community. I felt the one in our area was not very inclusive to all births and made it feel like you didn't have a good enough or “superior” birth if it wasn't at home. My experience woke me up from the tunnel vision I had before from being in that community and showed me that none of that was true. That's why I love this podcast because it is the only homebirth podcast that is inclusive with ALL births and shows the pros AND cons of homebirth. I want to share my story to other first time mamas so they have a better perspective and know there is no superior way or place to birth despite what people promote. And there are good stories and traumatic stories at home just like at the hospital. But no one lets people come on and talk about that with home births and that's a shame. Everyone's experience is so powerful. Birth is so powerful. I've learned a lot from my first birth and would just love to share my story and my thoughts surrounding it.”  And - Lillie is currently pregnant with her second child. What birth plan are they creating? Listen in to find out! Topics we cover in this episode: Business of Being Born, Ina May Gaskin, relationship with your midwife, choosing a care provider that's best for you, Miles Circuit, hospital transfer, epidural Links From The Episode: The Miles Circuit: http://www.milescircuit.com/ Offers From Our Awesome Partners: Needed: https://bit.ly/2DuMBxP - use code DIAH to get 20% off your order Splash Blanket: https://bit.ly/3JPe1g0 - use code DIAH for 10% off your order Esembly: https://bit.ly/3eanCSz - use code DIH20 to get 20% off your order More From Doing It At Home: Send us your birth story: https://bit.ly/3jOjCKl Doing It At Home book on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3vJcPmU DIAH Website: https://www.diahpodcast.com/ DIAH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingitathome/ DIAH YouTube: https://bit.ly/3pzuzQC DIAH Merch: www.diahpodcast.com/merch Give Back to DIAH: https://bit.ly/3qgm4r9 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have a spouse or partner that's not supportive of your network marketing business? On This episode I will give you four things you can start implementing today to get them on board and not let any of it get in your way to network marketing success. I'm here to show you how to get to your next rank. The best part is that you won't need to lose your friends, ruin family relationships, or kill yourself working 24/7 and hit burnout to make it to the top. You don't have to have a giant network or be savvy with social media. It's not that it's going to be all rainbows and daisies, but it will not be as hard for you as it was for me because you will have me to show you a better way. I can get you there safely and faster, and that's what you really want. You ready?

The Chicks are back together after a much needed mental health reset over the summer. Taylor begins the episode by discussing a recent situation that she thought she would never recover from. Alison and Taylor then answer a listener question who has been struggling trying to figure out how to deal with a partner who doesn't understand anxiety and isn't very supportive. We always thank you so much for listening! If you feel called to do so, we would love if you would leave us a 5-star review. Follow us @theanxietychicks @theanxietyhealer @health_anxiety Order The Anxiety Healers Guide HERE Try Betterhelp Online Therapy and get 10% off your first month! CLICK HERE Factor Meals: Get 50% off with code ANXIETYCHICKS50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices