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Episode Guest: Mary Beth O'ConnorEpisode Topic: Recovering from abuse and addiction.Guest Bio:Mary Beth's award-winning memoir, From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction, describes the child abuse that led to teenage methamphetamine addiction, the chaos of that addiction, and her early recovery. Plus, how she became a judge! She also publishes op-eds, such as in the Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, Philadelphia Inquirer, and Recovery Today.Mary Beth's memoir writings have appeared in Memoir Magazine, Awakenings, The Noyo River Review, Fault Zone, Carry the Light, and Ravens Perch. She speaks about addiction and recovery, such as on television, radio, and podcasts, and at conferences and other events.If you would like to support my channel please consider:http://buymeacoffee.com/truththath7Linktree: https://linktr.ee/truththathealspodThank you for all of your support and for helping to make this channel a reality :)
Ep. 182 "Junkie to Judge" author Mary Beth shares her remarkable journey from addiction to becoming a federal judge, offering insights into her personal transformation and multi-faceted recovery approach. Host Maryann Rivera-Dannert delves into Mary Beth's early experiences with substance use disorder, highlighting the impact of trauma and the pursuit of new beginnings. The conversation emphasizes the importance of creating a personalized recovery plan, exploring various recovery paths, and overcoming life's challenges. Mary Beth is an inspiring advocate, accomplished author, and former federal judge whose life story is a testament to the power of recovery and transformation. After surviving childhood sexual and physical abuse, she faced a harrowing battle with drug and alcohol addiction. Her journey to sobriety, which began in 1994, led her to pursue higher education at Berkeley Law and, ultimately, an appointment as a federal Administrative Law Judge in 2014. Now retired, Mary Beth dedicates her life to serving the recovery community. She is a Director for the She Recovers Foundation and LifeRing Secular Recovery, speaking passionately about multiple pathways to sobriety at conferences, for organizations, and in the media. She also trains attorneys and medical professionals on substance use disorder and recovery. Mary Beth's memoir, From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction, chronicles her incredible journey. Her essays have been featured in The Wall Street Journal and Recovery Today, offering hope and insight to countless individuals.
Sathiya Sam discusses her approach to starting recovery from porn addiction. He emphasizes the importance of community and professional help, as well as the practices of journaling and self-care based on love languages. Sathiya also mentions a special promotion for his program and encourages listeners to book a call if interested. The episode concludes with reminders to support the podcast by leaving ratings and reviews, sharing with others, and subscribing for daily encouragement and insight in the recovery journey. Book A Call With Sathiya's Team For more Free Resources, check this out Follow Sathiya on Instagram
Send us a Text Message.Mary Beth has been sober since 1994. She also is in recovery from abuse, trauma, ptsd, and anxiety. Her story is chronicled in her memoir From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction. She's had essays in such publications as The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, and Recovery Today.Mary Beth is a Director for She Recovers Foundation and LifeRing Secular Recovery. She regularly speaks on behalf of these organizations and about multiple and secular paths to recovery. She develops relationships with other organizations, such as Women for Sobriety. And Mary Beth trains attorneys and medical professionals about substance use disorder and recovery. FIND DAWN HERE: Email: dawnversations@gmailhttps://www.podpage.com/dawnversations/ https://www.buzzsprout.com/2124488https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dawnversations/id1611645700 https://open.spotify.com/show/3nyVFDlLJ0y7S2MQ0ZqiZ5?si=RFLLwSTYQVGta30nkZ2vsg https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGZFdplRZmXIguI31KbX2eghttps://www.pandora.com/podcast/dawnversations/PC:1000700495https://www.facebook.com/dawnversations.2024https://www.instagram.com/dawnversations_podcast/ https://www.pinterest.com/dawnwecker12/dawnversations-podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dawnversations https://x.com/Dawnversations1https://www.linkedin.com/in/dawnversations-podcast-4a98772b9/https://linktr.ee/dawnversationsMusic from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/francesco-dandrea/a-day-late-and-a-dollar-short License code: EYUYKNS4AFNOD1JO #follow #like #subscribe #pin #share #podcast #apple #spotify #anchorfm #google #amazon #iheartradio #tiktok #facebook #pinterest #instagram #youtube #life #dawnversations #dawnversationspodcast
Hannah Sward joins Let's Talk Memoir for a conversation about how she never wanted to be a writer let alone write a memoir, attachment theory and being abandoned by her mother, creating boundaries with loved ones, compassion for the children we were, her experience writing about working in the sex trade and being addicted to crystal meth, when acceptance is a form of forgiveness, feeling overwhelmed by feedback, how structure can be confounding, reclaiming our voice, story, and agency, creating a stark narrative, and her memoir Strip. Also in this episode: -comparing ourselves to other writers -writing every day -feeling free to write the sh*ttiest sh*t -trusting ourselves Books mentioned in this episode: Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life by Anne Lamott Hannah Sward, daughter of the late poet Robert Sward, is the IAN awarding-winning author of Strip: A Memoir. Strip, Swards first book, has received the attention of authors such as Nobel Prize winner, J.M. Coetzee, Melissa Broder, and NYT Bestselling novelist Caroline Leavitt who called Sward, “One of the most moving and honest memoir writers. So eloquent, so brave.” Sward has appeared on NBC CA Live, C-SPAN BookTV, dozens of podcasts, panels, and in magazines and newspapers such as the LA Times and Recovery Today. Sward lives in Los Angeles where she coaches writers and is working on her next book. To find out more hannahsward.com Connect with Hannah: Website: https://www.hannahsward.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/hannahswardauthor Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hannahswardauthor Threads: https://www.threads.net/@hannahswardauthor Bookshop.org: https://bookshop.org/p/books/strip-a-memoir-hannah-sward/18101649?ean=9781948954679 Amazon: https://a.co/d/dLQD8rP — Ronit's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer's Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts' 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories. She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and lives in Seattle with her family where she teaches memoir workshops and is working on her next book. More about Ronit: https://ronitplank.com Sign up for monthly podcast and writing updates: https://bit.ly/33nyTKd Substack: https://substack.com/@ronitplank Newsletter sign-up: https://ronitplank.com/#signup Follow Ronit: https://www.instagram.com/ronitplank/ https://twitter.com/RonitPlank https://www.facebook.com/RonitPlank Background photo credit: Photo by Patrick Tomasso on Unsplash Headshot photo credit: Sarah Anne Photography Theme music: Isaac Joel, Dead Moll's Fingers
For Mary Beth, childhood abuse and other traumas led to substance use disorder (addiction). Beginning with alcohol at age 12, she spent several years abusing various drugs. She found methamphetamine at 16 and started shooting up at 17. Mary Beth struggled with meth until she was 32 years old.By incorporating ideas from multiple sources to build a secular (not 12-step or faith based) recovery plan that works for her, Mary Beth has been sober since 1994. She used similar techniques to address the trauma and related anxiety as well.Mary Beth is a board member for LifeRing Secular Recovery and She Recovers Foundation. She speaks on behalf of these organizations, about multiple paths to recovery, and about all topics related to substance use disorder and recovery. She also speaks about sexual abuse and rape, child abuse, domestic violence, ptsd, anxiety, and recovering from these as well.Mary Beth's award-winning memoir, From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction, is available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Bamm, Indie Bound, and other sites, and at your local bookstore. She also has placed essays in publications such as The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, and Recovery Today. Professionally, 6 years into recovery, Mary Beth attended Berkeley Law. She worked at a large firm in Silicon Valley, then litigated class actions for the federal government. In 2014, Mary Beth was appointed a federal Administrative Law Judge, a position from which she retired in 2020.http://junkietojudge.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-o-connor-8aaa4b121 https://www.facebook.com/marybeth.holuboconnor https://twitter.com/@MaryBethO_Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/i-am-refocused-radio--2671113/support.
INTRODUCTION:Mary Beth's award-winning memoir, From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction, is available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Bamm, Indie Bound, and other sites, and at your local bookstore. She also has placed essays in publications such as The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, and Recovery Today. Beginning with alcohol at age 12, she spent several years abusing various drugs. She found methamphetamine at 16 and started shooting up at 17. Mary Beth struggled with meth until she was 32 years old.By incorporating ideas from multiple sources to build a secular (not 12-step or faith based) recovery plan that works for her, Mary Beth has been sober since 1994. She used similar techniques to address the trauma and related anxiety as well.Mary Beth is a board member for LifeRing Secular Recovery and She Recovers Foundation. She speaks on behalf of these organizations, about multiple paths to recovery, and about all topics related to substance use disorder and recovery. She also speaks about sexual abuse and rape, child abuse, domestic violence, PTSD, anxiety, and recovering from these as well. INCLUDED IN THIS EPISODE (But not limited to):· Progression From Drug Addiction As An Atheist· White Privilege · The Other Side Of The 12-Step Movement· Proliferation Of Childhood Sexual Trauma · Mental Health Treatment For Kids· Abusers In The Household/Family· Mercy From The Judge· Racial Disparity In Drug Laws· Heroic Hearts Project· MOM JOKES!!! CONNECT WITH MARY BETH O'CONNOR: Website: https://junkietojudge.comFrom Junkie To Judge On Amazon: https://shorturl.at/gvLS3L.A. Times Op-Ed: https://shorturl.at/cuKU1Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marybeth.holuboconnorLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-o-connor-8aaa4b121/X: https://twitter.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2FMaryBethO_ CONNECT WITH DE'VANNON SERÁPHINO: Website: https://www.SexDrugsAndJesus.comWebsite: https://www.DownUnderApparel.com TikTok: https://shorturl.at/nqyJ4YouTube: https://bit.ly/3daTqCMFacebook: https://shorturl.at/gqrAVInstagram: https://shorturl.at/gwAP1X: https://shorturl.at/oyLZ4LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/devannonPinterest: https://shorturl.at/bqB26Support the showThanks for listening! Please donate at SexDrugsAndJesus.com and follow us on TikTok, IG etc.
Joshua Shea is a pornography addiction expert, certified betrayal trauma coach, therapeutic disclosure specialist and the author of four books about pornography addiction, including I'm Reading This Book About Porn Addiction For a Friend (2022).Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction and betrayal trauma than anybody in the world. To date, he has internationally appeared on nearly 400 podcasts, television and radio shows using his wealth of research and personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late. He also speaks extensively about the issue of working through betrayal trauma, especially with the partners of addicts and those who are facing infidelity.Prior to admitting his 24-year addiction to pornography in 2014, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine.In 2017, Joshua launched PAddictRecovery.com He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker and has developed and presents a porn addiction educational presentation series for colleges, churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since April 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. The current animal count is four dogs and seven cats, but it's ever-changing.If you would like to donate to the running of the podcast and leave an energetic exchange that would be completely wonderful.https://tinyurl.com/366hv625You can get my book here as a paperback or audio or e book, which is a raw and honest dialogue of how I went from completely using allopathic medicine to manage a diagnosis of epilepsy, to only using a small amount of medicine and managing the rest with lifestyle choices and other wonderful plant medicines and supplementshttps://lainiechait.com.au/shop-main/If you have a story that you think other people will benefit from and you would like to be on the podcast then contact me at electrogirl55@gmail.com orFind me on FBhttps://www.facebook.com/lainie.chaitA little side note:I am not a practitioner of health professional. These shows are meant to create food for thought for people going through similar situations. Planting seeds of information about things that perhaps you never knew could and might assist in treating and managing the symptoms associated with your diagnosis.Alternative treatments are out there to be used, alongside allopathic medicine, or instead of.That part is completely up to you, but gaining knowledge is the first part in empowering yourself back to health.In love, light and electricityLainie
Your health anxiety recovery begins today, Click Here to Get Started. In this episode of the anxiety guy podcast I want to share one small change that will bring you tremendous progress over anxiety. This one mental shift has the potential to release you of your negative mental and emotional baggage. In this episode you will learn, How important mindset is in anxiety healing How one small change can alter the course of your life why your anxiety continues to follow you day in and day out If the anxiety guy podcast is helping you on your path towards healing please share with someone or an anxiety support group in need. It would mean so much to me. Enjoy! Dennis PS: Don't forget to join our Facebook Support Community Today.
Recovery Today, Trav and Pat talk about the benefits of recovery tools. Mostly, saunas and ice baths / cold exposure. Trav talks from experience, as he uses both of these often. While Pat talks about the research and data behind these recovery practices. They touch on how it affects you physically, your sleep and your mental state. Strap in and enjoy!
According to the National Institutes of Health, 20 million Americans suffer from substance abuse at some point in their lives. Mary Beth O'Conno was one of those, but since 1994 has been sober from methamphetamine use disorder. She wrote about her journey in an award-winning memoir, “From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction.” Mary Beth shares her story with us in this episode of the Lean to the Left podcast and answers the question: how does a junkie get clean & become a judge?Within a week of being born, Mary Beth was dropped off at a convent. Eventually, she moved in with her mom, but she -- her mom -- was more focused on her own needs and desires than her young child. At age nine, her stepfather kicked her in the stomach for spilling milk, beat her when she displeased him, and molested her at age twelve. A few months later, she took a sip of Boone's Farm Strawberry Hill wine, which made her feel euphoric and relaxed. So, she drank as much as possible, added pot, then pills, then acid. At sixteen, she found methamphetamine and experienced joy, but when this high was no longer sufficient, she turned to the needle and shot up. That began 16 years of severe addiction, resulting in destroyed relationships, problems at work, and damage to her physical and emotional health. But, today, Mary Beth O'Connor is a retired federal administrative law judge. She is director, secretary, and founding investor for the She Recovers Foundation, a director for Life-Ring Secular Recovery, and a member of the advisory council for the Hyer Calling Foundation. Her opinion pieces have appeared in The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, Philadelphia Inquirer, Recovery Today, and other publications. Six years into her recovery, Mary Beth attended Berkeley Law. She worked at a large firm, then litigated class actions for the federal government leading to her appointment as a federal administrative law judge in 2014, a position from which she retired in 2020.Here are some questions we discussed with Mary Beth as she answers the question: How does a junkie get clean & become a judge?Q. Tell us more about your background and what made you to turn to meth.Q. What happened that prompted you to seek help?Q. The Alcoholics Anonymous 12-step program didn't work for you. Why not? What did you do?Q. What peer support options are available to those seeking recovery, and why is that important for the recovering addict?Q. How can your book, “From Junkie to Judge,” help those individuals win their battle against addiction?Q. Tell us about the She Recovers Foundation. Why was it started and what does it do?Q. How about LifeRing Secular Recovery?Q. Back when you were struggling as a drug addict, did you ever think you would be in this position today – a published author, counselor, and retired federal judge?Q. How can your story inspire others? Q. I just interviewed a guest who spent five years in prison for a white collar crime. After his experience in prison where most inmates were incarcerated because of illegal drugs, he now believes all such drugs should be legalized; that this would drastically reduce crime and save billions by ending an unwinnable war against illegal drugs. How do you feel about that?Q. Where can people learn more about your work and obtain your book?Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-lean-to-the-left-podcast--4719048/support.
According to the National Institutes of Health, 20 million Americans suffer from substance abuse at some point in their lives. Mary Beth O'Conno was one of those, but since 1994 has been sober from methamphetamine use disorder. She wrote about her journey in an award-winning memoir, “From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction.” Mary Beth shares her story with us in this episode of the Lean to the Left podcast and answers the question: how does a junkie get clean & become a judge?Within a week of being born, Mary Beth was dropped off at a convent. Eventually, she moved in with her mom, but she -- her mom -- was more focused on her own needs and desires than her young child. At age nine, her stepfather kicked her in the stomach for spilling milk, beat her when she displeased him, and molested her at age twelve. A few months later, she took a sip of Boone's Farm Strawberry Hill wine, which made her feel euphoric and relaxed. So, she drank as much as possible, added pot, then pills, then acid. At sixteen, she found methamphetamine and experienced joy, but when this high was no longer sufficient, she turned to the needle and shot up. That began 16 years of severe addiction, resulting in destroyed relationships, problems at work, and damage to her physical and emotional health. But, today, Mary Beth O'Connor is a retired federal administrative law judge. She is director, secretary, and founding investor for the She Recovers Foundation, a director for Life-Ring Secular Recovery, and a member of the advisory council for the Hyer Calling Foundation. Her opinion pieces have appeared in The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, Philadelphia Inquirer, Recovery Today, and other publications. Six years into her recovery, Mary Beth attended Berkeley Law. She worked at a large firm, then litigated class actions for the federal government leading to her appointment as a federal administrative law judge in 2014, a position from which she retired in 2020.Here are some questions we discussed with Mary Beth as she answers the question: How does a junkie get clean & become a judge?Q. Tell us more about your background and what made you to turn to meth.Q. What happened that prompted you to seek help?Q. The Alcoholics Anonymous 12-step program didn't work for you. Why not? What did you do?Q. What peer support options are available to those seeking recovery, and why is that important for the recovering addict?Q. How can your book, “From Junkie to Judge,” help those individuals win their battle against addiction?Q. Tell us about the She Recovers Foundation. Why was it started and what does it do?Q. How about LifeRing Secular Recovery?Q. Back when you were struggling as a drug addict, did you ever think you would be in this position today – a published author, counselor, and retired federal judge?Q. How can your story inspire others? Q. I just interviewed a guest who spent five years in prison for a white collar crime. After his experience in prison where most inmates were incarcerated because of illegal drugs, he now believes all such drugs should be legalized; that this would drastically reduce crime and save billions by ending an unwinnable war against illegal drugs. How do you feel about that?Q. Where can people learn more about your work and obtain your book?This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/4719048/advertisement
Sathiya Sam discusses her approach to starting recovery from porn addiction. He emphasizes the importance of community and professional help, as well as the practices of journaling and self-care based on love languages. Sathiya also mentions a special promotion for his program and encourages listeners to book a call if interested. The episode concludes with reminders to support the podcast by leaving ratings and reviews, sharing with others, and subscribing for daily encouragement and insight in the recovery journey. Book A Call With Sathiya's TeamFor more Free Resources, check this outFollow Sathiya on Instagram
Mary Beth O'Connor has been sober from methamphetamine and other substances since 1994. She also is in recovery from abuse and trauma. The details of her story can be found in her memoir, From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction. Mary Beth is a Director for LifeRing Secular Recovery. She also is a Director and Secretary for She Recovers Foundation. She develops relationships with organizations supportive of the multiple pathways approach, such as working on joint projects with Women for Sobriety. Mary Beth regularly speaks about her personal story, on behalf of LifeRing and She Recovers, about multiple paths to recovery, and shares her expertise on other substance use and recovery topics. She's appeared on podcasts, radio, and television. She has presented keynotes and workshops at a variety of conferences and events. Mary Beth writes opinion pieces and has been published in The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, the Philadelphia Inquirer, and Recovery Today, among others. She's also had numerous memoir writings published. Professionally, 6 years into her recovery, Mary Beth attended Berkeley Law. She worked at a large firm in Silicon Valley, then litigated class actions for the federal government. In 2014 Mary Beth was appointed an Administrative Law Judge. She retired early in 2020 and now devotes her time to her writing and recovery advocacy. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The interconnectedness of trauma and substance abuse Mary Beth's multi-pronged approach to recovery The challenges she faced in relationships during her recovery Debunking outdated ideas of substance abuse and addiction How Mary Beth went from substance abuse to federal administrative law judge How to combat the stigma of addiction and find hope and healing Links Mentioned in This Episode: Website | Facebook | Twitter | Linked In
Teatime with Miss Liz is June 8th at 10 Am EST. We bring up a topic many don't speak on; here on teatime, we do. Joining me and coming to share his T-E-A is Joshua Shea porn addiction expert. Together we bring an open discussion on porn addiction and the awareness of the signs and rehabilitation. “Trigger Warning “June 8th at 10 AM EST LIVE STREAMING TO MULTIPLE PLATFORMS AND PODCASTS STATIONS AND APPS Joshua Shea is a pornography addiction expert, certified betrayal trauma coach, therapeutic disclosure specialist and the author of four books about pornography addiction, including I'm Reading This Book About Porn Addiction For a Friend (2022). Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction and betrayal trauma than anybody. To date, he has internationally appeared on nearly 400 podcasts, television and radio shows, using his wealth of research and personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late. He also speaks extensively about the issue of working through betrayal trauma, especially with the partners of addicts and those who are facing infidelity. Prior to admitting his 24-year addiction to pornography in 2014, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. In 2017, Joshua launched PAddictRecovery.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker and has developed and presented a porn addiction educational presentation series for colleges, churches, libraries and other groups. Since April 2014, Joshua has lived in Central Maine with his wife and two children. The current animal count is four dogs and eight cats, but it's ever-changing. Other books by Shea include: He's a Porn Addict… Now What? (2019) Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020 and The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018).http://paddictrecovery.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/misslizsteatimes/message
Play comes naturally to most children, but as we get older, playfulness, zest, tends to diminish. We get stuck in responsibilities, or maybe you feel like play is frivolous. But then you also end up feeling unhappy and depressed and play is a way out of it. The power of play can really help us live more enjoyable, fulfilling, and even productive lives. My two guests today, Elaine O'Brien and Andrea Seydel, are not only dear friends of mine, but they just coauthored a book on this, and I am so thrilled to have them share their wisdom with you! Today we're discussing: Why we lose our sense of play as we get older Why play is so important to our wellbeing Reconnecting to how we like to play Easy ways to bring more play into our lives The value of “micromoments” How we can adopt a play mindset The scientific argument for play Why play is crucial to getting through challenging times About Elaine O'Brien Dr. Elaine O'Brien is one of the most informed academics, theorists, and practitioners on the intersection of positive movement, fitness, vitality, mental and physical health, and zesty aging. Dr. Elaine is one of the first 100 people worldwide to earn a master's degree in Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) under Dr. Martin Seligman in 2008, who recognized her contributions in his book, Flourish. She was a 2022 MAPP Summit Alumni Invited Speaker. Seligman stated that Elaine's work “advances the role of the body and positive movement in helping people achieve flourishing mental health, physical fitness, and positivity.” Elaine earned her PhD in Human Movement Psychology in her 60s, after decades of leadership in the dance/fitness industry. Elaine is a writer, author, speaker, and host/board member of the International Positive Psychology Association's Health and Wellbeing division. She recently developed a course, “Positive Psychology Across the Lifespan” for the Philadelphia College of Osteopathic Medicine. With Andrea Seydel, Elaine is the co-author of The Power of Play: Optimize Your Joy Potential. This book can safeguard your physical and mental health and make you a better lover of life. To learn more about and follow Elaine: http://Elaineobrienphd.com http://powerofplay.fun https://www.facebook.com/Elaine.OBrien.Fitstyle https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaine-o-brien-phd/ About Andrea Seydel Andrea Seydel a powerhouse of knowledge and growth. With an unwavering passion for education and personal development, Andrea has dedicated her life to continuous learning. Armed with a psychology degree and post-graduate studies in positive psychology and resilience training, Andrea is an accredited positive psychology coach and a respected figure in the fitness and yoga community. Her expertise extends to non-violent communication, neuro-linguistic programming, post-traumatic growth, mental health first aid, and more. Driven by a profound mission, Andrea empowers individuals to navigate life's challenges with resilience and grace. Through her best-selling book, "Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With an Addiction," influential podcast, and Support Community, she has touched countless lives, offering guidance and support. As a regular contributor to Recovery Today magazine and an active advocate for the recovery community, Andrea is a transformative force, helping individuals turn their pain into purpose. Through her company, Live Life Happy Publishing, Andrea creates a haven for book lovers and aspiring authors. Affectionately known as "The Book Doula," she nurtures coaches, psychology experts, and entrepreneurs in the process of giving birth to their literary creations. By bridging the gap between aspiring authors and knowledge-seeking individuals, Andrea harnesses the power of books to change lives and make a positive difference in the world. When she's not immersed in her book reading, Andrea can be found hiking trails, practicing yoga, or exploring the world. To learn more about and follow Andrea: www.livelifehappypublishing.com www.andreaseydel.com And if you haven't yet joined The Year of WOMAN Membership, get to it! https://carinrockind.com/woman We're changing the world one woman at a time. Go to Apple Podcasts and leave a 5-star review and subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Addiction comes in many forms. Most of them are difficult to conceal. Whether it's drugs, alcohol, or gambling, the outward effects of addiction are often easily visible to the family, friends, and coworkers of the addict. However, porn addiction—the compulsive dependence on pornography that interferes with the ability to function—can remain largely undetected. And yet the fallout is quite real. In addition to the shame and guilt one might feel, there is also the risk of the inability to perform sexually without porn, alienation of spouses and partners, and disconnection from relationships, work, or other activities. The advent of high-speed internet has kicked the problem into overdrive, as addicts now have access to a nearly unlimited stream of addictive resources. In this episode, we speak with coach, author and speaker Joshua Shea. Josh specializes in the realm of addiction, with a particular focus on pornography addiction. He addresses the concerns not only of those with a porn addiction, but also the issues that come with being a partner of a porn addict, and raising children in the age of high-speed internet access. Josh has been pornography-free since March 2014, and he believes that if we can begin to talk more about porn addiction and mental health, we'll see rates of addiction drop. Because the topic is sex, many folks are reluctant to have a frank discussion around the mental health implications of this disease. But this is a vital conversation that we need to be having. We hope you'll find our talk with Josh to be revealing and informative. So let's get on the road!About Joshua SheaJoshua Shea is a pornography addiction expert, certified betrayal trauma coach, therapeutic disclosure specialist and the author of four books about pornography addiction, including He's a Porn Addict…Now What? An Expert and Former Addict Answer Your Questions (2022) focusing on the trauma partners feel when learning their loved one has an issue with pornography.Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction and betrayal trauma than anybody in the world. To date, he has internationally appeared on nearly 400 podcasts, television and radio shows using his wealth of research and personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late. He also speaks extensively about the issue of working through betrayal trauma, especially with the partners of addicts and those who are facing infidelity.Prior to admitting his 24-year addiction to pornography (and 22-year addiction to alcohol) in 2014, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine.In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com which morphed into today's PAddictRecovery.com He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker and has developed and presents a porn addiction educational presentation series for colleges, churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since April 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. The current animal count is four dogs and seven cats, but it's ever-changing.Other books by Shea include: He's a Porn Addict… Now What? (2019) Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020 and The AddVisit the Authenticity Road website: authenticityroad.onlineConnect with us here.© Authenticity Road, Inc. All rights reserved. Authenticity Road, its related marks, and "Adventures in men's work" are the exclusive property of Authenticity Road, Inc.
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For Mary Beth, childhood abuse and other traumas led to substance use disorder (addiction). Beginning with alcohol at age 12, she spent several years abusing various drugs. She found methamphetamine at 16 and started shooting up at 17. Mary Beth struggled with meth until she was 32 years old.By incorporating ideas from multiple sources to build a secular (not 12-step or faith-based) recovery plan that works for her, Mary Beth has been sober since 1994. She used similar techniques to address the trauma and related anxiety as well.Mary Beth is a board member for LifeRing Secular Recovery and She Recovers Foundation. She speaks on behalf of these organizations, about multiple paths to recovery, and about all topics related to substance use disorder and recovery. She also speaks about sexual abuse and rape, child abuse, domestic violence, ptsd, anxiety, and recovering from these as well.Mary Beth's book-length memoir, From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction, is available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Bamm, Indie Bound, and other sites, and at your local bookstore. She also has placed essays in publications such as The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, and Recovery Today. Professionally, 6 years into recovery, Mary Beth attended Berkeley Law. She worked at a large firm in Silicon Valley, then litigated class actions for the federal government. In 2014, Mary Beth was appointed a federal Administrative Law Judge, a position from which she retired in 2020.WEBSITE: https://junkietojudge.com/For more Info on LIFE RING:https://lifering.org/For more info on She Recovers: https://sherecovers.org/Support the show Stop by our Apple Podcast and drop a Review! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/allbetter/id1592297425?see-all=reviewsSupport The Showhttps://www.patreon.com/allbetter
https://theanxietyguy.com/trauma-healing-for-anxiety/ - Begin healing your past traumas and supercharge your anxiety healing today. All show notes for this episode can be found at https://bit.ly/3IPl0oJ Often we ask ourselves questions that bring us full circle back to living with anxiety. In today's episode of the anxiety guy podcast however we're going to change that. These 3 questions will put you in a state of awareness around anxiety, and get you out of a state of franticness. In this episode of the anxiety guy podcast you will learn, How your self talk has contributed to keeping your anxiety disorder alive. How your unconscious habits must come into conscious awareness first. Why we continue to feed our panic and anxiety and get more of what we don't want. Warrior I have a special giveaway for you just for today, and here it is, Leave a positive rate and review for this podcast if it's making a difference in your life. Send a screenshot of your review to endtheanxiety@gmail.com. Receive the popular Life Mastery Program straight to your email inbox today. Remember, you are more than anxiety. See you soon! Dennis
Mary Beth O'Connor has been clean and sober since 1994. She also is in recovery from abuse and trauma. The details of her story can be found in her memoir, From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction, where she describes the child abuse that led her to use methamphetamine beginning at 17, the chaos of her 15-year addiction, and building an individual recovery plan that worked for her. Mary Beth is a Director and Secretary for She Recovers Foundation and is a Director for LifeRing Secular Recovery. She regularly speaks on behalf of LifeRing, She Recovers, and multiple paths to recovery. She also develops relationships with organizations supportive of the multiple pathways approach, such as participating in San Francisco's Methamphetamine Task Force, and working on joint projects with Women for Sobriety. Mary Beth has had numerous essays and memoir writings published, such as in The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, the Philadelphia Inquirer, and Recovery Today. Professionally, six years into her recovery, Mary Beth attended Berkeley Law. She worked at a large firm in Silicon Valley, then litigated class actions for the federal government. In 2014, Mary Beth was appointed an Administrative Law Judge. She recently retired, so she could devote her time to her writing and recovery advocacy. Her new book is From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction. From a junkie addicted to methamphetamines to a federal judge, Mary Beth's memoir shares her inspiring journey from rock bottom to resilience as she forged a personal path to recovery from trauma and addiction. Within a week of being born, O'Connor was dropped off at a convent. When she was brought into her home, her mother focused on her own needs and desires, ignoring her young child. When she was nine years old, her stepfather kicked her in the stomach for spilling milk, beat her when she didn't clean a plate to his satisfaction, and molested her when she was 12. A few months later, with her first sip of Boone's Farm Strawberry Hill wine, her life changed. She felt euphoric and relaxed. So she got drunk as often as possible, adding pot, then pills, then acid. At 16, she found her drug of choice--methamphetamine. With her first snort, she felt that she experienced true joy for the first time. When this high was no longer sufficient, she turned to the needle and shot up. During the next 16 years, she descended into a severe meth addiction, working her way down the corporate ladder, destroying relationships, and shattering her physical and emotional well-being. At 32, she entered rehab, where she was ordered to submit to the 12-steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. As an atheist, turning her will and her life over to a higher power was not an option, and she refused to agree she was powerless. Told to comply or fail, she bravely created a new path that combined ideas from multiple programs and even incorporated some AA concepts. Clean and sober now for nearly three decades, she is proof that anyone can find their sober self, their best self, no matter how far they have fallen. Along with her inspiring story, she offers a comprehensive checklist of questions for readers to ask themselves, as they take the brave steps toward recovery, offering a powerful blueprint for personal change. To become her best version, she uses patience and prioritizing. Learn more at the links below: From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction junkietojudge.com @MaryBethO_ (LinkedIn and twitter) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/maria-leonard-olsen/support
In today's episode, Dr. Zoe Shaw walks us through various dynamics in dating and how to move on in life when we're faced with indecisive partners. Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist, author, motivational speaker, podcast host, life coach and fitness fanatic. She is a mom to 5 and a wife. She is passionate about helping women who struggle in difficult relationships, especially that sometimes difficult relationship with themselves. After 15 years in traditional psychotherapy practice, Dr. Zoe jumped off the couch and now helps women using a different modality with a mix of virtual therapy, coaching services and programs, through a lens of psychology, faith and a dash of feminism, designed specifically for women struggling in difficult relationships. Dr. Zoe is the author of the Ask Dr. Zoe Column in the Grit and Grace Project women's magazine, She has been published in Oprahmag.com, Recovery Today magazine, Forbes and is a frequent contributor to Your Tango. You can find her in the media on Instagram: @Drzoeshaw and in most social places at the handle DrZoeShaw. In This Episode When does one become a forever fiancé? Romantic relationships as charity cases Perks of ultimatums “Red flags” and “desires” list in dating Links Dr. Zoe Shaw's Website Zoe's Instagram SubscribeToDebi.com PBT Institute Membership Trust Again 2.0 PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz
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Welcome guest Mary Beth O'Connor! Author of Junkie to Judge: One Women's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction, available here https://amzn.to/3DTWtND For Mary Beth, childhood abuse and other traumas led to substance use disorder (addiction). Beginning with alcohol at age 12, she spent several years abusing various drugs. She found methamphetamine at 16 and started shooting up at 17. Mary Beth struggled with meth until she was 32 years old. By incorporating ideas from multiple sources to build a secular (not 12-step or faith based) recovery plan that works for her, Mary Beth has been sober since 1994. She used similar techniques to address the trauma and related anxiety as well. Mary Beth is a board member for LifeRing Secular Recovery and She Recovers Foundation. She speaks on behalf of these organizations, about multiple paths to recovery, and about all topics related to substance use disorder and recovery. She also speaks about sexual abuse and rape, child abuse, domestic violence, ptsd, anxiety, and recovering from these as well. Mary Beth's book-length memoir, From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction, is available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Bamm, Indie Bound, and other sites, and at your local bookstore. She also has placed essays in publications such as The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, and Recovery Today. Professionally, 6 years into recovery, Mary Beth attended Berkeley Law. She worked at a large firm in Silicon Valley, then litigated class actions for the federal government. In 2014, Mary Beth was appointed a federal Administrative Law Judge, a position from which she retired in 2020. https://junkietojudge.com/ If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings! Check out my Coaching Courses, my Webinars, my Tiktoks, my Book, 1:1 sessions, etc. available here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
Pawley and Michele discuss some tweets and then welcome Mary Beth O'Connor to the pod. She's been sober since 1994 and her new book "From Junkie to Judge" has just been released. She also has placed essays in publications such as The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, and Recovery Today. Mary Beth is a board member for LifeRing Secular Recovery and She Recovers Foundation. She speaks on behalf of these organizations, about multiple paths to recovery, and about all topics related to substance use disorder and recovery. She also speaks about sexual abuse and rape, child abuse, domestic violence, PTSD, and anxiety. To learn more about Mary Beth, visit: www.Junkietojudge.comTo learn more about Recoverycast, visit: www.recoverycast.org
Damar Hamlin visits the Bills facility over the weekend and cheers the team from home as they beat the Dolphins in the NFL playoffs. Also, TODAY's Checklist: registered dietitian Vanessa Rissetto shares some tips on how to take charge of your health by breaking down the nutrients you need and the right amounts. Plus, Second Act: the story behind Wyomia Tyus and how she went from a teacher to a track star. And, Clean Sweep: author Janelle Cohen shares some organization hacks.
Prince Harry's new memoir “Spare” is out for sale. Also, the latest on Damar Hamlin's recovery as he's now being treated by doctors in Buffalo. Plus, TODAY's Checklist: Ophthalmologist Doctor Annie Negrin is in studio 1A to share some eye healthcare tips. And, the story behind model Pritika Swarup and her beauty company “ Prakti Beauty.”
Evangelist Kandi Rose, a former stripper, prostitute and addict, brings a message of hope and redemption to those who feel as though they have been abandoned. On Addiction Free Kandi interviews guests whose lives have been set free from various addictions and are now serving the Lord in some type of ministry. On her additional program Recovery Today she walks viewers through her two 12-step workbooks on addiction.
WARNING: This podcast touches on adult subject matters, and meant for education and discussion. Therefore, you should be of consenting age to listen or watch this video. The host and guest are not liable for any offense you may derive from this episode or any Behind The Story with Chuck Tuck episodes. Welcome to part 2 of my interview with Joshua Shea - Can you fall victim to your own desires, fantasies or delusions? My guest, Joshua Shea, has appeared on nearly 400 podcasts to date to talk about addiction. Shea himself worked through his 24-year addiction to pornography and 22-year addiction to alcohol. He is now a successful author, and addict and trauma recovery coach helping people manage their journey to recovery. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com which morphed into today's PAddictRecovery.com He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker and has developed and presents a porn addiction educational presentation series for colleges, churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since April 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. The current animal count is four dogs and seven cats, but it's ever-changing. Other books by Shea include: He's a Porn Addict… Now What? (2019) Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020 and The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018). #addiction#trauma#addictioncounseling --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/chucktuck/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/chucktuck/support
WARNING: This podcast touches on adult subject matters, and meant for education and discussion. Therefore, you should be of consenting age to listen or watch this video. The host and guest are not liable for any offense you may derive from this episode or any Behind The Story with Chuck Tuck episodes. We've heard and seen it on the news before... XYZ movie star accused of being a sex addict. Well, it's not just the famous people, it's everyday folks like you and me who make up the larger percentage of addicts, and that includes sex addiction. My guest, Joshua Shea, has appeared on nearly 400 podcasts to date to talk about addiction. Shea himself worked through his 24-year addiction to pornography and 22-year addiction to alcohol. He is now a successful author, and addict and trauma recovery coach helping people manage their journey to recovery. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com which morphed into today's PAddictRecovery.com He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker and has developed and presents a porn addiction educational presentation series for colleges, churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since April 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. The current animal count is four dogs and seven cats, but it's ever-changing. Other books by Shea include: He's a Porn Addict… Now What? (2019) Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020 and The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018). If you'd like to book an initial, no-obligation, 30-to-60 minute session with Joshua, CLICK HERE > --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/chucktuck/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/chucktuck/support
Today's episode features two DeepClean coaches, Henry Brown and Stuart Harrison, who spend time every week helping men resolve the root issues of porn and masturbation. In this interview we discuss common mistakes men make recovering (including many mistakes that we made ourselves), the solutions that are clearly working the most effectively today, and practical ways someone can get started on the journey. The conversation then shifts to discuss the role of the local church in all of this, as Henry & Stuart currently are local church pastors. This interview includes stories, knowledge, and practicality, all guaranteed to leave you inspired, hopeful and equipped to experience lasting freedom. Enjoy! Listen to Husband Material Podcast Listen to Pure Desire Podcast Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
Today's episode features two DeepClean coaches, Henry Brown and Stuart Harrison, who spend time every week helping men resolve the root issues of porn and masturbation. In this interview we discuss common mistakes men make recovering (including many mistakes that we made ourselves), the solutions that are clearly working the most effectively today, and practical ways someone can get started on the journey. The conversation then shifts to discuss the role of the local church in all of this, as Henry & Stuart currently are local church pastors. This interview includes stories, knowledge, and practicality, all guaranteed to leave you inspired, hopeful and equipped to experience lasting freedom. Enjoy! Listen to Husband Material Podcast Listen to Pure Desire Podcast Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
Kandi Rose thought she had it made as the owner of a highly profitable business in the "adult entertainment" arena. Well, it was profitable financially, but it left her spiritually destitute, often wondering "is this all there really is?" even at the height of her monetary success. Not to mention having an erratic lifestyle and severe anger from childhood trauma which provided an overtly hostile environment at home. Something had to give, and Kandi was out of options. At the urging of her mother who had been praying for her for several years, Kandi finally surrendered to God and became a witness to His grace for all who would listen (and probably a few who wouldn't ;). It wasn't easy, and Kandi certainly didn't get everything right the first time, but she has persevered by the grace of God to be a shining light for others to seek to do more for God. In this episode, you'll learn: -Kandi's childhood, and beginning the business of prostitution and stripping...05:00 -Spiritual blindness convinced Kandi that grotesque behavior was good...14:23 -Stretched to the absolute limit, Kandi surrenders her life to Jesus...18:42 -First steps after becoming a believer in Jesus...24:30 -Sharing the gospel through principled entrepreneurship...29:15 -Witnessing to an addict, and seeing fruit after many years of apparent failure...33:12 -Beginning Recovery Today TV...37:34 -What prevents believers from being "all in" in their work for the Lord...41:05 Resources mentioned: Recovery Today TV Guest's bio and social handles: Kandi Rose was a former stripper & prostitute who once owned a strip-o-gram business, Kandi Rose Productions with male & female dancers in the Chicago area. She advertised her commercial on TV, radio, billboard, and newspapers. She had multiple addictions until her mother led her to the Lord. 33 yrs. later now she produces and hosts a weekly television show called, Recovery Today w/Kandi Rose & Friends, that broadcast across the U.S. on several networks in millions of homes. Kandi along with her 2 co-hosts start the show by teaching from the two 12 step recovery workbooks Kandi wrote, then they feature addiction free testimonies. Evangelist Kandi Rose travels statewide filming and preaching in churches and recovery homes interviewing people that are addiction free by Christ. She puts these TV shows on podcast, Spotify, stitcher, google podcast & radio public and Anchor. Those TV shows are also converted to audio and are aired on radio. She has authored 6 books that are all on Amazon. She says, All glory to God! With God, all things are possible to reach the lost and hurting! She ministers weekly in jail and 2 recovery homes as well. She is a member of Christian Women in Media Assoc. and has been holding meetings in Hot Springs Arkansas for almost 8 years.
In this week's episode, Dr. Zoe Shaw is revealing all of her insight on navigating difficult relationships, especially those foundational relationships, like the one between you and you. Dr. Zoe shares her own struggle with shame and the path she used, and what she teaches other women to embrace life and move beyond shame. Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist, motivational speaker, podcast host, life coach and fitness fanatic. She is a mom to 5 and a wife. She is passionate about helping women who struggle in difficult relationships, especially that sometimes difficult relationship with themselves.After 15 years in traditional psychotherapy practice, Dr. Zoe jumped off the couch and now helps women using a different modality with a mix of virtual therapy, coaching services and programs, through a lens of psychology, faith and a dash of feminism, designed specifically for women struggling in difficult relationships. Dr. Zoe is the author of the Ask Dr. Zoe Column in the Grit and Grace Project women's magazine, She has been published in Oprahmag.com, Recovery Today magazine, Forbes and is a frequent contributor to Your Tango. She writes about helping women redefine their Strengths.If this episode inspired you in some way, take a screenshot of you listening on your device and post it to your Instagram Stories and tag us, @pamgodboiscoaching and @drzoeshaw.In this episode you'll hear:Dr. Zoe shares her journey with shame and the work to find the courage to move forward and heal. She explores the foundation for confidence and strategies to move through the fear. Dr. Zoe speaks about the benefits of doing hard things, and how being afraid plays into this. We explore the therapist's battle of showing up authentically, and showing up for your clients. The differences between what we learned 20 years ago in school and what is happening today. Dr. Zoe shares about her 360 self-care philosophy and what that looks like for you. Reminding us all, that “you are enough!” exactly as you are, you do not need anything else to be enough. LINKS:Dr. Zoe's Website: https://drzoeshaw.comDr. Zoe's Instagram Connect with me: Instagram, Facebook, and Tiktok. If you're like “I love listening to Pam chat with guests.” Then head over and write a review! We really appreciate your support and it helps us to keep growing!! https://pamgodbois.com/ApplePodcast Thank you so much for listening to this week's episode. Be sure to tune in next week.
Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist, motivational speaker, radio show host, life coach and fitness fanatic. She is a mom to 5 and a wife. She is passionate about helping women who struggle in difficult relationships, especially that sometimes difficult relationship with themselves. After 15 years in traditional psychotherapy practice, Dr. Zoe jumped off the couch and now helps women using a different modality with a mix of virtual therapy, coaching services and programs, through a lens of psychology, faith and a dash of feminism, designed specifically for women struggling in difficult relationships. Dr. Zoe is the author of the Ask Dr. Zoe Column in the Grit and Grace Project women's magazine, She has been published in Oprahmag.com, Recovery Today magazine and is a frequent contributor to Your Tango. She writes about helping women redefine their Strength. You can find her in the media on Instagram: @Drzoeshaw and in most social places at the handle DrZoeShaw --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/normalizetheconversation/support
Joshua Shea is a pornography addiction expert, certified betrayal trauma coach and the author of four books about pornography addiction, including his latest I'm Reading This Book About Porn Addiction for a Friend (2022). Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction and betrayal trauma than anybody in the world. To date, he has appeared on over 350 podcasts, television and radio shows using his wealth of research and personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late. He also speaks extensively about the issue of working through betrayal trauma, especially with the partners of addicts and those who are facing infidelity. Prior to seeking help for his 24-year addiction to pornography in 2014, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. In 2017, Joshua launched pAddictRecovery.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker and has developed and presents a porn addiction education lecture for colleges, churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since April 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. Other books by Shea include: Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020, The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018) and the best-selling He's a Porn Addict, Now What? (2019).
Joshua Shea is a coach, author and speaker sharing his story and educating about pornography addiction. Pornography-free since March 2014, he believes that if we can begin to talk more about porn addiction and mental health, others may be able to address their addictions before they devolve to the unhealthy levels that he reached. Joshua also addresses the issues that come with being a partner of a porn addict and raising children in a world of high-speed Internet access. Interviewed more than 250 times, he has written three books, designed an online course for partners and coaches/advises both addicts and partners. Today he works as an author and public speaker, sharing his story and educating others about addiction. Each of his books are available for purchase on Amazon and can be found under the ‘Get Help' tab on the main menu of paddictrecovery.com. THE HIGHLIGHTS • Pornography Addict for 25 years; Alcohol Addict for 21 years • In Recovery and Relapse-Free since March 2014 • Alcohol Rehabilitation at Spencer Recovery Center, Palm Springs, Calif., March-June 2014 (including internship and group facilitation) • Sex/Porn Addiction Rehabilitation at Sante Center for Healing, Argyle, Texas, May-July 2015 • Author, The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships • Co-Author, He's a Porn Addict…Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions • Contributor of Sex/Porn Addiction Recovery Articles for TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine • Public Speaker on the Subject of Pornography Addiction • Certified Betrayal Trauma Coach – Certification through The PBT Institute, New York • Presenter at 4th International Conference on Addiction Research and Therapy, October 2020 • TEDx Talk Speaker, December 2020, “The Twisted Tentacles of Porn Addiction” • Certified Life Coach through KEW Training Academy – Accredited by CTAA To connect with Joshua: https://paddictrecovery.com/
The Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With An Addiction Podcast
IN THIS EPISODE, WE DISCUSS: _________________________________________ TAKE THE PEN BACK AND WRITE THE STORY OF YOUR LIFE: with Recovery Today's Editor-in-Chief Rob Hannely https://recoverytodaymagazine.com Saving You Is Killing Me- https://linktr.ee/SYKM Connect with us!! The Tap Back Into Your Power Resource, Support, and Network! Has someone else's problem become your problem? Is loving someone with an addiction leaving you feeling broken, exhausted, and repeatedly disappointed? It hurts when you love someone who drinks too much or suffers from an addiction. Life is not normal. You may feel alone, but you are not unique in your pain or dilemma. Nor are you isolated in this situation. Saving You Is Killing Me is a helpful guide to light a darkened path. Regardless of the struggle, you are in, loving someone with an addiction is emotionally, psychologically, and physically draining. You must understand that nobody deserves to suffer - you have the right to live a peaceful and fulfilled life that is full of love! You can, and you will find happiness again! Your journey starts by taking back your power and shifting the focus back onto you! With compassion and grace, a positive psychology practitioner and the author of Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With An Addiction, Andrea Seydel offers support by sharing her personal experiences and the knowledge she used to help navigate the wreckage of her struggle. She exposes the tremendous power of how our relationships can both hurt us and allow us to heal. Trauma is a fact of life, and navigating the turmoil from loving someone with an addiction can be extremely challenging. Saving You Is Killing Me offers new hope for reclaiming your life. Seydel offers insight and learning opportunities for self-healing, recovery, and resilience that foster an empowering way of life. For more support, information, or to share your story of strength, head over the website: www.savingyouiskillingme.com Join us in the private Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/savingyouiskillingme Grab Your Copy of the Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With an Addiction Book:
Joshua Shea - Author, Coach, EducatorpAddictRecovery.comJoshua Shea is a pornography addiction expert, certified betrayal trauma coach and the author of three books about pornography addiction, including He's a Porn Addict…Now What? An Expert and Former Addict Answer Your Questions (2019). Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction and betrayal trauma than anybody in the world. To date, he has appeared on nearly 250 podcasts, television and radio shows using his wealth of research and personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late. He also speaks extensively about the issue of working through betrayal trauma, especially with the partners of addicts and those who are facing infidelity. Prior to admitting his 24-year addiction to pornography in 2014, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker and has developed and presents a porn addiction education lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since April 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. Other books by Shea include: Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020 and The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018).THE HIGHLIGHTSPornography Addict for 25 years; Alcohol Addict for 21 yearsIn Recovery and Relapse-Free since March 2014Alcohol Rehabilitation at Spencer Recovery Center, Palm Springs, Calif., March-June 2014 (including internship and group facilitation)Sex/Porn Addiction Rehabilitation at Sante Center for Healing, Argyle, Texas, May-July 2015Author, The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy RelationshipsCo-Author, He's a Porn Addict…Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your QuestionsContributor of Sex/Porn Addiction Recovery Articles for TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazinePublic Speaker on the Subject of Pornography AddictionCertified Betrayal Trauma Coach – Certification through The PBT Institute, New YorkPresenter at 4th International Conference on Addiction Research and Therapy, October 2020TEDx Talk Speaker, December 2020, “The Twisted Tentacles of Porn Addiction”Certified Life Coach through KEW Training Academy – Accredited by CTAA++++++++++++++++++++++++++++Make sure to Stay Connected with Rob during the week via any of the below social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RobLohmanLiftedFromTheRut/ Twitter: @RobLohmanInstagram: @roblohmanliftedfromtherut LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertlohman/ YouTube: Rob Lohman BroadcastsWebsite: www.liftedfromtherut.comPhone: 970-331-4469Email: rob@liftedFromTheRut.comClick here to schedule Rob Lohman as a Guest on your show
Good morning Friends-It is Taco Tuesday! Time for some margaritas :) My next guest talks about an addiction too many people aren't brave enough to discuss. Unfortunately I have been involved with someone that had some of these addictions. Please welcome my next guest, Joshua Shea.Joshua Shea is a recovering pornography addict and the author of Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020. He has also authored The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018) and co-author of He's a Porn Addict…What Now? An Expert and Former Addict Answer Your Questions (2019).Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction than anybody in the world. To date, he has appeared on over 200 podcasts, television and radio shows using his wealth of research and personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late, as it became in his case.Prior to admitting his addiction, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com. Certified as a betrayal trauma coach, he has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker and has developed and presents a porn addiction education lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since April 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. To follow Joshua or to reach out to him, head to the links below:https://www.recoveringpornaddict.com/https://twitter.com/PAddictRecoveryhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/joshua-shea-7b9932194/Support for Label Free Podcast is brought to you by MANSCAPED™, who is the best in men's below-the-waist grooming. MANSCAPED offers precision-engineered tools for your family jewels. They obsess over their technology developments to provide you the best tools for your grooming experience. MANSCAPED is trusted by over 2 million men worldwide! We have an exclusive offer for my listeners - 20% off + free shipping with the code: LabelFree20 at https://www.manscaped.com As always thank you for the support, to contact me directly follow the link below: https://www.labelfreepodcast.com Stay Healthy, Stay Ready- Deanna Marie Kuempel #ad #sponsor
Good morning Friends-It is Taco Tuesday! Time for some margaritas :) My next guest talks about an addiction too many people aren't brave enough to discuss. Unfortunately I have been involved with someone that had some of these addictions. Please welcome my next guest, Joshua Shea.Joshua Shea is a recovering pornography addict and the author of Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020. He has also authored The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018) and co-author of He's a Porn Addict…What Now? An Expert and Former Addict Answer Your Questions (2019).Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction than anybody in the world. To date, he has appeared on over 200 podcasts, television and radio shows using his wealth of research and personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late, as it became in his case.Prior to admitting his addiction, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com. Certified as a betrayal trauma coach, he has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker and has developed and presents a porn addiction education lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since April 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. To follow Joshua or to reach out to him, head to the links below:https://www.recoveringpornaddict.com/https://twitter.com/PAddictRecoveryhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/joshua-shea-7b9932194/Support for Label Free Podcast is brought to you by MANSCAPED™, who is the best in men's below-the-waist grooming. MANSCAPED offers precision-engineered tools for your family jewels. They obsess over their technology developments to provide you the best tools for your grooming experience. MANSCAPED is trusted by over 2 million men worldwide! We have an exclusive offer for my listeners - 20% off + free shipping with the code: LabelFree20 at https://www.manscaped.com As always thank you for the support, to contact me directly follow the link below: https://www.labelfreepodcast.com Stay Healthy, Stay Ready- Deanna Marie Kuempel #ad #sponsor
Dr Paul F has worked as a physician in the field of addiction medicine and occupational medicine for more than twenty-five years. His interest in addiction medicine has morphed over those years into a greater curiosity related to addiction recovery science and treatment. Dr. Paul S, full-time addiction medicine physician, focusing on occupational and recovery medicine, this Paul is past President of the Canadian Society of Addiction Medicine, and currently acts as UBC Faculty of Medicine, Department of Family Practice, and an Adjunct Professor at Simon Fraser University. Together, at the 2021 International Conference of Secular Alcoholics Anonymous, two "Doctor, Addict, Alcoholic" Pauls offer contemporary Doctors' Opinions based on their front-line work in addiction and recovery medicine and reflections on their own struggles and recoveries. More International Conference of Secular AA: https://aasecular.org or Email us SecularAA@gmail.com https://secularaa.buzzsprout.com/ for the podcast page of ICSAA
Joshua Shea is a pornography addiction expert, certified betrayal trauma coach and the author of three books about pornography addiction, including He's a Porn Addict…Now What? An Expert and Former Addict Answer Your Questions (2019). Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction and betrayal trauma than anybody in the world. To date, he has appeared on nearly 300 podcasts, television and radio shows using his wealth of research and personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late. He also speaks extensively about the issue of working through betrayal trauma, especially with the partners of addicts and those who are facing infidelity. Prior to admitting his 24-year addiction to pornography (and alcohol) in 2014, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. In 2017, Joshua launched https://paddictrecovery.com He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker and has developed and presents a porn addiction education lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since April 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. Other books by Shea include: Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020 and The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018). He was also a contributor for From Hardened to Healed (2021)
Joshua Shea is a former pornography addict-turned-expert on a mission to get the world talking about pornography addiction, and the potential ramifications being a porn addict can cause. He's given a TED Talk, and written three books on the subject.His latest book, Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything was released in July 2020. It looks at how the world of online pornography changed overnight during the COVID-19 Coronavirus outbreak with analysis and interviews from current and former pornography addicts, "cam models" who use sites like Chaturbate and OnlyFans, and a bevy of mental health and addiction professionals. Online pornography exploded during the pandemic right under most people's noses.He is also the author of The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018), a memoir about his descent during the final days of his addiction and He's a Porn Addict…Now What? (2019) written for female partners of male porn addicts who are grappling with the revelation their loved one is an addict. It was co-written with Tony Overbay, LMFTShea has given more interviews about pornography addiction than anybody on this planet since 2018. He has appeared on over 200 podcasts, television and radio shows using his personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late, as it became in his case.Prior to admitting his addiction, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine and has developed and presented a porn addiction lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Shea will be giving his first TEDx Talk in December 2020.Sober since early 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. If you or someone you know needs resources about pornography addiction visit www.paddictrecovery.com
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Joshua Shea is a pornography addiction expert, certified betrayal trauma coach, and the author of three books about pornography addiction, including He's a Porn Addict…Now What? An Expert and Former Addict Answers Your Questions (2019). He works full-time as a certified betrayal trauma coach with the Post Betrayal Trauma Institute in New York. Prior to admitting his 24-year addiction to pornography in 2014, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder, and politician in central Maine. Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction and betrayal trauma than anybody in the world. To date, he has appeared on nearly 300 podcasts, television and radio shows using his wealth of research and personal story to speak about his experiences with pornography addiction and betrayal trauma – both as betrayed and betrayer. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine, is a TEDx Talk speaker, and has developed and presents a porn addiction education lecture for colleges, libraries, and other groups. Other books by Shea include Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020 and The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018) and as a contributor of From Hardened to Healed (2021). Reach out to Joshua: paddictrecovery.com Contact Lois Wagner and book a free discussion to discuss your healing journey and to fly free. http://walkingwithoutskin.com/ Music Walking without Skin is a song inspired by the work of Lois Wagner. Walking Without Skin was composed by Steve Siler of Music for the Soul and features Denise Green. It is our hope that the song will encourage and empower women as they journey on the road to healing. You may stream the song here or download it for $1.29. https://www.musicforthesoul.org/resources/walking-without-skin/ .
In this weeks episode with Dr. Zoe Shaw we dive into some of these amazing and important topics:- Your not broken, just bent - The connection between strength, intelligence and anxiety- An inside look into mental health for women - How to honor your anxiety - The pro and cons of the superwomen syndrome- How to be in the now Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist, motivational speaker, radio showhost, life coach, and fitness fanatic. She is a mom to 5 and a wife. She ispassionate about helping women who struggle in difficult relationships,especially that sometimes difficult relationships with themselves.After 15 years in traditional psychotherapy practice, Dr. Zoe jumped off thecouch and now helps women using a different modality with a mix of virtualtherapy, coaching services and programs, through a lens of faith andfeminism, designed specifically for women trying to have it all, helpingwomen show up stronger in their lives and relationships.Dr. Zoe is the author of the Ask Dr. Zoe Column in the Grit and GraceProject women's magazine, She has been published in Oprahmag.com,Recovery Today magazine and is a frequent contributor to Your Tango. Shewrites about helping women redefine their Strength. You can find her in the media on Instagram: @Drzoeshaw and in most social places at the handle DrZoeShawSupport the show (https://pod.fan/the-dude-therapist)
In Founders TIME episode #1, meet Tim Ringgold, MT-BC in "The Power of Music". He is a board certified music therapist, a columnist for Recovery Today magazine, and the author of the book, Sonic Recovery: Harness the Power of Music to Stay Sober. He has provided music therapy to thousands of teens and adults in residential treatment, and is a sought-after international speaker, having shared the stage with some of the top minds on music, the brain, addiction and personal development, including Tony Robbins. Tim was the first person to give a TEDx talk on music therapy in 2012. Tim is also a former Regional President of the American Music Therapy Association. He explains the magical healing power that music has, that can take your pain away and how music is being used as an alternative treatment to cope with PTSD, Stress Relief and to help you make your day better... Book: Sonic Recovery: Harness the Power of Music to Stay Sober
Joshua Shea is a recovering pornography addict (21 years) and the author of The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships, released in January 2018. His next book, He's a Porn Addict…Now What? will be released on December 1. Shea has appeared on over 75 podcasts, television and radio shows using his personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late, as it became in his case. Prior to admitting his addiction, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. As his 20-year addiction was reaching a critical level in late 2013, Joshua made the error of engaging a teenage girl in an online chatroom, for which he was arrested and served six months in jail. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine and has developed and presented a porn addiction lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since early 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-mind-creator/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/new-mind-creator/support
Today's message is deeply important. While there are some potentially triggering details in the examples shared today, don't skip over this message. Joshua Shea is a recovering pornography addict and the author of Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020. He has also authored The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018) and co-author of He’s a Porn Addict…What Now? An Expert and Former Addict Answer Your Questions (2019). Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction than anybody in the world. To date, he has appeared on over 140 podcasts, television and radio shows using his wealth of research and personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it’s too late. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine and has developed and presents a porn addiction education lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. He will be giving his first TEDx Talk in Hartford, Conn., in December 2020. Now more than six years into recovery, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. In this episode, Joshua and I discuss what dysfunctional beliefs and behaviors actually stem from pornography addiction. The culture that pornography exudes cuts deeply into our society and is impacting and deteriorating families in ways that you might not have expected if you don't have experience with it. Moral of the story: Pornography addiction is insidious and dangerous, but don't just shield your families from it. Education them about it. Create open communication around it. Awkwardness or shielding will only lead to shame which creates hiding the curiosity people naturally feel toward sexuality. Learn more about Joshua and his message by going to RecoveringPornAddict.com
“I feel that if I didn’t take that crappy job that I hated, that I wouldn’t be here on the path I was meant to be on.” -Ben Ben's First Two Years in Recovery Today, Ben and I celebrate Ben's tenth year of sobriety! "Years two through now have flown by for me," says Ben reflecting back on his journey. He remembers his first two years being rough for him as his first two years were a struggle. Ben refers to AA's founder and his recollection of having waves of resentment and self-pity through his process. Why Ben's First Year Was Extraordinarily Hard Ben realizes what made his first year so difficult was that he wanted to go back to his comfortable life. This was when he started taking suggestions and takeaways from meetings and other members of the various groups he belonged to in his recovery. Ben encourages others to take advice and try suggestions from successful sober society members to see what works for their recovery. If something doesn't work, they need to note what didn't work and try a new solution. After two years of sobriety, he created a career change from bartending and personal training to working for a moving company, although he didn't want it as a job choice. He didn't realize that this job would lead him to go to school, getting his degree, and giving him the ability to work with recovering addicts. People realized Ben was owning his own plan and working out of his comfort zone, and they decided to support him. How Trust Makes Sobriety Work When you first come "off the street," you don't trust hardly anyone. However, to have a complete recovery, you'll need to put your trust in a few people to support you in your journey. Ben reminds us that we cannot have a successful recovery without trusting others, giving them a chance to "buy-in" to our recovery, and letting them be a part of our team and lead us to a healthier lifestyle. Listen to Ben's challenges his first two years and how he got through his hardships, how he came to accept "life on life's terms," and how he changed his life's paradigm to create less conflict and justification in his life, which led to his complete recovery. At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being. Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery. Share this podcast with a friend and leave us a review! Show Notes: [02:36] Ben celebrates ten years of sobriety! [03:37] He reflects on his first two years of being clean and sober. [09:14] Trying new solutions when the previous idea didn’t work. [12:33] Do you really need a job that humbles you? [14:37] Getting out of your own way and how that can help you in life. [18:05] Ben’s most challenging hardships the first two years of sobriety. [21:13] What prevented Ben from picking up drugs and alcohol during his recovery. [25:41] Playing “Simon Says” to stay sober. [31:07] Confidence in taking action in order to stay clean. [35:17] Life doesn’t get easier, you have to get better at handling life situations. [38:20] What he does today to stay sober and how sobriety is possible. Episode Links and Resources Real Recovery Live Chat Real Recovery Talk on the Web Real Recovery Talk on YouTube Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes Rock Recovery Center Real Recovery Talk on Facebook Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
Recovery Today's Rob Hannley gives us the inside scoop on his sobriety, while talking to us about life obstacles and experiences.
Tim Ringgold is a board-certified music therapist, columnist for Recovery Today magazine, and the author of the book, Sonic Recovery: Harness the Power of Music to Stay Sober. He has provided music therapy to thousands of teens and adults in residential treatment, and is a sought-after international speaker, having shared the stage with some of the top minds on music, the brain, addiction and personal development, including Tony Robbins. Tim was the first person to give a TEDx talk on music therapy in 2012. Tim is also a former Regional President of the American Music Therapy Association.
Author, Joshua Shea, joins me to discuss: porn addiction, "betrayal trauma" and the ten minutes where he almost ended his life. BIO:Joshua Shea is a recovering pornography addict and the author of Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything, released July 2020. He has also authoredThe Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018) and co-author of He’s a Porn Addict…What Now? An Expert and Former Addict Answer Your Questions (2019). Since 2018, Joshua has given more interviews about pornography addiction than anybody in the world. To date, he has appeared on over 150 podcasts, television and radio shows using his wealth of research and personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it’s too late, as it became in his case. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine and has developed and presents a porn addiction education lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. He will be giving his first TEDx Talk in Hartford, Conn., in December 2020. Now more than six years into recovery, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children.If you want go from feeling hopeless to hopeful, lonely to connected and like a burden to a blessing, then go to 1-on-1 coaching, go to www.thrivewithleo.com. Let’s get to tomorrow, together. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline800-273-TALK [800-273-8255]1-800-SUICIDE [800-784-2433]Teen Line (Los Angeles)800-852-8336The Trevor Project (LGBTQ Youth Hotline)866-488-7386National Domestic Violence Hotline800-799-SAFE [800-799-7233]Crisis Text LineText "Connect" to 741741 in the USALifeline Chathttps://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/International Suicide Resources: https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/https://www.nowmattersnow.org/skills
Recovery Today with Rob Hannley Rob was introduced to addiction well before taking his first drink. His father had issues with gambling, his sister was a heroin addict, and his brother also struggled with substance abuse. Rob says he experienced many of the consequences addicts do before finding sobriety, but that things never got very dark. As a successful businessman and entrepreneur, it became clear that alcohol no longer served him and he got sober in the spring of 1994. In 2012 Rob started a free online publication called Recovery Today Magazine. The magazine has featured the recovery stories of well-known celebrities such as Russell Brand, Darryl Strawberry, and Jamie Lee Curtis. Rob says he found a lot of purpose in working on the magazine and shedding light on stories that bring hope to those who need it. "When you can help somebody save their life it resonates really deeply." You can subscribe to Recovery Today by visiting RecoveryTodayMagazine.com Do you want to take your recovery to the next level? Sobriety Engine is an incredible online community where you can find a ton of great tips, tools, and support from other men and women in recovery. Visit SobrietyEngine.com to join today. If you're ready to get fit and start living a healthier lifestyle while supporting your sobriety then you can learn more about having Jonathan as your personal fitness and nutrition coach at RCVRHealth.com
Joshua Shea is a recovering pornography addict and the author of The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships, released in January 2018. His next book, He's a Porn Addict…Now What? will be released on December 1. Shea has appeared on over 75 podcasts, television and radio shows using his personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late, as it became in his case. Prior to admitting his addiction, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. As his 20-year addiction was reaching a critical level in late 2013, Joshua made the error of engaging a teenage girl in an online chatroom, for which he was arrested and served six months in jail. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine and has developed and presented a porn addiction lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since early 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-mind-creator/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/new-mind-creator/support
"I was addicted to porn at the age of 11, and it went on for 20+ years until my world came crashing down.' Recovered addict Joshua Shea opens up and shares his story with Aimee Cabo. The Cure Radio™ live talk radio show and live-streamed podcast is hosted by Aimee Cabo and offers a platform of hope to anyone who has experienced or is currently experiencing domestic violence, abuse, trauma, mental health, or other challenges that affect your life. It's a place to find comfort, knowledge, strategies, answers, hope, and love, and so much more, all while you are healing your wounds and knowing that you are loved and not alone. Join Aimee and her professional guests live on The Cure with Aimee Cabo Video Podcast every Saturday at 1 PM EST recorded during the live radio show. Please listen and subscribe to the show and then share the show with others. Enjoy weekly contests, knowledgeable guests, and a few laughs. It's then available after as an Audio Podcast available heard on most podcast platforms. You can find information about the show and past guests bios by visiting the RADIO SHOW PAGE. Aimee hopes that anyone who has suffered abuse of any kind, or walked a moment in similar shoes, will find inspiration in these pages, and hope that love and truth will ultimately prevail. Please subscribe and share this podcast. HOSTS: Aimee Cabo Nikolov is a Cuban American who has lived most of her life in Miami. After many years of healing, finding love, raising a family and evolving her relationship with God, Aimee's true grit and courage led her to pen an honest, thought-provoking memoir. Years of abuse became overshadowed with years of happiness and unconditional love. Now Aimee is the president of IMIC Research, a medical research company, a speaker, radio host and focused on helping others. You can read more about Aimee by visiting her website. Dr. Boris Nikolov is the CEO of Neuroscience Clinic. You can read more about Dr. Nikolov and the work he is doing by visiting his website. GUESTS: Joshua Shea is a recovering pornography addict and the author of The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018), and He’s a Porn Addict…Now What? Released in January. Shea has appeared on over 100 podcasts, television and radio shows using his personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it’s too late, as it became in his case.Prior to admitting his addiction, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. As his 20-year addiction was reaching a critical level in late 2013, Joshua made the error of engaging a teenage girl in an online chatroom, for which he was arrested and served six months in jail.In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine and has developed and presented a porn addiction lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since early 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children. You can read more about Joshua by visiting his website
The Dr. Kevin Show – Joshua SheaAired Thursday, January 16, 2020 at 3:00 PM PST / 6:00 PM ESTJoshua Shea is a recovering pornography addict and the author of The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships, released in January 2018. His latest book, He's a Porn Addict… Now What? was just released in December. Shea has appeared on over 100 podcasts, television and radio shows using his personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it's too late, as it became in his case.Prior to admitting his addiction, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. As his 20-year addiction was reaching a critical level in late 2013, Joshua made the error of engaging a teenage girl in an online chatroom, for which he was arrested and served six months in jail.In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com following several years of intensive therapy. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine and has developed and presented a porn addiction lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since early 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children.Connect with Joshua Shea at https://recoveringpornaddict.com/Visit the Dr. Kevin Show page at https://omtimes.com/iom/shows/dr-kevin-show/Connect with Dr. Kevin Ross Emery at http://www.mydrkevin.com/#JoshuaShea #DrKevinRossEmery #PornAddiction #TheDrKevinShow
On this episode I talk about today’s recovery run and how I’ve changed the slow run from last year to now. I go into how my evening routine helps Recovery.
Joshua Shea is a recovering pornography addict and the author of The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships, released in January 2018. His next book, He?s a Porn Addict?Now What? was just released. Shea has appeared on over 50 podcasts, television and radio shows using his personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it?s too late, as it became in his case. Prior to admitting his addiction, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. As his 20-year addiction was reaching a critical level in late 2013, Joshua made the error of engaging a teenage girl in an online chatroom, for which he was arrested and served six months in jail. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringPornAddict.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine and has developed and presented a porn addiction lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since early 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children
is a recovering ography addict and ography addiction expert. Prior to admitting his addiction, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder and politician in central Maine. As his 20-year addiction was reaching a critical level in late 2013, Joshua made the error of engaging a teenage girl in an online chatroom, for which he was arrested and served six months in jail. In 2017, Joshua launched RecoveringAddict.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine and has developed and presented a addiction lecture for churches, libraries and other groups. Sober since early 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children.
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Have you ever felt compelled to jump into a new relationship a little too quickly? Is it possible that you’re actually addicted to love and relationships? How would you know? This week, our guest is Sherry Gaba, best-selling author of The Marriage and Relationship Junkie and The Law of Sobriety: Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery. Sherry is a Psychotherapist, Life Coach, and Certified Recovery Coach specializing in individual, couples, family, and group psychotherapy - and she is also the editor of Recovery Today magazine. In this episode, you’ll learn what it means to be addicted to love and relationships and where it comes from. We’ll also dive into how you can tell if you’re addicted to love and relationships and what you can do to start on your path toward healthier relationships and connection. As always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. 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You can get 25% OFF your first order by visiting RxBar.com/alive and using the coupon code “ALIVE” at checkout. Valid in the US only. Resources: Visit the website for Sherry Gaba’s book, The Marriage and Relationship Junkie, to learn more about how to break the cycle of marriage and relationship addiction and live fabulously on your own or with a partner. Visit Sherry Gaba’s main website FREE Relationship Communication Secrets Guide - perfect help for handling conflict and shifting the codependent patterns in your relationship Guide to Understanding Your Needs (and Your Partner's Needs) in Your Relationship (ALSO FREE) www.neilsattin.com/gaba Visit to download the transcript, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the transcript to this episode with Sherry Gaba. Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out Transcript: Neil Sattin: Hello, and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive. This is your host, Neil Sattin. We're here to talk about relationships and yet what brings us into a relationship? Why are we there in the first place? So many of us enter relationships for awesome reasons, sometimes it's less than awesome reasons, and sometimes it's a combination of the two. You feel some magnetic spark with a person, but at the same time, maybe they support you in ways that aren't necessarily healthy for you, or you get trapped in some dynamic that doesn't really make for the best relationship possible. And then you might feel like, "Oh, okay, this relationship ended," and you're ready to go into another relationship, maybe even a little too quickly. And it wouldn't be that uncommon for you to wonder, "Is there something about this? Am I actually addicted to being in relationships? Am I addicted to love? Is there something... What is it that's compelling me to do this?" And I think it's interesting to tease apart what it is that might compel us in an unhealthy way, to enter into a relationship with others, and what's healthy about it? 'Cause when we're talking about addiction, there are positive addictions, as well as negative addictions. So how do you find the balance, and how do you figure out you where you land in terms of your approach to the relationship? Neil Sattin: So we're going to tackle this question about whether or not you might possibly be addicted to love and relationship, how to know and what to do about it. And in order to have that conversation, I have with me today, yet another esteemed guest, her name is Sherry Gaba, and she's a therapist who is also the author of "The Marriage and Relationship Junkie." A book that is available on Amazon, and talks all about this question of how do you find your own path to health in terms of how you relate to others? And of course, that's a conversation we're having all the time here on Relationship Alive because hey, I'm just... I recognize that just like you, there's work to be done. And so, we're going to dive deep into this question around addiction and obsession around love and see if we can come out the other side with some answers. As always, we will have a detailed transcript of today's episode and to download that, all you have to do is visit neilsattin.com/gaba, and you spell that, G-A-B-A, as in Sherry Gaba, our guest for today. Or you can always text the word, "passion" to the number 33444, follow the instructions and I will send you a link where you can download the transcript for this episode. Alright, I think that's all I have to cover today at this moment. Let's dive in. Sherry Gaba, so great to have you here with us on Relationship Alive. Sherry Gaba: What a fantastic introduction, thank you, Neil, that was amazing, and I love what you're doing in the world and loving just getting to know you, I love your energy and I'm just grateful to have this platform today to talk about this really important subject. Neil Sattin: Great, well we're off to a good start then. Sherry Gaba: Yeah. Neil Sattin: So it is a complicated question whether we're drawn into relating with another person for the right reasons or the wrong reasons. Maybe you can help us start to tease that apart, how do we know if the reason that we're seeking out someone else is something that ultimately is going to support our health and growth, and thriving in the world? Sherry Gaba: Well, let's look at addiction in general, if you look at the broader sense of addiction, and love addiction and relationship romance addiction is our subject today. If you look at the broader definition of addiction is when your life is out of control and it's becoming unmanageable and underneath that, you're making choices based on emptiness a feeling of lack, a feeling of not wanting to be alone, that would be a love addiction, feeling like the world is just a really scary place almost terror that, "If I'm not in a relationship, if I'm not connected or hooked up to somebody, then I'm going to "dies," literally. And so, love addiction is really under the umbrella of addiction. Sherry Gaba: It's a process addiction, it's a lifestyle addiction, so think about binge eating, or sex addiction, or being addicted to exercise or internet addiction or gaming, or shopping or spending, those are all lifestyle addictions. So, you're becoming addicted to a mood-altering activity, in other words, your brain really lights up when you're hooking up with whatever it is that you're needing to hook up with, whether it's the food or the love, or the sex or whatever your addiction is. So the relationship for a love addict is the only person's identity. And then if a breakup occurs, the addictive lover is longing for the attachment and the pleasurable feelings of that lost relationship. So just like the drug addict may be withdrawing from his or her drug needing that "fix," the love addict is needing that fix of attachment. Sherry Gaba: And underneath all of us, all of us as human beings we all want to attach, we all want to bond, we all want to connect. But when it becomes unhealthy, and we start making really bad choices around that, then we're stepping into love addiction. For instance, you step into a relationship 'cause you're afraid of being alone like I mentioned earlier, or you're afraid of the unknown, or you get into a relationship where you're trying to change them or fix them and not accepting them for who they are. Needing someone to make you feel whole, because like I mentioned earlier, you feel empty if you're not in a relationship. Looking for others for affirmation and self-worth and for validation rather than already having that within yourself. Being terrorized of abandonment, having those withdrawal symptoms that I mentioned earlier that if a relationship ends, you are in complete withdrawal. And then really giving up who we are out of the fear that we might lose someone or someone may not approve of us. So, if any of those things sound familiar, you may be dealing with love addiction. Neil Sattin: Yeah, and I'm reminded of when Helen Fisher was on the show, she has this viewpoint that in some respects, all love is addiction and that's why when we break up, we go through symptoms and pain that's very similar to what any addict would go through when they are in withdrawal from their partner. But I like the distinction that you're making around how... And this is I think, why love can be a positive or a negative addiction, because you could be addicted to love with someone who's really good for you, and where you actually really support each other and there's a lot that's beneficial going on, or you can be addicted to love with someone where you're just fueling the dopamine rush. Sherry Gaba: Yeah. Neil Sattin: And I think that is... Go ahead. Sherry Gaba: Well, if you're feeling the dopamine rush, it probably isn't you're addicted to a healthy relationship. Because yes, in the beginning, there's that fantasy, there's that attachment, there's that goo-goo ga-ga feeling. Sure, that can happen, but healthy relationships really move into a more mature growing state of being. I'm not saying you can't have that goo-goo ga-ga come up at times, but I think if you're constantly in that state, I think then it becomes more obsessive and then it becomes more unhealthy. I can't speak to all relationships, but I think healthier relationships change, they morph into other things, they morph into healthier love, they morph into other things like respect and nurturing, and it isn't just fueled by that, "Oh my god," goo-goo ga-ga feeling, you know what I'm saying? Neil Sattin: Yeah, if we look at the addiction cycle, and we had Alex Katehakis on the show to talk a little bit also about sex addiction. That what we're really doing, the reason we show up predictive behaviors, and you mentioned this a moment ago, is to help us with our own feelings of dysregulation and discomfort, we turn to the thing that gives us that pleasurable sensation for comfort. And I think you're right, all relationships are going to do that at first to some extent. And as I was preparing for our conversations today, it just occurred to me like, Oh, right, so if you're in a relationship, like most relationships where after a certain period of time, the dopamine energy starts to fade a little bit, and you haven't necessarily figured out how to build health into your relationship, and those healthy bonding behaviors foster lots of oxytocin which is another, a pair bonding hormone, then you're going to be missing the effects of the dopamine, not because there's something wrong with your partnership necessarily, but because you tune back into what's wrong with you, and those feelings of discomfort. And so then you have to chase the dopamine whether it's escalating the drama or ditching someone for someone new so that you can get that because you're not equipped at that moment to actually deal with your own dysregulation and discomfort. Sherry Gaba: Right. Well, you're addicted to the high, so to speak. You're addicted to the romance, you're addicted to the newness factor. I am a love addict, the best time for me is that first falling in love, that's the part where I'm just... That's where I'm most comfortable, that's my go-to. The problem with that is, you're picking from a place of need versus a place of healthful being. In other words, you're picking from a place of emptiness, you're picking a place of, "This person's going to fill up this need that I have, that I don't feel whole already, that I need somebody else to fill me up to feel good about myself." And hopefully, we can lead into a conversation about early trauma because that is a huge piece to this subject. Sherry Gaba: And often I'll share my own story because I think people underestimate what early trauma does and why that is a huge piece in the love addict behavior or the need for that high, that initial high. We're always chasing that early high, we often say with addicts, they're chasing that first high, that first crack experience or that first alcoholic experience, whatever, heroin experience. Well, the love addict is chasing that first high of falling in love, that's where everything... That is it, this is utopia, this is where it all is, and unfortunately, it isn't sustaining and when it does change, hopefully, it'll change into something healthy, but for the love addict, it generally does not turn into that something healthy. And usually, what they... The love addict picks people that aren't healthy for them. That's another piece to this, is that love addicts tend to be attracted to love avoidance, they're attracted to people that are unavailable, they might be attracted to people that are abusive and they don't care because they want that high no matter what, and they're picking what they know rather than what's good for them. Neil Sattin: Right. Right, so if you're in a relationship, what are some of the signs that you might see happening in your relationship if you've veered into addictive territory? Sherry Gaba: Well, I think if you're putting up with abuse, of course, you may be with a narcissist. I think we talked about this a little bit earlier, but over-adapting to what others want, losing yourself in the process, having no boundaries, always saying yes when really, “no” is not even in your vocabulary. This terror, this fear of letting go, fear of the unknown, so you stay because it's better than what might be out there. At least you know what you're getting here, even if it's unhealthy. You're always trying to fix and change your partner. That person is what makes you feel whole and complete, you're absolutely empty, you're in the ethers of emptiness without that person or in relationship, and then that person is all that you are in terms of, you're seeking their affirmation, their validation, their acknowledgment, all your self-worth is based on being with that person. You're petrified of abandonment. You might have some of those withdrawal symptoms when they're not around, you only are comfortable when they're in your space, but if they're off to work or off with other... Doing other things, you feel completely lost, and you give up who you are out of fear that they may not want you. You give up who you are, you lose parts of yourself to be with this person. Neil Sattin: Got it. So I'm feeling a pretty... I'm doing the diagnosis here on myself even and thinking about how even relationships in the past that have started out healthy, they can veer into this territory if you're not careful. Sherry Gaba: Sure. And then we're talking maybe more about a codependent relationship. And I hate throwing out words like codependent or even a love addiction word, because people... It becomes very cliche, because what you said earlier in the call, and I really picked up on that was that some of these things you have with your relationship but they're healthy. And in other words, you love that person, you respect that person, and sure, that person on some level maybe completes you on some level. But the question is if that relationship wasn't there would you be okay? Sure, you might be sad and you would grieve, and you would miss that person terribly, but would you be completely lost? I think of my own mother, my father passed away and they had a 60-year romance. And when my father died, and again, this is part of grief as well, but it was a little more pathological than that. My mother picked up the first man that looked at her. And he's a very bad man. She picked somebody that really is a predator per se, and he knew exactly what he was doing. And she's in a relationship with... In a very unhealthy relationship with someone that's completely taking advantage of her, because she is petrified of being without somebody. She just can't even function. And so that's when we're really getting into territory that's dangerous. Neil Sattin: Yeah. Sherry Gaba: Because you're actually being taken advantage of. And that's a whole other conversation, there is a whole world out there, there's... Just in LA alone, there are probably 10,000 predators out there picking women that just will believe anything that they hear, just so they can couple up and partner up and bond with somebody. Neil Sattin: Let's... Sherry Gaba: I use that example because you never know, you could have a listener right now, a call that's in a situation like that. Neil Sattin: Yeah, yeah, I'm glad that you brought it up. And yeah, what it makes me curious about, I picked up on the sense of not being okay if you were to be alone. And because I think that it's so important to have that sense of okay-ness, that brings with it so much freedom to really see your relationship clearly, to see your part in the relationship clearly. So if we were to take a listener on a step or two down the road, toward... Like, if they're looking at themselves right now and saying, "Wow, yeah, I'm not sure I would be okay if this fell apart." There may be some practical considerations to that, maybe their livelihood is dependent on their partner or something like that. But I think you're talking about, even more, the existential sense of like, "No, my life might fall apart if I weren't with this person or... " How does someone go about starting to restore that sense of inner safety, so that they can bring that to the relationship? Sherry Gaba: Well, maybe that... This is a good time to talk about early trauma because if we grew up in a situation where our parents were really unavailable, maybe they were addicts, alcoholics themselves, maybe there was a divorce, maybe were raised by a single parent and they were busy working and you felt invisible because your needs weren't being met, maybe you were in a situation where you were almost parenting your parent. Maybe you were abandoned by a parent. There's this panic that sets in. And then what happens is, you're looking for anything outside yourself to fill up that pain and that panic, and you'll cling to anything and anyone. You're craving for something else to make you feel whole. So the question is, if you're already in a relationship, what draws you to this person? Is it because this person adds to your life? You feel like it brings joy to the joy that you already are as a person? Did you already feel whole as a person? Were you ever successfully single and just loving life as a single person? Or your whole basis was, "I need to attach to someone because without attaching to someone, I am lost. I'm like that child that didn't have a parent that was available to me." Sherry Gaba: Do you feel like you're not enough without that relationship? Do you feel enough anyway? Yeah, do you feel good enough even without a relationship? Are you unconsciously attempting to satisfy that developmental hungry, so that hungry ghost that people talk about, Buddhists talk about, are you trying to satisfy that? Or does that person, again, add to your sense of being, and sense of self, or are they just completing what you are not? Sherry Gaba: And are you always looking outside yourself to fix yourself, your fear, your pain, your discomfort? Or do you have that safety within yourself to... That's a great word, are you able to self-regulate yourself? Are you able to be alone at any time? I don't know if that answers your question, Neil, I think it's so great that we're diving into the fact that if you're already in a relationship, do you have these things? And I don't want people to freak out and think, "Oh my God, I'm a love addict, and I'm in a relationship, I better get out because I gotta find myself." No, no, no, no, it's not about that. But I think there are ways to start creating... And see, do you have early trauma? Were you abandoned? And then if you were, how to start healing from that. For me, my trauma was so early, it's unbelievable, I was in an incubator for two and a half months. So I started out in the world unregulated. I started out not having that early bonding with my mother, she didn't hold me for two and a half months, and then even when I came home, she went to work right away, so she was unavailable. And I didn't get what I needed, and so I was always looking for something outside of me to fill me up. I was always looking for that "breast," so to speak. Sherry Gaba: That's kind of a metaphor, but it's... I was always looking for something else to completely... 'Cause I felt complete, I didn't get that mirroring, I didn't get that bonding, I didn't get that security, that safety. So those are some things to think about, what was your early childhood like? Did you go through any of the things that I mentioned earlier? And if you did, how do you work on those issues? For me, I got into therapy with someone that does what's called somatic experiencing, and now, I'm a practitioner of that, and it's getting back into your body and being able to be okay within yourself, instead of always running away from yourself. Always thinking something else can complete you when everything you have is right there within you. Neil Sattin: Great, and yes, we've had Peter Levine on the show actually, to talk about somatic experiencing. Sherry Gaba: Oh fast, you've had some amazing guest. Neil Sattin: Fortunately yeah, I'm so happy that he was willing to chat and I do believe that that, in particular, is such a powerful modality for healing early traumas. And what I love about it because it's based on your sensation, you don't necessarily have to know what it was. It goes by this theory that the trauma is just stored in there and so you're giving your body a chance to process things that are stuck, that it should have processed through whenever the trauma, and it could be a "big-T" trauma or "little-T" trauma, whenever that occurred. So there's nothing abnormal about you or anyone with having something that might be stuck within you that just needs to be healed. Sherry Gaba: I love that. I want people to know that there is nothing wrong with you. There might have been something that happened to you as you said, a big trauma, or little trauma, and let's discharge that energy that's been built up so that we can get unblocked so that we can bring in health and wholeness. So that you can feel complete just within yourself, so you don't have to seek outside yourself to feel good. The truth of the matter is just being on this call right now, is the first step because people are going to become aware like, "Oh, this is interesting, let's get curious about this." And then from there, make a decision to change, learning to stop looking for external solutions for problems that can be solved within. Sherry Gaba: Really explore their personal fears, and really get out of the denial, that's a huge piece with addiction. Addiction is the only disease that says, "I don't have a problem." So really, open yourself up to, "Yeah, there might be something here." And really examine those early suppressed traumas that might have occurred early on in life that we just talked about. Maybe go ahead and listen to your Peter Levine interview, so you can understand trauma a little bit better. Start self-parenting yourself. Really look... I sometimes suggest to people, "Find a photo of you when you were a child and stick that photo right next to your bed, and just start loving that inner child that maybe didn't get what they needed." Become really a loving, forgiving and compassionate person to yourself. Sherry Gaba: You didn't just wake up one day and go, "Oh, I want to be a love addict. I want to feel pain all the time. I want to feel like I have to be... " You have to completely or I feel like nothing. No, that isn't what you... You didn't cause anything, it's just from your experiences in your history, this is what happened, that energy never got completed, as you said. And just use the pain to grow and prepare for a healthy relationship or the relationship that you're already in, and just really begin to trust in yourself and to let go of what no longer is serving you and find a really great therapist, find a really great coach but somebody that really understands perhaps, trauma work. I don't know if coaches really do trauma work, some may, but you want to make sure they understand the trauma piece. Maybe, find a sex and love addicts anonymous meeting. There's so much support out there to begin working on these issues. Neil Sattin: Right. And in your book, "The Marriage and Relationship Junkie" you do offer some great tools for people who are looking to rebuild, and you don't have to be alone in order to go through them. So I'm glad that you qualified that earlier on, where you said, "If you're in a relationship, you don't have to panic and abandon just to find yourself." Sherry Gaba: Right. Neil Sattin: Yeah. Sherry Gaba: Exactly. And you know what you said too earlier, it's such a great feeling, and I think you said it, I think you used the word, extreme. I divorced my... I've had multiple marriages, multi-relationships, I divorced my ex-husband, he was an alcoholic and he couldn't get sober, and I really gave it my best. And I was lost when that relationship ended because it was a very codependent, obsessive relationship, but once I healed and I started doing things for myself, I joined a great 12-Step Program, I took up canoeing. I started really finding myself, I was able to then hopefully pick somebody else that was much better for me because I knew that no matter what, I could be on my own. And I have to be honest, I never felt that way before. I had never been able to really be alone successfully and be happy, and I truly was happy and single. And that brings me to another topic which would be as changing your verbiage around it, instead of saying to yourself, "Oh, I can't be alone. Oh my God, I can't be alone." It's like, "I can be single." Doesn't that sound a lot better? "I can be single" rather than, "I can't be alone"? Neil Sattin: Yeah, so much better and it just makes me think of how very few of us truly are alone, ever. I suppose that is true for some people but if you're listening to this podcast, you're here with me, at this moment. And odds are that there are other people in your life who care about you and who want to support you, and not see you in pain and not see you suffering. Sherry Gaba: Right, exactly. We all want to bond, we all want to connect. The opposite of addiction is connection, but the point of this call is really healthy connection. That's the point of your podcast, healthy relationships. And so that's... But it's not about stigmatizing you if you are in a codependent relationship. How great that you're on this call and now you can start changing things up a little bit and loosen up that codependent relationship, find other things in your life that help you feel good about yourself. And if you have that trauma, really start working on that trauma 'cause that's really where it all begins. I do some coaching, I'm a psychotherapist, but I can't tell you how many times I'll have a coaching client and they're just stuck. And that stuck-ness... They paid for every class, they listened to all of the podcasts, they bought all the books, but there's something inside of them that's stuck. And so to me, it really begins with moving that trauma out of your body, so that you can have a purposeful life and a meaningful relationship. Neil Sattin: Yeah. So a couple of things, first, let's just regroup, and I want to mention to you listening, I've mentioned a couple of other episodes, if you want to check out the Peter Levine episode, he's been on a couple times, but you definitely want to hear episode 29, which was the first one that he was on, to talk specifically about trauma and healing trauma. The other episode he was on, he was talking more about building resilience which is also important, but not as relevant to what we're talking about here. Also, the episode with Alex Katehakis, talking about addiction and what's involved in our neurobiology of addiction and how to heal that. That is episode 116. So I just wanted you to have those so you can listen to them later. And Sherry, I'm really curious because so many of the tools that you offer in "The Marriage and Relationship Junkie" are very practical, and I hear you as a strong voice of support for someone getting help, and I'm always talking about that here on the show. That there are some things where it's just easier if you're not trying to do it by yourself or trying to wing it, or reading a book and trying to put it into practice. That being said, I would love to offer our listeners something really powerful here that they could do or they could try on their own, that would give them a taste of the kind of healing that we're talking about, a taste of the personal empowerment and freedom that we're talking about. Neil Sattin: And so I'm wondering if just speaking those words, if there's anything that comes to mind for you that we could offer our listeners as a way to get started, to jump-start the process, whether they're single or in relationship or if you have a different idea for both, then that's good too 'cause there are plenty of single people who are also listening to the show. I hear from you, but all the time to learn so that when you're in your next relationship, you're prepared, and I so appreciate that. I wish I had had a show like this, honestly to listen to way back when... Sherry Gaba: Well, I think in the beginning, is just to see if you have this issue, is to maybe take my quiz, if you go to sherrygaba.com, I have a love addiction quiz. And that's just a first step in seeing if you are a love addict. I also have a quiz at sherrygaba.com on whether or not you're codependent. Because you can be codependent and not be a love addict. A codependent may be someone who's always trying to fix, control everything outside themselves, addicted to controlling people, places, and things. But a love addict is a little bit more specific, and that is that you are addicted to love, relationship, romance and feel empty if you're not in a relationship or with somebody. So that's a great place to start, is to take those quizzes, and see if it applies. I have some free ebooks that go along with those quizzes. My book is almost like a workbook, every chapter has questions for you to answer, to journal on. It's really... It's years and years of personal and professional experience in a book. Neil Sattin: Yeah, I found that it was really a great synthesis of lots of different modalities, and you talk about inner child work which you mentioned a few moments ago, you talk about healing trauma, you talk about taking proactive steps in your own life so that you're building your own strength and presence in the world. Sherry Gaba: And even talking about the law of attraction, on how to attract somebody in a healthy way. Because energetically, we attract what we are. I'm sure you've had conversations with people related to positive psychology or law of attraction, and the truth of the matter is energetically, we're going to attract exactly where we are in our life. When you're in a healthy place, you're going to attract healthy, when you're not, you're going to attract not healthy. Neil Sattin: Right. I would love it, and I'm putting you on the spot here, so I'm admitting, freely admitting that there's maybe a little bit of pressure here, but I'm curious, yeah, if I've listened to this conversation and thought, "Yep, that's me. Like I don't need to take the quiz, I know it's me, and oh my God, with what Sherry just said about attracting what is within, is what we attract without, now I'm really screwed." What can we do to help someone experience a shift even around that? How do you experience that shift in who you are, let's say... What's coming to me is like who you are energetically and what you want to be in the world, in such a way that you can feel what it's like to see the world with different glasses on? Sherry Gaba: That's a very broad question. I don't even know how to answer that because I think it's a process, I don't think there's an instant fix. Neil Sattin: Yeah, of course not. Sherry Gaba: I think the only thing I can say is the fact that they're on this call and they're hearing things that feel like that could be me when they're actually moving out of denial and that's the first step. I suppose, what I would say is, the first step is waking up to the truth. Waking up to the truth and "Oh my God, this... I realize that I am not complete unless I'm coupled up." And just knowing that is the first step. And then the next step is to... As you said, you can read a book that doesn't always do the magic. I'd love for people to pick up my book and dive deeper into even my story to see if they can relate and all the exercises. But hiring somebody like yourself who does relationship coaching or maybe working with someone like me who dives more into love addiction piece, I'm not sure exactly what you're asking. You definitely put me on the spot. Neil Sattin: Okay. Well, I feel like this will take form, this will take shape, so I'm not worried. Sherry Gaba: Yeah, one thing I could do with everybody right now, which might be a way to metaphorically move to the other side in the moment, is I can do some positive affirmations right now on the call. And then, we know that positive affirmations change the wiring within your brain, and if you keep doing it it's going to keep changing the wiring in your brain of how you see things from negative to positive. So I'm going to say some affirmations maybe Neil you can repeat after me and everybody listening, and this might answer your question of, what would that feel like if we were in the middle of that transition from emptiness to wholeness? Does that... What do you think? Okay. Okay. So repeat after me, I'm a lovable and valuable person. Neil Sattin: I am a lovable and valuable person. Sherry Gaba: I am deserving of a healthy partner. Neil Sattin: I am deserving of a healthy partner. Sherry Gaba: Who is capable of loving, respecting and honoring me as a person. Neil Sattin: A healthy partner who is capable of loving, honoring and respecting me as a person. Sherry Gaba: Withdrawal will not last forever. Neil Sattin: Withdrawal will not last forever. Sherry Gaba: My needs and wants are important. Neil Sattin: My needs and wants are important. Sherry Gaba: All my experiences contribute to my growth. Neil Sattin: All my experiences contribute to my growth. Sherry Gaba: I am learning to let go of dependencies on others. Neil Sattin: I'm learning to let go of dependencies on others. Sherry Gaba: And relying on myself for happiness. Neil Sattin: And relying on myself for happiness. Sherry Gaba: I walk away from toxic people. Neil Sattin: I walk away from toxic People. Sherry Gaba: I create my own truth in love. Neil Sattin: I create my own truth in love. Sherry Gaba: And that's that. And so maybe there is a little energetic shift that people might be experiencing right now. Again, I'm not about instant fixes but this is a beginning point, this is a starting point, and that's really all we have is a starting point and then we transit, we grow from there. Neil Sattin: Yeah, one thing that I really love about that exercise and the practice of positive affirmation, yes, there's the way that it reinforces a different neuro pathway within us and a different energetic pathway in terms of what we project into the world around us. Sherry Gaba: Yes. Neil Sattin: On top of that, I feel like I got to recognize, "Oh these are the places where there's a little bit of dissonance within me, like when I say it, I can't say it with 100% conviction. And so if that's true, that I'm not able to say it with 100% conviction, then to me that indicates a place where there's some work to be done. Sherry Gaba: Yeah, that's so true, because for the law of attraction to work or to attract what it is that you desire, you have to be congruent with what you're saying and believing and what you're actually doing on the outside. So, that's exactly true. There is a dissonance, if you're feeling any kind of like, "Oh, that's not completely true," then there's a really good chance that how you're acting in the world, how you're behaving in the world or being in the world is not a match to how you really feel. You need to work on that a little bit because the congruency is what allows you to attract either the healthy relationship that you desire or the one that you're in. Neil Sattin: Right. This reminds me a little bit of what might be the next step in this process. It's not the next step necessarily, but a lot of times with my clients, there can be this moment where you realize like, "Oh." For instance let's say, this wasn't true for me in this moment, but it has been true in the past, where I might say, "Oh, I'm worthy of being loved and I'm lovable." And I think I've even shared with my audience in a past episode, a time when that actually didn't really feel true for me. And so when that's not entirely true for you, the choices that you make are totally different than if you are to... If you recognize, "Oh, there was a little bit of a hitch when I said that statement out loud," or it could have been one of the other things that Sherry just offered you, then you can ask yourself, "Well, if I did think that I was lovable and worthy of love, how does that act? How would I act in the world from that perspective?" You get to try on that lens... Sherry Gaba: Yeah. Neil Sattin: Once you've identified where it's missing, You can be like, "Well, if I were that what would the world look like?" Sherry Gaba: And even more important is to make friends with that intuition that you know to be true. In other words, don't run away from what you know to be true, because then you're stepping into that denial lens again, is where, "Oh, I feel this, and I know it's not right but I don't care, I'm just going to close my eyes." And my whole mission in life is to keep people awake to their truth. So not to be afraid of the truth, the truth doesn't mean you have to break up with your partner this minute, it doesn't mean that you have to spend the rest of your life soul searching, it doesn't mean that you have to go get a divorce, it doesn't mean that you have to get off that dating app, it just means you need to just become aware and to stay in truth. And as long as you do that, the transformation is possible. Neil Sattin: Yeah, I take a really strong stand for the process that we go through as individuals and the effect that that can have on our partnerships. So lest do you think that if you're in a dysfunctional relationship, the whole point of this show isn't that it's perfect, the point is, it probably isn't perfect. And so you get to take steps that help you transform you and thus transform the whole dynamic. Sherry Gaba: Yeah, and not be afraid, let go of that fear, just welcome up the chance to transform. Welcome up that the exactly that life is messy and as long as you stay away and you're willing to grow... We're all growing, we're all changing, we're all making better choices, hopefully, learning from our mistakes but it's not about beating ourselves up, it's about having the great compassion of humanity that we are, that we're just humans doing the best that we can. That was one of the points of writing the book, "The marriage and Relationship Junkie" was that I really wanted to eradicate the stigma around someone like myself who's been married multiple times, who's had multiple relationships instead of walking around thinking "I'm a failure," or those that read my book think that they're a failure because they just couldn't get it right, is to just have an understanding of where that began and how can I change that the trajectory of the future? Sherry Gaba: So that I, maybe, do things in a different way and make different choices, 'cause life is filled with choices. And to own up to those choices, not to beat yourself up because of those choices, because there was a reason you made those choices. My choices were already paved for me when I was born two and a half months early, there was nothing I was going to be able to do about that. I had separation anxiety, I had abandonment issues, and that was going to be... Those feelings were going to be based on the decisions that I made in relationships. Neil Sattin: Right, and they were nobody's fault. Sherry Gaba: Nobody's fault. So we're not victims, we're just people that come from different histories, different experiences, and there's a reason why we are. I did one podcast with a woman who's been married six times, she had no idea, she started hysterically crying on the call. She was the host, because she goes, "Oh my God, you have labeled what I've always known, but didn't know what to call it, that's me." And it's like, "Okay, that's me? Okay great. So let's get curious about that." Doesn't mean we have to divorce our sixth husband, it just means, "Am I in a healthy relationship? Did I make a good choice and what can I do to heal all of that that brought me here today?" Neil Sattin: Right. They say the sixth time is a charm for a reason, right? Sherry Gaba: I think it's the third one. [chuckle] Neil Sattin: I'm just kidding. Sherry Gaba: Oh, okay. [laughter] My attitude is, do until you do it right, I don't think I ever... I won't say never, I'm not really interested at this point in my life, getting married again, but I certainly... I'm enjoying a healthy relationship, and I think that anything's possible. Anything's possible. Neil Sattin: Yeah, so one important thing that I'd like to chat about before we go, because I think one of the hesitations that people have around labeling and use that word a moment ago, labeling themselves as an addict, is the stigma that comes with it, the sense of, "Oh, this is inescapable, if I admit that I'm an addict then... " You hear the talk about a cliche like, "Once an addict, always an addict." And I'm curious for you, what's the truth in that versus that there is a true path for healing and... 'Cause I like that sense that the truth will set you free. If you're willing to look at your patterns, then that gives you a whole lot of power to make different kinds of choices for yourself and to heal the dysfunctional ways that you're looking for connection and regulation in your life and create positive ways of doing that. Sherry Gaba: Well, I think if you are a love addict per se, let's say, I'm not going to address substance abuse 'cause that might be a different... That goes a different way. That's a whole other topic, but if you feel that you might be a love addict, and you feel like you've had early trauma, I highly, highly recommend getting the support you need around that finding a really great somatic experiencing practitioner, reading up on Peter Levine's work, maybe even getting EMDR, that's another modality. I think that really healing that early trauma is important because, without that, I don't think you can make choices that are going to be in your best interest 'cause you haven't healed what is already inside of you that needs to be discharged in order to bring positivity back into your life. That work was the greatest work that I ever did in my life, join a sex and love addicts anonymous meeting, do that work, so you can bring healthy love into your life. I can't emphasize that enough because once I did that work, my whole life changed. Am I still a love addict? I guess is what you're asking, yes, I have to always be mindful for the rest of my life about love addict codependent behaviors. If I start getting obsessive, if I start just focusing on the person I'm with, start giving up my friendships, there's a... Sherry Gaba: I have to be continually vigilant at those things. And what I'm here to say is, once you do that work of trauma and self-regulation, you're less apt to become codependent again or making someone else your whole life, because you don't need to do that anymore because everything that you know and feel is within you, you feel whole already, so there's no need to be attached to just that one person, but I still have to be vigilant about it. Does that make sense? Neil Sattin: Absolutely, and the question, it's kind of a rhetorical question that comes up, is like, "Why wouldn't you want to be vigilant about those things?" I would want to know, first thing, if I'm starting to sacrifice my friendships and disappear into my relationship, I would want to know that, at any point in time, addict or not. Sherry Gaba: A few are an example of raw and real. You actually have a boyfriend and he's going to be going away for a couple of weeks, and that early piece of trauma comes up and goes. "This feels a little bit scary," like, "Oh, am I being abandoned?" And then I just... But because I've done the work, I can sit with that and I can be with it, and notice it and feel it and discharge it instead of becoming needy and obsessive and go into fear, "He's going to leave me," all of those things that I would have done in the past. Instead, I can just be the curious observer of the feelings and the thoughts and I can let it go. And that's a real example. Neil Sattin: Yeah. Sherry Gaba: That I'm still that baby that was born two and a half months early, but I have tools and ways to deal with those feelings that might come up rather than act out on them. Neil Sattin: Yeah, yeah, that's great, that's great. And I'm reminded too that it clicked into place for me actually, when you were describing that, which is that I think probably, part of that, the dopamine rush that we were talking about earlier and that pleasure, it actually is creating the illusion of safety. And I think it's been theorized, maybe John Gorman was even talking about this, that if we didn't feel that temporary love blindness at the beginning, we might never get into a relationship anyway. You almost need that to jump-start you into connection. But that being said, there are so much healthier ways of developing safety, and you were just talking about that inner safety and then there are also, of course, the healthy ways of developing safety in your relationship so that when your partner goes away for two weeks, there's true safety there. So you can counterbalance your inner safety with, "And we've created a container that actually I can rely on and I trust." Sherry Gaba: Exactly, a container within and maybe a container in the relationship. But certainly, that container within is vital, or you're going to do behaviors that... You're going to start doing all those obsessive behaviors, those needy behaviors that are not going to help the relationship. Neil Sattin: Right, they're crucial, crucial stuff. Well, Sherry Gaba, thank you so much for being here with us today, what a far-ranging conversation we've had. And of course, I feel like we could talk longer, but I want to respect your time. Your book, "The Marriage and Relationship Junkie" is a great read full of very practical stuff for you if you're thinking that this is something you identify with on some level and there's a path towards recovery in the book, so I highly recommend that. Sherry, you mentioned your website sherrygaba.com, and it's S-H-E-R-R-Y. I guess we should clarify that. We'll have links to all of this in the transcript for the show, which as a reminder, you can get if you visit neilsattin.com/gaba, G-A-B-A, or text the word "passion" to the number 33444 and follow the instructions. Sherry, I really appreciate your time today. Sherry Gaba: Oh my God, I love... This is probably one of the best interviews I've had. You truly know your subject, and you've obviously done a lot of homework and work on yourself and your relationship and I'm really grateful for your platform and for giving me this opportunity today, thank you so, so much. Neil Sattin: You are so welcome.
To welcome you back to the new season, we kick off with Jean's session on the Recovery Today series hosted by Psychotherapist and Recovery Coach Sherry Gaba. Jean will return next week with new eipsodes of The Bubble Hour! If you would like to be a guest or have topic suggestions, please visit us on Facebook and send a private message.
Repair and Recovery: Today’s podcast is about Repair and Recovery after a workout. Our guest on today’s show is Jeremy Shore. Jeremy is the Group Education Director of Matrix Fitness as well as a Reebok Master Trainer. He’s also been a certified strength & conditioning coach, performance enhancement specialist and corrective exercise specialist for many years. If you have questions regarding herbal nutrition or are looking for a natural solution to something that ales you, please give us a call at 512 853 9005 and we will try our best to answer your question. This show is sponsored by Dr. Vim's Herbal Nutrition. Dr. Vim's herbal formulas are designed for men and women to mental focus, physical energy, stress reduction and a healthy libido. They use only filler free high potency botanical extracts. ensuring that every batch delivers a full dose of the most powerful phytonutrients on the planet. Things you can do to help prevent injury before exercise: Stretch Stay hydrated Get protein and carbs into the body within 45 minutes of workout. Get the right Protein to Carb ratio. Some people like 20 grams of protein and 40 grams of Carbs, but this may take some dialing in. It's important to use high quality proteins without artificial ingredients. Pre workout tips: Make sure that you are hydrated. Try Vasodilators - Juiced beets or Crystallized Beet Powders promote Nitric Oxide which can help relax the heart, improve circulation and get oxygen to muscle tissues. Try Adaptogen Herbs- Herbs that are safe and non-toxic that help the body adapt to physical, emotional, or environmental stressors. They support hormonal balance, neurotransmitter balance, inflammatory response, sustained energy and stamina, as well as sports recovery. Herbs that support athletic performance: Adaptogen Herbs Ginseng Rhodiola Rosea Tongkat Ali Cordyceps Ashwagandha Moomiyo (Shilajiit) Sports Preparation: Nutrition- Eating a balanced and nutrient dense diet rich vitamin, minerals, and healthy fats, such as omega 3 fatty acids, in addition to carbohydrates and proteins help the body's performance, recovery, and inflammation response. It's important to make sure you get enough fresh vegetables and superfoods in order to get all of the micronutrients your body needs. Too much protein and not enough vegetables and plant nutrition will create a problem with your body's acid-alkalinity balance. Proteins and amino acids are the primary building blocks for muscle tissues. Omega 3's help to improve inflammation response and hormonal balance. The mineral magnesium keeps muscles from cramping. The minerals zinc and selenium help facilitate hormone production. Vitamin D3 supports hormonal balance and promotes immune function. Hydration - Most people are not drinking enough clean water, and many people are actually dehydrated before they begin their workout. Studies show that by simply drinking 16 oz. of water upon waking can boost metabolism by 25%. Movement Habitual stretching and myofascial release can improve range of motion and help prevent injury. Sleep- It's imperative to get adequate sleep for proper repair, remodeling, and recovery. Most physical repair happens between 10 pm - 2am in the morning. Most neurological repair occurs between 2 am - 6am. Avoid stimulates late in the day. Try to get into bed by 10 pm. Tips for burning fat Working out fast-twitch muscles help the body burn fat much better than working out slow-twitch endurance muscle fiber types. Example: Jeremy Shore's Sprint Eight Workout: The goal is to execute a 30 second. If you don't make it at first that is ok. Then, take 1 minute and 30 seconds to recover. The goal is to achieve 8 total reps consisting of a 30 second sprint followed by 1 minute and 30 second recovery. You can start out on a recumbent bike to keep it under control when getting started. Completing 8 reps of the Sprint 8 workout can boost HGH (Human Growth Hormone) 800%!!
"My recovery evolves all the time. It's important for me to give back what I have received."—Nicola on SRN @nicola-o-hanlon has been in recovery since January 23rd 2010. She is the Editor of the new online magazine ILoveRecovery.com Café, which is part of the InTheRooms.com blogging community. Her work has been published in several recovery magazines, including Recovery Today, In Recovery Magazine, AfterParty Magazine, Psychology Today and Reach Out Recovery to name but a few. She is an activist and passionate about social justice and human rights. Most recently she has had stories published in Hearts and Scars – 10 Human Stories of Addiction, and the Girl God series of books about Feminine Divinity. Born and raised in Wexford, Ireland she still lives there with her two children, Christopher and Jessica. She is also a Massage Therapist, Reflexologist and Sechiem Energy Healer. Already an expert on how not to live life she is a constant seeker of new and better ways of being. Nature is her Higher Power and she believes in magic, crystals and blames the phases of the moon for her multi-personalities. _____________ Cover: A Nymph in the Forest / Lenoir / public domain Intro/Outro Themes by @djfmdotcom
Recovery requires venturing deep inside ourselves to find and touch our soul. Only then can our sense of self shift from fear-based survival to life-giving relationship with a loving Higher Power. Mystics from all spiritual paths have described this journey as an intense descent into death as the false self breaks apart. The journey is completed as the true self—the spiritual soul, is revealed and life in profound fullness is born. Guest Fr. Bill W., celebrates 40 years of recovery and is Chair of Recovery Ministries for the Episcopal Diocese of Texas. He places emphasis on prayer, meditation, and Quiet Time. Fr. Bill is a recovery and family therapist and recently retired as the President and CEO of Austin Recovery. He writes a monthly column for Recovery Today, a publication of the Institute of Chemical Dependency Studies.