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Have you ever found yourself wondering, How can someone possibly believe that? Or maybe you've questioned your own beliefs after bumping up against someone else's certainty? You're not alone. In this episode, Tony Overbay, LMFT, dives into the complexities of perception, truth, and emotional maturity. He explores how individuals often encounter differing viewpoints—especially in today's social media-driven world—and how those experiences can lead to frustration, confusion, and even self-doubt. Using concepts like Umwelt and the importance of distinguishing between objective facts and subjective experiences, Tony offers insight into how each person's unique background and personal history shape the way they see and move through the world. Through personal stories and reflections, he emphasizes the power of curiosity, empathy, and openness in building real, meaningful connections. Tony also shares parts of his own professional and spiritual journey, including the impact of his faith crisis, and how discomfort can often become a catalyst for deep personal growth. He reflects on the therapist-client relationship, unpacking the balance between professional boundaries and genuine emotional connection. And as always, Tony encourages listeners to embrace curiosity, hold healthy boundaries, and continue showing up as their most authentic selves. 00:00 Introduction: The Frustration of Misunderstanding 02:11 Exploring the Concept of 'Truth' 03:08 Host Introduction and Social Media Presence 04:21 Personal Story: Spinal Surgery Experience 05:26 Diving into the Topic of 'Truth' and Perception 07:15 The German Concept of Umwelt 12:22 Faith Journeys and Personal Perceptions 14:41 Emotional Maturity and Sense of Self 27:53 Job Interviews and Authenticity 32:13 Case Study: Spiritual Expectations 35:42 Thriving Without Sleep 35:52 The Faith Crisis Hits 35:59 Understanding the Pendulum Swing 36:15 Unique Faith Journeys 37:06 Embracing Personal Growth 37:25 The Beauty of Diverse Faith Outcomes 37:48 Navigating Faith Deconstruction 38:42 The Reframe: Moving Forward 38:53 Faith in Yourself and God 39:06 Riding Without Training Wheels 39:31 Respecting Different Journeys 40:04 The Hero's Journey 40:21 Helping Others Through Faith Crisis 40:56 Developing a Strong Sense of Self 41:29 Working with Faith Leaders 42:03 Emotional Immaturity in Faith Communities 42:41 The Power of Parables 43:14 Unspoken Pressures in Religious Settings 43:44 The Hypothetical Couple: Jack and Jill 45:59 Humanistic Therapy Principles 47:46 Intermittent Reinforcement and Trauma Bonding 48:58 The Four Pillars of a Connected Conversation 50:57 Separating Observations from Judgments 56:25 The Therapist's Emotional Journey 58:06 The Paradox of Therapy 01:02:11 Navigating Discomfort in Relationships 01:04:20 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement
Have you ever found yourself wondering, How can someone possibly believe that? Or maybe you've questioned your own beliefs after bumping up against someone else's certainty? You're not alone. In this episode, Tony Overbay, LMFT, dives into the complexities of perception, truth, and emotional maturity. He explores how individuals often encounter differing viewpoints—especially in today's social media-driven world—and how those experiences can lead to frustration, confusion, and even self-doubt. Using concepts like Umwelt and the importance of distinguishing between objective facts and subjective experiences, Tony offers insight into how each person's unique background and personal history shape the way they see and move through the world. Through personal stories and reflections, he emphasizes the power of curiosity, empathy, and openness in building real, meaningful connections. Tony also shares parts of his own professional and spiritual journey, including the impact of his faith crisis, and how discomfort can often become a catalyst for deep personal growth. He reflects on the therapist-client relationship, unpacking the balance between professional boundaries and genuine emotional connection. And as always, Tony encourages listeners to embrace curiosity, hold healthy boundaries, and continue showing up as their most authentic selves. 00:00 Introduction: The Frustration of Misunderstanding 02:11 Exploring the Concept of 'Truth' 03:08 Host Introduction and Social Media Presence 04:21 Personal Story: Spinal Surgery Experience 05:26 Diving into the Topic of 'Truth' and Perception 07:15 The German Concept of Umwelt 12:22 Faith Journeys and Personal Perceptions 14:41 Emotional Maturity and Sense of Self 27:53 Job Interviews and Authenticity 32:13 Case Study: Spiritual Expectations 35:42 Thriving Without Sleep 35:52 The Faith Crisis Hits 35:59 Understanding the Pendulum Swing 36:15 Unique Faith Journeys 37:06 Embracing Personal Growth 37:25 The Beauty of Diverse Faith Outcomes 37:48 Navigating Faith Deconstruction 38:42 The Reframe: Moving Forward 38:53 Faith in Yourself and God 39:06 Riding Without Training Wheels 39:31 Respecting Different Journeys 40:04 The Hero's Journey 40:21 Helping Others Through Faith Crisis 40:56 Developing a Strong Sense of Self 41:29 Working with Faith Leaders 42:03 Emotional Immaturity in Faith Communities 42:41 The Power of Parables 43:14 Unspoken Pressures in Religious Settings 43:44 The Hypothetical Couple: Jack and Jill 45:59 Humanistic Therapy Principles 47:46 Intermittent Reinforcement and Trauma Bonding 48:58 The Four Pillars of a Connected Conversation 50:57 Separating Observations from Judgments 56:25 The Therapist's Emotional Journey 58:06 The Paradox of Therapy 01:02:11 Navigating Discomfort in Relationships 01:04:20 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement
This episode has been published and can be heard everywhere your podcast is available.Book a One on One coaching session HEREJoin FREE Masterclass to learn the methods to break free from Toxic RelationshipHEREUnchained -https://www.rawmotivations.com/unchainedWant to help support this podcast?https://anchor.fm/rawmotivations/supportListen to the wife's perspective on our new podcast Trauma, Drama & Life:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-drama-life/id1639753152Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist.That's me - Ben Taylor a a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.Please reach out to me if you are a: Victim of Narcissistic Abuse -Helping provide closure, reduce guilt and break free from the trauma bond that toxic people imprison you in. Narcissist -I understand you better than you probably understand yourself because I have been there, I am there and I am fighting daily for a better life. You can do that too.From Fantasy to Reality: A Journal for after the Toxic RelationshipGrab yoursHERE.Platforms I am on:TikTok (71k followers) - https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivationsInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivationsFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/Raw-Motivations-105074738842639/Linkedin -https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/YouTube -https://www.youtube.com/c/rawmotivations?sub_confirmation=1
In this Huberman Lab Essentials episode, I explain the biological mechanism behind motivation and drive, as well as discuss practical tools for overcoming procrastination. I discuss the key role dopamine plays in driving cravings and motivating action. I explain how dopamine regulates the balance between pleasure and pain, and what happens when this system becomes dysregulated, leading to addiction. I discuss the role of molecules like serotonin, which help enhance the enjoyment of the present, and explain how to balance the drive for more while staying focused in the present. I also discuss the causes of procrastination and describe strategies to boost dopamine levels through behavioral approaches or supplements. Huberman Lab Essentials are short episodes (approximately 30 minutes) focused on essential science and protocol takeaways from past Huberman Lab episodes. Essentials will be released every Thursday, and our full-length episodes will still be released every Monday. Read the full episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman Mateina: https://drinkmateina.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Huberman Lab Essentials; Motivation 00:01:57 Dopamine & Brain 00:04:08 Anticipation, Craving & Dopamine 00:05:37 Sponsor: AG1 00:06:46 Food, Drugs & Dopamine Release 00:10:18 Addiction, Pleasure & Pain Balance 00:14:12 Sponsors: Eight Sleep & Mateina 00:17:14 Dopamine, Pain, Yearning 00:19:08 “Here and Now” Molecules, Serotonin, Endocannabinoids, Tool: Mindfulness 00:22:42 Procrastination; Tool: Extend Dopamine, Offset Pain 00:26:15 Sponsor: LMNT 00:27:31 Dopamine & Motivation; Increasing Dopamine, Phenethylamine (PEA) 00:30:58 Dopamine Schedule, Subjectivity 00:33:59 Gambling, Intermittent Reinforcement, Tool: Blunting Rewards 00:38:51 Recap & Key Takeaway Disclaimer & Disclosures
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Dating Decoder with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting.Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind's complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 27 "The Anxious Pre-Occupied." In this insightful episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Hensley delves into the intricate world of the anxious preoccupied (AP) attachment style, which she refers to as the “least common” attachment style she encounters in her practice. While many clients initially come to her thinking that they are AP, Dr. Hensley explains that they often turn out to be fearful avoidant (FA), but think they are AP becuase thier anxiety is heightened due to a dismissive partner. She begins by distinguishing the anxious preoccupied from the fearful avoidant attachment, emphasizing how their formation and behaviors differ.Dr. Hensley provides a thorough explanation of the key factor behind the development of AP attachment: intermittent reinforcement. She describes how AP individuals often experienced inconsistent love and affection from one or both caregivers during childhood. This unpredictability created anxiety and a deep-seated fear of not knowing when they would receive the love they craved.How AP Behaviors Show Up in RelationshipsDr. Hensley explains that anxious preoccupied behaviors in adulthood often stem from early coping mechanisms, including a fawning response. As children, they learned to please their caregivers to gain more consistent love and affection, which translates into adult tendencies of people-pleasing. During conflict, AP individuals often sacrifice their boundaries to maintain harmony and emotional safety, leaving them feeling as though their own needs are never met.A central wound of the AP is the fear of abandonment. Dr. Hensley shares how this manifests as a need to keep peace at all costs, leading AP individuals to apologize even when they don't know what they're apologizing for. The toxic trait of codependency frequently appears in their relationships, with APs adopting the belief that “if you're not okay, I'm not okay.” This fear of abandonment drives them to prioritize their partner's emotional state over their own, further entrenching unhealthy dynamics.Interestingly, Dr. Hensley notes that APs may sometimes appear dismissive or detached during conflict. However, this is not disassociation but rather a strategy to remain emotionally “safe” by staying silent. Internally, their nervous system is overwhelmed by intense emotions, but they struggle to release or process them.Steps Toward HealingMidway through the episode, Dr. Hensley shifts focus to practical strategies for AP individuals to heal and regain balance in their relationships. She emphasizes two foundational tools:1. Setting and Maintaining BoundariesAP individuals must learn to set clear, firm boundaries and resist the urge to self-abandon to please others.2. Improving CommunicationDr. Hensley highlights the importance of speaking up and addressing dissatisfaction directly instead of resorting to passive-aggressive behaviors, which stem from their fear of abandonment.By recognizing these patterns and intentionally shifting their behaviors, APs can move away from toxic submissiveness and toward healthier relational dynamics.Why AP Is the Least Seen Attachment StyleAs the episode nears its conclusion, Dr. Hensley shares why the anxious preoccupied is the least common attachment style in her practice. She attributes this to the AP's deep-seated pride and belief that they can “fix” themselves and their relationships without outside help. AP individuals often tie their self-worth to the success of their relationships, perpetuating a cycle of self-reliance and resistance to professional support.Listener Q&A: Can Attachment Styles Shift?Dr. Hensley wraps up by answering a common question about attachment: Can someone shift from being AP to FA or DA? She clarifies that while all attachment styles share overlapping traits, it's rare for a person to completely shift styles, except when progressing toward secure attachment. The core wounds of attachment are formed in childhood and cannot be undone, but healing is always possible.This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with AP tendencies or seeking to understand the nuances of attachment in relationships. Dr. Hensley's compassionate approach and actionable advice make this an empowering resource for personal growth.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley's services please visit the links below and follow her on social media.Dr. Hensley's Hybrid Group Coaching: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/group-coaching/Book one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/book-appointment/Purchase Dr. Hensley's online course: https://dating-decoder.mykajabi.com/offers/PpEPKnsM/checkoutTik-Tok: the_dating_decoderInstagram: @the_dating_decoderFacebook: The Dating DecoderYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyWhat is covered:·The behaviors of the Anxious Pre-Occupied. .Intermittent Reinforcement as a key factor in the formulation of Anxious Pre-Occupied attachment style.· How AP's show up in relationships.·Steps towards healing Anxious Pre-Occupied Attachment. .Why the Anxious Pre-Occupied is the least seen attachment style in Dr. Hensley's practice. Consider/Ask Yourself:·Do you think that you are Anxious Pre-Occupied when you may actually be Fearful Avoidant?·Did you grow up with a fairly good childhood but feel like you got inconsistent love and affection from one or both of your caregivers?.Are you self abadoning inside of your relationship?·How can you start setting healthy boundries within your relationship and how can you start to stick to them?.How can I learn to express my needs and wants within my relationship in a healthy and compassionate way?.Do I need to seek help and intervention for my AP attachment style?
Have you ever found yourself trapped in a toxic relationship, unable to break free despite knowing it's unhealthy? You're not alone. In this gripping episode, Tony Overbay, LMFT, unravels the psychological maze of destructive love. Journey with Tony as he introduces the concept of the "false self" - the masks we wear to fit in. But what happens when someone never develops their own mask, instead shape-shifting to meet others' expectations? Through the captivating story of Farrah and Gil, Tony illuminates why smart, capable people get stuck in cycles of toxic love. Dive deep into the world of emotional immaturity, narcissistic personality disorder, and the powerful grip of intermittent reinforcement and trauma bonds. Uncover the mysteries of whole object relations, object constancy, and identity diffusion - concepts that explain baffling relationship behaviors. Whether you're trying to understand your own relationship patterns or supporting a loved one, this episode is a must-listen. Tony offers profound insights and practical tools to break free from the clutches of toxic love and pave the way for healthier connections. Prepare to be enlightened, challenged, and empowered. Your journey to relationship wisdom starts here! 00:00 Introduction: A True Story of Heartbreak 00:16 Farrah's Emotional Turmoil 00:33 Gil's New Relationship and Farrah's Struggle 01:18 The Urge to Reach Out 01:52 Seeking Closure and Self-Blame 02:24 A Desperate Call to Gil 03:03 Understanding Toxic Relationships 04:43 The Concept of the False Self 12:03 Emotional Immaturity and Its Impact 19:28 Narcissistic Personality Disorder vs. Emotional Immaturity 29:11 Intermittent Reinforcement: The Psychology Behind Toxic Bonds 30:03 The Obsession of Random Rewards 30:40 Intermittent Reinforcement in Abusive Relationships 31:08 The Power of Intermittent Reinforcement 32:50 Recognizing Trauma Bonds 35:34 Emotional Whiplash and Inconsistent Affection 40:26 Identity Diffusion and Emotional Immaturity 50:23 Whole Object Relations and Object Constancy 53:04 Wrapping Up: Understanding Emotional Immaturity If you are interested in joining Tony's private Facebook group for women in narcissistic or emotionally immature relationships of any type, please reach out to him at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, HTTP://www.tonyoverbay.com If you are a man interested in joining Tony's "Emotional Architects" group to learn how to better navigate your relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally immature partner or learn how to become more emotionally mature yourself, please reach out to Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, HTTP:www.tonyoverbay.com
On this episode, I explore the intricate dynamics of intermittent reinforcement in relationships, uncovering its profound influence on emotional well-being and connection. From dissecting its psychological underpinnings to offering practical strategies for navigating its effects, we journey through real-life examples to illuminate the complexities of human behavior. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Intermittent Reinforcement #Relationships
Dr. Stephanie Sarkis is a psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience specializing in ADHD, anxiety, & narcissistic abuse. She is a bestselling author and an American Mental Health Counselors Association Diplomate and Clinical Mental Health Specialist in Child and Adolescent Counseling – one of only 20 in the U.S. She is a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family and Circuit Civil Mediator. Dr. Sarkis is also a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and a National Certified Counselor. She is a senior contributor to Forbes, and is also a contributor to Psychology Today. Dr. Sarkis has a PhD, EdS, and MEd in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Florida. She maintains a private practice in Tampa, Florida, where she provides telehealth sessions and facilitates collaborative divorce. Dr. Sarkis received an Outstanding Dissertation Award from the American Psychological Association for her research on comorbid ADHD and the executive functions of the brain in a pediatric population. In this episode, Dr. Sarkis and I discuss what can make up toxic relationships, including topics like emotional abuse, gaslighting, and trauma bonding. We take a look at additional topics including the cycle of idealization, devaluing, and discard; love bombing, recognizing red flags, insecure attachment styles, the sunk cost fallacy, and challenges in leaving toxic relationships. We also addresses what it can look like to move on, seeking support through counseling, self-care, volunteering, therapy for family of origin issues, codependency, cultural differences, caretaking for abusive parents, and the importance of processing emotions, concluding with a message of hope for those who have experienced toxic relationships. Takeaways The cycle of idealization, devaluing, and discard is common in toxic relationships. Love bombing and grand gestures can be signs of manipulation and control. Individuals with insecure attachment styles may be more vulnerable to toxic relationships. Leaving toxic relationships can be challenging due to the sunk cost fallacy. Seek support services, such as counseling, after ending a toxic relationship. Practice self-care and prioritize your health and well-being. Consider volunteering as a means of healing and reconnecting with the community. Therapy can be instrumental in healing and addressing family of origin issues. Understand the concept of codependency and its cultural implications. Allow yourself to feel and process emotions as part of the healing process. Remember that there is hope for healing and building healthy relationships. Chapters 02:58 Dr. Sarkis' Background and Specialization in Toxic Relationships 04:13 Emotional Abuse and Trauma Bonding 05:21 Cycle of Idealization, Devaluing, and Discard 06:27 Love Bombing and Grand Gestures 07:14 Gaslighting and Manipulation 08:06 Financial and Economic Abuse 09:14 Trauma Bonding and Dopamine Boosts 10:07 Honeymoon Phase and Love Bombing 11:01 Discard Phase and Hoovering 12:16 Lack of Personal Accountability 13:48 No Contact or Low Contact 14:47 Differentiating Love Bombing from Romantic Gestures 15:12 Red Flags in Relationships 22:52 Treating Wait Staff and Family 23:43 Splitting and Comparisons 25:05 Intermittent Reinforcement and Healthy Relationships 27:02 Isolation and Threats 31:17 Insecure Attachment Styles and Leaving Toxic Relationships 32:06 Sunk Cost Fallacy 32:11 Moving on from a Toxic Relationship 33:37 Practical Steps After Ending a Toxic Relationship 36:37 Volunteering as a Means of Healing 37:43 The Role of Therapy in Healing 38:21 Taking a Break from Dating 40:24 The Importance of Self-Care and Sleep 41:16 Reconnecting with Healthy Relationships 42:33 Understanding Codependency 44:12 Considering the Perpetrator's Behavior 46:00 The Influence of Culture on Codependency 50:20 The Dilemma of Caretaking for Abusive Parents 52:06 The Importance of Feeling and Processing Emotions 53:30 Words of Wisdom: There is Hope
LET'S DISCUSS ARIONNE FEELING THE NEED TO BLOG EVERYTHING HER AND MARTELL DO...AND MORE!
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In this episode, I describe science-based protocols to set and achieve your goals in a way that maximizes the likelihood of reaching them. I explain how to define a priority and reach a specific goal by systematically assessing the challenge level, measurability, milestones, and action states needed to make progress from start to finish. I also explain research-supported tools to improve your performance during cognitive or physical goal work — including directed visualization, variable reward timing, and optimizing your physical environment. I also dispel common myths about goal setting and achievement. This episode provides a science-supported toolkit of zero-cost strategies for goal-setting, goal-pursuit, and goal-completion that can be applied to any physical or cognitive endeavor. For the full show notes, including articles, books, and other resources, visit hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman Maui Nui Venison: https://mauinuivenison.com/huberman InsideTracker: https://insidetracker.com/huberman Supplements from Momentous https://www.livemomentous.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Goal Setting Toolkit (00:02:09) Sponsors: Eight Sleep & Maui Nui (00:04:43) Biology of Goal Setting & Pursuit (00:08:50) Tool 1: Choose a Priority Goal (00:12:04) Tool 2: Pursue Lofty Goals (00:17:23) Tool 3: Define Verb Actions, Measurability & Specificity; Writing vs. Typing (00:24:06) Tool 4: Visual Reminder Myth; “Post-It Fallacy” (00:26:44) Tool 5: Accountability Myth, “Don't Tell the World” Rule (00:31:35) Intrinsic Motivation & Goal Achievement (00:32:58) Sponsor: AG1 (00:33:54) Tool 6: Measurable Goal; Quarterly Cycle (00:37:35) Tool 7: Quantifiable Goals; Book Writing (00:43:34) Tool 8: Visualization of End; Motivation & Negative Thinking (00:50:38) Sponsor: InsideTracker (00:51:44) Tool 9: Visual Target/Finish Line Training & Perceived Effort (01:05:50) Tool 10: Distance from Phone (01:08:31) Tool 11: Random, Intermittent Reinforcement; Cognitive Rewards (01:17:11) Tool 12: “Middle Problem”; Time Chunking (01:23:16) Tool 13: Circadian Rhythm & Attention (01:30:09) Tool 14: Protocol Flexibility, Subjective Feelings (01:32:13) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube Feedback, Spotify & Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Momentous, Neural Network Newsletter, Social Media Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac Disclaimer
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In today's episode, Tony delves deep into the hidden mechanisms that fuel toxic relationships. He uncovers the secret life of intermittent reinforcement, how it creates the “trauma bond,” and its powerful influence in addictive and toxic relationships, especially those involving narcissists or emotionally immature individuals. Pulling from the roots of B.F. Skinner's theories on operant conditioning and behaviorism, we'll journey through the ways in which behavior can be conditioned, manipulated, and maintained by external consequences. Get ready for a RIDE - a closer look at how "Reinforcement Intermittently Delivers Emotion," shaping relationships into addictive cycles that mimic the obsession of a rat repeatedly pressing a lever in the hope of an unpredictable reward. The scenario paints a vivid picture of the emotional roller coaster many endure at the hands of narcissists or emotionally immature individuals. Just as the rat persists despite the neglect of its needs, the partner in an abusive relationship finds themselves consumed with drawing out the abuser's fleeting affection. The relationship turns into an addiction, hard to break free from, mirroring patterns seen in other addictive behaviors like gambling or obsessive email checking. Unraveling the layers of intermittent reinforcement is key to breaking the cycle, and recognizing the behavior is the first step. This episode is a deep dive into understanding and recognizing the signs of this manipulation tactic, the addiction-like bond it forms, and the consequent self-blame. We also discuss how to navigate the withdrawal-like experience of breaking free, realign with personal values, and seek support. Remember, the strength of your enemy is the strength of your knowledge. Tony references the article "Intermittent Reinforcement" from https://feelingishealing.co.uk/intermittent-reinforcement/ And Tony mentioned the powerful interview with Duff and Keirra Dyer about the passing of their daughter Emma in this episode on The Virtual Couch https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-virtual-couch/id1275153998?i=1000617024331 Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0 Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384 Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ
Hold up, wait a minute! [Insert Salt 'n Pepa rap] DO YOU KNOW ABOUT INTERMITTENT REINFORCEMENT??? It basically explains why we get stuck in relationships with people who treat us like human ball sacks! You guys. It's science. It's real. Lab rats were involved. And we HAVE to address it if we want to find relationships (romantic, platonic, professional—you name it) that actually meet our needs and make us happy. (Pro tip: Are you anxiously attached? Yes? Then you're even MORE likely to stay in relationships that involve intermittent reinforcement.) In this episode, I welcome licensed therapist and yoga teacher turned coach Sarah Snyder to talk to us about healing this deeply ingrained, super painful pattern. The information provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or you can call 988 to connect with the national Suicide & Crisis Hotline. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepatraumaparty/support
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Intermittent Reinforcement in Narcissistic Abuse: What It is and Why It's So Destructive - If you're in a toxic relationship with a malignant narcissist, you probably feel like you're on an emotional roller coaster. Do ever feel like you can't control your emotions, or are you worried because your feelings have been all over the place for years? You might be dealing with intermittent reinforcement as a form of manipulation from the narcissist in your life. What is intermittent reinforcement? Intermittent reinforcement is a pattern of callous treatment mixed in with random bursts of affection. This behavior may lead you to believe the narcissist loves you, but in reality, it's just another way they manipulate you. In other words, the narcissist (whether they're a grandiose or a covert narcissist) gives you the illusion of being loved and cared for by behaving in a loving way between intermittent bursts of abuse. Worse, intermittent reinforcement can leave you confused and disoriented since it's unclear why the narcissist has "rewarded" you. This devastates your self-esteem as you realize that can never do or say enough to please the narcissist. It's part of the cycle of trauma bonding and why we get so stuck in toxic relationships. If someone in your life has NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) or at least recognizable traits, you might be used as narcissistic supply. The narcissist might be generous with gifts, compliments, or praise to get their victims to trust and depend upon them. Unpredictable and random acts of affection are followed by cruel behavior, but the cycle continues as though nothing has happened. In this episode, Angie Atkinson will explain how to recognize signs of intermittent reinforcement in a toxic relationship with a narcissist and what you can do to deal with it. Our team can be reached at queenbeeingteam@gmail.com, and they can be very helpful as they can more quickly respond to your requests. Discover. Understand. Overcome. It's how smart people change their lives! Subscribe to my channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/AuthorAngelaAtkinson?sub_confirmation=1 **NEW!! Get my supportive, helpful, and intuitive narcissistic ab*se recovery app! Visit https://queenbeeing.com/myapp for more information and to sign up! ***Become a member of my channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBnyC5I55W__RBj1PMybF5g/join **Never miss a live session! Just text "AngieLive" (no spaces) to 33222 and I'll send you a text each time I get ready to go live! Schedule a coaching appointment with me at https://queenbeeing.com/coaching or http://narcissisticabuserecovery.online Start your healing at https://queenbeeing.com. Take your life to the next level at https://shine.buzz Get my books at http://booksangiewrote.com, pick up your free 7-day fear-busting email course (specially designed for narcissistic relationship survivors) at http://narcissismsupportcoach.com. Join SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissism in toxic relationships) - AKA "The SPANily" - at http://queenbeeing.com/group-support. Let's Also Connect On: Facebook at https://facebook.com/coachangieatkinson. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachangieatkinson/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachangieatkinson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/angyatkinson/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/angieatkinsonSubscribe to Narcissistic Abuse Recovery with Angie Atkinson on Soundwise
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Why can't I leave? What is this crazy ride I am on? One minute I want out so badly, but the next I am fighting to stay. Do I want to stay? Do I want to go? Why can't I make up my mind? What is wrong with me? There is nothing wrong with you! You have been a victim of an incredibly powerful manipulation tool called intermittent reinforcement. I am going to describe that tool today and tell you why it has such a strong effect on you and so many other victims. Intermittent reinforcement is the delivery of rewards at irregular intervals. It is a game of sometimes I validate you and sometimes I don't. Sometimes I reward your positive behavior and sometimes I don't. You, the subject, do not receive a reward each time that you perform a desired behavior. The inconsistent rewards cause us to work harder to get the reward. We pursue it with much more enthusiasm, paying extremely close attention to signs of progress. When it finally comes, the hard earned reward releases huge feelings of relief and success inside of us. And once achieved, the process begins all over again. I'm Renee Swanson, your host of the CN podcast. Thank you so much for joining me today. If you are in need of some guidance through this nightmare, please reach out to me! I offer both group and individual coaching. You can learn more at my website www.covertnarcissism.com. You can email me at renee@cnglifecoaching.com. I look forward to hearing from you. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/covertnarcissism/support
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SHOW NOTES: In Today's Episode of the Greatest Shit Show on Earth: Social media is the most fabulous manipulator of the last several generations, if not of all time. We do nothing to protect ourselves from what algorithms gather about each of us individually, let alone what they collect from us as a nation in the interest of international personal interest. As Americans, we have the mindset, "Who gives a shat what they know about me? I could care less what anyone eventually finds out about the most intimate aspects of who I am." That's fair, but what if learning more about "you" was never the point? What if the entire point of social media algorithms was to gather national intelligence on social patterns of the whole western culture? Be serious; how important do you think you are? Are you a sick and mentally ill narcissist? We are so grossly blind to our self-importance we never considered there might be a larger conspiracy at play. Yes, it may be that every time we log into Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or TikTok, we might provide our enemy with deep AI data into the patterns that define us, our daily life mindset, and the fundamental mechanics of how we exist; but it blows right over our heads. That is the real threat social media has on us with its mining data. Not what it learns about you or me, but the intel it gathers from all of us. We never consider it has little to do with who we are individually but rather what we provide enemy nations as a culture. SHOW STRUCTURE: Act I - Introductions and Pleasantries - Act II: Intermittent Reinforcement Act III - The Wrap Up
Brandon talks with Sabrina Victoria (Narcissistic Abuse Coach) about the shame of being in an abusive relationship & why intermittent reinforcement, criticizing, and accusations work so well as manipulation tactics. You can visit Sabrina's website my visiting https://www.herversion.life/ To hear Sabrina's survivor story as Valentina, click here. Thank you to our sponsor "Operator". Follow “Operator” on Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or you can listen early and ad-free by subscribing to Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts or the Wondery App. Thank you to our sponsor HELLOFRESH. Go to HelloFresh.com/nap14 and use code nap14 for up to 14 free meals AND 3 free gifts! Enjoy America's #1 Meal Kit today! Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. Thank you to our sponsor Tru Niagen. Tru Niagen is a supplement that's clinically proven to boost N-A-D levels, an essential coenzyme required for cellular energy and repair. Add more vitality to your life today, with Tru Niagen. Right now, new customers can save 10% on their first purchase by going to https://TruNiagen.com/nap and use code nap. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Join our Tiktok at https://www.tiktok.com/@narcissistapocalypse If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Brandon talks with Sabrina Victoria (Narcissistic Abuse Coach) about the shame of being in an abusive relationship & why intermittent reinforcement, criticizing, and accusations work so well as manipulation tactics. You can visit Sabrina's website my visiting https://www.herversion.life/ To hear Sabrina's survivor story as Valentina, click here.
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Huberman Lab Podcast Notes Key Takeaways Dopamine is involved in wanting – not having – the excitement or anticipation about something increases dopamine firing 30-40xDopamine motivates you to take action toward the thing you wantNovelty is the number one trigger of dopamine releaseA subtle feature about the dopamine system: for every bit of dopamine that’s released, there’s a crash associated when prolactin is releasedProlactin is behind the feeling of “what’s next” or letdown after a big goalDopamine make us focus on things outside of us that we have to chase; serotonin makes us content with the here and nowTo maintain high levels of motivation, try intermittent reward: celebrate successes every other time, every tenth time, etc. to blunt dopamine response, prevent a crash, and keep you on the path to bigger goalsRead the full notes @ podcastnotes.orgThis episode explains the science of motivation and drive. I describe how dopamine-- a chemical we all make in our brain, underlies our desire for and pursuit of our goals, as well as our capacity to move and experience pleasure. I describe how we can leverage specific behaviors, reward schedules and dopamine-prolactin balance to help ensure we can maintain motivation and capacity for pleasure over the long term. I also discuss dopamine in the context of ADHD, craving and addiction, and some absolutely amazing results about specificity of drug effects based purely on belief. Thank you to our sponsors: Athletic Greens - https://athleticgreens.com/huberman Headspace - http://headspace.com/specialoffer Magic Spoon - http://magicspoon.com/huberman Our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/andrewhuberman Supplements from Thorne: http://www.thorne.com/u/huberman Link to study: Effects of expectation on specificity of stimulant effects: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33734725/ Timestamps below. 00:00:00 Introduction 00:04:22 Announcement: Spanish Subtitles 00:05:06 Emotions, Addiction & Mindset 00:06:22 Motivation & Movement: The Dopamine Connection 00:07:29 A Double-Edged Dopamine Blade 00:08:56 Dopamine Fundamentals: Precursor to Adrenalin 00:10:15 The Reward Pathway: An Accelerator & A Brake 00:12:10 Motivation= Pleasure Plus Pain 00:14:14 The Dopamine Staircase: Food, Sex, Nicotine, Cocaine, Amphetamine 00:16:15 Subjective Control of Dopamine Release 00:17:40 Social Media and Video Games 00:18:15 Addiction & Dopamine: Progressively Diminishing Returns 00:18:48 Novelty, Sensation-Seeking & Anticipation 00:20:15 Craving: Part Pain, Part Pleasure & Pain Always Prevails 00:23:11 Desire Scales With Pain: The Yearning Function 00:24:43 The Croissant Craving Circuit 00:25:45 “Here and Now” Molecules: Serotonin, Bliss & Raphe Nucleus 00:26:26 In Your Skin Or Out In the World 00:27:25 Cannabinoids Lethargy & Forgetfulness 00:28:15 The Almond Meditation 00:29:30 Drugs That Shift Exteroception Versus Interoception 00:30:36 Emotional Balance, Active & Passive Manipulation 00:32:36 Procrastination: Leveraging Stress, Breathing, Caffeine, L-Tyrosine, Prescription Drugs 00:37:04 When Enough Is Never Enough; How Dopamine Undermines Itself 00:38:58 Dopamine-Prolactin Dynamics: Sex, Reproduction & Refractory Periods 00:40:30 The Coolidge Effect: Novelty-Induced Suppression of Prolactin 00:42:22 Vitamin B6, Zinc As Mild Prolactin Inhibitors 00:43:25 Schizophrenia, Dopamine Hyperactivity and Side Effects of Anti-Dopaminergic Drugs 00:45:08 Prolactin, Post-Satisfaction “Lows” & Extending the Arc of Dopamine 00:48:00 The Chemistry of “I Won, But Now What?” 00:49:00 Healthy Emotional Development: Child and Parent 00:50:03 Never Say “Maybe” (Reward Prediction Error) 00:52:02 Surprise! 00:52:59 Are You Suppressing Your Drive and Motivation By Working Too Late? 00:54:50 Disambiguating Pleasure and Drive: Dopamine Makes Us Anti-Lazy 00:58:00 Beta-Phenylethylamine (PEA), & Acetyl L-Carnitine 01:00:00 Attention Deficit Disorders, Cal Newport Books, Impulsivity & Obesity 01:03:55 Leveraging Dopamine Schedules 01:05:22 Subjective Control of Dopamine and Drug Effects: The “Adderall” Experiment 01:09:03 Caffeine May Protect Dopamine Neurons, Methamphetamine Kills Them 01:10:57 Nicotine: Dopamine, Possible Neuroprotection, Prolactin Increase 01:11:53 Gambling, Intermittent Reinforcement, & Persistent Goal Seeking (Bad and Good) 01:14:14 Intermittent Halting of Celebration; Enjoy Your Wins, But Not All of Them 01:18:38 A Story Example of Intermittent Reward to Maintain Long-Term Drive and Motivation 01:21:25 Corrections & Notes About Spanish Captions & Other Languages Soon 01:24:00 Synthesis & Framework, Zero-Cost Support & A Note About Sponsors Please note that The Huberman Lab Podcast is distinct from Dr. Huberman's teaching and research roles at Stanford University School of Medicine. The information provided in this show is not medical advice, nor should it be taken or applied as a replacement for medical advice. The Huberman Lab Podcast, its employees, guests and affiliates assume no liability for the application of the information discussed. [Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac https://www.blabacphoto.com/]
Welcome to Sex, Love and Addiction 101! Your host, Rob Weiss, is a licensed therapist, sexologist and author of numerous books on sex, relationships and addiction. This podcast is a way to discuss these topics in frank and informative ways. Rob will talk with everyone from experts from around the world to regular people just looking to make their relationships better. In today’s episode, Rob breaks down what sex addiction is, and isn’t. He also discusses the recovery of sex and love addiction, and resources on ways to further expand your education on the topic. TAKEAWAYS [1:17] Sex addiction is a repetitive pattern of using sexual fantasy and behavior as a way to escape difficult feelings or emotions. It is a lifelong struggle, and is not the same thing as sexual orientation or gender identity. [6:29] Rob equates a sex addiction to an eating disorder in the way that we have a primal need, but it can become disruptive and harmful to our normal lives. [8:44] The life of a sex addict ends up being a double life, and many times affection and connection is compartmentalized away from intensity, fantasy and stimulation. [11:36] It is rarely about the partner, and addicts may try to blame their spouse to take some of the distractions away from their own compulsion and need for recovery. [14:19] Sex addicts have a responsibility to work on themselves, get support and commit to recovery. [16:02] Real love is knowing someone fully, and accepting them fully as they are. It takes about two years to truly know and understand who someone is. The love addict looks for these experiences with blinders on to soothe and mask their loneliness, obsession and emptiness. [19:44] Rob explains how sex and love use pleasure to escape reality, and how Intermittent Reinforcement is used to perpetuate this behavior and lose focus of the reality of the situation. [23:55] Being a sex addict does not excuse the behavior, but does mean there is a lot of work to be done in order to clean up their act. RESOURCES Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Out of the Doghouse Cruise Control Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Out of the Shadows Always Turned On Charlotte Kasl Brenda Schaeffer
This episode explains the science of motivation and drive. I describe how dopamine-- a chemical we all make in our brain, underlies our desire for and pursuit of our goals, as well as our capacity to move and experience pleasure. I describe how we can leverage specific behaviors, reward schedules and dopamine-prolactin balance to help ensure we can maintain motivation and capacity for pleasure over the long term. I also discuss dopamine in the context of ADHD, craving and addiction, and some absolutely amazing results about specificity of drug effects based purely on belief. Thank you to our sponsors: Athletic Greens - https://athleticgreens.com/huberman Headspace - http://headspace.com/specialoffer Magic Spoon - http://magicspoon.com/huberman Our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/andrewhuberman Supplements from Thorne: http://www.thorne.com/u/huberman Link to study: Effects of expectation on specificity of stimulant effects: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33734725/ Timestamps below. 00:00:00 Introduction 00:04:22 Announcement: Spanish Subtitles 00:05:06 Emotions, Addiction & Mindset 00:06:22 Motivation & Movement: The Dopamine Connection 00:07:29 A Double-Edged Dopamine Blade 00:08:56 Dopamine Fundamentals: Precursor to Adrenalin 00:10:15 The Reward Pathway: An Accelerator & A Brake 00:12:10 Motivation= Pleasure Plus Pain 00:14:14 The Dopamine Staircase: Food, Sex, Nicotine, Cocaine, Amphetamine 00:16:15 Subjective Control of Dopamine Release 00:17:40 Social Media and Video Games 00:18:15 Addiction & Dopamine: Progressively Diminishing Returns 00:18:48 Novelty, Sensation-Seeking & Anticipation 00:20:15 Craving: Part Pain, Part Pleasure & Pain Always Prevails 00:23:11 Desire Scales With Pain: The Yearning Function 00:24:43 The Croissant Craving Circuit 00:25:45 “Here and Now” Molecules: Serotonin, Bliss & Raphe Nucleus 00:26:26 In Your Skin Or Out In the World 00:27:25 Cannabinoids Lethargy & Forgetfulness 00:28:15 The Almond Meditation 00:29:30 Drugs That Shift Exteroception Versus Interoception 00:30:36 Emotional Balance, Active & Passive Manipulation 00:32:36 Procrastination: Leveraging Stress, Breathing, Caffeine, L-Tyrosine, Prescription Drugs 00:37:04 When Enough Is Never Enough; How Dopamine Undermines Itself 00:38:58 Dopamine-Prolactin Dynamics: Sex, Reproduction & Refractory Periods 00:40:30 The Coolidge Effect: Novelty-Induced Suppression of Prolactin 00:42:22 Vitamin B6, Zinc As Mild Prolactin Inhibitors 00:43:25 Schizophrenia, Dopamine Hyperactivity and Side Effects of Anti-Dopaminergic Drugs 00:45:08 Prolactin, Post-Satisfaction “Lows” & Extending the Arc of Dopamine 00:48:00 The Chemistry of “I Won, But Now What?” 00:49:00 Healthy Emotional Development: Child and Parent 00:50:03 Never Say “Maybe” (Reward Prediction Error) 00:52:02 Surprise! 00:52:59 Are You Suppressing Your Drive and Motivation By Working Too Late? 00:54:50 Disambiguating Pleasure and Drive: Dopamine Makes Us Anti-Lazy 00:58:00 Beta-Phenylethylamine (PEA), & Acetyl L-Carnitine 01:00:00 Attention Deficit Disorders, Cal Newport Books, Impulsivity & Obesity 01:03:55 Leveraging Dopamine Schedules 01:05:22 Subjective Control of Dopamine and Drug Effects: The “Adderall” Experiment 01:09:03 Caffeine May Protect Dopamine Neurons, Methamphetamine Kills Them 01:10:57 Nicotine: Dopamine, Possible Neuroprotection, Prolactin Increase 01:11:53 Gambling, Intermittent Reinforcement, & Persistent Goal Seeking (Bad and Good) 01:14:14 Intermittent Halting of Celebration; Enjoy Your Wins, But Not All of Them 01:18:38 A Story Example of Intermittent Reward to Maintain Long-Term Drive and Motivation 01:21:25 Corrections & Notes About Spanish Captions & Other Languages Soon 01:24:00 Synthesis & Framework, Zero-Cost Support & A Note About Sponsors Please note that The Huberman Lab Podcast is distinct from Dr. Huberman's teaching and research roles at Stanford University School of Medicine. The information provided in this show is not medical advice, nor should it be taken or applied as a replacement for medical advice. The Huberman Lab Podcast, its employees, guests and affiliates assume no liability for the application of the information discussed. [Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac https://www.blabacphoto.com/]
While intermittent reinforcement may not be a concept that you are familiar with, it is the heart of why many children wake up throughout the night. Early parenting, in the newborn months, is all about survival. When you move past those early months and that survival mode, that is when changing your child's sleep behavior requires consistency. Listen in to learn one of the primary causes for your child's night wakings and what it takes to improve your circumstances.
Going No Contact with a Narcissist (What NO ONE Tells YOU) - Here is exactly what you need to know when you're going no contact with a narcissist (or considering it) - and what no one else is going to tell you when it comes to making the decision to go no contact with a narcissist in your life! Chapters: 0:00 The Definition of No Contact 00:26 The Steps of No Contact 1:00 An Important Tip to Avoid Going Back to the Narcissist 2:45 #traumabonding: One Big Reason to Go No Contact and the Definition of Low Contact 3:38 The Rules of No Contact: Do you tell them you're going no contact? Do you say you think they are a narcissist? What to say and whether you should say anything at all 5:17 Defining Your Rights and Your Boundaries in No Contact 6:23 Tips and Advice on Who Should Be Part of Your Life, Your Relationship Deal Breakers, What It Means to Go No Contact with a Narcissist and Why You Should Consider it (With Dana Morningstar) 7:36 #traumabonds, The Narcissist's Pattern of Intermittent Reinforcement and How They Affect Your Ability to Stay No Contact 8:35 When You See the Narcissist After No Contact (But Before You Heal) 9:42 Narcissists Walk All Over Your Boundaries - Here is how to reestablish them (With Dana) 11:10 How to Appear More Healed Than You Are If You Run Into the Narcissist After No Contact (And Why) 13:13 When You See the Narcissist Years After No Contact - Possible Outcomes & Trusting Your Intuition 14:18 THIS is What You Need to Do If You Really Want to Get Back at the Narcissist (And What to Expect) 15:11 What if you can't ignore the narcissist? And What EXACTLY Do You Do If You See the Narcissist After No Contact? 16:52 What if the narcissist approaches you after no contact and tries to hoover you? Will the narcissist change? 17:19 Is it okay for an empath to go no contact with a narcissist? If you have a lot of guilt about going no contact, this is how you deal. 26:06 What if you can't go no contact? Here are 5 tips for getting through living with a narcissist with less stress. 36:07 Question of the Day **More Helpful Videos for Going No Contact With A Narcissist** Running Into The Narcissist After Going No Contact: What to Say and Do, and How to Deal https://youtu.be/B-KJeZ0DmPs So, You Broke No Contact with a Narcissist: What now? https://youtu.be/mj-0Pe8w4wU No contact with a narcissist parent or family member: A Frank Discussion https://youtu.be/pBsM40_AlIg 'How to Do No Contact Like a Boss' With No Contact Boss Kim Saeed https://youtu.be/QsrVeJe9F3k No Contact Rules with Family & Narcissist and No Contact Guilt, Featuring Richard Grannon https://youtu.be/Wkq-m-A17-M The No Contact Relapse: 7 Ways to Avoid Breaking No Contact with a Narcissist https://youtu.be/gDnwFbDP-6I Why You Need to Stop Feeling Guilty About Going No Contact with a Narcissist (Get Out of the FOG!) https://youtu.be/_lXgvzfN4ic We need to talk about no contact (Some people get this WRONG!) https://youtu.be/07UEINO_vQ0 When You See the Narcissist After No Contact https://youtu.be/KMomOxEvYGQ Narcissist Discard, No Contact and What You Need to Know NOW https://youtu.be/s0jzGyi28HQ No Contact vs Narcissistic Ghosting and Silent Treatment - What's the Difference? https://youtu.be/Og19OukgnOM Discover. Understand. Overcome. It's how smart people change their lives! Subscribe to my channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/AuthorAngelaAtkinson?sub_confirmation=1 **NEW!! Become a member of my channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBnyC5I55W__RBj1PMybF5g/join **Never miss a live session! Just text "AngieLive" (no spaces) to 33222 and I'll send you a text each time I get ready to go live! Schedule a coaching appointment with me at http://narcissisticabuserecovery.online Start your healing at https://queenbeeing.com. Take your life to the next level at https://shine.buzz Get my books at http://booksangiewrote.com, pick up your free 7-day fear-busting email course (specially designed for narcissistic relationship survivors) at http://narcissismsupportcoach.com. Join SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissism in toxic relationships) - AKA "The SPANily" - at http://queenbeeing.com/group-support. Let's Also Connect On: Facebook at https://facebook.com/coachangieatkinson. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachangieatkinson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/angyatkinson/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/angieatkinsonSubscribe to Narcissistic Abuse Recovery with Angie Atkinson on Soundwise
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$6.99 Live episode #03! This week we talk about the record number of people leaving from New York, Kamala Harris’s VP Nomination, saving the Post Office, Intermittent Reinforcement and dating, the Alibaba empire, and growing up listening to Weird Al. Don't forget to subscribe to our podcast! News round-up: 04:06 - Escape for New York. The pandemic has resulted in many people leaving NYC. Right now there are 13,000 empty apartments in Manhattan and are offering an average of 1.7 months rent-free now. https://secretnyc.co/manhattan-apartment-vacancies/ 11:23 - Is Kamala Harris Black and Asian Enough? After Kamala Harris was named the VP nominee for the Biden campaign, questions about her Indo-Jamaican American identity has been a topic of great discussion. https://www.sfchronicle.com/politics/article/Kamala-Harris-was-shaped-by-Berkeley-and-a-mother-15485359.php 20:16 Post Office services delayed. Trump came out and said part of the reason he is not interested in funding the post office is that it allows Mail-in voting. This has lead to increased pressure from public officials and everyday people for the federal government to provide the needed funding ASAP. https://tcrn.ch/2Y2uaby Host Segments: 30:30 Jojo's Glow up Report - Intermittent Reinforcement during dating is when a guy or girl you are texting seems HOT then cold. This seems to draw people in more and more. Why do we go for people who are so unpredictable? https://bit.ly/2CNnCWc 51:41 Jaeki's Pocket Watch Report - What is Alibaba? One of the world’s largest online retail platforms in the world is more than you think it is. They are a multinational conglomerate that only started in 1999 with funding from Goldman Sachs and Softbank. This company transcends national boundaries. https://www.alibabagroup.com/en/about/overview 01:14:20 Who the F is Michael - Reminiscing about listening to Weird Al. Growing up Michael’s dad listened to Weird Al CD’s on their drives around town. This led him to know the parodies before hearing the original hits. The team also talks about their first CDs. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%22Weird_Al%22_Yankovic 01:31:34 Shouts of the Week Jojo - Slant’d Issue 04 Kickstarter https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/slantdmag/slantd-issue-04-revolution Michael - His little brother for working hard on himself. Jaeki - Balconi MIX MAX Snack Follow our Twitch Channel at https://www.twitch.tv/699perpoundlive Visit our website: www.699perpound.com Follow $6.99 on Social: Instagram (@699perpound): https://www.instagram.com/699perpound/ Twitter (@699perpound): https://twitter.com/699PerPound You can now support us monetarily https://ko-fi.com/699perpound Hosts Jaeki Cho, Joann Park, Michael Stewart Produced by Michael Stewart & Wynton Wong Audio Editing/Mixing by Marcus Hahm Email address (business inquiries only): info[@]699perpound.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/699-per-pound/message
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Awakening Women is a movement and community for conscious growth oriented women who are ready to step into their power. In this episode learn what keeps you hooked and stuck in a relationship that is causing you so much suffering, and why when this happens, makes it difficult to leave. Get the ETC Self Study Course Follow @awakeningwomensupport on Instagram and Facebook
WARNING: The following episode is part of our Going Rogue series. You know, one of those episodes where we started the show before we started the show, you know, we were recording and then things happened. So put on your big girl panties and buckle up for the ride. What can the sales professional learn from the pickup artist? That's on the minds of Gina and Keith after reading an article by Michael Schein titled 5 Powerful Sales Lessons From Pickup Artists. In the article Michael describes 5 lessons gleaned from the book The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. Gina and Keith go over these lessons and apply them directly to sales situations they often find themselves in (and you probably do too). Are these lessons valuable or B.S.? Are you ready to take your bar skills out of the bedroom and into the boardroom? Gina and Keith are going rogue and getting experimental. You've been warned! Today’s episode is brought to you by DermaVogue. Click here to learn more about how they provide the most effective, flawless solutions to any skincare or cosmetic need. On today’s podcast... 3:40 - Sleazy sales stereotypes 9:05 - Sales technique: pattern interrupt 14:30 - Magnifying your personality or personality while staying authentic 23:35 - Intermittent Reinforcement 29:30 - Attachment Theory: The 3 types of attachment and what that means for your life and sales 33:00 - Cat string theory 37:10 - Instead of going into the chase, cut the chase off 41:45 - Michelle Cirocco's episode 50:19 - Partnership agreements: Are we going steady? 53:00 - Self-regulation: you have to act the part 56:33 - Relentless experimentation Join our exclusive fan community, Warner World, for more Gina, Rachel and Women Your Mother Warned You About More about Gina Gina Trimarco is CEO/Founder of Pivot10 Results (training and strategy company) and Carolina Improv Company (comedy club and school). She has 25+ years of experience in marketing, sales, operations and people training. Gina combines street smarts and improv comedy skills with her experience in the corporate and entrepreneurial worlds, which sets her apart from her competition. A true Chicago city girl, her much older father trained her in sales starting at the age of 10, working in flea markets. More about Rachel Rachel Pitts is a Mom, Realtor, Author, and Creator of The Closing Curve, a new real estate software focused on enhancing the buyer experience. With a background in show business, her motto is: Entertain. Inform. Inspire. Find Rachel on social media as RachelonRealEstate, at www.rachelonrealestate.com and www.theclosingcurve.com and pick up her book, The Gift of Wreckage on Amazon More about Keith Walters As Managing Principal of Walters Dev Group, LLC, Keith currently assists companies via board and advisory roles. Keith has spent more than 30 years using a strong entrepreneurial focus to lead, advise and grow very successful businesses. His focus on operational excellence brings stability into organizations he leads and guides. Through a unique management system focused on company growth and strong culture development Keith helps build businesses that are true talent magnets. Women Your Mother Warned You About™ is part of the Sell or Die Podcast Network. Check out these other amazing SORD podcasts. Sell or Die The Why and The Buy Hidden Stories with Jeremy Fulkerson Wheelbarrow Profits
Scientists did a test referred to as “morsel bombing,” where rats had access to a button, and every time they pushed the button- little pieces of food were given out.After awhile of this, scientists changed it so only every once in a while did a morsel come out. Little did scientists know, they just proved one of the strongest motivators on the planet- intermittent reinforcement.Trauma bonding is a relationship that is founded off of this idea of Intermittent Reinforcement- someone starts out amazing, but slowly only shows that beautiful side “once in awhile” just like the food to the lab rats…Your brain begins releasing Cortisol & Dopamine in a vicious cycle, creating a similar need for this dynamic that a drug addict experiences on the hunt for dope.If you think you may be in a trauma bonded relationship, or have been in one before, join us online Wednesday evening- 7:00pm MST for a discussion in a private group, where we go further into how to handle relationships like these!Private FB Group : found hereIG
In this episode we will explore the Big Picture of the predictable patterns of the narcissistic abuse cycle. You’ll finally understand how you got addicted to the abuser and the abusive relationship. Hint: the addiction wasn’t about either one of those!You’ll find out about the things you can work on in order to prevent yourself from falling into another abuse cycle. You’ll also find out about how codependency patterns are programmed through the narcissistic abuse cycle whether it starts in childhood or happens later in adulthood. Get the Self-Care Mastery Course to eradicate the patterns of people-pleasing and self-abandonment!The FREE PDF download on the Narcissistic Abuse Cyclewww.InnerIntegration.comThe Journey: A Roadmap for Self-healing After Narcissistic AbuseBetterHelp — Get matched with a local therapist in your area who specializes in trauma & abuseSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=YGDXDNNER2C46)
In this episode we'll explore the insane loyalty that makes it so hard to let go of an abuser even when you know it's a toxic relationship.You'll find out about the manipulation tactic that creates the strongest bond between people.You'll finally understand why you feel so addicted to the abuser and what you can do about it now. www.InnerIntegration.comThe Journey: A Roadmap for Self-healing After Narcissistic AbuseBetterHelp — Get matched with a local therapist in your area who specializes in trauma & abuseSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=YGDXDNNER2C46)
Welcome to Sex, Love and Addiction 101! Your host, Rob Weiss, is a licensed therapist, sexologist and author of numerous books on sex, relationships and addiction. This podcast is a way to discuss these topics in frank and informative ways. Rob will talk with everyone from experts from around the world to regular people just looking to make their relationships better. In today’s episode, Rob breaks down what sex addiction is, and isn’t. He also discusses the recovery of sex and love addiction, and resources on ways to further expand your education on the topic. TAKEAWAYS [1:17] Sex addiction is a repetitive pattern of using sexual fantasy and behavior as a way to escape difficult feelings or emotions. It is a lifelong struggle, and is not the same thing as sexual orientation or gender identity. [6:29] Rob equates a sex addiction to an eating disorder in the way that we have a primal need, but it can become disruptive and harmful to our normal lives. [8:44] The life of a sex addict ends up being a double life, and many times affection and connection is compartmentalized away from intensity, fantasy and stimulation. [11:36] It is rarely about the partner, and addicts may try to blame their spouse to take some of the distractions away from their own compulsion and need for recovery. [14:19] Sex addicts have a responsibility to work on themselves, get support and commit to recovery. [16:02] Real love is knowing someone fully, and accepting them fully as they are. It takes about two years to truly know and understand who someone is. The love addict looks for these experiences with blinders on to soothe and mask their loneliness, obsession and emptiness. [19:44] Rob explains how sex and love use pleasure to escape reality, and how Intermittent Reinforcement is used to perpetuate this behavior and lose focus of the reality of the situation. [23:55] Being a sex addict does not excuse the behavior, but does mean there is a lot of work to be done in order to clean up their act. RESOURCES Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Out of the Doghouse Cruise Control Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Out of the Shadows Always Turned On Charlotte Kasl Brenda Schaeffer
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