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Today's meditation and retelling comes from Luke 1:5-25, 39-80. Background music by www.bensound.com. Foreword:  Zacharias and Elizabeth are the only other truly elderly couple in scripture to bear a child, besides Abraham and Sarah. There are a lot of parallels between Isaac and John the Baptist. Why this couple, and why now? Why did his need to be a “miraculous” birth?  Gabriel did tell Zacharias that his prayers for a child were heard (Luke 1:13), so we know that Zacharias and Elizabeth wanted children long before this. Zacharias's response to Gabriel's good news was skepticism, based upon their ages (Luke 1:18), which suggests that he'd given up praying for children long ago, when he thought that it was too late. But given all the promises in scripture for fertility for those who followed the Lord, and the fact that this couple was blameless (Luke 1:6), I'm sure they wondered why it seemed that the Lord had not fulfilled His end of the promise. Elizabeth also called her barrenness a “reproach” (Luke 1:25). We know from the question the disciples asked Jesus about the man who was blind from birth (John 9:1-5) that it was a common belief among Israelites that physical ailments were a direct punishment for personal sin. Thus, like blameless Job, the people likely would have believed that it was some sin on their part that had kept them from bearing children all these years.  Yet God had not forgotten them… it just took faith and patience (a lot of it!) for them to inherit this particular promise (Hebrews 6:12). One reason for this likely is because John's conception and birth would have caused such a stir, and attracted such attention. Gabriel appears to Zacharias while he is performing his duties at the Temple, and the fact that he is subsequently struck dumb alerts everyone who was waiting for him outside the temple that he must have seen a vision (Luke 1:21-22). Then, after five months of seclusion, elderly Elizabeth reveals to all that she is pregnant. Imagine the whispers! She gives birth to the child, and then on the eighth day they break with all tradition and name him John, a name found nowhere in their lineage. As soon as Zacharias complies with Gabriel's final decree, his tongue is loosed, and he announces to all the onlookers that this is to be the prophet they have all been waiting for these four hundred years. Had his conception and birth been ordinary, this child would not have caused such a stir, or such expectation (Luke 1:65-66).  That's one reason why the Lord probably chose an elderly, faithful couple to be the parents of John the Baptist. But I suspect the other reason is because Elizabeth and Mary were close relatives (Luke 1:36). (In my retelling, I imagined that she was her great aunt, though the scriptures don't say what their exact relationship is.) They obviously knew each other well, though, because Mary goes to stay with Elizabeth for three months. This close relationship with another woman who had a miracle pregnancy was probably very important for Mary, who was being asked to take such an enormous step of faith, knowing she would be ostracized for getting pregnant out of wedlock. Not only does Elizabeth's pregnancy confirm Gabriel's words for Mary, but then the Lord reveals to Elizabeth that Mary, too, is pregnant, by the Holy Spirit, and with the Son of God (Luke 1:42-45)! I'm sure Mary very much needed this confirmation of the angel's word to her, and the encouragement.  While scripture never talks about the relationship between Jesus and John the Baptist as children, given the relationship between Mary and Elizabeth and the prophetic connection between the two boys' lives, they must have known each other before they each stepped into their ministries. And Jesus was born “in the fullness of time” (Galatians 4:4-7); he could not have come any earlier than He did. His forerunner had to just barely precede him. So had the Lord granted Zacharias and Elizabeth's prayer for children any earlier, they could not have been the parents of John the Baptist. I also suspect that John's later evangelistic success was in part due to the widespread knowledge of his miraculous birth. This great honor was reserved for a faithful couple, a couple who would continue to believe in Him, even when it looked like His word had failed. But this couple—or Elizabeth, at least—knew that God's promises never fail (1 Kings 8:56). He cannot lie (1 Samuel 15:29). His word is firmly fixed in the heavens (Psalm 119:89-90).  Zacharias's muteness may have been a punishment for his unbelief, but I think Elizabeth's interpretation in the retelling is more accurate. Scripture makes very clear that death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21, and throughout Proverbs), and that we will have what we say (Numbers 14:28-29). Zacharias's protest to Gabriel expressed unbelief; it may well have been that Gabriel struck him mute so that he could not stop John's conception and birth from coming to pass by speaking forth his doubts.  The end of Malachi 4:6, prophesying the return of Elijah before the Messiah, says, “lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.” That was the last word from the prophets for four hundred years. What a strange statement—that without the forerunner to prepare the way for the Lord, Jesus might have cursed the earth rather than redeem it! It's hard to imagine Jesus doing such a thing; yet in His second coming, He will judge those who refuse to repent. Apparently the first and second coming could have been one and the same, without John's six month ministry calling the people to a baptism of repentance (Luke 3). In those six months, John became incredibly well known, and his impact continued even long after his death. In fact, after Jesus' resurrection and ascension, the great apostle Apollos preached the Word accurately, but he knew of only the baptism of John (Acts 18:25). Paul found that even Gentile believers in Ephesus knew only the baptism of John, and had not heard of the Holy Spirit (Acts 19:1-5). John's teaching of repentance from sins clearly spread far and wide, long after both his death, and the death and resurrection of Jesus. His ministry, preparing the way for the Messiah, long outlasted him. Many churches today, and many believers, in a way still only preach the baptism of John. They focus exclusively on repentance from sins, a necessary first step to prepare the way for the fruits and gifts that come from the baptism of the Holy Spirit. But repentance is meant to be the preparation, not the end in itself. John himself said this (Luke 3:16). We need the baptism of the Holy Spirit, just as the disciples did in order to fulfill their calling (Luke 24:49). We can't do it without Him.  Fictionalized Retelling: “Goodbye, my love.” Zacharias kissed me, and threw his traveling cloak around his shoulders before mounting his donkey. Then he added with a teasing wink, “Try to stay out of trouble.” I smiled at his little joke. We lived in the hill country of Judea, we kept no servants, and we were childless—so I would be all alone, and could not possibly get up to any trouble even if I had wanted to. Usually when Zacharias's turn came to serve as a priest in the temple, I spent the time gardening, tending our few livestock, and experimenting with new dishes to feed Zacharias when he returned home.  “What will you do with yourself?” he asked the customary question, expecting my answer to be the same as always. Today, though, it wasn't. “You know… I've been drawn to the books of the kings lately, for some reason. I think I'll study that.” My husband had taught me to read in our early marriage. When I was younger, I required his help in interpreting what I read. Now that I was in my seventies, though, I knew the texts almost as well as he did. Zacharias pursed his lips before moving his donkey forward. “Elijah?” he guessed, and I nodded. “Funny. I've been drawn to those passages too, of late.”  “Oh really?” I mused. “Perhaps the time is drawing near?” After four hundred years of prophetic silence, the last verse in Malachi promised that Elijah himself would return as the forerunner of the Messiah.  Zacharias chuckled. “Perhaps. Every generation has believed that theirs would be the one to see the Lord's anointed. But, someone will have to be right eventually!” He winked and dug his heels in to his donkey's side. I watched him ride to the top of the hill, waving, until he was out of sight.  Then I looked up at the sky to judge how much time I had to spend upon my studies, and went inside, withdrawing the scrolls Zacharias kept of the Hebrew texts. I meant to go straight to the records of the kings, but the scroll unrolled of its own accord to Exodus. A passage that I had meditated on years ago practically leapt off the page at me: None shall miscarry or be barren in your land. I blinked, and tried to shake it off. I kept unrolling, and one of the scrolls fell to the table, exposing a text opened to Deuteronomy.  There shall not be male or female barren among you. I closed my eyes, breathing through the unexpected stab of an old wound. I had clung to these verses and many others that promised the same thing in my youth, even in to middle age. But when my cycles had ceased, I realized I had a choice. Either I would believe that God had forgotten to honor His covenant, that His promises to me had failed, that He had forsaken me—or, I would consider my continued barrenness a mystery and decide to trust in Him anyway, believing that one day it would make sense. I chose the latter, since I knew the former would lead only to bitterness.  God is good. He is faithful. I had staked my entire life upon that, and I would not waver now.  Yet I had never revisited those passages in all these years. They were too painful.  I breathed through it until the emotion subsided. Another scroll slipped free, revealing the latter psalms.  Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb His reward. Like arrows are in the hand of a mighty man, so are children born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. “Stop,” I gasped out loud, clutching my chest. I wasn't sure if I was begging the Lord to stop, or some outside force… I only knew I did not want to revisit this subject.  There was more to the issue of being a barren woman than not having a child. That by itself would have been bad enough. But Deuteronomy made it very clear that God would bless those who obeyed Him, and curse those who disobeyed Him. Because of this, the common belief among the Jews was that those who suffered a curse of any kind were receiving their just deserts. The story of Job should have dispelled the concept that affliction is always connected to personal sin, and yet the idea persisted.  Zacharias and I were not perfect of course, but we believed in the Lord and in His promises, like Abraham had done. I was sure that like Abraham, our faith was counted to us as righteousness. Yet despite this, and despite the very clear promises in scripture, we remained childless. I knew that many secretly wondered what sin I had committed to merit such a punishment. I had asked the Lord about this for almost a year after my cycles had ceased, but eventually I stopped asking. I had to. The question was driving me crazy.  I took another deep breath, and opened, finally, to the records of the kings. I reread the familiar story of Elijah's sudden arrival, announcing the famine to King Ahab. What a man he was! He reminded me a bit of King David in his outrageous faith. Without any direct word from God, he  decided to take God's statement of a famine as part of the curse in Deuteronomy, and just go declare it to the king. I could just see God watching Elijah in heaven, shaking his head and smiling—almost with incredulity, if God could be incredulous. This guy was incredible.  Over the next couple of days of Zacharias's absence, I pored over the story of the famine, the ravens that fed Elijah by the brook Cherith, the widow of Zarephath, and the first recorded story of the resurrection of the dead. How did Elijah know that resurrection was even possible? It had never been done before, and there was no record that God had told him anything about it. But if anybody was going to test the boundaries of what was possible in God, it was he.  My favorite was the story of Mount Carmel. Surrounded by enemies, Elijah was supremely in control of himself, jeering at all the 750 false prophets. Perhaps your god did not answer because he was relieving himself! he taunted. I laughed out loud at that every time. Then he doused his own offering in water multiple times to make it as hard as possible to set ablaze before he called upon the Lord. Fire fell from heaven at once, of course, consuming not just his offering, but his entire altar, and every last drop of water!  I realized I was grinning with pride, and stopped to wonder at my own reaction. Pride implied ownership, didn't it?  Strange. I paused in my reading, and prepared for myself an easy supper of bread and milk. I could cook, but I didn't feel like it right now—I had no one to feed but myself, and I was too otherwise engrossed.  The day I expected Zacharias's return, I skipped to the story in the latter kings, where God took Elijah up to heaven in a chariot of fire. Elisha, meanwhile, stood down below and watched, as Elijah's prophetic mantle passed to him.  Then I opened to the passage at the end of Malachi: “Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord.”  What did this mean? I wondered. Send Elijah? Would he return the way he left, in a chariot of fire? Would he return in the same body, with the same mind and personality? The scripture gave no indication that a person who died could return to earth in a new body—but then, Elijah had never actually died. He was one of only two people recorded in scripture who had not, the other being Enoch from Genesis.  “And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.”  Lest I come and strike the earth with a curse? I had never thought about this passage before either. Did this mean that without Elijah preceding the coming Messiah, the Messiah might find that the hearts of his people had grown cold, and might curse the earth, rather than redeem it?  That was a chilling thought. It certainly made Elijah's second coming critical.  It occurred to me that Zacharias should have been here by now. I looked out the window at the position of the sun: it was late afternoon. Usually he returned on the last day of his service by midday. I determined not to worry about it, since there was nothing I could do anyway, and rose from my studies, grabbing my basket. I went out into my garden and began to collect vegetables and herbs for supper that evening. I rose when I heard the faint clop of donkey's hooves behind me.  “Finally!” I cried out, turning around. I shielded my eyes from the late afternoon sun, squinting to see Zacharias atop the donkey in his traveling cloak. “It's almost sunset, what kept you so long?”  He did not answer, though the donkey plodded on. I frowned. Hadn't he heard me? “Zacharias?”  Still he did not reply, though he waved and nodded that he had heard me. Something was very strange. I dropped my basket and walked forward to meet him. When I came close enough, he made an exaggerated mime of writing. Then he pointed at the house. I read his lips and saw that he mouthed the words, Get me a scroll and pen. “Can… can you not talk?”  He shook his head no, and dismounted, leading his donkey by the reins to the stable. I stood dumbfounded as well, wondering what to make of this. Was it an illness of some kind? But if that were the case, if he had merely lost his voice, surely he could still at least whisper. Yet no sound escaped his lips at all.  Finally Zacharias joined me, putting a hand on my lower back and ushering me inside. I found for him the scroll, jar of ink, and pen, and set them on the table beside the open scriptures. He scribbled as fast as he could, I saw an angel in the temple. He said his name was Gabriel.  My heart started to gallop. “The same one who appeared to Daniel?” I gasped, and my husband nodded vigorously.  The very same, he wrote. He says you are going to bear a son. He stopped writing and looked at me. I stared at the words. My mind went blank, but my knees suddenly gave out, and I sank to a seat beside him. Zacharias reached out and took my hand in his, nodding at me as if to say, I mean what I say.  Children are a heritage of the Lord, the verse echoed in my mind. Heritage, as in, inheritance. It's a promise.  I looked up to heaven and whispered, “Why now? Why not… I don't know, forty years ago?”  Zacharias wrote, We are to call him John. I know there is no one in our family by that name, he added, as if he thought that would be my next question. He is to be the forerunner of the Christ, and will come in the spirit and power of Elijah.  My mouth fell open.  That was why the Lord had taken me back to all those passages. The promises for a child. The story of Elijah. The promises for the forerunner.  That meant the Messiah was coming—soon. Probably in my lifetime.  My hands absently sought my belly. Zacharias placed his hand over mine. I looked up at him.  “But… why can't you talk?” I whispered.  He looked a little bit bashful, and hesitated before he wrote, I talked back to Gabriel.  I let out a short little guffaw. “You did what?”  He nodded, gave me a sheepish grin, and wrote, I told him we were too old to have children. He said I would be mute until the day of John's birth. Now I laughed out loud. “Well, it serves you right!” I teased him, wiping away the tears that I suddenly realized had leaked onto my face. Then I caught my breath. “Wait a minute—Zach.” I shook my head. “‘Death and life are in the power of the tongue. Those who love it will eat its fruit'… that wasn't a punishment. It's because our words can stop it from coming to pass if they don't agree with what the Lord said…” I clamped my hands on my cheeks, squeezing my eyes tightly shut. In a strange way, I was grateful for my husband's affliction, because it served as a sign to me. I had not seen Gabriel, but Zacharias would not invent such an ailment. He never even would have thought of it. Without his muteness, I might have wondered in time whether he had imagined the encounter. But here was proof! I lifted both hands in the air and whispered, “Praise You, Lord of heaven and earth. You have not forgotten me. You have taken away my reproach among my people. You have granted me the high honor of not only bearing a child past the age of childbearing, like Sarah, but the honor of bearing a great prophet, like Hannah.” I grinned at Zacharias. “He'll be a firebrand, too, if Elijah was any indication!” I sniffled, wiping my tears away with the back of my hand. “I can hardly wait to meet him!”    Over the next several days, I pumped Zacharias for information until he had written down every detail of his encounter with Gabriel. I wanted to know exactly what the angel looked like, and exactly what he had said. I wanted it to be as if I had seen him myself. For the thousandth time, I was grateful that my husband had taught me to read. He wrote of how he had lingered in shock inside the temple long past the end of his service, which was why he had been late getting home. Then when he finally emerged, the people guessed that he had seen a vision when he could not speak to them.  “But you haven't told anyone,” I pressed. “Right?” He shook his head no, and I breathed a sigh of relief. “Good.” He gave me a quizzical look, and I tried to put my feelings into words. Finally I said, “You know what people will say, Zach. I'm seventy, and I was barren even when I was young. They'll be well-meaning, but they'll try to talk me out of it, because they don't want me getting my hopes up. Death and life is in the power of the tongue, and—” I groped for words. “I just don't want anyone to see me until it's undeniable. Right now, let's just keep this between us. We'll study Elijah, study the Messianic prophecies so we can guide John in his purpose when the time comes, rehearse what Gabriel told you, and then just… introduce the world to our son.”  Zacharias reached out, took me by both hands, and squeezed. Then he moved one of his hands to my soft, slightly sagging belly. He leaned forward and kissed me.   For five months I remained at home, meditating upon what the Lord had done for me, and dreaming of the days to come. Then, finally, I came out of seclusion.  I said nothing to anyone about the little bulge as I went into the marketplace, whistling like I had a great secret. I saw people looking and whispering, but no one was brave enough to ask me. They probably had convinced themselves that I had just put on weight in a strange way. Or perhaps that I had a tumor.  In my sixth month, Zacharias and I were at home, and I heard that we had a visitor. He answered the door, though I ran to intercept whoever it was, since of course Zacharias could not speak to them. I heard the young female voice of my grand-niece Mary, and at once, I felt little John give a great kick. It doubled me over, and in the moment I tried to catch my breath, a flash of insight came to me.  Mary is pregnant with the Messiah!  I blinked, tears of joy pricking my eyes. The thought arrived with such absolute conviction that the Lord might as well have said it out loud.  I heard Mary awkwardly trying to understand why my husband would not greet her, and I straightened, calling out as I approached, “God has blessed you above all women, and your child is blessed!” She startled, and grew suddenly pale. I grinned back knowingly. “Why am I so honored, that the mother of my Lord should visit me? When I heard your greeting, the baby in my womb jumped for joy. You are blessed because you believed that the Lord would do what he said!”  Mary gave me a quavering smile, her eyes full of tears, and I understood that the Lord had given me those words for her sake. She was unmarried, a virgin, and newly pregnant—her miracle was even greater than mine. But she was not showing yet, and she was struggling to believe. That was why the Lord sent her to me: to see my miracle, as an encouragement to her! Her eyes went to my belly, and I beamed proudly, putting a hand on either side of it. She ran forward and hugged me, and burst into a song of praise worthy of King David, bless her little heart. I joined in, and though Zacharias could not, he watched us and raised his hands up to the Lord in worship.  “Stay with us,” I urged Mary when we had finished, all three of us grinning and exultant. “At least until you are showing. It's easier that way, believe me.”  Mary's joyful expression faltered. “But… Joseph doesn't know yet.” “Who's Joseph?” I asked.  “My betrothed,” she murmured. “He had only just asked for my hand, when the angel Gabriel appeared to me—” “Oh, Gabriel was the one who came to you too!” I cast a fond look at my husband, who looked bemused. Mary nodded, and confessed, “I love Joseph. But I know what he will think—obviously. What else could he possibly think? Why would he believe such a story?”  I squeezed Mary's hand. “Let the Lord take care of it,” I advised her. “It's His problem, after all. He got you into this mess; He'll work out the details.”  Mary giggled, and I watched her fondly. She was so very young. What an incredible weight to place upon those narrow shoulders! And yet, the Lord would never have chosen her if He did not know she was up to the task.  “Stay with us,” I urged her again. “Until John is born, at least.” I gasped, as it had just occurred to me right then—“They'll be cousins, then! John and the Messiah!”  “Yes!” Mary laughed. “And only six months apart in age…”  “They will have to play together as children,” I asserted at once. “They'll grow up to be great friends.” Then I added, musing aloud, “I wonder when we should tell them?” Mary puffed out a heavy breath. “One problem at a time, please!”  I chuckled. “Very wise, child. Very wise.”    Mary did remain with us for three months. I still went out to the marketplace until just before my time, and by then, all my friends and neighbors knew my real condition, and marveled.  When I gave birth, I was so enamored with my child that it took me almost a full day to notice that Zacharias still could not speak. I was rather used to his silence now, but this confused me, and upset him. When the time came for the child's circumcision on the eighth day as prescribed by the law, it was also time to officially declare his name. They asked me what he was to be called, whether we would name him Zacharias, after his father. This had never occurred to me.  “No!” I asserted at once, “his name is John.”  “John?” asked the priest, perplexed. “But there is no one among your relatives who is called by that name. Surely, he will be Zacharias.”  They turned to my husband, who gestured for a writing tablet. He wrote very clearly, His name is John. As the priests stared at the tablet in wonder, Zacharias burst forth, “Praise the Lord!”  I gasped. “You can speak!”  Zacharias, laughing and crying at once, hugged me and took the little bundle from my arms. He gazed down at John with such love that for a second, I had the strange thought that I was looking into the face of God, seeing His love for my newborn child reflected in my husband's face. “Praise the Lord, the God of Israel,” he proclaimed, “because he has visited and redeemed his people. He has sent us a mighty Savior from the royal line of his servant David,just as he promised through his holy prophets long ago. Now we will be saved from our enemies and from all who hate us. He has been merciful to our ancestors by remembering his sacred covenant— the covenant he swore with an oath to our ancestor Abraham. We have been rescued from our enemies so we can serve God without fear, in holiness and righteousness for as long as we live”  I blinked at Zacharias, astonished, and looked around the room to see the reactions of the rest of the priests. It was clear to me, at least, that the words were not Zacharias's own. Something—the Holy Spirit, surely—had taken hold of him. He went on, gazing down at John, “And you, my little son, will be called the prophet of the Most High, because you will prepare the way for the Lord. You will tell his people how to find salvation through forgiveness of their sins. Because of God's tender mercy, the morning light from heaven is about to break upon us, to give light to those who sit in darkness and in the shadow of death, and to guide us to the path of peace.”  I suddenly realized I wasn't breathing. I sucked in a breath, and turned to one of the priests.  “Did you write all that down?” I demanded.  As if galvanized by my words, he jumped up to find a scroll and ink. I looked at Zacharias and whispered as I caressed our son's head, “He'll want to hear his father's prophecy about him when he grows up.” I kissed his forehead and added tenderly, “Our little Elijah.” 

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On today's Saturday episode we delve into some real life stories of oddities.

Linkshttps://twitter.com/blknoiz06https://twitter.com/HentaiAvenger66Show PartnerThis episode is presented by FTX. Trade on an awesome mobile interface fee-free, and still get all the great portfolio tracking features you know and love: https://uponly.tv/ftxShow NotesIntro - Ledger refusing to say Hentai Avenger - Will go with “Bob Avenger” for the stream lolHentai Avenger  - “From last year to now made like a good sum of money. Then idk how I got here”  - Sold the top and bought the bottom this year   - Scaled account from $20k to $50M over last 5 years   - 21 y/oZ   - Started crypto back in 2017   - Best trade was Solana at $1.50   - Went on a hot streak with alt L1s   - AXS —> AVAX —> SOL —> Harmony   - “If you just buy in and wait then you can get stuck being in old bags”Avenger Before Crypto   - Avenger was an esports Rocket League pro   - Summer 2016 made $20k in Rocket League, threw it into biotech stocks, made a little over a mil in 3 years   - Then 2020 came and made it all back on the covid bounce   - First intro into crypto was DeFi summer   - Has a lot of money in metaverse shitcoins atmZ's Crypto Experience   - When he's hitting a lot in a row he gets cocky, then when he gets cocky he'll make a wrong call and slow down   - Leverage? Not worth it because he doesn't wanna blow his account up   - Leverage keeps all your focus so you miss the gems that are coming upp2e Gaming   - Z: “When I was young I'd play WoW like hours and hours a day”   - Hadn't found a fun p2e game yet   - Really liked DeFi Kingdom   - TSM partnered with Aurory to play pro esports there   - Cobie: “I have some thoughts”   - Ledger: “I was gonna try to set up here for you lol”   - Cobie: “So I dunked pretty hard on this first person shooter game that I thought looked like shit”   - This was my (https://twitter.com/cmsintern) tweet last night   - Thinks that these games aren't good but people only wanna play them to earn and that's a bad strategy   - The really good games that come where you play to own will be the best   - Z: “I actually haven't made any money playing DeFi Kingdom yet I've prob spent more than I should have on heroes” lol   - Ledger: “Cobie do these games have to be better than traditional games?”   - Cobie: “If they aren't as good then its not a game its a job. If it's primary salary then it just turns into like serfdom”p2e Gaming (cont'd)   - Ledger: “I don't know I take the reverse. Like if I kinda like a game and I get paid to play then I'll probably choose that game over the slightly better game”   - Ledger: “Like if I can play Halo 1 and get paid, vs Halo 3 and not get paid, then as the every man I'll probably take Halo 1 and earn a few bucks”   - Ledger: “Like I saw CMS Intern's tweet and was like holy crap I didn't know they had 1st person shooters as p2e I thought it looked cool”   - There's an incredible future for fun games that can incorporate the p2e element   - Ledger: “Do you think there will be a crypto game that's top 10 or top 20 games in the world in the next 5 years?”   - Z: “I think so”   - Cobie: Cobie had some good points here, but I have to cut them out as a 1-time clap back for publicly dunking on me last night    - Jk here is basically what he said:   - Cobie: “I think there will be a game that's really good, and then it will transition to an NFT-based game with an in game currency”Current States   - Avenger: “We've gone from DeFi to GameFi to some metaverse plays, but we are not close to the top for these metaverse coins until like Gary Vee is dumping all his money into these”   - Ledger: “FLUFs are my back door metaverse play”   - Ledger: “Theres some like metaverse stuff like AI”   - Cobie: “AI!!! lolllllllll”   - Avenger: “Most bullish thing is inversebrah tweeting the same coins as me”   - Avenger: “Any metaverse play listed on KuCoin is like an easy 10x from here”   - IT IS KUCOIN SEASON   - Z: “All the alts that popped off in November were on KuCoin”   - Avenger: “Basically anything that gets listed on KuCoin immediately does a 2-3x”ETH/BTC Chart   - Z: “It's going to infinity bro”   - Does ETH/BTC get to 0.12 ?   - Cobie: “If it gets to 0.12 then you get the flippening” (happens at .165)   - No reason it will stop if it takes .12   - January 2018 ETH/BTC got to 0.105   - Cobie: “0.1 is the last line of defense”Bear Market Scenarios?   - Z: “I don't think we get a multi-year bear ever again”   - Avenger: “Yeah I don't think we do either”   - Cobie thinks we could have another 4 year bear marketNext Stops   - Avenger: “Metaverse coins!”   - Z: “What did Sandbox do like a 6-7x in a month?”   - Ledger: “CMS Intern shilled that live on air when he came on UpOnly last summer”   - Cobie: “I think there are a lot of reasons to be cautious right now”   - Ledger: “I can see if there are a bunch of Hot Ball of Money rotations shoutout Dan Matuszewski for that term” whaddup CMS leggoChat Qs- How'd you get in early on all these runners?   Z: For Axie, finding higher lows when everything else bottomed   Avenger: built out own risk signaling metrics   Avenger: “StunLikes on twitter, he's like some private billionaire, I think he sold an algorithm to the government for like a couple million dollars”Positions   - Avenger: “After $100k [BTC] I prob sell it all and I'm set man”   - Avenger: “You think we get to $100k BTC Cobie?”   - Cobie: “It has undeniably been the year of smart contract platforms. Been the year of SOL and AVAX and AXS more than its been the year of ETH”   - Ledger: “Are you diversifying at all?”   - Z: “Yeah I'm not as risk on as I used to be”   - Avenger: “I have a lot of real estate in Lithuania”   - Z: “Bro wtf” lmaooo   - Z goes on to shill Cosmos pretty heavily, kinda sounds good tbh   -Cobie says he'll get some nowAnyone Smart Long-Term Bearish?   - Avenger: “Light?”   - Cobie: “He's like short term bearish tho he's just a trader”   - Avenger: “Then idk anyone”   - Z: “Yeah idk anyone smart that's macro bearish”   - Cobie: “I have a few trad tech co founders who are smart but macro bearish”Moar Chat Qs-Is college a scam?   Avenger: “I like college I think college is cool”   “Where else can you find groups of fatherless women just roaming around?” - AVAX top target?   Z: “$200” - SOL top target?   Z: “0.1 ETH” - BTC top target   Avenger: “$180k”   Z: “I think 69k for Q1 2022”   Ledger: “2022” - Best airdrops   Avenger & Z: “zkSync” - Flippening (within 12 months)   Avenger & Z: “yes”FINAL ALPHA   - Avenger: “Be very careful who you tell good news to”   - Z: “Maintain a balance between crypto and the other parts of your life – will help your real life and also help your crypto trading - and also journal regularly” Notes by KevinMusic by GiovanniPickle

Židovská komunita byla po dlouhá staletí nedílnou součástí společnosti také na Moravě. Přestože přístup zemských vládců i šlechty k této vrstvě obyvatelstva byl proměnlivý, Židé tvořili důležitou složku hospodářského života především v menších městech. Pozornost si v tomto ohledu zaslouží i Holešov dnes ležící v okrese Kroměříž.

Židovská komunita byla po dlouhá staletí nedílnou součástí společnosti také na Moravě. Přestože přístup zemských vládců i šlechty k této vrstvě obyvatelstva byl proměnlivý, Židé tvořili důležitou složku hospodářského života především v menších městech. Pozornost si v tomto ohledu zaslouží i Holešov dnes ležící v okrese Kroměříž.

HIGHLIGHTS01:31 Ken's journey: Entering entrepreneurship and losing his house04:08 Bouncing back: Create your own space vs consume what the world gives you10:12 Don't be a taker: Create the life you want and reach your full potential 13:32 Interview questions: Have non-negotiables not in the job description16:33 Work-life alignment vs balance: Systems matter more than goals26:23 The same discipline in the gym works in business  31:56 Fasting and reaping anti-aging benefits at the molecular level34:56 Create a well-defined sales process 37:26 Leaders: Address friction points within processes to make them function40:46 Implement change: Focus on one thing that creates the biggest impact43:30 Connect with Ken  QUOTES06:57 "Hadn't had a call back on four different jobs and I'm standing in front of my gym, I'm getting ready for this one, and all of a sudden at that moment, I realized that I had allowed my past to create my present and therefore it was creating my future." 12:19 "When we're a taker, is we got commission breath that's just nasty and smells and needs some scope. We're pushing it out on everybody. We're just trying to get to the deal, we're not actually helping. And I think that becomes inauthentic."14:33 "They must exhibit curiosity at all times. And curiosity, if you're naturally a taker or if you're naturally somebody who's not prone to owning that responsibility, you're less curious because your worldview is more refined on how you want things to come to you rather than how you want to contribute to the world."38:59 "If you're not talking at a granular level when you're implementing change, or at least respecting the fact that that much friction exists, they will go back to the way they've always done things before."41:53 "Pick the right A, pick the right one, stick to it, enforce it, coach it, help it, and push it for success. And we have to go slower to speed up. In your organization, if you can fix one thing, pick the one thing that's going to have the most impact, fix it, get it to where it's running, and then pick thing number two." You can learn more about Ken in the links below.LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kglundin/Website (RevHeat) - https://www.revheat.com/Website (Ken Lundin) - https://kenlundin.com/If you're listening to the Peak Performance Selling Podcast, please subscribe, share, and send us your feedback.LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordanbenjamin/Website - http://mycoreos.com/Podcast - https://www.mycoreos.com/podcastEmail - Jordan@MyCoreOS.comTwitter - https://twitter.com/jbenj09

We begin the story of Abraham, the friend of God, the father of the faith, who had a bit of a rough start in his walk with the Lord. (Gene Pensiero Jr)

The prison perspective says "I wish that had never happened." The palace perspective says "That was incredible. Thank you Lord."

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A mother mourning the loss of her daughter discovers that she has lost something else important to her.   TRANSCRIPT SPEAKER 1: The purpose of this podcast is to educate and to inform. This is not a substitute for professional medical care and is not intended for use in the diagnosis or treatment of individual conditions. Guests on this podcast express their own opinions, experience, and conclusions. The mention of any product, service, organization, activity, or therapy should not be construed as an ASCO endorsement. SPEAKER 2: Welcome to JCO's Cancer Stories, The Art of Oncology, brought to you by the ASCO Podcast Network, a collection of nine programs covering a range of educational and scientific content and offering enriching insight into the world of cancer care. You can find all of the shows, including this one, at podcast.asco.org. ELIZABETH CONROW: Access Denied, by Elizabeth Conrow. I lost my daughter, Amanda, in 2015. She was diagnosed with a brain tumor at age three and was in treatment for 2 and 1/2 years. Less than two weeks after she died, friends and family were getting on with their lives, but I was still in shock. I couldn't believe that Amanda was really gone. Early in the day, I looked at my kitchen table and tried to imagine her eating a bowl of rice, an unusual breakfast for a five-year-old. But that was Amanda. My eyes filled with tears as they rested on the empty chair. She was really gone. In that moment, standing in the kitchen, I struggled to remember every detail of who she was. It felt like the memory of her was slipping away. My heart beat quickened, and my mind raced with compulsive nagging thoughts. How tall was she the last time we were in the outpatient clinic? How much did she weigh? I realized I would never be able to put her on a scale again or mark her height on the cupboard door. I fear that this information would be lost forever, just like Amanda. I moved to my computer and started to log on to our hospital's online patient portal to see if I could find answers to my questions. How many times had I logged into this system looking for Amanda's test results or to message one of her doctors? How many times did it serve to confirm appointment times or remind me of medicine doses? I clicked the Sign In button, and my heart stopped. I couldn't get in. Instead of viewing her chart, I saw an alarming red stop sign and a message saying "access denied." I stared at the screen in disbelief. Just two weeks after losing my daughter, I faced yet another heartbreaking and unexpected loss. I no longer had access to Amanda's medical records. I no longer had a connection to her medical team and the hospital family I had grown to love and care for. Everything Amanda had been through for the last 2 and 1/2 years was gone. It was as if she never existed. She had vanished. I was caught off guard, deeply saddened, and utterly unprepared to have this connection to the hospital and this connection to Amanda ripped away. I was confused and embarrassed by my emotions. I certainly didn't need this access. But I was devastated that it had been taken away. I reached out to my daughter's oncologist to ask how and why the patient portal had been turned off. I let him know that it was really important to me to be able to view Amanda's records, at least for a time. It had never occurred to him that a parent might want to see this information again. He explained that it was a system designed safety measure that automatically turned off access to an account once a patient had died. I was the first parent to reach out to him with this question. Amanda's oncologist immediately contacted the online records office to reactivate her chart so I could search out answers to some of my questions. It brought me so much comfort to be able to go back in and revisit her medical journey. As I thanked her doctor, I shared with him how important it was to protect families from this type of trauma. I didn't want another family to experience this pain. He listened and helped put a manual reactivation system in place. Going forward when a child died, the online records office would manually reactivate each pediatric account individually. It wasn't a perfect solution, but it was a step in the right direction. It has been six years since Amanda's passing. I am now the bereavement coordinator at the same hospital where she received care. When I started in this role, I was surprised to learn of several families who, like me, had been denied access to their child's medical record. Hadn't the hospital resolved this issue years ago? I was frustrated that our institution hadn't found a better solution in the six years that passed. Last spring, as I followed up with bereaved families from our hospital, I had a conversation with a mother, Diane, that was hauntingly familiar and heartbreaking. Diane and I spoke on the phone shortly after the loss of her son, Evan. As we wrapped up our call, almost as an afterthought, she sheepishly asked about Evan's medical records being deactivated. I was immediately brought back to my kitchen table and the pain I felt when I experienced this secondary loss just two weeks after losing Amanda. I knew why Diane felt silly asking about this. And I deeply understood her need to log in. Diana explained that she was creating a record of everything Evan had been through, every transfusion, every chemo treatment, every inpatient and outpatient visit. And she could no longer complete that task. She shared her experience with me. I know for me, it was really difficult to wake up that very next morning, literally only about 12 hours since he died and not be able to look at it. Even though I know there had been no additional tests run since the last time I had checked, it was my morning routine to look at it. I would check it each morning, even before I got up. It had been that way for months while we were inpatient. First, looking at his ANC and counts, and then in the final month and a half, checking his bilirubin and liver numbers. There was always that hope that things were going to improve. This would be the day. So that first and subsequent time was just a blunt reminder that he was gone and there would be no more checking. I wanted to go back and look at his results, too. Oddly, I thought it would make me feel closer to him and closer to the routine I had while he was alive. Diane wanted to feel closer to her son. I wanted to feel closer to my daughter. Accessing a child's online medical portal is one way a parent begins to come to terms with this impossible loss. Snaman, et al, 2016, suggest that parents who are grieving significantly benefit from the creation and continuation of bonds with a child who has died. Revisiting a child's journey through the lens of the medical portal helps strengthen that bond. As I looked through Amanda's chart and remembered various times we visited the hospital, it helped me picture her more clearly. And it helped me feel a connection to her that I was deeply longing for. Looking through a child's medical record, while painful, can be part of healing and connection. In addition to creating bonds with a child who has died, the medical portal helps parents stay connected to the hospital and the medical team that cared for their child. According to additional research by Snaman, et al, 2016, bereaved parent's benefit from the ongoing support of a hospital throughout a time of grief. When a child dies, the secondary loss of the medical community can leave families feeling abandoned by those they have come to trust and depend on. Anyone who had taken care of Amanda felt like family to me. Sending messages to Amanda's medical team after she died provided a feeling of familiarity when everything else around me was spiraling out of control. A continuing connection with the medical team through the online portal can positively impact grief outcomes for bereaved parents. Accessing a child's medical record provides a grieving family with an easy way to communicate with, and ask lingering questions of the medical team. Access to medical records should not end when a child dies. The 21st Century Cures act acknowledges the need to provide patients with open notes and immediate access to medical information. As we implement real-time access for living patients, continuing access after a loss should also be considered essential. Dr. Alan Wolfelt, from the Center for Loss, discusses the need to say hello to one's grief and welcome it before saying goodbye to the person who died. In those early months, saying hello to grief meant reading through Amanda's medical records, communicating with her medical team, and uncovering every connection I had to her while she was alive. In some small way, logging into Amanda's medical portal and discovering that she was 42 inches tall and weighed 41.2 pounds brought me immeasurable comfort. As parents grieve the loss of a child, comfort and connection should be readily available without having access denied. SPEAKER 3: The guest on this podcast episode has no disclosures to declare. SPEAKER 4: Welcome to Cancer Stories, The Art of Oncology podcast series. With me today is Elizabeth Conrow, bereavement coordinator at the University of Rochester Medical Center and the author of Access Denied. Welcome to the program, Liz. ELIZABETH CONROW: Thank you so much for having me here. It's an honor to be here. SPEAKER 4: It is our pleasure. And first of all, let me start by saying I was very moved by the piece. And I'm so sorry that you lived through this experience. And really interested in knowing how you transformed your personal grief into now, your profession. ELIZABETH CONROW: Sure. Well, it's definitely been a process. Obviously, as a family, we never thought we would be down this road. I never thought I would have a child who had cancer. I never thought that I would have to go through the grief of losing a child and then comforting my own family, and my husband, and those around us through that experience. And I can tell you that for the first couple of years, I really didn't feel equipped to do anything. I felt like I lost my confidence in anything that I had an ability to do prior to this. Simple things like making a meal for someone who was sick became way too overwhelming to even consider doing. So it was definitely a process of years. But when the opportunity came up to work at Golisano Children's Hospital, the same place where Amanda had been cared for, the timing was right. And I knew that it was a great step to take and a way to honor Amanda's life, and really in some way, offer just a little bit of support and comfort to bereaved families, because I understood a little bit of what maybe they were going through. So it just seemed like a really good fit and a really good match for my experience at that point and a way to help and honor Amanda. SPEAKER 4: Let's start by talking a little bit about Amanda. Tell us a little bit about her and her story. ELIZABETH CONROW: Sure. Amanda is one of five children. So she was the fourth of the five. Very silly, loved to wrestle with daddy, had the biggest blue eyes that anyone had ever seen. She was just a delight and a joy. And when she was 3 and 1/2, she was diagnosed with a brain tumor. And we were in the hospital for a number of days. She had surgery and a full resection. And we were told that if after a resection and radiation it never came back, that we would be good. But that if it came back, it would likely be terminal. So we knew at the outset that this was-- we're not dealing with a cold or a headache. We're dealing with something pretty serious. So she went through the surgery beautifully. She went through all of her radiation treatments. We did a clinical trial of chemotherapy. And six months from when she was diagnosed, we really felt like we did well. She did amazing. And we were ready to walk away from everything and just celebrate really, kind of getting through this. And her very first follow-up scan two weeks after she was done with treatment-- her doctor, Dr. Koronas, called us and let us know the very devastating news that the tumor had returned, and it was all in her brain and down her spine and too many places to count. So six months from diagnosis, we knew that this was not going to end well. And we kind of had to struggle to prepare for that, as well as to recognize that in that moment, she was still Amanda. And she was still doing really well. But we knew that time would be limited. And so we had actually a very good year and a half with her, as much as you can say that. She went through additional radiation treatments. And we continued to try other chemotherapies to do what we could. But ultimately, in February of 2015, surrounded by her family in our home she passed away. And we then had a whole new struggle with grief and really, coming to terms with a new life and a devastating loss. But she was a joy. And she was a joy throughout it. So it was not all terrible. SPEAKER 4: She sounds like an extraordinarily little girl. And in your essay, you start by telling us that just after she died, I think a few days or weeks, you're thinking about her, and you want to access her medical record through the portal that you had gotten used to using all the time. And then as you're logging in, you get the signal that says "access denied." And that triggered a tremendous wave of grief for you or something. Tell us a little bit about that and what you did with that. ELIZABETH CONROW: Sure. I think I didn't realize at the time that I was really just trying to hang on to who she was, that I was trying to connect with her in some way. I mean, it was just two weeks after she had died. And I just-- I wanted access to see, what did she weigh? Goodness, if I could recreate her in the form of a stuffed animal, how long would she be? How much would she weigh? And when I went to log in, it was a horribly devastating loss. It really felt like all of the sudden, I knew in my mind she was gone, but logging into this wealth of information that contained all of her blood counts and numbers and information that we had access so often, to all of a sudden have that gone. It was just a punch in the gut reminder that she truly was gone and that her records had disappeared. And she just wasn't here. And I wasn't prepared for that. I really thought that I'd be able to go in and find the things I wanted to find and have peace about that. It was shocking to me. And I remember feeling so embarrassed like, how can I call her doctor and say, I lost this access and I really need it? When she's not here, there's no reason. I don't need it. He's going to think I'm crazy. But it was important enough to me that I reached out to him. And I said, you've got to help me. How can I still access this? SPEAKER 4: So what happened next? ELIZABETH CONROW: So he-- actually, I was pretty surprised. I was the first parent he said, that had ever reached out to him with this issue. And I thought, how is that possible? How is that possible? And I'm guessing other parents had experienced it, but didn't know what to do, didn't know where to turn. And he was very compassionate. And he reached out to our online medical team, our portal team, and tried to figure out a way to reactivate the account for me. And got that done very quickly. And I said, well, it's not enough that it's been reactivated for me. No other parent can go through this. We have to come up with a plan. And so he really did work very hard with our team here to come up with something that would hopefully fix the problem. And it did. I know many families then, had their access turned back on manually, through a manual process that they put in place here. But I know that in the last six years, there have been several families who went to log in and had this experience. And unless you've been there and unless you've been the parent on the end of losing a child and then going in and having more taken away that you didn't expect, you don't understand the pain of that. And so I think the driving force behind me really wanting to write this article was to say, I know that this isn't just my institution. I know this is happening across hospitals. I know that when a child dies, this access is turned off. And that really hurts families. And if there's a way to bring attention to that and say, hey, we can do better, we need to. SPEAKER 4: Now that you have this perspective, I know that you have actually developed some training for oncology fellows and staff to train them a bit to talk with bereaved parents. What are some of the lessons that you want people to learn? ELIZABETH CONROW: That's a great question. I'm working with another doctor here. It's an advanced communication training where we're helping young doctors share bad news for the first time. And it's amazing to me how afraid people are to approach the bereaved. And I guess, having been through it, I see now how poorly we really do bereavement and how afraid we are to kind of approach someone who's lost a child and just wrap our arms around them and say, I'm so sorry. I'm here with you. Everybody wants to fix it. And there's no fix. And people don't want to approach a bereaved parent and bring up their child, because they don't want to make them sad. And what many people realize is that our children are always on our mind. You're not reminding us of anything we're not already thinking about. I was pretty surprised after losing Amanda that someone could be on my mind all the time-- all the time when they're not here anymore. You know, you think about people here and there, time to time, people in your life. But once she was gone, she was right at the front of my mind and still is, every moment of every day. And so if you see a bereaved person, it's OK to mention their child's name. I actually-- I go to the dentist. And the woman who cleans my teeth, every single time I go, will mention Amanda. And I know it's intentional. And I know it's because she wants me to know that she cares. And so those kinds of simple acts that people do as a way of recognizing and honoring the child whose passed means so much to a bereaved parent. SPEAKER 4: Just listening to you and the emotion in your voice, I imagine it must have been difficult in a way to go back to the same place where Amanda was treated and now, work with the staff and the clinicians who treated her. Tell us a little bit about how you've managed those relationships? ELIZABETH CONROW: One of the things I've learned, and that's partly through the role I have now in supporting other bereaved parents is that everyone grieves differently. And I know there are some parents who, the first time they come back to the hospital, it's really, really hard for them. And it's almost like a PTSD moment. For me, I appreciated and cared about all of the medical staff so much that coming back here to me, was a need. I needed to get back here and find a way to connect with these doctors and nurses and the people who cared for Amanda so beautifully while she was here. In those first months of grief, I showed up at the hospital-- I remember there was one day I showed up, and I felt so lost. But I just needed to see those nurses and give them a hug. And I felt awkward and out of place, because suddenly, I'm here and she's not with me. But I just needed to be in a place where she had been and a place that meant so much to us. So coming back here for me, certainly had its hard moments. And there have been challenges with it. But it's been a place of comfort. And being able to talk about Amanda with other parents has really been a gift for me, because it's not an opportunity you have all the time, especially six years later to talk about the child who died. So it's been a gift. SPEAKER 4: What is it like for you to be with other parents now who are going through what you experienced? How does your experience of loss influence your role as a counselor for a newly bereaved parents? ELIZABETH CONROW: I do a lot of listening. I do a lot of listening. And there are some parents who I'll call and follow up with and check in on. And they're good. And they don't need anything. And to be honest, I think when we first lost Amanda, if someone called me and I had never met them before, I might say I'm good. I don't really need any support right now. I've got my family. But there are some parents who I will call, and they will talk to me for 45 minutes. And they will cry. And they will say, you're the first person I've been able to talk to about this, because you understand and you've been through it. And so I'm able just to listen. And when they say things that they think are crazy, I wandered into my son's room and I slept in his bed last night, I say, I understand that. I once found Amanda's socks in a travel bag. And when I found them, I pulled them out and I slept with her socks. So there are things that people think are crazy that I'm able to help them normalize some of those feelings and understand that it's OK. SPEAKER 4: I don't think it's crazy at all. You speak with such knowledge and also such empathy. I wonder if you can help us also understand how you see the clinicians now-- the doctors and nurses who are actually are caring for these patients-- how you see them react to the death of a patient and how they maintain their relationships with what the parents once the kids are gone? ELIZABETH CONROW: It's been very interesting, I guess you could say to be on the other side of this, right? I was on the parents side before, where I was able to receive kind of the love and comfort and support of those who cared for Amanda. And I was able to see them showing up at the funeral and the ways that they would reach out and send notes and cards. But now, being on this side working with many of those same people, I've been really struck, even during our weekly meetings when they talk about different cases and different families and the losses that they've had, how significantly it does impact them, and how much those families and those children really do mean to them. And you know, I've often sat there now wondering, well, what did they say about my family? What did they say about us? And not a conversation I can go back to and sit in on. But I'm just struck by how much they really do care and how much it extends beyond this just being a job for most of-- all of them. SPEAKER 4: Yeah, in your role now, in your professional role, what kind of changes have you implemented in the way clinicians and parents communicate, or the way the system communicates with parents? ELIZABETH CONROW: At our hospital where I work, we have probably around 80 or 90 losses a year. And I came into this and said, I can support these families. And I can follow up with 80 or 90 families in a reasonable manner. But really, we need more parents doing this. We need to expand kind of what we're doing. So I've been trying to work toward implementing a mentoring program of sorts, where bereaved parents who are a few years out in their grief can come alongside newly bereaved parents and really support them, one on one for a year or a year and a half to help them get through that time, so that it isn't just me. And as great as I am, I really know that we can do much, much better by parents if we expand kind of the support network that we have. So I've been trying to grow some of our bereaved parent base. And those who can give input on some of the things we're doing-- because I know bereaved parents have so much wisdom and so much they can share from their own experiences. SPEAKER 4: You sound like a force. I wonder, have you connected with other hospitals, other teams? Or is your-- are you concentrated on your hospital and your community? ELIZABETH CONROW: The greatest support to me, actually has been St. Jude. They have such a fantastic program. Their bereavement, their parent support is really outstanding. Actually, just this week, I was able to sit in on one of their parent mentor trainings to kind of learn, well, how do you train your people, and what do you do? And so that was fantastic. So I'm really grateful-- grateful for their support. So they've been really wonderful. SPEAKER 4: I imagine Amanda's passing really affected your entire family and the other kids. Can you tell us a little bit about how all the other kids dealt with their grief? ELIZABETH CONROW: Sure. I know at the time when Amanda was diagnosed, my oldest was 9, and my youngest was 9 months. So everybody was pretty little. And they went through that at a really young age. And then when she passed, my oldest was 11 and my youngest was 3. So they were still little. And they had been through what I consider to be significant trauma in those early years. And when things first happened, I mean, I had a therapist describe it to me as a children's mobile that hangs over their bed you know, that once it becomes imbalanced, it just tips on its side. And that's the way things felt at home for quite a while. You know, just nothing felt right and things felt out of order. But kids are so resilient and so forward looking. And my kids really did beautifully through it. And I had someone tell me, well, kids are going to revisit grief. And they're going to come back to it from time to time. And it'll surprise you. And I will say, that's so true. You know, I would think everything was going along OK and everyone was coping well. And then, my daughter Jessica, who was closest in age to Amanda, would come down at 10 o'clock at night in tears because she was thinking about her sister. And that would catch me a little bit off guard. And my oldest just went away to college. And she's now 18. And she's had some conversations with me lately just about everything they went through and really revisiting some of her feelings about it all. And so they don't really get over it. But helping them to kind of process it and work through it and really, just talk about her. We talk about her constantly. She's a part of everything we do. We still make her a birthday cake. So we just keep her memory alive and celebrate her life together. But grief for kids is certainly different, and it doesn't end. But they are definitely forward looking and really can handle more than I think sometimes we give them credit for. SPEAKER 4: And your husband and you I hear have also been involved in some activities to talk about this publicly or teach others. What was that like for you as parents? ELIZABETH CONROW: There are a few things that we've really wanted to help move forward in terms of childhood cancer awareness and things that people can do to really help bereaved parents. And I think there's just so much that people don't know or understand. Many people don't realize how underfunded childhood cancer is. So it just means a lot to us to be able to kind of get that message out now. SPEAKER 4: I imagine there's so much work to do. And as we've had this great opportunity to chat about Amanda to remember her, to think about your experience and the amazing work you seem to be doing-- are there any final comments that you want to share with our listeners? ELIZABETH CONROW: It's an honor for me to really share this experience. And that bereaved parents need support, and they need to know that people care and remember, even as time goes on. So just take good care of those who know who are grieving. And love one another. SPEAKER 4: Thank you so much. This is Liz Conrow, author of Access Denied, published in Journal of Clinical Oncology. Thank you very much. Until next time. SPEAKER 1: Until next time, thank you for listening to this JCO's Cancer Stories, The Art of Oncology podcast. If you enjoyed what you heard today, don't forget to give us a rating or review on Apple podcasts or wherever you listen. While you're there, be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode. JCO's Cancer Stories, The Art of Oncology podcast is just one of ASCO's many podcasts. You can find all of the shows at podcast.asco.org. [MUSIC PLAYING]

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On this edition of "The Volunteer State," Blake Toppmeyer of the USA TODAY Network and the News Sentinel's John Adams and Adam Sparks reflect on Kiffin's exit, discuss his return and examine what is an important game for each program. Tennessee has had a losing record in seven of the last 11 seasons, following Kiffin's exit. Toppmeyer asks Sparks and Adams to envision a world in which Kiffin didn't depart in January 2010. What would have happened to Tennessee football and Kiffin?

Fedor Šimkovic z Katedry jadrovej fyziky a biofyziky Fakulty matematiky, fyziky a informatiky Univerzity Komenského v minulom roku získal hlavné ocenenie ESET Science Award za výskum neutrín. V špeciálnej časti podcastu SHARE sa s ním rozprávame o tom, čo to vlastne neutrína sú a prečo by nás mail ich výskum zaujímať. Rozprávame sa, ako sa pozorujú a ktoré slávne stanice na pozorvanie neutrín slovenský vedec navštívil osobne. Zašpekulujeme si, ako by sa jedného dňa mohli neutrína sledovať, ak by sme mali neobmedzený rozpočet a politickú vôľu a hovoríme aj o tom, čím by tento výskum mohol prispieť pri hľadaní mimozemských civilizácií. NAPÍŠTE NÁM: Ak nám chcete niečo odkázať, doplniť nás alebo sme povedali niečo zle a chcete nás opraviť, môžete nám napísať na podcasty@zive.sk. V špeciálnej časti nášho technologického podcastu SHARE sa dozviete: aký je to pocit byť vedcom roka na Slovensku, čo sú to neutrína, prečo by nás mali zaujímať, čo ich pozorovaním vieme zistiť, ako ich pozorujeme dnes, a ako by sme ich mohli pozorovať v budúcnosti. Tento podcast si môžete vypočuť vďaka ESET Science Award, oceneniu, ktoré podporuje výnimočnú vedu na Slovensku. Podcast spoločne pripravujú magazíny Živé.sk a HernáZóna.sk.

This classic tale asks the question what if Cap and Bucky continued their careers post-WW2 and the roles they play in modern time. Rick and Bob have fun exploring this 1977 story (and a few tangents) that has a few twists and turns! Connect with Rick & Bob and fellow Cap fans at https://www.facebook.com/groups/captainamericacomicbookfans Are you enjoying this podcast series? Please help by donating at: https://anchor.fm/capcomicbookfans/support Please subscribe, rate and review! Want to be part of the show? Leave a recorded message at https://anchor.fm/capcomicbookfans Our home page is https://captainamericacomicbookfans.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/capcomicbookfans/support

Mních Cyprián je známy najmä legendou o tom, že zostavil lietajúci stroj. Ako to bolo naozaj? A čo za poklad sa ukrýva v trezore Prírodovedného múzea SNM?  Brat Cyprián bol z rehole kamaldulských mníchov a považuje sa záhadnú historickú postavu. Ako poukazuje v podcaste kurátorka Eva Uherčíkova - paradoxne sa Cyprián preslávil najmä vďaka pokusom s lietaním, no v skutočnosti nám zanechal oveľa väčšie bohatstvo - a to najstarší herbár na Slovensku, ktorý má vyše 250 rokov. „Je na škodu, že nie je veľmi rozšírené medzi ľuďmi, kto bol Cyprián," opisuje kurátorka v podcaste. Cyprián bol pre svoje liečiteľské schopnosti vyhľadávaný ľuďmi a hovorili mu aj „doktor tisícich vied". Patrí medzi zakladateľov jednej z najstarších lekárni v Európe. Prečo je herbár brata Cypriána pre našu krajinu tak cenný? Všetko sa dozviete v novej časti nášho podcastu Múzeum. Podcast vzniká v spolupráci so Slovenským národným múzeom. Moderuje Denisa Hopková.

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Title: God's Plan Matthew 26:30-46 “Remarkable is Jesus' prediction of the complete collapse of the whole church (“you will all”) right after his complete gift of himself to the whole church (“drink of it, all of you,” v. 27). “Though there will be but one traitor, they will all be deserters” (Henry, 393, emphasis added). Did Jesus know before the Supper that his disciples were this unstable? Would he have given them all forgiveness if he had known that they would all fall? We know the answers. Jesus gives disciples his Supper knowing not only what they have been but what they will be.”  - Dale Bruner “Why should (or would) a person presume so much on the capacity of his (or her) nature? It is wounded, hurt, damaged.... It needs a true confession, not a false defense”  -Augustine “He takes the three... in order that those who saw the glories [at the Transfiguration] might also see the griefs [at Gethsemane]”  - Dale Bruner “It teaches the church at least three important truths: Jesus' true humanity, his free obedience, and his real courage. If Jesus had not been confused by what was happening, could he have been truly human? And if Jesus had not been truly human, that is, an entire human being with not only a body like ours but also emotions and a mind like ours, could he have been our representative before God? Take away Jesus' humanity and you take away humanity's salvation. (“What was not assumed was not redeemed,” the fathers said.) Gethsemane's emotions do not shame Jesus' humanity, they prove it; they tell us that Jesus drank our cup to the lees, that he really was one of us, that he knew what it was to suffer, to be down, and in some ways even out. Might we reverently say that in Gethsemane, with its carefully chosen words for Jesus' emotions and mind, that Jesus knew what it was to be emotionally crushed and mentally “crazy,” at least for awhile? This would mean that Jesus knows what we go through at our limits, and knows this not just “divinely” but also humanly. Does this lowness make him less appealing? Does this “baseness” diminish deity?”  - Dale Bruner “He had to be made like his brothers in every respect, so that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in the service of God, to make propitiation for the sins of the people. For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.” —Hebrews 2:17-18 “Jesus did not know this wonderful theology and so prayed here not only for a knowledge of God's will but for a knowledge of what might be possible for God. Hadn't Jesus read his Bible enough to know these things? The truth of our text is that the Son of God himself in his human condition lay on the ground dumbfounded before the sometimes unfathomable will of God. This poverty of spirit seems closer to God than a richness of spirit that knows God's secrets."  - Dale Bruner “One actually has the privilege of seeing Jesus' will move in these petitions. In his first prayer, Jesus' will moved visibly; there he asked, if possible, for the cup to be removed, but then added his proviso. In this second prayer Jesus does not ask for the cup's removal, as if he is saying, “I'm beginning to think that you don't want that cup to go away except by one route—my drinking it.” Jesus' will moved from a nine, ten, or eleven o'clock position to a twelve o'clock position in his Gethsemane prayers. (Jesus' will seems never to have been at six o'clock, in opposition to God. But the church learns from his first petition that the human will can ask honest questions “at ten o'clock,” so to speak, and still be within the magnetic field of God's will.)  Even in the first petition, in its second half, Jesus asked for God's perfect will—“yet not as I want, but as you want.” But full humanity means seeking (not always fully having or knowing) this perfect will. The full humanity of even Jesus was not on automatic pilot at perfect twelve o'clock. Gethsemane is full of instruction to the church, for it teaches her not to ascribe to Jesus a divinized, ghostly humanity, as she can sometimes do by speaking too sweepingly or easily of Jesus' sinlessness and perfection. The Gospels, remarkably, avoid speaking directly of Jesus' sinlessness because saying too much here can say too little. A superman is not a man; an inerrant Jesus who is never at even eleven o'clock turns Jesus into a machine; a Jesus effortlessly at twelve dehumanizes Jesus. Gethsemane says humanity. Yet Jesus is still the sacrifice without blemish required by the law (Lev 1:3), for human questing is not sin.”  - Dale Bruner (We believe in) the Lord Jesus Christ,       the only Son of God,       begotten from the Father before all ages,            God from God,            Light from Light,            true God from true God,       begotten, not made;       of the same essence as the Father.       Through him all things were made.       For us and for our salvation            he came down from heaven;            he became incarnate by the Holy Spirit and the virgin Mary, and was made human.            He was crucified for us under Pontius Pilate;            he suffered and was buried.            The third day he rose again, according to the Scriptures.            He ascended to heaven            and is seated at the right hand of the Father.            He will come again with glory            to judge the living and the dead.            His kingdom will never end.                         - Nicene Creed    

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I interview Hypnotherapist and NLP specialist Sheryne Wilson.  We start with how she got there.  And then dive into the strategy of NLP and hypnotherapy for a better life.  She gives actionable NLP tools that you can use starting right now!  And then she gives real life stories of who she has helped.  We totally pivot and finish up with gender and gender roles and how we can fix those to heal the planet!  And we have a ton of fun doing it!Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out Sheryne Wilson here: http://www.innermindperformance.com/Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:00:00 Sheryne Wilson, welcome to The Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path To Peace Podcast. And, um, we have, uh, you were on my, um, summit, the Tools For A Good Life Summit. So anybody listening, you can hit pause and go run to www.toolsforagoodlifesummit.com and check out Sheryne's amazing, amazing, um, interview. Right. And you, it was very specific. We were talking about, um, like what would, what steps would you offer somebody to help help them get back on track or whatever? And you just were dropping bomb after bomb, after bomb. So amazing. Um, you are amazing. Um, what, I was thinking beforehand, like I'm literally getting the shivers, thinking about like the, the, the moments of like, yeah, yeah, yeah. What was the best thing you said? And I think it was one of the best things you said was, um, and it might've been on the, uh, VIP bonus section, but before we get to that, do you hold, hold place? I was just gonna say, people might be wondering, well, what does she do? Who is she? And, um, you, uh, you are a, um, how am I going to say this? Well, one of the favorite things about you is that you had like, uh, how do you say it's like some, auto-immune some physical issues. Yeah. Right. And you, you were able to like go out and learn all this stuff and like literally heal your body and your mind. Yeah,Sheryne Wilson: 00:02:01 Yeah, yeah,Mischa Z: 00:02:04 Yeah. That's yeah. Right. Like that's amazing. That's yeah. And then you do NLP, which is Neuro Linguistic Programming. Um, so you, you, you help people with that tool with, uh, hypnotherapy neuro linguistic programming, NLP, maybe speak to that for a minute. Like, what's the, gimme the, like, this is why you want NLP real quick.Sheryne Wilson: 00:02:33 Um, okay. You want NLP because a lot of our blocks and most of us know this, our blocks are on an obnoxious or a subconscious level. And so, so many times I know something's blocked blocking me. I don't know what it is. I'm stuck. I don't know what it is. And NLP uses language to bypass the conscious mind, which is always trying to the logical mind, always trying to figure out what the problem is. And it goes directly to the unconscious, which is where everything runs. That is, that is the board of, of how we do life. Right? And so NLP is using language, in my opinion, to bypass the unconscious, the conscious mind to get to the unconscious so that we can actually start dealing with the problem, um, so that we can start taking yourself out of the problem. Um, I love it because one of my sayings is focusing on the problem as part of the problem.Sheryne Wilson: 00:03:25 And this basically takes you outside. The problem gives you a different perspective. It gives you a different viewpoint so that you can start actually creating solutions in your life. And so, I mean, that's the one, there's a, that's my definition. There's a million definitions. I mean, by standard, um, it is, NLP is a standard of excellence and it is really about how to use the mind to get to a place of excellence, um, and, and how you're able to associate and dissociate into situations so that you can figure out what you're doing. Uh, another way of saying NLP too, is NLP is about internal representation. What, you know, the word happy means to me could mean totally different. Something totally different to you. So it's about understanding how you view the world and why you view the world that way and how you can change you. Sorry, how you can view the world in a different way and how you Mischa you something different and how we can work together to understand behavior and understand how you work in. I work I'm, I can rabbit hole down this path for a long time, so I'll just stop there. But, um, yeah, it's dealing with the unconscious and the subconscious mind using language.Mischa Z: 00:04:37 Cool. I, um, I love it. Thank you for that. And we're going to come right back to that, but, um,Mischa Z: 00:04:47 I was thinking of words to say, when I was going to introduce you before, right. As we're coming onto this, and of course I didn't write them down. And so now I'm trying to remember what they were. Right. But they were like, uh, like, um, like open, uh, I don't know. I don't know if raw the right word, but vulnerable, perhaps like there's no. Um, one thing I love about you is that there's that, that wall that can be there between people, at least between you and I is like, just melts away really quick. Right. So we get to be vulnerable and authentic and all those cool are all those words that we hear thrown about. Right. Um, I'd also say I pay for this coaching group that I'm in and it's kind of pricey. And I have this coach who's amazing. And, um, his name's Vince, Hey, Vince, if you're listening, love you. I know you love Vince. I would. I know that you have an opportunity and Vince has been incredibly powerful in my life. And then Vince, oftentimes we'll get some coaching or maybe I shouldn't say this on the air, but, um, I know that he, you and him have a relationship and you've been powerful in his life. So I'm just trying to let the audience know that you have a powerful, useful message by a couple of however, I'm using a couple of degrees of separation to help help with that. Yeah.Sheryne Wilson: 00:06:15 Yes. I work with all walks of life and Vince has been one of those people that I've had the pleasure of working with and he's helped me and I've been able to help him. So, yeah.Mischa Z: 00:06:26 Yeah. So go ahead. No, no, that's it. Yeah. So that's our proof of, that's our, that's our social proof. Like you're legit. You, you bring real solutions to the world, I guess is what I'm trying to say. Um, I want to go back to, so you said NLP, and then you said language it's about language, but then you, I don't want to say hedged a little bit, but you're like, well, maybe most people talk about NLP. They don't talk about language or they don't talk about it in language the same way you do. Or maybe tell me what you, what, what what's, what's going on there?Sheryne Wilson: 00:07:03 Well, in NLP, everybody has an internal representation of the world and we filter information as it comes in and everybody deletes and distorts what comes into their mind, you know, because we can only take in so much information, we take in 123 bits, um, versus we're receiving 40 billion bits per, per minute at, uh, like just flat per second, I think at a time. And so our unconscious mind and our conscious brain, can't actually, I should say our conscious mind, can't take it all in. So we got to like sift through it. Right. And that's why when you know, I go to the park, I may see, I may notice all the trees and you go to the park and you notice the, the shiny slide. And, you know, I say, you know, it was the highlight of the park for you. And you're like the shiny slide.Sheryne Wilson: 00:07:51 And for me, it was the trees. And that goes, that goes into our unconscious mind of what we value is what we filter through. Right. And so, you know, I, I value, like I may walk into a show home and be like, oh, I love how bright it is. And you may be like, oh, I don't like how cold it is. And so that's an internal representation right there of what you value, you know, because you're perceiving it as different. I don't even notice that it's cold in there. I noticed that the coloring that makes it cold or whatever that is, but you notice it because you value a different thing. And so it's really interesting how language can do that. And I think it's so important for people to take the time to break down what words mean to them, what symbols mean to them?Sheryne Wilson: 00:08:37 I like the word happy. What does that mean to you versus what does it mean to me, connection? What does that mean to you? What does that mean to me? And when you start to understand that, then you have a bit of a better perspective of what's happening, right? If you can, he, who has the most knowledge or has the most terrain has the most power. Right. So if I can see more and understand more, I have more choice. I have more power versus if I'm, you know, only have one perspective and very narrow-minded, well, that could limit me in my power. So that's, that's what I mean by language is, is I like NLP because it breaks down barriers using language. And so often if I'm working with a client and you know, they're telling me something, I asked them what it means to them. What does that word actually mean to you? Does that word mean to you? Yeah. And it's, it's amazing what you will learn about somebody when they start to, um, describe what something means to them. You're like, oh, I see how that's valuable. Okay. See what I see. That's important to you. Oh, that's interesting. So that's cool. Sorry. I tangent. Did I lose you? Cause you glazed over.Mischa Z: 00:09:55 No, no. I'm taking it in and I'm, I'm, I'm liking it. I'm I'm In a good waySheryne Wilson: 00:10:03 I'm a Hypnotherapist. I do put people in tance.Mischa Z: 00:10:06 Um, so in her mind, performance, inner I N N E R mind performance.com. So anybody listening, those of you who are listening, um, go, while we're talking, you can go to www.innermindperformance.com and, and follow along there. Um, but, uh, Sheryne. So hypnotherapy, tell me about hypnotherapy as you described NLP. To me, describe hypnotherapy to me.Sheryne Wilson: 00:10:40 I think NLP is a type of hypnotherapy. It is, um, I mean, we are in some kind of hypnosis 98%. I would say I've had even some colleagues say a hundred percent of the time we are in some form of hypnosis. And hypnosis is just, you know, a focus state of trance, um, it's a focus state when you're directed at something. So within three minutes, sorry, within three seconds of picking up your phone, you're in trance. You're, it's just, you're glued in you're there. When you, when within seven seconds of the television turning on, you're in a trance. Within five seconds, five to 10 seconds getting in your car and you're in a trance. It's automatic. It's, it's a very focused state. And a lot of the times, um, our unconscious mind, once you get to an auto, uh, an automatic response, our unconscious mind takes over how many times have you driven home? And you're like, I don't consciously remember going home. Like, did I turn, you know, did I turn past the store or not?Mischa Z: 00:11:47 What was it? Was there? Yeah. What was the weather like?Sheryne Wilson: 00:11:53 Your unconscious mind, like I've, and you've heard me say this before. It's like a GPS. And so you punch it in what you want to do and your unconscious mind directs your mind and your body and the rest of you to go do it. So hypnosis is really, um, we're dialing in on an, a, on a, on a very focused state for a purposeful reason. And so hypnotherapy is, you know, um, if we want to do a psychological change work, because you're stuck in an area in your life. Or you've experienced trauma, you can't let that go. And often, you know, we have open loops. So to say, just like you have open tabs on your computer, we have open loops. And if you know this, if you have a ton of tabs open on your computer, how well does it run?Mischa Z: 00:12:36 It just gets bogged down. And yeah, it's just, a nightmare. Yeah.Sheryne Wilson: 00:12:40 Hypnotherapy and hypnosis is a way to go in and to close, gently close. Some of those open loops of, you know, oh, "I was never good enough when I was a child." "I'm never good enough when I was child" and that plays over and over and over again. And oh, like, you know, "I wonder why my ex left me." "Why did my ex leave me?" "I don't know, was it because I'm not good enough?" And that's a lot of energy even to, um, you know, how many times have you laid in bed at night? "Ah, did I, did I pack my kid's lunch?" "Do I need to get up early and pack my kid's lunch?" "Did I pack it, did I put ahh, where did I put the?" "where did I put my keys?" "Where's my passport?" "Oh Shit where's this?" Like, and those are open loops.Sheryne Wilson: 00:13:15 Right. And so hypnotherapy is a way to go in and close those loops. Okay. Um, yeah. And so it's, it's deep, psychological change work is what we call it. And often it has to do with regression in going back into the past and closing those loops because a lot of the instances that are open still happened between the ages of zero and 12. And so that is when we are most, um, what's the word, uh, malleable. Most, uh, susceptible to change. Where are the most susceptible to influence it's, it's the ages where, um, we're in theta states. So we're, we're a sponge. People say, kids are like sponges and they are, that is their unconscious mind is in a place of just download it, being downloaded information. And so sometimes that information is not very good. Right. And so we have to go back and reprogram the unconscious mind so that you can make a different behavior. So you can make think a different thought, choose a different behavior and get a different result.Mischa Z: 00:14:16 That's a great way to say it there.Sheryne Wilson: 00:14:18 I think I stole that from Vince, Like, honestly, like, I don't know how many times I've seen him write this on a whiteboard when he was, when he did some coaching for me. And I was like, yes, that's right, right. Vince is really good at listening. And we're just going to talk about Vince for a second listening and then like spitting out an answer, you know, like being like, oh, you mean like this? And I'm like, yes, like fill in gaps is great.Mischa Z: 00:14:46 And his knowledge is so deep. It's unbelievable. The more I get to have interactions with him more I'm like, God dang. Like, wow. Yeah. Yeah. Cool. Um, so how did you stumble across, was it NLP first or hypnotherapy first or both at the same time?Sheryne Wilson: 00:15:07 That's so interesting that you said that, sorry, I didn't mean to interrupt you. Got your question. Okay. Yeah. Um, how did I stumble across? Well, like I'd mentioned before, so, um, my father, here's the long story. Cause we like deep don't we, we like to go a little spiritual and woo woo. The long story is, is that I actually wanted to be a doctor. And then my father ended up getting sick. Um, he had cancer and he passed away. And after that I realized I didn't want to be a doctor. And so after being in health and wellness for over 10 years, at that time, I decided to go in a completely different direction. I went into business and marketing and uh, got it.Mischa Z: 00:15:50 I asked you a question. How deep are you into the doctor path? Are you like getting you're in university? You're getting your bachelor's you're gettingSheryne Wilson: 00:15:59 Yeah. Yeah. I was on the dot, like I was in, on advanced, um, uh, like nursing program so that I could go into like, so it basically pre-med, it's going to medicine and I was applying for the faculty of medicine, which is like a preliminary program for medicine. So I had a long ways to go don't get me wrong. But yeah, it was, I wasMischa Z: 00:16:21 On the path. Yeah. I was on the path.Sheryne Wilson: 00:16:25 I was like, I'm going to do it. Yeah.Mischa Z: 00:16:28 And so dad gets they'll go ahead. I didn't. So dad, are you and dad? ASheryne Wilson: 00:16:35 Yeah, my dad was my best friend. Yeah. Okay.Mischa Z: 00:16:38 So this is a heavy yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Bitch Slap moment kind of obviously.Sheryne Wilson: 00:16:43 Okay. Yeah. If we want to get real, for sure. My dad had health issues and his entirely, he was a type one diabetic. And so I learned at a very young age, like by the age of, I think, five I've learned, I learned when my dad was in, had low blood sugar and I learned how to give him an injection. I learned like my mom was really good at teaching me and my brother when something was wrong with dad, because I mean, and this is like 20 years ago, 20 plus years ago when they didn't have, um, the insulin packs that they have now. Right? Like they didn't have monitoring on your body where your little thing would be if you went low or whatever. Yeah. The technology, right. It was like, we had to smell his breath. We had to watch his behavior. We had to see, you know, if he is broached, blood, sugar was dropping.Sheryne Wilson: 00:17:29 And, and so anyway, he needs to say he had a lot of health issues. So I always knew in the back of my mind, my mom always prepared this at like dad isn't the strongest physically. And so we need to be appreciative of that. And so I knew, and you know, as an adult, you know, your parents aren't gonna live forever. Um, but I had no idea it would happen that soon. And I didn't think it'd be cancer that blindsided me. I thought it would be like, you know, I had done so much research in pre-med, uh, around diabetes and type one diabetes. And I thought it would be organ failure. I thought it would be, you know, kidney failure, heart disease. That's kind of the things that follow with diabetes. And then it was like, he got this rare cancer, like only seen in 17% of the population, blonde hair, blue eyed, Scandinavians, like in his eye, he got cancer in his eye.Sheryne Wilson: 00:18:20 And it's like, what? Like a rare melanoma in his eye. And it's like, that kinda like shocked all of us. And the doctors didn't really know much about it. And they kind of were like, well, we're just gonna treat it normally. And it's not a big deal. And then later we found out this is a very aggressive cancer and that it can spread almost instantly. And melanoma spreads very fast. Um, and it did it spread to his liver and his lungs and his spine right away. And so within a very short amount of time, he got very sick and um, I put everything on hold and I took care of him and he was my best friend. And it was a no brainer for me. It was like, like I remember my brother would be like, what are you going to do? And I'm like, give me more.Sheryne Wilson: 00:19:09 Am I going to do, I'm dropping out, like, I'm stopping everything. I'm taking that. And he's like, oh, okay. Like, I just was like, this is my best friend. What, what, you know? And, um, I had no idea what it would look like. And that is the scariest thing for anyone who's lost a parent or loved one with cancer. You don't know what it looks like. You don't know how long you have. You don't know how fast it goes. You don't know what it looks like. Some people rarely do they die peacefully in your sleep. That's what I've learned. Yeah. It can be quite ugly. Yeah. It's really gross. Um, so yeah, and I took care of him and it was such a beautiful experience because I learned the value of life and, and I've done a lot of grief talks. If anybody wants, I have spoken for a number of, uh, workshops and, uh, things around grief because it was such a beautiful experience for me. And I've been in contact there's death, doulas. Now death doulas is a thing I would have paid money back then to have a death doula. Like, cause you just don't know to have someone come in and be like, Hey, this is what you need to expect. This is the process. Like, it's like, it's just like having a baby. Right. You have noMischa Z: 00:20:21 End of life doula. Yeah. I interviewed, you can go back to the interviews. It's like interview 17 or something. Mel, Cavindish (Actually Mel McClave interview #12 https://bitch-slap-the-accelerated-path-to-peace.simplecast.com/episodes/interview-12-mel-mcclave-wants-to-talk-death. ) or name a great interview. She's a death doula, but it was awesome. I mean, it was so good. Yeah. SoSheryne Wilson: 00:20:37 Thankfully there was a grief counselor that was really involved and kind of, kind of knew like the death stuff. And, and so it was great, beautiful because it taught me the value of life. Like you don't really understand life until you've just experienced death. And he died in my dad. My dad died in my arms and it was so beautiful and horrible at the same time because this, this is like, he was my best friend. I'm the only man I think I ever truly trusted in life. And he, he was just such a beautiful soul. And um, thankfully I have a lot of his, his legacy and characteristics in me, but it, it, it taught me so much in that moment. Like you really only have one life. Like, and my dad said to me, cause I'm like, dad, do I like who I marry?Sheryne Wilson: 00:21:26 And you know, I'm having this. And we, he, we talked everyday about it. My dad was very open about the dying and we talked about everything and, and you name it, everything we talked about. And I just remember, sorry, I'm kind of rambling. But I remember him saying like sharing. It doesn't matter if you want to be a truck driver, be a truck driver or you want to be a garbage truck driver. Be it be the best garbage truck driver ever. Like nobody cares. Just own it. And just like, if that's your purpose and passion, then do that. Because I was like, dad, I don't know. Do I keep being a doctor? And he was like, I don't care. And as long as you are fulfilling your purpose, he didn't say it like happy. My dad was never like happy. Like my dad was never one of those people's like, do what makes you happy?Sheryne Wilson: 00:22:12 My dad was very like, he was an accountant. So it was very logical. You what's purposeful. Right. And he's going to balance the books. God it. Right. Very much. And so he was, had a practical side of him, but he's like, yeah, like live out your purpose and be, be passionate. And I'm like, okay, because he didn't have regrets, but he had a list of things he hadn't accomplished yet. And that was like a big moment. And he said to me on his death bed, he said to me, I don't have regrets, but I do wish I had gone to more of your games. I do wish we had taken more vacations. I wish I'd taken the darn sick days. You know, I, at the end of the day, cause guess what? His boss, uh, 40 years, wasn't there. The day that the day my dad died.Sheryne Wilson: 00:22:58 I mean, yeah, they sent him a card, but like, you know, all the things he had given himself to in the end, it was really only 20 family members around them. You know, my dad was in charge of many organizations. He was, did non-profit. He did all these things. He'd given 40 years to a company. And yet there's only 20 people around him at the, at the end. And that, that was a wake up call to me. And that's when it was like the slap, it started began. I began, the grief didn't happen that when he died, it was moving on with life afterwards and going, oh my God, like the person that was my best friend is no longer here. Let alone my father. And so I, I did have PTSD. I did have depression. I had horrible anxiety, all my abandonment issues. Every, every emotion I'd ever felt in my life came flooding in. I learned to mop my floors a lot. Um, like it was very like,Mischa Z: 00:23:59 What else am I going to do? Is that what you mean? When you say mop the floors? It's like, this is what I know to do. That's what I can do. Yeah. I'd love that. Yeah.Sheryne Wilson: 00:24:09 And I went back to landscaping. I had to get back to some roots. And so like in my younger years I had landscaped and I called up this guy that I used to landscape and I'm like, I just, I just need to plant some flowers every day for the next few months. And I did until I figured out what I wanted to do and super powerful. Anyways, long story short, this is a long story long.Mischa Z: 00:24:32 Good.Sheryne Wilson: 00:24:33 I ended up, you know, because I, all those emotions, I ended up getting sick myself because I still hadn't let go. I blamed myself on some level. I blamed myself that I didn't save him. That if only I had known more, if only I had been a doctor, if only all these things. And so I had to really let go and all that emotional turmoil plus the stress. Um, I had moved many times, like I put my body through hell and within the first three to five years of my dad passing. And if you do the research, a lot of auto-immune diseases come within the first three to five years of trauma. Yeah. Specifically the death of a loved one. Wow. Yeah. They say within two years of losing a loved one, you are so susceptible to cancer and auto-immune your chances are like crazy.Sheryne Wilson: 00:25:29 Wow. Because it's, your body is in such a state of stress. Yeah. And emotional and physical. So lo and behold, all these autoimmunes came up. And uh, yeah. I started to heal myself naturally. Uh, you know, I did juicing, I did Ravi and I mean, you can go to my website. I list all the things that I did. I did over 30 different modalities. And in the process, in the journey, I did something called bioenergetics, natural bioenergetics, which is dealing with the emotional side and the psychology of emotions as well as the physical side in traditional Chinese medicine. Okay. There's NLP in wa woven into it. And so I noticed incredible change when I started seeing this practitioner who became my mentor and I was like, whatever, this is, I'm going to do it. WhoMischa Z: 00:26:19 Was the, who's your, who was it? Who was your mentor? Who is your mentor?Sheryne Wilson: 00:26:22 Um, she was Linda Easthouse and she, um, she has her own practice out of, uh, Mexico now. Okay, cool. And, uh, so she's semi retired but not retired. She's one of those people I think will never retire. Yes, yes. Uh, so she, she was my teacher and my mentor and taught me some incredible things and work with me every week for probably I think about a year. Okay. I read and saw her every week to deal with the physical, emotional trauma while doing all the physical modalities that I listed on my website. And that's how I was able to heal myself. But in that process, I came across an LP and, and, you know, I, the funny thing is if you know anything about marketing and business, NLP is very heavily woven into marketing and, and business. Yes.Mischa Z: 00:27:08 Like the ad people are like opening loops on us. Right. They're like,Sheryne Wilson: 00:27:13 Yes, absolutely. Right. The, just the way they were things from come by us, us too, wouldn't your life be so much better if you bought this, you know? And it's like, I don't know what it is. Let me show you how, like, there's just, so NLP is just so it's like sleight of mouth, which is what Tony Robbins actually does is he uses a technique called sleight of mouth, which is just very much, um, yeah. Getting people to think and draw them in. And then you make that quick change. Um, can you raise a very powerful technique? And so I actually became certified in bioenergetics first and did that for two years, health coaching, and then really wanted to go deeper. I wanted to get more into trauma counseling and trauma coaching, and I really wanted to blow people's minds. So I got into NLP hypnotherapy, timeline therapy, also incorporated matrix energetics, um, theta healing, EFT. And you just go to like, once you're hooked, you're you just spiral down into all the modalities. And originally I said, I wanna, I want to pick the top 10 modalities that changed my life and I want to learn them, master them. And then I want to help other people change their life with them. So that's what I did. So, um, yeah, it's been fun.Mischa Z: 00:28:33 That is beautiful. Thank you for that. Um, so... Tell me if this is a naive or I don't know if nieve way to say it, but if I hear, I think all of the stuff you just said, it's like, it's all to change the pattern is that kind of change that Mo that, that pattern, right? Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Um, like as far as the NLP is concerned, what are the, like the three someone listening's like, well, NLP sounds cool or low, but actually before we go there, Tony Robbins, the slight of mouth technique is he he's using that technique. You don't need to tell me what it is necessarily yet, but he uses that technique. So that draws the person in and opens them up. And so then he can, he can affect change or,Sheryne Wilson: 00:29:28 And then he's quantum linguistics. So it's very, like, he's uses a lot of commands. Right. And so once you draw somebody in and you have influence, then you can command. And so that is like Tony Robbins is not the master of NLP, just so everybody knows, like you didn't even finish his NLP courses. Right. You just took two, two techniques out of NLP and just nice them down and mastered them. And he just uses them and it works on people. That's cool.Mischa Z: 00:29:59 Yeah.Sheryne Wilson: 00:30:00 And then quantum linguistics is it's very much once you have drawn them in, you know, and it's slight of mouth very much, like can be very sarcastic too. Um, well, "wouldn't you like to know?", You know, um, yeah, well that's because like, it's very sarcastic, it's very jokey and it's like, well, "if you wanted that you would go get it." And it's like, yeah, "I guess I would". And then he, he takes it a step further and he uses some, the linguistic, uh, quantum linguistics to kind of add in some embedded commands. Um, which is another technique that is really powerful. And then like, "so go do that". Right. You know, that's kind of, that's kind of what NLP and people don't even realize that it's happening unless you were just sit down and unless someone like myself, um, can pull it out and I'm like, oh, okay. I see what you're doing there.Mischa Z: 00:30:59 So who did he learn from, or who was his teacher? Who would, as far as you're aware? Huh?Sheryne Wilson: 00:31:05 I think learn from Tad James. Okay. Or could have been Richard Bandler. Those are kind of the top two, um, gurus out there. I'm sure there's more, please. Don't be offended if you're listening to this. And you're like, I know they're like, no, you got it wrong. Yeah. I may have.Mischa Z: 00:31:23 Yeah. Right. Yeah. No, we're just having fun. We're just bantering. We're just talking aboutSheryne Wilson: 00:31:29 Tad James.Mischa Z: 00:31:30 Well, I'll tell you what I think is so interesting about, and this is not no reflection of Tony Robbins. I think of the, but when I hear sleight of mouth, right. Um, unlike that almost bring, makes me as a slight negative connotation to me and not, not Tony, but that like the technique I'm like, oh, why does that, why does that, it's an interesting question. Why does that chat me just a little bit? Like using slight of mouth on me? You know what I mean? Like, you know what I'm saying? Does that make sense or not like, it's an interesting, go ahead.Sheryne Wilson: 00:32:08 NLP can have a bad rap because it can be very manipulative in marketing. There's a fine line. And I think it's important that you have ethics and morals around it. And when I did my NLP, we went over ethics and morals, um, and how to use it. And when you use it, because it is, it does put people in a trance, it is formulated, there is so much, it's intertwined with hypnotherapy and hypnosis and it does put people in a trance and you need to be careful how you, how you do things because you can manipulate people. Um, anybody you can use language to manipulate anyone. Yeah.Mischa Z: 00:32:41 Yeah. If people are trying to do it all the time, marketers, right. They're trying to influence our actions or get us to buy products or switch companies or go to Verizon versus AT&T, right. Like,Sheryne Wilson: 00:32:55 Yeah. Like "wouldn't you want to protect your family?" W w like, "don't, you want to protect your family,?" "Come to AT&T" we'll put like what, oh, okay. It can be very, you know, um, accusing accusatory. It can be very, uh, manipulating. Um, yeah. But, but it works too. So there's, there's a right way and a wrong way, I would say of using it. Um, but it's out there. If you actually study the news, it's, it's, it's interwoven in everything. Every president has their own neuro-linguistic program or trainer to teach them how to talk. That's amazing.Mischa Z: 00:33:34 Yeah.Sheryne Wilson: 00:33:34 Yeah. That's how powerful. This is the top CEOs in the world, all know NLP. Um, most companies have their own NLP trainers, Vince, new NLP, like, yeah. All of my guys have like studied NLP, like, because it's such a powerful use of language. You can manipulate people to get, do what you want them to do.Mischa Z: 00:33:56 Wow. Um,Sheryne Wilson: 00:33:58 So I just use it to get people to do what they want to do on themselves. Right. Right.Mischa Z: 00:34:02 Use it as a tool out of the yeah.Sheryne Wilson: 00:34:04 To get them out of your head.Mischa Z: 00:34:06 Yeah. So cool. So, and then if we were to just generalize, we'd say like the S the strategy of NLP is to help you used for good using the force for good is to help you or somebody, uh, change their thought pattern to a more productive or less negative, or however you want to say that. Right. So, yeah. Is that, yeah.Sheryne Wilson: 00:34:30 I would say it's tricking your mind into doing what you wanted to do. Oh, I love that.Mischa Z: 00:34:34 Um, so cool. So what are, like, tell me some, tell me some, uh, some tactics within that, like, cool. We've got this cool strategy. We're going to, we're going to trick our mind and to doing what we wanted to do. So like, gimme some, uh, anyone listening, like give him, throw, throw them a bone. Let's, let's get let's when we got,Sheryne Wilson: 00:34:55 Um, yeah. So there's some words that are really powerful that automatically trigger people to take action, and those words are, NEED, WANT, HAVE, MUST, AND WILL, is also in there. And so, um, if I was talking to you and it's like, um, or if I need to do something, I will be like, I need to go do this. And that can trigger something in your unconscious mind to take action. Um, and everybody's different, but those are kind of the top five, the NEED, WANT, HAVE, MUST, and WILL. And so if you, if you're like, I will go do this, I must go do this. I'm going to go do this. Like a lot of things, people think I am is really powerful. It's not as powerful as I must. And, uh, uh, I will, and I have to, and I want to, and I need to. And so that's a trick that you can do, um, is you can literally say that, like, I must go do the dishes. I need to go do the dishes. I want to go do the dishes. I will go do the dishes. Um, and you can say that, and that will supercharge your unconscious mind because it's an embedded command that we've learned from such a young age to go do something. Right.Mischa Z: 00:36:06 I love that. That's a good one. Yeah. Thank you for that. So that's a great tip. So again, people can follow along at www.innermindperformance.com or www.toolsforagoodlifesummit.com is where they can listen to you. I interview you. I do two interviews. We do the general session, and then we do the VIP session. I can't remember which one it was in, but you were like, and use the, what was that example you gave? It was so great. I hope, I hope it comes to me quick. I was like, um,Sheryne Wilson: 00:36:38 I hope it comes through, cause I can't rememberMischa Z: 00:36:40 It. Well, you were like, you were like, you were like, put the question on your, your, your like, form the question. You're like form the question, put it on your, on a note or a sticky on your mirror or something. And then the subconscious mind will work to answer the question. Right. And so you're like somebody hates doing this dishes and you're like, I it's something about all of a sudden now they're doing the dishes. Sorry audience.Sheryne Wilson: 00:37:12 No, it's very much like, um, you know, uh, "what would my life look like if I enjoy doing the dishes" or, um, "how easy would it be for me to do the dishes every day?" Um, and, and not answering that question, just leaving it up there and watching your unconscious mind figure out the answer. Um, cause a lot of people think that it's a lot of work. The unconscious mind is so much, it's 30,000 times more powerful than the conscious mind. And so if you can get it embedded in your unconscious mind, it will take over and you'll take action. And so the whole, like I love, I get a lot of my clients to get this. "If, if this was no longer a problem in my life, how much time and energy would I have". And then the unconscious mind goes, "well, we want time and energy, why don't we solve this problem?" Like, you know, and it starts to look for an answer. "What would my life look like if this was no longer a problem in my life?" You know, "if this was no longer a problem in my life, how much time and energy would I have?" "What will I do with all the time and energy that I have that now that this is no longer a problem in my life?"Mischa Z: 00:38:14 And so I love that. And I love that thought. And the subconscious mind starts working to answer that question.Sheryne Wilson: 00:38:21 I walk away and you go, you know, eat a piece of chocolate, go for a walk. And the next thing, you know, as you're figuring out your life's problems and you're like, oh, how did that,Mischa Z: 00:38:31 So would you have somebody write that down? Or like walk me through. So it's like, okay, go ahead.Sheryne Wilson: 00:38:37 Yeah. Yeah. So a lot of my clients, I get them to write it on a sticky and put it on their mirror in the morning. Um, I would say first thing in the morning, especially when you get out of the shower, um, because your neural networks are most, are really lit at that time. So to say, and so yeah, the shower look in the mirror and be like, just say it out loud, three times, you don't need to answer it. Like this is, this is not a cognitive thinking thing. This is just, okay, what would my life look, feel? And sound like, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, or whatever the question is that they need to ask. And they just say it out loud three times, and then they go away and then they say it again before bed. Um, and so that is a technique that you can use and I get them to do it for as long as it takes until I would say anywhere from two weeks to three weeks, seems to be about the time. And then by the end of 30 plus days, it's no longer a problem. It's not even, they're like, yeah, I have so much time energy to figure everything out. Like I got thisMischa Z: 00:39:36 Any, you don't need to say any names, but any real word. What's the top real world example of that, where you've helped one of your clients do that. Can you give like a real life? IfSheryne Wilson: 00:39:49 I would say every single one of my clients? Um, because once I think a lot of, I think as humans and, and the time and energy one is big because we've been taught that everything takes time and energy, right? And time and energy is important. It's a valuable thing. You're very valuable. And so I would say every single one of my clients, no matter what it is, if it's, you know, I want to lose weight. If I changed jobs, make more money, no longer be sick, whatever it is. I put the time in and how much time and energy will I have when I work out every day, how much time and energy will I have when I lose 10 pounds, you know, what will my life look out? Look like, you know, how much time and energy we'll have when this is no longer a problem, my life insert the problem.Sheryne Wilson: 00:40:36 Um, and I would see every single one of my clients after the three weeks are like, oh my gosh, I have so much time and energy because it also changes their focus of where it's going. Because focusing on the problem as part of the problem, focusing on the problems, part of the problem, right? And so they're now thinking about how can I create more time and energy, because this is no longer a problem in my life because my unconscious mind is taking care of it. I'm taking care of it. And so what else can I do? Because the unconscious mind likes direction. It likes to do shit. And so many times once I sit, I sit down with a client, they got chaos, chaos in their life. They got destruction. The world's burning down because they're bored. What happens to a toddler when you leave them alone for too longMischa Z: 00:41:24 By God,Sheryne Wilson: 00:41:26 What happens to toddler? When you leave himMischa Z: 00:41:28 Alone for too long, they're going to wreak havocSheryne Wilson: 00:41:31 Markers on the wall. Legos kicked over, brothers, sisters locked in the cupboard. Like we are wired when we're bored, we will create anything, including Cray chaos. So give yourself something to do, stop, stop creating the problem.Mischa Z: 00:41:53 Oh my God.Sheryne Wilson: 00:41:55 You know, it's so funny when people come to me and they're like, I'm not good at manifesting. You know, I've been divorced three times and you know, I've lost my job. And like, I have health issues. I'm like, you are very good at manifesting. You are very good at manifesting. Your bored and your bored. We need to get that energy because it's the same thing. That's like, you know, they're very good at creating destruction,Mischa Z: 00:42:22 Dig a ditch. Right.Sheryne Wilson: 00:42:26 You, and so it's like, give your unconscious mind something to do. Stop destroying relationships, stop with the destroying habits in your life. Stop eating at night. Like people that people know what we eat because we're bored. We'll do something. Right. It's a default mechanism when we're bored, we will resort to creating anything, including destruction. So true. Right.Mischa Z: 00:42:51 So true. Just like throwing little, little toddlers throwing temper tantrums. Oh my God.Sheryne Wilson: 00:43:03 Unconscious minds board. So it's like post up today. LikeMischa Z: 00:43:08 You had to manifest something. How about another destroyed relation, destroyed relationship.Sheryne Wilson: 00:43:16 That much dysfunction. I'm scared. I'm like, wow. You are powerful.Mischa Z: 00:43:20 I love that idea though. Wow. If you could just shift the, uh, you know, the, I didn't know, shift the intention or I dunno what the right word is there. The focus, the focus. Thank you. The focus. Oh my gosh. That's so, so good. Um, that's a new way to look at the destructive patterns in my life. Oh my God. I am so powerful. Manifesting. I just need a new focus. I love it. Um, I'm going to press, you knowSheryne Wilson: 00:43:52 This because I've done it myself,Mischa Z: 00:43:54 Right?Sheryne Wilson: 00:43:56 Wow. I'm really good at manifesting chaos like crazy. What if I write my best friend? He says to me, he, whenever I I'm like trying to enter mine, he goes, you know, it takes one to know one,Mischa Z: 00:44:17 So true. Um, all right. I'm going to press you a little bit on, I want to, I want a specific example of where you Jedi tricked the person with your little thing there with, with that tool of, um, sorry to do that too. I should've let you know beforehand. It had been a lot easier.Sheryne Wilson: 00:44:39 Go on a specific example of what,Mischa Z: 00:44:42 Of, where you your were doing, where you're like, Hey, ask this question and when you're out of the shower and when you go to bed, like, what is, uh, what is one of your clients? We don't need the name, but like, this was there. This was the real world problem. And we got the real word solution utilizing this technique, perhaps some others as well. But do you understand what I'm saying?Sheryne Wilson: 00:45:04 Okay. Two clients are coming to mind. One. She had been, um, I would say she was in a, in a very tumultuous relationship for many years and then ended it, but never got over it. Like your heart was broken. And she was, I would say chronically depressed. Um, for four years, been in counseling for four years, just like living lifeless for four years. Um, you know, the nine to five or whatever, and she couldn't get over. And I remember I got her to do this specifically. I mean, I had worked with her too, but I think it was, you know, something around. I can't remember what it was. This is a while ago. Um, like a few years ago. I think I got her to ask the question. Um, what would I do? Yeah. How happy that's, what was, "how happy would I be knowing that I've let go of insert person's name?"Sheryne Wilson: 00:46:04 Um, "How happy would I be knowing that I let go of this person and that I now have the power to choose what I get to do with my life." Something along those lines, a very empowered I remember had to do with how happy would I be? And within two weeks she, um, she comes through one of her appointments and she goes, we have a problem. And I said, what? She goes well for the first time in four years, I don't think I've ever been so productive. And I said, what do you mean? She's like, I planted my garden. Hadn't touched my garden for years, planted my garden. She said, I've changed jobs. Um, and she didn't like her job and she's like, I'm back. I got on a dating website and she's like, I actually think I'm happy. Like, I actually think I'm experiencing joy again.Sheryne Wilson: 00:46:52 She actually didn't know we had to go through a whole process. Feels like, cause sometimes people legitimately forget. And so I was like, okay, let's start identifying that. There's happiness in your life. And, and uh, yeah, it was really cool. And uh, she went on and like, honestly after that, she just like, she didn't know what to, she didn't even know what to do with herself. I mean, she was like for four years, I feel like I've just wasted my life. And, and now I'm like planting a garden and, and moving on. And so that, and it literally, it was, I got her to do it. She was probably doing it. I think I had her do it, put it on her steering wheel of her car. So every time she got in her car, she had to say it out loud. Um, she did a lot of driving, so she was, we had multiple times a day asking that question and yeah. Transformational. Yeah. Beautiful.Mischa Z: 00:47:44 And what was the other one that came to mind?Sheryne Wilson: 00:47:46 Um, again, it was around love again and I think it was like, what would I do? Um, I think it was how fulfilled. No, "if I knew how much I love myself, um, how much, how much could someone love me." "If I knew how much I love myself how much could someone love me?" And, uh, again, similar situation been through divorce. Hadn't dated in a year or years. Long time was looking to get back into that, but was struggling to feel worthy to date again and like, oh my God. But then a month she had men bowing to her and she's like going on. And like, she also started to really respect herself and she wasn't dating just these lack of a better term douche bags. She doesn't use bags anymore. And she started dating he's high standard, respectable men. And I was like, whoa, how this is powerful. And she's like, she still just says the man the mantra today. Um, and yeah, this is, she started saying a couple of years ago, but very powerful, very powerful technique.Mischa Z: 00:48:56 So good. Um, and again, everybody listening go to toolsforagoodlifesummit.com and you spoke on, I believe it was day one, mind day. And then there's also the VIP bonus interview where you drop, not only that Bob, but like, you're just, I mean, it was so powerful that the tools and the insights and, uh, um, like actionable content. Right. That's what I love is you were just like, here's a platter of actionable content to,Sheryne Wilson: 00:49:29 Because I don't usually do actionable content.Mischa Z: 00:49:32 Yeah. We, we sussed it out of you.Sheryne Wilson: 00:49:36 Right? You did. I'm so I'm so impressed. Usually I'm just like, I dunno, you just do it. You just do it on my table. It come, you know, book an appointment with me. We'll fix it. Yeah.Mischa Z: 00:49:46 Well you'll, you'll help if someone where someone goes, oh my gosh, urine's amazing. They call you up. You're going to obviously got to dig a little bit. Like, what's the issue? What are we going to work on? What technique do I want to apply? Where right. Like what what's best fit given, uh, given the, uh, the progress they want to make, I guess, but, and of course, innermindperformance.com. They can go there too. So I wrote down a few questions. I always like to, to take a moment and thank you for indulging me with all that. And, um, and I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna try to think of something to put within framework, hold on, put within your framework. So the next time we talk, I can be like, Hey, I used that little trick and here's what it was. Right. So I'm going to, I'm going to think about that offline. I'll I'll come up with something and try it for the next time we talk. But I like to take like, Hey, source universe, infinite intelligence, God, call it whatever the heck you want. Like, you know, w w like, what are some questions? So here, are you ready?Sheryne Wilson: 00:50:56 I'm ready. Are you channeling? Is thatMischa Z: 00:50:58 What you're saying? I'm set. I did earlier, before I got on the call, I wrote down a few things. And so one of them was, I thought, what an opportunity to, cause I'm a guy or a girl or a man woman, however you want to say it. I was like, I wrote down, what's the biggest difference between men and women and how they deal, how they deal, or we could say how they deal with blank. That's what I got to. What's the, my question to you. What's the biggest difference between men and women and how we deal you fill in the blank.Sheryne Wilson: 00:51:34 Oh, wow. I think in how they deal with life and perception. Okay.Mischa Z: 00:51:43 Tell me thenSheryne Wilson: 00:51:47 This would require a full nother podcast. As I love talking about gender roles, and I love talking about programming and the pro or the programming that's come with gender, um, and gender roles. And, and I hope that doesn't offend anybody when I say gender, but I mean like the masculine and the feminine, um, yeah, I think, you know, the earliest programming is women are taught and, and I think that's changing. Um, but for definitely like our generation and up, I would say it's very much been, uh, women are less than and weaker. And, um, that's been a negative thing and, uh, men are, you know, stronger and women are sensitive, right? Women are sensitive and men are, you know, emotionally unavailable. Right. And, and men, I think like I literally have the picture of like a man in a suit with a briefcase walking down the street, logically, going to work and motionless, right.Sheryne Wilson: 00:53:01 Like emotionless, I should say. And a woman at home in the kitchen, um, you know, crying over a sad movie. And, and like, that is what I picture when you were talking that, because that is the program that I received at a young age. And what I have learned is that makes it difficult for men and women to relate because now we've created a barrier and we've created labels. And if you've ever heard me speak on clubhouse or anywhere, I hate labels, hate labels. I hate labels. I hate titles. I hate, I hate it when we do that. And I get why we do it so that we can compartmentalize and relate to what's going on. Cause we need to remember, I talked about distort, delete and filter what's happening. So it's a way that we filter things, but it does put things in a box. And what it, what it does is it says that women are overly sensitive and men are, you know, emotionally unavailable. Right. And I would say that makes it very difficult for men and women to be in connection and communication. If those are, if those are the, the labels and the programs that we've set before us,Sheryne Wilson: 00:54:27 I could go so deep into this,Mischa Z: 00:54:29 We have a few minutes. So don't, don't be scared if there's more you want to say, or you want me to ask a question if you're, if there's something on the tip of your tongue,Sheryne Wilson: 00:54:37 I think I, we can go a little bit. Woo Woo. I think, you know, I think the feminine, here's my honest opinion. I think the feminine energy, whether you identify as a female or not, or you just identify with that type of energy, I think the feminine is more powerful than the masculine. I truly believe that I believe the feminine energy, we can birth a human being, which we create life and we can squat that you ever seen Eliza Schlesinger. Yes. Right. And she's like, you know, and she's like, you know, we just wiggle out this human being and we're like, you know, and then we're like, oh, can you open this can for me? And it's like, she's like really like,Mischa Z: 00:55:20 Oh my God, that's amazing. Right.Sheryne Wilson: 00:55:22 It's just like what, um, I think the feminine energy that we possess, whether you're female or identify as female, whatever doesn't matter, um, is stronger and more powerful than any masculine energy out there. I also think that feminine energy will heal the masculine. I feel that women have, um, inverted and destroyed a lot of the sanctity of feminine energy and that it is actually quite sovereign and strong and powerful. It's not weak. It's not necessarily nurturing, nurturing as it is more sovereign. And I think that if women can tap into that, they would be able to heal men. Not that that's our responsibility, but I think it would heal the masculine. And I think that would allow the masculine to step into more of a feminine role or a feminine energy, which would soften men, which would allow more creativity, which again, I think it's about equality for me.Sheryne Wilson: 00:56:21 It's like the ying, the yang. It's like, we need the masculine, we need the feminine. And every human being needs to have a balance of the both. That is my perspective. And I have seen relationships in my personal life change when I step into more masculine energy. And when I step into feminine energy and when I learned to balance the time, the tact tone and timing of that, I can heal every man in my life. I have witnessed that before my eyes. And it is such a powerful role because I used to be one of those women that emasculated men, I chopped your balls off and I chewed them up and spit it out. And I thought I was being a bad-ass bitch. And then I realized that you crying in the corner did note like does nothing, that these men, men just want to be loved as much as women.Sheryne Wilson: 00:57:11 They want to be heard as much as women, it's just not acceptable. And that's part of the program. It's not socially acceptable for a man to come to work and be like, I'm having an off day I'm sad, you know, whereas women, it's totally acceptable to be like, I'm PMS'ing. I can be a because in PMS'ing scene, you know, like, all right, like a girlfriend messaged me and she's like, ah, I think I'm getting my period. I'm going to take today off. And I'm like, oh yeah. Okay, cool. But like, if a minute, you know, if one of my men, male friends messaged and he was like, my blood ball hurts, I think I'm going to skip work. Right. We'd be like, what? Like pull yourself up by your bootstraps. Like why you being a pussy? You know, like, you know, I'm just like, I used to be that girl that was like, why?Sheryne Wilson: 00:57:54 Like, if I saw a man cry, be like, why are you crying? Like why? And now when I'm in the presence of a man that cries, I'm like, I will hold space. Like I'm holding a child, excuse my language. But it's like, that is the most probably privileged state to, for a woman to ever be when a man shows real raw emotion. And I've learned to really appreciate, harness, captivate hold that, um, because it's just not allowed. And if men had more safe places to do that, the world would be a different place. And if women had more safe place to step into the masculine while being feminine, because we kind of went to the extreme, like w like before it was like women were like, you know, like these weak feeble, like stay at home, love me, you know, like just weak and feeble, whatever.Sheryne Wilson: 00:58:50 And then we swung and we're like, I want to be a bad ass bitch. And like, we want to like step into this masculine role. And it's like, I want the career and I want to pop out babies. And I want to look good and wear skinny jeans while doing it. And then we realized that we all started getting sick and dying and burning out. And we started castrating men because it's just not like, not meant to be like, we went so far to the extreme. Right. And like how many women were breaking down, like we're on my table. And they're like, I just understand what's happening. My hair's falling out, running a corporate nine to five job. I'm, you know, managing millions of dollars. Like they've stepped in this giant corporate masculine role. And they're like the queen at home too. Like, you know, taking charge of their family. And they're like, I don't know why I'm burnt out. And I'm like, well, because you have a uterus and your purpose is to nurture. So like, if you abandoned that you're going to burn out in the other ways. So I think it's about kind of finding that balance of like, yeah, I can be a bad-ass pitch and still cry, you know, and take a break and men can be, you know, corporate gurus or, you know, Kings of their household and have a bad day.Mischa Z: 01:00:05 Yeah. And not have it be a vicious bad day. Right. Like a lot of times that perhaps a bad day for man that justifies our, unloading our emotions in an unhealthy way. Right. Instead of crying or, or in a softer feminine sort of way where like agro or aggressive or vocal or intimidating, or, you know, um, maybe not encouraged how to like deal with that bad day. And, uh, in a, in a, in a, in a healthier manner, shall we say,Sheryne Wilson: 01:00:45 Well, it's because we've been repressed too for so long, you know, so many women are like, men are like Jeckel and Hyde. It's like, CA can you blame them? Like they have to play this role of like macho man or, you know, hero all day. And then it's like, they are just shoving their emotions down. And then you're asking them why they bought the wrong kind of cottage cheese. Right. And they're just like, like, I can't handle that anymore. And they just snap. And you're like, oh my God, what's your problem. And it's like, really? You know,Mischa Z: 01:01:21 Oh my god.Sheryne Wilson: 01:01:21 So hard. You know, women, I'm not saying women have it any easier. This is not about who has it easier or harder. It's something needs to change, you know, like, yeah. And I think, I think honestly, the feminine is leading the change. And if, because we, we are the ones that birth the child and therefore we create the life. And so you create the standards you create, you can create a lot more than you think.Mischa Z: 01:01:50 Yeah. Yeah. Thank you for that. When you say sovereign, what do you meanSheryne Wilson: 01:01:56 I'm addicted this word right now, sovereign sovereign is like, um, gracefully taking your authority is a, it's an, it's a deep knowing of, um, empowerment, um, sovereign, like, you know who you are, you know, where you're going. It's like, I picture this very like, um, noble queen, just taking her throne. The chaos is going on and she just leans forward and just says, you know, something really nurturing. And just knowing that you are handling the situation, you know who you are. You're not out of fear. And it's, there's a lot of grace and power that comes forth like sovereign.Mischa Z: 01:02:35 Does that make sense? It does. Thank you. I love that. Um, that's good. You, when you talk about women can heal men. What pops to my mind is not literally like needing to take action to heal them. It's it's like allowing, allowing for, for healing. You hold space. I guess we could, because I wrote down hold space. I think, I think that as a guy, like to me, I, I, when I quit my job so I can hold space for my boys. And what does that mean? That means I can be there for them. And oftentimes I didn't even need to do anything, but just be in the living room so that when they opened the door and looked out, they're like, yeah, dad's there. This is a safe space, right. Hold space. Without, without having to do anything else other than listen, or be there or hug or right. Does that, yeah. So go ahead. Go, go.Sheryne Wilson: 01:03:40 Yeah. No, I think like females are so used to them being in chaos and so used to them being rescued and being part of the, like being the problem, because we can, we just we're dramatic. We can be more dramatic, more emotional. And if women learn to rescue themselves and find that masculine energy that can rescue themselves and just chill the out, like that gives men the space to talk, because how many times has a man walked in the door or you've gone out to meet them. And you're like, oh my God, let me tell you about my day. And you just like, every woman does this. And it's just like "Blah", and they just vomit. And then they're like, what, why aren't you talking to me? Why aren't you sharing me? Why aren't you opening up? And the guy's like, because you're a disaster dude.Sheryne Wilson: 01:04:29 Like, and, you know, they're taught to like rescue the woman. So they're sitting there in silence, you know, cause that's how they don't know what to do. And it's like, if women just were like, learn to take care of deal with their own, you know, like you can save yourself and then once you deal with your own, that allows space for a man to be like, Hey, you're okay, because you're okay. Can I come cry on your lap? And you're like, yeah, yeah, here, here. And I'm not going to castrate you for it. Like, I'm not going to emasculate you while you do it. I'm going to still look at you tomorrow. Like you're a king, like, and certainly I get super passionate about it. I still,Sheryne Wilson: 01:05:12 And I I've had to learn this. I'm still learning this.Mischa Z: 01:05:18 I love it. Great, great lessons. Great. Great. Yes. Um, um, just quick time check. Um, I think I'm going to say, I think that, uh, the universe just had a great question for me to ask you, so thank you so much for that. Um, thank you so much for that. Um, I, I, was there anything that, um, you were hoping to speak on when you jumped on the podcast here that you didn't get a chance to talk about that?Sheryne Wilson: 01:05:53 No, I mean, I was, I'm such an open and easy going flow, whatever. Um, I didn't know what to expect and I was pleasantly surprised and I, as you know, there's multiple topics that I can and share about and, and I just kinda went with your leadings. So I think it's great.Mischa Z: 01:06:13 Well, fantastic. Um, again, everybody for more www.innermindperformance.com, When I'm looking over here, I'm looking at your website, which is super cool and there's some great programs and offerings and things to help to help people. Um, yeah. So check that out. And then of course, why wouldn't I talk about the www.toolsforagoodlifesummit.com yet again, go there and you can check out, uh, your, uh, Sheryne's awesome, um, interviews. So I think that's it. Uh, thank you so much for jumping on. I'm going to hit stop and then we'll say goodbye offline.Sheryne Wilson: 01:06:56 No, thank you so much. It's been awesome.

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In Chapter Two of my book I focus on a few examples of bad advice we find in the teachings of Jesus. There are many more in the chapters to come. The book's website is www.BadThingsJesusTaught.com.

The cherished assumption that Jesus personifies the love of God is inaccurate. The first chapter of my new book is titled, “Be Careful Not to Love Too Much,” and deals with alarming Jesus quotes that are rejected by most readers, including Christians. The book's website is www.BadThingsJesusTaught.com.

For our Season 3 finale, Naga is in conversation with podcaster and content guru - Jay Acunzo to discuss, what differentiates great creators from all others, how to find your first 10-50 true fans? Is there a one size fits all approach to monetization?   Reach out to Jay Acunzo and Check out his content - Member Group (Paid) - https://jayacunzo.com/membership  Podcast - 3 Clips – https://jayacunzo.com/3-clips  Podcast - Unthinkable – https://jayacunzo.com/unthinkable-podcast  Twitter – https://twitter.com/jayacunzo Website - https://jayacunzo.com/  Books: Break the Wheel: Question Best Practices, Hone Your Intuition, and Do Your Best Work   Reach out to Naga –  Twitter - @n1n3stuff / @PassionPeop1 (https://twitter.com/ThePassionPeop1 ) Facebook -The Passion People Podcast Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/thepassionpeoplepodcast/   More about EpLog Media - You can follow us and leave us feedback on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @eplogmedia, For advertising/partnerships send you can send us an email at bonjour@eplog.media. If you like this show, please subscribe and leave us a review wherever you get your podcasts, so other people can find us. 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All music other than the jingle on the episode is under the CC0 License and downloaded from freesound.org , freemusicarchive.org and unminus.com Transcript [00:00:00] Jay Acunzo: [00:00:00] you hear the phrase creator economy used quite often. And I think what we're living through is a very dangerous transition for a group of people who are trying to earn a living and a comfortable living at that using their creativity. [00:00:15]it's also very dangerous because with that momentum comes this, misunderstanding that to do this, you need to be famous that you need to be an influencer. And I think fame and influence  is becoming way too closely tied to the creator economy. [00:00:31]most importantly, this shifting mindset from essentially building on rented land like YouTube or Twitter and moving over to a platform you actually own like your own website and email list. [00:00:43] Naga S: [00:00:43] Hey Jay. Hello and welcome to the passionate people podcast. And thank you for taking the time [00:00:48] to be on the show. [00:00:49]Jay Acunzo: [00:00:49] Thanks for having me. I really appreciate it, [00:00:50]Naga S: [00:00:50] Jay, you have an extremely unique perspective, given your background in content marketing, the kind of shows that you've launched and the amazing work that you do at three clips. [00:01:01]So as, as we start. I would love to just get like a 30,000 feet view of the content landscape from your lens and how it looked at the start of 2020 and how COVID has changed it. [00:01:13]Jay Acunzo: [00:01:13] Yeah.  I'd love to answer. I spend very little time thinking about the trends and what everyone else is doing, because if I did that, I think I would probably break down. [00:01:22]I'm so focused on trying to. Serve the audience that I'd like to serve that it's difficult to follow the trends, but I will say that I think what we're living through,  you hear the phrase creator economy used quite often. And I think what we're living through is a very dangerous transition for a group of people who are trying to earn a living and a comfortable living at that using their creativity. [00:01:46]Because on the one hand you have momentum. Which is helping more and more people say, well, I have this craft,  for me,  I like to create shows. I like to tell stories about the workplace. Somebody else might focus on a different niche, [00:02:00] but I have this creative craft. It's never been a better time to go and build your own audience, which by the way means moving off of social media, using social media, but not stopping there, moving people to your website and your email list, building an audience. [00:02:14]And serving that audience more deeply with products and experiences that they pay for. So it's never been a better time for that, but it's also very dangerous because with that momentum comes this, misunderstanding that to do this, you need to be famous that you need to be an influencer. And I think fame and influence  is becoming way too closely tied to the creator economy. [00:02:39]So I think where I'd like to see this all go. Is to have a middle-class develop. So middle-class in a, like a classic sense that there's a sociologist named Dennis Gilbert. He wrote a great book called the American class structure in an age of growing and an inequality. And Gilbert defines middle-class as upper and lower middle-class. [00:02:59] So there's two little segments, but they combined to make up about 45 to 50% of the total population. And that 45 to 50% is judged based on their ability to have a comfortable standard of living significant economic security, considerable work autonomy, and a reliance on their own expertise to sustain themselves. [00:03:21]So what I'd like to see is a future in the not too distant future, by the way, where we stop trying to be super famous and have. Massive and impressive audience reach. And we actually truly embrace the ideas like Kevin Kelly's 1000 true fans or Seth Godin's smallest viable audience and try and find a small number of people who react in a big way to what we do and serve them more deeply. [00:03:49]And how do we get there? I think we need to stop trying to be social media famous and trying to serve people with our craft. So  my fear. Is that way too many people are [00:04:00] way too excited about more and more, more bigger, bigger, bigger, get famous in a niche or anything. General. My hope is that we can get to a place where 45 to 50%. [00:04:08] And that's, I think that's the bar. If you look at all, creators are 45 are about half of them able to earn a comfortable standard of living with significant economic security work autonomy. Using their expertise to sustain themselves. And I think it's going to take a lot of education to get there better tools. [00:04:27]And most importantly, this shifting mindset from essentially building on rented land like YouTube or Twitter and moving over to a platform you actually own like your own website and email list. [00:04:39]Naga S: [00:04:39] Got it. Let me double click on some of the concepts that you've spoken about here. Right? First one is Kevin Kelly's , a hundred true fans or legions thousand true fans, or what they talk about in terms of how much money are these folks willing to give you so that you are able to pursue your craft. [00:04:56]Right? So in order for us to be able to get to these thousand of these hundred people, you will at least need to reach like a 10,000 folks or like, you know, 5,000 folks. Right. And they might eventually convert into those smaller number of people who might end up being, who are potentially be able to sustain us financially. [00:05:14]So if your suggestion is for folks not to be too worried about having a broad reach, or I think what you're really trying to say is that people should not approach like a, have a spray and pray approach, where they say that I'm trying to get  everyone is my audience. And you're saying that you really need to have a niche. [00:05:31]But my question is more fundamental in terms of how do you really build that first initial audience who would be like the top of the funnel for your paying customers later on? [00:05:41]Jay Acunzo: [00:05:41] Everything I'm about to say is going to sound incredibly hard to do, because everybody wants to see the final result, but I assure you, I don't know any other way to do this other than you get incredibly lucky. [00:05:51]Lightning strikes and suddenly lots of people know who you are. So I think those stories are mostly myth here. Here's what I encourage people to [00:06:00] do. Stop thinking about the funnel and think about your audience as a series of concentric circles. So kind of like a bullseye in the middle and bigger and bigger circles moving out from the middle. [00:06:09]When you think of it like a funnel, I think you do think of it kind of the way you just described it, Naga where you need to reach 10,000 people to get a hundred or a thousand to. For example, subscribed to your newsletter. I actually think you need to just put aside the funnel, right? Stop trying to reach a lot of people first and convert a few people in the end of it all. [00:06:29]And start thinking about these concentric circles, where in the middle there's this circle called super fans. And as you radiate out from super fans, you get closer and closer to total strangers. What most of us try to do when we market, what we do is we go to total, strangers may be passive observers of our work, and we try to basically try to get them to like us quickly. [00:06:52]And that makes no sense. So whether you think in like human relationship terms or dollars and cents. It's inefficient and ineffective to try and convince total strangers that you're worth subscribing to or paying it's a lot easier and a lot more in line with how humans work to go to five other human beings that, you know, you can serve more deeply and try to build something that they like. [00:07:14]So I think most of us are in a position where we have some people in our network, social network or otherwise like online network or in the real world where we can reach a very small number of people. I mean, whatever small means to you, one, five, 15, 5,500, it depends on you and give them something that they love and react too strongly. [00:07:34]And if you can't do that, Then that's the problem. The problem isn't I can't reach more people, but I need to, the problem is you haven't actually built something that people are willing to refer others. So ostensibly, if you reach, I don't know, let's pick a number, a hundred people to listen to your podcast episode. [00:07:52]You should be  pretty well situated to grow the show more easily because those hundred people should be spending [00:08:00] a lot of time with you and telling all their friends. You know, relevant friends, check out that show. I think we assume we do that. We assume that we're actually creating something for super fans that is worth sharing. [00:08:12]And then we say, well, it's not growing. So the problem must be the marketing. We have to go reach 10,000 people. I don't think that's true. I think actually, when you think about building a real-world community, you think about meeting up for coffee or drinks with two or three people, then two or three more next time than five or six more. [00:08:30] The next time, then you have an event, then you have a panel. Then you have a huge conference. Like it really is that slow build approach. It's the same online, just because you can reach a lot of people doesn't mean that that's actually an effective way to grow. It actually starts by making something that one or a few people really, truly do love. [00:08:48]And tell their friends about, and it's a dangerous assumption to make. If you're not growing to assume you've actually done that. So the way it's sum this up is most of the time we don't have a marketing problem, we have a product problem. We have a service problem. We have a depth problem, not a reach problem. [00:09:04]Naga S: [00:09:04] Got it. I also think that some of this narrative is being carried over from like the startup world or like SAAS businesses in general, that they refer to all of these numbers of like funnels and that that's how they look at the world. However, the mental model that you suggested, which is how actual  communities really get built. [00:09:23] It's the way creator should be looking at it. Like, no, it should be like, they're talking to the first individual 5,000. How many of the people that they can and then see how they can expand that. That's a great insight that you give that. So then the next question I have for your Jay is that now you mentioned that it's not about marketing, it's your product and you've, you've seen a ton of content. [00:09:46]And there will be some things that set apart great content from everything else that's out there.   In global shows, your, you spoke about, we don't really need another podcast, which talks to you [00:10:00] know, famous authors and how they got there. [00:10:01] But what we need is something. A lot more specific though. Can I just ask you to dive a little bit deeper into  what makes a great product, especially now that our attention spans are so low and there's so many things that are finding to make us want to look at [00:10:16]Jay Acunzo: [00:10:16] Sure. I mean, our attention spans aren't so low because we're bingeing, Netflix shows we're subscribing to newsletters that write essays. [00:10:23]We're reading books were having conversations with friends and family. I read somewhere and I wish I remember who said this. This is not my quote. We don't have we don't have shorter attention spans. We have shorter interest spans, which means we are going to tolerate things that are not engaging and not personal for less time. So table stakes be relevant. Table stakes, be enjoyable. Differentiating is to feel refreshing that you've done something different and good, not just a random stunt, not a gimmick that feels hollow to grab attention, but something delightful that people didn't expect in a welcome way. Differentiating is to feel personal. [00:11:02] Like you want the reaction not to be, this is a popular thing, but you want it to be, this is my favorite thing. And favorite is not number one in the category. It's not different because you pulled a stunned. Favorite means somebody's personal and preferred pick for a specific purpose. So when you think about a product, a service content, any experience today, the goal is to make it feel personal to the other person you're trying to serve, or the audience we're trying to serve. [00:11:28] In other words, the best reaction you can get is they say to you, now this is speaking to my soul. That's what you want. Your brand, the way you position it, the story you just publish, the way you talk about the world and see the world and lead your community. This is speaking to my soul. It is my personal preferred pick for this specific purpose. [00:11:47] It is my favorite. And so, you know, your favorite restaurant may not be the top rated restaurant. Your favorite shirt may not win any awards for fashion. My favorite basketball team is the New York Knicks. If [00:12:00] you know anything about basketball, you know, the New York Knicks are one of the worst basketball teams. [00:12:04] So just really think about that objectively. One of the worst things in this set is my favorite thing. So feeling like someone's favorite has nothing to do with how big it is or how academically or objectively awesome it is. It has nothing to do with the things we look at. When we look at our peers, it has everything to do with, are you resonating deeply with somebody on a personal level? [00:12:26]So backing all the way up to starting your build a product content, a podcast, something else. There's really some set problems you're going to face, which I think we fail to address because we're so focused on the tech and the distribution and the measurement of it all. But the first challenge you're going to face is are you saying something that matters? [00:12:46]So if it's a podcast, for example, have you actually developed a premise for your show? And a premise is not just the topics you explore. It's not just what you cover. It's also how you explore them. So it's your topics plus your hook? So there's plenty of sales podcasts in the world who talked to experts in sales, but there is only one podcast for salespeople that explore the value of practice in your sales job. [00:13:13]And that's a show called practice first from a SAAS company called Lessonly. So that's a good example. Lessonly is saying something that matters. They observed their sales audience and they're like, look, you want to be better at sales? Well, I think you need to be better at practicing your craft. So Lessonly sells training software for salespeople, and they know that their customers who value practice close faster, and they're more valuable for their businesses. [00:13:38]Well, they're also then saying to the world, we need to elevate the role of practice. So we're not going to just interview a bunch of sales executives on this show on practice. First, we're going to learn how world-class practices do that to then try to translate it to our world in sales. So they'll talk to Olympians, they'll talk to Somalis. [00:13:58]They will talk to coaches. [00:14:00] And to me that is. That's IP that's intellectual property. That is defensible because when you say that to the world, like, actually this is something that matters to us and to the community, someone is saying, man, that is speaking to my soul. I'm with you, I'm on the journey to understand practice and how to practice better as a sales individual. [00:14:20]And someone else is saying, yes, I'm in sales, but I don't believe that practice is that important. Well, that's fine. This is not a show for you. That's okay. Also, if you, if you tried our product, you would dislike our product too. So it's that level of specificity and saying something that truly matters of combining your topics. [00:14:38] In other words, what you explore with your hook, that unique angle into the topics, your point of view, your quest, that you're bringing people on. Those are the things that combined to say something that matters. And those are the starting points for building in your words, a great product. [00:14:53]Naga S: [00:14:53] So now we've spoken about the number of people that you need for your, like a minimum viable audience you've spoken about. How do you make a great product once content creator has achieved both of these things? What do you think is the next best way to achieve? Monetization. And what I mean by monetization is that the audience typically is expecting to either be entertained or to learn something new or to be taken on a journey or be disconnected from reality, so to speak because they just want to relax and unwind when, when they're consuming content apart from these three broad value teams, what are some of the other Aspects that creators can keep in mind so that they can move towards monetization in a quicker and more thoughtful manner. [00:15:43]Jay Acunzo: [00:15:43] I can't answer that question because it's too general. Because there's a million, everything at our disposal today, our tools. Right. So like, could you do a course? Sure. Could you run ads? Sure. Could you sell a book? Absolutely. You know, could you create a membership group? Absolutely. These are all tools. [00:15:58]And so [00:16:00] rather than have me give a general answer, I would encourage people to go and talk to their audience and understand what is. Still bugging them. What problem is left under addressed or what thing is under explored that they'd like to understand better? So we have all these tools at our disposal and I'm kind of struck by today. [00:16:20] We're all looking for that, answer, that silver bullet, you know, the savior tactic, you should do this. Well that's general advice and I don't know the variables of your specific situation. So just ignore what I say and go talk to your audience. You know, a good example of this is,  this podcast called three clips, which is where podcasts join us and take us inside their best work. [00:16:41]And we do so by playing three different clips and breaking them down together. So I talked to the audience of three clips all the time on social media. I do one-on-one video calls through my newsletter. And one of the things I've recognized is this audience desperately wants to create really awesome shows, but there's this disassociation. [00:17:02] They feel between their heroes and them, whether they admire great podcasts, but they're like, Oh, I could never do anything that big. Well, it's like, okay. But if you're like, listen to the show, these people aren't describing anything big or stunt, like they're describing these tiny choices they made all the time that combined to making a great show. [00:17:20]So you can put process to that. Well, what is the process I was, you know, okay, I'll go write some essays about what I'm learning from the show. I'll send some tweets, I'll send some newsletter, additions, all about the things I'm learning and thinking about as a result of this show. And now I'm looking for, you know, am I getting a strong reaction from the audience? [00:17:38]Okay, the answer is yes. Great. Well, how do I then go a level deeper with these ideas? Let me take one specific thing. And in this case, I took the premise because that is such an important and overlooked thing. How do you develop a premise for your podcast? That's what prompts subscription. That's what drives the sharing of your show? [00:17:55] It's what helps you make choices inside your show? The premise development is [00:18:00] crucial, but most people don't think of the premise. They think of growth. They think of growing the show. How do I know that? Because I talked to these people and when I bring up premise development, it's like their eyes glaze over and they have no idea what I'm talking about. [00:18:12] Then I explain it, you know, then I explain it, then they get it. So when I talk about growth, they lean in, when I talk about premise development, they lean back. So I have to put the two together. So you want to grow your show. Great. What makes a growable show? Well, it starts with the premise. So then I developed a course. [00:18:29]To help people grow their shows by developing a better premise called it Growable shows. So all those decisions from the content I'm creating, you know, that's away from the show to pressure test my ideas to the name itself growable shows because I could have called it premise development. It all comes from me talking to the audience. [00:18:47] So as a creator today, it can be overwhelming because you have myriad tools and tons of different products that you could create for your audience. There's no way you can pick that out. In theory, you have to just pursue endless curiosity and pursue little threads that your audience surfaces to you. And for me, the best way to do that is actually not to create podcast episodes it's to write is to use writing as a way to explore. [00:19:11]I might learn something through the podcast, but then I'm like, great. I'm going to write a ton about this stuff. I'll write stuff on Twitter. I'll write stuff in my blog. I'll write stuff on my newsletter. I'll write and write and write until I understand these things better. And have process and have technique I can teach. [00:19:25] And I'm also getting a feedback loop for my audience to understand if they're, if they're picking up what I'm putting down. So I know that's a long answer, but I don't think there is a simple answer. I think it is go talk to your audience, but be process-driven about it. [00:19:36]Naga S: [00:19:36] Yup. I love the fact that you're, you're not only engaging with your audience and in one form. [00:19:42] Right? And, and even as part of the clips, you also have like specific episodes that are just dedicated to input your conversation with the listeners and the kind of stuff that you hear back from them. [00:19:52]Jay Acunzo: [00:19:52] That's another great example of talking to the audience that I sort of discovered by accident. It's like I do. [00:19:58]A listener mailbag episode, [00:20:00] once in awhile, where mostly on Twitter, I ask if people have questions about creating shows and we'll do five to seven questions in an episode that I'll answer. So we don't have a guest. It's not the usual production. It's just Q and a, and I'm answering questions I got on Twitter. [00:20:14]And what I realized is everybody's questions, or a lot of questions tend to focus on things that they think they need to know. But I want to show them actually, what you really need to know is over here. And I can't just say that I have to start with the problems that they think they have and walk them every step of the way to the problem that I know they have. [00:20:36]Which is something I learned as a public speaker, because when you give a keynote speech, unlike a breakout speech or talk, you're giving like a big idea how to think talk. And so the keynote, you can't just get up there and be like, everybody's doing it wrong. Think about it this way. Instead you have to say, so we all want to get over there. [00:20:54]Right. And here's how we're going about it today. Okay. We're in agreement. Okay. Well, here's the problems with the status quo with our current approach. And people go, huh? Hadn't thought about it or, Oh my goodness. Yep. You get me. Those are the problems I deal with all the time. And then you can say, okay, well consider this different thing here. [00:21:13] Let me give you a story that shows what it looks like. Let me break it down into a framework that we can use with some lessons and some examples, you know, and let's go deeper if you want away from the speech. Let's talk after subscribe to my newsletter, take a course, et cetera. So this idea of being a keynote speaker kind of taught me that our jobs as creators is not the pander to existing market demand. It's actually to look at what people think they need and actually tell them what they really need. You know, the, the classic idea of Henry Ford talking about his customers. Like if I asked my customers what they wanted, they would've said faster horses. [00:21:46]So actually we're all in the business of understanding the pain, understanding the problems, understanding what is broken about the status quo and people's current processes. But then we can't just propose a radically new and different solution or category. We have to [00:22:00] start with where they're at and move them every step of the way towards something better. [00:22:03]And for my money, one of the best ways to do that today is to start a podcast. So that's why I love it because a podcast is like a journey between the status quo or your current understanding. And something better in the distance. So it kind of mirrors a keynote speech stretched out over a much longer period of time, but either way as a creative person, you are in the business of making change and helping people do something better or differently. [00:22:26] Not just saying everybody's asking for this. So I'll write a bunch of stuff that addresses that you're in the business of change. [00:22:32]Naga S: [00:22:32] You spoke about how every creator's journey to monetization. Is different. And you also said that, , that there are different things that they might not know that they want, but it's up to us to find out what they really need and help them bridge the gap. [00:22:47]One of the ways to bridge the gap also is to see what someone else is doing in your blog posts. You've spoken about extraction. It's spoken about how do you observe and document like. The underlying framework of a particular episode. I think I wrote about it in reference to a TV show. [00:23:04]How can somebody apply that in terms of borrowing, so to speak best practices from other creators so that they're able to apply it for their content? [00:23:15] Jay Acunzo: [00:23:15] It's a great question. I rejected the idea early in my life that creativity. And great creative projects have a format, have a structure, have a repeatable process. [00:23:25]But if you look at everything from scientific studies about creativity, to just real-world examples and advice from people, constraints actually yield better creativity. I think we, we believe the opposite. We believe we want creative freedom, but I think that's only because we've had bad constraints or constraints we disagree with or didn't know were there. [00:23:44] With teammates, employers, ourselves, but putting positive or proactive constraints on your work actually breeds better creativity. And one amazing type of constraint to put on your work is the format of whatever it is you're creating. So for me, those are [00:24:00] shows. So I have a, I have two podcasts. I've mentioned three clips. [00:24:03]The other one I have is a show called unthinkable, which three clips has kind of a segmented interview on thinkable as a narrative style show. So to heavier production, lots of story and voiceover and music and sound design, and the audience gets one end to end episode. Every time it feels like one coherent story. [00:24:20]But what I know is happening underneath an episode, which then makes me better to create it is I know we have six or seven blocks of content with the same purpose. A block is for this B block is for that. And they have different runtimes. And we have to fill those blocks with content. So we're going to go and research. [00:24:36] We're going to go interview. We're going to craft it and in editing. And I got that idea from TV because in TV you have both visible and invisible what they call rundowns. So visible rundown is like a news program often has that you see the ticker of what subjects they're covering and when a sit-com or a story style show, anything where you don't know the format, it's not told to you. [00:25:00] That's an invisible rundown. And so my favorite storyteller is Anthony Bordain and his show parts unknown on CNN before, you know, he tragically died and I took a notebook early in my time, creating unthinkable. And I sat down with that show and I just tried to document what is it that makes his show so magical? [00:25:18] Like what's the format, even if him and his production team didn't have it in their heads. There's something going on in repeatable fashion here. And if I could extract the rundown. I can modify it and use it for my show. So I'm not trying to imitate Bordain. I'm just trying to have a flow that feels similar to his. [00:25:36]So my voice is different, but the structure is the same. And you can do that with anything you admire take a notebook, see if you can figure out what your favorite creators are doing underneath their content. What's the structure of a given story of your favorite newsletter or book. You know, how do they actually format that video that you love? [00:25:54]And chances are, you can come up with something that approximates their plan, or maybe they didn't have a plan, but you have [00:26:00] a structure anyway. So I call that exercise and extraction and it can really radically transform your creativity. You know, first of all, it gives you a repeatable process. So you don't burn out every time. [00:26:11] Like every episode of unthinkable early on for me, felt like I was just kind of proceeding on gut feel alone and I would burn out a lot. Well, now you have a repeatable process. I know what I need to get in my research in my interviews with people in post, I have a plan. The second thing that happens is the audience gets a better final result because you have a plan to get them to the end of the thing, you know, in my case, in episode. [00:26:33]So I have like a structure to it. Not just because it's fun or sounds right, but because lineup, all these sections, you have one great coherent experience that people don't want to leave. So it benefits your production, it benefits your audience sticking around, and it also benefits the longevity or show because you can look at that rundown and re-invent with purpose. [00:26:52]Instead of being like, I have all these ideas for new types of episodes or additions. If my newsletter or my blog, you can say, well, this is the structure, you know, in my case of an episode, and every time we hit B block, it seems to fall apart. So let me change it. Or actually, I think we could try to experiment with a playful type of segment at the end, or maybe that becomes a mini series or a whole new show after we do it five or six times inside an existing episode. [00:27:17]So you get to reinvent with purpose. So I think having structure is transformative, but we fight it too much as creative people. And I think that's a huge missed opportunity. [00:27:25]Naga S: [00:27:25] The first time that I really, , had my brush with structure was when I was studying to get into business school. And I was reading about , reading comprehension, how do you break down a passage?  It was just a revelation for me to realize that even in my favorite Netflix show, there is a specific story arc. [00:27:42]The protagonist is going through certain things and it always ends. With a clincher and that sort of  keeps you coming back for more and more and more. And this, like you said, like let's structure everywhere, but it's just that we're not really thinking about it or looking for it or looking for inspiration from those places. [00:27:58]Jay Acunzo: [00:27:58] Yeah. Like there's, there [00:28:00] are some famous story structures, you know Joseph Campbell's hero's journey is a big one. There's a modified version of that that's been used in pop culture and entertainment from. Dan Harmon, who's the showrunner behind shows like community and Rick and Morty. He uses something called the story circle. [00:28:15] You can just pull up Google images and search for hero's journey or Dan Harmon story circle. And you'll find that it just makes sense, like these visuals explain story. I mean, even tiny little heuristics, like there's, there's a technique called the open loop. So here's an example of an open loop. So Naga this morning I went downstairs to my kitchen and  my notebook was sitting on the counter and I read the first page of my notebook, which had five words that inspired me. [00:28:43] And I read them every  morning. Okay. Nothing happened in that story like this, literally a story about nothing. I went to the kitchen, I looked at my notebook. I read five words that inspire me, but the question on your mind immediately, Is [00:28:55] Naga S: [00:28:55] what are those five words? [00:28:56] Jay Acunzo: [00:28:56] Exactly. And so you're like that story is about nothing, but please continue. [00:29:01]And so open loops are just, you start a sequence of events and you end them later, you open questions or raise intrigue and you resolve them later. Open loops, even the word, but is a form of open loops. And that's what I thought. But then Naga called me. Who's Naga. Why he call you? How did it change your perception of what you thought the word, but is like a form of a tiny little open loop. [00:29:25] It's a storytelling device. Open loops can span years, like game of Thrones who will sit on the throne. That's an open loop that the name itself opened for the audience. It raised intrigue. Before you even saw the show. If you just heard the name during the promotion for season one, now there's already an open loop and that lasted 10 years. [00:29:43]So big and small, you have this technique called the open loop and we don't know how to wield it as creators. So either we don't use intrigue or don't create questions. And so our experiences are flat or we use it in a very. Abusive way. We, you know, we re we [00:30:00] abused the responsibility inherent and being a communicator. [00:30:03] And we do things like clickbait headlines, which is like a crude form of an open loop. And I think if you learn how to tactfully use tension, that's what creates great stories. And that is where these story structures come in, because it's like, okay, what details happened before the tension? Where do I introduce the tension? [00:30:21] Where do I relieve the tension? And sometimes it's as simple as one, two, three, sometimes it's a little bit more nuanced and like a wave that, you know, rises and falls and story structure or ways for you to focus that. But without the structure and without even knowing these open loops exist, we're just winging it and good for us for doing that because a lot of people won't even try that. [00:30:42]But if we want to have a sustainable thriving career, And we want to be better at this craft. I think we're far better learning about what actually goes on in the theory of it all to the structure, the format. How do we make things consistently and make things consistently better every single time? [00:30:57]Naga S: [00:30:57] Absolutely. I think that's a phenomenal note for us to wrap up this conversation, Jay, who we've spoken about of extraction and spoken about structure, spoken about honing a craft and spoken about. The product or the premise marketing the right way. So can you bottom line it for us? [00:31:15]Jay Acunzo: [00:31:15] Don't Mark it more matter more. [00:31:17]If you just focus on that, you'll be set up for success. It's really hard to do because it's easy to market more. It's really hard to matter more, but I think if we focus on the wrong things, eventually we find out it's actually a lot easier to focus on mattering to people than marketing to people. [00:31:33]Naga S: [00:31:33] Fantastic. Can people reach out to you? What's the best way for them to reach out, [00:31:38]to reach out Twitter? You know, my show is three clips. That's about podcasting. And then my other show is about creativity at work, which is unthinkable. [00:31:45]Fantastic. I'll make sure that I include the links to your shows as well as your Twitter handle in the show notes. [00:31:52]Jay Acunzo: [00:31:52] Thanks Naga. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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