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This week, Kelly and Jessica blow up the "having it all" story — where it came from, why it keeps getting a makeover, and what they actually think. From the career-and-family narratives of the 1980s to today's softer language of "intentional living" and "alignment," the pressure for women to thrive in every area of life simultaneously is still very much alive. Jessica and Kelly unpack why this framework is both a myth and a trap — and what a richer, more honest version of a full life actually looks like.   What We Cover in This Episode Where the "having it all" phrase came from and how it has evolved over decades Why the new language of intentional living and alignment can feel just as suffocating Shonda Rhimes' honest take on thriving at work while feeling like you're failing at home — and why that's not actually failure Jessica's personal story of dreams in seasons: pausing, pivoting, and building at different times in her life Why a good life doesn't have to be a simultaneous one — it can be sequential How comparison triggers the "something is missing" feeling — and what to do when you catch it The reframe: happiness is a choice, not a result of the right circumstances Kelly's real-time comparison spiral at a baseball game and how she worked through it This week's Brighter Moves: naming the "everything standard" and asking what season you're actually in This Week's Brighter Moves Kelly's Move: Notice a moment this week where you're measuring your life against an invisible "everything" standard. Just name it out loud to yourself: "I'm comparing my life to an everything list right now." That awareness alone is more useful than any strategy.   Jessica's Move: Ask yourself: what season am I in right now — not the ideal life, but this season? What does this season actually call for? Give yourself permission to let that be enough. And if you find yourself waiting to be happy until things are more arranged, try choosing it today instead. Do one small thing today that's just for you — not earned, just a moment to choose happy.   Free Download This Month Grab the Real Over Perfect Weekly Check-In — five questions, five minutes, once a week. It's free when you sign up for the newsletter at chasingbrighter.com/newsletter.   Coming Up Next Week We're closing out May with our Still Figuring It Out segment. Kelly and Jessica both share something real about sliding back into old roles, old patterns, and old versions of themselves they thought they'd outgrown — and how they keep moving forward anyway. Don't miss it.   Connect With Us Website: chasingbrighter.com Newsletter: chasingbrighter.com/newsletter Instagram & TikTok: @ChasingBrighter YouTube: @ChasingBrighter Blog: chasingbrighter.com/blog having it all myth, having it all as a woman, women and work-life balance, intentional living, comparison and social media, happiness is a choice, life in seasons, sequential success, Shonda Rhimes Year of Yes, Chasing Brighter podcast, Kelly and Jessica, midlife women podcast, women's podcast, identity expectations, real over perfect, chasing brighter season 5, work life balance myth, comparison trap, brighter moves, present parenting, women entrepreneurs, choosing joy, seasonal living

This week, Jess and Kelly are keeping it real — catching up on new studio setups, a deep dive into AI tools (Claude vs. ChatGPT, anyone?), Take Your Child to Work Day, navigating loss while hosting family, and the eternal question: what's for dinner? It's a full-life conversation about the juggle, the joy, and everything in between. What We Talk About in This Episode Studio refresh — both Jess and Kelly redesigned their workspaces and why environment matters more than we think AI tool breakdown — how Kelly used Claude to redesign her room (and why it worked better than ChatGPT), plus Jess and Kelly's honest take on when to use which AI Take Your Child to Work Day — Jess brought Gio to her therapy practice, complete with a Claude-generated workbook, a case study, and a dress code Why letting your kids see you work matters — modeling a career and identity beyond parenthood Kelly's father-in-law passed away — navigating grief, hosting family, and finding grace in the hard moments The Four Agreements and letting go of managing other people's behavior Meal planning (or the lack thereof) — crock pot meals, Costco runs, frozen shortcuts, and why defrosting things is the bane of our existence Kelly's birthday wish: a full week off from dinner duty The May Freebie — the Real Over Perfect Weekly Check-In is available now! Free Download Mentioned in This Episode The Real Over Perfect Weekly Check-In — Five questions to come back to every single week. Check in with who you actually are right now, not who you think you should be or who everyone else needs you to be. Screenshot it, save it, and make it part of your Sunday routine. Free when you sign up for the newsletter. Get it here: chasingbrighter.com/newsletter Connect With Us Website: chasingbrighter.com Instagram & TikTok: @ChasingBrighter Newsletter: chasingbrighter.com/newsletter Chasing Brighter podcast, Super Woman Diaries, Jessica Colarco, women podcast, real over perfect, May podcast episodes, identity and expectations, AI tools for women, Claude AI, ChatGPT, AI home design, workspace refresh, home office redesign, take your child to work day, modeling work for kids, children and career, women and identity, grief and family, loss and hosting, navigating death in the family, the four agreements, not taking things personally, meal planning for busy moms, crock pot meals, family dinner ideas, weekly meal prep, Costco meals, frozen meal shortcuts, cooking for a big family, women juggling everything, motherhood and career, birthday week off cooking, weekly check-in, real over perfect weekly check-in, free wellness download, women's lifestyle podcast, chasingbrighter.com

Where have you been looking for your worthiness? If the honest answer involves what you've achieved, who approves of you, or how well you've performed your roles — this episode is for you. Jessica and Kelly get personal about the conditional worth they each carried for years: the Pinterest mom era, outsourcing okayness to other people's moods, and the strange moment a spiritual healer told Jessica she had a worthiness problem (and she laughed it off). They dig into why high-achieving women are often the last to recognize this pattern, what it looks like to start untangling it, and how a values clarification practice can help you begin separating what you actually want from what you've been performing.   In This Episode Why conditional worth is so hard to spot — it looks like caring and dedication from the outside How Jessica tied worthiness to achievement and performance (including the Super Mario cake era) How Kelly outsourced her sense of okayness to other people's happiness The fragility of conditional worth — it's only as stable as the last thing you produced Why the empty nest hits so hard when identity is tangled up in caregiving The worthiness journey: therapy, Reiki, Glennon Doyle's Untamed, and real conversations Separating doing from being — things you do because you love your life, not to earn your place in it A values clarification tool: Is this something I actually value, or something I'm performing? The "Real Over Perfect" moment: pausing to ask whose standard this even is Senior night, fat heads, candy leis, and choosing simple over performing   Your Brighter Moves This Week Kelly's Move: Finish the Sentence Complete this sentence without editing yourself: “I am worthy because ___.” Then just notice what comes after the because. Is it an achievement? A role? Someone's approval? You don't have to fix it right away. Just see it. Jessica's Move: Values Clarification Check Write down five things you feel are core parts of your identity. For each one, ask: Is this genuinely mine? Or is this who someone else needs me to be? You don't have to act on the answer. Just being aware of it is the work.   Free Download This Month The Real Over Perfect Weekly Check-In — five questions, five minutes, once a week. Designed to help you slow down and reconnect with what's actually true for you. → Get it free at chasingbrighter.com/newsletter   Coming Up Next Week We're blowing up the “having it all” story — where it came from, why it got a wellness makeover, and why Jessica thinks it's a myth worth dismantling entirely. Come ready to have an opinion.   Connect with Chasing Brighter → Website: chasingbrighter.com → Instagram: @ChasingBrighter Episodes drop every Monday and Thursday.   worthiness, conditional worth, self-worth, women and identity, high-achieving women, people pleasing, performing identity, Pinterest mom, empty nest, values clarification, real over perfect, Glennon Doyle Untamed, Chasing Brighter podcast, identity and expectations, May podcast series, Kelly and Jessica, personal growth podcast for women, inner critic, overachieving women, outsourcing self-worth, worthiness journey

Grab your beverage of choice — because Jess has at least three of them. This week's Superwoman Diaries is peak real life: protein struggles and gut health deep dives, surviving food poisoning on the GLP-1, middle-of-the-night cortisol pushups, anxiety packing for a fifth grade field trip to Zion, and somehow landing on a conversation about platypuses and the birds and the bees with an eleven-year-old. Kelly and Jess also swap their current favorite mini-documentaries, and spoiler — one of them involves cults, an undercover psychologist, and the FBI. Just a normal Tuesday. In This Episode: Jess's beverage situation: creatine, Starbucks refresher concentrate, frozen dragon fruit, and the superfood bag that said five grams of fiber Kelly tracking her protein and macros on MyFitnessPal — and the bloating incident that came from putting protein powder in coffee on an empty stomach The 30-30-3 rule Cassidy shared: 30g protein, 30g fiber, and 3 servings of probiotics at your first meal Jess's gut health routine: probiotics, kombucha shots, and why it matters on a GLP-1 Getting food poisoning from a Mediterranean chicken salad and spending Monday on the BRAT diet — and discovering B-Free gluten-free sourdough bread from Walmart Skipping her volunteer signup for Gio's field trip and the guilt that came with it Kelly's 3am waking problem, the cortisol explanation, and doing 20 pushups in the bathroom to fall back asleep The sleep supplement breakdown: melatonin vs. magnesium vs. cortisol manager, and who each one actually helps Alpha-STIM for anxiety, insomnia, and depression — Jess's pitch for them both to try it Staying up until 2am reading Off Campus, the hockey romance series coming to Amazon Prime, and completely tanking her sleep hygiene Mini-documentary recommendations: Trust Me: The False Prophet on Netflix — the story of a PhD psychologist who embedded herself with a fundamentalist LDS community after Warren Jeffs was imprisoned and ended up working with the FBI The conversation Jess had with Gio about critical thinking, body autonomy, listening to your gut, and what to do when someone in power is telling you something feels wrong — sparked by watching a bit of the documentary together "Who created sex?" — how an 11-year-old's questions took a hard left turn through farm animals, platypuses, and egg-laying mammals Freebie Mentioned

Have you ever been introduced to someone — by a person who loves you — and realized the version of you they described doesn't exist anymore? That's where this episode begins. Jessica and Kelly get honest about the slow, quiet drift of identity: how it shifts in small decisions, in what you stop tolerating, in what you start wanting. They talk about the gap between who people expect you to be and who you're actually becoming — and why that gap isn't a crisis. It's evidence that you're growing. This week: the roles we outgrow, the relationships that update alongside us, and the ones that don't. What We Talk About Being reintroduced to an old version of yourself by someone who loves you — and the tension that lives in that moment. How identity shifts happen gradually, in the margins, until one day you look up and realize you've quietly moved in a new direction. The difference between the version of you that exists in other people's minds versus the version you're actually living. Why the people who love us can have a vested interest in keeping us the same. Growing out of old roles — the planner, the fixer, the over-functioner — and what happens in friendships when you step back. Jessica and Kelly describe each other ten years ago (this one gets honest). The fawning response, the overfunctioning impulse, and what it looks like to notice it without acting on it. Kelly's shift with her 15-year-old, Wes — letting him drive his own story instead of living the one she thought she wanted for him. Why evolving doesn't mean you were wrong before. It means you were paying attention. Brighter Moves This Week Kelly's move: Ask yourself this question once this week — Who am I actually, quietly becoming? Not who you should be. Not who everyone needs you to be. Who are you moving toward right now? Write it down. Sit with it. Let it surprise you. Jessica's move: Notice once this week where you're playing an old role that doesn't quite fit anymore. You don't have to do anything about it. Just notice it. Name it to yourself. That awareness is the beginning of something. Free Download Grab the Real Over Perfect Weekly Check-In — five questions, five minutes, once a week. It's designed to help you check in with who you actually are right now, not who you think you should be. Free when you sign up for our newsletter at chasingbrighter.com. Connect With Us Follow us on Instagram and find show notes, the blog, and the newsletter at chasingbrighter.com | @chasingbrighter Next Week We're going somewhere that's going to feel personal. We're talking about worthiness — and specifically the sneaky way so many of us link our worth to what we achieve, what we produce, what we perform. identity shift, who am I becoming, women and self-discovery, midlife identity, outgrowing old roles, people pleasing, over-functioning, fawning response, setting boundaries, friendship changes, relationship dynamics, letting go of expectations, parenting teenagers, self-awareness, personal growth podcast, women's podcast, identity and expectations, performing old versions of yourself, who you were vs who you are, slow drift of identity, real over perfect, chasing brighter, Jessica Colarco, Kelly, values alignment, self-worth, authenticity, women in midlife, personal evolution, inner work, growth mindset women

Jessica and Kelly are in their glow-up era — and they're taking you with them. This week's Superwoman Diaries is a full-on deep dive into what's actually working for their skin (hint: Retin-A, Paula's Choice, and asking AI for a skincare routine), why they're both rethinking their wardrobes from the ground up, and the surprisingly freeing idea of wearing the same four outfits you love instead of a closet full of "meh." Plus — would you get subtle lip filler if your partner of 27 years finally told you your lips were beautiful? Yeah, Jessica has thoughts. In This Episode: Paula's Choice 2% BHA Liquid Exfoliant — the 113,000-review skincare hero Jess is obsessed with The Ordinary Glycolic Acid 7% Toner — a $6.93 drugstore find that delivers real results Why Retin-A (prescription retinol) is making a big difference for both sisters — and how to actually work up to it Micro-needling, Botox, and the "bang for your buck" beauty conversation women in their 40s are really having Skin cancer history, mole checks, and why basal cell carcinoma runs in their family The case for wearing the same four outfits you love — Steve Jobs wasn't wrong Z Supply matching sets, Aerie knit sets, and why comfortable can absolutely mean cute Finding jeans that actually fit (and the Democracy denim moment their mom needs to have) Subtle lip filler, external validation, and why you'd be doing it for you — not anyone else Stylist Melissa Briskman is coming on in June to talk summer fashion — stay tuned! Freebie Mentioned

In this bonus episode, Jessica and Kelly tackle a topic that perfectly closes out April's theme of energy and capacity — values alignment. With five Thursdays in the month, the sisters decided to make good use of the extra week by walking through their free April download together: the two-part values questionnaire, Are You Living Your Values or Someone Else's? Jessica and Kelly fill out the questionnaire in real time, getting honest about which parts of their identities feel genuinely theirs versus which ones feel like performance. From Jessica sitting alone on the bleachers at Dominic's baseball game (AirPod in, Audible playing) to Kelly's ongoing work to stop managing her kids and just be with them, this episode is a refreshing reminder that alignment isn't about perfection — it's about honesty. They walk through all five reflection questions and five practical tips for living more in line with what actually matters to you, including why the difference between guilt and misalignment is one of the most important distinctions you can make. What You'll Hear: Part One — The Values Questionnaire Writing five things that feel like core parts of your identity Asking yourself: is this genuinely mine, or is this who someone else needs me to be? (Mine vs. Performing) Which of your values lights you up — and which ones feel like weight? What would you do differently this week if you stopped performing and started living? One thing you keep saying yes to that a more aligned version of you would say no Part Two — Five Tips for Living More Aligned Start with one small no Make your values visible Use the values filter before you commit Notice the difference between guilt and misalignment Give yourself permission for your values to evolve Links & Resources:

Jess and Kelly discuss what it would actually mean to start over with a baby at their stage of life — and why they're both firmly in the "no thank you" camp. They explore new research on postpartum hormones and the five-year timeline for hormonal homeostasis, and reflect on how that science reframes some of the harder seasons of early motherhood. Dr. Gabor Maté's work in The Myth of Normal comes up, particularly around how a mother's emotional state during pregnancy and early childhood shapes a child's long-term wellbeing. The conversation also touches on the unexpected gifts of older parenthood, the instinct to protect and over-worry, and the beautiful shift that comes when you finally start trusting your kids to figure things out. And yes — there is a full dramatic reading of their kids' text messages. You will not be disappointed. Resources & References Mentioned The Myth of Normal by Dr. Gabor Maté Untamed by Glennon Doyle Chasing Brighter Newsletter: chasingbrighter.com/newsletter Follow Chasing Brighter on socials: @chasingbrighter Connect With Us Subscribe to the Chasing Brighter newsletter at chasingbrighter.com/newsletter and follow us on Instagram @chasingbrighter for behind-the-scenes glimpses into our lives and upcoming episodes. Keywords & Search Terms parenting in midlife, having a baby in your 40s, postpartum hormones, hormonal homeostasis after pregnancy, five years postpartum, Dr. Gabor Maté, Myth of Normal, Untamed Glennon Doyle, motherhood and marriage, real talk parenting, chasing brighter podcast, Jessica Colarco, Kelly, midlife women, parenting older kids, teen texts, kids and sports injuries, baseball injuries, letting go as a parent, parenting anxiety, postpartum science, women's hormones, midlife motherhood, parenting humor, sister podcast, authentic conversations, kids growing up, nostalgic parenting, family life podcast, women over 40, emotional health motherhood

No frameworks. No beats. Just Jessica and Kelly telling you what they actually think. In this month's Hot Takes episode, the sisters close out April's Energy & Overwhelm theme by going off-script and getting real about the mental load in relationships, the wellness industry's complicated grip on women, raising sons to be better partners, and what it actually looks like to choose real over perfect. If you've been nodding along all month, this one is the payoff. What We Cover in This Episode Hot Take #1 (Jessica): Sharing the mental load is one of the hardest things couples navigate — and most people aren't being honest about how hard it actually is. It's not about blame. It's about a socialization gap that creates invisible labor, quiet resentment, and the exhausting reality of being the only one who knows what needs asking. Hot Take #2 (Kelly): Self-care culture has given women one more thing to fail at. The wellness industry has turned rest and recovery into a performance — and that's worth pushing back on. Jessica responds: Wellness as a practice that serves you is not the same as wellness as your whole identity. Real self-care doesn't require a red light mask or a Pilates membership — it requires showing yourself that you're worthy of your own time and attention. Hot Take #3 (Jessica): Raising sons to be better partners than the ones we grew up watching is some of the most important work we do. What our kids see us model — about what women do for themselves, about what a partnership looks like — becomes the template they carry into adulthood. A reflection on April: celebrating progress, sitting with discomfort, and naming the one real thing that shifted for you this month. A preview of May: Identity & Expectations — the gap between the version of you everyone expects and the one you're actually becoming. This Month's Brighter Move Write down one real thing from April — something that shifted, something you did differently, something you want to keep. Then have one honest conversation you've been putting off about the load, about what you need, about what has to change. Not ready for the conversation? Write it down first. Sometimes just seeing it on paper is how you figure out what you actually want to say. Coming Up in May We're shifting into Identity & Expectations month. We're talking about the gap between the version of you that everyone expects and the one you're actually becoming. It's going to be a good one. Connect With Us Website & Newsletter: chasingbrighter.com Socials: @ChasingBrighter mental load, invisible labor, women and emotional labor, sharing household responsibilities, mental load in marriage, overcoming resentment in relationships, self-care culture criticism, wellness industry and women, real self-care, self-worth, raising sons to be good partners, modeling healthy relationships for kids, intergenerational patterns, breaking cycles, women and overwhelm, energy management for women, hot takes podcast, Chasing Brighter podcast, real over perfect, Kelly and Jessica, women's midlife podcast, identity and expectations, anxiety and mental load, IFS internal family systems, fawning trauma response, socialization and gender roles

Jessica and Kelly kick things off with a fun, unfiltered conversation about their latest makeup adventures — from blue eyeshadow experimentation to skin tints and primers they're currently loving. Jessica shares a hilarious Ulta makeover story that didn't quite land with her family, and Kelly talks about her current go-to foundation for that dewy winter look. They close out with a surprisingly meaningful discovery: Jessica learning her eyes aren't actually brown — and what it means to really look at the people (and yourself) closest to you. Products Mentioned Stila One Step Correct Skin Tone Correcting & Brightening Primer Live Tinted Hueguard Skin Tint SPF 50 Stila Liqua Play Eyeshadow Milk Hydro Grip 12-Hour Hydrating Gel Skin Tint Jones Road Miracle Balm Jones Road Eyeshadow (pot formula) Glossier Future Dew Solid Oil Serum Illuminator Naturium Phyto Glow Lip Balm Rare Beauty eyebrow gel Mad Love Eyebrow Stamp Want to stay in the know? Subscribe to our newsletter here.  Let's connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chasingbrighter YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@chasingbrighter Find us at chasingbrighter.com/newsletter for the blog, newsletter, and more. Follow us on socials @chasingbrighter.   blue eyeshadow trend, dewy skin makeup, skin tint SPF, Stila primer review, Milk makeup foundation, Jones Road Miracle Balm, hazel eyes, makeup for women, beauty product recommendations, glowy skin routine, eyebrow tips, Chasing Brighter podcast, self-discovery, women's lifestyle podcast, makeup favorites

This one is real. Before hitting record, Kelly shares something personal — her family is navigating health uncertainty with her father-in-law, and she's been quietly absorbing everything at home while her husband is pulled elsewhere. No ask for sympathy, just honesty. And it's exactly the kind of thing that never makes it onto a to-do list. This week, Jessica and Kelly get into invisible labor — the unpaid, unacknowledged work of managing, coordinating, anticipating, and holding everything together — and what carrying it silently actually costs you over time. In This Episode What invisible labor actually is (and why so many women have never heard the term) The difference between mental load and doing tasks — the doing can be shared, but the knowing often isn't Why invisible labor doesn't have to be about marriage and kids — it shows up in solo business ownership, caregiving, friendships, and more The specific kind of resentment that builds when your contribution goes chronically unseen — and what it signals clinically Jessica's honest story: 20 years into marriage before the mental load genuinely shifted, and what actually changed Raising sons who understand what it takes — and breaking generational patterns around who holds the household Why naming it out loud — even just saying it — makes it feel lighter The identity cost: when your own needs start feeling like luxury items that get cut from the budget Kelly's mental load audit (15 minutes, no editing, just get it all out) Jessica's Brighter Move: find one thing you've been managing alone and ask for it to be shared — not handed off, just shared Brighter Move of the Week Find one thing on your list that you've been managing alone and make one specific ask to share it. That's it. Start there. Mental Load Audit Got 15 minutes? Write down everything you're currently tracking, managing, or holding in your head. Don't edit it — just get it out. Looking at the full list is often the first time we give ourselves credit for how much we're actually carrying. Next Week We're closing out April with something a little different — hot takes. No caveats, no softening. Just what Jessica and Kelly actually think about everything they've covered this month: energy, capacity, invisible labor, all of it. You don't want to miss it. Free Download

No agenda, no framework — just Jess and Kelly doing what they do best: talking real life. This week it's all about what we're actually wearing this season (barrel jeans turned cutoffs, gold Birkenstocks, and a strong prediction for the summer's biggest shoe trend), how to stay warm and somewhat cute when you live somewhere that goes from 40 to 70 degrees in 48 hours, and the completely unhinged Trader Joe's tote experience that somehow turned into a lesson about just getting in the line. Come for the fashion chat, stay for the chaos. In This Episode Jess's barrel jeans era — and why it lasted approximately five minutes before she grabbed the scissors Why jelly sandals and jelly flip-flops are about to be everywhere this summer (tortoise shell, specifically) Kelly's cold-weather layering system: merino-adjacent thermals, stretchy jeans, Sorel boots, and a Hunter coat that sold out everywhere Heated vests, heated gloves, heated pants — and the glowing logo that accidentally became a cold-weather parent uniform at every Chicago sports game Secondhand shopping smarter: The RealReal, Poshmark, and thrifting as a real strategy (not just a trend) Does your closet reflect your values? A quick riff on intentional spending, capsule wardrobes, and letting go of fast fashion The Trader Joe's spring tote situation — the line, the bins, the resellers, and the old woman with opinions about Takis "If there's a line, get in the line" — Kassidy Lynn Social's advice that honestly applies to life Free Download

Have you ever looked at your week and thought, if I could just get more organized, I could handle all of this? In this episode, Jessica and Kelly get into a reframe that might be the most important mindset shift you make this month: the difference between a discipline problem and a capacity problem — and why confusing the two keeps so many high-achieving women stuck in a cycle of self-blame. Jessica opens with a real-life story about having three kids in three places at the same time and the moment she stopped calling it a personal failure. Because here's the truth: no amount of discipline puts you in two places at once. Capacity is real, it's finite, and it changes — and it's time we start working with that reality instead of against ourselves. In This Episode Why high-achieving women are especially prone to the "I just need to try harder" trap The crucial difference between a discipline problem and a capacity problem (and why it changes everything) How capacity actually works — it rises and falls based on rest, stress, season of life, and what you're carrying The myth of willpower: why white-knuckling through a capacity issue doesn't refill the tank Capability vs. obligation — you can be capable of something and still not be required to do it The two questions that point in completely different directions: "What can I do more?" vs. "What is asking too much of me right now?" A language swap that takes seconds and changes how you relate to your limits Kelly's daily capacity check-in practice (it's simpler than you think) A nod to Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman and the case for opting out Brighter Move of the Week A simple language swap: every time you catch yourself saying "I should be able to handle this," try replacing it with just — "This is a lot." No comparison. No justification. Just let it be a lot. Free Download

Jessica kicks off this Superwoman Diaries with a little confession — she got new ear piercings, and everything we learned in the '90s about aftercare was wrong. She shares what current piercing care actually looks like (hint: put down the peroxide and stop twisting!), why she and Kelly are both craving a refreshed look, and how it all connects to breaking free from "good girl" conditioning and finally just doing the things that feel like you. Plus — Gabby's last-minute commitment party came together in six days and it was everything. In this episode: Why Jessica got multiple new ear piercings (inspired by Michelle Obama, naturally) Old-school piercing care vs. what actually works: saline spray, no twisting, no peroxide Why ear piercings and tattoos feel like acts of identity and self-expression The connection to Untamed by Glennon Doyle and breaking free from "good girl" rules Raising teenagers — the joy, the roasting, and the Inside Out 2 feelings Gabby's surprise softball commitment party, pulled together in under a week Free Download Mentioned: Are You Living Your Values or Someone Else's? — a free values clarity guide. Sign up at chasingbrighter.com. Connect with us: Website & newsletter: chasingbrighter.com Instagram: @chasingbrighter Keywords: ear piercing aftercare, new ear piercings, piercing care tips, saline spray for piercings, midlife self-expression, living authentically, values alignment, breaking free from good girl conditioning, Glennon Doyle Untamed, raising teenagers, college softball commitment, Chasing Brighter podcast, women's lifestyle podcast, real over perfect, midlife women podcast, identity and self-discovery, choosing yourself

Jessica opens this month with something deeply personal — six years of intentional self-work, 40 pounds lost, a thriving practice, two podcasts, three kids in sports, and a life she genuinely loves. And yet. There are still days when something feels off. Not physically. Deeper. This week, she and Kelly name something that doesn't show up on any wellness checklist: the exhaustion that comes from holding things — schedules, emotional temperatures, everyone else's needs — and why that kind of tired is worth paying attention to. If you've ever snapped at someone, felt immediately guilty, and then felt even more depleted by the guilt itself — this episode was made for you. What We Talk About Why you can love your life and still be genuinely depleted by it The snap-guilt-deplete feedback loop (and why it's not a character flaw) The difference between physical exhaustion and the weight of invisible labor How depletion builds through accumulation — not crisis Why numbing (scrolling, binge-watching) doesn't actually restore you Real, honest things Kelly and Jess actually do when the system needs something it's not getting: journaling, canceling plans without guilt, opting out, asking for help, protecting sleep, choosing connection that energizes Your Brighter Move for the week: Where is my energy going? (No fixing required — just noticing) Free Download 

Oscars season is here — and Jessica and Kelly haven't seen most of the movies. Oops. This week's Super Woman Diaries takes a fun detour into what the sisters are actually watching, reading, and loving right now. From Sinners to Bridgerton to Night Court reboots, they get real about how much streaming has changed pop culture, why prestige film culture doesn't hit the same anymore, and what it means to just... watch something fun without guilt. Oh, and there's a brief but passionate tangent about Anaconda. You're welcome. In This Episode: Why neither of them can keep up with Oscar nominees (and why that's totally fine) How streaming changed what "good" means — and who gets to decide The books they're reading right now (including one that made Jessica cry) What the family is watching together when you've got an 11-year-old, two teenagers, and two adults to please Kelly's deep dive into Slow Horses with Gary Oldman Jessica's obsession with Mr. Malcolm's List and why she loves what Bridgerton does with casting The Night Court reboot nobody expected to love — and then loved A spoiler about Ford vs. Ferrari that is very much deserved at this point Books Mentioned: The Last Letter by Rebecca Yarros Hamnet by Maggie O'Farrell Wuthering Heights (and the film adaptation Kelly is hunting down) Ford vs. Ferrari (yes, there's a book) Shows & Movies Mentioned: Sinners (Ryan Coogler/Michael B. Jordan) Mr. Malcolm's List Bridgerton Slow Horses (Apple TV+) Victoria The Closer High Potential Night Court (reboot) St. Denis Medical Anaconda (2025, with Paul Rudd and Jack Black) Ford vs. Ferrari Jumanji franchise Outlander Connect with Us:

If you've ever bought a beautiful planner, built an elaborate system, or tried to replicate a perfectly organized pantry from Instagram — and quietly abandoned it two weeks later — this episode is for you. Jessica and Kelly get real about why picture-perfect organizational systems fail and what actually works instead: low-friction, flexible, forgiving systems built around your life, not someone else's highlight reel. In This Episode Why Instagram and Pinterest organization systems are built on unrealistic assumptions (consistent moods, predictable schedules, zero emergencies) The difference between aspirational systems and real ones — and why that distinction matters What "low friction" actually looks like: 10-minute anchor habits, three default dinners, 15-minute closing shifts The power of asking: What's the smallest version of this that would still move things forward? Habit stacking in real life — how to attach new habits to things you're already doing (hi, morning coffee) Kelly's simple meal planning shift: three meals a week + weekly grocery shopping only Jess's real-life systems: cubby shoes at the door, laying out clothes the night before, weekly family schedule meetings Energy check-ins: adapting your system to your actual capacity each day, not punishing yourself for being human "If your system collapses during stressful times, it's not a supportive system." — Kelly Take the Quiz

Jess and Kelly are back with another unfiltered Superwoman Diaries check-in — the kind of conversation you'd have with your best friend over coffee. This week they're celebrating real fitness wins that have nothing to do with the scale, getting into the truth about body transformation timelines (spoiler: it takes longer than social media wants you to believe), and going deep on a hair care rabbit hole featuring the Abbey Young method, the curly girl method, OUAI, K18, and a $14 Amazon find that might change your routine. In This Episode: Jess's non-scale victories: 16 burpees, a minute plank, and lunges without the wall — yes, really Kelly's brutal 30-minute core blast class and why she's finally stopped caring about being "the last one" Why body transformation realistically takes years — and why that's actually okay The longevity PSA you need to hear: what happens to your body after 65 if you're not investing in yourself now The Abbey Young Method — a multi-step hair care routine with drugstore products that has Jess's curls looking their best ever L'Oréal Elvive Glycolic Glossing Shampoo & Conditioner: the drugstore find that delivers salon-level softness OUAI Air Dry Foam: Kelly's honest review (the frizz is real) K18: both hosts agree — are they using it wrong? Color Wow Dream Coat Supernatural Spray: a $14 Amazon find Kelly swears has changed her hot tool game Why the best hair routine is your routine — not Abby Young's, not a TikToker's, yours Takeaway: Whether it's your fitness journey or your hair routine, the system that works best is the one that fits your real life. Stop chasing someone else's results on someone else's timeline. Keep showing up, keep adjusting, and celebrate the wins that actually matter. This Month's Freebie

What's Your Organizational Style? Why Energy — Not Willpower — Is the Real System You've probably seen the perfectly labeled pantries, the color-coded planners, the elaborate systems all over social media. And maybe you've tried them — only to find they didn't stick. That's not a you problem. It's a mismatch problem. In this episode, Jessica and Kelly dig into one of the most underrated organizing tools out there: your own energy. Not hustle energy. Not caffeine energy. The four distinct types of energy that run your daily life — and why learning to work with them instead of against them can change everything. In This Episode, We Talk About Why organizing systems from social media often don't work for real life The four types of energy — physical, emotional, social, and creative — and why they don't all peak at the same time The difference between expectation-based living and energy-aligned living How to track your own energy patterns over five days (and what to do with what you find) Why chronic afternoon energy crashes might be worth talking to your doctor about The power of intentional social connection — and how to actually protect it How creative energy shows up in unexpected ways (meal prep, anyone?) Why matching your tasks to your energy level is the key to a sustainable life Takeaway Stop asking why am I so tired? and start asking what kind of energy is running low right now? When you understand your energy — when it peaks, when it ebbs, and what fills or drains each type — you stop fighting yourself. You start building systems that actually fit. And that's what makes life feel more manageable, not just on good days, but on the hard ones too. Burnout isn't a character flaw. It's what happens when we organize life around expectations instead of energy. This episode is your invitation to do it differently. Take the Quiz! Want to discover what organizational style actually fits your personality? Sign up for the Chasing Brighter newsletter and take our free Organizational Style Quiz — designed to help you find simple systems that work for your real life, not someone else's Pinterest board.

How do you stay sane when life's logistics feel like a full-time job? Spring sports season has officially arrived — and with it comes the schedules, carpools, tournaments, gear bags, snacks, and the endless coordination that somehow lands on parents' calendars. In this candid Superwoman Diaries conversation, Jessica and Kelly talk about the very real mental load of parenting during busy sports seasons. From last-minute tournament schedules to figuring out transportation when schools can't bus athletes, the logistics alone can feel like a second job. Jessica shares what it looks like navigating high school baseball with unpredictable game times, travel tournaments, and feeding a teenage athlete who needs actual meals, not just snacks. Kelly reflects on how sports commitments shift once kids reach high school — and how families often have to build their own support systems through carpools, communication, and flexibility. But beyond the logistics, this episode highlights something deeper: how parents take care of themselves during high-demand seasons of life. Because when the calendar is packed and the mental load is high, staying organized and protecting your own energy becomes essential. Jessica shares how she's approaching this season proactively — prioritizing sleep, asking for help, adjusting her work schedule when needed, and finding small ways to stay grounded. And if you've ever wondered why certain organization systems work for other people but not for you, Jessica and Kelly also introduce a fun way to find out: their Organizational Style Quiz, designed to help you discover systems that actually fit your personality and lifestyle. In This Episode, We Talk About Why spring sports season can feel overwhelming for parents The hidden mental load behind teenage athletics Navigating transportation, carpools, and unpredictable schedules Feeding teenage athletes (hint: snacks won't cut it) The shift from club sports to high school athletics Why self-care matters even more during busy seasons How understanding your organizational style can make life easier Takeaway Busy seasons are inevitable — but burnout doesn't have to be. When life gets full, the goal isn't perfection. It's support, simple systems, and taking care of yourself while you care for everyone else. Want more inspiration for organizing your life this spring? Sign up for the Chasing Brighter newsletter and take our free Organizational Style Quiz to discover simple systems that work for your real life.

What if the thing weighing you down isn't your schedule or your closet… but an identity you've already outgrown? Sometimes the heaviest clutter in our lives isn't physical — it's emotional. In this episode of Chasing Brighter, Jessica and Kelly explore the idea of emotional clutter: the roles, identities, expectations, and coping strategies we once needed but may have already outgrown. Because choosing real over perfect doesn't always mean doing more. Sometimes it means letting go of the version of yourself you worked really hard to become. Together, Jessica and Kelly talk about how perfectionism, over-functioning, people-pleasing, and even certain dreams can quietly become emotional clutter over time. What once helped us survive may no longer help us thrive. Jessica also introduces the concept of Internal Family Systems (IFS) in a simple, approachable way — exploring how different “parts” of us (like the overachiever, the fixer, or the over-analyzer) try to protect us. The goal isn't to eliminate those parts, but to gently reorganize who's driving the car so our compassionate, grounded self can lead. Through personal stories about parenting, productivity, consumerism, and decision fatigue, Jessica and Kelly reflect on the roles and habits they are learning to release — and how doing so has created more space for presence, connection, and joy. Because sometimes the most powerful reset isn't organizing your life better. It's giving yourself permission to evolve. In This Episode, We Talk About Why emotional clutter can feel heavier than physical clutter Signs you may have outgrown an identity, role, or habit The difference between coping strategies that helped you survive vs. ones that help you thrive Internal Family Systems and understanding the “parts” of yourself Letting go of over-functioning, perfectionism, and external validation Analysis paralysis and decision fatigue in a world of too much information Parenting with presence instead of constant productivity Reducing consumerism and aligning spending with values Creating space for play, connection, and real life moments ✨ Want more inspiration for organizing your life this spring? Sign up for the Chasing Brighter newsletter and take our free Organizational Style Quiz to discover simple systems that work for your real life.

Looking for your next great read? From cozy romances to powerful historical fiction, we're sharing the books we can't stop thinking about. Spring always feels like a season of fresh starts—and sometimes that includes refreshing what we're reading. In this episode of Chasing Brighter, Jessica and Kelly dive into the books that have been keeping them company lately, from page-turning thrillers and heartwarming romance to powerful historical fiction and thought-provoking nonfiction. They share their favorite recent reads, the books currently on their nightstands, and the unexpected places they're finding their next great story—from used bookstore treasures to the Libby library app and Goodreads recommendations. Along the way, the conversation explores why reading can feel like such a grounding ritual, how different formats (audiobooks vs. physical books) shape the experience, and why sometimes the best books aren't the newest bestsellers. If you're looking for your next book club pick, a cozy bedtime read, or something deeper that sparks reflection, this episode is packed with ideas. And yes… you may leave with a much longer reading list. Inside This Conversation  

What if the quickest way to feel calmer isn't another mindset shift… but clearing one small corner of your home? February on Chasing Brighter was all about resetting our nervous systems, resting without guilt, and reconnecting with ourselves. Now as we head into March, we're gently moving forward—starting with the space we live in every single day: our homes. In this episode, Jessica and Kelly welcome back Diana Moll, founder of D's Declutter and host of Organizing With Ease, for a grounded, realistic conversation about how clutter impacts stress, energy, and daily life—and how simple, sustainable systems can help your whole family function with more ease (without chasing Pinterest perfection). In This Episode, We Talk About Why decluttering isn't “having less”—it's making room for calm and clarity How your home can either drain your energy or help restore it The real challenge: not starting… but maintaining your systems How to stop comparing your home to “perfect” online spaces and meet yourself where you are Kid-friendly routines that actually work (and yes… the legendary “black bag” story

What if dinner didn't have to be a nightly battle, but could actually become your family's secret weapon for connection? In this honest and relatable episode, Jessica and Kelly dive into two things adults were wildly unprepared for: Managing your body after injury without overdoing it. Deciding what's for dinner… every single day… for the rest of your life.

What if getting organized didn't mean becoming a completely different person? What if it meant working with your brain instead of against it? In this episode of Chasing Brighter, we're kicking off our March theme — Organized, Not Perfect — and having an honest conversation about why traditional organization advice often leaves women feeling behind, overwhelmed, or like they're “doing it wrong.” Because here's what we believe: You don't need a prettier planner. You don't need to wake up at 5 a.m. You don't need a Pinterest pantry. You need simple systems that support your actual life. The one with kids in sports. The one with late nights and early mornings. The one that's beautifully full — and sometimes chaotic. We're exploring: Why perfection-based organization increases stress The difference between supportive systems and rigid expectations How to reduce friction in your daily life Why the goal isn't aesthetic — it's ease And how to build structure that feels like freedom Chapters 00:00 Navigating Connection and Disconnection 08:42 Shifting Perspectives in Relationships Connect With Us:

What do you do when your child's “entrepreneurial spirit” earns them a detention slip? This conversation is messy, honest, and human — just like parenting. In this honest and relatable Super Woman Diaries episode of Chasing Brighter, Jessica and Kelly unpack a parenting moment that many of us quietly fear: getting that call from school. Kelly shares the story of her son Beckett, who started selling 3D printed items to classmates — including a plastic knife — and ended up in detention. What started as creativity and hustle quickly turned into a lesson about rules, responsibility, and consequences. And like all real-life parenting moments, it wasn't black and white.

In this episode of Chasing Brighter, Jessica and Kelly continue the February theme of Reset, Rest, Reconnect with a conversation so many women need to hear: What if the reason rest feels uncomfortable… is conditioning, not weakness? We say we want rest. But when we slow down, we feel guilt. Anxiety. Panic. Because somewhere along the way, many of us learned: Being “good” means being useful Productivity equals worth Slowing down is lazy We haven't earned a break yet Especially for Gen X and Millennial women raised to be capable, accommodating, and endlessly reliable, rest isn't just physical — it's emotional. In this episode, we gently challenge that belief.

What happens when your body forces you to slow down — and you didn't plan to? In this deeply personal Superwoman Diaries segment, Jessica shares the aftermath of her recent car accident — not just the physical pain of a trapezius strain, but the emotional ripple effects that followed. Because sometimes it's not just the injury. It's the irritability. The exhaustion. The vulnerability. The way stress sneaks into family conversations. The way the world already feels heavy — and then something personal tips the scale. Jessica and Kelly explore what it's like to move through physical pain while still being a mom, a therapist, a partner, and a human trying to stay regulated in a polarized world. This episode is a reminder that even Superwomen get knocked down sometimes — and that slowing down isn't weakness. It's wisdom. It's about honoring your limits. Staying connected. And choosing compassion — for yourself and for others. Inside This Conversation: Jessica shares her experience of being in a car accident and the physical pain that followed. The conversation highlights the emotional toll of chronic pain and the importance of self-care. Jessica emphasizes the need for gratitude, especially after a traumatic event. They discuss the impact of family dynamics on emotional well-being during stressful times. The importance of recognizing and validating the struggles of others is highlighted. Jessica mentions the need to manage stress in a polarized world. They explore the idea of taking breaks from news and social media to protect mental health. The conversation emphasizes the balance between self-care and social responsibility. Jessica reflects on the importance of not letting external stressors overwhelm personal well-being. They conclude with a reminder to stay connected and support one another. 

What If You're Not Failing… You're Just Dysregulated? What if the exhaustion, irritability, and emotional fog you're feeling isn't a personal flaw—but a nervous system asking for support? In this episode, Jessica and Kelly explore something we don't talk about enough: the difference between regulating yourself and trying to fix yourself. Because in a world that constantly tells us to optimize, improve, and power through… sometimes the bravest thing we can do is pause and reset. This conversation is compassionate, practical, and deeply grounding—especially if you've been feeling emotionally fatigued or overstimulated. Inside This Conversation ✨ Why resetting your nervous system is foundational for emotional health ✨ The subtle signs of dysregulation (hint: it's not just panic) ✨ Why regulation is about safety—not self-improvement ✨ Micro-resets that don't require a life overhaul ✨ Breathing techniques that signal calm to your body ✨ Simple grounding exercises to reconnect with yourself ✨ Environmental shifts that create instant cues of safety ✨ Mental and emotional resets for moments of overwhelm ✨ “Emergency” techniques for when emotions spike ✨ Reframing self-care as kindness—not luxury Practical Tools We Share You'll walk away with simple, doable resets you can use today: Hand-on-heart breathing to signal safety Body-based grounding techniques Micro environmental shifts (light, scent, sound) Mental reframes to reduce emotional intensity Small resets that take 60 seconds—not a weekend retreat Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Podcasting and Captivate 00:26 Resetting the Nervous System 03:14 Understanding Regulation vs. Fixing 06:00 Micro Resets for Daily Life 08:57 Breath and Body Resets 11:39 Environmental and Mental Resets 14:34 Emergency Reset Techniques 17:11 Conclusion and Next Steps Connect With Us:

Is your self-care rooted in who you are now—or who you learned to be growing up? In the Season Five premiere of Chasing Brighter, Jessica and Kelly kick things off with a light-hearted, nostalgic conversation about beauty trends—starting with the surprising return of dusting (yes, body powder is having a moment

Chasing Brighter Season 5 Trailer: Reset, Rest, Reconnect What if every season of life deserves to feel brighter? Chasing Brighter began as a guide for women in midlife—but this season, we're expanding the conversation. Because no matter your age, your season, or your story, you deserve joy, growth, and connection. In Season Five, Jessica and Kelly invite you into a deeper, more honest space—one that celebrates realness over perfection and growth over pressure. This season is about connection, authenticity, and permission to be exactly who you are. ✨ Real is the new perfect—and we're just getting started. February Theme: Reset, Rest, Reconnect February on Chasing Brighter is all about turning inward and gently starting again. While Valentine's Day often focuses on romantic love, we're shifting the focus to self-connection. Winter invites rest, reflection, and slowing down—so we're leaning into that energy with tools and conversations to help you: Reset your mindset and nervous system Rest without guilt Reconnect with yourself before reconnecting with others

What does it really mean to live brighter—at any age? Season Four changed us and Season Five is about to expand everything.  Jessica and Kelly are reflecting on the themes that shaped Season Four of Chasing Brighter: confidence, authenticity, self-worth, and joy. They dive into why being real resonates more than curated perfection, why midlife is powerful but not the only chapter worth celebrating, and how lifelong growth is the true goal. Plus, they tease what's coming next as the podcast opens the door to even more stories, voices, and conversations that help you reconnect with yourself and live brighter—right now. Inside This Conversation: Season Four mirrored personal growth and reflection. The importance of confidence in various life stages. Authenticity resonates more with the audience than curation. Midlife is a powerful season, but growth can happen at any age. Self-worth and joy are universal themes. The podcast aims to be a safe space for honest conversations. Living authentically is prioritized over perfection. Change and lifelong learning are essential for growth. The upcoming season will feature diverse stories and experiences. Listeners are encouraged to reconnect with themselves and find joy. Chapters 00:00 Reflecting on Season Four 02:44 Embracing Confidence and Authenticity 05:44 The Shift to All Life 08:26 Looking Ahead to Season Five 12:57 NEWCHAPTER Connect With Us:

Is this just stress… or could it be perimenopause? And how do we actually advocate for our health in midlife? In this honest and empowering conversation, Jessica and Kelly dive into the realities of navigating midlife hormonal changes—especially the confusing, emotional, and often overlooked world of perimenopause. They share personal stories about irregular cycles, mood shifts, anxiety, and weight changes, highlighting how deeply hormones can affect mental and physical health. The episode explores why tracking symptoms matters, how estrogen can influence mood and weight, and why empathy—for ourselves and other women—is essential during this transitional season. Jessica and Kelly also discuss the importance of seeking informed, specialized medical care, sorting through mixed messaging around hormone treatments, and trusting your instincts when something feels off. Ultimately, this episode is a reminder that you're not alone, your symptoms are real, and advocating for your health is an act of self-care and empowerment.

Do you really need a save-the-date for a high school graduation… or is that too much? In this candid and relatable conversation, Jessica and Kelly dive into the etiquette, emotions, and logistics behind planning life's milestone celebrations—from graduations to weddings and everything in between. What starts as a simple question about whether to send a save-the-date quickly opens into a thoughtful discussion about intention, connection, and how celebrations have evolved over time. They explore why giving loved ones a heads-up can matter—especially when travel is involved—while also acknowledging that not every milestone needs to follow traditional rules. Along the way, they share personal stories about weddings (including destination weddings), changing expectations, and the beauty of keeping gatherings meaningful rather than overdone. This episode is equal parts practical and nostalgic, with a gentle reminder that the best celebrations aren't about perfection or pressure—they're about presence, thoughtfulness, and time together. Inside This Conversation: The pros and cons of sending save-the-dates for graduations and other milestones How location and guest dynamics shape celebration decisions Thoughts on destination weddings and modern wedding traditions Why smaller, more intentional gatherings can feel more fulfilling A reminder that celebrations should reflect you, not expectations Chapters 00:00 Graduation Planning and Save the Dates 06:29 Destination Weddings and Family Gatherings 11:11 Wedding Protocols and Intentional Celebrations Connect With Us:

What if the holidays didn't have to feel so heavy and connection mattered more than getting everything right? In this episode, Jessica and Kelly reflect on their recent family Christmas gathering and the quiet shifts that made it feel different—in the best way. They talk openly about hosting without carrying the burden of doing everything, the power of delegation, and how simplifying holiday traditions can ease stress without sacrificing connection. The conversation explores how family dynamics evolve over time, how we often relate to people based on who they used to be, and what happens when we allow room for change. From releasing perfectionism to honoring personal limits, this episode is a gentle reminder that meaningful holidays aren't built on flawless plans—but on presence, flexibility, and grace. If the holidays leave you feeling stretched, obligated, or quietly overwhelmed, this episode offers a compassionate reframe: it's okay to simplify, to miss a gathering, to ask for help, and to choose connection over perfection. Inside This Conversation: I wasn't taking on the burden of everything. It's important to delegate and ask for help. Family dynamics can be very helpful and grateful. People change over time, and so do their relationships. We often define family members based on past experiences. Simplifying gatherings can reduce stress. Connection with family is more important than perfection. Children adapt quickly to new environments. It's okay to miss family gatherings sometimes. Give yourself grace during the holidays. Chapters 00:00 Family Christmas Reflections 03:29 Navigating Family Dynamics 06:22 Understanding Change in Family Relationships 09:05 The Joy of Hosting 12:00 Simplifying Holiday Gatherings 15:02 Embracing Imperfection in Entertaining 17:54 Finding Balance in Family Commitments Connect With Us:

Ever feel like managing your kids' healthcare is a full-time job you never applied for? In this honest and relatable conversation, Jessica and Kelly dive into the emotional and logistical load of parenting—starting with the surprisingly stressful world of pediatric dental care. From sticker shock and feeling like “just another number” to the exhausting process of finding providers who actually feel supportive, they unpack the invisible labor parents carry every day. Along the way, they remind us of something crucial: you don't have to earn rest, quitting a provider can be an act of self-respect, and caring for yourself is not optional—it's essential. This episode is a permission slip for grace, boundaries, and choosing care that truly feels like care. Inside This Conversation: Why parenting often feels like managing a healthcare system alone The emotional and financial reality of kids' dental care What it's like to feel dismissed—or truly supported—by providers Why leaving a dentist (or any provider) can be empowering The invisible mental load parents carry every day How self-care and grace can coexist with family responsibility Chapters 00:00 Navigating Dental Care for Kids 03:31 Finding the Right Dentist for Yourself 06:28 The Challenges of Scheduling and Insurance 09:17 The Emotional Load of Parental Responsibilities Connect With Us:

What if the most powerful way to step into a new year isn't by setting goals—but by honoring how far you've already come? In this end-of-year reflection, Jessica and Kelly look back on 2025 with honesty, humor, and heart. They celebrate growth, name what felt hard, and introduce the Bright List—a simple but meaningful exercise to help you reflect on what you're proud of, what you're ready to release, and what you want more of as you step into 2026. Inside This Conversation: Reflecting on the past year helps in personal growth. The Bright List exercise encourages positive reflection. Releasing negativity can lead to a more fulfilling life. Expanding joy and presence is essential for well-being. Surprises in life can lead to unexpected growth. Healing often comes from acknowledging struggles. Life is messy, and that's part of the journey. Intentions for the new year should focus on self-improvement. Embracing change is crucial as children grow and leave home. Living life to the fullest is a key takeaway for 2026. Chapters 00:00 Reflecting on Growth and Wins 07:13 Exploring Surprises and Healing Moments 12:43 Finding Alignment and Intentions for 2026 20:05 Embracing Change and the Future Connect With Us:

What if this holiday didn't ask you to do more… but invited you to breathe? In this special Christmas episode of Chasing Brighter, Jessica and Kelly offer listeners a soft place to land in the middle of the holiday season. Whether your home is loud and full of activity or quiet and reflective, this episode is a reminder that you don't have to perform joy or hold it all together. Together, they guide listeners through a gentle moment of reflection—inviting you to notice what you're proud of, what brought unexpected joy, and what you were able to release this month. The conversation then slows into a calming, guided pause designed to help you reconnect with your body, your breath, and a sense of safety in the present moment. This episode acknowledges that the holidays can be both beautiful and triggering, tender and complicated. Most of all, it offers permission: to rest, to breathe, and to receive exactly what you need today. Inside This Episode: Creating a safe place to land during the holidays Reflective questions to gently close out the month A guided moment of presence to calm your nervous system Permission to slow down and release pressure A reminder that you are safe, loved, and enough—just as you are A Gentle Invitation: As you listen, see if you can allow this episode to be a pause—not another thing to accomplish. Let your shoulders drop, feel your feet on the ground, and breathe a little deeper than you have all day.   Wishing you warmth, rest, and joy—exactly in the way you need it today. Thank you for spending a few minutes of your holiday with us. You are worthy. Connect With Us:

What if the best holiday moments are the ones you don't plan? From festive fails to favorite treats and family traditions, Jessica and Kelly explore the beauty of embracing the season as it unfolds. This episode is a cozy reminder that balance, joy, and connection matter more than getting everything “right.” Inside This Conversation:  Holiday fails can lead to funny stories and resilience. School holiday activities can be overwhelming for parents. Shopping early can help avoid stock issues during the holidays. Elf on the Shelf can be a fun tradition, but it can also be stressful. It's important to prioritize family traditions that bring joy. Advent calendars can be a fun way to celebrate the season. Gift expectations can lead to disappointment if not communicated. Food and drink play a significant role in holiday celebrations. Appetizers can be the highlight of holiday parties. Finding joy in the holidays is essential, even amidst stress.   Chapters 00:00 Holiday Fails and Festive Disasters 02:35 School Holiday Activities and Traditions 04:37 Holiday Shopping Strategies 06:27 Elf on the Shelf and Holiday Magic 08:22 Advent Calendars and Holiday Treats 10:34 Holiday Food Opinions and Appetizers 17:08 Reflections on the Holiday Season Connect With Us:

What if self-care this season wasn't about doing more… but choosing what actually restores you? In this episode of Chasing Brighter, Jessica and Kelly dive into one of the most important (and misunderstood) topics of the season: holiday self-care that truly nourishes your mind, body, and spirit — not the kind that leaves you feeling overstimulated and depleted. The holidays pull on every part of us: schedules, emotions, finances, expectations, and family dynamics. With all the lights, noise, crowds, and invisible emotional labor, it's easy to slip into numbing coping strategies instead of nurturing ones. In this conversation, Jessica and Kelly help you understand the difference — without shame — so you can listen to what your body actually needs. You'll explore how over-stimulation impacts your nervous system, why even joyful moments can feel draining when they pile up, and how to gently shift toward self-care practices that leave you calmer, steadier, and more grounded. Inside This Conversation:  The difference between nourishing self-care vs. numbing coping Why holiday over-stimulation impacts your nervous system Common numbing habits (and why they're human, not failures) Examples of nourishing rituals that restore your energy Why heat therapy (baths, foot soaks, warm showers) can be especially soothing Signs you may be numbing instead of nurturing The “Nourish Me Check-In”: a simple 3-part self-care reset Boundary scripts that protect your peace during the holidays A gentle weekly challenge to support your wellbeing Chapters 00:00 Embracing Holiday Self-Care 01:17 NEWCHAPTER 03:31 Nourishing vs. Numbing Strategies 06:30 Recognizing Signs of Numbing 09:22 Implementing Self-Care Practices Connect With Us:

What if the holiday season feels more like “back-to-school” chaos than winter magic—and how do we change that? The holiday season comes with excitement… and a whole lot of pressure. Jessica and Kelly dive into the emotional load of December, comparing it to the hectic back-to-school season and exploring why so many of us feel stretched thin. Together, they talk about opting out of unnecessary obligations, finding joy in smaller moments, and giving yourself permission to slow down. Inside This Conversation:  December feels like back to school with its busy routines. Opting out of obligations can be a form of self-care. Gift-giving can be simplified by involving children in the process. Community initiatives like Winter Wonderland can ease holiday stress. It's okay to say no to events and activities that don't bring joy. Prioritizing joy over obligation is essential during the holidays. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their holiday priorities. The importance of a smaller gift list to reduce stress. Finding joy in the holiday season is possible with intention. Self-care should be a priority during busy times. Chapters 00:00 The Holiday Back to School Feeling 03:28 Opting Out of Holiday Obligations 06:36 Finding Joy and Setting Boundaries Connect With Us:

How would your relationships shift if you protected your peace as much as your plans? The holidays can bring out the best—and the most complicated—in our relationships. In this episode of Chasing Brighter, Jessica and Kelly unpack the emotional landscape of the season: the overstimulation, the resurfacing of old roles, the quiet aches of loneliness or grief, and the pressure to “show up” perfectly. Instead, they offer a grounded, compassionate approach to connection. Together, they explore how small, intentional moments can nurture deeper relationships, why boundaries are essential for emotional well-being, and how authenticity can transform how we engage with the people we love. This conversation is an invitation to slow down, protect your peace, and reconnect in simple, meaningful ways. Inside This Conversation:  December can highlight loneliness, grief, or unresolved tension. Our nervous system is overstimulated during the holidays. Old family roles can resurface, impacting emotional dynamics. Choosing small, meaningful interactions fosters connection. Boundaries protect connection and emotional well-being. Resentment builds when we overcommit ourselves. Five minutes of focused attention can create real connection. Connection doesn't have to be big to be meaningful. Show up authentically in your relationships. Simple practices can support your nervous system during busy times. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Connection During the Holidays 02:27 Understanding Emotional Roles and Family Dynamics 04:57 Building Meaningful Connections 08:01 Establishing Healthy Boundaries 10:49 The Power of Presence and Small Acts 11:43 Conclusion and Next Steps Connect With Us:

Why is it that we can call five friends when something goes wrong… but hesitate to call even one when something goes right? Today, we're unpacking the complicated dance between vulnerability, celebration, and connection. Who are the people in your life who can hold your hard moments and cheer for your wins without shrinking? In this conversation, Jessica and Kelly explore the dynamics of friendships, particularly focusing on the tendency to share good and bad news. They discuss the societal pressures surrounding vulnerability and the celebration of personal achievements, emphasizing the importance of surrounding oneself with supportive individuals. The conversation concludes with a call to embrace an abundance mindset and celebrate wins together. Inside This Conversation:  The number of friends you call with good news is often smaller than those you call with bad news. Many people fear sharing good news due to concerns about jealousy or being perceived as bragging. Vulnerability is key in friendships, allowing for deeper connections. It's easier to share bad news than good news for many individuals. Cultural norms often discourage celebrating personal achievements, labeling it as bragging. Surrounding oneself with supportive friends can foster a healthier environment for sharing successes. The concept of 'candle blower outers' highlights the importance of uplifting each other. There is an abundance of happiness and success available for everyone. Celebrating wins is essential for personal growth and happiness. It's important to be mindful of others' emotional states when sharing good news. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Podcasting Journey 01:38 Friends for Good and Bad News 04:36 Vulnerability and Authenticity in Sharing 07:03 Celebrating Wins and Abundance Mindset 09:00 NEWCHAPTER Connect With Us:

The holidays are here — and so is the pressure. The expectations. The comparison. The “shoulds.” But what if joy didn't just happen this season? What if you created it on purpose? In today's episode, Kelly and Jessica kick off December with a powerful, grounding conversation about choosing joy intentionally… not accidentally, not because Instagram says so, not because “it's tradition,” and definitely not because you feel obligated. Together, they introduce a simple but life-changing tool called The Joy Hierarchy — your personal top-three list of what brings you real joy this season. You'll learn how to identify what genuinely nourishes you, prioritize what matters most, and release all the holiday extras that drain your energy. This episode gives you: ✨ A new definition of joy (it's not one-size-fits-all!) ✨ A step-by-step guide to building your own Joy Hierarchy ✨ Permission slips to opt out, simplify, and redefine traditions ✨ Heartfelt examples from Kelly and Jessica's own joy lists ✨ A reminder that your holiday gets to look the way you need it to Whether you're craving slow mornings, cozy lights, meaningful moments, or more space than usual — you're invited to make this a season that feels honest, grounding, and deeply yours. Because joy isn't something you wait for. It's something you choose — on purpose. In This Episode: Why joy takes intention (yes, even during the holidays) How to identify what actually brings you joy Releasing obligation, guilt, and comparison Creating a Joy Hierarchy that guides your December Protecting your energy with boundaries Permission to slow down and choose a different kind of season Mentioned in This Episode:

What book has been waiting for you to finally read it? In this episode, Jessica and Kelly discuss their reading goals for the year, sharing insights on various books they've read, particularly focusing on memoirs and personal stories. They explore different genres, recommend titles to each other, and reflect on the impact of reading on their lives. The discussion highlights the joy of reading and the benefits it brings, encouraging listeners to dive into new books and expand their literary horizons. Inside This Conversation:  Kelly is aiming for 75 books this year, currently at 56. Jessica enjoyed the memoir 'Solito' about a boy's journey from El Salvador. The discussion includes the impact of memoirs on understanding personal stories. They reflect on the sensationalism of media in celebrity narratives. Jessica found 'Waiting for Britney' to be a fascinating read about media influence. Kelly shares her experience with spooky books and their appeal. They discuss the importance of well-written literature and character development. Jessica recommends 'The Haunting of Pains Hollow' for spooky book lovers. Kelly is currently reading 'Atomic Habits' and finds it insightful. The conversation emphasizes the benefits of reading and sharing book recommendations. Chapters 00:00 Reading Goals and Challenges 03:26 Memoirs That Resonate 06:30 Exploring New Genres 09:09 Book Recommendations and Insights 12:03 Future Reads and Closing Thoughts Connect With Us:

Are you rushing through the holidays, or are you letting gratitude soften the edges of your days? In this Thanksgiving episode of Chasing Brighter, hosts Jessica Colarco and Kelly reflect on the importance of gratitude as a practice rather than a one-time event. They discuss personal experiences and insights from the month, emphasizing the value of connection, perspective, and honoring one's journey. The conversation encourages listeners to integrate gratitude into their daily lives and to appreciate the small moments that contribute to a fulfilling life. Inside This Conversation:  Gratitude is a practice that can be integrated into daily life. Reflecting on challenges can reveal valuable lessons. Family traditions can enhance the Thanksgiving experience. Gratitude helps us focus on the present moment. It's important to honor our personal journeys and growth. Small rituals can foster a sense of gratitude. Gratitude can transform our perspective on life. Taking time to reflect on the year can provide clarity. Expressing gratitude can deepen connections with others. Gratitude is essential for personal transformation. Chapters 00:00 Thanksgiving Reflections and Gratitude Practices 05:26 Honoring Our Journey and Growth 11:15 Creating Space for Gratitude and Transformation 13:00 NEWCHAPTER Connect With Us:

Is decorating early the secret to actually enjoying the holidays? In this episode, Jessica and Kelly discuss their holiday preparations, including early Christmas decorations and family traditions. They also share their recent travel experiences, particularly a trip to a Notre Dame football game, highlighting the challenges of winter weather and the joy of reconnecting with friends. Inside This Conversation:  Decorating early for the holidays can reduce stress. The holiday season can be busy, but it's important to enjoy it. Twinkling lights create a cozy atmosphere in the home. Traveling during the fall can be easier before the holiday rush. Experiencing winter weather can be challenging but memorable. College traditions can strengthen friendships over time. Driving in bad weather requires caution and preparation. It's important to find joy in holiday gatherings with family. Sharing experiences with friends can create lasting memories. Don't hesitate to try new things, even if they seem daunting.   Chapters 00:00 Holiday Preparations and Traditions 03:30 Travel Adventures and College Friendships 06:25 Weather Challenges and Driving Experiences 12:10 Reflections on Fun and New Experiences Connect With Us:

What if strength wasn't about doing more, but about offering yourself grace? In this episode, Jessica Colarco and Kelly discuss the pervasive feelings of guilt, particularly among women, and how to choose grace over guilt. They explore the importance of setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and redefining strength to include rest and self-care. The discussion also touches on parenting and the guilt that often accompanies it, emphasizing the need for self-acceptance and the understanding that worthiness is not tied to productivity. Inside This Conversation:  Guilt often sneaks into our everyday lives, especially for women. Burnout can manifest as quiet resentment and heaviness. Setting boundaries is a form of honesty and self-respect. Overcommitting leads to a version of ourselves that is not genuine. Resting is not laziness; it's a necessary part of self-care. Self-compassion helps counteract feelings of guilt. Grace allows us to acknowledge our worth without productivity. Parenting guilt can hinder our ability to teach resilience to our children. Choosing grace over guilt can redefine our understanding of strength. Practicing grace can create a ripple effect, encouraging others to do the same. Chapters 00:00 Choosing Grace Over Guilt 02:59 Understanding Burnout and Boundaries 05:49 The Power of Self-Compassion 08:14 Redefining Strength and Rest 10:56 Parenting, Guilt, and Resilience 13:50 Practicing Grace in Everyday Life Connect With Us:

How do we date in a world where privacy is fragile and connection feels digital? In this conversation, Jessica and Kelly explore the complexities of dating in the modern age, touching on the rise of Facebook Dating, the challenges of identity and privacy in the digital world, and the evolving nature of relationships. They discuss the importance of compatibility and companionship in marriage, reflecting on personal experiences and societal expectations surrounding dating and relationships. Inside This Conversation:  Dating is a challenging topic for many, especially for those re-entering the dating scene. Facebook Dating has gained popularity due to its integration with existing social networks. Privacy and data sharing are significant concerns in the digital age, especially with dating apps. The evolution of dating has shifted from traditional matchmaking to algorithm-based connections. Companionship and shared values are crucial for long-term relationships. The perception of dating has changed with the rise of technology and social media. Scams related to identity theft are becoming increasingly sophisticated. Support from tech companies, like Facebook, is often lacking when issues arise. Understanding compatibility is essential in finding a life partner. Marriage can evolve over time, with companionship becoming a key component. Chapters 00:00 The Quest for a Dating Expert 03:36 The Rise of Facebook Dating 06:21 Navigating Identity and Privacy in the Digital Age 09:17 The Evolution of Dating and Relationships 12:02 Compatibility vs. Attraction in Long-Term Relationships 14:48 The Importance of Companionship in Marriage 17:56 NEWCHAPTER   Connect With Us:

What if the smallest “thank you” could transform your closest relationships? In this conversation, Jessica Colarco and Kelly explore the profound impact of gratitude on relationships and emotional well-being. They discuss how expressing appreciation not only benefits the recipient but also enhances the giver's happiness. Through personal anecdotes and scientific studies, they highlight the importance of intentional gratitude in everyday interactions, emphasizing that small acts of appreciation can lead to significant positive changes in our connections with others. The discussion also touches on the vulnerability involved in expressing gratitude and how it can strengthen bonds between individuals. Inside This Conversation:  Gratitude is a powerful tool for transforming relationships. Expressing appreciation activates the brain's reward centers for both giver and receiver. A simple thank you can create a deep shift in relationships. Gratitude can be expressed in small, everyday actions. Vulnerability in expressing gratitude strengthens connections. Intentional gratitude can lead to increased happiness and well-being. Gratitude creates a ripple effect that spreads positivity. Specificity in gratitude makes it more impactful. Practicing gratitude can help alleviate anxiety and stress. Connection is built through small moments of appreciation. Chapters 00:00 The Transformative Power of Gratitude 02:51 Gratitude in Action: Real-Life Examples 05:39 Building Connections Through Appreciation 08:22 The Vulnerability of Gratitude 11:12 Gratitude as a Daily Practice 13:49 Creating a Ripple Effect of Kindness Connect With Us:

How can movement become a celebration of what your body can do — not punishment for what it's not? In this conversation, Jessica and Kelly discuss their fitness journeys, focusing on their experiences with Orange Theory workouts, the importance of VO2 max for longevity, and the balance between physical and mental wellness. They share personal anecdotes about their challenges and successes in fitness, emphasizing the significance of recovery, body positivity, and the joy of feeling strong and capable. The discussion encourages listeners to find a form of movement that resonates with them and promotes overall well-being.   Inside This Conversation:  Jessica expresses gratitude for her body and its capabilities. Kelly shares her experience with Orange Theory's Hell Week. The conversation highlights the fun and intensity of group workouts. They discuss the importance of cardiovascular health and VO2 max. Recovery is emphasized as a crucial aspect of fitness. Mental wellness is intertwined with physical health in their discussions. Weight loss is approached with a focus on health rather than appearance. Both women feel stronger and more capable through their fitness journeys. They acknowledge the societal pressures around body image and fitness. The conversation concludes with encouragement for listeners to find joy in movement.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Fitness Journeys 03:16 Experiencing Hell Week at Orange Theory 06:19 The Importance of Variety in Workouts 09:12 Understanding VO2 Max and Longevity 11:54 Tracking Progress and Health Metrics 14:30 The Role of Mental Wellness in Fitness 17:25 The Connection Between Weight Loss and Health 20:32 Building Strength and Overcoming Pain 23:18 Conclusion: Embracing Movement and Self-Care 27:44 NEWCHAPTER fitness, health, Orange Theory, VO2 max, longevity, weight loss, mental wellness, exercise, recovery, body positivity