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In this very special episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko dives into an insightful and heartfelt conversation with Zazu Payne, a biomedical engineer, board game enthusiast, and self-proclaimed 'friendship guru'. Zazu shares his journey from being a self-described 'selfish guy' to someone deeply invested in building authentic connections through community and faith. They discuss the power of vulnerability, the beauty in others, and how true friendships can start in the most unexpected places. Tune in for a candid discussion on the complexities of friendship and the courage it takes to show up genuinely in our increasingly disconnected world.Follow Zazu on Instagram @zazux2_gamesSign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

This week on a very special episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko sits down with Sam Murdock—tech wizard, board game buff, and the behind-the-scenes moderator of Codenames Live. Fresh from his adventures as a Twitch streamer (pants optional), Sam shares his journey from computer programming dropout to community builder extraordinaire. Together, James and Sam dive into the intricacies of forming genuine connections in the digital age, the irresistible chaos of live-streamed game nights, and how a simple meme or DM can sometimes be the sincerest way to show up for your friends.They swap stories about discovering the world of board games, nurturing small social circles online and off, and keeping digital spaces welcoming in a world full of trolls. Sam also drops recommendations for indie games and deck-builders, discusses the magic (and anxiety) of playing and hosting Codenames Live, and reflects on what it really means to be a friend—spoiler: it's often about being present in the small moments.Tune in for tons of laughter, a few nostalgic deep cuts (Audiobooks on cassette, anyone?), and some thoughtful advice on how to be a more attentive friend, both online and IRL.Check out Sam's work at https://nerdservice.caCheck out Codenames LIVE!Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this very special solo episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko wraps up the month of May with honesty, humor, and plenty of personal insight. James digs into the duality of solitude versus loneliness, celebrates the small victories of incremental growth, and shares what he learned from his ongoing DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) group. He explores everything from why meme culture feels exhausting, to the ups and downs of friendship goals, and how being present can transform both heartbreak and happiness.James also answers listener questions about friendship clichés, the concept of seasonal friendships, and the difference between intentional solitude and involuntary isolation. Along the way, he offers practical tools like time-blocking and journaling for anyone navigating their own journey of connection and self-understanding.To top it off, James shares some of his favourite songs of the month, sets intentions for June, and encourages listeners to embrace the messy work of being authentically themselves.Whether you're seeking insight on relationships, battling your own solitude, or just wanting a good playlist, this episode is packed with relatable moments, gentle challenges, and a whole lot of heart.Tune in, get comfy, and join James for a real talk about the complicated beauty of being friendless—and finding your own way through it.Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Listen to the May playlist on Spotify HEREFollow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

This week on a very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko welcomes the inimitable Magda Baker—singer, songwriter, producer, actor, and co-founder of the queer arts magazine Beautiful Trash for Beautiful People—for a candid, funny, and wide-ranging conversation about art, friendship, community, and navigating modern life.Together, James and Magda dive into the tangled relationship many of us have with social media, technology, and addiction, exploring strategies for digital detox, reclaiming personal time, and the joys of (temporarily) switching to a flip phone. Magda shares his journey as a queer artist, from formative experiences in Calgary's underground music scene to building an authentic creative life and collaborative community on the West Coast.Listeners will enjoy honest insights into staying hopeful amid political and personal upheavals, the healing power of shrinking your world, and why showing up for others—even when capacity feels low—can be transformative. The duo gets delightfully nerdy over David Lynch, swap tales of civic engagement, and discuss the meaning of friendship, the value of being an active community member, and the simple productivity hack known as “grilled cheese theory.”Key topics include: Digital minimalism and managing social media addiction Building queer/trans arts communities and the ethos behind Beautiful Trash magazine Transitioning artistic styles and identities across provinces Making and maintaining friendships as an adult Reframing self-worth, hope, and happiness in challenging times The differences (and surprises) between Vancouver and Calgary queer/art scenes Why showing up (to your friend's gigs, to community meetings, or with a home-cooked meal) mattersWhether you're searching for practical advice on fostering community or simply need a reminder to read that book your friend lent you, this episode is packed with relatable stories and inspiration for anyone seeking to be a better friend—to themselves and others.Read Beautiful Trash HEREListen to Magda's musicSign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this very special episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko welcomes Dr. Christine Cooper — pharmacist, author, and self-proclaimed “reforming mean girl.” Christine opens up about her journey from being a not-so-nice kid to learning about empathy, accountability, and authentic human connection. She shares personal stories of growth, how constantly moving as a child delayed her understanding of the consequences of her actions, and the pivotal moment in college that made her self-reflect on who she wanted to be.Christine discusses her book Finding Value: A Reforming Mean Girl's Guide for Creating More Meaningful Connections, offering wisdom on building better friendships, setting healthy boundaries, and cultivating curiosity. Together, she and James explore what it really means to be a friend, how to take actionable steps toward kindness (starting with the person in front of you), and the importance of balancing your own needs with those of others. Christine also offers practical advice on accountability, healthy communication (including the tricky realm of nonverbal cues), and fostering a sense of community—even across divides.This episode is packed with real talk, laughs, and useful takeaways for anyone looking to create more meaningful relationships in their lives.Check out Christine's work HERESign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this candid and thought-provoking episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko welcomes content creator and true crime aficionado Mel Zee for a wide-ranging exploration of friendship, online connection, and the psychology of digital communities.James and Mel retrace the origins of their own friendship, sparked through TikTok, and unpack the evolving nature of meeting people online versus in person. Mel offers insight into her journey as a social media creator—the trade-offs between self-employment, personal boundaries, and wrestling with negative commentary when discussing everything from dating to true crime.The conversation takes a deep dive into the world of true crime content: why it's dominated by women, how it can serve both as a form of empowerment and a window into societal fears, and the responsibilities of creators to survivors and victims. Together, they tease apart the ethics of true crime storytelling, the dark allure of morbid curiosity, and how popular trends in media often reflect broader cultural anxieties.Amidst tough truths about loneliness, loss, and the challenge of setting healthy boundaries, James and Mel share moments of hope, humor, and vulnerability—highlighting the importance of building connection, trying new things, and the radical self-respect that comes from saying “no.” The episode closes with heartwarming reflections on authentic friendship, the value of real-life community, and a practical invitation: throw a party, be brave, and make space for joy alongside all the heavy stuff.Whether you're a fan of true crime, wrestling with friendship in the age of social media, or searching for belonging in a disconnected world, this episode of "Friendless" is sure to resonate.Find Mel through all the links in her Linktree HERE!Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

Join me as I reflect on the month of April, discussing the return of the sun and its impact on my mental health, personal growth, and the delicate balance of maintaining connections while undergoing distress tolerance therapy. In this episode, I introduce new ideas for tracking personal development and share invaluable insights from recent guests such as Dean Spade, Ravenous Randy Myers, Amy Lester, and Brett Cassidy. Learn actionable steps to improve friendships and hear my thoughts on whether friendships should have breakup conversations. Plus, discover my favourite songs from my monthly playlist and set intentions for the coming month. Don't miss it!Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Listen to my monthly Spotify playlist HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr00:00 April Reflections and Personal Growth03:51 Dialectical Behaviour Therapy Insights08:01 Interview Highlights: Dean Spade11:03 Interview Highlights: Ravenous Randy Myers13:32 Interview Highlights: Amy Lester15:44 Interview Highlights: Brett Cassidy20:16 Actionable Steps for Personal Development24:54 Listener Questions and Interactions51:45 Reconnecting Through Communication53:49 Navigating Breakups with Grace56:24 Petty Reasons for Unfriending01:01:08 Anonymous Messages to Ex-Friends01:04:12 Monthly Playlist Highlights01:07:23 Setting Monthly Intentions01:13:03 Final Reflections and Gratitude

In this episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko welcomes Brett Cassidy, a singer, songwriter, and producer. The two reconnect after years of following each other's careers online and share a deep conversation on friendship, community, and music. Brett discusses the evolution of his music career, his love for folk and psychedelic music, and the inspiration behind his latest EP. The conversation touches on the importance of vulnerability, maintaining connections, and the value of second chances. They also delve into how art and community play pivotal roles in their lives, providing hope and purpose amid a challenging world. Join them for an insightful dialogue that explores the depths of human connection and artistic expression.Listen to A Selection of Ballads from the Old Man RiverSign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastrPhoto by @poolboy.studios

In this very special episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko interviews the multifaceted Amy Lester, a political organiser, clown, filmmaker, and actress. James and Amy dive deep into the complexities of the clown community, the challenges of living an artistic life within a capitalist society, and Amy's journey from being an active performer to becoming a dedicated political organiser. They discuss the nature of friendships, the intricacies of community, and the inherent power of vulnerability. Towards the end, Amy shares her insights on finding hope and joy amidst the chaos of today's world. Tune in for an engaging conversation filled with humor, introspection, and authenticity.Learn more about Class Action Lawsuit HERE and HERESign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this episode of 'Friendless,' host James Avramenko interviews "Ravenous" Randy Myers, a multi-talented performer known for his work in professional wrestling, comedy, and various forms of entertainment. Randy shares his journey from being a drama kid in Calgary to becoming an influential figure in the wrestling world. He discusses the challenges and triumphs he faced along the way, including his struggles with mental health and how being open about it has helped him connect more deeply with fans and fellow performers. The conversation also delves into the parallels and differences between the stand-up comedy and wrestling communities, highlighting the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in performance. Randy's insights into community, friendship, and the power of being genuine make this episode a rich and engaging listen.Photo credit thanks to @arealgoldmouthCheck out Randy's work on InstagramSign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this special comeback episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko returns from a five-month hiatus to discuss his personal journey, the importance of self-respect, and the evolving themes of the show. James reflects on the challenges he's faced, including a difficult breakup, and shares his insights from therapy. He also announces exciting new projects, such as his completed poetry manuscript and upcoming book 'First Dates with Pro Wrestlers.' The episode introduces upcoming themes like intentional self-respect and the concept of authenticity. James emphasizes a more interactive experience with his audience, including book club activities and deeper dives into DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) principles. Listener engagement and feedback are highly encouraged as James aims to expand and enrich the Friendless community. 00:00 Welcome Back to Friendless 00:47 Gratitude and Personal Reflections 03:07 The Breakup and Personal Growth 10:17 Exciting Announcements and Projects 14:14 Themes for Upcoming Episodes 23:35 Listener Engagement and Future Plans 28:18 Conclusion and FarewellSign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this episode of 'Friendless,' host James Avramenko meets and converses with Dean Spade—a lawyer, writer, and activist known for his work on queer and trans liberation. Dean discusses his new book, 'Love in a Fucked Up World,' and explores themes such as the importance of enthusiasm during tough times, the necessity of grounding oneself in reality, and the complexities of personal and community responsibility. The conversation delves into creating authentic connections, building community support systems, the significance of direct feedback, and the challenges of maintaining self-respect while engaging in activism. Dean also shares personal anecdotes, including his journey in writing his latest book and how inspiration serves as a form of protection and guidance.Learn more about Dean and his work on his WEBSITESign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

This week on a very special episode of "Friendless", join host James Avramenko as he sits down with the insightful Hannah McGregor, author and co-host of the popular podcast "Material Girls." Hannah, who penned "Clever Girl," shares her feminist analysis of Jurassic Park, diving into her unique perspective on the beloved classic.In this in-depth conversation, Hannah opens up about her personal journey moving to Vancouver and the challenges she faced in building a community from scratch amidst social anxiety and panic attacks. James and Hannah also explore their preferences for horror genres, discuss their favourite childhood places, and the ethical complexities of zoos and museums.Listeners will gain insight into Hannah's ideal weekend relaxation plans, a humorous take on velociraptors in human suits, and the importance of fostering community and friendship in meaningful ways. The episode is brimming with humor, intellectual discourse, and practical advice on managing social anxiety, self-criticism, and the significance of personalized gestures in friendships.Discover Hannah's thoughts on friendship dynamics, and the valuable concept of emotional capacity in support networks. This episode is a rich blend of academic reflection and light-hearted banter, perfect for those looking to understand the nuances of community building and feminist perspectives on popular media.Don't miss Hannah's professional insights and James' enthusiastic recommendation of "Clever Girl." Tune in to hear their candid discussion on vulnerability, societal pressures, and the transformative power of analytic essays. Be sure to check the show notes for links to Hannah's work and other featured artists.Links: Follow Hannah McGregor on Instagram: @hkpmcgregor Purchase "Clever Girl" (Not from Amazon) Learn more about Hannah's workSign up for the Friendless Substack newsletter for more insights and updates!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr#FriendlessPodcast #HannahMcGregor #CleverGirl #FeministAnalysis #CommunityBuilding #EmotionalCapacity

In this very special episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko tackles the age-old question: How do adults make friends? James shares his experiences at a speed dating event, where he delved into various fascinating topics like dietetics, bird watching, biology, and insectology, highlighting the joy of listening to people speak passionately about their interests. He emphasizes the importance of speaking confidently about one's own passions without fearing judgment and stresses that if someone doesn't appreciate what you love, they're not meant to be your friend.James provides practical strategies for making friends as an adult, including leveraging technology to find social groups based on shared interests, practicing conversational skills, and breaking down social anxiety into manageable steps. He also touches on concepts from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), a therapy designed to help manage chronic behaviours and emotional regulation. James underscores the importance of mindfulness, believing in one's worthiness to make new connections, and the idea of the "Wise Mind"—a balance between reason and emotion.The episode explores how to build confidence and the value of mindfulness techniques such as visualisation and breath-focused practices to stay present and manage dysregulation. James also tackles societal issues of loneliness, particularly among people under 40, and shares personal anecdotes and strategies for forming new connections in a new city.Join James as he provides heartfelt advice, encourages self-responsibility, and promotes the significance of practicing DBT skills to foster meaningful adult friendships. Follow Friendless on Instagram and TikTok, and don't forget to give it a 5-star review and sign up for the Substack newsletter for exclusive content!Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko welcomes back a beloved guest, Keira Daniels. Their conversation is a delightful blend of humour, introspection, and valuable life lessons on aging, friendships, and staying connected.James and Keira kick things off with a humorous exchange about planned bed days, setting the tone for a lively and candid discussion. Keira shares insights from her partner, emphasising the importance of understanding others in conflict without assuming drastic personality changes.The episode delves into the significance of maintaining friendships as we age, with James reminiscing about his grandparents' long-lasting bonds and social routines. Keira brings a fresh perspective on building adult friendships through "play" and everyday conversations, highlighting the challenges and rewards of authentic connections.As they explore work relationships versus real friendships, James shares touching stories about his grandfather's social group, the "Knights of the Round Table," and the melancholy of outliving his friends. Keira and James agree that essential friendships often require flexibility, humorously recounting their own spontaneous social activities.The conversation also tackles complex themes like overuse of terms like "narcissist," bad data collection, agile thinking, and the importance of honest feedback in friendships. Keira emphasises resolving conflicts without ego, while James discusses the societal pressures on men regarding being wrong.Listeners will appreciate the candid reflections on social media's role in fostering connections, the challenges of maintaining friendships, and the importance of reaching out to brighten someone's day. James and Keira's mutual admiration is palpable, creating a warm and inviting atmosphere for the audience.James wraps up the episode with gratitude towards Keira, thoughts on upcoming projects, and a heartfelt message for listeners to support the show. Don't miss this episode filled with laughter, wisdom, and the timeless value of genuine friendships.Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this very special episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko marks his one-year sobriety milestone by delving into his journey of self-discovery, emotional regulation, and the importance of building a robust support system. James opens up about the pivotal moments that led him to embrace sobriety, including dealing with intense emotions, the struggle of social isolation, and the critical role of harm reduction.James shares insights into his coping mechanisms, such as mindfulness and mantra meditation, the 90-second rule for emotional regulation, and tips for journaling to process feelings. He reflects on his own personal growth, acknowledging his past struggles with self-worth and co-dependency, and emphasises the transformative power of small, incremental changes over drastic overhauls.This episode also explores the broader themes of friendship, community, and the human need for connection. James discusses the significance of proactive communication and fostering a diverse support network to avoid echo chambers. He introduces the concept of a "6 pack" of support to distribute the emotional load among trusted individuals.Listeners will find inspirations not just in James' triumphs but also in his candid acknowledgment of ongoing challenges. This episode is a heartfelt invitation to anyone grappling with sobriety or mental health issues to reach out, seek support, and take those first small steps toward a healthier, more connected life.Join James Avramenko for a blend of personal storytelling, practical advice, and encouraging words as he continues to navigate the complexities of emotional health and sobriety.Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko sits down with Tim Riel (@nerdincorrect) to explore the intricate world of community building, the realities of adult friendships, and the importance of small, thoughtful gestures in maintaining connections. Tim, a dedicated board gamer, comedian, and host of Codenames Live, opens up about managing his busy schedule filled with various projects.They discuss the myriad challenges and joys of friendship, particularly how adult responsibilities and past experiences shape current relationships.Listeners will gain insight into the emotional strain of outreach, the importance of community on online platforms, and the profound impact of minor acts of kindness, affectionately termed "pebbling." Tim also emphasizes the reality behind social media connections and the often unrealistic portrayals of friendship in media.This episode provides a heartfelt discussion on the feelings of loneliness that even the most connected individuals experience, along with actionable advice on supporting friends discreetly and sincerely. As Tim shares his journey, you'll leave with a greater appreciation for the small, meaningful ways we can lift each other up.Don't miss this touching and insightful conversation on the complexities of friendship and community.Nerd Incorrect - https://linktr.ee/nerdincorrectCodenames LIVE! Main CastBrendan McKeigan: http://www.brendanmckeigan.com/ Dani Standring: https://beacons.ai/dani_standring/ Shannon Lahaie: https://www.twitch.tv/shanomen0n/ Jason Hatrick: https://twitter.com/jasonhatrick Tavis Maplesden: https://twitter.com/TavisMaplesden Lorenzo Patino: https://www.instagram.com/zopunny Logan Avery Cooper: https://www.instagram.com/loganaverycooperSam Murdock: https://www.twitch.tv/suitedmonkeyBook Link:Make Me A Mixtape by Jennifer Whiteford - linktr.ee/jenniferwhitefordwritesFriendless Links Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this week's episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko kicks off a fresh deep dive series by opening up about a topic close to his heart: Imposter Syndrome. Drawing from his personal experiences and professional teaching background, James demystifies imposter syndrome by exploring what it truly is, its common triggers, and the various ways it manifests.He shares relatable anecdotes, personal battles with imposterism, and insightful classifications of the syndrome's different forms. Emphasising the importance of self-compassion, community, and vulnerability, James offers practical strategies to work alongside these feelings, rather than against them.From recognising the first signs to celebrating every small victory, James provides listeners with a thoughtful roadmap for navigating this pervasive experience. Tune in to discover how unconditional self-love and communal support can empower you to overcome the daunting feelings of inadequacy and fraudulence. This episode is a comforting reminder that you're not alone in your struggles and that there is hope in embracing your authentic self.Don't forget to subscribe to our Substack for more insights, recommendations, and James' personal reflections. Share your thoughts and suggestions with James on Instagram and TikTok @friendlesspod or email friendlesspod@gmail.com.By popular request, we delve into: What imposter syndrome is and how it manifests. James' personal encounters with imposter syndrome. Five categories of imposter syndrome and their characteristics. Practical advice on self-compassion, validation, and seeking support. Celebrating small wins and the impact of genuine connections.Join us in this heartfelt exploration and take the first step towards self-compassion and acceptance.Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special comeback episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko welcomes back the talented poet and writer, jaz papadopoulos. jaz shares their rich experiences and profound journeys from studying critical theory to thriving in a queer feminist community, and eventually entering an MFA program. Together, James and jaz delve into the intricate process behind Jaz's verse novel "i feel that way too" from its organic beginnings to its polished final form.The conversation shifts to discuss the liberating yet challenging aspects of living less reliant on capitalism, including details about Jaz's garlic farming endeavours. They explore writing as a tool for both critique and affirmation, discussing influences like Edward Said and the intricate beauty of language. jaz reflects on the journey of incorporating and refining powerful quotes, tackling the complexities of copyright, and navigating the multifaceted nature of activism in a rural setting.Tune in to hear about: jaz's involvement in critical theory and the evolution of their creative writing. The supportive role of queer feminist communities. The creative journey of writing a verse novel. Living sustainably through garlic farming and its implications on identity and activism. The significance of language, tone, and literary influences like Edward Said. Details about jaz's new book, upcoming tour, and their latest creative projects.Follow jaz on Instagram HEREand read more of their work HERESign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

In this exciting sneak peek into Season 7 of "Friendless", host James Avramenko returns revitalised from his summer holiday, ready to dive deep into personal growth, friendship, and community. Celebrating Virgo season and his 37th birthday, James reflects on his nearly 11 months of sobriety and the transformative journey he's been on over the past year.Join James as he opens up about his summer experiences, the struggles he faced, and the profound lessons he learned in self-acceptance and personal boundaries. This episode offers a heartfelt and candid look at what to expect in the upcoming season, including a fresh mix of solo episodes and interviews that will explore deeper themes like mental health, lived experiences, and the quest for hope in chaotic times.Get a taste of the first official episode set to launch on September 10th, featuring the return of poet jaz papadopoulos discussing their new book, "i feel that way too." James also invites listeners to engage with him more directly this season, fostering a deeper community connection through shared experiences and open dialogue.Don't miss the rebirth of "Friendless" as it embarks on this new and invigorated journey. Tune in now and feel the love, sweet peas!Read the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko wraps up Season 6 with a lively discussion on being raised by wild animals, the importance of community, and personal transformation. James humorously explores the animal kingdom, from sloths to meerkats, what mental illnesses cartoon characters have, and what type of animal he'd like to be raised by. Listeners are invited into James' world as he candidly talks about his attachment style, mental health journey, and the complexities of self-growth. Emphasizing the importance of community support, James offers heartfelt advice on managing mental illness and the power of therapy. He reflects on the wisdom shared by diverse guests and plans to experiment with the show's format in the upcoming season, focusing on community, friendship, and intimacy.With gratitude for six years of listener support, James announces a summer break and shares his vision for the show's future, inviting feedback and suggestions. He underscores the need for breaking down barriers of one-way intimacy in internet content and fostering an inclusive community.Join James in this thought-provoking episode as he encourages reaching out to loved ones, embracing self-forgiveness, and being gentle with oneself. Have a wonderful summer, and stay tuned for exciting new episodes in August!Fun and Safety sweet peas! Read the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special episode of *Friendless*, host James Avramenko welcomes comedian and performer Megan Phillips.The conversation begins with Megan's journey toward self-discovery and fostering unconditional love and trust in oneself, which she believes can extend to building healthier communities. The reflect on growing up in boundary-less homes, and highlight the lifelong importance of understanding and setting healthy boundaries, both for personal growth and in relationships.Megan and James delve into the dynamics of friendships versus romantic relationships, the need for emotional health, and the invaluable lesson of purpose within relational contexts. They explore the nuances of fear-based thinking and the importance of avoiding manipulation in connections. Megan shares her recent triumph over her fear of roller coasters, attributing this newfound courage to inner work and self-trust.Throughout the episode, the pair discusses the transformative power of storytelling in comedy, Megan's artistic inspirations, and her reflections on aging, appearance, and social media. Megan's career journey, from a love of music and dance to finding her voice in comedy, reveals her dedication to authenticity and the joy found in the arts.Tune in for an episode packed with wisdom, humour, and genuine human connection.Check out Megan's website at meganphillips.com and follow her on Instagram @MegNatPhilRead the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special episode of Friendless, James Avramenko sits down with guest Nug Nahrgang to explore the complexities of relationships, community, and pro wrestling.The conversation expands into the safety and understanding within a close-knit community, reminiscing about formative university years and the paradoxes of connection. The duo humorously discusses the adoption of enemies through relationships, with Nug sharing his own amusing yet insightful experiences.Listeners get a glimpse into Nug's multifaceted career, from sketch comedy and podcasting to the inner workings of the wrestling industry. With anecdotes about meeting wrestling personalities like Eddie Kingston, Nug highlights the importance of mental health awareness and genuine support in any community.The episode covers the impact of social media on mental well-being, the superficial nature of digital friendships, and the shifting dynamics brought about by the pandemic. Nug provides valuable advice on checking in on friends and emphasises the importance of honest communication and support.As they navigate through stories of acting auditions, improvisation, and the pressure of living in the artistic world, James and Nug underline the significance of community and shared experiences. Concluding on a reflective note, they discuss the essence of friendship and the pursuit of recognition in their respective careers.Join James and Nug for an engaging and heartfelt discussion about life's highs and lows, the importance of community, and the strides toward becoming better friends to ourselves and those around us.Check out Nug's podcast "One Dollar Words"Follow him on Instagramand on XRead the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special episode of *Friendless,* host James Avramenko is joined by the multi-talented Riel Hahn. Together, they delve into a deeply resonant conversation about artistic fulfilment, mental health, and navigating life's complexities. They discuss Riel's ongoing battle with chronic health issues, including her life-changing experience with long COVID, which resulted in a gradual loss and regathering of her identity. Riel also opens up about finding solace and purpose in writing fiction and the inspiration she draws from her father.The conversation explores the complexities of friendships and romantic relationships, the importance of understanding and communicating love languages, and setting healthy boundaries. Riel reflects on her investment in friendships and the nourishment these connections provide, while also touching on societal pressures and the notion of self-love.Listeners will be captivated by stories of Riel's intricate dreams, her renewed sense of purpose, and her intricate journey of self-recovery and reparenting. The episode also features discussions on enjoying nature, birdwatching, and the soothing aspects of the game *Wingspan,* which adds a delightful layer to the conversation.Join James and Riel as they explore the importance of living in the present, the process of healing, and the deep value of authenticity in relationships. Whether you're navigating your own challenges or seeking inspiration from others' resilience, this episode offers a heartfelt and thought-provoking narrative.Don't forget to check out "Exquisite Corpses" on Bandcamp, and stay tuned for Riel's upcoming novel and music album.**Highlights:**- Prioritising artistic needs in the face of mental health challenges- The impact of long COVID on identity and creativity- Navigating friendships, love languages, and setting boundaries- The journey of self-love, reparenting, and direct communication- Finding joy in nature, birding, and the game *Wingspan*- Upcoming projects from Riel Hahn and a temporary podcast hiatus in JulyTune in for an enlightening and emotional conversation that promises to resonate long after the episode ends.Read the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

Welcome to the latest episode of "Friendless" with your host, James Avramenko. In this insightful and introspective episode, James delves into the art of making genuine apologies and the importance of direct and clear communication. From outlining the six steps of a meaningful apology to discussing the impact of social media on connections, James shares wisdom on navigating relationships with authenticity and self-awareness. Join us as we explore the nuances of forgiveness, personal growth, and the value of human connection in the ever-evolving landscape of communication. Stay tuned for a blend of heartfelt reflections, humorous anecdotes, and a sprinkle of bagel-related musings, all delivered with James' signature sincerity and wit.Check out Sorry, Sorry, Sorry (but please don't buy through the link

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko is joined by RJ City, host of Hey! (EW). Their conversation takes them on an exploration of the dynamics of social media connections, the nuances of wrestling as an art form, and the complex interplay between public recognition and personal space.Listeners will be treated to rich discussions where RJ shares his surprising encounters with fans and his journey in the wrestling world, reflecting on the ironic enjoyment of anonymity despite his public persona. They also dive into the emotional labor of maintaining online friendships, weighing the mixed feelings about watching old acquaintances from afar on platforms like Facebook.Delving deeper, RJ and James address the psychological aspects of dealing with fame, self-criticism, and the continuous pursuit of peace over happiness. With a blend of humour and sincerity, they also converse about the importance of authenticity in wrestling characters, the cultural shifts in the appreciation of physical intimacy within the sport, and the broader implications on personal connections.Wrestling fans and listeners interested in the intersections of personal identity, public life, and digital connections will find this episode both enlightening and entertaining.Watch Hey! (EW)Follow RJ on InstagramRead the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko and special guest Beau Schultz embark on a candid discussion about the nuanced essence of personal space, astrology, and the whimsical idea of reimagining deities in modern society. Tackling both light-hearted and profound themes, the duo delves into their personal needs for solitude and the significance of having supportive partners over 'fixers.'James opens up about his daily realities living with autism and trauma, underlining the importance of understanding one's personal space. Beau offers snippets of wisdom on finding joy in fashion and accessories, which spices up their discourse on self-expression and the acts of maturing and finding happiness.The episode also ventures into the realm of modern mythology, proposing a society where pop culture icons like Jojo Siwa and Drake could be viewed as contemporary deities, encouraging a reflection on societal values and celebrity influence.Sharing thrilling insights into their astrological signs, Beau and James decode the implications of their Virgo, Leo, and Cancer traits. They also touch on poignant cultural topics from the perspective of queer experiences, making sense of community dynamics and the profound engagements that social media platforms like TikTok offer in forging genuine connections.Follow Beau on InstagramListen to Boy TroubleRead the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special April Lil' Guy wrap-up episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko offers a candid exploration into his recent diagnosis of borderline personality disorder (BPD), providing listeners with a unique insight into the complexities of mental health. James shares the challenges and triumphs of his journey with BPD, discussing its symptoms, treatment impacts, and the emotional intricacies involved.Come along with James as we navigate the nuanced effects of the disorder, from managing emotions to understanding interpersonal relationships. With an emphasis on compassion and self-awareness, James aims to debunk common misconceptions about BPD and other Cluster B disorders, inviting a discussion on the importance of empathy and understanding in mental health conversations.Touching upon themes of self-love, healing, and the power of community, James also dives into his personal strategies, including engaging with a DBT workbook and the positive outcomes of new medications. Through his story, listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own paths to emotional maturity and the value of unconditional support in overcoming life's challenges.Join James in this heartfelt episode that promises to enlighten, inspire, and foster a deeper understanding of mental health complexities.Read the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Don't forget to give Friendless a 5-star review and share the episode to help spread awareness and support for those navigating similar challenges!

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko is joined by Sara Bynoe (actor, producer, host of Teen Angst) to dive deep into the complexities of friendship and the emotional impact of friend break-ups. Sara opens up about a painful experience with a friend who crossed a line and failed to show remorse, prompting her to reflect on the importance of setting boundaries and acknowledging the lasting effects such betrayals can have.The conversation steers into a candid discussion about the different dimensions of emotional trauma, with James emphasising the necessity of allowing oneself to feel the repercussions fully. Both contemplate the difficult choices surrounding the potential for reconciliation after trust has been shattered.Sara shares insights from her journey with cognitive behavioural therapy and the mental health strategies she's adopted to help navigate her responses to challenging situations. Likewise, James reveals his own path to self-understanding following a recent psych evaluation.They further explore the essence of friendship – what it means to be a good friend, the value of kindred spirits, and the intricate dance between connection and self-preservation. Sara and James also touch upon the topics of neurodiversity, the stigma associated with psychological diagnoses, and the relationship between trauma and personality development.Community building is highlighted as Sara discusses her role in creating inclusive spaces through her events, such as "Teen Angst". They also reflect on their own evolving criteria for cultivating meaningful friendships and the lessons they've learned from holding onto or releasing certain relationships.Follow Sara's work through Yellow Notebook Productions HERERead the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special part 2 episode, your pal James Avramenko and guest Scott Hendrickson continue their discussion on the nuanced landscape of friendship, forgiveness, and the courage to confront one's past. They candidly explore their journey of reconciliation, unpacking the impact of personal growth and the ebbs and flows that challenge even the strongest of bonds.The episode unveils Scott's key strategies to cultivate more meaningful relationships, such as small acts of appreciation and creating spaces for open vulnerability. Engaging in a heartfelt discussion, James and Scott reflect on their own friendship's past tumultuous phases, touching upon the essential elements of mutual support and accountability that have fortified their rekindled connection.Listeners are privy to the pair's raw and unfiltered exchange on the tightrope of respect and understanding in friendships, especially when coping with external influences like romantic relationships or conflicting viewpoints. They underscore the potent combination of love, gratitude, and honest communication as the pillars of a resilient friendship.By delving into stories of second chances, James emphasizes the transformative power of forgiveness, both of others and of oneself, advocating for unlimited opportunities for personal redemption. Scott contributes his insights on cultivating a diverse community, reinforcing the importance of exposure to a wide array of perspectives to foster personal growth and improved mental well-being.This episode provides practical perspectives on constructing a life rooted in empathetic connections and the individual's responsibility for self-improvement within the context of community support. As a powerful testament to the sometimes rocky road of rebuilding trust and intimacy, the dialogue between Scott and James serves as a beacon of hope for listeners faced with the challenge of mending fractured friendships.To continue the conversation and explore more empowering content, follow "Friendless" on social media:Read the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

This week on a very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko is joined by his oldest friend Scott Hendrickson to explore the multifaceted nature of friendship, the importance of authenticity, and the poignant reflections on personal growth. James and Scott revisit the foundation of their long-standing friendship, from their shared experiences in the arts during middle school to the challenges they faced in a blue-collar, trades-driven educational system.Scott opens up about his struggle to find a sense of community, delving into his desire to connect with various cultures and the impact of his actions on those relationships. Both reflect on the weight of intentions versus actions and the delicate balance of intent versus impact in the fabric of friendships. Central to their dialogue is the concept of friendship itself, highlighting qualities such as acceptance, support, and the shared journey of personal evolution.The episode takes an emotional turn as they discuss the significance of reconnecting after years apart, the comedic misunderstandings surrounding identity, and the gravity of being true to oneself. They tackle complex ideas including the concept of being an "old soul," the pursuit of authenticity, and the bittersweet realization that life is a transient, shared experience of "walking each other home."Listeners are invited to contemplate the role of emotional regulation, the perils of ideological focus, and the enduring bond of companionship through life's intricacies. This is just the first part of a two-part conversation that is sure to resonate deeply with anyone interested in the true meaning of friendship and self-discovery.Prepare to connect with James's heartfelt storytelling, Scott's poignant reflections, and soul-stirring music that accompanies this deep exploration. Don't miss this compelling narrative on the power of human connections and the road to self-awareness.Remember to follow "Friendless" for the concluding segment in "Scott Part 2," stay updated with our weekly Substack, and connect with us on TikTok and Instagram. Share your thoughts on the episode with a 5-star review and consider supporting the show by buying the hosts a coffee. Let's discover what it means to be truly friendless, together.Follow Friendless on TikTokFollow Friendless on InstagramRead the weekly Substack!Buy Me A Coffee – Support the Show!

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko and guest Kat Jeffery unpack the nuanced nature of friendship and self-discovery through a gripping and honest dialogue. James and Kat rekindle a connection from 15 years past, exploring the progression from substance-fueled partying to soberiety, and present interactions that reveal who our true friends are. Listeners are invited to delve into the real meaning of unconditional love in friendships, as James questions the balance between unwavering support and allowing friends to face the consequences of their actions—a true act of care. Kat shares her life-altering journey from partying to sobriety, providing a powerful testament to the purity and risk involved in a friend's intervention.This episode also touches on the influence of geography on maintaining connections while pursuing personal growth, the significance of mentorship, and the impact of creating art that connects with others. James and Kat dive deep into the influence of literary legends like Sylvia Plath and Joan Didion on their lives and how certain works have shaped their relationships and behaviour.Additionally, the dialogue delves into themes of artistic identity, debunking the myth of the 'starving artist,' and recognising the importance of acknowledging and seizing significant life opportunities. The fluid discourse later covers the impact of social media on authentic human interaction, the importance of integrity, and the challenge of competing in a capitalistic society.Artistic reflection, codependency, and personal authenticity round out the discussion, offering listeners profound reflections on how to navigate one's narrative with honesty and intentionality.Remembering the personal milestones of friends, seizing creative impulses, and the sense of community are just a few of the poignant moments in this episode that will resonate with artists, seekers, and friends alike.Stay connected with the growth-oriented and heartfelt narratives of "Friendless":Follow Kat's work on InstagramFollow us on Instagram and TikTok for behind-the-scenes content. Join our community on Substack for weekly reflective pieces.Support Friendless on Buy Me A Coffee for exclusive perks.Tune in to discover why knowing when to stand by or step back from a friend might be the highest act of love.

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko takes listeners on a deep dive into the themes of accountability, the complexities of love, and the transformative practice of reframing. James reflects on his own journey towards self-discovery, sharing personal anecdotes about facing his shadow-self, reassessing relationships, and the ongoing work of self-acceptance. Listeners will join James as he delves into the critical role of self-love and the powerful notion of inward accountability, providing practical insights into how one can extend love to oneself first before sharing it with others. Through the lens of dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), he sheds light on alternative ways to perceive past memories and challenges, revealing how these tools have been instrumental in his growth.As he contrasts the dynamics of nurturing friendships with the cautious expression of love, James also touches upon the theme of authenticity, contemplating why people lie and the repercussions of deceit. This heartfelt episode promises to resonate with anyone who's grappling with transitions, seeking to understand the intricacies of human connections, and striving towards a compassionate acceptance of self and others.DBT workbookCBT resourcesRead the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

This week on a very special episode of Friendless, your pal and host James Avramenko welcomes back Bryan Nothling aka The Bnoth. In a candid conversation between two creative souls, they dive deep into the unpredictable waters of success and the unspoken financial challenges artists contend with. Both share personal anecdotes from their stints in alternate careers, like plumbing and blacksmithing, and discuss the physical and psychological toll these jobs took on them.The episode shifts to more existential topics, opening up a discussion on the nuanced meaning of friendship, the pursuit of a sober life, and the complexities of grieving and forgiving oneself.Bryan and James touch upon the critical notion of community and how artistry, recovery, and human connection interplay in their lives. They explore their responsibilities within these communities, the impact of addiction, and how sobriety has shaped their personal growth and creative output.Listeners are also privy to their thoughts on the contemporary housing crisis, the implications of the COVID-19 pandemic on physical and mental health, and the collective trauma society is yet to address fully.Amidst the heavy topics, there's also room for lighter, albeit peculiar, conversations about blacksmithing, the taboo around eating certain meats, and the questionable ethics of animal breeding.In an inspiring turn, James thanks Bryan for his role in his sobriety journey, and they discuss celebrating life's small victories, including Bryan's tips for finding joy in the everyday. Towards the end, Bryan leaves us with actionable advice urging listeners to craft deeper connections through kindness, setting the tone for a parting message filled with hope and encouragement.Catch this episode for an intimate exploration of sobriety, creativity, the power of human connection, and how to navigate life's complexities—one day and one kind word at a time.Remember to follow the journey, leave a review, sign up for the newsletter, and join us next time on Friendless for more thoughtful exchanges.Sign up for the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramFollow "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

Join host James Avramenko on very special episode Friendless for an enlightening conversation with Jabree Robinson, a martial arts merch expert and queer community icon. They discuss the undiscovered gem that is Bellingham, why you don't know you don't know, and the transformative power of grace. Sign up for the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko and guest Selin Isik delve into the complexities of living across continents, the impact of family dynamics on friendships, and the challenges of building and maintaining communities. They explore the value of human memory, the struggle to find belonging within communities, and the diverse perspectives brought by different fields of study. Selin shares her experience in the F.U.N. program, emphasising the fusion of her psychology background with brand strategy. Listen in for a thought-provoking conversation on psychology, community, and the pursuit of authentic connections.Read the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

This week on a very special episode of Friendless, your pal James is doing a wrap-up of the month of Love! He gives a breakdown of where he's at with love, discussing what he's gotten wrong in the past and what he's doing to change himself for the future. Questions of codependency, self-love, and forgiveness are explored. He then answers a series of listener questions, ranging from how to tell the difference between real and platonic love, to which dinosaur he'd f*ck/marry/killAll this and so much more on this week's Lil' Guy episode!Read the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko interviews actor, writer, and producer Andrew Wade. Their wide-ranging conversation delves into the challenges of maintaining online presence, the importance of intentional friendship, the impact of societal influences on mental health, and the nuances of seeking and providing support. Andrew shares insights into building community and navigating the intricacies of personal and cultural connections, while James adds his perspective on therapy and the dynamics of auditioning in the theatre industry. The episode closes with a reflection on kindness, empathy, and the impact of cultural and community influences on individuals' well-being. Join them for a thought-provoking and heartfelt discussion on the complexities of human connection and societal expectations.Fun and Safety sweet peas!Read the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

This week on a very special episode of Friendless, your pal James Avramenko is joined by returning guest Shanda Stefanson!They discuss shifting focus away from their old poetry circles, dealing with later life ADHD diagnoses, and making friends when you have social anxiety. Read the weekly Substack!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramRead "Hey, sorry I missed you" Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko welcomes guest Landon Walliser for a candid conversation about the complexities of the theatre industry, the challenges of regional theatre, and the importance of fair pay for artists. They discuss their experiences on theatre boards, the impact of distance on relationships, and the anxiety caused by the pandemic. The episode also delves into the theme of alternate realities and regrets, the significance of community, and debates over movie trilogies, and who's the James Bond. Join in for a lively and introspective discussion that offers insights into the theatre community and personal connections.Subscribe to the Friendless SubstackFollow Friendless on Instagramand on TikTokFollow Hey, Sorry I Missed You on InstagramSupport the show by Buying Me A Coffee

In this very special episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko delves into themes of self-forgiveness and the distinction between behaving badly and behaving dangerously. He explores internal narratives, accountability, and the impact versus intention dynamic in societal and interpersonal interactions. Reflecting on his own behaviour, James emphasises the importance of personal accountability and the danger of using trauma as an excuse for harmful actions. He also discusses the challenges of forgiveness, the concept of justice, and the need for proactive effort in maintaining long-distance friendships. The episode concludes with a reflection on recent personal ups and downs, the speaker's writing projects and social media success, and a message of love and well wishes. Tune in for an insightful and resonant exploration of self-forgiveness and personal growth.Sign up for the Friendless NewsletterFollow Friendless on InstagramFollow Friendless on TikTokFollow Hey, Sorry I Missed You on Instagram Support the show, Buy Me A Coffee!

In this very special, and ironically timed, episode of "Friendless," host James Avramenko is joined by Taylor Padget (ice cream maestro and safest boy in Vancouver). They share a candid and humorous conversation about their experiences with friendships, the challenge of making genuine connections, and the significance of chosen family. Taylor also shares his decision to take a bold step and move to the UK. From pop culture moments to discussing their hometowns, the episode is packed with lighthearted banter and heartfelt reflections on the complexities of friendship. Join James and Taylor as they explore the joys and trials of building meaningful connections in their thirties.Sign up for the Friendless SubstackFollow Friendless on Instagram and on TikTokFollow Hey, Sorry I Missed You (James' year-long daily novel in verse project)Support the show by Buying Me A Coffee!

This week on a very special episode of Friendless, your pal James Avramenko is joined by artist and ruffian Kal Nguyen. They get into some really heavy subject matter, so listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health and need help, here are a few resources to reach out to:Talk Suicide Canada: 988Mental Health Support Line: 310-6789Vancouver Crisis Line - 604-872-3311You're not alone.

This week on a very special episode of Friendless, your pal James Avramenko is joined by special guest Jaz Papadopoulos. Jaz is a poet, a teacher, a conflict resolution expert, and all around inspiration. They discuss the pitfalls of living in Vancouver (and how to escape), calling the UN out on their bs, asking for what you want from the people in your life, and so much more!Check out Jaz's work on their website HERESign up for the Friendless Substack HEREFollow Hey, Sorry I Missed You (James' year-long novel in verse) on Instagram HEREAnd if you're feeling extra saucy, why not Buy Me A Coffee?

It's the most wonderful time of the year! To wrap up 2023, your pal James is back with a review of the year. He goes over some of his favourite books, movies, and podcasts. He also answers listener questions from who to buy gifts for to his favourite and least favourite holiday traditions. Sign up for the Friendless Substack HEREFollow Friendless on TIkTok Follow Friendless on InstagramAnd here's a list breaking down the Top 3s that James goes over in the episode:Top Movies:No One Will Save YouGood Luck to You Leo GrandeScream 6Top Books:Marigold and RoseHeat 2The DebutanteBatman '89Top Podcasts:The AncientsTherapists in the wildThe DreamLove, JanessaTop TV Shows:Ted LassoShrinkingUm ActuallyHappy Holidays y'all! See you in the new year and remember:Fun and safety!

This week on a very special episode of Friendless, your pal James Avramenko welcomes back returning guest Darcy Haywood Stoop. They discuss the ups and downs of mental health, how to refuse to seize the day, and the healthy ego it takes to put your own airmask on first. Sign up for the Friendless Substack HEREFollow Friendless on Instagramand on TikTok

Trigger Warning: Open conversations about depression, grief, trauma, abuse.I haven't been able to see my therapist in three weeks and am having a nervous breakdown. Come along while I try to practice radical vulnerability and express what's been going on in my life this month. I tried to say everything I could as honestly as I could, I already know I missed things, forgot things, didn't say everything properly. I'm trying my best, that's got to be good enough.November is Men's Mental Health Month. If you or someone you know is struggling, please use the resources here to get the help you need. Sign up for the Friendless Substack Here

In this very special episode of "Friendless," your pal James welcomes special returning guest Nathan Iles!They discuss the importance of community and the challenges of remote work, explore the intricacies of friendship and personal growth, discuss the impact of technology and social media on relationships, the need for safe spaces, and the power of niche communities. They also delve into the world of classic video games, sharing their favorite titles and the evolution of storytelling within the gaming industry. Check out Nathan's writing HEREand listen to his band Brain Bent HERESign up for the Friendless Substack HEREFollow Friendless on Instagramand on TikTokFollow HSIMY on Instagram HEREand if you're feeling extra generous, Buy Me A Coffee!

This week on a very special episode of Friendless host James Avramenko is joined by the talented playwright, solo performer, and writer, Laura Anne Harris. Their conversation delves into the intrinsic joy of the creative process, the challenges of being an artist, and the need for self-compassion. Laura candidly shares her journey through personal transformation, navigating grief, and her experiences in the artistic community, offering valuable insights into friendships, setting boundaries, and the impact of the pandemic. Both James and Laura emphasize the importance of open communication, therapy, and releasing repressed emotions for improved mental well-being. They also explore the changing dynamics of friendships and the resilience of the human spirit in the face of uncertainty. This deeply reflective and open-hearted episode is a touching exploration of personal growth, artistic perseverance, and the power of genuine connections.Follow Laura on Instagramor check out her websiteFollow Friendless on Instagramor TikTokFollow Hey, Sorry I Missed YouSign up for the Friendless Substack!!And if you're feeling really generous, why not Buy Me A Coffee?

This week on a very special episode of Friendless, your pal James is joined once again by actor, writer, producer, and pro wrasslin' mark Rod Peter Jr! They discuss navigating the world of Fringe theatre, the difference between community and society, making friends with mushrooms, and big sweat musclemen rolling around each other!Follow Rod on InstagramFollow Friendless on InstagramFollow Hey, sorry I missed you on InstagramSign up with the Friendless Substack HEREAnd support the show HERE