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Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Replay: Polarization – The Issue of Our Time (feat. John Wood Jr.)This week, I'm re-sharing a powerful episode from the DTH archives during a little family downtime. In this classic, I sat down with my good friend and Braver Angels National Ambassador, John Wood Jr., to tackle what may be the greatest challenge facing our country: polarization.We discuss:Why polarization prevents progress on all other issuesHow to better engage with people who think differentlyThe dangers of whataboutism and political panderingWhy long-term thinking beats short-term outrageJohn brings the kind of insight and calm conviction that's rare in today's divided landscape. This episode is packed with value—don't miss it!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Unpacking the Woke Right, White Identity Politics & The Equality Fight In Episode 264 of Derate The Hate, host Wilk Wilkinson welcomes Hunter Ash and returning guest Julian Adorney for a bold, honest, and highly relevant conversation on the rise of woke right identity politics, the pitfalls of anti-racism orthodoxy, and how we might build a more unified, equitable society without falling into the traps of division and fear.

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Episode 263: How Contempt Fuels Division and What We Can Do About It – with Zachary Elwood What's truly tearing us apart isn't disagreement—it's contempt. In Episode 263 of the Derate The Hate podcast, Wilk Wilkinson is joined once again by Zachary Elwood, author of the new book How Contempt Destroys Democracy: An American Liberal's Guide to Toxic Polarization.Zach shares powerful insights into how confirmation bias, emotional thinking, and our grievance culture feed political division. Wilk and Zach dive deep into why curiosity is a critical tool for unity, how media and social platforms fuel outrage, and why focusing on local community action can help us escape the national polarization trap.

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Exposing the Cost of Fear: School Closures, Media Failures, and COVID Truths In DTH Episode 262, Wilk Wilkinson sits down with investigative journalist and author David Zweig to explore the pandemic-era decisions that reshaped American education. David, widely known for his work on the Twitter Files and now his explosive new book, An Abundance of Caution, unpacks how fear, flawed media narratives, and political tribalism drove the closure of schools—with devastating consequences for children and society.From misinformed public health messaging to the silencing of dissenting voices, this episode pulls back the curtain on what really happened during COVID—and how we can make sure it never happens again.

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!How do we turn information into true transformation? This week on Derate The Hate, I'm joined by Kim Bach, cofounder of Dailyhuman Inc., mindset coach, and Chief People Officer, who is on a mission to close the gap between knowing and becoming. In this conversation, we explore what Kim calls the "humaning crisis" — a growing struggle with negativity, disconnection, and lack of essential soft skills.Kim shares tools and insights around self-reflection, storytelling, and the development of a growth mindset — all essential for rebuilding trust in ourselves and with others. With 80% of our 80,000 daily thoughts being negative, it's easy to see how default thinking can feed polarization and discontent. But the good news? We can change the story we tell ourselves.If you're ready to take the next best step toward becoming the next best version of yourself, this episode is for you.

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!What happens when we stop trying to win arguments and start trying to understand each other? In this episode of Derate The Hate, Wilk Wilkinson sits down with Sydney-based creative and entrepreneur Jonah Primo, producer of Australia's #1 philosophy podcast Principle of Charity and host of The Overexamined Life. Together, they explore how empathy, mindfulness, and the principle of charity can shift the way we engage with others—especially when we disagree.Jonah shares his powerful personal journey from dissatisfaction to deep fulfillment, shaped by years of studying philosophy, meditation, and lived human experiences. This conversation dives into the mental frameworks that help reduce polarization, foster gratitude, and bring presence into everyday life.

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Episode 259 – Dr. Bruce Chalmer: When Communication Isn't the Real Problem in Relationships (or in Society)What if the root of conflict in our relationships — and in our divided world — isn't a failure to communicate, but a failure to tolerate discomfort?In this episode of Derate The Hate, I sit down with couples therapist and author Dr. Bruce Chalmer to explore how anxiety, not poor communication, is often the true barrier to meaningful connection — both in marriages and across ideological divides.Bruce has worked with couples for nearly 30 years, and his book It's Not About Communication! challenges everything we think we know about relationship struggles. But what makes this conversation especially powerful is how deeply his insights apply beyond romantic partnerships — to how we engage in tough conversations with those we disagree with.In this episode, you'll discover:✅ Why communication isn't the root problem in many relationships✅ How anxiety disrupts connection and meaningful dialogue ✅ Why tolerating discomfort is essential to emotional intimacy ✅ How ideas lead to growth, but ideologies often create rigidity ✅ The impact of confirmation bias on both romantic and political conversations ✅ Why faith in others' humanity is foundational for bridging divides ✅ How the tools of couples therapy can strengthen civil discourseWe also discuss Bruce's podcast with his wife Judy, Couples Therapy in Seven Words, where they explore love, faith, and what it means to truly connect in a world that often prioritizes being right over being human.Key Takeaways:✅ Emotional connection requires vulnerability, not just technique✅ Communication “problems” are often anxiety in disguise✅ Real transformation comes from deep listening and mutual respect✅ The goal of conversation isn't to win — it's to connect✅ We must create shared space for dialogue, even amid disagreementLearn more about and connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer by getting the full show notes at www.DerateTheHate.comWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop our Derate The Hate Merchandise store by clicking here! I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Episode 287 – Rebuilding Social Trust Through Place-Based Community Engagement with Eric HigbeeIn this powerful episode of the Derate The Hate podcast, Wilk Wilkinson sits down with landscape architect, community organizer, and writer Eric Higbee to explore the transformative power of place-based community engagement in our increasingly fragmented society.Eric shares insights from his multifaceted work at the intersection of placemaking, civic renewal, and social psychology. Through his award-winning design practice, Convene, and his respected Substack newsletter, The Answer is Community, Eric helps individuals and local governments build deeper, more empathetic relationships where they live. Key Topics Covered:✅ Why online interactions can't replace real, local community engagement✅ The psychology behind building empathy and reducing social anxiety✅ How intergroup contact theory supports community healing ✅ The dual role of grassroots organizing and local government in fostering social cohesion ✅ How common cause projects can unite people across ideological divides ✅ The importance of physical spaces in creating social trust ✅ What civic participation really looks like in your own neighborhoodTop Takeaways:✅ Civic renewal starts locally—through real-world relationships and shared purpose ✅ Empathy and anxiety reduction are vital for bridging social divides ✅ Both individuals and local governments must take ownership of community wellbeing ✅ Place-based communities are the foundation for lasting social cohesionWhether you're a local leader, community-minded citizen, or simply tired of online polarization, this episode will inspire you to engage more deeply with those around you—and offer tools to get started.Learn more about and connect with Eric Higbee by getting the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com. What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop our Derate The Hate Merchandise store by clicking here! I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!The End of Solitude, Culture, and the Fight for IndividualityIn this episode of Derate The Hate, host Wilk Wilkinson sits down with award-winning essayist, cultural critic, and author William Deresiewicz for an insightful conversation on solitude, the internet's impact on society, political polarization, and the importance of civic engagement in an increasingly fragmented world.William Deresiewicz is the author of The End of Solitude: Selected Essays on Culture and Society, a powerful collection that examines how digital technology has reshaped our relationships, eroded genuine human connection, and deepened societal divides. As a former Yale and Columbia professor and an influential voice in cultural criticism, Bill brings a unique perspective on individuality, self-examination, and the need for real community in an age dominated by online interactions.Key Takeaways from this Episode:✅ The Importance of Solitude: How the internet has altered our relationship with solitude and why reclaiming it is essential for deep thinking and self-awareness. ✅ The Internet & Society: The ways in which digital technology has reshaped our social interactions, often leading to community decay, polarization, and dehumanization. ✅ Political Polarization & Self-Examination: How emotional investment in beliefs fuels division and why intellectual humility is critical for a healthier civic discourse. ✅ Civic Engagement as an Antidote to Online Toxicity: The role of real-world community-building in counteracting the negative effects of social media-driven discourse. ✅ Pro-Human Philosophy: As a new member of the ProHuman Foundation's Board of Advisors, Bill discusses the need to reinforce individuality and shared humanity in today's divided culture. ✅ The Future of Culture & Identity: Why people are growing dissatisfied with extreme ideological divides and how embracing nuanced, human-centered discussions can lead to positive change.Learn more About William Deresiewicz in the full show notes for this episode at DerateTheHate.comWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Breaking the Cycle: Trauma, Emotional Intelligence and Rewriting Human ConnectionHere at the DTH podcast, we don't just talk about division, anger, and outrage—we focus on solutions, on healing, on finding common ground in a world that so often feels fractured.Today, I have the privilege of sitting down with someone who understands that journey firsthand. Brandon Bishop is not just an advocate for emotional intelligence—he's a disruptor, a visionary, and the founder of TrueEQ, a movement dedicated to redefining human connection. Brandon's life has been shaped by deep trauma, by emotional isolation, and by a society that often values status over substance. But instead of letting that define him, he's used it as fuel—to build a platform that challenges the very systems that keep us disconnected.His story is raw. Raised in an emotionally barren home, perfectionism became his survival mechanism. But over time, he saw through the rigid ideologies—whether religious, corporate, or social—that prioritize control over compassion. And that realization led him to a new mission: to help others break free, reclaim their worth, and build relationships rooted in self-awareness, resilience, and radical authenticity.Through TrueEQ, Brandon is creating something different—an intentional social network that isn't about algorithms, clout, or ego, but about real human connection. He believes that emotional intelligence is the key to personal growth, meaningful relationships, and ultimately, a better society. And he's not just talking about it—he's doing something about it, building a space for those who are willing to step beyond the noise, lean into vulnerability, and rewrite the rules of connection.TakeawaysEmotional intelligence is crucial for meaningful relationships.Personal experiences can drive advocacy for emotional intelligence.True EQ aims to connect individuals based on emotional intelligence scores.Building resilience is key to overcoming trauma.Self-awareness is foundational for developing emotional intelligence.True EQ provides a safe space for real conversations.The platform is designed to foster supportive connections.Learn more about and connect with Brandon Bishop by gettinWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Censorship in the Arts and the Fight For Free ExpressionToday's episode is part of our ProHuman Foundation Board of Advisors series, where we have been highlighting voices committed to promoting our shared humanity, open dialogue, and diverse perspectives.My guest today is someone who embodies those values in her work and advocacy. Rosie Kay is an internationally renowned dancer and choreographer whose career has taken her across the world, using the power of movement to explore deep societal issues. She's the founder of K2CO and Freedom in the Arts, a vital organization dedicated to protecting artistic freedom and defending artists against cancel culture.Rosie is also a fellow board advisor for the ProHuman Foundation, where we work alongside other thought leaders to push back against the growing culture of division. Her own journey in the arts has come with its challenges—particularly as political ideologies and conformity have taken hold in creative spaces. She's been at the center of debates on gender ideology, free expression, and the role of self-discipline in art, and today, we're diving into all of it.We'll explore how self-censorship is creeping into the arts, why gender ideology is impacting women's rights and spaces, and why open debate is essential for understanding one another. Rosie's perspective is a powerful reminder that courage, resilience, and a return to shared humanity are more important than ever.TakeawaysDance is a powerful medium for expressing societal issues.Artists often face pushback for challenging the status quo.The arts have become increasingly conformist in recent years.Self-discipline is essential for artists alongside self-expression.Political alignment in the arts can lead to self-censorship.Fear and loathing have created a hostile environment for artists.Gender ideology impacts women's rights and spaces.Art connects the body, mind, and spirit in profound ways.Open debate is crucial for understanding differing viewpoints.The Pro Human Foundation promotes shared humanity and diverse beliefs.photo credit ~ Brian SlaterLearn more about and connect with Rosie Kay by getting the full show notes What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!The Transformative Power of Forgiveness: Unlocking Healing and ResilienceToday we're diving back into a topic that I believe is fundamental to personal growth, emotional healing, and resilience: forgiveness.Now, we all hear that word a lot—people say, “Just forgive, forget and move on,” like it's some quick decision, a one-time event. But my guest today, Katharine Giovanni, knows firsthand that forgiveness isn't a destination—it's a process, a journey, and sometimes, the hardest step we'll ever take.Katharine is a three-time award-winning, best-selling author, a dynamic speaker, and a highly sought-after forgiveness coach. Beyond the accolades, what makes Katharine truly stand out is her personal story of resilience. From surviving stage 3 breast cancer to overcoming a traumatic childhood, she's lived through experiences that many would call unforgivable—and yet, she's found a way to move forward, not just surviving, but thriving.Her latest book, The Ultimate Path to Forgiveness: Unlocking Your Power, is a game-changer because it doesn't just tell you to forgive—it shows you how with a step-by-step approach. Takeaways from our conversation today:  Forgiveness is essential for personal healing.Self-forgiveness is often the hardest but most important step.You can forgive without wanting a relationship with the offender.Forgiveness can be a step-by-step process.Energy plays a significant role in how we experience forgiveness.Forgiving others can lead to emotional freedom.You can forgive even the unforgivable by breaking down the memory.Forgiveness is a journey, not a sprint.Your energy attracts similar energy from others.Forgiveness can transform your life and relationships.Learn more about and connect with Katharine Giovanni  by getting the full show notes for this episode at DerateTheHate.comWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Do You Want Revenge or Do You Want a Better America?Today, I have the privilege of welcoming back award-winning filmmaker, writer, and storyteller, Eli Steele. Eli is known for films like How Jack Became Black, What's Bugging Seth, and most recently, What Killed Michael Brown?—a powerful and thought-provoking documentary he produced with his father, Shelby Steele. He also shares his insights on his Man of Steele Substack, where he continues challenging narratives and pushing for deeper discussions on race, identity, and the American experience.Eli and I dive into one of the most pressing issues facing our country today—the growing desire for revenge in our political and cultural landscape. Too often, we see frustration turning into retribution, but where does that really lead us? Do we move forward as a nation by tearing each other down, or is there a better path—one rooted in accountability, responsibility, and reconciliation?We'll talk about how history has shaped the current racial and political climate, why the victimhood mentality is so destructive, and how the cycle of revenge only deepens division. Through the powerful Tar Baby analogy, we'll explore how getting stuck in anger and resentment holds us back from real progress. This is a conversation about moving beyond identity politics, beyond blame, and beyond the toxic cycles that keep us from truly thriving.TakeawaysThe desire for revenge can consume individuals and hinder progress.The "Tar Baby" folk story illustrates the futility of seeking revenge.Historical context is crucial in understanding current racial dynamics.Revenge often leads to the creation of new tribal divisions.Empathy and compassion are vital in overcoming hatred.The fight for equality has been ongoing and complex.Trump's presidency is seen by many as a reaction to long-standing frustrations.Seeking revenge can compromise American principles and values.True progress requires moving beyond identity politics. Revenge leads to a never-ending cycle of conflict.Education is crucial for societal improvement.Civic engagement is essential for community rebuilding.We must talk to our neighbors to understand eWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!The Exponential Power of Gratitude: Unleashing Your Happiness Equation Let me ask you: How do you measure happiness? Is it something you chase, or something you cultivate?  What if I told you there's an actual equation for happiness? A way to measure it, understand it, and most importantly, optimize it? That's exactly what today's guest, Leighton Campbell, has uncovered in his latest book, Your Happiness Equation.Leighton is a devoted husband, father of four, successful entrepreneur, and passionate reader who has traveled the world in search of deeper meaning and fulfillment. Through his journey, he's identified seven key variables that shape our happiness—but there's one element that doesn't just add to the equation—it amplifies it: Gratitude.In fact, gratitude isn't just another piece of the puzzle—it's the exponent. It strengthens every other factor in the equation, multiplying its impact on your well-being. Want more peace? More purpose? More fulfillment? Gratitude magnifies all of it. And today, Leighton is going to break down exactly how that works.We'll also explore the difference between fleeting joy and lasting happiness, the power of self-awareness, and why chasing the wrong things can actually lead to less happiness. And for those wondering where they stand, Leighton's got a happiness quiz that will help you assess your own equation.TakeawaysGratitude is the genesis of happiness.Happiness is a long-term sense of peace and satisfaction.Chasing fleeting joy can lead to unhappiness.The happiness equation consists of seven key variables.Self-awareness is crucial for personal growth.Gratitude acts as an exponent in the happiness equation.Belonging to meaningful groups enhances happiness.Understanding your purpose contributes to happiness.Optimizing happiness is more important than maximizing it.Everyone can benefit from assessing their happiness score.Learn more about and connect with Leighton Campbell by getting the full show notes at DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Mastering Resilience and Emotional Intelligence Through Storytelling My guest today is the incredible Madelaine Claire Weiss. She's a Harvard-trained psychotherapist, mindset expert, and board-certified executive coach. With a background that spans corporate leadership, education, and mental health, Madelaine has dedicated her career to helping people navigate life's challenges with clarity and confidence.She's the bestselling author of Getting to G.R.E.A.T.: A 5-Step Strategy for Work and Life, which breaks down a powerful framework for personal and professional success. And now, she's bringing that wisdom to young minds with her new book, What's Your Story?—a personal development workbook for kids featuring a character named Brainy, who helps children understand how their minds work and how they can take control of their own narratives.In this conversation, we'll explore the role of storytelling in resilience, why emotional intelligence is key to making better decisions, and how parents can equip their children with the coping skills they need to thrive. We'll also break down her G-R-E-A-T framework—grounding, recognizing, exploring, taking action, and tackling resistance—and how it can help all of us lead happier, more fulfilling lives.TakeawaysResilience can be built through storytelling and emotional awareness.The G-R-E-A-T framework includes grounding, recognizing, exploring, action, and tackling resistance.Children often lack the emotional intelligence to cope with challenges.It's essential to honor emotions and use them as data for decision-making.The brain is a story-making machine, and we can improve our narratives.Parents should teach children about the brain and how it works.Emotional intelligence is crucial for making sound decisions.Grounding in the belief of a great life is the first step to achieving it.Action is necessary for happiness and personal growth.Understanding the internal environment is key to overall well-being.Learn more about and connect with Madelaine Claire Weiss online by getting the full show notes at www.DerateTheHate.comWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Raising Informed Citizens: The Power of Civic Education and EngagementToday, we're tackling yet another topic that couldn't be more relevant—civic education and the role we all play in shaping the next generation of informed citizens. Politics today is often framed as a battlefield, where division and outrage seem to dominate the conversation. But what if we approached it differently? What if we saw civic engagement not as a fight, but as a shared responsibility—one that starts at home?My guest today is Lindsey Cormack, an associate professor of Political Science and Director of the Diplomacy Lab at Stevens Institute of Technology. She's the author of How to Raise a Citizen (And Why It's Up to You to Do It), a book that explores the vital role parents play in helping their children understand our government, engage in politics constructively, and become active participants in democracy. Lindsey's work also includes maintaining DC Inbox, a digital archive of congressional e-newsletters, giving her unique insight into how politics is communicated to the public.In this conversation, we'll discuss why civic education has been deprioritized, how media algorithms shape our perceptions, and why understanding different political perspectives is crucial for a healthy democracy. Most importantly, we'll explore how parents and communities can work together to create a more informed and engaged electorate for the future.TakeawaysCivic education is essential for youth to understand their role in democracy.Parents play a crucial role in teaching their children about politics.The current education system often deprioritizes civics education.Political engagement should be framed positively, not negatively.Toxic polarization hinders constructive political discourse.Media algorithms often reinforce divisive narratives.Understanding both sides of the political spectrum is vital for informed citizenship.Civic engagement is a shared responsibility among parents and communities.Encouraging children to participate in politics can lead to a more informed electorate.The American political system, despite its flaws, is worth understanding and preserving.Learn more about and What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Radical Moderation: Breaking Free from Binary ThinkingMy guest this week is Lauren Hall, a professor of political science, an author, and a thought leader whose work challenges the rigid, binary ways we often think about personal, social, and political issues. She's written extensively on the medicalization of birth and death, the politics of family, and the crucial need for what she calls radical moderation—a framework that moves beyond “us versus them” thinking and embraces the full complexity of human experience.Lauren's approach introduces a four-dimensional way of understanding our world—one that demands humility, curiosity, and a recognition that real solutions exist beyond the false choices we're so often given. In a time when civil discourse feels like a lost art, her work reminds us of the power of pluralism, gratitude, and the willingness to engage with perspectives outside of our own echo chambers.Beyond her academic work, Lauren is yet another of my fellow advisors for the ProHuman Foundation, a group committed to fostering open and honest conversations about the issues that shape our lives. In this episode, we'll explore the dangers of negativity bias, the importance of lived experience, and how practicing radical moderation can help us bridge the divides that seem to grow wider every day.TakeawaysRadical moderation challenges binary thinking in society.Understanding different dimensions of experience is crucial.Lived experiences shape our perspectives and judgments.Negativity bias affects how we perceive the world.Gratitude can enhance our understanding of others.Trade-offs are inherent in every decision we make.Complexity in social issues requires humility and curiosity.Pluralism acknowledges the diversity of human experiences.Engaging in civil discourse can bridge divides.We share a common humanity despite our differences.Learn more about and connect with Lauren K. Hall by checking out the full show notes for this episode at DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Empowering the Next Generation: Breaking Stereotypes and Building BridgesI'm excited to bring you an inspiring story of transformation and hope with this week's guest, Quay Hanna. Quay's journey is one of those rare, raw tales that has the power to reshape perspectives. Back in the mid-90s, Quay was just another young man from rural Pennsylvania with preconceived notions and a limited view of the world. But that all changed when he embarked on a nine-week Greyhound bus journey across 37 states. What began as a simple cross-country trip turned into a life-altering experience, chronicled in his memoir Bus America: Revelation of a Redneck.In the years since, Quay has taken his lessons from the road and transformed them into over 1,300 presentations across multiple countries, speaking with honesty and heart about the importance of understanding, diversity, and confronting stereotypes. His ability to connect with people of all backgrounds and bridge divides has made him a sought-after speaker and a passionate advocate for youth empowerment and community building.Quay and I also share a common bond as fellow advisors on the ProHuman Foundation, an organization committed to fostering unity and human dignity. Today, we'll dive into the profound insights he gained on his journey, discuss his work in education and youth empowerment, and explore how simple human connections can dismantle even the most entrenched prejudices.TakeawaysA Greyhound bus trip opened Quay's eyes to his own prejudices.Quay's experiences highlight the complexity of identity.He learned that stereotypes often dictate behavior.Quay's transformation was sparked by genuine interactions.There is great importance in the understanding of others.Ignorance can lead to fear, which breeds hate.Quay's journal documented his evolving perspective. Personal connections can break down racial barriers.Conversations can challenge our preconceived notions.Empathy is key in understanding others.Youth today crave genuine connections.Education can bridge divides in society.Prejudices can be challenged through shared experiences.Community support is vital for youth empowerment.Empowering youthWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Christianity's Role in a Virtuous and Prosperous DemocracyI'm thrilled to welcome back a guest who is both a brilliant thinker and someone I deeply respect, even though we often disagree politically—Jonathan Rauch.Jonathan is a senior fellow in the Governance Studies program at the Brookings Institution, a contributing writer for The Atlantic, and the author of several thought-provoking books, including Kindly Inquisitors and The Constitution of Knowledge. Some of you might remember when he joined me back in January 2023 to talk about The Constitution of Knowledge and our shared work with Braver Angels, bridging divides and fostering healthier conversations in our polarized world.Today, Jonathan is here to discuss his latest book, Cross Purposes: Christianity's Broken Bargain with Democracy. This powerful new work delves into the complex and often fraught relationship between Christianity and democracy in America. Jonathan reflects on his own journey as an atheist from skepticism to a deeper appreciation for the role of Christianity in fostering a virtuous society—something our founders understood as essential for a thriving democracy.We'll talk about why fear, outrage, and grievance have become so toxic in our political and civic life, how a more Christ-like approach can help heal societal divides, and what it means to reconnect Christianity with its core tenets. Jonathan challenges us to think about the vital role of 'thick' Christianity—faith that provides meaning, virtue, and community—in building a stronger, more inclusive democracy.As always, our conversation touches on the work of Braver Angels, the importance of depolarization, and the need for both secular and religious communities to come together with understanding. So, get ready for another insightful conversation with Jonathan Rauch, right here on Derate the Hate. Learn more about and connect with Jonathan Rauch by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Bridging Racial Divides Through Mutual Accountability and UnityJoining me today is Dr. George Yancey, a distinguished sociologist, professor at Baylor University, and the author of Beyond Racial Division. George is also another of our esteemed members of the ProHuman foundation Board of Advisors. Dr. Yancey's work is both refreshing and deeply needed. While so much of the current conversation around race is polarized—whether it's the call for colorblindness or the push for anti-racism—he critiques these approaches for their shortcomings. Instead, he advocates for something radically different: mutual accountability, genuine dialogue, and active listening. His Christian-based model for race relations offers practical steps to foster understanding and unity while humanizing, rather than stigmatizing, individuals.In Beyond Racial Division, Dr. Yancey challenges us to confront the complexities of race without falling into the traps of identity politics or reinforcing division. He emphasizes that finding common ground is valuable, but it's not always necessary for meaningful connection. It's about creating better conversations, not just louder ones.Dr. Yancey's work aligns closely with the mission of organizations like the Pro Human Foundation, which is committed to promoting unity and a pro-human message. As someone deeply invested in bringing people together, I can't wait to unpack his insights and explore how we can all play a role in bridging divides.TakeawaysGeorge Yancey's work focuses on bridging divides in society.His book 'Beyond Racial Division' offers practical steps for addressing racial issues.Colorblindness ignores the realities of racial discrimination.Anti-racism can create a backlash and reinforce division.Mutual accountability is essential for effective dialogue.Active listening is crucial for understanding differing perspectives.Conversations should aim to humanize rather than stigmatize individuals.Identity politics can negatively impact well-being.Finding common ground is important, but not always necessary.Organizations like the Pro Human Foundation play a vital role in promoting unity.Learn more about and connect with George YaWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Finding Purpose, Mastering Gratitude, and Living IntentionallyYou know, life can be tough, filled with struggles, setbacks, and uncertainties. But friends, one thing I have learned through my own journey is that purpose and intentionality are powerful tools to not only navigate those challenges but to thrive through them.Today, I have the incredible privilege of sitting down with my friend, Scott Maderer, founder of Inspired Stewardship. Scott's work is all about helping people, especially Christians, discover their true purpose and live out their calling with intention and joy. Scott and his wife Carrie started this journey in 2011, and since 2017, they've been doing it full-time, offering coaching, workshops, and even writing a book to guide others in aligning their time, talent, and treasures.In this conversation, we'll talk about Scott's own path—how he overcame personal struggles, including financial hardships, to create a life of meaning and service. We'll unpack the difference between contentment and complacency, the transformative power of gratitude, and how small, intentional changes can lead to big, life-altering results.Scott's passion for helping others live authentically shines through in his work, and I'm excited for you to hear his insights on how we can all live a more inspired and purposeful life. So, grab a seat, open your heart, and let's dive into this powerful conversation with Scott Maderer.TakeawaysThe journey of finding purpose is ongoing and evolves over time.Financial struggles can deeply impact one's mental health and sense of identity.Contentment is about gratitude and recognizing what you have, not just material success.Gratitude practices can rewire your brain to focus on the positive.Joy is a deeper, more lasting feeling than happiness.Small, incremental changes can lead to significant life transformations.It's important to differentiate between being content and being complacent.Training your brain to look for the good can change your perspective on life.Everyone has the potential to live an intentional and inspired life.Resources and frameworks can help guide individuals towards their calling.Learn more about and connect with ScottWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Exploring The Third Space: Transcending Rigid BinariesJoining me again today is my friend, Zander Keig, someone of remarkable depth and impact. Zander wears many hats—award-winning social worker, speaker, educator, caregiver, and bestselling author. You may remember Zander from his 1st appearance on DTH back in September of 2023 when we discussed how the Trans community is often mistakenly believed to be a monolith. Zander is a thought leader with a profound ability to guide individuals and communities toward resolution and redemption. As a ProHuman Foundation Advisor and co-founder of the LGBTQ Caregiver Center, Zander has dedicated his life to bridging divides and fostering unity.In today's episode, we'll unpack concepts from Zander's book, The Third Space: A Nonconformist's Guide to the Universe. What is the “Third Space,” and how does it help us transcend the rigid binaries that often define identity and community? Zander brings a unique perspective as a neurodivergent, first-generation Mexican American who has navigated life's challenges with resilience and grace. His story and insights are a lighthouse for those searching for ways to navigate conflict, isolation, and division.We'll discuss how creating inclusive spaces can foster greater understanding, why education is crucial in combatting ignorance and hate, and how organizations like the ProHuman Foundation and Braver Angels are making a difference. Above all, we'll explore the redemptive potential of human connection—because no matter our past, the future holds possibilities for growth, community, and shared humanity.TakeawaysThe 'Third Space' allows for unique identities beyond binaries.Creating inclusive spaces can foster community and understanding.The lighthouse symbolizes guidance and navigation through challenges.Education is key to overcoming ignorance and hate.Isolation can have severe impacts on mental and physical health.Conflict resolution requires recognizing our shared humanity.Nonconformity can lead to personal growth and community support.The Pro Human Foundation promotes anti-racism through understanding, not division.Human connection is essential in combating loneliness and hate.Learn moreWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Strengthen Relationships: Local Solutions To America's Growing Societal FragilityToday, in yet another of our ProHuman Foundation advisors series, I have the distinct privilege of speaking with someone who's not only a thought leader but also a seasoned expert in understanding the complex dynamics of fragile states, societies, and communities.Seth D. Kaplan is the author of Fragile Neighborhoods: Repairing American Society, One Zip Code at a Time. His work focuses on an issue that's been at the forefront of my mind for quite some time—the fragility of American society, not in terms of political collapse, but in terms of the erosion of social cohesion and interpersonal connections. Seth is a Professorial Lecturer at Johns Hopkins University's prestigious SAIS program, a Senior Adviser at the Institute for Integrated Transitions, and a visiting fellow at the Mercatus Center's Program on Pluralism and Civil Exchange. Beyond academia, he's consulted for organizations like the World Bank and the U.S. State Department, tackling challenges in fragile communities worldwide.In our conversation today, we'll explore what makes communities thrive—or falter—and why local action and community engagement are vital to restoring our social fabric. We'll also delve into how technology and cultural narratives play a role in shaping, or fracturing, those connections. If you've ever felt that society is growing more polarized, more disconnected, and less respectful, you'll find this conversation enlightening—and maybe even empowering.TakeawaysFragile states are politically or socially unstable with low social cohesion.American society is fragile due to declining interpersonal relationships.Technology has contributed to the isolation and atomization of society.Local engagement is crucial for rebuilding community connections.Individuals can make a difference by participating in local organizations.Cultural change is necessary to address societal issues.Constructive narratives should be amplified over polarizing ones.People often feel marginalized and disrespected in society.Restoring social fabric requires active participation in communities.Learn more about and connect with SetWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Confronting Addiction and Reclaiming Sobriety Through Personal TransformationToday, we're talking about a topic that hits close to home for so many people—addiction, recovery, and the fight to reclaim control of one's life. Joining me is someone who's not only walked that difficult path but has turned his journey into a powerful message of hope and transformation. Ken Cox is the author of Reclaim Sobriety: The 12 Rounds of Sobriety, a guide for overcoming addiction and taking back your life, one step at a time. Ken's story is one of grit, growth, and the relentless pursuit of a better self.Ken is not just an author; he's also the President of Hostirian and host of the award-winning Clicks and Bricks podcast. With a career rooted in creating value and solutions for others, he's built a reputation as a successful entrepreneur and mentor. But today, we're diving into his personal journey—how boxing, mindset work, and even redefining masculinity helped him rise from the depths of alcoholism and trauma to become a sober gladiator, as he calls it.Ken's commitment to youth mentorship and his work with transformative practices like EMDR therapy are inspiring. He's not just helping others find their way out of addiction—he's showing them how to reclaim their identity, build resilience, and create a life they can be proud of.So, get ready for an incredibly impactful conversation about mindset, masculinity, recovery, and the power of personal growth. TakeawaysReclaiming control over one's life is essential for recovery.Identifying as a 'sober gladiator' can change one's mindset.The journey of recovery often requires redefining personal identity.Boxing provided a crucial outlet for Ken's transformation.Youth mentorship can be a powerful tool for personal growth.Understanding microtraumas is important in helping others.Mindset work is critical for overcoming addiction.EMDR therapy can aid in processing past traumas.Creating a supportive environment for youth is vital.Sharing personal stories can help others in their recovery journey.Learn more about and connect with Ken Cox by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Preparing Our Children with the Skills To Navigate Toxic PolarizationToday, we're diving into one of the most critical topics of our time—how we can equip the next generation to navigate a world that often feels more divided by the day.As someone who's worked through my own journey from anger to understanding, I know firsthand the importance of teaching people to bridge divides. But what if we could start even earlier? What if we could teach kids—not just as they grow, but while they're still forming the skills and perspectives that will shape their entire lives—to think critically, build empathy, and connect across differences?Our guest today is Kent Lenci, a true pioneer in this space. Kent spent 20 years as a middle school educator, holding roles as a teacher, coach, and leader, before founding Middle Ground School Solutions in 2019. His mission is simple but powerful: to help prepare today's students to ease tomorrow's political polarization. From creating curriculum for the Better Arguments Project and the National Week of Conversation to writing his book Learning to Depolarize, Kent has been on the front lines, empowering educators to teach kids how to engage with empathy and civility in a divided world.We'll talk about Kent's journey, the challenges today's youth face, and why early intervention in education is key to countering the effects of divisive media and polarized environments. Kent will also share actionable insights on fostering emotional intelligence and media literacy in kids, along with the role human connection plays in creating lasting change.This is exactly the kind of conversation that embodies the spirit of Derate the Hate—finding ways to turn tension into understanding and anger into action. TakeawaysKent Lenci transitioned from teaching to founding Middle Ground Solutions.Early intervention in education can prevent polarization.Media literacy is essential for critical thinking in youth.Emotional intelligence helps children navigate complex social dynamics.Building connections across divides is crucial for understanding.Human connection is key to overcoming polarization.Organizations like Pro Human Foundation and Braver Angels work towards a better future. What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Overcome The Overwhelm and Calm Your Inner CriticFriends, how often do you feel like you're juggling the impossible? Trying to balance the demands of work, family, and the pressures you put on yourself? It can feel overwhelming, right? But what if I told you there's a way to find harmony—not just balance, but real, meaningful harmony—so you can lead a life that works and feels right for you?Today, I'm sitting down with someone who knows this journey all too well: Arlene Cohen Miller. Arlene is the CEO of Jewel Consultancy and a Work-Life Balance & Harmony Coach with a powerful mission. With a background as a highly regarded attorney, an internationally certified coach, and even a certified meditation facilitator, Arlene brings a unique blend of experience and insight to help women—and really, anyone—lead with compassion, self-confidence, and clarity.In this conversation, Arlene and I dive deep into what it takes to overcome the overwhelm, quiet that inner critic, and shift our mindset with practices like gratitude and self-compassion. She's got practical strategies for setting priorities, celebrating your small wins, and even finding healing in something as simple as connecting with nature.So, if you've ever felt like the weight of the world is on your shoulders or struggled to give yourself grace when you stumble, this episode is for you. Tune in, and let's explore how we can each take one step closer to a life filled with balance, growth, and fulfillment. TakeawaysGratitude can significantly enhance our happiness.Setting priorities is crucial for managing overwhelm.The inner critic often stems from childhood experiences.Self-compassion is essential for personal growth.Nature can provide a healing escape from daily stress.Celebrating small wins helps combat feelings of failure.We must train ourselves to listen to our inner dialogue.Mistakes are opportunities for learning and growth.Finding hope in nature can restore balance.Practicing gratitude can shift our focus to positivity.Learn more about and connect with Arlene Cohen Miller online by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Bridging Divides Through The Universal Language of MusicToday, we're diving into a topic that resonates deeply with our mission—using the universal language of music to bridge divides and foster understanding. Joining me is the incredible Jason Caplan, a pioneer in this space and someone whose work truly inspires. Jason is the Founder and President of The Bridge Institute, where he's championing a groundbreaking approach to communication through the Universal Language Room. Since 2004, Jason has devoted his life to creating and teaching improvisational music as a tool for transcending barriers and fostering dialogue across cultures, religions, and perspectives.Through the Bridge Institute, Jason's concepts are being taught worldwide, from Uganda and Indonesia to Israel and Rajasthan. His work doesn't stop there—Jason also leads Naqshon's Leap, a multi-faith music group based in Memphis, Tennessee. Their music speaks to unity and shared humanity, as heard in their powerful single, Unity/One God, One Human Family, which even features jazz legend David Liebman.On top of all this, Jason serves on the board of advisors at the ProHuman Foundation, an organization I'm proud to be connected with. Together, they're exploring ways to integrate music into education and social initiatives, promoting empathy, understanding, and community building.TakeawaysMusic can serve as a universal language that transcends barriers.The Universal Language Room aims to teach music as a real language.Engaging in music can help people forget their differences.Music creates a space for constructive dialogue rather than conflict.The process of musical permutations can be a fun and engaging way to learn.Collaboration with organizations like the Pro Human Foundation enhances outreach.Music can be a powerful tool for social change and community buSo MetaInspiring stories of resilience: overcoming struggles, finding purpose, transforming livesListen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifyWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!What Unites Us Is Found Outside The FrameToday, I'm joined by another remarkable guest and fellow member of the ProHuman Foundation board of advisors, filmmaker and journalist Rob Feld. Rob is a storyteller with an incredible ability to tackle some of today's most divisive topics with insight, empathy, and—believe it or not—humor. His latest documentary, *Jesters & Fools*, is a must-watch. It brings together comedians like Colin Quinn, Mo Amer, Jim Norton, and others while interweaving the social science of Duke professor Chris Bail to reveal an uplifting truth: America isn't as polarized as the media might have you believe. You can find it at jestersandfools.com, and I promise, it's worth your time.  Rob's career spans an impressive range. From directing short films that have premiered at Tribeca and TIFF Kids to writing for outlets like *DGA Quarterly* and *American Cinematographer*, and even teaching screenwriting and directing at NYU—he's done it all. Beyond the screen and the page, Rob serves on the Board of Advisors for the ProHuman Foundation, an organization committed to promoting our shared humanity amidst divisive narratives.  In this conversation, we're diving deep into polarization, how comedians can help bridge societal divides, and why emotional intelligence and critical thinking are more important than ever. Rob and I explore the impact of social media's distorted realities and the urgent need for real-life connections and conversations.  If you're ready for another thought-provoking discussion that blends humor, wisdom, and a vision for a better tomorrow, stick around. This is yet another great DTH conversation you won't want to miss!"TakeawaysWe are not as divided as some believe.Comedians can help bridge societal divides.Online realities often distort our perceptions.ESo MetaInspiring stories of resilience: overcoming struggles, finding purpose, transforming livesListen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifyWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!The Importance of Intrapersonal Empowerment in Bettering Civil DiscourseToday, I'm excited to introduce Erec Smith, another fellow member of the board of advisors at the ProHuman Foundation and a powerful voice for true empowerment and personal accountability, especially in today's social climate. Erec is a research fellow at the Cato Institute and a former Associate Professor of Rhetoric at York College of Pennsylvania. His work explores how rhetoric influences our perspectives on anti-racism, activism, and the foundations of a free, pluralistic, and civil society.But Erec's reach goes beyond the classroom. He's a co-founder of Free Black Thought, a nonprofit that's challenging the status quo by celebrating viewpoint diversity within Black communities. Through their Journal of Free Black Thought, they share everything from poetry to scholarly work—bringing out the voices of artists, writers, academics, and public intellectuals often overlooked by mainstream media.In today's conversation, Erec and I dig into some critical ideas about personal empowerment and the dangers of a victim narrative. One of Erec's key messages is the importance of choosing to be a “victor” in our own lives, rather than seeing ourselves as victims. He's observed that the victim narrative, while powerful, often breeds resentment rather than resilience, which ultimately disempowers us.We also explore some big questions: What does real equity look like, and can some equity efforts inadvertently lead to more division? Erec shares how outreach programs, when done right, prepare young people to navigate and thrive in college—not just to check boxes but to actually feel empowered.Erec's insights on intrapersonal empowerment really hit home. He believes that the path to civil discourse—and to bridging divides—is through strengthening the individual first. It's only when we have strong, accountable individuals that we can come together with others to reach common goals and view no group as a monolith. At the heart of Erec's message is this: through personal accountability and a commitment to working together, we can overcome almost anything.Learn more about and connect with Erec Smith by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DeWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Self-Love & Breaking A Cycle Of Self-SabotageToday's guest, Judith Costa, brings a unique and powerful approach to something so vital in our lives: love. But it's not just about love in the romantic sense—it's about unconditional love, self-love, and taking responsibility for the relationships we have with others and, most importantly, ourselves.Judith is an Unconditional Love Coach, Happiness Trainer, and speaker who has spent years helping people remove those inner blocks that keep them from truly embracing who they are. With a master's degree in Analytical Psychology and Psychotherapy, she's also a certified teacher of the Akashic Records and a Reiki Master. Her work spans a variety of areas, including self-discovery, past life regression, and even astrology, all geared toward helping people achieve happiness, abundance, and genuine connection.In our conversation, Judith and I dive into what it really means to love yourself—how it's a state of being, a decision we make to live authentically and fully. We talk about how often we hand over our happiness to others, how self-sabotage keeps us stuck, and why forgiving ourselves is essential to moving forward. Judith's approach isn't just about feeling good; it's about understanding that love is always within our reach. She teaches that when we take ownership of our happiness, embrace our mistakes as learning opportunities, and become our own best friends, we can transform our lives.TakeawaysUnconditional love is a decision, not just a feeling.Self-love is essential for happiness and success.We often put our happiness in the hands of others.Forgiveness is crucial for personal freedom.Relationships reflect our relationship with ourselves.Self-sabotage often stems from a lack of self-love.Authenticity is key to healthy relationships.Every mistake is an opportunity for learning.Love is always available and never abandons us.Be your own best friend to transform your life.Learn more about and connect with Judith Costa by getting the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Taking Back Your Health: Patient Advocacy in a Corporate Healthcare WorldToday, I have another truly impactful guest joining me. Dr. Nikki Johnson is not only a physician with years of experience in pediatric critical care, but she's also become a fierce advocate for patients navigating the modern healthcare system.Dr. Nikki has seen firsthand how the doctor-patient relationship is often overshadowed by corporate healthcare interests and insurance demands. We're diving deep today into some of the major challenges she's witnessed – like how insurance companies and government policies are increasingly influencing which treatments patients receive. Dr. Nikki argues that these outside forces are eroding the core of patient care, where the focus should be on that personal bond between doctor and patient.As the Interim Director of FAIR In Medicine, she's leading efforts to educate and empower patients so they can take back control of their healthcare choices. We'll be talking about her involvement with grassroots organizations like Free2Care and what it means for physicians and patients to unite against a system that can feel impersonal and, at times, restrictive. Through her work, Dr. Nikki is helping more people understand their rights and advocate for the quality, transparency, and choice that everyone deserves in their healthcare.So, whether you've felt frustrated by healthcare decisions being made without you or just want to know more about reclaiming your power in medical care, stick around. This conversation with Dr. Nikki Johnson will leave you inspired and informed on what's possible when we demand better from the system!TakeawaysDr. Nikki Johnson emphasizes the importance of the doctor-patient relationship.Healthcare decisions are increasingly influenced by external forces, disrupting patient care.Insurance companies often dictate treatment options, complicating patient advocacy.The healthcare system's issues are often rooted in government policies and corporate interests.Physicians face challenges in speaking out against the system due to fear of repercussions.Advocacy for patients requires knowledge and understanding of the healthcare landscape.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Relationships Are The Foundation For Solving Our Common Problems“Renewing our democracy has to start with rebuilding our relationships, and our trust, and our ability to lower the toxicity of our national conversation and our local conversations”Friends, today I'm thrilled to bring you a conversation with someone who has spent decades working to bridge divides and bring people together—David Eisner. David's career has spanned the worlds of business, government, and nonprofit leadership. He's served as the CEO of the Corporation for National and Community Service under President George W. Bush, led the National Constitution Center, and formerly headed the Convergence Center for Policy Resolution. Throughout his career, David has been deeply committed to fostering dialogue and collaboration to tackle some of our nation's most pressing challenges.In our conversation today, David shares his journey into public service and why he believes that community engagement is essential in solving societal issues. We'll also explore the role technology plays in polarization—it can connect us, but it can just as easily divide us—and discuss the erosion of trust in institutions as a result. David emphasizes the need for citizens to come together, build relationships, and work toward solutions, rather than relying on government alone.We also touch on the unique role of faith leaders, who often find themselves navigating political divides, and the importance of their work in fostering dialogue and understanding. Ultimately, this is a conversation about rejecting toxic polarization, rebuilding trust through open communication, and finding hope in the growing movement against divisiveness. TakeawaysCommunity engagement is essential for solving common problems.Technology can both connect and divide communities.Polarization undermines trust in institutions and each other.Building relationships is key to effective community solutions.Faith leaders play a crucial role in fostering dialogue.There is a growing movement against toxic polarization.Citizens are beginning to reject divisive narratives.Trust is built through consistent values and open communication.Hope exists for a renewed focus on collaboration and understanding.Learn more about and connect with David Eisner by checking out the full show notes for this episode.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Forgiveness Is A Personal Journey Not Dependent On OthersPart of the ProHuman Foundation Board of Advisors Series...learn more about the Prohuman Foundation at ProHumanFoundation.orgToday I'm honored to sit down with a fellow member of the ProHuman Foundation's board of advisors, Dr. Fred Luskin. It's a privilege to be in conversation with someone whose work in the field of forgiveness and emotional well-being has touched so many lives, and whose insights are invaluable for anyone looking to cultivate deeper happiness and emotional resilience.Dr. Luskin has dedicated his career to the science of forgiveness, serving as the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects and authoring bestsellers like *Forgive for Good* and *Forgive for Love.* In our conversation, we'll explore how forgiveness and gratitude—cornerstones of Dr. Luskin's research—are not just abstract ideals but teachable, actionable skills that can transform your life. From breaking free of the victim mentality to fostering personal responsibility and emotional health, Dr. Luskin's work shows us that we have the power to reshape our emotional reality.In this episode, we'll dig into the science behind forgiveness, the dangers of labeling others, and why humility and vulnerability are essential for genuine healing. Whether you're dealing with personal struggles or just striving for a greater sense of well-being, Dr. Luskin's approach offers practical steps to move forward.So, join me as we dive into this transformative conversation with Dr. Fred Luskin, and discover how you can take control of your emotional well-being through the power of forgiveness and gratitude.TakeawaysForgiveness is essential for emotional well-being.Gratitude is the genesis of happiness.People often give power to their past grievances.Forgiveness can be measured scientifically.Victim mentality harms mental and physical health.Narcissism is often overused as a label.Self-centeredness is not the same as narcissism.Acknowledging vulnerability is crucial for healing.Forgiveness is a personal journey, not dependent on others.Humility is necessary for constructive dialogue. What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

How Personal Accountability Leads to Power, Freedom and JoyToday, I'm sitting down with Robert J. Hunt, also known as 'The Accountability Guy.' Robert is a business owner, executive coach, and co-author of the book Nobody Cares... until You Do. He's been running CEO groups in the Dallas/Fort Worth area since 2013, and let me tell you, this guy knows a thing or two about what it takes to lead with intention and accountability.Look, we know the word 'accountability' can stir up all kinds of reactions, right? But Robert's got a refreshing take on it that's all about personal power, freedom, and joy. He's not talking about someone else holding your hand and checking off your to-do list—no, it's about you holding yourself accountable. That's where real growth happens. We'll be diving deep into how taking ownership of your life, your choices, and yes, even your mistakes, can actually unlock new levels of freedom and happiness.Robert's philosophy really resonates with me because it's about transparency and vulnerability. It's about being honest with yourself and owning your actions—something that's easier said than done, especially in a world where it's so tempting to fall into a victim mentality. But Robert believes, and I wholeheartedly agree, that shedding that mentality is the first step toward real personal growth.TakeawaysAccountability is about holding oneself accountable and taking ownership of one's actions.True accountability requires vulnerability and transparency.Victim mentality hinders personal growth and happiness.Accountability leads to power, freedom, and joy.Learn more about and connect with Robert J. Hunt by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Anger and Hate Are Rooted in Fear, The Cure is Found In LOVE...Friends, I'm prepping and traveling this week for another speaking engagement, so I'm handing the mic over to my great friend and guest host, Julian Adorney. You may remember Julian from previous guest appearances on the DTH podcast. He is a writer, speaker and founder of the Heal the West, substack movement. Julian recently sat down for an insightful conversation with conflict resolution expert, Jamie Winship. Jamie has spent decades working in some of the most conflicted areas of the world, helping people and organizations resolve disputes in ways that go far beyond surface-level fixes. His approach focuses on understanding true identity, addressing fear and anger, and, most importantly, using love as a transformative force. In this conversation, Jamie and Julian explore what it means to engage in conflict with vulnerability and honesty, and why demonstrating love—even to those we perceive as our enemies—can lead to real change. They dive deep into how fear and anger are often secondary emotions, rooted in deeper issues, and how addressing those fears is the first step toward reconciliation. Julian did an incredible job guiding this conversation, and I think you'll find a lot of value in what Jamie has to say, whether you're navigating personal conflict or grappling with the larger divides in society today. Julian, thank you for stepping in and hosting this one. I know it's going to resonate with our DTH audience."TakeawaysConflict resolution begins with understanding true identity.Fear and anger are secondary emotions rooted in deeper issues.Love is the only thing that can take away fear.Humans respond to love and kindness, even from their enemies.Vulnerability is essential for honest communication.Demonstrating love can lead to transformative change.People often don't know how to articulate their fears.The first step in conflict resolution is addressing fear.Winning hearts is more effective than winning arguments.Everyone has the capacity to love and resolve conflicts. Learn more about and connect with Jamie Winship by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Leading Inclusion By Way of Personal AccountabilityFriends, today I'm very excited to bring you a conversation that goes way beyond the same old talk about DEI – this isn't just another conversation about diversity for diversity's sake. My guest today, Delphia Howze, is someone who brings a fresh, real perspective on what it truly means to create inclusive environments, and as you're about to hear, much of it starts with personal accountability.Delphia is the CEO and Founder of D. Howze Solutions and serves as the Chief Inclusion Officer at a national laboratory. She's been a driving force in the Diversity & Inclusion space for over two decades, with experience across industries – from banking to retail, to energy. Her approach is grounded in real-world results, helping organizations not just tick the diversity box, but truly harnessing the power of human capital to drive meaningful change.We're diving into her new book, Including You: Leading Inclusion from Where You Are, where Delphia takes a different route. She challenges each of us to look inward – to reflect on our own biases and understand how they affect the way we interact with others. It's about more than just policies or training sessions. It's about stepping up, having the hard conversations, and using something called ‘appreciative inquiry' to really bridge divides and foster genuine understanding.We'll talk about why giving people the space to be themselves is the real key, instead of forcing our own expectations on them. And the best part? It's not about pointing fingers – it's about how we can all do better, one step at a time, and how that personal growth creates positive ripples around us.If you're ready for an honest, no-fluff conversation on what it actually takes to create inclusive spaces in your life and work, then stick around. This one's going to shift your perspective. TakeawaysPersonal accountability is key in creating inclusive environments.Self-reflection helps us understand our biases and how they impact our interactions with others.Engaging in dialogue and appreciative inquiry can bridge divides and foster understanding.Giving people the space to be themselves and not imposing our expectations on them is crucial for inclusion.Striving to become better and understanding others leads to positive change in ourselves and our surroundings.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Step Out, Step Forward, On a Better Path ForwardJoining me today is Rich Harwood, a man whose work and life experience have shaped the way communities across the country—and the world—solve problems and come together. Rich is the founder of The Harwood Institute for Public Innovation, and for more than 30 years, he's been leading the charge to help communities rebuild trust, solve shared problems, and deepen people's civic faith. But Rich's journey begins with something deeply personal: growing up with a chronic illness and feeling like he wasn't seen or heard.Rich opens up about those early struggles and how they shaped his understanding of hope. He shares how setbacks in life—whether personal or community-wide—can either break us or build us into something stronger. For Rich, those challenges helped him see the importance of hope as a tool for resilience, something we all need, especially in times of uncertainty and division.But this episode is about so much more than hope. Rich and I dive into the critical issue of civic engagement and the real, lasting impact of community-led change. We talk about the challenges of building trust, especially when it feels like our society is pulling apart. Rich emphasizes that the only way forward is through shared aspirations—finding that common ground where we can all come together and take collective action.TakeawaysSetbacks can shape us and teach us the importance of hope.Civic engagement and community-led change are crucial for addressing societal challenges.Conversations play a vital role in bridging divides and dispelling assumptions.The health of civic culture is a significant predictor of a community's progress. Rebuilding civic culture is essential for communities to thrive and effectively solve shared problems.Turning outward and understanding what matters to people is crucial in creating positive change.Politicians need to engage in a fundamentally different way and provide an environment for communities to solve their shared problems.Small actions can have a ripple effect and lead to transformational systemic change.Creating a culture of shared responsibility is necessary for a functioning community.Learn more about and connect with Rich Harwood by checking out the full show notes at www.DerateTheHate.comWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Confronting Racism by Dismantling the Illusion of RaceOur returning guest today is Dr. Sheena Mason, a powerhouse in the world of anti-racism and the author of the brand-new book, *The Raceless Anti-Racist*. If you've ever questioned the role of race in society or wondered how we can dismantle the structures that perpetuate racism, this conversation is going to challenge and inspire you. Dr. Mason is an assistant professor of English at SUNY Oneonta and holds a PhD from Howard University, specializing in Africana and American literature and philosophy of race. But what really sets her apart is her innovative approach to understanding race—or, more accurately, the illusion of it. In her new book, she takes concepts from her more academic work, *Theory of Racelessness*, that  you may remember us discussing back in DTH episode 127, and makes them accessible to a broader audience.We're going to dive into the heart of that theory. Dr. Mason and I will explore how the internalization of oppression affects us all, the very real material impacts of racism, and how tools like the 'Togetherness Wayfinder' and 'Raceless Translator' can bring people together. We'll also tackle some tough questions: What role do media, government, and capitalism play in maintaining racial divisions? And how do we dismantle the illusion of race to truly confront racism head-on?TakeawaysDr. Sheena Mason's new book, 'The Raceless Anti-Racist,' is geared towards a wider audience and introduces the concept of the Togetherness Wayfinder.Recognizing the internalization of oppression and the material impacts of racism is crucial in dismantling racism.The Togetherness Wayfinder aims to bring people together and find common humanity in the face of contentious issues. Racialization as white does not equate to experiencing anti-white racism, but rather the effects of anti-black racism.The media, government, and capitalism play a role in perpetuating divisions and maintaining hierarchies.The Raceless Translator is a tool that helps interpret race in terms of culture, ethnicity, social class, and the causes and effects of racism.Engaging in conversations and exposing oneself to different perspectives is crucial for bridging divides and promoting understanding.Learn more about and connect with Dr. Sheena Mason by checking out the full show notes at www.DerateTheHate.comWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

From Conflict to Convergence - a Book DiscussionFriends, one of the greatest lessons I've learned in my journey is that when we come together with honesty, integrity and good will, we can find solutions that are better than what any one person could have come up with on their own. And if there's anyone who embodies that belief, it's today's guests, Rob Fersh and Mariah Levison of Convergence!Now, let me tell you, these two are champions of bridging divides and resolving conflicts in ways that don't just settle for middle ground, but actually aim for higher ground—solutions that honor everyone's needs and values. Rob Fersh, the founder and senior advisor of Convergence, has been in the trenches of policy resolution for decades, working on everything from hunger in America to U.S.-Muslim relations. His leadership in organizations like the Food Research and Action Center and Search for Common Ground has literally shaped the way we tackle big issues in this country.And then we've got Mariah Levison, the current CEO and President of Convergence. Mariah's got this incredible knack for building trust and relationships across the most contentious divides. From running the Minnesota State Office of Collaboration and Dispute Resolution to teaching the next generation of mediators, she's all about conflict resolution and creating solutions that really stick.Together, Rob and Mariah co-authored a must-read book, *From Conflict to Convergence: Coming Together to Solve Tough Problems*. And today, they're here to talk about how we can all get better at listening, understanding each other's values, and finding those higher ground solutions—especially in a time when our society seems more divided than ever.But here's the kicker—they're not just talking to the leaders or the policymakers; they're even emphasizing the importance of engaging young people in this process. Because, let's face it, the future belongs to them, and it's crucial that they learn how to navigate these differences to build a more functional and civil society.Learn more about and connect with Rob Fersh, Mariah Levison and Convergence by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Boundaries, Codependency and How To Regain Your PowerDo you ever find yourself saying 'yes' when every fiber of your being is screaming 'no'? Struggling to set boundaries, whether in your personal life or at work? Well, you're in the right place because today, we're talking all about boundaries, codependency, and how to reclaim your power.Joining me for this DTH episode is my new friend, Barb Nangle. Barb is not just any coach—she's a boundaries coach, speaker, and author who has been through the trenches herself. In 2015, at the age of 52, after decades of therapy and self-help, Barb found her true calling in 12-step recovery programs like Al-Anon and Adult Children of Alcoholics. Since then, she's transformed not only her life but the lives of countless others through her unique BUILD framework.Today, Barb's going to share her journey from codependency to empowerment, and trust me, you don't want to miss a word. We're talking about reparenting, trauma, the fine line between kindness and being nice, and how understanding our motives can help us live healthier, happier lives. And, of course, we'll explore how setting boundaries can lead to more meaningful conversations—even with people who see the world differently.TakeawaysCodependency is a focus on others' needs and a lack of attention to one's own needs.Boundaries are crucial in all areas of life and can help individuals identify and address codependent behaviors.Recovery programs like Al-Anon and ACA provide tools and support for healing from codependency and trauma.Reparenting involves giving oneself the love and care that was lacking in childhood.Codependency and narcissism often go hand in hand, and it's important to recognize and address these patterns in relationships. Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and practicing self-care.Being kind to oneself is essential for being kind to others.Understanding our motives can help us determine if our behavior is healthy and helpful.Filling our own cup first and taking care of ourselves allows us to better help others.Using boundary skills can facilitate meaningful conversations with people who have different perspectives.Learn more about and connect with Barb Nangle by checking out the full show notes at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Bridging the Generational Gap Between Parents and Pre-TeensFriends, this week we're following a common theme but approaching it from a bit of a different angle. The theme is bridging gaps through communication but this time we're discussing the generational gap that many parents and their children struggle with.Today, I'm joined by a true expert in the field of parent-teen communication—Marcus Higgs. Marcus is a communication coach with a mission to help parents of pre-teens bridge the ever-widening generational gap. He's someone who believes in the power of showing up, doing the hard work, and connecting with your child before it's too late. With a rich multicultural background—born to a Filipino mother and a Bahamian father—Marcus has spent over 15 years working across continents, from East Asia to South America. He's here to share his incredible insights on how to navigate the challenges of the tween years, and let me tell you, he brings a wealth of knowledge on how to communicate effectively across both generational and cultural divides.In today's conversation, we're going to dig deep into what it takes to maintain those all-important connections with your pre-teen. We'll explore how self-identity, virtues, and values can be the building blocks of a strong relationship. We'll also talk about the role of social media and how you can guide your teen through its murky waters of that ugly internet ecosystem.Marcus is going to break down some powerful frameworks for communication that will help you accept, build upon, and challenge perspectives with curiosity. We'll discuss the importance of emotional intelligence, creating space for others to express themselves, and how expectations and unconscious biases can shape our interactions.So get ready to be inspired, challenged, and maybe even a little uncomfortable—because that's where the magic happens. Whether you're a parent, a mentor, or just someone striving to connect better with those around you, this episode is packed with insights you won't want to miss.Learn more about and connect with Marcus Higgs by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Exploring the Parallels Between Classical Music and Effective CommunicationFriends, today, we're stepping into the world of classical music—a world filled with passion, dedication, and the pursuit of perfection. But it's also a world that can be riddled with intense pressure and toxic environments that can leave even the most talented musicians feeling inadequate. I'm thrilled to have with me a truly inspiring guest, Mary Beth Bryant, a certified Suzuki Method cello instructor who has dedicated her life to teaching and nurturing the next generation of musicians. Mary Beth is no stranger to the challenges that come with the territory. With extensive training under the internationally acclaimed cello pedagogue Irene Sharp in San Francisco, she's helped countless students achieve their dreams, with many of them earning full scholarships and admission into prestigious conservatories.But what really sets Mary Beth apart is her passion for communication—both musically and professionally. She believes that the most important quality in a musician isn't just technical skill, but the ability to communicate effectively. And that's what we're diving into today.In this episode, Mary Beth opens up about the darker side of classical music—stories of students who have faced degrading and demoralizing comments from their teachers, leading to feelings of inadequacy and, in some cases, even addiction. It's a tough reality, but Mary Beth brings hope and actionable advice to the table. We're going to talk about why it's crucial to teach children that mistakes are okay—that they don't define who they are as musicians or as people. We'll also explore the fascinating parallels between music and communication. Mary Beth shares how active listening, curiosity, and emotional regulation are not just essential skills in life, but also key to thriving in music. And, of course, we'll be wrapping up with some practical tips for parents and teachers on how to create a safe, supportive environment that fosters growth and well-being for young musicians.So, if you're ready to dive into an eye-opening conversation that's packed with wisdom, heart, and a whole lot of actionable insights, stick around! You're not going to want to miss this one. Learn more about and connect with Mary Beth Bryant by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Transforming Lives By Recognizing Our Unique Value, Purpose and PowerImagine, if you will my friends, a world where our first identity is our value, truly recognizing our own value – where understanding our unique purpose and power can transform not only our lives but also the lives of those around us. That's the vision of my friend Regi Wilson, a true 21st-century Renaissance man. Now you may remember Regi from DTH episode 148 if you've been listening awhile.  Regi's incredible journey spans the music industry, where he's worked alongside legends like Chaka Khan, Mary J. Blige, and the one and only Prince Rogers Nelson, better known as just “Prince”. But his mission goes beyond music. Regi is the driving force behind the concept of value identity and the Human Value Initiative at theequaluniverse.com.Today, Regi returns to the show to share updates on his groundbreaking work in Hawaii, including an online education tool and a virtual museum dedicated to value identity. He'll explain how embracing our value identity creates safety and connection, moving us away from divisive identity politics and towards a focus on our common humanity. We'll explore the lessons learned from pain, the power of individual observation, and the boundless potential that lies within each of us.TakeawaysValue identity is about creating safety in our relationship with ourselves and becoming safe spaces for others.Our first identity is that we are all valuable, and understanding our unique purpose and power allows us to empower ourselves and others.Observing and learning from every situation and person helps us grow and find the benefits in discomfort and pain.We should focus on our common humanity and the benefits we bring to each other, rather than getting caught up in identity politics.Nature wastes nothing, and we should strive to make the most of our time, minds, bodies, and love.Learn more about and connect with Regi Wilson online by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Academic Freedom vs. Academic Censorship In The Wake of Covid-19Today we are diving deep into a topic that's more relevant than ever – academic freedom and academic censorship, especially in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic.Joining me is my brilliant friend Dr. George F. Tidmarsh. In this week's episode, we're exploring the tension between elite academic ideas and the real-world experiences of our friends in the blue-collar American heartland. We're breaking down the walls of polarization and shining a light on the urgent need for reforms in how funding is distributed in academia. It's all about ensuring freedom, preventing censorship, and fostering an environment where open and free scientific discourse can thrive!We'll talk about the clash that occurred during the pandemic, where debate was stifled and trust in our institutions was shaken. George and I discussed how we can rebuild that trust through truth, civil discourse, and an unwavering commitment to progress. In part inspired by the work I've been doing with Braver Angels, Dr. Francis Collins and Dr. Jay Bhattacharya, we touch briefly on an event that will be taking place at Stanford University in the fall, and the healing that it is sure to inspire.If you're passionate about the truth, eager for reform, and ready to join a conversation that's crucial for the future of our society, this episode is for you! So, buckle up and get ready for another episode you won't want to miss! TakeawaysAcademic freedom and academic censorship are important topics to explore, especially in the context of the COVID-19 pandemic.The clash between elite academic ideas and the real-world experiences of blue-collar workers highlights the need for open and robust debate.Reform is needed in the way funding is distributed in academia to ensure academic freedom and prevent censorship.Trust and truth are essential in rebuilding public trust in institutions, and civil discourse is crucial in facilitating progress and finding solutions.Learn more about Dr. George F. Tidmarsh by checking out the full show notes for the episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Are You JUST Showing Up or Are You TRULY Showing Up? Friends, one of the many great pleasures of doing this podcast is getting to dive deep with my guests into the stories and ideas that inspire and challenge us! Today, we've got an incredible conversation lined up with someone who's all about the art of truly showing up in life. My guest, Marcy Axelrod, isn't just talking about showing up in the everyday sense. She's breaking down the difference between simply going through the motions and being genuinely present, engaged, and deeply connected with the people and experiences around us. Are you living life on autopilot, sleepwalking through your days? Marcy's got some eye-opening insights that will have you rethinking how you interact with the world. In her book, 'How We Choose to Show Up,' Marcy provides a practical blueprint for living a more meaningful and connected life. We're talking about the importance of emotions and logic in our decision-making processes, and she's sharing tools for better interactions, especially with those we disagree with. Imagine stepping back, taking a deep breath, and seeing the big picture. It's all about being grounded, ready, and intent on making a positive impact.TakeawaysJust showing up is going through the motions and interacting with others in the same way we always have. Truly showing up is being present, engaged, and deeply connected with the people and experiences around us.Many people spend most of their time just showing up, going through life on autopilot and not fully engaging with the world.Finding meaning and fulfillment in life requires being present, engaged, and connected with others. It involves being aware of our emotions and using both logic and emotions to make decisions.Tools for better interaction with others include stepping back, breathing, and zooming out to see the big picture. It also involves being open to listening and absorbing the perspectives of others, even if we disagree with them.Being grounded in ourselves, ready for the situations we encounter, and connected with the intent to serve society are the skills needed to truly show up in life.Learn more about and connect with Marcy Axelrod by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Are The Walls You've Built Your Own Barriers To Happiness?Friends, you hear me say it every week; It's not what happens to us, but how we react to it that makes the difference. I am joined today by another remarkable guest that will share his story of resilience, transformation and personal growth. Through his personal story, and a bit of my own, we'll explore how we often build walls that become barriers to our own success and life fulfillment, and more importantly, how to go about tearing them down.Joining me today is Tony Schmaltz, a man who has faced adversity head-on and emerged stronger, wiser, and more determined than ever. Tony's journey is awe-inspiring. Through marriage he became an instant father, faced financial hardships with his wife, struggled with unhealthy familial boundaries and yet, through it all, he discovered the power of mindset and attitude in achieving success and happiness.Tony's book, 'Wake the Bleep Up,' is a game-changer. It's all about uncluttering the mind, breaking free from bad habits, and finding true fulfillment. Tony's insights on vulnerability, compassion, and the importance of positive relationships are lessons we can all learn from.In this week's episode, Tony shares how we can all overcome life's challenges, adopt a positive mindset, and make lasting changes in our lives. Get ready to be inspired, uplifted, and motivated to take charge of your own journey!TakeawaysAdversity is a part of life, and everyone faces challenges. It's how we overcome them that defines us.Mindset and attitude play a crucial role in achieving success and happiness. By adopting a positive mindset and being kind to others, we can attract positive outcomes.Uncluttering the mind and changing bad habits are essential steps in personal growth. Small changes can lead to significant improvements over time.Building positive relationships requires vulnerability and compassion. Seeing the humanity in others and treating them with respect can lead to better understanding and resolution of conflicts.Making a choice, committing to it, and practicing consistently are the keys to making lasting changes in our lives and the world.Learn more about and connect with Tony Schmaltz by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Knowledge Has Its Limitations, But With Conversation the Possibilities Are EndlessThis week, we've got another incredibly insightful and thought-provoking discussion lined up for you. Joining me is Joel Bouchard, the brilliant mind behind the "From Nowhere to Nothing" podcast.Joel and I dive deep into the fascinating world of philosophy and the power of curiosity in bridging the gaps between different perspectives. In a time where our society feels more polarized than ever, we explore how respectful and curious conversations can lead to greater understanding and connection.We'll also touch on the complexities and limitations of knowledge, and how recognizing our own biases can open doors to new insights. Plus, we'll discuss the profound impact of technology on our perceptions and the importance of getting involved in our local communities to truly be the change we want to see in the world.TakeawaysPhilosophy is a topic that everyone can engage in and discuss, as it encompasses all aspects of life.Engaging in respectful and curious conversations with people who have different perspectives can lead to a better understanding of others.Knowledge is complex and limited, and it is important to recognize our own biases and the limitations of our understanding.Getting involved in local communities and being the change we want to see in the world can have a positive impact on society.Learn more about and connect with Joel Bouchard online by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

A Unique Way To Recognize and Make Our Emotions Work For UsToday we're diving deep into the flavorful world of emotions with our incredible guest, Kim Korte. If you've ever wondered how to navigate your reactions and interactions with others more effectively, you're in for a treat!Kim and I will be exploring the fascinating idea that our emotions are like flavors – think yucky, yummy, savory, and sweet. By understanding and distinguishing these emotional flavors, we can gain more control over our responses and make our interactions smoother and more meaningful.We'll also challenge some preconceived notions and talk about the importance of keeping an open mind. Personal growth is all about embracing new experiences and perspectives, and Kim's insights from her book, 'Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Our Emotions,' are sure to inspire you.So, get ready to discover the power of emotional awareness and learn how recognizing and managing your emotions can lead to positive change and better relationships. Stay tuned, because this conversation is packed with insights that you won't want to miss!"TakeawaysEmotional awareness is crucial for understanding and managing our reactions and interactions with others.Our emotions are like flavors, and by distinguishing and understanding them, we can have more control over our responses.Challenging preconceived notions and being open to new experiences and perspectives is essential for personal growth.Recognizing and managing our emotions can lead to positive change and better relationships.Learn more about and connect with Kim Korte by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com. What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Are We Being Manipulated To Hate Each Other?This week, Wilk is joined for another powerful conversation with Monica Harris, the executive director of the Foundation Against Intolerance and Racism, better known as FAIR. Monica dives deep into the core of what it means to focus on our common humanity and resist the forces that seek to divide us. She makes a compelling case that discrimination in any form is wrong and that true equality is something we must all strive for.Monica doesn't shy away from the tough issues, pointing out that the often-overlooked class divide could be the key to uniting all Americans. She shares personal stories and insights from her connections with working-class white people, emphasizing the critical role of communication and understanding.Throughout this incredible conversation, Wilk and Monica tackle some heavy topics: the distraction of race, the unsustainable debt crisis in the US, and the importance of a colorblind society —not in saying that we should ignore our differences, but in treating everyone equally and with respect. Monica passionately argues for seeing and understanding others on a deeper level, beyond physical and immutable characteristics, and truly engaging with their unique experiences and challenges.So, get ready to be inspired as Monica and I explore how focusing on our common challenges and experiences can bridge divides and promote unity. TakeawaysDiscrimination in any form, for any reason, against anyone is wrong.Focusing on our common humanity is essential for unity and progress.The class divide is a significant issue that needs attention and can unite people.Communication and understanding are key to breaking down barriers and overcoming division. The conversation highlights the distraction of race and identity politics from more pressing issues such as unsustainable debt and economic challenges.Being colorblind means treating people equally regardless of their race or identity, while recognizing and respecting their unique experiences and challenges.Truly seeing and understanding others requires looking beyond physical characteristics and engaging with them on a deeper level.Focusing on common challenges and experiences can help bridge divides and promote unity among people.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

A Country in need of Healing, May Just Need TherapyWelcome to another episode of the Derate The Hate podcast with your host, Wilk Wilkinson. Today, Wilk is joined by Phyllis E. Leavitt to delve into her upcoming book, "America in Therapy: A New Approach to Hope and Healing for a Nation In Crisis". In this compelling discussion, Leavitt explores innovative ways to bring hope and healing to a nation grappling with increasing divisiveness and violence. She underscores the urgent need to reverse these troubling trends by applying psychological and psychotherapeutic principles to improve the collective mental health of the country.Phyllis highlights the transformative power of personal responsibility, managing destructive impulses, and fostering empathy and understanding towards others. She passionately argues for the importance of investing in families and dedicating resources to their well-being as foundational steps towards societal healing.Wilk draws connections to his own work with the Braver Angels organization, which aims to bridge societal divides through grassroots efforts. This episode is packed with key insights on how to address the rising tensions in America, promote peace, and rebuild connections within our communities. Tune in to learn how psychology can pave the way for a healthier, more unified society.TakeawaysThe rise of divisiveness and violence in society is a sign that America is in crisis and needs a new approach to hope and healing.The principles of psychology and psychotherapy can be applied to address the collective mental health of the nation.Taking responsibility for oneself and treating others with empathy and understanding are key to building peace and re-connection.Investing in families and allocating resources to support their well-being is crucial for healing and creating a better society.Learn more about and connect with Phyllis E. Leavitt by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

Where Confidence & Arrogance Differ, & Why Being Kind Always MattersToday, Wilk is joined by Alan Lazaros, who shares his remarkable journey of overcoming adversity and trauma to achieve true success and fulfillment. Alan emphasizes the crucial distinction between confidence and arrogance, underscoring that genuine confidence comes from self-reflection and healing past wounds, not from professional achievements alone.Alan's story highlights the importance of balancing personal development with professional success, illustrating that inner fulfillment is essential for overall well-being. He explores themes of empathy, compassion, and understanding, urging listeners to approach others with kindness and recognize that everyone is fighting their own battles. The conversation also delves into issues like bullying, self-belief, and the need for therapy and mindset work to build self-worth. Alan's insights serve as a powerful reminder that fulfilled individuals do not harm others and that it is our responsibility to lead by example with kindness and respect.Takeaways: Adversity can be a catalyst for personal growth and transformation.There is a crucial difference between confidence and arrogance; true confidence stems from inner fulfillment. Confronting past traumas and engaging in self-reflection are essential for personal development. Balancing professional and personal growth is crucial for long-term success and well-being.Approach others with empathy and compassion, as everyone is battling something. Bullying often stems from trauma and low self-belief; it's important to stand up to bullies without becoming one.Personal growth, therapy, and mindset work are key to building self-worth and achieving goals.Fulfilled people do not hurt others, and it is our duty to lead by example with kindness and respect.Join us for this enlightening conversation and be inspired to prioritize personal growth, empathy, and the true meaning of confidence in your life.Learn more about and connect with Alan Lazaros by checking out the full show notes for this episode at  www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!