Podcasts about elisabeth kubler ross

From October 9, 1997: Oprah talks with author and psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross about her autobiography, Wheel of Life. A pioneer in death and dying studies, Elisabeth shares the greatest lessons she's learned from those who are dying, how she is welcoming death at the end of her own life and how she's able to never give up. Also, journalist, philanthropist and author Mitch Albom discusses his New York Times best-selling book Tuesdays with Morrie. He explains how death is an opportunity to teach, and shares why he believes the love we create in our lives continues after death. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross passed away in 2004 at a nursing home in Scottsdale, Arizona.

Subscribe to the video podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTazMD/podcastsIn this episode, Dr. Taz sits down for an impactful conversation with David Kessler, a leading expert on grief and loss, who has worked closely with leaders like Elizabeth Kubler Ross and Mother Teresa. They explore the importance of community support, resilience, and the non-linear nature of grieving. Kessler approaches the experiences of death and grieving in a way that is both tangible and easy to digest, providing simple, actionable strategies for navigating life's most difficult experiences. With insights drawn from Kessler's extensive work, including his new book 'Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief,' this conversation honors the grieving process and offers tools to find comfort and purpose amid loss. The discussion also explores how to find meaning after loss—of any kind—and the physical and emotional manifestations of grief. Kessler also shares his personal journey through childhood trauma, the death of his mother at a young age, and the devastating loss of his son. About David KesslerDavid Kessler is one of the world's foremost experts on grief and loss. His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life, even afterlife's tragedies. He is the author of six books, including the new bestselling book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. He co authored two books with Elisabeth Kubler Ross, including On Grief and Grieving updated her 5 stages for grief. His first book, The Needs of The Dying received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa.Thank you to our sponsorBiOptimizers:  bioptimizers.com/holplus06:24 David Kessler's Journey Through Trauma12:14 The Five Stages of Grief29:08 Understanding Grief and Its Impact30:43 Releasing Fear and Embracing Mortality31:59 Misconceptions About Grief35:36 Physical and Emotional Manifestations of Grief40:25 Finding Meaning After Loss47:41 The Importance of Community in HealingStay ConnectedSubscribe to the audio podcast: https://holplus.transistor.fm/subscribeSubscribe to the video podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTazMD/podcastsFollow Dr. Taz on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtazmd/https://www.instagram.com/liveholplus/Join the conversation on X: https://x.com/@drtazmdTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drtazmdFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drtazmd/Connect with David Kessler:https://www.instagram.com/iamdavidkessler/https://linktr.ee/DavidKesslerHost & Production TeamHost: Dr. Taz; Produced by Rainbow Creative (Executive Producer: Matthew Jones; Lead Producer: Lauren Feighan; Editors: Jeremiah Schultz and Patrick Edwards)Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on future episodes of hol+

Grief is a deeply personal and often messy journey—one that isn't confined to the loss of a loved one. It can stem from the end of a relationship, career changes, health challenges, or even letting go of a version of ourselves. And with everything happening currently in the world, aren't we all just living with grief at this point?? In this episode, we deep dive into the 7 Stages of Grief and take a real and honest look at how they may show up in any of our lives. While grief is unique to each individual, the common “stages” most of us  find ourselves moving through draw from Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's groundbreaking work, On Death and Dying, which introduced the now-famous “Stages of Grief.” These stages, though insightful, have been both widely taught and criticized over the years- I'll spill the tea on what her critics say too! We'll talk through the expanded “7 stages of grief”—Shock, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Testing, and Acceptance—highlighting their value as a flexible framework rather than a strict GPS roadmap.Even though grief can be a challenging subject to talk about, it happens to be one of the things that connects us as human beings. A common thread of our human experience. It is one of those threads of shared humanity that connects us all. Show notes:Sources: “Stages of Grief”: Attributed to: Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK507885/https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0030222817691870https://www.health.com/stages-of-grief-7482658

David Kessler is one of the world's foremost experts on grief and loss. and his insights are invaluable. He is the author of six books, including his latest bestseller, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. David also coauthored On Grief and Grieving with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross which updated her five stages of grief to include the grieving process. David's journey into grief and trauma work began after witnessing a mass shooting as a child while his mother was dying. He has since taught professionals in various fields, including healthcare and law enforcement, about the end of life, trauma and grief. In this compelling discussion, Rosanne and David delve into the unique struggles caregivers face in their grief journey. They address the importance of allowing ourselves to process these emotions, the impact our personal grief narratives have on our lives, and the vital steps towards rediscovering our true selves amid loss. Don't miss this opportunity to learn how to navigate grief and emerge stronger. TRANSCRIPT David Kessler - Grief.com DAUGHTERHOOD

David Kessler is one of the world's foremost experts on grief and loss. and his insights are invaluable. He is the author of six books, including his latest bestseller, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. David also coauthored On Grief and Grieving with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross which updated her five stages of grief to include the grieving process.  David's journey into grief and trauma work began after witnessing a mass shooting as a child while his mother was dying. He has since taught professionals in various fields, including healthcare and law enforcement, about the end of life, trauma and grief. In this compelling discussion, Rosanne and David delve into the unique struggles caregivers face in their grief journey. They address the importance of allowing ourselves to process these emotions, the impact our personal grief narratives have on our lives, and the vital steps towards rediscovering our true selves amid loss. Don't miss this opportunity to learn how to navigate grief and emerge stronger. TRANSCRIPT David Kessler - Grief.com DAUGHTERHOOD

In this terrific episode, Terri Petersen interviews someone that we guess many of you know: David Hayward, known best online as “The Naked Pastor.” David is an artist, blogger, leader of a community called “The Lasting Supper,” and has many books that are collections of his thoughts and cartoons. During their conversation, we are privileged to get an overview of David's faith journey, his decision to leave formal ministry and step into his current roles, and the focus of his spirituality now. The bulk of the discussion focuses on faith “deconstruction,” framing it in terms of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's stages of dying (and grief), 1) Denial; 2) Anger; 3) Bargaining; 4) Depression; and 5) Acceptance. A brief but very interesting segment also draws parallels between a faith crash and people being confronted with their addiction. When we first sense we must deal with it, we will stiffen up, get defensive, hold on with all we have, come up with excuses, etc. before finally yielding to the fact that we thought we had our faith and/or religious life together but really didn't.  Listen in! You'll really enjoy it!

When David Kessler's publicist asked if he could come on the podcast to promote his newest workbook, Finding Meaning: Grief Workbook: Tools for Releasing Pain and Remembering with Love, I felt honored. David Kessler is one of the world's foremost experts on grief and loss. He has written six best-selling books over the years, including two that he co-authored with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. He founded the website grief.com, which boasts over 5 million yearly visits.  Despite these accolades, I admire David most for his approach to life after becoming a bereaved dad. When David's younger son, David, died suddenly in 2016, he found that he could not prepare for such pain. David says that he wanted to call every grieving parent whom he had counseled to say he hadn't understood the depth of their pain.  David told grieving parents to start therapy and go to support groups, but he did not know just how difficult that was for a newly bereaved parent. David says that it took him three times to get the courage to attend his first grief support group. He sat in the group staring at a table with his books on it, no longer the grief expert, but instead a bereaved dad. After the death of his son, David learned so much that he hadn't truly understood before. He learned that the pain of grief was incredibly deep, but if you took time to excavate through the pain, meanings could be revealed. With the blessing of the Kubler-Ross family in 2019, David wrote a new book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. Since the book was published, he realized that a personal workbook might be an even better way for people to find meaning in their lives. David says the workbook is a way to 'get the pain out of you and into the workbook.' It is a truly healing experience to complete the workbook. I want to close today with what David said to me at the end of our interview. 'See the meaning you are making in the lives you are touching.' Every time you talk to another person, you are making meaning, whether you go on a podcast to share your story with thousands or sit at a kitchen table and share with one person.

Mentor Moments Season Four Story Moments: Everyone has a story to tell. Dr. Frantz, a graduate of East Aurora High School in 1959, earned his BA from Grinnell College and his MA and Ph.D. from the University of Iowa before joining the University at Buffalo's Counseling Psychology Department in 1967, where he served for over 40 years until retiring in 2008. Throughout his career, he held numerous leadership roles, including Department Chair and Acting Dean, and focused on teaching and research, advising over 80 Ph.D. dissertations and publishing more than 50 works. A specialist in grief counseling, Dr. Frantz worked closely with Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and founded multiple bereavement support groups, including Compassionate Friends. He led crisis response teams in schools and delivered over 1,300 presentations on bereavement and crisis intervention across the Northeast. Dr. Frantz also served on the boards of several hospice and mental health organizations and remained an active athlete, earning a skydiving certificate and completing solo cross-country bike trips, until a hip replacement sidelined him at age 65. He is supported by his wife Donna and children Karen, Wendy, Brian, and Serena. James P.Donnelly, Jr. grew up in Clarence, NY, a small town near Buffalo, and the hometown of Professor Kiener. Jim received his bachelor's degree in psychology from Allegheny College in Meadville, PA, master's in Social Psychology from Claremont Graduate University in Claremont, CA, and Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University at Buffalo. A licensed psychologist, Jim has held academic, clinical and research positions at Roswell Park Cancer Institute, the University at Buffalo, and Canisius University. Mentoring experiences include many practicum, internship, masters', doctoral, and post-doctoral students. He served on 110 doctoral dissertation committees, chairing 32. His primary focus has been on chronic health conditions, as well as research methods. He is co-author of three widely used books on research methods, author or co-author of more than 150 journal articles, chapters, reviews and abstracts, and has made over 100 national and international presentations at refereed conferences. Jim has been a consultant to the Institute of Medicine, the Centers for Disease Control, Children's Hospice International, among others. He is Professor Emeritus in the Department of Counseling and Human Services and continues as Director of Measurement and Statistics at the Institute for Autism Research at Canisius. Welcome to Mentor Moments, the podcast where distinctive journeys shape the individuals we become. Join us for engaging counseling conversations that delve deep into personal journeys while focusing on pressing professional issues. In this season of Mentor Moments, we're honored to feature remarkable individuals who not only introduce you to the world of rehabilitation counseling but also tackle current topics and issues that matter. Each episode invites you into the minds of our guests as they share their unique perspectives. Follow us at: Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mentor.momentsMRA@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Instagram: @mentor.moments Website: https://www.mraeasternchapter.com/maryvillerc

Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Almost everyone has heard about the five stages of grief. However, these 5 stages were first proposed in 1969, which is why many people question their relevance in today's world. Plus, despite their popularity, grief researchers have continuously demonstrated that everyone handles grief in their own distinct way. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, the creator of the 5 stages of grief, herself said it was never meant to be prescriptive; it was meant to be descriptive. So why are people still following a framework that is obviously not correct? In this episode, we'll talk about the five stages of grief and the controversy around them. We'll also discuss frameworks to help you explore your emotions the best way you see fit after the passing of a loved one. What You'll Learn: The 5 stages of grief explained Controversy and myths around the 5 stages of grief The evolution of grief Understand that grief isn't linear Why it's impossible to understand somebody else's grief The thin line between grief and clinical depression Do people experience all five stages of grief? Mindset shifts to help you ride the waves of grief Resources: Join my Free Facebook Group ‘Widowed and Rising' https://www.facebook.com/groups/widowedandrising Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/karensuttonwidowcoach Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/karensuttonwidowcoach/ TikTok http://www.tiktok.com/@karensuttonwidowcoach Twitter https://twitter.com/KarenWidow LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/karensuttonwidowcoach/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNgKpAqSpEdQV2zYJIPaHvg My website https://www.karensutton.co.uk/

In Meditations, Marcus Aurelius wrote “You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.” Death is inevitable for all of us and practicing the art of Memento Mori reminds us to live each day to the fullest and with virtue. David Kessler, a grief and loss expert, joins Ryan today to talk about why a meaningful life comes from embracing rather than fearing death, how grief can shape our understanding and appreciation of life, the balance between grief and joy, and how losing his son changed everything he thought he knew about grief. David's personal experience with grief started very young, as a child witnessing a mass shooting while his mother was dying in a hospital. For most of his life, David has taught physicians, nurses, counselors, police, and first responders about the end of life, trauma, and grief. Even after years of studying grief and counseling those experiencing it, his life was turned upside down by the sudden death of his twenty-one-year-old son.David co-authored two books with Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, including On Grief and Grieving, and after experiencing the death of his son, he updated her 5 stages of grief with a 6th stage: meaning.

Many of us are familiar with the five stages of grief outlined by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross- the Swiss psychiatrist and pioneer in near death studies.  Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. What you might not be familiar with is the 6th stage of grief which is meaning. Grief expert David Kessler who worked with and was mentored by Elisabeth Kubler Ross explains this stage in his book Finding Meaning- The Sixth Stage of Grief. This book has been called groundbreaking and a road map for people to navigate their way out of suffering and into healing. Now David has distilled the lessons from Finding Meaning into an experiential workbook that teaches people how to release the hurt and how to grieve with more love than pain. The book is officially released on October 1. Connect with David Kessler at Grief.com David Kessler on Facebook @iamdavidkessler on Instagram Get your copy of the Finding Meaning -The Sixth Stage of Grief Workbook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mentor Moments Season Four Story Moments: Everyone has a story to tell. Dr. Frantz, a graduate of East Aurora High School in 1959, earned his BA from Grinnell College and his MA and Ph.D. from the University of Iowa before joining the University at Buffalo's Counseling Psychology Department in 1967, where he served for over 40 years until retiring in 2008. Throughout his career, he held numerous leadership roles, including Department Chair and Acting Dean, and focused on teaching and research, advising over 80 Ph.D. dissertations and publishing more than 50 works. A specialist in grief counseling, Dr. Frantz worked closely with Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and founded multiple bereavement support groups, including Compassionate Friends. He led crisis response teams in schools and delivered over 1,300 presentations on bereavement and crisis intervention across the Northeast. Dr. Frantz also served on the boards of several hospice and mental health organizations and remained an active athlete, earning a skydiving certificate and completing solo cross-country bike trips, until a hip replacement sidelined him at age 65. He is supported by his wife Donna and children Karen, Wendy, Brian, and Serena. Welcome to Mentor Moments, the podcast where distinctive journeys shape the individuals we become. Join us for engaging counseling conversations that delve deep into personal journeys while focusing on pressing professional issues. In this season of Mentor Moments, we're honored to feature remarkable individuals who not only introduce you to the world of rehabilitation counseling but also tackle current topics and issues that matter. Each episode invites you into the minds of our guests as they share their unique perspectives. Follow us at: Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mentor.momentsMRA@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Instagram: @mentor.moments Website: https://www.mraeasternchapter.com/maryvillerc

This is the first 7 minutes of this week's Patreon dive into mental health history! Elisabeth Kubler-Ross pioneered the concept of psychological care for those with terminal illness, and her best known contribution is the concept of the 5 stages of grief. But are these stages really so universal, and what does research show about this idea? Today's dive into mental health history is a look at the origins of this approach, and more recent developments in the study and treatment of grief & loss. This one is just for the Patrons! Grateful for all of you!  

Talking points: grief, loss, relationships, masculinity, anger I met David at a psychotherapy symposium a while back, and it wasn't long before we were sharing some of the things we've grieved. He just has that calm yet strong presence. He's also, of course, an absolute expert therapist. We dig into everything loss in this episode; how the 5 stages actually work, what death does both for and to us, and much, much more. This is absolutely an episode to share with someone you feel could use it. (00:00:00) - Intro, do men and women grieve differently, and the toll of not grieving (00:06:34) - Why unprocessed grief manifests as anger, anxiety, and more (00:11:10) - What brought David into grief work, the five stages, and where people get stuck (00:24:43) - On the loss of David's son (00:32:12) - Does grief reshape identity, and the different ways of moving through it (00:35:50) - How to move through grief, and discerning when to “live again” (00:42:51) - David's take on death denial, living currently, and how death challenges our assumptions (00:50:43) - The sixth stage of grief, and the nuances of meaning after loss David Kessler is one of the world's foremost experts on grief and loss. His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life, even after life's tragedies. He is the author of six books, including the new bestselling book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. He co-authored two books with Elisabeth Kubler Ross, including On Grief and Grieving updated her 5 stages for grief. His first book, The Needs of The Dying received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa. David's personal experience as a child witnessing a mass shooting while his mother was dying in a hospital helped him begin his journey. For most of his life, David has taught physicians, nurses, counselors, police, and first responders about the end of life, trauma, and grief. He facilitates talks, workshops and retreats for those experiencing grief. However, despite his vast knowledge on grief, his life was turned upside down by the sudden death of his twenty-one-year-old son. It inspired him to write his newest book, Finding Meaning. David's volunteer work includes being an LAPD Specialist Reserve for traumatic events as well as having served on the Red Cross's disaster services team. He worked for over a decade in a three-hospital system, and was even trained for bio-terrorism events and epidemics/pandemics.  Connect with David -Website: https://grief.com/ -Book: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief: https://grief.com/sixth-stage-of-grief/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamdavidkessler/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamDavidKessler/ -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/davidkesslerongrief *** This episode is also brought to you by BetterHelp. Easily match with a therapist who can help you through the tough times and empower your best self. Visit BetterHelp.com/mantalks today to get 10% off your first month Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Death Doula Global Summit Speaker Spotlight: Ken Ross President of the Elisabeth Kubler Ross Foundation. Honoring Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross: A Legacy of Compassion and End-of-Life Care In 2020, Doulagivers Institute sponsored The Death Doula Global Summit and had interviews with the most impactful pioneers in the Death Doula and Death Positive Movement. The wisdom and interviews are breathtaking. If you were not able to be part of that live summit, here is your chance as we will be spotlighting some of the great interviews that will not only heal your heart- but inspire you about what is yet to come. In this episode of Ask a Death Doula, Join us as Ken Ross, son of the legendary Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, shares his extraordinary journey and what it was like growing up with a mother who revolutionized how we understand death and dying?  You'll uncover intimate stories about his mother, from her early days as a humble Swiss woman to becoming a global pioneer in end-of-life care. Ken gives us an insider's view into her remarkable life, revealing the profound impact she had on both him and the world. We also honor Dr. Kubler-Ross's relentless advocacy for marginalized communities. From aiding bullied classmates and animals in her youth to providing compassionate care for AIDS patients during a time of widespread stigma, her dedication knew no bounds. Despite facing severe backlash and professional ostracization, her mission to ensure dignified end-of-life care never wavered. Her pioneering contributions to holistic patient care have paved the way for modern advancements in palliative care, inspiring countless medical professionals, including registered nurse Suzanne O'Brien, who reflects on Dr. Kubler-Ross's influence on her own work. Looking to the future, Ken shares exciting developments aimed at preserving and expanding his mother's legacy. Discover how the Elizabeth Kubler-Ross Foundation is growing its global reach, from launching online education series in multiple languages to digitizing her archives at Stanford. As we navigate the challenges of COVID-19, this episode is a poignant reminder of the transformative power of adversity. Embrace life fully, learn from your fears, and carry forward the compassion that Dr. Kubler-Ross championed throughout her life.   We dive into: (04:23 - 05:44) Growing Up With an Incredible Mother (08:46 - 09:36) Maintaining Humanity During Crisis (12:14 - 13:41) Importance of Holistic End-of-Life Care (20:06 - 21:16) Global Online Education Collaboration Efforts (24:29 - 25:49) Global Expansion for Death Cafes (30:33 - 32:48) Life-Changing Journeys and Cultural Connections (35:42 - 36:41) Death as Universal Teacher     We want to hear from you!!! If you found this podcast helpful, Please Rate, Review, & Follow so we can reach more people.     Links mentioned in this episode: Doulagivers Institute The NEXT Free Level 1 End of Life Doula Training Registration LINK  The NEXT Free Doulagivers Discovery Webinar  Elizabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation   80-90% of a positive end of life depends on these two things: Knowing the basic skills on how to care for someone at the end of life and planning ahead - and BOTH Doulagivers Institute is giving you for FREE! Access them Below! Making your wishes known is one of the greatest gifts you can give to your loved ones. Download The Doulagivers 9 Choice Advance Directive now! It's FREE!     More about what we do at Doulagivers Institute - Click here! Learn more about Ken Ross Photography - Click here!

David is one of the world's foremost experts on grief and loss.    His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life, even afterlife's tragedies.    He is the author of six books, including his most recent bestselling book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. He co authored two books with Elisabeth Kubler Ross, including On Grief and Grieving updated her 5 stages for grief. His first book, The Needs of The Dying received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa.   David's personal experience as a child witnessing a mass shooting while his mother was dying in a hospital helped him begin his journey. For most of his life, David has taught physicians, nurses, counselors, police, and first responders about the end of life, trauma, and grief.    He facilitates talks, workshops and retreats for those experiencing grief. However, despite his vast knowledge on grief, his life was turned upside down by the sudden death of his twenty-one-year-old son. It inspired him to write his newest book, Finding Meaning.   He is someone whose work has had a profound impact on my life in recent months and the world is truly a better place because of him being here.  He is also the founder of www.grief.com which has over five million visits yearly from 167 countries.   Here are some of things we talked about in today's podcast:  The worst loss is the one you're going through; comparing losses only harms yourself. Heartbreak is a form of grief, and all endings are a type of death. The stages of grief are not a linear process; everyone experiences them differently. Changing the story we tell ourselves about grief can help in the healing process. Grief must be witnessed by others; isolation only prolongs the healing journey. Our true essence is love, and all other voices are our old wounds. Allow yourself to walk through the pain and face it, as running from it will only prolong the healing process. Grief is messy and non-linear; it's important to allow the messiness and be with where you are. Be with your grief but don't let it become your identity; find healing by not letting past events control your decisions and actions. Finding meaning in grief and loss is about who we become and how we show up in the world.       (Website) Grief.com (Instagram) David Kessler (@iamdavidkessler) • Instagram photos and videos (Twitter) David Kessler (@IamDavidKessler) / X (twitter.com) (Facebook) https://www.facebook.com/IamDavidKessler (LinkedIn) David Kessler, FACHE - Grief.com | LinkedIn (Youtube) David Kessler - YouTube (Pinterest) David Kessler (davidkessler) - Profile | Pinterest  

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Elisabeth Kubler Ross breaks down grief into 5 stages. This episode is Stage 2...Anger. This podcast episode is hosted by Kris and Patti, who discuss their experiences during this stage and how they managed their anger.

David Kessler is one of the world's foremost experts on grief and loss. His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life, even afterlife's tragedies. He is the author of six books, including the new bestselling book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. He coauthored two books with Elisabeth Kubler Ross, including On Grief and Grieving updated her 5 stages for grief. His first book, The Needs of The Dying received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa.   For more on David Kessler visit https://grief.com/ or https://linktr.ee/DavidKessler   Join the DEAD Talk Patreon for only $5 to support our mission & and gain access to exclusive content and features:

I recently came across a quote from Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross that caught my attention. She bluntly said there is a life choice that is so important, if you don't choose it, you are a "prostitute" and "you will not have a pleasant death."  This episode offers two opposing life choices. One is proposed by Dr. Kubler-Ross. Other is a movie quote, but it is said by none other than Morgan Freeman, who may not be God, but has played the Almighty in a movie. ———————————————————————————————————————. Have a spiritual, theological, or religious question you would like me to tackle?Contact me via email:    Dan@SkyPilot.zoneAnd be sure to check me out on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SkyPilotFaithQuest...........................................................................................Music: Composed for SkyPilot: Faith Quest by Arlan Sunnarborg

Depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder are on the rise. Many say our mental health system is broken. In this episode, we delve deep into the realms of mental health with the esteemed therapist and author Clint Callahan. In this episode, we navigate through the treacherous waters of grief and anxiety and discover empowerment through various mental health strategies. Our discussion touches on the impact of societal changes, the broken mental health system in America, and the importance of setting and achieving personal goals through incremental changes.Memorable Quote:"Grief is the river that we walk in every day. Sometimes it's ankle-deep, sometimes it feels like it's up over our head." - Clint CallahanKey Takeaways:- Empathy is crucial in relationships but maintaining one's own mental health is equally important.- The grieving process is deeply personal and non-linear, and societal pressures to 'move on' should not dictate one's healing journey.- America's mental health system needs to rebrand PTSD as a physical injury to the brain to better address and understand trauma.- Achieving goals can be made easier by breaking them down into smaller, manageable actions and maintaining consistency with self-compassion.Chapters:-(0:00:02) - Improve Mental Health, Break People-Pleasing-(0:08:13) - Overcoming Anxiety and Coping With Grief-(0:12:50) - Overcoming Mental Health Challenges and Grief-(0:18:26) - Choosing the Heroic Path Through Grief-(0:22:39) - Grief, Cancer, and People Pleasing-(0:30:01) - Improving the Broken Mental Health System-(0:38:12) - Achieving Goals With Small ChangesConnect with Clint online and order his book: https://www.smallchangesbigimpact.net/wake-up-callLearn more about Dr. mOe Anderson's books, speaker coaching, keynotes, and workshops: https://www.drmoeanderson.comResources mentioned: Elisabeth Kubler Ross', M.D. book on Grief and Grieving : https://amzn.to/3Sa8eWv

The first of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's Five Stages of Grief is Denial. In this episode, Ami and Christina discuss candidly and honestly what this state of being in denial looked like to them, how it felt, and how they went about dealing with this stage. For anyone suffering from the loss of a loved one, this episode can provide validation and confirm one's feelings, which will hopefully lead to some healing.

In a first for Best Friend Therapy, we bring you a four-part MINISERIES, all about break-ups.We'd be lying if we said it was intentional but we quickly realised there was far too much to say about romatic break-ups, let along friendship break-ups, family break-ups and work break-ups, to get through in a single episode.So this week's episode is dedicated to heartbreak of the romantic variety... When we break-up with a partner, we often feel a form of grief - not only for the relationship, but also the future we may have planned, and for a past version of ourself. It's a triple whammy. We talk about the difference between being dumped and doing the dumping, how to break up well (if there is such a thing) and why break-up through divorce is hard, but break-up after divorce can be even harder.Emma explains why romantic break-ups can reinforce core beliefs and re-enact past attachment trauma and Elizabeth directs us to the ever-guiding light that is Taylor Swift.Join us again next week when we'll be turning our attention to friendship break-ups.---If you want to hear us talk more about grief, you can tune into our previous episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/best-friend-therapy/id1614793299?i=1000601683198Emma talks about the grief cycle, developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and made famous in her book, "On Death and Dying", in 1969.--- Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp. --- Social Media:Elizabeth Day @elizabdayEmma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrellBest Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy

As engineering leaders, we have a responsibility to our organizations and their bottom line. At the same time, we're leading humans, not automatons, and understanding and supporting the people in our org is both the right thing to do as a person and the most effective way to deliver business value. In this wide-ranging discussion Rukmini Reddit, SVP of Engineering, Platform at Slack shares five questions she asks throughout her org to support herself and her team when dealing with change and how she leverages models like Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' famous change model to better understand and support her organization through difficult transitions.

When we are with someone who is suffering from grief we often feel the need to fill every second we're together with words. But what about silence? That can be a balm, much more than talking. We can't "fix" their loss. We can't necessarily cheer up a grieving person. Each stage of our life and our experiences as well as individuality  determines how we process emotions. So, what can we do?   "On Death and Dying", Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D., authorhttps://www.ekrfoundation.org/elisabeth-kubler-rossListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

This SHINE podcast episode is on how by facing and preparing for death, we are able to live more meaningful and purposeful lives. We all are born and we all will die. In this interview, we speak about how to talk about death as a way to foster deeper connection, healing, and growth at work, in our communities, and at home. We address the importance of bringing awareness and meditation practices to grieve effectively. Lastly, we talk about how bringing generations together over dinner can support us to solve some of the larger problems at work and in the world. This inspiring episode will support you to live a more meaningful life with less regrets. Episode Links: Compassion & Choices Death over Dinner What happens when death is what is for dinner? Ted Talk Reef Grief Article & coping resources Is this how you feel? Website formed to name and witness grief in community Book of Regrets SHINE Links: Thank you for listening. Want to build a high trust, innovative, and inclusive culture at work? Sign up for our newsletter and get the free handout and be alerted to more inspiring Shine episodes Building Trust Free Gift Carley Links: LinkedIn Consultation Call with Carley Book Carley for Speaking Leading from Wholeness Learning & Development Carley's Book Executive Coaching with Carley Well Being Resources: Inner Game Meditations Inner Game Leadership Assessment Social: LinkedIn IG Website Shine Podcast Page Imperfect Shownotes Hi, welcome to the shine podcast. My name is Carley Hauck. I'm your host, this is the fifth season of the shine podcast. I started the shine podcast as a way of doing research for my book on conscious leadership in business. And you will find interviews with scientists, researchers and business leaders on the intersection of conscious inclusive leadership, the recipe for high performing teams and awareness practices. My book debuted in 2021 Shine ignite your inner game of conscious leadership and was voted one of the best books to read in 2022. By mindful magazine, I facilitate two episodes a month of the shine podcast. And before I tell you about the topic for today, please go over to Apple podcasts or your favorite podcast carrier and hit the subscribe button so you don't miss any future episodes. The focus of this season is on the essentials for wellbeing. And that encompasses the intersection of our personal well being the collective well being of our workplace, and how that fosters and nurtures the planet's well being they are all connected. I focus on well being this season, because I really want to crack the code and inspire folks to prioritize their individual well being and therefore that will transcend into the collective and the planet's well being. And I have developed a inner game leadership assessment that I gave out to 100 different leaders last year. And the leadership assessment is based on the framework of the inner game, which is what we're cultivating on the inside to be conscious leaders. And it shows up on the outside when we cultivated the certain qualities. And two of the nine leadership competencies that were lowest from the sample of 100 leaders were psychological and physical well being. Therefore, that is why we are focusing on well being and if you're curious about where your strengths and gaps are around the qualities to become a conscious leader, you can take the assessment and find out your score for free. I recently opened to the assessment tool to the public, and the link will be in the show notes. Now onto our episode. Hello shine podcast listeners. I am here with my new friend Michael Michael HEB, who is the founder of death over dinner, drugs over dinner, and generations over dinner. He currently serves as a board advisor at the Friedman School of Nutrition Science and Policy at Tufts, and is the primary editor of COVID paper. His second book, let's talk about death was published by Hashem in the US, UK and Australia in October of 2018. and Russia, China, Taiwan, Indonesian, Poland and Romania in the fall of 2019, and will soon be published in Finland. Wow. That's incredible. Michael, so happy to have you here. Oh, my goodness, this conversation is going to be amazing. Can't wait. Thanks for being here. Of course, credit. Thanks for having me. So to start off in the deep end, which I know you and I swimmin. Often, I'd love if you could share some of your childhood story of losing your father to dementia, and how that experience inspired a movement to support millions in gathering and holding space as we prepare for death. Yeah, well, when I was in second grade, I didn't know that it would inspire valiance. For one, I was very much you know, just a regular seven year old, seven year old, eight year old and my father was quite a bit older than most fathers. He was born in 1904 in the Yukon Gold Rush in a minor shed and Dawson during the the like epicenter of the Yukon Gold Rush. And so he was 72 years old when I was born, which is becoming less and less unique. I think we just found out Al Pacino is going to have another child, but at at something, but back then this was quite a surprising thing. And I think it's a kind of an amazing thing in a challenging thing to be sold and to have a child because you don't know how long you're going to be around for them. But I was a bit of a surprise. And in second grade, my father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's, full blown Alzheimer's, it wasn't early onset, his symptoms were severe at that point, and then was put into a, a nursing home. And those were really rough years, my mother was not resourced to know how to manage our lives. Very few would be, and we lived in a great deal of chaos. And he died when I was 13. On on Halloween, actually. And our family didn't know how to talk about his illness, didn't know how to talk about his inevitable death, didn't know how to talk about our grief. And so we started really avoiding each other, which in many way was was the healthiest thing we could do. Because when you have a secret or a traumatic centerpiece to your family relationship, every time you're around those family members, there's cortisol and all kinds of things flooding your system. And so we really grew apart pretty quickly. And it had a lot of impact on the family structure where you know, much later and we'll talk about death over dinner, it served as the inspiration for inspiring people to talk about death, mortality, life limiting illness, dementia, because I didn't want anybody else to have to go through what I experienced the type of alienation, isolation, depression, confusion, anger, and the whole rainbow of emotion that I had to go through, basically alone until many mentors started to show up in my life. But the the death itself on Halloween was, was a seismic event in my life, and not for the reasons you might think. The grief wasn't overwhelming immediately, there was a kind of void that I felt when I woke up the morning and Halloween, and I knew that he died even though there was no one telling me so there's just a known sense, I'd actually had the previous night woken up at 3:43am, the exact moment that his heart stopped without knowing why. And then when I woke up again, later on that day, I was very clear, like, my dad's died, and I ended up going to school, because I wasn't going to just hang out with my mom and my brother. That didn't seem like a good place to go, or to be. And so I went to school on Halloween and Halloween when you're 13 is a big deal. And I ended up going out with friends that night, I didn't tell a single person that day that my father had died. And looking back on it, I think that was a pretty smart strategy. The realization that I had either consciously or just knew in my bones, at that time was my friend group didn't have the ability to deal with the weight of that kind of information. Kids are much more emotionally intelligent these days than they were 30 some years ago. And so I went out with my friends on Halloween night and did the type of things that 13 year olds do. I think we TPT some houses and eggs, some cars and drink some and essentially were assholes. And this thing happened to me because I was holding this whole new reality that my my dad had died, which no one I knew could relate to. And looking around my friends and what we were involved in the way we related to each other, and really just the world. I had this sense of being separate from it and watching it almost film nicly seeing these things from a from a removed space and questioning. If we act like this, why do we relate to each other? Why is there conversation about meaning? Shit, I hope I can swear on your ad snapped to, I can totally be yourself. Yeah,apparently it's a sign of intelligence, I just read a recent report. But nonetheless, I felt separate from my social group. And in in that separation, I started to ask really big questions. And that is really where my spirituality took shape was in those questions, and their questions about what are we doing here? Is there something more than this? Is there a right way to live? Have people known about living connected to something larger than the cell in the past, and took a great deal of interest in poetry and Eastern spirituality and mysticism? Gnosticism a long list of question askers. And that really set me on a completely different course than I would have been happily skipping down. So really, really a big change for not not exactly the reasons you would expect, when you use the term seismic, you know, change? And I would say yes, for sure. And, you know, before this conversation, I did a lot of research and trying to get to know you, and different interviews and things that you have recorded. And I learned about your early meditation practice, and part of how that came to be. And I was touched, because we both started meditating, and really having these deeper questions and interest around the same time, even though I, I imagine we're probably a similar age. And I also grew up in a family where, and still have a family where I'm keenly sensitive to emotions of myself and others, and the planet, and my, you know, nuclear family is not. And in some ways, I felt like an alien. And really kind of stuffed those for a long time, but had to find other ways and other tools to really understand myself and similar to you, like, understand, why am I here? And you know, what is the reason that I am being called to be here at this time. And, you know, when we, when we think about meditation and Buddhism, Siddhartha had a very similar journey, right? He was he was living in this, you know, Castle, not no suffering, really, except that is that his mother passed at an early age. But then he went outside of the palace walls one day and saw the four heavenly messengers, you probably familiar of this, of this table, or fable, rather, one was a sick person, an old man, a corpse, and aesthetic. And so he went on, you know, the aesthetic path to try to understand why these things happen. But we all know that we're gonna die, like every single one of us is going to die. And we don't know when that is going to happen. And so I wanted to bring you on because of a lot of his own inquiry around death for myself, but also, how do we use death, knowing it's coming, knowing that in some ways, humanity is facing very grave ecological death, which we'll go into a little bit later, to live the most meaningful life that we can right now? Yeah, well, I mean, in many ways, we can unlock what our life's meaning is, without that kind of rupture, without facing our mortality. And for most people, it happens in the middle of their life. This is you know, what Richard Rohr calls the second half of life and talks about and falling upward. And that that is just kind of naturally an age where people that are meaningful to us start dying. Right, some of us are, you know, gifted or cursed with a meaningful death. early in life, if you don't embrace it, or let it embrace you or if you repress it, or run away from it, then it can be a curse. But if you do the hard work of facing, whether that's when you're 13, or 30, or 40, or 50, or 60, or 70. The gifts that you get are really the answers to why I'm here. It's it's in many ways, the strongest medicine there is and there's a lot of talk these days and a lot of experience around psychedelic medicine, for instance, many of your users or, or listeners are experienced or curious. almost everybody's read Michael Pollan's book, how to change your mind, it seems. And we talk about the strength of that medicine, right, because it allows us to connect to something larger than ourselves connect to our, our history, our traumas, some of these big questions we find in a lot of psychedelic plant medicines, experiences that are held in the right container. Death, it's arguably more powerful, a medicine, and it's sitting right here. Yeah, right beside us, whether we acknowledge it or not. And, and it's a little bit easier to integrate, quite frankly, and then a psychedelic experience. And, you know, a lot of those medicines, actually kind of the core thinking around those medicines is they give us the ability to die before we die, so that we don't have to die when we die. And this is the this was the reason that people went to Eleusis, the mysteries in in, in Greece for 2000 years, 30,000 people a year, would go to a Lusas, to drink BurgerTime beer, to have an experience where a part of themselves would die. So that they realized that life, what was important about life, what the meaning was, what they were doing there. And you know that that experience is available to all of us by turning and facing or grief or any number of things. I agree. And I you know, just to circle back to meditation. Gosh, there's so many, there's so many ways that we could go because I love to have the plant medicine discussion with you as well. And I, I believe you're very right. I think a lot of people in some ways are actually just using the medicine to escape again. And they're not actually integrating. I mean, you're finding this altered state of consciousness, which, frankly, you can find meditating. And I've done both. And there's not a lot of difference for me personally. And only the medicine just brings me to that point faster. But I've done years and years and years of silent meditation. And one of the things that I'm so grateful about meditation is that Vipassana, which is coming from the Tera Vaada. And Buddhist tradition, actually learned this several years ago, on a silent retreat at Spirit Rock meditation center, it means to grieve effectively, because every moment is passing this moment right now, between you and I will never happen again, quite like this, ever. And so I'm present to it. And there's a loss and that, here it goes. Yeah, letting it go. Yeah, sometimes we have to be well, I think we do have to build be able to face the big D, yes, the two really come to terms with the small D's that we face all of the time, and not grasp on to that which is constantly changing, right? Because that's what people's primarily, their primary complaints are really around the small days, you know, anxiety, depression, all of these things have that we suffer from on a regular basis have so much to do with dealing with the fact that things are constantly changing. Right? Right. Yeah. Yeah. And how do we how do we practice getting, you know, little and, and to be in flow with a world that is constantly changing? Right? And so that's why I told tell people and teach people that, you know, death is this really powerful medicine because one, you, you do want to drink from that cup, you, you will be facing the big D at some point. And you want to be present to that. And you want to be able to learn from the experience as the aperture of your life gets smaller and smaller. There's a lot of great richness in that I've seen people complete a whole hero's journey in their last hour on this planet and change things generationally, and do healing for people who, you know, their future ancestors, they'll never meet on death's door. Right? But not if we're grasping. Not if we haven't surrendered, not if we're not present to it. And in the present moment, same thing. We're not going to be able to have an access to the beauty of the moment, or whatever it is. It's not just beauty, the is of the moment if grasping, flailing, reacting struggling in fight or flight or freeze, unless we have some sort of practice round. I mean, some of my good friends started the flow Institute's flow Institute, Steven Kotler, and Jamie Weil. And there's a lot of talk about flow these days and to be in flow. And I give those guys a hard time. It's like you're teaching people all of these great techniques, but the most important technique you could be teaching it was to deal with death and go, yeah, and they've incorporated some of that. And we actually hosted the first flow Institute, gathering together years before their other best seller. So there's just a lot there. And it's scary for people. This isn't, I'm not saying this with the idea that you shouldn't have apprehension or that it's easy. But there have been a lot of people who looked at our impermanence, looked at death, looked at grief, and have lit those canyons, and lit those dark forests for us. So you're, you're not alone. And you will get immediate vitality, from the work that people do around this. And I know you work with leaders and, you know, one of one of the kind of most ironic slash funniest uses of death over dinner, which is a initiative I started to get people to talk about end of life and, you know, millions of people have taken part in this. I was gonna ask you about that. Yeah. If we'll come back to continue. Yeah, I'll give. I'll let you lead me into some framing but Deloitte, Europe, one of the leading firms, when it comes to giving advice and creating strategy for the biggest brands in the world, most people know Deloitte. Yes, started using Deloitte, Europe started using depth over dinner at the beginning of their, their corporate retreats for their big clients. And yeah, and found and people were able to have conversations about what do they want to be remembered for? What do they want to have happen to their body? You know, song would be one at their funeral. If they had 30 days left to live, what would they do with it? How would they feel that that unlocks so much connection between the people that were there and humanity, way below the watermark of their strategy, or with you know, their brand, and it also unlocked a tremendous amount of creativity? Right? People feel free to try out new ideas and to play with each other's ideas. So, you know, there's there's a lot, there's a lot there in this space that has big No Trespassing signs all over it for us. Thank you. Well, there's a couple of questions that I have that are bubbling. I mean, first, I'd love to hear well, and even before I, I asked you a question, just my responses, you know, in my experience, working with lots of different, you know, senior people, leaders and stakeholders and various companies, business is only as good as the relationships that people are forming. If there isn't psychological safety, trust, the ability to believe that this person has my back, and we are connected and we are connected towards something of greater purpose, people will not stay, they will not perform, they will not feel they belong, and they will not bring their best to work or that workplace. That has been my experience. And so, I think what we are craving most, and especially since the pandemic is connection, is meaning is purpose, and how do we build that together and then align, you know, in powerful actions together. And I just think that is that is what is happening in the workplace. There is a death of the old workplace that was profit above everything else, thank goodness, but it's slow. It's slow. There's there's still a certain you know, group of leaders that are holding on to that. Lynne twist has been a huge mentor to me and wrote the foreword of my book and I remember when I first heard her speak years ago, she said we are hospice sing out. You know, these Oh, have systems and structures that will not support the new world. Because we have to embrace that, or we don't have a path forward. And so I, I'm excited for the death let it die. But let's hospice it out, right? Because then we can let go more effectively. Yeah, well, I mean, the pandemic, arguably, threw a wrench in some of that, at least from the human connection side. It gave us something that we have in common to connect around, it made grief public, that made mental health public, it made that those topics went from being taboo, which we can talk about the word taboo if we want, because it's a completely misunderstood word. But from things that were not appropriate conversations, to being very appropriate, very common conversation, especially in the millennial communities, some of us that are a little bit older, catching up with millennials and that ability to talk about things openly. But it also just, it did separate us. And it's hard to create deep connections in the workplace, when this is how we're connecting when it's just over zoom, or maybe not even zoom, it's just over email. I hope Len is right below her very much. If you're listening, Man, I miss you. Let's talk soon. And I do I do really have hope that that is the direction that we're going. Right now, this seems like we're going a lot of different directions. So where it's hard to know,it's a little chaotic, for sure. Well, I want to hear more about the process of death over dinner, so you can share with our listeners of how they can engage in that, I also wanted to speak to you about how you have understood the difference between for example, sadness, and grief. Because it's a felt experience. And, you know, there's, there's a lot of numbing, there's a lot of avoiding that. And I just think that in order to really be more comfortable in talking about our own death, we have to be willing to feel the grief. So So start with that, the movement of death over dinner, the process, I'm gonna leave links in the show notes. And I have gone through the process a couple times, a couple dinners, and also have a guess, some insights that are not around that, but just even just some of the my own practices around death that I might insert in in our conversation if we have time. I love it. Well, death over dinner came out of the well, at this point. It's over 20 years of convening people to talk about difficult topics at the dinner table. I realized pretty early on in my career as an architect my backgrounds actually in architecture, that I didn't need to build any new structures, I was building places for people to gather and connect. As an architect. That was the focus of my young career. And then I realized that the dinner table does that, with me needing to file a building permit or raise millions of dollars for said structure. We just forgotten how to use the dinner table. And needed to remember, we've remembered how, to some extent to garden and farm and put great food on the table thanks to Alice Waters in the slow food movement, all this incredible work that's been done on the front side. But very little has been done around what happens when they actually sit down with that beautiful food or have that famous chef cook for us. And so we don't have a virtuous cycle. Back to the table. We have it as a kind of fetishized entertainment, almost like a Martha Stewart shot something not a oh, I want to be there having that experience. How do I get back there that richness comes from people being vulnerable, sharing stories around their lives. And now we just talked about succession when we get to a dinner table or whatever people are watching on TV. Probably 75% of the dinner conversation is happening over tables and or we're not paying attention to the Food, you know, or being even mindful of our consumption. I started off in the corporate space, engaging people in meditation through mindful eating of chocolate. I did not do the raisin that was not going to get their attention. But I've I've always really loved just bringing people's attention. Yes to, to food to connection to our connection to food, and therefore the greater the greater world. Yeah, which is great work. But then we also have to connect with the people at the table. And that was the kind of soft architecture that I got really interested in, what is the history of it? What is the history of the Athenian symposium that brought together you know, Plato and Aristotle was the history of the Jewish Seder. What's the history of the Bloomsbury group? Gertrude Stein's tables, so the Black Panthers Sunday brunches, like, what what has been this role how people use this space, the dinner table, because we're drawn to it naturally. It's like the watering hole on the savanna, all different types. For food, we, we come and we get saved, save it, and then we go back to her our lives. If we were eating together, a lot of people don't eat together. But so I started doing dinners with incredible folks and Presidents and Nobel Prize winners and people that are living on the streets and people that are struggling with mental illness, and you name it, dinner after dinner after dinner in every country, or every continent, and so many places, so many just wild settings. It's hard to even think about, and I've had to forget many of them, because there's been too many, and having hard conversations like how do we end genocide? How do we enhance closeness? How do we end the gender gap? Then I realized that I wasn't going to be able to reach the number of people that I wanted to reach. And I also didn't want to just be working with leaders. I don't believe in a trickle down model. I believe in a grassroots model, I really even think change actually happens from the ground up. And so wanted to create a social ritual that people could enact, all over the world could scale and was free very much like the Jewish Seder, actually, the ER a Shabbat dinner, but with a little bit more of a program, a theme. And so death over dinner was our answer to that. I was working with some great designers and graduate students, I was teaching at the University of Washington, in the Graduate School of Communications and decided to teach a course entirely based around building a platform called death over dinner. And we did and now it's become this global phenomenon. And what it is, is, it's an invitation. First and foremost, we're talking about facing mortality, or death, grief and people Oh, that's great. And you say that there's ways into this, but how well, here's one. Like, we're gonna give people an invitation that isn't a thick book, it is a dinner party, and you liked dinner parties. And so here's the invitation, come to dinner and talk about death. And it can be because you're grieving, because you have a loved one who has a terminal diagnosis, it could be because you have early onset Alzheimer's, you don't know how to talk to your family about it, but it's gonna be more and more of us. And so we built this beautiful website and its limitation and then created scripts for people. So your intention, why you want to have the dinner, or the conversation, you select on the website, and then it auto generates the scripts and allows you to pick some homework based upon that intention. So very different scripts for somebody who's grieving versus somebody who's interested for spiritual or religious reasons in a conversation. And then people sit down, and they have this experience where they don't have to think about what are the questions, it's all laid out. And there's a ritual in the beginning and a ritual in the end, and it works. Good, give people some good food and some structure and have someone you know, kind of hold the space for it, lead it, you know, who is whoever is inviting the conversation? Yeah, it's, it's beautiful. And then I've only done three, you know, personally, and I, I actually invited my parents, maybe like two months ago, and they they turned me down. They said, No, we don't want to talk about this, because we have a lot of friends that are dying right now. And it was it was too much, but I am not giving up. Because I I just think it's so important to talk about. Yeah, I'll just leave it at Yeah. Well, I mean, let's talk about that. Because if If you are lining up and saying like, Oh, I want to do I want to have that conversation, if someone's listening to this podcast and be like, I'm interested in that, or if there's any like, no, no, no, you know, putting their fingers in their ears. We can talk to both of those people right now. So if you are excited about it, and you're saying, I want to have this conversation with my parents, my spouse, my best friends, my co workers, my kids, you are gonna get nose? Yep. You if you're excited about it, you are more excited about it than many of the people in your life, I promise you. And so here's the thing. The people in your life do want to talk about it. Yeah. But inviting them is tricky. can be tricky. It's not tricky. Some people are just gonna be like, hell yes. And I'm gonna bring all my friends too. And some people will be like, Hell, no, I'm never gonna have this conversation. But here's the thing. If we acted like, most people act, or at the end of life conversation, the death conversation, if we acted that way, like we do around love and work, we would never find love, and we would never have a job. So your parents said, No. But you know, how did you ask them? And you tried one way. And there are many different ways. And I think of it more of as a courtship. Right? Well, and and just just to share a little more, I sent that to them over email, as an initial conversation. I actually, at that time, was living in Costa Rica. And we hadn't had a deeper discussion, I had no idea that my father had a law school friend that was like literally going to be dying a week from that moment. So it was really bad timing on my end. And I went through a very deep process at the end of last year, where I spent five days in a very powerful workshop, really facing my death every single day. So it started on a Monday, anyone Friday was dying, like it was happening. And over the course of five days, I was being told you have four days to live, you have three days to live, you have two days to live, you have one day to live, you have 30 seconds to live, what are you going to do and I was buried, literally buried, I did write my eulogy. And I have been wearing a bracelet around my wrist, it's just a black thread. That reminds me, I'm gonna die. And it's been so powerful and so potent. And so you know, some of that experience I've been sharing with my parents. That's the courting I suppose. And I spent my birthday with them intentionally this year. But I haven't done in many, many years. And as part of my birthday dinner, I said, you don't know how I want to die. And I don't know how you want to die. And we have not talked about Advanced Directives. And I really want to know, so that I can honor your wishes. And my parents are probably going to hate that. I'm going to say this out loud. But they said we haven't even talked about it. We don't know. So at least I have started that inquiry. And I said, Well, I would like to be cremated. And this is where and I should probably put this in writing. Because I don't know when that is going to happen. And I want you to know. Yeah. So that's, that's, that's part of I think, what I have been dealing with it all. I'll just share one other piece of that. I want to bring it back to you, Michael. But I wasn't planning on sharing this. But it's so interesting. Yesterday, I was flying back to California from Florida from visiting my my family, my parents, and we were approaching Albuquerque. And they were crazy winds like the plane is rattling and it was just like it was it was crazy. And I'm like, Oh, my gosh, I have not reviewed the emergency protocol. Okay, the 510. Net didn't actually go through it at the beginning. Sometimes they do sometimes they don't. And I thought okay, what, what if you were to die right now? You know what that feels like? You have gone through the experience. And I just allowed myself to feel it. I was actually buried in the sand. I was I was in the sand. They left me there for an hour. And when they came to get me during this five days, I didn't want to come out Michael. I felt so at peace. I felt so held by the Earth just the weight of her on me. And so many people had very different experiences. They couldn't wait to get out. It scared the hell out of them. But I reminded myself of that embodied acts experience if if this were to happen, this is what you know, in your body that death is and it was, it was wonderful. I didn't have I didn't have fear and I was able to transport myself back in that place on the plane yesterday as it's rattling and shaking and Okay. Okay. And well, let's imagine your parents, yeah, that would have had very different experiences being buried for one, they wouldn't have gone to Costa Rica to die off and five days. But they have maybe like an anxious attachment relationship to it. Or an avoidant perhaps. And, you know, there are these, you know, we can take, we can use attachment styles for debt too. And going straight up to somebody who is so avoidant. And, you know, putting your finger right on the nose of it is going to be, you know, can can be a thing that has them seize up, right, of course, of course, you know, and this isn't just to you this is to people are listening, because you're not, you're no, I love, you're using this as a teachable moment. And frankly, I have not shared what I just shared with you, I think with only three people. But now here we go. Like, yes, it's been buried. But yes, there there is a there is avoidance, there is anxiety. And it's unknown, of course. Yeah. But there's a way in. So, you know, similarly with courtship, and with a job that you really want, you get creative. And you think about that person. Right? What what are they interested in? Does your mom love Tuesdays with maurey? Perhaps? No, didn't love the movie? Does you know, do they watch dramas that haven't includes our true crime? Or, you know, like, there's, there are ways in and a legacy legacy might be away? And what do you want to be remembered for? Let's get way out, you know, and what stories from your life, we want to make sure that your grandchildren know that that is a death conversation. There's a lot of things that yes, I agree, don't present as much as like, your advanced care directives, and what happens to your body when you die. Right there, there are things that are a little bit more adjacent, where people can open up and before you know it, you're gonna get all of their wishes. It's an unfurling. Because they've been, you know, we're in a society that denies it. And, and is obsessed with it. So we have an unnatural, we have this very unhealthy relationship to it, we're obsessed with that. Death is central to all the top TV shows, books, clickbait it's everywhere. But but our own is, is a real challenge for some people. And the other thing is we can experience it. Right? So it's one of those human experiences that we'll never have, why? Until we have it. And so, it's not something that we can imagine ourselves in. And we also think we're gonna have that other bias in our brain that has it that we're an exception to the rule. We all think we're an exception to the rule. Not gonna happen to me. Yeah. You know, that's just baked in. And so there's a lot but I love that you're trying, and I'm confident that you're gonna find I am pretty persistent. But yes, it's about right timing. And so I appreciate that you used my example as a teachable moment, but I there's so many different places we could go. I'd love to, you know, end on on two questions. One is, how have you maybe found the distinction within yourself but also happen to be in conversation with with folks around the difference between sadness and grief? Well, the thing is, grief is is not one thing. You know, sadness, it has a certain tonality to it. Grief is all of all of the colors all of the sounds of the emotions so you can be a grieving and being laughing. You can be ecstatic and grieving you can be grieving and be horny you can be grieving and be devastatingly depressed. You can be grieving and be inconsolable. You can And all of this is included in grief, grief is is not singular in that way. And, you know, sadness, I'm not an expert on sadness. I mean, then I'm Sam a little bit more expert on grief. And one of the things that I know to be true about grief is one, it's not linear. There, there are no stages. So many people think that Elisabeth Kubler Ross determined the five stages of grief, what Elisabeth Kubler Ross did was create the five stages that happen when we come to terms with our own death. That's what that is. That's what the stages of grief, as we call them, were originally written as she suggested that it might work for grief. And then she retracted it. Some people have taken her suggestion and made careers on it. And the culture has had a bonanza around this idea of grief, having five stages, it doesn't, it's for ever, grief doesn't go away doesn't mean that it's always awful. But the fact that the person is gone, and that whole, that shape of that person will always be in your heart. But the the way to heal that, if that's even the right word, or the way to orient around that is not to try to get back to normal. Or to forget about it or reintegrate into society. It's to honor them. It's called continuing bonds theory. And it's actually the healthy way of grieving. And a lot of countries do this very well, Mexico, India, Japan, where they elevate their relationship to the loved one as opposed to repress it. Right? This, this is going to be with you forever. Turn the beautiful part on and some of the sadness, sadness can be beautiful, poignant, leads to some amazing things inspires us to get in motion sometimes, but elevate that person in your life, build an altar, have some remembrance, turn their body, you know, their cremated remains into things like parting stone or a diamond or have some way where they live in your everyday life is the is the way forward with grief, even though we talk about it in such unhelpful ways. Thank you. Well, and I and my experience with any feeling, you know, the more that we witnessed it, and we witnessed it in community or even with one other person, and in some ways, we're shining the light on it. And it has that opportunity to heal and transform. And that's I think some of what you're doing with this conversation is we're taking it out of the ground, so to speak. We're giving it life and a chance for people to talk about it and therefore grieve together and heal together. Right. And you know, this idea of the word taboo, we'll just talk briefly because I think you have one last question. But taboo is not doesn't mean forbidden. What it actually it's a comes from a Polynesian term, taboo, Tipu. And what that that was referred to places that were sacred places that you have to like, we know for some reason, we know that a burial ground and you know, an Indian or Native American or indigenous burial ground, that we know, for some reason is taboo. Why do we know that? Because that's actually true. It's a sacred place. That's one of the things that was identified as taboo or taboo is a holy place, a sacred place where we actually have to cleanse ourselves or prepare ourselves or being a different state of mind, to go into that space. And that's a rich and meaningful space. Taboo is actually an invitation. It's an invitation and but it's not the regular Friday, your regular Tuesday, it is, I'm going to do I'm going to prepare myself when people go into a mosque, they cleanse themselves. You know, there is there's something about this, that we've forgotten that, yes, we can talk about the hardest things we can talk about trauma. We can talk about sex, we can talk about, you know, history of abuse, we can talk about anything gender, politics, we you name it, if we prepare ourselves properly, and create the right container. There's nothing that's off limits. It's when we don't take the care to do that, that we run into difficulty I agree. Thank you. So in the topic of death and grief, and this is something that has taken a lot of my heart and mind space and continues to. And I think I'm not alone in this, you know, what's happening with our planet, and the extinction of species, and all of the reports that have been coming in for a long time around what is happening with the warming of our planet, and especially the most recent reports, there is an ecological death that is happening. And I think that it is overwhelming for many people to even really look at and feel, feel the grief around the species that are gone for good, and that will be gone. But also, I don't feel like we're prepared with the skills and the resources to navigate what is coming with the fires, with the migration that is going to be happening across our world of people of beings. And I just feel curious, does ecological death or grief come up at all, in these death over dinner conversations? And how can we inspire people to start talking about it, and prepare, skillfully to talk about it? Because we need to talk about it? Because we can't avoid it? It's here. Yeah, and, you know, I think one of the things that we do is weaponize our own grief around this our own urgency as opposed to create space for people to that's inviting to be able to have their own experience of grief around the natural world. Right? A lot of us have had that experience. And we've been we can't believe that others haven't, you know, has woken up to it. Right? Wake up and notice. Wake up and notice is not how I want to be woken up. That doesn't work. I try I have a 14 year old if I come in and shake her or throw water on her or tell her all of the things that she hasn't done or shouldn't be doing. No, that's not how we want to wake somebody up to this. You know, a good morning, I love you. You know, can I? Can I get your coffee? Would you want toast? Or do you want a croissant? Do you want fruit for breakfast? Right? Like, this morning, I gave her some of those choices. She was so touched, she was like, I would love a coffee. She didn't even drink it. But justit's through love. Of course, you're loving, it's tender. And a gentle is about creating space. If you do want people to start to see the world in some way that resembles your way of seeing. Right? One you don't know if they're gonna have the same experience and come to the same conclusions. But until you invite somebody in to look at it themselves and feel it. You've already told them that they're not allowed unless they have a certain set of experiences generally are a certain kind of fire under them to make change is the only way you can be a ticket holder into this conversation. Right this. So you know, there's an incredible book called The Persuaders that just came out. And now Anons going to destroy his last name that is about the right and the left, and how we need more on ramps into these these movements. And I highly recommend that to anybody. But I would also put a little little plug that in my book, I have also created some practices for how to navigate the deep grief and feelings around this. And also, you know, I started experimenting with this practice many years ago when I was teaching at Stanford and I'd, I'd bring the students out into the grass. And I'd ask them to tell me what they loved most about nature, and what they really got from nature. And from that love. What are we willing to fight for? Right? What just like anything, you know, like our family, our friends, if we love something enough, we care for it. We want to protect it and I think that that is I believe the most palpable way into the conversation and to feel the heartbreak around what's happening and you know, a lot of it we have caused, and then we have a choice of what actions we're going to take because pa I couldn't believe we can we can reverse it right? There's there's 100 ways to reverse this. But it requires a certain level of activation of all of us. Yeah. And then, you know, we did create a dinner model called Earth to dinner, which was in partnership with the Paris accord. And the earth in Paris movement in the UN was one of our partners, and we got 1000s of people to have conversations about climate change. But I'll leave you with one story. Because it's, it hasn't asked Yeah, what what evolved from that? Yes. But feel free to feel free to leave the story as well.Yeah, I mean, that. That was, it was incredibly powerful. And I got to work with Jack Black, which was fun. And one of those famous like internet famous cats, I can't remember his name. But nonetheless, the, the story I'll leave you with around it, because I still think it should happen. And I was in Iceland, and got inspired by the glacial melt in Iceland. And, you know, the fact that we are, we're very action oriented, when it comes to those people that are working on climate change, action is really the currency. And I realized that there's a step before action, which is great that we're missing. And so started working on a project to build a table out of the glacier and got, like, the leading ice sculptor in Iceland, to we went out into tests and took, can we cut a table out of the glacier. And then we have the arc at angles, one of the leading sustainable architects in the world cetera to design the table. So the arc angles, gonna design the table, and then how we were started to form this dinner around it. And Bjork said yes, and Sigur Ros was coming. And the president of Iceland was involved. And all of this was happening. And the idea was, okay, we're going to build this table out of ice, and we're going to have a dinner on it that we're going to film and then leave it for people to come visit it while it melts. But the dinner itself was called the goodbye glacier dinner. And the idea very simply was, you know, let's read this together. Let's talk about a world without ice and how that makes us feel. Let's talk a world of burial without glacier. Let's talk about the sixth extinction, that we're in the middle of let's have these conversations from what are we going to miss? How is that going to feel? Which is something that's not politicized? Alright, that's just like, how's it gonna feel? No, full stop. Not now, I want you to make sure you recycle. And you can't wear those, you know, you can't wear fur, or you can't do this, or you can't eat this, or there's no need for you know, let's just grieve. And so and then unfortunately, the idea was so popular that a friend of mine decided to build a whole festival around this and a thought leadership festival. And it got way too big and fancy. And then the whole thing exploded. But the the reason we were doing it in the first place was the goodbye glacier dinner, and the goodbye glacier table. And so it still hasn't happened. And maybe somebody is listening. Maybe someone will listen and they'll say, let's start. Yeah, I love it. Okay, if you want to do it, I'm up for it. Michael's up for reach out. That was your story. Beautiful. Well, I know you have as I shared at the beginning of introducing you, you have a couple other movements, generations over dinner, and that feels like a wonderful opportunity for people of all different ages to come together towards talking about some of these big conversations that were hospice sing out to create something new. Yeah. So yeah, generations over dinner, I'll just be briefly partnership with Chip Conley, Chip Conley, the founder of modern elder Academy, and I'm sure he's been talked about maybe he's been on this podcast he has and chip has a new book, and he's going to be on it again. So I am very inspired by Chip and his work at modern elder Academy and the emphasis on intergenerational wisdom sharing. Yes, this idea that a modern elder is as as curious as they are wise. And that it is about sharing, as as well as being you know, just that curiosity, that desire to learn. And that's the hallmark of what we need an elders right now. We're also age, we have an age apartheid, if you will. Don't know if we can Bandy around the term apartheid. So I apologize if that's offensive. But we have a divisiveness and separation around age we do not know, people of different ages, generally speaking, we are not age diverse, in our country are really very much around the world is one of those American ideas that has been exported, to really just spend your time around people same age and not live with people of different ages, etc. And so we decided to create another social ritual that is generations over dinner. And that's a challenge to see how many generations you can get at a dinner table. And these dinners are happening all over the world as well, there have been already to seven generation dinners, not of the same family, but the generations like boomers, greatest silent millennia, we've gotten all seven living at tables, or people have I haven't even done it, people got inspired by it. And they're like, we'll do it. And two of those dinners, one in Australia, one in the US have happened. And they're these dinners happening of work, mentioned that there were a lot of enterprise or workplace has the most intergenerational opportunity, for sure. Right. And, in many ways, the most generational division. So Chevron, Uber and LinkedIn are three companies that have taken on generation over dinner and are using it at scale. But the project that I'm most excited about you, we talk to you most excited about, and it's like, I get pretty excited about death, obviously. But this work with generations that we're doing in senior living, uh huh. The most the thing I'm most excited about. So there's, I don't know the percentage, there's a lot of us that are in senior living, and a lot of people that we love. And I had this realization one day that senior living, whether that's assisted care, independent living, etc, represents the largest and most concentrated reservoir of wisdom on the planet. And it's just sitting there and we are not tapping it. And we are not in conversation with it. And, you know, my mom, neighbor, and her senior living establishment is former governor Barbara Roberts, the first female governor of Oregon, who's unbelievable human being, no one goes to see her her family does, but she should, she would mentor people all day. And so we started working with senior living and was like, Sure if if we bring you generations over dinner, and also bring you the young people or you just open your doors to young young folks or people in the middle age one, you'll get more people who want to live in or work in senior living. But the loneliness epidemic that's happening at the oldest and the youngest, can be cured. And so now we're in like, 1000, Senior Living. Oh, I love hearing that. Well, my parents live and Valencia lakes, which is in Sun City, Florida, which is a quite a large 55 and older retirement village. And I was just spending a lengthy visit with them. And one of the things and I'm, I've always been an old soul, I have always had people in their 60s. In my life, I'm I'm in my early 40s. But I would go to the fitness center, this is just kind of a fun story. And I'd have lots of folks that I would just interact with, and they would just want to come up and give me wisdom. I saw a little lady, you know, like, like this, this man that was 90, which I wouldn't have known. He's like, don't stop moving. Like, okay, I'm not planning on it. And then this, this other man who was 66. But I want to respect their desire to share and it was it's beautiful, but you can't really get a workout in. But I love that. I love that, Michael, this conversation has been so meaningful. I just really appreciate how you have just started the conversation literally in so many important areas and your service. And I hope that we will be able to continue to converse, and I'm just very passionate about helping you amplify all these incredible movements. So thank you know, thanks for having me. And to those listening out there. It's all available. It's all free. Kind of never charged for any of these initiatives. So grab them, enjoy if death isn't the topic or psychedelic drugs had the topic that you're interested in generations over dinner is kind of for everybody. It is and all these links will be in the show. My notes, and Michael is also on LinkedIn. And he's got a website. And he's got a fabulous TED Talk. So all these all these links will be in the show notes, Michael, thank you again. Thanks so much talk soon. Hey, folks, thanks so much for listening to this wonderful conversation with Michael and I are on the intersection of grief and death. And therefore, how we want to fully live our lives. I wanted to share a few more thoughts and prompts, and resources, so that you could engage in this deeper inquiry around life and death for yourself when you're ready. And I'll start off with this, there is always a cycle of birth and death, and all things it's part of life. And nothing endures but change. And accepting this reality has the potential to transform the dread of dying into joyful living. I started working with cancer patients in my early 20s. And it informed me at an early age on the preciousness of life, I'd also had a meditation practice for probably a couple years before that journey of working with cancer patients. So I was already informed on how important being here for the present moment is. And I saw a lot of the patients that I was serving go through incredible changes when they knew they were about to die. I also saw some people that didn't have a chance to really pivot and had regrets on their deathbed. And last year, I knew that I needed a deeper reset for myself. And I took about 10 weeks sabbatical in Costa Rica, which is a place I've been going to for about 10 years. And I spent the first month in silence. And I have spent a lot of my life in the last 1314 years in silence. So I'd been getting myself ready to take a month, in some ways, because I had taken two to three weeks a year for many years. And it was incredibly nourishing for myself. And after I came out of silence, I prepared to die. Essentially, I had already decided to do a workshop with a teacher and a guide that I respected. And I shared a little bit about my experience with Michael, in the interview that you just listened to. But I had five days to live and die. And there were lots of very potent exercises that I did in preparation. And it was a real embodied experience. So much so that at the very end of the week, I was buried. And it gave me a lot to think about on how I wanted to live my life and what had the most urgency right now. And what came through were some really life changing insights. And I have as much as I can really try to orient my life around those insights into actions. And so one of the biggest aha was for me, when I knew I was about to die was I needed to invest in home, I needed to have a place to die. That was a place I felt safe, where I had loved ones where I had community where I deep roots. And I didn't have that. And I am cultivating that now I lived in the Bay Area for a lot of my adult life and because of how expensive it is, and because of some of what I chose to do during those many years, I couldn't invest in a property. And I frankly put the work of helping clients and companies above my own well being and my own happiness. And I wrote a book for almost four years. So there was a way that I was sacrificing my self in support of a purpose that I believed was more important. And that has really shifted I am no longer willing to make those same types of sacrifices for for the rest of my life. Because life is short, isn't it? And I think many people have been going through those same kinds of changes and acknowledgments over the past couple of years with the pandemic. And so as a result of facing my own death, I put some actions in place So that might be inspiring for you to hear. So I chose to spend three weeks with my parents in May, to nurture more connection really have meaningful time with them in these years where they're still healthy and able, and a lot of my life I have lived in California, and my family's in Florida, and it was incredibly sweet and tender. And I'm so grateful for it. And I hope that we will all have more time like that to connect, and get to know one another. There are ways that I know my parents now that I didn't know when I was a teenager, or even in my early 20s. And I think there are ways that they're getting to know me, as well. I have also recently moved to a community where I am really excited to invest more time and energy, in community in play in friendship, and belonging. And I'm holding greater boundaries around what is my right work, and what do I need that supports me to do that right work in a way that is balanced. So these are just some of some of the things that I have been putting into play. And frankly, one of the things that is also driving this greater motivation is that based on the warming that is occurring in the planet, and not knowing what is going to happen with our planet, and not really knowing how humanity is going to show up in this time, I know it's going to be hot, how hot it's going to be is up to us. And based on that there will be more adaptations, there will be more floods and fires and smoke and scarcity of water and resources. And therefore, in order to really enjoy my life, in addition to the My deeper purpose, to help solve some of these big problems we have created. I don't want to miss out on the beauty that is here. Speaking of the intersection of grief, and ecological death, I wanted to share with you some practices that I wrote about in my book that I think will be really helpful for you, if you like me, are also looking for those tools and resources to help you navigate what is here, what is coming. And so in chapter nine of my book, there is a practice. There's a couple practices actually one of them is turning emotional upset into inspired action. And I do believe that by having greater emotional resilience, we will have greater climate resilience. So allow yourself to just listen in to this excerpt from my book. I presented at Planet home in 2019, which is a gathering of changemakers scientists, Hollywood activists and musicians who are bringing greater awareness to climate problems as well as their solutions. During planet home, I led the participants of my workshop through a hike in nature in the Presidio of San Francisco. I invited those on the hike to notice what they love about Nietzsche, and based on that love what feelings arose when they thought about the Amazon burning, the glaciers melting, and the massive amounts of species dying every day. People shared deep grief, anger, fear, uncertainty and hope. Embracing the discomfort allows us to inform ourselves about how we want to act in service of the earth. So hearing that, I invite you to go out in nature once a week, and walk barefoot on the ground. Listen to the earth. Allow yourself to feel the nourishment from your connection to nature. And notice your love and appreciation of your surroundings. Let yourself feel all the feelings that arise about the destruction of our planet. And if the feelings are too much to bear, drop down to the earth with your hands and knees and let the earth hold some of your fear grief and rage. Yell if you have to let the emotions release from your body. You don't need to hold them in. From a deep place of feeling. Ask yourself how do I want to show up in service of To the earth, and then whatever answer arises, follow it. This will help you to stand in your commitment to be a good steward of this planet. And a couple of prompts for you, in addition to that practice before we end. When we think about using death as a catalyst to live a more meaningful life, there is another book that could also be helpful for you. There's so many, but this one came to mind. So Daniel Pink, an author that I respect, wrote a book about regrets. And he spoke about the five most common regrets that people had in life. So here they are, one, I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me to. I wish I hadn't worked so hard. Three, I wish I had the courage to express my feelings. For I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends, five, I wish that I had allowed myself to be happier. So in thinking about this conversation, what you've heard for me from Michael, if you're curious how you will start your journey to use death as a way to live a more meaningful and purposeful life. If you enjoyed this episode, please give me a five star review helps so much and then other folks can find the shine podcast, share with friends, family colleagues on LinkedIn, we are all in this together and sharing is caring. Are you seeking a catalyst to increase trust in your team upskill your leadership create a flourishing culture. I am your person. These are my areas of genius. And I love solving problems creating strategy, enrolling stakeholders related to these topics. And I've had incredible results with amazing companies. Reach out to me on LinkedIn, and book a consultation. I would love to help. I have some incredible interviews coming in the rest of this podcast season so make sure you subscribe to the shine podcast. Additionally, there's a lot of resources in the show notes around some of the pieces that Michael and I spoke about. Thanks so much for listening. And until we meet again, be the light and shine the light

The organisation gets religion about Diversity, Equity and Inclusion (DEI).  The senior management team, led by the President, decide this is a key path for moving forward.  The upside in achieving greater innovation and creativity by embracing a more inclusive workplace is seen as the Holy Grail.  The Middle Managers are told to get behind the push on DEI.  Brilliant that getting change in Japan is so easy.  Japanese staff love change.  They want their boss to change, their subordinates to change, their colleagues to change, their clients to change, but they want to stay precisely the same.  DEI in Japan is mainly about gender issues, rather than race, religion or national identity. The male Middle Managers themselves are part of the cohort of not wanting to change, regardless of what senior management may be saying.  No one will openly oppose the pronouncements from the top, but that doesn't mean there is any real enthusiasm for change. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, a Swiss-American psychiatrist wrote a book called “On Death and Dying” which identified five stages of grief, which can be extrapolated to assist our understanding about how humans deal with DEI change.    1.     Shock The initial reaction to hearing that the organization is going to embrace change around DEI, can be very confronting for male Middle Managers and the males in their teams.  Usually, the communication in organisations around change is minimal.  Basically, senior management has made this decision, this is why and get on with it.  The lack of what is considered satisfactory explanation sets off rumours, mis-information and confusion in the ranks.  This is why companies must do a thorough job of selling DEI to the team, in depth and continuously. 2.     Denial After the initial shock of the announcement a sense of disbelief can spread and hopes that this will be a “light” intervention which won't really affect the status quo.  Japan defers to age and stage in companies and what will DEI mean for the current hierarchy?  Will there be a lessening of opportunities for males to advance, in order to meet some arbitrary ratio of female managers?  Why do we need to change at all, when this is how it has always been done?  Senior management needs to recognise these fears and directly address them.  Information vacuums will get filled with gossip, inuendo and false flags unless there is a big sales effort on the positives of change. 3.     Anger Isn't this a stupid idea from senior management? Won't this weaken the strength of the organisation, relative to our rivals and won't clients have trouble accepting the change and therefore we will lose business?  Pronouncements are clearly not going to be enough.  When DEI first popped up on the radar in Japan, companies would ask us to train the women.  I always questioned that assumption.  The kacho or section head is the key person who needs educating.  Usually a he, the kacho determines who gets coached, given delegated tasks for personal development and who gets promoted. Unless the kacho gets it, there will be an underlying resistance to DEI which will never be vocalized, but which will continue regardless.  4.     Bargaining “DEI is okay in theory, but our case is different.  We have special circumstances here and so some adjustments have to be made”.  This is typically how Middle Management whittles away at changes they don't like.  They are ninja at finding all the problems and can come up with tons of justifications to dilute the change effort, while all the while embracing the headline statements as gospel.  Naturally, there will be some flexibility needed to role out DEI programmes however senior management have to be very vigilant about how the processes are worked though. 5.     Dejection When male Middle Managers realise that this DEI change is here to stay, they can become demotivated.  They fear their years of loyal service has been devalued and their future promotion prospects have been impinged, all for a fad.  They need to be told they are valued, they have a role here and that the form needs their contribution to arm it with the creativity and innovation needed to best the competition. 6.     Letting Go People believe what they see.  When the benefits of greater inclusion become a reality, it is easier to get behind the idea, which is no longer seen as just some ivory tower theory.  Also, the consistent support for DEI from the senior leadership group underlines this isn't going away and is becoming a permanent fixture of how the organisation functions.  7.      Exploration Diversity of opinion and inclusion of different angles around decision-making is what makes the adoption of DEI an advantage inside the organisation.  If the decisions are better and if the outcomes are better, than what could have been achieved before, then this initiates a different set of responses and changes thinking about what is possible. 8.     Acceptance Gradually, it becomes clear that the worst fears were not realized. Even unexpected benefits appeared.  The doomsayers were proven wrong, the system settles down to a new reality and everyone moves forward.  Planning for these stages would be a clever move by senior management, in addition to their various pronouncements from on high.  The DEI process is a process and as such, it has to be supported all the way through these seven stages, if it is going to stick.  That requires consistent work over many years, until DEI becomes part of the culture of the organisation.  Best to plan for that from the beginning.

CANCERStuff We Don't Talk About (but probably should) – Part 3Springcreek Church | Pastor Keith StewartMay 14, 2023Perhaps no other word in the English language is as feared as the word Cancer. When we hear the word cancer, immediately we associate it with other words like pain, suffering, disfigurement, and perhaps even death. Just how likely is it that you or someone you love will face a cancer diagnosis? Statistics tell us 1 in 3 people in this country will be diagnosed with some sort of cancer in their lifetime. This means the likelihood that you or someone you love will be given a cancer diagnosis is extremely high. What do you do when that statistic is you? How do you support friends and loved ones through this process? And where is God in all of this? Discover the answer to those questions and many more.FIND ADDITIONAL RESOURCES FOR HELP HERE:www.springcreekchurch.org/resources/Or, text RESOURCES to 96995DISCUSSION QUESTIONS 1. Pastor Keith took some time to explain some of the many ways we deny death. What are some of the ways that stood out to you? Can you think of other ways we deny death as a culture? Would you say you personally lean more toward death denialism or death remembrance and why? Have you ever been to a funeral? Whose funeral was it? What do you remember about it? What did you like or dislike about it?2. The purpose behind remembering death is not to become obsessed with death itself – far from it! Instead, it's to teach us to number our days (Psalm 90.12) and live our lives intentionally, purposefully, and meaningfully. Discuss the following quote…“It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth - and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up - then we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.” - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross 3. Pastor Keith made the case that the purpose of life cannot be to be remembered or that our name will live on. Just the simple reality that very few human beings who've ever lived will be remembered beyond two or three generations. He suggested that life's true purpose that applies to us all is simply to live out our love for God and our neighbors because love is the one virtue that we carry with us into eternity. What do you think of this idea? If you disagree, then how would you answer the question, what is the purpose and meaning behind life? And how do we square that with the reality that we are all so soon forgotten?4. There is no question that death is a different experience for a believer in many ways. How has Christ's work on the cross changed the experience of death? How does your faith and walk with God impact how you experience the loss of others in death? If someone claims to be a follower of Christ and is struggling with the fear of death, how would you advise them, pray for them and support them?FIND MORE RESOURCES HERE:https://www.springcreekchurch.org/resources#realspringcreekchurch #cancer #stuffwedonttalkabout

Yes we're diving in to those (in)famous staged of grief from the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her book "On Death and Dying." And yes, I am biased! Mentioned in the episode: https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/health-history/its-time-let-five-stages-grief-die https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula Music: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nikkideathdoula/support

"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen." - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. Struggling to find the support she needed after her best friend was murdered, Buffy was determined to not let Sarah's death be in vain. Hear her story on forging a path to honor Sarah and give hope and support to others! Be sure to check out facingtomorrow.org for more information and resources.

Meditation - Mindfulness - Peace - Suffering. My guest today, Ramananda John Welshon's has practiced meditation for over 50 years and shares his personal journey that led him to studying religion and meditation as his life's work.  Highlights include: His healing journey A miraculous moment His rememberance of Ram Dass and Stephen Levine The difference between mindfulness and meditation What meditation means to him I loved this conversation and the peace I felt being in the presence of someone grounded in love. I hope it will delight you as well! JOHN E. WELSHONS (“Ramananda”) is a contemporary spiritual teacher and meditation teacher whose teachings weave together the world's great mystical and contemplative traditions. He lectures and leads workshops, classes, and retreats across North America. He was a close associate of Ram Dass and Stephen Levine, and trained - in 1976 - with Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. He has traveled and studied extensively in India - spending time at the ashrams of Meher Baba and Neem Karoli Baba. He is the author of three critically-acclaimed books: One Soul, One Love, One Heart; When Prayers Aren't Answered; and Awakening From Grief . Full Show Notes

In this episode of Share Your Story: Exploring humanity one heart at a time, we meet Certified Grief Counselor Lyn Prashant. we talk about how Lyn got into Grief Work, what she's learned from pioneers in the field, and how she incorporates these lessons to serve others. Other topics we cover include collective and environmental grief, taking care of ourselves, and how grief is stored in our bodies, suicide, and overdose. "Grief is the most available, untapped, emotional personal resource for personal transformation." Remember to subscribe to the show so you don't miss behind-the-scenes insights and special tips and tools about grief. https://anchor.fm/jenny-dilts-grievingcoach/subscribe Lyn Prashant Lyn is a Certified Grief Counselor and Somatic Thanatologist who wrote “Transforming Somatic Grief, training manual” She is the founder of Degriefing®: Integrative Grief Therapy. Degriefing employs both verbal and physical methodologies to relieve an individual's emotional distress, mental anguish, and physical discomfort. She has a wealth of experience including residing at the Living/Dying Project working with Stephen and Ondrea Levine, as well as working with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and many others. Lyn can be found at degriefing.com and on LinkedIn and Facebook @Lyn Prashant. You can also email her at lyn@degriefing.com. Lyn works in both English and Spanish. Meet your host Jenny Dilts Jenny is the founder of Grieving Coach. A Certified Grief Coach, she guides people as they convert grief into growth in their own way without expectations, judgments, and despair. Jenny can be found at grievingcoach.com and on social media. Facebook: @Grieving Coach LinkedIn: jennydilts-grievingcoach To support the Share Your Story, you can donate at https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=ECQDQS6LBD894 If you are struggling with grief visit grievingcoach.com and schedule a time to chat. I will give you one tool that you can implement today to help you make your grief just a little bit lighter.

In this episode we unpack Swiss Psychiatrist and Author Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's classic book "On Death and Dying" from 1969. This book explores... The Fear of Death in the Modern Age The Five Stages of Grief Advice for Navigating the 5 Stages of Grief Links to Reading & Articles mentioned On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross The Trauma of Birth by Otto Rank Uses of the Erotic by Audrey Lorde Illness as Metaphor by Susan Sontag Empathy vs. Sympathy by Brene Brown (video) *note* reading is not required to enjoy this episode! Host: Zach Stehura UnpackingIdeas.com Guest: Andrea Dispenziere Psychology Today Theme Music: Polyenso Timestamps 00:00:00 Introduction 00:02:58 Autumn's Association with Death 00:06:15 Reminding Ourselves of our Mortality 00:13:19 Fear of Death in the Modern Age 00:14:40 Decline in Infant Mortality 00:17:25 Impersonal Treatment of Terminal Patients 00:24:29 The Illusion of Control 00:25:39 Summary of Kubler-Ross's Interview Project 00:28:10 Verbal Ventilation 00:28:59 Importance of Meaning/Purpose 00:33:38 Mourning the Loss of Certain Abilities before Death 00:36:42 The Five Stages of Grief 00:38:23 Stage 1: Denial 00:39:18 Euphemism 00:40:51 Emotional Detachment 00:46:00 The Stigma of Denial 00:48:50 The Last Stage of the 5 stages of grief is the First Step of the 12 steps Program 00:50:05 The Link between Denial and Hope 00:52:16 Shock and Numbness 00:53:22 The Connection between Isolation and Denial 00:55:24 Stage 2: Anger 00:55:29 Anger at God 00:57:06 Anger at Oneself 00:59:05 Victim Blaming 01:01:00 Anger at the Living 01:02:16 Stage 3: Bargaining 01:02:54 Ambivalence 01:04:50 Bargaining with God 01:05:43 Reneging on the “Agreement” 01:10:45 Stage 4: Depression 01:10:49 Reactive vs. Preparatory Depression 01:12:47 Telling the Depressed Person to “Cheer Up” 01:14:15 Grieving your Anticipated Future 01:18:49 Sitting with the Person in Whatever Stage They're In 01:21:28 Stage 5: Acceptance 01:21:36 Detaching from Life 01:22:30 Conflating Acceptance as “Quitting” 01:23:30 Difficulty Accepting Death in a Masculine Culture 01:25:57 Need for Solitude at End of Life 01:29:12 Kubler-Ross's View of Death and Dying 01:30:30 Wrapping up/Outro

Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Almost everyone has heard about the five stages of grief. However, these 5 stages were first proposed in 1969, which is why many people question their relevance in today's world. Plus, despite their popularity, grief researchers have continuously demonstrated that everyone handles grief in their own distinct way. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, the creator of the 5 stages of grief, herself said it was never meant to be prescriptive; it was meant to be descriptive. So why are people still following a framework that is obviously not correct? In this episode, we'll talk about the five stages of grief and the controversy around them. We'll also discuss frameworks to help you explore your emotions the best way you see fit after the passing of a loved one. What You'll Learn: The 5 stages of grief explained Controversy and myths around the 5 stages of grief The evolution of grief Understand that grief isn't linear Why it's impossible to understand somebody else's grief The thin line between grief and clinical depression Do people experience all five stages of grief? Mindset shifts to help you ride the waves of grief Resources: Join my Free Facebook Group ‘Widowed and Rising' https://www.facebook.com/groups/widowedandrising Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/karensuttonwidowcoach Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/karensuttonwidowcoach/ TikTok http://www.tiktok.com/@karensuttonwidowcoach Twitter https://twitter.com/KarenWidow LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/karensuttonwidowcoach/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNgKpAqSpEdQV2zYJIPaHvg My website https://www.karensutton.co.uk/

We are clearly in a day that majors in fulfilling the prophecy of 2 Timothy 4:3-4. “For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.” Examples abound. Many churches that profess to be Bible-believing fellowships do not live up to their claims. They say they believe in the inerrancy, the authority, and the sufficiency of the Word of God. However, in practice they have mixed what God has said with the so-called wisdom of mankind. Here's how that plays out, starting with the sufficiency of the Scriptures. The evangelical church is a major referral source for the mental health community. More often than not, Christians dealing with mental and emotional problems are referred to psychological counselors by their pastors, especially to so-called Christian psychologists. This is a field that attempts to integrate secular psychological concepts with biblical teachings. As I mentioned last month, the foundational concepts are drawn from the theories of Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung, Abraham Maslow, Carl Rogers, and to them we could add Karen Horney, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, and many of their disciples. All such theories are antichrist at best.



“… our concern must be to live while we're alive - to release our inner selves from the spiritual death that comes with living behind a facade designed to conform to external definitions of who and what we are.” - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross / we're here for self realization / there's a bigger ROI on your spiritual life / yoga wisdom could save yoga asana / Postulate 4 - My body is a vehicle for devotional service / sexual attraction is the basic principle of material existence, and leads to thinking in terms of I and mine / who is the real sannyasi? SB 4.28.14-17



“… our concern must be to live while we're alive - to release our inner selves from the spiritual death that comes with living behind a facade designed to conform to external definitions of who and what we are.” - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross / we're here for self realization / there's a bigger ROI on your spiritual life / yoga wisdom could save yoga asana / Postulate 4 - My body is a vehicle for devotional service / sexual attraction is the basic principle of material existence, and leads to thinking in terms of I and mine / who is the real sannyasi? SB 4.28.14-17

I share vulnerably about how I was judging myself for results I was hoping for but haven't seen yet.  

Support PTSD and Beyond - Buy us a Ko-fi cuppa or support on Patreon! PTSD and Beyond Patreon Sponsors - Dr. Pamela Hall and T. Wilton Dale! Thank YOU! Sponsor Dr. Pamela Hall, visit: Web: LAForensicPsychologist Book: PTSDUnplugged Sponsor T. Wilton Dale, visit: Website: www.TWiltonDale.ca Book: A Greater Good - An Incoming Tide   "Life is one great experiment, and it can be joyful," Bernie Siegel, M.D. On June 12, 1989, Dr. Bernie Siegel graced the cover of the New Yorker. Entitled, "Doctor Love...Bernie Siegel and his controversial theories of self-healing." Einstein said, "Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds." Dr. Siegel (who refers to be called Bernie) is a pioneer in the Mind-Body Healing relationship and revolutionized the way doctors and patients harnessed the power of the mind to heal.  A retired general and pediatric surgeon, New York Times Best-Selling Author, founder of the ECap (a form of individual and group therapy for cancer patients), Bernie challenged conventional medical practices when experiencing patients who defied the odds of healing, getting well, and living fulfilling lives. One patient said to Bernie, "You're a nice guy...I feel better seeing you but I cannot take you home." This experience got Bernie thinking that he could do more as doctor to help people between office visits.  In this episode, Bernie shares the inspiration he's given to tens of millions of people over the years spanning over 4 decades. He talks about an experience interpreting a drawing with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, the importance of love, how doctor and patient work together as a team, the one question to ask yourself when struggling. As always...listen, take what resonates, and go beyond! In Love and Healing, Dr. Deb To connect with Bernie, visit: Website - BernieSiegelMD Books - Love, Medicine, & Miracles, 101 Exercises for the Soul, When You Realize How Perfect Everything Is (Bernie Siegel, MD & Grandson, Charlie Siegel) Poetry - by Bernie To connect with Dr. Deb Lindh, visit: Website - Dr. Deb Lindh Twitter - @DebraLindh Twitter- @PTSDandBeyond LinkedIn - Dr. Deb Lindh More on PTSD and Beyond: For further information about the PTSD and Beyond Podcast, global #PTSDandBeyond Twitter Chat (every MON @ 8 p.m. ET), and PTSDandBeyond.org, connect at: Hello@PTSDandBeyond.org Support PTSD and Beyond - Buy us a Ko-fi cuppa or support on Patreon!    

Val Zavala, former anchor/reporter for the long-running KCET (L.A. PBS station) series SoCal Connected and Life & Times talks about: The ‘Extinction Circle' group that she was part of for a couple years, meeting once a month to discuss likely human extinction (before the pandemic led the group to slowly disband; meantime she continues to be an active member of her local ‘Death Café'); how approaching humanity's future is akin to Elisabeth Kubler Ross' five stages of grief; the oil industry's campaign of disinformation and its effect on the climate crisis; a profoundly thoughtful Buddhist take on our (humankind's) fate; relating extinction to former guest Fernando Dominguez Rubio's study of the preservation of artworks in the museum, and what Val thinks of the lengths museums go to maintain artworks' longevity; the concept of EA, or Effective Altruism, in relation to human longevity; “Seeding” the future, which is to say leaving a better foundation for future civilizations; and her “New 10 Commandments for Future Generations.”

Hello everyone and welcome back to Microcast Monday. Shorts burst of inspiration and motivation to get you started on the right path.  A big thank you to YOU! The criminal justice professional. Whatever you are doing and wherever you are at, remember you are honored, cherished and loved. Keep up the great work.  When it comes to your treatment there are a lot of options out there. There are organizations that are claiming to cure you quickly. Nothing, nothing comes quickly. Remember to do your research. FHE Health is the #1 Treatment and Recovery Center for First Responders.  If you are struggling with addiction, mental health challenges, or both, please reach out. My life changed for the better when I took that step forward. I am so grateful for FHE Health and The Shatterproof Program for First Responders. Reach out at 844-650-1399 or contact me directly at 303-960- 9819.  https://fherehab.com/services/first-responders/   The most beautiful people in the world are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness and deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen - Elisabeth Kubler Ross    Go out and conquer your day and week. Stay tuned for more great guests on the CJEvolution Podcast. www.cjevolution.com   Patrick

After being hurt and disaffected by her church experience, with thoughts of suicide, how did former Christian Worship Leader Megan Brown, rediscover her value to God and redefine her purpose? All Heart with Paul Cardall speaks to the 24 year old independent singer/songwriter from Hendersonville, Tennessee about her church experience and the music she's recorded that's giving voice to people like Megan who've been hurt. They talk about the challenge some Christians have of not understanding how to separate a healthy and productive relationship with God from a relationship with a Church of imperfect humans whose intentions are not always pure. Megan offers advice for pastors in hopes that the thousands of fans resonating with her songs will be heard and understood in their pain. Listening and understanding the hearts of parishioners over preaching is the most important action Megan believes a Church can do to prevent guilt, shame, anxiety, depression, and suicide.Megan Brown's thought-provoking songs like “If I'm Honest” and “Open Up Your Mind” authentically tackle self-doubt, anxiety, depression and suicide among Christians. Her experiences and gift of music is shaping her purpose, which is to explore songs filled with authenticity and honesty, acknowledging our insecurities, doubt, pain, struggles and scars while endlessly pursuing a relationship with a God who knows our hearts, a God who bleeds, a God who weeps, the God whose own suffering and scars remind us that we are not alone... Psychiatrist and a Pioneer in near-death studies, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, wrote, “The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others, but ourselves as well.”Megan says, “I make music for people who have been hurt by people in church and have almost left the faith because of it.”Discover Megan on Social MediaTikTok InstagramFacebook YoutubeSpotify Paul Cardall is an artist who has given a new meaning to the phrase, a change of heart and how he used this radical change to take his music to an unexpected place.  Despite being born with a potentially life-threatening heart defect Paul Cardall has become a world recognized pianist. He is even endorsed by Steinway & Sons as one of the finest pianist of our time.A Dove award winner for his Christmas album, Paul's recordings have debuted on 11 No. 1 Billboard charts along with 46 other chart debuts. His music has 25 million monthly listeners with more than 3 billion lifetime streams and is often categorized as Classical, Christian, and Holiday. Although most of albums are instrumental, Paul has songs that feature Grammy winning gospel legend CeCe Winans, Matt Hammitt (Sanctus Real), Kristin Chenoweth, Country duo Thompson Square, David Archuleta, Tyler Glenn (Neon Trees), Audrey Assad, Steven Sharp Nelson (The Piano Guys), and more.   Paul has performed for audiences worldwide including the White House. Forbes, American Songwriter, Jesus Calling, Lifestyle Magazine, Mix Magazine, Billboard and countless other media outlets have share his remarkable journey of receiving a life changing heart transplant and using music as a tool to help God heal spiritual, mental, and emotional hearts.Website - www.paulcardall.com/podcastFacebook - @paulcardallmusicIG - @paulcardallIG - @allheartwithpaulcardallTwitter - @paulcardallYoutube - @cardall 

We've been given a narrative about grief that does not necessarily serve all of our loss experiences. The 5 emotional stages were originally identified by Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross while she was working with terminally ill patients, palliative care, and hospice for those who were near death. It grew and is now widely used for bereavement, and other loss and change experiences. Friedman and James disagree with the overuse of the stages and believe there are more helpful ways to see our way through grief and loss. Also, we have learned a number of unhealthy ways to understand how to cope with our experiences. Listen to this week's podcast to see why unlearning old and learning new strategies to recover from our grief can help reduce depression and anxiety.

Welcome to this episode of Best Friend Therapy, where we chat about what's on our minds, to get deeper in our minds.Well, we've reached the final episode of season one (sob!) so it seemed only fitting to make this a conversation all about endings. But don't panic, because we also look at the beginnings that follow endings - including the beginning of season two of Best Friend Therapy, which will be here before you know it!We talk about the endings that arose through the pandemic, how friendships and relationships evolve, and what quitting really means. Elizabeth shares a personal experience of bereavement and Emma shares her perspective of grief through a therapy lens. It's not an easy listen at times, but one we hope will help anyone who has experienced loss themselves.We hope that you've enjoyed this first season of Best Friend Therapy as much as we have and would love to hear from you! So why not email us or slide into our DMs and let us know what you'd like us to talk about next time. We'll be back soon with another conversation for the soul but, in the meantime, if you could rate, review and subscribe, we'd be so grateful. ---Elizabeth references "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle.Emma talks about the grief cycle, developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and made famous in her book, "On Death and Dying", in 1969.Both are available from all good book stores. ---Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp. To contact us, email contact@bestfriendtherapy.co.uk---Social Media:Elizabeth Day @elizabdayEmma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrellBest Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy

In today's conversation with renowned grief expert and author, David Kessler, we explore the concept of “acceptance” and what it really means.No stranger to grief, David lost his son to addiction in 2016. He candidly talks about how to cope with feelings of shame and guilt that can accompany this type of loss. We discuss feeling pressure to create purpose from pain and pick David's brains about what finding meaning in loss actually looks like. Spoiler alert – it's much simpler than you think. ​​He also breaks down some of the misconceptions surrounding the ‘Five Stages of Grief'. Having co-authored books with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, who came up with the model, it's fair to say he's an expert on the theory. Other topics we cover are:How to cope when you're grieving differently from othersComplicated grief How to manage feelings of grief and guiltHow we grieve differently when we had an estranged relationship with the person who diedThe concept of light and dark in grief …and we also get a bit of ‘signs' chat in, which we love!We hope you enjoy this honest and enlightening conversation as much as we did.Links Buy David's book Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief here.Find out more about David's ‘Tender Hearts' course here.Connect with usGrief is the price we pay for love, but it can be lonely. If you need some extra grief support, join our private Facebook support group, Good Mourning Grief Community, here, follow us on Instagram at @goodmourningpodcast or drop us a line here.Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoy the podcast, we'd love it if you could leave us a rating or review on Apple or Spotify podcasts. And don't forget to subscribe, so you don't miss any of our future episodes!

What is your relationship with Death?  It may seem like an odd question, but your answer to it has everything to do with your quality of life. My guest on this episode shares actionable insight into this relationship so that we can optimize our quality of life.    Introducing Dr. Frederic Tate Dr. Frederic Tate is a fascinating human with a perspective on Life and Death forged in the crucible of end-of-life care. A trusted friend connected us, so I knew Frederic was someone I should get to know. And I took an immediate shine to him from afar when I learned that he grew up in the Appalachian Mountains like I did. It's been a pleasure getting to know him, and it's a pleasure to share his wisdom with you today.  Frederic's wisdom is backed by tons of credibility. He holds undergraduate degrees in art and psychology, completed his doctorate at Southern Illinois University, and holds a clinical affiliation in art therapy. Frederic published articles on the topic of death and dying and was fortunate to study under the tutelage of internationally-renowned psychiatrist and authority on death and dying, Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. He was also one of the founders of Jack's House, the first hospice specifically for gay men with HIV/AIDS on the East coast.  For 36 years, Frederic worked at Eastern State Hospital in Williamsburg, VA--established in colonial times as the nation's first public hospital. At Eastern State, he worked with inpatient, adult males with serious mental illness. In addition, he has served as adjunct faculty at The College of William and Mary and Eastern Virginia Medical School in Norfolk, lecturing on hospice and palliative care. Today, Frederic is happily retired. He volunteers in hospice and at a local food pantry. He's an avid biker, hiker, kayaker, and international traveler. When he's not out in nature, he can be found at home reading, painting, or slaughtering the classics on his baby grand piano.    Some Highlights from This Conversation The surprising connection between the denial of Death and violence and strife in our culture The importance of tending to our “inner work,” especially our relationship with Death and dying The importance of symbols of Death and the individual and cultural cost of their absence Why Halloween and The Day of the Dead are among the most important holidays How “tasks of grieving” has replaced the 5 Stages of Grief that many of us are familiar with One way that our “civilized” culture would benefit from becoming “uncivilized” How to upgrade your relationship with Death And more…   Making It Matter in Your Life Let's circle back to the question we started this episode with, but now equipped with the benefit of the conversation you just heard:  "What is your relationship with Death?"  I hope by now you're more persuaded that we all, in fact, have a relationship with Death--even if until now it's been largely an unconscious or subconscious one. And I hope, too, that you're more persuaded of the immense practical importance of understanding your personal relationship with Death and evolving it wherever it's inadequate or working against you.   If you're not persuaded yet, what's missing? What reservations or doubts need resolution?  If you are persuaded, at least sufficiently so, then what's a next step for you in evolving your relationship with Death so that it can improve your quality of life even more? Maybe, as Frederic suggested, it's time to read more on the topic. Maybe it's time to introduce concrete symbols of Death into your Life. Maybe Halloween takes on a different significance for you this year.  Whatever you decide your next step is, don't delay. Take even more responsibility for your quality of life, and take that step today.  Remember: You ARE going to die. But you're not dead yet. So get after it!   I Can Help Want support evolving your relationship with Death and improving your quality of life? I can help.  Find me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn, visit my website, or email me. I'm so glad you tuned in today. Don't forget to follow this show, and I'll see you next time on Andrew Petty is Dying.   Books & Authors Recommended by Frederic The Only  Dance There Is (Ram Dass) The Road Less Traveled (M. Scott Peck, M.D.) On Death and Dying (Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.)   If You Liked This Episode, I Think You'll Like These, Too Ep. 001 | You're Dying: How to Make the Most of It Ep. 018 | Life's 3 Big Questions: A Conversation with the Coroner   Connect with Frederic: Email   Follow Andrew Petty is Dying & Leave a Review Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Google Podcasts | Stitcher

In today's discussion, performance mindset coach, Sean Hansen, looks at the power of grief, specifically the grieving process, to help us actually address the challenges in our lives.When people experience loss, especially loss of something deeply meaningful, it is natural to mourn that loss.  However, many people close themselves off from the pain and simultaneously keeping themselves from acknowledging the truth of their loss.  By not acknowledging the truth of their reality, they never set themselves into a position to actually move on.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance?  Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.Resources:Mayo Clinic's article on what grief is.Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's 5 Stages of Grief ModelTriggers by David Richo

Sara and Jolene promised short episodes and this one runs a little longer but it's worth it. Having conversations around end-of-life planning are not easy and the paperwork that accompanies them doesn't make it any easier. Teresa talks about the documents you'll want to have on hand and she shares why end of life conversations are vital to living. In this episode Teresa references two books: Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End by Atul Gawande and Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' book On Death & Dying.

In this episode, Jackie talks about chapter 5 in The Tao of Fully Feeling.  Often when we think of grieving, we think of being sad, maybe crying.  Or we think of the stages of grief developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross.  In this chapter, author Pete Walker expands on essentials to grieving as we explore childhood trauma.  

After suffering loss, you may find there is a clear distinction between the "before" and "after" versions of YOU! You have changed. Grief has changed you. That's the discussion this week on the podcast. There are 2 excerpts highlighted in today's episode: One from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and one from Cara Hope Clark, author of the book Widow's Moon. Have you joined our amazing membership community yet? We meet every Wednesday night at 7pm EST for amazing discussions like this one! Sign up at: www.widow180.com/membership And I would love to help you find your purpose! My new program is open for registration now! Let's find what lights you up and ignites passion in your life again! Sign up at www.widow180.com/purpose