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Most of us try to avoid conflict, particularly at work. But when done right, conflict can be a tool to strengthen interpersonal bonds and generate better results. In this episode, Anne and Frances team up with Amanda Ripley, global conflict journalist and author of the bestselling book High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. They tackle the missteps teams often make when it comes to handling conflict and provide actionable alternatives to foster healthy conflict habits in any organization.FollowHosts: Anne Morriss (@annemorriss | LinkedIn: @anne-morriss), Frances Frei (@francesxfrei | LinkedIn: @francesfrei) Guest: Amanda Ripley (Instagram: @ripleywriter | Website: amandaripley.com/) Linkshttps://anneandfrances.com/High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get OutSubscribe to TED Instagram: @tedYouTube: @TEDTikTok: @tedtoksLinkedIn: @ted-conferencesWebsite: ted.comPodcasts: ted.com/podcastsFor the full text transcript, visit ted.com/podcasts/fixable-transcriptsWant to help shape TED's shows going forward? Fill out our survey! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As Canadians head to the polls later this month, Move Smartly co-hosts Urmi and John assess the Liberal, Conservative and NDP housing plans. Featuring John's interview with campaigning Liberal Housing Minister, Nate Eskine-Smith. Follow us and send us your questions and feedback via Twitter @MoveSmartly, Instagram @move.smartly, or email: editor@movesmartly.com  Show Notes: Liberal Party - March 2025 -Building Canada Strong: https://liberal.ca/housing-plan/ Conservative Party - March 2025 - Building Homes Not Bureaucracy: https://www.conservative.ca/building-homes-not-bureaucracy Conservative Party - Dec 2023: Housing Hell - How We Got Here and How We Get Out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RxKI9zKhDNE&t=782s NDP - March 2025 - Building More Homes: https://www.ndp.ca/building-more-homes About This Show The Move Smartly show is co-hosted by Urmi Desai, Editor of Move Smartly, and John Pasalis, President and Broker of Realosophy Realty. MoveSmartly.com and its media channels on YouTube and various podcast platforms are powered by Realosophy Realty in Toronto, Canada. You can also watch this episode on our MoveSmartly YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/movesmartly If you enjoy our show and find it useful, please like, subscribe, share, review and comment on whatever platform you are watching or listening to us from - we appreciate your support!

Carm Aufderheide, CSAT, KPA-CTP, CTDP-KA, MS-CRES, is a dog behavior consultant with a master's degree in conflict and dispute resolution. In this episode, Carm and I talk about conflict in the dog breeding world - and in dog training, human politics, and other parts of life. Why are we as humans so likely to fall into conflict with others? Why is it so hard to convince others of your viewpoint when you're in conflict with them? How can we do things differently so we can start having meaningful conversations with others in which we and they are able to think deeply about why we believe what we believe? To learn more about Carm, check out https://www.northstartraining.info/ - note that in addition to dog training services, she does consults to help with conflict resolution. In this episode, Carm and I talk about a lot of books that she recommends. They are: Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection, by Charles Duhigg How Minds Change: The Surprising Science of Belief, Opinion, and Persuasion, by David McRaney High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, by Amanda Ripley Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It, by Chris Voss Street Epistemology (check out YouTube for examples)

Matt speaks with Lauren Hall about "radical moderation," a framework that encourages moving beyond binary thinking in social and political issues. Hall explains her framework, which helps individuals navigate complex situations by fostering curiosity, empathy, and creative thinking. They also discuss the roles of community, parenting, and social psychology in moderating polarized views. Episode Notes:  "Radical Moderation" by Lauren Hall Find more at: https://radicalmoderatesguide.substack.com "The Way Out: How to Overcome Toxic Polarization" by Peter T. Coleman Link: https://www.amazon.ca/Way-Out-Overcome-Toxic-Polarization/dp/0231195718 "High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out" by Amanda Ripley Link: https://www.amazon.ca/High-Conflict-Trapped-How-Out/dp/1982128575 "Elements of Justice" by David Schmidtz Link: https://www.amazon.ca/Elements-Justice-David-Schmidtz/dp/0521539360 "Living Together: Essays on Justice, Pluralism, and Community" by David Schmidtz Link: https://www.amazon.ca/Living-Together-Essays-Justice-Pluralism/dp/0190233731 "The Polarization Detox Challenge" by Starts With Us Explore more at: https://startswith.us/polarization-detox "The Science of Family: The Politics of Moderation in Family Policies" by Lauren Hall Link: https://www.amazon.ca/Science-Family-Politics-Moderation-Policies/dp/0367523267 Thanks to our patrons including: Amy Willis, Kris Rondolo, and Christopher McDonald. To become a patron, go to patreon.com/curioustask

Yascha Mounk and Amanda Ripley discuss what natural catastrophes reveal about human nature. Amanda Ripley is an American author and journalist. Her books include The Unthinkable: Who Survives when Disaster Strikes and High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out.  In this week's conversation, Yascha Mounk and Amanda Ripley discuss the pitfalls common to many survival scenarios and the psychological tools most helpful in avoiding them; whether the strength of one's community ties or improvements in forecasting technology are of greater significance in the statistical decrease in deaths from disaster; and why we still haven't imbibed the most critical lessons of the COVID-19 pandemic. This transcript has been condensed and lightly edited for clarity. Please do listen and spread the word about The Good Fight. If you have not yet signed up for our podcast, please do so now by following this link on your phone. Email: podcast@persuasion.community  Website: http://www.persuasion.community Podcast production by Jack Shields, and Brendan Ruberry Connect with us! Spotify | Apple | Google Twitter: @Yascha_Mounk & @joinpersuasion Youtube: Yascha Mounk LinkedIn: Persuasion Community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Political violence and threats of political attacks, from the national to community level, have soared in recent years. Political conflict and culture wars dominate headlines, causing Americans a sense of dread and despair, leading 42% to actively avoid the news. How can we turn the heat down while we choose our next leaders? In this interview, investigative reporter and conflict mediator Amanda Ripley explains her research to understand better the political conflicts that turn into violent threats and attacks. Her insights teach us to focus on “good” conflict to lessen our perception gaps of each other and provide conflict hacks that can help us break free from the cycle of outrage and blame. Amanda Ripley is a New York Times bestselling author and the co-founder of Good Conflict, a company that creates workshops and original content to help people get more thoughtful about how they fight. Amanda's recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. In her books and magazine writing, Amanda combines storytelling with data to help illuminate challenging problems—and solutions. She follows people who have been through some kind of a transformation—including the survivors of hurricanes and plane crashes, American teenagers who have experienced high school in other countries, and politicians and gang members who were bewitched by toxic conflicts and managed to break free. Thank you to Starts with Us for their collaboration on this series. Starts with Us is an organization committed to overcoming extreme political and cultural division. Check them out at startswith.us.

While Democracy Works is on summer break, we bring you an episode from our friends at Making Peace Visible, a podcast that ignites powerful conversations all over the world about how the media covers peace and conflict. This episode features journalist and author Amanda Ripley. We've wanted to have Amanda on the show for a long time and are grateful to the Making Peace Visible team for sharing this conversation with us!After over two decades as a journalist, including ten years covering terrorism and disasters for TIME Magazine, Amanda Ripley thought she understood conflict. But when momentum started to build around the candidacy of Donald Trump, she questioned what she thought she knew. Ripley interviewed psychologists, mediators, and people who had made it out of seemingly intractable conflicts for her book, High Conflict: Why We Get Stuck and How We Get Out.  In this conversation with host Making Peace visible host Jamil Simon, she shares insights about how people in conflict can move forward, and how journalists can get at the "understory" of what's beneath any conflict. Order Amanda Ripley's book, High Conflict: Why We Get Stuck and How We Get Out. Watch Amanada's talk on High Conflict for The Alliance for Peacebuilding. Follow her column in the Washington Post.

Get the full show notes: https://jumpstartyourjoy.com/2024/06/what-do-you-stand-for/   In the first episode of Season 8 of 'Jumpstart Your Joy,' I'm returning after an 18-month break to discuss the profound changes and reflections experienced during the hiatus. The episode dives into themes of intentional living, navigating grief, the importance of setting boundaries, challenging hustle culture, and the reverberating impact of focusing on internal growth over external validation.   Emphasizing the significance of finding joy even amidst hard times, the host also introduces upcoming topics and invites listeners to join a vibrant community centered around positivity and personal growth.   Want to Learn More About Labyrinths and get a Labyrinth Walking guide? Sign up on my website. https://jumpstartyourjoy.com/labyrinth-basics/   Resources: Buy Nothing, Get Everything Plan: Discover the Joy of Spending Less, Sharing More, and Living Generously by Liesl Clark and Rebecca Rockefeller Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out by Amanda Ripley Audible version of "Untethered life" by Michael A Singer (affiliate) Love the show, and want to show your support? Buy me a cup of coffee, and I'll give you a shout out on the next episode. Subscribe to my YouTube channel     00:00 Welcome Back to Jumpstart Your Joy 01:00 Reflecting on a Long Break 01:28 Intentional Living and Time Management 01:59 Navigating Grief and Personal Loss 03:20 Understanding Growth Beyond Hustle Culture 09:07 The Importance of Setting Boundaries 14:05 Finding Joy Amidst Societal Challenges 24:29 The Power of Intentionality and Reflection 25:11 Embracing Labyrinth Work 29:48 Looking Forward: Season Eight Plans

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After over two decades as a journalist, including ten years covering terrorism and disasters for TIME Magazine, Amanda Ripley thought she understood conflict. But when momentum started to build around the candidacy of Donald Trump, she questioned what she thought she knew. Ripley interviewed psychologists, mediators, and people who had made it out of seemingly intractable conflicts for her book, High Conflict: Why We Get Stuck and How We Get Out.  In this conversation with host Jamil Simon, she shares insights about how people in conflict can move forward, and how journalists can get at the "understory" of what's beneath any conflict. Order Amanda Ripley's book, High Conflict: Why We Get Stuck and How We Get Out. Watch Amanada's talk on High Conflict for The Alliance for Peacebuilding. Follow her column in the Washington Post. Find our episode on the Colombian peace process here. You can watch the documentary “A Call for Peace” for free here: vimeo.com/305983614. Enter password peace2019. Learn more at acallforpeace.org.Music in this episode from Blue Dot Sessions and Pianobook.  ABOUT THE SHOWMaking Peace Visible is a project of War Stories Peace Stories. Making Peace Visible is hosted by Jamil Simon and produced by Andrea Muraskin, with help from Faith McClure. Learn more at warstoriespeacestories.org. We want to learn more about our listeners. Take this 3-minute survey to help us improve the show! Support this podcast and the War Stories Peace Stories project

Workplace conflicts can arise from the most unexpected things, and can have severe consequences. When conflicts arise, they need to be addressed quickly, with opportunities created for open communication and understanding.Through effective mediation and a curiosity-driven approach, conflicts between team members can be resolved, ruptures can be repaired, and positive outcomes can be achieved.This week, Dan and Pia are joined by workplace mediation and conflict resolution consultant, Tania Waters. Tania has extensive experience in helping organisations address workplace conflicts and facilitating mediations between parties.She provides conflict management coaching, and specialises in creating safe spaces for open dialogue, understanding the perspectives and impacts of each party involved, and guiding them towards finding common ground.Three reasons to listenUnderstand the impact of workplace conflict on teams and their members, from passive-aggressive behaviour to the threat of physical violenceLearn about the importance of timely conflict resolution and the negative consequences of letting things simmer for too longDiscover the role of curiosity in the mediation process and how it can help to break down walls and challenge simplified narrativesEpisode highlights[00:11:51] Where conflict begins[00:13:25] What conflict looks like[00:15:37] The cost of conflict[00:17:37] The conflict resolution process[00:25:01] Pre-mediation[00:33:03] Group conflict[00:36:11] Tania's book recommendation[00:37:45] Tania's top tip[00:39:34] Takeaways from Pia and DanLinksConnect with Tanya via LinkedInHigh Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, by Amanda RipleyLeave us a voice note

In the spirit of the holiday season, I am re-releasing a popular episode from 2019: The Boundless Heart - Bodhicitta. It is my wish that we all try to practice being a Bodhisattva during this holiday season … Starting with me! ;) Stating the obvious, it's been a rough 7 years or so. Years marked by war, pandemic, social injustice, tribalism and, overall, something called "high conflict" made popular by Amanda Ripley's book of the same name, where conflict is the ruling energy and that leads to the stress, fear, anxiousness, and despair most of us have been feeling. She writes: The challenge of our time is to mobilize great masses of people to make change without dehumanizing one another. Not just because it's morally right but because it works. Lasting change, the kind that seeps into people's hearts, has only ever come about through a combination of pressure and good conflict. Both matter. That's why, over the course of history, nonviolent movements have been more than twice as likely to succeed as violent ones. It with this in mind I offer the replay of this 2019 episode, a reflection on bodhicitta, the good heart—something we can all practice even if we don't participate in nonviolent movements or the "good conflict" Amanda Ripley refers to. I know it's been far too easy for me to react in anger when I'm really just afraid and to dismiss instead of disagreeing, which is a dehumanizing activity. So, in the spirit of holiday peace, good will, and reflection, I will remember the bodhicitta. Bodhicitta characterizes the path of a Mahayana practitioner. It is Bodhicitta that creates a Bodhisattva and it is Bodhicitta that ultimately creates a Buddha. In Tibetan, compassion is translated as the nobility or greatness of heart which implies wisdom, discernment, empathy, unselfishness, and abundant kindness. Bodhicitta is compassion working with a mind awakened by right view. It is the joining of compassion and emptiness. We'll examine how to use the Four Bodhisattva Vows to supercharge Right Intention with Right View and discover the same spacious freedom of a flower that blooms despite its circumstances. Please join me as you listen to this "best of" episode.   Book by Amanda Ripley referenced in podcast (Amazon affiliate link): High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out       Become a patron to support this podcast and get special member benefits, including a membership community and virtual sangha:https://www.patreon.com/EverydayBuddhism   If this podcast has helped you understand Buddhism or help in your everyday life, consider making a one-time donation here: https://donorbox.org/podcast-donations   Subscribe to my premium Substack feed and podcast, Words From My Teachers: Subscribe to "Words From My Teachers"   Support the podcast through the affiliate link to buy the book, Everyday Buddhism: Real-Life Buddhist Teachings & Practices for Real Change: Buy the book, Everyday Buddhism

When journalist Tim Alberta attended his father's funeral, he expected people to speak words of comfort. What he didn't expect was a confrontation. And yet, just a short walk away from the casket, someone approached a grieving Alberta to critique his writing on Trumpism. On a new episode of The Russell Moore Show, Moore welcomes Alberta, a writer for The Atlantic and the author of The Kingdom, the Power, and the Glory: American Evangelicals in an Age of Extremism to discuss how American culture has reached the point where people feel compelled to argue politics at all times. Alberta and Moore talk about the ways that politics have invaded the church in recent years. He and Moore talk about what fear has done to the state of evangelicalism, the rise of secularism, and the differences in conversations between white and multiethnic congregations. They consider ways that demographics affect political and religious perspectives, how pastors have engaged QAnon, and the variances in generational perspectives on American politics. Tune in for a conversation that sheds light on America's history and ponders what its future could be. Resources mentioned in this episode include: The Kingdom, the Power, and the Glory: American Evangelicals in an Age of Extremism by Tim Alberta Blinded by Might: Can the Religious Right Save America? by Cal Thomas“ The Religious Right and the Abortion Myth” by Randall Balmer “Russell Moore Wants Us To Be Strange (But Not Crazy)” on the Good Faith podcast The “Against Trump” issue of National Review High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out by Amanda Ripley Do you have a question for Russell Moore? Send it to questions@russellmoore.com. Click here for a trial membership at Christianity Today. “The Russell Moore Show” is a production of Christianity Today Executive Producers: Erik Petrik, Russell Moore, and Mike Cosper Host: Russell Moore Producer: Ashley Hales Associate Producers: Abby Perry and McKenzie Hill Director of Operations for CT Media: Matt Stevens Audio engineering by Dan Phelps Video producer: Abby Egan Theme Song: “Dusty Delta Day” by Lennon Hutton Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Thanksgiving is often a time of disagreements big and small. In this episode we talk to Amanda Ripley (author of High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out) and Utah Governor Spencer Cox. They explain that conflict shouldn't be avoided—and that there's a way to fight with partners and political opponents that's actually good for us. Want to share unlimited access to The Atlantic with your loved ones? Give a gift today at theatlantic.com/podgift. For a limited time, select new subscriptions will come with the bold Atlantic tote bag as a free holiday bonus. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to building communities that nurture the next generation, it's hard to identify a universal standard for success. But as social psychologist and author Jonathan Haidt looks at the trends among today's children, he sees both common concerns and shared opportunities to address them. On this episode of The Russell Moore Show, Haidt and Moore discuss the alarming rates of anxiety and depression among children and adolescents, which Haidt explores at length in his new book The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness. Haidt and Moore consider the factors that lead to childhood mental health crises, including access to iPhones and social media. They talk about the ways that the Covid-19 pandemic affected (and didn't affect) young people. And they look back on the last several decades of American history, during which parents have increasingly treated raising children like a school project or professional endeavor. While much of their discussion outlines the challenges young people face today, Haidt and Moore's conversation hinges on hope. They propose meaningful opportunities for cultivating good mental health, confidence, and a sense of purpose in children and adolescents. And they encourage all who are investing in the next generation with practical advice for healthy homes and communities. Resources mentioned in this episode include:  The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by Jonathan Haidt The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathan Haidt iGen: Why Today's Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy--and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood--and What That Means for the Rest of Us by Jean Twenge High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out by Amanda Ripley The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children by Alison Gopnik Wayfinding: The Science and Mystery of How Humans Navigate the World by M. R. O'Connor “What Is Attachment Theory?” American Grace: How Religion Divides and Unites Us by Robert D. Putnam Do you have a question for Russell Moore? Send it to questions@russellmoore.com. Click here for a trial membership at Christianity Today. “The Russell Moore Show” is a production of Christianity Today Executive Producers: Erik Petrik, Russell Moore, and Mike Cosper Host: Russell Moore Producer: Ashley Hales Associate Producers: Abby Perry and McKenzie Hill Director of Operations for CT Media: Matt Stevens Audio engineering by Dan Phelps Video producer: Abby Egan Theme Song: “Dusty Delta Day” by Lennon Hutton Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amanda Ripley is a New York Times bestselling author, journalist, and co-founder of Good Conflict, a media and training company that helps people reimagine conflict. As the violence abroad and at home escalates, Ripley and Patel discuss “high conflict” – what it is, how it impacts individuals and society, and ways to resolve high-conflict situations.GUEST BIO: Amanda has spent her career trying to make sense of complicated human mysteries by following survivors of all kinds. Her most recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, winner of a 2022 Christopher Award. Her previous books include The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why, which was published in 15 countries and turned into a PBS documentary, and The Smartest Kids in the World—and How They Got That Way, a New York Times bestseller which was also turned into a documentary film. Her work has also appeared in the New York Times, the Atlantic, the Wall Street Journal, Slate, The Guardian, the Harvard Business Review, and the Times of London. Her stories helped Time win two National Magazine Awards. Previously, she served as an Emerson Collective Senior Fellow and the host of the weekly Slate podcast How To!You can tune in to all episodes on our website, Apple, Spotify, and wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. New episodes drop every Tuesday at 5 a.m. CST. 

Jen welcomed first-time ERB guest Russell Moore alongside returning guest Karen Swallow Prior to discuss their recent writings on the state of Evangelical religion and culture in American life, as well as a fascinating and unexpected list of titles they are currently enjoying.Books Mentioned in this Episode:If you'd like to order any of the following books, we encourage you to do so from Hearts and Minds Books(An independent bookstore in Dallastown, PA, run by Byron and Beth Borger) Losing Our Religion: An Altar Call for Evangelical America by R MooreThe Evangelical Imagination: How Stories, Images and Metaphors Created a Culture in Crisis by Karen Swallow PriorOn Reading Well: Finding the Good Life Through Great Books by Karen Swallow PriorFierce Convictions: The Extraordinary Life of Hannah More: Poet, Reformer, Abolitionist by Karen Swallow PriorBooked: Literature in the Soul of Me by Karen Swallow Prior"How Do People Actually Change?" Article by Simeon Zahl for MockingbirdA Christmas Carol by Charles DickensThe Canterbury Tales by Geoffrey ChaucerThe Priory - Karen Swallow Prior on SubstackThe Four Quartets by T.S. EliotAn Experiment in Criticism by C.S. LewisA Secular Age by Charles TaylorCultural Liturgies Trilogy by James KA SmithFranz Kafka: The Complete StoriesHigh Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out by Amanda RipleyA Time to Build by Yuval LevinThe Godless Crusade by Tobias CremerA World After Liberalism: Philosophers of the Radical Right by Matthew RoseThe Twisted Cross: The German Christian Movement in the Third Reich by Doris BergenThe Goat-Foot God by Dion FortuneThe Green Man by Kingsley AmisThe Three-Body Problem by Cixin Liu

“Our church lived through the 2016 and 2020 presidential elections divided. Our church lived through Black Lives Matter protests divided. Our church lived through COVID divided. How are we going to get through 2024?” That's one of the questions that Russell Moore is asked on a regular basis, and it's not an easy one to answer. Enter Amanda Ripley, author of High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. An investigative journalist and the co-founder of Good Conflict, Ripley has spent years exploring how humans engage in disagreements that threaten to tear people apart.  On this episode, Moore and Ripley discuss the differences between regular conflict and high conflict. They consider examples of good and bad engagement with conflict, how polarization occurs in politics and religion, and the line between accountability and humiliation. They consider the role of media, institutions, and and family relationships in navigating divisions. And they consider how conflict can be harnessed to serve as a public good. Tune in for a rich discussion of the things that seek to tear us apart but can be redeemed to bring us together. Resources mentioned in this episode include: High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out by Amanda Ripley The Smartest Kids in the World: And How They Got That Way by Amanda Ripley  The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes —and Why by Amanda Ripley Good Conflict  Practical Tools from Good Conflict King Rat by China Miélville Chicago CRED Losing Our Religion: An Altar Call for Evangelical America by Russell Moore Well-Intentioned Dragons: Ministering to Problem People in the Church by Marshall Shelley B'nai Jeshurun Do you have a question for Russell Moore? Send it to questions@russellmoore.com. Click here for a trial membership at Christianity Today. “The Russell Moore Show” is a production of Christianity Today Executive Producers: Erik Petrik, Russell Moore, and Mike Cosper Host: Russell Moore Producer: Ashley Hales Associate Producers: Abby Perry and Azurae Phelps Director of Operations for CT Media: Matt Stevens Audio engineering by Dan Phelps Video producer: Abby Egan Theme Song: “Dusty Delta Day” by Lennon Hutton Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to the first episode of the two-part Losing Our Religion special series finale! This episode and the one to follow were recorded at a special live event with Bible teacher and author Beth Moore and Russell Moore in Houston on August 9, 2023. Beth and Russell gathered with hundreds in person and thousands online for a discussion of Russell's new book, Losing Our Religion: An Altar Call for Evangelical America. They shared the story of their friendship and the similarities in their Southern Baptist upbringings. Beth asks Russell a series of "getting to know you" questions about his family of origin, marriage, children, and ministry. And they both speak to the loss and disruption of ultimately leaving the SBC and the ways their ministries have affected their families. Tune in for thoughts on not giving up on people who are deconstructing, walking by faith, and honesty with God. Beth and Russell's discussion covers shifts in evangelical Christianity, how politics is asked to bear a weight it cannot support, and our common desire for belonging. Make sure you check out the next episode, which features Beth and Russell answering questions from the live audience! This special series of episodes around Russell Moore's newest book, Losing Our Religion: An Altar Call for Evangelical America, explores the Christian faith in confusing times. Check out the other episodes in the series: "Losing Our Religion and Russell Moore's Hope" "Losing Our Religion: Evangelical Imagination with Karen Swallow Prior" "Losing Our Religion: Revival with Jackie Hill Perry" "Losing Our Religion: Credibility Gaps with Sam Allberry" "Losing Our Religion: David Brooks on the Allure of Tribalism" Resources mentioned in this episode include: Losing Our Religion: An Altar Call for Evangelical America by Russell Moore Living Proof Ministries The Woodland's Methodist Church The Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission of the Southern Baptist Convention (ERLC) The Boys from Biloxi by John Grisham Melissa Moore Kat Armstrong The University of Southern Mississippi New Orleans Baptist Seminary The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary Johnny Cash Waylon Jennings The After Party Brandon Lake Baptist Hymnal Twila Paris Travis Cottrell Amy Grant Houston's First Baptist Church Eudora Welty Marilynn Robinson Walker Percy Frederick Buechner  Why It's OK to Ignore Politics by Christopher Freeman High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out by Amanda Ripley Grab a copy of Russell's new title, Losing Our Religion: An Altar Call for Evangelical America, here! Do you have a question for Russell Moore? Send it to questions@russellmoore.com. Click here for a trial membership at Christianity Today. “The Russell Moore Show” is a production of Christianity Today Executive Producers: Erik Petrik, Russell Moore, and Mike Cosper Host: Russell Moore Producer: Ashley Hales Associate Producers: Abby Perry and Azurae Phelps Director of Operations for CT Media: Matt Stevens Audio engineering by Dan Phelps Video producer: Abby Egan Theme Song: “Dusty Delta Day” by Lennon Hutton Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

An interview with award-winning journalist Amanda Ripley who shares insights on the science of bringing antagonistic groups together based on her recent best-selling book, High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out.  Includes discussion on evidence-based strategies for depolarization and on how the Baha'i community serves as a role model in this arena.CONTENTS0:00 Introduction5:20 Background to the Book11:29 Avoiding High Conflict16:03 Feeling Heard19:10 Breaking Binaries21:00 Avoiding Conflict Entrepreneurs32:12 Cultivating Calm35:40 Complicating the Narrative39:29 Reaching a Saturation Point 41:56 The Baha'i Community as Model47:48 Hope & Human Triumph50:15 Applications for the Workplace53:00 Closing Thoughts

Every day we are bombarded with negative news and polarizing opinions from politicians, pundits, and others who seek attention, power, and money by escalating division. Our guest, Amanda Ripley, calls them "conflict entrepreneurs."In this podcast, Amanda explains why she believes the problem we face in America isn't too much conflict. Instead, it's the type of disagreement we are having. We hear about the crucial differences between constructive conflict, where different sides seek to find common ground, and destructive conflict where discord distills into a good-versus-evil kind of feud, with an "us" and a "them".Amanda Ripley is a journalist and columnist for The Washington Post. Her recent book is "High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out."Additional InformationLet's Find Common Ground PodcastMore shows from The Democracy Group

Every day we are bombarded with negative news and polarizing opinions from politicians, pundits, and others who seek attention, power, and money by escalating division. Our guest, Amanda Ripley, calls them "conflict entrepreneurs." In this podcast, Amanda explains why she believes the problem we face in America isn't too much conflict. Instead, it's the type of disagreement we are having. We hear about the crucial differences between constructive conflict, where different sides seek to find common ground, and destructive conflict where discord distills into a good-versus-evil kind of feud, with an "us" and a "them". Amanda Ripley is a journalist and columnist for The Washington Post. Her recent book is "High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out."

In this episode, Kent and Greg interview Data Specialist and famous author, Matthew B. Courtney, about tools for teachers to access and interpret the real data collected in the classroom. According to Matthew, "Working with data can be hard, but it doesn't have to be!" Join us for a deep dive into Matthew's website https://www.matthewbcourtney.com/tools and the easy-to-use data tools he offers for free. Get Your Copy of the Following Great Reads Greg's (the single guy) Book: Finding the Right Fit: Your Professional Guide to International Educator Recruiting Fairs and Amazing Stories of a Teacher Living Overseas by Gregory Lemoine Matthew's Published books: Adventure in Action Research https://www.matthewbcourtney.com/product-page/adventures-in-action-research Exploratory Data Analysis in the Classroom https://www.matthewbcourtney.com/product-page/exploratory-data-analysis-in-the-classroom Matthew's other recommended books: High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out by Amanda Ripley The Data Detective: Ten Easy Rules to Make Sense of Statistics by Tim Harford Academia Obscura: The Hidden Silly Side of Higher Education by Glen Wright

Amanda Ripley began her life as a journalist covering crime, disaster, and terrorism. Then in 2018, she published a brilliant essay called “Complicating the Narratives,” which she opened by confessing a professional existential crisis. We journalists, she wrote, “can summon outrage in five words or less. We value the ancient power of storytelling, and we get that good stories require conflict, characters and scene. But in the present era of tribalism, it feels like we've reached our collective limitations … Again and again, we have escalated the conflict and snuffed the complexity out of the conversation."Yet what Amanda has gone on to investigate — and so, so helpfully illuminate — is not just about journalism, or about politics. It touches almost every aspect of human life in almost every society around the world right now. We think we're divided by issues, arguing about conflicting facts. But at a deeper level, she says, we are trapped in a pattern of distress known as “high conflict” — where the conflict itself has become the point, and it sweeps everything into its vortex. So how to get out? What Amanda has been gathering by way of answers to that question is an extraordinary gift to us all.Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist who sometimes describes herself as a "recovering journalist" — and a trained conflict mediator. She's written several acclaimed books, including High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. You can find her essay “Complicating the Narratives” on the Solutions Journalism blog. She is the co-founder of the company Good Conflict and hosts the Slate podcast How To!. Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org.___________Please share On Being lavishly — with friends, family, book clubs, colleagues… wherever curiosity, conversation, and joyful shared pondering happens in your world. And show us some love, if you have a minute, by rating On Being in this app. It's a small way to bend the arc of algorithms towards this community of conversation and living.Also: sign up for our Saturday morning ritual of a newsletter, The Pause, for replenishment and invigoration in your inbox — and of course all things On Being — at onbeing.org/newsletter. And delve more across our social channels: (Instagram, YouTube, TikTok).

The past week has been filled with images of high conflict. There was the shocking violent right-wing attacks on government institutions in Brazil, which appear to be a copycat of the Jan. 6, 2021, attacks on the U.S. Capitol by a mob of Trump supporters.Then there was the chaotic election of Republican House Speaker Kevin McCarthy, a madcap four-day, 15-round epic in which a small far-right faction of the GOP held the rest of Congress hostage to its demands.How do we break out of this cycle in which disagreements quickly spiral into good-versus-evil, us-versus-them battles? And how did we get here?Journalist Amanda Ripley tackles these questions in her bestselling book, “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out.” Ripley was an investigative reporter for TIME Magazine and writes regularly for The Atlantic and Washington Post. She is also author of the bestselling book, “The Smartest Kids in the World: And How They Got That Way,” and she hosts the Slate podcast “How To!” for which she interviewed then-candidate and now Vermont Rep. Becca Balint in a piece called, “How to Run for Office Without Being an A**hole.”In "High Conflict," Ripley writes about “how good people get captured by high conflict — and how they break free.”Ripley said there is a time-tested method for generating conflict. “When I look at mob activity like we just saw in Brazil, what I think most about is the climate of fear and threat and blame that has allowed this to happen,” she said.Ripley cited the power of “conflict entrepreneurs,” such as Tucker Carlson of Fox News, to incite people. “Influential voices in the media and in politics (utilize) the same kind of recipe: … generate a feeling of threat, that there's a crisis, identify a villain and then proclaim yourself as the hero who can save the day. That is how, again and again, again, politicians and pundits have managed to cast a sort of spell of high conflict over people.”She tweeted this week about how to avoid another Jan. 6, based on her conversation with security and democracy expert Rachel Kleinfeld: “For [journalists]: 1. Amplify non-extremists. 2. Report out disagreements within parties/groups, not just between. 3. Correct your audience's mistakes about the other side. They are vast. For Politicians: Call out your own party more — and the other party less. One works, the other doesn't. For Regular People: Don't share violent memes. It might sound kind of funny & not important, but in fact, jokes are one of those things that go beyond our rational brain & allow us to do things we would never normally say or do."Ripley has also criticized the media for how it has helped stoke conflict. She confessed in the Washington Post that she often avoids the news because it can be depressing and “paralyzing.” She cites studies showing that 4 in 10 Americans do the same thing.“Almost no one is really happy with the way politics is happening, the way the news is covered, the way we are treating each other,” she said. “I think there's a huge opportunity there.”From politics to news, “most Americans are yearning for something different. Widespread dissatisfaction is what we need to change this,” Ripley said.

Help for Getting Out of High Conflict When you think of the word conflict, what comes to mind? I ask because I've had the opportunity to pose that question to groups around the world. How would you respond? What I hear most often is words like Stress. Arguments. Tension. Avoid! Rarely do I hear Opportunity. Or disagreement. I'm excited to welcome Amanda Ripley to the podcast. Amanda is the author of one of my favorite books from this last year. It's entitled High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. It's not just a book about the brain. It's a book that introduces you to your brain. For those of us responsible for leading teams and projects, learning how to avoid the traps of high conflict--and how to get out of them if we're there--is critical to our success. And in a world of increased political and social polarization, we have a real opportunity to be a force for good instead of just adding fuel to the fire. I consider this book a must-read and I look forward to your feedback after you listen to the episode! Learn more about Amanda and her book at AmandaRipley.com/. For more insights related to this episode, check out: Episode 284 for my conversation with Peter Boghossian about his book How Have Impossible Conversations Episode 276 for my conversation with Buster Benson about his book Why Are We Yelling? Do You Have a High School or College Age Student in Your Family? If so, check out our e-learning program entitled Getting Stuff Done: Project Management for Students. It provides practical skills to reduce the stress of their school work and help jumpstart their career. Learn more and get access at https://i-leadonline.com/GettingStuffDone. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills   The following music was used for this episode: Music: The Inner Conflict by The New Geometry YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zoeccLie1DU License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: RetroFuture Clean by Kevin MacLeod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWjCZ60gxfI License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Everybody Loves Raymond Uses Active Listening - from Parent Effectiveness Training available on YouTube at YouTube.com/watch?v=4VOubVB4CTU

Us vs. Them. The “other side” just doesn't get it. Whether politics, work or even family, the confusion arises because we aren't seeing how the conflict itself has taken over. High conflict is the invisible hand of our time, creating a good vs. evil type of feud. And it results in our brains behaving differently, crystalizing certainty in our own superiority and a head-shaking about those on the other side.Welcome to the latest episode of the Health, Wellness & Performance Catalyst. Today's guest is Amanda Ripley, a New York Times bestselling author, an investigative journalist and co-founder of Good Conflict, a company that creates workshops and original content to help people get smarter about how they fight. Amanda's most recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. For tools everyone can use right now, check out Amanda's free resources at www.TheGoodConflict.com. Her latest book is High Conflict. And if anyone wants help digging into a specific challenge, reach out to her at her weekly Slate podcast How To! Looking for weekly tips, tricks and turbo boosts to enhance your life? Sign up for the CATALYST 5 here, a brief weekly bullet point list of 5 ideas, concepts or boosts Dr. Cooper has discovered to improve your personal and professional life!For more information about the Catalyst Community, earning your health & wellness coaching certification, the annual Rocky Mountain Coaching Retreat & Symposium and much more, please see https://www.catalystcoachinginstitute.com/ or reach out to us Results@CatalystCoachingInstitute.com If you'd like to share the Be A Catalyst! message in your world with a cool hoodie, t-shirt, water bottle stickers and more (100% of ALL profits go to charity), please visit https://teespring.com/stores/be-a-catalyst If you are a current or future health & wellness coach, please check out our Health & Wellness Coaching Forum Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/278207545599218.  This is an awesome group if you are looking for encouragement, ideas, resources and more. Finally, if you enjoy the Catalyst Podcast, you might also enjoy the YouTube Coaching Channel, which provides a full library of freely available videos covering health, wellness & performance: https://www.youtube.com/c/CoachingChannelContact us: Results@CatalystCoachingInstitute.comTwitter: @Catalyst2ThriveWebsite: CatalystCoachingInstitute.com

Journalist and author Amanda Ripley discusses her Christopher        Award-winning book “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out,” which explores the anger and division that affects our relationships and society – and what we can do to move toward a more healthy, peaceful way of living.

Amanda Ripley, the Christopher Award-winning author of “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out” further explores ways in which people with profound differences in beliefs can still learn to respect each other, disagree in a civil manner, and build human connections. She also discusses “the exhausted majority,” who are tired of the anger and division so prevalent today.

Introduction Welcome to Let's Talk Family Enterprise, a podcast that explores the ideas, concepts, and models that best serve Family Enterprise Advisors in supporting their clients.   All views, information, and opinions expressed during this podcast are solely those of the individuals involved and do not necessarily represent those of Family Enterprise Canada.   Description Ruth Steverlynck sits down with Deena Chochinov to talk about her new book, Home Work  How to be a Leader in the Boardroom and the Living Room. Deena shares insights and tools from her work that are particularly relevant to advisors working with family enterprises.   Guest bio Deena Chochinov is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a private practice in Vancouver since 2000. She has a Master's in Counselling Psychology from the University of Manitoba and a Post-Master's in Family Therapy from the University of Pennsylvania and the Philadelphia Child Guidance Clinic. Deena is also a Family Enterprise Advisor, certified by the Institute of Family Enterprise Advisors, and a member of the BC-OD Network.   You can find out more about Deena on her website.   Key Takeaways [:26] Ruth Steverlynck welcomes Deena Chochinov and asks her to share a little about herself, even though she may need no introduction for most listeners!   [2:34] Deena shares how she decided to write the book HomeWork, despite already wearing three different hats, why add a fourth?   [4:25] What Deena has learned as a systems practitioner in family enterprise advising that she found imperative to share: a unifying antidote to divided business and personal identities.   [8:45] Integrated and whole leadership is a two-part subject to understand and master, Deena explains the “how” and the “what.”   [11:58] Leadership qualities Deena has identified to be essential over her 30-year career, through the lens of family advising.   [14:25] The “what” of leadership is well exemplified by a case study as shared by Deena in her book.   [16:31] Personal work and introspection can be scary, Deena explains why it is critical when working with families that have to navigate business and personal so intimately.   [21:16] Why is Deena sharing all of her secret tools and tips?   [23:24] We're all in the relationship business. Deena touches on what this means to her as a family enterprise advisor.   [26:21] Where to get Deena's book!   [27:13] Deena shares her book recommendations as well as her one piece of advice from an advisor to other advisors.   [32:25] Ruth thanks Deena for coming on the show to share her insight and wisdom with the audience.   If you enjoyed today's episode, you can subscribe to Let's Talk Family Enterprise on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or other podcast app. Please remember to share this episode with family, friends, and colleagues.Share your thoughts with us at fea@familyenterprise.ca.   Mentioned in this episode The Let's Talk Family Enterprise podcast is brought to you by Family Enterprise Canada. HomeWork: How to Be a Leader in the Boardroom and the Living Room, by Deena Chochinov   Deena's reading recommendations: High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, by Amanda Ripley   More about Family Enterprise Canada Family Enterprise Canada (FEC) FEC on Facebook FEC on Twitter FEC on LinkedIn

Amanda Ripley is a New York Times Bestselling Author, an investigative journalist, the host of The Slate Podcast “How To!,” and the co-founder of Good Conflict, a company that creates workshops and original content to help people get smarter about how they fight and deal with conflict. Amanda has spent her career trying to make sense of complicated human mysteries, helping people get out of dysfunctional conflicts, and helping countries to educate virtually all of their kids to think for themselves. Her most recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Her previous books include The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes and Why and The Smartest Kids in the World. Throughout her work she follows people who have been through some type of transformation, including the survivors of hurricanes and plane crashes, American teenagers who have experienced high school in other countries, and politicians and gang members who were bewitched by toxic conflicts and managed to break free. Amanda also has written about how journalists can do a better job of covering controversy in an age of outrage.   Amanda had a number of amazing insights during our conversation. Some of them include: “4 out of 10 Americans are sometimes or often actively avoiding contact with the news” (8:50). “We're stuck in and old way of deciding what is the news and how to deliver it” (9:30). “I do not ever watch TV news… it doesn't tend to leave you more informed” (10:50). “Part of my identity is wanting to be informed” (13:40). “I do want to be informed, but the news is not giving me what I want” (14:15). “There are three things we know humans need, almost biologically, that are missing from most reporting: hope, agency, and dignity” (15:00). “Hope is like water. We need to have something to believe in” (15:40). “Any story I've ever done, whether it's in India, Colombia, or Washington DC, no matter how grim, there are glimmers of hope, agency, and dignity. And they just didn't make it into the story” (19:05). “There's a healthy level of needing to matter that we all have. I think a lot of the struggles that people are having in the modern age have to do with not feeling like they matter, not feeling like they belong” (28:30). “The best journalism is low-ego, high-curiosity journalism that treats people like they matter” (29:40). “My main job at this point, if I'm doing journalism, is to try to revive curiosity” (48:40). “Conflict is not the problem. We need conflict… to be heard, to get stronger, to push” (48:50). “Corruption is a condition for high conflict” (51:10). “Anyone who has taken a negotiation class in American business schools knows that what partisans are doing on social media and in congress is totally opposite of everything we know you should do if you want to get, over the long term, a sustainable deal” (55:40). “Remove the audience [when you're having an argument]” (1:02:35). “Half of what people want in conflict is to be heard” (1:03:40). “As difficult as it is, we always learn something we didn't know [through conflict]” (1:13:20). “Once you experience people having honest, hard conversations across a big divide, but with some dignity and decency, you actually want more of it” (1:16:15). “100 million Americans are actively avoiding contact with the news” (1:19:30).   Additionally, you can check out Amanda's website here, and I strongly encourage you to purchase Amanda's new book, High Conflict, which you can buy anywhere books are sold. Also, Amanda has a great podcast through Slate called “How To!” which I also recommend you give a listen to. Lastly, you can follow Amanda on Twitter as well! Thank you so much to Amanda for coming on the podcast! I wrote a book called “Shift Your Mind” that was released in October of 2020, and you can order it on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Additionally, I have launched a company called Strong Skills, and I encourage you to check out our new website https://www.strongskills.co/. If you liked this episode and/or any others, please follow me on Twitter: @brianlevenson or Instagram: @Intentional_Performers. Thanks for listening.

Life today can feel like wall-to-wall conflict. And most of us, well, we plain hate the feeling it gives us. Thing is, some conflict is not only good, but necessary and important. While other conflict, high conflict, is pretty much a road to othering, isolation, and devastation. Question is, how do you know the difference? And once you do, how do you step into good conflict with more grace and ease, that both helps you breathe, but also leads to a genuine resolution that leaves everyone better for it?My guest today, Amanda Ripley, offers her wise counsel as a New York Times bestselling author, investigative journalist, and co-founder of Good Conflict, a conflict meditation business. Her most recent book, High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, explores the complexities of high conflict through storytelling and interviews featuring a dozen people in three countries who escaped destructive conflicts to gather lessons for the rest of us in our polarized world. If you've grappled with high-stakes conflict before or wondered how we've all ended up in such a divided state, you'll discover a lot in this episode that'll hopefully help you see the bigger picture.You can find Amanda at: WebsiteIf you LOVED this episode you'll also love the conversations we had with Susan Piver about the Buddhist Enneagram and how that can help you understand yourself and others in a way that eases conversation.Check out our offerings & partners: My New Book SparkedMy New Podcast SPARKEDVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount CodesIndeed: Connect with your talent audience so you can make more quality hires faster. Indeed knows that when you're doing everything for your company, you can't afford to overspend on hiring. Visit Indeed.com/GOODLIFE to start hiring now. Terms and conditions apply. Cost per application pricing not available for everyone. Need to hire? You need Indeed.Green Chef: Healthy and organic meal kit delivery service. With Green Chef, there are options for every diet— vegan, vegetarian, keto, paleo, and even gluten-free meals are available! So go to GreenChef.com/goodlifeproject135 & use code goodlifeproject135 to get $135 off across five boxes, plus free shipping on your first box! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For many journalists, it's a point of pride to consume as much media as possible, as much of the time as possible. We think this makes us informed, better at our jobs.So it caused a stir last week when American journalist Amanda Ripley admitted, in The Washington Post no less, that she's been avoiding the news for years — like an increasing number of Americans, and Canadians. And, it turns out, journalists. Amanda Ripley's piece is titled, “I stopped reading the news — is the problem me, or the product?” In it, she poses a question that few have been willing to ask. And that is: “If so many of us feel poisoned by our products, might there be something wrong with them?”Amanda Ripley is a contributor to the The Washington Post and The Atlantic. Her most recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. 

In this episode of The Beauty of Conflict, Susan and CrisMarie discuss “High Conflict - Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out”, a book by Amanda Ripley. In high conflict, people believe they're righteous, make negative assumptions about those with different positions, and believe that the only acceptable solution is a total victory. It's not healthy and there are no winners. After having read the book, Susan talks with CrisMarie about how it navigates different stories and characters to explore high conflict and tools to get out of it like investigating the conflict's understory, avoiding binary situations, finding common ground, and marginalizing fire starters. For the full transcript, show notes, and resources, visit us at https://www.thriveinc.com/post/high-conflict-why-we-get-trapped-and-how-we-get-out

In recent weeks the great American divide grew again. Explosive revelations from the House January 6th Hearings and Supreme Court decisions on abortion, guns and the EPA's ability to limit carbon emissions from power plants are further examples of where the middle has been weakened. On many media platforms nuance is replaced by taunts and jeers. Our nation is trapped in high conflict. Both sides are paralyzed by fear and anger as they demonize and misunderstand the actions and motivations of the other. The bitter national narrative of "us versus them" is a threat to democracy and stops Congress and other public institutions from working together to build a better world.Best-selling author and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is our guest in this repeat episode. She is well-known for her writing in The Atlantic, Time, The Guardian, The Wall Street Journal, and many other publications. We discuss her groundbreaking book, “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out."Amanda argues that good conflict can teach us to be better people, who are capable of solutions as they move past misunderstandings. Many are trapped in high conflict, which is threatening to tear us apart, creating an even deeper crisis than we have now.We discuss "conflict entrepreneurs"— cable TV personalities, talk radio hosts, and politicians from both left and right — who profit from making us angry and fearful."Most Americans want out of this high conflict," Amanda tells How Do We Fix It? "They very much want to see a different way of disagreeing among their politicians and the news media. They are frequently tuning out of politics and the news, which is a big problem, but totally understandable."Recommendation: Jim enjoyed watching "Long Strange Trip", a highly-praised documentary about the rock band, the Grateful Dead. TV viewers can watch it on Amazon Prime. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

After over two decades as a journalist, including ten years covering terrorism and disasters for TIME Magazine, Amanda Ripley thought she understood conflict. But when momentum started to build around the candidacy of Donald Trump, she questioned what she thought she knew. Ripley interviewed psychologists, mediators, and people who had made it out of seemingly intractable conflicts for her book, High Conflict: Why We Get Stuck and How We Get Out.  In this conversation with host Jamil Simon, she shares insights about how journalists can change the way they cover conflict, in service of the public good.Order Amanda Ripley's book, High Conflict: Why We Get Stuck and How We Get Out. Listen to her podcast How To! from Slate. Watch Amanada's talk on High Conflict for The Alliance for Peacebuilding.Find our episode on the Colombian peace process here. You can watch the film “A Call for Peace” for free here: vimeo.com/305983614. Enter password peace2019. Learn more at acallforpeace.org.Making Peace Visible is a project of War Stories Peace Stories. Our mission is to bring journalists and peacebuilders together to re-imagine the way the news media covers peace and conflict, and to facilitate expanded coverage of global peace and reconciliation efforts. Join the conversation on Twitter: @warstoriespeaceMaking Peace Visible is hosted by Jamil Simon, and produced by Andrea Muraskin. Music in this episode from Blue Dot Sessions and Pianobook. 

At some point, we've all handled conflict in our classroom---among students, between a student and the teacher... In this episode, Shey and Anna speak with guest Joe Voigts about his approach to conflict in the classroom, from handling disagreements among his Israeli and Palestinian students in Jerusalem to butting heads with his high-schoolers on the South Side of Chicago. Listener quote: "There were times that students treated me disrespectfully. I knew that they were teenagers and if I had reacted harshly, the situation would have been so much worse. What I did was to pretend I hadn't heard what had been said. I continued the lesson and when the class ended, I asked that student to stay for a couple of minutes. I talked to him and he felt sorry for what had happened. The consequence of this reaction of mine was so positive. That student was so happy that I didn't say anything to him in front of the eyes of his friends and he turned to the most active student in the class." - Amir References & Resources: High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, Amanda Ripley The Power of Storytelling to Build Cross-Cultural Connections Joe Voigts, TESOL The Restorative Practices Handbook: For Teachers, Disciplinarians and Administrators, Bob Costello & Ted Wachtel Questions for reflection: How do you feel when conflict comes up in the classroom? What general advice would you give to teachers for handling conflict when it arises? What strategies can you suggest for handling conflict in a positive and productive way? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/teacherthinkaloud/support

“Usually in high conflict, the conflict becomes the whole point. So you make a lot of mistakes and you can miss opportunities that would actually be in the interest you are fighting for. The reason you got into the fight to begin with, whereas good conflict is the kind of conflict where again, you can be angry, you can be yell, you can have radical visions for the future. You can and must, you know, organize and protest and hold people accountable. But you do it much more skillfully. You make fewer mistakes because you're not essentially being controlled by the conflict. You're not in the trance of high conflict. And it's, you know, it's not easy to stay in good conflict. Everybody is gonna visit high conflict, even if it's for, you know, a few minutes, but you don't wanna live there because you, you and your cause will suffer.”  So says Amanda Ripley, investigative journalist, podcast host, New York Times bestselling author and the queen of conflict - good conflict, that is. Amanda's most recent book - High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out - draws on her years of experience trying to make sense of conflict on a personal and political level—particularly in this heightened time of OUTRAGE.  Not all conflict is bad, Amanda tells us. In bad conflict, what she calls high conflict, the conflict becomes the whole point, an us vs. them mentality that takes on a life of its own and leads participants down a path of perpetual anger without resolution. Good conflict, on the other hand, goes somewhere interesting as genuine curiosity and deep listening leads to better mutual understanding. So how do we make the shift? In our discussion, Amanda arms us with a mind-opening new way to think about conflict that will transform how we move through the world. We talk about what it means to get curious about what lies beneath the surface of a conflict; how our own unresolved internal conflicts often inform our external conflicts; as well as the importance of engaging in deep listening in order to make others feel truly heard. In a world engineered for misunderstanding, Amanda gives us faith that individuals, and even entire communities, can end the doom loop of outrage and blame if they can learn to really hear each other.  EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: What would it be like if you got what you wanted?… Conflict entrepreneurs… High conflict and the death of curiosity… Deep listening and making others feel heard… MORE FROM AMANDA RIPLEY: High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out The Smartest Kids in the World: And How They Got That Way The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes - And Why Listen to Amanda's Podcast, How To! on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Amanda's Website Follow Amanda on Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Growing homelessness has fueled bitter conflicts in hundreds of neighborhoods across California. The drought is renewing generations-old local wars over water. Schools have become political and cultural battlegrounds, with parents and teachers at odds. And fights over pandemic response, from Shasta to Orange Counties, have escalated into violent threats between citizens and local officials. Why are so many Californians falling into fights with their neighbors? How much do social media and our polarized national politics contribute to local divides? And what are the best strategies to extract ourselves, and our neighbors, from intense conflicts so that we might work together to solve problems? “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out” author Amanda Ripley, UCLA sociocultural anthropologist Kyeyoung Park, and mediator and former California Superior Court judge B. Scott Silverman visited Zócalo to discuss how we can stop contentious disputes from escalating and taking over our communities. This Zócalo/California Wellness Foundation event, co-presented with the Natural History Museum of LA County, was streamed live from the La Brea Tar Pits and Museum on April 13, 2022 and was moderated by Los Angeles Times columnist Erika D. Smith. Read more about our panelists here: https://zps.la/3cjL6OA Visit https://www.zocalopublicsquare.org/ to read our articles and learn about upcoming events. Twitter: https://twitter.com/thepublicsquare Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepublicsquare/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/zocalopublicsquare LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/z-calo-public-square

Speaker Sprowls sits down with New York Times bestselling author and renowned investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley. Discussing her latest book, "High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out," the Speaker and Ripley explore how conflicts of opposite extremes extort the reality that lies somewhere in the middle of most situations. In a culture that rewards polarization, politicians and journalists alike could stand to escape the echo chamber of our own perspectives.

Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and a New York Times best-selling author. Her most recent book, and the subject of our conversation, is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out.  In this interview, we take a deep dive into some of her book's main ideas, including:Why high conflicts are a lot like the La Brea Tar Pits.The four "trip wires" that lead to high conflict, including "the power of the binary."Why often the best thing you can do in a conflict is first "get straight in your own head."How finding the "understory" of a conflict can be a source of liberation.How to creatively break the patterns of high conflict by "stepping out of the dance." What it means and why it's important to appeal to a "transcendent identity."And much more (my favorite: Amanda's "food in the fridge" conflict)._________________________For more insights into the art and science of difficult conversations, check out my website. You can also sign up for my free newsletter.

Today, #13 in our countdown of last year's most popular Book Bites: “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out” by Amanda Ripley. Amanda says the best way to stop a minor spat from becoming an all-consuming feud isn't to avoid friction but to fight with dignity, smarts, and humility. Check out Amanda's interview with Susan Cain. And if you haven't already, download the Next Big Idea app at www.nextbigideaclub.com/app.

Today, #13 in our countdown of last year's most popular Book Bites: “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out” by Amanda Ripley. Amanda says the best way to stop a minor spat from becoming an all-consuming feud isn't to avoid friction but to fight with dignity, smarts, and humility.Check out Amanda's interview with Susan Cain. And if you haven't already, download the Next Big Idea app at www.nextbigideaclub.com/app.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We continue our Best of 2021 episodes with an  episode from the How Do We Fix It? podcast, hosted by Richard Davies and Jim Meigs. What's the greatest crisis facing America today? — Racism and hate crimes, exploding government debt, climate change, or the mess at the border?It may be none of these. America and many other countries are trapped in high conflict. Both sides are paralyzed by fear and anger as they demonize the other. The national narrative of "us versus them" is a threat to democracy and stops us from working together to build a better world.Best-selling author and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is our guest. She is well-known for her writing in The Atlantic, Time, The Guardian, The Wall Street Journal, and many other publications. Her latest book is "High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out."Amanda argues that good conflict involves nuance and complexity. It can teach us to be better people, who are capable of solutions as they move past misunderstandings. Many are trapped in high conflict, which is threatening to tear us apart, creating an even deeper crisis than we have now.We discuss "conflict entrepreneurs"— cable TV personalities, talk radio hosts, and politicians from both left and right — who profit from making us angry and fearful."Most Americans want "out" of this high conflict," Amanda tells How Do We Fix It? "They very much want to see a different way of disagreeing among their politicians and the news media. They are frequently tuning out of politics and the news, which is a big problem, but totally understandable."Additional InformationHow Do We Fix It? PodcastMore shows from The Democracy Group

“This is one of the most important books that will be published in 2021. The Covid vaccine will soon free humanity from a biological pandemic, and this book, if widely read, could free humanity from an equally deadly scourge—high conflict.” — Jonathan Haidt, Social psychologist, Professor of Ethical Leadership at New York University Stern School of Business, and author CThe Coddling of the American Mind Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and a New York Times bestselling author. She's spent her career trying to make sense of complicated human mysteries, from what happens to our brains in a disaster to how some countries manage to educate virtually all their kids to think for themselves. Her first book, http://www.amandaripley.com/books/the-unthinkable (The Unthinkable:) Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why, was published in 15 countries and turned into a PBS documentary. Her next book,  http://www.amandaripley.com/books/the-smartest-kids-in-the-world (The Smartest Kids in the World)—and How They Got That Way, was a New York Times bestseller. Amanda's most recent book is https://www.amazon.com/High-Conflict-Why-Get-Trapped/dp/1982128569 (High Conflict: )Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, published by Simon & Schuster in April 2021. In her books and magazine writing, Amanda combines storytelling with data to help illuminate hard problems—and solutions. To do this, she usually follows people who have been through some kind of a transformation—including the survivors of hurricanes and plane crashes, American teenagers who have gone to high school in other countries and people who were bewitched by toxic conflicts and managed to break free. (from https://www.amandaripley.com/about-amanda (https://www.amandaripley.com/about-amanda)) Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/55713052-high-conflict (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/55713052-high-conflict) Connect with Audiobook Reviews in 5: · Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/audiobook_reviews_podcast/ (https://www.instagram.com/audiobook_reviews_podcast/) · Twitter: @janna_ca · Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AudiobookReviewsInFiveMinutes (https://www.facebook.com/AudiobookReviewsInFiveMinutes) · Anchor: https://anchor.fm/audiobookreviews (https://anchor.fm/audiobookreviews) · Audiobook Reviews in Five Minutes website: https://podcast.jannastam.com/ (https://podcast.jannastam.com/) · Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/jannastam (https://www.goodreads.com/jannastam) Audio production by Graham Stephenson Episode music: Caprese by https://www.sessions.blue/ (Blue Dot Sessions) Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple, Anchor, Breaker, Google, Overcast, Pocket Casts, RadioPublic, and Spotify This episode was first released in May 2021

“This is one of the most important books that will be published in 2021. The Covid vaccine will soon free humanity from a biological pandemic, and this book, if widely read, could free humanity from an equally deadly scourge—high conflict.” — Jonathan Haidt, Social psychologist, Professor of Ethical Leadership at New York University Stern School of Business, and author CThe Coddling of the American Mind Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and a New York Times bestselling author. She's spent her career trying to make sense of complicated human mysteries, from what happens to our brains in a disaster to how some countries manage to educate virtually all their kids to think for themselves. Her first book, The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why, was published in 15 countries and turned into a PBS documentary. Her next book, The Smartest Kids in the World—and How They Got That Way, was a New York Times bestseller. Amanda's most recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, published by Simon & Schuster in April 2021. In her books and magazine writing, Amanda combines storytelling with data to help illuminate hard problems—and solutions. To do this, she usually follows people who have been through some kind of a transformation—including the survivors of hurricanes and plane crashes, American teenagers who have gone to high school in other countries and people who were bewitched by toxic conflicts and managed to break free. (from https://www.amandaripley.com/about-amanda) Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/55713052-high-conflict Connect with Audiobook Reviews in 5: · Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/audiobook_reviews_podcast/ · Twitter: @janna_ca · Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AudiobookReviewsInFiveMinutes · Anchor: https://anchor.fm/audiobookreviews · Audiobook Reviews in Five Minutes website: https://podcast.jannastam.com/ · Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/jannastam Audio production by Graham Stephenson Episode music: Caprese by Blue Dot Sessions Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple, Anchor, Breaker, Google, Overcast, Pocket Casts, RadioPublic, and Spotify This episode was first released in May 2021

Wait until you hear this Leader Chat. This conversation is as relevant as it gets for today's educational leaders. This is the most polarizing time in our era and high conflict is seriously dominating our day-to-day narrative. Jeff is constantly looking for guests who can help with challenges the leaders we support are facing, and this podcast hits the nail on the head. Amanda's Book, High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out is exactly what we need to read, or in this case hear about.

Gary Friedman, one of my dearest mentors and co-director of The Center of Understanding in Conflict joins us for this episode of "Why Do Pets Matter?" We're talking about pets and how mediation can be exceptionally beneficial when people are in conflict over a pet, what it takes to have a successful experience with mediation, and how mediation can help people move from a right or wrong, high conflict situation to a conversation that leads them to a better resolution for their dispute while preserving their future relationship. About Gary J. Friedman Gary Friedman has been practicing law as a mediator with Mediation Law Offices in Mill Valley, California since 1976. Prior to his work as a mediator, he practiced law as a trial lawyer with Friedman and Friedman in Bridgeport, Connecticut. After several years as an advocate, he sought a new approach to resolving disputes through increasing the participation of the parties in the resolution of their differences. At that time, he and his colleague, Jack Himmelstein, began to develop the Understanding-based model that is now practiced extensively in the United States and Europe. As one of the first lawyer mediators and a primary force in the current mediation movement, he has used this model to complete over one thousand mediations in the last two decades, including numerous two-party and multi-party disputes in the commercial and non-profit realms, in the area of intellectual property, real estate, corporate, personnel, partnership formations and dissolutions, and family law. Through the Center for Mediation in Law, Gary has trained lawyers, law professors and judges in the Center's method of mediation and a mediative approach to lawyering and collaborative practice. Since l989, he has been training lawyers, judges and psychotherapists in the United States, Europe, and Israel. He has taught courses in negotiation and mediation at Stanford University Law School and the New College of Law and has taught at Harvard Law School's Program on Negotiation and at the World Intellectual Property Organization in Geneva. Gary has written extensively about mediation and conflict resolution and is the author of A Guide to Divorce Mediation, (Workman Publishing, l993) and is the co-author, with Jack Himmelstein, of Challenging Conflict: Mediation Through Understanding (published by the American Bar Association and Harvard's Program on Negotiation, 2008).   Connect With Gary: https://understandinginconflict.org/our-teachers/gary-friedman/ https://www.linkedin.com/pub/gary-friedman/6/453/14b   Books: High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out  by Amanda Ripley A Guide to Divorce Mediation: How to Reach a Fair, Legal Settlement at a Fraction of the Cost Challenging Conflict: Mediation Through Understanding

This program is part of the Created Equal and Breathing Free podcast series presented in partnership with Florida Humanities. When we are baffled by the insanity of the “other side”—in our politics, at work, or at home—it's because we aren't seeing how the conflict itself has taken over. New York Times bestselling author and award-winning investigative journalist Amanda Ripley joins us to offer up a brilliant and frame-shifting understanding of conflict — from the most distant political conflict to the most intimately personal conflict in our closest relationships — from her most recent book “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out.” As Amanda introduces us to compelling people in high conflict situations — somehow written more like a great novel you can't put down — we learn how very human it is for us to let the unique dynamics of high conflict take over, and the dire consequences of doing so. Lucky for us Amanda also hands us ingenious and easy-to-implement ways out. We think this book will change your life — it did ours. *** Years ago now, we got a call from Amanda Ripley who was researching bridge building work.  That's when we learned that Amanda was a thinker we intended to follow.  From there, we've read Amanda's refreshing and deeply thoughtful takes on the important challenges of our time. One of our favorites is a re-imagining of the very underpinnings of journalism “Complicating the Narratives,” and we're betting you might have seen her extraordinary feature piece in The Atlantic, “The Least Politically Prejudiced Place in America.”  Her work has also appeared in Time Magazine, the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Wall Street Journal, Slate, Politico, the Guardian and the Times of London. To discuss her writing, Amanda has appeared on ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, FOX News and NPR. She has spoken at the Pentagon, the Senate, the House of Representatives, the State Department and the Department of Homeland Security. Oh, and The Village Square. Learn more about Amanda here.

In this episode of Politics In Question, Amanda Ripley joins Julia, Lee, and James to discuss political conflict. Ripley is an investigative journalist and New York Times bestselling author. Her most recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out (Simon & Schuster, Inc., 2021). Ripley's writing has appeared in the Atlantic Magazine, Time Magazine, the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Wall Street Journal, Slate, Politico, the Guardian, and The Times of London.What is high conflict? How does it impact politics? Can participating in politics in institutions like Congress help solve the problems high conflict causes? And what exactly is a conflict entrepreneur? These are some of the questions Amanda, Julia, Lee, and James ask in this episode.Additional InformationPolitics in Question PodcastMore shows from The Democracy Group

Aired: June 2, 2021 A special Sustain What episode with two scientists, a journalist and a songwriter offering ways to navigate turbulence, polarization and disinformation with the fewest regrets. Join Andy Revkin of Columbia's Climate School with Carnegie Mellon philosopher Andy Norman; solution-focused journalist Amanda Ripley; Columbia University psychologist and conflict dissector Peter Coleman, and songwriter and storyteller Reggie Harris. Send feedback and ideas for future shows: http://j.mp/sustainwhatfeedback Here's more on our guests: - Peter T. Coleman, a professor of psychology and education at Columbia University, will discuss lessons from his new book, “The Way Out - How to Overcome Toxic Polarization.” Coleman holds a joint appointment at Teachers College and the Earth Institute and directs two research centers. He is also the author of “Making Conflict Work: Harnessing the Power of Disagreement” (2014) and “The Five Percent: Finding Solutions to Seemingly Impossible Conflicts” (2011), among other books. He says “The Way Out” is “about why we are stuck in our current cultural riptide and what we can do to find our way out. It will explain how patterns of intractable polarization can and do change, and offer a set of principles and practices for navigating and healing the more difficult divides in your home, workplace and community.” Learn more: https://thewayoutofpolarization.com/ - Reggie Harris is a longtime folk singer and songwriter, storyteller and educator who has worked and sung for racial understanding, human rights and justice for decades. He'll speak about his experiences at the interface of love and hate, Black and White and maybe sing a song or two. He describes his new album, “On Solid Ground,” as a “call for personal and national grounding in the explosion of racial and civil unrest and the growing worldwide death spiral that was 2020.” Explore Harris's music, writing and activities: https://reggieharrismusic.com/ - Andy Norman teaches philosophy and directs the Humanism Initiative at Carnegie Mellon University. He says his focus is studying how ideologies short-circuit minds and corrupt moral understanding and developing tools that help people reason together in more fruitful ways. Norman will describe insights offered in his new book, “Mental Immunity: Infectious Ideas, Mind-Parasites, and the Search for a Better Way to Think." Learn more: https://andynorman.org/ - Amanda Ripley is a solutions-focused journalist and bestselling author who has become a champion of a new style of journalism sifting less for sound bites and more for pathways to insight amid complexity. Her new book is “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out.” Here's Ripley's summary of this concept: “When we are baffled by the insanity of the ‘other side'—in our politics, at work, or at home—it's because we aren't seeing how the conflict itself has taken over. That's what ‘high conflict' does. People do escape high conflict. Individuals—even entire communities—can short-circuit the feedback loops of outrage and blame, if they want to. This is a mind-opening new way to think about conflict that will transform how we move through the world.” Explore: https://amandaripley.com/high-conflict Sustain What, produced and hosted by Andy Revkin, is a series of conversations seeking progress where complexity and consequence collide.

What's the greatest crisis facing America today? — Racism and hate crimes, exploding government debt, climate change, or the mess at the border? It may be none of these. America and many other countries are trapped in high conflict. Both sides are paralyzed by fear and anger as they demonize the other. The national narrative of "us versus them" is a threat to democracy and stops us from working together to build a better world. Best-selling author and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is our guest. She is well-known for her writing in The Atlantic, Time, The Guardian, The Wall Street Journal, and many other publications. Her latest book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Amanda argues that good conflict involves nuance and complexity. It can teach us to be better people, who are capable of solutions as they move past misunderstandings. Many are trapped in high conflict, which is threatening to tear us apart, creating an even deeper crisis than we have now. We discuss "conflict entrepreneurs"— cable TV personalities, talk radio hosts, and politicians from both left and right — who profit from making us angry and fearful. "Most Americans want "out" of this high conflict," Amanda tells How Do We Fix It? "They very much want to see a different way of disagreeing among their politicians and the news media. They are frequently tuning out of politics and the news, which is a big problem, but totally understandable." Recommendation: Jim enjoyed watching "Long Strange Trip", a highly-praised documentary about the rock band, the Grateful Dead. TV viewers can watch it on Amazon Prime. This is an episode of the excellent podcast "How Do We Fix It." You can find it on all the major podcast apps and here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/communications

What's the greatest crisis facing America today? — Racism and hate crimes, exploding government debt, climate change, or the mess at the border? It may be none of these. America and many other countries are trapped in high conflict. Both sides are paralyzed by fear and anger as they demonize the other. The national narrative of "us versus them" is a threat to democracy and stops us from working together to build a better world. Best-selling author and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is our guest. She is well-known for her writing in The Atlantic, Time, The Guardian, The Wall Street Journal, and many other publications. Her latest book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Amanda argues that good conflict involves nuance and complexity. It can teach us to be better people, who are capable of solutions as they move past misunderstandings. Many are trapped in high conflict, which is threatening to tear us apart, creating an even deeper crisis than we have now. We discuss "conflict entrepreneurs"— cable TV personalities, talk radio hosts, and politicians from both left and right — who profit from making us angry and fearful. "Most Americans want "out" of this high conflict," Amanda tells How Do We Fix It? "They very much want to see a different way of disagreeing among their politicians and the news media. They are frequently tuning out of politics and the news, which is a big problem, but totally understandable." Recommendation: Jim enjoyed watching "Long Strange Trip", a highly-praised documentary about the rock band, the Grateful Dead. TV viewers can watch it on Amazon Prime. This is an episode of the excellent podcast "How Do We Fix It." You can find it on all the major podcast apps and here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/american-studies

What's the greatest crisis facing America today? — Racism and hate crimes, exploding government debt, climate change, or the mess at the border? It may be none of these. America and many other countries are trapped in high conflict. Both sides are paralyzed by fear and anger as they demonize the other. The national narrative of "us versus them" is a threat to democracy and stops us from working together to build a better world. Best-selling author and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is our guest. She is well-known for her writing in The Atlantic, Time, The Guardian, The Wall Street Journal, and many other publications. Her latest book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Amanda argues that good conflict involves nuance and complexity. It can teach us to be better people, who are capable of solutions as they move past misunderstandings. Many are trapped in high conflict, which is threatening to tear us apart, creating an even deeper crisis than we have now. We discuss "conflict entrepreneurs"— cable TV personalities, talk radio hosts, and politicians from both left and right — who profit from making us angry and fearful. "Most Americans want "out" of this high conflict," Amanda tells How Do We Fix It? "They very much want to see a different way of disagreeing among their politicians and the news media. They are frequently tuning out of politics and the news, which is a big problem, but totally understandable." Recommendation: Jim enjoyed watching "Long Strange Trip", a highly-praised documentary about the rock band, the Grateful Dead. TV viewers can watch it on Amazon Prime. This is an episode of the excellent podcast "How Do We Fix It." You can find it on all the major podcast apps and here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/world-affairs

What's the greatest crisis facing America today? — Racism and hate crimes, exploding government debt, climate change, or the mess at the border? It may be none of these. America and many other countries are trapped in high conflict. Both sides are paralyzed by fear and anger as they demonize the other. The national narrative of "us versus them" is a threat to democracy and stops us from working together to build a better world. Best-selling author and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is our guest. She is well-known for her writing in The Atlantic, Time, The Guardian, The Wall Street Journal, and many other publications. Her latest book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Amanda argues that good conflict involves nuance and complexity. It can teach us to be better people, who are capable of solutions as they move past misunderstandings. Many are trapped in high conflict, which is threatening to tear us apart, creating an even deeper crisis than we have now. We discuss "conflict entrepreneurs"— cable TV personalities, talk radio hosts, and politicians from both left and right — who profit from making us angry and fearful. "Most Americans want "out" of this high conflict," Amanda tells How Do We Fix It? "They very much want to see a different way of disagreeing among their politicians and the news media. They are frequently tuning out of politics and the news, which is a big problem, but totally understandable." Recommendation: Jim enjoyed watching "Long Strange Trip", a highly-praised documentary about the rock band, the Grateful Dead. TV viewers can watch it on Amazon Prime. This is an episode of the excellent podcast "How Do We Fix It." You can find it on all the major podcast apps and here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

What's the greatest crisis facing America today? — Racism and hate crimes, exploding government debt, climate change, or the mess at the border? It may be none of these. America and many other countries are trapped in high conflict. Both sides are paralyzed by fear and anger as they demonize the other. The national narrative of "us versus them" is a threat to democracy and stops us from working together to build a better world. Best-selling author and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is our guest. She is well-known for her writing in The Atlantic, Time, The Guardian, The Wall Street Journal, and many other publications. Her latest book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Amanda argues that good conflict involves nuance and complexity. It can teach us to be better people, who are capable of solutions as they move past misunderstandings. Many are trapped in high conflict, which is threatening to tear us apart, creating an even deeper crisis than we have now. We discuss "conflict entrepreneurs"— cable TV personalities, talk radio hosts, and politicians from both left and right — who profit from making us angry and fearful. "Most Americans want "out" of this high conflict," Amanda tells How Do We Fix It? "They very much want to see a different way of disagreeing among their politicians and the news media. They are frequently tuning out of politics and the news, which is a big problem, but totally understandable." Recommendation: Jim enjoyed watching "Long Strange Trip", a highly-praised documentary about the rock band, the Grateful Dead. TV viewers can watch it on Amazon Prime. This is an episode of the excellent podcast "How Do We Fix It." You can find it on all the major podcast apps and here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/journalism

Have you ever found yourself so gripped in the throes of a conflict - with a friend, a family member, some stranger online - that you're blinded by a kind of rage that feels like it could overtake you at any moment? Have you found yourself questioning the other person's sanity, baffled as to why they would ever believe what they believe? Then you've experienced what is known as High Conflict. Bestselling author and investigative journalist Amanda Ripley has spent the last several years figuring out why we get trapped in this kind of conflict, and how we can work together to find our way out.High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, by Amanda RipleyThe Least Politically Prejudiced Place in America, by Amanda RipleyResetting the TableA Guide to Divorce Mediation, by Gary FriedmanNational Association for Community MediationFind Mediators at Mediate.comamandaripley.com@amandaripley----------Email: newliberalspodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @NewLiberalsPod

Amanda Ripley: High Conflict Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and a New York Times bestselling author. She's spent her career trying to make sense of complicated human mysteries, from what happens to our brains in a disaster to how some countries manage to educate virtually all their kids to think for themselves. Her first book, The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why*, was published in 15 countries and turned into a PBS documentary. Her next book, The Smartest Kids in the World—and How They Got That Way*, was a New York Times bestseller. Her most recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out*. In this conversation, Amanda and I discuss the distinction between good, healthy conflict — and high conflict that becomes unproductive for almost everybody. We discuss how humiliation is often such a strong catalyst for high conflict. Finally, we explore many of the practical steps to take in order to avoid the worst conflicts and do better for ourselves and our organizations. Key Points Good conflict often brings surprises, but high conflict is surprisingly predictable. Humiliation is one of the most powerful fire starters in triggering high conflict. Limit humiliation by avoiding attacks on someone's identity, especially in a public forum. Distancing yourself from “conflict entrepreneurs” can help provide the space to emerge from high conflict. Resist binaries and us vs. them language. When people get sorted into two groups, that can lay a foundation for high conflict. Slowing down conflict can often provide the opportunity to emerge with productive dialogue. Resources Mentioned High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out* by Amanda Ripley Related Episodes How to Listen When Someone Is Venting, with Mark Goulston (episode 91) How to Deal with Opponents and Adversaries, with Peter Block (episode 328) How to Find Confidence in Conflict, with Kwame Christian (episode 380) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

Journalist and author Amanda Ripley followed a mediator turned politician, environmental activists, religious figures, and a former gang leader turned violence preventer in Chicago to unravel how we elevate from healthy, everyday conflict to dangerous, often inescapable “high conflict.” Ripley tells those stories in her latest book High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. The writer outlines some solutions from the book, and shares a personal tale of what triggered some of her interest in the topic.  Guest: Amanda Ripley, Author, High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out (@amandaripley) Follow us on Twitter: @CityCastChicago Sign up for our newsletter: chicago.citycast.fm

Amanda Ripley: High Conflict Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and a New York Times bestselling author. She's spent her career trying to make sense of complicated human mysteries, from what happens to our brains in a disaster to how some countries manage to educate virtually all their kids to think for themselves. Her first book, The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why*, was published in 15 countries and turned into a PBS documentary. Her next book, The Smartest Kids in the World—and How They Got That Way*, was a New York Times bestseller. Her most recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out*. In this conversation, Amanda and I discuss the distinction between good, healthy conflict — and high conflict that becomes unproductive for almost everybody. We discuss how humiliation is often such a strong catalyst for high conflict. Finally, we explore many of the practical steps to take in order to step aside from the worst conflicts and do better for ourselves and our organizations. Key Points Good conflict often brings surprises, but high conflict is surprisingly predictable. Humiliation is one of the most powerful fire starters in triggering high conflict. Limit humiliation by avoiding attacks on someone's identity, especially in a public forum. Distancing yourself from “conflict entrepreneurs” can help provide the space to emerge from high conflict. Resist binaries and us vs. them language. When people get sorted into two groups, that can lay a foundation for high conflict. Slowing down conflict can often provide the opportunity to emerge with productive dialogue. Resources Mentioned High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out* by Amanda Ripley Related Episodes How to Listen When Someone Is Venting, with Mark Goulston (episode 91) How to Deal with Opponents and Adversaries, with Peter Block (episode 328) How to Find Confidence in Conflict, with Kwame Christian (episode 380) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

Think of your family, your friends, and your colleagues. In each of these relationships, you can expect to experience conflict from time to time. Sometimes, it's unhealthy conflict that harms our relationships. Other times, it's healthy conflict that strengthens them. High conflict is something different. It happens when we view the conflict as good versus evil. It's when the walls go up. When it's about us versus them. Right versus wrong. We double down on our assumptions, maybe about people we don't even know. Ultimately, we get stuck. It's a volatile place, and a dangerous one, because it's often just a step away from dehumanization. My guest, Amanda Ripley, spent four years studying this conflict. She's an investigative journalist and author of the book, High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Amanda interviewed ordinary people who got caught up in high conflict, and, with effort and commitment, managed to break free. Through their stories, she explains what conflict is, how we get sucked into it, and, most importantly, how we move through it. Amanda is author of the books, The Smartest Kids in the World and Unthinkable. She writes regularly for The Atlantic and spent a decade writing for Time Magazine. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and The Guardian.  Episode Links Piranesi by Susanna Clarke Mark Lynas Gary Friedman More in Common  Baha i Faith Losing Common Ground: Social Sorting and Polarization Kim Binsted Curtis Toler and Team CRED John and Julie Gottman The Difficult Conversations Lab and Peter Coleman Ranked-choice Voting 22 Questions that 'Complicate the Narrative' The Team Learn more about host, Gayle Allen, and producer, Rob Mancabelli, here. Support the Podcast If you like the show, please rate and review it on iTunes or wherever you subscribe, and tell a friend or family member about the show. Subscribe Click here and then scroll down to see a sample of sites where you can subscribe.

The type of conflict that's permeating America today is the intractable kind where normal rules of engagement don't apply. High conflict is the opposite of useful friction or healthy conflict. It's when discord distills into a good-versus-evil kind of feud — an us and a them. Sound familiar? In this time when everything is political, including aspects of the pandemic, everyday Americans are at each other's throats. How can we break free? In her book, High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, Amanda Ripley examines how cases of high conflict across the globe share similar characteristics. She tells Garrett Graff, director for cyber initiatives for the Aspen Digital program at the Aspen Institute, about a mind-opening new way to think about conflict.

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Gary Friedman, a highly-respected and deeply-experienced mediator, ran for local office in the small Northern California town where he had lived for 40 years. Recently, tensions had flared in town meetings over a few local issues. Amanda Ripley, author of High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, wrote about his foray into politics in her article, “I Got Obama’d”.https://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2021/05/01/conflict-resolution-politics-amanda-ripley-excerpt-484786Starting out with a goal of including everyone, Gary soon fell into the trap of divisive politics, and tensions escalated. He and his allies lost power. He then regained his perspective and worked to help to help his neighbors understand each other – even when they disagreed. Then conflict could lead to something productive, to true problem-solving.What some of us like to call “good conflict”, the creative and collaborative kind.Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.Enjoy the show on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/And you can follow us on Twitter @conflictsolving. 

Diane feels like she’s constantly picking fights with her partner Mohammed—when he forgets to grab tomatoes from the grocery store or drops the ball on planning their son’s birthday party. Their conflicts are complicated by layers of cultural differences: Mohammed is a Syrian refugee, Diane is an American, and they live in the Netherlands. “He lived through a war, so I can’t win any argument,” says Diane, who is increasingly desperate to find a solution. On this episode of How To!, we bring on investigative journalist Amanda Ripley, author of High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Amanda reveals that conflict can actually be good—as long as anger, and not contempt, is at its core. Drawing from her research on astronauts, gang members and politicians, Amanda coaches Diane through techniques that can help all of us have better fights.  If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Win Arguments Like a Hostage Negotiator.” Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Diane feels like she’s constantly picking fights with her partner Mohammed—when he forgets to grab tomatoes from the grocery store or drops the ball on planning their son’s birthday party. Their conflicts are complicated by layers of cultural differences: Mohammed is a Syrian refugee, Diane is an American, and they live in the Netherlands. “He lived through a war, so I can’t win any argument,” says Diane, who is increasingly desperate to find a solution. On this episode of How To!, we bring on investigative journalist Amanda Ripley, author of High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Amanda reveals that conflict can actually be good—as long as anger, and not contempt, is at its core. Drawing from her research on astronauts, gang members and politicians, Amanda coaches Diane through techniques that can help all of us have better fights.  If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Win Arguments Like a Hostage Negotiator.” Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mike, Max and Shane discuss the recent split of Bill and Melinda Gates & their unusual marriage arrangement. Then they welcome feature guest and author Amanda Ripley to discuss her book “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out” (31:00). And finally, Shane delivers a surprise guest to hash out a past betrayal. Produced in association with Much Studios.

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“This is one of the most important books that will be published in 2021. The Covid vaccine will soon free humanity from a biological pandemic, and this book, if widely read, could free humanity from an equally deadly scourge—high conflict.” — Jonathan Haidt, Social psychologist, Professor of Ethical Leadership at New York University Stern School of Business, and author CThe Coddling of the American Mind Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and a New York Times bestselling author. She’s spent her career trying to make sense of complicated human mysteries, from what happens to our brains in a disaster to how some countries manage to educate virtually all their kids to think for themselves. Her first book, The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why, was published in 15 countries and turned into a PBS documentary. Her next book, The Smartest Kids in the World—and How They Got That Way, was a New York Times bestseller. Amanda’s most recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, published by Simon & Schuster in April 2021. In her books and magazine writing, Amanda combines storytelling with data to help illuminate hard problems—and solutions. To do this, she usually follows people who have been through some kind of a transformation—including the survivors of hurricanes and plane crashes, American teenagers who have gone to high school in other countries and people who were bewitched by toxic conflicts and managed to break free. (from https://www.amandaripley.com/about-amanda) Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/55713052-high-conflict Audio production by Graham Stephenson Episode music: Caprese by Blue Dot Sessions Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple, Anchor, Breaker, Google, Overcast, Pocket Casts, RadioPublic, and Spotify

Peter Coleman, Columbia professor of psychology and education and author of the forthcoming "The Way Out: How To Overcome Toxic Polarization"; Archon Fung, professor of citizenship and self-government at the Harvard Kennedy School; the Reverend Irene Monroe, theologian, syndicated columnist, and co-host of GBH's "All Rev'd Up" podcast; Amanda Ripley, author of the forthcoming "High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out"; and Deb Roy, MIT professor of media arts and sciences and director of the MIT Center for Constructive Communication, explore productive discussions across conflicts and divides with Mo Elleithee, executive director of Georgetown University's Institute of Politics and Public Service.

“This is one of the most important books that will be published in 2021. The Covid vaccine will soon free humanity from a biological pandemic, and this book, if widely read, could free humanity from an equally deadly scourge—high conflict.” — Jonathan Haidt, Social psychologist, Professor of Ethical Leadership at New York University Stern School of Business, and author CThe Coddling of the American Mind Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and a New York Times bestselling author. She's spent her career trying to make sense of complicated human mysteries, from what happens to our brains in a disaster to how some countries manage to educate virtually all their kids to think for themselves. Her first book, http://www.amandaripley.com/books/the-unthinkable (The Unthinkable:) Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why, was published in 15 countries and turned into a PBS documentary. Her next book,  http://www.amandaripley.com/books/the-smartest-kids-in-the-world (The Smartest Kids in the World)—and How They Got That Way, was a New York Times bestseller. Amanda's most recent book is https://www.amazon.com/High-Conflict-Why-Get-Trapped/dp/1982128569 (High Conflict: )Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, published by Simon & Schuster in April 2021. In her books and magazine writing, Amanda combines storytelling with data to help illuminate hard problems—and solutions. To do this, she usually follows people who have been through some kind of a transformation—including the survivors of hurricanes and plane crashes, American teenagers who have gone to high school in other countries and people who were bewitched by toxic conflicts and managed to break free. (from https://www.amandaripley.com/about-amanda (https://www.amandaripley.com/about-amanda)) Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/55713052-high-conflict (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/55713052-high-conflict) Audio production by Graham Stephenson Episode music: Caprese by https://www.sessions.blue/ (Blue Dot Sessions) Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple, Anchor, Breaker, Google, Overcast, Pocket Casts, RadioPublic, and Spotify

Today is a discussion of the life and work of legendary disaster researcher Dennis Mileti, who passed away due to COVID-19 in January.  I will be joined by Lori Peek and Amanda Ripley. Lori Peek – who has been a guest three previous times on COVID Calls! – is a professor in the Department of Sociology and director of the Natural Hazards Center at the University of Colorado Boulder. She studies marginalized populations in disaster and is author of Behind the Backlash: Muslim Americans after 9/11, co-editor of Displaced: Life in the Katrina Diaspora, and co-author of Children of Katrina. Lori received her Ph.D. in Sociology in 2005 from the University of Colorado Boulder, where she studied under Dennis Mileti and worked as his research assistant at the Natural Hazards Center. Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist for The Atlantic and other magazines and a New York Times bestselling author. Her newest book, released just this month, is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. She also wrote The Smartest Kids in the World: And How They Got That Way, about education, and The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why, about the lessons of disaster survivors. In that last book, The Unthinkable, she featured Dennis Mileti, one of her favorite sources during the many years she spent covering disasters and homeland security for Time Magazine in New York, Washington, and Paris. Her stories have helped Time win two National Magazine Awards. Dennis Mileti was a giant in the natural hazards field and impacted many researchers (including me) as well as practitioners with his insights as well as his clear vision. He was interested in other people’s ideas and responded with constructive comments that reflected his views on the topic without indicating that he expected you to adopt them. For these reasons, Dennis was admired and respected in the hazards field by everyone I have known.

This week has brought chilling news about some of the youngest Canadians to die from Covid-19. Pediatrician Dan Flanders outlines what experts are saying about kids and the coronavirus; Kristen Jones-Bonofiglio is an assistant professor in the School of Nursing and Director of the Centre for Health Care Ethics at Lakehead University in Thunder Bay. She explains why hospitals need to re-think those restrictions on visiting in order to be more compassionate to both patients and staff; Our host Julianne Hazlewood takes part in an online workout for people with Parkinson's Disease; The Biden administration marks it's first one hundred days in office today. Ibrahim Berrada, who teaches Canadian Studies at Brock University discusses how Canada's relationship with the U.S. will change with this new administration; Our Tara Henley talks with author Amanda Ripley, an investigative journalist for The Atlantic about her new book, 'High Conflict - Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out." She examines how opinion is becoming more and more polarized on matters both large and small - and what we can do to bridge the divide; Chris Chen.of Compensation Governance Partners is an expert on executive compensation. He discusses the big money some corporate leaders are bringing in during the pandemic while in many cases, front line staff who deal with public receive no extra consideration; Ian Malcolm of the Rotary Club in Barrie tells us about their plans for a garden to commemorate the pandemic.

Sorry for my podcast fail this week, but join me reading Amanda Ripley's High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Here's a link to order from Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/high-conflict-amanda-ripley/1137938562 If you're ready to address your deepest stepmom anxieties, or get to work on overcoming that post-divorce "parenting paralysis" that seems to strike even the most professionally successful dad, give me a shout about working together 1:1. You can book a free call with me at bit.ly/CALLTRACY Here are the episodes I suggested from our archives: 9.1 Expectations vs Agreements 8.1 The Teenage stepdaughter with Mary Kelly 7.5, 7.6 Up-leveling as a dad with Rich Bolus of The Dad Mindset podcast 6.5, 6.6 Trystan Reese author of How We Do Family 5.5 Kate Anthony - first wife forever syndrome 4.4 Me: How do you bond with a kid who wants nothing to do with you 3.10 Me: Evil Stepmom archetype 3.6 Me: Unbrainwashing your alienated child 2.9 Me: Disengaging for Beginners 1.1 Me: Overstepping --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

What’s the greatest crisis facing America today? — Racism and hate crimes, exploding government debt, climate change, or the mess at the border?It may be none of these. America and many other countries are trapped in high conflict. Both sides are paralyzed by fear and anger as they demonize the other. The national narrative of "us versus them" is a threat to democracy and stops us from working together to build a better world.Best-selling author and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is our guest. She is well-known for her writing in The Atlantic, Time, The Guardian, The Wall Street Journal, and many other publications. Her latest book is “High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out."Amanda argues that good conflict involves nuance and complexity. It can teach us to be better people, who are capable of solutions as they move past misunderstandings. Many are trapped in high conflict, which is threatening to tear us apart, creating an even deeper crisis than we have now.We discuss "conflict entrepreneurs"— cable TV personalities, talk radio hosts, and politicians from both left and right — who profit from making us angry and fearful."Most Americans want "out" of this high conflict," Amanda tells How Do We Fix It? "They very much want to see a different way of disagreeing among their politicians and the news media. They are frequently tuning out of politics and the news, which is a big problem, but totally understandable."Recommendation: Jim enjoyed watching "Long Strange Trip", a highly-praised documentary about the rock band, the Grateful Dead. TV viewers can watch it on Amazon Prime. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you feel like you had to keep engaging in an argument on Twitter without knowing who they are and what their agendas are? Do you ever lose friends or family members over a single argument and disagreement? What is High Conflict? What is Positive Conflict? How do we avoid it and get ourselves out from those conflicts? In this episode, I have on Amanda Ripley, American journalist and author of the new book, High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, to talk about all the stories about people are losing their minds over a single argument. And why now more than ever that we have more and more conflict every day? My new book Skip The Line is out! Make sure you get a copy wherever you get your new book! Join You Should Run For President 2.0 Facebook Group, and we discuss why should run for president. I write about all my podcasts! Check out the full post and learn what I learned at jamesaltucher.com/podcast. Thanks so much for listening! If you like this episode, please subscribe to "The James Altucher Show" and rate and review wherever you get your podcasts: Apple Podcasts Stitcher iHeart Radio Spotify Follow me on Social Media: YouTube Twitter Facebook Share Embed ------------What do YOU think of the show? Head to JamesAltucherShow.com/listeners and fill out a short survey that will help us better tailor the podcast to our audience!Are you interested in getting direct answers from James about your question on a podcast? Go to JamesAltucherShow.com/AskAltucher and send in your questions to be answered on the air!------------Visit Notepd.com to read our idea lists & sign up to create your own!My new book, Skip the Line, is out! Make sure you get a copy wherever books are sold!Join the You Should Run for President 2.0 Facebook Group, where we discuss why you should run for President.I write about all my podcasts! Check out the full post and learn what I learned at jamesaltuchershow.com------------Thank you so much for listening! If you like this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to "The James Altucher Show" wherever you get your podcasts: Apple PodcastsiHeart RadioSpotifyFollow me on social media:YouTubeTwitterFacebookLinkedIn