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In this episode, we sit down with two distinguished leaders who have dedicated their careers to public service and community engagement. Steve Aronson, President and Founder of the Friends of the Ephrata Police Foundation, shares his extensive experience as a community volunteer. Prior to his leadership role at the Foundation, Steve served as Chairman of the Business Recruitment & Retention Committee for Mainspring of Ephrata and was active in various local organizations, including the Ephrata Visitor's Center, the Ephrata Cloister, and Ladies Lending Paws. A retired National Business Development Manager in the aerospace industry, Steve brings a wealth of knowledge to his volunteer work, focusing on supporting local causes like dog rescue and Toys for Tots.We're also joined by Chief Chris McKim, who has served the Ephrata community for over 30 years. Chief McKim, now the permanent Chief of Police, discusses his long career with the Ephrata Police Department, where he has held various leadership positions, including sergeant, lieutenant, and interim chief. With a background as a Field Training Officer, Hostage Negotiator, and Firearms Instructor, Chief McKim brings a wealth of experience and expertise in law enforcement. He also serves on several important committees, including the Pennsylvania Chiefs of Police Association and the Lancaster County Chiefs of Police Association.Join us for a compelling conversation about community leadership, public service, and the important work being done to improve and protect Ephrata.
How do you help people who isolate themselves? "Hikikomori" is a worldwide phenomena--where young men (usually ages 18 to 25) isolate themselves. They tend to talk to no one and not have jobs. In Japan, there are 1,200,000 people like this, and there are many in other nations, including the U.S. These people don't have goals and they don't have relationships. Can they be helped?It takes a lot of work, but popular Catholic Bishop Fulton Sheen, and professional terrorist, and kidnapper-negotiator, Chris Voss, appear to have found a way. If someone you love is in this situation, and you'd like to help, but you don't know how, this might be an answer.For more information, look into:* The William George Agency for Children's Services;* EverGreen Meadow Academy;* Boys Republic;* The Menniger Clinic;* Yellowbrick;* and Exposure =Therapy.Note: I'm not endorsing any of the above. I'm just saying that it's worth looking into.(I recorded this episode on March 8, 2025.)
Conflict can be one of life's most challenging puzzles, especially when emotions run high. Host Timothy J. Hayes welcomes Karleen Savage, a seasoned hostage negotiator, to delve into the tools and strategies used to diffuse tension, foster understanding, and transform conflicts into opportunities for resolution. Drawing from real-life experiences, Karleen shares the principles behind her trademarked Savage Theory of Resolution, offering practical insights into curiosity, master listening, and reframing difficult conversations. Whether in family dynamics, workplace challenges, or high-stakes situations, this conversation highlights how proven negotiation skills can make a lasting impact.
What if the answers you seek are waiting in nature? In this episode, Nicole connects with Lee Hickenbotham—a detective, crisis negotiator, and life coach—about his journey from law enforcement to founding "Take It Outdoors Life and Wellness." Lee shares how his love for nature and years of experience inspired him to help parents, young adults, and first responders overcome challenges. Discover how nature-based coaching fosters clarity, meaningful conversations, and personal growth. Tune in for practical advice, heartfelt stories, and a fresh take on transformation.With over 25 years in law enforcement, Lee Hickinbotham brings his experience as a Detective Sergeant and Hostage Negotiator to his coaching practice, Take It Outdoors Life and Wellness. A father and mentor, Lee supports first responders, parents, and others navigating stress and high-pressure roles. His outdoor-based approach fosters emotional resilience, clarity, and a focus on what truly matters.Learn more about Lee:Website: www.takeitoutdoorswellness.com Email: lee@takeitoutdoorswellness.com Phone: 669-294-4341I trust you found this episode enlightening and stimulating. If you're eager for more, subscribe to our podcast for regular updates. I'm always keen to hear your reflections and personal journeys. Connect with me on Instagram as @nicolereneejensen. For a deeper understanding of my work and how it can empower you, visit https://linktr.ee/nicolereneejensen
The ceasefire deal between Israel and Hamas does not address several issues, including an end to the war in Gaza. But former Israeli hostage negotiator Gershon Baskin says that it's better than no deal. And, Gavin Kelleher, access manager in Gaza for the Norwegian Refugee Council, explains how a ceasefire will impact aid delivery to Gaza. Then, President Biden gave his farewell address on Wednesday. The New Yorker's Susan Glasser reflects on Biden's domestic and foreign policy legacy.Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy
Roger Carstens' work over the last five years as the special envoy for hostage affairs has led to the release of American hostages held by other countries. He was also part of the team that negotiated Brittney Griner's freedom and a complex deal that led to the release of Evan Gershkovich, Alsu Kurmasheva and Paul Whelan from Russia. Amna Nawaz sat down with Carstens to discuss his efforts. PBS News is supported by - https://www.pbs.org/newshour/about/funders
Roger Carstens' work over the last five years as the special envoy for hostage affairs has led to the release of American hostages held by other countries. He was also part of the team that negotiated Brittney Griner's freedom and a complex deal that led to the release of Evan Gershkovich, Alsu Kurmasheva and Paul Whelan from Russia. Amna Nawaz sat down with Carstens to discuss his efforts. PBS News is supported by - https://www.pbs.org/newshour/about/funders
What can high-stakes hostage negotiations teach us about leadership, persuasion, and building trust? In this episode, Louise gets to chat with former hostage negotiator and award-winning expert speaker Nigel Taberner. From managing emotions under pressure to building trust in seconds, Nigel provides actionable insights for leaders and professionals navigating today's complex and unpredictable world. Discover: - The art of active listening and how it shapes better outcomes. - Proven techniques for negotiating as a conversation between real people! - How to apply negotiation principles to leadership and daily interactions. This episode is packed with stories and lessons to inspire you about communication and connection. Enjoy. Find out more about Nigel at https://www.nigeltaberner.com
Dr. Peter I. Collins is the Operational Forensic Psychiatrist, Threat and Behavioural Analysis Team, High Risk Offender Unit, Criminal Behaviour Analysis Section in the Investigation and Support Bureau of the Ontario Provincial Police. He joins 10-5 The Official Podcast of the OPP Association to discuss his highly decorated career as he reflects on semi-retirement.If you have any questions about this episode, or have an idea for future episodes, please email communications@oppa.ca.Music – “Line of Fire” by Jason Shaw available at Audionautix.com and used under Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 The OPP Association is the sole bargaining agent for the close to 10,000 members of the Ontario Provincial Police in Canada. Our members are our focus and our strength. We aim to provide important information to our members and the public about matters that affect policing in the province of Ontario.
Get ready for a gripping episode as we sit down with Dr. Jim Alvarez, the legendary hostage negotiator who's handled some of the world's most intense and high-stakes situations. From his days as a towering 6'5" NYPD negotiator to analyzing the infamous Waco Siege, Jim takes us behind the scenes like never before.In this explosive episode, you'll discover:The real reasons the Waco Siege spiraled into a fiery tragedy—and how it could have been avoided.Shocking insider details about the FBI's tactics, from broadcasting rabbit screams to running tanks over cars.Why "Operation Showtime" was doomed from the start.Jim's personal experiences negotiating life-and-death situations, including his wildest hostage stories.Practical tips you can use for handling conflicts, negotiating like a pro, and even surviving a kidnapping (hint: don't get kidnapped!).Whether you're a true crime junkie, fascinated by the psychology of negotiation, or just love jaw-dropping stories, this episode delivers it all.
In this episode of Knowledgecast, Jack welcomes Dan Oblinger, a highly versatile professional with an extraordinary background as a hostage negotiator, undercover human trafficking investigator, chicken rancher, and much more. Currently, Dan is a corporate trainer and keynote speaker specializing in listening skills and leadership development. His unique experiences form the foundation of his book Life or Death Listening, which provides critical lessons in effective communication.Dan emphasizes the importance of listening as a leadership skill and shares how it transforms relationships, negotiations, and everyday interactions. He explains the fundamental principle behind listening: “It's not about you.” This mindset, according to Dan, is essential for crisis negotiation, leadership, marriage, and parenting. He also describes the rigorous training provided by the FBI for crisis negotiators, highlighting key takeaways from his time at Quantico.Throughout the episode, Dan offers listeners practical tips for becoming better listeners and underscores the difference between hearing and active listening. He explores the concept of rapport, sharing vivid metaphors like icebergs, minefields, and two-faced individuals to explain the complexities of human communication.Learn more about Dan and his book at www.jackwilliams.com/podcast
Welcome to Fear the Final Girl - A Van Ryder Games Podcast! In today's episode, we are joined by Jay Cormier - Game Designer & Publisher! Our Feature Game this month is Hostage Negotiator - https://vanrydergames.com/pages/hostage-negotiator Movies & Shows discussed in this episode: The Substance (Movie) Witchcraft! - Salt & Pepper Games (Board Game) What we do in the Shadows (TV Show) Terrifier 2 (Movie) Luthier - Paverson Games Nucleum - Board & Dice(Board Game) The Shining (Movie) The Vanishing (Movie) Alien (Movie) When Evil Lurks (Movie) Speak No Evil (Movie) Paranormal Activity (Movie) VHS (Movie) Missing (Movie) Haunting of Hill House (TV Show) The Babadook (Movie) Hereditary (Movie) A Quiet place (Movie) Resident evil (Video Game) The Mist (Movie) Dread - The Impossible Dream (RPG) Mansions of Madness - Fantasy Flight Games (Board Game) Santa Sangre (Movie) Harrow County - Off the Page Games (Board Game) Corps of Discovery - Off the Page Games (Board Game) If you have any comments or questions, post them in the comments below! Click this link to sign up for our digital newsletter & Announcements: http://eepurl.com/dEJtc5 Join the Van Ryder Games Discord: https://discord.gg/vanrydergames Follow Van Ryder Games on Social Media Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanrydergames/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/vanrydergames TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@van.ryder.games Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VanRyderGames/ Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 02:01 - What we've been up to 10:56 - Word of the Month 15:39 - Game of the Month 19:02 - Final Girl Files 37:05 - Main Topic: Happy Halloween 01:08:42 - Game Show 01:19:25 - Wrap Up On the Web https://www.vanrydergames.com/
Mickey Bergman was a paratrooper for the Israel Defense Forces, in the last two decades, he's been inserted in high-stakes international negotiations. Mickey will discuss his new book, 'In the Shadows: True Stories of High-Stakes Negotiations to Free Americans Captured Abroad', at the St Louis Jewish Book Festival this weekend.
It doesn't get much more intense than Hostage Negotiator for the federal police! For over a decade Woon helped people make the right choice in some crazy stressful situations. But it was a choice that a friend of his made and his persistent annoyance that ultimately lead Woon to Christ. To get in touch with host Aiden Grant, email aideng@hotmail.com or head to Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Some of you may have heard of the international bestselling book "Never Split the Difference" which was written by master negotiator Chris Voss. The book discusses the power of negotiation in life and business from a man who is famous for his work as a hostage negotiator. Chris is the founder of Black Swan Group which hosts a list of some of the most elite negotiators who help average joes to master communication in both their personal and business lives. This week's guest, Derrick Guant, is one of the Black Swan group trainers, served in the police force for 29 years in Washington DC and served as a hostage negotiator on many very high stakes cases. Tune in as Derek shares some hostage rescue mission stories and gives some fundamental lessons on how we can all become more effective communicators. You definitely do not want to miss this episode! Subscribe, like, and share!
Remember the simplicity of asking for what you wanted as a child? Dive into "Dammit, Just Ask" by J. Paul Nadeau as we explore how to reclaim that confident inner child. This episode uncovers negotiation strategies not just for boardrooms, but for everyday life—like asking for a raise or navigating relationships. Discover insights from Nadeau, a former hostage negotiator, who introduces the transformative "we, not me" mindset. Learn how empathy and understanding can defuse high-pressure situations and transform negotiations into opportunities for collaboration. Explore practical tools like the PAID method (Pause, Assess, Identify, Discuss) for handling objections and the importance of vulnerability in building trust. Delve into the art of preparation, managing emotions, and aligning actions with words to create genuine connections. This episode is a masterclass in negotiation, emphasizing the power of human connection and relationship building. Ready to transform how you ask for what you want? Tune in and unleash your inner negotiator. * * Please note: This podcast episode was generated using AI technology. The voices, as well as the script, were created by AI based on the content I provided, namely, my manuscript. It is my material. While the voices are not real people, the information remains accurate, and this production was created transparently without any intent to mislead. I appreciate you listening.
In this gripping episode of One Minute Remaining, we sit down with former hostage negotiator Scott Walker. With years of experience on the front lines of high-stakes negotiations, Scott shares his insights into the psychology behind negotiations, the pressure of making life-or-death decisions, and the critical skills needed to defuse some of the most intense situations imaginable. Whether it's talking someone down from a dangerous moment or outsmarting a criminal in a high-stress standoff, Scott's stories reveal the unseen battles fought with words, not weapons.Find Scotts book here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This is part 2 of my chat with former hostage negotiator Scott Walker.With years of experience on the front lines of high-stakes negotiations, Scott shares his insights into the psychology behind negotiations, the pressure of making life-or-death decisions, and the critical skills needed to defuse some of the most intense situations imaginable.Whether it's talking someone down from a dangerous moment or outsmarting a criminal in a high-stress standoff, Scott's stories reveal the unseen battles fought with words, not weapons.Find Scotts book here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to Confessions of an EOS Implementer, a podcast by Talent Harbor. We share unique stories of EOS implementers and the companies they've transformed to give you a rare glimpse into the system's successes and challenges in action. I'm your host, Ryan Hogan. Let's dive in! Joining Ryan on this episode is Jonathan B Smith, an Expert EOS Implementer. Join Ryan and Jonathan in this captivating episode as they delve into the world of negotiation and effective communication. With insights from Jonathan's experience as an E OS implementer and FBI-trained hostage negotiator, learn valuable skills to enhance everyday conversations and build stronger relationships. Discover how tactical empathy and mirroring techniques can create positive outcomes and gain inspiration from Jonathan's work in various industries, including his remarkable turnaround of the International Spy Museum. Don't miss out on this opportunity to improve your communication skills and embark on a journey towards success.
In this "Greatest Hits" episode, originally aired on July 22nd, 2022, James talks with Troy Smith, Retired Detective and Hostage Negotiator with the San Antonio Police Department. Troy is now with the Black Swan Group. To learn more about Black Swan Group, Visit https://www.blackswanltd.com. Visit https://www.jamesjenkins.com/podcasts/agency-freedom/ to join our email list and catch up on episodes you may have missed. Connect with Agency Freedom on Facebook at the Agency Freedom group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/agencyfreedom Email us at podcast@jamesjenkins.com with ideas, requests, complaints or suggestions for how we can make the show better. Episode Highlights: Troy shares his background story and how he ended up joining the San Antonio Police Department as an officer and later as a hostage negotiator. (5:19) Troy discusses what led him to the Black Swan Group where hostage negotiation skills are applied in a business environment. (6:28) Troy shares the story of a powerful moment when he gave his badge to a young boy with terminal cancer who wanted to be in law enforcement one day. (9:06) Troy explains his day-to-day setup as a Black Swan coach and facilitator. (19:40) Troy shares that the foundation skills as part of the training are labeling, mirroring, and dynamic silence. (22:57) Troy shares how to use dynamic silence as a way to stay in the conversation and continue to get the information that you need. (29:54) Troy explains that if you are in any kind of negotiation, you have to learn to be patient and be willing to commit to it. (32:15) Troy discusses why they limit their coaching sessions to 1 or 2 per day. (41:40) Troy shares how Chris spends his time on a day-to-day basis as he runs the business and makes important decisions. (45:16) Troy advises the listeners not to get consumed with how everybody is doing down the road, and instead, just give their best at the moment. (47:41) Key Quotes: "If you don't use the silence to give them the time, you start over talking, you start talking over them. And before they can give you an answer, you've already moved on to the next thing." - Troy Smith “If you're in a negotiation, you have to learn to be patient. This is something that you have to be willing to commit to.” -Troy Smith "When you start saying it's is all about you, it's not about them any longer. And most people are going to get turned off by that." - Troy Smith
In this "Greatest Hits" episode, originally aired on July 22nd, 2022, James talks with Troy Smith, Retired Detective and Hostage Negotiator with the San Antonio Police Department. Troy is now with the Black Swan Group. To learn more about Black Swan Group, Visit https://www.blackswanltd.com. Visit https://www.jamesjenkins.com/podcasts/agency-freedom/ to join our email list and catch up on episodes you may have missed. Connect with Agency Freedom on Facebook at the Agency Freedom group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/agencyfreedom Email us at podcast@jamesjenkins.com with ideas, requests, complaints or suggestions for how we can make the show better. Episode Highlights: Troy shares his background story and how he ended up joining the San Antonio Police Department as an officer and later as a hostage negotiator. (5:19) Troy discusses what led him to the Black Swan Group where hostage negotiation skills are applied in a business environment. (6:28) Troy shares the story of a powerful moment when he gave his badge to a young boy with terminal cancer who wanted to be in law enforcement one day. (9:06) Troy explains his day-to-day setup as a Black Swan coach and facilitator. (19:40) Troy shares that the foundation skills as part of the training are labeling, mirroring, and dynamic silence. (22:57) Troy shares how to use dynamic silence as a way to stay in the conversation and continue to get the information that you need. (29:54) Troy explains that if you are in any kind of negotiation, you have to learn to be patient and be willing to commit to it. (32:15) Troy discusses why they limit their coaching sessions to 1 or 2 per day. (41:40) Troy shares how Chris spends his time on a day-to-day basis as he runs the business and makes important decisions. (45:16) Troy advises the listeners not to get consumed with how everybody is doing down the road, and instead, just give their best at the moment. (47:41) Key Quotes: "If you don't use the silence to give them the time, you start over talking, you start talking over them. And before they can give you an answer, you've already moved on to the next thing." - Troy Smith “If you're in a negotiation, you have to learn to be patient. This is something that you have to be willing to commit to.” -Troy Smith "When you start saying it's is all about you, it's not about them any longer. And most people are going to get turned off by that." - Troy Smith
On TODAY's Podcast What is the best Sandwich? Which fictional character would make the worst Hostage Negotiator? What is the best Walkout Song? Find out, on The Bar Banter Podcast! About the Bar Banter Podcast Hosts: Ben Trimmer, Drew Mullis, Rick Mattison, Travis Jennings Producer: Travis Jennings Editor: Travis Jennings Songs: The Floor Is Lava · Avocado Junkie, 30 Seconds Of Funk - Slap Bass · PremiumProductionTracks, funky-fortune-154575,bounce-114024 Link to full podlink: https://pod.link/1615139311 Twitter: https://twitter.com/the_barbanter Instagram: the_barbanter YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPoVzNf3gTXU2mYvseo7PDA/ #barbanter #drinkinggames #podcast #satire #beer #alcohol #spirits #bar #banter #argue #debate #funny #comedy #indy #drinking #popculture #social #cheers #lastcall #wouldyourather If you want to show your support for the show, now you can! Help us pay for our "Bar Tab" by clicking the link below! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/barbanter/support SHOW NOTES! :31 Show starts 3:57 Topic 1- Best Sandwich 18:56 Topic 2- Which fictional character would make the worst Hostage Negotiator? 34:33 Topic 3- What is the best Walkout Song? 54:28- Last Call! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/barbanter/support
Welcome to episode #937 of Six Pixels of Separation - The ThinkersOne Podcast. Here it is: Six Pixels of Separation - The ThinkersOne Podcast - Episode #937. Life is a negotiation... and every one of us should be thinking about how we can get better at it. Scott Walker is a Sunday Times bestselling author and a keynote speaker on negotiation, communications, leadership and resilience. Scott is one of the world's most experienced kidnap-for-ransom negotiators, offering discreet advice to top corporate, political, and NGO leaders to manage and recover from all sorts of real-life threats. With over three hundred cases resolved worldwide, he now helps clients develop resilient and agile leadership skills to navigate uncertainty and conflict, while consistently delivering top performance. He also trains leaders and teams to master communication, influence, and conflict resolution.In our conversation, Scott dives into negotiation strategies and techniques, pulling from his new book, Order Out Of Chaos - Win Every Negotiation, Thrive In Adversity, And Become A World-Class Communicator. He emphasizes that negotiation is everywhere in life and underscores the critical role of trust, especially in hostage situations. Scott breaks down the challenges of dealing with irrational actors, the importance of saving face in negotiations, and why maintaining long-term relationships matters. We also touch on managing stress and anxiety, emotional self-regulation, and understanding one's own emotions before entering a negotiation. Scott shares stories from his hostage negotiation days, highlighting empathy, trust-building, and assertiveness. We also explore the complexities of kidnapping negotiations and the unique challenges of cyber extortion. His book, Order Out Of Chaos isn't just about high-stakes negotiations - it's a guide to becoming a top-notch communicator. Scott's book, built on years of experience and research, offers simple, proven strategies to handle high-pressure moments, practice proactive listening, develop emotional intelligence, and manage conflict. Whether you're negotiating a deal at work or navigating everyday situations (like with your kids!), the techniques in this book will help you communicate effectively and get the results you want. Enjoy the conversation... Running time: 1:08:246. Hello from beautiful Montreal. Subscribe over at Apple Podcasts. Please visit and leave comments on the blog - Six Pixels of Separation. Feel free to connect to me directly on Facebook here: Mitch Joel on Facebook. Check out ThinkersOne. or you can connect on LinkedIn. ...or on Twitter. Here is my conversation with Scott Walker. Order Out Of Chaos - Win Every Negotiation, Thrive In Adversity, And Become A World-Class Communicator. Follow Scott on LinkedIn. Follow Scott on X. This week's music: David Usher 'St. Lawrence River'. Takeaways Negotiation is a part of everyday life, and it is important to recognize and improve our negotiation skills. Trust is crucial in hostage negotiations, and third-party intermediaries can play a significant role in building trust. Saving face and maintaining pride are important considerations in negotiations, as they can impact the outcome and long-term relationships. Time can be a powerful negotiation strategy, allowing for emotional regulation and the exploration of options. Managing stress and anxiety is essential in negotiations, as they can impact decision-making and outcomes. Emotional self-regulation is crucial in negotiation, and understanding one's own emotions before entering a negotiation is essential. Building trust and empathy are key elements in successful negotiations, whether in hostage situations or business deals. Kidnapping negotiations involve balancing empathy and assertiveness, managing expectations, and developing a battle rhythm. The cyber extortion industry presents unique challenges, and companies must weigh the risks and benefits of negotiation. Difficult situations can be opportunities for personal growth and resilience, and reframing the meaning of challenges can lead to a more fulfilling life. Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction and Background 00:30 - Negotiation in Everyday Life 03:08 - Trust in Hostage Negotiations 05:17 - Negotiating with Irrational Actors 08:06 - Saving Face and Maintaining Pride 09:28 - Negotiating in Geopolitical Conflicts 11:33 - Time as a Negotiation Strategy 12:49 - Expanding the Pie: Win-Win Negotiations 16:25 - Addressing Concerns and Criticisms 20:51 - Short-Termism vs. Long-Term Success 26:14 - Negotiating with Nefarious Intentions 31:08 - Simplifying Negotiations 32:03 - Managing Stress and Anxiety in Negotiations 32:07 - Emotional Self-Regulation in Negotiation 36:15 - The Importance of Negotiating with Yourself 37:02 - Lessons from the First Professional Negotiation 44:04 - The Complexity of Kidnapping Negotiations 49:25 - The Business of Kidnapping for Ransom 53:07 - The Aftermath of Hostage Situations 55:46 - The Unique Challenges of Cyber Extortion 01:02:14 - Finding Resilience and Meaning in Difficult Situations
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Chris Voss is the former lead negotiator for the FBI, and the author of Never Split the Difference, a book about how to negotiate and how to get what you want from other people which has sold millions of copies worldwide. He has handled practically every high stakes crisis management scenario imaginable. Find Chris Here: https://www.blackswanltd.com/chris-voss My links: Free Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/jamesbrackin/1?month=2023-09
Feel like you're being held hostage by your teen's BIG emotions? It's more common than you may think. In fact 73% of parents experience this same struggle. But what if there was a way to de-escalate the situation and actually connect with your teen? In this episode I'm joined by Karleen Savage, a hostage negotiator and conflict resolution expert! Karleen now teaches parents these skills to help them diffuse teen meltdowns and create calmer interactions. Karleen teaches us how to navigate our teen's big emotions with confidence and create an environment that builds their confidence. Key Takeaways Deescalate situations by avoiding assumptions and respecting teenagers' perspectives. Ask open-ended questions and actively listen to teenagers' needs and desires. Build your own relationships with your children and apologize when you make mistakes. Parents have the skills and abilities to handle challenging situations with their teens and create a trusting and respectful relationship. Meet Karleen Savage Karleen Savage is sought-after speaker, trainer, hostage negotiator, and conflict resolution expert with a passion for fostering peaceful, harmonious environments. Through her Savage Theory of Resolution, she emphasizes the importance of communication and collaboration in order to achieve success. Through more than 15 years of professional experience, Karleen has learned that the conflicts we experience in business are usually a reflection of the conflicts happening at home. This belief inspired her to write her book The Confident Teen Blueprint. Throughout her career, Karleen has worked with corporations, educational institutions, non-profit organizations, and government agencies, creating a positive environment for growth and development. Connect with Karleen Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn Connect with Dr. Cam Instagram | Tik Tok Resources Mentioned in This Episode FREE Guide: Dr. Cam's 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens FREE digital download of Karleen's book, The Confident Teen Blueprint Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes. Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.
“I was held hostage myself four times”. I did not see this one coming! On this episode of Starting Over we welcome the distinguished organizational & clinical psychologist and professor of leadership and organizational behavior at IMD Business School Switzerland, George Kohlrieser. George is a thought leader focused on high performance leadership, high performance teamwork, conflict management, change management, dialogue and negotiation, and personal and professional development. He is also a police psychologist and hostage negotiator whose work has taken him to over 100 countries worldwide and has been featured in outlets including The Wall Street Journal, The Economist, The Financial Times and Forbes.If you want to become an inspiring and impactful leader then this episode is essential listening! Not only will you have wise and insightful tips, tactics and strategies, you'll also hear touching personal stories and what indeed occurred when George was taken hostage not only once but four times!If you enjoy the episode, please click follow wherever you're listening and leave a rating or review. Timestamps: 06:38 Are there some types of people you CANNOT negotiate with?10:23 What type of leader are you?12:06 A HUGE mistake most leaders make12:39 Survival mode to thriving: the role of unprocessed grief19:58 "I was held hostage four times"24:15 The two SIMPLE TACTICS hostage negotiators use25:01 Is using FEAR an effective leadership strategy?25:54 Stop saying: "What's wrong with you?!" Say THIS instead28:44 What are the three qualities of an excellent leader 32:23 Want to be an ispiring leader? Ask yourself these questions37:34 Being happy & positive is a CHOICE39:08 How do you actually KNOW when you're being authentic?46:35 How to open yourself emotionally when you don't know howLastly, come and say hello on socials! I love hearing from you. InstagramTikTokYouTubeWebsiteConnect with Dr George Kohlrieser: WebsiteThe High Performance Leadership Program at IMDBooks including Hostage At The TableThe Kohlreiser Leadership InstituteLinkedInMusic by: Flood (Instrumental) by RYYZN https://soundcloud.com/ryyzn
When you're raising teens, it can feel like maybe the best person to talk to is an acclaimed hostage negotiator! We got you! Karleen Savage, mom, TEDx speaker, and crisis negotiator Karleen Savage joins AllMomDoes host Julie Lyles Carr for a fascinating conversation about navigating conflict with our teens.Show Notes: https://bit.ly/3Kmirvl
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Scott Walker is a world-renowned expert in kidnap for ransom negotiation, having resolved over 300 cases and numerous piracy and cyber extortion crises. He leverages his extensive experience to train leaders on resilience, emotional intelligence, and effective communication, crucial skills during times of crisis and significant change. 15 Daily Steps to Lose Weight and Prevent Disease PDF: https://bit.ly/46XTn8f - Get my FREE eBook now! Subscribe to The Genius Life on YouTube! - http://youtube.com/maxlugavere This episode is proudly sponsored by: Puori provides IFOS-certified, high potency fish oil to satisfy all of your pre-formed omega-3 needs! Visit Puori.com/MAX and use promo code MAX to get 20% off site-wide. BetterHelp is the world's largest therapy platform, making professional therapy accessible, affordable, and convenient. Get 10% off of your first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/MAX.
On a Delta flight, Kerri was captivated watching a MasterClass called "Chris Voss Teaches the Art of Negotiation”. So she called up Chris to have him on! Delving into his days as an FBI hostage negotiator, he not only shares invaluable techniques like "Mirroring" and talks about his book "Splitting the Difference," but also regales Kerri with some riveting hostage negotiation stories!
Summary In this episode, Andy talks with Scott Walker who spent 16 years as a Scotland Yard detective. Scott and Andy delve into lessons on emotional intelligence and negotiation skills gleaned from Scott's new book Order out of Chaos: Win Every Negotiation, Thrive in Adversity, and Become a World-Class Communicator. Key takeaways include seeking to understand before being understood, managing emotional states, and using empathy to build trust. Walker also discusses the importance of buying time and, interestingly, feeding egos in negotiations. It's an engaging discussion with one of the world's most experienced kidnap-for-ransom negotiators. Sound Bites "Negotiation is simply a conversation with a purpose." "Kidnappers are businessmen looking to get the right deal for them." "Feeding their ego doesn't mean flattering them. It's about acknowledging their needs and concerns, making them feel heard." "Success leaves clues." "We need to get out of our own way, suspend our own ego, seek to understand before being understood." "If you can visualize a negative outcome closely enough, you train your body and mind to get through it, reducing the power that fear can have over you." "More Sherlock Holmes than Gordon Gecko." Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:40 Start of Interview 01:50 How is Hostage Negotiation Relevant To Business Leaders? 03:33 In What Ways Are We Always Negotiating?/li> 04:49 What Does It Mean to Harness Your Red Center? 08:34 Accepting Where You're At 11:04 Steps To Regulate Your Emotions 15:29 Scenario: Nerves Before The Big Presentation 21:21 When You Start to Doubt Yourself 22:31 MOREPIES 26:36 Feed Their Ego? 30:12 Lessons for Parents 33:21 Interview Wrap Up 33:47 Andy Comments After the Interview 40:37 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Scott and his book at ScottWalkerCoaching.com. If you'd like more on this subject, here are some episodes to check out: Episode 397, with Dr. Julia DiGangi about her book Energy Rising Episode 394, with Joshua Freedman about his book on emotional intelligence Episode 380, with Monica Guzman about her book on seeing problems from a different perspective, and Episode 185, with Mitch Warner about their book Leadership and Self-Deception AI for Project Managers and Leaders With the constant stream of AI news, it's sometimes hard to grasp how these advancements can benefit us as project managers and leaders in our day-to-day work. That's why I developed our e-learning course: AI Made Simple: A Practical Guide to Using AI in Your Everyday Work. This self-guided course is designed for project managers and leaders aiming to harness AI's potential to enhance your work, streamline your workflow, and boost your productivity. Go to ai.i-leadonline.com to learn more and join us. The feedback from the program has been fantastic. Take this opportunity to unlock the potential of AI for your team and projects. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills The following music was used for this episode: Music: Tranceverse by Sascha Ende Free download: https://filmmusic.io/song/5223-tranceverse License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: The Chillhouse by Frank Schroter YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHu8e0nk_7g License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license
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In today's episode, we tackle the world of high stakes hostage negotiation in a divided world with Scott Walker. Scott is one of the world's most experienced kidnapped-for-ransom negotiators. He served 16 years as a Scotland Yard detective specializing in covert policing, then supported organizations, governments, and private individuals in negotiating the release of hostages all over the world, and is the author of his the latest book, Order Out of Chaos: A Kidnap Negotiator's Guide to Influence and Persuasion. You're going to learn how to prepare for high stakes situations like a hostage negotiator. We discuss how to quickly build rapport with people that you do not share common interests with, what to listen for in negotiations to create a winning outcome, how to develop your emotional intelligence to be successful under stress, and the secrets hostage negotiators use to bring back hostages safely. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How frequently do people get kidnapped and held for ransom? What are the biggest challenges that hostage negotiators face? The first 30 seconds of a hostage situation are crucial for this reason – 15:53 What secret do hostage negotiators use to rapidly build trust with anyone? What 30 second practice do hostage negotiators use to prepare themselves for every high stakes situation? What consequences do kidnappers actually face? – 24:25 How do you cultivate the right mindset to be a master negotiator? What can you do to predict the biggest hurdles you'll need to overcome in any negotiation? What are the 3 elements to every negotiation and how can you use them in your everyday life to build strong relationships? Most people mistakenly think this is when the negotiation ends – 39:34 How should you think about negotiations on a short- and long-term basis to make sure you don't hurt your reputation or future potential opportunities? Hostage negotiators have to care about the kidnappers – 48:36 How do hostage negotiators raise their self awareness before entering high stakes situations? How do you master your emotions like a hostage negotiator by simply asking yourself specific questions? What are the biggest takeaways from Order Out of Chaos: A Kidnap Negotiator's Guide to Influence and Persuasion? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Former hostage negotiator Scott Walker shares powerful principles for masterful dialogue when the stakes are high. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The number one skill of master negotiators 2) Two tricks to help prepare you for any conversation 3) How MORE PIES help build rapport Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep955 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT SCOTT — Scott Walker is one of the world's most experienced kidnap-for-ransom negotiators. He has helped resolve more than three hundred cases and other crises, such as piracy and cyber-extortion attacks. He spent sixteen years as a Scotland Yard detective engaged in covert, counterterrorist, and kidnapping operations. He left the police in 2015 to support organizations, government departments, and private individuals in securing the release of hostages. He now delivers negotiation workshops to organizations all over the world and is sought after as a keynote speaker. His first book, Order Out of Chaos, is out now and is a Sunday Times bestseller. • Book: "Order Out of Chaos: A Kidnap Negotiator's Guide to Influence and Persuasion" • Website: ScottWalkerBooks.co.uk — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: "I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships" by Michael Sorensen • Book: "Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It" by Chriss Voss and Tahl Raz • Book: "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides)" by Marshall Rosenberg and Deepak Chopra • Past episode: 311: Communication Secrets from FBI Kidnapping Negotiator Chris Voss • Past episode: 693: Building Better Relationships through Validation with Michael Sorensen See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Jerald Barnes is a retired hostage negotiator from the St Louis Police Department. He sat down with Vance Crowe to discuss his process for learning how to negotiate with a person that has gotten to the end of their rope. Barnes uses his knowledge and skills to teach at some of the top business schools in the United States.===========================Connect with us! =============================IG: ➡︎ https://www.instagram.com/legacy_interviews/ ===========================Subscribe and Listen to the Vance Crowe Podcast Here: https://share.transistor.fm/s/606e0d8d===========================➡︎YT: @VanceCrowePodcast ===========================How To Work With Us: ===========================Want to do a Legacy Interview for you or a loved one?Book a Legacy Interview | https://legacyinterviews.com/ —A Legacy Interview is a two-hour recorded interview with you and a host that can be watched now and viewed in the future. It is a recording of what you experienced, the lessons you learned and the family values you want passed down. We will interview you or a loved one, capturing the sound of their voice, wisdom and a sense of who they are. These recorded conversations will be private, reserved only for the people that you want to share it with.#Vancecrowepodcast #legacyinterviews Timestamps:0:00 - Intro4:06 - In negotiation, always be prepared9:09 - What are primary vs secondary negotiators in police work?12:53 - Negotiating with su*cidal individuals22:51 - Tense domestic disputes turned violent32:35 - How frequently are hostage negotiations happening?45:28 - Holding a Colonel hostage54:35 - Teaching negotiations at elite level schools1:07:03 - The staggering number of people incarcerated in the United States1:18:55 - What was the country like before the war on drugs?negotiator, negotiations, police, hostage negotiations, barricaded, hostage negotiator, negotiate, hostage situation, tactical, situation, hostage
In resolving hundreds of kidnap-for-ransom cases involving gang leaders, pirates, and extortionists, Scott Walker, a former Scotland Yard detective, has learned a thing or two about how to negotiate and communicate in a crisis. He shares how to apply those lessons to the difficult conversations we all have in our everyday lives in his book Order Out of Chaos: Win Every Negotiation, Thrive in Adversity, and Become a World-Class Communicator, and we talk about his tips on today's show.Scott and I discuss what a "red center" means in a kidnap-for-ransom scenario and how to create one in your personal life, the "immediate action drill" that can help you stay in that red center, the importance of separating the decision-maker from the communicator in a negotiation and having a "battle rhythm," why you don't give hostage takers the money they ask for right away and how to structure a negotiation instead, and more.Resources Related to the PodcastAoM Article: The 7 Habits — Seek First to Understand, Then to Be UnderstoodAoM Podcast #648: Lessons in Building Rapport from Experts in Terrorist InterrogationAoM Podcast #234: Haggling and Deal Making Advice From a FBI Hostage NegotiatorBox breathingPhysiological sighConnect With Scott WalkerScott's website
If you want to understand communication, emotional regulation, and bargaining under pressure, join us here with former hostage negotiator Scott Walker! What We Discuss with Scott Walker: The role of trust in successful negotiations. How emotional intelligence plays into hostage negotiations. The minimalist toolkit of a hostage negotiator. Navigating legal and ethical boundaries in negotiations. The perils of fame in kidnapping situations, and the importance of ransom discipline and social media caution. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/969 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!
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FBI-trained hostage negotiator Scott Tillema joins Tim to talk about how to negotiate when the stakes are high, even when lives are on the line. Scott teaches organizations how to use the power of life-saving negotiation principles to get results. This episode was first released March 14, 2022. https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/shapingopinion/334_-_Scott_Tillema_Secrets_of_a_Hostage_Negotiator.mp3 Scott Tillema was trained by the FBI in hostage negotiating. He spent over seven years as a negotiator with the Northern Illinois Police Alarm System Emergency Services Team. This one of the largest municipal SWAT teams in the United States. Scott is known across the country as a speaker in the field of police negotiations. He's presented to audiences of all sizes, including a very popular TEDx Talk where he covered, “The Secrets of Hostage Negotiators.” That's what we talked about when we sat down with him recently. Links Scott Tillema Website Negotiations Collective, Scott Tillema Page How to Use the FBI's Behavioral Change Stairway Model to Influence Like a Pro, EMS1 Active Listening Skills, Psychology Today Kwame Christian: On Compassionate Curiosity, Behavioral Grooves Pre-Suasion: Channeling Attention for Change, by Robert Cialdini (Amazon) About this Episode's Guest Scott Tillema Scott Tillema is an FBI-trained hostage negotiator. He teaches police, law enforcement agencies and others how to use the power of life-saving techniques and principles to enhance their work. He is a nationally recognized leader in the field of crisis and hostage negotiations, passionately training thousands of police negotiators across the country in verbal influence. He has developed a powerful model for safely resolving crisis situations, which is now being recognized and adapted by the private sector for use in sales, communication, influence, and leadership.
Adam caused a scene in the lobby of a hotel because they wanted to charge him $85.00 to check in before 4pm. Scotland Yard detective and hostage negotiator Scott Walker stops by and tells us about the Red Center that exists in side everyone in times of crisis, fighting people on your own side in a kidnapping situation and how they get paid. ADAM'S TOUR DATES https://www.adamferrara.com/tourdates March 9th Jasper IN March 22 & 23 Rutherford NJ March 29 Wytheville VA
Chris Voss is a former Lead FBI Negotiator who debunks the biggest myths of negotiation. Chris has lectured on negotiation at business schools across the country and has been seen on ABC, CBS, CNN, and Fox News. Chris has also been featured in Forbes, Time, Fast Company, and Inc. Chris's Keynotes are based on his book Never Split The Difference which has sold more than 3 million copies in 33 languages. In this episode we discuss the following: For most negotiations use either a playful, upbeat tone or the “Late night FM DJ voice.” And smile. Oprah may be the greatest negotiator of all time. And people still like her. Collaboration beats cutthroat. Women pick up “tactical empathy” better than men. But also they are punished more than men for bad negotiating. Extreme anchors have the tendency of driving deals away from the table. If you routinely win “too big” in negotiations, people may stop dealing with you. Prepare people for bad news with phrases like, “You're probably not going to like this…” This phrase is way better than, “Not to be rude…” Accusation Audit: Imagine the negative thoughts your counterparty has about you and proactively address them. Mirror Technique: Repeat that last 3-5 words of what somebody just said. This is often received much better than, “What do you mean?” Labeling Technique: After your counterparty speaks, label what they said by using phrases such as, “It seems like…” or “It sounds like…” Use no-oriented questions: “Have you got a few minutes to talk” can be changed to “Is now a bad time to talk?” “Can I have the day off?” can be changed to “Is it ridiculous to ask for tomorrow off?” When negotiating salary, first negotiate success: “How can I be guaranteed to be engaged in projects that are critical to our strategic future.” And Chris's final message: You're going to be more prosperous being collaborative than cutthroat. Follow Chris: Website: https://www.blackswanltd.com/ X: https://twitter.com/fbinegotiator LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christophervoss/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefbinegotiator/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk7jHqdlFFDBhC1QIFqi54w Book: https://amzn.to/41zEcQj Follow Me: X: https://twitter.com/nate_meikle LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/natemeikle/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nate_meikle/
This week on the podcast, the girls are joined by crisis and hostage negotiator Nicky Perfect. After working in the Met Police for over two decades, it was recommended that Nicky try negotiating. She quickly realised it was her calling, and something she wanted to do for the rest of her career. Nicky's day-to-day life as a crisis and hostage negotiator was adrenaline fuelled: she was constantly dealing with people at breaking point and immersed in life-or-death situations, such as terrorist incidents and kidnappings. On this episode, Nicky shares her proudest moments, toughest negotiations, and biggest mistakes. She also explains why empathy is the most important factor in defusing highly volatile situations.You can purchase Nicky's book, Crisis, hereFollow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at shouldideletethatpod@gmail.comEdited by Daisy GrantMusic by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dr. Jordan B Peterson sits down with attorney, ambassador, and 27th U.S. Security Advisor, Robert O'Brien. They discuss the inner workings of international hostage negotiations, the ongoing success and legacy of the Abraham Accords, the Russia/Ukraine war, and the current perception of American strength, leaving much room for improvement. Robert O'Brien is an American attorney, ambassador, and was the 27th United States Security Advisor (4th to be hired under Donald Trump). O'Brien was a founding partner of the LA based boutique law firm Larson O'Brien LLP, and has worked in various legal and campaign roles for politicians such as Mitt Romney, Scott Walker, George W. Bush, and Donald Trump. He has also served as an Ambassador to various countries like Israel and Taiwan during incredibly uneasy moments in recent history, including work on the Abraham Accords. In this field, he has also negotiated successfully to free Americans held captive abroad. - Links - For Ambassador Robert O'Brien On X https://twitter.com/robertcobrien?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor American Global Strategies (Website) https://americanglobalstrategies.com/
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