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When was the last time you made a decision that fit for you? Performance coach and creative business strategist Shari Teigman joins Lesley Logan to pull back the curtain on the chaotic beauty of perimenopause. Shari specializes in helping high-achieving people stop following outdated templates to finally start listening to their own internal rhythm. This episode is a permission slip to stop holding everyone else's baggage, how to move from fear to curiosity, and start making decisions that actually serve the woman you are becoming today. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. 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Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:Navigating the "not this" phase to rediscover your true identity.Why perimenopause is the best time for deep internal decluttering.The "red shoe" analogy for carrying other people's emotional baggage.How to transition from paralyzing fear to productive, playful curiosity.Using internal contradictions to stop lying to your own nervous system.Episode References/Links:Shari Teigman Website - https://shariteigman.comShari Teigman Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/shariteigmanThe Maverick Way: A Field Guide to Coming Undone on Purpose - https://sharidteigman.ac-page.com/TheMaverickWayPrelaunch?test=trueFemGevity - femgevityhealth.comBig Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert - elizabethgilbert.com/books/big-magicTiny Habits by BJ Fogg - tinyhabits.com/bookWhat to Expect When You're Expecting by Heidi Murkoff - https://a.co/d/0j80fU42Submit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questionsGuest Bio:Shari Teigman serves as a catalyst for high achievers who are ready to dismantle the status quo and reclaim their individuality. As a performance mentor and strategist, she guides leaders through the process of unlearning rigid structures to make room for radical, creative breakthroughs. Shari is best known for her ability to cut through the noise with a blend of sharp strategic insight and a "Maverick" spirit, encouraging her clients to stop adjusting to external pressures and start building lives that resonate with their core values.Beyond her strategic work, Shari is a dedicated advocate for personal sovereignty, helping global professionals navigate the complex intersection of high-level performance and emotional well-being. By challenging the traditional "resiliency" narrative, she provides the tools necessary to move from a state of constant survival into one of intentional, authentic growth. 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You call it your culture, your religion, your family, your blah, blah, blah. And you open up this bag and it's filled with shit you don't know, so you have no room for new stuff.Lesley Logan 0:18  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 0:57  All right, Be It babe, get ready. Get your notes out if you're driving, Get your ears on. This is an interview I was stoked to have, and I'm even more excited for it to be in your ears right now than I could have imagined. Shari Teigman is our guest today. She is the coach for Mavericks. But really, truly, you high flying women that listen to this podcast who are going through perimenopause, maybe already there may be on the other side, but when I talk about being it until you see it, sometimes you're like, well, who am I? Now? We are going to dive into so many different amazing tools, tats. There's going to be nuggets that are going to just go that hit right where I needed it to. You will relisten to this episode. I know it's great. We did record during Mercury in Retrograde. So there are a couple of times where I think there might be a blip in the audio. I promise you you didn't miss anything. So please bear with the three of those that happen if my team didn't get rid of them and and just know that like the magic is here, and it's very much worth listening to, and relistening to and sharing with a girlfriend of yours who needs to hear it. So here is Shari Teigman. Lesley Logan 2:06  All right, Be It babe. So here's the deal. I have been kind of stalking this woman for a bit through the socials, and when I saw her and what she raves about, I was like, oh, we have to have her on the be it pod. She is exactly what you guys need to hear today and probably repeat this episode. We haven't had it yet, but I have a feeling there's gonna be some nuggets you're gonna want to relisten to. So Shari Teigman, tell everyone who you are and what you rock at. Shari Teigman 2:30  I would say I feel pressure, but I don't. I'm just excited. So thank you for having me. I'm very excited to be here and stalking right back. So I always love finding a friend on the interwebs that sounds and moves like me. Well, you move better than I do, Pilates and all, but the energy, the excitement and the passion for life and a lot of realness as well. So I am a performance coach and a creative business strategist, and I help people unleash the Maverick within them. So it's stopping following everyone else's bullshit templates and moving into a space where you're listening to your own gut, you're following your own rules, and it doesn't mean you're rebelling against anything, and it doesn't mean you have to be angry at everyone. You know the stage of life can come with a little perimenopausal rage, which is always welcome in my world. But I work with both men and women to find a beat of their own drums so that they don't have to be checking in everyone's yards to see what they're doing and measuring themselves non stop. We're not in high school. I didn't do it in high school. I'm certainly not doing it now. So that is the fire that I like to bring to the world.Lesley Logan 3:27  Oh, I love that, and I love how clear you are in what you do. And I'm sure many people's ears perked up on the menopausal race, all that stuff, because I think, like one of the things that so I started doing this podcast years ago, and I'm like, I know who I am and people are trying to figure out why I'm so confident, and really, it's just because I do things scared. But then, like, you know, you start to get past 40, and you're like, why am I freaking out? Well, who? Why am I (inaudible). Shari Teigman 3:52  Fearless me? Lesley Logan 3:54  Yeah, why, why am I hesitating? Like, what? What is happening and and like, in being until I see it, it's like, wow, this is, like, a lifelong thing. Thank goodness I like doing this. But also, but also, like, it is interesting to get to know yourself again when you especially for the women who love the show and who we attract, who thought they did, and now they're like, kind of feeling like my girlfriend said today that she feels like she has, like, sea legs.Shari Teigman 4:20  Yeah, it's so nice of you to call it interesting, to get us to know ourselves, because I have some other choice words for the state of life while I accept it and rage, it's fascinating. And may not get all metaphysical here, and you're going to have to drag me into a crone phase of my life. I don't plan on going lightly or gracefully, but there is the no shits given point where we do get to course correct and say, okay, for those of us who did know ourselves for the past 15, 20, 30 years to check in that that's still what we want, or the identifications are still valid and accurate and have not expired just because everyone else like someone they work for everyone else. So it's a real face to the fire moment of I say I'm all these things. I better check in that I still am because I'm too tired and can't remember anything to pretend I'm something that I'm not. So I think it's a real truth telling phase. And like I said, I'm not planning on getting old and wise, but I will be loud and old and happy, fun. I just got to get through this can't remember my name thing, and then, you know, carry on to the next chapter. Lesley Logan 5:28  The other day, I saw this thing, and the guy was on Instagram, and the guy was like, hey, you meet someone who was born in 1995 and it's, they're 30 years old. And you're like, that's interesting. I'm 30 years old. And then I'm like, weird. And then I was like, wait, oh, I'm not I. I just keep thinking that I am.Shari Teigman 5:45  Yes, my eldest son turned 26 and I am not okay because I'm 22 and I'm not good at math, but that is not math. That is off, all off. Lesley Logan 5:50  So you said we have to, like, check in with ourselves. And I think that that is, like, a brilliant thing that no one has told us to do, right? Like, as you grow up, everyone's like, what do you want to be when you grow up? And then you go to school to be that thing, and you're like, check the box. And I think all the high flyers are good box checkers. Like, check this box and check that box and and so we've checked all the boxes, and then we get to a place, it's like, but how do you check in? Like, you add more boxes. What? What did you do, Shari? Like, how do you check in to see if these are the things you still want?Shari Teigman 6:22  So it's a long answer, Lesley. Lesley Logan 6:24  I'll take it. Shari Teigman 6:27  For me, I have, I have decluttered the boxes many times, because for the first 33 years of my life, I fit very well into the boxes I was supposed to that I was given. And I did a great job, and I was funny about it and zesty about it, and Miss bubbly and head cheerleader and exactly what you think I was like at 18. I still am like at 51 and I went through a really rough divorce in my early 30s as a mom of two kids, and after a couple of years of survival and just knowing what I didn't want, which is a very painful but beautiful process I can say now later, that not knowing what I want, Liz Gilbert had a great I saw her in an interview, and I love her. In my head, she's my best friend, but she just doesn't know it yet. So we'll let her know it's fine. But my bestie, Liz said on this podcast, she went through an era which was called not this. So everything became not this, not this, not this. Most of us think we have to know what we want, and you said it, we're asked when we're younger, what do you want to be? I have no idea what the hell I want to be. I have no idea what the things are my options. So I can pick something off the cereal shelf and not know what's inside. And then, because I said it, I then went to school for it, and then I wore the t-shirt for it, and I told everyone about it, and I posted on social media about it. I can't not do it now. So we wear these costumes for a while, and then they start getting tight and uncomfortable, and not because of the perimenopausal weight. I mean, internally. And then you say, wait, am I allowed to put it down? Is the question I asked myself. So in this, not this phase, at the end of my divorce with these two amazing kids that I love, I then free myself from a situation and I saw black because I had no idea who I was and I had no idea what I wanted. I hadn't gotten up to asking myself that question, probably for the first time in my life at 34. Terrifying, highly don't recommend, but we got here. And so I think at that point, I stripped away everything that I knew and said, well, if none of this was true, what if I could be anything? So hence, the Maverick was born after, I mean, I make it sound really nice, there were a lot of crying on the floor and break down in the therapist's office. And I had had psychiatrists call me scrappy. He's like, you don't need meds, you're scrappy, you'll be fine. I blew up at him, and I don't react to anyone. I was like, I get a reward for being able to constantly be in survival mode. Americans, brace yourself. He refunded me my $250 which does not happen in our country. He was so apologetic that he pissed me off so much he probably got all the rage that everyone in my life until then had not gotten. It was amazing. So the long answer is, I checked in, and all of a sudden nothing felt like me. And while that was scary, it was so liberating, because I didn't have to fit new stuff into an old package. I was like, wee let's just turn the whole thing upside down, and I rebuilt what I wanted and put the right things back in in the drawer, instead of whose is this sock? Like example I always use is, I think the first piece of finding yourself is unpacking. So let's say you go on a girl's weekend with a bunch of friends, and the last night's a little blurry. No one remembers how they got to the airport. You get home, you open your polka dotted suitcase, and there's a red shoe. You don't have a red shoe. You go into the WhatsApp group, you're like, hi, guys, has everyone thrown up yet? Anyone's red shoe? Does this belong to anyone? Of course, you know it's not yours. But in our lives, we walk around carrying everyone else's red shoes and polka dotted bags and pile of crap, and you walk around wheeling it with you, because you call it identity, you call it belonging, you call it your culture, your religion, your family, your blah, blah, blah. And you open up this bag and it's filled with shit you don't know so you have no room for new stuff. So you and I's come into the world with all this passion and all this excitement, and everyone's hands are filled wondering, where do I put one more thing? You have to unpack, and you have to understand why you keep repacking the same thing in order to then get a chance to make any choices.Lesley Logan 10:33  That is an I love that long answer so much because it's like the simple like, the part that we all wanted to hear was like the short answer, oh, just do these three things. Shari Teigman 10:44  I can't do it because I don't believe it. And I used to listen to it and cry and think I was broken because I don't have that availability. So now what do I do? Lesley Logan 10:51  Yeah, and I also like, thank goodness, like, that guy gave that money back. I can't believe there was a guy and he gave his money back. I can't believe it was a man who told you you don't need drugs. But I can't believe apologize (inaudible) because one of the things that like, I it like, is nailed on a chalkboard when someone goes, oh, you're just so resilient. I'm like, I don't want to be resilient anymore.Shari Teigman 11:14  And I hang that one up because I know, and I know you all appreciate it, but it's killing me from the inside, so (inaudible) anymore? Thank you for appreciating it. Lesley Logan 11:25  Right because also, like, of course, as a business owner, as someone who's still, like making the money we need to make till we're retired and living our best life. Resiliency is great in my day to day, like operating my business, but like being resilient in my friendships and my family-ships and all that stuff, it's like, no, because then you don't ever check on me. No one checks on me. Shari Teigman 11:43  And also, we don't know how to ask for help yet then, because it's already uncomfortable and there's no room for it, so you're like, but can I? No, can't, no. Lesley Logan 11:51  Why can't I ask you because I'm holding your red shoe. I can't ask you because I'm holding your red shoe. Shari Teigman 11:56  And I never learned how, so I guess I'm the red shoe holder now.Lesley Logan 12:01  Okay, so, but then, like, so we have to, I love the not this, and I love the unpacking. I think that that is so key. It's, I mean, like, you know, there's something I want to, I want to do in our business, and it requires letting go of some other things. Like, you can't, can't just keep adding to the, you know, it's so then it's unraveling. Like, well, what am I letting go of? And what? What does that look like? And for everyone listening who is freaking out, I'm not letting go of the things that you're paying for, don't worry. It's like, doesn't affect you. It's not affecting you. There's no change affecting you. Okay? It's affecting the people who work (inaudible) I know I'm like, it's affecting, it's affecting the people who work for me. It's not affecting you. You have to stipulate, because people start to freak out, like, so, but thankfully, I understand that right, like the old, the old me would have been like, okay, let's just, let's just, let's just add these, undo that expander zipper and, like, shove, we'll just shove this in. So I love that. I know that about myself now, and I think that that is the real key. But I think, you know, you Shari, got to figure that out kind of in your 30s and so, and like, I find that a lot of people are figuring out in perimenopause, as they're freaking out and don't know themselves, and now they have to unpack. And that's a I find, I still, I feel nervous for that, because is it a hard time to, like, relearn who you are, or is it the best time to relearn how you are?Shari Teigman 13:21  Both. It's hard and the best time. Because as crazy as this sounds, because from a neuroplasticity place, we can't hold on to as much of the story as we did because of the brain fog and the hormones changing, there's a release valve comes. But what's terrifying about it is we never had it before. So the feeling of loss of control is one that makes us want to grip to the old story, my old identity, the things that I achieved in my job before the younger people came in and take it, or technology's changing, or my kids no longer think I'm cool, or I've been with my husband 40 years. I can't even hear him chew anymore. You know, like all the things that we hear from this rage that they don't realize is coming from a lack of tolerance, the tipping point in themselves of what they've made okay for themselves for all these years. So it comes out in a burst, because it's not going to come out any other way. There's not going to be everyone at 2pm everyone open up their computers, scream, and then close it, and we'll all feel better. I mean, I feel like we should start this. The world would be a much better place. But since we don't have it, we wait until everything is chaotic and we hate everything, and then we have to start looking at it. So the kind of stuff I teach, when I teach with FemGevity and with a lot of my private clients, is just starting to ask yourself better questions. Instead of assuming it's only this one category of life, it gives you more permission to be creative. I think if we move from fear to curiosity, we ask better questions, we get better answers. It doesn't mean I'm asking anyone to change anything yet, but when was the last time you made a decision that fit for you? I know it hurts, because even as I teach it, I'm like, brace yourself, girls, because we're going in and I'm going in there with you, oh, my god, I haven't made a decision for myself or I didn't think of my partner, or I didn't think of my team, or I didn't think of my kids, or I didn't think what my family is going to think. I don't know. I don't know the last time I asked myself that. So then I have someone just start with an easy thing. What do you want for dinner? And it's heartbreaking to ask a woman in their 40s and 50s, what she wants for dinner, and she looks at you with a blank look because she doesn't know. She (inaudible) went to what do I have leftovers for the kids, for tomorrow, for school? What can my husband take? What did I get from the supermarket that's about to spoil? I asked what you want for dinner, and then the tears go. What kind of TV do you want to watch? What sheets do you want on the bed? And we're talking professional, high achieving women who just look completely blankly at no one ever taught me to I wouldn't, wasn't allowed to ask a question. There was no space in my high achieving masculine run life and then emotional vulnerability that I have to hide. Who has space for it? So I think if we allow ourselves in this perimenopausal phase to say the exploration can be curious and creative and playful and find community to do it in. You're not crazy or we're all crazy together, and we're just going to figure this out, and there's no right or wrong answer, and no one is taking anything away from you. So it's in sovereignty we get to unpack one whole red shoe for another three years? Go right ahead, girl, no one's pulling the shoe away from you, but if we can slowly untangle the things that hurt us the most limit us the most, a lot of the other stuff sorts itself. It just feels like an emergency because we've never asked ourselves the question. Lesley Logan 16:38  Yeah, it feels like an emergency because I also think like we are so, our brains don't really know how to prioritize different things, so we the red shoe and the leftovers and that big merger you're working on, or whatever it is, they all take up the same priority level in the brain. So that's why they feel like that, right? But I want to highlight something, you said, untangle. And I think that's where a lot of people don't understand that that's such a key word I got to study with BJ Fogg and his and his habits training, and he talks about how to break a habit, which is, you have to, there's no such thing. It's not a stick. You have to unravel it. Because a habit is something that you no longer like, that you do, like a habit.Shari Teigman 17:21  I don't know how to make habits. I'm like, oh, sure, you do. Where's your chocolate habit? Where is your phone scrolling habit? Like you're an epic master at your habits. Everyone needs to be different. Who is it? We're wired.Lesley Logan 17:33  We're wired, you're, it literally is a brain wiring thing. And so untangling those things, and it's true, like when you can figure out, okay, I would like to untangle that I have I don't get to choose what I'm having for dinner. You know, then it becomes, you get to figure out, well, where did it start? Well, actually, maybe everyone you've been thinking about, everybody wants for dinner, and they actually thought you were thinking what you wanted for dinner.Shari Teigman 17:57  And also you're dead on. And it's a more gentle process. It's not like you walk into the family and say, you can all fuck off and make your own food. I want pasta, and they will look at you like, did you bang your head? And then that perimenopausal terror on everyone else's face, receiving the rage is like, oh, wait a second. Can everyone pick a night like they're gentle ways to do this. I actually want everyone else to make some decisions in this house, teenagers then feel empowered. A partner is then included. You get to pick, or guess what, you're allowed to eat something different than everyone else. It's most of these parameters we put on ourselves, and we blame everyone else because we didn't ask.Lesley Logan 18:34  Yeah, yes, no, I'm laughing so hard. Okay, so my husband, he's amazing at doing projects at night. Like, he like, he like, like, the sun goes down, I go to bed, and he is like, you know, he becomes the midnight gardener. Or, like, he puts together something, or, right before I turn this on, he's like, hey, did you see the thing I did in your office? Like, he put all the cords, you know, all the cords, in like, a little sleeve. So, like, it's nice. I know, we love him. Last night, he was doing the same thing he did the same thing he did the night before. The night before, I slept like the dead. I got like a 90% recovery, last night, 1:14 I'm hearing this like It's like drilling, and I am like, did I get up and go, hey, that's I just woke up to that. No. Instead, do you know I did? I sat there for 15 minutes going, when the fuck is it gonna be done? (inaudible) And then I marched down the hall, like, what the fuck are you doing? Shari Teigman 19:28  Why is this a good idea? Lesley Logan 19:31  Why are you doing this? And he's like, I did this last night. I didn't wake up last night. And I was like, well, clears in a different part of my rim cycle. I'm clearly in a different part of my cycle right now.Shari Teigman 19:44  Wind has blown. I am no longer who I was yesterday. You should have known that.Lesley Logan 19:49  Hello, but like, it's this funny thing, because we we do take on so much, and we wait until it's the paramount explosion to say what we're thinking instead of like, I thought, at at the moment I woke up, I thought, what is that noise? And if I had just been inquisitive it could have been, oh, hey, instead of, like, the and then, of course, did I sleep? No, I didn't sleep because I was angry.Shari Teigman 20:10  You weren't finished. You were still processing. You know, it comes like someone doesn't throw out a tissue and the whole house you're on fire just because you didn't say 14 other things because, oh, it's fine. It's fine. It's no longer fine, ladies, it, none is, nothing's fine. So we have to find our voices be kind, and realize we taught everyone else how to treat us so we don't get to be mad at them. We get to teach them what the next version of us needs, and most of us have no idea. So we get to sit down with our children, and we get to sit down with our partners and our friends and our family members, as terrifying as it is, and say there's a new sheriff in town, and I'm just getting to know her, and I need a little grace. And I like I know for my partner, I'm not speaking for him, but I could see the relief on his face when I'll actually say what I'm feeling, instead of him trying to guess which mood I'm in, or I say I have no idea what I need. And he's so relieved, because then he doesn't have to figure it out. Like the people who love us just want us better. Is it over yet? I wish it was over. I don't have cold. I'm just 51 it does. I don't know when it ends.Lesley Logan 21:17  I know that's the fun part. It's like, like, and also, and also, if you care about your heart health, ladies, you want to keep it going for a really long time, so then you better figure out how to talk about what you need and how to manage is the, not the word I want to because I don't like the way that it sounds, but like navigate or dance with all of this change, because once you are on the other side of this and your brain has changed and all the things, then you get to worry about your heart. So I'm just gonna say like you might want to lengthen this out and figure out who you want to be.Shari Teigman 21:54  Also, what an opportunity. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I like to take the funny side of life. If we already feel like shit. Why don't we start unpacking when we already feel like shit? I'm not gonna wait till I feel better to then figure it out. I'll be much more honest with myself if I have frustration. It's like, you know what? I don't want to do that anymore, even though I've done it every Tuesday for the past 20 years. I'm good. I don't want to apologize for it. No is a complete sentence. I don't have to be unkind. But I'm done. I'm done with that task at work. People then learn your new boundaries, and weirdly, they adjust faster than we do. No one else stays up at night worrying about this. Oh, she wants something different, cool. Oh, God, I should have said that 20 years ago. Why didn't I say that 20 years ago? Lesley Logan 22:35  Yeah, yeah. Well, and that's, that is, I think, where a lot of people get stuck. It's like, why, why? And it's like, almost like it's that is worth exploring. And also, in the meantime, just start sticking up for yourself now.Shari Teigman 22:46  Process it later but we'll get to it. And I find a lot of my clients, both men and women, are so terrified to put down what they've been doing, because if they realize that it's much easier to get unstuck than it was to get stuck, they're mortified at how long they tortured themselves, in their mindset, in their performance, in their roles, in what they made true. I could just decide tomorrow not to be stressed about that. Obviously, there's more to it. But then, what do I do with the 20 years of torture that's I have to reconcile that I lost that time, or I gave that away, or I let someone else make decisions for me, it's painful, but we don't have to sit in it, acknowledge it, and say, I'm not going to lose any more days.Lesley Logan 23:28  Yeah, yeah. I guess, like, do they need to I mean, do they need to feel the pain? Do they need to grieve? How do they what is the best way to acknowledge it so that they can, you know, keep going with the new way and be satisfied in that?Shari Teigman 23:41  I love the question, because most people think I can't do that. You have no choice if you want to get there. I believe that equal to the level of joy and fulfillment and peace you want, you have to be willing to go as deep as you want to go high it's we don't get to close off one door and then think, you know the arrow is going to stretch without pulling it back. So I like to call it the glorious end. I can be pissed off and ready. I can be terrified and excited. I can be sad and elated about something. So if I don't allow the emotion, the emotion will sneak up on me when I don't want it, it will come out in the who put the empty cereal box back in the cabinet. It'll come out at work when it should have come out at home and vice versa. It'll come out in too small a new decision, because I don't have the bandwidth to make the real decision I want. Why would we waste more energy? So for me, I tell everyone, men and women, feel it. Punch a pillow. Cry in a pillow, write it out. Burn it out, whatever your ritual needs to be dance it out, bang it out. I'm actually coming out with a journal in a few months that is basically, it's called The Maverick Way: A Field Guide to Coming Undone on Purpose. And every exercise is more ridiculous than the next one. And it's like, the Fuck It Resume is one of them. Like, what are the things you're terrible at? Write it out like we have to tell the truth so we can't. Pretend to only have the highlight reel, and then feel like a human being I am awful at some things, which reminds me of why I'm so good at other things. Then I've got my own way. I don't know what I want. Of course, you don't know. You don't know who you are. You're not willing to say I'm not good at that. Knowing that bothers me. That makes me cry. Am I too much? Okay, am I too little for someone else? Okay. We have to take all of these rules away, feel what we need to feel, and say, I know that might not make may not make you sad, Lesley, but I've been thinking about this for 40 years, and I need to sit in this for a couple of hours and just grieve what I made okay, or mourn what I lost, the conversations I didn't have, the jobs I didn't get, the pain I allowed myself because I didn't want to hurt anyone else, like ow, that hurts, and we get tired of the feeling very quickly when we let it stick it out, when you avoid it, it will chase your ass everywhere and pop up when you don't want it. I am going to grieve, because it's part of my process of making space for something new. I'm unpacking. So I'm unpacking, and I'm understanding. In my unpack, I'm really angry at my third grade teacher because she told me that I couldn't do something, and I believed her for the next 30 years, and she wouldn't even remember who I was. So I already think it. I might as well let myself, let it come up, journal it out, write it on the wall, scream it, throw it, laugh at it. Whatever you need. You get a freedom. There's just a release. As soon as you have release, just like in our bodies, you know, Pilates, yoga, what do you do? Breathe deeper into it so it releases. Grip it. You're all in grip. You know, it's a Chinese finger, that's trapped, it's not getting out. So how do we get out of where we're trapped? We release. We go deeper in, and then we can come out. It sounds scary, but if we don't judge emotions for right or wrong, we'll just feel what I need to feel. I don't need it anymore.Lesley Logan 26:45  Oh, I love this so much. And also, are you gonna do a fuck it retreat? Because you could do a fucking retreat where we could have rooms with pillows and then the smash rooms, and then we could have those, like those phone booths you could just scream in. Shari Teigman 26:57  And then a nap room for all of the exhausted rage.Lesley Logan 27:01  Yes, oh my god, this is like this all. It could just be a fucking space, and people could just be members.Shari Teigman 27:07  Yes, I love this. Every month there's a new way to let it go.Lesley Logan 27:12  I'm in. I interviewed this guy who, like, created these booths for hospitals where, like, nurses or doctors could go in. And I think he said it was just so they could have some peace and quiet, because hospitals are really loud, and all I could think is, like, you could scream in there.Shari Teigman 27:26  I would totally. Are you telling me it's soundproof so you won't know what I'm doing in there? (inaudible)Lesley Logan 27:34  I know. Like, isn't this? I think this, in Vegas, there's a place where you can go and, like, smash things. And I'm like, you can go, like a rage.Shari Teigman 27:40  (inaudible) to one in New York. I think it's the greatest thing I've ever done in my whole life. We did it five years ago. My kids and I are still talking about it. It was so powerful, and it was very meditative. And I never felt stronger in my life. We were running in the streets afterwards, kicking garbage cans, which maybe they should have a restroom afterwards, because we were so amped up.Lesley Logan 28:01  Like, like a waiting area, like a reentry.Shari Teigman 28:05  We're gonna integrate before we let you on the streets of Brooklyn, lady, thanks.Lesley Logan 28:11  Oh, my god, I love that so much. Okay, so obviously, like, you work with these amazing Mavericks, and you do have a lot of experience, and you talk about perimenopause, is there anything that you find in the perimenopause space with women? Because that's we have a lot of and we have, you know, we have a women who are on the other side and enjoy your space, ladies, I hope you're, hope you're having a great time. We'll get this. Shari Teigman 28:30  We're coming as fast as we can.Lesley Logan 28:33  But is there, are there signs and symptoms that people are ignoring? Because I think, like everyone pays attention to the medical ones, the hot flashes or dryness, or my whatever, but like, what about like, the emotional? And that's one of the things I think I tried. There's these, these things that come out in our personalities.Shari Teigman 28:50  I think it's that. It's those days you feel like Jekyll and Hyde, and then you're counting your cycle, and you're wondering, it's not physical, it's the emotional, shorter fuse. Care about less things, because sometimes we're more emotional and other times we're equal amounts of completely numb. So when you feel yourself numbing out, notice when you feel yourself raging about something you didn't care about before. Or I know for me, the lack of control when a brain fog comes in, I'm obviously creative and very cerebral and very verbal, and when I can't remember my name or remember how to say the word pink, I get terrified. I thought I had dementia. I didn't know this was a thing. I was I something's wrong with me, so noticing when you just don't feel like yourself, like I remember when I was pregnant with my first son, I was 24, what the hell was I doing? But okay, I was 24 shouldn't have been allowed to cross the street by myself, and I didn't lose him. He's great. We were figuring things out as we go. But we have these books What to Expect When You're Expecting. Never read them. If you don't have the symptoms that week you think something's wrong, and the last time I checked a woman's body, you and I could be next to each other. We won't have anything that's the same. Why the hell would I follow someone else's blueprint for life, pregnancy, for business, for relationships? I don't want blueprints. I want tear away sheets where I can make it up and then throw it out when I'm done. So if you feel something that isn't you and you're not sure how you feel about it, because some of us like that, all of a sudden I care less or that I can't remember every detail about some gossip someone told me that I don't not interested in. I kind of like that it blows out. So when I started noticing the difference, because I was scared, I only paid attention to the bad things. But when I found out I wasn't dying, I blessedly, didn't have dementia, I'm just lucky enough to graduate to the next video game of mother of womanhood, yay. And the new monsters are coming. I tried to look at, what are the good things? And I do that with all the FemGevity women is, what do you like in the midst of it that I can't juggle as much as I used to? So, I used to be queen multitasker, and I can't do it anymore, and it's okay, and it's actually really nice for my nervous system not to be the master of all at all times, like, I don't have that valve anymore, I can enjoy that, that when I want to be present, I can actually feel more present, because I can't be on as much as I used to be. I care less about a lot of things, so I will speak out for myself, not as much as I'd like to, but much more than I used to, because I can't keep it in anymore. It just comes out of my mouth, like, who, who said that? I would never used to say that. So look at the pros and cons of this. If we're on this roller coaster, instead of just gripping the bar, maybe we could put our hands up once in a while. Maybe we can enjoy the view from at the top of it before we drop. So what are the things that if you could let go of that you've never been able to your whole life? What if this is the opportunity to loosen some of the glue, move some of those joints and let it out anyway, in the wash, because it's going so we don't have to hold everything and new hobbies, things that I haven't made the time for, that my brain can use as new instead of I used to be good at this, and I'm not anymore. What else do I want to try? So I travel a lot for work, so I'm in London for a month, New York for a month, alternating. So I try to let my brain be a different version of me, wherever I am, because I'm jet lagged and exhausted, even if I didn't go anywhere. So it's like, okay, which version is going to be me? So like, I'm in London now, when I go home, I saw a three hour DJ class. I'm not a musician. I know nothing about it, but my brain wants something new to chew on, instead of all the mistakes that I've made and all the things that I can't remember and where did I put my keys? I'm going to go use it for something fun. If there's space in there, because I can't remember anything, I might as well put something good in there. So I think it's the permission to let it flow out of you, good and bad at the same time, and just say you're moving anyway. So you know, when you move house, like, while it's emotional and sad, you find shit you didn't even know was there. So the piles for donation and the clearing out of the 14 mugs you got at someone's Bar Mitzvah that you don't need. Like, it's a great time to let stuff go. We don't have to pack it all and bring it to the next place. So I think if you look at it as a time of decluttering and re-deciding those mental symptoms can be less scary. It's not, oh, I'm gone. No, that version of me doesn't want to be here anymore, because if it did, I'd find a way to keep her.Lesley Logan 33:22  Yeah, yeah. Oh, okay. I'm obsessed with you and all this. And there is the woman who's listening going, okay, well, easy, easy for you to say, you know what? I mean, like, what do you what do you say to the person who's like, kind of, and I'm sure you've met them, they kind of fight to to hold, I mean, we already talked about this, fighting to hold on to the shoes.Shari Teigman 33:42  (inaudible) I am her, so I was the biggest train wreck in this of anybody. I've got two kids in their 20s. My mom, who was my best friend, passed away a year and a half ago. I work internationally, so I never know what time zone I'm in, and then perimenopause hits, and I'm 4'11" and gained about 45 pounds overnight, so I looked like a little blueberry. I didn't like I don't know what. Everything changed at once. And I'm a fighter. The psychiatrist told me I'm scrappy. I still have that personality trait. I don't go down easily. I don't surrender easily, which is why I'm really good at what I do, because I know the resistance. If 17 years ago, me met me now, I would cross the street. I would never go anywhere near me, because I didn't want the help. I didn't think anything was wrong. I couldn't handle the silence of my own mind. I was in survival mode. So like I get it, I want everyone to know they're looking and listening at a version of two women. I don't know your backstory, but I know you do the work. Who do the work? Which means there was a reason we started the work. You're seeing an evolved version of us. I mean, if you want the old me, I'm good, I'll tell you. And you people say to me, why do you tell everyone everything like so they don't put me on some imaginary pedestal. I'm crazier than you. I'm ragier here than you. I have more mood swings than you. I. Work with people, and I don't like them so much most of the time. I love souls. I don't like all the people-y stuffs like, I'm friendly, and then I'm not. I'm an introvert, and then I'm an extrovert. I'm on stage dancing, then I don't want to talk to anyone like I am the whole kaleidoscope. So for all the women thinking, oh, but you've got it figured out, I made it up as I go along, and I make it up every day, and people pay me a lot of money to help them make it up also. So if we make it playful and we make it funny, it's easier to untangle, it's easier to get out of our shackles, because everyone's making it up. Lesley Logan 35:33  Yeah? Well, that's the thing, right? Like, that's the thing you like, discover along your entrepreneurial journey. I'm like, I'm in a room with all these people who are making all this time, like, oh, you just bought ads and (inaudible).Shari Teigman 35:46  And you're crying in the bathroom too, while I wanted to take a selfie with you because I thought you were a guru, I'd rather hug you in the bathroom crying. This is even better. Lesley Logan 35:52  Yeah, yeah. And it's, it's really, it's so true, right? Like, because, like, we're on social media, and people can be like, the the typewriter troll, who's like, oh, easy. It's like, and I have just come to the place where I'm like, I really do like, this phase I'm in. I'm like, no, I was homeless 10 years ago, and I've worked my ass off to do my dream job. (inaudible) Yeah, yeah. So I've worked my ass off. And so you might think I'm this, but I'm gonna tell you right now, I deserve everything that I have right now because I work for it. So don't take that from me and.Shari Teigman 36:16  Go (inaudible) your mother's basement and (inaudible) someone else.Lesley Logan 36:26  Exactly. So, but, like, it's so fun. Like, I'm like, wow, the 10 years ago version be like, oh my god. People think I'm this. Shari Teigman 36:34  An imposter. Yeah, no, I am fully me. Sorry everyone. Lesley Logan 36:37  Yeah, but I do. I'm with you. Like, I also think that a lot of people we do have, we have put on imaginary pedestals, have told us their traumas and their stories, and we only we are like, this is this? You are the Mecca that I need to be, and I'm gonna, I'm gonna do all the things. And so I think it's really easy for us to just forget that stuff. And I appreciate your honesty. And I also think thank you for sharing like for everyone listening, I hope you heard like, you just have to kind of get started and get to know every single day. You can't wait until you feel ready. You're not gonna feel ready. I'm sure, I'm sure Shari's never felt, I don't feel ready. Shari Teigman 37:12  I don't feel ready even when I am ready because I wouldn't even ask myself that question, well, we're doing this then, aren't we?Lesley Logan 37:18  Yeah, yeah. It's true. Yeah. It's so true. Because, like, the one time I I said, okay, people, it was many years ago, but the first time I was teaching like 85 people, and all these people had come to this, the first time this event was happening. So, like, I was so, like, I felt blessed and honored and excited to be invited to this, the inaugural of this thing. And I'm looking at all these people who've, like, wanted to take class with me, and they know what they're doing. And then I'm looking at this front this front row of people who just wanted to support me, but they've never done anything. And I'm like, oh my God. I have people who don't know what they're doing. I have people who have this expectation of me that I don't even know what it is. And my husband was micing me, and I'm like, is the mic on? And he's like, no. And I'm like, I'm actually, like, really nervous, right? Like, I don't think I can do this. Shari Teigman 38:01  I don't even ask if the mic's on. I'm like, I'm gonna ship myself, and it'll be 600 people waiting, and I don't want to go, who gave me this microphone? Who thinks I can do this? And then 20 seconds later, I'm on stage, arm flapping like nothing happened. Like, bring all of it with us. If you weren't scared, you wouldn't have missed the whole thing.Lesley Logan 38:19  Yeah, well, and also, and that's just exactly it. And he just like at me, and he just said, how is this different than what you already do? And I was just like, oh, that's right, thank you. Thank you for the reminder that, like it's, I'm fine, but I think, like it's, it's so important that you all hear like we're every person you put on a pedestal. You hear their story, you're like, oh my god, I'm so inspired. They wake up every day and have to figure out who they are that day, like they all do. Shari Teigman 38:44  The panic in our stomach some days and the anxiety. And I'm not wishing anyone stuff they don't have, but I want you to know everyone has their version of this, and it's not, oh, you're so brave. I didn't have a choice, so I got brave. And some days I'm not brave and but unfortunately, I'm a naturally happy, sad person, so like, I navigate this who are we going to be today? I want to be happy, but I feel sad, but I am happy, but I'm also sad. I stopped trying to pick one or the other. I'm both. I love when I'm on a podcast and like BJ Fogg's sister Linda is a friend of mine. We were in a mastermind together years ago. Lesley Logan 39:20  She lives, she lives in my town. Shari Teigman 39:21  Linda, you're kidding me. I love she's amazing. How funny. What a small world. That's crazy, like I watched the Linda's and the BJs of the world, and it's brilliant, and it's all very organized, and it's strategic, and it makes sense. And then you've got me, who is complete creative chaos. It's the only way I know how to function. You either love it or I terrify you. I'm fine with both. I can't, not going to change. I've tried. This is who I am, and I'll be on a podcast big audience, and they're like so Shari, what are your rituals every morning? And I burst out laughing, because I'm not going to lie to anyone which day, which mood, which temperature. What's it like outside? What am I wearing? I don't know. I wake up every morning I decide what I want to feel. I'll start with a feeling I want connection today. So yes, my days are crazy and scheduled, and I'm blessed to have a very busy coaching practice, and I run a department for a company in a country, in another country like I don't have a lot of flexibility in my time, and I still have to lead with what I need. Otherwise, no one else will get anything from me, and it took me a long time to not go into my own performance mode to help everyone else with their performance. What? I stepped into the same step for wife game that I was in my marriage. Climbed out of that, and I'm like, oh, coach world, green juice, yoga pants, alignment, words, what am I wearing? It's all lovely. If it works for you, that's when the Maverick was born. It's either going to be my way or I can't do it. Stop trying to pick up everyone else's way of fitting into your own life. It won't fit you. So again, it's that curiosity, it's that playfulness, it's the bad mood and good mood mixed together. Then you're being honest.Lesley Logan 40:54  Yeah, it's true. I am. I have three hours every morning for a morning routine, and the very start of my morning routine is the same. I get into a cold plunge. I read three books that are like daily things that I'm hopeful that something sticks, and then I go for a walk. And then after the walk, it's like, okay, what do I want to do? Do I want to do Pilates? Do I want to do my shake plate? Do I want to do my red light? Do I want to have breakfast now or breakfast later? And it has to go with what I'm feeling, which is why I gave myself three hours to do that because I, like you, I, well, I just discovered I have ADHD, which is its own fun thing, to discover perimenopausal. And then you're just like, oh, I'm the one they need to I thought my husband had ADHD. No, I do. And then it's like, wait a minute. So I'm overwhelmed because of the ADHD and. Shari Teigman 41:47  All of it, yeah. Lesley Logan 41:49  Just like, What do you mean? I can't, like, I'm also freaking out about the typing of the fingers because I, like, I just thought that I just had sensory integration disorder. So it's just you have to, excuse me, excuse me. I just wasn't diagnosed as a child and and here we are and now I get to know myself and perimenopause. But I think, like, I love that you share that, because I think that there's a world where you can be in the yoga pants with the green juice and the alignment words, and if it does, yes, and if it doesn't work for you. You can be like Shari and I and you can ask yourself how you want to feel, and give yourself the time to feel that. And I think that that's brilliant, yeah. Shari Teigman 42:27  And then have your green juice, or take a nap or rage or sleep or meditate like it's all wonderful, but none of these things are going to save you from yourself till you know yourself.Lesley Logan 42:34  Yeah, oh my god.Shari Teigman 42:34  It doesn't work. I tried it.Lesley Logan 42:34  I'm obsessed with you. We're gonna take a brief break and find out how people can find you, follow you, work with you, and your Be It Action Items. Lesley Logan 42:44  All right, Shari, where do you hang out? Where will this journal be when it's ready? Where can they stalk you?Shari Teigman 42:55  So I hang out on Instagram. I am there. I am loud. Sometimes I'm consistent. This is my consistency. I'm gone for a week, and then you'll see me 14 stories later. It just depends on the mood. When the mood strikes and the ideas come, the journal will be out, I'm hoping in February, which is extremely exciting. It's being designed now by a chaotic designer, which is perfect for me. And I love making new friends so they can come and come say hi to me on Instagram. It's Shari Teigman. You'll see me with my crazy glasses. As I'm known for a variety of glasses, it only happened because I'm on Zoom all day long, and I get very tired of looking at my face, so I needed to mix it up so that I wouldn't be bored. So I'm saying hi.Lesley Logan 43:39  I just needed some magic to look at. There were signs that I had ADHD. I'm like, let's put stars on your hands.Shari Teigman 43:44  I wouldn't have known it, right? I don't know where it came from. So I'm there. This is what I'm like all the time. I love when someone gets on a call with me, like a sales call, like, oh my god, you're exactly like you are online. Who else could I be? This is enough trouble to maintain you think I'm gonna have another personality for someone else? So I'm exactly like this. No one else answers my messages. I love meeting new people. I'd love to hear what you got from the podcast, what you're working on, what's your Maverick? What do you want to say out loud that you won't say to anyone else, like, I'm here to witness it. Come and play.Lesley Logan 44:17  Gosh. Okay, you have really given us so much already, but we do like our bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps at the end. What do you have for us?Shari Teigman 44:25  So I actually felt long and hard about this, which you should feel special, Lesley. Lesley Logan 44:29  I do. I actually really do. Shari Teigman 44:30  (inaudible) about anything, so I'll think about it and then I'll forget it. So it's not a want to, it's just in and out. So I think, based upon everything we talked about, an easy action step to live this is it's a hard one to say out loud, but it's going to punch everyone in the face, which is why I like it. Clean up the internal contradictions, and it's as simple as you're saying you want a bigger life, but you keep making micro choices. You're lying to your nervous system. You're answering an older version of yourself. You have to understand that the identity that you want for the life that you want is going to require aligned actions to that. So it's as simple as I say, I want to do Pilates every day, and yet I find myself laying on the couch. Pilates isn't happening. I did it today. I am tired from jet lag. I'm a yoga person. I love it, and I haven't done it so I could tell you, I love yoga, but I haven't done it in six weeks. I didn't realize till I said, when's the last time I took my mat out? Oh my god, I would have told you I did it a few days ago. Perimenopausal brain, I thought I did. So, telling ourselves the truth and cleaning up the internal contradictions makes us stop looking for answers from the outside of like, how come I just can't do it because you're not telling yourself the truth. So if I choose to lay on the couch, maybe I needed it that day. Maybe I didn't realize that that's what I wanted. Like, if I decide to stay on the couch, I do it intentionally. If I decide to do the yoga I don't check my phone in between, like, choose whatever it is intentionally and clean up those internal contradictions. The questions you ask will be much more clear and much more honest, and then you'll get to some answers.Lesley Logan 46:07  It is a good punch in the face, and I really like it. Shari Teigman 46:09  I punch myself in the face with it too. I'm like, oh god, if I say it out loud, I then have to do it.Lesley Logan 46:17  I it's so true, and it's really it's really funny. We get smart like, then I'll just keep it to myself, but.Shari Teigman 46:23  Not gonna unleash that one. Are we? Lesley Logan 46:25  No, I'm like, I won't tell anyone, and then they won't know. Shari Teigman 46:29  Let me know how it goes. Lesley Logan 46:31  Yeah. Oh, that one is so good. I'm so glad to have you. I mean, we're gonna have to have you back. I can't believe we haven't crossed paths, because I feel like you are just a dear friend in my life already. You guys, I agree with Shari. What touched you, what made you think like, what? Where did you go, oh, fuck it, Shari. Can't believe you called me out. She wants to know. I want to know. So tag her. Tag the Be It Pod. Share this with a girlfriend who needs to hear it like cheer for the scrappy front of the resilient friend, because I know that they need to feel so seen, and you know what to do. Until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 47:03  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. 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A recurring dream theme. A vicious comment about Liz Gilbert. And the reasons women keep their stories to themselves. This week Jodi unpacks the connection between love addiction and misogyny, and why All The Way To The River brought out the haters.  Because nobody likes it when a woman gets honest about her relationships. Nobody likes a messy recovery story. And that's exactly why we have to share them. Plus: the launch of Jodi's Substack, Nobody Likes This. Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Links to Jodi's website and her new Substack, Nobody Likes This (available April 21st). Purchase All The Way To The River by Liz Gilbert on Bookshop.org Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.  

Ben is full of hope. Max crushes dreams. The good ol' alignment chart. Liz Gilbert's ideas on ideas. And then—nerding out.  *** Submit Your Topic - Get A Free Shirt - ignorantanduninformed@gmail.com

Everywhere you look, people are talking about strategic planning and prepping for the new year. My approach this Christmas is the complete opposite. In this episode, I share why shutting down my business for two full weeks and stepping away from emails, Slack, and content creation is the smartest move I make for both my business and my sanity. After ten years in business, I know these breaks are absolutely essential.I talk about the power of embracing white space and why doing less is sometimes exactly what we need. Between Christmas and New Year, I focus on real downtime. No planning, no batching, just intentional rest and letting my mind wander. I share how this space away from work is when my best ideas surface, inspired by Liz Gilbert's thoughts on creativity and the magic that comes when we unplug.I hope this episode encourages you to find what truly replenishes you and reminds you that sometimes, stepping back is the wisest thing you can do for your business and your creativity.LINKSConnect with Ellie: Doors are NOW OPEN for The Mastermind Model ellieswift.com/model  Apply for the Scalable Freedom Mastermind hereFREE Private Podcast “Inside a 7-Figure Mastermind Business” hereWebsite:         https://www.ellieswift.com/Instagram:     @elliehswiftFacebook Group:     www.facebook.com/groups/shineonsocialellieswift/

(Full episode for paid subscribers on Substack.)I have been lucky enough to interview Liz Gilbert multiple times over the years. First almost ten years ago now, when I launched my podcast Ctrl Alt Delete in 2016. We spoke on Skype, the audio was tinny, it was the early days of podcasting, I was in my mid-twenties recording from my spare box-room in my old Hackney flat. I remember how magical it felt to be speaking with a woman I admired so much. I was invited to her book launch luncheon for Big Magic in London members' club and I sat with journalists ten years older than me. I interviewed Liz again in 2019, when I was writing my first novel Olive, and her brilliant novel City of Girls was published. I went to the Bloomsbury offices on a bright sunny day, walking through Bedford Square Gardens with a t-shirt that said Sigourney Weaver on it.In April last year, I had the honour of introducing Liz on stage in front of thousands of people at the Barbican as part of her UK tour, and I got to attend one of her sold-out creativity workshops. As readers, we get to see all her different eras. During our conversation, we call the writing life ‘living out loud' and ‘learning in public.' For many Millennial women like me, Liz has been an unapologetic symbol of living a creative life, leaning into solitude, travel, adventure—and quite frankly: doing whatever you want with your one wild and precious life.Before All the Way to the River came out this year—her new memoir all about her all-consuming relationship with her late partner Rayya Elias—I was lucky enough to read an early copy in proof form. I was absolutely glued to it, pretty much ignoring my husband for two days, totally immersed in Liz's world. I love Liz's novels for this reason, they're big and expansive, an intricately built world to escape into, and I love this about Liz's non-fiction too—she lets us into the full truth of what's been going on in her life and shows us around. She did it in Eat Pray Love, Committed, and now this new book. It takes courage to say: Actually, you know what, I'm still a work in progress—and aren't we all? She says life is full of ‘good guesses' and it suggests that we should all have compassion for our past selves who were trying to figure out all of this *points around*. We don't have to tie up our stories in pretty packages. We don't have to be ‘consumed' easily. We don't have to have our personal stories confused with ‘giving advice' or being a guru. We live in ever-changing lives and worlds. Life is messy—and so are the memoirs that follow. “I'll see you in ten years with the next memoir. We'll see what happens after this.” — Elizabeth GilbertI loved interviewing Liz again this week, about our books, writing fiction vs non-fiction, ‘cooking' our writing before publishing it, and why we do what we do. I also asked her for some friendly advice as my own memoir A Year of Nothing publishes in January. I hope you enjoy the conversation (and how progressively dark my office gets over the recording lol, it was 4pm in the UK i.e. winter hours!) xoxoxoTimestamps during our conversation:00:00 - An introvert on tour06:00 - All The Way To The River and how it was born08:00 - Journalling vs ‘cooked' writing10:00 - How would Eat Pray Love look in 2025?13:00 - Self-help vs memoir16:00 - Having respect for your readers18:30 - The myth of the ‘guru'20:00 - The fear of publishing a memoir23:00 - Dealing with judgment or criticism25:00 - The reason why we write books27:00 - When a memoir demands to be written30:00 - Writing the book you want to read34:00 - Choosing which form to write in37:00 - Fiction vs non-fiction 40:00 - Creativity and divinity 44:00 - “Success” isn't enough47:00 - A darkness retreat50:00 - Martha Beck advice54:00 - What's next for Liz 56:00 - US vs UK audiences1:00 - Where do we write?1:05 - Alone vs lonely1:07 - Women and invisibility 1:13 - The end! More on similiar topics: This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehyphen.substack.com/subscribe

We talk to blockbuster bestselling author Elizabeth Gilbert about her latest book —a compelling memoir that’s impossible to put down. Resources & links related to this episode: All the Way to the River by Elizabeth Gilbert Check out the new Happiness Project tools Liz Gilbert's Substack newsletter: Letters from Love Gretchen's Substack newsletter: Secrets of Adulthood Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Tara Swart walked into her first interview with Lewis three years ago barely holding it together. Ten months after losing her husband to illness, she was drowning in grief she refused to suppress. Now, she's back with a revelation that bridges hard science and ancient wisdom: our lost loved ones, our ancestors, and the universe itself are constantly communicating with us through signs. From infinity symbols appearing in impossible places to bumping into the exact actress her late father "approved" her to meet, Tara has documented thousands of stories proving we're more connected than we've been taught to believe. This conversation strips away the spiritual fluff and gets to the neuroscience of intuition. She dives into why we have 34 senses we never learned about, how trauma lives in our tissues, and what happens when we finally stop ignoring what our bodies have been screaming at us all along.Dr. Tara's books:The Signs: The New Science of How to Trust Your InstinctsThe Source: A Transformative Guide to Unlocking Your Mind, Harnessing Neuroplasticity, and Manifesting Success Through the Power of the Law of AttractionDr.Tara's podcast Reinvent Yourself with Dr. TaraIn this episode you will:Discover why suppressing grief is the most dangerous thing you can do—and the one practice that allows you to heal from the bottom up instead of covering pain with productivityTransform your relationship with intuition by understanding the 34 senses you never knew you had (including why your immune system counts as one)Break through skepticism about signs from lost loved ones with a simple experiment anyone can try—even if you think it's "woo woo"Access hidden wisdom trapped in your body through movement, sound, and nature rather than just talking or journaling your way through traumaRewire your brain for possibility by cultivating the art of noticing—starting with beauty and ending with unmistakable synchronicities that stop you in your tracksFor more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1833For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you'll love:Liz Gilbert – greatness.lnk.to/1681SCDr. Andrew Huberman  – greatness.lnk.to/1830SCSadhguru – greatness.lnk.to/1800SC Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode of the Uploft Interior Design Podcast, I embrace the Halloween spirit by sharing my love for festive decorations and the joy of going all out with spooky decor. I then tackle a design question from Jess in Cleveland, who is seeking advice on color drenching for her baby boy's room. I discuss the pros and cons of using a rich bluey-green color, emphasizing the importance of considering how a child's belongings will interact with the color scheme. After that, I review Liz Gilbert's latest book, "All the Way to the River," expressing my disappointment with its lack of cohesive storytelling and engaging plot. I invite listeners to share their thoughts on both color drenching and Gilbert's book, and I look forward to bringing more design tips and pop culture insights in the next episode! Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Halloween Decor Enthusiasm. 00:02:03 - Design Question from Jess on Color Drenching 00:09:10 - Recommended Color Choices 00:11:40 - Ceiling Treatment Suggestions 00:13:32 - Book Review: All the Way to the River 00:21:28 - Listener Engagement Links: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AffordableInteriorDesign.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit your design questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be featured on the show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Become a Premium Member⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and access the bonus episodes Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to become an interior designer with Uploft's Interior Design Academy. Get Betsy's book: ⁠⁠betsyhelmuth.com/book⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For more about our residential interior design services, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ModernInteriorDesign.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For our commercial interior design services, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠OfficeInteriorDesign.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Us: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uploftinteriordesign⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠facebook.com/UploftIntDes⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠tiktok.com/@uploftinteriordesign⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy the show, please spread the word and leave a review on iTunes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The best way to listen to Book of the Month LIVE is in our app. Author Elizabeth Gilbert didn't hold back in her visit to our headquarters, where she unpacked the wrenching life experiences that shaped her new memoir, All the Way to the River. From falling for her dear friend, to recognizing addiction in all its forms, to finally understanding that we're all students in one big Earth School. Sometimes true love becomes a true nightmare. Liz Gilbert bares her soul—and all her skeletons—in a deeply personal memoir, unpacking a friendship-turned-romance that spiraled out of control. Get All the Way to the River at bookofthemonth.com. Learn more about Book of the Month LIVE at bookofthemonth.com/botm-live.  

Three Out Loud hosts, one tarot card reader, and our unfiltered reactions. What could go wrong? Outlouders, this is an episode we have been looking forward to. Also, we’re not just reading our futures — Holly unpacks the vulnerable and heartfelt revelations in Liz Gilbert’s new book, including her self-proclaimed 'love addiction'. So why does Jessie find some of her observations feel kind of familiar? The wild but true high school catfish doco that floored Jessie; Holly and her good friend Meghan enjoy a taste of Spain; plus some X-rated bread making. Our recommendations this week truly run the gamut. P.S. If you want to listen to our one-on-one tarot card readings with Jessie, Holly and Amelia, we have a subscriber episode dropping in your feed next week. We’ll see you there

443. Liz Gilbert on Loving Without Losing Yourself  Glennon and Liz Gilbert go deeper into Liz's relationship with Rayya, into the tender, messy, miraculous place where caring for someone else pushes hard against caring for yourself. They talk about the quiet traps of codependency, the heartbreak of giving away your power, and the transformative freedom that comes when you turn to a higher voice for guidance. Listen to the first part of our conversation here. About Elizabeth: Elizabeth Gilbert is the author of nine previous works of fiction and nonfiction, which collectively have sold more than 25 million copies worldwide, spent more than 250 weeks on the New York Times bestseller list, and been translated into more than fifty languages.  She has been a finalist for the National Book Award, the National Book Critics Circle Award, and the PEN/Hemingway Award. With more than 20 million views of her TED Talk and 2.7 million followers on her social media accounts, she continues to be one of the most beloved and influential writers of our age.. Her new memoir: ALL THE WAY TO THE RIVER: Love, Loss, and Liberation is available now.

Australia isn't having enough babies but why is it women who are the only ones being scolded about it? Jessie, Amelia and Holly discuss if a reintroduction of the Baby Bonus could reverse the declining birth rate or if it's all too little too late. And some scurrilous new gossip in the Peltz-Beckham feud saga including yacht wars and a premature vow renewal — Amelia can hardly contain her excitement. Plus, the new wellness retreat which involves five days in a *checks notes* pitch black cabin in the middle of nowhere. It's one of our host's worst nightmare for a multitude of unusual reasons while Eat, Pray, Love author Liz Gilbert tried it and offers a completely different opinion. Support independent women's media What To Listen To Next: Listen to our most recent episode: Every Thought We Had About The 2025 Logies Listen: An Urgent Theory About That Skims Face... Thing Listen: There’s A Reason You’re Stuck & Mia’s News Listen: Is It OK To Flirt Outside Of Your Relationship? Listen: How Do You Make A Baby? Jessie Has Questions. Listen: The Great Feminist Exhaustion & One Of Us Has No Charisma Listen: A 10 Year Age Gap & Small Town Judgement Parenting Out Loud: Sleep Divorce, 'Hopeless' Dads & Goodnight To The Bedtime Story Connect your subscription to Apple Podcasts Watch Mamamia Out Loud: Mamamia Out Loud on YouTube What to read: A very important history of David Beckham sooking about not being knighted. Three words from Cruz Beckham just reignited his family's feud. HOLLY WAINWRIGHT: 'To understand the Beckham family estrangement, we need to go back to 1999.' The perfect burnout cure? This hidden countryside retreat is just hours from Sydney. Why women don’t want to have babies in 2024. 'I got a small pay rise at work. Our childcare fees are now crippling us.' THE END BITS: Check out our merch at MamamiaOutLoud.com Mamamia studios are styled with furniture from Fenton and Fenton GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening. Send us an email at outloud@mamamia.com.au Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice message. Join our Facebook group Mamamia Outlouders to talk about the show. Follow us on Instagram @mamamiaoutloud and on Tiktok @mamamiaoutloud Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Unlock the transformative power of poetry to dissolve your isolation and unveil universal human truths.Sarah Kay, author of A Little Daylight Left: Poems, shares her lifelong journey of using metaphor and imagery to illuminate life's most visceral experiences - from violence and heartbreak to aging and mortality. Discover how poetry can crack you wide open while connecting you to the shared voices of our existence.You can find Sarah at: Website | Instagram | Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode, you'll also love the conversations we had with Liz Gilbert about writing yourself letters from love.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

During our summer break, we are re-airing some of our favorite episodes. In this live conversation recorded at Duke University, the indomitable Liz Gilbert (of EAT, PRAY, LOVE fame) joins Kate for a discussion about the courage to create. Listen as Liz helps us expose our exhausting American need to make everything useful and lets us embrace beauty as a way of really living. In this episode, Kate and Liz discuss: Why we stop ourselves from being creative How we are all capable of making anything (badly! medium-well!) But how our creativity is best if it is for no reason whatsoever (not for impact or legacy or money or acknowledgement) How curiosity quiets fear and control CW: some spicy adult language Watch clips from this conversation, read the full transcript, and access discussion questions by clicking here or visiting katebowler.com/podcasts. Follow Kate on Instagram, Facebook, or X (formerly known as Twitter)—@katecbowler. Links to social pages and more available at linktr.ee/katecbowler.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Send us a textOwen Lipstein has interviewed icons like Liz Gilbert and Cyndi Lauper. He's run national magazines, launched Shakespeare festivals on the Hudson, and now he's doing something just as ambitious—capturing the heart of Santa Fe one story at a time.In this episode of The Real Santa Fe, Bunny reconnects with Owen, founder and publisher of Santa Fe Magazine, for a wide-ranging and soul-stirring conversation about what makes this city—and its people—so extraordinary. They talk about the art of listening, how stories create belonging, why Canyon Road is buzzing again thanks to Owen's wife Maggie Fine, and what's coming next: a Santa Fe Magazine live festival unlike anything the city's seen before.If you've ever felt a little magic in the air here, this episode will help you understand why—and remind you that sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is really listen.Santa Fe Magazine: https://santafemagazine.co/Bunny Terry's website Bunny Terry Instagram Bunny Terry Facebook Original Music by: Kene Terry

My guest today on CREATIVE. INSPIRED. HAPPY is Mike Sowden, the author behind the hugely popular Substack, “Everything is Amazing.” He is also a former archaeologist and travel writer, and one of the humblest writers I know. (Don't be fooled when he starts out the interview by telling you he has no idea what he's doing.)Today, we talk about:* What is Substack, and is it too late to get started there?* How Mike found his writing voice, a unique blend of scientific explanation and approachable humor* The joy of trying things even when you're not an expert on the topic* Growth on Substack - what works and what doesn't?* The concept of writing seasons (a.k.a. finding a publishing cadence that doesn't kill you)* What we can learn from Liz Gilbert's multimedia approach to writing,and so much more.Want more of Mike?Fill your life with more WOW at Everything is Amazing.

This episode kicks off with some musings about Gen X kinda stuff and weirdly segues into Liz Gilbert's book on creativity, Big Magic, as well as Buddhist teachings. Elizabeth covers a lot of territory this week. The Crow SoundtrackBig Magic by Liz GilbertAfter the Ecstasy, the Laundry by Jack Kornfield Radiant BadassChris Martin, Creativity Coach

Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!While pursuing his third ego death, Danny Morel discovered he'd been unconsciously seeking external love his entire life to fill what was missing within. This transformative moment—lying on the floor shaking as years of stored energy released—finally revealed that he was "the one" he'd been searching for. Danny shares his profound journey from affair to divorce to cosmic alignment, where a mushroom journey predicted his future wife and daughter two years before they entered his life. His vulnerable account of breaking cultural patterns and releasing alcohol, sex, and old wounds demonstrates the deep spiritual connection between authentic self-love and magnetic partnership.Learn more about Danny hereListen to Danny's podcast The Higher Self with Danny MorelIn this episode you will learn:Why your romantic struggles directly reflect your relationship with yourselfHow to break unhealthy relationship cycles by taking 100% responsibilityThe three core blocks preventing women from finding fulfilling loveWhy "mind mates" bring temporary infatuation while soulmates trigger your deepest healingThe specific practices Danny used to transform from people-pleaser to authentic partnerFor more information go to https://www.lewishowes.com/1759For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you'll love:Liz Gilbert – greatness.lnk.to/1681SCGregg Braden  – greatness.lnk.to/1726SCJillian Turecki – greatness.lnk.to/1740SC Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

In today's Mastermind Rach reflects on the importance of storytelling with vulnerability and authenticity through interviews with renowned authors and speakers such as Liz Gilbert, Rob Bell, Rainn Wilson, and Donald Miller. Each conversation delves into how storytelling can shape our personal narratives, build brands, and inspire change.Get your copy of Rachel's New Book Here: Audible, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Millon, Bookshop.org, or wherever books are sold!Featured Episodes 151: Liz Gilbert161: Rob Bell173: Donald Miller409: Rainn Wilson 01:58 The Power of Storytelling04:08 Moments of Inspiration and Creativity06:12 Navigating Fear in the Creative Process10:01 The Journey of Wisdom and Happiness16:09 The Universe and Relationships17:54 Following Your Path and Integrity20:39 Aligning with Your True Self24:14 The Importance of Believing in Your Product25:04 Economic Shifts and Business Strategies26:31 Clarifying Your Message for Success27:41 The Power of Storytelling in Business30:21 The Role of Education in Business Success33:02 Learning from Failure36:20 Addressing the Mental Health Epidemic37:44 The Spiritual Path: Kung Fu and Star Trek40:38 Practical Spirituality for Everyday Life42:11 Conclusion and Production CreditsSign up for Rachel's weekly email: https://msrachelhollis.com/insider/Call the podcast hotline and leave a voicemail! Call (737) 400-4626Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RachelHollisMotivation/videosFollow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollis To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices.  

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Don't miss the Make Money Easy Book Tour! https://lewishowes.com/moneyyouCheck out the full episode: greatness.lnk.to/1736"The greatest harm that I've ever done to other people was through me not knowing how to take care of myself. Nobody is safe from me when I need them that much." - Elizabeth GilbertElizabeth Gilbert unveils her decades-long struggle with sex and love addiction with disarming candor, revealing how her pattern of seeking validation and fulfillment through relationships created a destructive cycle. Despite years of therapy and thousands of dollars spent trying to change, it wasn't until age 50 that she discovered the 12-step program that finally addressed her core issues. Gilbert shares how she brought three different partners to the same therapist—outside her marriages—in a desperate search for the perfect relationship formula to fill what she describes as "this great echoing God-sized hole within me."Behind her public success, Gilbert confronted the painful reality that her unmet needs transformed her into someone "super needy, super clingy and super manipulative," using others as "parental replacements" or "unpaid therapists." Her profound realization that proper self-care isn't merely personal wellness but a "deeply humanitarian public service" offers powerful wisdom for anyone caught in destructive relationship patterns. Through her vulnerability, Gilbert illuminates how genuine healing begins when we stop expecting others to solve our inner emptiness and instead take responsibility for our own emotional well-being.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter

I'm going on tour! Come see The School of Greatness LIVE in person!Get my new book Make Money Easy here!Four renowned experts unpack why we stay in toxic relationships and reveal the hidden psychological patterns that keep us stuck in cycles of emotional dependency. Bestselling author Elizabeth Gilbert shares her journey from love addiction to emotional sobriety, discovering how finding a higher power led to deeper self-acceptance. Psychologist Dr. Guy Winch reveals why early relationship patterns become like cement - moldable at first but quickly hardening into permanent dynamics. Relationship experts Matthew Hussey and Sadia Khan explore why we stay in unhealthy relationships, how fear drives us to lower our standards, and the critical importance of communicating deal-breakers before committing. Together, these four perspectives illuminate the path from toxic patterns to thriving relationships through self-awareness, boundaries, and emotional maturity.In this episode you will learn:Why self-care isn't just self-indulgence, but a "deeply humanitarian public service" that makes us safer for others to be aroundHow to identify and communicate deal-breakers early in relationships to prevent future conflictThe danger of entering relationships from a scarcity mindset and how it leads to compromising standardsWhy emotional wounds require the same careful attention and treatment as physical injuriesThe importance of developing emotional regulation and selecting partners who encourage healthy boundariesFor more information go to https://www.lewishowes.com/1736For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you'll love:Liz Gilbert – greatness.lnk.to/1681SCGuy Winch  – greatness.lnk.to/1683SCSadia Khan and Matthew Hussey – greatness.lnk.to/1659SC Get more from Lewis! Pre-order my new book Make Money EasyGet The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

"You actually have permission to orient your life according to your nature rather than according to your culture and what you were taught was expected of you" - Elizabeth Gilbert, Living an Imperfectly Perfect Life - In Conversation with Sarah Grynberg Welcome to Episode #105:After three days in Sydney pondering a workshop with Elizabeth Gilbert I come away with this share. It was a gift to myself to just get away for a few days, number one there was that. Number two, I could have just gone there to see the tsunami of women of all ages ready, pens and journals in hand waiting. There were people of all ages, including some men, one beside me scrawling notes, trying to catch what poet she quoted, all listening, waiting, watching, talking and mostly just feeling her words ricocheting off the podium where she stood. In such an experience there is before, there is then and then there is after. …. it's the holy trinity… And so it has been many years of knowing her work from afar, reading her books, loving her books and Liz sharing the art of creative living. For most of us it did start with the iconic ‘Eat Pray Love' - for some it was the love story, for some the epic travel journey, for some the long pasta lunches in Italy, for some it was the spiritual seeking and the searching for herself. For me, it was everything. Livy was in my belly when I first read ‘Eat Pray Love', and she is now sixteen years old. I have had three kids, and managed to live a creative life and stay married, in my mind it is quite the endurance test. It is lovely to see her and listen to her to talk, but it is bigger than that, Liz Gilbert does the work. She questions and she calls it out, and she is willing to ride the wave and get dumped a few times. And if you see her live, you are with her walking into the fire, you are warmed and you are transformed, rising from the flames, anew and alive to whatever you are calling in next!This share I go all the way in the deep end of living my own personal journey and feeling the rumble of change and growth and my own potential hovering in the wings as I share this podcast. It is creative living and I wouldn't change any of it - it's a grand adventure and a joy to share along the way…..Find all Shownotes at  michellejohnston.lifeBuy my new book:  In the Shadow of a Cypress - An Italian Adventure Book Link for my MichelleJohnston.life© 2025  A Writer In Italy - travel, books, art and lifeMusic Composed by Richard Johnston © 2025Support the show

In this episode, I discuss the powerful insights I gained from a recent talk by author Liz Gilbert. I explore Liz's message about the importance of being the "calmest person in the room" and how this can be a source of true power, especially for women navigating the challenges of midlife. I delve into the pressure many of us feel to be constantly reactive, and how learning to pause, ground ourselves, and respond from a place of presence can transform our experiences - both personal and professional. This episode is a reminder that sometimes the most impactful change comes not from frantic action, but from the wisdom of self-regulation and inner calm.Key Takeaways: Liz Gilbert's insight that the "calmest person in the room" often holds the most power, and how this relates to women's experiences The importance of learning to pause, ground ourselves, and respond from a place of presence rather than reactivity The role of self-care practices like exercise, time in nature, and nervous system regulation techniques in cultivating inner calm Recognizing when our fight-or-flight responses are not serving us, and developing the skills to navigate challenging situations with more equanimity The ways that alcohol can contribute to a lack of emotional regulation, and how sobriety can create more space for presence Episode links & Resources Learn more about Emma Gilmour at: www.hoperisingcoaching.com Follow Emma Gilmour on insta @hoperisingcoaching My Upcoming Coached Events & Programs: 'Feel healthier, sleep better, get more done!' Discover the secret to a ‘take it or leave it' relationship with alcohol with my 5 Days To Freedom - Virtual Retreat - 17 February - 21 February @ 7:00pm-8:00pm nightly (live & recorded): https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/5day-vr 'From Crappy to Happy' Join The Great Aussie Alcohol - LIVE 30-Day Experiment for a HAPPIER, HEALTHIER YOU - without sacrificing, struggling, or feeling like you're missing out.3rd March-1st April: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/the_great_aussie_alcohol_experiment Join Emma's VIP ELITE experience here: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/offers/k7AXMNPG Join Emma's Be The Lighthouse membership here: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/bethelighthouse Get Emma's Visualisation audio download at https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/northstarvisualisation Emma's Awareness worksheets for people wanting to prepare prior to taking a break from drinking or reduce their drinking by being more mindful about what and why they drink https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/awareness-worksheets-opt-in Emma's 5 Day Alcohol Reset for people looking to take a quick reset https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/fivedayreset Join The Self-Paced Great Aussie Alcohol Experiment at https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/aae Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/midlife-af-podcast/id1649673705

En este episodio te comparto: Link a mi Substack: Las partes de amar. Link a newsletter con la carta escrita: Tú, calidad, yo, cantidad. ¡Listo! Los regalos que me dejó el Workshop de fin de semana con Liz Gilbert y Martha Beck en Toronto. Esta entrevista de Tim Ferris a Liz Gilbert resume bastante de lo que ella compartió en el taller. Cómo escribir para recibir guía escribiéndote cartas (dos opciones). Partes de una carta que me escribió la yo de 80 años con instrucciones claras para unos próximos 40 años de gozo y ligereza (universales, a mi parecer). Una carta que me escribió mi Amar con directrices y aprendizajes claros (universales, a mi parecer). Recursos a los que hago referencia: The Artist's Way o El camino del Artista de Julia Cameron. Big Magic o Libera tu magia de Elizabeth Gilbert.

   On the outside, Dr Mel Hicks (47) had it all. She's been a global philanthropist for two decades. She's a published author, keynote speaker, and has travelled to 44 countries. But another failed marriage, and an emergency hysterectomy threw Mel into shame and self-doubt. She was alone again, and she'd never be a mother – and she blamed herself. As a high-achiever and a self-proclaimed “runner” from her problems, Mel dove into her charity work, and drank and partied so she wouldn't have to face her feelings of not-enoughness. She finally had to confront the big emotions she'd been running from. Can she find a new way of relating to herself if she's not a mom, and still feel enough? Let's find out…  0:00 Intro   2:22. Why Mel's inability to have children caused her to feel so much not-enoughness   4:03 When Mandy's second marriage fell apart, and the not-enoughness she felt   4:59 Mel's second divorce was a pivotal moment for her   9:49 The shame of not being part of the “motherhood club”   12:27 Mel's fibroid diagnosis   13:35 Mel's coping mechanisms (wine and work)   15:41 Liz Gilbert quote. Mel gets fed up of her own BS   17:31 “I forgive you”   20:04 The exhaustion of pushing down emotions   21:22 Mel allowed her shame stories to surface   24:58 Moving forward vs “running”   26:23 Shame resilience   28:09 How Mel picked shame apart   32:57/Outro What Mel has recently said “Enough!” to   Links   Melanie Sue Hicks's website and book.   Mel on Instagram   Mandy on Instagram

Unlock the power of embodiment with Silfath Pinto, a trailblazer who left the corporate world to guide others in reclaiming their feminine energy and sacred union with the masculine.In this captivating conversation, Silfath shares her transformative journey, blending somatic practices, energy healing, and mindset work to help people shed conditioning, heal trauma, and live as their most actualized selves. Discover daily rituals to anchor in wonder, play with possibilities during life transitions, and harmonize the profound feminine and masculine intelligence that exists within us all.You can find Silfath at: Website | Instagram | Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode you'll also love the conversations we had with Liz Gilbert about waking up to what's real.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re buying a gift for your partner’s sister, running through a relentless three-day menu in your head and stuffing stockings while crying - you’re not just carrying the Christmas mental load, you’re kin-keeping. We explain. Plus, a young woman who slept with 100 men in one day is crying on the Internet and the general vibe is “I told you so.” But now Lilly Phillips is not following the script for what’s meant to happen next — she's going for 1000 men in a day in 2025. We unpack The woman who wrote one of the best-selling books of all time about a search for romantic love has sworn off it entirely for her second act. Elizabeth Gilbert on why the LOVE has been dumped from Eat, Pray. Support independent women's media Get your tickets to the Mamamia Out Loud Live 2025 All or Nothing Tour Presented By Nivea Cellular What To Listen To Next: Listen to our latest episode: Get The F*ck Out Of Our Village (Please) Listen: The Trends We Want To Return (Or Die For Good) Listen: Jay-Z And An Audacious Family PR Strategy Listen: It's Time We Talked About 'That Guy' Connect your subscription to Apple Podcasts The End Bits: Sign up to the Mamamia Out Loud Newsletter for all our recommendations and behind-the-scenes content in one place. What To Read: Read: Everything you need to know about the Mamamia Out Loud ALL OR NOTHING TOUR coming May 2025. Read: The sad story of the woman who went viral for sleeping with 100 men in one day. Read: Everything we know about Luigi Mangione, the suspect in the CEO murder case. Read: 'After my divorce, all I wanted for Christmas was my kids.' GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening. Send us an email at outloud@mamamia.com.au Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice message Join our Facebook group Mamamia Outlouders to talk about the show. Follow us on Instagram @mamamiaoutloud CREDITS: Hosts: Holly Wainwright, Mia Freedman & Jessie Stephens Group Executive Producer: Ruth Devine Executive Producer: Emeline Gazilas Audio Production: Lu Hill Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's conversation is dedicated to the many loves that make up our lives—especially that of our friends. Dolly Alderton is a Sunday Times and New York Times bestselling writer and memoirist. She recognizes the great gift of the friends who have walked with her through many seasons of life—all the highs and lows and inbetweens.  In this conversation, Kate and Dolly discuss: The great loves that make up a life The push-pull of loving relationships with your body  The power of witness If you liked this conversation, you'll also like: Liz Gilbert on fostering creative lives Sarah Bessey on living inside our (actual) bodies Tim Omundson and Joel McHale on being a friend through hard times   Watch clips from this conversation, read the full transcript, and access discussion questions by clicking here or visiting katebowler.com/podcasts. Follow Kate on Instagram, Facebook, or X (formerly known as Twitter)—@katecbowler. Links to social pages and more available at linktr.ee/katecbowler.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you listened to the FULL EPISODE yet?"Love said to me, 'I am company and comfort in your darkest hour, so that you don't have to go through this alone.'" - Liz GilbertIn this deeply moving conversation, bestselling author Liz Gilbert opens up about her profound understanding of love's presence in our lives, sharing intimate revelations about her spiritual connection and personal loss. After the death of her partner Rhea seven years ago, Liz embarked on a transformative journey that led her to distinguish between God's infinite mystery and love's constant companionship. Through her raw honesty and vulnerability, she reveals how this understanding has shaped her approach to both personal healing and supporting others through crisis.Gilbert's insights on the nature of unconditional love challenge conventional wisdom, offering listeners a fresh perspective on presence, healing, and the courage to sit with uncertainty. Her wisdom particularly resonates with those navigating life transitions, grief, or seeking deeper spiritual connection, demonstrating how embracing love's presence can transform our darkest moments into opportunities for profound growth.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter!

Mega best-selling author Elizabeth Gilbert opens up about the challenges in managing her mental health, the importance of curiosity and how to cultivate it daily, and the somewhat radical measures she undertakes to switch-off from technology.  WANT MORE FROM LIZ? Find out more about Liz's Australian tour next February here, catch her @elizabeth_gilbert_writer or see her site here.  WANT MORE BODY + SOUL?  Online: Head to bodyandsoul.com.au for your daily digital dose of health and wellness. On social: Via Instagram at @bodyandsoul_au or Facebook. Or, TikTok here. Got an idea for an episode? DM host Felicity Harley on Instagram @felicityharley.  In print: Each Sunday, grab Body+Soul inside The Sunday Telegraph (NSW), the Sunday Herald Sun (Victoria), The Sunday Mail (Queensland), Sunday Mail (SA) and Sunday Tasmanian (Tasmania). See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Jen Marples Show episode 184 is here!Get ready to have your soul ignited, ladies! Today I'm thrilled to welcome the one and only Shelley Paxton - a true corporate rebel, best-selling author, keynote speaker, and Chief Soul Officer extraordinaire. Shelly's journey from the top marketing ranks at Harley-Davidson to a profound midlife awakening is the stuff of legend. She's the Brené Brown meets biker babe you never knew you needed, and her message of reclaiming your power, releasing the shackles of "should," and redefining success on your own terms is exactly what our community needs to hear. Buckle up, because Shelley is about to take us on a wild ride straight to the depths of our souls. You won't want to miss a single juicy morsel of wisdom she's dropping - this episode is pure fire from start to finish!Think Brené Brown meets Biker Babe, with a dash of Liz Gilbert. As former Chief Marketing Officer of Harley-Davidson, Shelley Paxton found herself at the top of the proverbial mountain feeling success-EMPTY instead of success-FULL. That awakening led her on a profound journey that became her mission, business, and Simon & Schuster- published bestselling book, Soulbbatical: A Corporate Rebel's Guide to Finding Your Best Life. She's leading a REBELution to rewrite the script of success. Shelley's inspiring work has been featured on NBC, CBS, Forbes, Thrive Global, Inc., Business Insider, Yahoo!, and a TEDx stage.Shelley and I discuss:Recognizing when your "success" feels empty and disconnected from your true self is a powerful wake-up call to make a change.Defining a "soul batical" as a conscious choice to live and lead with greater authenticity, courage and fulfillment.Releasing the "shackles of should" by identifying your soul fuels vs. soul sucks through a simple energy audit exercise.Establishing boundaries and giving yourself permission slips to prioritize your values and well-being.Overcoming the "arrival fallacy" - the belief that achieving certain milestones will bring lasting happiness.Choosing your values over external validation, even when it means making difficult decisions.Embracing the wisdom and self-trust that comes with midlife as you rewrite your success story on your own terms.Shelley's Powerful Question to ask yourself: What do I need to allow myself to do, not do, or feel right now, today, or in this moment in order to show up as my most bold, brave, and badass self?Now, write yourself a permission slip to do that thing and see what happens!Shelley Says: You're Not Too F***ing Old! to Rewrite Your Script on Your Own Terms!Learn more about Jen Marples at https://www.jenmarples.comWant to work with Jen? Book a complimentary 20-minute call HERE. Follow Jen @jenmarples on Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok and YouTubeSubscribe to Jen's NewsletterUnedited AI Transcript The doors are open for Stepping Into the Spotlight. It's time for you to get the visibility you deserve! This program will empower you and give you the tools to show up expertly and attract all that you desire. It's time to be seen and make the impact you desire! Click HERE for more information. If you register by Oct. 18, use code JEN250 for a discount. See you in the room!

Enjoy this enlightening conversation with the inspiring Liz Gilbert, bestselling author of "Eat, Pray, Love". Liz opens up about her journey through love addiction, codependency, and finding spiritual sobriety. She also shares profound insights on developing a relationship with unconditional love, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing emotional wellbeing. Liz also discusses her new project "Letters from Love" and how she's learning to rest and receive support. Her vulnerability and wisdom on topics like God, relationships, and self-care make this a must-listen episode for anyone on a path of personal growth.IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:How Liz overcame love addiction through 12-step recovery and developing a relationship with a higher powerWhy prioritizing your health and mission over romantic relationships can lead to more fulfilling partnershipsThe importance of having a community and not relying solely on a romantic partner for all your needsHow writing daily letters from unconditional love can be a powerful spiritual practiceWhy learning to rest and receive support is crucial for long-term wellbeing and creativityFor more information go to https://www.lewishowes.com/1681For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you'll love:Rupi Kaur – https://link.chtbl.com/1678-podDr. Rahul Jandial – https://link.chtbl.com/1249-podMarisa Peer – https://link.chtbl.com/1563-pod

Are brilliant women doomed to be unhappy? Elizabeth Gilbert reveals the hidden traps keeping creative women stuck, and why people pleasing might kill you.  WHAT'S COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: 00:00 - Feeling lost? Do this now  04:40 - Why Marie and Liz decided not to have kids 09:15 - The shocking way people pleasing (literally) kills you  13:50 - THIS sneaky mindset habit steals 7 years of your life 17:00 - The 5-minute routine to heal trauma 24:30 - The #1 tool you need to make confident decisions 27:17 - How to love your work & prevent burnout  32:00 - The "garbage hours" trick for taking back your time  45:45 - Why Liz shaved her head  55:04 - The mindset trick that sold 30 million books  01:08:00 - The "greedy" secret to building the life of your dreams  01:12:50 - Liz's secret desire she's never revealed before Thanks for listening! New episodes drop every Tuesday. Make sure you hit the follow button to get notified.

Margo is joined by dynamic artist, entrepreneur, and the visionary CEO, Amber Byers Amber is the CEO and founder of Tadpole Press. She leads with creativity and inclusivity, serving as the head judge of the Tadpole Press 100-Word Writing Contest, an international competition that celebrates the power of words and fosters a vibrant community of writers. Her passion for writing extends beyond the contest; she regularly blogs at Living a Life Imagined, where she shares her commitment to positivity and authenticity as a creative force. Amber's literary works reflect her imaginative spirit and diverse background, including The Magic Door Origin Story, a sci-fi tale inspired by her childhood, and Sophie and Spot, which garnered a Gold Medal for Best First Book in the chapter book category at the Moonbeam Children's Book Awards in 2019. Amber shares her journey from attorney to influential writer and entrepreneur, highlighting the importance of creativity, authenticity, and diverse voices in literature and shares her cultural roots with the Sault Ste. Marie Tribe of Chippewa Indians, and her mission to foster inclusivity through her work.   Margo and Amber discuss: Her transition from legal career to writer and entrepreneur The internationally loved 100-word writing contest Her cultural roots with the Sault Ste. Marie Tribe of Chippewa Indians and how they shape her creative expression  How influences like Simone Biles and Liz Gilbert shape her philosophy The significance of cultural heritage, gender identity, and the inclusive mission of Tadpole Press Being unafraid to stand out by not following the rules Discovering abundance in limitless creative expression and joy How identity as an agender and biracial person influenced their approach to writing and editing   Connect with Amber: https://www.tadpolepress.com/welcome https://www.tadpolepress.com/100-word-writing-contest https://www.tadpolepress.com/blog https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tj35X6TwPVA https://www.tadpolepress.com/post/my-pronouns   Connect with Margo: www.windowsillchats.com www.instagram.com/windowsillchats www.patreon.com/inthewindowsill  

In this episode we learn about Marty Seligman's initial experiments on Learned Helplessness.  This context can help us better understand ourselves and why we may sometimes not believe that we have power to take action to decrease our own suffering.   In person event: EWP Toronto 2024 with Liz Gilbert and Marta Beck - click here  Coaching Guide: To download click here  Podcast link:  To send to a friend click here. We'll be placing links to references here soon.

Episode 123. Today's solo episode is all about my thoughts about Creativity. I've been thinking about this topic a LOT lately. And it's been incredibly fun. I read this book recently and already am re-listening to it. It's Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert and I've found it really inspiring. I have really been slowing down to think about how I can add creativity into my personal and professional life and how others can do the same. So this podcast episode is all about my thoughts on creativity, including how I've evolved to use creativity as a psychologist and also in my personal life. I can't wait to share it with you! Words of Wisdom Quote from Elizabeth Gilbert: "You're not required to save the world with your creativity. Your art not only doesn't have to be original, in other words, it also doesn't have to be important. For example, whenever anyone tells me that they want to write a book in order to help other people I always think 'Oh, please don't." Do it for Yourself? That quote actually really makes me laugh out loud. So much of what I've learned in the online marketing world is about knowing your audience and speaking to their pain points. In my training as a psychologist, I was taught to always focus on the other person and their needs, helping them to conceptualize their struggles, and from there, give suggestions to help. None of these suggestions are bad, and yet, none of them teach us how to listen to our own bodies as we are marketing or delivering therapy. And the more I do both of those things, the more I think that's actually the most essential skill to learn... "I'm not a creative person." I've said this so many times. I still sometimes say it. But now at least I'm catching myself. We all have creativity in us. It maybe got shoved down, but it's there. And re-engaging with it can be deeply healing. In IFS it is said that when we can notice and get space and separation from our Parts, the 8 C qualities of self emerge: Creativity, Curiosity, Connection, Courage, Calm, Clarity, Compassion, and Confidence. There are also 5 P words that can emerge, including, Presence, Persistence, Perspective, Playfulness, Patience. Play and creativity are essential for how kids learn and I for one am excited to continue to rediscover this as an adult. Why We Should Care About Creativity “A creative life is an amplified life. It's a bigger life, a happier life, an expanded life, and a hell of a lot more interesting life. Living in this manner – continually and stubbornly bringing forth the jewels that are hidden within you – is a fine art, in and of itself.” -Elizabeth Gilbert I'll be perfectly honest, I want to convince you that creativity is important. I went online and started searching in Google Scholar. There are definitely some articles to support this. Liz Gilbert's book has more ideas on this. I come from a heavily science and math focused background. My dad was an engineer, and my mom taught math, and later computers, and then taught technology to other teachers. I can't say that I grew up truly understanding the immense value of creative works. When I did art at school, perfectionism was majorly on the scene. If it wasn't perfect, I'd freak out (internally or externally, depending on my age). Dancing as Creativity My main exposure to the arts and creative expression was the fact that I danced from age 8 to 18, and the again for a few years in college on a college Pompon team. I witnessed creativity, but I never felt creative. I struggled with choreography. I would just put together tricks I already knew, do a double turn into an axel jump, then jump forward and do a kick and a leap. Ways I Engage in Creativity Today Podcasting Blogging Thinking of new ways to engage clients and therapists in innovative ways to heal themselves (while, creatively, healing myself too - see what I did there?

Join Joshua as he explores the concept of a ‘shit sandwich' from Liz Gilbert and Mark Manson, and how you can reframe a question about purpose and passion to lead you to maximum alignment.

She was at the top of her game with one of the world's most iconic brands, doing the work that had taken her across the world and back multiple times. From the outside looking in, things looked really good for Shelley Paxton. But, she had a secret.  Shelley would be awoken every night by the same nightmare and walked through her days with anxiety, both of which she tried to numb with busyness and alcohol. She finally reached a point where she couldn't tolerate the pain of playing to someone else's version of success and went on a journey to find her lost soul.  Shelley no longer believes in following the rules, and wants to lead a revolution for all of us to reclaim our rebel nature and fully dance to the beat of our own music.     Bio   Think Brené Brown meets Biker Babe, with a dash of Liz Gilbert. As former Chief Marketing Officer of Harley-Davidson, Shelley Paxton found herself at the top of the proverbial mountain feeling success-EMPTY instead of success-FULL. That awakening led her on a profound journey that became her mission, business, and Simon & Schuster- published bestselling book, Soulbbatical: A Corporate Rebel's Guide to Finding Your Best Life.    She's leading a REBELution to rewrite the script of success.   Shelley's inspiring work has been featured on NBC, CBS, Forbes, Thrive Global, Inc., Business Insider, Yahoo!, and a TEDx stage.   Her signature keynote – “Where Soul Meets Success” – is an essential roadmap for leaders and organizations to redefine success in ways that celebrate humanity, well- being, and fulfillment. It's the post-pandemic antidote to burnout and seeking.   She's based in Chicago (when not indulging her wanderlust) and is obsessed with mental health advocacy and the color orange.   Soulbbatical: A Corporate Rebel's Guide to Finding Your Best Life at Amazon  For more info and booking: www.shelleypaxton.com IG: @theshelleypaxton

Poet Maggie Smith candidly unpacks the lightning strike success of her viral 2016 poem "Good Bones" and how it strained her marriage, ultimately unraveling - an upheaval she unflinchingly explores in her vulnerable memoir You Could Make This Place Beautiful.Smith discusses metabolizing life's "unanswerable mysteries" through writing, going viral as an introvert, modeling authenticity for her kids, and our struggle to embrace life's "andness." With radiant honesty, she pursues the uncomplicated truth of simply being herself through stillness and creativity.This profound dialogue is a masterclass on upheaval, art, and what it means to truly live a good life from one of today's vital literary voices.You can find Maggie at: Website | Instagram | Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode you'll also love the conversations we had with Liz Gilbert about writing yourself letters from love.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

These week's episode is your favorite: A Tarot Teaching Episode! Today, Sarah is diving deep into the 8 of Wands. Find out it's meanings, and what is in store for you when you pull the card. In this episode, you'll learn: The traditional meanings of the 8 of Wands Sarah's updated meanings of the 8 of Wands How to work with this cardThe shadows and warnings of the card Ways to ground the energy of the archetype in your real life Get ready to feel great as you become confident about this card. Mentions include Rick Rubin and Liz Gilbert. Subscribe to our newsletter to be the first to know about our June Tarot Workshop Series.Join the Moon Studio Patreon. Buy The Moon Book

305. How to Self-Regulate, Heal Your Relationships & Accept That You'll Never Be Finished  As we continue the discussion on Busyness, Amanda, Glennon & Abby share more of their thoughts about the cult of Busyness – how buying into it shows up in you and your relationships, and how it leads to dysregulation and dissatisfaction in all areas of life. We go through the signs that might indicate you're too busy and burnt out, how to know the difference between building a life and living a life, and why dysregulation can be a breadcrumb toward healing. Discover:  -Why the addiction of busyness will never be pointed out or helped by most people;  -Why Abby says the idea of retirement is the greatest heist in human history; and -The emotional breakdown Amanda had, which led to starting her healing journey. Also check out: 304. Break Up with Busyness & Let Go of Your To-Do List 281. How Amanda Finally Calmed Her Brain & Her Letter from Love with Liz Gilbert  261. How to Stretch Time with Jenny Odell 139. No More Grind: How to Finally Rest with Tricia Hersey 93. BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive? with Emily and Amelia Nagoski To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

304. Break Up with Busyness & Let Go of Your To-Do List Amanda delves into her relationship with Busyness and how she's working through it. We'll touch on topics such as the pervasive culture of busyness, productivity as a measure of self-worth, and the struggle to define personal boundaries and prioritize genuine happiness (after some hilarious banter between Glennon and Abby about how to deal with “disgusting” things in a relationship). Discover:  -Why Busyness is such a pervasive and oppressive cult for so many of us; -How to decouple your self-esteem and identity from your productivity; -The actionable tactic Amanda is using in her break up with Busyness; and -How your pets prove that the religion of busyness is a lie.  Check out these episodes, too: 281. How Amanda Finally Calmed Her Brain & Her Letter from Love with Liz Gilbert  261. How to Stretch Time with Jenny Odell 139. No More Grind: How to Finally Rest with Tricia Hersey 93. BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive? with Emily and Amelia Nagoski To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if writing simple letters of love to yourself could change everything? Liz Gilbert shares an unusual practice that became her lifeline during painful times. Discover how tapping into self-compassion through daily letter writing provides surprising wisdom and comfort. Liz explains the transformative power of listening to your heart's guidance - something she now shares with thousands on her popular Substack, Letters From Love. Learn to turn inward and receive the unconditional love and support you crave through this magical daily ritual. Liz provides inspiration and practical guidance to unlock your inner wisdom through writing.You can find Liz at: Website | Letters From Love with Elizabeth Gilbert | Instagram | Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode you'll also love the conversations we had with Elizabeth Gilbert about navigating love and loss and finding lightness again.Check out our offerings & partners: My New Book SparkedMy New Podcast SPARKED. Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Triggerwarnung: In dieser Folge werden die Themen Drogenabhängigkeit, Co-Abhängigkeit in Beziehungen und Missbrauch erwähnt. Bitte höre dir das Interview nur an, wenn du dich mental stabil fühlst. Deine Gesundheit und dein Wohlbefinden stehen an erster Stelle. Kannst du dich an einen Moment erinnern, in dem du jemandem deine Wahrheit gesagt hast? Dein Herz rast, in dir gehen alle Alarmglocken an und du denkst dir: „Ich kann das AUF GAR KEINEN FALL sagen.” Warum ist das so? Warum haben wir eine solche Angst davor, verurteilt zu werden? Und wie können wir für uns selbst einstehen, um ein freies, authentisches und erfülltes Leben zu leben? Die Antworten auf diese Fragen erfährst du in meiner neuen Podcastfolge. Ich habe die wundervolle Elizabeth Gilbert zum zweiten Mal zu Besuch im Podcast!  Liz ist unter anderem die Autorin des Buches Eat, Pray, Love und einer meiner persönlichen Vorbilder.  Wir sprechen über Liz individuelle Heilungsreise, wie sie ihre Integrität lebt und warum vor allem Frauen den tiefen Wunsch haben, gut sein zu wollen.  Ich bin unendlich dankbar Liz Input mit dir teilen zu können. Im Gespräch mit Elizabeth Gilbert erfährst du, … ✨ was du loslassen musst, um wirklich frei zu sein, ✨ wie du den Mut findest, deine authentische Wahrheit zu leben, ✨ warum Ehrlichkeit für deine emotionale Gesundheit so wichtig ist, ✨ wie du gesunde Grenzen in Beziehungen setzt, ✨ wie du die Angst vor Verurteilung und vor dem Verlassenwerden überwindest und ✨ wie du deinen persönlichen Gott findest.  Ich hoffe sehr, dass die Folge mit Elizabeth Gilbert dir den Mut geschenkt hat, alte Erwartungen loszulassen und deiner Wahrheit zu folgen. Was konntest du aus dieser Folge für dich mitnehmen? Hier findest du alle Infos zu Elizabeth Gilbert: #255 Podcast: Du bist der wichtigste Mensch in deinem Leben – Interview Special mit Elizabeth Gilbert Tickets für An Evening with Elizabeth Gilbert in Berlin Am 18.04.2024 um 19:30 wird Elizabeth Gilbert in der Columbiahalle in Berlin sein und du kannst sie persönlich treffen! Der Abend steht ganz unter dem Stern ihres Buches: „BIG MAGIC: Creative Living Beyond Fear”. Liz wird von ihrer persönlichen Heilungsreise erzählen, Einblicke in ihre Schaffensprozesse als Autorin geben und ihre einzigartige Perspektive auf Kreativität und Inspiration mit dir teilen. Pssst… ich werde am Abend auch da sein, um mir ihre wunderschöne Speech anzuhören.  Sichere dir jetzt dein Ticket zum Abend mit Liz Gilbert über den Link in den Shownotes Rock on & Namasté Deine Laura Hinweis: Die bereitgestellten Inhalte dienen ausschließlich Informations- und Bildungszwecken und stellen keinen Ersatz für therapeutische und medizinische Beratung dar. Mehr Informationen findest du hier: https://bit.ly/3RgqgqF  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happyholyconfident/message

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It's the start of a new series, For The Love of Wonderful You! Spring is arriving and as the winter slumber fades away, many of us are likely plunging into a frantic pace of commitments and To Do lists. But we want to take a minute (or approximately 45-mins to an hour) to create a moment where we can punch the brakes a little. Let's tell that inner taskmaster to relax; and instead, reflect on finding value in who we are in this moment, and how worthy we are just as we are.  Jen's amazing conversation partner today is Amanda Doyle. Amanda is many amazing things but you may know her first and foremost as “Sister” on the We Can Do Hard Things Podcast with Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach. She's also part of the leadership team at Together Rising, the amazing non-profit that has raised over $50 million dollars and given it away to people all over the world who need it most. Amanda has been a longtime social justice advocate and she uses that knowledge to break down deep truths and complex social issues in all her conversations. Today, she reminds us that spending the energy to stay vulnerable in our relationships will always pay out. In this episode Jen and Amanda talk about: The struggle to be vulnerable and truly open up versus managing perceptions and staying in control in relationships How Amanda chose sobriety and the surprising clarity that emerged in her marriage, especially during the pandemic Jen's journey to understanding herself and her avoidant tendencies in the aftermath of her divorce The profound impact of the "love letter" exercise guided by Liz Gilbert, where “Love's voice” urged Amanda to stop keeping score in life * * * Thought-Provoking Quotes: “A relationship has to have some equilibrium. The farther you go this way, the more the other person has to go the other way. What I have learned is that no one wants to be in those places.” - Amanda Doyle "What I have recently realized is that many people who either view themselves or are viewed in their relationships as control freaks; actually what they want the most is to not be in control of everything. They feel like they have to be in control of everything, because that is the way that they show their love is by taking care of things. But what they want more than anything else is for someone to step up and be like, 'I got this, I got you. You don't have to be in control of this.'" - Amanda Doyle “You are so fixated on the score of this life, but there is no score except the one in your head. You are exhausting yourself to death, trying to keep a score and figure out where you've won, and figure out where other people have disappointed you and slighted you and not met your expectations. But the score is fiction. We're not being scored." - Amanda Doyle “We think when we're giving up alcohol, we're giving up fun. And that's with good reason. It's like fully marketed--growing up, it's part of the narrative; anything that is fun also includes alcohol. But then I had the enormous blessing of being so close to Abby and Glennon's life and seeing that they were the most fun people with the most delightful, satisfying lives of anyone else I know. And none of that included alcohol." - Amanda Doyle Resources Mentioned in This Episode: We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle For the Love Podcast Episode ft. Glennon Doyle For the Love Podcast Episode ft. Abby Wambach For the Love Podcast Enneagram Threes Episode ft. Lisa Whelchel Untamed by Glennon Doyle We Can Do Hard Thing Episode ft. Liz Gilbert Letters From Love with Liz Gilbert (Substack) For the Love Podcast Episode ft. Sarah Bessey Guest's Links: Together Rising Website Amanda's Twitter Together Rising Facebook Together Rising Instagram Connect with Jen! Jen's website Jen's Instagram Jen's Twitter Jen's Facebook Jen's YouTube  The For the Love Podcast is a production of Four Eyes Media, presented by Audacy.  Four Eyes Media: https://www.iiiimedia.com/ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this beautiful episode, we hear Amanda's incredible breakthrough in quieting her brain, and how she finally heard from Love with the help of Elizabeth Gilbert.   Discover:  The breathtaking and very odd way that Love ultimately showed up for Amanda;   Taylor & Travis's love lesson for Amanda  How to avoid what Liz Gilbert calls “taking a monkey survey” when making important life decisions; The “big thing” we are all missing & how it makes us dissatisfied with everything else; and  How to get your brain and perfectionism to step back so your greater wisdom can speak.  On Liz: Elizabeth Gilbert is author of the international bestseller, EAT PRAY LOVE, which has been translated into over thirty languages, and sold over 12 million copies worldwide. The book became so popular that Time Magazine named Elizabeth as one of the 100 most influential people in the world. In 2010, Elizabeth published a follow-up to EAT PRAY LOVE called COMMITTED—an instant a #1 New York Times Bestseller, as well as BIG MAGIC: CREATIVE LIVING BEYOND FEAR. She is the author of three novels: STERN MEN, THE SIGNATURE OF ALL THINGS, and CITY OF GIRLS. Elizabeth is the creator of the Onward Book Club, which takes place on her Instagram via a live chat, as a way of spotlighting, studying, and celebrating the work of Black women authors. You can also find her on Substack and subscribe to her newsletter: “Letters From Love with Elizabeth Gilbert.” Subscribe here: https://elizabethgilbert.substack.com/  Don't miss Abby and Glennon also sharing their Letters from Love on We Can Do Hard Things episodes 268 and 269:   Elizabeth Gilbert On Her Most Important Daily Practice (Abby)  Glennon Shares Her Love Letter with Liz Gilbert  To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Glennon FINALLY UNDERSTANDS FORGIVENESS! She reads a gorgeous letter about her newfound, hard-earned understanding of forgiveness and it helps us all breathe deeper. What happened when Glennon finally surrendered to the “Letters From Love” experiment.   The dance of forgetting and remembering – a cycle that holds the essence of what's worth living for; How to overcome fear and blocks that get in the way of creative expression; and Liz challenges Amanda to try doing something without being attached to the outcome. About Elizabeth:  Elizabeth Gilbert is author of the international bestseller, EAT PRAY LOVE, which has been translated into over thirty languages, and sold over 12 million copies worldwide. The book became so popular that Time Magazine named Elizabeth as one of the 100 most influential people in the world. In 2010, Elizabeth published a follow-up to EAT PRAY LOVE called COMMITTED—an instant a #1 New York Times Bestseller, as well as BIG MAGIC: CREATIVE LIVING BEYOND FEAR. She is author of two novels: THE SIGNATURE OF ALL THINGS, and CITY OF GIRLS. And she is the creator of the Onward Book Club, which takes place on her Instagram via a live chat, as a way of spotlighting, studying, and celebrating the work of Black women authors.  You can also find her on Substack and subscribe to her newsletter: “Letters From Love with Elizabeth Gilbert”. TW: @GilbertLiz IG: @elizabeth_gilbert_writer To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Liz Gilbert returns to share with us her transformative practice of planning her days and her life by writing two-way letters to love every morning.  Why Liz shaved her head! The unwavering presence that's accompanied Liz her whole life; The concept of "two-way prayer" – and how it can help us find the kindest, wisest version of ourselves. How to find solace and guidance in creating a higher power of your own understanding; and  Abby shares her own letter on self-love and acceptance, a declaration that she will not abandon herself. About Elizabeth:  Elizabeth Gilbert is author of the international bestseller, EAT PRAY LOVE, which has been translated into over thirty languages, and sold over 12 million copies worldwide. The book became so popular that Time Magazine named Elizabeth as one of the 100 most influential people in the world. In 2010, Elizabeth published a follow-up to EAT PRAY LOVE called COMMITTED—an instant a #1 New York Times Bestseller, as well as BIG MAGIC: CREATIVE LIVING BEYOND FEAR. She is author of two novels: THE SIGNATURE OF ALL THINGS, and CITY OF GIRLS. And she is the creator of the Onward Book Club, which takes place on her Instagram via a live chat, as a way of spotlighting, studying, and celebrating the work of Black women authors.  You can also find her on Substack and subscribe to her newsletter: “Letters From Love with Elizabeth Gilbert”. TW: @GilbertLiz IG: @elizabeth_gilbert_writer To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices