Hosts Phil Darke and Ryan North have decades of experience as leaders, husbands, fathers, soccer coaches, players, and referees, and supporters of Manchester United. In this podcast, Phil and Ryan will have conversations with guests from the worlds of leadership and soccer about how we can flourish by examining life and leadership through the lens of the "beautiful game.”
In Episode 173, Phil and Paul discuss their highlights from the second half of HSEL's Season 12, which included Frank Kelly, Sean Miller, Roman Khripunov, and Paul Caliguiri, as well as some other topics they have been pondering lately. You don't want to miss some great leadership nuggets on vulnerability, perseverance, humility, hard work, integrity, and creativity. If you're loving the show (or if you don't love it ; )), please subscribe, give us your feedback, rate and review the show, and, most importantly, continually learn from the show and use it to help you flourish in everything you do. Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training
In Episode 172, Paul Caligiuri, OCFC Manager, US Nat'l Soccer Hall of Famer, Former USMNT defender/midfielder and pro player in US and Germany, one of the first Americans to play professionally in Europe, and the unlikely scorer of the “shot heard ‘round the world,” talks with Phil and Paul about his remarkable journey from a passionate young soccer enthusiast to a defining figure in U.S. soccer history. He also recounts his serendipitous connection with Phil relating to a World War II era family relic, which you don't want to miss, and some moments from his impressive soccer career, highlighting his passion-filled early years in the game, pivotal moments like his unexpected selection for the Olympic Development Program, which led to his USMNT selection, and an intimate moment he shared with God after scoring the “Shot Heard ‘Round the World,” which secured the U.S.'s first World Cup qualification in 40 years in 1990. Caligiuri emphasizes the importance of passion, perseverance, and integrity, their influence on his career, and how these values translate into his everyday life and leadership. Paul also touches on key lessons from sports that can be applied in life, the current state of soccer, and the importance of faith in making a meaningful impact. Specifically, Paul C. discusses: · His providential connection with Phil relating to a WWII relic and including a lot of investigation and perseverance (1:52) · How he developed his passion for soccer from humble beginnings and how he ultimately made the USMNT through a very unusual path filled with hard work, dedication, creativity, overcoming hurdles, “feeding his passion,” and going above and beyond the “normal” (you don't want to miss this story) (5:45) · His life purpose and “Why” and how he is living it out in his life (34:50) · An intimate defining moment after the “shot heard ‘round the world” that might surprise you (36:35) · A special call with his dad that shows how far the game has come in the US (40:48) · Lessons that he has learned from soccer that he uses in his parenting and other important relationships in his life (43:33) · His recommendations (45:21) Resources and Links from this Episode · Paul Caliguiri's website · “The Billion Dollar Goal” (Paramount Plus) · “His goal changed soccer in the USA” (YouTube) · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · “Pulisic” (Paramount Plus) · “Vini Jr.” (Netflix) · “Captains” (Netflix)
In Episode 171, Roman Khripunov, Executive Director of Revival Sport and Facilitator for the North American Sport Movement, talks with Phil and Paul about his incredible journey from Uzbekistan to the United States, navigating the challenges of being a refugee and how he developed his passion for using soccer as a tool for ministry and community building. Roman shares personal stories of coaching, breaking down cultural barriers, and the impact of vulnerability and discipleship. The conversation covers the powerful role of sports in uniting diverse communities, particularly in the context of the upcoming World Cup and Olympic Games. He also talks about the importance of having a short memory, knowing your role, and celebrating small victories. Phil also talks about a loss in his life and the importance of being vulnerable and allowing other people into your life and trials. Specifically, Roman discusses: · His Journey from Uzbekistan to Russia to the US with his family as a 12-year-old refugee, and some important lessons he learned along the way (9:41) · The humble beginnings of Cup of Nations and Revival Sport, and how they were birthed out of a love for the “sojourners” in Houston (19:22) · The plight of refugees and how you can help (23:23) · Roman's life purpose and how he is living it out (28:18) · How Roman when into ministry despite not wanting to (32:27) · The Nations United initiative, why the World Cup and Olympics provide massive opportunities for the Church in the US, Mexico, and Canada, and strategies we all can use to connect with people different from us (35:52) · Defining moments in his soccer journey and the lessons learned from them (47:22) · An important lesson learned through failure (54:18) · Information about the Global and North American Sport Movements (57:38) · How he has used lessons learned from soccer in marriage and parenting (1:00:24) · Recommendations (1:06:33) Resources and Links from this Episode · Revival Sport Website · Global Sport Movement website · North American Sport Movement website · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · “All or Nothing: Manchester City” (Amazon Prime) · Ted Lasso (Apple TV+)
In Episode 170, Sean Miller, founder of Upper 90 HQ, talks with Phil and Paul about his entrepreneurial journey that started with filming soccer games, leading to the creation of his video company that serves soccer teams and players around the US. Sean dives into his personal story, emphasizing how faith and soccer have influenced his leadership and shift in life priorities. He discusses the challenges and opportunities within the US soccer landscape, drawing from his family's extensive involvement in the sport. The discussion also covers Sean's leadership principles, his defining moments in soccer, and how the game has shaped his approach to marriage and parenting. Specifically, Sean discusses: · His story, his passion for soccer, leadership, entrepreneurship, and how he started Upper 90 HQ (6:54) · His personal why/life purpose and how he is living it out (15:43) · How he has used lessons learned in soccer in his business life (20:15) · The power of vulnerability (27:05) · Lessons he has learned from a couple defining moments in his soccer career (33:03) · His thoughts on the current state of soccer in the US, from the youth to professional ranks, from the “Alphabet Soup” to the “Merry-Go-Round” (40:17) · Lessons learned from soccer that he is using in his marriage and parenting (55:28) · His recommendations (57:47) Resources and Links from this Episode · Upper90HQ Website · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · “Adolescence” (Netflix Series) · “The Chosen” · “House of David” · Act Like Be a Man: 9 Ways to Punch Life in the Mouth, Mark Driscoll
In Episode 169, Frank Kelly, CEO of Kelly Benefits, Former Cornell Lacrosse and Football player, and Author of Influence and the Creator's Game, talks with Phil and Paul about his extensive experience in sports, business, leadership, and ministry, and how his faith journey has deeply impacted all facets of his life. Frank shares personal stories from his athletic journey, his involvement with FCA, the concept of playing sports to please the Creator, and how sports can integrate with faith to influence lives for eternity. He also discusses how the principles and lessons learned from sports are applied in his family business, emphasizing the importance of teamwork and values. Listeners will gain insights into using sports to make disciples, developing a mission-driven business, and integrating faith into various aspects of life. Specifically, Frank discusses: · His sports, business, and faith journey (4:00) · A story from his not-so-extensive soccer coaching experience (13:35) · His personal “why” and life purpose, and how he is living it out (17:40) · The story behind his book, Influence and the Creator's Game and the concept of a “Praise Performance” (22:07) · The only thing that matters (27:17) · Impacting lives through lacrosse (29:52) · An incredible story about God's Providence (35:22) · Lessons from lacrosse and other sports that he uses in his business (40:30) · Impactful coaches and mentors in his life (51:35) · Lessons from sport that he has used in his marriage and parenting (54:22) · His recommended books (56:31) Resources and Links from this Episode · Influence and the Creator's Game, Frank Kelly III · Frank Kelly III's website · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · The Hard Hat: 21 Ways to Be a Great Teammate, Jon Gordon · The Secret: How to Live with Purpose and Power, Bill Bright
In Episode 168, Phil and Paul discuss their highlights from the first half of HSEL's Season 12, as well as some personal and professional updates. They talk about their conversations with Wells Thompson, Don Williams, and Brad Kenney, as well as their “Extra Time” episode, delving into topics like vulnerability, what it takes to become a pro athlete, navigating the changing college soccer landscape, prioritizing family values and player development, and the importance of life beyond the game. If you're loving the show (or if you don't love it ; )), please to subscribe, give us your feedback, rate and review the show, and, most importantly, continually learn from the show and use it to help you flourish in everything you do. Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · The Soccer Psalms, Brad Kenney
In Episode 167, we are recasting our interview with Pete Kipley, Founder of Bolta Soccer, Music Producer and Songwriter, in which he talks with Phil about his journey from being a music producer to opening a soccer training facility in Nashville. He discusses the similarities between the music and soccer worlds, emphasizing the importance of mentality, culture, and leadership in both fields. Pete also talks about his philosophy at Bolta, focusing on curating quality trainers, creating opportunities, and connecting players with the right resources. The conversation delves into parenting, motivating young athletes, and the impact of COVID-19 on youth sports. Pete concludes with reflections on the qualities of effective coaches and the far-reaching implications of lessons from soccer on parenting and life. Specifically, he discusses: · His story of how soccer and leadership have influenced his life and how he ended up leaving the music industry to start an indoor facility. · His philosophy at Bolta Soccer and how they are curating, creating, and connecting in their development of trainers and players in their community · How breaking into and advancing in the music industry and the soccer world involve many of the same things · How the college soccer recruiting process prepares athletes for the world outside of soccer · What Pete has learned from the game of soccer as a man who has only recently fallen in love with the beautiful game, particularly what he has learned about the mental side of the game · The dangers and negative impact of parents, coaches, and other leaders micromanaging and pressuring the people they're leading, and why it is critical to foster an environment allowing for a freedom to fail · How to deal with failure and “bad balls” in soccer and life · The importance of teamwork and teammates covering for each other · The common threads that Pete has seen in the best soccer coaches he has worked with in his life · Principles from soccer that he applies in his marriage and parenting in his home (and Pete gets really philosophical on this one) · Resources that Pete recommends to us Resources and Links Mentioned in this Episode Video of this episode Bolta Soccer website Warrior Way Soccer Phil's email for DISC training “All or Nothing: Manchester City” – Amazon Prime “All or Nothing: Tottenham” – Amazon Prime “Ted Lasso” – Apple TV “Take Us Home: Leeds United” – Amazon Prime
In Episode 166 of How Soccer Explains Leadership, hosts Phil Darke and Paul Jobson discuss the intersection of youth soccer, leadership, priorities, and family values. Through personal and professional experience, they address the importance of aligning family priorities with athletic commitments. They emphasize the benefits of learning from losses, balancing sports and family life, and enabling kids to navigate conversations with coaches. The episode also explores the use of video cameras at young ages, impact of extensive travel for youth tournaments, and the pressures on young athletes. Specifically, they discuss: 03:40 Priorities in Youth Sports 07:03 Core family values and their role in commitment decisions 10:11 The role of sports in personal development 14:24 Balancing family and sports commitments 28:02 The importance of losing and learning 29:55 Facing adversity in sports and life 31:01 The importance of team camaraderie 32:42 Is extensive travel in youth sport necessary and advisable? 33:48 Balancing individual and team goals 34:57 Parental involvement and athlete development 39:10 The impact of over-scheduling on youth athletes 49:29 Encouraging self-advocacy in young athletes and relationship nurturing with your young athletes Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training
In Episode 165, Brad Kenney, Founder and Executive Director of Soccer Chaplains United and Colorado Rapids Chaplain, talks with Phil about he has blended his passion for soccer, ministry, and leadership. Brad shares his personal story of his transition from high school soccer player to college videographer to Chaplain for the Colorado Rapids over two decades ago. They dive into Brad's experience in founding Soccer Chaplains United, how he navigates his role as a chaplain with players from diverse cultural and religious backgrounds, and the leadership lessons he has learned along the way. They also discuss Brad's book, 'The Soccer Psalms,' his personal purpose, and his experiences using life lessons from soccer in his marriage and parenting. Additionally, Brad shares insights relating to identity, performance, purpose, and calling from his interactions with players and coaches, emphasizing the importance of holistic care and leadership both on and off the field. Specifically, Brad covers: · 2:20 How he developed his passion for soccer, leadership, and ministry, and how he ended up as a Chaplain for the Colorado Rapids · 12:41 His personal why and how he is living it out · 19:25 Navigating Different Faiths, Cultures, and Backgrounds as a MLS Chaplain · 23:51 Performance vs. Purpose vs. Calling Identity · 32:15 Succession in Leadership · 36:42 His defining moment in his soccer career and what leadership lessons he has learned from them · 43:27 Why he wrote The Soccer Psalms and what he hopes people will take from it · 49:12 Soccer Psalm 133 and a cool story about the night before the Rapids' 2010 MLS Cup Victory · 59:28 Great lessons he has learned from his soccer career that he has used in his marriage, parenting, and other relationships, including a “Stretcher Crew,” the “Crow's Nest,” and your “Starting 11” · 01:05:00 His recommendations Resources and Links from this Episode · The Soccer Psalms, Brad Kenney · Soccer Chaplains United Website · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Cloud and Townsend website · Patrick Lencioni (The Table Group) website
In Episode 164, we have another great interview with Don Williams, SRUSA Head of Operations for the Americas and former college coach at every level. He talks with Paul and Phil about modern trends impacting youth soccer and college recruitment. They explore the implications of the transfer portal, the challenges and opportunities related to international player recruitment, and how these transformations affect high school and club soccer. Williams shares his experiences with helping players navigate the complexities of college soccer aspirations and emphasizes the importance of intrinsic motivation and appropriate fit over superficial labels. Issues such as NIL (name, image, likeness) and the potential changes in college sports dynamics are also addressed. Specifically, they cover: · 05:38 What Don's been up to since the last time we had him on HSEL · 06:51 Transfer Portal and College Soccer Landscape · 21:44 Intrinsic Motivation in Soccer · 27:35 Changes in Youth and College Soccer · 38:35 The Impact of Adult Expectations on Youth Sports · 39:46 The Pursuit of Status and Its Emotional Toll · 41:18 Finding the Right Fit · 42:39 Balancing Competition and Enjoyment · 46:21 The College Soccer Dilemma · 54:55 The Role of International Players in College Soccer · 01:08:13 Future Trends and Challenges in College Sports Resources and Links from this Episode · SRUSA Website · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training
In Episode 163, we are kicking off Season 12 with a conversation with Wells Thompson, Former MLS midfielder and 1st Round Draft Pick, Co-Founder of Soccer Resilience, husband, and father. He talked with Paul and Phil about his journey from childhood adversity to the MLS, his struggles with identity and mental health, his faith journey and his personal why relating to that journey, his difficulties transitioning to life after soccer, why left Soccer Resilience after founding and leading it for a few years, and a lot of wisdom regarding true leadership. They also discuss how soccer and other sports are incredible classrooms, and how he is learning deep life lessons every single day as a stay-at-home dad, husband, and father of athletes. The interview is full of vulnerable moments, personal stories, and practical advice. Specifically, they discuss: · How Wells developed his passion for soccer, leadership, faith in God, and how he went from rolling with the wrong crowd, getting into drugs, and not being recruited to college to playing for Wake Forest and getting drafted 5th in the MLS Draft (7:30) · Lessons he learned in his pro career (16:10) · His transition to life after soccer (19:51) · His personal why, vulnerability as a superpower, and how he is living out his life purpose (26:58) · The revelation that caused him to leave Soccer Resilience (31:44) · How Soccer Resilience got started, some of the great things coming out of it, and how starting/running a business is like working to be a pro soccer player (and a couple great quotes from Nelson Mandela and Billy Graham) (35:39) · How he went from not making ODP to playing professional soccer, how that is relevant to the parenting of his kids while they are playing sports, and what we can learn from his journey (42:39) · Balancing pushing our kids to be the best they can be and learning life lessons from sports without getting too involved (especially at the wrong time or place) and/or forcing them to play sports they don't want to play (51:11) · What actually goes into being a pro athlete (54:30) · What he didn't learn as a pro athlete (hint: it is very relevant to this podcast) (56:25) · Leadership from the bench (1:00:26) · Lessons that he has learned from the game that he uses in his marriage and parenting (1:03:31) · What he has watched, read, or listened to that has impacted his thinking on how soccer explains life and leadership (1:06:58) Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Wrestling with Angels: A True Story of Addiction, Resurrection, Hope, Fashion, Training Celebrities, and Man's Oldest Sport, John Hanrahan · Main Street Millionaire: How to Make Extraordinary Wealth Buying Ordinary Businesses, Codie Sanchez
In Episode 162, Paul and Phil have a great conversation about their 2024 highlights, including their favorite ministry and family moments, as well as the most impactful books, movies, podcasts, and HSEL episodes they have enjoyed this year. They also discuss the current youth and college soccer landscape, particularly how we can make it more about the kids and young adults playing the game. No doubt you will learn a lot from this conversation and have fun in the process. Resources and Links from this Episode Video of the Episode HSEL Facebook Group Warrior Way Soccer Coaching the Bigger Game Program Phil's email for DISC Training Veritas: 7 Truths that Lead to a Purposeful Life, Ali Malaekeh Help to Keep HSEL Going! If this podcast is helping you and others in your life, you can help us continue producing great content by donating to HSEL with a one-time or monthly gift at providenceworld.com. Want to Grow as a Leader in 2025? If you're looking to deepen your leadership and coaching skills beyond the Xs and Os, join our next cohort of Coaching the Bigger Game. Spots are limited, so click here to learn more and sign up. Get Involved with the Warrior Way! Check out The Warrior Way and discover how you can get involved in this incredible ministry Paul and Marci Jobson started in Waco, TX. Click here for more information. We Want to Hear From You! What are your favorite How Soccer Explains Leadership moments from 2024, which guests would you like to see on the show, and what would you like Paul and Phil to discuss on the show? Email Phil at phil@howsoccerexplainsleadership.com or share in the HSEL Facebook Group. We'd also appreciate it if you'd rate and review the show, subscribe to the show, and share it with others who you think would benefit from the incredible guests we have on HSEL.
In Episode 161, we are wrapping up 2024 with our top 13 highlights (plus a bonus clip as our gift to you) from each of our interviews this year. As we step into 2025, we're showcasing powerful takeaways from our guests, which highlight key principles of leadership that transcend soccer and apply to every area of our lives. There is even more wisdom packed into the full interviews, so be sure to check them out at howsoccerexplainsleadership.com or wherever you listen to your podcasts. Clips Featured in This Episode: David Irby – “Bringing Hope” Todd Yelton – “Closer to God” Jessica Hain – “Empathy and Soccer IQ” Brock Thompson – “Specificity in Praise” Randy Waldrum – “Get the Buy-In” Lang Wedemeyer – “Some Things Never Change” The NCAA Settlement Show – “Professional Collegiate Athletes” Ali Malaekeh – “Integrity and Kintsugi” Schellas Hyndman – “Lead Without Starting” Ruth Brennan Morrey – “Unstructured Free Play” Lance VanHaitsma – “Reset Button” Lincoln Phillips – “Mirror of Life” Paul Gizzi – “Becoming Lesser” BONUS – David Irby – “Soccer is Life” Help to Keep HSEL Going! If this podcast is helping you and others in your life, you can help us continue producing great content by donating to HSEL with a year-end or monthly gift at providenceworld.com. Want to Grow as a Leader in 2025? If you're looking to deepen your leadership and coaching skills beyond the Xs and Os, join our next cohort of Coaching the Bigger Game. Spots are limited, so click here to learn more and sign up. Get Involved with the Warrior Way! Check out The Warrior Way and discover how you can get involved in this incredible ministry Paul and Marci Jobson started in Waco, TX. Click here for more information. We Want to Hear From You! What are your favorite How Soccer Explains Leadership moments from 2024? Email Phil at phil@howsoccerexplainsleadership.com or share in the HSEL Facebook Group. We'd also appreciate it if you'd rate and review the show, subscribe to the show, and share it with others who you think would benefit from the incredible guests we have on HSEL. Thank you for being a part of the HSEL community – here's to another year of learning, leading, and growing through the beautiful game! Resources and Links from this Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Make a Donation to Keep HSEL Going (Providence World) · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Veritas: 7 Truths that Lead to a Purposeful Life, Ali Malaekeh · “Redemption Song” (YouTube)
In Episode 160, we are recasting our interview with Peter Greer, President/CEO of HOPE International and former Messiah College footballer, who talked with Paul and Phil about his path from Messiah College to alleviating poverty with Hope International, how he built in accountability to ensure that he puts his family first, why it is so important to be grateful for everything and entitled to nothing, some of the great lessons he learned from his coaches and teammates at Messiah, how he is using those lessons in his collaborative work with Hope, the need for us to be kind to referees (and why it matters), why we need more grace and less judgment in our sports and the rest of the world, team vs. individual, rooting for our rivals, not settling for mediocrity, and much more. Specifically, Peter discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer and leadership, and how he got to be where he is today (4:13) · His work with HOPE Int'l and how HOPE is working to alleviate poverty around the world (7:14) · His personal why/mission statement and how he is living it out (11:13) · Why his wife has Peter's resignation letter from Hope Int'l and what he is doing to ensure she doesn't send it (13:45) · The Messiah Method and how Peter's experienced it and lived it out during his college years and beyond (17:47) · How he saw the Messiah program building toward the run of National Championships while he was playing there (22:38) · How he is using the lessons he learned at Messiah in his work with HOPE Int'l (26:13) · How he uses lessons learned from soccer in his collaborative projects around the world (33:01) · A couple soccer analogies that Peter uses in his life regularly (37:12) · Why we need more grace than judgment in our world – and yes, that includes with referees (40:37) · Defining moments in his life and how they impacted his life and leadership (44:55) · Some of the great coaches he has played for and a couple whose leadership stick out above the rest, and what he learned from those great coaches (50:17) · His thoughts on the current state of US Soccer, and what we can do about it (55:26) · How he has used lessons learned from sports in his marriage and parenting (1:01:31) · His podcast recommendation (1:03:30) Resources and Links from this Episode · HOPE International Website · Rooting for Rivals: How Collaboration and Generosity Increase the Impact of Leaders, Charities, and Churches, by Peter Greer · The Messiah Method: The Seven Disciplines of the Winningest College Soccer Program in America, by Michael Zigarelli · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training
In Episode 159, we are recasting our conversation with Steven Axtell, Head Coach of Cortland University Men's Soccer, former Cortland goalkeeper, husband, and father, when we talked about lessons learned from his playing and coaching career, leadership lessons gleaned from his coaches, his thoughts on playing multiple sports, how he is using lessons from the game in his family, why he doesn't think superior tactics and strategy are a critical part of a successful program, and how his leadership and culture development at Cortland has helped his players and program to flourish. Specifically, Steve discusses: · His personal story, how he developed her passion for soccer, leadership, and coaching and how he got to be where he is today (5:00) · His thoughts on the benefits and downside of specialization in one sport (9:20) · His personal why and life purpose and how he lives it out each day (15:07) · Some defining moments in his playing career and what he learned from them (19:31) · Key life and leadership lessons he learned from his soccer coaches over the course of his playing career (23:40) · His philosophy on leadership and culture, what he taught about it in his presentation at the USC Convention, and why it is important to us (30:00) · The importance of self-leadership, and how he is teaching it to his staff and players (36:21) · How to successfully nurture healthy culture over time (41:33) · How and why he has his players evaluate each other on character qualities (44:19) · How he has used lessons learned from the game in his parenting and marriage (47:55) · His book and podcast recommendations (56:31) Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Anti-Fragile: Things that Gain from Disorder, by Nassim Nicholas Taleh · Jocko Podcast
In Episode 158, we are re-casting our conversation with Don Williams, Head of Operations for the Americas for Sports Recruiting USA and former coach at all levels of soccer, who talked with Phil about the #1 tool college coaches use to find recruits, how soccer players can find the “right fit,” the recruiting implications of the small world of college and pro soccer, “punching coaches in the nose” with player emails and videos, and real-world lessons kids can learn through the recruiting process. Specifically, Don discusses: · His story and how he developed his passion for soccer, leadership, and his long journey to SRUSA Soccer (3:31) · How Don's work with SRUSA is similar to his work as a coach of soccer teams at all levels (7:19) · The need for players to have both raw athleticism and passion for the sport to play at the college level and beyond (13:06) · The importance of soccer players finding the “right fit” and how they can do so (18:00) · Why creating and knowing your budget is critical in the recruiting process (25:53) · Selling yourself and not burying the lead in your videos, emails, and other recruiting communications with prospective colleges (and employers) (34:53) · The importance of “punching someone in the nose” in the recruiting process (39:17) · How to make videos on a tight budget (42:58) · Making the kids put in the work with their videos, emails, and other areas of the recruiting process (45:33) · The small world of college and pro soccer, and how it relates to the world outside the game (46:58) · The #1 tool that college coaches use to find recruits (51:46) · What most coaches are looking for when they recruit at tournaments and showcases (57:08) · Showing the colleges (or employer) that you've done your homework on them and that you know why you think it's the right fit for you (1:01:44) · Real world lessons kids can learn during the recruiting process (1:05:50) · How to grab a coach's attention in a subject line and email (1:08:56) · How Don is using lessons learned in soccer in his life outside the game (1:12:22) · Don's book recommendations Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group – https://www.facebook.com/groups/howsoccerexplainsleadership · Don's Twitter handle -- @Don_K_Williams · SRUSA Website -- https://www.sportsrecruitingusa.com · How Soccer Explains the World, by Franklin Foer · Inside Out Coaching, by Joe Ehrmann · 10% Happier, by Dan Harris · Inside College Soccer Podcast -- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/inside-college-soccer/id1480369430
In Episode 157, we are recasting our interview with Margueritte Aozasa, UCLA Women's Soccer Head Coach, former Stanford Women's Soccer Assistant Coach, and former Santa Clara University Defender/Midfielder, who talked with us about her incredible first season at UCLA, during which she became the first coach to win a National Championship in her first year as a head coach, what mission and personal “why” drives her to do what she does, building trust with her team, healthy conflict prevention and resolution, how her and her husband “coach” each other, what she was thinking in the final minutes of the National Championship game, whether college soccer has a place in professional and national team player development, and a whole lot of great leadership nuggets. No doubt you'll love this fun conversation with an incredible coach! Specifically, Margueritte discusses: · Her personal story, including how she grew her passion for soccer, coaching, and leadership, and how she got to be where she is today (5:40) · Her transition from Stanford assistant coach to UCLA head coach, and the lessons we can learn from her journey (9:29) · The importance of head coaches mentoring their assistants to flourish in their program and beyond (13:35) · Her personal why/mission statement and how she is living it out (18:43) · How she leads herself and pours into her players' leadership development as a head coach (20:49) · A couple defining moments in her life and how they impacted her development (24:00) · A few coaches that deeply impacted her life, what set them apart, and what life and leadership lessons we can learn from them (30:57) · How she keeps a team full of top players content and at their best when they aren't playing, or even making the travel squad (38:16) · How she builds trust between her and her staff and players, and among the players (42:15) · How to deal with conflict before it gets out of hand and starts impacting the players and team (45:42) · The highs and lows of the current state of soccer in the US (48:35) · The place for the college game in the development of players at the professional and national team levels (53:00) · What she was actually thinking during the final minute of regulation of the National Championship game last year (it just might surprise you) (1:01:28) · How she has used lessons learned from sports in her marriage and other relationships (1:05:50) · A couple great book recommendations (1:10:01) Resources and Links from this Episode · Margueritte on Twitter - @margaozasa · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Net Gains: Inside the Beautiful Game's Analytics Revolution, by Ryan O'Hanlon · Quiet Leadership: Winning Hearts, Minds, and Matches, by Carlo Ancelotti
In Episode 156, we are recasting our episode with David Ricca, NJ Youth Soccer Innovate to Grow Consultant, Founder/President of Just Live Soccer, 9/11 Survivor, Soccer Resilience Ambassador, Member of 2010 World Cup Media & Marketing team, former soccer player, coach, and scout, former MLS Liaison, former CBS Manager, and former Morgan Stanley Financial Advisor, who talked with Phil about how he has used soccer and other tools to overcome the PTSD he has experienced following the traumatic experience he had in Tower Two of the World Trade Center on 9/11, how he is using soccer to help vulnerable children around the world, his innovation work with NJ Youth Soccer, and how we can create environments where our kids can flourish. Specifically, David discusses: · His story, his unique background, how he developed his passion for soccer, his work with vulnerable communities, and how he got to where he is today · His incredible story of survival in Tower 2 of the World Trade Center on 9/11 · How he has overcome trauma from his 9/11 experience using soccer and other tools · His personal why and how he is living it out · His work with NJ Youth Soccer and the Innovate to Grow grant · How we can create environments for our children to flourish in our youth soccer programs · How he uses the lessons he has learned through soccer in his marriage · His recommendations Resources and Links from this Episode · David's website & LinkedIn profile · Just Live Soccer website · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Coaching the Bigger Game information · Warrior Way information · Phil Darke's email address
In Episode 155, we are recasting one of our favorite interview of all time, going back to last year when Phil and Paul interviewed Graham Daniels, Ph.D., Director of Cambridge United, Director of Christians in Sport, and former player for Cambridge United and Cardiff City, about the “Pray, Play, Say” discipleship/leadership method, his personal why, his incredible testimony of how he came to his faith in Jesus Christ and how one pivotal moment changed the course of his life forever, the critical importance of a Christian identity in elite football, achieved vs. received identity, Service vs. Survival, humility, and a leader who he respects deeply. Specifically, Graham discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for football, coaching, ministry, and leadership, and how he got to be where he is today · An incredible story about how he came to his Christian faith, despite one of the “worst evangelists” of all time · His personal why/mission statement and how he is living it out · Achieved identity vs. Received identity - Identity formation and his Ph.D. thesis on the necessity of Christian identity in dealing with performance requirements of elite football · Three things that provide a framework for ministry in sports · Safe to serve, not scared and surviving · A defining moment in his life and how it impacted his development · A leader that sticks out above the rest to him (A Premier League Manager that may surprise you) · How he has used lessons learned from sports in his marriage and parenting · His recommendations Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Humility, by Andrew Murray · Ted Lasso (Apple TV+)
In Episode 154, we are recasting our episode with Dan Abrahams, Sports Psychologist, best-selling author of four books, Founder of the Dan Abrahams Soccer Academy and The Sport Psych Show Podcast, and former pro golfer, who talks with Phil about his sports psychology work, his books, and his podcast, the concepts of “Teamship” and motivational climate, extrinsic vs. intrinsic motivation, pre-failing, self-leadership, his personal why, how we can coach difficult players by asking great questions, and whether we can recreate the pressure of a penalty kick outside of a match. Specifically, Dan discusses: · His story, his work with Premier League and other football/soccer teams, his books, his podcast, how he developed his passion for soccer and leadership, and how he got to where he is today (3:31) · What excites him about the increase of awareness of the importance of mindset and sports psychology in sports over the past several years (13:53) · In which sport the mental game is more important: soccer or golf (20:04) · The concept of “Teamship” and why it is important (26:49) · The Motivational Climate of a Team, what it is, and what it has to do with a team's culture and burnout (30:13) · Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Motivation, get-to vs. have-to mentality, and how they are related to short- and long-term performance (43:07) · The concept of pre-failing (49:01) · Why self-leadership and a leader's mindset are important (53:13) · His personal why and how it is playing out in his life (59:05) · “Not” coaching difficult players, but teaching them to coach themselves through questions (1:01:23) · How personality styles are related to the sports psychology work (1:05:45) · Whether it is possible to recreate the pressure of a penalty kick in a training environment (1:09:31) · How he uses lessons learned in soccer in his family relationships (1:14:16) · His recommendation, which is very personal to him (1:15:44) Resources and Links from this Episode Dan's Website The Sport Psych Show Podcast Uncut Video of the Episode HSEL Facebook Group Coaching the Bigger Game information Warrior Way information Phil Darke's email address Soccer Tough: Simple Football Psychology Techniques to Improve Your Game, by Dan Abrahams Soccer Tough 2: Advanced Psychology Techniques for Footballers, by Dan Abrahams Soccer Brain: The 4C Coaching Model for Developing World Class Player Mindsets and a Winning Football Team, by Dan Abrahams Golf Tough: Practice, Prepare, Perform, and Progress, by Dan Abrahams The Inner Game of Tennis: The Classic Guide to the Mental Side of Peak Performance, by W. Timothy Gallwey
In Episode 153, we are going way back to the first half of our first season and recasting one of our most impactful and most downloaded interviews. In this conversation, Eric Pfeiffer, Founder and Senior Consultant of MPWR Coaching and Collegiate Soccer Player, talks with Phil about emotional intelligence, dealing with insecurities, self-love, permission to fail, the journey of growth, conflict resolution, and much more. Specifically, he discusses: · His story and how his experience playing soccer intersects with other areas of his life and leadership (3:25) · Emotional intelligence and why it is critical to success in soccer and leading others in any area of life (7:36) · How coaching sports organizations is the same as coaching any other organizations (9:47) · Insecurities, how they affect us in soccer and other areas of life, and how we can overcome them in sport and life (14:01) · How self-love is different from narcissism and why the distinction is important to understand (19:06) · Permission to fail and why it's necessary to learn how to embrace failure and fail forward (22:21) · How insecurities and emotional unintelligence manifest themselves in our lives (and on the soccer pitch) and why overcoming them is essential to flourishing in life (25:19) · The journey of growth and phases of development for anything worth doing (30:18) · Creating a culture that celebrates healthy failure (33:27) · What soccer teaches us about conflict resolution and how we can work through conflict together in a healthy way (42:09) · How he uses the lessons he learned from soccer in his marriage and parenting (48:39) · His recommendation of a book that impacted his thinking of the intersection of soccer, life, and leadership (53:34) Resources and Links from this Episode · Audio with subtitles available on our YouTube channel (video not available due to technical difficulties) · MPWR Coaching website · Eric Pfeiffer on LinkedIn · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Providence World (to financially support HSEL) · Das Reboot: How German Football Reinvented Itself and Conquered the World, by Raphael Honigstein
In Episode 152, we are recasting our episode with Keeley Hagen, Colorado State Head Coach, former assistant coach at University of Texas and University of Tennessee, former USWNT, Sky Blue FC, and Atlanta Beat player, 3-time All-American defender at University of Tennessee, and wife, in which she talks with Phil and Paul about what drives her to lead her players with excellence, lessons learned from her playing and coaching career, leadership lessons gleaned from her most influential coach and from her teammates, how she is using lessons from the game in her marriage, how she is using DISC in her coaching at CSU, how she overcame injuries throughout her career, and which Jobson she most fears on the field. Specifically, Keeley discusses: · Her personal story, how he developed her passion for soccer, leadership, and coaching and how she got to be where he is today (5:55) · What is was like to coach against the legend, Paul Jobson, and who is the most intimidating presence in the Jobson household (9:38) · Her personal why and life purpose and how she lives it out each day (12:21) · The DISC training Phil did with her CSU team last summer, how she is using it with her team, and why she thinks it is important for coaches to understand it and use it with their teams (14:28) · Some defining moments in her playing career and what she learned from them (19:54) · How she navigates shying away from adversity and injuries when we know how much our kids learn from overcoming adversity (23:31) · What her injuries taught her about life and her identity (26:45) · Her message to people going through injury recovery (29:03) · Her most influential coach and the life and leadership lessons learned from her (30:10) · Her advice to young assistant coaches in the college ranks (34:34) · Things she is using as a head coach that she only learned because she was an assistant first (38:17) · Players she played with that had the greatest impact on her, and what she learned from them (42:40) · How she has used lessons learned from the game in her marriage (45:48) · Her book recommendations (49:57) Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Chop Wood, Carry Water: How to Fall in Love with the Process of Becoming Great, by Joshua Medcalf · Win in the Dark: Some think you shine under the bright lights, the bright lights only reveal your work in the dark, by Joshua Medcalf and Lucas Jadin
In Episode 151, Phil and Paul discuss the key moments and leadership lessons from Season 11, reflecting on impactful conversations with guests like Todd Yelton, Lance VanHaitsma, Paul Gizzi, and Jessica Hain, as well as impactful topics such as overcoming personal tragedies, insights from a referee's perspective, the importance of empathy in leadership, and the implications of the recent NCAA settlement and roster size limits on college soccer. The episode also highlights personal updates from both hosts, including summer activities, family milestones, and upcoming projects. Resources and Links from this Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · “10 Things to Know About the NCAA's House Settlement,” Kristi Dosh
In Episode 150, Jessica Hain, Founder of The Fulcrum Center and former Head Coach of Liberty University Women's Soccer, mother, and wife, talks with Phil and Paul about insights from coaching at the collegiate level to international experiences, the significance of faith integration in coaching, and the importance of building trust and relationships within teams. She talks about personal stories of impactful moments and practical advice for coaches looking to make disciples through their coaching. Additionally, Jessica discusses her research, experiences, and how soccer can serve as a tool for personal and spiritual development. Specifically, Jessica discusses: · Her story and athletic journey, including how she developed her faith and her passion for soccer, leadership, coaching (3:48) · Her personal why/life purpose and how she is living it out (11:50) · The importance of women coaching women (12:55) · Her work with the Fulcrum Center and North American Sport Movement, her Ph.D., and how they all work together (18:58) · The integration of faith and coaching (23:43) · The need for the “coffee shop” and the “library” in our coaching (28:08) · The relationship between empathy and Soccer IQ (32:38) · The importance of a training environment that reinforces the lessons you want your players to learn and live out (37:44) · Defining Moments in her soccer career and the life lessons she learned from them (41:29) · Her most impactful coach and what set him apart from the rest (44:15) · A life and leadership lesson she learned directly from playing the beautiful game (49:48) · Things she has read that impacted her thinking on how soccer explains life and leadership (50:53) Resources and Links from this Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · The Talent Code: Greatness Isn't Born. It's Grown. Here's How, Daniel Coyle · The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups, Daniel Coyle
In Episode 149, Phil and Paul change it up a bit and dive into the recent NCAA settlement related to NIL (Name, Image, Likeness) and its far-reaching implications for college sports. They discuss how the $2.7 billion settlement will impact various stakeholders, including current and future student-athletes, coaches, and universities. The conversation covers a wide range of topics, including potential cuts to non-revenue men's sports, Title IX implications, the involvement of private equity firms, and the broader effects on lower divisions and high school sports. They stress the importance of understanding these changes and preparing for the evolving landscape of college athletics. Specifically, Phil and Paul discuss: · An overview of the game-changing NCAA Settlement (4:22) · Implications of the settlement on College Sports in general (7:12) · Impact of the settlement on Men's Non-Revenue Sports (15:49) · How, if at all, Title IX is implicated, whether the settlement's payouts are covered by the statute, and why Paul and Phil believe the execution of the settlement will involve much more litigation (21:31) · Other positions that likely will be required at universities, such as financial advisors, to help the student-athletes navigate these issues (35:55) · How the settlement and NIL will impact the Olympics and the athletes' amateur status (37:09) · How will this settlement and NIL impact High School Athletes (40:17) Resources and Links from this Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · “10 Things to Know About the NCAA's House Settlement,” Kristi Dosh
In Episode 148, Paul Gizzi, So Cal Eagles' Director of Advancement and Japan Ministries, talks with Phil and Paul about his decades-long leadership and ministry journey involving the beautiful game and lessons learned along the way, the importance of playing multiple sports in childhood, cross-cultural lessons learned growing up in Japan, what drives him to do what he does, a defining moment that taught him a very important lesson, important advice to coaches at all levels, and deep, funny, and important stories from his book, God's Fingerprints in Coincidence, and much more. Specifically, Paul discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, ministry, and coaching (3:48) · The importance of playing multiple sports during childhood (11:01) · Things he learned growing up in Japan that he might not have learned growing up in the US (14:00) · How he ended up with the Orange County Seahorses (now So Cal Eagles) (15:58) · His personal why/life purpose and how he is living it out (21:18) · His work with the Seahorses and a book that changed his life (25:56) · Advice to coaches about how they can incorporate their faith into their coaching (31:32) · Some stories from his book, God's Fingerprints in Coincidence, the stories behind the stories, and why he wrote it (40:29) · A defining moment in his playing career and the life lessons he learned from it (57:10) · How he has used lessons learned from the beautiful game in his marriage and parenting (1:00:19) · His recommendations (1:02:43) Resources and Links from this Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Seasons of Life: A Football Star, A Boy, A Journey to Manhood, Jeffrey Marx · Ordering Your Private World, Gordon MacDonald · HSEL Eric Pfeiffer Episode
In Episode 147, Lance VanHaitsma, CONCACAF's Refereeing Technical and Development Manager, former Int'l Futsal Referee, and former Big 12 Referee, talks with Phil and Paul about his story and how he worked up the ranks of refereeing, life and leadership lessons learned from refereeing, the importance of resetting after mistakes and how Lance did it, the law vs. spirit of the law, his thoughts on VAR and its impact on the game, referee abuse and why it is critical that we figure out how to stop it, the importance of players learning the laws of the game (and refereeing), and much more. Specifically, Lance discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, and refereeing, and how he ended up in leadership of CONCACAF (4:58) · His personal why/life purpose and how he is living it out (16:33) · The life and leadership lessons he has learned as a soccer and futsal referee, including perspective and enjoying the journey (22:44) · The difference between the law and spirit of the law, and what separates good referees from great referees (31:56) · How we can work to ensure referees don't compound mistakes with make-up calls (36:27) · Some of Lance's tricks he used when he was a referee and some great leadership advice (42:37) · His thoughts on VAR, its impact on the game and refereeing, and its impact on life outside the game (46:55) · Referee abuse, why he believes abuse has increased over the past few years around the world, and an analogy that will definitely make you think (54:52) · How he is using lessons learned from the beautiful game in his marriage (1:06:56) · His recommendations (1:10:58) Resources and Links from this Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · “The Dynasty: New England Patriots” (Apple TV+) · “Tom Brady, Leadership Lessons” (The Consello Group) · HSEL Brad Miller Episode
In Episode 146, Todd Yelton, Samford University Women's Soccer Head Coach, husband, and father, talks with Phil and Paul about his ministry and coaching journey and lessons he has learned along the way, how his wife's death transformed him and his coaching, lessons learned on his team's mission trip to Costa Rica, the integration of faith and coaching, how he uses lessons learned from the game in his life outside the game, and much more. Specifically, Todd discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, and coaching, and how he ended up coaching at Samford University over the past couple decades (5:41) · How the death of his first wife changed his perspective on life and transformed his coaching (13:24) · His personal why/life purpose and how he is living it out today (23:10) · His trip to Costa Rica with his team, Paul, and Warrior Way, and the lessons he and his team learned from the trip (33:35) · How he incorporates his faith into his coaching and how it impacts his teams' culture (46:54) · How he is using lessons learned from the beautiful game in his marriage and parenting (59:22) · His recommendations (1:05:43) Resources and Links from this Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Quiet Strength: The Principles, Practices, and Priorities of a Winning Life, Tony Dungy · Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience, and Redemption, Laura Hillenbrand · Same Kind of Different as Me: A Modern-Day Slave, an International Art Dealer, and the Unlikely Woman Who Bound Them Together, Ron Hall & Denver Moore
In Episode 145, Paul and Phil cover their favorite moments from the first half of Season 11, which included some great nuggets of wisdom from incredible coaches and leaders and unforgettable stories that you do not want to miss. Paul talks about his recent trip to Costa Rica with Warrior Way, Samford Women's Soccer Team, and its coach who happens to be our next guest kicking off Season 11's second half, Phil shares about some great upcoming opportunities, and Phil recommends a great new soccer movie that you'll want to check out. Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World website · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · “The Beautiful Game” (Netflix)
In Episode 144, Lang Wedemeyer, Head Coach of Liberty University Women's Soccer, husband, and father, talks with Phil and Paul about his ministry and coaching journey and lessons he has learned along the way, the challenges of transitioning a program from D-1 to D-2, how he is a better coach because of an ill-timed injury, the transfer portal, the importance of mentorship and how Iron Chats are helping coaches, how his faith impacts his coaching, culture building, great lessons from great coaches, a bunch of great book recommendations, and much more. Specifically, Lang discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, and coaching, and how he ended up coaching at Liberty University (1:46) · Lessons learned from his transition from Division 2 to Division 1 while coaching at South Dakota State (5:23) · How the transfer portal is changing the game (9:38) · His personal why/life purpose and how he is living it out today (11:41) · The importance of mentorship and how Iron Chats are helping coaches lead better and connect with mentors/mentees (14:25) · A couple things he wishes he knew when he started coaching a couple decades ago (20:54) · How his faith has impacted his coaching and how he has incorporated his faith into his coaching at both a secular and Christian school (24:39) · Establishing and maintaining healthy cultures in your teams (29:46) · Coaching the different generations over the years (34:35) · His defining moment as a player and life lessons he learned from it (39:25) · His most influential coaches and how he is using the lessons learned from them in his life today (45:52) · His thoughts on the good and bad of US soccer, and how lessons learned in Liberia can help soccer in the US (53:23) · How he is using lessons learned from the beautiful game in his relationships outside the game (1:05:22) · His recommendations (1:10:40) Resources and Links from this Episode · Iron Chats · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Craig Groeschel Leadership Podcast · Positive University Podcast · The Ed Mylett Podcast · Win the Day: 7 Daily Habits to Help You Stress Less & Accomplish More, Mark Batterson · The Christian Athlete: Glorifying God in Sports, Brian Smith · Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, Angela Duckworth · Inside Out Coaching: How Sports Can Transform Lives, Joe Ehrmann · Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex, John Gray · High Altitude Leadership: What the World's Most Forbidding Peaks Teach Us About Success, Chris Warner · The Vision of a Champion: Advice and Inspiration from the World's Most Successful Women's Soccer Coach, Anson Dorrance & Gloria Averbuch
In Episode 143, David Irby, CEO of Surge Int'l, Former Azusa Pacific University Head Coach, Author of Undefeated: We are More Than Conquerors Through Him Who Loved Us, Sammy Surge, and Sports Ministry, husband, and father, talks with Phil and Paul about his ministry and coaching journey and lessons he has learned along the way, how soccer connects the world, the importance of baby steps and doing hard things in hard places, some insane stories from his adventures, the power of Christ, his books, winning and fair play, the power of moments, great lessons from great coaches, what he learned in Liberia that can help US Soccer, and much more. Specifically, David discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, ministry, and coaching, and how he ended up being one of the pioneers of soccer ministry and visiting much of the world over the past few decades (4:10) · His personal why/life purpose and how he is living it out today (12:07) · His ministry journey and the different ministries he has worked with and is working with around the world, including some crazy experiences that no doubt will teach you some important lessons (15:54) · The importance of doing things without worrying about the impact that we actually see (24:30) · Why he wrote his books and how he hopes they will affect his readers' lives (29:35) · How he incorporates his faith into his coaching and how it impacts his teams' culture (38:40) · His defining moment as a player and life lessons he learned from it (46:08) · His most influential coaches and how he is using the lessons learned from them in his life today (49:42) · His thoughts on the good and bad of US soccer, and how lessons learned in Liberia can help soccer in the US (55:41) · How he is using lessons learned from the beautiful game in his relationships outside the game (1:00:33) · His recommendations, including a one close to home (1:05:21) Resources and Links from this Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Undefeated: We are More Than Conquerors Through Him Who Loved Us, David Irby · Sammy Surge: Study Hard, Play Fair, Help Others, David Irby · Sports Ministry, David Irby · The Leadership Secrets of Billy Graham, Harold Myra and Marshall Shelley
In Episode 142, Brock Thompson, South Dakota State Head Coach and 2024 FCA Layton Shoemaker Award winner, talks with Phil and Paul about his coaching journey and lessons he has learned along the way, how he incorporates his faith into his coaching and how he does it in a secular school, the origin of the word, “Coach,” aligning priorities with faith, our need for accountability, the importance of belief, authenticity and vulnerability, how what makes America a great country negatively affects youth soccer, the power of “I don't know,” and much more. Specifically, Brock discusses: · His personal story and coaching journey, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, and coaching, and what he is doing in retirement how he ended up at South Dakota State (5:41) · How his coaching stint at North Dakota is a big part of his faith journey (8:47) · His personal why/life purpose and how he is living it out today (14:37) · How he incorporates his faith into his coaching (18:53) · Living out faith as a coach in a secular school (23:10) · What his faith has to do with his team's success at SD State (25:58) · The need for accountability and where he finds it (29:17) · His defining moment as a player and life lessons he learned from it (33:38) · His most influential coach and how he is using the lessons learned from that coach in his life today (37:43) · His thoughts on the good and bad of US soccer, and how a great quality of America negatively affects youth sports in our country (43:41) · What we are missing in the training of our youth players (50:04) · How he is using lessons learned from the beautiful game in his relationships outside the game (57:36) · His book recommendations (59:13) Resources and Links from this Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Quiet Strength: The Principles, Practices, and Priorities of a Winning Life, Tony Dungy · The Traveler's Gift: Seven Decisions that Determine Personal Success, Andy Andrews · 3D Coach: Capturing the Heart Behind the Jersey, Jeff Duke · 9 Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life: A Psychologist Learns from His Patients What Really Works and What Doesn't, Henry Cloud
In Episode 141, Schellas Hyndman, United Soccer Coaches Hall of Fame Member, former Head Coach of FC Dallas, SMU Men's Soccer (where he coached for 24 years), GCU Men's Soccer, Eastern Illinois Men's Soccer, and Murray State Men's Soccer, husband, and father, talks with Phil and Paul about lessons learned during his incredible childhood, playing, and coaching journey, how his martial arts background translates to the soccer pitch, building trust and accountability in our teams, some stories about how he built trust with players and kept them accountable to the team standards, why coaching in the MLS was one of the best things he has ever done AND one of the worst things he has ever done, the most influential coaches in his life, changing your story, and much more. Specifically, Coach Hyndman discusses: · His personal story and coaching journey, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, and coaching, and what he is doing in retirement (4:36) · How his family fled Macau and made their way to the US during his childhood (23:41) · His personal why/life purpose and how he is living it out today (30:31) · Lessons he learned from martial arts that he has used on the soccer pitch and the importance of cross-discipline learning (35:22) · How his experiences in his “estagio” (i.e., apprentice coaching) in Brazil shaped his coaching in the college game in the US (44:03) · The importance of building trust and creating an accountability system in our teams (50:52) · His experience coaching in the MLS professional game and how it was similar and different from the college game. Why coaching in the pro ranks was the best and worst thing he has ever done (54:10) · Why we need to pour into our young talent, particularly the underprivileged young players, and keep them accountable to values and morals, and how we can do it – and a story about a great player from South America that will definitely make you think (1:01:00) · His most influential coaches and how he is using the lessons learned from them in his life today (1:06:32) · How he is using lessons learned from the beautiful game in his marriage and parenting (1:12:04) · His book and other recommendations (1:16:40) Resources and Links from this Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Changing Your Story: How to Take Control of Your Life, Create Change, and Achieve Your Goals, Bill Beswick · Living on the Volcano: The Secrets of Surviving as a Football Manager, Michael Calvin
In Episode 140, Paul and Phil cover their favorite moments from the second half of Season 10, which included some great nuggets of wisdom from ultra-marathoners, coaching legends, and authors, as well as unforgettable stories that you definitely don't want to miss. Phil and Paul also give some recommendations that you'll want to check out. Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World website · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · The Christian Athlete: Glorifying God in Sports, Brian Smith · Think Global, Do Justice Podcast · Big Sam: My Autobiography, Sam Allardyce · Alexander Hamilton, Ron Chernow · “John Adams” Biopic · Training Camp: What the Best Do Better Than Everyone Else, Jon Gordon · Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy, Jon Gordon
In Episode 139, Randy Waldrum, Head Coach of the Nigeria Super Falcons (WNT) and Pitt Women's Soccer, former Head Coach of the Houston Dash, Baylor Soccer, Notre Dame, University of Tulsa, and the Trinidad & Tobago WNT, husband, and father, talks with Phil and Paul about lessons learned during his incredible coaching journey, including founding the Baylor Soccer program, getting the Nigeria WNT job without even applying, and winning National Championships at Notre Dame, his passion for helping young coaches and how he is doing it, learning from difficult times, what he would ask Sir Alex Ferguson at a dinner party, the importance of learning from people outside your discipline, why we need to evolve our coaching and leadership, his thoughts on the highs and lows of US Soccer right now, his defining moment, and much more. Specifically, Coach Waldrum discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, coaching, and how he developed his love for coaching the women's side of the beautiful game (4:15) · How he landed the coaching gig with the Nigerian Women's National Team without even applying for it (11:20) · His new Telegram group and how he wants to use it to help young coaches develop their coaching (14:27) · His personal why and life purpose and how he is living it out today (19:41) · Some of the highlights and difficult times from his incredible year with the Pitt Panthers and Nigerian Women's National Team (23:24) · What he learned from losing 9 games in a row (37:59) · Lessons he learned from starting a new program, taking over a national powerhouse as a young coach, and working to revive a struggling program at different points of his career (40:06) · Lessons he has learned from his incredible coaching career that he wants to share with younger coaches (46:16) · What he would ask Sir Alex Ferguson at a dinner gathering and why those questions (52:37) · The importance of learning from people outside of our own discipline and evolving our coaching styles with the culture and the game (55:54) · His defining moment in his soccer career and what he learned from it (47:39) · His most influential coaches and how he is using the lessons learned from them in his life today (53:36) · His thoughts, good and bad, about the current state of US Soccer (1:05:30) · How he is using lessons learned from the beautiful game in his marriage and parenting (1:15:00) · His recommendations (1:17:51) Resources and Links from this Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · The Gold Standard: Building a World-Class Team, Mike Krzyzewski · Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap . . . and Others Don't, Jim Collins
In Episode 138, Lincoln Phillips, Trinidad & Tobago Goalkeeper of the Century, USC Hall of Famer, Former Head Coach of Howard University, Author of Goalkeeping:The Last Line of Defense, The First Line of Attack, husband, father, and grandfather, talks with Phil and Paul about lessons learned during his journey from Trinidad & Tobago Goalkeeper to professional soccer in the US to Howard University Head Coach and beyond, a movie being made about his incredible life, the importance of hard work, adaptability, and empowering players to lead, how captains need to be on-field coaches, his views on controversial goalkeeper topics, great stories and defining moments in his life, an incredible story of friendship that transcended the game and society during a difficult time in the US, the need for more creativity in American soccer, and much more. Specifically, Coach Phillips discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, and coaching, and how a kid from Trinidad & Tobago who was “terrible at everything” ended up being a player-coach in early years of the NASL and a legendary coach at Howard University (4:40) · His personal why and life purpose and how he is living it out today (13:33) · His coaching background (16:39) · The story behind his book, Goalkeeping:The Last Line of Defense, The First Line of Attack, and some invaluable goalkeeping tips from a legend (22:33) · How we can teach keepers to be better at 1 v 1's (28:11) · The importance of keepers being coached with the team, not off to the side (30:49) · Corner kicks – defenders on posts or no defenders on posts? (31:57) · Why American soccer coaches need to start questioning things and thinking for themselves (37:06) · Life and leadership lessons he learned playing the great position of goalkeeper (42:24) · His defining moment in his soccer career and what he learned from it (47:39) · His most influential coaches and how he is using the lessons learned from them in his life today (53:36) · His thoughts, good and bad, about the current state of US Soccer (1:00:12) · How he is using lessons learned from the beautiful game in his marriage and parenting (1:06:08) · His recommendations (1:09:26) · A sneak peek into the movie being made about Coach Phillips (definitely will want to listen to the end) (1:13:48) Resources and Links from this Episode · Soccer Goalkeeping:The Last Line of Defense, The First Line of Attack, Lincoln Phillips · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Net Gains: Inside the Beautiful Game's Analytics Revolution, Ryan O'Hanlon Article about the upcoming movie about Coach Phillips and the 1971 Howard University team, “Rising Above”
In Episode 137, Ali Malaekeh, Head Coach of the OC Seahorses, FCA College Representative, former college footballer, and Author of Veritas: 7 Truths that Lead to a Purposeful Life, talks with Phil and Paul about his unlikely journey from Iran to working with Fellowship of Christican Athletes and coaching a Christian WPSL soccer team, how his personal “why” led to his book Veritas: 7 Truths That Lead To A Purposeful Life, important life and leadership lessons from his book, his work with FCA and the Seahorses, his defining moment in soccer and how one coach deeply impacted his life, his thoughts on the current state of US Soccer, how he uses an important lesson from soccer in his marriage, and some books (in addition to his great book) that you're definitely going to want to read. Specifically, Ali discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, ministry, and coaching, and how an Iranian Muslim ended up on staff with FCA and coaching a Christian soccer team (3:57) · His life purpose and how it led him to write Veritas (15:30) · How his book is helping people find their purpose and live a purposeful life (18:36) · The concept of open-handedness as we pursue our goals (26:36) · The Japanese concept of Kintsugi and how it relates to integrity and our relationships (32:29) · How we can avoid external landmines in our lives (38:07) · His ministry with the OC Seahorses (42:40) · His defining moment in his soccer career and what he learned from it (48:25) · His most influential coach and how he is using the lessons learned from his coach in his life today (50:55) · His thoughts, good and bad, about the current state of US Soccer (53:50) · How he is using an important lesson learned from playing soccer in his marriage (59:15) · His book recommendations (1:01:14) Resources and Links from this Episode · Ali's Website (where you can get a copy of Veritas: 7 Truths that Lead to a Purposeful Life) · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Training Camp: What the Best Do Better Than Everyone Else, Jon Gordon · The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team With Positive Energy, Jon Gordon
In Episode 136, Ruth Brennan Morrey, Mental Performance Coach with RBM Performance Coaching, Ironman and amateur World Champion Triathlete, former University of Wisconsin-Madison and semi-pro footballer, talks with Phil and Paul about her journey from college and semi-pro soccer to the Olympics to Ironman Triathlons, and what she has learned about life and leadership on her journey, the importance of unstructured free play, building confidence through “ESPs,” reaching our “true potential,” her work with RBM Performance Coaching, building an “Ideal Team Family,” and much more. Specifically, Ruth discusses: · Her personal story, including how she grew his passion for soccer, leadership, triathlons, and mental performance coaching (3:50) · The impact John Wooden has had on her life and work, and why it is important to apply some of the “Wooden Principles” in our coaching today (12:24) · Her trip to Guatemala with Warrior Way and how it impacted her life (15:25) · Her personal why/life purpose and how she is living it out (18:05) · The benefits of unstructured free play and all that our kids miss when they don't have it in their lives on a regular basis (22:15) · RBM Performance Coaching, how it came to be, and what she is doing with it (32:08) · How we can coach our players to be more confident (34:26) · How she defines “True Potential” (40:15) · The concept of “Ideal Team Family” and why it is so important (47:39) · Life and leadership lessons she has learned during her time as a triathlete (58:52) · How she has used lessons learned from soccer in her marriage and parenting (1:02:10) · Her recommendations (1:04:27) Resources and Links from this Episode · RBM Performance Coaching website · Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes, Alfie Kohn · The Confident Mind: A Battle-Tested Guide to Unshakable Performance, Dr. Nate Zinsser · Clear Coaching: Harness Clarity to Drive Development, Todd Beane · Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, James Clear The Coach's Guide to Teaching, Doug Lemov
In Episode 135, Paul and Phil cover their favorite moments from the second half of Season 10, including Paul's favorite episode of all-time, their top 3 episodes from the incredible guests we've had on HSEL throughout 2023, their Top 3 books of the year (Phil had a few more), and Phil's top 5 sports/leadership documentaries of 2023. It's a great way to top off an incredible year of Soccer, Life, and Leadership! Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World website · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · United Soccer Coaches Convention Registration Page – Promo Code: LEADERSHIP24 · Phil's Top Sports/Leadership Documentaries of 2023 o “In Search of Greatness” o “Break Point” o “Full Swing” o “Beckham” o “That Peter Crouch Film” · Paul's Top 3 Books Read in 2023 o Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Mind, Craig Groeschel o God Has A Name, John Mark Comer o Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World, David Epstein · Phil's Top 10 Books Read in 2023 o Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World, David Epstein o Chop Wood, Carry Water: How to Fall in Love With the Process of Becoming Great, Joshua Medcalf o Win in the Dark: Some Think You Shine Under the Bright Lights, the Bright Lights Only Reveal Your Work in the Dark, Joshua Medcalf & Lucas Jadin o Pound the Stone:7 Lessons to Develop Grit on the Path to Mastery, Joshua Medcalf o Open: An Autobiography, Andre Agassi o Quiet Leadership: Winning Hearts, Minds and Matches, Carlo Ancelotti o Leadership as an Identity: The Four Traits of Those Who Wield Lasting Influence, Crawford Loritts o The Captain Class: The Hidden Force That Creates the World's Greatest Teams, Sam Walker o Boys in the Boat: Nine Americans and Their Epic Quest for Gold at the 1936 Berlin Olympics, Daniel James Brown o The Life We're Looking For: Reclaiming Relationship in a Technological World, Andy Crouch
In Episode 134, Marci Jobson, Co-Founder of Warrior Way and Warrior Way Gives, Former Baylor coach, former USWNT and professional footballer, wife of our very own, Paul Jobson, and mother of 4 boys, talks with Phil and Paul about how her passion and purpose are driving her in her ministry using soccer, growing up with 7 siblings, her path through club, HS, and college soccer to the USWNT and pro ranks to college coaching to parenting and ministry, partnering together with Paul on and off the field in different roles, uncommon bucket list item, which included a desert in the Middle East, that she was able to check off recently, keys to cross-cultural relationships, incorporating faith into playing and coaching, transactional vs. transformational coaching, how she coached both young girls and a pro men's team in Guatemala, and much more. Specifically, Marci discusses: · Her personal story, including how she grew his passion for soccer, leadership, ministry, and coaching, and her windy road to ministry with Warrior Way and Warrior Way Gives (5:29) · What she learned about herself and leadership working as a head coach, assistant coach, and unofficial consultant with Paul at Baylor (10:01) · What Paul is really like behind the scenes (19:15) · Her personal why/life purpose and how she is living it out in her life (21:54) · The work Warrior Way and Warrior Way Gives are doing in Waco and other parts of the world, including a few really cool stories about empowering girls and Marci coaching a men's team in Guatemala (25:01) · How to navigate cross-cultural relationships and partner together to help everyone flourish (36:12) · Her outreach with the US military in the Middle East and how she crossed off one of her bucket list items (43:43) · A defining moment in her soccer career and how it impacted her life and leadership (52:28) · Why the relational piece of coaching is so critical (57:33) · The best leader she played with and what set her apart from the rest (1:02:02) · The best coach she “played for” and what she learned from him (1:05:56) · How she has used lessons learned from soccer in her marriage and parenting (1:09:20) · Her recommendations (1:11:12) Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training
In Episode 133, Kevin O'Brien, Head Coach of Lipscomb University and former College of Charleston and professional footballer, talks with Phil and Paul about what he learned from playing in college/professionally and coaching at multiple universities as assistant and head coach, how he is living out his personal mission, what it was like to coach the legend, Paul Jobson, why an appetite for learning and note taking are critical for a young coach, why the human element is just as important as licenses, strategy, recruiting, and tactics, a huge mistake he made and how it taught him the importance of authenticity, reverse mentorship, playing in freedom, the importance of being mom or dad (not coach) at home, why all great leaders have an big appetite to learn and develop, and much more. Specifically, Kevin discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, and coaching, and how he ended up coaching at Lipscomb University (3:23) · His personal why/life purpose and how he is living it out in his coaching and ministry (6:36) · The ultimate goal guiding him in his coaching (8:47) · What is was like to coach the legend, Paul Jobson, as a young assistant coach at Presbyterian College (11:55) · Advice for younger coaches from lessons he learned as a young coach working up the ranks (13:27) · How his time playing professionally with the Charlotte Eagles impacted him and taught him lessons about life and leadership (20:11) · How he partners with his wife in ministry and coaching, and why she has a unique vantage point that helps him in his coaching of women's soccer (23:39) · A defining moment in his soccer career and how it impacted his life and leadership (28:54) · How he uses the lessons learned in his defining moment to shape his coaching philosophy (34:31) · The best coaches he “played for” and what he learned from them (38:08) · His thoughts on the current state of youth soccer in the US (49:05) · How he has used lessons learned from soccer in his marriage and parenting (55:17) · His recommendations (1:03:26) Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · Lipscomb University Women's Soccer · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · All or Nothing: Arsenal · All or Nothing: Tottenham Hotspur · All or Nothing: Manchester City · Welcome to Wrexham · What Drives Winning · High Performance Podcast
In Episode 132, Shaun Smithson, Fellowship of Christian Athletes Executive VP of Club Sports, talks with Phil and Paul about how you can make disciples in different areas of your life, what he learned about life after calling for a time out in soccer, something you should never say to a referee, how he got into soccer ministry despite not playing the sport until the age of 21, what you can learn from his definition of “coach,” why you might not want yourself or your children to have all of the desires of your hearts, why failure is a critical component of success, a life lesson Shaun learned through Jell-O Night, why you need to speak hard truths to your players, the emptiness of championships and titles, the importance of being where your boots are, and much more. Specifically, Shaun discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, coaching, and ministry, and how he ended up in his current position with Fellowship of Christian Athletes (5:56) · How he learned there are no time outs in soccer and what he gleaned from that experience (9:10) · His personal why/life purpose and how he is living it out in his coaching and ministry (14:38) · How he defines a “coach,” and what we can learn from it (18:28) · His experience and growth in Bible studies (20:09) · How he is making disciples through his different areas of ministry with United Soccer Coaches, DC United, coaching, and other FCA opportunities (22:38) · A rabbit trail story about an important lesson Shaun learned while reading Psalm 20 to his wife in the hospital (26:24) · Why we have to be OK with failure (28:15) · A cool story about a lesson he learned from Bernhard Langer and shared with a team at the USYS Nationals about eternal perspective (31:33) · Defining moments in his life and how they impacted his life and leadership (37:56) · The importance of speaking truth to our players about their blind spots and things they need to work on to get better (42:53) · The best coach he “played for” and what he learned from him – includes a conversation about “Jell-O Night” (likely not what you're thinking) (46:01) · How he has used lessons learned from soccer in his marriage and parenting (51:22) · How he prioritizes his family in the midst of his ministry opportunities (54:55) · His recommendations (59:03) Resources and Links from this Episode · FCA Website · United Soccer Coaches Convention Registration · Shaun Smithson Email (for USC Faith-Based Committee information) · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World (Donations to HSEL Podcast) · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Open: An Autobiography, Andre Agassi · The Coaching Zone: Next Level Leadership in Sports, John Yeager · Influence and the Creator's Game: My Story and Stories of Family, Faith, and Lacrosse, Frank Kelly III
In Episode 131, Daniel Russell, UA92 Apprenticeships & Bootcamps Engagement Manager, UK Director and Lead Scout for Daryse, Talent Scout for Liverpool FC, and former Professional Footballer, talks with Phil and Paul about how breaking both of his legs taught his tremendous life lessons and spurred him on to greater things in life, the incredible power of networking and just being polite, as it's not what you know, it's who you know, some inside information about what scouts are actually looking for in players, his defining moment in football and what it taught him, why it's critical to be selfish at times, how we ought not overpromise and underdeliver, and much more. Specifically, Patrick discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, and scouting, and how he got to be working with the Class of '92 and a Liverpool FC Scout (not a likely scenario) (5:47) · A funny story about how one of our previous guests tried to get Dan to play for his club (17:30) · The power of networking (20:27) · What scouts are actually looking for (26:08) · The Daryse scouting app and why parents, coaches, and players ought take a look at it (37:39) · Defining moments in his life and how they impacted his life and leadership (44:03) · His work with UA92 (52:21) · How he has used lessons learned from soccer in his parenting and other relationships (58:57) · His recommendations (1:05:25) Resources and Links from this Episode · Daryse App · UA92 Website · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · “When Eagles Dare: Crystal Palace F.C.” (Amazon Prime) · “All or Nothing: Arsenal” (Amazon Prime) · “All or Nothing: Tottenham” (Amazon Prime)
In Episode 130, our very own Paul Jobson, who now with Sports Recruiting USA after his retirement from coaching at Baylor Futbol, talks with Phil about how players, parents, and coaches can navigate the recruiting process with more excellence. Specifically, he covers: · How the recruiting process should be a fun “get-to” (2:00) · The parallels of the college recruiting process and job searches (4:25) · The coach's and assistant coach's perspective of the recruiting process 5:00) · How coaches filter through the thousands of emails they get throughout the year, and how to separate yourself from the multitudes (8:00) · Confirmation bias in coaches, how it affects the recruiting process, and what you can do to ensure you're on the right side of the bias (19:37) · The importance of treating every coach with respect and never burning any bridges during the recruiting process (25:20) · What should you do if a school you're not interested in is recruiting you? (29:07) · How can you know if a coach is actually interested vs. just trying to get you to go to a camp? (32:08) · Are camps worth the time and expense? (35:50) · A reminder that the recruiting process should be a highlight of your life (40:51) Resources and Links from this Episode · SRUSA Website · Don Williams HSEL Episode · Video of the Episode · HSEL YouTube Channel · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World website · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Open: An Autobiography, by Andre Agassi
In Episode 129, Paul and Phil discuss their favorite moments and leadership nuggets from our incredible guests in the second half of Season 9 (Jonathan Van Horn, Peter Greer, Jeff Spencer, and Patrick Gilliam), Paul's new gig with SRUSA, the North American Sport Movement and Cup of Nations gatherings that Phil attended over the past couple months, some great books that Paul and Phil have read recently, and other topics that hopefully will help you be better in every area of your life. We are certain you will learn something and be challenged by this conversation. What were your favorite moments from Season 9? We'd love for you to share them in the comments! Resources and Links from this Episode · HSEL YouTube Channel · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World website · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Steal Like an Artist: 10 Things Nobody Told You About Being Creative, by Austin Kleon · The Messiah Method: The Seven Disciplines of the Winningest College Soccer Program in America, Michael Zigarelli · Shift: The Athlete's Playbook – 5 Proven Steps to Life After Sport, Jonathan Van Horn · Pound the Stone: 7 Lessons to Develop Grit on the Way to Mastery, Joshua Medcalf
In Episode 128, Patrick Gilliam, Wheaton College Women's Soccer Head Coach, former college footballer, husband, and father, talks with Phil and Paul about his “love, discipleship, multiplication” philosophy, why he loves coaching at the D-III level, why self-leadership is critical and what that looks like in his coaching, how he and his team engage conflict in a life-giving way that helps his team flourish, the importance of having a both/and program, how an injury changes his life, a great book that will help you and your teams flourish, how he incorporates his faith into his coaching, and much more. Specifically, Patrick discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer, leadership, and coaching, and how he got to be where he is today (7:04) · His personal why/mission statement and how he is living it out (15:48) · The pros and cons, benefits and challenges of coaching at the Division III level (20:30) · What sets Wheaton apart from other soccer programs and educational institutions (26:36) · How he incorporates his faith into his coaching (30:57) · How he engages conflict in a healthy way with his team and why healthy conflict is critical to a team's success (39:34) · The coach who had he most impact on him and what we can learn from that great coach (48:34) · Defining moments in his life and how they impacted his life and leadership (53:11) · How he has used lessons learned from cycling and sports in his marriage and parenting (1:00:24) · His recommendation (1:04:20) Resources and Links from this Episode · Wheaton College Women's Soccer Website · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · High Impact Teams: Where Healthy Meets High Performance, by Lance Witt · The Christian Athlete: Glorifying God in Sports, by Brian Smith · Leadership as an Identity: The Four Traits of Those Who Wield Lasting Influence, by Crawford Loritts
In Episode 127, Dr. Jeff Spencer, Olympic and Tour de France Cyclist, glassblower, chiropractor, Elite Performance Cornerman Coach who has helped athletes win over 40 gold medals and 8 Tour de France victories and, most importantly, a husband and father, talks with Paul and Phil about what he has learned from some incredible stories from his cycling career and other areas of his life, how cycling “chose him,” how he is “calibrated to gold medals,” how we can live a life well-lived, life lessons learned from the challenges experienced in connection with the adoption and parenting of his daughter, trusting the process, the concept of “receivership,” the Champion's Blueprint, the “3 angels” who have deeply impacted his life, the differences in the mental game in individual vs. team sports, what he has learned about attributes of the greats from coaching Tiger Woods, Sir Richard Branson, U2 and Bono, Lance Armstrong, Maria Sharapova, Nike and Alberto Contador, and much more. Specifically, Jeff discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for cycling, leadership, and elite performance coaching, and how he got to be where he is today (2:44) · His path from a kid who liked riding a bike to being an Olympic Cyclist (6:12) · What was/is more difficult: a) the road to Olympic Cycling or b) adopting and raising his daughter? (8:03) · His personal why/mission statement and how he is living it out (11:21) · His thoughts on what it means to live a life well-lived (13:00) · What is a “calling” and how do you know what your calling is? (14:48) · Defining moments in his life and how they impacted his life and leadership (24:44) · Some of the great coaches he has worked with and what we can learn from those great coaches (33:52) · The differences in the mental game in team sports vs. individual sports (37:29) · The Anatomy of a Champion and what it looks like in the real world (41:46) · Some of the champions he has worked with and what separates the good from the great (51:13) · How he has used lessons learned from cycling and sports in his marriage and parenting (1:01:16) · What he learned from an act of humanity at the Tour de France (1:06:46) Resources and Links from this Episode · Jeff's Website · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training
In Episode 126, Peter Greer, President/CEO of HOPE International and former Messiah College footballer, talks with Paul and Phil about his path from Messiah College to alleviating poverty with Hope International, how he built in accountability to ensure that he puts his family first, why it is so important to be grateful for everything and entitled to nothing, some of the great lessons he learned from his coaches and teammates at Messiah, how he is using those lessons in his collaborative work with Hope, the need for us to be kind to referees (and why it matters), why we need more grace and less judgment in our sports and the rest of the world, team vs. individual, rooting for our rivals, not settling for mediocrity, and much more. Specifically, Peter discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer and leadership, and how he got to be where he is today (4:13) · His work with HOPE Int'l and how HOPE is working to alleviate poverty around the world (7:14) · His personal why/mission statement and how he is living it out (11:13) · Why his wife has Peter's resignation letter from Hope Int'l and what he is doing to ensure she doesn't send it (13:45) · The Messiah Method and how Peter's experienced it and lived it out during his college years and beyond (17:47) · How he saw the Messiah program building toward the run of National Championships while he was playing there (22:38) · How he is using the lessons he learned at Messiah in his work with HOPE Int'l (26:13) · How he uses lessons learned from soccer in his collaborative projects around the world (33:01) · A couple soccer analogies that Peter uses in his life regularly (37:12) · Why we need more grace than judgment in our world – and yes, that includes with referees ; ) (40:37) · Defining moments in his life and how they impacted his life and leadership (44:55) · Some of the great coaches he has played for and a couple whose leadership stick out above the rest, and what he learned from those great coaches (50:17) · His thoughts on the current state of US Soccer, and what we can do about it (55:26) · How he has used lessons learned from sports in his marriage and parenting (1:01:31) · His podcast recommendation (1:03:30) Resources and Links from this Episode · HOPE International Website · Rooting for Rivals: How Collaboration and Generosity Increase the Impact of Leaders, Charities, and Churches, by Peter Greer · The Messiah Method: The Seven Disciplines of the Winningest College Soccer Program in America, by Michael Zigarelli · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training
In Episode 125, Jonathan Van Horn, Executive Director of Pro Soccer for Athletes in Action and former Ohio Wesleyan University footballer, talks with Paul and Phil about his multi-sport playing career and how it affected his thoughts on early specialization, what drives him, his book, Shift, and how he is using it to help athletes in their lives after sport, how he is using soccer in his ministry with AIA, how his defining moments and impactful coaches have shaped him, the importance of presence and consistency, and why it is important to fail early and fail often. Specifically, Jonathan discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer and leadership, and how he got to be where he is today (3:37) · How he was a multiple-sport athlete and how he believes that impacted him in positive ways (9:20) · What he believes we are missing by focusing on early specialization (10:47) · His personal why/mission statement and how he is living it out (12:44) · Defining moments in his life and how they impacted his life and leadership (14:42) · How he is using soccer to share the Gospel and make disciples (23:10) · The power of a chaplain (31:12) · His book, Shift, why he wrote it, and how he hopes it will help people flourish in their lives after sport (33:20) · A couple of the steps for athletes to thrive in life after sport (39:09) · How we can train our kids and young athletes in these principles of life after sport before they are out of the sport (44:45) · The power of coaches to create safe environments where failure is encouraged for development (50:30) · Some of the great coaches he has played for and a couple whose leadership stick out above the rest, and what he learned from those great coaches (53:00) · His thoughts on the current state of US Soccer, and what we can do about it (56:49) · How he has used lessons learned from sports in his marriage and parenting (1:05:07) · His recommendations (1:06:43) Resources and Links from this Episode · Athletes in Action Website · Shift: The Athlete's Playbook: 5 Proven Steps to Life after Sport, by Jonathan Van Horn · The Shift Podcast · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · The Holy Bible · Mind Shift: It Doesn't Take a Genius to Think Like One, by Erwin McManus · Mind Shift with Erwin and Aaron McManus · The Way of the Warrior: An Ancient Path to Inner Peace, by Erwin McManus
In Episode 124, Paul and Phil discuss their favorite moments and leadership nuggets from our incredible guests in the first half of Season 9 (Graham Daniels, Margueritte Aozasa, Josh Glover, and Skip Gilbert), a glimpse into the great work that Paul and Warrior Way did with different communities in Guatemala earlier this month, some great books that Paul and Phil have read recently, and other topics that hopefully will help you be better in every area of your life. We are certain you will learn something and be challenged by this conversation. What were your favorite moments from the first half of Season 9? We'd love for you to share them in the comments! Resources and Links from this Episode · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Providence World website · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Chop Wood, Carry Water: How to Fall in Love with the Process of Becoming Great, by Joshua Medcalf · Win in the Dark: Some People Think You Shine Under the Bright Lights, the Bright Lights Only Reveal Your Work in the Dark, by Joshua Medcalf and Lucas Jadin
In Episode 123, Skip Gilbert, CEO of US Youth Soccer, former goalkeeper with the Tampa Bay Rowdies, and two-time NCAA Division 1 All-American, talks with Paul and Phil about his windy road to leading US Youth Soccer, his thoughts on the highs and lows of the current state of soccer in the US, what he learned from his leadership positions in USA Swimming, USA Triathlon and USA Tennis, and how they helped him navigate the trials of leading USYS during COVID, his thoughts on early specialization in one sport, what drives him, how being a goalkeeper taught him about life and prepared him for his various leadership positions, encouraging goalkeepers to keep playing the position, his most influential coaches, and why it is so important to remember the KISS principle. Specifically, Skip discusses: · His personal story, including how he grew his passion for soccer and leadership, and how he got to be where he is today – CEO of USYS (3:41) · How he navigated starting his leadership position in January 2020 and how his experience in other disciplines and leadership positions with other sports helped him through the difficulties of COVID (7:24) · His personal why/mission statement and how he is living it out (12:01) · His thoughts on early specialization, and a lesson from the world of tennis and Andy Roddick (13:43) · Defining moments in his life and how they impacted his development (20:39) · Business and life lessons we can learn from goalkeepers (24:38) · Why it is important for parents and coaches to not to discourage kids from playing keeper when they enjoy the position (28:46) · Why goalkeepers need to have a little bit of crazy in them (33:34) · Some of the great coaches he has played for and a couple whose leadership stick out above the rest, and what he learned from those great coaches (36:36) · His thoughts on the current state of US Soccer, and what we can do about it (40:36) · How he has used lessons learned from sports in his marriage and parenting (1:02:22) · His recommendations (1:07:19) Resources and Links from this Episode · USYS Website · Uncut Video of the Episode · HSEL Facebook Group · Warrior Way Soccer · Coaching the Bigger Game Program · Phil's email for DISC Training · Clyde Best HSEL Episode · 90 Minutes With The King, Tom Mulroy (releasing later this year) · Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World, David Epstein
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