Podcasts about rejection proof

Most people live in the "just enough" zone—asking for the bare minimum they think they can get. But what if the key to extraordinary success lies in making unreasonable asks? In this electrifying episode, April dismantles the fear holding you back from demanding what you truly deserve, sharing jaw-dropping stories of bold requests that changed lives (like Siri Lindley training with Olympians, or Mike securing a $50M loan). You'll learn why someone half as qualified as you will outearn you today simply because they asked for more, and how to reframe rejection as a stepping stone. Key Takeaways:

In this episode of the Alloy Personal Training Business Podcast, Rick and Matt tackle a pain point that haunts most salespeople: following up with leads.This applies to personal training or other service-driven businesses. The right mindset is important if you are to succeed in sales.The follow-up is a test of courage, persistence, and empathy.Drawing parallels between buying personal training and buying a car, Rick and Matt reveal how emotional timing plays a critical role in decision-making and how to build systems that keep you top of mind.They also explore how fear of rejection sabotages success and how reframing it can lead to better results.You'll also hear success stories of franchisees who doubled their member counts simply by consistently working their existing lists.Want to stop letting leads fall through the cracks? Tune in now for a masterclass in follow-up that could change your business.Key TakeawaysIntro (00:00)Leads and follow-up (02:09)What defines a lead? (03:21)Story: Lead thanked the trainer after 7 follow-ups (06:52)Importance of emotional timing (08:12)Mindset reframe: Aim for 100 no's (10:24)Real example: tattoo clinic follow-up (12:47)Overcoming head trash and fear of rejection (16:40)Sales anxiety: fear of the call itself (19:18)Clear calls to action are essential (27:44)Franchise success story: Trent's lead follow-up strategy (32:19)Additional Resources:Book mentionedRejection Proof: https://www.amazon.com/Rejection-Proof-Became-Invincible-Through/dp/080414138X—- Alloy Personal Training- Learn About The Alloy Franchise Opportunity---------You can find the podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Stitcher, or wherever you listen to podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Rick speaks with multiunit Alloy franchisee, Laurel Roach, about how to build a solid referral network in your community.Community marketing is a great way to build genuine relationships and get good referrals from businesses you share the same avatar client with.She emphasizes the need for patience and approaching other local businesses with lots of confidence and value upfront. She details a specific campaign involving a nail salon, which resulted in six new members. Laurel also discusses overcoming rejection through persistence and continuous learning, and recommends books like "Rejection Proof" and "Sapiens" for personal growth.She plans to expand her business with Alloy, aiming for multiple studios. Hit play and learn how Laurel does it all! You'll get some great tips for your own business.Key TakeawaysIntro (00:00)Laurel's background and journey into entrepreneurship (01:23)First lessons in community-based marketing (04:07)What is community-based marketing? (06:18)Identifying the right businesses to partner with (08:31)The importance of organic marketing over digital reliance (10:01)Detailed approach to creating successful marketing campaigns (13:48)Creating a sustainable, recurring marketing strategy (17:04)Using creative tools like digital frames and print marketing (19:27)Overcoming fears and finding confidence in rejection (25:43)Additional Resources:Connect with Laurel Roach: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurelroach/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurelroach/?hl=enAlloy | Scottsdale Grayhawk, AZ: https://www.instagram.com/alloyscottsdalegrayhawk/?hl=enBooks mentionedRejection Proof: https://www.amazon.com/Rejection-Proof-Became-Invincible-Through/dp/080414138XThe Ultimate Sales Machine: https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Sales-Machine-Turbocharge-Relentless/dp/1591842158—- Alloy Personal Training- Learn About The Alloy Franchise Opportunity---------You can find the podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Stitcher, or wherever you listen to podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

Dan Desai Martin shares his debut fantasy novel "In the Shadow of the Sanctum" and discusses his ten-year journey from idea to publication with Gold Dust Publishing.• Dan's background in religious studies heavily influenced his world-building• Fantasy allows creators to explore complex religious and societal dynamics in unique settings• Rejection is part of the process and doesn't reflect on your worth as a writer• Small press publishing creates opportunities to connect with fellow authors• Writing requires patience and celebrating small milestones along the way• Two key pieces of advice: "just write" and ignore advice that doesn't work for youAuthor Bio:Dan Desai Martin is a fantasy author signed with Gold Dust Publishing. He grew up reading fantasy classics (from The Hobbit to the Dragonlance series to Wheel of Time) and has never lost his love for the genre. After graduating with a degree in Religious Studies, Dan spent the past few decades trying to make the world a more just and equitable place, with jobs ranging from policy advocate to journalist to communications consultant. In addition to his own writing, Dan is actively involved in the Maryland Writer's Association where he served as one of the editors for Emerging Voices: Poetry and Prose by Maryland Teens Volume 9, a selection of short stories, novel excerpts, and poems by members of the association's teen writers' clubs.  He lives in Silver Spring, Maryland, with his spouse.Book blurb:Dan's debut novel, tentatively titled In the Shadow of the Sanctum, is set to be published in 2026. The fantasy novel combines the religious dystopia in Margaret Atwood's A Handmaid's Tale with the coming-of-age elements of Sabaa Tahir's Ember in the Ashes series. In a realm where the twelve Holy Sanctums maintain absolute control through violence and manipulation,  Ehla yearns for safety after fleeing a particularly sadistic High Priest. Instead of finding peace, she stumbles into a friendship with rebels seeking to free the realm from the Sanctum's shadow. As the truth and lies about the One God blur, Ehla must overcome anxiety from her past, distrust of those around her, and a growing desire for vengeance directed at the all-powerful and corrupt holy Sanctum.LINKS: website: www.DanDesaiMartin.com,  social media (@dandesaimartin) on Bluesky, Threads, and Instagram.  About Victoria:Hey there, I'm Victoria! As a writer and developmental editor, I specialize in helping busy writers bring their publishing dreams to life without the overwhelm. Editing doesn't have to feel like pulling teeth—it's the magic that transforms your story from “meh” to masterpiece!Here's how I can help:

Want to fall in love with your ADHD brain and make it work for you? Learn more about my patented program, Your ADHD Brain is A-OK Academy here: programs.tracyotsuka.com/signup___________Rejection stings, but what if you could flip it into your greatest advantage? Alice Draper, founder of Hustling Writers and host of My Rejection Story, knows that rejection isn't just part of the game—it is the game. Diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood, Alice struggled for years with imposter syndrome, social rejection, and the fear of putting herself out there. But everything changed when she set a radical goal: to get rejected 100 times in a year. What happened next? More success than she ever imagined.In this conversation, Alice shares how growing up undiagnosed shaped her confidence, why ADHD brains are wired to fear rejection, and how she rewired her mindset to see “no” as a step toward “yes.” She dives into the science of rejection, how our ancestors depended on acceptance for survival, and why ADHD brains feel it even more intensely. Tracy and Alice also talk about harnessing rejection as a tool for success, why storytelling is a superpower, and how to shift from perfectionism to action.Now a publicity strategist and media expert, Alice helps under-recognized women entrepreneurs land press and podcast guest spots—proving that rejection isn't the end of the story, but the beginning of something bigger. If you've ever hesitated to put yourself out there for fear of failure, this episode will challenge you to rethink rejection—and maybe even celebrate it.Resources:Website: http://hustlingwriters.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alicedraper/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-m-draper/ Podcast: https://hustlingwriters.com/podcast/ Course: https://hustlingwriters.com/pitchyourpower/Send a Message: Your Name | Email | Message Learn more by connecting with Tracy through Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Pinterest, or visit adhdforsmartwomen.com.Are You Ready to Discover Your Brilliance? Order Now: https://adhdforsmartwomen.com/bookJoin Your ADHD Brain is A-OK: https://adhdforsmartwomen.com/aokVisit our website: https://adhdforsmartwomen.comJoin our community of ADHD For Smart Ass Women: https://www.facebook.com/groups/tracyotsuka Join What Do I Do With My Life Masterclass: spyhappy.me/classUnlock your best days with Blends: https://adhdforsmartwomen.com/blends

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Feeling stuck in a sexless marriage? As a high-performing man or CEO, rejection at home doesn't just hurt—it can drain your confidence, focus, and creativity. But here's the truth: rejection isn't the end. It's an opportunity to rebuild connection, respect, and attraction in your marriage. In this episode, we'll uncover:✅ Why rejection feels personal (and how to let go of outcome dependency).✅ The real reason she's rejecting your approach, not you—and how to adjust.✅ How to stop over-investing and focus on becoming the confident, grounded man your relationship needs. If you're a CEO or high achiever looking to lead in your marriage the way you lead in your career, this episode is for you.

Your author platform is your ability to spread the word about your book. As an indie author, your platform is directly linked with how large your book launch can be. Bigger platforms lead to bigger launches. All else being equal, traditional publishers always prefer large-platform authors to authors with no platform.So, how do you grow your author platform?This week's episode is a webinar I recently presented.You'll learn·      Two myths about author platform·      What you'll need to build an enduring platform·      Answers to three common questions from authors about email, social media, and money.Listen in or read the blog post to learn why having a solid author platform is crucial for indie and traditional authors. Find out how to build a platform that will give your book the best chance for success. Support the show

The most important question you will have to answer is “how did you respond to Jesus?” When Jesus says “follow me” what is your response? Do you reject Him or submit to Him as your Lord? In our passage today in Mark 11 and 12, we will witness the reality that Jesus is rejection proof. As much as anyone tried to de-platform him, to stump him, confuse him, or cancel him, Jesus will inevitably only silence you. No man can stop His kingdom from breaking through. He silences all who oppose Him, because he is King of kings, and Lord of lords. Even those who rejected Him and crucified Him will stand before Him. Jesus is rejection proof.

The way your ex treated you had nothing to do with you. It was all a reflection of their own internal shit. This episode dives into this. Rejection Proof by Jia JiangFind out more about my work: www.melindagerdungcoaching.comBook a session with me: https://calendly.com/gerdungmelinda/coaching-session---Beat Provided By https://freebeats.ioProduced By White Hot---

Are you rejection proof?What does rejection really mean to you? Do you take it personally when a potential client says no? Are you holding yourself back from opportunities because you're afraid of hearing that dreaded word? In this episode, I delve into the insights from the book *Rejection Proof* by Zhi Zhang Jiajiang and discuss how shifting your perspective on rejection can transform not just your sales tactics, but your entire mindset.Listen to this new 7-minute episode for strategies on overcoming your fear of rejection and turning it into a powerful tool for success.If you have any questions about anything in this, or any of my podcasts, or have a suggestion for a topic or guest, please reach out directly to me at Alan@WeddingBusinessSolutions.com or visit my website Podcast.AlanBerg.com Please be sure to subscribe to this podcast and leave a review (thanks, it really does make a difference). If you want to get notifications of new episodes and upcoming workshops and webinars, you can sign up at www.ConnectWithAlanBerg.com  Want to see about having me come for private sales training, or a mastermind (bring together some industry friends to have me spend a day with you all)? Reach out to me at Alan@WeddingBusinessSolutions.com or text or call +1.732.422.6362 I'm Alan Berg. Thanks for listening. If you have any questions about this or if you'd like to suggest other topics for "The Wedding Business Solutions Podcast" please let me know. My email is Alan@WeddingBusinessSolutions.com. Look forward to seeing you on the next episode. Thanks. Listen to this and all episodes on Apple Podcast, YouTube or your favorite app/site: Apple Podcast: http://bit.ly/weddingbusinesssolutions YouTube: www.WeddingBusinessSolutionsPodcast.tv Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3sGsuB8 Stitcher: http://bit.ly/wbsstitcher Google Podcast: http://bit.ly/wbsgoogle iHeart Radio: https://ihr.fm/31C9Mic Pandora: http://bit.ly/wbspandora ©2024 Wedding Business Solutions LLC & AlanBerg.com

Welcome to Thriving Tribesmen, the podcast for men navigating the complexities of relationships. In this episode, join our host Kuri as he delves into the topic of "How To Be Rejection Proof In A Sexless Marriage." Are you feeling the strain of a sexless relationship or lack of intimacy in your marriage? Discover practical strategies to reignite passion, rebuild connection, and navigate rejection with grace and confidence. Unlock the secrets to maintaining your self-esteem and strengthening your relationship, even in the face of challenges. Learn how to communicate effectively, build emotional intimacy, and foster a deeper connection with your partner. Don't miss out on our exclusive offer! Gain instant access to a Free training session with our "Ultimate Attraction Into Seduction Playbook" – the essential guide to revitalizing your relationship and reclaiming intimacy. Ready to take the next step in your journey towards a fulfilling and passionate relationship? Join us at Thriving Tribesmen and start your transformation today! Get instant access to a Free training “Ultimate Attraction Into Seduction Playbook” at [thrivingtribesmen.com/freetraining](https://thrivingtribesmen.com/freetraining) Got questions or want to connect with us? Reach out on Instagram at [thriving_tribesmen](https://www.instagram.com/thriving_tribesmen?igsh=NjVxb2QxODZqdjZq&utm_source=qr) Stay tuned and thrive with Thriving Tribesmen!

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage, unsure of how to break free from the patterns that hold you back? Whether it's procrastination, perfectionism, or people-pleasing, many of us struggle with these habits because we haven't learned how to process our emotions effectively. In this podcast episode, I explore how our subconscious behaviors and emotional illiteracy contribute to our challenges, particularly when it comes to weight loss and personal growth. In this episode, I celebrate the milestone of my 150th podcast episode by sharing transformative insights and success stories from my coaching program. I discuss the importance of addressing the root causes of self-sabotage and emotional struggles rather than just the symptoms. Through powerful personal anecdotes and client experiences, I illustrate how understanding and managing our emotions can lead to significant improvements in both mental and physical well-being. I highlight the impact of embracing rejection, fostering resilience, and developing a positive mindset. What you will learn in this episode: Emotional Literacy: How to recognize and process your emotions to overcome subconscious patterns of self-sabotage. Resilience Through Rejection: The benefits of embracing rejection to build confidence and expand your comfort zone, inspired by Jia Jiang's book "Rejection Proof." Holistic Weight Loss: A self-love and respect-centered approach to weight loss that focuses on emotional and mental health, leading to sustainable, long-term results.   Grab your worksheet HERE.

Send us a Text Message.Do your emotions ever feel like they're steering the ship of your decisions? Join us for today's episode as we hear from Steve McCready, a seasoned leader in personal development, who charts a course to reclaim control. Steve's journey from IT to psychotherapy and coaching equips him with unique insights on balancing emotions and logic, empowering high-performing agency owners and business leaders to amplify their impact.For many high achievers, the grip of perfectionism and fear of failure can be paralyzing. But fear not! Steve unveils the transformative power of turning setbacks into stepping stones for growth, challenging the fixed mindset that often hinders progress. His anecdotes and wisdom from "Rejection Proof" inspire us to embrace imperfection and harness the resilience within us.Join us on a journey through the landscapes of personal growth, drawing parallels from iconic sagas like Star Wars and Star Trek. Characters like Kirk and Spock embody the delicate dance between reason and emotion, urging us to unlock our untapped potential. As we navigate this odyssey, we're reminded of the profound value of authenticity and self-discovery, even in the face of criticism.To connect with Steve McCready and explore more insights on personal development, visit his website at www.stevemccready.com.Support the Show.Join Dr. William Attaway on the Catalytic Leadership podcast as he shares transformative insights to help high-performance entrepreneurs and agency owners achieve Clear-Minded Focus, Calm Control, and Confidence. Free 30-Minute Discovery Call:Ready to elevate your business? Book a free 30-minute discovery call with Dr. William Attaway and start your journey to success. Special Offer:Get your FREE copy of Catalytic Leadership: 12 Keys to Becoming an Intentional Leader Who Makes a Difference. Connect with Dr. William Attaway: Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram TikTok YouTube

Elevated Man Podcast with Apollonia Ponti  How To Ask A Woman Out And Become Rejection Proof! (5 Lines Included Every Man MUST Try) Do you ever fear to ask a woman out on the spot without trying to sound like a creep?  Or when you do, you always get rejected? So you are stuck there thinking, how do you even approach or talk to a woman without her constantly rejecting you? How do you stop this? If you want to know who to talk a woman and turn those "no" into "yes" in dating, then you are in for a special treat; in this podcast episode, Apollonia Ponti shares expert advice on how to ask a woman out and become rejection-proof, including five essential strategies every man should try.  Apollonia knows the fear that many men face when trying to ask a woman out. She knows men don't want to be seen as creepy or disrespectful when asking a woman out.  However, Apollonia's practical guidance on how men can approach women respectfully will help men get the woman they want and stop getting rejected. Her insights can shift your perspective on rejection and improve your dating experiences. So, if you're struggling to ask a woman out, keep getting rejected, and want to know how to attract the women you wish, this is the podcast episode for you!  Key points in this episode:  0:51 - How to start asking a woman out and become rejection-proof! 1:05 - What is rejection when dating? It doesn't mean you're a failure when she doesn't give you her number, but the fact you approach her and have the courage to talk to her is a stepping stone towards success with women. 2:32 - Dont let rejection stop you from dating. Many men stop trying to ask a woman out simply because of fear of rejection, but this is important to note: not all women will say yes to you, so don't let this stop you from trying to find that high-quality woman.  3:20 - Changing the landscape. Dating apps and social media are places where men don't have to approach a woman in public to get her number. This is key because when you approach a woman in public, she will remember you. After all, it is not often done.  4:23 - Approaching in different settings. Apollonia will give you two examples: one is talking to a woman online, and the other is approaching her in person.  5:16 - Here's a dating secret: a woman loves a sincere personality. When you're talking to a woman, talk about your plans, what you did that day, something funny happened to you? Bring that up!  6:18 - Apollonia gives examples of what not to say to a woman. 6:56 - Mastering the art of asking a woman out is body language. Does she have an open posture? Or a close one? Apollonia will give examples of what to watch for in her body language. 8:48 - Remember success isn't about the outcome but is the courage to take those first steps. Keep going when asking a woman out, learn from your mistakes, and try again.  "I love Apollonia; her tips have helped me with my dating!"

In this episode, Neora's Co-Founder and Chief Marketing Officer Amber Olson Rourke sits down with Susie Moore, a world-renowned life coach, author, and host of the top-rated Apple podcast, Let It Be Easy, to talk about rejection. While many people fear rejection, Susie explains that it is actually an incredible gateway to growth and success. Listen in to learn how you can change the way you perceive rejection and use it as another tool in your success toolbox. If you like this episode, help us spread the word by sharing it with someone that needs to hear this message. We also appreciate you leaving a review, so others know what they can expect to get from listening to the Build to Win podcast. Follow Built to Win and our hosts on social to get exclusive bonus content : https://linkin.bio/builttowinpodcast/ To learn more about Neora, visit neora.com To check out Susie's podcast, go to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore on Apple Podcasts

In today's episode, we're diving deep into the art of embracing failure, turning 'NOs' into a roadmap for success with our fantastic guest, Andrea Waltz co-founder of Courage Crafters, Inc. and co-author of the best-selling book, Go for No! Andrea walks us through the concept of 'no goals'. Setting the stage for a high number of 'NOs' paradoxically paves the way for more “YESes” and a path to success that's anything but conventional.Join us as we explore the power of mindset and resilience in facing failure, and uncover tactical ways to leverage rejection as a stepping stone towards growth. Let's dive in and unlock the keys to thriving in the world of SaaS!Key Takeaways00:00 Starbucks founder turned obstacles into a global success.03:49 Lead with a genuine passion for your product.07:14 Ali, Alan Smith, Andrea Waltz: Inspiring business journeys.12:36 Embrace rejection to reach success in sales.16:11 Embrace rejection, fail to succeed, and keep pushing.17:58 Competition mindset: Reach many, overcome rejection, set goals.23:16 Striving for perfection can limit serendipity.26:06 SaaS founders encouraged to join Ultimate Resource.27:53 Book "Go For No" presents a model of success.33:04 Remaining objective, not taking things personally is important.35:37 Don't take it personally; focus on yourself.39:01 Enter meetings with positive energy to succeed.43:04 Embracing failure and seeking growth opportunities.47:34 Destigmatizing failure by telling stories and talking.50:49 Approaching ideal prospect at a big convention. Classic.53:47 Appreciation, gift of confidence, SaaS event details.54:57 Access full show notes at sasfuel.com, follow and subscribe.Tweetable Quotes"Self-confidence was built through the successfully survived risk." — Andrea Waltz 00:24:16"Don't take things personally. You can't take it personally. It's not about you even if it's about you, which sounds crazy." — Andrea Waltz 00:34:14"You just do the best you can and find your self-worth and your self-esteem in that." — Andrea Waltz 00:35:57 "You've got to get rid of your perfection because that's usually the main hang-up is that people are unwilling to fail, look awkward, and be imperfect." — Andrea Waltz 00:37:29"Growth is more than just about numbers. It's about crafting a future-proof company, premium valuation, and leaders who build a business of significance while living epic adventurous lives."— Jeff Mains 00:00:40 "Let your genuine passion for your product or service shine through. People connect with stories and sincerity, And your enthusiasm can be much more persuasive than any old sales script." — Jeff Mains 00:03:53 “Sales may feel a little bit foreign, but it's a skill that can be learned. So invest time in understanding sales strategies, customer psychology, And negotiation." — Jeff Mains 00:04:35SaaS Leadership Lessons1. Embrace Failure: SaaS leaders must encourage a culture where failure is viewed as a learning opportunity, fostering innovation and resilience within their teams.2. Customer Centricity: Prioritize understanding and addressing the pain points of your customers to deliver solutions that truly meet their needs, ultimately driving success and retention.3. Agile Adaptation: The SaaS landscape is constantly evolving, so leaders should promote an agile mindset, enabling teams to adapt and pivot swiftly in response to market dynamics.4. Data-driven decision-making: Encourage a data-centric approach to guide business strategies, product development, and customer interactions, leveraging insights for informed and effective decisions.5. Purposeful Sales: Highlight the importance of aligning sales strategies with the company's purpose, focusing on value-based selling and...

"How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection"

Robert chats with Hala Taha about her journey from a school dropout to a successful full-time podcaster and entrepreneur. Hala Taha is the host of Young and Profiting Podcast, frequently ranked as a #1 Education podcast across all apps. Hala is also the CEO of YAP Media, a full-service social media and podcast marketing agency for top podcasters, celebrities, and CEOs generating over $2M in revenue in its first year. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: 00:00 - Intro01:50 - How to deal with and overcome failure and rejection.29:50 - Why Hala chose to focus on LinkedIn, a business social network, to grow her business.34:52 - How Hala was able to land high-profile guests like Matthew McConaughey and Seth Godin and what specific strategies or tactics she used to do so.43:28 - All the different ways one can monetize a podcast and how a podcast can be an actual revenue-generating business.50:11 - What the most impactful thing Hala has learned from interviewing guests on her podcast.And much, much more!*Disclaimer: Slight timestamp discrepancies may occur due to podcast platform differences.BOOKS AND RESOURCESHala Taha's Young and Profiting Podcast.Jack Schafer's book The Like Switch.Ramit Sethi's book I Will Teach You To Be Rich.Gino Wickman's book Entrepreneurial Leap.Jia Jiang's book Rejection Proof.All of Robert's favorite books.NEW TO THE SHOW?Check out our Millennial Investing Starter Packs.Browse through all our episodes (complete with transcripts) here.Try Robert's favorite tool for picking stock winners and managing our portfolios: TIP Finance.Enjoy exclusive perks from our favorite Apps and Services.Stay up-to-date on financial markets and investing strategies through our daily newsletter, We Study Markets.Learn how to better start, manage, and grow your business with the best business podcasts.P.S The Investor's Podcast Network is excited to launch a subreddit devoted to our fans in discussing financial markets, stock picks, questions for our hosts, and much more! Join our subreddit r/TheInvestorsPodcast today!SPONSORSGet a FREE audiobook from Audible.Learn how Principal Financial can help you find the right benefits and retirement plan for your team today.Your home might be worth more than you think. Earn extra money today with Airbnb.Get a customized solution for all of your KPIs in one efficient system with one source of truth. Download NetSuite's popular KPI Checklist, designed to give you consistently excellent performance for free.Enjoy an all-in-one personal finance app that gives you a comprehensive view of all your accounts, investments, transactions, cash flow, net worth, and more, with Monarch Money. Get an extended thirty-day free trial today.Be confident that you'll be small businessing at your best with support designed to help you reach your goals. Book an appointment with a TD Small Business Specialist today.Shape and flex your home loans how you want with Athena. Join the thousands of Aussies taking control of their mortgage today.Invest in the same paintings available to billionaires, at a more accessible price point with Masterworks.Support our free podcast by supporting our sponsors.Connect with Hala: Website | LinkedIn | InstagramConnect with Robert: Website | Twitter | InstagramSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Imagine standing on a stranger's doorstep, your heart pounding as you work up the courage to knock and ask to jump in their swimming pool. Sounds crazy, right? That's precisely what happened on day four of Gregory Benedikt's 100 days of living body and talking to strangers. We're joined by executive and life coach Gregory Benedikt as we dive into the transformative power of overcoming your fears and how it can lead to the most extraordinary experiences. Gregory shares his journey of 19 of his 100 days of bold requests, offering a glimpse into what it means to live a life of audacious action and captivating stories.This episode explores the essence of challenging our internal status quo to live a life that's more than just ordinary. From chance encounters to a poignant tattoo etched in Japan, Gregory's stories weave together tales of extraordinary boldness. At the heart of it all is the belief that the bolder we are, the more fortune smiles upon us. So, join us in this audacious journey of fearlessness, filled with life-changing insights and unforgettable stories.Gregory's InstagramRejection Proof - Jia JiangSupport the showAdditional Resources: Subscribe/Rate/Review on iTunes ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: >>>HEREEnroll Here

"It's about growth, it's about resiliency, it's about becoming rejection-proof. So you can forage ahead and find the favorable outcomes." - Meshell Baker in today's Tip 1612 Do you accept rejection? Join the conversation at DailySales.Tips/1612 and learn more about Meshell! Have feedback? Want to share a sales tip? Call or text the Sales Success Hotline: 512-777-1442 or Email: scott@top1.fm

Why it was selected for "CBNation Architects": This episode on I AM CEO Podcasts features Dr. Zoe Shaw, a clinical psychology practitioner, author, and podcaster who specializes in helping busy women thrive in beautiful chaos. Dr. Zoe is a licensed psychotherapist who dedicates her time to her family life, clinical practice, virtual life and relationship coaching, speaking engagements, writing, and hosting her podcast, "The Dr. Zoe Show." Dr. Zoe is passionate about women's issues and has contributed her writing to platforms such as Your Tango and the Grit and Grace Project. She recently launched her "Ask Dr. Zoe" column on the Grit and Grace Project, an online women's magazine. During the episode, Dr. Zoe shares her insights and expertise on various topics related to helping women navigate their busy lives and find balance amidst the chaos. She also provides valuable CEO hacks, including setting Fridays for running her business, utilizing Planoly for post-planning, delegating tasks, and recommending the book "Rejection Proof." Her CEO nugget of wisdom encourages individuals to not let fear hold them back. In terms of how she defines being a CEO, Dr. Zoe describes it as having the freedom to choose your mark in the world.   Check out our CEO Hack Buzz Newsletter--our premium newsletter with hacks and nuggets to level up your organization. Sign up HERE.  I AM CEO Handbook Volume 3 is HERE and it's FREE. Get your copy here: http://cbnation.co/iamceo3. Get the 100+ things that you can learn from 1600 business podcasts we recorded. Hear Gresh's story, learn the 16 business pillars from the podcast, find out about CBNation Architects and why you might be one and so much more. Did we mention it was FREE? Download it today!   Previous Episode: https://iamceo.co/2019/02/01/iam172-clinical-psychology-practitioner-author-and-podcaster-helps-busy-women-thrive-in-beautiful-chaos/

Joel listened to the book Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang over the weekend and thought it would make a good starter topic for today's show. At Amazon:  https://www.amazon.com/REJECTION-PROOF-Jia-Jiang/dp/1847941451 Follow the LOA Today podcast: https://www.loatoday.net/follow

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Today's Principle: If you fear getting rejected, you are not alone.  Here are three ways to get over that fear.  

Today we are going to talk about chapter 56 of The Retail Leasing Playbook, "Treat Every Rejection as a Reflection of Them and Not You." So I'm sure you've heard this before, but when prospects reject you, it's not that they're rejecting you, they're just rejecting your property. If you're having an emotional reaction to when people reject the idea, this is going be a tough business for you, so you need to get tougher and not take rejection personally. If you are having problems with rejection, read Jia Jiang's book, "Rejection Proof, How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through a Hundred Days of Rejection." It's hilarious what this guy puts himself through to try to get tougher and deal with rejection. The other thing that I did early on in my career, I think this is a Tom Hopkins suggestion, he was the first, self-improvement guru I started following and he changed my life. But he had this thing where he said, evaluate the cost of each rejection. So I listened to Tom and when, and this was early on when I was canvassing for office leasing, very boring, and I would leave each of the offices and in my mind I would go, thanks for the 30 bucks! Because every store that you, that you get a no to is 30 bucks. And when you get a hundred of 'em, you're gonna get your deal and the $3,000. So for every no you get, put a dollar amount to it and then in your head, in your mind, go, thanks for the 30 bucks, thanks for the 50 bucks, thanks for the 10 bucks, whatever it is. If you like this podcast, please share it on any kind of social platform you're on. Let's get a lot more people listening 'cuz the more that we improve and get better as leasing agents, the more rents we can charge and the more commissions we'll all make. And we will be able to provide more value to our tenants, our landlords, and ourselves. Happy Leasing! Music from https://filmmusic.io "Acid Trumpet" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/b...) #retailleasing #commercialrealestateinvesting #retailleasingcoach #bethazor

In this episode I'm offering a few thoughts and suggestions for last minute gifts for the singing/acting/voice-professional people in your life. From voice straws to books on breathing and personal development, here are a few of my favorite things, listen to the episode to find out why I chose them.   1. The Voice Straw Kit 2. Vocal Mist Portable Nebulizer 3. Aromatherapy Diffuser 4. The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks 5. Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang 6. Breath by James Nestor              

Would you love to be a LOT more confident when you see an attractive you want to talk to …but the fear of rejection holds you back? Or maybe there's a girl you know who you'd love to ask out, but you don't want to get turned down, or be seen as creepy.The fear of rejection is one of the biggest problems that today's men face, which is why in this episode of the Dating Transformation podcast, we turn to the renowned coach Shana James to help you become rejection-proof… and learn how to be a confident man.Shana has coached hundreds of men in all areas of life, from dating to business to mindfulness. She also shares her wisdom every week on her Man Alive podcast. (More than 300 5-star reviews!)Today, Shana and Connell have a lively conversation that's jam-packed with funny stories and practical advice, so that you can…- Get EXCITED about your dating life, instead of see it as a drag.- Bring true authenticity and vulnerability to your dates- Take those romantic risks—like approaching and asking out your crush—with total confidence, and no fear of rejection.- PLUS: Shana shares one of the best tips from her Rejection Proof coaching program.Listen now, so that Shana can help you go from anxiousness and fear of rejection, to authentic confidence and becoming rejection-proof! It's time to learn how to approach women.Want to learn how to be a confident man? You're in the right place!TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SHANA'S COACHING PROGRAMS FOR MEN:Shanajamescoaching.comGIVE HER PODCAST A LISTEN!Man Alive PodcastBECOME A MAN WHO'S REJECTION PROOF:shanajamescoaching.com/rejection-proof/Quotes:"We want the men to feel alive and lit up and turned on and not this toxic masculinity that we see out there." - Shana"I'm so grateful that there are men out there teaching that authenticity is awesome and sexy. It warms my heart." - ShanaSpecial mentions in the episode:What 1000 Men's Tears RevealTed Talk by Shana JamesCheck it here: https://youtu.be/GGIq5_Ll4zk Featured in the episode:Shana JamesLove and Leadership Coach, Facilitator, AuthorLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shana-james-3004065 Podcast: https://shanajamescoaching.com/man-alive-podcast Website: https://shanajamescoaching.com Subscribe: https://shanajamescoaching.com/3ways/Connell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite: https://datingtransformation.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation Chapters:00:00 Intro02:21 Shana's Ted Talk 05:50 Why did Shana start coaching? 08:36 How to approach women with confidence10:30 How Shana helps people achieve a successful dating life13:11 How to be rejection-proof17:24 Game-changer tips from Shana39:09 Advice for introverts41:48 ConclusionProduced by Heartcast Media.https://www.heartcastmedia.com/

How can you finally stop repairing the same negative relationships? Brad and Lesley recap somatic dating coach, Lauren Zoeller, discussing past relationships, red flags, and how to transform your dating life or current relationships. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Upcoming things to note: AGENCY MINI, Cambodia retreat, Las Vegas RetreatThe best Book recommendations for personal growth and bizHow do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in unhealthy relationship patterns?Boredom as a driving factor and running from relationship to relationship to chase the high.The difference between a life coach and a therapist Exploring your past red flag relationships for growthWhy has every relationship ended? Episode References/Links:Follow Lauren on IGLauren's WebsiteProfitable Pilates RetreatAGENCY MINIBooks: We Should All Be Millionaires, Rachel RogersChatter. Ethan KrossRejection Proof. Jia JiangE-Squared Pam GroutGetting the Love You Want, Harville HendricksBrad Crowell PP Course How to be rejected to success with 200 noesTELL US YOUR THOUGHTS  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life, Brad and I are going to dig into the aligning convo I have with Lauren Zoeller in our last episode. If you haven't yet listen to interview, feel free to pause this now. Go back and listen to that one, and then come back and join us. If you don't know about somatic coaching. You should listen to the interview.Brad Crowell  Yeah, if you don't know the definition of somatic, she explained it. (Lesley: Yeah.) Lauren because it was actually great as your very first question. Like, "Hey, cool. I'm all about life coaching. What's the somatic part mean? Can you explain that?" And they dug in pretty deep. So yeah.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I know. Well, it's because I have a somatic therapist, and I didn't really understand what that title was. And she would do her therapy. And it had somatic stuff, but like, I didn't really I just was like, "Oh, we're in the woowoo world. We're just doing this." But it's actually not. It's not woowoo would all it's like totally legit science. You should totally... So go listen to it. But I love Lauren, and ...Brad Crowell  She, she's powerful.Lesley Logan  She's powerful. (Brad: Yeah.) She's super cool. And at the time that we're recording this, I'm on the eve of hanging out with her for the weekend here in Vegas. (Brad: Yeah.) So talk about, do you mind, I just say I want to say this, because it's nothing to do with anything. But if you're trying to make friends, like, do the things that just that people do want to like, share and experience together. She is coming here with a couple other women. Because I was like, "We should all hang out. I live in Las Vegas. It's a great place to come visit."Brad Crowell  Wait, really? (Lesley: Yeah. That was I said.) They came because you, you just invited them to come. (Lesley: Yeah.) That's so cool.Lesley Logan  I know. I said we should, well, I will, I won't take all the credit. They know a mutual friend, they know Tori Gordon, who is a coach because who was a coach, and she was on our podcast earlier. (Brad: Yeah.) And they're like, "Oh, yeah, Tori was talking about how we should all come to Vegas." I said, "Well, now you've two reasons to come because Tori and I live in the same neighborhood. (Brad: Great.) And you should come." And boom, set some dates. And now they're coming.Brad Crowell  That's really cool. I didn't know that. That's fun.Lesley Logan  Take action ... I'm so excited. By the time you've heard this, I've already hang out. We've already had our women's weekend and it's going to be amazing. I'll be talking about it on another episode. Anyways. We are also one month away from the time that you're listening to this. From the PP retreat. The Profitablie Pilates business retreat here in Las Vegas. (Brad: Yeah.) So if you are wanting to hang out in a very intimate, not in like a sexual way, but just like small, that's what I mean it by a small group, private event.Brad Crowell  I don't think anybody took it as sexual but but that's fair to clarify.Yeah, it's it's a, it's an intimate setting, that's a fair way to describe it. It's, it's actually a lot of fun and very transformative when it comes to digging into the customer journey that you may or may not be presenting to your customers. If you run a fitness business, or any kind of service based business, really, the principles do apply, and that we'll be recovering that weekend. And our first one that we ran earlier this year was amazing. It was so amazing. So we're really excited to be hosting a second one this year. (Lesley: It will be amazing.) It's going to be amazing. (Lesley: I'm just gonna put amazing in there one more time.) Also, amazingly, I'm not sure that we haven't set a date yet for next year. So it's not 100% that we're going to do it for next year. So if you're thinking I'll just do the next one. Just talk to us now because (Lesley: Yeah.) because it may not actually be one we want you know like we've got a lot going on next year like a lot.Lesley Logan  A lot. And I'll say I just want to say like putting off the growth of your business for next time. Can we just like talk about like ...Brad Crowell  Why wait nine more months to get started?Lesley Logan  The people who are at our first retreat, several of them made their retreat investment back within a couple of months. Of just using our project management training, of using our launch training of all this stuff. (Brad: Yeah.) They are now working on things this right now, as second rounds of things that will have (Brad: Yeah.) even better outcomes. If they had not come if they waited till next time they would not they would literally be where they were way before March making what they, making what they made before March in a time when you make more money. So I'm just saying don't wait till next time and Brad is right. We have not set dates and it's pretty unclear whether or not we will have another one in the 2023 dates we ...Brad Crowell  Look, we're hoping that we can do but (Lesley: We love it.) but but actually I also love going to Cambodia. So, yeah.Lesley Logan  We love going to Cambodia but we also love vacation.Brad Crowell  Yeah, there's that. I would like to take ... (Lesley: Yeah, so anyway ...) and idea. (Lesley: That's one month away. So ...) That's happening. Yeah, in the month. And then but what's happening is before then.Lesley Logan  Oh, Agency Mini. (Brad: Yeah.) Two, so it's like about two ish weeks away. It starts on the 18th. And ... (Brad: How it was a different than the retreat?) Okay, so Agency Mini, first of all, fold is very different. The retreat is at our house in person curated, very small group, very small group. (Brad: Yeah.) Agency Mini is not to say that it's a big group, but it is a bigger group. And ... (Brad: Yeah, it's a couple hundred people.) It's also online. We do one workshop, and we do one Q&A session, and then we answer your questions throughout the week. Whereas at the retreat, when you're on our house, we have several workshops, several times where you guys are in coaching settings. It's a very curated experience around what you're gonna be learning. Whereas inside of Agency Mini, we have a very curated webinar and homework for you. But then the rest of the week, you can really ask us anything, we'll be really honest with you.Brad Crowell  But bigger, bigger picture, though. The retreat, we're going to dig into, like I said, your customers journey (Lesley: Yeah.) and what you're putting in front of them, when to graduate them from your first product, your second product, your third product, whether that's digitally on your website, you know, or whether that is, you know, in your brick and mortar store. (Lesley:Yeah.) Where Agency Mini is a, it's a seven day taster of our ongoing coaching services, where you can we are going to dig into, we're going to help you clarify, you know exactly what it is that you offer your clients, how to connect to those clients, who those clients actually are. Right. And and then we're going to open it up for questions about anything throughout the week. So you know, and that's going to be virtual.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So profitabliepilates.com/retreat is retreat and profitable, profitablepilates.com/mini is for Agency Mini. (Brad: Yeah.) So you should sign up for that. (Brad: Yeah. Join us.) Also, by the way, if you join Agency for Mini, you get a lots of goodies. So just saying (Brad: True.) you've been thinking, "Oh, I want to coach with them," and you sign up for that. This is the time. So anyways, I'm so excited. September is, September, October are like going to be so ... (Brad: They're very so fun.) We're going to be like we're going to be in several states ... (Brad: It's gonna be a whirlwind.) It's a whirlwind.Brad Crowell  Yeah, it's gonna be crazy.Lesley Logan  Gotta get my sleep on. Anyways, we have an audience question.Brad Crowell  We do. You've answered this before, but it's been a long time. I just inserted that. What are some books that you recommend? Do you have any new ones?Lesley Logan  Yeah, so I don't recall which recap we answered this question. But I would say it's probably 100 episodes ago.Brad Crowell  I was gonna say, I think it's been like a long time.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So of course, I have been reading a lot. And by reading I mean listening. But I actually am reading a couple books like physical books. Currently, as we're doing this. So here's my new top books that I've been talking about a lot. And I've read it. There's they're not in, like, inclusive of all the books that I've read, but like what I think listeners of this show would really love. We Should All Be Millionaires, Rachel Rogers. Rachel Rogers, if you're listening this episode. Hi. Big fan over here. Want to be on the show? If you know Rachel, please do the intro. I'm just putting out there. I'm asking for it. I want I want Rachel Rogers on the show. That book is amazing. It's so good. I and Brad, love reading it.Brad Crowell  Yeah, we're I'm like, I don't know, third of the way through it right now. Halfway, I'm not sure.Lesley Logan  Yeah, it's so good. Chatter. I believe it is by Ethan Kross. I think that's who it's by. Yes. And I have DMed him, he has not responded to me. So I am not, (Brad: Ethan Kross.) I'm not rejected yet. And I will not take no for an answer from that man because he is amazing. That book is so it's so awesome at identifying why you're talking to yourself and the thoughts you say. And then also how to like snap yourself out of it, which I just frickin love. You know, I love action. So, Action Steps so that's a great book and then Rejection Proof. Oh my gosh, he did reject me for right now. Not permanently, he said to come back to him later. He's just not doing podcasts right now. That's okay. Jia Jiang, I got you. My peeps are gonna find you. We're gonna get you on the show. Anyways, Rejection Proof is so good. If you're afraid of being rejected. Brad has a course about being rejected (Brad: I do.) on our Profitable Pilates website.Brad Crowell  Yeah. We'll put the link to that in the show notes. (Lesley: Yeah.) It's called How to be rejected to success with 200 noes.Lesley Logan  Yeah, so and then this book was just like so so good. I'm really into it and then I've talked about it before actually talked about it with Coach Lee a couple weeks ago on that episode, but I started doing E-Squared again, and it's Pam Grout. Hi, Pam. Hi, hey girl hey. (Brad: Hey girl hey.) I tagg you on a post or three. Not a stalker, but just same (Brad: Big fan.) big fan, big fan over here. Anyways, um, I had I read Pam Grout's book, eight years ago, seven years ago, and I actually did one of the experience I put Brad's name now. And then he called me. (Brad: I did.) And then the other woman's name down, I just put the two together. She's the woman from the other company that's been hitting us up. (Brad: Oh, that's crazy.) How crazy is that? But she did also call me while we ran into each other. Anyways, you'll hear that on on Coach Lee's episode. But the point is, I've been doing all the experiments and I did the experiment one. I started on a specific date at 11am. And then I decided to meditate on like receiving abundance. And at 11:03 during the middle of my meditation, the experiment came through. Oh! So you all have to do E-Squared. Okay, those are the books. Do you have anything add to that?Brad Crowell  Those are, those are great. No, I've been reading political books, and also some novels. (Lesley: Yeah.) So yeah, less if you if you if you are looking to find a new world to experience that has nothing to do with reality. There's a lovely, incredible, 20 something books here series (Lesley: Oh, are you doing YA?) No.Lesley Logan  No, young adult, you're listening to a young adult?Brad Crowell  I don't know what that is. (Lesley: Oh.) So no, it's his name is Michael J. Sullivan. And he is a he's like a, he created his own fantasy world where he's got different, different times of the timeline. So like, you know, he started off, (Lesley: Oh) he started off with a thief and a soldier and the two of them get paired together and have to go to that. And he wrote, like, I don't know, 12 books around this. They're still out ...Lesley Logan  So not necessarily like a book for 20 somethings. It's just a 20 year long.Brad Crowell  No, no. He's written 20 novels. (Lesley: Yeah. Okay.) No, (Lesley: Sorry.) 20 books.Lesley Logan  20 books. So not YA at all?Brad Crowell  I don't know what YA is? So, no.Lesley Logan  YA is a ti... is like a section of books. It's called Young Adult. It's like your twilight ...Brad Crowell  Oh, yeah. I never I never got out of that. Yeah. (Lesley: Yeah.) No, it's a ...Lesley Logan  Like not goosebumps. But you know, something like that. Like ...Brad Crowell  I mean, sure, these are these are applicable for all ages, actually. The but but then, in that, in that timeline, he was referencing, you know, the history 3000 years ago. And then the next set of six books he wrote was from 3000 years ago. (Lesley: Oh, my God.) And then now the new books he's writing are in the middle, between these two timelines on a ... (Lesley: I can't handle it.) It's amazing, actually. And you fall in love with the characters and yeah, I mean, he is, he's mind blowingly good at what he does. It is incredible. The books are just fantastic. So (Lesley: Okay.) yeah.Lesley Logan  Let's talk about Lauren. (Brad and Lesley laughs)Brad Crowell  We don't go to the same movies, y'all. Just saying.Lesley Logan  We don't. We also don't go to bed the same time or wake up at the same time. We are an anomaly. If you are like, "I want to be married like Brad and Lesley." I'm just gonna go out right now you have to be very secured ...Brad Crowell  We have so much in common when it comes to being entrepreneurs.Lesley Logan  Yeah. And we ... like, like the things that we love to do for fun. Our so opposite. (Brad: Yeah) We just do them on our own.Brad Crowell  So, Lesley's got a green thumb. No, she doesn't.Lesley Logan  No, no. She doesn't. (Brad: I'm teasing.) But my Mammillaria by not touching it whatsoever is doing great. (Brad: Yeah, yeah.) My plant in the window. It's not doing so good. I don't know what to do about it. Anyway. Hi, let's talk about Lauren.Brad Crowell  Let's talk about Lauren Zoeller.Lesley Logan  All I can say is Lauren ... as like our guests listening to these recaps ...Brad Crowell  I know. They're probably, "What the hell?" (Lesley: When did they talk about me though?) Okay, cool. So, Lauren, helping women and men find conscious partnerships. Lauren Zoeller is a Somatic Relationship Expert, aka Dating Coach who overcame her own patterns of shame to now lead women into aligned lives. Lauren is more than a matchmaker. She's here to guide individuals to keep the relationships they find, and in the process, discover a deeper love for themselves.Lesley Logan  So aka better than a dating coach. (Brad: Yeah. Better than a dating coach.) Just to like, help my new friend out. She's more than a dating coach.Brad Crowell  Well, yeah, well, I think I think that, again, if you go back and listen to her definition of somatic, it will help you understand how different she is from you know, just, you know, she's not Hitch you know, I think you you probably had the best example, I'm just going to pull it back up. You said, people who date the quote on quote, "date the same person over and over and over again, until they learn their lesson." Right? She helps you, like understand why you might be repeating things, but just in a different time and a different with the different people. (Lesley: Yeah.) But you're still repeating the same thing.Lesley Logan  If you're watching us on the YouTube channel, you got the air quotes. If you didn't, Brad, his inflection should hopefully help you understand the air quotes are in there.Brad Crowell  Yeah, Brad is very good.Lesley Logan  It's better than Joey from Friends that air quote. I'm sorry. (Lesley and Brad laughs)Brad Crowell  What was one thing that you love that Lauren said?Lesley Logan  Thank you for asking. One thing I love that she said was "how you receive love as a child shapes how you expect to be loved today. Often those who had a frenetic childhood are chasing the high of chaos". And she went on a little bit like how do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in unhealthy patterns is a question she's having (Brad: Yeah.) she's haveing you ask yourself. So take a moment. How do you give and receive love? And is it keeping you in an unhealthy patterns? So, you know, we all know The Five Love Languages and things like that. But like actually think about it like the way you're giving and receiving love. Is it actually helping you? Have loving relationships? Or is it in this chaotic, unhealthy pattern? Like these are important things. And then she also had some other examples like boredom as a driving factor and running from relationship to relationship to chase the high.Brad Crowell  Well, that's good. So so what she was talking about, which I thought was really amazing because I, I don't I never I never thought this way. But she said if you had chaos in your childhood, and actually she specifically was talking about helicopter parents. And she said, if your you know, parents were in, and then out and then in and then out and there was this chaos happening. You often expect that later on in life. So if you end up in a stable, you know, relationship, it doesn't mean stable is good or bad. It just means it's the opposite of what you expected. So more often than not, you're inclined to feel like, this is boring, or this is safe. Or this is kind of ... you know, and ...Lesley Logan  It's like when Carrie broke up with Aidan, everyone. She broke with Aidan because they didn't fight. And ...Brad Crowell  I don't actually know any idea ...Lesley Logan  Sex in the City. Everyone who's listening is knodding their head, we all know, because that was a big deal. There was a whole thing.Brad Crowell  So glad I wasn't there for that one. Okay. Yeah, it's like, guys, it's like, Oh, my God. It's like when Carrie broke up (Lesley: Stop.) with Aidan (Lesley: Okay.) because they didn't fight all the time.Lesley Logan  No, but it's I think people need examples sometimes ...Brad Crowell  I think it's a perfect example. I just was not there with you on that one.Lesley Logan  It's fine. Everyone who's listening is with me. (Brad: Yeah. Oh yeah. Oh yeah.) They're all with me ...Brad Crowell  No, it's a perfect example because, you know, and then conversely, if you had a relatively stable, you know, or quote unquote, "boring", you know, like, like childhood love from your parents, and you find yourself in a chaotic relationship. You may be like, "I can't do this," you know. And anyway, I thought that was really interesting. I never thought about that before ...Lesley Logan  Yeah, yeah. And also, so first of all, Lauren has an incredible course. And she has a bunch of services. There was also the book, Getting the Love You Want, which is a very interesting book about explaining the old brain, the new brain, and like, how, when you first get a relationship, you fill all of your own holes. So ... (Brad: Harville Hendricks) Yeah. So you fill all your own holes to so people like look, "I'm this like, perfect, amazing being and there's nothing crazy wrong with me here. Don't like I'm so good. And your partner, by the way, is doing the exact same thing." And then after a few months, it's so exhausting trying to fill those holes. But you don't even realize that you're doing it on a subconscious level. So (Brad: Right.) you think that that person, the person you're with is filled the holes like they've solved the problem. So and then when both of you start filling your own holes, you're like, "You change. They change, blah, blah, blah." Actually no, you both just started to be your fucking selves. (Brad: Interesting) Yeah, and so a lot ...Brad Crowell  Well she does, Lauren talks about that, at the very beginning. She talked about like, you know, being lonely and filling that loneliness with someone who you know, you shouldn't be with.Lesley Logan  Yeah. Oh, totally. Who hasn't done that, (Brad: Yeah) like 17 times not personal. Just, I just know, I'm still I'm watched. But I think it's like, it's ... (Brad: Calling you in behalf of a friend.) Yeah, calling for a friend, actually. Anyways, it's a great book, if you're like, "I don't know, if I'm gonna read the book." He was on Oprah. And you can like get the Cliff's Notes version, or you can just work with Lauren. But the reality is, is like, we have to stop pretending that how we were raised is um not affecting the lives and the choices we have now. And then also we have to understand that like we are making choices. You may think things are happening to you. And this is just the people that are around you. And these are the only options but we all actually have choices and when you start to recognize that like how you are choosing to give and receive love is a choice. (Brad: Sure.) Even if you feel it's subconscious, it can actually be a conscious decision. When you make those changes, you can actually start to change the patterns of the day you have and find the person you want to have and look at Lauren, look where she's at right now.Brad Crowell  Yeah. Interesting. Wow. Yeah. And what she's referencing is having moved through a very tumultuous time in her life to finding a place where she can be herself. (Lesley: Yeah.) With someone that she loves in a business that's functioning and all good things. (Lesley: Yeah.) So again, worth listening to. One thing I loved that she said, was she helped define the difference between a therapist and a life coach. (Lesley: Which I knew you would love.) Yeah, well, she is a life coach, therapist, generally speaking, has degrees in therapy, and they, you know, like help you dig into the past. Right. And so you're really breaking things down and trying to uncover, you know, where you came from. Whereas a life coach is helping you plan and look at your future. And I thought that was such a clear distinction, such an easy way to understand the difference between the two ...Lesley Logan  I knew you love it. (Brad: Yeah, that was great.) I was like, "Oh my gosh, Brad's and I fucking love this definition." And also, by the way, you could have a somatic therapist, (Brad: You can.) life coach, (Brad: Yeah.) and so you, like somatics is really amazing. Again, if you like, "What's somatic?" Listen to the other episode, just gonna make you do it. But you can have both and like, you can also have a therapist and a life coach, because one could be dealing with one thing and one you could be doing. (Brad: 100%) So you know, just that there are different things. But I loved how she explained it. I agree with you on that love.Brad Crowell  Yeah. All right. So finally, let's talk about those BE IT action items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your conversation with Lauren Zoeller? She summed it all up with one, one solid action BE IT action item. She said, look at the patterns that have shown up in your relationships, and write them down. Why has every relationship ended? And is there a common thread?Lesley Logan  Yeah, and I think you can look at friendships, as well as in family relationships, as well as love relationships. Like I think like, you know, we're not, we are different, with different people ish. But we all kind of wrote this thing. So like, if you look at how you how maybe a family member and you had a falling out, or a friend you had falling out, I bet you there's some common threads. And I think that can be worth journaling about. I'm not saying shame and judge all yourself, please. That's not what I'm saying ...Brad Crowell  But it's still a hard thing to dig into and look and review. And, you know, I mean, I think that it's easy to avoid. Let's just say it can be easy to avoid thinking about this stuff. (Lesley: Oh yeah) So when you start to uncover it, it may be a little bit uncomfortable. You know, because if you're honest with yourself, you know, how much a part of the ending of those relationships where you? Obviously, it takes two people to be in a relationship. So you were clearly a part of it. How?Lesley Logan  Yeah, and I think like, it's not like we're saying you should take all the blame, because that's not it at all. (Brad: No) But you should just actually look at like, what was your role in it? And like, if you're like, "Well, listen Brad, my person cheated on me." Okay, that's fine. I do not blame anybody who was cheated on, like as the reason for that, because that's a whole other ball of wax. But you can look at the red flags, that you ignored at the begining of the relationship that (Brad: Yeah) got you in relationship with someone who cheated on you. (Brad: Sure.) And there, and so you looking at those red flags that you ignored, those are choices. And you made those for specific reasons. (Brad: Yeah.) And there's nothing wrong with the choice you made. But then you can actually have this like, red flag marker. So when you're on a date, and you see that red flag and you go, "Oh, here I am with the same pattern of dating this person who is doing this out of spite..." (Brad: Exactly. Yeah.) And one thing, put a stop sign up. But you get to say, "Hey, you know, you said something. I just would like to go back to that. And just kind of explore that a little bit. (Brad: Yeah) Could you mind like, like, just give me a little bit more from that." And if they like dig a hole that's just like, wow, that's red flag just became a frickin fire, run. (Lesley laughs) (Brad: Yeah) Run away.Brad Crowell  Yeah, I mean and it may be, I mean, there's, you know, in a yet last steps, so we were talking about or so in our last recap, we're talking about clients and firing a client. Same thing, I mean does, we're not necessarily talking about love relationships here. We're talking about relationships, right? So it could be you keep taking on clients that you, you know, I don't know, maybe, you know, we teachers, as a teacher, we all feel like we can help someone, but maybe we think we can help them emotionally in addition to physically and maybe that is like consistent issue. Because after a while you're fried, you're ready to move on to the next person, but now they're your client, you know, and it's possible that you've been doing this over and over again. You know, who knows? There's just a It's interesting to go back and take a look. And like what what Lauren said, look at the patterns that have shown up in your relationships and write them down. Why has every relationship ended? And what is that common thread?Lesley Logan  Well, I'll be really honest. Like we would not have dated had I not like looked at the red flags and like been playing that game. And like looking at how all of the people I dated before you ended, I was like, "Oh, wow, there's a common interesting theme." And so when you came on, like, I challenge you a couple of times, like, ... you relate to something I said, "That doesn't, I don't like that doesn't work for me." You know, and like, we had to talk about it. So like, it's not like, if you see it, you're like, "I have to run away right now." No, you can actually have a conversation around it, (Brad: Sure.) and then like, say things and it really does allow you to have an adult relationship where yes, there's vulnerability. But what ...Brad Crowell  I don't even think I asked you like things, you know, in that sense, I, I actually, I don't, I didn't have a plan when I was going through my divorce. But I did write things down. Because I couldn't keep it in my head anymore. I just couldn't juggle it all. Because it's so much as thinking about, you know, it's like replaying every conversation I ever had, ever. And, you know, you know how it is, it is right, and but what it allowed me to clarify, were the things that were important to me. And so when I went when we began to date, I literally had a list. I actually ...Lesley Logan  I had a list. I had a list. I deleted my list after you dumped me because I was so mad at you. Because okay, so he came over with beer, and I'm fucking gluten free.Brad Crowell  Oh, I did that.Lesley Logan  And he came over with beer. This is not the first time I told him I was gluten free. This is the third time I had to tell him I'm just gluten free. And he brings us beer like, "Hey, I brought this beer." I'm like, "I'm gluten free. I can't drink it." And he's like, "Oh, yeah, that's right." And then he proceeded to take two hours of telling me everything he liked about me, and then why we couldn't go on a date. And I had this list and you checked off everything on the list, but I literally had written out remembers I'm gluten and dairy free. And I was like, "Fuck this list. It's not fucking working. I he meant everything and he fucked this up and he fucked that up." And I deleted the list. And then 10 days later, you're like, "Hey, I'm at Trader Joe's. I know you're gluten and dairy free. So I got you some veggies and hummus." I'm like, "Are you fucking kidding me right now?"Brad Crowell  You know what? You know what I did. I actually went home and looked up. What is gluten free? Because I didn't know. You were like, "Yeah, I can't eat bread." I was like, "Oh. Well, okay, I guess she can't eat bread." So I didn't bring bread. But I actually looked it up. I was a dairy was pretty straightforward.Lesley Logan  Yeah. (Brad: But gluten that I didn't know.) and Yeah. But that's if I didn't know you had a list. I have, I have a list anyways, obviously it worked out for us. But it's because you both ... reflected on past relationships and how they ended. (Brad: That's pretty funny.) And hey, I'm so happy we're together. We're celebrating seven years this fall. (Brad: What? That's crazy.) Yeah. Anyways, I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell  I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan  Thank you so much for joining us today. First, I'm grateful you're here. I hope you enjoy these. You can always give us feedback on our podcast at beitpod.com/tellme and we want to know how you're going to use these tips in your life. Give us a tag, tag @laurenzoeller. Let us know and please share this with a friend who is having needs in their relationships that need to be met. (Brad: Yeah.) So we can help them out with Lauren's amazing tips and we'll catch you in the next episode.Brad Crowell  Bye for now.Lesley Logan  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others BE IT TILL YOU SEE IT. Have an awesome day! 'Be It Till You See It' is a production of 'As The Crows Fly Media'.Brad Crowell   It's written produced, filmed and recorded by your host Lesley Logan and me, Brad Crowell. Our Associate Producer is Amanda Frattarelli. Lesley Logan  Kevin Perez at Disenyo handles all of our audio editing. Brad Crowell  Our theme music is by Ali at APEX Production Music. And our branding by designer and artist, Gianranco Cioffi. Lesley Logan  Special thanks to our designer Jaira Mandal for creating all of our visuals (which you can't see because this is a podcast) and our digital producer, Jay Pedroso for editing all videos each week so you can. Brad Crowell  And to Angelina Herico for transcribing each of our episodes so you can find them on our website. 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In this episode of The MVP Podcast, Jeremy Powers, owner of Powers Insurance Experts, joins the show to share his story and the tips and tricks that have elevated his agency over the last 2 years.  This is an episode you do not want to miss if you are stuck in the middle of what you should be doing as a young producer. Jeremy has a passion that is unmatched, and the things he is doing for his community led to putting the business on the books. Be the Jeremy Powers of your community! The little things make a difference. Episode Highlights: Jeremy shares his background and how he got to where he is today in business. (4:16) Jeremy discusses the two things he does to encourage his team inside the agency as well as the producers and agents outside of his agency. (10:39) Jeremy shares that one way that he finds work-life balance is by being able to have his daughters interact in the fun stuff that they do for the company. (17:41) Jeremy shares that the biggest thing that helped him to get to where he is today is a book called Rejection Proof by Xiao Zhang. (22:36) Jeremy shares why it is beneficial to imitate people that are better than you and doing great things. (25:32) Jeremy discusses what has been going on in his agency, as well as their achievements in being an all-organic agency. (29:13) Jeremy advises everyone that if they want to be successful, they should find something that gets them in the field and chase it. (35:52) Jeremy explains how he is blessed to be a coach and has been coaching agents, and agencies. (41:49) Jeremy shares that he always tells his team that he is never going to try to bring people into this business that are going to demoralize them. (47:23) Jeremy recalls a story of when he was able to hire a tenured representative, who told him how excited she was to work for his company. (53:20) Jeremy advises everyone to stop being their own worst enemy, and let go of negative thinking. (1:00:02) Key Quotes:  "I tell myself all the time and I'm a strong believer that I don't want a penny more than God blessed me with because I don't want to be who he did not create me to be. I want to be exactly and authentically who I'm ready to be." - Jeremy Powers "I tell my team, I don't believe the customer's always right. I hired you, I'm going to fight for you. And I'm never going to try to bring people into this business that are going to demoralize you." - Jeremy Powers "Be the sun. Everyone wants to go towards the sun. Why not be the sun?" - Jeremy Powers Resources Mentioned: Jeremy Powers LinkedIn Powers Insurance Experts Reach out to Mitch Gibson

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Have you thought about how your past history, hobbies, and habits make you who you are. They could be good things or they might be soemthing to work on. Knowing who you are is so essential to stepping into your purpose here and the key to finding lasting relationships. Tune in to Lesley and Brad's conversation recaping the importance of uncovering yourself to find your people and change your life.  If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:The value in a scheduling tool How do you get to Cambodia and tips for international travel How to allow rejection to grow youHow hiding your truth is keeping you stagnant and from genuine relationshipsTo be yourself, you have to learn about yourselfEpisode References/Links:Replay of Profitable Pilates Free WebinarBe It Pod Survey!Cambodia Retreat  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan  And I'm having headphone problems. That's fine. We're good now. How are they twisted? How does that happen? How does that happen? They literally just set them down and then they tangle that. It's like, it's like a like it's like the same thing with your like headphones with Apple. It's like you just put them down and then they're like a ball of yarn. Anyways my virtual problems over here.Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap for my co host in life, Brad Crowell and I are going to have a meet where we're going, we're gonna dig in. we're gonna dig into the meaningful convo I had with Coach Lee Hopkins in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened that interview, go back, listen to it. There's full surprises, full of like, just some really amazing vulnerable moments, I think we all can relate to, no matter who you are, or (Brad: Yeah) what you do in this world. And I've been we traveled a course of their life. And I am just, I could have kept going. It was a little hard. Like, I think we had to stop now. It ... (Lesley laughs)Brad Crowell  It was it was a really well, meaningful convo. But I loved the all the different, actual, like, specifics of action items that Coach Lee had to share. I really enjoyed the conversation. (Lesley: Yeah) It was it was amazing.Lesley Logan  So yesterday, we had this amazing free webinar over at Profitable Pilates. I get a lot of questions. I have, first of all, a lot of people either overpaying for scheduling tools, so yeah, at least you have something. But there is too much. It's not working for them. And so you know, and most of them don't even know how to get their clients to use it. And they're afraid of losing their clients or making them use it. And then a ton of people don't think they're tech savvy enough, or don't think their business is in air quotes "big enough" to have a scheduling tool. (Brad: Sure) And so I just had a really fun time, like, explaining to people all the reasons why you need to have a scheduling tool, what you need to do to search for one, to make sure you pick one that works for you. And then also why mine is amazing. (Lesley laughs) So you can get all of that for free. If you go to profitablepilates.com/answer. And whether or not use my scheduling tool is fine. Like, look, we can't be all things to all people. Mine is friggin awesome. It has contracts, by the way to save you time and money. But I really am, I'm on a mission to help more bodies doing Pilates. And if you don't have all the clients that you want to teach on this planet, you're you're not helping me with my mission. So I got to help you teach other people you want to teach. And it's not enough for your scheduling to be full. I also want you to have a frickin life. I want you to have balance. I want you to time away from your business. And I want you to have clients that respect you. So you need to school, you need a tool. So go to profitablepilates.com/answer because that's what I did yesterday and you can watch the replay.Brad Crowell  Yeah, yeah, definitely. I love digging into this topic because I think the the we've been coaching people for years. And we've coached literally more than 1000 business owners now. And two things come up consistently. One is people are afraid to pay for tools ...Lesley Logan  Of any kind, just any kind.Brad Crowell  I mean, literally fucking credit card transactions, that one blows my mind. It is normal cost of doing business period, there's no question you will pay a credit card transaction fee somewhere.Lesley Logan  And also, that's not new. This is decades old. (Brad: Yeah) It's a write off, pay the transaction fee, build it into your cost.Brad Crowell  It's literally as you can give. So if you charge $1, but you only get 97 cents, which is the way it works. That 3% that three cents, you actually still charged. So on your your taxes, that is considered a banking fee that you had to pay. And it's a write off. (Lesley: Yeah) So don't be afraid of credit card transactions. Okay ... I didn't even take the time to go on a rant. The second thing is people don't look at themselves as if they are quote enough, a big enough business or a legitimate business enough to warrant a tool like this and these two myths, one that you aren't big enough to pay for a tool and two, that you're not big enough to even use a tool. They're myths, they're myths, because you can make your life easier and have a more a smoother functioning business experience when you have tools that will support you doing those things. Imagine being a graphic designer who never bought Photoshop. That's the dumbest thing, right? Of course, you have Photoshop, if you're a graphic designer, it is a given. Imagine being a musician, but you didn't buy a keyboard. How are you going to do that? You have to buy the tools, you have to have the tools to be able to function in the art that you're doing. Right? In the same way you are running a business as a fitness business owner. And so you there's no reason you shouldn't also have the tools.Lesley Logan  And by the way, you can have the tools and people can pay cash, and it's the same price, you can charge them the same price. And so they go, "What if I pay cash?" Yeah, that's the price, I still have to run it through the government, the government still has to know how many dollars I took in. (Brad: Yeah) So you need a scheduling tool. (Brad: Yeah) You need one. I don't care if you teach five hours a week, you deserve to teach five hours week, but not spend five hours additional a week to do the thinking and the scheduling and the rescheduling and the (Brad: the rescheduling) admin and the ...Brad Crowell  and the texting of your clients. And then oh, but one client likes to email you instead. You know, I mean ... (Lesley laughs) Right. It's so there's, there's all of that admin time, it actually, it's not even that it takes a lot of time, because that's the that's another story we tell ourselves. It's like, "Oh, it's not that big a deal. I can deal with it." Right. But it's not even about the fact that you sit down and have to text them back or the fact that you have to email them back. It's about that mental checklist that you are building in your head that I have to do these things, and that actually wears on you, it creates stress over time that you don't even realize it's happening. Imagine if all that stuff was consolidated into one spot, and you didn't have to, in your mind, remember, "Oh, I got a text sounds over here. I got an email. So it's over there. I gotta call this person." Like ...Lesley Logan  And they're like ... (Brad: You don't have to do that.) And also like, "Oh, a time opened up. I had to tell this person that time opened up." No, (Brad: Right) they can put themselves on a waitlist (Brad: Yeah) for the time that they want if you have a scheduling tool (Brad: Yeah) like ours that lets you do it. I'm just saying. I almost went down to like, I was about to give an example. I'm gonna give it to you anyways, we use a project management tool. And they're expensive when you find when to use like, you can use them for free when you're a loner. But when you start to add people to your team, they always charge you. (Brad: Yeah) So and it's like, you can justify like, "Oh, I don't want to spend this X amount of dollars, because I could just tell my assistant to do the thing." Yeah, but if every single week you do something, and then your assistant does something. The amount of time you spent, times that by 52 weeks. (Brad: Yeah) You know, you're talking hours and then ...And what if you have more than one person on your team? (Lesley: Yeah) Right. Like, you know, it becomes this compounding effect and it's the same thing ...And also you're gonna forget because you're not perfect. And that's okay because perfect is fucking boring. (Brad: Yeah) Anyways, we'll talk about scheduling tools in another day.Brad Crowell  Okay. Where did they find that webinar?Oh, you go to profitablepilates.com, profitablepilates.com/answerprofitablepilates.com/answer. And you can watch that replay. It was a great time. One other super quick announcement, and we'll get going here is we really need your input for this podcast. So we really value you sharing with us how your experience, if you've loved the episodes, you know, and if you think that there's other things we can be doing that make it even more valuable for us. We're really interested in your feedback. So go to beitpod.com/tellme, beitpod.com/tellme and share with us your feedback about this podcast so far. This is episode 126. And we, you know, we can make we can make completely sweeping changes. But before we do anything like that, we would love to have you share your thoughts.Lesley Logan  Yeah. So, I can't wait to hear what you're saying. Okay, our audience question this week is ... It's like a little Cardi B version.Brad Crowell  I never traveled internationally. How hard is it to get to Cambodia?Lesley Logan  So this is really fun because this is the response I got to us going to Cambodia and I first of all, I'm so loving that someone is like, "I've never traveled internationally like how do I get there?" I love that for you because everyone should do this. Everyone should travel internationally and ladies, every single one of you need to do a trip alone. And that trip alone could be with me. Because at least you're doing the like like you're traveling you're not like relying on waiting for a partner to go with you or something like that. Like you're like, take your signing yourself up for an adventure. You learn so much about yourself when you do that. (Brad: Yeah) So how hard is it to get there? Well, first of all, I don't know where you live. So that's a little tricky, but it's not that hard.Brad Crowell  Yeah, it's not even I think that the thing that's daunting about it is the idea that you'll be on a plane for, you know, 11 hours or something. And I think that in, I remember, I'm thinking back to the very first time we drove, we drove, we drove across the Pacific, (Lesley laughs) we flew to Asia from Los Angeles, and I remember thinking like, "Holy cow, I don't know what it's gonna be like. I'm not sure that I'm, I'm like, ready to be on a plane for you know, 12 hours at a shot." And what, what, in my head I was telling myself, I'm in the backseat of my parent's mini van, you know, and I'm 13 years old and my sister and my brother are there and we have nowhere to go there's one bucket seat and like we're banging elbows with each other for the entire ride. That's like the that's like what was going through my mind, right? But in reality if you've never flown internationally before the planes are bigger than domestic planes.Lesley Logan  Oh, my God. It's so amazing. I hate flying domestic like I hate it. I, even in Europe when you go from one country to another country that sorta, technically international when you're in the EU, those flights suck too. International flight (Brad: Yeah. They are small.) are better. Anytime the flight has to cross the ocean. It is the best, you will love it and also they get movies that are in the theater. They like like they get movies that are still in the theater, they get the best movies and they serve you too much food. So how difficult is it to get you in Cambodia? Look you will need a visa that is one of the hardest things if you've never done something like that you'll need a visa and a passport. So if you need a passport. But the ...Brad Crowell  Visa, I don't know, if the visa is the hardest part, then traveling to Asia is so easy. (Lesley: It's so easy because ...) Because it was just an application form, it was like 36 bucks, they get back to you in three days. You could even get a visa when you land in Cambodia.Lesley Logan  It's also like, you just go here's a picture of me for my passport and here's the dates I'm coming in. And here's the address, which is my house that you're staying at. Like, you know, the reason why we do the retreat the way we do it is because I want you leave, like take a flight after work on Friday. You'll get there with the time difference on Sunday. And then when you leave our house on Friday, if you decide to go other places I hope you do. We had this one mom who like never traveled internationally before by herself and she did and she like extended her trip with like four other places. But you can leave there on a Friday and be home on a Saturday see the whole day to get back and get used to like your current, your timezone at home. (Brad: Yeah) The the flights are ...Brad Crowell  We try to be conscious of that so that you can like take one week off of work (Lesley: Yeah) if that's what you need to do. But if you want to stay, you're already over in Asia, you can.Lesley Logan  And then hit real quick on this. My trick for traveling internationally is a suit whatever we get on the plane, I assume the timezone of where I'm going so that I don't actually have jetlag. And so like, if where are we, when we get on the plane, it's 11pm at night, our time and but it is like eight in the morning. Y'all if you hear dog stuff going on, these are not our dogs. And so just we're gonna leave it in because I gotta keep going. But the the I assume the timezone of where we're going so it's 8am there, I literally won't go to bed, Brad does. I like I stay up on like, it's the breakfast time I'm gonna have, I'll have coffee right now.Brad Crowell  No. What I do is I sleep on the plane. Like if it's I'll try to assume the timezone on the plane still. So that way I can sleep for six hours before we get off the plane to 8am. (Lesley: Yeah.) And then I'm not like dead tired.Lesley Logan  But my point is on that first leg, I assume it from that point on and so yes, that might mean that I'm like a little like bleary eyed and like watching a lot of movies. But then when it's like nighttime there I sleep on the plane on that time so that when we wait, we land, it's like, "Hey, I've been in this time for this whole time." And so I think you're, I think the, I think we put too much pressure like be build up the international travel be more than it is. It is like dealing. It's mostly like sitting on a long bus with great movies, and then standing in line ...Brad Crowell  Yeah, great movies and they serve you food and their are drinks, come on. Lesley Logan  And then you stand in a weird line and people stamp a couple things and then you're there and then you're there. So come it's not that hard to get to Cambodia. It's not that hard to do international travel. It just feels weird the first time and then you get really used to it and then any flight under 12 hours feels like a breeze.Brad Crowell  Yeah, if you actually want to join us, you can just go to lesleylogan.co/retreat.Lesley Logan  Okay, let's talk about Coach Lee.Brad Crowell  Okay, now let's talk about Coach Lee Hopkins. As a man who spent his entire life seeking connection and friendships Coach Lee has made, has made it his life's mission, to help people feel more in tune with themselves so that they can connect easier with others. He leans in his experience as a trans man to help people change past patterns to live their truth and form meaningful relationships.Lesley Logan  Yeah, I really, I really had a lot of fun as we said earlier in this episode. I had so much fun. I, Coach Lee, I hope that like we get to meet in real life. I hope we get to be friends. (Brad: Yeah) I hope that's not our last time having a conversation. It was just so fun to hear their journey. So one thing I love that they said was, how you allow rejection to grow you. So basically like, there was a lot of rejection in Coach Lee's life like, (Brad: Yeah) abundance amount of rejection. But instead of letting that like just live a lonely life of rejection, they actually figured out, he figured out like, what is this saying, and where am I going and what am I learning from this and it actually helped him grow and now he's doing this whole thing as a coach where he's really using that rejection to to change the trajectory of their path, and it's really, really cool. And it was a ... if you didn't listen to that part, you must listen to that part because it's so good. It's like it's just the best. So we've talked about the book before about rejection read ... I've talked about, we've talked about this before. So we've talked about Rejection Proof the book before, whose, by the way, the update on that author being on the pod, I got rejected. But it's not, it's not, it's not it never. It's just not right now. Anyways, I really, if you have a fear of rejection, I want you to do a rejection challenge. Brad actually has a course on 200 Noes if you need help with that. But it is, the more we can, you're going to be rejected more than you're not period. (Brad: Yeah) So the more you can actually excuse rejection to help you grow towards who you want to become in this world, the better. And I think Coach Lee is an example of that. So, I love that part.Brad Crowell  Yeah, really. It's very much a part of life. Right. Rejection, we all know this. And his story was not just that he was being rejected. But he figured out why he was being rejected, which leads to... What I really liked to what he said, is that hiding your truth will keep you stagnant. And he was very much being rejected, because he was hiding his identity, hiding who he was, and, you know, as a trans man. And I think that was, I really connected with that, because I remember when I was going through my divorce, for the better part of a year, I didn't tell anyone, I didn't tell anybody. Like, it took me a long time to even tell my closest friends who knew something was clearly wrong. They're like, "What the hell man? Like, you're not you right now what's going on?" You know, and I was I was unwilling to share. I was hiding this and after I shared with them, they were very supportive and encouraging. But I still hid it from anyone else. I didn't tell my colleagues, I didn't, you know, I certainly wouldn't talk about it to, you know, random people, when I was walking around doing whatever, I would just avoid that. And the reality is, it was helping, sorry, it was exacerbating this guilt that I had, hiding. When I was hiding this, you know, what was happening to me? I was actually, like, in my mind, that was making it more of a monster than actually even was. And I think that we, we do that to ourselves without realizing it, (Lesley: Yeah) you know, as you begin to embrace the, the reality of these, you know, of who you are and what's happening in your life. Whether that is, you know, you actually being becoming yourself, your true self. Like, like Coach Lee has, or, in my case, hiding, you know hiding something that was so profound in my life, like getting a divorce from, from someone who was part of everything that I was doing in life, it will affect you, when you hide that stuff. By then you when you start to embrace it, and work through that in your own head, it changes the story that you're telling yourself, it changes the story that you're telling others, it changes the way others perceive you. Instead of going, something's wrong with Brad, they, they can instead go like because even if they don't know me, and they don't know that they're gonna pick up on something, (Lesley: Yeah) something's weird.Lesley Logan  People are gonna, people people and also they people want to help you. Coach Lee ...Brad Crowell  I'm not being genuine either.Lesley Logan  No. But ... (Brad: You know when I'm hiding ...) Exactly. And that's and gonna people go, what's going on there. But also Coach Lee's friend is like, trying to give actual advice to make them feel better about their situation, but because they don't know the full story, the advice for that like, he probably was fucking great advice. But because Coach Lee is like you don't actually know the whole story. Coach Lee isn't even accepting the advice. So even if people (Brad: Right) are trying to be there for you, you're like, you don't know everything. So like it's it actually is keeping you from having real genuine relationships and also being exactly who you are. Like you're, it's affecting too many more compartments in your life rather than like, just you think it's all about you hiding something from other people, but protecting yourself but really, it's it's causing you to be protected from any experience of genuine around you.Brad Crowell  Yeah, I mean, specifically, building relationships, which is what he focuses on. You know, when when it became clear that by being honest and open about who he is, then he had a much different experience, building relationships with people. And I think the same thing was like that for me too, with with when I started to openly, when I stopped hiding the fact that I was getting a divorce, I felt immeasurably better as a person because it didn't have this, you know, dark thing in the closet, that was like eating me from the inside. You know, instead, I didn't need to talk about it. I wasn't trying to air my dirty laundry that's not what I mean. But the fact that I was always hiding and strategically maneuvering a conversation to avoid that specific topic, you know, like, I didn't have to do that anymore. (Lesley: Yeah) And that was like, such a relief. And I think that it came across so much in my personality, and my, you know, again, being genuine and, and it allowed things to be easier. And, you know, (Lesley: Yeah, I hear you.) Yeah, she's better.Lesley Logan  And, by the way, that's your, your version of hiding truth that's keeping you stagnant. If we're not relating, you're hiding your truth to anything that Coach Lee's hiding was. So just in case anyone's like, divorce is not the same as coming out as trans. We understand. (Brad: Yeah, yeah.) But I really think it's important that we share ...Brad Crowell  I don't even think. Yeah, I'm not trying to compare apples to apples there. My point is, if you're hiding something, you know, and that, and that, I think is you... it could be anything. And you know, it could could be anything. So ...Lesley Logan  Yeah. I agree. I concur.Brad Crowell  I concur. All right. Finally, let's talk about those BE IT action items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items, can we take away from your convo with Coach Lee Hopkins?Lesley Logan  You want to jump in?Brad Crowell  I would love to jump in. How do you know I was gonna jump in? (Lesley: I know.) All right, so I kind of was just talking about not not hiding things. But I also think that on the flip side of that is, be you. Be yourself. Right. But in order for you to be yourself, which I think is like a nice thing to say. I always, I never asked that before in this pod. How the hell do you do that? What does that even mean? (Lesley: I know.) Like, you know, so somebody who actually (Lesley: ... yourself and it's like, okay.) Be yourself, whoo, go you, you know, and it's like, okay, I don't know how to do that. I don't even I don't even know who I am. And (Lesley: Yeah) that I think is the root of it. And so in order for you to be yourself, you have to learn about you.Lesley Logan  And that goes into my like, what I freaking loved. Because like some, I've we've had the beginning of the pod people go, learn by yourself, get to know yourself. It's like, "How the fuck do you do that?" Like, "What do you do?" And I couldn't believe how Coach Lee put this this together with a nice little bow. It is called history, hobbies and habits. So you've got to know your history, you got to know your history, you have to understand what your hobbies are, and what your habits are, because then you know who you are. And then when you can, when you go out to meet other people, you can recognize similar history, similar hobbies, similar habits, or you can go, "Ooh, actually, that habit and my habit, they don't go together. They're like oil and water." So it's like you can actually connect with people on a much better level. When you know your history, your hobbies, your habits, and that might take some time of you actually going, "What do I do all day? What do I like to do?" And you know, if you've listened this podcast, I'm on a hobby hunt. I'm still on it. I'm still still on this hobby hunt.Brad Crowell  Well, one of the things that I wanted to, just take it back to learning about yourself, and the history, hobbies and habits is a great thing to just write all that stuff out, but so that you can see it and it will allow you. Obviously, Lesley and I talked about our dating story where we, we took a test called Strengths Finders. And that was incredibly revealing, as I've previously shared, but it actually helped me define me. And that was like, that was the first time I really ever done that other than me saying, "I'm a musician," because that was how I personally defined myself. But I didn't know, I didn't know me very well. And what Strengths Finders did was it gave me the tools. It gave me the language to describe myself in a way that I connected with finally and went, "Oh, yeah, I'm really good at these things." You know, and then another thing that I've been thinking about a lot and I was talking about this the other day is, we live in the attention economy. (Lesley: Yeah) Okay. You know, we think that dollars is where the that's the economy. Well, online, it's all about attention, eyeballs, ear balls, you know, like listening, watching, typing, participating is all about attention. And what I've noticed about myself is that I've been so infatuated with the idea of consuming information and learning. And you know, like, whether it's a podcast or an audio book or watching TV or you know, missing another Netflix show of which there's eight gazillion, how are you ever going to watch them all? What I'm, what I realized is that I actually, I never leave time for me to be alone with me. And I've been thinking about this, because I remember back in, maybe not in middle school, in middle school I was like a dark brooding teenager, and, you know, the world hates me. But in high school, I actually used to revel in being peculiar, it was very much part of my, the way I saw myself, but part of what I would do is I would disappear. I would just like, I would be unavailable to anyone for like an hour, and what I would do is I would go on a walk, and I would just sit down, like under a tree somewhere, and I would just be under the tree. And I, I remember that I used to do this all the time. You know, and I used to write in a journal, and I used to think, and reflect, sometimes I'd pull out my homework or read a book, but I would, I would set aside time for me. And I don't do that anymore. You know, and because I'm always listening to a podcast, or, you know, the news, or, or whatever. So, when you're looking back at yourself, and you're learning about yourself, you actually have to dedicate time to get to know you and to identify who you are.Lesley Logan  And it might take more than an afternoon of writing down your history, hobbies and habits. And it might take a couple of weeks reflecting on the history you wrote down, and why you wrote those parts down and the hobbies and like, why do you like these hobbies? Like, do you still do these hobbies and the habits and like, which of those habits do you love? And which of those habits do you want to change? Which habits do you aspire to have? And so, you know, it's like, you get to, it's gonna take, (Brad: It's a journey.) it's gonna take you longer than after this episode, like, you're just just and it's ... (Brad: Which is okay.) And that's okay and in fact, like being it till you see it isn't like, you turn a light switch on and like, boom, you're it, you did it. It's like, it's like, you just, you just keep going. You just keep going. So how are you going to use these tips in your life? Tag the be_it_pod, tag Coach Lee, let us know. I know it'll make his day to see what your takeaways were from his podcast. Actually, Michael Unbroken sent me a DM that one of you listeners sent to him, because you listened to this podcast and how this podcast affected somebody in your life. And so yeah, share it with someone, it could change their life. And it's important that we do that for people because maybe they don't come across these things and they need them in their life to go over how to get to know themselves. So tag us at the @be_it_pod and Coach Lee and let us know. And until next time, Be It Till You See It.Brad Crowell  Bye for now.Lesley Logan  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. 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Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Your inner child is how you find your voice Keep going, you'll get to your destination.‘No' isn't scary Rejected that leads to something better The importance of finding the right people Process of publishingWriting despite dyslexia BIO: Maggie Daniels is a poet, writer, and director passionate about storytelling through her raw perspective. She was born and raised in the bible belt. The notorious culture of southern grit and charm shines through her words giving readers a sense of home and familiar comforts. Maggie's work reflects the mountains of emotion one can experience with life, love, & loss in a way that is deeply honest and healing for those reading. Her mother used to tell her she was a magenta girl living in a khaki world, that analogy shows through in her work as a unique take on the human experience. Episode References/Links:Maggie Logic WebsiteFollow Maggie on InstagramSupport ‘Swimming'  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:09  All right, Be It listener. I've got someone special for you, Maggie Daniels is here. And I was really intrigued by her for a variety of reasons. But you're going to understand in a moment when she starts talking, but I actually find people who can take time to write very interesting. I think everybody, at some point has thought, "Oh, maybe a write a book, or might be nice to sit down and write something down." And then inevitably think we're not writers. We don't know what we're doing. And and then we get in our head, and then we think, "Oh, I can't do this." And we get impostor syndrome around it. So I just wanted to bring on Maggie to talk about how she got to where she is, and give you some advice along the way. So thank you for being here. Maggie, can you tell everybody who you are and what you're writing about?Maggie Daniels 0:51  Thank you so much for having me today. Yes, I'm, I'm a poet, writer, director. I use poetry for like the micro moments of emotion to process like what I'm feeling in the moment. And then I use screenplays to like, dive deeper into my psyche, like through the characters, like, "Why did this trigger me? Why do I feel this way?" And I am really glad you brought up the imposter syndrome and the insecurity because I had that for years, like I've been writing my whole life. And I never considered myself a writer. Isn't that crazy?Lesley Logan 1:25  That's that, it's crazy. And also, like, I completely understand it. (Maggi: Yeah.) You know,Maggie Daniels 1:29  Yeah. And it was one of those things I didn't go to college, I grew up very dyslexic, in a small town in the south, so I just didn't, internally, I just had this voice that wasn't mine in my head that said, "You know, you don't know enough words, you're not smart enough. Like, there's someone else with that job already." Like, you know what I mean? (Lesley: Yeah) And I remember my mother in law sent me this book. And I can't remember the exact name of it, but it had it had magic in the title, where it was like, a pun on words, like creativity is literal magic. And ideas, bounce around, like, if you don't use them, they'll go away and find someone else that will. And the crazy thing is that everyone's capable of it. Every human being, I feel like we were here to be creative not to work and pay bills and die. I feel like our soul needs to express itself in many forms, whatever that may be. And a lot of people don't realize that creativity isn't just making art, creativity is anything that drives you, and makes you want to get up and do something and make something like that could be crafting, that could be engineering, that could be anything making rockets. (Lesley: Yeah) Whatever drives you to want to create something, is I feel like the basic necessity of our souls.Lesley Logan 2:57  Ah, I mean, agreed. And I actually think like, that's becoming more and more something that a lot of people are talking about, like we're all born to be creative. And I think a lot of people that, "Oh, it's those left brainers or those right brainers" or whatever side of the brain it is. We'll go back to the neurologist who is on the show for that. But I don't, we weren't given like only half a brain, we have a whole brain, we can use it. And we we all have this ability to be creative. And I want to go back to the that voice in your head. Because I, I think that we all have that voice. And some of us have the volume turned up louder (Maggie: Yeah) on that voice and others. And it is, it's that voice that holds back some of the most amazing people out there. Because every single person has a story that can help somebody else like we learned through story, right? We learned, we don't remember, like statistics, but we remember the story that was told around the numbers. And that kind of helps us there. We can visualize that story. So, how did you get that voice volume to turn down enough for you to attempt what you're now doing?Maggie Daniels 3:58  Oh, man, it was a lot of different things. I really want to say I had to do with a lot of different influences. Gary Vee is one of them. I don't know him personally, but just following him on social media is a very positive mindset in person. And a lot of his like personality and his branding is he just puts out positive just, that's his vibe. And always he's just reminding the public like, "Hey, that voice in your head isn't you? Like, don't listen to it, like find the one that's you in there." And I was emotionally, physically and sexually abused as a child. So I had a lot of different voices in there. And it took me a while to tune out to remember which one was mine, but I kind of went back to like my five year old self, and that inner child, and I feel like that's how you find your voice, is it's your inner child, (Lesley: Yeah) and just have to listen for him because they're, they're quieted by all the noise. And the best advice I ever got was from my mentor, dir... film director and writer, Diane Bell. She told me do, "What you want, the rest is noise. So, listen to your inner child, that's your voice. And just go back to an age where you really felt your personality, like, started or like rounded out to your core to who you are." And for me, that was five years old. And from then on, I was who I am. And yeah, I feel like find that age, and that's your voice and you and you just whatever you're doing in life is to protect that part of yourself. Like, think of it as a separate entity, almost like your inner child is someone that you need to treat that you wish that you were the adult in your life kind of thing. (Lesley: Yeah) Like that you were there to protect them. And I feel like that's the first step of healing.Lesley Logan 6:02  Yeah, I think we also like, you just said that, like, we also like protect, sometimes we do things to protect them so much that it's actually holding us back. Like, (Maggie: Yes) does things help to get you to survive and get to this point. And then (Maggie: Yes) you know, and I think that's, um, I think that's really interesting. Like, I was talking with my own therapist, but I was like, when when the pandemic happened, I like fe... like was like, it was almost ease like, like, the world crashing down. And like, everything canceling on my calendar... (Maggie: It was relatable. I was like, "What is in my world?") Oh, I totally get this survival mode, check, guess what, but then, a few months later, when we moved and all this stuff, and, and she's like, "You know, you don't need to be in that mode anymore." And I was like, "Oh, I'm still driving in that mode." (Maggie: Yeah) And so it's like, it's so good that we can tap into that, it's so good that we have the ability to protect ourselves when needed, because, you know, sometimes you're walking down the street with like, maybe somebody you want to, like, have a contract, book deal, (Maggie: Yeah) or a screenwriting thing with and someone steals something at you, you don't exactly always get to just go eff off, whatever (Maggie: Yeah) you might have to like, just ignore that that happened to you. So it's good to have that ability to put those protectors up. But we also be able to take them down.Maggie Daniels 7:10  Yes, yes. And the key to that is, I feel like in a way you you find your inner child voice, you protect them, you let them know that they're safe with you. And then you show them that they don't have to be afraid anymore. And I (Lesley: Yeah) feel like that's a process of delayering all of that. (Lesley: Yeah) And I'm not sure where I am on that process. (Lesley laughs) But I have found so much relief with writing, especially with my film once I got done with the first draft, I really felt like things I've been holding on for years I just placed on the characters like they have to carry that shit. Now it's not mine. And it, ah I can't even describe it. It's just such a relief.Lesley Logan 7:51  So I find this really fascinating. So okay, first of all, because I lived in LA and so I was around people who everybody's writer, everybody's director, ever... And I I would love to hear your how you got into doing that. Because that is also like, that's there's like 1000 stories that people tell themselves every day in Hollywood. And they actually have the access and the means and the agents and like, "I don't know where you live right now." But like how how did you get about to writing, writing this film, and then getting it put together and where it is now?Maggie Daniels 8:23  Well, honestly, it was, it's been a long time coming. I've been working on it for about 10 years, because for so many of those years, I had that voice blocking me. And I it's like Donnie Darko, if you haven't seen it, there's this like thing that comes out of his chest, and he follows it. And that's how I feel with writing. I'm just being pulled from my chest. And I feel like there's so much pressure, if I don't write, I'm gonna burst. And that's really what motivated me to really keep the interest and really like work through the hard... the hardness of it. And once I sat down and really wrote the script, when I knew what I was doing, I had to sign up for a writing class because I was really insecure. I looked up the formatting, but I didn't know if like I had it right. And I booked a class with the writer, Diane Bell, and she changed my life. And it was the first time that someone came up to me and was like, "You get it. This is good. Like this is better than good. Like, this is something." And so I don't know having that outside voice and growing up being like emotionally abused. I've never had those like compliments. So it was like hard to process at the time. But it's it's really changed my life and the whole like the rest is noise that she always reminds me of it really is. I've I've had some highs and lows on this project, but it just keeps getting better. (Lesley: Yeah) And if you just keep moving forward. I like to think of it. It's an old old Christmas movie cartoon about Santa Claus that they play on ABC Family every year, I forget the name of it. But it might be Kris Kringle, but he has a song with the Father Ice. And it's one foot in front of the other. And if you just put one foot in front of the other, soon, you'll be walking across the floor, you put one foot in front of the other soon, you'll be out the door. And I feel that plays out in life, if you just keep going, you'll get to your destination.Lesley Logan 10:25  Oh my gosh, this is amazing. I feel like I'm like, so grateful for this conversation right now. Because you know, when you're in the middle, when you know all these things, like you know, all these things, I mean I know it. I know you have one foot, but sometimes you like get stuck. You just get stuck (Maggie: You do.) in your own head, (Maggie: You do.) you tell yourself a story and you're just like stuck in your own head. And like the story I'm telling myself right now is like, there's just like, we're not, we don't have enough time. (Maggie: Yeah, yeah.) And I, this is a story I'll that will come up, like, pretty much every other year. And it becomes like the thing. And it's such an interesting thing. Because I think a lot of people who are listening this will blame themselves because they should know better. (Maggie: Yeah) They like ... (Maggie: I feel that way sometimes too.) "I should know better. I tell my clients this. I tell my, I tell my kids, this. I, all these things," we read the books, (Maggie: Yeah) and but you, you know, we're not perfect people you (Maggie: No) cannot like and sometimes that voice that you thought you turned down found a way to like, untie hands (Maggie: tic tac) and it goes 'tick, tick, tick.' Let me, if I just do it a little bit at a time, they won't notice, they won't (Maggie: Yeah) notice the volume going up. And you know, I think it's um, it's so important to just remember that you are going to get in your own way. And it's so important that when when someone comes into your life in a moment to just say that one thing or there's a song playing like, like, it's, it's happening to help get you out of it. And if we just pay attention a little bit, we can go, "Oh," and then be forgiving, that we may be took a little longer to (Maggie: Yeah) remember that.Maggie Daniels 11:59  Yeah. I'm slowly learning that the word 'no' is not scary. It's not scary. Every 'no' leads to a better yes. (Lesley: Yeah.) You just have to get through it. And if if you find it hard to motivate yourself, find a community. (Lesley: Yeah) Even if it's just one person where you're like, "Hey, my weekly checkup. How's it going?" (Lesley: Yeah.) You it's really about community. And it's the whole who you know, not what you know, really in life who you know, really changes the game. (Lesley: Well you ...) For creativity or anything.Lesley Logan 12:38  I have to I want to go back to the fact that you like signed up for a class because I think (Maggie: Yeah) this is really key. I really like (Maggie: finding people) finding people. So here's the thing, I just interviewed this guy who John Molluro, Mollura. And he was a rocket scientist, who is a photographer, and he is now like he like he has been for many, many years, full time photographer, like, that's his thing, right? (Maggie: Yeah) That's how he pays his bills. And I had asked him, I said, well, like how, like, give me some like, "What your BE IT action item?" and he said, "You have to invest in your idea." (Maggie: Yeah) Like you have to hire someone. And that ... (Maggie: ... doing) Yeah, and that's where people get stuck. Because they'll tell themselves, "I don't have the money ... I don't have this or (Maggie: Yeah) this is why should I spend money on this as just a writing class." (Maggie: Yeah) Like people will say that as opposed to like, it's, you know, not something that like makes sense. But (Maggie: Yeah) if you invest in an idea that you have. You like first of all, you get someone who had more information than you have, there are few more steps ahead. And you're literally showing your brain and the universe and the people around you, "This means a lot to me."Maggie Daniels 13:45  Yeah. I spent my last like $300 on that workshop at the time. I had nothing to my name. And I just went every every week. And it gave me so much life and it's it's literally changed my life. And I don't want to go back to not pursuing my dreams. And the thing is people don't feel comfortable asking for help, ask for help. No one knows what they're doing. Everyone use Google for spellcheck like c'mom. Like we're in an age of it's so easy to find your community because of access online. Like you can find somebody that matches your energy, that you can communicate with, that's going to have the answer, you're looking for. Just pat get get through that discomfort if you're like shy, intimidated, like everyone's awkward, you know what I mean? But if you're just being genuinely yourself, the whole fake it till you make it, is it's expired. Everyone wants kindness, everyone wants a genuine authenticity. So just be yourself and ask for help.Lesley Logan 14:49  Yeah ... yeah, well and I read the the book - Rejection Proof this year and Oh, Maggie put it on your book list. I mean, like you mentioned like, 'no isn't a bad thing.' He went on 100 day like rejection journey. And he came up with like creative ways like to get rejected so he can get over his fear of rejection, because that's what people have the fear. That's what's holding them all back. And we and I definitely want to get into your poetry because I think like that right there. Like every time you get up and speak poetry, I feel like it's like comedians, anyone who does stand up, like you're just putting yourself up there to be rejected, because not everyone's going to like what you do anyways. So anyway, but the book he like, did crazy things like he knocked on people's doors in Texas on a super on like a football Sunday. I was like, "Hey, can I go in your backyard and take a picture of me kicking a ball?" And like, people were like, "Yeah." You'd be surprised. Like, I had said earlier in the year, I want the specific person on my podcast, if you know, her, helped me out. And then I was just like, "I'm just going to ask her myself." And she said, (Maggie: Yeah) "Yes." And I'm interviewing her next week. So like, I think, we pre reject. We like put the rejection there before it's even even happened before like it can even happen and then we build up this, this event that's going to happen that even if people actually reject your idea won't be as bad as you just dream up in your head.Maggie Daniels 16:13  Dude and it always can even lead to something better. Like don't even if you get rejected by someone don't burn that it's not a burn bridge is professionalism. Like it's not a burn bridge, you can still maybe spark a friendship, like my favorite rejection that I've experienced so far. Because I didn't know what I was doing. I didn't know it was like, not appropriate till just like send someone your script. (Lesley laughs) I didn't know that. So I was just sending people my script that I thought vibed with the story. (Lesley: I love you.) Yeah. (Lesley: Love that so much.) Poems and shit. I didn't know. And so at the time, it was during the pandemic, and the comedian, Byron Bowers was doing like, Zoom meetings. And it's just like six or seven of us from around the world that met every week. And we all like, had like trauma problems, and we all bonded on trauma and stuff. And one day, he was talking about city life, and it reminded me in my film, so I just sent him the quick dropbox link on Instagram, DM, and he immediately sent me back like a whole lawyer response, like, 'blah, blah, blah.' And yeah, totally professional it's fine. But my heart went into my ass, okay, like I was so just cringe embarrassed. And then my husband was like, "Oh, it's no big deal. Like, that's just like what it is. It's just professionalism." He just reminded me and I breathed it out took some dabs. I was like, "okay, namaste." And then the next morning, I just hopped on the group chat, and it wasn't like one awkward or anything. It was just like, keep pushing. And long term like six few months later. I was in LA, we go on a hike. We ended up becoming really great friends. Like, really awesome, dude. I love comedians now. Comedians are like, my favorite human beings. Comedians and musicians have (Lesley: Yeah) have the best souls, I swear to God. (Lesley Yeah) But yeah, so that experience for me, just makes me not scared of 'no' anymore, because now he's like, I just I appreciate his friendship. Like, you know what I mean?Lesley Logan 18:15  Well, and also like, I think it's, I think it's so great that you just showed up because you didn't make it a thing. And I (Maggie: Yeah) think like, the things are only there because we make things ...Maggie Daniels 18:27  Exactly, I made it up in my head. He didn't have any thought. And you know, like, there was nothing registered.Lesley Logan 18:33  Yeah, he sent you that response. Because probably there like if he reads that. And then somehow he makes a film and you're like, "Hey, I have that line on my thing."Maggie Daniels 18:41  I know. I'm ... he explained it to me, it's a thing. It's a thing. (Lesley: It's a thing. It's a whole thing.) I didn't know.Lesley Logan 18:45  Yeah. And so you know, but like, I love that you shared the story. And I loved how I love how the story has progressed in your life, because it is something we can all remember, you know, (Maggie: Yeah) like, some like, I just think it's interesting. We, I think anybody listen to this, who has held themselves some whoppers. I think you should go into writing because (Maggie: Yeah) look at what, look at the stories you've made up ...Maggie Daniels 19:08  And you know what's crazy? Is S                                                                                          wimming probably wouldn't have happened if I didn't keep going to that Zoom meeting. Because we talked about some really deep stuff. And one day he started talking about like, writing writers, and he was just asking, because he knew some of us wrote poetry in the group and wrote whatever, then he knew I was a writer because I embarrassed the shit out myself. And he was asking, you know, like, how many times a day do you write and that was the conversation like, if you like and I said how often I write. He was like, "Oh, that's pretty. That's pretty like that's like, above average." You know? I was like, "Yeah, I do have a lot sitting around like, I should just like what am I doing? I'm just sleeping on it." So like, because of that conversation with Byron like that week I got Swimming together and ended up publishing it later in the year. And when we went on that hike in LA, I brought him a copy. And there's actually a poem I wrote about the Zoom meeting. It's called Zoom. And Swimming, it's called the Zoom. But yeah, it's I haven't kept showing up and getting that creative input and inspiration from my own community of related minds. (Lesley: Yeah) I don't think I would be on this interview right now talking about my book.Lesley Logan 19:08  Well, let's so let's talk about that. So so Swimming is your book. (Maggie: Yeah) And so and you know, and y'all can get it. We'll put it in the link in the in the notes below. But how? Okay, so you just started, like, you went to these meetings. (Maggie: Yeah) And he, he told you like, "Oh, you're writing more than the average person." (Maggie: Yeah.) And it's so again, we go back to like, we talked about this a lot in the podcast for those been listening for a long time. We keep talking about surrounding yourself with people, like you have got a community around like you, you put yourself in a creative network, and you showed up. (Maggie: Yeah) And you not only do you get feedback, but you get ideas. (Maggie: Yeah) And so, so not only had had that not happened, you wouldn't have this book. So what made, what was the process? And like, how, how did you talk yourself into publishing? Because putting it all together, as one thing, (Maggie: Yeah) put it out for the world to read is a whole other thing.Maggie Daniels 20:56  Yeah. Okay. So first, I went to Google, because that's my best friend. And I Googled, like, "How to Self Publish?" And I didn't want to do to do Amazon because everything like Amazon to me, it's just books get lost, I mean, their number one retailer for books, I don't hate on ... I love the Amazon. But I just didn't ...We love Amazon, too. We got stuff on there, too. (Maggie: I just didn't want ...) In case Jeff is listening. Don't worry, Jeff.Yeah. I just didn't want to get lost in the massiveness of it. (Lesley: Yeah) I just wanted it to be a book only thing. So I looked into Barnes & Noble. And Barnes & Noble, if you go through Barnes & Noble Press, you can publish, self publish. And so they (Lesley: I didn't know this.) the book. Yeah, it's amazing. They print the book. And they don't take that much. Like I told my cousin has been an author for many decades. And she only makes a couple cents. And she's got trilogies, she only makes a couple cents. And I make like almost $4 per book through Barnes & Noble Press.Lesley Logan 22:25  And also, y'all just so you know, when you see like, self publishing is, like, when it first came out, we're like, "Oh, yourself," like, it was a thing. But now like, (Maggie: Yeah) a lot of writers are self publishing. Because when you go through a publishing company, there is a lot more input on what you're writing. (Maggie: Yep.) And you have to sell whatever amount pass your advance before you start getting paid on it. So it's, anyways, it's really is like six one way half a dozen other of course, if you get published by a publishing house, you know, obviously, there's other things (Maggie: Yeah) can happen for you. But we self published, I did it through Amazon. And, you know, we on the we don't do the Kindle version, that's where we, so that's where ...Maggie Daniels 23:09  I couldn't figure out the formatting to save my life.Lesley Logan 23:11  Well. And also like, you I couldn't price the book at a place that would get me more than 99 cents. And I this was like, I this the actual everything that went into this, my team, myself everything, like I just, I want you to value this book, because I want you to read it. And I do believe that when you pay for things like your class, (Maggie: Yeah) it was like your last $300. I do believe that. Because from my own experience, like (Maggie: Yeah) I paid for college, so you better believe was in fucking every class. (Maggie: Yeah. Yeah.) I was like, "This class is cost me $700. I'm not fucking missing.") (Maggie: Yeah, exactly.) So I, um, so I just really wanted my book because it's for for business people to actually be something that they read. (Maggie: Yeah) So we print through Amazon. And then if you want the e-book, you get it through our site. So it's just just a little bit more under our control. But I think that's so cool. So (Maggie: Yeah) like, y'all, all she did was go to her best friend Google, 'how to self publish', and then did some research. And now you're, Barnes & Nobles that's a big fucking deal.Maggie Daniels 24:09  I know. I feel classy as shit everytime I say it. Yeah. But Barnes & Noble and I got picked on. I couldn't read as a kid. Okay, I learned how to read through reading poetry. It just clicked for my brain. And so to be in Barnes & Noble, it just blows my mind.Lesley Logan 24:27  Can we talk about that? Because you were were dyslexic. Correct? (Maggie: Yes. Yeah.) Yeah. And so that again, just another story we can tell ourselves about reading and writing. And you are a script writer, a film writer, and you have a book and and tell me, so what about poetry? Because like, that is that one I think is the most the writing genre that most people are misunderstood about what poetry actually is. And I think more people can be poets than we think.Maggie Daniels 24:52  Oh, man, the thing I love about poetry is there are no rules. And I think that's what drove, well, I didn't get go to college. I'm sure there are rules. I follow up poets that are in college on Twitter and don't know what the fuck they're talking about. So sorry in advance. (Lesley laughs) But to me growing up, I got the impression that there are no rules and poetry. And I used to get in arguments with English teachers, because I would get pop quizzes during Poetry Month. And they'd be like, "How is this line supposed to make you feel?" And I'm like, "You can't fucking do that." You can't like you can't, you know there's no correct answer in that. (Lesley: Right) It's gonna make you feel how it makes you feel. And it's already done it's work for the writer. So don't worry about how the writer wanted it to be. It's done (Lesley: Yeah) its work for them. It's all about how it makes you feel in the moment. And I would get really heated about that. But poetry just it clicks for my brain. My mom was really passionate about tutoring me after school and I had tutors during school. Hated it at the time, I would come home and be like, "It's killing me." Yeah, that was really dramatic.Lesley Logan 25:56  Yeah, that's hard. Oh, that has to be hard. I mean, like, nowadays, if you have if you're dyslexic, there's like the schools are ready for it. But I don't know (Maggie: Yeah) how old you are. I feel like we're about the same age and like, my uncle was dyslexic. He's a doctor. Right. (Maggie: Yeah) But like, he really struggled because no, people just thought he was like he couldn't read.Maggie Daniels 26:14  Yeah, they just want to put you in on the short bus.Lesley Logan 26:16  Yeah. They're like, "Oh, there's something wrong with this kid. He can't read." It's like, "No, he can't... He's dyslexic."Maggie Daniels 26:21  Yeah, I just can't read it at the level there reading at, it's fine. And then I learn all this stuff. And then you grow up. And then professional businesses are spelling shit wrong. I'm like, "What was this even for?"Lesley Logan 26:33  I know. I do whenever I see an error. And I think I was reading one of Oprah's recent books. And there I've read the sentence three times. I'm like, "That was the wrong word. That there's something wrong with this word, like it's missing an R or something's (Maggie: Yeah) wrong here." And I was like, and I laughed so hard. I was like, I am, you know, like, obviously, you don't want to have the, like, you could put the wrong word with the wrong meeting. So you (Maggie: Yeah) definitely have the right meaning in there. But you can also spell word wrong, and it's gonna be okay. Because people's brains are just scanning anyways.Maggie Daniels 27:03  So, you know, I went over with a toothpick, my book Swimming so many times, but there's still one misspelled word and it eats me alive. I won't say it ... But that's my bad.Lesley Logan 27:16  You know, maybe, but it's also a part of the poet, poetry of it, right? It's part of the creativity of it.Maggie Daniels 27:21  Yeah, whenever I send my script for edits to my producer, he's like, "So many edits and my ..."Lesley Logan 27:29  Well, we had another writer on and she said, was worried about grammar (Maggie: Ah fuck them, fuck grammer.) And somebody said, somebody said, there's but that's why there's writers and there's editors.Maggie Daniels 27:40  Editors. Yeah. That's not my department.Lesley Logan 27:43  Yeah, just like, you know, so oh, my goodness, Maggie, you are really awesome. I mean, you know that but I really, I really do love this authenticity that you you bring up and I think I've even if somebody listen to this is not a writer doesn't want to be a writer, like you can relate so much to your story, which is like, we all have had times in our life where we didn't think we're good enough. And we all need people to remind us that what we have is good. (Maggie: Yeah) And it's and it needs to be out there. And I'm just so grateful for the angels that were put into your life to make sure that you did this so that you could share your story with our listeners today. Because they need to hear you, they need to hear this.Maggie Daniels 28:23  Definitely, definitely makes you feel a little less alone in the world when someone says something that makes sense to you.Lesley Logan 28:31  Yeah, well, we're gonna take a quick little break and then we're gonna find out how people can find you, follow you and read all of your work. (Maggie: Awesome.)All right, Maggie, where do you hang out? Are you on the socials? Where can people get to read more of your work in here and what are you up to?Maggie Daniels 28:48  maggielogic.com has all the links to my socials. Instagram is at @maggielogic, and you can buy Swimming at barnesandnoble.com. I'm currently sold out on maggielogic.com. I gotta order some more books. (Lesley: Yeah) But you can also check out the really awesome audio book on all music streaming services, Spotify, iTunes, YouTube, Amazon Music, all of them. It's really awesome. I teamed up with the composers Corey Campbell and Jenna Desmond out of Charleston, South Carolina and Mike Henderson and out of Colorado for recording studio. And it's masterpiece. I'm reading it and my my friends joke with me. They're like, "Who'd you, who'd you get to read your book." And I was like, "Me, I say it that in the beginning. And it's me." (Lesley laughs) I was in character. And that was the first time I read the book from cover to cover. And it was it was it was it took its toll. I did take some breaks. It was emotional. So shout out to voice ... voice-over artists. It's a lot.Lesley Logan 29:51  Yeah, that's that's a skill that I think a lot of be like, "Oh, I should like I should be a voice-over person." Like ...Maggie Daniels 29:57  It takes a lot out of you. It really does. (Lesley: Yeah) It really does. (Lesley: Yeah) It was fun. It was fun. It was fun.Lesley Logan 30:02  I hope that you do more work. I hope that you, I hope this is first of many, and (Maggie: Oh yeah. I got two more books coming out.) Ah, okay, keep us posted on that. (Maggie: Will do.) I definitely, I'm really excited about what you're doing. Okay. So before we let you go, BE IT action items, bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted steps people can take to be it till they see it. What do you have?Maggie Daniels 30:24  Definitely, number one, find your people because when you have your low days, you need that extra motivation and always show up for them and they'll show up for you. And number two, I would microdose your tasks. So just like working out 10 or 20 sounds a lot but you can do five and five sounds a lot, you can do four. So like just a couple minutes a notepad if you'd like to write or I just sometimes just write notes on my phone, you always have your phone on you. If that's your genre, you know if you want to write but yeah, just microdose your tasks and yeah.Lesley Logan 31:01  I like that. I like that a lot. Okay, Maggie, you're amazing. Thank you for being here and thank you for sharing your story and all that you're up to. I'm leaving very inspired. I hope everyone listening is, well how are you going to use these tips in your life. Tag @maggielogic, tag the @be_it_pod. Let us know and please share this podcast with someone. If you don't know how to share it on the on the gram, I get it like not everyone's a professional, social media person then text it, screenshot it, send it however you can because not only does it help our our guests out, it helps the podcasts up but most importantly helps all of the people in your life out. 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How have past rejections continued to influence the path you are on? What if you used the rejection instead to guide where you are headed? Listen in for LL and Brads thoughts on everything from turning rejection to success, distinguishing your balance role models, and defining a “pause”. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Updates and challenges for OPCDefining a “Pause” and acknowledging obstacles Naming the role models for balance From rejection to successLetting the Why lead you to the HowEpisode References/Links:The Body Keeps the ScoreInstagramTop Travel and Teaching Blog by Roxy  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:01  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast, where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life, Brad Crowell and I are going to dig into this persistent convo with Roxy Menzies in our last episode. Oh my God, I love her. If you haven't yet, listen to interview, feel free to pause this now, go back, listen to that one, come back on over and join us on this or listen to this, then listen to that. It's okay. There's nothing there's no perfect order. I am really excited because a couple things have happened. We have wrapped up our Control Your Balance Challenge, which was a lot of fun. We've had so many people sign up. And I just really love helping people realize that you don't have to actually get the exercise, you can actually replace the exercise with any exercise that builds you up along the way.Brad Crowell 1:28  But this one was still a fun one to dig into. I mean, this is like one of the the, I always just compare it to doing a handstand for Yogi's. Right? (Lesley: Yeah) Like that's like the, the, the pinnacle that's like the you can do everything from that point. Not necessarily true. But that's what everybody thinks about, "Oh, man, you know, you're not a good Yogi until you've nailed this move. We tried to pick the same one that people have that view for Pilates, (Lesley: Yeah) which isn't true. But still, it's the big, it's like a big pose people avoid. Lesley Logan 1:56  Yeah, either either scares people and they never do it, which is fine. If you're never like, there might be reasons why you are never going to do it. There was a person Instagram was like, she used to love it. And now because of something going on her body, she can't do it anymore. That's fine. (Brad: Yeah, yeah.) Because I believe it's brave and courageous to just replace that exercise with another one you can do. So that's what we really help people do like whether they if they whether or not they did that exercise, control your balance, control balance off, they have now an exercise they can do during that time to get them there. It's like it's like people doing handstand on a wall (Brad: Right) or doing what someone where you put your feet, L pose ... (Brad: Yeah. L pose.) Like you get to do that instead so you don't feel like, "Oh, I have to sit this one out." Nope, you keep moving. SoBrad Crowell 2:35  Well either way, I mean, having, you know, all the community in the Facebook group, and then everybody on Instagram, you know, really supporting each other. And, you know, encouraging each (Lesley: Yeah) other to work through this challenging pose was a lot of fun.Lesley Logan 2:53  Yeah, it was a lot of fun and thanks to my OPC teachers, Rachel, Tammy and Mindi for helping me encourage everyone and give them tips and strategies along the way. We are also packing the van backup because we are leaving for Momentum Fest.Brad Crowell 3:07  So if you want to join us for the Full Body in 15 challenge, just click the link in the show notes here. And you'll be directed to get on the waitlist for that.Lesley Logan 3:16  Yeah, that one's really fun. It is a full body workout in 15 minutes. All you need is a mat so you don't have to have access to reformer like our last one.Brad Crowell 3:23  Yeah, and if you're if you're new to Pilates, that one is perfect for you. We're going to (Lesley: Yeah) be starting with the foundations.Lesley Logan 3:28  Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Okay, so clearly I'm really excited about our trip. (Brad: Yeah) I'm really excited because this is, so we love Momentum Fest. If you listened in our last recap, we talked about how much we love Momentum Fest. If you haven't heard that, go back and listen to it. But really what I'm so excited about is we have made it a new tradition on our way to Momentum Fest. We take a little pause, (Brad: Yeah) and we like see some sights, then we work and then we see some sights on my home. So this time we are gonna go we're not camping. But we are staying in the Mesa Verde cabins overlooking this incredible National Park. We're gonna get a nice pause. A lovely relaxation. (Brad: Yeah.) Some hikes in. And we're gonna and then on our way back. I think we're gonna try to dig up our own crystals. I think (Brad: That's a...) I think Brad is researching that.) Brad Crowell 4:10  I'm working on that in, so the Mesa Verde National Park is in Colorado. And if you haven't seen pictures of that, just Google that really quick. They have like a full blown city was carved into the Butte, the site of a Butte by the first tribes here. Back in the day, like I don't know, thousand years ago here (Lesley: Yeah) and I didn't know that we had that in the United States. I have been chasing temples all around the world. And then we had it in our own backyard. (Lesley: Yeah) So we're staying there and then on the way back in Utah, we're working on hopefully finding a spot where we can possibly dig up some crystals ourselves. (Lesley: I know.) That'd be really fun.Lesley Logan 4:52  I know. So anyways, which kind of leads into this week's audience question.Brad Crowell 4:56  Oh, great. Yeah, so that question would be, "How do you take a pause when you don't have time or money?"Lesley Logan 5:08  Yeah. So I am really glad that this question was asked, because first of all, it takes a lot of vulnerability. Because it (Brad: Yeah) takes it takes you acknowledging that, you know, you need the pause. And also you acknowledging the obstacles that are in your way from doing it. (Brad: Sure.) And part of those obstacles are not going to, I think some people would say, "That's the story you're telling yourself." And I can understand that the stories we tell ourselves, I also think that that is a little flippant, and not acknowledging that some people, and I was one of those people. I didn't if I had the time, I didn't have the money. And if I had the money, I didn't have the time. (Brad: Sure.) And so if you find yourself in that position, we've been there, sometimes we're there. And so I really am grateful for this question, because I think you're not the only one, wondering how to take a pause when there are restrictionsin your ability to do that. So,Brad Crowell 5:57  So, I think first we need to define a pause. (Lesley: Yeah. Well, what's the pause to you?) Well, I think in the context, here, we were just talking about our drive. So obviously, that requires the ability to take a day off. (Lesley: Yeah) A full day off. Right. So that may not be an option. And so I think that we can change the definition of what we consider a pause. I think once a year, getting a true proper vacation, disconnecting from the way we run our lives and whatnot is really important to do. And maybe that's camping. And (Lesley: Yeah) because that's, like financially viable. If that ...Lesley Logan 6:39  That's what my parents did, we couldn't take vacations, we didn't have, I think they got us to Disneyland once. But like (Brad: Yeah) we went camping because it was $5 a night.Brad Crowell 6:47  Right. Yeah, same for us. We might, I grew up absolutely camping up and down the East Coast. Because my parents didn't really have money to take us the places.Lesley Logan 6:59  I'm picturing some of our listeners right now and going, "No way guys that cannot be the answer to my question."Brad Crowell 7:04  No, but I think the idea there is it's something that's not financially, like a huge financial burden. You know, but but what I was gonna say is, I think it's important to take a a true, like multiple day disconnect from the life that we've built for ourselves once a year. But your disconnect your pause could be much smaller than that.Lesley Logan 7:27  Yeah. And also so I think I love that question you posed like, what is a pause? I think first of all, that is like the definition of success. You need to define what a pause is for you first, (Brad: Yeah.) And then you need to look at the time and or money aspect of that pause. For me, I strip it down to a pause is you can't get a hold of me. I'm not expected to do what I do. Like if I don't want to do my morning routine. I don't need to do it. If I don't want to look at my email. I'm not expected to do it. Like a pause is everyone knows. LL is unreachable in this moment. And, and sometimes it's two hours. You know, sometimes it's like literally, (Brad: Right) like, my week got too busy. And I'm like, you know what, if I have to do that thing on Saturday, guess what? Friday afternoon, I'm done at one. Do not ask me to do anything. And I put a pause in there. So they don't have to be multiple, I do agree that everyone needs once a year where you really do get out of your like really get out of it. We we've definitely had the times where we've had the money but not the time or the time but not the money. (Brad: Sure.) And so here are some ideas for you, swap houses with a friend like (brad: ohh) literally go like go swap houses. So it's like an Airbnb, but you didn't have to deal with it. You can check in whenever you want. You can do, you can bring a dog if you want. You can have more ...Brad Crowell 8:37  Did you say swapped dogs? No, no.Lesley Logan 8:39  No, no. Swap houses. Swap houses. Some other things I would say is like, you know what we're doing to go Momentum Fest. We have to work on Momentum Fest. So that's not a pause. But we can actually make the time there. And the time back a pause ...Brad Crowell 8:51  Yeah, we can add an extra day to our drive one day on each end so that we can have time for ourselves. Yeah.Lesley Logan 8:58  Yeah. So and also, like, just when we're recording this podcast, I, I did not have five days in a row to pause. There was work that needed to get done, like recording this podcast. So I had a couple days paused. And then I had a day where I'm working here. And then we're going into pause again, (Brad: Yeah) like and it's so, just being clear on what that is ...Brad Crowell 9:18  For me when I was working my job, which was really high stress all the time. And it was like a lot of difficult energy to be around. I would take a pause every single day during my lunch break, and I would walk twice around this massive block. First off, it gave the dog the chance to get out and walk around. But also it was a, it was a relief from the intensity of the surroundings that I was in. And it was my moment of like big, (Lesley: Yeah) big deep breath so that I could prepare myself to go finish the rest of the day.Lesley Logan 9:51  I love that. So I think first of all, first thing figure out what a pauses is for you. Second, figure out what is like get creative. Maybe it's you go on a hike in a different hike each week that you've never done before, even (Brad: Sure) each month, maybe like, I really do think a pause is like you don't have like people can't get a hold of you like that, to me is a true pause. (Brad: Yeah) Leave your phone behind and go on a walk around the block. Just some other things, there are utility bills and bills, you have to pay every single month, I highly recommend putting them on a credit card that you pay off each month for utilities that allows you to get points, that allows you to apply those to hotel rooms and flights. (Brad: Sure) Because if you don't have money, or like the money aspect, a lot of the times you see me a hotel room 'points baby' points. (Brad: Right) And that's because, you know, I, I need I need to change my surroundings to get creative. And yeah, I don't always have the means to change them with with actual money, but you're always paying your Netflix bill, you're always paying your utility bills, like just put them on one of those things, and then rack them up and then treat yourself.Brad Crowell 10:55  Yeah, and I was gonna say, you know, changing your environmentc a lot of times. I used to do this all the time, I would go work from a coffee shop, (Lesley: Yeah) you know. And it might ...Lesley Logan 11:06  It's not a pause, but it's a way of pausing.Brad Crowell 11:09  It did, it was a it was a it was a change up of my work environment. (Lesley: Yeah) So, you know, and that, you know, still cost you 15 bucks or whatever if you've had a sandwich and a coffee, but you could sit there for a couple hours and you're (Lesley: You're changing environment.) changing environment.Lesley Logan 11:22  So homework, I want to hear from you listeners. (Brad: Yeah.) What is your definition of a pause? (Brad: Yeah.) And then what are you going to do in the next three weeks to make that version happen.Brad Crowell 11:34  In the next three weeks, literally making a decision (Lesley: Yeah) today that you're going to (Lesley: Yeah) incorporate a pause in. (Lesley: Yeah) We want to know about your pause.Lesley Logan 11:41  Yeah. Tag us in your pause. (Brad: Yeah) Yeah. I love that. (Brad: Yeah) Oh it's a fun game, we just made up. Okay. (Brad laughs)Brad Crowell 11:49  Okay, now let's talk about Roxy Menzies. From traveling the world teaching and presenting and performing, Roxy is now back in her hometown of Toronto, as a freelance writer and a storyteller in the realm of health and wellness. She is a mother of a cute rambunctious toddler (Lesley: Oh, I love her.) and is making it her mission to guide, educate and create safe spaces for individuals to explore their own movements.Lesley Logan 12:16  Okay, one thing I love that she said is naming the role models of balance. So this is, she was we were talking about balance at the time and like finding balance and as like, "How do you find balance, you're a mom?"Brad Crowell 12:25  When you say balance, you know, like a work life, work life balance (Lesley: Yeah) kind of thing? (Lesley: Yeah.) Yeah, yeah.Lesley Logan 12:29  Life work balance is more alphabetical. And also more intentional. But yeah, she so she talked about naming her role models of balance and like, what what, like Obama, Michelle Obama do and like all this stuff, and I think (Brad: Right) like insert any, anything you're wanting more of in your life, and then pick role models for, let's say, what was I listening too? Maybe I was talking to someone. Anyways, oh, there was something there or someone's like, I have a board of directors, oh, I was listening to another podcast and they're talking about Napoleon Hill. And he had his own, like, board of directors that he would talk to, they're not a real board. They're like a made up like mastermind (Brad laughs) of like people and it was like Napoleon Hill. So from, like, 100 years ago, so it was like, like, hoover and rows of and I'm gonna go like people (Brad: Right) like, like, think about who are the people that you're trying to aspire to have? What they have in that thing? Balance, success, love, money, mindset, things like that. And then have those people like actually, like, think about, like, what would they do? So that would help guide you and what you can do. I fucking loved it. I thought it was great.Brad Crowell 13:33  I love that. I but I also think the role model, you know, she was saying, "I'm a mom, and I'm a writer, and I'm a teacher and a spouse and I'm," what are all the all the things, right? And she's like, "I, I decided, I needed a role model." And so she chose Michelle Obama. And what a role model, right? Because, (Lesley:Yeah) wow, First Lady, being a mom, to the Pres... you know, like married to the President and raising kids in the White House with (Lesley: How does she balance?) like, how could you have any balance in that in that role? And, you know, they they made it through eight years of that and that's incredible. So what an inspiration, what an inspirational person to choose as a role model. So, you know, you can name your own role model too and and then you can be ...Lesley Logan 14:24  lt's like Hazel Ortega, like (Brad: Yeah) J.Lo is her, J.Lo is her mentor. Like ...Yeah. J.Lo is her mentor. Sure. Exactly.Yeah. I loved it. I think it's great. So anyways, I'm into it. And I think we should all be like creating our own like, little board of people that we're going to act as if.Brad Crowell 14:40  Yeah, one thing I love that she said was that you will be rejected in life more than not. (Lesley: Yes, that is so true.) And I never think I've ever really thought about it, although it's quite logical because I'm such a huge fan of of getting rejected to success.Lesley Logan 15:00  That's so and everything's a numbers game anyways, and like (Brad: Right) you put it, you couldn't keep, you think you're busy now, you couldn't keep up with all the, all the, all the getting everything you ever wanted all the time, you just couldn't keep up with it, it wouldn't be possible.Brad Crowell 15:14  Right. Totally well, even even so just the idea that we will be rejected more than than accepted. She was specifically talking about it as a writer and submitting her articles and, you know, connecting with, with the editors and all that kind of stuff. And she, I mean, just saying this out loud, should be a relief, right? Like, "Hey, the here's, here's the reality, will be rejected more than not." And so it kind of allows you to reframe that and look at it in a different way with a different mindset. (Lesley: Yeah) Where, okay, cool it, you know, yes, this probably sucked in the moment, and I'm really disappointed and frustrated. But it's, you know, this is not, this is this is normal.Lesley Logan 16:02  Yeah. And also, you're gonna reject more things than you're gonna say, 'yes', so just like, (Brad: Sure) just know, like, you know, I have to, I have to reject people who want to be on a pod. And I'm like, I feel like, I feel like an asshole because I know how it feels to be rejected. But also, that's part of the lesson that we all, the rejection is part of the lessons we have to learn in this life to get us to the next thing we have to do, and we just have to reframe how we think about it.Brad Crowell 16:23  Yeah, yeah. And she specifically said, she allows herself to feel the feels. And I thought that was really cool because, you know, she said, "I don't do it publicly but I leave myself some space to get frustrated and be angry and say, 'I'm so upset about this', and then move on." (Lesley: Yeah) You know, but feeling the feels is important because well I mean, I know you have spoken about this before, but, you know, if you don't allow yourself to actually feel it and express it, it doesn't mean you didn't, it's just going to be bottled up inside. (Lesley: Yeah.) Right. And, and like, (Lesley: Yeah.) paying attention to that frustration, that stress, that fear, that anger, that whatever, in, you know, for a moment in the moment, will really help you work through that energy.Lesley Logan 17:18  Yeah, and, and, y'all, you don't have I'm not the science behind this. But there is a book called The Body Keeps the Score for a reason. You have to feel your feelings, otherwise your body is going to hold on to it. So just (Brad: Yeah) it's important. Okay, I love her. Let's go on to the BE IT action items.Brad Crowell 17:37  All right. So what bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items, can we take away from your convo with Roxy Menzies? I will start off she, she said, "Get really clear on your why, and your what?" Now, of course, she again, the context here is she's becoming a (Lesley: She is a writer.) she is a writer, so but she, like in the process of becoming a writer. She said, it didn't start off that way. Where she was like, "I'm going to pursue this as a career goal." And then suddenly, there was like, a light bulb moment of like, "Oh, this could be an actual decision for me to pursue." And so she began to get clear on she on the 'what', like, she loves writing, always enjoyed writing, and then started writing, even though she's not like, didn't go to school for it or any of that stuff. But once she landed that first gig, it was like, "Oh, this could be a real thing." And then the 'why', you know, for her just guessing here, but she can be home with her, you know, two and a half year old (Lesley: Yeah) or be traveling anywhere on the world because I know that she used to do a lot.Lesley Logan 18:49  And she can influence more people with her words, and she could with her teaching and so like I what I loved about this too is like, notice the word how isn't in there? I think most people (Brad: Right) focus on "How am I going to do that?" But if you can't but how everything I learned the 'how' comes, you have to focus on the 'why,' you're doing it and the what it is you're doing and the 'how' kind of reveals itself.Brad Crowell 19:12  Yeah. Wow, that that, I'm going to take notes on that for me, (Lesley: Yeah) for me personally, that's, that's some ...Lesley Logan 19:18  Oh, made us influence Brad right there. (Brad laughs) All right, what about you? I mean, my biggest takeaway is don't let the rejection keep you from other goals. So this kind of goes on to like, she fills her feelings and then she moves on. I really have seen too often and myself included, we get rejected, and then it stops us from working on other things. (Brad: Oh, shuts shuts us down.) This is like a big extreme version of this as the people who get rejected and they just don't leave their house again. Or they like, do you know what I mean? Like they stopped showering and they stopped taking care of themselves but like (Brad: Sure) like even on like you might not be that person because you have other things you have to do that keep you getting out the door. But I think a lot of people get rejected and then they just don't put themselves out there again. (Brad: Yeah.) And so like, like they talked to someone at a coffee shop about doing something because it's like, no, and like, it didn't work. And it's like, well, it didn't work in that moment. It doesn't mean it doesn't work ever, you know, and I think reject... rejection, as you mentioned, is like it's gonna happen. And I'm really hoping to get the author of Rejection Proof on here someday, you know, because it he, he really inspired me. I had a lot of noes from a lot of people that I found really important and influential on my life that I actually know. And they told me 'no', and I, so I hadn't reached back out to them. Well, it's been a year, I have 100 episodes, we're in the top 2.5% of podcasts in the world, like, they should want to be on my show. (Brad: Sure.) So I should go ask them again. And and so, you know, I realized then that their rejection had stopped me from pursuing them again. (Brad: Yeah.) And or pursuing people at their level again. And so I think it's really important that we don't let a rejection of something in a moment stop us from other moments and other things.Brad Crowell 20:57  Yeah. You know, and I think, well, I think you summed that up, actually, really nicely. I was, I just wanted to say before we sign off here, when Roxy was on the episode before this, she mentioned the course that she wrote for Profitable Pilates, (Lesley: Yeah) and if writing for a publication is of any interest to you, and that's something that you know, to actually go get paid for. Wow, what a course she has, it's incredibly detailed. She goes through a lot of the ...Lesley Logan 21:32  It is the one of the best course we have on our site. Hands down.Brad Crowell 21:34  Yeah. She she has gone through all the challenges of starting off as someone who has had an aspiration of being a writer to actually like, going through all the steps over the past couple of years. And she she kind of lifts the lid on on on it and like how it works and what you can do to participate. So can't recommend this course more. Just go to profitablepilates.com/courses. And you can find it in there.Lesley Logan 22:02  Yeah. Well, I love Roxy. Thank you so much for being on. I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell 22:06  And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 22:07  Thank you so much for listening to our podcast. How are you going to use these tips in your life? We want to know, inquiring minds, really want to know. So ... (Brad: These two inquiring minds.) These two and I know Roxy, too. So what you're gonna do is you're gonna screenshot this episode, you're going to post it on your social, you're gonna tag the @be_it_pod, you're going to tag @roxyspiral. And you're gonna let us know what your takeaways are. And if you're like, "I have no idea how that even works." I get it. Not everyone does Instagram for a living. So you can just text it to a friend, (Brad: Yeah) that's fine. And you can just write into the show if you want that, all those links are below. But it's really important to us that you are taking some messy action, you're ditching perfection and you are Being It Till You See It.Brad Crowell 22:44  Bye for now.Lesley Logan 22:46  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day!'Be It Till You See It' is a production of 'As The Crows Fly Media'.Brad Crowell 23:19  It's written, produced, filmed and recorded by your host Lesley Logan and me, Brad Crowell. Our Associate Producer is Amanda Frattarelli.Lesley Logan 23:30  Kevin Perez at Disenyo handles all of our audio editing.Brad Crowell 23:35  Our theme music is by Ali at APEX Production Music. And our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 23:43  Special thanks to our designer Jaira Mandal for creating all of our visuals (which you can't see because this is a podcast) and our digital producer, Jay Pedroso for editing all video each week so you can.Brad Crowell 23:55  And to Angelina Herico for transcribing each of our episodes so you can find them on our website. And, finally to Meridith Crowell for keeping us all on point and on time.Transcribed by https://otter.aiSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's hard to hear “NO” from a perspective client.  Rejection is one of the reasons people quit on themselves and their careers. Joe Pici shares how to avoid taking things personally and move on to the next sale. 

In this episode, I open up as to why I had this crazy idea for the next 100 days to document my unlearning journey publicly. I talk about the journey I have been on to birth The Unlearning Lab and what pushed me to peel back the curtain and go even deeper in unpacking the toxic thought patterns that haven't been doing me any favors. In this solo episode, I talk about the spiritual experience I had in Sedona back in January to navigating all of the self-doubt to then recently reading a book (Rejection Proof) recommended to me that catapulted me into this experiment. At the time of recording, I am up to Day 6 of the challenge. I'm positive something will shift in my confidence and yours - but I'll let you know in the next 94 days. If you are interested in learning more about The Unlearning Lab, head to https://enoughlabs.com/the-unlearning-lab/ Doors are open now!

Saya membahas buku Rejection Proof karya Jia Jiang. Buku ini membahas bagaimana caranya agar kita bisa mengalahkan rasa takut ditolak dan melihat penolakan dari perspektif yang lain. Seringkali kita melihat penolakan sebagai hal yang personal dan melukai hati kita sangat dalam. Namun perlu diingat, ketika kamu ditolak seseorang, itu bukanlah gambaran seutuhnya tentang dirimu. Misalnya, kamu dipecat karena pekerjaan kamu buruk, kamu tidak kompeten, dan sebagainya. Itu bukanlah pandangan seutuhnya kalau kamu adalah karyawan yang payah. Namun itu hanyalah pandangan pribadi orang tersebut. Orang yang berbeda, mungkin saja akan memberikan respons yang berbeda. Inilah yang harus kita pahami apabila kita ingin melihat penolakan dari sudut pandang yang lebih sehat.

I don't know about you, but one of my biggest dreams is to one day have a library in my house. I read all kinds of books because I love getting lost in a great story. Today I'm sharing my top 3 books to tame that inner perfectionist. As a recovering perfectionist myself, perfectionism has served me well in many ways. It helped me make it through university and my grad degree. It helped me get my dream job right out of college. It also helped me start my own business. But sometimes my inner perfectionist holds me back. I've spent the last few years learning to overcome my perfectionism and these three books have helped me build tools and strategies that work. Listen as I share my thoughts on Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang, Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo, and Becoming by Michelle Obama. The three books I recommend most for overcoming perfectionism and finding balance in work and life.Show Highlights[01:55] Welcome to the Bold Life Community for recovering perfectionists.[03:22] How I built my business to leave my hospital job. [04:49] The struggles you face when starting a business. [05:43] My first book to read when overcoming perfectionism is, Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang. [07:34] Book number two is Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo.[09:53] Last but not least is Becoming by Michelle Obama. [13:12] These books have fantastic tips and strategies to help you beat back perfectionism. Subscribe Today!Apple PodcastSpotifyAndroid

Episode One-Hundred-Sixty of The LIFTED Life Podcast: Rejection Proof?   In this week's show we talk about shifting the way you think about rejection in order to live a more expansive, daring life.   Whether we realize it or not, fear of rejection is at the core of many reservations we have....   Tune into this week's show for a fresh new perspective and to get inspired!  Episode 160 of The Lifted Life Podcast is brought to you by Lifted Naturals MOOD Probiotics. With FOUR different formulas formulated to help with mood, digestion, and immune support, we are confident you'll find a Lifted MOOD you'll love. We believe we deserve to feel better, naturally.   Website: https://www.liftednaturals.com/   Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/liftednaturals/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/liftednaturals/   Twitter: https://twitter.com/liftednaturals   Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/liftednaturals

You are not rejected!  God has accepted you and wants you to overcome the rejection that you have faced from those around you.  Join host Danette Crawford as she teaches about becoming "rejection proof" and shares real life applications from the personal testimony of friend, Pastor Sherry Forbes.

The Ideas and Concepts Mastermind (Facebook Group)SecondMix.netmatt@secondmix.netSummary and review of the book Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang. A little bit of a format change for this episode, here are some stories about times I've been rejected, and the toll it took on my life. 

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Book Review: Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang This is a throwback to The Heavy Revy Show days! Listed below is the link if you want to watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/pGnXUD7u81c Order the book: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=rejection+proof&gclid=Cj0KCQjwi7yCBhDJARIsAMWFScNGRe-2Kong_SY9Mw7Cua-vXiF70PBxuT0UbGUDBBZsMSgxU3aa1v0aAqOoEALw_wcB&hvadid=241620604454&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9029007&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=15950063661831235402&hvtargid=kwd-19496680224&hydadcr=22534_10353871&tag=googhydr-20&ref=pd_sl_5823q9x1u4_e --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/josue-ibarra4/support

I was rejected - turned down to get my songs published in 1994. In 2017, I was turned down again for newer, different music. With no success,  I decided I just wasn't cut out for this business. Had I reflected at all on what happened in 94, I would have been in a much more solid position in 2017 -but I never analyzed what happened. Here's what I learned. I'm in the process of doing an in-depth book review of Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang. The past couple of weeks is it has me reflecting on some of my past rejections and how they stunted my growth as an entrepreneur, but also some ways that those rejections have helped me 26 years ago, when I was 21 years old, I wrote three Christian songs. My parents bought me a, it was one of those public TV auctions, and somebody was giving away recording studio time. My parents bought it for me and I went and recorded these songs in a professional studio. That was my first studio experience and I loved it. So I got the songs. I brought them home. I had the tape, I made copies of the tape and I went and got the writer's digest for songwriters.I created some nice little folder packages, and I sent the tapes of my recordings to about 10 publishers after doing some research in that guide over the next few weeks, I got three rejection letters in the mail and never heard back from the other seven. The rejection letters went, something like this, sorry, you're not, this is not what we were looking for. And I took that to mean you suck after being rejected. I decided I just wasn't cut out to be a songwriter. I gave up and started looking at other avenues that I could take to make money with my music in his book. Your next five moves. Patrick bet. David said, if you're going to lose, don't lose the lesson. But back then I was 21. I was foolish and I lost the lesson. I should have reflected, but I just didn't know enough.At that young age, I wasn't hanging out with the right people. I was pretty reserved. So I didn't really about my problems or my emotions all that much. And I didn't seek any outside counsel. I didn't ask my parents. I didn't ask my pastor. I didn't ask anybody that I knew how to resolve this. I just decided I must suck as a songwriter. My first three songs that I ever wrote got rejected. So I've got to find something else to do. Had I sought out counsel, I would have hoped that they would have said something similar to what I would tell people today, which is that you continue writing music, continue submitting to publishers, call the publishers and songwriters and other people in the industry to find out how to do this, how to get this done, what skills do you need to learn in order to make it, and then go learn those skills and you keep trying and you keep figuring it out.But back then, it was a lot easier for me just to say, I'm just not cut out to be a songwriter. And I did that after only three rejections. Here's a side note. It's really weird when I'm talking about past regrets and changing the past. Because at this point I love my life. I love where I am and I love where it's life has taken me to this point. So to go back, I wouldn't change anything because it would influence where I am and what I'm doing today, but for good or for bad, the lessons we learn can only be applied forward. It's unhealthy to keep wishing things were different to keep mentally applying the lessons backwards, but it is important to do that analysis and reflect so that in the future, you don't make the same or similar errors in thinking and similar errors in judgment.My mentor, Joe Herbert from the job free economy podcast said that making mistakes is what is holding you back. If we could go through life without making any mistakes, we would constantly just be moving towards success. I believe that in stick to it. And I look for things that are going to help me avoid mistakes. I do that now, but I didn't do it back then. And speaking of making those&

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In this episode, I'll talk about a fear that holds so many of us back - the fear of failure. Have you ever held yourself back from trying something new or going after your dream because you were scared of failing? Listen in to learn one action item that you can do today to start training your brain for confidence.It's scary to fail because failure brings up so many negative feelings and thoughts. We are usually scared to take that leap because we don't want to mess up! However, did you know you don't fear failure? What you actually fear is being judged for failing.Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang tells the story of how he goes after his dream of being an entrepreneur, then fails! Then he sets out on a quest for 100 days of rejection, trying to purposefully fail and get rejected 100 times, in order to learn why we are so scared of failure and how to overcome this fear. Find out the science behind the fear of failure and rejection, why your brain works best when on a team, and why your brain is designed to make other people like you.Show Highlights[01:22] Have you held yourself back from trying something new because you were scared of failing?[02:24] What you actually fear is being judged for failing.[04:38] The science behind the fear of failure and rejection.[08:40] What happens when we want everyone to like us.[11:44] The result on your self-confidence when trying to get everyone to like you.[12:39] People are watching you and waiting to judge you - this is your perception.[14:07] Jia Jiang's quest for 100 days of rejection.[16:35] Often the result of your actions isn't as bad as what your brain thinks will happen.[17:42] Confidence is a skill that your brain learns.Subscribe Today!Apple PodcastSpotifyAndroidStitcherRSSLinks | ResourcesIG: @DrNicoleByersFacebook: Dr. Nicole ByersWebsite: Drnicolebyers.comEmail support@drnicolebyers.comDrnicolebyers.com/quizDrnicolebyers.com/habitsRejection Proof by Jia Jiang

Is the fear of rejection holding you back from Love? Do you find yourself still pining over the lover who didn't call you back or the ex who moved on? What if there really WAS a way to be Rejection PROOF?! Listen as Kate and Catherine demystify rejection and teach you how to stop letting this fear hold you back and give you what you need to create extraordinary Love.    About The Hosts: Catherine Danieli is a love and relationship educator helping women heal fear based relationship patterns so that they can experience radical self love and healthy, extraordinary romantic relationships. She not only cares about helping women find love but learn the skills and tools to make love last. She is incredibly passionate about conscious relationship and empowering people to create healthy relationships in their lives. She believes healthy relationships are what will heal the world. After overcoming her own painful journey through love addiction and codependency, and seeing so many people in pain over love, she has devoted her life to teaching women how to transform, heal and have new experiences in partnership. She works with women 1:1, leads workshops and retreats as well as couples intensives.  www.CatherineDanieli.com   Kate Harlow is the Owner and Founder of the Irresistibility Project. She is a revolutionary Love & Relationship educator - with life changing perspectives on love. She guides women to awaken their own irresistibility- so attracting high quality love is effortless. Kate has coached and mentored thousands of people for over a decade - facilitating life changing love talks, workshops and retreats all over the world. She has inspired and transformed the lives of many. She has dedicated her life to helping Women around the globe shift to a new paradigm of love, so they can finally end the painful struggle and heartache that so many women experience. She is a masterful teacher & coach and is known for awakening women to who they TRULY are. www.theirresistibilityproject.com Thanks for listening! It means so much to us that you listened to our podcast! If you would like to continue the conversation with us, head on over to our Facebook group, the New Truth Movement at https://www.facebook.com/groups/209821843509179/ With this podcast, we are building an international community of The New Truth Movement. If you know someone who would benefit from this message or could be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave us a review We appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value-adding part of your day. Ratings and reviews from our listeners not only help us improve, but also help others find us in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!

Rejection is a part of life. The only time rejection becomes a problem is when you let your fear of it prevent you from aggressively taking action. On today's show we talk about how you can make yourself rejection proof.Here are the five ways to make yourself rejection proof.First: Make sure you have lots of things happening so you don't rely on only one opportunity. This means multiple streams of revenue. Multiple lead generation strategies, multiple clients in each sector, multiple options for working with clients.  Options, choices and diversity in revenue helps take the sting out of any single set-back.Second: Put your external orientation into practice each day. Give referrals, testimonials, and online recommendations each day. This helps you feel like you're helping people because you are actually helping people. This will come back to you in many ways, not the least of which will be referrals. Third: Read the testimonials people have prepared for you. Watch the video testimonials people have shot for you. They are all true. Reflect on the value you delivered to those people.Fourth: Call some clients. Talk with them about their business. See if they need help with anything. This will strengthen your relationship with them and make you feel great. Fifth: Exercise. That's right, move around. This will help you change your state of mind. It will release endorphins (a chemical that helps you feel good) and it shifts your focus away from work for a little while.Rejection is temporary. You will absolutely remember your big wins and every one of them came as a result of the experience you had from being rejected.   

Welcome to The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! In this first episode, I share: My story with perfectionism and why I started the podcast What we'll talk about in future episodes What God is teaching me in this season I also shared some recommendations: "Rejection Proof" by Jia Jang* The Great British Baking Show Spend time with your kids, but also spend time away on you. Spend time in God's Word *Affiliate Link --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/andreafortenberry/support