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Betty Buckley is a legendary, multi-award-winning actress/singer whose career spans theater, film, television and concert halls around the world. She is a 2012 Theatre Hall of Fame inductee and the 2017 recipient of the Julie Harris Awards from The Actor's Fund for Artistic Achievement and received The Lifetime Achievement Award from The American Songbook Association in 2023. She won a Tony Award for her performance as Grizabella, the Glamour Cat, in Andrew Lloyd Webber's Cats and received her second Tony Award nomination for Best Actress in a musical for her performance as Hesione in Triumph of Love. She received an Olivier Award nomination for her critically acclaimed interpretation of Norma Desmond in the London production of Andrew Lloyd Webber's Sunset Boulevard, which she repeated to more rave reviews on Broadway. Ms. Buckley is featured in the film By Design, written and directed by Amanda Kramer, and it made its debut at The Sundance Film Festival in January 2025. She is also featured in the film Eternity for A24 Studios, starring Miles Teller and Elizabeth Olsen, released in November 2025. In March 2024, she co-starred in Imaginary for Blumhouse Productions and released by Lionsgate. She co-starred with James McAvoy in the M. Night Shyamalan hit film Split, one of the top international box office hits of 2017. She received a Saturn Award Nomination for Best Featured Actress for her work in the film. Her other films include her debut in Brian de Palma's screen version of Stephen King's Carrie, Bruce Beresford's Tender Mercies, Roman Polanski's Frantic, Woody Allen's Another Woman, Lawrence Kasdan's Wyatt Earp and M. Night Shyamalan's The Happening. In 2024, The Mayfly, an animated short film written, produced and narrated by Ms. Buckley played the film festival circuit and won several awards, including Best of Festival, Best Director and Best 2D Character Based Animation at The Los Angeles Animation Festival. The film also won Best Animation at The Lady Filmmakers Festival in Los Angeles. A love letter to New York City and music, The Mayfly is a lyrical tale that was inspired by a true event at the Café Carlyle, with a score composed by seven-time GRAMMY® nominee Christian Jacob. Her other Broadway credits include 1776, Pippin, Song and Dance, The Mystery of Edwin Drood and Carrie. She headlined the first National Tour of the new Broadway production of Hello, Dolly! in 2018/2019. Off-Broadway credits include the world premiere of Horton Foote's The Old Friends, for which she received a Drama Desk Nomination in 2014, White Lies, Lincoln Center's Elegies, the original NYSF production of The Mystery of Edwin Drood, The Eros Trilogy, Juno's Swans. Getting My Act Together and Taking It On The Road. Regional credits include The Perfectionist, Gypsy, The Threepenny Opera, Camino Real, Buffalo Gal, Arsenic and Old Lace, The Old Friends at Houston's Alley Theatre and Grey Gardens at the Bay Street Theatre in Sag Harbor, NY and The Ahmanson Theater in Los Angeles in 2016 for which she received an Ovation Award Nomination. In London, she starred in Promises, Promises for which she was nominated for An Evening Standard Award and in the 2013 British premiere of Dear World. On television, Buckley had a recurring role on Law & Order SVU for NBC. She co-starred in the third season of AMC's hit series Preacher and has guest starred on the Fox/Warner Bros. TV shows: The Cleaning Lady, The CW hit Supergirl, the NBC Series Chicago Med and ABC Family's Pretty Little Liars. For HBO, she has appeared on Getting On, The Leftovers, The Pacific and for three seasons had a recurring role on OZ. She starred as Abby Bradford in the hit series Eight is Enough. For more information, visit www.bettybuckley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
There's one thing that every perfectionist entrepreneur must learn if they want to succeed in business: how to create a growth mindset. This is the secret to being able to get out of your own way and take consistent action to your goals without burning out. So in this episode I'm doing a deep dive into what the growth mindset is, common misconceptions about the growth mindset as well as the practical steps to create a growth mindset. This is the episode on perfectionism and the growth mindset that I wish existed when I was struggling to build my business to six figures and wondering why I felt so scared to put myself out there. If you are finding that overthinking, procrastination, burnout and fear of judgement are making it hard to build your business - this episode is for you. If you're ready to get out of your own way in your business, you want to join my coaching program Perfectionists Getting Shit Done (PGSD). Sign up now at samlaurabrown.com/pgsd. If you want a little motivational boost from me in your inbox every day, you need to sign up for my daily Perfectionist Power-Up emails: samlaurabrown.com/ppu.
What would change if you no longer had to perform for love, approval, or belonging?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim explores what it really means to be real and unfiltered. Authenticity is not about saying everything we think or sharing every vulnerable part of ourselves with everyone. It is about allowing our outer lives to reflect what is true inside us.Kim examines the masks we wear to avoid judgment and rejection, including the agreeable mask, the perfection mask, the strong mask, the caretaker mask, and the easygoing mask. Although these masks once helped us feel safe and accepted, they can eventually leave us disconnected from ourselves and lonely within our relationships.This episode also introduces the August theme: why we lose ourselves in relationships and how the fear of rejection causes us to silence our needs, override our feelings, and shape-shift into the person we believe others want.The path back begins with the third step of Kim's five-step POWER Pathway: Willingness to Feel and Heal. We do not become authentic by eliminating the fear of rejection. We become authentic by learning that we can feel rejection without rejecting ourselves.KEY TAKEAWAYSWhy authenticity often feels emotionally dangerousHow fear of judgment causes us to perform and self-editThe difference between healthy discernment and hiding behind a maskWhy being accepted as a false version of ourselves can still feel lonelyHow we gradually lose ourselves in relationshipsWhy willingness to feel difficult emotions is essential to freedomHow to practice small acts of authenticity without forcing confrontationWhy freedom is not universal approval but unwavering self-connection
This week Claire Allen is back for an all-new episode on perfectionism and perfectionist thinking in the music studio. We're excited to share our reflections one year after our series aired, including the resources we're finding helpful and what has stuck with us in our teaching and beyond. Links in this Episode: This episode is brought to you by my series of books about music practice from parents of young musicians: Suzukitriangle.com/books Find the whole Series on Perfectionism from last summer Big list of Resources About Supporting Perfectionists in the Private Studio Violinist.com article about Christine & Claire's ASTA presentation Study on Corrective comments and ADHD Dodson, W. W. (2022). How ADHD shapes your perceptions, emotions & motivation. ADHD Denmark. Retrieved from https://adhd.dk/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2022/05/Dodson-How-ADHD-Shapes-Your-Perceptions-Emotions-.pdf Recommended Reading: How to Be Enough: Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and Perfectionists by Ellen Hendriksen, PhD Learn Faster, Perform Better: A Musician's Guide to the Neuroscience of Practicing by Dr. Molly Gebrian Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing & Transform the Way You Live by Emma Reed Turrell Find Claire Allen on Instagram HERE and HERE Claire Allen's website: http://www.claireallenviolin.com/ Claire Allen's first Time to Practice Episode SIgn up for the Monthly Newsletter: SuzukiTriangle.com/Newsletter Resources at SuzukiTriangle.com Connect with Christine on Instagram Email: Christine@SuzukiTriangle.com TRANSCRIPT
Move on from the inner critic and beat perfectionism without lowering your standards. Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps people calm their anxiety and be their authentic self. She serves on the faculty at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders (CARD) and is the author of HOW TO BE ENOUGH: Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and Perfectionists and HOW TO BE YOURSELF: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. You can find her on Substack at How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself. This episode originally aired in 2025. In this episode we talk about: The relationship between perfectionism and anxiety The definition of perfectionism––and why the word is actually a misnomer Dr. Hendriksen's own struggles with perfectionism, and how they manifested physically The difference between healthy perfectionism and unhealthy perfectionism Changing your relationship with your inner critic Shifting from rigid rules to flexibility Keeping high standards while making room for mistakes Overcoming procrastination Navigating social comparison And much more Related Episodes: Strategies for Social Anxiety | Ellen Hendriksen The Voice in Your Head | Ethan Kross How To Move Into The Future With Optimism Instead Of Anxiety | Frederik Pferdt Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot here, or sign up to livestream here! To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris
Welcome to Episode 150 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I have the privilege of chatting with Melissa Schulz. Melissa is a parenting coach and behavior analyst who helps parents of strong-willed, highly sensitive, and neurodiversekids turn daily struggles into calmer, more connected moments. Melissa has been recognized as the "Best Parenting Coach in the United States for 2025" by Evergreen Awards.Some of the resources we mention in this episode include: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks*Stormlight Archive series by Brandon Sanderson*Robe Curls Heatless Curling Headband*You can connect with Melissa via:Her website: melissaschulz.comInstagram: @confidentlymomminGet a copy of my new book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms for yourself and/or some mom friends today at twominutetimeouts.com.Don't forget that you can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberry*Affiliate Link
What happens when you have done everything you can—and you still cannot get the outcome you want?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross explores what happens when the Inner Controller can no longer fix, manage, or force life into the shape we believe we need in order to feel safe.Kim shares openly about struggling with body image, changes in her weight, ongoing health concerns, emotional eating, and the powerlessness she feels when her adult children make choices that are outside of her control.When the outcome we want feels threatened, the Inner Controller often works even harder. We may obsess, research, monitor, advise, pressure, restrict, overeat, criticize ourselves, or mentally rehearse every possible scenario. These behaviors may look like responsibility or problem-solving, but underneath them are often fear, sadness, shame, uncertainty, and grief.This episode is not about pretending you do not care or forcing yourself to “just let go.” It is about learning how to stay present with yourself when life does not cooperate.In this episode, you will learn:Why your Inner Controller becomes more intense when you feel powerlessThe emotions hiding beneath your need to control an outcomeWhy trying harder may be making you more exhaustedHow control can show up around health, body image, food, relationships, and adult childrenWhy surrender is not the same as giving upHow to separate grounded action from fear-driven controlWhat it means to become the wise, compassionate adult your younger self needsHow to stop abandoning yourself when you cannot guarantee the outcomeYou may not be able to control what your body does, what another person chooses, or how the future unfolds. But you can become the person who stays with yourself through the uncertainty.
A DISC profile test looked my husband in the eye (well, on paper) and told him: you can never be in sales. Too quiet. Too detailed. Too precise. Too introverted. Not the loud, aggressive, "natural" closer type the test was built to reward. He ignored it. Fifteen years later, he's been the top performing salesperson at every single company he's worked for, selling air compressors and steel to engineers and skeptics who smell a slick pitch from a mile away and shut down the second they feel rushed. Here's the thing mainstream sales training will never admit: there is no one right way to sell. There's only the way that's actually you, and the buyers who've been waiting for exactly that. In part three of our five part sales personality series, we're breaking down the Analytical Perfectionist, the detail obsessed, thorough, "I'd rather say nothing than say it wrong" personality that gets written off as "not cut out for sales" more than any other type. And they couldn't be more wrong! Because when this person slows down and gets specific instead of smooth and high level, it's a total pattern interruption for a buyer who's been burned before. They expect pushy. They get taken seriously instead. That builds trust and no sales happen without trust. But this personality has a kryptonite, and if you're managing (or being) one without knowing it, you're setting up your best people to flounder in a system built for someone else entirely. In this episode, you'll hear: Why "you're not cut out for sales" might be the most expensive lie in sales hiring The exact moment this personality freezes up and how to fix that Which buyers will ghost a smooth talker but lean in for someone thorough Why mirroring your prospect's pace beats any script What the "star" aggressive closer could actually learn from the quiet one If you've ever been told you're not "sales material" because you're not the loudest voice in the room, or you're leading a team and wondering why your most careful, detail driven person isn't hitting numbers, this episode is for you. You're not broken. You just haven't been given a system built for who you actually are. That's the whole point of Black Sheep Sales: it's built for your offer, your personality, and the people you were meant to sell to. Take the assessment test here: https://assessment.aleashabahr.com/salespersonality Curious what's actually happening inside your sales team's personality mix, and where the mismatch is costing you deals? Book your complimentary sales audit with me.
This week we're revisiting the kickoff episode of a very popular series from last summer all about supporting perfectionists and perfectionist thinking in the process of learning music. Revisit the first episode, listen to the whole series through the link below, and then join us next week as Christine Goodner and Claire Allen share reflections and what they've been working on for themselves, their teaching, and how they support families they work with related to the topic of perfectionism. Links in this episode: Find the whole Series on Perfectionism from last summer Big list of Resources About Supporting Perfectionists in the Private Studio Violinist.com article about Christine & Claire's ASTA presentation Find Claire Allen on Instagram HERE and HERE Claire Allen's first Time to Practice Episode SIgn up for the Monthly Newsletter: SuzukiTriangle.com/Newsletter Resources at SuzukiTriangle.com Connect with Christine on Instagram Email: Christine@SuzukiTriangle.com TRANSCRIPT
In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we explore how the way we parent shapes a child's nervous system, emotional regulation, self esteem, and future relationships. Using the concept of **Control Dramas**, inspired by *The Celestine Prophecy* and expanded through modern psychology, attachment theory, and real world coaching experience, we break down the hidden parenting patterns that quietly influence children for decades. We cover the original four Control Dramas, the Intimidator, Interrogator, Aloof, and Poor Me parent, along with five additional parenting patterns we believe deserve attention, including the Rescuer, Charmer, Gaslighter, Competitor, and Perfectionist.Whether you're raising young children, healing from your own childhood, or trying to become a more emotionally healthy parent, this conversation will help you recognize unconscious family dynamics before they become generational patterns. We discuss attachment styles, nervous system development, emotional safety, trauma, parenting mistakes, emotional intelligence, and practical ways to break unhealthy cycles while building stronger relationships with your children. If you're interested in parenting, psychology, self improvement, personal development, emotional healing, or creating a healthier family, this episode will give you powerful insights that can change the way you see both yourself and your role as a parent.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.
Have you ever caught yourself judging someone and wondered, Where did that come from?What if your judgment isn't actually about them?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross explores one of the most overlooked protective patterns of the Inner Controller: the judgment mask.Judgment often feels justified on the surface, but underneath it can hide fear, shame, powerlessness, grief, insecurity, or parts of ourselves we haven't fully accepted. Whether we criticize our children, our partner, strangers online, or even ourselves, judgment is often an attempt to feel safe, certain, or in control.Kim shares how curiosity can transform criticism into compassion and explains the important difference between judgment and discernment. You'll also learn why the people who trigger you the most may actually be pointing you toward your deepest healing.In this episode you'll discover:• Why judgment is often fear wearing the mask of certainty• The surprising reason we judge the people we love most• The difference between judgment and healthy discernment• How your Inner Controller uses criticism to avoid vulnerability• A simple practice to move from judgment to compassionIf you've ever wondered why certain people trigger you—or why you can be so hard on yourself—this episode offers a compassionate new perspective.
Welcome to Episode 149 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I have the privilege of chatting with Pam Fields. Pam Fields is the host of The Mom Next Door: Stories of Faith, a podcast that shares honest, hope-filled conversations with women navigating real life. She is a mom of nine, Gramma to six, and has over 25 years of homeschooling experience. Through storytelling and encouragement online, Pam creates space for women to feel seen, supported, and reminded that they are not alone.In this episode, we talk about practical prayer tips for busy moms.Some of the resources we mention include:My guest interview with Pam: Episode 249 of The Mom Next DoorAqua Notes Waterproof Pad*Legacy of Prayer: A Spiritual Trust Fund for the Generations by Jennifer Kennedy Dean*When God Doesn't Fix It by Laura Story*You can connect with Pam via:Her website: tendingfields.netThe Mom Next Door PodcastInstagram: @tendingfieldsGet a copy of my new book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms for yourself and/or some mom friends today at twominutetimeouts.com.Don't forget that you can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberry*Affiliate Link
Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) — Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 4079: Joshua Fields Millburn reflects on the exhausting pursuit of perfection and the freedom that comes from embracing flaws as opportunities for growth. By shifting attention from impossible standards to meaningful progress in health, relationships, and work, he reveals why imperfection is often the catalyst for a more fulfilling life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.theminimalists.com/perfectionist/ Quotes to ponder: "Every area of life is filled with imperfection, but we needn't neurose over every blemish." "People are, by nature, imperfect. We come equipped with a tackle box of flaws." "Contentment comes from within, not from the entrapment of protruding hipbones or the bling-bling of consumer purchases." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) — Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 4079: Joshua Fields Millburn reflects on the exhausting pursuit of perfection and the freedom that comes from embracing flaws as opportunities for growth. By shifting attention from impossible standards to meaningful progress in health, relationships, and work, he reveals why imperfection is often the catalyst for a more fulfilling life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.theminimalists.com/perfectionist/ Quotes to ponder: "Every area of life is filled with imperfection, but we needn't neurose over every blemish." "People are, by nature, imperfect. We come equipped with a tackle box of flaws." "Contentment comes from within, not from the entrapment of protruding hipbones or the bling-bling of consumer purchases." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) — Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 4079: Joshua Fields Millburn reflects on the exhausting pursuit of perfection and the freedom that comes from embracing flaws as opportunities for growth. By shifting attention from impossible standards to meaningful progress in health, relationships, and work, he reveals why imperfection is often the catalyst for a more fulfilling life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.theminimalists.com/perfectionist/ Quotes to ponder: "Every area of life is filled with imperfection, but we needn't neurose over every blemish." "People are, by nature, imperfect. We come equipped with a tackle box of flaws." "Contentment comes from within, not from the entrapment of protruding hipbones or the bling-bling of consumer purchases." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Comparison is one of the sneakiest ways the inner controller tries to keep us safe.It tells us that if we can figure out where we stand — who is ahead, who is behind, who is doing better, who is doing worse — then maybe we can finally know whether we are enough.But comparison never leads to freedom.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross explores the comparison trap and why it keeps us stuck in both inferiority and superiority. When we feel below someone, we collapse into shame and “I'm not enough.” When we feel above someone, we may feel temporary relief, but that superiority is still fragile because it depends on staying ahead.Kim shares how comparison can show up in childhood, parenting, social media, body image, and weight — and how old environments can wake up old measuring systems. She also brings in the Golden Buddha metaphor from her book, Free to Be: A Pathway to Inner Liberation, reminding us that comparison keeps us staring at the clay while forgetting the gold underneath.This episode will help you stop using comparison as the measurement of your worth and begin returning to compassion, shared humanity, and inner freedom.In this episode, you'll explore:Why comparison is a protective pattern, not a character flawThe difference between inferiority and superiorityHow the inner controller uses comparison to create the illusion of safetyWhy social media, parenting, and body image can trigger old measuring systemsHow to stop abandoning yourself when judgment is possibleA simple comparison reset practice to come back to yourselfYour worth is not ranked.Your path is yours.You can come back to yourself.
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Are You A Perfectionist? What's SHE Up To Now Day 3077? Supersize Challenges, Skool, Scaling, 4th of July...! Join us every day in 2026 for a quick challenge that is all about you Improving and creating the life you want! https://www.facebook.com/ThrivingSharon Ask your questions and share your wisdom! #supersize #doonethingeverydaytosupersizeyou #lessonslearned #missedopportunities #decisionmaking #beabetteryou #personalgrowth #developskills #uncoverwhatis #contribution #giving #yourdefinition #rateyourself #coaching #scaling #supersizechallenges #howcanIhelp #contribution #dowhatyoucan #startwhereyouare Stop procrastinating by waiting for external signs. Learn how recognizing your stalling habits helps you finally take action. Many of us fall into the trap of waiting for the perfect moment or outside validation before we start a project. This video breaks down why that mindset is actually just a form of procrastination. We explore how to identify when you are using these signs as excuses to avoid doing the work you know you need to finish. If you find yourself stuck in a cycle of waiting for permission or clarity, this perspective will help you shift your approach. You will learn to spot the difference between genuine preparation and the stalling tactics that keep you from your goals. By addressing these procrastination excuses, you can regain control over your timeline and start moving forward immediately. Subscribe for daily productivity insights, and let me know in the comments: what is one project you have been putting off while waiting for a sign?
LEARN HOW TO JOURNALSPEAK In this episode, I'm joined by Béa Albina, nurse practitioner, somatic practitioner, and the author and creator of Emotional Outsourcing, for a conversation that gets right to the heart of why so many of us abandon ourselves in the name of being good, helpful, agreeable, easy, impressive, or needed. Béa defines emotional outsourcing as the chronic habit of sourcing our safety, belonging, and worth from everyone and everything outside of ourselves, instead of from within, and we unpack how deeply this pattern can become wired into the nervous system. For so many of us, especially women raised inside cultural expectations to be pleasant, useful, low-maintenance, and not “too much,” people pleasing and codependency were not personality flaws. They were survival strategies. This conversation is such an important bridge between the emotional life and the body. We talk about the way chronic self-abandonment, resentment, perfectionism, hypervigilance, and the constant scanning of other people's moods can create a fertile environment for symptoms, anxiety, and nervous system dysregulation. Béa and I explore why awareness is the first doorway into healing, how somatic practices help us come back into relationship with ourselves, and why the smallest “newborn kitten steps” can be the beginning of profound change. We also talk about boundaries, self-compassion, the power of intentional language, and what it really means to stop outsourcing your sense of worth and begin building safety inside your own body. In this episode, we discuss emotional outsourcing as a new way to understand codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing; why women are so often conditioned to disconnect from their needs in order to stay loved and accepted; how the nervous system learns to prioritize everyone else's comfort over internal stability; the connection between self-silencing, resentment, chronic symptoms, and emotional repression; why somatic awareness and JournalSpeak are so aligned; how to begin asking the body what it needs; why boundaries are not about controlling other people but about deciding how we will take care of ourselves; and how self-compassion becomes the foundation for real healing instead of just another thing we try to perform perfectly. Béa's work is compassionate, practical, funny, deeply intelligent, and beautifully aligned with the core message of this podcast: you are not broken, your body is not betraying you, and the patterns that once protected you can be understood, softened, and changed. This is a conversation about coming home to yourself, not in a cheesy way, but in the most biologically necessary way. Because when we stop living as if everyone else gets to decide whether we are safe, lovable, and worthy, the nervous system finally has a chance to exhale. Where to find Béa: Listen to her podcast, Feminist Wellness, read her book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist and People-Pleasing Habits, and find her on social media under her full name, Beatriz Victoria Albina NP. Lisa and I will be teaching at Miraval Austin from September 25–27 for a relaxing, immersive retreat experience rooted in this work. You can learn more by visiting www.NicoleSachs.com and clicking the Retreats tab. Find me at www.NicoleSachs.com, on Instagram @nicolesachslcsw, and inside my Heal with Nicole community. SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEW SUBSTACK! So excited about this one :)) Want your questions answered directly by me?
Are you, or someone you work with, a perfectionist? If you have perfectionist tendencies, it can be frustrating to work alongside people who don't because you feel like they don't care enough about the work. And if you don't identify as a perfectionist but have to work with someone who is? Well, it can be equally challenging because things can be overworked, delayed, or shared way too late for fear of things not being 'good enough'. In this episode, Em and Lisa unpack how to work with perfectionists, how to manage your own perfectionist traits, and how to give feedback to people who might not be the best at receiving it. Plus, Lisa shares another one of her go-to frameworks that can help you let go of 'perfect' and move forward faster. Our BIZ hosts are Lisa Lie - a former Head of People & Culture and Organisational Coach - and Mamamia’s Em Vernem. Book recommendation: The Trusted Advisor by Charles Green And if you want some fast skills from Learna:Check out 'Build trust fast' in Learna.Click the link below on mobile to get into it:https://www.learna-app.com?id=l-aSenXj6878Or check out 'Naming your value at work' in Learna.Click the link below on mobile to get into it:https://www.learna-app.com?id=l-lSlExM4482 Sign up to the BIZ newsletter hereTHE END BITSSupport independent women's media.Got a work life dilemma? Send us all the questions you definitely can't ask your boss for our Biz Inbox episodes - send us a voice note or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au. You can remain anon! HOSTS: Lisa Lie and Em Vernem EXECUTIVE PRODUCER: Courtney Ammenhauser SENIOR PRODUCER: Thom LionVIDEO PRODUCER: Marlena Cacciotti Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode of The Principal's Handbook Summer Reset Series, we explore the mindset and habits of the perfectionist principal. You'll learn how perfectionism shows up in school leadership through overthinking decisions, constantly revising work, fear of mistakes, and spending too much time trying to get everything just right. Using the TEA Cycle, we examine how perfectionistic thoughts create stress, anxiety, and delays that impact both leadership effectiveness and personal well-being. This episode offers practical strategies to help you let go of impossible standards, focus on what matters most, and take action with confidence. If you've ever felt like your work is never truly finished, this episode will help you reset your approach and lead more effectively.Get free resources at PrincipalFreebies.com. We're thrilled to be sponsored by IXL. IXL's comprehensive teaching and learning platform for math, language arts, science, and social studies is accelerating achievement in 95 of the top 100 U.S. school districts. Loved by teachers and backed by independent research from Johns Hopkins University, IXL can help you do the following and more:Simplify and streamline technologySave teachers' timeReliably meet Tier 1 standardsImprove student performance on state assessments
Andrea Fortenberry joins me on TME this week and if you don't have your coffee handy, you'll feel warm and satiated after listening to this conversation with her!Andrea is the host of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering, a podcast that equips moms to find freedom from perfectionism and show up for the life God has for them. She is the author of "Two-Minute Timeouts: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days (Our Daily Bread Publishers, April 2026)," a practical, grace-filled resource for women navigating pressure, burnout, and the desire to do everything “right.” She is on staff with MomCo (formerly MOPS International) as the Leadership Development Manager, where she where she equips and supports leaders around the world as they guide women through the realities of modern motherhood, faith, and community. She is also a cohost of The MomCo Leadership Podcast. A lover of chai lattes herself, Andrea's episode is the perfect accompaniment to enjoying a cup of joe and organizing your to-do list. Connect with Andrea:Andrea's Website: https://www.andreafortenberry.com/ Follow Andrea on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreafortenberry____________________Want to be a guest on The Motherhood Experience? Send Val Kleppen a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1758742098661627c9cc46f40
Perfectionist fantasies of what tomorrow will bring during divorce can feel useful - like we're moving toward something. Your brain whispers, “Once the decree is signed, once the schedule is set, once the kids adjust, once I heal, then I'll finally feel calm.” But what if that promise is the very thing keeping you stuck?In this episode I dig into two sneaky patterns that show up during and after divorce: perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. Perfectionism doesn't always look like striving or being “Type A” it often sounds like totally normal thoughts such as “I should have my life together by now” or “I'll finally feel okay when everything is settled.” I talk about how those expectations can erase the real progress you're already making, including the peaceful moments you don't even notice because they don't match the fantasy.I share a powerful coaching story from a client who expected instant relief, plus the deeper reason “imagining your future self” can feel so good while also fueling procrastination. I also connect the dots between perfectionism, fear of mistakes, harsh self-judgment, and why starting can feel unbearable even when you care deeply.You'll leave with three tools to get out of the fantasy and back into your real life today. If this helps, subscribe, share it with a friend who's navigating divorce recovery, and leave a quick review so more women can find the support they need.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.
Maria Pascucci-Maciejewski spent over 20 years helping others manage perfectionism and anxiety. She launched a national speaking business at 27, wrote a book, delivered a TEDx talk, and coached hundreds of students through the hidden costs of needing to be perfect. In the summer of 2024, it all caught up with her.In this episode she gets into the childhood bullying that became perfectionism, the 3.92 GPA that came with panic attacks in college bathrooms, and why none of it was enough to stop a complete nervous system breakdown, a suicide attempt, and 34 days in a psychiatric hospital over the holidays. She also talks about what actually pulled her back, why nutrition belongs in every mental health conversation, and what she is building now.CONNECTYou Can Bounce Back → https://youcanbounceback.comCampus Calm → https://campuscalm.comROC Vox → https://rocvox.comNew episodes every Tuesday.Recorded at ROC Vox Recording & Production in Pittsford, NY. Learn more at https://rocvox.com
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 4064: Paula Davis-Laack explains how burnout develops through chronic stress, exhaustion, cynicism, and feelings of inefficacy, often fueled by perfectionism, mental clutter, and relentless overwork. She shares practical, research-backed strategies to build resilience, manage energy more effectively, reshape work responsibilities, and create a sustainable path to long-term success and well-being. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://livehappy.com/5-expert-tips-for-avoiding-burnout-at-work/ Quotes to ponder: "Burnout is a process of chronic stress and disengagement typically related to work but can impact many areas of your life." "Perfectionists strive for “the best” even when “good enough” will do." "Getting adequate opportunities for recovery during your workday, after work and on the weekend is critical." Episode references: Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant: https://www.amazon.com/Give-Take-Helping-Others-Success/dp/0143124986 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 4064: Paula Davis-Laack explains how burnout develops through chronic stress, exhaustion, cynicism, and feelings of inefficacy, often fueled by perfectionism, mental clutter, and relentless overwork. She shares practical, research-backed strategies to build resilience, manage energy more effectively, reshape work responsibilities, and create a sustainable path to long-term success and well-being. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://livehappy.com/5-expert-tips-for-avoiding-burnout-at-work/ Quotes to ponder: "Burnout is a process of chronic stress and disengagement typically related to work but can impact many areas of your life." "Perfectionists strive for “the best” even when “good enough” will do." "Getting adequate opportunities for recovery during your workday, after work and on the weekend is critical." Episode references: Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant: https://www.amazon.com/Give-Take-Helping-Others-Success/dp/0143124986 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 4064: Paula Davis-Laack explains how burnout develops through chronic stress, exhaustion, cynicism, and feelings of inefficacy, often fueled by perfectionism, mental clutter, and relentless overwork. She shares practical, research-backed strategies to build resilience, manage energy more effectively, reshape work responsibilities, and create a sustainable path to long-term success and well-being. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://livehappy.com/5-expert-tips-for-avoiding-burnout-at-work/ Quotes to ponder: "Burnout is a process of chronic stress and disengagement typically related to work but can impact many areas of your life." "Perfectionists strive for “the best” even when “good enough” will do." "Getting adequate opportunities for recovery during your workday, after work and on the weekend is critical." Episode references: Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant: https://www.amazon.com/Give-Take-Helping-Others-Success/dp/0143124986 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
You sit down to trade and watch yourself do the same thing again — hesitate on a clean setup, cut a winner short, grind long past the point of usefulness — and afterward you call it a discipline problem and promise to try harder tomorrow. But what if it was never a bad habit at all? In this episode of the Confidence in Trading Podcast, Agnieszka Wood opens a new arc on the Trader's Identity: the behaviors sabotaging your trading are really identities you built long ago to survive something difficult — and they quietly run you now, while you're trying to trade. You'll learn what a “stuck identity” actually is, where these identities come from (and why they were never a flaw), and why trading is the one place they reliably take the chair. Agnieszka introduces three that show up again and again — the Perfectionist, who can't allow itself to be wrong; the Hard Worker, who believes more effort is always the answer; and the Victim, who stays braced and carries it all alone — and shows why the first move is never to fight the behavior, but to recognize the identity underneath it. This is the heart of her Compassionate Discipline™ approach. If the calm, clear trader you are in the morning isn't the one who shows up when it counts, this episode will help you see why — and what to do instead of forcing. Each of these three identities gets its own deep dive on the blog in the weeks ahead. To get them as they come out, join the free newsletter at aheadcoach.com. About Agnieszka Wood Founder and CEO of Ahead Coach, Trading Mindset Coach and Trader Agnieszka Wood, is a passionate and accomplished day trader with over a decade of hands-on experience in the financial markets. Coming originally from Poland but having spent most of her life abroad, notably in the Netherlands and the United States, Agnieszka brings a diverse perspective to her work. Her journey is marked by conquering challenges, a deep passion for self-development, a commitment to unlocking her full potential, and a relentless pursuit of excellence. Since 2019, Agnieszka has taken on the role of Founder and CEO of Ahead Coach, a coaching platform where she conducts her transformative work as a Trading Mindset Coach. Through Ahead Coach, she offers coaching programs for traders that draw on her extensive 20+ year background in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), life coaching and her own experience in trading. Her holistic approach is designed to empower individuals not only in their trading endeavors but also in all aspects of life. Agnieszka's influence extends beyond her coaching practice. She is a respected speaker at various trading events, where she shares her insights and knowledge with fellow traders and enthusiasts. In the trading education industry, she is known for her expertise in mindset coaching, helping traders overcome psychological barriers and build consistency. Passionate about guiding individuals towards tangible results, Agnieszka thrives on taking on new initiatives and projects that promote personal growth. Her multifaceted expertise, unwavering dedication, and holistic approach make her a trusted coach for those seeking transformation and success. Click here to explore different ways we can work together. ____________________________________✉ Contact me: launchyourlife@aheadcoach.com____________________________________▶️ My website: https://www.aheadcoach.com/▶️ X: https://x.com/Ahead_Coach▶️ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ahead.coach/▶️ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/agnieszkawoodpage/
Welcome to Episode 148 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I have the privilege of chatting with Dr. Benjamin Long. Dr. Benjamin Long is a sleep doctor by day & seminary student by night with an interest in the integration of theologyand sleep. These interests have culminated into his debut book Sleep Habits Journal: Practices, Prayers, & Devotions to Ease Your Sleepless Nights. He lives in San Antonio, Texas with his wife, son, and their dog, Rolo.Some of the resources we mention in this episode include:Restore: Soul Care for Moms TicketsCrime Scene KitchenPre-Cut Parchment Paper Sheets*You can connect with Dr. Long via:His website: thewholeheartedmd.comInstagram: @thewholeheartedmdSubstack: The NocturnGet a copy of my new book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms for yourself and/or some mom friends today at twominutetimeouts.com.Don't forget that you can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberry*Affiliate Link
In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross closes out the June Inner Controller series with a powerful conversation about overthinking, control, and why we cannot think our way into freedom.The inner controller believes that if we can figure everything out, predict every outcome, and prepare for every possibility, then we will finally feel safe. But overthinking often keeps us trapped in mental loops, disconnected from our bodies, our intuition, and the present moment.Kim explores how overthinking is often an attempt to create certainty — and why certainty is not the same as safety. She shares how the inner controller uses thoughts like “What if something goes wrong?” “What did they mean by that?” “What if I make the wrong choice?” and “What if I can't handle it?” to keep us looping in fear.This episode will help you understand the difference between solving a real problem and trying to escape an uncomfortable feeling. You'll learn a simple practice to interrupt the spiral and begin building safety from within.Because freedom does not come from controlling every outcome.Freedom comes from knowing:“I may not know exactly what will happen, but I can trust myself to meet what comes.”In this episode, you'll learn:Why overthinking is often a form of controlHow the inner controller uses mental looping to avoid uncertaintyThe difference between real problem-solving and fear-based spiralingWhy certainty is not the same as safetyHow to begin building inner safety instead of chasing controlA simple practice to come back to yourself when your mind is spiraling
For free masterclass : Click here People-pleasing isn't a habit you can simply decide to quit. It's your nervous system running a survival program that was wired in long before you ever had a say in it. And the moment you understand that, everything starts to shift, because you finally stop fighting the wrong thing.In this episode I walk you through the six faces this survival response wears, the disguises your nervous system learned to put on to keep you safe. You'll almost certainly recognise yourself in more than one, and maybe in all of them. Then I show you what's actually happening in your brain when you live this way, why every wisdom tradition on earth points to the same way back, and the one small practice that starts to bring you home to yourself.The six faces: The Perfectionist. The Peacekeeper. The Caretaker. The Performer. The Chameleon. And the Lone Wolf, the one almost nobody even calls people-pleasing.In this episode:Why "set boundaries, stop caring, just love yourself" never actually worksWhat people-pleasing really is, the fawn response, and why these patterns are blends, not boxesWhat chronic people-pleasing does to your brain, and how safety brings your thinking back onlineWhy losing connection to yourself quietly costs you in every area of your lifeHow presence brings you home, and the simple daily practice that starts itKey takeaways:People-pleasing is not a character flaw or a willpower problem. It's the fawn response, a survival reaction named by therapist Pete Walker.It shows up in six forms: the Perfectionist, the Peacekeeper, the Caretaker, the Performer, the Chameleon, and the Lone Wolf. Most people are a blend of several.Chronic people-pleasing keeps the brain in a low-grade threat state, which reduces access to the prefrontal cortex, the part you think and decide with.Reconnecting to yourself is a trainable act of attention called interoception, not a vibe or a mood.Losing touch with your own needs measurably lowers self-esteem and wellbeing, shown in Jennifer Campbell's research on self-concept clarity.The way back is presence, the same answer every major wisdom tradition arrived at independently.FAQ: Q: What is the fawn response? A: The fawn response is a survival reaction in which you keep yourself safe by keeping other people happy. Therapist Pete Walker named it as a fourth response alongside fight, flight, and freeze, and it's the pattern underneath chronic people-pleasing.Q: What are the six types of people-pleaser? A: The Perfectionist, the Peacekeeper, the Caretaker, the Performer, the Chameleon, and the Lone Wolf. They're not rigid boxes. Most people are a blend, and they all share one root, a lost connection to yourself.Q: Is people-pleasing a trauma response? A: Often, yes. People-pleasing frequently develops early as a way to stay safe in an unpredictable or high-conflict environment, which is why willpower alone rarely changes it.Q: How do you actually stop people-pleasing? A: Not by forcing more boundaries, but by rebuilding your connection to yourself through presence. A simple start is to pause three times a day and ask your body one question, what is true for me here, before you answer for anyone else.Mentioned in this episode:Pete Walker, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving (the fawn response)Meg Josephson, LCSW, Are You Mad at Me? (the six types)Amy Arnsten, Yale (stress and the prefrontal cortex)Bud Craig (interoception and the insula)Jennifer Campbell (self-concept clarity)The wisdom traditions: the Upanishads, Buddhist buddha-nature, Marcus Aurelius, Psalm 46, the Qur'an, Rumi, and EmersonFurther reading on interoception:Sarah Garfinkel and Hugo Critchley (interoceptive accuracy and emotion)Lisa Feldman Barrett (interoception and the constructed sense of self)Ready to come home to yourself? I've created a free masterclass that walks you through the steps. Watch it here: https://www.amenkaur.com/masterclassStarting Over, Being You with Dr Amen Kaur bridges neuroscience and grounded spirituality for women rebuilding their sense of self. New episodes weekly.people pleasing, people pleaser, how to stop people pleasing, fawn response, fawn trauma response, nervous system, nervous system regulation, survival mode, boundaries, self-abandonment, perfectionism, caretaker, codependency, presence, self-connection, interoception, anxiety, self-worth, Meg Josephson, Pete Walker
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WelcomeHello, lovelies. It's Juliette here, and today I'm joined by the scrumptious Nikki St. Paul, coach, speaker, Good Girl Slayer, and founder of The Convicted Woman.In this conversation, we explore what it really means to stop performing, pleasing, perfecting, and waiting for permission.We speak about the subtle ways high-achieving women give their power away, through perfectionism, people-pleasing, comparison, overthinking, and the need to get it right before pressing go.Nikki shares her journey from almost two decades in the pharmaceutical industry into coaching, entrepreneurship, and helping women reclaim their conviction in business and life.This episode is about slaying the good girl.Not by becoming reckless or hardened, but by noticing the patterns that keep you small, moving through fear, and learning to back yourself before the proof arrives.
What Your Body Archetype Reveals About Your Core Wounds, Self-Care Patterns, and Emotional Survival StrategiesIn this powerful episode, JJ shares one of the most eye-opening exercises from her beta Eight-Week Body Reset program—an assessment designed to uncover the hidden archetypes that sabotage self-care, health goals, and personal growth. What participants discovered wasn't simply why they struggle with exercise, nutrition, or consistency. They uncovered the emotional survival strategies running beneath their behaviors.JJ reveals the most common archetypes identified by participants—including the Avoider, Perfectionist, Overachiever, Emotional Eater, and Information Collector—and explains why these patterns are rarely about food, fitness, or willpower. Instead, they're often rooted in fear, abandonment, rejection, shame, and unmet emotional needs.You'll learn why procrastination is often nervous system protection rather than laziness, how perfectionism masks deeper fears of criticism and failure, and why so many people continue gathering information instead of taking action. JJ also connects these archetypes directly to her Core Wound framework, showing how self-care struggles often mirror the ways we unconsciously abandon ourselves.The episode explores four major themes that emerged from the exercise:"If I can't do it perfectly, I won't do it at all."Avoidance as emotional protection.Why self-care feels selfish.The real cost of neglecting yourself isn't weight gain—it's losing freedom, confidence, trust, and opportunities.JJ explains how true transformation isn't about becoming thinner, more disciplined, or more productive. It's about becoming someone who trusts themselves, keeps promises to themselves, feels worthy, and no longer needs survival strategies to feel safe.In This Episode:The five most common body archetypes and what they revealHow fear disguises itself as perfectionism, procrastination, and information gatheringThe connection between self-care and abandonment woundsWhy weight is often a symptom, not the real problemHow emotional avoidance creates anxiety and physical symptomsThe role of feelings, needs, and nervous system regulation in lasting changeWhy accountability is one of the most powerful forms of self-loveAn introduction to the upcoming Metabolic Transformation Studio membershipKey TakeawayYour health habits are not character flaws. They're often emotional protection strategies created to keep you safe. When you identify the wound beneath the behavior and begin meeting your deeper needs, self-care becomes less about willpower and more about self-love.Resources Mentioned:Body Archetype Assessment: jjflizanes.com/archetypeFeelings & Needs ListEight-Week Body ResetRewiring Your Core Wound PatternsMetabolic Transformation Studio https://jjflizanes.com/studio
What Your Body Archetype Reveals About Your Core Wounds, Self-Care Patterns, and Emotional Survival StrategiesIn this powerful episode, JJ shares one of the most eye-opening exercises from her beta Eight-Week Body Reset program—an assessment designed to uncover the hidden archetypes that sabotage self-care, health goals, and personal growth. What participants discovered wasn't simply why they struggle with exercise, nutrition, or consistency. They uncovered the emotional survival strategies running beneath their behaviors.JJ reveals the most common archetypes identified by participants—including the Avoider, Perfectionist, Overachiever, Emotional Eater, and Information Collector—and explains why these patterns are rarely about food, fitness, or willpower. Instead, they're often rooted in fear, abandonment, rejection, shame, and unmet emotional needs.You'll learn why procrastination is often nervous system protection rather than laziness, how perfectionism masks deeper fears of criticism and failure, and why so many people continue gathering information instead of taking action. JJ also connects these archetypes directly to her Core Wound framework, showing how self-care struggles often mirror the ways we unconsciously abandon ourselves.The episode explores four major themes that emerged from the exercise:"If I can't do it perfectly, I won't do it at all."Avoidance as emotional protection.Why self-care feels selfish.The real cost of neglecting yourself isn't weight gain—it's losing freedom, confidence, trust, and opportunities.JJ explains how true transformation isn't about becoming thinner, more disciplined, or more productive. It's about becoming someone who trusts themselves, keeps promises to themselves, feels worthy, and no longer needs survival strategies to feel safe.In This Episode:The five most common body archetypes and what they revealHow fear disguises itself as perfectionism, procrastination, and information gatheringThe connection between self-care and abandonment woundsWhy weight is often a symptom, not the real problemHow emotional avoidance creates anxiety and physical symptomsThe role of feelings, needs, and nervous system regulation in lasting changeWhy accountability is one of the most powerful forms of self-loveAn introduction to the upcoming Metabolic Transformation Studio membershipKey TakeawayYour health habits are not character flaws. They're often emotional protection strategies created to keep you safe. When you identify the wound beneath the behavior and begin meeting your deeper needs, self-care becomes less about willpower and more about self-love.Resources Mentioned:Body Archetype Assessment: jjflizanes.com/archetypeFeelings & Needs ListEight-Week Body ResetRewiring Your Core Wound PatternsMetabolic Transformation Studio https://jjflizanes.com/studio
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What Your Body Archetype Reveals About Your Core Wounds, Self-Care Patterns, and Emotional Survival StrategiesIn this powerful episode, JJ shares one of the most eye-opening exercises from her beta Eight-Week Body Reset program—an assessment designed to uncover the hidden archetypes that sabotage self-care, health goals, and personal growth. What participants discovered wasn't simply why they struggle with exercise, nutrition, or consistency. They uncovered the emotional survival strategies running beneath their behaviors.JJ reveals the most common archetypes identified by participants—including the Avoider, Perfectionist, Overachiever, Emotional Eater, and Information Collector—and explains why these patterns are rarely about food, fitness, or willpower. Instead, they're often rooted in fear, abandonment, rejection, shame, and unmet emotional needs.You'll learn why procrastination is often nervous system protection rather than laziness, how perfectionism masks deeper fears of criticism and failure, and why so many people continue gathering information instead of taking action. JJ also connects these archetypes directly to her Core Wound framework, showing how self-care struggles often mirror the ways we unconsciously abandon ourselves.The episode explores four major themes that emerged from the exercise:"If I can't do it perfectly, I won't do it at all."Avoidance as emotional protection.Why self-care feels selfish.The real cost of neglecting yourself isn't weight gain—it's losing freedom, confidence, trust, and opportunities.JJ explains how true transformation isn't about becoming thinner, more disciplined, or more productive. It's about becoming someone who trusts themselves, keeps promises to themselves, feels worthy, and no longer needs survival strategies to feel safe.In This Episode:The five most common body archetypes and what they revealHow fear disguises itself as perfectionism, procrastination, and information gatheringThe connection between self-care and abandonment woundsWhy weight is often a symptom, not the real problemHow emotional avoidance creates anxiety and physical symptomsThe role of feelings, needs, and nervous system regulation in lasting changeWhy accountability is one of the most powerful forms of self-loveAn introduction to the upcoming Metabolic Transformation Studio membershipKey TakeawayYour health habits are not character flaws. They're often emotional protection strategies created to keep you safe. When you identify the wound beneath the behavior and begin meeting your deeper needs, self-care becomes less about willpower and more about self-love.Resources Mentioned:Body Archetype Assessment: jjflizanes.com/archetypeFeelings & Needs ListEight-Week Body ResetRewiring Your Core Wound PatternsMetabolic Transformation Studio https://jjflizanes.com/studio
What Your Body Archetype Reveals About Your Core Wounds, Self-Care Patterns, and Emotional Survival StrategiesIn this powerful episode, JJ shares one of the most eye-opening exercises from her beta Eight-Week Body Reset program—an assessment designed to uncover the hidden archetypes that sabotage self-care, health goals, and personal growth. What participants discovered wasn't simply why they struggle with exercise, nutrition, or consistency. They uncovered the emotional survival strategies running beneath their behaviors.JJ reveals the most common archetypes identified by participants—including the Avoider, Perfectionist, Overachiever, Emotional Eater, and Information Collector—and explains why these patterns are rarely about food, fitness, or willpower. Instead, they're often rooted in fear, abandonment, rejection, shame, and unmet emotional needs.You'll learn why procrastination is often nervous system protection rather than laziness, how perfectionism masks deeper fears of criticism and failure, and why so many people continue gathering information instead of taking action. JJ also connects these archetypes directly to her Core Wound framework, showing how self-care struggles often mirror the ways we unconsciously abandon ourselves.The episode explores four major themes that emerged from the exercise:"If I can't do it perfectly, I won't do it at all."Avoidance as emotional protection.Why self-care feels selfish.The real cost of neglecting yourself isn't weight gain—it's losing freedom, confidence, trust, and opportunities.JJ explains how true transformation isn't about becoming thinner, more disciplined, or more productive. It's about becoming someone who trusts themselves, keeps promises to themselves, feels worthy, and no longer needs survival strategies to feel safe.In This Episode:The five most common body archetypes and what they revealHow fear disguises itself as perfectionism, procrastination, and information gatheringThe connection between self-care and abandonment woundsWhy weight is often a symptom, not the real problemHow emotional avoidance creates anxiety and physical symptomsThe role of feelings, needs, and nervous system regulation in lasting changeWhy accountability is one of the most powerful forms of self-loveAn introduction to the upcoming Metabolic Transformation Studio membershipKey TakeawayYour health habits are not character flaws. They're often emotional protection strategies created to keep you safe. When you identify the wound beneath the behavior and begin meeting your deeper needs, self-care becomes less about willpower and more about self-love.Resources Mentioned:Body Archetype Assessment: jjflizanes.com/archetypeFeelings & Needs ListEight-Week Body ResetRewiring Your Core Wound PatternsMetabolic Transformation Studio https://jjflizanes.com/studio
What Your Body Archetype Reveals About Your Core Wounds, Self-Care Patterns, and Emotional Survival StrategiesIn this powerful episode, JJ shares one of the most eye-opening exercises from her beta Eight-Week Body Reset program—an assessment designed to uncover the hidden archetypes that sabotage self-care, health goals, and personal growth. What participants discovered wasn't simply why they struggle with exercise, nutrition, or consistency. They uncovered the emotional survival strategies running beneath their behaviors.JJ reveals the most common archetypes identified by participants—including the Avoider, Perfectionist, Overachiever, Emotional Eater, and Information Collector—and explains why these patterns are rarely about food, fitness, or willpower. Instead, they're often rooted in fear, abandonment, rejection, shame, and unmet emotional needs.You'll learn why procrastination is often nervous system protection rather than laziness, how perfectionism masks deeper fears of criticism and failure, and why so many people continue gathering information instead of taking action. JJ also connects these archetypes directly to her Core Wound framework, showing how self-care struggles often mirror the ways we unconsciously abandon ourselves.The episode explores four major themes that emerged from the exercise:"If I can't do it perfectly, I won't do it at all."Avoidance as emotional protection.Why self-care feels selfish.The real cost of neglecting yourself isn't weight gain—it's losing freedom, confidence, trust, and opportunities.JJ explains how true transformation isn't about becoming thinner, more disciplined, or more productive. It's about becoming someone who trusts themselves, keeps promises to themselves, feels worthy, and no longer needs survival strategies to feel safe.In This Episode:The five most common body archetypes and what they revealHow fear disguises itself as perfectionism, procrastination, and information gatheringThe connection between self-care and abandonment woundsWhy weight is often a symptom, not the real problemHow emotional avoidance creates anxiety and physical symptomsThe role of feelings, needs, and nervous system regulation in lasting changeWhy accountability is one of the most powerful forms of self-loveAn introduction to the upcoming Metabolic Transformation Studio membershipKey TakeawayYour health habits are not character flaws. They're often emotional protection strategies created to keep you safe. When you identify the wound beneath the behavior and begin meeting your deeper needs, self-care becomes less about willpower and more about self-love.Resources Mentioned:Body Archetype Assessment: jjflizanes.com/archetypeFeelings & Needs ListEight-Week Body ResetRewiring Your Core Wound PatternsMetabolic Transformation Studio (coming soon)
Welcome to Episode 147 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I have the privilege of chatting with Nichole Suvar. As a coach, writer, and speaker, Nichole helps Christian women embrace the unfolding of God's work in them, finding peace and purpose through intentional living. Together, they lean into His quiet leading, discovering strength and clarity in the refining spaces of grace. Nichole's passion is to equip women to release overwhelm and walk with confidence in thelife God has called them to. She lives in the Midwest with her husband and three children.Today we're going to talk all about her newbook, I Don't Have to Hold It All Together: Cultivating the Peace of Eden When Feeling Overwhelmed.*Some of the resources we mention include:Restore: Soul Care for Moms tickets Michael Connelly Books*You can connect with Nichole via:Her website: livewithintent.orgInstagram: @nicholejsuvarGet a copy of my new book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms for yourself and/or some mom friends today at twominutetimeouts.com.Don't forget that you can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberry*Affiliate Link
Overachiever. Perfectionist. The strong one. The one who holds everything together. Most of us wear these labels like personality traits. But what if a lot of them are actually who we have to become? In this episode, I'm taking a closer look at the survival patterns that show up so often in the women I work with and mentor; the ones that started as solutions to real pain and real environments, and somewhere along the way became an identity. This isn't about shame or tearing down what's gotten you this far. It's about getting curious enough to ask: is this a God-given gift, or is this a strategy I no longer need? Also, don't forget!
Are you tired of shouldering the weight of impossible standards and harsh self-judgment? This week on the podcast, Shannon Popkin returns for an honest conversation about judging—especially the way perfectionists measure themselves with a critical, merciless scoop. In this compassionate and insightful episode, you’ll hear:- Why “judge not” is more nuanced than you might think, and how the Bible calls us to both discernment and humility.- How the standards we use to judge ourselves often seep into our perception of others—even when we think we’re showing only ourselves the harshness. - The trap of perfectionism: when striving to be flawless turns into wounded pride and a subtle resistance to receiving grace.- The difference between external rule-keeping and the biblical invitation to “walk with God”—not just check every box.- How admitting our need for mercy—rather than clinging to “good girl” status—actually brings us closer to Jesus and frees us from the courtroom in our heads.- A vulnerable story of how Shannon realized she’d been harshly judging a friend’s motives, and the freedom that came with confession and restored relationship. Resources & Next Steps: - Check out Shannon's latest book here: Kinda Judgy on Amazon (Amazon affiliate link)- Take Shannon’s “Kind of Judgy” Quiz and download the heart check at: http://shannonpopkin.com/judgy- Explore stories from Shannon’s new book for practical ways to deal with self-judgment and embrace mercy!- Share this episode with a friend who struggles to be gentle with herself! **Let this episode be your invitation to step out of self-condemnation, walk in mercy, and embrace the freeing truth of the gospel—for yourself, not just everyone else.** Listen now for hope and honest insight! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
You already know what to do. You know you should lift, you know you should walk, you know protein matters. The information was never the problem. So why do you keep falling off the second life gets busy, and why does it feel like the only thing standing between you and consistency is more discipline you cannot seem to build? Here is the truth most women never hear: it was never just about discipline. I sat down with Jordan Syatt, strength and nutrition coach to Gary Vaynerchuk and a five time world record powerlifter, to talk about the real reason women cannot stay consistent, and it comes down to a "perfectionism" trap that quietly gives you permission to quit every time you fall short. We also get into why walking is one of the most underrated things you can do for your body, the blood markers that tell you more about your health than the scale ever will, and his honest take on motivation, GLP-1s, and what it actually takes to stop starting over.If you're tired of starting over and finally want to build a sustainable road to fitness that'll snowball to consistency and habits, this episode is for you. What's Discussed: (01:06) Why a short calorie tracking window can change how you eat. (07:29) Why walking is the most underrated thing you can do for your long term health. (13:05) Why your blood work tells you more about your health than the scale. (17:25) The DEXA scan problem and why body fat numbers do more harm than good. (23:51) Renaming "maintenance" to "momentum" and why holding your results is its own skill. (29:13) The "perfectionism" trap and why it is the real reason you cannot stay consistent. (32:24) Motivation versus discipline and why you actually need both. (40:07) The truth about GLP-1s beyond weight loss. Join us live on Monday, June 15 at 5pm CST and you'll get a special discount on BroadsCOACH BUILD if you sign up for the Summer Cohort on the call. Save your spot now at: broads.app/body-recomp-webinar Find out more from Broads: Website: broads.app Instagram: @broads.podcast @broads.app Check More Resources: Macronutrient Guide: Want a simple place to start fuelling for the body you're building? Grab Broad's FREE Macronutrient Guide: The Balanced Plate Blueprint at broads.app/macronutrient-guide. Gym Starter Guide: Ready to stop waiting for "someday"? Download the free guide at broads.app/gym-starter-guide Check out more from Tara LaFerrara: Website: taralaferrara.com Instagram: @taralaferrara YouTube: @TaraLaferrara TikTok: @taralaferrara Check out more from Jordan Syatt: Website: syattfitness.com YouTube: @jordansyatt Instagram: @syattfitness Facebook: Jordan Syatt TikTok: @syattfitness Podcast: The Jordan Syatt Podcast
In this podcast, Greg Voisen sits down with Rosie Ward, Ph.D., author of Future-Proofing Leadership: Navigating Change and Disruption to Thrive in an Uncertain World. Together, they expose the hidden "stuckness zone"—the widening gap between an increasingly chaotic world and the ancient, self-protective biological hardwiring that causes leaders to freeze, panic, or micromanage when disruption hits. Dr. Ward peels back the corporate mask to share a deeply personal look into her own journey, proving that no one is entirely immune to the subtle internal biases that quietly sabotage our best strategic intentions. If you have ever felt completely overwhelmed by rapid organizational shifts or wondered why your team defaults to a state of defensive paralysis when under pressure, this eye-opening conversation is your ultimate invitation to upgrade your inner operating system. By exploring the core human challenges beneath corporate strategies, this episode maps out a practical blueprint for stepping away from fear-based habits and moving confidently into authentic, resilient execution. Listen to Greg and Rosie's previous interview: https://insidepersonalgrowth.com/posts/podcast-909-rehumanizing-the-workplace-with-dr-rosie-ward
Welcome to Episode 146 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I have the privilege of chatting with Jody Hill. She is abestselling author, speaker, and parent educator who helps parents become the loudest and most positive voice in their child's life by harnessing the power of their everyday words. With a BA in Speech Communication, Executive Coaching Certification, and over a decade of hands-on parenting experience, Jody combines practical insight with relatable, real-life stories and easy-to-apply strategies that help parents shift how they speak, support, and show up for their children. She is the author of the Amazon bestseller The Parent's Secret Superpower, which we're going to chat about today!Some of the resources we mention in this episode include:Restore: Soul Care for Moms tickets Raising Mentally Strong Kids by Daniel Amen & Charles Fay*Eight Great Smarts by Kathy Koch*You can connect with Jody via:Her website: itsjodyhill.comInstagram: @jodyhillparentingGet a copy of my new book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms for yourself and/or some mom friends today at twominutetimeouts.com.Don't forget that you can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberry*Affiliate Link
Lords: Aubrey http://glowhno.com/ Avery Topics: Every day since 1981 Yuri Borisovich Norstein and his wife Francheska Yarbusova have worked on their masterpice--an animated adaptaion of Gogol's short story The Overcoat. They couple is now in their 80s and will most likely never complete their film. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Overcoat_(animated_film) Video game urban legends https://vimeo.com/91436410 https://saint-arthur.tumblr.com/post/146680746144/riding-immortal-on-the-seeking-road Bay Area Airport Naming Drama The Only Animal by Franz Wright https://april-is.tumblr.com/post/89794820/april-25-2008-the-only-animal-franz-wright Microtopics: Loving only the parts you don't hate. Finishing the whole pack of Red Vines because you refuse to let them defeat you. An album you haven't put on Spotify. You know. Those podcasts. The sort of thing we don't do around here. Holding up cue cards so the guests know what to say. Reading all 180,000 messages in the Frog Fractions 2 ARG solvers discord. The tech company you're applying to sending you all the Enron emails, saying "review these before the interview" Mysteries, Easter eggs, and rose-tinted glasses. Hedgehog in the Fog. Arduous animation processes. Working on an animated feature by yourself for over 40 years. Great Family Entertainment. A story about a guy who has everything he needs who dies while trying to buy an overcoat. A huge pack of Red Vines that you and your wife have been eating since 1981. Burning yourself out very quickly if you don't put guardrails in place. Perfectionists throwing away years of work because it's not good enough. DJs who still spin vinyl and other artists who choose to do things the hard way. Enveloping yourself in an emotion. Refusing to break character for the entire time you're making the Youtube documentary. Putting away art you're having a hard time with and coming back to it later. Everything that happened between the Sigil Master and Austin Walker. Losing track of whether art looks good. The fine line between pacing yourself and torturing yourself. The statue in the background of Frog Fractions that turns red when you're on Mars. Encouraging people to have whimsy. Space Knight Rom. Snagglepuss the 1950s playwright. Back when you could make up a video game rumor and not have it immediately debunked. GTA San Andreas urban legends. Windows Movie Maker transition screens. Gravitating towards the unknowable. Self-destructing music. Scarcity and unknowability. Buying an album from the record shop and perusing the indie record label catalog that comes with it. Searching for the 16th colossus. Forming a small community and feeling communal with them. Playing games with a group of friends like a book club. An MMO full of ARGy type stuff. Automatically grouping people into a puzzle solving community. Being paralyzed by the sheer amount of information that you don't know. What's going on with the iGlyphs? Finding evidence of the Jejune Institute on a telephone pole. Painstakingly making the 7th Frog Fractions game, 45 years from now. The history of Seeking Mr. Eaten's Name. Game secrets that can't be ruined by one jerk with a decompiler. Sleep No More. Getting pulled into a secret compartment during an interactive play. Multi-city zombie larps. The Oakland Airport renaming themselves to the San Francisco Bay International Airport and then later the lawsuit becoming the Oakland San Francisco Bay Airport. Bay Area topology. San Francisco and South San Francisco. The Unincorporated Area of San Mateo County International Airport, or UAOSMCIA. American cities named after European cities. The Bass Pro Shop Pyramid in Memphis, TN. Filling a 32-story disco pyramid with sports equipment. Fry's Electronics. Another episode of Topic Lords where we read from Wikipedia. A huge empty building with paintings of Mayan gods holding torches that used to be an electronics store. One more way in which people forget about San Diego. The only animal that brushes its own teeth A monkey wearing a spacesuit trying to smoke a cigarette through the face shield. The only animal that smokes cigarettes. (Todd, who works down at the warehouse.) Meeting your estranged dad when at the awards show when you're both up for the same Pulitzer. Whether that fuckin' awesome monkey is a Bored Ape. Whether Google Image Search is making up images yet. That time Ryan North and his dog got stuck in an empty swimming pool and turned it into an interactive text adventure. By the time you've smelt it, they have dealt it. Topics are over!
If you have a tendency to put off anything selling related until the last minute (or you avoid it altogether) then this episode is going to be insanely helpful for you. In this epic episode you'll hear me navigate the content creation and pre-launch period, the launch itself and give a detailed debrief of the launch results. It's a compilation of recordings I made throughout the entire process where I share what I was going through, how I was feeling and the ups and downs of it all. In this raw and real episode, I share not only the wins but the hard lessons I learned so that you can have them as wisdom to use in your own business. If you're a perfectionist and you're building a business, you want to listen to this episode today. WANT MORE? If you want to learn how to consistently follow through with your plans, join me for my upcoming free live Power Planning Workshop. Get the workshop details and register today at samlaurabrown.com/workshop. If you want to see behind the scenes of my journey of building my own business as a perfectionist entrepreneur, subscribe to my youtube channel: samlaurabrown.com/youtube. Want a little motivational boost from me in your inbox every day? I call them Perfectionist Power-Ups and thousands of perfectionists love them. You can sign up for free at samlaurabrown.com/ppu. Perfectionists Getting Shit Done is opening for enrollment on 17 June 2026 for one week only. To find out more about working with me and be the first to know when doors open, visit the waitlist today at samlaurabrown.com/pgsd.
Once an ironman athlete and perfectionist, Risa August faced a devastating diagnosis that stripped away her former life. This is the story of how she found new purpose and adventure, transforming her approach to life, from rigid achievement to joyful discovery, even with her unexpected companion, "Bubba," her brain tumor. Chapters: 00:00 From Extreme Achiever to Illness Host Bill Burke introduces Risa August, an adventurous woman who once excelled in extreme sports, asking, "Is there anything you can't do?" Risa describes her past as an intense overachiever and perfectionist, pushing limits in Ironman, mountain climbing, and hot yoga, always striving to be better than others and maintaining a rigid lifestyle. 03:51 The Diagnosis of Acromegaly Risa recounts the onset of strange symptoms after her first Ironman in 2010, including significant weight gain despite a strict diet and increasing fatigue. After years of doctors dismissing her concerns, she insisted on an MRI, which revealed an enlarged pituitary and led to her diagnosis of acromegaly, a serious condition she had never heard of before. 11:09 Choosing Adventure Over Despair Faced with a devastating diagnosis and a challenging life, Risa decided not to break down but to break out, committing to her adventures despite doctors' warnings about what she could no longer do. She realized she would never be her old self, so she focused on "who can I be then?" and made a conscious decision to truly live life on her own terms. 14:00 The Road Unpaved and Bubba Risa found a new purpose in a cross-country bicycle journey along the Pacific Coast Highway, a trip she committed to doing on her own terms after reflecting on her past perfectionism. She also named her brain tumor 'Bubba' as a way to connect with her changing body, turning him into a central character and partner in her healing journey and the book. 21:29 Gestalt Therapy and Connection Risa discusses how her Gestalt therapy training, which she underwent during her diagnosis, provided a crucial support network and helped her become a more patient, compassionate, and curious practitioner. She also emphasizes the importance of deep, personal connection and active listening, a lesson she learned on her bike tour by giving others a chance and finding unexpected commonalities. 30:13 The CAN Framework Risa shares her 'CAN' framework—Capable, Able, Now—which she developed after feeling stuck post-surgery and questioning her purpose. This mantra helped her simplify the complex challenges she faced, prompting her to ask, "What am I capable and able to do now, in this moment?" 35:29 Living a Full Life Now Risa openly discusses the progression of her acromegaly and its physical toll, yet she maintains a strong mindset, dedicated to inspiring others to live full lives. She now finds joy in simple things, like perusing a farmer's market, and doesn't worry about disappointing others by not always seeking the 'next big thing.'
If you have the most detailed, amazing plans but you're always waiting until everything is perfect to get started, this episode is for you. I'm breaking down the second of four procrastination profiles: the Perfectionist. You excel at creating detailed roadmaps and speak spreadsheet fluently, but you get stuck moving from planning to execution. The plan feels safe. The first real step does not. You're going to change the world just as soon as the plan is perfect, but here's the problem: the plan will never be perfect. It can't be, because there's too much information and it's all changing too quickly. In this episode, discover your core procrastination trap, why you resist the uncertainty of execution, and what to do about it. Plus, I'll tell you about the lightning fast, free quiz at JonAcuff.com/quiz that will show you exactly which type of procrastination you deal with and give you a step by step action plan to overcome it.In This Episode:Order Procrastination Proof!You can grab a copy of my new book Procrastination Proof from your favorite bookstore or at my website!Make sure to follow me on Instagram and share with your friends!Sign up for my newsletter, Try This!Book me to speak at your event or to your team!Sign up for the Remarkable You Community today!Keep up with my book list on GoodReads! Have me speak at your next event!