Podcasts about perfectionists

Have you ever found yourself lying awake at 3 AM, replaying conversations and wondering if you said the wrong thing? Or maybe you're that friend who can read a room in seconds, sensing every mood shift before anyone else notices? Here's the thing - that's not just being "super empathetic." It might be something deeper called emotional outsourcing.Your hypervigilance, your people-pleasing, your chronic anxiety about other people's moods - those are wonderful, amazing survival strategies that once kept little you safe, but are now keeping grown you small.This is exactly why I wrote my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits, to give you a roadmap back to your own inner knowing. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Are you constantly putting everyone else's needs before your own, even in your grief? When we're grieving, it's tempting to try to "keep it together" for everyone else. But managing your grief for others' comfort comes at a deep cost to our own healing.   This week, I'm joined by Bea Albina, a nurse practitioner turned master life coach, somatic expert, and author of a new book called End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits.   She's here to discuss this pattern of handing our worth, choices, and energy over to others to feel safe, loved, and accepted, or as she calls it: emotional outsourcing.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/330      

What happens when you put two Leo Queens in a room–well, this week's podcast for one. But mostly, you get a lot of laughs, massive helpings of honesty, and loads of hard-earned wisdom. This week on Bound + Determined, I'm chatting with Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP, all about codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing– OH MY! And from what I know about myself and the women around me, this episode couldn't have come soon enough. Béa is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and author of the forthcoming book End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits (Sept 30, Hachette Balance) with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College.  Basically, she's here to save us from our own downfall. Tune in!  

My love, I have something really special for you today: I'm sharing Chapter One of my upcoming book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This chapter unpacks what emotional outsourcing really is, how it sneaks into our lives, and why it's not your fault you've been carrying these patterns. You'll hear stories from my clients, my own journey, and the cultural forces that keep us stuck in self-abandonment... plus the first steps toward reclaiming your inherent worth.If you would like to read along, you can find chapter one at https://beatrizalbina.com/chapterone/Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today. Pre-orders make a huge difference in helping this message reach more people.

Do you ever wonder why you sometimes feel an inexplicable rage towards the people you love most? If you've ever agreed to take on more work when you're already drowning, pushed through exhaustion to help others, ignored your own needs to keep the peace, or found yourself inexplicably angry about small things, this episode is for you. Join me this week as I teach you the mathematical formula for resentment. You'll learn the science behind why saying "yes" when you mean "no" creates emotional labor debt, what's actually happening in your nervous system when you override your own needs, and how to start breaking free from the resentment equation.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/344Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Are you tired of feeling stuck in resistance and weighed down by the pressure to be perfect? In this heartfelt episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, host Kim Gross gets real about her own struggles with unmet desires, perfectionism, and the frustration that comes when life doesn't go as planned.✨ What you'll learn in this episode:Why resistance shows up and how to move through itThe power of surrender, letting go, and aligning with the universeHow to balance inspired action without burning outInsights from spiritual teachers like Joe Dispenza and David BayerPractical steps to embrace imperfection and find inner freedomKim's raw, unfiltered storytelling will inspire you to release control, embrace your authentic self, and discover more peace, joy, and abundance in everyday life.⏱ Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: The Struggle for Dreams 01:04 Host Introduction and Personal Struggles 01:22 The Frustration of Resistance 02:28 The Wisdom of Letting Go 04:57 The Pity Party and Real Talk 06:01 The Importance of Inner Peace 08:38 Balancing Life and Energy 10:32 Returning to the Topic of Resistance 13:25 The Practice of Surrendering 24:15 The Miracle of Inner Freedom 27:07 Conclusion and Future Plans

Episode Overview If perfectionist thinking and all-or-nothing habits have kept you stuck, you're not alone. In this episode, Jen breaks down why so many “recovering perfectionist” women struggle to build habits that last—and what to do instead. You'll learn how perfectionism fuels inconsistency, how to reframe failure, and how to apply the Balance365 concept of “all or something” to build real momentum with your goals. This episode is packed with practical, compassionate advice for anyone who's tired of falling off track and ready to try a new approach—one that actually works. If you like what you hear in this episode, don't miss your chance to join us when we open enrollment to join Balance365! Add your name to our obligation-free waitlist, and we will waive the $199 registration fee. Click here to learn more. Key Points Why perfectionism leads to self-sabotage (not success) The power of “all or something” thinking How to set realistic, achievable goals that build confidence Why consistent imperfect action is the secret to success

When a problem keeps showing up in your life like an unwelcome visitor, how do you respond? Maybe the same struggles keep resurfacing despite your best efforts—leaving work at the office, carving out time for what matters, or breaking free from patterns that no longer serve you. It can feel like these challenges are unsolvable, draining your energy, and stealing your peace of mind.   These problems aren't unsolvable; the challenge is often in how we approach them. We resist looking at what's painful and dismiss our deepest desires as unrealistic or selfish. In this episode, I share two techniques that flip this pattern. You'll learn how to create containers for difficult emotions, honor your desires without getting lost in logistics, and design small, doable experiments that move you forward when you feel stuck.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/189

This week on Strength in Numbers, we begin our nine-part Enneagram series by looking at Type 1 - the Improver, Perfectionist, or Reformer - through the lens of quiet leadership.Type 1s bring a powerful mix of integrity, responsibility, and consistency to the way they lead. But they also face challenges, like a strong inner critic and the pressure to get everything just right.In this episode, you'll learn:The unique strengths Type 1s bring as quiet leadersThe challenges they face when balancing high standards with gracePractical ways Type 1s can thrive in leadership without burning outWhether you're a Type 1 yourself, or you work with or love a Type 1, this episode will give you fresh insight into how quiet leadership creates stability, trust, and impact.

Welcome to Episode 128 of The Perfectionist's Guide toMothering!  I originally had different content planned for this episodebut after the events of last week, felt compelled to record this episode instead. I hope you find it helpful and encouraging!You can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberryGet a Mom's Guide for Back to School here⁠Pre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days.*⁠⁠Join my book launch team.⁠*Affiliate Link

 Do you ever catch yourself stuck in endless “what if” questions at work? Do small decisions feel paralyzing because you're always searching for the perfect answer? If so, overthinking may be the mindset keeping you trapped in the grind.In this episode, Amelia breaks down:How overthinking drains your time, energy, and confidence at work.Why catastrophizing “what if” scenarios stalls your career growth.Three simple strategies to stop spinning in questions and start making clear, confident decisions.

#343: I receive beautiful messages from listeners telling me that being called "my angel" or "mi amor" transformed their entire week, maybe even the whole way they relate to themselves. Yet others write to express their discomfort. The language feels too familiar, unprofessional, even anti-feminist. This divide illuminates a crucial truth about healing: when genuine tenderness makes your skin crawl, your nervous system is telling you something important.Tune in this week to discover the neuroscience of how gentle language literally rewires our neural pathways, and why some of us recoil from warmth like it's sensory overload. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/343Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

"If you have IBS, chronic fatigue, autoimmune disease, or anxiety that won't go away - your doctor might be missing something huge. Your illness might not be just physical. It might be your body screaming what your mouth can't say: NO.In this episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, host Kim Gross uncovers the powerful connection between chronic illness and patterns like people-pleasing and perfectionism. These behaviors, often rooted in childhood, can create chronic stress that worsens conditions like IBS, autoimmune disease, chronic fatigue, and anxiety.✨ Inside this episode, you'll learn:How people-pleasing and perfectionism contribute to chronic illnessKim's personal journey from diagnosis to deeper self-awarenessWhy emotional well-being is directly tied to physical healthAn introduction to the 5-Step POWER Pathway (Patterns, Ownership, Willingness, Embrace, Radical Responsibility)Actionable steps you can take today to set boundaries, honor your true self, and begin your healing journey

Do you ever feel torn about what to do next? Maybe you're juggling work deadlines, school drop-offs, or endless to-do lists, and each decision feels urgent. When different parts of you want different things, it's easy to get stuck overthinking and second-guessing yourself, leaving you frustrated and unsure of how to move forward.   In this episode, I share a three-step framework to help you gain clarity when you feel conflicted. I introduce the concept of your “inner mediator,” a calm, neutral part of yourself that can listen to all sides, weigh priorities, and uncover solutions that honor every perspective. You'll learn how to identify the conflicting thoughts and feelings inside you, understand the core concerns behind each one, and create a way forward that feels aligned with what's truly important.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/188

Are you feeling stuck in routines—or ready to explore your full stylistic potential? In this honest, insightful episode, Elaine chats with award-winning stylist Vivienne Mackinder about the archetypes that shape every artist's journey—from Puppet to Perfectionist to Artist to Pedestal.What you'll learn:The four (plus one) archetypes that inform how you show up—and how to balance them.Why technical excellence doesn't always equal client connection.How to transition from pleasing others to trusting your innate design instincts.Why serving clients through design, not just grooming, transforms your work—and business.How body type and face shape inform smarter, more personalized haircutting decisions.This is a must-listen for stylists looking to deepen their craft, sharpen their confidence, and elevate their client relationships.

Have you ever been told that your perfectionism is a problem? Maybe you've felt like it's the reason you're stressed, restless, or never satisfied with yourself. But what if perfectionism isn't actually the enemy? What if it's a form of power that, when channeled with compassion, can actually bring you more joy and meaning? In this episode, I'm joined by Katherine Morgan Schafler, a psychotherapist and the author of The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control. Katherine offers a refreshing perspective: perfectionism doesn't need to be “fixed” or hidden—it can be embraced and redirected in healthier, more adaptive ways. In this conversation, you'll learn:

I used to think I wasn't perfect enough to be a perfectionist. And because I didn't realise I was a perfectionist, I had no real way to start overcoming the procrastination, crippling self-doubt and overthinking that was keeping me and my business stuck.  Realising that I'm a perfectionist (and what that actually means) gave me a whole new vocabulary that has allowed me to change my life for the better – because it's only when you realise you're a perfectionist that you become empowered to overcome perfectionism. In this episode, I'm opening up about my journey with perfectionism and the important points along the way. I can't remember everything but I hope that what I share in this episode helps you understand yourself a little bit more. How to get more help with releasing your Perfectionism Handbrake: Join Perfectionists Getting Shit Done (aka PGSD) today - samlaurabrown.com/pgsd Take The Perfectionism Quiz - samlaurabrown.com/quiz Sign up for daily Perfectionist Power-Ups - samlaurabrown.com/power Follow me on instagram: @perfectionismproject

Feeling like you “just got lucky” at work? Ever catch yourself downplaying wins or waiting to feel ready before you raise your hand?What the impostor mindset looks like (common thoughts, feelings, and behaviors)Why high-achievers are most prone to impostor syndrome—and how it fuels overworkThree simple, daily practices to rebuild confidence (wins file, no “buts,” positive self-review) Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Want to know the biggest reason you're feeling overworked and overwhelmed at work right now, and how you can start feeling better today?Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good.About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

Breaking Free from People Pleasing: My Journey to Self-Care and HealingAre you always the “go-to person” for everyone else—yet secretly exhausted, burned out, and struggling with your health?

Do you find yourself making plans repeatedly but never following through? You set intentions to exercise, organize your space, or reach out to someone you care about, but it never happens. This pattern can leave you frustrated and stuck, questioning why you can't just do what you say you will, even when it's something you genuinely want.   In this episode, I break down what's really going on when plans fail, beyond the usual advice about motivation, willpower, or accountability systems. Resistance isn't a flaw; it's information. When you notice yourself avoiding a workout, skipping a task, or postponing a call, it's often your mind and body signaling something important. Understanding that signal changes how you approach your intentions, and it can transform repeated patterns of inaction into insight and forward movement.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/187

In this episode, I'm sharing a real coaching conversation from a Perfectionists Getting Shit Done coaching call. I'm teaching on what to do once you spot a Perfectionist Pattern and how to avoid the shame spiral that can come with having more awareness around your own patterns of self-sabotage. How to get more help with releasing your Perfectionism Handbrake: Join my coaching program, Perfectionists Getting Shit Done (aka PGSD) - samlaurabrown.com/pgsd Take The Perfectionism Quiz - samlaurabrown.com/quiz Sign up for daily Perfectionist Power-Ups - samlaurabrown.com/power Follow me on instagram: @perfectionismproject

If you've tried everything—therapy, time-blocking, supplements, mindset work—but still wake up tired, wired, and stuck in survival mode… this episode is your turning point.I'm walking you through the exact 7-step framework I teach inside The Burnout Recovery Blueprint to help high-achieving women regulate their nervous system and actually feel better.No more patchwork self-care plans. No more chasing quick fixes. This is root-cause healing.Inside this episode: ✔️ Why your nervous system—not your schedule—is the root of burnout✔️ The 7 science-backed steps that shift you from overdrive to calm, present, and powerful✔️ What makes BRB different from anything else you've tried - and how to know if it's right for youIf you're done operating from exhaustion and ready to feel like yourself again, this is the episode to hit play on. 

Episode Description: In this episode of What If For Authors, Claire asks the question: What if I'm a perfectionist? She breaks down the myth of “perfect,” explores how each Enneagram type approaches perfectionism differently, and offers practical ways to challenge the illusion of control that perfectionism creates. If you've ever stalled out because your draft “wasn't good enough,” obsessed over tiny details at the expense of joy, or secretly feared that one mistake could ruin everything—you'll find both relief and encouragement in this conversation. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the concept of “perfection” is made up—and how that realization can set you free How idealism (a beautiful quality) can twist into painful perfectionism The hidden childhood lessons that might have taught you mistakes weren't safe Why perfectionism doesn't produce perfect books—it produces stuck authors How each Enneagram type disguises perfectionism in its own way Why publishing a book will always feel vulnerable (and why that's good news) A simple practice to start loosening perfectionism's grip today Takeaway Challenge: Make one mistake on purpose this week—and leave it there. Whether it's leaving a typo in a draft, breaking one of your own “rules,” or letting something slide without fixing it, notice what happens. Is it really the catastrophe your perfectionism promised? Or is it… nothing at all? Support the Show: If this episode gave you permission to breathe a little deeper, please share it with another author who could use the same relief. You can also support the show by leaving a review wherever you listen—it helps more perfectionist authors find their way here. Want to go deeper? Visit liberatedwriter.com to explore Claire's coaching, courses, and books designed to help authors thrive without perfectionism weighing them down. Access the transcript here. Happy writing!

Do you spend hours longer than you want to doing and re-doing deliverables until they're 'perfect?'Do you beat yourself up for small mistakes on the job for days - or even weeks ...especially after everyone else has moved on? Do you take secret pride in being a perfectionist - even if you know it's causing you so much stress, overwhelm, and burnout in your career?In this episode, you'll learn:How perfectionist tendencies create burnout, stress, and overworking in a demanding corporate careerWhat you need to focus on instead of 'perfection in order to feel better and be more effective on the job3 simple but effective strategies you can use to break out of perfectionistic patterns that are slowing down your career growth & holding you back from professional successEnroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Want to know the biggest reason you're feeling overworked and overwhelmed at work right now, and how you can start feeling better today?Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good.About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

#341: If you've ever found yourself constantly scanning other people's faces for approval, shapeshifting to keep the peace, or feeling completely disconnected from what you actually want, this episode is for you. You might call this people-pleasing or being too sensitive, but something much more profound is going on here: you're living with emotional outsourcing.Tune in this week as I explain how emotional outsourcing gets stored in your body as a procedural memory - not just a thought you can talk yourself out of. You'll learn how this adaptation develops early, gets reinforced by cultural systems, and shows up in your body.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/341Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

In this powerful and heartfelt conversation, Dr. Cristina Castagnini welcomes back Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP—nurse practitioner, somatic life coach, and host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast. Béa returns to discuss her upcoming book, End Emotional Outsourcing: A Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits (Hachette Balance, Sept. 30).Béa introduces the term “emotional outsourcing”—her reframe of the outdated concept of codependency. Rather than pathologizing love, care, and connection, she explains how people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-erasure are survival strategies we once needed to stay safe. Now, however, these patterns keep us disconnected from our authenticity, self-trust, and worth.Through personal insights, metaphors (like “baby sweaters” and “newborn kitten steps”), and clinical wisdom, Béa and Dr. Castagnini explore how emotional outsourcing is deeply tied to body image, diet culture, and perfectionist pressures. Together, they outline pathways toward reclaiming self-trust, rebuilding body awareness, and setting loving boundaries—so we can live lives rooted in authenticity rather than external validation.SHOW NOTES: Click hereFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/behind_the_bite

In this powerful and heartfelt conversation, Dr. Cristina Castagnini welcomes back Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP—nurse practitioner, somatic life coach, and host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast. Béa returns to discuss her upcoming book, End Emotional Outsourcing: A Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits (Hachette Balance, Sept. 30).Béa introduces the term “emotional outsourcing”—her reframe of the outdated concept of codependency. Rather than pathologizing love, care, and connection, she explains how people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-erasure are survival strategies we once needed to stay safe. Now, however, these patterns keep us disconnected from our authenticity, self-trust, and worth.Through personal insights, metaphors (like “baby sweaters” and “newborn kitten steps”), and clinical wisdom, Béa and Dr. Castagnini explore how emotional outsourcing is deeply tied to body image, diet culture, and perfectionist pressures. Together, they outline pathways toward reclaiming self-trust, rebuilding body awareness, and setting loving boundaries—so we can live lives rooted in authenticity rather than external validation.SHOW NOTES: Click hereFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/behind_the_bite

Do you ever feel like you're stuck in autopilot mode, running through the motions without really asking if you're living the life you truly want? Most of us have at least one habit that feels out of alignment, whether it's scrolling at night, overindulging, or staying in a draining job. We judge ourselves harshly, wondering why we can't break free. But what if these habits are not the problem? What if, instead, they're signals that point to something deeper?   In this episode, I offer a new perspective on habits, especially those we label as "bad." Instead of seeing them as flaws to be fixed, I invite you to understand the deeper, often protective reasons behind them. When we approach our habits with curiosity and compassion, we start to recognize that everything we do makes sense when viewed in the context of our life experiences and what we've been taught to value.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/186

In this enlightening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, host Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the pervasive issue of perfectionism and its profound impact on mental and physical health. With her signature blend of humor and honesty, Brianne explores the pressures that drive individuals to seek perfection, revealing how these high expectations can lead to anxiety, depression, and burnout.Throughout the episode, Brianne outlines the five distinct types of perfectionism: classic, procrastinator, messy, intense, and Parisian. She shares personal anecdotes and observations, including her experiences with her own child, to illustrate how perfectionism can manifest in everyday life. Listeners will learn to identify the signs of perfectionism and how it can trap them in a cycle of self-criticism and dissatisfaction.Brianne offers practical strategies for breaking free from the constraints of perfectionism, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, setting realistic goals, and celebrating progress over perfection. She encourages listeners to embrace their flaws and recognize that perfection is an unattainable ideal. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that the journey toward self-acceptance is far more rewarding than the pursuit of perfection.

In this eye-opening episode of Helping Organisations Thrive, we talk with Angela Cox, founder of Paseda 360 coach training academy, multi-award winning executive coach, therapist, and two-time bestselling author. Angela shares her powerful journey from corporate exhaustion to authentic leadership, revealing how she transformed her life after walking away from a lucrative consulting role when the weight of "pretending" became unbearable. Her story of losing eight stones while searching for fulfillment, only to realise that external changes couldn't fix internal disconnection, sets the stage for a profound exploration of workplace authenticity. Angela unveils her groundbreaking research showing that 97% of leaders wear masks at work, identifying four primary personas: the Perfectionist (driven by fear of mistakes), the People Pleaser (seeking approval at all costs), the Persecutor of Self (engaging in constant self-blame), and the Persecutor of Others (deflecting blame when things go wrong). She explains how these protective mechanisms, born from our fundamental need to belong and avoid rejection, create an exhausting cycle that hampers both individual resilience and organisational effectiveness. The conversation provides practical tools for breaking free from these patterns, including exercises to build self-value and self-trust, while acknowledging the challenging but ultimately rewarding journey of removing the masks we've worn for decades to reveal our authentic leadership potential.   Connect with Angela: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/angelacoxpaseda360/ Website:  https://angelacoxcoaching.com/     ##########   If you are looking for a Blueprint to help you and your business manage uncertainty, deal with failure and navigate change then reach out to Julian at: julian@julianrobertsconsulting.com   You can buy my book "Weathering the Storm: A Guide to Building Resilient Teams" on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0DFTYN2Y2   ##########

Welcome to Episode 127 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! In this episode, I'm sharing another best of replay episode. Today I'm talking with Becky Kopitzke. She is a wife, mom of two, author, speaker, and writing coach. She's the author of three books including ⁠The Cranky MomFix: How to Get a Happier, More Peaceful Home by Slaying the "Momster" in All of Us.⁠* Becky and her family are living the dream in northeast Wisconsin, where they share precious space with two lazy dogs, and tables stacked with homework and craft supplies.I loved this conversation with Becky, we are kindred spirits! We talked about crankiness triggers, how to handle blunders that happen despite our best intentions, Becky's three family rules, and more. Some of the resources we mention include:Get a Mom's Guide for Back to School here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days.*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my book launch team.⁠⁠Becky's Book, The Cranky Mom Fix⁠*⁠All Creatures Great and Small on PBS⁠⁠A Woman of No Importance by Sonia Purnell⁠*You can connect with Becky via her:⁠Website: beckykopitzke.com⁠⁠Instagram @beckykopitzke⁠Just a reminder that you can connect with me via: ⁠⁠⁠⁠• ⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠@andreafortenberry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠• ⁠⁠⁠ My website⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠: ⁠⁠andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my free magazine, Restore.⁠⁠⁠⁠ *Affiliate Link

Do you ever feel like giving 110% at work just isn't sustainable?Have you started questioning if going above and beyond 24/7 is hurting you – and your career – more than it's helping either?In this episode, you'll learn:How overachieving tendencies create burnout, stress, and overworking in your career3 simple but effective strategies you can use in a demanding, high-pressure corporate environment to break out of overachieving patterns that are hurting youHow to shift from striving to be “exceptional” to focusing on being "effective" on the jobEnroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Want to know the biggest reason you're feeling overworked and overwhelmed at work right now, and how you can start feeling better today?Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good.About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

#340: Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I'm fine,'' when you're actually anything but fine? Maybe you're getting everything done - crushing it at work, maintaining relationships, keeping up appearances - but feeling disconnected from it all. Like you're watching your life play out from behind a glass wall. This isn't just you being "too in your head" or "not trying hard enough to feel." This is your nervous system's brilliant (but outdated) protection mechanism called functional freeze. Join me today as I revisit functional freeze: the nervous system state I see most often in people living with emotional outsourcing patterns. We'll explore what functional freeze really is and why it's not your fault, how to recognize when you're in it, and why understanding this pattern is the first step to breaking free.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/340Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

For today's essential Heretics 101 feature, we talked to Steve Cadigan, LinkedIn's first hired CHRO. Steve dissects LinkedIn's hypergrowth challenges, contrarian HR principles, and the fundamental shift from acquiring to developing talent internally.*Email us your questions or topics for Kelli & Nolan: hrheretics@turpentine.coFor coaching and advising inquire at https://kellidragovich.com/HR Heretics is a podcast from Turpentine.Support HR Heretics Sponsors:Planful empowers teams just like yours to unlock the secrets of successful workforce planning. Use data-driven insights to develop accurate forecasts, close hiring gaps, and adjust talent acquisition plans collaboratively based on costs today and into the future. ✍️ Go to https://planful.com/heretics to see how you can transform your HR strategy.Metaview is the AI platform built for recruiting. Our suite of AI agents work across your hiring process to save time, boost decision quality, and elevate the candidate experience.Learn why team builders at 3,000+ cutting-edge companies like Brex, Deel, and Quora can't live without Metaview.It only takes minutes to get up and running. Check it out!KEEP UP WITH NOLAN + KELLI ON LINKEDINSteve: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cadiganNolan: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nolan-church/Kelli: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kellidragovich/—LINKS:Metaview 10x Podcast: https://www.metaview.ai/resources/10x-recruiting—TIMESTAMPS:(00:00) Intro(01:50) LinkedIn's Identity Crisis: When Your Product Is Your Problem(02:40) The Million-Dollar Question: "Why Would Anyone Want to Work Here?"(04:35) HR's Only Two Products: Judgment and Credibility(05:00) The Performance Review Rebellion(05:16) Sponsors: Planful | Metaview(07:21) Jeff Weiner's Intensity Philosophy: "I Live Off Chaos"(08:10) The Vulnerability Breakthrough: How a CEO Learned to Inspire(10:15) The Ownership Revolution: Why Leadership Teams Must Own HR(11:15) Remote Work Reality Check: "We Don't Know Yet"(12:00) Blitz Scaling Failures: Inheritors vs. Builders(13:43) The Perfectionist's Trap: "Do You Hear All Those Balls Dropping?"(14:20) Why He'll Never Return: The Six-Year-Old's Question That Changed Everything(15:27) Future of Work: From Buy Talent to Build Talent Economy This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hrheretics.substack.com

Are you a people pleaser? Always saying “yes” but feeling stressed, resentful, or even burned out?

Life is going sideways. You're snapping at your people, overthinking, doom scrolling, or eating all the snacks. You know things aren't going well, but it feels like you just can't stop, and you can't get out of the pattern. The momentum of these moments can feel impossible to interrupt, even when you're fully aware that what you're doing isn't working.   In this episode, I'm sharing the neuroscience behind why we get stuck in these reactive patterns and how our brain's survival mode takes over when we're stressed. Through a simple three-step process, you can interrupt the stress spiral and access more choice. The key isn't waiting for the perfect moment or overhauling everything; it's about creating what I call "one-degree shifts."   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/185

Access a free mindfulness meditation guided by Mary Tilson to help manage cravings and regulate emotions: https://pages.sunandmoonsoberliving.com/easemeditationFollow along on Instagram: @sunandmoon.soberliving __Eryl McCaffrey is a Registered Psychotherapist and Certified Yoga Teacher from Toronto, Canada with a Master's Degree in Counselling Psychology and 10+ years of experience in the holistic health and wellness field. She blends mindfulness, somatics, neuroscience, and psychology with her own mental health and addiction recovery tools to offer clients a unique, holistic approach to healing. She works with individuals who are struggling with addiction, depression, anxiety, trauma, relationship issues, and grief.  Eryl uses her personal experience with addiction and her love of sobriety to help others find joy, peace, and fulfillment without substances.Topics explored in this episode include:Eryl's recovery journeyRecovering from relapseThe Stages of ChangePerfectionism  Inner child workNervous system regulationRecovery as a daily practiceAuthenticityHealing co-dependencyBoundaries Links to access Eryl's resources & learn more:Aligned + Alcohol-Free: A 12 Week Program for women who are sober-curious or ready to break free from alcohol coming this fall -  https://www.erylmccaffrey.com/alignedandalcoholfreeSober Starter Kit: A free guide with simple tools and resources to help you start your sober journey - https://www.erylmccaffrey.com/soberstarterkitInstagram: @erylmccaffrey___Disclaimer: The content of this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

#339: You were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time. That's the truth that so many of us struggle to accept when we look back at our past decisions - the relationships we stayed in too long, the boundaries we didn't set, the times we said yes when we meant no. There's this part of us that believes if we're mean enough to ourselves about these choices, we won't make them again. But here's what science tells us: beating yourself up doesn't create change. This episode explores why compassion for your past self is essential for creating real, lasting change. Listen in today to discover how hating who you used to be blocks growth, and why being kind to your past self isn't about excusing behaviors or pretending everything was perfect.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/339Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale EEO Pre-Sale

This week, Lisa and Jeff go rogue again and hit the road! We traveled all the way to Fort Collins Colorado to interview Lisa's Sister and her husband. Eric and Cassy Reeves are a type 1 and 9 respectively. We would like to say sparks fly in this episode, but it is hard for a type 9 to allow sparks to fly...especially if it involves conflict. We had such a beautiful and insightful conversation with this awesome couple! You will want to listen and share it.Type 1. Reformer/perfectionistType 2. PeacemakerYou can hear more from Eric and occasionally Cassy on their Church's podcast linked below.The Afterword a Podcast by The Town Church in Fort Collins, Colorado https://open.spotify.com/show/6ExO48oI9XMyh4jSKsQFCK?si=9e2975f02fbd47a1 We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.comOr on Instagram at Marriage_Infiltered_PodcastWe hope to hear from you! Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast hosted by The Carters and the Fields. This podcast is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship in Midland, TX

In this tender and eye-opening session, Christine coaches Lucia through the heartbreak and confusion of a breakup she now regrets. While the relationship was loving and emotionally safe, differences in values, lifestyle, and follow-through led to a mutual decision to part ways. Now, Lucia is wrestling with second-guessing herself and holding on to hope—while also remembering what wasn't working. This conversation goes far beyond one relationship story. It's about learning to trust your choices, release regret, and grieve while keeping the love. Christine helps Lucia explore self-forgiveness, avoid over-responsibility, and understand the deeper imprints from her first love and early life experiences. If you've ever questioned a decision, longed for a “redo,” or struggled to move forward after letting go, this episode will help you find clarity, peace, and compassion for yourself. Consider / Ask Yourself: Do you tend to replay past choices, wishing you could go back and change them? Are you holding on to the good memories while forgetting what wasn't aligned? Have you confused the love you felt with the actual fit of the relationship? Is regret keeping you stuck in the past instead of allowing you to move forward? Key Insights and A-HAs: Regret often uses present-day knowledge to beat yourself up for past decisions. Love is not always enough—shared values and aligned lifestyles matter. You can keep the love while grieving the relationship itself. Over-responsibility can fuel self-blame and block healing. Forgiveness and grief work create the space for true clarity. How to Deepen the Work: Write down what was working and what wasn't in your past relationship or situation. Practice self-forgiveness by acknowledging you made the best choice with the information you had at the time. Allow yourself to fully grieve without rushing to replace or “fix” the loss. Identify any limiting beliefs you're holding about your worthiness for future healthy love. Upcoming Events: Join Christine for her Free Masterclass for Overachievers and Perfectionists on August 18th—especially for women who struggle with regret, self-criticism, and letting go. Register at: christinehassler.com/masterclass Also, Christine's Women's Retreat is happening October 17–19, 2025. This is a deep, transformational space to release old patterns, reclaim self-compassion, and step into your next chapter. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Does anxiety make you feel like there is something wrong with you? It can feel uncomfortable, overpowering, something to manage or medicate away. We've been taught to see it as a flaw, a weakness, something broken that needs fixing. But treating anxiety as an adversary might be exactly what's making it worse.   In this episode, I'm exploring a radically different approach to anxiety—one that sees it not as something wrong with you, but as a sophisticated signal system trying to help. I share how anxiety functions like a check engine light or cybersecurity system, alerting you to threats to your physical, emotional, relational, or financial well-being. Through practical examples and a simple outside-inside approach, you'll discover how to decode what your anxiety is actually signaling.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/184

In Episode 315:7 of the Best Books for Women with ADHD, You Will Discover: Powerful books that help you feel seen in your ADHD experience The neuroscience of ADHD to work with your brain instead of fighting it Resources offering both validation and practical strategies you can implement today Work With Me:

#338: Shame is one of the most powerful forces keeping us stuck in emotional outsourcing, and we don't talk about it nearly enough. This invisible force runs so deep that we often don't even realize it's guiding our thoughts, feelings, and actions.My book, End Emotional Outsourcing was born from my search for a shame-free, inclusive, feminist framework to name these patterns, and to begin healing them. If you've ever felt like your habits made you broken or unworthy, this conversation is for you.Join me this week as I explore the complex relationship between shame, the nervous system, and emotional outsourcing - three interconnected forces that keep us locked in patterns of codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/338Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Do you feel like acknowledging your struggles will make them worse, or that it means you're weak or indulgent? Many of us have been taught to push through challenges, minimize what we're feeling, and judge ourselves for reacting in normal, human ways. But this mindset keeps us from fully understanding why we're struggling in the first place.   In this episode, I explore why validation is one of the most powerful tools for lasting change. Validation is simply the act of recognizing what's real, legitimate, and understandable about our experience. It's about acknowledging what is true in the moment without judgment. When we validate our emotions instead of dismissing them, we create the clarity, confidence, creativity, and inner strength needed to make meaningful shifts.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/183

"If somebody doesn't have hope, then they sure don't have that. And if somebody doesn't have a sense of purpose and meaning in their lives, then there's no hope." - Maryanne Nicholls   Marianne Nicholls is a distinguished registered psychotherapist and certified Martha Beck life coach based in Kalamazoo, Michigan. With over 20 years of therapeutic expertise and an additional 20 years as a senior corporate consultant, Marianne brings a unique blend of skills to her practice. She specializes in helping success-driven individuals manage burnout while maintaining their passion and energy for what they love. Her approach is holistic, combining practicality, compassion, and humor to create transformative experiences for her clients.   Episode Summary: Join Jana Short in this enlightening episode of "Oh, My Health... There is Hope!" as she converses with the remarkable Marianne Nicholls, psychotherapist and life coach. With a rich tapestry of professional experience, Marianne shares her insights on burnout, a condition familiar to high achievers and driven individuals. Her expertise stems from decades of firsthand experience—both in her therapy sessions and previous corporate roles—providing her a unique perspective on how success can be achieved without sacrificing personal well-being.   The discussion delves deep into the nuances of burnout, exploring the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual aspects that contribute to this pervasive issue. Marianne shares her personal journey of experiencing burnout multiple times and how she learned to navigate it by shifting to a career that reignited her energy and passion. The episode also covers Marianne's offerings, including a course on avoiding burnout that emphasizes community support. With her guidance, listeners can gain actionable insights into recognizing the early signs of burnout and adopting practices to prevent it, sustaining a fulfilling life and career.   Key Takeaways: Marianne Nicholls emphasizes recognizing burnout early by tuning into physical and emotional signs, using intuitive listening to guide well-being. Burnout is multifaceted, affecting mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health; addressing all aspects is vital for holistic recovery. Setting boundaries and learning to say no is crucial to maintaining energy and enthusiasm in personal and professional life. Community support during burnout recovery can provide vital encouragement and perspective, making it a key component of her programs. Simple breath exercises can engage the relaxation system and offer a reset, providing space to make more conscious, healthier decisions.     Resources: www.thejoyofliving.co www.linkedin.com/in/maryannenicholls     Get a free subscription to the Best Holistic Life Magazine, one of the fastest-growing independent magazines centered around holistic living: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine.   Get in touch with Jana and listen to more podcasts: https://www.janashort.com/ Show Music ‘Hold On' by Amy Gerhartz: https://www.amygerhartz.com/music. Grab your FREE gift today: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine Connect with Jana Short: https://www.janashort.com/contact/

#337: Money shapes more than just our bank accounts - it touches how we show up in relationships, how we value ourselves, and whether we feel secure enough to set boundaries with those who support us financially.This week, I sit down with financial therapist and author of Feel-Good Finance: Untangle Your Relationship with Money for Better Mental, Emotional, and Financial Well-Being, Aja Evans, to explore the intersection of money and mental health, particularly how codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits show up in our financial lives. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/337Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Do you call yourself a perfectionist? In this episode, I'll show you why perfectionism isn't a strength—it's a fear wearing a clever disguise. I'll break down the real fears behind perfectionism and share how you can overcome them to finally take action, embrace imperfection, and create true freedom in your life. Are you ready to stop procrastinating and break your bad habits? If so, I just opened the doors to Mindset 2.0—my full system to help you break through fear, rewire your identity, and follow through like never before. Click here

For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits.This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/