Permission to Love with Jerry Henderson

Most people never feel truly happy—despite success, comfort, or achievement. Why? Because they're chasing the wrong thing.In this episode of Personal Mastery, Harvard-trained coach and researcher, Jerry Henderson shares the real reason happiness feels elusive—and what to do instead. You'll learn why happiness isn't something you find, but something you create—as a byproduct of a deeply fulfilling life.With powerful neuroscience insights, practical steps, and a research-backed framework, Jerry helps you break free from the dopamine trap and start building a life that feels meaningful, aligned, and emotionally rich.If you've ever felt like “there has to be more,” this is the episode that shows you what “more” actually is—and how to create it.

In this episode of Personal Mastery,  Jerry Henderson explores why only 8% of people achieve their goals. He also introduces the "10-10 Rule," a principle that involves dedicating level 10 effort to tasks that have the potential to yield level 10 results. Jerry shares how high achievers like Warren Buffett, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Tim Ferriss, and Serena Williams exemplify this rule by focusing intensely on high-impact activities and eliminating low-return tasks. He also provides a step-by-step guide to applying the 10-10 Rule in your own life to enhance productivity and achieve meaningful goals.If you've ever felt stuck, burned out, or like you're working hard without getting ahead, this episode will show you the one mindset shift and strategy that the top 8% of achievers use to build sustainable success.Key TakeawaysThe 10-10 Rule: Allocate maximum effort only to tasks that promise maximum returns.Focus Over Busyness: High achievers prioritize impactful activities over being merely busy.Cognitive Load Theory: Our brains have limited capacity; overloading with low-impact tasks leads to burnout .Goal Dilution Effect: Pursuing too many goals simultaneously can weaken the effectiveness of each .Strategic No: Saying no to low-return tasks creates space for high-impact work. Chapters:00:00 Intro – Why 92% of people fail to achieve their goals01:02 The one habit that shows up in the top 8%02:36 Buffett, Jobs, and the power of ruthless focus03:32 The dopamine trap and the illusion of busyness05:07 Cognitive Load Theory and why your brain is overwhelmed06:33 Giving level 10 effort to level 3 returns07:35 Burnout, misaligned effort, and the cost of doing too much08:08 The Pareto Principle and how to use it with the 10-10 Rule09:06 Learning to say no: Buffett, Jobs, Oprah, and the mindset shift13:05 How Tim Ferriss, Serena Williams, and top performers guard their energy13:57 What all top achievers understand about focus and results15:28 The 4-step framework for applying the 10-10 Rule21:54 Bonus Tip: Using the 10-10 Rule to evaluate your relationshipsI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Strategy Call:Schedule Call Watch On Youtube Website:www.jerryhenderson.org How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingGet Your Free Weekly Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

This episode could transform your relationship with money for good.If you've ever felt stuck financially, self-sabotaged your success, or believed wealth just wasn't “for you,” you must hear this.Today, Jerry sits down with bestselling author and multimillionaire entrepreneur Ian Prukner to reveal the truth about wealth that nobody talks about.Ian went from working four jobs just to survive — to becoming a multimillionaire who now helps other create lives of financial freedom. How? By rewiring his beliefs about money.You'll learn:The exact thought patterns that keep you brokeThe 5 most common money lies (and how to rewrite them)Why wealth has nothing to do with luck — and everything to do with your subconsciousThe "T-BAR" formula that silently controls your financial futureHow to break generational cycles of poverty and shameWhy your nervous system might be rejecting abundanceThe words and mentors that changed Ian's life forever (and how they can change yours)This is the episode you send to anyone who feels financially stuck or secretly believes they're “bad with money.” It's not just motivational — it's transformational.Get Ian's free 5-Day Money Mindset Checkup here: [Insert Link]Grab his bestselling books: Get it here on Amazon: Byproduct Get it here on Amazon:  12 Words That Change EverythingConnect with Ian Prukner on Instagram: @ianprukner

Today's episode will change the way you speak to yourself—and what that inner dialogue creates in your life.If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure about how to make lasting change, this conversation is for you. You're going to learn the surprising science behind self-talk and motivation—plus how to shift the language inside your mind so it starts working for you, not against you.Change can begin with one powerful shift: changing the conversation inside your head. And this episode breaks it all down.In this episode, you'll learn:What “change talk” and “sustain talk” actually are—and why they matter so muchThe #1 ratio that predicts whether you'll succeed in changing your lifeThe neuroscience behind how words create action (or self-sabotage)Four powerful strategies to shift your internal language starting todayHow to disarm shame, fear, and self-doubt using evidence-based mindset toolsWhat to do when your inner critic or others around you reinforce your stucknessSimple daily practices to rewire your brain for lasting transformationWhether you're trying to break an old pattern, start something new, or just feel better in your own skin, this episode gives you the roadmap—and the voice—you need.If you're serious about growth, listen until the end and take notes.Want help applying this? Schedule your free coaching strategy call at jerryhenderson.orgCHAPTERS00:00 – Welcome to Personal Mastery01:04 – The Most Overlooked Ratio That Predicts Change03:02 – What Is “Change Talk” vs. “Sustain Talk”?05:02 – The Science Behind Why Your Words Shape Your Life08:47 – Why Gratitude Can Sometimes Keep You Stuck10:55 – What the Research Says About Inner Dialogue12:52 – 4 Strategies to Shift From Sustain to Change Talk17:24 – Common Barriers: Shame, Identity, and External Noise21:10 – You Are Worthy of Trying Again22:53 – A Daily Practice to Rewire Your Self-Talk24:48 – Final Takeaway and Coaching InvitationI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Strategy Call:Schedule Call Website:www.jerryhenderson.org

This episode could change your relationship with happiness forever. If you've ever found yourself saying “I'll be happy when…” — this conversation is for you. You don't need more accomplishments, more money, or more time to feel the way you want to feel. You need a new story.Today, Jerry shares one of the most powerful mindset shifts you'll ever hear — rooted in neuroscience, behavioral psychology, and real-life transformation.This is the episode that will help you take your power back.You'll learn:The psychological trap of “I'll be happy when…” — and how it's wired into high achieversWhy your nervous system resists joy (and what to do about it)The story you've been telling yourself — and how to rewrite itThe surprising truth about happiness and your brain's dopamine systemA simple exercise to access happiness right now — no external changes neededThe Camino moment that changed Jerry's perspective on changing our state — and how you can replicate it in your own life.Whether you're burned out, chasing the next goal, or just feeling stuck in your own success — this episode is a wake-up call.Because happiness isn't a reward for getting life right.It's the fuel that makes life worth living.

You deserve a life that feels as extraordinary on the inside as it looks on the outside—and Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson (formerly The Permission to Love Podcast) will help you build it.I'm Jerry Henderson, creator of the Personal Mastery Framework™, high-performance and trauma-informed coach, Harvard-trained in the psychology of human behavior, researcher, author, and speaker.Every week, I—along with world-renowned experts—share powerful conversations and research-backed insights to help you align with your true self and create sustainable success from the inside out.We cover topics like cultivating a growth mindset, building resilience, healing trauma, overcoming shame, practicing presence, strengthening relationships, developing a healthy relationship with yourself, and living your purpose—real, relatable tools for meaningful transformation.If you're ready to achieve from a place of full alignment, fulfillment, and lead with authenticity, this podcast is for you.New episodes every Monday. Subscribe now—and start creating a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.Connect with Jerry:https://jerryhenderson.orghttps://www.instagram.com/jerryahenderson/I am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Strategy Call:Schedule Call Website:www.jerryhenderson.org

Send us a textToday marks a bittersweet and exciting moment: this is the final episode under the Permission to Love name. Starting next week, this podcast will officially become Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson. In this episode I reflect on the journey we've taken together — healing shame, cultivating self-love, and building lives aligned from the inside out. I also shares why self-love remains the foundation of everything moving forward and why giving yourself permission to love yourself might be the bravest thing you ever do.Join us as we celebrate how far we've come — and step boldly into what's next.In this episode, you'll discover:Why the podcast name is changing (and why the mission isn't)The power of giving yourself permission to love yourselfHow shame keeps you stuck (and how self-love sets you free)Why personal mastery starts with radical self-acceptanceA powerful affirmation you can say today to change your life If you've ever struggled with feeling "not enough" — this episode is for you.Chapters:00:00 – Welcome and Major Announcement01:39 – Why This Podcast Began03:00 – What Personal Mastery Is About04:25 – Gratitude for the Journey and Community05:27 – Invitation to Share Your Story06:40 – Revisiting the Power of Self-Love08:12 – The Wiring of Unworthiness09:04 – The Brave Step of Believing You Are Worthy10:04 – Identity Work: Choosing a New Story11:37 – Marianne Williamson's Our Greatest Fear12:57 – Permission for Self-Expansion13:58 – A Declaration of Self-Love14:59 – Excitement for the Next Chapter16:15 – How to Get Help and Stay Connected16:53 – Closing Words and Final InvitationI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Strategy Call:Schedule Call Website:www.jerryhenderson.org

Send us a textIn this powerful episode, we explore the father wound — what it is, how it forms, and how it continues to shape our relationships, sense of self-worth, and emotional health. Drawing from personal experience and evidence-based practices, I walk you through key insights and healing strategies, including reparenting, grief work, and authentic forgiveness. Whether your father was absent, abusive, or emotionally unavailable, this episode offers validation, healing, and a roadmap forward.What You'll Learn:What the “father wound” is and how it shows up in adulthoodThe emotional and behavioral patterns linked to unhealed father woundsWhy high achievers often carry hidden wounds from their fathersHow to begin healing through reparenting, IFS, and grief workThe difference between forced forgiveness and authentic releaseWhy you're not responsible for repairing an abusive or absent parent relationshipMentioned in This Episode:The new Overcoming Shame group coaching program: LEARN MORE1:1 Coaching Free strategy call: jerryhenderson.org“Self-Love: The Root from Which Personal Mastery Grows” (transition episode) LISTEN HEREIf this episode resonates with you:Share it with someone who might be carrying this silent wound too. And don't forget — you are worthy of your own love.Chapters00:00 – Welcome and Introduction01:52 – What Is the Father Wound?03:43 – How the Father Wound Develops05:00 – Jerry's Personal Story09:10 – Introduction to Overcoming Shame Group Coaching Program12:20 – The Church, Forgiveness, and Misguided Healing15:59 – It's Not Your Fault25:38 – Mental Health Patterns Linked to the Father Wound27:43 – Differences in Men and Women's Responses30:04 – How the Father Wound Shows Up in Adult Life30:59 – Evidence-Based Healing Tools32:03 – The Power of Reparenting33:05 – Grief Work and Forgiveness on Your TermsI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Strategy Call:Schedule Call Website:www.jerryhenderson.org

Send us a textHave you ever felt like life is slipping through your fingers, even as you chase your dreams and hit your goals? You're not alone. In this episode, I unpack the hidden reasons high achievers and those on a healing journey often feel disconnected from their own lives. Grounded in neuroscience and real-world experience, I walk you through five powerful, practical steps to stop life from feeling like a blur — and instead, step fully into the moment. Learn how to calm your body, interrupt unhealthy thought patterns, and build a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.Plus, I share insights into the new Personal Mastery Framework™ and why you don't have to sacrifice your ambition to live a deeply present, fulfilled life.In this episode, you'll learn:Why high achievers struggle with presence and what drives that constant restlessnessHow stress hijacks your brain and makes joy hard to feelWhat the "when-then" trap is and how it steals your peaceThe science of neuroplasticity and how to rewire your mind for presenceFive actionable steps to start experiencing your life more fully, right nowWhy presence is not passivity, and how it actually makes you more powerfulResources & Links:

Send us a textIn this empowering episode, we explore the essential role of grit in personal mastery and growth. You'll learn why grit is more than just pushing through — it's about purpose, resilience, and sustained passion for your goals. We look at the practical, research-backed strategies to build grit in a way that's healthy and sustainable, not self-destructive.In the episode I also opens up about my own journey of perseverance through addiction, burnout, and self-doubt, and why high achievers often need a different kind of fuel to truly thrive. If you've ever felt like giving up, this episode is for you.What You'll Learn:Why grit outperforms talent, IQ, and even leadership potentialHow to develop grit sustainably (without burning out)The role of purpose and meaning in keeping you motivatedHow to reframe failure and use it as fuelThe importance of relationships that reinforce perseveranceHow grit supports both healing and high performanceIntroduction to the Personal Mastery FrameworkResources & Links:

Send us a textIn this powerful transition episode, I share a heartfelt announcement: Permission to Love is evolving. Starting May 4th, the podcast will become Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson—a space dedicated to helping you thrive emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and relationally.Together we reflect on the journey so far, the healing roots of the show, and why self-love is just the beginning. This next chapter builds on that foundation and expands into deeper personal development—mindset, emotional resilience, presence, purpose, and alignment. If you're ready to stop surviving and start thriving, this episode is for you.

Send us a textIn this episode we dive into part two of the course on learning how to love yourself. If you haven't listened to part one yet, make sure to check that out first—it sets the foundation for today's practical steps. In this episode we walk through the science and psychology behind self-love, providing actionable tools to help you shift your thoughts, words, actions, and relationships toward greater self-acceptance. If you've struggled with feelings of inadequacy, a harsh inner critic, or thinking there's something wrong with you, this episode will give you the tools to change that narrative and begin developing true self-love.What You'll Learn:✔️ Why self-love is a skill, not a personality trait✔️ How to rewire your brain for self-love using neuroplasticity✔️ Thought reframing and self-compassion techniques✔️ How affirmations work (backed by neuroscience)✔️ Why setting boundaries is an act of self-love✔️ How to heal attachment wounds and build healthier relationshipsChapters:00:00 Introduction and why this course matters01:31 Self-love is a skill (not a personality trait)03:15 How neuroplasticity makes self-love possible04:53 Science-backed strategies for cultivating self-love05:51 Thought reframing: How to change negative self-talk07:08 The power of self-compassion10:35 Why affirmations work (backed by brain science)12:26 How positive self-talk lowers stress and improves emotional health15:46 How visualization rewires your brain for self-love18:21 Why action matters: Self-care and behavioral activation21:43 Setting boundaries as an act of self-respect23:55 How relationships influence self-worth26:41 Letting go of toxic relationshipsResources:

Send us a textIn this special two-part series, I'm sharing a powerful course I developed on learning how to love yourself. If you've ever struggled with self-acceptance, carried feelings of shame, or felt like you had to keep achieving to prove your worth — this episode is for you. I'll share my personal journey from deep shame and self-loathing to learning how to love myself, and how you can start healing your relationship with yourself.In this first part of the course we'll cover:What Self-Love isWhy self-love is NOT selfish or narcissisticHow trauma, shame, and perfectionism block self-loveWhat happens when self-love is blocked.What You'll Learn:The truth about why self-love feels so hardHow shame drives the need to achieve (and why it never works)Why perfectionism and people-pleasing are self-sabotagingHow to start healing your relationship with yourself todayResources:

Send us a textIn this episode, we're diving into a hard truth that so many high achievers face but rarely talk about—shame-based achievement. Why do we chase success and still feel empty when we get it? Why does the high from accomplishment fade so quickly, leaving us feeling even more inadequate? The truth is that many high achievers are driven not by passion, but by fear—fear of being unworthy, fear of failure, fear of rejection.Today, we are breaking down the cycle of shame-based achievement and how it creates burnout, emotional numbness, and the constant feeling of "not enough." More importantly, I'm sharing how you can break free from it. You'll learn how to stop defining your self-worth by your achievements, start building intrinsic motivation, and redefine success in a way that feels authentic and sustainable.If you've ever felt like you're only as good as your last win—or that you have to keep achieving just to feel safe—this episode is for you.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why so many high achievers are driven by shame and fear rather than passionThe cycle of shame-based achievement—and why success never feels like enoughHow trauma and perfectionism wire us for overachievement and burnoutHow to redefine success in a way that feels authentic and sustainableWhy self-compassion and emotional safety are the keys to true motivationChapters:00:00 Introduction03:45 How perfectionism and shame create unhealthy success patterns06:10 The Hidden Cost of Shame-Based Achievement – Why success feels hollow and unfulfilling10:59 Success as a Survival Strategy – How trauma and childhood experiences wire us for overachievement14:50 The Shame-Achievement Loop – Why we keep chasing the next goal and still feel empty20:31 How to Stop the Cycle – Practical steps to shift from external validation to intrinsic motivation24:53 Redefining Success – What a meaningful and sustainable life actually looks like32:30 Building Self-Compassion – How to quiet the inner critic and create emotional safety37:40 Creating New Rhythms – Why rest and recovery are essential for high performance43:49 Letting Go of the Old Story - Why success will never heal you—and what willI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Strategy Call:Schedule Call

Send us a textYour relationship with yourself is the foundation of EVERYTHING.No amount of success, validation, or external achievement can replace a healthy self-relationship. And yet, so many high achievers and trauma survivors neglect this relationship the most.In today's episode, we cover:Why your relationship with yourself shapes every part of your lifeThe 5 key areas that determine self-worth & self-trustHow self-talk, thoughts, and daily habits rewire your brainThe neuroscience of breaking toxic patterns & limiting beliefsThe small shifts that lead to lasting transformationPlus, I'm giving you a FREE PDF for a Healthier Relationship With Yourself to track where you stand and start making real changes.

Send us a textHave you ever wondered why you keep repeating painful patterns—whether in relationships, self-sabotaging behaviors, burnout, or feelings of never quite arriving? In this episode we explore the neuroscience and psychology behind trauma reenactment—why we unconsciously repeat painful cycles and how we can break free from them.You'll learn:What trauma reenactment is and why it keeps us stuck in toxic patterns.The neuroscience behind trauma loops, including the role of the amygdala, hippocampus, and prefrontal cortex.How childhood experiences create unconscious beliefs that shape our reality.The role of the nervous system (Polyvagal Theory) in keeping us in survival mode.Practical tools for breaking free, including breathwork, grounding exercises, and belief rewiring.How to reprogram your subconscious mind and stop self-sabotaging your success, relationships, and happiness.If you're ready to rewire your brain, reclaim your power, and build a life aligned with self-love and healing, this episode is for you.

Send us a textIn this transformative episode of the Permission to Love podcast, we explore how to rewire your mind for a new reality. If you've ever felt stuck in old patterns, trapped by limiting beliefs, or unable to make real change despite your self-awareness, this episode is for you.Through guided exercises, powerful insights, and neuroscience-backed strategies, you'll discover:Why your identity is a repeated pattern of thoughts and emotions—and how to break free.The impact of neuroplasticity on our transformation.How to shift your beliefs and subconscious programming to create the life you truly want.The role of your Reticular Activating System (RAS) in shaping your reality.A guided visualization exercise to step into your highest self.This episode isn't just about learning—it's about experiencing transformation. By the end, you'll feel a shift in your mindset, knowing that you have the power to choose who you become.FREE Coaching Call: If you're ready for deeper transformation, book a call at jerryhenderson.org.Download Your Free Resources: Take the Resilience Quiz and access tools to help you rewire your mindset at jerryhenderson.org.Chapters:00:00 - Introduction: Setting the intention for transformation02:10 - Who Are You? A Powerful Reflection on Identity04:12 - The Power of Thought: Dr. Joe Dispenza's Insights06:18 - Your Beliefs Shape Your Reality and Daily Life10:11 - Are Your Beliefs Actually True? Challenging Your Identity17:38 - The Neuroscience of Change: Neuroplasticity & Meditation20:00 - How to Get Unstuck and Rewire Your Mind for a New Reality26:33 - Reprogramming Exercise: Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs32:21 - Understanding the Reticular Activating System (RAS)38:54 - Guided Visualization: Meeting Your Highest Self44:26 - 7-Day Challenge: Acting as Your Future SelfI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textHave you ever felt like your nervous system is stuck in overdrive, constantly caught in fight-or-flight mode? In this episode, we explore how self-criticism keeps us in a cycle of stress and anxiety, and how self-compassion can help regulate our nervous system, allowing us to feel safe and at peace.We look at the science behind self-judgment, its impact on the brain, and why self-compassion is one of the most effective ways to rewire our stress response. You'll also learn practical strategies for cultivating self-compassion and shifting from self-criticism to self-support.If you've been feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or trapped in patterns of self-doubt, this episode is for you.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why self-criticism keeps your nervous system in a state of stressThe neuroscience behind self-compassion and how it rewires your brainHow self-judgment triggers the fight-or-flight responseWhy your brain perceives self-criticism as an actual threatPractical self-compassion exercises to help you calm your nervous systemHow self-compassion increases resilience and emotional stabilityLinks & Resources:

Send us a textIn this episode of Permission to Love, we dive deep into the pervasive struggle of self-hatred and how to begin the journey toward self-love. As a part of this episode we examine the research-backed strategies and practical tools to help you break free from cycles of self-loathing. Learn how to reprogram the negative beliefs that have been holding you back and embrace the transformational power of self-compassion. Whether you've struggled with self-esteem for years or are just beginning to recognize these patterns, this episode offers a roadmap to healing.Key Takeaways:Understanding the roots of self-hatred and how it manifests in daily lifeThe role of childhood trauma, societal pressures, and internalized criticismHow to disrupt negative thought patterns using cognitive toolsThe power of self-love mantras and habit reformationPractical exercises, like the 30-day mirror challenge, to rewire your brain for self-compassionFree Self-Love Webinar: Join me  for a FREE webinar on "Learning How to Love Yourself" this Wednesday, February 5th, at 10 AM PT / 1 PM ET. Register

Send us a textIn this episode of the Resilient by Design series, we dive into practical, research-backed strategies to help you proactively build resilience. Learn how to create a toolkit that strengthens your ability to bounce back from life's challenges and thrive in the face of adversity. We explore the importance of social support, emotional regulation, cognitive tools, problem-solving, spirituality, and self-care. Packed with actionable steps and transformative insights, this episode is your guide to a stronger, more resilient you.Key Takeaways:Social and Relational Support: The single most critical factor for long-term resilience and well-being, supported by research from the Harvard Study of Adult Development.Emotional Skills: Tools like mindfulness, gratitude, and savoring positive memories can help regulate emotions and access positive states.Cognitive Skills: Reframing stress, cultivating self-efficacy, and shifting to a growth mindset are essential for mental resilience.Problem-Solving: Developing small, actionable steps and embracing failure as a learning opportunity builds confidence and resilience.Spirituality: Connecting with something greater provides meaning, emotional comfort, and a sense of community.Self-Care: Practicing self-compassion, proper nutrition, exercise, and restorative sleep replenishes your energy and mental resources.Action Step:Pick one area of your resilience toolkit to start building this week. Take one small step today toward a more resilient you.Learn More:Visit jerryhenderson.org to learn more about Jerry's one-on-one coaching program and set up a free consultation.00:00 - Introduction01:54 - Series Recap and Today's Focus04:07 - What is Resilience06:10 - Overcoming a Deficit in Resilience09:23 - Introducing the Resilience Toolkit10:38 - Tool 1: Social and Relational Support13:19 - Tool 2: Emotional Skills14:20 - Tool 3: Cognitive Skills16:20 - Tool 4: Problem-Solving Skills20:36 - Tool 5: Spirituality and Connection21:54 - Tool 6: Self-CareI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode of the Permission to Love Podcast, we continue the Resilient by Design series, focusing on three essential cognitive tools to help you build resilience, reframe stress, and create a healthier relationship with yourself. Stress can often feel overwhelming, but in this episode we look at the research-backed strategies that demonstrate how reframing stress and shifting our mindset can unlock personal growth and empowerment.You will learn how to:Use the ABC model (Activating Event, Belief, Consequence) to identify and transform stress triggers.Develop a growth mindset through small, achievable goals and consistent celebration of progress.Rewire outdated schemas and limiting beliefs with positive self-talk to build confidence and resilience.This episode is packed with actionable insights, stories, and research-based techniques to help you stop surviving and start thriving.Key Takeaways:Reframing Stress:Stress is not inherently bad; how we interpret it determines its impact.Research by Lazarus and Folkman shows that appraising stress as a challenge (rather than a threat) leads to motivation and empowerment.The ABC model: Identify the Activating Event, the Belief about the event, and the Consequence. Shift the belief to change the outcome.The Growth Mindset:A fixed mindset limits potential, while a growth mindset encourages adaptability and learning.Incremental goals and small wins build momentum.Celebrating progress rewires the brain for optimism and resilience.Positive Self-Talk:Inner dialogue shapes how we view ourselves and the world.Negative schemas, rooted in past experiences, can trap us in outdated narratives.Neuroscience shows positive self-talk strengthens neural pathways linked to optimism and resilience.Actionable Challenge:Pick one cognitive tool—reframing stress, developing a growth mindset, or practicing positive self-talk—and commit to using it this week.Chapters:00:00 Introduction: Stress, anxiety, and avoidance02:45 The power of reframing stress04:19 The ABC model: Understanding activating events, beliefs, and consequences07:11 Developing a growth mindset: Tips and tools08:57 The importance of reframing stress and embracing challenges10:44 Setting incremental goals and celebrating small wins13:55 The impact of self-celebration on resilience16:03 Rewriting inner narratives through seI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode, we dive into practical tools to access positive emotions and build emotional resilience—your ability to adapt to adversity and stay aligned with the life you want to create. Learn how emotions serve as a compass, guiding you toward meaningful actions, and discover actionable strategies to manage negative emotions, elicit positive ones, and break the cycles of self-sabotage.Drawing from research on the brain's approach and avoidance systems, we unpack how your emotional responses shape your behaviors and beliefs. This episode is packed with insights to help you develop a positive emotional toolkit that empowers you to navigate challenges, regulate stress, and move toward thriving.Key Takeaways:Emotions Are a Compass: Emotions guide us toward what matters most in life. Instead of resisting them, use them to identify areas needing action or reflection.Dual Role of the Brain: The right hemisphere activates avoidance (fear and fight-or-flight), while the left hemisphere focuses on approach (reward and curiosity). Recognizing these systems helps us navigate emotions more effectively.Self-Sabotage Explained: Your brain aligns behaviors with your core beliefs. Limiting beliefs often lead to self-sabotage because they feel "safe" and familiar.Emotional Toolkit: Build resilience by incorporating daily practices like humor, savoring positive memories, music, and acts of service.Positive Emotions Expand Capacity: Research shows that positive emotions enhance problem-solving, connection, and resilience (Fredrickson, 2001).Practical Tools:Humor and Laughter: Engage with content or people that make you laugh to release feel-good chemicals.Savoring Memories: Recall joyful experiences and visualize them vividly to access positive emotions.Create a “Happy Button”: Associate a physical touchpoint with positive emotions to activate them in stressful moments.Use Music and Nature: Play uplifting songs or spend time in nature to calm your nervous system and elicit joy.Acts of Kindness: Helping others not only benefits them but also boosts your own well-being.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Emotional Resilience02:34 Why Emotions Matter in Resilience07:21 The Dual Role of the Brain in Emotional Responses12:48 How Self-Sabotage Aligns with Core Beliefs17:15 Tools for Eliciting Positive Emotions21:40 The Role of Humor, Smiling, and Laughing26:05 Savoring Memories and Creating a “Happy Button”30:12 MusI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode of the “Resilient by Design” series, we explore what emotional resilience really is and why it's essential for overcoming challenges and staying aligned with our personal goals and values. We examine research-backed strategies for developing emotional awareness, practicing self-compassion, engaging in mindfulness, and cultivating a supportive community—“emotional spotters”—to help us handle life's ups and downs. We also address how trauma can make it more difficult to trust safe relationships or fully engage with mindfulness, and we look at practical ways to overcome these hurdles in a trauma-informed way. Remember, resilience is a learned skill—just like a muscle—and even small increments of growth are worth celebrating.Key Topics CoveredDefining emotional resilience and why it mattersThe “Resilient by Design” approach: incremental growth and mindset shiftsEmotional awareness: recognizing, labeling, and understanding your feelingsSelf-compassion as a cornerstone of resilienceMindfulness practices for staying present and reducing emotional reactivityThe power of supportive networks or “emotional spotters” in times of stressOvercoming the extra challenges trauma survivors face when building resilienceStrategies like safe space visualization, somatic therapy, and breath work for trauma-informed resilienceTimestamped Chapters00:00 – Welcome & Introduction00:34 – Overview of the “Resilient by Design” Series03:45 – Emotional Resilience: Definition & Importance05:16 – Aligning Emotional Resilience with Personal Goals & Values07:09 – Why Emotional Resilience ≠ Burying Emotions08:08 – Embracing Difficult Emotions as Data (Dr. Susan David)12:41 – Building Emotional Resilience: Evidence-Based Techniques13:15 – Emotional Awareness & “Permission to Feel” (Dr. Mark Brackett)16:05 – Cultivating Self-Compassion19:16 – Treating Yourself as a Friend: The Power of Self-Kindness21:42 – Mindfulness, Presence, & Living in the Moment25:39 – Supportive Networks as “Emotional Spotters”28:04 – Trauma's Impact on Emotional Regulation & Relationship-Building30:22 – Overcoming Trauma Challenges with Safe Space & Somatic WorkI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode, we begin an exciting new series titled Resilient by Design. Together, we explore what resilience truly means, how trauma impacts our capacity to be resilient, and practical ways to cultivate resilience in our lives. Drawing on research, neuropsychology, and personal insights, we discuss how resilience isn't about being unshakable but about adapting to life's challenges.Learn how survival resilience differs from thriving resilience, why self-compassion is crucial in building resilience, and how trauma affects our brains and behaviors. Whether you've experienced adversity or simply want to strengthen your ability to adapt and thrive, this episode provides a compassionate and informative guide to help you start building resilience today.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to the Series03:09 The Cycle of Goals and Shame04:20 Trauma and Resilience: The Connection06:29 What is Resilience?10:03 The Role of Relationships in Resilience12:28 Addressing Comparison and Self-Judgment15:01 Survival vs. Thriving Resilience18:09 Trauma's Impact on the Brain22:09 The Path Forward: Building Resilience25:39 Looking AheadKey Takeaways:Resilience is not innate; it is a skill we can develop through intentional practices.Trauma survivors often excel at survival resilience but may need tools to transition to thriving resilience.Self-compassion is vital for building resilience and overcoming self-judgment.Connection with others is a cornerstone of resilience.The brain's neuroplasticity allows us to rewire and strengthen resilience through consistent effort and support.Practical Tools:Mindfulness Practices: Learn to calm the fight-or-flight response.Supportive Relationships: Build a community to foster connection and growth.Self-Compassion: Shift from shame-based self-talk to curious and hopeful language.For personalized support in building resilience, visit JerryHenderson.org to learn more about Jerry's coaching program.I am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this “Best Of” episode, we  revisits one of the community's favorite conversations, focusing on how to rebuild trust in ourselves—especially after experiences of trauma, shame, or self-doubt. In this episode we discuss the common reasons we feel unable to trust our own decisions, from survival-mode thinking to a fractured sense of self. We also look at  practical steps for repairing self-trust, including self-compassion, reframing decision-making, and embracing mistakes as part of growth. Key Topics Covered•Why trauma damages our ability to trust ourselves•The role of shame, self-criticism, and negative past experiences•Practical ways to mend your relationship with yourself•Allowing mistakes and learning self-compassion•Methods to connect with your authentic desires (meditation, experimentation, journaling)•Truth-telling, authenticity, and reframing decision-making•Taking accountability instead of seeking external validation•Recognizing your resilience and survival skillsChapters00:00 – Introduction & Best Of Series01:24 – Revisiting “Learning How to Trust Yourself”03:18 – Defining Self-Trust & Its Link to Success04:55 – The Role of Trauma in Damaging Self-Trust07:08 – Trauma, Shame & Trusting Our Decisions09:47 – Overcoming External Approval-Seeking10:50 – Mending Your Relationship with Yourself11:29 – Embracing Mistakes & Releasing Self-Criticism13:43 – Practicing Self-Compassion & Letting Go of Comparisons15:14 – Connecting with Yourself: Meditation & Experimentation20:36 – Truth-Telling & Authenticity in Daily Life22:13 – Breaking Survival-Mode Habits23:20 – Stop Playing the “Character” Everyone Likes24:07 – Reframing Decision-Making with Hope26:02 – Making Decisions Without Constant Outside Input27:31 – Recognizing Your Resourcefulness  I am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this “Best Of” series, we revisit the impactful episode "There Is Nothing Wrong With You," originally part of a “Chasing Normal” series. Many of us have struggled with the belief that we are inherently flawed or broken, especially those of us on a trauma-healing journey. This episode sheds light on how the belief that something is wrong with you is not a truth but a trauma response—a coping mechanism developed to maintain a sense of control and safety in challenging environments. This episode provides insights on identifying, understanding, and ultimately letting go of this false belief so listeners can return to their authentic selves. This episode also offers journaling prompts, practical exercises, and reframes to help you step out of shame, step into self-acceptance, and experience genuine healing and growth.Key Topics Covered:Understanding that “something is wrong with you” is a trauma-born false beliefHow this limiting belief undermines self-esteem, confidence, and relationshipsThe connection between trauma, coping mechanisms, and negative self-perceptionJournaling exercises to uncover the roots of self-doubt and fearStrategies to feel safe without relying on self-blameReplacing limiting beliefs with affirmations of safety and self-worthResources & Mentions:Returning: A Collection of Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingMindset Mastery Coaching Program: jerryhenderson.orgFree Self-Assessment Guide Timestamped Chapters:00:00 – Introduction & Best Of Series Overview01:33 – Revisiting “There Is Nothing Wrong With You”04:41 – Examining the Feeling That Something Is Wrong With You05:49 – Understanding the Belief as a Trauma Response & Coping Mechanism07:32 – How Trauma Instills a False Sense of Being Flawed10:00 – The Destructive Loop of Reinforcing Negative Beliefs12:38 – How the Belief Influences Relationships, Opportunities & Success14:33 – Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs and Facing the Fear of Change19:24 – Strategies for Healing and Shining Light on False Beliefs20:38 – Recognizing the Voice of Fear & Countering Resistance21:11 – “Maybe the Only Thing Wrong is the Belief Itself”22:53 – Journaling Prompts to Identify and Release Core Beliefs28:01 – Finding Alternatives for Feeling Safe & Creating a New Internal Reality29:41 – Affirming Safety, Letting Go of Beliefs & I am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this special series "The Best of the Permission to Love Podcast" we revisit one of the most impactful episodes The Impact of Trauma on Our Ability to Think Positively." This episode delves into the roots of negative thinking, clarifies the difference between authentic positivity and toxic positivity, and outlines practical steps to retrain the brain toward a healthier, more uplifting mindset. We also discuss the importance of acknowledging our emotions, addressing trauma responses, and learning to feel safe in the present moment so that positive thinking can emerge naturally. By the end, listeners gain actionable tools such as writing down three positive things each day and practicing gratitude to reshape their mental patterns.Key Topics Covered:Understanding the impact of trauma on positive thinkingDifferentiating between toxic positivity and genuine positivityOvercoming survival-based negative thought patternsUsing visualization and self-observation to manage intrusive thoughtsBuilding new neural pathways toward a positive mindsetIncorporating daily gratitude and emotional engagementEmbracing compassion, patience, and self-love on the healing journeyChapters00:00 – Introduction & Overview01:14 – Defining Positive Thinking: What It Is and What It Isn't02:15 – The Power of Positive Thinking & Influence on Well-Being02:49 – Focus, Attention & Energy: How Thoughts Shape Outcomes03:28 – Judgment, Manifestation & False Positivity04:42 – Clarifying Concepts: Authentic Positivity vs. Toxic Positivity05:11 – Finding Unique Solutions: Tailoring Practices to Your Needs06:29 – Allowing Emotions & Not Getting Trapped in Negativity08:32 – Studies on Realism, Optimism & Happiness09:59 – Honoring Reality While Cultivating Positivity10:34 – Embracing Gratitude & The Present Moment12:48 – Trauma's Impact on Positive Thinking & Survival Mechanisms13:24 – People-Pleasing, Impostor Feelings & False Positivity15:19 – Catastrophizing & Survival-Driven Negative Patterns16:41 – Anticipating the Worst & Struggling to Relax into the Present18:26 – Negative Self-Perception & Trauma Response19:37 – Reclaiming Control: You Are Not Your Thoughts20:58 – Creating Safety & Rewiring the Nervous System23:19 – Overcoming Red Alert Mode & Allowing Positive Thinking24:11 – Assigning Your Brain a New Job: Looking for the Positive25:11 – The “Blue Car” Effect & Redirecting Attention26:17 – Practical Exercise: Three Positive Things Each Day28:08 – Rewiring Through EmotionI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textThe best of the Permission to Love Podcast playlist.In this special series, where I am re-releasing some of the top episodes of the Permission to Love Podcast, we are starting with the very first episode, "Healing Our Relationship With Ourselves."In this episode, we take a look once again at the profound impact that our relationship with ourselves has on every other relationship in our lives. By exploring the root causes of our feelings of unworthiness, we can begin healing this critical relationship.This episode also provides practical exercises to help listeners connect with their inner selves, confront past traumas, and start the process of self-healing.Key Topics Discussed:The importance of healing our relationship with ourselvesHow self-love is foundational to personal transformationJerry's personal journey through trauma, addiction, and recoveryUnderstanding why and when we began feeling unworthy of lovePractical exercises for self-healing and self-loveThe role of self-inquiry in addressing internal painResources for additional support and healingResources Mentioned:Coaching Services: jerryhenderson.orgBook Recommendation: No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard SchwartzCall to Action:Take time this week to practice the self-love exercise discussed in this episode. Find a quiet space to reflect on when you first felt unworthy of love, visualize that version of yourself, and extend unconditional love to them. Remember, you are worthy of your own love.Connect with Jerry Henderson:Website: jerryhenderson.orgTimestamped Chapters00:00 — Introduction01:33 — Beginning the Journey to Self-Love02:36 — The Impact of Our Self-Relationship04:00 — Barriers to Self-Love05:44 — Jerry's Personal Story of Trauma and Addiction09:34 — The Turning Point: Rehabilitation and Self-Discovery13:27 — Understanding the 'Why' Before the 'How'16:06 — Self-Love Exercise19:47 — Becoming Your Own Healer21:15 — Resources and Support22:00 — Closing ThoughtsI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode we explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy can help high achievers heal their inner wounds, live more authentically, and find balance. I discuss the IFS concept of parts, such as exiles, managers, and firefighters, and how understanding these roles can lead to profound self-compassion and healing. This episode also includes a guided exercise for using IFS to connect with and heal your inner self.Key Takeaways:Understanding IFS: Internal Family Systems identifies "parts" within us, our exiles (wounded parts), and our protective parts such as managers and firefighters and how they interact.High Achievers and IFS: Perfectionism and overachievement often stem from manager parts protecting exiles wounded by childhood trauma or societal messages.Steps to Healing: Recognize exiles, build a relationship with protective parts, and use self-energy to connect with and heal the wounded parts.Practical Exercise: A step-by-step IFS practice to help bring compassion and healing to their internal parts.The Journey to Wholeness: Healing takes time and patience. It's a non-linear process that requires self-compassion and possibly the help of a professional.Resources Mentioned:IFS Guided Exercise: Practice connecting with your parts through a structured and compassionate approach.Free Download: Tools for self-healing available at jerryhenderson.org.One-on-One Coaching: Learn more about Jerry's coaching services at jerryhenderson.org.Time Stamps:00:00 - Introduction to the episode and gratitude for listeners02:20 - What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)? Understanding parts and self-energy03:27 - Key roles in IFS: exiles, managers, and firefighters05:38 - Positive intent of protective parts and their impact on high achievers06:36 - Identifying high-achiever parts and the wounds they protect08:33 - The wounded exile and its origin in trauma or societal messages10:04 - Why high achievers develop manager roles12:06 - Using IFS to heal: Recognizing and building relationships with parts14:27 - Guided IFS practice for self-healing16:29 - Offering protector parts new roles as healing progresses19:52 - Connecting with and unburdening the exile part21:44 - Providing corrective experiences to the wounded partConnect with Jerry:Website: jerryhenderson.orgI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode we dive into the exhausting trap of image management—a struggle many high achievers face. We explores why this behavior develops, its detrimental impact on mental, emotional, and relational health, and how it stems from a need for safety and external validation. We also discuss practical steps to release the burden of image management, embrace authenticity, and build healthier relationships with oneself and others.Key Takeaways:Image Management Defined: Efforts to control how others perceive us often create isolation and exhaustion.Root Causes: Early childhood experiences, perfectionism, and the desire for external validation fuel the cycle.Steps to Overcome: Identify triggers, shift focus from approval to authenticity, practice vulnerability, redefine self-worth beyond accomplishments, and set social media boundaries.Benefits of Letting Go: Greater mental freedom, authentic relationships, reduced exhaustion, enhanced self-worth, and inner peace.Chapters:00:00 - Introduction and gratitude to listeners02:00 - Quote from Dr. Brené Brown on authenticity03:23 - What is image management, and why is it a trap?05:24 - The emotional toll of image management: anxiety, depression, and burnout06:52 - Why high achievers are especially prone to image management07:51 - Client story: Sarah's journey from burnout to authenticity11:44 - Practical steps to release image management12:53 - Identifying triggers and understanding their origins14:30 - Shifting focus from approval to authenticity16:16 - Practicing vulnerability with trusted individuals19:21 - Redefining self-worth beyond accomplishments20:48 - Setting boundaries with social media22:07 - Benefits of letting go of image management: mental freedom, authentic relationships, reduced exhaustion, and inner peace24:40 - Encouragement to embrace the journey of letting goConnect with Jerry:Website: jerryhenderson.orgInstagram: @jerryahendersonEmail: jerry@jerryhenderson.orgDon't forget to subscribe and share this episode with someone who could benefit from learning to let go of image management and live more authentically.I am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode, we look at the often-hidden and misunderstood struggle of imposter syndrome, a common experience among high achievers. We look at what imposter syndrome is, why high achievers are prone to it, and practical tools to help overcome it. Through compassion, reframing, and celebrating successes, we examine how you can begin shifting away from self-doubt and toward self-acceptance. I hope you see in this episode how common imposter syndrome is and how you can  embrace a kinder relationship with yourself as you overcome it.Key Takeaways:Understanding Imposter Syndrome: Persistent self-doubt and feelings of being a “fraud” can lead to burnout and hinder genuine achievements.Root Causes: Perfectionism, comparison, and reliance on external validation often fuel imposter syndrome among high achievers.Practical Steps to Overcome Imposter Syndrome: Acknowledge it, reframe self-perceptions, embrace imperfection, seek support, and celebrate achievements.Self-Compassion: Meeting oneself with kindness is key to dismantling self-critical thoughts and embracing authentic success.Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction and gratitude to listeners02:04 - Defining imposter syndrome and its impact on high achievers02:58 - Common thoughts associated with imposter syndrome03:55 - History of imposter syndrome and its relevance to high achievers05:11 - Why high achievers are prone to imposter syndrome: perfectionism, comparison, and external validation08:15 - Consequences of imposter syndrome: burnout, anxiety, strained relationships11:40 - The importance of achieving from a place of wholeness vs. unworthiness12:44 - Practical strategies to overcome imposter syndrome13:33 - Reframing self-perceptions and challenging negative thoughts14:13 - The role of cognitive exercises and keeping a success journal16:02 - Embracing imperfection and seeking support17:43 - Celebrating successes with enthusiasm19:37 - The power of self-compassion and building a kinder relationship with oneself23:51 - Encouragement to take steps to overcome imposter syndromeConnect with Jerry:Website: jerryhenderson.orgInstagram: @jerryahendersonEmail: jerry@jerryhenderson.orgBe sure to subscribe and share this episode with someone who could benefit from understanding and managing imposter syndrome.I am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode, we continue our series on mindfulness practices to help reduce stress, focusing specifically on the power of mindful breathing. We explore how our breath can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, helping us shift from a fight-or-flight state to a state of relaxation. We look at the research-backed benefits of mindful breathing, and discuss five effective breathing techniques, and how to incorporate these practices into daily life for a more balanced and peaceful mind.Key Takeaways:Breath as a Bridge: Thich Nhat Hanh, highlighted how breath serves as the bridge between body and mind, connecting life to consciousness.Stress Reduction: Mindful breathing reduces cortisol, helping to manage chronic stress and protect long-term health.Techniques: Includes diaphragmic breathing, 4-7-8 breathing, box breathing, alternate nostril breathing, and simple breath awareness.Practical Integration: A practical way to practice mindful breathing and find consistency for lasting impact on stress and well-being.Chapters:00:00 - Introduction and gratitude to listeners01:01 - Understanding stress and the fight-or-flight response02:43 - Research on how mindful breathing affects stress and brain function03:27 - Key benefits of mindful breathing for emotional and physical health05:20 - Diaphragmic (belly) breathing exercise06:19 - 4-7-8 breathing technique for anxiety relief07:07 - Box breathing for focus and calmness08:12 - Alternate nostril breathing to balance the nervous system09:07 - Mindful breathing as simple breath awareness09:36 - Tips for incorporating mindful breathing into daily life10:52 - Closing thoughts and encouragement to share the episodeConnect with Jerry:Website: jerryhenderson.orgInstagram: @jerryahendersonEmail: jerry@jerryhenderson.orgDon't forget to subscribe and share this episode with someone who could benefit from learning mindful breathing techniques to reduce stress.I am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode we dive into the deep-seated roots of socially prescribed perfectionism (SPP) and its profound impact on high achievers. Building on the discussion of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) from the previous episode, we explore how childhood trauma can instill a relentless drive for perfection. This pursuit often leads to chronic stress, anxiety, burnout, and a fractured relationship with oneself.We also look at the various types of perfectionism; self-oriented, others-oriented, and socially prescribed, and highlight the dangers of tying self-worth to external validation. We also examine practical strategies for loosening the grip of perfectionism, such as practicing mindful awareness, challenging unrealistic expectations, and fostering self-compassion. With insights from Brene Brown, Kristen Neff, and others, this episode provides you with actionable steps to break free from perfectionism and cultivate a healthier relationship with yourself.Key Topics Covered:The connection between ACEs and perfectionism in high achieversUnderstanding socially prescribed perfectionism and its impactThe role of mindfulness and self-compassion in overcoming perfectionismHow to challenge perfectionistic thoughts and set healthy boundariesThe interplay between perfectionism and imposter syndromeKey Takeaways:Socially prescribed perfectionism leads to chronic stress and burnout.Self-compassion is essential for high achievers to heal and thrive.Setting boundaries helps in managing external expectations and fostering self-respect.0:00 Introduction and Overview0:46 Connection Between ACEs and Perfectionism03:11 The Role of Childhood Trauma in Developing Perfectionism04:49 How ACEs Lead to Coping Mechanisms Like Perfectionism07:12 Understanding Socially Prescribed Perfectionism08:48 Perfectionism and Imposter Syndrome: The Link09:55 Types of Perfectionism Explained14:06 Strategies for Loosening the Grip of Perfectionism16:17 Mindful Awareness and Challenging Perfectionistic Thoughts20:43 Practicing Self-Compassion as a Tool for Healing25:13 Focusing on Progress, Not Perfection29:36 The Importance of Setting Boundaries33:01 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode, I share the benefits of mindful walking and how it can help reduce stress and calm the nervous system. Building on the series about mindfulness practices, We look at how mindful walking, a form of moving meditation, can help release tension and bring us into the present moment. In this episode I provide practical tips on incorporating mindful walking into your daily life, whether you're out in nature, walking in the city, or simply taking a quiet moment at home.Key Takeaways:Mindful Walking Defined: Mindful walking is the practice of bringing full attention to your steps, breath, and surroundings, staying grounded in the present moment.Benefits of Mindful Walking: Reduces cortisol levels, improves emotional regulation, enhances physical health, and promotes mental clarity.Practical Tips: Incorporate mindful walking into your routine by taking a short walk in the morning, using it as a mid-day break, or winding down in the evening.Connect with Jerry:Website: jerryhenderson.orgInstagram: @jerryahendersonEmail: jerry@jerryhenderson.orgRemember to subscribe to the podcast and share this episode with someone who could benefit from mindfulness practices for stress reduction.Chapters:00:00 - Welcome and gratitude to listeners00:49 - Introduction to mindful walking02:27 - What is mindful walking? Definition and benefits03:27 - How mindful walking reduces stress and calms the nervous system04:21 - Alternatives to mindful walking if walking isn't an option05:35 - Research on stress reduction through mindful walking06:50 - Cognitive benefits: Mindful walking enhances mental clarity and creativity08:27 - Practical steps for mindful walking: Finding a quiet place, focusing on breath, and engaging the senses10:29 - Tips to refocus and stay present during your walk12:32 - How to make mindful walking a part of your routine (morning, mid-day breaks, end of workday, evening wind-down)15:33 - Encouragement to take a mindful walk this weekend15:52 - Additional resources and invitation to connect with Jerry16:00 - Closing thoughts and reminder of self-kindnessI am grateful you are here,JerrySetup Your FREE Coaching Call:Schedule Call1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode we dive deep into the often unseen connection between childhood trauma and the drive to achieve. High achievers may find their identity wrapped in accomplishments, but those achievements often stem from adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). Together we explore how trauma shapes high achievers and how the pursuit of perfectionism can become a coping mechanism. We also look at the healing power of self-compassion and practical tips on how to shift from judgment to self-love.Listen as we unpack the key lessons from ACEs research, the impact on mental and physical health, and how embracing self-compassion can lead to a healthier, more fulfilling life.Key Topics Covered:What are Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)?The long-term impact of ACEs on mental and physical healthHow high achievers often emerge from childhood traumaCoping mechanisms like perfectionism and workaholismThe importance of self-compassion in healing and personal growthKey Takeaways:Understanding ACEs can help high achievers uncover the root of their drive for accomplishment.Self-compassion is a critical tool for healing and breaking the cycle of self-judgment.Your achievements don't define your worth.Practical Tips:Explore your coping mechanisms and ask what they are trying to protect.Practice self-compassion by recognizing your inherent worth beyond achievements.Shift from self-judgment to self-love as part of your healing journey.Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Overview of Today's Episode02:57 What are Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)?03:53 The Long-term Effects of ACEs on Mental and Emotional Health05:29 The Physical Impact of ACEs and Toxic Stress06:42 Connecting ACEs to High Achievement and Coping Mechanisms08:45 Coping Mechanisms: Perfectionism, Workaholism, and Control13:49 The Fear of Being Seen and High Achiever Vulnerabilities16:51 Healing Through Self-Compassion: Releasing the Need for Achievement21:14 Understanding and Nurturing the Hurt Inner Child23:33 Practicing Self-Compassion Without Losing Ambition24:36 Closing Thoughts and Next Steps for HealingI am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn today's episode, I kick off a series on how mindfulness can help reduce stress and create more calm in our lives. We examine  how mindfulness works as a tool to counteract the stress response and look at practical techniques to bring more mindfulness into your daily life. We also look at the science behind mindfulness, its effect on the brain and body, and how it can reframe your relationship with stress. Plus, learn about how breath observation can be a powerful way to practice mindfulness and lower your stress levels.Key Takeaways:•Mindfulness and Stress: Mindfulness helps lower the “waterline” of stress, giving you more capacity to handle life's challenges.•Scientific Benefits: Practicing mindfulness can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, reducing cortisol levels and promoting relaxation.•Practical Tip: Start by observing your breath in moments of stress to ground yourself and bring your body into a more relaxed state.Resources Mentioned:•Mindset Mastery Program: Learn more and apply at jerryhenderson.org/mindset•Returning (Book): A collection of meditations and reflections on self-love and healing. Available at jerryhenderson.orgChapters:00:00- Introduction and gratitude for listeners00:51 - Overview of the mindfulness series and today's focus on stress reduction01:32- What is mindfulness? Definitions from Jon Kabat-Zinn and its role in reducing stress02:34- Science behind mindfulness: How it counteracts the fight or flight response03:20 - Activating the parasympathetic nervous system and releasing brain-derived neurotrophic factors (BDNFs)05:03 - Mindfulness as a tool to change limiting beliefs and transform your mindset07:13 - Practical ways mindfulness helps reduce stress, including awareness of habitual reactions08:52- The “waterline” analogy for stress and how mindfulness can help lower it10:12 - Practical mindfulness tool: Observing your breath to manage stress12:06 - Final thoughts and how to connect with JerryConnect with Jerry:•Website: jerryhenderson.org•Instagram: @jerryahenderson•Email: jerry@jerryhenderson.orgMake sure to subscribe and share this episode with someone who could benefit from mindfulness tips to reduce stress.I am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode, I continue the series on becoming a healthy high achiever by discussing how you can start to rewrite your personal story. Many high achievers are driven by toxic narratives rooted in childhood wounds or past experiences, which can lead to burnout, anxiety, and unhealthy coping mechanisms. In this epidote we explore the impact of these limiting beliefs and how they manifest in the lives of high achievers. I also provide practical steps to rewrite your story, embrace self-compassion, and develop a healthier mindset.Key takeaways include:Identifying and owning your current storyChoosing a new, empowering narrativePracticing your new story through affirmations, journaling, and visualizationBuilding a support system that reinforces your new narrativeIf you're ready to transform your mindset and rewrite your story, sign up for the 12-week Mindset Mastery Coaching Program,  available with a special offer for podcast listeners. Visit https;//www.jerryhenderson.org/mindset to schedule a FREE call to learn more. Chapters:00:00 – Introduction to the episode and series on becoming a healthy high achiever01:55 – Understanding the power of stories and how they shape your mindset03:54 – The role of limiting beliefs and how they affect high achievers06:19 – Practical steps to rewrite your story: identifying and owning your current story08:53 – Owning your origin story without shame and building from it12:10 – Choosing a new story and practicing it17:04 – Affirmations, journaling, and visualization as tools for rewiring your brain23:04 – The importance of surrounding yourself with people who support your new story25:58 – Recap and invitation to apply for Mindset Mastery Coaching#HighAchiever #MindsetTransformation #ImposterSyndrome #LimitingBeliefs #MindsetMastery #SelfCompassion #Neuroplasticity #HealthyHighAchiever #PersonalGrowth #JerryHendersonI am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode of the Permission to Love podcast, I walkyou through a powerful exercise to challenge the limiting belief that you need to meet certain criteria to be worthy of love. As a part of the episode I guides you through four reflective questions that will help you uncover where these beliefs come from, how they affect you, and how to finally let them go. If you're struggling with self-love, this episode offers a pathway to begin releasing those burdensome beliefs and reclaim your self-worth.Key Takeaways:1.Make a list of what you believe needs to be true for you to be worthy of love.2.Reflect on whether you apply this list to others and ask if you'd hold them to the same standards.3.Examine the origin of your belief system around love and worthiness.4.Visualize who you would be without this list of conditions.5.Let go of the list through a personal release practice (burn, tear, or mentally release).Practical Exercise:•Ask yourself these four key questions to challenge your limiting beliefs about worthiness and love.•Engage in a physical or mental act of letting go, such as tearing up the list or declaring your release from it.Quotes from the Episode:•“There is no list of what you need to do or who you need to be in order to be worthy of love. You are inherently worthy of love because you exist.”•“Who would you be without that list? Probably free to love yourself without excuses.”Chapters:00:00 – Introduction and Welcome01:00 – The Limiting Belief Around Worthiness01:31 – Exercise: Writing Your List of What Needs to Be True for Worthiness02:03 – Why This Exercise is Important02:36 – Question 2: Would You Apply These Criteria to Others?03:08 – Question 3: Where Did These Beliefs Come From?04:04 – Understanding the Source of the Worthiness Belief05:38 – Question 4: Who Would You Be Without This List?07:10 – Letting Go of the List: Steps to Release08:30 – Recap of the Exercise and Key Takeaways09:19 – Final Thoughts and Call to ActionI am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode, we continue our series on "How to Be a Healthy High Achiever," and as we discuss the critical role that your inner narrative plays in shaping your life, especially as a high achiever. I share insights into how your core beliefs, formed by past experiences and the stories you've carried, are driving your behaviors, causing symptoms like anxiety, imposter syndrome, and burnout.By identifying the stories we tell ourselves and understanding the core wounds we have behind those stories, we can start to rewrite our story and our lives.✨ Key Takeaways:How your core beliefs and stories are driving unhealthy achievement patternsThe role of childhood trauma and other wounds in shaping your current lifeThe power you have to rewrite your story and create a life of health and balanceA powerful journaling exercise to uncover your underlying motivations for achievementIf you're feeling stuck to find a healthy balance while achieving your goals,  this episode is for you. You can create a more sustainable, fulfilling life without sacrificing your well-being.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:00 Symptoms high achievers experience (anxiety, burnout, imposter syndrome)02:50 What drives high achievers? Understanding the core story03:45 A key question: What are you trying to prove, and to whom?04:30 The role of childhood trauma in shaping high achievers07:45 The moment of realization: achievements won't heal your core wound10:00 The power of mindset and how it can be transformed11:53 Mindset Mastery Program: How it helps transform limiting beliefs13:07 How to identify and heal the core wound14:41 The impact of trauma on high achievers and the role of achievements16:30 The cost of unhealthy achievements on life and relationships19:23 The power of rewriting your story: You can create the life you want21:21 Journaling prompts to start rewriting your narrativeI am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode I dive into the crucial topic of empathy—how you can cultivate it and use it to deepen your connections and improve your mindset. Many people struggle to express empathy, but the truth is, empathy is a skill you can develop with intentional practice.In this episode, we explore five actionable steps you can take to become more empathetic, from practicing mindfulness to challenging your unconscious biases. These steps will not only help you connect with others on a deeper level but also enhance your own emotional intelligence and compassion.If you've ever felt disconnected or unsure how to offer true support to others, this episode is for you. I'll walk you through what empathy really is, why it matters, and how you can grow this vital skill in your daily life.Key Takeaways:What empathy is and why it's essential for building healthy relationships.The importance of mindfulness in developing empathy.How active listening plays a key role in fostering empathy.Why showing genuine curiosity deepens emotional connections.The importance of putting yourself in someone else's shoes How to challenge biases that block true empathy.Empathy is not just a trait; it's a mindset that can be cultivated to enhance both your personal growth and your relationships. Let's work together to create a more empathetic world, starting with ourselves.If you find this episode valuable, don't forget to subscribe, rate, and share it with someone who might benefit from these insights.Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to today's episode 00:40 – Why empathy is a key to healthy relationships 01:30 – Defining empathy: Understanding others on a deeper level 03:00 – The power of mindfulness in building empathy 04:07 – How to actively listen without judgment 05:26 – The role of genuine curiosity in developing empathy 06:52 – Putting yourself in someone else's shoes 09:23 – Why acknowledging and challenging biases is crucial for empathy 12:34 – Recap: 5 ways to improve your empathy 12:53 – Closing thoughts and how empathy can transform your relationshipsResources Mentioned:Learn more about my mindset coaching program: www.jerryhenderson.orgAdditional resources for personal growth and empathy development are available on my website.I am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a text In this first episode of a brand-new series, I share how the powerful motivators that drive many high achievers, often leading to burnout, imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and workaholism. Learn how to embrace self-compassion, disconnect your self-worth from your achievements, and create a sustainable path to success. This episode sets the foundation for the series, offering hope and practical advice for anyone who feels trapped in the unhealthy cycle of overachievement.Key Topics Covered:The common challenges high achievers face: perfectionism, burnout, imposter syndrome, and moreMy personal story of overcoming unhealthy high achievement that almost cost me everythingHow trauma, childhood experiences, and life events drive the need for external validationPractical steps to stop chasing achievements for acceptance and start practicing self-compassionIntroduction to the series on how to build healthy, life-giving habits while maintaining successKey Takeaways:High achievers often connect their worth with their accomplishments, leading to unsustainable behaviors.Healing begins by identifying the unhealthy motivators and replacing them with self-compassion and acceptance.It is possible to achieve success in a healthy way, detached from the need to prove your worth.High achievers can build a life they love by stepping off the "achievement treadmill."Quotes:"It's possible to have your self-esteem rooted in who you are, not in what you do.""Your achievements will never erase the feeling of not being enough—you do that by practicing self-acceptance."Resources Mentioned:Mindset Mastery Coaching Program – Apply at www.jerryhenderson.orgChapters: 00:00 - Introduction00:41 - My Journey as an Unhealthy High Achiever02:03 - Motivators Behind High Achievement03:19 - How to Detach Worth from Accomplishments07:15 - Common Challenges for High Achievers14:00 - Perfectionism, Burnout, and Imposter Syndrome20:13 - Practical Steps for Healthy Success21:07 - Finding Peace and Acceptance in AchievementI am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode I share insights into one of the toughest challenges for high achievers: letting go of control. Many of us feel the need to control every outcome, situation, and person in our lives, which leads to exhaustion, anxiety, and burnout. Join me as I share how letting go of control can bring peace and allow space for creativity and growth. Learn simple, actionable tips to help you trust the process, relax your nervous system, and focus on what you can control: yourself.Key Topics Covered:Why high achievers struggle with control and how it impacts mental healthHow to shift from a need for control to a mindset of trust and acceptancePractical steps for letting go of control without feeling unsafeWhy focusing on what you can control—yourself—leads to better outcomesHow releasing control reduces stress, anxiety, and burnoutKey Takeaways:Control may feel like it's helping, but it often leads to anxiety, stress, and burnout.Letting go of control allows more peace, creativity, and trust to flow into your life.Focus on controlling your effort and personal growth, not the outcomes.Start small—delegate tasks and let go of micromanaging to build trust in the process.Quotes:“There is peace in letting go of trying to control all the outcomes and focusing on what you can control—your effort.”“Control is about safety, but real peace comes when we trust the process instead of trying to manipulate every detail.”Resources Mentioned:Mindset Mastery Coaching Program – Apply at www.jerryhenderson.orgChapters: 00:00 - Introduction00:39 - Why High Achievers Struggle with Control01:58 - Control and the Need for Safety02:38 - Transforming Your Mindset by Letting Go04:45 - How to Let Go of Control05:20 - Practical Tips for High Achievers to Release Control07:14 - Reframing Your Mindset Around Control09:15 - Focusing on What You Can Control10:50 - Final Thoughts & Resources#HighAchiever,  #PersonalGrowth, #TrustTheProcess, #ControlAndBurnout, #MentalHealthPodcast, #GrowthMindset, #MindsetCoachI am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode I dive into a critical but often overlooked aspect of healing: intentional rest. While many of us push ourselves to constantly grow, improve, and heal, we rarely allow ourselves the time to rest and integrate those lessons. In this episode I share why rest is not only necessary but a key component of self-improvement and healing. Discover how rest helps reset your body, mind, and emotions, allowing for deeper healing and growth.Key Topics Covered:Why intentional rest is essential for personal growth and healingThe dangers of “hustling for worthiness” and the constant push for self-improvementHow rest allows your system to absorb and integrate new learningsHow to create a rhythm of rest and healing without guiltPractical steps to incorporate intentional rest into your daily and weekly routineKey Takeaways:Healing and personal growth are not a race—resting is a key part of the process.Without intentional rest, we risk burnout and stagnation, even in our healing journey.Rest helps you integrate new lessons and prepares you for further growth.You can give yourself permission to rest without feeling guilty or unworthy.Quotes:“Intentional rest is essential. It allows your mind, body, and spirit to absorb the lessons and growth you're experiencing.”“Rest isn't a luxury—it's a necessity for healing and becoming your best self.”Resources Mentioned:Mindset Mastery Coaching Program – Apply at www.jerryhenderson.orgThe Power of Rest by Dr. Matthew EdlundChapters: 00:00 - Introduction00:51 - Why We Avoid Rest02:12 - The Culture of Productivity and Hustling for Worthiness03:34 - Rest is Not Laziness: The Key to Sustainable Growth04:40 - Do You Need a Break from Yourself?06:08 - Avoiding Burnout from Self-Improvement07:21 - The Addiction to Constant Healing and Growth08:46 - Trusting the Healing Process with Intentional Rest14:26 - How to Schedule Intentional Rest into Your Life21:01 - Final Thoughts & ResourcesI am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode we explore the power of positive affirmations. Do they really work? Yes, they do and in this episode I break down how affirmations can transform your mindset, beliefs, and life—if you apply the right techniques. I also share actionable steps to help you shift from negative self-talk to positive, self-empowering beliefs. You'll learn why emotion is key, how to create effective affirmations, and the four-step process that I used for myself and I use with my clients to rewiring our brains.Key Topics Covered:Do positive affirmations really work?The impact of negative self-talk and affirmationsHow to rewire your brain by connecting positive affirmations with emotionThe 4-step process to transform your core beliefsPractical tips for incorporating positive affirmations into your daily lifeKey Takeaways:Just like negative affirmations, positive affirmations have the power to shape your beliefs and emotions—when done correctly.The key to effective affirmations is not just repeating words but attaching real emotion to them.With consistent practice, you can shift your mindset and transform your beliefs about yourself.Positive affirmations are about rewiring your core beliefs and creating new mental pathways.Chapters:00:00 - Introduction00:52 - Do Positive Affirmations Work?01:59 - The Power of Negative Affirmations02:59 - Why Positive Affirmations Feel Unfamiliar04:04 - Attaching Emotion to Positive Affirmations08:15 - 4-Step Process to Rewire Your Beliefs14:28 - Final Thoughts & ResourcesPositiveAffirmations, MindsetShift, SelfLove, MentalHealth, RewireYourBrain, TransformYourLife, GrowthMindset, MentalHealthPodcast, MindsetCoach, PersonalGrowth, SelfBelief, HealingJourneyI am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textEpisode Description: In today's episode of the Permission to Love podcast, I dive  into the transformative power of giving yourself permission to heal. If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed by shame, guilt, or an unhealed identity, this episode is for you. In this episode I explores the reasons why we often resist healing, how to overcome the internal barriers that hold us back, and practical tips to embrace your worthiness of healing.Key Topics Covered:Why many people struggle to give themselves permission to healThe role of shame and guilt in preventing healingBreaking free from an identity tied to trauma and brokennessWhy healing doesn't mean excusing past wrongsPractical steps to begin the healing journeyKey Takeaways:You are worthy of healing, regardless of your past or perceived flaws.Healing is not about forgiving others or minimizing pain—it's about honoring your journey and giving yourself the freedom to move forward.Saying “I give myself permission to heal” is a powerful exercise that can reveal subconscious beliefs about worthiness.Forgiving yourself and seeking support are essential steps in your healing process.Resources Mentioned:The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.Mindset Mastery Coaching Program - Apply at www.jerryhenderson.orgChapters: 00:00 - Introduction02:17 - Why We Don't Give Ourselves Permission to Heal03:25 - Breaking Through Shame and Guilt06:22 - Healing and Identity09:48 - Does Healing Mean Excusing Past Wrongs?15:28 - Practical Steps to Give Yourself Permission to Heal19:39 - Forgiving Yourself as Part of Healing23:19 - Final Thoughts & ResourcesCall to Action: If this episode resonated with you, don't forget to subscribe to the Permission to Love podcast for more empowering discussions on healing, mindset, and self-love. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it, and visit www.jerryhenderson.org for free resources.I am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textAre you afraid of making changes in your life, even though you know they're necessary? In this episode I share how fear of change can keep you stuck in old patterns and how to move forward. Learn to shift your energy from fear to faith, visualize your success, and take small actionable steps to achieve the life you want. If you're ready to transform your mindset and overcome self-doubt, this video is for you!Key Topics:The role of mindset in personal growth Why change is scary and familiar habits feel comfortable Overcoming the fear of thriving and self-sabotageVisualization: Turning fear energy into faith energyEmbracing discomfort as part of growthActionable steps to overcome fear and start your journey of changeChapters: 00:00 – Intro: Welcome to the Permission to Love Podcast00:39 – Understanding the energy of faith vs. fear01:37 – The power of mindset in overcoming the fear of change02:23 – Why change is scary and familiar habits are comforting03:50 – Overcoming fear of thriving and self-sabotage09:00 – Fear of the unknown and self-worth12:55 – Visualization: Shifting fear energy into faith13:50 – Embracing discomfort as part of growth15:41 – The cost of not changing: Missed opportunities16:23 – Actionable steps to overcome fear and create change17:08 – Final encouragement and resourcesI am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode we dive into a topic that many of us struggle with: coping mechanisms. We all have different ways of managing our pain—whether it's stress, difficult emotions, or past trauma. The problem is, sometimes the coping mechanisms we use to protect ourselves can end up causing even more pain in the long run. In this episode I discuss how these unhealthy coping mechanisms—whether it's overworking, drinking, negative self-talk, or any other form of distraction—can keep us stuck in cycles of shame and suffering.This episode is all about recognizing when our coping mechanisms are no longer serving us, and more importantly, how we can begin to heal the underlying pain they are trying to manage. By becoming curious about the root causes of our pain and developing self-compassion, we can start to let go of the unhealthy patterns and move towards a life of healing, self-acceptance, and peace.Key Topics Covered:1. The Role of Coping Mechanisms in Our Lives: Coping mechanisms are: the strategies we use to manage stress, pain, and difficult emotions.2. The Hidden Wound Behind Coping Mechanisms: Every unhealthy coping mechanism is trying to help us manage a deeper wound.3. Pain is Inevitable, But Suffering is Optional4. Curiosity as a Path to Healing: A major theme of this episode is the power of curiosity.5. Replacing Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms: Practical strategies for replacing unhealthy coping mechanisms with healthier ones.6. An Invitation to Heal: If you're struggling with unhealthy coping mechanisms, I want to invite you to give yourself permission to heal. Chapters:0:00 – Introduction  0:30 – The Pain of Coping Mechanisms  01:45 – What Are Coping Mechanisms?  02:58 – Pain is Inevitable, But Suffering is Optional  04:00 – How Coping Mechanisms Can Be Deceptive  06:38 – When Coping Mechanisms Cause More Pain  09:55 – Why We Shouldn't Shame Ourselves for Coping Mechanisms  11:00 – Coping Mechanisms and Their Impact on Self-Worth  12:29 – How to Break Free from Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms  13:40 – The Power of Curiosity in Healing  14:54 – Understanding Your Triggers  16:33 – Replacing Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms  18:07 – The Cycle of Shame and Coping  22:00 – The Importance of Seeking Help  23:49 – Creating a New Vision for Your Life  25:32 – Final Thoughts and Invitation to Heal  I am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode I'm sharing one of the most life-changing insights I've ever learned: You are not your thoughts. If you've ever felt trapped by negative self-talk, constantly worrying about the future, or ruminating on your past, I want you to know those thoughts don't define you. For years, I believed my thoughts were true reflections of who I was, but the truth is, thoughts are simply mental events. They're not facts.Key Topics Covered:You Are Not Your ThoughtsI kick off this episode by introducing a simple yet powerful truth: you are not your thoughts. Many of us mistakenly believe that our thoughts define us, especially when they're negative or self-critical. How Thoughts Become HabitualOur brains are wired to think, and when there's no immediate problem to solve, they often create problems. This leads to negative thinking patterns, like catastrophizing or ruminating. The Power of DetachmentA key part of changing your mindset is learning to observe your thoughts without getting emotionally attached to them. I talk about how you can step back, detach, and simply notice your thoughts. Curiosity as a Tool for TransformationInstead of fighting or suppressing your thoughts, I encourage you to get curious about them. Why is this thought here? What is it trying to do for me? Practical Strategies for Mindset ShiftsI offer some simple yet effective tools for transforming your mindset. For example, try using a physical reminder, like tying a string around your wrist, to disrupt negative thinking patterns and remind yourself that you are not your thoughts. An Invitation to Transform Your MindsetIf you're ready to take control of your mindset and let go of those limiting beliefs, I invite you to apply for my Mindset Mastery coaching program.Resources Mentioned:The Untethered Soul by Michael SingerDr. Daniel Siegel's concept of mindsightSubscribe and Share:If you found value in this episode, I'd love for you to subscribe to the podcast and share it with someone who could benefit from hearing it. Let's spread the message that we are not our thoughts!Chapters:00:00 - Introduction00:42 - Why You're Not Your Thoughts01:30 - My Transformation Inspired by The Untethered Soul02:29 - Overidentifying with Thoughts04:30 - How Your Brain Creates and Repeats Negative Patterns06:43 - The Power of Detachment from Thoughts09:18 - Thoughts Are Not Facts – Dr. Daniel Siegel's MindsightI am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textIn this episode we explore the crucial role of resilience in enhancing our happiness and well-being. Delving into scientific research and practical strategies, we examine how resilience can be developed and how mindfulness practices and self-compassion play a key role in building it. Discover actionable tips to strengthen your resilience and improve your life satisfaction, even in the face of adversity.Key Points Discussed:Definition of Resilience:Resilience is not a fixed trait but a set of behaviors, thoughts, and actions that can be developed.It's about thriving and growing through adversity, not just bouncing back.Resilience vs. Reactivity:Resilient individuals respond to challenges rather than merely reacting to them.They utilize inner resources, support networks, and positive coping strategies.Impact of Resilience on Happiness:Lack of resilience is linked to higher anxiety, stress, and prolonged dissatisfaction.Resilience acts as a buffer against stress, leading to higher happiness and well-being.Mindfulness and Resilience:Simple mindfulness practices such as breathing exercises, meditation, and mindful walks are effective tools for developing resilience.Mindfulness helps us stay present and reduce stress, contributing to overall resilience.Developing Resilience:Building strong, supportive relationships is key to resilience.Practices like mindfulness and meditation ground us in the present moment and help us handle life's challenges more effectively.Research & References:Journal of Mindfulness: The link between mindfulness practices and resilience.American Psychological Association: Definition and explanation of resilience.Journal of Abnormal Psychology: Effects of lack of resilience on prolonged sadness.Journal of Psychological Science: Resilience's impact on emotion regulation and sense of purpose.Quotes:"Resilience isn't about just surviving; it's about learning how to thrive even in the midst of adversity."Resources Mentioned:Mindset Mastery Coaching Program: Apply at https://www.jerryhenderson.org/mindset for a $500 discount.Mindfulness Techniques: Breathing exercises, meditation, mindful walks.Chapters:00:00 Introduction: What is Resilience?00:13 Overcoming Limiting Beliefs05:37 Resilience and Happiness07:13 Trauma and I am grateful you are here,JerryMindset Mastery 12 Week Coaching Program:Learn More Here!1:1 Transformational Coaching:Learn More Here!How is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guidePick up your copy of my book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Instagram: @jerryahendersonLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer

Send us a textHenry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right.” In this episode, we dive into the foundational concept of mindset, exploring why it's crucial for your personal growth and how it influences every aspect of your life.

In this episode, I explore how we can escape from the comparison trap and how it affects our overall well-being and happiness.If you find yourself constantly comparing your life, achievements, or self-worth to others, this episode is designed to help you break free from that cycle.We'll explore the essence of comparison, why it's so pervasive in our lives, and how it can undermine our happiness and self-esteem. I'll share practical strategies and insights to help you shift away from the comparison trap and focus on what truly matters to you.