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Mark Smith is the President of Kitewheel. With over 20 years of global experience in Marketing Applications and Analytical CRM, Mark is a leader in building, growing and managing successful companies. Currently in “innovation mode” as the President of Kitewheel, Mark is focused on helping marketing agencies deliver better customer engagement through solutions that unify the “logic” layer of today’s customer-facing technology for their large brand clients.   Mark’s journey into customer behaviour and experience started early in his career. Shortly after achieving his Ph.D. in Mathematics and Statistics from the University of Edinburgh, Mark founded Quadstone – the first data mining company to focus explicitly on the analytics of customer behaviour. In the years that followed, Mark moved to Boston to build the US business and oversaw revolutionary analytic progress at clients including T-Mobile, Dell, Merrill Lynch and Fidelity. His leadership role expanded to global sale, marketing and product teams that led to a series of 3 successful M&A transactions over the last 10 years.    Questions   Mark can you share a little bit about your journey? How you got to where you are today, what is Kitewheel and what do they do? What are some key performance indicators that you would need to watch in the business as it relates to the data analytics in order to ensure that you can predict behaviour or at least nudge them as you had suggested on what they would need to do next or what they would need to be reminded of. We hear a lot also about an Omni-channel experience. An Omni-channel means that everything is connected, as you were suggesting just now. Could you give us an example of a company that you know, whether maybe you've worked with as a service provider, or a company that you are a customer of theirs? And maybe they haven't mastered it, they've come very close to mastering an Omni-channel experience? Who should own customer experience in a company? Could you share with us if you have a website, app, tool, anything that you absolutely can't live without in your business? What's the one thing that you use in your business that you can't live without? It could be a tool, it could be a website, it could be an app. Could you share with us maybe one or two books that have had biggest impact on you? It could be a book that you read a very long time ago, or maybe even one you read recently, but it still has had a great impact on you. Could you share with us maybe one thing that you're working on in your life right now, something that you're really excited about? It could be something you're working on to develop yourself or your people. Where can listeners find you online if they wanted to connect with you even more? Do you have a quote or a saying that during times of adversity or challenge you'll tend to revert to this quote or saying, it kind of helps to refocus you or just get you back on that path to whatever goal you are working on originally.   Highlights   Mark’s Journey   Mark shared that he’s the President of Kitewheel, they are a company that helps deliver great experiences to the customers of typically large organizations, by helping them manage the journeys that their customers are on. He has been doing this for a long time now, over 20 years he has been helping organizations understand the behaviour of customers from a kind of an analytic perspective. And at Kitewheel, they've kind of tuned that and moved more into the orchestration area, as they call it, which is helping businesses actually make a difference to the customer by changing the process, and helping the customer along their journey, so that they have the best possible experience.   Me: So customer journey mapping and customer orchestration. Those are kind of big terminologies in the customer experience space, for those members of our audience that may not necessarily know what that entails, could you break down for us what that is in the simplest possible terms, maybe give us an example of what it means to a business to understand that process?   Mark shared that journey mapping is certainly something that's been around for quite some time in the customer experience area, that the whole process of designing out the steps that a customer goes through on their journey, journey has become very popular, particularly the last few years, because organizations see it as a way managing that journey, is a way of kind of being somewhat in control of the experience and try and allows the business to do the best possible job of delivering a great experience. And so organizations are trying to understand so what is the journey?   And what ways do customers interact with my business? Which channels do they use? What things do they look for on different channels? And when do they use them? And what order did they do things?   Too many businesses are very kind of focused on things from their perspective. And they would like customers to do things in a certain order, but it's all really about the customer, and they do things their way. And different customers do things in different ways and so they're often on different journeys, and organizations trying to map those out.   What Kitewheel is focused on is actually using the data inside organizations to do what they call journey analytics. So not just theoretically, what do we think the customer journey is, but actually using the data from all these digital tools that we now have, and all these channels systems that record everything that happens, let's take those and start to analyze what's the real journey that the customers are on and let's visualize that so that the business can really understand not just what they think the customers doing or not just what the customers say they're doing through feedback surveys. But actually, what are they doing in terms of real behaviour.   Let's look at that. And that's journey analytics. And that journey analytics then gives you a frame, once you can see what the customers are really doing and you understand what makes them happy and or unhappy, then you can start to orchestrate, which is the process of actually changing things for the customer, helping them along their journey, nudging them this way, nudging them that way, reminding them of something they need to do. And that all helps them get to their end goal of getting a question answered, getting a customer service issue dealt with, buying a product, whatever it may be. If we can help get them there more smoothly, quickly, easily, the customer is going to regard that as a great experience and be very happy.   Key Performance Indicators in the Business to Predict Behaviour on What to Do Next   Me: What are some key performance indicators that you would need to watch the business as it relates to the data analytics in order to ensure that you can predict behaviour or at least nudge them as you had suggested on what they would need to do next or what they would need to be reminded of.   Mark shared that that's a great point. And what the organizations often have to do here is develop a small number of new performance indicators that are connected to journeys.   Lots of businesses today, they track things by channel or by product or by business unit and they know how many people visit the website, they know how many people open emails, they know how many people call the call centre, they know how many people say they're a net promoter and how many people complain. But few organizations have tied all of that together to understand it as a connected experience and understand it as a journey.   And the key new metrics that need to be developed are how many customers are going down different journeys and what is the overall satisfaction of customers who go down these different experiences.   And the data is all there, it's just a matter of connecting it together so you could see it as a connected journey. And then say, customers would go down this journey, they're much happier than customers who go down this different journey, let's align the right customers with the right journey.   Today, most companies can only control those things, channel by channel, or activity by activity, interaction by interaction. And the best results come from moving on to a connected experience of lots of interactions or across lots of channels.   Mastering the Omni-Channel Experience   Me: We hear a lot also about an Omni-Channel experience. An Omni-Channel means that everything is connected, as you were suggesting just now. Could you give us an example of a company that you know, whether maybe you've worked with as a service provider, or a company that you are a customer of theirs? And maybe they haven't mastered it, they've come very close to mastering an Omni-Channel experience?   Mark shared that the Omni-Channel concept, it's supposed to mean, all channels, all possible channels. The idea being that we as customers can make any choice we want, we as customers can one day go online to get a product, another day walk into a store, another day phone up, shouldn't really matter, we should get the same level of experience, have access to the same products regardless of where we choose, or how we choose to do business.   And the great companies are able to connect those channels together so that it's seamless. And no matter what the customer chooses, as they move from potentially one channel to another, it's a seamless experience for them, that's what we all would regard as a great experience that if he’s on the website looking at something, can't find an answer to his question, so he calls for help, it's always great when your call goes through the customer service person talking to you knows why you're there. And you can say, you’re calling because of a problem with your bill, because those channels have been connected and they know that he was just on the website with a billing problem, and therefore can help him instantly with that problem.   And so, that ability to connect those channels is where the kind of leading organizations are going, he had a great expert, you asked me for a specific example.   And he had a great experience just recently, he and his wife bought some new furniture from a company called Floyd who are an American manufacturer based in Detroit. And like everybody these days, like most people these days, they bought their furniture online, sitting at home, because they can't go anywhere. And they've done a fantastic job of making that a super kind of connected, highly branded experience. So, they half did the order on a mobile phone and then moved to a laptop.   But that went through, they instantly got confirmation and they got handed to a shipping company and actually there was something that had to be made and then handed to a shipping company. But that was completely seamless, they had communications coming from both the shippers as well as the manufacturer. But they were totally connected, each one knew what the other one was doing. And they gave them advance notice of when the delivery was going to be arrived exactly on time. They then phoned to check it was all correct, send them a survey following it. Just everything works so smoothly, despite the fact that they were two different companies involved and like four different channels. And when those things work well like that, what happens? You tell everybody about it, and that's what we're all looking for. We all want businesses promoted by advocates who think we do a great job. And here he is, doing exactly that because it was a great experience.    Who Should Own Customer Experience in a Company   Me: So we are in that era now, as you said, people are way more aware of customer experience, there's clearly a lot more attention given to it. A lot of organizations maybe 10, 15 years ago that never used to allocate a budget towards customer experience definitely by force, the customer has forced them to realize the direct correlation between having customers and their bottom line, they certainly realize that they need to give some emphasis to customer experience. But who should own customer experience in a company?   Mark stated that this is a great question. And it really has changed dramatically, just in the last one or two years. Because he thinks it's raised up significantly who owns customer experience, certainly, in the forward thinking businesses, the ones that are approaching customer experience the right way, they have realized that it's suddenly become this huge differentiator for the business from the competition.   In the old days, customer experience was seen as more a lower level thing in the business, it was a problem solving issue resolution thing, it was like the customer complaints department.   And now, the real forward thinking organization see it, “No, customer experience is actually about the whole business, in a way, it's what our brand is, this is the core message we give out to the market is the kind of experience we deliver.” And it's the number one thing people look for to differentiate one company from another. So it has to span the whole business.   And so, we see a lot of big CX initiatives now lead from the board level, real C level executives, and more and more companies are hiring Chief Experience Officers or Chief Customer Officers, who are going to take this customer centric view and drive experience as a connected thing across the typical three big divisions of sales, marketing, and service.   And oftentimes, customer experience was just in the service department but he thinks the real thinkers are bringing it up to be across all of them because every one of those communications, whether it comes from marketing, or customer service, or loyalty, or wherever, they're all part of the experience that the business delivers. So connecting them requires a top level very senior person to really lead this new generation of CX initiative.   Me: Amazing, thank you so much for sharing Mark. I did a training session earlier today with a financial organization. I'm here in Jamaica, actually. Are you in the States or in the UK?   Mark shared that he is in the States. He lives just outside Boston but his accent does come from the UK originally.   Me: Yes, it's still very strong. So one of the things that came up in the training session earlier today, and it's actually a great pet peeve of mine is sales and customer service, I strongly believe work hand in hand. And I find that a lot of companies that have sales representatives, they're extremely eager and enthusiastic and just on it to get the business, that first sale, but then to get me to buy again, or to follow up to ensure that I'm okay with the product or the service, whatever it may be, whether it's tangible or intangible, that's where they fail. Is it something that needs to be psychological from a sales perspective for it to be merged with customer experience that they don't just look on it as a one-time sale. I get it, you have a target, you need to earn X amount of dollars per month. But those customers that you signed on in November 2020, have you even reached out to them since the year started? Where do we close that gap? Or how do we close that gap?   Mark stated that that's a great example of that sort of systematic systemic problems that organizations have to do this kind of customer experience delivery right and that's the sort of silos, the organizational silos that exist in so many businesses, driven by management structures, team structures, and sadly, often incentive structures that really govern what people do, what your teams do, the lifeblood of the company, the people, what they actually do, if those are not connected and everybody from the top down is focused on the experience goal, then you'll get this kind of situation. And that's why you need a top level leader around these initiatives to make sure that the organization lines up. It's funny he often thinks that the real challenge these days of getting these stuff right is not technology anymore, it's not data, it's the organization actually doing the right things and behaving the right way. And so, if your sales team is totally incented, and motivated around just getting the deal in and then they hand it on to somebody else to look after that customer, then they're only going to care about it up to that point. And if their incentives and their commission is purely based on that, then that's where it stops, and they move on to the next thing.   Now, that can work if you've got a good customer success group who picks up the customer and their job is making sure that customer’s happy and they pick up. That's what actually what they do at Kitewheel is a nice handoff between the sales team who bring the customer up to the point of becoming one of their customers and then their customer success group picks them up and they're responsible for every week, every month, making sure that customer’s happy and successful. And ultimately, in two years-time, three years-time would renew and stay with them. And as long as there's a connection and the handoff happens, and you've got people caring about both sides, that can work. The problem is when there isn't anybody to hand it to, they’re just sales are being done and immature businesses can often be like this, they've just bring sales in, but no one picks them up. And it seems like no one cares about you. We've all experienced that, you buy a product and then it feels like no one's interested in you anymore, they've got your money, and you're on your own kind of thing.   App, Website or Tool that Mark Absolutely Can’t Live Without in His Business    When asked about an online resource that he can’t live without, Marks shared that for his business today, it would almost certainly be Zoom. They have suddenly moved a year ago now almost, to be in a virtual business, no one goes in the office anymore, everybody works from home, he used to travel almost every week to visit customers. And now he has been sitting in the same room for the last 12 months doing everything virtual. So if they didn't have these tools, it's not always Zoom, many customers use Microsoft Teams or WebEx. But those online collaboration environments is undoubtedly the most important tool in his life right now to keep the contact going. Keep connected with the customer, make sure they're happy.   Books That Have Had the Greatest Impact on Mark    When asked about books that have had the biggest impact, Mark shared that an interesting question. The best recent book he read actually just literally a few weeks ago, he read Ben Horowitz’s The Hard Thing About Hard Things: Building a Business When There Are No Easy Answers, which is a great business book. It's like he's gone through all the things that he (Mark) has gone through running a company over the last 20 years. And just full of great kind of down to earth advice on how to handle difficult situations and lots of stories about how this sort of thing happens all the time, it's always difficult, there's always completely unknown things that come around the corner that you need to be able to adapt and handle. So, he really enjoyed that read a few weeks ago.  And then the other classic business book that he read a long time ago was Geoffrey Moore's Crossing the Chasm, which is all about how you go from early kind of inventive ideas to more mainstream business. And he feels like that's where the customer experience world is at the moment, it's gone from early stage stuff to suddenly, it’s like every company out there is suddenly interested in customer experience. And we're definitely going through that kind of transition right now.   Me: I think COVID has actually brought it to the forefront even more, that has been my experience here in Jamaica for sure. They're more sensitive, and they pay more attention to the quality of the experience that they've gotten and I don't know if it's because safety has been like the new buzzword, how safe do you make me feel if I have to come into your environment and that a lot of times falls on how to services delivered. Something as simple, which has nothing to do with the product or service that you deliver but something as simple as when you actually arrive at a client's location and they are taking your temperature and spraying you, sometimes they're spraying it with things that you're not aware of. And nobody is actually saying to you, may I please sanitize your hands, and the liquid that we're using for the sanitation is alcohol mixed with lemongrass oil, or whatever concoction they've put in a bottle, but I think it is courteous, you should exercise courtesy and tell the customer what you are sanitizing their hand with.   Mark agreed and shared that Yanique made a really interesting point. And one of the things that worries him about the whole pandemic is we're being moved all this digital sort of human less contact mechanisms and people are going to forget about how to actually interact with each other, those kind of situations where people don't talk to you anymore, maybe because they're a bit scared because this situation is scary. But he knows exactly what you mean about that kind of personal interaction thing. But he also thinks this COVID, it has totally changed the business world as well and it is driving this interesting customer experience, because for so many businesses, their customers have totally changed how they experienced that business. All of a sudden all of our customers are also at home, like we are, and also having to do things on new channels, on more digital channels and that's a whole different experience for a lot of people. And so, the smart companies are suddenly focusing on, “We better investigate this area and do the best we can to make this experience for the customers a good experience.”    What Mark is Really Excited About Now!    Mark shared that Kitewheel has been around about 8 years and their business has been very focused on very large organizations who have been the sort of real leaders in this customer experience space and the first ones to move into, try and manage journeys better, and connect their channels and use all their data and so on. And the thing they’re working on and kind of launching in just a few weeks time, is how they bring those same things, the things that the big guys have been pioneering? How do they bring that to everyone?   How can they package that up, and make this sort of a journey approach, accessible to a lot more companies, a lot more businesses by essentially simplifying it and packaging it up so that everyone can kind of benefit from those, the early work of the kind of pioneers.   And that's very exciting. And it's a sort of reaction to get so many people asking them for that. They don't necessarily have a big army of internal developers to do things themselves but they'd still like to start taking this more customer experience centric approach to things. So, that's their big initiative that they're working on this year, and in fact, launching in a couple of weeks.   Where Can We Find Mark Online   Website – www.kitewheel.com Email – msmith@kitewheel.com LinkedIn – Mark Smith   Quote or Saying that During Times of Adversity Mark Uses   When asked about a quote or saying that he tends to revert to, Mark shared that he has a lots of those, he’s well known for having lots of quotes for different things. One of the mottos of the business, actually, they have a motto which is, “Work hard and be nice to people.” They have a poster that hangs in the office. No one sees it anymore but it does hang in the office. But he grew up in Scotland and there's a great there's matching quote from Scotland which is that, “Hard work never killed anybody.” And that would be his quote for when times are tough, you should remember that hard work never killed anybody, which is an old Scottish expression.   Please connect with us on Twitter @navigatingcx and also join our Private Facebook Community – Navigating the Customer Experience and listen to our FB Lives weekly with a new guest   Grab the Freebie on Our Website – TOP 10 Online Business Resources for Small Business Owners   Links The Hard Thing About Hard Things: Building a Business When There Are No Easy Answers by Ben Horowitz   The ABC’s of a Fantastic Customer Experience   Do you want to pivot your online customer experience and build loyalty - get a copy of “The ABC’s of a Fantastic Customer Experience.”   The ABC's of a Fantastic Customer Experience provides 26 easy to follow steps and techniques that helps your business to achieve success and build brand loyalty. This Guide to Limitless, Happy and Loyal Customers will help you to strengthen your service delivery, enhance your knowledge and appreciation of the customer experience and provide tips and practical strategies that you can start implementing immediately! This book will develop your customer service skills and sharpen your attention to detail when serving others. Master your customer experience and develop those knock your socks off techniques that will lead to lifetime customers. Your customers will only want to work with your business and it will be your brand differentiator. It will lead to recruiters to seek you out by providing practical examples on how to deliver a winning customer service experience!

It was my 7th grade year and we were staying late for practice so we all had to call our parentsI didn’t have a cell phone so I had to borrow Coach Quayle’s phone to callI talked to my mom and she understood and I hung up the phoneI had no idea what happened but coach was suddenly mad at meWhat happened was I hung up the phone with my mom without saying “I love you mom”He explained to me that every time we hang up the phone or leave our parents or loved ones we say I love you as a constant reminder and you never know what can happenEver since then I NEVER hang up the phone without saying I love you

I couldn’t resist doing something a little different for episode 100. So I’m going to keep it short and sweet and do some reflecting with you. In this episode I‘m sharing: What reaching 100 episodes feels like and means to meWhat to expect over the next few months on the podcastYou can find full show notes and a transcript here: https://www.jenniferspoelma.com/podcast-feed/100

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Today I brought on Phillip Migyanko, Director of Student Success at Happen to Your Career! In his early career, Phillip grew up working in a family-owned business within the waste management industry– where he used to literally pick up trash in Southern Ohio. After graduating from college, he completed his tenure working multiple HR and Recruiting jobs in the manufacturing and tech spaces. Phillip eventually went on to work for one of the leading jobs boards in the United States, designing recruitment marketing campaigns for Fortune 500 companies. In these roles, he discovered his love of coaching and how to help others succeed in the modern day job search. After traveling the world for a bit, he landed in Austin, Texas and founded his own career coaching company called (The Migyanko Method). He now serves as the Director of Student Success for Happen To Your Career, one of the leading career coach companies. How does one begin formulating a good reachout message? Difference between cold vs. warm reach outs?Your innovative approach that you used yourself in reaching out to meWhat if I didn’t get a reply that first time?Resources MentionedReach out Philip by Email: phillip@happentoyourcareer.comCheck out The Career ExperimentListen to Happen to your Career Podcast Hosted by Phillip MigyankoConnect with Phillip at LinkedInCheck Career Warrior Podcast on InstagramSubscribe to Let’s eat, Grandma’s YouTube Channel See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

*please note there were a few sound-tech difficulties for the first 3/4 of the service Song: All GloryWe enter Your gates with thanksgivingand with thanksgiving, we enter Your gatesWe pour out Your praise in Your presenceand in Your presence, we pour out Your praiseAnd the song we sing, we sing forevermore All glory to the Father,All glory to the SonAll glory to the Spirit,the Spirit of our GodAs it was in the beginningand will be in the endAll glory to Your everlasting name This is the sound of the forgivenA song of freedom,O Jesus, on and on Your name resoundsWe lift up a shout for You are risen,and now we are risen Come on and pour His praises out And the song we sing, we sing forevermoreAnd the song we sing, we sing for You aloneCome on and pour His praises outCome on and pour His praises nowSong: 10,000 Reasons (Bless the Lord)Bless the Lord O my soul O my soulWorship His holy nameSing like never before O my soulI'll worship Your holy nameThe sun comes up it's a new day dawningIt's time to sing Your song againWhatever may pass and whatever lies before meLet me be singing when the evening comesYou're rich in love and You're slow to angerYour name is great and Your heart is kindFor all Your goodness I will keep on singingTen thousand reasons for my heart to find And on that day when my strength is failingThe end draws near and my time has comeStill my soul will sing Your praise unendingTen thousand years and then forevermoreSong: Living HopeHow great the chasm that lay between usHow high the mountain I could not climbIn desperation I turned to heavenAnd spoke Your name into the nightThen through the darkness Your loving-kindnessTore through the shadows of my soulThe work is finished the end is writtenJesus Christ my living hopeWho could imagine so great a mercyWhat heart could fathom such boundless graceThe God of ages stepped down from gloryTo wear my sin and bear my shameThe cross has spoken I am forgivenThe King of kings calls me His ownBeautiful Savior I’m Yours foreverJesus Christ my living hopeHallelujah praise the One who set me freeHallelujah death has lost its grip on meYou have broken every chain, there’s salvation in Your nameJesus Christ my living hopeThen came the morning that sealed the promiseYour buried body began to breatheOut of the silence the Roaring LionDeclared the grave has no claim on me (2x)Jesus Yours is the victory!Prayers of Petition"Give us this day our daily bread" (Matthew 6:11)SelfishSillyScaryWhat do you want me to do for you?I need ___________________Song: I will Trust My Savior JesusI will trust my Savior JesusWhen my darkest doubts befallTrust him when to simply trust himSeems the hardest thing of allI will trust my Savior JesusTrust him when my strength is smallFor I know the shield of JesusIs the safest place of allJesus only JesusHelp me trust you more and moreJesus only JesusMay my heart be ever yoursI will trust my Savior JesusHe has said his way is bestAnd I know the path he’s chosenLeads to everlasting restOh on that cross how it was seenI can go now ever trustingin the one who died for meWhat could I bring for your gift is completeSo I trust you simply trust youLord with every part of meGreat is Thy faithfulness, great is Thy faithfulnessMorning by morning new mercies I seeAll I have needed Thy hand hath providedGreat is Thy faithfulness Lord unto meSong: Christ Be All Around MeAs I rise strength of God go before lift me upAs I wake eyes of God look upon be my sight As I wait heart of God satisfy and sustainAs I hear voice of God lead me on be my guide, be my guide Above and below me, before and behind meIn every eye that sees me Christ be all around meAbove and below me before and behind meIn every eye that sees me Christ be all around meAs I go hand of God my defense by my sideAs I rest breath of God fall upon bring me peace, bring me peaceOh, oh, Christ be all around me Your life, Your death, Your blood was shedFor every moment, every momentYour life, Your death, Your blood was shedFor every moment, every momentAbove and below me, before and behind meIn every eye that sees me Christ be all around meAbove and below me before and behind meIn every eye that sees me Christ be all around meOh, oh, Christ be all around meOh, oh, Christ be all around me

Today I had the pleasure of speaking with entrepreneur, and the founder of Corporate School Dropout, Lauren Allen.Let’s dive into Lauren’s story about how powerful it is to believe in yourself and that having clarity in what you do can be your greatest weapon when starting things on your own.[00:01 - 05:25] Opening SegmentConnect with Lauren online. See links belowLet's get to know today's guest, Lauren AllenThe corporate life wasn't working out for herShe labeled herself a "Corporate Dropout"Started her own platform, coaching & podcasting[05:26 - 13:57] Jumping Out Of The Corporate LifeLauren talks about how she decided to leave the corporate lifeProving myself that I am worthy and I can trust my instincts Lauren talks about her matrix when she was changing her lifeFiguring out who belongs in your bubble[13:58 - 21:07] Starting My Own PlatformLauren shares an interesting storyA hiring manager told her "I will hire you even though you are a woman."I don't want to be subjected to harassment and discriminationLauren talks about the challenges when she was starting her platformWhat does success look like for me?Quick plug to our Guards Down Community. Join us on Facebook[21:08 - 32:27] I Just Know It's ThereLauren talks about her fear of failureFeeling unsuccessful and aloneLauren talks about her growing businessGetting pulled back into your old worldWhere do you get the clarity?"I just know it's there."[32:28 - 38:54] Closing SegmentWhat's the biggest difference in your life now compared to when you're back in the matrix? "I was more selfish and carefree, but then I had the switch that my mission was to serve."What are you most grateful for?I am grateful for my family and all the people who trust meWhat dream are you most focused on catching next?Expanding the Corporate School DropoutBeach house in San DiegoWhat gift have you given the world?I've given women the power of choiceWhat's the one thing you want our listeners to take away from this episode?You have a choiceFinal words from me and LaurenTweetable Quotes: "I owe my career to my corporate world but I don't owe it my life and neither do you." - Lauren AllenYou can connect with Lauren on LinkedIn, Instagram, and Twitter, or check out her website at https://www.corporateschooldropout.com/, listen to their podcast, and join their Facebook Group to know more.LEAVE A REVIEW + help someone who wants to explode their business growth by sharing this episode or click here to listen to our previous episodes.Dreamcatchers is an inclusive organization that targets people’s interest in being more instead of a certain demographic. We have people from all walks of life at many different ages. Find out more at www.dreamsshouldbereal.com. Find out more about Jerome at www.d3v3loping.com or www.myersmethods.com

Will You Fight for Me? What do you each remember most about your wedding?   In what ways do you fight for one another in your marriage?   How is forgiveness part of fighting for one another in marriage?   How do you show each other you are fighting for one another? Wellness exercise: Make a list together of three things you value together in your marriage and discuss concrete ways you fight for these things in your marriage, or new ways you can prioritize them in your marriage.   YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/hqIwmHkAyks   YouTube extras: Find other Always Growing videos: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCryz1QG5wDu1HWaapevYFOIUiwXEm1IC   Find more marriage and relationship resources at: https://heidigoehmann.com/relationships Follow us on social media: https://www.facebook.com/heidigoehmanwrites https://www.instagram.com/heidigoehmann/ https://twitter.com/HeidiGoehmann   Hit subscribe to get the marriage conversations in your podcast or YouTube feed.   Download the Talk Sheets under "Resources on Marriage" at https://heidigoehmann.com/relationships

Today I had the pleasure of speaking with the founder and managing director of Lancecpa.com, Joshua Lance. Josh spent his early career at a top-10 national public accounting firm before working at an ultra-high net worth family office. Josh helps small business owners and entrepreneurs grow and manage their businesses. He also specializes in craft breweries, digital consulting agencies, and creative artisans. He believes your small business is an important business.Let’s dive into Josh’s story and know what it takes to make your small business successful.Things you will learn in this episode:[00:01 - 08:49] Opening SegmentI talked briefly about valuable information that you can take advantage of in this episodeI introduce guest Joshua Lance into the showJosh talks about where his journey began [08:50 - 17:15] From Traditional Work to Digital Marketing Journey Josh shares experience on how he deals with the hierarchy and stigmaJosh talks about his transition from working in a big firm to starting his own digital business.[17:16 - 29:30] Lance CPA Group: “Not A Typical Accounting Website”Josh shares a story about overcoming failures along the way Josh shares about the Lance CPA Group Website: You shouldn’t miss this! A unique way of building a clientele The concept of niching down Lance CPA Group Website that also serves:Craft BreweriesDigital AgenciesCreative Artisans[29:31 - 35:09] The FOCUS FIVE SegmentWhat book have you gifted most often? It Doesn't Have To Be Crazy at WorkIf you can get an hour of somebody's time and ask questions, who would that be and why?My grandpa. He passed away. He was also kind of entrepreneur like meWhat is one thing that you believe that most people would disagree with you? I don't have to work as much to get what you needMorning routine, How do you start your day?Have breakfast and drink coffee, read a book or article. What is the best place we can connect with you online?See below for social linksFinal words from me Tweetable Quotes: "Sometimes it means taking a step back in order to take those two steps forward eventually" - Joshua Lance Resources mentioned in the episode:Lance CPA Group: Craft BreweriesLance CPA Group: Digital AgenciesLance CPA Group: Creative ArtisansThe E Myth (Amazon)Shift by Gary Keller (Amazon)It Doesn’t Have To Be Crazy At Work (Amazon)Schedule a call with HansYou can connect with Josh on Linkedin, Twitter or visit his website https://lancecpa.com/LEAVE A REVIEW + help someone who wants to explode their business growth by sharing this episode or click here to listen to our previous episodes.Are you working HARD but not really moving the needle on anything? You should check out my POWER LIST and find out how you can get more done to move your business, project, or relationship closer to where you want it to be. Let’s go!To know more about me and all the real estate opportunities you can find, check out my website at Hansstruzyna.com. Get the chance to talk with me for FREE. Set up a call using this link https://calendly.com/h-struzyna/15min See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Does your home reflect the stage in life you are in and heading towards or does it represent more the past? The idea is that your home changes and evolves with you and for you so it's truly supportive for what you want to accomplish and a sanctuary to relax and rejuvenate. Listen in and hear aboutHow to figure out if your home supports you or notExamples of how my home supports meWhat to do next to start the processYou'll find the show notes at https://connygraf.com/podcast/14Like and Follow my Facebook Page where you also find the upcoming eventsJoin my supportive Facebook CommunityCheck out my eBook From Chaos to Peace - A Simple Program to Clear your Clutter and Change your LIfe

The title of today's episode is inspired by The Grateful Dead - such a good band. Their songs always have so much ambiguous meaning behind them that can often be applied to range of topics. In this case, I've liberally ascribed some meaning to 'Truckin'."Truckin', got my chips cashed inKeep truckin', like the do-dah manTogether, more or less in lineJust keep truckin' on"As investors, we should be retaining a cash balance at times - to weather a storm, take advantage of opportunities, or just staying the course. Stay the course - don't freak out just because the weather's gone all nasty on us...this too shall pass."Sometimes the light's all shinin' on meOther times, I can barely seeLately, it occurs to meWhat a long, strange trip it's been"We'll never know how long and how strange this trip has been, until it's over, and we've past through the latest tunnel we're heading through. It's really hard to see this now, but some of us will actually have a tough time recalling some aspects of this lock-down period. For others though, the lock-down period brought on by this recent pandemic will act as a milestone in our minds, partitioning all events as 'pre' and 'post' Covid-19.Some businesses and some long term trends, will die - some will thrive. This potpourri of emotions -  fear, mourning, peace, resignation, hope and greed. It'll all be mashed up into a cold contemporaneous soup and dished out indiscriminately to all of us. "Sittin' and starin' out of the hotel window"Strong leadership emerges over time from those who have gone through tough times before - it's way too soon to praise, or to judge, our leadership through this pandemic though - we don't have enough information. Sitting and staring outside the window does amazing things for us though - it's a pre-requisite condition for creativity. Solutions to problems (innovation) is born during these times. When we're set free, I'm wondering what will happen in the start-up community, the first time investors, the first time home-owners - will they be able to hang on or will they hang up the boots in fear and run when they get a chance?In this episode, Jarrod Kerr (Chief Economist at KiwiBank) and I explore the following topics:1 - Business confidence is down, and it's still dropping. Much of the pain is yet to come.2 - Is the damage caused by the lockdown (economic, social, mental heath) worth it?3 - What are some 'silver lining' moments? Specifically what trends and what businesses are poised for success?4 - The best response to the current pandemic is fiscal, not monetary - what does this mean?This episode is an essential one. The Covid-19 pandemic will act as a catalyst to bring about significant change in the new world - we will never invest the same beyond this point...and that's not a bad thing. Just because what we're heading into is 'unknown', it doesn't have to be scary.I'll leave you with this quote from Jerry Garcia:"Stuff that's hidden and murky and ambiguous is scary because you don't know what it does." - Jerry Garcia (The Grateful Dead)_________________________________________Like what you’ve heard?You can really help with the success of the NZ Everyday Investor by doing the following:1- Tell your friends!2- Write a review on Facebook, or your favourite podcast player3- Help support the mission of our show on Patreon by contributing here4- Search for The Everyday Investor on YouTube5- Sign up to our newsletter hereNZ Everyday Investor is on a mission to increase financial literacy and make investing more accessible for the everyday person!__________________________________________________________________Where to find Darcy Ungaro:Ungaro &Co (authorised) financial advisersWant to chat, then you can schedule in a free 15 min conversation just click on this linkYou really should subscribe to our newsletter to ensure you are receiving  the latest updates if you're a fan of the show.FacebookInstagramIncreasingly we are publishing more content on YouTube also - please ensure you have subscribed to us on Youtube:  

Written by Bill Palmer and presented by Erik Jones Just before Jesus died, He cried out in Aramaic, quoting Psalm 22:1, “My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?” What do the events around His death mean for us? Read online

TRACKLISTING ---------------------------- 01 - Nothing Really Matters (Club 69 Radio Mix) 02 - What It Feels Like For A Girl (Richard Vission Velvet Masta Edit) 03 - Don't Cry For Me Argentina (Miami Spanglish Mix Edit) 04 - Don't tell me (Vission Radio Mix) 05 - Get Together (Jacques Lu Cont Vocal Edit) 06 - Beautiful Stranger (Calderone Radio Mix) 07 - Ray Of Light (Sasha's Strip Down Mix) 08 - Die Another Day (Deepsky Edit) 09 - Music (HQ2 Radio Mix) 10 - Secret (Junior's Luscious Single Mix) 11 - American Pie (Richard 'Humpty' Vission Radio Mix) 12 - Sky Fits Heaven (Victor Calderone Remix Edit) 13 - Human Nature (Runway Club Mix Radio Edit) 14 - Bye Bye Baby (House Mix) 15 - Hung Up (Tracy Young's Get Up And Dance Groove Edit) 16 - 4 Minutes (Peter Saves London Edit) 17 - Give It 2 Me (Jody Den Broeder Edit TV) 18 - Give Me All Your Luvin' (LMFAO Remix) 19 - Girl Gone Wild (Justin Cognito Radio Edit) 20 - Turn Up The Radio (Offer Nissim Radio Edit) ---------------------------- LYRICS ---------------------------- "Nothing Really Matters" When I was very young Nothing really mattered to me But making myself happy I was the only one Now that I am grown Everything's changed I'll never be the same Because of you [Chorus:] Nothing really matters Love is all we need Everything I give you All comes back to me Looking at my life It's very clear to me I lived so selfishly I was the only one I realize That nobody wins Something is ending And something begins [chorus, repeat] Nothing takes the past away Like the future Nothing makes the darkness go Like the light You're shelter from the storm Give me comfort in your arms [chorus, repeat and fade] "What It feels Like For A Girl" [Spoken:] Girls can wear jeans And cut their hair short Wear shirts and boots 'Cause it's OK to be a boy But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading 'Cause you think that being a girl is degrading But secretly you'd love to know what it's like Wouldn't you What it feels like for a girl Silky smooth Lips as sweet as candy, baby Tight blue jeans Skin that shows in patches Strong inside but you don't know it Good little girls they never show it When you open up your mouth to speak Could you be a little weak Do you know what it feels like for a girl Do you know what it feels like in this world For a girl Hair that twirls on finger tips so gently, baby Hands that rest on jutting hips repenting Hurt that's not supposed to show And tears that fall when no one knows When you're trying hard to be your best Could you be a little less Do you know what it feels like for a girl Do you know what it feels like in this world What it feels like for a girl Strong inside but you don't know it Good little girls they never show it When you open up your mouth to speak Could you be a little weak Do you know what it feels like for a girl Do you know what it feels like in this world For a girl In this world Do you know Do you know Do you know what it feels like for a girl What it feels like in this world "Don't Cry For Me Argentina (Miami Spanglish Mix)" (Evita, Evita, Evita, Evita) (Evita, Evita, Evita) It won't be easy, you'll think it strange When I try to explain how I feel That I still your love after all that I've done You won't believe me All you will see is a girl you once knew Although she's dressed up to the nines At sixes and sevens with you I had to let it happen, I had to change Couldn't stay all my life down at heel Looking out of the window, staying out of the sun So I chose freedom Running around, trying everything new But nothing impressed me at all I never expected it to [Chorus:] No llores por mi Argentina Mi alma esta contigo Mi vida entera, te la dedico Mas no te alejes Te necesito Don't cry for me Argentina My soul is with you My whole life, I dedicate to you Don't keep your distance I need you And as for fortune, and as for fame I never invited them in Though it seemed to the world they were all I desired They are illusions They're not the solutions they promise to be The answer was here all the time I love you and hope you love me [chorus] [Chorus2:] No llores por mi Argentina Jamas yo te he abandonado Aunque en silencio, mi alma te grita Hoy y por siempre (Soy Argentina) Soy Argentina Don't cry for me Argentina I have never left you Although in silence, my soul cries to you Now and forever (I am Argentina) I am Argentina (Ahh, so I chose freedom for Argentina, ahh) (No llores por mi) (Evita, Evita, Evita, Evita) (Evita, Evita, Evita) So I chose freedom Running around, trying everything new But nothing impressed me at all I never expected it to [chorus] [chorus2] No llores por mi Have I said too much? There's nothing more I can think of to say to you. But all you have to do is look at me to know That every word is true "Don't Tell Me" Don't tell me to stop Tell the rain not to drop Tell the wind not to blow 'Cause you said so, mmm Tell the sun not to shine Not to get up this time, no, no Let it fall by the way But don't leave me where I lay down Tell me love isn't true It's just something that we do Tell me everything I'm not [first time:] But please don't tell me to stop [all other times:] But don't ever tell me to stop Tell the leaves not to turn But don't ever tell me I'll learn, no, no Take the black off a crow But don't tell me I have to go Tell the bed not to lay Like the open mouth of a grave, yeah Not to stare up at me Like a calf down on its knees Tell me love isn't true It's just something that we do Tell me everything I'm not [first time:] But please don't tell me to stop [all other times:] But don't ever tell me to stop [chorus, prefixing 1st and 3rd lines with "Don't you ever"] (Don't you ever) Please don't Please don't Please don't tell me to stop (Don't you ever) Don't you ever Don't ever tell me to stop (Tell the rain not to drop) Tell the bed not to lay Like a open mouth of a grave, yeah Not to stare up at me Like a calf down on its knees "Get Together" (There's too much confusion) (It's all an illusion) (there's too much confusion) Down, down, down in your heart Find, find, find the secret Turn, turn, turn your head around Baby we can do it We can do it all right Do you believe in love at first sight It's an illusion, I don't care Do you believe I can make you feel better Too much confusion, come on over here [Chorus] Can we get together? I really, I really wanna be with you Come on, check it out with me I hope you, I hope you feel the same way too I searched, I searched, I searched my whole life To find, find, find the secret But all I did was open up my eyes Baby we can do it we can do it all right Do you believe that we can change the future Do you believe I can make you feel better [Chorus X2] It's all an illusion There's too much confusion I'll make you feel better If it's bitter at the start Then it's sweeter in the end "Beautiful Stranger" Haven't we met You're some kind of beautiful stranger You could be good for me I've had the taste for danger If I'm smart then I'll run away But I'm not so I guess I'll stay Heaven forbid I'll take my chance on a beautiful stranger I looked into your eyes And my world came tumbling down You're the devil in disguise That's why I'm singing this song [Bridge:] To know you is to love you You're everywhere I go And everybody knows To love you is to be part of you I've paid for you with tears And swallowed all my pride [Chorus:] Da-da-da-dum da-dum da-dum da da da-da dum Beautiful stranger Da-da-da-dum da-dum da-dum da da da-da dum Beautiful stranger If I'm smart then I'll run away But I'm not so I guess I'll stay Haven't you heard I fell in love with a beautiful stranger I looked into your face My heart was dancing all over the place I'd like to change my point of view If I could just forget about you [bridge] I looked into your eyes And my world came tumbling down You're the devil in disguise That's why I'm singing this song to you [bridge] I've paid for you with tears And swallowed all my pride [chorus] "Ray Of Light" [Verse:] Zephyr in the sky at night I wonder Do my tears of mourning sink beneath the sun She's got herself a universe gone quickly For the call of thunder threatens everyone [Chorus:] And I feel like I just got home And I feel And I feel like I just got home And I feel Faster than the speeding light she's flying Trying to remember where it all began She's got herself a little piece of heaven Waiting for the time when Earth shall be as one [chorus] Quicker than a ray of light Quicker than a ray of light Quicker than a ray of light [verse] And I feel Quicker than a ray of light Then gone for Someone else shall be there Through the endless years She's got herself a universe She's got herself a universe She's got herself a universe And I feel And I feel And I feel like I just got home And I feel Quicker than a ray of light she's flying Quicker than a ray of light I'm flying "Die Another Day" I'm gonna wake up, yes and no I'm gonna kiss some part of I'm gonna keep this secret I'm gonna close my body now I guess, die another day I guess, die another day I guess, die another day I guess, die another day I guess I'll die another day (Another day) I guess I'll die another day (Another day) I guess I'll die another day (Another day) I guess I'll die another day Sigmund Freud Analyze this Analyze this Analyze this I'm gonna break the cycle I'm gonna shake up the system I'm gonna destroy my ego I'm gonna close my body now Uh, uh I think I'll find another way There's so much more to know I guess I'll die another day It's not my time to go For every sin, I'll have to pay I've come to work, I've come to play I think I'll find another way It's not my time to go I'm gonna avoid the cliche I'm gonna suspend my senses I'm gonna delay my pleasure I'm gonna close my body now I guess, die another day I guess I'll die another day I guess, die another day I guess I'll die another day I think I'll find another way There's so much more to know I guess I'll die another day It's not my time to go Uh, uh [Laugh] I guess, die another day I guess I'll die another day I guess, die another day I guess I'll die another day Another day [x6] "Music" Hey, Mr DJ put a record on I wanna dance with my baby Do you like to Boogie woogie, do you like to Boogie woogie, do you like to Boogie woogie, do you like my dancing? Hey Mr. DJ put a record on I wanna dance with my baby And when the music starts I never wanna stop, it's gonna drive me crazy Music, music Music makes the people come together Music mix the bourgeoisie and the rebel Don't think of yesterday and I don't look at the clock I like to boogie woogie It's like ridin' on the wind and it never goes away But she's everything I'm in got to have it everyday Music makes the people come together Music mix the bourgeoisie and the rebel Hey Mr. DJ Do you like to Boogie woogie, do you like to Boogie woogie, do you like to Boogie woogie, do you like my dancing Hey Mr. DJ put a record on I wanna dance with my baby And when the music starts I never wanna stop, it's gonna drive me crazy Music makes the people come together Music mix the bourgeoisie and the rebel Music makes the people come together Music mix the bourgeoisie and the rebel "Secret" Things haven't been the same Since you came into my life You found a way to touch my soul And I'm never, ever, ever gonna let it go [Bridge:] Happiness lies in your own hand It took me much too long to understand How it could be Until you shared your secret with me [Chorus:] Mmm mmm [skip for the first two times] Something's comin' over, mmm mmm Something's comin' over, mmm mmm Something's comin' over me My baby's got a secret You gave me back the paradise That I thought I lost for good You helped me find the reasons why It took me by surprise that you understood You knew all along What I never wanted to say Until I learned to love myself I was never ever lovin' anybody else [bridge] [chorus, repeat] [bridge] [chorus, repeat] Mmm mmm, my baby's got a secret Mmm mmm, my baby's got a secret Mmm mmm, my baby's got a secret for me Mmm mmm, mmm mmm, mmm mmm "American Pie" A long, long time ago I can still remember how that music used to make me smile And I knew that if I had my chance I could make those people dance And maybe they'd be happy for a while Did you write the book of love And do you have faith in God above If the Bible tells you so Now do you believe in Rock 'n' roll And can music save your mortal soul And can you teach me how to dance real slow Well, I know that you're in love with him 'Cos I saw you dancin' in the gym You both kicked off your shoes Man, I dig those rhythm and blues I was a lonely teenage broncin' buck With a pink carnation and a pick-up truck But I knew that I was out of luck The day the music died I started singing Bye, bye, Miss American Pie Drove my Chevy to the levee But the levee was dry And good old boys were drinkin' whiskey and rye Singing this'll be the day that I die This'll be the day that I die I met a girl who sang the blues And I asked her for some happy news But she just smiled and turned away I went down to the sacred store Where I'd heard the music years before But the man there said the music wouldn't play Well now, in the streets the children screamed The lovers cried, and the poets dreamed But not a word was spoken Tho church bells all were broken And the three men I admire the most The Father, Son and the Holy Ghost They caught the last train for the coast The day the music died We started singin' Bye, bye, Miss American Pie Drove my Chevy to the levee But the levee was dry And good old boys were drinkin' whiskey and rye Singing this'll be the day that I die This'll be the day that I die Bye, bye, Miss American Pie Drove my Chevy to the levee But the levee was dry And good old boys were drinkin' whiskey and rye Singing this'll be the day that I die This'll be the day that I die We started singin' We started singin' We started singin' We started singin' "Sky Fits Heaven" Sky fits heaven so fly it That's what the prophet said to me Child fits mother so hold your baby tight That's what my future could see Fate fits karma so use it That's what the wise man said to me Love fits virtue so hold on to the light That's what our future will be [Chorus:] Traveling down this road Watching the signs as I go I think I'll follow the sun Isn't everyone just Traveling down their own road Watching the signs as they go I think I'll follow my heart It's a very good place to start Traveling down my own road Watching the signs as I go Traveling down my own road And I'm watching the signs as they go Traveling, traveling Watching the signs as I go Hand fits giving so do it That's what the Gospel said to me Life fits living so let your judgments go That's how our future should be [chorus] Traveling down my own road Watching the signs as they go Traveling down my own road And I'm watching the signs as I go Traveling, traveling Watching the signs as I go "Human Nature" [Spoken:] Express yourself, don't repress yourself [repeat 4 times] [Chorus:] And I'm not sorry (I'm not sorry) It's human nature (it's human nature) And I'm not sorry (I'm not sorry) I'm not your bitch don't hang your shit on me (it's human nature) You wouldn't let me say the words I longed to say You didn't want to see life through my eyes (Express yourself, don't repress yourself) You tried to shove me back inside your narrow room And silence me with bitterness and lies (Express yourself, don't repress yourself) Did I say something wrong? Oops, I didn't know I couldn't talk about sex (I musta been crazy) Did I stay too long? Oops, I didn't know I couldn't speak my mind (What was I thinking) [chorus] You punished me for telling you my fantasies I'm breakin' all the rules I didn't make (Express yourself, don't repress yourself) You took my words and made a trap for silly fools You held me down and tried to make me break (Express yourself, don't repress yourself) [Bridge:] Did I say something true? Oops, I didn't know I couldn't talk about sex (I musta been crazy) Did I have a point of view? Oops, I didn't know I couldn't talk about you (What was I thinking) [chorus] Express yourself, don't repress yourself [repeat twice] Express yourself, don't repress yourself [repeat twice] [bridge] [chorus] [chorus, with the following spoken substitutions] (I'm not apologizing) (Would it sound better if I were a man?) (You're the one with the problem) (Why don't you just deal with it) [chorus, with the following spoken substitutions] (Would you like me better if I was?) (We all feel the same way) (I have no regrets) (Just look in the mirror) [chorus, with the following spoken substitutions] (I don't have to justify anything) (I'm just like you) (Why should I be?) (Deal with it) "Bye Bye Baby" This is not a love song Bye bye baby I keep on waiting, anticipating But I can't wait forever You say you love me You're thinking of me But we're never together [Chorus:] Bye bye baby bye bye It's your turn to cry That's why we have to say goodbye So say goodbye Bye bye baby bye bye It's your turn to cry This time we have to say goodbye So say goodbye You had your chances All your romances And now I just don't want you I know I love you because I hate you And now I'd rather haunt you [chorus, repeat] You're so beautiful What makes you feel exciting? What wakes you up inside? Does it make you feel good to see me cry? I think it does That's why it's time to say bye bye [chorus, repeat] I don't wanna keep the bright flame Of your ego going So I'll just stop blowin' in the wind To love you is a sin Adios Uh, this is not a love song I'd like to hurt you What excites you? What turns you on? What makes you feel good? Does it make you feel good to see me cry? I think it does That's why it's time to say goodbye Bye bye The first time and the last time You can forget about it baby Forget the rules, forget the fools Forget your fears, forget my tears You can forget about it baby, bye bye baby bye bye You can forget about it baby 'Cause it's the first time and the last time You'll ever see me cry You f*cked it up "Hung Up" Time goes by so slowly Time goes by so slowly Time goes by so slowly Time goes by so slowly Time goes by so slowly Time goes by so slowly Every little thing that you say or do I'm hung up I'm hung up on you Waiting for your call Baby night and day I'm fed up I'm tired of waiting on you Time goes by so slowly for those who wait No time to hesitate Those who run seem to have all the fun I'm caught up I don't know what to do Time goes by so slowly Time goes by so slowly Time goes by so slowly I don't know what to do Every little thing that you say or do I'm hung up I'm hung up on you Waiting for your call Baby night and day I'm fed up I'm tired of waiting on you Every little thing that you say or do I'm hung up I'm hung up on you Waiting for your call Baby night and day I'm fed up I'm tired of waiting on you Ring ring ring goes the telephone The lights are on but there's no-one home Tick tick tock it's a quarter to two And I'm done I'm hanging up on you I can't keep on waiting for you I know that you're still hesitating Don't cry for me 'cause I'll find my way you'll wake up one day but it'll be too late Every little thing that you say or do I'm hung up I'm hung up on you Waiting for your call Baby night and day I'm fed up I'm tired of waiting on you Every little thing that you say or do I'm hung up I'm hung up on you Waiting for your call Baby night and day I'm fed up I'm tired of waiting on you "4 Minutes" (feat. Justin Timberlake, Timbaland) [Timbaland:] I'm outta time and all I got is 4 minutes (Fricki fricki) 4 minutes eh [x8] Ha ha Yeah Ha ha Breakdown come on [Justin Timberlake:] Hey Uh Come on Madonna [Madonna:] Come on boy I've been waiting for somebody to pick up my stroll [Justin:] Now don't waste time, give me desire, tell me how you wanna roll [Madonna:] I want somebody to speed it up for me then take it down slow There's enough room for both [Justin:] Girl I can hit you back just gotta show me where it's at Are you ready to go? (Are you ready to go?) [Madonna and Justin:] If you want it You've already got it If you thought it It better be what you want If you feel it It must be real just Say the word and I'm gonna give you what you want [Madonna:] Time is waiting [Justin:] We only got four minutes to save the world [Madonna:] No hesitating Grab a boy [Justin:] Go grab your girl [Madonna:] Time is waiting [Justin:] We only got four minutes to save the world [Madonna:] No hesitating [Justin:] We only got four minutes huh four minutes So keep it up keep it up Don't be a prima donna [Madonna:] You gotta get em a heart Tick tock tick tock tick tock [Justin:] That's right keep it up keep it up Don't be a prima donna [Madonna:] You gotta get em a heart Tick tock tick tock tick tock Sometimes I think what I need is a you intervention Yeah [Justin:] And I know I can tell that you like it and that it's good By the way that you move Oh hey [Madonna:] The road to hell is paved with good intentions Yeah [Justin:] But if I die tonight at least I can say I did what I wanted to do Tell me how 'bout you? [Madonna and Justin:] If you want it You've already got it If you thought it It better be what you want If you feel it It must be real just Say the word and I'm gonna give you what you want [Madonna:] Time is waiting [Justin:] We only got four minutes to save the world [Madonna:] No hesitating Grab a boy [Justin:] Go grab your girl [Madonna:] Time is waiting [Justin:] We only got four minutes to save the world [Madonna:] No hesitating [Justin:] We only got four minutes huh four minutes So keep it up keep it up Don't be a prima donna [Madonna:] You gotta get em a heart Tick tock tick tock tick tock [Justin:] That's right keep it up keep it up Don't be a prima donna [Madonna:] You gotta get em a heart Tick tock tick tock tick tock [Timbaland:] Breakdown Yeah [Madonna:] Tick tock tick tock tick tock [Timbaland:] Yeah uh [Madonna:] Tick tock tick tock tick tock [Timbaland:] I've only got four minutes to save the world "Give It 2 Me" What are you waiting for? Nobody's gonna show you how Why work for someone else To do what you can do right now? Got no boundaries and no limits If there's excitement, put me in it If it's against the law, arrest me If you can handle it, undress me Don't stop me now, don't need to catch my breath I can go on and on and on When the lights go down and there's no one left I can go on and on and on Give it to me, yeah No one's gonna show me how Give it to me, yeah No one's gonna stop me now They say that a good thing never lasts And then it has to fall Those are the the people that did not Amount to much at all Give me the bassline and I'll shake it Give me a record and I'll break it There's no beginning and no ending Give me a chance to go and I'll take it Don't stop me now, don't need to catch my breath I can go on and on and on When the lights go down and there's no one left I can go on and on and on Give it to me, yeah No one's gonna show me how Give it to me, yeah No one's gonna stop me now [Pharrell:] Watch this Get stupid, get stupid, get stupid, don't stop it (what?) Get stupid, get stupid, get stupid, don't stop it (what?) Get stupid, get stupid, get stupid, don't stop it (what?) Get stupid, get stupid, get stupid, don't stop it Get stupid, get stupid, get stupid, don't stop it (to the left, to the right, to the left, to the right) Get stupid, get stupid, get stupid, don't stop it (to the left, to the right, to the left, to the right) Get stupid, get stupid, get stupid, don't stop it (to the left, left, right, right, left, left, right, right) Get stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid... (left, left, right, right, left, left, right, right) Don't stop me now, don't need to catch my breath I can go on and on and on When the lights go down and there's no one left I can go on and on and on Give it to me, yeah No one's gonna show me how Give it to me, yeah No one's gonna stop me now You're only here to win Get what they say? You're only here to win Get what they do? They'd do it too If they were you You done it all before It ain't nothing new You're only here to win Get what they say? You're only here to win Get what they do? They'd do it too If they were you You done it all before It ain't nothing new Give it to me, yeah No one's gonna show me how Give it to me, yeah No one's gonna stop me now Give it to me, yeah No one's gonna show me how Give it to me, yeah No one's gonna stop me now Give it to me "Give Me All Your Luvin'" (feat. Nicki Minaj & M.I.A.) [Madonna] L-U-V Madonna Y-O-U you wanna I see you coming and I don't wanna know your name L-U-V Madonna I see you coming and you're gonna have to change the game Y-O-U you wanna Would you like to try? Give me a reason why Give me all that you got Maybe you'll do fine As long as you don't lie to me And pretend to be what you're not [Chorus] Don't play the stupid game Cause I'm a different kind of girl Every record sounds the same You've got to step into my world Give me all your love and give me your love Give me all your love today Give me all your love and give me your love Let's forget about time And dance our lives away [Madonna] L-U-V Madonna Y-O-U you wanna Keep trying don't give up, it's if you want it bad enough L-U-V Madonna It's right in front of you, now tell me what you're thinking of Y-O-U you wanna In another place, at a different time You can be my lucky star We can drink some wine Burgundy is fine Let's drink the bottle every drop [Chorus] Don't play the stupid game Cause I'm a different kind of girl Every record sounds the same You've got to step into my world Give me all your love and give me your love Give me all your love today Give me all your love and give me your love Let's forget about time And dance our lives away [Nicki Minaj] Give me all your love boy You could be my boy, you could be my boy toy In the nick of time I could say a sicker rhyme Cause its time for change like a nickel and a dime I'm Roman, I'm a barbarian, I'm Conan You were sleeping on me you were dozin' Now move, I'm goin' in!! [Bridge] You have all the L-U-V I gave you everything you need Now it's up to y-o-u Are you the one, shall we proceed? [M.I.A.] Sw-sw-swag shh No one gives you this Supersonic bionic, uranium So I break ‘em off tricks Let's pray that it sticks I'ma say this once, yeah I don't give a shit M-a-d don't make me l-u-v it's time for y-o-u it's up to l-u-v i want your [Chorus] Don't play the stupid game Cause I'm a different kind of girl Every record sounds the same You've gotta step into my world Give me all your love and give me your love (L-U-V- Madonna) Give me all your love and give me your love (Y-O-U You wanna) Give me all your love and give me your love Give me all your love today Give me all your love and give me your love Let's forget about time And dance our lives away "Girl Gone Wild" [Spoken:] Oh, my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended Thee And I detest all my sins Because I dread the loss of heaven, and the pains of hell. But most of all because I love Thee, And I want so badly to be good. It's so hypnotic The way he pulls on me It's like the force of gravity Right up under my feet It's so erotic This feeling can't be beat It's coursing through my whole body Feel the heat I got that burnin' hot desi-i-i-re And no one can put out my fi-i-i-re It's coming right down through the wi-i-i-re Here it comes When I hear them 808 drums It's got me singing Hey, ey, ey, ey Like a girl gone wild A good girl gone wild I'm like, hey, ey, ey, ey Like a girl gone wild A good girl gone wild Girls they just wanna have some fun Get fired up like smokin' gun On the floor til the daylight comes Girls they just wanna have some fun A girl gone wild A good girl gone wild I'm like a girl gone wild A good girl gone wild The room is spinning It must be the tanqueray I'm about to go astray My inhibition's gone away I feel like sinning You got me in the zone DJ play my favorite song Turn me on I got that burnin' hot desi-i-i-re And no one can put out my fi-i-i-re It's coming right down through the wi-i-i-re Here it comes When I hear them 808 drums It's got me singing Hey, ey, ey, ey Like a girl gone wild A good girl gone wild I'm like, hey, ey, ey, ey Like a girl gone wild A good girl gone wild Girls they just wanna have some fun Get fired up like smokin' gun On the floor til the daylight comes Girls they just wanna have some fun I know, I know, I know I shouldn't act this way I know, I know, I know Good girls don't misbehave Misbehave But I'm a bad girl, anyway Forgive me Hey, ey, ey, ey Like a girl gone wild A good girl gone wild I'm like, hey, ey, ey, ey Like a girl gone wild A good girl gone wild Girls they just wanna have some fun Get fired up like smokin' gun On the floor til the daylight comes Girls they just wanna have some fun A girl gone wild A good girl gone wild I'm like a girl gone wild A good girl gone wild "Turn Up The Radio" When the world starts to get you down And nothing seems to go your way And the noise of the maddening crowd Makes you feel like you’re going to go insane There’s a glow of a distant light Calling you to come outside To feel the wind on your face and your skin And it’s here I begin my story Turn up the radio Turn up the radio Don’t ask me where I wanna go We gotta turn up the radio It was time that I opened my eyes I’m leaving the past behind Nothing’s ever what it seems Including this time and these crazy dreams I’m stuck like a moth to a flame I’m so tired of playing this game I don’t know how I got to this state Let me out of my cage cause I’m dying Turn up the radio Turn up the radio Don’t ask me where I wanna go We gotta turn up the radio Turn up the radio Turn up the radio Don’t ask me where I wanna go We gotta turn up the radio I just wanna get in my car I wanna go fast and I gotta go far Don’t ask me to explain how I feel ‘Cause I don’t want to say where I’m going Turn down the noise and turn up the volume Don’t have a choice cause the temperatures pounding Leaving this place is the last thing I do That I want to escape with a person just like you I’m stuck like a moth to a flame I’m so sick and tired of playing this game We gotta have fun it it’s all that we do Gotta shake up the system and break all the rules Gotta turn up the radio until the speakers blow Turn up the radio Turn up the radio Don’t ask me where I wanna go We gotta turn up the radio Turn up the radio Turn up the radio There’s somethings you don’t need to know Just let me turn up the radio Turn up the radio Just let me turn up the radio Just let me turn up the radio

Holly interviews Brendon Watt about his new book Relationship: Are You Sure You Want One. Interestingly, he wrote the book while being in a relationship with Simone Milasas and ended the relationship before the book came out. They navigated the publicity as a team, even though they were stepping out of their relationship. When asked how he could claim to be an expert on relationship when he was breaking his up, Brendon responds: “Becoming an expert really involves what you’re willing to say that other people won’t say.”  Questions they explore are: What is another example of a time your life when you let the question create for you? What can I be today that I wasn’t before? What is the truth of “Me”? What am I going to “BE” today? What are the societal myths that keep you from living a full life and how can Access Consciousness help change those? What is your body telling you? Brendon explains how he lives each do to the fullest by following the edict of “This was me yesterday - but that doesn’t have to be me today.” Choosing for yourself never means choosing against someone or something else.  After years of depression, He found Access Consciousness and changed his life by using the tools and processes that can change any area of your life, through four steps: question, choice, possibility, contribution. Access Consciousness empowers you to know what you already know. What feels heavy is a lie! The problem is that we’ve been trained to do what we’re told instead of going with this knowing.  Four question he uses when analyzing what is the body saying: What is this? What do I do with it? Can I change it? How do I change it? Another is question is, “Is this mine?” So many times we feel other’s emotions and it’s important to determine if what we are feeling is actually our own emotions or someone else’s. True living comes from being in every moment and asking yourself “How can I make this greater?” The joy that comes from this and the courage that it takes to choose this way of living He discusses the idea of bravery for men, courage is the willingness to choose what’s best for you not based on the image of “being a man.” Be willing to be vulnerable.  You do not have to give up your life to be in a relationship. Have a great love with yourself first and if a relationship is not adding to your life, the it isn’t right for you. Holly asks: “What are you looking to add to your life in 2020?” Brendon: “Everything! How do I be more so I can contribute more to the world so we have somewhere to live that’s happy!” Brendon leaves the listener with this thought for 2020:  “Allow yourself to look at the one choice that you think you can’t have and allow yourself to have it in your world, even if you don’t choose it. Don’t push it away, just let it be in your life. “ Drawing upon his transformation from a struggling tradesman and single dad to global speaker and CFO, Brendon facilitates classes and workshops all over the world, empowering others to know they are not wrong, that anything is possible and that they are only one choice away from change. Find Brendon every week on his podcast "One Choice from Change" on iTunes, on Amazon, and on the Access Consciousness® website. Find out more about Brendon at https://www.brendonwatt.com/.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So many questions for our Canna Consultant Nicki Serbin - MissCannabis@Gmail.com We are answering questions and stigmatizing this safe and legal product. What strains? How Do they work? How do I use it? Vaping questions? Is that safe? Where to buy? Canna Parties and consulting. Being Active on Cannabis. I don't want to be a couch potatoI want to be a coach potato. I have trouble sleeping. I have medical needs. I have anxiety. I have chronic pain. I need a good nights sleep.I use CBD can I use this too?Work and CannabisSchool and CannabisHow do I decide what will work for meWhat if I get to high? Will I over dose?I am nervous, can you help me?

V prvom tohtoročnom podcaste nám Martir zrekapituluje, čo sa stalo vo vede za uplynulých 10 rokov a okrem toho budeme hovoriť o tom, ako zodpovedali ľudia v ankete o tom, ako najlepšie zredukovať svoju uhlíkovú stopu a o projekte H2Go Power, ktorý tvrdí, že majú skvelú vodíkovú batériu. Pseudocast 433 na YouTube Zdroje Zdroje k Martirovej témeWhat reduces our personal CO2 footprint? We have no clue!H2Go Power seeks to power drones with a 'happy gas'

Our online store isn't converting is a phrase I hear time and time again from business owners & the conversation goes something like this => Business Owner: We recently established an online store but our sales are not achieving the levels we expected... Me: What do you think is the problem? Business Owner: I'm not sure, we've put all our products online but no one is buying! We've got traffic but I cannot understand why our customers are not purchasing. Me: Did you invest in strong photography and copy for the listings? Likewise, what are your shipping rates like, high or low? Business Owner: We just copied everything from the manufacturer website and regarding shipping we pass the full price of same to the consumer at checkout. Me: There's your problem, in todays competitive market you need to stand our from the crowd. But don't worry your in luck as I've just recorded an podcast episode discussing this topic! Be sure and check it out! To Get Started Improving Your E-Commerce Store Checkout https://bit.ly/2r3F8Q3

Wish you could create space in your life to explore new things? To spend more time on creative interests or pursue the hobbies you love? Shawn Laidlaw is leveraging Airbnb to do just that, investing in a short-term rental (STR) business in Mexico that gives him the time freedom to live life on his own terms.Shawn Laidlaw is an investor and STR host in Villas de Cerritos Beach near El Pescadero. He purchased land in an existing development there and built a three-unit property on the site, allowing him to rent the units on Airbnb and live there himself for six months of the year. Shawn is also a photographer, writer and avid surfer.On this episode, Shawn joins me to discuss how he came to invest in an Airbnb in Mexico and explain the process of buying and developing land in the country. He shares the perks of running a STR business in a development with an onsite staff, the cost of doing construction in Mexico, and the mindset difference when it comes to scheduling work. Listen in for insight around what it’s like to host a vacation rental in Mexico and learn how Shawn is leveraging Airbnb to live a simpler life—and do a lot of surfing!Topics CoveredShawn’s journey to MexicoMoney from sale of property in Victoria, BCHouse sitting in California for friend in real estatePresented with development opportunity‘Open to whatever life brought meWhat it looks like to buy property in MexicoForeigners can’t own outright within 50 km of coastSole beneficiary of third-party trust (fideicomiso)99-year term on lease hold constructionThe benefits of buying in a ‘gringo development’Fit Shawn’s goals for lifestyle and investmentStaff onsite for cleaning, reception + securityHow much it cost to build in Mexico$20K for 10x12 m of land$100K for construction of three unitsHow Shawn’s property is structuredTwo bachelor suites on first level (open air kitchens)700 ft2 unit on second level, hang out on roofHosting on Airbnb in MexicoPlatform collects sales and regional taxesShawn focuses on vacationers vs. business clientsThe pros and cons of building in MexicoBuilders in place in existing developmentsThings move slowly (mindset difference)Shawn’s experience of managing units remotelyLeverage onsite reception, cleaning staffSchedule through online booking portalHow much Shawn charges for his units$55/night during busy season in winter$40/night in summerDiscounts for weekly, monthly staysThe occupancy rates on Shawn’s units30% to 40% throughout yearBooked solid through MarchFewer tourists in summer (10% to 15%)Shawn’s advice around investing in MexicoTake leap when opportunity presents itselfAmazing people, rich culture and surfingShawn’s minimum income experimentCreate balance among lifestyle, investing and simplicityIntent to live off rental income, stay in Mexico full-timeConnect with ShawnShawn’s BlogShawn’s WebsiteShawn on InstagramShawn on AirbnbTo subscribe to the podcast, please use the links belowClick Here to Subscribe via iTunesClick here to Subscribe via Stitcher (Android users)If you like the show, please consider leaving the show a review in iTunesor Stitcher. A couple minutes of your time can help the show immensely! Thanks! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Me: What could possibly go wrong? Anxiety: Let me show you!   We are heading into the most wonderful time of the year! Or is it? For those struggling with mental health issues, the holidays can be fraught with stress and struggle. Here is what anxiety may look and feel like during the holidays, possible […]

Happy Monday Motivation! Thank you for listening, sharing the podcast and connecting with me on social media to help continue to grow personally and professionally! How'd you do last week living in the NOW? Last week's podcast was all about living in the NOW and when you do, you've WON... right?! How did LIVING IN THE NOW, help you change your thoughts about how to be 100% present and NOT multitasking so you can achieve more?  NOW! Right Here. Right NOW! Where are you while you're listening to this podcast? If you're doing anything else like talking on the phone, texting, answering emails, are you giving ME 100% of your attention? NO! [RUDE!] And how is that benefitting you? How is it fair to ME? What did you miss out on?  Listen in this week as I share an example of how MY multitasking created a domino affect. Continuing to multitask and allowing distractions is inefficient and a waste of time AND money! And also what happened when I started living in the future! How I wasn't giving YOU – my listeners – 100% of my attention, and how the worry and anxiety about WHAT IF's with a future event caused me to get off-track and waste time.  WHAT IF's. They can be a total MIND F*&K if you let it! Again, listen in this week as I talk about what happened in my monthly accountability group when we started talking about WHAT IF's and how, once again you can change your mindset about them!  I look forward to hearing about your WHAT IF's! Cheers! Sandi

First, we start with what a DIVORCED HEART really is, and the devastating effects it can have in your life. The problem with a divorced heart is the toxic waste it creates… Wasted Time. Time spent in needless suffering, heartache, heartbreak, self-defeat, insecurity, fear, worry, stress, anger, frustration, loneliness, shame, blame, loss, overwhelm, hopelessness, feeling stuck and unloveable…not to mention the financial cost of it all… Remember that time isn't money...it's your life. The emotional and financial loss is devastating, and destructively TOXIC. It can takes YEARS to recover. In fact, some dear souls never do. I was there too…caught up in a holding pattern of self-destruct, self-doubt, and almost complete loss of my SELF. I wanted to the pain to stop. I wanted to stop running. I wanted to die (really.) BUT THE TRUTH WAS… I desired to LIVE. I desired to LOVE. I desired to LAUGH. I desired to lift my head up, and see something that would inspire me to get up and GO UP. I desired to be FREE. I desired MORE than a recovery. I desired to rest and restore. I desired to live without MORE, but to explore the TRUE nature and DESIRES of my heart and soul within my core. To pursue her. To know her. To find her. To discover her. To protect her. To (wo)mance and love her. To fully engage with her. To reconnect and live from my heart and soul. To FREE HER to BE the fullest expression of SHE. I desired a NEW kind of LOVE. A powerful relationship WITH ME + MY LIFE. BUT…was it possible? I began to seek. What would it look and feel like to truly LOVE + CARE for ME? What was I looking for, really? I was looking for the truth. I googled, SELF LOVE…nope, that wasn’t the truth. I googled DESIRE…nope, that wasn’t it either. So I set out on a quest of seeking…a MISSION really… And it took me not to the outside for the answers, but inside. Deep within my heart and soul. I began to appreciate HER for who she was, is, and will be. I began to give HER my undivided attention, no longer lost between the chasm of my head and heart…but directly in the CENTER of my soul. I began one of the most SACRED romances I could have imagined, and this is what I’m going to share with you… BUT FIRST. Let’s talk about 2 powerful processes of DETOXING from a DIVORCED HEART. It’s all about CLEANSING + CLARITY… It’s difficult to become CLEAR when we’re NOT “here”…in the present of the now. Get present with your pain, past, and present. The cleansing begins with a CLEAN SING. To sing a NEW SONG. One of DEFINING MOMENTS...REDEFINED. Letting go of your "FINE." Grabbing hold of the "NEW" that you FIND. Then beginning to get CLEAR about the authentic, pure TRUTH about your heart: 1. Redefining. 2. Healing. 3. Decision of DESIRE. Are you CLEAR about what this is for you? It's vital that you do. I can help you... I lived in the TOXIC BOX of fear, hiding, and holding back for over a decade, until I discovered SACRED S.O.L.UTIONS for accelerated healing, and awakening HOPE for true love and life. When I changed the way I saw what was TOXIC, I redefined it…and created a NEW LIFE DETOX… YOU CAN TOO! Tune in again tomorrow...I'll have a very SPECIAL GIFT for you, as well as another step that you can take in YOUR ONE DIVORCE DETOX... Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)  TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP IS THIS:  1. What do you call yourself? (What’s the label you’re calling yourself, and your current situation?) 2. Are you willing to “redefine” that for yourself right here and now? 3. What is it? (Your "redefinition.") What, from this day forward, are you going to choose call yourself? Your situation? Commit to no longer allowing your situation or circumstances to identify you. Redefine who you are today, and begin to cleanse and clarify your life…TODAY. 4. Tune in tomorrow for PART 2... Join the MOVEMENT. I’m going to be inviting listeners onto the program. If you have a story you'd like to share — a song to sing (but not a Poor Me Story) — send me an email at: drshannon@doctorshannon.com and put SHARE MY STORY in the subject line. S.O.L.| NOT SOLO. If you haven't already joined the movement, you're personally invited to come over to the WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE S.O.L. MOVEMENT Closed FB Group and Join the MOVEMENT: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WSOLMovement/ I can't wait to meet you there, and engage with you even more! Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you. FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM @doctorshannon! See you there... If you’ve been feeling like you’re stuck, overwhelmed, or perhaps you still feel like you’re drowning, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I’d be more than happy to schedule a Discovery Call with you to see if Healing Life Coaching is a good fit for you. Email me at drshannon@doctorshannon.com Come over to the WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE S.O.L. MOVEMENT Closed FB Group and Join the MOVEMENT: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WSOLMovement/ By the way, if you haven't already listened/downloaded my new song (EPISODE 291), you can also listen to it here: letsnottalkaboutex.com, and cast your vote for your favorite version.  Visit WomenSippingOnLife.com for more free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING. I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY. xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life’s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME. A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast… Intro/Outro done by UNI V. SOL  Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)  Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com) Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com) 

Hey hey Brothers & Sisters....This weeks episode starts off with:Gene Vincent & His Blue Caps - Who slapped John?....out of a band called The Virginians a new band was created for Gene Vincent in 1956 with "Galloping" Cliff Gallup on lead guitar....his echo laden 6 string is the bible for thousands of R&R guitarists ever since.Set 1:Traveling to Brisbane, Australia where The Saints hold the mantle of the 1st "punk" band. Formed in 1975 their 1st record pre-dates the Sex Pistols by about 6 months. We just heard "A minor aversion" off of their sophomore LP ETERNALLY YOURS from 1978.Tramline - Somewhere down the line / Island 1968 [A&M in the US]. Covering Little Johnny Taylor's killer 45 from 1963 on Galaxy Records.Paul Revere & the Raiders - Him or Me [What's it gonna be] / Columbia 1967. The Jim Valley / Keith Ellison era of the band. Mark Lindsey is hands down one of the best vocalists of all the 60's bands....based in Oregon.Traveling south from the pacific northwest to San Francisco where the rocks 1st psych bands, The Charlatans made history with their residency at the Red Dog Saloon in Las Vegas. Another reason that the Charlatans' stay at the Red Dog is regarded by critics and historians as significant is that, immediately before their first performance at the club, the band members took LSD. As a result, the Charlatans are sometimes called the first acid rock band, although their sound is not representative of the feedback-drenched, improvisational music that would later come to define the sub-genre. And hey.....Dan Hicks was their drummer.Bed Music: Link Wray - The FuzzSet 2Staying in San Fran where the Jefferson Airplane signed to RCA for $40,000. A bargain by today's standards where mediocrity is rewarded with multi-million dollar contracts. The Airplane on their 1st LP had Signe Anderson on vocals not Grace Slick and their drummer was mega loony Skip Spence who left to form Moby Grape.20 years before the JA were thinking of recording a cat who called himself Slim Gaillard made up his own language and with his trio recorded one of the hippest 78's - Yep Roc Heresy...his made up language was called "Vout"Marvin Gaye checks in with a radio ad for TeenbeatPaul Butterfield Blues Band up next covering Marvin Gaye w/ "One more heartache" a 45 rpm and also the lead track off of "The Resurrection of Pigboy Crabshaw" who everybody who follows the PBBBand knows is the pseudonym of Elvin Bishop who stepped into the "big boy" shoes of the late, great Michael Bloomfield...Moving up the coast to LA where Merrill Fankhauser formed MU with Jeff Cotton. Cotton was in Merrell & The Exiles, then in a band called Blues In A Bottle. He then replaced Ry Cooder in The Magic Band. He was credited as 'Steel appendage' guitarist on Trout Mask Replica. Left the Magic Band circa late 1970 and eventually teamed up again with Merrell (Fankhauser) on the album "Return To Mu". His pseudonym in the Magic Band was Antennae Jimmy Semens. We heard "Brother Lew" off their first offering....MU.Set 3:Dion and the Del Satins - Drip Drop / Columbia 1963. A cover of The Drifters tune done a few years earlier. Dion was the first artist this author took notice of when he was starting to notice the difference between boys and girls...Al Kooper - Something going on / Music Masters 1995. A live recording made at NYC's Bottom Line with some really great musicians including New York guitarist Jimmy Vivino who is the younger brother of local legend: Uncle Floyd.The Onion Radio News- An Applebee's managerThe Peanut Butter Conspiracy - Too Many do / Columbia 1967. A favorite of mine back in the day and still on my turntable these many years later. Guitarist Billy Wolfe kills it! The Pseudo-Realists - The Williams Effect / Oxymoron Records 1983. Used as "bed" music whilst

Speaker or Performer: Caleb Petersen Date of Delivery: October 21, 2018 Points of Reform for the Modern ChurchFrom Denominationalism back to the 5-Fold ModelAn Ever-Increasing Revelation of Jesus The New CovenantDeeper Understanding of the Bible its Application TodayHopeful Victorious EschatologyEffective Strategies to Accomplish the Great CommissionWomen in Ministry Women in GeneralTrue Unity Between ChristiansLove Affection Between ChristiansWhat Loving the World Actually Looks LikeWholeness Selfcare*new 95 theses*DenominationalismWe vered from the original model. Why?After apostles died, Platonian (Greek) philosophy took over:Marcionism: the God of Jesus was a different God from the God of the Old Testament.Montanism: relied on prophetic revelations from the Holy Spirit.Adoptionism: Jesus was not born the Son of God, but was adopted at his baptism, resurrection or ascension.Docetism: Jesus was pure spirit and his physical form an illusion.Sabellianism: the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are three modes of the one God and not the three separate persons of the Trinity.Arianism: Jesus, as the Son, was subordinate to God the Father.Gnosticism: “having knowledge”Derived from interpreting the Biblical text through Platonian (Greek) philosophy.Dualism: All matter is evil, and the non-material, spirit-realm is good.Asceticism: Severe self-discipline and avoidance of all forms of indulgence.Anit-Cosmism: There is an unknowable God, who gave rise to many lesser spirit beings called Aeons. One evil, lower spirit being is the creator who made the universe.High Christology: Jesus’ divinity is real, but a divine being would never subject Himself to a material existence, so Jesus’ humanity isn’t real.No human Jesus, no blood. No blood, no atonement for sin.To achieve salvation, one needs to get in touch with secret knowledge called gnosis.Inverse Exegesis: In biblical exegesis, the opposite of exegesis (to draw out) is eisegesis (to draw in), in the sense of an eisegetic commentator importing or drawing in his or her own purely subjective interpretations into the text, unsupported by the text itself.Wiki: “After the second century, a decline set in, but Gnosticism persisted throughout the centuries as an undercurrent of western culture, re-manifesting with the Renaissance as Western esotericism (mysticism), taking prominence with modern spirituality.”Kris Vallotton on Denominationalism“In my encounter, the Lord said He is going to pour out revelation on this generation that has been held in the vault of heaven for eons of ages. However, if He pours it out on denominationalism then it would rip the wine skin.Why? The nature of revelation is that you have a new idea, and new ideas are not welcome in a wineskin where you have to agree (denominationalism).I’m not talking about denominations; I’m talking about denominationalism. It doesn’t matter what it says over the door of your church, it just matters what you say over the door of your heart.The denominational spirit is just as alive in some apostolic networks as it is in many churches with a denomination.In denominationalism, church leaders preach don’t preach to inspire, they preach to convince. Why? Because when you inspire people, you’re causing them to think, which causes them to have an idea and therefore causes them to have an opinion.Denominationalism doesn’t like opinions because they could lead to disagreements, and under this spirit, disagreement causes splits and division!In denominationalism disagreement is seen as disloyalty. Therefore, there is no freedom for disagreement. Beyond that, how much you value someone is seen by how much you agree with them! What a controlling mess!I’d love to suggest that you have permission to love anyone, whether they agree with you or not. This will keep you out of manipulating people into agreeing with you.What’s the overall point? We need a new wineskin!https://krisvallotton.com/gods-answer-church-splits/Go to seminary - got a degree - now i’m a pastorGift-based authorityThe best performer is the leaderWhat happens when someone out-performs me?I have to sabotage their growthThis creates a culture of fear, jealousy, competitionIn Apostleships, greatness is celebrated because there is no fear of losing my place, there’s no jealousy that someone else got more recognition than me, and there’s no competing for a titleWhy?Apostleships look like familyIn a healthy family, acceptance is guaranteed, and titles don’t mean anythingGod sent me to this family, only God can remove meWhat if something goes wrong?are there bad families?Does that mean the family structure is wrong?You have many teachers, but you don’t have many fathersWe see each other no longer after the fleshIf you receive a prophet in the name of a prophet, you receive a prophets reward5-Fold ModelEphesians 4:11-16 AMP 11 And [His gifts to the church were varied and] He Himself appointed some as apostles [special messengers, representatives], some as prophets [who speak a new message from God to the people], some as evangelists [who spread the good news of salvation], and some as pastors and teachers [to shepherd and guide and instruct], 12 [and He did this] to fully equip and perfect the saints (God’s people) for works of service, to build up the body of Christ [the church]; 13 until we all reach oneness in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God, [growing spiritually] to become a mature believer, reaching to the measure of the fullness of Christ [manifesting His spiritual completeness and exercising our spiritual gifts in unity]. 14 So that we are no longer children [spiritually immature], tossed back and forth [like ships on a stormy sea] and carried about by every wind of [shifting] doctrine, by the cunning and trickery of [unscrupulous] men, by the deceitful scheming of people ready to do anything [for personal profit]. 15 But speaking the truth in love [in all things—both our speech and our lives expressing His truth], let us grow up in all things into Him [following His example] who is the Head—Christ. 16 From Him the whole body [the church, in all its various parts], joined and knitted firmly together by what every joint supplies, when each part is working properly, causes the body to grow and mature, building itself up in [unselfish] love.“His gifts to the church”What were the gifts that were given?Look back to verse 77 Yet grace [God’s undeserved favor] was given to each one of us [not indiscriminately, but in different ways] in proportion to the measure of Christ’s [rich and abundant] gift.What are these gifts designed to do?12 [and He did this] to fully equip and perfect the saints (God’s people) for works of service, to build up the body of Christ [the church]“Equip perfect for the works of service” → strategy technique“Build up the body” → strength stamina13 until we all reach oneness in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God, [growing spiritually] to become a mature believer, reaching to the measure of the fullness of Christ [manifesting His spiritual completeness and exercising our spiritual gifts in unity].“Reach oneness in the faith knowledge of Jesus” → unity around faith in Jesus what He’s done for us (not doctrine)“To become a mature believer, reaching the measure of the fullness of Christ” → personal growth wholeness14 So that we are no longer children [spiritually immature], tossed back and forth [like ships on a stormy sea] and carried about by every wind of [shifting] doctrine, by the cunning and trickery of [unscrupulous] men, by the deceitful scheming of people ready to do anything [for personal profit].“No longer children.. carried about by every wind of doctrine” → self-control (clear confident boundaries), wisdom (healthy discernment), responsibility (owning your “I _______”)What will be the effect of these 5 things?16 From Him the whole body [the church, in all its various parts], joined and knitted firmly together by what every joint supplies, when each part is working properly, causes the body to grow and mature, building itself up in [unselfish] love.“By what every joint supplies” → we each will have our own supply to offer to the rest of the body“When each part is working properly, it causes the body to grow and mature, building itself up in love” → a healthy body means a healthy growth system, immune system, reproductive system“This love (Greek: agape) is not so much a matter of emotion as it is of doing things for the benefit of another person, that is, having an unselfish concern for another and a willingness to seek the best for another.”THIS IS FAMILYAlignment UnityRomans 12:4-6 MSG In this way we are like the various parts of a human body. Each part gets its meaning from the body as a whole, not the other way around. The body we’re talking about is Christ’s body of chosen people. Each of us finds our meaning and function as a part of his body. But as a chopped-off finger or cut-off toe we wouldn’t amount to much, would we? So since we find ourselves fashioned into all these excellently formed and marvelously functioning parts in Christ’s body, let’s just go ahead and be what we were made to be, without enviously or pridefully comparing ourselves with each other, or trying to be something we aren’t.So what are these gifts what should I receive from them?11 And [His gifts to the church were varied and] He Himself appointed some as apostles [special messengers, representatives], some as prophets [who speak a new message from God to the people], some as evangelists [who spread the good news of salvation], and some as pastors and teachers [to shepherd and guide and instruct]Apostles, Prophets, Evangelists, Pastors, Teachers5 natural senses → 5 spiritual senses“Just as you use your natural senses to be consciously aware of this earthly existence, each of these gifts equip your spiritual senses to be consciously aware of your spiritual existence, in order that you would come back into wholeness, grow into maturity, effectively carry out the mission of bringing heaven to earth.”ApostleWhat is?Wiki: An apostle, in its most literal sense, is an emissary, from Greek apóstolos, literally one who is sent off, from the verb apostéllein, to send off. The purpose of such sending off is usually to convey a message, and thus messenger is a common alternative translation; other common translations include ambassador and envoy.“Apostles are sent from one place to another place in order to make the place where they were sent look like the place they came from.” - Kris Vallotton“When in Rome, you do as the Romans do.”Apostles are concerned with transformation of culture locally with the whole world into the culture of heaven.Apostles are ambassadors that bring an envoy of heaven everywhere they go. This envoy is there to spiritually transition that region into the kingdom of heaven.They do this by conquering culturizing. If a kingdom has already been set up that doesn’t look like heaven, they conquer it by enforcing their jurisdiction over principalities, and then implement a cultural transformation so that “When in the Kingdom, you do as the King does.”Fear: authority = controlTruth: authority = responsibility to serve empowering self-controlBut how will we get stuff done if no one is in control?Leadership is still not controlling a person, it’s leading them. If they don’t want to follow, they don’t have to.But that much freedom is kind of scary because we can’t predict it! Someone could just leave at any moment! That makes us feel vulnerable and uncomfortable!Well, God is into the love business. And love means empowering free choice.Where is your trust? In God or a person?Do you fully trust Jesus is the healer of the brokenhearted? (Luke 4:18)In 1 Corinthians 12:28, it says “He appointed: first apostles.” They are the first, which means they are the bottom.Luke 22:24-27 AMP 24 Now a dispute also arose among them as to which of them was regarded to be the greatest. 25 Jesus said to them, “The kings of the Gentiles have absolute power and lord it over them; and those in authority over them are called ‘Benefactors.’ 26 But it is not to be this way with you; on the contrary, the one who is the greatest among you must become like the youngest [and least privileged], and the [one who is the] leader, like the servant. 27 For who is the greater, the one who reclines at the table or the one who serves? Is it not the one who reclines at the table? But I am among you as the one who serves.They are the soil from which we all grow.They often get stepped on overlooked.1 Corinthians 12:23 and as for those parts of the body which we consider less honorable, these we treat with greater honorThe less honorable, the more we honor.Apostles train us how to send and be sent in order to affect the culture around us.Expect to be equipped by this office with:A view of the “blueprints” for bringing heaven to earth transforming cultureA connectedness with the local body of Christ to the body as a wholeAn empowerment to reign in life like Jesus didLeadership skillsHow to maintain a personal corporate visionHow to win: steadfastness persistenceUnrelenting drive to see the kingdom of God manifest on the earth← HONOR THE GIFT → ProphetWhat is?The role of a prophet under the Old Covenant was to keep the nation of Israel accountable to keep their covenant faithfulness to God. They were the intermediaries between God and the people. → they’re between us GodIn the New Covenant, the role of the prophet has changed. We no longer need a middle man between us and God. This is what is meant in Matthew 5:17 when Jesus said He came to fulfill the Law the Prophets. Through Jesus we all have direct access to God.So what is the prophet’s role now?Prophets, now, show us how to communicate with God for ourselves the people around us. → they’re behind usProphets train us how to prophesy how to receive prophecy.Expect to be equipped by this office with:A deep sense of connectedness to GodA heightened awareness of the spiritualInsight foresightA desire for the mysteries of GodExpanding of the imaginative, pictorial, metaphoric parts of your mindHow to prophesy in a way that brings edification, encouragement, comfortHow to operate in your spiritual gifts: Word of Wisdom, Word of Knowledge, Gift of Faith, Gift of Healing, Gift of Miracles, Gift of Prophecy, Distinguishing of Spirits, Gift of Tongues, Gift of Interpretation← HONOR THE GIFT → EvangelistWhat is?Evangelists are the zealous advocates of the Great Commission in Matthew 28:18-20 “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you”Evangelists remind us of the “Go” in Gospel.They keep us from making Christianity “an exclusive club with a strict membership acceptance”They are the arms, hands, legs, feet, continually showing us how to reach out further than is comfortable to boldly go where no one has gone before. *Star Trek music starts playing here*Evangelists train us with effective strategies to reach the world around us.Expect to be equipped by this office with:Radical love for JesusRadical love for peopleHope for the prodigals to come homeBoldnessPassionCompassionFervorFaith-full-nessUnderstanding of the authority given to us through JesusConnecting new Christians to the rest of the body← HONOR THE GIFT → PastorWhat is?Wiki: “The word ‘pastor’ derives from the Latin noun pastor which means ‘shepherd’ and is derived from the verb pascere – ‘to lead to pasture, set to grazing, cause to eat’.”Pastors keep us connected to the heart of God.Pastors impart the heart of the shepherd that left the 99 to care for the 1.They show us how to be both sheep shepherd by connecting us to the Great Shepherd.They are focussed on keeping the body healthy strong; functioning as intended.Pastors are also the co-advocates for the Great Commission Matthew 28:19-20 Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you; I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”Pastors train us how to pastor how to be pastored.Expect to be equipped by this office with:A deep and intimate personal connection with the aspects of GodA tender, compassionate, affectionate love for peopleMarital family relationship healthHealthy interpersonal relationshipsPersonal wholeness skillsGeneral life skillsHow to be a discipleHow to discipleCelebration of symbolic acts (baptism, communion, etc.)← HONOR THE GIFT → TeacherWhat is?Teachers keep us connected to the mind of God.They remind us of His ultimate brilliance wisdom, and that He has shared His mind with us.1 Corinthians 2:9-12, 16 9 but just as it is written, “Things which eye has not seen and ear has not heard, And which have not entered the heart of man, All that God has prepared for those who love Him.” 10 For to us God revealed them through the Spirit; for the Spirit searches all things, even the depths of God. 11 For who among men knows the thoughts of a man except the spirit of the man which is in him? Even so the thoughts of God no one knows except the Spirit of God. 12 Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may know the things freely given to us by God16 For who has known the mind of the Lord, that he will instruct Him? But we have the mind of Christ.Teachers remind us to keep a fervent passion for the Word of God.*LoL* A teacher will probably recommend you read Proverbs.Teachers train us how to think, not what to think.Teachers train us how to learn how to teach.Expect to be equipped from this office with:Awe wonder for the way God thinksDesire to see what no one has seen hear what no one has heardA drive to see the things God has prepared for us manifest on the earthWisdom, understanding, knowledge.Insight hindsight.Clarity peace in your mind.An ever-increasing love for the Word.← HONOR THE GIFT →

[Should I Save 30% or 15% for Taxes?] Business Owner: "You said save 15% for taxes, but my friend said 30%. Which is it?Me: "What are you saving right now for taxes?"Business Owner: "Nothing... but that's not the point if I cannot get a consistent answer."Me: "So, you are choosing to save nothing, even though you know you have to pay taxes, based on not getting an answer from random people?"Business Owner: .... walks away.... Let's talk about what should go in your bank when it comes to saving for taxes.    Launch your podcast with Podcast Websites: www.keepupwithmrsjones.com/podcastwebsites Stay updated: www.keepupwithmrsjones.com/ Subscribe and listen: iTunes, Podbean, Google Watch the show LIVE: Facebook, Instagram ------------------------------------------------ Every morning, Ask the Budgetologist goes LIVE with host, Phylecia Jones, where she answers any questions you have about money, business, budgeting, and living the solopreneur lifestyle! If you are ready to give yourself a salary or have more money in your bank accounts, then subscribe and keep listening.    Phylecia understands that very thin line that solopreneurs walk when it comes to managing business and personal finances. Her goal is to help anyone that needs help, because there are no silly questions when it comes to understanding your money!

情景1： 询问旅行线路 Clerk: What can I do for you? 职员：需要帮忙吗？ Me: I want to go to Western United States for travel with my family. 我：我和家人想去美国西部旅游。 Clerk: OK! Let me introduce something to you. 职员：好的。让我给你介绍吧。 Me: What kind of tours do you offer? 我：你们都提供哪些旅行线路。 Clerk: We offer many kinds of tours. 职员：我们提供多种旅行线路。 情景2： 逗留时间 Clerk: How long would you like to stay in Western United States. 职员：你们在美西要逗留多久？ Me: About 11 days. 我：大概11天。 Clerk: There is a fourteen-day package tour. You will have 10 full days in those cities. 职员：有一个14天的包价旅游。你们将在那些城市呆满10天。 情景3：谈论价钱和内容 Me: T...

First, we start with what a DIVORCED HEART really is, and the devastating effects it can have in your life. The problem with a divorced heart is the toxic waste it creates… Wasted Time. Time spent in needless suffering, heartache, heartbreak, self-defeat, insecurity, fear, worry, stress, anger, frustration, loneliness, shame, blame, loss, overwhelm, hopelessness, feeling stuck and unloveable…not to mention the financial cost of it all… Remember that time isn't money...it's your life. The emotional and financial loss is devastating, and destructively TOXIC. It can takes YEARS to recover. In fact, some dear souls never do. I was there too…caught up in a holding pattern of self-destruct, self-doubt, and almost complete loss of my SELF. I wanted to the pain to stop. I wanted to stop running. I wanted to die (really.) BUT THE TRUTH WAS… I desired to LIVE. I desired to LOVE. I desired to LAUGH. I desired to lift my head up, and see something that would inspire me to get up and GO UP. I desired to be FREE. I desired MORE than a recovery. I desired to rest and restore. I desired to live without MORE, but to explore the TRUE nature and DESIRES of my heart and soul within my core. To pursue her. To know her. To find her. To discover her. To protect her. To (wo)mance and love her. To fully engage with her. To reconnect and live from my heart and soul. To FREE HER to BE the fullest expression of SHE. I desired a NEW kind of LOVE. A powerful relationship WITH ME + MY LIFE. BUT…was it possible? I began to seek. What would it look and feel like to truly LOVE + CARE for ME? What was I looking for, really? I was looking for the truth. I googled, SELF LOVE…nope, that wasn’t the truth. I googled DESIRE…nope, that wasn’t it either. So I set out on a quest of seeking…a MISSION really… And it took me not to the outside for the answers, but inside. Deep within my heart and soul. I began to appreciate HER for who she was, is, and will be. I began to give HER my undivided attention, no longer lost between the chasm of my head and heart…but directly in the CENTER of my soul. I began one of the most SACRED romances I could have imagined, and this is what I’m going to share with you… BUT FIRST. Let’s talk about 2 powerful processes of DETOXING from a DIVORCED HEART. It’s all about CLEANSING + CLARITY… It’s difficult to become CLEAR when we’re NOT “here”…in the present of the now. Get present with your pain, past, and present. The cleansing begins with a CLEAN SING. To sing a NEW SONG. One of DEFINING MOMENTS...REDEFINED. Letting go of your "FINE." Grabbing hold of the "NEW" that you FIND. Then beginning to get CLEAR about the authentic, pure TRUTH about your heart: 1. Redefining. 2. Healing. 3. Decision of DESIRE. Are you CLEAR about what this is for you? It's vital that you do. I can help you...  I lived in the TOXIC BOX of fear, hiding, and holding back for over a decade, until I discovered SACRED S.O.L.UTIONS for accelerated healing, and awakening HOPE for true love and life. When I changed the way I saw what was TOXIC, I redefined it…and created a NEW LIFE DETOX… YOU CAN TOO! Tune in again tomorrow...I'll have a very SPECIAL GIFT for you, as well as another step that you can take in YOUR ONE DIVORCE DETOX... Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)   TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP IS THIS:  1. What do you call yourself? (What’s the label you’re calling yourself, and your current situation?) 2. Are you willing to “redefine” that for yourself right here and now? 3. What is it? (Your "redefinition.") What, from this day forward, are you going to choose call yourself? Your situation? Commit to no longer allowing your situation or circumstances to identify you. Redefine who you are today, and begin to cleanse and clarify your life…TODAY. 4. Tune in tomorrow for PART 2... S.O.L.| NOT SOLO. If you haven't already joined the movement, you're personally invited to come over to the WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE S.O.L. MOVEMENT Closed FB Group and Join the MOVEMENT: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WSOLMovement/ I can't wait to meet you there, and engage with you even more!  By the way, I'm going to be leading another 4 DAY S.O.L.DATE C.A.M.P. for life with CERTAINTY, ABUNDANCE, MOVEMENT, AND PURPOSE: June 20-24, 2018 in Minneapolis. Please email at: drshannon@doctorshannon.com to apply to be ONE of the 12 Sacred Souls who will be taking this journey with me. I’m also going to be inviting listeners onto the program. If you have a story you'd like to share — a song to sing (but not a Poor Me Story) — send me an email at: drshannon@doctorshannon.com and put SHARE MY STORY in the subject line. Thank you for being here, and allowing me to Sip On Life with you. Visit WomenSippingOnLife.com for more free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING. I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY. xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life’s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME. A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast… Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL  Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)  Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com) Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)

OkCupid questions/Just Between You and Me/What’d you do this time?

精品英语口语课，由Alan博士亲自教授，正在火热预报名。咨询请加工作微信：qihangstaff。 情景1：请求帮忙 Clerk:Hello! How can I help you? 职员：您好！有什么可以帮到您吗？ Me: I’d like to rent a car. 我：我想租一辆车。 rent 动词：出租、租用、租借 I’d like 是I would like的缩写，would like愿意、想要，相当于动词：want但语气比 want 更为委婉，后面可接名词、代词或者是动词不定式。如：I’dlike to watch TV.我想看电视。 情景2：询问预订号 Clerk: Do you have a reservation? 职员：您有预订吗？ Me: Yes, and the reference number is 8247. 我：是的，我的预订号是：8247。 reservation 名词：预订 reference number 词组：参考编号 情景3： 询问车型 Clerk: What kind of car are you looking for? 职员：您想要什么样的车？ Me: What ar...

Why learning from my podcast is LESSER than learning from ME… What's going on everyone? This is Steve Larsen and you're listening to Sales Funnel Radio. I've spent the last four years learning from the most brilliant marketers today, and now I've left my nine to five to take the plunge and build my million dollar business. The real question is how will I do it without VC funding or debt completely from scratch? This podcast is here to give you the answer. Join me and follow along as I learn, apply, and share marketing strategies to grow my online business using only today's best internet sales funnels. My name is Steve Larsen and welcome to Sales Funnel Radio. What's up guys? I got a really cool episode for you guys here today. It is a crazy week, which means it's a normal week. There's a lot going on though. I mean we are in the pre-funnel hacking live stage and there's a lot to prepare for and a lot to go through. This week I am automating pieces of my webinar still, there's a whole bunch of assets I got to get to my traffic driver who I will interview here shortly for you guys so you can learn from her because she's amazing. All the flash drives I told you guys if you run up to me and say the magic word, which you have no idea what I'm talking about go back and listen to a few episodes ago, or actually I think it was last episode. Anyway, there's paying bills, I got to build an affiliate program, which I'm very pumped about for my program. I figured out a cool model where I can buy people an iMac, like those brand new ones that are $5,000... Anyway, we've got a cool affiliate program we put together, which is very, very awesome. Maybe I should tell you how I did that as well. Then I'm actually building out this really cool members area. I've been building out a lot of live funnels lately. One of the reasons why is because I was the lead funnel of their click funnels guys. I built almost one funnel a day. Literally that's what the numbers were. Almost one funnel a day was the average, which is crazy. The last few months of me being solo I have build one funnel, you know what I mean, there's only been one, I guess two, there's been two revenue funnels. There's been a few management funnels, but my entire focus is just on one single sales funnel, my webinar one. It's been a little bit weird to go back and think through oh my gosh, I almost have the itch. I got to build something oh my gosh. It's been weird, I've shaved my focus down to just having this one funnel, and really, really enjoyed it though. I'm really, really excited though for this. There's a lot going on and I'm excited to get you guys in the loop. I got one really, really cool announcement and I want to tell you why I'm excited about it. Gosh, I'm joining Inner Circle, Russell's Inner Circle, and some of you guys might be like, "Oh my gosh, Steven you vox him almost daily, why, why would you do that?" The reason why is because I'm coaching now. Does that make sense? I'm coaching now. When you have a coach and if they're not being coached also you're getting cut short. Does that make sense? I'm getting coached, which means I will continue to be a good coach. Does that make sense? That's the reason why I'm so excited guys. I've told this story before, but I remember I wanted so badly, so badly to join Russell's Inner Circle. This was like three years ago, yes about three years ago now, and click funnels had just barely been out for just a little bit here and Russell sends this email out, and he says, "Hey, just wanted you to know that there's only a few spots left in my coaching program," and I remember I stopped dead in my tracks. I was on campus, I was in college and I stopped dead in my tracks. I was in the basketball stadium and I was walking through, passing through, going through some class I had or to the gym or something like that, I can't remember. Anyway, I remember I stopped right there and I replied to the email. I don't think he read it of course, that's fine, but I replied to the email and I was like, "Hey, crap, no, don't shut it down, I want to get in this. I don't have the cash for that kind of thing yet." The first year of marriage together my wife and I we only made $18,000 our first year of marriage. That's is $18,000, and most of it I think was loans. We were poor, poor. Guys I've been there, which is why I get so passionate about this when I see someone. I'm like, "I know you're close, I see you. I see your scenario. You are so close to this, just do it." I went through and I replied to the email. I said, "No, stop, wait." I was like some day I'm going to join that. I had no idea that four months later I was going to be working for him in the capacity that I was. I was already moving, I was already in motion. I already had a little funnel building agency. I was building funnels for other people, other businesses, and it went really, really well. I've told that before, but the reason why is because here's what happened. This is one of the most powerful lessons I feel like I could ever teach somebody is this right here. Is that there is a huge difference between personal and impersonal knowledge. Impersonal knowledge and personal knowledge are very, very different. They come at different values, they come at different weights, they hit harder. It was like Stephen, what's the difference between personal and impersonal knowledge? Well here you go. I get hired. I go and I'm sitting next to the man and I'm freaking out. I think I was mute. I literally did not say anything for the first two months I worked there because I was like I'm literally an arms length away from this guy who's already changed my life and now it's going to keep changing because my proximity is literally two feet from him. I could put my arm back and scratch his back, literally right there. I was like oh my gosh. I had clearly understood the extremely rare opportunity that that was to do that... I was sitting there next to him and for the first little while I would just sit and I was building funnels like crazy obviously, building whatever you needed to and just cranking stuff out. The deadline for getting things done was always that it needed to be done a day before whatever the day currently was. We were just hauling balls, we're just getting stuff done, it was tons of fun. As time went on and I started telling him like, "Hey, I got this podcast that I've started called Sales Funnel Radio." He'd be like, "Oh cool." Then he'd start giving some advice. I was like oh cool, "I'll totally go do it that way." Then I'd be, "Hey, I built this funnel" just kind of in passing and talk to him and he'd be like, "Oh that's awesome. Make sure you do this, this, and this." I'm like, "All right, cool. Yes I already done the X, Y, and Z. I added these things in." He's like, "Whoa, that's pretty cool." Then in passing or sitting next to him again and building stuff out. He'd be like, "Hey, how about one, two, and three?" I'm like, "Whoa, how about A, B, and C?" Was I learning that from a book? No, no I wasn't. It was extremely tailored knowledge to whatever scenario I was currently in. There's a huge difference between person and impersonal knowledge, it is a very common thing now for me when I go to an event for someone to walk up and be like ... So many people have said this to me now. "Stephen I've listened to all of your podcasts, I feel like I know you. I've spent tons of hours just listening to the stuff you said, your stories." I'll be like, "Wow." I forget I've told literally every aspect of my life on this podcast. I remember the same feeling. I saw Russell and I was like, "Man, I feel like I know you. I've consumed all of your stuff." The first time I ever met him, at that first Funnel Hacking Live that I ever went to. "I feel like I know you." You still don't though, you know what I mean. That's impersonal knowledge, and the difference is massive. Personal knowledge, in order for something to be qualified as personal knowledge I must get personal with you. Does that make sense? Meaning one on one. Russell shared a lot of personal knowledge with me. I'm not saying private stuff. What I'm saying is he would get ... It's personal knowledge to me. Where he would sit down and he would say something or disclose something or something about his life and now we're in the personal knowledge zone. When you get into that zone the knowledge is deeper, the knowledge sticks harder, and it is far, far, far faster. My progression is far faster when you get into that zone. It's one of the major reasons why the guru on the mountain is such an important principle. If you don't know what I'm talking about the guru on the mountain is the principle that as someone becomes more of an expert in their field they must charge more for people to get closer to them. Which is weird, it feels weird, especially for the expert. A lot of times that's a weird phase to start getting into, but the reason why is because it there ends up being so many questions and so many people asking questions, there has to be some kind of system to sort out who gets the guru's attention, who gets the experts attention. It's very, very fascinating. Understanding what this whole personal knowledge and impersonal knowledge thing. Impersonal knowledge yes, while it is fantastic, yes it is the starting place. You get it from the books, you get it from the podcast, whoever you're listening to, you're consuming from, it's still impersonal. You are seeking personal knowledge because of the speed that it gives you, the progression that it gives you. I was already hauling, I was going so fast, barely sleeping for years before I met Russell personally. I felt like I knew him beforehand, however I didn't, not personally. Then when I sit down and I start talking with him and he and I start sharing aspects about our life, in order for something to get personal I must share something, I must deliver and expose myself in some aspect of my life to the other individual. When that happens there is a bond that happens between whoever it is that you're doing that with. What's cool about that is that knowledge transfers very, very, very intimately where you can take it and run at a much faster pace. Is this making sense? This is a very, very, very big deal. You should seek to get that kind of knowledge and that's the reason why you should pay to get closer to the guru on the mountain. It's the reason why I'm joining Russell's Inner Circle, it's the reason that I am coaching now also right, which I told you guys about that. I'm not pitching you, I'm telling you that this is the reason, one of the reasons why I'm doing it is because those people who join, which thank you, what's up guys? I'm very, very excited. Those people who joined, those people that joined they're going to get from me personal knowledge. Because of that I know that I can help them be successful with it. It's like when somebody comes up and they're like, well what's the package you're going to get? What about this? What about this? What about this? Where are you going to get this, this, this, this? They start checking the boxes, things like that. It's not a check the box thing. One of the talents, one of the coolest talents you can ever develop is the ability to sit and listen to another individual and be actually listening. Don't be thinking about the next thing you're going to say. Sit and actually listening, and when they're done speaking be like, "You know what, I would do this." You give a piece of advice to another individual. That takes a certain kind of talent and you must have a certain amount of finesse and experience inside of your field in order to actually be able to pull that off. That's all I've done for the last year, over a year now as a Two Comma Club coach every Friday for hours. Then on stage, and then on the podcast, and all the other places, and that's the reason I do it is because I'm trying to develop that skill on purpose. Finally when I feel like I got to a point where yes, I've done this enough times, I can have my own little coaching thing. I want to deliver personal knowledge. Have you ever noticed how interesting it is when someone actually gets inside of an inner circle program or they get close to a guru or whatever, they seem to accelerate like crazy. You know what's fascinating? At the core of it they're getting the same information that you are impersonally. What's the difference? It's personal knowledge. It's personal knowledge, that's the difference. I hope that I'm hitting this on the head and that it's not weird or confusing. I hope that what I'm trying to say ... There's an X factor. I love the book Leadership and Self-Deception. This is another reason why impersonal knowledge either does or does not get transferred when you're with individuals. Have you ever hung around somebody and at the end of them, when they walk away you're like oh man, that conversation was a little bit fake? You know what I mean? I had an experience very recently, it was actually last week. I was speaking to somebody and the person was just fake, very not themselves, and people can see that. They can see straight through it. If you're being true to yourself, if you're being true to your own ... You have to be true to yourself to actually transfer personal knowledge. You should seek to be able to get that intimate as far as being able to help another individual in the form of knowledge transfer. Not all knowledge is created equal, it's not, the faster knowledge. Classic story, classic story right. One of Russell's Inner Circle people they didn't have the cash, well they had the cash but it was their last $25,000 and he went and he paid this $25,000 and kind of gave everything to get in there. He immediately was able to have very, very fast success because of the proximity to the other people that he's around, be able to take on that form on knowledge. What is it? You can either buy your way in or you can work your way in. What am I trying to say here? I'm trying to say that when you decide to actually go get coaching from somebody number one, make sure they know what they're freaking talking about. Don't just go get it from someone who's just a little bit further down the path. For products I feel like that works really, really well, but you should seek to learn from the people who know what they're doing and have a crap ton of experience doing it, which is why I offer the funnel coaching. Besides Russell I don't know another person who's built as many funnels as I have. That's not conceited, that's true. I just don't, you know what I mean? That's the reason why I'm like, "Hey, if you want to learn how to build some sweet funnels I got you." You know what I mean? At the core of it a funnel is an offer. We got to build offers. Funnels are just manifestations of the offer. That's all it is. Anyway, so what I want to do is that this great book, Leadership and Self-Deception. Really, really enjoyed this book. If you never read it it's absolutely fantastic. The first third of the book alone I feel like is the major core lesson. Anyway, there's a realness that the guru must have to be able to transfer that kind of knowledge to another person. It starts with this whole notion of being able to be true to themselves, like I was just saying. What I want to do real quick is I wanted to read a few different passages here from this book. This is a fantastic book. I actually really, really enjoy this book. I have marked it to death. My style for reading books guys, just so you know, is every time I read a book if there's a page where it's like man, that was really, really good I will fold the bottom corner of it so that I can pick the book back up later. I read this book I don't know how many years ago, but I've got all these corners folded down in the bottom of the book and that's when I can go look at the highlights again and be like oh yeah, that's what that was. The scenario that this book is talking about, the first little bit. This is a scenario I've been in and I can't tell that I've actually made the right decision every time. Where the scenario of the story, the book is telling a story and the story is that there's a young couple and the couple they have a kid, and the kid in the middle of the night, everyone is sleeping in the middle of the night, the kid starts crying. The dad kind of wakes up and acts like he doesn't hear it. Other dads what's up? How are you doing? I've done it too and he acts like he hasn't heard it. It's a brand new infant. I can't even feed the kid, I'll let her take care of it. I regret to say that I've done that before, we've all done things like that before. If I was face to face with you right now and I just said that that would be personal knowledge, but because it is a one to many styled messaged, sales message that's good to get to a one to many sales message. One to many as far as knowledge transfer that's not personal knowledge. If I said that to you one on one and I went into a little more detail we would now be in the personal zone and anything I said about funnels, or helping you later on, or whatever, that actually will affect your actual life. That's why you seek to get into the personal knowledge zone with your guru, with whoever the expert is that you're following. Pay them whatever they're asking. There was somebody who was trying to negotiate. Guys negotiating price, price is not real. There's no such thing as price. As far as getting close to somebody else when they're like, "Hey, why don't you come along," and why don't you come in and be like, "Hey, why don't you come along and do my coaching program?" "Hey, would you do it for this amount?" It's like, "No, you're missing the whole point." It's not about price, it's about value, it's completely different. Anyway, different side rant there. In the story of this book, in this book itself ... I'm kind of all over the place right now but hopefully that's okay. Just follow along with me. In this book this young couple no one's gotten the kid yet. The other one is sitting there thinking, "Hey maybe they'll get it. Maybe they'll get the kid. Maybe they'll get the kid." When you do not act true to yourself what you do is commit self-betrayal. Here's self-betrayal, this is what self-betrayal is. It actually defines it in the book Leadership and Self-Deception, self-deception. The first thing you should do is self-betrayal, it's one of the first things that you learn in this book. When you see your ability to help another individual and the opportunity to do so, and you do not it is an act of self-betrayal. It literally says an act contrary to what I feel I should do for another. An act contrary to what I feel I should do for another. What ends up happening when you commit acts of self-betrayal is this. He says, "When I betray myself I begin to see the world in a way that justifies my self-betrayal." That make sense? This is the theory of cognitive dissonance applied to self-betrayal. I'm getting way too deep on this episode. I hope that's okay, but let me wrap it all up here. I'm going to come full circle so that you guys understand what I'm trying to say here. When I betray myself I begin to see the world in a way that justifies my self-betrayal. Then when I see the world in a self-justifying way my view of reality becomes distorted. Does that make sense? If you are learning from somebody who cannot get to the personal stage with you, who cannot share of themselves, you will not get to the personal knowledge zone, which is the knowledge speedway. It's like the knowledge fast track. It's one of the major reasons why Russell's fun to learn from. How many stories does he tell about himself? How many stories do I tell about myself? When you are not willing to tell stories about yourself, whether it be slightly embarrassing or not, it doesn't matter. Are they true? Is the story true? I told you guys that story about me dancing around on stage for a little bit and I squatted down, I totally ripped my pants straight down my butt. I told you that. I told you that story for a reason. I am trying to practice being completely bare with the world. I'm trying to practice being completely open because when we speak face to face we will have gotten past all the pleasantries of society. How you doing? Good. How's your day? Awesome. What you been doing? This. Want to get past that crap. Let's get to the real stuff. What is it you actually want to get to? When you get to the personal knowledge zone with an individual and you cannot do it with somebody who is in the act of self-betrayal, which means when they see that they are able to help you they must ... I'm very excited here guys because in two hours I go live with my new coaching students. In two hours I go live with them. I love doing this. I do this every Friday. I've been doing it every Friday, 52 times. I went for four straight hours every single week for six months non-stop, no break with hundreds of students, diving deep with them into their business, getting personal, trying to transfer as much of the how-to knowledge as I can. That's the whole point of this episode I'm trying to make guys is that you must seek to get into the personal knowledge zone with the expert. Number two, that person and you cannot get to that if they are in the act of self-betrayal. You get to an act of self-betrayal by not helping somebody when you know you could.' For that reason in two hours when I go live with these new students that I've just taken on, I must first of all I must get vulnerable. I'm going to teach a little while before I actually start talking to any of them and actually coaching them on their businesses. I must get vulnerable, and as I get to that vulnerable stage they will do the same with me, and when they get vulnerable and not try and posture themselves and act like they're farther than they are, or act like I'm farther than I am, and when we get vulnerable we get to this spot where we can help each other as we are, not as we want to be seen. When that happens we will get to that personal knowledge zone which is the information fast track. I am completely aware that I had this massive catalyst and giant caffeine boost to my progression by sitting next to Russell. I know that. I'm not naïve of it, I know it. I'm completely aware of it. Someone once was like, "Well you had this completely massive advantage by sitting next to him." Yes, I worked my butt off to get there, I know that. I'm completely aware of it. I'm not going to act like that's not true, but it's because of my willingness to be vulnerable and his willingness to be vulnerable as well about where we are and our ability to actually help other people. The other individual will not allow themselves to be helped if they will not be vulnerable. Does that make sense? This is like a deep episode guys. I just hope that you understand that. That's one of those frustrating aspects for me. It's like the weirdest sixth sense and sad thing, talent development to see when people are not in that. There's a lot of times I've been on stage and I'll be standing there and I can tell the person's trying to posture. I understand there is an element to that. This is show business. There is an element, but you have got to not posture. I am begging you. When you get to Funnel Hacking Live that you be you, you do not posture, you do not act like you are farther than you are, but you are so charged, bright eyed and bushy tailed, just ready to take on the world. That attitude alone will get you father along than not knowing the next step. Does that make sense? I hope this is making sense. It's kind of a different kind of episode and I just wanted to get a little bit, I don't know if philosophical is the word for it, but it's just the pattern that I've noticed. Impersonal knowledge is good. Impersonal knowledge is good. It kind of sets the foundation and ground works so that when you actually get to meeting face to face with whoever the expert is you're trying to follow, you can get to the vulnerable stage because there's a ground work already. It does speed up the progression a lot. Then when you actually get to face to face and you actually start talking ... Anyway, it's very, very fascinating when you allow yourselves ... This is the definition of allowing yourself to be coachable. Does that make sense? When you are not in the act of self-betrayal. It's always funny, there was several masterminds that I've participated in. There's one or two masterminds I've been in though where I can tell some of the people in the room they really, really, really, really, really want everyone else to know that they're cool. It's like we get it, all right you're cool, I get it. If you just check your freaking pride at the door and be like, "Look, here are where my weaknesses are." You enter this zone, especially when the guru is also in a personal knowledge scenario and everyone has said I'm going to come as I am, let's all come as we are, and we get to this certain spot, oh my gosh there's magic that happens in those rooms guys. I mean that's what I crave. I've been a part of that many, many times. That's the reason I'm joining Russell's Inner Circle for real. I told him, I was like, "Dude, if you're cool with it man," I hope he's okay I'm sharing this. This is me getting personal. I said, "Dude, if you're cool with it don't give me any kudos, don't give me any handouts. I want to pay full price. I want to pay full price to join your Inner Circle." I'm already talking to him like crazy still, so why would you do that Stephen? I am honoring the system. I am not asking for a discount. I am respecting the zone that he has always lived in, the personal zone, he is that way with all of us. If you watch really what an attractive character is, if you look at the book Expert Secrets and it says develop an attractive character, a charismatic leader, you must get good at this if that's his thing. You must get good at being vulnerable. Stop caring how people see you. They're already seeing you as you are. If you're real with yourself about it, you stop the acts of self-betrayal and you get to these cool zones, it's like magic in those rooms. I absolutely love it and I crave it. It's very hard to get to those zones with people. The Army is the only place I've ever had the kind of brotherhood with another group that I've ever had ever. You know what I mean? The amount of trust and the reason why, one of the reasons why is because we get personal with each other. Meaning we get to the personal knowledge zone. You're sitting around, you've been through some crap for the past little bit, whatever it is. Doesn't mean you have to be suiting around or whatever. You know what I mean? There was a time we ran out of food for a while. We're all just sitting there like I lost 15 pounds I did not have to lose. When you're crawling around with those people and it's physically very challenging and demanding, there's a bomb that happens, and a trust that happens when you're shooting live rounds over each other's heads with the trust that the other person's not going to hit you. You know what I mean? It's a huge deal. That kind of brotherhood, the only other time, the only other time I have felt that close to a group of people is inside masterminds where everyone drops the crap, is real where they are, they get to the personal knowledge zone, they're not in acts of self-betrayal, everyone is giving without the intent to receive back, they're giving answers, they're giving their networks, they're giving their resources, they're giving their advice, they're giving their experiences, the lessons, the shortcuts. It's funny guys, the people who say the more in coaching programs are the ones who always make more, they always do. For whatever reason it's honoring the system, whatever that is. Anyway, it's a long episode guys and I hope that it makes sense and I know I kind of ranted and kind of rambled just a little bit, but I hope that you get kind of the picture of what I'm trying to paint here. If you are willing to get to one of those zones you, first of all will actually become coachable. I'm so excited you guys. I'm starting to get really, really pumped for the group that I've got coming in in two hours here. I've tried to preface the group. I'm going to dive deep with them in each one of their businesses, whether or not they have a funnel. If they have a funnel we'll critique it, if they don't we'll figure out the plan they need to go build. Then I'll give them a whole bunch of assets, whatever ones that are applicable to the scenario to help jump start them, but it's not going to work unless I come to them as I am and as long as they also show up as they are as well, and we're all just teachable, trainable, and honest with our scenarios. Doesn't mean don't be confident. Doesn't mean you got to crawl into the room on your hands and knees and be like, "Oh Mr. Humble," that's not what I'm saying at all. Just in your attitude of being able to be teachable and coachable. All right guys, that's it. Sorry for the long episode there but I hope that made sense and I will see you guys at Funnel Hacking Live. Please arrive coachable. Talk to you later. Hey, thanks for listening. Please remember to rate and subscribe. Got a question you want answered live on the show? Head over to salesfunnelradio.com and ask your question now.

情景1：询问结账退房时间 Me: What time is checkout? 我：什么时间结账退房？ checkout 名词：结账、检验 Clerk: You need to check out by 12 o’clock pm. 职员：您需要在中午12点之前退房。 check out 词组：结账离开 情景2：准备结账退房 Me: I’m checking out now. Can I have my bill, please? 我：我现在想结账。请给我账单，好吗？ bill 名词：账单、清单、钞票 Clerk: Sure. What’s your room number, Madam? 职员：好的，女士。您的房间号是多少？ number 名词：号码、数字 Me: It’s 1106. Here is my room card. 我：1106房间。这是我的门卡。 情景3：计价 Clerk: Wait a minute, please. Did you have breakfast this morning? 职员：请稍等。您今天用早餐了吗？ minute 名词：一分钟、一会儿 have breakfast 词组：吃早餐 Me: Yes, but I paid cash for it. 我：...

情景1：提出预订请求 Clerk: Hello, this is Grand Hotel. Can I help you, Madam? 职员：您好，这里是格兰德酒店，我能帮您吗？ Me: I’d like to book a room. 我：是的，我需要订一间房。 book 动词：预订、登记 情景2：选房间 Clerk: Sure, would you like a single room or a double room? 职员：好的，您想要单人房还是双人房？ single room 词组：单人房 double room 词组：双人房 Me: I’d like a single room with bath. 我：我想订一间带浴室的单人房。 with bath 词组：带浴室 情景3：确定入住时间 Clerk: When will you arrive at our hotel, Madam? 职员：女士，您什么时候能到达？ arrive at 词组：到达某地 Me: Around 15 to 4 this afternoon. 我：大约今天下午3点45分。 情景4：询问价钱 Me: What’s the rate, please? 我：请问房费是多少？ rate 名词：房费 ...

 What is your disorder? *EndometriosisAt what age did your disorder become a daily issue? *22Who were you before your illness became debilitating? *I had so much more energyWhat would you do if you were not dealing with your invisible illness? *I think I would have been more engaged in the world around meWhat would you like people to know about your daily life? *Post-hysterectomy it is so much better than before. I did normal daily life before, but it was hard some days especially when I was dealing with neuropathyWhat would make living and moving in the world easier for you? *No pain!Do you have any life hacks? *I had some hacks for dealing with pain like meds and stretches and resting in a dark roomWhat kind of support do you get from family or friends? *People to talk to mainly and help from my husband when I wasn’t always up to tasks/child issuesHave you ever had someone not believe you have an invisible illness because of your appearance? *No, because I didn’t really tell people about it, so no one knewHas this been a positive or negative experience? *Positive now that it’s resolved. Very negative beforeHow has your invisible illness affected your relationships? *It stresses things occasionally when I am feeling pain and low energy so often at homeIs there anything you are afraid to tell even the people closest to you? *Nope!Does the fact that your disease is invisible change how healthcare professionals treat you? *Yes. I had to push HARD for a hysterectomy with multiple doctors.What is your best coping mechanism? *Reading, coloring, spending time aloneWhat are you the most fearful of and hopeful for in the future? *No fears. Hopeful for more energy to engage in life and not feel like everything is too overwhelming to accomplishWhat is your favorite swear word?Fuckers (applicable in 2017 in particular)Is there anything you *don't* want to talk about? Is there a subject we should avoid during the interview? *Nope! Everything is fair game:)What is the hardest and/or best lesson your condition has taught you?To advocate hard for yourself. Don’t stop pushing for answers and action from doctors. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today we are starting a new series and going on a completely different journey. This journey we will be on for only three weeks. So please come on this journey with us where two shall become one. There are four things that really destroy marriages. They are called “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. First Horseman – Criticism. The first one is criticism. In criticism, you frame your complaints as if there’s something defective in your partner. One puts the other one down. It is a global description of a flaw in your partner’s personality. There is a direct implication that something is wrong with your partner’s character. e.g.: Second Horseman – Defensiveness. The second horseman is defensiveness. When you feel under attack, people get defensive. Defensiveness is an attempt to protect yourself; to defend your innocence or to ward off a perceived attack. Sometimes it is done by counter-attacking, or by whining (innocent victim stance). e.g. “Me? What about you?” The Third Horseman: Stonewalling. The third Horseman is Stonewalling. In Stonewalling, the listener withdraws from the interaction while staying in the room. There is an effort not to give a clue that he or she is even listening. You will see this type of non-verbal behavior: The final Horseman is contempt. Contempt is really something to eliminate when it exists in a relationship. It includes things like threats, name calling, and insulting. To do that, we have to change a lot of things in your way of relating.

In March 2015, Yield to the King Ministry was started when I clearly heard from God that this was my new assignment. I know for some of you this may sound a little "woo-woo" and maybe even a bit much, but for me it was the beginning of an amazing journey.   The dialogue in my head went something like this: God: "I'm going to bring about a change in your life." Me: "What sort of change, God?" “Please do show me if it’s my heart or attitude.” God: "I want you to start a faith-based nonprofit and dedicate it to Me  I want you to help those in need." Me: "Lord a new organization at my age? How am I going to do that if I'm working everyday?" God: "You may take off from your job and I'll care for you. Be ready to give up some of what you have and what you are used to doing." Me: "Really Lord, but I'm not ready to retire nor am I prepared." God: "Do what I've asked you to do, trust Me and watch Me work." Join us Tuesday, August 1, 2017 at 3:30pm, PDT, as we discuss the mission from God to impact homelessness in the greater Seattle, Washington, area. As the founder and Executive Director of Yield to the King Ministry hear from me directly and learn how impacting the life of one homeless person at a time is the work of Jesus Christ. Hope 4 Today is an outreach program of Yield to the King Ministry.  You can contact us by visiting our website www.yieldtothekingministry.org.   

How Fiona Robertson travelled the world on a shoestring, discovering her life path as she went. Plus the best travel food ever!Hi everybody, I'm Barbara Fernandez, the Rocking Raw Chef, here with my Clean Food, Dirty Stories: one to entertain, the other to inspire.I help people stamp out stress, depression and fatigue over at RockingRawChef.com, and today's title is:Adventure was my missing nutrientIn addition to this story, at the end of this episode I'll share with you the best travel food I know. It's not only packed with nutrients and easy to carry everywhere, but it's also the best food to help eliminate parasites from the body.OK enough hints from me, let's get on with the story.I am super excited to be joined here today for our story by Fiona Robertson, the Body Whisperer, who helps people understand who they want to be. Fiona has travelled all over the world and has some amazing adventures to share with us which I think you will find very inspirational.So Fiona, welcome to the Clean Food, Dirty Stories podcast!Fiona: Yeah, thank you very much for having me. Thanks for inviting me. Nice to meet you here finally, face to face.Me: Yes, exactly! Cause we've known each other for a while, right? But it's been like an internet based...Fiona: An internet-based friendship, yeah, I know (laughs).Fiona's storyMe: Super! So I know that you've got, you've had quite a lot of adventures, but I think you mentioned that your taste for adventure perhaps came from your childhood. Is that right? You said you felt quite different as a child, can you maybe explain why?Fiona: Yeah, 4 years old we went to South Africa to live as a family. We kind of grew up with no shoes. So basically just kind of playing with lizards and centipedes and understanding all about nature and just wanting to be outside climbing trees, being a tomboy.A different way to grow upIt was just a different way for me to grow up. And when we moved back to the UK, I realized I was just different. I wanted to be outside playing in different ways and not playing giggly, schoolgirl games.Me: So how old were you when you moved back to the UK?Fiona: I was nine. Yeah, nine, nine and a half, something like that. Just kind of old enough, over the formative years, you know, that I'd really got a different country and kind of life under my skin. You know, I'd learnt Afrikans, I'd learned there was another language, I'd learnt there were different things going on. We were in South Africa at the time of apartheid as well, so you get a lot of different experiences, you know? We travelled there too on holiday of course.You see, I didn't think it was different, but it is, you're in a game park for a holiday and there's cheetas walking in the car park. It's exciting! And that's what my story's about, I didn't realize that adventure was so under my skin.Into the militaryMe: And so you said that you signed up to work with American Express in the military, is that right?Fiona: Yeah, one of my first jobs when I finished college and school and everything, I didn't want to go on to be an interior designer. That was my dream. But when they mentioned to me that it was four years foundational course and then I could specialize, I was like, “You've got to be kidding me! I can't sit still for that long! I've gotta be out there doing something!”I was interested in travel and so I got a job with American Express and it was on the American Air Force bases in the UK. So I started in High Wyckham and I was basically doing their travel tickets, their military travel tickets, then I ended up going and reliefing on the other different air force bases. So Greenham Common, Huntingdon, the ones in East Anglia, and just travelling around and doing that. Going and doing my travel, my specialist travel stuff for the American air force base.A different worldIt was cool because you walk into a different world. You go on the American an air force base and that land is owned by America. They have their happy hour, they have their bowling alleys, they have their shops, they have their own ways and cultures of doing things.Me: Wow. That just strikes me as really weird, you know? Like I've never, I mean even though I've lived in the UK for quite a while now. I've never been on any of the bases, and so part of me always just thinks, 'you're not contributing to the local economy', you know.Fiona: Oh they are, they don't all live on base, they live outside. But that was when I was nineteen, I started working on the American air force bases.The perfect job in travelLooking back now I just think what a perfect job for me. Working in travel and on an American air force base, you know?Me: So you organized travel for them, is that right?Fiona: I organized travel for them and basically with the old Prestel sets and the old ABC travel guide books we found air flights and all that kind of stuff. So I took all my exams for APTA travel. After that I went on to do incentive travel and after that I went on to sort of venue finding. Anything to do with people and traveling and moving. But incentive travel was very interesting, I liked that too.Me: What's incentive travel?Fiona: Imagine that you've got top salesmen and saleswomen and they're given an incentive. If they're the top team in the whole company in the whole of the country, then they get sent to some glorious destination and everything's paid for. So we used to organize all that, you know? With the ground agents and meals and restaurants. Down to exactly what kind of napkins would be on the table. It was like organizing a big wedding every few months, you know? Everything from the chauffeurs to the taxis to the kind of color-coordinating the flowers, everything.Import, export and video camerasMe: And then you went into a very different kind of business, right? With video cameras or something?Fiona: Yeah, I had another job in between time working for actually Ocean Pacific and I was on the export desk there. And I used to do all the certificates of export, and that was interesting for me. Because other people couldn't understand what these guys were saying, and I was just able to tune into what maybe the Greeks or the Spanish or the...You know, they were speaking pidgin English and wanting to be understood and then I was able to tune in somehow to what they were actually trying to tell me.And then I went on selling military cameras into industry, and again I worked with a lot of people from all over the world. So I listened to their languages and I listened to their accents and I understood about their culturesMe: So what happened when you wanted to go travelling? Because you said that at one point you had this business and then you sold it, is that right?Fiona: Yeah, from running the company I was working with I then set myself up for myself and found all my own clients and things and did that for two or three years. And I woke up one morning and thought 'God do I want to be doing this in five years' time? No! Two years? No!'Time to go travellingMe: So was there any specific incident that prompted this decision? Or was it literally from one day to the next waking up and going 'I don't want to do this'?Fiona: I thought that the company that I'd set up was my baby. I'd been with this other guy who was in the same industry though he ran a different company. So when we split up I think that was probably one of the kick up the backsides. I just said, “No, this is my baby, I want to hang onto this baby, this company” because Vision Source was my baby.But then when I woke up in the morning I just went, 'oh my God what am I doing? Do I really want to be doing this?' And when it was such a loud, resounding 'no', I couldn't not listen to that. I really had to think, 'no I'm just not going to be satisfied, it's going to kill me if I stay in this office and do this'. Even though it was doing really, really well.I managed to find somebody who was interested in selling, I sold the company to them. I rented my house out and I just took a rucksack and started travelling around the world.Me: So then how did you start? I think you said you bought an around the world ticket or something? I'm asking because, you know, if there's somebody listening who thinks 'oh I'd really like to travel around the world', I think some people wouldn't even know where to start, you know?A pink-haired rebel going round the worldFiona: Yeah, I was thirty-nine, I dyed my hair pink. Me: That's hilarious!Fiona: I was like wanting to be rebellious. Most people when they see the photographs kind of say, “Were you fifteen then?” and I say “No, thirty-nine, dyed my hair pink”. And I had my rucksack, a friend just said, you know, grab a rucksack. You buy a ticket that goes one direction around the world, and you can't go backwards so you always find a destination that forwards. And I think I didn't go that off the grid really. Thinking about it in retrospect it was fairly obvious.South Africa I started because that's where I've still got family living. Then, you know, Thailand, Singapore, Fiji, Cook, New Zealand, Australia and America. I really did not want that to end. That was just...no way.Me: But I think at the beginning I mean I imagine you would have had a decent amount of money to do that from the sale of your business, right? At some point did the money run out? I ask because you said that at one point you were just very trusting and that you thought, 'OK how can I just go to this new place with no money and nowhere to stay?'Fiona: I didn't...the business wasn't sold until I came back from my travels. They owed me the money. They were supposed to be selling my cameras and selling everything while I was away, and they just basically didn't. So I had to sort of deal with things until I came back. And my house that was rented only rented for a few months rather than for the whole year. So yes.Me: Wow.How travelling can be cheaper than staying at homeFiona: In fact it's cheaper to travel around the world than it is to live in a house and try and support yourself.Me: Whoa, you're kidding! Really?Fiona: No, I mean you stay in backpackers. You've got no material needs, you've got your shorts, your t-shirts, your toothbrush, you bring everything back to real, real basics. So you've got a book, you finish a book, you swap it for another book. It's just cheap. You stay in youth hostels, you meet fantastic people. Some of them obviously an awful lot younger than I was at the time. I was thirty-nine, they were all on their first out of university experience, they were travelling the world finding out who they were. And I didn't do that till later, but...Then you've also got different generations who decide to do it. But staying in youth hostels, they're pretty much...they're a good crowd of people. And when I really kind of left my rucksack in the first place, I locked it up, I tied it up, I did all the things that I thought I had to do. And then I walked out of the youth hostel and I went, 'no, damnit, I'm gonna go back and I'm gonna unlock everything. We're all in the same boat, we're all from different countries, we're all in the same boat. I've been travelling on an open-sided bus in a tent, on ants' nests and all the rest of it. This is not gonna be a problem for me'.A successful mental mindsetSo mental mindset: “I' am not gonna have any problems with anybody touching any of my stuff. I got nothing they want to steal, we're all in the same boat, we've all got like...” We had our old CD players, we didn't have mobile phones and those kind of things then.Me: That's true, yeah.Fiona: And I carried my passport and my money and my tickets with me in a little bumbag as we had then. Everybody was in the same boat and if you're that open and trusting and you believe you're OK, this is very much the work that I do now too funnily enough, but if you have that vibration running through you, you'll be OK. If you have the vibration running through you like...People before I left wanted to say to me, “Oh my God! Really? You're going to this country? Well don't let anybody put anything in your bag” and “don't put your bag out of your sight” and really all their fears they were trying to put onto me before I left.But if you have this kind of like 'Do you know what? We're all in the same boat, we're all wanting to be experiencing travel and different places and different people and food and...Me: Yeah. So then...Wow! I'm still reeling actually from the previous thing you said about it being cheaper to, you know, travel the world and stay all over the place than to stay in one place, you know. I'm going to be thinking about that for a while!On to Reiki trainingBut I know that you said that at some point you started just like doing things for people to kind of pay your way, right?Fiona: Yeah, it wasn't so much to pay my way but it was just to experiment. During my travels I decided that I would finish off my Reiki. That was a funny story as well.So I'd been travelling, I ended up in Cape Town and I decided to go for Reiki because I enjoyed Reiki. And this guy gave me Reiki and I was completely knocked out. When I sort of came round, he said, “Oh something came to me when I was doing your Reiki. If you're interested in pursuing, maybe finishing off your masters or something like that to do with Reiki, I know a very good woman. She lives in Prince Albert.”And he told me where that was and I thought 'well that's kind of up from where my dad lives on the wilderness in South Africa, I could go and see Valentine and have some time with her'.So I thought about it for a while and I rang, and I rang, and I rang, and I remember writing in my journal, “Bloody hell! This woman is impossible to get hold of!”Changing your thought patternsI scrubbed that out and I put “This woman is easy to get hold of”. I did have a phone, beg your pardon, one of the first kind of Nokia phones. She rang me. So imagine – I'd been saying all this time, 'this woman is really hard to get hold of'.Me: Yeah, and of course she was then.Fiona: Just by scrubbing out that whole thought pattern and changing my thought pattern, I'd actually said 'this woman's gonna be...and she's really easy to get hold of'. My phone then rang and she rang me to say, “Great, I've had your messages. When can you come?”Me: Super! Wow!Travelling with the flowFiona: So I was on this roll when I was travelling of trying to be this very open, flowing person who wanted to experience how easy and safe the world was. Rocking up in an airport like in Australia, I hadn't got any Australian dollars, I hadn't got anywhere to stay. It was kind of one o'clock in the morning when we landed. I wanted to find out how easy it was just by allowing myself to feel easy.Me: And so what happened in that Australian airport at one in the morning?Fiona: Oh God it couldn't have been easier! They are so set up. Maybe in another country it would have been harder.So you arrive in the airport and most people had somewhere to stay and they were being picked up by people. I walked in and I thought, 'oh a cash machine, fine, pop my card in, get cash out, that's easy'. By the cash machine there's a desk there, a welcome desk, there's brochures everywhere for youth hostels and everything. And I thought, 'I wonder if I ring them now if anybody would be on the desk, or if I should have to sleep in the airport'. Which I had done before.And so I rang and somebody said, “Yeah, yeah, no problem, we can come and pick you up, we'll see if there's anybody else coming this way. We'll be there in about an hour”. And they were. Super polite, super easy. Picked up my bags, picked me up, took me to the youth hostel in Perth. Got me a room and that was it.Don't plan too much in advanceMe: Wow. So generally you found that that's the way it worked, right? With the trusting and that it would be easy and things just kind of like fell into place?Fiona: I was told before I left by a girlfriend of mine also called Fiona. She said to me, “Don't book too much up in advance because so many things are changing the whole time. Try not to plan too much because if you plan, you're planning out what the universe might have to deliver to you. Something more fun, something more exciting.”Me: Oh yeah, that makes total sense.Fiona: So don't plan too much. I kind of took it from the other point of view, that I'm a planner, I'm a scheduler, I'm a bulldozer. I'll make things happen. And I was really trying to be experiencing from a different perspective. This was my opportunity to really experience that to live in the flow.And that's really what I want to try and do in my everyday life as a mom now as well. Be more open and understanding and intuitive to...'OK so why did that happen then? Why are they ill?' So this is what brought me...OK raw food kind of came in there as well, but it really brought me to sort of try and interpret what I was being shown.And if you happen to get arrested...Me: Yeah. So did you have moments when you were travelling when the flow just stopped? And you started to feel fear or you were just like 'Oh this isn't working” or... If you did, how did you get back into flow?Fiona: Yeah, I'm trying to think about it. I got complacent, I was in Thailand and I stayed longer than I should so I was kind of arrested when I left.Me: Oh my God, you were arrested!Fiona: Yeah, because I'd overstayed my visa. You're only allowed to stay there a certain length of time so when I left, I just handed in my passport. And they pulled me off to this room and they really interrogated me and I'm just like, 'I was just kind of complacent and I didn't really think about it' and “Well I'm leaving now so just let me go!” (laughs)Me: And so what happened? Did they let you go?Fiona: They let me go, but they made me wait it out. I think I missed that flight so I had to get another one or something. Yeah, they wanted to really make a point there that you can't be complacent. So I thought OK... I wasn't really in charge of looking at my dates in that respect.When you have to push a littleAnother time was when I was in Australia. I was coming down the west coast of Australia and it became a bit of a rush. So I knew that my visa ended at a certain date, I had to be in Sydney so that I could get my flight to New Zealand. The people I was travelling with were under no speed whatsoever. So I realized then 'I have to do something, I have to move this forward faster'. Then I became out of the flow and I was very proactive into getting things moving. And I don't know what would have happened if I'd just bummed along, I don't know.Me: Well yeah but I mean, but then you...that was kind of necessary, right?Fiona: Yeah.A Thailand detox adventureMe: Sometimes you have to do that right? And then you said that at one point you said you kind of discovered raw food and detox and you started coaching girls on your travels?Fiona: I did, that was really fun.Me: How did that happen?Fiona: I was in Thailand and I'd done Thai massage, Thai cooking. And I'd said to the girl that I'd met when I was travelling...I said “God, you know we need to be doing something that we would never, ever dream about doing when we went home”. She said, “Yeah I agree, we need to do something that's kind of off the wall”. I said, “Exactly!”I walked into this bar just to order a water and there was a leaflet on the desk that said The Sanctuary. And it was for detoxing. So I took the flyer and I said, “This really, really hits me! Let's go and try this!” I spoke to the guy behind the bar and he said it's a really cool place in Koh Pang Yang.That's where we went and did detoxing, and they had a fantastic raw restaurant. I'd never experienced raw food before. So we did the detox and I learned what I could from Moon, who was the guy who ran the place and the time. I looked at these menus of these foods and of course your tastebuds change when you do a detox. This was a full detox, colon cleanse, doing enemas, coffee enemas and everything else. Met some fantastic people, had some great conversations, we slept a lot.Simple food for radiant resultsWe met all sorts of shamans, all sorts of stuff. And then I realized afterwards that myself and my friend, our bodies had completely changed, our body temperature had changed.In about three weeks after that, we went for two weeks to another island and we did absolutely nothing. We just ate very, very simply, just raw food. So tomatoes and everything. The restaurants there were very confused. We didn't want the Thai food, we just said, “Basic, plain plate of tomatoes, that's all we want”. So we learned how to say that and we were doing that. We radically shifted some weight and we radically...our bodies changed and our whole energy was completely different. I was like, 'geez I like this! I get this! I feel awesome, I feel radiant!' We were just having so much fun!The coaching beginsMe: So then you started coaching girls? To help them...Fiona: Yeah then in the next place I went to I met some young girls. And a couple of them had said, “We're on our last leg”. They were kind of going the other way around the world. And one of them had kind of said, “You know, I'm a nurse and I left that because I wanted to find myself, I wanted to find out what I really wanted to do. And here I am on the last leg of my journey and I don't think I've found myself at all!”Magical questionsI said, “Oh, OK”. So I just started asking her some questions, and I set her some tasks for the evening. I said, “What do you want to do?” And she said, “I've got no idea!” I set her some tasks for example, I think one of them was 'a hundred and one things that make you happy'. How easy. And setting out what her perfect day would include. They were two of the simplest tasks that I thought that she might actually do or might actually enjoy doing.And the next morning when we were kind of...She was leaving and I was just having breakfast. And she was like, “Oh my God!” She said, “I totally get what I wish I'd known before. I know what it is that I want, I know what makes me happy, I know this and I know that and I know the other” and I was like 'oh my God'. And then just other conversations, it just seemed to be natural for me that when I was speaking to somebody...Not telling them what they should do, but kind of like, 'have you ever thought about what it is you'd like to do? What it is...Who you'd like to be, what you'd like to wear? How you'd like to sound, speak? Do you enjoy singing? Dancing? What is it?' All the different things that make you who you want to be.Me: Wow.Fiona: It came from that, really. Just having conversations. Nothing structured, but just allowing people to find out for themselves what they liked about life, about being alive.Finding a travel partnerMe: And then at one point you met your Dutch partner, right? How did that happen?Fiona: Yes, we met in Australia and we just started travelling together. We were going the same route together. Very interesting conversations. He allowed me to be very profound and very deep. And I found something new about myself as well, which normally I would not have had those kind of conversations with people. In a very deep, delving, wondering, curious, inquisitive, wanting to know more. So that was kind of refreshing and probably why we stuck together for so long because we allowed each other to have those kind of conversations. And I found myself a different kind of person. That I didn't agree with everything that he said, or I had an opinion. I found my strength from having those kind of conversations too, I'd had a strong interior. And I found that I knew what I wanted, let's put it that way.Back home and pregnantMe: I know at some point your trip around the world ended. And then you were...you were back at home feeling sad, right? But then you were...you started travelling again when you were three months pregnant, is that right?Fiona: (laughs) Yeah, I got back to my house in Oxford. We stayed there for a while and I'm just like, 'God, I don't want to be here because I'm gonna end up doing what I used to do and I don't want to do that'. The world's a bigger place, you know?So I was three months pregnant, I was age 40, and I said “Right, that's it. We're gonna take a caravan, and we're gonna find somewhere that makes my heart melt. That really fills my heart, that makes me feel fulfilled”.Me: Wow, what did your partner say? Was he surprised? Or was he like 'yup'...Fiona: He was cool for that, he's now back in Holland, he's not here with me in France. He couldn't make it work for himself. But that's OK. So that was it. He said, 'yeah, great! Let's have an adventure'.An adventure to find your ideal homeWe took a caravan and basically I had a tick list of the things that we wanted. So what would you want if you had everything you could possibly imagine? You'd want the sea and you'd want the mountains. And you'd want the outdoor life because South Africa's under my skin. I'd have the plants in the garden, hibiscus plants and palm trees. It would be very green.So we started travelling, you know, down the coastal route of France, and kind of 'does this place? No. This place doesn't feel good. Does this place?' And “How will you know when you find it?” he used to keep saying. “I'll just know, I'll just know”.Me: And so how long were you travelling before you found it? Because most people wouldn't leave when they were three months pregnant, right? Cause they'd be thinking about 'oh my God'...No tests, no scansFiona: I didn't have any tests, I didn't have any scans, I didn't have anything. And I was huge, I had like a huge baseball, like a beach ball stuck out in front of me. My son ended up being five kilos, he was a big boy. But I was a very happy mom, and I was just really, really happy being pregnant and travelling.Me: And so where was he born? Was he born before...Fiona: He was born in Holland. So we stayed here, we found the place, we found Biarritz Saint Jean De Luz. And I imagined us living here what it would be like. We both had tears in our eyes and it just felt so homely, we had left and we'd come back. And when we came back it felt like we'd come home. So it was all feeling-based.Me: Yeah, I'm the same, I'm very feeling-based so I can totally relate to that.No French, no job, no baby knowledge...Fiona: And so then we found the house and then we went back to Holland. We had Micah in Holland, we lived in a holiday home for two months. Micah was my eldest who's now twelve. He was one month old when we moved back here. I knew nothing about babies, I knew zip! Nothing! Nada! I had his sister who helped me go shopping and all the rest of it. And I was breastfeeding and I thought, 'Well what else do I need to know?' I probably sound like such a hippy!Then we came here, we didn't speak French, we didn't have a job, we had a house, a big house. And we had a baby, and my big dog, he was with us as well, Milo. I sometimes wonder how I managed but I used to speak to my spirit animal and for some reason she used to guide me through and make me feel very comfortable and very safe. And that's how I did it.Me: Wow. And then...well, you speak French now, right?Fiona: I don't think I could ever call myself a good speaking French person. I do my best.Me: Well yeah but you make the effort, right? You do what you can, right?Fiona: Oh yeah, I make myself understood. And even funnily enough when we first moved here he would say to me, “What did they say?” I'd say, “I couldn't repeat it, I don't know what they said. But I know it's OK. And we need to do this, this and this”. It was just like an infusion.Me: Yeah, well like it was when you heard people speaking with different accents before, right? That's cool.Fiona: So I was here on an adventure.The world can come to youMe: Well and I know that you said that you kind of had the world come to you, right? Fiona: Correct, correct.Me: So what happened there?Fiona: What a great thing.Me: And how did you start that, actually?Fiona: My partner at the time was trying to work in Holland and travel. And I just said, “This isn't working, let me have a go”. I'd just had my second baby and he'd just stopped breastfeeding. And I opened up Retreat Biarritz, which is basically a detox retreat. I was running it from home, we had two studios that we'd built. People were staying in the studios and I was basically doing for them what I'd learnt to do when I was in the Sanctuary.So basically they're doing three day fast, colon cleanse, learning all about raw food. We did raw food kitchen. Then I used to take them hiking in the mountains, I used to take them to the beach, I took them to the hammam. We took them to the local markets. Just so that they could have a holiday experience while they were here.Me: That's fantastic, that's really great. Wow. So do you still...what do you do now? I know you do a lot of things, but do you still run the retreats now?Detox retreatsFiona: I still run the retreats for small groups of people. Sometimes individuals come, and again from all around the world. I mean I've had ladies from Greece, America, Australia, Russia. And they just find me, God knows how they find me. They come and they go, “I'd really like to come and work with you”. And I'm like, “OK do you just want a detox? I can just do a straight detox for you”.But at some point always the conversation comes up. They're in an old story or they're stuck, you know? 'I used to have a body like this' and 'I don't understand why my body does this'. And then the body whispering seems to sort of come in, and we have that intuitively guided conversation that helps them understand more about their body.Me: So then how does the body whispering work? Can you give us just sort of like a short, I don't know, a little brief idea?How body whispering worksFiona: Oooh, yeah, how does it work! Goodness me! Basically a lot of the ladies who come, they are stuck in a particular story. There's something that they haven't digested emotionally. It could be that they're feeling anger, but then I kind of go beyond that, what's under that. And if you're feeling anger or resentment and things, often what I'm feeling is that people are feeling very disconnected. They're not feeling any connection to other people, but they're not feeling safe.So one of the main things I do is I help them to feel what it feels like to feel safe. And most people, they have no idea what their safe place feels like. When they can discover what their safe place feels like, you've almost got something to back into when things don't feel comfortable for you. When the shit's hitting the fan or you're at a dinner table or there's a conversation going on that you're not feeling comfortable with, you can kind of go, 'hang on a second, where am I?'Tuning into your bodyZone in – some people might call it being centered or whatever, but you zone in and tune into yourself. You get out of your thinking, analyzing, bulldozing head and you get into your body. So you reconnect with your body and you go, 'wow, there I am'.And it's like 'OK so what's kicking off at the moment? Does it have anything to do with me?' And your body is able to kind of respond to you when you understand how your body works. Your body would kind of say to you, “It's got nothing to do with you”.But you can pick up who it is in the room that's really got the energy, the strongest energy in the room that's affecting you. And you can say, 'OK so if that's the person, has what they've got going on got anything to do with me? No. Back off'. You can back off, you can get back in your own energy.How most of us calm our nervesWhat I found was I used to overeat. When I was in the company of my ex particularly. He had a very chaotic mind unless he was focused, he was ultra, ultra focused, but otherwise he was chaotic. Very argumentative, a devil's advocate. But when he was kicking off, I would find that I would overeat because I wanted to shut that off. Me: Oh wow, OK.Fiona: And I calmed down my nerves... The best and the quickest way to calm down your nerves when you're stressed is for a lot of people to eat. When we don't feel safe, we eat. And our body is protecting us by having the chemical reaction that goes on, the hormones that are released in the body, they lay down fat. That's the body protecting itself. Basically the adrenaline and everything that's going on...There are toxins that run through our body, and I didn't realize how overvigilant I was because of my childhood. Certain things that happened there. I didn't realize how overvigilant I was and how aware I was of feeling empathically what was going on around me. So my only way to control that was food.Discovering how you really feelThat doesn't really tell you what body whispering is. Body whispering for me, when I'm on a call with somebody, if I'm talking to them, I'm tuning in to them. So I can teach them how they feel. Basically ninety-nine percent of anybody who's around doesn't have a clue how they feel. They think, 'oh God that doesn't feel nice' but they automatically go into the thing that makes them feel better which is eating. Or drinking, or smoking, or shopping or whatever it is. I concentrate purely with people to do with food.So basically I can connect in with them and I'm saying “OK how do you feel about that situation?” And they go into their heads and they start describing it in mental ways. I'm like “OK fine, now bring yourself into your body because you're mentally describing and giving me mental feedback. Bring it back from your body. What are you feeling in your body?” And often they'll pick something up but I'm able to help them hone in to what the feeling really is so that they can recognize it the next time.Me: Yeah, I get it, you're teaching people basically how to...Fiona: Read their bodies.Me: Read their bodies, yeah. That's very cool.Fiona: And also what's happening to me is that when I'm reading their body... Even over Skype, it doesn't have to be live, even over Skype. I can say, “OK so I'm picking up...So a thought came to me, I've just been asked to ask you this question. What does this got to do with that?” or “Would this resonate with you?” So I'm allowing myself to be open that I'm picking up something for them.A body scan offerMe: Wow. And so I know that you have something pretty cool going on at the moment which is a body scan offer I think. Do you want to say something about that?Fiona: Yeah, I offer people if they're interested to find out what the undercurrent is that's going on through their body. So basically I help people understand the undercurrent that's going on. There's nothing more responsive to your thoughts than your body.That being said, if you don't know what you're thinking, then how can you possibly change your thoughts? So often people are saying mantras or they're saying positive thoughts. But the undercurrent that goes on behind that is often very subconscious. I call it on a soul level, when you have total disbelief on that ever happening for you. It could be to do with money, but I talk to people about their bodies.How it worksSo what I ask people to do if they're really interested is they can come forward and they can have a body scan. I can have half an hour with them, I ask them some questions. They're very kind of open, big questions that allow me to see where they're coming from. And for example what makes them really happy or really sad, and then I can gauge what's going on. I can gauge their stress levels, and I can feed back to them what's going on and what's the most likely reason things are not working for them. Even if they've been dieting and detoxing and exercising for years. But there's something going on in their bodies that they haven't allowed themselves to let go of. They're still hanging onto something and it's hanging onto their body.Me: And so if people want to know more about that, where's the best place for them to find you and to look at that offer?Where to find FionaFiona: OK I have my website which is fionarobertson dot co. And I don't know how we can do that, but...Me: Well I'll link to things in the show notes anyway.Fiona: Yeah, I'll send you a link to the body scan so that people can come through and they can test out the body scan. Basically have a very happy-go-lucky conversation with me. And yeah, just find out a little bit more about who you are and what your body's asking for, funnily enough. What she needs, what she wants and what she's lacking the most. And it's not nutrients on a vitamin and mineral scale, it's nutrients of other descriptions.Me: Wow super, OK. And is that a free consultation, or...?Fiona: Yeah.Me: OK. I thought so, I just wanted to make sure I said it because some people, that's...they'll want to know that. And then, yeah, hopefully...Well I'm sure that there'll be a lot of people interested in that because I mean I just think that's fascinating!Well thank you so much Fiona for being here to share your story!Fiona: Oh, thanks!Shed your baggageMe: It's been quite a...it's certainly given me a lot to think about around... Well around world travel, really, because I love travelling and I have travelled quite a bit. But I'm gearing up to do some more in the future with not very much baggage at all, so that's...Fiona: Oh, so nice to get rid of your baggage! And what a nice analogy as well, get rid of all your baggage!Me: Yup, all kinds of baggage! (laughs)So thank you so much for that inspiration. It's been really great to talk to you!Fiona: Thank you so much for inviting me, thank you so much.Me: You're very welcome, thank you, have a super, super day!The best travel foodRight, so fantastic! I hope you enjoyed that story. And I mentioned at the beginning of this episode that I'd share with you the best travel food that I know. And that food is...dates!Dates are an amazing food. They're easily portable, you can just pop some into a bag and put them in your suitcase. You can even carry them on a plane with you – at least as of today you can still do that. Properties of datesNow in terms of properties of dates, the first thing about dates is that they are amazing for the digestive system. This is because they are one of the best foods for getting rid of parasites. They basically bind onto and then help sweep away all kinds of nasty stuff: parasites, heavy metals, bad bacteria, viruses, fungus and especially Candida. And if you've got a tendency to constipation, dates can help there too.In addition, contrary to what you might think as they're very sweet, they're excellent for helping to balance blood sugar. The fruit sugar that they contain also helps feed the muscles and refuel the brain – so they're a great brain food too. As well as a great food for sport.And if you often feel stressed, dates can help you there as well. They contain almost 70 bioactive minerals that support the adrenals as they work to help us face various life challenges. On top of that, they've got a huge amount of amino acids which elevates their levels of potassium which in turn helps stop formation of excess lactic acid. Another good reason why they're really good for sport, as well as anti-stress.They're also said to be abundant in anti-cancer properties, particularly for abdominal cancer.And because dates are so high in nutrition, they can help with weight control. For example, some Muslims eat dates with water to break a fast before they eat anything else and one benefit to that is that it helps avoid overeating at that first meal which I think is really cool.Why dates are the best travel foodAnother very cool thing about dates is that if like Fiona you want to go on a travelling adventure and you're not quite sure about how you'll find food, some people say that a wrapped up date in your pocket or in your bag can act like a good luck travel charm. It can ensure you'll always find something to eat. Of course yes you can always eat the date itself, but some say that this little fruit can help you find more than that.For those who want to know what exact nutrients dates contain, well there are a lot. But the ones I'll mention here in addition to potassium are calcium, iron, phosphorus, sodium, magnesium and zinc, as well as vitamin K, vitamin A, thiamin, niacin and riboflavin. It's got loads of stuff.How to eat datesAs to how to eat dates, well you just grab a handful, right? Be sure though to remove the pit inside first please, we don't want an impromptu trip to the dentist. And just 4 to 6 dates a day can give you excellent benefits.They're also one of the key ingredients in many recipes for things like energy balls. So for example you can blitz some dates in a food processor with some nuts and maybe a bit of dried coconut for an instant snack. And if you'd like more recipes where you can indulge in their sweetness, I'll post the link to my 5-Minute Desserts recipe ebook below the show notes for this episode. Which brings us to the end of this week's story! I hope you enjoyed it!And if you've got a crazy, true story to share (and you'd like to know what food could have saved the day or enhanced your particular situation), I'd love to hear from you! If you enjoy my stories and want to hear more, join us and subscribe! I share one crazy yet true story a week. And if you've got any questions, just pop them in the comments! And if you're listening on iTunes, do give me a review, that would be awesome.I hope you have an amazing day, thank you so much for being here with me to share in my Clean Food, Dirty Stories. Bye for now!RESOURCESLink to 5-Minute Desserts and other recipe ebooks: https://rockingrawchef.com/5-minute-recipes/Article on dates including links to studies and other articles: https://www.organicfacts.net/health-benefits/fruit/health-benefits-of-dates.htmlFiona's website: www.fionarobertson.coFor your free Body Scan session, book a time with Fiona here: https://fionarobertson.acuityscheduling.com/Fiona's bioFiona Robertson, Author, Creator of the Home Detox Box, Retreat Biarritz, and a Body Whisperer intuitive holistic coach - supporting women as they release, reset and re connect with their bodies. I assist the body to consciously re constructing itself from the inside out, releasing the emotions and stress that cause the body to hold onto weight and create digestive and long lasting physical symptoms.

Corrina's journey from dating guys to finding a wife...thanks to travel sickness! And of course the best food to help with travel sickness (in case you've already found your partner...)In addition to this story, at the end of this episode I'll share with you the best food for travel sickness (in case you've already found your wife or partner).OK enough hints from me, let's get on with the story.Our guest, Corrina Gordon-BarnesI am super excited to be joined here today for our story by Corrina Gordon-Barnes. Corrina is a Relationship Coach who’s committed to a world of happy couples and happy families. She teaches her clients how to be really good at relationships.So Corrina, welcome to the Clean Food, Dirty Stories podcast! I'm really excited to have you here today!Corrina: Thank you so much for inviting me to connect with you.Me: Oh well you're so welcome! I love your story and I really can't wait for us to share it with everybody.Corrina's story, starting with being boy madMe: Without further ado, the first question I wanted to ask you...and I've said a little bit about what you do now, but when you were small, or younger, how did you see your dream relationship one day? Did you have princess dreams or did you have a particular type of partner in mind before you actually met your life partner?Corrina: Well, I was boy mad.Me: Boy mad!Corrina: Boy mad, like going through my primary school years, I remember that I was the one in my class who learned about sex really early.I was the one who would get all these teenage magazines, even as a late primary school age kid, and I would be teaching my friends at school. “You can get pregnant the first time you have sex” and “be careful with your boyfriend”.Me: Oh my god!A relationship expert...in primary schoolCorrina: I was like this relationship expert, even at that age I was teaching my friends. Like “these are all the myths, don't do this, do this” and so I was kind of boy mad, I was relationship mad, and getting into my teens I remember with my friends we would literally kind of go out prowling the streets. We would walk along the high street in my town where I lived and we would be looking for boys and we would be kind of flirting and coy. There was always some boy that I had my eye on. Always some guy who had my attention, I would try and make sure I was in the same place as him so that he would see me...Me: Sounds familiar, yeah.So I was definitely, I definitely wanted boys. That was very clear to me.Me: And you got engaged to a boy at one stage, right?Corrina: Yeah, so I had one really long term relationship before I met who is now my partner, and we got engaged at age 17.Me: Wow!We were gonna get married and we were gonna have all these babies and we were gonna live in this particular kind of house and have this life... That was the path that I thought I was on at that age.Me: So then what happened to take you off that path?The path to self-discoveryCorrina: Well that relationship was not the right one, and so that ended 4 years later and I stayed then single for quite a while. You know, I was really wanting to find myself.So I went on this whole spiritual, personal growth journey. I read every book I could get, I did meditation, I went vegan... It had this whole kind of personal growth change in my life.Me: What do you think prompted that? Was it the end of that relationship that prompted that? I mean, what were your thoughts? Were you just like 'Oh I think I need to take care of myself more' or become a different person, or...?Corrina: I was in Australia and I was just there travelling for a year. And I met this guy – surprisingly enough – in a cafe, and he just said “Hey I go to this meditation course down the road, why don't you come along”.And so I went and that very first moment, that very first time in the room with that meditation teacher, she told me that I was a spiritual being. She said to me – to the whole group but I really heard this - “You are a spirit soul having this human experience, but you are a spiritual being”.And it was like someone had just told me who I was. Like “oh my gosh, that's who I am, this human life is how I get to journey and explore and have an adventure, but I'm a spiritual being”.The layers (or the clothes) fall awayMe: So did you have that as like an inner knowing, or how did you experience it? Because people experience those things in different ways, right? Some people experience a physical sensation of light, other people experience it as just an inner sense of knowing...Corrina: It was like all my clothes fell off.Me: (laughs) Um...I haven't heard that one before!Corrina: It was like this casing, this casing just fell off. I literally woke up the next morning and I was vegan, I went from a complete meat eater to being vegan overnight just like that, and I was just on this journey then to just explore and discover myself and get back to the essential nature of my being.It was like everything that wasn't true about me just kind of fell away over the coming months.Me: Wow. That's very cool!Corrina: Yeah, it was pretty cool. I felt much lighter, it was like clothes coming off. I was just light. I was much, much lighter, much more energized, much freer, much more joyful.Me: It's interesting that you say that for you, all your clothes coming off, like some people might associate that with being exposed, right? Being vulnerable. And for you, you associate that with being light. So that's really interesting.Corrina: And just free. I remember in Australia, those kind of days, weeks after that moment, it was like I was floating along the streets. I was so free, I was feeling so connected with people, like I had just woken up.On to Cambridge University...and a fated bus tripMe: Yeah. Wow! And so how did you get from there to Cambridge University?Corrina: Yeah, so I decided that I wanted to do teacher training so I came to Cambridge University and signed up for the English and Drama teacher training course here. And on that very first day in class, I was sat next to this woman called Sam. There was something about her that just immediately kind of, like something just...a light bulb went off or something just happened. It was like 'Huh, she's just come on my radar really strongly, why am I paying attention to her so much?'So she was really in my awareness and we were both in the same school together so we were both placed to do our teacher practice in the same school. And on the first day of teaching practice, I got onto the bus that would take us to our practice school and I got on and she was sitting in the front seat. Now I always need to sit in the front seat in a bus because I get travel sick. So I just went over to her...I'd already clocked her as someone who was on my radar, and I just said “Oh, are you OK if I join you in the front seat?” And she said “Yeah sure, I have to sit here because I get travel sick” and I said “Oh me too!”So we sat side by side and over the months to come we became best friends. Just absolutely clicked, became best friends, incredible support through the whole teaching practice.A brave declarationMe: And was there any like physical attraction at that stage? Or did that come later?Corrina: Immediately! Immediately, I was like 'Huh! What is this woman doing to me? What this? What is happening here? I just feel energized around her, she lights me up, I feel excited, I feel like the world is just kind of shinier...'Me: Wow!Corrina: Everything just felt brighter and more energized.Me: It sounds like a good, a good...I don't know, I mean, I've never like taken acid or anything but (laughs) it sounds like, you know, a positive drug experience without the drugs, right?Corrina: (laughs) Totally! Totally, a kind of 'switch-on, turn-on, I'm awake, I'm alive, oh my gosh, who are you' kind of thing.Me: Was it the same for her as well?Corrina: Well what was so funny was that over the months that then came, was that I basically told her (laughs). I just said “Basically I've realized that I'm just completely in love with you. Do you feel that too?”Me: Wow! That was so brave of you cause you were friends at that stage, right? Like best friends, you don't want to wreck your relationship with your best friend by taking the risk but you did!Corrina: I just did! And that's kind of, you know, the kind of continuity of the whole spiritual journey for me of just like I'm free. You know, I'm free. If I feel this thing, I have to follow my heart. I have to just blurt out like “I'm in love with you, I don't know if you feel the same way”. And to start out with, it wasn't something that she let herself feel straight away.Determined and keeping faithMe: So what did she say when you said this? When you blurted this out?Corrina: She said “You know, I feel really connected with you, I love you a lot as a friend, but it's not romantic for me”.Me: And how did that make you feel?Corrina: Oh, heartbroken. Absolutely heartbroken. But also there was something... it was almost like inside I was going 'You just wait!' (laughs) 'You just wait. I know that you're the one for me, I'll just be patient, I'll just hang on'.Me: Oh wow! Other people though could have had quite a different reaction, right? I mean some people might have, I imagine anyway, some people might have just, you know, stayed in the heartbroken phase and then just walked away, right? And lost it.Corrina: No, I believed, I really had faith that this... There was a reason I was feeling this way, I couldn't ignore it, I couldn't shake it, I just kept believing in it and stayed consistently just loving her and being a good friend in the months where... You know, it took 3 months basically of us staying friends and me just loving her, and loving her, and loving her. And then just after Christmas we got together as a couple.And just before Christmas...Me: And what happened? So how did that happen? Like you're friends, it's been like you know 3 months, she knows how you feel, did she just all of a sudden like make a move? Or did she say something to you?Corrina: Well, I made the move. Again.Me: (laughs) Oh my god! So it's like 'OK I've already been kind of rejected once, let me have another go'. Right?Corrina: Exactly! (laughs) Or a few gos! So there was that initial conversation and then there was another conversation where I basically said – this was just before Christmas – I basically said “Are you sure?”Me: Oh my god!Corrina: “I still feel this thing...” and she again was like “No really, we're just friends”. So that was the second time and then third time lucky! I just made a move and I thought 'You know what? I'm just gonna take a risk again, I'm just gonna be bold. What's the worst that can happen? Rejection, right? What's the best that can happen? I can be with the love of my life'.Me: Oh my god – yeah but that was still just so...Right, OK. That was still just so brave. Once is already like super brave, right? Braver than most people. Twice is like oh my god, you know, three times you start to think OK, hmmm...Corrina: Yeah, and it worked! (laughs) Third time lucky and it was just after Christmas and that was now 13 years ago – 14 years ago.What was she thinking?Me: And so what did she, like...You made the move and what did she then say? Was she like 'oh I didn't know until you touched me' or was she like 'oh I realized it at the same time as you' or was she...Corrina: I think it was less of a thought thing. It was just, you know, when it happened then it just felt right. Like 'oh this is where I was meant to be, OK, got it'.Me: And that's what she felt too? Was that how she verbalised it to you?Corrina: Well and to give her credit here, so she's gay and I'm bi, right? So for a gay woman, if a bisexual woman says 'I'm in love with you', there's gonna be a sense of 'hmm, OK maybe you're just trying this out, maybe actually this is just a kind of short-term thing for you and really you're gonna want to be with guys'Me: Yeah, I've heard that, yeah.Corrina: So it's a real credit for her that for those months she was, you know, guarding her heart for that, because you don't know what's gonna happen, if that person declaring their love for you is gonna be constant. So I had to kind of prove that actually I meant it. When I said I loved her, I meant it and I was gonna be in it for the long haul.Me: So do you think that a part of her was not testing you, but kind of like unconsciously perhaps waiting? You know?Corrina: Yeah.Me: Oh OK, that makes a lot more sense. Cause in my mind I was imagining somebody who, you know, was neither gay nor bi and who maybe had, I don't know, only gone out with guys or something and so then for somebody like that it would be much more of a 180, right?Corrina: Yeah, no she's gay through and through.Me: Well, fortunately for you as it turns out, right? (laughs)How relevant is gender, anyway?Corrina: Well that's the thing for me as a bisexual woman. For me it's not about the fact that I like men and women, it's the fact that I like people and the gender is just irrelevant.And that's kind of part of what happened in that spiritual awakening moment in Australia. It was like all of the coverings, you know, whether it's our bodies or our personalities or any of that is kind of what covers the essence of us. And actually for me the essence of someone doesn't have a gender. So I fell in love with her like I might have thought or indeed fell in love with guys in the past because I just fall in love with the person, you know, that essence of the human beings behind all the trappings.Me: That's amazing because I feel the same way. It's kind of weird how that works, right? It's kind of like yeah, you feel the essence of the person. I mean I even had one guy say to me – this was like in a totally different context and we did not get together in the end but I do remember him saying to me at one point, I mean he wasn't the right person for me but he was kind of freaked out at one stage. Because he was like “It's like you want my soul!” and I was saying “It's not that I want your soul, it's that I see it!” I believe that I see it, right?And I think that you know, some people... I mean, credit to Sam as well because she's obviously a really strong person too in that, you know, some people would be freaked out by that, right? Some people would be like 'oh well...it's the real me here that's being...I don't know if I want to say exposed but seen, right? Some people...we use those trappings to cover stuff up, right? As we all know, so...That brings a level of intimacy that's probably quite cool I would imagine, right?Corrina: Yeah, and you know, don't get me wrong, I love that she's a woman as well. I love her long hair and her soft skin and her blue eyes, all the things that make her a woman as well I love. So it's not like I don't see those things, but that was never gonna be a filter, like I would only go for...The spectrum of sexualityMe: Yeah. I mean it's really interesting because I...for me, I'm sure, I would imagine perhaps for you as well, I see the whole homosexual/heterosexual thing as this big spectrum and I have a really good friend who...Well I do playback theater and one of my friends, she's in a playback theater troupe where they're all either bi or gay or whatever, and then we did a workshop at one point. They were inviting guest playbackers to go. And one of the exercises they did that was...I just thought it was really cool. They said 'put yourself...if stage left is like totally 100 percent gay and stage right is totally 100 percent heterosexual, put yourself on the spectrum, place yourself physically where you think you are'. And it was really cool to see people, you know, all along the stage, all at different points. I just thought that was very normal, right? Because we're all...for me, anyway, in my mind we're all spiritual beings and so as you say, there's no gender there, right?Corrina: And for some people there are. You know, that's the thing, people who are that kind of 100 percent on the spectrum, brilliant, they're really clear that they only want people of the opposite or the same sex. Yes, spectrum is beautiful.What Corrina does nowMe: Yeah, wow! So now I really want to know more then about how... (laughs)...how you went from, well, what you do now to help people with their relationships. Because obviously you have a lot more knowledge than when you were in primary school and I know you're helping people with a lot more than how to not get unwanted pregnancies and things! (laughs)Corrina: (laughs) Absolutely!Me: So what do you do now with people and how do you help them have these beautiful, deep relationships?Corrina: Yeah, and my work is around all relationships that are important. So it's...my clients, some of them it's really about their partner relationship but for others it's about their relationship with their mom or their daughter or their brother.For me, connection...it's a kind of cliche but connection is what we're hard wired for. We as human beings love to connect, we love to love people with our full hearts. But there are so many things that stop that from happening within us. We get resentful, we get frustrated, we get disappointed, we feel let down, we feel indignant, all of this.And I over the course of my own personal journey have found a very, very miraculous way of dealing with all those blocks. So it's the process of questioning your thoughts, questioning your stories, that block connection.An example of our made-up storiesSo let's say I'm with Sam and let's say she's saying something that sounds critical. My story in my head goes, 'she's criticizing me, she doesn't love me, she's being mean to me'. You know, 'I want her to be kind, I want her not to point out my flaws', all of that. That is all story. It's all mental. It's all...Me: Yes! It's all made up.Corrina: It's all made up! And we don't realize it, we think, 'no but this is true, she's criticizing me, this is what's happening'. And so what I am so blessed to have come into contact with a number of years ago is the process of questioning those thoughts. Just sitting with those thoughts and asking them, 'Is this true? Is this accurate, is this the correct interpretation of what's going on?' Not just is it true that that's what's going on, but is it true that I would be better off if it were happening differently?Me: OK...Corrina: Like am I sure? So let's say your loved one is truly critizing you. They're saying to you “you're a stupid, ugly, whatever, whatever”. Can I be sure that my happiness depends on them not saying that? Can I be sure that I can only feel good about myself and peaceful if they stop doing that? Because it sets up a very limited version of life if I'm always waiting for someone else to give me something, to give me what I think I need in order to be peaceful and happy. It's like I delay my peace and my happiness until other people and other circumstances arrange themselves in just the right way.Our rules...and our scriptsMe: Yeah, it's like our rules, right? Where we all have these rules about what has to happen for us to be happy and the more...the easier it is to be happy, then the happier we are, right?Corrina: Exactly, exactly. I talk about our scripts. It's like, I realized pretty early on with Sam that I had a script, that if she followed this script and she said and she did exactly what I, you know, expected her to do then I would feel happy, but if she went off script then I wouldn't be happy, I'd be pissed off. She really helped me see this, she said to me one day “Why don't you just give me your fucking script Corrina! Give me your script, tell me what I need to do”. And I was like “How dare you! This is just what you're meant to do, you're my wife, this is how you're meant to treat me”. Then it kind of dawned on me a few days later, like 'oh my gosh, my script is the source of all of my unhappiness. Every moment that I want her to be doing something other than what's reality, I am causing my own unhappiness'.Corrina's 'big work'Me: Right. So then your relationship was, I guess, far from...I don't want to say far from idyllic, but you had to work through some of this stuff in your relationship with Sam?Corrina: One hundred percent. I wouldn't be doing this work if I hadn't had to...if this hadn't been my big work. You know, so yes like I was completely besotted with her in the beginning, and we got together and it was blissful, and then all my stories started to kick in. 'Hmmm, well she's not this' and 'hmmm, she said that and that's not OK' and 'would I be better off with someone who did this' and you know, all those stories eroded what I had imagined would be this perfect relationship. So it's like I had to work on that, I had to take those stories and stop those stories from sabotaging this beautiful relationship that we had underneath all those stories.Me: Yeah. It's good that you managed to do that, thank goodness, right?Corrina: I mean, it saved my marriage. It saved my relationship.A daily practiceMe: And did it take a long time?Corrina: Yeah, it's a daily practice. It really is a daily practice, it's like if you want to be fit, like you've done today (laughs), you go to the gym, you go for a run, you do your yoga. You don't just be like 'oh I'll do it one time and then it's done'. If you want a healthy, thriving, fit relationship with anybody, whether it's your son or your dad or your sister, there's daily practice to do. There's daily work to do every time you get triggered, every time something gets in the way of you being totally, wholeheartedly connected with the human being in front of you, you've got something to look at there.Me: Yeah, but at least you can...I mean, what am I trying to say, there comes a time when you catch yourself, right? At least, you know, having done a certain amount of work, then you can get to the point where you see what's happening, right? As an observer almost and you can go 'OK hang on, I'm doing this again, this is my script'. Whereas at the beginning, you know, when people aren't even aware of their scripts, I imagine it takes them a little bit... well it depends on the person I guess, right? How much time it would take them to start to see and to start to implement I guess the tools that you give them, right?Corrina: Absolutely, yes, you're completely spot on.When you get triggeredAnd you know, now I'm at the point where I get triggered and it could be like anything, right? It could be I'm on Facebook and I see a message from someone and I feel like 'oh they should have, you know, complimented me rather than give me negative feedback on something'. Right? Instantly, 'oh! OK, there's a trigger! A button's gotten pushed'. And now I'm at the point where I'm like 'Oooh, good, what's here for me?'Me: I do the same thing, that's really funny! Yeah, I had something that happened the other day that made me so angry and then I'm like 'OK if this is making me this angry and, you know, the other 30 people in the room are not angry, they actually think it's quite cute...' (laughs)We all get triggered, even by 8-year old authorsI'll tell you what it was, it was quite funny. I was at this day workshop with an amazing speaker and there was this little girl, she's like 8 years old and she's written a book. Actually she's written 3 books, right?Corrina: Wow!Me: And it made me so annoyed! And I just thought...you know, not only envious, obviously envious, you know, 3 books at age 8, but also annoyed because, you know, her mom was there and I knew what it was. It brought up all the old scripts of, you know, stage mothers because I did theater before and so I had a good friend who had a stage mother who was just absolutely unbearable whereas, you know, my mom was the opposite.So I see what you mean, you get these reactions, right, that are completely irrational because the people around me were applauding her and they were like 'oh isn't that wonderful' and I was like inside going 'this is making me so angry!' But we all get triggered, don't we, right?Examples of tiny triggersCorrina: Oh, everyone. And it could be like the tiniest thing, that's what I always find fascinating. It could be just one line in an email. Or it could be just the way that your partner, you know, turns over in their sleep, just the tiniest little things. Often my clients say to me “Oh, you know, I can't bring this to you today, it's just so small” and I'm like “No, no, that's exactly what to bring!”. The fact that he put tofu in the stir fry rather than kidney beans, you know. There was something, there was some offense against you. So there you are with that 8 year old girl, that offense that she's committing against you in that moment that's kind of violating something is like, you know, 'she's further ahead than me' or 'she's achieved one of my life goals' or, you know...Me: Yeah, and she's 8 and I'm 55!Corrina: And she's 8! It's just to be so compassionate with ourselves that 'oh look, there's this part of me that feels in some way threatened or violated or hurt by this, let me just so lovingly look there and heal that part of myself'.Being compassionate with yourselfMe: Ah, yeah, that's a really key point there that you brought up so I just wanted to emphasize it, yeah. That being compassionate with that part of ourselves, right? Rather than being like, OK, you know, with that kind of...what's the word, forced smile on our faces, going 'Ah, another beautiful part of me to transform', you know (laughs), right? Right? And we can be quite hard on ourselves with that, right, and be like 'OK what's at the bottom of this!' and take a kind of like pickaxe to it. At least that's what I would do or could do rather than choosing to as you say, acknowledge with love that part of ourselves and treat it as part of, you know, part of the inner child or whatever you want to call it, that needs love and compassion. That's a really interesting point that we don't want to forget. Wow! That's very cool.How to work with CorrinaSo when you work with people, I would love to hear just a bit more about what the different ways are that you...Do people come to see you in an office, or do you do things online, or how does that work?Corrina: Yes, so right now it's one to one. There's a potential of me offering something else in the kind of group workshop, retreat way, but not for now. What I do is I do free videos, everyone can just watch a free video every week, all about relationship hotspots and how to move past them, and then if people feel inspired and really like they're wanting that support, they can have the one to one coaching. And for now that is by Skype or by phone, and I'm just starting to also offer that in person as well for people who I'm unable to physically meet with.Me: Yeah. That's really fantastic, well thank you so much. What I'll do is, I'll link to everything that you do in the show notes but where's the best place for people to look online to find out more about what you're doing and more about you and to get access to the videos and things?An online video library...and a 7 Day Relationship ChallengeCorrina: Yeah, so if they go to corrinagordonbarnes.com, I'll just spell that out, and if you go to the blog page that's where I've got all the videos and articles that have happened so far. So that's a really good place just to go, it's like settling into a library of relationship wisdom and gems, just settling in and watching some of the videos and just seeing if the approach makes sense to you.The right people for this work are people who watch a video and go 'oh my gosh, that makes so much sense!' And they apply that tip that I'm sharing and they come back and they say “Wow I had this incredible experience with my mom! Because I did the thing that you...” I do like challenges in the video so they're like “I did the challenge that you set and I had a completely different experience with my mom this week, thank you!”Me: That's brilliant!Corrina: It's so good, it's so satisfying. So on the blog page that's where people can look at all the videos so far. And on the homepage people can sign up for the free 7 Day Relationship Challenge.7 days to feel more connectedMe: That sounds intriguing for sure!Corrina: Yes! It's 7 days to feel more connected, that's the overarching focus. How can you feel more connected? That beautiful feeling of just wholehearted connection with the person in front of you, and I give a number of challenges that you can actually implement to help you feel that way.Me: That is really fantastic! Well, I mean yeah, because as you say, we're all starving for connection and I mean, we could do a whole episode just about the different ways people connect, right? Through food and smoking and alcohol, and, you know, apart from people, right?Corrina: Facebook!Me: Facebook! There's so many...it's a massive, massive topic but...so I wish we had more time! But thank you so much for being here to share your story, because I love your story and I love your journey and I really, really love what you're doing right now, so I'm really grateful that you took the time to share that with us, so thank you so much!Corrina: You're very welcome, thank you so much!A food to help with travel sicknessSo now I mentioned at the beginning of this episode that I'd share with you one of the best foods you can eat for help with travel sickness. And I think it will come as no surprise for most of you anyway to hear that that food is...ginger!Ginger has so many benefits it's ridiculous. Not only can it help with travel sickness, but it's also beneficial for other causes of nausea, like morning sickness, and it can help with pain relief as well.Why ginger is so helpfulSo this powerful little root contains loads of antioxidant and antiinflammatory compounds, including curcumin and capsaicin which are also found in turmeric which is another superfood. They're part of the same plant family, turmeric, ginger and cardamom.Ginger also contains a ton of vitamins and minerals, including calcium, potassium, magnesium, phosphorus, niacin, iron, zinc and folate. A big list, right?And ginger is a great way to warm us up, because it's a diaphoretic (that was my new word for today), which means that it heats the body from the inside out. So if you live in a cold climate for example, ginger can literally help warm you up inside. It also helps promote sweating, which is why it's so good to have ginger tea if you've got a cold and you need to sweat out some toxins.Ginger even helps with pain reliefBut did you know that ginger can also help with pain relief? Two examples are exercise-induced muscle pain (so if you work out, eat some ginger), as well as menstrual cramps. So the next time you're feeling crampy (I don't know if that's a word but I've just decided it is!), make yourself some strong ginger tea and see how you feel.Ginger can also help reduce inflammation, so scientists are looking to see if it can help with cancer, and particularly colon cancer. Ginger also is showing promise for helping treat that as well as inflammation caused by osteoarthritis.I'll link to an article in the show notes that has more information about ginger's many properties and benefits, it also includes links to the actual research in case you'd like to know more about that. And in addition I'll link to an article that has some overall tips for avoiding travel sickness, including using ginger.So how do you eat ginger?If you're feeling nauseous and you want instant relief, well, you can definitely try peeling the root and gnawing on a piece...although I haven't done that myself. Ginger's pretty strong stuff.What I do is I usually juice a small piece of ginger with some carrots and apples for a really zinging morning juice. It tastes really, really good. Or you can pop a piece into your blender with other veggies and maybe some fruit for a green smoothie or a soup to give it a bit of a zing. It also helps you use less salt because it's got a really strong flavor.Other people prefer to slice a few pieces into some very hot water and let it steep for a while with a slice or two of lemon to make ginger tea.And you can also grate ginger into soups, curries and other savory dishes. Or even just chop it finely and use it in stir-frys.I'll link in the show notes to some recipes that I've got in my 5-Minute Mains recipe ebook that use ginger too, such as my Green Thai Curry.One thing for sure that I definitely recommend is that you use fresh ginger root wherever possible, rather than powdered ginger or capsules. I say that because the fresh vegetable is so easy to use and it's always best I think to have the actual vegetable rather than some dried out version in a plastic capsule. But then again if capsules are all you have access to, better that than no ginger!If you do try something new with ginger, definitely share in the comments because I want to know!Have YOU got a story to share?Which brings us to the end of this week's story – and if you've got a true story to share (and you'd like to know what food could have saved the day in your situation), I'd love to hear from you!Got a question, or a comment?Got a question, or a comment? Pop a note below in the comments, that would be awesome. You can also subscribe to the podcast to listen 'on the go' in iTunes.I hope you have an amazing day. Thank you so much for being here with me to share in my Clean Food, Dirty Stories. Bye for now!RESOURCESLink to 5-Minute Mains and other recipe ebooks: https://rockingrawchef.com/5-minute-recipes/Article with nutritional information on ginger as well as links to scientific studies: http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/265990.phpArticle with general tips to help with travel sickness: http://mentalfloss.com/article/78131/9-scientifically-proven-ways-prevent-motion-sicknessCorrina Gordon-Barnes is a Relationship Coach who’s committed to a world of happy couples and happy families. She teaches her clients how to be really good at relationships – how to love full-heartedly, let go of resentments, forgive, accept and live from power not victimhood. She lives in Cambridge, England with her wife, Sam.Corrina's website: http://corrinagordonbarnes.com Corrina's Feel More Connected: a FREE 7-day Relationship ChallengeCorrina on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube

Sohini's discovery of a young boy and his amazing story, and how he inspired her to leave an upscale London legal firm to become a solicitor who helps change lives, one drop at a time. Plus one of the best foods to help fight overwhelm.In addition to this story, at the end of this episode I'll share with you the best food to help fight overwhelm, because our guest today went through something that was pretty emotionally intense.Our guest, Sohinipreet AlgWhich brings me to say that I am super excited to be joined here today for our story by Sohinipreet Alg. Sohini is a solicitor – a lawyer – who has an incredible story for us about how she left what could have been a very financially lucrative career to take a very different direction as a solicitor, all because of a young boy. She is compassionate, determined and very caring, as you will hear. So Sohini welcome to the Clean Food, Dirty Stories podcast! I'm really happy to have you here today!Sohini: Thank you for having me Barbara, I'm excited to be here.Sohini's storyMe: Super! So Sohini, why don't you start by telling us what kind of work you were doing before you met this young boy, when you first got started as a solicitor?Sohini: OK well I think that was quite early on in my training contract, so I was doing various areas of law at that point. I hadn't finalized what I wanted to do, which area I wanted to go into. Immigration was actually not something that I wanted to go into, but as you'll see I kind of just fell into that.My main area of interest was kind of a corporate, commercial area of law, so I was mainly concentrating on that.Me: And is there any reason why you were concentrating on that to start with?Sohini: You have to do a few seats in your training before you qualify. So they gave me a commercial seat, and an immigration seat, and also a housing and litigation seat.Me: What's a seat? Is that just like a temporary post, or something?Sohini: It's about 6 months, 6-8 months of training in each area over a period of two years, and then at the end of the training you kind of naturally go into one of those areas and specialize in that.Going for the moneyMe: OK. So then your story I guess would begin... How did you find the corporate seat, first of all? Did you do that one first?Sohini: I did, and I really enjoyed that. It was something that I thought I'd like to go into just purely because of the financial side of it I think. A lot of people obviously end up going into law or anything similar thinking “oh yeah, the money”! So I think I was probably quite similar in that way.I didn't have a real interest in law in that sense, I did a History and Latin degree so completely different to law. But I didn't know what I would do with my history and Latin degree, so I thought 'the corporate and commercial side of it's gonna make a lot of money so let's try and do that!'Very long hoursSo first I went into a firm which had quite a strong corporate field and that was the first seat that was given. And I enjoyed that, it was very cutthroat, very long hours.Me: That's what I was going to ask, yeah, I mean, what was the atmosphere like? What kind of hours were you working?Sohini: Well it would easily be...you'd start at eight o'clock and you'd be finishing at maybe ten or eleven o'clock at night.Me: Wow! And was that normal even for people that were...once they'd finished their training?Sohini: Absolutely, people would just continue into the early hours of the morning if necessary. So if you're working on a deal, if you're working for an organisation or a company, they expect you to be at their beck and call so you'd be available 24/7 really. Me: Wow!Sohini: It wasn't actually too bad compared with some of my seniors. So yeah, it's pretty difficult.Me: But you enjoyed it!Sohini: I enjoyed it, well not as much as I actually then enjoyed other areas as you'll see but especially because I thought that was what I wanted to do and that was what was going to make me money. So that's what I was seeing more than anything else.Me: And you did 6 months there and then what happened? Then was it the immigration seat?Defending the homelessSohini: No, then I went to do a public law and housing seat. So it was kind of...I was dealing with local authorities, dealing with a lot of homeless people, dealing with landlord/tenant issues, nuisance, etc. It was a completely different seat, it was more personable, more client contact. That was quite nice actually, I enjoyed it. There was a lot of appearing in courts etc and assisting barristers and solicitors.Me: Were you assisting...I mean I just want to get an idea because I know nothing about law. So were you assisting...for example with the homeless people, were you assisting the homeless people? Or...I mean to me I kind of see it always as two sides, right? There's the side of the homeless person and what they want and the side of the, I don't know, the council and what they want.Sohini: I was working primarily for the individual so it would be for example the homeless person. So I wasn't working for the local authority, I was working for the individual in that situation.Legal AidMe: And how did they...so was that pro bono? Like how did you get paid?Sohini: Yeah, well it's Legal Aid, so our firm also had a Legal Aid contract with the government as well. So if you aren't able to pay and you can prove your financial situation, you do get free access to legal care.Me: Wow!Sohini: The government paid for it. We just had to basically at the end of the case prove that we'd put in x number of hours and this person wasn't able to pay privately and so we were paid accordingly from the government.Me: With the homeless people, what kind of things would you help them do? Did you help them get housing then?Sohini: Exactly. So it would be where they were refused temporary housing and they could prove they were homeless, there was criteria that they had to follow. Sometimes it's pretty difficult to prove everything. Or it was just that they had temporary accommodation but they got kicked out of the accommodation because they'd spent too long in the accommodation etc. Basically it was just trying to get them housing when they deserved the housing and the local authority wasn't giving it.On into the world of immigration...dragging her feetMe: Wow, OK. And then from there you went to immigration, I guess?Sohini: Yes, my final seat was immigration and that was the seat that I really didn't want to go into.Me: And why not? What were your thoughts about it before you went into it?Sohini: I think it was just...Well, I didn't think there was much money in that area also, and I was also concerned because it's a very fast-paced, very rapidly moving area of law and I wasn't sure I'd be able to get to grips with. It's an area that you need to just keep retraining and keep on top of it because the immigration rules change that quickly. And there are so many...there's a variety of countries that people can come into the UK from, and there are different rules according to where you might be applying from. So it was just such a difficult area, that's just what I thought, it wasn't something that I wanted to move to naturally.Me: Right, so then you started going into it not really wanting to do it, and then what happened?Discovering new aspects of herselfSohini: Yeah well I think not even a couple of months into the seat, just a few weeks into the seat I quickly became very absorbed with the area actually. I was doing longer hours in immigration than I was when I was doing the commercial seat.Me: Really!Sohini: Yeah, and I think that was purely because I enjoyed it that much, and I felt that compassion that I didn't have initially, I didn't think I had in me.Me: Oh wow! That's honest!Sohini: Yeah, so it was just quite overwhelming when I joined. I mean the firm that I was with, they have an excellent track record with immigration law and it's one of the biggest departments in the UK. So we had a variety of immigration clients. We had private clients, we had Legal Aid clients, we had asylum seekers, you know it was all sorts of clients, people who were in the UK unlawfully or illegally trying to legalize their stay. There was just such a variety and listening to people's stories, finding out what their background was, why a lot of them really felt the need to live in the UK, what had happened in their past, it was amazing. Hearing the stories was just amazing. Very heartwarming and very humbling as well.Me: And so speaking of stories, this brings us to the story that you mentioned, right? That seemed to affect you the most, is that right?A young boy...under a truckSohini: Yeah, exactly. I think it was because I hadn't come across many such cases before. But it was a young boy who...and I think it was early in the evening and I was getting ready to actually leave the office. We got a call that there was a young boy who had entered the UK unclaimed. That was assumed. He couldn't speak any English and he'd come under trucks. He was kind of held on under the trucks, so the truck drivers didn't even know that they'd picked him up in Calais for example.Me: Oh wow, how was he under the truck? I think you said he was strapped? Like somebody had...Sohini: He was strapped under the truck so...Me: So somebody presumably strapped him under the truck, right? Because he came from Afghanistan, right?Sohini: I mean you'll find a lot of kind of people who help or assist asylum seekers to cross the borders in very dangerous ways. We all know about what's been happening with you know, people crossing the rivers and things like that and people go to extreme lengths and this boy was very young, you could see that straight away.Me: How old was he about do you think? Roughly?Sohini: I think he was probably about nine or ten.Me: And do you have any idea how long he was strapped under that truck?Sohini: He was strapped for quite a number of hours. So he had come from Calais, he was strapped from Calais and he came into Dover, so yeah, he risked his life.Me: At least six or seven hours, right?Sohini: Yeah, a very long time.Going to DoverMe: So what happened? They called you and they said what? Did they say “Can you come? There's a boy that's just entered the UK”?Sohini: Basically I think the lorry driver then realized when he stopped at Dover that somebody had just come over under the truck. And the boy couldn't speak much English but I believe as far as I can remember the truck driver tried to call the local authorities etc and they didn't know what to do. They called the firm I was working with because they knew that the immigration team was pretty big and we dealt with a lot of asylum cases at that time. We got a call and they asked us to come to Dover to speak to the boy and find out what it is that he wanted to do in the UK.What to do firstMe: So what was your reaction when you first saw him? Like you arrive in Dover and then you see this boy...Sohini: It was just... gosh, the fear on his face, I still remember that. It was just...he couldn't speak any English, he didn't know where he was, he'd left his family behind, didn't know what had happened to his family. He didn't know what was going to happen to him. So there was just this kind of overwhelming fear in his eyes that I still remember. That was quite upsetting.Me: What did you do at that point? Because you couldn't...I mean, you didn't have a language in common, so...Sohini: No, we had to wait for a translator, we did have somebody come to translate so that was really helpful. Then I had to sit with him, find out what was happening, why he'd come to the UK, where his family were, which country he'd travelled from, etc.Me: And so what did he tell you?A boy's harrowing storySohini: That he'd left Afghanistan because of the troubles that were happening there, that a lot of his family members had been killed...I think he had another couple of siblings who had all dispersed as well so his parents...his father had been killed, his mother said that they needed to flee. His mother couldn't leave because there were elderly people that she was looking after so she told the kids to leave and he was the only one who seemed to have made it to the UK.He didn't know what had happened en route to his siblings. So he was just terrified and he was just so worried for his family, he didn't know what happened to his siblings or his mother. But we couldn't get in contact with them, we didn't have contact details for them.Me: So I suppose he never found out, I imagine.Sohini: No, he never found out.Getting him helpMe: And then what did...you're with the boy, you're with the interpreter, you find out what happened, and then what did you do? Because presumably he has to sleep somewhere and get food, so who did all of that?Sohini: Well, he was initially put in a detention center.Me: What's a detention center?Sohini: It's basically a lot of people that come into the UK for example unlawfully or awaiting decisions, they're held in detention centers. They have specific ones where children can be held. So he was held in the detention center and that was quite distressing for him.Me: I'll bet.Sohini: My main aim was to obviously put in his asylum claim as soon as possible and try and get him in with a local authority so that they could care for him and he could get the right provisions. So that evening I still remember going back to the office and he remained in contact with me. He had access to a telephone number and he was just so scared. I tried my best to kind of prepare an application and try and get him suitable accommodation as soon as possible after meeting him.Me: Yeah, of course. Do you remember how long he had to stay in the detention center?Sohini: He was there for about a week.Psychological as well as physical help...Me: Wow. And so...oh you mentioned, I think you mentioned to me that they gave him a place to stay but then he also had mental health assessments or something like that? How does that work?Sohini: Basically we had to first of all verify his age and make sure that he was in fact a minor and wasn't an adult because we did find a lot of people who were trying to claim to be younger than they were so they'd get preferential treatment. So we had to establish and confirm his age. We also had to find out that he was OK. He'd been abused, there was a lot of violence used against him. So he had to have assessments taken. He had medical assessments to make sure that he was OK.Me: Physically OK, yeah.Sohini: Exactly. He was referred to a psychiatrist as well for mental health assessments and that all contributed, assisted his asylum claim because obviously we could prove that he wasn't lying and that he did go through the torture that he said had been inflicted on him. So that was all important to his case.No more contact...Me: Yeah. And so once you got housing for him, did you find out what happened to him later on?Sohini: He was...as far as I can remember, he was then put into a foster home I believe it was. So someone looked after him. Unfortunately we're not able to maintain contact on a personal level with a client.Me: Of course.Sohini: Which is a shame because I would have liked to, you know, find out how he's doing etc. I still do wonder, actually.Me: Of course, yeah.Sohini: Although I came across many such cases afterwards and even continue to do so right now in my professional life. But because I think that was the first one I came across, it stayed with me all these years. So yeah, I would like to know actually how he's doing, but...I'm sure he's doing well now.Me: How long ago was this then?Sohini: This was, oh gosh, about ten years ago.Me: Wow, so he'd be about twenty now.Sohini: Yeah. He would be, yeah.What Sohini decidedMe: Wow. Oh! So then...so then after, having experienced all that, what did you do next? I assume you...I mean you said that you decided that that was why you wanted to go into immigration, but what kind of thoughts were going in your head when you were thinking about making that decision as to what part of law you wanted to practice?Sohini: Well I think it really kind of hit me that I'm more inclined to work with people on a personal level and I just felt so satisfied and kind of content knowing that I had helped him in some form. He was so appreciative, you know, at the end of his asylum claim when he got asylum and he got accommodation, he got leave to remain, etc. Just the appreciation that he had, it was so, so nice to see. And that just beats any other feeling I had when I was in my commercial seat! It was absolutely something that I knew that I had to carry on doing.Me: Yeah. That was really nice that you felt that from him as well, right? Despite the...some things go beyond language barriers, don't they.Sohini: Exactly, definitely.What Sohini does now to help peopleSohini: So... what do you do now? What kinds of things are you doing now for people?Sohini: I set up roughly about three years ago my own immigration business, and I continue to do immigration. After I finished my training contract I was working in the City in London for an immigration firm, so I continued doing immigration law. I've since set up my own and I deal with all sorts of immigration matters. It is all private immigration matters, but I help applicants with discretionary leave, asylum seekers have asked for my help, I help private clients with work visas and I help a lot of organizations with their tier 4 visas etc. So I do a cross-section of immigration and applications just now.Me: OK. Wow. And so how can people find you if they want help with any of these things?How to find SohiniSohini: My website is probably the best place to find information on, and that's www.elmrose.com and the firm is called Elm Rose Consultancy and you'll get an idea online about what services we provide. And they can pick up the phone and call me, I'm available at any time. So everything's available on my website, you can find out a bit more there.Me: Yeah, if anybody needs help with that kind of thing, right? Especially as it's such a...I don't want to say hot topic, but well yeah, hot in the sense of controversial hot, right? It's just...it's a bit unreal, right?Sohini: Especially with Brexit just now, the European clients that I have. Their case is now just to kind of confirm their right to be in the UK. Me: Yes of course.If you're in the UK and feeling concerned...Sohini: There's a lot of concern just now. I'm even happy to speak to people just to allay their concerns or fears about what's happening in today's climate.Me: That's fantastic, that's really good to know because I'm sure there are definitely people listening who may be thinking 'I'm not British, what's my situation' and all that stuff. Yeah, thank you for that. Sohini thank you so much for sharing this story with us.Sohini: Thank you for having me.Me: You're very welcome! Yeah, I'm just very grateful that there are people like you out there that people can reach out to, you know? Because I think having lived in two foreign countries now, it can be quite a scary thing. It's good to know that people have someone like you to help them out when it all gets a bit scary. So thank you!Food to fight overwhelmRight! At the beginning of this episode, I said I'd share with you one of the best foods you can eat to help fight overwhelm. If you're in any situation where you just feel emotionally overwhelmed or wired and you need to relax. It's a food that has many, many properties besides helping us relax. And that food is...celery!Now before you start screaming and saying “Oh celery, that's diet food, it's absolutely horrible!”, it is not! There are delicious ways to eat celery that I'll share with you later.But first I would like to say just one or two benefits of celery that I think are especially cool.Benefits of celeryWay back when, Hippocrates – the father of modern medicine so I'm told – he used to prescribe celery as a tonic for people suffering from nervous tension. I mean apparently even in his day, people still got stressed.This is because celery has potassium which has been shown to help control blood pressure. Now Chinese medicine prescribes celery for the same reasons, in addition to its being an aphrodisiac, I had to throw that one in. Gotta try that one, right?Another cool thing about celery is that it appears that celery doesn't actually lower blood pressure in someone whose blood pressure is already low. I mean how cool is that!Celery also has high levels of magnesium, as well as other minerals and essential oils, all of which can help us relax. So if you're wired in the evenings, or if like Sohini you have super long days, try a glass of celery juice before going to bed. It actually tastes pretty good, and it tastes way different than munching on the celery sticks themselves.Celery is also great for detox. It's a great diuretic so it can help flush toxins and other waste out of our kidneys. Plus I think many people know that we require more calories to eat and digest celery than the celery actually contains, so it's a great food if you're looking to slim down which I think is how most people know about celery.How you eat celery...the tasty way!So how do most people eat celery? Well, I think you know that, right? We usually pick up a stick and munch on it if we're on a diet, usually cursing the poor veg at the same time and we feel like we're punishing ourselves.But there are way better ways to eat celery. One way is in a juice with other fruit or veg. You can mix fruit and vegetables in there. And one of the articles that I'll link to has a great recipe for a green juice that I'm definitely gonna try. Let me know if you try it too!My favorite easy way to eat celery is super easy: I just dip it in some nut butter. I'd say my favorite is almond butter. It's really delicious and you don't feel like a rabbit.I'll link to an article in the show notes that also has a recipe for a salad using celery that sounds pretty good, if I do say so myself. In this recipe they do mention parmesan so if you don't eat dairy, just substitute the parmesan for some nutritional yeast. It looks pretty tasty so I might try that myself.I also have an amazing recipe for my Way Better Than Waldorf Salad which takes celery to a whole new level, and I'll link to that as well. Have YOU got a story to share?Which brings us to the end of this week's story – and if you've got a true story to share (and you'd like to know what food could have saved the day in your situation),  I'd love to hear from you! Got a question, or a comment?Got a question, or a comment? Pop a note below in the comments, that would be awesome. You can also subscribe to the podcast to listen 'on the go' in iTunes.I hope you have an amazing day. Thank you so much for being here with me to share in my Clean Food, Dirty Stories. Bye for now!RESOURCESMy 5 Minute Salads & Sauces recipe ebook with my Way Better than Waldorf Salad recipe: rockingrawchef.com/5-minute-recipesMedicinal uses of celery, including juice recipe: www.wellbeing.com.au/body/recipes/Celery-Worth-stalking.htmlOther article with salad recipe: www.doctorshealthpress.com/food-and-nutrition-articles/10-health-benefits-of-celeryWhere to find Sohiniwww.elm-rose.comFacebookTwitterLinkedInSohinipreet Alg is a qualified Solicitor and specialised in Immigration law.  She is Level 3 OISC accredited and is a Senior Caseworker under the Law Society's Immigration & Asylum Accreditation Scheme. Sohini has worked all over the UK, including large London city based firms, and is the Director of Elm Rose Consultancy. She has an unparalleled passion and commitment to her clients.

  How author and artist Catherine Holland made a conscious decision not to die, and food that helps you focus 5 hours later. At the end of this episode I'll share with you a magical yet easily available food that helps you focus 5 hours later! But first, let's get to our story. Our guest, Catherine Holland I'll let Catherine tell you her story, but what I will tell you now is that she's an author, a breath coach and an artist whose most recent book is called Indestructible Soul: How I decided not to die. She's got quite a story, and I'm really looking forward to her sharing it with us. So Catherine, welcome to the Clean Food, Dirty Stories podcast! I'm really excited to have you here today! Now you've got quite a story which I believe starts with something pretty dramatic, right? I mean, people are going to hear 'I decided not to die' and they're going to think 'oh my goodness!' They're going to want to hear what happened, right? Catherine: Yes, well what happened is that I learned that it's a choice. Me: Wow! Catherine's story Catherine: So this is quite an exciting thing when you're dealing with the population. People I know, people I don't know, people in Facebook land and whatever. This idea that it really is a conscious and deliberate choice, and that the part of us that's doing the choosing is not the human part of us. So this has all been very practical for me, because of my breathwork. I've been practising breathwork for a very long time. To put it in perspective, I've ridden a bicycle all my life, I still ride a bicycle many miles a week. And at some point I decided I wanted to ride a motorbike. My brother rode a motorbike, I used to go on the back. And I never dared to ask because I suppose in a way because I'm a girl, I knew that my parents or at least my mother wasn't going to allow it to happen. So I wasn't going to face the fight. I did ride horses which is just as safe or dangerous as riding motorbikes, but let's not go there. It started with a motorcycle (motorbike) Fast forward quite a long time, I was in a job with a nice team in a print department. I said to them, I fancy learning to ride. And then I saw one for sale in the paper. Unlike a car, and because it was a 125, it was a learner bike and the owner was getting rid of it because they'd passed the test and they wanted a bigger bike. It all made sense, so I bought it. I rode it up and down the back alley, trying desperately to work out how to use the gears. Riding a motorbike when you've never ridden one is quite difficult. I had learned to drive a car so I understood the theory, but when you're trying to balance this wretched thing that falls over as soon as you stop...It has no reverse gear, so if you get into a pickle you can't get out again. The crash...and the decision I was tootling up and down. It wasn't very heavy so I could push it to turn it around. I took my CBT and I was out on the road practising and I got struck by a car. A car crushed my leg and within a couple of minutes I'd lost half my blood. I was aware of lying in the road, wanting someone to hold my hand, and I was then aware of travelling towards a tunnel which went up and to the right. In my head were two questions: Do you want to go back and see your children grow up, or do you want to carry on where there's no pain? Sorry, they were the other way round - do you want to carry on where there's no pain, because I could feel the pain once I was hit and it was so big that I couldn't tell where it was coming from. Me: That's what I was going to ask you, yeah. Catherine vs a BMW Catherine: And so in my mind of course, any person who knows anything about motorbikes and injuries, they worry about breaking their back. But I wasn't going fast enough to do something like that. The car had accelerated into me. It was a BMW. An accelerating BMW can go quite fast, so they weigh about a ton and a half. So you know, me against a ton and a half of metal...Anyway I didn't know where I'd been hit, I didn't know what was hurting. But I did know when I was being asked the questions that it wasn't hurting anymore at that point. It was really, really tempting to carry on where there was no pain. Had I had not had children I would have definitely carried on because they were the only thing that brought me back. Nothing else. Me: How old were you if I may ask? Catherine: I don't tell because I don't give my age. People including me have judgments about age. Me: How old were your children, then? Because that's the reason I asked. Catherine: My children were late teens. So my oldest one was university so she might have been 21. I think the youngest was 15, but I tend not to analyze stuff. Dates I don't analyze, I don't have a birthday or a reminder of it, it's not my style. Apart from people's birthdays that I do need to remember, I don't memorize dates. I don't do anniversaries, especially deaths, it's not my thing. And besides, that was my own death! Preparing not to die So I was dead not for very long. But long enough to have seen and felt what it's like. And it's really, really lovely. Really wonderful. So I'd had some really good experience in my breathwork practice, which I'd been doing for about a dozen years at that point of knowing that subconscious travel is beautiful. And I think that helped me to be prepared and not too shocked by the experience. I think it clearly helped me emotionally, psychologically, but also hugely physically. Obviously my arteries that were damaged must have closed because I didn't die. Police arrived on the scene fairly quickly, as did an ambulance. They put a tourniquet on my leg, so I don't know, I might have still been bleeding heavily at that point and that's why they put it on. That's what made me think, "I thought they didn't use tourniquets anymore". Of course later I thought of course they do! If your life's at risk, losing a leg is a minor detail! But I haven't been drinking, Officer... So the policemen asked me questions. I didn't have any other injuries, just the bit where the car had driven into my leg which I didn't realize at the time that the injury was, even. I remember the policemen asking me how much I'd had to drink and that sort of thing! But before that and before they arrived, when I was hit, my eyes closed at that point. They didn't really open again for about 5 days because I didn't have the energy. I was aware of this female voice saying to me, "Oh, you're OK!" as I lay in the road. I opened my eyes and I saw this bleached blond woman looking at me. She was clearly drunk, she got back in the car. Her husband didn't get out of the car, he was driving. They were about to drive away and the passersby didn't let them go. So in her mind I was all right and they were going to get back in their car and drive away! Me: What happened to them? And for the driver... Catherine: They were arrested, well he certainly was. He was charged within 5 days because he'd pleaded guilty but I didn't find this out for 6 months. He pleaded guilty, he had a ban for 6 months which was the time it took me to be, well I still had a fixator screwed in my leg. It took me two years to recover. I'm still left with an ankle that doesn't bend properly which I have to keep working on. It's been a big effect on my life, but that man, it's a really funny thing. I didn't have the energy to be angry with him. My kids were furious, they wanted to go around and knock on his door. And that's OK, I brought them up to be non-violent people. People used to say to me, "What do you wish had happened to him?" And my answer is, still is, that he wouldn't be allowed to drink alcohol again. Because I think that's a really fair thing for somebody who's caused that type of injury by drinking and driving, because when they went to the pub they must have known they were going to go home. And it was only half past ten at night, it wasn't particularly late. Clearly they'd intended to drive to the pub and back again. And they weren't just a bit drunk, they were very drunk. The scariest moment in the hospital Me: And when you were in hospital, you mentioned that for you, you really needed to have a lot of focus and perseverance. Can you say something about that? Like how does that come into it? Was that to do rehabilitation? Cause you said you almost lost your leg, so... Catherine: So I was taken by bumpy ambulance to hospital, to a very rich hospital thank goodness, and I was put into a bed by the nurses' station and sort of patched up at that point. The orthopaedic surgeon said "Right, you're going to be going to the operating theater, I'll save your leg if I can." And I said "You have to! You've got to! I'm a climber and a dancer and a cyclist!" And then I burst into tears. Me: That must have been so scary! Catherine: Indeed it was, I do remember it. Putting things back together again Catherine: Two days after that I had another operation for skin and muscle grafting where another surgeon, soft tissue surgeon Mr Sohardi, stitched back the tendons which had been pulled away. Almost every tendon in my lower leg had been broken. So he did the jigsaw puzzle of putting them all back together. But he also did something which, well it might have been Mr Gotswani, I think. It was to take part of my calf muscle and strap it over the gap. There was a gap in the bone about the length of my forefinger. The bone had been so smashed to smithereens, there was a gap in my shinbone. They laid the muscle across there so that the bone would have blood supply because they believed that if it didn't, the bone would die. And then I'd have a different problem because I'd have dead tissue from the inside and then I'd still have to have an amputation. So it made my leg look very strange but I had all these skin grafts taken from the other leg and put onto that leg. After the first operation I had bandages from the top of my thigh right down to my big toe. Which surprised me a bit. And then I had this huge steel handle sticking out which was screwed into my leg. It was screwed in below my knee and just above my ankle. The screws below my knee were horizontal because the bone is wider there. Steel inside and out And yeah so I had this steel thing in my leg which was very weird indeed. You could actually pick my leg up with it, which was very odd. But the idea was to hold the bone steady so that when it started to mend itself, it would be the right length. The bone had been so smashed up. When I had a look on the x-ray, what Mr Gotswani had done was to spend 6 hours to painstakingly take each piece of bone with tweezers out of the wound and putting it in between the gap. I later understood because I later did training in injury treatment that the little cells in your body that notice when there's damage, they pick up and break down all of the broken bits of bone and rebuild them into the form that they should be. He was giving them the best chance because there was such a big gap. He wanted to make sure that there would be suitable material available for my body to pick up and to mend, which it did beautifully! Because the next x-ray I saw two weeks later showed it to be one bone again. And all the bits that had been put in there were like flowers, like a bunch of flowers all sticking out at funny angles. They were gradually being reabsorbed by my body in correct formations. Mental focus Me: So then where did your mental focus come in? Catherine: So my mental focus became completely absorbed by this extraordinary process that was happening. I can only liken it to a feeling you get when you're in the bottom of a ship. If you've ever been in a big ship, even on a ferry, a big one. Where they have an engine room that's enormous. And the whole place is pounding and shaking, with the energy. The pumping of the energy. That's what my body felt like. The whole thing is focused on this energy. I'd lost about half my body weight, my skin and my face was the color of my pillowslip which as my daughter pointed out was white. What else happened? My leg was about half an inch from top to bottom, a couple of centimeters. The thickness of my leg was reduced to a couple of centimeters. And my legs are quite strong, I'm a cyclist. So my leg was sort of spread out like a big sheet of liver. Very strange. So yeah, this pounding feeling was the total focus of my body was mending. Me: Oh I see, yeah. Laying on of hands Catherine: And my body was really helped by somebody laying their hands on the bandages. It gave me a feeling of transferred energy. It was very, very helpful. Me: So did you ask people to do that? Catherine: Yes, if they asked me what they could do, I'd tell them. And my daughter taught my dad to do it. He doubted very much that he would know what to do and that it would be helpful, but of course my kids just said "This is what you do, Granddad. This is what you do". And my son brought his friend in, so yeah there were these two 15-year-olds who turned up and that was really lovely. So yeah, my son showed his friend what to do. He said "Richard, this is what you do". So everyone just took turns laying their hands on the bandages. It was very strange because I had 6 tubes going in and out of my body. I had blood at the beginning, I had morphine, I had an oxygen mask and all sorts of stuff. But of course what the staff didn't realize was that I'd already made the decision to live. I was parked opposite the nurses' station thinking they needed to keep their eye on me in case I was going to die. Because in the time, I don't know, I think it's the following 24 hours that's the pivotal time, but for me I knew I was gonna live. I'd made the decision, it was upwards from where I was. Even though from the outside I was pretty comatose. Smearing (not painting!) Me: But now you cycle and everything, right? Catherine: Yeah, I can do everything now. I can't climb very well now because to smear you need to be able to bend your feet up. Me: Smear? What's... Catherine: Smearing is when you're climbing a rock that has very high friction like millstone grit. It doesn't have many gaps to put your feet in. So you put your feet on it and with your rubber climbing shoes you stick to it because it's like sandpaper. I can only put the tip of my toe on because I can't bend my ankle which means I can't put my foot flat on it. Which is annoying, but anyway. I can climb. I climb better on stuff that's got good holds, but I do so much climbing now for other reasons anyway so that's OK. The best thing was I had no doubt at all I would take my bike test. I'd been riding for 3 weeks, I'd taken my CBT, I'd a test booked for some months later because I'd been having lessons. Obviously I had to cancel that test! Total focus on healing But my mind was really only focused on getting well. Fortunately because my children had been brought up by me, they were incredibly capable. The older one had just finished her university degree. She came and sat with me every day and brought me food. She also made me a nightdress because I didn't possess one! And if there was anything going on that I needed my attention drawn to... for example when they put an x-ray up in the lightbox. She would say "Mum you're going to want to see this. I'll tell you when to open your eyes". Because she was completely aware that I could only open them for half a second. You know about computers and RAM? Well I was seriously lacking in RAM because everything was focused on the processing of my leg. Me: Of healing, of course. To eat or not to eat Catherine: I couldn't keep my eyes open, I couldn't read, I couldn't write. That went on for weeks, it was quite interesting. And I didn't eat. I didn't eat for three days. Me: Oh, but speaking of food, sorry, I know that you wanted me to ask you about the food. You were craving a food, I think? I have no idea what that could be. Catherine: Well at that point I just ate a few, I think it was three grapes and a segment of satsuma. The nursing staff were worrying about me not eating, saying "We're going to have to drip feed you if you don't start eating soon". I said "I have eaten! I've had three grapes and a segment of satsuma!" I really felt I was making progress because I could feel my body coming back to life. And because I'm a real big eater and I'm very keen on my food, it kicked in really, really hard. So yeah, I started eating big time. Interesting food cravings And my daughter knew that the sort of food that was available wasn't going to be my preferred option for getting well. So the two things I craved most, because she brought me a salad every day that she made herself. I was craving broccoli and a particular type of smoked tofu that has sesame seeds and almonds in it. And doing my homework later I realized of course that those are powerful healing foods. Unfermented soya isn't so good for humans. I did eat a lot of it at that time but I hadn't done my homework then. But I was really aware of how important raw food was. I'd actually been raw for a number of years since reading Leslie Kenton's book Raw Energy. That was interesting. There was actually one meal on the menu that I was OK to eat which was...I don't know what the religion was, but there was some traditional group that was common in that particular hospital that had a sort of beans and rice type meal. There were two varieties. You could only have an option of two, so every other day I had the same dinner. But I was pleased that it was something that I actually considered food because the other options I didn't consider nourishing at all. Me: But it is good that you managed to recover so well. Catherine: I had to have lots of conversations with lots of different people about lots of different things that went on there. Me: I'll bet, yeah. Welcome to Trauma? Catherine: Something quite funny was that once I did open my eyes and came to, I opened my eyes and opposite my bed on the wall it said "Welcome to Trauma". Me: Oh, that's not very good! Catherine: If I'd been in my right mind, I would have laughed. But I wasn't. There was a part of my mind that knew that one day I'd find that funny. So I was sort of aware. And then I realized that for the staff there, it wasn't a joke. The unit is actually called the Trauma Unit and they shorten it to Trauma, as in "Are you going to Trauma?" So they put "Welcome to Trauma!" For a long time I was going to call the book that, but some people said they wouldn't read it if it said that. It took me ages to think about what to call it. What Catherine feels gave her the choice to live or die Me: We have to wrap this up for today, but I really appreciate you sharing your story. And I'm sure there are a lot of people out there who may or may not know that in some situations like yours, dying can be a choice. Right? Catherine: Indeed. And I do believe that if you look after your health and your diet really well, that's when you have the choice. I did the homework afterwards and I realized why I'd had the choice. And it wasn't chance. It was hard graft on my part and dedication to it, to a really super lifestyle. Me: I did want to ask you about your book because you've written in more detail about your recovery and everything. For people who do want to know more about you, where can they find you? And your book? And your art? Where to find out more about Catherine Catherine: Yes, well I have my own website and I also have quite a big Amazon presence, Kindle presence. My own website is catherineholland.co.uk and you can find the information about my book on there. But because I wish to sell on Kindle, I don't so much have the availability on my website, but it's also a print book. It's an actual printed, hard copy book which you can't see, but... It's a really nice little book, people love it, it's got a picture of me on one of my bikes that I got after I passed the test. And then on Amazon I have about 15 titles so 4 of those are real paper books. The rest of them are Kindle guides. Me: So people can look there and see what you have, super! Well thank you so much! Which brings us to our food tip for today! A food that helps you focus, 5 hours later So, I mentioned at the beginning of this episode that I'd share with you a food that helps you focus 5 hours after you eat it. And that food is... blueberries! Benefits of blueberries You've probably heard already that blueberries are a great brain food, but do you know why? It's because they help boost the flow of blood as well as oxygen to the brain, plus they have a load of antioxidants which are believed to help protect against cancer, heart disease and dementia. I'll link to an article in the show notes where you can read more about the actual study. What I will say is that if you pop some blueberries in your mouth, eat them and then are expecting an immediate 'brain rush', you'll probably be disappointed. It doesn't work like that. Researchers found that the blueberries didn't make a difference an hour later. Not even two hours later. The big difference - and we're talking 15-20% of increased focus and performance - came 5 hours later. They measured this and you can check it out in the notes if you want to. How you eat blueberries Now how do you eat blueberries? Well, that's obvious, you grab a handful, right? Or you pop some in a smoothie. But did you know that your blueberries don't have to be fresh to deliver maximum benefits? Frozen fruit and vegetables don't lose that much nutrient content if they're frozen soon after they're picked, which is often the case. So keep a bag of frozen blueberries in your freezer, and the next time you feel like a smoothie, toss a handful in your blender along with a banana and some preferably plant-based milk. It's deliciously purple, and kids love it too. And if you'd like more recipes to tempt you to use even more blueberries for even more focus, I'll link in the shownotes to some of my 5-minute recipe ebooks to inspire you. Have YOU got a story to share? If you've got a true story to share, and you'd like to know what food could have saved the day in your situation), I'd love to hear from you! Got a question, or a comment? Got a question, or a comment? Pop a note below in the comments, that would be awesome. You can also subscribe to the podcast to listen 'on the go' in iTunes. I hope you have an amazing day. Thank you so much for being here with me to share in my Clean Food, Dirty Stories. Bye for now! RESOURCES Catherine's website: catherineholland.co.uk Catherine's books: On Amazon Scientific study on blueberries and their effects on cognitive function: https://clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT01289860 Article that mentions the above study (in less 'science-y' language): http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1212579/A-bowl-blueberries-day-keeps-brain-active-afternoon.html My 5-minute recipe ebooks: https://rockingrawchef.com/5-minute-recipes/   Catherine Holland is an inspiring author, breath coach and artist practising rebirthing breathwork for 27 years. She has three children. When she was learning to ride a motorbike her leg was crushed by a car and she died for a short while, long enough to witness the experience and to know that we do not disappear when we die. She writes about this in her most recent book, Indestructible Soul: How I decided not to die, which can be found with her other titles, on Amazon.  

What is it like to be on the receiving end of ME? What kind of legacy am I leaving? Who is in my wake? God's call of Abram invites us to consider how we can leave a legacy of life.

  Season 3, Episode 2 For Wednesday, January 27, 2016 “Return to Me” HOST:  Emily Hatfield GUEST: Kathy Pollard     Show Notes: On this episode of Wifey Wednesdays, Emily talks with Kathy Pollard, author of the book Return to Me: What to Do When Loved Ones Fall Away, about her experience writing the book, the things […]

Thatch, Ethan, and Dr. Shamu get together and talk about what they hope to see for pokemon in the next year.Mailbag: What do you hope to see in the next year? puclpodcast@gmail.comDon't forget to like us on Facebook, follow us on Twitter, follow us on Tumblr, subscribe to our Subreddit, and most importantly Review us on iTunes!Link Lost Uke InterviewMe: “So mum, do you like Pokemon?”Mum: [laughs] “They’re O.K.”Me: “What are your earliest memories of me and Pokemon?”Mum: “you having those cards and watching what’s his face? umm, ash, on T.V.”Me: “Do you think Pokemon was good for me as a child?”Mum: “I don’t know how educational it was but it kept you entertained and you enjoyed it”Me: “And what about now, do you think Pokemon is good for me as an adult?”Mum: “Yes. It’s good to have a hobby or something to escape reality. Not that your reality is bad, but it’s good to have a break from things. That sounded bad”Me: “Let’s move on. Did you ever buy me Pokemon stuff as a kid?”Mum: “yes we bought you the cards because you liked them”Me: “no toys?”Mum: “no toys”Me: “What’s your favourite Pokemon mum?”Mum: “Pikachu”Me: “Do you know any other Pokemon?”Mum: “The one that looks like a horse”Me: “Rapidash? Ponyta”Mum: “Nah, not them”.Me: Do you know the names of any other Pokemon?Mum: “There is a flamethrower Pokemon yeah?”Me: “Flamethrower is a move that Pokemon use”Mum: “yeah the pokemon that uses that”Me: “Charmander?”Mum: “maybe”Me: “Charizard?”Mum: “yeah that’s him”Me: “Awesome that’s two Pokemon. Not bad. Hey Mum, what are your thoughts on me still playing Pokemon at 24?”Mum: “It’s funny”Me:  “why do you find it funny”Mum: “Because it still makes you a child at heart”Me: “Do you consider Pokemon to be a serious sport?”Mum: “No. To me it’s a cute version of Mortal Kombat”.Me: “That’s one way to describe it I guess. What do you think about my extensive Pokemon plush and figurine collection?”Mum: “It’s Impressive”Me: “Thanks. Are you proud of my love of Pokemon?”Mum: “yes”Me: “Do you have any other thoughts you would like to share about Pokemon to PUCL?”Mum: “No”Me: “And finally, would you recommend Pokemon to your friends?”Mum: “No son, don’t be silly”.Me: “Thanks for your time” See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

All you really need to do to have a fun, happy life, is to start doing more things that bring fun and happiness into your life! It's that simple. It is so easy to get stuck in the rut of working, raising kids, etc, that we forget to have fun. At the end of our lives, the only way to say we had a fun, happy life, is to have had the majority of our days be fun, happy days! Listen as I explain more: Listen on iTunes or Listen to/download this episode here: Show Outline: Epiphany: an experience of sudden and striking realization. I love when a coaching client has an epiphany! Conversation with a client: Client: All I want is to have a fun, happy life. Me: What are you doing to create fun and happiness in your life? "How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives." - Annie Dillard If you want to have a fun, happy life, the majority of your days need to be fun and happy! We get stuck in the rut of just doing the same things every day. We forget to do the things that we enjoy, that bring us happiness! One reason so many people do not like their life is they are not doing enough fun things on a daily basis! Make a list of things that you have done, or would like to do, that would be fun or make you happy; then do those things! Married people need to have their own friends and do things outside of the marriage--it will benefit the marriage! At the end of the day, think about the things that made you smile or laugh today--be on the lookout for the fun, funny moments of life. Mentioned in this show: Help me create better content. Please take this short survey! Download: Affirmations for Abundant Living LIAM Team Life Coaching Community Subscription/Social Links: Subscribe on iTunes! Subscribe on Stitcher Radio! Watch on YouTube! LIAM on Twitter: @LifeIs262 LIAM on Facebook / LifeIsAMarathon Subscribe to the LIAM Mailing List www.BruceVanHorn.com Bruce Van Horn on Twitter Bruce Van Horn on Facebook    

Part 3 of 5,taken from Psalm 22:1 "My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?" What exactly transpired on the cross? We shed some insight into that question in this 5 part study.

Taken from Psalm 22:1 "My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?" What exactly transpired on the cross? We shed some insight into that question in this 5 part study.

What did Jesus mean when He said, "Take up your cross and follow Me"? What does it mean to take up your cross?