Podcasts about integral psychology

Get ready to tantalize your senses and revolutionize your relationships, Shameless listeners! This week, we're diving deep into the world of tantra and body positivity with San Francisco's hottest power couple, Erwan and Alicia Davon. These relationship gurus have been spicing up love lives for 25 years with their game-changing Davon Method. Prepare to shed those pesky body hang-ups as we explore how shame impacts intimacy, debunk body myths, and learn to embrace our sexy selves. The Davons dish out sizzling strategies to stay present during steamy moments and create a safe space for vulnerability. Plus, hear a jaw-dropping success story that'll make you want to sign up for their next retreat ASAP! Whether you're single and ready to mingle or coupled up and looking to level up, this episode is packed with tantalizing tips to transform your love life. Don't miss out on the Davons' secrets to sensual success – your body (and partner) will thank you! Tune in now and discover how to work with Erwan and Alicia at davonmethod.com. Let's get shameless, baby! About our guests: Erwan & Alicia Davon are renowned Relationship Coaches and San Francisco's leading Tantra Teachers. They developed their signature process, the Davon Method, and have taught it to over 20,000 students in groups, retreats and individual sessions. As a married couple, they have been teaching singles to get into relationship & couples to thrive in relationship for the last 25 years. They have become the go-to place in the San Francisco Bay Area for all things romantic and sexual and are quickly becoming that worldwide through online learning. Erwan and Alicia have a unique approach to relationship coaching that combines their educational backgrounds in psychology and aspects of Zen Buddhism to provide a holistic method to effectively improve connection with the self and others. Erwan studied psychology and graduated with honors after a difficult childhood and an early introduction to therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen Monastery, direct a Yoga ashram, and teach personal development at one of the world's largest personal growth organizations. Erwan's passion for helping and teaching people led him to found The Davon Method in 1995, specifically to help people improve their romantic relationships. Alicia holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sexual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfillment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 22 years ago and started teaching with him soon after. They have spent years perfecting their curriculum and techniques and provide a safe place so you can improve chemistry, connection, communication, and passion in your love life! Get ready to have fun because working with them is a blast! To set up a consultation: 415 308 9580 https://davonmethod.com/consult Paradise Vacation Course webpage + video https://davonmethod.com/paradise-vacation-course/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=foorVBfAYPU Website  https://davonmethod.com/ TikTok & Instagram @davonmethod Come to our Shameless Sex Couple's Retreat in Costa Rica! We only have spots for six couples so sign up asap here: https://tinyurl.com/mpvf858h Apply for our retreat scholarship spot here: https://forms.gle/7LeNJNLs7WdRufrL8 Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

Elise Loehnen is a writer, editor, and podcast host of Pulling the Thread. Ultimately, Elise is a seeker and synthesizer, braiding together wisdom traditions, cultural history, and a deep knowledge of healing modalities to unlock new ways to contextualize who we are and why we're here. She's also the author of the instant New York Times bestseller On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good. The book explores the ways patriarchy embeds itself in our consciousness. The Seven Deadly Sins—Sloth, Envy, Pride, Gluttony, Greed, Lust, Anger—reads like a checklist of what it means to be a "good" woman and offers a path forward, moving ourselves and each other toward freedom and balance. Elise is a frequent contributor to Oprah and has written for The New York Times, Elle Decor, Stylist, and more. She has co-written 12 books, including five New York Times Best Sellers. Previously, she was the chief content officer of goop, and co-hosted The goop Podcast and The goop Lab on Netflix. Before goop, Elise was the editorial projects director of Condé Nast Traveler. Before Traveler, she was the editor at large and ultimately deputy editor of Lucky Magazine, appearing regularly on Today, E!, Good Morning America, and The Early Show. She has a B.A. from Yale. In this episode, Nada sits down with Elise to learn what prompted her to write On Our Best Behavior and to unpack how women have contorted themselves to find a place in history. Elise shares anecdotes about how modesty was prioritized and impacted her life. She discusses the importance of women showing up together and gives us context for why collectivism is essential. This cultural therapist (recently coined at a conference and an appropriate title for Elise) is at once a researcher, teacher, student, and friend. Her ability to clearly articulate our cultural condition gives wings to our unnamed inklings and fragmented thoughts. Elise is currently reading The Origin of Satan by Elaine Pagels, Morality by Jonathon Sack, and Integral Psychology by Ken Wilber. You can find additional recommendations at Bookshop, or Goodreads. Check out Elise's website, book, and podcast.Please follow us at @thisislibertyroad on Instagram; we want to share and connect with you and hear your thoughts and comments. Please rate and review this podcast. It helps to know if these conversations inspire and equip you to consider your possibilities and lean into your future with intention. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"BIRTH: a psychedelic experience." - Brandilyn ClayWelcome to the Spirituality Now podcast! In this episode, we have Brandilyn Clay, birthpreneur, doula, mother, goddess, wife, woman, and soul.Brandilyn Clay is a holistic psychology expert, and spiritual entrepreneur based in Austin, TX.A mother of three, she is the driving force behind her third business. With a Masters in Integral Psychology and over 10 years of experience, she seamlessly merges modern neuroscience with ancient wisdom in her holistic healing practice. Brandilyn Clay is also a pioneer of Sound Meditation, captivating audiences with crystal bowls, sacred songs, and harp rituals for over a decade, specializing in supporting mothers and couples through birth, postpartum, and business ventures.As the founder of Goddess Capes, a conscious clothing line that empowers indigenous Peruvian women, and Liquid Gold, a bone broth elixir brand.Her commitment to conscious living and the longevity of women's lives extends globally offering coaching programs, postpartum doula services, sound meditations, retreats, and more.Her overarching mission: Heal Mothers, and in doing so, heal the Earth.In this podcast, we discuss:Reclaiming your goddess powerThe power of reinventing yourselfHolistic psychology and ancient wisdom applications for modern timesSupporting mothers through birth and postpartumThe healing power of sound medicineHitting the reset button for our nervous systemTapping into subtle energiesLeading a conscious business and helping Peruvian women in the processThe importance of liquid golden bone broth for longevity and women's livesThe mission to heal mothers and its broader vision of healing the earth and much more.You can listen and subscribe now on Spotify or your preferred broadcast platform. You can also watch us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7sdgBExfafsTo learn more about Brandilyn, visit her on social media and webpage:https://www.instagram.com/brandilynbee/ https://www.brandilynbee.com/ Podcast produced by Brilliant Futures Productions.Sponsored by Delaflor Teachings Int. & Network for Human Empowerment TV.

Ep. 117 (Part 3 of 3) | Brad Reynolds, author of Embracing Reality: The Integral Vision of Ken Wilber and Where's Wilber At? Ken Wilber's Integral Vision in the New Millennium, gives us a beautiful distillation of Ken Wilber's work, starting from the beginning and spanning decades. Not only does Brad elegantly relate the major themes of Ken's work, he also makes clear the value of Ken's contributions—the way this knowledge can be understood and applied to literally expand our notion of reality and evolve our consciousness. Brad deftly leads us through the subjects that Ken has developed: the spectrum of consciousness, the integration of science and religion, transcending and including what has come before, the importance of the transpersonal, and much more. We learn why Ken's teachings are timeless and also so relevant and important today.Brad's scholarship, his own spiritual practice and insight, his engaging, easygoing style, and the close working relationship he had with Ken for many years make this podcast a goldmine for learning the essence of Ken's theories, for deepening our appreciation of the magnitude of Ken's understanding, and above all, the topics covered here point the way for us to evolve as human beings. We come to understand that integral is much more than a theory: it's a practice, a call to grow and transcend, to become more inclusive, more responsive—to live our true potential. Brad eloquently brings it home just how much we need integral thinkers and leaders right now, with regressive developmental trends on the rise. Especially pertinent in our polarized society, integral shows us how to take all that is valuable within ostensibly conflicting worldviews and integrate it for the benefit of all. Recorded January 3, 2024.“Integral thinking is really about encouraging people to be their best selves.”(For Apple Podcast users, click here to view the complete show notes on the episode page.)Topics & Time Stamps – Part 3Ken's Phase 5: Ending the solitary period and establishing the Integral Institute to apply the AQAL model in the world (00:49)Ken's health issues multiplied in 2006 (05:19)Brad's favorite book of Ken's: Integral Psychology (06:37)Ken's critique of postmodernism in his novel Boomeritis (09:05)Ken's new book would often address the flaws in his last book (13:28)What Ken's The Marriage of Sense and Soul intended to do: how to integrate value-free science with value-laden religion? (14:40)And how do we mitigate the clash of civilizations, the war of worldviews? (19:01)How psychology uses the scientific method to develop our interiors and help heal our fractured culture (20:52)Ken's theory is based upon the reality of his transpersonal awareness (22:04)The need for integral leaders to permeate our institutions and establish global reconciliation—otherwise there will be a regression (23:39)History is calling on us as a collective to address the pathologies we haven't addressed or we will lose our democracy and regress down the spectrum of consciousness (25:16)Integral is really about encouraging people to be their best selves, to be inclusive; it's a way of securing the rights of liberty and justice (27:32)Ken's most recent publications, The Religion of Tomorrow, A Post-Truth World, and Revolutionary Social Transformation...

This week, Kirsten sits down with special guest Alicia Davon to explore how we can communicate about sex and pleasure more effectively. Alicia Davon holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sensual expression, and she has taught over 15,000 students with her husband through the Davon Method.   Alicia and Kirsten talk all about what women really want, how to relate to women sexually and romantically, and what to do on your first date to show up as the best version of yourself. If you feel stuck with how to talk about sex during or after intimacy… don't miss this episode as Alicia offers a clear outline of asking for what you want without hurting your partner's feelings.   Whether you are looking for insight on how to sexually please a woman or guidance on communicating about sex clearly, this episode has something for you.    Ready to totally transform your sex life? Visit https://www.thenakedconnection.com/guide and get your FREE orgasmic breathwork practice guide.     This guide is here to help you experience more power, sensitivity, aliveness, and pleasure in just 10 minutes.    Connect with Kirsten Trammell www.thenakedconnection.com https://www.instagram.com/kirstentrammell_/   Connect with Alicia Davon Join The Pleasure Course Nov 11-12  sign up with a $100 discount using CODE100 at checkout.   https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pleasure-course-learn-the-building-blocks-of-great-sx-relationship-tickets-537978126057?aff=naked   Love Life Consultation https://davonmethod.com/consult/ Or text 415 308 9580   www.davonmethod.com @davonmethod

This week, Ash talks with Alicia Davon about how to build more connected relationships with others and yourself. Alicia holds a masters in Integral Psychology and teaches singles to get into fulfilling relationships and couples to thrive in partnership. Alica and Ash dive into the stages of romantic relationships, the ingredients to building more chemistry, and how to navigate power struggles. Whether you are single, looking for insight on how to call in love, or need to repair an aspect of your relationships, Alicia has valuable insight. Don't miss this episode! In This Episode, You'll Learn: How to enter a new relationship with success and clarity. Tools to communicate clearly and discuss challenging topics. Why power struggles happen in relationships and what to do if you find yourself in one. The secret to having a fulfilling love life. How to shift into receptivity in a relationship and allow love to come to you. Connect with Alicia Davon Visit www.davonmethod.com Love Life Consultation: https://davonmethod.com/consult/ Or text 415 308 9580 Join up for the Pleasure Course (November 11-12, 2023) Use CODE100 at checkout for $100 discount.  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pleasure-course-learn-the-building-blocks-of-great-sx-relationship-tickets-537978126057?aff=youturn DOSE Ready to invest in your health? Visit dosedaily.co/youturn and use code youturn for up to 30% off. Joi Read to take ownership of your health and feel your best? Visit choosejoi.co/youturn and get 20% off any labs.

Elise Loehnen is a writer, editor, and podcast host of Pulling the Thread. Ultimately, Elise is a seeker and synthesizer, braiding together wisdom traditions, cultural history, and a deep knowledge of healing modalities to unlock new ways to contextualize who we are and why we're here. She's also the author of the instant New York Times bestseller On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good. The book explores the ways patriarchy embeds itself in our consciousness. The Seven Deadly Sins—Sloth, Envy, Pride, Gluttony, Greed, Lust, Anger—reads like a checklist of what it means to be a "good" woman and offers a path forward, moving ourselves and each other toward freedom and balance. Elise is a frequent contributor to Oprah and has written for The New York Times, Elle Decor, Stylist, and more. She has co-written 12 books, including five New York Times Best Sellers. Previously, she was the chief content officer of goop, and co-hosted The goop Podcast and The goop Lab on Netflix. Before goop, Elise was the editorial projects director of Condé Nast Traveler. Before Traveler, she was the editor at large and ultimately deputy editor of Lucky Magazine, appearing regularly on Today, E!, Good Morning America, and The Early Show. She has a B.A. from Yale. In this episode, Nada sits down with Elise to learn what prompted her to write On Our Best Behavior and to unpack how women have contorted themselves to find a place in history. Elise shares anecdotes about how modesty was prioritized and impacted her life. She discusses the importance of women showing up together and gives us context for why collectivism is essential. This cultural therapist (recently coined at a conference and an appropriate title for Elise) is at once a researcher, teacher, student, and friend. Her ability to clearly articulate our cultural condition gives wings to our unnamed inklings and fragmented thoughts. Elise is currently reading The Origin of Satan by Elaine Pagels, Morality by Jonathon Sack, and Integral Psychology by Ken Wilber. You can find additional recommendations at Bookshop, or Goodreads. Check out Elise's website, book, and podcast.Please follow us at @thisislibertyroad on Instagram--where we hang out the most and connect with our community. And please rate and review this podcast. It helps to know if these conversations inspire and equip you to consider what's now and what's next. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Alicia Davon, a San Francisco resident with a Master's degree in Integral Psychology, is here today to discuss Extended Orgasms. She (along with her husband Erwan) developed their signature process, the Davon Method, in 1995 to help singles and couples cultivate more intimate sex lives using their 5-step approach. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR:The 5 Steps to the Davon MethodConsciousness - Identifying limiting relationship patterns from past conditioningContact - Connecting to your deeper self beyond conditioningChemistry - Optimizing masculine/feminine dynamics and communicationChoreography - Navigating relationship stages skillfullyCultivation - Developing your full sexual potentialTips for Extended OrgasmsThe use relaxation and arousal to reach Full-body orgasmic states.Specialized techniques to expand pleasure beyond a brief climaxCommon mistakes to avoid.ALICIA'S GIFTS TO OUR LISTENERS!Gift: Schedule a Free 1:1 Private Love Life Consultation with AliciaGift: First five who text: 415-308-9580 or submit THIS FORM will get a Free Ticket to the Pleasure Course Gift: Didn't win a free ticket? Use coupon CODE100 for a discount to the Pleasure CourseSTAY IN TOUCH WITH ALICIAAlicia's Website, Instagram, TikTok, Events CalendarOTHER EPISODE LINKSPrivate Party Lubricant > * scroll all the way down the page Sliquid Lubricant > Safe to use with toysAwaken Arousal Oil Lubricant "I had a 3-minute orgasm and then a 5-minute orgasm. All I know is that I had transcended and felt like I was surfing in a perpetual wave pool of pleasure." - BethSupport the showSxR Hotline | SxR Website | YouTube | TikTok | Pinterest | Instagram | Dr. Willow's Website | Leah's Website

Pujya Sir K.C.Narayana ( KCN ) Messages  (Meditation, Raja Yoga, Training, Spirituality, PAM - Pranahuti Aided Meditation, Divinity, Divine Service & Research, Babuji Disciple) Pujya Sri Ramchandraji's Disciple & Founder of  “Institute of Sri RamChandra Consciousness”  *Messages delivered by Pujya Sir K.C.Narayana ( KCN ), Hyderabad, India.  Dedicated his life for the Spiritual service of Pujya Sri Ramchandraji's Pranahuti Aided Meditation, Research, Meditation Trainings, Audio Messages, Books & SatSangh   For Meditation Info Contact: www.sriramchandra.in  Biography: kcnarayana.org Episode Notes: MOULDING IS THE PRECEPTORS BUSINESS 1.1. The theme of this seminar as we all know is taken from the article Methods of Training of our Great Master Sri Ramchandraji Maharaj of Shahjahanpur. This article was addressed to Preceptors/ prefects of Sri Ramchandra Mission in the year 1970 in a conference of Preceptors/Prefects at Tirupati. This talk forms part of the Audio CD of our Master which has 6 talks and a song sung by him released by ISRC. I may be permitted to use the term trainers, instead of using Preceptors/prefects every time hereafter in this paper. 1.2 All of us are aware of the tendency to think that every thing in this system of sadhana is done by the Master and the trainer as well as the aspirant, has precious little to do. This tendency of thinking was present even by 1969 and many trainers tried to disown their responsibility in the spiritual training that is being imparted in the system. It was the usual practice by then to say that the aspirant has nothing to do except to take the introductory sittings and attend the satsanghs (meditation sittings in groups) and annual/ biannual/quarterly gatherings organized by the institution. The individual sittings were optional. No effort was made to evaluate the progress made by the aspirant and it was being said that everything is left to the Master. And a very specious argument was given that to try to know ones' condition or stage of progress indirectly means that one has no faith in the Master. Thus a situation arose in the implementation of the system which promised through its books “Towards Infinity”, “Reality at Dawn” and “Efficacy of Rajayoga” a practical and verifiable system of sadhana, where no responsibility for guidance and no assistance in evaluation were forthcoming. Master was always proud of his system and was confident that he trained many to become masters. In his catholic approach he used the term master for the preceptors also in many of his writings, but these were conveniently made to be understood as referring the Great Master alone and the trainers slowly abdicated their responsibility for training and accountability to progress of the aspirants. The article, ‘Method of Training' has to be read therefore keeping in view the main theme of the Master namely clarifying the points in training and the role of the aspirant, the trainer and the Master. 1.3  If we ponder over the word ‘training' it becomes clear that there can be no training without moulding. But it is also true that Master used to talk about transformation. While we use the word moulding usually with reference to material objects we use the term transformation in the case of living beings. However moulding or transformation implies first of all change from the existing position or status. Therefore it is incumbent on the part of aspirants that they should be prepared to accept change in their ways of living and behaving as also bring in changes in their attitudes and priorities. It has been our experience that while almost all aspirants want to get ‘Realized' very few of them ever think of being prepared to change. This refusal to change and sticking to their familiar ways of living has been the main cause of lack of desired level of progress achieved by them in spite many sessions of offering of Pranahuti. 1.4  Before we go into the practical aspects of imparting training, there is need for us to be clear about the system itself. Is our system based on a type of evolutionary philosophy or is it a devolutionary. Further it is also necessary to note that our Master asserted that we are returning to our Home Land. In this context it is also necessary that we should be clear about the concepts of Destination and Home Land. Master in his message dated May 1970 stated “... if we pause a little and consider the problem (the Destination) we will surely come to the conclusion that you are sailing towards your own Home, wherefrom you have been snatched away by the irony of Fate.” Home Land and Destination clearly mean that the goal is something that we are aware of already. But our Master has stated that the spiritual journey is towards the Infinity. By definition, Infinity, has no end point and is ever moving forward. Again the concept of Nothingness as the goal, presents us a picture where we find it difficult to integrate the same with the concept of moulding. 1.5  ‘Human transformation is the goal of life' and/or similar expressions have been made by the Master and Dr.K.C.V. That Dr.K.C.V. bears a background of Aurobindonian thinking is unquestioned. Many times he said that what Sri Aurobindo promised namely the descent of Supramental Consciousness into the human life, is what Sri Ramchandraji delivers and the influx effected in fact is from a much higher level. Thinkers who subscribe to the theory of evolution (it may be noted that evolution is not a fact that has been observed but is only a theory advanced by Darwin and others) naturally hold the theory of change or flux. To put it in brief the contention is, life is not about doing, it's not even about being. Life is eternal becoming. It cannot exist without eternal becoming. Fundamentally, the whole story of evolution is a story of experimentation and change 1.6  However the philosophy of Raja Yoga is closely linked to the Sankhyan philosophy. Swami Vivekananda, while answering questions on Darwin's theory of evolution said that the last word on evolution has been stated in the Sankhyan system. He agrees with the Sankhyan system that there is no evolution without an involution. This same theory was held by Sri Krishna in the Pancharatra agama stating that the souls are in Pravrtti or Nivirtti paths. We were once pure and simple consciousness patterns expressing the Divine and we lost our balance and are now trying to restore the same, are the principle that should be fully grasped by us. 1.7 Swami Vivekananda stated “According to the philosophers of our country, every being is a perfect Soul, and the diversity of evolution and manifestation of nature is simply due to the difference in the degree of manifestation of the Soul. The moment the obstacles to the evolution and manifestation of nature are completely removed, the Soul manifests itself perfectly. Whatever may happen in the lower strata of natures' evolution, in the higher strata at any rate, it is not true that it is only by constantly struggling against obstacles that one has to go beyond them. Rather it is observed that there, the obstacles give way and a greater manifestation of the Soul takes place through education and culture, through concentration and meditation, and above all through SACRIFICE......The attempt to remove evil from the world by killing a thousand evil-doers only adds to the evil in the world. But if the people can be made to desist from evil- doing by means of SPIRITUAL INSTRUCTION, there is no more evil in the world.” He adds further that “In the animal kingdom we really see such laws as struggle for existence, survival of the fittest etc., evidently at work. Therefore Darwin's theory seems true to a certain extent. But in the human kingdom, where there is the manifestation of rationality, we find just the reverse of those laws.....The highest evolution of man is effected through sacrifice alone. A man is great among his fellows in proportion as he can sacrifice for the sake of others, while in the lower strata of the animal kingdom, that animal is the strongest which can kill the greatest number of animals. Hence the struggle theory is not equally applicable to both the kingdoms.” Man's struggle is in the mental sphere. A man is greater in proportion as he can control his mind. When the mind's activities are perfectly at rest, the Atman manifests itself. The struggle which we observe in the animalkingdom for the preservation of the gross body has its use in the human plane of existence for gaining mastery over the mind or forattaining the state of balance.' 1.8  Swami Vivekananda also stated that Sage Patanjali has not advocated the theory of evolution and held that all were once involved in the Origin and they are all returning the Source. He adds further “Patanjali holds that the transformation of one species into another is effected by the “in-filling of nature.” I would request you all to ponder over this ' in-filling' and the Pranahuti that imperienced by us and also think about the possibility of transformation of ourselves through such in-filling. 1.9  Master stated “Life is the awakening of the state of Being. When we brought in our share of the awakening state, every function of the material existence commenced. In the beginning, it was more in relation with Divinity from which life started. With the progress of life, actions continued having their effect according to their nature.” He says that because Actions are very strong since they are connected with life, their misuse produced wrong effects and the whole frame of the body became a human factory with every faculty forming its own centre and started pouring out what has been collected thus far. When the span of life of a particular being ended a form afresh was assumed with the accumulated grossness and this process continued for several lives. Thus he says we have formed poles according to our Actions and they became very strong. Finally all this led to a condition where we remain embraced by the commands we receive from different centers each for the faculties. 1.10  Somehow due to the company of pious persons or due to good environment we got an opportunity to think of our original condition. Master says if we searched for a proper man to guide us in this pursuit and that thought touched the core of our being, it would produce a kind of trembling, and that would lead us to the proper man who is really spiritual. If there is any short fall in this we unfortunately land ourselves into the hands of gross persons and we do not attain the stage of entering our Home Land. Master says it is the responsibility of that person who promises to guide in the path, to destroy the poles we have formed due to unbalanced thinking. Thus if every thing is regulated the original state of our being comes to view and we begin to realize the awaken ness of Divinity which first fell to our share. (See the origin of rings of splendor in Path of Grace.) 1.11 Thus we see clearly the Master is referring only to the process of return to the Home Land and we are not talking of evolution proper as understood by Scientists, Philosophers and Psychologists. But the process of return to the Home Land is the process of gradually annihilating the Ego and becoming Self less. Such a self less person, who has reached a state of Void/Nothingness, naturally is in tune with the power of manifestation and his participation in that process is natural and Divine. The gradual process of becoming that has led to the theory of evolutionism is sought to be explained in this system as a gradual peeling up of samskaras/ impressions collected by the individual expressions of the Life energy. In tune with the Hindu conception regarding rebirth, Master implicitly holds that the human individual has gone through many lives before he came to be expressed as human in the path of return to the Home Land. But the beauty of the system is that while returning to the Origin/Centre we arrive at a state of pure Divinity and we are exhorted to use this condition to help others finds their return path to Home Land. The Commandment 9, has this implication is a point that we had many occasions to discuss. 2.1  Master in his message in May.1970 stated that “The soul, is longing to feel its characteristic which has gone out of sight, and this insignificant being is seeking fellow pilgrims to march on the path of freedom.” The point of great importance here is, Master is not restricting any one to try this system. According to Hindu tradition human beings can be classified according to the goals they entertain, as Kamarthi (seeker of desires), Artharthi (seeker of wealth), Dharmarthi (seeker of virtuous path) and Moksharthi (seeker after Freedom). That there are several types of people among human beings is unquestionable. Are all of them fit for spiritual training? Further we know that we cannot classify a person as purely Moksharthi or Kamarthi. The same person may at different times have different goals as also the person may have at the same time more than one of these goals. Spiritual training under the system advocated by our Master can be given to all. However Master classifies aspirants into five types, 1) Selfish 2) Fazli 3) Ahli 4)Devotee and 5) Murad. 2.2  The selfish persons among the seekers are interested in material benefits and are those who join the Satsang to achieve their selfish ends. They resort to flattery as the means to satisfy the Guru/God and leave the Master any way, either because their wishes were fulfilled or denied. 2.3  The Fazli disciples are those who come for meditation occasionally and are generally carried away by the pious environment and pleasant atmosphere. They have no goal clarity and are best called time passers. They may be regular to satsanghs or Annual congregations etc., but are those who do not practice the system as advocated by the Master. 2.4  The Ahli type of disciples are those with better samskaras and are willing to practice sincerely the system. 2.5  Master says some of them may graduate to the 4th level of disciples called Devotees. Some of these are such that they start from the beginning with the condition of Devotee and bear love and devotion to the Master. They know love and devotion to another person means obedience to him in every sense of the term. Persons of this type possess all the characteristics that is expected of an aspirant. 2.6  From among the Disciples few graduate to the level of Murad that is one who is the cynosure of the eyes of the Master. The Master never forgets them and he is the beloved of the Master. 3.1 While discussing the issue of ‘moulding' we should be clear as to whom we are referring to. It should naturally refer to the keen seeker rather than casual visitor. The aspirant should be one who would yield naturally to the Trainer leaving aside all his personal notions about the path and the correctness or otherwise of the path he has been treading if any. His aim should be to acquire naturalness and for this the Master asserts surrender and cooperation are the twin sisters who help the aspirant in the path. 3.2 Master stated that the abhyasi proceeds in two ways and both arenecessary,by the effect of transmission and his own efforts. The light which the trainer infuses travels to the different centers and a sort of vibration is felt by the abhyasi even at the higher points. The other thing which the Preceptor does, is to start Yatra to the different regions and centres. 3.3 The main point we have to be clear about in this context is whether all those who ostensibly seek the assistance through transmission can be given the same and also whether moulding of the seeker even with regard to goal clarity, determination to transform is also the task of the trainer. Unquestionably the Original Prana or Pranasya Pranah is that which is transmitted. While the force is the same the level from which the Pranahuti is offered can vary is a point that was clearly elaborated in the first issue of the Journal Imperience. This it is easy to observe depends on the level of approach of the trainer himself. Therefore it becomes necessary that the trainer always abides by the Master, in Him and for Him. This is a responsibility that clearly vests with the individual trainers and they have to put in every effort in this direction. 3.4 Our Master has explicitly stated 1) the various practices to be followed by the aspirant, 2) the role of the trainer and 3) the role of the Master. 3.5 The topic of the seminar is ‘moulding is the preceptors business.' Therefore we shall confine ourselves to the role of the trainer, without forgetting that he is essentially an aspirant. The trainer assists the aspirant in reaching the goal through various methods given by the Master. In order to successfully accomplish the task he uses Pranahuti. Pranahuti is the tool used by the trainer to foment with his own internal divine will power the various conditions in the aspirant and thus give him a satisfaction that he is in the hands of a competent person. The internal spiritual condition of the trainer is such that persons sitting near him automatically feel a certain amount of calmness or peace. This also encourages the aspirant to pursue the path sincerely. The self of the aspirant has to be turned to Divinity. This has to be done so that harmony is developed by him and his Self (Ego) is reduced. The trainer has the knowledge of centers and the energy they contain, and he exercises his will to direct the Divine power coming to him towards the aspirant. Various methods have been given to the Trainers so that they may introduce Divinity into the abhyasis who are dormant. The trainer has also to do Yatra in the case of aspirants who are not able to progress on their own even in initial stages. This is sought to be done through fomentation of the condition into the aspirants system. 4.1  By these efforts what is the moulding that is effected? Master states that ‘So long as there was the Balanced state we had no form of our own. We have simply to unfold ourselves and restore our own Balance which we had lost.' 4.2  We had observed earlier that there are different types of people. We also know that there are five sheaths covering human beings: these sheaths are well classified as the 5 kosas in our tradition. But there was no effort made to evaluate/ classify human beings according to the kosas. The simple point is that all the kosas are there in every human being and therefore no such rigid classification is possible. However we know some are governed more by some kosas more than others. In any society there are bound to be individuals at different levels of growth and maturity, not only intellectually but also morally and spiritually. Master in his own way said that the end of philosophy is religion, and the end of religion is spirituality. We find very interesting researches done by Psychologists of the present day who are trying to restore Soul to the Science of Soul (Psychology- Psyche=Soul, Logy= Science) which it almost lost a Century ago. 4.3  It is agreed in the circles of Transpersonal Psychology as well as Integral Psychology that there are streams of consciousness. They have been classified as mainly consisting of certain basic characteristics identified as typical of each stream. That all existence has been understood as a stream of Consciousness, we all know is the basic tenet of the great Sage Nagarjuna. His philosophy of Alaya Vijnana is something that swept the scholars of his day and most of the present day philosophies of Consciousness use his terms and terminology which went to the West via the Eastern China and Japan. Broadly the streams are classified as 7or 8 categories. But clearly some of them are contrived and are patterns into which an effort is made to somehow accommodate the entire human population. However they have done service in pointing out certain inherent contradictions in the content of consciousness. They are relevant for us in as much as we are trying to balance the contradictory forces in our consciousness pulling us at different directions, through the wholesome influx of Pranahuti. Pranasya Pranah is the basic core of any type of consciousness and has therefore the inherent capacity to bridge the gulf between two or more streams of consciousness that are in collision path in us. 4.4 It is however necessary to note that these streams of consciousness which perhaps can be better compared with strands in a rope never exist totally independent of the other. It should make an interesting study of research to find the origins of these strains or strands in the very make up of the content of consciousness which is itself a conglomerate of the physical, vital, lower mental, superior mental and the planes of equanimity. When we tend to classify human into types we invariably get into the problems particularly when we demand total separation of the types from each other. Even very great reformers and sages have tended to think in terms of pure Sattva ( Suddha) and having failed to find it in the Universe have said that the matter of Sri Vaikuntam is that and the bodies of Eternal Beings is composed of that type of matter. However for the one who knows and feels in the real sense Impurity is as much a myth as Purity. Thus if we keep in view that wholesome attitude it will be possible to find the following strains/strands/streams of consciousness in society in general and the individuals in particular. Their being present in the individual consciousness is the matter of concern for us. Magical: Persons whose thinking pattern accommodates this stream of consciousness think partially in animistic terms, magical spirits, belief in good and bad spirits which either bless or curse and in turn decide the events that occur. There is belief in the spirit of ancestors and an effort to work out lineage with persons who are gone for ever and a strong bond in the clan or tribe. In many persons we find this type of consciousness co-existing with more advanced features of consciousness, many times including rationality. In the case of persons who share this type of consciousness the Self is not fully developed and is dependant on magical and mystical means. If one set of rites and rituals or magical charms fail another is resorted immediately else their self collapses under the weight of lack of confidence in self. These magical are different for different cultures and societies Power Gods: Persons whose thinking pattern accommodates this stream think in terms of settling the accounts and through power (muscle or otherwise) control and dictate others- their main motivating principle is power and glory. Terrorists and war maniacs belong to this category. This is a streak of the animal instinct that somehow persists in the human- perhaps civilizations built and destroyed based on the muscle power and animal characteristics contribute to our thinking in this pattern. The self development in these cases is dependant on perceived capacity to inflict pain on others and ones' own muscle or money etc., power. The Self is bonded by these and any failing to the body or its prowess can inflict a stunning blow to the self. The conformists: Persons who partake in this stream are very decided as to what is right and what is wrong and they know it fully. Violating the code of conduct or rules is abhorred and punished if possible, if not the culprit is severed of his connections with the family/village/or any other group to which he belongs. Any lapse in following the norms leads a sense of guilt and severe punishments are given and accepted. These persons who follow the norms, rules, regulations and restrictions that are imposed by an avowed authority that is usually a religious figure or book or tradition, generally pass off as saintly persons in society which appreciates their holding the rigid hierarchies. The consciousness here can be totally against freedom of spirit of others and conformism is the only principle recognized. This pattern in consciousness is common to find and in fact any society at any given point of time is ruled only by the influence of these persons. The self here is under severe bondage but it enjoys the credits that are showered on it by the society and many times is not even aware of its bondage. This is one of the toughest bonds that required to be broken in the path of freedom of spirit. The explorers: Persons who partake in this stream are not convinced about the existing strict code of morals and rules governing life, they question everything of religion, every rite and routine. They claim to be having a scientific temper and want equality, fraternity and liberty to be the same for all the human population irrespective of the race, religion, gender and such other divisions. They do not accept any hierarchy in the relationship of the ruled and the ruler, between man and woman. Interestingly they raise a question why should God be male? They have no moral compunction to utilize the resources available even if it were to be for exploitation through intelligent maneuvers. They have no difficulty to use the baser instincts in the advertisement and propaganda of their products and give all types of specious logic to defend themselves. These persons have sought to use the available knowledge gained by explorations in the nature of mind for their personal gain, or call it corporate advantage and gain. This is particularly so in the food and cosmetic and fashion industries. They choose all attractive means to debase the human thinking and all the time say they are upholding the freedom of the individual to choose. This type of consciousness is unfortunately seen in almost all the human beings of the present day and this is one of the toughest problems facing one who seeks to transform the content of consciousness of aspirants seeking to realize their true nature. The self in these cases is under delusion and is totally lacking direction in moral and spiritual plane. Imagine the extent to which the program of awareness of AIDs goes and unabashed marketing of condoms and other means to protect oneself and not even a single person is there to call the buff and plead for a sane sex order. Note also the importance given in spiritual discipline for the practice of celibacy in grhastha ashrama. 5. The sensitive seekers:. Persons who partake in this type of consciousness are committed to communication as a means for developing fraternal bonds. They agree that human beings must be freed from greed, avarice, jealousy and believe in developing humane relationships with a symbiotic approach to all problems. While the desire is there to attain harmony and understanding amongst all, they end up with seeking and trying all the time to find means through which they can succeed to communicate to others their point of view. They are heavily dependant on the rationality of human being and think that rationality can itself solve the problem though it is always frustrated in its attempts and the explorers and power gods have their way. The simple fact that the explorers and the power gods constitute the majority of human population is enough to have their way at the least through the brute majority they command. The self in these cases is having a taste of the expansiveness and is ready to come out of the shackles. 6. The holistic super conscious men: These are very few in the human population who through their relentless struggle in their inner selves seek to generate harmony and good will amongst all the human beings and enable them develop true love amongst all sentient beings and devotion to the Supreme Consciousness that rules the Universe. Apart from abiding by Truth and Reality in all its aspects these persons enjoy a tranquility of the most superior type which bridges the gulf and the possible perceived differences and lives and moves in the sphere of harmony, understanding, compassion, co-operation, co-existence of all beings, love and direct non interfered one ness which helps them share and make the words of sacrifice meaningless in as much as it is only a service to ones' own very Being. They experience the inner oneness of all and find there is no disharmony essentially in nature. Disharmony and dichotomy are the products of thinking patterns that do not seek the good of all but only of a few to the detriment of others interests. For these persons there is no individual self and therefore no individual interest. They cross the borders of Egoism and naturally their performance is always marked by a fragrance of natural perfection, unifying all others efforts and exhibits a coordination that is better expressed as cohesion. The self in these cases can be taken as expanded and the bonds of animal and human realms and regions are broken and they are free moving and having their being in the realm of pure consciousness. 5.1 It is therefore obvious for us that we should tend to strengthen this last strand more and more. It is in this context the Prayer at 9 P.M. gains importance. It is now positively proved that the thinking of groups of people located in different parts of the world does influence others and its influence is felt even in inanimate objects of experimentation. This one task of moulding our selves and thereby others appears to be of paramount importance. 5.2 The words of wisdom of our Master has been our guiding points for contemplation and meditation. It is relevant to recall a few of his statements in this context. “Spiritual training starts with inner cleaning or purification of Chakras which is the most essential factor in spiritual training.” “Pranahuti is the only effective process to introduce immediate change to regulate the inner tendencies of our mind so as to effect our gradual transformation.” “What Pranahuti does for the spiritual uplift of an Abhyasi and removal of complexities in a short time, independent efforts cannot achieve even in a full decade.” “The light which the preceptor infuses travels to the different centres and a sort of vibration is felt by the abhyasi even at the higher points.” “In (our) system all the methods of doing are for the preceptors and becoming is the job of the abhyasi.” “It is the power of Pranahuti alone that can curtail this duration of travel from one spiritual stage to another, and enable the course of thousands of years to be covered within the span of one life.” “Only a person capable of transmitting Divine Grace through the Yogic process of Pranahuti is fit to become a Master.” “Transmission gives a new life to the sleeping condition of man and prepares for the highest approach reserved for human beings.” “A man is not fit to impart spiritual training unless and until he has developed the capacity of fomenting his disciples with superior force which is all and all.” 5.3 These are but a few of the pearls that are collected at random. How can the trainers do this duty is what we have endeavored to explain in our trainers manual. But most important is the development of Special Will. Will is a word that has almost become the weakest in our vocabularies and every action of ours is sought to be explained by different models and theories of motivation. Our Master has stressed the importance of the development of Special will in his work “Towards Infinity.” For developing this Will it is obvious that it is to be used for A good cause, with no selfishness/self interest With noble intention, With total faith in the Sovereign Principle of Justice, And for a Balance that follows Justice. Needless to say Faith in the Master is a must; Faith in the nobility of attempt is a must along with Faith in the deservancy of the effort on the part of the aspirant Coupled with Compassion and Love And an unfailing determination to succeed in the attempt 10. With a pious and unblemished character that alone accompanies any Divine effort. 5.4 It is obvious for developing these characteristics it is not enough to wish piously and hope that the Almighty will grant the capacity. It is the most essential tool without which any method in the manual or else where will not work While referring to the development of Sensitivity Master has stressed the importance of purity and in this context of development of Special Will it is all the more important. 5.5 It would be prudent to conclude this paper with the prayer O Master Thou art the Ocean of Bliss We are all seated in it The waves of Thy Ocean are passing through us Removing all the dirt and disease.  

We are back today with another episode where I take the “hot seat”, with Aaron Steinberg joining me as my coach. With an MA in Integral Psychology, certificates in Leadership Development, Sex Education, and Complex and Developmental Trauma Therapy, and multiple professional coaching certifications, Aaron focuses on providing a safe space for couples and individuals to grow. Aaron and I have worked together in the past, and I am so excited to have him here coaching me today! Join us as we dig into what I really mean when I say self-care and accepting my own need to let someone else “do it”. If you find yourself getting stuck in a bind, and feeling like caring for yourself seems like too much, this episode is for you!   We're exploring:   Self-care: the bare minimum isn't enough The added stress of daily life without a partner “It's all on me” - the emotional labor of pushing through the resistance The pressures we put on ourselves do it all  Letting go of the shame over wanting someone else to take over Losing identity in partnership - remaining yourself while letting others carry the load And so much more!!   Find out more about Aaron and his work at babyproofingyourrelationship.com or follow him on IG at https://www.instagram.com/aaronfscoaching.    Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

We are thrilled to introduce today's guest, Alicia Davon, who supports singles and couples in having thrilling love (and sex) lives! Alicia, along with her husband Erwan, has become the go-to experts for those seeking a higher level of relationship support since 2003. Alicia specializes in supporting singles in getting into passionate and successful relationships, and helping couples take their relationship to new heights of romance and intimacy. Alicia Davon holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfillment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 20 years ago and started teaching with him soon after. Based in the SF Bay Area, Alicia provides a high end boutique service that gives her clients an effective way to enhance their relationships. She and Erwan offer all of their coaching and classes online and support students all over the world. In this episode you will learn: How couples can bring back their chemistry in a long-term relationship. What are the five key elements to a successful relationship. The difference between sensual and erotic. How women can get what they want out of a relationship and know how to communicate those needs or desires. This is an eye opening and powerful conversation that you won't want to miss! You can find Alicia on:  https://erwandavon.com FB: https://www.facebook.com/erwandavonteachings IG: https://www.instagram.com/davonmethod/ Special offer: Alicia is offering our listeners a free Love Life Consultation and a free video laying out the 4 Key Practices of the Davon Method. 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Radical Transformational Leadership: What does this imply? Guest Hosts Kirsten Gallo and Sudarshan Rodriguez Guest Sushant Shrestha Sushant Shrestha is a venture capital investor with a track record of successful exits in the Artificial Intelligence, Smart Materials, and Blockchain space. He is a graduate of the Social Finance Programme at Saïd Business School, Oxford University, researching innovative fund structure and financing strategies. He is a member of the Forbes Business Council, an invite-only network of successful business executives. He engages transdisciplinary and transformational frameworks for innovation in finance, portfolio management, and industry evaluation. His research and analysis have generated over 20M+ in growth capital for his portfolio companies. He is a Founding Partner at Conscious Full-Spectrum Finance Institute, bringing whole system transformation to social finance. He is a Founder and Managing Partner at Humanitas Smart Planet Systems, a venture capital firm investing in climate tech and social tech. He is an adjunct faculty at National University, California, and teaches leadership and sustainable change courses. Currently, he engages in different countries as a venture catalyst and an advisor to startups and growth companies. Previously, Sushant served as a Finance Director for startups in three countries and worked as a Research Consultant for National Park Services. He has worked in Peru, Nepal, and India. His educational training and degrees are in Finance, Management, and Integral Psychology, with a professional background in management consulting, business systems analysis, sustainable finance, and organizational analysis. He is passionate about scaling transformative technologies globally to meet the challenges of the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals. KIRSTEN GALLO Kirsten Gallo served as the head of the National Park Service Inventory and Monitoring Division. She held a variety of positions in the U.S. Forest Service and the National Park Service conducting natural resource monitoring and stewardship of public lands. She holds a doctorate degree in Ecology and has dedicated her career to conserving natural resources and demonstrating interdependence between humans and our environment. She began applying RTL tools and techniques in 2009 and created platforms for leadership in five federal government agencies and NGOs. Kirsten is now working to make RTL a global movement as she works in the fields of the environment, leadership, and finance. Specifically, she's working to remove chemicals from our food systems and return to regenerative agricultural techniques to support the wellbeing of people and the planet. SUDARSHAN RODRIGUEZ Sudarshan Rodriguez is a development professional with experience in disaster management, environmental sciences, environmental economics, policy, and environmental law. He has worked with Dr. Monica Sharma as an RTL practitioner coach since 2010. After 22 years in the development sector with a variety of organizations, including the United Nations, grassroots organizations, policy think tanks, civil society and academia, he dove into the adventure of setting up the next generation development consultancy and social purpose enterprise called “RTLWorks”. Before founding RTLWorks, he was the Programme Director at Mahatma Gandhi Academy of Human Development, heading a center of the Tata Institute of Social Sciences, Mumbai located in Nagaland, India focusing on Livelihoods and Social Entrepreneurship. He also delivers and implements Radical Transformational Leaderships ‘learning-in-action-programs' for business and non-profit organizations on different aspects of leadership development for sustainable change. Learn more about Dr. Monica here: www.radicallytransform.org

For over 25 years Erwan who was joined by Alicia in 2003 have been working successfully with singles and couples, teaching their signature process – the Davon Method to hundreds of students in groups, retreats, and individual sessions and helping them create the relationships of their dreams. Erwan and Alicia have a unique approach to relationship coaching that combines their educational backgrounds in psychology and aspects of Zen Buddhism to provide a holistic method to effectively improve connection with the self and others Erwan studied psychology after a difficult childhood and an early introduction to therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen Monastery, direct a yoga ashram, and began teaching personal development at one of the world's largest personal growth organizations. Erwan's passion for helping and teaching people led him to found Erwan Davon Teachings in 1995, specifically to help people improve their relationships. Alicia Davon holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfillment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 15 years ago and started teaching with him soon after. Together, Erwan and Alicia developed The Pleasure Course, which has helped thousands achieve their ideal love lives. They provide a safe place to explore psychological inquiry, pleasure, and sexuality. They have spent years perfecting their curriculum and techniques and are excited to share their expertise with newcomers so they can help improve chemistry, connection, communication, and passion in others' lives! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/genius-juice/support

Join Jason and Tina Marie with their guest, Alicia Davon, as they talk about gender roles, touching, communication, and conflict. Alicia is a relationship coach with a Master's degree in Integral Psychology focusing on women's romantic and sensual expression. She shares how she and her husband, Erwan, teach singles and couples about sexuality and relationships. Stay tuned!Here's a breakdown of what to expect in this episode:1.     From business partners to husband-and-wife team2.     On gender roles: prioritize the relationship3.     The line drawn between sensual and sexual4.     Effective communication in resolving conflict5.     For the ladies – communicate directly and simply6.     And so much more!~About Alicia Davon:Alicia Davon holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfillment, from career to relationship. She met Erwan 20 years ago and started teaching with him soon after.~You can find Alicia Davon on . . .Website: https://erwandavon.com/~Connect with Jason and Tina Marie!Loving Beyond the I Do Website: www.lovingbeyondtheido.comLegendary Relationship Website: www.legendaryrelationship.comInstagram: @legendaryrelationshipJason's Instagram: @mrjayscottTina's Instagram: @tinamarie_8Facebook Page: @legendaryrelationshipFacebook Group: @marriagebossYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCriE1bLih4npMYVPd4mTxiA

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What's the secret to a successful love life? What is an "eternal date" and how might we practice it in relationships? What are the three stages of relationships? Find out in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the relationship and romance expert, Alicia Davon on Building Exceptional Relationships. For more on this episode click here: https://www.the-heart-center.com/ep-98-building-exceptional-relationships-with-alicia-davon/(opens in a new tab) Learn more about your guest below: Alicia Davon, along with her husband Erwan, has become the go- to expert for those seeking a higher level of relationship support since 2003. Alicia specializes in supporting singles in getting into passionate and successful relationships, and helping couples take their relationship to new heights of romance and intimacy. Over the past 25 years, Erwan and Alicia Davon have successfully taught over 12,000 singles and couples how to have exceptional relationships. Based in the SF Bay Area, Alicia provides a high end boutique service that gives her clients an effective way to enhance their relationships. She and Erwan offer all of their coaching and classes online and support students all over the world. Alicia graduated with a Masters in the field of Integral Psychology from John F Kennedy University, with a focus in women's romantic and sensual expression. Prior to teaching the Pleasure Course with Erwan she was a facilitator of women's groups devoted to female libido, pleasure, and fulfillment in all aspects of life from career to relationship. Contact Alicia by texting 415-308-9580 or by heading to https://erwandavon.com/consult/ Learn more at - https://erwandavon.com/ - www.pleasurecourse.com - https://www.facebook.com/erwandavonteachings - https://www.instagram.com/davonmethod/ - https://www.youtube.com/user/ErwanDavonTeachings Learn more about your host and the show at: www.zachbeach.com www.the-heart-center.com Support The Show: If you like the show there are many ways you can support it, such as, - Buy a book from our blossoming professional network: http://www.the-heart-center.com/books/ - Register for Relationship Mastery, a 6-week self-guided course to take your relationship to the next level. https://www.the-heart-center.com/relationship-mastery-landing-page/ - Check out one of our sponsors, Listenable, and use the discount code “zachbeach” for the first seven days on the platform for free. There you can find Zach's How To Be a Better Partner Course: https://frstre.com/go/?a=76205-87a7d9&s=1256514-e13191&p_affiliate.referral_code=zachbeach - Purchase The Seven Lessons of Love: Heart Wisdom for Troubling Times on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Love-Heart-Wisdom-Troubling/dp/1983940704/ - Purchase a love shirt and show the world your love of love https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-heart-center/ - Review, Like, and Subscribe to the show on iTunes. - Like us on Facebook facebook.com/learntolovenow - Join the Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1428012130828678/

This is the first part in a series of episodes exploring the historical roots of California Institute of Integral Studies and its foundations in Integral Yoga as brought to California in the 1950's by Haridas Chaudhuri. In this episode we speak with Bahman Shirazi, who recounts the early history of Haridas Chaudhuri coming to the west, and the academic and cultural conditions which lead to what became CIIS. Bahman speaks about his dissertation completed in EWP in the 1980's which develops Haridas Chaudhuri's vision of Integral Psychology, asking what is the role of personality in spiritual development. We also discuss how the East-West Psychology department was formed to situate the intersectionality of Integral Yoga, spirituality, religion and transpersonal psychology. Bahman A.K. Shirazi, PhD, has been an adjunct faculty in the Integral Counseling Psychology, and East-West psychology programs at CIIS since 1995. His doctoral dissertation, entitled Self in Integral Psychology, was supervised by ICP founder Dr. Paul Herman. In addition, Bahman has worked in various administrative positions at CIIS for over twenty years, including several years as Director of Graduate Studies. In recent years he has served as CIIS archivist and historian and has been involved in the production of a documentary and an online interactive website on the history of CIIS. Bahman has published a number of book chapters and articles on various topics in integral psychology and has served as guest editor for ReVision and Integral Review journals. He has also taught in several other Bay Area schools such as JFK University, ITP/Sofia University, and Dominican University in the areas of integral and transpersonal psychology, Sufi psychology, and research methodology. He has presented at conferences in the U.S., Europe, and India and organizes the annual Founders Symposium on Integral Consciousness at CIIS. Connect with EWP: Website Youtube Facebook Hosted by Stephen Julich (EWP adjunct faculty, program manager) and Jonathan Kay (PhD student, EWP assistant) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

This is the first part in a series of episodes exploring the historical roots of California Institute of Integral Studies and its foundations in Integral Yoga as brought to California in the 1950's by Haridas Chaudhuri. In this episode we speak with Bahman Shirazi, who recounts the early history of Haridas Chaudhuri coming to the west, and the academic and cultural conditions which lead to what became CIIS. Bahman speaks about his dissertation completed in EWP in the 1980's which develops Haridas Chaudhuri's vision of Integral Psychology, asking what is the role of personality in spiritual development. We also discuss how the East-West Psychology department was formed to situate the intersectionality of Integral Yoga, spirituality, religion and transpersonal psychology. Bahman A.K. Shirazi, PhD, has been an adjunct faculty in the Integral Counseling Psychology, and East-West psychology programs at CIIS since 1995. His doctoral dissertation, entitled Self in Integral Psychology, was supervised by ICP founder Dr. Paul Herman. In addition, Bahman has worked in various administrative positions at CIIS for over twenty years, including several years as Director of Graduate Studies. In recent years he has served as CIIS archivist and historian and has been involved in the production of a documentary and an online interactive website on the history of CIIS. Bahman has published a number of book chapters and articles on various topics in integral psychology and has served as guest editor for ReVision and Integral Review journals. He has also taught in several other Bay Area schools such as JFK University, ITP/Sofia University, and Dominican University in the areas of integral and transpersonal psychology, Sufi psychology, and research methodology. He has presented at conferences in the U.S., Europe, and India and organizes the annual Founders Symposium on Integral Consciousness at CIIS. Connect with EWP: Website Youtube Facebook Hosted by Stephen Julich (EWP adjunct faculty, program manager) and Jonathan Kay (PhD student, EWP assistant) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is the first part in a series of episodes exploring the historical roots of California Institute of Integral Studies and its foundations in Integral Yoga as brought to California in the 1950's by Haridas Chaudhuri. In this episode we speak with Bahman Shirazi, who recounts the early history of Haridas Chaudhuri coming to the west, and the academic and cultural conditions which lead to what became CIIS. Bahman speaks about his dissertation completed in EWP in the 1980's which develops Haridas Chaudhuri's vision of Integral Psychology, asking what is the role of personality in spiritual development. We also discuss how the East-West Psychology department was formed to situate the intersectionality of Integral Yoga, spirituality, religion and transpersonal psychology. Bahman A.K. Shirazi, PhD, has been an adjunct faculty in the Integral Counseling Psychology, and East-West psychology programs at CIIS since 1995. His doctoral dissertation, entitled Self in Integral Psychology, was supervised by ICP founder Dr. Paul Herman. In addition, Bahman has worked in various administrative positions at CIIS for over twenty years, including several years as Director of Graduate Studies. In recent years he has served as CIIS archivist and historian and has been involved in the production of a documentary and an online interactive website on the history of CIIS. Bahman has published a number of book chapters and articles on various topics in integral psychology and has served as guest editor for ReVision and Integral Review journals. He has also taught in several other Bay Area schools such as JFK University, ITP/Sofia University, and Dominican University in the areas of integral and transpersonal psychology, Sufi psychology, and research methodology. He has presented at conferences in the U.S., Europe, and India and organizes the annual Founders Symposium on Integral Consciousness at CIIS. Connect with EWP: Website Youtube Facebook Hosted by Stephen Julich (EWP adjunct faculty, program manager) and Jonathan Kay (PhD student, EWP assistant) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

Welcome to episode 278 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Alicia Davon back to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss extended massive orgasms, how you can achieve them, tips for the giver and how you can work through anxiety to have an extended massive orgasm.     Alicia Davon holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfilment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 15 years ago and started teaching with him soon after.     Together with her partner Erwan, Alicia developed The Pleasure Course, which has helped thousands achieve their ideal love lives. They provide a safe place to explore psychological inquiry, pleasure, and sexuality.      In this episode, you will hear:     Working through anxiety to have an extended massive orgasm   Looking at the first time Alicia achieved an extended orgasm   Understanding your body to allow involuntary genital contractions   Incorporating your fantasies for extended orgasms   Tips for the giver to help achieve extended orgasms   Practical tips for best movements and touch around the genitals  Knowing when it's best to incorporate lube   Communicating effectively with your partner about what's working and what's not  Understanding the signs of when your close to an extended orgasm     Find Alicia Davon Online  https://pleasurecourse.com     We want your feedback! Please fill out this brief survey to help us know the content you want to hear: https://help373205.typeform.com/to/PfsEolrp   Free Erotica  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Get your own copy of Ashley's new book You Turn at youturnbook.com!   How satisfied are you with your intimacy in relationships?   This week Ash talks with Alicia Davon on all things pleasure. Alicia holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sensual expression. She is an extended orgasm teacher and the founder of the Davon Method here to help you create the relationship, and intimacy, of your dreams.   Alicia shares reasons why a relationship may have lost its intimacy and spark and how to reconnect and build passion back into the relationship. Alicia and Ash dive into the psychological and health issues centered around sexuality and intimacy for both men and women.   If you have been struggling to orgasm, build more intimacy in your relationship, or are looking to expand your access to pleasure in life, this episode is filled with juicy insights for you!   In This Episode, You'll Learn: How to overcome the common relationship challenges in regards to pleasure. Erectile dysfunction: why it happens and how a couple can work through this. What to consider if you are curious about entering into an open relationship. Tools to expand pleasure in your love life. The phases of a relationship and what to work through within each.   Where to Connect with Alicia Davon: https://erwandavon.com/ @davonmethod TEXT 415-308-9580   SOUL CBD   Here is something just for you to sleep more deeply, reduce stress and heal anxiety. Visit ashleystahl.com/soul and use the code YOUTURN at checkout for 15% off your order!   BIOPTIMIZER   If you want to improve your sleep quality, try Magnesium Breakthrough, the only magnesium supplement I know of that contains 7 different forms of magnesium.    Visit www.magbreakthrough.com/youturn with code YOUTURN10 for a 10% discount on your order.   Herbal Face Food   Are you ready for smooth and clear skin?   Try Herbal Face Food, the most potent anti-aging, anti-viral skincare product on the market.   Visit ashleystahl.com/skin and use code ASHLEY20 for 20% off your order of Herbal Face Food!

Alicia Davon holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting her husband and business partner Erwan and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfillment from career to relationship. Together, Erwan and Alicia developed Mastery of Relationship and several other programs, which have helped thousands achieve their ideal love lives. They provide a safe place to explore psychological inquiry, pleasure, and sexuality. Alicia and Erwan have spent years perfecting their curriculum and techniques and are excited to share their expertise with newcomers so they can help improve chemistry, connection, communication, and passion in others' lives! View this episode on YouTube Here is the link for a Free Love Life Consultation https://erwandavon.com/consult/ Here is a link for The May 21-22 Pleasure Course- weekend online workshop where we start the exploration of Extended Orgasm https://www.eventbrite.com/e/273688007197 Links: 1. Free Love Life Consultation: Text 415 308 9580 Click https://erwandavon.com/consult/ 2. Website: www.pleasurecourse.com 3. Instagram @davonmethod --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/high-profile-podcast/support

Bruce Alderman, M.A., is adjunct faculty at the John F. Kennedy school of psychology at National University. He received his master's degree in Integral Psychology, with an emphasis on Transpersonal Counseling Psychology, from JFKU in 2005. He currently teaches Paradigms of Consciousness; Fundamentals of Transpersonal Psychology; World Spirituality; Living Systems Theory; Integral Life Practice; Individual Development; and Integral Meditation and Psychospiritual Development. In this episode of MIP, Nate, Ryan and Bruce go off the philosophical deep end exploring post-metaphysical spirituality as analogue to meta-ideological political practice, Bruce's political apprehensions and US shenanigans in Nepal, deep ontological structures underpinning cultural conflicts, Raimon Pannikar's work on interreligious discourse, severing ourselves from the mythic dimensions, symbols as mediating agent, different forms of hermeneutics, diatopical hermeneutics and dialogue across boundaries, 4 methods of paradigmatic commensuration, the imperative method, letting ourselves be fecundated by other perspectives, intraparadigmatic dialogue, pragmatic action and theory, paradoxical reasoning and holding contradicting symbols, construct aware politics, dialectical vs dialogical dialogue, essentialist vs non-essentialist ontological play, integral grammatology, misplaced concreteness, finding ourselves in the other, and Bhaskar's critical realism.

Brooke Radloff, MA, IWLC, CCHT has been supporting women and families in the areas of pregnancy, birth and parenthood for over 25 years. Brooke developed the Integral Model of Pregnancy and Childbirth (IMPC), a groundbreaking, holistic model that supports and facilitates optimal health, well-being and transformational growth from pregnancy through early parenthood. The IMPC has been studied, applied and celebrated, in universities, hospitals, and by practitioners and parents across the globe. The IMPC and Brooke's unique integrative approach is specifically designed to help one thrive and flourish in times of wellness, as well as facilitate healing, resolution, growth and well-being in the face of life's (and parenthood's) many challenges. Brooke holds a master's degree in Integral Psychology and is a certified Integrative Wellness and Life Coach, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Emotional Freedom Technique and Matrix Re-imprinting Practitioner, and certified mindfulness-based educator for new and expecting parents. She is the Founder and Director of the Center for Integral Pregnancy & Childbirth where she provides Perinatal Counseling, Therapeutic Coaching, Birth Trauma Healing, Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy, and she employs a variety of Mindfulness and Somatics-based approaches that are specifically designed to support emotional health and well-being in the perinatal period, around the experience of childbirth, and on beyond parenthood. Contact info: website: www.integralpregnancy.com facebook: @integralpregnancy email: integralpregnancy@gmail.com

Make sure you check our giveaway page for some great giveaways. Find them here https://deadamerica.website/giveaways/ (LINK) DisclaimerThe views expressed on Dead America podcast are the views of the person expressing themselves.We are here for entertainment only for any Medical or Mental Health concerns you might have. We always recommend seeking local listings for a qualified provider in your area. We will always consider other points of view on any subject. We do not necessarily agree with our guests all of the time. We value everyone. All of our guests deserve respect and a platform to voice concerns. Alicia Davon Erwan and Alicia are the best Extended Orgasm teachers in the world and arguably the most comprehensive relationship teachers in the world, covering psychological issues, lifestyle design, masculine/feminine dynamics, and sex/orgasm technique. For over 25 years Erwan and Alicia, who joined Erwan in 2003, have been working successfully with singles and couples, teaching their signature process – the Davon Method to hundreds of students in groups, retreats, and individual sessions and helping them create the relationships of their dreams. Erwan and Alicia have a unique approach to relationship coaching that combines their educational backgrounds in psychology and sexuality and aspects of Zen Buddhism to provide a holistic method to effectively improve connection with the self and others. Erwan studied psychology after a difficult childhood and an early introduction to therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen Monastery, direct a yoga ashram, and began teaching personal development at one of the world's largest personal grown organizations. Erwan's passion for helping and teaching people led him to found Erwan Davon Teachings in 1995, specifically to help people improve their relationships. Alicia Davon holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfillment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 20 years ago and started teaching with him soon after. Together, Erwan and Alicia developed The Pleasure Course and several other programs, which have helped thousands achieve their ideal love lives. They provide a safe place to explore psychological inquiry, pleasure, and sexuality. They have spent years perfecting their curriculum and techniques and are excited to share their expertise with newcomers so they can help improve chemistry, connection, communication, and passion in others' lives! Links https://erwandavon.com/consult/ (https://erwandavon.com/consult/) https://www.eventbrite.com/e/153561325057 (https://www.eventbrite.com/e/153561325057) https://erwandavon.com/ (https://erwandavon.com/) https://www.youtube.com/user/ErwanDavonTeachings (https://www.youtube.com/user/ErwanDavonTeachings) Transcript https://www.mediafire.com/file/ve8tcvu8qvk2d58/Alicia_Davon.docx/file (Here) Show notes In this episode I speak with Alicia Davon. She is part owner of Erwan Davon teachings, which provides a pathway to the high vibe of passionate, romantic, and lasting relationships that we all crave. The Davon method is a groundbreaking process. They teach both online and offline. It is a result of working with 1000s of singles and couples over the course of 25 years. They support singles and couples in creating what they deem an eternal date, which simply is a relationship that reaches higher and higher peaks of intimacy, sexual attraction, and soul connection. As a married couple, they have supported over 12,000 singles and couples since 1995. They've become the go-to place for all things romantic and sexual in Northern California. I want to highlight 15 points during our conversation. Number one, there is over 40 years of experience combined between this couple. Number two romantic relationships is the focus of

Make sure you check our giveaway page for some great giveaways. Find them here https://deadamerica.website/giveaways/ (LINK) DisclaimerThe views expressed on Dead America podcast are the views of the person expressing themselves.We are here for entertainment only for any Medical or Mental Health concerns you might have. We always recommend seeking local listings for a qualified provider in your area. We will always consider other points of view on any subject. We do not necessarily agree with our guests all of the time. We value everyone. All of our guests deserve respect and a platform to voice concerns. Alicia Davon Erwan and Alicia are the best Extended Orgasm teachers in the world and arguably the most comprehensive relationship teachers in the world, covering psychological issues, lifestyle design, masculine/feminine dynamics, and sex/orgasm technique. For over 25 years Erwan and Alicia, who joined Erwan in 2003, have been working successfully with singles and couples, teaching their signature process – the Davon Method to hundreds of students in groups, retreats, and individual sessions and helping them create the relationships of their dreams. Erwan and Alicia have a unique approach to relationship coaching that combines their educational backgrounds in psychology and sexuality and aspects of Zen Buddhism to provide a holistic method to effectively improve connection with the self and others. Erwan studied psychology after a difficult childhood and an early introduction to therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen Monastery, direct a yoga ashram, and began teaching personal development at one of the world's largest personal grown organizations. Erwan's passion for helping and teaching people led him to found Erwan Davon Teachings in 1995, specifically to help people improve their relationships. Alicia Davon holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women's romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfillment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 20 years ago and started teaching with him soon after. Together, Erwan and Alicia developed The Pleasure Course and several other programs, which have helped thousands achieve their ideal love lives. They provide a safe place to explore psychological inquiry, pleasure, and sexuality. They have spent years perfecting their curriculum and techniques and are excited to share their expertise with newcomers so they can help improve chemistry, connection, communication, and passion in others' lives! Links https://erwandavon.com/consult/ (https://erwandavon.com/consult/) https://www.eventbrite.com/e/153561325057 (https://www.eventbrite.com/e/153561325057) https://erwandavon.com/ (https://erwandavon.com/) https://www.youtube.com/user/ErwanDavonTeachings (https://www.youtube.com/user/ErwanDavonTeachings) Transcript https://www.mediafire.com/file/ve8tcvu8qvk2d58/Alicia_Davon.docx/file (Here) Show notes In this episode I speak with Alicia Davon. She is part owner of Erwan Davon teachings, which provides a pathway to the high vibe of passionate, romantic, and lasting relationships that we all crave. The Davon method is a groundbreaking process. They teach both online and offline. It is a result of working with 1000s of singles and couples over the course of 25 years. They support singles and couples in creating what they deem an eternal date, which simply is a relationship that reaches higher and higher peaks of intimacy, sexual attraction, and soul connection. As a married couple, they have supported over 12,000 singles and couples since 1995. They've become the go-to place for all things romantic and sexual in Northern California. I want to highlight 15 points during our conversation. Number one, there is over 40 years of experience combined between this couple. Number two romantic relationships is the focus of Support this podcast

Alicia Davon is an expert in helping people find their turn on. If you have great orgasms and want to make them better, or even if you've never had an orgasm and want to figure out how this episode is for you.  Her Master's degree is in Integral Psychology focused on women's romantic and sensual expression and explores the power we as women have through the lens of relationship. She trained as a therapist and has led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure, relationship, and life before meeting Erwan, with whom she began teaching almost 20 years ago. Together they have opened their personal path of discovery, learning and sharing their most intimate realizations and practices so that others may partake in the gems they have discovered.”  As a married couple, they offer both a feminine and masculine view on relationship throughout its evolution. They love guiding students along their journey from dating to relating together with a community of like-minded members who lend each other support and encouragement. Since 1995 they have been the go-to place in the San Francisco Bay Area for romance, intimacy, sex support, growth, and exploration for both singles and couples. Free Love Life Consultation with Alicia Davon: Text 415 308 9580 or Click https://erwandavon.com/consult/   Website: www.pleasurecourse.com   Intro to Extended Orgasm online class ~ Oct 23rd https://www.eventbrite.com/e/154293964401   Book Your Complimentary Consultation with Dr. Brandy Victory, D.C.

In this episode you will learn: 1. How to connect to our attractiveness 2. Childhood, identity, and stories, now what? 3. How to connect to your body and feel safe “After a deeply transformational experience in my early college days, I woke up from a loving yet sheltered upbringing into deep questions of path and purpose. I have since actively pursued my own personal growth, in spirit and in body exploring, learning and sharing a deep caring interest in women's sexual and romantic satisfaction and joy. My Master's degree in Integral Psychology focused on women's romantic and sensual expression and explored the power we as women have through the lens of relationships. I trained as a therapist and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure, relationship, and life before meeting Erwan, with whom I began teaching almost 20 years ago. Together we have opened our personal path of discovery, learning and sharing our most intimate realizations and practices so that others may partake in the gems we have discovered.” Free Love Life Consultation: Text 415 308 9580 Click https://erwandavon.com/consult/

Deciding to leave something (or someone) is a creative process. It doesn't happen overnight.  We must sit and steep in the possibilities, spend the necessary time contemplating the actions, and only then can we make our move. The breaking away is the outcome, but it can't happen without the process. This is a gestational process. Nothing gets born without being gestated first, whether it's an actual living being, or an idea wanting to get birthed into the world. This process, however, will be interrupted if we leave out a deeply important piece, which is to understand that before we actually make the decision to move, we have to sit and dream into what it is that we're wanting. We then must feel the uncomfortable feelings that come along with that. We need to allow ourselves to really go deeply into that place; the place where what wants to die gets eaten, gets metabolized, gets transformed. Only then do we arrive at a place where we can make a decision and go forward. We must include before we can transcend, sweet ones. In today's episode, we invite ourselves to sit and simmer in all the feelings that are coming up for us, whatever it is we're working with, getting curious about this as a PROCESS. This inner work has its own timeline, and we must be patient while it is creating the space, the bandwidth for you to be able to dive into what your deepest presence wants next.  Jessica also does her best Veruca Salt impression, which sadly sounds a bit more like Mrs. Doubtfire, and she pays homage to Dr. "Bones" McCoy.   ******The One Day You Finally Knew: For Women Breaking Away podcast is mixed and produced by Jessica Chasnoff,  a recovering perfectionist who is always in a learning curve.  While she is a psychologist, this podcast is not psychotherapy, and is not a substitute for mental health services. If you're struggling with mental health concerns, please reach out to a professional near you.Connect with Jessica: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/your_deepest_presence/Twitter: http://Twitter.com/@deepestpresenceFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100070192401240Website: https://www.DeepestPresence.com   

About Alicia Davon: Alicia Davon has a great story to tell. “After a deeply transformational experience in her early college days, she woke up from a loving yet sheltered upbringing into deep questions of path and purpose. Since that time, she's actively pursued her own personal growth, in spirit and in body exploring, learning, and sharing a deep caring interest in women's sexual and romantic satisfaction and joy. Alicia has a Master's degree in Integral Psychology focused on women's romantic and sensual expression and explores the power we as women have through the lens of relationships. She trained as a therapist and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure, relationships, and life. This was before meeting Erwan. They now teach together and as such, they've opened their personal path of discovery, learning, and sharing of their most intimate realizations and practices so that others may partake in the gems they've discovered. What We Discuss In This Episode: Alicia shares how, at any age, we can have romance back in our lives. Whether you're single and looking to whether you've been married for a long time, it's never too late to capture that romance. Although we may feel things are so changed, especially in midlife, and have neglected our partner while the children were growing up, this is the perfect time to add a little spice to our lives. This doesn't begin at once, and Alicia shares some simple steps that can slowly bring that anticipation and joy back into our lives. Free Resources from Alicia Davon: For your free Love Life Consultation, text 415 308 9580 (mention the Living Life Naturally Podcast) OR click this link https://erwandavon.com/consult/   Connect with Alicia Davon: Website: https://erwandavon.com/   Connect with Lynne: If you are looking for a community of like-minded women on a journey - just like you are - to improved health and wellness, overall balance, and increased confidence, check out Lynne's private community in The Energized & Healthy Women's Club. It's a supportive and collaborative community where the women in this group share tips and solutions for a healthy and holistic lifestyle. (Discussions include things like weight management, eliminating belly bloat, wrangling sugar gremlins, and overcoming fatigue, recipes, strategies, and much more so women can feel energized, healthy, confident, and joyful each day. Website:  https://holistic-healthandwellness.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/holistichealthandwellnessllc The Energized Healthy Women's Club:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/energized.healthy.women Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lynnewadsworth   Free Resource: Hot flashes? Low Energy? Difficulty with weight management? If MID-LIFE & MENOPAUSE are taking their toll then I've got a solution for you! I've taken all my very best strategies and solutions to help you feel energized, vibrant, lighter & healthy, and compiled them into this FREE resource! Thrive in midlife and beyond - download my guide here: https://holistic-healthandwellness.com/thrive-through-menopause/   Did You Enjoy The Podcast? If you enjoyed this episode please let us know! 5-star reviews for the Living Life Naturally podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Pandora, or Stitcher are greatly appreciated. This helps us reach more women struggling to live through midlife and beyond. Thank you. Together, we make a difference!

About Alicia Davon: Alicia Davon has a great story to tell. “After a deeply transformational experience in her early college days, she woke up from a loving yet sheltered upbringing into deep questions of path and purpose. Since that time, she's actively pursued her own personal growth, in spirit and in body exploring, learning, and sharing a deep caring interest in women's sexual and romantic satisfaction and joy. Alicia has a Master's degree in Integral Psychology focused on women's romantic and sensual expression and explores the power we as women have through the lens of relationships. She trained as a therapist and led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure, relationships, and life. This was before meeting Erwan. They now teach together and as such, they've opened their personal path of discovery, learning, and sharing of their most intimate realizations and practices so that others may partake in the gems they've discovered. What We Discuss In This Episode: Alicia shares how, at any age, we can have romance back in our lives. Whether you're single and looking to whether you've been married for a long time, it's never too late to capture that romance. Although we may feel things are so changed, especially in midlife, and have neglected our partner while the children were growing up, this is the perfect time to add a little spice to our lives. This doesn't begin at once, and Alicia shares some simple steps that can slowly bring that anticipation and joy back into our lives. Free Resources from Alicia Davon: For your free Love Life Consultation, text 415 308 9580 (mention the Living Life Naturally Podcast) OR click this link https://erwandavon.com/consult/   Connect with Alicia Davon: Website: https://erwandavon.com/   Connect with Lynne: If you are looking for a community of like-minded women on a journey - just like you are - to improved health and wellness, overall balance, and increased confidence, check out Lynne's private community in The Energized & Healthy Women's Club. It's a supportive and collaborative community where the women in this group share tips and solutions for a healthy and holistic lifestyle. (Discussions include things like weight management, eliminating belly bloat, wrangling sugar gremlins, and overcoming fatigue, recipes, strategies, and much more so women can feel energized, healthy, confident, and joyful each day. Website:  https://holistic-healthandwellness.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/holistichealthandwellnessllc The Energized Healthy Women's Club:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/energized.healthy.women Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lynnewadsworth   Free Resource: Hot flashes? Low Energy? Difficulty with weight management? If MID-LIFE & MENOPAUSE are taking their toll then I've got a solution for you! I've taken all my very best strategies and solutions to help you feel energized, vibrant, lighter & healthy, and compiled them into this FREE resource! Thrive in midlife and beyond - download my guide here: https://holistic-healthandwellness.com/thrive-through-menopause/   Did You Enjoy The Podcast? If you enjoyed this episode please let us know! 5-star reviews for the Living Life Naturally podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Pandora, or Stitcher are greatly appreciated. This helps us reach more women struggling to live through midlife and beyond. Thank you. Together, we make a difference!

On this encore episode of the Psychology Talk Podcast, Dr. Hoye speaks with Margot Esther Borden. They discuss her book Psychology in Light of the East. This book was developed out of her own spiritual journey, as well as her development as a psychotherapist. Margot also gives a preview of an talk on transhumanism at the EUROTAS she presented in September of 2019.Since they both have connections to India, she and Dr. Hoye touch on our own experiences of living and traveling in the subcontinent.

Welcome to episode 229 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Alicia & Erwan Davon to the podcast. In this episode Alicia & Erwan speak to me about how can we cultivate sexual spark in our long-term relationships, flirt in a long-term relationship and discovering your sexual energy.     For over 25 years Erwan who was joined by Alicia in 2003 have been working successfully with singles and couples, teaching their signature process – the Davon Method to hundreds of students in groups, retreats, and individual sessions and helping them create the relationships of their dreams.     Erwan and Alicia have a unique approach to relationship coaching that combines their educational backgrounds in psychology and aspects of Zen Buddhism to provide a holistic method to effectively improve connection with the self and others.      Erwan studied psychology after a difficult childhood and an early introduction to therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen Monastery, direct a yoga ashram, and began teaching personal development at one of the world’s largest personal grown organizations. Erwan’s passion for helping and teaching people led him to found Erwan Davon Teachings in 1995, specifically to help people improve their relationships.     Alicia Davon holds a Master’s degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women’s romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women’s groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfilment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 15 years ago and started teaching with him soon after.     Together, Erwan and Alicia developed The Pleasure Course, which has helped thousands achieve their ideal love lives. They provide a safe place to explore psychological inquiry, pleasure, and sexuality.     They have spent years perfecting their curriculum and techniques and are excited to share their expertise with newcomers so they can help improve chemistry, connection, communication, and passion in others’ lives!    In this episode, you will hear:     How can we cultivate sexual spark in our long-term relationships?  Learning to bring more sexual energy into your relationship   How we can de-prioritize sex in our relationships   Understanding the need to put aside time for sexual development   How you can flirt in a long-term relationship   Finding synergy between feminine and masculine energy   Discovering your sexual energy   Tapping into embodiment   How you can learn to lean into pleasure   The common mistakes couples make around these issues   How you can read in-between the sexual lines of your partner        The Pleasure Course https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pleasure-course-unleash-your-relationship-potential-tickets-138473123841?aff=sexology Find Alicia & Erwan Online  https://erwandavon.com/consult     Listen to episode 210 with Find Alicia & Erwan Online    Giveaway  We have 5 copies of Dr Kerner’s new book to giveaway! To enter the competition and win a copy, simply subscribe to Sexology Podcast, write a review on iTunes, Stitcher etc and send a screenshot of the review to - https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast/.     Winners will be announced on our email newsletter on May 18th, 2021.      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Welcome to episode 210 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Alicia & Erwan Davon to the podcast. In this episode Alicia & Erwan speak to me about extended orgasms, accessing a higher level of arousal and ways in which you can learn to have an extended orgasm.     For over 25 years Erwan who was joined by Alicia in 2003 have been working successfully with singles and couples, teaching their signature process – the Davon Method to hundreds of students in groups, retreats, and individual sessions and helping them create the relationships of their dreams.     Erwan and Alicia have a unique approach to relationship coaching that combines their educational backgrounds in psychology and aspects of Zen Buddhism to provide a holistic method to effectively improve connection with the self and others     Erwan studied psychology after a difficult childhood and an early introduction to therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen Monastery, direct a yoga ashram, and began teaching personal development at one of the world’s largest personal grown organizations. Erwan’s passion for helping and teaching people led him to found Erwan Davon Teachings in 1995, specifically to help people improve their relationships.     Alicia Davon holds a Master’s degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women’s romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women’s groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfilment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 15 years ago and started teaching with him soon after.     Together, Erwan and Alicia developed The Pleasure Course, which has helped thousands achieve their ideal love lives. They provide a safe place to explore psychological inquiry, pleasure, and sexuality.     They have spent years perfecting their curriculum and techniques and are excited to share their expertise with newcomers so they can help improve chemistry, connection, communication, and passion in others’ lives!    In this episode, you will hear:     How did Alicia Davon & Erwan Davon become interested in this approach?  Learning to access a higher level of arousal   Were they easily orgasmic before they started doing this?  Ways in which you can learn to have an extended orgasm   The key differences between extended orgasm and orgasmic meditation   Understanding the need to get over internal issues rather than focusing on technique  The differences between how men and women will get to grips with extended orgasms  Learning to give yourself lots of time to be present and fully experience pleasure  How you can achieve extended orgasms via any kind of sex  Finding your own path to pleasure         S-Hande  https://www.s-hande.com/ Thank you to our sponsor S-Hande! Use the coupon code sexologypodcast for a 40% discount, also includes free delivery! To get the toys discussed on this episode, use the links below: Jiggle balls kegel exercise Vaginal tightening exercise toys G-spot orgasm toy female vibrator masturbation vibrator Sucking and licking vibrator adult vibrator vagina anal vibrator orgasm toy   Find Alicia & Erwan online  https://pleasurecourse.com     Claim Your Session  Text - 415 308 9580 and reference Sexology Podcast    Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

The Growing Down podcast is honored to be joined by Bruce Alderman. Bruce is an adjunct faculty in the College of Psychology at John F. Kennedy University (JFKU). He received his master's degree in Integral Psychology, with an emphasis on Transpersonal Counseling Psychology, from JFKU in 2005. Bruce is the founder of Integral Stage, a new YouTube and podcast series featuring conversations integral thinkers and media creators. More about Bruce: https://www.jfku.edu/faculty/bruce-alderman/ Publications: Alderman, B. (2018). Sophia speaks: An integral grammar of philosophy. In S. Esbjörn-Hargens & M. Schwartz (Eds.), Dancing with Sophia: Integral philosophy on the verge. Albany, NY: SUNY. Integral Stage: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaA4zkLRnR3lGm8Y7c5Tvdw Integral Post-Metaphysical Spirituality: https://www.facebook.com/groups/470435939720069/ The Integral Stage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/442764176469520/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/growing-down/message

With the world becoming a more brittle and fragile place, our relationships with the people we love and care about are more important than ever before.Dr. Keith Witt shares his five dimensions for building successful relationships and takes on the big questions — racism, violence and radical acceptance — in this expansive and therapeutic Living 4D conversation.Learn more about Keith’s 40+ years as a psychotherapist and get a free download of his book. The Attuned Family, on his website. You can email him at keith@drkeithwitt.com.Show NotesFaced with decisions for a lifetime, Keith chose the warrior and the healer. (6:15)Everything is relationships. (12:44)Connecting with your eighth and ninth chakras. (19:15)What worldview are you living in? (26:54)Violence: The worst addiction in humanity. (35:24)Society’s biggest problems: Child abuse, child neglect and education. (43:26)Moving slower to engage in more consciousness with life and the people we love. (51:21)Donald Trump’s gift to our world. (1:02:33)Today’s human culture is brittle, fragile and deconstructing right in front of us. (1:11:07)Are you weird or just healthy? (1:21:32)Are you a seeker? (1:29:51)“Radical acceptance is not radical indulgence.” (1:44:46)Shame: The basis for morality. (1:56:18)Erotic polarity. (2:05:16)Keith and Paul have daughters named Zoe. (2:11:53)Attachment issues with your partner are a YOU problem too! (2:20:43)Therapy is like a marriage to a client one hour at a time. (2:27:14)Why does all love involve some pain and suffering? (2:32:39)“Carl Jung must’ve been a lonely guy…” (2:39:30)ResourcesIntegral LifeLoving Completely, Shadow Light, Shadow Light Workbook: Recording Your Shadow Journey, Waking Up and The Gift of Shame by Dr. Keith WittDune by Frank HerbertThe Religion of Tomorrow by Ken WilburKeith’s Therapist in the Wild video seriesThe Shrink & The Pundit podcast series with Keith and Jeff SalzmanWhat is Pendulation in Somatic Experiencing with Dr. Peter Levine on YouTubeRobert Augustus Masters on Shadow WorkOwning Your Own Shadow: Understanding The Dark Side of Psyche by Robert JohnsonThanks to our awesome sponsors: Organifi (save 20 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK20 at checkout), Paleovalley (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code chek15 at checkout), BiOptimizers (save 10 percent on your order by using the code PAUL10 at checkout) and Cymbiotika (save 15 percent on your purchase when you use the code CHEK15 at checkout).

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Bruce Alderman, MA is affiliate faculty in the College of Psychology at John F. Kennedy University. In 2005 he received his master’s degree from JFKU in Integral Psychology, with an emphasis on Transpersonal Counseling Psychology.  Prior to working at JFKU, he worked and studied abroad for several years in Asia, including teaching courses in creative writing and inquiry at a Krishnamurti school in India. His current areas of interest include Integral Theory and practice, transpersonal psychology, integral postmetaphysical spirituality, among others. In this enlightening podcast, Mr. Alderman shares his insights on listening to, talking with, and honoring children, based on what he has learned from his travels, his spiritual teachers, and from raising his own son. www.interviewswithinnocence.com/blog/16

Welcome back! **Join us all of February for #FocusedFebruary where we meditate every day! Follow us on Instagram @SIPPodcast for more details!** We A some of your Qs!  If you have more questions for our next Q & A please send them to us on our Instagram - @sippodcast. Qs: What do we do to fight off illness/colds?  What books are we reading/listening to? How do we care for and bond with our tarot/oracle decks? Where do we buy crystals, etc.? Books mentioned in this episode: Return to Life by Joseph A. Pilates Forest Bathing by Women Who Run With Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés The Queen’s Code by Alison A. Armstrong Rise Sister Rise by Rebecca Campbell Journey of Souls by Michael Newton The Wandering Inn by Pirate Aba, Andrea Parsneau, et al. Integral Psychology by Ken Wilber Sun Buddhas, Moon Buddhas by Elsie P. Mitchell and Dom Aelred Graham Other things mentioned: The Rider Waite Tarot Deck http://biddytarot.com Behati Life - Sacred Circle Tarot School with Jessica Alexandria The Oracle deck Maya created - The Flora Oracle: https://www.etsy.com/listing/482758677/the-flora-oracle-tan-only?ref=shop_home_active_4&frs=1 Vision Quest Metaphysical Bookstore in Phoenix, AZ Half Priced Books in Phoenix, AZ Black Market Minerals in Tempe, AZ Crystal Magic in Flagstaff, AZ http://thriftbooks.com The Tucson Gemshow Thank you for listening and continuing to support us. We would love if you would subscribe and rate this podcast so we can share it with more people!  To living life spiritually, Jackie & Maya #decksbeforedicks

On episode 25 of the Chicago Psychology Podcast, Dr. Hoye speaks with Margot Esther Borden. Margot is a counseling psychologist living in Mumbai, India. Margot is a transpersonal and integral psychotherapist who incorporates spirituality, breath work, and hypnosis into her practice. She works primarily with individuals online.   They discuss her book Psychology in Light of the East. This book was developed out of her own spiritual journey, as well as her development as a psychotherapist. Margot also gives a preview of an upcoming talk on transhumanism at the EUROTAS conference in Paris this September.   Since they both have connections to India, she and Dr. Hoye touch on our own experiences of living and traveling in the subcontinent.

For 15 years Shana has coached and facilitated thousands of women and men to have inspiring dates, relationships and sex. She is a founder of AuthenticSF, an organization that has world-wide communities that foster deep connection and evolution through authentic relating. She co-created the Authentic Woman Experience and spent years as a senior facilitator for the Authentic Man Program. Therapists, psychologists and long-time coaches have credited Shana with helping them move through their own personal blocks to love and create the relationships they’ve always wanted.   Shana's coaching style is informed by a Masters in Integral Psychology along with extensive training in communication, masculine & feminine dynamics, emotional intelligence, meditation and various spiritual traditions. She has interviewed love experts such as Gay Hendricks, Alison Armstrong and SARK and has been featured in “Sex with Emily,"Raw Attraction Magazine, Common Ground Magazine, the Goodmen Project and Rori Raye’s Inner Circle and more. Shana lives and teaches in the Bay Area with her 7 year old son. She is inspired to live the healthy feminine principles she teaches and to call out women's strong and tender hearts that make healthy love and relationships possible.  To learn more go to: ShanaJamesCoaching.com  Grab her FREE Dating Guide Here  If you'd like to connect with Junie, sign up for your Love Breakthrough Session today so she can support you where you are right now on your love path. And don’t forget to subscribe to Midlife Love Out Loud so that you don't miss a single episode. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! To learn more about our previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to www.CoachJunieMoon.com and follow us on Facebook and Twitter.  

Anthony Ogley is a very well researched guy. He has experience in various aspects of human psychology and behaviour. He is a coach to high performers, taking them from high performers to exceptional, wholesome human beings. We cover Integral psychology and the understanding of different societal structures in order to grow upon the current structure that we have in place, rather than ripping it apart as we seem to be seeing today. Anthony has a lot of experience that he shares in this episode. Enjoy   Anthony's FreshMind coaching program: https://integral.me/freshmind/

Do you ever feel like there’s a barrier between what you know about how to have a good relationship, and what you actually do? How do you take what we know about the science of relationships, combine it with the wisdom of our hearts and our quest for deeper meaning, and integrate it into something practical? Today we’re going to get practical, integrated, and Integral with a return visit from Keith Witt, whose new book Loving Completely: A Five Star Practice for Creating Great Relationships was just released. Keith Witt has conducted more than 55,000 (!!) therapy sessions, and is also often featured on Jeff Salzman’s The Daily Evolver podcast. He is truly gifted at taking the “big picture” and making it useful for a daily lives. Loving Completely is a manual for how to not only set a higher standard for what’s possible in your relationship, but you also get simple steps that get you there. Also, please check out our first two episodes with Keith Witt - Episode 80: Bring Your Shadow into the Light and Episode 13: Resolve Conflict and Create Intimacy through Attunement. As always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Please join us in the Relationship Alive Community on Facebook to chat about it! Sponsors: Along with our amazing listener supporters (you know who you are - thank you!), this week's episode has two great sponsors, each with a special offer for you. Casper.com provides ultra-comfy mattresses and other products to help you get a restful night’s sleep. You can try out a Casper mattress for 100 nights - and if you’re not completely satisfied return it for a full refund. As a Relationship Alive listener, they are offering you $50 OFF select mattresses - terms and conditions apply. Just visit Casper.com/alive and use the coupon code “ALIVE” at checkout. 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Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out Transcript: Neil Sattin: Hello and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive. This is your host, Neil Sattin. We're trying to change culture with this show and I am so appreciative as always of your being here with me to evolve what is actually possible for us in terms of our relationships, and we know more about how to relate with other people than we've ever known before. We know more about the science. We know more about our spirit and how that factors in. We know more about the power of mindfulness. We know more about how our hearts interact with other hearts. It's all taking shape in a way that's very unique, and what we are trying to do here is to not only talk about it, but make it so practical for you so that you can put this stuff into use in your relationship. And so you can talk to other people and say, "Hey, like you're having a hard time, you know, check out this episode on Relationship Alive where you will get your problem solved or see a light at the end of this dark tunnel," that, let's face it, sometimes we're in a dark tunnel in our relationship, it's part of what happens. Neil Sattin: So, I'm overjoyed today to have a returning guest, someone who has been on the show twice, and he's here today to talk about and celebrate really the release of his latest book called Loving Completely. I'm talking about Dr. Keith Witt, who you may know through his appearances on The Daily Evolver or you may have heard him here on Relationship Alive. He was here in Episode 80 where we were talking about shadow and he was also here way back in Episode 13 talking about Attunement and how important that is. So he is back on the show. And we will have a detailed transcript of this episode. If you want to get that, just visit neilsattin.com/completely as in Loving Completely or you can as always text the word Passion to the number 33444 and follow the instructions and we'll send you a link where you can download this transcript, and all our other transcripts and show guides. Neil Sattin: So today, we're going to talk about what it means to love completely, and how that's maybe different than your standard kind of relationship and why it actually helps you deepen and deepen what's possible for you in partnership. I think that's all I have to say for the moment. Keith Witt, it is such a treat as always to have you back here on Relationship Alive. Keith Witt: Great to be with you, Neil. Neil Sattin: So, let's just start there. Loving completely. Now, I know that some of the book is based on a course that you did in the integral world called Loving Completely. Why loving completely? What was the inspiration for you for that title versus just like, How to Have a Kickass Relationship? [chuckle] Keith Witt: That's not a bad title. [chuckle] I've been doing therapy and writing and teaching for 44 years and I have studied dozens of brilliant people. And most people, most researchers, their understanding comes from how they came to establish mastery in their areas of psychotherapy or of understanding. Esther Perel, for instance, worked a lot with couples where people were unfaithful, and so she is oriented according to how sexuality ebbs and flows and manifests and affects relationships in her work. Stan Tatkin came from attachment theory and interpersonal neurobiology and his system is heavily oriented in that direction. John Gottman is a pure social scientist. I mean, the way that he found his wife was he went on 50 dates in 60 days and she was the outlier whom he married. He did it like a science experiment. And so his approach is social science. He uses social science to find what works and doesn't work and so on. Keith Witt: So, everybody comes from their orientation and they're all right. But in Integral Psychology, we say that everybody gets to be right, but nobody gets to be right all the time. And so, most of us who work with couples and individuals have found that people are wildly unique, and people have different languages and understandings that help them love better. And so I was interested in an orienting system, where you could start with basic principles and practices and they could lead you in the direction that you were most open to in terms of helping you grow and transform in your ability to be intimate with the different parts of yourself and be effectively intimate with other people and especially with your chosen partner in a long-term lover relationship. Keith Witt: And so that motivated me. That was a challenge. How do you get oriented in that fashion? And so out of that came the Loving Completely Course and then out of that course came, I wanted to expand the ideas and present a deeper dive into a lot of the constructs and so I wrote the Loving Completely book, which is gonna come out soon, and that's what oriented me in terms of and inspired me in terms of writing this book. Neil Sattin: Yeah, I like that picture of completeness, not only in terms of what it inspires me to think about and how I conduct my relationship, the process of my relationship, but also the willingness to look across the spectrum of what's available to help you that you don't have to be confined just because so and so says that their thing works 85% of the time. If it doesn't work for you, you're not screwed like there are other options for you that might be effective for you. And so there's that completeness of like, "Oh, the whole world is available for me to actually help me get this. Get this right." Keith Witt: Yes, and we live in an age where there's a cornucopia of great knowledge available to us and especially around intimacy and around relationships. And so let me explain. I'm gonna talk mostly about a committed intimate relationship like a marriage, a long-term love affair, and so on, though these principles apply to lots of relationships, parental relationships, sibling relationship, friend relationships, and so on. But a relationship of marriage is basically a friendship, a love affair, a capacity to notice and repair injuries and ruptures, and a mutual commitment to each other's evolution. If those four components are attended to on a daily basis, couples tend to do well. If one of those lapses in some fashion, suffering occurs and suffering in relationship tends to spiral into separation. And this is one of the reasons why half the marriages end in divorce. Keith Witt: And so that's a great picture of a good relationship, but how do we do that? How do we establish that? And just like any area of mastery, what you do is you pick a goal, you get ignited. I wanna have great relationships. You find data and information and master coaching in the world, and then you break it up into chunks and you do focus practice on those chunks and with a growth mindset of effort and progress is what matters. We're not trying to get anywhere, we're just trying to have effort and progress. You gradually can establish mastery in this area of loving, loving another person, helping another person love you and... Go on. Neil Sattin: Yeah. And so a couple of things are coming up for me right now. One is, we're talking here, we're on a show where we are focused about, we're coming from a growth mindset. And I can't tell you how many times I read something or I have this conversation with you or someone like you and I have that light bulb moment of like, "Oh right, this is how I've been seeing it, and I could be open to a different perspective here and that actually might serve me a lot better." So let's just start with maybe the hardest question which a lot of people who listen to the show are gonna be asking which is like, "Alright, you said growth mindset. And now, I just know that this ain't happening because my partner, like that's the problem, they don't have a growth mindset, and they're fixed and they're shut down. And I'm trying, I'm trying, I'm trying." I know, in the 65,000 or more sessions you've done with people, you've come up against this with couples and I'm curious to know how you help inspire both people in a moment like this. Keith Witt: A human super power is our ability to receive caring influence. That is a super power. And it's more difficult than it sounds. Receiving caring influence means that you allow yourself to change how you think and what you do in response to someone else trying to help. Now, when people get threatened, when people feel insecure, when they feel unsafe, their nervous systems get more rigid. Your slower thinking frontal cortex gets inhibited and your faster thinking brainstem takes charge. And one of the ways to take charge is it resists receiving influence. And so if you have a partner that is resisting receiving influence, it probably means that in a particular level they feel unsafe. Keith Witt: And so when someone comes in or a couple comes in, part of my job is to help that first person feel safe. And generally the way that I help people feel safe is through compassionate understanding. I know that at the core of everyone, there is a little interface between them and spirit. Patricia Albere in the evolutionary collective calls that the origin point, in the traditions she called that out man's soul, that kind of thing. That's how I identify people. And so, my job is to connect with that spot in them and then help them feel understood by me. And as we go into that understanding, we find a place where they feel threatened, where they resist influence. And the place where you resist influence and you feel threatened is also the place where you're yearning for something, you're yearning for love, you're yearning for security, you're yearning for passion, you're yearning to be known deeply. Keith Witt: And as I help someone feel safe and as I help them understand their yearning, we can begin to open up a little bit to how those yearnings can be met in their relationship. They can be met by their partner, and I can help their partner help this other person feel safe. By the very act of coming to a therapist, people have gone to an environment where they've acknowledged, "We can't help each other feel safe enough to change, we need somebody else to provide a little bit more safety." And so that's a central part of what therapists do. Now, does that work all the time? Nothing works all the time. Does it work a lot? Yeah, it does. And if your partner seems impenetrable, then what you wanna do is you wanna say, "Well, look, let's get some help. Let's find somebody that you trust and let's get them to help us love each other better. Let's get them to help us be more connected." Keith Witt: And you take a stand for that. And if your partner can't do it, you go get help and then that person helps you encourage your partner to get help. And so that's how it goes. Usually that ends up with both people getting into therapy, but not always. And frankly, it's just a bad sign. If somebody is having problems and refuses therapy, that predicts marital dissolution pretty reliably in a lot of cases, and that's just the way it works. If you take a rigid position, particularly in the 21st century with your partner, and refuse to work on things that are disturbing to them, that will separate you and those separations get worse, they don't get better. So those are the ruptures and repairs that are so important. They need to be repaired. And they're repaired when we're making that condition better, when we're working at loving each other better. Neil Sattin: Yeah. And this, I think, is so important because it's tempting, especially as you read a lot of, let's just say, self-help books about relationship which you might be doing if there are some issues going on or you might be doing even if you're like, "I just wanna know how to do this better," and kudos to you if that's what you're doing. Keith's book is great for that. It can be tempting to think like, "Okay, well, I'm gonna go into this with my partner like a therapist would. Like now I'm armed with all this new knowledge and I'm gonna bring it into my relationship." Neil Sattin: And to some level, I think that is helpful, but what I'm hearing from you that I think is so key for people to get is that the real gem that happens in a good therapy, in a good therapeutic setting, is creating that safety and being seen without judgment, being seen with compassion, and from that everything else can grow. I would think that it's rare that someone comes in, and you're not just instructing them, right? I mean I sure don't. In my coaching practice, we're not saying, "You're doing this wrong, you're doing relationship wrong, so let me just tell you how to do it right, and then you're all set, you're then free to go." Keith Witt: Yeah. Well, that would be great [chuckle] if it worked. You know, when I wrote a book on Integral Psychotherapy called Waking Up and in that I said what an integral psychotherapist does is relate, teach, inspire, confront, interpret, and direct and relating is first. If someone is open to learning a new perspective, they're open to receiving influence, in other words they get influenced to change what they think and do. A lot of therapy is just getting 80% of therapy is getting to the point where someone feels safe enough to be willing to do that. And, yes, we don't do that with our partners. I have two kids, they're grown 33 and 30, and wife, and I don't give them any input unless they ask specifically for it. And the reason why I've done that is because I realized as our family was developing that I didn't have a contract with them, like I did with my clients, and that actually interfered with our relationship if I offered input that wasn't requested or welcomed. Keith Witt: And so I'm way more conservative when it comes to my opinions or my observations with my own family. Why? Because I'm not there primarily to enlighten them or to help them, I'm there to support the intersubjectivity of our relationships. I'm there to support our love for each other. And supporting our love for each other means having this relationship on a psychological spiritual level, we're experiencing ourselves as having equal power, equal credibility, equal say in the important aspects of our life around money, sex, parenting, time, that kind of stuff. And then all that stuff needs to be negotiated in a dialectic. And the dialectic is two people looking for deeper truth, respecting each other, open to each other, as influence, and acknowledging their individual rights. And that's called a growth hierarchy. Keith Witt: It's a power hierarchy but it doesn't look like a power hierarchy because when people are going back and forth in that environment, you're not noticing how one person has a little more credibility, a little more power than the other person does because there's a flow back and forth in the integral cosmology, that's called the second tier. That's a particular kind of relating. Now, when people get threatened, they go into dominator hierarchies. You stop receiving influence and you're trying to bully the other person or convince the other person or submit even to the other person. That dominator hierarchy can get something done, but it contaminates a relationship. And an awful lot of work, whether therapist know it or not, when they're working with couples is noticing that shift in the dominator hierarchies, and then interrupting it and encouraging couples to go back into growth hierarchies where they're looking for deeper truth, more open to influence, being respectful, allowing each other individual rights. Keith Witt: And just that, just paying attention. And that can transform your whole relational universe. Particularly, you can transform a universe relating to other people because once you start noticing those things you see growth hierarchies and dominator hierarchies everywhere. And if you have a moral sense of standing for growth hierarchies, that means that whenever you're around you wanna generate them. And if there's a dominator hierarchy happening, you wanna start working to shift that into a growth hierarchy. Nowhere is that more important than in your end of the relationship. Neil Sattin: Yeah, and this is something that comes up a lot actually in our Facebook group and just because we're here. I'm curious of your perspective on this. A lot of my listeners have actually been married and gotten divorced, and now they're working on their next big love, let's say. And so, of course, that introduces all kinds of other dynamics with former partners, their new partners, and that's a situation that's ripe for power struggles and dominator hierarchies to emerge. So, I'm curious like if you're a growth-oriented person and you're just getting hammered by a dominator, what's a good pathway through to navigate through that, that you might offer someone? Keith Witt: Well, first of all, that is the... Particularly for educated people in this country, generally they go through at least two major intimate relationships, sometimes more. I was a hippie back in the '60s and '70s, so I had a three-year relationship where we didn't get married but essentially it was the first marriage. So that's very common. And when there's children and in-laws, you are bringing other people in and other responsibilities. Stan Tatkin says, calls it The Rule of Thirds. And he makes a point that I agree with. Yes, there's a lot of added complexity that comes when people have a second or third serious relationship, but that is simplified if you recognize the primacy of the intimate bond. The primacy, there's a reason that they call it a primary relationship, and that primary relationship is we wanna maintain this container in integrity, we wanna have this container be as clean and as pure and as beautiful as possible, and that means our friendship, our love affair, our capacity to heal injuries, and our commitment to mutual evolution comes first. And then everything else gets organized around that. Keith Witt: What that does is it gets you oriented in terms of other demands, say there's an ex-spouse that is aggressive, this happens sometimes. Or punitive, people get angry after a separation, and often separations are expensive, and they're difficult, and people are more egocentric and distressed cells will come out and then they don't have much contact with each other, which makes it easier to objectify each other and see each other in negative black and white terms. Well, that's not good for anybody. It's particularly not good for children. Children of the divorce who have parents who are acrimonious with each other do worse. They have more symptoms and they have more problems. And so you don't wanna encourage that. You wanna discourage that. How do you do that? Keith Witt: Well, there's two of general ways of dealing with other people. There's what you and I are doing now, which is relating. Relating is we're just telling our truth, we're respecting each other, we got individual rights, and we're both open to caring influence. You tell me something that's a better idea than something I got. I'll change my idea and change how I think in what I do. That's relating and relating is a superior way of being. But say, somebody can't relate. Well, then you handle them. And how do you handle them? You handle them so that they can't successfully dominate in a dominator hierarchy and you make it easier for them to relate. For instance, you set boundaries. So this happens all the time, when one ex-spouse wants special privileges and comes to feel entitled to it because the other person just tries to say yes rather than thinks in a larger sense about what's gonna make this a more coherent relationship. Keith Witt: So then what you do is you start setting boundaries around whatever the dissolution agreement was. You don't say yes unnecessarily. And if someone is acting in a disrespectful fashion, you disengage. You set a boundary. Okay. So over time, this influences the other person to be more respectful. It's very much like parenting a child. And it's similar because when people are in defensive states, basically they've regressed to child ego states. And so you don't have to be... You can be respectful, but you need to be firm. I'm respectful of my four-year-old who doesn't wanna get in the car and go to the dentist, but I am firm. You're gonna have to get in the car and go to the dentist and that's all there's to it. So, respectfully, get in the car, we're going to the dentist. [chuckle] Neil Sattin: You spoke in Loving Completely. And I wanna dive more into the meat of the matter here momentarily. You spoke about your commitment to more and more interacting with the world from a place of loving kindness and compassion. Keith Witt: Yes. Neil Sattin: And even then, you mentioned that there are some relationships and connections that you've had to let go of. Keith Witt: Yes. Neil Sattin: And I'm curious for you, what does that barometer like in terms of you knowing like, "Okay, I guess I've done all I can do here," versus like, "You know what? I'm gonna keep trying. I have faith in this particular container that it will ultimately yield to the power of a growth mindset and relating. Keith Witt: Well, first of all, it of course depends on the nature of the relationship. You know, loving-kindness is a practice. And we can all do it now because it's a wonderful practice to get yourself into a place where you are available to engage in a mature and healthy activity, and here's how you do it. You imagine some other person. So I'm imagining you right now and then I am reaching out from my heart, to your heart, and in my mind, I'm saying to myself from my heart to your heart, "May you be safe. May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you have an easeful life." And as I do that, I am changing my state. Now, if I do that with... If you're my lover and I do that when we are in conflict, my defensive state, because I'm in, we are in conflict, all communication is complimentary, we're probably both in defensive states that are self-amplifying which is by defensive states we are so dangerous as couples. What I'm doing is I am now shifting into another state of consciousness where instead of allowing my nervous system to relate to you as an unsafe person, that I am objectifying to a certain extent. Keith Witt: Now, I'm relating to you as someone I care about and that shifts my state. Now, as I do that, if we're around each other and you can see into my eyes, or hear my voice, your state begins to shift out of defensive state into a state of healthy response to the present moment. And so loving-kindness meditation is a wonderful practice to learn how to do when you're stressed because it shifts your state into an area where you have access to your frontal lobes, you have access to your deep wisdom and you're regulating your defensive states into your more mature and more powerful states of conscious awareness and compassionate understanding. Keith Witt: And I encourage everybody who's listening to do it at this moment. Imagine somebody, you can imagine me if you want, I'd take all the loving-kindness that the... [chuckle] people could give, your heart to that person's heart. And in your mind, say, "May you be safe. May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you have an easeful life." And see how it feels. Interestingly, when people did this meditation, they had anti-inflammatory genes activated in their bodies and antiviral genes activated in their bodies that this meditation made their immune systems more robust, by shifting the myelinazation patterns of their genetic expression. That's how powerful this is. Neil Sattin: Well, well, and... Yeah, I'm just struck by that like we talk about our anger being inflamed and how interesting that anti-inflammatory actions take place when we go into a place of loving-kindness like that. Keith Witt: It's amazing. Neil Sattin: And I'm thinking too about my own experience with Chloe and we're doing really well together. Not that we haven't had our challenges and despite doing really, really well together when something happens and one of us goes to that defensive state and we both end up there even... I guess what I'm saying is, even in the best of relationships, and you talk about this with Becky as well, it can be such a challenge, such an effort to even utter within, oh, you know, much less saying it out loud to your partner, if you happen to be in their presence. But within like, "May you be safe, may you be loved." I think if you're thinking back to a time when you had an argument with your partner, you'll get what I'm talking about that, it's like the last thing you wanna do. Keith Witt: That's right. Neil Sattin: And yet it has so much power if you can somehow do it. Keith Witt: Yeah. What helps me with this is understanding that those defensive states that you enter when you're mad at each other, those were evolutionary milestones for the human species. And most of our brain is designed to relate with other people and there's a lot of good evidence that one of the reasons that brain size expanded about two million, three million years ago is because the level of complexity in human groups went up, and we needed to have more brain power to be able to relate with each other. And in those primitive tribes, there were social organizations just like there are in primate groups and that meant when there was a problem that couldn't be resolved cooperatively people went into dominance displays because the dominance hierarchies are what maintained the social fabric. Keith Witt: And what they would do, they were programmed to do genetically is to raise their emotional intensity to intimidate the other person into taking an inferior place or the dominance hierarchy or to have you submit in a way that would happen before physical violence could take place, which would maintain the integrity of the social structure and protect people from hurting each other because evolutionarily speaking, the biggest threat to humans, for the last couple of million years, have been other humans. Keith Witt: Now, what modern consciousness is brought to bear is way more powerful ways of dealing with conflict, way more sophisticated ways. And so when those defensive states are activated if I know that if I can engage in collaborative, two men in problem solving with this person, what that does is it opens up a possibility for this moment to enhance our personal evolution, this moment to make our love deeper, to support our friendship and our love affair. If I know that, if I can just have the faintest memory of that, then I can start working at soothing myself and soothing you and inviting you into that process to create that container of that dialectic. That container of mutual respect and individual rights and looking for a deeper truth and receiving influence. And when we do that a hundred times or a thousand times and discover how well it works, how it creates these miracles of consciousness, then what we've done is we've taken those primitive impulses and we've included and transcended them in the more sophisticated influences. Keith Witt: And you know in our last talk, I talked about how what we're actually doing is growing our shadow selves. We're growing our unconscious. Our unconscious becomes more complex and it regulates outside of our awareness so that it gets easier and easier to reach for these better states. Now, every once in a while, we get triggered usually from a trauma memory and bam, here comes the defensive state, it happens in 60 milliseconds. We have amplified our numb emotions, distorted perspective, destructive impulses, and diminish capacities for empathy and self-reflection like that. But if you can learn to self-observe that, what you end up doing is instead of trusting all that stuff, trusting that distorted perspective, trusting those destructive impulses, going along with that lack of self-reflection and empathy and say, "No, no, I'm actually in a disadvantage state now I need to reach for something that is more powerful," like compassionate understanding that provides the impetus interiorly to do that for yourself. And then when you are doing that for yourself, you're non-verbally and verbally encouraging your partner to do the same. Neil Sattin: Yeah. Keith Witt: And this... Neil Sattin: May I offer just a quick example of that? Keith Witt: Sure. Neil Sattin: So just the other night, I was with Chloe and we were talking about something, she was going to cover for me for something, and she made a comment like, "This is actually the last thing I wanna do, it sounds horrible to me, but I'm gonna do it but it sounds horrible." And I immediately went into like, she's being negative about this thing and I don't even want you to do it anyway, if it's gonna be horrible for you. So we started spiraling down this place and it was kinda late at night, so we weren't in our... There's not a lot of will power left at the... Keith Witt: That's right. Oh no. Neil Sattin: At the end of the day to actually steer yourself back. But fortunately I'd been reading your book and so I turned to her and I said, "Help me, help me help you, what I'm hearing you say that this is horrible. And it sounds like hell and I don't know what you need from me right now, what I can see is that I'm just going into this place where I am polarizing or where I somehow wanna change you or change your experience, but I clearly that's not working 'cause you're just getting more and more angry at me, and I'm getting more angry at you. Like what do you need?" And you know, to prove your point, Keith and this was just so hilarious to me in the moment, she looked at me and her eyes were big and wide, and she just said, "I need your compassion. I need you to understand that, yes, of course, I'm gonna do this for you, I love you, and it's not... It wouldn't be my first choice to do this thing and I just need you to hear me and to acknowledge me and to be compassionate." Neil Sattin: So that was the first thing that was like, "Oh okay, right." And so, of course, I'm thinking like I know this and of course I know this, like I've... 'cause we've done this a million times, but here we were in this space of conflict. And so then I started thinking, like, "Well, I know that the key right now is to be compassionate and I've even done it before, but right now, I can't for some reason, I really can't." And so I asked myself like, "Why, why can't I be compassionate right now?" And I had this huge realization about my own earlier experiences with being confronted with, I had an idea about something and just to keep it somewhat vague like let's say a family member would have shit on my idea or say like, "No Like that. We're not gonna do that." Neil Sattin: And so for me, I had to develop a pretty strong defense to that kind of what I perceived as negative energy, or a negative attack, and so my choice was never to meet that with compassion. I didn't... No one instructed me on how to do that as a kid, so I was just like kind of shoring myself up and figuring like, "Okay, how do I turn a negative into a positive, how do I... " It's like I had Martin Seligman in my back pocket like... Keith Witt: There you go. Neil Sattin: And which was good for me, in some level, but in this situation with Chloe, there was no like saying, "Hey, let's turn those lemons into lemonade." Like that wasn't what she needed in that moment. And as soon as I realized that and I shared that with her, "Oh wow, I'm realizing that you need compassion, and I can't do it and it's because I just have this defense against being... Like I've never learned how to be compassionate, what I've learned how to do is to try to look on the bright side or try to make things not as bad. And for us, it was this huge moment of understanding that just softened everything and next thing you knew, we were singing to each other and making peace with each other instead of making war. Keith Witt: Well, I just love that story. You know what? When a couple comes in with the story like that, there's part of me that goes, "Mm-hmm. My work here is done." [laughter] You notice what you did, you went into vulnerability as power which you can do with her because she is a sophisticated enough partner to see that and to be moved by it and then you went into the real issue. The real issue is us, our container. And to go there, I have to go essentially into my trauma history to find out why I had this reaction, that's more rigid than I'm used to. It's more amplified than I'm used to. And yes, that it always comes from previous learning, often it comes from a family of origin. And when you understand that the problem right now was a solution, it's often a brilliant solution 40 years ago, but now it's not adequate because I'm in a relationship where I can actually go into deeper love from this place, which was not available then, I'd rather go into deeper love. Keith Witt: And that's what you guys did and you were focusing on the real issue, which is we need to... There is a rupture in our container, in our intersubjective container, we need to heal that. And we know that we've healed it when we feel that sense of loving connection. When you're repairing, yes, you wanna validate the other person and, yes, the other person wants to feel understood. And you wanna feel understood. And you wanna take a little bit of action to solve the problem. Those are all important parts of repair. Yeah, you wanna accept that that's not gonna solve the whole problem but it will solve a piece of it but at the very end of it, there needs to be loving connection. If you don't have that loving connection, you haven't repaired it yet. And you only know that when you both feel it at the same time and everybody who has done that, which is almost all of us, knows what that feels like. And that needs to be the standard. That is always the standard to get back to love. Neil Sattin: Yeah, yeah. There's this little song. I don't know who the source of it is but Chloe learned it recently and it's become our latest practice at the end of conflict. Not that conflict's happening all the time, but just as a reminder and a recognition of having gotten back to love. And can I sing it? Can I share? Keith Witt: Oh please, I was gonna ask you to sing it. Sing it. Neil Sattin: So it goes like this. "I behold you beautiful one. I behold you child of the Earth and sun. Let my love wash over you. Let my love watch over you." That's it. Keith Witt: That's beautiful. Neil Sattin: Yeah. So for us that... And actually I find myself when I'm still stewing I can sing that to her in my mind. And that also helps like, "Okay, I'm coming back now." I can remember that the whole reason we're here is because we love each other and because our love is ever deepening and we've had that experience. So that also helps me come back to the table and get back to love with her. Keith Witt: When you sing that song inside you, when you're with her, you're doing loving-kindness meditation. Neil Sattin: Yes. Keith Witt: That's another form of loving-kindness meditation. Neil Sattin: Yes, exactly. So, Keith, let's shift gears just a little bit because I wanna give you a chance to paint the picture. You created a beautiful scaffolding around which Loving Completely is built and you call it The Five Star Practice. And there are these five questions that people can ask themselves about themselves and about their partner to help direct their attention to the elements that create an amazing thriving relationship. And you talk about how it came up in a conversation with your kids around like what to look for in a good partner and how that has become this lens through which you can... These questions have become a lens through which you can look at any relationship and see what's going well, what's not, where you might need to adjust your habits. And so could we go through those five star questions? Keith Witt: Sure. Neil Sattin: So people get a sense of what we're talking about. Keith Witt: Yes. The genesis of this was in a conversation with my two teenage kids in the kitchen, of them asking, How do I choose somebody? And anybody who's done therapy realizes that at certain points in your life you open up and something comes through, you become a channel. And so those five questions came out. And as a scientist, I'm always a little uncomfortable with stuff like that because, yes, we can see it as an unconscious download, but it always feels like you're connected to something larger. And the interesting thing about that is that they really haven't changed that much over the years. It's been 15 years or so. And they've been cross-validated again, and again, and again, and again with neuroscience and social science and so on. And so I'll tell you the five questions but I'll tell you the reason for the questions and I'll tell you the foundation of the questions. Keith Witt: The foundation is compassionate self and other observation. Loving-kindness meditation does that, attunement, paying attention with acceptance and caring intent to what you're sensing, feeling, thinking, judging, and wanting. Paying attention with acceptance and caring intent, what your partner might be sensing, feeling, thinking, judging, and wanting. That's the foundation, compassionate self and other observation. Now, if you can establish that, and however way you do it, if you ask yourself these questions, you're basically, when you ask yourself a question, you're opening up to your unconscious. Keith Witt: So the questions are first, is there erotic polarity between me and this other person? Is there a spark between their feminine and my masculine? Because when we are looking for a partner, or when we were maintaining a relationship, part of that is the love affair. That love affair is a big deal, and that love affair is based on a spark between two poles, between the masculine in one person and the feminine in the other. Now we have energetic polarities between ourselves and everything and everybody. You have an energetic polarity when you look at a sunset, or when you're telling your daughter good night, I love you. But you have a certain kind of erotic polarity, has a sexual feel, between you as a masculine or feminine person and another person as a masculine and feminine person, and we're adjusting those all the time. Keith Witt: And so that's one question, Is there a spark of erotic polarity between me and this other person? The second question is, Does this person maintain their physical and psychological health? Doesn't mean they have to be super healthy, it just means they're responsible for their physical and psychological health, and if there's a problem they'll take care of it. Third question is, If I'm in a relationship with this person or if I am and there's conflict, would they be able and willing to do what it takes to get back to love? We've been talking about repair, you and I, and that's a central skill in intimate relationships. A fourth question is, Would this person show up appropriately for a child or a family member? Appropriately is not co-dependently, appropriately is there's a lot of things that are appropriate, but will they show up in a healthy fashion for a child or a family member? And the fifth one is, Does this person have something larger than themselves, something sacred that they're committed to? And do they feel a sense of respect, even admiration, or would they feel that for what's sacred to me? Keith Witt: So those are a lot of questions but if you pay attention to those five dimensions about other people, after a while they become like new sense organs and you just notice these things. You'll pull up to somebody... You're sitting down next to somebody in a restaurant, you look over and you go, "I bet that person would be a good parent." Or you see somebody, you go, "Hmm, I feel a spark of erotic polarity with this person." Or you look at that person, you go, "I don't think that person maintains their physical health very well." Or they do. They become things that you notice like people's clothes and eye color. And if you notice them about other people, it makes it easier to notice them about yourself. And these are not absolute questions. In relationships, we go moment to moment to moment to moment. And so they're dimensions that keep shifting. I can be engaged in a healthy behavior in one moment, and then all of a sudden I'm reaching for the doughnut and I'm engaging in an unhealthy behavior. And now what am I gonna do about that? Keith Witt: Am I gonna adjust towards health or am I going to eat the doughnut then eat another doughnut? If I do that as a habit, then I'm not maintaining my physical health, for instance. And in relationships, we're always kind of adjusting... When I was talking earlier about being in growth power hierarchies, and then adjusting from dominator hierarchies to growth hierarchies, that's attending on a moment to moment, and these five dimensions are ways of adjusting. Am I showing up appropriately for my son? Am I expressing admiration and respect for what my wife finds deeply meaningful? And if I'm evaluating a partner, does this person do these things? And if the answer to even one of these is no, then there's gonna be problems. That doesn't mean you don't get in a relationship, but what it does mean is you have a conversation about it. Keith Witt: And if you can ask yourself these questions about yourself and other people, what that does is it opens you up to have these be continua that you can discuss, they make them talkaboutable in relationship. And one of the big problems that couples have is they have one set of agreements on top that they usually hear in their marriage vows, and a whole different set of agreements below the surface that never get discussed until a problem comes up. You know, a great one is, I promise to be faithful for you. That's a public agreement. And then, the private one, unless I have an opportunity to have great sex with somebody else and I have this conviction that you'll never find out about it. Neil Sattin: [chuckle] Right. Keith Witt: Yeah. Well. If that agreement, if that private agreement is examined by me and discussed with you, I'm less vulnerable to have that happen. Number one predictor of affairs is opportunity and people have an opportunity and they're not prepared because these things have not been talkaboutable with another person. That's one of the reasons I have two or three chapters on affairs and what to do about affairs in Loving Completely. Even if you never had an affair or if your partner has never had an affair, it's useful to understand the dynamics of affairs because those dynamics affect everybody, and if we're aware of those dynamics, awareness regulates. And so being more woken up and more aware helps prepare us. Now, this is my bias, my bias is I like to understand everything, that's why I like Integral Studies. Integral Theory is a meta-theory that has a lot of theories inside it. Keith Witt: And other people don't particularly like to grow in that fashion. But if there's one approach that speaks to you around any of these, okay, you can just dive into that approach. But you don't dive into the approach unless you realize it's something that needs attention. And asking yourself these questions about yourself and your partner and having them be modes of discourse between you and your partner, if some problem does happen in intersubjectivity, if there is a problem in your friendship, your love affair, your ability to receive influence or support of each other's personal evolution and collective evolution, it's more likely to come out and now you have a language to discuss it and to resolve it, and you have a growth mindset to make it better. And you have an orientation, we wanna turn this into deeper love and compassionate understanding of each other. And that's what creates the great relationships. Neil Sattin: Right. I love hearing someone saying, "Oh, I just started seeing this person and we decided to start going to therapy together so that we were getting support." Or, "I just got together... " Actually I just had this happen with someone who said, "I just started this relationship... " And they had actually purchased the course that Chloe and I put together called Thriving intimacy. Keith Witt: Great. Neil Sattin: For a previous relationship, and they said, "We're starting off doing the course together." And I love hearing that because not only are they skill building, but yeah, they're creating that common dialogue of common vocabulary, a way to talk about things. And I think one of the biggest challenges is especially around those things that are scary like someone for instance saying, "I don't know if I have what it takes to be faithful." Wow, what a scary conversation to have with your partner. So any framework that you have that gives you the ability to talk about that and to keep each other safe in that conversation is so powerful and important for helping you strengthen rather than repeatingly shying away from those kinds of topics. Keith Witt: Yes. And it's hard to talk about difficult things. You get easily threatened. And those defensive states show up. And if you're not aware, if you can't see those defensive states, then you tend to have those downward spirals that you talked about. But if you're aware of them, and you adjust back into those dialectics, those states of healthy response in the ways we've been discussing, then you can sustain the conversations. People, if they have a bad time, will tend to avoid the conversation. There's one study that showed if a guy initiated sex with his partner and she said no once, there was a certain number of guys that never initiated again. That one negative experience was enough to close down that conversation. Neil Sattin: Wow. Keith Witt: That's really a bad thing in intimacy. You want your intimacy to be marked by more and more things being talkaboutable, not less and less, not fewer and fewer things. Neil Sattin: Yeah, I love that. Talkaboutable. I think I'm gonna start using that. That... Keith Witt: There you go. Neil Sattin: Phrase. Yeah, it's a good one. Keith Witt: My gift to you. Neil Sattin: Thank you, thank you. One last thing, and we could talk about this forever. Obviously, I think every time you've been on the show we've spoken for quite a while and there's so much to digest here, and I do encourage you to, if you haven't heard the first two episodes that Keith and I did together, definitely go check them out. Episode 13, Episode 80. And there's so much in your book. I'm really excited for it to be out because it encapsulates so much. And as you mentioned, there are a couple of chapters on affairs. As I read through it, I was like holy mackerel. There's a couple of chapters on just about everything. Which isn't to say that it's this long slog of a read, you're actually a very entertaining and engaging writer, which I really appreciate. Keith Witt: Thank you. Neil Sattin: But there's a lot here for you to get that different growth oriented integrally informed perspective on all these different facets of relationship. What I'm curious about, from your perspective, Keith, is this is something that we've been touching on. And we touched on it in the dimension of... And I even had my own confession here. Yeah, I know I'm supposed to get compassionate right now, but I can't fucking do it. [chuckle] There's so much that we are learning about how to have better relationships and yet it requires us to change what we habitually do. It requires us to not just hear it and be like, "Yeah, that's awesome." And maybe to not even just tell our partner about it, but it requires us to actually shift the way that we behave and to follow through on that over and over again, especially because sometimes the initial shift doesn't yield the results that we are hoping for. Neil Sattin: So it's like, you gotta stick with it. You talk in the book about mastery, and that initial like you learn a lot and then you have this plateau and it takes a lot of effort to get through that plateau to the place where you have another growth spike. So I'm curious, if I'm listening to the show and saying, "Alright, this stuff sounds great, it sounds really great. In fact, it's amazing." What do I do to remember it tomorrow so that I actually can put this thing into practice tomorrow? Keith Witt: First of all, do the loving-kindness meditation a lot. The more irritated I am with somebody, the more of a positive impact on me the loving-kindness meditation has. And so that's kind of the first place I go when I get pissed off at somebody and I gotta tell you, I've been doing it quite a lot the last year and a half in that state. And the other thing is to ask those five questions, ask them all the time, not just with your partner but with everybody. Ask... Notice them in yourself. Am I... How am I doing with these five questions? And just to get information. Just to have... Do it from a perspective of compassionate understanding. I wanna understand, and by asking those questions your unconscious will give you answers. And as that happens, you're strengthening that perception, that perceptual capacity to notice these things and to be interested in these things and to be able to discuss these things. Keith Witt: Now, why is this super important? None of us exist independent of everybody else. So we have our history and we have all the cultures that we were in, embedded in our personalities and in our relationships. An American culture has, over the last hundred years, has gradually been waking up. Psychotherapy and psychology has influenced it to some extent. And in the 21st century, more and more psychotherapists are recognizing that psychotherapy is not primarily about identifying psychopathology and treating it like an infection. Psychotherapy is about supporting people's development, relationally, individually, it's about supporting people's personal evolution, supporting people being healthy and happy, and having coherent lives and growing. Keith Witt: And then along the way, there's blocks and problems that are natural functions of being human beings. And that those are difficult. The human nervous system, once it establishes a defensive pattern, doesn't want to give it up. That pattern has to be included and transcended in a more complex pattern and that requires conscious effort on our part. And ideally, these things would be taught from birth onward, but they're not. So what we do is we start whenever we start and learn things and do our best to implement them. And receiving influence from carrying other people is a super power as I said in the beginning. And particularly from our partner. Now hostile influence is not caring influence. If somebody wants to dominate me, and I'm influenced to submit, that doesn't do us any good relationally, okay? Keith Witt: But someone influencing me when I'm being pissed off, inviting me into a growth hierarchy with them, inviting me into mutual understanding, and if I can receive that influence and do it, then we've taken our relationship at that moment to a greater level of complexity. Like you and Chloe did in the example that you gave. Okay, we wanna do that, we wanna get better at that throughout our lifetime, and we want to teach our children how to do it. And with our partner, we wanna help our partner do it and generally insist on partners who are willing to grow with us. They don't have to be as deep as we are in any developmental line, but if they're willing to grow in any of the significant lines of development, the psychosocial, the sexual, the moral line, and so on, we can continue to get more loving and more complex and human development goes in the direction of more compassion, more deeper understanding, deeper consciousness. Keith Witt: And with couples, it goes to having a more and more special intersubjectivity. And that intersubjectivity is beautiful and powerful and really the most powerful and delicate relationship that's ever existed is a modern marriage where people can maintain this container, this friendship and love affair and repair of injuries and support each other's evolution. It's the developmental driver. As you begin to do that with someone, you value it, you get a little bit protective of it. It's easier to not let outside influences screw it up and it's easier to adjust when you have primitive incursions from your trauma history or from your early learning. Neil Sattin: I have a question. How do you... Can you give me an example of this is the moment to exercise my power to receive caring influence? And I know I sort of offered one with Chloe, but I'm curious how would that... When does that typically arise for a couple so that they're like, "Oh this is the perfect time. Caring influence is available for me. Let me receive." How would I identify that. Keith Witt: Great example. You're having a conversation with your partner. I've had this happen with Becky many times. She'll say something. I don't know. She'll make a comment about taking care of somebody. She errs on the side of co-dependence occasionally. And I'll go, "Cheese." Just like that. Really? You're gonna take care of that person? Now you can hear the contempt in my voice, right? Now at that point, if I'm looking at her, I see a wave of pain go across her face. And she'll... These days, she'll say, "Geez, that was kind of a nasty tone." Now, 40 years ago, I would have said, "Well, yeah, yeah, well, you're thinking of doing a really stupid thing. That's why I used a nasty tone." Okay, well, I learned from bitter experience that that really wasn't a very good response to that. That was a stupid response 'cause it just made things worse. Keith Witt: So what I'll do is go, "Yeah, she's right." And I'll go, "I'm sorry. I know if I think it's a bad idea I use the dismissive tone, and I apologize. I am worried that you're gonna do something that will hurt you, that might not be appropriate to do, and so I got contemptuous, I apologize." I received influence. I changed what I thought and how I did. Neil Sattin: Got it. Keith Witt: Now she, on the other hand, was not caught up in the fact that I used a contemptuous tone 30 seconds earlier. She could have been. She could have said, "Well, you said that. And used that nasty tone. Screw you." "Well, I'm sorry I used a nasty tone." "It's too late." People will say that, it's too late. Well, it needs to not be too late. If your partner is doing their best to shift. And so all Becky will do is go, "Thanks, I appreciate it, and I'll do my best to not be codependent with this person." She'll receive influence from me then. Okay? It's is as simple as that. If you just do it on the level of tones. Is my tone communicating respect and care? If it's not, I'm sorry. By definition, I'm sorry. It's not like, "Oh yeah, I'm sorry, unless you deserve it." Keith Witt: No, nobody deserves a contemptuous tone. I'm a martial artist. I studied karate and lots of other martial arts for decades. You know, the only time that you do violence to another person is in a street fight, and then you do it respectfully. The other person really could care less whether you're being respectful when you're breaking their arm, but you know that you're doing it respectfully. Every other situation, setting boundaries, we talked about earlier, telling somebody you need to stop doing that 'cause that's hurting. All of that can be done respectfully. That's the standard. And once we embrace that standard, which is basically a nonviolent standard, it's not a passive standard, it's a nonviolent standard. It organizes us whenever we have a little bit of violence of tone or deed or thought or so on, to say, "Yeah, that was violent, I apologize." And that... Noticing that in itself, and then making that adjustment changes everything. Neil Sattin: Yeah, yeah, and following on the question before I'm listening and I'm saying, "Okay, I want, I need to remember to do that tomorrow, I need to remember to do that tomorrow." Like on this core level of recognizing, okay, I have a habit of not doing that and I realize we probably don't have time right now to go into a whole conversation about how to change habits, but what would be the first step that someone could take to ensure that, okay, I'm not gonna just do tomorrow what I habitually do. I'm gonna maintain my awareness of some other options that exist for me. Keith Witt: Almost any contemplative practice helps. There's a real interesting study that was done on psychotherapists. Psychotherapists who did contemplative practice, which is any kind of meditation that focused on compassionate inner awareness, they had higher empathy scores. But when they stopped doing their practice, their empathy scores went down. Neil Sattin: Wow. Keith Witt: So having some mindful practice, and those five questions if you're asking them about yourself is a mindful practice. Paying attention with acceptance and caring intent, what you're feeling, thinking, judging, wanting, sensing, is a mindfulness practice. Doing that mindfulness practice and being able to recognize when you shift into violence, when you shift into diminishing another person. Or when you're feeling that sense of attunement where the sky is the limit. You and I are going back and forth in that intersubjectivity that we all love so much, that seekers love so much with other seekers, where we're looking for deeper truth together and both of us are kind of alert to what's gonna emerge between us. There's a palpable difference between those two moods of discourse. Once that becomes visible to you, it becomes way easier to regulate it. And what is visible to you as a couple? Now you've changed. That's a developmental milestone when that's visible for a couple. Keith Witt: And they both feel a sense of responsibility to maintain the positive intersubjectivity, and to make adjustments with the negative intersubjectivity. So there's the answer, attunement, contemplative practice, and noticing the difference between those two states. And recognizing it's my responsibility to adjust from the negative state to the positive state. Just like you did with Chloe. I have a problem. What's my responsibility? My responsibility with her now is to lead with my vulnerability. I really don't know what to do. You're upset. I'm kind of conflicted. I don't know what to do. That vulnerable response was the most powerful response you could give in that moment. It invited her to understand and to offer her own vulnerability and out of that you guys came to a greater level of complexity with each other. Neil Sattin: Perfect, yeah. Well, Keith, thank you so much as always for being here with us to chat about relationships and your experience combined with all the research you've done. I really enjoy our ability to enter that highly attuned intersubjective space together and hopefully it's enjoyable for you listening as well 'cause you can tell. I think we both get kind of excited about it. Keith Witt: Yeah. It's really fun. It's really fun talking with you, Neil. Neil Sattin: Awesome. Keith Witt: Just gotta say, this is really... This is really a good time. [chuckle] Neil Sattin: Good, awesome. Well, then, we know we'll have another opportunity for sure, in the future. In the meantime, if you are interested in finding out more about Keith's work, do check out his new book, Coming Out, Loving Completely. He has many other books that are all great that I recommend for sure. Keith, what's your website? What's the best way for people to find out more about what's happening with you? Keith Witt: Just go on my website, drkeithwitt.com. There's lots of free lectures and lots of blogs. If you sign up, which is free, you get a free copy of my book, Attuned Family, and I'll send you free content from some of the classes that I teach, or the lectures that I've done. And there's also lectures for sale and classes for sale on my website. So, yeah, go to my website, check it out. Neil Sattin: Awesome. And... Keith Witt: Take something for you. Neil Sattin: And we will have, as I mentioned at the beginning, a detailed transcript available for you if you visit neilsattin.com/completely, as in Loving Completely or text the word PASSION to the number 33444 and follow the instructions. Keith Witt, such a pleasure to have you back here and thanks so much for all of your wisdom and knowledge today. Keith Witt: Thank you for having me.

Brant Cortright, Ph.D., is the author of The Neurogenesis Diet and Lifestyle: Upgrade Your Brain, Upgrade Your Life and a brain health coach. He is a Professor of psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies. As a licensed clinical psychologist he maintains a private practice in San Francisco that focuses on an integral/holistic and neuroscience-informed approach to brain health and depth psychotherapy. He specializes in depression, stress and anxiety, career and meaning, as well as relationship and intimacy issues. He has authored two previous books, Integral Psychology and Psychotherapy and Spirit (both published by SUNY Press.) He speaks and gives workshops around the US, Europe and Asia.   Our episode today is all about creating a lifestyle that creates new brain cells and gets people away from depression by holistic means.   We discuss psychedelic usage, finding a therapist to help treat depression, and meditation and heart opening.   Brant leaves us with the advice, “It's never too early to have a lifestyle that is anti-Alzheimer’s and pro-brain health. Alzheimer’s is a lifestyle disease and is almost entirely avoidable.”   Get the full shownotes on the Under30Experiences Blog.

What is blocking you from your divine self, your key to prosperity? Juliana Park is the author of The Abundance Loop, and she stops by to share how we can overcome our fear of scarcity and awaken to our divine purpose. She believes that when we are aligned with our divine self, we balance inner and outer resources to achieve the freedom to gain true wealth and abundance. This show originally aired on Empower Radio.  Juliana Park is passionate about helping people break out of the scarcity mind-set and experience abundance. She wants to see you achieve financial security and enrich your net worth and self-worth. She developed an integral model to transform your relationship with money—and with yourself. Juliana is currently Assistant Vice President at Merrill Lynch in Oakland, California, and has been advising wealthy families for over 12 years. A Certified Financial Planner, Juliana earned her MA in Integral Psychology at John F. Kennedy University, her MBA from Yale School of Management, and her BFA from Cooper Union School of Art. She has spoken nationally on topics such as women and wealth, achieving your retirement vision, sustainability of wealth, and conscious wealth. Sign up for Juliana's newsletter and join her on her Abundance Loop journey: julianapark.com

What is blocking you from your divine self, your key to prosperity? Juliana Park is the author of The Abundance Loop, and she stops by to share how we can overcome our fear of scarcity and awaken to our divine purpose. She believes that when we are aligned with our divine self, we balance inner and outer resources to achieve the freedom to gain true wealth and abundance. This show originally aired on Empower Radio.  Juliana Park is passionate about helping people break out of the scarcity mind-set and experience abundance. She wants to see you achieve financial security and enrich your net worth and self-worth. She developed an integral model to transform your relationship with money—and with yourself. Juliana is currently Assistant Vice President at Merrill Lynch in Oakland, California, and has been advising wealthy families for over 12 years. A Certified Financial Planner, Juliana earned her MA in Integral Psychology at John F. Kennedy University, her MBA from Yale School of Management, and her BFA from Cooper Union School of Art. She has spoken nationally on topics such as women and wealth, achieving your retirement vision, sustainability of wealth, and conscious wealth. Sign up for Juliana’s newsletter and join her on her Abundance Loop journey: julianapark.com

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Welcome to episode 342 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Alicia Davon to the podcast. In this thought-provoking conversation we focus on the significance of sexual tension within long-term relationships, the conscious scheduling of pleasurable moments, and a willingness to embrace novelty in all its forms.  Alicia Davon is a highly accomplished individual, possessing a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a specialized focus on exploring and understanding women's romantic and sensual expression. Her academic journey and professional background led her to become a trained therapist, equipping her with the necessary skills to make a positive impact on people's lives.   Before encountering her partner Erwan, Alicia was already making a significant difference by leading numerous women's groups. These groups were entirely dedicated to empowering women to embrace and enhance their pleasure and find fulfillment in various aspects of life, be it in their careers or relationships.   It was around 15 years ago that Alicia's path crossed with Erwan's, and this encounter proved to be a transformative one. They soon joined forces, combining their knowledge and expertise to create something truly remarkable - The Pleasure Course. This unique course has had a profound influence on the lives of thousands of individuals, guiding them towards achieving their ideal and fulfilling love lives.   In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of sexual tension building in long-term relationships. How Sexual tension is the presence of desire, turn-on, and romantic interest Why many couples face challenges due to getting stuck in routine Alicia advises acknowledging the issue and discussing it openly with the partner Prioritizing fun and connection without distractions for better pleasure Try new and different things to bring novelty and excitement to the relationship How novelty doesn't always mean extreme acts; it can be romantic gestures Cultivating desire is possible through open communication, scheduling pleasurable time, and embracing novelty.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Bucket List https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-sex-bucket-listbtac1eu8 Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy