Podcasts about Ring theory

Jamila's craniopharyngioma had been growing for years, unbeknownst to her. In hindsight, it was her son who gave the first clue, when he stopped breastfeeding overnight at 11 months old.Today Jamila is an author, a broadcaster and the deputy managing director of Future Women, dedicated to achieving gender equity in Australian workplaces.A few years back, her life was on a powerful trajectory — she had been the chief of staff for a federal MP, written best-selling books and was a regular guest on TV panel shows.Then in 2017, she realised something was wrong with her health.At first she wasn't worried. Then, at 31 she was diagnosed with craniopharyngioma — a rare and recurring brain tumour.When Jamila left the world of the well, her life changed completely, in funny, strange, and harrowing ways.Jamila's book Broken Brains: For anyone who's been sick or loved someone who was is co-authored with Rosie Waterland and published by Penguin Random House.This interview was produced by Alice Moldovan. Conversations' EP is Nicola Harrison. The presenter was Richard Fidler.Conversations Live is coming to the stage! Join Sarah Kanowski and Richard Fidler for an unmissable night of unforgettable stories, behind-the-scenes secrets, and surprise guests. Australia's most-loved podcast — live, up close, and in the moment. Find out more on the Conversations website.

Legacy, Loss & Living Fully: Catherine Hammond on Caregiving, Compassion & the Power of Story In this deeply moving episode, Pete sits down with Catherine Hammond, award-winning attorney, speaker, and founder of the Hammond Law Group, to explore her powerful caregiving journey that began when she was just 12 years old. Catherine shares how caring for her mother with early-onset Alzheimer's shaped her life—from navigating adolescence with emotional weight far beyond her years to becoming a young adult responsible for legal decisions, all while raising her own children and attending law school. Together, Pete and Catherine dive into: ✅ The emotional complexities of caregiving at a young age ✅ The Ring Theory—a practical tool for navigating crisis and protecting emotional energy ✅ The journey from resentment to forgiveness ✅ How to care for yourself while caring for others ✅ Why sharing stories and preserving wisdom is one of the greatest gifts we can leave behind Catherine also introduces her TrueWealth Family LegacySM System, which helps families pass on more than just financial assets—capturing love, stories, and guidance for future generations. This conversation is a must-listen for caregivers, adult children, and anyone reflecting on how to live—and love—more intentionally. For more information on passing your TrueWealth: TrueWealth Info Estate planning in CO: https://coloradoestateplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catherinehammond.life/

In today's episode of the Unlock Your Life podcast, host Lori Harris delves into the concept of circles of care amidst the devastation of wildfires in Los Angeles County. Discover practical tips on how to support your community during challenging times, from conserving resources to donating to trusted organizations like World Central Kitchen, California Fire Foundation, and the Red Cross. Lori also explores the Ring Theory, a framework for offering support without causing harm, and shares techniques like mindful breathing and Emotional Freedom Technique to manage anxiety or any other emotion. Listen in to learn how to be a compassionate neighbor and make a meaningful difference! Join Lori A. Harris for the Vision Salon event happening on January 11th!, Click here to reserve a spot. If you would like some help with figuring out how to transform your life! I can help you create a vision for a life that you absolutely love living. Click here to arrange a session with me. If you're enjoying the podcast, please share the show with a friend or, even better, leave a review to ensure others can benefit from it too! WHAT YOU'LL LEARN FROM THE EPISODE A few tips on how to support those affected by the tragic wildfires; Stay off the road unless it's absolutely necessary. Conserve energy; that means electricity and water. Donate money. A FEW THINGS MENTIONED World Central Kitchen--https://wck.org/news/first-alert-ca-fires-jan25-- California Fire Foundation-https://cpf.salsalabs.org/disasterrelief/index.html The Red Cross- https://www.redcross.org/about-us/our-work/disaster-relief/wildfire-relief.html?srsltid=AfmBOoqdhDk1mhsGyOaYZZxvjubYQtuywkp_WoJKlXWhsFTI4d0EFfnt Ring Theory- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ring_theory_(psychology)#/media/File:Ring_theory.svg FEATURED ON THE SHOW: If you're enjoying the podcast, I'd love to hear from you! Please share the show with a friend or even better, leave a review to ensure others can benefit from the podcast.

Welcome to a special pre-holidays ep of A Friend for the Long Haul! This is just shy of 2.5 hours but full of good chats. Here's the guest list! Caryn Zaner (0:01:01) is a clinical psychologist specializing in helping folks with identity & values alignment, anxiety, & group therapy. Find their professional Instagram account here. My obsession with Caryn started with this post on still Coviding and attachment theory. We discuss the stinky onion of grief, lost friendships, & values alignment. We get into setting boundaries - are we asking permission instead of actually setting them? Is it effective to appeal to empathy to “make your case” & or is it a waste of spoons? We dive into how difficult it is to make friends as adults. Caryn talks about the Wednesday night peer support group they facilitate & sends out a call to join a cross-generational queer group they want to start! Wanda Belisle (0:26:23) is a registered health coach, dealing with ME/CFS for several years & shares her experience to help people with ME & Long Covid pace. I'm not a client of Wanda's, but I find her posts helpful, & it's refreshing that when she's in a flare or crash, she shares it . In the ‘wellness' space that is rare for fear of diminishing returns on a ‘product.' We discuss pacing during the holidays. The focus is on parenting, but is relevant to all . Wanda explains how she's saved spoons by asking herself how she wants to feel, talking as a family about what's important , & how she reviews that. She offers tips on asking for help, delegating, being your own “Santa” & explaining pacing to family. As a gift, Wanda is sharing a pdf guide: Thriving this Season with ME/CFS and Long Covid for free. You can download it here.  Chimére & Tory Sweeney (0:57:54) joined me for a full-length episode, coming out soon. In this excerpt, we discuss what they have planned for the holidays - or - what they DO NOT have planned.  Kathleen Banks (1:02:35) has been working in public health for about 20 years & while we were having a casual conversation about grief (as you do) she mentioned the concentric circles of grief. We about it & it really helped me understand why I get so annoyed when other people put their grief about my illness back on me. We discuss appealing to empathy again, self-compassion (hello Kristen Neff), & touch on identifying your needs - something we'll talk about in an episode soon. Notes & links from Kathleen: My recent commentary on research priorities for Long COVID, *note for podcast that all my opinions expressed during our interview are mine & do not represent those of any of my affiliations, organizations or co-authors. “How not to say the wrong thing,” LA Times article on Ring Theory. Mara Glatzel's work. Care Work: Dreaming Disability Justice by Leah Lakshmi Piepnza-Samarasinha.  Jillian & Natalie ( 1:30:09) are my local long hauler bffs. We discuss how this illness has affected our relationships with family & friends, being a lifeline for each other, our “words” for 2024, spending time together over the holidays, & friends who “get it.”  Lesa Schultz ( 1:52:52) was my first ever podcast guest & is one of my dearest long hauler friends. Lesa has an invitation to everyone to join a Sunday night long covid support group she facilitates, & has an update on what it's been like moving across the country to be closer to family while still upholding Covid boundaries.  The end (2:08:48) is a gift from Dr. Laurie Nadel, who has been on the podcast. Dr. Nadel is a psychotherapist. She & Lesa have been building a YouTube channel of meditations, & we have an exclusive for your holiday szn. It is 18 minutes long. Like, subscribe, share episodes pls! If you can, leave a review to help get it in more earballs. Listen to the podcast's Long Covid Theme Songs playlist on Spotify. To support this low budget/high love pod, check out my Bonfire shop for LC apparel or my Amazon wishlist. Thank you!

Why they say parenting is hazardous. Plus, Taylor shares her Oura ring theory.

On Episode 414 we discuss...→ Yenta energy→ A Christopher Robin opening→ Narcissa yapping around to everyone→ Keep Calm and Don't Carry On→ Harry is just like us→ Check out Ring Theory already→ Ties between Percy and Regulus→ Dobby and Winky, sitting in a tree→ Petunia is trapped and Dudley melts→ Check out the “Noble House of Black” seriesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/alohomora-the-original-harry-potter-book-club--5016402/support.

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In this episode, Caitlin Liz Fisher will take us on a delightful dive into COMFORT MEDIA! And no, we're not just talking about your favorite TV shows and movies – we're exploring why they're like a cozy hug for your soul, going way beyond the typical entertainment vibe.  Plus, they will also share their insight on the secrets behind the "circle theory" aka “circle of care.” Caitlin has a nifty four-step method up their sleeve to guide us through overwhelming global events, offering a roadmap to support and self-care that's both practical and empowering. So, buckle up as we unravel the magic and powerful connection between media and our emotional well-being! Episode Highlights: - Why favorite TV shows and movies serve as a comforting embrace for the soul, going beyond mere entertainment - The secrets of ‘Circle Theory' and navigating support structures in the face of overwhelming global events - Caitlin's practical and empowering four-step method for self-care and support during heightened stress or crisis - How comfort media affects our emotional well-being Noteworthy Quote: "Comfort media isn't just about escaping; it's about finding solace in the familiar and allowing ourselves a moment of respite from life's uncertainties." "The 'circle theory' reminds us that supporting those directly affected by crises should be our priority, ensuring care and empathy flow inward to the core of the situation." "Our favorite shows and movies aren't just stories; they're therapeutic tools that help us navigate life's uncertainties with a sense of familiarity and comfort." Episodes that you'd love: Embrace Your Autistic Joy Audacity: When is it GOOD or bad? How Disability Accommodations Should Work for You Resources to check out: Eldest Daughter Rehab (NEW program!) Ring Theory developed by Dr. Susan Silk ________________________________________________________ Are you a neurodivergent creative aching to dismantle societal myths and pave the way for more inclusive, flexible, and fulfilling experiences through artistic expression?  Join the conversation and connect with others like you by subscribing to The Neurodivergent Creative Podcast, where folx make weird art AND talk about it! Hang out with us on Facebook in the Neurodivergent Creative Pod, and join the ‘ASK FOR HELP CHALLENGE!” Also, don't miss the FREE MASTERCLASS >>> Art is Revolution: Reclaiming Your Passion Under Capitalism

Susan Silk created "The Ring Theory" as a way to guide people who are supporting someone in a crisis. In this episode, Allison and Justin discuss how this model of "Comfort In, Dump Out" applies to caregiving. --- Ring Theory: How not to say the wrong thing

I recently attended a fundraiser course on Emotional First Aid, which was given to those who donated to the Maui relief fund, by Melissa Tiers and Simone Seol. And what they covered was so valuable that I want to share it with you here - plus give you info on how to get the full training yourself if you're into it.. What I cover not only includes tools that can be applied for immediate relief, but also includes what NOT to do, because often - even with good intention - we can cause more harm when we intervene unskillfully. Melissa, who has experience using these tools after 9/11 in New York as well, says that so many therapists went down to help people process through their shock and trauma. And unfortunately, what the research showed was that when we process this way in the first 24-48 hours, we can create a situation in which people are prone to suffer from PTSD. So one guideline is that in the first 24 hours, don't “make” someone debrief or retell the story. This is because it can set in motion a thought loop or plants the memory in a certain way when it's still so fresh (more on that later). Another concept we cover is the Ring Theory. This is the idea that the person who directly experiences the disaster is at the center. Outside of them are these concentric “rings.” The next ring would be someone closest to them. Like an intimate partner or a family member. And the next ring out would be a close friend. Then acquaintances. Then onlookers and strangers and so on. The main mantra with this theory is: Comfort in. Dump out.  In other words, offer comfort and support to the person closer to the center than you,and refrain from looking to people closer to the center than us to help us process our own challenges and struggles. If we need to do that, we can vent or cry or scream to those on the outer rings of the circle from us. So if we're talking to someone in the center or a more inward ring, we can ask ourselves, am I offering help and support? If not, I need to take that somewhere else… outward. Now, people process disasters differently. Some people may hide. Or flee and not deal with it. And others might just go go go and they're energized by the process, doing whatever they can, compartmentalizing to make it through, just to get shit done. Of course, that can't be sustained long-term, right? It's exhausting to be constantly problem solving and fixing.  So we can meet them where they are and find out how they're processing and what is important for them at that moment - and keep an eye out to care for those firing on all cylinders to make sure they can recover.  Let's revisit the when of helping people process a disaster or crisis.  When someone is ready to share (and don't ASK them to share - it's only if they want to talk about it) we can actually effect huge changes by considering our language. For example, we can use a technique of asking them to tell it in past tense to help self-soothe and dislodge trauma from the brain. This has a similar effect to telling it like they're watching a moving, in a movie screen that's “over there,” allowing them to safely dissociate from the event. This helps to create distance between what happened in the past and that person in the present moment. We kind of do this more skillful dissociation naturally when we say things like, “then what happened was… there was a fire over there and we ran.” Compared to “we're running” or “you're hitting me.” Do you see the difference? There are so many other tools I discuss in the full Episode, so be sure to listen to get all that goodness, but I do want to touch on one more thing: Havening. Have you heard about this? It works a bit like EFT and it's simple to do. Basically, when trauma happens, the limbic system turns on and the amygdala gets fired up so that it remembers what happened so that it never happens again. In that moment, this wild chemical cocktail of hormones is released, and it acts like a sticky glue on the receptors for the trauma, which makes it harder to move through and let go. Havening creates different brainwave states and a different chemical cocktail, soothings the system enough that it kind of dissolves the glue and allows the traumatized brain to move on from that overactive and over-vigilant reaction and more easily let go. One great way to do this is to cross your arms over your chest like you're giving yourself a hug. Start with your hands on your shoulders in this position, then slide them down the arms, past the elbows, caressing the hands as they pass one another. Then bring your hands to your face and gently caress downwards. This is a very mammalian caring response - like a mama cat soothing kittens, or a lioness licking her cubs. So we find it soothing too. And it allows the person telling the story to focus on something other than just the story they're telling. Now, before I close this episode out, I want to touch on a couple specific things that I believe we can all do to help support Maui during this time of crisis and not be asshole tourists. There are a lot of people who are wondering when and how  it would be responsible and respectful to return to the island: // Ask questions and do your own research before you go, and see what feels right for you. Be sure to consider the opinions of Native Hawaiians, whose land was illegally taken from them and who now gave many challenges as a result of colonization and extractive tourism. // If, after this, you dedide to go, DON't go to Lahaina // Consider joining a mālama program - mālama means to care for, to give back, and these are vacations where you also give back to the land and the people. // Please be respectful of the Native Hawaiian culture and customs. Be aware of your water and plastic use and how it impacts the environment and people. Be aware the people around you may still be in mourning. Don't flaunt consumerism and wealth in the faces of those who often can't afford to buy land where their own family lived for generations. // Remember that you are a guest on unceded native land. Be humble, kind, caring. And give back, mālama ‘aina. Sending love to you, Maui. In this episode, you will learn:// Ways we can all help one another heal from disaster or crisis if any kind// What NOT to do when helping others process their trauma… and why// When and how to help others process a crisis// How we can continue to support and donate to Maul - and what can be done if you decide to go back when invited  Resources:// You can donate to the Hawai'i Community Foundation that spreads out the funds to different organizations: https://www.hawaiicommunityfoundation.org/ // Simone Seol and Melissa Tiers free training: This is the link to their Maui Fundraiser, where you can receive a replay of the full training I'm referring to here for free if you give. A$5 donation which goes directly to a non-profit on Maui. It also has video so you can see some of these techniques in action. // Episode 164: Stopping Anxiety in its Tracks - learn additional techniques not reviewed in this podcast // Introduction to Havening video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PmrvGEJuCxY // The Worst is Over: What to say when every moment counts (book) // Mālama programs (there are many more that what's covered here!)

Finding out your child is LGBTQ can bring up different emotions for different parents. For many, expectations have to change, beliefs may be challenged, and what you thought you knew about your child may have to evolve. In this week's episode of In the Den, Jen visits with therapist Liz Landry about some of the challenges of parenting and how to move from tolerating to celebrating your LGBTQ child. Special Guest:Liz Landry has a master's degree in clinical social work and a bachelor's degree in biochemistry. She worked in community mental health for six years, and she now works in private practice psychotherapy. Liz believes everyone is deserving of a fulfilling life through mental and emotional freedom. As part of the LGBTQ+ community, she is committed to creating a space that is safe and affirming to help dismantle beliefs that have caused shame, anxiety, guilt, or distress. She grew up in the “Bible Belt” of the South, and she has multiple family members still active in the LDS church. Liz knows firsthand how damaging and stifling oppressive systems can be. Therefore, she is also committed to dismantling white supremacy, misogyny, misogynoir, and hetero-normative culture, both in her therapeutic work and her personal activism.Links from the Show:Episode on Ring Theory and finding parental support: https://inthedenwithmamadragons.buzzsprout.com/2082774/12088608-ring-theory-and-finding-parental-supportFind Liz here: https://optimismcounseling.com/liz-landry Join MamaDragons today at www.mamadragons.org In the Den is made possible by generous donors like you.Help us continue to deliver quality content by becoming a donor today at mamadragons.org.Connect with Mama Dragons:WebsiteInstagramFacebookDonate to this podcast

Devoney Looser discusses with Ivan six things which should be better known. Devoney Looser, Regents Professor of English at Arizona State University, is the author or editor of ten books, including Sister Novelists: The Trailblazing Porter Sisters, Who Paved the Way for Austen and the Brontës, The Making of Jane Austen, and The Daily Jane Austen: A Year of Quotes. Looser, a Guggenheim Fellow and an NEH Public Scholar, has published essays in The Atlantic, New York Times, Salon, Slate, TLS, and The Washington Post. Her series of 24 30-minute lectures on Austen is available through The Great Courses and Audible. In addition to being a quirky Janeite book nerd, she's played roller derby under the name Stone Cold Jane Austen. Find out more at http://Devoney.com. The Porter sisters https://sisternovelists.com Love on the Spectrum https://www.netflix.com/title/81265493 The Church of Stop Shopping and Reverend Billy https://revbilly.com/ The Ring Theory https://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-xpm-2013-apr-07-la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407-story.html Roller Derby https://www.wired.com/story/womens-roller-derby-has-a-plan-for-covid-and-it-kicks-ass/ Jane Austen's Lady Susan https://www.nybooks.com/online/2016/05/27/love-and-friendship-unserious-austen/ This podcast is powered by ZenCast.fm

This week, we're honoring love in its many forms. We'll offer you things to do, places to go, and advice on how to care for friends, lovers… and yourself. Today, we're talking about how to survive the unthinkable - when a loved one betrays and hurts you so badly, you can't imagine how you'll move on. And yet, you have to. Darcy Luoma had a rewarding career, a successful business, a loving family and a happy marriage. Until the day her husband was arrested for sexual assault of a minor and her life was blown apart. Darcy shares her story of how her entire life changed and how she learned to take care of herself and her family in the midst of a crisis.  Darcy Luoma is the founder of Darcy Luoma Coaching and Consulting. She discussed the Ring Theory developed by Susan Silk and Barry Goldman. **** And here are free community events we mentioned on the show:  ⛸️ Memorial Union Winter Carnival 

In this episode of In the Den, Mama Dragons Executive Director Celeste Carolin joins Jen to talk about finding and utilizing the available tools that can help make processing your child's coming out journey a little easier. From appropriate ways of processing your own grief to finding answers to your questions without placing undue burden on your child, Jen and Celeste explore ways to help parents address their own emotional needs in healthy ways, so that they, in turn, are able to fully support their LGBTQ children in meaningful ways. Special Guest: Celeste CarolinCeleste Carolin studied business at Harvard Extension School and is currently earning a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy from NCU. As a queer (lesbian) cisgender woman, she has worked with LGBTQ youth and non-profits for the past 10 years. Celeste has served in Mama Dragons Leadership since 2016 and currently serves as the Mama Dragons Executive Director. She lives just outside Seattle with her lovely partner Jamie, extended family, grand kiddos, and their pup Jackson Blue. Both Celeste and her partner come from non accepting religious roots, which fuels Celeste's passion for understanding and serving the intersectionality of faith and parenting LGBTQ children. Links from the show: Ring Theory: https://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-xpm-2013-apr-07-la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407-story.html Join Mama Dragons today at www.mamadragons.org  In the Den is made possible by generous donors like you.Help us continue to deliver quality content by becoming a donor today at www.mamadragons.org.If you have a short story, feedback, or any comments we would love to hear from you at 562-344-5010.Connect with Mama Dragons:WebsiteInstagramFacebookDonate to this podcast

The holidays can be *hard*, and if you need some guidance on figuring out how to show up for the people in your life, Nora McInerny knows what she's talking about. Fire up this rerun from 2021, and crack open her latest book, Bad Vibes Only, which makes for an excellent way to kick of a strong year of reading.   In case of emergency gifts for grown-ups: consumables (candles, condiments, beauty products!). For babies: Lewis swaddles and Sophies. For kids: Twee chalk, Sunprint Kits, and Omy coloring posters.   Dig into everything Nora McInerny puts out into the world, including the tremendous podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking and her books It's Okay to Laugh (Crying Is Cool Too), No Happy Endings, and Hot Young Widows Club (and created a Facebook grief support group of the same name).   The NYT piece on the sex educator Justine Ang Fonte and the platinum rule.   The Ring Theory, which we really buy into and talk about a lot!    A Kids Book about Empathy...that's potentially useful for adults, too.   Friends, this TikTok series from Carly Aquilino on Y2K fashion.   Hit us with your guest noms—or anything else—at 833-632-5463, podcast@athingortwohq.com, or @athingortwohq. Or join our Geneva! And try out a Secret Menu membership for a whole lot more recommendations. This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. Download the free Zocdoc app and book that doctor's appointment. New year, healthy you? Care for your hair with Nutrafol. Take $15 off your first month's subscription with the code ATHINGORTWO. YAY.   Produced by Dear Media

Final Farewell, Trifecta of Trouble, Ring Theory, 700 Club, WNBA Winners, Historic Jump and Toy Hall of Fame!

This week on Under The Ring: Pro Wrestling Conversations, we're joined by WWE's Mr. Money in the Bank, Theory -- one of the fastest rising stars in pro wrestling. We discuss the recent return to WWE of his former partner, Johnny Gargano, how he progressed so quickly from the independent scene to being in multiple storylines on Monday Night Raw, and even who he wants to take a selfie with next!

- In Chapter 34 of Goblet of Fire, Voldemort attempts to kill Harry for the second time, but their spells clash mid-air, causing the spirits of Voldemort's victims to emerge and help Harry escape.- Today's prompt is: How are these manifestations of Voldemort's victims similar to or different from the echoes Harry sees from the Resurrection Stone?- This episode is hosted by Geoff Hutton.- Join in the conversation on MuggleNet's social media channels by using #PromptlyPotter

While on a quest to find an emotionally significant gift for Leia, the Young Jedi Knights encounter an iconic bounty hunter! And as we go back to 1997 for this new arc of the series, we encounter a bounty of iconic pop culture from silly martial arts comedies to emotionally significant magazines. We also touch on our Ring Theory theories, marvel at the lung capacity of Kenny G, and ask why on Ennth anyone would choose to live on Ennth!

Dakoraa spricht mit Buecherwurm. Sie ist politische Bildner*in mit Schwerpunkt auf diskriminierungskritischer Bildung. Diese Folge ist der zweite Teil des Gespräches. Sie sprechen vor allem über den Umgang mit der eigenen politischen und antidiskriminierenden Bildung. Sie reden über Diskriminierung, sekundäre Viktimisierung, Ring Theory (also wie sollte ich mich verhalten wenn ich weniger betroffen bin) und Antidiskriminierungsarbeit als selbst gering Diskriminierte*r.

The Bible remains one of the world's classical texts which has been taught across the globe. It is mentioned several times throughout the Quran both as a confirmation and as a refutation. But what is exactly is the Bible and is this the true teachings of Jesus? In this podcast, we are joined by Dr. Ali Ataie to discuss understanding the Bible through a Muslim lens and attempting to find similarities between the two major religions. Timestamps:0:00 Intro1:30 What is the Bible?9:30 Divinity within the Old Testament?11:44 Ring Theory in the Quran15:09 Quranic Challenge21:09 Torah and The New Testament Authors23:30 Gospel=Injeel? 26:32 The Teachings of Jesus 31:28 Father & the Son Terminology49:17 Similarities between the Quran and the Bible52:09 Is the Book of Psalms from God?53:49 Scrolls of Abraham and Moses57:52 The Second Coming1:02:22 Dead Sea Scrolls1:09:26 Advice for Studying Religious Traditions1:22:00 Conclusion

01:56 - Episode Intro: Who is Casey Watts (https://twitter.com/heycaseywattsup)? * Happy and Effective (https://www.happyandeffective.com/) 02:25 - “Gay” vs “Queer” * Cultural vs Sexual * Black vs black * Deaf vs deaf 06:11 - Pronoun Usage & Normalization * Greater Than Code Episode 266: Words Carry Power – Approaching Inclusive Language with Kate Marshall (https://www.greaterthancode.com/words-carry-power-approaching-inclusive-language) * Spectrum of Allyship (https://aninjusticemag.com/the-differences-between-allies-accomplices-co-conspirators-may-surprise-you-d3fc7fe29c?gi=decb57b48447) * Ambiguous “They/Them” 16:36 - Asking Questions & Sharing * Ring Theory (https://www.everhomehealthcare.com/post/ring-theory-and-saying-the-right-thing-in-2020) * Don't Assume * Take Workshops * Find Support * Set Boundaries * Overgeneralization * Do Your Own Research – Google Incognito (https://support.google.com/chrome/answer/95464?hl=en&co=GENIE.Platform%3DDesktop) 28:16 - Effective Allyship * Reactive vs Proactive * Parenting * Calling Out Rude Behavior – “Rude!” * Overcoming Discomfort; Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable * Recognizing Past Mistakes: Being Reflective * Stratejoy (https://stratejoy.com/) * Celebrate Progress * Apologize and Move On * Microaggressions: Prevention & Recovery (https://www.happyandeffective.com/workshops/list/avoiding-microaggressions) * happyandeffective.com/updates (https://www.happyandeffective.com/updates) Reflections: Mannah: The people on this show are all willing to start and have conversations. Casey: I will make mistakes. I will find more support. Mandy: Reflection is always a work in progress. It's never done. Keep doing the work. People are always evolving and changing. This episode was brought to you by @therubyrep (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) of DevReps, LLC (http://www.devreps.com/). To pledge your support and to join our awesome Slack community, visit patreon.com/greaterthancode (https://www.patreon.com/greaterthancode) To make a one-time donation so that we can continue to bring you more content and transcripts like this, please do so at paypal.me/devreps (https://www.paypal.me/devreps). You will also get an invitation to our Slack community this way as well. Transcript: PRE-ROLL: Software is broken, but it can be fixed. Test Double's superpower is improving how the world builds software by building both great software and great teams. And you can help! Test Double is hiring empathetic senior software engineers and DevOps engineers. We work in Ruby, JavaScript, Elixir and a lot more. Test Double trusts developers with autonomy and flexibility at a remote, 100% employee-owned software consulting agency. Looking for more challenges? Enjoy lots of variety while working with the best teams in tech as a developer consultant at Test Double. Find out more and check out remote openings at link.testdouble.com/greater. That's link.testdouble.com/greater. CASEY: Hello, and welcome to Greater Than Code, Episode 268. I'm Casey, and I'm here with co-host, Mannah. MANNAH: How's it going? I'm Mannah and I'm here with Mandy Moore. MANDY: Hey, everybody. It's Mandy and today, I'm excited because we are doing a panelist only episode. So our host and panelist, beloved Casey Watts, is going to take us through Casey did a LGBTQ panel for Women Who Code Philly a couple weeks ago and it went really great. He offered to do a show to talk about the subject in more depth on the show. So we're here to do that today. So without further ado, why don't you give us a little intro, Casey? CASEY: Sure. I'm going to start by talking about who I am a little bit and why I'm comfortable talking about this kind of stuff. My name's Casey, I'm a gay man, or a queer man. We can get into the difference between gay and queer [chuckles] in the episode. I live in D.C. and I really like my community groups that I'm in to be super inclusive, inclusive of people of all kinds of backgrounds and all the letters in LGBTQIA especially. MANDY: That's awesome. So right there, you just gave us an in. Can we get into the difference between gay and queer? CASEY: Yeah. I love it. People lately use the term “queer” as an umbrella term that represents all the letters in LGBTQIA especially younger people are comfortable with that term, but it is reclaimed. Older people, it used to be a slur and so, like my cousin, for example, who's older than me hesitates to use the word queer on me because she knows that it used to be used to hurt people. But queer people like this as an umbrella term now because it is just saying we're not the norm in gender identity, or sexual, romantic orientation, that kind of stuff. We're not the norm. We're something else. Don't assume that we're the norm and then it's not describing all the little nuances of it. It's just like the umbrella term. So I'm definitely queer and I'm gay. Another distinction that I really like to make and that's cultural versus specifically what the term means. So I'm gay and that I'm attracted to other men, but I don't hang out at gay bars and watch RuPaul's Drag Race like the mainstream gay man does in media and in life. I know a lot of people who love that I'm not comfortable there. I don't like it. I think drag queens are fun I guess, but they're also really catty and mean and I don't like that, and I don't want that to rub off on me personally. Instead, I hang out in groups like the queer marching band which has a ton of lesbian women, bisexual, biromantic people, asexual people, intersex people, and trans people and has all the letters in LGBTQIA and I love that inclusive community. That's the kind of group I like to be in. Some of the gay men there talk about RuPaul's Drag Race, but it's like a minority of that large group. I love being in the super inclusive cultures. So I'm culturally queer, but I'm sexually romantically gay. So depending on what we're talking about, the one is more important than the other. I have a story for this. Before the pandemic, I got a haircut at a gay barber shop. It's gay because D.C. has a lot of gay people and there's a gym above the barber shop that's pretty explicitly gay. They cater to gay people. They have rainbows everywhere. I got my hair cut and this woman just kept making RuPaul's Drag Race references to me that I didn't get, I don't get it. I don't know what she's saying, but I know the shape of it and I told her I don't like that and I'm not interested in it. Please stop. She didn't because she was assuming I'm culturally gay, like most of her clientele and it was really annoying and she wasn't seeing me, or listening to what I was saying and I was not seen. But she's right I was gay, but I'm not gay culturally in that way. Does that make sense? That's kind of a complex idea to throw out at the beginning of the episode here. A lot of people take some time to get your head around the cultural versus sexual terms. MANNAH: Yeah. That is interesting especially because with so many identities, I guess that's true for every identity where there's a cultural element and then there's some other thing. For instance, I'm a Black man and no matter where I hang out, or what I'm interested in, I'll always be a Black man, but there is associated with both masculinity and specifically, Black masculinity. CASEY: Yeah, and I like the – lately, I've been seeing lowercase B black to mean a description of your skin color and uppercase B Black to mean a description of the culture and I like that distinction a lot. It's visual. Deaf people have been using that for years. My aunt's deaf so my family has a deaf culture. I'm a little bit deaf culture myself just by proxy, but I'm not deaf. I'm capital D Deaf culturally in amount. Her daughter, who she raised, my deaf aunt, is culturally Deaf way, way more than the average person, but not fully because she's not deaf herself. So there's all spectrum here of cultural to experiencing the phenomenon and I was happy to see, on Twitter at least, a lot of people are reclaiming capital B black. And for me, it's capital Q Queer and lowercase G gay. That's how I distinguish into my head—culturally queer and I'm sexually gay. MANNAH: So one of the things, I've been thinking about this since our intro and for those of you listening, our intro is scripted and as simple as it was like, “Hey, my name is Mannah,” and passing it off to Mandy. Generally, when I introduce myself – I just started a new job. I introduced myself with my pronouns, he/him, because I think it's more inclusive and I want to model that behavior and make sure that people around me are comfortable if they want to share their pronouns. I do think that this is championed by the queer community and as a member of that community, I'd just love to hear your take on people being more explicit with that aspect of their identity. CASEY: I love the segment. Pronouns is a huge, huge topic in this space lately especially. I like to start from here, especially with older audiences that we used to have mister and miss in our signatures and in the way we address letters and emails, and that's gone away. So including pronouns is a lot like just saying mister, or miss, but we've dropped the formality. I'm glad to be gone with the formality, but we still need to know which pronouns to use and it's nice to have that upfront. I like and appreciate it. I try to include pronouns when I remember it and when I'm in spaces where that's a norm. I like to follow that for sure every time there. But I'm not always the first person to introduce it. Like if I was giving a talk and there were 30 older white men in the audience who've never heard of this idea, I might not start with he/him because I want to meet them where they're at and bring them to the point where they get it. So I'm not always a frontrunner of this idea, but I love to support it, I love to push it forward, and help people understand it and get on board. It's like there's different stages of allyship, I guess you could say and I really like helping people get from a further backstage to a middle stage because I don't think enough people are in that space and there are plenty of people getting people who are in the middle stage to the more proactive stage. Like, “We should use pronouns!” You hear that all the time in spaces I'm in. It's possible I can get pushback for that kind of thing, like even meeting people where they're at, and that frustrates because I want to be effective. I don't want to just signal that I'm very progressive and doing the right things. I want to actually be effective. I give workshops on this kind of thing, too. That's where we're coming from for the today's talk. MANDY: I think on the last show, it might have been Kate Marshall who said that normalizing pronouns is really important to do, but not just when there's an obvious person in the room who you're not sure. Maybe we even started off on the wrong foot on the show by not saying, “Hi, I'm Mandy, my pronouns are she and her.” Just adding that in to normalize it would be a really good step, I think. CASEY: Yeah, love it. Here's where I like to come with my role. Say, “Plus one, I love that idea. Let's do it now.” I like to activate the idea once it's in the room, but it takes someone brave to bring it up in the first place and it's a different amount of social energy, maybe in a different head space you have to be in to be that first person. But being the second is also very important and I like to help people understand that, too. If you're the second person, that's still being helpful. Maybe you can become the first person in some groups, but I want to celebrate that you're the second person even. That's great. Yeah, I think that's a good change we could do. MANNAH: You mentioned allyship and I think that that is why am so proactive in introducing myself with pronouns because I do present as a traditional man. Well, maybe not traditional, but I present as a man and I have the ability to deal with some of that pushback. We talk about superpowers on the show. I feel like one of my superpowers is I am willing to engage in those conversations, even if they are difficult. CASEY: Mm hm. MANNAH: So I can use my powers for good by starting that conversation perhaps, or starting to build that norm. Whether, or not I am doing it for anyone in particular, it is important for me to do it wherever we are. So I think that just wherever we can make spaces more inclusive with the way we can conduct ourselves and our language, it's important. CASEY: I have a framework to share that's kind of related to that. So there's a spectrum of allyship—that's my title for it anyway—that goes from an active detractor all the way over to an active supporter of an idea. In this case, the active supporter would be getting pronouns to happen in a space where they're not happening. And then in the middle, maybe you're neutral, not doing anything. In the middle on either side, there's a passive – like you're not doing anything, but you kind of support the idea. You're kind of against the idea, but you're not taking any action. And then on the active part, there's even a split between and being proactive and reactive. So for pronouns, I guess the way I'm self-describing here is I'm a reactive pronoun person. For better, or worse, that's where I'm at on that spectrum and that's where I like to help move things along. So I can talk to people who are more maybe passively against the idea because I'm not so far on the right. I like to use the spectrum for another purpose, which is moving people from one space to the next is valuable and often invisible. If you can get someone to be loudly against pronouns to just be quiet, that's a step forward. You've persuaded them a little bit to go in that direction, or if they're there to neutral, or neutral to passively supportive, but quiet about it. A lot of this kind of progress with people who aren't active supporters is invisible and that can be really frustrating for people; it feels like you're not making any progress. So for people who are allies and want to be allies, there's a step forward you can do for yourself, which is getting yourself from being reactive to being proactive. But you're not just helping the people in the room, but helping people who could be in the room, or might be in the future. Reactive to proactive. MANDY: I've been doing that a lot with just actually referring to everybody as they/them no matter if I already know how they present, or not. That, to me, is just the most inclusive way to refer to people in general. CASEY: Yeah, that's generally a safe practice, but there are people who don't want to be called they/them. MANDY: Hmm. CASEY: For example, I have some friends who… Let's imagine a trans man who wants to be considered he/him, they are very invested in this and they want the – If you keep calling them, they/them, even if they correct you, “He/him is my pronouns,” then they're going to be upset about that, pf course. But it is a safe, starting point because the ambiguous they is just generally, it's good grammar, the APA endorses it even. You're allowed to use they when it's ambiguous by grammar rules. But if you know someone's pronouns and it isn't they/them, it's generally better to use those because they prefer it. MANDY: Yeah. That's what I meant. If somebody says to me, “I would prefer you call me she/her, he/him.: But when I'm first, like if I'm even talking to say my dad and I'm talking about work, I would be like, “I have a friend, they did this.” CASEY: Yeah. That's ambiguous day and that's perfectly appropriate there. MANDY: Yeah. But as far as like addressing somebody on a regular basis who wants to be referred to as one, or the other, I have no problem doing that. I've just been training myself to use ambiguous terms because I see and I think it's wonderful. My daughter's 12 and almost all of her friends are non-binary. So when I meet them, or I'm talking about her friends for me, it's just more, I don't want to say easy. I don't want to make it sound like I'm doing it, like taking the easy way out, but I'll just be like, do the they/them stuff to have the conversation and then once I find out more, we can transfer over to the he/him, she/her as I'm corrected, or being asked to do one, or the other. CASEY: Right, right. It's definitely safer to assume you don't know than to assume someone's gender based on how they looked, for sure and the ambiguous they is perfect for that. Even for people who use they/them as pronouns, there's a switch in my head at least—you probably feel it, too—from ambiguous to specific. Like now I know they/them is their pronouns. MANDY: Yeah. I've had no problem. When my daughter has brought new people over, who I know are non-binary, I will say to them even if I already know, because she's told me, I'll be like, “What pronouns do you prefer?” And every single time these are 12-year-olds, 13-year-olds, they're like, “Thank you for asking.” CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: Because a lot of times, I feel it's not very accepted yet. So when I hear, or when they hear me say, “How would you like me to refer to you?” They smile so big. CASEY: Yeah, you're treating them like the individual person they are. MANDY: Exactly, and they're like, “Thank you,” and now I'm known as the cool mom. [laughs] CASEY: Ah. Great. [laughs] Yeah. If I could snap my fingers and change a behavior of mine, that would be one. I would consider everyone's pronouns unknown until they tell me and it also varies by context. I don't even want to trust secondhand. Like if Mandy, you said he for Mannah before I met him, I wouldn't assume that's his pronouns. If maybe you are assuming, or maybe you heard it from someone and they were assuming, or maybe based on context, it's different. I want to hear it from the person, ideally. MANDY: Yes. CASEY: I also don't necessarily want to go around asking for pronouns actively all the time. I'd rather us offer them upfront, or have them in our usernames, or something so it's less verbiage in the air about it. I like it to be normalized. We don't have to think about it. That's a dream state. But for now, I'd rather ask people directly than assume anything. But it's a hard habit because I've been trained from school and everything, since a young age, to assume someone's gender and not to use they at first. That's what we've been trained and I love this trend of untraining that. Ambiguous they is accepted and we should start with that. MANDY: I love seeing people proactively put pronouns in their Zoom profiles, or their Zoom names and at conferences, I love the conferences having badges, or stickers. CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: I love that. CASEY: It's helpful. MANNAH: I want to change directions slightly and go back to something you said about the spectrum and how we move people – I don't remember the exact words you used, the two polar opposites. CASEY: Yeah. MANNAH: But how to move people towards a more inclusive mindset, let's say and wherever you are on that spectrum, you might not know how to move forward and the way to kind of deal with that, you might have questions. I just want to hear from you how you would like to be approached with questions around how do you feel about pronouns, or whatever it might be relating to your culture, or your, I guess, I'm going to say sexual identity. CASEY: Yeah. MANNAH: People are unsure how can they approach you with questions in a way that's respectful and a way that will allow them to learn more about you? CASEY: Good question. I feel like you're reading my mind a bit here. I want to start with another framework that you might have heard of. It's the circles of grief Ring Theory. Like if someone just lost their parent, then you need to pour support into that person who's closest to them and if you're outside like a more distant family member, or a friend, pour support in and then the grief gets stumped out. That's the framework, generally. So there's a lot of rings. People who are closer to it are affected more directly and people who are outside are affected more indirectly. That applies to asking people personal things, too. So I'm directly affected by being queer and I've been discriminated against and people have said bad things to me before. To ask me about it and to bring up those feelings could harm me in some way so you can't just assume everybody's comfortable talking about their experience. Like, “Tell me about how you feel about your dead mother.” It wouldn't be sensitive either because they're experiencing the pain directly, but sometimes people do want to talk about that and they're comfortable, they processed it, and they want to help spread the word. So I'm one of those people; you can ask me anything. Even if you don't know me, you can DM me on Twitter. Anyone listening, ask me a question about queer things. I'll point you to a resource, or answer it myself. I'm offering because I'm comfortable at this point. But a lot of people aren't and, in that case, you could ask if someone's comfortable, that's not a bad idea, or you could ask people who are in further circles out. Like you don't need to ask a queer person about queer experiences if you can read about it in an article online, or watch a documentary, or talk to friends who have other queer friends and they know some things about it. It's not as good as secondhand experience hearing from someone with firsthand experience, but you're causing less harm by making the ideas come up again. So you have a range of ways you can find out more about what it's like to be queer and I encourage you to think about all the different ways you can learn about a thing. You don't have to depend on the person who has [chuckles] this negative experience to do it. Another way you can learn more is by doing workshops, like the ones that I facilitate. So I was thrilled to have a good audience at Women Who Code Philly, actively asking question and learning things, and that's a space where you're supposed to ask questions and learn. I've heard of some people have peers they can talk to like peer support; people you can go to, to ask questions like that. Like my cousin asks me questions sometimes about her kids and that's like peers. Some companies actually have support groups like a weekly, or monthly meeting for people in the company to ask these questions that they have [laughs] and they don't know where to ask them and they can all learn from it. I've seen in some Slacks, there's a Diversity 101 channel in one of the Slacks I'm in people can ask questions like when would you, or would you not use this word? That's a space dedicated to asking questions like that and if someone like me wants to go in and contribute, I can answer questions there, but I don't have to. I know I'm welcome to, and I know I'm not pressured to, and that's a great middle ground and that's a lot of options. You've got to figure out what works for you, who you have around, who you can offer the support to, and who you can ask for the support from. Both directions. MANDY: It's great to have someone like you offering to do that and take on because it is of emotional labor and sometimes when people are curious, I know for me as being bisexual, some people are just like trying to – they're asking out of curiosity, but it's more like, “Give me the dirty details,” or something like that. CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: Sometimes it's like, “We just want to know because I don't – so I want to know what it's like for you,” and I'm like, “I'm not going to share just because –” right now, I am in a monogamous heterosexual relationship. Normally, if I was in a single state, a lot of people just try to ask questions that sometimes can be, I find it more inappropriate and they want to know because they're interested in the salacious details, or something like that. CASEY: Right. MANDY: That rubs me the wrong way and I can usually tell when somebody is asking, because they're genuine, or not. CASEY: There's a big difference between asking to get to know you as a person in the context you're in with the background you have versus asking for salacious gossip. [laughs] MANDY: Yeah. CASEY: And the one is much more kind than the other. It sounds like you've done a good job setting boundaries in these situations saying, “That's not appropriate. I'm not answering that. Sorry about it,” or something like that. MANNAH: Not sorry. CASEY: Not sorry. MANDY: Well, in the same token, it's something that bothers me, too because I feel like a lot of times, I just don't even tell people that I'm bisexual. CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: Because it's easier to not answer the questions because once you open that can of worms, then everybody comes at you and wants to know this and wants to know details. “Have you ever done this?” Or, “Have you ever done that?” It rubs me the wrong way again. CASEY: Right. MANDY: So sometimes I feel almost resentful. I feel resentful that I can't be my full self because it causes people to just ask and the whole conversation, or the whole time I spend with them is focused on this one thing and it's like for me, it's just not a big deal. CASEY: Right, right, right. Like on my Twitter profile—I like to use this as an example—I list out like 10, 15 things about myself on my Twitter profile and there is one little rainbow flag emoji in there at the end and I'd rather you talk about any of the other things probably. I'm willing to share that I'm queer and rainbow I affiliate with, but so much more to me, [chuckles] I'd rather you learn about me before that. MANDY: Yeah. CASEY: But it's the newest, novelist thing to those people who don't otherwise get exposed to it. They fixate on it sometimes and that, they might not realize, can be harmful. It can hurt people like you. It does hurt people. [chuckles] MANDY: It absolutely does. It makes me uncomfortable. So it's not an aspect that I talk about much, especially living in rural/suburban Pennsylvania. It's something that I just kind of, aside from my internet friends and tech community, that a lot of people still don't know about me. CASEY: Right. I can imagine not wanting to share. I used to not share my sexuality either in a lot of contexts and still when I go somewhere like the south, if I go to a place that has more bigotry around, I'm not holding my partner's hand there. I might get attacked even, that happens still in certain environments, they don't get it. Okay, I want to acknowledge that people asking these questions might have good intentions and they're making a mistake and I want to explain what I think the mistake is. MANDY: Yes. CASEY: People want to be treated as individuals, but you can go too far in that extreme and treat someone like an individual and ignore their background. Like it doesn't matter that you've been queer. It doesn't matter that you're Black. It doesn't matter, I'm just going to treat you like an individual. Ignoring all this background is its own kind of overgeneralization in a way is ignoring that background and context. And then there's another way you can do an exaggeration, which is only focusing on that background in context and ignoring the person's individual traits and their individual experiences. The best thing to do is to treat them like an individual who has this context and background putting them both together. So maybe these people are trying to understand you better by understanding this context. Maybe—I'm being very generous— [chuckles] some of these people are probably not this, but some people honestly want to know more about your context to understand you and that's thoughtful. They're just going about it in a way that's not the most helpful, or kind to you and I appreciate those people. But then there are other people who want to use the background and context to overgeneralize and just treat you as a member of this group, a token member, and that is a problem, too. So it's like two ingredients and if you put them together, that's the best and a lot of people focus on one, or the other too much. The individual experience versus the group background context experience. MANNAH: Yeah. That was really well put. I do think that as I said earlier, I'm someone who is very willing to have these. However, the downside of that is that becomes who you're and instead of the entire human being and the other – to take it a step further, some people are uncomfortable with that identity, or uncomfortable thinking about those things. Think about the discrimination that you might face and rather than confront it, or address it, they would rather just not deal with you, or limit their interact. CASEY: Right, yeah. MANNAH: So this is not a question for Casey, this is just something to the group. How can we navigate that and wanting to being willing to share of ourselves, but recognizing that there is some social backlash that can come from that? CASEY: I think my number one thing I want allies to understand is they can support each other in being allies and it can take work to be comfortable talking to each other, to support each other. You don't have to just depend on the queer people to learn queer about things. If one of you learns and one ally learns, they can teach another ally the concept, or the idea, or share how to navigate it. I did a Twitter poll for this, actually. Not a huge sample size, but still. A lot of people only have 1 to 3 people they can talk to about things like this. That's very few and they might not cover all the different situations. So that's my number one thing to help people navigate it is get so support, find support, be support for other people and you'll get support in return for that, too. That's your homework. Everyone, write this down. Find 10 people you can talk to about inclusivity related topics, 10 people. MANDY: And Google exists for a reason. So always, when things come up, I like to Google and I've gotten push back about that several times. “Well, I don't want to put that stuff into my search engine because then all of a sudden, I start getting gay targeted ads,” or something. CASEY: That's true. That's a real concern. [overtalk] MANDY: And I'm, “It's not –” Well, hello, incognito mode. CASEY: Right. MANDY: Thank you, everyone. That's a thing. Use it. [laughs] CASEY: Yeah, and you don't have to feel icky using incognito mode. You can use it because you don't want to ads tracking you. MANDY: Exactly. CASEY: Some people use it for everything. They never use the regular browser mode because they don't want the tracking. It's work to learn things about other people and so, that's why I like to focus on the support part. If you get support from people, maybe you can both be looking up stuff and sharing articles with each other, and that's really multiplying the effects here. MANDY: Absolutely. MANNAH: So we started homework for allies. I think now it might be a good time to talk about what makes good ally. We talked a little bit about how it can feel voyeuristic. Mandy, you talked about how people asking questions can sometimes feel a little picky and we talked about some better ways to asking questions. But are there any other ways that either both, all of us would like to see people be more effective ally? CASEY: Yeah. I want to call back to an earlier point. I want to see more people switch from being reactive to being proactive. To being the first voice. Me included, honestly. Whenever you can get away with it and whatever helps you be proactive, do those things, which might be the support thing I keep talking about. Getting support to be more proactive, becoming accountable to people. If you're already an ally, I'm assuming you're being reactively supportive some of the times. A lot of the people I talk to, who consider themselves allies, would agree, but taking that next step. And there's a different spectrum for each issue, like pronouns is one. Pronouns being shared in meetings. How proactive, or reactive are you for that? I don't even know. There are thousands of things [chuckles] that you can do to become more proactive. MANDY: I would like to say for allies, teaching our children love and not hate. I see a lot of nastiness coming from children and that comes from parents. It's really sad to see sometimes the amount of people who don't – they just spew hate and they're like, “I'm not referring to this person as a pronoun.” Like, “They/them, no. They're a this, or they're –” It saddens me to no end when you are around children to model nasty behavior and I think if you are not the person doing that yourself and you're around it, and you see somebody say something and say, “That's not okay, don't. Do you understand how you sound? Do you understand what you're saying? Do you understand that you're having an effect on everyone around you by giving your nasty opinions and that kind of thing?” CASEY: Yeah. I've got a one word, one liner thing that I like to pull out and I'm proud every time I say it. “Rude,” and I can walk away. It can happen in the grocery store. Someone can say something. It doesn't matter the nuance, what's going on and how I might explain it to them in fuller language. I can at least pull that one word out, rude, and walk away and they are called out for it. I'm proud whenever I can call someone out. MANDY: Yeah. CASEY: I don't always do it, though. The stakes can seem high and it takes practice. So this is homework, too. If you see someone and saying something hurtful to another person, it's your responsibility if you dare claim this to defend the other person and call the person rude, or however you would say the same thing. Say something. MANDY: Yeah, say something. MANNAH: I think that that can be really hard for allies. CASEY: Yeah. MANNAH: And if I had one piece of advice for allies, it would be that sometimes allyship is uncomfortable and that is something that you have to navigate. You can't pick and choose when you're going to… Well, that's not true. There's some discretion, but recognize that being a part-time ally, or a tourist in that space has an effect on people and not confronting your own insecurities, or your own feelings limits your effectiveness in allyship. CASEY: Yeah. It can be a deep question to ask yourself what made me hesitate that one time and what can I do to not hesitate helping next time? You can journal about it. You can talk to friends about it. You can think about it. Doing something more than thinking is definitely more helpful, though. Thinking alone is not the most powerful tool you have to change your own behavior. Yeah, it is uncomfortable. One thing that helps me speak up is instead of focusing on my discomfort, which is natural and I do it, for sure, I try to focus on the discomfort of the other person, or the person directly affected by this and I really want to help that person feel seen, protected, heard, defended. If you think about how they're feeling even more, that's very motivating for me and honestly, it helps in some ways that I am a queer man, that I have been discriminated against and people have been hateful toward me that I can relate when other people get similar experiences. If you haven't had experiences like that, it might be hard to rally up the empathy for it. But I'm sure you have something like that in your background, or if not, you know people who've been affected and that can be fuel for you, too. People you care about telling you stories like this and it is uncomfortable. [chuckles] Getting comfortable with that discomfort is critical here. MANNAH: One of the things that is very uncomfortable is, I think that as we go through life, we all grow is being reflective on the times when maybe we're not inclusive, or maybe were insensitive. At least being able to those situations, I feel like is a great first step. CASEY: Mm hm. MANNAH: Saying, “Hey, I said this about this group of people,” or “I use this word.” Maybe you didn't fully know what it meant and recognized the impact at the time, but being able to go back and be reflective about your behavior, I feel like is a very important skill to help become a more well-rounded individual. CASEY: Yeah. Agreed. And it's a practice. You have to do it. The more you do it, the easier it gets to process these and learn from them. It's a habit also, so any of the books that talk about learning habits, you can apply to this kind of problem, too. Like a weekly calendar event, or talking to a friend once a month and this is a topic that comes up. I don't know, there are a ton of ways you can try to make this habit, grow and stick for yourself, and it varies by person what's effective. But if you don't put it into your schedule, if you don't make room and space for it, it's really easy to skip doing it, too. MANDY: Yeah. It's amazing to look back. Even myself, I'm not the same person. I was 10, 15 years ago. I'm sure. Even as being a bisexual person that back in high school, I called something gay at one point just referring to, “Oh, that's gay.” CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: I'm sure I – [overtalk] CASEY: I'm sure I did it, too. MANDY: I'm sure I've said that. Knowing that I'm not that person anymore, recognizing that, and looking back at how much I've grown really helps me to come to terms with the fact that I wasn't always woke on this subject. We do a lot of growing over our lives. I'm in my 30s now and I've done so much growing and to look back on the person who I used to be versus the person I am now, I get very proud of how far I've come. Even though it can suck to look back at maybe a specific instance that you always remember and you're like, “Oh my God, that's so cringy. I can't believe I did that.” Having those moments to be like, “Well, you know what, that might have happened in 2003, but this is 2022 and look how far you've come.” CASEY: Love it! Yeah, growth. MANDY: Like that just makes me feel so good. CASEY: Yeah. We need the growth mindset. MANDY: And having discussions like this is what has gotten me to this place. Entering tech. I entered tech 12 years ago. I know this because my daughter's 12 and I always like, I'm like, “Okay so when my daughter was born, I got into tech. That's when I started actually becoming a decent person.” [laughs] So I measure a lot of my timeline by my daughter's age and it's just amazing to go back and see how much you've grown. Honestly, you should – another piece of homework, if you can just sit back and think about who you were before and who you are now and reflect on that a bit. MANNAH: We talked about normalizing pronouns, but I think it's also important to normalize sharing that story that you just told. I know I had a similar story where wherever I am on the wokeness scale, I was definitely much less so a couple years ago. I just did not have the same – I did not have enough experiences. I did not think about things in the same way. I did not challenge myself to be empathetic as much as I do now. It is a process and we're all somewhere on that journey. Who you are, like you said, 10 years ago is not necessarily who you are now. If it is, I don't know. I hope I'm not the same person in 10 years. I hope I'm always growing. So to make sure to share with others that it is a process and you don't wake up one day being woke. It is something that takes work and a skill that is developed. MANDY: Oh, you definitely have to do the work. Every year, I do a program. It's an actually a wonderful program. It's called Stratejoy. I can put the link in the show notes. But every year there's this woman who you sit down, you take stock of the last year and she asks a lot of deep questions. You journal them, you write them down, and then you think about what do I want to see? What can I improve? What do I want to do? How can I do so? And then we have quarterly calls throughout the year and really sit down, write it down, talk about it, and reflect on it because it is work. A lot of people make fun of people who read self-help books and I love fiction books just as much as the next person, I want to get away and read before bed at the end of the night, too. But it's really important for me to read books that make me feel uncomfortable, or make me learn, or make me think. I read a lot of books on race. So You Want to Talk About Race was one I read and it had a profound effect on me to read that book and take stock of myself and my own actions. It can be hard sometimes and it can cause anxiety. But I think in order to grow as a person, that's where you need to be vulnerable and you need to say, “No, I'm not perfect. I've done this thing wrong in the past and I don't know this, so I'm going to do what I can to educate myself.” CASEY: Another thing I hear a lot is some people say, “You should not celebrate any progress you make. You should always just feel bad and work harder forever.” Do you ever hear that kind of sentiment? Not in those words. MANDY: Yeah. CASEY: But if you ever say, “I learned a thing and I'm proud of it, here's what I learned,” there's someone on the internet who's going to tell you, “You are terrible and wrong and should do even better. Forget any progress you've made. You're not perfect yet,” and that is so frustrating to me. So here's something I'd like to see from more woke allies is less language policing, more celebrating of people who make progress. A lot of it's invisible, like we talked about on the spectrum. I do like when people get called out for making mistakes, like there's an opportunity for learning and growth, but you don't have to shame people in public, make them feel really bad about it, and embarrassed in front of the whole company. You could maybe do it privately and send a message to the companies talking about the policy in general like, “Don't use this word, don't do this thing.” You can do it very tactfully and you can be very effective. You don't have to just be PC police to the extreme. But if you are PC police to the extreme, I'm glad you're doing something. That's good. But you can be more effective. Please think about how you can be really effective, that's my request for all my woke friends. It can go overboard. It can definitely go overboard, being a language police. MANDY: Yeah, and it can make people who are trying to quit. CASEY: Right. That's a huge risk. I want to give all this a caveat, though, because if – here's an example from a friend's company. There was a presentation and there ended up being a slide with Blackface on it, which if you don't know is a terrible, awful thing that makes Black people feel really bad and it makes the person showing it seem like they are malicious, or oblivious and it shouldn't happen. And then we were wondering like, “What should someone have done in that situation?” Call it out, for sure and move on publicly is a good call there to protect any Black people in the room feel like they're being protected and heard, but not necessarily shaming the person and giving them a 5-minute lecture during that. You can be effective at getting the person not to do it again in private later calling it out to defend the people in the room. Protecting is goal number one for me, but what can you do to change the company culture effectively is a piece that I see a lot of people skipping. If you are just 5 minutes yelling at a person that might make them shut down, you're not being your most effective. So it's a hard walk to balance protecting people, calling people out, and changing the culture. But it's possible and it's work. I guess, it's really two things you're balancing, protecting the person, making them feel part of the group included and cared for versus changing the culture of the group and of the individual. We want both outcomes, ideally. But if I had to pick one, I'm going to pick protecting the person first and then the larger change can happen afterwards. MANDY: Yeah. And if you do mess up, which I've done. I've accidentally misgendered somebody and I felt terrible. All night, I kept apologizing to this person and finally, this person took me aside and said, “You're making it worse by keeping apologizing. Let it go.” CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: So also, not rehashing and banging your head against the wall multiple, multiple times. Apologize and move on. MANNAH: Yeah. If your apology is sincere, then you shouldn't need to repeat it multiple times. Make sure that the person you're apologizing to hears it and make whatever amend need be made. But I do think if you over apologizing, it's more for you so you feel better than it is more for the person that you potentially offended. CASEY: Right and I don't expect you to know that without having thought about it like you are right now. Take this moment and think about it deeper. This is intriguing to you. It is natural to want to apologize forever, but it is also harmful and you can do better than that. I offer a lot of workshops in this vein. Like there's one called Bystander to Upstander. There's another LGBTQIA inclusion where I go through a whole bunch of charts and graphs. There's one called preventing and recovering from microaggressions where you can practice making a mistake and recovering from it in a group. The practice is the key here, like really making a mistake and recovering from it, getting that the muscles, the reactions, the things you say to people, it does take work to get that to be a practice. Even if you already agree you want to, it's hard to put it into practice a lot of the time. I give workshops, including these, for community groups a couple times a month and if you want to get updates on that, that's at happyandeffective.com/updates. Also, I do these for companies so if you think your company would benefit from having these kinds of discussions, feel free to reach out to Happy and Effective, too. That's my company. MANNAH: Well, with that, I think it'd be a great time to move to reflections. What do y'all think? I think this whole episode has been one big reflection to be quite honest, but does anybody want to share anything in particular that has stood out to them throughout the hour we've just spent together? MANNAH: I'm happy to kick it off. I think that we've made some really good suggestions around how people can create more through their own actions. Create more inclusive environments. I do want to say that these are not things that are kind of stone. There are a lot of ways. Everybody's an individual, every situation is different, and I don't want to be prescriptive in saying you have to do certain things. I do want to say that when I'm speaking, this is my experience and these are things that I think can help. So please don't take what I say to be gospel. They are suggestions and if you disagree with them, then I'm happy to have that conversation. But recognize that the people speaking on this panel don't necessarily have the answers, but they are people who are willing to start this conversation. CASEY: The thing I want people to take away is—and you can repeat after me, everyone—I will make mistakes. Good, good. I heard it. I will find more support. Awesome. You're great. Okay. You're on the right path for this now. Mandy, over to you. MANDY: This is not something that you do once and you're done. This kind of reflection and this kind of work is always going to be a work in progress until the day you're no longer here. It's not something you can read a book and be like, “Okay, I did that. I'm good now. I know things.” It's constantly changing and evolving and you need to do the work. You need to have empathy for others and realize that everybody is constantly changing and just because somebody isn't one ting one day, they might be something the other day. I tell my daughter all the time because she's very unsure about who is she and I'm like, “You don't have to know right now. Just because you think you're this, or you're this right now, in 2 years, you might feel differently and you might be this.” So people are always evolving, always changing, and that doesn't just go for how you present either your gender identity, or sexual identity but it also just goes for who you are. I always try to grow as a person and the work is never done. CASEY: No one has all the answers, no one knows everything, and anyone who says they do is lying because it's going to change. It will change. MANDY: Awesome. Well, thank you so much, Mannah and Casey for having this conversation today. I know it's uncomfortable, I know it's a hard thing to talk about, and I'm so grateful that you both showed up to have it. If we want to continue these conversations, I invite anybody who's listening to reach out to us. If you'd like to come on the show to talk about it, reach out to us. We have a Slack channel that we can have private conversations in. You can find that at Patreon.com/greaterthancode and donate as little as a dollar to get in. We do that so we keep the trolls out and if you cannot afford a dollar, please DM any one of us and we will get you in there for free. So with that, thank you again for listening and we will see you all next week.

Welcome to The Academic Life! In this episode you'll hear about: The other hidden curriculum: the support and care strategies necessary for being well in academia Systemic and structural barriers Undiagnosed academic challenges, and personal traumas guest and host have faced Why we all need support How to support someone in tough times and why “help” needs to be customized the book Being Well in Academia: Ways to Fell Stronger, Safer and More Connected Our book is: Being Well in Academia: Ways to Fell Stronger, Safer and More Connected by Dr. Petra Boynton. Part of the 'Insider Guides to Success in Academia' series from Routledge, this book offers practical and realistic guidance to students and early-career researchers on wellbeing topics that really matter, but which often get overlooked. Being Well addresses many of the personal challenges of trying to remain in academia when you are in need of support [perhaps you're finding your work, study or personal life challenging or overwhelming; are experiencing bullying, harassment or abuse; or your progress is being blocked by unfair, exploitative or precarious systems; or you want to support a friend or colleague who's struggling]. Being Well in Academia provides resources and workable solutions to help you feel stronger, safer and more connected in what has become an increasingly competitive and stressful environment. Our guest is: Dr. Petra Boynton, a social psychologist and Agony Aunt who teaches and researches in International Healthcare. She specializes in addressing the safety and wellbeing of students and staff in academic settings. Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, a historian specializing in under-represented voices. As referenced in this episode, between December 2017 and early 2020 she survived a wildfire, a mudslide, lost five loved ones on by one, and then the pandemic hit. She coped by joining a poetry writing group for reluctant grief experts, asking friends to take her to a lot of movies, and spending time in nature. She believes everyone deserves support [inside and outside academia]. It was out of this belief this that she co-founded the Academic Life channel on NBN with Dr. Dana Malone in 2020; she and Dr. Malone serve as the co-producers and hosts. Listeners to this episode might also be interested in: The Unrecovery Star, referenced in this episode, found on page 78 and the Kvetching Circle and The Ring Theory, found on page 79 of Being Well in Academia Your PhD Survival Guide by Katherine Firth, Liam Connell, and Peta Freestone A Field Guide to Grad School by Jessica Calarco These videos and resources from Dr. Pooky Knightsmith. A discussion about natural disasters and poetry writing by Dr. Christina Gessler and her friend and neighbor, poet Jen Strube. You are smart and capable, but you aren't an island and neither are we. We reach across our mentor network to bring you experts about everything from how to finish that project, to how to take care of your beautiful mind. Wish we'd bring on an expert about something? DM us on Twitter: The Academic Life @AcademicLifeNBN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

Welcome to The Academic Life! In this episode you'll hear about: The other hidden curriculum: the support and care strategies necessary for being well in academia Systemic and structural barriers Undiagnosed academic challenges, and personal traumas guest and host have faced Why we all need support How to support someone in tough times and why “help” needs to be customized the book Being Well in Academia: Ways to Fell Stronger, Safer and More Connected Our book is: Being Well in Academia: Ways to Fell Stronger, Safer and More Connected by Dr. Petra Boynton. Part of the 'Insider Guides to Success in Academia' series from Routledge, this book offers practical and realistic guidance to students and early-career researchers on wellbeing topics that really matter, but which often get overlooked. Being Well addresses many of the personal challenges of trying to remain in academia when you are in need of support [perhaps you're finding your work, study or personal life challenging or overwhelming; are experiencing bullying, harassment or abuse; or your progress is being blocked by unfair, exploitative or precarious systems; or you want to support a friend or colleague who's struggling]. Being Well in Academia provides resources and workable solutions to help you feel stronger, safer and more connected in what has become an increasingly competitive and stressful environment. Our guest is: Dr. Petra Boynton, a social psychologist and Agony Aunt who teaches and researches in International Healthcare. She specializes in addressing the safety and wellbeing of students and staff in academic settings. Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, a historian specializing in under-represented voices. As referenced in this episode, between December 2017 and early 2020 she survived a wildfire, a mudslide, lost five loved ones on by one, and then the pandemic hit. She coped by joining a poetry writing group for reluctant grief experts, asking friends to take her to a lot of movies, and spending time in nature. She believes everyone deserves support [inside and outside academia]. It was out of this belief this that she co-founded the Academic Life channel on NBN with Dr. Dana Malone in 2020; she and Dr. Malone serve as the co-producers and hosts. Listeners to this episode might also be interested in: The Unrecovery Star, referenced in this episode, found on page 78 and the Kvetching Circle and The Ring Theory, found on page 79 of Being Well in Academia Your PhD Survival Guide by Katherine Firth, Liam Connell, and Peta Freestone A Field Guide to Grad School by Jessica Calarco These videos and resources from Dr. Pooky Knightsmith. A discussion about natural disasters and poetry writing by Dr. Christina Gessler and her friend and neighbor, poet Jen Strube. You are smart and capable, but you aren't an island and neither are we. We reach across our mentor network to bring you experts about everything from how to finish that project, to how to take care of your beautiful mind. Wish we'd bring on an expert about something? DM us on Twitter: The Academic Life @AcademicLifeNBN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/academic-life

Welcome to The Academic Life! In this episode you'll hear about: The other hidden curriculum: the support and care strategies necessary for being well in academia Systemic and structural barriers Undiagnosed academic challenges, and personal traumas guest and host have faced Why we all need support How to support someone in tough times and why “help” needs to be customized the book Being Well in Academia: Ways to Fell Stronger, Safer and More Connected Our book is: Being Well in Academia: Ways to Fell Stronger, Safer and More Connected by Dr. Petra Boynton. Part of the 'Insider Guides to Success in Academia' series from Routledge, this book offers practical and realistic guidance to students and early-career researchers on wellbeing topics that really matter, but which often get overlooked. Being Well addresses many of the personal challenges of trying to remain in academia when you are in need of support [perhaps you're finding your work, study or personal life challenging or overwhelming; are experiencing bullying, harassment or abuse; or your progress is being blocked by unfair, exploitative or precarious systems; or you want to support a friend or colleague who's struggling]. Being Well in Academia provides resources and workable solutions to help you feel stronger, safer and more connected in what has become an increasingly competitive and stressful environment. Our guest is: Dr. Petra Boynton, a social psychologist and Agony Aunt who teaches and researches in International Healthcare. She specializes in addressing the safety and wellbeing of students and staff in academic settings. Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, a historian specializing in under-represented voices. As referenced in this episode, between December 2017 and early 2020 she survived a wildfire, a mudslide, lost five loved ones on by one, and then the pandemic hit. She coped by joining a poetry writing group for reluctant grief experts, asking friends to take her to a lot of movies, and spending time in nature. She believes everyone deserves support [inside and outside academia]. It was out of this belief this that she co-founded the Academic Life channel on NBN with Dr. Dana Malone in 2020; she and Dr. Malone serve as the co-producers and hosts. Listeners to this episode might also be interested in: The Unrecovery Star, referenced in this episode, found on page 78 and the Kvetching Circle and The Ring Theory, found on page 79 of Being Well in Academia Your PhD Survival Guide by Katherine Firth, Liam Connell, and Peta Freestone A Field Guide to Grad School by Jessica Calarco These videos and resources from Dr. Pooky Knightsmith. A discussion about natural disasters and poetry writing by Dr. Christina Gessler and her friend and neighbor, poet Jen Strube. You are smart and capable, but you aren't an island and neither are we. We reach across our mentor network to bring you experts about everything from how to finish that project, to how to take care of your beautiful mind. Wish we'd bring on an expert about something? DM us on Twitter: The Academic Life @AcademicLifeNBN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/education

Welcome to The Academic Life! In this episode you'll hear about: The other hidden curriculum: the support and care strategies necessary for being well in academia Systemic and structural barriers Undiagnosed academic challenges, and personal traumas guest and host have faced Why we all need support How to support someone in tough times and why “help” needs to be customized the book Being Well in Academia: Ways to Fell Stronger, Safer and More Connected Our book is: Being Well in Academia: Ways to Fell Stronger, Safer and More Connected by Dr. Petra Boynton. Part of the 'Insider Guides to Success in Academia' series from Routledge, this book offers practical and realistic guidance to students and early-career researchers on wellbeing topics that really matter, but which often get overlooked. Being Well addresses many of the personal challenges of trying to remain in academia when you are in need of support [perhaps you're finding your work, study or personal life challenging or overwhelming; are experiencing bullying, harassment or abuse; or your progress is being blocked by unfair, exploitative or precarious systems; or you want to support a friend or colleague who's struggling]. Being Well in Academia provides resources and workable solutions to help you feel stronger, safer and more connected in what has become an increasingly competitive and stressful environment. Our guest is: Dr. Petra Boynton, a social psychologist and Agony Aunt who teaches and researches in International Healthcare. She specializes in addressing the safety and wellbeing of students and staff in academic settings. Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, a historian specializing in under-represented voices. As referenced in this episode, between December 2017 and early 2020 she survived a wildfire, a mudslide, lost five loved ones on by one, and then the pandemic hit. She coped by joining a poetry writing group for reluctant grief experts, asking friends to take her to a lot of movies, and spending time in nature. She believes everyone deserves support [inside and outside academia]. It was out of this belief this that she co-founded the Academic Life channel on NBN with Dr. Dana Malone in 2020; she and Dr. Malone serve as the co-producers and hosts. Listeners to this episode might also be interested in: The Unrecovery Star, referenced in this episode, found on page 78 and the Kvetching Circle and The Ring Theory, found on page 79 of Being Well in Academia Your PhD Survival Guide by Katherine Firth, Liam Connell, and Peta Freestone A Field Guide to Grad School by Jessica Calarco These videos and resources from Dr. Pooky Knightsmith. A discussion about natural disasters and poetry writing by Dr. Christina Gessler and her friend and neighbor, poet Jen Strube. You are smart and capable, but you aren't an island and neither are we. We reach across our mentor network to bring you experts about everything from how to finish that project, to how to take care of your beautiful mind. Wish we'd bring on an expert about something? DM us on Twitter: The Academic Life @AcademicLifeNBN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to The Academic Life! In this episode you'll hear about: The other hidden curriculum: the support and care strategies necessary for being well in academia Systemic and structural barriers Undiagnosed academic challenges, and personal traumas guest and host have faced Why we all need support How to support someone in tough times and why “help” needs to be customized the book Being Well in Academia: Ways to Fell Stronger, Safer and More Connected Our book is: Being Well in Academia: Ways to Fell Stronger, Safer and More Connected by Dr. Petra Boynton. Part of the 'Insider Guides to Success in Academia' series from Routledge, this book offers practical and realistic guidance to students and early-career researchers on wellbeing topics that really matter, but which often get overlooked. Being Well addresses many of the personal challenges of trying to remain in academia when you are in need of support [perhaps you're finding your work, study or personal life challenging or overwhelming; are experiencing bullying, harassment or abuse; or your progress is being blocked by unfair, exploitative or precarious systems; or you want to support a friend or colleague who's struggling]. Being Well in Academia provides resources and workable solutions to help you feel stronger, safer and more connected in what has become an increasingly competitive and stressful environment. Our guest is: Dr. Petra Boynton, a social psychologist and Agony Aunt who teaches and researches in International Healthcare. She specializes in addressing the safety and wellbeing of students and staff in academic settings. Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, a historian specializing in under-represented voices. As referenced in this episode, between December 2017 and early 2020 she survived a wildfire, a mudslide, lost five loved ones on by one, and then the pandemic hit. She coped by joining a poetry writing group for reluctant grief experts, asking friends to take her to a lot of movies, and spending time in nature. She believes everyone deserves support [inside and outside academia]. It was out of this belief this that she co-founded the Academic Life channel on NBN with Dr. Dana Malone in 2020; she and Dr. Malone serve as the co-producers and hosts. Listeners to this episode might also be interested in: The Unrecovery Star, referenced in this episode, found on page 78 and the Kvetching Circle and The Ring Theory, found on page 79 of Being Well in Academia Your PhD Survival Guide by Katherine Firth, Liam Connell, and Peta Freestone A Field Guide to Grad School by Jessica Calarco These videos and resources from Dr. Pooky Knightsmith. A discussion about natural disasters and poetry writing by Dr. Christina Gessler and her friend and neighbor, poet Jen Strube. You are smart and capable, but you aren't an island and neither are we. We reach across our mentor network to bring you experts about everything from how to finish that project, to how to take care of your beautiful mind. Wish we'd bring on an expert about something? DM us on Twitter: The Academic Life @AcademicLifeNBN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Sundae kicks off her new month-long series: Global Life in the Hard. The concurrent worldwide turmoil has even highly resilient people struggling to move forward. Sundae discusses the damage caused by denial and toxic positivity. She also explains Susan Silk and Barry Goldman's Ring Theory and elaborates on how the circumstances from the last two years can prevent desperately-needed emotional connection. The post 248: Rebelling Against Toxic Positivity appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..

After watching The Prequels Strike Back and seeing how Mike Klimo's Star Wars Ring Theory applies to the Star Wars prequel and original trilogy, we apply that theory to Knights of the Old Republic. How would the story, characters, and our proposed KOTOR trilogy fit into the ring theory? Learn more about the Star Wars Ring Theory! http://www.starwarsringtheory.com/ Visit our new merchandise store! https://ebonhawkpodcast.square.site/ Check out our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/ebonhawkpodcast This episode is brought to you by Nikki Dog from Patreon!

How do you show up for your people when they've grieving, dealing with loss, and/or just generally going through a really shitty time? What a genuine joy it was to talk about this with Nora McInerny, whose podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking you obviously know (right?). And first: some JIC gifts.   In case of emergency gifts for grown-ups: consumables (candles, condiments, beauty products!). For babies: Lewis swaddles and Sophies. For kids: Twee chalk, Sunprint Kits, and Omy coloring posters.   Dig into everything Nora McInerny puts out into the world, including the tremendous podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking and her books It's Okay to Laugh (Crying Is Cool Too), No Happy Endings, and Hot Young Widows Club (and created a Facebook grief support group of the same name).   The NYT piece on the sex educator Justine Ang Fonte and the platinum rule.   The Ring Theory, which we really buy into and talk about a lot!    A Kids Book about Empathy...that's potentially useful for adults, too.   Friends, this TikTok series from Carly Aquilino on Y2K fashion.   We really want to hear your friend-supporting thoughts. Share them at @athingortwohq, podcast@athingortwohq.com, and 833-632-5463.    So much more where this came from at Secret Menu.   Download the *free* Zocdoc app and schedule a doctor's appointment you've been putting off. Try Nutrafol for thicker, healthier hair. Your first month's subscription is $15 off with the code ATHINGORTWO. Get professional counseling with BetterHelp take 10% off your first month with our link. YAY.   Produced by Dear Media

Good Grief! Today JD & Col take a deep look at Grief. JD and Col discuss the importance of recognizing the small-wins in community activism, even when our bodies are still in battle modes. They chat about the “Ring Theory” of grief and how circles of care emanate out from the centre of where that grief lives hardest, and the practice of “Comfort In, Dump Out”. As with any elegant theory like this they complicate the idea a bit and ask what to do when there's grief and need all around us and we're all living in somewhere between 4 and 20 rings at different depths at any given moment. They talk about Grief as a thing you feel and Grieving as a thing you do, and a bit of the complicated history of how proper grieving time is determined in psychology. As always they refer to this beautiful list of 300 emotions by Prakhar Verma - Expand Your Emotional Vocabulary With This Dictionary Of Emotions As we keep on keeping on with this podcast we need your help connecting with more listeners, show us your support by listening, sharing, rating and subscribing. You can even support us on Patreon, if you like, here

With guest Professor Jonathan Anomaly (University of Pennsylvania)

We discuss a very interesting theory having to do with Christian sacrifice. Our guest/roommate/sister is Christina McMahon.

Unfortunately chronic trauma and living in crisis mode is normal for special needs and medical moms.  In this episode, we talk about The Ring Theory.  This brilliant theory was created by Silk and Goodman - and it helps us explain what to do in a crisis.   Highlights you do not want to miss: Comfort in, Dump out  Handling daily crises and unexpected PICU stays How to comfort inward The value of the outer rings - hint, we need you!  Links and resources: Learn more about the Ring Theory here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/promoting-hope-preventing-suicide/201705/ring-theory-helps-us-bring-comfort-in Follow us on Facebook: www.facebook.com/WhenAutumnComesPodcast Follow us on Instagram: @WhenAutumnComesPodcast Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming stories of medical and special needs parenting from families like yours. And, if you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a 5 star rating and a review!  Thank You!  

Today on the PeopleNova Podcast we bring our humanity to work with us. Many of our listeners are scaling businesses. Today’s episode helps you nurture human centered workplaces. Research indicates companies that invest in the success of employees outperform. Let’s bring the research off the page and into action. With today’s guest, Ashley Kirsner, we discuss techniques based in psychological research to help people interact more genuinely and feel more connected to each other in their daily lives. Ashley Kirsner, FounderSkip The Small Talkhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/ashley-kirsner-64a36250/https://www.skipthesmalltalk.org/https://www.instagram.com/skipthesmalltalk/Topics we touch onHow to share feelings that help you feel more connected and seen Ring Theory - find support in a bigger ring Counter feelings of lonely at the topStrategies to navigate power imbalance Human centered organizations Interviewing questions and interstitial responsesWalk talk match - actions aligned with valuesBusinesses are made of humansCommunicate feelings while discussing containment strategiesWork is not our identitySelf compassion Resources mentionedRing Theoryhttps://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-xpm-2013-apr-07-la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407-story.htmlBurnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cyclehttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/42397849-burnoutSocial Emotional Learninghttps://casel.org/“Won’t you be my neighbor”https://www.focusfeatures.com/wont-you-be-my-neighbor/We would love to hear from you! Send us your questions about organization culture, leadership development, or shifting your mindset. We will answer in future episodes of the podcast. We also welcome your suggestions for a guest. podcast@peoplenovahc.com Join the PeopleNova Human Capital mailing listhttps://www.peoplenovahc.com

It started in a galaxy far far away, so why not end the first year right by headed right back where we began.  RING THEORY!  As a thank you to our fans and guests, we are putting an exclamation point on our first year of podcasting with a special anniversary episode.  We take a look back at the Skywalker Saga, reflect on our evolving opinions, do some FIN recalculating, and even poke fun at each other with some gut-busting antics!  With special guests Joel "The Voice" Paauwe and Brandon Popp from the Going Off Topic Podcast joining us, we have some fully unscripted fun and invite you to come along for the ride!  And if you stay long enough, you'll hear some exciting news regarding "The Way" we'll kick off Year 2 when we return to our regular release schedule.  So Join us as we look back, share some laughs, and make announcements in Sequel Men The Podcast: The Anniversary Special!

We've talked about Grief with Leslie Barber in episode one. But what about when the grief feels like it isn't yours? What about when you're not sure how to do it "right"? That's what this episode is for. We'll talk Ring Theory and how to act no matter which ring you fall in.  In Cristie's Picks, we've got a book for pure escapism. 

Shannon attended protests in Portland in support of Black Lives Matter just a few days before we recorded this episode. This week, Shannon and Janine talk about the challenges of having difficult conversations around systemic racism and Shannon shares what she's learned in recent weeks of activism. Discussion topics include: • The reason Shannon’s throat is scratchy: She participated in Black Lives Matter protests in Portland and was pepper sprayed and tear gassed by federal agents • How protesting has opened Shannon’s eyes to a lot of things that she’s never had to think about before • A big lesson: Don’t get defensive in discussions about racism but rather take away the message for further thought • How perfectionism can be a problem in these conversations because it can lead to paralysis or defensiveness • How Shannon is trying to take what she’s learning and help other white women learn about ways they may unknowingly be behaving in a racist manner • It doesn’t matter what your intention was if something you say is perceived as harmful. Learning that without getting defensive is valuable. • A navigational tool: The Ring Theory that helps you not say the wrong thing:  • Getting used to just saying, “Thank you for letting me know." • How Shannon’s trying to navigate these discussions in social media • The other big thing that happened in Shannon’s life on Saturday: She and her husband found a baby mouse in their car and had to figure out what to do for it. • Supporting the BLM movement without being on the front lines See the show notes at www.gettingtogoodenough.com for links!

If there’s one thing you wish society would talk more about, what would it be? “I would love to know why we, as a whole, suck at condolence so badly.” _____ Edwina Symond and her husband Ant faced the worst year of their lives in 2018 when their firstborn son Sebby died when he was just ten months old. Ed, like me, has faced a huge amount of loss in her life; she lost her mum as a young girl, her dad in her early twenties and her beloved Grandma Mardi, to a long battle with dementia in 2013. Rather than wallow like many could have, Ed and Ant have chosen a positive path to speak about the loss of Sebby and the grief that encompasses them daily as bereaved parents. She shares stories and resources on her website The Griefy Way, to help other parents navigate the early stages of the loss of a child. Eddy & I have had many conversations around death and grief over the years and whilst this conversation is not for the faint-hearted, we cover so many important topics around grief and condolence - it’s a must listen for all.   Useful links In the episode, we talked about ‘The Ring Theory’ around grief which you can read more about here;- Susan Goldman 'The Ring Theory' Connect with Edwina here:- Linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/edwina-symonds-9bb6ab61/?originalSubdomain=au Her website: https://www.thegriefyway.com/ What does "she" look like? And for more information about the Wabi Sabi Series, please find us here:- https://wabisabiseries.com/ Connect with us on Instagram here:- @thewabisabiseries Connect with us on Facebook here - @thewabisabiseries If you have a burning topic you’d love society to talk more about, or know someone who’d be great to come on our podcast, drop us a line at hello@wabisabiseries.com

Dr. Templeton shares how Silk's Ring Theory of “comforting in” and “dumping out” can be strategically applied to the workplace, especially during the COVID pandemic. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/ginger-templeton/message

Emma and Gil moderate a roundtable on safety tools in games, with guests Kienna Shaw and Lauren Bryant-Monk (creators of the TTRPG Safety Toolkit) and John Stavropoulos (creator of the X-Card).  We discuss consent and safety in games, starting with tabletop roleplaying games (TTRPGs), but expanding to all sorts of games. How can safety tools help in games, and in what ways do they help? Content Warning: this episode mentions occurences of consent violations, domestic abuse, and sexual assault. SHOW NOTES 23m25s - The D&D Adventurers League is an official ongoing play, organized by D&D's publisher Wizards of the Coast. 32m29s - Kids on Bikes, by Jon Gilmour and Doug Levandowski. 33m17s - Avonelle Wing is a longtime RPG/LARP player, convention organizer, and advocate for equality and justice for games. She's one of Gil's idols. 34m11s - Kate Bullock is a TTRPG designer, advocate, writer, and president of the Indie Game Developer Network. 39m58s - Nordic LARP is a form of LARP with minimal rules and GMing, but heavy atmosphere and story. Compare it to demonstrative (boffer) LARPs, which tend to be more fantastical and have NPCs and combat rules. 43m20s - An otome game is a story-based video game that generally has the player control a female character, to try to develop a relationship with one of the game's male characters. 46m10s - Here's an especially horrifying story about an awful GM that came out of UKGE last year (BIG CONTENT WARNING for sexual assault in that link). Note that this is one story, but there are many more that never get this much coverage. The story about the public live stream that went wrong is here, and carries a similar content warning. 52m07s - You didn't think we were going to go a full episode without bringing board games into it, did you? :) 1h00m26s - Self-Promotion: you can find more info about Gil's Check-In Cards here. 1h00m57s - Twilight Imperium being a 6 hour game about galactic conquest. 1h06m58s - Psychologist Susan Silk and her friend Barry Goldman wrote about this in the LA times. They called it "Ring Theory," and in it, they discuss how you can comfort a grieving person while not burdening them with your own pain, by placing them in the "center" of the crisis and being mindful of where you are relative to others in that ring. 1h10m03s - Restorative justice is a methodology that has the victim and offender meeting (often with community members), with the expectation that the two parties will come to a consensus on what happened, how much damage was caused, and how the damage can be repaired. This gives the offender a clear path to righting the wrong, and empowers the victim in the process of seeking justice.

Libby explains Ring Theory and how it can help people know what to say and to whom in a moment of crisis. Content note: this episode will talk about the outcry against police violence toward Black people and how Ring Theory can help white people respond and support the movement for Black lives. ---------------------- SHOW NOTES How Not to Say the Wrong Thing by Susan Silk and Barry Goldman Stacey Patton on White Women's Tears and Social Media Didi Delgado's Podcast and Facebook and Patreon Kate Anthony: 5 Racist Anti-Racism Responses “Good” White Women Give to Viral Posts Confronting racism is not about the needs and feelings of white people by Ijeoma Oluo How to be a good white ally, according to activists Scaffolded Anti-Racist Resources ----------------------- WHERE TO SEND YOUR RESOURCES Invest in your local community - patronize Black-owned businesses. Support local organizations creating alternatives to policing. Here's are some places to start: Donate to your local Black Lives Matter Chapter Donate to your Local Bail Fund Donate to the National Bail Out (if they're still taking donations) Black Visions Collective --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Episode 150 - Susan D. Silk, Ph.D. Dan Sterenchuk and Tommy Estlund are honored to have as our guest, Susan D. Silk, Ph.D. Dr. Silk is a psychologist in private practice in Southfield, Michigan. She is also a consultant and clinician at geriatric facilities in Southeast Michigan. She is a clinical consultant to banks, credit unions, retail businesses, service companies, and schools. She also delivers professional development workshops. Dr. Silk was born and raised in southern California before becoming a permanent resident of Michigan where she lives with her husband, her therapy dog Leo, three calico Maine Coons and two horses. The animals and daily doses of West Wind are her "therapy" while she conducts teletherapy from home. At UCLA she worked with the late Edwin Shneidman, co-founder of Suicide Prevention hotlines. Through Dr. Shneidman she became interested in the issue of providing sensitive care for the critically ill which may have planted the seed that subsequently grew into Ring Theory. She's been a member of the American Psychological Association (APA) since 1979 and is currently a member of the APA Council of Representatives, Michigan since 2018. Since 2000 she's been a representative of North Central Region, APA Disaster Response Network, Advisory Committee. Since 1997 she's been a member of the Aviation Disaster Response Team for the American Red Cross. Since 1993 she's been an officer of the American Red Cross Disaster Mental Health Southeastern Michigan Chapter. She's been member of Psychologists for Social Responsibility since 1988 and is a Founding Member and Fellow of the Michigan Women Psychologists since 1987 including serving as Secretary for four years. She's been a Fellow of the Michigan Psychological Association since 1981 and is a co-founder and Chair of the Disaster Response Network. Los Angeles Times Op-Ed about Ring Theory: "How not to say the wrong thing" https://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-xpm-2013-apr-07-la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407-story.html To contact Dr. Silk, you may email her at susansilk at ameritech dot net. The Curiosity Hour Podcast is hosted and produced by Dan Sterenchuk and Tommy Estlund. Please visit our website for more information: thecuriosityhourpodcast.com The Curiosity Hour Podcast is listener supported! To donate, click here: thecuriosityhourpodcast.com/donate/ Please visit this page for information where you can listen to our podcast: thecuriosityhourpodcast.com/listen/ Disclaimers: The Curiosity Hour Podcast may contain content not suitable for all audiences. Listener discretion advised. The views and opinions expressed by the guests on this podcast are solely those of the guest(s). These views and opinions do not necessarily represent those of The Curiosity Hour Podcast. This podcast may contain explicit language.

In this moment when we're all struggling with crisis, trauma and grief; I wanted to share a concept called ring theory. Created by Susan Silk and Barry Goldman, ring theory is a very simple concept that you can use to comfort others who are struggling. It's immediately accessible and applicable; within less than ten minutes I'll explain it and you'll be able to put it to use to help others (or use it as a primer so that others can support you). Have a listen.

In this episode we discuss our thoughts on Carmelo's potential 3 championship rings, the NBA2K tournament that launched Friday, MJ's Last Dance documentary and how the NBA and salvage the rest of the 2019-2020 season. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/brunchandbasketball/support

En esta edición les tenemos un (amargo) análisis del corto de Artemis Fowl, que adapta la no suficientemente popular serie de libros; hablamos del revelado Project Luminous que cubrirá el periodo de la Alta República de Star Wars y ya en el tema, sobre las mil y una maravillas que se han revelado de la […] The post Crónicas del Multiverso #363 – Ring Theory appeared first on Crónicas del Multiverso.

On this week's #OneWeirdTrick, Cecily and A.Ron discuss Dr. Susan Silk's Ring Theory, and A.Ron mansplains a few of the types of "Reply Guys" to us. After that, they offer some weird tricks on those dealing with finding a psychotherapist, being affectionate, doing it all, and raising a child in a secular household.

Lydia Slaby, author of H+K Health team favourite ‘Wait…It Gets Worse’, joins Jess and Jessi to talk about the importance of imperfect stories, steering away from words like 'battle' in the language of modern healthcare and why she doesn't define herself as a survivor in the years since being treated for non Hodgkins lymphoma. This episode is dedicated to the people who keep showing up when things go from bad to worse.

Join our host Marie-Claire Gould (@mariecgould) and featuring our guest Chelsea (@northgalis) as we do a deep dive into the Star Wars VR game Vader Immortal from a symbolic, thematic, and larger story perspective. First we set the stage with a brief intro to Ring theory for Star Wars and how it is one story. … Continue reading "Ring Theory, Reverse Anidala & Vader Immortal"

Tune in as we are joined again by Clinical Psychologist Dr. Virginia Seewaldt, PhD. We talk with her about the Ring Theory of Support, staying in your lane, and toxic positivity. Don't miss this engaging conversation. You can find us on the web at http://myelinandmelanin.com, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @myelinmelanin. You can also subscribe to us on YouTube. Peace!

Satsuki meets a boy and a girl during her search, but they haven't seen Mei.

While prepping for Season 4 of the Love Food Podcast, I am rebroadcasting conversations on PCOS and Food Peace. Listen as Kimmie Singh and I chat with Laura Burns, aka @RadicalBodyLove on Instagram, about infertility and literal and figurative hurricanes. This Chapter of the PCOS and Food Peace Podcast is brought to you by Julie’s PCOS and Food Peace course. Get 25% off using the coupon code ‘podcast’ at check out. Get all the details here: PCOS and Food Peace Course Dietitian PCOS and Food Peace Course Did you enjoy the podcast? Leave us a rating, review, subscribe or share the podcast! Doing these small acts of kindness help the show grow and connect more with the concept of Food Peace. Notes: Your First 3 Steps Toward Food Peace with PCOS download PCOS and Nutrition blog posts Laura’s Web: RadicalBodyLove.com Laura’s Instagram: @RadicalBodyLove Fat Friendly Docs Dances with Fat blog Lean in/Lean out concentric circles…actually called The Ring Theory. Read a discussion here in the LA Times. Intuitive Eating principles Happy and Hairy Instagram @HappyAndHairy PCOS and Food Peace Support Club on Facebook Health at Every Size (HAES) Julie Dillon RD blog

We searched our archives to bring you audio from Docking Bay 9¾, our first podcast! In this episode, Casey and Valerie dive headfirst into ring structure in Harry Potter, a literary theory positing that Rowling's novels mirror one another on opposite ends--Books 1 and 7, 2 and 6, and 3 and 5, with book 4 acting as the all-important center point. (This episode was recorded on 9/14/18.)

Brandon and Spencer (mostly Brandon) has a podversation about Star Wars: Episode I - The Phantom Menace. This goes into details about Jar Jar Binks importance to the saga, the meaning behind the midi-chlorians, and the real-world connections to the Gulf War and how it relates to Star Wars.

Tresa Edmunds joins Natasha on this episode of Mormon Mental Health. Tresa is a writer, advocate and entrepreneur. In this episode she discusses her experience caring for her child who has autism spectrum disorder and what this diagnosis is about from one mom’s perspective and how to deal with it (spoiler alert: self-care.) She discusses how her job is not to be the voice of her son but to share his voice with the world.  Tresa can be found online, going by the name of “Reese Dixon,” on Mormon Feminist Housewives: http://www.feministmormonhousewives.org/fmh-bloggers/reese-dixon/ As well as her blog: http://www.reesedixon.com She has recently started a self-care subscription service for self-care gear which can be found at: haventreebox.com Tresa recommends the “Ring Theory” when it comes to comfort and relationships: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/promoting-hope-preventing-suicide/201705/ring-theory-helps-us-bring-comfort-in To help keep Mormon Mental Health going past 2019, please consider donating at mormonmentalhealth.org.

On this week’s mini-episode, an optometrist (and listener) weighs in on eye liner and tight-lining, and offers some makeup reccs for sensitive eyes. Kate and Doree also answer listener questions about what to do when your sex drive is at zero, and how to support a friend diagnosed with terminal cancer.Click here for the article on Ring Theory mentioned in the episode.To leave a voicemail for a future mini-ep, call 781-591-0390. You can also email the podcast at forever35podcast@gmail.com.This episode is sponsored by Fabletics: go to Fabletics.com/forever35 to get two pairs of leggings for $24.Theme music by Riot. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sheeta and Pazu follow the robot out of the Romanesque garden, past a submerged section of the city, and into a jungle environment.

On Episode 254 we discuss... → Ring Theory vs. Ring Composition: Wizards don't do math → Shoutout Maxima: Percivals; supporting a large family; what's going on in Percy's head?; Does Percy have anxiety? → What is Ring Composition? (Hint: Turtles!) → Immediate chapter parallels: Peeves's water balloons and the lake task?! → A handy visual from John's book → Kat has a new podcast idea → Latches and turns → Privet Drive by motorcycle → The obviousness of "Owl Post" and "Owl Post Again" → Speculation about the rings in the Fantastic Beasts series → Alison has a major new academic project → The literary value of Rowling's work → Internal book rings

This Chapter of the PCOS and Food Peace Podcast is brought to you by Julie's PCOS and Food Peace course. Get 25% off using the coupon code 'podcast' at check out. Get all the details here: PCOS and Food Peace Course Dietitian PCOS and Food Peace Course Did you enjoy the podcast? Leave us a rating, review, subscribe or share the podcast! Doing these small acts of kindness help the show grow and connect more with the concept of Food Peace. Notes: Your First 3 Steps Toward Food Peace with PCOS download PCOS and Nutrition blog posts Laura's Web: RadicalBodyLove.com Laura's Instagram: @RadicalBodyLove Fat Friendly Docs Dances with Fat blog Lean in/Lean out concentric circles...actually called The Ring Theory. Read a discussion here in the LA Times. Intuitive Eating principles Happy and Hairy Instagram @HappyAndHairy PCOS and Food Peace Support Club on Facebook Health at Every Size (HAES) Julie Dillon RD blog Thank you to Theralogix, the makers of Ovasitol, for sponsoring the podcast. Ovasitol is an inositol supplement with a blend of myo-inositol and D-chiro-inositol, in the body's optimal ratio of 40 to 1. Inositols are nutrients that help to decrease insulin resistance, promote menstrual regularity, restore ovulation, and balance hormone levels. In convenient powder form, Ovasitol can be enjoyed in your favorite beverage or smoothie. Available in both a canister and convenient single-serving packets, Ovasitol contains 100% pure inositols, with no additives. Read our blog post about what Inositols can do to help your PCOS. Order online today at theralogix.com. During checkout, use "PRC" code 127410 for an exclusive PCOS and Food Peace Podcast discount. Enter to win a 90-day supply here! (We will be picking 4 random emails from those who enter during September 2018. All will be notified via email.)

We're back! We start this year talking about none other than Last Jedi - this time we delve deeper into the viewpoints of Kylo Ren, Rey, and Luke. We also discuss influences on Rian Johnson's making of Last Jedi, the music choices, and how Last Jedi fits into Ring Theory.  This episode is brought to you by Sand!

This week, Riley, Jake, and Isaac talk at obscene length about the Kroger VHS smash, Attic of the Clones. Listen in amazement as the three discuss/debate the merits of Ring Theory, the coolness of Dex's diner, and the confusing appearance of a chauvinistic man from the 1940's who keeps popping their studio. It's the most combative episode of Grand Moff Talkin' yet, and we must say, one of the finest we have ever created.

the Write Pack explores what we can learn from Ring Theory. What is Ring Theory?How can Ring Theory be used in a series?And more    All episodes available at:    -  iTunes    -  Blog Talk Radio    -  TuneIn    - YouTube    -  And other platforms New episodes every Sunday Newsletter: http://tinyurl.com/jsn2g4y Write Pack Radio Facebook: http://tinyurl.com/zzcwsmy Write Pack Radio Tumblr: http://tinyurl.com/jqjstll Write Pack Radio Twitter: http://tinyurl.com/h7hj6je Winding Trails Media Facebook: http://tinyurl.com/zxanug2 Winding Trails Media Tumblr: http://tinyurl.com/zg8jl6b Winding Trails Media Twitter: http://tinyurl.com/hkkkfgn YouTube: http://tinyurl.com/h92m9ao Music: by Meredith Tate

Rob and Anil are joined by Outer Rim Garrison trooper Jamie "Pale Rider" Milman to discuss the crowd funded documentary "The Prequels Strike Back: A Fan's Journey" (Written and Directed by Bradley Weatherholt). We review the documentary and compare it to other recent documentaries such as "Elstree 76", "I Am Your Father", and "People vs George Lucas". We also discuss some of the key points it brings up including The Ring Theory, the musical connections, and the hate for Jar Jar Binks. Also on the "What Excites You?": - Walking Dead - No spoilers - Trainspotting 2 - The FanExpo Vancouver

Star Wars Ring Theory This week Ben and Addy dive deeply into George Lucas' Star Wars movies and its structure. Was Lucas trying to achieve something we couldn't recognize are the prequels better than we think? No, but we play around with some interesting ideas based on Mike Klimo's thesis on Star Wars Ring Theory. Check out the thesis on Ring Theory What is Ring Theory? Cyclical Patterns in other Stories How the Phantom Menace mirrors Return of the Jedi not A New Hope Ben: Aren’t the similarities just a natural part of the Hero’s Journey? More similarities between Phantom Menace and Return of the Jedi How Attack of the Clones mirrors the Empire Strikes Back How Revenge of the Sith completes the ring to A New Hope Our Verdict on Ring Theory Do other stories conform to Ring Theory?

In this episode you will discover just how crazy much we are in love with the Star Wars franchise. Yes, at one point Gomer connects some themes to theology or morality, but we let Star Wars be Star Wars, for the most part. ( I don't quote this article, but wish I had! Fun read for Thomists.)This is where we go off with Ring Theory and Darth Jar Jar Binks. If you haven't heard about this, it might break your brain or roll your eyes. For Gomer, he rolls his eyes. For Luke, his brain hath broke.Gomer reveals how many books he's read to prepare his heart. Luke reveals how much he's cried in anticipation of the movie. Then we mock George Lucas for a bit and Luke makes such an inappropriate comment, even for our show, that I had to edit it out. But, most importantly, CLICK THE PICTURE BELOW AND RESCUE YOUR CHILDHOOD FROM GEORGE LUCAS! (or watch this documentary on Netflix)And finally, what if you hate the prequels? What if a film student decided to rewrite history and suggest to George Lucas' finished script certain alterations that would make the prequels actually good movies with actual characters you care about and an actual plot surprise, rather than boring characters, stupid CGI set pieces, and the prequels simply explaining everything in the original triology. Here's a pitch for a new plot to Episode I, II, and III. When George Lucas ruined your childhood because of his own peccadillos, Harmy's restoration of the Original Triology in this Despecialized Edition will warm your heart. Click it to discover a whole new world. Lost Stars... Where Twilight meets Star Wars. Enough said. I read it just to find out why that Star Destroyer crashes on Jakku. This book chronologically starts with pre-Star Wars A New Hope and ends after The Return of the Jedi. This one wasn't as awful as the reviews make it out. Listen to it on audiobook and it's fine. The ending is not as great as it should be, but it's probably because they are setting up for more. This book starts right at the end of Return of the Jedi. This is a book about a video game about the movies. Yes! But it is good. It gives you a grunt's eye view of the Rebellion and is a great audiobook. This sets up the Star Wars REBELS cartoon show and is a good back story. The guy with the lightsaber was the last Padawan, with his Jedi master being killed by the Clone Troopers. This will lead into the Rebellion, as the green woman here is helping gather resistance fighters. Good stuff.  A buddy comedy. The Emperor and Vader get stranded on a planet that yearns to be free of Imperial rule. This book's anti-Emperor protagonist is the daddy to Hera, the green girl above and in the Star Wars REBELS cartoon. It seems like everything is a prequel these days. Oh well. It's a fun story of Vader slaughtering things and the Emperor being all manipulative, but of Vader.

"Star Wars Episode II: Attack of the Clones" - Film critic and controversial prequel fan Mike Klimo joins Antony to explain his unorthodox Ring Theory, and how he believes it proves “Episode II: Attack of the Clones” is unjustly maligned. It’s kind of intense. Host Antony Johnston with Mike Klimo.

The combined age of the two fighters in this coming weekend's headlining bout on Spike, courtesy of Premier Boxing Champions, is 85. Antonio Tarver returns for the first time since defeating Jonathon Banks and faces Steve Cunningham. It may even wind up strangely competitive. In the co-feature(s), Marco Huck and Artur Szpilka are showcased, so at least we could get some fun ones. Depending on where you reside, the biggest news of the weekend might be Lucian Bute's return against Andrea di Luisa on NBC Sports. The Bell Centre in Montreal is bound to be packed and cheering Bute wildly. There's a matter of the HBO Latino card that featured Dmitry Mikhaylenko, Manuel Avila and Tevin Farmer and happened to be fun, but also news, such as a likely Andre Berto vs Khabib Allakhverdiev bout, the announcement of woeful opponents for Peter Quillin and Adonis Stevenson, and the finalizing of Floyd Mayweather vs Andre Berto -- the ultra, super, megafight that nobody seems to want. Joining James Foley of Bad Left Hook and The Fight City's Patrick Connor this week is writer, co-host of of the Ring Theory podcast and author William Dettloff. Thanks for tuning in!

Well that sucked. Brandon Rios vs Mike Alvarado III was all but guaranteed to be a cracking bout, even if it didn't last long. The last part was true, because the fight was over after just three rounds, but it was all Rios, all day. There seem to be more questions about Alvarado in the wake of the bout than anything else, and rightfully so. This week on TQBR Radio, James Foley of Bad Left Hook and The Queensberry Rules' Patrick Connor welcome back Eric Raskin, ESPN and Grantland contributor, and co-host of the Ring Theory podcast. With a predictable early year gap coming in the boxing schedule, it leaves us open to talk Raskin's article about James "Buster" Douglas vs. Mike Tyson in Playboy, recent structural issues in the sport, and more. Thanks for tuning in! (Photos: Chris Farina/Top Rank, HBO Boxing)

Eric Raskin ("The Moneymaker Effect", All In Magazine, Grantland, HBO Boxing, Ring Theory) joins the show. We discuss how the year 2003 changed poker forever. We then wrap up with the highs and lows of the year in boxing.

Every once in a while, we as boxing fans are reminded that "that's why they get in there and actually fight." Sometimes match ups sound absurd or likely one-sided, and because of that we lose sight of the old, throw away phrase that, in boxing, "anything is possible." This past weekend, Miguel Cotto usurped the middleweight throne with no fistic regrets, grinding Sergio Martinez to dust, and making approximately 3/4 of the boxing community look stupid in the meantime. What does it mean? Was Sergio Martinez shot? Was Miguel Cotto underrated? Has anyone ever actually beaten Tetris? What was in Marsellus Wallace's suitcase, damnit??? Bad Left Hook's James Foley and Patrick Connor of Queensberry Rules will attempt to answer at least a few of those questions. This week, the asinine aphrodisiacs are joined by Eric Raskin, boxing contributor to ESPN, HBO and Grantland, and author of The Moneymaker Effect. Also, check out Raskin's podcast with William Dettloff, Ring Theory. Also on the menu, a preview of Ruslan Provodnikov vs Chris Algieri. Thanks for tuning in!

And just like that, two underrated weekends in a row pass through the pugilistic hourglass. There was more sustained action last weekend, but the shock of seeing Abner Mares destroyed in under a round by veteran Jhonny Gonzalez is still fresh, and the embers from the fire Leo Santa Cruz lit in stopping Victor Terrazas are still giving off heat. James Foley of BadLeftHook.com and Patrick Connor of Queensberry-Rules.com will recap all of that in style, as well as preview Seth Mitchell vs. Chris Arreola and Ricky Burns vs. Raymundo Beltran. And this week, joining the show is author, boxing writer and co-host of the Ring Theory podcast William Dettloff. Thanks for tuning in!

As boxing continues on its roll, so does Queensberry Rules Radio. Another week of pugilism means James Foley of BadLeftHook.com and Patrick Connor of Queensberry-Rules.com return to try and make sense of things. This week, TQBR Radio recaps Mikey Garcia's TKO victory over Juan Manuel Lopez, Terence Crawford's TKO over Alejandro Sanabria, the NBC Sports card, Friday Night Fights, and more. Also included is a preview of Paul Malignaggi vs Adrien Broner, Jonathon Banks vs Seth Mitchell II and much more. Joining the show this week is Eric Raskin of Grantland.com, ESPN.com and Ring Theory podcast. Thanks for tuning in!

Given the 50 year low in marriage rates and the pronounced affects on family outcomes, we'll explore the phenomena and discuss the drivers behind what makes men want to commit with Dr. Alduan Tartt, author and noted psychologist. Learn 1)how to flirt to attract MARRIAGE MINDED MEN 2) how to distinguish Mr. RIGHT from Mr. I-say-all-the-right-things 3) How to know what your man is thinking 4) How to get over INSECURITIES 5) How to communicate w/o running him off 6) how to make him WANT to commit 7) how to get him to only notice you 8) how to deal with his meddlesome family