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Send us a textMany women who struggle with people-pleasing often blame themselves, but these habits are usually rooted in deeper issues that are beyond our control. There can be various underlying causes, but in this episode, I share how my personal experiences with bullying have influenced my people-pleasing tendencies. If recalling your own experiences of being bullied brings up strong emotions--it's okay to skip this episode if it feels too tender. But if you're ready, I invite you to explore how these early wounds may have influenced your people-pleasing—and how healing starts with self-compassion, not self-criticism. Here's what I cover:An overview of the four nervous system responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawnA deep dive into the “fawn” nervous system response and how it connects bullying to people-pleasingHow bullying-related shame impacts our sense of worthinessA visualization exercise that uses arts work to help you heal your inner childWhy being attuned to others' needs might actually be a trauma responseA compassionate question to ask yourself that will reveal the beliefs you formed about safety and belongingDr. Ramani Clip: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DHL5jFLMbE2/?hl=en Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Why do smart, caring kids get stuck in harmful digital habits—and why do even the best parenting strategies sometimes fall flat? In this compelling conversation, Melanie Hempe sits down with psychologist and author Dr. Richard Freed to discuss his groundbreaking new book and the manipulative force shaping youth culture today: Persuasive Design.Dr. Freed explains how powerful tech companies use behavioral science to keep kids scrolling, gaming, and glued to screens—often at the expense of their mental health, relationships, and futures. They dive into the research behind screen addiction, the myth of “safe” screen time, and the science that parents must understand to protect their kids.You'll walk away from this episode informed, empowered, and equipped with practical steps to reclaim your child's attention—and your family's connection.In This Episode:What persuasive design is—and how it targets your childWhy traditional parenting advice often fails in the digital ageThe role of Silicon Valley psychologists in youth screen addictionReal-life solutions for pushing back against Big Tech's influenceWhy family connection is the antidote to persuasive techThis is a conversation every parent needs to hear.Support the showDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review if you enjoy the episode. Your feedback helps us bring you more of the content you love. Stay Strong! Get your copy of the BRAND NEW KBS Home Edition! Start your ScreenStrong Journey today! Become a Connect Member to get access to our exclusive online forum, the 30-Day ScreenStrong Challenge, LIVE webinars with medical experts, and the entire ScreenStrong library of videos, audio clips, interviews, e-books, handouts, and more! Want to help spread the ScreenStrong message to your community? Consider becoming a ScreenStrong Ambassador! ScreenStrong Tech Recommendations Gabb Wireless—Smartphone Replacement (use code STRONG for discount) Canopy—Device Filter (use code STRONG for discount) Production Team: Host: Melanie Hempe Producer & Audio Editor: Olivia Kernekin

What do bad mornings, clingy birthday parties, fighting playdates and candy on the way home from school all have in common?Instead of doubling down to invite the meltdown or giving in to avoid it… there's a better way!These are all situations where you, as the parent, can intentionally indulge.  Tune in to learn how. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:Ways to shift from being reactive to proactive, getting one step ahead of your childWhy “intentionally indulging” works so wellHow to compromise to get more cooperation in the long runDON'T MISS:A practical way to help your “slow to warm up” child be successful at a chaotic birthday party // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Follow me on TikTok for “Advice Column Answers” - @‌thatparentcoach // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

The Kiln School – Application for Comprehensive Supervision and Training ProgramHow can we stop treating our clients like our parents? As therapists, we often share the experience of having been a parentified child, and this shared background fundamentally shapes the way we practice therapy, creating a unique bond and understanding among us.The relational patterns we developed as children, regardless of our current relationship with our parents, deeply influence how we manage our relationships with our clients. Recognizing and addressing these patterns is crucial, as repeating them without awareness can lead to disengagement, burnout, and even leaving the field entirely. So, how can we shift our approach from treating our clients as we would our parents to treating them as independent adults?Our journey towards treating our clients as independent adults begins with acknowledging our childhood patterns and the wounds we still carry. This self-awareness is not only a path to personal growth but also a key to improving our professional practice. Listen to the full episode to hear:How the relational programming we received in childhood can keep us and our clients stuckHow successful therapy actually replicates the foundational grief of the parentified childWhy your relationships with both your favorite and your most challenging clients might be where these relational patterns lurk the mostWhy we have to accept reciprocity and mutual gratification beyond collecting your fee in client relationshipsWhy you have to stop coddling your clients and treat them like the capable, strong adults they areWhy repressing your own emotional reactions to your clients isn't helping them or youLearn more about Riva Stoudt:Into the Woods CounselingThe Kiln SchoolInstagram: @atherapistcantsaythatResources:The Analyst's Vulnerability: Impact on Theory and Practice, Dr. Karen MarodaSeason 3 Ep 5: From Childhood Wounds to Therapeutic Wisdom with Dr. Karen MarodaSeason 2 Ep 9: Immediacy in Therapy: Breaking the Fourth Wall with Dr. K Hixson

Jennifer Brand, MPH, MS, CNS, LDN teaches parents how to sift through all the probiotic options out there to find the best one for their child“Choosing the right probiotic for your child can be like throwing darts in the dark. The professional grade products, even the best ones out there, may not be the right one for your child.” - Jennifer BrandYou'll discover:When to introduce a probioticShould you stay on a probiotic long-term?How to use a probiotic topicallyWhy the best probiotic on the market may not be the right one for your childWhy what's happening in the gut determines which probiotic to useWhat to do if your child has high levels of histamine-producing bacteria in their gutWhen spore-based probiotics are better than multi-strain bacterial probioticsThe probiotic Jennifer uses most often in her practiceWhy the histamine from good quality, reputable probiotics can be a problemWhy high levels of good gut bacteria can also be a problemWhy spore-based probiotics can be very helpfulThe probiotic you can mix with a moisturizer and apply to the rashes on the skinConsidering the pH of the skin when choosing skin productsJennifer's favorite natural topicalsWhy natural isn't always betterWhat to do when every remedy you try seems to irritate the skin Listen now and stay wise!Connect with Jennifer:InstagramWebsiteProbiotic GuideDitch the Itch GuideConnect with your host Josh Dodds:Website: www.thecalnut.comInstagram: @josh__doddsThis podcast is proudly produced in partnership with www.podlad.com

EP 89 - Libby Steggles-Ginn: Be Brave Enough To Be YouIt seems so many adults have issues with managing their emotions. Why is it that? Of all the things that we are not taught to do when we are kids, this might possibly be the most disruptive to us when we reach the later stages in life.Libby Steggles-Ginn is a mother, a wife, and a businesswoman on a mission to help families to thrive and create the next generation of emotionally healthy, empowered, and happy children.With a passion in life for helping parents to raise confident, resilient, and happy kids, developing the brand and program of “The Emoji Coach” was a dream come true for Libby, and she is looking forward to taking this worldwide to help as many parents, children/teens and families as she can. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: Libby uses emojis to help kids identify how they're feeling without having to express themselves using words which can be difficult for children.Why sometimes it's more effective for the children when Libby works with the parents instead of directly with the childWhy the use of emojis and emoji charts help open dialogue for children who hesitate to communicateHow giving your teenagers the space they need to express themselves can help with parents who are butting heads with their childWhy working through emotions stored in the body from childhood helped Libby eliminate her issues with chronic painWhy do you need to give your kids space to fail for them to find themselvesHow Libby went from being a mobile hairdresser to a family coachFAVORITE QUOTE: “I really help parents to connect with their innate wisdom.”  Libby Steggles-Ginn CONNECT WITH LIBBY: TheEmojiCoach.com HOW TO GET INVOLVED: Lori Jewett Unscripted is a podcast that uncovers the transformative power of unearthing your inner superpowers.  We're here to explore the incredible benefits that come from digging deep within ourselves.  Uncover hidden strengths and untapped abilities that lie within each and every one of us.  Whether you're seeking personal growth or looking to make a lasting impact on the world, this podcast is your guide to unleashing your inner superhero.  Be sure to catch this and other profound episodes of Lori Jewett Unscripted in Apple Podcasts.

Anna is a landscape photographer originally from the UK and now living in British Columbia. She shared how her background as a veterinarian and interest in ecological conservation has played a big role in influencing how she sees the natural world and creates her images. We also speak about the importance of slowing down, how we can invite questions through the photos create and how photography has helped her discover who she is.Topics CoveredJourney into photography Her love for artWorking as a veterinarian Bringing ecological concepts into her imagery Being self-reflection into her image creation Her interest in conservation Having a connection to nature as a childWhy landscape photography speaks to her more than wildlife Seeing the full ecological pictureScotland's landscape and Peter CairnsScotland's ecology compared to Canada's ecology How photography helps us tell our storiesInviting questions though our photography The role mindfulness plays in her photography Slowing down being present to create her imagesLetting go and enjoying the moment Observing what's going on around us Connecting in the moment without expectations “Photography is the vehicle into the journey of being”Getting to know yourself How photography has helped her discover who she is How our childhood experiences and society shapes our outlook How moving from London to British Columbia affected her photography How our life experiences feed back into our photography Connect with Anna:Website: https://www.annamorgan.ca/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annamorganphotographer---Website: https://www.photographicconnections.com/Join the Photographic Connections community:https://photographic-connections.mn.co/Immersive Photography Weekend Dates:https://www.photographicconnections.com/photographyweekendsFollow the journeyInstagram: http:/www.instagram.com/photographicconnectionsFollow Kim's photography journey and offeringsWebsite: http://www.kimgrantphotography.co.ukYouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@kimgrantphotographyInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/kimgrantphotographyMusic by Mark RobinsonSong: A Thousand LifetimesWebsite: http:/www.markrobinsonmusic.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MarkRobinsonMusic

Have you ever felt lost, disconnected, or simply out of sync? Our special guest, intuitive healer Cara Faith, takes us on her journey of self-discovery and spiritual growth. She speaks about nurturing the inner child, clearing emotional blocks and how she came to embrace her true self. Revealing her deeply personal fear of feeling lost, she shares the magical serendipity of a book that guided her towards her purpose. Cara's heartwarming journey is a testament to the power of emotions and their role in physical and emotional healing. She emphasizes the power of taking time for self-connection and outlines the significance of being present in our emotions. Cara discusses her transformative medicine ritual, an ancient shamanic practice that celebrates the self and heals the inner child. This episode promises to be a resource for anyone on a journey of self-discovery, inner child nurturing and spiritual growth.Supporting you through all of life's obstacles and challenges is The Soul Quake Survival Guide: Reviving Your Connection to Spirit in Earth-Shaking Times.Purchase Teresa's Book at:AMAZON: https://amzn.to/3Nv4ygXBARNES & NOBLE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-soul-quake-survival-guide-teresa-shantz/1143729058?ean=9798988347200 Listen in as Cara discusses:How connecting with her dead twin brother from the womb helped her connect with her inner childWhy we all need to nurture our inner child  How spirit guides and insight led her to switch careers from a personal trainer to an intuitive healer Connect with Cara Faith:Website = www.carafaithintuitive.com Facebook = https://www.facebook.com/spiritspeaksintuitiveInstagram = https://www.instagram.com/spiritspeaksintuitive/Episode Transcript Link = https://drive.google.com/file/d/1p00NZFSh8EVhONtyUw8Supporting you through all of life's obstacles and challenges is The Soul Quake Survival Guide: Reviving Your Connection to Spirit in Earth-Shaking Times. Medicinal Foods These are some of the highest quality, tastiest superfoods on Earth, and super awesome support to keep your body rocking with enthusiasm all year long.Support the showHi! I'm Teresa. I am a highly trained, certified Spiritual Educator and Consultant who helps people in their personal and spiritual development. My husband Tom and I started TNT SpiritWorks a few years back to do just that- help people along their spiritual journey. We love working with clients – helping them to tap into their inner guidance system on a daily basis, create a healthy balance between thought and feeling – and discover a stronger connection between their inner and outer communication system. Unlock ways to make the spiritual part of life practical. Connect with us at TNT SpiritWorks today! Connect with us!

We are returning to our series on the eligibility categories with four brief episodes on the categories that can be summarized within the law as “low incidence disabilities.” This section of the IDEA (Individuals with Disabilities Education Act) is an umbrella of four sub-categories, so let's take a closer look at low incidence deaf-blindness in today's episode.Show Highlights:Why the deaf-blindness category is for students with both severe hearing and vision loss who need additional services other than standard IEP servicesWhy these impairments require highly specialized training, services, and IEP personnelWhy individual education programs are necessary to meet the unique needs of each childWhy there is no excuse and no exceptions for schools not to have access to the personnel to provide these highly specialized servicesLinks/Resources:Learn more about Peggy and Tamara's book and get your copy! www.navigatingspecialeducation.com Connect with Peggy: WebsiteConnect with Tamara: WebsiteContact us on social media or through our website for more information on the IEP Learning Center, and send us your questions for Nadia Bennett for a future episode: www.inclusiveeducationproject.org Thank you for listening! Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to the show to receive every new episode delivered straight to your podcast player every Tuesday.If you enjoyed this episode and believe in our message, then please help us get the word out about this podcast. Rate and Review this show on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher Radio, or Google Play. It helps other listeners find this show.Be sure to connect with us and reach out with any questions/concerns:FacebookInstagram–We are doing videos on Instagram, so connect with us there and send us your questions!TwitterIEP websiteEmail us: admin@iepcalifornia.org

In this episode of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, I'm bringing back a previous guest, executive functioning coach Seth Perler, for a two-part series in which Seth shares with us the exact approach he uses with students he works with when helping them foster their fledgling executive functioning skills. I first had Seth on the show last fall, where he gave us an introduction to executive functioning, but we didn't get to the more practical strategies that I know so many of us are looking for. So I asked Seth to come back on, and that conversation turned into an hour-and-a-half long sharing by Seth of truly valuable tips and strategies and insights. Because Seth shares so very much over the course of these ninety or so minutes, I wanted to split our conversation into two parts. So this episode is part one of what I'm now referring to as a “Masterclass in Executive Functioning.” In this episode, Seth shares with us his protocol for setting up a child for success in their developing executive functioning skills. In part 2 next week, Seth will go in-depth into his specific strategies surrounding building these skills in school and in life.  Seth Perler is a renegade teacher turned Executive Function Coach/Education Coach who is based in Santa Monica, CA and Boulder, CO. He helps struggling students navigate a crazy educational landscape and does his part to “disrupt” and improve education. Seth specializes in Executive Function and 2e. Find out more at sethperler.com.THINGS YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:Seth's definition of executive functioning framed so it helps people apply the principles to help kidsA step-by-step breakdown of exactly how Seth works with familiesWhy our relationship with our child is the number one thing to be preserved when doing this workThe importance of parents doing their own personal work / self-care during this processWhy kids “can't do what we're asking them to do because they can't, not because they won't,” so we need to back up and scaffold from where they're atThe role of mindfulness, mindset, and motivationWhy symptoms are more important than labelsWhy it's critical to understand the role of emotional regulation in executive functioningHow we as parents can co-regulate our emotions with our childWhy we want to focus on 3 positives for every 1 negative RESOURCES MENTIONED:Seth Perler's websiteA Conversation with Executive Functioning Coach Seth Perler (original podcast episode)Seth's Executive Functioning AssessmentDr. Gail Saltz Talks About the Power of Different (podcast episode)Carol Dweck and MindsetSupport the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

Ep. 24 – Olivia, Age 13: Fake friends versus real friends | Some friendships have limits Olivia wants to know how to recognize a fake friendship.Scroll down for discussion questions, a transcript, and how to submit your child's question.Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at EileenKennedyMoore.com. Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get episodes sent to your email plus Q&A posts for parents.SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTICAdults, please use your smartphone's memo function or an audio app to record your child's question. Hold the phone close to your child's mouth to make sure the recording is clear. Have your child state:1) their FIRST NAME (or another name),2) their AGE, and3) a BRIEF QUESTION or concern about friendship. (Please do not include any friends' names.)Submit the question at DrFriendtastic.com/podcast or email it to DrF@EileenKennedyMoore.com. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it's not for emergency situations.)THINK ABOUT IT QUESTIONS to discuss with your childWhy do you think kids sometimes pretend to like someone when they don't?Think of a time when a friend made a mistake that hurt or upset you. How did you handle it? How would you want a friend to respond if you made a mistake?How is a limited friendship different from a fake friendship? Do you think it's possible to like someone and enjoy their company if you only have a limited friendship? Why or why not?Why does Dr. Friendtastic suggest lowering your expectations in a limited friendship? What do you think that means? How might that help the friendship? How might lower expectations help you?What do you think are the essential ingredients of all friendships, whether they're very close or more limited? (In other words, what are the basic expectations for a friendship that you should never lower?)How could mind-reading hurt a friendship? What might happen if you guess wrong about what someone else is thinking or trying to do?TRANSCRIPTWelcome! I'm Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, also known as Dr. Friendtastic. I'm an author and clinical psychologist based in Princeton, NJ.Before we get to today's question, I want to share some exciting news: My new book just came out! It's called Growing Feelings: A Kids' Guide to Dealing with Emotions about Friends and Other Kids. It's a sequel to my book Growing Friendships: A Kids' Guide to Making and Keeping Friends. These funny and useful books are available through your library or wherever you buy books.OK, here's today's question:My name's Olivia, and I'm 13 years old, and I want to know, um what are the signs of knowing that you're in a fake friendship?Hi, Olivia. That's a very interesting question! First, we have to talk about what it means to be a “fake” friend. To me, that's someone who acts friendly toward us but is unkind at other times and doesn't genuinely care about us. So they're not really a friend.Some examples of a fake friend might be someone who only acts friendly when they want something from us, or someone who's nice to our face but blabs our secrets or says nasty things about us when we're not around, or–here's a tricky one–someone who's kind when we're struggling but withdraws when things are going well for us because they feel jealous or threatened, which means they don't really wish us well.The word “fake” implies that they're trying to trick us. Be careful there–that's mind-reading! Mind-reading means assuming we know what someone else is thinking. But we can't know for sure what's going on in someone else's mind unless they tell us. What we imagine they're thinking is only a guess, and it could be wrong. It's important to remember that. Your question makes me think that maybe something happened between you and a friend that made you doubt whether that friend really cares about you. Now, maybe they're a fake friend, and they were trying to trick you, but there are other possibilities.Maybe they care about you, but they made a mistake. That happens. None of us is perfect. Maybe your friend was upset and said or did something not-so-kind in the heat of the moment. Maybe they didn't realize whatever it was would bother you. Maybe they just did something–without even thinking–that ended up hurting you, but they didn't mean to. If that friend is usually kind, you may want to try talking things out. Listen to the friend's perspective and also explain what bothered you and what you'd like them to do differently from now on. Another possibility is that this isn't a fake friendship; it's a limited friendship. A limited friendship involves someone whose company you sometimes enjoy but not someone who you can count on no matter what. Not every friend is going to be a soul mate, and that's okay. In limited friendships, kids like each other, but maybe they don't know or like each other as much as they like other people, so there are limits on what they'll do for each other. If you think this might be a limited friendship, then you might need to lower your expectations. Maybe someday the friendship will grow into a close friendship, but in the meantime, don't expect this casual friend to act the same as a close friend. Try to figure out what you can or can't count on from this friend. Also, think about what you can give this friend without feeling used or resentful. For instance, maybe this is someone who you can enjoy chatting with at the bus stop but not someone you can trust with your secrets. Or maybe you'll have fun hanging out with this friend when you're together as part of a group but you're not close enough to invite this friend for a sleepover. Friendships are complicated, and they can change over time. You can have and enjoy lots of different kinds of friends, but the essential ingredients of any good friendship are caring about each other and enjoying being together. This has been Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic. If you have a question about making and keeping friends that you'd like me to answer, go to DrFriendtastic.com, and click on the podcast tab to see how to submit your question. Get full access to Dr. Friendtastic for Parents at drfriendtastic.substack.com/subscribe

We have all heard and experienced how different school is now from when we were kids. It's a whole different world. And while I could easily be referring to school policies and the way that kids are taught math - I'm not. I'm referring to the social universe and obstacle course that kids navigate day in and day out. And one of the hardest things about that change is that it doesn't really end when the bell rings. It continues on social media and smartphones. Kids don't really get a natural break from it. They need your help to find balance, but also to help them navigate a world that you didn't ever really know.Today we're talking to a teacher named Flint about what kids are really facing in schools, how to support them while they're trying to get their education, and how to communicate with teachers to help them understand the unique needs of your student.  Flint is an English teacher in Southern California. They are white, use they/them pronouns, are vegan, married to an artist, and are nonbinary. They are the kind of person who really goes out of their way to make sure that students, colleagues, and friends are valued and appreciated.  They play and coach roller derby, and have cultivated a large social media following on multiple platforms simply by sharing their genuine and authentic experiences as a trans teacher. Check out the full episode to hear about:Why parents need to let their kids shove them out of their boxesTips for keeping your kid from shutting down in conversationHow leading with curiosity improves your relationships and makes you a better advocate for your childWhy parents and teachers need to do their own work to educate themselves on LGBTQIA+ issuesFind out more about Flint:Instagram: @justflintisfineTikTok: @justflintisfineTwo Trans Teachers PodcastFind out more about Mackenzie Dunham:Wildheartsociety.orgwildheartsociety.org/downloadsWild Heart Society on FacebookWild Heart Society on Instagram

Ep. 15 – Evie, Age 9: What is a close friend? | Valuing close friends and other friendsEvie wonders how to tell if she has a close friend.Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at EileenKennedyMoore.com. Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get episodes sent to your email plus Q&A posts for parents. Scroll down for discussion questions and a transcript.SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTICAdults, please use your smartphone's memo function or an audio app to record your child's question. Hold the phone close to your child's mouth to make sure the recording is clear. Have your child state:1) their FIRST NAME (or another name),2) their AGE, and3) a BRIEF QUESTION or concern about friendship. (Please do not include any friends' names.)Submit the question at DrFriendtastic.com/podcast or email it to DrF@EileenKennedyMoore.com. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it's not for emergency situations.)THINK ABOUT IT QUESTIONS to discuss with your childWhy do you think it's important to enjoy casual friends as well as close friends?Can you think of someone who is not a close friend but still makes your life more enjoyable? Who is that, and how do they add to your life?Can you think of someone who started out as a casual friend and became a close friend of yours over time? How did that happen? How about the reverse? Have you ever known someone who used to be a close friend of yours and then you grew apart? What happened?What do you think Dr. Friendtastic meant when she said, “The best way to get closeness is to give it”?TRANSCRIPTHi! I'm Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, also known as Dr. Friendtastic. I'm an author and clinical psychologist based in Princeton, NJ.Here's today's question:I'm Evie. I'm 9, and my question is: How do you know if you're close with someone or not?Hi, Evie! Thanks for sending in your question. It raises a very interesting topic, which is: What do we mean by closeness in a friendship?When I think about closeness, or intimacy, I think about being “special” to another person. I think about sharing our private thoughts and feelings, and having a sense of being understood, cared for, appreciated, and even loved.  In our most intimate friendships, we can feel like we have a soul mate. We only get about three of those in our whole lives, and I'm completely making up that number. But my point is, that kind of deep intimacy is rare. That's what makes it special.If you think about friendships on a staircase of increasing intimacy, a soulmate would be at the top of the staircase. At the bottom of the staircase, the first step might be a bus stop friend. This could be someone who you see regularly and say hi to. You might chat a bit, but you don't know each other that well. A step or two above that might be a math class friend. This could be someone you like and sit next to and even help each other with homework sometimes. A few steps above that might be a soccer-team friend. This could be someone you enjoy playing with and you cheer each other on, celebrating the victories together and comforting each other when the game doesn't go well. You have that connection from running and sweating together and pursuing your shared goals of improving your skills and winning as a team.And so on. And so on. There are so many different kinds of friends! And they can all be good!Each level of the friendship intimacy staircase matters because these friends enrich our lives. Math class is easier and more fun if we have a buddy to share it with! Maybe those friendships on the lower steps will deepen over time, as you share more and get to know each other better, or maybe they'll stay right where they are. And that's absolutely fine. We can enjoy and appreciate all levels of friendship closeness, whether or not we happen to have a soulmate at that time.So, back to your question: How do you know if you're close with someone or not? I wouldn't think of it as an either/or: Either I'm close to that person, or I'm not. Instead, focus on the ways you are or would like to be close to someone. What do you like to do together? What do you know about each other? How do you show each other you care?And remember, the best way to get closeness is to give it.This has been Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic. If you have a question about making and keeping friends that you'd like me to answer, go to DrFriendtastic.com, and click on the podcast tab to see how to submit your question. Get full access to Dr. Friendtastic for Parents at drfriendtastic.substack.com/subscribe

“The diminishing role of Art in young children's lives”Did you know that Steve Jobs never let his kids use an iPad? MRIs shows screen time is linked to lower brain development.Tracy Cheney is a strong advocate for the importance of elementary art education for over three decades. She aims for total engagement of the heart, mind, and body. Through art, Tracy practices a key 21st century education tenet: Provide ample opportunities for students to make original, creative choices. Tracy produced an award-winning public radio show on educational issues called 'Making the Grade'. She is the author and illustrator of numerous books and articles, participated in numerous art shows, and created artwork on display in public and private spaces. The California Art Education Association named her Outstanding Elementary Visual Art Educator for 2013. She was a 2015 nominee for Teacher of the Year, Encino Chamber of Commerce, and received an Exemplary Visual Arts Program Award for Use of Gifted and Talented, Integration, and Sequential Programming in 2015.  Tracy's passion is to find and unlock the creative thinking within every student while developing their skills to work with the visual language. Key Points and Time-Stamps:00:02:15 - Why crayons determine success in school 00:02:39 - How to monitor screen time for small children00:03:42 - Drawing and your child's communication skills.00:04:13 - How screen time negatively affects babies' development00:06:44 - How Art helps develop kids' fine motor skills00:09:27 - The impact of the decline of cursive. Handwriting vs. typing00:10:11 - Why Art is important for future careers00:11:03 - Why coding is replacing Art programs in kindergarten00:12:14 - How Art programs affect children's reading00:15:43 - How a child's learning evolves from scribbling00:17:23 - Why parents need to get their children to draw00:19:05 - How blocks demonstrate boys' spatial intelligence00:21:30 - The impact of video games in problem-solving skills 00:23:44 - Should creativity be graded?00:29:42 - Why children should be encouraged to scribble and be creative00:38:12 - How crayons prepare children for writing sentences00:40:18 - What to look for at each developmental stage of a childWhy you should listen: How scribbling will get your child into Harvard How to manage time children spend on electronic devices The many benefits of Art programs in a child's development Kindly subscribe to our podcast for notifications on future episodes.Connect with Tracy:Website: https://www.tracycheney.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-cheney-241a673/Additional Resources:"How To Teach Kids Beyond The Pandemic" w/ Tammy HaddadConnect with me:LinkedInFacebookInstagramLeave a rating and a review:iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/effects-of-technology-on-child-development-w-tracy-cheney/id1614151066?i=1000610400383Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2sgsMfKnj2Lo0tQA5JZMRCYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=naot-WXGo_Y

Ep. 13 – Mara, Age 9: Friend doesn't want her to have other friends. | Dealing with an Octopus Friend________Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at EileenKennedyMoore.com. Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get episodes sent to your email plus posts for parents. Scroll down for discussion questions and a transcript.SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTICAdults, please use your smartphone's memo function or an audio app to record your child's question. Hold the phone close to your child's mouth to make sure the recording is clear. Have your child state:1) their FIRST NAME,2) their AGE, and3) a BRIEF QUESTION or concern about friendship. (Please do not include any friends' names.)Submit the question at DrFriendtastic.com/podcast or email it to DrF@EileenKennedyMoore.com. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it's not for emergency situations.)THINK ABOUT IT QUESTIONS to discuss with your childWhy do you think it's important to speak up if you hear someone say something mean about your friend? What would you do if you heard someone say something mean about a kid you don't know well? What would you do if the mean comments were about a kid you know but don't like?What, if anything, have you learned at school about race and racism? What have you learned about those topics from adult family members?Do you think it matters whether someone said a racist comment on purpose, trying to be hurtful, versus saying it without realizing the comment is hurtful? Why or why not?How do you know when it's important to talk to an adult about mean or racist comments versus handling the situation yourself?TRANSCRIPTWelcome, I'm Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, also known as Dr. Friendtastic. I'm an author and clinical psychologist based in Princeton, NJ.Let's listen to today's question:Hi, my name is Mara, I'm 9 years old, and my question is: What do we do when a friend wants to keep me all to themselves? Thank you Hi, Mara, that's a very important question. Thanks for sending it in! Your friend is being what I call an “Octopus Friend.” She's squeezing you so tightly that it makes you want to get away. Now, we always want to try to imagine things from the other person's point of view because that helps us to make wise and kind choices. Why do you think your friend wants to keep you all to herself? My guess is that she's scared of losing you as a friend. Maybe it's hard for her to make friends, and she really doesn't have other options of people to play with. That would make the idea of losing you very scary to her. She doesn't want to be all alone. I can understand that!Maybe there've been some changes in your relationship that make her feel less confident about your friendship.Maybe the two of you are doing different activities, so you have less in common, or you've been extra busy, so you haven't spent as much time together as you used to. Maybe you've made some new friends, and she's feeling sad and left behind.Here's something that happens often in friendships: people sometimes do things, because they're scared, that bring about exactly what they're scared of. So, in this case, your friend is probably sensing that you want to move away from her, so she clings more tightly to you, but that makes you want to move away more, which makes her want to cling more, and so on.So, what should you do? It might be tempting to yell at her and say, “Go away! You're annoying! Leave me alone!” It's understandable that you would want space if your friend is clinging tightly, but expressing your feelings in that way would be very hurtful. Assuming you still want to be friends with her–just not squished by her–one option could be to include her when you play with other kids. That lets you build your other friendships without hurting her. It also might make your friend feel like she has more friends, which could make her less scared about losing you.Another possibility is to talk to your friend and tell her how much you like her AND that you sometimes want to do things with other kids. If you do this, be gentle and thoughtful. Think about how you'd want to be treated in her situation, and try not to leave her stuck all by herself. You could say, “I really like you, and our friendship means a lot to me, but sometimes I want to play soccer at recess, and I know you don't like soccer. How about if on Tuesdays, I play soccer and you play four-square, which I don't like, and we play together on the other days?” If you go with some kind of splitting your time option, be sure to be extra kind, fun, and friendly when you're together with this friend, so she knows you really do like her.Still another possibility is to focus on your other friendships when she's not around. At recess, when everyone is together, it makes sense that your friend would feel hurt if you say, “I don't want to play with you; I want to play with them!” But on the weekends or after school, you could easily get together with other kids without that being an in-your-face rejection of your friend.This has been Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic. If you have a question about making and keeping friends that you'd like me to answer, go to DrFriendtastic.com, and click on the podcast tab to see how to submit your question. Get full access to Dr. Friendtastic for Parents at drfriendtastic.substack.com/subscribe

Today's guest is New York Times bestselling author and clinical psychologist, Dr. Shefali. She's an expert in family dynamics and personal development and teaches courses around the world. She's written a multitude of books, including The Conscious Parent, The Awakened Family, and her newest book, The Parenting Map, with step-by-step solutions to consciously create the ultimate parent-child relationship. Dr. Shefali offers a profoundly practical and groundbreaking parenting solution that helps parents actualize their deepest desires for their children. This step-by-step guide disrupts toxic inherited patterns and replaces them with authentic connections that allow us to see and respond to our children for who they are, and who they can become. The book is a minimalist approach to parenting, which is truly getting to the basics, knowing they are good enough, and actually more important than all the other things that we've built up to be important milestones for our children. Focusing on healing ourselves, letting go of control, and allowing for the playful, fun of childhood will lead to the most resilient adults. In this conversation, Dr. Shefali opens my eyes to the incredible opportunity in ditching the rules and need for control. Thank you to Dr. Shefali for spreading this message to parents that doing a good job doesn't mean being perfect, it really just means getting the basics right. I took lots of notes during this conversation, and I know other parents out there will get a lot of value from it as well. I'm so excited to welcome Dr. Shefali to the show!We also cover…00:04:00 — The Key Principles for Conscious ParentingWhat's different about her latest book, The Parenting MapReviewing the 3 stages of conscious parenting - 1. Frustration to Clarity, 2. From Dysfunctional Patterns to Conscious Choice, 3. From Conflict to ConnectionWhy we don't need to have total control over our childrenChanging our expectations of our children to create less frustrationWhat rules matter versus what rules are arbitraryThe thing that will negatively impact a child many parents unintentionally do00:18:00 — Breaking the Cycle: Inner Child Work & ReparentingHow the ego plays a huge role in parentingSomething a conscious parent wouldn't sayThe 5 main ego patterns: breaking patterns from childhood Where to start doing inner child workWhat reparenting can look likeHow to show up in a conscious way for your child00:29:00 — Tips for Reconnecting with Your Child & Cultivating Creativity in ParentingAdvice for feeling shame around not being a good enough parentWhat showing up better looks likeReframing mistakes to reconnect with a childWhy punishment is the greatest cause of disconnectionThe root cause of what parents find to be disrespectful behaviorInviting creativity into parentingInsight about the disadvantages of screen time Resources:Website: drshefali.comInstagram: @drshefali Institute: Conscious Parenting MethodRead: The Parenting Map by Dr. ShefaliRead:

As humans, we all want to belong. But we have to feel like we are in a safe space to be ourselves to thrive. In this episode of From Survivor to Thriver, we sat down with Lori Sweetman to talk about their journey from not feeling like they fit in and having mental health struggles to now, where they help members of the LGBTQ+ community to feel more empowered when it comes to their gender and sexuality so they can be their authentic selves. Lori Sweetman, a lifelong educator in a public elementary school and, as a non-binary sexually fluid human who bore witness to the impact of minority stress on queer identity development, strives to create affirming and positive environments for LGBTQ+ populations. With a particular interest in how this impacts the community's youth, Lori is currently researching LGBTQ+ identity formation and internalized biases, and how art appreciation, education, and environmental changes can positively influence identity development. Through exploring what creates internalized biases toward the queer community, Lori unpacks environmental and unconscious influences. Today, as director of Include LGBTQ Empowered Life Coaching and Consulting, Lori devotes their life to helping people feel empowered in their gender and sexuality, and thereby confident in living as their authentic self, freely and openly. Lori is married to their wife, Dana, and has two children, two puppies, and three guinea pigs in Great Meadows, NJ.  In today's episode we cover: What internalized bias is Creating a safe space for people to be themselvesLori's journey growing up feeling like they didn't belongWhen they realized they were attracted to women and the impact it had on their marriageThe anxiety and depression that Lori experienced during their relationshipThe benefits of having language and labels to describe yourself Going with the flow when it comes to your childrenThe secret to having a positive impact on your childWhy you don't have to fit into an “absolute role” How Lori helps kids feel safeWe hope you enjoyed our conversation with Lori. If you want to learn more from them, make sure to check out their website here. You can also follow them on Instagram here. Thanks again for tuning in. We are so grateful to each and every one of you. Please remember to leave a rating and review of our show. It helps us grow and reach those who need it. Also, make sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Links: Visit Lori's websiteConnect with Lori on LinkedInFollow Lori on InstagramFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTokGet in touch: amgits.reverse@gmail.comQuotes: “Experimenting can be great, but it can also be bad when you don't feel safe.” -Lori“I wanted to have language to say that I came out of this with something and I know who I am.” -Lori“There's comfort in fitting into a box, but we need to find our box.” -Marc“I don't think anyone fits into what we would call these ‘absolute roles'”. -Erik

Ep. 12 – Adrian, Age 8: Kid bullies him at recess. | Knowing when to get adult help________Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at EileenKennedyMoore.com. Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER drfriendtastic.substack.com to get episodes sent to your email plus posts for parents.Scroll down for discussion questions and a transcript.SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTICAdults, please use your smartphone's memo function or an audio app to record your child's question. Hold the phone close to your child's mouth to make sure the recording is clear. Have your child state:1) their FIRST NAME,2) their AGE, and3) a BRIEF QUESTION or concern about friendship. (Please do not include any friends' names.)Submit the question at DrFriendtastic.com/podcast or email it to DrF@EileenKennedyMoore.com. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it's not for emergency situations.)THINK ABOUT IT QUESTIONS to discuss with your childWhy do you think it's important to speak up if you hear someone say something mean about your friend? What would you do if you heard someone say something mean about a kid you don't know well? What would you do if the mean comments were about a kid you know but don't like?What, if anything, have you learned at school about race and racism? What have you learned about those topics from adult family members?Do you think it matters whether someone said a racist comment on purpose, trying to be hurtful, versus saying it without realizing the comment is hurtful? Why or why not?How do you know when it's important to talk to an adult about mean or racist comments versus handling the situation yourself?TRANSCRIPTHi, there, I'm Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, also known as Dr. Friendtastic. I'm an author and clinical psychologist based in Princeton, NJ.Here's today's question:Hi, my name's Adrian, and I am 8 years old. Every time I go out for recess there is another boy that bullies me. I have asked him to stop, but he doesn't. What should I do? Hi, Adrian. I'm so sorry to hear you're dealing with this. It's upsetting to be picked on by somebody, especially when it happens again and again!One thing that's important to understand is that if you've asked someone to stop two times, and they're still not listening, they're probably not going to stop. That means your goal has to shift from trying to change what he does to trying to take care of yourself. Now, I bet you're thinking, “But what he's doing is wrong! He should stop!” I agree, he should stop doing whatever mean thing he's doing…but he's not. I don't want you to be stuck getting picked on every day, so let's think about what else you can do, given that asking this kid to stop hasn't worked. The first thing you need to figure out is whether what this kid is doing is true bullying or just ordinary meanness. Bullying involves someone being mean, on purpose, to a certain person, usually a bunch of times, but sometimes one especially mean action can count, AND, this is important, there's a power difference between the kid doing the bullying and the kid getting picked on. In other words, the kid doing the bullying is bigger, stronger, tougher, or more socially powerful than the kid getting picked on, or there's a group of kids picking on one kid. Would you say that this boy who's bothering you is more powerful than you? If there's no power difference, then it's not bullying; it's just ordinary meanness. This matters because if it's bullying, the power difference means you probably need to get an adult involved. If you decide to tell a grown-up, you don't have to announce, “I'm telling!” just find a quiet moment to tell an adult in charge what's happening.  But if it's just ordinary meanness, with no power difference, I'm sure you don't like it, but you can probably handle the situation without an adult stepping in. Of course, you can always tell your parents or other adults who love you what's happening. They can help you think things through, but they don't need to step in to fix things for you. You can deal with ordinary meanness.So, what could you do? Well, that's hard to answer without knowing more about what's happening, but one possibility is just to stay away from this kid. You could also decide to hang out near an adult or stay near friends. That makes you less of a target for the kid who's picking on you because he probably won't want to do the mean stuff where others can see.  One thing you definitely don't want to do is be mean back to that kid. It's tempting, I know, to try to get even, but that will just make the meanness grow.This has been Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic. If you have a question about making and keeping friends that you'd like me to answer, go to DrFriendtastic.com, and click on the podcast tab to see how to submit your question. Get full access to Dr. Friendtastic for Parents at drfriendtastic.substack.com/subscribe

Ep. 11 – Violet, Age 8: Kids say mean things about a friend's skin color | Speaking up for a friend________Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at EileenKennedyMoore.com. Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER drfriendtastic.substack.com to get episodes sent to your email plus posts for parents.Scroll down for discussion questions and a transcript.SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTICAdults, please use your smartphone's memo function or an audio app to record your child's question. Hold the phone close to your child's mouth to make sure the recording is clear. Have your child state:1) their FIRST NAME,2) their AGE, and3) a BRIEF QUESTION or concern about friendship. (Please do not include any friends' names.)Submit the question at DrFriendtastic.com/podcast or email it to DrF@EileenKennedyMoore.com. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it's not for emergency situations.)THINK ABOUT IT QUESTIONS to discuss with your childWhy do you think it's important to speak up if you hear someone say something mean about your friend? What would you do if you heard someone say something mean about a kid you don't know well? What would you do if the mean comments were about a kid you know but don't like?What, if anything, have you learned at school about race and racism? What have you learned about those topics from adult family members?Do you think it matters whether someone said a racist comment on purpose, trying to be hurtful, versus saying it without realizing the comment is hurtful? Why or why not?How do you know when it's important to talk to an adult about mean or racist comments versus handling the situation yourself?TRANSCRIPTWelcome, I'm Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, also known as Dr. Friendtastic. I'm an author and clinical psychologist based in Princeton, NJ.Here's today's question:Hi, My name is Violet. I'm 8 years old, and my question is, I have friends with different skin color, why do my other friends bully and tease them?Hi, Violet. Thanks for your question. Racism means treating someone unfairly because of their skin color or background. White kids can often avoid thinking about race, but for kids of color, that's generally not an option.The answer to why some people are mean to others who have a different skin color is complicated. It has to do with racial history, power, unfair laws and policies, ignorance, and people being either unable or unwilling to try to understand someone else's experience or perspective. Kids say mean things about someone's race mostly because they've heard others make those remarks. Some kids try to raise themselves up by putting others down. Some kids think it makes them cool to say things they know they shouldn't. You know neither of those things is right. And some kids don't know any better and don't realize their words are hurtful. Although the causes of racism are complicated, what's not complicated is what to do when you hear someone say mean things about your friend. Whether the mean comments are about race or any other quality or difference, you need to speak up for your friend. If you say or do nothing, that sends the message that you're ok with the mean comments.  Now, how you speak up is going to depend on the situation. If the kids making the mean comments made a mistake and didn't realize their words were hurtful, you can help them learn. Be kind but firm. You might say, “I know you're trying to be funny, but that's a hurtful thing to say. I don't think it's funny at all,” or “That sounds like a put-down. I don't like it when you say things like that about my friend,” or “How would you feel if someone asked you that question?” The idea here is not to call these other friends out, but to call them in and help them understand better what is or isn't okay to say and why. If the kids making the mean comments were trying to be mean, then you need to be more forceful with your words, to stand up for your friend. You could say, “That's not true!” or “Quit saying mean things about my friend!” or even “That's a racist thing to say.” If your friend walks away, go with her, so she knows she has your support. If your friend is just standing there, looking uncomfortable, you could say, “Come on. Let's get out of here. I'll keep you company.” Another kind of speaking up to consider is telling a grown-up what's going on. If the situation is very upsetting for your friend and especially if it keeps happening, getting an adult involved could help. You could offer to go with your friend if she wants to tell, or you could offer to report it yourself. If you do end up speaking up about the mean comments, don't expect your friend to say you're great just for doing what's right. You're not saving her; you're standing by her and supporting her. That's what good friends do. This has been Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic. If you have a question about making and keeping friends that you'd like me to answer, go to DrFriendtastic.com, and click on the podcast tab to see how to submit your question. Get full access to Dr. Friendtastic for Parents at drfriendtastic.substack.com/subscribe

Ep 9 – Ava, age 9: Told she can't play | Friendly actions in public versus private settings.________Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at EileenKennedyMoore.com. Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER drfriendtastic.substack.com to get episodes sent to your email plus posts for parents.Scroll down for discussion questions and a transcript.SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTICAdults, please use your smartphone's memo function or an audio app to record your child's question. Hold the phone close to your child's mouth to make sure the recording is clear. Have your child state:1) their FIRST NAME,2) their AGE, and3) a BRIEF QUESTION or concern about friendship. (Please do not include any friends' names.)Submit the question at DrFriendtastic.com/podcast or email it to DrF@EileenKennedyMoore.com. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it's not for emergency situations.)THINK ABOUT IT QUESTIONS to discuss with your childWhy do you think Ava's friends wanted to play only with each other? Why does Dr. Friendtastic think it matters whether they are in a private or public setting?Have you ever had someone tell you that you couldn't play? What did you do?What do you think of the rule: “You can't say anyone can't play”? Do you think it would help kids be kinder and include others? Why or why not?Are there any situations where you think it's okay not to include someone? What would you do if a kid was being mean or trying to wreck your game?TRANSCRIPTHi, there! I'm Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, also known as Dr. Friendtastic. I'm an author and clinical psychologist based in Princeton, NJ.Let's hear today's question:I'm Ava, and I'm 9. I have two friends in my class who do everything together. Last week, when I tried to join their game at recess, they told me to go play with my other friends. What should I do when this happens?Hi, Ava. Ouch! It never feels good to hear, “We don't want to play with you!”I think it was unkind of the two friends to exclude you at recess! It's true that some people are closer friends than others, but recess is a public setting–meaning there are lots of people around. The time for private playing is in a private setting–like one of their homes. They could have a play date with just the two of them at one of their homes–no harm done, But in a situation where lots of people are around, insisting on being with just one other person doesn't make sense.The problem is, we can't control what other people do. So, the issue we need to figure out is not what they should have done differently. Instead, we need to focus on, what are you going to do in this situation, when two of your friends only want to play with each other?It may be that this is a sometimes not always thing. If the two friends are usually happy to include you and only sometimes exclude you, it may be worth watching before you approach them. If they're already playing with other people, or they just seem more relaxed and open, go ahead and try to play with them. On the other hand, if they're huddling close and whispering, they're probably not open to including you, so don't bother approaching them. Just go find someone else to play with.You might be wondering whether you should say something when these two friends insist on playing only with each other. If your school has a rule that “You can't say anyone can't play,” it might be useful to remind them of that. If they're hogging some play equipment, you might want to say, “I'd like a turn.” You could also tell them, “That was a mean thing to say” then walk away. If they care about their friendship with you, that might make them think about what they're doing.Unfortunately, you can't make people want to play with you. So if they're not being kind to you, your best bet is probably to find someone else to hang out with.There's one more thing that I hope you'll do: Remember this. Remember what it feels like to be excluded and promise yourself that you're not going to treat anyone this way. When someone approaches you and wants to play, tell them, “Sure!” That's the kind thing to do.This has been Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic. If you have a question about making and keeping friends that you'd like me to answer, go to DrFriendtastic.com, and click on the podcast tab to see how to submit your question. Get full access to Dr. Friendtastic for Parents at drfriendtastic.substack.com/subscribe

I've talked a lot about what DOESN'T work for strong-willed kids, and today we're talking all about what DOES!SKIP this episode if you do not have a strong-willed child.  Not sure?  I break it down at the beginning! IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...How you know FOR SURE if you're the parent of a strong-willed childWhy you haven't been able to implement the tips you've learned other placesThe METHOD to my MADNESS!DON'T MISS:Valuable insight we can learn from hostage negotiators!READ THE BLOG POST// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callDid you know Failing Motherhood is in the TOP 10% of all podcasts?!Subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Write a Review & Share with a friend!30-minute $47 video training to get you through the most STRESSFUL moments of parenting!- Game-changing insight- Step-by-step flowchart of how to respond- 4 Easy Mantras to remember through the bell curve of emotionsCALM BIG EMOTIONS COURSE ADD IT TO CARTSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Today's episode is a replay of one of our most requested episodes. Enjoy!The end of the school year is happening over the next few weeks all around the country. Like us, many parents, teachers, and professionals are involved in IEP meetings galore. We believe that parents need to be empowered to take an active role in the IEP process. Join us to learn more from our expert guest!Beth Liesenfeld is the host of the Elevate Your Advocacy podcast and the founder of Parent Friendly OT. After learning ASL and interacting with deaf people, Beth worked with children with special needs and became certified as an adaptive horseback riding instructor. She figured out that occupational therapy was her “sweet spot,” and she worked in a clinical setting in early intervention, outpatient therapy, and in-home therapy. After seeing how the OT world functions outside the school system, Beth transitioned into schools. After participating in 80 IEP meetings each year, she learned the jargon and understood the process, now using her knowledge to help other parents learn what they need to know. With this big-picture view in our post-pandemic world, she stays busy with side hustles in investment and real estate fields, along with focusing on Parent Friendly OT. Show Highlights:How Parent Friendly OT offers workshops, courses, and summits to help others understand the OT process and help parents map out their parent input planWhy the parent is THE expert on the child, knowing what works and what doesn't work with that childWhy the parent should be the accountability partner for the IEP teamHow an IEP meeting without the parent's input feels empty and ineffectiveWhat Beth tells parents about their role in IEP meetings in setting the vision and expectations and focusing the team's effortWhy parents should communicate in IEP meetings about what language and measures to use to meet their child's needsBeth shares a success story from her experience with a middle school student's parentLinks/Resources:Thank you for listening! Connect with Beth and check out her courses and products: www. parentfriendlyot.comFind Beth's podcast, Elevate Your Advocacy.Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to the show to receive every new episode delivered straight to your podcast player every Tuesday.If you enjoyed this episode and believe in our message, then please help us get the word out about this podcast. Rate and Review this show in Apple Podcasts, Stitcher Radio, or Google Play. It helps other listeners find this show.Be sure to connect with us and reach out with any questions/concerns:FacebookInstagram–We are doing videos on Instagram, so connect with us there and send us your questions!TwitterIEP websiteThis podcast is for informational and educational purposes...

When we become parents, we often get bogged down with all the information and noise that we forget that parenting is a long-game job and sustainability is important. I welcome Grace Bastidas who is the editor in chief of Parents and a mom of two to discuss how to set yourself up for the long game after having a baby.We discuss:What the long game of parenting isWhy taking care of yourself is the biggest gift you can give your childWhy we set such high expectations of ourselves the moment we become a parent and how it can negatively impact usYou can also find Grace on Instagram @brooklynwriter or listen to her Podcast: That New Mom LifeThanks to our sponsor: Brainiac Foods. To check out Brainiac Food's line of products and receive 20% off your order, visit the following link to save 20% off your order:brainiacfoods.com/discount/20PEDSDOC

Amanda Lawrence is an Assistant Vice President, Team Lead & Claims Advocate for Alliant Insurance Services, Inc., Construction Services Group. A positive mindset, seeking mutual wins, and a lot of gumption are some attributes that have created tremendous success for Amanda over 26 years in Claims Handling, Management, and Account & Broker Services while being a full-time caretaker to a neurodivergent child. Amanda has worked passionately to advocate for inclusivity of the special needs community and support for neurotypical siblings who truly are the unsung heroes of the family. In this episode, we discuss: How Amanda uses music to help her process her emotionsHow she leverages her analytical skills of observation and relating to others to build rewarding relationships How she uses humor as the key to connecting with othersWhy Amanda chose to disclose to her company the circumstances of her developmentally disabled childWhy she teamed up with the other parents of her school district to advocate for the needs of their developmentally disabled children and ultimately created systemic changeHow colleagues and leadership can help support employees with neurodivergent family membersShow Guest: Amanda Lawrence on LinkedIn Charities she supportsLifes Worc and the Family Center for Autism Hance Family Foundation honors the lives of Emma, Alyson, and Katie Hance by providing unique self-esteem programs and social-emotional learningMentioned on the show: According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, it will take roughly $240,000 to raise a child from birth to age 18. For a special needs child, those expenses can quadruple.Show notes: Grab a Strengths & Strategy Session HERE. Follow @jillGriffinOffical on Instagram for daily inspiration. Visit JillGriffinCoaching.com for more details on my private and group coaching programs. 

It isn't hard to raise an emotionally aware child, yet so many find barriers to doing so. I welcome Dr. Sarah Aboudara who is a school psychologist and licensed clinical psychologist to talk about raising an emotional aware child. We discuss:What it means to raise an emotionally aware childWhy parents struggle with this Steps to creating emotional awareness for our infants and beyond

In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Tiffany Roe, mental health counselor and host of the Therapy Thoughts podcast. We discuss this month's membership topic—healing your inner child—and Tiffany drops dozens of truth bombs throughout the conversation.Here are just a few of the topics we cover:How to find a therapist who can help with inner child workWhat actually causes trauma (it's not what most people think)What it means to heal your inner childWhy your inner child has nothing to do with your parentsHow to help your children heal their woundsWhy your relationship with yourself is your most important relationshipTiffany offers a popular course on healing your inner child. You can sign up for it here. You can also purchase her affirmations card deck at TiffanyRoe.com.And it's not too late to join my membership community to learn more about healing your inner child. Work with me through group coaching, digital downloads, affirmations, and more. Join at drjuliehanks.com/membership.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now's your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don't miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

Gary Wilkerson is the President of World Challenge, an international mission organization that was founded by his father, David Wilkerson. He is also the Founding Pastor of The Springs Church, which he launched in 2009 with a handful of people. He has traveled nationally and internationally at conferences and conducted mission ventures.  Gary and his wife Kelly have four children and live in Colorado Springs, CO.In this episode we discuss:What to do if you have a prodigal childWhy modeling Christ to your kids is so importantWhen you show external resolve without internal convictionKnowing you are in a war and when to fightDiscerning the weapons of warfareAsking if we are in agreement for what Satan says about us or what God says?The authority we have in ChristWhat is God's favor?Reflecting on David WilkersonHaving a heart for the lost with a baptism of loveFor more on Gary Wilkerson: Go to https://www.worldchallenge.org/Check out his podcasts here https://www.worldchallenge.org/podcastsGet his books and many more at https://store.worldchallenge.org/ For more information on the ministry of Discerning Dad:Support me on Faithful- I have exclusive content you can't find anywhere else! https://faithful.place/users/discerningdadCheck out my website!  https://discerning-dad.com/Order my newest book- "Eyes on Jesus: A 90-Day Discernment Devotional" now!  This is a must-read for your personal quiet time with Jesus. Order here https://amzn.to/3vIArYYGrow your YouTube account like I did with TubeBuddy!  Use my link https://www.tubebuddy.com/discerningdadYou can purchase my book that started it all, Everyday Discernment: The Importance of Spirit-led decision making, on Amazon https://amzn.to/3dDGKVwBecome a patron supporter and get exclusive benefits such as my second podcast and much more https://www.patreon.com/Discerningdad

Host: Brenda Zane, www.brendazane.comShow notes: www.brendazane.com/hopestream/120Free e-book: www.brendazane.com/hindsightThe Stream, a community for moms: www.thestreamcommunity.comGet my weekly email: www.brendazane.com/emailAre you a dad? Find out more about our soon-to-launch men's community: www.brendazane.com/dad“It's not mine. I'm just carrying it for a friend.” Have you heard this one before? As many times as that line has been used, it's still a really common cover in the moment we confront our kids. Yet, sometimes our kids are really good at hiding their substance use or addiction because the signs are actually not obvious. It's shocking and confusing when our incredible, thoughtful, and high-achieving kids are battling something so dangerous. In this episode, I'm joined by author, and certified parent and life coach, Cathy Taughinbaugh. Cathy is a Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) trained coach through the Center for Motivation and Change and a parent coach with the Partnership to End Addiction. Cathy is an expert in helping parents connect with their kids through an approach that is driven by compassion and positivity which she shares in her book. If you're tired of blaming, shaming, and lashing out in response to your child's addiction, this conversation is going to encourage you and remind you that there is another way to address the problems and the pain. In this episode, you'll learn: The most common mistakes parents make in setting boundaries with their kidsWhat the CRAFT approach is and why it's statistically proven to be more effective to guide kids toward the path of recoveryMany of the reasons why your child's addiction is actually NOT your faultWhy becoming an expert in self-care will always be the biggest gift to your childWhy your silver lining will almost always begin with connectionHow focusing on your child's strengths is powerful and not “going soft” or naiveConnect with Cathy: https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/Book: The Compassion AntidoteBook: Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change Book: The Artist's WayResource: Drugfree.org

Raising a daughter in today's social-media-oriented, crazy world can be challenging! As our daughters grow up, we actually have some growing to do too. What does it look like for us to grow up and to love our daughters well? How can we grow ourselves to remain an emotionally-safe place for our girls? How can we lead them well through the hormone-charged pre-teen and teen years?Joining me to help tackle these questions is Kari Kampakis, an author, speaker, and podcaster from Birmingham, Alabama. She firmly believes that mothers can love well by improving the foundation, habits, and dynamics of their relationship with their children.I do want to note that this conversation may be directed at moms of daughters, but if you are a dad, please listen in because these principles apply to either parent's relationship with their daughter.In this episode, you'll hear:How to prioritize connecting with your daughter over correcting herThe importance of finding your source of security and love outside of your relationship with your childWhy your actions during the pre-teen and teenage years will set the tone for your future relationship with your daughterHow to become your daughter's emotional coachThis conversation was full of SO much practical advice and examples, and I am grateful to share it with you!Show Notes: https://jillsavage.org/kari-kampakis-98/

Science is all around us. It's in our smartphones, the contours our of eyelids, the hidden rabbit nest in the backyard. But what if everything we've come to know about the world (and that the natural world knows about itself) disappeared? Could science itself go extinct? Alie Ward of Ologies stops by to set the scientific record straight, and share why science is more than a path to answers—it's a gift of questions.A few curiosities you'll uncover in this episode:What animal species Alie discovered as a childWhy we're not the only species who experiences scienceCan you make music from spider mating dances?Did You Know?If human knowledge is a janky old car, science is the friend who's happy to push us to the repair shop.CreditsCurious State is a Quick and Dirty Tips podcast hosted and produced by Doug Fraser.Find Curious State on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, or subscribe to our newsletter for the latest updates.Podcast Manager - Adam Cecil Podcast and Advertising Operations Specialist - Morgan ChristiansonMarketing and Publicity Assistant - Davina TomlinIntern - Brendan Picha The Quick and Dirty Tips network is a division of Macmillan Publishers in partnership with Mignon Fogarty, Inc.Have a question? Or a topic you'd like covered on the show? Maybe you just love sending emails? Whichever shoe fits, tie it on and send me a message at curious@quickanddirtytips.com.

Of all the things that have changed dramatically in the past few years, our shared understanding of “employee wellness” and what it really means is up there as one of the most important. Once used to refer to the occasional approved sick day, employee wellness now represents a serious investment for many corporations – and for good reason. Across the globe, burnout has become a full-blown epidemic, changing the world and our collective thinking so rapidly that many are still playing catch up.Of course, although the physical signs may be similar and far-reaching – from exhaustion and overwhelm to panic attacks and all-consuming depression – burnout is anything but universal. In fact, it's different for each of us, impacted by a culmination of unique experiences and traits – and if you're a leader with a team of employees behind you, your handling of the situation will hinge on this understanding. With that knowledge comes the weight of pressure and expectation, and if anyone knows a few things about managing all of it, it's Pam Ford. As a team leader and manager in the financial industry, Pam has spent more than 20 years juggling multiple priorities, from her own mental health to the highs and lows of motherhood, For Pam, the pandemic represented a significant burnout learning curve – one which took her from a total lack of burnout knowledge pre-COVID to an in-depth understanding of how it affects staff, leaders and individuals at every stage of their lives and careers. In this episode of the SheBurns podcast, Pam shares her no-holds-barred take on the pandemic, from her first experience of physical burnout symptoms to the support network and strategies that brought her out the other side – as a woman, a mother and a leader. So what's this episode really about? Why navigating burnout should be a team sport The true link between leadership and burnout – particularly for women How burnout can lead to imposter syndrome, and what you can do about itWhy you should start talking to your kids about burnout early on The extra pressure on mothers to “prove themselves” after having a childWhy you should listen For many of us, the concept of burnout is still fairly new, and it can be far more difficult to recognise in yourself than in other people. No matter where your journey has taken you so far, Pam's journey will give you hope in your ability to connect with and advocate for your own needs. Links SheShattersSheShatters InstagramPam Ford LinkedInYou can quote me on that…“You often look at these setbacks as just unnecessary and really painful road bumps, but I think, once you can separate yourself from the pain – and it's so immediate in those moments – you give yourself time to reflect and you realize, one: I got through that. Two: I'm so much stronger than I thought I was, and now I have all these learnings having gone through this experience that I can bring into situations and help others [to avoid] the same thing.” - Pam Ford“I feel like there is an individual component [to burnout] because who are you? Pam? How were you raised? There's always different characteristics in our personalities. Are you a people pleaser? Are you poor at setting boundaries? Are you someone that's a perfectionist? There's all these different buckets… that different people fall into,...

Taking steps to guide your children through difficult experiences, risky obstacles and problem solving without you there, not only builds strong character - it builds resilience. In today's episode, join us in a discussion with someone who offers advice from the pricilnpal's office, that we can use to build kids with courage. In this episode you will learn about: Discovering your child's false narratives, and reframing new stories about themselvesHow to identify distress in your childWhy it's smart to join forces with your school, how exactly is that doneHow children perceive more than you think, and what you need to do right now about it.The first thing you must do when confronting oppositional defiancePunishment and rewardHow you must view the no man's land of middle school

Today on the show, Sarah is joined by Jennifer Hepton, a Certified Conscious Life & Parenting Coach + Hypnobreathwork Facilitator. She works with women in their motherhood journey to move from a place of conditioning and overwhelm to mindfulness and consciousness. Jenn uses her knowledge and training of trauma, hypnobreathwork, neuroscience, neurobiology and mindfulness to support women in their healing so that they can reconnect to their inner wisdom. She and Sarah discuss what conscious parenting truly is, and why it has more to do with you as a parent than your child. They touch on shifting the parenting paradigms, how our childhood wounds affect how we mother, and what steps we can take towards healing our own inner child in order to best parent our own children. In this episode of The Uncensored Empath:What conscious parenting is and why it has more to do with you than your childWhy no one is ever truly ready to become a parentShifting the paradigm of responding versus reacting How motherhood makes a path to healing our own inner childLearning how to give yourself grace as you reparent yourself Follow Sarah:Instagram: @theuncensoredempathWebsite: www.theuncensoredempath.com Check out Illuminated!Click here to submit your review for The Uncensored Empath, and receive access to Sarah's secret Spotify playlist! Follow Jenn:Instagram: @aconsciousmotherhood Founding Coach on MASTRY Reparenting Your Soul Healing Experience Waitlist This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

Let's go over parental alienation aka post-separation abuse and domestic violence by proxy on the show today. It is important for anyone with children who is planning to leave an abusive relationship to know the signs of alienation and what to do about it. Topics:Symptoms of alienationMy experienceReaching out to children who reject everything from youThe pain of being separated for parent and childWhy does a narcissist turn his children from the other parent?How a child is punished for not going along with the narcissistic parentWhat you can doWhy I think things are changing in my situationKeep going strong on your healing journeyHelpful links:Dr. Childress, you can find his resources for parents and a link to his YouTube channel on his website.Dorcy Pruter, has free resources that I found helpful to understand and work through the pain of alienation.Divorce Poison(book)Find me on:MediumFacebookThank you for listening!Julia

Ever feel like perfectionism is standing in the way between you and success? Join me in today's conversation with mindset coach Kara Latta where we go on a journey of how to reconnect with your authentic self through play. Kara teaches us how to use mindset and play to ditch perfectionism, overcome self-doubt and heal our inner child.  In this episode you will learn:Who is your inner childWhy we all need inner child healingHow to use play in our lives to heal perfectionismHow to change the lens of your life from fear of judgment and worry to a lens of wonder and fun So much more!Connect with Loren on Instagram |  Facebook | BlogMagnetic Framework: March WaitlistTranscripts: Read the full transcript Connect with Kara Latta on Instagram | Website | Freebie

Mindy’s mother was sent to the countryside to do manual labor during the Cultural Revolution. When the government resumed the college entrance exam, her mother out-competed the entire country to earn a spot at China's top university.Like her parents, Mindy is a high achiever. She graduated summa cum laude from Wharton. Built the New York City product team for Dropbox. And led growth for Oscar Health as the Director of Product. Oscar Health recently IPO'd.But she found achievement wasn't everything. Her search for meaning led her to reignite and rebuild her relationship with her mother after years of distance. She redesigned her life based on her own definition of success. Today, Mindy has taken the learnings from her journey to help other high achievers find fulfillment.As a career coach, she partners with leaders and teams who want to achieve big things without forgetting what matters. She also has a  newsletter, The Reset. Where she writes a guide for high achievers seeking greater clarity and fulfillment.In this episode we ask Mindy about:What her parents went through growing up in China during the Cultural RevolutionHow her mother developed her interests and passions as a childWhy her mother getting diagnosed with stage 4 cancer created distanced in their relationshipThe tools she's using to redevelop her relationship with her immigrant motherWhy she went to Wharton and what it was likeChoosing the Google internship over BCGWhat Dropbox was like scaling from 200 to 2000 employeesWhat it takes to be a good managerWhy swing dancing changed her lifeBuying a plot of land and building a new houseHow she started out as a career coachHow she helps her clients attain their dreamsShe reads us the story of Zumbach the TailorFind Mindy online :Website: - mindyzhang.comNewsletter: The Reset - A high achiever's guide to a meaningful lifeNewsletter: Building a HomeTeaching at: https://www.thegrand.world/IG: https://www.instagram.com/newmoniker/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindyzh/Please subscribe to our podcast! You can find the latest episodes and notes at: Website: willandlee.showInstagram: @will.and.lee.show

This week on the Awakened Pregnancy Podcast I speak with Nikki Jurcutz co-Founder and CEO of Tiny Hearts Education, former Advanced Life Support Paramedic and mama to Nahla, 3 and Wolf, 1.Tiny Hearts Education was born from a community need. While working as a paramedic, Nikki noticed that parents lacked essential skills and knowledge when it came to paediatric first aid, birth and parenting and knew that something had to change.At Tiny Hearts, our mission is to bring education to all Australian parents that will transform their parenting experience, giving them the knowledge to move through pregnancy, childbirth and parenthood with confidence.This conversation gave me a completely new perspective on how I can empower myself as a mother to a young child, and that it truly is my responsibility to seek out this support.Through Tiny Hearts, Nikki and her sister Rach, have impacted thousands of lives and are truly changing the way that we, as parents respond in an emergency.This episode is empowering, grounding and practical. I know you're going to love it!We talk about…What Nikki saw that brought about the inspiration to begin Tiny Hearts Education with her sister RachWhy ignorance isn't bliss and how to advocate for your childWhy it's important to educate yourself and empower yourself with first aid skills as a parentYou don't rise to the level of expectation in a crisis, rather fall to your level of trainingWhy she hopes that what she teaches you is a waste of your timeThe most important thing in a crisis and how she sets you up to call on thisLife changing stories from the Tiny Hearts communityHow birth is influenced by mindsetWhy you MUST prepare for birthThe impact of mindset on birthWhat you need to focus on when you write a birth planAnd so much more!Show notes for this episode Register for my upcoming Masterclass: How to stay calm and stress-free while consciously conceiving in 2020 To circulate an exchange with me, you can buy me a coffee here.