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Two daughters. One orange. Conflict. Their mother, seeking peace, cuts it in half — a classic compromise. What mom doesn't know? One wants the juice, the other the zest. Yet there they are: nobody gets what they need.It's a parable that is often told in conflict resolution circles. But in the hands of Mariah Levison — CEO and President of the Convergence Center for Policy Resolution — it is an elegant metaphor for the missed opportunities that happen when we rush toward solutions without first understanding our problems.This week, Carrie sits down with Mariah alongside Convergence's founder and Senior Advisor, Robert J. Fersh. They are collaborators in mission and architects of a process that helps unlikely allies find common ground. Together, they've worked across some of the most polarized issues of our time: education, healthcare, criminal justice, and beyond.Their approach isn't about compromise. It's about something more ambitious and, paradoxically, more human. It's about convergence: the point where stories intersect, values overlap, and relationships begin to matter more than ideology.They unpack how durable policy solutions emerge not from debate, but from curiosity. How listening — real, intentional, difficult listening — can transform even the most entrenched opponents into collaborators. And how the secret to solving today's toughest challenges asks all of us to move away from righteousness, and toward relationship. After all, what divides us often pales in comparison to what we all want — fairness, belonging, safety, and dignity.If you've ever wondered what it would take to really change the tone of a divided room—or a divided nation—we want this episode to leave you with more than hope. It will leave you with a blueprint.Links & NotesLearn more about Convergence Center for Policy ResolutionExplore the book: From Conflict to Convergence by Rob Fersh and Mariah LevisonRead Mariah's column on 10 Shared Beliefs Most Americans Hold (00:00) - Welcome to Mission Forward (02:37) - Introducing Rob Fersh & Mariah Levison (06:46) - "Confilct to Convergence" (12:08) - Grounding Togetherness (16:36) - Mindset (21:00) - Truth (26:22) - Where do you find Hope?

Today sees Clare Youth Service holding information and skills talks for parents and caregivers. From Conflict to Conversation will take place this morning and evening. To find out more, Alan Morrissey was joined by Joe Power, one of the leading Restoration Practice experts. Photo(C): https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=547610517402974&set=a.547610497402976

Today we're diving deep into the complex world of global conflict and human nature with none other than Shane Smith. Shane is the co-founder of VICE and a decorated journalist whose boots-on-the-ground experiences have shaped his unique understanding of war and its impact on society. Shane shares some intense stories and powerful insights about the thin line between good and evil, why war never ends well, and how humanity's survival instinct breeds conflict. We'll also tackle some heavy historical parallels and Shane's eye-opening perspective on geopolitical stability. If you want a gripping look into the chaos of war and human nature, stick around. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Tech Arms Race: War vs. Utopia 03:20 Nuclear Dystopia: Global Power Imbalance 08:55 From Conflict to Prosperity 10:24 Middle East Tensions Escalate Again 13:42 Middle East Geopolitical Instability Concerns CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Range Rover: Range Rover: Explore the Range Rover Sport at https://rangerover.com/us/sport Audible: Sign up for a free 30 day trial at https://audible.com/IMPACTTHEORY  Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code IMPACT at check out Thive Market: ​​Go to https:thrivemarket.com/impact for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! ITU: Ready to breakthrough your biggest business bottleneck? Apply to work with me 1:1 - https://impacttheory.co/SCALE Kettle & Fire: Get 20% off your first order at https://kettleandfire.com/impact with code IMPACT  Netsuite: Download the CFO's Guide to AI and Machine Learning at https://NetSuite.com/THEORY Found: Try Found for FREE at https://found.com/impact ********************************************************************** Do you need my help? STARTING a business: Join me inside ZERO TO FOUNDER here SCALING a business: Click here to see if you qualify Get my battle-tested strategies and insights delivered weekly to your inbox: sign up here. ********************************************************************** If you're serious about leveling up your life, I urge you to check out my new podcast, Tom Bilyeu's Mindset Playbook —a goldmine of my most impactful episodes on mindset, business, and health. Trust me, your future self will thank you. ********************************************************************** Join me live on my Twitch stream. I'm live daily from 6:30 to 8:30 am PT at www.twitch.tv/tombilyeu ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO IMPACT THEORY AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/impacttheory ********************************************************************** FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/tombilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is a special From the Vault. In this episode, we talk with Dr. Robert Feirsen and Dr. Seth Weitzman about their new book From Conflict to Collaboration: A School Leader's Guide to Unleashing Conflict's Problem-Solving Power.We talk about how to avoid conflict, the three A's to approach conflict, and much more.About the GuestsDr. Robert Feirsen is currently an associate professor and coordinator of the Educational Leadership Program at Manhattanville College. Previously, he was assistant professor and chair of the Education Department at the New York Institute of Technology. A former SAANYS member, Dr. Feirsen enjoyed a distinguished career in P-12 schools. As a school building leader in Westchester and Nassau Counties, he served as an elementary school principal, a middle school assistant principal, and a middle school principal. At the central office level, he served as an assistant superintendent for curriculum and instruction, deputy superintendent, and superintendent of schools. Dr. Feirsen taught at the elementary, middle, and high school levels as a social studies and special education teacher in schools in New York City before moving into supervisory roles. Dr. Feirsen holds an Ed.D. from Fordham University. Dr. Feirsen's research interests include addressing organizational conflict, the school principal-school counselor relationship, principal and teacher retention, the relationship between psychological ownership and professional learning, college readiness, and the applications of design thinking. His research and other articles have been published in a number of academic journals, as well as Educational Leadership and Education Week. Dr. Feirsen has led workshops at such venues as ASCD, the American School Counselor Association (ASCA), the American Association of Colleges for Teacher Education (AACTE), and the American Educational Research Association (AERA). With Seth Weitzman, he has presented at national and statewide conferences including ASCD, the New York State Council of School Superintendents (NYSCOSS), and the New York Association of Colleges for Teacher Education (NYACTE). Seth Weitzman is also the co-author of From Conflict to Collaboration: A School Leader's Guide to Unleashing Conflict's Problem-Solving Power and How to Get the Teaching Job You Want.Dr. Seth Weitzman sat in a middle school principal's chair for 27 years in Nassau and Westchester counties. Leadership positions included co-president of the Mamaroneck administrators' union, president of the Nassau County, and later, the Westchester County Middle School Principals' Association, and a New York State Middle-Level Liaison (a working group of principals representing every county and BOCES in New York State meeting with NYSED officials). Together with Dr. Robert Feirsen, he is the co-author of two books: How to Get the Teaching Job You Want and From Conflict to Collaboration: A School Leader's Guide to Unleashing Conflict's Problem-Solving Power. He is either author or co-author of a number of articles published in national education journals including Educational Leadership and American Middle-Level Education Magazine. Drs. Feirsen and Weitzman have presented in numerous professional association conferences at the county, state, and local levels (e.g. Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development, American Association of School Personnel Administrators, New York State Middle School Association, New York State Association of Teacher Educators) and graduate-level classes (Teachers College, Bank Street College of Education). He is currently Senior Instructor in the Mercy College Educational Leadership Department. His 40-year education career began teaching elementary school and middle school in Connecticut and New York City. He holds an EdD from Teachers College, Columbia University. We're thrilled to be sponsored by IXL. IXL's comprehensive teaching and learning platform for math, language arts, science, and social studies is accelerating achievement in 95 of the top 100 U.S. school districts. Loved by teachers and backed by independent research from Johns Hopkins University, IXL can help you do the following and more:Simplify and streamline technologySave teachers' timeReliably meet Tier 1 standardsImprove student performance on state assessments

In this special midweek edition of 21WIRE LIVE host Patrick Henningsen talks with journalist Freddie Ponton about whether Trump can avoid dragging Europe into a war over Ukraine, as Zelensky's sell-by date expires, and the Nord Stream pipeline problem reemerges as a bargaining chip between Trump and Denmark with Greenland as the negotiation piece. All this and more...   Please read Freddie's excellent piece on the next step for Ukraine/NATO… "YALTA 2.0 – From Conflict to Cooperation": https://21stcenturywire.com/2025/01/27/yalta-2-0-from-conflict-to-cooperation/   SUPPORT OUR MEDIA PLATFORM HERE: https://21w.co/support VISIT OUR AFFILIATE SPONSORS: New Dawn Magazine - world's best independent print publication:https://21w.co/nd203 Health Solutions - Shop at Clive de Carle: https://21w.co/shop-clive FOLLOW OUR TELEGRAM CHANNEL: https://t.me/My21wire Countdown Music:Song: Cartoon, Jéja - On & On (feat. Daniel Levi) [NCS Release] - Music provided by NoCopyrightSounds Free Download/Stream: http://ncs.io/onandon Watch: http://youtu.be/K4DyBUG242c

Coming together to solve social challenges in today's divisive environment sometimes feels impossible. But it doesn't have to be.Mariah Levison and Rob Fersh describe dozens of examples in their new book “From Conflict to Convergence: Coming Together to Solve Tough Problems.” They both spent decades working in conflict resolution and have helped hundreds of groups build trust and create consensus solutions on issues ranging from healthcare to prison reform.Minnesota Now with Nina Moini shares a conversation Levison and Fersh had with MPR News correspondent Catharine Richert at an event on Nov. 25 at the Capri Theater in Minneapolis. The discussion was jointly organized by the Citizens League and the MPR News Talking Sense initiative, which aims to help Minnesotans have tough political conversations better.

Coming together to solve social challenges in today's divisive environment sometimes feels impossible. But it doesn't have to be. Mariah Levison and Rob Fersh describe dozens of examples in their new book “From Conflict to Convergence: Coming Together to Solve Tough Problems.” They both spent decades working in conflict resolution and have helped hundreds of groups build trust and create consensus solutions on issues ranging from healthcare to prison reform. MPR News with Angela Davis shares a conversation Levison and Fersh had with MPR News correspondent Catharine Richert at an event on Nov. 25 at the Capri Theater in Minneapolis. The discussion was jointly organized by the Citizens League and the MPR News Talking Sense initiative, which aims to help Minnesotans have tough political conversations … better. Guests: Rob Fersh is the founder and former CEO of the non-profit organization, Convergence Center for Policy Resolution, based in Washington D.C. Convergence was founded in 2009 to promote consensus solutions to contentious issues affecting national and international policy. Mariah Levison is the current CEO and president of Convergence. She helped create and previously ran the Minnesota State Office of Collaboration and Dispute Resolution. Subscribe to the MPR News with Angela Davis podcast on: Apple Podcasts, Spotify or RSS.    Use the audio player above to listen to the full conversation.    

Co-parenting during the holiday season can feel overwhelming—balancing emotions, schedules, traditions, and family expectations. In today's episode, I'm sharing actionable tips to help you navigate co-parenting dynamics with confidence and peace this Christmas.You'll hear:✨ My personal struggles and how I've found peace in co-parenting.✨ Real-life challenges my clients face during the holidays—and the solutions that work.✨ Practical strategies like BIFF responses, boundary-setting, and planning ahead to minimize stress and maximize joy for your kids.Whether you're dreading the holidays or just need some extra support, this episode is packed with value to help you create a calmer, happier festive season.What You'll Tale Away From This Episode:The emotional challenges of co-parenting during the holidays and how to manage them.How to set clear boundaries for your emotional peace.Why BIFF responses can transform the way you communicate with your ex.Tips to plan a festive season that works for you, your kids, and your co-parent.

Jenn had an outstanding conversation with Robert Feirsen, one of the two authors of From Conflict to Collaboration, along with author Seth Weitzman. They chatted about the tough stuff – like how prevalent conflict is in schools and a number of the sources of that conflict. But then Robert shared the positive way he thinks about conflict and how we, too, can use conflict as an opportunity for learning and growth. Robert shared the idea that design thinking – an approach that comes from the discipline of engineering – can be used to address conflict effectively. First you put together a team of people with diverse roles and perspectives, and then they go through the stages of design thinking – empathize, define, ideate, prototype, and test – in order to collaboratively come up with and test possible solutions to address a major conflict your school community is facing. To learn more about the authors you can go to TeacherEdge.net.   As always, send your comments, questions, and show ideas to mike@schoolleadershipshow.com. Consider rating the podcast in iTunes and leaving a comment.  And please pass the show along to your colleagues. Additionally, if you have other non-education books with implications for school leaders, send those suggestions our way, too. And finally, If you or someone you know would like to sponsor the show, send Mike an email at mike@schoolleadershipshow.com.  

Jacques Neatby is a leadership team and corporate strategy expert.He began his career as a labour & litigation lawyer with one of Canada's elite international law firms.He was recruited into consulting in 1994 and soon after was hired by Canada's largest independent strategy consultancy (since acquired by KPMG). There he worked with the executive teams of industry-leading companies in North America and Europe, including Ubisoft, Sanofi, as well as Bureau Veritas, the no. 2 player in the global testing and inspection industry (currently 80 000 employees in 140 countries) who hired him to set up their corporate university and develop their flagship strategic alignment program targeting the organization's top 300 leaders.He was later asked to join Bureau Veritas full-time as a senior executive. Based in Europe and reporting to a member of the group's Executive Committee, he led a team that supported country and regional leadership teams in the USA, Europe and Asia-Pacific, notably with restructuring and strategic alignment, as well as with their post-merger integration of efforts (Note: during his time at Bureau Veritas, the company grew from 18 000 to 60 000 employees). In 2010, he returned to North America and his expertise with executive teams led Lafarge, now Holcim, the leading cement company in the world ($30 billion in revenues, 72 000 employees) to hire him as a special advisor to its executive teams in Europe, Asia and North America to address restructuring and alignment issues. Since that time, he has also been hired for strategic alignment support by many other industry-leading companies in North America and Europe including Marriott (global no. 1 in hospitality) and Randstad (global no.1 in recruitment).In addition to his consulting work, Jacques has taught at numerous business schools in North America and Europe since 2012. From 2015-2021, he taught the leadership team module in the world's no. 1 EMBA program as ranked by the Financial Times in London, where he was amongst the top-ranked professors.He also writes on executive teams and strategy, notably for the Harvard Business Review and Business Digest. He and INSEAD professor Frédéric Godart are the authors of Leadership Team alignment: From Conflict to Collaboration published by Stanford University Press in 2023.Link to claim CME credit: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/3DXCFW3CME credit is available for up to 3 years after the stated release dateContact CEOD@bmhcc.org if you have any questions about claiming credit.

How might we learn to better negotiate and navigate seemingly intractable issues? And what if it was possible to not only navigate these issues, but to meet all people's needs in the process?What if it was possible to truly find win-win solutions?In today's conversation with Rob Fersh and Mariah Levison, two leaders in the field of bridge building and conflict resolution we'll address these complex, challenging, and timely questions head on. Questions that have been at the heart of their work for many years, and are explored in depth in their profound new book: From Conflict to Convergence Coming Together to Solve Tough Problems.Today, they will offer up their hard-earned wisdom about how we can all get better at navigating difficult conversations, resolving challenging conflicts, and building meaningful connection in the process. Much of what they will share comes from their work at Convergence a leading non profit organization of which Rob is the Founder and Mariah is the CEO. For more than a dozen years, convergence has pioneered a distinctive approach to collaborative problem-solving across divides. Bringing people together across ideological, political, and identity lines to help solve seemingly intractable challenges at the intersection of national politics and policy. Convergence's success offers a beacon of hope for the majority of Americans frustrated by divisiveness and toxic polarization. Their work demonstrates that change is possible under the right conditions, and that we can affect lasting, consistent changes that improve people's lives when we come together to recognize our common humanity.For more about Convergence, Rob, Mariah, and their book please visit convergencepolicy.orgThis episode is the final conversation in our mini series that brought together leaders at the forefront of researching, facilitating, and writing about how we can:Engage in more constructive dialogueFind collaborative solutions to seemingly intractable problemsAnd build bridges across differenceFor more, check out these other conversations in the series: Rediscovering the Art of Constructive Dialogue | Dr. Mylien DuongBuilding Bridges Back to Each Other | Juliana TafurMore about Rob Fersh and Mariah LevisonRob founded Convergence in 2009 and served as its first CEO until 2020. He has spent over 45 years bridging policy differences and moving important public policy solutions forward in Washington DC, working for Congress, in the Executive Branch, and in leading non-profit organizations. Head here to learn more about Rob.Mariah serves as CEO and President of Convergence. With decades of experience, Mariah is a seasoned consensus-builder who excels in bringing diverse groups together to address critical state and national issues. Her expertise extends to speaking and training on a national and international level, engaging with a wide range of audiences including local communities, law schools, foreign governments, and TED. Head here to learn more about Mariah.Enjoying the show? Please rate it wherever you listen to your podcasts!Thanks for listening!Support the show

Is it possible…to go from conflicting ideas, opinions and dug in positions to ultimately finding solutions on our most polarizing issues?  These are places where we have deep conflict. It seems like we are battling so many headwinds these days to imagine such a possibility. Many of the sources we watch or listen to are fed from the outrage industrial complex perpetuating our current culture of fear and blame and the ‘us' versus ‘them' mentality. In our conversation, Rob shares his journey from a career in public policy to becoming a thought leader on collaborative problem-solving. Rob and I explore the very real possibility of how the use of collaborative problem solving has the potential for positive outcomes even when it comes to significant differences. This isn't possible all the time and we talk about why. But the uses are more frequent than most people have thought about so far.  Rob tells stories and we discuss how seemingly impossible agreements are made by people on very opposite sides of tough and gritty issues including healthcare, gun control and recidivism. You'll be surprised and enlightened to learn how agreements were reached. Perhaps one of the most compelling parts of our discussion is Rob's take on the current loneliness crisis made so much worse by the pandemic and digital communication. He offers valuable insights into how we can rebuild and strengthen relationships, particularly among those in the workforce who have launched their careers during COVID and and grown up in a more digital world. The approach and lessons from the conversation and book apply to those in business, on Boards, in the public sector and in your own community! Episode Highlights: [1:44] - Raised in Poughkeepsie, New York, Rob worked in public policy and now lives in Bethesda, Maryland.[3:12] - Rob credits Mariah Levison, coauthor of From Conflict to Convergence and CEO of Convergence, with adding depth and insight to the book's lessons.[3:41] - The structure of the book focuses on mindset, building blocks, and processes for conflict resolution.[5:35] - How might the book relate to solving major national problems?[7:06] - Rob believes that bringing people together is possible by applying collaborative, diverse viewpoints.[10:37] - Rob points out that conflict can be constructive and liberating, leading to empathy and better relationships.[13:32] - Building trust and exploring shared values can help people overcome initial negative attitudes and disagreements.[16:32] - Rob discusses how the pandemic and remote work have strained relationships and how fostering connection requires creating supportive communities.[18:22] - Hear how a collaborative project showed that shared goals can overcome differences and result in improvements.[21:37] - I particularly relate to Rob's story's theme of finding common ground and trust, even with initial differences.[22:28] - Rob advocates for trust, which can develop through deep understanding and dialogue, even between people with opposing views.[25:28] - Bridging divides requires grassroots and top-down efforts; role models and media can help foster cooperation.[28:01] - I suggest using influencers to teach collaborative problem-solving and improve relationships.[29:44] - Cultural change in Congress is challenging, but effective leadership and new models can help foster better communication.[31:31] - Rob advocates for candidates who emphasize working well with others and finding common ground on issues.[33:24] - Data and real conversations potentially reveal that Americans are less divided than the media suggests.[35:12] - Rob adds that honest conversations reveal surprising truths and improve understanding across division.[37:50] - What's next now for Rob? Links & Resources: Email Gary: gary.danoff@lhh.com Gary Danoff LinkedIn Rob Fersh LinkedIn From Conflict to Convergence: Coming Together to Solve Tough Problems Convergence

In this episode of Team Success, host Shannon Waller is thrilled to talk with special guest Marlene Chism, an expert on workplace drama and how to handle it effectively. Their long discussion is full of great communication and listening strategies to help you have that difficult discussion you've been avoiding. Shannon highly recommends all senior leaders read Marlene's latest book, From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading, for more practical wisdom on managing conflict at work. Listen now to find out the three words that heal any conflict. Download Episode Transcript Show Notes: The Karpman Drama Triangle consists of three roles: Victim: Feels powerless and blames others. Persecutor: Lashes out and is hard to get along with. Rescuer: Tries to fix everything for others. Denial: Added by Marlene in the center for Avoiders who say, “I don't do drama.” People aren't just one thing; they cycle through each regularly. Getting out of the drama triangle means becoming a Creator. Regulation Before Resolution: Regulating your emotions before approaching conflict allows you greater clarity, empathy, and a solution-oriented mindset. Emotional Awareness And Emotional Integrity: Accept that you have negative feelings. Represent yourself and your own feelings, not anyone else's. Responsible Language: Ask questions. Speak to the vision. Focus on the outcome you want. Avoid generalization, blame, resentment, lack of choice, and justification. Radical Listening: Acknowledge the other person's feelings: “It sounds like … ” Similar to Chris Voss's “Tactical Empathy.” Similar to the Collaborative Way's “Generous Listening.” Avoid trying to come up with a solution. Avoid telling a related story about yourself. Notice your own emotions without expressing them. “Don't argue with other people's feelings.” —Shannon Waller The Inner Game: External conflict starts when there is internal conflict. “Drama: the obstacle to peace or prosperity.” —Marlene Chism Work on your own clarity first because “the one with clarity navigates the ship, and everyone else shovels coal.” Be self-aware without being self-obsessed. Fulcrum Point Of Change: Nothing happens until you are willing to release your resistance to change. The “story” in your head about what is happening is the source of your suffering, not the other person, not the situation. Three-part approach for leaders: Establish a foundation: Examine what's happening that shouldn't happen to go into conversation with intention. Achieve leadership and employee clarity: Have the conversation and come to an agreement. Maintain accountability: Follow up two weeks after conversation. Specific strategies for difficult conversations: State intentions up front to reduce anxiety and defensiveness. Keep the discussion focused on constructive outcomes. Focus on the opposite of the issue to create a positive intention. Address observed behaviors and their impact rather than making accusations or generalizations about a person's character. Use company values and vision to guide the intentions. Share the “story” you're telling yourself about the situation. Say, “Walk me through what your perspective is.” Ask, “What do you want?” and “Would you be willing … ?” When you get denial or defensiveness: “That may be, but here's what I need.” Three common responses to conflict are the 3 A's: Aggression, Avoidance, and Appeasing. Resistance is almost always based on the need to be right. Three magic words that will heal any conflict: “You were right.” The “LABOR” principles for difficult conversations: L Ask for what you want. set B Own your stuff. Represent yourself. Major organizational problems can often be traced back to conversations that should have happened but didn't. Strategic Coach® Tools For Clarity: Use The Impact Filter™ to get your thoughts do...

From Conflict to Convergence - a Book DiscussionFriends, one of the greatest lessons I've learned in my journey is that when we come together with honesty, integrity and good will, we can find solutions that are better than what any one person could have come up with on their own. And if there's anyone who embodies that belief, it's today's guests, Rob Fersh and Mariah Levison of Convergence!Now, let me tell you, these two are champions of bridging divides and resolving conflicts in ways that don't just settle for middle ground, but actually aim for higher ground—solutions that honor everyone's needs and values. Rob Fersh, the founder and senior advisor of Convergence, has been in the trenches of policy resolution for decades, working on everything from hunger in America to U.S.-Muslim relations. His leadership in organizations like the Food Research and Action Center and Search for Common Ground has literally shaped the way we tackle big issues in this country.And then we've got Mariah Levison, the current CEO and President of Convergence. Mariah's got this incredible knack for building trust and relationships across the most contentious divides. From running the Minnesota State Office of Collaboration and Dispute Resolution to teaching the next generation of mediators, she's all about conflict resolution and creating solutions that really stick.Together, Rob and Mariah co-authored a must-read book, *From Conflict to Convergence: Coming Together to Solve Tough Problems*. And today, they're here to talk about how we can all get better at listening, understanding each other's values, and finding those higher ground solutions—especially in a time when our society seems more divided than ever.But here's the kicker—they're not just talking to the leaders or the policymakers; they're even emphasizing the importance of engaging young people in this process. Because, let's face it, the future belongs to them, and it's crucial that they learn how to navigate these differences to build a more functional and civil society.Learn more about and connect with Rob Fersh, Mariah Levison and Convergence by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!

James Cooper, Tracy Roberts and Elly Colvin explore the Challenge Continuum, a powerful framework that shifts the narrative from conflict to healthy challenge, enhancing psychological safety and team dynamics. Through engaging discussions and real-life examples, we uncover strategies to deliver and receive feedback effectively, even in high-pressure environments. Learn how to establish a culture of open communication, build trust, and foster growth in your organisation. Useful Links: ​⁠⁠⁠Trans2 Performance Website⁠⁠⁠ - See what we do! ​⁠⁠⁠Socials⁠⁠⁠ - Follow for a whole range of content Chapters Introduction and Setting the Stage (00:00 - 02:00) Introduction of the hosts including T2's newest Consultant, Elly Colvin followed by an overview of the episode's topic. Understanding the Challenge Continuum (02:01 - 07:00) Explanation of the Challenge Continuum and its relevance in leadership and communication. From Conflict to Healthy Challenge (07:01 - 15:00) Discussion on how to reframe conflict as a challenge and the psychological benefits. Building Psychological Safety in the Workplace (15:01 - 23:00) Strategies for fostering an environment where employees feel safe to express concerns and give feedback. Real-Life Scenarios and Examples (23:01 - 30:00) Hosts share real-life examples of managing feedback and challenges in professional settings. Effective Communication Techniques (30:01 - 37:00) Practical tips on how to communicate effectively, even in difficult situations. Cultural and Contextual Considerations (37:01 - 42:00) Discussion on the impact of cultural differences on communication styles and conflict resolution. Final Thoughts and Takeaways (42:01 - 43:32) Summary of key insights and actionable steps for listeners to apply in their own work environments. Recommended Listening: Conducting Cultural Surveys: Turning Insights into Tangible Change  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1wxvCEWom6oX6caPn92dEj?si=HuNvSsrWTiimULcdTIH10g Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-t2-hubcast/id1452086746?i=1000638146450 How to Build a High-Performing Team: Attributes, Dynamics & Communication Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1wxvCEWom6oX6caPn92dEj?si=HuNvSsrWTiimULcdTIH10g Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-t2-hubcast/id1452086746?i=1000658124940 The 5 Dysfunctions of a Team Dissected: Conflict Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NoAu3XQC3HcC0j6T8ouLc?si=Upqig7vtRw2O1nAcuxnIGw  Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-t2-hubcast/id1452086746?i=1000547870515 Active Listening Techniques You Need To Silence Advice Monsters Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/33asvUApu3yZCGY65h2ZDA?si=0iLm_I2dQki99ODH74_V2w  Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-t2-hubcast/id1452086746?i=1000650644299

Rob Fersh is the Founder/Senior Advisor of Convergence Center for Policy Resolution, a non-profit organization founded in 2009 to promote consensus solutions to issues of domestic and international importance Rob captured his expertise, wisdom, and decades of experience in a new book co-written with Convergence CEO and President, Mariah Levison, entitled, From Conflict to Convergence: Coming Together to Solve Tough Problems. Rob joins Art to discuss the book. They also explore how Convergence brings together diverse stakeholders to find common ground on contentious issues like healthcare, incarceration reform, and education. https://convergencepolicy.org/ to learn more. The new book is available beginning Tuesday, July 30, on Amazon https://bit.ly/3Svs9jo or wherever fine books are sold. Don't forget to follow or subscribe to The Heart of Giving Podcast and leave a comment on iTunes. Follow us on Instagram @bbbwisegive and on X @wisegiving.  

Introduction and NEWS Topic 01: From Conflict to Coexistence: Lessons from the Crusades Topic 02: Jalsa Salana: Empowering Youth and Promoting Religious Tolerance through Interfaith Dialogue Presenter(s): Imam Mubaraz Amini Imam Daniyal Ahmad Guest(s): Dr Mohammed Iqbal Imam Ibrahim Noonan Dr Ulil Abshar Abdala Dr Taslim Syahlan Imam Abdul Hadi Masood Resercher(s): Hamida Iqbal Areebah Ijaz Manahal Awan Nabeela Producer(s): Ine Mu'minah Hamida Iqbal Rameen Masood

Welcome to week one of the Summer of Mentorship! This summer we are answering your questions with guests from past episodes. We are starting off with an episode from April of 2020 (ep 280) with Rachel Macy Stafford, the founder of Hands Free Mama.  Rachel's Hands Free Mama mentality is all about finding balance in a media-saturated, perfection-obsessed world. And it's about seizing the little moments that life offers us to engage in real and meaningful interaction. She shares a realization that she was not connected with her own people. How she was believing a lie that she needed to hide certain parts of herself, the messy parts, the imperfect parts, in order to be loved and accepted.Her “ah-ha” moment came when she vulnerably shared this belief with her daughter and found acceptance.  “Opening that door to being human actually brings us closer together. Then we can connect from that place of 'I'm struggling' and that doesn't mean there's something wrong with me. That doesn't mean I need to hide it. It means I need to reach out and talk to someone about this so we can work together to see how we might go forward.” From that place she has chosen to extend that same acceptance and found real connection. Which then helps keep the lines of communication open as they grow up.  “This is all about redefining what our role is as a parent. It is not the authoritarian model anymore. It is the guide, the truth teller and the encourager. Not the enforcer, not the half listener, not the critic. That those roles are only going to get us further and further from each other when the idea is right now we need to come closer.” Connect with Rachel:  Website:  handsfreemama.com Facebook: facebook.com/TheHandsFreeRevolution Instagram:  @handsfreerevolution Twitter: @handsfreemama FREE LIVE LOVE NOW LISTENING PLAN:  Click here for special 7-day listening plan for Don't Mom Alone Listeners Links Mentioned:   Live Love Now [BOOK] Only Love Today [BOOK] Amy McCready--Positive Parenting Solutions Pre-order Bonuses--21-Day Self-Care Listening Plan AND 4 Downloadable Tools for Connection Ask “Heart Questions vs. Performance Questions” Practice phrases that take you “From Conflict to Calm” Consider if you are an “Easy-to-Be-Around Adult” Exclusive Phone Lock Screen - “Connecting by Protecting” Summer of Mentorship Podcast Club Discussion Questions: What kind of parenting model did you grow up with? How has that model influenced your parenting today? Do you see your role as more of an enforcer or an encourager? What are some problem areas for your child(ren) that you can bring them in on finding a solution?  Could taking the time to listen to them make a difference in how you both respond? What is one thing you'd like to implement this week from Rachel's talk?

Dr. Kelly Flanagan joins the podcast today to explore the reflective journey through the late forties, discussing the transformative power of embracing life's limitations and the wisdom that comes with age. From celebrating milestones like birthdays and family weekends to making profound lifestyle shifts such as embracing sobriety, Kelly shares insightful narratives that reveal how midlife can be a time of deep self-discovery and personal growth. Matt and Kelly's conversations about the challenges and triumphs of this life stage provides you a roadmap to navigating your own midlife transitions with grace and intention. Whether you're approaching this phase of life or simply interested in the art of living well, this episode is filled with inspiration and practical advice.Chapters:00:00:00 - Celebrations and Reflections: Past Vs. Present00:02:02 - A New Chapter at 47: Sobriety and Insight00:04:42 - The Strength of Community: Lessons in Connection00:06:18 - Lessons in Leadership from Front Row Dads00:08:33 - The Impact of Shared Experiences and Advice00:10:57 - Embracing Change Through Community Support00:13:54 - The Creative Struggle: Embracing Vulnerability00:16:44 - From Conflict to Connection: Heartfelt Insights00:20:45 - Emotional Safety: Understanding and Overcoming Judgment00:21:38 - Holding Friends Accountable Without Judgement00:23:27 - Mastering Relationships: The Interdependence Principle00:25:51 - Authorial Vulnerability: The Inner Truths of Writing00:29:15 - Presence Over Perfection: The Freedom of Letting Go00:34:19 - Revealing the 'Control Sneak': Reframing Control00:36:05 - Reflecting on Control: Personal Stories of Growth00:38:22 - Strategies for Letting Go and Enhancing Connections00:41:00 - Final Reflections: Deepening Connections and PresenceLinks And Resources:Dr. Kelly FlanaganBooks authored by Dr. Kelly FlanaganDr. Kelly on InstagramDr. Kelly on LinkedInDr. Kelly on FacebookFind all of Kelly's links on his LinkTree hereSubscribe to HUMANING on SubstackThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Eternal Optimist? Have some feedback you'd like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Welcome to "From Conflict to Collaboration: The Art of Mediation”, Episode #136Have you ever felt trapped in a web of conflict, unsure of how to untangle the emotional threads of anger, fear, and confusion? This week, we're joined by mediator Michael Fraidenburg, co-author with fellow mediator Terry Teale, of the recently published book, “The Art of Mediation” to explore the transformative journey mediation offers in guiding individuals from impasse to insight. We discuss some of the emotional complexities of conflict, and the critical role of the mediator in fostering a safe space for genuine dialogue.Mike and I explore the subtleties of facilitative mediation, a process that hands the reins back to the conflicting parties, allowing them to steer towards their own resolutions while maintaining autonomy. Our discussion explores the mediator's dual role – resolving the present dispute while equipping individuals with the psychological tools and practical know-how to approach resolving future conflicts together without the need for professional support.You'll leave this episode equipped with Mike's three golden questions, your new go-to toolkit for reshaping perspectives and promoting flexibility in the face of disagreement. These questions aren't just for the mediation table; they're practical approaches that can be woven into the fabric of your daily personal interactions. Join us for an episode that not only provides powerful, yet easy to use tools for mediation, but also for fostering collaborative relationships in our daily lives.Must-hear highlights include:Conflict is a natural, normal part of life, and can actually be an opportunity. It's how we approach conflict that determines if the impact is constructive or destructive.The ways in which mediation empowers people to find their own solutionsThe 3 golden questions that will help you move forwardThe transformative power of the "yes, and" rule and the "good enough" standardMichael Fraidenburg, the principal of The Cooperation Company, is a Certified Mediator recognized by the Washington Mediation Association. He teaches conflict resolution for the Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County, WA and the Northwest Environmental Training Center, contributing to the skill development of professionals. His expertise includes working with prominent organizations, like the US Bureau of Land Management, the State of Washington, the City of Seattle, and the Puget Sound PartnershipMichael's co-author, Terry Teale, the principal of Heart of the Matter Mediation Services, is a certified mediator, collaborative negotiations specialist, and the past Board President of the Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County, WA.Here's where to go to learn more:Website: Please support Co-creating Peace: Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching Share on social media & tell the world about Co-creating Peace! Become a patron at www.patreon.com/CocreatingPeace Visit BridgesofPeace.com to learn more about Kathleen and her work.

Finding Fulfillment in the Relationship Season You're In - with Michelle McKinney-Hammond Michelle McKinney-Hammond and I delve into the seasons of relationships and the need to navigate the changes we find ourselves in. Welcome to part two of this important and transformative conversation. From the challenges of marriage to the importance of vulnerability and growth, this episode is packed with wisdom and relatable experiences that will resonate with listeners at any stage of their relationships. We kick off the conversation with a powerful message from Michelle, emphasizing the importance of allowing people their humanity and managing expectations in relationships. This sets the tone for the entire episode, as both Michelle and I discuss how we've had to navigate the complexities of our relationships with empathy and understanding. One of the highlights of this episode is the candid discussion about the challenges of marriage. Michelle and I discuss the need for vulnerability, growth, and maturity in relationships. Marriage is not a destination, but a journey that requires continuous effort and personal development. The exposure of personal brokenness in marriage is addressed, shedding light on the necessity of addressing and healing from past wounds for a successful partnership. Visit realrelationshiptalk.com/197 for the full show notes.    Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Michelle Hammond's Website Get Your Copy of When Shift Happens Get Your Free Resource: Conversation Starters for Heart-to-Heart Communication Register For My New Online Course! From Conflict to Connection     SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

If we're honest, we all deal with jealousy from time to time. Have you ever wondered how not to be consumed by jealousy when you see others enjoying what you desire? Welcome to another Faith Friday episode of Relationship Talk. In today's episode, we're diving back into the topic of jealousy and how to overcome it. Last week, we talked about handling jealousy from others, but today, it's all about what to do when we find ourselves struggling with jealousy. Scripture on Jealousy  James 4:1-3: What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don't they come from the evil desires at war within you? 2 You want what you don't have so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can't get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them. Yet you don't have what you want because you don't ask God for it. 3 And even when you ask, you don't get it because your motives are all wrong - you want only what will give you pleasure.  What do you do when you're jealous of something or someone in your life? Maybe it's someone else's relationship, career, or blessings. The first antidote to jealousy is simple: ask God. But ask with the right motives. Reflect on why you desire what you're asking for. If your motives are purely self-serving, it may not align with God's plan for you.  Check out the full show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/196 and learn the two antidotes for jealousy.   Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Ep. 194: Haters Gon' Hate - Dealing with Jealous People Ep. 170: When Heaven is Silent - The Truth Behind Unanswered Prayer Sign up for my brand-new “From Conflict to Connection” course Get your FREE “Speak Life” audio affirmations download here   SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Are you feeling the stirring of a new season approaching in your life and wondering how to navigate the uncertainties and opportunities it brings? I'm excited to share my conversation with best-selling author and international speaker Michelle McKinney-Hammond with you! Her influence has been monumental in my spiritual journey. Michelle's teaching at a conference years ago led to my rededication to God, and it's a story I often recount with profound gratitude. Our discussion centered around her book, When Shift Happens, which brilliantly encapsulates life's transitions through the lens of different seasons. Michelle explained how life, much like the seasons in nature, is full of cyclical changes. Embracing these seasons, understanding them, and responding appropriately is vital. When Relationships Shift  We extended our conversation to include relationships, especially marriage. Michelle emphasized the need to rediscover the joy and purpose in marriage, suggesting that couples engage in kingdom activities together. This perspective is crucial for maintaining a vibrant relationship. Find the full show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/195   Links Mentioned in This Episode:  Michelle Hammond Website Get Your Copy of When Shift Happens Get Your Free Resource: Conversation Starters for Heart-to-Heart Communication Register for my new online course! From Conflict to Connection   SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Does it seem like your spouse or partner doesn't listen to you? Maybe you find yourself wondering how to talk in order that they will listen and understand you. Listening skills are an essential topic of communication within relationships which is why I'm dedicating a new series to how to communicate in conflict called "From Conflict to Connection." Today's episode will teach you principles and guide you toward a better understanding and improving communication with your partner. I discuss common communication mistakes partners make when communicating and the importance of listening skills. I also offer practical and "pro" tips for better communication. We also explore how to approach sensitive topics, the importance of timing and mood, and how to influence your partner to listen to you when you communicate. Visit realrelationshiptalk.com/193 for the full show notes.   Links Mentioned in This Episode: Get my new Connection Course

In this episode, I talk about how to share when you're an internal processor.  If the idea of emoting sounds horrible, this is for you.Free Workshop December 13th! From Conflict to Connection: Men's Communciaiton WorkshopClick HERE to save your spot!The replay will be emailed out after. 

Dr. Robert Feirsen is currently associate professor and coordinator of the Educational Leadership Program at Manhattanville College. Previously, he was assistant professor and chair of the Education Department at New York Institute of Technology. A former SAANYS member,  Dr. Feirsen enjoyed a distinguished career in P-12 schools. As a school building leader in Westchester and Nassau Counties, he served as an elementary school principal, a middle school assistant principal, and a middle school principal. At the central office level, he served as an assistant superintendent for curriculum and instruction, deputy superintendent, and superintendent of schools. Dr. Feirsen taught at the elementary, middle, and high school levels as a social studies and special education teacher in schools in New York City before moving into supervisory roles. Dr. Feirsen holds an Ed.D. from Fordham University.Dr. Feirsen's research interests include addressing organizational conflict, the school principal-school counselor relationship, principal and teacher retention, the relationship between psychological ownership and professional learning, college readiness, and the applications of design thinking. His research and other articles have been published in a number of academic journals, as well as Educational Leadership and Education Week. Dr. Feirsen has led workshops at such venues as ASCD, the American School Counselor Association (ASCA), the American Association of Colleges for Teacher Education (AACTE), and the American Educational Research Association (AERA). With Seth Weitzman, he has presented at national and statewide conferences including ASCD, the New York State Council of School Superintendents (NYSCOSS), and the New York Association of Colleges for Teacher Education (NYACTE). Seth Weitzman, he is also the co-author of From Conflict to Collaboration: A School Leader's Guide to Unleashing Conflict's Problem-Solving Power and How to Get the Teaching Job You Want.Dr. Seth Weitzman sat in a middle school principal's chair for 27 years in Nassau and Westchester counties. Leadership positions included co-president of the Mamaroneck administrators' union, president of the Nassau County, and later, the Westchester County Middle School Principals' Association, and a New York State Middle Level Liaison (a working group of principals representing every county and BOCES in New York State meeting with NYSED officials). Together with Dr. Robert Feirsen, he is co-author of two books: How to Get the Teaching Job You Want and From Conflict to Collaboration: A School Leader's Guide to Unleashing Conflict's Problem Solving Power. He is either author or co-author of a number of articles published in national education journals including Educational Leadership and American Middle Level Education Magazine.Drs. Feirsen and Weitzman have presented in numerous professional association conferences at the county, state and local levels (e.g. Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development, American Association of School Personnel Administrators, New York State Middle School Association, New York State Association of Teacher Educators) and graduate-level classes (Teachers College, Bank Street College of Education). He is currently a Senior Instructor in the Mercy College Educational Leadership Department. His 40-year education career began teaching elementary school and middle school in Connecticut and New York City. He holds an EdD from Teachers College, Columbia University.Questions to ask:  Why did you write this book? Why is there conflict in schools? What is the impact of conflict in schools? Your book suggests leaning into conflict. Can you explain? How do school leaders typically respond to conflict?  What strategies do you suggest to deal with conflict? Can you give us some examples of how this might work? Your book makes a connection with design thinking, which comes from the field of engineering. Can you explain? We're all aware of the political climate in many schools today. Does your book help?  In today's episode, we discuss the topic of conflict.  Rob and Seth describe how it keeps principals up at night, but can be harnessed for good when we address conflict instead of avoiding it or getting angry about it.The best way for listeners to reach out to Seth Weitzman and Robert Feirsen:  info@teacheredge.net sethweitzman@yahoo.com robert.feirsen@mville.edu 

We all want attention in our relationships and will do just about anything to get it. Psychologists call this making a bid for connection. If you feel lonely or unheard, this will resonate with you today. We're emphasizing the importance of communication and attention in relationships to alleviate loneliness and discussing how to make and respond to bids for connection. Feeling disconnected and lonely, even in the presence of others, is not uncommon. Physical proximity doesn't guarantee emotional closeness. To feel close to the one you're with, both partners need to put in the work to hear what the other partner is not saying.  Key Insights and Solutions:   Recognize Bids for Connection: It's important to recognize both verbal and nonverbal cues from partners seeking connection. These cues, or "bids," can range from a sigh after a hard day to a subtle gesture for attention. Ignoring these bids can deepen feelings of loneliness and rejection. Respond Appropriately and Timely: It's best to respond to these bids in the moment, as delayed responses can exacerbate feelings of neglect. Immediate and appropriate reactions, whether it's empathetic listening or a simple acknowledgment, are huge. This lets your partner know you are actively building connection with them.  Head over to realrelationshiptalk.com/191 for the full show notes. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Need help de-escalating an argument? Get your FREE Guide: Conversation Starters for Heart-to-Heart Communication here.  Sign up for my brand-new "From Conflict to Connection" online course!   SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

As leaders we wear so many hats and we juggle so many balls. Listen as I discuss how you can prioritise which hats to wear and which balls to juggle. You are not a clown in a circus - you are not here to entertain anyone! However, you are here to lead, coach, mentor and guide your team.  Links mentioned in the episode: From Conflict to Collaboration Online Course Episode #014 | 3 Reasons Why Conflict Occurs in the Workplace Episode #015 | Can workplace conflict be healthy? Episode #016 | The characteristics of unhealthy conflict Episode #017 | Not dealing with conflict? Here's the implications How to get rid of Gossip Ebook Edition 1 (Edition 2 extended version coming in 2024!) Workplace Culture Hub website Women of Faith in Leadership website Next steps: 1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can: Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here.  Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers. 2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching call, simply email me at support@rikawhelan.com 3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan Upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program Sign up for my upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program, where I will be taking you through a step-by-step guide to get rid of workplace gossip… for good! Navigate HERE to sign up for more information. I look forward to chatting with you in the next episode. Make sure you don't miss it! Vote for podcast Real quick, please vote for my podcast in the upcoming Australian Podcast Awards. Click this link or simply navigate to womenoffaithinleadership.com where you'll find the link. Thank you for your votes.

It's a very exciting day as I launch my new online course From Conflict to Collaboration. Over the last 4 episodes, I gave you exclusive access to module 2 of this course. You can now access the full course. Enrol here: https://academy.workplaceculturehub.com/conflict-resolution As part of this online course, you will have access to: Communication Skills where I will introduce you to my BANG framework Conflict Resolution Skills 101 where I will run you through tips and strategies for resolving conflict and getting your team to move from conflict to collaboration.  A section on Emotional Intelligence and why it is so important I will also include the following resources: A workbook Communication Skills Worksheet Conflict Resolution Skills Questionnaire Emotional Intelligence Questionnaire BONUS: Mediation Tips You will also gain access to my Exclusive Facebook Group, which is only for students of the Workplace Culture Hub (my business). This is different from the free Facebook Community.  You have 2 payment options available. Please head to https://academy.workplaceculturehub.com/conflict-resolution to find out more. Next steps: 1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can: Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here.  Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers. 2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching call, email me at support@rikawhelan.com 3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan Upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program Sign up for my upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program, where I will be taking you through a step-by-step guide to get rid of workplace gossip… for good! Navigate HERE to sign up for more information. I look forward to chatting with you in the next episode. Make sure you don't miss it!

Hi, beautiful women of faith! In this podcast series, I am giving you exclusive access to module 2 of my upcoming online course "From Conflict to Collaboration". Enjoy. Please see all episodes in this series: Episode 14 - Part #1: 3 reasons why conflict occurs in the workplace Episode 15 - Part #2: Can workplace conflict be healthy? Episode 16 - Part #3: The Characteristics of unhealthy conflict Episode 17 - Part #4: Not dealing with conflict? Here are the implications The other modules in the online course include: Communication Skills Conflict Resolution 101 Conflict Prevention and Management Emotional Intelligence Join our mailing list today and ensure you are the first to know when this online course releases! Next steps: 1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can: Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here.  Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers. 2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching call, simply email me at support@rikawhelan.com 3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan Upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program Sign up for my upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program, where I will be taking you through a step-by-step guide to get rid of workplace gossip… for good! Navigate HERE to sign up for more information. I look forward to chatting with you in the next episode. Make sure you don't miss it!

Hi, beautiful women of faith! In this podcast series, I am giving you exclusive access to module 2 of my upcoming online course "From Conflict to Collaboration". Enjoy. Please see all episodes in this series: Episode 14 - Part #1: 3 reasons why conflict occurs in the workplace Episode 15 - Part #2: Can workplace conflict be healthy? Episode 16 - Part #3: The Characteristics of unhealthy conflict Episode 17 - Part #4: Not dealing with conflict? Here are the implications The other modules in the online course include: Communication Skills Conflict Resolution 101 Conflict Prevention and Management Emotional Intelligence Join our mailing list today and ensure you are the first to know when this online course releases! Next steps: 1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can: Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here.  Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers. 2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching call, simply email me at support@rikawhelan.com 3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan Upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program Sign up for my upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program, where I will be taking you through a step-by-step guide to get rid of workplace gossip… for good! Navigate HERE to sign up for more information. I look forward to chatting with you in the next episode. Make sure you don't miss it!

Hi, beautiful women of faith! In this podcast series, I am giving you exclusive access to module 2 of my upcoming online course "From Conflict to Collaboration". Enjoy. Please see all episodes in this series: Episode 14 - Part #1: 3 reasons why conflict occurs in the workplace Episode 15 - Part #2: Can workplace conflict be healthy? Episode 16 - Part #3: The Characteristics of unhealthy conflict Episode 17 - Part #4: Not dealing with conflict? Here are the implications The other modules in the online course include: Communication Skills Conflict Resolution 101 Conflict Prevention and Management Emotional Intelligence Join our mailing list today and ensure you are the first to know when this online course releases! Next steps: 1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can: Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here.  Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers. 2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching call, simply email me at support@rikawhelan.com 3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan Upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program Sign up for my upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program, where I will be taking you through a step-by-step guide to get rid of workplace gossip… for good! Navigate HERE to sign up for more information. I look forward to chatting with you in the next episode. Make sure you don't miss it!

From Conflict to Collaboration #1 I am going to be doing something a bit different over the next 4 episodes. I am giving you full access to the first module of my upcoming online course - From Conflict to Collaboration In this first episode, a very short one, I discuss 3 reasons why conflict occurs in the workplace. In the upcoming episodes, I'm teaching on Episode 015 | Does Healthy Conflict Exist? From Conflict to Collaboration #2 Episode 016 | What does unhealthy conflict look like? From Conflict to Collaboration #3 Episode 017 | Not dealing with conflict? Here are the implications - From Conflict to Collaboration #4 The other modules in the course include: Communication Skills Conflict Resolution 101 Conflict Prevention and Management Emotional Intelligence To learn more about this upcoming online course, and be the first to know the launch date, receive a special discount and other added bonuses, make sure you are either signed up to our mailing list or have joined the Facebook Community. Next steps: 1. Navigate to https://www.womenoffaithinleadership.com where you can: Join the community of like-minded female Christian leaders. This is where I will be hanging out if I'm not on the podcast chatting to you all. Come share and support each other here.  Subscribe to my newsletter so you can stay up to date with all upcoming episodes and any other exclusive or special offers. 2. If you need any support, you can get in contact with me for a 1:1 coaching call, simply email me at support@rikawhelan.com 3. Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikawhelan Upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program Sign up for my upcoming From Gossip to Growth Program, where I will be taking you through a step-by-step guide to get rid of workplace gossip… for good! Navigate HERE to sign up for more information. I look forward to chatting with you in the next episode. Make sure you don't miss it!

Armenien steht derzeit im Fokus der Öffentlichkeit, die Lage in Bergkarabach bestimmt die Schlagzeilen. Gemeinsam mit der Osteuropahistorikerin Arpine Maniero blicken wir auf die Gründe der heutigen Gemengelage, auf die historischen Trendlinien – und auf Perspektiven für die Gegenwart.Literaturtipp: Arsène Saparov, From Conflict to Autonomy in the CaucasusUnterstützen Sie uns einmalig oder regelmäßig hierDie Website der SalonkolumnistenDer Ostausschuss der Salonkolumnisten auf TwitterArpine Maniero auf TwitterDas Panel auf Twitter:Gabriele WoidelkoDr. Franziska DaviesProf. Jan Claas BehrendsDr. Gustav GresselDas Moderationsteam:Jan-Philipp HeinRichard VolkmannDavid HarnaschProducer: David HarnaschAudio Engineering: Konrad-Adenauer-StiftungTitle track vocals: Masha (10, from Odesa)

In this episode: Why setting boundaries is so challenging. Becoming aware of your boundary setting style How to handle your fear of the other person's reactions How to create Cooperation and Connection, rather than conflict, which is what we all truly want. For a deeper dive into Setting Effective Boundaries, my on- line course: “From Conflict to Connection” will transform your relationship with boundaries and assist you to create effective boundaries, connection and real cooperation and intimacy in your relationships! From Conflict To Connection | The Soul Care Classroom (suzilula.com) Sit back, this is your sanctuary, your time … Enjoy!

Are you ready to dive into the heart of conflict and discover what's really driving those disagreements with your partner? Join me in this powerful episode as we delve into the profound impact of underlying fears in our relationships. Have you ever wondered why certain conflicts keep resurfacing in your marriage? In this episode, we explore the truth behind our reactions during conflicts and the subconscious fears that influence our responses.We'll uncover the five primal fears that all other fears originate from:1. Humiliation2. Mutilation3. Loss of Autonomy4. Separation, Abandonment, or Rejection5. Fear of Ego DeathBy identifying the root of your fears, you can begin the journey from conflict to clarity. I share a practical 4-step process to help you understand the origin of fear behind your conflicts and, ultimately, to better communicate with your partner.Take notes and start applying these insights to your relationship. This transformative episode is a must-listen if you're seeking a deeper connection and resolution in your marriage.Ready to embark on this empowering journey? Tune in now to EP 130: From Conflict to Clarity: Identifying Your Deepest Fears. You'll be amazed at how understanding your fears can lead to growth and a more fulfilling relationship with the one you're with.Episodes Referenced:Ep 70 Going from Conflict to Deeper ConnectionEp 81 Book Highlights from Terrance Real's book USBlog Why Avoiding Conflict Creates More Conflict and Getting Good at ResolutionCBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDownload my free Love Affirmations Mini-Course to help you to start thinking and feeling in a way that feels more like love. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.InstagramFacebook

In this episode, we talk with Dr. Robert Feirsen and Dr. Seth Weitzman about their new book From Conflict to Collaboration: A School Leader's Guide to Unleashing Conflict's Problem-Solving Power.We talk about how to avoid conflict, the three A's to approach conflict, and much more.About the GuestsDr. Robert Feirsen is currently an associate professor and coordinator of the Educational Leadership Program at Manhattanville College. Previously, he was assistant professor and chair of the Education Department at the New York Institute of Technology. A former SAANYS member, Dr. Feirsen enjoyed a distinguished career in P-12 schools. As a school building leader in Westchester and Nassau Counties, he served as an elementary school principal, a middle school assistant principal, and a middle school principal. At the central office level, he served as an assistant superintendent for curriculum and instruction, deputy superintendent, and superintendent of schools. Dr. Feirsen taught at the elementary, middle, and high school levels as a social studies and special education teacher in schools in New York City before moving into supervisory roles. Dr. Feirsen holds an Ed.D. from Fordham University. Dr. Feirsen's research interests include addressing organizational conflict, the school principal-school counselor relationship, principal and teacher retention, the relationship between psychological ownership and professional learning, college readiness, and the applications of design thinking. His research and other articles have been published in a number of academic journals, as well as Educational Leadership and Education Week. Dr. Feirsen has led workshops at such venues as ASCD, the American School Counselor Association (ASCA), the American Association of Colleges for Teacher Education (AACTE), and the American Educational Research Association (AERA). With Seth Weitzman, he has presented at national and statewide conferences including ASCD, the New York State Council of School Superintendents (NYSCOSS), and the New York Association of Colleges for Teacher Education (NYACTE). Seth Weitzman is also the co-author of From Conflict to Collaboration: A School Leader's Guide to Unleashing Conflict's Problem-Solving Power and How to Get the Teaching Job You Want.Dr. Seth Weitzman sat in a middle school principal's chair for 27 years in Nassau and Westchester counties. Leadership positions included co-president of the Mamaroneck administrators' union, president of the Nassau County, and later, the Westchester County Middle School Principals' Association, and a New York State Middle-Level Liaison (a working group of principals representing every county and BOCES in New York State meeting with NYSED officials). Together with Dr. Robert Feirsen, he is the co-author of two books: How to Get the Teaching Job You Want and From Conflict to Collaboration: A School Leader's Guide to Unleashing Conflict's Problem-Solving Power. He is either author or co-author of a number of articles published in national education journals including Educational Leadership and American Middle-Level Education Magazine. Drs. Feirsen and Weitzman have presented in numerous professional association conferences at the county, state, and local levels (e.g. Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development, American Association of School Personnel Administrators, New York State Middle School Association, New York State Association of Teacher Educators) and graduate-level classes (Teachers College, Bank Street College of Education). He is currently Senior Instructor in the Mercy College Educational Leadership Department. His 40-year education career began teaching elementary school and middle school in Connecticut and New York City. He holds an EdD from Teachers College, Columbia University. We're so grateful to our sponsor AI Coach by Edthena. AI Coach enables your teachers to go through coaching cycles based on their own needs. The virtual coach guides teachers to reflect on their teaching, set a goal, and create an action plan… all based on gathering classroom evidence. It gives support between PD days  and other coaching cycles.Get a free trial for your teachers here.

Get the book, From Conflict to Collaboration: A School Leader's Guide to Unleashing Conflict's Problem-Solving Power Follow Seth on Twitter @SethWeitzman About the Authors Dr. Robert Feirsen has served as an assistant principal, principal, deputy superintendent, and superintendent of schools. He teaches courses in school leadership at Manhattanville College. Dr. Seth Weitzman served 27 years as a principal, totaling three decades of school building administration, all in middle schools. He held leadership positions in professional associations and professional learning networks at the district, county and state levels.

Today's guest is New York Times bestselling author and clinical psychologist, Dr. Shefali. She's an expert in family dynamics and personal development and teaches courses around the world. She's written a multitude of books, including The Conscious Parent, The Awakened Family, and her newest book, The Parenting Map, with step-by-step solutions to consciously create the ultimate parent-child relationship. Dr. Shefali offers a profoundly practical and groundbreaking parenting solution that helps parents actualize their deepest desires for their children. This step-by-step guide disrupts toxic inherited patterns and replaces them with authentic connections that allow us to see and respond to our children for who they are, and who they can become. The book is a minimalist approach to parenting, which is truly getting to the basics, knowing they are good enough, and actually more important than all the other things that we've built up to be important milestones for our children. Focusing on healing ourselves, letting go of control, and allowing for the playful, fun of childhood will lead to the most resilient adults. In this conversation, Dr. Shefali opens my eyes to the incredible opportunity in ditching the rules and need for control. Thank you to Dr. Shefali for spreading this message to parents that doing a good job doesn't mean being perfect, it really just means getting the basics right. I took lots of notes during this conversation, and I know other parents out there will get a lot of value from it as well. I'm so excited to welcome Dr. Shefali to the show!We also cover…00:04:00 — The Key Principles for Conscious ParentingWhat's different about her latest book, The Parenting MapReviewing the 3 stages of conscious parenting - 1. Frustration to Clarity, 2. From Dysfunctional Patterns to Conscious Choice, 3. From Conflict to ConnectionWhy we don't need to have total control over our childrenChanging our expectations of our children to create less frustrationWhat rules matter versus what rules are arbitraryThe thing that will negatively impact a child many parents unintentionally do00:18:00 — Breaking the Cycle: Inner Child Work & ReparentingHow the ego plays a huge role in parentingSomething a conscious parent wouldn't sayThe 5 main ego patterns: breaking patterns from childhood Where to start doing inner child workWhat reparenting can look likeHow to show up in a conscious way for your child00:29:00 — Tips for Reconnecting with Your Child & Cultivating Creativity in ParentingAdvice for feeling shame around not being a good enough parentWhat showing up better looks likeReframing mistakes to reconnect with a childWhy punishment is the greatest cause of disconnectionThe root cause of what parents find to be disrespectful behaviorInviting creativity into parentingInsight about the disadvantages of screen time Resources:Website: drshefali.comInstagram: @drshefali Institute: Conscious Parenting MethodRead: The Parenting Map by Dr. ShefaliRead:

Rosa supports leaders and groups around the world to work creatively with divergent perspectives. Her mission is developing our collective capacity to transform friction into useful energy and greater insight. Author of From Conflict to Creative Collaboration, a manual on Dynamic Facilitation. She also just finished her Ph.D. so soon we should say Dr. Rosa Zubizaretta.  This has freed up her time to take on new clients after some time steeped in academia. What would happen if helping a neighbor with a conflict was as normal as waking up in the morning?  What if our companies had an ethos that conflict is not only natural but good and has a hearty system for restoring after conflict?  That is what Traci and Rosa discuss as well as why we need to not start with our most difficult political rivals but make resolving conflict with those close to us our first order of business. Episode Timeline [00:09] Intro  [1:41] Meet Rosa [3:21] Rosa's contribution to the Sidewalk Talk Bus Tour [5:23] German and European ties [7:16] We need each other [8:51] De shame yourself [11:42] Common causes of conflict [15:43] How conflict is in heaven [18:56] Dominic Barter's restorative circles [25:40] Start where it is easy [33:30] Love wrestling with your husband [38:08] Passionate conflict is an energy turbine [41:32] The roots of violence [46:18] Closing [48:35] Outro Resources Mentioned From Conflict to Creative Collaboration (Book) Standout Quotes “I just want to start with the fact that as human beings, we get into messes with each other” (Rosa) “Anybody can learn how to hold space productively for another person and listen deeply.” (Rosa) “If the 99 % could figure out how to do collaboration between us, we'd be so F* strong,” (Rosa) “But we grew up in a culture where we do not learn how to confront people with love. ” (Rosa) “Conflict happens when we're at our edge. It's like, there's an edge there. There's something that I don't know or understand yet, or something's getting triggered or something. And so it's a potential growth place. ” (Rosa) “I think conflict is a potentially renewable, sustainable source of energy ” (Rosa) “We just have to open the space so that we are not butt heads against each other, but that that passion gets harnessed.” (Rosa) Connect Find | Sidewalk Talk  At sidewalk-talk.org On Instagram: @sidewalktalkorg On Twitter: @sidewalktalkorg   Find | Traci Ruble At Traciruble.com On Instagram: @TraciRubleMFT On Twitter: @TraciRubleMFT On Facebook: @TraciRubleMFT   Find | Rosa Zubizarreta At www.diapraxis.com  www.co-intelligence.institute On LinkedIn: @rosazubizarreta   SUBSCRIBE TO THIS PODCAST On Apple Podcasts On Google Podcasts On Spotify On YouTube  

This week we are joined by Gwen Olton, Executive Co-Director of the M.K. Gandhi Institute for Nonviolence and author of From Conflict to Community: Solving Problems Without Authorities. She talks through the basics and complications of problem solving as well as how she chose Microcosm to publish her book and the role that power plays in any disagreement—as well as how to overcome it through conversation!

Unresolved workplace conflict wastes time, increases stress, and negatively affects business outcomes. But, Marlene Chism writes, conflict isn't the problem—mismanagement is. The author, advisor, speaker, coach, and CEO of Marlene Chism Consulting's new book From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading  details how the “three A's”—aggression, avoidance, and appeasing—are common yet destructive ways humans avoid the emotions triggered by conflict.  Chism's book provides exercises, examples, and expert guidance to foster “conflict capacity,” stop workplace drama, and deal fearlessly with difficult issues head-on. Her techniques show leaders how to increase leadership clarity, identify obstacles, and reduce resistance to conflict.  When leaders see conflict as a teacher, courageously face it, and continually work on transforming themselves, Chism says, they can get the resolution they are seeking and can change minds.About Marlene From Conflict to Courage is Marlene Chism's fourth leadership book; see her other works here.She is a seasoned speaker, thought partner, advisor, coach, author, and widely recognized as the leading US authority on stopping workplace drama. She is CEO of Marlene Chism Consulting, which offers a comprehensive suite of consulting services to businesses and leaders. Marlene has a bachelor's degree in communications from Drury University, and a master's in human resources development from Webster University.  She is an advanced practitioner in Narrative coaching. See her business page here, LinkedIn here, Twitter here, and YouTube channel here.Rebel HR is a podcast for HR professionals and leaders of people who are ready to make some disruption in the world of work.We'll be discussing topics that are disruptive to the world of work and talk about new and different ways to approach solving those problems.Follow Rebel HR Podcast at:www.rebelhumanresources.comhttps://twitter.com/rebelhrguyhttps://www.facebook.com/rebelhrpodcastwww.kyleroed.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/kyle-roed/ Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showRebel HR is a podcast for HR professionals and leaders of people who are ready to make some disruption in the world of work. Please connect to continue the conversation! https://twitter.com/rebelhrguyhttps://www.facebook.com/rebelhrpodcasthttp://www.kyleroed.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/kyle-roed/

2:27 The legacy of free trade in America 4:55 Adam's new book Opening Up by Cracking Down, about the repression of union activism in developing countries 18:17 Car bombing and other ways Argentina subdued labor in the 80's 28:08 Why did the US open up trade so early? 33:03 The quasi-dystopian law India used to break strikes in the 90's 38:12 Underacknowledged long-term effects of free trade 42:49 Is a pro-labor approach to free trade possible? 57:46 Making globalism great again Robert Wright (Bloggingheads.tv, The Evolution of God, Nonzero, Why Buddhism Is True) and Adam Dean (George Washington University, From Conflict to Coalition). Recorded December 15, 2022. Comments on BhTV: http://bloggingheads.tv/videos/65436 Twitter: https://twitter.com/bloggingheads Facebook: https://facebook.com/bloggingheads/ Podcasts: https://bloggingheads.tv/subscribe This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nonzero.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode of Partnering Leadership, Mahan Tavakoli speaks with Marlene Chism. Marlene Chism is the leading authority on stopping workplace drama and the author of four books, including her most recent book, From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading. In the conversation, Marlene Chism shares what leaders get wrong about conflict, the negative consequences of avoiding conflict, and how to most effectively address conflict by changing our narrative.  Some Highlights:-Marlene Chism on what we get wrong about conflict in the workplace-Why we need to change our narrative before being able to address conflict-The importance of the inner game in addressing conflict-How to face conflict courageously-Marlene Chism on why conflict is an essential part of growth and authentic relationships-How to channel conflict into courageous conversationsAdditional episodes:Partnering Leadership conversation with Dr. Timothy Clark on the Four Stages of Psychological Safety, Listen HerePartnering Leadership conversation with Jim Detert on Choosing Courage, Listen HereConnect with Marlene Chism:Marlene Chism Website Marlene Chism LinkedIn From Conflict to Courage on AmazonConnect with Mahan Tavakoli:https://mahantavakoli.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/mahan/ More information and resources are available at the Partnering Leadership Podcast website: https://www.partneringleadership.com/

Sometimes without even realizing it, we get in our own way. Especially in how we parent. In this episode we talk about the importance of acknowledging our blindspots and making shifts.  "From Conflict to Connection" begins Monday October 5 https://www.buildfamilyconnection.com/classes-page/

According to Marlene Chism, conflict isn't the problem - mismanagement of conflict is. If you think of almost any conflict you've ever had, it can be traced back to a conversation that should have happened but didn't. As the author of From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading, Marlene joins us on this episode of The Workplace Communication Podcast, Marlene joins us to talk about the role of avoiding, appeasing and aggression in conflict and guides listeners to reflect how identity drives behaviour. Leadership tips you won't want to miss:

Dr. Nathan Regier is joined by Marlene Chism to talk about conflict and drama, and how they are related to communication, compassion, and accountability. High-level leaders seek Marlene's expertise as a thought partner, advisor, or coach when going through periods of transition or change. Organizations seek Marlene's leadership development courses to teach mid-level and senior leaders strategic communication skills to initiate conversations that get results and increase accountability. Marlene is the author of four books, including Stop Workplace Drama; No-Drama Leadership; 7 Ways to Stop Drama in Your Healthcare Practice, and From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading.   Key Takeaways: [1:48] Marlene talks about why she chose to dedicate her career to equipping leaders with conflict and accountability communication skills. [3:07] What is the genesis of Marlene's book From Conflict to Courage? [4:45] How did Marlene structure her book to accomplish her goal? [6:15] How does Marlene define conflict? [7:55] Marlene explains how conflict is caused. [10:39] Marlene defines drama. [14:16] What is involved in building conflict capacity? [17:40] Marlene talks about the value of personal responsibility. [18:42] How do people misunderstand their responsibility? [20:34] Marlene unpacks emotional intelligence and explains why it is so important during conflict. [21:39] Marlene talks about integrity. [26:45] Marlene speaks of the danger of justification. [29:15] Marlene shares a tool to work with the resistance to change, nothing happens without willingness. [33:20] Marlene shares her perspective on compassion. [35:21] Marlene shares her passion for the topic of leadership identity. [37:27] Marlene's advice: Work on yourself and seek clarity. [38:57] Nate shares the highlights of an amazing conversation with Marlene Chism   Mentioned in this episode: The Compassion Mindset Learn more about Marlene Chism Consulting.  Follow Marlene Chism on Linkedin    Tweetables: “Every major problem can be traced back to a conversation that should have happened, but didn't.” #oncompassion    “There is no conflict unless there is inner conflict.” #oncompassion   “Conflict is not the problem, mismanagement is the problem.” #oncompassion   “The more responsibility you have, the more choices you should have.” #oncompassion   “Change your interpretation and you  will change your experience.” #oncompassion   “Nothing happens without willingness.” #oncompassion

Caught in a work conflict? Not sure what to do? Today on Conflict Managed, Marlene Chism, seasoned speaker, thought partner, advisor, coach, and author, encourages us to change the narrative in difficult circumstances. Marlene recounts a situation at work where she backed down from what was in her best interest. Convinced “there's nothing I can do about it now,” she was encouraged to rethink that narrative and be creative. She wasn't powerless. She could choose to act. Did she? What was the outcome? Listen to find out how one act of courage can change a person's life. Marlene Chism is CEO of Marlene Chism Consulting, which offers a comprehensive suite of consulting services to businesses and leaders. Widely recognized as the leading US authority on stopping workplace drama, she works with C-Suite leaders to build drama-free cultures that drive growth and reduce costly mistakes. Marlene is known for helping managers address “the elephant in the room” and initiate conversations that get results. Her expertise includes leadership development, conflict management, and strategic communications. Marlene's leadership development courses are instrumental in teaching mid-level and senior leaders the strategic communication skills to initiate conversations that get results and increase accountability. She's a recognized expert on the LinkedIn (formerly Lynda) global learning platform, producing educational videos on Anger Management, Having Difficult Conversations, Working with High Conflict People, and Managing Conflict and Getting Results in a Hybrid Work Environment.  In addition to her latest work From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading (2022) Marlene has authored  Stop Workplace Drama (Wiley 2011), No-Drama Leadership (Bibliomotion 2015), and Stop Drama in Your Healthcare Practice (Greenbranch 2018). Marlene has a degree in communications from Drury University, and a master's degree in human resources development from Webster University.  She is an advanced practitioner in Narrative coaching. You can find Marlene online at: https://marlenechism.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/marlenechism/ https://www.youtube.com/marlenechism Please like and subscribe to Conflict Managed wherever you listen to podcasts. Conflict Managed is hosted by Merry Brown and produced by Third Party Workplace Conflict Restoration Services. Contact us at 3PConflictRestoration@gmail.com. Our music is courtesy of Dove Pilot.

If there's one thing leaders everywhere want to avoid it's conflict in the workplace. Not only is workplace conflict counterproductive and stressful, but it makes everyone feel uncomfortable. But what if the problem is not with conflict itself, but with how we mismanage conflict? That's the perspective of conflict expert Marlene Chism, my guest for this episode of “Leadership Biz Cafe”. Marlene is an expert on identifying and stopping workplace drama, and she's worked with leaders to help them build drama-free workplace cultures that drive growth and long term success. Marlene also happens to be one of the very first guests I had on my podcast over 10 years ago when we talked about her book “Stop Workplace Drama”. This time, I've invited Marlene back on my podcast to talk to me about her latest book “From Conflict to Courage: How To Stop Avoiding and Start Leading”*. Over the course of this episode, Marlene and I discuss: What we get wrong about conflict that makes leaders mismanage these situationsThe three distinct elements of conflict capacity and how they can help leaders better manage workplace conflictWhy we need to change the narrative we tell about ourselves if we are to manage conflict more effectivelyThe two types of resistance we should be focusing on to resolve workplace conflictsHow getting out of our comfort zone is key to successfully manage conflict If you've been enjoying my podcast, I'd like to ask you to please take a quick moment to rate our podcast on your preferred podcast platform. And if you can, to also write a short review to help others discover my podcast and also benefit from the leadership insights shared on this show. https://open.spotify.com/episode/48DyGZSDx1CiL4s2bhCv0A?si=043db80422ee424e Noteworthy links: Buy Marlene's book “From Conflict to Courage” on Amazon*Learn more about Marlene's work - marlenechism.comListen to my interview with Marlene about her book “Stop Workplace Drama” *sponsored link that helps to support this podcast. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

Today's marvelous guest on the Speak Up with Laura Camacho podcast is Marlene Chism, public speaker and author of From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading. After 20 years as a blue-collar factory worker, Marlene knew she wanted more but wasn't sure what it was. Her path eventually led her to be a consultant and public speaker. After a few very difficult years as a motivational speaker, she went back to school to get her Masters. As the pandemic began, she saw an opportunity for a book about improving relationships at work. She published her findings in: From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading. In this extremely relevant episode we discuss: -Why conflict is not the problem, but the way we manage it is -The three primary forms of avoidance -The three parts of emotional integrity -What you can do as a team leader when reports are in conflict -Her process for breaking down an interpersonal conflict at work -The three parts that expand your conflict capacity -Why the person who has clarity “navigates the ship” -What to do when the culture at work is not conducive to honest and open conversations This episode of Speak Up with Laura Camacho is brought to you by The Practical Guide to Effective Communication: Get Recognized for the Value You Already Contribute.

Did you know that conflict is never the issue, but mismanagement of conflict is? As a Leader, the more you're able to expand yourself to confront, deal with, and solve conflict, the more at ease you will be with it. It's important to be aware of your mismanagement pattern, in order to be a better conflict Manager. In this episode of the Legendary Leaders Podcast, we have Marlene Chism, a Consultant, Author, and the Leading Authority on stopping workplace drama. Marlene works with Leaders to build drama-free cultures, that drive growth and reduce costly mistakes. Marlene is known for helping Managers address “the elephant in the room” and initiates conversations, that get results. She's a recognized expert on the LinkedIn Learning Platform, producing five educational video series on topics that include: ‘Anger Management, Working with High-Conflict people, and Having Difficult Conversations.' Marlene has a degree in Communications, a Master's in Human Resources Development, and she's an Advanced Practitioner in Narrative Coaching. Listen in to learn why mismanagement is the problem, and not conflict, plus, the three patterns that lead to mismanagement. You will also learn how expanding your conflict capacity leads to personal expansion, self-awareness, and the acceptance of others. This podcast is sponsored by InnerProfessional online training programs. With courses geared specifically for Legendary Leaders, InnerProfessional provides an extraordinary catalog of leadership and professional development programs unlike any online training you've experienced before. Key Takeaways: How avoidance, appeasing and aggression patterns, lead to mismanagement. Why you need to address the conflict, after calming down from an anger outburst. How to recognize your choice to find your power and be at your capacity. Learn to do good work without focusing on trying to change negative minds. How to have the willingness to listen to opposing views, to have the complete picture. How expanding your conflict capacity leads to personal expansion and self-awareness.  Episode timeline: [1:13] Intro [5:29] Marlene explains why mismanagement is the issue, not conflict. [8:39] How our family of origin shapes our identity and the patterns we adapt to as adults. [10:45] Marlise explains the process of writing her latest book and the lessons she learned along the way. [16:05] Why you should ensure an opportunity is aligned with your goals and values. [19:37] How Managers create conflict by operating from fear, rather than from their values. [23:06] The model, to help you get clarity as a Leader and how to give your employees clarity. [26:57] Why Conflict Management is more applicable to people who identify as Leaders. [31:41] The importance of noticing when you're at capacity, and how you want to show up. [41:38] How to reprogram your mind and have a plan to help you deal with conflict. [49:40] How to handle the conflict that arises when your opinion differs from others. [58:20] The benefits of expanding your conflict capacity as opposed to embracing conflict.  Quotes: “If the opportunity forces you to go against your values, you will suffer.”- Marlene Chism [17:28] “Do what works for you; it's about your life, whatever methodology is working for you, that's really what you need to adopt.”- Marlene Chism [32:54] “If you can recognize your choice, you can find your power.” - Marlene Chism [40:34] “Every conflict, any discussion, and any situation, can bring so much learning.”- Cathleen Merkel [53:24] “The need to be right soothes the ego, but the willingness to be wrong, changes the culture.”- Marlene Chism [54:46]   Find | Marlene Chism Business Website: https://marlenechism.com/ On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marlenechism/ On YouTube: https://youtube.com/marlenechism   Book: From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading. Bio:  Marlene Chism is a Consultant, an Author and the Leading Authority on stopping Workplace Drama. She works with Leaders to build drama-free cultures that drive growth and reduce costly mistakes. Marlene is known for helping Managers address “the elephant in the room” and initiate conversations, that gets results. Marlene is a recognized expert on the LinkedIn Learning Platform, producing five educational video series on topics that include: ‘Anger Management, Working with High Conflict people, and Having Difficult conversations'. She has a degree in Communications, a Master's in Human Resources Development, and she's an Advanced Practitioner in Narrative Coaching. Marlene is the Author of five books including her latest book, ‘From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading.    Connect: Find | Cathleen Merkel At cathleenmerkel.com On Instagram: @CathleenMerkel On Facebook: @CathleenMerkelCoaching On LinkedIn: @CathleenMerkel   SUBSCRIBE TO THIS PODCAST On Apple Podcasts.   About Cathleen Merkel:   As a Thought Leader in the Mindset & (Self-) Leadership space, Cathleen supports high achieving,  worn-out women create a more content & balanced life without sacrificing their hard-earned success. Following a simple 6 step framework, Cathleen helps you not only reconnect with your inner feminine side; Cathleen also supports you to rediscover your REAL YOU! Cathleen focuses on women who have lost their sense of purpose, who feel they are ‘running in a hamster wheel', trying to please everyone but themselves. She helps you to turn your careers, your social connections and personal life around, so that you will start feeling fulfilled and excited again about the days to come.  At the end of the process, Cathleen's clients will feel healthier, happier, energised and clear about their future.   With over 15 years of Leadership experience in Retail, Media & Broadcasting, Engineering and Property Investment, Cathleen has not only experienced the challenges and opportunities of a Female Leader herself; she has also been leading and supporting various Leadership Development initiatives within large, complex, multinational matrix organisations. Only by deeply experiencing her very personal life challenges – ‘hitting a wall experiences' – was Cathleen able to redefine her own purpose, deciding to bring ease and content to as many women as possible on the planet!   Tune in here:  https://apple.co/2CaSQ5K  https://spoti.fi/2XzM4QJ  https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/85d200fb-8e1d-46b3-b550-b00b9666f00f/The-Legendary-Leaders-Podcast

Marlene Chism tells her story of becoming a gifted speaker, narrative coach and author from work a 20 year career at a factory. Her fifth book, From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading, works through mismanagement of leadership in ways to help us all benefit from redefining conflict and developing the capacity to deal with it rather than avoid it.

Unresolved workplace conflict wastes time increases stress, and negatively affects business outcomes. Marlene Chism, author, advisor, speaker, coach, and CEO of Marlene Chism Consulting, writes in her book From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading how the “three A's”—aggression, avoidance, and appeasing—are common yet destructive ways humans avoid the emotions triggered by conflict.  Listen to Jennifer Furlong and Marlene Chism as they discuss workplace conflict resolution, how to decrease drama and improve the bottom line. To contact Jennifer for communication skills training for your workforce or for you, visit her website at  https://www.communicationtwentyfourseven.com/To contact Marlene and learn more about her work, check out the following URLs:https://marlenechism.com/https://www.youtube.com/marlenechismhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/marlenechism/Audible Plus Free 30 Day Trial: https://amzn.to/2X63FUJAudible Premium Plus Free 30 Day Trial: https://amzn.to/3nmrAK5Give Audible as a Gift!: https://amzn.to/3Agkwm9Podcasting Power HourOne Hour of Podcasting Q&A with Jeff Townsend, aka The Podcast Father, Greg founder of...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifyBuzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show

In this special episode, John talks to CEO, Author and Consultant, Marlene Chism. Marlene is a very interesting person. She is a seasoned speaker, advisor and is widely recognised as the leading US authority on stopping workplace drama. John knew Marlene would be a great fit for the podcast because her knowledge will speak to a lot of you who might be struggling with workplace drama and its impact on the office culture. During their time together, John and Marlene talk about how to deal with conflict in the workplace, the significance of facing it head on and how to get better at having these uncomfortable conversations with your team. Marlene is also here to talk about her new book, From Conflict to Courage. This is her fourth leadership book and one not to miss out on. Her book provides exercises, examples, and expert guidance to foster ‘conflict capacity' stop workplace drama and deal fearlessly with difficult issues. Marlene's techniques show leaders how to increase leadership clarity, identify obstacles and reduce resistance to conflict. Are you a good communicator? Are you struggling with your team? Tune into this episode for an in-depth conversation on dealing with conflict in the workplace. Follow Marlene on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/marlenechism/ Visit Marlene's website and order her new book - https://marlenechism.com/ KEY TAKEAWAYS You must face conflict head on and as early as possible. Don't pass the book. When it comes to dealing with workplace conflict, staff should know exactly who to come to for help and feel comfortable to do so. Everyone needs to feel confident and comfortable at work. If there any unresolved issues, this will affect the whole working environment and other staff members. BEST MOMENTS “Understand that conflict itself is not the problem. The real problem is mismanagement. So, if mismanagement is the problem, once we learn how to identify conflict and manage it differently, then we just get to be better leaders, have better lives, that improves every facet of our lives.” “There's no conflict unless there is inner conflict first.” VALUABLE RESOURCES Leadership Revealed Podcast Castledene Sales & Lettings ABOUT THE HOST John has several Estate and Letting Agencies in the North-East of England. He also has a consultancy business, in which he teaches other agents how to grow and scale a sustainable business. John is recording podcasts to grow in the estate agency space, but also to try and break into other industries. The formula John has developed for estate agency success, is transferable into other SME industries. CONTACT METHOD https://www.instagram.com/johnpaulmentor/ https://www.facebook.com/agencyconsulting/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-paul-14167211/ johnpaul@agency-consulting.co.uk See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Meet Marlene Chism: Marlene is a seasoned speaker, thought partner, advisor, coach, and author. She is CEO of Marlene Chism Consulting and is Widely recognized as the leading US authority on stopping workplace drama.  She's the author of four books, her most recent being From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading. Her expertise includes leadership development, conflict management, and strategic communications. She's a recognized expert on Anger Management, Having Difficult Conversations, Working with High Conflict People, and Managing Conflict and Getting Results in a Hybrid Work Environment.  What I love about Marlene is that she has dedicated her life to solving one of the foundational divides between people and their success… Dealing with conflict. Just think about it. What is the cause of almost every relationship issue, what is the biggest issue in terms of being an effective leader, or more personally what is at the heart of most of your current challenges, personal or business related? ... In almost every case, the answer is Conflict and our inability to deal with it effectively. So regardless of whether you want to take your business, your relationships or your overall life to the next level… Getting good with conflict is a true accelerator to creating the life of your dreams. So buckle up, this is going to be a good one. Connect with Marlene:  Business page here LinkedIn here Twitter here YouTube channel here. ... If you're interested in learning more about challenges and how you can use them to maximize your reach, increase your impact and grow your coaching business just click here: http://mychallengecreator.com/

Marlene's most recent book is From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading. We discuss dysfunctional leadership identities and how they can lead to conflict.  How to increase your conflict capacity. And how structure leads to behavior. You can find Marlene on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marlenechism/. You can also reach her by email, at marlene@marlenechism.com. Her website, https://marlenechism.com/ , offers information about her book, her services, and insightful comments on her blog. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/And you can follow us on Twitter @conflictsolving.  

When leaders can see conflict as a teacher, face it with courage, and continually work on transforming themselves, they can get the resolution they are seeking. Unresolved workplace conflict wastes time increases stress, and negatively affects business outcomes. But conflict isn't the problem, mismanagement is. Leaders unintentionally mismanage conflict when they fall into patterns of “the Three As:” aggression, avoidance, and appeasing. In this episode, Marlene Chism, author of From Conflict to Courage gives you exercises, examples, and expert guidance on developing all three elements needed to improve your capacity for conflict and address conflict head-on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Marlene Chism works with C-Suite leaders to build drama-free cultures that drive growth and reduce costly mistakes. She's the author of four commercially-published books and a LinkedIn Learning instructor. Marlene shares simple ways to deal with conflict. Marlene advises using curiosity to learn more about the parties to the conflict, and explains the dangers for new leaders of being nice. She also shares leadership traits and the importance of being in alignment. And remember, willingness is the fulcrum point of change.   Key Takeaways [1:52] Marlene Chism loves to dance. Marlene suggests turning off his “thinking brain” to find his rhythm! [3:38] Marlene says we mismanage conflict with the three “A”s: Appeasement, Aggression, and Avoidance. When we think of conflict as a problem, we fear it. [4:05] Marlene has a new definition for conflict: Opposing Drives, Desires, and Demands. It's not one person “out to get” another. People want different things for different reasons. When you take the personal aspects out of conflict and define it differently, your gut reaction to it changes. [4:34] Generally, we mismanage conflict because we have an inner conflict first. In other words, I might need to have a difficult conversation with you but I also want you to like me. I mismanage it because I have two opposing drives, desires, and demands within myself. [5:35] When is the right time to address potential conflict? Marlene says we have to get curious, and the sooner, the better. Good contracts create good relationships. Marlene offers ways to be direct and find clarity. Bring up questions earlier, rather than later. [6:55] Sometimes we imagine conflict where there is none. Are we negotiating with ourselves? Marlene suggests watching your narrative. Don't believe everything that you think. Say, “I observed this; my perception is that.” That gives grace to the other person to clarify if they meant something else. Being assertive beats the alternative of making up a story and creating a bigger conflict than what was there. [8:29] Marlene says she takes a breath and thinks about whether she has all the facts to be sure she is right. If she's feeling angry, she interprets it as that she needs more information. Marlene always asks “Are you willing to be wrong?” [10:19] Willingness is the fulcrum point of change. Nothing happens until there's willingness. If I haven't been willing, it means I'm in a state of resistance. [11:01] Marlene says drama is an obstacle to peace and prosperity. She uses the visual of a rowboat with a person in it going to an island. A shark between the boat and the island is the obstacle. When we're in drama, we're distracted. Marlene compares employee drama with top-level drama. CEOs who think they are above the drama are not hands-on and are keeping secrets from their team so they look competent. [13:24] If you're not working toward a purpose; if you don't have a shared vision, and if you don't feel excited, that's an obstacle. We all have to take responsibility for our engagement and desires. There is a symbiotic relationship between the employee and the company. [14:05] Marlene discusses her latest book, From Conflict to Courage. In the workplace, Marlene says courage is not taking the easy path; not taking the path of being perceived as “nice.” Marlene's book sets up a framework of Conflict Capacity with three overlapping circles: Culture, Skillset, and Inner Game. The three together give you the ability to clarify conflicts. [16:18] Marlene says in the long run, aligning with your values and what you promised your customer is going to serve you. What is the point of being profitable if you are miserable because you don't understand alignment? [17:26] Marlene defines leadership. It is alignment or focusing energy. Aligning everything in your business trumps opportunity. Opportunity can be a distraction and lead to drama. [18:32] If something is operating in harmony, it's very efficient and very effective. Marlene says the owner wants to get to the treasure chest on the island, the leader wants everybody to row harder and faster, and the rower just wants a better seat cushion on the boat. A consultant has to look at all three perspectives. [19:52] In her latest book, Marlene writes about the price of being nice. She sees three identities of new leaders before they are oriented: Best Friend, Hands-off, or Hero. When we don't align with the values of leadership, we try to align as "best friends." [21:35] We can be friendly; we should be kind and polite, but when we don't understand our role as a leader, then it's about being nice, which is about manipulating. We think that being nice is making people like us, so we avoid being direct because it feels bad to say “No.” We're afraid of hurting people's feelings, versus educating them on why prior decisions are not going to allow that new idea. [22:14] Peter Drucker, in his book, Concept of the Corporation, says that when front-line people give ideas and they don't match, don't look at it as if they're stupid or they don't get it. Look at it as they want to engage but they don't understand how the business operates and how the different departments work together. We should educate them. We want people to grow, not to like us. [23:27] People will like you if you are fair with them. Work on having a relationship with people. You don't need to conduct a personality assessment on your team to resolve conflicts. You need to spend time with them and talk honestly with them without posturing. [24:41] Feigning niceness but not wanting to develop a relationship, is not niceness. Some say the traits they have that distract are virtues. If people say that's just the way I am, Marlene asks them “Is that who you want to be?” Do you want to be authentic to the childish parts of you, or do you want to be authentic to the future you, who is growing, evolving, apologizing and working on yourself? [26:23] With a clear definition of how you want to show up, that changes the game. Ask yourself, am I willing to stop rolling my eyes and interrupting? Am I willing to notice that habit, to be a better communicator? [27:01] What are some of the challenges of building relationships without being in the office? It's an opportunity for those who want to be intentional about connection. Learn to be good in the office, on Zoom, on Teams, on the phone, and in text. Have a system because eventually, it will put you at the top. Be the one who follows through instead of ghosting. [28:22] You will never lose by deciding to be intentional about how you form relationships and how you treat other people.   [29:14] What if you've been a coworker, and were suddenly promoted to manage people who were your “best friends”? Marlene hopes the organization would help to onboard you into management, but it doesn't happen very much. You're going to take on a whole new identity. Don't believe that the better you treat people, the more they're going to do you favors. They will take advantage. It's human nature. [30:09] Have a meeting with everyone, individually and in a group, to explain the new position and what it means. Marlene shares a script for being open and setting expectations from the beginning of the things that will change and how you will go forward. Generally, when expectations have not been set is the time Marlene is called in! You'll have to start with a clean slate and own the part you played. [30:59] You cannot set a new boundary out of the blue. It will make people your enemies. Tell your observations. Acknowledge your part in it. Explain how it is affecting the operation. Set the new rule and say everyone will need to comply. It will require, when someone messes up, for you to enforce the consequence you said would happen. A boundary is not solid unless you keep the boundary. [32:48] Leadership clarity is about situational analysis and the outcome. Without those two points of reference, you cannot solve any problem at all. Identify what's happening that shouldn't be, what's not happening that should be, how that affects your business, the two points of reference and the obstacles you think are in the way. Start with clarity. [33:58] Leadership identity is how you see yourself in relation to these issues. Leadership Identity drives everything but you can only be as effective as your ability to be clear. [35:01] Marlene recently had a clarification meeting with a new client. Just as they were about to sign the contract, the client wanted to add in a StrengthsFinder, as well. Marlene answered, yes, they could do that for an extra fee, but since we know the situation and the outcome, let's see if we can uncover some of those issues that are creating a lack of clarity and resolve them with what we've agreed to do. [36:23] What can happen if a board member is hired by opportunity (deep pockets and good connections) instead of by alignment (having the same values)? Drama! Jim compares conservative and progressive values in corporations around DEI. Marlene encourages getting to know the other person and learning what it's like to be in their shoes, whether or not you agree with them. Align with them. [40:05] The real problem is we're saying, “Just like them” or “Not one of us.” We need to stop doing that. There's room for all, we just have to be willing to build that capacity and to be a little bit uncomfortable with it. That's what conflict capacity is about. Be willing to be wrong and be open. [41:17] The story you tell is the life you live. Whatever narrative you think or feel about yourself, is the source of your suffering. The good news is your story can also be the source of your “salvation.” You can shift your story and see other things that are equally true and explore that.[42:18] Marlene found that you can only coach a regulated person. If someone's in their story and they're upset, all you can do is be a radical listener. You cannot coach someone that's not self-regulated. Marlene loves that you can help a person shift their story, and create a new possibility. [43:09] How and why has Marlene changed her identity several times? Marlene was a blue-collar factory worker for 21 years. She wanted something more. She had to learn business practices the hard way because you don't know what you don't know. She first identified with being a professional speaker. As she became more aware of business practices, she realized she was not as good as she thought! [44:36] Going from a front-line worker to a supervisor gives you a new identity and it can be completely overwhelming if you haven't believed, accepted, and felt that you are in that place. You have to feel it. [45:03] Marlene explains three life tragedies that occur mid-life: 1. I know I want something more but I don't know what it is. 2. I know what it is but I don't believe it's possible. 3. I know what it is and it might be possible, but now I have to be willing. Willingness is the fulcrum point of change. In any tragedy, you don't have clarity. You have to be willing to discover, develop, and deliver. Find your purpose. [47:55] If you're stuck, confused, in drama, or conflict, clarity can change any situation. Marlene's job is to hear the stories of the parties she coaches and help them get clear, and they will know the answer.   Quotable Quotes “We are all afraid of conflict … and so … we try to avoid it. I call it the three ‘A's: Appeasing, Aggression, and Avoidance.” “Generally, we mismanage [conflict] because we have an inner conflict first.” “Watch your narrative. Don't believe everything that you think.” “I could be right, but I might be wrong and there might be one missing piece. … If I'm feeling that angry, instead of interpreting it as I've got all the facts, that means, I've got to have more information … because that helps me to calm down.” “The question I always ask is, ‘Are you willing to be wrong?' Or, ‘Am I willing to be wrong?' Because nothing happens until there's willingness. … Willingness is the fulcrum point of change.” “If I haven't been willing, it means I'm in a state of resistance.” “In the long run, aligning with your values and what you promised your customer is what's  going to serve you. … What is the point of being profitable and being successful if you are miserable because you don't understand alignment?” “My definition for leadership is that if leadership is about anything, it's about alignment and alignment is about focusing energy.” “The owner wants to get to the treasure chest on the island, the leader wants everybody to row harder and faster, and the rower just wants a better seat cushion on the boat. As a consultant … it's about looking at all the perspectives.” “You will never lose by deciding to be intentional about how you form relationships and how you treat other people.” “If you've messed up for a while, which is generally where I come in, what you have to do is you have to start with a clean slate and you have to own the part you played. Because you cannot set a new boundary out of the blue. It will make people your enemy.” “If you care more about them understanding than you do about your boundary, that's where you're going to be a poor leader.” “Wherever there's drama, there's always a lack of clarity.” “That's what conflict capacity is about, ‘I'm uncomfortable with your ideas and thoughts and it's OK that I'm uncomfortable. I might change my mind if I'm willing to be wrong. And you might change yours if you're willing to be open.'” “If you're stuck or you're confused, or you're in drama or conflict, there's something that I live by, and that's: ‘Clarity can change any situation.'”   Resources Mentioned Theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by: Darley.com Marlene Chism Consulting Marlene Chism on LinkedIn Marlene's new book: From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading Marlene's previous books: No-Drama Leadership: How Enlightened Leaders Transform Culture in the Workplace Stop Workplace Drama: Train Your Team to Have No Complaints, No Excuses, and No Regrets Success is a Given: Reading the Signs While Reinventing Your Life 7 Ways to Stop Drama in Your Healthcare Practice (Out of stock) LinkedIn Learning The Ladder of Inference Peter Senge The fifth discipline fieldbook: strategies and tools for building a learning organization, by Peter M. Senge Concept of the Corporation, by Peter F. Drucker StrengthsFinder DiSC Profile Tony Robbins  

Do you avoid conflict? How can you make conflict rewarding? Can healthy conflict be used as a tool to expand yourself? Marlene is a consultant speaker and she's got numerous coachings on LinkedIn Learning under her belt. She's also the author of From Conflict to Courage, which she and I discuss and unpack in this episode. Marlene makes the case for us to change our relationship and perception of conflict. Rather than avoiding it, she encourages us to navigate it, and reap the rewards of deeper understanding, stronger collaboration, and more open, receptive relationships. Thanks for listening! I'd love to connect with you over on Instagram @impactdrivenleader SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here Join the Impact Driven Leadership Community Sign up for The Impact Driven Leader Book Club WEBSITE: www.impactdrivenleaderpodcast.com

Marlene Chism works with top leaders to build drama-free cultures that drive growth and reduce costly mistakes. Marlene is known for helping managers address “the elephant in the room” and initiate conversations that gets results. Her expertise includes leadership development, conflict management, and strategic communication.Marlene is a recognized expert on the LinkedIn global learning platform, producing educational videos on Anger Management, Having Difficult Conversations and How to Manage Conflict and Get Results in a Hybrid Workplace.She is the author of Stop Workplace Drama (Wiley 2011), No-Drama Leadership (Bibliomotion 2015), Stop Drama in Your Healthcare Practice (Greenbranch 2018) and From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading (Berrett-Kohler 2022).Marlene has a degree in communications from Drury University, and a master's degree in HR Development at Webster University. She is an advanced practitioner in Narrative coaching.During the episode we discuss:why conflict is not the problemthe impact of leadership identity on behaviordistinctions between leadership identity and leadership claritywhy anger is the fuel that can get you to the truthworking with high-conflict peoplehow to know when you're resistingAfter the show, get in touch with Marlene:Email: marlene@marlenechism.comWebsite: https://www.marlenechism.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marlenechism/Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarleneChismGet Marlene's new book on Amazon! https://www.amazon.com/Conflict-Courage-Avoiding-Start-Leading/dp/1523000724Claim your free gift!We're giving away a one-year membership to the world's #1 business book summary service for leaders! Our gift will help you stay on top of the latest ideas, decide which books to read next, and engage your teams.To get your gift:Leave a rating or review on your favorite listening channel.Take a screenshot of your review.Share the screenshot on LinkedIn, and mention either “Allison Dunn” or “Deliberate Directions” and the “Deliberate Leaders Podcast”.=============Allison DunnExecutive Business CoachDeliberate Directions + Executive Business Coaching + Training Center3003 W Main Street, Suite 110, Boise ID 83702(208) 350-6551Website https://www.deliberatedirections.comLinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/allisondunnPodcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/deliberate-leaders-podcast-with-allison-dunn/id1500464675

After a 20 year career as a blue-color factory worker in St. Louis, Missouri, Marlene Chism woke up one day and decided to she was ready for something different, but she wasn't quite sure what that was yet. Her first step towards something new was signing up for toastmasters.   That decision led to a bachelor's degree, master's degree, and landing her first book deal with Wiley, followed by 4 more books, including her newly released book, From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading. Today, Marlene is a seasoned speaker, thought partner, advisor, coach, author, and widely recognized as the leading US authority on stopping workplace drama.   Connect with Marlene LinkedIn  

One of the biggest challenges leaders face is managing conflict. It's natural to think of conflict as a problem. But as author, Marlene Chism, explains, “Conflict is not the problem. Mismanagement is the real problem.” Find the full show notes at: https://workmatters.com/From-Conflict-to-Courage-with-Marlene-Chism

Marlene Chism is recognized as one of the top experts on reducing or eliminating workplace drama and helping leaders become better leaders. She has been on the show before discussing her previous books and on this episode, we discussed her latest book, From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading. Conflict, and avoiding conflict, happen everyday either at work, at home or somewhere on the way to one of those. I've observed conflicts on roads, in restaurants, at concerts, on lines and personally have avoided a few at work or at home until it felt like I was going to explode. On this episode, Marlene discusses how avoiding conflict can make you angry with yourself, how your goal when dealing with conflict is not about winning but breaking through to a solution and she also shares the words you can use to defuse a conflict and get to the other side. Be prepared to take notes as this episode is filled with tips, strategies and tactics to help you stop avoiding conflict and move into leadership. Marlene Chism works with top leaders to build drama-free cultures that drive growth and reduce costly mistakes. Her expertise includes leadership development, conflict management, and strategic communication. Marlene is a recognized expert on the LinkedIn global learning platform, producing educational videos on Anger Management, Working with High Conflict People as a Manager, and Having Difficult Conversations. Her soon to be published book is From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading. To learn more about Marlene and download a discussion guide for From Conflict to Courage, visit www.marlenechism.com

In making peace with Rome, have Protestants given up their loyalty to King Jesus and said, “We have no king but Caesar”? This video concludes analysis of “From Conflict to Communion” with a look at transubstantiation, papal infallibility, and the Lutheran church's rejection of Luther's identification of the pope as Antichrist.In “From Conflict to Communion” Lutherans deny that their church originated with the Reformation and have apologized for their very existence. In admitting to guilt for “damaging the unity of the church” they are denying the Holy Spirit's involvement in the Reformation. This video demonstrates that none of the issues of the Reformation have been resolved. Learn why the time has come for those who've been crushed by the iron foot of Rome to make a choice and to stand either with the King of kings or with the king of this earth.

Has the surrender of Protestantism set the stage for last day events? For unity with Rome, Protestants have cast aside key Bible doctrines. But at what cost? And what will the results be? In a highly significant move, Lutherans were the first of the Protestants to sign “From Conflict to Communion” and are working toward full visible unity with the Roman Catholic Church. Because the prophecies that were understood by the Reformers have been rejected, there is now a vagueness about what is happening in the world and Christians seem unaware of the danger signs. Were the issues that sparked the Protestant Reformation resolved by Vatican II or have they intensified? Look at the issues and decide for yourself.

If you have found yourself asking, “What's wrong with me?”  “Why can't I just feel happy?” “How is everyone else finding so much joy, but I'm not.” There is a reason you might have overlooked, and Kelly's suggestions might just surprise you. I promise no overwhelming tasks to add to your to-do list! You can follow Kelly on Instagram @kellynortoncoaching or go to her website kellynortoncoaching.com. For more information about our online class "From Conflict to Connection," go to www.buildfamilyconnection.com/optin-bars/

Tony Addison is a Professor of Economics, University of Copenhagen in the Development Economics Research Group. He was a Chief Economist and Deputy Director of UNU-WIDER in Helsinki, Finland. He was previously Professor of Development Studies, University of Manchester; Executive Director of the Brooks World Poverty Institute (BWPI), University of Manchester (from 2006-2009); and Associate Director of the Chronic Poverty Research Centre (CPRC).His books include: From Conflict to Recovery in Africa (Oxford University Press), Making Peace Work: The Challenges of Economic and Social Reconstruction (Palgrave Macmillan), and Poverty Dynamics: A Cross-Disciplinary Perspective (Oxford University Press). He was a lead author for The Chronic Poverty Report 2008-09: Escaping Poverty Traps.Extractive Industries: The Management of Resources as a Driver of Sustainable Development (Oxford University Press, 2018, open access book)Twitter: Tony AddisonTwitter: Dan Banik & In Pursuit of Developmenthttps://in-pursuit-of-development.simplecast.com/

Episode Summary:On this International Women's Day, in the current global contexts of open conflicts, instability and violence, our co-founder Elizabeth has a candid conversation with security and humanitarian expert Prof. Benedetta Berti - the Head of Policy Planning in the Office of the Secretary General at NATO. After spending over a decade researching non-state armed groups, Prof. Berti speaks about the issues of addressing the many layers of security and offers new approaches to better understand and tackle modern conflict. Focusing her work on the world's most complex disputes - from Syria, to Iraq, to Gaza and many others - Prof. Berti reveals the hidden sides of crime and terrorism, their financing and execution and analyses the possibilities for building resilient and peaceful communities.The Speaker:Prof. Benedetta Berti is the Head of Policy Planning in the Office of the Secretary General at NATO. An Eisenhower Global Fellow and a TED Senior Fellow, Benedetta is also Associate Researcher at the Institute for European Studies at Vrije Universiteit Brussels and a Senior Fellow at the Foreign Policy Research Institute. In the past, she has held teaching and research positions at West Point, the Institute for National Security Studies and Tel Aviv University, among others. Her research focuses on armed groups, internal wars, and protection of civilians. Prof. Berti is the author of four books, including "Armed Political Organizations. From Conflict to Integration" (Johns Hopkins University Press, 2013) and her work and research have appeared, among others, in Al-Jazeera, Foreign Policy, Foreign Affairs, the National Interest, the Wall Street Journal and The New York Times; as well as in academic journals including Studies in Conflict and Terrorism, Parameters, the Middle East Journal, ORBIS, Democratization, Civil Wars, Government & Opposition and Mediterranean Politics. Her work and research have been awarded numerous awards, grants and fellowships, including the World Politics and Statecraft Fellowship, the Horowitz Foundation Grant, the Lady Davis Fellowship, the Bradley Foundation Fellowship, the Morris Abrams Award in International Relations, the Rosenthal Fellowship and the International Center for Non-Violent Conflict Curriculum Fellowship. In 2015, the Italian government awarded her the Order of the Star of Italy (order of Knighthood).Follow Benedetta Berti's Journey on Twitter.Host: Elizabeth ZhivkovaSign up for ZEITGEIST19's newsletter at https://www.zeitgeist19.comFor sponsorship enquiries, comments, ideas and collaborations, email us at info@zeitgeist19.com Follow us on Instagram and Twitter

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Picking up their conversation from last week, Dan and Cathy turn their attention to uncovering the roots of conflict in relationships and how we can move towards true connection. Oftentimes conflict arises because we cannot name what we truly need, or we cannot see past our own contempt—ultimately there is something keeping us from seeing the other well. Redemption is possible, but we must be willing to engage our conflict in a way we've not experienced before. Resources: Listen to the first episode in this series, “Conflict in Relationships” Purchase access to the recording of the one-day conference “From Conflict to Connection: A Conference for Couples” Listen to a podcast that introduces the archetypes of orphan, widow, and stranger: “Calling and Character: Prophet, Priest, King” Listen to a podcast episode titled “Reconnection in Marriage with Dr. Dan Allender and Dr. Steve Call”

There is no doubt that we are living in a time that heightens levels of conflict and contention in our relationships. Having just finished a one-day conference on this topic, Dr. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel talk today on the podcast about their recent, personal experiences with conflict, particularly in this pandemic era. In this season, the ways we engage in and relate to conflict look different. You'll hear Dan and Cathy talk about the reality of this conflict, what we can learn from our styles of relating in conflict, and how, underneath it all, is a deep-seated war with desire. Resources: Purchase access to the recording of the one-day conference “From Conflict to Connection: A Conference for Couples” Listen to a podcast episode on “The Reality of Marriage in COVID-19” Read a blog post by Jay Stringer titled “Good Enough Parenting in a Time of Crisis”

“Creating the life, relationship, and world we envision one conversation at a time with ourselves and others.”  -- John Kinyon In 1998, John Kinyon had left a graduate program in clinical psychology and was looking around, trying to figure out how he wanted to apply those skills in the world.  He was at a mediation conference and heard a keynote presentation by someone about whom he had not previously heard – Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of the global “nonviolent communication” work. Listening to Rosenberg's insights, he recalls, “my jaw dropped open. This was everything I was looking for.”  Having experimented with different forms of mediation, facilitation, and organizational development, all of which he had found interesting, “something big remained missing. Marshall’s talk pulled together everything I most cared about in what I wanted to do in the world.”  Kinyon embraced full-time communication and conflict resolution work and went on to study closely with Rosenberg for more than a decade. He then helped bring forth the work of nonviolent communication to the practice of mediation, helping establish the field of “nonviolent mediation”: drawing on Rosenberg's NVC tools to mediate conflict within ourselves, to mediate conflict between ourselves and others, and to support mediation trainees who want to become a mediating presence in helping others. By inviting disputants into greater nondual consciousness, Kinyon aims to help them resolve conflicts and to train others to mediate conflicts.  For Kinyon, Rosenberg’s approach to nonviolent communication (NVC) represented a perfect marriage of the two streams of his personal motivation and inspiration:  the work of American psychologist Carl Rogers, to which he had been exposed in grad school and which represented a “simple but powerful way of thinking about therapy and how to be with people”; and the social-political nonviolent change work of Gandhi.  Kinyon had had “no idea how to put those together. Marshall was a perfect fit.”  Kinyon now coaches disputants or trainees in mediation to use mindful empathy to penetrate the positions that appear to conflict until they experience the human needs that animate the conflicting positions. At this deeper level there is no conflict. Both sides share each other’s needs. They just have different beliefs and strategies around meeting those needs. At this unified level, the disputants can access different strategies that meet their needs. His approach provides skills and conversation “maps” for navigating challenges and conflicts, inner and outer, in all aspects of life. Maps, according to Kinyon, put together the language of needs with the skills of empathy. In potentially triggering moments, “all I have to do is remember I have a map, and then I have guidance to navigate through conflict.” Kinyon studied psychology and philosophy while earning his undergraduate degree from the University of San Francisco (and played for USF’s nationally ranked soccer team).  He trained in the clinical psychology graduate program at Penn State University.  During his five years of doctoral study, he worked as a psychotherapist with individuals and groups, and as a research assistant at the Stress and Anxiety Disorders Institute.  After graduate school, John helped launch and develop a small commercial business before discovering Nonviolent Communication (NVC). In 2002, Kinyon, Miki Kashtan and two others co-founded the Bay Area Nonviolent Communication organization (BayNVC), which began and still teaches nonviolent communications at the San Quentin Prison.  In 2003, following a "harrowing" adventure together working with Afghan tribal elders in a refugee camp on the Pakistan border, he and his close colleague Ike Lasater began developing a body of work and training programs based in NVC that came to be called Mediate Your Life (MYL), which for over 10 years offered year-long programs in different parts of the U.S., Europe, Asia, and Australia.   Kinyon has been studying and practicing mindfulness, meditation, and consciousness traditions (including the poetic tradition) for over 30 years and has used this experience in developing his approach. He lives in the Bay area, and is author of the workbook Mindfulness in Conversation: Creating the Life and World You Want One Conversation at a Time.  He also is co-author of several books, including Choosing Peace: New Ways to Communicate to Reduce Stress, Create Connection, and Resolve Conflict; From Conflict to Connection: Transforming Difficult Conversations into Peaceful Resolutions; and When Your Mind Sabotages Your Dreams: Turning Your Critical Internal Voices Into Collaborative Allies, What is the transformative insight triggered by Rosenberg’s work in NVC?  It is, Kinyon says, that “everything we think and do is about trying to meet a need, and whatever we are doing is the best way we know to meet the need.” That’s perhaps the premise. So then, he says, “the goal is to become conscious of our needs and of what we want to do to meet them, and then to learn if our actions worked or not (did they meet our needs?). The goal is to become conscious of our needs and choices, and to learn from those choices – to mourn, celebrate, and learn.” Join us in conversation with this believer that conflict, like fire, does not have to be destructive -- with the right tools.

Rachel’s 'Hands Free Mama' mentality is all about finding balance in a media-saturated, perfection-obsessed world. And it’s about seizing the little moments that life offers us to engage in real and meaningful interaction. In this episode, Rachel shares realizing she 'd lost connection with her people. How she believed a lie that in order to be loved and accepted she needed to hide certain parts of herself, the messy parts, the imperfect parts. A pivotal moment happened when she vulnerably shared these thoughts with her daughter and found acceptance. “Opening that door to being human actually brings us closer together. Then we can connect from that place of 'I'm struggling' and that doesn't mean there's something wrong with me. That doesn't mean I need to hide it. It means I need to reach out and talk to someone about this so we can work together to see how we might go forward.” We dive into what Rachel’s learned in her parenting journey as a mom of teens and preteens. She talks about how choosing true connection with our kids can bring them closer to us and keep the lines of communication open as they grow up.  “This is all about redefining what our role is as a parent. It is not the authoritarian model anymore. It is the guide, the truth teller and the encourager. Not the enforcer, not the half listener, not the critic. That those roles are only going to get us further and further from each other when the idea is right now we need to come closer.” Connect with Rachel:  Website:  handsfreemama.com Facebook: facebook.com/TheHandsFreeRevolution Instagram:  @handsfreerevolution Twitter: @handsfreemama FREE LIVE LOVE NOW LISTENING PLAN:  Click here for special 7-day listening plan for Don’t Mom Alone Listeners Links Mentioned:   Live Love Now [BOOK] Only Love Today [BOOK] Amy McCready--Positive Parenting Solutions Pre-order Bonuses--21-Day Self-Care Listening Plan AND 4 Downloadable Tools for Connection (Ask “Heart Questions vs. Performance Questions”; Practice phrases that take you “From Conflict to Calm”; Consider if you are an “Easy-to-Be-Around Adult”; Exclusive Phone Lock Screen - “Connecting by Protecting”) Featured Sponsor: LittlePassports.com Use Code DMA to save 15% off a subscription. 

Today, we speak with Meghan Leahy; author, parenting coach and Washington Post columnist about raising your kids with confidence, patience and even joy! Meghan Leahy is the mother of three young daughters, a certified parenting coach, and a columnist for The Washington Post, writing about all things parenting! She is the author of the upcoming book, "Parenting Outside the Lines: Forget the Rules, Tap into Your Wisdom, and Connect to Your Child." REMINDER Don’t forget you have until November 26 to enter our Spark Joy Giveaway. We’ll announce our winners during our “Best of” show on December 3. Head over to sparkjoypodcast.com/reviews for instructions on how to leave a star rating and written review on iTunes. Then, shoot an email to contact@sparkjoypodcast.com with your username for a chance to win one of 6 coveted KonMari-themed prizes that spark joy in celebration of our two-year anniversary. Thanks again for your support! In this episode, you’ll enjoy: Meghan’s path to discovering that parent coaching was her passion just by chance, hard work and perseverance. Learn about Dr. Gordon Neufeld of the The Neufeld Institute and the attachment-based developmental approach. The struggle of setting boundaries for parents and the commonly faced organizational concerns. How the constant influx of stimulation impacts children’s ability to focus, maintain their attention and, ultimately, learn. Hear about Meghan’s new book about how parents can examine their preconceptions and to be empowered to follow their own way. Kids need boundaries and how to determine how to set them. Learn what “Silent Compassion” means. It’s a great technique for expressing understanding and love along with boundaries. Meghan’s favorite tidying tip: Clean the kitchen every evening for a much better start for the next day. (We love this one!) What sparks joy for Meghan: The amazing things on TV these days and relaxing with her kids around great TV shows. And, MAKE UP! On top of everything else she’s juggling, Meghan is training to become a make-up artist! To connect with Meghan, you can kind find her at mlparentcoach.com. mlparentcoach.com You can sign up for Meghan’s free ebook, From A to Zzzz: How to Get Your Kids to Sleep on her website. You can also sign up for her online parenting class, "From Conflict to Cooperation: Understanding and Preventing Power Struggles with your Children" here You can more of Meghan’s’ tips via the Washington Post as the Parenting Expert in the “On Parenting” column. Gems - “Parenting is not an automatic thing, it’s a learning on the job kind of thing.” - “My job was to illuminate why kids were struggling which is the first step to understanding how to get it right.” - “So starts an avalanche of ‘Screw it, I’ll do it myself.’ which leads to resentment.” - “There’s a lot of books about parenting skills..in my view all these these books are true and untrue…I didn’t want to write a book where parents had to ascribe to a theory…instead it’s about paying attention to your actual child and your actual life.” - “It can be positive and fun, but when it falls apart, you just pick up and go on.” You can find Karin Socci at The Serene Home You can find Kristyn Ivey at For the Love of Tidy Special Guest: Meghan Leahy.

On this episode of Important Work, we welcome Tara Wear, host of the From Conflict to Collaboration show, which aims to help humanity meet our needs to truly connect with other people. I particularly focus on work, people have lowered their expectations on the type of community, collaboration, and mindset shifts. http://www.mygroundswell.com

October 2017 marked 500 years since the Protestant Reformation. In Safespace's inaugural episode, we brought together a Catholic priest and a Lutheran pastor to talk about the rift, and how things are beginning to change towards a more amicable relationship, particularly in Malaysia. At the time of the interview, Rev. Dr. Sivin Kit was lecturer and Director of the Centre of Religion and Society at the Malaysian Theological Seminary (STM), Seremban. He founded and pastors Bangsar Lutheran Church. Rev. Fr. George Harrison was parish priest for the Church of Visitation, Seremban. They were both involved in organising a series of Catholic-Lutheran events in Kuala Lumpur in 2017, including the seminar From Conflict to Communion. [Warning: We've learned a lot about production quality since 2017. Please excuse some level of discomfort in how we sound, and enjoy the conversation we managed to have with these two gentlemen. Also, as this podcast was converted from a video version, please excuse the language of "watching" the episode.]

"From Conflict to Peace" Ted Jordan December 18, 2016

"From Conflict to Peace" Ted Jordan December 18, 2016

Susan Heitler, a Harvard and NYU graduate, has re-shaped how psychotherapists help their clients. Her self-help books have helped many thousands. And her blogposts have reached over 7 million readers. In her profession of clinical psychology, Dr. Heitler first established herself as a thought leader by introducing advances in the field of conflict resolution into therapy treatment methods. From Conflict to Resolution, described in Contemporary Psychiatry as "the best of therapy," teaches therapists how to help their clients resolve their conflicts more effectively.  Dr. Heitler's master therapist video teaching how to do couples therapy, The Angry Couple, guides therapists-in-training worldwide.  Dr. Heitler's books for the general public help families deal with thumbsucking in David Decides About Thumbsucking--and help couples can eliminate tensions in their marriage with The Power of Two book, workbook, and the PowerofTwoMarriage.com website.  Dr. Heitler's popular blogposts on psychologytoday.com, yourtango.com and huffingtonpost.com teach the kinds of understandings her private therapy clients receive in their sessions with her. Most recently, her latest book, Prescriptions Without Pills, guides readers out of emotional distress, clarifying pathways to relief from depression, anger, anxiety and more. Dr. Heitler's own family attests to the effectiveness her psychological know-how. She and her husband, married over 40 years, have successfully raised four children. The large extended family of which Dr. Heitler and her husband are now matriarch and patriarch includes 14 grandchildren who love to gather and play together. For more information, please visit http://www.therapyhelp.com/

Is the thought of spending time with family members leaving you feeling depressed, frustrated, unhappy, or even angry? Do you see certain people in your life as the enemy? John Kinyon is the author of, “From Conflict to Connection: Transforming Difficult Conversations into Peaceful Resolutions”. John shares with us how to put aside conflict especially during holidays or family events, … Read more about this episode...

Ever explode into a reaction that is way out of proportion?  In this episode, Jennifer Diepstraten of FamilyCo interviews Thrive Beyond Divorce Mentor Michele Eisenberg about how to use anger to work for you instead of against you in your relationship.  Michele discusses how to resolve anger management issues, which is really a function of not being able to feel and express anger, nor understand the significance of what anger is trying to tell us.  In this insightful interview, Michele shares the subtle difference between anger, rage, and irritation and how they can serve people to become more connected and intimate.  In addition, she shares her own personal story of thriving beyond her divorce and how she created a coparenting relationship after divorce in way that supports herself and her pre-teen son. Enjoy the show!  To grab Michele’s free workbook From Conflict to Connection: 5 Steps to Let Your Anger Work For You To Create Connection and Intimacy in Your Life, visit us at www.familyco.com/032

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