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Hey, it's Amy Newmark with your Chicken Soup for the Soul. I've got more funny stories for you from Chicken Soup for the Soul: Laughter's Always the Best Medicine. And today we're talking about husbands and wives, and with wedding season coming this seems appropriate. Couples love to tell those slightly embarrassing hilarious stories about each other, and so do their kids. So let's get started with a story by Sharon Pearson about a mistake that her father made that has become one of her family's favorite memories. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tweetable quote from Remi (Sharon) Pearson “Our true self is filled with those characteristics, your personality may have those characteristics, but that still isn't the true self.” In this episode, Dr Espen interviews Remy Sharon Pearson, a renowned coach and author. They discuss the importance of co-regulation in childhood and how it impacts our ability to self-regulate. Remy shares insights from her bestselling books and talks about her work in coaching, leadership, and personal development. Listeners can expect to gain valuable tools and coaching activities to expand their consciousness in various areas of life. Tune in for an inspiring conversation on transformation and growth. Episode Highlights: [00:02:12] The ultimate new quest [00:06:20] Four dimensions of a fulfilling life [00:08:09] The greatest regret: living true [00:12:43] Our true self and personality [00:16:32] The wounded ego [00:19:48] Transition to compassion and emotion [00:24:29] Feeling safe and secure [00:28:41] Self-advocacy and empowerment [00:31:10] Getting rid of ickiness [00:37:40] Meeting our inner child [00:40:42] Connecting with our inner selves [00:47:21] Advocating for ourselves [00:50:42] Healing the inner child [00:52:43] Healing and awakening journey [00:55:30] Healing and spiritual bypassing [01:01:00] A message to the world [01:03:24] Powerful scripts for not-enoughness About our guest: Remi (Sharon) Pearson is a bestselling author, podcast host, award-winning entrepreneur, speaker, consultant, and philanthropist. She is one of the world's most successful life coaches and the driving force behind the global school The Coaching Institute. Since she started The Coaching Institute in Melbourne in 2004, Remi has become a touchstone for students—85 percent of them women—determined to heal life's hurts and embrace true fulfillment. Inspirational to both people with self-doubt and those of influence seeking to be the best they can be, she built TCI on her guiding values of wisdom, love, irreverence, determination, and growth. Find out more about Remi Website: https://www.remipearson.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/remi.sharon.pearson/ Find out more about Dr Espen Website: https://drespen.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drespenhjalmby Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_espen/

The Man behind the E-Myth – Unpacking The E-Myth Success To The Coaching Institute[00:01:00] [00:00:00] So that was our conversation. Michael Gerber is a beautiful, beautiful man, beautiful soul. We've had many conversations since then about business and what we need to be thinking about. And over the years, Just getting to know the way he thinks about it is just wonderful. Now in parallel to,  Michael doing what he does[00:01:32] I was building my business. So I wanted to just talk directly to you about, for those of you who are in business or you work in a business, what the thinking has been  behind building. One of my businesses, which is one that's probably the most well known, which is the coaching Institute and how it's been in parallel with the E-Myth and some of the models and messages that Michael shares.[00:01:57] So if you're into thinking [00:02:00] sustainably scalably replicability about your business and you know, that staying in the practitioner. Zone the technician's zone is probably gonna run out of road. Certainly if you go on holiday, so does your income, if you want to take a break, so does the money, you know, if you realize that there is an inherent flaw in that model, then stick around, I'm going to share with you just some of the ways.[00:02:26] I applied the E-Myth as I built The Coaching Institute. So I started out as a coach, same as literally hundreds of thousands of other people around the world is studied selling my time for money. So I would sell an hour session. For a fee. And I think when I first started, it was a hundred dollars per hour and I would acquire a client.[00:02:48] And in beginning they didn't stay too much because I really didn't. Wasn't very good. That's a very good reason for them not to stay. Ah, then the beginning stay a little bit more. They started perceiving a lot more value in what I was [00:03:00] doing, which is great. And as my skills grew, my experience grew at the number of clients that wanted to stay with me, began to grow.[00:03:07] And in a very short period of time, I had. A very full list of clients. I think I'd moved my fees. It's very difficult for me to remember 18 years ago, but probably around 250 to $400 an hour, again, still an hourly rate for my time. And it was very bespoke. So it was very much as coaches know, and a jeweller would be in the same position.[00:03:30] This is very unique  conversation. So you focus on what the client wants to achieve. You tailor, make your coaching and what you bring to it based on the client's preferences and where they want to head and what they're wanting to attain from an experience in the coaching journey and the coaching initiative.[00:03:48] So it's all very one-off. And of course, as I'm doing it, I can't record the sessions because of very clear confidentiality guidelines, which makes. Perfect sense. So there was no [00:04:00] replicability there, there was no scalability..[00:04:17] And as my fees went up and as I started work with more business coaching clients and leaders in different industries, and my fees were around 400 to 550. Can't really remember now they began to get a recording and they'd get key notes from the session. So I'd go through the recording, make sure I got the keynotes or I'd take them and I'd reflect.[00:04:38] Back to them, the key, not just key outcomes and commitments, but key messages in terms of who they're being and what to maybe reflect on as they go about their day and bring some mindfulness to it. So began to systemize for each client, but still no replicability there. If I stopped doing the coaching, as Michael Gerber says, if I stopped doing the, doing the, doing [00:05:00] the, doing everything stops the whole.[00:05:03] The whole thing is gone. It doesn't exist anymore. And so I became very aware of this very early. And I began to think in terms of having read the E-Myth five times in my first 12 to 18 months, based on the E-Myth, where is the replicability here? Where is it that I can systemize so I can step back. And it isn't me needing to be prison for every single minute of money earned.[00:05:29] How do I leverage what it is I'm learning, what it is I'm creating, what it is I've got experience in now and create a leverage. I don't ever call it passive income. My goodness. There is nothing passive about it. It's earned. How do I create leverage in terms of leveraging my time? How do I leverage my skill?[00:05:49] How do I leverage my testimonials and success stories? How do I leverage my passion? How do I leverage my ability to seem to learn this in a, quite [00:06:00] a delightful, playful way? How, how do I leverage my style as in my style of coaching, all of those questions began to be my priorities. So instead of thinking, how do I get my next client?[00:06:13] My focus a lot of the time was how do I leverage all the criteria I've just listed? And instead of scrambling for the next client, I was thinking in terms of. My next client is, how can I leverage that? So I became about the success story, the testimonial, the referral it always became, this became the stepping stone for some form of leverage.[00:06:38] So I started building my leverage muscle, if you like, because I was really comfortable. I was. Any more money that I'd ever earnt in my life, I was learning so much. I love, love, love working with my clients and everything I was learning was beautiful and just went to the heart of what I believed I was here to do.[00:07:00] [00:06:59] So it wasn't like I've just got to dump on my clients and never work again for time for money. And I just, as long as I can just make money out of what it wasn't ever like, that it was just. This is beautiful, but this is not sustainable. And I knew it wasn't sustainable. I was about 18 months into my journey or probably a little less.[00:07:18] I had. 50 clients. I think it was just under that, that I was working with over a period of a month, some weekly, some fortnightly, some monthly, I had 50 clients on the waiting list who had paid in full upfront. Many of them in full, I remember one day taking $50,000. So $10,000  in deposits from five new clients, all knowing I couldn't work with them for another three to four months and great that they coming and I've leveraged my skill and I'm feeling uncomfortable because I can see the floor I'm leveraging my skill and leveraging my experience.[00:07:58] I'm leveraging my [00:08:00] success stories and it created more work more of me needing to do so. I was becoming more entrenched in what I was doing, more committed to what I was doing because I had clients on a wait list going from months. And the more I leveraged what I was great at, the more success stories, more testimonials, and the more better I got at leveraging marketing.[00:08:23] The greater the wait list. And so I was literally perpetuating me having to sell my time for money. And I was just chasing constantly every single day back-to-back client sessions. And the problem with that I realized, and probably you already have is if you've got back-to-back coaching sessions, where do you work?[00:08:42] On the business. So I had worked on creating more of that, but that in itself, that solution, so to become very successful and economically incredibly successful in that space was creating its own problem. It was creating. And you [00:09:00] problem in that I was getting very time. Poor money was going up. Time was going down.[00:09:04] Whereas when I began, time was up, money was down now had completely reversed. And so there was always a rush every day, a scrambled to seal the clients to try to do the marketing, to Take care of the administration take care of the finance, which I was terrible at at the time there was this constant chasing.[00:09:22] So my success became my number one problem. That's, that's how I view it as I look back on it. And I think I saw that at the time as well, but it was wonderful and it was great working with so many clients. I loved every minute of it. Awesome. And I just remember one Friday afternoon, I'd done back to back clients for solid week.[00:09:39] It was Friday afternoon, my last coaching session. And for the first time ever are a member zoning out of being fully present for my client. I still kind of feel guilty about this. I remember zoning out and actually having a thought this isn't sustainable. I literally thought about myself. In the midst of a coaching session, [00:10:00] whereas right up until then for over a year, if I'm in a coaching session, it's all about the client.[00:10:06] And I just fade away. And here I was having a moment where it's about me and that was really disconcerting for me. And it was quite unsettling. I didn't do anything about it in the session, of course, but over the weekend, It was a lot to process that I had. It was like being at warp speed  if anybody knows Star Trek here or whatever it is you going at warp speed.[00:10:26] And then you drop out a warp. I was coaching to me is warp speed. Is this beautiful other otherness? It's his, the dimension. And I felt out of it into regular dimension and I felt the ickiness I can feel it now. So I thought that's feedback. I need to really think about what it is I'm going to commit to moving forward.[00:10:45] I've now learned I have a skill around this. I have experience around this. Now. I have many, many referrals, many people who love the message who are enjoying my style. So unless I continue to experience the same [00:11:00] problem and maybe more moments falling out of phase. I need to really think about what it is I think working on the business is, and that was the biggest wake up call for me.[00:11:12] It was a wonderful gift at the time and in hindsight. So what I did was I began to figure out how do I do one too many? And you're probably hearing these go well, that's obvious it wasn't obvious to me at the time. So I started figuring out one too many and I started figuring out. This is all pre zoom Skype.[00:11:35] Any of this, it literally was trying to work out how to do a recording. Cameras were ridiculously expensive. There was no iPhone care. None of the technologies that we take for granted today. So really was becoming a technical issue, solving one to many. And remember there was not really that much internet marketing back then either.[00:11:55] This is wiggling back dinosaur time. So it was, how do I [00:12:00] reach people to know there's going to be a workshop and then how do I leverage the workshop and repurpose it? So I record it, transcribe it, turn it into lesson plans for the next facilitator, turn into a workbook of the third training gets run again.[00:12:14] And so that became the journey parallel to that. I began to leverage my skill. As a coach and as a network or a marketer, and I was bringing some quite large gigs and I began to put together a coaching agency. So that was my second attempt at leveraging. So I began to have an agency of coaches, I think at the peak, we had 30 coaches and I was earning 25% commission off every hour of coaching.[00:12:41] I was able to grow. Give them, which is really good deal because the coaches didn't have to do any marketing. All they had to do is qualify by I had about 12 criteria for coach to qualify, to be part of my agency. I could refer them to the work, as long as it was a match of the client. They [00:13:00] didn't have to market.[00:13:00] They said shop and start coaching. So that was tremendous. And that had about, as I said, 30 coaches peak and I earned  and tremendous money from that. And that was really learning the power of leverage because that was me leveraging skills other than time for money. So I had a agency of coaches around the world, mainly in Australia who were.[00:13:20] During the do, and I was coordinating it. I was managing the contracts. I was managing the website. I was managing them getting matched to clients. The third version of this that I began to think about play with and utilize was building a product. So I built my various, I still even on the market anymore, which I think may be a good thing, but it's called empower.[00:13:41] And so I build empower. I lost money for the first month ever in the history and only month ever. My businesses lost money. Was the month I built empower. So back in the day, it was down to office works to get the CDs. By the jewel case, I printed my jewel case covers myself. [00:14:00] There was no professional way of doing that.[00:14:02] And then I had to replicate all the CDs and it was a 12 CD set with workbooks to back it up. And I started what was the right? I think it was two 97, $297 Australian. I think I began selling that. So if I had a workshop. I would sell, Mpower and it was empower the magic of you. I think it was. And so the, and that did not create a lot of income, but it was me learning leverage.[00:14:28] I didn't mind learning the lessons. I consider all businesses are  schools. And so I was learning the power of leveraging my skill into a product. The fourth way was I began workshopping. With coaches who wanted to build their businesses. And so instead of working with them individually, which they would have been happy to have done to have hired me, I began bringing them in for group sessions.[00:14:52] And now I reflect, there were two types of sessions. One was how to build your business, which I helped them with. Another one was coaching skills. There [00:15:00] wasn't much coach training in Australia at that time. And I filled that gap. And again, I recorded it. I didn't turn that into a product. For whatever reason, but I began recording it.[00:15:12] So I had all these different ways of thinking about leveraging. This is in reflection. We learning the skill of leverage, and I began to create this rule for every hour in, I had to work an hour on my business. And so I began to balance my coaching hours, which now the fees were quite high. An hour of coaching.[00:15:33] required  an hour working on my business. It could be building a product working on the agency. Taking the agency. I think we went into the United States a little bit as well with it. How to leverage workshops and repurpose them just any way I could thinking about working on it, or it could be just expanding the website.[00:15:55] So the offerings on the website, didn't just include my time for money back in the day when it was [00:16:00] just me and associates. So that's how it first began to transition away from me. And so my coaching hours came down a little bit as I began plugging into doing workshops for some global companies, which was great tremendous opportunity to learn workshopping skills.[00:16:19] Now, as I did that, that immediately presented itself to me, what I needed to teach myself. So I went immediately and did the most advance speaker training I could find, I did the most advanced coaching training I could find I trained in NLP. I started getting trained in family therapy systems. It just everywhere I went it was about, okay.[00:16:40] The skill really is the ultimate leverage the skill and the experiences of coaches. The ultimate you put the time in you build your skill and your experience, and you get the testimonials that forms really the. platform from which everything else can launch. So I just began investing more and more [00:17:00] in this so that this could get replicated in many more ways.[00:17:05] That's how I looked at it. So as I said, speaker training as much as I could  NLP family therapy, advanced coaching business skills. I did anything I could do. I trained my brain, realizing the ultimate leverage was here. The real estate between my ears. As result of that, I began to get more efficient, efficient, and effective at filling workshops and running them.[00:17:31] And at having people want to come back and at re-purposing them. And so that began to expand. The agency began to drop away. Empower definitely dropped away. Me working ahead of record, the sessions dropped away and the other leverage points dropped away. But me teaching coaches clearly became a passion of mine, me teaching coaching.[00:17:58] Very clearly was my [00:18:00] song very naturally. So I trusted that and I didn't, you know, I wasn't thinking I'd make more money in, for example, business coaching, which I would, I thought, but that's my passion and that's clearly, there's a market there. And if I can leverage myself, then I can fill that space in the market.[00:18:20] And so that became, began to flourish. That's where I began to put my energy, my time and my working on the business into which became the coaching institute.com.edu. We're going to be moving that. I think we're going to keep the  Coaching Institute and we're also going to move to the international coaching institute.com.[00:18:40] So ICI. But I don't know if they're both going to go in parallel, but the ICS give you the next iteration and the next version of even more leverage. But anyway, let's stay with this. So the coach Institute came about, so I moved from back in the day. It was Sharon Pearson, associates.com.au Then it became the coaching institute.com.au because I realized [00:19:00] if I kept my name and I know my name changed to Remi Pearson  but back  then it was Sharon Pearson that if I kept that name, then it was always going to be me that will wanting to hire.[00:19:11] And it was constantly going to have to be bespoke   very tailored made, and very special to each client. Which beautiful for the client, but very, very limiting in terms of my time and what I wanted to do. So the Coaching Insitute Institute resolved the name problem, because now clients are getting the Coaching Institute, which is, which is no longer.[00:19:34] Promise of me personally, but a promise of what I've produced. And so within that I built programs. I had a leadership program that I sold into a number of companies. I still ran it. I never quite replaced myself. We'll learn how to in that area, which is a shame I'd like to have done that I ran an NLP trainings.[00:19:53] Then I did replace myself in the NLP trainings, which was fantastic for awhile. While what else? [00:20:00] Are those personal development in there. And then always what remained was me teaching coaches. And that began to flourish. Very clear. So all this other stuff was going on. I think I would have made easily a million dollars profit in the year that this was happening, which was tremendous from my, when I began, when I was making $0.[00:20:19] So I had that happening, but I was just getting so much more mindful and connected to how was the dollar produced, who was responsible for producing the dollar that. Became so important. And so what I began to do, so I developed at the Coaching Institute three different programs. If you're a coach, you develop three different programs.[00:20:39] You don't have to teach coaches. You can teach any group in the community, but it's three levels, three different price points, three different levels of access to you. The bottom level has the least in the beginning will still have access to you because you're running it, but he should have the least access to you a little bit more at the middle level and the most access at the top.[00:20:58] And you may add a fourth level, which is [00:21:00] purely access to you, which would be where I am at more. The client can hire me for three months for $50,000. Kind of thing. And anyway, let's go back. So I began with practitioner, advanced practitioner, master practitioner, levels of coach training. I ran all of it. I was doing all of it, loved it because I knew I was building a business for the first time, from the beginning based on creating a turnkey system to replace myself.[00:21:29] So practitioner, I focus there the beginning level, I think back then it was a certificate four of life coaching. And not the practitioner coach. I think it was purely through the registered training organization stream. Now we have both, but anyway, so I had the practitioner I ran, every class, had every class recorded, had them all transcribed.[00:21:52] I turned them into lesson plans and facilitated guides criteria for success. And I began recruiting my first facilitator [00:22:00] to run just that class. I monitored that class to make sure I meant the benchmarks. If it didn't, I gave them feedback until I met the benchmarks. I had them fill out a form after every class showing that hit the benchmarks, that classes now leveraged.[00:22:15] And I did the same for, I think it was 24 classes at the practitioner level. Then there's the mentoring at that? level your receive a mentor, two mentors for three sessions, each a total of six sessions. I think that's how it is now, but that's what it was then. Okay. I mentored, I had trainee mentors watching me.[00:22:33] I had criteria documented on what they needed to bring andan entiretie a checklist of three pages. And I only delegated mentoring once that had been attained practitioner I'd replaced myself. And then I found a trainer. So you probably know him, Joe  Pane and  he began to run the, the training upfront. Now there's already a flaw in the model.[00:22:57] Because the worst number in business is the number one [00:23:00] and having one trainer, he can run one training. That's a flawed model. Now it's been like there for a long time. We're moving towards changing that with the ICI, but that's where I didn't follow the E-Myth because I wanted to keep the show of that live training.[00:23:17] And so right there, I've created a single point of failure in the business. So that's the note to self. The number one is the most dangerous number in business. One person doing one thing. That's if that's not replicable and scalable, you've got your first problem. So I did that and then I did the same for advanced prac.[00:23:36] I do the same for master prac and again, live trainings, single points of failure so doing that freed me It meant I haven't counted recently, but back then, it would've meant 150 hours of coach training was being delivered. That wasn't me. And I think it went up to like 200 hours. So [00:24:00] there's literally hundreds of hours of coach training going on every month at The Coaching Insitute [00:24:05] and I don't know the schedule, it's not my job to know the schedule that's happening because of this leverage I took care of earlier on. Now, if you work in an organization, you got to think the same way, the single point of failure. Is it documented? Is there criteria for what you do that if you were to delegate it to somebody else will leverage your skill at creating the system, they could start doing it.[00:24:32] Or have you got the situation where you're beautiful at what you do skilled at what you do, but if the organization or you were empowered to hire someone else to do it with you, because the workloads grown is a systemized, could they come in and now benefit from how you've replicated yourself? Or are you going to have to spend hours and hours and hours and hours not leveraging your time, trying to do [00:25:00] your own.[00:25:00] Function and teach them everything from scratch, because you did not document that's on you. That's the power of this. So if you leverage well, you can move forward in the organization. If you don't think in terms of leverage, how do you move forward? Because the moment you afford say you get promoted into a different role or a more senior position, but you haven't leveraged your skill and experience into systems that person's going to be dropped in, have no idea to succeed, and you can't succeed at managing them because you're going to spend your whole time doing a for them.[00:25:36] Correcting them having to explain it to them is this Chinese whispers, mess that I see too many times and none of it is necessary. So I encourage wherever you're at whatever you're doing. Think in terms of your skill being leveraged. Into a system and don't design it for your personality. Don't design it for your flare.[00:25:58] Don't design it because it [00:26:00] suits you design it for the next person who's going to need to step in and do it as well as you and replicate those results. That's the key mission. And that's how we get to experience our true selves because at truest cells can't be experienced in doing the, doing the, doing the doing and never be at a step back and see how we're doing it and empowering others to do it, or being able to let go of some of it[00:26:25] cause it's actually not as effective as if we don't step back. We don't ever get to critique the work, which is doing it and we're doing it. And there's, to me, a level of insanity to that, unless that's your thing and which guys. Do your thing, but if you're still listening, I'm guessing it's not. So if you're creative and you've got flair about you even more, so you need to find a way to break it down into a system.[00:26:48] And you're probably thinking, but it's creativity. Like I used to with coaching it's coaching. It's so personal. I don't know where it's going until I'm coaching. Actually, there is a system. There is a system for onboarding a client for how do [00:27:00] you open the session? How you get curious about where the client wants to go, then there's a whole bunch of techniques that can help the client get there that you can document and how to wrap up session how to forward thinking to the next session, how to put the whole coaching.[00:27:13] This is all I have systemized. All of this many, many times, whatever role you've got, especially if you're telling yourself it's high creative, it is on you to start breaking it down into its component parts and ask yourself. What's the first thing I do document it. What's the second thing I do. Document the beginning.[00:27:34] You might just have three to five or seven big steps, but then start filling out those steps. In more detail, you might just have step one, walk into the room. Step two, appraise the layout of the room step. If you're doing interior design, step three, think about color. I don't really know, but let's say it's that.[00:27:52] But then on the, each of those headings, those categories, you start filling in with more and more detail. You've just created your very [00:28:00] first leveraged system. So then when you bring on board, another interior designer, they are going to follow the system. And so it becomes not the Remi Pearson   system for interior design.[00:28:10] I don't have one, trust me, it becomes the whatever unique name you give that system. And that system becomes replicable. I was I have a beautiful massuer who comes to my home. I won't name her because I don't want, what she's about to do is very personal to her. But I was, I did some business coaching while I   was getting massage and.[00:28:31] It's easy to think. A massuer is very personal can't be replicated, but there are that we worked out, there are things that can be replicated. They went through. What would that replication process look like? And then who would you onboard to trust with having a go at your system? And immediately as result of that my massuer worked out, her income would double within six months just by taking care of that leveraged moment.[00:28:58] So whatever role you've got. [00:29:00] I would question and start thinking about what we're don't don't do the easy thing I couldn't possibly leverage. Where could you leverage? What can you leverage in your home? I leveraged my wardrobe. My wardrobe has done by color, length and design. The whole thing when I go in is literally a system.[00:29:18] So I know where to pull the coordinates from the whole thing. My kitchen is so small, but it's exactly the same. It's done by. I need to go. If I go to it's so many to get to breakfast, it needs to be easy to reach, not too much effort because its the morning if you're making tea and needs to be around that station.[00:29:36] So it's ease of just the whole thing. Think through in terms of systems and then bring the same to your role. Now, as a result of doing that, now I'm thinking of going the next level with ICI international coaching institute.com. And we haven't launched a yet, but where we're hitting. Is removing all of the single points of failure and really focusing on mentors and facilitators.[00:29:57] So it's a tremendous opportunity for great [00:30:00] coaches if they want to get involved, because we're going to be focusing on the mentors and facilitators who are going to bring to life this fully systemized, a way of transforming people from, I want to be a coach to being extraordinary coaches. So. That's how I brought to life.[00:30:20] E-Myth revisit. Thank you, Mr. Gerber. Very grateful. There is always another level. I know that. And that's wonderful. I own a number of businesses that to different degrees have been. I call Gerber-ised  so I own a carwash, definitely that has had the E-Myth put across it. It's very, very systemized. It is very replicable as a couple of other businesses to different extents where this is occurred and it makes all the difference because everything then becomes more predictable.[00:30:50] Income becomes predictable, which is a gift. If you're in business, you'd know this. Where the results are going to come from becomes predictable. We get very good at [00:31:00] certain skills. We don't have to get good at everything. That's a wonderful gift to give ourselves. And as we specialize and get very skilled in this one specialty, we get easier.[00:31:11] It becomes easier to market, and it's easier for people to find us because that's what we're known for. So all these other things that I started working on began to drop away because. This is our core. We teach people how to become transformational coaches and that all began 18 years ago. So I hope this has given you a case study or an example of how to think about the E-Myth and the other works of Michael Gerber. [00:32:00] 

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“New Frontiers of Psychedelics” with Tania de Jong [00:00:00] Hey and welcome to this week's episode of Perspectives I am your host Sharon Pearson, and we are joined today by an extraordinary guest who has done some remarkable work in a field that is maybe to some of us, a little left of center. Her name is Tania de Jong and she is the founder and executive director of Mind Medicine Australia.And she has done some phenomenal work in moving forward, ensuring that some psychedelics and MDMA may becomes legalized within Australia for therapeutic purposes. This is a topic that I find truly fascinating,  Tania is  executive director and co-founder and board director of Mind Medicine Australia. And it is a registered charity acting as a central node for regulatory approved and research.[00:01:00] Psychedelics. She is identified in the psychedelic invest top 100 influential people in psychedelics, and she became interested in the resurgence in psychedelic research field after searching for ways to manage your own mental health and her own wellbeing. And we talk about this in the episode, she explains and walks us through her first psychedelic experience and how it transformed her with the support of her partner, Peter, she set out on a quest to have a therapeutic experience, but being able to do this in a safe and legal setting, which as you probably know around the world, isn't that easy to accomplish, have to experiencing this life-changing experience.She realized the potential of these medicines and she very clearly and distinctly calls them a medicines, not an illegal substance. And she also makes it clear here that MDMA and the psychedelics we talk about are not addictive, despite what we may have heard in the moral panic that can be attached to conversations like this.So she's on a mission to help [00:02:00] alleviate the suffering caused by mental illness in Australia that she truly believes is not necessary. And when you hear us have this conversation and you hear about the stats and what's been achieved in clinical trials around the world, right now, there are over a hundred clinical trials taking place around the world, including at John Hopkins, one of the most renowned research facilities in the world.And when you hear these results and we'll include in the show notes, links for you to get more information and maybe to some research as well. So you can see for yourself how profound an impact. that  these medicines combined with therapy can have on people who are suffering from PTSD, depression, anxiety, even eating disorders.It is, mind-blowing what I've been learning. She also is part of my Mind  Medicine Australia helps to and has phenomenal facilitators, helping to train the facilitators of tomorrow, the psychiatrists and psychologists and the therapists who will, when this becomes legislated within Australia [00:03:00] guide people who want to experience a transformation from the depression or their anxiety or their PTSD, and the team is training them entire process of how you can go through this therapeutic process.This is not an advocacy program for taking drugs. illegally is not an advocacy program for going to a rave, getting smashed and not drinking water and becoming a statistic. This is a conversation based on current research in 2021, and it is really exciting what the future holds. It's so great that you're joining us today.Tania thank you so much. I'd love for you to share with our audience a little bit about your journey as to how you got here to having that as your backdrop, Mind  Medicine Australia, if you would please. Sure. Look that's a really long story, but I mean to cut a long story short well my drug of choice has always been singing.So I have always [00:04:00] loved singing and it's been a wonderful form of meditation relaxation. There'll be entertainment connection, so many things for me. therapy  so I've never felt the need to have any drugs of any kind. And I've never, in fact, I've always been quite anti-drugs. And so it is, it is surprising that I do have this as my backdrop, but I guess to cut a long story short, you know, I'm the daughter and granddaughter of Holocaust survivors.My grandmother invented the foldable umbrella in Vienna in 1929. So you know, innovation is very much in my blood and I have founded two previous charities to Mind Medicine Australia, plus about six other creative businesses as well. And I've been a performer before, you know, all of, all of my sort of adult life, even though I was told, never double that having singing lessons at the age of 14 and.But I also, I did a law [00:05:00] degree and I've always been extremely entrepreneurial. And so, you know, I sort of, I guess, become the serial entrepreneur and as I've evolved and growing I become interested in different things and there's just sort of been this yeah, I mean to where I am today, where I'm, you know, a co-founder and executive director of Mind  Medicine Australia, and those still you know, I'm very passionate about my work as both a performer singer and speaker, and some of the work that I do for collective healing.A lot of the event production work I do as well is tied in to  this. So in a sense, it's bringing together a whole lot of different things that I do. But Mind Medicine  Australia is, is certainly all consuming. Like it's taking a lot of time up for me and my husband. We do this pro bono and we also do, that's the question I get that you do all these other things, [00:06:00] but why that is the backdrop, that's what I'm interested in.How did you arrive at a place where make getting, helping and facilitating the movement for psychedelics to become legal for medicine? Or how did that happen? Yeah, so that really happened because I've always been interested in hacking myself. So, you know, I've, I've tried lots and lots of different things, different dietsyou know, I tantra   mantra cryotherapy my therapy, you know, hyperbaric oxygen all sorts of different retreats, relationship, work personal development. And physical sort of stamina sort of modalities that I've always been really interested in. And I never heard about psychedelic assisted therapies until about five and a half years ago.When I read a blog of Tim Ferriss, who's one of the great donors and investors in this field and he announced that he was donating a [00:07:00] hundred thousand US dollars to impure colleagues to trial of psilocybin   assisted therapy to treat depression. I'm not, I don't suffer from depression myself, but I certainly know a lot of people who are suffering with depression.I've worked with a lot of people who are suffering with depression. And so I clicked on the link was to an article by Michael Pollan in the New Yorker magazine called the Trip Treatment  and I read this article and it was about, in fact,  profiling, a Jewish man who was going to an end of life, probably had a terminal diagnosis, but he had been experiencing, I think, some transgenerational trauma.And I had also. Being experiencing that I didn't really know what it was. You know, I'd have some strange dreams from time to time where maybe I was, and this was awful, you know, where I standing in front of a Nazi firing squad and things like that. And I'm thinking, well, where is this coming from? You know, this is, [00:08:00] I wasn't there for that.And so I felt that there was, you know, parts of my psyche, I guess, that were still carrying some of this ancestral trauma. And so when I read, you know, about this guy's sort of remission conditions and things, I thought, all this sounds amazing, you know, like amazing. And so I said to my husband read this article, I think we should, don't do this treatment.Hey, read it. And he said, oh, you know, it sounds interesting, but he didn't take any more interested in it, but he said, well, if you want to organize it, just go ahead. And he generally does say that about a lot of things. And so I then reached out to Dr. Robin Carhart Harris. Who's one of the leading researchers in this field who was mentioned in the article and asked him if there were any healthy patients trials that we could participate in because we don't have a mental illness diagnosis, but there weren't any taking place in the, in, in Europe at the time.And so we were eventually referred to a [00:09:00] guide in the Netherlands and we then flew to the Netherlands where we worked with that guide and had a massive medicinal dose of psilocybin yeah, I've been pure psilocybin, which was preceded by Syrian Rue, which is a MAOI inhibitor. So the protocol was called silhouette, Cisco, which was a combination really of psilocybin and some of the effective well scope because of the Mio inhibitor Syrian ruined.This was. A huge experience. Like we were literally shot out of   our bodies into other dimensions, into the multi-verse you know, journeys, this journey that we went on. And of course our journeys were entirely different. Peter's his father had committed suicide when he was thirteen  also. So, wow. You know, we all carry trauma either directly or indirectly.I think we're all carrying a lot of angst and grief along with us. And particularly now I've never felt so much [00:10:00] that way, carrying as a, as a collective and disconnected and huge disconnection and, you know, wonderful thing about these medicines is the enormous sense of connectivity that they bring, you know, the sense of being connected to yourself, to others, to the planet.I really is very profound and the healing that waits. Was enormous. And it's not that we were really ill or that we weren't not functioning or anything like that, but we became much better functioning. You know, I thought I was creative before, but you know, like I've been able to join the dots and understand things that I previously was not able to understand as well.Yeah, it's, it's really a profound effect. And it's improved our relationship, enormously, our relationships without families colleagues I think we've become, you know, more grounded more authentic is less ego in the way because I experienced and we both experienced like [00:11:00] play ego dissolution.So if I may, what that was like was when I taken the medicine. And I deliberately call these medicines cause that's what they are. These are ancient medicines. You know, they've been with humans since beginning of civilization and you can see the history of these medicines in ancient, Greek, and Roman cultures in the archeology.You can see the mushrooms and things like that. Ancient drinks like Kiki on that were taken to alter people, states to, to take them into these, these little ordinary states and. They've been in indigenous cultures since the very beginning. And they still are, of course being used in indigenous cultures completely legally in Mexico, south America.I mean, these medicines are illegal in the Netherlands and no range of other places. It just seems so ridiculous to me that, you know, you can go out into your garden or a field, and there's all these [00:12:00] psilocybin mushrooms, which contain the mind altering substance. And yet if you eat that mushroom, if you pick it and eat that mushroom, then that's, you know, it could end up with you being prosecuted and put in jail or whatever completely ridiculous when you actually go into your garden and pick a poisonous mushroom and eat it  and die.Whereas you could eat these mushrooms and completely be healed of many of, you know, the things that we're struggling with in suffering within this human Carnation that went, that we're in. So yeah, it was, it was Extremely profound experience. We came out of it saying that not only was it incredible for us, but that will set up for charities between us before Mind Medicine Australia.And both of us just said, well, you know, you can provide housing. You know, my husband's a [00:13:00] founder of women's community shelters I'm  the founder of the Song  Room and Creativity  Australia, and that with One  Voice program to provide creative programs, wonderful social inclusion applies, you know, you can provide all these things to people who are suffering disadvantage of some kind or another, whether it's homelessness, unemployment, disability, whatever it is to be, you know, feeling older and more isolated.But the fact is if a person has a mental illness, Of some kind that there's some sense of anxious, depression, whatever it happens to be trauma that they carrying along with them. If you cannot get to the root of that trauma, it doesn't matter what else you give them, because actually they're not going to feel better and they're not going to be able to lead a fully meaningful and contributing life.And imagine if that's a gift that we can give to people that they can feel, you know, connected and, and more whole more of themselves. If that's a gift [00:14:00] we can give people, then we should give that to people. And we shouldn't withhold it from particularly from people who are suffering. But of course we shouldn't withhold it from anyone because it's our birthright.These plants are on this planet for a reason. They are a medicine they contribute to our wellbeing, our sense of wholeness, oneness unity with, you know, self and others. I mean, how could we deny people the experience. Traveling into altered dimensions and experiencing the 95% of life that we actually don't say on the daily basis, we started really, after that first experience, meeting a load of the researchers reading a lot of the trials that were going on and familiarizing ourselves with the space.Then we started going to conferences and events around the world. A year later, we did another ceremony experience, I guess, with the same guide and it was even more profound. And then we were just completely [00:15:00] convinced. We were just like, well, everyone needs to have access to these medicines who needs access to them.And we also looked at what was not going on in Australia. Really. There was very little going on in Australia. There were, you know, an amateur  psychedelic society. And that sort of thing, but there was, you know, a tiny handful of researchers who were interested in this space, but there was really nothing.We had nothing to offer. We were acting in Australia, like it was 1970 and Nixon had just declared war on drugs. I was thinking in Australia for so long. Yeah. It's out of date by 50 years. So, and now there is research in Australia because the thinking around this is come full circle. So thank you. I'd love to just add a little disclaimer here.I have a little caveat for anyone listening, who perhaps is still perhaps thinking the way I used to think, Tania so this is for anybody who's thinking [00:16:00] like I used to think this is not us advocating, taking any drug. However you want. We are not advocating use of drugs that you buy off the street. We're not suggesting that we be irresponsible with what we have in your conversation about.Is using psychedelics something like perhaps MDMI, which is a different category of therapeutic medicine or a psychedelic like psilocybin for therapeutic purposes to help in the healing process. Ideally with a trained therapist, who's trained in how to guide you through a really extensive process, because I've now watched the movie.You, you had on that around the Israel study that was done, and I'm familiar with a number of the protocols now and how to help someone resolve trauma and the kind of stats these results are producing. So I invite you if you're an audience member thinking I never want my kids to do drugs. We are not advocating your kids do drugs.I mean, I think it's important also to say  to everyone who watches listens to this [00:17:00] is that everything is about the context. Everything is about the context in which a medicine or drug is used. So, you know, morphine, which is. Used often in the hospital, but you know, if you take it recreational it's, it's no good heroin on the street is no good, but it's using the anesthetics when you go and have an operation in the hospital.So everything is about your intention and how you use that medicine in an intentional way for healing or whether you're using it just to get off your face because you can't deal with your trauma. It's leading you to become an addict, an addict in something else. It's important though, to say that these medicines are extremely safe and non-addictive even in recreational environments, they considered to MDMA particularly and psilocybin in their pure GMP pay grade form are considered extremely safe in recreational environments[00:18:00] whereas alcohol is by far the most dangerous drug to self and others. And that's been proven in multiple trials and studies around the world. So. We are talking about medicines that when used intentionally under the guidance of, you know, a supervise guide or therapist can truly transform your perspective on life and certainly create enormous healing for a range of conditions, not only including depression and anxiety and trauma, but are now being trialed for addiction.And they, the, the results for treating addiction the results are incredible  yeah. End of life, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder, anorexia and eating disorders. Alzheimer's now cluster headaches and of course, PTSD  and so we're seeing these medicines now being trialed for. An enormous variety of conditions.And my [00:19:00] belief is that they will be trialed for even a broader group of conditions as time goes on, because the way that they reconnect brains on neural pathways is so significant that that, and that sense of connectivity is so important to a person's healing. And really these medicines help to empower us, to become agents for our own healing, rather than taking daily pills or relying on a psychotherapist for the rest of our lives.And this is nothing against the wonderful psychotherapies that are there. It's simply saying that there are treatments and with  two  to three medicinal treatments combined with a short course of psychotherapy, 60 to 80% of patients across 160 recent trials are going to remission. Now you compare that again.30 to 35% remission rates from current treatments for depression, or just 5% remission rates for [00:20:00] post-traumatic stress disorder. And it comes back and if they suspend treatment, it returns. Yeah. And let alone all the side effects and the withdrawal comes through these medications and so on. So in this case, we're saying that mental illness does not have to bail.I said that there is a cure for many patients available, not for all. This is not a panacea for all. And nor are we saying that current existing treatments don't work for some patients, they do. They just don't work for the majority of patients. And we have a mental health crisis. And this is one of the reasons why Peter and I, as philanthropists and social entrepreneurs are putting all our money and time, energy into these, because the impact.It's enormous. The potential impact is huge. Like Mind Medicine  Australia, and other organizations, like it, have the potential to change and save the lives of millions of people yeah, who was suffering - there is  1 million [00:21:00] soldiers in the us, struggling with PTSD as we speak and traditional old school therapies are not resolving it, but the results they're having five years later, 53 to 50%, 7% of them have cannot any longer be classed as having PTSD.Yeah. In the recent phase three trial of MAPS with both veterans, first responders and also others suffering with post-traumatic stress disorder straight after just three medicinal doses of MDMA with a short course of psychotherapy. 67% of those patients have gone into remission. And it's expected that as they integrate the experience, it's important to say psychedelic assisted psychotherapy means the medicine, the psychedelic with the psychotherapy, the medicine on its own.It's not going to be fully effective. Anyone out there. I just say that as a word of caution, that you need to do a proper integration process because the insights that [00:22:00] you will experience using these medicines are profound, but to capture them and bring them into your lives, your relationship, relationships, your work, whatever you need to bring them into all elements of your life takes integration.It takes work with a therapist to bring those learnings in and to then make the changes that you need to make in your life that are going to relieve some of the suffering and, and help you to experience what is really here, this beautiful life that we've been gifted by our parents. It's just such a gift.And it's, it's a terrible tragedy that most people can experience, I guess. That you know, and this is really, really the reason why we set up Mind Medicine in Australia is because we have this mental health epidemic in Australia and globally that is, is just getting worse and worse. You know, pre COVID in Australia alone.We had one in five Australians with a mental illness, one [00:23:00] in age being prescribed antidepressants, but one in four older adults and one in 30 children, as young as four. Now that is a terrible indictment. You know, we are over prescribing these medications more than just about any other OECD patient. And furthermore, you know, what we're seeing is that, you know, these statistics suggest that one in two of us will suffer a mental illness in our lifetimes.And we can't continue to overmedicate people in the way. Is occurring at the moment. Well, the medication is suppressing a symptom, whereas the therapies that are now on, in studies around the world, a lot of studies in the world are dealing with the core of it and resolving the core issue. So the symptoms will, I'm no longer required.There's one story I heard about, I think I'm going to attribute it to Rick Doblin, who is one of the major leaders in the world in this research. I know you have a relationship with him. I think [00:24:00] it was him. I'll give him credit for it. My apologies if it isn't him, whoever that is. And he said one of the first experiences of it was a soldier who experienced PTSD and had for years, 17 years, I think it was.And he held onto the PTSD. He realized this when he was taken through the therapeutic process and on his very first trip, I think it was MDMA but I can't remember if it was psilocybin he came to realize that he was staying in stress to honor his dead comrades. I'm going to get emotional.And only in that very first trip, you mean the requirement is you have therapy, then you have a trip, some therapy trip therapy, trip, some therapy at the end. So it's three trips with therapy back-to-back he did the pre therapy, did this one trip and realized the only reason he held onto his honor is dead comrades Chrome rights.As a result of the psilocybin, he became his dead comrades and saw his life through their eyes. And in the moment of seeing his life through their eyes, he realized they'd never want [00:25:00] that for him. He dropped out of that very first study and years later, any symptoms of PTSD are completely resolved and now he works assisted.People experiencing trauma. And that's just to correct you by the way. I think that person who is MDMA therapy, not psilocybin thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Assisted therapy is the one that's used for post-traumatic stress disorder, psilocybin therapy therapies used for depression and development as well, so perfect.And they were able to drop out of the study. And so I don't need, there is the trips aren't needed the therapy and they've had years of therapy and putting aside whatever issues we have around this, let's pause and take in this. What looks like in any other category, if it wasn't criminalized, we would consider miraculous and worth pursuing with all our mightthe world would be transformed if it was doing this for anything else that had [00:26:00] illegal substance around. Totally. That is a transformation. Their life is changed and saved because of this. Let's pause and think, well, maybe we need to change our views of it. Our preconceptions that come from the 1970s or late sixties and realize what's shifted in the world now, which I love.I love the shift. Well, absolutely. I couldn't agree more. And you know, if you think about it, that the existing treatments, most of them are based on science that is over 50 years old. I mean, in what other field of medicine are we so stuck in the past and why are we running towards these treatments? You know, so the Brigadier general of the veterans in, in the U S said, you know, based on the data and facts, we should be running towards these trends.If this could even save a handful of lives, but it can save literally. Millions of lives. So why aren't we doing that? I think it's turning now. So let's just take a moment and talk. It was [00:27:00] really bad in the sixties. So one of the lines, I think Rick said, but again, I think I'm giving him a bit too much credit.I think it was Griffiths said in the 1960. So it was used in a lot of clinical trials back then, as you know, Tania it escaped over the laboratory wall and made it out into the counterculture and the counterculture getting hold of it meant that the, all the negative stories in the myths began to be produced around the world.That's how we heard these stories about if you took it, you would stare at the sun until you went blind. It's a complete myth and a lie that was created to create fear amongst it, which forced it way underground for way too long. But we're talking today because that landscape is no longer the landscape we find ourselves in.Absolutely. And, you know, it's interesting. So even though I didn't know what psyilocibin   was, and I didn't even really know what psychedelics were, to be honest. When I did this, there was still, obviously some of those messages that stigma was flying away because I wasn't even aware that I had it, but I was like, am I going to go crazy?Am I going to have a heart attack? Is, you [00:28:00] know, so they, you know, they sort of, these myths are very strong. And so one of the really important roles of mine medicine Australia is to actually dispel those myths and to focus on the science and the data. Because when we focus on the funds and data, it's absolutely clear, like, you know, the risks attached to these medicines are actually extremely low.There has not been a single adverse event with thousands of patients. Who've undergone either psilocybin or MDMA  sister therapy. Over 160 trials, you know, no one has become a drug addict before because of them. In fact, many drug addicts and smoking addict addicts smokers have, have actually been able to like their addictions have gone because of these treatments.So yeah, it's, it's really yeah, it's amazing how we, we sort of turned things upside down didn't we, you know, so that alcohol  was not made criminal cigarettes were not made criminal [00:29:00] and cocaine and meth amphetamines and all these really dangerous drugs, you know, the people can access very easily and yet yeah.But yes, what is really great is we are seeng  this Renaissance now and. It's brand has brain rejuvenated, Tanya. So leading the way, just so we can get some facts out there for people listening. Who've never heard about this Renaissance. That's been going on. John Hopkins has been conducting studies for a while.Now. NYU is conducting studies. Studies have now begun in Australia. There's millions of dollars of funding. It's not a lot, but some, but one of the stories I found most interesting was Tim Ferriss was talking last year in 2020, as result of a a citizen   philanthropy, there is $30 million in private funds to pursue clinical trial stage three trials.In the effectiveness of psychedelics in therapeutic settings that tells me the tide has [00:30:00] turned on this conversation finally, to enable people who need the help, who are suitable for these types of therapies can get the help. And just to be very conservative, there is complete recognition. Not everybody is suited to this.There are some personality types and some, I think it's remind me, what is it not suited for? So, so at the moment, schizophrenia and bipolar excluded those with incidences of psychosis, but many of the psychiatrists actually believe that over time, as you know, these medicines are studied further, those conditions also be able to be treated.And I do know  instances of people who. have been  So because they haven't been accepted into the trials because of those conditions have gone underground where they, the borderline of bipolar and other conditions and have actually healed as well. But at the moment they're excluded from the trials and, you know, at time it will just take time.And the more that we invest in you know, research in this space, [00:31:00] but also the more that actual access is granted, so that we can click data as people go through treatments. And that's one of the things we've really fast-tracked in Australia is that these treatments are currently available through special access scheme pathways.And what that means is that a doctoral psychiatrist. You know, it can work with a treatment resistant patients. So a patient who's tried two or more other treatments that haven't worked and who is very ill and potentially could be suicidal, but certainly is very ill. And the doctor and psychiatrist applies to the TJR regulator to treat that patient with either psilocybin or MDMA assisted therapy.And the TGA has been granting those treatments. In fact, I don't believe they've knocked any back since last June, so that's a federal approval, but then the doctor then needs to get an approval in the state to treat the patient. And in some states there are still these recreational use laws that prevent the [00:32:00] medicines from being brought in because they're seen as drugs instead of medicines.So what we need to make sure occurs is that there's a national standardization, a permit system put in place in every state of Australia. That means that doctors can. Bring those medicines in to treat patients in clinical environments, that's completely different to a recreational use setting. And so, you know, again, this comes down to context and unfortunately the states are not making this distinction between the use of the medicine in a medical environment to treat a patient who's really unwell and potentially save their life versus someone who's going underground to access you know, they drugs what's the resistance around it. Given it's moved so far forward in the United States. So in the United States, the FDA has last year declared it for breakthrough status, which means it's a breakthrough. Which is a breakthrough [00:33:00] medicine. And what that means is they give approval to fast-track the different stages of clinical trials that need to occur.So we can start helping people as soon as possible Australia, I, to, to medicine that that could be vastly superior to existing treatments. It's a very good nation. Yes it is. And where are we in Australia? Yeah, so we have the SASB approvals taking place trickling through, but yeah, yeah. We need to get through some of the state barriers, which we're working on, but also in Australia, we've put in submissions for the rescheduling of both MTMA and psilocybin from schedule nine, which is prohibited medicine, which implies it's dangerous and of no benefit, which is completely wrong and is simply based on the politicization of president Nixon in 1970.Yeah. Two schedule eight schedule eight meaning controlled medicines. So that means the medicine would be used in clinical environments under the supervision of trained practitioners. And that's where this medicine [00:34:00] should be sitting if not schedule four. So in Australia, we have a number of medicines and schedule a and schedule four, which are far more dangerous than either psilocybin or MDMA and schedule four schedule four is a more, slightly more accessible, still controlled, but slightly more accessible.But we have medicines like ibogaine, which is used to treat very heavy drug addicts. It's a psychedelic medicine also, but it's far, far more, you know, No potential far more significant effects on the heart and so on. Whereas psilocybin and MDMA do not, as I said before, there's been no adverse events with their use whatsoever.And you know, they continually come up in files, like for example, these a recent trial that has been undertaken in pure college directly comparing an SSRI, an antidepressant with psilocybin [00:35:00] assisted therapy. And in that trial the 60 patients were either given two doses of psilocybin with psychotherapy or a daily dose of a esetelgram which is an antidepressant.And at the end of the trial twice, So twice as many of the patients in the psilocybin group went into remission, as that is to tell a prime group, they also had less side effects and less suicidal ideation. So what we're seeing is that in every single trial, these treatments are showing themselves as to be far more effective and actually safer than existing treatments because yeah, and again, they don't treat the symptoms, they treat the core.It's a long-term resolution, not a suppression. Correct? Correct. And this is all about curative medicines, not just palliative medicine, about, you know, finding a cure so that person can then, you know, become fully aware of what has been their trauma or their challenge. And they can get through it [00:36:00] themselves.Just coming in, obviously with competent therapists is extremely important. It is important to note that a lot of the existing treatments do have negative effects for a lot of people, they can lead to suicidality in some patients and their side effects significant as, as many of us will know. And also it's, it's a known fact that it's extremely difficult to withdraw from antidepressants if you've been on them for, for awhile, and that can create its own problems.So we need to be very careful. And Mind  Medicine Australia says, you know, we say six days. As expanding the treatment options available to medical practitioners and their patients ensuring that these treatments become a first-line option. So that if you go to your medical practitioner, they will discuss a range of statements with you disclosing full risks and benefits.One thing we hear about often is that doctors don't fully disclose the, the side effects of antidepressants to their [00:37:00] patients, and that should be happening. You know, we should have full disclosure to all patients, and then it becomes a decision for the doctor and patient as to what's going to be the most effective and safe treatment for that patient on a case by case basis.It's not just this broad brush stroke that everyone who comes in, you know, who's feeling a little bit sad, just gets given an antidepressant script and, you know, success for us. We'll look at, look like first-line treatments. Secondly, that the remission rates are very high. And continue to be very high and that the right treatment protocols are put in place for all patients.And finally that these treatments are accessible and available to all Australians, no matter where they're based, their financial circumstances. So a big part of our focus is setting up this ticket in psychedelic assisted therapies. And we've had our first cohort go through [00:38:00] 46 psychiatrists, psychologists, GPS, physicians, therapists, mental health nurses, social workers, occupational therapists, counselors.And so they've already gone through and many of them have rated the course as the model. Life-changing and important course and the most brilliant  training they've ever undertaken. We have a world-class faculty and as our second  intake commences, and a couple of weeks and is nearly full. And then we have probably up to four intakes in 2022.The demand is huge. And so this is preparation for what's coming because you anticipate the laws are going to need to start keeping up with all the other research around the world. The research now is reasonably your refutable it's trials have been complete. The stats are  in, we can't argue with these ridiculously successful.Absolutely. But also a lot of these therapists are able to start working with patients now, so they can do, you know, they can help prepare patients who are [00:39:00] going underground because it's not illegal to do that. They can provide integration to patients. Who've used the medicine. They could work on trials and they can work with their patients who are getting SASB special access scheme approvals.So in actual fact, the therapists who are being trained and getting the qualification now the front run is in this space and they're the therapists who will gain first access also to be part of, you know, some of the trials and, and other pathways that become available. And St Vincent's has started its own trial.I think last year is that right? They've done. They have some funding for a trial. So we part funded a trial at St. Vincent's, which is for end of life anxiety and stress caused by a terminal diagnosis. That's going through about 30 patients. It's similar to some trials that have been conducted overseas at New York university.And.  Johns Hopkins. And [00:40:00] the interesting thing is that the one at New York university, which I mentioned before, which was an inspiration for me in terms of actually trying to spice it up was what was really interesting about that trial was that 80% of the patients went into remission immediately from the end of life, stress and anxiety, and were able to, you know, it continued.But what is remarkable is that after four and a half years, the researchers went back to those patients. And not only were the majority of them still alive, but all of them were still in remission who was still alive. Wow. That's a whole other study. That's a whole different study. That's got to be done.That's staggering. I didn't know that. That's right. Yeah. My mind is blown. That's incredible. We probably should've done this sooner. Would you mind touching base for our audience members? The difference between MDMA whose full name? I cannot pronounce, no matter how much I researched. And let's just talk about psilocybin, which is an [00:41:00] element of magic mushrooms.Can you just share the difference basically between the two? Yeah, so MDMA is known as a empathogen. So basically what he does is it's actually not a traditional psychedelics. So what it does is when you have the MDMA you feel very warm and loving and connected, and unfortunately MDMA has been very vilified because it's been used a lot as a party drug people at music, festivals and so on, but.Young people are getting when they think they're getting MDMA is an adult rated substance. In fact, in a lot of the capsules that people think is MDMA there's other substances and sometimes is no MDMA whatsoever, which is what leads to those headlines, further drug deaths from MDMA which is unfortunately not what's actually happening.And it's also known for the audience. If they haven't heard MDMA ecstasy or Molly, that's the straight kind of name for it. Yeah. [00:42:00] Fortunately ecstasy and Molly have go a bad name    because making it at music festivals at rave parties and so on in combination with other substances often with dehydration kids staying up all night and that can lead to really bad effects.But MDMA and it's pure GM P pharmceutical grade. Substance that's used as a medicine and a medically controlled environment creates enormous empathy and trust and safety for the patient, where they are able to talk about their trauma with the therapist in a very safe and loving environment. And what the MDME does is it reduces the activity of their Mikela, which often triggers a fight or flight response.So when a therapist normally gets you to talk about your trauma, that can re trigger a re traumatize, you, which can make you worse in effect, you know, I'm sure we've all spoken to people. Who've suffered with trauma at one time or another way we try to talk about the trauma and they either [00:43:00] burst into floods of tears.race out of the room can become very emotional and it can become very problematic. But what happens with this is the patient's able to talk about their trauma. They're able to accept what has happened and to move forward with their lives. And be healed. And, you know, in the case of the phase two trials with MAPS it 105 patients, all of whom had been suffering with post-traumatic stress disorder for an average of 18 years, just three medicinal treatments.With a short course of psychotherapy, 52% of them went into remission immediately, but 67% after 12 months with full integration. So you can imagine the suffering that they had experienced, then the remission that they achieved. And that's what it, those 5% from existing treatments, how can we not give that gift to people?You know, it's, it's extraordinary. So MDMA provides an incredible therapeutic [00:44:00] window in which competent therapists can work with a patient. I'll just mentioned to the audience for MAPS the multidisciplinary association for psychedelic studies. Yes. And then psilocybin is the psychoactive component of magic mushrooms.It is a traditional psychedelic medicine that has been with humanity since the beginning of human civilization. And what it does in the brain is it's, it helps to bypass. What's called the default mode network of our brain. The default mode network of our brain keeps us stuck in very rigid stuck thought loops, particularly with suffering from depression or anxiety or some form of trauma.You know, I'm not good enough things weren't work out for me. My life is rubbish. No one loves me and I actually share, and I will provide a video that you might like to attach with. Interview [00:45:00] that people can watch that gives some further, further guidance, but the wonderful philosophic is that it it really can expand to what's known as our five T H two-way receptor, which is a serotonin receptor in our brain.And the psilocybin floats beautifully into that receptor and it creates this therapeutic window. So that in effect, what happens is when you take the psilocybin, the default mode network of your brain is sorta goes to sleep and you get the sense of incredible neural connectivity. And I'll provide you with some scans of FMR.I. Yeah, good scans down on some patients with depression that show in the placebo. So for patient with depression, they have very limited neural connectivity. You know, these rigid, stuck thought loops, but with the ingestion of the psilocybin, they experienced this massive neurogenesis, this neural [00:46:00] connectivity where different hemispheres of their brain start reconnecting, they experience increased neuroplasticity, and that allows this connectivity, this sense of oneness to take place.And again, creates a therapeutic window where a competent therapist can work with that patient post the treatment because the patient in the silicide and experience, isn't an entirely altered state. They will usually experience some form of ego dissolution. Yes. And it will no longer be Tania or Sharon.It'll be one. Yes. You're part of everything. Everything feels part of you. It's a wonderful, wonderful feeling. And from that experience, you can then start to come to terms with some of the things that are holding that. Yeah. So in my case, would that look like was I traveled completely out of my body. I actually saw these three boxes that had the word ego in them with a red cross for them.And I kept [00:47:00] saying ego, I please get out of my way, get out of my, go down the drain. And actually  below is three boxes where drains, they sewage look like sewage pipes or drains. And I kept trying to push my ego down the drain. That was what symbolism was of what I was saying. Once I had pushed my ego down the drain, I was then able to journey further with my experience where I just became one with everything and everything became a part of me.And if you have the right. dosage of  each of the medicine, which you will always have in a medically controlled environment, then you will hopefully inevitably experience that. Now with some people that may take time, you know, if a person has been on antidepressants for a number of years or decades, it may take more experiences with the psilocybin, for to get a breakthrough like that.So it's arguable that some patients are gonna need more than two or three medicinal doses of these medicines. [00:48:00] And only time will tell, you know, as we do more research and work out more of the protocols for treatment, I think it will become obvious what different patients are going to need in terms of those in terms of support, in terms of how many dosesand so on one of the ways Sam Harris describes it is he strived for years to have that experience through meditation and taking it was MDMA helped him experience what the whole experience could be with meditation, which he now says he experiences through meditation. So it's almost like you get to the end point also.That's what it feels like to be fully the one. And then now he meditates to that to knowing that reality, he actually did his first psilocybin experience. I think at the end of last year, you should go and have a look at it and you might want to share it with, I did watch that. I thought it was fascinating.He did MDMA years ago in psilocybin last year and his friend instructed him. I won't actually talk about the instructions. Y'all watch the we'll [00:49:00] listen to the audio cause he has a great disclaimer and I think that's important. The other thing I think that's with touching on is if we keep holding onto 1970s attitudes around this and bring 1970s attitudes to it, I want caution and I want clinical studies and I know you support, let's do it in a very methodological way.That's exactly how to do it. But any moral panic around this to me is looking really fuddy-duddy should this absolutely especially, well, for two reasons, one of them is that firstly, these medicines and particularly the mushrooms and some of the other psychedelic plant medicines are readily available.And so, you know, the people suggest that, you know we should somehow withhold these from people is actually very short-sighted because what will happen is, and what is happening now is that the longer that these medicines take to be above ground and in medically controlled environments, the more people will go to [00:50:00] the underground and take risks to get better because people will do anything.So, you know, like we only get one life, one short line, these medicines really reiterate that well in this incarnation anyway, you know, so the fact of the matter is if people are really sick and they've been suffering for years and decades, they are going to do. And as, as there's more many media articles about these treatments, they'll just go and find the treatments.Now, there are many underground practitioners who are outstanding and hopefully they'll find them, but there's as inevitably happens in any sector that is taking off they'll also be Cowboys that come in and who will put up their shingles and who will put themselves out there as psychedelic assisted therapists who don't have the experience either with dosing or holding the space or integrating patients properly.And then there could be adverse events that do occur. [00:51:00] So we need to accelerate access to these treatments as fast as we can. It's just imperative that you know, we do that now. And of course, you know, there's plenty of space to continue research in this space. At the same time, the two are not mutually exclusive.We can provide access and start training all these veterans and first responders and others, our brothers, our sisters, our mothers, our fathers, our employees who will also many of whom are suffering. Especially in these, you know, coming out of post COVID world where we're seeing the terrible harms that have been done, especially to children and young people and older people as well.Who've been. And we need to provide solutions. The elephant in the room is the lack of treatment innovation for over five decades. That is what we need to be talking about. Not about more tele health, not about training more psychiatrists and psychologists or more antidepressants. It can't be just more and more antidepressants when the success rate is so low and [00:52:00] placebos often perform nearly as well.If not as well, when there is an urgency. Well, I would I mental health crisis beginning. So, you know, so yeah, so we need to get away from these attitudes of 50 years ago, you know, it's, it's 2021 right? Well, there hasn't really been a breakthrough in mental health since 1980s and nineties when antidepressants hit the market really full force.So if you haven't had a transformation in that entire sector, yet mental health is getting worse and worse and worse. Surely if we have a potential pathway and again, it's not a panacea, we're not saying it is for everyone. It's not suited to everyone. It needs to be done under controlled conditions with a very well-trained expert guide with all those caveats, it becomes a point.I think it was just a political football, right. And, you know, and, and it's great to say the Australian government actually you know, supporting files. And in fact, you know, the 15 million that the Australian government has announced [00:53:00] is actually larger than any other government in the world has actually announced.That's fantastic. We're out of the fuddy duddy category. If you look at it now, Sharon in Australia actually. The potential to lead in this space, the latest in this space, we've got fantastic scientists. We have amazing researchers, amazing medical doctors who really care about their patients and want to get them well.And I should also say that there's a massive market opportunity for Australia. You know, the market is in valued. Like it's, it's like some estimates are as high as $200 billion marketplace for psychedelic medicines over the next few years. And we're seeing startups sitting up every, you know, almost every two weeks since Peter and I started Mind Medicineso there's one of the challenges though that you can't patent the MDMA stretch all the psilocybin structure so startups are coming in so [00:54:00] big pharma isn't necessarily. Yeah, it's going to be funding it, which is why there's so many individuals who are funding it right now to make a difference in the world.They're literally doing it as a charitable donation. Yeah. Yeah. Well, we certainly do that, but there's also startups. Commercial startups will pro profit startups around the world. Probably more than 50 now, who are listed on various stock exchanges who are investing in reinventing the molecules, manufacturing, new medicines, rollout of clinics and so on.So there will be for-profit models where people will make a lot of money, but we say it's really important to do then ethical way. And, and we hope that the for-profit and not-for-profit sectors can work effectively together to make sure that these medicines don't get priced out of, you know, out of the market.I mean, so that, you know, anyone can get access to them, not just wealthy people, cause that would be a travesty. Thank you so much tenure. I really appreciate it. I find this conversation truly fascinating. I do follow what you do. I have attended the [00:55:00] videos that you've been sharing, the the study out of Israel.I watched that and I was really interested in it. Congratulations. The other thing that I was thinking is I might be able to send you some of my, I've got some beautiful songs and recordings on my record albums. Some of which have been informed by. You know, my experiences with the medicines and some of the insights that I've received.And so I'd love to share them with you anyway. That'd be great. Thank you. That's really kind of, you send through the links because I think that to be informed is to stop moral panic, to be informed is to understand how we can support people who are suffering unnecessarily. So anything that we can do to access the information that's going to decode our brains from 1970s, thinking to where the current research is, which has a lot of credibility.A lot of  legitimacy in the world is the political groundswell is going to shift the attitude towards it is going to shift until I believe in our lifetime. It is shifting. I mean, this is inevitable, like within the native cities, [00:56:00] yes. Medicines will become much more readily available. Not only I think, will they be available in the middle?Yeah. Environments, but over time, they'll become available to those who are seeking personal development, creative development,  Tania  lovely connecting with you. I really appreciate your time. Where can people find out more about what you do and the movement, if they just want to start  paying attention to this as what's coming in the future?Absolutely. So, you know, we'd love you to look at our website, mind medicine, australia.org. We are a registered charity, so please if you can donate small and large donations all  make a huge difference in the mission to make these medicines available. And to heal the suffering that's occurring. Yeah.So please support us. Look at our learn section on our website. Join our chapters. We have 30 chapters around Australia, New Zealand attend our events. We have lots of free webinars. We have a global summit in November. Register if [00:57:00] you're a therapist registered for the certificate in psychedelic therapies just get involved.Reach out. We also have volunteering opportunities and we also do advertise, you know, we're expanding a team. So we have some wonderful jobs coming up. Fantastic. Congratulations on how far it's come. They were looking for a general manager at the moment, so, wow. Okay. Good plug. I love it. Fantastic. All right.Well, I recommended I follow you and your work and I've, as I said, attended a couple of your classes. I think it's fascinating work and it's unbelievably important and significant. So thank you so much for your time Tania I really appreciate. Thank you, Sharon. Fascinating talking with you and I'm thankful.That'd be great. Thanks so much. Thank you.  

On this 7th Sunday of Easter, we hear Jesus' “high priestly prayer” to God: a prayer for himself, the disciples, and the world. Prayer for us doesn't need to be as complicated or cosmic as Jesus' prayer. By virtue of our baptism, we are a member of the priesthood of all believers. When we pray and join in Jesus' activity of prayer, we are doing a priestly thing – bringing the pains and needs of the earth into the heart of God.

Perspectives Podcast - David Richo (Full Episode) Show NotesGloria Steinem said, too many people are looking for the right person instead of trying to be the right person. My guest today is Dr. David Richo is a renowned psychotherapist he's author of 20 books. And he's been working in this field for 50 years and still practicing. He is a beautiful human being. You're going to love this conversation. His work emphasizes the benefits of mindfulness, loving-kindness and personal growth. And in this episode, we are going to discuss the book that I have just loved, which is ‘How to be an Adult in Relationships’.We're going to talk about the five A’s - attention, acceptance, action, appreciation and allowing and how they are the key to true intimacy.I have read the book and really enjoyed it. My husband and I are working together through the exercises in the book right now and really approaching it mindfully and very slowly. We are taking big pauses and making sure that we're are not bringing what we might've done before we read the book, to create some new levels of intimacy.We've been married for 28 years and I don't think this process comes naturally to people necessarily. I think there's so much debris piled on top of us over the years that whatever part of our spirit or a soul had access to this early can get buried. What I love about David Richo’s book is how he invites the spiritual journey as well as the therapeutic journey. In this podcast we have delved into:The mindfulness journey and the pathway to intimacyHow David Richo found Buddhism and the impact it had on his work as an introduction to something spiritual in a new way.How we advance on our spiritual journey toward being a person of integrity and love and how through mindfulness you can turn that reflection inwards and start to become an adult in the relationship. And that's the pathway to intimacy. We speak about the journey that invites us to reflect within and how that journey is so integral to the message in the book, teaching us to become aware of our needs first and then our fears of having them fulfilled, instead of pushing these feelings aside. The irony that informs so many relationships - we look like we're really wanting intimacy, but at the same time, we could be fearing that same intimacy because of what it entails, which is becoming vulnerable, letting ourselves be seen as we really are. With all our warts and wounds. We focus on The 5 A’s – ‘How to be an Adult in Relationships’ explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships – from our childhood with our parents, through to our intimate partners: Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationshipsAcceptance, acceptance of ourselves and others just as we areAppreciation, of all our gifts, our limits, our longing and our poignant human predicamentAffection, shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.Allowing, life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control. How to manage when you don’t receive the 5 A’s in childhood – letting go of the anger, the healthy path out of childhood into adulthood. How you know you are ready to be in a relationship?Being ready is becoming an adult first. Then you can have an adult relationship one in which there is love. To do your own personal work to get you to be the best partner you can be. That's how you know that you have a real commitment, not the wedding ring or the big day. Drama thrives on adrenaline. Whereas the true intimacy thrives on oxytocin, our hormone of closeness. If you are keeping things at a fever pitch and it's always a big drama going on. There's always a big conflict, which can't be worked out. And when you're doing that, you might ask yourself, do I really want closeness or do I, or what am I actually just looking for? The See Model – the way to ask yourself and analyse what is getting you so upset or reactive? Using the acronym SEE – is it a shadow – is it my ego – is it from early life.Ego is one of the most vicious enemies of intimacy - ego, and how that affects relationships. The ego fears that you won't be acknowledged as you need to be, to the rest of the world but it's also the fear that you won't be able to handle not being given the special treatment that you think you deserve. We discuss the practices that can help you get out of the ‘solo act of ego’ in relationships. Anger is a strong energy -instead of blaming in anger, where can we go to within ourselves to achieve a healthy response? Grief and anger, learning to work within and avoid being stuck in anger. The Heroes Journey to RedemptionDavid and I both love the mythological journey, the hero's journey to redemption. And I see the elements of this in the book by design strongly. The hero’s journey starts out externally and then the moment when the hero is truly transformed is when they realize that which they sought outside was always within them.How to be an Adult in Relationships sets out a beautiful mythological heroes journey we can learn from and invites us to reflect and enhance our relationships.

A conversation with Australia literary hero, Patrick Lindsay. I really trust you enjoy this podcast and this conversation with Patrick Lindsay. He is a phenomenal human being and a very compassionate man. I'm a big fan of his work and researching this podcast, getting to know his work and getting to know him has been a real joy. Patrick Lindsey has had a long career in print and television journalism both here and overseas. He's been a TV presenter, a producer, film maker and a writer, and he's become one of Australia's leading non-fiction authors publishing over 21 non-fiction books. He is a professional observer who writes on topics that are close especially to Australians and New Zealanders and around the world. He shares inspiring messages of wisdom through his motivational series that he wrote for his grandchildren. And he reminds us that within us we have the power to change our lives for the better - he’s definitely the eternal optimist. He's doing amazing work. He's has a new movie coming out shortly, the home front, which is a film looking at what we can do to support returned serviceman. During the podcast we talked about going to Gallipoli and Kokoda and we look at those wars and those campaigns, we talk about the philosophy of war and what it means for us today and the fortune we have today, which is almost self-evident. We do a little bit of Trump ranting, which is always good for a podcast. We look at politics and the effects of social media on it. We touch on that. We talk about this, the way he thinks and how he approaches things. I was in a cafe, I think it was only yesterday and I was crying, reading his book, The Spirit of Gallipoli. It overwhelmed me and I was surprised at how many people didn’t know the story. And there are so many stories to speak of that we didn't get to cover in the podcast as much as I'd like. So I do recommend that you go and read this book. I appreciate the cynicism and the questions we asked today about the folio of war and the folly of sacrificing ourselves in another land for a piece of land that we've never heard of before. And in no way, is that to disparage or take anything away from soldiers who volunteer to go and support and defend our nation and the places that need them. I’m really just so honoured that they do that for us every single day. Our discussions raised the question about drafting, if that would be introduced again today. How would we be? What would we say? What would we do? How would we look at it? What would social media say? What new device would be created? Who would go? Would women go? Once a soldier said it was your national duty. When I think about how few people know the story of Gallipoli today, and know what it meant for those diggers, what they lost and what they did and what they sacrificed and what they had to do, it’s heartbreaking. All the rules about what we believe about institutions and what they can ask of us now has changed so radically from this a hundred years ago. Interesting questions. I do love interesting perspectives. And this podcast to me at its heart, it's about different ways of thinking. I just enjoyed so much chatting with him and I trust you get some value out of meeting and getting up close with Patrick Lindsey. Highlights include: In the podcast we will talk about: Behind the creative process So many of you will be pleased to hear more about the behind the scenes of his creative process and what inspires him. He looks at his life as a continuing journey, an exploration and a belief that it is never too late, there is always something to learn. Bouncing back, be a twig His latest book is called Be Resilient and speak to a world figuring out a way of enduring and then bouncing back post COVID. Patrick thinks the analogy for being resilient is ‘being a twig’ , A green, healthy twig that that can blow in the winds and always bounce back. Because to be resilient you have to have a healthy mind, a healthy body, you know, a healthy spirit kind of thing, a sound, one of those. He refers to the great stoics and ancient Greek and Roman philosophers. Resilience and a sense of duty in today’s world We talk about the sense of duty during the past world wars and discuss how this has changed in today’s age and the plight of the modern veteran and how Patrick has come to be inspired by so many stories are of stoicism and a resilience, of personal sacrifice and of bravery. Strategy and leadership in war We explored the role of leadership in war, the structured Japanese, the fierce training of the Australians and their adaptability and the wonderful lessons learned from the guys who just ‘stepped into the role of leader. And how after war they went back into society and resumed their lives - they didn't then say, okay, I've just spent five years being a warrior and how with the help of their mates they were able to survive. The role of authorities and support for returned soldiers There is a point of view of modern veterans, they feel an adversarial relationship between them and the structures that support them - having been sent away, having been damaged, having comeback with physical and mental issues and things like that, Patrick expresses his view on this and the toll of mental illness on the returned service man and the danger of unresolved issues. The Spirit of Gallipoli, Churchill and the front line We talk about the bravery of great leaders in war and the sacrifice of the soldiers. The change in journalism from legacy voice – to 10,000 opinions. You can never go back to an innocent time when legacy media decided the message back in the day, when you were a journalist, you were part of legacy media, you were the voice. Now there's 10,000 other voices, right behind yours, giving a contrary message. And none of them agree. We don't even agree on the facts now then learn how to a great, how to get to a point of, we don't even do with the fixed. Be resilient and thrive – rational thinking Patrick talks about his books, Thrive, the most recent was is inspired by having optimistic messages that are worthwhile. We explore rational thinking. Sometimes we need to take a critical look at it. Have we simply adapted another's viewpoint? Is that really driving our thinking? Have we rushed to a conclusion? Don't treat all thoughts equally.

I really trust you enjoy this podcast and this conversation with Patrick Lindsay. He is a phenomenal human being and a very compassionate man. I'm a big fan of his work and researching this podcast, getting to know his work and getting to know him has been a real joy.

Sharon Pearson has been at the forefront of coaching, speaking, leadership, entrepreneurship and personal development for over 17 years. Through her bestselling books, her #Perspectives Podcast and The Coaching Institute's world-class coaching programs, she has reached over 1.1M people around the world and empowered them to create life on their terms. Cydney O'Sullivan, founder of Millionaires Academy enjoys teaching authorities and experts how to become a millionaire by honing and optimizing their irresistible offers, signature Million Dollar Positioning, authority books and signature coaching programs. Email: cydney@millionairesacademy.com Website: https://MillionairesAcademy.com Facebook: https://business.facebook.com/MillionairesAcademy/ and https://www.facebook.com/groups/celebrityexperts LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/millionairesacademy/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/MillionairesAca

Sharon Pearson has been at the forefront of coaching, speaking, leadership, entrepreneurship and personal development for over 17 years. Through her bestselling books, her #Perspectives Podcast and The Coaching Institute's world-class coaching programs, she has reached over 1.1M people around the world and empowered them to create life on their terms. Cydney O'Sullivan, founder of Millionaires Academy enjoys teaching authorities and experts how to become a millionaire by honing and optimizing their irresistible offers, signature Million Dollar Positioning, authority books and signature coaching programs. Email: cydney@millionairesacademy.com Website: https://MillionairesAcademy.com Facebook: https://business.facebook.com/MillionairesAcademy/ and https://www.facebook.com/groups/celebrityexperts LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/millionairesacademy/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/MillionairesAca

We're going to be chatting with Karen Beattie today with part II, from "The Growth Faculty". We're going to be talking about what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur to not survive, but THRIVE. What it takes to be a successful entrepreneur in 2021! In part II we dive even deeper in the topics of pivotal business models and how important it is to be able to adapt quickly to be on top of the wave and how important it is. We touch on our challenges that we've faced in business and the episode touches on how we faced the challenges!

We're going to be chatting with Karen Beattie today, from "The Growth Faculty". We're going to be talking about what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur to not survive, but THRIVE. We touch on our challenges that we've faced in business and the episode touches on how we faced the challenges! CONNECT WITH SHARON Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Institute :https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/

Pulling a well-thumbed diary from her bag, Sharon Pearson’s dream book is her to go for planning out her goals for 2021. And not just in business. Sharon, who founded The Coaching Institute in 2004 and has seen used this strategy grow into a multi-million dollar global brand, also sets personal goals every year, 90 days, week, and day. She has a dream and an innovations book that details the steps to achieve every goal. Sharon swears by this strategy as she shares with Matt Lavars in the #Perspectives room her theme, purpose, and goals for 2021 and her strategy to achieve them. Curious to know more? Tune in and listen to Your Best Year Yet: Part II Click here to claim your Goal Setting Bundle (Valued at $597) https://tci.rocks/goal-setting-2021 CONNECT WITH SHARON Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Institute :https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/

Did you know that 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by the second week of February? Join us along in the first episode of #Perspectives with Sharon Pearson and Matt Lavars, head trainer at The Coaching Institute as they talk about the most effective strategies of goal -setting, why new year’s resolutions don’t work and unveil technique used by the top 1% of individuals worldwide. Click here to claim your Goal Setting Bundle (Valued at $597) https://www.globalsuccessinstitute.com/achieve-your-goals

Three months after her second live coaching session with Sharon Pearson for #Perspectives podcast ‘Mother Load Part II’—and six months after her first session—Sydney corporate recruiter and life coach Sasha Dumaresq returns for a third session and follow-up episode. Rather than exploring strategies and frameworks around parenting, Sharon calls this third ‘Mother Load’ a “deep dive into the beingness of our humanity.” As Sharon says, the first two sessions were quite detailed around external things “whereas this one really went to what I believe is the heart of coaching, which is the inner journey where we coach to self. If you are a coach, you will see a lot of reframes in this coaching session … but what I think the heart of this session is really about that lit me up was what Sasha claimed back for herself or what was the gift that she was waiting to give herself.” CONNECT WITH SHARON Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Institute :https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/

Melbourne’s Blair James is the co-founder of the world’s top selling self-tanning brand Bondi Sands, which turned over more than $100 million in 2019, sells into around 30,000 stores around the globe and is taking a new direction with a “world first” range launching in early 2021. While that proves Blair’s drive and business nous, the other part of his personal story is his resilience and determination. As a child, Blair—whose first entrepreneurial gambit came when he was seven and sold jars of Vegemite and peanut butter in the UK— endured periods of poverty that saw his family lose their home before the deaths of his mother Irene and father Raymond by the time he was 23. “I’m still thinking about it on a daily basis,” says Blair, who gained the kernel of the idea for Bondi Sands from his former tanning salon business. As he tells Sharon Pearson in new Perspectives episode ‘Golden Boy’, Blair puts his vision down to something his dad told him: “You can do anything you want.”

Former lawyer Sophie Deen is the founder of kids’ media company Bright Little Labs, which makes cartoons, books, games and interactive experiences for kids 3+. Their mission? To prepare kids for the future. Their original content teaches kids 21st century skills like computer science, spotting fake news—and the power of a good emoji. “It’s about giving kids 21st century skills and showing them inspiring role models,” says Sophie. Her best-known creation is Agent Asha, an 11-year-old English girl of Indian heritage, who is a talented spy expert in coding and STEM (science, technology, engineering maths) skills. In Perspectives podcast ‘Agent of change’, Sophie and Sharon Pearson talks female protagonists, storytelling as an agent of global change and how and why to get kids of both sexes involved in STEM subjects: “It’s such a big part of our society. It's our medicine, it's technology, it's engineering. It's the world that we live in.”

By the time we turn 60, most of us will still have one third of our lives to live. How well we do these years will depend on our health. Are we agile and disease free, or dependent on medication and help? In her first book Staying Alive, Melbourne specialist geriatrician Dr Kate Gregorevic outlines lifestyle-enhancing strategies—from nutrition and exercise to cognitive and emotional health—for you to live happier, healthier and longer. In #Perspectives podcast ‘Staying Alive’ the mother-of-three tells Sharon Pears about telomeres, sleep and ‘good’ genes, and shares her day-to-day strategies around how to age in the best ways possible: “It’s not so much saying to someone, ‘Do your exercise,” says Dr Kate. “Everyone knows exercise is good for them. It's saying, ‘What's important to you?’ Asking what's going to add value to each of them. And I can't prescribe that.”

In this episode of the Powerful Stories Podcast, we chat to award-winning entrepreneur, best-selling author, host of the ‘Perspectives’ podcast, and one of the world’s most successful life coaches, Sharon Pearson. Sharon’s life truly began in her late 30s when she stepped into to her true power and potential and transformed her pain into a multimillion-dollar global business inspiring millions of people around the world. When Sharon was 37, she was suicidal and shares the game-changing moment where she chose to live the rest of her life asking, ‘How can I live a life where I inspire myself?”. She shares practical tips for challenging your mindset, aligning yourself with a core set of values and confirms the importance of living your own internal journey. Sharon has the magic to bring people together and shares tips for empowering others as a life coach.  The key is to believe in other’s dreams more than they do. Her generosity of spirit, and resources, has led to a strong tribe of like-minded people who are now embracing their own dreams and turning them into reality. Being raw, authentic and showing the ‘non-glossy’ side of life opens the door to connection. Sharon shares a life-changing moment in the life of one of her clients and the impact it had on her. And finally, we hear Sharon’s three most powerful steps for stepping into your true power and potential. So, sit back and enjoy this powerful story with the extraordinary Sharon Pearson. Links: Sharon Pearson Listen to the ‘Perspectives’ Podcast Looking to expand your professional network, step into your true power and potential? Sign up to the Powerful Steps #coffeechallenge to gain Tory’s proven formula for building a global network, with three coffee dates a week. It’s how she connected with the guests on this podcast. Each one is an authentic and trusted connection  Powerful Steps Follow @powerfulsteps on Instagram Powerful Steps on LinkedIn See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sharon Pearson first met behavioural mindset expert John Assaraf around ten years ago, when she “cornered’ him at one of his events and invited him to lunch. As she recalls it in 2020, “you were curious and open. That’s one of the things I fell in love with about you, wanting to brainstorm about how do we make it bigger and better.” A decade on and in vastly different circumstances, Sharon and John brainstorm again on Perspectives podcast ‘The question that changed my life’. John talks how he went from a high school dropout to building five multi-million dollar companies and what success looks like today. For him, it’s his strong marriage to wife Maria, their two boys, and mental, emotional, physical and spiritual good health. The conversation ranges from both losing a parent during COVID to business strategies, generosity, neural networks, interest vs commitment and authenticity. John says a mentor told him to give as much as he can to help other people: “I seek to be a go getter but also a go giver. I’ve discovered I can’t outgive the universe.”

Juggling three kids, a high-profile media career and a marriage (to Geelong’s two-time AFL premiership captain Tom Harley), Felicity Harley found keeping up a veneer of perfection hard work. And she didn’t want to do. It. Conversations with friends at the school gate, with celebrities and with her barista led Felicity to wonder about the overwhelm most women seemed to experience, and what was behind it. Inspired, she cranked out her first book (in three months!), Balance and Other BS: How to hold it together when you’re having (doing) it all. The former editor of Women’s Health talks to Sharon Pearson in #Perspectives podcast ‘Done is better than perfect’ about how she got a new handle on life with small techniques (a daily gratitude) and mindset shifts: “It comes back to perfectionism,” Felicity tells Sharon. “Now I’m a lot about getting things done or saying no. I always used to strive personally, I have to do the best work on this story, build the best Lego house, run the fastest. Now it’s 80 per cent. As long as I get my ass to that gym—it doesn’t have the to be the best workout session ever, but I got there.”

Two years ago, social researcher Rebecca Huntley, author of How To Talk About Climate Change in a Way That Makes a Difference, pledged to dedicate the rest of her personal and professional life to the climate change cause because of her three young children. “I spend years getting them to brush their teeth and learn to swim and do their times tables,” she says. “I realised I have a responsibility as a parent to do everything I can to ensure there is an actual viable world for these children with good teeth, who can swim and know how to do their times tables.” She acknowledges in the #Perspectives podcast ‘Red Alert’ or ‘Hot Button Topic’ that the environmental movement has a serious PR problem. She tells Sharon Pearson about the imperatives facing our planet, why she’s excited about renewable energy, the surprising group of Australians who are most disengaged from the issue of climate change and what we can do as individuals and a society to put the brakes on.

Three months after she did a live coaching session with Sharon Pearson for #Perspectives podcast ‘Mother Load’, Sydney corporate recruiter and life coach Sasha Dumaresq returns for a second session and follow-up episode. Sharon and Sasha discuss how the strategies and frameworks explored in the first session have helped Sasha to let go of expectations about ‘perfect’ children to empower both adults and kids. Again, Sharon demonstrates expert coaching does not need fancy linguistic acrobatics and Sasha reveals the “most outstanding part” of what she took home has been “the discovery of so much brilliance in my daughter … in her just being who she is without me needing to focus or change or put some sort of mask on her it. It is just seeing her, and there have been some wonderful shifts.” The women also explore new frames for Sasha to try at a time of day she and her three daughters find challenging: the scramble to get everyone out of the house for school at 8.30am.

In her thirties, high-flying corporate lawyer Kate Christie found herself with three children under three, a barrister husband who took just two days ever off work when the kids were sick, and conflicting feelings about her personal and professional priorities: “It would be easy for me to say ‘my bloody ex-husband never helped out’ but that’s not quite true. I was the one who wanted to stay home when the kids were sick.” Now 50, Kate is a single mum to three teenagers, has given up law (“I hated it”) to run her own successful business and is an author of four books for professional women and executives looking to overhaul chaotic lives. Her latest, Me First: The Guilt-free Guide to Prioritising You, has attracted interest in the US with its promise that you don’t have to do it all to have it all. In Perspectives episode ‘Your Time Starts … Now’ Kate discusses with Sharon Pearson the modern pressures that caused her marriage to crumble and the strategies she’s taught to businesses including L’Oreal, Westpac, Deloitte and the Department of the Prime Minister and Cabinet to find 30 extra hours a month as ‘me’ time. “I turned 50 this year and it is a very reflective time and it’s about saying, ‘Don’t compromise too much, this is ‘me first’. I have the confidence now. If you’re 20 or 30 or 40, I want women to have that level of confidence I have now.” She says. “Regardless of what age you are, don’t always put everyone first, put yourself first, be the best person you can be and live this amazing life right now.”

Prime Minister Boris Johnson has called for Britain and France to work together to stop migrant boats crossing the Channel to Dover. On Friday a record number of unaccompanied migrant children arrived in the UK. The 23 youths were taken into the care of Kent County Council, on top of the 70 who arrived in July. According to the latest Home Office Statistics 90% of young (under 18) unaccompanied refugees who come in to the UK every year are male. What happens to the ten percent who are female? We hear from Dinah Beckett from Migration Yorkshire and Sharon Pearson who’s fostered Elsa. Yes God, Yes is a new film about 16 year old Alice growing up a Catholic and attending Catholic school in the early noughties in Midwest America During a chat on AOL she discovers masturbation and is overwhelmed with guilt. Seeking redemption, she attends a religious retreat to try and suppress her urges. Karen Maine, is the director.. Part of our series about women and scars: we meet Laura who is 27 – she’s a care worker from Caerphilly in South Wales and she is a burns survivor. In 1920, a hundred years ago, the American Congress passed the 19th Amendment which gave women in the United States the right to vote. There had been an active and vociferous suffragette movement, led by some well known names – Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B Anthony. The name of Lucy Stone is less familiar. She wanted votes for all, regardless of sex or race. Moira Hickey went to her birthplace, West Brookfield, Massachusetts in 2018 to join the celebration of the bicentenary of Lucy Stone’s birth. Presenter: Jenni Murray Reporter: Ena Miller Reporter: Moira Hickey Producer: Lucinda Montefiore

Every week, someone on Twitter gets to be the person everyone else piles on, the person who is universally hunted by the social media warriors in the cheap seats. In May 2019, it was award-winning US author Natasha Tynes’ turn to face cancel culture. The mother-of-three was traveling by train to her Washington communications job. When she saw a transit employee eating on the train—illegal in Washington—she snapped a photo and posted a tweet calling out the woman. In the 49 minutes the tweet was up, former journalist Natasha’s life blew up forever. She was denounced as a “petty and spiteful” racist, lost a book deal and had a breakdown which saw her flee the country: “I grew up in the Middle East and lived through two Gulf Wars but this was the most difficult thing I ever went through and it scarred me forever. I think about it every single day. If I could take this back I would.” More than a year on and still receiving hate mail, ‘They Called Me Wyatt’ writer Natasha shares her cautionary tale about the world of online rage, mistakes and second chances with Sharon Pearson in Perspectives episode ‘The Tweet I Wish I Could Take Back’: “The fact I’m back on social media shows I’m still the same person and I made a mistake but I’m going to continue being who I am. Yes, you crushed me but I’m still alive.”

Three years ago, Channel Seven Brisbane newsreader Katrina Blowers was on set, ready to read the live Sunday night news bulletin. As the autocue rolled on the first story, Katrina had her first-ever panic attack. Without a co-host, she had to stay on—terrified, struggling to speak—in front of half a million people for the next hour: “I had a shortness of breath, my chest felt incredibly tight, I couldn’t talk properly.” Katrina tells Sharon Pearson about how the experience and subsequent panic attacks nearly saw her leave the beloved job she’d worked towards since she was seven before she used science and therapy to rebuild her life including new business, Claiming Your Confidence. “The thing about confidence is that up until that point I had thought it was my superpower. I just took it for granted, so to have this fundamental knock to my confidence and have to learn it all over again … now I’m getting to teach other women what I’ve learned which is great.”

The science of what’s happening in the world now is overwhelming but the economics of COVID-19 is a subject that’s just as vital and affects all of us. Entrepreneurs John Anderson and Perry Mardon join Sharon Pearson to share their future-proofing strategies and discuss how to create the life you want in the second part of the ‘Lockdown: The Way Out’ podcast. They talk innovation and opportunities—Perry advises looking for trends while perhaps parting ways with existing parts of your business—and John made me laugh with his description of where to find your next big thing: “Fish where the ducks are quacking.” Resources: Follow Perry Mardon: www.facebook.com/PerryMardon www.twitter.com/PerryMardon www.youtube.com/user/PerryMardon www.perrymardon.com.au www.recessionbusters.com.au Follow Sharon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/ Eventbrite:https://www.eventbrite.com.au/o/the-coaching-institute-21677000212 Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/ultimate-you-book · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

Like Sharon Pearson—who they call Remi—Australian entrepreneurs Perry Mardon and John Anderson have run businesses with global clients for decades. When the worldwide coronavirus pandemic and lockdown hit, they were in different stages of preparation and acceptance, but both quickly pivoted to an online presence. “We got whacked,” admits Perry, whose major move was his purchase of site recessionbusters.com.au for $12. The trio talks business in these times, their strategies for finding a new way to do business, social and mainstream media, silos, values, mentors and rituals. “You want to be flowing with the stream,” says John of where to put energy, time and money. “Fish where the ducks are quacking.” Resources: Follow Perry Mardon: www.facebook.com/PerryMardon www.twitter.com/PerryMardon www.youtube.com/user/PerryMardon www.perrymardon.com.au www.recessionbusters.com.au Follow Sharon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/ Eventbrite:https://www.eventbrite.com.au/o/the-coaching-institute-21677000212 Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/ultimate-you-book · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Coronavirus deaths in Australia as of June 28: https://www.health.gov.au/news/health-alerts/novel-coronavirus-2019-ncov-health-alert/coronavirus-covid-19-current-situation-and-case-numbers Flu deaths in Australia in 2019: https://www.sonichealthplus.com.au/health-hub/flu/item/2019-flu-season-2nd-worst-on-record Road accident deaths Australia: https://www.bitre.gov.au/publications/ongoing/road_deaths_australia_monthly_bulletins Opioid epidemic in the United States of America: https://www.drugabuse.gov/drug-topics/opioids/opioid-overdose-crisis Scotland’s drug death crisis: https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-scotland-48853004 USA unemployment figures as of June 5 2020: https://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/empsit.pdf

When she was a mother of three children under four, Sasha Dumaresq “had no connection really to my emotions—I was over functioning, controlling, very controlled,” she says. Post-natal depression led to her feeling that “I shut my eldest down”, a situation that has created a feeling of guilt Sasha believes hold her. Given the opportunity for a one-on-one coaching session with The Coaching Institute founder Sharon Pearson, Sasha—a Sydney corporate recruiter who is now herself a life coach—was “quietly delighted” and very open during her hour exploring feelings and outcomes. Sharon demonstrated expert coaching does not require fancy linguistic acrobatics and was able to help Sasha (whose daughter is now nine) by asking simple foundational questions and allowing her the space to find answers within herself that were already there. A key takeaway: as a parent, it’s really easy to internalise and blame ourselves for creating dysfunction in our children, which clouds our vision by making it about us. Letting go of expectations about ‘perfect’ children empowers both adults and kids and is a powerful way forward for families. Follow Sharon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/ Eventbrite:https://www.eventbrite.com.au/o/the-coaching-institute-21677000212 Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/ultimate-you-book · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

Disclaimer This video contains graphic details about domestic violence which may be graphic or distressing for some viewers. Jane Gilmore was the founding editor of online news magazine The King’s Tribune and is now a freelance feminist journalist and writer whose 2019 book Fixed It is a call to action that explores the myths we’re told by the media about violence, and the truths we’re not told about gender and power. Jane told Sharon about her personal and professional crusade to stem the tide of tragedy and how it is written about, and to spark a discussion about the epidemic of gendered violence in a way that excludes victim blaming: “Nobody springs fully formed from the brain of Roxane Gay so to say I am now the perfect feminist and I never get anything wrong and understand all of it, it’s such bollocks.” Follow Sharon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Follow The Coaching Institute: WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/ EVENTBRITE:https://www.eventbrite.com.au/o/the-coaching-institute-21677000212 RESOURCES: Facebook: JaneGilmoreWriter https://www.facebook.com/JaneGilmoreWriter/ Jane Gilmore website: https://janegilmore.com/ Fixed It Jane Gilmore https://www.penguin.com.au/books/fixed-it-9780143795506 College Behind Bars: https://www.pbs.org/about/blogs/news/college-behind-bars-to-air-on-pbs-in-november-2019/ Australian Men’s Shed Association: https://mensshed.org/ Jess Hill, See What You Made Me Do: https://www.booktopia.com.au/see-what-you-made-me-do-jess-hill/book/9781760641405.html - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/ultimate-you-book · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com 1800 RESPECT Sexual assault, domestic and family violence counselling and support.24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Ph: 1800 737 732 www.1800respect.org.au Djirra – Aboriginal Family Violence Response & Support Service 9am – 9pm, Monday to Friday Ph: 1800 105 303 djirra.org.au Suicide Call Back Service 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

After a private hell gave her a new perspective on her glittering career, powerhouse publicist Tory Archbold—the woman who launched Zara, Victoria’s Secret and Nespresso in Australia—pivoted from her global PR business Torstar to empowerment platform Powerful Steps. She talked to Sharon about how her behind-the-scenes struggles led her to change priorities, how and where she found the strength to fight for a new life for her daughter and herself, and how her personal and professional decisions are guided by three core values. Tory shares everything from her daily shower ritual (you can thank a Thai monk for that), how to master cold calling (“I’m not afraid of the word no”) and why momentum is her North star: “The best advice I can give is view challenges as opportunities because once you do, more doors open.” Get Social with Sharon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/ Resources and articles mentioned: Game Changes article: https://womenlovetech.com/game-changers-edwina-bartholomew-meets-powerful-steps-ceo-tory-archbold/ Marie Claire article: https://www.marieclaire.com.au/video/surviving-domestic-abuse Connect With Tory Archbold Powerful Steps: http://www.powerfulsteps.com.au/ Torstar Sydney: http://www.torstar.com.au/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tory-archbold-b8542715/

As the ‘godfather’ of demographics in Australia, Bernard Salt AM is attuned to interpreting both society’s ructions and its everyday happenings in a career that sees him drill down with equal passion on macro economics and smashed avocado. He is perfectly placed to predict what our brave new post-corona Australia will look like, telling Sharon Pearson that on a national scale we should ramp up local manufacturing to safeguard against a future second pandemic and on a local one, are likely to ditch flower beds for veggie patches and be less materialistic: “I do think the world we will emerge into will be very different to the world that went into lockdown.” Get Social with Sharon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/

As high performance mindfulness coach Emma Murray puts it, her family had a dress rehearsal for coronavirus. In 2016, a diving accident left her national level athlete son Will with spinal cord injury and the Murrays were told they would need close to a million dollars a year to care for him. The next day, Emma did what she does best: took her “best action” and went to work at the Richmond Football Club, where her coaching played a pivotal role in the club’s 2017 and 209 premierships. Emma talks with Sharon Pearson about how anyone can bring their A-Game all the time, her surprising pathway of growth and why “the overall theme of the script is “you’re going to be okay.” Get Social with Sharon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/

When coronavirus hit, Leigh Chivers already knew our world can be changed forever by things we can't control. Two years after his wife Sara Chivers and two year old son Alfie died of brain cancer, Leigh talks with Sharon Pearson (via wobbly isolation video link) about resilience, gratitude, what to do in hard times to rebuild and reset, and how he’s carving out a new life after tragedy. Read the blog here: https://www.sharonpearson.com/post/what-to-do-in-hard-times Sara's letter, 'What I want my boys to know when I'm gone.' https://thenewdaily.com.au/life/relationships/2017/11/01/sara-chivers-letter-brain-cancer/ Get Social with Sharon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS 00:00 Why Leigh’s story is so remarkable · Leigh outlines Sara’s almost-10 year battle with rare brain cancer starting with a shattering 2008 diagnosis at age 25. · He recaps the years their happy ‘confident’ years in between cancers, with a wedding, a renovation and two boys under two. 06:17 The second cancer journey · Dealing with the news Sara had. · Uncertainty and fear the family experienced. 09:50 Sara’s mission when her little boy is diagnosed 11:20 The impossible decision about Alfie’s treatment 19:12 Sara’s ‘What I Want My Boys To Know When I’m Gone’ letter · Leigh agrees the letter gave the family a voice to talk about brain cancer but the real story is a nine or ten year journey. · Sharon suggests listeners/ readers remember adversity and everything that led to and came after inspirational moments. 23:46 Clarity of purpose · Sharon notes Leigh and Sara were clear in their purpose of caring for their family. · He admits his confidence in the future was lost: “I might be dead next year.” 27:14 Finding resilience and purpose · Sharon talks how Leigh became a race ambassador for the Hawaiian event for “characteristics that go well beyond competition.” · He speaks to the resilience and purpose he was tapping into during the 3.8m swim, 180km cycle and 42.2km run. 30:12 Proactivity, not reactivity · Sharon notes that similarities between people being reactive and proactive during coronavirus and the mindset Leigh took to carving out things for himself after Sara and Alfie’s deaths. · Leigh talks to his plan and purpose amid uncertainty and grief. · He reveals his “horrific” stress affected him physically and mentally to the point he had to keep up good habits and avoid coffee and alcohol. 34:09 Three simple things Leigh did when feeling low · His mantra when he struggled: Show up, ask questions and don’t quit. · Shares the perspective that helped when Alfie was sick. 37:00 How to tap into inner resilience · Sharon asks how Leigh came to handle uncertainty in uncertain times while others are fearful of it or dramatize it. · He says while he struggles sometimes to maintain a resilient mindset, he draws on gratitude as a daily practice. · Sharon shares her household gratitude ritual. 40:52 Adversity proves what we’re made of · Sharon discusses her “Five Days of Insanity” and the realisation she wanted to come out of coronavirus being proud of who she was during adversity. · Leigh talks owning it, being proud of himself during tough times and says you have to live the rest of your life with decisions you make in uncertain times. 47:54 Being present for children · Leigh talks how Sara’s illness and death forced him to step up as a father in different ways and how it has shaped how he parents Hugh now. 55:15 Helping kids cope in uncertainty · Sharon notes kids cope if their carers are there consistently and take their cues from adults, which is a “profound gift” we can give them. · Leigh says through his terrible illness, Alfie didn’t have the emotional trauma that often comes as you get older and didn’t have the emotional attachment to what he was losing. · Sharon discusses maturity, hanging on to stuff and what not hanging onto yesterday or trying to control tomorrow will bring. 1:00 Appreciating what you have · The fact that going through something traumatic and life changing doesn’t make you perfect for the rest of your life and how you are still vulnerable. · As you get older you realise the tough times are going to keep coming and we need to be prepared or at least accepting. · Leigh talks hitting limits and that if you don’t be proactive in hard times and take perspectives with you, He suggests people appreciate things and realise they can be taken away tomorrow.

Join Sharon Pearson and Matt Lavars as they discuss how you can manage your emotions, business and and life during changing times as a result of the coronavirus pandemic. Discover the mindset to face circumstances in a resilient and resourceful way, that inspires us to be proud of who we are and how we handle changing times. Join 'Coach Your Neighbour' facebook group: https://tci.rocks/coach-your-neighbour Claim your hand sanitiser care package: https://tci.rocks/in-this-together Follow Sharon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute: WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/ EVENTBRITE:https://www.eventbrite.com.au/o/the-coaching-institute-21677000212

Experience powerful and transformational coaching from Australasia's No.1 Coach, Sharon Pearson. She demonstrates how to coach someone with low-none self-trust...watch the transformation happen right in front of your eyes! Catch up on Part 1 of the episode: https://youtu.be/NaoOlY6JXZ0 Follow Sharon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute: WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/ EVENTBRITE:https://www.eventbrite.com.au/o/the-coaching-institute-21677000212

Join Matt Lavars and I at the first-ever #Perspectives Live Event as we discuss my philosophies around coaching through my personal experience as a top professional coach, entrepreneur, creator of Meta Dynamics™, facilitator, trainer and author. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · The Coaching Institute Fan Page –https://www.facebook.com/pg/BecomeALifeCoach/ · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute: WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/ EVENTBRITE:https://www.eventbrite.com.au/o/the-coaching-institute-21677000212

Part 2 dives straight into a coaching demonstration with Sharon Pearson and one of the students at The Coaching Institute, putting into action what was taught in part 1. Comment below what your loving and how you can apply this to your coaching :) Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · The Coaching Institute Fan Page –https://www.facebook.com/pg/BecomeALifeCoach/ · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

Join Sharon Pearson in the Success Club training at The Coaching Institute as she unpacks key principles of coaching. This 2-part episode will kick off a series of episodes from LIVE trainings to bring you more of what you love and bring you in the training room with Sharon. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · The Coaching Institute Fan Page –https://www.facebook.com/pg/BecomeALifeCoach/ · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

Sharon Pearson and Joe Pane sit down for the final part of the 3-part series on How to Set Yourself Up for a Successful 2020 and discuss the 3 key elements to living a conscious life: gratitude, compassion and patience. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: Connect with Sharon even more Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharon.pearson.31 Facebook Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ The Coaching Institute: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ The Coaching Institute Fan page: www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach/ Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

Join Sharon and Joe as they continue the conversations from part 1 of the How to Set Yourself Up for a Successful 2020. In this episode, Sharon dives into how she utilises a key 3-step process in moving towards her future self. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

If discovering how you can kick off your new year with an action plan on how you can stick to and achieve the goals you set out through bringing more awareness, strategies, and tools into your life then I invite you to have a listen to the first episode of a 3-part series on the #Perspectives podcast I did with Joe Pane to help you set yourself up for a successful year in 2020. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Happy New Year and let’s make 2020 all it, and we, can be (: I wonder if you have been thinking about what this year will look like for you…the goals you want to achieve…the things you want to focus on…what you’d like to learn… Most of the goals we set out to achieve are driven by wanting to become the best version of ourselves we can be now and, in the future, well at least that’s what it is for me…. And if I’m not thinking long term or at least projecting out into some future time that hasn’t happened and planning how it will be different from how I tainted myself in the past, all I’m going to achieve is more of my past. This isn’t to say only think about your goals long term, it is about planning how this time your approach will be different, bringing awareness to why certain goals may not have worked out in the past and planning out a different approach this time around so the past doesn’t repeat itself. If discovering how you can kick off your new year with an action plan on how you can stick to and achieve the goals you set out through bringing more awareness, strategies, and tools into your life then I invite you to have a listen to the first episode of a 3-part series on the #Perspectives podcast I did with Joe Pane to help you set yourself up for a successful year in 2020. Let 2020 be all about how we can bring more awareness to ourselves, dive deeper into becoming who we truly are and reaching our fullest potential.

Sometimes this time of year can get a little stressful and include lots of running around, so I wanted to share this tip with you and hopefully, it too, can help you feel more joyful, connected and fulfilled. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Sometimes this time of year can get a little stressful and include lots of running around, so I wanted to share this tip with you and hopefully, it too, can help you feel more joyful, connected and fulfilled. Take some time to reflect, be proud and celebrate all that you have done this year and what you’ve loved most. These last few days of the year will close another DECADE of your life. End the year with reflection and intention on how you can head into 2020 becoming the best version of you. It’s the perfect time to think about the year that’s passed and the plans, goals, experiences you want to achieve coming into the new year. At least that’s what I love doing this time of year Give yourself some time this year, just for you, you're so worth it

Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Connect with Sharon even more Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharon.pears... Facebook Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearso... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pear... Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpea... The Coaching Institute: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ The Coaching Institute Fan page: www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach/ Ultimate You Book: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.... Other Resources: · Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

Join Sharon as she delivers her keynote talk at the ICG Annual Coaching Summit. She dives into a BRAND NEW model and theory of coaching, where the industry is headed and the standards we're bringing to it. Tune in at 22mins to discover her new theory of coaching. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Connect with Sharon even more Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharon.pearson.31 Facebook Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ The Coaching Institute: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ The Coaching Institute Fan page: www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach/ Ultimate You Book: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book Other Resources: · Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

This week Sharon and Jen dive into how they both successfully have and maintain healthy and deep relationships with the ones they love. Make sure to check out and discover how to set boundaries and improve listening skills through a simple model and exercise near the halfway point. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 See full transcript here: https://www.sharonpearson.com/post/how-to-deepen-your-relationships Jennifer Slack: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/jennifer-slack-fairfield-ct/86662 Connect with Sharon even more Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharon.pearson.31 Facebook Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ The Coaching Institute: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ The Coaching Institute Fan page: www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach/ Ultimate You Book: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book Other Resources: · Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

World renown life coach, Sharon Pearson comes together with an established clinical supervisor, family therapist and professor Jennifer Slack to talk about how she approaches therapy, her philosophies and discuss their ethics within their different disciplines. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: · Ultimate You Book - https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach · Feedback/Reviews/Suggestions, topics to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com · Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube Transcript: Introduction Hi I'm Sharon Pierson and welcome to this episode of perspectives. This episode really means so much to me. Recently I was in Fairfield Connecticut in the United States and I'll stay with my dear friend Jennifer. She's an amazing human being. We met about 18 years ago now and she is the reason I became a life coach. We were sitting outside at my beautiful home having a glass of wine and just talking about where we heading what are we going to do. She just said you should be a coach. I didn't even know what it was. I didn't know it existed and we walked through it and that time she was just starting to train to be a family therapist we're just starting to think about it. I thought I can't be a coach I can't help anyone but I can't help myself. So that journey for me was really about me helping me and it all got started with Jen and I remember finding her out one day sound terrified. I don't think I can do it. I'm just so scared and she gave me the classic words that I've used to this day I still say this to so many people and it's always attributed to Jen. Of course, you feel afraid anyone would in your situation you're about to go to another level. How else could you feel. And I remember just feeling. It was amazing feeling of being validated and being allowed to feel what I feel which is something I was so unfamiliar with. So she gave me very many gifts in the early days of our friendships and continues to she's beautiful you got to meet her. Her sound for herself very shortly. She's warm and kind hearted and values driven. She lives a life that is aligned around what matters to her the most which is her family and make a difference through her therapy work. She has crafted a life for herself that is so suited to who she is it's one of the things one of the many things I admire about her so much and the Fact that we've maintained such a beautiful and close relationship across the malls for all these years means so much to both of us. So I know I got to stay in her beautiful home for a couple of days in Connecticut. We went hiking together and then one morning I said we should do a podcast. And we started chatting and it went for over two hours. And so what we've done is we split it into two parts and you're going to want more and more of this woman when you hear her in the first part. We talk about her approach to therapy and she's a trained therapist. How does she approach therapy what's her philosophy behind therapy. What is she thinking about attending to what is what is she weaving into her therapy and how does she bring that to life. That's going to be the first part of the podcast and the second part which will be playing down the track again with us just sitting on her couch in her beautiful home. We digress and we just by now it just naturally moved into chatting about family because one of the things I've admired about her all these years I was we became friends when her youngest son was just born and was hadn't wasn't walking just a baby. And I've watched her as she's been a mother raising her three beautiful children their amazing human beings and all of them have gone on to start crafting lives that are based on their values what they care about what they stand for. And at young ages they know that. Now one of the things General will be the first to tell you she's not a perfect mother and then not a perfect family. They have ups and downs. They're flawed. She is. She insists that that message comes across and I of course admire that about her as well. The humility she has. But there is still an underpinning there of love being expressed in a really functional and loving way. And you're going to see that come across in part two of this podcast with Jen. Now I'm going to read here because I want to get a title right. And titles are my strengths. So she is a clinical supervisor and member of the American Association of marriage and family therapy and also an adjunct professor at Fairfield University. And she works as a family therapist and therapist. And I know some of the work she does at university. She works as a supervisor so new therapists who are training. She sits and what it she could be standing. She's with them helping them craft their own narrative style as therapists. And I say to her nearly every time we talk about this topic anyone who gets trying to get emotional anyone who's fortunate to be trained by this woman is going to be just the most phenomenal therapist. And I hope you love her and I know you'll love her as much as I do. So here's Jen Sharon Pearson: Hey. This is Sharon Pearson. I'm in Fairfield Connecticut and I'm here with my dear friend Jen psych who is a therapist and a phenomenal human being. And I'm so thrilled to be out to share with you today. Her message in her words. Welcome Jen. How are you. Jennifer Slack: Thank you Sharon. It's wonderful to be here with you my dear friend. S:So we've known each other for J: since 2001 S: 18 years J: Yeah. S: And we met before we were both moving into what became our passions. J: Yes. S: And our songs. Yeah. We were trying to figure out our passions our songs. There were conversations we had. Yeah overshadowing the backyard. J: Exactly. And I I think we helped each other kind of identify and crystallize how to manifest those passions. S: I'll always remember that moment. Can I share that moment. I was some for some reason I said I was going to be a coach. We'd come to that together over a glass of Chardonnay in my backyard was my turn to host. And then I was on the phone with you saying I was really scared and you said of course you are anyone in your situation would feel that way. You're going to a different level. You're about to have new experiences you've never had before. How else could you feel it was the most beautiful validation. And from there I was able to leap into it completely blind Jan. I we say it's a leap of faith. It was. I didn't have faith. It was a leap without anything but those comforting words. So I'll always remember that moment. Do you remember it or do you do you do. J: No I do. Yeah. S: It was very significant to me to feel that validated instead of my fears being dismissed. I was used to hearing you'll be okay or it'll work out. But you just accepted it embraced and held beautifully. My uncertainty about it was very valid and that's what enabled me to launch into something that I felt incredibly ill equipped to do. J: Well you might not have had faith but you had courage. Yeah. And you were willing to explore the unknown territories and just dive in and figure it out. S: And I did. J: Yes you did. Yes. S: And then so and then some and you began studying when you were in Melbourne. J: I did. Yeah. So I began a graduate program there. Yeah. Ecology. Yeah. And then we moved back to the States in 2003 and I picked up and began my marriage. Marriage and Family Therapy master's degree. S: Wow. J: With three kids of my own I went slowly at a pace that worked for me. S: And all your kids were under at that stage under about 12 with a rhythm. J: Yeah. Two years apart each. Yes. So it was a lot. S: It was a lot. S: And then tell us a little bit more about what you've done since then to get us up to now and then we'll go into your philosophy of. J: So I studied at Fairfield University. And I interned at a neighbourhood clinic where I stayed on for a total of 12 years and became a supervisor and then eventually the clinical director and then I left. Just coming up on a year ago to invest fully in a private practice and now I teach a class at Fairfield University and do supervision S: of psychology or family therapy family. J: It's family therapy. It is so fearful and I would you to study in family therapy. Yes. That's fantastic. Yeah. S: And what were the cut up. Because I'm interested what were the kind of who was the influences in that program. J: Who were they drawing on the structural and strategic models. Primarily with a little limited exposure to post-modern approaches as well. Yeah but really largely based in the modernist perspectives S: so pre 70s pre 60s. J: Yes when it was a little bit more objective. S: Exactly. J: A little as a black boxy. S: Yes yes. So who were the main influences for you philosophically. Who do you feel you draw on or empathize with or connect with in terms of approaches to therapy and family therapy. J: I have to say that underpinnings of structural therapy Manute chins the graphics spatial physical metaphors of that model in particular are like a scaffolding for me. Very very helpful. But my way of being with people is much more grounded in post-modern approaches which for me are all about exploring with people not having answers outside of the exploration necessarily but then continuing on. Now what we're learning in terms of neuroscience and brain chemistry and just the organic aspects that are playing a role also that it may be have to do more with like an individual's organic system as much as a family system interest. I think there are so many different kind of layers to explore in terms of doing therapy. How much do you draw on systems theory for family therapy even if you're working with one individual. Yeah I think heavily even if I define it in the way I just did. Yeah. So even if I'm working with an individual on individual behaviors and patterns of interacting with people and we're not really talking about their families so much I'm thinking about context and I'm thinking about that maybe their individual systems like their organic body system his you often share with me how when you're with a client where were you feeling that. S: The question I'm indicating with my hands reality people can say to me you. Where are you feeling that whereas that sitting with you. That's a big part of how you work. So it's to you is that a way of helping the client bridge the cognition to the feeling so that that's one of the ways I use it it gets I think I feel physically is a way of changing it too I feel I have an emotion. S: Do you ever use it that way or is. J: Yes. Yeah definitely. And the other way. Yeah. Because sometimes people come in with a lot of awareness about what their body is feeling but they aren't connecting it to a cognition or vice versa. And I think ultimately it's all good. Now one it's all unified. I'd like to separate it and yeah our Western culture but it's all one thing and I just I think having multiple modalities to better understand a person's experience is going to be better than this. S: Yeah. When you began what was your feeling or your thought around working with people did you have a philosophy or a bent or an expectation back then and I'd be interested to know how it's grown over the years. J: I think it's grown in a lot of ways and changed as I learned more about just a lot of the like the neuroscience pieces of this and my ideas about diagnosing have shifted a lot over the years and continue to shift back again, in family therapy the idea of diagnosing a person is largely frowned upon. And I think for really good reasons because it's subjective diagnoses are very subjective and there's been a lot of harm done around diagnosing and yet still sometimes people have very specific acute difficulties that can be helped with treatment approaches that go hand in hand with certain diagnoses. So I. So that's been one area of shift. And but then there are areas that are completely the same and haven't shifted at all S: since the day I met you J: which is probably three glasses of chardonnay just being with people in a way that is normalizing. That's built in love and compassion and a commitment to be to hold what they say with an open spirit and non judging and respect and integrity so to me that's kind of ethics the ethics of this work. And it's S:I really want to unpack that because that's one of my that's as you know one of the things that I delight the most from speaking with you. It's how you do that. And it's all how it's who you are when you're doing that. When your clients patients what do you call them either clients. J: Clients. S: when your clients come to you and you all just create a scenario for you and change it however you want. A client comes to you the walls are out the boundaries are way too rigid. No one's getting in their home protection defensiveness and the need to repel what's just. Could you paint a picture of perhaps hypothetically how you would go about helping them see that there can be self trust or. What. What are you thinking about. I won’t put words in your mouth. What do I be thinking about self dress. What would you be thinking about. J: I think I'm thinking about other trust. I'm thinking about how can I create a safe place for this person to begin to trust that my agenda is nothing more than what I am hoping will be helpful and healing to her. Or him. So that it's truly joined and connected. I really ultimately think it's all about connection and when someone comes in so well defended they've been hurt in connection and I'm hoping to be one small repair for them S: that it can be safe. That their will be their emotions will be safe, that they're bits that they've been rejecting we'll be safe with you. J: Exactly. And sometimes it takes time for some people one or two conversations does the trick. And for other people it takes I think the passage of time and repeat experience to me. I agree. Heal and enters yes. S: To rehearse. OK so what happened last weeks consistent this week. I can count on that and I can build on that. This is how I can respond in this moment it's a bit safe for me to respond that way and they can rehearse it with you in a safe environment and a team too. In practice in the real world and experience it J: and people can tolerate an expression of my emotions that can tolerate hearing what my thoughts are they can tolerate aspects of myself that I'm not sure are tolerable. S: Yes that was a big part of my healing as you know for me was embracing all of me and not feeling the need to suppress it hide it deny it. Get angry with it judge it. that's. Would you say that's a big piece of what you do. J: Completely. Yeah. One hundred percent. And I think when things are so scary that we can't even identify themselves let alone risk saying it out loud with another person. They just sit and grow and fester and become very toxic S: and real. They seem very real. J: Yes. Yeah they do. They its real and the problem which doesn't even very often is not a problem but it becomes a problem. So my hope is to make these things talk about a ball and with compassion people understanding where they're coming from and that it's OK and that there are more options kind of about expanding options for what you do with these feelings. Beginning with non-judging accept and accepting said things S: it’s a big part of it J: huge S: I didn't even know that was the thing. As you know I could accept my feelings. Yes. What are you talking about. What is this strange magical mystical words you're using. Except yes. And now I can't coach without. Yeah just holding. I always teach coaches we're holding our clients with our hearts as we are using cognition. But if that piece isn't there this won't have an effect. What's your way of interpreting that. Because I know a big part of what you do you're thinking about how to different approaches and different choices. That's an inevitability but a big pot huge part. Most of what you do is holding the client can you talk to that in your own way. J: Yeah it is. It is a holding space and all of you know I'm unconscious as we're having this conversation about you know the many people who have preceded me in terms of these terms and concepts that they are not original ones. They're just very dear to me. S: Yes. J: And yeah it is it's a holding it's a body and a mind experience and it's relational and it's all three of those happening at the same time. And so I think it starts with me being aware with my own feel of my own feelings my own body my own head and really making it all about the client and putting in check anything that's coming up for me if I'm having moments of you know OK. I don't know where I'm gonna go from here. It's a signal to just slow it down and check in with the client. And together we find our way. No two therapy sessions are the same. I mean that's why models are great and they can help us from getting lost. But there is so much creativity that happens in any session. S: I've never. I can't ever served on the same session twice in thousands of sessions. J: It's not possible. It wouldn't make sense right. If it if it is happening twice then say OK I was let's paint by number. S: It is I think is where I began when I was doing student student trials with supervision. I would have begun with I've got my twelve questions thank goodness. J: Yeah I mean you need a script. S: I needed it. I needed the script I need to better turn the page noisily right. So the client knew I was turning the page and I would need to read the second page because it gave me but the client knew I was a rookie with the L plates on. Yeah so I felt very safe in that environment because I don't know read the question. Yeah. They would be with me as a comrade encourage a colleague encouraging but there does come a moment where we have to learn to fly that leap which to me is the favourite thing ever. That leap. When I'm with the client I know I've got all these models and all these ways I could draw and inspiration these beautiful people who could steer and all of them have just created such beauty and approaches and philosophies and it all fades away. It just disappears from the periphery of my mind and all I see is the client and that's all there is there's me there's not even me there's the client and they're just feeling like I'm throwing a cloak of protection over this client the models and everything else float away they don't matter anymore or they're so assimilated that I don't there's nothing conscious there's nothing I can't notice them J: yeah they're there they're there. J: But they're so integrated. And I think what you are talking about having this script and how the people you're working with are so gracious and to me that comes from transparency and a spirit of collaboration and so everyone has their own style but that is that is definitely my posture. And so I you know I have yet to meet a person and you know. S: Yeah. Yeah. J: With more people I can count. And there is a there is a we achieve a mutual respect that is based on honesty and I have to be able to be honest about my approach. S: Transparency is a huge part of how you operate. Can you unpack that a little bit for me. It sounds so obvious. J: Transparency is such a buzzword. S: Yes. Can you unpack it and tune into a process for us. J: The process for me is it's about honesty. It's about probably a need that I have for me to be sort of we. You know we have to wear clothes that we feel comfortable and authentic and for me transparency is a way of being with people that allows me to be most comfortable so that I don't have any sense of I might have boundaries but I'm not having secrets I'm not holding something over the client that the client isn't aware of that is not a good recipe for me. So I have to work to find ways to be appropriately disclosing and authentic about what I'm thinking. What I'm concerned about where I'm coming from and that feels very genuine and connected. S: Do you do it in real time is that thought feeling cognition comes to. Or do you sometimes hold it thinking it it'll be little appropriate once this is more appropriate when this is wrapped up. Do you have a sense of time and space around that or is it in the moment. J: Both both. It often comes in the moment but then it often has to wait and sometimes I'm not aware. Or I don't have a frame that I'm comfortable with like I know there might be a conversation that needs to happen but I don't have the words to say it. I've learned I am not opening my mouth to go there until I know why I'm doing it. What I'm going for and how I'm gonna say it S: another big piece of this. Maybe this is the time to drop it in. Is do no harm. And what your. I don't have the right language. One of your goals is for the wholeness of the client and the well-being of the client. And I'm wondering how transparency. I imagine transparency for you is vital for that outcome to allow the client to see your reflections back openly without censorship. Didn't end up there. I get that but you do give the truth how is that linked. That's my question. How is that linked to helping the clients wholeness. I know it is but I'd love you to unpack that. J: I think that's trust. I think it's authenticity and I think it's connection. We wire ourselves in relationship. I mean you know mirror neurons. We are not actually separate entities. We are all commingled whether we're aware of it or not. And it's very powerful. It's sitting here with you just a few feet away when we pick up on each other's energies and if you don't know the truth about my context about why I'm saying and being the way I am being you're in the dark. Yeah. Yeah. And that to me is a breach. S: Tell us more about that J: to some extent or it's potentially a breach of of trust and connection and how and if I you know I think ultimately it is about raising awareness non-judgemental awareness that we are hoping for people so that they can survey, they can step back from their worried thoughts and feelings stuck behaviours and assess is this working for me or not. It's pretty simple. S: So we simple just do that. J: So we have to be able to step back ourselves and assess S: So are you seeing yourself in third position sometimes when you're in the session. J: Yeah I try to really that's so what. You know one of the many gifts that I've come across include mindfulness and John Cabal in particular has been hugely influential to me taking a witnessing position just helps me when I'm feeling stuck to get unstuck. There was a whole pathway I wanted to go come back to that if I remember it but something's just come up to me then a lot of times when people are starting out in this they bring their own stuff and into it. What would you suggest is a part because you don't you're very clean. I call it very clean work that you do. That's always my goal too. Does that make sense of the word clean. It's not enmeshed with my stuff. My as much as it can be my ego my issues my fears my life whatever's going on for me is separate to this precious moment with the client. I call that very clean work. It's messy work when the person is feeling what the client's feeling and is getting hooked into the drama of what the client is sharing. And the question I get all the time from people starting out is how do you do that sharon and how do you separate. Why why I care so much so why don't you feel what I feel like somehow it's not caring if I don't feel the client feels Yeah. Can you talk to that bit. J: It's a really it's a great I mean it's so central to the work that we do. And the truth of the matter is we do pick up yes what our clients are feeling and I do have my own stuff that I become aware, I think the trick is it's actually being aware that I have my own stuff happening right now and then that's the piece that I want to I. A disaster would be not being aware and then continuing the conversation you know that's reactivity that's enmeshment. And so I want to be catching myself. And for me that's very it's very helpful to start with the body. And I think that's why I kind of work to work with that with clients because I find it so helpful. And then taking a step back from it you know talk and sort of being my own supervisor here you know it's all in service to the client which is kind of paradoxical because we're talking about it's all connection but this is Tibet if it's not going to benefit the client I'm not going to go there with whatever that the conversation might be or whatever my response might be. S: I know there have been times I've been with a client. This is being I've done this for quite a while I separate emotional activity for feeling state that I exposed to the client and really conscious of the difference so emotional is someone tells me something that hooks me somehow personally and I associate into it. I can't think of an example but I'm just right now clenching my fists something happens I feel my emotional reactivity vs. a client shares something with me and it's so painful to them me showing empathy so I'll have tears appear in my eyes they're never full because they're not here to comfort me but I'll well up and we'll have such a feeling face of empathy and maternal I'm with you. With your hurt right now and I want to separate that for anyone listening from emotional reactivity of me not controlling managing being aware and just blurting out Oh my God that's terrible. There is a complete distinct difference and that's really important. As one of the things I learned from you very early on in our relationship you would mirror back if I shared something with you that was painful and it hurt me in my past or whatever it was you mirrored to me in a very maternal way held me with your face your you softened your features I mean just to get really clinical about it you soften your features and you said all share and you did tone was so gentle and that peace was magically healing to me magically healing. I know you can. You know the process you did and enabled me to feel what I felt and know would be safely received. I have taken that into my work and it is beautiful to reflect back. That's got to really hurt. that's really that's yeah it is. J: There has to be you give me too much credit. But as I've said many times but I need to I need to put that on record. Way too much credit. S: I love it. J: People do need to feel felt that connection. Is that safe. That's trust you. That's the proof that they're okay. That's the proof that they're going to be OK. Yeah and that's the holding space. Right it is and it's often non-verbal. Yeah so I agree it is as one wise supervisor told me it's OK to cry just don't cry harder than your client. S: Oh I love that and I love that that I love that. J: It's wonderful. S: My benchmark is the tears can appear but they can't fall because they can't hit the client. No word about reassuring him exactly J: and clients are deeply moved when it is a genuine and very often the most distressing. Content or experience will will happen or be disclosed in a session and I won't have tears and that's fine too. You just. S: Yeah it's not a requirement. J: No we're not saying that No. Here now is the time to be considered such a no no. S: Yes. That's why I'm bringing it up. Yeah. As of the expert status of the third. Exactly. J: Those old modernist day. Yeah. Yeah. But I do. I think one of the I'm not sure if we've talked about kind of just normalizing that such a bit. I mean that's there's nothing bigger in my eyes. My concept of things than normalizing and truly I do believe that all behaviour makes sense in its context does all behaviour. It does no matter how deviant it might be. It makes sense. S: Yes. J: And so if we just have to peel back and begin with the premise of this makes sense that you're doing this or that you're feeling that or that you're thinking that or that this has happened and you know hurt people hurt people. Yeah it's how it goes. S: it’s what they know and they don't. J: And we repeat patterns until we repair them. And so the white hair has to be in a normalize. People have to feel that they are normal in their context. S: I think it's one of the first steps for repair that I can see. One of the things I learned from Bradshaw is shame loves shadows. And that was a light bulb to hear it put so perfectly and succinctly because when the clients with me and I went speak to your experience. But when the clients with me if they can out the stuff that they thought was too ugly for the light and it's normalized by me so I acknowledge it. I normalize it. I validate that that is their experience. J: Use the words say it out loud. Yeah. Yeah. Repeat back S: exactly out that no matter how ugly they think it is. I'm so comfortable with it. It enables them to stop treating it like the secret in the in the in the in the bunker in the cellar. J: Right. S: So if it's got light now I can do something about it. Yeah. So it becomes the beginning of the change process to me. What's your secret. Did You have that experience. J: I mean definitely. To me I think that's largely what therapy is. It's yes it's helping identify what's going on. It's it's not always deep shame related but it's being able to find words is being able to construct the words around feelings and behaviors. And we I mean what we're doing even in this conversation it's it's it's social construction. I mean we identify our thoughts in the process of being together in conversation. We're creating something in the act of talking with another person. And what we can't talk about. It's very hard to access it to make changes around and then we worry if we have new examples and we'll say why S: if we can talk about it with the therapist or with the coach or her everywhere Who's our partner in this journey we then can't take it publicly. So I always think that the client with me is being out to rehearse how how it could be great out there. So if I can give them a great experience and by great I mean normalized accepted embraced and still feel compassion still feel accepted still feel that they're that way together that gives them rehearsal. Oh so it can be like that out there J: totally. S: So you get to spirit and take her cause. Yes. J: Yep. Everything exactly how you do anything is how you do everything. And exactly. It's so relevant. S: Yeah. And so I rehearsed with the client. I'm always feeling I am in the session replacing every other person who they feared would respond badly or would cause them to want to protect themselves or would give them reason to pause in terms of being their fully authentic self. So I feel the responsibility any joy around it. I represent everyone they haven't met yet or everyone who has ever shut them down. And I get the opportunity to help them do it over by being accepting embracing loving compassionate into them in the face of their shame fully embracing and with no hesitation there's just no hesitation in me whatsoever because I'm just thinking they get to know rewrite some of that and they can experience it differently. Do you have a relationship to that. Do you have a way of interpreting that that's your way. J: I think I would describe that in similar terms but yeah it's just it is absolutely an opportunity to repair. And sometimes it's not necessarily about repair but it's about just people coming in and they're just stop what they're trying Isn't working. So there isn't really necessarily big time repair work. I there. Let's just think out of the box. So what might work more effectively for you than what you've been trying. And that's very generative and exciting in a very different kind of way. But I think the process of conversation and connection and trust and normalization is central to that. It's just as central to that work as it is to you know traumatic repair work. S: So it constantly comes back to the launching pad J: for me it it does me as well. That is the launching pad. Yeah. That's the only reason I'm bothering to wrong. I mean that's not that and I and I. Yeah I wonder that that is the biggest ethical commitment that I can think of. You always describe it to me you're very consistent describes an ethical commitment. I know you as that's just who you are is not an ethical decision you're making you simply you're being I don't know that you would know how not to do that or be that that's an inevitability with you Jen. I don't think it's an ethical decision inverted commas you're making. I think it's just who you are. That's there consistently and I can't even imagine how it wouldn't be. J: Well I I appreciate your words kind of but I think also in thinking on a metal level thinking about the work I'm doing and thinking about difficult client situations where I'm maybe feeling less effective or stuck myself to some extent. OK where are we going to go from here. How can I best help this person. And certainly in training of students who are becoming therapists or working with other therapists in a supervision capacity I find that a very helpful home base to come back to and to say out loud with people because I like the rule of thumb that if the client were overhearing this conversation with the client be OK with it. And if not why are we saying it. S:I love it. J: Change the way you're saying we have to hold our people in our hearts with kindness and respect and dignity and S: with them in when they're not. J: Exactly. And our hearts and in our heads. And it is it. Yeah I think it's the humanity is in the feels. It feels to me like an ethical violation when that's not happening. S: Yeah.

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Join Sharon in this episode straight from the How to Become a Successful Coach training room in Sydney as she dives into the Core, Crud, Crust model. It’s all about reclaiming our core selves, check out the brief descriptions of the layers below... Crust: Decisions, goals and life’s purpose is determined from a place of ‘What would make me look good?’ and ‘How do I hide my Crud (crap)?’ Crud: Decisions, goals and life’s purpose is determined from a place of fear, lack of trust, self-doubt, self-loathing and constant negative self-talk... Core: Decisions, goals and life’s purpose is determined from a place of love, truth, courage, a sense of adventure, playfulness, and childlike wonder... We developed a layer over our authentic self, and we’ll call it Crud. We piled into it all we were told about ourselves about how we were wrong. We pile into it all we modelled by watching our Magical Big People. We piled into it all we believed is true about our flawed, shameful self. This is the layer that is in charge of our self-talk, if our self-talk is anything less than loving, supportive, and mindful to treat us with love, care and respect. But we couldn’t possibly go into the world with this Crud on display. No one does. That would be the ultimate shame. So we cover it up. We bury it. We disguise it. We hide it. We put a mask on to face the world and to appear ‘presentable’. And this layer we’ll call our Crust. The surface bit of us that we think the world will accept. Exhausting. Watch the full episode to discover how you can get closer to your core self. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020

Perspectives Podcast Live From Melbourne: So here we are back in Melbourne for the start of the Australia leg of the World tour for How to Become a Successful Coach! In this episode, we will be going through the six different dimensions/ components/ elements of what makes a really fulfilling meaningful purposeful life. This model is called the Psychological Well-being Model and it isn't just me having a view, it's based on actual research, science, and evidence that helps you identify if you're on the right track to living the life you want. This is the first time I've shared the model as it's brand new so I'd love for you to share your thought with me :) Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Join me as we dive deep into the 6 Steps to living an extraordinary life

Join Sharon and Glam as they discuss the difference between self – care and self love, how critical healthy boundaries are to leading a life where you find yourself lovable, and how you can reclaim these boundaries which we all knew intuitively at one point in our lives. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES: • Order the Brand New Ultimate You Book – https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.24 Glam: One of the things that you hear so much these days is the whole idea of loving yourself, and a lot of people are having a go of it, but it’s a tough thing. • Well self-care and self-love are two different things • So self-care is for example, having a bath. That’s not self love • Because I can remember having a bath and saying, “do I love myself yet” • And no matter how beautiful the experience looked and was and seemed to be, if on the inside I don’t know myself, I don’t find myself lovable, it really didn't matter how good the bath was • Glam: So how do you choose self-love then, what’s the first step to take? • Well everyone’s steps are different, but one thing to be considering is how you treat yourself. So my favourite saying on this topic is we need to treat ourselves as we wished our parents had when we were kids • So we need to speak with ourselves, be with ourselves, encourage ourselves, champion ourselves, nurture ourselves, support ourselves, demand of ourselves the way we wished it had been when we were younger • So example, if I had a view when I was a kid that was contrary to my dad's, most of the time the message was driven home, I was wrong. I have to ask myself how did I want to be parented looking back as an adult. If I had a different view I should to be encouraged, and acknowledged. I wanted to share a diet coke while we brainstormed it and yeah he would suggest a book. I have this whole ideal fantasy on how that could have been. I do that for me 7.10 We are raised generally to not know healthy boundaries, not to know that what we think can be differentiated from what our big people think and what they think can be differentiated from what we think what we think • So there are some basic things you look at if you're not clear in your childhood where you would have liked to have gone in a different direction. You can go into also the emotions you're led towards having and the needs that were met. But the basics to look at are values alignment and misalignment: thoughts, feelings, perceptions, and expectations, and how they were meant to be taken on board by you. Then ask yourself now is that what I really think, feel, perceive or expect of my world and myself and where there's that difference, start ripping 16.16 I’d dive into the chapter on boundaries at this point and really just start unpacking this • Ask yourself where am I living this and what parts of this can I reclaim. Its just reclamation. We did this before we started picking up on the messages from the big people • So it's in us it's more just let's nurture it until it comes alive again • I’ve been noticing how I am different with people now and how they're different with me and me spotting people who have an awareness of their boundaries and people who don't • A really simple example is narcissistic listening so I might say to a friend I’ve been doing Pilates, and a narcissistic listener, someone who’s not clear on healthy boundaries will say “I heard that’s really good” and then change the subject • My response these days is “Yeah now I’m going to give you my experience” • Because I’m expressing self love

Join Sharon and Glam as they discuss conscious living, the power of questioning our routines, beliefs and behaviours, and developing the power to differentiate ourselves from those around us, while still maintaining our ability to feel a sense of belonging. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 **Order the Ultimate You book here to receive exclusive bonus instantly: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you** KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.22 Glam: One of the things that I love is a concept you share in your book about conscious living • There’s unconscious things, beliefs, the muck, in all of our lives that hold us back from moving forward • Sharon: The muck, I agree • I would say most of us have lived years automatically • Years getting up, getting ready the same way, going to work the same way, reacting the same way to people, getting defensive the same way, rejecting feedback the same way and then thinking life somehow is going to be different • We have to start questioning, how automatic am I being in this moment? How reactive am I being in this moment? How can I be more conscious in this moment? • Glam: And what I love about it, is it actually walks you the process of that • Sharon: Right, as I’ve said many times, being told the answer is within is super unhelpful if you look in and you just feel like crap • I wrote the book the way I wished I’d been taught at the beginning of the journey, that there are ways of looking within we can train our minds and our consciousness to start taking care of us 7.57 Sharon: Let’s challenge our beliefs • I used to hold dear the belief that I couldn’t trust people. That’s just turned 180 • I had to challenge that belief consciously for many years before I could arrive at a different place • There’s always a tension between rigidity and permeability • So rigidity would be exampled by my way is the right way • There's black and white thinking, there's absolutism • On the opposite extreme in the dichotomy is the permeability • Some people have been raised where anything goes where your right simply because you're so special because you're perfect in every single way • So one of those is our automatic default mode • If we want progress we have to have a go at doing something different, seeing things differently 15.58 Another balance is, do I belong, or do I differentiate? • And am I belonging for reasons that are for my own wellbeing, or because of pressure from the group? • How far can I differentiate before the tension gets to be too much? • We often mix up love and loyalty, we define love as not rocking the boat, existing within the rules of the group • We have to learn how we can belong as a differentiated self • That’s emotional maturity, when I can hold both in the one space • Where I can sit with my family, be myself even if it bothers someone, and still feel like I belong • And I will never know me unless I'm prepared to hold that space for me • And when you first do it, it’s not pretty • But once you do it, share it with somebody and say I had a go and it was messy • And that’s the first step OTHER RESOURCES: • Ultimate You Book - https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Join Sharon and Glam as they discuss empowerment, how it’s often seen as a loud, external force, but how Sharon chooses to see it as an internal sense of well being that can be counted on despite the chaos of the outside world. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.23 Glam: I was looking back through the first chapter (of Ultimate You) and I love the message around empowerment and what it means to be truly empowered • Because we hear so much about that, about what it means to feel empowered • Sharon: That’s a good point. We do hear a lot about that. And people interpret that as being louder, perhaps more critical of others, absolutism, black and white thinking • And it’s not everyone, but a lot of people hear empowerment and they think, “That’s right! It’s my time!” • There’s an external-ness to it, whereas the empowerment we’re tapping into in this community is about “where is it within me?” • That regardless of what’s going on out there, I’m okay, I’m more than okay, I can handle this, I feel a deep sense of wellbeing within me in spite of and regardless of what’s out there • A lot of time the voice of empowerment is an internal voice, a quiet centeredness that amongst that, I’m just going to breathe in and pause, and not allow my emotional reactivity to clog my thinking 3.11 Glam: I loved in the introduction, I think you say, “I’m tired of hearing people say “The answer is within. Because where do I look and how do I find it? • And I think part of what you share in this first chapter is the actual pathway to looking within • Because even when we know it’s meant to be within we’re often still looking externally • Sharon: Right, we often base our internal change on external factors, “I’ll do it when” often even time can be the external factor “I’ll get to it later” • For instance I held on to a grudge against my parents for several years, and at a certain point I realized, “they don’t even know what I’m sulking about” • They’re just living their lives as they should, and I’m just making drama in my head about what they could have or should have done, which is the past, it’s not changing • I had to drop the noise, of how things had to be for me to be okay. Because none of those things are going to change, and you still have to be okay. • That’s what the whole book is orientated around • But it’s hands on, you can’t just read it and feel empowered. You have to take the steps 9.32 I really resented a message that told me to focus on my strengths, because I was in no way being validated for where I was at • A lot of people are in the same position, they need to hear, where you’re at, it makes sense • Where else could you have landed? • Some of us got faulty programming, I got really faulty programming, and I was running these programs • These programs were on righteousness, defensiveness, blame etc. • I needed to have a deep awareness of the programs I was running • Later in the book we talk about developing some more helpful programs, but first it’s just about getting rid of the ones that aren’t helpful • So part one is a lot about differentiating ourselves from our tribal cycle, because until we de-enmesh ourselves from that, we can’t elevate from it OTHER RESOURCES: • Ultimate You Book - https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Join Sharon live in London, the third stop of the world tour, and listen is as she discusses expanding our awareness and acceptance of a perceived issue in our life before we jump to action, in order to create real and lasting solutions rather than superficial ones. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.22 What we need to do for our selves and our clients is create real transformation, by helping them reclaim, reconnect and restore every emotion • There are three steps to transformation • Awareness > Acceptance > Activation • If I want to experience a different reality, what’s causing my current reality? • Thoughts, perceptions, habits, conditioning, programming • Action coaching is just giving help on steps they can take to solve their problems but that doesn’t help them expand awareness of their thoughts, perceptions… • Nothing in the mind will change • Transformational coaching is about setting them up to make the decisions themselves by expanding their understanding of themselves • Fixating on the problem ignores the source of the problem, and there will always be others to take it’s place 5.21 • I was raised to not have access to anger, anger was banned in my family, for girls, dad could get angry • What emotions were not allowed for some of you? • Audience Member: Expression • Sharon: What do you mean by expression? • AM: I loved to talk, and my mum put up a photo that said “you’re not allowed to talk too much, shut up” • S: Why do you think the sign went up? • AM: Because I talk too much, that’s what she said • S: That’s not why the sign went up • AM: Because she couldn’t handle it • S: There it is, so who was it really about? • AM: Her • S: Right, but when you’re a kid it’s hard to see that. How do you think your mother was raised • AM: Raised in a house where children were meant to be seen, not heard • S: And how do you think the people that raised her were raised? • AM: Same way • S: Isn’t that interesting. I call it a tribal cycle. When I’m coaching you, I’m coaching the tribal cycle that taught you what you see, which is “the sign went up because I talk to much” instead of “the sign went up because she couldn’t handle it” • I’m loving your mother right now. Why? • Because we’re going to now move to acceptance. We’ve got the awareness piece, now let’s move on to part two • Because she need to hear this too. As did you grandmother, and all the rest • We’re all victims of victims • If we find a perpetrator, we are putting the problem outside of ourselves • “If they had only been different” but we’re talking about changing generations of tribal cycles • Instead we have to say, this stops with me 13.30 This is one of my favourite models, we’ve got two scales, there’s the self (awareness, acceptance and more) and on the other there’s our problems • If the problem is beyond our awareness, it looks huge • If we instead raise awareness, the problem is redefined 24.10 I learned a lot of this stuff from the story The Little Soul and the Sun by Neale Donald Walsch, which goes something like this • A little soul went to heaven, and said to God I want to know myself • God says, you are everything, what more is there to know • The little soul says, I want to know love • God says okay, if you want to know love, I’m going to send you down to earth, and in the moment where you feel the most love, and you’re with someone who you feel you can trust the most, I’m going to have them strike you down. And in that moment, if you still love, you will know love • So the little soul goes down, and he finds someone, who he trusts and loves completely • And in the moment of him giving his heart over, the moment of total vulnerability, that great friend struck him down • And in the moment, he either remembered that he was love, or he was doomed to repeat the moment • I’m freeing my client from being doomed to repeat it • So that story is about acceptance of what is • And until we move to acceptance of what is, we’re not really going to change it because our thinking’s not going to change 27.36 Am: Is there a responsibility to acknowledge your part in the tribal cycle? • S: Not as a child, but as an adult yes • As a child, your responsibility is to be a child, and that’s it • Am: And what age do you have to grow up? • S: When I got to 37 I thought I should probably try • A lot of what we need to do is to get back to being a child • It’s not about lack of responsibility, it’s about being fully ourselves • I’ll come to your question about adult responsibility, here is my metaphor for that • You come to a puddle, what does a fully embodied kid do? • Jump in and make a splash • And the adults will avoid the splash, avoid the puddle, maybe bitch about it • So a child’s job or responsibility is to experience spontaneity, curiosity, warmth, love, playfulness, adventure, risk-taking, etc. • What’s an adult’s responsibility? I believe its to live our best lives 30.34 As we go higher on the awareness and acceptance scale, our emotional reactivity goes down • It’s gets us to a place where we don’t get hooked by everything our family does 31.06 AM: I have a question about acceptance, what if the client has so many things that have happened that they can’t get to acceptance because the things are unjust and unfair • S: Firstly, if your client has been so traumatized by a childhood event, you should refer them on. We don’t coach that which is beyond the realms of coaching • AM: What if the concept of unjustness, unfairness, inequality is important to your sense of self • S: Are we talking about you or your client? • AM: Me • S: Where’s the inequality? • AM: Feels like everywhere, I’m not sure. I’m thinking about the history, when I look at generation to generation, thinking about especially class inequality • S: Whoa. So I’m coaching you, and you’re bringing to your session, the planet. We’re going to need a little bit longer. Clients bring their issues to their session, the don’t come saying to me, can you solve the inequality on the planet • Clients come to me for help with them, not with others • So that’s the awareness now do you see how if you come to a coaching session and ask me to help you with people I haven’t met yet, you’re asking to set me up for failure? • AM: Yes • So that’s acceptance, and then the activation would be, “How could you do that differently so it’s impactful for you? OTHER RESOURCES: • Ultimate You Book - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Join Sharon live in Los Angeles, the second stop of the world tour, and listen is as she discusses breaking away from an unhealthy fixation with the external, in regards both to the expectations people have ourselves and the struggles we face within. When we can ditch these behaviours, we can focus our energies on understanding and shaping the one thing we have complete power to change, ourselves. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.23 • I believe to become successful we have to figure out how to do something different • This may mean defying our family or our tribe of friends • My parents had it all mapped out for me • When I got accepted into law, they were thrilled • I made my family look so good, until I turned it down, then they were so disappointed • So I’m overcoming this conditioning, this expectation about who I should be • But my parents aren’t doing it deliberately, they were taught the same thing by their parents • We need to recognize that sometimes we are going to have to disappoint a couple of people • To live our own lives is to defy our upbringing 6.12 I want to share a model that may help give some perspective on this • This is about making sure we keep our journey internal and not spend too much time focusing on the external • Nothing external can solve how we feel about ourselves • When most people in their lives they view it as something outside themselves and they’ll often try to avoid it, blame someone for it, normalize it, etc • Anything other than looking within at what they might they actually might be able to change about the situation • And since we can’t force the external to change, most people live their lives repeatedly facing the same problem • Sometimes we even create external problems rather than focus on the internal 12.04 Most people would rather hang on to their identity than adapt and grow • They would rather hold on to a problem in their lives and invent external reasons for it than face the truth that it comes from within them • Who here was raised where focusing on fixing our problems was preferable than looking at how you created it? (Most people raise hands) • That’s how we’re trained • Often times we feel like we’re really good at solving other people’s problems, seemingly if they only listened to us it would be such an easy fix, but that rarely seems to happen, and advice from others rarely seems to solve our problems • That’s because even if a problem seems simple on the surface, reversing the patterns of thought and behaviour that led to it is not simple, and requires serious reflection and internal exploration • That’s why coaching is not about giving advice on how to solve their problems, but guiding them on the journey to understand their problems OTHER RESOURCES: • World Tour – www.tci.rocks/worldtour • Ultimate You Book - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Join Sharon live In New York as part of her world tour, as she talks about reclaiming our core selves. None of us are born with negative self-talk, limiting beliefs, or any of the other mental and emotional issues that plague us as adults. We are born at one with our surroundings and our selves. The goal of coaching, the TCI way, is to return to this state. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.23 At our core is who we are meant to be and who we were when we were born • There’s spontaneity, warmth, pure emotion. No censorship, no thought, no permission • We were the world, we were the universe. Everything was a reflection of us, because we didn’t know awareness except through others • The goal in coaching our way, is to get back to that • But you’ve got to get through the crud • The negative self talk, the darkness, the limiting beliefs, the low self esteem, the fears, the shame • A kid under 5 sees no difference between themselves and the world around them • Then we start hearing the word no • We here you can’t, you don’t, you shouldn’t, I can’t believe you did that • Because we’re young, and there’s no difference between us and the world, everything we hear is true • We have no way of defending our selves from it, if it’s said by a magical big person, it’s the truth • And we internalize it • This is the work that we will do, to undo that internalization and that conditioning 6.05 The journey in coaching is to get through the crud and get back to the core • So who has some crud to work through? • Audience member: I have a fear of public speaking due to being laughed at at a young age • Sharon: So can I ask you a question? Who is your best self? • AM: I love people, I see good in everyone, I’m here for a purpose, and I need to help others, and I have to put my fear aside • Sharon: Your best self already has put her fear aside. She’s looking pretty amazing to me, she has passion, she has purpose, she makes a difference. Tell me more about her • AM: I want to be a great example for my children • Sharon: Your best self is a great example • AM: Yes, I am a great example for my family, I’m a great coach, I have self confidence, and I’m a great speaker! • Sharon: Your amazing, you just met the truth, and boy was she ready to come out! That’s not always the case. 10.17 Audience member shares about working through her frustration with her son’s reaction to her coaching 14.25 Audience member shares about her shame about her emotions stemming from a parent’s lack of vulnerability 16.31 Sharon: So this model, to me, has been a lifeline for me • Most of us as children, were never allowed to emote fully to completion • We would start an emotion, and it would be interrupted by a big person • Don’t pull that face around me young man, knock that off, big boys don’t cry, if you’re going to cry go to you’re room • An emotion interrupted as a child, is what we link shame to • Then instead of feeling that emotion properly, we feel shame • So we need to figure out, what emotions have I not allowed myself to have • And can I be present to someone who I can trust, who will let me experience that emotion, fully, to completion, without shaming or interrupting • It’s called mirroring or witnessing • I did this exercise many times, and it’s how I got from the crud to the core 19.45 It might have gone like this • When I was younger I was shamed when I didn’t speak well in front of one of my parents friends • I realize now, that wasn’t okay, in fact I’m kind of pissed off about it • It’s ridiculous that I was expected to be perfect as a child • And my witness partner might say “tell me more” • I’m six years old, and I’m expected to be perfect around big people, who know the rules, and don’t tell me the rules until I break the rules? • How am I supposed to get that right at that age? That’s ridiculous • My witness partner said “that’s not okay” • I reclaimed what I know should have happened when I was six years old • I was validated as I should have been at the time • And through doing this, we break through the crud, one bit at a time • We reclaim us OTHER RESOURCES: • World Tour – www.tci.rocks/worldtour • Ultimate You Book - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Thank you, Sharon Pearson, for sharing your personal journey to success on the Born To Talk Radio Show Podcast. In the Beginning. As you will hear, Sharon struggled in her life. Then came a pivotal moment at age 37.  Unable to move, she stood frozen in fear for over an hour.  Together with continual negative... The post Sharon Pearson, Author & Founder of The Coaching Institute appeared first on Born To Talk.

Thank you, Sharon Pearson, for sharing your personal journey to success on the Born To Talk Radio Show Podcast. In the Beginning. As you will hear, Sharon struggled in her life. Then came a pivotal moment at age 37.  Unable to move, she stood frozen in fear for over an hour.  Together with continual negative... The post Sharon Pearson, Author & Founder of The Coaching Institute appeared first on Born To Talk.

IMPORTANT RESOURCES World Tour – www.tci.rocks/worldtour •Book Signing – https://www.gsi.rocks/ultimate-you-invitation •Barnes and Noble Phone #: +1 212-253-0810 •Barnes and Noble Online Order – www.gsi.rocks/exclusive-pre-order •Ultimate You Book – Pre-Order Link -www.ultimateyouquest.com/book Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Sharon, along with Glam and others are soon embarking on TCI’s first world tour and in this episode, they share some details on what’s going to make it so special. If you make it to one of the locations, you can expect high levels of openness and spontaneity, and to dive right in and play with some tricky but important topics, including Sharon’s three guiding questions: Is what I’m doing working? If it’s not working, what am I doing about it? If I’m going to do something about it, who’s already done it and what did they do? 0.55 I think people already know, but this podcast is to reconfirm the World Tour announcement •We’re going to New York, Los Angeles, London, Melbourne, Sydney, and then maybe somewhere in Singapore and/or Auckland •The training we’re going to be doing is How to Become a Successful Coach •16 years ago I went to an event like this and for 16 years I’ve been remembering how it touched me and shaped my journey •Now we get that opportunity to have these conversations with people who are perhaps just at the beginning of their journey •One of the great gifts of coaching is not only helping other people but how much you grow and learn about yourself through your service to others •When I started my journey, I was filled with fears and self-doubt •Every limit you could imagine around self sabotage I had, and I still have a few of them •My starting point was “How do I get out of bed and function?” •So if you’re there, or anywhere further down the path, you’ll have a great time at this event 5.39 We were in Sydney just a few weeks ago, and one of the members shared that she saw a two-minute video of you (Sharon) and it reignited a fire within her, to change the world, that she hasn’t felt since she was a teenager •It’s okay to dream that big! Who convinced you that your dream wasn’t worth holding on to? •Hopefully that two minute video helped, It can be a hard journey, a meandering journey, but it’s worth it •That’s part of what’s so powerful about what you teach now, is you’ve taken the meandering journey and you’ve developed such amazing models that other people can follow 7.14 There are three questions that dictate how I live my life •Is what I’m doing working? •If it’s not working, what am I doing about it? •If I’m going to do something about it, who’s already done it and what did they do? •When we ask is it working that could mean, is what you’re doing giving you joy, fulfilment, meaning? •Are you’re choices enabling you to have intimate relationships with yourselves and others that you love? •If not, are you going to do something about it? And who are you going to do it with? 10.12 I used to have this wonderful diluted of the world, that If I keep doing this harder and more the eventually world will see it my way •Then one day it occurred to me, the world’s not changing •It took me 17 years to realize the world’s probably not going to change, it’s probably going to need to be me •If there’s anything that’s worth showing up to this event for it’s not the one or two days we have together it’s the 17 years I’ve invested learning this stuff •We feel best when we’re making progress •When you show up to this event you can’t expect to sit back, I’ll be asking the hard questions •It’s okay not to have the answers, but be willing to play around and try some things on •The most important things are to be open to learn, spontaneous, and emotionally open with yourself and others 16.30 You know how often I’ve gotten the feedback that I should soften the message? But I can’t… •I can’t do that because someone who is ready for the message might not hear it because I’m not courageous enough to say it and that would be a huge disservice to them •I’m not interested in the status quo, I’m not interested in emotional safety where nothing is risked, not interested in covering up 19.40 As coaches, we learn to hold people with our hearts and help them with our heads •But you can’t help with the head if you haven’t got the heart •If we can’t see them, with everything, the shame, everything their hiding, and hold them gently with all of that, there are limits on that breakthrough •Once you’re holding someone fully, you can start to answer the important questions •You’ve got to feel it, you can’t be totally intellectual and passive about it •And that’s who comes along to the workshops, they come ready to lean in and get right into it •One way I like to open, is we have to act like we’ve known each other for 20 years 23.35 Let’s talk about the Barnes & Noble Union square book signing •Wednesday, 25th of September, 7pm •If you’re in New York, come along, bring friends and family •Apparently it’s the biggest book store in New York •We’d love to have a big showing •There will be a golden scroll gift if you come and buy the book which includes interviews and various other bonuses (see in resources below) •Barnes & Noble got exclusive rights to the book in New York •If you can’t make it, contact Barnes & Noble to order it, and Sharon will sign some in advance (contact info in resources) •If you order it from Barnes & Noble remotely, we’ll send you the golden scroll via email (send us your receipt at TImeToAct@TheCoachingInstitute.com.au) •Order by 25th of September 27.35 This book has changed people’s lives •3 men in the past few months have shared with me that the book has saved their lives •Tom shared “As I worked through the models of self love, I reconnected with my heart, my emotions and my inner world. I let go of fears, control, and anger and took responsibility for my own needs…I now love being me” •We would love to see you on the world tour and at the book signing!

Self-Care is not as simple as taking baths, lighting candles and pampering yourself, it’s allowing yourself the time to feel your emotions and tell yourself you’re doing great, who you are today is okay, all of you is enough, more than. Tune into this episode of #Perspectives to learn the steps to take to develope and practice true self-care and self-compassion so that you can bring more love and light into your life. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Ultimate You Book – www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube KEY TOPICS/ TIME STAMPS 1.55 Continue the conversation on compassion…what is self-compassion… What it means to have compassion for yourself. - Often as soon as you say compassion people think it's something you got to bring for other people. - Seeing myself accurately and accepting myself which is always an unfolding journey - Every time I think I'm getting to know myself then a year later I look back, I knew nothing. - Favourite line from Game of Thrones is the ‘You know nothing Jon Snow’ because every year when I think I’m getting a clue, a year goes past and I realise you know nothing Sharon. - Self-compassion has not been my strong suit. I always strive so much and I want to grow so much, and I want to learn so much. Pausing and even long enough to reflect, ‘You’re okay, you’re okay as you are, you’re doing okay,’ instead of striving for the next thing to ‘be okay’. - That's been a big part of my addiction for years and I've been working for five years now on enjoying the pauses the breaths, as much as the run, the sprint and as much as the marathon. - But it's still my slick. This journey for me of self-compassion is accepting me as I am in this moment and being really okay about it, including all my flaws. - But to say I accept myself, I've got to see myself accurately first. So to me self-compassion isn't an arrival point it's an ever unfolding moments of learning more about who I am and who I could be and how I'm showing up. - And it's not as simple as having baths and light candles and meditating. Self-compassion is I'm doing great. Who I am today is okay, all of me is more than enough. More than. • **5.30 • So it's not just bath salts and candles and mood lighting. Which people call self-care, It’s a much deeper reflection within ourselves. Am I showing up in this** moment taking care of me? You know people pleasers. This is for you. People pleasing is, suppressing me expressing what I need in this moment. • Self-compassion is feeling it, noticing I feel it, acknowledging I feel it, expressing I feel it and then the ultimate is having that acknowledged appropriately and compassionately, that self-compassion. compassion could probably be measured by how people allow you to express and can reflect it back to you accurately, respectfully and appropriately and fully not just the bits and aspect that their comfortable with but all the aspects. 7.30 - What would be the first step for someone that supresses their emotions to begin to identify what their feeling - I've had feelings all my life everybody has. To consciously tune into it for the purposes of self-compassion, that's a whole different conversation because we can reactively just feel what we feel and say that’s self-compassion but it’s not. - So you and I would always have feelings, we're just suppressing them or not worrying about them, not think about it and get busy doing something else. Think whatever, dismiss it and think other things are more important. But that’s not very good, that’s not self-compassion. But there is a time and place for that, like when I'm in business and I'm doing a strategy meeting, I'm all good having access to being able to supress. - And also that’s a self-compassion component, that there's a time for feelings and there’s a time for facts and I can access both as easily. 9.10 So how do you take the first step to tune into your emotions - So the first step is knowing the language of emotions. This is in the book Ultimate You. So knowing the basic emotions: happiness, sadness, disappointment ,resentment, I believe shame is also one that's generally not talked about. Just basic emotions, joy, sadness, they're there the basic emotions just know the language for that. - Plenty of people relate to anger which the basic emotion. People pleasers will relate to happiness, scratch the surface and they won't go to anger, that's generalizing, some do but there's gonna be comfort levels 10.00 Anger is a way to translate sadness into something powerful. - this is why a lot of guys are very comfortable with anger, but what they’re really saying is I can translate fear or sadness into something that gives me power. - So that’s your secondary emotion, anger is really an expression of a boundary violation that we've violated within ourselves or someone's violated but that's where people go comfortably. 10.20 So How do you do it Step 1: get comfortable with the language of the basic emotions anger sadness disappointment joy happiness curiosity. Just name some basic ones. It could be within your repertoire. Could be a little bit out of focus. Step 2: Ask yourself which of these do I play with and which do I just push away. • The point a lot of people just stopped trying is because they've trained everybody around them to not accept their, insert your emotion here, and I think especially with this education and without knowing all these layers underneath it they will come to the conclusion that that's just the way the world is now. They wouldn't know how to change it; they wouldn't know that they've created it. • It's true, so many years when I went to go to express sadness and got rejected, suppressed, denied, ignored, neglected, shamed, I learnt said you can't be sad read people and then start realizing how often people can be sad around me… • And it's really easy to stop there and just go man, ‘this is too hard’ or not even get conscious about it and just go unconscious they just shut it down. • Step 3. Next step towards this is… • There’s a level here of suck it up. It's really tough and it would be easy to tortes the shit out of this and put your head right back in and just ignore and go into your cave. • Then you've got to face, how do I change the nature of my relationships with people around me? 18.40 How I got friendly with my emotions - My husband and I went travelling as you know for six weeks overseas and I decided this is it. I'm going to learn how to have an emotion in front of someone, not supress it, be comfortable with it. And I'm going to keep doing it until I'm really friendly with my emotions and I'm friendly with the idea of other people being friendly with my emotions. - And that's where the whole mirroring exercise came from. So everything I wrote in the book is what I did. 20.00 Story of how she did the mirroring exercise with her husband - Mirroring is when you start doing it and the other person has to be the parent and you'd wished you had when the first event happened until you can parent yourself the way you wished you had. So the other person needs to be open, curious, not try and fix it, no judgement, not make it about you and maintain eye contact and positivity not rah rah. 28.20 Shame loves shadows - I think when people hear compassion they sometimes think they have to do it alone and that it’s gonna start with themselves. It's OK if and it's important for you to maybe hear this from someone. In fact it’s vital - Shame loves shadows, so the emotions were not comfortable with, we feel shame, we feel rejection or we feel a need to hide it. These are all variants of shame so we felt those emotions as a child and it was shamed by not being literally shamed but it could have been mocked, judged, rejected, ignored, neglected, shunted aside or made insignificant or silly, six or seven different ways it's shamed, then in adulthood our own consciousness is still playing out the same thing that emotion is required for this moment of intimacy. But because I link shame to that emotion I won't be able to show up and into this moment because I'm feeling shame right now and it’s going to be all about me. So we need that person so we can play out that unconscious pattern in a safe way where it's all about us. - And here's the thing you never reverse the role if you will my mirroring partner I don't then turn into yours because we need to learn the unconditional acceptance of it's all about you as you feel that yucky read emotion not friendly with emotion, the point is not about being a trade.

Compassion can often be confused between self-sacrifice and empathy…so what is true compassion? Discover the difference and learn how to take the steps to fully embody compassion on this episode of #Perspectives, so that you can begin to have deeper and more meaningful relationships with others and yourself. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 **Key Topics and Timestamps 1.15 What is compassion and what is not compassion.** - Sometimes compassion can be confused between self-sacrifice or empathy or what is what….What is compassion? - I think it’s misrepresented a lot of the time. People say ‘I'm a compassionate person’ but there's a lot of surface to it. And we need to have depth. 2.00 Difference between Empathy and Compassion - To me empathy is feeling what I'm able to relate to, what someone else is feeling or experiencing. - compassion is going a step further and wanting to help resolve that or be part of their journey with them and be ok with that and not make you it about ourselves. - Whereas where it can get unhealthy is, it looks like compassion to someone, though what they're really doing is making their feelings that person's feelings or taking on the person whose hurting feelings and being upset with them. 3.30 Example of expressing empathy vs compassion - Empathy is a demonstration. It’s wanting to know the feelings, perceptions and thoughts - Compassion is working out with the person what do we do with this, do we do anything, do we just sit with it. - Without empathy we can’t have compassion 5.38 Before empathy there first comes the I-amness, the sense of self Download the I-Amness Triad model here: www.tci.rocks/i-amness-model**** 6:00 Narcissistic Listening - Narcissistic listening is not compassion. This type of listening is, they shared something and then you say, ‘yea that happened to me,’ or ‘recently I’ turning the conversation back on them. 6:35 Steps and layers - Compassion is the top Layer - Then empathy to get compassion - But we’ve got to earn empathy by being able to be kind to ourselves - To be kind to self is to have a sense of our own I-amness and enough-ness that ‘I can handle that’ which is a demonstration of self-esteem - So the order goes: o Compassion o Empathy o Resilience o Self-esteem  Boundaries  Needs  And emotionality - Compassion requires you to be able to be completely comfortable in your emotions because if you’re not comfortable with your emotions you shut them down…when someone else displays those emotions you’re not comfortable with you can’t be compassionate, ask the right questions to tune into it because you don’t have a healthy relationship with it - Therefor this version of compassion can come off as shame 9:00 An example of truly being compassionate - If someone can o Dive into your pain o Dive into your shame o Are into what your celebrating - So to be able to be compassionate you have to be able to be there in pain, shame and glory 12:00 lessons from learning compassion and contrast - The way I look at it in this case is, what were the emotions. - Find out what were the needs - What is it this person needed in that time - And ask them what did you need then, what needed to have happened for you to have felt loved, included and safe and to feel that compassion was present to you. - And then boundaries - Do you do you feel that you were supporting your boundaries when you set that thing or did you feel your boundaries were not being supported when you said that? - Resilience is believing in the choice in the face of hopelessness. 16:15 Example of healthy boundaries - The more that you respect your boundaries and understand them the more I can understand yours and where mine ends and yours begin and you can do the same for me. - It’s knowing, that’s me and that’s you and we’re not the same 18.20 My core values - my values are o health o fitness o vitality o love o wisdom o truth o playfulness 19:57 Why it’s the gift to give to people

If you have been wondering how you can start achieving the goals that matter, this episode of #Perspectives is for you. We have done something a little different for this episode, taking you straight into a training room with Sharon Pearson and a group of wonderful life coaches to explore why and how we set aspirational goals and the one shift it really takes to achieve them. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Key Topics and Time Stamps: 0.00 Why I don’t coach people on what they want first but secondary o Understanding that the goal we set and what we say we aspire to achieve isn’t our truth. o We set aspirational goals as a way to mask our current state. o We think we’re going to go for it consciously but unconsciously we have no intention of doing it. It’s a way of displacing our pain and shame of not living up to who we thought we’d be. 5.00 What I coach on now o I don’t coach on the goal someone wants to achieve; I coach on the truth of how they are hiding, who they’re not being, what they are missing about themselves. o I hope to recover who they’re meant to be and how they can grow and as they change their perception of themselves, they change their goal because their goal was a way of putting outside of ourselves if I get that then I’m okay. o What if we reverse it and coach people on how to be okay rather than how to achieve a goal to feel okay. 6.20 Reaching Goals isn’t about working harder it’s about changing your strategy o Start getting your mind working for you then ask yourself well now I know who I am and I love who I am what is it I’m really looking to create. 7.30 Ambition with meaning is misery o That’s why people keep pursuing the goal wondering if they’ll ever catch happiness and they never do because their strategy is wrong from the beginning. 7.58 Over Ambition and Under Ambition o Under Ambition is a sense of give-up-ness o When I coach someone and I see them flaking and being completely disconnected from even having a go, I’m seeing what I call give-up-ness o When I identify that I almost immediately know what happened in their past for them to have landed on that strategy 8.40 Example of Under Ambition o Someone in their 40’s who’s still under ambitious, easily lacks resilience, doesn’t push through, dresses poorly, doesn’t take care of themselves, has failed repeatedly to hold a job down, it’s always the bosses fault. o I know immediately that that’s a strategy they learned and perfected in childhood. o No one comes into life wanting to mess it all up. It’s painful to constantly have defeat and setbacks and never ever have a reason to feel different and freaky, that’s a painful way to live. o So I know at some point in childhood there was a trigger. From adults, caretaker, a ‘big person’ who has responsibility for caring for them did something, behaved a certain way, rewarded it, punished a certain behaviour. And that child has associated that reward and punishment to how they should behave. ‘Don't sine too much,’ ‘you’re a bit big for your boots there,’ ‘no one likes a smart girl’. o There is two ways to respond, over ambition or under ambition o You can’t keep coaching on goals and ignoring their under ambition as they will always default back to their under ambition never achieving those goals 12.45 I-Amness Traits o Traits we are often born with that we often grow out of by the time we reach adulthood. These include  Creativity  Resilience  Risk taking  Playfulness  Sense of humour  Lovingness  Intuition  Curiosity o Ask yourself, when was the last time you experienced these qualities o Observe if and when these qualities arise. o 15.25 Example of an observable trait that we can use to understand why someone acts the way they do…  What qualities and aspects have been denied and conditioned to cause them to act in a certain way. Resources: Ultimate You Book – - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book -Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com -Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings -Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com -Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 -The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach -Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com -Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmlnQBgHQ/

Sharon Pearson has been at the forefront of the coaching and personal improvement field for more than 16 years. She has helped thousands of people improve their lives through Global Success Institute’s ongoing training programs and is recognized internationally as the pioneer of the Meta Dynamics™ coaching methodology. For more information visit:https://www.sharonpearson.com/https://au.linkedin.com/…/sharonpearson…

If you’re curious about learning the best strategies for aligning your habits with your goals so you can begin living the life you want, then this episode is for you. Sharon dives into how she utilises strategies to move her closer to living an awesome life. The self-awareness, pattern recognition, the trial and error and healthy habits she continues to establish and re-establish, helps her to create her ideal average day where she feels fulfilled, love, joy and calm. If this is something that you want to create in your own life click play, take notes and lets go on this wonderful journey together. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Ultimate You Book – Pre-Order Link - www.ultimateyouquest.com/book Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Discover all magic behind The Coaching Institutes success and the mess that comes with running a 8-figure business. Sharon is joined by the amazing Matt Lavars, the head trainer, who is literally the embodiment of everything that The Coaching Institute stands for. He is living his dream today as a successful coach, and a successful trainer, rocking out with our students. This episode goes into the raw truth and commercial reality behind the ups and downs of running a successful business. If you're up for a frank and open conversation about business success, this is the episode for you. So grab a cup of tea and join us as we dive into this conversation together. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Ultimate You Book – Pre-Order Link - www.ultimateyouquest.com/book Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Self-awareness is the basis to having a healthy relationship with your reality. Join Sharon Pearson and Joe Pane, a master coach and world-class trainer, as they dive into self-awareness and how to measure whether we are seeing our reality accurately and how it affects our relationships. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: - Learn more about what a Map is and what it means for you– www.tci.rocks/map-is-not-territory - Ultimate You Book – Pre-Order Link - www.ultimateyouquest.com/book - Ben Greenfield Health and Gitness - https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/ - Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com - Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings - Sharon’s New Website!! - www.sharonpearson.com - Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ - Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 - The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach - Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com - Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube Full Transcript: www.sharonpearson.com/blog

Coaching means so many things to so many people… For Sharon it’s helping people reach their true potential… For Joe it’s helping people fall back in love with themselves… Everyone perceives something slightly different dependant on their frames…

A common theme in successful people and successful coaches is having a good level of self-awareness in these three specific areas...

Discover the truth behind Sharon Pearon's 'overnight success'. Join Sharon Pearson and Elysium Nguyen (Glam) in the long awaited discussion on how Sharon created her successful business and the journey from where it all began to now. If you are just starting out in your business, already a business owner or thinking about that pathway, this is the episode for you. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: - Ultimate You Book – www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book - Ultimate You Quest Telecast – www.ultimateyouquest.com/perspectives - Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings - Podcast, upcoming events, books – www.sharonpearson.com - Disruptive Leadership - https://disruptiveleading.com/ - The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris - https://fourhourworkweek.com/ - Flow State (Coined by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi) - https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/mihaly-csikszentmihalyi-father-of-flow/ - Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 - The Coaching Institute Fan Page - https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach/ - Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topic to be discussed – perspectives@sharonpearson.com or visit www.sharonpearson.com/perspectives - Perspectives Youtube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ

When you start something new in business… it’s not going to be everything that you love all of the time and I think that’s one of the biggest misconceptions.

What's the difference between reacting and responding? Join Sharon Pearson and Elysium Nguyen (Glam) as they dive deep into conversations about why we react emotionally, tools to become self-aware, and strategies on how to respond in a way that's full of clarity and calm. If you are someone that experiences 'emotional roller coasters' and want to bring more stability, fulfilment and calm peace into your days, then this episode is for you. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: -Ultimate You Book – www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book -Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com -Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings -Podcast & Books - www.sharonpearson.com -#PERSPECTIVESTOUR - www.sharonpearson.com -Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 -The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach -Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com -Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmlnQBgHQ/ Full Transcript: www.sharonpearson.com/blog

Feedback. We know it’s good for us. We know we need it to grow. We know it’s something we need to hear… So why does feedback usually make us feel a little… icky?

Click play on this little sneak peek into one of my all time favourite conversations with Sharon... the journey to creating change, how to celebrate along the way, and the criteria for who you want to have with you on that journey...

Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach giftpack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: -Ultimate You Book - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book -Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com -Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings -Podcast/Upcoming Events/Books - www.sharonpearson.com -Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 -The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach -Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com -Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmlnQBgHQ/

Join Sharon as she discusses how her journey all began, the desperation, the need for more and what she did to to make the shift towards living the life she couldn't have imagined.

PERSPECTIVES Episode 2: Sneak Peek: When I looked inside and I didn't like what I found... Join Sharon as she discusses how her journey all began, the desperation, the need for more and what she did to to make the shift towards living the life she couldn't have imagined.

It’s hard to find a community where you can freely be yourself without judgement, a community that encourages you to learn, including through mistakes. A community that celebrates being unique, raw and honest without ridicule. In this episode, Sharon Pearson dives deep into how she came to build her successful, supportive, open and loving community on the back of her toughest year in The Coaching Institute’s history. Get your FREE getting started as a successful coach giftpack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: - Ultimate You Book – www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book - Disruptive Leadership Book - https://www.disruptiveleading.com/book/sale/ - Ultimate You Quest Book – https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ultimate-you/ - Ultimate You Quest Telecast – www.ultimateyouquest.com/perspectives - Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topic to be discussed – perspectives@sharonpearson.com or visit www.sharonpearson.com/perspectives - Perspectives Youtube Channel -https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ/ - The Coaching Institute Fan Page - https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach/ - Podcast, upcoming events, books – www.sharonpearson.com - The Coddling of the American Mind - Book by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt - The Tipping Point – Malcom Gladwell

Come along and join Sharon Pearson as she explores ideas that perhaps aren’t being challenged enough. Let’s have open, honest, robust conversations on: - How to live with love, compassion, and respect - How to handle ambiguity, complexity and unknown - How to encourage learning, in ourselves and others, through mistakes, through setbacks, through discovery Together we’ll create this medium, this platform where we all get to hang out, celebrate the diversity of ideas, share thoughts, challenge the status quo and have the most raw and honest discussions about how we can live our fullest life when "getting by" seems oh so easy to achieve.

Here's is a sneak peek of what's coming your way Saturday the 4th of May!!

Sharon Pearson is currently the Christian Formation Specialist with Church Publishing Incorporated, or CPI, and supports congregations through consulting and workshops. Also an editor and writer, she brings new initiatives in formation to the wider church through publications. She has 40 years’ experience in Christian formation at the local and church-wide levels including her home parish of St. Matthew's, Wilton and for a number of years, working on the staff for the Episcopal Church in Connecticut. She is on the Mission Council and helped them develop resources for their conversations and ongoing work addressing racial justice, healing, and reconciliation. She has a blog, Rows of Sharon: Thoughts of a Christian Educator and was a founder of the very popular blog, Building Faith, now owned by Virginia Theological Seminary. She contributes to Episcopal Teacher magazine; and has published 10 books. She specializes in teacher training and leading workshops and has experience as an Education for Ministry mentor and a Godly Play teacher; she has served on church-wide design teams and on several church-wide boards and forums. Sharon is the go-to person for identifying, collecting, developing, curating, and distributing resources. We started out by talking about the “Christian education” and the broader, “Christian formation.” What’s the difference? Education is about information; formation might include education as well as liturgy, engagement with the community, prayer and worship, and more. CPI, and the blogs, will have resources for both. Churches still look for “academic program year” curriculum, but a lot of them create their own, using program resources. Sharon enjoys learning about these, and shared a story about Emily Given’s program that uses storytelling with Legos. CPI is about to publish Given’s second book on this. Then we turned the conversation about book publishing because people send Sharon ideas, and even completed manuscripts! She also discovers potential books on her own. She talked about the editing process and questions they’ll ask. (Pro tip: Work on your social network!!)   Next we asked her about her path to her current job, which she described, and shared about a book she’s currently working on by Herbert O’Driscoll. We jumped back to resources for parishes and she talked about FORMA, a source for Christian education/formation resources, which you can find here. She also recommends VTS’ Build Faith blog, as well as her personal blog Rows of Sharon,  both referenced above. And we ended with a question about how her work impacts her spiritual life. Evidently having access to lots of resources is helpful!

Sharon was a displeased crime writer who was self-destructive. She made every huge financial mistake that dragged her down deeper into despair. She was an expert at defining how her life sucked until she realised the need for her to change her mindset, to cherish and thrive in life the same way she trained her brain how to suck in life. It became her major turning point. She reinvented the potential that the coaching industry holds, authored four international best-selling books on personal, business and coaching success. Since she founded The Coaching Institute, Sharon was able to build award-winning teams, trained award-winning coaches, motivated culture-driven results and created the world's first and only research-based coaching methodology, the Meta Dynamics™. “Change isn't by chance. It's by CHOICE”.

This week I'm doing a review on the lessons I learnt from 2017 and how I will adjust some things for 2018. Lessons learnt are useless if you don't do something with those lessons. The universe has a way of sending us messages. We may not notice them but the universe will keep sending them anyway but with increasing force and consequences until we finally get it. I learnt a lot in 2017 and this week I go deep (and personal) so you benefit from my lessons too. I also share some wisdom from a mentor - Sharon Pearson - around not solving problems that don't exist. I finish with a piece by Kyle Cease called The Real World. You will love this one. Thanks again for tuning in to another episode of the Building Better Humans Project Podcast.   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Starting with some news updates on NoDAPL, Leonard Peltier, and ecological resistance in Latin America, we then move on to an interview with Sharon Pearson on the Oberlin Project and the relationship between the college and the community. Introduction 1:00 - News 3:30 - "Himno Zapatista," los Nakos 5:00 - "Political Prisoner," Immortal Technique 7:30 - "Black snakes," Tribe Called Red remix by Prolific the Rapper 13:15 - Interview with Sharon Pearson 49:00 - Environmental Justice Initiative Poetry Slam 2002 winning poem by Eseohe Arhebamen

While Fr. Ben is on vacation, Fr. Colin puts together this great episode. Sharon Pearson from Church Publishing joins to discuss Reclaiming the Gospel of Peace. John Ohmer and Colin talk about Slaying Your Goliaths: How God can Help. Colin quizzes Ben and Jay Sidebotham on cartoon trivia.    Sharon Ely Pearson, Author and Editor at Church Publishing. Reclaiming the Gospel of Peace: https://www.amazon.com/Reclaiming-Gospel-Peace-Challenging-Epidemic/dp/0819232025 Sharon’s Amazon Page: https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=dp_byline_sr_book_1?ie=UTF8&text=Sharon+Ely+Pearson&search-alias=books&field-author=Sharon+Ely+Pearson&sort=relevancerank   The Rev. John Ohmer, Rector Falls Church Episcopal, Falls Church, VA Slaying Your Goliaths: How God Can Help https://www.amazon.com/Slaying-Your-Goliaths-How-Help/dp/0880284048 Ohmer’s Blog:  http://unapologetictheology.blogspot.com/ The Rev. Jay Sidebotham, Artist and Assc. Rector, St. James’ Parish in Wilmington, NC https://www.cpg.org/global/online-resources/cartoons/