Podcasts about coaching school

Stephen Mackey - The Texas Way Description: Host Kendall Miller, head football coach and athletic coordinator at Frisco Emerson High School, interviews Stephen Mackey of 2Words Character Development about an exciting new program being launched at the THSCA's Coaching School called “The Texas Way.” This initiative aims to elevate sportsmanship at UIL athletic events. Coach […]

Gabe Myers and Mike Foran discuss Mike's takeaways from coaching school plus Victoria Northeast Senior League's run to the World Series

Stephen Mackey - The Texas Way Description: Host Kendall Miller, head football coach and athletic coordinator at Frisco Emerson High School, interviews Stephen Mackey of 2Words Character Development about an exciting new program being launched at the THSCA's Coaching School called “The Texas Way.” This initiative aims to elevate sportsmanship at UIL athletic events. Coach […]

Brian Polk - COO of THSCA Description: Join host Chris Doelle as he discusses the upcoming 92nd Annual Coaching School and Convention with Brian Polk, COO of the Texas High School Coaches Association. Coach Polk highlights everything offered at the event, which is scheduled for July 21-23, 2024, in San Antonio, TX. Offerings include high […]

Mike Toller works as a professional coach and psychodynamic psychotherapist, supporting individuals privately and in organisations, and training people to bring coaching skills and mindsets into their personal and professional lives.That makes him the perfect person to answer one of the big questions that coaches ask and get asked: what is the difference between coaching on the one hand, and counselling and psychotherapy on the other?In this new format, an excerpt from Episode #32, you can hear Mike and Robbie exploring that big question.As Robbie says in the introduction to this episode, the clarity of what Mike talks about here has changed how Robbie thinks and talks about the difference between coaching and psychotherapy (and counselling). It just might do that for you, too.Listen back to Episode #32 in full here, for Mike's story and many amazing ideas and tips for you and your coaching business: https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-32-mike-toller.For more information about Mike, visit https://www.clarenormancoachingassociates.com.For more information about this episode's host, Robbie Swale, visit https://www.michaeltollercoaching.co.uk/Read more about The Coach's Journey at www.thecoachsjourney.com.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/community.BIOGRAPHY FROM MIKEMike was born in Germany and moved to the UK when he was six years old. He lived in Oxfordshire, Leeds and Norfolk with his parents and three brothers. When he was 19, he studied Linguistics in Cambridge, and then moved to London.Mike first worked for a graduate recruitment startup, then followed a passion for writing and made a leap to publishing, editing travel guides. In his spare time, he put on clubnights for fun and later took the plunge and left his job as an editor to turn the nights into a successful events company.Realising he wanted his work to be more fulfilling and align directly with his values and wider goals, Mike began a process of self-reflection and worked with some amazing mentors, who inspired him to take his career into his own hands and choose a new direction. He made a plan for change, and in 2010 began training as a psychotherapist.Along the way, he decided to develop a portfolio career and trained as a coach in 2014. He also co-founded The Coaching School, a centre of excellence for coaching committed to training and supporting the next generation of outstanding coaches.Mike now works as a professional coach and psychodynamic psychotherapist, supporting individuals privately and in organisations, and training people to bring coaching skills and mindsets into their personal and professional lives.

2021 was the year of my (mini) professional crisis. There were big decisions to make, and I was feeling deeply confused about the direction I wanted to grow in professionally & with our school. What kind of business (& life) did I want to have? Did I want to blow up my creation? It took me a long time to find a mentor to help me navigate what was right, for me. I wanted someone who worked in deeply embodied ways. Someone who would support me if I decided to throw in the towel & make the decision to destroy my creation. And also someone who was a little bit magic.  Somehow (I think it was the power of Instagram) Rachael Maddox entered my life. She'd just closed her own Coaching School down (to begin a conception journey) and was making some radical changes in her business model. She was EMBODIED AF. And supported CEOs. We started working together - and I've loved her since. Recently I spoke with Rachael as part of our The Future Is Embodied Conference. Our conversation was a dive into the ethics of embodied business & how Rachael navigates her work as a witch & mentor. It was such a rich conversation I wanted to bring it to you today, in the hopes you find some “unconventional” courage to follow your path (whatever that is) to the best version of your work in the world. Of course, I didn't close down our school, or decide to blow anything up in the end. Which is what I love so much about EMBODIMENT work. It's an invitation to find YOUR body's truth. Which won't look the same as anyone else. What's right for you won't be right for them. But holding space for ALL the possibilities, even the wild & witchy ones remains something I hold as so valuable. Resources From Today's Podcast ●      Rachaels' website & find her here on Instagram ●      Karpman drama/empowerment triangle ●      Feminine Embodiment Coaching – an emotional embodiment & vulnerability-based professional training for coaches ●      School of Embodied Arts ●      Leave a podcast review on iTunes here ●      Thought or reflection to share? Leave a comment on Instagram here

January Donovan is the founder of The Woman School and The Wholeness Coaching School. She is a #1 best-selling author, entrepreneur, and mother of eight children. She has over twenty years experience training women to design a life of wholeness. She built a multi-million dollar company that reaches forty countries globally earning her the title of Forbes Magazine's top Coaching School. She went on to co-found The Wholeness Coaching School with her husband Ryan, where she teaches men and women to build their own coaching businesses using mindset and skillset training to help people design a life of wholeness. Together, they also founded The Man School and quickly expanded to The Woman School en Español. January's dream fuels her discipline as a wife, mother, and business owner because we can't give what we do not have. We were created to live a life of meaning and contribution, we just need to train-up for it. January believes that life without skills is hard, and skills give us choices. We suffer unnecessary overwhelm, stress, and anxiety simply because we are undertrained. We battle feeling like a failure when in reality, the world has failed to prepare us. We can no longer afford to hand over a generation of men and women who doubt their worth and give up on who they were created to be because they lack the skills. Training and discipline are essential to achieving the life that we want. She believes that it is time to recognize the value of the ‘whole' person and not just what the culture dictates makes us valuable; we are more than our bodies and achievements. She believes in the integration of the whole person. Her dream is that these schools not only empower men and women, but that they also equip them with practical tools to live a fulfilling life, a life fully alive. She teaches that we have a universal call to inspire people, so we can create a ripple impact in our homes, our communities, our relationships, and our careers. We change the world by changing our interior world first. As a wife and mother of eight children, January is fierce about integrating business and motherhood. She reminds her students that our professional dreams ought to be integrated with our personal dreams; we just need to train-up for them. January believes that success cannot be void of fulfillment, because our hearts are made of it. January's Social Media: Website: https://thewholenessschool.com/ Instagram: @january.donovan_ email: january@thewomanschool.com

Hey friends….welcome to episode 41: The Wheel of Life Mini-Training.This 30 minute episode introduces, or perhaps RE-introduces you to one of my favorite life-coaching tools called The Wheel of Life. It's a tool used often in the coaching industry that most of us coaches learn about in Coaching School.How can the Wheel of Life help you? -Helps you live with INTENTION, instead of by default.-If you are stuck, it can help uncover where you are stuck and why.-If you need momentum, it helps you determine your next best steps to get moving.-If you've been feeling “meh” and can't figure out why, this tool helps you narrow down which parts of life you might want to focus on to start feeling better.-If you are lost, this tool will help point you in the next right direction.-If you are lonely, this tool can help you figure out why and what you want to do about it.-If life didn't turn out like you hoped, this tool can help you course correct.-And, if you have ADHD, it helps you break down your wants and desires into small steps. It's helps you identify your next best steps. It helps prioritize. -If life is actually pretty dang good, this tool will help you determine how to get to the next level.Get your free copy at www.angstocke.com/wheeloflife.The rest of this podcast is me running you through doing The Wheel of Life. Together, we go through the 8 sections of the Wheel:Family/FriendsSignificant OtherFun and RecreationHealthMoneyFaith/SpiritualityEnvironmentCareerYou'll learn how to do it and hear examples for each section. You'll become aware of which parts of life might be asking for some attention,and you'll be invited to answer some questions to figure out your next best action.This is a HELPFUL training. Easy. Clear. It can even be LIFE-CHANGING.Everyone should have access to this simple way of assessing life.Enjoy!Links mentioned + Ang's linkswww.angstocke.com/wheeloflifehello@angstocke.com / angstocke.cominsta: @angstockecoaching fb: @angstockecoaching  Host of  The Brilliant Creative Podcaston Spotify on Apple  on AmazonFind more episodes on my website, right here 

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Coaching School rewind, A&M nabs the fastest man in Texas, and more recruiting notes

We had a busy week at Big 12 Media Days and the 2023 THSCA Coaching School and Convention. We recap it all this week. Plus, hear our conversation with Texas Tech head coach Joey McGuire at Big 12 Media Days. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

(4:00 – 18:00) Mike and Jay discuss their biggest takeaways from SEC Media Days, including Jimbo Fisher refusing to disclose if he'll call plays. (18:15 – 26:00) Mike gives a recap of the 2023 THSCA Coaching School and the guys debate whether or not Jimbo no-showing matters. (26:45 – 38:00) Mike and Jay each give their picks for the top five most important Texas A&M players entering the season (38:15 – END) Mike and Jay make the case for road tripping over flying and discuss the best regions of the United States Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Introduction:  Author, Thought leader and Entrepreneur in the world of performance, learning and coaching  Myles Downey is a thought-leader and entrepreneur in the world of performance, learning and coaching. He was the founder of The School of Coaching, for many years a much- respected provider of coach training and executive coaching in the UK and Europe. Myles is the author of ‘Effective Modern Coaching', ‘Effective Coaching' and ‘Enabling Genius – a mindset for success in the 21st Century'.  Myles is one of the leading business performance coaches in Europe with extensive, global experience spanning thirty years. He has worked with CEO's, COO's and MD's in the most prestigious organisations from Banking and Financial Services, to Manufacturing and Oil and Gas to Professional Services and in the Public Sector.  Podcast episode Summary:  In this episode Myles Downey shares his passion for his work, his writing work, and the work he does to support leaders and organisations express themselves fruitfully and joyously for the benefit of the organisation and each other. There is a focus on his new book, The enabling Manager where Myles decodes the distinctions between Lead, Manage and Coach.  Points made throughout the Episode:    How did you get into this domain called Coaching? Myles started back in the days when the word “coaching” as we know it today was barely understood. Myles was a good tennis player and enjoying playing and competing and he came upon a book called “The inner game of Tennis” Myles was a professional architect at the time and after reading this book within 6 months began to explore the ideas housed in the Inner Game  The book title effectively divides the world into two, the inner world and the outer world where most of the focus for coaching was applied -such as how you placed your foot etc as opposed to the inner world the stuff between our ears. That was the start of Myles journey into coaching.  Myles set up his practice first in Dublin and then in London where he set up probably the first Coaching School called The Alexander Corporation in 1987 Was the world of sport ahead of The world of Coaching by way of that book The inner Game of Tennis? No like Coaching it was very mechanistic and focused on knowledge and how to rather than what was happening interiorly for a person or player.  What did you appreciate when you first heard about the Inner Game? Gallwey the author made a critical distinction between what he called Self One and Self Two.  Self-One is that part of you that is in fear, in doubt, in worry and Self-Two is that part of you that is in flow. Teaching tends to put people into self-one. They start to emulate the teacher and they “try” and trying cripples people. Operating from Self Two comes self-reliance and autonomy.   Timothy Gallwey used to employ a formula which Myles calls out and explains. Performance = Potential – Interference where interference is about doubt, fear, thinking about winning or not losing instead of being present. If you can reduce the interference for people then they can perform.  How did Sir John Whitmore and Graham Alexander influence your work? These two gentlemen had the rights to the Inner Game in Europe. Myles joined them as they both moved into the world of Coaching in Business.  What made the work of Sir John Whitmore so impactful in the World of Business? Time & Place provided a rich landscape from which John's work took hold. There was an openness in the mid 80s to alternatives. Sir John Whitmore was the first person to write a book on Coaching devoid of content such as tennis for example. His book was very simple and very readable. Sir John Whitmore was a man of humility and that meant his ego did not get in the way in his communication with others.  Myles does not subscribe to the Leader as Hero model. He shares his work with the English Rugby team and their take on Leadership housed in three capacities, Lead, Manage, Coach.  We often make the erroneous assumption that Leaders need to be omnipotent and be skilled in all three capacities. “Leaders are not perfect” and Myles loves that quote from Graham Alexander.  As an Author what motivated you to write? One of Myles greatest strengths is his ability to make intellectual distinctions that he can communicate.  Because Myles set up the school of Coaching he had to teach a lot and that motivated him to write too. Orian Publishing asked Myles to write a book and he felt he got “permission” to go ahead and write the book. Myles first book, a book on Coaching has been in publication since 1999.  What are the compelling messages you would like to share with the Listeners from your latest book?  Command & Control a model of Leadership that has been around for a long time does not work. Think engagement surveys, performance levels and a study that shared the 10 things people do not like about work. No. 10 was their manager.  Myles scanned the world to find what did work. The Military was one such place. Start-ups was the other place. In both there is an emerging practice that you could call an entrepreneurial mindset.  The US Army are exponents of what they call Mission Command. The thing they talk about most is Trust. 2 things prevail. People have to trust and they have to understand their mission. Entrepreneurial mindset is similar because everyone should know the primary objective of the new business.  Both places allowed for and encouraged people to be liberated to perform.  When Myles extrapolates these practices into his work he get to three doing words-nouns Lead-Manage-Coach.  Lead is about the Why. That is back to Mission Command-understanding the future direction and where the company is going.  Manage: describes the part a person will play in the game. Role, Goals, Projects, Tasks, Standards, Protocols etc.  Coach: once the person understands why something is important and their role in achieving it then you get into a conversation about “how” they might do it.  The authority shifts between the first two and the third. In the Coaching part the authority shifts to the person who is going to do the work. “Tell me how you are going to go about it?”  This shift in authority is one of the greatest difficulties for Leaders and managers alike. A lot of the time it is because they do not have the distinctions as described above.  The Leadership model moves from Command and Control to Align and Enable.  What inspired you Myles to encapsulate your model with the Noun Relate. A robust relationship based on trust will allow for these kinds of conversations to happen.  Relationships before results is a Mantra I use and Myles agrees it is so fundamental to work and for him before he does any team work he will indulge some time to build relations between members.  When people build relations and build trust they have the difficult conversations so quickly.  What eludes managers and leaders to apply these four nouns? A lack of understanding. So many companies try to build a coaching culture for example. Myles says “stop” stop right now. You do not want a coaching culture you want a performance culture. You have to be able to hold people to account.  Psycho Synthesis is a body of work built up by Roberto Assagioli in the last century. One of his ideas concerned Love and Will. There are two fundamental drives, one is love the other is will. Love is a feminine energy based on trust, based on nurturing, about letting things happen and is somewhat non-judgemental. Will is a more masculine energy, is founded in control, rigid and structured. Assagioli made the point that whilst love sounds like a good thing it has its shadow. If you are overly nurturing as a parent you rob the child of their opportunity to grow. Similarly Will might not seem appealing but if a child does not have boundaries that is not useful. Myles equates the love piece with Coaching and the good Will with managing and you have to have both.  Assagioli shared his idea that that any time you have two ideas, such as  Will and Love that naturally form a spectrum you need to get above both to see what is going on and for him that formed a tringle and the word he chose was Presence.  Presence, Will and Love underpin Myles model Lead, Manage and Coach. His model is underpinned by Relation.  Relationship and Intent or the fundamental understanding of intent allow for the application of Will and direct communication.  What does it take to be able to adeptly move between these domain, Lead, Manage and Coach? Myles answers by referring to some research that supported his book enabling genius. The research was looking at answer the question; Across those people who have displayed “Greatness” what did they have in common? The research unearthed a few things. 1. Identity was important- people understand who they are in a particular domain and how they uniquely express themselves. 2. Will was another and 3. Mindset was the third and 4. The importance of continuing to learn and grow Most people when given a new job to lead people are giving no training. In the UK 71% of people who are given responsibility for people are not given any training.  Most people when they get into a leadership position do not know who shows up. It's a potpourri of the things they have had done to them, the expectations of the company etch. Rarely it is about that persons own authority what comes from within.  Myles works with Leaders to help them understand who they are as leaders. Myles has developed over time a process that starts by asking a few set questions followed by a visualisation exercise and then a few more questions to pull the analysis together. Some of the questions sound like the following; As a Leader what are you great at? What do people come to you for?  What are you becoming? The visualisation exercise produces a symbol that represents a Leaders presence/essence and genius.  The exercise ends with the question what would you say is your unique identity as a Leader.  Mindset is not a given it is something that you unconsciously develop over time and knowing that you can start to develop it consciously over time.  Myles shares his own approach critical to informing his mindset. He uses six post cards that characterise his desired mindset. This is something you can create and guide your behaviour every day.  FTSOW (For The Sake of What) is this mindset important. You need to contextualise a mindset.  Somewhere in that mindset has to be other people and how you influence and lead other people & there also has to be something in there about how a leader maintains a clarity of context and a vision that is further than the crippling short termism that is so often evident.  To bring your book to life is there an example of a team you would be willing to share?   An example includes a case from a TV production company and Myles is quick to point out, not the BBC. One of his 1:1 clients, a C-Suite executive was determined to increase the performance of his unit. The work started with conversations with him as a leader and what that looked like and how he brought on and supported the performance of others. The leader formulated an idea that if he could up his own performance it would create a vacuum for his team to fill. As they moved through the work the leader appreciated he needed to improve his capacity to coach as did his leadership team.  Myles supported this leader and team through five workshops where they went through the domains of Lead, Manage and Coach. These were very practical workshops where Coaching was emphasised. On the fifth workshop Myles shared his workshop notes and together the team practiced the elements of the program to get the feel of the work. The team worked in pairs and delivered the content to their teams together, thereby learning from each other and with people.  The work proved to be transformational. The pairs were asked to have the work delivered across and down several layers of the organisation.  Unlike other Manager as Coach programs which often do not gain traction this one did by way of the commitment of the team, the clarity of the Leader about what needed to happen & unequivocal will to make it happen. The Leader was incredibly compassionate with his people & supported them to integrate the material in a digestible fashion.  Myles ended this podcast by sharing his wish for the future of work. Human beings should find ways to express in the world, a genuine, authentic expression of you, me, they in the world. Myles plays tennis not because he is competitive but because he loves expressing himself on a tennis court. Myles wishes that our workplaces should be places where people can express at least parts of themselves, fruitfully and joyously.  Resources shared across this podcast  Myles Downing is the author of ‘Effective Modern Coaching', ‘Effective Coaching' and ‘Enabling Genius – a mindset for success in the 21st Century'. He is also the author of The Enabling Manager, how to get the best out of your own team.  https://mylesdowney.com/ www.performanceconsultants.com    

Have you ever wished upon a star that you could pull back the curtain and get an inside look inside of Devoted Energy Coaching School?You've been drawn in by the incredible graduates who gush over their experience and the life long relationships they have forged through the fire.You've hovered over clicking the “YES I'M READY” button more times than you can count — or averted your gaze in case your fingers ran away with themselves and pushed the button all on their own!Well then it's time to buckle up, because on today's episode of the Devoted Way Podcast you are getting a sneak peek inside of the magical world of Devoted Energy Coaching School.Yes, you read that right.And this is not just any sneak peek, today you are welcomed into the fold of our very last class where Sora walks folks through the journey they have been on over the last 7 months. Which means that you get to see what truly awaits you inside the magical container of DECS.Alright divine one, it's time to jump on over to your fav platform and put in your headphones, you're not going to want to miss this.See you on the other side!Reflection Questions:What is your favorite part of the overarching journey that you witnessed inside of Devoted Energy Coaching School?What soul nudge is occurring within you — book a call, get on the waitlist, check out the website, run and hide even though you know that's the last thing that you truly want to do?What action will you take today to serve you in your own growth as a coach, healer, facilitator, teacher, instructor and spiritual being?Loving InvitationI'd love to know what resonated with you from today's episode, so go ahead and follow us on Instagram and drop a comment sharing your reflections. If you would love to deepen into the unknown and expand your skills as a life coach and healer, come take a beautiful 7 month journey inside of Devoted Energy Coaching School. Where you will remember that magic is real and help support your clients be their own healers. You can also subscribe to our newsletter where we provide you with additional support and guidance around energy coaching, spirituality, space holding, leadership and ceremonial gatherings that are unavailable anywhere else.Thank you for listening and I hope you listen to the next episode!Devoted Energy Coaching School: https://www.devotedway.com/devoted-energy-coaching-schoolSora Schilling IG: www.instagram.com/soraschillingDevoted Way IG: www.instagram.com/devotedway

John shares his coaching and athletic director journey and discusses a variety of relevant and hot topics in sports and coaching, particularly within public schools. These include: coach pay and certification, officials, challenges of athletic directors, club sports, and the structure of sports in school systems.

What to listen for:In today's episode, Stacy, Robin, and Crystal talk about overcoming imposter syndrome as a dog trainer, with a particular focus on what it means to “own” your training methodology.According to our hosts, a great trainer is able to package existing concepts into a cohesive framework that not only can be applied, but also adjusted on a dog-to-dog and team-to-team basis.Put another way, the lessons you teach as a trainer in 2023 are almost never wholly original, but what you own is the way you synthesize different ideas and the unique spin you put on them as you teach those lessons!Key Topics:Why dog trainers don't tend to look outside their discipline (05:25)Synthesizing training concepts to make them your own (10:42)Approaching dog training with curiosity (19:58)Why coaches should never ask their students “why” (24:01)From “soft” skills to “power” skills (29:14)Getting through to your dog (36:07)The line between making something your own and plagiarism as a trainer (41:36)What to do if you have no one to train with or learn from (49:32)Takeaways (53:34)Resources:K9 Detection Collaborative Jan 2023 Roundtable Zoom WebinarBullet Proof Skills for Both Ends of the Leash (Stacy's course mentioned in episode)Don't Feed the Elephants! (Book)We want to hear from you:Check out the K9 Detection Collaborative FB page and comment on the episode post!K9Sensus Foundation can be found on Facebook and Instagram. We have a Trainer's Group on Facebook!Scentsabilities Nosework is also on Facebook. Here is a Facebook group you should join!Crystal Wing K9 Coach can be found here!You can follow us for notifications of upcoming episodes, find us at k9detectioncollaborative.com to enjoy the freebies and tell your friends so you can keep the conversations going.Jingle by: www.mavericksings.com Instagram: @mavericktasticAudio editing & other podcast services by: www.thepodcastman.com Instagram: @the_podcast_man

Thank you. We are amazingly blessed to have you in our lives. Tim and Julie Harris, Real Estate Training and Coaching School (this podcast) continues to rock the podcast charts because of YOU!  Today's show is all about you, our coaching clients, podcast listeners, and YouTube subscribers. This podcast has become one of the, if not the #1 podcast for Realtors (and other real estate professionals) in the United States. Incredible results...this show has MILLIONS of downloads and listens every month. Keep in mind there are 1.6 million REALTORS in the US...and MILLIONS choose to download and listen to this show daily. Ready for a really amazing number...this show has had over 20,000,000 downloads... Here is the list of the top 10 countries in terms of downloads (and listens).  United States  95% Canada  3% France  0% United Kingdom  0% Slovakia  0% New Zealand  0% Israel  0% Australia  0% Uganda  0%   Hi you two, My name is Charles and I am a new (8 months in) Realtor in Philadelphia, PA area. I am grateful to have met you when I did even though I spent stupid money on buyer leads. UGH! You don't know what you don't know. I started my premiere coaching and will be talking to my wife tonight to see about the further investment into our future as a Realtor with your help. I have a full-time job, so working my business at night and on the weekends primarily as I am still in pursuit of my first sale or rental.  I just wanted to say hi and thank you for your honest straight talk. I am sold on expired and FSBOs!!!  I just need those contacts and scripts. Lol! Thanks for the resources too. All the best, Charles Foy III Follow up... told my wife last night I wish I met you all before I took the test so that when I got my license (took the exam once ) I would have gone straight into being coached by Tim and Julie Harris Coaching. I would have not followed everyone else thinking that marketing and branding were important to me as a new Realtor. I would have saved so much money and time. At this point, I would have broken my $1M GCI goal by now too. LOL! I did have a question. How do I sell a home that didn't get sold, that expired? Expired and FSBO will be my first two spokes followed by SOI. ****** I have learned an enormous amount from this book and your podcasts, and also the premier coaching program. I've learned so much about business, life, financials, etc and it's really made a big difference. so thank you for all the work that you have done putting everything together and providing a tremendous amount of value to so many people. I notice I've made better life and investment decisions, and I have even started to say some of the same stuff y'all would. Thanks! Without y'all, I would have been a very lost and sad agent ******** Courtney Tschanz Harris Rules, the podcast, and the accountability from my Harris coach helped me sell 3 million in my first 6 months in real estate, in a market, I wasn't from, and it continues to give. I wouldn't be where I am I don't believe without the help. I had a license to get sued and nothing else  Thank you for showing the way and helping me achieve my multi-million dollar goals every year! Congratulations to you! You deserve 5 stars! LIKE and SUBSCRIBE AND PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT: https://bit.ly/3NXGxNb FREE REAL ESTATE SALES TRAINING AND COACHING: Enroll NOW, FREE Real Estate Coaching and Training: https://bit.ly/3aUimkh

This week I'm bringing you a special conversation with one of my favorite people in the world, certified life coach Lisa Hatlestad. We're talking all about something exciting that will be happening in Spring 2023: The Sexual Intimacy Coaching School – what?! It's time to end the generational impact around the roles of women and sex, so join us this week and find out why we decided to create this program, some important factors about it, and some of the exciting things you can expect from it.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://soniawrightmd.com/112

In today's episode, I will be talking about three things I've learned so far in health coaching school.Instagram: Kendall.herdInterested in working with me? Email is herdkendall1@gmail.com

Today's episode welcomes Alli Worthington, a bestselling author, nationally-known speaker, business coach, and mom of five (yes five!) boys, to the show. Get ready to be inspired as Alli shares her story of losing it all financially in 2008 and how God led her to build it back up creatively. She has taken the lessons she has learned along the way and is now coaching others who long to reach their potential dreams. This episode is chock full of amazing stories in Alli's life and tucked within each story are practical nuggets for anyone looking to launch a new chapter in their lives. Alli speaks from the heart as she wrestled with what to do after her financial crash, her surprising journey with social media, and how being an introvert didn't stop her from stepping into something new. Other great takeaways you can expect are: How to know if God is leading or you are forcing something to happen Who you should tell your dreams to and why How to overcome the fear of being prideful or selfish in your pursuits This is a conversation you don't want to miss, and when it is over you just might redefine your definition of success! To find out more about Alli, check out her website, listen to her on the Alli Worthington Show, sign up for her Coaching School or join her (and Lindsay!) in Called Creatives

Join my chat with Stasha, founder of the Period Coaching School, as we talk about debilitating period pain, realizing that people didn't want to hear about her periods and her winding path to endometriosis "remission" and becoming a menstrual coach.Links to Stasha's work and some research resources mentioned are at the bottom of the page.  Topics covered:- a very dramatic menarche- living with endometriosis, without health insurance or a proper diagnosis- period pain as a professional dancer- learning to live and work in flow-  new research on endometriosis diagnosis and management- eating for pain management- coaching menstruating clients- founding the Period Coaching SchoolSubscribe for new episodes each full moon!If you like what you hear, leave a rating or review on Apple Podcast or wherever you get your podcasts so others can find us and have a chance to listen!Considering a menstrual cup? Check out Lunette (https://store.lunette.com/?rfsn=4709896.1507ef)Reach out: dreamspring.life@gmail.comStasha's work:Free mandala Overview of the Period Coaching SchoolResources:Research on endometriosis and cannabis Article on saliva biomarkers for endometriosis

Thanks for joining on our second epiode of Women Talking Football! On today's show, hear from Thomas Jones, the community sports reporter at the Austin-American Statesman. In the backhalf, let's break down the Austin Region.

The Republic of Football is back from the THSCA Coaching Convention and we recap it all. Plus, we spoke to Texas head coach Steve Sarkisian and Texas Tech head coach Joey McGuire at Big 12 Media Days.

Conor McCarthy is the host of the First 10 Podcast, where he interviews business builders on their first 10 customers, sparking valuable conversations about how fledgling businesses grow their first roots.By inviting me onto the podcast, Conor offered me the chance to reflect on how my coaching practice began and how it evolved as a business, from my very first tentative steps through to where I am today.In the interview I talk about my own false starts and training pathways, and describe the mountain of resistance I had to overcome in order to make connections with the world as a new coach.Conor is an expert in exploring the subject of how freelancers, bootstrappers and founders start to grow their businesses, and he helped me to retrace my steps while coaxing out key insights from my journey into coaching.In this episode, we talk about:How to find your first clients by borrowing successful pitches from othersEarning trust with a wider audienceExperimenting with coaching formats in a low-risk wayFeeling resistance and using it as a signpost for your next stepsHow to use honesty to plant seeds for the long termWe also talk about pricing and what it means to get comfortable talking about money.For more information about Conor, visit https://www.conormccarthy.me/ and to hear other episodes of the First 10 Podcast visit https://www.conormccarthy.me/podcastFor information about my wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswale.com, and to buy my book, click here.Join the WBECS Free Pre-Summit: https://share.coaching.com/6d3qN2Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/communityThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- The Interview Valet Top 20 Great Podcasts for Coaches (including this show!): https://interviewvalet.com/20-great-podcasts-for-coaches/ - Akimbo https://www.akimbo.com/- Phil Bolton, co-founder of The Coaching School https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-2-phil-bolton-from-forensic-accountant-to-the-go-to-career-coach-in-london-and-on-to-work-with-ceos-mds-and-founders - The War of Art by Steven Pressfield https://stevenpressfield.com/books/the-war-of-art/- Coaches Rising https://www.coachesrising.com/- Carolyn Freyer-Jones https://carolynfreyerjones.com/- The initial Facebook post I shared about coaching. https://thecoachsjourney.com/s/Initial-Facebook-Post-About-Coaching-Robbie-Swale.jpg

Moving into coaching was something I had on the books to launch many, many years down the road. I am so glad I moved into it sooner.In this episode I want you to consider why starting 1-on-1 coaching, or taking small groups through a coaching session together, may be the right model for you. This can be an addition to your entrepreneurial pursuits, or a 1-off you do to share your knowledge and expertise in a specific field. Tune in. Leave a rating or review. Start coaching, today.RESOURCE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE;Kris Pavone's Coaching School of Client CreationLet's connect!Send me an email and let's find the right side-hustle for you to get started on!Join my mailing list for more content delivered directly to your inbox!Join me on clubhouse! @johnnyboy_Let's connect! I'd love to hear from you.Subscribe on YouTube, join my mailing list, or send me an email!

Having achieved success running a popular clubnight in London and living his life by "trusting serendipity", Mike Toller wondered whether he could make more of a difference in people's lives. That thought was the beginning of his journey to becoming a professional coach and a psychodynamic psychotherapist.The world of coaching opened up to him through conversations with Phil Bolton, who trained both Mike and I at the very start of our coaching careers, and through some remarkable discussions with his flying instructor that Mike talks about in this episode.Our journeys have remained intertwined ever since, and recently we have been working together to train new coaches for a consultancy called Curve, who are doing amazing work in the world.That experience has given us the opportunity to refocus on the essence of our coaching practices, and in this episode we explore what we have learned and shared, both together and separately, over the course of an enduring friendship and a hugely productive working relationship.In this episode, we talk about:Using physical space symbolically to shift perspectives in coaching sessionsMike's role in the world's only indie air guitar bandGetting back to the fundamentals of coaching and how, as coaches, we can model healthy relationshipsThe vital importance of intentionality and how to create it in coaching relationshipsWhat happens when we make coaching sessions an embodied experienceMike is also a practising psychodynamic psychotherapist, and he offers valuable insight into both worlds, comparing and contrasting them from his unique vantage point.For more information about Mike, visit https://www.michaeltollercoaching.co.uk/ or email him at michaeltollercoaching@gmail.com.For information about Robbie's wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswale.com. Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/communityThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- Phil Bolton http://www.phil-bolton.com/ - Vegard Olsen https://coachingpartner.net/cp/en/ - Introduction to Counselling at Birkbeck https://www.bbk.ac.uk/study/2021/short-courses/modules/SSPA/SSPA116N0/ - What a Girl Wants https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0286788/ - Feeling Gloomy https://feelinggloomy.com/ - Club de Fromage https://clubdefromage.com/ - The Coaching School https://www.michaeltollercoaching.co.uk/training- Episode #2 with Phil Bolton https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-2-phil-bolton-from-forensic-accountant-to-the-go-to-career-coach-in-london-and-on-to-work-with-ceos-mds-and-founders - Curve https://www.curve.cc/ - Episode #15 with Toku McCree https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-15-toku-mccree-sales-with-honour-and-love-on-the-end-of-a-sword - Kim Morgan and Barefoot Coaching https://www.barefootcoaching.co.uk/about-us/kim-morgan - Robert Stephenson https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-27-robert-stephenson-animas-how-to-say-yes-and-become-a-conduit-for-change - Animas https://www.animascoaching.com/creating-space/ - Closer Apart, the book on designing and facilitating workshops by Curve https://www.closerapartbook.com/ - The interview with Inga Umblija from Curve and Phil Bolton about their work on abundance https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-28-inga-umblija-phil-bolton-abundance-formula - John Monks https://www.thnk.org/community/people/john-monks/ - Katie Harvey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/coaching-during-coronavirus-katie-harvey

Helpful Honda Mailbag Friday with Matt Stepp, the DCTF crew's vlog from coaching school, and more

Over the past 18 months, Mackey and the 2Words team have been asking students athletes about their experience with mental health, racial injustice, COVID frustrations, and the pressures facing teens today. In this THSCA Coaching School Session, Mackey speaks on 5 Things Kids Wish Adults Knew (But Are Too Afraid Say). Key Takeaways: - How to remove the stigma of failure by defining what it means to fail on your team. - How to create space for your team members to be honest about mental health. - How to build positive leaders who can handle the pressures of leadership. To learn more about the 2Words Character Development Curriculum, please email Colton at colton@2words.tv or visit our website at www.2words.tv/gameplan      

Over the past 18 months, Mackey and the 2Words team have been asking students athletes from across the state of Texas about their experience with mental health, racial injustice, COVID frustrations, and the pressures facing teens today. In this THSCA Coaching School Session, Mackey speaks on 5 Things Kids Wish Adults Knew (But Are Too Afraid Say). Key Takeaways: - How to remove the stigma of failure by defining what it means to fail on your team. - How to create space for your team members to be honest about mental health. - How to build positive leaders who can handle the pressures of leadership. Download the slides here: https://www.2words.tv/coachingschool/ To learn more about the 2Words Character Development Curriculum, please email Colton at colton@2words.tv or visit our website at www.2words.tv/gameplan

If you're going to be a coaching student, you need to know the difference between being a practical working business coach and somebody who simply studies coaching. What does it take to be the former? Today, I address this question by sharing the recording of my commencement address to the first cohort of graduates of the Book Yourself Solid® Associate Training Program. I talk about the pros and cons of being self-employed, and I talk about how personal problems can sneak into your business. I talk about how you can get around this problem to everyone's advantage, and I note that you are not your business. I discuss the importance of taking responsibility for your actions--whether successes or failures-- and I note the importance of (and the relationship between) sales and marketing. I share the analogy of the marketing tree, and I note that Book Yourself Solid® isn't just a program; it's a way of life. “The good news is, when you're self-employed, the buck stops with you. Of course, the bad news is, when you're a self-employed coach, the buck stops with you.” - Matthew Kimberley This week on the Book Yourself Solid® Marketing For Coaches Podcast: The correlation between responsibility and reward Why you are not your business Why you should hold your performance in a role to the same standard as you'd hold anyone else's performance in that role Why you should be prioritizing sales The marketing tree Mentioned Resources: The Book Yourself Solid® Associate Training Program Five Things You Need To Do Every Morning To Get More Clients In 60 Days  Get More Clients in 60 Days! Did you know there are five simple things you can do each morning that can help you get more client inquiries, book yourself solid, and skyrocket your bottom line? My free e-book: Five Things You Need To Do Every Morning To Get You More Clients In 60 Days walks you through 5 easy, straight-forward, and effective marketing strategies that I recommend to every coach. These five simple techniques will almost guarantee you achieve increased impact, opportunity, and prospect flow. So, if you're ready to get more clients, reduce stress, and increase your bottom line, claim your free copy of the Five Things You Need To Do Every Morning To Get You More Clients in 60 Days by visiting my website. Get More Leads, Prospects & Clients Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Book Yourself Solid's Marketing for Coaches podcast, the show that talks about marketing...for coaches. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to the show and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | Spotify | Stitcher | iHeartRadio | GooglePlay Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more coaches, like you. Join the Book Yourself Solid Facebook Group, follow me on Instagram and LinkedIn. And for more exclusive content and great freebies, visit my website.

I was really reluctant to have today’s guest on Mixergy because at first it seemed outside of our scope. Nick Bolton is the founder of Animas, a school for life coaches. What I discovered after looking deeper into his story is that he encountered many challenges that we all face in our businesses. Nick Bolton is the founder of Animas, a school for life coaches. Sponsored byMemberful – Memberful is membership software for independent creators, publishers, educators, podcasters, and more. You can create any kind of subscription plan, optimized your checkout and easily manage members. Memberful works with your existing technology so you retain full control and can stay focused on building your business, rather than re-building your technology from scratch. HostGator – Ready to take your website to the next level? Whether you're a first-time blogger or an experienced web pro, HostGator has all the tools you need to create a great-looking website or online store. A wide range of options includes cloud-based web hosting, reseller hosting, VPS hosting and dedicated servers. Founded in 2002, HostGator is the perfect web partner for business owners and individuals seeking hands-on support. Visit www.hostgator.com/mixergy to see what HostGator can do for your website. More interviews -> https://mixergy.com/moreint Rate this interview -> https://mixergy.com/rateint

Hey Everyone,For the second time on the show we welcome back a previous guest. Due to the rich and diverse conversation we had with this guest the first time round, we thought it only right to invite   today's guest back for another episode. It's our pleasure to welcome Adams' former coach Robbie Swale.Just in case you haven't listened to episode 14, here's a recap of who Robbie is. Robbie trained as a coach with The Coaching School in London and later with many other masters who support people to fulfil their potential. Robbie has provided coaching, training and facilitation for: Swiss Re, The University of Edinburgh, BetterUp (and through them many of the most forward-thinking companies in the world) and King's College London. Robbie predominantly works one-on-one with leaders and entrepreneurs who are grappling with the complexity of the modern world.In this episode we talk about,Robbies journey to creating his 12 minute writing practice and the importance this has played in his confidenceThe importance of creating some sort of creative practice no matter how big or small, and the connection this has to confidenceWe discuss the magic all humans have to create something from nothingThe fragility of confidence, and for Robbie his fragility to speak and share more of himself with the worldHow Robbie based his decision to share his writing initially on LinkedIn, as at the time he believed it wasn't a platform many people usedWe discuss that humans are writing more than ever, with email, texts, instant messages and therefore it's not necessarily a writing practice that's the problem for people wanting share their work or more of themselvesRobbie shares the challenges he often has around feeling sad and fragile in a morning and the routine he's created to improve his state before engaging with the wider world We discuss what Robbie refers to as the “vulnerability hangover” and what lies after the hangover subsidesThe topic of COVID enters the conversation, and how our perception of confidence in a safe vaccine is developed through trust in things most of us know nothing aboutAs we come to the end of the conversation Robbie shares the idea of re committing, and the power re committing has for many areas of our livesAnother wonderful conversation full of feeling and vulnerability. Robbie is clearly a deep thinker and has found a real gift for sharing his thoughts through a cathartic writing practice. There's a number of principles and ideas which Robbie has created which can be picked up and shaped for various areas of life, not least developing confidence even when there's a sense of fragility. In order to support our community further we have recently created the Two Coach Confidence Facebook Group. Feel free to come and join the group using the link below.Two Coach Confidence CrewLinks from the episodeBook - The Happiness Hypothesis - https://amzn.to/3saXOXvFor more information on Robbie visit,www.robbieswalecoaching.com Robbie's podcast, The Coach's Journey, can be found here www.thecoachsjourney.comFor more information about Kerry's work visit,Website: https://www.kerryhearsey.com   For more information about Adams work visit,Website: My Coach For Life | Life beyond limits

We're going to be chatting with Karen Beattie today, from "The Growth Faculty". We're going to be talking about what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur to not survive, but THRIVE. We touch on our challenges that we've faced in business and the episode touches on how we faced the challenges! CONNECT WITH SHARON Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Institute :https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/

Pulling a well-thumbed diary from her bag, Sharon Pearson’s dream book is her to go for planning out her goals for 2021. And not just in business. Sharon, who founded The Coaching Institute in 2004 and has seen used this strategy grow into a multi-million dollar global brand, also sets personal goals every year, 90 days, week, and day. She has a dream and an innovations book that details the steps to achieve every goal. Sharon swears by this strategy as she shares with Matt Lavars in the #Perspectives room her theme, purpose, and goals for 2021 and her strategy to achieve them. Curious to know more? Tune in and listen to Your Best Year Yet: Part II Click here to claim your Goal Setting Bundle (Valued at $597) https://tci.rocks/goal-setting-2021 CONNECT WITH SHARON Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Institute :https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/

Did you know that 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by the second week of February? Join us along in the first episode of #Perspectives with Sharon Pearson and Matt Lavars, head trainer at The Coaching Institute as they talk about the most effective strategies of goal -setting, why new year’s resolutions don’t work and unveil technique used by the top 1% of individuals worldwide. Click here to claim your Goal Setting Bundle (Valued at $597) https://www.globalsuccessinstitute.com/achieve-your-goals

Three months after her second live coaching session with Sharon Pearson for #Perspectives podcast ‘Mother Load Part II’—and six months after her first session—Sydney corporate recruiter and life coach Sasha Dumaresq returns for a third session and follow-up episode. Rather than exploring strategies and frameworks around parenting, Sharon calls this third ‘Mother Load’ a “deep dive into the beingness of our humanity.” As Sharon says, the first two sessions were quite detailed around external things “whereas this one really went to what I believe is the heart of coaching, which is the inner journey where we coach to self. If you are a coach, you will see a lot of reframes in this coaching session … but what I think the heart of this session is really about that lit me up was what Sasha claimed back for herself or what was the gift that she was waiting to give herself.” CONNECT WITH SHARON Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-coaching-institute/ Institute :https://www.instagram.com/thecoachinginstitute/

Melbourne’s Blair James is the co-founder of the world’s top selling self-tanning brand Bondi Sands, which turned over more than $100 million in 2019, sells into around 30,000 stores around the globe and is taking a new direction with a “world first” range launching in early 2021. While that proves Blair’s drive and business nous, the other part of his personal story is his resilience and determination. As a child, Blair—whose first entrepreneurial gambit came when he was seven and sold jars of Vegemite and peanut butter in the UK— endured periods of poverty that saw his family lose their home before the deaths of his mother Irene and father Raymond by the time he was 23. “I’m still thinking about it on a daily basis,” says Blair, who gained the kernel of the idea for Bondi Sands from his former tanning salon business. As he tells Sharon Pearson in new Perspectives episode ‘Golden Boy’, Blair puts his vision down to something his dad told him: “You can do anything you want.”

Former lawyer Sophie Deen is the founder of kids’ media company Bright Little Labs, which makes cartoons, books, games and interactive experiences for kids 3+. Their mission? To prepare kids for the future. Their original content teaches kids 21st century skills like computer science, spotting fake news—and the power of a good emoji. “It’s about giving kids 21st century skills and showing them inspiring role models,” says Sophie. Her best-known creation is Agent Asha, an 11-year-old English girl of Indian heritage, who is a talented spy expert in coding and STEM (science, technology, engineering maths) skills. In Perspectives podcast ‘Agent of change’, Sophie and Sharon Pearson talks female protagonists, storytelling as an agent of global change and how and why to get kids of both sexes involved in STEM subjects: “It’s such a big part of our society. It's our medicine, it's technology, it's engineering. It's the world that we live in.”

Hey Everyone,In today's episode we have the pleasure of being joined by Adam's former coach, fellow podcaster and soon to be published author, Robbie Swale. Robbie trained as a coach with The Coaching School in London and later with many other masters of supporting people to fulfil their potential. Robbie has provided coaching, training and facilitation for, among others: Swiss Re, The University of Edinburgh, BetterUp, and King's College London. Robbie predominantly works one-on-one with leaders and entrepreneurs who are grappling with the complexity of the modern world. In this episode, we talk about,How Robbie considers himself to be a bit of an introvert and someone who has always been considered quite a shy person.Robbie shares his thoughts on his current relationship with confidence and how he chooses NOT to think about it as something to worry about.We open up a conversation about what the opposite of confidence is, and why that's an important question to understand.Robbie talks about the concept of resistance, and how everyone suffers from it at some point in their lives.Robbie shares his belief that there's a process to confidence, a number of steps that include, inspiration, courage, and vulnerability.We discuss how using things you're already good at can support the growth of confidence.Robbie talks about the POWER of the stories we tell ourselves and how they can impact our ability to be confident.Robbie shares one of his favourite rules for life in general taken from the book, The Art of Possibility.We discuss how the creative process, basically creating something from nothing, can be a huge developer of confidence.As we move towards the end of the conversation Robbie talks about how he has had to work out how to enjoy parties as an introvert by becoming more curious.Robbie has a wonderful desire to share and explore his own thinking throughout this episode. As we're sure you will agree there is a depth to Robbies thinking which will hopefully prompt you to look a little deeper into yourself and how you think about confidence. As always we finish by asking our guest what you can do to improve your own relationship with confidence. Links from the episodeBook Bounce by Matthew Syed - https://amzn.to/31OXUd3Book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell - https://amzn.to/3dYHh3BBook The Icarus Deception by Seth Godin - https://amzn.to/35C13xXBook The War of Art by Steven Pressfield - https://amzn.to/2G8DhRCBook The Art of Possibility by Benjamin Zander & Rosamund Stone - https://amzn.to/2HBdp19Video - How to always increase your confidence by Dan Sullivan - https://youtu.be/wBlJ5HbFpYQFor more of Robbie's work visit , www.robbieswalecoaching.com Robbie's podcast, The Coach's Journey can be found here www.thecoachsjourney.comFor more information about Kerry's work visit,Website: https://www.kerryhearsey.com   For more information about Adams work visit,Website: My Coach For Life | Life beyond limits

By the time we turn 60, most of us will still have one third of our lives to live. How well we do these years will depend on our health. Are we agile and disease free, or dependent on medication and help? In her first book Staying Alive, Melbourne specialist geriatrician Dr Kate Gregorevic outlines lifestyle-enhancing strategies—from nutrition and exercise to cognitive and emotional health—for you to live happier, healthier and longer. In #Perspectives podcast ‘Staying Alive’ the mother-of-three tells Sharon Pears about telomeres, sleep and ‘good’ genes, and shares her day-to-day strategies around how to age in the best ways possible: “It’s not so much saying to someone, ‘Do your exercise,” says Dr Kate. “Everyone knows exercise is good for them. It's saying, ‘What's important to you?’ Asking what's going to add value to each of them. And I can't prescribe that.”

Sharon Pearson first met behavioural mindset expert John Assaraf around ten years ago, when she “cornered’ him at one of his events and invited him to lunch. As she recalls it in 2020, “you were curious and open. That’s one of the things I fell in love with about you, wanting to brainstorm about how do we make it bigger and better.” A decade on and in vastly different circumstances, Sharon and John brainstorm again on Perspectives podcast ‘The question that changed my life’. John talks how he went from a high school dropout to building five multi-million dollar companies and what success looks like today. For him, it’s his strong marriage to wife Maria, their two boys, and mental, emotional, physical and spiritual good health. The conversation ranges from both losing a parent during COVID to business strategies, generosity, neural networks, interest vs commitment and authenticity. John says a mentor told him to give as much as he can to help other people: “I seek to be a go getter but also a go giver. I’ve discovered I can’t outgive the universe.”

Juggling three kids, a high-profile media career and a marriage (to Geelong’s two-time AFL premiership captain Tom Harley), Felicity Harley found keeping up a veneer of perfection hard work. And she didn’t want to do. It. Conversations with friends at the school gate, with celebrities and with her barista led Felicity to wonder about the overwhelm most women seemed to experience, and what was behind it. Inspired, she cranked out her first book (in three months!), Balance and Other BS: How to hold it together when you’re having (doing) it all. The former editor of Women’s Health talks to Sharon Pearson in #Perspectives podcast ‘Done is better than perfect’ about how she got a new handle on life with small techniques (a daily gratitude) and mindset shifts: “It comes back to perfectionism,” Felicity tells Sharon. “Now I’m a lot about getting things done or saying no. I always used to strive personally, I have to do the best work on this story, build the best Lego house, run the fastest. Now it’s 80 per cent. As long as I get my ass to that gym—it doesn’t have the to be the best workout session ever, but I got there.”

Two years ago, social researcher Rebecca Huntley, author of How To Talk About Climate Change in a Way That Makes a Difference, pledged to dedicate the rest of her personal and professional life to the climate change cause because of her three young children. “I spend years getting them to brush their teeth and learn to swim and do their times tables,” she says. “I realised I have a responsibility as a parent to do everything I can to ensure there is an actual viable world for these children with good teeth, who can swim and know how to do their times tables.” She acknowledges in the #Perspectives podcast ‘Red Alert’ or ‘Hot Button Topic’ that the environmental movement has a serious PR problem. She tells Sharon Pearson about the imperatives facing our planet, why she’s excited about renewable energy, the surprising group of Australians who are most disengaged from the issue of climate change and what we can do as individuals and a society to put the brakes on.

In her thirties, high-flying corporate lawyer Kate Christie found herself with three children under three, a barrister husband who took just two days ever off work when the kids were sick, and conflicting feelings about her personal and professional priorities: “It would be easy for me to say ‘my bloody ex-husband never helped out’ but that’s not quite true. I was the one who wanted to stay home when the kids were sick.” Now 50, Kate is a single mum to three teenagers, has given up law (“I hated it”) to run her own successful business and is an author of four books for professional women and executives looking to overhaul chaotic lives. Her latest, Me First: The Guilt-free Guide to Prioritising You, has attracted interest in the US with its promise that you don’t have to do it all to have it all. In Perspectives episode ‘Your Time Starts … Now’ Kate discusses with Sharon Pearson the modern pressures that caused her marriage to crumble and the strategies she’s taught to businesses including L’Oreal, Westpac, Deloitte and the Department of the Prime Minister and Cabinet to find 30 extra hours a month as ‘me’ time. “I turned 50 this year and it is a very reflective time and it’s about saying, ‘Don’t compromise too much, this is ‘me first’. I have the confidence now. If you’re 20 or 30 or 40, I want women to have that level of confidence I have now.” She says. “Regardless of what age you are, don’t always put everyone first, put yourself first, be the best person you can be and live this amazing life right now.”

Every week, someone on Twitter gets to be the person everyone else piles on, the person who is universally hunted by the social media warriors in the cheap seats. In May 2019, it was award-winning US author Natasha Tynes’ turn to face cancel culture. The mother-of-three was traveling by train to her Washington communications job. When she saw a transit employee eating on the train—illegal in Washington—she snapped a photo and posted a tweet calling out the woman. In the 49 minutes the tweet was up, former journalist Natasha’s life blew up forever. She was denounced as a “petty and spiteful” racist, lost a book deal and had a breakdown which saw her flee the country: “I grew up in the Middle East and lived through two Gulf Wars but this was the most difficult thing I ever went through and it scarred me forever. I think about it every single day. If I could take this back I would.” More than a year on and still receiving hate mail, ‘They Called Me Wyatt’ writer Natasha shares her cautionary tale about the world of online rage, mistakes and second chances with Sharon Pearson in Perspectives episode ‘The Tweet I Wish I Could Take Back’: “The fact I’m back on social media shows I’m still the same person and I made a mistake but I’m going to continue being who I am. Yes, you crushed me but I’m still alive.”

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Three years ago, Channel Seven Brisbane newsreader Katrina Blowers was on set, ready to read the live Sunday night news bulletin. As the autocue rolled on the first story, Katrina had her first-ever panic attack. Without a co-host, she had to stay on—terrified, struggling to speak—in front of half a million people for the next hour: “I had a shortness of breath, my chest felt incredibly tight, I couldn’t talk properly.” Katrina tells Sharon Pearson about how the experience and subsequent panic attacks nearly saw her leave the beloved job she’d worked towards since she was seven before she used science and therapy to rebuild her life including new business, Claiming Your Confidence. “The thing about confidence is that up until that point I had thought it was my superpower. I just took it for granted, so to have this fundamental knock to my confidence and have to learn it all over again … now I’m getting to teach other women what I’ve learned which is great.”

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Leanne Woehlke  Well, I am thrilled to have Dave Buck here who is the head of Coachville, which is a fantastic coaching school with us. Today, Dave Buck  Oh, yeah, Leanne Woehlke  yeah. Well, you just talk to us a little bit about Dave Buck  Hi, everybody, first of all, great to have you here ready to play? Mm hmm. Leanne Woehlke  Do you tell us you've been in this coaching industry for so long? Dave Buck  Yes. True story! Leanne Woehlke  Can you talk a little bit about how you got into coaching? Dave Buck  Of course, that's a, I'll give you the short version because that's a very interesting and long story. That's super fun. But the basic, the basic gist of it is in my 20s I was this rock and roll entrepreneur, great business going and I really got into personal growth, okay. And I was like going all the seminars, reading all the books, I was big at lamb bark, alright, like landmark education, which probably a lot of your listeners know about. I was doing all the classes programs there. And then I had a life incident. Okay, which I which, which one of those incidents? We'll talk about that a little bit more later, but I had this big life incident happen more like, everything just went wrong. Business started floundering marriage fell apart, lost the house. Only thing I was left with after this major debacle was me and my car. Okay, so I basically lived in my car for a year. So when I was living in my car, I was really hanging out at the New Age bookstore all the time, because it was warm in there. And I was totally into this stuff. And I started doing all this visualization. But what happened was this is the clincher was when I was I was doing all these programs at Landmark and Landmark Education was really the first place that talked about coaching from a life perspective. Okay, that was a big innovation that was happening around the Landmark world. So they had this deal where if you had done a program and you wanted to do it again, you could do it for free if you were a coach. So I had no money because I was living in my car and I was homeless. So I was like, I can do all the programs again for free by coaching. I'm like, yeah, I'm totally in. So that's how it all started. I started coaching all these landmark programs. And then Thomas Leonard, who worked at Landmark for Warner Earhart, he left Landmark as an employee and got the bright idea, hey, this coaching thing can be a profession. Right? So he left Landmark started the life coaching profession. I heard about it from a friend at Landmark. I didn't know Thomas at the time yet, but a friend of mine through Landmark said hey, Dave, life coaching is a profession now you can totally get certified. I was like what? That is all me. This is like in the 90s. And so it was like from I'm living in my car to coaching because I could take the classes for free to becoming a professional life coach that happened in the 90s. And then I met Thomas Leonard and I became best friends. That was a whole long, crazy story. But that's basically how it is. It's like, life sometimes gets these takes these crazy curves. And then you find yourself in just the perfect place at the perfect time. Like not by you know, wasn't my own doing. It was like, other than my own doing of, you know, crashing my first business, but I could take responsibility for that. It's called not marketing, but that's a whole. That's a whole different story. But yeah, so that's how I got into life coaching. So in 1997, I was one of the first life coaches. And since I had been in business since I was like 12 years old, doing a whole different kinds of businesses, the business part actually came pretty easy to me. So what happened? There was, I was one of the very first life coaches to create a multiple six figure income just on the phone talking to people sitting by the lake talking on the phone to people, and you know, having a six figure business. So there were other life coaches that were starting to get into that six figure realm, but most of them were doing their big money in corporate. I was actually a personal life coach, making six figures and I was one of the first ones in the world. So that's kind of how it all that's the that's the shortish version of the story. Leanne Woehlke  It's I have to ask what was your first business when you were 12? Dave Buck  My first business when I was 12, was cutting grass. And then, then I moved on to delivering newspapers, babysitting for kids, cleaning houses, just like everything. I was like young entrepreneur around Downtown. That was pretty much me. Leanne Woehlke  I love it. I'm noticing that there's, like this entrepreneurial gene almost, is inbred in people. And it It helps them. Yeah. It helps them just figure things out. It's almost as I call it, like a scrappiness. Dave Buck  Yeah. It is a scrappiness. It's true. It's true. But you know, what, a big thing for me just in terms of the whole business thing that that we were talking about was I, I slammed headfirst into this wall of fear. And I didn't know it at the time, that you know, this is in my late 20s, when my computer software business, which was going really great just slammed in, you know, slammed into a wall. And the thing was, I had built all of my businesses on referrals. So it was all personal relationship marketing. And then my computer software company got to a point where like, the referrals weren't really coming anymore. I was going to have to start doing more marketing, like traditional marketing, like getting out and doing things in the world to get business. And I just couldn't do it. I just could not at that time, I just slammed into this wall of fear, which I've since, you know, figure it out, but, and then it got into once I got into the coaching, I started slamming into that same wall of fear, but this time I had a coach. So made a big difference. And then I figured out what this big wall of fear was all about. And then from there. My business really has flown since then, with lots of, you know, bumps along the road. I don't want to see you know, hasn't been smooth sailing all the way for sure, because life's not like that. But I was able to figure out what the big wall of fear was and then play with it and move and move on. Leanne Woehlke  Now that's so interesting, because what I know about you and even going through the CoachVille program, I think one of the The the methodologies that you have is your inner freedom method. Dave Buck  Yes. Leanne Woehlke  So was that born out of your own experience? Totally. Dave Buck  Let's just say yes. Yeah. Because I haven't been in the personal growth field for so long. And, and then coaching people the basic methodology of around fear, what I was, you know, when early in the field of coaching and and personal growth was what just get over it. Just get over it. Like just do it. Like just do it just get over it, pout, you know, don't you know, crush your fear. And what I found out was that's just a terrible method. Like it just doesn't work for most people, like a very few people can overcome fear with the just get over it. approach. And even then, those people who can when you're younger, when you get a little older, it doesn't work anymore. Like you just can't get over it, because it's deeper and it's more at a non conscious level. And it's, it's, it's tricky. So that's where the inner freedom method came from from it came from my own experience and then also coaching. So many, you know, hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people who are slamming headfirst into fear and then saying, well just get over it, I would cheerlead the crap out of them. And it just didn't work most of the time. So I started looking for answers. And that's how the inner freedom method was born. And it's a it's a it's really a deep, it's a deep coaching.  The inner freedom method is this deep way of exploring what's happening to you within you at a non conscious level and it's exploring the body and exploring your relationship also, with supermind, which is this human potential energy field that we're all connected to? And if you start if you learn how to read what's happening in your body and what's happening around you, you can start connecting the dots and figure out what is this fear about. And that was the big turning point was, instead of trying to fight fear, overcome fear. You look at your fear as your friend. And you realize that and what I realized in coaching so many people was almost any fear that a human being has is a social fear. There's not many physical fears, like there's no Tigers chasing us, you know, in the woods, so it's related to other humans is that so it's a social fear in some way. And all social fear is learned. And the thing we learn to fear the most is our own unique power. Because that's where we get we we get in trouble. early in life just by playing and being ourselves, and then trouble happens, and then you learn Oh crap, either consciously or mostly non consciously. Whenever I do this thing I do, people don't like it so I'm going to stop doing that. And gradually over time your unique power gets buried under fear now that's a good news bad news story. So then the good news is once you know that what you're really afraid of is your own unique power when you start to feel afraid. With the right coach you can use follow that fear like a treasure map and, and and rediscover your unique power. So that's what I do. Leanne Woehlke  And I've got to just say is I did an inner freedom session with somebody yesterday. Nice and it's it's turning out to be, I think, my favorite methodology. And it's so different than anything anyone else is doing. Can you describe Little bit of it seems like everywhere I see nowadays people are calling themselves coaches. Dave Buck  Sure. Leanne Woehlke  And so can you describe a little bit about the differences and types of coaches and how CoachVille and what you do is like you gave you a little sense, but how is it so different than? Dave Buck  Well, I mean, first of all, coaching is awesome, right? So, of course, a lot of people want to do it, right. That's one thing at the same time. You know, like, if you if you think of like basketball, for example, there's coaches at all levels of basketball. You know, the little league basketball team has one of the parents coaching who maybe did a weekend basketball coaching course. And now they're coaching their little league basketball team. Fine. That's okay. Right? That's okay. Hey, but they're not professionals. Right? That's the thing. This is where it gets clunky. You know, it's, you know, a little Basketball Coach doesn't expect to get paid. And then you have high school basketball coaches, they don't get paid too much, but they get paid a little bit. And then you have college coaches and then pro coaches and there's levels. And so life coaching is the same thing, right? So you just want to be respectful of the levels. And so the higher level of professionalism is going to be someone who's got more professional training and as gone through more experiences to prove and show that they can coach at a professional level. So I have no qualms with someone going to a weekend coach training program and then coaching their friends or coaching some colleagues at a you know, pro bono or low fee rate. But if you want to be a true professional and coach at a high level, then you need to go for professional training and even in in all the sports. You know the basketball coaches, soccer coaches, you can coach your little local team with a little bit of training, but even people who played at a high level, they have to go to the full multiple week, multiple month training programs to coach at a professional level. That's all it is. It's just, it's just a it's just about levels. So at CoachVille we, we teach people how to coach at the highest level, we know we're a full certified program with the international coach Federation, which just basically means we jumped through a crap ton of hoops to be able to say, we did that. And there's value in that. It's like, sometimes you think, oh, man, we're jumped through a lot of hoops. But that's part of what distinguishes professionalism in most fields is you just have to jump through the hoops and show you can do certain things at a certain level. And you know, I've taken lots of training programs, and over the course of my life, and a lot of training programs are pretty bad. Right And so, to be an ICF accredited program, you really Have to document that you know, what you're doing as a training program, and it's rigorous and it's hard. And you know, it just basically shows, hey, our training program is really professionally done. And we help people become truly professional coaches. And that's, that's what we do. Leanne Woehlke  That's a great distinction. I love your analogy about the different levels of coaching. Because it is I think, you know, people as they're thinking, well, gosh, maybe I should have a coach. And I've had someone say, like that they had worked with a coach and they didn't get the results they expected. Mm hmm. But I don't think they knew what they were buying. Dave Buck  Correct. That's right. That's right. And, and that's, that's, that is really the big thing. That's where it's like, okay, you could say I'm a basketball coach. Okay. Are you a little league basketball coach, or are you like coaching, you know, the San Antonio Spurs, like, what, you know, they're all basketball coaches. So, you know, it's just about what is the level of the coach and so really This what this is about, I think in terms of professional coaching is it's it's about when when you have when your dream is big enough, then you're going to look for a big enough coach. You know who's who's ready to walk with you because coaching is walking with or playing with. This is a big thing about coaching. You know, what makes coach Phil unique, I feel also is there's a lot of coach training programs that have come into being over the last 20 years that have sort of, they, they what they call coaching is like this hybrid model of like social worker, and project manager. It's like, let's talk about your problems. And then we'll come up with an action plan and I'll manage you in action. Right, so it's like this social worker project manager combo plan, but that's not cool. teaching that is not coaching, but that's what most people do, right? But real coaching in any way anything whether you're coaching basketball, or piano, or dance or any kind of coaching is simply play together to play better. Have a great coach is going to play with you. Practice with you so that you can play better. And that brings up the big question that everyone always asks, well, how do you play life? And that's really what we've what we specialize in it CoachVille is talking about you can play life. In fact, you can and you can practice life. You can practice life, and then go out and and play for real. And by practicing, you get better you get confident, and then when you do the things that you want to do for your dream. You do them with confidence with capability with energy because you've done before you've practiced that a bunch of times with your coach. So that's the big thing. You know, when you're talking about doing an inner freedom session, that's a way of playing with someone using their visualization using their body awareness. You're like, in them in there with them, you're walking with them. It's not Oh, tell me about your day and tell me about your problems. It's like, okay, we're going to dive into your mind through your imagination together. And we're going to explore this situation and figure out where the fear is coming from. That's some serious deep coaching stuff. Like that's the real thing. So, yeah, that's and so that's really the big thing. And CoachVille, what we're all about is played together to play better. Leanne Woehlke  I think it's there's also a transformational aspect in my experience of CoachVille, that it's helping people to then be able to go on, it's not just managing the tasks. Dave Buck  That's right. Leanne Woehlke  That's which I think was was such a great distinction when I experience that, can you talk about how you came up with the concept of play, which is part of CoachVille, Dave Buck  it really is. I had a big, you know, awakening, you know, life is a sequence of awakenings. And as you as you know, so this was about 12 years ago now, so I started CoachVille with Thomas Leonard in around 2000. And then in 2003, Thomas died of a heart attack, and I inherited CoachVille, and I was running it and it was hard, and all sorts of trouble. And I was in all these lawsuits, it was like just a crazy time I ended up with a wicked case of post traumatic stress disorder. So a lot of you knows a lot of really deep challenges and then coming out of that traumatic experience. I was blessed having Great therapist and then great coaches. And to have you know, the possibility is post traumatic growth, like you can't when you go into a deeply traumatic experience, if you have the right support, you can pop out of it in a big growth mindset. And so what happened to me was when I popped out of the post traumatic stress, I had this major awakening about coaching, which I had been doing for a long time and leading the field for a long time. But I really had this awakening that we've gone off track. And as similar to what I spoke about with you just a little bit before we got off track with the field of coaching and it had devolved into this social worker project manager thing. But that's not what coaching is. I come from a I was a college soccer coach for 14 years I've been a performing artist. I used to sing jazz and little clubs and I had athletic coaches and I had had performance our coaches. And I just suddenly woke up to the fact that the performance art coaching experience and the athletic coach experience was very different than what we were doing as life and business coaches. It was like a totally different thing. And like, what is it like a bass when I've had voice coaches? My voice coach didn't say, oh, what do you want to talk about today? My voice coach says, sing something for me. What are you singing? Let's sing like, and then we're singing back and forth and playing and practicing. My soccer coach didn't say let's talk about your soccer problems. My soccer coach says, Okay, let's play. Let's work on these moves. Let's try out this situation. So I'm thinking, what are we doing? How did we devolve into this problem centric view of life? That's not life. Life is for play. I just had this awakening. We're here to play live. And that's really what Put me on this new road of, we've got to talk about coaching as play, you play with someone you play together. So how do we play life? That turned out to be very interesting, you know, journey for me to talk, figure out how do you play life and to draw in my wisdom from performance art and athletics and business and leadership and personal growth. And that huge like Venn diagram became, you know, what we do a coach, build a play life method, and then talk about how to play life and coach life. And essentially, the simplified version of it, which took years to create, you know, it's like, you know, something is good when it's simple. Like, it started out really complicated. And now it's simple. So, to play life as a human being, we all do the same thing. So this is how we play we relate to other people and we play for influence. We create things and experiences and we share them with people. We explore new places to see new things and also to be seen. And then we experiment. We try to do things in new ways and playful ways without worrying about mistakes. And those four things, relate, create, explore, experiment, that's how we play. That's how human beings play. And so, as a play Life Coach, what you're doing is you're talking with your player and playing with them on Okay, what are the converse? What's the next conversation you need to have? And you and I have done this many times, like okay, let's roleplay the conversation. So you get some clarity on what you on the influence you want to create. What are you creating that you want to share with people and then we We use the inner freedom method to get into your non conscious experience of freedom. So you can see where your fears are. Because this is the thing that's really big. My big dream in life right now, this is a bit of a segue in or a pathway in, but my big dream is to unchained the spirit of play in human beings and to guide people all around this world to play for their dream by hiring a coach. Okay, this, these, all these pieces go together is you know, life. We're here on this earth to play for our dreams. And we are not here to do it alone. Right? We are here to have a guide and to guide each other. And so when you look at this notion of playing life, well relating to other people, with the idea of influencing them in a positive way, well, that has a big fear, fear of rejection. It's we all learn it. We're terrified of rejection. We talk about creating and sharing. So we all have something we want to create or experiences we want to create and share. But what's the fear, fear of disappointment. We all are totally chained with this fear of disappointment, then exploring. You think about our curiosity where we were humans we want to explore. But then we learn the fear of trouble, like getting in trouble, like there's going to be trouble. And then with the experimenting, and just trying new ways of doing things, we all learn this terrible fear of mistakes, and perfection needing to be perfect. So, all of these fears are learned. I live in New York City, and there's children in playgrounds, and I'm telling you little children and playgrounds are not fearful of mistakes. They are not fearful of rejection. They go and talk to whatever kids are there and they start creating games together and they're not Afraid of, oh my god, this thing we're creating right now is to four year olds, it might not be perfect, we better not do it. No, they just play. So my big inquiry has been where what happened to us? How do we go from these wildly exuberant, playful creatures to so fearful? And you know, that's been my big journey is, first of all to learn where all these fears are coming from, and then create a coaching method to unchained us from these fears and, and part of it is, as adult players of life, we actually have to take responsibility for the raw power of play because it's powerful. And it so we have to be able to play with responsibility. That's the big thing. So and but we can we're all totally capable of learning how to play with responsibility, and be responsive play and be responsible and that's, this is this is What this is what playing big in life is all about. Leanne Woehlke  So how do you approach someone who might be in a traditional, like corporate very structured or sure reality and get them to embrace the idea of play? Dave Buck  Yeah, it's it's not easy. It's not easy because the environment always wins like this is what is you know, this is one of our mantras that CoachVille. So we are all fear that we've learned, we learned in an environment, okay? We all learn our fears, in the environments we grow up in, whether it's at home, and then school, and then jobs, we just keep reinforcing these fears. Like As humans, we need to be fearful of our power and our play. Okay, we keep learning that fear over and over again. So, he first of all, you just have to help help the person see that their that their fears have been learned. Okay? It's not inherent to who they are, okay? Fear of play and fear of our power are learned. So then if you can just get that idea, then you can just start making small steps. I mean, like anything else, you just have to start making small steps. But the big piece of it is any human being any collection of human beings, they're human beings. So while you might think, Oh, I can't relate to that person, I'm afraid but the truth is, they desperately want you to relate to them. They desperately want we're all yearning to connect and to be seen and to play. So you just have to realize and have the courage and that's why the person with the coach, okay, so the person with the coach has their corporate life. So as a coach, you would say, all right, what some who, let's think of someone on your team that you would like to connect with in a in a deeper way, and really start to have better conversations than whatever you're talking about. So they think of that person, there's gotta be there's always someone, and then you roleplay that conversation, what do you want to ask them? What do you want to do with them? What's the little, you know, mission you want to create on your team to get everyone on board to do things in a new way. So you start role playing, you start exploring the fears that they have. And so they're the ones with the coach. So they're the ones on the adventure at their office, that are going to start this little mini revolution of getting people to connect and play and experiment and explore which they are all yearning to do. They're all yearning to do but they're just equally afraid. Okay. So the one who has the coach becomes the courageous one. says, hey, let's try something a little different. Let's relate to each other this way. Let's, let's not exclude people, just because They don't believe what we believe or whatever, right let's, let's be more open, let's be more inclusive. This is what all human beings are yearning for. So it's just, this is what I say when I say, play bid for your dream by hiring a coach. You're not going to do it alone. Yeah, we're not meant to and you're not going to if you want to play any bigger than you're playing now, you've got to have a coach and and but I've done this many times I've coached many people in seemingly impossible situations. And through coaching and playing with their fear. They were able to be the courageous won in there in that place, and and help help to break free. Leanne Woehlke  I think something you were talking about about   practicing those conversations with those role plays is so powerful. You helped me with one with my husband and what I was what I was thinking I was portraying and community King was so different than how it was landing. Mm hmm. And the listener. Yeah. And that's, you know, we think in my in our heads like, Oh, well, of course, this is what I'm saying and they should know it. Dave Buck  That's right. But they don't. Leanne Woehlke  They don't know. And that was that was a huge profound awakening. Dave Buck  Yeah, it is. And that's coaching, right coaching is, coaching is playing together, and observing. That's what great coaching begins with the power to observe someone at play. You play with them, you observe them, and then you can share. This is how this is coming across. This is how you're coming across. Let's experiment with some new ways. And let's visualize some new possibilities. And that's coaching. I like to use the metaphor of a tennis coach because people can kind of get this picture even if you've never played tennis, you've probably seen it. So a tennis coach is on the other side of the court hitting the ball back and forth. And so as the coach, you use your skill level to hit the ball at just the right level of challenge for the person you're coaching, right? So they have, they might have little skill and the balls flying all over the place, but you use your skill to always hit it to them in just the right place. So they have the challenge that they can rise up to. It's not too far just right. And that's what great coaching is great coaching is being the observer and the play partner, the practice partner to keep giving your player just the right level of challenge that they can rise up to and then they keep rising up to the next challenge and the next challenge in the next sounds by playing together. And over time. Amazing things happen. You get better and better. You get clear and clear your dream becomes more real. And then it's just starts happening. Yeah, yeah, that's what I say. That's, that's the It's a coach's practice partner. I think that's really an important distinction when you think about so for all the folks listening, if you have a coach that's kind of like, oh, tell me about your day, tell me about your problems. What do you want to talk about? Okay, I'll hold you accountable for some tasks, then you just say, No, this isn't gonna get me where I'm going. I need someone who can actually play with me and guide me and keep challenging me to play better in life. That's what I need. Leanne Woehlke  Right and, and that is, that's a huge distinction. They don't need somebody necessarily to follow up on their day planner. No. Dave Buck  No, one thing I want to talk about too, yeah, is this might appeal to to your your listeners. I'm a I'm a I don't even know how to say this. I use tarot cards a lot. Okay, I love tarot cards, because they give me a view into non conscious awareness. And so My favorite tarot card is the tower. Okay, so in the tower card, you've got this tower, and then this lightning bolt just comes flying out of the sky and smashes the tower. And then there's two people depending on the card deck, but there's usually two people that are just flying out of this tower. Right? And so, I have in my new coaching program that I'm creating the symbol is the lightning bolt. Okay, because that's, to me what coaching is, coaches are lightning bolts, okay? Because if you think about these people in the tower, they might be up there in the tower because they're trying to, you know, get safety away from life, like the tower is the comfort zone. And then the lightning bolt just goes Blam. And then they're flying out of air. It's like Alright, well, we're in the world now. Let's go I guess we're at our tower is shattered. So we got to get on adventure. But the thing that's interesting about the tower is that when you see these people flying out of there, they might have gone up there on their own to try to escape from life. Be safe from life, but they also might be imprisoned. Because in in, you know, in ancient medieval times, towers were used to imprison people. Right. So, as I was thinking about it, like these two people are up there. We don't know if they're up there on their own, or if somehow someone locked into imprison them up there. But it actually doesn't matter whether you were imprisoned by someone else, or you were imprisoned by your own fears of the world. You need that lightning bolt to get out of there. Like, bam. All right. We're out. We're out of the comfort zone. Now we're out of the tower now. All right now let the adventure begin. So I just really think that's so that's to me what coaching is about coaching is the lightning bolt because our human instinct for self preservation is always going to keep us really closely tied to, you know, this self preservation zone or comfort zone. And when you start to move out of that zone, the first thing you're going to experience is fear. Because that's how the human being as organized to keep us safe. So your fears trying to keep you safe is trying to keep you away from troubles you've experienced in the past, but almost always, your dream is on the other side of that fear. And so what you need as a human being is to understand first of all, there's always going to be a pole there. This natural pole inner pole between your dream pulling you out, and your self preservation pulling you in, like up into the tower for safety. And that pole is always going to be there. And I'm a big proponent of self love and just saying, We have to stop these things of saying, Oh, I have self sabotage. Or I have self limiting beliefs or I have a bully or a demon or a gremlin or a beast. It or my ego is trying to blah blah, blah, like no stop all this derogatory, blaming, blaming, never helps. Blaming any aspect of your humanity does not help. It doesn't make it better to say, Oh, I have a self saboteur lurking inside of me, that doesn't help you live your dream, right. So it's like we got to love up our own perceptions of our humanity. Say, all right, I have this dream, this vision It's calling me out. I my self preservation instinct is pulling me in. And that poll is what makes life interesting. And that's why there's the coach, the coach is that lightning bolt to keep smashing the tower and keeping you out in the world where your dream is going to be fulfilled, you're never going to fulfill your dream and the tower. Now, so that's the thing is the coach as this capable guy walking with you playing with you, continuing to challenge you through that zone of fear because like I said, Every fear you feel is a fear either of play or your own power. Leanne Woehlke  So sometimes people will say like, Oh, I read this book, and it helped me understand some aspect of myself And sure, how is that different than working with a coach? Dave Buck  Well, it it's it's different in a lot of ways. I mean, when you When you read something and have an insight that that is good, it can be great, right? But then Living it is the challenge. Right living it, applying it using it in life. And this is something I do all the time as a coach, someone will read something or get inspired by something that they read. And I'll say, Oh, that's so great. Let's practice it right now. Right? So take it from concept, what's the concept? Okay, well, how do you apply that in life and then either we're going to roleplay it, if it's a conversation, or we're going to do inner freedom, we're going to go into imagination, and imagine yourself actually doing it, whatever it is, and then that makes it real, then it's like, okay, now, you take it from a concept to I can now see myself doing this in the world. And then once you get that practice with a coach, then it's so much easier. And then you can do it, then you just then you can do it. So that's the thing. It's like coaching is the it's the catalyst to go from good idea to living in the world. Leanne Woehlke  So if someone were to go through the CoachVille program, what does that look like? Dave Buck  It looks like a big adventure. That's what it is. It's a big adventure. Well, it from a Leanne Woehlke  How long is it? Dave Buck  Yeah, I mean, it takes it takes about a year, sometimes a little over a year. And the classes are all done by phone. So you dial into a conference bridge and your classmates will be there and your instructor will be there. One thing that's really unique about CoachVille, as you know, is we're really big on practice. So on every call and every class, part of that call, you're going to be coaching. Your practice partner and your practice partner is going to coach you. We use the maestro bridge to technology. So we're in the big group. And then we break out into small groups. There's lots of conversation. It's very dynamic. Every call is a dynamic experience. And then in addition, there's there's a lot of audio that you listen to of coaching calls and other prior classes to get the concepts and to really listen to the code, listen to coaching, done at a high level. So it's a multifaceted experience. And then we also really encourage you to have practice players, you know, to apply every week what you do in class with your practice, partner, then do that with 234 or five people in your life friends, family, colleagues, whoever people you know, on Facebook, just get into practice, you've got to do it. Coaching is mean really coaching, if, as far as modalities go, coaching, when you're doing it is more of performance art and the only way you To get good in any performance art is practice, you've got to practice. So you have guidance, someone observing you, and then you go out and practice. And so that's the the coach program is, is a sequence of, of classes and concepts that take you for take you through this whole journey of learning how to coach another person first to recognize their own power to recognize and articulate their own dream. And then to, you know, through the play life method, you learn these ideas of how to play life and the fears that we experience in playing life and how to coach people through those fears. Then we go even deeper into the non conscious part of coaching, which is the inner freedom method. And then we also have a whole curriculum around coaching the person in their environment and you know, your your folks Well, we'll understand this. But playing life is in many ways is a game of alignment. Right? It's a, it's an energy alignment. So there's you, you want to create an energetic alignment between the you that you want to become, and your dream. And so when you start to shift, who I've always been this, but now I want to become this new version of myself, I've always done this, but now I have a dream of doing something new, something bigger. So then you've got this new version of you this new dream. And now the game is to get alignment. So you've got to line up your beliefs, your skills, you've got to recognize the fears you have, you have to align your conscious mind your non conscious mind, your environment, your connection to the super minds, you've got a real line all these things between the New Year And your new dream. And so the coaching curriculum basic the CoachVille coaching curriculum, walks through each of the steps that you need as a coach to create that alignment, conscious mind, non conscious mind, environment and super mind. And then you've got to create that energetic alignment. And that's really what life coaching is. It's the playing together, and then playing this alignment game. And that's what we teach you how to do. Leanne Woehlke  I think one of the things that was that struck me and was a little surprising when I went through coach felt is the amount of personal growth that I personally experienced throughout the program as well. So it wasn't just like skill set learning how to coach but it was also a personal trainer, you Dave Buck  share an example I would love to hear it. Leanne Woehlke  Yeah, I began to look at how my business was going to operate a little bit differently, as well as how I was going to interact with people within you know, my world. Yeah, so lots of differences. And I can look at even starting privately coaching clients, which wasn't something I was actively doing prior. And I wasn't sure that that was going to be something that I did, but through the classes, and then through the practice players that I had throughout the program, I really began to love it. Like that was my favorite part of the week. And then I had people who even people that I coached a year ago and coach them for, you know, I would do three months at a time and then six months, because they wanted to continue on. And there are people that still don't text me and say, Hey, can I have a session? I need to? Yeah, he threw some things. Sure. I love that. Yeah, that was surprising. Dave Buck  No, you you made a lot of amazing, amazing leaps in your own potential and possibility. And the thing that I say all the time when I talk to people about business, a lot of people and we've been taught this notion That you build a business in order to become free. But the truth is, you have to become free in order to build your business. And that's really what I saw you do as you became more and more free to express your own power, really owning it and expressing it and realizing that Yeah, I am this powerhouse. I can be kind of bossy. And and this is the thing I say. I said all the time. We learn to fear play and we learn to fear our power. And so your power, your bossiness power was wholly chained up. And as you unchained that power and started to express it, people then actually felt more at ease around you because they're like, oh, now she's finally just Being herself. And then that's when good things start to happen. So as you became free, then your business started to grow. And that's, that's that's actually how it works. So that's why, and you're not going to be free, this is the thing, you are never going to get free by yourself. And we're not supposed to the idea that we're supposed to be able to do things ourselves is a is a wrong notion from the industrial age of school, where everyone has to sit there by themselves. And the teacher says do your own work if you help your neighbor, you're a cheater. That's not human. That's dehumanizing. Humans are co creative, collaborative creatures. So the idea that I should be able to do this myself, that's just a totally wrong notion. You shouldn't be able to do it yourself. You're supposed to be co creating every Hero's Journey story from the beginning of humankind, the hero has a guide. Well, there's a reason why all these stories have written this way is because humans are supposed to guide each other on our adventures. So just we got to let go this Industrial Age school thing of sit that sitting there by yourself doing your own work. And it's so isolating. And that's really I find the biggest problem that people have in any endeavor in life is isolation. isolation. Barbara Sher always said it isolation is the dream killer. So you've got to get out of isolation and back into co creation, and that's why I'm so big on you know, unchained the spirit of play, and hire a coach. That's, that's that's the, that's the plan. Leanne Woehlke  So if if who comes to coach Phil, like, what kind of people are they people who were Dave Buck  business consultants? Are they Yeah, all kinds, you know, people ask me all these digital marketers, are you asking me to like make my avatar I'm like, a human who wants to be awesome. Like, that's our avatar. I don't know what else to do. tell you, I mean, we have so such a diverse population. We have students all around the world who speak English from very, you know, Jordan, Sweden, Czech Republic. I mean, US, Canada, obviously, but all around the world, different ages. It used to be there was a sweet spot of like 45 to 60. Now we have 20 year olds in class, right? We have 20 year olds, we have 70 year olds. So there's no age if you it's really people who have had some life experience that they want to share. And they want to learn how to do it in the best possible way. So what anyone who's You know, I think the the people who become a coach are the people that have faced some kind of a big challenge, had some awareness that has helped them get through that challenge, and now they want to be a guide for others and they also want to keep growing right? That's really those are the two components, you have this desire to be a guide for others, and you want to keep growing because like you said, this is something we tell people all the time before they come into our school. Life Coaching is the most rigorous personal growth program ever invented. If you want to keep growing a lot, become a coach, because every person you coach is going to actually challenge you to keep growing and raise your level. So those are the people who come to coach Phil. I mean, it's from a wide variety of things. This is funny story. I met this woman I was speaking at an event. This woman was there. She said, Oh, coach Dave, you know, I've been a social worker for 20 years. And, you know, I was thinking I want to start coaching, but I don't think I really need any training. I'm a social worker, I already know how to do it. And I said, I'm sorry to tell you this, but your social work training has almost no correlation to coaching and she was like, so mad at me like that, I would say such a thing. So anyway, I don't know how but she decided to do our program. And so I had her in class the other day. She's been in the program for like three months. She says she's during the during the q&a, she says, coach Dave, I just need to apologize for you. I was so mad at you. And you told me that my social worker skills were not going to apply to life coaching. But now I'm just going to tell you, you were right. This is totally different than what I was doing before. And I'm so glad I'm here learning how to do this. This is making me so happy. Leanne Woehlke  Well in it is different. I've had clinical psychology, PhD level courses, I've had group psychotherapy classes, social classes, clinical interviewing classes, and it's very different than what I learned at CoachVille. And I could have been a coach without those classes. Dave Buck  Right for sure. Leanne Woehlke  You know, so that's, that's the interesting thing is it is a different skill set. One of the things that I find so profound is this idea of judgment free awareness? Mm hmm. Can you talk a little bit about that? Because that was a huge pivot. Yeah, Dave Buck  this is a big, it is a huge pivot because it's essential to the coaching experience. And it's also essential to play. Okay? They, it's a part of both. So, to be to be able to play, you have to be able to just act without fear of mistakes. And this is very difficult, because in the industrial age, we really were harshly trained to fear mistakes, the fear of mistakes, fear messes, and all these other things. We talked about fear of rejection, fear of disappointment. Well, you can't play when you have those fears. So we talk about judgment, free awareness, which is this ability that all humans have to put yourself in into a mode of curiosity and to say, Oh, that's interesting. I was going to call this person but suddenly I felt this funny feeling in my chest so that I didn't call. I wonder what that's all about. That's judgment, free awareness. I wonder that's interesting. I wonder what that's about. I wonder why I started looking at Facebook when I was supposed to be creating my, my outline for my program. Wonder, right? So this is this is the judgment, free awareness and then as a coach, when when you're, when you're coaching someone, you know, they're facing fear. So what you don't want to do is bring your judgment to their fear. Coaching relies on profound belonging and what breaks are profound belonging is the feeling of being judged. What creates feeling of belonging is the feeling of being seen. We're all desperately yearning to be seen for who we really are without judgment. And so that's what the judgment free awareness is. Most people do not have judgment, free awareness. Because we come from the industrial world, we judge ourselves, we judge everything. So, first, the coach has to bring it. The coach has to bring, oh, that's okay. That's interesting. This is what you're going to do. But you talk, we talked about it, but then you didn't do it. All right. I wonder what happened. Let's explore this from a judgment free perspective. And gradually, the player will start to adapt and adopt a judgment free perspective. And that's when they start to become free. Judgment. Free awareness is freedom. It's the ability to play freely and experience life with wonder. And so that's it. that's what that's what it is. And then it's just all about having a little, just a little bit of responsibility to go with all that freedom is the right is the right blend. But it really requires that judgment free space that the coach creates the free space to practice. You got to have a space to practice. You don't just know how to do everything. You just don't know how to have every conversation you need to have, or how to create what you want to create, especially creative people. Like it's so easy to get caught in our in a trap of perfectionism. But that's just learned. If you were just if you were a human and you didn't go to industrial school, your creativity would be much more vibrant and online. So really a lot of coaching is to unravel all of these fears we picked up and and begin to be able to play freely again. But that's and that's what coaching is the ability to practice live, play live. unchained ourselves from these fears that we learned. We don't judge them. We just go, Oh, that's interesting. I have fear of rejection. Okay. Let's explore that. Where did that come from? What is another option that I have? What you know, how do I love up every aspect of me so that it's, it's equal to my dream because remember that alignment game like you just have to look at your non conscious ways that you learned from your environment and then love them up to be equal to what your dream requires. And that's that's where the judgment free awareness really comes in. Leanne Woehlke  So again, let me ask you this. Yes. What inspires you? Dave Buck  What inspires me? Yeah, good question. Um, I mean, I get super inspired by my players all the time by our students that CoachVille like you You inspire me. I think that's really it. It's, it's when I see a person start to play life. It doesn't mean everything goes sunny and beautiful. I mean, you can play and it can be a disaster, right? But, but you at least played if you really just play when I see someone who just starts to play, you know, it's going to come good, like, play always comes good eventually. So that's the idea is you know what really inspires me is when someone, you can just see them take the chain off and express their power, express their playfulness and start to have things happen like when you had this major shift in your relationship with your husband that we played with over a period of time. Wow, that was so inspiring. When you changed how you were relating to your staff. And being and starting to be take your own power and being your you have this amazing power of seeing how things need to be you have great vision but you expressing that power was hard because it feels bossy. And you were afraid of that but when you when you took that chain off and started expressing it and then people started responding to you very favorably that's so inspired me. And so this is this is this is my life is just being inspired by my players. Leanne Woehlke  That's awesome. I appreciate you taking this time so much Dave Buck  it was so fun. Leanne Woehlke  Fun. I we could talk for hours I think. Good no doubt. Yeah, I know. tell our listeners How can people catch up with you? What's the best way to find out what you're up to and what CoachVille is up to? Dave Buck  Yeah, the the best easiest way is just go to www.CoachVille.com it's been our website for almost 20 years and it's still there the www.coachville.com you know, you can find me you know, our phone numbers there if you want to talk with me personally, you know, I talk to people i'm not i'm not in some ivory tower. I actually Talk to people. So if you want to talk about your big dream, if you want to talk about your business possibilities in coaching, just go to CoachVille, get the number, give us a call, happy to talk to you. Leanne Woehlke  That's amazing because most people don't even have phone numbers on websites any longer. Dave Buck  I know we're crazy. We're old school. We have a phone number. I know it's true. Well, I, you know, I'm doing my age, I believe in talking to people on the phone. I know, it's weird, but I do. Leanne Woehlke  Yeah, it's that human connection, which is why I think CoachVille is so special and, you know, offer something so different than any of the other coaching schools out there? Dave Buck  Very, I mean, there's definitely some other really good schools, but I would say in the realm of coaching, from this perspective, that life is, we're here to play for our dreams. We're not here to work on them. We're here to play for our dreams. We're really as far as I know the only school that really emphasizes play and coaching. And playing together. So yeah, if you've been inspired by this notion of play, and especially playing with fear, yeah, come and talk to us, we can really help you do what you want to do. Leanne Woehlke  And one of the other things that I love about CoachVille, is even the access to the book clubs that are held periodically, that are a free service and allow people to dive into different concepts and discussions together. Dave Buck  Yeah, we love book club. I don't know when this is gonna go live. But if someone listens to this near the time we recorded it, we're next. Our next book is Seth Godin, his book, this is marketing. And, you know, I know Seth personally, and he was like, he loves the idea of us doing the book club. And so, yeah, we're pumped. I'm pumped for this as marketing. So if you listen to this soonish I'm Ben. Come and join us a book a book. We're always doing some awesome books. So just come and play with us. You can connect with Dave at CoachVille at 866-548-6516www.coachville.com 

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Join Sharon Pearson in the Success Club training at The Coaching Institute as she unpacks key principles of coaching. This 2-part episode will kick off a series of episodes from LIVE trainings to bring you more of what you love and bring you in the training room with Sharon. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · The Coaching Institute Fan Page –https://www.facebook.com/pg/BecomeALifeCoach/ · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

Part 2 dives straight into a coaching demonstration with Sharon Pearson and one of the students at The Coaching Institute, putting into action what was taught in part 1. Comment below what your loving and how you can apply this to your coaching :) Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · The Coaching Institute Fan Page –https://www.facebook.com/pg/BecomeALifeCoach/ · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

This is a different kind of podcast episode. Instead of interviewing a guest, in this episode I (Robbie Swale) share the content of four videos I have previously made about coaching, bringing much of my thinking and body of work around coaching together in one place. But it's not just the videos - I listen back to each one (mostly I had never listened back before!) and pull out particularly important thoughts and ideas, and share the things that have changed or developed in my thinking since the videos were originally recorded.In here is LOADS of insight that I've gleaned from many great coaches and teachers, and others who have influenced my work.In particular, I talk about:- Why I work with clients over a period of time not a number of sessions.- How I structure and think about my first conversation with a potential client.- Marketing for coaches: the importance of connecting, sharing yourself and doing great work.- How my fees have evolved over my time as a coach (in pretty granular detail).These are some of the most important things for coaches to think about, and is some of the most condensed thinking I have shared on the subjects. In and between the videos, I touch on loads of the ways I work as a coach, including: comparing the price of ‘per session' with the price of a period of time; my rule for making networking events manageable; the importance of leadership as a coach; why it's important to give people the chance to know you before they meet you; and how it's vital to do the sums when it comes to your coaching business.For information about my wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswalecoaching.com.To watch the videos in their original form (and various other coaching videos), visit my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5aalWAQqFp6yTk2jghSpeQMusic by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgThings and people I mentioned (that you might be interested in):~5: Sam Chillcott – https://www.samchillcott.com/~8: Joel Monk (http://joel-monk.com/) and the podcast episode where I interviewed him: https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-6-joel-monk-conversations-at-the-cutting-edge-of-coaching~27: Phil Bolton (http://www.phil-bolton.com/), The Coaching School (http://www.thecoachingschool.co.uk) and the podcast episode where I interviewed him: https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-2-phil-bolton-from-forensic-accountant-to-the-go-to-career-coach-in-london-and-on-to-work-with-ceos-mds-and-founders~27: Rich Litvin and The Prosperous Coach: https://richlitvin.com/the-prosperous-coach/~28: Rich Litvin's video – How To Coach Someone You Don't Know: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JoaM2PwzHRQ~30: Jamie Smart: https://www.jamiesmart.com/~31: Giovanna Capozza: https://giovannacapozza.com/~35: Rich Litvin's video, The Art of the Proposal: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BjwzfLIA8w0~43: Rich Litvin's blog - How I Create a Powerful End to a Coaching Engagement: https://richlitvin.com/powerful-end-coaching-agreement/~63: My sister, Ro, and her website: http://l-r-o.com/~66: My brother, Ewan and his article about healing our allergies to marketing: https://www.ewantownhead.com/how-to-heal-our-allergies-to-marketing/~70: My article, Dancing with Resistance: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/dancing-resistance-lesson-from-my-first-year-coach-robbie-swale/~71: My 12-minute articles, which you can browse here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robbieswale/detail/recent-activity/posts/~81: The now-resting Coaching School: http://www.thecoachingschool.co.uk~82: Mike Toller: http://www.michaeltollercoaching.co.uk/~84: The 90 Day Money Game: https://richlitvin.com/the-90-day-money-game/~90: The group coaching call I recorded, where you can watch me working with three coaches at once: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NFBvAVfZrKQ

Sharon Pearson and Joe Pane sit down for the final part of the 3-part series on How to Set Yourself Up for a Successful 2020 and discuss the 3 key elements to living a conscious life: gratitude, compassion and patience. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: Connect with Sharon even more Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharon.pearson.31 Facebook Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ The Coaching Institute: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ The Coaching Institute Fan page: www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach/ Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

Join Sharon and Joe as they continue the conversations from part 1 of the How to Set Yourself Up for a Successful 2020. In this episode, Sharon dives into how she utilises a key 3-step process in moving towards her future self. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: - Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

James Bianco is a leadership and career coach and the founder of 16 Degrees Coaching. He spent 11 years working for the UK Department for International Development, working with ministers and introducing the Lean Start-Up methodology across DFID's development programmes. Then, a desire to really see the positive impact of his work led him to discover coaching. He hasn't looked back, clocking up over 2,000 hours of coaching in the first four years of his practice, including running career change webinars for thousands of people.In this episode, we talk about:- How learning the craft of coaching works and how ‘trying hard' to become a great coach in fact is not the way to become a great coach.- The power of the stories we have about our success: how the simple story he had about successful coaches – that they work only on recommendation – at first empowered him to create a thriving business… and then made him doubt himself.- What he learnt from running coaching calls for over 100 people at a time for career-change experts Careershifters.- Networking: how James used his network to create opportunities, recommendations and referrals, and the importance of dispelling the myths we have about our networks.And listen out for the beautiful - and surprising - answer James gives when I ask him how he filled all the time he had when he left his civil service role to coach full time.www.thecoachsjourney.comFor more information about James, visit his website: https://www.16degreescoaching.co.uk/ or find him on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-bianco/For information about Robbie's wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswalecoaching.com.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):~10: The Grameen Bank: http://www.grameen.com/introduction/~10: Overseas Development Institute Fellowship Programme: https://www.odi.org/odi-fellowship-scheme~13: Marianne Craig: https://www.coachlifeandcareer.com/~18: Phil Bolton – Read about Phil here: http://phil-bolton.com/ or get to know him by listening to my interview with him in Episode #2: https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-2-phil-bolton-from-forensic-accountant-to-the-go-to-career-coach-in-london-and-on-to-work-with-ceos-mds-and-founders~18: The Coaching School: http://www.thecoachingschool.co.uk/~22: Jim Dethmer: https://conscious.is/team/jim-dethmer~32: International Coach Federation (ICF) Competencies: https://coachfederation.org/core-competencies~38: Oxford Brooks Certification as a Skills and Performance Coach: https://www.brookes.ac.uk/courses/postgraduate/coaching-and-mentoring-practice/~67: Jennifer Garvey Berger: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-garvey-berger-7b4a264 and her book: Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Unlocking-Leadership-Mindtraps-Thrive-Complexity/dp/1503609014~72: Omidyar Network: https://www.omidyar.com/~72: Luminate: https://www.omidyargroup.com/pov/organizations/luminate/~74: Careershifters: http://www.careershifters.org/~75: The Careershifters articles Robbie most regularly shares with clients: https://www.careershifters.org/expert-advice/the-lean-career-change-how-to-reduce-the-risk-and-increase-the-speed-of-your-shift and https://www.careershifters.org/expert-advice/struggling-to-find-your-ideal-work-why-looking-for-your-career-umbrella-will-get-you~96: The Prosperous Coach by Rich Litvin and Steve Chandler: https://richlitvin.com/the-prosperous-coach/~104: OCHA: https://www.unocha.org/~104: Social Tech Trust: https://socialtechtrust.org/

Sometimes this time of year can get a little stressful and include lots of running around, so I wanted to share this tip with you and hopefully, it too, can help you feel more joyful, connected and fulfilled. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Sometimes this time of year can get a little stressful and include lots of running around, so I wanted to share this tip with you and hopefully, it too, can help you feel more joyful, connected and fulfilled. Take some time to reflect, be proud and celebrate all that you have done this year and what you’ve loved most. These last few days of the year will close another DECADE of your life. End the year with reflection and intention on how you can head into 2020 becoming the best version of you. It’s the perfect time to think about the year that’s passed and the plans, goals, experiences you want to achieve coming into the new year. At least that’s what I love doing this time of year Give yourself some time this year, just for you, you're so worth it

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This week Sharon and Jen dive into how they both successfully have and maintain healthy and deep relationships with the ones they love. Make sure to check out and discover how to set boundaries and improve listening skills through a simple model and exercise near the halfway point. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 See full transcript here: https://www.sharonpearson.com/post/how-to-deepen-your-relationships Jennifer Slack: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/jennifer-slack-fairfield-ct/86662 Connect with Sharon even more Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharon.pearson.31 Facebook Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPearsonFanPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharon.pearson.official/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ The Coaching Institute: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ The Coaching Institute Fan page: www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach/ Ultimate You Book: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book Other Resources: · Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com

World renown life coach, Sharon Pearson comes together with an established clinical supervisor, family therapist and professor Jennifer Slack to talk about how she approaches therapy, her philosophies and discuss their ethics within their different disciplines. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Resources: · Ultimate You Book - https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com · Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach · Feedback/Reviews/Suggestions, topics to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com · Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube Transcript: Introduction Hi I'm Sharon Pierson and welcome to this episode of perspectives. This episode really means so much to me. Recently I was in Fairfield Connecticut in the United States and I'll stay with my dear friend Jennifer. She's an amazing human being. We met about 18 years ago now and she is the reason I became a life coach. We were sitting outside at my beautiful home having a glass of wine and just talking about where we heading what are we going to do. She just said you should be a coach. I didn't even know what it was. I didn't know it existed and we walked through it and that time she was just starting to train to be a family therapist we're just starting to think about it. I thought I can't be a coach I can't help anyone but I can't help myself. So that journey for me was really about me helping me and it all got started with Jen and I remember finding her out one day sound terrified. I don't think I can do it. I'm just so scared and she gave me the classic words that I've used to this day I still say this to so many people and it's always attributed to Jen. Of course, you feel afraid anyone would in your situation you're about to go to another level. How else could you feel. And I remember just feeling. It was amazing feeling of being validated and being allowed to feel what I feel which is something I was so unfamiliar with. So she gave me very many gifts in the early days of our friendships and continues to she's beautiful you got to meet her. Her sound for herself very shortly. She's warm and kind hearted and values driven. She lives a life that is aligned around what matters to her the most which is her family and make a difference through her therapy work. She has crafted a life for herself that is so suited to who she is it's one of the things one of the many things I admire about her so much and the Fact that we've maintained such a beautiful and close relationship across the malls for all these years means so much to both of us. So I know I got to stay in her beautiful home for a couple of days in Connecticut. We went hiking together and then one morning I said we should do a podcast. And we started chatting and it went for over two hours. And so what we've done is we split it into two parts and you're going to want more and more of this woman when you hear her in the first part. We talk about her approach to therapy and she's a trained therapist. How does she approach therapy what's her philosophy behind therapy. What is she thinking about attending to what is what is she weaving into her therapy and how does she bring that to life. That's going to be the first part of the podcast and the second part which will be playing down the track again with us just sitting on her couch in her beautiful home. We digress and we just by now it just naturally moved into chatting about family because one of the things I've admired about her all these years I was we became friends when her youngest son was just born and was hadn't wasn't walking just a baby. And I've watched her as she's been a mother raising her three beautiful children their amazing human beings and all of them have gone on to start crafting lives that are based on their values what they care about what they stand for. And at young ages they know that. Now one of the things General will be the first to tell you she's not a perfect mother and then not a perfect family. They have ups and downs. They're flawed. She is. She insists that that message comes across and I of course admire that about her as well. The humility she has. But there is still an underpinning there of love being expressed in a really functional and loving way. And you're going to see that come across in part two of this podcast with Jen. Now I'm going to read here because I want to get a title right. And titles are my strengths. So she is a clinical supervisor and member of the American Association of marriage and family therapy and also an adjunct professor at Fairfield University. And she works as a family therapist and therapist. And I know some of the work she does at university. She works as a supervisor so new therapists who are training. She sits and what it she could be standing. She's with them helping them craft their own narrative style as therapists. And I say to her nearly every time we talk about this topic anyone who gets trying to get emotional anyone who's fortunate to be trained by this woman is going to be just the most phenomenal therapist. And I hope you love her and I know you'll love her as much as I do. So here's Jen Sharon Pearson: Hey. This is Sharon Pearson. I'm in Fairfield Connecticut and I'm here with my dear friend Jen psych who is a therapist and a phenomenal human being. And I'm so thrilled to be out to share with you today. Her message in her words. Welcome Jen. How are you. Jennifer Slack: Thank you Sharon. It's wonderful to be here with you my dear friend. S:So we've known each other for J: since 2001 S: 18 years J: Yeah. S: And we met before we were both moving into what became our passions. J: Yes. S: And our songs. Yeah. We were trying to figure out our passions our songs. There were conversations we had. Yeah overshadowing the backyard. J: Exactly. And I I think we helped each other kind of identify and crystallize how to manifest those passions. S: I'll always remember that moment. Can I share that moment. I was some for some reason I said I was going to be a coach. We'd come to that together over a glass of Chardonnay in my backyard was my turn to host. And then I was on the phone with you saying I was really scared and you said of course you are anyone in your situation would feel that way. You're going to a different level. You're about to have new experiences you've never had before. How else could you feel it was the most beautiful validation. And from there I was able to leap into it completely blind Jan. I we say it's a leap of faith. It was. I didn't have faith. It was a leap without anything but those comforting words. So I'll always remember that moment. Do you remember it or do you do you do. J: No I do. Yeah. S: It was very significant to me to feel that validated instead of my fears being dismissed. I was used to hearing you'll be okay or it'll work out. But you just accepted it embraced and held beautifully. My uncertainty about it was very valid and that's what enabled me to launch into something that I felt incredibly ill equipped to do. J: Well you might not have had faith but you had courage. Yeah. And you were willing to explore the unknown territories and just dive in and figure it out. S: And I did. J: Yes you did. Yes. S: And then so and then some and you began studying when you were in Melbourne. J: I did. Yeah. So I began a graduate program there. Yeah. Ecology. Yeah. And then we moved back to the States in 2003 and I picked up and began my marriage. Marriage and Family Therapy master's degree. S: Wow. J: With three kids of my own I went slowly at a pace that worked for me. S: And all your kids were under at that stage under about 12 with a rhythm. J: Yeah. Two years apart each. Yes. So it was a lot. S: It was a lot. S: And then tell us a little bit more about what you've done since then to get us up to now and then we'll go into your philosophy of. J: So I studied at Fairfield University. And I interned at a neighbourhood clinic where I stayed on for a total of 12 years and became a supervisor and then eventually the clinical director and then I left. Just coming up on a year ago to invest fully in a private practice and now I teach a class at Fairfield University and do supervision S: of psychology or family therapy family. J: It's family therapy. It is so fearful and I would you to study in family therapy. Yes. That's fantastic. Yeah. S: And what were the cut up. Because I'm interested what were the kind of who was the influences in that program. J: Who were they drawing on the structural and strategic models. Primarily with a little limited exposure to post-modern approaches as well. Yeah but really largely based in the modernist perspectives S: so pre 70s pre 60s. J: Yes when it was a little bit more objective. S: Exactly. J: A little as a black boxy. S: Yes yes. So who were the main influences for you philosophically. Who do you feel you draw on or empathize with or connect with in terms of approaches to therapy and family therapy. J: I have to say that underpinnings of structural therapy Manute chins the graphics spatial physical metaphors of that model in particular are like a scaffolding for me. Very very helpful. But my way of being with people is much more grounded in post-modern approaches which for me are all about exploring with people not having answers outside of the exploration necessarily but then continuing on. Now what we're learning in terms of neuroscience and brain chemistry and just the organic aspects that are playing a role also that it may be have to do more with like an individual's organic system as much as a family system interest. I think there are so many different kind of layers to explore in terms of doing therapy. How much do you draw on systems theory for family therapy even if you're working with one individual. Yeah I think heavily even if I define it in the way I just did. Yeah. So even if I'm working with an individual on individual behaviors and patterns of interacting with people and we're not really talking about their families so much I'm thinking about context and I'm thinking about that maybe their individual systems like their organic body system his you often share with me how when you're with a client where were you feeling that. S: The question I'm indicating with my hands reality people can say to me you. Where are you feeling that whereas that sitting with you. That's a big part of how you work. So it's to you is that a way of helping the client bridge the cognition to the feeling so that that's one of the ways I use it it gets I think I feel physically is a way of changing it too I feel I have an emotion. S: Do you ever use it that way or is. J: Yes. Yeah definitely. And the other way. Yeah. Because sometimes people come in with a lot of awareness about what their body is feeling but they aren't connecting it to a cognition or vice versa. And I think ultimately it's all good. Now one it's all unified. I'd like to separate it and yeah our Western culture but it's all one thing and I just I think having multiple modalities to better understand a person's experience is going to be better than this. S: Yeah. When you began what was your feeling or your thought around working with people did you have a philosophy or a bent or an expectation back then and I'd be interested to know how it's grown over the years. J: I think it's grown in a lot of ways and changed as I learned more about just a lot of the like the neuroscience pieces of this and my ideas about diagnosing have shifted a lot over the years and continue to shift back again, in family therapy the idea of diagnosing a person is largely frowned upon. And I think for really good reasons because it's subjective diagnoses are very subjective and there's been a lot of harm done around diagnosing and yet still sometimes people have very specific acute difficulties that can be helped with treatment approaches that go hand in hand with certain diagnoses. So I. So that's been one area of shift. And but then there are areas that are completely the same and haven't shifted at all S: since the day I met you J: which is probably three glasses of chardonnay just being with people in a way that is normalizing. That's built in love and compassion and a commitment to be to hold what they say with an open spirit and non judging and respect and integrity so to me that's kind of ethics the ethics of this work. And it's S:I really want to unpack that because that's one of my that's as you know one of the things that I delight the most from speaking with you. It's how you do that. And it's all how it's who you are when you're doing that. When your clients patients what do you call them either clients. J: Clients. S: when your clients come to you and you all just create a scenario for you and change it however you want. A client comes to you the walls are out the boundaries are way too rigid. No one's getting in their home protection defensiveness and the need to repel what's just. Could you paint a picture of perhaps hypothetically how you would go about helping them see that there can be self trust or. What. What are you thinking about. I won’t put words in your mouth. What do I be thinking about self dress. What would you be thinking about. J: I think I'm thinking about other trust. I'm thinking about how can I create a safe place for this person to begin to trust that my agenda is nothing more than what I am hoping will be helpful and healing to her. Or him. So that it's truly joined and connected. I really ultimately think it's all about connection and when someone comes in so well defended they've been hurt in connection and I'm hoping to be one small repair for them S: that it can be safe. That their will be their emotions will be safe, that they're bits that they've been rejecting we'll be safe with you. J: Exactly. And sometimes it takes time for some people one or two conversations does the trick. And for other people it takes I think the passage of time and repeat experience to me. I agree. Heal and enters yes. S: To rehearse. OK so what happened last weeks consistent this week. I can count on that and I can build on that. This is how I can respond in this moment it's a bit safe for me to respond that way and they can rehearse it with you in a safe environment and a team too. In practice in the real world and experience it J: and people can tolerate an expression of my emotions that can tolerate hearing what my thoughts are they can tolerate aspects of myself that I'm not sure are tolerable. S: Yes that was a big part of my healing as you know for me was embracing all of me and not feeling the need to suppress it hide it deny it. Get angry with it judge it. that's. Would you say that's a big piece of what you do. J: Completely. Yeah. One hundred percent. And I think when things are so scary that we can't even identify themselves let alone risk saying it out loud with another person. They just sit and grow and fester and become very toxic S: and real. They seem very real. J: Yes. Yeah they do. They its real and the problem which doesn't even very often is not a problem but it becomes a problem. So my hope is to make these things talk about a ball and with compassion people understanding where they're coming from and that it's OK and that there are more options kind of about expanding options for what you do with these feelings. Beginning with non-judging accept and accepting said things S: it’s a big part of it J: huge S: I didn't even know that was the thing. As you know I could accept my feelings. Yes. What are you talking about. What is this strange magical mystical words you're using. Except yes. And now I can't coach without. Yeah just holding. I always teach coaches we're holding our clients with our hearts as we are using cognition. But if that piece isn't there this won't have an effect. What's your way of interpreting that. Because I know a big part of what you do you're thinking about how to different approaches and different choices. That's an inevitability but a big pot huge part. Most of what you do is holding the client can you talk to that in your own way. J: Yeah it is. It is a holding space and all of you know I'm unconscious as we're having this conversation about you know the many people who have preceded me in terms of these terms and concepts that they are not original ones. They're just very dear to me. S: Yes. J: And yeah it is it's a holding it's a body and a mind experience and it's relational and it's all three of those happening at the same time. And so I think it starts with me being aware with my own feel of my own feelings my own body my own head and really making it all about the client and putting in check anything that's coming up for me if I'm having moments of you know OK. I don't know where I'm gonna go from here. It's a signal to just slow it down and check in with the client. And together we find our way. No two therapy sessions are the same. I mean that's why models are great and they can help us from getting lost. But there is so much creativity that happens in any session. S: I've never. I can't ever served on the same session twice in thousands of sessions. J: It's not possible. It wouldn't make sense right. If it if it is happening twice then say OK I was let's paint by number. S: It is I think is where I began when I was doing student student trials with supervision. I would have begun with I've got my twelve questions thank goodness. J: Yeah I mean you need a script. S: I needed it. I needed the script I need to better turn the page noisily right. So the client knew I was turning the page and I would need to read the second page because it gave me but the client knew I was a rookie with the L plates on. Yeah so I felt very safe in that environment because I don't know read the question. Yeah. They would be with me as a comrade encourage a colleague encouraging but there does come a moment where we have to learn to fly that leap which to me is the favourite thing ever. That leap. When I'm with the client I know I've got all these models and all these ways I could draw and inspiration these beautiful people who could steer and all of them have just created such beauty and approaches and philosophies and it all fades away. It just disappears from the periphery of my mind and all I see is the client and that's all there is there's me there's not even me there's the client and they're just feeling like I'm throwing a cloak of protection over this client the models and everything else float away they don't matter anymore or they're so assimilated that I don't there's nothing conscious there's nothing I can't notice them J: yeah they're there they're there. J: But they're so integrated. And I think what you are talking about having this script and how the people you're working with are so gracious and to me that comes from transparency and a spirit of collaboration and so everyone has their own style but that is that is definitely my posture. And so I you know I have yet to meet a person and you know. S: Yeah. Yeah. J: With more people I can count. And there is a there is a we achieve a mutual respect that is based on honesty and I have to be able to be honest about my approach. S: Transparency is a huge part of how you operate. Can you unpack that a little bit for me. It sounds so obvious. J: Transparency is such a buzzword. S: Yes. Can you unpack it and tune into a process for us. J: The process for me is it's about honesty. It's about probably a need that I have for me to be sort of we. You know we have to wear clothes that we feel comfortable and authentic and for me transparency is a way of being with people that allows me to be most comfortable so that I don't have any sense of I might have boundaries but I'm not having secrets I'm not holding something over the client that the client isn't aware of that is not a good recipe for me. So I have to work to find ways to be appropriately disclosing and authentic about what I'm thinking. What I'm concerned about where I'm coming from and that feels very genuine and connected. S: Do you do it in real time is that thought feeling cognition comes to. Or do you sometimes hold it thinking it it'll be little appropriate once this is more appropriate when this is wrapped up. Do you have a sense of time and space around that or is it in the moment. J: Both both. It often comes in the moment but then it often has to wait and sometimes I'm not aware. Or I don't have a frame that I'm comfortable with like I know there might be a conversation that needs to happen but I don't have the words to say it. I've learned I am not opening my mouth to go there until I know why I'm doing it. What I'm going for and how I'm gonna say it S: another big piece of this. Maybe this is the time to drop it in. Is do no harm. And what your. I don't have the right language. One of your goals is for the wholeness of the client and the well-being of the client. And I'm wondering how transparency. I imagine transparency for you is vital for that outcome to allow the client to see your reflections back openly without censorship. Didn't end up there. I get that but you do give the truth how is that linked. That's my question. How is that linked to helping the clients wholeness. I know it is but I'd love you to unpack that. J: I think that's trust. I think it's authenticity and I think it's connection. We wire ourselves in relationship. I mean you know mirror neurons. We are not actually separate entities. We are all commingled whether we're aware of it or not. And it's very powerful. It's sitting here with you just a few feet away when we pick up on each other's energies and if you don't know the truth about my context about why I'm saying and being the way I am being you're in the dark. Yeah. Yeah. And that to me is a breach. S: Tell us more about that J: to some extent or it's potentially a breach of of trust and connection and how and if I you know I think ultimately it is about raising awareness non-judgemental awareness that we are hoping for people so that they can survey, they can step back from their worried thoughts and feelings stuck behaviours and assess is this working for me or not. It's pretty simple. S: So we simple just do that. J: So we have to be able to step back ourselves and assess S: So are you seeing yourself in third position sometimes when you're in the session. J: Yeah I try to really that's so what. You know one of the many gifts that I've come across include mindfulness and John Cabal in particular has been hugely influential to me taking a witnessing position just helps me when I'm feeling stuck to get unstuck. There was a whole pathway I wanted to go come back to that if I remember it but something's just come up to me then a lot of times when people are starting out in this they bring their own stuff and into it. What would you suggest is a part because you don't you're very clean. I call it very clean work that you do. That's always my goal too. Does that make sense of the word clean. It's not enmeshed with my stuff. My as much as it can be my ego my issues my fears my life whatever's going on for me is separate to this precious moment with the client. I call that very clean work. It's messy work when the person is feeling what the client's feeling and is getting hooked into the drama of what the client is sharing. And the question I get all the time from people starting out is how do you do that sharon and how do you separate. Why why I care so much so why don't you feel what I feel like somehow it's not caring if I don't feel the client feels Yeah. Can you talk to that bit. J: It's a really it's a great I mean it's so central to the work that we do. And the truth of the matter is we do pick up yes what our clients are feeling and I do have my own stuff that I become aware, I think the trick is it's actually being aware that I have my own stuff happening right now and then that's the piece that I want to I. A disaster would be not being aware and then continuing the conversation you know that's reactivity that's enmeshment. And so I want to be catching myself. And for me that's very it's very helpful to start with the body. And I think that's why I kind of work to work with that with clients because I find it so helpful. And then taking a step back from it you know talk and sort of being my own supervisor here you know it's all in service to the client which is kind of paradoxical because we're talking about it's all connection but this is Tibet if it's not going to benefit the client I'm not going to go there with whatever that the conversation might be or whatever my response might be. S: I know there have been times I've been with a client. This is being I've done this for quite a while I separate emotional activity for feeling state that I exposed to the client and really conscious of the difference so emotional is someone tells me something that hooks me somehow personally and I associate into it. I can't think of an example but I'm just right now clenching my fists something happens I feel my emotional reactivity vs. a client shares something with me and it's so painful to them me showing empathy so I'll have tears appear in my eyes they're never full because they're not here to comfort me but I'll well up and we'll have such a feeling face of empathy and maternal I'm with you. With your hurt right now and I want to separate that for anyone listening from emotional reactivity of me not controlling managing being aware and just blurting out Oh my God that's terrible. There is a complete distinct difference and that's really important. As one of the things I learned from you very early on in our relationship you would mirror back if I shared something with you that was painful and it hurt me in my past or whatever it was you mirrored to me in a very maternal way held me with your face your you softened your features I mean just to get really clinical about it you soften your features and you said all share and you did tone was so gentle and that peace was magically healing to me magically healing. I know you can. You know the process you did and enabled me to feel what I felt and know would be safely received. I have taken that into my work and it is beautiful to reflect back. That's got to really hurt. that's really that's yeah it is. J: There has to be you give me too much credit. But as I've said many times but I need to I need to put that on record. Way too much credit. S: I love it. J: People do need to feel felt that connection. Is that safe. That's trust you. That's the proof that they're okay. That's the proof that they're going to be OK. Yeah and that's the holding space. Right it is and it's often non-verbal. Yeah so I agree it is as one wise supervisor told me it's OK to cry just don't cry harder than your client. S: Oh I love that and I love that that I love that. J: It's wonderful. S: My benchmark is the tears can appear but they can't fall because they can't hit the client. No word about reassuring him exactly J: and clients are deeply moved when it is a genuine and very often the most distressing. Content or experience will will happen or be disclosed in a session and I won't have tears and that's fine too. You just. S: Yeah it's not a requirement. J: No we're not saying that No. Here now is the time to be considered such a no no. S: Yes. That's why I'm bringing it up. Yeah. As of the expert status of the third. Exactly. J: Those old modernist day. Yeah. Yeah. But I do. I think one of the I'm not sure if we've talked about kind of just normalizing that such a bit. I mean that's there's nothing bigger in my eyes. My concept of things than normalizing and truly I do believe that all behaviour makes sense in its context does all behaviour. It does no matter how deviant it might be. It makes sense. S: Yes. J: And so if we just have to peel back and begin with the premise of this makes sense that you're doing this or that you're feeling that or that you're thinking that or that this has happened and you know hurt people hurt people. Yeah it's how it goes. S: it’s what they know and they don't. J: And we repeat patterns until we repair them. And so the white hair has to be in a normalize. People have to feel that they are normal in their context. S: I think it's one of the first steps for repair that I can see. One of the things I learned from Bradshaw is shame loves shadows. And that was a light bulb to hear it put so perfectly and succinctly because when the clients with me and I went speak to your experience. But when the clients with me if they can out the stuff that they thought was too ugly for the light and it's normalized by me so I acknowledge it. I normalize it. I validate that that is their experience. J: Use the words say it out loud. Yeah. Yeah. Repeat back S: exactly out that no matter how ugly they think it is. I'm so comfortable with it. It enables them to stop treating it like the secret in the in the in the in the bunker in the cellar. J: Right. S: So if it's got light now I can do something about it. Yeah. So it becomes the beginning of the change process to me. What's your secret. Did You have that experience. J: I mean definitely. To me I think that's largely what therapy is. It's yes it's helping identify what's going on. It's it's not always deep shame related but it's being able to find words is being able to construct the words around feelings and behaviors. And we I mean what we're doing even in this conversation it's it's it's social construction. I mean we identify our thoughts in the process of being together in conversation. We're creating something in the act of talking with another person. And what we can't talk about. It's very hard to access it to make changes around and then we worry if we have new examples and we'll say why S: if we can talk about it with the therapist or with the coach or her everywhere Who's our partner in this journey we then can't take it publicly. So I always think that the client with me is being out to rehearse how how it could be great out there. So if I can give them a great experience and by great I mean normalized accepted embraced and still feel compassion still feel accepted still feel that they're that way together that gives them rehearsal. Oh so it can be like that out there J: totally. S: So you get to spirit and take her cause. Yes. J: Yep. Everything exactly how you do anything is how you do everything. And exactly. It's so relevant. S: Yeah. And so I rehearsed with the client. I'm always feeling I am in the session replacing every other person who they feared would respond badly or would cause them to want to protect themselves or would give them reason to pause in terms of being their fully authentic self. So I feel the responsibility any joy around it. I represent everyone they haven't met yet or everyone who has ever shut them down. And I get the opportunity to help them do it over by being accepting embracing loving compassionate into them in the face of their shame fully embracing and with no hesitation there's just no hesitation in me whatsoever because I'm just thinking they get to know rewrite some of that and they can experience it differently. Do you have a relationship to that. Do you have a way of interpreting that that's your way. J: I think I would describe that in similar terms but yeah it's just it is absolutely an opportunity to repair. And sometimes it's not necessarily about repair but it's about just people coming in and they're just stop what they're trying Isn't working. So there isn't really necessarily big time repair work. I there. Let's just think out of the box. So what might work more effectively for you than what you've been trying. And that's very generative and exciting in a very different kind of way. But I think the process of conversation and connection and trust and normalization is central to that. It's just as central to that work as it is to you know traumatic repair work. S: So it constantly comes back to the launching pad J: for me it it does me as well. That is the launching pad. Yeah. That's the only reason I'm bothering to wrong. I mean that's not that and I and I. Yeah I wonder that that is the biggest ethical commitment that I can think of. You always describe it to me you're very consistent describes an ethical commitment. I know you as that's just who you are is not an ethical decision you're making you simply you're being I don't know that you would know how not to do that or be that that's an inevitability with you Jen. I don't think it's an ethical decision inverted commas you're making. I think it's just who you are. That's there consistently and I can't even imagine how it wouldn't be. J: Well I I appreciate your words kind of but I think also in thinking on a metal level thinking about the work I'm doing and thinking about difficult client situations where I'm maybe feeling less effective or stuck myself to some extent. OK where are we going to go from here. How can I best help this person. And certainly in training of students who are becoming therapists or working with other therapists in a supervision capacity I find that a very helpful home base to come back to and to say out loud with people because I like the rule of thumb that if the client were overhearing this conversation with the client be OK with it. And if not why are we saying it. S:I love it. J: Change the way you're saying we have to hold our people in our hearts with kindness and respect and dignity and S: with them in when they're not. J: Exactly. And our hearts and in our heads. And it is it. Yeah I think it's the humanity is in the feels. It feels to me like an ethical violation when that's not happening. S: Yeah.

Join Sharon in this episode straight from the How to Become a Successful Coach training room in Sydney as she dives into the Core, Crud, Crust model. It’s all about reclaiming our core selves, check out the brief descriptions of the layers below... Crust: Decisions, goals and life’s purpose is determined from a place of ‘What would make me look good?’ and ‘How do I hide my Crud (crap)?’ Crud: Decisions, goals and life’s purpose is determined from a place of fear, lack of trust, self-doubt, self-loathing and constant negative self-talk... Core: Decisions, goals and life’s purpose is determined from a place of love, truth, courage, a sense of adventure, playfulness, and childlike wonder... We developed a layer over our authentic self, and we’ll call it Crud. We piled into it all we were told about ourselves about how we were wrong. We pile into it all we modelled by watching our Magical Big People. We piled into it all we believed is true about our flawed, shameful self. This is the layer that is in charge of our self-talk, if our self-talk is anything less than loving, supportive, and mindful to treat us with love, care and respect. But we couldn’t possibly go into the world with this Crud on display. No one does. That would be the ultimate shame. So we cover it up. We bury it. We disguise it. We hide it. We put a mask on to face the world and to appear ‘presentable’. And this layer we’ll call our Crust. The surface bit of us that we think the world will accept. Exhausting. Watch the full episode to discover how you can get closer to your core self. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020

Phil Bolton is an International Coaching Federation Accredited Master Coach. After training as a forensic accountant and then working as an in-house coach at Deloitte in California, Phil moved back to his native UK and set out to become the go-to career coach in London. Then, after supporting hundreds of clients to take control of their career and find work they love, he started his second coaching business: supporting leaders and organisations that are pushing the boundaries, innovating and aiming to creating a better and more joyful world.Phil was also fundamental in Robbie's (and many others') development and learning as a coach through his now ‘resting' coach training organisation, The Coaching School. Through that experience and others, he carries a wealth of experience in how to create amazing coaching experiences for clients on everything from holding boundaries with clients, to co-creating and partnership, to sales.In this episode, we talk about:- How he transitioned from forensic accountant to the go-to career coach in London, including how he created and developed that niche.- What he learned about how to structure a coaching engagement for someone changing careers from coaching hundreds and hundreds of people going through transition.- Why he left behind a full practice working with career changers to shift to working with MDs, CEOs and owners not just coaching them but supporting them across their businesses.- The ‘hard' third or fourth coaching session: why his favourite bit of coaching engagements is the moment where clients doubt if the change they want is going to happen.- What Phil has learnt about sales from 13 years of running his businesses.- Why building a business that supports his lifestyle and self-care is fundamentally important to Phil.For more information about Phil, visit www.phil-bolton.com or find Phil on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/lessordinaryliving/For full show notes, an extended biography of Phil and more about the podcast's host, Robbie Swale, The Coach's Journey podcast as a whole and The Coach's Journey group programme, visit www.thecoachsjourney.com.For information about Robbie's wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswalecoaching.com.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify at https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):IPEC coaching training: https://www.ipeccoaching.com/Rich Litvin: http://richlitvin.comThe Coaching School: http://www.thecoachingschool.co.uk

Perspectives Podcast Live From Melbourne: So here we are back in Melbourne for the start of the Australia leg of the World tour for How to Become a Successful Coach! In this episode, we will be going through the six different dimensions/ components/ elements of what makes a really fulfilling meaningful purposeful life. This model is called the Psychological Well-being Model and it isn't just me having a view, it's based on actual research, science, and evidence that helps you identify if you're on the right track to living the life you want. This is the first time I've shared the model as it's brand new so I'd love for you to share your thought with me :) Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Join me as we dive deep into the 6 Steps to living an extraordinary life

Join Sharon and Glam as they discuss the difference between self – care and self love, how critical healthy boundaries are to leading a life where you find yourself lovable, and how you can reclaim these boundaries which we all knew intuitively at one point in our lives. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES: • Order the Brand New Ultimate You Book – https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.24 Glam: One of the things that you hear so much these days is the whole idea of loving yourself, and a lot of people are having a go of it, but it’s a tough thing. • Well self-care and self-love are two different things • So self-care is for example, having a bath. That’s not self love • Because I can remember having a bath and saying, “do I love myself yet” • And no matter how beautiful the experience looked and was and seemed to be, if on the inside I don’t know myself, I don’t find myself lovable, it really didn't matter how good the bath was • Glam: So how do you choose self-love then, what’s the first step to take? • Well everyone’s steps are different, but one thing to be considering is how you treat yourself. So my favourite saying on this topic is we need to treat ourselves as we wished our parents had when we were kids • So we need to speak with ourselves, be with ourselves, encourage ourselves, champion ourselves, nurture ourselves, support ourselves, demand of ourselves the way we wished it had been when we were younger • So example, if I had a view when I was a kid that was contrary to my dad's, most of the time the message was driven home, I was wrong. I have to ask myself how did I want to be parented looking back as an adult. If I had a different view I should to be encouraged, and acknowledged. I wanted to share a diet coke while we brainstormed it and yeah he would suggest a book. I have this whole ideal fantasy on how that could have been. I do that for me 7.10 We are raised generally to not know healthy boundaries, not to know that what we think can be differentiated from what our big people think and what they think can be differentiated from what we think what we think • So there are some basic things you look at if you're not clear in your childhood where you would have liked to have gone in a different direction. You can go into also the emotions you're led towards having and the needs that were met. But the basics to look at are values alignment and misalignment: thoughts, feelings, perceptions, and expectations, and how they were meant to be taken on board by you. Then ask yourself now is that what I really think, feel, perceive or expect of my world and myself and where there's that difference, start ripping 16.16 I’d dive into the chapter on boundaries at this point and really just start unpacking this • Ask yourself where am I living this and what parts of this can I reclaim. Its just reclamation. We did this before we started picking up on the messages from the big people • So it's in us it's more just let's nurture it until it comes alive again • I’ve been noticing how I am different with people now and how they're different with me and me spotting people who have an awareness of their boundaries and people who don't • A really simple example is narcissistic listening so I might say to a friend I’ve been doing Pilates, and a narcissistic listener, someone who’s not clear on healthy boundaries will say “I heard that’s really good” and then change the subject • My response these days is “Yeah now I’m going to give you my experience” • Because I’m expressing self love

Join Sharon and Glam as they discuss conscious living, the power of questioning our routines, beliefs and behaviours, and developing the power to differentiate ourselves from those around us, while still maintaining our ability to feel a sense of belonging. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 **Order the Ultimate You book here to receive exclusive bonus instantly: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you** KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.22 Glam: One of the things that I love is a concept you share in your book about conscious living • There’s unconscious things, beliefs, the muck, in all of our lives that hold us back from moving forward • Sharon: The muck, I agree • I would say most of us have lived years automatically • Years getting up, getting ready the same way, going to work the same way, reacting the same way to people, getting defensive the same way, rejecting feedback the same way and then thinking life somehow is going to be different • We have to start questioning, how automatic am I being in this moment? How reactive am I being in this moment? How can I be more conscious in this moment? • Glam: And what I love about it, is it actually walks you the process of that • Sharon: Right, as I’ve said many times, being told the answer is within is super unhelpful if you look in and you just feel like crap • I wrote the book the way I wished I’d been taught at the beginning of the journey, that there are ways of looking within we can train our minds and our consciousness to start taking care of us 7.57 Sharon: Let’s challenge our beliefs • I used to hold dear the belief that I couldn’t trust people. That’s just turned 180 • I had to challenge that belief consciously for many years before I could arrive at a different place • There’s always a tension between rigidity and permeability • So rigidity would be exampled by my way is the right way • There's black and white thinking, there's absolutism • On the opposite extreme in the dichotomy is the permeability • Some people have been raised where anything goes where your right simply because you're so special because you're perfect in every single way • So one of those is our automatic default mode • If we want progress we have to have a go at doing something different, seeing things differently 15.58 Another balance is, do I belong, or do I differentiate? • And am I belonging for reasons that are for my own wellbeing, or because of pressure from the group? • How far can I differentiate before the tension gets to be too much? • We often mix up love and loyalty, we define love as not rocking the boat, existing within the rules of the group • We have to learn how we can belong as a differentiated self • That’s emotional maturity, when I can hold both in the one space • Where I can sit with my family, be myself even if it bothers someone, and still feel like I belong • And I will never know me unless I'm prepared to hold that space for me • And when you first do it, it’s not pretty • But once you do it, share it with somebody and say I had a go and it was messy • And that’s the first step OTHER RESOURCES: • Ultimate You Book - https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Join Sharon and Glam as they discuss empowerment, how it’s often seen as a loud, external force, but how Sharon chooses to see it as an internal sense of well being that can be counted on despite the chaos of the outside world. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.23 Glam: I was looking back through the first chapter (of Ultimate You) and I love the message around empowerment and what it means to be truly empowered • Because we hear so much about that, about what it means to feel empowered • Sharon: That’s a good point. We do hear a lot about that. And people interpret that as being louder, perhaps more critical of others, absolutism, black and white thinking • And it’s not everyone, but a lot of people hear empowerment and they think, “That’s right! It’s my time!” • There’s an external-ness to it, whereas the empowerment we’re tapping into in this community is about “where is it within me?” • That regardless of what’s going on out there, I’m okay, I’m more than okay, I can handle this, I feel a deep sense of wellbeing within me in spite of and regardless of what’s out there • A lot of time the voice of empowerment is an internal voice, a quiet centeredness that amongst that, I’m just going to breathe in and pause, and not allow my emotional reactivity to clog my thinking 3.11 Glam: I loved in the introduction, I think you say, “I’m tired of hearing people say “The answer is within. Because where do I look and how do I find it? • And I think part of what you share in this first chapter is the actual pathway to looking within • Because even when we know it’s meant to be within we’re often still looking externally • Sharon: Right, we often base our internal change on external factors, “I’ll do it when” often even time can be the external factor “I’ll get to it later” • For instance I held on to a grudge against my parents for several years, and at a certain point I realized, “they don’t even know what I’m sulking about” • They’re just living their lives as they should, and I’m just making drama in my head about what they could have or should have done, which is the past, it’s not changing • I had to drop the noise, of how things had to be for me to be okay. Because none of those things are going to change, and you still have to be okay. • That’s what the whole book is orientated around • But it’s hands on, you can’t just read it and feel empowered. You have to take the steps 9.32 I really resented a message that told me to focus on my strengths, because I was in no way being validated for where I was at • A lot of people are in the same position, they need to hear, where you’re at, it makes sense • Where else could you have landed? • Some of us got faulty programming, I got really faulty programming, and I was running these programs • These programs were on righteousness, defensiveness, blame etc. • I needed to have a deep awareness of the programs I was running • Later in the book we talk about developing some more helpful programs, but first it’s just about getting rid of the ones that aren’t helpful • So part one is a lot about differentiating ourselves from our tribal cycle, because until we de-enmesh ourselves from that, we can’t elevate from it OTHER RESOURCES: • Ultimate You Book - https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Join Sharon live in London, the third stop of the world tour, and listen is as she discusses expanding our awareness and acceptance of a perceived issue in our life before we jump to action, in order to create real and lasting solutions rather than superficial ones. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.22 What we need to do for our selves and our clients is create real transformation, by helping them reclaim, reconnect and restore every emotion • There are three steps to transformation • Awareness > Acceptance > Activation • If I want to experience a different reality, what’s causing my current reality? • Thoughts, perceptions, habits, conditioning, programming • Action coaching is just giving help on steps they can take to solve their problems but that doesn’t help them expand awareness of their thoughts, perceptions… • Nothing in the mind will change • Transformational coaching is about setting them up to make the decisions themselves by expanding their understanding of themselves • Fixating on the problem ignores the source of the problem, and there will always be others to take it’s place 5.21 • I was raised to not have access to anger, anger was banned in my family, for girls, dad could get angry • What emotions were not allowed for some of you? • Audience Member: Expression • Sharon: What do you mean by expression? • AM: I loved to talk, and my mum put up a photo that said “you’re not allowed to talk too much, shut up” • S: Why do you think the sign went up? • AM: Because I talk too much, that’s what she said • S: That’s not why the sign went up • AM: Because she couldn’t handle it • S: There it is, so who was it really about? • AM: Her • S: Right, but when you’re a kid it’s hard to see that. How do you think your mother was raised • AM: Raised in a house where children were meant to be seen, not heard • S: And how do you think the people that raised her were raised? • AM: Same way • S: Isn’t that interesting. I call it a tribal cycle. When I’m coaching you, I’m coaching the tribal cycle that taught you what you see, which is “the sign went up because I talk to much” instead of “the sign went up because she couldn’t handle it” • I’m loving your mother right now. Why? • Because we’re going to now move to acceptance. We’ve got the awareness piece, now let’s move on to part two • Because she need to hear this too. As did you grandmother, and all the rest • We’re all victims of victims • If we find a perpetrator, we are putting the problem outside of ourselves • “If they had only been different” but we’re talking about changing generations of tribal cycles • Instead we have to say, this stops with me 13.30 This is one of my favourite models, we’ve got two scales, there’s the self (awareness, acceptance and more) and on the other there’s our problems • If the problem is beyond our awareness, it looks huge • If we instead raise awareness, the problem is redefined 24.10 I learned a lot of this stuff from the story The Little Soul and the Sun by Neale Donald Walsch, which goes something like this • A little soul went to heaven, and said to God I want to know myself • God says, you are everything, what more is there to know • The little soul says, I want to know love • God says okay, if you want to know love, I’m going to send you down to earth, and in the moment where you feel the most love, and you’re with someone who you feel you can trust the most, I’m going to have them strike you down. And in that moment, if you still love, you will know love • So the little soul goes down, and he finds someone, who he trusts and loves completely • And in the moment of him giving his heart over, the moment of total vulnerability, that great friend struck him down • And in the moment, he either remembered that he was love, or he was doomed to repeat the moment • I’m freeing my client from being doomed to repeat it • So that story is about acceptance of what is • And until we move to acceptance of what is, we’re not really going to change it because our thinking’s not going to change 27.36 Am: Is there a responsibility to acknowledge your part in the tribal cycle? • S: Not as a child, but as an adult yes • As a child, your responsibility is to be a child, and that’s it • Am: And what age do you have to grow up? • S: When I got to 37 I thought I should probably try • A lot of what we need to do is to get back to being a child • It’s not about lack of responsibility, it’s about being fully ourselves • I’ll come to your question about adult responsibility, here is my metaphor for that • You come to a puddle, what does a fully embodied kid do? • Jump in and make a splash • And the adults will avoid the splash, avoid the puddle, maybe bitch about it • So a child’s job or responsibility is to experience spontaneity, curiosity, warmth, love, playfulness, adventure, risk-taking, etc. • What’s an adult’s responsibility? I believe its to live our best lives 30.34 As we go higher on the awareness and acceptance scale, our emotional reactivity goes down • It’s gets us to a place where we don’t get hooked by everything our family does 31.06 AM: I have a question about acceptance, what if the client has so many things that have happened that they can’t get to acceptance because the things are unjust and unfair • S: Firstly, if your client has been so traumatized by a childhood event, you should refer them on. We don’t coach that which is beyond the realms of coaching • AM: What if the concept of unjustness, unfairness, inequality is important to your sense of self • S: Are we talking about you or your client? • AM: Me • S: Where’s the inequality? • AM: Feels like everywhere, I’m not sure. I’m thinking about the history, when I look at generation to generation, thinking about especially class inequality • S: Whoa. So I’m coaching you, and you’re bringing to your session, the planet. We’re going to need a little bit longer. Clients bring their issues to their session, the don’t come saying to me, can you solve the inequality on the planet • Clients come to me for help with them, not with others • So that’s the awareness now do you see how if you come to a coaching session and ask me to help you with people I haven’t met yet, you’re asking to set me up for failure? • AM: Yes • So that’s acceptance, and then the activation would be, “How could you do that differently so it’s impactful for you? OTHER RESOURCES: • Ultimate You Book - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Join Sharon live in Los Angeles, the second stop of the world tour, and listen is as she discusses breaking away from an unhealthy fixation with the external, in regards both to the expectations people have ourselves and the struggles we face within. When we can ditch these behaviours, we can focus our energies on understanding and shaping the one thing we have complete power to change, ourselves. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.23 • I believe to become successful we have to figure out how to do something different • This may mean defying our family or our tribe of friends • My parents had it all mapped out for me • When I got accepted into law, they were thrilled • I made my family look so good, until I turned it down, then they were so disappointed • So I’m overcoming this conditioning, this expectation about who I should be • But my parents aren’t doing it deliberately, they were taught the same thing by their parents • We need to recognize that sometimes we are going to have to disappoint a couple of people • To live our own lives is to defy our upbringing 6.12 I want to share a model that may help give some perspective on this • This is about making sure we keep our journey internal and not spend too much time focusing on the external • Nothing external can solve how we feel about ourselves • When most people in their lives they view it as something outside themselves and they’ll often try to avoid it, blame someone for it, normalize it, etc • Anything other than looking within at what they might they actually might be able to change about the situation • And since we can’t force the external to change, most people live their lives repeatedly facing the same problem • Sometimes we even create external problems rather than focus on the internal 12.04 Most people would rather hang on to their identity than adapt and grow • They would rather hold on to a problem in their lives and invent external reasons for it than face the truth that it comes from within them • Who here was raised where focusing on fixing our problems was preferable than looking at how you created it? (Most people raise hands) • That’s how we’re trained • Often times we feel like we’re really good at solving other people’s problems, seemingly if they only listened to us it would be such an easy fix, but that rarely seems to happen, and advice from others rarely seems to solve our problems • That’s because even if a problem seems simple on the surface, reversing the patterns of thought and behaviour that led to it is not simple, and requires serious reflection and internal exploration • That’s why coaching is not about giving advice on how to solve their problems, but guiding them on the journey to understand their problems OTHER RESOURCES: • World Tour – www.tci.rocks/worldtour • Ultimate You Book - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Join Sharon live In New York as part of her world tour, as she talks about reclaiming our core selves. None of us are born with negative self-talk, limiting beliefs, or any of the other mental and emotional issues that plague us as adults. We are born at one with our surroundings and our selves. The goal of coaching, the TCI way, is to return to this state. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.23 At our core is who we are meant to be and who we were when we were born • There’s spontaneity, warmth, pure emotion. No censorship, no thought, no permission • We were the world, we were the universe. Everything was a reflection of us, because we didn’t know awareness except through others • The goal in coaching our way, is to get back to that • But you’ve got to get through the crud • The negative self talk, the darkness, the limiting beliefs, the low self esteem, the fears, the shame • A kid under 5 sees no difference between themselves and the world around them • Then we start hearing the word no • We here you can’t, you don’t, you shouldn’t, I can’t believe you did that • Because we’re young, and there’s no difference between us and the world, everything we hear is true • We have no way of defending our selves from it, if it’s said by a magical big person, it’s the truth • And we internalize it • This is the work that we will do, to undo that internalization and that conditioning 6.05 The journey in coaching is to get through the crud and get back to the core • So who has some crud to work through? • Audience member: I have a fear of public speaking due to being laughed at at a young age • Sharon: So can I ask you a question? Who is your best self? • AM: I love people, I see good in everyone, I’m here for a purpose, and I need to help others, and I have to put my fear aside • Sharon: Your best self already has put her fear aside. She’s looking pretty amazing to me, she has passion, she has purpose, she makes a difference. Tell me more about her • AM: I want to be a great example for my children • Sharon: Your best self is a great example • AM: Yes, I am a great example for my family, I’m a great coach, I have self confidence, and I’m a great speaker! • Sharon: Your amazing, you just met the truth, and boy was she ready to come out! That’s not always the case. 10.17 Audience member shares about working through her frustration with her son’s reaction to her coaching 14.25 Audience member shares about her shame about her emotions stemming from a parent’s lack of vulnerability 16.31 Sharon: So this model, to me, has been a lifeline for me • Most of us as children, were never allowed to emote fully to completion • We would start an emotion, and it would be interrupted by a big person • Don’t pull that face around me young man, knock that off, big boys don’t cry, if you’re going to cry go to you’re room • An emotion interrupted as a child, is what we link shame to • Then instead of feeling that emotion properly, we feel shame • So we need to figure out, what emotions have I not allowed myself to have • And can I be present to someone who I can trust, who will let me experience that emotion, fully, to completion, without shaming or interrupting • It’s called mirroring or witnessing • I did this exercise many times, and it’s how I got from the crud to the core 19.45 It might have gone like this • When I was younger I was shamed when I didn’t speak well in front of one of my parents friends • I realize now, that wasn’t okay, in fact I’m kind of pissed off about it • It’s ridiculous that I was expected to be perfect as a child • And my witness partner might say “tell me more” • I’m six years old, and I’m expected to be perfect around big people, who know the rules, and don’t tell me the rules until I break the rules? • How am I supposed to get that right at that age? That’s ridiculous • My witness partner said “that’s not okay” • I reclaimed what I know should have happened when I was six years old • I was validated as I should have been at the time • And through doing this, we break through the crud, one bit at a time • We reclaim us OTHER RESOURCES: • World Tour – www.tci.rocks/worldtour • Ultimate You Book - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

IMPORTANT RESOURCES World Tour – www.tci.rocks/worldtour •Book Signing – https://www.gsi.rocks/ultimate-you-invitation •Barnes and Noble Phone #: +1 212-253-0810 •Barnes and Noble Online Order – www.gsi.rocks/exclusive-pre-order •Ultimate You Book – Pre-Order Link -www.ultimateyouquest.com/book Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Sharon, along with Glam and others are soon embarking on TCI’s first world tour and in this episode, they share some details on what’s going to make it so special. If you make it to one of the locations, you can expect high levels of openness and spontaneity, and to dive right in and play with some tricky but important topics, including Sharon’s three guiding questions: Is what I’m doing working? If it’s not working, what am I doing about it? If I’m going to do something about it, who’s already done it and what did they do? 0.55 I think people already know, but this podcast is to reconfirm the World Tour announcement •We’re going to New York, Los Angeles, London, Melbourne, Sydney, and then maybe somewhere in Singapore and/or Auckland •The training we’re going to be doing is How to Become a Successful Coach •16 years ago I went to an event like this and for 16 years I’ve been remembering how it touched me and shaped my journey •Now we get that opportunity to have these conversations with people who are perhaps just at the beginning of their journey •One of the great gifts of coaching is not only helping other people but how much you grow and learn about yourself through your service to others •When I started my journey, I was filled with fears and self-doubt •Every limit you could imagine around self sabotage I had, and I still have a few of them •My starting point was “How do I get out of bed and function?” •So if you’re there, or anywhere further down the path, you’ll have a great time at this event 5.39 We were in Sydney just a few weeks ago, and one of the members shared that she saw a two-minute video of you (Sharon) and it reignited a fire within her, to change the world, that she hasn’t felt since she was a teenager •It’s okay to dream that big! Who convinced you that your dream wasn’t worth holding on to? •Hopefully that two minute video helped, It can be a hard journey, a meandering journey, but it’s worth it •That’s part of what’s so powerful about what you teach now, is you’ve taken the meandering journey and you’ve developed such amazing models that other people can follow 7.14 There are three questions that dictate how I live my life •Is what I’m doing working? •If it’s not working, what am I doing about it? •If I’m going to do something about it, who’s already done it and what did they do? •When we ask is it working that could mean, is what you’re doing giving you joy, fulfilment, meaning? •Are you’re choices enabling you to have intimate relationships with yourselves and others that you love? •If not, are you going to do something about it? And who are you going to do it with? 10.12 I used to have this wonderful diluted of the world, that If I keep doing this harder and more the eventually world will see it my way •Then one day it occurred to me, the world’s not changing •It took me 17 years to realize the world’s probably not going to change, it’s probably going to need to be me •If there’s anything that’s worth showing up to this event for it’s not the one or two days we have together it’s the 17 years I’ve invested learning this stuff •We feel best when we’re making progress •When you show up to this event you can’t expect to sit back, I’ll be asking the hard questions •It’s okay not to have the answers, but be willing to play around and try some things on •The most important things are to be open to learn, spontaneous, and emotionally open with yourself and others 16.30 You know how often I’ve gotten the feedback that I should soften the message? But I can’t… •I can’t do that because someone who is ready for the message might not hear it because I’m not courageous enough to say it and that would be a huge disservice to them •I’m not interested in the status quo, I’m not interested in emotional safety where nothing is risked, not interested in covering up 19.40 As coaches, we learn to hold people with our hearts and help them with our heads •But you can’t help with the head if you haven’t got the heart •If we can’t see them, with everything, the shame, everything their hiding, and hold them gently with all of that, there are limits on that breakthrough •Once you’re holding someone fully, you can start to answer the important questions •You’ve got to feel it, you can’t be totally intellectual and passive about it •And that’s who comes along to the workshops, they come ready to lean in and get right into it •One way I like to open, is we have to act like we’ve known each other for 20 years 23.35 Let’s talk about the Barnes & Noble Union square book signing •Wednesday, 25th of September, 7pm •If you’re in New York, come along, bring friends and family •Apparently it’s the biggest book store in New York •We’d love to have a big showing •There will be a golden scroll gift if you come and buy the book which includes interviews and various other bonuses (see in resources below) •Barnes & Noble got exclusive rights to the book in New York •If you can’t make it, contact Barnes & Noble to order it, and Sharon will sign some in advance (contact info in resources) •If you order it from Barnes & Noble remotely, we’ll send you the golden scroll via email (send us your receipt at TImeToAct@TheCoachingInstitute.com.au) •Order by 25th of September 27.35 This book has changed people’s lives •3 men in the past few months have shared with me that the book has saved their lives •Tom shared “As I worked through the models of self love, I reconnected with my heart, my emotions and my inner world. I let go of fears, control, and anger and took responsibility for my own needs…I now love being me” •We would love to see you on the world tour and at the book signing!

Self-Care is not as simple as taking baths, lighting candles and pampering yourself, it’s allowing yourself the time to feel your emotions and tell yourself you’re doing great, who you are today is okay, all of you is enough, more than. Tune into this episode of #Perspectives to learn the steps to take to develope and practice true self-care and self-compassion so that you can bring more love and light into your life. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Ultimate You Book – www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube KEY TOPICS/ TIME STAMPS 1.55 Continue the conversation on compassion…what is self-compassion… What it means to have compassion for yourself. - Often as soon as you say compassion people think it's something you got to bring for other people. - Seeing myself accurately and accepting myself which is always an unfolding journey - Every time I think I'm getting to know myself then a year later I look back, I knew nothing. - Favourite line from Game of Thrones is the ‘You know nothing Jon Snow’ because every year when I think I’m getting a clue, a year goes past and I realise you know nothing Sharon. - Self-compassion has not been my strong suit. I always strive so much and I want to grow so much, and I want to learn so much. Pausing and even long enough to reflect, ‘You’re okay, you’re okay as you are, you’re doing okay,’ instead of striving for the next thing to ‘be okay’. - That's been a big part of my addiction for years and I've been working for five years now on enjoying the pauses the breaths, as much as the run, the sprint and as much as the marathon. - But it's still my slick. This journey for me of self-compassion is accepting me as I am in this moment and being really okay about it, including all my flaws. - But to say I accept myself, I've got to see myself accurately first. So to me self-compassion isn't an arrival point it's an ever unfolding moments of learning more about who I am and who I could be and how I'm showing up. - And it's not as simple as having baths and light candles and meditating. Self-compassion is I'm doing great. Who I am today is okay, all of me is more than enough. More than. • **5.30 • So it's not just bath salts and candles and mood lighting. Which people call self-care, It’s a much deeper reflection within ourselves. Am I showing up in this** moment taking care of me? You know people pleasers. This is for you. People pleasing is, suppressing me expressing what I need in this moment. • Self-compassion is feeling it, noticing I feel it, acknowledging I feel it, expressing I feel it and then the ultimate is having that acknowledged appropriately and compassionately, that self-compassion. compassion could probably be measured by how people allow you to express and can reflect it back to you accurately, respectfully and appropriately and fully not just the bits and aspect that their comfortable with but all the aspects. 7.30 - What would be the first step for someone that supresses their emotions to begin to identify what their feeling - I've had feelings all my life everybody has. To consciously tune into it for the purposes of self-compassion, that's a whole different conversation because we can reactively just feel what we feel and say that’s self-compassion but it’s not. - So you and I would always have feelings, we're just suppressing them or not worrying about them, not think about it and get busy doing something else. Think whatever, dismiss it and think other things are more important. But that’s not very good, that’s not self-compassion. But there is a time and place for that, like when I'm in business and I'm doing a strategy meeting, I'm all good having access to being able to supress. - And also that’s a self-compassion component, that there's a time for feelings and there’s a time for facts and I can access both as easily. 9.10 So how do you take the first step to tune into your emotions - So the first step is knowing the language of emotions. This is in the book Ultimate You. So knowing the basic emotions: happiness, sadness, disappointment ,resentment, I believe shame is also one that's generally not talked about. Just basic emotions, joy, sadness, they're there the basic emotions just know the language for that. - Plenty of people relate to anger which the basic emotion. People pleasers will relate to happiness, scratch the surface and they won't go to anger, that's generalizing, some do but there's gonna be comfort levels 10.00 Anger is a way to translate sadness into something powerful. - this is why a lot of guys are very comfortable with anger, but what they’re really saying is I can translate fear or sadness into something that gives me power. - So that’s your secondary emotion, anger is really an expression of a boundary violation that we've violated within ourselves or someone's violated but that's where people go comfortably. 10.20 So How do you do it Step 1: get comfortable with the language of the basic emotions anger sadness disappointment joy happiness curiosity. Just name some basic ones. It could be within your repertoire. Could be a little bit out of focus. Step 2: Ask yourself which of these do I play with and which do I just push away. • The point a lot of people just stopped trying is because they've trained everybody around them to not accept their, insert your emotion here, and I think especially with this education and without knowing all these layers underneath it they will come to the conclusion that that's just the way the world is now. They wouldn't know how to change it; they wouldn't know that they've created it. • It's true, so many years when I went to go to express sadness and got rejected, suppressed, denied, ignored, neglected, shamed, I learnt said you can't be sad read people and then start realizing how often people can be sad around me… • And it's really easy to stop there and just go man, ‘this is too hard’ or not even get conscious about it and just go unconscious they just shut it down. • Step 3. Next step towards this is… • There’s a level here of suck it up. It's really tough and it would be easy to tortes the shit out of this and put your head right back in and just ignore and go into your cave. • Then you've got to face, how do I change the nature of my relationships with people around me? 18.40 How I got friendly with my emotions - My husband and I went travelling as you know for six weeks overseas and I decided this is it. I'm going to learn how to have an emotion in front of someone, not supress it, be comfortable with it. And I'm going to keep doing it until I'm really friendly with my emotions and I'm friendly with the idea of other people being friendly with my emotions. - And that's where the whole mirroring exercise came from. So everything I wrote in the book is what I did. 20.00 Story of how she did the mirroring exercise with her husband - Mirroring is when you start doing it and the other person has to be the parent and you'd wished you had when the first event happened until you can parent yourself the way you wished you had. So the other person needs to be open, curious, not try and fix it, no judgement, not make it about you and maintain eye contact and positivity not rah rah. 28.20 Shame loves shadows - I think when people hear compassion they sometimes think they have to do it alone and that it’s gonna start with themselves. It's OK if and it's important for you to maybe hear this from someone. In fact it’s vital - Shame loves shadows, so the emotions were not comfortable with, we feel shame, we feel rejection or we feel a need to hide it. These are all variants of shame so we felt those emotions as a child and it was shamed by not being literally shamed but it could have been mocked, judged, rejected, ignored, neglected, shunted aside or made insignificant or silly, six or seven different ways it's shamed, then in adulthood our own consciousness is still playing out the same thing that emotion is required for this moment of intimacy. But because I link shame to that emotion I won't be able to show up and into this moment because I'm feeling shame right now and it’s going to be all about me. So we need that person so we can play out that unconscious pattern in a safe way where it's all about us. - And here's the thing you never reverse the role if you will my mirroring partner I don't then turn into yours because we need to learn the unconditional acceptance of it's all about you as you feel that yucky read emotion not friendly with emotion, the point is not about being a trade.

Compassion can often be confused between self-sacrifice and empathy…so what is true compassion? Discover the difference and learn how to take the steps to fully embody compassion on this episode of #Perspectives, so that you can begin to have deeper and more meaningful relationships with others and yourself. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 **Key Topics and Timestamps 1.15 What is compassion and what is not compassion.** - Sometimes compassion can be confused between self-sacrifice or empathy or what is what….What is compassion? - I think it’s misrepresented a lot of the time. People say ‘I'm a compassionate person’ but there's a lot of surface to it. And we need to have depth. 2.00 Difference between Empathy and Compassion - To me empathy is feeling what I'm able to relate to, what someone else is feeling or experiencing. - compassion is going a step further and wanting to help resolve that or be part of their journey with them and be ok with that and not make you it about ourselves. - Whereas where it can get unhealthy is, it looks like compassion to someone, though what they're really doing is making their feelings that person's feelings or taking on the person whose hurting feelings and being upset with them. 3.30 Example of expressing empathy vs compassion - Empathy is a demonstration. It’s wanting to know the feelings, perceptions and thoughts - Compassion is working out with the person what do we do with this, do we do anything, do we just sit with it. - Without empathy we can’t have compassion 5.38 Before empathy there first comes the I-amness, the sense of self Download the I-Amness Triad model here: www.tci.rocks/i-amness-model**** 6:00 Narcissistic Listening - Narcissistic listening is not compassion. This type of listening is, they shared something and then you say, ‘yea that happened to me,’ or ‘recently I’ turning the conversation back on them. 6:35 Steps and layers - Compassion is the top Layer - Then empathy to get compassion - But we’ve got to earn empathy by being able to be kind to ourselves - To be kind to self is to have a sense of our own I-amness and enough-ness that ‘I can handle that’ which is a demonstration of self-esteem - So the order goes: o Compassion o Empathy o Resilience o Self-esteem  Boundaries  Needs  And emotionality - Compassion requires you to be able to be completely comfortable in your emotions because if you’re not comfortable with your emotions you shut them down…when someone else displays those emotions you’re not comfortable with you can’t be compassionate, ask the right questions to tune into it because you don’t have a healthy relationship with it - Therefor this version of compassion can come off as shame 9:00 An example of truly being compassionate - If someone can o Dive into your pain o Dive into your shame o Are into what your celebrating - So to be able to be compassionate you have to be able to be there in pain, shame and glory 12:00 lessons from learning compassion and contrast - The way I look at it in this case is, what were the emotions. - Find out what were the needs - What is it this person needed in that time - And ask them what did you need then, what needed to have happened for you to have felt loved, included and safe and to feel that compassion was present to you. - And then boundaries - Do you do you feel that you were supporting your boundaries when you set that thing or did you feel your boundaries were not being supported when you said that? - Resilience is believing in the choice in the face of hopelessness. 16:15 Example of healthy boundaries - The more that you respect your boundaries and understand them the more I can understand yours and where mine ends and yours begin and you can do the same for me. - It’s knowing, that’s me and that’s you and we’re not the same 18.20 My core values - my values are o health o fitness o vitality o love o wisdom o truth o playfulness 19:57 Why it’s the gift to give to people

If you have been wondering how you can start achieving the goals that matter, this episode of #Perspectives is for you. We have done something a little different for this episode, taking you straight into a training room with Sharon Pearson and a group of wonderful life coaches to explore why and how we set aspirational goals and the one shift it really takes to achieve them. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 Key Topics and Time Stamps: 0.00 Why I don’t coach people on what they want first but secondary o Understanding that the goal we set and what we say we aspire to achieve isn’t our truth. o We set aspirational goals as a way to mask our current state. o We think we’re going to go for it consciously but unconsciously we have no intention of doing it. It’s a way of displacing our pain and shame of not living up to who we thought we’d be. 5.00 What I coach on now o I don’t coach on the goal someone wants to achieve; I coach on the truth of how they are hiding, who they’re not being, what they are missing about themselves. o I hope to recover who they’re meant to be and how they can grow and as they change their perception of themselves, they change their goal because their goal was a way of putting outside of ourselves if I get that then I’m okay. o What if we reverse it and coach people on how to be okay rather than how to achieve a goal to feel okay. 6.20 Reaching Goals isn’t about working harder it’s about changing your strategy o Start getting your mind working for you then ask yourself well now I know who I am and I love who I am what is it I’m really looking to create. 7.30 Ambition with meaning is misery o That’s why people keep pursuing the goal wondering if they’ll ever catch happiness and they never do because their strategy is wrong from the beginning. 7.58 Over Ambition and Under Ambition o Under Ambition is a sense of give-up-ness o When I coach someone and I see them flaking and being completely disconnected from even having a go, I’m seeing what I call give-up-ness o When I identify that I almost immediately know what happened in their past for them to have landed on that strategy 8.40 Example of Under Ambition o Someone in their 40’s who’s still under ambitious, easily lacks resilience, doesn’t push through, dresses poorly, doesn’t take care of themselves, has failed repeatedly to hold a job down, it’s always the bosses fault. o I know immediately that that’s a strategy they learned and perfected in childhood. o No one comes into life wanting to mess it all up. It’s painful to constantly have defeat and setbacks and never ever have a reason to feel different and freaky, that’s a painful way to live. o So I know at some point in childhood there was a trigger. From adults, caretaker, a ‘big person’ who has responsibility for caring for them did something, behaved a certain way, rewarded it, punished a certain behaviour. And that child has associated that reward and punishment to how they should behave. ‘Don't sine too much,’ ‘you’re a bit big for your boots there,’ ‘no one likes a smart girl’. o There is two ways to respond, over ambition or under ambition o You can’t keep coaching on goals and ignoring their under ambition as they will always default back to their under ambition never achieving those goals 12.45 I-Amness Traits o Traits we are often born with that we often grow out of by the time we reach adulthood. These include  Creativity  Resilience  Risk taking  Playfulness  Sense of humour  Lovingness  Intuition  Curiosity o Ask yourself, when was the last time you experienced these qualities o Observe if and when these qualities arise. o 15.25 Example of an observable trait that we can use to understand why someone acts the way they do…  What qualities and aspects have been denied and conditioned to cause them to act in a certain way. Resources: Ultimate You Book – - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book -Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com -Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings -Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com -Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 -The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach -Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com -Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmlnQBgHQ/

ESPN's Sam Khan joins the show to give our report from THSCA Coaching School in Houston. Topics include straight-line recruiting, why Dana Holgorsen and Houston are a great fit and the unique situations that Rice and Texas Southern face.

We're back from Houston, and we're trying to catch up! We talk to Greg Powers of Next Level Athlete about this week's biggest recruiting news, recap our trip to H-town and say an early goodbye to an intern you don't yet know, but will soon.

If you’re curious about learning the best strategies for aligning your habits with your goals so you can begin living the life you want, then this episode is for you. Sharon dives into how she utilises strategies to move her closer to living an awesome life. The self-awareness, pattern recognition, the trial and error and healthy habits she continues to establish and re-establish, helps her to create her ideal average day where she feels fulfilled, love, joy and calm. If this is something that you want to create in your own life click play, take notes and lets go on this wonderful journey together. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Ultimate You Book – Pre-Order Link - www.ultimateyouquest.com/book Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

As coaches, we build leaders for the game, through the game, and beyond the game. In this weeks episode, we’re coming to you live from the Texas High School Coaches Association, Coaching School. Mackey shares the building blocks of leadership and how leadership hinges upon identity. Key takeaways from this podcast: Model, teach, test, and reward to lay a positive identity in your athletes Who you are determines what you do What you do reveals who you are   Download Mackey’s Talk Handout: www.2words.tv/coachingschool    Get a FREE WEEK of curriculum: www.2words.tv/gameplan   Bring Mackey to YOUR school: www.mackeyspeaks.com/contact  Follow us: @mackeyspeaks @2wordstv

In our latest episode, Mackey is live from the Texas High School Coaches Association Coaching School talking about the 8 pillars of a culture of character. Key takeaways from this podcast: Athletics teach skillsets that will NEVER expire Integrity will not ONLY be learned by example. You have to MODEL and TEACH. Intentionality comes when you have a culture that values character   Download Mackey’s Talk Handouts: www.2words.tv/coachingschool   Bring Mackey to YOUR school: www.mackeyspeaks.com/contact   Get a FREE WEEK of curriculum: www.2words.tv/gameplan   Follow us on social: @2wordstv @mackeyspeaks

Discover all magic behind The Coaching Institutes success and the mess that comes with running a 8-figure business. Sharon is joined by the amazing Matt Lavars, the head trainer, who is literally the embodiment of everything that The Coaching Institute stands for. He is living his dream today as a successful coach, and a successful trainer, rocking out with our students. This episode goes into the raw truth and commercial reality behind the ups and downs of running a successful business. If you're up for a frank and open conversation about business success, this is the episode for you. So grab a cup of tea and join us as we dive into this conversation together. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Ultimate You Book – Pre-Order Link - www.ultimateyouquest.com/book Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube

Self-awareness is the basis to having a healthy relationship with your reality. Join Sharon Pearson and Joe Pane, a master coach and world-class trainer, as they dive into self-awareness and how to measure whether we are seeing our reality accurately and how it affects our relationships. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: - Learn more about what a Map is and what it means for you– www.tci.rocks/map-is-not-territory - Ultimate You Book – Pre-Order Link - www.ultimateyouquest.com/book - Ben Greenfield Health and Gitness - https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/ - Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com - Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings - Sharon’s New Website!! - www.sharonpearson.com - Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ - Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 - The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach - Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com - Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube Full Transcript: www.sharonpearson.com/blog

Discover the truth behind Sharon Pearon's 'overnight success'. Join Sharon Pearson and Elysium Nguyen (Glam) in the long awaited discussion on how Sharon created her successful business and the journey from where it all began to now. If you are just starting out in your business, already a business owner or thinking about that pathway, this is the episode for you. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: - Ultimate You Book – www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book - Ultimate You Quest Telecast – www.ultimateyouquest.com/perspectives - Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings - Podcast, upcoming events, books – www.sharonpearson.com - Disruptive Leadership - https://disruptiveleading.com/ - The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris - https://fourhourworkweek.com/ - Flow State (Coined by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi) - https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/mihaly-csikszentmihalyi-father-of-flow/ - Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 - The Coaching Institute Fan Page - https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach/ - Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topic to be discussed – perspectives@sharonpearson.com or visit www.sharonpearson.com/perspectives - Perspectives Youtube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ

When you start something new in business… it’s not going to be everything that you love all of the time and I think that’s one of the biggest misconceptions.

Carolyn Freyer Jones, or CFJ, is a powerhouse coach who has been referred to as a "straight-talking New Yorker mixed with pure compassion." You can tell she's done her work on herself. She has a serenity and a clarity and a confidence about her that is palpable and can only make the experience of working with her so much more profound. --- In our conversation today, CFJ drops a handful of wisdom bombs that will definitely serve you in your professional and personal lives. For example: "Courage isn't the absence of fear. It's moving forward with it." --- She has her own Coaching School now, the CFJ Coaching Success School and you can learn more about that on her website. carolynfreyerjones@gmail.com https://www.carolynfreyerjones.com https://www.facebook.com/carolyn.freyerjones --- https://christopherdorris.com/tough-talks-carolyn-freyer-jones-executive-and-personal-coach/ --- If you enjoyed this content and you are not getting notifications of new posts, then I invite you to signup to my list. Please also share this with the people in your world that would also dig this post and benefit from it. --- https://christopherdorris.com/lists --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mental-toughness-podcasts/message

What's the difference between reacting and responding? Join Sharon Pearson and Elysium Nguyen (Glam) as they dive deep into conversations about why we react emotionally, tools to become self-aware, and strategies on how to respond in a way that's full of clarity and calm. If you are someone that experiences 'emotional roller coasters' and want to bring more stability, fulfilment and calm peace into your days, then this episode is for you. Get your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: -Ultimate You Book – www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book -Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com -Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings -Podcast & Books - www.sharonpearson.com -#PERSPECTIVESTOUR - www.sharonpearson.com -Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 -The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach -Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com -Perspectives Youtube Channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmlnQBgHQ/ Full Transcript: www.sharonpearson.com/blog

Join Sharon as she discusses how her journey all began, the desperation, the need for more and what she did to to make the shift towards living the life she couldn't have imagined.

PERSPECTIVES Episode 2: Sneak Peek: When I looked inside and I didn't like what I found... Join Sharon as she discusses how her journey all began, the desperation, the need for more and what she did to to make the shift towards living the life she couldn't have imagined.

It’s hard to find a community where you can freely be yourself without judgement, a community that encourages you to learn, including through mistakes. A community that celebrates being unique, raw and honest without ridicule. In this episode, Sharon Pearson dives deep into how she came to build her successful, supportive, open and loving community on the back of her toughest year in The Coaching Institute’s history. Get your FREE getting started as a successful coach giftpack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020 RESOURCES MENTIONED: - Ultimate You Book – www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book - Disruptive Leadership Book - https://www.disruptiveleading.com/book/sale/ - Ultimate You Quest Book – https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/ultimate-you/ - Ultimate You Quest Telecast – www.ultimateyouquest.com/perspectives - Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topic to be discussed – perspectives@sharonpearson.com or visit www.sharonpearson.com/perspectives - Perspectives Youtube Channel -https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ/ - The Coaching Institute Fan Page - https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach/ - Podcast, upcoming events, books – www.sharonpearson.com - The Coddling of the American Mind - Book by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt - The Tipping Point – Malcom Gladwell

Welcome back to another episode of Christian Coaching School podcast after a long break. I’m excited to share some very cool announcements with you today.  Among them are: PCCCA, the Professional Christian Coaching Academy is now part of Anew University. We’ve added a full time staff member to head Student Services. There will be a new Support Schedule to make response times more predictable. For support, contact us at http://beautifulsupportdesk.com. Here’s more details … For your convenience, support phone lines, both US and International … NEW COURSES! Group Coaching Facilitator – best way to gain one-to-one clients is coaching groups and we give you the exact steps. Learn more at http://groupcoachingfacilitator.com Advanced Professional Life Coach Certification course https://pccca.org/advanced/ Actionable Content Includes: 1. Effortless client attraction 2. Conversations guaranteed to convert prospects into paying clients 3. Advanced client on-boarding – show your clients an extraordinary experience from the moment they sign up to work with you! Here’s how. 4. Advanced Coaching Model – will give you laser focus in problem solving … help your clients quickly solve any coachable problem. (Your clients will LOVE this!) NEW Academy joins our family – Essential Oil Academy  https://essentialoilacademy.com With over 10 million new essential oil sales people and consultants, largely untrained, this certification is what customers are looking for: Board Certified Essential Oil Practitioner (accredited by American Association of Drugless Practitioners!). New Referral Partner program at Essential Oil Academy - earn $100 per student referral, no limit – get the details at https://essentialoilacademy.com/partners/ Also on this podcast ... DON'T MISS … my special announcement about working with me personally. Come on and listen in!  You’ll be glad you did.

Dr. Nic Weatherly of the Florida Institute of Technology joins me in Session 61 to explore a few areas of Organizational Behavior Management, namely coaching staff members in public school settings, whether Board Certification is necessary for OBM practitioners, as well as the ethical considerations of OBM practices. In our conversation, Nic fielded numerous excellent listener questions having to do with topics such as pay-for-performance, how to get good training and supervision in OBM, and book recommendations for BCBA's who are looking to learn more in this area. Nic is the author of the forthcoming book, Deliberate Coaching, which he co-wrote with Dr. Paul Gavoni (and you can learn more about Paulie here or here). Nic talked about the book a little bit, but was gracious in naming a variety of other books and articles in the OBM space that he likes as well. I have attempted to list them all here: We talked about Aubrey Daniels' books quite a bit, so for the sake of expedience, click here to check out Aubrey's author page at Amazon. Long time listeners will also recall that Aubrey appeared way back in Session 30 of the podcast. Paradox of Organizational Change, by ABAI's own, Dr. Maria Malott. Rapid Change: Immediate Action for the Impatient Leader, by Joe Laipple. Coaching for Performance, by John Whitmore. Expanding the Customer Base for Behavior-Analytic Services, by LeBlanc, Heinicke, & Baker (2012). I'll keep you posted as to when Nic's book becomes available! This podcast episode is sponsored by the following: Constellations Behavioral Services. CBS believes that everyone can learn, everyone can participate, and everyone can communicate. They provide outstanding ABA services in both New Hampshire and Massachusetts, and to learn more about career opportunities at CBS, click here. Clinical Behavior Analysis, Kentucky’s leading provider of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA), counseling and direct support services to individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities, acquired brain injury and autism. They are about to open The Center for Behavior Analysis, a 13,000 square foot, state of art facility in Louisville, KY, and they’re looking for a clinical director to lead a highly motivated team of clinicians and technicians. So to learn more, go to cbacares.com/careers and set up your confidential interview today! HRIC, which brings 30 years of recruiting experience to help BCBA's find their dream jobs. Click here to schedule your confidential inquiry. And while not technically a sponsor, if you're in the midwest and want to check out a cool event, consider attending the Hoosier Association for Behavior Analysis' 10th anniversary conference. I've interviewed almost everyone on the speakers' roster, so I know attendees are bound to hear some good stuff. I'll also be doing my first live, in-person podcast with HABA's keynote speaker, Dr. Matthew Normand. It should be a good time had by all, and I hope to see you there!

Welcome to the Christian Coaching School Podcast.  I have wanted to do this podcast for quite some time but it had to be the right time. If you are in my inner circle, you may be aware I have been busy writing the 2nd edition of my book, the Comprehensive Christian Coaching Handbook, Essential Guide to Spirit-Led Coaching and Business Success.  whew … long name …   The first edition was actually published back in 2009 and at that time it was a manifesto of sorts.  Prior to my book, Christian coaching had been taught almost the same as secular coaching, but scripture was added for the Christian audience. And … you and I both know what happens when you add random scripture to validate your secular point.  It becomes far LESS about what God wants and MORE about what a person wants. Because of this I had known for a very long time that I would eventually write a textbook as the foundation for an actual scripturally-based Christian Life Coach training program. The book we had used was no longer in print and the truth is, I could not begin then, to offer compromised training to our students.  When I published the book and thereby pulled back the curtain on what had come before, there were a few unhappy coach trainers out there because the truth had been revealed.  But I believe we have to do what we feel is right in this world and that takes courage a lot of the time because the enemy is never happy when God’s truth is revealed. So despite that, God prevailed and His word was laid as the true foundation. The Christian life coach training that we offer at the Professional Christian Coaching and Counseling Academy aka PCCCA, at http://pccca.org is based on my book, so you can be sure that the content of the training is pure. As I say in my book, I wrote it because God inspired it, every step of the way. I am just telling you this because I think it’s important for you to know who you are listening to. And I promise to keep you updated when I get close to publishing the 2nd edition. So … what else can I tell you about me and what we do here … ? Since 2003 we have trained thousands and thousands of Christian life coaches worldwide at PCCCA and we have graduates on every continent. I have also trained many if not most, of the current Christian coach trainers. Most of them are even now on my email list.  And if that’s you … I know you are out there LOL  And hey, it’s all good. I hope what we create here continues to bless you and those you teach. We all serve the same Lord after all. Right? We also hosted the first annual Christian Coaching Week this year which was a great success with participants from all over the world. To join in the event next year, just visit the website at http://christiancoachingweek.com and ask us to send you updates for registration. I look forward to getting to know you during our time together on this podcast. There will be lots of opportunities for you to communicate back to me with your thoughts and what you would like to hear more about. Finally, I want to introduce you to some of the topics you can expect to learn more about on this podcast.  Now these are in no particular order and the list is certainly not complete as I will add topics based on listener request as well. Ok … I will be talking about … The importance of the Lord building your coaching practice The top Coaching Questions to help you Get your Clients Unstuck How You Can position yourself for God to promote you How to Make Sure Your ideas Outlive you – creating a legacy I will also give previews into our current and new courses and how I think they will help you. We’ll discuss Time management matters and accountability How to Write your Coach Bio – quickly, correctly and effectively How to Easily Attract Clients to your Coaching practice How You TOO can become an Agent of Change We’ll talk about why coaching friends and family might not work so well I will teach you about Coaching styles and how to know if you are using them correctly I will have at least one episode about Sabotage, Success Traps and how to avoid them I’ll give you LOTS of power questions to improve your clients' results You’ll hear Professional Image Tips I will teach on how to talk to non-believers in a way they will receive your message – this is critical in our personal and professional walk And I may also bring on a special guest now and then. And SO much more.  I can’t wait to begin this journey with you, so go ahead click on the next episode and if you like this podcast, I will be honored if you share it with your colleagues and leave a review. ... Continue listening for a great, free offer!

Celebrating Women for National Women's History Month. The theme is SMART Women. SMART stands for Spiritual, Motivating, Achievers, Resourceful and Timewise. My special guest tonight is Board Certified Coach Kizzie Jones. Kizzie Jones is A Board Certified Life and Business Coach who was born and raised in the beautiful city of New Orleans. It is there she  developed as a life learner who has had an innate curiosity about people and a deep passion for literature as long as she could remember. She has  the most amazing fourteen-year-old daughter and it is her daughter that Kizzie feels keeps her  grounded, focused and motivated. In 2005, Kizzie's life would forever change when Hurricane Katrina devastated the City of New Orleans. This tragic event would set the stage for the leader, giver and encourager Kizzie is  today.  She has numerous university degrees.  In 2011, Kizzie began attending Robbins Maddanas Center; a Tony Robin's Coaching School and that same year She simultaneously attended Fielding University's Evidence Based Coaching Program. In 2011, Kizzie decided to combined her skills, strengths and ten years of sales experience and create Get Socialized Marking Firm.  She has achieve success through strength based methods, appreciative coaching, resonant relationships and constant examination of her emotional intelligence. Her teaching tonight is "Finding Prosperity in your Purpose: How to Make Money Doing What You love!" The truth is, you cannot become rich or achieve any other kind of success in life if you don't have passion about what you are doing. During this show your will learn how important passion is and what different forms it must take in order to point your life in the right direction.      

Celebrating Women for National Women's History Month. The theme is SMART Women. SMART stands for Spiritual, Motivating, Achievers, Resourceful and Timewise. My special guest tonight is Board Certified Coach Kizzie Jones. Kizzie Jones is A Board Certified Life and Business Coach who was born and raised in the beautiful city of New Orleans. It is there she  developed as a life learner who has had an innate curiosity about people and a deep passion for literature as long as she could remember. She has  the most amazing fourteen-year-old daughter and it is her daughter that Kizzie feels keeps her  grounded, focused and motivated. In 2005, Kizzie's life would forever change when Hurricane Katrina devastated the City of New Orleans. This tragic event would set the stage for the leader, giver and encourager Kizzie is  today.  She has numerous university degrees.  In 2011, Kizzie began attending Robbins Maddanas Center; a Tony Robin’s Coaching School and that same year She simultaneously attended Fielding University’s Evidence Based Coaching Program. In 2011, Kizzie decided to combined her skills, strengths and ten years of sales experience and create Get Socialized Marking Firm.  She has achieve success through strength based methods, appreciative coaching, resonant relationships and constant examination of her emotional intelligence. Her teaching tonight is "Finding Prosperity in your Purpose: How to Make Money Doing What You love!" The truth is, you cannot become rich or achieve any other kind of success in life if you don’t have passion about what you are doing. During this show your will learn how important passion is and what different forms it must take in order to point your life in the right direction.      

Why do certain individuals or clients - including us! - surge forward nearly effortlessly, while others struggle to find their place? The secret key is : Energy and Engagement There are 7 levels of energy, which directly translates into the amount of energy you or your client can engage to be successful. These levels determine how we see the world and each person in it, including ourselves; and, therefore determine how well we can influence and inspire themselves and others to take powerful, purposeful action. Developed from the bestselling book Energy Leadership, this work allows learning change perceptions to work for, instead of against them – shifting you or your clients to the cause instead of the effect of their lives. Luke Iorio, President, Coach Training Division of iPEC shares his insights and major contribution to this wonderful book. iPEC, the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching, has emerged as a leader in the coaching industry over its 10 year history. Training over 3,000 coaches and operating schools in 12 cities now around the country, iPEC has built its reputation on the quality of its coaches, providing more support through its program, & its Core Energy Coaching process. You’re going to hear about the heart of this unique, transformative process tonight! Whether you're a coach looking to develop your skills or you want to explore these energy skills for your own development on your life journey, join us! Get the book at the deeply discounted price at www.energyleadership.net !