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Authentically ADHD – ADHD, Alexithymia, and Anhedonia: Understanding Emotions and MotivationHello and welcome to Authentically ADHD! I'm Carmen, your host. Today, we're diving into a topic that might hit very close to home for a lot of us: the confusing intersection of ADHD, alexithymia, and anhedonia. Now, those are some big, clinical-sounding words – but don't worry. We're going to break them down in plain language and talk about how they can overlap in real life. If you've ever thought, “Why can't I figure out what I'm feeling?” or “Why don't I enjoy things the way I used to?”, or if you find yourself emotionally drained after a long day of masking your ADHD traits, then this episode is for you.In this 25–30 minute journey, we'll mix a bit of neuroscience (in a friendly, non-intimidating way) with personal storytelling. I'll share some of my own experiences, and we'll explore what research says about why these experiences happen. By the end, you'll have a clearer understanding of what ADHD, alexithymia, and anhedonia really mean, why they often go hand-in-hand (especially in neurodivergent folks like us), and what we can do to cope and thrive. We'll also bust some common myths and misunderstandings – including why these issues often get overlooked or dismissed, especially in women and people diagnosed later in life. And as always, we'll wrap up with strategies and a big dose of validation and hope. So, get comfy (or start that task you've been putting off and take us along!), and let's get started.Understanding ADHD, Alexithymia, and AnhedoniaBefore we delve into how these things intersect, let's clearly define each of these terms. They each describe a different piece of the puzzle of our emotional and mental life. Understanding what they are will help us see how they connect. In a nutshell:ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder): ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder characterized by persistent patterns of inattention (difficulty focusing, forgetfulness), hyperactivity (restlessness, fidgeting), and impulsivity (acting without thinking) that interfere with daily functioningneurolaunch.com. In adults, ADHD can look like struggling to stay organized, constantly losing your keys, jumping from one idea to another, or even feeling emotionally impulsive. It's not just “kids being hyper” – it's a lifelong brain-based condition affecting how we concentrate, manage time, and regulate behavior and emotions.Alexithymia: Alexithymia is not a disorder but a personality trait or profile, often described as having difficulty identifying and describing your emotionsneurodivergentinsights.com. The word literally means “without words for emotion.” If you have alexithymia, you might feel strong emotions physically (like a racing heart or a knot in your stomach) but struggle to pinpoint what the emotion is (is it anxiety? anger? hunger?) and find words to express it. Alexithymia exists on a spectrum – some people have mild trouble with emotions, others have it to a more severe degreeneurodivergentinsights.com. It frequently co-occurs with neurodivergent conditions; in fact, research suggests that a significant subset of people with ADHD (estimates range from about 20% to over 40%) also have alexithymianeurodivergentinsights.combhcsmt.com. So, if you have ADHD and you've always felt “out of touch” with your emotions, alexithymia might be a concept that resonates with you.Anhedonia: Anhedonia means an inability or reduced ability to experience pleasure. It's like the volume knob for enjoyment is turned way down. People with anhedonia struggle to feel joy or interest in activities that used to be fun or rewardingneurolaunch.com. This term is often discussed in the context of depression (since losing pleasure is a core symptom of depressive episodes), but it's not exclusive to depression. As we'll explore, anhedonia can also show up in ADHD. If you find that hobbies, socializing, or accomplishments don't light you up the way they do for others (or the way they once did for you), anhedonia could be at play. It can feel like emotional flatness or being chronically “uninspired” – you want to want things, but the feeling isn't there.Each of these three – ADHD, alexithymia, and anhedonia – is distinct. ADHD is an officially recognized neurodevelopmental condition affecting attention and self-regulation. Alexithymia is a descriptive trait about emotional awareness. Anhedonia is a symptom state of not experiencing pleasure. Yet, despite their differences, these experiences often overlap and tangle together, especially for neurodivergent individuals. When someone has ADHD, they're more likely to also experience traits of alexithymianeurodivergentinsights.com, and they may be more prone to anhedonia or “low hedonic tone” (low baseline ability to feel reward) than the general populationen.wikipedia.org. Why is that? Let's dig into the brain science to find out.The Neuroscience Behind the OverlapSo, why do ADHD, alexithymia, and anhedonia so often form a trio? To answer that, we need to talk about how our brains process emotions and rewards. Don't worry – we'll keep it conversational. Imagine your brain as an orchestra: different sections handle different parts of the music. When everything's in tune, you get a harmonious experience of life – you feel emotions, you find joy in activities, you focus when you need to. With ADHD, alexithymia, and anhedonia, some sections of the orchestra are either playing off-key or playing too quietly to hear.One key player here is dopamine, a neurotransmitter often nicknamed the “reward chemical.” Dopamine is heavily involved in motivation, pleasure, and attention – basically the brain's way of saying “Hey, this is important/fun, focus on this!” In ADHD brains, dopamine signaling doesn't work typically; it can be underactive or dysregulatedneurolaunch.comneurolaunch.com. Think of it like a weak Wi-Fi signal in the reward circuits of the brain – messages about reward and pleasure just aren't getting through fast or strong enough. Because of this, everyday tasks might not feel as rewarding to someone with ADHD as they do to someone without ADHD. Science actually shows that ADHD-related dopamine impairments can dysregulate the brain's reward processing and lead to anhedonia (difficulty feeling pleasure) in some individualsen.wikipedia.org. In other words, the same brain chemistry quirk that makes it hard to concentrate can also turn down the volume on enjoyment and motivation.Now, what about alexithymia? While dopamine is more about the reward system, alexithymia has a lot to do with our brain's emotional awareness and interoception (a fancy word for sensing the internal state of your body). Some researchers believe alexithymia is essentially a problem with how the brain's insula and related regions process internal signalsbhcsmt.com. The insula is like the brain's monitor for bodily and emotional sensations – it helps you notice a fast heartbeat and connect it to “I feel anxious,” for example. In alexithymia, that monitoring system might be glitchy. Emotions are still happening under the hood (we still produce the bodily reactions and basic emotional responses), but the translation of those signals into conscious awareness and labels doesn't work well. It's as if the brain doesn't label the emotions correctly or at all. This is why someone with alexithymia can seem calm or unaffected externally while internally their heart is pounding – they truly might not recognize what they're feeling, or they might just register a vague discomfort without an emotional label. Interestingly, alexithymia has been called a “disconnect between the emotional and thinking parts of the brain.” The emotional signals are there, but the cortex (thinking brain) can't interpret them properly.So, how do these tie together? ADHD and alexithymia share some overlapping brain differences. For one, both are linked to difficulties in emotional regulation. ADHD isn't just about attention – many experts now recognize that emotional impulsivity and difficulty regulating feelings are core aspects of ADHD for many peopleneurodivergentinsights.com. If you have ADHD, you might feel things more intensely but also more fleetingly, and you can struggle to manage those feelings (for example, quick frustration, or being easily hurt by criticism, then rapidly switching to another mood). Now add alexithymia into the mix: you have big emotions (possibly ADHD-related) but poor insight into them. That's a challenging combo! In fact, having alexithymia can make it even harder for ADHDers to understand and regulate their emotional ups and downsneurodivergentinsights.comneurodivergentinsights.com. It's like trying to drive a car with a super sensitive gas pedal (ADHD emotions) but a foggy windshield (alexithymia blocking your view of what's happening inside you).Neuroscience also hints at other overlaps. Both ADHD and alexithymia have been associated with atypical functioning in the prefrontal cortex (the brain's executive control center) and in connections between the cortex and deeper emotional brain regions. ADHD's executive function challenges mean the brain can struggle to pause and reflect – which might also affect the ability to reflect on and name emotions. If you're constantly chasing the next stimulus or fighting to focus, you might not have the bandwidth to analyze “What am I feeling right now?” Similarly, alexithymia may involve less activation or connectivity in areas that integrate bodily states into emotional awareness (like the anterior insula, for those who love brain specifics). There's even some evidence pointing to dopamine's role in emotional awareness: conditions with dopamine dysfunction (like Parkinson's disease and yes, ADHD) show high rates of alexithymiabhcsmt.com. Fascinatingly, one study found that when ADHD patients with alexithymia were treated with stimulant medication (which boosts dopamine), their alexithymia scores improved and they became more emotionally aware over six monthsbhcsmt.combhcsmt.com. That's a neat clue that brain chemistry ties these experiences together. Dopamine doesn't just help you focus; it also might help you feel.In summary, the brain's reward and emotion systems are interconnected. ADHD's neurochemistry (like low dopamine) can set the stage for anhedonia – the brain isn't signaling “reward!” as it should, so you might not feel the pleasure or motivation that others do from the same eventneurolaunch.comen.wikipedia.org. Meanwhile, ADHD's cognitive and emotional dysregulation can set the stage for alexithymia – life is fast, attention is scattered, emotions swing, and the self-reflection wires get crossed, leaving you unsure of what you feel. And of course, alexithymia itself can contribute to anhedonia: if you struggle to recognize feelings, you might also have trouble recognizing pleasure or excitement. In fact, one hallmark of alexithymia is an externally oriented thinking style and little attention to inner feelings, which has been linked to a reduced ability to experience positive emotionsneurodivergentinsights.com. That sounds an awful lot like blunted pleasure. So these three concepts feed into each other in a cycle. Next, let's talk about what that cycle feels like in everyday life.When These Worlds Collide: Emotional Regulation, Motivation, and Daily LifeLiving with any one of these — ADHD, alexithymia, or anhedonia — can be challenging. But when they overlap, it can feel like a perfect storm. Let's paint a picture of how that overlap can complicate emotional regulation, motivation, and just day-to-day functioning:1. Emotional Regulation Woes: With ADHD, emotions can be intense and quick to change, but also quick to be forgotten. Add alexithymia, and you might not even know what you're feeling until it boils over. Many of us with ADHD have been told we're “too sensitive” or “overreacting,” when in reality we felt an emotion suddenly and strongly, and it was hard to modulate it. Now imagine not having a good handle on what that emotion was – that's the alexithymia piece. You might go from zero to sixty (calm to furious or panicked) without recognizing, “I'm getting upset” until you're at the breaking point. Afterwards, you might struggle to explain to someone (or to yourself) why you reacted that way, because you lack words for those internal states. This overlap often leads to feeling out of control or ashamed of one's emotions. It can also lead to something I call emotional whiplash: you're overwhelmed by feelings in one moment, and utterly numb the next. That numbness can be a form of anhedonia or emotional shutdown – a brain response where, after so much intense feeling and confusion, you kind of just go blank. Over time, experiencing this rollercoaster can make you anxious about your own emotional reactions (“What if I explode or break down and I don't even know why?”).2. Motivation and Reward: A common ADHD experience is struggling to start or finish tasks that aren't inherently interesting – our brains crave stimulation (the “interest-based nervous system,” as it's sometimes called). Now tack on anhedonia. If you don't feel much pleasure or reward even when you complete something or do something fun, it's doubly hard to motivate yourself. It becomes a vicious cycleneurolaunch.comneurolaunch.com: ADHD makes it hard to stick with activities (so you might impulsively seek something new or get distracted), and anhedonia makes it unrewarding to do so (so even if you stick to it, you feel like “meh, that was pointless”). Picture trying to play a video game where every time you accomplish a mission, the game doesn't give you any points or fanfare – you'd probably lose interest quickly! That's what the ADHD-anhedonia combo can feel like in real life. Even hobbies you know you used to love might not give you the dopamine hit they once did, which is deeply frustrating. You might cycle through activities or careers or relationships, always searching for that spark of joy or interest, but finding that your brain's reward system isn't lighting up as expected. People around you might label you as flaky or lazy, when in truth your brain is under-stimulated and under-rewarded, making sustained effort feel like running a marathon with ankle weights on.3. Daily Functioning and Executive Function: Executive functions (things like planning, organizing, time management) are already a challenge in ADHD. Combine that with these emotional and motivational difficulties, and daily life can get chaotic. For instance, say you have an important project to do. ADHD might have you procrastinating until the last minute because, well, focus is hard until urgency kicks in. Anhedonia means even the reward of “I'll feel proud when this is done” or “I'll enjoy doing this piece I usually like” doesn't register strongly, so there's not much internal pull to start the task. Meanwhile, alexithymia means you might not realize how anxious it's making you to leave it so late – you just feel a vague tension or you get irritable without connecting it to stress. All of this might result in a last-minute panic, tears of frustration you didn't see coming, or even a shutdown where you just can't do it at all. Daily tasks like household chores or self-care can similarly fall apart. You know on some level that you'll feel better if you shower or clean the kitchen, but you don't feel that reward normally (anhedonia), and you don't really register how crummy it feels to be unwashed or in a mess until it's extreme (alexithymia's lack of internal cues), and ADHD has you distracted by a million other more interesting things in the moment. It's easy to see how this trio can impact routines, health, work performance – basically any aspect of daily living.4. Social and Relationship Impact: Emotions and enjoyment are huge parts of how we connect with others. When you have alexithymia, people might perceive you as distant, cold, or uninterested because you don't express emotions in a typical way or struggle to empathize verbally. You might care deeply, but you don't show it with “I'm so happy for you” or “I'm upset about this” because you can't quite identify those feelings in the first place. With ADHD, you might interrupt or space out in conversations, or you feel emotions so strongly that you come on too intense, which can be hard for others to navigate. Now, add anhedonia – maybe you stop wanting to go out with friends or initiate activities because you just don't find joy in them, so people think you're avoiding them or being negative. Misunderstandings abound. A friend might think you don't care about their troubles because you didn't show much emotion when they were sad (when in fact you did care but couldn't express it). A partner might feel hurt that you never seem excited about doing things together anymore, or that you're disengaged. Daily life with others becomes a minefield of potential misinterpretations, where your internal state and your outward actions don't line up in the “expected” way.Everything we just described can seriously affect one's self-esteem and mental health, too. It's common for people in this overlap to start thinking, “What's wrong with me?” or to assume they're just bad at life or broken. Let me assure you right now: you are not broken, and you're not alone in this. There are explanations for why you feel the way you do, and with understanding comes the ability to find new strategies. But before we get to coping strategies, it's important to address some of those misunderstandings from the outside world in a bit more detail – especially how they play out for women and late-diagnosed adults.Misunderstandings and Missed DiagnosesWhen you're dealing with ADHD, alexithymia, and anhedonia, other people in your life (and even some professionals) might not “get it.” These conditions – particularly alexithymia and anhedonia – are often invisible. To someone on the outside, your behaviors might be misread in a bunch of uncharitable ways. Let's clear the air on some common misunderstandings:“You're just being lazy/unmotivated.” How many of us with ADHD have heard that one?

Hey there, welcome back to Authentically ADHD! I'm so glad you pressed play on this episode today, because its on a topic that when I learned it, i found out it was the work i never knew i was missing and this skill has given me so much more access to my authentic self. Today, we're diving into a big, messy, important topic: self-trust – or as I like to call it, the tangled web of self-trust. Now, if you just chuckled nervously or sighed "ugh, self-trust...", you're in the right place. Stick around for the next 25 minutes, and we'll untangle this web together with a healthy dose of honesty, humor, and hope.Host (conversational): So, self-trust. Raise your hand if you've ever said something like, "I can't trust myself to do anything right!" (I'm raising mine high, by the way). Maybe you promised yourself you'd start that project well before the deadline, only to find yourself pulling an all-nighter again. Or you swore you'd not forget your friend's birthday this time, and then... whoops, you did – again. If any of this rings a bell, you are so not alone. In fact, one ADHD coach bluntly observed: "This is the truth about ADHD and self-trust: it doesn't exist. ADHD adults don't trust themselves at all. Our self-concept begins to erode pretty early in life". Ouch, right? That sounds harsh, but for many of us it feels true. Our confidence in ourselves got pretty banged up over the years.Host (relatable anecdote): I want to start with a little story here. Picture late-diagnosed me a few years back, before I knew I had ADHD. Every morning I'd pep-talk myself: "Today, I'm gonna get everything on my to-do list done. I got this." And every evening I'd go to bed thinking, "I screwed it up again. What is wrong with me?" I remember once triple-booking my Saturday because Past Me didn't trust Future Me to actually remember my plans – I figured at least one of those events I'd flake on, so better to have backups!

In this deep-dive episode, Carmen explores the constant inner conflict many adults with ADHD experience—what psychology calls cognitive dissonance. It's that mental tug-of-war between what we intend to do and what we actually do, often amplified in ADHD brains due to emotional dysregulation, executive dysfunction, masking, and rejection sensitivity.Using real-life examples, neuroscience, and humor (because healing doesn't have to be boring), Carmen unpacks why ADHD brains are particularly vulnerable to these internal battles—and why it's not laziness but wiring.

ADHD and Procrastination: Understanding the Cycle and Breaking FreeIn this episode of Authentically ADHD, we dive deep into the relationship between ADHD and procrastination. For many with ADHD, procrastination isn't just about poor time management—it's a complex cycle rooted in the brain's executive function challenges. We explore how time blindness, distractibility, emotional dysregulation, and dopamine dysregulation contribute to the procrastination loop.From the initial delay and avoidance to the frantic last-minute rush, we break down the stages of procrastination and how ADHD traits like impulsivity and hyperfocus both complicate the process.We also uncover the neuroscience behind procrastination, offering a look at how executive function deficits and imbalanced dopamine levels make starting and completing tasks feel like an uphill battle.Most importantly, we share actionable strategies to break free from the cycle. Learn how to chunk tasks, create structured routines, and use external reminders to regain control. We also highlight the power of rewards, accountability systems, and mindfulness in overcoming procrastination and boosting motivation.By understanding the ADHD brain's unique wiring, we can take practical steps to manage procrastination and start tackling our goals with greater ease and confidence.Procrastination Guide: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGpNNJZHfA/XPs2-vJCwam6wFI0dW4z1w/view?utm_content=DAGpNNJZHfA&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h330879e0a9Follow me:Linktree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_iraceJoin Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

Published through Substack | Available on all platformsHey ADHDers—ever canceled plans because your brain gave you a headache? (Yeah, same.)In this BONUS episode of Authentically ADHD, Carmen—your coach, teacher, and fellow neurospicy human—dives headfirst into the wild connection between ADHD and headaches. Spoiler alert: It's not all in your head… unless we're talking about dopamine dysfunction, sensory overload, and sleep-deprived executive dysfunction (in which case, it absolutely is).

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, Carmen peels back the curtain on Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome (CDS)—sometimes called Sluggish Cognitive Tempo—to reveal why so many of us with ADHD feel stuck in a fog of daydreams, slow processing, and low energy. After a quick, relatable anecdote about spacing out in a meeting (and the panic that follows), we dive into what CDS actually is: a cluster of symptoms that overlaps with ADHD but isn't the same thing. You'll learn how CDS shows up differently than classic inattentive ADHD—think mental “brakes,” mind-wandering marathons, and that overwhelming sense that your brain is running underwater.Next, we explore how CDS can silently sabotage work, relationships, and self-esteem. Carmen shares listener stories—like the person who's constantly five steps behind in conversations or the professional whose “slow load time” makes presentations feel like climbing Everest. We unpack the neuroscience in digestible terms: what brain networks are under-activated, how dopamine dysregulation plays a role, and why meds that help “hyperactive” ADHD often fall short for CDS symptoms.Finally, we shift to practical strategies. You'll walk away with at least three tangible tools to test—everything from micro-bursts of movement to reframing your to-do list in ultra-small steps and scheduling “CDS-friendly breaks” before burnout sets in. By the end, you'll understand that those moments of mental fog aren't personal failings but part of a hidden ADHD subprofile—and you'll have a roadmap for bringing more focus, energy, and self-compassion into your lifeShow Notes: IntroductionHello and welcome! Today, we're diving into a fascinating and often underrecognized topic: Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome, or CDS. If that name doesn't ring a bell, maybe its older label will — Sluggish Cognitive Tempo. (Yeah, I know, it sounds like an insult you'd hurl at a slow computer.) In this episode, we're pulling back the curtain on what CDS really is, why it's not just “laziness” or ordinary daydreaming, and why experts say it deserves far more attention than it gets.Hook: Ever feel like your brain is running on dial-up internet in a high-speed world? You're trying to focus, but it's like there's a fog inside your head, and everything is moving in slow motion. Your thoughts wander off like they've got a mind of their own, and snapping back to reality is a bit like wading through molasses. If you're nodding along (or if someone you know comes to mind), you might be familiar with what we're talking about. And if you have ADHD or work with folks who do, you might have seen hints of this “slow-mo” attention state that often hides in plain sight.In this 25-30 minute episode, we'll cover: what exactly Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome is and its key symptoms (in plain, relatable language), how it overlaps with but isn't the same as ADHD, why it often gets misdiagnosed as something else (like depression or anxiety), and some practical, real-world tips for managing it. All of that with a professional tone and a little bit of sass — because learning should be engaging, right? So grab a coffee (you might need it for this topic!), and let's get started.What Is Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome (CDS)?All right, first things first: what on Earth is Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome? In a nutshell, CDS is a term that describes a unique set of attention symptoms — think of it as a “cousin” to ADHD, but with its own personality. It used to be known as “Sluggish Cognitive Tempo,” which frankly sounds like your brain is a slow turtle. No surprise, experts decided to rebrand it to something less snarky and more accurateen.wikipedia.orgmedvidi.com. Now we call it Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome, highlighting how the mind can seem to disengage from the task at hand.So what does CDS look like? Picture a person (child or adult) who is constantly drifting off into their own world. We're talking excessive daydreaming, blank staring, zoning out as if the lights are on but nobody's homeadditudemag.com. Their mind wanders like it's on an aimless road trip. They might appear mentally foggy, sluggish in their movements or thinking, and often slow to respond to what's happening around themedgefoundation.org. Folks with CDS often seem underactive – the opposite of hyperactive – and may be described as lethargic or low energy. You might notice them blinking awake as if they were literally about to nod off, even during activities that aren't boring for everyone else. In short, their alertness is inconsistent: one moment they're tuned in, but the next they've drifted away on a cloud of thoughtsedgefoundation.org.Another hallmark is being easily confused or mentally “fogged.” It's not that they can't understand things, but their processing speed is slow. Imagine trying to stream a video with a weak Wi-Fi signal – the content eventually comes through, but it lags. Similarly, a person with CDS might take longer to process information or retrieve memories, leading them to lose their train of thought oftenen.wikipedia.org. They might say, “Wait, what was I doing?” more times a day than they'd like.And here's a term researchers use that really nails it: being “internally distracted.” With classic ADHD, people are often pulled by external distractions (every noise, sight, or squirrel outside the window steals their attention). But with CDS, the distraction is coming from inside their own mind – an internal daydream or just a blank fog that is surprisingly hard to shakechadd.org. It's like their mind's “attention switch” is set to the off position when it should be on. They may appear withdrawn or apathetic, not because they don't care, but because their brain isn't fully engaging with what's in front of iten.wikipedia.org. This has led others to mislabel them as “lazy” or “not trying hard enough,” which is pretty unfair. In reality, CDS is a genuine attentional problem – one that's different from typical ADHD and definitely not a character flawpubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov.Let me give you a relatable example: Think about those mornings when you just can't wake up, and you stumble around in a coffee-deprived haze. You pour orange juice into your coffee mug and put your car keys in the fridge – your brain just isn't firing on all cylinders. That's a bit what CDS feels like all day long for some people. They're awake, but there's a persistent grogginess or dreaminess that makes every mental task feel like lifting weights in Jell-O.Now, you might be wondering how common this is. Research suggests that CDS symptoms are not rare at all. In fact, it's estimated that a significant chunk of people with ADHD – up to 40% of kids, by some estimates – also experience these CDS-type symptomsadditudemag.com. And it's not just in kids. Adults can have CDS as well (even if they never knew it had a name). It's been observed in roughly one-third of adults diagnosed with inattentive ADHD, for exampleedgefoundation.org. There are even cases of people who only have CDS without the more classic ADHD traits – they might have gone through life just labeled as the “spacey” or quiet ones.One important note: CDS is not officially listed as a diagnosis in the DSM-5, the big manual of mental disordersadditudemag.com. That means your doctor won't find “Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome” as a formal label to bill your insurance. But don't let that fool you into thinking it's not real. The concept has been studied by psychologists for decades, and there's a consensus in recent research that these symptoms cluster together in a meaningful wayadditudemag.compubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov. In other words, something is going on here beyond just normal variation in attention. So even if it's not an official diagnosis yet, many clinicians recognize CDS (or SCT) as a very useful description for patients who have this particular profile.To summarize this segment: CDS, formerly known as sluggish cognitive tempo, refers to a pattern of chronic daydreaming, mental fog, slow processing, and low initiative that can seriously affect daily life. It's like the brain's engine is always idling in neutral – not because the person is willfully tuning out, but because their brain's ability to engage is, for lack of a better word, sluggish. Now that we know what it is, let's talk about how this compares to a condition you've definitely heard of: ADHD.How Does CDS Overlap with and Differ from ADHD?If you listened to that description of CDS and thought, “Hmm, some of that sounds like ADHD,” you're absolutely right. CDS has a lot of overlap with ADHD, especially the inattentive type. Both involve problems with attention, forgetfulness, and maybe looking off into space when you're supposed to be working. In fact, for years CDS (back when it was called SCT) was thought of as possibly just a subtype of ADHD. Many people with ADHD do have some CDS symptoms and vice versaedgefoundation.org. But here's the kicker: modern research indicates that CDS and ADHD aren't identical – they're more like siblings than twinsen.wikipedia.org. They share some DNA, but each has its own quirks.Let's start with the obvious difference: hyperactivity (or rather, the lack of it). ADHD famously often comes with hyperactivity and impulsivity (at least in the combined or hyperactive-impulsive presentations). Those are the folks who are fidgeting, tapping, jumping out of their seats, acting on impulse – their internal motor runs fast. In contrast, people with pure CDS are the polar opposite of hyperactive. Remember, another term for this was “sluggish” cognitive tempo. Instead of bouncing off the walls, someone with CDS might be melting into the wall, so to speak – quiet, slow-moving, and passiveen.wikipedia.org. They're not blurting out answers in class; they're the ones who may not answer even when you call on them, because their mind was elsewhere. One researcher humorously noted it's like comparing a race car (ADHD) to a slow cruiser (CDS) – one's got too much go, the other not enough.Attention differences: Both ADHD and CDS involve attention problems, but the type of attention problem differs. Here's a way to think about it: people with ADHD can engage their attention quickly but struggle to sustain it, especially if something isn't interesting – their attention is like a spotlight that flickers on exciting things but then fizzles outen.wikipedia.org. On the other hand, people with CDS have trouble even getting that spotlight to turn on and lock onto the target in the first placeen.wikipedia.org. It's as if the brain's ignition switch is delayed. Once they do focus, they might actually be able to stick with it a bit (especially if it's something captivating), but the hard part is that initial spark of attention. An ADHD student might start their homework and then get distracted by 10 different thoughts and leave it unfinished, whereas a CDS student might sit down to do the homework and spend 30 minutes in a haze, kind of staring at the page not even knowing where to begin. Both end up with not much done, but the mental experience is different.Another difference is processing speed and accuracy. ADHD folks can often think quickly (sometimes too quickly, leading to impulsive mistakes). But someone with CDS processes information more slowly and may be prone to more mistakes because their attention to detail is decoupled or laggingen.wikipedia.orgen.wikipedia.org. Think of it this way: if an ADHD brain is like a flashy smartphone that sometimes loses signal, a CDS brain might be like an older phone that has a constant delay – slower to open apps and occasionally freezes on a screen. Both might drop your call (metaphorically speaking) but for different technical reasons.Memory and retrieval can also feel different. ADHD's inattention often looks like forgetfulness due to distraction (you didn't remember the meeting because you were busy thinking about five other things). In CDS, forgetfulness might come from that fog – the information just never fully registered or gets stuck behind a mental cloud. People with CDS often say they feel like they have a “brain fog” or that they're in a constant daydream, which isn't typically how someone with classic ADHD would describe their attention (they might say theirs is like a ping-pong ball bouncing around).Now let's talk mood and motivation overlaps. ADHD is frequently linked with externalizing behaviors – meaning, some with ADHD might have impulsive anger outbursts, act without thinking, maybe develop conduct issues, or lean toward thrill-seeking. CDS, conversely, is more often linked with internalizing tendencies: anxiety, shyness, even depressive feelingsen.wikipedia.orgen.wikipedia.org. Why? Possibly because being in a fog and struggling quietly can dent your self-esteem or make social life harder, leading to withdrawal. A kid with ADHD might be the class clown or the one getting in trouble; a kid with CDS is more likely to be the wallflower in class who barely says a word. Studies consistently find that CDS-prone individuals are often socially withdrawn and shy, sometimes getting overlooked or ignored by peersen.wikipedia.org. People might think they're aloof or uninterested, but in reality the person is just slow to respond and not catching the fast-paced flow of conversationen.wikipedia.org. Meanwhile, ADHD kids are hard to ignore – they demand attention, sometimes in not-so-great ways, and can get actively rejected due to disruptive behavioren.wikipedia.org. So, socially, one tends to be invisible (CDS) and the other too visible (ADHD).There's also an interesting personality distinction noted in research: ADHD is often associated with being reward-seeking and novelty-loving, whereas CDS might come with a higher sensitivity to punishment or a tendency to avoid risksen.wikipedia.org. It's like ADHD is always pressing the gas pedal looking for something fun, and CDS is hovering over the brake, worried about making a wrong move. This could be one reason we see less rule-breaking behavior in CDS – those individuals aren't the ones typically running toward trouble; if anything, they're stuck trying to remember what the next step was.Neuroscience angle (in lay terms): We won't get too technical here, but it's worth noting that scientists suspect the brain mechanisms differ between these two conditions. ADHD is often tied to issues with executive functions and inhibitory control (trouble stopping impulses, difficulty with the brain's “braking system”). CDS seems to be more about a deficit in starting and sustaining cognitive engagement – maybe a lower general arousal or alertness level in the brain. One theory is that different attention networks are involved: ADHD involves circuits that sustain attention and inhibit distractions, whereas CDS might involve circuits that initiate and regulate alertness. From a neurotransmitter perspective, ADHD famously involves dopamine irregularities; with CDS, some researchers wonder if there's a component of the brain's arousal system (possibly a norepinephrine angle, since alertness is at issue) – but the jury's still out. Alright, science hat off now! The key takeaway is that the inattentiveness in CDS qualitatively feels different from the garden-variety ADHD distractibilityen.wikipedia.org.Before we leave this section, it's important to mention: a person can have both ADHD and CDS symptoms together (this is actually pretty common, as we noted earlier). If ADHD is the cake, think of CDS as a flavor of icing that can coat it for some people. Those are the folks who might be especially struggling – for example, they have the hyperactivity or impulsivity of ADHD and the foggy drifting of CDS. On the flip side, there are some who just have one or the other. The overlap has made it a bit tricky in the past for doctors to decide, “Is this a new condition or just part of ADHD?” But recent consensus leans toward CDS being its own construct, not just “ADHD-lite.” In fact, a large meta-analysis of around 19,000 people found that ADHD symptoms and CDS symptoms, while often co-occurring, do factor out as distinct inattention patternsmedvidi.com. So, think of them like two circles in a Venn diagram: they overlap in the middle (many people have both), but each also has an area that doesn't overlap – unique features that the other doesn't share.In summary, ADHD and Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome are like two different flavors of attention deficit. ADHD is the high-speed, impulsive, “lots of oomph but hard to control” flavor, and CDS is the slow, dreamy, “low oomph, hard to get going” flavor. Both can make school, work, and life challenging, but in distinct ways. Understanding these differences isn't just academic – it matters because it affects how someone feels inside, and it can guide different approaches to help them. And speaking of that, why is it that so many people with CDS have been flying under the radar or getting mislabeled? That brings us to our next segment.Why Is CDS Often Misdiagnosed (or Missed Entirely)?Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome has been called an “underrecognized” condition – and for good reason. It's like the introvert at the party of mental health conditions: quiet, not drawing attention to itself, and often misunderstood. Let's unpack why so many people with CDS get misdiagnosed or overlooked, often as having something else like ADHD, depression, or anxiety.One big reason is history and awareness. Until recently, most clinicians and educators didn't have CDS on their radar at all. If a child was struggling to pay attention, the go-to thought would be “this might be ADHD” (or if the child was very quiet and slow, maybe “this kid is depressed or has an anxiety issue”). Sluggish Cognitive Tempo, as a term, has been around for decades in research, but it never made it into the official diagnostic manualsstatnews.com. So unlike ADHD, which every teacher, parent, or doctor has heard of, SCT/CDS has kind of been the forgotten step-sibling of ADHD. A lot of professionals simply weren't taught about it. This means a kid showing these symptoms might get an ADHD-inattentive type diagnosis by default, or if they don't tick enough ADHD boxes, they might just be shrugged off as a “daydreamer” or mischaracterized as having low motivation.Symptom overlap is another culprit. As we discussed, there's a ton of overlap between inattentive ADHD and CDS. That overlapping 30-50% of cases can be confusingen.wikipedia.org. Many clinicians historically would have just said “well, it's basically ADHD” and not bother with a separate label. The downside? If it is CDS, the subtleties (like the constant drowsiness or internal thought-wandering) might not be addressed by standard ADHD strategies or medications. But if no one's distinguishing it, the person might just be lumped under ADHD and left wondering why some typical ADHD advice doesn't quite fit them.Now, consider how CDS presents behaviorally: these individuals usually aren't causing trouble. They're not hyper or defiant; if anything, they're too well-behaved but mentally absent. Teachers love that they're not disruptive, so they might not refer them for evaluation as quickly as the kid who won't stay in his seat. A student with CDS might sit quietly in the back, half-listening, half in La-La Land. They could be struggling massively internally, but because they're not jumping on desks or failing every test, it slides under the radar. They often get comments like “needs to pay more attention” or “so bright, but doesn't apply themselves” on report cards – sound familiar to anyone? Those kinds of comments are classic for undiagnosed attention issues that don't fit the loud ADHD stereotype.Another reason for misdiagnosis is the similarity to depression or anxiety symptoms. Think about it: if someone is consistently sluggish, low-energy, apathetic, and staring off, a clinician might immediately consider depression. In fact, lethargy and concentration problems are key symptoms of depression as well. Anxiety, especially in kids, can sometimes look like zoning out or being “in their head” worrying. So, it's easy to see how a person with CDS might get diagnosed with an anxiety disorder or depression when the core issue is actually this attention disengagement problem (though to complicate matters, the person could also be anxious or depressed – those can co-occur). There's evidence of a strong link between CDS symptoms and internalizing disorders like anxiety/depressioncogepderg.com, which means clinicians really have to tease apart: is the daydreaming because of depression? Or is the depression developing because the person is always struggling and feeling out of sync? It can be a chicken-and-egg situation.Misinterpretation by others adds to the mess. Earlier I mentioned people with CDS might be seen as aloof or unmotivated. Let's double down on that: friends, family, and even doctors can wrongly attribute the behavior to character traits. A child who doesn't respond quickly or seems “out of it” might get labeled as lazy, shy, or even oppositional (when they don't follow instructions, not out of defiance but because their mind wandered off). One heartbreaking example comes from a real story: a teenage girl was so quiet and zoned out in class that teachers literally marked her as absent when she was right there in her seatstatnews.com. Can you imagine? She was physically present but so mentally checked-out due to CDS that she might as well have been invisible. For years she and her parents thought her issues were just from anxiety and depression. It wasn't until she stumbled on the term “sluggish cognitive tempo” in an old psych report that things clickedstatnews.comstatnews.com. Suddenly, the excessive daydreaming, the brain fog – it all made sense as a distinct thing. But it took that long for anyone to connect the dots, because the default assumptions were other diagnoses.There's also a bit of controversy in the professional community that has affected recognition. Some experts have criticized the push to make CDS an official diagnosis, arguing that it might pathologize normal traits or that it's just a fragment of ADHD or other disordersedgefoundation.orgstatnews.com. They worry about overdiagnosis – like, are we going to start labeling every dreamy kid with a disorder? Are pharma companies just looking for the next condition to medicate? These are valid concerns, and it's good that scientists are cautious. However, the flip side is that by not recognizing CDS, people who truly suffer from it might not get the specific help they need. It's a fine line. The consensus that has emerged is that while we're debating the labels, the symptoms are very real and can be seriously impairingedgefoundation.org. So misdiagnosis happens both ways: some get diagnosed with something else incorrectly, and some don't get diagnosed with anything at all – they're just “undiagnosed and unhappy.”Finally, the nature of CDS itself can fool clinicians. Since these folks often have some degree of attention capacity (for example, they might do okay in one-on-one situations or when very interested in a topic), their issue might not scream “attention disorder” in a short doctor's visit. They might not report the hyperactive symptoms (because they have none), so if the practitioner isn't well-versed in SCT, they might not recognize that a pattern of lifelong “dreaminess” is a sign of an attention-related condition. In adults, this is even trickier: an adult who complains of brain fog might get checked for thyroid problems, anemia, sleep apnea, etc., and if all those are negative, the fatigue and fog might be attributed to stress or depression. Rarely does a doctor say, “Hey, could this be that thing called cognitive disengagement syndrome?” – at least not yet, since awareness is still growing.The result of misdiagnosis or missing the diagnosis? People can go years thinking they're just bad at life or “lazy.” They internalize a lot of negative self-talk. A kid might grow up being scolded for daydreaming, a teen might get told “you just need to try harder,” and an adult might wonder why they can't seem to hold onto their thoughts in meetings when everyone else manages fine. It can be frustrating and demoralizing. Some individuals end up on treatments that don't fully help – for instance, they might be given stimulant medication for ADHD and find that, while it might boost focus a bit, it doesn't magically clear the fog like it does for a classic ADHD caseadditudemag.com. Or they might be on antidepressants that help mood but not their spacing-out episodes.The bottom line here is that CDS often flies under the radar. Its sufferers might get diagnosed with something more obvious or nothing at all. The condition is underrecognized in both the medical field and public awareness. That's why one of my goals today (and the reason you're still listening) is to shine a light on it. Because once you do recognize it, you can start doing something about it – which is exactly what we'll talk about next.Up to now, we've painted a pretty challenging picture – brain fog, misdiagnoses, feeling overlooked. But don't worry: this isn't all doom and gloom. In the next segment, we're switching gears to something more empowering: practical tips and strategies. If you or someone you care about is dealing with CDS (or heck, even if you just relate to some of this foggy focus stuff), what can be done? How can you manage these symptoms and make life a bit easier? Let's explore that.Practical Tips for Managing CDSAlright, let's roll up our sleeves and get practical. Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome can make everyday tasks feel like you're swimming upstream, but there are ways to manage it and improve your day-to-day functioning. Whether you're an adult with CDS, a parent or teacher of someone who has it, or just someone listening along for knowledge, these tips will be helpful. We're going to cover a mix of lifestyle habits, strategies, and supports – essentially, how to give that “sluggish” brain a bit of a tune-up or workaround. Think of it as creating an environment where your brain's engine has some extra help turning over. Let's break down some strategies:* Prioritize Sleep and Healthy Habits: This one's not glamorous, but it's huge. Since people with CDS often feel drowsy or low-energy, getting consistent, quality sleep is vital. Poor sleep will only pour molasses on an already sluggish cognitive tempo. Aim for a regular sleep schedule and good sleep hygiene (yes, that means putting down the phone at night and maybe actually going to bed on time, a tough ask, I know!). Also, pay attention to diet and exerciseedgefoundation.org. Physical activity can temporarily boost alertness – even a brisk walk or a few jumping jacks when you're feeling foggy can restart the engine. Eating balanced meals and staying hydrated helps too (blood sugar crashes or dehydration can worsen that spaced-out feeling). Some folks find that a bit of caffeine in moderation helps shake off the cobwebs, but be careful not to overdo it, especially if you also have anxiety. Think of healthy habits as the foundation; they won't eliminate CDS, but they raise your baseline energy and brain health, giving you a fighting chance on those heavy-brain-fog days.* Use External Structures to Stay On Track: If the issue is that your brain disengages internally, one solution is to bring in external engagement. This means using tools and routines to keep you anchored to tasks. For example, timers and alarms can be your best friend. Set a timer for, say, 10 minutes and tell yourself, “I'll work on this task until the timer rings, then I can pause.” Often, just that little auditory cue and the knowledge of a break coming can help you initiate a task. Visual reminders are great too – post-it notes in key places, a big wall calendar, or phone reminders that pop up with messages like “Hey, are you on task?

Picture this: You're on the wildest roller coaster of your life – dizzying highs, sudden drops, and your heart racing. For many of us with ADHD, early romance can feel exactly like that. Our brains light up with excitement and novelty, but those same traits that make us passionate can also leave us vulnerable to toxic relationships. Research shows that adults with ADHD often report childhood trauma and have brains that crave dopamine in high doses. That means the drama of a turbulent partner might feel familiar or even thrilling. As Dr. Gabor Maté puts it, people unconsciously “choose each other with an unerring instinct” for partners who mirror their own unresolved anxieties and pain. In plain terms, ADHD traits plus past stresses can set us up for danger if we're not careful. Today on Authentically ADHD, we're peeling back the curtain on why ADHD brains are wired to overlook red flags, and how to recognize and escape toxic dynamics – with a dose of neuroscience, expert insight, and real talk.Impulsivity & Novelty-SeekingFor someone with ADHD, new romance can be intoxicating. We crave excitement, and a high-energy partner often delivers. As ADHD experts explain, ADHD often means higher impulsivity and constant novelty-seeking. In one study's key takeaways, ADHD “can cause increased impulsivity and novelty-seeking behavior — like constantly looking for new and exciting experiences”. In practice, that means you might rush headlong into a relationship without waiting to see the red flags. Dr. Edward Hallowell famously described how a person with ADHD “seldom feels bored”, instantly switching to something new at the first hint of dullness. When a toxic partner offers a rush of drama – extreme highs like bombarding you with affection (love-bombing), followed by sharp criticisms – your ADHD brain gets dopamine hits at every twist and turn. Those dopamine spikes can feel like love, making chaos seem exciting instead of dangerous.For example, imagine texting back instantly without thinking, even when something feels off. Or jumping into serious commitments with someone who's shown controlling behaviors, simply because the initial chemistry is overwhelming. That's ADHD impulsivity and thrill-seeking at work. We're more likely to mistake high drama for passion. But remember: healthy relationships can be dynamic too, with steady excitement that builds trust, not tension. As one ADDitude expert notes, treating your ADHD through therapy, medication, or coaching can diminish the craving for those unhealthy dopamine hits, helping you choose more stable love over wild rides.Hyperfocus on the Wrong PartnersIt's no secret: we can intensely fixate on a new crush. In ADHD terms, this is hyperfocus – pouring all our attention into one person. Early in romance, that means calling, texting, planning every detail together in a way that feels magical. But there's a catch. As ADDitude editors point out, people with ADHD “feel emotions intensely and might hyperfocus on their partner, especially at the outset of a new, exciting relationship”. In practice, we hang on every word they say, overlook snide comments, and rewrite our own friend's concerns as jealousy or misunderstanding.For instance, imagine the first few weeks with a new partner: your ADHD brain is 100% engaged. They text, you reply lightning-fast. They cancel plans unexpectedly, and you shrug it off because you're so grateful to have their attention at all. That hyperfocus can blind us to manipulation. We might stay up all night chatting about their life story – even the parts that don't add up – or excuse their mood swings because we're convinced this time they really get us. In short, hyperfocus makes us all in right away. Unfortunately, that's exactly when a toxic partner is most charming. The downside: once the infatuation fades, the problems you missed can hit hard.Emotional Dysregulation & RSDIf romance hits a rough patch, ADHD brains react strongly. Many of us experience big emotions and mood swings that non-ADHD folks don't. This is by no accident: researchers like Dr. Russell Barkley show that emotional impulsiveness and deficient emotional self-regulation (DESR) are integral to ADHD. In plain terms, we can swing from zero to a hundred easily. One ADHD expert put it simply: many adults with ADHD “experience big emotions, and such intense emotions can easily destabilize even the strongest partnerships”. You might cry for hours over a forgotten text, or erupt in anger if you feel left out.On top of that, ADHD comes with something called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). RSD means we feel rejection or criticism as emotional pain so intense it's almost physical. Even a partner's mild critique might feel like a punch to the gut. Picture this: your partner says, “Maybe you should try to be on time,” and suddenly you're convinced they're plotting to dump you. That fear triggers panic; you obsess over what you did wrong all night. RSD can make us paranoid about losing someone, even if they haven't shown real signs of leaving. As one therapist explains, this leads some of us to overreact or interpret neutral acts as intentional hurt.The result? Emotional turmoil in the relationship. You may push back fiercely, cry uncontrollably, or withdraw completely, depending on the day. A toxic partner often intentionally amplifies this – a small critique from them can send you spiraling, which they then dismiss as irrational. Meanwhile, your inability to regulate means you keep doing exactly what angers you or makes you sad. Over time, the ups and downs can leave you feeling drained and doubting your sanity.Next up we are talking Boundaries, low self trust, fear of abandonment & misinterpreting social cues and of course some tips on how to spot the red flags and feel more empowered, but first a word from our sponsors….********************course AD, patreon & FOCUSED **************Executive Dysfunction and BoundariesAnother ADHD truth: our executive functioning – planning, organizing, self-control – can be a major challenge. In relationships, this often shows up as forgiving and forgetting where we shouldn't. We struggle to keep track of agreed boundaries. If our partner sets a rule and then crosses it, we might not recall our agreement clearly, or our impulsivity makes us give in. We might be hyper-organized about work but completely miss that we promised to stay home for the night.According to relationship researchers, the ADHD symptoms that commonly impact love include inattention, forgetfulness, impulsivity, and disorganization. These can make our partners feel like we're unreliable or distracted (even if we aren't trying to be). For example, you might forget to call back, miss important dates, or say something impulsive without meaning to. In a toxic dynamic, an abusive partner may use this “flakiness” as more fodder: “You never care!” they might snap, and you believe it. If you've already agreed on a boundary, then your executive funk sets in, you slip, and they use that slip-up against you.Imagine a scenario: Your partner says you're not allowed to have certain friends, but because you forgot the rule, you slip into a group chat. They find out and accuse you of betrayal. You try to organize a simple date night to save the peace, but you overcommit and then drop the ball. Each mistake feeds into a narrative that you are the unreliable one. In reality, ADHD makes it hard to maintain consistency, and a toxic partner will exploit every mix-up.Low Self-Trust and Fear of AbandonmentAfter so many mistakes and misunderstandings, our self-trust can plummet. We start to doubt our instincts. If every relationship feels doomed or everyone seems angry at us, we might think “There must be something wrong with me.” That's a dangerous trap. People with ADHD often develop a deep-seated fear of abandonment – a terror that if we speak up or leave, we really will end up alone. This fear is fueled by a history of feeling rejected or criticized (or even trauma) early in life.Dr. Maté's insight is revealing here: “Couples choose each other with an unerring instinct for finding the very person who will exactly match their own level of unconscious anxieties and mirror their own dysfunctions…”. In other words, we often (unconsciously) pick partners who resonate with our own pain. If you grew up feeling dismissed or unsafe, you might be drawn to someone who keeps you just anxious enough to feel something. Once in that relationship, the fear of losing them can become paralyzing. You worry that no one else would put up with you, so you stay and ignore the issues. This matches what many therapists see: ADHDers, already vulnerable after feeling misunderstood for years, often fear that demanding respect means losing love.On top of that, people with ADHD frequently have low self-esteem because of a lifetime of “you're late, you forgot, you didn't finish.” Dr. Ari Tuckman and others note that ADHD can come hand-in-hand with low confidence and negative self-talk. When that combines with RSD, any threat of breakup feels like confirmation that we're worthless. A toxic partner can pick up on this. They may say, “If you left, you'd be alone forever,” or even gaslight you into thinking you are the problem. We're vulnerable to believing them.Misreading Manipulation & Social CuesHere's another twist: ADHD can make social cues tricky. Many of us are extremely empathetic and assume people are good. At the same time, we can be so distracted that subtle manipulations fly under our radar. A partner might gaslight (“You imagined that, I never said that”) or shift blame, and we might miss or excuse it. We might rationalize their behavior (“He's just stressed”) when an outsider sees it's abuse. Sadly, this combination – empathy plus distractibility – can make us targets for manipulation. A toxic partner counts on us missing their red flags, and often we do.For example, if they love-bomb you (“You're perfect!”) one day and slam you (“You're crazy!”) the next, your ADHD impulses might focus only on the highs and forget the lows until they hit you like a ton of bricks. If your partner hints at being jealous or controlling, you might interpret it as passionate love instead of a warning sign. This isn't your fault – it's how ADHD can paint a rosier picture in the moment. The key is to learn the difference between passion and poison.Spotting Red Flags and Self-EmpowermentLet's pull this together with some practical steps. The good news: knowing these patterns is the first step to breaking them. Here are some red flags to watch for, especially if you have ADHD:Love-bombing & devaluation: If someone showers you with affection one moment and dismisses you the next, that intense cycle is toxic drama, not true intimacy.Gaslighting: If you constantly feel confused or like you're crazy about reality, that's a major red flag. ADHD brains already second-guess ourselves; don't let someone else add fuel.Disrespecting boundaries: If your “no” or your limits are ignored or mocked, that partner is not respecting you. That's abuse, not just a “quirk.”Consistent disrespect: Small insidious things (rolling eyes, insults, taking you for granted) add up. ADHD people may brush them off, but ask yourself, “How would I feel if a friend said these things?”Excessive drama: An ongoing soap opera of breakups and makeups is not love, it's manipulation. Your brain might crave the adrenaline, but it's unhealthy.Knowledge is power. As one ADDitude article recommends, recognize the signs early and treat your ADHD – with coaching, therapy, medication or all three. Managing your ADHD symptoms can help clear the fog: you'll have better impulse control, greater emotional balance, and a more realistic view of your partner. Also, remember: you deserve consistency and respect. It's okay to set firm boundaries and stick to them. Practice saying “no” in low-stakes situations so it's easier when it counts.If you notice your anxious ADHD brain is saying things like “If I leave, I'll never find anyone,” remember the facts: Some relationships truly are meant to last a season, and letting go is not a failure. As one expert bluntly puts it: “Leaving doesn't mean you wasted time… Leaving is always an option”. Empower yourself by remembering that the right person will value your kindness and passion – not exploit it.In closing: ADHD gives us wonderful strengths (creativity, empathy, energy), but it also comes with vulnerabilities in love. By educating ourselves about how our brains work, listening to experts, and sharing experiences, we can spot toxic patterns before they take hold. You are worthy of a healthy, respectful love. Keep your eyes and heart open, trust your gut, and never forget – you're not alone on this journey. Thats all I have for now, stay authentic and we will talk soon!Linktree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Join Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Sources: Scientific insights in this episode are drawn from ADHD experts and research, ensuring our advice is grounded in what the specialists say. (Images courtesy of licensed resources.) Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

Today, we're diving into the world of AuDHD – a unique neurotype that combines both Autism and ADHD. This blog post will unpack why your brain might feel sluggish, how overstimulation can quickly spiral, and how sensory overload interferes with communication. We'll also take a closer look at Polyvagal Theory, a scientific concept that explains how your body reacts to stress – and why that reaction feels so intense for those of us with AuDHD. And don't worry – we'll finish things off with practical strategies to manage sensory overload, all backed by research and neuroscience.Processing Speed in AuDHD: Slowed But Not StoppedLet's kick things off with processing speed – the ability to take in information, understand it, and respond. For those with AuDHD, this doesn't always happen at lightning speed.Autistic processing speed: Many autistic individuals describe their thoughts as moving through molasses, not because they're slow, but because every detail stands out. In fact, research shows that autistic adults consistently perform slower on cognitive tasks, such as symbol search or coding tasks, than their neurotypical peers. This isn't about intelligence – it's about how your brain allocates attention. When the brain is processing a million sensory details, it has fewer resources to devote to thinking and responding.ADHD processing speed: ADHD adds another layer. People with ADHD often experience something called "sluggish cognitive tempo," meaning their minds wander, feel foggy, and take longer to complete tasks. This is especially true when there are multiple steps or a need for quick reactions. ADHD brains struggle to process quickly when distracted by the world around them.When you combine autism and ADHD – AuDHD – the challenges multiply. An AuDHD brain might analyze one piece of a problem deeply (a strength), but then struggle to move on to the next step. Or you may find yourself mentally fatigued after filtering distractions for just a few minutes. The result? Mental fatigue and frustration. Think of trying to work on a puzzle while the TV is blaring, someone's talking to you, and the dog is barking. Your brain is juggling too much, so everything takes longer.The takeaway: Processing speed can feel slow in AuDHD, but it's not about being “slow” – it's about the brain working harder to process sensory information and complete tasks.Sensory Overload: Why Everything Feels Like Too MuchNext, let's talk about sensory overload. For many people with AuDHD, everyday environments can quickly become overwhelming. The world feels too loud, too bright, and too busy.Research points to sensory gating – the brain's ability to filter out irrelevant stimuli. In neurotypical brains, unnecessary sensory input (like background noise) is ignored. But in autism, there's a deficit in sensory gating, meaning the brain fails to filter out irrelevant or background stimuli. Sounds that others don't notice – the ticking of a clock, the hum of a fluorescent light – feel like they're blaring in your ears.On the ADHD side, things are no better. ADHD brains are bombarded by all sensory input because they have trouble filtering distractions. If you imagine your brain as a radio, a neurotypical brain might tune in to one station and block out static. An ADHD brain often has many stations playing at once – all competing for attention.Put both neurotypes together, and you get sensory overload. A gentle hum becomes unbearable, bright lights become blinding, and even the smallest sensory details can cause distress. The result? Overstimulation. One person with AuDHD might describe it as, “The world is speaking all at once, and I can't make it stop.” This overload can trigger panic or anxiety – even if there's no real threat.Story: The Café OverloadImagine this: Alex, who has AuDHD, goes to a coffee shop with a friend. There's music playing, espresso machines whirring, people chatting, and flickering candles. For most people, these sounds might blend into the background. But for Alex, every sound and sight hits like a drum. The coffee grinder is unbearably loud. The flickering lights are dizzying. Even the wallpaper feels like it's spinning.Alex starts to feel overwhelmed. Heart racing. Ears ringing. Brain foggy. They're no longer able to focus on the conversation, and they don't have the mental energy to process the noise and the people. This is sensory overload in action: everything becomes too much, and Alex's brain simply shuts down.The body's autonomic nervous system (ANS) – our stress response system – kicks in, signaling that something is wrong. Even though Alex is safe, the body's reaction is the same as if they were in danger. This leads us to Polyvagal Theory.Communication Challenges During Sensory OverloadSo, what happens when we try to communicate under these conditions? If your brain is overwhelmed with sensory input, there's little energy left for understanding language or speaking. Verbal processing becomes nearly impossible. You might hear your name being called, but you don't register it because your brain is busy filtering out all the noise around you.Research on autism shows that even when a person hears their name in a noisy environment, their brain may not respond, especially if they have limited verbal ability. For someone with AuDHD, ADHD makes it even harder to focus on the conversation when distractions are everywhere. So, you might be physically present in a conversation, but your attention is being hijacked by the flickering light or the pattern on the wall. Suddenly, the words don't make sense, and the world feels fuzzy.Autism Speaks describes this as a “shutdown” – when your brain stops processing speech and communication because it's too busy trying to manage sensory overload. For many, this results in dissociation: feeling out of touch, like you're not part of the conversation.In short: Communication suffers during sensory overload. It's not laziness or avoidance – it's your neurobiology at work. The brain simply doesn't have the resources to handle multiple sensory inputs at once.The Nervous System and Polyvagal TheoryLet's take a closer look at Polyvagal Theory, a concept developed by Dr. Stephen Porges. This theory helps explain why sensory overload leads to shutdown or panic.The theory identifies three states your body can be in:Ventral Vagal State (Safe/Social): This is when your body feels calm and connected. When this system is activated, your heart rate and breathing are steady, and communication happens easily.Sympathetic State (Fight/Flight): When a threat is detected (even something as small as a loud noise), the body shifts into “fight or flight” mode. Your heart rate increases, your body prepares to react.Dorsal Vagal State (Freeze/Shutdown): If the threat feels overwhelming and there's no escape, the body enters “freeze mode.” This is where your heart rate and energy levels drop, leading to shutdown. The body feels numb, and you might struggle to speak or move.For those of us with AuDHD, sensory overload can push us into fight/flight or freeze mode. The body's stress response system takes over, shutting down other functions like speech and decision-making. You might feel like you're being “attacked” by noise, lights, and sensations, even though there's no actual threat. Understanding Polyvagal Theory shows us that this response is natural – and not your fault.Coping Strategies for Sensory OverloadNow that we understand the science, let's talk about strategies to manage sensory overload and slow processing speed. These tools can help reset the nervous system and reduce stress:Modify Your Environment: Dim the lights, wear sunglasses indoors, or use noise-canceling headphones to reduce sensory triggers. In a busy setting, head to a quieter corner or play white noise to mask disruptive sounds.Use Sensory Tools: Keep items like weighted blankets, stress balls, or fidget toys on hand. These can help provide calming feedback and redirect attention away from overwhelming stimuli.Take Sensory Breaks: When you start feeling overloaded, take a break. Step outside, do some gentle movement, or engage in deep breathing exercises to reset your body and mind.Communicate Your Needs: If you're in a situation where you're struggling to process information, let people know. Simple phrases like “I need a moment to think” can help others understand when you're overwhelmed.Final ThoughtsAuDHD is a complex neurotype that combines the traits of both autism and ADHD. This makes for a brain that processes information slowly, struggles with sensory overload, and sometimes finds communication challenging. But understanding the science behind it – especially concepts like Polyvagal Theory – can help us make sense of these experiences.The key takeaway is: You are not alone, and it's okay to need extra time, breaks, or accommodations. By learning to recognize the signs of sensory overload and slow processing speed, we can better manage our environment and our reactions.Remember: It's not about “fighting” your brain – it's about learning to work with it. With patience, understanding, and the right tools, you can navigate the world in a way that feels more manageable and less overwhelming.Thank you for reading! If this post resonated with you, share it with others who might benefit. You've got this. Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other! Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, we dive deep into a behavior that many ADHDers know all too well: ghosting. Whether it's avoiding difficult conversations or disappearing unexpectedly from social situations, ghosting isn't about lack of care—it's about how our brains process and react to emotional stress. Carmen explores the neuroscience behind social avoidance in ADHD, explaining how executive dysfunction, emotional intensity, and dopamine dynamics contribute to the impulse to withdraw.Through a blend of science and real-life anecdotes, this episode reveals why ADHD brains struggle with navigating challenging interactions and how this can lead to patterns of avoidance. Carmen then shares practical, science-backed strategies for managing social avoidance, including recognizing triggers, developing communication scripts, utilizing time management techniques, practicing mindfulness, and building supportive networks.By the end of the episode, listeners will have actionable tools to improve their communication skills and foster healthier, more understanding relationships. Tune in for a compassionate exploration of how ADHD affects social behavior and why it's time to stop ghosting—and start engaging with confidence.show notes with minutes Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

Transcript: Welcome to today's episode! We're diving deep into ADHD and autism – what makes them unique, where they overlap, and how they shape day-to-day life. We'll mix neuroscience, the latest research, and real-life stories to make it all click. This show is for neurodivergent adults, and also parents and educators who want to really understand what living with ADHD and autism can be like.Imagine sitting in a meeting: the clock ticks, but your mind is racing on a thousand other things. Or being at a loud party and feeling every light and sound press in on you. Those are snippets of how ADHD or autism can feel. For anyone with these conditions (or both), life can be a wild ride of challenges and unique gifts. But you're not alone – there are science-backed ways to cope and even thrive.In recent years, brain science has been uncovering secrets about ADHD and autism. Researchers use brain scans and cognitive tests to see how neurodivergent brains work differently. We won't get lost in jargon, but the gist is this: ADHD often involves lower activity in brain areas that handle focus, planning, and impulse control – think of it like having a very fast car with weak brakes. Autism often involves brain circuits that are finely tuned, noticing patterns and details that others miss, but also picking up sensory inputs very intensely. So, one brain might crave novelty while needing a tight routine, the other might detect every background sound. Knowing this biological side helps make sense of everyday experiences.ADHD: A Brain That Zigs When Others ZagADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, shows up as three main quirks:* Trouble sustaining attention: Daydreaming or being easily distracted, missing details.* Impulsivity: Acting or speaking without thinking it through (like blurting an answer or grabbing the last slice of pizza on a whim).* Hyperactivity: Feeling restless or fidgety, like you have to move even when you're sitting still.Some people call the ADHD brain “a race car with fuzzy brakes.” Neuroscientists tell us ADHD brains often have lower levels of neurotransmitters like dopamine and norepinephrine, especially in the prefrontal cortex (the area acting like the brain's CEO). That makes it harder to plan, stay organized, or resist impulses. For example, you might forget appointments, interrupt conversations, or feel like you have to pace when sitting.On the flip side, ADHD brains can hyperfocus on things they love. Picture an editor sitting at a cluttered desk. The sound of typing is soothing… until a stray light catches the editor's eye. Suddenly they are deep in a Wikipedia spiral about vintage computers and forget the report due tomorrow. They laugh later: “I meant to write one paragraph and ended up learning about floppy disks for two hours!” Hyperfocus isn't guaranteed, though. Often tasks we have to do feel like a slog, and we procrastinate until the deadline hits. Then, under panic, our brain goes into overdrive – a burst of productivity called “crunch mode.” It's like living with an internal pressure cooker: long periods of low simmer, then sudden high heat to get things done.Emotionally, ADHD can feel like riding a rollercoaster. You might feel frustration or embarrassment about symptoms (like always losing your keys or blurting out something inappropriate). Anxiety and low self-esteem are common too, especially if you've been scolded or misunderstood a lot. But knowing the brain science behind ADHD brings relief: it's not laziness or a character flaw, it's biology. And that matters, because it means there are ways to help and work with your brain.Autism Spectrum: Sensory Worlds and Special InterestsAutism (Autism Spectrum Disorder) is also a brain difference – but it shows up differently. Key traits include:* Social communication differences: Difficulty reading facial expressions, understanding tone of voice, or navigating small talk.* Repetitive behaviors and routines: Craving sameness, following strict routines, or repeating certain movements (like hand-flapping or lining things up).* Sensory sensitivities: Being bothered by loud noises, bright lights, strong smells, scratchy clothing, or certain tastes.Imagine the brain as a radio receiver. In many autistic people, the dial picks up everything at full volume. So a buzzing neon light or a faint background hum can feel overwhelming. Scientists sometimes talk about an imbalance of excitation and inhibition in the autistic brain – in plain terms, sensory signals can all flood in without enough “filter.” This means autistic people notice fine details (that spider web, that slight pattern in wallpaper) but can be easily overloaded by a busy environment.Anecdote: Take Alex, an autistic architect. She describes going to a big family gathering: “The buzzing lights and overlapping conversations felt like waves crashing on me,” Alex says. “I had to step outside and put my headphones on to avoid a meltdown.” This is common: when too many signals hit at once, an autistic person might feel panic, shutdown, or even a meltdown (an intense emotional response). If things calm down, it's like a storm passing – but the confusion and stress can last for hours after.On the plus side, autism often brings intense interests and superb focus on details. That same Alex can spend hours perfecting a building design or spotting the tiniest crack in a wall that others wouldn't see. Many autistic people excel in fields that match their special interests – like science, art, math, or technology – because they're deeply passionate and not easily bored.Socially, autism can look like missed cues. You might overhear, “Why don't you just look people in the eye?” without realizing eye contact might feel painful or distracting. Or you might get puzzled advice like “don't take that literally,” when you really did mean exactly what you said. Brain imaging shows autistic folks often use different brain networks for social processing, so it can feel like navigating a conversation in a foreign language. That's okay! With understanding and support, autistic people often learn communication tricks that work for them.Where They Overlap: AuDHD and Shared TraitsIt turns out ADHD and autism often go together. Research suggests about half of autistic people also meet criteria for ADHD. Some folks even say they have “AuDHD” (autism+ADHD). If you have both, traits can blend in interesting ways. ADHD might add impulsivity and distractibility, while autism adds sensory needs and craving routine.One person described it like this: “My ADHD mind signs me up for more than my autistic brain can deliver at times.” It's a classic tug-of-war: part of you craves structure, part of you craves novelty. Many with both report feeling like a “walking contradiction” – wanting predictability but also getting bored by too much predictability.Shared challenges can include:* Executive function struggles: Both conditions can make organizing tasks, planning ahead, or switching activities hard. It can feel like your brain's to-do list app keeps crashing.* Sensory quirks: While sensory overload is famous in autism, ADHDers can also be sensitive (or sometimes under-sensitive) to sensory input. Both might need fidget toys or headphones to stay comfortable.* Emotional intensity: Both ADHD and autism are linked to higher anxiety, mood swings, or “meltdowns.” The brain chemistry and life stressors (feeling different, facing stigma) both play a role.* Trouble with transitions: Starting or stopping tasks can be super hard. You might think you can drop one activity and switch to another on cue, but often it feels like a gradual drift or a sudden jolt instead.Think of having both as juggling snowballs in a windstorm. For example, imagine someone with both ADHD and autism. They love a morning routine of coffee and crosswords, but if they miss that coffee (coffee catastrophe!), their ADHD brain causes a frantic search for the mug while their autism makes every change feel like a crash. If they try a new latte shop (novelty alert!), the ADHD part is excited but the autism part panics over the unpredictable ordering system. It's tricky.However, there are strengths too. Many people with AuDHD report creativity and unique problem-solving. They often see details and big patterns at once. For example, they might notice a statistic (detail) and also have a wild new idea (big picture) about it. The key is managing the quirks to let those superpowers shine.Daily Life Impact: Emotions, Thinking, Social, and WorkLiving with ADHD and/or autism can color every part of life. Let's break down some common areas:EmotionallyLiving with ADHD or autism can feel like having an emotional accelerator and brake pedal that sometimes fail. You might swing quickly from excitement to frustration. Frustration and anxiety often come from feeling misunderstood or not in control. Little surprises (a canceling a plan, a sudden noise) can trigger big reactions. If you've been punished for symptoms out of your control, you might have long-standing low self-esteem. Remember: getting emotional about these challenges is normal. It helps to remind yourself that meltdowns or outbursts are signals — your brain's way of saying it needs a break or some support, not proof that you're failing. After the episode, self-care and a bit of self-compassion (“That was tough, but I survived”) can help you recover and learn.Many neurodivergent people use humor as a lifesaver. Joking about “my ADHD brain is like a puppy on espresso” or “my daily meltdown wardrobe” can help talk about tough stuff more easily. Sometimes laughing at ourselves (gently, not harshly) reminds us that everyone has quirks.CognitivelyNeurodivergent minds often have a unique thinking style — like a maze and a playground at once. Here are a few common cognitive features:* Attention: ADHD means your attention is selective. You might ignore something boring (like scrolling through your phone in a dull lecture) and yet get laser-focused on something else (like planning the ultimate pizza toppings). Autism, too, can involve deep focus — on a special interest, that same lecture if it's on your passion topic, or even on everyday details most people miss. In either case, switching gears can be hard. Interrupting deep thought to do something mundane is like a rude alarm clock that nobody asked for.* Memory & Organization: These brains may misplace keys, appointments, or even thoughts. Working memory feels like a leaky bucket — once a distraction hits, stuff goes out. You might set a reminder on your phone, forget about it five minutes later, then panic when the date passes. Or you keep 100 tabs open in your brain, and sometimes one of them quietly closes without telling you. This isn't forgetfulness; it's the brain's attention and memory systems juggling too much.* Processing Speed: Some people think very fast (“see” many thoughts at once), others very slowly, or even seem to “lag” when switching tasks. For example, someone might need extra time to formulate an answer in conversation, even if they could write it perfectly later. Don't mistake a short pause for a problem with intelligence — it's just how the mind processes information.Social LifeNavigating social waters can be bumpy for ADHD and autism, but there are ways to manage. For example:* Social Cues: Autistic folks might miss a sarcastic tone or not get why everyone laughed. ADHD folks might interrupt without meaning to or blurt out irrelevant stuff. Both can accidentally seem “awkward” or “rude” when really they just didn't pick up cues. One trick is to be upfront: it's okay to say, “Hey, I have ADHD/autism, sometimes I need a little extra time or clarity.” Often people are understanding if they know.* Friendships: You might find yourself drifting between friend groups or feeling out of sync. It's common to form one very close friendship rather than a big circle. That's fine! Focus on quality over quantity. Some neurodivergent people prefer one-on-one hangouts or quiet meetups rather than crowded parties.* Support: Having friends or family who “get it” makes a huge difference. Find people (even online) who understand ND humor and vibe. Parents and educators, it helps to show kids or teens examples of famous or everyday people who are thriving with ADHD/autism, so they know they're not alone.Work and SchoolIn jobs and classes, ADHD and autism present both challenges and strengths. Many ND people become A+ in their passion subjects but struggle in areas they find boring or disorganized. The good news is, accommodations can help:* Structure and Environment: If possible, pick a study or work spot with fewer distractions. Use earbuds with soft music to drown out noisy offices. Request a quiet corner, noise-canceling headphones, or flexible deadlines when allowed. Small adjustments (like a fidget tool hidden in your pocket or a standing desk) can help channel hyperactivity or sensory needs.* Time Management: Tools are your friends – planners, calendars, reminder apps. Break big projects into bite-size tasks. For example, don't just have “write paper” on the list; break it into “outline ideas,” “write intro,” etc. This reduces overwhelm and gives you little wins.* Leaning In on Strengths: ND people often excel in roles that align with their brains. An ADHD person might do great in a fast-paced, varied job (like first responder or entrepreneur). An autistic person might shine in coding, design, or research. If you can steer your career or course toward your interests, motivation often comes naturally.* Advocacy: Don't be afraid to ask for help. Schools often have services for ADHD/autism (like extra test time or an aide). Workplaces may offer flexible scheduling, mentorship programs, or assistive tech. It's legal in many places to request reasonable accommodations once you disclose a diagnosis. Educators and bosses are becoming more aware – sometimes just explaining “I work/learn best this way” can open doors.Practical Coping Strategies (Evidence-Based!)Alright, let's get to action. Based on brain science and countless success stories, here are some practical strategies to manage ADHD and autism day-to-day. You might already do some of these – try mixing and matching to see what helps most you:* Create Flexible Routines: Daily structure reduces stress. This means a consistent morning routine (e.g., wake up, stretch, eat breakfast at the same time) and evening habits (e.g., lay out clothes for tomorrow, bedtime wind-down). For autistic people, routines are comforting; for ADHD, routines reduce the mental load of deciding what to do next. However, keep it flexible – if something changes, it's okay. Think of routines like gentle rails guiding a train, not jail bars.* Use Tools and Timers: Organization apps, planners, or even sticky notes are life-savers. Write to-do lists and check things off. Use phone alarms for appointments (“Lunch time!”) and timers for work sprints (try 25 minutes focus, 5 minutes break, also known as the Pomodoro Technique). Putting reminders of chores where you'll see them (a note on the mirror, an alarm on your phone) helps counteract those memory glitches.* Create a Calming Environment: Pay attention to sensory needs. If you're easily overwhelmed, tidy your space, dim harsh lights, play gentle ambient sound or white noise, or wear noise-canceling headphones. If you have tactile sensitivities, wear soft fabrics and avoid itchy tags. A water bottle, fidget toy, or stress ball can give restless hands something to do. These tweaks let your brain focus on the task instead of extra sensory input.* Move Your Body Regularly: Physical activity isn't just good for health – it helps brains like ours work better. Short walks, stretching breaks, or even dancing to a favorite song can reset your focus and mood. Many people with ADHD find that moving wakes up the prefrontal cortex to get back on track. Exercise also calms anxiety, which can otherwise clog up thinking. Aim for some exercise every day, even if it's just 10 minutes – your brain will thank you.* Practice Mindfulness: This might sound unusual, but techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or guided relaxation can train your attention and reduce stress. It's like going to the gym for your brain. A simple practice: take 3 deep breaths before a meeting starts, or do a quick “body scan” (focus on relaxing each body part) if you feel wound up. Studies show mindfulness can improve focus in ADHD and help autistic people manage anxiety. It's not a magic fix, but over time it builds mental muscle.* Leverage Your Interests: Special interests and hyperfocus can be strengths. Whenever possible, tie your work or study to something you love. For example, if you love sports stats, try to learn math with sports data; if you adore art, find a way to visualize your notes. Also, don't feel guilty about indulging in your interests – they recharge you. Schedule time for that hobby, or use it as a reward (e.g., after finishing a task, allow yourself to play that game or read that sci-fi story).* Connect with Others: Build a support network. Talk to trusted friends or family members about what helps and what doesn't. Join local or online support groups – hearing how others cope can spark ideas. If you have ND kids or students, share stories of successful ND adults. Remember, you have unique experiences worth sharing. Also, communicate your needs: it's okay to say, “I need quiet time” or “Could you repeat that?” in polite ways.* Seek Professional Help When Needed: Therapy and sometimes medication can be game-changers. ADHD medications (like stimulants) are very effective for many, and therapy (like cognitive-behavioral therapy) can teach coping skills. For autism, therapy can include occupational therapy for sensory issues or social skills training. If anxiety or depression is present (common co-conditions), a counselor or support group can help. Don't hesitate to reach out to specialists or doctors who know about neurodiversity. There's no shame in getting expert help – it's evidence-based self-care.* Practice Self-Compassion: This may be the most important strategy. Recognize ADHD and autism as just parts of who you are, not failures or flaws. When you struggle with tasks or make a social mistake, try talking to yourself kindly: “That was tough, and I'm doing my best.” Celebrate wins, even small ones (finished that report? High-five!). Remember the neurodiversity mantra: different wiring is not broken wiring. Embracing your brain can turn frustration into empowerment. There's a growing community out there cheering you on.Bringing It Home: Stories of ProgressEnough theory – let's hear some successes. Across the neurodivergent community, people are thriving using strategies like these:* A teacher rearranged her classroom so students with ADHD and autism could move seats or use quiet corners when needed. She saw their grades and moods improve dramatically. She says just telling the class “Everyone thinks differently” made the kids feel accepted.* An autistic software developer arranged with her company to work mostly from home. By setting her own schedule and customizing her workspace (dim lighting, minimal noise), her productivity soared. Colleagues marveled at her bug-free code – once she had the right environment, her attention to detail became her superpower.* A college student with both ADHD and autism started using campus disability services. Now she gets extra time on exams and a note-taker. She says what felt like “cheating” at first turned out to be “evening the playing field.” With those supports, she's on track to graduate, and finally believes in herself.At every age, from school kids to CEOs, neurodivergent folks find ways to succeed. Maybe this week you'll try a new app or a different work spot, or open up to a friend about your needs. Every small step is progress.Tips for Parents and EducatorsIf you're listening as a parent or teacher, your understanding is huge for a young neurodivergent person. Here are a few tips:* Listen and Validate: When a child with ADHD/autism says a task is overwhelming or noises are too loud, believe them. Say things like “I hear you, that's really tough.” This reduces anxiety and builds trust.* Be Patient with Behavior: Actions like rocking, jumping, or blurting often serve a purpose (to stay calm or engaged). Instead of punishment, find safe outlets: sensory corners in class, extra recess, or quiet fidget toys.* Teach Organizational Skills: Break tasks into steps on a whiteboard. Use visual schedules (drawings or charts) so children can see the plan. Show them how to use checklists and reminders. These executive skills are not innate to all; children often need practice and coaching.* Focus on Strengths: If a student is passionate about dinosaurs, sneak some science or art into the lesson using dinosaurs. A kid who loves building things might enjoy a math puzzle about construction. When learning connects to interests, engagement skyrockets.* Model Acceptance: Use respectful language. Celebrate neurodiversity! If kids see parents and teachers framing ADHD/autism as just part of human variety (not “bad” or “broken”), they'll carry that positive self-image forward.Wrapping Up: You're Not AloneWe've covered a lot: the unique traits of ADHD and autism, where they overlap, how they affect emotions, thinking, social life, and work, plus practical strategies and real stories. If you're neurodivergent, know this: each brain is unique. What works for one person might not work for another, and that's okay. It's an ongoing journey of trial and feedback.Neuroscience and psychology are learning more every year. Brain research, new therapies, and tools are constantly emerging. Keep an eye out for breakthroughs, but also remember this: the lived experience matters most. You might still have rough days – days when your ADHD makes a simple chore feel impossible or your autism makes you need a long sensory break. That's human. Emotions are part of the ride.The key takeaway: ADHD and autism can bring challenges, but they come with strengths too. Many neurodivergent people are kind, creative, focused, and loyal. By using strategies (and yes, even by laughing at the quirks sometimes), you can handle obstacles and make life smoother. Connect with others who understand, advocate for yourself, and give yourself credit for every small win.Thank you for listening. We hope this episode gave you some insight, tools, and maybe even a few laughs. Remember, you are not defined by these labels – understanding them can give you superpowers over obstacles. Stay curious, stay kind to yourself, and keep talking about neurodiversity. See you next time on the podcast!Links:Show Notes: Welcome to today's episode! We're diving deep into ADHD and autism – what makes them unique, where they overlap, and how they shape day-to-day life. We'll mix neuroscience, the latest research, and real-life stories to make it all click. This show is for neurodivergent adults, and also parents and educators who want to really understand what living with ADHD and autism can be like.Imagine sitting in a meeting: the clock ticks, but your mind is racing on a thousand other things. Or being at a loud party and feeling every light and sound press in on you. Those are snippets of how ADHD or autism can feel. For anyone with these conditions (or both), life can be a wild ride of challenges and unique gifts. But you're not alone – there are science-backed ways to cope and even thrive.In recent years, brain science has been uncovering secrets about ADHD and autism. Researchers use brain scans and cognitive tests to see how neurodivergent brains work differently. We won't get lost in jargon, but the gist is this: ADHD often involves lower activity in brain areas that handle focus, planning, and impulse control – think of it like having a very fast car with weak brakes. Autism often involves brain circuits that are finely tuned, noticing patterns and details that others miss, but also picking up sensory inputs very intensely. So, one brain might crave novelty while needing a tight routine, the other might detect every background sound. Knowing this biological side helps make sense of everyday experiences.ADHD: A Brain That Zigs When Others ZagADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, shows up as three main quirks:* Trouble sustaining attention: Daydreaming or being easily distracted, missing details.* Impulsivity: Acting or speaking without thinking it through (like blurting an answer or grabbing the last slice of pizza on a whim).* Hyperactivity: Feeling restless or fidgety, like you have to move even when you're sitting still.Some people call the ADHD brain “a race car with fuzzy brakes.” Neuroscientists tell us ADHD brains often have lower levels of neurotransmitters like dopamine and norepinephrine, especially in the prefrontal cortex (the area acting like the brain's CEO). That makes it harder to plan, stay organized, or resist impulses. For example, you might forget appointments, interrupt conversations, or feel like you have to pace when sitting.On the flip side, ADHD brains can hyperfocus on things they love. Picture an editor sitting at a cluttered desk. The sound of typing is soothing… until a stray light catches the editor's eye. Suddenly they are deep in a Wikipedia spiral about vintage computers and forget the report due tomorrow. They laugh later: “I meant to write one paragraph and ended up learning about floppy disks for two hours!” Hyperfocus isn't guaranteed, though. Often tasks we have to do feel like a slog, and we procrastinate until the deadline hits. Then, under panic, our brain goes into overdrive – a burst of productivity called “crunch mode.” It's like living with an internal pressure cooker: long periods of low simmer, then sudden high heat to get things done.Emotionally, ADHD can feel like riding a rollercoaster. You might feel frustration or embarrassment about symptoms (like always losing your keys or blurting out something inappropriate). Anxiety and low self-esteem are common too, especially if you've been scolded or misunderstood a lot. But knowing the brain science behind ADHD brings relief: it's not laziness or a character flaw, it's biology. And that matters, because it means there are ways to help and work with your brain.Autism Spectrum: Sensory Worlds and Special InterestsAutism (Autism Spectrum Disorder) is also a brain difference – but it shows up differently. Key traits include:* Social communication differences: Difficulty reading facial expressions, understanding tone of voice, or navigating small talk.* Repetitive behaviors and routines: Craving sameness, following strict routines, or repeating certain movements (like hand-flapping or lining things up).* Sensory sensitivities: Being bothered by loud noises, bright lights, strong smells, scratchy clothing, or certain tastes.Imagine the brain as a radio receiver. In many autistic people, the dial picks up everything at full volume. So a buzzing neon light or a faint background hum can feel overwhelming. Scientists sometimes talk about an imbalance of excitation and inhibition in the autistic brain – in plain terms, sensory signals can all flood in without enough “filter.” This means autistic people notice fine details (that spider web, that slight pattern in wallpaper) but can be easily overloaded by a busy environment.Anecdote: Take Alex, an autistic architect. She describes going to a big family gathering: “The buzzing lights and overlapping conversations felt like waves crashing on me,” Alex says. “I had to step outside and put my headphones on to avoid a meltdown.” This is common: when too many signals hit at once, an autistic person might feel panic, shutdown, or even a meltdown (an intense emotional response). If things calm down, it's like a storm passing – but the confusion and stress can last for hours after.On the plus side, autism often brings intense interests and superb focus on details. That same Alex can spend hours perfecting a building design or spotting the tiniest crack in a wall that others wouldn't see. Many autistic people excel in fields that match their special interests – like science, art, math, or technology – because they're deeply passionate and not easily bored.Socially, autism can look like missed cues. You might overhear, “Why don't you just look people in the eye?” without realizing eye contact might feel painful or distracting. Or you might get puzzled advice like “don't take that literally,” when you really did mean exactly what you said. Brain imaging shows autistic folks often use different brain networks for social processing, so it can feel like navigating a conversation in a foreign language. That's okay! With understanding and support, autistic people often learn communication tricks that work for them.Where They Overlap: AuDHD and Shared TraitsIt turns out ADHD and autism often go together. Research suggests about half of autistic people also meet criteria for ADHD. Some folks even say they have “AuDHD” (autism+ADHD). If you have both, traits can blend in interesting ways. ADHD might add impulsivity and distractibility, while autism adds sensory needs and craving routine.One person described it like this: “My ADHD mind signs me up for more than my autistic brain can deliver at times.” It's a classic tug-of-war: part of you craves structure, part of you craves novelty. Many with both report feeling like a “walking contradiction” – wanting predictability but also getting bored by too much predictability.Shared challenges can include:* Executive function struggles: Both conditions can make organizing tasks, planning ahead, or switching activities hard. It can feel like your brain's to-do list app keeps crashing.* Sensory quirks: While sensory overload is famous in autism, ADHDers can also be sensitive (or sometimes under-sensitive) to sensory input. Both might need fidget toys or headphones to stay comfortable.* Emotional intensity: Both ADHD and autism are linked to higher anxiety, mood swings, or “meltdowns.” The brain chemistry and life stressors (feeling different, facing stigma) both play a role.* Trouble with transitions: Starting or stopping tasks can be super hard. You might think you can drop one activity and switch to another on cue, but often it feels like a gradual drift or a sudden jolt instead.Think of having both as juggling snowballs in a windstorm. For example, imagine someone with both ADHD and autism. They love a morning routine of coffee and crosswords, but if they miss that coffee (coffee catastrophe!), their ADHD brain causes a frantic search for the mug while their autism makes every change feel like a crash. If they try a new latte shop (novelty alert!), the ADHD part is excited but the autism part panics over the unpredictable ordering system. It's tricky.However, there are strengths too. Many people with AuDHD report creativity and unique problem-solving. They often see details and big patterns at once. For example, they might notice a statistic (detail) and also have a wild new idea (big picture) about it. The key is managing the quirks to let those superpowers shine.Daily Life Impact: Emotions, Thinking, Social, and WorkLiving with ADHD and/or autism can color every part of life. Let's break down some common areas:EmotionallyLiving with ADHD or autism can feel like having an emotional accelerator and brake pedal that sometimes fail. You might swing quickly from excitement to frustration. Frustration and anxiety often come from feeling misunderstood or not in control. Little surprises (a canceling a plan, a sudden noise) can trigger big reactions. If you've been punished for symptoms out of your control, you might have long-standing low self-esteem. Remember: getting emotional about these challenges is normal. It helps to remind yourself that meltdowns or outbursts are signals — your brain's way of saying it needs a break or some support, not proof that you're failing. After the episode, self-care and a bit of self-compassion (“That was tough, but I survived”) can help you recover and learn.Many neurodivergent people use humor as a lifesaver. Joking about “my ADHD brain is like a puppy on espresso” or “my daily meltdown wardrobe” can help talk about tough stuff more easily. Sometimes laughing at ourselves (gently, not harshly) reminds us that everyone has quirks.CognitivelyNeurodivergent minds often have a unique thinking style — like a maze and a playground at once. Here are a few common cognitive features:* Attention: ADHD means your attention is selective. You might ignore something boring (like scrolling through your phone in a dull lecture) and yet get laser-focused on something else (like planning the ultimate pizza toppings). Autism, too, can involve deep focus — on a special interest, that same lecture if it's on your passion topic, or even on everyday details most people miss. In either case, switching gears can be hard. Interrupting deep thought to do something mundane is like a rude alarm clock that nobody asked for.* Memory & Organization: These brains may misplace keys, appointments, or even thoughts. Working memory feels like a leaky bucket — once a distraction hits, stuff goes out. You might set a reminder on your phone, forget about it five minutes later, then panic when the date passes. Or you keep 100 tabs open in your brain, and sometimes one of them quietly closes without telling you. This isn't forgetfulness; it's the brain's attention and memory systems juggling too much.* Processing Speed: Some people think very fast (“see” many thoughts at once), others very slowly, or even seem to “lag” when switching tasks. For example, someone might need extra time to formulate an answer in conversation, even if they could write it perfectly later. Don't mistake a short pause for a problem with intelligence — it's just how the mind processes information.Social LifeNavigating social waters can be bumpy for ADHD and autism, but there are ways to manage. For example:* Social Cues: Autistic folks might miss a sarcastic tone or not get why everyone laughed. ADHD folks might interrupt without meaning to or blurt out irrelevant stuff. Both can accidentally seem “awkward” or “rude” when really they just didn't pick up cues. One trick is to be upfront: it's okay to say, “Hey, I have ADHD/autism, sometimes I need a little extra time or clarity.” Often people are understanding if they know.* Friendships: You might find yourself drifting between friend groups or feeling out of sync. It's common to form one very close friendship rather than a big circle. That's fine! Focus on quality over quantity. Some neurodivergent people prefer one-on-one hangouts or quiet meetups rather than crowded parties.* Support: Having friends or family who “get it” makes a huge difference. Find people (even online) who understand ND humor and vibe. Parents and educators, it helps to show kids or teens examples of famous or everyday people who are thriving with ADHD/autism, so they know they're not alone.Work and SchoolIn jobs and classes, ADHD and autism present both challenges and strengths. Many ND people become A+ in their passion subjects but struggle in areas they find boring or disorganized. The good news is, accommodations can help:* Structure and Environment: If possible, pick a study or work spot with fewer distractions. Use earbuds with soft music to drown out noisy offices. Request a quiet corner, noise-canceling headphones, or flexible deadlines when allowed. Small adjustments (like a fidget tool hidden in your pocket or a standing desk) can help channel hyperactivity or sensory needs.* Time Management: Tools are your friends – planners, calendars, reminder apps. Break big projects into bite-size tasks. For example, don't just have “write paper” on the list; break it into “outline ideas,” “write intro,” etc. This reduces overwhelm and gives you little wins.* Leaning In on Strengths: ND people often excel in roles that align with their brains. An ADHD person might do great in a fast-paced, varied job (like first responder or entrepreneur). An autistic person might shine in coding, design, or research. If you can steer your career or course toward your interests, motivation often comes naturally.* Advocacy: Don't be afraid to ask for help. Schools often have services for ADHD/autism (like extra test time or an aide). Workplaces may offer flexible scheduling, mentorship programs, or assistive tech. It's legal in many places to request reasonable accommodations once you disclose a diagnosis. Educators and bosses are becoming more aware – sometimes just explaining “I work/learn best this way” can open doors.Practical Coping Strategies (Evidence-Based!)Alright, let's get to action. Based on brain science and countless success stories, here are some practical strategies to manage ADHD and autism day-to-day. You might already do some of these – try mixing and matching to see what helps most you:* Create Flexible Routines: Daily structure reduces stress. This means a consistent morning routine (e.g., wake up, stretch, eat breakfast at the same time) and evening habits (e.g., lay out clothes for tomorrow, bedtime wind-down). For autistic people, routines are comforting; for ADHD, routines reduce the mental load of deciding what to do next. However, keep it flexible – if something changes, it's okay. Think of routines like gentle rails guiding a train, not jail bars.* Use Tools and Timers: Organization apps, planners, or even sticky notes are life-savers. Write to-do lists and check things off. Use phone alarms for appointments (“Lunch time!”) and timers for work sprints (try 25 minutes focus, 5 minutes break, also known as the Pomodoro Technique). Putting reminders of chores where you'll see them (a note on the mirror, an alarm on your phone) helps counteract those memory glitches.* Create a Calming Environment: Pay attention to sensory needs. If you're easily overwhelmed, tidy your space, dim harsh lights, play gentle ambient sound or white noise, or wear noise-canceling headphones. If you have tactile sensitivities, wear soft fabrics and avoid itchy tags. A water bottle, fidget toy, or stress ball can give restless hands something to do. These tweaks let your brain focus on the task instead of extra sensory input.* Move Your Body Regularly: Physical activity isn't just good for health – it helps brains like ours work better. Short walks, stretching breaks, or even dancing to a favorite song can reset your focus and mood. Many people with ADHD find that moving wakes up the prefrontal cortex to get back on track. Exercise also calms anxiety, which can otherwise clog up thinking. Aim for some exercise every day, even if it's just 10 minutes – your brain will thank you.* Practice Mindfulness: This might sound unusual, but techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or guided relaxation can train your attention and reduce stress. It's like going to the gym for your brain. A simple practice: take 3 deep breaths before a meeting starts, or do a quick “body scan” (focus on relaxing each body part) if you feel wound up. Studies show mindfulness can improve focus in ADHD and help autistic people manage anxiety. It's not a magic fix, but over time it builds mental muscle.* Leverage Your Interests: Special interests and hyperfocus can be strengths. Whenever possible, tie your work or study to something you love. For example, if you love sports stats, try to learn math with sports data; if you adore art, find a way to visualize your notes. Also, don't feel guilty about indulging in your interests – they recharge you. Schedule time for that hobby, or use it as a reward (e.g., after finishing a task, allow yourself to play that game or read that sci-fi story).* Connect with Others: Build a support network. Talk to trusted friends or family members about what helps and what doesn't. Join local or online support groups – hearing how others cope can spark ideas. If you have ND kids or students, share stories of successful ND adults. Remember, you have unique experiences worth sharing. Also, communicate your needs: it's okay to say, “I need quiet time” or “Could you repeat that?” in polite ways.* Seek Professional Help When Needed: Therapy and sometimes medication can be game-changers. ADHD medications (like stimulants) are very effective for many, and therapy (like cognitive-behavioral therapy) can teach coping skills. For autism, therapy can include occupational therapy for sensory issues or social skills training. If anxiety or depression is present (common co-conditions), a counselor or support group can help. Don't hesitate to reach out to specialists or doctors who know about neurodiversity. There's no shame in getting expert help – it's evidence-based self-care.* Practice Self-Compassion: This may be the most important strategy. Recognize ADHD and autism as just parts of who you are, not failures or flaws. When you struggle with tasks or make a social mistake, try talking to yourself kindly: “That was tough, and I'm doing my best.” Celebrate wins, even small ones (finished that report? High-five!). Remember the neurodiversity mantra: different wiring is not broken wiring. Embracing your brain can turn frustration into empowerment. There's a growing community out there cheering you on.Bringing It Home: Stories of ProgressEnough theory – let's hear some successes. Across the neurodivergent community, people are thriving using strategies like these:* A teacher rearranged her classroom so students with ADHD and autism could move seats or use quiet corners when needed. She saw their grades and moods improve dramatically. She says just telling the class “Everyone thinks differently” made the kids feel accepted.* An autistic software developer arranged with her company to work mostly from home. By setting her own schedule and customizing her workspace (dim lighting, minimal noise), her productivity soared. Colleagues marveled at her bug-free code – once she had the right environment, her attention to detail became her superpower.* A college student with both ADHD and autism started using campus disability services. Now she gets extra time on exams and a note-taker. She says what felt like “cheating” at first turned out to be “evening the playing field.” With those supports, she's on track to graduate, and finally believes in herself.At every age, from school kids to CEOs, neurodivergent folks find ways to succeed. Maybe this week you'll try a new app or a different work spot, or open up to a friend about your needs. Every small step is progress.Tips for Parents and EducatorsIf you're listening as a parent or teacher, your understanding is huge for a young neurodivergent person. Here are a few tips:* Listen and Validate: When a child with ADHD/autism says a task is overwhelming or noises are too loud, believe them. Say things like “I hear you, that's really tough.” This reduces anxiety and builds trust.* Be Patient with Behavior: Actions like rocking, jumping, or blurting often serve a purpose (to stay calm or engaged). Instead of punishment, find safe outlets: sensory corners in class, extra recess, or quiet fidget toys.* Teach Organizational Skills: Break tasks into steps on a whiteboard. Use visual schedules (drawings or charts) so children can see the plan. Show them how to use checklists and reminders. These executive skills are not innate to all; children often need practice and coaching.* Focus on Strengths: If a student is passionate about dinosaurs, sneak some science or art into the lesson using dinosaurs. A kid who loves building things might enjoy a math puzzle about construction. When learning connects to interests, engagement skyrockets.* Model Acceptance: Use respectful language. Celebrate neurodiversity! If kids see parents and teachers framing ADHD/autism as just part of human variety (not “bad” or “broken”), they'll carry that positive self-image forward.Wrapping Up: You're Not AloneWe've covered a lot: the unique traits of ADHD and autism, where they overlap, how they affect emotions, thinking, social life, and work, plus practical strategies and real stories. If you're neurodivergent, know this: each brain is unique. What works for one person might not work for another, and that's okay. It's an ongoing journey of trial and feedback.Neuroscience and psychology are learning more every year. Brain research, new therapies, and tools are constantly emerging. Keep an eye out for breakthroughs, but also remember this: the lived experience matters most. You might still have rough days – days when your ADHD makes a simple chore feel impossible or your autism makes you need a long sensory break. That's human. Emotions are part of the ride.The key takeaway: ADHD and autism can bring challenges, but they come with strengths too. Many neurodivergent people are kind, creative, focused, and loyal. By using strategies (and yes, even by laughing at the quirks sometimes), you can handle obstacles and make life smoother. Connect with others who understand, advocate for yourself, and give yourself credit for every small win.Thank you for listening. We hope this episode gave you some insight, tools, and maybe even a few laughs. Remember, you are not defined by these labels – understanding them can give you superpowers over obstacles. Stay curious, stay kind to yourself, and keep talking about neurodiversity. See you next time on the podcast! Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

Shame and guilt are heavy emotions that many neurodivergent people know all too well. In AuDHD (adults with co-occurring autism and ADHD), these feelings often run deep. Unlike simple embarrassment, shame goes to the core of “who I am,” while guilt is about “what I did”. For example, an AuDHD person might feel guilty for forgetting a friend's birthday, but feel shame about being the kind of person who forgets. As one ADHD expert explains, “Shame is about who we are. Guilt is about what we do”. In practice, someone might find themselves ruminating, “I did that wrong,” (guilt) or “I'm fundamentally flawed” (shame) Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

Welcome back to Authentically ADHD, where we turn emotional chaos into curious exploration. In this episode, Carmen dives deep into one of ADHD's most misunderstood challenges: emotional intelligence. Spoiler alert — it's not about being too sensitive, too reactive, or too much. It's about how the ADHD brain processes emotional information on a totally different timeline.✨ What we explore in this episode:* What emotional intelligence really is, and why it's essential for adulting, relationships, and self-understanding* The neuroscience behind why ADHD brains struggle with emotional regulation, from delayed prefrontal cortex development to dopamine rollercoasters and amygdala overdrive* What emotional dysregulation feels like in real life (hello, spiral over a microwave not closing properly

In this episode we talk about, this vicious cycle of avoidance, guilt, and stress is not your fault — it's rooted in the neurobiology of ADHD. But understanding this gives us the power to break the cycle. We don't have to rely on guilt or punishment to motivate ourselves. Instead, we can focus on what works for our unique brain wiring: creating environments that are stimulating, breaking tasks into small chunks, and using rewards to trigger dopamine. Let's stop the self-blame and start embracing strategies that actually work for us. Stay tuned for more tips on how to hack your brain's reward system!Follow me:Linktree:https://linktr.ee/carmen_iraceJoin Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGkhRDDp_g/n_wEu8tOjZtTxJfnO_i6Zw/view?utm_content=DAGkhRDDp_g&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h285a2c67ef This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, host Carmen explores the neuroscience behind ADHD and executive functions—those critical mental processes essential for managing daily life tasks. Executive functions are described humorously as the "backstage crew" of the brain, responsible for working memory, planning, emotional regulation, inhibition, time management, and flexibility, largely governed by the prefrontal cortex.Carmen explains that in ADHD brains, this control center operates differently—not broken, just wired uniquely. Scientific research highlights reduced activity and delayed maturation in the ADHD brain's prefrontal cortex, impacting motivation, memory, and time perception. She emphasizes this difference isn't laziness but a genuine neurological divergence.Common struggles for ADHDers include task initiation, emotional dysregulation, impulsivity, organization, and follow-through. Each challenge is backed by neuroscience, explaining phenomena like "neurological inertia" preventing task initiation and hyper-reactive emotional responses due to amygdala sensitivity.The episode provides seven ADHD-friendly coping strategies:* Break tasks into smaller pieces for manageable wins.* Use visual timers to combat time blindness.* Externalize your brain with organizational tools.* Create dopamine routines by pairing boring tasks with rewards.* Incorporate physical activity to boost dopamine and executive function.* Try body doubling to enhance accountability and focus.* Practice self-compassion to counteract shame and enhance motivation.Carmen concludes with a supportive message: ADHD isn't a defect, but a different brain wiring deserving of understanding, compassion, and tailored strategies.Linktree:https://linktr.ee/carmen_iraceJoin Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGkcF-oJ0c/QlnFe1TUeai81KEgL_O7Lw/view?utm_content=DAGkcF-oJ0c&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h5d32038d67 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

In this deep-dive episode, Carmen explores the constant inner conflict many adults with ADHD experience—what psychology calls cognitive dissonance. It's that mental tug-of-war between what we intend to do and what we actually do, often amplified in ADHD brains due to emotional dysregulation, executive dysfunction, masking, and rejection sensitivity.Usin… This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

In this 2 part journey, Carmen kicks things off by defining “executive functions” — those behind-the-scenes brain processes that help us plan, prioritize, switch tasks, regulate emotions, and hold information in mind. From there, she unpacks the neuroscience: how dopamine signaling in the prefrontal cortex gets knocked off balance in ADHD, why neural connectivity matters, and what current research tells us about “wiring” versus “firing” in our brains.Segment Breakdown:* EF 101 – A friendly, jargon-free intro to the key pillars (working memory, cognitive flexibility, inhibitory control) and why they feel like glitchy software on an ADHD brain.* Neuro-Deep Dive – Carmen shares the latest on dopamine pathways, brain network communication, and what fMRI and EEG studies reveal about ADHD brains in action.* Real-World Struggles – Listeners recognize themselves in stories about missed deadlines, email overwhelm, time blindness, and emotional hijacks.* Practical Coping Skills – Learn five science-backed strategies: habit stacking, external scaffolding (timers, checklists, accountability partners), mindfulness micro-breaks, chunking big tasks, and nutritional/hormonal hacks to support dopamine balance.* Growth Mindset Wrap-Up – A call to celebrate incremental wins, reframe “failures” as data points, and set up a next-step action plan. Carmen closes with encouragement to view executive-function work like training for a marathon—slow and steady builds lasting strength.Key Takeaways:* Executive functions are trainable skills, not immutable traits.* Small environmental tweaks (alarms, visual cues, “if-then” plans) can bridge the gap between intention and action.* Connecting science to strategy empowers us to rewire habits and reclaim confidence.Tune in, take notes, and get ready to turn your ADHD “weaknesses” into a toolkit of neuro-friendly strengths. Let's reprogram our brains together! Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

Ever felt like someone pulled your battery out mid-sentence? One minute you're go-go-go, and the next—you're a human puddle on the couch, brain offline, soul buffering. That, my friend, is an ADHD energy shutdown—a deeply misunderstood, very real experience where our nervous system essentially throws up the "Closed for Business" sign.

Hi my friend and welcome or Welcome back to Authentically ADHD! I'm your host, Carmen, and today we're diving deep into the journey of understanding ADHD, specifically from the perspective of those who've received a late diagnosis. The world of ADHD is vast, and when you're diagnosed later in life, it can be like flipping a light switch in your brain – suddenly, everything makes sense, but there's also a bittersweet grief over the years that could have been different. We'll explore this journey, the grieving process for what could have been, and practical strategies to help you navigate your new reality. Let's dive in."Follow me:Linktree:https://linktr.ee/carmen_iraceJoin Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGjw6AMWFs/-49-Wn3L06Dt02eETOeSGg/view?utm_content=DAGjw6AMWFs&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h4518f71ff2Thanks for reading! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, host Carmen explores the complex relationship between ADHD, self-confidence, and the constant need for external validation. For many adults with ADHD, self-worth has often been shaped by a lifetime of criticism, and this episode dives deep into how that reliance on others' approval can undermine self-trust. Carmen outlines why ADHDers tend to seek external validation and offers practical strategies for reclaiming control over self-evaluation.In the first segment, Carmen explains the concept of an external locus of evaluation and how ADHD can lead to an overwhelming reliance on others for reassurance. She shares relatable examples of how this pattern develops from childhood and its impact on adulthood. The episode then introduces the psychological mechanism of the complementary moral defense, which emerges as a response to repeated criticism and can lead to overworking, people-pleasing, and chronic self-criticism.Moving into the third segment, Carmen discusses why it's especially important for ADHDers to cultivate an internal locus of evaluation. Relying on internal validation not only promotes self-trust but also breaks the cycle of people-pleasing and constant doubt. The episode closes with seven actionable strategies to help ADHDers develop self-trust, including identifying core values, tracking small wins, practicing self-validation, and building self-compassion.Carmen encourages listeners to start small and shift from seeking external praise to trusting their own judgment. She leaves listeners with a hopeful reminder that their ADHD brains are wired for creativity and resilience, and self-trust is key to unlocking their potential.If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might benefit and consider leaving a rating & review to help Authentically ADHD grow.Show notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGjTbREIYI/sFGNEj879Ye4x_zWl-W76Q/view?utm_content=DAGjTbREIYI&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h8496660196Join FOCUSED: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1Follow me on all platforms: https://linktr.ee/carmen_iraceThanks for reading! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

In this enlightening episode of Authentically ADHD, host Sunny Sparks takes us on a whimsical journey into the science and art of rest—especially tailored for those of us with ADHD. The episode kicks off with a warm welcome and a reminder that true self-care isn't one-size-fits-all. Sunny introduces the “ADHD & Rest Tango,” explaining how the unique wiring of ADHD brains—characterized by altered dopamine dynamics, delayed sleep phase syndrome, and sensory overload—can make winding down a nightly challenge.The conversation then dives into the research behind why sleep can be so elusive, from our racing thoughts and creative bursts at midnight to environmental factors like blue light from screens. This sets the stage for exploring the “Seven Kingdoms of Rest”: physical, mental, emotional, sensory, creative, social, and spiritual. Each kingdom is described as a vital aspect of our well-being that needs its own form of rest to help balance our lives.Sunny offers a creative self-diagnostic tip by encouraging listeners to imagine their energy levels as a vibrant, multi-colored pie chart. By mapping daily activities to these seven types of rest, we learn how to identify which areas may be undernourished—transforming our self-care routine into an artful process of balance.To wrap up, the episode presents a practical 7-tip self-care segment, sharing real-life examples for each type of rest—from setting up a power nap schedule for physical rest to dedicating time for mindful sunrise moments for spiritual rest. Sunny concludes with an uplifting call-to-action to experiment with these strategies, reminding listeners that rest is not a luxury but a necessity for thriving with ADHD.Stay authentic, take time for each piece of your rest puzzle, and keep shining—even if it means burning the midnight oil sometimes!If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might benefit and consider leaving a rating & review to help Authentically ADHD grow.Show notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGjTbREIYI/sFGNEj879Ye4x_zWl-W76Q/view?utm_content=DAGjTbREIYI&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h8496660196Join FOCUSED: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1Follow me on all platforms: https://linktr.ee/carmen_iraceThanks for reading! This post is public so feel free to share it. Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

Understanding Anhedonia in ADHDBecause of the HIGH activity on my post about this, i am releasing this episode EARLY, SURPRISE DOPAMINE; your are welcome :) IntroductionWelcome back to Authentically ADHD, where we dive deep into topics that matter to those of us navigating life with ADHD. Today, we're exploring something that many of us can relate to, but we may be unaware of it, or are unable to explain it because its not talked about a ton, I heard about it in my new hyperfocus podcast/book by the ADHD adults UK/Unpacking ADHD by James Brown and Alex Connor & mrs AuDHD: and here it is' anhedonia. We will talk about what it is, why we struggle and how it's more than just feeling down—it's a significant challenge that affects how we experience pleasure and joy in our daily lives.Segment 2: So, what exactly is anhedonia? According to neuroscience, it involves dysfunctions in the brain's reward system, particularly affecting the mesolimbic dopamine pathway. This pathway is crucial for experiencing pleasure and motivation. In ADHD, these dysfunctions can lead to a diminished ability to derive pleasure or reward from activities that were once enjoyable. This phenomenon can vary from mild to severe, impacting hobbies, social interactions, and even personal achievements. It's like life loses its vibrant hues, leaving everything in shades of gray.Types of Anhedonia: There are two primary types of anhedonia:Social Anhedonia: Difficulty finding pleasure in social interactions, leading to feelings of disconnection and isolation.Physical Anhedonia: Reduced pleasure from physical sensations, such as taste, touch, or sexual experiencesUnderstanding the ADHD Brain Reward SystemNeuroscience reveals that ADHD is closely linked to dysfunctions in the brain's reward system. Specifically, there's altered activity in the mesolimbic dopamine pathway, which plays a pivotal role in motivation, pleasure, and reinforcement learning. Dopamine, often referred to as the "feel-good" neurotransmitter, is crucial for signaling rewards and motivating behavior.This means that for those of us with ADHD, the experience of pleasure and the motivation to pursue rewarding activities can be fundamentally different. The reward circuits in our brains may not respond as effectively to everyday stimuli, making it challenging to experience and sustain pleasure from tasks and achievements that others find inherently satisfying.ADHD, Alexithymia, and Anhedonia: Exploring the OverlapLet's quickly explore the intersections of ADHD with another mental health disorder, & the intriguing overlap between ADHD, alexithymia and anhedoniaUnderstanding Alexithymia and AnhedoniaAlexithymia refers to difficulties in identifying and expressing emotions. It's common among individuals with ADHD and can complicate emotional experiences, including the ability to recognize and respond to feelings of pleasure—known as anhedonia. Research indicates that these conditions often coexist, influencing how individuals perceive and process both positive and negative emotions.For many of us with ADHD, the combination of alexithymia and anhedonia can create a unique emotional landscape. It may be challenging to articulate our feelings or derive satisfaction from activities that once brought joy. This intersection underscores the complexity of ADHD beyond its core symptoms, impacting our emotional well-being and interpersonal relationships.Neuroscientific Insights[Narration]: Neuroscientific studies suggest that ADHD, alexithymia, and anhedonia share underlying neural mechanisms, particularly involving brain regions associated with emotion regulation and reward processing. Dysfunctions in these areas, such as the prefrontal cortex and limbic system, contribute to difficulties in emotional awareness and the experience of pleasure.[Carmen]: This neural overlap provides a deeper understanding of why individuals with ADHD may struggle with emotional expression and enjoyment. It's not just about behavior—it's rooted in how our brains process and integrate emotional and reward-related information.Impact on Daily LifeIn practical terms, the overlap of alexithymia and anhedonia can manifest in various ways. It may affect our ability to engage fully in social interactions, maintain meaningful relationships, and pursue personal goals with enthusiasm. Recognizing these challenges can empower individuals with ADHD to seek tailored support and strategies that address both emotional awareness and the capacity for experiencing pleasure.By acknowledging these intersections, we can better navigate the complexities of ADHD and cultivate resilience. Whether you're personally navigating these challenges or supporting someone who is, remember that understanding and empathy are key to fostering a supportive environment.The Impact of a Dysfunctional Reward SystemResearch suggests that individuals with ADHD may exhibit reduced dopamine activity in response to rewards, leading to difficulties in maintaining focus, regulating emotions, and experiencing consistent motivation. This can contribute to symptoms like procrastination, impulsivity, and even anhedonia—the diminished ability to feel pleasure.Imagine trying to stay engaged in tasks that don't offer immediate rewards or struggling to feel motivated even when the task is important. These challenges are part of the daily reality for many of us navigating life with ADHD. It's not just about willpower—it's about how our brains process and respond to rewards.Research Insights and Future DirectionsOngoing research aims to deepen our understanding of these neurological processes and explore targeted interventions that could enhance dopamine function in ADHD brains. From behavioral therapies that reinforce positive behaviors to medications that regulate dopamine levels, there's a growing focus on improving the reward system to support better outcomes for individuals with ADHD, and this would be especially useful in the ADHD brain that has strong anhedonia.AD BREAKThe Experience of AnhedoniaPersonally, I've grappled with anhedonia in various ways. It's not just about feeling bored or sad—it's a profound emotional flatness that pervades daily life. I've struggled to find joy in activities I once loved, whether it's painting, reading, or spending time with friends. In social settings, it often feels like I'm going through the motions without truly connecting. Many of you have shared similar experiences, where anhedonia manifests as a loss of interest and pleasure in things that used to bring fulfillment. Let's delve into some real-life experiences to better understand the impact of anhedonia on our lives.Real-Life StrugglesLet's delve into a real-life experience that vividly illustrates the challenges of anhedonia in ADHD.Anonymous Listener Story: "There was a time when I loved painting. It was my escape, my passion. But lately, even picking up a brush feels like a chore. It's not that I don't want to paint—I just can't find that spark anymore. It's incredibly frustrating."This listener's story resonates deeply with the effects of anhedonia. Research indicates that individuals with ADHD may experience anhedonia due to alterations in dopamine regulation, which affects how the brain processes pleasure and reward. Activities that once provided fulfillment, such as painting, can become devoid of joy, leaving individuals feeling disconnected from their passions.This emotional flatness isn't limited to hobbies. It extends into everyday interactions and accomplishments, where even achievements can feel hollow without the emotional reward they once provided. It's a poignant example of how anhedonia can cast a shadow over one's life, altering perceptions of pleasure and dampening the vibrant colors of everyday experiences.Understanding these personal narratives helps us grasp the complexity of anhedonia in ADHD. It's more than just a fleeting mood—it's a significant barrier that affects emotional well-being and overall quality of life.Coping Strategies and InsightsResearch suggests several strategies that can help manage anhedonia. Techniques like mindfulness meditation can potentially stimulate brain regions involved in pleasure and motivation. Additionally, behavioral therapies that focus on goal-setting and gradual exposure to enjoyable activities can help rekindle those moments of joy. Remember, it's about finding what works for you and taking small steps forward.ConclusionToday, we've explored anhedonia through the lens of ADHD, shedding light on a topic that impacts many of us deeply, but is not talked about enough. Whether you're experiencing it firsthand or supporting someone who is, know that you're not alone. Join us next time as we continue to navigate the nuances of life authentically with ADHD. Until next time, stay authentic and we will talk soon.Join Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, we dive into the world of friendships and explore how ADHD shapes the way we connect with others. From childhood playdates to adult coffee catch-ups, maintaining friendships can be uniquely challenging — but also deeply rewarding — for those with ADHD.Using insights from "Let Them" by Mel Robbins and Dr. Barkley, we unpack:* How Friendships Develop: Discover how ADHD traits like creativity and spontaneity influence social connections in childhood.* Navigating Adolescence and Adulthood: Learn how impulsivity, rejection sensitivity, and emotional regulation impact friendships as we grow up.* Essential Coping Skills: Find out how mindfulness, communication strategies, and self-awareness can strengthen your social bonds.* 5 Actionable Tips: Get practical advice on maintaining friendships, setting boundaries, and embracing your authentic self.Whether you're looking to deepen your current connections or build new ones, this episode is packed with compassionate insights and relatable stories to help you thrive socially with ADHD. Tune in and take the next step toward nurturing the friendships that matter most.

Have you ever noticed that your sense of time feels strangely elastic—sometimes minutes drag on endlessly, and other times hours vanish in a blink? If you have ADHD, this experience likely resonates deeply. This phenomenon, often called "time blindness," significantly impacts everyday life, from managing tasks and deadlines to social interactions and self-care routines.But why exactly is this such a persistent challenge for people with ADHD? Let's delve into the neuroscience behind time perception, understand why this struggle is more pronounced for ADHDers, and explore evidence-backed strategies and tools to help navigate daily life more effectively.⏰Understanding Time Blindness In ADHD brains, several neural networks responsible for tracking and managing time are impacted, including the prefrontal cortex, basal ganglia, and cerebellum. These areas are essential for precise time estimation, maintaining attention, and executing planned actions. Neuroimaging studies have shown reduced activity in these regions among individuals with ADHD, leading to significant impairments in accurately perceiving and managing time.Dopamine dysregulation also profoundly impacts time perception. Dopamine is critical for sustaining attention, regulating motivation, and anticipating rewards. In ADHD, irregular dopamine signaling leads the brain to rely excessively on external stimulation to perceive the passing of time, causing difficulties in maintaining an internal sense of timing.

Hey hey, beautiful brains! In this juicy episode of Authentically ADHD, Carmen dives deep into the wild world of cognitive flexibility — that ninja-like mental skill that helps us pivot, adapt, and switch tasks smoothly. Spoiler alert: it's not something the ADHD brain does easily. And no, you're not just “being dramatic” — your brain is literally wired to find this hard. Like… juggling flaming torches while switching roller skates midair kind of hard.✨ We're breaking down:* What cognitive flexibility actually is (and why it matters)* The neuroscience behind why task switching fries our brains (hello, prefrontal cortex and conflict-monitoring ACC!)* Real-life ADHD chaos scenarios — from boardrooms to spice racks* Why hyperfocus isn't a superpower (it's a dopamine trap!)* And how emotional flooding, time blindness, and working memory glitches hijack our ability to “just start the next thing already”

Dive into the vibrant world of ADHD with "Authentically ADHD"! Hosted by Carmen, a passionate advocate and educator, this podcast explores the unique perspectives and daily triumphs of neurodivergent life. Join us for insightful discussions on navigating relationships, boosting productivity, and embracing personal growth—all through the lens of ADHD. Whether you're seeking practical tips, heartfelt stories, or simply a deeper understanding, tune in to "Authentically ADHD" and discover how to turn neurodivergent chaos into curious exploration!Follow me:Linktree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Join Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com

Introduction:* Hi there, and welcome—or welcome back—to Authentically ADHD! I'm [Your Name], your host, fellow ADHDer, and your guide through the beautifully chaotic, wildly creative, and sometimes frustrating world of the ADHD brain.* Now, let me ask you something—have you ever heard someone say, “ADHD isn't real, it's just an excuse,” or “Oh, everyone gets distracted sometimes”? Maybe you've even doubted yourself, wondering, Am I really struggling, or am I just not trying hard enough?* Well, my friend, if any of that sounds familiar, you're in the right place. Today, we're diving headfirst into the tangled web of myths and misconceptions that surround ADHD—the ones that leave people feeling misunderstood, dismissed, and frustrated.* But here's the good news: we're bringing the facts. The real, science-backed, brain-imaging, peer-reviewed, expert-approved truth about ADHD. Together, we're going to bust these myths wide open and replace them with knowledge, empowerment, and maybe even a few lightbulb moments along the way.* Are you ready? Lets get started!Segment 1: Debunking Common MythsADHD has been misunderstood for decades, leading to myths that undermine the experiences of those who live with it. In this segment, we'll break down two of the most common and damaging misconceptions about ADHD, using historical context and scientific research to separate fact from fiction.Myth 1: ADHD Isn't a Real Disorder—It's Just an Excuse for LazinessOne of the most pervasive myths about ADHD is that it isn't a legitimate medical condition—that it's just an excuse for laziness, lack of motivation, or poor self-control. But the reality is that ADHD has been recognized as a neurodevelopmental disorder by leading medical organizations, including the American Psychiatric Association (APA) and the World Health Organization (WHO).Historical Context & Scientific RecognitionADHD has been documented for centuries. As early as 1798, Scottish physician Sir Alexander Crichton described a condition in children characterized by inattentiveness and restlessness. In the early 20th century, researchers began studying what was then called “Minimal Brain Dysfunction,” a term that later evolved into ADHD as our understanding of the condition deepened.In 1968, the American Psychiatric Association formally recognized what we now know as ADHD in the second edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-II), calling it “Hyperkinetic Reaction of Childhood.” Over the decades, extensive research has led to refinements in the diagnostic criteria, demonstrating that ADHD is not just a childhood disorder but one that persists into adulthood for many individuals.Neurological Studies & Brain Imaging EvidenceThanks to advancements in neuroscience, we now have concrete evidence that ADHD is a real, measurable brain-based disorder. Brain imaging studies, including fMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging) and PET (positron emission tomography) scans, have revealed key differences in the brains of individuals with ADHD compared to neurotypical individuals.* Structural Differences: Research shows that people with ADHD often have smaller volumes in certain brain regions, particularly the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for executive functions like planning, impulse control, and attention regulation.* Dopamine Deficiency: ADHD is closely linked to dysfunction in the brain's dopamine system. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that plays a crucial role in motivation and reward processing. In people with ADHD, dopamine transporters clear the neurotransmitter too quickly, leading to difficulties with sustained attention, impulse control, and task persistence.* Delayed Brain Maturation: Studies have shown that the brains of children with ADHD tend to develop more slowly in key areas related to self-regulation and decision-making. This doesn't mean they're incapable—it just means their developmental timeline is different.So, ADHD isn't an excuse—it's a well-documented neurodevelopmental condition backed by decades of scientific research.Myth 2: ADHD Is Just a Lack of Discipline or Bad ParentingAnother damaging misconception is that ADHD is caused by a lack of discipline or ineffective parenting. This myth suggests that children (and adults) with ADHD simply need to “try harder” or that parents should be stricter to “fix” their child's behavior. However, scientific research overwhelmingly shows that ADHD is rooted in biology, not upbringing.Biological & Genetic FactorsADHD has a strong genetic component, meaning that if a parent has ADHD, their child is significantly more likely to have it as well. Studies estimate that ADHD is about 70-80% heritable, making it one of the most genetically influenced neurodevelopmental disorders.Twin studies have been particularly revealing:* Identical twins (who share nearly 100% of their genes) are much more likely to both have ADHD than fraternal twins (who share about 50% of their genes).* Adoption studies show that children with ADHD are more likely to have biological parents with the condition, regardless of their adoptive environment.Beyond genetics, prenatal and early life factors can also contribute to ADHD, such as:* Premature birth or low birth weight* Prenatal exposure to nicotine, alcohol, or environmental toxins* Differences in brain chemistry and structure that affect attention and impulse controlWhy the Parenting Myth PersistsADHD symptoms—such as impulsivity, inattention, and hyperactivity—can often be mistaken for behavioral issues caused by poor discipline. However, research shows that even children raised in highly structured, nurturing environments can still exhibit ADHD symptoms due to the biological nature of the disorder.That said, while parenting does not cause ADHD, it can influence how symptoms manifest. Parenting strategies that focus on understanding, routine, and positive reinforcement can help manage symptoms, but they don't "cure" ADHD.So, next time someone says ADHD is just a discipline issue, remember: it's a neurobiological condition that has been extensively studied, and science proves that it's much more than just “bad behavior.”Segment 2: Understanding ADHD Brain FunctionAlright, now that we've cleared up some of the most damaging myths about ADHD, let's get into the fascinating science of how the ADHD brain actually works. Because trust me—once you understand what's happening behind the scenes, everything starts to make a whole lot more sense.Brain Differences in ADHDOne of the biggest misconceptions about ADHD is that it's just a behavioral issue—when, in reality, it's deeply rooted in brain structure and function. Scientists have spent decades studying ADHD using advanced neuroimaging techniques like MRI and PET scans, and the results are eye-opening.Structural & Functional DifferencesStudies have shown that individuals with ADHD often have differences in the size and activity of certain brain regions compared to neurotypical individuals. Some of the most notable differences include:* Prefrontal Cortex: This is the brain's “CEO” responsible for decision-making, impulse control, focus, and organization. In people with ADHD, this area tends to be smaller and less active, which explains why things like planning, time management, and staying on task can be so challenging.* Basal Ganglia: This region plays a role in movement and reward processing. Researchers have found that people with ADHD often have differences in basal ganglia activity, which can contribute to hyperactivity and difficulty with delayed gratification.* Corpus Callosum: This is the bridge that connects the left and right hemispheres of the brain. Studies suggest that in ADHD, there may be differences in the communication between the two sides, which can affect how efficiently the brain processes information.But the real kicker? It's not just how the ADHD brain is structured—it's how it communicates internally through neurotransmitters like dopamine and norepinephrine.Dopamine & Norepinephrine: The ADHD Brain's Chemical MessengersDopamine and norepinephrine are neurotransmitters, which are basically tiny messengers that help brain cells communicate. In ADHD, the way these chemicals are processed is different, leading to some of the core symptoms of the condition.* Dopamine: This neurotransmitter plays a major role in motivation, reward, and pleasure. In the ADHD brain, dopamine is often not regulated efficiently, meaning that everyday tasks don't provide the same sense of reward or urgency. That's why boring tasks feel physically painful to start—but something exciting? Instant hyperfocus.* Norepinephrine: This is involved in alertness and attention. In ADHD, there may be lower levels of norepinephrine, making it harder to sustain focus and filter out distractions.So, when people say, “You just need more discipline!”—nope. The ADHD brain is literally wired differently, and it's not a matter of willpower, but of brain chemistry.Executive Function Challenges: Why Organization, Planning & Impulse Control Are HarderNow, let's talk about executive function—because if you have ADHD, this is where the struggle gets real.What Are Executive Functions?Executive functions are the brain's self-management system—the skills that help us plan, prioritize, remember things, control impulses, and regulate emotions. Imagine them like the air traffic control center of your brain, making sure all your mental planes take off and land at the right time.In ADHD, this system doesn't operate as smoothly. It's like running airport operations during a thunderstorm—flights (aka thoughts) get delayed, rerouted, or crash into each other.How ADHD Affects Executive FunctionLet's break down three major executive function challenges and how research helps explain them:* Impulse Control & Inhibition* The prefrontal cortex (which helps with self-control) is less active in ADHD brains. This means impulsivity can take over—blurting things out, interrupting, acting before thinking.* Studies show that people with ADHD struggle more with delayed gratification, meaning the brain craves immediate rewards rather than long-term goals.* Working Memory & Mental Organization* Working memory is what helps us hold information in our minds while we use it—like remembering why you walked into a room or following multi-step directions.* Research shows that ADHD brains have weaker working memory abilities, which explains why you can read an email and forget what it said seconds later.* Planning & Time Management* Time perception in ADHD is fundamentally different. The ADHD brain doesn't track time linearly—it's either Now or Not Now.* MRI studies show less activation in the brain's time management areas, which explains why deadlines feel so distant—until they suddenly don't, and it's a full-blown panic.Real-World ExampleLet's say you have a report due in two weeks. A neurotypical brain naturally breaks it down: Start researching today, write a draft next week, and finalize it before the deadline.But an ADHD brain? It's like: ❌ “Plenty of time, I'll get to it later…” ❌ Forgets about it entirely. ❌ Remembers the night before and enters full panic mode.This isn't laziness—it's an actual difference in brain processing.Final Thoughts for This SegmentThe more we understand the science behind ADHD, the more we can work with our brains instead of against them. The next time you feel frustrated with yourself for forgetting something or struggling to focus, remember—it's not a character flaw. It's brain wiring.And the best part? Once you understand how your brain works, you can start using strategies that actually help. We'll get into that soon, but first—let's talk about the impact of these myths and misunderstandings on people with ADHD.Segment 3: The Impact of Myths on Individuals with ADHDAlright, now that we've broken down what ADHD actually is—and what it isn't—let's talk about something just as important: how these myths affect the people who live with ADHD every single day. Because as much as misinformation is frustrating, it's also harmful. The stigma and misunderstandings surrounding ADHD don't just exist in conversations or on social media—they have real, lasting consequences on self-esteem, relationships, education, and even career opportunities.The Weight of Stigma: The Psychological Toll of ADHD MythsImagine being told your whole life that you're just not trying hard enough. That if you cared more or were more disciplined, you'd be fine. For many people with ADHD, this is their reality. And over time, that kind of messaging doesn't just hurt—it starts to shape the way you see yourself.Research shows that individuals with ADHD are at a higher risk of developing anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem, often because they've internalized these damaging narratives. When society tells you that ADHD isn't real, or that you're just being lazy, it's easy to start believing it yourself.Personal Stories: Living in the Shadow of MisinformationLet me share a story—one that might sound familiar to a lot of you.Take Sarah, for example. She was diagnosed with ADHD in her late 20s after struggling for years in school and at work. Growing up, she was always told, “You have so much potential if you'd just apply yourself.” Teachers called her distracted and unfocused, and when she forgot assignments or lost track of time, they chalked it up to irresponsibility.By the time she got to adulthood, she believed she was just bad at life. She thought she was a failure because no matter how hard she tried, she couldn't keep up with deadlines, stay organized, or focus in meetings. When she finally got diagnosed, it was a relief—but also heartbreaking. She realized she had spent years blaming herself for something that wasn't her fault.Stories like Sarah's aren't uncommon. The lack of understanding about ADHD doesn't just cause frustration—it can lead to deep feelings of shame and inadequacy. And when people don't have access to the right information, they might not seek the help they need, delaying proper treatment and support.This is why busting these myths matters. Because when we replace misinformation with education, we empower people to see their ADHD not as a flaw, but as a different way of thinking that comes with its own strengths and challenges.Segment 4: Dispelling Myths with ScienceNow that we've explored the harm that myths can cause, let's shift gears and talk about what actually works. ADHD isn't just “solved” by working harder or forcing yourself to focus—it requires evidence-based strategies that help support brain function, reduce symptoms, and make everyday life more manageable.Evidence-Based Treatments for ADHDDespite what some might say, ADHD is treatable. No, there's no magic “cure” that will make it disappear, but there are science-backed approaches that can significantly improve focus, impulse control, and overall well-being.1. Medication: A Tool, Not a CrutchADHD medications—like stimulants (such as Adderall and Ritalin) and non-stimulants (like Strattera)—help regulate dopamine and norepinephrine levels in the brain. And despite common myths, they aren't about dulling someone's personality or making them dependent.Instead, think of medication as glasses for the ADHD brain—they don't change who you are, but they help things come into focus. Studies show that stimulant medications are effective for about 70-80% of people with ADHD, improving focus, impulse control, and working memory.2. Behavioral Therapies: Rewiring the ADHD BrainCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and ADHD coaching are powerful tools that help people develop skills to manage symptoms. Therapy can help with:* Time management and organization strategies* Emotional regulation techniques* Reframing negative self-talk that stems from years of feeling “not good enough”3. Lifestyle Adjustments: Daily Habits That Make a DifferenceADHD management goes beyond just medication and therapy—small lifestyle changes can make a huge impact. Some research-backed strategies include:* Exercise: Regular movement helps boost dopamine and improve focus.* Sleep hygiene: ADHD brains often struggle with sleep regulation, but prioritizing rest can help with focus and impulse control.* Diet and nutrition: While food isn't a “cure,” balanced meals with protein and healthy fats can support brain function.Educational & Workplace Accommodations: Setting People Up for SuccessOne of the most damaging myths about ADHD is that people just need to “push through” and “work harder” to succeed. But the truth is, when people with ADHD get the right accommodations, they thrive.1. ADHD in School: The Power of AccommodationsIn educational settings, simple supports can make a world of difference. Some examples include:* Extended time on tests or assignments to accommodate slower processing speeds.* Alternative work environments (like quiet spaces) to reduce distractions.* Access to audiobooks or speech-to-text software for students who struggle with reading or writing.Studies have shown that students with ADHD perform significantly better when given these accommodations—proving that the issue isn't about intelligence or effort, but about creating the right environment for learning.2. ADHD in the Workplace: Creating an ADHD-Friendly Career PathMany adults with ADHD struggle in traditional 9-to-5 jobs, not because they're incapable, but because workplaces aren't always designed for neurodivergent minds. Some game-changing accommodations include:* Flexible work schedules (because forcing focus at 8 AM doesn't work for everyone).* Task management tools and deadline reminders to support executive function.* Clear, written instructions rather than relying solely on verbal communication.Companies that implement ADHD-friendly policies often see higher productivity and job satisfaction from employees with ADHD. Because when people are supported, they do their best work.Final Thoughts: ADHD is Real, and So Are the SolutionsSo, let's bring it all together. ADHD is real, it's biological, and it's not caused by laziness or bad parenting. Myths and misinformation can be damaging, but when we replace them with knowledge and understanding, we empower individuals with ADHD to embrace who they are and access the support they deserve.If you take away one thing from this episode, let it be this: You are not broken. You are not lazy. Your brain just works differently—and that's okay. With the right tools, strategies, and support, you can build a life that works with your brain, not against it.

In this episode titled "ADHD & Time: Mastering Your Day with Routines," we delve into the crucial role routines play in managing time effectively for individuals with ADHD. We explore practical strategies to establish and maintain routines that enhance productivity and reduce stress. From morning rituals to evening wind-downs, we uncover how routines can create stability and improve overall well-being. Join us as we navigate the challenges and triumphs of time management through the lens of ADHD, offering insights and tips for listeners looking to harness the power of routines in their daily lives.More on Motivation:https://linktr.ee/carmen_iraceShow notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGf78XQxl8/WWb7GhFnvC76rAMNHfDDHw/view?utm_content=DAGf78XQxl8&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h440d19e65c This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com

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Hey everyone! Welcome or welcome back to Authentically ADHD with me, Carmen! How is it going? Isnt it insane that its march already? This time of year, is a particularly hard time for us. We slip into burnout easier, we procrastinate more, as we crave the summer sun and regulated sleep because winter is just too long. I may be talking from personal experience but if you relate to this idea, todays episode is definitely for you.Today, we're diving into one of the most double-edged traits of the ADHD brain: hyperfocus. If you've ever found yourself completely locked into a task for hours, forgetting to eat, sleep, or even go to the bathroom—yeah, you've been in hyperfocus mode. But here's the catch: what goes up must come down, and that's where burnout sneaks in.Today's episode is all about understanding how to harness hyperfocus without burning out. We'll break down:✅ What hyperfocus actually is✅ How to use it to your advantage✅ The warning signs of burnout✅ And seven science-backed strategies to create balance so you can stay productive without crashing!Are you ready? Lets get started !Segment 1: What is Hyperfocus?Hyperfocus is one of ADHD's most fascinating traits. It's when we become completely absorbed in an activity—sometimes to the point where hours fly by without noticing. It's not just being “focused”; it's more like entering a deep trance of concentration.Research Insight: Studies suggest that ADHD brains struggle with self-directed attention, meaning we have trouble regulating what we focus on. But when something stimulates dopamine, like a passion project or a high-interest task, we get locked in (Hupfeld et al., 2019).Common Hyperfocus Triggers:✔️ Creative work (art, writing, music)✔️ Video games or coding✔️ Researching a new interest✔️ Deadlines that create a sense of urgency✔️ Problem-solving challengesHyperfocus can be a gift—but only if we control it, not the other way around. So, how do we harness it?Segment 2: How to Harness Hyperfocus (Instead of Letting It Wreck You)Hyperfocus is powerful, but when left unchecked, it can lead to skipped meals, sleep deprivation, and neglecting responsibilities. Here's how you can make it work for you:1️⃣ Set Time Limits with External Cues – Use alarms, timers, or a buddy system to remind yourself to take breaks.2️⃣ Choose Your Hyperfocus Wisely – Prioritize projects that align with your goals rather than just whatever feels exciting in the moment.3️⃣ Use It for Deep Work – Schedule hyperfocus sessions when you need to tackle big tasks, like writing, brainstorming, or studying.4️⃣ Pair it with Body Needs – Stack hyperfocus with activities like drinking water, stretching, or taking snack breaks.But even with good management, hyperfocus can still lead to burnout if we're not careful. Let's talk about how to recognize burnout before it takes over.

Living with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) often presents unique challenges, from managing daily tasks to pursuing long-term goals. One effective and scientifically supported strategy to enhance motivation and self-esteem is recognizing and celebrating small achievements. This practice not only fosters a positive mindset but also leverages the brain's reward system to build momentum toward larger objectives.The Science Behind Celebrating Small WinsIndividuals with ADHD typically exhibit a heightened preference for immediate rewards due to differences in dopamine regulation, a neurotransmitter associated with pleasure and motivation. Recognizing small accomplishments provides immediate positive reinforcement, stimulating dopamine release and reinforcing productive behaviors. This approach can improve cognitive performance and increase persistence in task completion.Moreover, acknowledging small successes helps counteract the negativity bias—the tendency to focus more on failures than achievements. By consciously celebrating positive outcomes, individuals can enhance their self-esteem and motivation, creating a foundation for future success.Practical Tips to Recognize and Celebrate Small Wins* Maintain an Achievement Journal: Documenting daily accomplishments, no matter how minor they may seem, can provide tangible evidence of progress and boost self-confidence. This practice shifts focus from unmet goals to completed tasks, fostering a sense of achievement.* Set Specific, Achievable Goals: Breaking down larger tasks into smaller, manageable objectives can make them less overwhelming. Celebrating the completion of these mini-goals provides frequent opportunities for positive reinforcement, enhancing motivation.* Use Visual Reminders: Creating visual representations of progress, such as checklists or progress charts, can serve as constant reminders of achievements. These tools can be particularly effective in providing a sense of accomplishment and encouraging continued effort.* Share Successes with Supportive Individuals: Communicating achievements with friends, family, or support groups can amplify the positive feelings associated with success. External validation can further reinforce productive behaviors and provide additional motivation.* Incorporate Rewards: Associating task completion with small rewards can enhance motivation. For example, allowing oneself a favorite treat or a short break after completing a task can make the process more enjoyable and sustainable.* Practice Self-Compassion: Recognize that setbacks are a natural part of any journey. Treat yourself with kindness during challenging times and celebrate the effort put forth, not just the outcomes. This approach can reduce frustration and promote resilience.ConclusionFor individuals with ADHD, celebrating small wins is more than just a feel-good practice; it's a strategic approach grounded in neuroscience. By providing immediate rewards, enhancing self-esteem, and building positive momentum, this method can lead to improved motivation and overall well-being. Implementing the above strategies can transform daily challenges into opportunities for success, paving the way for achieving larger goal This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com

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Welcome back to Authentically ADHD, where we explore the realities of living with ADHD—the science, struggles, and strengths. Host Carmen Irace delves into the debate of Consistency vs. Persistence, examining why one is more suited to ADHD brains than the other. This episode challenges conventional productivity wisdom and offers practical insights for sustainable success.The Expectation of Consistency: Consistency is often touted as key to success, yet for ADHD individuals, it can feel unattainable. Scientific insights reveal how ADHD brains navigate motivation and effort differently, highlighting the disconnect between traditional expectations and neurological reality.Redefining Success Through Persistence: Shifting focus to persistence, Irace explains why this approach aligns better with ADHD traits. Persistence allows for flexibility, embracing the natural ebb and flow of motivation without the guilt of perceived failures. Scientific studies underscore the effectiveness of this mindset in achieving long-term goals.Real-Life Examples of Persistence Over Consistency: Irace provides practical examples—from exercise routines to work productivity and relationships—illustrating how embracing persistence leads to sustained progress. Each scenario emphasizes adapting habits to individual rhythms rather than adhering to rigid schedules.How to Build Persistence (Without Pressure): The episode concludes with six science-backed strategies to cultivate persistence in daily life. These include leveraging micro-wins, using external structures like alarms and accountability partners, and fostering self-compassion to navigate setbacks effectively.Closing Thoughts: Consistency may be overrated, but persistence is ADHD-friendly and sustainable. Irace encourages listeners to embrace this mindset, emphasizing that success lies in resilience rather than unattainable perfection.This episode resonates with anyone who has struggled with maintaining routines or habits, offering a refreshing perspective that celebrates the unique strengths of ADHD. Join Carmen Irace next time as she continues to explore topics essential to thriving with ADHD.Link Tree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_iraceJoin Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1Show Notes:INTRODUCTIONHOST (Carmen Irace): Hey everyone! Welcome back to Authentically ADHD, the podcast where we dive deep into the realities of living with ADHD—the science, the struggles, and the strengths. I'm your host, Carmen Irace, and today, we're tackling a topic that I know so many of us wrestle with: Consistency vs. Persistence—and why one of these works way better for ADHD brains than the other.I want you to take a second and think about these two words. Consistency. Persistence. Which one makes you feel empowered? And which one makes you feel exhausted just thinking about it?For most of us with ADHD, "consistency" feels like this impossible standard that we just can't live up to. We're told that success comes from doing the same thing, the same way, over and over—but our brains just don't work that way. And that's okay.Today, we're breaking it all down. We'll explore:* The perception of these words and why consistency feels unattainable for ADHDers* The science behind why our brains struggle with consistency but thrive with persistence* Why persistence is actually the ADHD-friendly approach to long-term success* And some practical strategies to help you build persistence without pressureSo, if you've ever felt frustrated that you "can't stay consistent" with habits, work, or goals—this episode is for you. Let's jump in.THE EXPECTATION OF CONSISTENCYLet's start with consistency.This word is thrown around all the time in productivity culture:* “The key to success is consistency.”* “If you're not consistent, you're not disciplined.”* “Success comes from showing up every single day.”And if you have ADHD, hearing that feels like being asked to run a marathon with no training, no shoes, and no idea where the finish line is. Because consistency is built on predictability—and ADHD is the opposite of predictable.

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, Carmen explores how exercise is not just beneficial but essential for managing ADHD. She dives into the science behind why movement boosts focus, motivation, and emotional regulation, breaking down its powerful effects on neurotransmitters like dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin.Carmen shares insights on how exercise strengthens executive functions—helping with impulse control, working memory, and decision-making—while also acting as a natural stress reliever by reducing cortisol and increasing emotional resilience.She also gets personal, sharing how movement has transformed her ADHD experience and offering practical, ADHD-friendly tips to help listeners integrate exercise into their daily routines in a way that feels sustainable and enjoyable.If you've ever struggled with motivation, focus, or emotional overwhelm, this episode will inspire you to harness the power of movement as a game-changing tool for your ADHD brain!Link Tree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Join Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid= Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGhgs0r-ss/LkeFMENVGnZzim96O5De5w/view?utm_content=DAGhgs0r-ss&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h737391ebbc

Self-trust is one of the most challenging struggles for adults with ADHD—but it's also one of the most powerful skills you can develop. In this episode of Authentically ADHD, we break down what self-trust really means, why ADHD makes it so difficult, and how to start rebuilding it in a way that works for your brain.We'll bust common myths about self-trust—like the idea that it means always being confident, making perfect decisions, or following through flawlessly. Then, we'll redefine self-trust as a relationship with yourself, built through small, consistent actions over time.You'll also learn 10 practical strategies to strengthen self-trust, from starting small and tracking wins to using external supports and practicing self-compassion. If you've ever felt like you “can't trust yourself” because of past struggles, this episode will help you shift your perspective and give you actionable tools to start rebuilding that trust today.Key Takeaways:

In this episode of "Authentically ADHD," we dive into a candid interview with a coaching client exploring the intersections of Anxiety, ADHD, identity, relationships, and more. Our guest shares insights on navigating life as a gay man, discussing challenges and triumphs in mental health. We explore how coaching has empowered him to embrace his authenticity, enhance his relationships, and improve his overall quality of life. This conversation highlights the transformative power of coaching in fostering self-acceptance and navigating the complexities of ADHD in the context of mental health and personal relationships. Follow me LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace

In this episode, we delve into a deeply personal yet crucial topic: the intersection of ADHD and shame. We explore how ADHD symptoms often lead to feelings of inadequacy, embarrassment, and self-blame. Our guest speakers share their experiences navigating these emotions and offer insights into breaking free from the cycle of shame. We discuss practical strategies for reframing negative self-perceptions, building self-compassion, and fostering a supportive environment both personally and professionally. Join us as we uncover the emotional landscape of ADHD and empower ourselves and our listeners to embrace authenticity and resilience.Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGfM-L5ncg/T3-Rh1q2fUdR0sHL5D4Pag/view?utm_content=DAGfM-L5ncg&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h434cc7ae63https://www.canva.com/design/DAGfM-L5ncg/T3-Rh1q2fUdR0sHL5D4Pag/view?utm_content=DAGfM-L5ncg&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h434cc7ae63LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace

Uncertainty is a part of life, but for adults with ADHD, it can feel overwhelming and paralyzing. In this solo episode ofAuthentically ADHD, we dive deep into why uncertainty is especially challenging for the ADHD brain and, more importantly, how to manage it. I'll share practical, actionable strategies to help you break down overwhelming tasks, create structure in unpredictable situations, and develop cognitive flexibility to handle life's unknowns with more confidence. If uncertainty leaves you feeling stuck, this episode is your roadmap to navigating it with clarity and resilience. Tune in and take back control! Linktree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace

Episode Summary:In this bonus episode, Carmen Irace dives into the archives to bring back a classic car audio rant! Reflecting on past moments, she passionately reminds listeners of the power of positivity during these uncertain times. With humor and insight, Carmen encourages the community to stay resilient and hopeful, drawing on personal anecdotes and practical advice. Whether you're new to the podcast or a long-time listener, this throwback episode is a refreshing reminder to navigate challenges with optimism and strength.LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace

In this episode of Authentically ADHD by Podcaster Carmen Irace, we dive into the empowering concepts of advocacy and autonomy for individuals with ADHD. Explore why speaking up for your needs and embracing your unique brain can be game-changers in building a fulfilling life. We'll discuss practical strategies for advocating in various areas of life—at work, in relationships, and with healthcare providers. Learn how to create systems and boundaries that honor your autonomy, avoid burnout, and enhance your confidence. Whether you're navigating self-advocacy for the first time or refining your approach, this episode offers insights and tools to help you thrive with ADHD. Empower yourself with knowledge, take ownership of your story, and join the conversation about what it means to truly live authentically. LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, host Carmen Irace explores how to navigate planning and prioritizing when living with ADHD. Drawing insights from the book Unapologetically ADHD by Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright, Carmen shares practical strategies to tackle common challenges, such as managing executive functioning, micro-planning, time blocking, and leveraging visual aids to stay on track. Additionally, the episode dives deep into the concept of time blindness—a unique challenge faced by many ADHD brains—and offers actionable tips to manage it, including externalizing time, using the “now and not now” technique, and anchoring tasks to daily events. Carmen emphasizes the importance of progress over perfection, self-compassion, and celebrating small wins along the way. Tune in to gain empowering tools and relatable insights that can help you feel more confident and capable as you work toward your goals! Unapologetically ADHD by Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright of the Taking Control ADHD Podcast: https://www.amazon.com/Unapologetically-ADHD-Step-Step-Framework/dp/1394265425  Patreon: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHD⁠ 

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, host Carmen Irace dives into the concept of the Window of Tolerance and how it uniquely affects individuals with ADHD. Drawing insights from Dr. Tamara Rosier's book, You, Me, and Our ADHD Family, Carmen explains how the ADHD nervous system struggles with stress regulation, leading to cycles of hyperarousal (overwhelm) and hypoarousal (shutdown). Listeners will learn how to recognize when they're outside their Window of Tolerance and gain practical tools to expand their capacity, including body-based practices, mindfulness, building structure, and strengthening connections. With relatable anecdotes and actionable strategies, this episode equips ADHDers with the knowledge to navigate emotions and stress more effectively. Tune in to better understand your ADHD brain and discover ways to thrive authentically in the face of life's challenges. Follow Along: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGY5m2yv1s/pN2PP8oLkLFZYP9Cl2GGdw/edit?utm_content=DAGY5m2yv1s&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebutton  Link Tree: LinkTree: ⁠https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace⁠ Tamara Rosier s Book: You Me and Our ADHD Family: https://a.co/d/4ceCTIc Patreon: ⁠ https://patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHDutm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, host Carmen Irace dives into the emotional complexities of living with ADHD. From intense primary emotions like anger and joy to the cascading effects of secondary emotions like guilt and shame, Carmen explores how ADHD amplifies emotional experiences. Drawing insights from You, Me, and Our ADHD Family by Tamara Rosier and Dirty Laundry by Roxanne and Rick Pink, this episode unpacks why emotions can feel overwhelming for those with ADHD and how this impacts daily life and relationships. Carmen shares practical strategies for emotional regulation, including naming emotions, creating space before reacting, and practicing self-compassion. Whether you're navigating emotional intensity yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable tools and understanding for managing the highs and lows of ADHD. Tune in and learn how to ride the emotional rollercoaster with more confidence and calm!  ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/authenticallyadhd⁠  Tamara Rosiers Book; You Me and Our ADHD Family: https://a.co/d/4ceCTIc  Dirty Laundry By adhd_love AKA Roxanne and Rich Pink: https://a.co/d/aAeQSlG  LinkTree: ⁠https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace⁠ Patreon: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHD⁠  My Coaching: ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdGMuMJiyxsn7Kv9AdqgdxTOkFutnFgbCBxZ8hhOduTVbAuuA/viewform?usp=sf_link⁠ Join Focused: ⁠https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1⁠ LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Follow me: @authenticallyadhd_podcast @carmen_authenticallyadhd

In this episode, we dive into the fascinating ways ADHD brains are wired to learn, grow, and thrive. Discover why traditional learning methods often fall short for individuals with ADHD and explore innovative strategies that truly work. We'll discuss the power of active learning, hands-on engagement, and curiosity-driven exploration. Join us as we unpack how movement, storytelling, and emotional connection can supercharge memory and focus. Whether you're navigating ADHD as a student, educator, parent, or professional, this episode offers actionable tips and insights to transform the way you approach learning and unlock the incredible potential of active minds. Tamara Rosiers Book: https://a.co/d/4ceCTIc  Join Focused: ⁠https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1⁠ Follow me- LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace 

In this heartfelt episode of Authentically ADHD by Podcaster Carmen Irace, we explore the exhausting mental cycle of rumination, shame, and embarrassment that so many ADHDers face. Carmen breaks down why our brains get stuck replaying awkward moments or perceived mistakes and how shame and embarrassment feed into this loop, making it even harder to move on. With relatable metaphors and a compassionate perspective, Carmen helps listeners understand the science behind emotional regulation challenges in ADHD and offers practical strategies to break free. From grounding exercises to reframing shame, this episode is packed with tools to help ADHDers interrupt the cycle and reclaim peace of mind. Tune in for validation, actionable tips, and a reminder that you're not broken—you're human, and your brain just works differently. Get ready to let go of the mental spin cycle and embrace self-compassion as you navigate the journey of ADHD. Key Takeaways: Understand rumination, shame, and embarrassment and their impact on ADHD brains. Learn how emotional regulation and dopamine levels play a role in the mental spin cycle. Discover actionable tools like the 5-4-3-2-1 method, self-compassion, and breaking thought patterns with kindness. Remember: Progress over perfection—because every step counts. LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace   Focus Plan: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGUHXIRPCg/m996oWY1Mg9qmLQMltUhSQ/view?utm_content=DAGUHXIRPCg&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=editor 

In this episode of Authentically ADHD by Podcaster Carmen Irace, we tackle the all-too-relatable phenomenon of "low brain days." These are the times when ADHD makes everyday tasks feel impossible, and our usual strategies just don't seem to work. Carmen explores why these days happen, from mental fatigue and emotional stress to physical health factors. Then, she shares 10 practical, compassionate ways to support ourselves when our brains are running on empty. From prioritizing essentials and body doubling to embracing rest without guilt, this episode is packed with actionable tips to help you navigate low brain days with grace. Whether you're having a low brain day today or want to be prepared for the next one, this episode is here to remind you that these moments don't define you—they're part of the journey. Tune in to discover how to handle these challenges and thrive despite them!  ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/authenticallyadhd⁠  Focus Plan: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGUHXIRPCg/m996oWY1Mg9qmLQMltUhSQ/view?utm_content=DAGUHXIRPCg&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=editor  Patreon: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHD⁠  My Coaching: ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdGMuMJiyxsn7Kv9AdqgdxTOkFutnFgbCBxZ8hhOduTVbAuuA/viewform?usp=sf_link⁠ Join Focused: ⁠https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1⁠ Follow me: @authenticallyadhd_podcast @carmen_authenticallyadhd

In this special bonus episode of Authentically ADHD by Podcaster Carmen; I'm sharing a heartfelt message to thank and help you navigate the holiday season with ease and authenticity. Whether you're juggling family gatherings, gift-giving stress, or sensory overload, this episode is packed with quick, actionable tips to maintain balance and joy during the festivities. From managing your time and energy to setting boundaries and practicing self-compassion, these holiday strategies are designed with ADHD brains in mind. Let's make this season meaningful, not overwhelming. Tune in for encouragement, practical advice, and a reminder that it's okay to prioritize yourself this holiday season! Patreon: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHD⁠ LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace

In this episode, we dive into essential strategies for thriving with ADHD in the workplace. ADHD can present unique challenges in focus, time management, and productivity, but with the right tools, success is within reach. We'll explore practical approaches to staying organized, managing distractions, and enhancing communication with coworkers. From leveraging technology to creating personalized routines and structuring tasks for efficiency, these ten actionable strategies are designed to help you not only meet your goals but also tap into your strengths. Whether you're navigating a new job or looking to enhance your current role, tune in for tips that make the workplace ADHD-friendly and empower you to thrive. Follow along: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGV_F8XNKc/Or2YBpV-dPKm4-QqXMjfxw/view?utm_content=DAGV_F8XNKc&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=editor  Patreon: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHD⁠  Join Focused: ⁠https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1⁠ Follow me: @authenticallyadhd_podcast @carmen_authenticallyadhd  ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/authenticallyadhd⁠

Ever wondered what it really takes to get an ADHD diagnosis or what treatment options are available? In this episode of Authentically ADHD, host Carmen Irace takes you on an in-depth journey through the ADHD diagnosis process—from the first evaluation to finding the best support systems. Carmen demystifies what it's like to get diagnosed, dives into the different types of evaluations available, and explores treatment options including medication, therapy, and ADHD coaching. And that's not all! Carmen shares five essential tips for navigating ADHD with confidence, including how to find support networks, set up routines that work, and experiment with tools designed to make life easier. Whether you're recently diagnosed, suspect you might have ADHD, or want to learn more about supporting someone you love, this episode is packed with insights and actionable advice you won't want to miss. Patreon: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHD⁠  My Coaching: ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdGMuMJiyxsn7Kv9AdqgdxTOkFutnFgbCBxZ8hhOduTVbAuuA/viewform?usp=sf_link⁠ Join Focused: ⁠https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1⁠ Follow me: @authenticallyadhd_podcast @carmen_authenticallyadhd  ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/authenticallyadhd⁠

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, we uncover the secrets of active processing and why it's a game-changer for the ADHD brain. "Active Processing: The Secret to Learning with an ADHD Brain" dives into what active processing is, why it works so well for neurodivergent minds, and how it can transform the way we learn, retain information, and stay focused. Join us as we explore techniques like self-talk, using visuals, incorporating movement, and other hands-on methods that can help ADHD minds engage more effectively. Tune in to discover actionable tips to make active processing a natural part of your daily life!  ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/authenticallyadhd⁠  Folow Along: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGVVYfMc7k/S8V0_kQxqv4McZ-Wy9-_4w/edit?utm_content=DAGVVYfMc7k&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebutton  Patreon: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHD⁠  My Coaching: ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdGMuMJiyxsn7Kv9AdqgdxTOkFutnFgbCBxZ8hhOduTVbAuuA/viewform?usp=sf_link⁠ Join Focused: ⁠https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1⁠ Follow me: @authenticallyadhd_podcast @carmen_authenticallyadhd

The holidays can be a magical time, but for neurodivergent adults, they can also be overwhelming. In this episode of Authentically ADHD, host Carmen Irace dives into the unique challenges that individuals with ADHD and other neurodivergent traits face during the holiday season—think sensory overload, executive dysfunction, emotional dysregulation, and time blindness. Carmen unpacks why these struggles happen and shares 12 actionable strategies to help you navigate the chaos with confidence. From simplifying gift-giving and setting boundaries to creating sensory-friendly spaces and celebrating small wins, this episode is packed with tips to help you thrive, not just survive, the holidays. Whether you're juggling family expectations, battling decision paralysis, or just looking for ways to make the season more meaningful, this episode is your go-to guide for an ADHD-friendly holiday. Tune in to embrace the season authentically and with self-compassion.  ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/authenticallyadhd⁠  Holiday Health Plan: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGXZGzIYys/BgHzq1ulO8h8LH6Z6LA-ZA/edit?utm_content=DAGXZGzIYys&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebutton  Patreon: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHD⁠  My Coaching: ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdGMuMJiyxsn7Kv9AdqgdxTOkFutnFgbCBxZ8hhOduTVbAuuA/viewform?usp=sf_link⁠ Join Focused: ⁠https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1⁠ Follow me: @authenticallyadhd_podcast @carmen_authenticallyadhd

In this solo episode of Authentically ADHD, host Carmen Irace shines a spotlight on the often-overlooked strengths that come with ADHD. While ADHD is frequently associated with challenges, Carmen reframes the conversation to focus on its powerful advantages. From creativity and hyperfocus to resilience and empathy, she explores how ADHD minds are wired for unique strengths that can be harnessed in everyday life. Carmen shares personal insights, relatable anecdotes, and practical strategies for embracing and leveraging these ADHD superpowers. Whether you've recently been diagnosed or have been living with ADHD for years, this episode is all about celebrating what makes us different—and how those differences can be our greatest strengths. Tune in for a motivational, strengths-based perspective on ADHD that will leave you feeling empowered and ready to tap into your full potential!  ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/authenticallyadhd⁠  Follow along : https://www.canva.com/design/DAGUq6CkE1o/yfTAPUn7yn8L3isdjsLdzw/edit?utm_content=DAGUq6CkE1o&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebutton Patreon: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHD⁠  My Coaching: ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdGMuMJiyxsn7Kv9AdqgdxTOkFutnFgbCBxZ8hhOduTVbAuuA/viewform?usp=sf_link⁠ Join Focused: ⁠https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1⁠ Follow me: @authenticallyadhd_pod