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Episode Description by ChatGP-T (a.k.a. Mr. T) “Hey, you! Yeah, YOU, fool! Stop scrolling and start listening, ‘cause the Supreme Podcasting Champs are back with an episode that's stronger than a chain of gold and sharper than Mr. T's barber!” This week, the Scraping the Vault crew dives headfirst into Be Somebody… or Be Somebody's Fool!—the iconic 1984 motivational masterpiece from none other than me, Mr. T! And let me tell ya, these fools learned some real lessons this time. Here's what went down: They learned how to spell Mother (hint: it's all about love and respect, fool!). They discovered that anger ain't bad if you can “use it, don't lose it.” (Just like my patience with them—barely hangin' on!) And the best way to eat potato salad? Straight off the fingers of Mr. T himself! Yeah, you heard that right. It's delicious, nutritious, and a privilege, fool! But that's not all. The hosts ask the big questions: Is Mr. T's cello playing the greatest metaphor for perseverance ever put on VHS? (Spoiler: Yes, it is!) Can breakdancing truly heal a nation? (Only if you're spinning with the heart of a champion!) Why would Calvin Klein and Gloria Vanderbilt want your name on their jeans? (They wouldn't, fool, so don't wear theirs!) So, grab a bowl of respect, sprinkle on some self-worth, and tune in as these podcasting maniacs unravel my wisdom one absurd segment at a time. But don't get it twisted: if you ain't laughing AND learning, then you better rewind, fool, because the only thing worse than missing this episode is disrespecting your mother. “Scraping the Vault—where fools become champions, one ridiculous episode at a time.” Now quit wasting time! Download it, stream it, or I pity you for missin' out! Peace, respect, and potato salad. Link to SDS....You https://youtu.be/ajGb9B6vCDE?si=5Y4es-WNt_ZKqzne Link to Mr T https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Y1abMt1UGw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Send us a textHi, and welcome to The Bookshop Podcast! In this episode, I chat with Joyce Carol Oates about the 2024 republication of her novel Broke Heart Blues by Akashic Books. We explore how nostalgia and adolescent pressures shape her storytelling, with John Reddy Hart at the center—a character in Broke Heart Blues who encapsulates the dual nature of high school fame and the journey from family protector to solitary adult. Joyce lends her unique perspective, rooted in her rural upbringing and experience navigating more affluent circles, to reflect on how external perceptions often clash with self-view.Venture into the enigmatic isolations of celebrity life with insights into iconic figures like Marilyn Monroe and Elvis Presley. Joyce shares her reflections on how these stars were often imprisoned by their fame, becoming reflections of their public personas. We also discuss the intricacies of adapting Joyce's novel Blonde into a film, the interconnected worlds of friendship, fashion, the arts, and her friendship with Gloria Vanderbilt.I ask Joyce about teaching, an anchor amidst the creative whirlwind that emerges as a profound pillar of her life. She explains how teaching balances the uncertainties of writing with the gratifying structure of education. This episode celebrates a life committed to the arts, creativity, and the ever-evolving landscape of expression.Joyce Carol OatesPurchase in AustraliaBroke Heart BluesPurchase in the USBroke Heart BluesSupport the showThe Bookshop PodcastMandy Jackson-BeverlySocial Media Links
Les Vanderbilt : Dynastie d'or et déclin dans le New York de l'âge d'orDescription : Dans cet épisode spécial de Raconte-moi New York, nous plongeons dans l'histoire fascinante de l'une des familles les plus influentes d'Amérique : les Vanderbilt. Des origines modestes de Cornelius Vanderbilt, surnommé "The Commodore", à l'ascension vertigineuse de sa fortune colossale dans les chemins de fer, en passant par la vie de ses descendants qui ont marqué la haute société de New York, cet épisode explore en profondeur l'impact durable des Vanderbilt sur la ville et la culture américaine.Nous découvrirons comment leur richesse a façonné l'urbanisme de New York, notamment avec la construction de la célèbre Grand Central Terminal. L'épisode mettra en lumière les propriétés emblématiques des Vanderbilt, telles que The Breakers et Biltmore Estate, véritables monuments de l'architecture de l'âge d'or.Mais derrière l'opulence se cachent également des scandales familiaux, des batailles juridiques et des chutes tragiques. Nous reviendrons sur les polémiques entourant le mariage arrangé de Consuelo Vanderbilt, la bataille pour la garde de Gloria Vanderbilt, ainsi que la perte de la fortune familiale.Enfin, cet épisode analysera l'héritage culturel des Vanderbilt, de leur impact sur les arts à leur influence sur la mode avec Gloria Vanderbilt et sa ligne de jeans, sans oublier leur représentation dans la littérature, les séries et les documentaires.Rejoignez-nous pour une exploration de deux heures au cœur du New York des Vanderbilt, entre grandeur et décadence.-------Retrouvez tous les liens des réseaux sociaux et des plateformes du podcast ici : https://linktr.ee/racontemoinewyorkMettez vos notes, commentez et partagez autour de vous pour soutenir le podcast.Hébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.
How do you say goodbye to Art Moore who announced his retirement? Kelly stages an intervention, complete with a bar cart, to try to get our beloved Art to stay a little longer. Kelly and Art discuss his career and life including his early TV fame as a children's magician. Art shares memorable stories with Zsa Zsa Gabor, Gloria Vanderbilt, and Regis Philbin as well as his views on success and failure. . Jan, Albert, Seth and added guest Kelly Burkhard share Art Moore memories with a few surprise visits from Mark & Lola Consuelos. Can a strong screwdriver change his mind?
A royal wedding draws a large crowd, but could the honeymoon be over already?June 1933, Barbara Hutton and Prince Alexis Mdivani have the first of their two wedding ceremonies in Paris. With all the press attention, the Prince's royal title comes back into question, while his brothers Prince Serge Mdivani and Prince David Mdivani deal with divorce petitions.Other people and subjects include: Franklyn Hutton, Irene Hutton, Louise Van Alen – formerly Princess Mdivani, E.F. Hutton, Marjorie Merriweather Post Hutton, Jessie Woolworth Donahue, Helena Woolworth McCann, Princess Roussadana “Roussie” Mdivani Sert, Josep Maria Sert, Prince David Mdivani, Princess Mae Murray Mdivani, Koran Mdivani, Prince Serge Mdivani, Princess Mary McCormick Mdivani, Princess Nina Mdivani Huberich, General Zahkari Mdivani, Czar / Tsar Nicholas II Romanov, Prince of Wales – Prince David – future King Edward VIII – Duke of Windsor, Viscountess Thelma Morgan Furness, Wallis Simpson – future Duchess of York, Gloria Morgan Vanderbilt, Gloria Vanderbilt, Prince Wilhelm of Prussia, Kaiser Wilhelm II, Prince of Asturias Infante Alfonso, Cuban commoner bride, King Alfonso XIII of Spain, Jean Patou, Coco Chanel, Sam Insull, former Marshal of Nobility in Georgia Nicholas Dadiani, Georgian Minister Araki Tchenkeli, Assistant Mayor of Paris Daniel Marin, Georgian royal family Bagriotinis, ocean liner Bremen, motor boat Ali Baba, Lausanne, Switzerland, Los Angeles, 8th Arrondisement & 16th Arrondisement in Paris, Hotel Ritz – Ritz Carlton in Paris, Alexander Nevsky Cathedral – L'Eglise Russe – Russian Church, Eastern Orthodox religion, Russian Imperial family, 1850 Russian Imperial Decree of 50 Georgian Princes, 1892 list of aristocratic families by Russian Imperial government Department of Heraldry, phony titles, fake royals, pretenders, Russian exiles, aristocrats, nobles, deposed royals, Bolshevik Revolution, Romanian royalty, Swedish royalty, nobility, aristocracy, industrial aristocracy, morganatic marriages, engagement rings, square cut platinum engagement ring, black pearl engagement ring, jade necklace, Argentine polo ponies, Cartier clock, Baccarat crystal, Limoges porcelain, fashion, beach pajamas, donation to the poor, bachelor party, bachelorette party, honeymoon, fever, June wedding season, wedding invitations, wedding gifts, private detectives, withholding information as story device, story hints, mother's influence, losing mother, old History Fair teacher sponsor, It Must Be Love 6 article romance series, flour heiress marries librarian, Hollywood starlet marries childhood sweetheart, banker marries waitress, British earl marries white daughter of Indian rajah, questions for listeners,…--Extra Notes / Call to Action:Questions for listenersPast Perfect Vintage Music www.pastperfect.comPast Perfect Vintage Radio https://www.pastperfect.com/radio/Share, like, subscribe--Archival Music provided by Past Perfect Vintage Music, www.pastperfect.com.Opening Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance BandsSection 1 Music: Eyes Of The World by Louis Levy, Album The Great British Dance BandsSection 2 Music: Royal Garden Blues by Benny Carter, Album Perfect JazzSection 3 Music: Palais De Danse by Sid Phillips, Albums The Great British Dance Bands & Tea Dance 2End Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance Bands--https://asthemoneyburns.com/X / TW / IG – @asthemoneyburnsX / Twitter – https://twitter.com/asthemoneyburnsInstagram – https://www.instagram.com/asthemoneyburns/Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/asthemoneyburns/
In 1934, a custody battle between members of one of America's wealthiest families proved that money truly can't buy happiness. At the case's heart was Gloria Vanderbilt, dubbed "Poor Little Rich Girl" by the press. Her mother, Gloria, and her aunt, Gertrude, both claimed that they just wanted what was best for the girl. But was a courtroom the best place to decide little Gloria's future?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
National Eat your vegitables day. Entertainment from 1991. Battle of Bunker Hill Faught, France held last public guillotining, OJ Simpson police chase. Todays birthdays - Ralph Bellamy, Red Foley, Barry Manilow, Joe Piscopo, John Gries, Thomas Haden Church, Greg Kinnear, Jason Patric, Kendrick Lamar. Gloria Vanderbilt died.Intro - Pour some sugar on me - Def Leppard http://defleppard.com/Eat your vegitable song - Little Baby BumRush rush - Paula AbdulThe thunder rolls - Garth BrooksGoing to the chapel - The Dixie CupsBirthdays - In da club - 50 Cent http://50cent.com/Old Shep - Red FoleyI write the songs - Barry ManilowHumble - Kendrick LamarExit - Its not love - Dokken http://dokken.net/Follow Jeff Stampka on facebook and cooolmedia.com
Who are you wearing?” That's the question they ask the “popular” crowd as they stop and pose so they can be photographed on the red carpet. Personally, I haven't watched awards shows in years. The same “stars” are judged the next day and their choice of clothing is either praised or trashed. Have you ever let what others think about your clothing determine what you wear? I know I have done this many times. Now let me confess about my who are you wearing era. Confession is good for the soul, and I pray it helps you know that you are not alone. I remember the first time I thought “who” I was wearing mattered. The summer between 8th and 9th grade I learned about designer jeans and shoes. I was looking in my TEEN magazine to see what types of clothes I should look for when my mom took me school shopping. The emphasis was on the label across the right back side. It was a person's name. Back then the popular names were Jordache, Pierre Cardin, Gloria Vanderbilt, Calvin Klein, and others. Did you wear any of these? These designer jeans ran between $40-$50. Now that I look back that was a lot of money in the early 80's to spend on a 14-year-old girl whose body was constantly changing. Be sure and listen to this episode for more on our clothing compared to our confidence in Christ.
Today on another encore edition of the Rarified Heir Podcast we are talking to Charlie Matthau, son of actor Walter Matthau. We spoke to Charlie about his amazing father & their special relationship but also his incredible mother, actor/author Carol Matthau. We quickly learn that she was (wait for it), the basis for Truman Capote's Holly Golightly from Breakfast at Tiffany's. There is one small difference between the character and the person however and we discuss that too. We also discuss Carol's first husband, author William Saroyan and Charlie's grandfather Charles Marcus of Bendix Aviation – which are both bigger-than-life stories unto themselves. Somehow we were able to parse all this out and discuss what it was like growing up the son of one of the most beloved actors of his generation. Be it comedy or drama, we get into Walter Matthau's career on stage & film as well as the weird and wonderful curios of his career. An uncredited cameo in Earthquake? We discuss it. His viewing habits of the television version of The Odd Couple? We discuss that too. Along the way we discuss the Malibu beach house Charlie inhabited when host Josh Mills & family along with Walter's best pal Jack Lemmon took to Broad Beach road in the 1970s. Plus, we get to hear about Walter's penchant for card tricks, Christmas' spent at the Lemmon's house as well as what it was like for Charlie to direct his father in a film, The Glass Harp. Along the way we discuss Gloria Vanderbilt and Oona O'Neill, Howard Hughes, the unsung film Mikey and Nicky his mom starred in and much more. This is the Rarified Heir Podcast and everyone has a story.
This is part II of Gloria Vanderbilt's fairytale and dramatic life. What an inspiration she is! There is so much, so many facets of her that we need several episodes to talk about her contributions to style, art, fashion, culture and society… never mind to NYC's image and glamour. Here, I am speaking about her personal style and her fashion business. There is so much to her story, so many facets, chapters, books… etc… that she left for us … so many life lessons… I will be back with more episodes about her as I find her fascinating, inspiring and very interesting! xxxSusanna --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/susanna-galanis/message
Inspired by the recent successful and trending story on FX series, Fued: Capote vs the Swans, it's now Gloria Vanderbuilt's (one of Truman Capote's swans, or beautiful, swan-like influential, rich, stylish and glamorous “it woman” of the 1950s/60s era) turn to inspire and influence us. This is just an introduction to her story, there is more style/culture influence to come… xxxSusanna --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/susanna-galanis/message
Another set of divorce rumors and scandal abound as another lover has been found.Late February to early March, John Jacob Astor VI, aka “Jakey,” and his mother Madeleine Talmage Force Astor Dick are forever covered in the press due to their surviving the Titanic. Their love lives become a fascination for the public as rumors abound surrounding pending marriages and divorces. Jakey is rumored to be engaged to Italian Princess Donna Cristina Torlonia, but both. But there is another hidden scandal about to surface with his mother Madeleine Talmage Force Astor Dick.Other people and subjects include: Vincent Astor, Prince Serge Obolensky, Ava Alice Muriel Astor Obolensky Hofmannsthal, Marjorie Merriweather Post Hutton, E.T. Stotesbury, Enzo Fiermonte, Princess Donna Cristina Torlonia (Christina, Cristiana, Christiana), Prince Don Marino Torlonia of Italy, Elsie Moore, William Dick, William Force Dick, John Henry Dick, William Force, Katherine Force, Katherine Talmage, Cholly Knickerbocker, John Jacob Astor IV aka Colonel Jack, Caroline Astor, Ava Lowle Willing Astor Ribblesdale, Charlotte Astor Drayton, Prince David – King Edward VIII – Duke of Windsor, Gloria Vanderbilt, Gloria Morgan Vanderbilt, Viscountess Thelma Morgan Furness, Gertrude Vanderbilt Whitney, Countess Grace Vanderbilt Szechenyi, Alva Vanderbilt Belmont, Harold “Mike” Vanderbilt, Joshua Cosden, Margaret “Unsinkable Molly” Brown, Chicago mayor William “Big Bill” Hale Thompson, actress Billie Burke Ziegfeld, President Franklin Roosevelt, Benito Mussolini, Social Register, debutante, childhood sweethearts, widowhood, will stipulations, social climbing, rumors, scandal, counter rumor, antiquated rumor, social approval, social rejection, disaster magnet, marriage, divorce, remarriage, young lovers, old lovers, illegitimate, age difference, typhoid, the grip illness, issues with spellings and alternate spellings, Nourmahal yacht, ocean liners, Aquitania, Olympic, Titanic, Vulcania, Breakers Hotel – Breakers fire, referred but not mentioned El Mirasol and Playa Riente, Harvard, Palm Beach, Los Angeles, Manhattan, Brooklyn, Murray Hill, Fifth Avenue, Waldorf-Astoria Hotel, Millionaires Row, Paris, Rome, Italian Alps, Galapagos Islands, Egypt, Mediterranean Sea, Europe, fashionable resorts, Hulu FX's Feud Season 2: Truman Capote vs. The Swans, Truman Capote, William “Bill” Paley, Barbara “Babe” Cushing Paley, sexual scandal, DA Fani Williams, Nathan Wade, former President Donald Trump, secrets, sexual promiscuousness, sexual scandal, hot messiness--Extra Notes / Call to Action:Ti's Hot Mess History, YouTube Channelhttps://www.youtube.com/@TisHotMessHistoryRiches to Ruin – Titanic Widow of John Jacob Astor & Her Troubled 3rd Marriage by Ti's Hot Mess History July 2023https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ODY-qiEn3ak The Scandalous True Story of Titanic's Wealthiest Passenger – JJ Astor & His Teen Wife by Ti's Hot Mess History May 2023https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uF89xKNWbow&t=25s The Rich Boy Nobody Wanted: Titanic Baby John Jacob Astor VI by Ti's Hot Mess History December 2023https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1rlV8oT6lxsShare, like, subscribe --Archival Music provided by Past Perfect Vintage Music, www.pastperfect.com.Opening Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance BandsSection 1 Music: It's the Talk of the Town by Ambrose, Album The Great Dance Bands Play Hits of the 30sSection 2 Music: Lullaby by Coleman Hawkins, Album Nightfall – Sophisticated Jazz ClassicsSection 3 Music: Skirts by Billy Cotton, Album The Great Dance Bands Play Hits of the 30sEnd Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance Bands--https://asthemoneyburns.com/TW / IG – @asthemoneyburnsFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/asthemoneyburns/
Luke 22:39-46[Jesus] came out and went, as was his custom, to the Mount of Olives; and the disciples followed him. When he reached the place, he said to them, “Pray that you may not come into the time of trial.” Then he withdrew from them about a stone's throw, knelt down, and prayed, “Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me; yet, not my will but yours be done.” Then an angel from heaven appeared to him and gave him strength. In his anguish he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat became like great drops of blood falling down on the ground. When he got up from prayer, he came to the disciples and found them sleeping because of grief, and he said to them, “Why are you sleeping? Get up and pray that you may not come into the time of trial.” How many of you have had the good fortune of visiting Disney World or Disneyland? Whatever the case, Disney is the most magical place on earth, right? – especially if you're a child, but even for some of you grown-ups, too. I remember being skeptical and cynical and sort of a Scrooge about Disney the first time we took the boys when they were little, because I was doing the math… I was counting the cost… I was lamenting how much more or better or different we could be doing with all of that money, besides giving it to The Mouse. (And we have friends who work there, so we weren't even paying for all of the things!)But, we got there and I drank the Kool-Aid real quick. I bought it all hook-line-and-sinker, because the boys were excited and in awe and enamored by the rides and the fireworks, by Buzz and Woody, by Goofy and Mickey, and all the rest, coming to life, right before their very eyes. At one point, after dropping $27 dollars (or something similarly ridiculous) on a Buzz Light Year action figure/drink cup, probably with no more than 10 ounces of lemonade inside, I declared, “Walt Disney can have all of my money.” The boys were just having that much fun.Well, Disney works really hard at making their parks “the most magical places on earth.” Among so many ingeniously “imagineered” things, did you know that Disney has paint colors they've named “Go Away Green,” and “Bye Bye Blue?” They're the colors Disney uses to neutralize and “disappear” the unappealing, unattractive – but necessary – parts of any public space, like garbage cans, mechanical boxes, fences and partitions … even the utilitarian buildings you might see from the monorails and Skyliner gondola ride are hidden in plain sight with these cleverly camouflaged paint colors. And all of that is great, for fairy tales and child's play and a week's vacation in Never Neverland. But tonight – Ash Wednesday – is about precisely the opposite. It's about doing anything and everything BUT “disappearing” the unappealing, unattractive, ugly parts of our lives as people on the planet. Tonight is about laying them bear – the shame, the death, and the sin of it all. It's about calling it out, owning it, rubbing it into our foreheads for ourselves and others to see, and trusting that God will do God's thing with this dust and these ashes and the brokenness they represent – that God will forgive it, redeem it, wipe it off, wash it away, transform it into something other than the mere smudge and smut that stains us all.And I'd like to take this all a bit further – dig a bit deeper, maybe – this time around for our Lenten walk in the weeks ahead. If you read my newsletter article for February, you know I tried to get you all thinking about this plan long before tonight.Over the course of the last several months, I've been particularly moved by Anderson Cooper's All There Is podcast. He started it after the death of his mother, Gloria Vanderbilt, a couple of years ago, when he began to take on the monumental, emotionally taxing, spiritually draining task of going through her things – and reliving his life and hers and theirs together – as the last living adult in his immediate family.For those of you who don't know, Anderson Cooper's father died when Anderson was just ten years old, and his older brother, Carter, died by suicide when he was 23, and Anderson was 21. Carter jumped from the 14th floor of their New York apartment while their mother watched.So, left with all of that history, tragedy, and sadness, Anderson was left to digest and deal with the grief he soon realized he'd never been taught or trained or equipped to do well. And he began to record his reflections about it all and to share conversations with others who'd traveled the road of grief and sorrow, too, so that he could learn from their experience and wisdom – and share it with whoever else might want to listen.I've been so moved by those conversations and inspired by the simple truth that grief is – or will be – the common ground we all share as human beings, that it felt like a holy calling and a faithful responsibility to do together, and for each other, however much we're able: the good work of teaching and learning and praying about and equipping one another to grieve well, I mean – or at least to broach the topic and engage the notion that that's possible, and a worthwhile endeavor, to grieve well – during this coming season of Lent.And in many ways, it should be nothing new. Like I've already said, it's so much a part of what brings us together on Ash Wednesday. And I think there's something about the common ground of grief that makes this service and our Good Friday worship every year, too, so compelling for so many of us. (More of us typically come together for those two worship experiences than all the Wednesdays in between. But I'm hoping to change that this time around.)Because it seems to me that – as hard as it can be – something about it all draws us to the ritual of and to the reflection on the grief that gathers us. So I'd like to do more of that, more deliberately in the weeks ahead. And while we don't always know or acknowledge or have language for it, our penchant for this is a great part of the human experience – and it would and should and could be, for us, a deep, meaningful, exercise of faith as children of God.In scripture, we read about Job, in the throes of relentless grief, repenting in dust and ashes. We know that, in Old Testament days, prophets and priests, kings and commoners, put on sackcloth and covered their heads with earth and dirt and dust and ashes, too. In the book of Judges, we read about the women of Israel who made an annual, public display of their grief over the murder of Jepthah's daughter – one of their own – so that the nation would never forget it. In Jeremiah, we read about the wailing of Rachel being heard in Ramah for God's children who were lost and banished into exile. And, of course we know of Jesus, weeping over Jerusalem, mourning the loss of his friend Lazarus, shedding tears as thick as blood in the Garden of Gethsemane, and crying from the cross, “My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?” My point is, this is God's desire for us, believe it or not – to acknowledge, wrestle with, and experience the grief that finds us in this life. There's no such thing as – or at least not enough – “Go Away Green,” or “Bye Bye Blue” – or “Go Away Grief” or “Bye Bye Blues” as the case may be – when it comes to the sorrows of this world. It's hard and feels unholy and it can be unfair too much of the time. And our inclination can be to cover over it and pray it away and paint it into oblivion if we could – or sleep, and sleep-walk our way through it like the disciples in tonight's Gospel.But tonight … the ashes on our heads … these Lenten days that lie ahead … the cross of Christ that waits for us down the road … all of it is an invitation to see that grief and sorrow are part of life in the world, that no one escapes it, that none of us is immune from it, that not even the God we know in Jesus could shake it at every turn.And that's what this obnoxious wall is all about. Each week we'll bring something forward to this shrine of grief and sorrow. We will grieve those we've loved and lost on this side of Heaven. We will grieve the loss of and damage to creation. We will grieve our regrets, our missed opportunities, the generational sorrows of our people, God's children, the Church, and more. I suspect it will be hard and holy. I imagine it will beautiful and brutal, at times. And I pray it will be instructive and healing and unburdening and life-giving and hopeful, in the end, too.There's a poet named Denise Levertov who wrote this about grief: To speak of sorrow works upon it moves it from its crouched place barring the way to and from the soul's hall.That's what I hope we'll do with our grief in the days ahead. Speak of it, at the very least, so that it doesn't block our connection to God's greatest desire for us. Not deny or hide or run from it. Not keep quiet about the challenge it can be to our faith. Not feel bad or guilty for wishing it wasn't ours to bear.And I hope we'll trust what God can do with it … what God can do with us … if we will let our grief and sorrow be; if we feel it; if we learn to live with these ashes for more than just an evening, perhaps; more than just a season, even; as more than just a symbol, and as something God is always undoing, always making new, always redeeming, always raising from the dead … to new life … with love and full of hope, in Jesus' name.Amen
A nearly homeless supreme hostess gets back to what she does best at a luxury hotel, and many don't want to miss out.January 20th – February 1st, 1933, Cobina Wright reorients her new life at the Waldorf-Astoria hotel hostessing several activities like the Beaux Arts & Charity Balls and resuming her Supper Club to great success. One attendee is making an even bigger splash as he defies Ellis Island to re-enter the U.S. and attend his favorite annual ball.Other people and subjects include: Barbara Hutton, Prince Alexis Mdivani, James HR Cromwell aka “Jimmy,” William May Wright aka “Bill,” Alva Vanderbilt Belmont, Consuelo Vanderbilt, Balsan, Doris Duke, Lil' Cobina Wright, Jr., Prince Serge Obolensky, Josep Maria Sert, Princess Roussadana “Roussie” Mdivani Sert, Prince Michael Dmitri Alexandrovich Obolenski-Romanoff (Oblensky-Romanov) – Hershel Geguzin – Harry Gerguson – Ferguson, Jessie Woolworth Donahue, Brenda Frazier, Diana Barrymore, Gloria Vanderbilt, Reginald Vanderbilt, Alice Vanderbilt, Florence Vanderbilt Whitney, Grace Wilson Vanderbilt, Virginia “Birdie” Graham Fair Vanderbilt, President Herbert Hoover, Prince David – Prince of Wales – King Edward III – Duke of Windsor, Count Henri de Castellane, Countess Silvia de Rivas de Castellane, Lucius Boomer, Nancy Randolph, Frank Costello, Charles “Lucky” Luciano, Deems Taylor, Arturo Toscanini, Cecil Beaton, Mr. & Mrs. Bernard Baruch, Mr. & Mrs. Jay Gould, Beatrice Lillie, Fannie Brice, Noel Coward, Cole Porter, George Eastman, Rockwell Kent, French Revolution, Russian Revolution, Russian Empire, Bolshevik Russia, Peter the Great, Catherine the Great, Peter III, Empress Elizabeth of Russia, Tsar Paul I of Russia, royal pretenders, orphan, Scepan Mali – Stephen the Little of Montenegro, Princess Vladimir – Princess Augusta Tarkanova, Cossack Yemelyan Pugachev, Pugachev Rebellion, Kondrati Selivanov, Skoptsy sect, castration, Leon Trotsky, Franziska Schanzkowska – Anna Anderson – Grand Duchess Anastasia Romanov, Grand Duke Kirill Vladimirovich, James “One-Eyed” Connelly, Eton, Oxford, Cambridge, Heidelberg, Princeton, Yale, Harvard, Waldorf-Astoria, New York's the Tombs, jail, hospitals, ocean liners, Olympic, Ile de France, London, Paris, Ellis Island, New York, Boston, Chicago, Los Angeles, Hollywood, Hillsboro, Illinois, Bucharest, Romania, Latvia, Romanoff restaurant, Noodles Romanoff - beef stroganoff, Jayne Mansfield, Sophia Loren, Weekend in Havana film, Hulu's The Great series, FX's Feud Season 2: Truman Capote vs. The Swans, Truman Capote, William “Bill” Paley, Babe Paley, Princess Margaret, Prince Charles – Prince of Wales – King Charles III, Naomi Watts, Treat Williams, Elle Fanning, Nicholas Hoult, frequency illusion – Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon--Extra Notes / Call to Action:Come visit As The Money Burns via social media and share your own related storiesShare, like, subscribe--Archival Music provided by Past Perfect Vintage Music, www.pastperfect.com.Opening Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance BandsSection 1 Music: One In A Million by Brian Lawrance, Album The Great British Dance BandsSection 2 Music: Royal Garden Blues by Benny Carter, Album Perfect JazzSection 3 Music: Organ Grinder's Swing by Jack Payne, Album The Great British Dance BandsEnd Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance Bands--https://asthemoneyburns.com/TW / IG – @asthemoneyburnsFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/asthemoneyburns/
In this week's episode of 'Real Talk,' Susan and Kristina take on the daunting task of deciphering the ever-changing slang of today's kids. From navigating linguistic rollercoasters to tackling new words and phrases that pop up daily, they show that staying in the know is not just essential but also a fun challenge. Join them for some laughs and linguistic acrobatics as they take on today's latest trends. TRANSCRIPT: Susan Stone: Welcome back to Real Talk with Susan Stone and Kristina Supler. We are full-time moms and attorneys bringing our student defense legal practice to life with real candid conversations. Have a fun podcast today, Supler. Kristina Supler: What are we talking about? Susan Stone: We are going to talk about decoding teen slang and trends. Kristina Supler: Oooo, fun, I like it. Susan Stone: Yeah. Before we launch into our podcast today, can I just say it is so flipping cold out. Kristina Supler: Oh my gosh. It is freezing out. To our listeners out there, We are in Cleveland where it's a balmy four degrees or one degree, depending upon the device you look at, and it is just frigid. Susan Stone: Okay, So hubby last night noted that there are no terms for cold and it's been called an ‘arctic blast'. You ever thought that we were experiencing… Kristina Supler: I feel like I've heard like local weather people use different iterations of Arctic blast. Arctic freeze. I don't know. Susan Stone: All I know is I was trying to walk the dogs yesterday and it was truly a miserable experience for me and the dogs. They didn't even want to go out and go to the bathroom. It was awful. Kristina Supler: Funny, I had the same experience this morning when I took my two dogs out. It was like quick rush, take your business and get back inside. But even inside, Freezing. Freezing, freezing, freezing. Susan Stone: Yeah, and didn't you have… What happened with your uh… was it your, was it your water heater? Your power? What happened this weekend? Kristina Supler: So, Cleveland got a big storm over the weekend and yeah, I didn't have power for 24 hours so I was, we were away. It's fortunate that we were away but it was a little nerve racking in terms of, I don't know, bad things happening in the house. Fortunately, my husband informed me that power has no impact on our heating system because we have steam. I didn't really know. Yes, but yeah, food in the fridge, all those fun issues that Midwesterners deal with, so on and so forth. But here we are today and hopefully we've got something light and funny that can warm things up. Susan Stone: Yeah. You know what we did yesterday? I took my youngest and we went and saw Mean Girls. Kristina Supler: Oh I read about the like re- uh, relaunch of that movie. I've never seen it. Tell me about it. Susan Stone: Well, I love the original. And the original was amazing. Rachel McAdams, Lindsay Lohan, Kristina Supler: I was gonna say isn't Lindsay Lohan in it. That's. Yeah, the two comes to mind. Susan Stone: Yeah. And that was one of her. And she's in the remake. Kristina Supler: How's she looking these days? Susan Stone: She's looking gorgeous. Kristina Supler: Really, good! Good. Susan Stone: Shout out to you, Lindsay. You are aging fine. But I will say, Tori, my 18 year old, did not like the movie at all. Kristina Supler: Really? Why? Now, did she had she seen the original or. No? Susan Stone: No, she had. She just thought. Kristina Supler: the remake was not hitting her right? Susan Stone: No. She thought it was insulting to her intelligence. Kristina Supler: Why is that? Susan Stone: Well, she felt like it didn't capture the original flavor of bullying. And she thought bullying is such an important topic that they sort of made fun of it and made light of it and made it seem ridiculous. Kristina Supler: So let me ask you, was there any, like redeeming message or takeaway for viewers of the movie? Any lessons to be learned? Susan Stone: I mean It was the same lesson be kind, be nice, blah, blah, blah. I'm not trying to put down. Kristina Supler: Sure that's and that's a good one, but it's a little basic. Susan Stone: But the way it was delivered, that's the word Kristina Supler: Basic. Susan Stone: It was basic. Yeah. So, you know, I wanted to love it. I want it to because I love the original and I know there's now the musical and, you know I love me a Musical. Kristina Supler: You love a Musical. Susan Stone: Oh my gosh. I mean, there isn't a musical that I don't rush and see. Kristina Supler: I think it's so funny that we're talking about this because I have to imagine while and I've experienced that, sometimes people think that as lawyers we're, you know, reading the news and thinking about Supreme Court opinions and all these, you know, intellectual things, and here we are, “Hey, Supler I saw Mean Girls yesterday”. Susan Stone: But on to our topic about the way kids talk and how language changes. So I was, I did a little research. Truthfully, I forgot the fun terms I used when I was in high school or were popular in the eighties. Kristina Supler: Okay, lay it on me. Susan Stone: Okay. Ready? Kristina Supler: Ready. Susan Stone: Gag me with the spoon. Did you say that? Kristina Supler: Never. No. I can honestly say no. I never said Gag me with a spoon. Susan Stone: Ready? Kristina Supler: Ready. Susan Stone: Eat my shorts. Kristina Supler: Uh that, that I'm familiar with through one, Bart Simpson. You really said that? You said eat my shorts. Susan Stone: I didn't, but others did. Kristina Supler: I just. What does is it really mean? Like, like. Susan Stone: Do you think it means Bug off? Maybe. I think that's what it means. Eat my shorts. Kristina Supler: Okay. Susan Stone: And gnarly. Kristina Supler: Now, Now. Okay. Who doesn't know? Gnarly. Sure. I think gnarly still kind of with us. The West Coast vibe a bit. I don't know. Susan Stone: So, Let's talk about some of the terms. I didn't know that well. Proposed by our fine marketing department. Kristina Supler: Let me ask you, though, what's what generation were you? Are you? Susan Stone: I am the beginning of Gen X. Kristina Supler: Ohhhh. Susan Stone: Babies baby Kristina Supler: Sure, sure, sure, sure. Susan Stone: Madonna spoke. You can't see me Voguing. Voguing, guys. Kristina Supler: Best music video ever. Ever! What's interesting about that is I think of myself as a Gen Xer, but actually, I shudder to admit this. I don't want to admit this, but I must. I am technically the beginning of millennials. Susan Stone: There is nothing about you that's a Millennials Kristina Supler: I don't identify that way. I really see myself as a Gen Xer like the nineties vibe, but I guess according to the internet, according to Wikipedia or what have you, I'm technically a first year millennial. Susan Stone: That's interesting that I'm a Gen Xer. I was a latchkey kid, and for those of you who don't know what that is, my mom went to work and I had a, what was it, a shoestring with a key. Kristina Supler: You literally had a key on a shoestring. Susan Stone: I literally had a key on a shoestring. Kristina Supler: I didn't know that was a real thing. Susan Stone: That's why they called it ‘latchkey kids' Supler. It's a real thing. Kristina Supler: Well, I have to confess, I grew up in a house that we never locked. I never had a key. Susan Stone: That's a beautiful thing. Kristina Supler: It actually is. Susan Stone: That's a beautiful thing .And I was the MTV generation who didn't remember Tabatha Sorenson. So cute. And I was on MTV once. Kristina Supler: No. Susan Stone: Yeah, I danced. Kristina Supler: Tell me more. Susan Stone: There's not that much to tell. Kristina Supler: On the Grind? Were you on MTV on the Grind? Susan Stone: It was one of those shows, you literally waited in line and when they told you to dance, you danced. It's hilarious. Kristina Supler: But was it the Grind? Yes or no? Susan Stone: I don't think so. Kristina Supler: Because I really hope that it was. Susan Stone: And my roommate in college had a picture of Ronald Reagan above her bed. Kristina Supler: (Laughing) What did she love him? Susan Stone: She loved him. Kristina Supler: Was she attracted to him? Susan Stone: I don't know Ronny was hot. Ronny was hot. Kristina Supler: Sensible citizen. Oh my God. Now that is the funniest thing. Susan Stone: Okay, guys Let's talk about some words and then we can respond to what this generation is "saying. And I am going to mispronounce it, but 'gyat'. Kristina Supler: I, I just can't with this one. With this one, I just can't. I am told, so for all of our listeners out there, I've only recently come to learn this, this word, this phrase, and apparently it is a high compliment. It is a major, major compliment to give someone indicating that their derriere is large. Susan Stone: Yeah. I asked my daughter, do you know what ‘gyat' is? She's just like ass. I'm like, okay. Kristina Supler: Yeah. So I guess it rhymes with squat or bought Susan Stone: or fiat. Kristina Supler: And then it can also be, I guess I'm told, an acronym for something about the backside being thick. I don't know. Susan Stone: But I have to be honest, I've never heard it used in my house. Kristina Supler: I've never heard it used. I've never seen it. I mean, in our work representing students, we read a lot of text messages and social media posts. I've never even read it in a text, so I personally am very circumspect about this word and its use and popularity. I feel like a journalist or someone Internet writer out there just like made it up or heard one person use it and then said, oh parents, hey, you need to know this word. And it's really not a thing. Susan Stone: I don't even like the way it sounds. But you know, you have a question for you. Why? When we read and we read thousands of text messages in our case, what's the point of Bruh B.R.U.H Kristina Supler: I wish I knew. I wish I knew. I've got nothing for you on that. And we see it literally every day and it's constant, It's constant. Like every other thing is ‘bruh'. And then the other question I have for you is ‘lol', after everything, even after stuff that's not funny, you still put ‘lol bruh'. That you see a lot as well. I don't know. That is more with people, our clients who are a little bit older. It's not like high schoolers, but that I see all the time and I feel like it's just a habit because it's literally like on text where there's not even something funny said. Susan Stone: I don't get it, I don't get it. I agree. Kristina Supler: I think for parents, the key is… And parents out there, Please don't please don't say gyat. I mean, that would just be mortifying to your child. Susan Stone: Yeah, you really will look like a total loser. Kristina Supler: Way to not mince your words. Susan Stone: I know. Okay, parents try it and then they'll tell you your kids that you're a total loser. Kristina Supler: Yeah. No they won't, they won't want to go in public with you. Susan Stone: Now, this is all from our marketing department, so shout out to Amanda for doing the research on this. But the next word is… Kristina Supler: Well, hold on. Drum roll, please. For the 2023 word of the year. Susan Stone Rizz Kristina Supler: Susan, what does Rizz mean? Susan Stone Charisma. Kristina Supler: Ohhhhh the ability to charm someone or woo someone. Now, have you ever So I have not heard my children use this. My kids are a little bit younger. What? You have a senior in high school? Have you heard her use it? Susan Stone No, I've never heard her use Rizz, but I did. Again, just like I am curious her and she says it's more used in the negative, like she doesn't have Rizz. Kristina Supler: Oh. Okay. I guess I see it. I don't know. Some of these things. Truly. I feel like you're just, like, made into things for internet writers to launch off on. But we'll have to see if Rizz continues on to 2024. Susan Stone Don't think it's going to make it. Kristina Supler: I'm inclined to agree. But let me ask you, though, 2024 word that's going to become, you know, plastered all over text messages. Do you think it'll be like a compliment, an insult, a rhetorical turn of phrase? What were you going with this? Susan Stone No clue, guys. I don't know. Kristina Supler: Come on bruh, come on bruh! Susan Stone But what I do know is that, you know, what's the point of this podcast is important, and it's because we don't want parents running around saying ‘Rizz' and ‘Gyat, and ‘Bruh'. Kristina Supler: Yes, let's be clear. We are not advocating for that on any level. We are talking about this though, because I think it's just important for parents to know what these things mean. So I don't know. For instance, you go snooping, you read your kids, you know, messages in the phone. It's sometimes you literally can't tell what they're talking about. And so it's important to know words and phrases. Susan Stone Well, on our case, I have to say I use the Urban Dictionary a lot. Kristina Supler: Oh yeah. I mean, I can't I can't deny having had to turn to it on more than one occasion. And also, I'll tell you what else I really am uninformed about and trying to do better with is emojis and what they mean. Susan Stone Oh those are hard. Kristina Supler: Those are hard. I mean, obviously, we know like happy, sad, so on and so forth, but some of them are very confusing to me. And again, we go through text in cases all the time and it's like literally have to Google what certain emojis mean. Susan Stone I even know, you know, about peaches and eggplant. You had to tell me. Kristina Supler: I was going to say, I definitely feel like I knew that. Susan Stone But you did. But I went to you. And once it was explained, I kind of saw the Peach. Kristina Supler: You saw the booty, Susan Stone I saw a tush, but it wasn't intuitive to me. Kristina Supler: Sure, sure. Well, and you have a very good vocabulary, so, you know, you're like pulling out your dictionary words, not Rizz, but, you know, the fancy dictionary words. And so Susan Stone I do I pride myself on that. And, you know, I like to think of myself as a reader. Kristina Supler: Sure. Me too. Me too. Susan Stone I started the new James McBride book. so good. Anyways, that's a sidetrack. Let's talk about one last topic of what's going on in Teen Trends, which is different. It's kind of like a redo from my gen. What is preppy? Kristina Supler: Well, I think we've come full circle with our mean girls theme and like redos, re- rehashing something out because preppy is back and alive full well now and it's interesting Susan Stone It is different. Kristina Supler: It is different, and I see preppy now this I have familiarity with through my daughter and her friends. And back in my day, growing up, when I thought I was a Gen Xer, but apparently I'm not heartbroken. Preppy was like Lacoste and you had your Gap, Argyle, V-neck Sweaters and… Susan Stone The Gap, the Izod, with the collar turned up. Kristina Supler: Pop the collar, baby. Susan Stone Pop the collar and Bermuda backs. Kristina Supler: Oh no, I don't know what that is. Susan Stone They were these cute little purses where you could change the outer side and little button them on there. They're cute. Kristina Supler: Penny loafers, suede bath box. Do you remember those? That was hot in Catholic grade schools. Susan Stone I didn't go to Catholic grade school, but I know you did. But yeah, preppy was the and the preppy handbook that was really big. Kristina Supler: I do not know what that is. Susan Stone It was a book on how to be preppy. I mean, it was a how to, but today it seems very expensive, what preppy is. Kristina Supler: Yeah. Well I mean I guess it probably was back in the day as well with, you know, buying your Lacoste shirt and whatnot. But so for the youngsters now, it's interesting. It's sort of I would say it's like a lifestyle. It's a look and a lifestyle. Susan Stone Is it like Goop, a lifestyle brand? Kristina Supler: Yeah, I mean Goop is, kind of in a way. But Goop is for what middle aged women be. So think lots of pink and… Susan Stone Like Barbie pink? Kristina Supler: Yes, Barbie pink. But before it was a thing. Before Barbie was the Barbie remake. Sure. Lululemon, there's no point getting dressed if you don't have on Lululemon. Susan Stone But see I think of Lululemon as middle age housewife. Kristina Supler: Well, you think of it athleisure. Susan Stone I do. Kristina Supler: And I do too, actually. But for the young ones out there, it's just what you wear. It's what you do. You always have your water bottle you're carrying around your Stanley thing. But that's not like, I don't know, I, I funny enough, I was doing some reading the other day and came across something on like how Stanley got big and it was a few like Instagram accounts that really made Stanley, like become a huge, huge thing more recently Susan Stone That Laneige… Kristina Supler: Lip balm? Susan Stone Yeah! Kristina Supler: Lip Mask? Yup. Susan Stone My daughter's Kristina Supler: Yeah. Susan Stone The oldest one. Hey, Alex bought it for me and I have say, shout out to Laneige epically now in this bad cold weather. Kristina Supler: Yeah. Susan Stone I really like it. Oh my gosh. I meant to ask you, you know how I bought you. Just as a you're the best business partner in the world, Jones Road Balm? Kristina Supler: Yes. Susan Stone I am loving it this winter. Do you notice I have a little on? Kristina Supler: A little a little subtle glow. Susan Stone a little subtle glow. But it does keep you moisturized in this weather. So I bought you that gift. Are you using it? I'm putting you on the spot. Kristina Supler: Well, now that it's cold out, I might, I might bring it back in the summer. It just. It didn't do me right. But now it might be time. Now that my skin's dryer. I will tell you another example of, like, the penultimate preppy brand for girls now is the Aviator Nation sweat wear. And I so I actually, coincidentally enough this weekend was driving and listen to the how I built this podcast. Susan Stone I love that guy, Raz. Kristina Supler: Who doesn't, who doesn't! Susan Stone Shout out to him too. Kristina Supler: And they had on the founder of Aviator Nation who, by the way, her brother was the founder of Tom's. Think about that family gene pool. Isn't that interesting? But Aviator Nation is essentially like very high-end sweat- sweatshirts, sweat pants, so on and so forth, known for like applique, essentially sewing on stripes of things like that. Susan Stone I'm looking at it on a website because I didn't know about it. I don't get it. Kristina Supler: Well, you know, it's just like it's a thing. What makes the sweatshirt worth $150? I couldn't really tell you, but kids want it. Parents are paying for it. Susan Stone I don't get it. Kristina Supler: I think it's like a status thing, too. But it's supposed to be very like colorful. And again, it's a lifestyle. It's an aspirational brand. And the young ones are all about it now. So I don't know that these are kind of like the key, I shouldn't say the key, but brands that come to my mind in terms of like, what the tweens now or viewing is like preppy and what is preppy and skin care. They're very they're very intense in skin care Susan Stone Oh my gosh and I think that's a good thing. Kristina Supler: Sure, why not? Susan Stone I think that establishes really good lifelong habits. But I got to share something. My, in my day, it was either Gloria Vanderbilt or Jordache jeans. Kristina Supler: Oh yeah. Susan Stone I've got to tell you, my mother would not buy them for me. We were out of my family's budget and I remember crying over it Kristina Supler: in my day. It was Guess jeans. Susan Stone Yeah, but. Kristina Supler: But you wanted the Gloria Vanderbilt pencil pouch. That was like the hot item at my school. Susan Stone My parents didn't cater to that. Kristina Supler: Mine didn't really. But like, my mother understood why it was important to us. And so we always had to like we had chores and allowance and we had to save our money and then go buy it ourselves. Susan Stone So yeah. And you know what? I really try not to capitulate and rush out to every trend. Kristina Supler: Sure. No, I think that and that actually by the way, I think that is those are words of wisdom for listeners of any age, because a trend is just that, a trend here today, gone tomorrow. And so, I mean, if you're going to jump on board with the trend, go for it. But I wouldn't, you know, do so in an expensive way. Susan Stone No, no. Because, you know, we know what that creates. Kristina Supler: And parents, we all know here today, gone tomorrow in terms of what our kids are interested in, what they want. So what they're saying. Right. Susan Stone And what they're saying. So for us, it's a necessity. We can't get, do our job unless we can read their texts. Kristina Supler: Yeah, I mean, kidding aside, of course, this was obviously we were being light with the topic. But truly, there are often times in many cases where we're going through social media communication and there's text back and forth and they're really important. There, you know, relevant to the case and who did what, said what, when, where, so on and so forth. And we need to understand what's being said. And we don't always. Susan Stone Okay, bruh. Kristina Supler: Thank you, bruh. LOL. Until next time. Thanks for listening to Real Talk with Susan and Kristina. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to our show so you never miss an episode and leave us a review so other people can find the content we share here. You can follow us on Instagram. Just search our handle at Stones hoopla and for more resources, visit us online at Student Defense, Dot.com. Thank you so much for being a part of our real talk community. We'll see you next time.
Prince George of Battenberg, later the 2nd Marquess of Milford Haven, was the third child of Louis Battenber and Princess Victoria of Hesse and by Rhine, and was by all accounts a pretty good dude. Like his father, he set his sights on a naval career, and excelled at the Royal Naval College in Dartmouth, entering the Royal Navy in time to participate in World War I. His 1916 marriage to Countess Nadajda de Torby, called Nada by her friends, would become a source of significant scandal in 1934, when a former maid became a key witness in the high profile custody battle over young heiress Gloria Vanderbilt. The mail alleged on the stand that Nada and the girl's mother, Gloria Morgan Vanderbilt, were lovers, and the story was so salacious for its time that the judge cleared the courtroom entirely. After the family dropped "Battenberg" in favor of "Mountbatten" in 1917, at the height of anti-German sentiment in England, George Mountbatten would continue being one of the few stable presences in the life of Prince Philip, and Queen Elizabeth II, his eventual niece-in-law, was extremely fond of George. His death at the young age of 45, from bone marrow cancer, was yet another tragedy in young Philip's life, while Nada would remain close friends with Edwina Mountbatten, her sister-in-law, and the wife of Philip's next mentor, Louis Mountbatten. Listen ad-free at patreon.com/trashyroyalspodcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Widowed dynamo Susan Yelton jumps into action as my guest co-host in this first episode of a whirl-wind 3 part series. The series makes you: question, agree, cry, laugh, piss you off, shake your head and your fist, say oh my gosh, and holy shyt. Susan even makes me blush! In a later episode we talk about sexuality…just listen for yourself. You hear me turn red. A Baptist preacher's daughter, at age 16, Susan meets Mark. A long-haired guitar-strumming 19-year-old. Akin to a 60's folk singer. Instantly in love. Three years later they marry, and stay that way for fifty-two years until death do you part. But not without a roller coaster ride. Alcoholism, shame-filled cover-ups, and how they saved their marriage. Then two and a half years ago, Mark got sick. You'll hear about Gloria Vanderbilt the cat, and Sophie the dog. Sophie's dying too… she won't leave Mark's side. You see how and why Susan keeps Sophie alive. The harsh reality of hospice. Why Mark administers his morphine. Susan won't administer it because a mysterious morphine experience haunts her. And so much more… Whether you're 25 or 95 years old, priceless gems emerge—warnings, lessons, and advice. Thanks for listening. Join us for part 2 of 3. Because you shouldn't have to journey alone, join me in the My Spouse Died Too community email list for members-only benefits: Behind-the-scenes commentary gives you deeper insight--helps you heal. Episode alerts so you'll know when a new episode is ready. Updates on past podcast guests because their journeys continue too. Plus more thoughts, resources, and random widowed journey stuff I discover. And it's the best way to contact me. Because you shouldn't have to journey alone. Sign-up takes less than thirty-two seconds. Here's the link: https://www.myspousediedtoo.com. Hope. Heal. Find love again. Give Grief The Middle Finger. ~ Emeric My Spouse Died Too podcast, images, logos, artwork copyright © 2019-2024 by Emeric McCleary. Music and lyrics © 2019-2024 by Emeric McCleary and Elena McCleary.
Another fun adventure with the flipside. Jennifer Shaffer works with law enforcement agencies nationwide on missing person cases. For the past 8 years we meet up weekly to talk to people offstage. I've been filming people talking to loved ones offstage for fifteen years. Examples are in the documentaries FLIPSIDE; MY JOURNEY INTO THE AFTERLIFE https://www.amazon.com/Flipside-Journey-Afterlife-Richard-Martini/dp/B0081U6K1Y TALKING TO BILL PAXTON, https://www.amazon.com/Backstage-Pass-Flipside-Talking-Paxton/dp/B0CGRKSYGN/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1B31PRFLYCZF1&keywords=talking+to+bill+paxton&qid=1694192902&s=instant-video&sprefix=talking+to+bill+paxton%2Cinstant-video%2C141&sr=1-1 and HACKING THE AFTERLIFE https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/0M297GRYOUK92ZY6V09DS43CGV/ref=atv_dp_cnc_0_0 A couple of weeks ago, Tony Bennett came through and we didn't talk about his dementia - something he had before he left the planet. He said that "only about 2-10% of his conscious energy" was in his body while still on the planet. (The rest is reportedly back "home" - which is what people consistently report. That is - they're already "offstage" before the curtain falls.) He talked about feeling the emotions of all those who loved him and his music, and said that he connects to those individuals "through the heart." He said that Lady Gaga was a beautiful, talented person, and that he "communicates with her all the time" whether she's aware of it or not. When we play an instrument, or sing - it's like they can "share the ride" with us. He mentioned that Rock Hudson was one of the people who greeted him, and we asked if Rock wanted to come forward and speak. He spoke about who greeted him on the other side, as well as seeing a number of friends who also had left the stage due to AIDS. We talked a little bit about his friend James Dean, and the concept that we had spoken to both the higher self of James, and the person who James told us to seek out who he's "come back as." Rock said "that's normal, and many have done that" including himself. Tony mentioned seeing Gloria Vanderbilt speaking with JFK - and I asked Gloria about her journey, as well as Anderson. I know that Anderson is a skeptic in this area, but she said he has many talents besides news gathering - and to remind him that he doesn't have to stay at CNN for the rest of his life. (Her words, not mine.) She talked about seeing her son, Anderson's brother before she left the planet. Jennifer mentioned seeing Wayne Dyer - someone she has followed for years, and how he showed up to remind her to not doubt when he does show up. It echoed what Yogananda said a couple of weeks back; "When you put me on a pedestal it's harder to allow me into one's heart." Thanks for tuning in!
Vanderbilt by Gloria Vanderbilt (1982) + Larry McMurtry's Terms of Endearment (1975) + James L. Brooks's Terms of Endearment (1983) 8/29/23 S5E57 To hear this episode and the complete continuing story of The Perfume Nationalist please subscribe on Patreon.
Mr. Anderson Cooper grieved heavily when his mother, Gloria Vanderbilt, died. He used that time to process his grief through voice recordings. Using his phone, he recorded his thoughts, pain, emotions, memories, and whatever was on his mind. On today's episode, we will talk about this wonderful idea. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lets-talk-dementia/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lets-talk-dementia/support
Many feeling the economic pinch lower summer participation. But those who remain wealthy gather for another round of seaside fun.August 1932, many millionaires return for another Tennis Week and more yacht races in Newport, Rhode Island. Frank Shields joins other tennis stars on the courts, while Vincent Astor and his yacht Nourmahal focus on seafaring activities. This sleepy seaside enclave is having one of its best seasons in over a decade, but the biggest news is the recent sale of Marble House. Other people and subjects include: William “Sam” Van Alen, Elizabeth “Betty” Kent Van Alen, James “Henry” Van Alen, Eleanor Van Alen, Princess Louise Van Alen Mdivani, Prince Alexis Mdivani, Frank Shields, John Jacob Astor VI aka “Jakey,” Doris Duke, Nanaline Duke, Barbara Hutton, Huntington Hartford, Henrietta Hartford, Mary Lee Epling Hartford, Helen Dinsmore Astor, Caroline Astor, Carrie Astor, John Jacob Astor IV aka “Jack,” William Backhouse Astor, Jr., William K. Vanderbilt, Alva Vanderbilt Belmont, Consuelo Vanderbilt, Duke of Marlborough, Jacques Balsan, Harold Vanderbilt aka “Mike,” Oliver H.P. Belmont, Elise Robson Belmont, Alice Vanderbilt, Cornelius Vanderbilt II, Grace Wilson Vanderbilt, Cornelius “Neily” Vanderbilt III, Cornelius “Neil” Vanderbilt, Gladys Vanderbilt Szechenyi, Gladys Szechenyi, Gloria Vanderbilt, Gertrude Vanderbilt Whitney, Ellsworth Vines, Wilmer Allison, Gregory Mangin, George Lott, Bunny Austin, Fred Perry, Clyde Adams, Maud Barger-Wallach, Mary Booker, Ogden Mills, Frederick Prince, William Stewart, Mrs. William Goadby “Queenie” Loew, Atwater Kent, King Edward VII of England, King George V of England, Queen Elizabeth II of England, King Charles III of England, Astor Cup, King's Cup, America's Cup, Nourmahal, Weetamoe, Vanitie, Lone Star, Marble House, Beechwood, Beaulieu, Rough Point, Seaverge, Wakehurst, the Elm, By-The-Sea, Crossways, Newport Casino, Clambake Club, Bailey's Beach, Richard Morris Hunt, Charles Lindbergh, Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Jon Morrow Lindbergh, lottery winner, David Lee Edwards, Gloria MacKenzie, Edwin Castro--Extra Notes / Call to Action:Instagram & Facebook Groups: MansionsoftheGildedAge and TheGildedAgeSociety by Gary LawranceNew York Adventure Club www.nyadventureclub.comShare, like, subscribe --Archival Music provided by Past Perfect Vintage Music, www.pastperfect.com.**Section 1 Music:**Sunshine by Jack Hylton, Album Fascinating Rhythm – Great Hits of the 20s**Section 2 Music:**One In A Million by Brian Lawrance, Album The Great British Dance BandsSection 3 Music: You Hit The Spot by Carroll Gibbons, Album The Age of Style – Hits from the 30sEnd Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance Bands--https://asthemoneyburns.com/TW / IG – @asthemoneyburns Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/asthemoneyburns/
Annual summer competitions and events are in full swing, and a once unfashionable heiress is now as notably stylish as a queen. June 1932 brings lots of bad news that bleeds into July 1932 with Lindbergh kidnapping and hoax trials and the collapse of the Insull energy empire.Thus distraction and fascination is back on the wealthy as they enjoy their summer activities. Doris Duke makes fashionable statements at Royal Ascot and a dinner party. Other people and subjects include: Nanaline Duke, Princess Louise Van Alen Mdivani, Prince Alexis Mdivani, Daisy Van Alen, William “Sam” Van Alen, James “Henry” Van Alen, Princess Mary McCormic Mdivani, Prince Serge Mdivani, Princess Mae Murray Mdivani, Prince David Mdivani, John Jacob Astor VI aka “Jakey”, Vincent Astor, Helen Astor, Madeleine Talmage Astor Dick, Enzo Fiermonte, Cornelius “Neil” Vanderbilt IV, Grace Wilson Vanderbilt, Alice Vanderbilt, Countess Gladys Vanderbilt Szechenyi, Mrs. Harry Payne Whitney – Gertrude Vanderbilt, Virginia “Birdie” Graham Fair Vanderbilt, Caroline Astor, Mrs. M. Orme Wilson – Carrie Astor, Alva Vanderbilt Belmont, William K. Vanderbilt, Harold Vanderbilt, William H. Vanderbilt, Gloria Vanderbilt, Gloria Morgan Vanderbilt, Viscountess Thelma Morgan Furness, Queen Mary of England, Prince of Wales – Prince David – King Edward VIII – Duke of Windsor, Josephine Hartford Makarov, Evalyn Walsh McLean, Charles Lindbergh, Gaston Means, Violet Sharpe, John Hughes Curtis, Lindbergh kidnapping, fraud, hoaxes, Earl of Poulet, Bridget Poulet, Sam Insull, Insull energy empire collapse, John D. Rockefeller, Edith Rockefeller McCormick, Mrs. “Syrie” Somerset Maugham, Liza Maugham, Constance Bennet, Garrow Greer, Dr. Wallace Murphy, all-white décor trend, Astor yacht Nourmahal, Chicago Civic Opera, Chicago, Newport, London, Royal Ascot, Buckingham Palace, royal garden party, 1932 Olympics, repetition device for reconnecting & familiarizing the past, synchronicity, rabbit holes, ties that bind, HBO's The Gilded Age tv series, accolades change to criticisms, wealth and fame magnification of attention, schadenfreude, malicious envy, self-righteous indignation Titanic, Titan submersible, immigrant boat disaster, Hamish Harding's son, Cardi B, Blink-182 concert, public humiliation and flogging, fishbowl microscope, Meghan Markle, Prince Harry, social media posts, social blunders, scandal --Extra Notes / Call to Action:New York Adventure Club www.nyadventureclub.comor the events section at https://asthemoneyburns.com. Thursday, July 13th, 8pm EST / 5pm PST – Waldorf Astoria Hotel Part 1: A New Standard of Luxury (pre-1929), Come learn more about the Astor family dispute behind the famous hotel and its construction as well as the hotel's influence on luxury travel and fine dining. Connections to the Titanic as well as other events and famous people will also be explored. But all good things come to an end. https://www.nyadventureclub.com/event/the-waldorf-astoria-hotel-part-i-a-new-standard-of-luxury-webinar-registration-650766218277/ Thursday, July 20th, 8pm EST / 5pm PST – Waldorf Astoria Hotel New York Part 2: Manhattan's Grandest Hotel (1931-present), The second version of this fine luxury hotel comes during the dawn of new era which will bring new challenges and excitement. A lingering Astor family connection adds to the saga until a new family the Hilton dynasty rises and takes over. More celebrities and events will add to allure of this hotel. Finally, updates reveal the recent renovations, an auction, and the future for the third incarnation.https://www.nyadventureclub.com/event/the-waldorf-astoria-hotel-part-ii-manhattans-grandest-hotel-webinar-registration-650766308547/ Share, like, subscribe --Archival Music provided by Past Perfect Vintage Music, www.pastperfect.com.Opening Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance BandsSection 1 Music: With Thee I Swing by Carroll Gibbons, Album The Age of Style – Hits from the 30sSection 2 Music:Ain't She Sweet by Piccadilly Revels Band, Album Charleston – Great Stars Of the 20sSection 3 Music:Plain Mary Jane by Mrs. Jack Hylton, Album The Great British Dance BandsEnd Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance Bands -- https://asthemoneyburns.com/TW / IG – @asthemoneyburns Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/asthemoneyburns/
The wealth of families often dissipates to zero within a generation or two. Learn about the Vanderbilt family's downfall and how you can avoid these mistakes. Have an estate plan. I explain the difference between a will and a trust. I introduce you to my friend Michael Manthei. A regular GRE listener, Michael and his wife bought 55 units within 4 years and acquired $85,000 of annual real estate income. He thinks about generational wealth as: income, taxes and inflation, giving, faith, service, preserving stories, character, physical health, and that your family is a treasure. Learn the difference between inheritance and generational wealth. Today, Michael runs the Elevate Investing Group. His upcoming event, Generational Wealth 2023, is August 18th-19th, 2023 in Lancaster, PA. Register here. I've never heard of an event like this. Multiple generations of one family will tell you how they did it. Resources mentioned: Show Notes: www.GetRichEducation.com/454 Michael's transformational event: Generational Wealth 2023 Build a trust or will fast: TrustAndWill.com Get mortgage loans for investment property: RidgeLendingGroup.com or call 855-74-RIDGE or e-mail: info@RidgeLendingGroup.com Find cash-flowing Jacksonville property at: www.JWBrealestate.com/GRE Invest with Freedom Family Investments. You get paid first: Text ‘FAMILY' to 66866 Will you please leave a review for the show? I'd be grateful. Search “how to leave an Apple Podcasts review” Top Properties & Providers: GREmarketplace.com Best Financial Education: GetRichEducation.com Get our wealth-building newsletter free— text ‘GRE' to 66866 Our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/c/GetRichEducation Follow us on Instagram: @getricheducation Keith's personal Instagram: @keithweinhold Complete episode transcript: Keith Weinhold (00:00:00) - Welcome to G R E. I'm your host, Keith Weinhold. How do you build generational wealth? How do you keep it and how do you pass it on so that it stays within your family for generations? Part of this is today's conversation with A G R E listener that's doing something that I've never heard of anyone else doing today on Get Rich Education. Speaker 0 (00:00:22) - Taxes are your biggest expense. The best way to reduce your burden is real estate. Increase your income with amazing returns and reduce your taxable income with real estate write-offs. As an employee with a high salary, you are devastated by taxes. Lighten your tax burden. With real estate incentives. You can offset your income from a W2 job and from capital gains Freedom. Family Investments is the experience partner you've been looking for. The Real Estate Insider Fund is that vehicle, this fund investing real estate projects that make an impact. And you can join with as little as $50,000. Insiders get preferred returns of 10 to 12%. This means you get paid first. Insiders enjoy Castle on a quarterly basis and the tax benefits are life changing. Join the Freedom Family and become a real estate insider. Start on your path to financial freedom through passive income. Text family to 66866. This is not a solicitation and is for accredited investors only. Please text family to 66866 for complete details. Speaker 3 (00:01:31) - You are listening to the show that is created more financial freedom than nearly any show in the world. This is Get Rich Education. Speaker 0 (00:01:54) - Welcome to GRE from Weehawkin, New Jersey to Weed, California and across 188 nations worldwide. I'm Keith Wein Holden. This is Get Rich Education. Shortly we will hear from a GRE listener that's an engaged real estate investor and is having an unusually large impact on other people with generational wealth. Soil has profound effects on the type of agriculture that's possible and therefore soil has had profound effects on the kinds of societies that have been historically possible going back 12,000 years since the advent of agriculture. So productive and irritable soil is what made real estate valuable. A pattern of farms that are passed down through this same family for generations. Well, that's something that's possible in fertile regions, but not in regions where the soil is exhausted in a few years and has to be abandoned. And a new site found while the first site recovers its fertility. Speaker 0 (00:02:55) - Whole societies had to move when the land in any given location cannot permanently sustain them. Therefore, cities couldn't even be built or contemplated. So then when you have bad soil, you can't have anything that lasts. And if you can't plant your family's principles, call them seeds in fertile soil, which is my metaphor for having moral and cultural standards, well then you can't build generational wealth either. You won't have anything that lasts very far beyond your one finite life. And as society advanced, we have more historic examples about families that built and have still capped their fortune today after several generations like the Rockefellers or families that have built and squandered their fortune like the Vanderbilts. And how that started is that really the Vanderbilts have been heralded as American royalty. The icons of the Gilded Age and that rich history all started with Cornelius Vanderbilt, Cornelius. Speaker 0 (00:04:09) - He's the one that started to amass the family fortune from railroads in shipping businesses in the late 18 hundreds. He became the wealthiest person in America in the 1860s and then he went to pass that title down to his son William Henry Vanderbilt. And then he became the wealthiest American during the 1870s and 1880s. But it began to fall apart with William. Yep, just one generation later. The second generation, one generation after the wealth builder Cornelius and then Gloria Vanderbilt was born. Her father had a gambling problem and squandered most of his fortune. There was also overspending on frequent international travel. So Gloria, the granddaughter of the one that started the Fortune Cornelius, she herself would go on to have four sons each from different marriages. One of her four sons is prominent in American society today, and it might surprise you when I reveal his identity shortly by the time of glory, Vanderbilt's passing, okay, her estate had dwindled from $200 million down to just one and a half million dollars. Speaker 0 (00:05:25) - So from wealthy to almost middle class right there, her New York apartment was bestowed to one of her sons. Two of her other sons remained estranged and only one of her four sons inherited the majority of the estate. And that person is none other than the, I guess, somewhat esteemed broadcast journalist and author Anderson Cooper. So you can see in the Vanderbilt family how that fertile soil broke down culturally and became in fertile to build something that lasts. You need that fertile soil. There's more than just a cultural component to creating generational wealth. I mean, first of all, of course you need to build the wealth in the first place by listening to this show. You're either on your way there or you're already there. And that means they focus on things that most people don't do. It's places, frankly, a lot of people just don't even look or consider like getting lots of smart debt for leverage or being inflation aware, being tax savvy and owning assets that pay you while you hold onto them. Speaker 0 (00:06:33) - There's also a legal component here. I am not a tax or legal advisor or professional. So just super briefly in one minute and in plain English you need to have an estate plan. Step one is have a will. That is like a letter that you write before you pass away. Really that's all a will is if you have possessions that you want to go to a certain place, even if you're only 20 years old or if you're 80 years old and you have say a car and a little money or pets, then have a will. You can write a rock solid will really cheaply start at a place like trust and will.com. Then after a will understand a revocable trust, that's a special account where you put your assets like money in real estate while you are still alive. And the key to the word revocable is that you can cancel or change it any time you want to. Speaker 0 (00:07:34) - When you pass away, things go to your beneficiaries, your heirs, without the annoying probate process in court. Okay, that's a revocable trust. And why have a will versus a trust? Well, there are a few reasons, but if you have less than a million dollar net worth though, then that first step, the will, that's probably going to suffice for what you need. But if it's a million plus, then it's more likely the trust. So really there are two main trust types. I touched on the re revocable trust. Now the irrevocable trust, that's something you cannot change once you set it up. It is rigid, not flexible. Well then why would you set up an irrevocable trust if you can't change it? Well, it can protect you from taxes, lawsuits, and creditors in certain situations. So that is the quick one minute on basic estate planning wills and trusts, yes, there is far more to know like beneficiary designations and durable power of attorney. Speaker 0 (00:08:37) - But look, here's the thing and the motivation for you devoting sometime to estate planning like that. If you die, you can be assured that your family won't squabble over dividing up your assets if you get that in place and you sure don't want that because they're already gonna be broken up about you passing away. You'll want your generational wealth to pass on in a planned way and also wills and trusts. That's the way that your family locates your assets in the first place. Today you'll see how our guests and his wife hit financial freedom when they had $85,000 worth of real estate income and note that that was seven years ago. So therefore on an inflation adjusted basis, that might be say 110 K or 120 K in today's dollars depending on what you think the rural rate of inflation is. And then you'll see how that got him thinking about generational wealth and what he's doing to help others with it. Speaker 0 (00:09:40) - Like I said, he's doing something with it I've just never heard of before. But first, I hope that you've been enjoying our valuable, don't quit your Daydream letter where lately I sent you that great map that shows where the top job growth states are. That chart comparing your rent increases to your increase in operating expenses, that story about how Phoenix is going to have construction limits due to their declining water supply. And all those stories about how wacky California real estate has become, including State Farm recently halting new insurance policies in the state of California. If you aren't reading our letter, which has a dash of humor, I send it about weekly, then you are missing out. I'd love to have you read it. It is totally free. It's full of real estate investing industry trends and forecasts and broader economic forces that are gonna affect you in the future and more. Speaker 0 (00:10:38) - And also whenever we have job openings here at G R E as we keep growing, they are announced in the letter as well. And now you can easily sign up for the letter by text. And if you aren't one of the many subscribers growing your means with my letter, you can simply text GRE to 66 8 66 for or don't quit your Daydream letter. Again, it's free and I rate every single word, all the letter myself. I don't think that many founders do that. This letter is written from me to you and you get top investment property news in just a five minute read. You'll get some valuable introductory emails and then after that it's only sent about once a week, not daily. And again, you can sign up by simply texting G r e 2 6 6 8 6 6 for the letter that's GRE 2 6 6 8 66 generational wealth straight ahead. You're listening to Get Rich Education with J W B Real Estate Capital. Jacksonville Real Estate has outperformed the stock market by 44% over the last 20 years. It's proven to be a more stable asset, especially during recessions. Their vertically integrated strategy has led to 79% more home price appreciation compared to the average Jacksonville investor since 2013. JW B is ready to help your money make money, and to make it easy for everyday investors, get started@jwbrealestate.com slash g rre. That's JWB real estate.com/g R E Speaker 0 (00:12:14) - GRE listeners can't stop talking about their service from Ridge Lending Group and MLS 40 2056. They've provided our tribe with more loans than anyone. They're truly a top lender for beginners and veterans. It's where I go to get my own loans for single family rental property up to four plexes. So start your pre-qualification and you can chat with President Chaley Ridge personally. They'll even deliver your custom plan for growing your real estate portfolio. start@ridgelendinggroup.com. Speaker 4 (00:12:49) - This is Hal Elrod, author of the Miracle Morning and listen to Get Rich Education with Keith Weinhold and don't quit your daydream. Speaker 0 (00:13:05) - Hey, I would really like you to meet someone today. He and I met last year through our mutual friend Dave Zook and of all things last year we crawled through a cave in the middle of the woods in Lancaster County, Pennsylvania together and I mean Crawled. He is a real leader, he's a professional investor and founder of the Elevate Investing Group. Welcome to G R e Michael Manthei! Speaker 5 - Michael Manthei (00:13:29) - Keith, thank you for having me been a longtime fan of you and the show and the worldwide impact you've had. So honored to be here Speaker 0 (00:13:36) - In your bio, you haven't yet added that you're an amateur caver or spelunker as it is Speaker 5 (00:13:42) - One attempt at S Splunking. I'm not sure if I can put it in the bio yet, but uh, maybe after a second round . Speaker 0 (00:13:48) - Well Michael, you have done though what most everyone wants, which is actually not spelunking. You have achieved financial freedom in your early thirties and you're much older than that now. You've now got more than a decade of experience in syndications property management and you have over $200 million worth in real estate acquisition. So talk to us about how you obtained financial freedom after less than four years of investing. Speaker 5 (00:14:17) - I feel like it could be, uh, you know, almost an infomercial with how it's gone. You know, I read Rich Dad Poor Dad and that completely changed my world growing up. I wasn't around wealthy people to know how they thought or what they did with their money or how they got there. So to get a glimpse through the book, rich Dad Poor Dadd changed my life and I set a similar goal as Robert had in the book of buying two properties a year. So after 10 years I figured I'd have 20 properties if everything went well, but could never have expected that. Yeah, like you said, within four years we bought 55 units, had enough passive income to retire. It went a lot faster than I thought, but incredibly grateful. We started with a single family house. I was completely broke when I got married. Speaker 5 (00:15:08) - I was actually a missionary for seven years coming off the mission field, not a dollar to my name. Married my wife who had saved a lot of money for me at the time was $25,000 is what she came into our marriage with. And so I was broke. She had 25,000 and that's how we bought our first rental, which was interesting to work through that process with her, you know, using her life savings to buy the first rental when we were still rent a house. You know, she thought she'd save this for her first house and I said, Hey, how about instead of us buying a house for ourselves, let's buy a house for someone else and start this journey to financial freedom. From there we bought another single family house, then we bought a 10 unit property and with that 10 unit property I bought it cash with a hard money loan. Speaker 5 (00:15:56) - When I went to the bank to go to permanent financing, it appraised for 150,000 more than we bought it for. And so we got all the money back plus a line of credit of $75,000 that then opened us to keep buying. But Keith, the real advantage of that deal was it unlocked my mind to say I don't have to be limited by my own capital. I had no money in that deal and I thought we were gonna be limited by our own capital the whole way, you know, save up 20% down payment. This deal happened in such a way that it kind of unlocked this infinite return concept. And so from there it was kind of off to the raises. Once the creativity was set free from that point, including that 10 unit, we bought 50 units in less than two years and achieved our goal of financial freedom. Speaker 0 (00:16:46) - That is really fast. And I note that at that point with the 55 units, you had a million dollar net worth and those assets generated $85,000 in annual cash flow. But dropping back thinking philosophically the book that introduced me to the concept that I didn't wanna believe for a moment or at least it was one of the Robert Kiosaki books and that is being wealthy is a choice. I actually didn't believe that. And you are being very intentional with the out-of-the-box choices that you're making and you and your wife Kristen, much like me, when I started, I didn't have much of my own money either. I started with that three and a half percent down payment on a fourplex. So then really the impetus often for using other people's money is because you have to because you don't have much of your own money. Speaker 5 (00:17:33) - Yeah. And that's part of, you know, creating the grit. It can be a a blessing to those of us that wanna learn and grow to not have a lot handed to us because the confidence that it brings to be able to figure stuff out and get creative. And what I love is, and what I hope my story helps provide to your audience is when you see somebody else that's done it or hear stories of real people that have done it, it just unlocks the capability inside to say, Hey, that guy doesn't look that special. I think I could walk down some of the same road. So totally agree that it's, it's a philosophical shift and for me the big one was buy cash flowing assets. That kind of became my mantra that all my work, all my effort, all my energy went into acquiring cash flow producing assets and that simple concept just opened a whole new world, Speaker 0 (00:18:26) - Real assets produce real income. So you began with, it sounds like a rental single family home and then shortly thereafter this 10 unit apartment building that sounded like that was the real pivot point for you. It allowed you to get creative that just gave you that much more room, that much more leverage. Had that been a duplex and it appraised overvalue or probably wouldn't have appraised 150 K overvalue like a 10 plex did. So tell us more about the options that gave you in growing this fast. Speaker 5 (00:18:55) - The reason I was looking for a larger building is cuz my wife had gotten pregnant. She was working part-time during that portion of her life and I just had it in my heart. You know, she had wanted to stay at home with our kids once we started having kids. So she's pregnant, I'm thinking let's go find an asset that would replace her part-time income. So I was looking for smaller things honestly. I was like, well maybe if I buy a couple duplexes or a couple triplexes and then this 10 unit came on the market, but I'd had some issues with this seller on a previous purchase that we were trying to work towards and they just seemed a little bit squirrely. So I said, you know what, I want to give the most airtight offer that I can. So I talked to a hard money lender, said, Hey, I'm gonna offer all cash, no contingencies. Speaker 5 (00:19:43) - So it was a big risk. I mean we're buying 10 units, we only had two at the time, so it felt like this huge stretch didn't have, you know, the money to do it ourselves. So got the hard money loan. But then when we took it to the bank and they gave us the appraisals, like oh my goodness. So not only did they pay off the hard money loan and give us a $75,000 line of credit, they also gave us like maybe 10, $15,000 that we, you know, put in our bank account. But then we could use that 75,000 to go put down payments on other properties and go buy other properties cash and then refinance out of 'em. So it really just, it changed everything. It unlocked everything for us. Speaker 0 (00:20:19) - If you were going all cash, why did you need the hard money loan? Speaker 5 (00:20:23) - The hard money loan. Once I secured that, I could offer all cash to I see the seller. So I gave 'em a cash contract because I had the cash lined up with the hard money lender. Speaker 0 (00:20:34) - So it was about that deal making using your intuition when one seems squirrely. So that really leveraged things for you there in order to grow that faster as you're going through this process, as you're building this portfolio. Okay, now you've got 55 units, which does give you enough cash flow, $85,000 a year for most people to declare financial freedom. The interesting thing is you had the million dollar net worth at that time. Most people with a million dollar net worth are really only about middle class because they don't have residual cash flow. So net worth matters, but it's not as important as your passive income. You had the 80 5K of residual income accompanying that million dollar net worth and that's what makes the difference. Speaker 5 (00:21:23) - Yeah, it goes back to the cash flow producing assets. All my effort was focused on acquiring those assets that would pay me the rest of my life. Never flipped anything, have a lot of friends that do flipping and I didn't want to get addicted to that big payout. You know, I take one single family house and maybe I make 20, 30, 40, 50,000 on it. I felt like I was gonna get addicted to that. Whereas for us, the first house that we bought, Keith, like $200 a month of cash flow, it's like this feels like it's doing next to nothing. But I said, you know what, I have a long-term goal here. The only way to get there is one property at a time, one step at a time. You eat the elephant one bite at a time. And so I said, let me continue making steps towards my goal and it snowballed faster than I expected. But again, cash flow producing assets, Speaker 0 (00:22:12) - Find that first property with say, $200 in monthly cash flow. That doesn't change really anything in your financial life, but it changes your mindset. It's a pretty incredible moment. Like ta-da when that $200 shows up month in and month out with little or none of your own effort at all. That's really where it starts. You talk about retiring shortly after this time and you had a major philosophical shift then when you retired at just age 33. So tell us about that. Speaker 5 (00:22:42) - I thought retirement was the goal. You know, I read in four hour work week and other, you know, books like that and it's like inactivity is the goal and I'm ashamed to say that I bought into that and you know, I can't wait till I do nothing. So once we got there, literally within a week I was bored. I'd worked like crazy to get to that point. I was working, you know, 50, 60 hours a week at my normal job plus buying and self-managing, you know, up to 50 units on the side. So it was a lot of work and I needed some time to rest. But after a week of rest, all my energy came back and I said, this feels wrong. I just had this sense. I have not been created to go through the rest of my life from 33 on in my easy chair. Speaker 5 (00:23:27) - I wasn't expecting that at all. It, it hit me by surprise. And so I realized that that goal of financial freedom was a great motivator, but very empty once we got there. We recalibrated, my wife and I, you know, a lot of time in prayer talking with each other. It was a new experience to think we can do anything we want now. You know, our decision on what we do next is doesn't need to be dependent on how to pay our bills. Simple lifestyle, 85,000 a year covers us, but as we considered it, realized absolutely love what I'm doing, but this would be so much more fulfilling if we did it in relationship, became a part of other people's story, helped them on their journey, invest together, build a community and get to know people, build long-term relationships. So that was the major shift and uh, it's been seven years since then, so I appreciate that. Uh, you said I'm not much older than 33, uh, 40, which I guess isn't too far out, but we've had a lot more fulfillment in the last seven years as we've been a part of other people's journey. Speaker 0 (00:24:30) - So that was really the turning 0.7 years ago at age 33 where you're like, we did what we have to do now we get to do what we want to do. Yeah, you're a man that serves. So basically to that point you had been serving society with good housing and now you can pivot to serving investors. Speaker 5 (00:24:48) - Yeah, and really to me, service is life. The Bible talks about if you want to receive, give and you'll receive. So I've never focused on how do I receive, how do I get more. For me it's simple. I try to simplify things. What is the one input that I can focus on that then will knock down the rest of the Dominos? So it's give. And so I've looked at how can I serve, how can I give? And that's been my focus and that has opened up tremendous, uh, doors of opportunity. So seven years ago a mutual friend with Dave Zuck and he's doing these syndications and I was like, Dave, I wanna learn this, I wanna do this. So he introduced me to the guys that taught him and we started doing larger deals and, and Keith, I started on the smaller end. The first two deals that I put together as syndications were both 11 unit apartment buildings. Speaker 5 (00:25:41) - And I'd already bought 10 units and 11 units and 12 unit buildings myself at that point. And I didn't need other people's capital to buy those, that point of our journey. But the goal had shifted from before that it was, how can I maximize my profit on these real estate deals, you know, maximize my cash flow, maximize my profit, and it switched to how can I give people a great experience with me? And so to me you can't give without it coming back. So in one sense I gave away more equity than I would've needed to, to have some investors and partners come along the journey with me. But I knew that if I gave them a good experience and learned this business, that that would snowball into a scale that we would never have been able to touch outside of that, which is exactly what's happened. Speaker 0 (00:26:32) - It's interesting that you mentioned 11 unit apartment buildings because I have owned some of those myself. Oftentimes that's a zone I've operated in kind of these mid-sized apartment buildings. Things that are, are a million and a half dollars in value or below because oftentimes the big boys don't play there. But now you learn how to be a go-giver, that's become part of who you are and that's how you could go bigger with larger apartment buildings in making those opportunities available to investors. Speaker 5 (00:27:00) - Yeah, it's really hard to take on investors at a smaller level. So when the, the focus shifted to how can I be a part of people's journeys and make long-term relationships with people, the answer is to scale up. And so, you know, we've scaled from there to now we own over 2000 apartments, uh, with our investor group and me serving them as a general partner. Speaker 0 (00:27:21) - Congratulations. One of the first things that struck me about you when I met you is really your holistic vision of what wealth is. Finances are obviously part of that, but only one piece of the pie and you often champion generational wealth. Tell us about how you think of total wealth and generational wealth. Speaker 5 (00:27:42) - I have three kids now. Uh, they are the greatest gifts in my wife and i's life. And when you have kids and you have people that you pour into, you start thinking about how can you improve their lives and how can you build something that outlives you? So this generational wealth concept has been, I would almost say consuming me. I mean it's just how I filter everything that I do. Where you set your strategy, tells you what your tactics are gonna be. So if you're making short-term decisions, you can do things that work short-term. They don't necessarily need to work long-term. But I said, what's the most successful patterns that I see in the world of wealth, in the world of impact? And it's these family dynasties that grow, preserve and pass on wealth from generation to generation. And so for me, there's a few things that go into that. Speaker 5 (00:28:40) - It's obviously the financial wealth that's a big piece of it. You need, if you're gonna talk about generational wealth, you're talking about a substantial amount of money that gets passed from one generation to the next in in such a way that it can be carried on by that next generation. But we've all seen examples where just giving the money is not a total solution. And so really focusing on the relationships around you and the people and your family. I'm a fan of making your wife the greatest treasure your spouse, you know, for our ladies out there, your significant other, make them the greatest treasure that you have on earth. I look at my wife as my greatest treasure. I look at our kids as our greatest treasure. My kids right now are eight, six, and two and we train them from day one to think of themselves as kings and queens. Speaker 5 (00:29:32) - I started with two daughters and then my third born is, is a little boy. So he's our little king. But there's this princess culture. All the little girls are princesses. Yeah. And when we grow up we sometimes hear what we heard as a kid in first person. Sometimes people still have those tapes that play and what's a princess? I mean entitled. Yeah, you're royalty but you don't have any responsibility ever since day one. I was like, you're not princesses, you are queens, you're powerful, but you have responsibility. You have resources but you have an obligation to use that to serve the people around you. God made you beautiful. So let's be accepting of every single person that we see, whether they are beautiful or not on the outside the resources that we have. I feel like we are to be a steward of it's never given to us, to prop us up and make others serve us. Speaker 5 (00:30:25) - For me, my resources is a responsibility to serve others with what I've been given. So pouring into the kids spiritual wealth, which we talked earlier about the Jewish people and how they're the highest net worth per capita people group. Yeah, you look at the rich spiritual history that they passed down for thousands of years from generation to generation to generation. And so in our family, you know the stories of faith, the stories of courage, the stories of high character, I have those in my family that I'm passing down and we're creating new stories that we're passing down. And then the final one for me here on the generational wealth kind of holistic topic is one that you and I um, have some commonality with. And just physical health. If you're not taking care of your body, that is a major hindrance to long-term wealth. You know, your income generating capacity grows as you get older. Speaker 5 (00:31:21) - We have this retirement mindset in a lot of our country, which I bought into, you know, in my thirties. I don't think it's as helpful as we may think it is if we want to continue to serve others. Our capacity to serve continues to go up throughout our lifetime as long as we're maintain faculty. And so to continue serving, generating wealth throughout our life, lasting as long as we can, putting things in place for the next generation. I wanna be around for a long time. I know you do too. And uh, it starts with taking care of ourselves. Speaker 0 (00:31:54) - If I do invest well I'm sure gonna wanna be healthy enough to enjoy all of that. So it's really a symbiotic relationship. And you host an event. This year's theme is generational wealth. We're gonna learn about that in just a moment. But why don't you tell us just as a teaser, how does one prevent their generational wealth from getting frittered away? We know that often happens and the generational wealth doesn't really become generational wealth cuz often it doesn't last beyond one or two generations. The Rockefellers are a good example of what to do and keep wealth generational for example. But how do we prevent our wealth from being frittered away? Cuz there's a difference obviously between an inheritance and generational wealth Speaker 5 (00:32:37) - Just practically for a moment for people that, um, are listening. Number one, you need to learn how money works and you need to get your wealth into assets and protect it from inflation and taxes. You know, those are the two biggest thiefs. So that's number one is, is you need to safeguard your money. Then once you have the wealth built and protected, it's really about passing on the character. That's really what it all comes down to because if you hand an ill-prepared heir a bunch of money, that is typically the worst thing that you can do for 'em. So it's passing on the character and instilling that and developing that in your heirs. There's different strategies for this, you know, you can recording the stories, some of the origin stories of grit, of resolve, of sticking with something until it is successful. Those stories inspire the next generations. Speaker 5 (00:33:32) - Maybe they don't have the need for the same level of grit, but they can understand the diligence that is required to create and steward the wealth. So recording the stories people do family conferences where you know, if you're a wealth creator for your family, fly everybody in and have some meetings, you know, do it in a fun place, have some fun connected to it. You can have sessions where you're teaching the next generation about how to steward that wealth. You're giving not only the wealth but you're giving the mindsets and the tools of how to create and steward that. So again, goes back to character and the internal wealth that is needed to steward the external wealth, the the physical wealth, the capital and assets and everything. Speaker 0 (00:34:23) - Oh yeah, that's some really helpful actionable stuff there. If you want to have what most people don't have, you need to be willing to do what most people won't do. Like perhaps these extended family get togethers and yes, that is important stewarding generational wealth. You can watch a a 30 minute video and learn something about taxes or inflation, but character can't so easily be taught. And this is part of what you are talking about at your upcoming event, generational Wealth 2023 in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. Tell us about it. Speaker 5 (00:34:56) - This is our third year of doing, uh, this event. It really strikes a chord with our folks because typically the people that come to our events, they've bought the concept that wealth is not merely an external pursuit and if you don't have the internal wealth to go alongside of it, it ends up being pretty empty. So generational wealth, it's getting people together that have created and stewarded that and then sharing some of the real life stories. Dave Zuck is gonna be a speaker. He's uh, second generation in their family business now. Dave has a bunch of other, you know, businesses with their, his syndication and incredible money manager that he is. But this year his father actually has agreed to talk with us about how he started the family company. So I'm gonna interview him then I'm gonna bring up the four boys, Dave and his three brothers and what it's like taking the business from one level to another, successfully managing that in the second generation and growing it and how they're now passing it along to their children and preparing them to step into leadership. Speaker 5 (00:36:00) - So I have a couple large businesses that are multi-generation that are gonna share like this also have Mitzi Perdue, I don't know if you've ever gotten a chance to know her. She was the daughter of the man that started uh, the Sheraton Hotels. So grew up in that family dynasty and then married Frank Perdue who created Purdue Chicken and today has, you know, 20,000 some employees. So she's seen from a couple different angles, family dynamics and family wealth that goes generation to generation and she's just a wonderful lady. Such a heart for other people and so full of life. I think she's in her eighties, she's a teenager, she's just so full of life. So she's coming, have a lot of amazing speakers and attendees that fly in from around the country. Last year we had about 350 people excited to see who shows up this year. Speaker 0 (00:36:49) - See, this is why I wanted to talk about this event because I have attended so many in-person real estate events and masterminds and general investing events. And rarely, if ever do I see multiple generations come up on the stage at the same time to talk about how to do this the right way. Generationally, very few people in events just really think this long term. So I have to congratulate you in advance for putting this together. It's August 18th and 19th and again it is in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. Do you have any last thoughts Michael? Speaker 5 (00:37:22) - So if people want to go to invest elevate.com, that would be a spot to check us out. Speaker 0 (00:37:28) - I'm highly confident the future generations of your family will know you for more than crawling through a rural Lancaster County Pennsylvania cave. Speaker 5 (00:37:36) - Yeah, hopefully my legacy includes more than our cave, uh, adventure, even though that was a blast. Last thoughts Keith. I just wanna encourage people to step out into what they feel in their heart to pursue. You know, it takes faith, it takes risk, but it's absolutely achievable. And so I hope my story has provided some encouragement to folks and if any of your people want to come to our event, we would welcome 'em with open arms. So thank you for today, Keith. Speaker 0 (00:38:02) - It's a unique event in my experience. It's been great having you on the show. Speaker 0 (00:38:12) - Yeah, as I've gotten to know Michael, he is a real go-giver now. He and his wife began with a single family rental home while they were still renters. Yeah, they owned that rental property before they even had a primary residence. I know a lot of successful people that have done just that. And then it sounded like for him, his third property, a 10 plex, that was the real pivot point. Of course, my pivot point was that very first purchase a fourplex. So for each one of us, the pivot point really came when we felt like we had massive access to other people's money. And you might feel like you have massive access to other people's money with just a 75 or 80% loan on a single family rental or duplex. If that's where you're starting, you don't need Rockefeller or Vanderbilt fortunes to get this going there at Invest Elevate. Speaker 0 (00:39:04) - The interesting thing about their generational wealth event two months from now is how, from talking to Michael, he's actually not super motivated to have speakers there that are the most well-known names and Polish speakers, even if he has the chance to get them. Now you are gonna find some of those there, but he's interested in real stories, real people, and making a real impact with speakers that don't have some big marketing or sales agenda. And some conference attendees just want to meet the biggest names and get an Instagram selfie with them. And there's nothing wrong with that. You might even do some of that here, but he values real connection in meaning. And yeah, I've never heard of anyone else getting multiple generations of the same families on stage as he interviews them, including people that aren't used to speaking to an in-person audience of a few hundred people. Besides the generational component, you're also going to learn a lot about investing and meet a bunch of genuine, authentic people. That's the environment that he's creating. Gratitude to. Michael Manti Today it is Generational Wealth 2023 in Lancaster, Pennsylvania, August 18th and 19th. Check out invest elevate.com. Until next week, I'm your host Keith. We hold. Don't quit your day. Adrian Speaker 1 (00:40:26) - Mother Speaker 6 (00:40:27) - On this show should be considered specific, personal or professional advice. Please consult an appropriate tax, legal, real estate, financial, or business professional for individualized advice. Opinions of guests are their own information is not guaranteed. All investment strategies have the potential for profit or loss. The host is operating on behalf of Get Rich Education L L C exclusively. Speaker 0 (00:40:55) - The preceding program was brought to you by your home for Wealth building. Get rich education.com.
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This week, Cate wraps up our series on famous fashion designers sharing about the life of the iconic Gloria Vanderbilt. While fashion was only part of her vast life and careers she made her mark and forever changed the industry. Connect with Cate and Liz on Instagram at @famouscateandliz or drop them a line at famouscateandliz@gmail.com.
In this episode, we explore the life, loves and friendships of Truman Capote's Original Swan, Carol Marcus. Her name might not be familiar to you now, but hers is a story that is unforgettable. Including a rags to riches story, two husbands and three marriages, and two very best friends - Gloria Vanderbilt and Oona O'Neil Chaplin, Carol is also one of the main real-life inspirations for the character of Holly Golighty in Breakfast at Tiffany's. All sources can be found at doneanddone.com. Continue your investigation with ad-free and bonus episodes on Patreon! Sponsors HelloFresh - Get 50% off and your first order ships free when you visit hellofresh.com/dunne50! To advertise on Done & Dunne, please reach out to sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://www.advertisecast.com/DoneDunne. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Subscribe to Quotomania on Simplecast or search for Quotomania on your favorite podcast app!James Baldwin — the grandson of a slave — was born in Harlem in 1924. The oldest of nine children, he grew up in poverty, developing a troubled relationship with his strict, religious stepfather. In 1948, at age 24, Baldwin left for Paris, where he hoped to find enough distance from the American society he grew up in to write about it.Over the next ten years, Baldwin moved from Paris to New York to Istanbul, writing two books of essays, Notes of a Native Son (1955) and Nobody Knows My Name (1961), as well as two novels, Giovanni's Room (1956) and Another Country (1962). In the early 1960s, overwhelmed by a sense of responsibility to the times, Baldwin returned to take part in the civil rights movement. Traveling throughout the South, he began work on an explosive work about black identity and the state of racial struggle, The Fire Next Time (1963). This, too, was a bestseller: so incendiary that it put Baldwin on the cover of TIME Magazine. For many, Baldwin's clarion call for human equality – in the essays of Notes of a Native Son, Nobody Knows My Name and The Fire Next Time – became an early and essential voice in the civil rights movement. By 1987, when he died of stomach cancer at age 63, James Baldwin had become one of the most important and vocal advocates for equality. From Go Tell It on the Mountain to The Evidence of Things Not Seen (1985), James Baldwin created works of literary beauty and depth that will remain essential parts of the American canon.From https://www.pbs.org/wnet/americanmasters/james-baldwin-about-the-author/59/. Born in New York in 1923, Richard Avedon dropped out of high school and joined the Merchant Marine's photographic section. Upon his return in 1944, he found a job as a photographer in a department store. Within two years he had been “found” by an art director at Harper's Bazaar and was producing work for them as well as Vogue, Look, and a number of other magazines. During the early years, Avedon made his living primarily through work in advertising. His real passion, however, was the portrait and its ability to express the essence of its subject.As Avedon's notoriety grew, so did the opportunities to meet and photograph celebrities from a broad range of disciplines. Avedon's ability to present personal views of public figures, who were otherwise distant and inaccessible, was immediately recognized by the public and the celebrities themselves. Many sought out Avedon for their most public images. His artistic style brought a sense of sophistication and authority to the portraits. More than anything, it is Avedon's ability to set his subjects at ease that helps him create true, intimate, and lasting photographs.Beyond his work in the magazine industry, Avedon has collaborated on a number of books of portraits. In 1959 he worked with Truman Capote on a book that documented some of the most famous and important people of the century. Observations included images of Buster Keaton, Gloria Vanderbilt, Pablo Picasso, Dr. J. Robert Oppenheimer, Frank Lloyd Wright, and Mae West. Around this same time he began a series of images of patients in mental hospitals. Replacing the controlled environment of the studio with that of the hospital he was able to recreate the genius of his other portraits with non-celebrities. The brutal reality of the lives of the insane was a bold contrast to his other work. Years later he would again drift from his celebrity portraits with a series of studio images of drifters, carnival workers, and working class Americans.Throughout the 1960s Avedon continued to work for Harper's Bazaar and in 1974 he collaborated with James Baldwin on the book Nothing Personal. Having met in New York in 1943, Baldwin and Avedon were friends and collaborators for more than thirty years. For all of the 1970s and 1980s Avedon continued working for Vogue magazine, where he would take some of the most famous portraits of the decades. In 1992 he became the first staff photographer for The New Yorker, and two years later the Whitney Museum brought together fifty years of his work in the retrospective, “Richard Avedon: Evidence”. He was voted one of the ten greatest photographers in the world by Popular Photography magazine, and in 1989 received an honorary doctorate from the Royal College of Art in London. Today, his pictures continue to bring us a closer, more intimate view of the great and the famous. Avedon died on October 1st, 2004.From https://www.pbs.org/wnet/americanmasters/richard-avedon-about-the-photographer/467/. For more information about James Baldwin and Richard Avedon:Previously on The Quarantine Tapes:Eddie S. Glaude, Jr., about Baldwin, at 03:40: https://quarantine-tapes.simplecast.com/episodes/the-quarantine-tapes-104-eddie-s-glaude-jrNathalie Etoke about Baldwin, at 01:35: https://quarantine-tapes.simplecast.com/episodes/the-quarantine-tapes-176-nathalie-etokeNothing Personal: https://www.taschen.com/pages/en/catalogue/photography/all/66923/facts.richard_avedon_james_baldwin_nothing_personal.htmNothing Personal: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/675742/nothing-personal-by-james-baldwin/“Richard Avedon and James Baldwin's Joint Examination of American Identity”: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/11/13/richard-avedon-and-james-baldwins-joint-examination-of-american-identity“Everybody Knows His Name: James Baldwin and Richard Avedon's ‘Nothing Personal'”: https://lareviewofbooks.org/article/everybody-knows-his-name-james-baldwin-and-richard-avedons-nothing-personal/“Sunday Reading: Celebrating James Baldwin”: https://www.newyorker.com/books/double-take/sunday-reading-celebrating-james-baldwin“James Baldwin”: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/james-baldwin
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This week, Maureen Taylor, The Photo Detective, is joined by New York Times bestselling author Katherine Howe. Katherine and Maureen discuss how history and major events in our past have inspired Katherine's work. To her surprise, her genealogy yielded an unexpected connection to some of her charactersRelated Episodes:Episode 190: Writing Genealogical Crime Mysteries with Nathan Dylan GoodwinEpisode 189: Mathew Pearl on Narrative Non-Fiction and the Taking of Jemima BooneLinks:Katherine HoweSign up for my newsletter.Watch my YouTube Channel.Like the Photo Detective Facebook Page so you get notified of my Facebook Live videos.Need help organizing your photos? Check out the Essential Photo Organizing Video Course.Need help identifying family photos? Check out the Identifying Family Photographs Online Course.Have a photo you need help identifying? Sign up for photo consultation.About My Guest:Katherine Howe is a New York Times bestselling and award-winning writer of historical fiction. Her adult novels are The Physick Book of Deliverance Dane, which debuted at #2 on the New York Times bestseller list in 2009, and The House of Velvet and Glass, ( USA Today bestseller in 2011). For young adults, Katherine has written Conversion, ( 2015 Massachusetts Book Award in young adult literature), and a New York City-based literary ghost story called The Appearance of Annie van Sinderen, (2016 “Must Read” for young adults by the Massachusetts Center for the Book). In 2014 she edited The Penguin Book of Witches for Penguin Classics, a primary source reader on the history of witchcraft in England and North America. The Daughters of Temperance Hobbs, ( Henry Holt and Co 2019). She co-wrote Vanderbilt: The Rise and Fall of an American Dynasty with Anderson Cooper. She has appeared on “Good Morning America,” “CBS This Morning,” NPR's “Weekend Edition,” the BBC, and the History Channel, and she hosted “Salem: Unmasking the Devil” for National Geographic. About Maureen Taylor:Maureen is a frequent keynote speaker on photo identification, photograph preservation, and family history at historical and genealogical societies, museums, conferences, libraries, and other organizations across the U.S., London and Canada. She's the author of several books and hundreds of articles and her television appearances include The View and The Today Show. She's been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Better Homes and Gardens, The Boston Globe, Vivid-Pix Restore is a really easy-to-use photo improvement tool. It does the work for you? You can restore scanned prints, slides, documents, and digital camera images in seconds. It is fast and easy and affordable. It uses patented artificial intelligence, which restores images with one click. And then you can fine-tune. Well, here's the good news. It's on sale this week@maureentaylor.com. It's usually $49. 99 this week. It is $10 off at $39. 99. Support the show
How do you determine if you have the authority, the experience or the “right” to produce a podcast on a given topic? Obviously you can choose to do a podcast on anything, there are no rules or restrictions. But should you be able to authentically connect with your guests for ultimate success? We think you do. In this episode Mike and Eric discuss authenticity, niche topics, how long we think this particular podcast can and should last and showcase how Anderson uses audio elements to engage the listener and deliver unfiltered emotion. On “All There Is” Anderson Cooper takes listeners on a deeply personal exploration of loss and grief. Episode 1 shares his experience of packing up the apartment of his late mother Gloria Vanderbilt along with memories of his brother's suicide decades ago. In subsequent episodes he talks with other guests that have lived through similar grief in a series of emotional and moving conversations about the people we lose, the things they leave behind, and how to live on. On No Harm In Asking, hosts Eric Byron and Michael Kerr are on a journey to gather insights into why podcasts succeed or fail and to explore the myriad of different patterns, structures, topics, techniques, and personalities that have evolved this industry. Through our podcast, we hope to inspire and encourage the next generation of storytellers and visionaries. Mike and Eric listened to all of Anderson's podcast episodes. They can be found on CNN here: https://edition.cnn.com/audio/podcasts/all-there-is-with-anderson-cooper Follow us on Twitter at @noharmaskingpod so you don't miss a review! Eric also publishes his podcasting journey titled "A Podcasting Journal" on Substack at https://ericbyron.substack.com/ Please check out our sponsor: Qollab.me - the free to use interview planning, preparation and collaboration tool https://qollab.me/
THE THESIS: Newton: For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Politics: If The Party wants an actual insurrection and a real revolution, they should keep doing exactly what they are doing; In reaction to being bullied, attacked, erased, stolen from, gaslit and exploited, the people will give them one. I am not hoping for that, I want peace, my faith demands I seek peace and my faith informs me that God is in charge and, in that, we should all have peace. THE SCRIPTURE & SCRIPTURAL RESOURCES: We are called to be salt and light. Matthew 9: 38-48 Eye for Eye 38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.'[h] 39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. 41 If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. 42 Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you. Love for Enemies 43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor[i] and hate your enemy.' 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect. We are also called to serve “the least of these.” How can they be served if they are not, also, protected. In some small part, that where the “Just war” theory is drawn. I am not qualified to talk in depth about that, here is some of what I am reading about it. The Just War as Christian Tradition THE NEWS & COMMENT: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. How long can human being be expected to live under events like this without a major pushback? [AUDIO] - Language Warning at the link: There were six people in a house in Gatineau, Canada. A neighbor snitched. Police went in, Gestapo style. Assaulting citizens. So, yeah. Every lockdown politician who made this monstrous world and then tries to sneak away to Florida or Hawaii? Get lost. Why the Dutch Farmer Protest Is Your Cause, Too; Ecological change is a constant of biological reality—but humans remaining well fed is certainly not. How can The Party point to Romans 13, wherein in The Apostle Paul tells us to obey lawful authorities unless they demand we violate the Word of God, when The Party itself violates our ultimate civil authority, the Constitution? Government Disclosed Jan. 6 Activities of Five Confidential FBI Sources: Defense Lawyer Defense attorneys in Oath Keepers case (jury selection begins tomorrow) file motion opposing DOJs request to conceal information pertaining to several FBI informants working in the group before, on, and after January 6 The FBI's Matt Gaetz Operation Sidelined An Effective Republican Voice At A Crucial Time. That Was The Point FBI Raids Pro-Lifer's Home, Arrests Him In Front Of His Kids After Ignoring Pro-Abortion Terrorism [AUDIO] - Davidson: Amid Worsening Border Crisis, Cartels Are Taking Over Mexico - Federalist Senior Editor John Daniel Davidson said on “Fox & Friends.” When The Party is absolutely committed to stealing the resources God provides--like taxing us for what he exhale and purposefully destroying the elements he gave us for heat and cooking--how long can people be expected to not pray about the topic of a “Just war?” [AUDIO] - No, they have not stopped pushing ESG, they took a break for the midterms. Here are a bunch of Blackrock globalists planning ESG implementation in public Italy has gone to the populists. What comes after populism? Revolution. Let's pray it's peaceful and returns power to godly leaders who seek to serve rather than be served. [AUDIO] - CNN responds to the election of a populist coalition in Italy Was the fake boobs teacher a hoax? Whether or not it was satire, it shows where the power lies Photographs of this individual, known as “Kayla Lemieux”, were reportedly leaked by students uncomfortable with the situation. The fake breasts are indeed so gargantuan, and the nipples so prominent, that it's difficult to see how anyone could wear them except as either fetish gear or a prank. In Ontario, though, the Human Rights Code forbids discrimination against anyone on the grounds of ‘gender expression', a category of such seemingly infinite flexibility that it appears to cover wearing absurdly enormous prosthetic breasts to your teaching job in a secondary school. Accordingly, the school has defended Lemieux. Much online outrage suggested Lemieux was using Ontario's human rights laws as a cover for exercising a grotesque fetish around children, and reacted with wholly justifiable disgust. Another more recent rumour, though, suggests ‘Kayla Lamieux' is neither a sincere identity nor a fetish, but a prank. Someone on the Anonymous messageboard, who claims to be a student in this man's class, says the giant prosthetic breasts are in fact a kind of absurdist protest. The student goes on to say that the teacher hates ‘woke culture' and would regularly ‘drop redpills to his class, such as how silly gender neutral bathrooms are'. His aim is probably ‘to get fired, then sue for discrimination'. LISTENERS COMMENTS: Tom: Matthew 19:21.. Oh my goodness you are so clever Todd. I wrote recently to you whining “ what can we do” . I am like the young ruler that told Jesus That he was a good man and was following all the commands, but what more could he do. Jesus said something to the effect “ give away all that you own and follow me” I believe the young ruler left sad. Well today you told us to get involved and make change. Sacrifice and give more than lip service to the task at hand. Yes my favorite quote from the Bible is not even a quote from the Bible. “ the lord helps those that help themselves “ . Anyway great work, Tom in Ellensburg --- --- --- JoAnn Hi Todd, I have been listening since you were on the radio at KTTH as a fill-in host. A listener named Neri emailed you about your annoying laugh. You said it was because you were by yourself for 2 1/2 hours. I have to take issue with this. I emailed you when you were on the radio and told you that it made for poor radio and as a listener it would be nice if you would stop. I wasn't the only one that pointed this out to you. You also have the same annoying laugh when you and Zach are talking on the show. In both examples I have just mentioned you were not alone. I guess it's something you won't change, but again, as a listener it is so annoying, and I agree with Neri. Maybe you can think about it since you are annoying listeners. Thanks for the great content. --- --- --- Danielle (on the topic of Vanderbilt disappearing the evidence of why they chemically and surgically mutliate kids) You will understand when you start digging into the Vanderbilt family. Cornelius Vanderbilt, founder of the Vanderbilt university and patriarch of the Vanderbilt family, has daughter Gloria Vanderbilt. Look into the mansion and the creepy sadistic torturous things that are there regarding torturing children. Also making sense is her son, Anderson Cooper. Once you start digging you fall down the rabbit hole you might not want to go down. Caution is advised. --- --- --- Tyler Todd, It saddens me when I hear you share stories of people who express such wrong understandings of God's Word. There is no power in us in baptism. There is no power in the person who performs it, or the the person who receives it. All power is in the Word connected to the water. Now, I have no issue with a person recognizing their sin and having a truly contrite heart and repent. All people should. But it is the very fact that we have been forgiven and received the Spirit that gives us the ability to do that. So it grieves me when I hear people express the idea that they need to be “baptized again”, and more so when I hear people lauding that action. There is one baptism in Christ. Only one. Seeking another baptism is seeking to gratify YOURSELF, not glorify Christ. I pray that you receive this as the brotherly admonishment it is intended to be, that we are commanded to give to one another. Of course, if we have disagreement on this, I am more than willing to sit down with scripture and struggle together. Your brother in Christ, TylerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Chasing Life is pleased to present the first episode of Anderson Cooper's new podcast: All There Is. Anderson started recording while packing up the apartment of his late mother Gloria Vanderbilt. Going through her journals and keepsakes, as well as things left behind by his father and brother, Cooper begins a series of emotional and moving conversations about the people we lose, the things they leave behind, and how to live on - with loss, with laughter, and with love. You can find All There Is with Anderson Cooper wherever you get your podcasts. To learn more about how CNN protects listener privacy, visit cnn.com/privacy
Alone in his late mother, Gloria Vanderbilt's apartment, Anderson begins recording his thoughts and memories as he packs up her things. He makes some unexpected discoveries while sorting through boxes of love letters, journals, and cherished keepsakes. Feeling isolated and alone in his grief, Anderson reaches out to a close friend of his mother, who joins him to share insights about her and suggestions about what to do with the things she left behind.To learn more about how CNN protects listener privacy, visit cnn.com/privacy
Anderson Cooper takes us on a deeply personal exploration of loss and grief. He starts recording while packing up the apartment of his late mother Gloria Vanderbilt. Going through her journals and keepsakes, as well as things left behind by his father and brother, Cooper begins a series of emotional and moving conversations about the people we lose, the things they leave behind, and how to live on - with loss, with laughter, and with love. New episodes start on September 14, 2022, follow and listen wherever you get your podcasts.To learn more about how CNN protects listener privacy, visit cnn.com/privacy
Join Mandi Kerr and Samuel Alexander on Wednesday morning's episode of Moving ^HEMP Forward. Samuel is the founder and CEO of C2C (Concept 2 Consumption) Fashion and Technology LLC, an Austin, TX-based business providing its clients with access to a revolutionary B2B2C fashion ecosystem. Alexander's experience spans more than three decades—and brings together expertise in both the fashion and technology industries. Alexander is an expert in product design/development; global sourcing/production; strategic branding/marketing; and technology integration. He is an internationally recognized expert in ‘all things digital' and has spoken at conferences such as South by Southwest, U.S. China Innovation & Investment Summit, MBDA Department of Commerce, IFAI Expo, and is sought after as a guest speaker by companies, countries, and institutions all over the world. He has been featured in publications such as Forbes, WWD, Apparel Resources, Austin Business Journal, and Thrive Global. Alexander has been instrumental in promoting the growth and development of numerous major labels including Levi Strauss, Votre Nom Paris, Gloria Vanderbilt, Jones of New York, Shelli Segal, David Dart, Laundry, Icon Aura, Willi Smith, and Sue Wong—among many others. C2C Fashion and Technology is a full-service, one-stop consortium for any business with needs for interactive multi-media marketing, product development, and cloud technology integration. C2C Fashion and Technologies SaaS (Software as a Service) cloud-based solutions will connect all aspects of businesses from concept to consumption. C2C Fashion and Technology enterprise is focused on reinventing the fashion industry through a unique integration of fashion, technology, medical, and the arts. The company endeavors not only to develop domestic production but also to do so in an ecologically sound and technologically-progressive way. Their goal is to be the leader in fashion technology focusing on Nano and biotechnology smart fashion. C2C main paradigmatic change affecting fashion is the reshoring of the fashion industry by embracing a sustainable concept and combination of “smart factories” + “smart networks” + “smart products.” For this morning we'll talk about: 1. Re-shoring of the fashion industry 2. Hemp in the fashion industry 3. Carbon credits and the circular economy 4. Future of Fashion and Technology 5. Reason we have to re-shore to America #liveinterview #movinghempforward #globalhempassociation #friendsofhemp #hemp #industrialhemp #farmers #growers #hempforourfuture #GHA #FOH #consumer #farm #fashion #textile #fashionindustry #technology #productdevelopment #product #C2C #medical #arts #smart #apparel
Anderson Cooper takes us on a deeply personal exploration of loss and grief. He starts recording while packing up the apartment of his late mother Gloria Vanderbilt. Going through her journals and keepsakes, as well as things left behind by his father and brother, Cooper begins a series of emotional and moving conversations about the people we lose, the things they leave behind, and how to live on - with loss, with laughter, and with love. The first episode will launch on September 14th. To get new episodes automatically downloaded to your device, just follow All There Is with Anderson Cooper on Apple podcasts or wherever you listen to podcasts. To learn more about how CNN protects listener privacy, visit cnn.com/privacy
Anderson Cooper takes us on a deeply personal exploration of loss and grief. He starts recording while packing up the apartment of his late mother Gloria Vanderbilt. Going through her journals and keepsakes, as well as things left behind by his father and brother, Cooper begins a series of emotional and moving conversations about the people we lose, the things they leave behind, and how to live on - with loss, with laughter, and with love. To learn more about how CNN protects listener privacy, visit cnn.com/privacy
The Hey, Boomer guest today is Stella Fosse, writer, advocate for older women's empowerment and workshop leader. Our topic today was Sexy Stories for and about Women Over Sixty. Stella reinvented herself from a technical writer, to a writer of erotica for and about older women. Her first book, Aphrodite's Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica after Midlife, includes lots of how to's and prompts to get your started. Her latest book, "Brilliant Charming Bastard" was released this year. We talked about claiming our narrative at this stage of our lives. We discussed the difference between Elderotica and Seasoned Romance Stories. When I asked about being objectified as sexual beings, Stella turned that around to finding the freedom of being able to walk down the street without being harassed, and the freedom to be more playful in our relationships. We talked about the benefit of finding supportive writers groups, both in person and online. It was a fun discussion. I think you will enjoy it. Episode Takeaways: 1. Read books, and watch movies that show possibilities of this part of life. 2. Find ways to build creativity into this part of your life. 3. Enjoy your body. 4. Learning and sex until rigor mortis. Thanks so much for listening. Subscribe on Apple Podcast, Stitcher , Google Podcast. or Spotify Follow up on Facebook and Instagram You can email me with questions or comments at wendy@heyboomer.biz – Wendy Green is a Certified Life Coach, working with people going through the sometimes uncomfortable life transition from full-time work to “what's next.” Find out more about Wendy's 6-week “What's Next Transition” Coaching workshop – You can find Stella at stellafosse.com or email her at stella@stellafosse.com Other resources mentioned Writing Open the Mind by Andy Couturier Fifty First Dates After Fifty by Carolyn Lee Arnold Fear of Dying by Erica Jong Naked at our Age by Joan Price Forever 51 by Pamela Skjolsvik ============================================ Show transcript And welcome to the Hey Boomer Show, which is live every Monday at 1:00 Eastern on Facebook, LinkedIn and YouTube. My name is Wendy Green and I am your host for Hey Boomer. And hey, Boomer is a show for those of us who believe we are never too old to set another goal or dream, a new dream. It is for lifelong learners who want to find meaning and purpose in their lives and live the best part of their life in this next chapter. Every year I put together an Alzheimer's walk team and every year I get a bunch of people that come and walk with me and we raise money. Last year, we hit the championship level. We raised over 1000. So this year I am asking you to join our team. There's a couple of ways you can do this. You can join the local team here in Greenville, South Carolina, and walk with us and help raise money for that. Or you can join our our hey boomer team and walk in your community. So for now, I have a Greenville team. I have a hey boomer team in California and I have a Hey Boomer team in Maryland. And anybody that joins our team, I'm going to give them this cute, hey, boomer hat so that you can wear that when you walk and you can wear it afterwards proudly as a member of Hey, Boomer. So all you have to do is go to act.Alz.org/goto/HeyBoomer, join our team and support the hopeful end of Alzheimer's. I also want to say that I am not anti retirement. anti retirement, but I don't recommend it for almost anybody because retirement means withdrawal. And if you withdraw from life, you really are giving up on life. And what happens is that every day starts to run into the next. You become bored and lethargic. You find yourself spending more time on the couch than doing just about anything else. And I want to encourage you, as I said in the opening, this show is about living your best life in this next chapter. So I have a six-week group program called What's Next? And you can find it and get more information about it on HeyBoomer.Biz/coaching. There you'll find a synopsis of what the group coaching experience is about. A little video from me and an opportunity to sign up for a free 20 minute consultation so that I can learn more about you. You can learn more about me. And then we can make a decision whether this is a good fit for you or not. So there's no obligation. Check it out at heyboomer/coaching and get set or get your mojo back if you feel like you've lost it. Now to talk about what's coming up. Kathleen, A Berry PhD and coeditor of "Unmasked: Women write about sex and intimacy after 50" said, "When we think of erotica, we don't usually link it together with middle aged women." In fact, it is middle aged women who are finally liberated to fully experience the sensuous delight of erotica. They have reached the point in their lives when they are no longer encumbered by the risk of pregnancy, nor zapped by the physical ramifications of menopause. And there's another aspect to this topic. Ageist thinking says that older women become matronly and we lose our beauty. And the idea of older women having sex seems almost unappealing in our society. There are a few examples of women over 50 being sexual in the media. I'm sure that or I hope that you all have seen Grace and Frankie with Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda. And there's a new movie out with Emma Thompson called Good Luck to You, Leo Grande. And in this movie, Emma Thompson plays a widow who has never had a satisfying sex life. She is curious and she's nervous. She hires a sex worker. This movie explores her journey to becoming comfortable with her own sexuality. It is available on Hulu. Good luck to you, Leo Grande. So today we're going to talk about the idea that we are all sensual beings into our sixties, seventies, eighties and beyond, and that we can all make our own decisions about what is right for us regarding sex at this stage of our life, really at any stage of our life. So let me bring Stella on and introduce you. Hello, Stella. I want to thank. Thanks for having. Me. Oh, I've been looking forward to this. And so is the audience. I've heard a lot of people say, Oh, I'm going to watch. I'm going to watch. So brief bio. Stella is a former biotechnology writer who advocates for the creative power of older women. Her books include "Aphrodite's Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica After Midlife", "The Erotic Pandemic Ball," And ooh, did you hear the Thunder? And her debut novel at age 68, "Brilliant, Charming Bastard." She is currently teaching romance writing to seniors and writing a book about creative retirement. Stella lives with her partner in North Carolina. You can follow her on Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram, and she blogs on her website, which we will get to, and I'll share all of her contact information later. So, Stella. Yes. So, you know, in my coaching practice, I always talk to people about reinvention. And many people have a really hard time thinking about what they're going to do next. They had their career and That was that was who they defined themselves as they didn't have an idea of what was next. So I'm curious about your reinvention journey from tech writer to writer of erotica and the ups and downs of that. Oh Well, I always wanted to be a writer. In fact, my childhood goal was to write my first novel by the time I was 25. So I missed that by 50 years. As you said, it's never too late. So I went to college in the early seventies when there was a total double standard about writing anything sexual. Philip Roth's novels were literature. Erica Jong's novels were trash. And so that's that's what it was like when I came up. And I certainly never thought about writing erotica back then after college, after I got my degree in creative writing, which when I moved to New York, I was told would get me. If I had that plus $0.25, I could get a ride in the subway. So I went back to school, got a master's in biology, and had a career writing FDA submissions, which are about as asexual as you can get. And when I was starting to think about graduating from that career, if we don't like the word retirement, maybe we can. Graduation. I happened to read an article in the New York Times Book Review section by a romance author who was also in her late fifties, who was advising her sister writers that if they wanted to get published, they should write romance characters in their twenties. And I thought, that's pretty outrageous. Why should women of a certain age have to closet themselves when they write? And around that time, a friend of mine Linx Cannon started a reading series at an Oakland bookstore called Dirty Old Women, and she invited all her friends to write erotic stories and come and read them before an audience. And I thought, Well, why not? So that's that's how this started. So I mean, I think if you asked me to come to a book reading and writing erotic stuff called Dirty Old Women, I would probably be pretty nervous. Were you nervous at first? Yeah, I sure was. But, you know, we had a great crowd every time, and it was really a mixed age crowd. There were a lot of younger women in the audience who would come up to us afterwards and thank us and say, you know, we we thought that part of life ended around age 40. So thank you for showing us that that's not the case. I've come to think of this kind of writing as a political act, really, as part of our part of liberating ourselves. So a political act and an educational act in a sense, for the young people that there is. You can continue to look forward to this. That's right. This doesn't just there's not a not a cutoff date. Right. Right. So in Aphrodite's pen, you talk about the power of writing erotica. As older women, what do you mean by that power? I think I think there are a couple of kinds of power involved. One is the power to claim back our narrative for ourselves. You mentioned earlier that there's this there's this idea in the culture. There's this sexist age trope that older women have outlived their own sexuality. And when we write, even if even if a woman writes a story and saves it for herself, she's reclaiming her own agency because, you know, sexuality isn't something society gives us or something society can take away. It's innate in us. And when we write, we reclaim that for ourselves. And if we decide to publish a story, then we're pushing back on this big cultural narrative. I think of. I think of culture as sort of like an ocean liner. You know, it's going in one direction. It's big, has a lot of there's a lot of inertia. But if if everybody gets out their teaspoon, writes their story and starts, you know, pushing the water, we can we can start turning the culture in a better direction if a lot of us are writing our stories. Well, if you've never written anything like that before. Yeah, how would you even get started? Well, I think, you know, if you're not in a community that has a dirty old women reading series, you can still you can certainly get a copy of Aphrodite's Pen, which has exercise, writing exercises, writing prompts, all kinds of ideas for how to create characters, how to mine your own life experience. Because by now all of us have lots and lots of experience that we can draw from in creating plots and creating characters. And then the book also has interviews with women, older women who write erotica, talking about their experience and examples of stories that they've written. So you can really get a sense of of this what I think of as a developing crone culture. Hmm. Hmm. So I, I have to tell you, I mean, I was so a naive, I guess is the right word about all of this. You know, I was I was thinking, well, there's not really going to be much of a plot. It's just going to be one sexual act after another. And and when I read your book, Brilliant, Charming Bastard, there was quite an involved plot there and not nearly as much sex as I expected there to be. And it was tastefully managed. So it was a big surprise to me. And you called this form of this genre of writing. Like, what did you call it? Elderotica. Elderotica. And and the way they categorize it. So seasoned, well there is a category of seasoned romance. Seasoned romance. So when I was speaking earlier about that article, I read by that the woman advising other women writers to make their characters young. She was writing romance, which is a really structured form. And I sort of thought I was writing romance when I wrote Brilliant Charming Bastard. But now that I'm teaching about romance, I realized that I did not follow the rules. Romance. Romance has a very set structure for how you set up your plot and how your characters interact and what happens at the end. And it's really about a happily ever after ending. And my book is more a lot of people hate the phrase women's literature. But I think mine is more like seasoned women's literature. But there is a whole category now called season romance. Publishers are realizing that we are a big market. There are a lot of people now, more and more people in their fifties, sixties and seventies. And we don't necessarily want to read about people in their twenties. Right. So what's the difference then between Seasoned Romance and Elderotica? Oh, that's a good question. So. So if you think about again, if you think about what romance is, it's it's really centered around one relationship between two people and they have to have a happily ever after ending. Erotica is more like how one person develops, one main character develops through her sexual experiences and and becomes a more fully developed person by the end of the story. So it's it's it's a different it's a different genre. And then there's porn, which is a whole different thing. Right, right, right. So I would say that Good Luck To You, Leo Grande is Elderotica. Have you seen it? Oh, I love that movie. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Because she definitely develops into a more fuller person. Yes. And she's really developing her relationship with herself. Yes. Not that the other person is objectified because he's not. I think he's he's he's a fully developed character in his own right. But but the the real theme of the story is that she comes into her own, as you said earlier. Yeah. Yeah, I guess it is sort of. It is elder erotica. I hadn't thought of that. Yeah. Yeah, I loved it. It is. I mean, at first I wasn't sure if I was going to like it, but yeah, it was so brave. Yes. So so talking about objectification. Yeah. Right. So when we're young, you know, society, I mean, sex sells and ads, right? They encourage young women to dress sexy, wear the highest heels, you know. And it is a very objectified way of gaining attention as older women, of course, we still want to look lovely and sexy. And how do we how do we do that so that our minds are not telling us? Yeah, but that's just objectifying yourself. That's a really interesting question. I think. I think there comes a point in most of our lives where we can walk past a construction site without being harassed. And and, you know, that is, you know, people talk about invisibility of older women. There is that upside. There is that freedom. And in that freedom, I really think there's an opportunity, again, to to look at our own agency, to claim our own sexual being and to not feel like we're always having to fend off unwanted attention. So I like to look at the freedom side of it. And and once we've once we're kind of in that state, once we're in that stage, when we reclaimed our freedom, then I think it gives us room to be more playful in our relationships because because we have freed ourselves of that concern about being objectified. Not that I mean, you can you can play with objectification in a consensual relationship. That's something there's that wonderful book, Mating in Captivity, that talks about talks about that. But but again, I really think that this notion of invisibility has a huge positive aspect for us as a women. It's a great way to phrase it. Yeah, because we don't have to. We don't have to be harassed walking down the street. No, but we can be free and playful on our own terms when we want to. With whom we want to. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. I know. We've got a big thunderstorm coming up here. Thor Agrees with you. That's right. So so talking about the women's movement and the whole discussion about ageism. Now, you and I have both been involved in in those discussions in larger forums and, you know, the societal myth of women losing their sexuality like you talked about with the young people. So I'm curious how you think writing about sexuality or erotica or reading about it even can can help in that, dispelling some of those ageist myths? Yeah. Yeah. You know, we all grew up with women our age, grew up swimming in this gender age group without even realizing it. I mean, think about, you know, Sleeping Beauty and Maleficent. Think about Cinderella and the wicked stepmother. I mean, we we absorbed a lot of that before. We were old enough to have maybe have clear thinking about the fact that we weren't always going to be Cinderella's age someday. We were going to be the age of the stepmother. And what did that mean for us? So. So when we step back from those myths and start creating our own myths, I think that really gives us a lot of power and it gives us a new voice that's important for us as older women. So I think it's key to seek out as a reader, as a watcher of movies and shows. I mean, you mentioned some really powerful, significant shows. There are a lot of great books out there. I mentioned Erica Jong earlier. She wrote Fear of Flying as a young woman. She wrote Fear of Dying as an older woman, which is a great novel with a lot of sexuality about being in our sixties. These are ways that we can reclaim our our power through reading and writing and kind of we can reprogram ourselves away from all that sexist age stuff that we were exposed to when we were young. I do think there's power in that. You know, when we when we stay in our own heads and and tell ourselves the same old story over and over again, which we bought into because that's how we were raised. Seeing other examples like Grace and Frankie, like Leo Grande, you know, you start to say, Oh, well, there are other ways to look at this. And I love Erica Jong. Yeah, yeah, she's great. And, you know, there are more and more women writing from that vantage point now. Caroline Lee Arnold has a new memoir out called 51st Dates After 50. Which which is really fun. I got to got to interview her from my blog recently. And that's just one example I have on my website. I have a whole list of references for movies, shows and books because I really think it's important as a as a consumer of culture, to be mindful of what we are consuming and and look at the positive aspects of this part of our lives, because there are plenty of negative stories out there. Right. I think I'll try to link to that in the show notes. Oh. Yeah, because that would be good for everybody. So you're teaching a course now? Yeah. What is that course? It's called Thee and Me Could Write a Bad Romance. What is that about? Oh, so I. One day I just on a whim, I put up something on LinkedIn saying, I'm thinking about teaching this class. Thee and Me Could Write a Bad Romance. And a woman from an organization that provides lots of content for for older folks wrote to me and said, Oh, great, we want you to come teach this class. Well, of course, I had no curriculum. I just I just had this title. So that's when I started learning what romance is actually about as a genre, and that I actually had not written one. I thought I did, but I didn't. So. So I put together a curriculum. It's eight weeks long and we've been looking at the whole structure of romance, what act one looks like. Act two looks like Act three looks like how to build characters, how to build plot, how to make your scene conform to what you're looking for, how to construct dialogue that works the whole the whole thing. So it's been a lot of fun and I'm I'm looking forward to offering it again for a wider audience later on. And are most people going to end the course with a written story? Well, they're they won't end with full drafts of romance novels, but they'll end with a lot. They have everybody by now has a schematic with every scene they're going to write. They have descriptions of their main characters. They're supporting characters. They have a lot of their scenes written, and now they're working on love scenes, which is fun. That's great. So can they find out about this on your website? It's not up there yet. I will I will put it up there because as I said, I do want to offer this again in the fall. I'll be offering this class. So Stella's website is StellaFosse" FOSSE" and you can sign up for her newsletter at page.StellaFosse/What's-new? And you don't have to worry about that because as soon as you get in the website, you'll start getting these annoying invitations to sign up for the blogs and the newsletter. Yeah, so they're fun to read too, so I would encourage you to do that. So just a couple more questions. This one's a little bit more. Yeah. Okay. Realistic, let's say. All right. All right. So you're writing erotica, right? Sex at this stage of your life, our lives is not always easy, right? Women are not lubricating the way they used to. Men are not getting erections like they used to. And sometimes our knees hurt trying to get into position. So, I mean, you could make a comedy erotic story about that, but I'm wondering how you handle that in an erotic story. That's a really good question. So so there's a woman named Joan Price who writes she writes a senior advice column for Senior Planet on Sexuality, and she's written also some great books, including one called Naked at Our Age, which I highly recommend. And she reviews, by the way, she reviews sex toys from the standpoint of an older person and recommends vibrators and all kinds of sex toys. So she's a wonderful resource. I really recommend her. And when I read so, so I like to think about this from the flip side, I like to think about if I'm looking at what she has to say about senior sexuality. Then what is it that works well for us at this stage and focus on that. So for example, in one of her books, she talks about that that men have passed a certain age do really well sexually if they're standing because of the way blood flows. So so that inspired me to write a story in which a couple in their sixties at the end of the story, there's a there's a love scene where they're leaning against a vibrating dishwasher while they're they've been in the kitchen talking, and then they end up doing that. So so I think there are ways to incorporate the positives, the things that do work well into our writing. So and again, I really I really recommend Joan. I think she's a great. Great resource. Yeah, thanks. I'll have to check that out. And you put up a quote from Anderson Cooper, which I thought was hysterical. His mother, Gloria Vanderbilt, was 85 when she said to him, I'm going to write an erotic novel. And he said, those were the seven most horrifying words he'd ever heard. I haven't asked my kids how they would feel if I was to announce that. Maybe I will ask them. But how did your sons or daughters or how did your kids respond to this? You know, I love it when I love that quote. And when I put that up on Facebook, I'm Facebook friends with Janet Herdy, who some of your readers may know as the author of The Ethical Slut, a book that came out quite a while ago about polyamory. And and so my comment was, oh, my poor babies. And then and then her answer was, oh, mine too. So but actually, the interesting thing is so that's Stella Foster is a pen name. And the reason I chose a pen name is that I didn't want to embarrass my adult children any more than necessary, but they've actually been pretty cool about it. In fact, one of my daughters, who's a professional designer, designed the cover for Brilliant, Charming Bastard. So, yeah. I think that they I think that they they like the idea of empowering older women and that this is a way to do it. And after all, I have two sons and two daughters. My daughters are going to be older women at some point, too. So. So I think they get it surprisingly. Have they read your books? No. No, they. Don't. Not necessary. No, no, no. That's not for them. So what's next for you? What's coming down the pike? Well, I am in the middle of writing a book about creative retirement with a friend of mine, Stevie Jane Parks, who is a psychotherapist and an abstract painter. So she took up abstract painting after her former career was winding down. So. So we're we're in the middle of doing that. We're we're writing about lots of different topics, everything from housing to sexuality to creativity and play to just everything you can think of movement. And so that's great fun. And we're collecting anecdotes to include in that book from a lot of older women who've who've taken on new adventures after 60. So that's being fun. I also have decided that if I'm going to teach about romance, I'd better actually write a romance that actually is a romance. So, so in the in the in teaching this class, I've come up with an outline that I use as an example. And it's a, it's a, it's a vampire romance. So. So that can. Be pretty sexy, actually. Fun. There's already one out there. There's a there's a really good one out there called Forever 51. Oh, I don't know that. It's about a woman who becomes a vampire in the middle of menopause. So she's she's permanently in the throes of menopause. It's very fun to read. Oh, gosh. Now, you mentioned earlier that some some like if you really wanted to try and learn how to do this, you know, you certainly your book, Aphrodite's Pen is one way, but you also talked about writing groups. So I know you had some great groups out in California. Now you're in your new home in North Carolina. Are you finding other women that you can form a group with and write with? I'm. I'm involved in. So in North Carolina, we have this wonderful organization called the North Carolina Writers Network, which is a statewide organization there. They're like, you couldn't throw a rock without hitting a writer in North Carolina. There's so many. So I'm involved in the local chapter of that statewide organization. When I first got there, I walked in with a stack of Aphrodite's pen, which had just come out at that point, and I think they were somewhat taken aback by that. I bet they were. This California girl, what's up with her? But they've gotten used to me and I'm on the steering committee for that local organization now. So I think they've decided they can tolerate me, after all. But at this point, I would say a lot of. There's so much opportunity online to work with other writers all over the country. For example, I really recommend anybody who's interested in getting involved in writing to sign up with National Novel Writing Month, or NaNoWriMo, which is based in the San Francisco Bay Area. People all over the country are writing first novels through NaNoWriMo. And actually, I have there are lots of local subgroups through NaNoWriMo, and there also are topically related groups. So for example, I have one on there for erotica writers. There are lots of opportunities no matter where you live. Yeah, the pandemic has changed things so much that doing things virtually is so much closer to the norm now than it was a couple of years ago. So true. That's so it's really, really opened up a lot of opportunities for for folks our age to do many things that we wouldn't have been able to do before. So how does that work? Well, yeah, but say I've never written before. Right? I write a blog, but I've never written a book. I've fantasized about it. But yeah, you know, I would like to want to creep in and sit in the very back row and like, don't ask me anything, let me just listen; harder to do on a virtual screen. But how does it work when you join a writing group? Well, a couple of things. One is, you know, there are books you can get that will just help you launch into writing from starting from zero. And my favorite and this is not about erotica, but my favorite book to to introduce people to writing in general is called Writing Open the Mind. It's by Andy Couturier, and it has all kinds of ideas and exercises for helping people look at writing as play and not judge themselves. And that's really key when you're when you're writing a first draft, when you're first getting involved in writing, to set aside your inner critic and be playful about your writing. So that's how I approach writing, teaching, writing. That's how I'm approaching the and me could write a bad romance because it doesn't matter if your first draft is bad, it's just play and it's fine. So that's, that's one thing. But yeah, I think it's important to find a safe. If you're going to find a writing group, it's important to find one that's a safe space where people are going to give you feedback that encourages you to keep going and not not nitpick. And. And when I when I run a writing group, I ask folks to give. The following kind of feedback. Listen to what the person is reading you and then write down the phrases that really grab you that seem really significant to you. Write down what you like and give the person that feedback that will help them to keep going. You know, I think I think those things are really significant. Yeah. Sometimes one or two phrases of compliments can take away some of that fear. So. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, this has been this has been really interesting. You know, I have I have read and watched more erotica this past week or so, getting ready for this show then probably ever. And it's really been interesting, though, Stella. It has helped. It has opened my eyes and acceptance in a lot of ways and. Yeah, yeah. Fun, yeah. You know, Maggie Kuhn, who founded the Gray Panthers had this motto, Learning and sex until rigor mortis. Keep learning. Keep having sex. That's the best advice ever. Well, before we went on, we talked about possibly you gifting a couple of downloads of your book, your newest book to some of our listeners. Do you want to tell people how you do it? And I will share your email address. Sure, I'm happy to do that. So the first three folks who write to me at Stella@StellaFosse.com, be happy to send you an E-copy of Brilliant, Charming Bastard. So just, just get on there and write to me. The book will come from book club and it may go into your spam or junk folder. So if you don't see the book in the next day or two, please check your spam and junk folders. Make sure that it's not hiding there. And if that doesn't work, write to me again and let me know and I'll we'll sort it out. So, okay, so it's the first three people. So you can't wait. We have more than that. We have a bunch of people watching so it's good. Yeah. It's Stella@StellaFosse "Fosse" .com. So drop her a note right now. Yeah. Get started on. Brilliant, charming bastard. Yeah. And I hope that lots of folks will sign up for the blogs and emails and also look look for the resources tab on the website. Because, again, we have lots of movies, shows and books that talk about the positives around your sexuality from a fictional standpoint. And also I have I have some of Joan Price's books up there as Resources to. Awesome. Thank you for what you're doing, Stella. Well, it's fun. It's a fun revolution. I like to. It's a fun revelation. So I always ask my guests for two or three takeaways. Okay, so what would you like to leave the audience with? All right. The first is one of the things we've been talking about this whole time, and that is read books and watch movies that show the possibilities of this part of life. It's easy to find the negative stuff, but if we're going to reprogram ourselves and look at the bright side, it's important to find those those books and movies and shows. And I'd say Caroline Arnold's new memoir, 51st Dates After 50, would be a great place to start. That sounds like fun. The second thing is find ways to build creativity into your life. Whatever works for you, whether that's cooking or painting or writing and and find people who enjoy the same thing you do so you can reinforce each other. Share, share information and resources and successes. And as I said earlier, National Novel Writing Month is a great free way to get involved if writing is a way that you want to be creative. The third thing is enjoy your body. Your body is a good gift. And you know, I took up weightlifting in my sixties. It's marvelous. Talk about helping you feel powerful. Go swimming, buy a vibrator. I mean, look at Joan Price's recommendations and and find something that works for you. And again, remember what Maggie KUHN said, learning and sex until rigor mortis. Great advice. Thank you, Maggie KUHN. Maggie, if you read her autobiography, she certainly took her own advice. All right. So we've been I've been sharing Stella's website information again. You can email her at Stella@StellaFosse.com So hopefully you get lots and lots of emails and questions and check out the resource page like she said. Absolutely. Join our walk to End Alzheimer's. Yes. The link for that is act.alz.org/goto/HeyBoomer and join the team, contribute to try and end this awful disease. You know, it's certainly our parents or us could be looking at that at some point. We don't want to! Connect with me about the What's Next coaching program, the six week group coaching program at HeyBoomer.biz/coaching. I'd love to talk to you 20 minutes. 20 minutes. That could change your life and really give you some insights into what's next for you. So check that out. This guest has been amazing. Well, thank you. Yes. And thank you for having me. Thank you for joining us. It's such an interesting conversation. And I want to tell you about my guest for next week. Her name is Minette Norman and we're calling the show Jumping Off into the Great Unknown. So both Minette and I have done this more than once, and we are going to share our stories and our experiences together. We talked about kind of interviewing each other, so that should be an interesting experiment. Minette's LinkedIn Profile says she helps leaders cultivate inclusive teams. She's a keynote speaker, a psychological safety certified practitioner and an upcoming author. And I thought, how cool is that? That she claimed it before her books out there. I am an upcoming author, so I thought that was pretty cool. And like Stella modeled for us today and like we all strive for "live with passion, live with relevance, and live with courage". My name is Wendy Green, and this has been Hey, Boomer.
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Despite what outsiders might think, family fortunes are not guaranteed. One heir finds himself bankrupt, divorced, disowned, and potentially disinherited.Five generations of wealth doesn't prevent Neil Vanderbilt from filing bankruptcy among other troubles in 1931. Several of his problems go back to 1926 and repeat again in 1931.Other people and subjects include: Grace Wilson Vanderbilt, Benito Mussolini, Kaiser Wilhelm, Vanderbilt fortunes & disinheritances, Alfred Vanderbilt, “Reggie” Reginald Vanderbilt, Gloria Vanderbilt, Caroline Astor, Carrie Astor, Reno divorces, celebrity bankruptcy, and a personal circumstance.--Extra Notes / Call to Action:Share, like, subscribe--Archival Music provided by Past Perfect Vintage Music, www.pastperfect.com.Opening Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance BandsSection 1 Music: Top Hat, White Tie and Tails by Carroll Gibbons & Boy Friends, Album Sophistication – Songs of the ThirtiesSection 2 Music: These Foolish Things by Benny Carter, Album Perfect BluesSection 3 Music: One In A Million by Brian Lawrance, Album The Great British Dance BandsEnd Music: My Heart Belongs to Daddy by Billy Cotton, Album The Great British Dance Bandshttps://asthemoneyburns.com/TW / IG – @asthemoneyburnsFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/asthemoneyburns/
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Katherine Howe is a New York Times bestselling historian and novelist and together with American journalist and author Anderson Cooper she co-authored Vanderbilt: The Rise and Fall of an American Dynasty. She talks about the project, how it came together, and her own bestselling fiction on this week's Joys of Binge Reading. Hi there, I'm your host Jenny Wheeler, and today on Binge Reading Katherine Howe talks about working with Anderson to write one of the Washington Post's Notable Works of Nonfiction for 2021. We've got our usual free books offer. This week it's a group of authors offering clean and wholesome holiday romance. You can check it out on The Joys of Binge Reading website for the links or subscribe to our newsletter so it lands in your mailbox with the links there ready for you to click. Don't forget exclusive bonus content on Binge Reading on Patreon, including the Getting-to-Know-You Five Quickfire questions from Katherine on www.patreon.com/thejoysofbingereading. Where to find Katherine Howe: Website: http://www.katherinehowe.com Twitter: @katherinebhowe Instagram: @katherinebhowe Links for this episode: Alva Vanderbilt /Belmont/Vanderbilt: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alva_BelmontSalem Witch trials: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/a-brief-history-of-the-salem-witch-trials-175162489/Edith Wharton: https://www.edithwharton.org/discover/edith-wharton/Edith Wharton novels:The Age of Innocence: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/53835.The_Age_of_InnocenceThe House of Mirth: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17728.The_House_of_MirthEthan Frome: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/5246.Ethan_Frome As usual all our links for this episode can be found on the website the Joys of Binge Reading.com What follows is a "near as" transcript of our conversation, not word for word but pretty close to it, with links to the show notes in The Joys of Binge Reading.com for important mentions. But now here's Katherine. Introducing author Katherine Howe Jenny Wheeler: Hello there Katherine, and welcome to the show. It's great to have you with us. Katherine Howe - historian and novelist Katherine Howe: Thank you so much for having me, Jenny. I'm delighted to join you. Jenny Wheeler: You are a New York Times bestselling author of historical fiction in your own right, but recently you've also co-authored one of the prominent books of the year and that's Anderson Cooper's family story, Vanderbilt: The Rise and Fall of an American Dynasty. Is this your first co-authoring project? Katherine Howe: It is. I did a little bit of co-authoring of a screenplay with another friend, and I've taught writing for many years, so I was accustomed to a collaborative approach to writing, but this is the first time it's actually come to the world in book form. It was a really exciting project to do. Jenny Wheeler: How did it come about that you got enlisted for the project? Katherine Howe: We knew that Anderson was going to be working on a book and it was going to be a history book. Of course, he is a celebrated author in his own right. For your audience in New Zealand who might not know him as well as we do in the US, he is a broadcast journalist on CNN, which is one of our big cable news networks. He also does many other things. He does the New Year's Eve ball drop in Times Square and things like that. He is a prominent person, and he had written a couple of memoirs. He did a memoir of his own, and he did a co-author project with his mother. Collaborating with Anderson Cooper His mother was Gloria Vanderbilt. So, he knew he wanted to do a history book, but I think he was looking for someone who had more experience writing history, because writing history is a little bit different from writing memoir. We were fortunate that our various representative put us in touch with each other. It was very exciting because we found in the course of preparatory conversations that we had ...
Warren Buffet funded a $2 billion foundation for each of his children. Gloria Vanderbilt received a trust worth $36 million when she was just 15 months old. There are plenty of famous stories about one generation leaving a notable fortune for the next. What gets less attention is the story of the average person - saving what they can, when they can, hoping to pass along something to their children —from an inheritance that amounts to a first-home down payment, to college tuition that helps a young person start out with less debt. But, did you know that over 87% of millionaires started with nothing and became wealthy in one generation? Its possible! If you'd like to leave a legacy, it's worth learning how to build generational wealth, whatever that looks like for you. Today, we'll talk with Loral Langemeier, the Owner & CEO of Integrated Wealth Systems - and a money expert, sought after speaker, entrepreneurial thought leader, and best-selling author of five books who is on a relentless mission to change the conversation about money and empower people around the world to become millionaires.
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In this episode of Real Talk, KJK Student & Athlete Defense Attorneys Susan Stone and Kristina Supler are joined by educator-turned-consultant Dr. Dawn Wiese to discuss the complexities of hazing in fraternities and other organizations on campus, as well as in other settings prior to and beyond college. The conversation takes place in light of the newly-enacted Collin's Law, which toughens Ohio's hazing violations. TRANSCRIPT: Susan Stone: Welcome back to Real Talk with Susan Stone and Kristina Supler. We're full-time moms and attorneys bringing our student defense legal practice to life with real, candid conversations. Today's topic is hazing. And what prompted us to want to talk about hazing this month is that on October 7th in Ohio, Collins law was passed. And that law now makes stricter sanctions for individuals who are found responsible for participating in hazing, in either fraternities or other organizations on campus. And Kristina, we've dealt with a lot of hazing cases in our practice and we don't see it going away. What do you think? Kristina Supler: I think this is such an important topic; we're so pleased to be joined today by Dr. Dawn Wiese to speak with us about hazing, because hazing is a situation where there's no win, win. In fact, it's lose, lose so often. Students are in terrible positions, their organization, sports teams, any sort of group. There's a struggle there with how to address and respond and then institutions as well, high schools, colleges, they have their views and obligations, and we don't have to get into all the legalese of it. But it's just a tough topic because at the end of the day, we want students to be together and bond and have fun, but in a safe way. So as I mentioned, we're so pleased today to have Dr. Wiese with us. Susan: Dr. Wiese, it's hard to find the right person to talk about this very critical issue that has had terrible consequences in the state of Ohio. We know about two hazing deaths, and we were looking for the right person and called around and all roads led back to you. I just want to brag about you for a moment. You are a former Dean of freshman at Washington and Lee, where you also then served as the vice president for student affairs and Dean of students. And now you are a consultant, and I know that you have consulted in many cases on the issue of hazing. So I welcome you and can't wait to get some information. So to kick it off, as we've said, we've seen a lot of hazing going on in fraternities. And could you tell us a little bit about what you know about hazing? Dr. Dawn Wiese: Sure. And I think you're right in terms of how you capture it is a complex issue and it's a difficult to talk about issue, because it's, you talk about it and then it's suddenly, oh, we can't talk about this anymore. This is a horrible thing. The complexity of it and understanding the complexity of it, particularly for parents, is so important. And I'll start by saying, I'm also the parent of, I'm a parent of a current college senior. So I'm not only seeing the college experience for my own professional experience, but now going through it as a mom. So let me start by saying hazing is a problem. There's absolutely no doubt about it. It is something that as parents, we need to be thinking about as college administrators think about it, all of those things. It's also important to recognize that it's not isolated to college campuses, and certainly not isolated to Greek life. One of the great misnomers is that if your student joins fraternity or sorority, they're going to experience hazing. That's not necessarily true. And we can talk more about what that means. In fact, I would argue that most times it's not true, but we could talk more about that in a bit. Hazing starts in elementary school, maybe even earlier, I don't know, but in terms of documentation on it, it's back to those very early years as learned behavior with a spotlight really going on during those college years. And fraternities, I think provide a good, a good way to draw attention to it. Although you see it in other ways in the medium, we can talk more about that. Kristina: Susan, I think it's so interesting. I'm curious to hear your thoughts, when Dr. Wiese says that hazing starts in elementary school. It makes me think about our cases in the special ed context, but also in other contexts, when we're representing young students who are dealing with issues involving bullying and harassment and it's, I mean, what do you think Susan, it's interesting to see fast forward? Susan: I want to ask you a question, because we know that for younger children, everything happens in one of two places: the playground or the bus. And the jargon for younger children would be, as Kristina said, bullying. So I want to get our definition straight and make sure that we're all talking about the same thing. When you say hazing early on as elementary school, how do you define that term? Dr. Wiese: I think that's a great question. Are you, were you asking me, are we asking Kristina? Susan: No, I'm at asking you, yeah. Dr. Wiese: So, I would put all of this under the category of harassment, certainly a very weighty legal term in that there's hazing, there's bullying. Hazing, I think tends to be when you're talking more about those rites of passage or joining something while bullying may be restricting. But really what we're talking about regardless is harassment and that, and yes, harassment on the playground, in the workplace. It is certainly not isolated to college campuses. Susan: That's interesting. So would you define hazing as if you want to be in our group, you have to wear the same Jordache jeans… I'm dating myself, Dr. Wiese… For all out there, do you remember I'm 55, Gloria Vanderbilt and the comb in the back pocket? I digress, but go on. Dr. Wiese: I had those Jordache, I begged for them. So I remember them well. So hazing, yes, could well be that or hazing could be used from a bullying perspective as well of trying to haze someone out of something, right? So to say that it is just one thing, again, that's why I tend toward that larger umbrella of harassment. Kristina: I'm curious, this umbrella of harassment, hazing… I think everyone would agree hazing on the surface is a bad thing. And I think perhaps where people part ways is what is hazing. But I want to circle back to something you said a few minutes ago about really emphasizing, it's not limited to Greek life. And I would certainly concur and that Susan and I in our law practice representing students across the country, we see it in a multitude of contexts, not just Greek life. But I mean, talk a little bit more about your belief that fraternities aren't really the problem here. Dr. Wiese: Sure. So thanks for asking that. So, does hazing sometimes happen in fraternities or Greek life? Yes. Does it happen in athletics? Sometimes, yes. Does it happen in marching bands? Sometimes, yes. Does it happen in groups that none of us know about? Yes. And so that's really what the issue is. And so I would argue that… let me go to the concept of the Greek system… is that the Greek system is not where the issue is. And in fact, I would argue it's one of the solutions. And so an example, let's talk about institutions where there's no Greek life. Does that mean there is no hazing? Absolutely not. As a vice president on a campus with Greek life, I relied on those national fraternal partners to be a part of the education solution. And that's why I think it's important not to think of hazing as a Greek problem, but rather a larger educational issue, that the education can come from from many different places. And so then it becomes understanding, what are the types of organizations that your students are choosing to join when they go to college. And then what does that mean? And what are your conversations with your student? Susan: I have to ask the challenging question though. I agree with you because Kristina and I have cases where there's hazing on or hazing allegations on athletic teams and other social organizations like the band. But, it appears that the most serious hazing occur, not in sororities, but in fraternities. I mean, I was in a sorority, I'm proud of my sorority affiliation. I would not say that I was hazed. I was, to this day, I keep in touch with my big sister in sorority. But the extreme drinking to the point of death, I only know about it in the fraternity context. Dr. Wiese: Well and I would disagree because I think we just have to pull the lens back a little bit and we can look at, for instance, the Champion case at Florida Florida A and M. But again, that's a marching band situation, right? Another serious hazing situation I believe was at the Ohio State. And so I tend, do we hear about it in fraternities? Absolutely. Absolutely we do. Are there high risk behaviors that happen there? Absolutely. Is that the only place where high risk behaviors occur? Absolutely not. And that's when it becomes a part of, from my perspective as a former college administrator, whether fraternities exist or not, students are going to join groups, right? That's what people do. People join groups. And my view of that fraternal world, that national fraternal world, nd that's also an important distinction, is that they provide an educational arm that if fraternities did not exist or sororities, were missing part of that educational component and those students would be joining something else, perhaps recognized perhaps something entirely unrecognized. And then let me also go to the national versus local distinction. When we hear about Greek life, it tends to be that we hear about, we tend to think about these organizations that are part of something that you see, you might see the same letters on multiple college campuses. That's when something is a part of a national organization. And those national organizations are the ones that have those broad educational programs. Then there are local organizations. And when these stories hit the news, they don't distinguish between local and national organizations. They just say fraternity. Local organizations are just that, they are a club. So my daughter, for example, at her college, they have a blend of local and national organizations. She chose the one national sorority of five on her campus. And so she, her sorority experiences come with that educational component. The other four are local clubs. Kristina: Dr. Wiese, it's interesting to hear you talk about some of your personal experience, your daughter in particular. So I'm curious, I'd like to hear, drawing not only from your professional experience as a vice president for student affairs and working in higher ed, but also as a professional consultant and really a parent. What advice can you provide to parents for the types of questions they should be asking when their children are exploring organizations to join? Like what do parents need to know and how can parents talk to their kids about what they should be asking? Dr. Wiese: I appreciate you asking that question and I'll share a story with you about the first time I know my daughter was hazed. It was at her summer camp when she was going from fourth grade to fifth grade. And she came home from summer camp and she was telling me all of these stories about how she was moving from being I, maybe it was five to six, but I think it was from being the fourth year of her camp to the fifth year in her camp. And to become a fifth year, she had to do a number of silly things. They were blindfolded, they had to run around, things like that. And at the time I was a vice president. I'm like, oh my gosh, she was hazed. Because that meets the legal definition of hazing, right? Doing something that where someone is saying, I want you to do this, to join this, and not something that they would otherwise do. And it doesn't matter whether or not it's dangerous or that. What happened to her at that summer camp was hazing. And that was the first time she and I had a conversation about hazing and how, and of course growing up with the work I was doing she was forced into a lot of conversations at a very young age. Susan: I talk too much. And they always say to me, you only see when it goes wrong, mom. Stop. Dr. Wiese: Well and I appreciate you saying that because 99, I don't know the percentage, but for the vast majority of college students, vast majority people who attend summer camp, vast majority of people who are marching bands, they're having an amazing experience, an absolutely amazing experience. And we have to remember that. And so then it goes back to Kristina, your point, that it's having the conversations with our sons and daughters so that we understand what's happening. So as much as we can and we are setting our expectations for how we want them to live their lives and those conversations matter, not only in that K-12 period, but when they go to college. Mounds of evidence that the parental influence in college matters. And so to go back to your question, what should we as parents of college students be saying? We should know the organizations they are joining. We should be asking what's going on in those organizations in a caring way. Because we all know as parents and said if we're just going, what's happening? What's happening? That's when they shut down, right? But we should be curious. We should, just like in high school, we want to know who their friends are. You should know who their friends are in college. Who are they hanging out with? From a fraternal perspective, is there alumni involvement in the chapter? And is that alumni, are those alumni 23 and 24 or those alumni 40, 35, 40? And I would argue that the 35, 40 matters, right? Because those are people who have said my fraternity experience was important enough to me that I want to see that you will have a good experience. 23, 24, those are kids still hanging around college, that's different. And so those are the types of things I think that you need to be as a parent thinking about in setting your expectations. So I'll go back to my daughter's summer camp experience. When she told me what happened at summer camp, we talked about the concept of rites of passage. Those aren't the words I used, but we talked about those concepts and I also talked with her about how those things can go wrong and that she, as she got, as she became older, she had a responsibility to know the difference. Susan: So let's talk about the difference, because I also think that some rite of passages, like a Bar Mitzvah, are beautiful rites of passages. Or I remember attending Kristina's daughter's communion party. I mean, religious rites of passages are part of growing up. Same with joining a team and paying your dues and then finally being this senior. How do you educate younger children what's fun rites of passage and just paying your dues versus hazing. Is it alcohol? Is that the differentiator or is it something that makes you nervous or scared? What's the line? Dr. Wiese: I think that's an excellent question. Not one that I'm sure I can answer well. As a college administrator, as a former college administrator, as someone who works with these issues, I would have to say, it's not okay, right? That's what a college administrator will always say. There is no line, there's nowhere that it's okay. And the parallel I want to draw is to underage drinking. And I can think of a phone call I received one time from a parent who said to me, you know, Dean, that it is safer for a college student to drink in a controlled environment. And you know, they're going to drink anyway. Why are you, Dean, the obstacle? And my answer was, I'm not the obstacle, we have a law. And it's not my law, this is state law. And so college administrators, fraternal administrators, they are bound by laws. And so they're never going to say underage drinking is okay or hazing is okay. What they're, what colleges and universities do, what fraternal organizations do is they try to offer alternatives to knowing that we're in the middle of a really complex situation and that rites of passage occur. So I'll start by that's my huge disclaimer to say, I will never say it's okay, right? And as a parent- Susan: And neither will we by the way. Dr. Wiese: Oh, I know, right? Susan: Kristina and I would never say hazing goes okay. And we would never endorse, I'm actually, we are both hard line about underage drinking. We know it happens, but we always say bad things happen when you drink too much, period. The end. Dr. Wiese: And I appreciate that qualifier. What I heard you say was bad things happen when you drink too much. Not, and I'm not critiquing what you said, I'm agreeing with what you said, not bad things happen when you drink, right? And I think in our society we've become kind of polarizing in how we talk about these things. So as a parent, I was never one to say, bad things happen when you drink. I was one to say, bad things happen when you drink too much, as it related to. And there are consequences, daughter, that you will face because even if your social drinking is not out of line, it still may be against law or it still may be against college policy. So you still may face some consequences. Same thing when it goes to hazing, right? That what I'm, the kind of conversation I'm going to have that I would have, that I did have with my own daughter is hazing bad, hazing negative, hazing very hurt, could be very hurtful, can be very dangerous. If you were involved in anything like that, you can face some serious repercussions or others can. And that's what's- Susan: I think we're doing is we're mixing our discussion. Hazing is not just a rite of passage, Dr. Wiese: Correct. Susan: With hazing there is coercion. With hazing there is potentially asking somebody to violate the law or school policy. With hazing there is pressure. A rite of passage is joy and love, support. Dr. Wiese: Yeah. And while I can agree with you on that right now, we're kind of getting into this anthropological discussion, right? The problem is rites of passage can still be considered hazing. And that's why things can get so muddy going through college procedures, going through legal procedures. Kristina: So I have a question. I'm a parent with my senior in high school. We're doing college tours in the fall and my son or daughter, frankly, it doesn't matter says, oh my gosh, I love this school, this feels like home, I want to go here. But I'm thinking, oh gosh, I read a couple articles in the newspaper last month. Do I really want my child going here? How can parents learn more about campus culture? What sort of, I don't know, digging or investigation can parents do when their child is at the point of choosing where they're going to go to college? Like how can parents become better educated to help their children make good choices? Susan: Yeah, that's a really insightful question. Dr. Wiese: I think it's a fabulous question. And really what I'd say is this really does come back to that, that relationship that parents have with their students in high school. What were their students' behaviors like in high school? Who your student is, is who your student will most likely be when they go to college, right? And so was your student experimenting with drugs in high school? Guess what? They're going to experiment with drugs or even accelerate that when they go to college- Kristina: Susan and I say it all the time, you know your kid, they came to you and be honest, you know who your kid is. Dr. Wiese: Right. And that goes, that's why parental expectations are so, so important. And you all have worked on a number of cases and I've worked on a number of cases where we look back at those high school behaviors and then what unfolds in college. It tends to not be surprising that what was happening in high school accelerates in college. And I'll give you an example of a story. I have a close friend, now an adult, and he was not planning on joining a fraternity. Very, very, very protective mom. He told me the story. Very protective mom. And her son was kind of a golden boy kind of thing, right? Great, great grand hopes for the son. And he went on to, he went on to college and wanted to join a fraternity. Mom, dead opposed. And mom ultimately had a discussion with the person who would be his big brother in the fraternity. And she confronted him and said, is my son going to drink in college? I don't want him drinking. And his reply was, “Ma'am, will your son drink in college? Probably. Will I, as his big brother, have his back and make sure he's safe? Yes, I will.” That is what every parent should be seeking and trusting your son or daughter enough to make the best decisions, the decisions you tell them, you expect them to make. If you don't trust your son or a daughter to make good decisions in college, then they're probably not ready to go to college. Susan: Wow. That's a really hard statement. I think that I tend to agree with you, but I also know situations of kids who never rebelled or didn't drink in high school and they go to college and they do feel pressure and they succumb to that pressure. So I agree that we all need to be vigilant and guarding against hazing. I think that hopefully Collins's Law will be a deterrent. But on the other hand, it always goes back to empowering our children while they are under our roof, to be able to be strong and to not pressure others. Dr. Wiese: Absolutely. Susan: We don't talk about that enough. Do we have conversations to tell our kids, I don't want you pressuring someone else? Dr. Wiese: Yes. Kristina: I just have one final question I have to ask, given that you have over to 20 years of experience working in higher ed. Susan and I, on almost a daily basis, are talking to parents who are at probably one of their lowest points. They have a child in crisis. And it's this struggle of are things going to get better? Do I leave my child on campus? Or do I pull the plug and bring them home and risk having non-consecutive semesters in college? Or what's it going to do to the transcripts? So on and so forth. Do you have any thoughts or advice for parents who are wrestling with, do I bring my kid home or things going to get better? Dr. Wiese: I mean I would say all of these are kind of case by case situations, right? And Susan, I also appreciate your point that accidents still happen, right? People can do all the right things and accident still happen and those are tragic and horrific and we have to work through those. So, yes, I want to agree with you there. In terms of taking a student out of a difficult situation, I think it's very much case by case, but I think at 20 years old, the idea of switching colleges seems like a horrific thing; it's not. In the grand scheme of things, it's not. I've worked with so many students and families in crisis. And if a student is having a horrible, a horrible situation on their campus and they can take a break and work a job and go back to that campus or go back, go to a different campus and start over, there's nothing, there's nothing. I mean, those kinds of things happen all the time. And so, I would say if you're, I think very much case by case, but if you have a miserable student who's just suffering through, there's no reason for that, take a break or transfer. Students do it all the time. Susan: It's like the adult timeout. Dr. Wiese: That's right. That's right. Susan: It's a privilege to be able to take a timeout. I was thinking about that as someone who's an adult, we don't get timeouts. This is the last chance that if you need to reorganize, take a deep breath, move home, someone else is paying your bills and maybe making your meals and you can regroup, nothing wrong with that. Dr. Wiese: Right. And there's more than one good college. And, I think we get so, so wrapped up in, oh, if I leave here, it'll never be the same. I need to get back to where it was. Well, if you're in a crisis situation, you're never going to get back to where it was not, not exactly. And so if things aren't going well, it's okay to explore those options. If you think you can recover it? Awesome, you learn and you grow. Kristina: Dr. Wiese, these were excellent, excellent thoughts and advice and just information you've shared today. We're so pleased you were able to join us. 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