Podcast appearances and mentions of kathy steele

This episode, "Compassionate Curiosity," features Kathy Steele, famed co-author of The Haunted Self, advocating for a collaborative therapeutic model in resolving severe traumatization, in which attachment phobias are addressed by giving the client (perhaps "gifting" the client) responsibility in treatment. In this manner, the client begins to experience authentic relationship, rather than the therapist supporting maladaptive coping by becoming either a rescuer or an expert (or both). Ms. Steele is a Past President and Fellow of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD), and has also served two terms on the Board of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies (ISTSS). She has received a number of awards for her work, including the Lifetime Achievement Award from ISSTD, an Emory University Distinguished Alumni Award, and the Cornelia B. Wilbur Award for Outstanding Clinical Contributions from ISSTD. Publications include The Haunted Self (co-author), Treating Trauma-Related Dissociation (first author), and many book chapters. Highlights include: -How therapists facilitate dependency by reinforcing attachment phobias-Polyvagal theory and the collaborative approach -The wisdom of prioritizing relationship over knowing "what's going on"-The importance of the client having a persistent "felt sense" of the therapeutic relationship, rather than having unlimited therapist availability and poor boundaries -Curiosity as a tool for making resistance and relationship rupture the most important moments in treatment-Sharing confusion with the client about treatment direction, to drive collaborative treatment an activate the client's exploration system -Psychoeducational discussion as an underrated toolLook for Ms. Steele's online trainings, resources, books, and consultation groups at kathy-steele.com. In future (as in past) episodes, guests will offer counterpoints to Ms. Steele's views, and this video is a dialogue, rather than an endorsement of her perspective. Likewise, The Dissociative Table does not endorse the views of its hosts, nor do any professional organizations to which the hosts might belong. Join the discussion of this episode and others at the anonymous, free, clinicians-only discussion board by emailing dissociativetable@gmail.com. The music in this episode is taken from the song "Low Winter Sun," from Cracked Machine's album Gates of Keras. The band has generously donated rights to their music in support of increased global access to effective trauma treatment. Stream or download at:https://crackedmachine.bandcamp.com/

Welcome back to another episode of Crawfordsville Connection! This week we are joined by Kathy Steele, Wendy Myers, and Brittany Cooper to discuss the upcoming League of Women Voters Panel Event: "Teaching Our Children to Read". This event will be held on Tuesday, April 16 at 6:00PM in the Crawfordsville High School Commons Area.  Listen to learn more about the Science of Reading, how schools are helping improve literacy development, as well as how parents can help their children at home! Yodel Community Calendar: https://events.yodel.today/crawfordsville  To ask any questions about this podcast or to submit topic ideas, please email Sarah Sommer at ssommer@crawfordsville-in.gov 

Disassociation comes in different forms and affects people in different ways. Our guest, Kathy Steele, has been treating people suffering from disassociation since the 1980s.Kathy is a Past President and Fellow of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD), and has also served on the Board of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies (ISTSS). She even helped develop treatment guidelines for Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder.Her vast work has earned her a number of awards, and has led to her becoming a sought-after consultant, supervisor, and international lecturer on topics related to trauma, dissociation, attachment, and psychotherapy. Kathy shares her humor, compassion, and vast experience with us in this episode.Resources:https://www.kathy-steele.com/For full transcript: https://howwecanheal.com/podcast/This episode was produced by Bright Sighted Podcasting.

On today's episode podcast I am releasing one of the past most listened to episode. Podcast host Monique Koven is talking to trauma expert Kathy Steele about Trauma-Related Dissociation. Kathy Steel is a psychotherapist, consultant, trainer and author. She has co authored numerous books including Coping With Trauma- related Dissociation: Skills For Training Patients and Therapists & Treating Trauma - Related Dissociation. https://www.Kathy-steele.com www.isst-d.org Thank you to sponsor Tyndale House Publishers. Strong Like Water https://aundikolber.com/strong-like-water/?utm_source=healingtrauma&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=stronglikewater&utm_id=stronglikewater Meet with Monique www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com

Summary  In this episode, Dr. Peter reviews the limitations of current Catholic resources on anger, and then reviews secular resources, including interpersonal neurobiology and the structural theory of dissociation.  We examine the role of the body in anger responses, and discuss more wholistic ways of working constructive with parts that experience anger, rather than trying to dismiss anger, suppress it or distract from it.   Lead-in William Blake, A Poison Tree: I was angry with my friends; I told my wrath, my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe: I told it not, my wrath did grow.  We've all experienced anger and we've all experienced angry people  We know it's a problem.  And global data suggest that it's getting worse.   Gallup world poll from 2021: 140 countries  Did you experience the following feelings during a lot of the day yesterday? How about anger?  17% of US respondents agreed 26% of women worldwide up from 20% from 10 years ago  20% of men -- flat from 10 years ago.   Harm can come from anger Mark Twain “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”  CCC 2302  By recalling the commandment, "You shall not kill," our Lord asked for peace of heart and denounced murderous anger and hatred as immoral. Anger is a desire for revenge. "To desire vengeance in order to do evil to someone who should be punished is illicit," but it is praiseworthy to impose restitution "to correct vices and maintain justice." If anger reaches the point of a deliberate desire to kill or seriously wound a neighbor, it is gravely against charity; it is a mortal sin. The Lord says, "Everyone who is angry with his brother shall be liable to judgment."   "Everyone who is angry with his brother shall be liable to judgment."  And who hasn't been angry -- including Jesus himself?.  We have got to unpack this There is so much misunderstanding about anger in the Catholic world, so much of the way that Catholics have approached anger has been limited, misinformed, and misguided When I think about why the Catholic Church in the US, in Canada, in Europe and Australia, in the entire Western World, there are many factors.   Brandon Vogt  New Stats on Why Young People Leave the Church  based on his book Return:  How to Draw Your Child Back to the Church One critical factor is that cradle Catholics, especially young Catholics do not believe that the Church can help them with their problems.  Diocese of Springfield Exit Surveys (2014)  68% – Spiritual needs not met67% – Lost interest over time Only 7% of Millennials raised Catholic still actively practice their faith today (weekly Mass, pray a few times each week, say their faith is “extremely” or “very” important) 6.5 people leave the Catholic Church for every one that joins 66% of “nones” agree that “religion causes more problems than it solves” That's why so many fall away from the Faith.  The Church doesn't seem relevant to them because she doesn't seem like she has the answers to the real issues they face. 10% of American adults are former Catholics Nearly half of those who fall away from the Church become "nones"  And another quarter become Evangelical Christians.   79% of former Catholics leave the Church before age 23.   50% of Millennials raised Catholic no longer identify as Catholic today  And it's about topics like anger -- we are not doing a good job meeting the needs that Catholics have today, human formation needs.   Intro I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, a.k.a. Dr. Peter, clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, podcaster, blogger, cofounder and president of Souls and Hearts -- but most of all I am a beloved little son of God, a passionate Catholic who wants to help you to taste and see the height and depth and breadth and warmth and the light of the love of God, especially God the Father and  Mary our Mother, our spiritual parents, our primary parents.  To really absorb your identity as a little child of God and Mary.   I want you to enter much more deeply into an intimate, personal, loving relationship with the three Persons of the Trinity and with our Lady. That is what this Interior Integration for Catholics podcast is all about, that is what Souls and Hearts is all about – all about shoring up the natural foundation for the spiritual life of intimacy with God, all about overcoming the natural human formation deficits and obstacles to contemplative union with God our Father and our Lady, our Mother  We are on an adventure of love together. And one thing, one major, big, huge thing that gets in the way of being loved by God and Mary and loving in return is anger.  Anger.   This is Episode 103 of Interior Integration for Catholics.  Interior Integration for Catholics is part of Souls and Hearts, our online outreach, check us out at soulsandhearts.com.   Anger: one of the seven deadly sins, one the lethal vices that can kill your soul.  Anger.   So much confusion about anger.  The Burden of Anger:  June 10, 2021 Catholic-daily-reflections.com The first level of sin is simply to be “angry” interiorly. The sin of anger is an interior attitude of disgust toward another. Jesus says that the consequence of having anger toward another is that you will be “liable to judgment.” Humility.  I could be wrong.    The offerings from Five Catholic writers on anger are a case in point.   The most popular book Fr. T.G. Morrow, Overcoming Sinful Anger  303 Amazon Review, mostly positive, #16  on the list of bestsellers in Catholic Theology, put out by Sophia Press in 2015 And it's not very good.  I can't recommend it.   First off, Fr. Morrow admits that he doesn't understand why people get angry We've all encountered people who explode when they feel angry. It baffles me how often the sort of anger rears its ugly head in marriages – even in allegedly Christian marriages. (p. 9).   I am often surprised to discover Christians who pray ardently, receive the sacraments regularly, we've and attend Mass daily, and yet have an anger problem. (p. 10) Presumes a homogeneous, single personality.   Easy to explain with part.   Why do people explode in anger? There are many reasons, but I think the top three are power and control, a refusal to take responsibility, and habit. (p. 13). Very simplistic view of psychology, and no consideration of neurology, traumatology,  Confusion about the causal chain in anger.  Where anger fits in a sequence of events  Little genuine interest in anger.  Anger is something to essentially get rid of.   Not much consideration of the unconscious and unconscious anger.  Acknowledges that suppressing anger is problematic, but there still is an assumption that if I'm not feeling anger, it's not there.  Disconnect.   "Irrational anger"   Very focused on the will and will training -- naïve assumptions about sympathetic arousal. Nike Spirituality -- Just do it.   Romans 7:15:  I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.   Spiritual Bypassing  Definitions John Welwood: American clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, teacher, and author, known for integrating psychological and spiritual concepts  Using “spiritual ideas, words and practices to sidestep or avoid personal, emotional ‘unfinished business,' to shore up a shaky sense of self, or to belittle basic needs, feelings, psychological wounds and developmental tasks.”  Blogger Rose Hahn:  Spiritual Bypassing: What It Is & How To Avoid It  Bypassing occurs when spiritual ideals get elevated to the realm of absolute truth in such a way that our real, lived experience is somehow denied. Rather than doing the work of healing deep wounds, we may use these ideals to deny, devalue, or avoid meeting our more human needs – such as emotional bonding, love, and esteem. In other words, rather than risk opening ourselves to real human connection, and possibly get hurt, we adopt a more enlightened, spiritual way of relating to the world that doesn't rely on human relationship.  Not a lot from a specifically Catholic perspective, but this is from Katharina, who styles herself "The Bohemian Catholic" We are supposed to uplift each other, and treat each other with love and respect - like icons of Christ, as God's creation… BUT if you find yourself trying to tell someone that their faith should keep them "happy" all the time, then you aren't helping them.  Using spiritual words, spiritual means, spiritual concepts -- all to whitewash or put a Band-Aid on significant psychological or emotional problems in the natural realm  Bypassing the natural realm and going to the spiritual realm.   Essentially saying -- You should not feel this way.  Which is what Fr. Morrow is saying.  He promises to "I will offer some ideas, which I consider quite novel, on how to avoid angry explosions." (p.4) Tips So, as a first step in overcoming passive-aggressive anger keep reminding yourself that you want to be a Christian, and therefore you can't take revenge anymore. (p. 9).  First, take the time to calm down and figure out why you're angry…. One of the tactics often recommended is to count to ten before deciding what to do. (p. 20).  Better still, say a short prayer before acting. The next step is to ask yourself if your angry feeling is been caused by something significant. Most angry fights in marriage are caused by trifling things. (p. 20).  Or perhaps use humor to make your point.(p. 20).  Offering your angry feeling as a sacrifice is not suppressing it but doing something with it. It is making a bad situation into a beneficial one. That is what it means to embrace the cross. (p. 23-24).  If we can forgive others, we can pull the rug out from beneath our anger most of the time. Unforgiveness is the main culprit behind anger. (p. 25).  … Refocus your thoughts away from the things that made you angry to some very positive thoughts. For example, thank God for the beautiful weather for the ability to read or buy things you need. (p. 30).  I often encourage people with an anger problem to daily for humility. It works. (p. 36).  Chapter 7: Thanking God, praising God  Consider your future. One key way to change her behaviors to work on in your mind just what your life will be like if you don't change your angry behavior. (pp. 72-73)  If you struggle with an anger problem write on an index card all the negatives of continuing your anger and read that list several times a day. (p. 74).   Fr. Joseph Esper, Saintly Solutions to Life's Common Problems  99 reviews on amazon.  #138 in Roman Catholicism.  2001 Book -- First Chapter is on anger.   St. Thomas of Villanova: "Dismiss all anger and look into yourself a little." (p. 7) "St. Francis de Sales advises that, to avoid the sin of anger, you must quickly ask God to give peace to your heart when you're angered and then turn your thoughts to something else. Don't discuss the matter at hand or make decisions or correct other person while you're angry. When a person angers you, St. Francis advises, consider the person's good qualities rather than the words or actions you find objectionable." (p. 7) When we have to speak to someone with whom we are angry, we should first pray for the Lord's guidance and help. It's often more effective to speak in terms of asking favors, rather than making demands or giving orders…" (p. 5-6) ...rehearse possible responses and evaluate which ones which might help you. (p. 7) Tommy Tighe St. Dymphna's Playbook: A Catholic Guide to Finding Mental and Emotional Well-Being 2021 book,  #57 in Christian Pastoral Counseling, 66 reviews, mostly positive.   Doesn't discuss anger.  Discusses irritability as a symptom of depression and resentment as a problem in relationships "However, the more I have experienced depression in my own life and in my work as a clinician, the more I have seen the symptoms of irritability and anger is predominant features of depression." (p. 13).  That's one way, not the only way.   So often depression results from  Recommendations "…go for a walk, take some time to meditate, watch or read something that lightens our mood. (p. 13)  "Keeping a diary of our emotions and reactions to those emotions is a great place to start… Look back on a situation, slow it down, and examine what exactly happened….We might ask ourselves: What is it that has led to my irritability? Is it because I'm depressed and trying to stuff that feeling down rather than address it? What am I thinking in that situation? (p. 15).  "We draw this all out on paper, examine what was really behind our emotional response, and then explore ways of thinking that will restructure our reactions and response. And we write these down! Simply thinking about these things isn't going to help. The whole point is to get them out of our head and onto paper so that we can work them out. Consider it an emotional "show your work" kind of exercise." (p. 15).  Then, after a really brief introspective process, we can catch that the real reason for our irritability is our depressed mood, and we can interject coping skills for depression to stave off our irritability. (p. 16).  Changing the focus of our thinking is key when we try to battle against depression and irritability that inevitably rears its ugly head. You've probably heard people suggest keeping a gratitude list to help you feel more positive, much along the same lines as St. Paul's advice. It works. (p. 18).   Steps in the process Visualize yourself from the perspective of compassionate observer.  Notice from the outside whole feelings xare upsetting you and how they are reflected in your appearance.  Try to let the warm feeling of compassion and desire to help arise within you.  Say to yourself: "It is understandable that you feel that way. You are experiencing a natural response to depressing thoughts. But I'm going to help you."  Visualize putting your hand on your shoulder or hugging yourself to soothe and comfort yourself. Give yourself a friendly smile.  Think about if there are other things you want to tell yourself that would energize and encourage you to cheer up.  Taking time to say those things. When you feel it is appropriate, begin saying goodbye to yourself and remind yourself that you come back anytime you want. (p. 16-17). For resentment: Active listening  Tommy Tighe: to fend off resentment, we have to communicate with things are important to us and why. We can't expect our partner to read her mind. We have to tell them the things we value, what things we have grown to expect in relationships because of our past experiences and we have to tell them why. (p 113)   Rhonda Chevrin Taming the Lion Within: 5 Steps from Anger to Peace 2017  16 ratings  is a Catholic author, international speaker and Professor of Philosophy. She is the author of over 60 books concerning the matters of Catholic thought, practice and spirituality,  Take a secure thought -- use your imagination to think of ways out of annoying or enraging situations   Avoid exceptionality.  Accept the averageMove your musclesHumor is your best friendF.I.S.T.  Feelings, Impulses, Sensations, Thoughts:  What it signifies is that we can control our immediate impulses and sensations when hurt or frustrated, but if we control our thoughts we can control her impulses.Put your mental health firstPeace over power:  Many times you can't win, and it doesn't matter if you lose.  It's not worth the effort to put up a fight.  They are not doing it to you; they're just doing it! – Much is not done on purposeNot a 911  Not everything is an emergency,.Be Group minded Anger at GodForgiveness  Fr. Spitzer Angry with God? Here's Fr. Spitzer's Advice on How to Overcome Anger God understands your anger.  Don't dwell on it.  Don't go there.   Choose instead to: Three step process in the YouTube clip Angry with God:   Stop comparing to the way you once were.   Stop comparing yourself to others.   Stop having expectations for your suffering.   Offer it up.  Stop the questioning.   Saints' behaviors  Meg Hunter-Kilmer - published on 09/28/17Aleteia September 28, 2017, What We Probably Don't Know about St. Jerome Is Just What We Need to Know St. Jerome was known to carry around a stone that he would hit himself with every time he lost his temper.     If these are helpful to you, great.  I don't want to put up roadblocks.  Might be helpful to many people.   As a Catholic psychologist, I am not comfortable recommending any of these Catholic sources Very simplistic view of psychology, and no consideration of neurology, traumatology,  Confusion about the causal chain in anger.  Where anger fits in a sequence of events  Little genuine interest in anger.  Anger is something to essentially get rid of.   Very focused on the will and will training -- naïve assumptions about sympathetic arousal.  And they don't get that anger has a protective function -- to protect us against shame.  Not one of those sources connects anger to shame.  And that's the primary connection we need to understand if we want to resolve anger, not just try to shoo it away.   What are we talking about when we discuss anger -- let's get into definitions of Anger Focused on vengeance secondary to a desire -- more than an emotion.   Written discussions of anger in the western canon go back as far as fourth-century BC in Greece when the philosopher Aristotle (384-322 B.C.) argued that anger is a rational and natural reaction to being offended and thus is closely associated with reason. In the Rhetoric (1991, p. 1380) he defined anger as “a belief that we, or our friends, have been unfairly slighted, which causes in us both painful feelings and a desire or impulse for revenge.” 1907 Catholic Encyclopedia:  Anger:  The desire of vengeance. Its ethical rating depends upon the quality of the vengeance and the quantity of the passion. When these are in conformity with the prescriptions of balanced reason, anger is not a sin. It is rather a praiseworthy thing and justifiable with a proper zeal. It becomes sinful when it is sought to wreak vengeance upon one who has not deserved it, or to a greater extent than it has been deserved, or in conflict with the dispositions of law, or from an improper motive. The sin is then in a general sense mortal as being opposed to justice and charity. It may, however, be venial because the punishment aimed at is but a trifling one or because of lack of full deliberation.  Likewise, anger is sinful when there is an undue vehemence in the passion itself, whether inwardly or outwardly. Ordinarily it is then accounted a venial sin unless the excess be so great as to go counter seriously to the love of God or of one's neighbor.   CCC 2302  By recalling the commandment, "You shall not kill," our Lord asked for peace of heart and denounced murderous anger and hatred as immoral. Anger is a desire for revenge. "To desire vengeance in order to do evil to someone who should be punished is illicit," but it is praiseworthy to impose restitution "to correct vices and maintain justice." If anger reaches the point of a deliberate desire to kill or seriously wound a neighbor, it is gravely against charity; it is a mortal sin. The Lord says, "Everyone who is angry with his brother shall be liable to judgment."  Contradiction that aggression (or vengeance) and anger have to go together  Lot of research to tease about anger and aggression: Ephesians 4:26:  Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger   APA Dictionary of Psychology: an emotion characterized by tension and hostility arising from frustration, real or imagined injury by another, or perceived injustice. It can manifest itself in behaviors designed to remove the object of the anger (e.g., determined action) or behaviors designed merely to express the emotion (e.g., swearing). Anger is distinct from, but a significant activator of, aggression, which is behavior intended to harm someone or something. Despite their mutually influential relationship, anger is neither necessary nor sufficient for aggression to occur.  Psychologist Paul Ekman. (1999). Basic emotions. In T. Dalgleish & M. J. Power (Eds.), Handbook of cognition and emotion (pp. 45–60). John Wiley & Sons Ltd  Due to its distinct and widely recognizable pattern of face expression, anger has always been included in the repertoire of basic emotions.   Benefits of Anger  Farzaneh Pahlavan Multiple Facets of Anger: Getting Mad or Restoring Justice?  Chapter 3:  The Neurobiology of RAGE and Anger & Psychiatric Implications with a Focus on Depression Daniel J. Guerra1, Valentina Colonnello and Jaak Panksepp As a basic emotion, anger emerges early in life and has a unique adaptive function in motivating, organizing, and regulating behavior. No other emotion can match the consistency and vigor of anger in mobilizing high-level energy and sustaining goal-directed activity. Anger serves a variety of regulatory functions in physiological and psychological processes related to self-defense as well as to interpersonal and societal behaviors. Through socialization processes, it plays an important role in the development of personality and individual differences in responding to environmental challenges, which can be more or less adaptive.  (p. v).   Aristotle:  Aristotle: Nichomachean Ethics: It is easy to fly into a passion – anybody can do that – but to be angry with the right person into the right extent and at the right time and with the right object in the right way – that is not easy, and it is not everyone who can do it  In themselves passions are neither good nor evil. They are morally qualified only to the extent that they effectively engage reason and will….It belongs to the perfection of the moral or human good that the passions be governed by reason. CCC 1767  CCMMP: Catholic-Christian Meta-Model of the Person  DMU Paul Vitz, William Nordling, Paul Craig Titus.    p. (294)  to remain in the virtuous middle ground requires being disposed to a righteous anger that will stand up to injustice, and use a good measure of anger in ways that are corrective of the evil, preventive of further injustice, and indicative of a balance to mean between extremes. Emotions are good when, as reactions antecedent to reasoning, they make us conscious of reality and prepare us for a more complete reaction and moral action. Emotion and choice then serve moral flourishing (e.g., when we have an appropriate spontaneous reaction of anger at injustice). Second, emotions are good as felt reactions that also follow the intellectual evaluation of the situation. Emotions can be expressive of rational decisions. Emotions can thus participate in our life of reason and will (Gondreau, 2013). For example, when we choose to rectify and injustice, a balanced expression of anger can help us to act decisively will being restrained enough that we do not overreact. Through a righteous or just expression of anger, we entered rectify injustice, will finding a just and rational mean between excessively weak or exceedingly strong emotional displays. (p. 650). Emotions are viewed as informing people about their cares and concerns. To prepare the body for action, directing our thoughts to ways that will appropriately address the issues at hand. They can signal and manipulate other people in ways that suit the person's emotional needs (Parrott, 2001). Being disconnected from emotional experience, therefore, means being cut off from adaptive information (Pos et al., 2003). (pp. 650-651). Digression into justification of secular sources Question may arise, "OK, Dr. Peter, as you already noted, anger has been recognized for a long time, going all the way back to Aristotle and way before that in Sacred Scripture.  You emphasize that you are a Catholic psychologist, so why are you even looking at these secular sources like the American Psychological Association? There is a lot about anger in Scripture, in the Church Fathers and the saints about anger in the spiritual life.   Discalced Carmelite Abbott Marc Foley in his excellent book The Context of Holiness: Psychological and Spiritual Reflections on the Life of St. Therese of Lisieux "One…misconception is that the spiritual life is an encapsulated sphere, cloistered from the realities of daily living….we have only one life composed of various dimensions.  Our emotional life, intellectual life, social life, work life, sex life, spiritual life are simple ways of speaking of the different facets of our one life.  (p. 1).  We have one life.  One life.  We don't have a spiritual life that is separate from our emotional life.  We have one life.  If we are angry, that affects our whole life.   The Church herself encourages us to look to all branches of knowledge and glean what is best from them in order to live our one life better.  From the CCC, paragraph 159  "Though faith is above reason, there can never be any real discrepancy between faith and reason. Since the same God who reveals mysteries and infuses faith has bestowed the light of reason on the human mind, God cannot deny himself, nor can truth ever contradict truth." "Consequently, methodical research in all branches of knowledge, provided it is carried out in a truly scientific manner and does not override moral laws, can never conflict with the faith, because the things of the world and the things of faith derive from the same God. The humble and persevering investigator of the secrets of nature is being led, as it were, by the hand of God in spite of himself, for it is God, the conserver of all things, who made them what they are." And from the Vatican II document, the Pastoral Constitution of the Church in the Modern World, paragraph 62 reads:  In pastoral care, sufficient use must be made not only of theological principles, but also of the findings of the secular sciences, especially of psychology and sociology, so that the faithful may be brought to a more adequate and mature life of faith. Remember that we are embodied beings -- we are composites of a soul and a body. The 17th Century Philosopher Rene Descartes' popularized what is called mind-body dualism.  Mind-body dualism is the idea that the body and the mind operate in separate spheres, and neither can be assimilated into the other.  And that is false.  Demonstrably false in a lot of ways, be we so often assume it to be true.  We have one life.   In the last several years we are realizing just how much of our mental life and our psychological well-being is linked in various ways to our neurobiology -- the ways that our nervous systems function.  And the relationship between our embodied brain and our minds is reciprocal -- each affects the other in complex ways that we are just beginning to understand.  In other words, brain chemistry affects our emotional states.  And our emotional states and our behaviors affect brain chemistry.  It's not just our minds and it's not just our bodies and it's not just our souls -- it's all of those, all of what makes me who I am, body, mind, soul, spirit, all of it.   And since Scripture, the Early Church Fathers, the Catechism and so on are silent on neurobiology, neurochemistry, neurophysiology and so many other areas that impact our minds and our well-being, as a Catholic psychologist I am going to look elsewhere, I'm going to look into secular sources.  I just don't think it's reasonable to expect the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops or the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith in the Vatican to be experts in these areas -- it's not their calling, it's not their expertise.  St. John of the Cross in his  Prologue of Ascent of Mt. Carmel: "I will not rely on experience or science…[but] I will not neglect whatever possible use I can make of them.  Fr. Marc Foley, OCD : The Context of Holiness:  As St. Thomas wrote of St. Augustine's use of Platonic philosophy in the Summa: "whenever Augustine, who was imbued with the doctrines of the Platonists, found in their teaching anything consistent with the faith, he adopted it and those things which he found contrary to the faith he amended." (ST I, q. 84,a. 5) p.4 And St. Thomas himself drew on so much of Aristotle's thought in his writings, bringing it into his body of work.   Abbot Marc Foley.  In short, we should never swallow the school of thought whole; we should sift the wheat from the chaff, separate truth from falsehood. p.4 We want the best from all sources.   Emphasis on biological processes:   From Heidi Crockett Anger Management with Interpersonal Neurobiology  Discussed Interpersonal Neurobiology at length in  Episode 92 of this podcast Understanding and Healing your Mind through IPNB In interpersonal neurobiology, anger as an emotion is viewed from the perspective of cognitive neuroscience. And cognitive neuroscience states that cognition and emotion are dynamically combined with physical arousal. When anger is induced as an emotion in humans, it can unconsciously affect physiological and neural resources. Affective states of anger are subsequently expressed in the brain as well as the body, and these neural and physiological changes can influence the cognitive processes. Many studies and resources have been expended on studying the emotions of happiness, sadness, and fear, which align with psychopathological states of hypomania, depression, and anxiety. Kathy Steele, Suzette Boon, Onno van der Hart:  Treating Trauma-Related Dissociation: A Practical, Integrative Approach:  Anger is an affect to derived from activation of the sympathetic nervous system, geared to energize the body for maximum effort to fend off perceived danger. Psychologically, it protects from awareness of vulnerability and lack of control, and therefore from shame. And fight mode, we are all primed to perceive cues of danger rather than cues of safety and relational connection. In such a heightened state of arousal, it is easy to misunderstand the intentions of others. (p.332). Polyvagal theory and anger  A critical period for experience-dependent development of the feelings of safety during early infancy: A polyvagal perspective on anger and psychometric tools to assess perceived safety  Frontiers in Integrative Neuroscience July 2022 article   Andrea Poli, Angelo Gemignani, Carlo Chiorri and Mario Miccoli Brief primer here on some neurology.  Don't worry.  I will keep it simple.   Neurons are specialized cells that receive and send signals to other cells through fragile and thin cellular extensions called axons. Myelination:   a membrane or a sheath around the axons on neurons.   Myelinated axons often have a larger diameter Myelinated axons are insulated Myelination allows for much faster transmission of electric impulses Presence of safety during the critical period (first year of life).   Decreased unmyelinated/myelinated cardioinhibitory fibers ratio in adulthood Ventral Vagal complex is able to have a greater impact on reducing the Sympathetic Nervous System arousal -- decreasing anger  VVC is able to have a greater impact on reducing Dorsal Vagal Complex fear and shutdown responses -- the freeze response.   Greater capacity for self-regulation.   Absence of safety during the critical period  Increased unmyelinated/myelinated cardioinhibitory fibers ratio in adulthood Ventral Vagal complex has a lesser impact on reducing the Sympathetic Nervous System arousal -- less able to decrease sympathetic arousal, including anger  VVC has a lesser impact on reducing Dorsal Vagal Complex fear and shutdown responses -- less able to reduce the freeze response.   Less capacity for self-regulation.   Dampened VVC activity reduces the capacity of adaptive inhibition of SNS and DVC (Dorsal Vagal Complex), and emotional self-regulation. Hence, environmental detection of unsafety cues may preferentially trigger SNS-mediated anger in order to avoid DVC-mediated immobilization with fear. Young children exposed to five or more significant adverse experiences in the first three years of childhood face a 76% likelihood of having one or more delays in their language, emotional or brain development. (6) As the number of traumatic events experienced during childhood increases, the risk for the following health problems in adulthood increases: depression; alcoholism; drug abuse; suicide attempts; heart and liver diseases; pregnancy problems; high stress; uncontrollable anger; and family, financial, and job problems. (6) 7 ways childhood adversity changes a child's brain Donna Jackson Nakazawa Acestoohigh.com website September 8, 2016 Epigenetic Shifts  gene methylation, in which small chemical markers, or methyl groups, adhere to the genes involved in regulating our stress response, and prevent these genes from doing their jobs.  Size and Shape of the Brain stress releases a hormone that actually shrinks the size of the hippocampus, an area of our brain responsible for processing emotion and memory and managing stress.  Chronic neuroinflammation can lead to changes that reset the tone of the brain for life   Brain connectivity:  Dr. Ryan Herringa, neuropsychiatrist and assistant professor of child and adolescent psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin, found that children and teens who'd experienced chronic childhood adversity showed weaker neural connections between the prefrontal cortex and the hippocampus. Girls also displayed weaker connections between the prefrontal cortex and the amygdala. The prefrontal-cortex-amygdala relationship plays an essential role in determining how emotionally reactive we're likely to be to the things that happen to us in our day-to-day life, and how likely we are to perceive these events as stressful or dangerous. Including anger.   Wiring of the brain and nervous system matter -- they matter a lot Brain activation in anger  Distinct Brain Areas involved in Anger versus Punishment during Social Interactions  Olga M. Klimecki, David Sander & Patrik Vuilleumier Scientific Reports 2018. 25 men fMRI study anger induced in an in inequality game designed to be unfair.   In the present study, we found that the intensity of experienced anger when seeing the face of the unfair other was parametrically related to activations in amygdala, STS (superior temporal sulcus), and fusiform gyrus (related to facial recognition). The STS has been shown to produce strong responses when subjects perceive stimuli in research areas that facial recognition   Farzaneh Pahlavan Multiple Facets of Anger: Getting Mad or Restoring Justice?  Chapter 3:  The Neurobiology of RAGE and Anger & Psychiatric Implications with a Focus on Depression Daniel J. Guerra1, Valentina Colonnello and Jaak Panksepp Rage emerges when specific environmental stimuli arouse the neural circuitry of the RAGE system. Even if the anger-thoughts and the related expression are modulated and regulated by higher cortico-cognitive areas, the human basic circuitry of anger is still subcortical. Since the early description of rage in decorticated cats (Dusser De Barenne, 1920) and dogs (Rothmann, 1923) and their responses to inoffensive stimuli, it was clear that the rage expression is i) dependent on subcortical areas, i.e. the ancient regions play a crucial role more than the higher neocortical regions; ii) independent of an intact cortex. p. 11  Among the higher limbic regions of this network, the medial nucleus, the basal complex, and central and lateral nuclei of the amygdala play a key role in the modulation of RAGE.  p. 1   All this happens far away from the frontal cortex in the limbic system of your brain.   Kathy Steele, Suzette Boon, Onno van der Hart:  Treating Trauma-Related Dissociation: A Practical, Integrative Approach   Why of Chronic anger.   Anger is the primary emotion of the "fight" defense.  When (parts of) the patient become stuck in this defense, anger becomes chronic.  Thus, the first intervention is safety.  332 As long as a fight reaction remains unresolved, anger will remain chronic. (p.332).  Almost no one seems to understands that anger is a defense against fear and shame.  It's a way of trying to protect oneself.   There are several reasons that anger and hostility become chronic in dissociative patients. First, patients typically have been severely invalidated, ignored, heard, betrayed, and sometimes even tortured over extended periods of time, while helpless to stop it. In itself, this is enough to generate enormous rage in anyone as part of the naturally occurring fight defense. Second, as children, patients often had little to no help in learning how to regulate and appropriately express normal anger, much less how to cope with it. Often it was unacceptable for many patients to express any kind of anger as children, while the adults around them were uncontained and highly destructive with their anger. Others had no limit set on their angry behaviors. (p. 330). Angry dissociative parts are feared and avoided internally by most other parts, particularly those that function in daily life. After all, angry behaviors toward self and others may interfere with functioning in a variety of personal and social ways. An ongoing vicious cycle of rage and shame ensues internally: the more patients avoid their angry and destructive dissociative parts, the angry these parts become, and the more they shame other parts and are shamed by them. (p. 331). … Angry parts have a deep shame and are highly defended against the strong belief that they are very bad. Their defense is reinforced by the shame of patients that such parts of themselves even exist. These parts of the patient are terrified of attachment to the therapist and you the relationship is dangerous, mainly because they are afraid that the therapist will never accept them. (p. 331-332). Whether the anger is part of a fight response or not, it is often a secondary emotion that protects the patient from feelings of sadness, extreme powerlessness, shame, guilt, and loss. (p. 333).  (add grief) Parts of the patient that developed  controlling-punitive strategies will be angry with others to get what they need,  while those that have controlling-caregiving strategies will punish themselves for being angry or having needs. (p. 333).  This is often the case in hostile parts such as those of self-injure or encourage other parts to self-harm, prostitute themselves, abuse drugs or alcohol, or engage in other self-destructive behaviors. They are often stuck in destructive and harmful behaviors that are an "attack self" defense against shame. (p.333). Finally, the rage of the perpetrator is often an embodied experience from which patients cannot yet escape without sufficient realization and further integration. Some dissociative parts imitate perpetrators internally, repeating the family dynamics from the past with other parts in a rather literal way. (p.333). "Getting the anger out" is not really useful, as the problem is that the patient needs to learn how to effectively express anger verbally rather than physically, and in socially appropriate and contained ways, so the patient can be heard by others. It is less the fact that patients express anger, but how they do so and whether that expression allows him to remain grounded in the present, to retain important relationships, and to avoid being self-destructive. (p. 334). Expression of anger is not necessarily therapeutic in itself. It is how (parts of) the patient experience and express it that is important; whether it is within a window of tolerancex in a socially appropriate and safe. Therapist must learn when expression of anger is therapeutic and when containment of anger is more helpful. (p. 334). Working with anger an angry parts (p.335). Take the time to educate the patient as a whole about the functions of anger and angry parts. Although they may seem like "troublemakers," they can be understood as attempting to solve problems with ineffective or insufficient tools.  Encourage all parts of the patient understand, accept, and listen to angry parts, instead of avoiding them.  Make efforts to understand what provokes angry parts. There are many potential triggers.   Not direct quotes Do all parts feel the same way as the angry part?  If not, can those parts listen to and accept angry parts perspective?  Would the angry part be willing to listen to the other internal perspectives?  Invite other parts to watch and listen if possible.  Can set limits with the angry part  the angry part and all parts need to learn that healthy relationships do not include punishment, humiliation, or force  Use titration, helping the person experienced as a small amount of anger will remain grounded in the present   Parts and imitate a perpetrator often literally experience themselves in our experienced by other parts as the actual perpetrator. Thus they understandably induce fear and shame within a patient as a whole, and sometimes fearing the therapist. (p. 345). The functions of perpetrator-imitating parts are (1) protect the patient against threats of the perpetrator, which continue to be experienced as real in the present; (2) defend the patient against unbearable realizations of being helpless and powerless as a child, (3) re-enact traumatic memories from the perspective of the perpetrator, as mentalize by the child; (4) serve as a defense against shame through attacking the patient and avoiding inner experiences of shame; (5) provide an outlet for the patient's disowned sadistic and punitive tendencies; and (6) hold unbearable traumatic memories. (p. 346). Suzette Boon, Kathy Steele, Onno van der Hart 2011 book  Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists Destructive expressions of anger include persistent revenge fantasies or actions, hurting self or others, "taking it out" on innocent people (or animals), or destruction of property. (p. 265).  Dissociative parts of a person that are stuck in anger may experience this feeling as vehement and overwhelming, often without words. They may have irresistible urges to act aggressively and have great difficulty thinking and reflecting on their feelings before acting. Angry parts have not learned how to experience or express anger and helpful ways. There are two types of anger dissociative parts. The first are parts that are stuck in a defensive fight mode, ready to protect you. Their anger at original injustices may be legitimate and naturally accompanies a tendency to strike out and fight, which is an essential survival strategy. However, such parts have become stuck in anger, unable to experience much else. They rigidly perceived threat and ill-will everywhere and they react with anger and aggression as their only option of response. Although these parts of you may not yet realize it, anger is often a protection against vulnerable feelings of shame, fear, hurt, despair, powerlessness, and loss. The second type of angry part may seem very much like the original perpetrator. They imitate those who hurt them in the past, and they can be experienced internally as the actual perpetrator. This experience can be particularly frightening, disorienting, and shameful. But be assured this is a very common way of dealing with being traumatized. In fact, although these parts may have some similarities to those who hurt you, they also significant differences: they are parts of you as a whole person, who is trying to cope with unresolved traumatic experiences. (p. 267)   Tips for coping with anger (p, 269 to 271) recognize how to make distinctions among the many gradations of anger, from mild irritation to rage, so that you can intervene more rapidly.  Understand your tells around anger, which may include a tight or tense feeling in your body, clenched jaw's or fists, feeling flushed or shaky, breathing heavily, heart racing, a feeling of heat, a surge of energy.  Empathize with her angry parts, recognizing they have very limited coping skills, and very limited vision. They've been shunned by other parts, left alone with their hurt, fear, shame, in isolation. This does not mean you have to accept their impulses toward inappropriate behavior  Once you start feeling some compassion toward these parts you can begin to communicate with them, listening with an intention, with curiosity to understand what lies underneath the anger  Angry parts have a strength, that they could transferred to use and more positive ways  Become more curious about why anger is happening.  Try creative and healthy nonverbal ways of expressing your anger, such as writing, drawing, painting, making a collage  Physical exercise may help as an outlet for the physical energy generated by the physiology of anger  Work on understanding your anger, by reflecting on it, rather than just experiencing it, being immersed in it. You might imagine observing yourself from a distance, and getting curious about why you feel the way you do.  Give yourself a time-out, that is, walk away from the situation if you're getting too angry. Counseling to 10, or even 200 before you say or do something you might regret later.  Calm breathing may help  Listen to each part of you, about what might help that part with anger. You can have in her conversations with parts of yourself about anger and how to express it. Small and safe ways to express anger can be negotiated that are agreeable to all parts of you  Watch safe people in your life and seal they handle their own anger. Do they accept being angry? Are they are respectful and appropriate with her anger? Are there particular strategies that they use that you could practice for yourself?  Healthy anger can get positive strength and energy. It can help you be appropriately assertive, set clear boundaries, and confront wrongs in the world. Anger can pave the way to other emotions, leading to the resolution relational conflicts.  We learn the most common triggers of your anger. Once you learn these triggers, you can be more aware when they occur and more able to prevent an automatic reaction of anger. Establish intercommunication among parts of yourself to recognize triggers and negotiate possible helpful strategies to cope with them rather than just reacting.  You can try allowing yourself to experience just a small amount of anger from another part of yourself: a drop, a teaspoon, 1% or 2%. In exchange you can share with angry parts feelings of calm and safety.  Inner safe spaces can be very helpful for childlike parts that feel terrified   My parts Feisty Part-- defends against shame -- Melancholio.   Good Boy  Challenger  Creative-distracting me.   Closing Mark your calendars.  Next Live Experience of the IIC podcast will be on Friday, January 13, 2023 from 2:00 PM to 3:00 PM Eastern time on Zoom (repeat) -- All about Anger -- dealing with your anger.  Going beyond what books can do.  Experiential exercise.  Links to register have gone out in our emailed Wednesday Reflections.  Can get the link on the IIC landing page as well, SoulsandHearts.com/iic  December 28, 2022  Reflection at soulsandhearts.com/blog  From Rejecting to Embracing Aging Reach out to me Crisis@soulsandhearts.com  Conversation hours:  cell is 317.567.9594 conversation hours 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM Eastern Time Every Tuesday and Thursday.   Resilient Catholic Community -- you do not have to be alone.   Why a deep intimate personal relationship with God our Father, Mary our Mother -- spiritual parents   By claiming our identity as beloved daughters and sons of God the Father and Mary our Mother. Identity is freely given.   How By dealing with the natural level issues we have, the human formation issues we have that have spiritual consequences.  Grace perfects nature  So many spiritual problems have their roots in the natural realm, in human formation.   If this kind of exercise is helpful to you, we have nearly 100 of them in the Resilient Catholics Community.   120 Catholics like you already on board, already on the pilgrimage -- just had 47 apply for the December 2022 cohort, excited to get to know our new applicants.   Closed December 31 -- wait list should be up soon for the June 2023 Cohort.   Get to know your own parts Get to love your own parts If interested, contact me.   Crisis@soulsandhearts.com 317.567.9594 conversation hours 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM Eastern Time Every Tuesday and Thursday.    

In this special episode, Russell Hurn talks to Kathy Steele and Ana Gomez about trauma across the lifespan from an EMDR perspective. Kathy who works with adults and Ana who specialises in working with children are well known for their work with Complex PTSD, dissociation, and attachment disorders share examples of their work in advance of the EMDR UK 2022 conference in Cardiff. 

Dissociation is at the core of trauma. It serves as a survival strategy both during and after the trauma to cope with the pain, fear, and overwhelm of a traumatic experience. Join me today as Patricia Bianca Torres, LMFT and I discuss and explore dissociation. We talk about what it is, how it shows up, and what to do about it. You can find Patricia at emdrempowered.com.  For additional resources on trauma and trauma recovery, follow me on Instagram @theresilientself and sign up for my newsletter on my website at joannafilidormft.com Resources mentioned in today's podcast:  - Dissociative Experiences Scale - Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation by Kathy Steele, Onno van der Hart, and Suzette Boon Music by: Evan Reiner  

Welcome to another episode of Crawfordsville Connection. This week we are joined by Diana McCormick, Director of Athens Arts Gallery and Kathy Steele, President of the Art League of Montgomery County. They are here to talk about the art that will be on display at the new Montgomery County Government Center. Find out more information about the art that will be there and the event where you can buy art for the building.  For more information visit www.crawfordsville.net

On today's episode podcast host Monique Koven is talking to Kathy Steele about Trauma - Related Dissociation. Kathy Steel is a psychotherapist, consultant, trainer and author. She has co authored numerous books including Coping With Trauma- related Dissociation: Skills For Training Patients and Therapists & Treating Trauma - Related Dissociation. https://www.Kathy-steele.com www.isst-d.org Coaching with Monique www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com Support this podcast here http://paypal.me/moniquekovencoaching

One of the ways that the new-age industry participates in the hate economy is through the politics of dissociated spirituality. Dissociated spirituality is strategic for the hate economy to hold power over us. Simply put, it's a “divide and conquer” approach aimed to fragment & hijack our consciousness. The more dissociated we are, the more disempowered we are towards anyone and anything that tries to sell us s**t. Hence why the spiritual materialism sector of new-age is booming.A big part of sacred activism is reclaiming the parts of our consciousness that have been severed off and used against us without our conscious awareness or consent. To use without consent constitutes abuse. Spiritual abuse is rampant in new-age because the industry thrives within a systematic structure of domination, coercion, and control. By dissociating, we conform to the needs of this structure. How do we deepen our relationship with spirituality, especially those teachings that tend to be misunderstood and manipulated by new-age, without dissociating? We explore this central question in  this foundational episode on the psycho-spiritual mechanisms of dissociation, how it relates to trauma, specific strategies the new-age industry uses to capitalize on our vulnerabilities/trauma, and some self-inquiry questions to guide your wholesome spiritual practice.Enjoy! Comments? Email me at seekingwithsattva@gmail.com.Further reading: Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists by Kathy Steele, Onno van der Hart, and Suzette Boon. Dissociation work should be done with a licensed trauma-informed therapist.  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seekingwithsattva.substack.com

This week we talk about grief - both personal and when our friends and family are grieving - with Dr. Kathy Steele. Dr. Steele shares wisdom from her own experiences and gives practical ideas for walking with others who are grieving. 

Episode 58:Maria Fernandez is a Mental Health Counselor who has used her story to connect and help others in their journey of healing. On this episode, Maria Fernandez talks about what is trauma, the different stages of trauma, dissociation, PTSD. She talks about symptoms of trauma and how to work towards healing. She encourages people to take inventory on their behaviors, educate yourself and to understand your history and childhood in order to heal.Connect with Maria: Email:  mfernandez916@gmail.comResources: https://med.stanford.edu/psybiobehavior/posters-publications.htmlhttps://wfmh.globalBooks to read: Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman, M.D. Healing the Wounded Heart Workbook by Dan B. Allender with Traci Mullins Coping With Trauma- Related Dissociation by Suzette Boon, Kathy Steele  & Onno Van Der HartRestoring the Shattered Self by Heather Davediuk Gingrich Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend Don't forget to subscribe to my podcast and follow me on Instagram & Facebook https://www.instagram.com/elizabethsabby/ . For questions, comments or collaborations please email: beautymarkspodcast@gmail.com

Join us as we talk with Dr. Kathy Steele, a Licensed Professional Counselor, as well as a Professor of Counseling and Director of Clinical Training at New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. In today's podcast, Dr. Steele provides practical, godly wisdom to encourage Christians to maintain good mental, spiritual, and emotional health.

This week on Crawfordsville Connection we are joined by the MCCF again and Athens Arts to talk all about Art in downtown Crawfordsville. We are very excited to talk about the alley art that will be installed And Sarah Storms is here to talk about how that came to be and where it will be. Dr. Kathy Steele is here to talk about the Art Walk that will be happening downtown Crawfordsville and Diana McCormick from Athens Arts is here to talk about their (Untitled) Art Exhibit happening September 25th. If you love Art this is the episode for you!

In this week's episode, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C, a trauma therapist, consultant and coach, talks about Attachment Styles and how they show up in our lives. In this episode you will hear Laura talk about:  What is Attachment?  How does Attachment develop?  What are the 4 Attachment styles?  How does Attachment show up in our lives?  Historical context of Attachment over the last 100 years    Resources for this Episode:   Dr. Robert T. Muller's book, Trauma and the Struggle to Open U Therapy Chat Interview with Dr. Robert T. Muller  Lisa Ferentz/s workbook, Letting Go of Self Destructive Behaviors: A Workbook of Hope & Healing  Dr. Janina Fisher's book, Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Self-Alienation  10 Most Popular Therapy Chat Episodes on Trauma, Dissociation and Attachment  Episodes Linked from above:   10. Episode 144: How Does Our Attachment Style Affect Our Relationships? With Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW  9. Episode 198: Chaos, Conflict, Secrecy: Abusive/Dysfunctional Family Dynamics with Sharon Martin, LCSW  8. Episode 134: It's Not Always Depression, So What Is It? with Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW  7: Episode 204: Learning To Be Kind To Ourselves with Dr. Jane Tornatore  6. Episode 159: Understanding Polyvagal Theory with Deb Dana, LCSW  5. Episode 191: Understanding Childhood Emotional Neglect with Dr. Jonice Webb  4. Episode 202: Inherited Family Trauma with Mark Wolynn  3. Episode 194: Childhood Trauma and the Mind/Body Connection with Dr. Gabor Maté  2. Episode 212: All About Dissociation - 4 Episode Compilation including interviews with Kathy Steele, LCSW and Dr. Dick Schwartz   1. Episode 111: Relationships and Childhood Emotional Neglect with Dr. Jonice Webb  Healthline Article on Avoidant Attachment  Healthline Article on Disorganized Attachment  CPTSD Foundation Article on Anxious Attachment  E-Course from Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Lisa Firestone on Attachment  Michelle Farris's Blog with information on Codependency   Sharon Martin's website with her books, blog posts and more on Codependency and Perfectionism  Dr. Jonice Webb's Childhood Emotional Neglect Website  Nedra Tawwab's book Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself.  Additional Links:  Leave a message with a question to be included in a future episode: https://www.speakpipe.com/traumachatpod  Follow Trauma Chat on Instagram: www.instagram.com/traumachatpod  Follow Trauma Therapy Coaching & Consulting on Facebook: www.facebook.com/traumatherapyconsulting   Get more information on Trauma Chat at: www.traumachatpod.com. Sign up for the email list to stay in touch and receive a free gift!  New website coming soon: www.traumatherapistnetwork.com - a community for finding information, resources and help for trauma. Sign up for the email list to be notified when the website goes live and receive a free gift!  To listen to Laura's other podcast, Therapy Chat, go to: www.therapychatpodcast.com   If you like Trauma Chat please go to iTunes and leave a rating and review and subscribe to receive each episode as soon as it comes out.  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today's episode host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C details some exciting things that are coming up in the near future including: the next training Laura is pursuing... podcast episode transcripts are coming! Therapy Chat is getting a new website that will have all podcast episodes, including transcripts, and more! Laura is creating a new offering to help everyone learn about trauma that is launching 6/15/21! To celebrate, in today's episode Laura shared the 10 most popular episodes of Therapy Chat on the topics of trauma, attachment and dissociation. Links to each episode are below! Lastly, Laura shared that she has an even bigger project coming up at the end of the summer that she can't wait for you to know about (psst - you'll get a hint if you go to www.traumachatpod.com and sign up to be notified)! Top 10 Therapy Chat Episodes on Trauma, Attachment & Dissociation: 10. Episode 144: How Does Our Attachment Style Affect Our Relationships? With Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW 9. Episode 198: Chaos, Conflict, Secrecy: Abusive/Dysfunctional Family Dynamics with Sharon Martin, LCSW 8. Episode 134: It's Not Always Depression, So What Is It? with Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW 7: Episode 204: Learning To Be Kind To Ourselves with Dr. Jane Tornatore 6. Episode 159: Understanding Polyvagal Theory with Deb Dana, LCSW 5. Episode 191: Understanding Childhood Emotional Neglect with Dr. Jonice Webb 4. Episode 202: Inherited Family Trauma with Mark Wolynn 3. Episode 194: Childhood Trauma and the Mind/Body Connection with Dr. Gabor Maté 2. Episode 212: All About Dissociation - 4 Episode Compilation including interviews with Kathy Steele, LCSW and Dr. Dick Schwartz  1. Episode 111: Relationships and Childhood Emotional Neglect with Dr. Jonice Webb Thank you to Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute for sponsoring this week's episode! Therapists, if you feel stuck when working with clients who feel numb and disconnected from their emotions or have difficulty accessing their inner experience, learn a comprehensive approach to conceptualize your clients' concerns. Sensorimotor Psychotherapy uniquely includes the body in therapy as both a source of information and target for intervention…because words are not enough. Go beyond theories and gain practical ways to open a new dimension for effective therapy. Visit Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute online at sensorimotor.org today!  To be in the know about what Laura is cooking up for release in mid-June 2021, go to www.traumachatpod.com and sign up for the email list! You'll receive a free gift for signing up! Other Links: Therapists: if you are interested in learning more about using psychedelics to help clients process trauma, go here to attend a webinar with Psychedelic Somatic Institute and learn about their training (affiliate link). I'll be attending their training DC in July (can't wait)!!!! If you have no idea what I'm talking about go here to listen to my last 3 interviews on using psychedelics in trauma therapy. (affiliate link) Therapists: thinking of adding coaching to your toolkit but not sure where to start? Check out Katie Read's course which guides you through literally everything you need to know and be sure to tell them you heard about it from Laura Reagan on Therapy Chat! (affiliate link) - I'm currently participating in the course and it is so comprehensive! I've learned a ton - she makes it easy! (affiliate link) Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio

Intro: Welcome to the podcast Coronavirus Crisis: Carpe Diem!, where by God's grace, you and I rise up and embrace the possibilities and opportunities for spiritual and psychological growth in this time of crisis, all grounded in a Catholic worldview.   We are going beyond mere resilience, to rising up to the challenges of this pandemic and becoming even healthier in the natural and the spiritual realms than we were before.  I'm clinical psychologist Peter Malinoski and I am here with you, to be your host and guide.  This podcast is part of Souls and Hearts, our online outreach at soulsandhearts.com, which is all about shoring up our natural foundation for the spiritual life, all about overcoming psychological obstacles to being loved and to loving.   Thank you for being here with me.  This is episode 38, released on October 19, 2020  and it is titled: Seeing the signs of shame in yourself and others.  We are going to understand much more deeply the nature of shame, where shame comes from and how it manifests itself inside of us, and how it is expressed.   We are focusing today on learning more about shame and recognizing it -- recognizing it in ourselves and in others, becoming better able to detect it.      Remember parts of the dynamics of shame include shame remaining hidden, unobserved, unrecognized for what it is.  Shame is tricky, it's slippery, it loves to camouflage itself.  We are in a series of episodes about shame.  In future episodes we will get to how shame affects our spiritual lives and we will also focus on how to heal from shame, how to break out of the vicious shame cycles in which we find ourselves spinning.    So Let's start by Circling back -- review of shame from the last session and then adding some real depth and nuance as we review and expand upon what we covered in the last episode, Episode 37.   Shame is:  The primary problem we have in the natural realm That gives birth to so many secondary problems -- we tend to focus on the secondary problems, the problems that are further downstream -- so we are not getting to the root.   Drawing heavily from Kathy Steele, Suzette Boon, and Otto van Der Hart -- trauma clinicians and researchers who have worked with real clinical population, real people, not just academicians.  Also drawing from Richard Schwartz and Regina Goulding -- Mosaic Mind.    Be open to really learning about this this can be challenging  take what suits you -- can slow way down.  If this is really activating for you, consider psychotherapy -- Souls and Hearts course on how to choose a therapist.   If you can resolve your dysfunctional shame -- have a deep sense of being lovable and loved, by God, others and yourself, you've solved most of your psychological issues on the natural level.   Shame has five dimensions: shame is a primary emotion, shame is a bodily reaction, shame is a signal to us,  shame is an internal self-judgement, and shame is an action -- a verb (review).   Adding today behavioral expression of shame These behavioral expressions of shame are not shame itself, but they are intimately linked with shame and some of the best indicators of unrecognized shame.   Shame is more than most people assume.  We tend to have very limited, very primitive understandings of shame -- very unidimensional.   Let's review the five dimensions of shame.   Shame is a primary emotion -- heartset Primary emotions are those that we feel first, as a first response to a situation. They are unthinking, instinctive, emotions that rise up spontaneously  More nuanced.  Just because you're not feeling shame in the moment does not mean that it's not there.   Consider how a wave of anger feels.  You feel normal, fine, then something happens and there is this intense anger or even rage, and then it passes, the anger goes away again.   That how we typically think of these emotional experience. That how we make sense of them.  But that's not how it is.  That is a dangerous illusion.  A falsehood.  A pipe dream.  The anger didn't just come and go, just like that.  And you know this at some level, because sometimes you ask yourself -- why am I so angry about that little thing, why did something so minor just set me off?  The emotional reaction is disproportionate to the trivial event.     A wave of shame -- feels like it wasn't there, and then something happened, like a negative review from your boss it was there in all its intensity and you're just trying to hold it together through the rest of your performance review, and then the shame passes and you're not feeling it anymore.  If I don't feel it, it's not there.  Seems reasonable, right? But what if, what if that wasn't what really happened.  What if the same amount of shame was within you the whole time -- it was just latent, outside of awareness.  And rather than the shame coming and then going, what if it was your awareness of your shame and anger that changed.   What if you at first where disconnected from your shame out of touch with it.  Then your defenses were overrun and you were overwhelmed with shame, and then your defenses were able to come back online and you no longer felt the shame. What if the intense shame was there the whole time?   That's a whole different model  Let's say that you were disconnected from unresolved shame.   A high level of shame or anger can endure within us and be intensely felt only on rare occasions when our defenses open up, when they dilate and we can see and feel the shame or anger.  In other words, all that anger or shame generally resides in the unconscious.   Unconscious The term was coined by the 18th-century German Romantic philosopher Friedrich Schelling  --  Schelling suggests that there are two principles in us: “an unconscious, dark principle and a conscious principle”  later introduced into English by the poet and essayist Samuel Taylor Coleridge 1797, who read the 18th century German idealists. Freud.  Unconscious  Mind is like an iceberg  10% above the water -- visible -- that is consciousness -- what we are aware of in the moment.  The vast majority of the iceberg is below the water, outside awareness  -- what you sense is what you get.   In North America, we largely don't act as if we believe in the unconscious.   I think all of us, because of original sin, the sins of others, our own personal sins, the fallen world we live in and our fallen natures -- we have deep reservoirs of shame.  We know we need redemption.  We can sense it at a primal level, and we have ways of distracting ourselves from that reality, from defending ourselves from that reality.   Richard Schwartz on parts -- we are not just single unitary personalities  Understanding Parts  Separate mental systems each with their own Emotions  Expressive style  Abilities  Roles in the system of the person  God images   Can think of them as modes of operating, subpersonalities, ego states, inner children Parts get forced into extreme roles due to attachment injuries, trauma to protect us from being overwhelmed e.g. with rage, despair, shame.   Parts also can be trapped back in time.  e.g. flashbacks -- where we are back in the shameful experience frontal cortex goes offline  Leaving parietal, cortex basal ganglia, cerebellum and hippocampus  Exiled Parts are the modern lepers, tax collectors and prostitutes -- the undesirables, because of the burdens  they carry -- e.g. shame, anger, depression, anxiety, etc.   Protector parts work hard to protect you from your exiled parts -- e.g. from being overwhelmed.   So certain parts of us -- parts of us that are exiled -- carry the shame.  And our internal systems get organized to hide our shame in the unconscious, to distance ourselves from shame so that we won't be overwhelmed by it and so we can continue to function   If we didn't have a way to manage the shame it would continually overwhelm us.  Or the rage or despair or the fear. Shame as a judgment  -- a judgment of who I am.   a critical perspective of myself, a very negative attitude toward myself.    -- mindset A judgement about who I really am from the perspective of a critical, rejecting other.  I look at myself through  the eyes of critical, angry or disappointed other, often my mom or dad, daycare worker, teacher or other caregiver.   But we have internalized it.  We've take it inside.  Now a part of us plays the role of the external critical person  This parts of me repeat messages I've picked up from important others: I am a burden.   I am too needy, too dependent, I bring other people down and make them suffer  I don't deserve attention and care.   Alcohol, TV and the newspaper are more important than me.   May no longer the case, no longer accurate.  Anachronistic, no longer applies.  No longer in second grade.   But these judgments are held by the judging parts of me that are trying to protect me from my own shame, from the shame-bearing parts carry the emotional aspects of shame -- a shame-filled heartset, but also the cognitive aspects of shame -- a shame-filled mindset.   And because the emotional and cognitive dimension of shame are so threatening, the parts are banished, they are driven out of awareness into exile in the unconscious.  But they are not gone.  They are just silenced for the moment.      Shame is a bodily reaction -- automatic, involuntary bodily response:  Bodyset Charles Darwin  1872 published a book "The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals" Darwin described shame the following bodily reactions:  blushing (vasodilation in face), confusion of mind, downward cast eyes, slack posture, and lowered head -- Crying -- which can exacerbate shame   When exiled parts that are burden with shame break through into conscious awareness, they can overwhelm us with their distress that then takes over our bodies.  This is like in the Pixar movie Inside Out when the very thin purple Fear character takes over the control panel and dominates everything in the main character Riley.  Window of tolerance the zone of arousal in which a person is able to function most effectively -- when we are feeling intense shame, we get yanked out this window of tolerance.   Hyperarousal -- this is where our sympathetic nervous system revs us up, gets into fight or flight mode in response to shame Heart starts racing  Breathing quickens  Pupils dilate  Blood rushes to arms and legs  Face can flush red  Get ready to defend ourselves or attack or run away  Hypoarousal, when the parasympathetic nervous system shuts us down -- freeze response, like a deer in the headlights We disengage socially  Want to disappear, hide, camouflage ourselves.  Shut down.  Numb out.  Dissociate  Lowering of the head  Breaking off eye contact  Tightening up of muscles, curling up in a ball (spine) -- hunching to protect vital organs.  Making one's body smaller, less visible  Feeling like ice water in the veins, cold freezing sensation  Fluttering in belly.   These bodily reactions are not under voluntary control.  Ever tried not to blush?  Didn't it just make it worse when you couldn't stop it?  Even though you wanted to play it cool.  you just kept getting redder and redder, which led to a more intense shame response.   Shame is a signal.  Functions of Shame  This often gets missed.  The upside of shame.  Why it exists.  Shame is a signal that there is a lack of attunement or an even more serious threat in one or more of our important relationships.  It has important function Shame functions as a "social threat detector" that signals us to modify or avoid behaviors that will cause us to be rejected by those we need.   Then the shame response to the shame signal occurs.  Shame signal leads to the shame response -- the shame response inhibits emotions, thoughts, sensations, beliefs or behaviors that are perceived as unacceptable to powerful others who we need.  So Shame is a survival mechanism.  It helps save us from potential terrible consequences. Inhibition -- family in church -- lots of little kids, all perfectly dressed, all perfectly behaved, parents beaming in response to getting complements about their little angels, so well behaved.  Parents may have put the fear of God into the children to keep them still.  Inhibitory function of shame -- not wanting to displease God, not wanting to displease the parents who may have parts that are very overinvested in the public impressions their family makes on the parish community.   Shame as action  -- a verb -- “shaming” is an action that is intended to cause someone else to feel inadequate, worthless, unlovable, a loser, etc.  for being or doing something that the shamer feels is wrong or undesirable. It is a quick way to control another person, especially one in a dependent positions  It is a quick way for us to control ourselves.  Part of us is forced into the role of shamer to anticipate consequences.  E.g. rambunctious boy on Saturday morning -- hung over mother cussing him out from the top of the stairs to shut up and let her sleep.  If a part of that body takes on the shaming function and whenever he starts getting boisterous, tells him to shut up and be good and stop being such a noisy pain in the rear end, he can save himself the verbal backlash and maybe even worse from his alcoholic mom.  It's a way of managing an extremely difficult situation.  Qualities of shame Shame is hidden.  Hidden from others, hidden from God, often hidden from the therapist, hidden from self.  Hidden in the unconcious, carried by our exiled parts, which are like lepers.  Not allowed into the community for fear of a contagion of shame, shame taking over.   Disappear, hide, camouflage     Shame inhibits positive emotions   How shame is expressed -- going into Behavioral Expressions of Shame What to look for in yourself and others -- clues that shame is lurking, hidden, even if you don't feel it.  We may need to infer it.   Therapists particularly need to know this information.  So much shame is missed by therapists -- lots of reasons for that.   Shame is hard to measure -- the more important a phenomenon is, the harder it is to quantify, to measure.   2017 Journal of Child and Family Studies A New Measure of the Expression of Shame: The Shame Code  Canadian researchers Kalee De France, Dianna Lanteigne, Jenny Glozman & Tom Hollenstein  shame has predominantly been measured by self-report questionnaires, which typically capture trait shame or shame proneness unable to capture the experience of shame as it occurs and is observed by others  Shame does not have a canonical facial expression, however, some facial and behavioral expressions that may be indicative of the experience of shame have been identified.  shrunken or compressed posture that includes body tension, dropped shoulders, or lowered head in a manner akin to a “hang-dog” look  These submissive displays can be seen as social signals of appeasement, and attempts to reduce social conflict or scrutiny  they tend to evoke cooperative behavior from others, and are associated with less punitive responses shame can be identified by tension in the facial muscles turning down the corners of their mouth -- frowning   tucking their lower lip between their teeth  pursed lips smiling while experiencing shame may not appear genuine (i.e., non-Duchenne smile) indicating a false expression of positivity   the key difference between this “real” happy smile and a “fake” happy smile lies in the orbicularis oculi – muscles that wrap around the eyes. All smiles require a contraction of the zygomatic major muscles, the muscles that lift the corners of the mouth. A real smile, a Duchenne smile adds the eyes.  The skin around the eyes wrinkles into crows' feet by the tightening of the orbicularis oculi muscles. embarrassed smile, a smile accompanied by gaze aversion, or a nervous smile another appeasement behavior, where the individual experiencing shame attempts to placate the observer and avoid judgment or punitive behavior.  gaze aversion or hiding one's face -- attempt to hide.  not seeking to contest resources or escalate conflict Speech Patterns verbal uncertainty -- hemming, hawing  such as stammering  long pauses  Going silent   tendency to withdraw, such as disengaging from the emotional trigger Freezing halting behavior or remaining rigidly still distracting oneself through fidgeting “manipulations of one's own body parts or objects, such actions being peripheral or non-central to ongoing events or tasks” (Mehravian & Friedman, 2006, p. 406)   Strategies for coping with shame Nathanson (1992, 1997)  Four defensive scripts for avoiding shame:  Attack Self, Attack others, Isolate self, Avoid inner experience  Attack self  -- part of you accepts the mindset of shame, the beliefs --  I am inadequate, I am a loser, stupid, incompetent, fat  --  it's safer to turn the anger and disgust inward. When you mix anger and disgust you get contempt, which is the most corrosive emotion in relationship, including our relationship with ourselves.  If you want to ruin a relationship, there is nothing better than a contemptuous attitude  In attacking the self, the shame may not be felt at all -- rather it's just assumed that I am worthless, no good, evil  -- not even possible to say "I feel ashamed" -- there is just the attack on the shame-bearing part.   Attacking others first -- this one is often counterintuitive.  Stay with me here. This is when one of your protector parts, in order to shield you from your own shame, attacks another person.  You are not the problem -- the other person is.  Anger and disgust are directed away from the self toward blaming and shaming another person in order to salvage your own sense of self-worth.  You externalize the shame, you project it on someone else.   Wants you to not know about the underlying shame -- and doesn't want anyone else to see your shame either.   If the other person is feeling the shame, is getting overwhelmed by their own shame, then the shame is there and not in you.  The other person is inferior and you are superior -- the other person has the shame problem not you.  And these shaming parts are driven by shame that they are totally unaware of.   Lot of marital conflict stems from shame and shaming.  Lots of it.  The primary problem.   Number one issue in aggressive, pushing people who cut others down -- bullies, intimidators, tough guys, gaslighters, manipulators -- it's a part of a person who is desperately trying to ward off shame.  .  That doesn't make it all right.  That doesn't make it not sinful.   Isolate from others  part of you accepts the message of shame and believes it.  And feels terrible and hides.  No desire to be exposed, to be vulnerable to more ridicule, more shaming.  Just hiding.  Like Adam and Eve in Genesis 3, after eating the forbidden fruit.  Lots of anxiety and fear.  See how anxiety and fear are secondary emotions to the shame?  They flow from the shame.  So many problematic emotions have shame at their root, at their core, but shame is so tricky, the other emotions seem to be the problem.   Avoid social situation Limit relational interactions Withdraw Look at others with dread.   Avoid inner experiences Denial  Dissociation -- disconnection  Numbing  Depersonalization or derealization  Attempts to distract self -- TV, movies, alcohol, sex, binge eating, obsessions, hyperactivity, dissociation, manic episodes, incessant humor or joking, changing the subject when the conversation pulls for looking inward, focusing on the other person, excessive caregiving with no self-care, compulsive do-gooding  also spiritual bypassing -- a flight into spiritual practices to avoid dealing with your inner experiences -- lots of litanies and prayer cards and holy hours and lectio divina, but with a driven quality to it, a rigidity, a nearly exclusive outward focus.  Little or no awareness of shame, or shameful actions, reactions, faults or negative characteristics.   We will get to working with shame -- much more constructively, how do we do that?  It's coming. I will be giving you strategies for working with shame in upcoming podcasts.   Can't rush it.  There's often a strong impulse to rush through working with shame.  We'll also get into the spiritual impact of shame.  Soulset  For example, if you have a part who feels unloved and unlovable -- how do you think that part would understand God?  Would it see God as loving and caring if it has been shut off from love?  What about your parts that have been shamed by important others and by other parts of you?  How would they see God?  How does your internal critic, you know that voice that has running commentary about your faults and failings, exacerbating shame -- how does that part see God? What God images do these parts have?  How Satan uses your shame against you?  Remember, grace perfects nature, and it makes sense for Satan to attack at the weak points in your natural foundation.  We will get into those issues as well as the relationship between shame and pride.  All here at the Coronavirus crisis Carpe Diem podcast, where harmonize the best of psychology with the Truths of our Catholic Faith. Let others know about this podcast. Who do you know that might be suffering from shame?  Reach out -- send them a link.  Soulsandhearts.com   Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google Play.  Get the word out.  Whole series on shame -- going far more in depth than most people every comprehend.  All from a Catholic perspective.   Bonus Podcast on Sex difference in shame.  This is getting long.  How are men and women different.  That is available to our Resilient Catholic Carpe Diem community.   RCCD community:  Example past Zoom meeting  October 14 a guided meditation to help you locate a part of you that feels unloved and unlovable and to reach out with care and gentleness to that part -- how to work with parts that carry the burden of shame.  -- Very positive response to that experience, RCCD members really getting in touch with parts that feel unlovable and carry the burden of shame.  It's not that hard for many people to reach out to these parts of themselves and really be with them.  Seek and ye shall find.    recorded the introduction and the meditation sections of this so RCCD community members can do it on their own.  Building a whole library of different exercises and techniques to help you.  Example: Office hours -- we will be discussing shame in zoom office hours on October 21 from 7:30 PM to 8:30 PM Eastern -- free for RCCD members.  Going in to the concepts of this podcast.  Lively Q&A.   Place to get questions answered -- but we won't be getting into any individual issues there. $25 per month Temporarily halting admission to the RCCD community November 3 – less than a month away  -- won't reopen until sometime next year, in 2021 lock in prices for all of 2021.   Go to soulsandhearts.com, click on the tab that says all courses and shows and register for the Resilient Catholics Carpe Diem Community.   Pray for me.  I will pray for you. 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1.      Intro: Welcome to the podcast Coronavirus Crisis: Carpe Diem!, where by God's grace, you and I rise up and embrace the possibilities and opportunities for spiritual and psychological growth in this time of crisis, all grounded in a Catholic worldview.   We are going beyond mere resilience, to rising up to the challenges of this pandemic and becoming even healthier in the natural and the spiritual realms than we were before.  I'm clinical psychologist Peter Malinoski and I am here with you, to be your host and guide.  This podcast is part of Souls and Hearts, our online outreach at soulsandhearts.com, which is all about shoring up our natural foundation for the spiritual life, all about overcoming psychological obstacles to being loved and to loving.  a.       Thank you for being here with me.  This is episode 37, released on October 12, 2020 b.      and it is titled: The Silent Killer Who Stalks You From Inside.  2.      I want to talk with you about the silent killer, the worst adversary I face clinically, the greatest rival, the greatest opponent to love and life that I have ever met within another person or within myself. 3.      This one is a very stealthy, effective, ruthless killer -- often hidden beneath the surface of our consciousness, in the murky waters deep below where we can see.  But then at times it surfaces, Powerful, moving.  And maybe you think I'm being dramatic -- but I'm not.  I've seen it kill other and I've been seriously wounded by it myself.     a.       Killer on the natural level and also on the spiritual level.  This assassin slays not only hearts, minds and bodies but also souls.  A very comprehensive murderer, very complete, this hitman does his work often slowly but very thoroughly.  b.      Who is this killer?  High blood pressure?  No.  Stroke?  No.  Heart disease?  No.  Diabetes?  No.  Cancer? No.  These can and do kill bodies, but as serious as they are, they are nowhere near as deadly to most people as our silent killer.  c.       Who is this killer?  The devil you say?  Satan?  No.  Not Satan.  Satan cherishes this killer, and prizes the stealthy sneaking, clandestine work.d.      No, it's not Satan because this killer lives within us in a way that demons ordinarily do not.  This killer has a pass to roam within us, to move in our being.  Satan doesn't, unless we are possessed.  Besides, Satan does not have permission to slay us, or to harm us unless God permits it, at least with His passive will, and only then for our greater good.  e.       This killer seems meek and modest, but when it whispers its messages in our ear, it evokes in us fear, anxiety, depression, and efforts to do more and more, and it can also provoke us to anger, aggression, and violence.  Unchecked, this killer can bring us all the way to helpless, despair and suicide.  f.        Some of us try to numb ourselves to distract ourselves from this killer by using alcohol, drugs, food, binging on Netflix, hours of social media, masturbation, porn, shopping, compulsive exercise, gambling, surfing the web, video games, sleeping the day away, dissociating and even cutting and burning our bodies, all in an attempt to escape.g.      Who is this killer?  It is absolutely vital for us to know -- is it guilt -- no.  Depression -- no, Anxiety, Fear, Anger -- no, no, no.  Is it pride?  No, not pride.  But this killer has a close and intimate relationship with pride.  The killer feeds pride and is nourished by pride.  Who is it?  Take a moment and really think about it.  We need to know this killer, this adversary.  And we will.  Today we will be getting to know this silent killer.  But not yet.  We've got to look beyond the killer for a moment.  4.      There is one thing that disarms this killer.  One thing.  And that one thing is Love.  Real authentic Love.  Charity.   Love rescues us from this killer.  It transforms us, makes us immune to the silent killer who no longer has power over us.  So let's talk about love.  5.      Shifting gears.  Two great commandments -- a.       Matthew 22:35-40    And one of them, a lawyer, asked him a question, to test him. “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?” And Jesus said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. 38 This is the great and first commandment. 39 And a second is like it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself. 40 On these two commandments depend all the law and the prophets.”b.      Main task is to love God and love our neighbor.  With all of ourselves.  All your heart, all your mind, all your soul.  All of us.  c.       And we need to love our neighbor as ourself.  Think about that.  Love our neighbor as ourselves.                                                                                 i.            Jesus doesn't say we need to love our neighbor more than ourselves -- it could be implied, but I wonder about whether that's possible.  d.      So that means we need to be loved                                                                                i.            Reflecting on last week's episode --  Why we flee from real love.  the capacity to receive love --                                                                               ii.             We discussed fear, avoidance, anger                                                                             iii.            We went into how real love burns, it requires us to give up dysfunctional coping mechanisms                                                                            iv.            It can require us to give up good things that are lesser than love.                                                                                v.            We discussed require us to be open, receptive and thus also vulnerable                                                                             vi.            But we didn't discuss what or who causes our vulnerability to seem so dangerous to us.  Who does that?   That is the silent killer rearing its ugly head again.  It's our silent killer makes the vulnerability seem so perilous, so potentially catastrophic for us.  e.       We need to be loved in order to pass that love on                                                                                i.            Last episode Nemo dat quod non habet  -- No one gives what they don't have.   Nemo dat rule.                                                                               ii.            To reflect that love back to God                                                                            iii.            To be a channel of love to others                                                                            iv.            And to love ourselves in an ordered way 6.      So ultimately, what I want is for you to be able to love God so much better and to love your neighbor so much bettera.       So we will do a whole series of episode on loving God and another whole series of loving our neighbor                                                                                i.            Focusing on the psychological aspects that can make this much more difficult than it needs to be                                                                              ii.            Souls and Hearts -- Grace perfects nature.  7.      But we need to start with receiving love bettera.       So first, we will do a whole series of episodes on receiving love.                                                                                i.            From God our Father                                                                              ii.            From Mary our Mother                                                                            iii.            From Jesus and the Holy Spirit                                                                            iv.            From the Saints                                                                              v.            From ourselves                                                                            vi.            And from others8.      And to kick that series off loving ourselves better, we need to know what are the obstacles, especially the psychological obstacles to receiving love.   We need to know what stands in the way, what are the hurdles, what makes it difficult for us to receive love.  a.       And that brings us back, face to face with our silent killer.  And now it's time to name the killer.9.      The silent killer, the worst adversary I face clinically, the greatest rival, the greatest opponent to love and life that I have ever met within another person or within myself is [drum roll]  Shame.  S-H-A-M-E.  Shame.  10.  So what is shame.  How do we define it.  a.       English has real limitations, a significantly restricted vocabulary when it comes to expressing the nuances of internal experience.  It's really important to get this straight.  b.      Brene Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston -- really done a great job of bringing the topics of shame and vulnerability into the public square for discussion                                                                                i.            Her definition of shame:  I define shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging – something we've experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection                                                                              ii.            Great start and better than most definitions out there.  But still incomplete.  Brene Brown is primarily a researcher, though she is a licensed master social worker and has clinical experience.   I approach this as a trauma therapist who really specializes in shame work.   c.       Shame is:  a primary emotion, a bodily reaction, a signal,  a judgement, and an action.  d.      Drawing heavily from Treating Trauma-Related Dissociation -- A practical, integrative Approach by Kathy Steele, Suzette Boon, and Otto van Der Hart.  Experts in complex trauma, with a real focus on the disconnects that happen within the person who has experienced trauma.                                                                                  i.            Those disconnects, when severe enough, become dissociation                                                                              ii.            Those disconnects are, by definition, a lack of integration.  e.       Shame is a primary emotion -- heartset                                                                                i.            Primary emotions are those that we feel first, as a first response to a situation. They are unthinking, instinctive, automatic emotions that we have. Under threat, we feel fear.  We don't have to think about it.  We see a Bear in our campsite. Hmm  Bear.  Big teeth.  Looks feriocious. It's coming at us.  Ok, it's time to be scared.                                                                                ii.            Emotional response to 1.      a real or perceived abandonment2.      Rejection3.      The loss of relationship -- a relationship we sense (rightly or wrongly) that we need to survivef.        Shame as a bodily reaction -- physiology of shame  Bodyset                                                                                i.            Defenses against shame are immediate, unmediated by our higher-order thought processes1.      The intellect does not have time to reflects2.      The automatic nature of the defenses against shame compromises the will's effectiveness in the moment.                                                                                ii.            Takes us out of the window of tolerance1.      Window of tolerance the zone of arousal in which a person is able to function most effectively. When people are within this zone, they are typically able to readily take in information, process that information, and integrate that information more readily.  People in the window of tolerance are feeling emotions at moderate levels, not overwhelmed with emotion and not numbing their feelings out.  People in the window of tolerance respond to the demands of everyday life without much difficulty -- they can make pretty good decisions, carry out their role responsibilities, do what they need to do.  2.      Stressful cortisol levels go up, and our ACTH levels rise, indicating a stress response.3.      Hyperarousal -- this is where our sympathetic nervous system revs us up, gets into fight or flight mode in response to shamea.       Heart starts racingb.      Breathing quickensc.       Pupils dilated.      Blood rushes to arms and legse.       Face can flush red f.        Get ready to defend ourselves or attack or run away 4.      Hypoarousal, when the parasympathetic nervous system shuts us down -- freeze response, like a deer in the headlightsa.       We disengage sociallyb.      Want to disappear, hide, camouflage ourselves. c.       Shut down.  Numb out.  Dissociated.      Lowering of the heade.       Breaking off eye contactf.        Tightening up of muscles, curling up in a ball (spine) -- hunching to protect vital organs.  Making one's body smaller, less visibleg.      Feeling like ice water in the veins, cold freezing sensationh.      Fluttering in belly.g.      Functions of Shame  This often gets missed.  The upside of shame.  Why it exists.                                                                                 i.            Shame is a signal that there is a lack of attunement or an even more serious threat in one or more of our important relationships.  It has important function                                                                              ii.            Shame inhibits other emotions, thoughts, sensations, beliefs or behaviors that are perceived as unacceptable to powerful others who we need.1.      Steele Boone and van der Hart refer to it as a "social threat detector" that alerts us to modify or avoid behaviors that will cause us to be rejected by those we need.  They see this as part of social evolution.   2.      Shame helps us learn the boundaries of socially acceptable behavior so that we can be part of our group, with the optimal level of closeness and distance.  a.       By 12 to 18 months or so, toddlers show signs of shame in response to misattunement or disapproval.  Mommy and Daddy's reactions help guide the child through developmental milestone and avoiding shame is a part of that.  3.      Shame is a survival mechanism.  It helps save us from potential terrible consequences -- example of abuse.  Inhibiting of crying -- I'll give you something to cry about.  Freezing, staying still not crying.  4.       Some shame needs to be accepted.  The only ones who don't seem to experience shame at all are psychopaths -- sociopaths.  Think of it -- someone who is shameless -- that's hardly a compliment.   8.      Shame as a judgment  -- mindseta.       A judgement about who we really are from the perpective of a critical, rejecting other.                                                                                                    i.            We look at ourselves through the eyes of critical, angry or disappointed other, often a parent or other caregiver.  b.      But we have internalized it.  We've take it inside.  Now we are doing it to ourselves.  c.       We repeat messages we've picked up from important others:                                                                                                  i.            Nobody cares about you.                                                                                                  ii.            You're a loser                                                                                              iii.            You can't do anything right                                                                                              iv.            You should never have been born. d.      May no longer the case, no longer accurate.  Anachronistic, no longer applies.  No longer in second grade.   9.      Chronic shame needs to be attenuated, reduced, titrated, ordered, regulated. a.       Chronic shame develops when the child has a sense of being rejected, unwanted, a burden.  b.      When the child changes behaviors, does what he can to be better in the eyes of the adult and still is rejected, he can conclude that he just is a bad person.  c.       The difficulty is in the response of the others -- the caregivers.  d.      But the child bears the burden of shame caused by the shaming of the caregivers.  e.       Child sees parts that are unacknowledged and unacceptablef.        Ostracized or invaded.  10.  And we assume that God is like our caregivers -- soulset.   11.  Shame as action  -- “shaming” is an action that is intended to cause someone else to feel inadequate, worthless, unlovable, a loser, etc.  for being or doing something that the originator feels is wrong or undesirable.a.       It is a quick way to control another person, especially one in a dependent positionsb.      Little children will do almost anything to preserve their attachments to their parentsc.       Teachers, coaches, instructors -- huge powersd.      Also romantic partners are motivated my shame -- seems to protect from the loss of relationship.  12.  Qualities of shamea.       Shame is hidden.  Hidden from others, hidden from God, often hidden from the therapist, hidden from self.  b.        Shame inhibits positive emotions13.  Strategies for coping with shamea.       Nathanson (1992, 1997)  Four defensive scripts for avoiding shame:                                                                                                  i.            Attack self                                                                                                ii.            Attacking others first -- preemptive.  Sarcasm, cutting humor,                                                                                               iii.            Isolate from others                                                                                              iv.            Avoid inner experiences1.      Controlling-caregiving -- viewing others as more deserving, as more in need.  Denying my own needs by extending myself to serve others, but it's not out of charity -- it's a defense, a way of running away from my own shame, keeping just ahead of my shame shadow.   11.  Brief review  Shame is:  a primary emotion, a bodily reaction, a signal, a judgment, and an action.  There's not a simple definition.  12.  Enough for today.  We will get more into shame and how to work with it in the next several episodes.  So much more to unpack.  This was conceptually heavy -- lots to understand.  13.  Lucy had a comment.14.  Great stories of how this podcast is changing lives.  I want your stories -- stories of how the podcast has impacted you -- send them to me.  crisis@soulsandhearts.com, PM me in the community.  Let me know if I can use them on the air.  Your story can help other people.  Cell is 317.567.9594.  15.  RCCD community:  I want to tell you about the Resilient Catholics: Carpe Diem! Community.  a.       The RCCD community brings together people who are really interested in growing more and more resilient, both in the natural realm and in the psychological realm,b.      Catholics who are seizing this day, this moment,  as an opportunity for great spiritual and psychological growth.  c.       We are bringing in IFS concepts and guidance on working with your parts in your system, to help you become more self-aware, to better love God, others, and yourself.  d.      Example Upcoming Zoom meeting                                                                                i.            Join me for a guided meditation to help you locate a part of you that feels unloved and unlovable and to reach out with care and gentleness to that part -- how to work with parts that carry the burden of shame.                                                                                ii.            When is it?  Wednesday, October 14  7:30-8:45 PM Eastern time.  Two days from release                                                                            iii.            We will record the introduction and the meditation sections of this so RCCD community members can do it on their own.                                                                            iv.            Building a whole library of different exercises and techniques to help you. e.       Example: Office hours -- we will be discussing shame in zoom office hours on October 21 from 7:30 PM to 8:30 PM Eastern -- free for RCCD members.  Going in to the concepts of this podcast.  Lively Q&A.   Place to get questions answered -- but we won't be getting into any individual issues there.f.        $25 per monthg.      closing November 3 – less than a month away  -- won't reopen until sometime next year, in 2021 lock in prices for all of 2021.h.      Go to soulsandhearts.com, click on the tab that says all courses and shows and register for the Resilient Catholics Carpe Diem Community.  16.  Shout out to Catholic therapists and counselorsa.       Are you seeking                                                                                i.            Greater insight into yourself as a clinician and better self-care?                                                                               ii.            New therapeutic skills to help your clients help themselves?                                                                            iii.            Deep, personal connections within a small group of other Catholic therapists who understand the unique demands of our lives?                                                                            iv.            Guidance on how to work with your clients' parts in therapy or counseling -- I have an answer and a possibility for you.  b.      I am leading Catholic Internal Family Systems consultation groups                                                                                i.            Get together every month for 90 minutes via Zoom in groups of 8.                                                                                ii.            Experience IFS techniques through a variety of exercises that I will lead -- demonstrations.                                                                            iii.            Practice IFS techniques, working on our own real issues as a therapist within our own internal systems, in the holding environment of the group                                                                            iv.            Participate in some interpersonal processing, based on an IFS understanding of parts and self, recast in accordance with our Catholic faith                                                                              v.            Amazing response   29 of 32 slots are filled, but there are 3 left1.      Two for the Second Wednesday of the month, starting October 14 from 3:30 PM to 5:00 PM Eastern time -- gotta move quick on this.  2.      One slot for the Fourth Wednesday of the month, starting October 28 from 3:30 PM to 5:00 PM Eastern time                                                                            vi.            Check out [insert website link]17.  Patroness and Patron

In this episode, Natalie speaks on chronic shame and some of the ways in which it can come up in our lives. Kathy Steele: https://www.kathy-steele.com

Our guest on Episode 9 is Kathy Steele who is a psychotherapist, trainer, consultant and author from Atlanta, Georgia with over 35 years experience. Kathy is the Past President and Fellow of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD), and has also served two terms on the Board of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies (ISTSS). Kathy served on the International Task Force that developed treatment guidelines for Dissociative Disorders, and on the Joint International Task Force that has developed treatment guidelines for Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. She has received a number of awards for her work, including the Lifetime Achievement Award from ISSTD, an Emory University Distinguished Alumni Award, and the Cornelia B. Wilbur Award for Outstanding Clinical Contributions from ISSTD.Kathy is considered an expert in complex trauma, dissociation and attachment and her last co-authored book: Treating Trauma Related Dissociation: A Practical Integrative Approach won the Pierre Janet Writing Award. On this episode Kathy gives some background on her career path, the treatment of dissociation over time, and explains important terms and concepts in trauma therapy. She breaks down assessment and treatment aspects of trauma and dissociation as well as break down phase oriented trauma treatment. The inner critic, wounded child parts and other important 'characters' are discussed with some insight into how to explain and work with these areas in therapy. Lastly, Kathy provides useful tips and wisdom for new therapists and ways to prevent and manage burnout and vicarious trauma. For more information about Kathy, her publications and trainings check out her website HERE

Strategic growth requires a People+People™ plan. Simply put, you can’t have one without the other. As sales grow, so does your need for a talented workforce. Here’s the bottom line: It takes the same strategies to attract and retain clients as it does employees – and you need a healthy, engaged pipeline of both to achieve business goals. Join business leaders from all industries to connect and gain actionable insights into solving several of the most common growth challenges businesses face. Kathy Steele from Red Caffeine and Kirk Miller from Second City join Scott in-studio to discuss the conference hosted at Second City Works.

Dr. E comes full circle in chatting with Kathy Steele. Kathy shares how she learned about dissociation and how that led to the Coping Skills workbook. She explains the structural theory of dissociation. Dr. E discussed her experiences of wrestling with some of these ideas, as well as some of the unfolding community and cultural implications for survivors and clinicians alike.

We interview Kathy Steele.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, a lego group, movie groups, and social events.  Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!  Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2-month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat.  Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today's podcast host Laura Reagan speaks to Kathy Steele about structural dissociation.  Kathy Steele is a psychotherapist, consultant, trainer, and author. She practices in Atlanta, Georgia, working with complex psychological trauma, dissociation, attachment issues, therapeutic impasse, therapist self-care, and many other related topics in psychotherapy. Kathy has been in private practice since 1985, and with Metropolitan Psychotherapy Associates in Atlanta, Georgia since 1988. She was Clinical Director of Metropolitan Counseling Services, a non- profit psychotherapy and training center until 2016. Kathy received her undergraduate degree from the University of South Carolina in 1978, and completed her graduate work at Emory University in 1983. She is a Past President and Fellow of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD), and has also served two terms on the Board of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies (ISTSS). Kathy served on the International Task Force that developed treatment guidelines for Dissociative Disorders, and on the Joint International Task Force that has developed treatment guidelines for Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. She has received a number of awards for her work, including the 2010 Lifetime Achievement Award from ISSTD, an Emory University Distinguished Alumni Award in 2006, and the 2011 Cornelia B. Wilbur Award for Outstanding Clinical Contributions from ISSTD. Kathy is known for her humor, compassion, respect, and depth of knowledge as a clinician and teacher, and for her capacity to present complex issues in easily understood and clear ways. She is sought as a consultant and supervisor, and as an international lecturer on topics related to trauma, dissociation, attachment, and psychotherapy. She enjoys collaborating with colleagues around the world on clinical, educational, and research projects. Kathy has (co)authored numerous book chapters, peer reviewed journal articles, and three books with her colleagues. Resources: https://www.kathy-steele.com  Download the free Therapy Chat app here  (ios only) Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too!  Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button.  Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here.  Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2-month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat.  In this week's episode host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C discusses a topic which is often misunderstood by the general public as well as mental health professionals: dissociation. Next week's episode is an interview with Kathy Steele, an expert on this subject, who explains the concept of Structural Dissociation. To help demystify this topic and lay some groundwork for understanding the interview with Kathy, Laura gives some basic definitions and describes how they might show up in therapists' offices as well as in each of our personal lives.  Laura will be re-releasing some past episodes on the topic of trauma and new episodes will resume in early September, 2019. Resources: Download the free Therapy Chat app here  (ios only) Treating Trauma-Related Dissociation, A Practical, Integrative Approach by Kathy Steele, Onno Van Der Hart and Suzette Boon  and Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients & Therapists: buy on Amazon (non-affiliate link) International Society for Study of Trauma & Dissociation: www.isstd.org Wisdom, Attachment & Love in Trauma Therapy by Susan Pease Banitt - find on Amazon here (non-affiliate link) Therapy Chat Episode 152 with Susan Pease Banitt - listen here The Trauma Toolkit by Susan Pease Banitt - find on Amazon here (non-affiliate link) Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self Alienation by Janina Fisher - find on Amazon here (non-affiliate link)  System Speak Podcast: listen here Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too!  Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button.  Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here.  Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Dr. E recaps seeing Kathy Steele at a conference.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, a lego group, movie groups, and social events.  Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!  Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Dr. E shares what she learned in a conference session with Kathy Steele about dissociation and shame. She explains Steele’s perspective on DID and parts, why Steele doesn’t recognize parts as individuals, and how Steele refers to ANP’s as DL’s and EP’s as TF’s and what these terms mean. She explains how Steele describes shame, the connections to DeYoung’s theory, and the variety of ways shame presents. In an example, she discloses an experience with poverty and how that impacted us as a system. She then calls on both the clinical and the DID communities to become more sensitive to shame issues being acted out against and amongst each other, when we should be empowering and supporting each other. Continuing this, she talks about how not addressing shame continues to distress and disrupt a system. She tells how Steele explained shame as part of the dominance/submission dynamic in the animal kingdom, and how this is played out with abusers. She then shares how shame is sometimes more familiar than it even safer than other emotional responses. She connects, then, the Plural Positivity movement to a way of facing shame, and Pride Day as a way of working through it as a community. She discusses the experience of living with chronic shame. She also explains how hyperarousal and hypoarousal impact even just trying to talk in therapy. Dr. E then discussed what she agrees and disagrees with regarding the DL/TF model. Dr. E explains what shame teaches us about why it’s important to find a compassionate and connected therapist. In the end, Dr. E shares how Kathy Steele provides a definition of integration as close to Functional Multiplicty as yet described by the clinical community. No abuse memories or specific disclosures are given in this episode.

I’m so grateful for the chance to sit down with Kathy Steele, Red Caffeine’s founder and CEO. Throughout her life, Kathy’s pushed through personal and professional adversities while always gaining insight along the way. On this week’s donothing podcast, learn about Kathy’s successes, her struggles and how she finds the positive in everything. Passionate about people, Kathy is serious about business growth and loves to help the underdog causes in her community. She is fortunate to "do it all" in her role at Red Caffeine, a growth consultancy with a mission to build incredible brands that clients want to work with—and employees want to work for. A serial entrepreneur, Kathy believes that Red Caffeine is the company she is finally getting right. Dedicated to purpose, vision and values, along with her decision to operate with open-book finances, Red Caffeine has experienced rapid growth since its foundation in 2013. Kathy and her team deliver growth strategies for purpose-driven companies who share common values and challenges. Kathy speaks and writes about her experience as an entrepreneur and how marketing impacts business growth. She is a contributor to Forbes and has delivered keynote presentations and workshops on employee experience, branding, marketing and business culture. Kathy has relentless enthusiasm for great causes, donating her time and expertise to industry groups and non-profit organizations. She is an Entrepreneur in Residence (EIR) for Future Founders, an Executive Council Member for the Executives Breakfast Club, Chicago’s Local Group Leader for the Small Giants Community and a Great Game of Business Practitioner. She values fostering relationships with leaders who share her strong focus on business ethics, social responsibility and economic sustainability. Join Red Caffeine’s People+People Conference and Content Series The “war for talent” is real and crosses all industries and company sizes. Historically, the focus on marketing has been on attracting and retaining clients—we have pivoted Red Caffeine to be more of a "Growth Consultancy" with a mission of building brands that clients want to work with AND employees want to work for. We feel the strategy is the same to attract, engage and retain clients and talent. We’re continuing to address these challenges companies are facing with our People+People Conference and Content Series. Exciting announcements and news will be shared soon at www.PeoplePlusPeopleConf.com. Connect With Kathy Steele LinkedIn Twitter Connect With Red Caffeine Website Facebook Twitter

Dr. Kathy Steele, director of clinical training at our Leake Magee Counseling Center, has spent the last decade in helping to establish a counseling center in Cuba.

Looking back on her life, Kathy Steele, Founder & CEO of Red Caffeine, has earned her stripes as a purpose-driven leader and an entrepreneur. She first ventured into entrepreneurship after quitting a full-time job, a single mother with less than a month's rent in her bank account. But she was determined to build a great business and deliver on her vision. This episode, Kathy shares the invaluable lessons she learned from a business divorce, brushing off early failures, and leading by serving.

Kathy Steele,  CEO of Red Caffeine Marketing + Technology, discusses her career and bouncing back from a business crucible. After overcoming numerous challenges, her re-launched business is now profitable and growing. She has created an intentional culture with people who share a purpose, and key core values. Kathy pursues agile solutions with a think-tank approach, and how leaders don’t ignore the importance of shared values amongst the team.   Key Takeaways [5:01] Kathy had a business divorce four years ago that led her to found a new business based on things she believed. To reboot her business she focused on purpose, mission, vision, core values, and the tenets of operating the business. Investing in culture helped triple business revenues in four years.[8:46] Culture Club serves to share financial results, project wins, things that could be improved, education and motivational keynote speakers. [11:14] Kathy embraces open book operations and the ‘small giants’ philosophies as the right way to do business. After the unfavorable business divorce, Kathy saw transparency as an essential factor in a profitable business. Within the first year, they exceeded sales projections and became debt-free. [17:54] Kathy displayed vulnerability to bring her team together to rally around the financial challenges they faced in the first year, and improve the ways they do things, through gaming elements and mini-games. One game involved time-tracking — time loggers against non-loggers.[21:42] When something doesn’t go well, Kathy investigates how she can be more clear about delivering on expectations.[23:40] Kathy depends on a solid go-to-market framework so sales aligns with production and delivery.[25:44] Growth of complexity within the company creates collaboration and teamwork challenges. Kathy aspires to agile solutions for problems, using a think-tank approach.   [30:23] Kathy contrasts her younger business self with her leadership approach today. She credits mentors (including her husband) that fueled her successes.   [34:30] Running a business is more difficult than Kathy ever imagined and at any stage, there are many different challenges.  Seek people who share your values.   Website: RedCaffeine.com Twitter: @RedCaffeineInc Twitter: @KathySteele Facebook: Red Caffeine Inc. LinkedIn: Kathy Steele Forbes: “What's In Your 'Stack?' It's Not Just MarTech Driving Business Today” Forbes: “Your Growth Goals Are Unrealistic Unless You Create A Company Growth Engine” B2Community: “Wake Up! How to Create a More Engaged Workplace Culture”   Quotable Quotes   “It became critically important to me that I founded … a new business … established on things that I believed.”   “I just honestly don’t know why more businesses don’t operate ‘open book’ or embrace the small giant philosophies.”   “You’ve got young people working for you; what kind of gift do you give them, to teach them the reality of finance?”   “When things don’t go well, I really do feel that … there’s something that I haven’t been clear about.”   “I really discounted how much values meant until I went through that business divorce.”   Bio Kathy Steele is passionate about people, serious about business growth, and loves to help the underdog cause in her community. She is fortunate to "do it all" in her role as CEO of Red Caffeine Marketing + Technology. She is the company visionary overseeing growth, strategic partnerships, and employee engagement.   Kathy speaks and writes about being an entrepreneur and how marketing impacts business. She is a contributor to Forbes and Business 2 Community. She has delivered keynote presentations, and workshops on branding, marketing, and building business culture.   She also has a relentless enthusiasm for great causes, donating her time and expertise to industry groups and non-profit organizations. She is on the Advisory Board for Enterprising Women, an Executive Council Member for the Executive Breakfast Club, Chicago’s Local Group Leader for the Small Giants Community, and a Great Game of Business Practitioner. She likes to foster relationships with leaders who share her strong focus on business ethics, social responsibility, and economic sustainability. The Red Caffeine team has contributed over $200,000 in time, talent, and monetary donations to causes in their community since 2014.   Red Caffeine, Marketing + Technology is a digital agency that fuels the growth of market-leading brands. To speed up growth demands building a brand that customers want to work with, and employees want to work for. They believe establishing a clear business purpose aligns internal teams and will boost sales. They partner with marketing, sales, and HR teams to create strategies that have both financial and operational impact.   Red Caffeine works with recognizable brands like Mitsubishi, Amazon, Elk Grove Village, Baird & Warner and some amazing companies you may not have heard of but manufacturer the products you use every day.   In her leisure, Kathy spends time with her wonderful husband, their four grown children, and is “Gigi” to two amazing grandkids. She enjoys a competitive game of tennis, traveling to exotic locations, and being just good enough to golf some of the world’s most breathtaking courses.   Books mentioned in this episode The Great Game of Business: The Only Sensible Way to Run a Company, by Jack Stack and Bo Burlingham Small Giants: Companies That Choose to Be Great Instead of Big, by Bo Burlingham Teaming: How Organizations Learn, Innovate, and Compete in the Knowledge Economy, by Amy C. Edmondson

Stamping Out the Stigma of Dissociative Identity DisorderDissociation appears to be... the internal mechanism by which terrorized people are silenced.~ Judith Lewis HermanShirley Davis - A client with significant emotional issues provides a first person account of her unusual recovery: She lives with a condition known as Dissociative Identity Disorder [DID] and today continues in therapy for almost three decades. She published three books on the subject and is an accomplished blogger as well as an acclaimed speaker. Her goal is to provide information for both the public and mental health professionals to raise awareness of the validity of DID and to help stamp out the stigma attached to it due to negative facts propagated by the media. Listen up as she also tells us about her daily struggles to connect, coalesce and manage her striking abundance of multiple personalities in the context of daily life. Dissociative Identity Disorder - NoteworthyThose who suffer from a dissociative identity disorder escape reality in ways that are involuntary and unhealthy. The person with a dissociative identity disorder experiences a disconnection and lack of continuity between thoughts, memories, surroundings, actions, and identity. Supportive References:http://geni.us/davis (Dissociative Identity Disorder In A Nutshell) by Shirley Davis, Global Amazon Link http://geni.us/bvanderkolk (The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma), Bessel van der Kolk, Global Amazon Link http://geni.us/haddock (The Dissociative Identity Disorder Sourcebook) by Deborah Bray Haddock, Global Amazon http://geni.us/boon (Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists ) by Suzette Boon, Kathy Steele & Onno van der Hart, Global Amazon Link http://geni.us/paulsen (Looking Through The Eyes Of Trauma And Dissociation: An Illustrated Guide for EMDR Therapists and Clients) by Sandra Paulsen, Global Amazon Link Dissociative Identity Disorder - A Controversial Diagnosis, by Paulette Marie Gillig, Corresponding Author, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2719457/ (PubMed Reference) http://geni.us/jherman (Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror)  by Judith Lewis Herman Global Amazon Link ---------- Connected CBJ Guest Interviews | Perspective & RecoveryMindset: http://corebrainjournal.com/mindset (http://corebrainjournal.com/mindset) ------------ Forward This Audio Message Link To a Friendhttp://corebrainjournal.com/144 (http://corebrainjournal.com/144) ----------- Davis Book Drawing ~ Dissociative Identity Disorder In A Nutshell: A First-Hand Account - Closed Sept. 6, '17https://corebrain.lpages.co/cbj-book-drawing-144-davis/ (- Drawing Here -)----------- ThanksUntil next time, thanks for joining us here at CBJ again to review this unusual clinical DID challenge - so often misunderstood. Have some feedback you'd like to share? Leave a note in the comment section below. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it using the social media buttons you see at the bottom of the post. Also, https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/corebrain-journal/id1102718140?mt=2 (please leave an honest review for the CoreBrain Journal Podcast on iTunes). Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated. Reviews do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each one of them. If this post with these several references is helpful, please take a moment to pass it on. QuestionsIn closing, if you have any questions, drop a comment on any posting here at CBJ, and I'll get back to you. This discerning show of world-class experts is here for you, your families, and your clients - to tighten our collective dialogue for more precise answers. And finally, don't forget to subscribe to the show on http://corebrainjournal.com/itunes (iTunes )to get...

Hello Metalworking Nation! We are happy to bring you another episode of our #MarketingForMakers Series with Red Caffeine Marketing + Technology. Today we welcome back back Julie Poulos as she introduces Red Caffeine's Founder & CEO -- Kathy Steele. On this episode of MakingChips, we focus on integrating technology into your business. Kathy and Julie walk us through some starting points that will equip and inspire you to identify gaps in your business technology stack.Today's discussion features an array of topics including: integrating platforms, examining financial insights, systemizing talent management, and getting your operations in order. Episode Structure: [04:08] - Record Download Month [05:05] - Summertime in Chicago [07:50] - Welcome Julie Poulos and Kathy Steele [10:46] - Forbes Article by Kathy [13:55] - ERP, CRM, KPI's and Other Acronyms [18:36] - Identifying the Gaps [21:06] - Building Bridges [22:14] - Systemizing Talent [25:30] - CRM Integration [31:00] - Tech Audit and Financial Insights [34:05] - Get Your Operations in Order [35:56] - “Love Your Lathe” Links Mentioned in this Episode: Red Caffeine Marketing + Technology Forbes Article by Kathy Steele Julie Poulos |LinkedIn Kathy Steele | LinkedIn Red Caffeine's "Biz" Tech Stack Leave Us A Review! We Want to Hear From YOU, The Metalworking Nation: • Jim@makingchips.com • Jason@makingchips.com • Ryan@makingchips.com Telephone: (312) 725-0245

Join Howard Lewinter and his guest, Kathy Steele, co-founder of Desert Rose Design, a digital marketing firm. Howard and Kathy will be discussing how digital marketing strategies can have a positive impact on companies in the manufacturing industry. Kathy Steele is the co-founder of Desert Rose Design, a digital marketing firm specializing in delivering engaging and effective marketing solutions that span both traditional and emerging disciplines. With nearly 20 years of experience in marketing, Kathy leads a firm dedicated to the creation of smart, integrated strategies that drive revenue, create brand awareness and solve business problems. Desert Rose Design's client list includes Microsoft, Allstate Arena and OfficeMax, among other well-known companies. Read Kathy's guest blog post: http://www.talkbusinesswithhoward.com/business/manufacturers-marketing-needs-a-shot-of-testosterone/

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! This week, due to a death in the family, host Laura Reagan is away and replaying a past episode which relates complex trauma, dissociation and EMDR. This week, Laura revisits her conversation with Kathy Steele on Structural Dissociation. Kathy Steele is a psychotherapist, consultant, trainer, and author. She practices in Atlanta, Georgia, working with complex psychological trauma, dissociation, attachment issues, therapeutic impasse, therapist self-care, and many other related topics in psychotherapy.Kathy has been in private practice since 1985, and with Metropolitan Psychotherapy Associates in Atlanta, Georgia since 1988. She was Clinical Director of Metropolitan Counseling Services, a non- profit psychotherapy and training center until 2016. Kathy received her undergraduate degree from the University of South Carolina in 1978, and completed her graduate work at Emory University in 1983.She is a Past President and Fellow of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD), and has also served two terms on the Board of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies (ISTSS). Kathy served on the International Task Force that developed treatment guidelines for Dissociative Disorders, and on the Joint International Task Force that has developed treatment guidelines for Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder.She has received a number of awards for her work, including the 2010 Lifetime Achievement Award from ISSTD, an Emory University Distinguished Alumni Award in 2006, and the 2011 Cornelia B. Wilbur Award for Outstanding Clinical Contributions from ISSTD.Kathy is known for her humor, compassion, respect, and depth of knowledge as a clinician and teacher, and for her capacity to present complex issues in easily understood and clear ways. She is sought as a consultant and supervisor, and as an international lecturer on topics related to trauma, dissociation, attachment, and psychotherapy. She enjoys collaborating with colleagues around the world on clinical, educational, and research projects. Kathy has (co)authored numerous book chapters, peer reviewed journal articles, and three books with her colleagues.Learn more about Kathy's work here: https://www.kathy-steele.comAdditional resources:I'm excited to invite you to a special free webinar presented by my colleague and prior Therapy Chat guest, the renowned therapist and teacher Dr. Janina Fisher, on April 14, 2023, at 12pm PDT / 3pm EDT / 7pm UTC. Sign up and you'll receive the replay if you can't attend live. Reserve your spot now: [Register Now] Undoing the Damage: Healing from the Shame of TraumaIn partnership with the Academy of Therapy Wisdom, I'm excited to invite you to a free webinar offered by my colleague, Juliane Taylor Shore. Jules is a gifted therapist who likes to geek out on neuroscience and then share it in ways that therapists can understand and apply. She'll do just that in this webinar on Memory Reconsolidation for Anxiety. Register here for free! Therapists, join the waiting list for Trauma Therapist Network membership. We now have new membership levels and options for Group Practice Owners and Canadian therapists! Get the details and join the waiting list to receive first access when membership reopens here: https://go.traumatherapistnetwork.com/join ! What is TTN? Go here to check it out!Therapists - Attend another free webinar presented by Dr. Janina Fisher. In this recorded webinar, Healing the Shame of our Fragmented Selves, Janina will address helping clients who struggle with shame and self-loathing. As a special gift, when you register for the free webinar, you'll also get access to two one-hour trainings from Dr. Fisher so you can learn the foundation of her Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment model right away.Therapists - get free trainings on Energy Work and Spirituality with trauma survivors from Dr. Frank Anderson and save on his training when you register here!Find Laura's most frequently recommended resources for learning about trauma here - includes recommended books and trainings.Love Therapy Chat? Leave a rating and review on Apple podcasts to help more people find the show!Get our free PDF download to learn about the 5 mistakes most people make when searching for a trauma therapist here!Thank you to TherapyNotes for sponsoring this week's episode! TherapyNotes makes billing, scheduling, notetaking, and telehealth incredibly easy. And now, for all you prescribers out there, TherapyNotes is proudly introducing E-prescribe! Try it today with no strings attached, and see why everyone is switching to TherapyNotes, now featuring E-prescribe! Use promo code "chat" at www.therapynotes.com to receive 2 FREE months of TherapyNotes!Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This week Kathy Steele returns to The Trauma Therapist | Podcast and I couldn’t be more happy, and honored. Kathy returns with the 2017 ISSTD Pierre Janet Writing Award under her arm she received for her new book, Treating Trauma-Related Dissociation: A Practical, Integrative Approach. Kathy has been offering consultation and training for the past 30 years in the areas of complex trauma, dissociation, and attachment. She is a sought after consultant, supervisor, and international lecturer and trainer. Kathy is a Past President and Fellow of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD), and has served on the Board of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies (ISTSS), as well as served on the International Task Force that developed treatment guidelines for Dissociative Disorders. Currently. Kathy is in a Joint Task Force that is developing treatment guidelines for Complex PTSD. Kathy has authored and co-authored numerous book chapters, journal articles, and two award-winning books on trauma and dissociation with Dutch colleagues: The Haunted Self: Structural Dissociation and the Treatment of Chronic Traumatization (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology), and her most recent work, Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation Skills Training for Patients and Therapists. This most recent work just won The Pierre Janet Writing Award from the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation last week. One of her current projects is a third book on treatment of trauma-related dissociation focused on the issues that clinicians often bring to supervision.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-trauma-therapist-podcast-with-guy-macpherson-phd-inspiring-interviews-with-thought-leaders-in-the-field-of-trauma/donationsWant to advertise on this podcast? Go to https://redcircle.com/brands and sign up.

Kathy Steele has been offering consultation and training for the past 30 years in the areas of complex trauma, dissociation, and attachment. She is sought as a consultant and supervisor, and as an international lecturer and trainer. Kathy is a Past President and Fellow of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD), and has served on the Board of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies (ISTSS), as well as served on the International Task Force that developed treatment guidelines for Dissociative Disorders. Currently Kathy is on a Joint Task Force that is developing treatment guidelines for Complex PTSD. Kathy has authored and co-authored numerous book chapters, journal articles, and two award winning books on trauma and dissociation with Dutch colleagues: The Haunted Self: Structural Dissociation of the Personality and Treatment of Chronic Traumatization [Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology], and Coping with Trauma-related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists. One of her current projects is a third book on treatment of trauma-related dissociation focused on the issues that clinicians often bring to supervision.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-trauma-therapist-podcast-with-guy-macpherson-phd-inspiring-interviews-with-thought-leaders-in-the-field-of-trauma/donationsWant to advertise on this podcast? Go to https://redcircle.com/brands and sign up.